- Welcome to a very special edition
of "The Bachelorette."
You're looking very nervous right now.
How come? Y'all ready for this?
It's a "Men Tell All" like you've never seen before.
All of your favorite men
from Charity's season are back.
- It was really just "The Brayden show."
Like, you guys watched all that.
So, like, once that energy was gone--
- He finally had a shot.
- And they've got a lot to say.
- He was telling us one side
and telling her a different side.
- I was being real.
Like, I'm not manipulating this girl.
- You are a bitch.
That is what you are.
- I didn't care about taking away your time.
To be honest, I didn't care about
taking away anyone else's.
- Comments of, like, "Turn off being the Bachelorette."
I don't think I ever put on for anybody in this house.
- Those feelings are still there.
I think about our time together literally every day.
- Please let me know how the hell I'm supposed to,
like, take that moving forward.
[dramatic music]
- Plus...
- There will be people who try to break you down.
There will be people who try to tell you
you are not worthy.
- Three favorite Bachelorette royals return.
- I'm the old gal, the OG.
I feel very maternal.
I'm so proud of you.
- Oh, thank you.
- And then...
Bachelor Nation is falling for this man.
I'm talking about Gerry, the first ever Golden Bachelor.
all: Gerry! Gerry! Gerry!
- Find out why.
You were trending on social media.
- If I knew what that meant,
I'm sure I would appreciate it a whole lot more.
I believe I'll find my person,
the new person that will make me whole again.
- It's all starting right now on "The Men Tell All."
[upbeat music]
[cheers and applause]
♪ ♪
Thanks, guys.
How are we doing?
Thank you.
Good evening, everybody.
I'm Jesse Palmer, and welcome
to "The Bachelorette," "The Men Tell All."
And what a season it's been already.
You know, when Charity's journey began on this
very special 20th season of "The Bachelorette,"
she was ready to leave her past heartbreaks behind
and find the love of her life.
And with 25 of America's most eligible bachelors,
the odds were definitely in her favor.
But nobody could have predicted the drama that would follow.
We've had so many unforgettable moments up to this point,
and I've got a feeling we're gonna have
a few more of those right here tonight.
Now, of course, the most memorable men
from the season are here with us.
We got John.
Sean made it.
Adrian's in attendance.
We got Xavier.
And, oh, yes, even Brayden's here.
Great earrings, brother.
Loving the look.
They cannot wait to spill all the tea,
and I, for one, am very thirsty.
Of course, our Bachelorette, Charity,
is gonna be here tonight as well.
[cheers and applause]
I know.
I just want to stop right here.
Can we just take a moment and give it up for Charity?
She's been absolutely amazing.
[cheers and applause]
You know, it's wild.
Charity really has captivated all of Bachelor Nation
with her grace, her beauty, her charm.
The big question now, how is this whole thing
gonna end for her?
Well, later tonight, you're gonna get
an exclusive sneak peek at the ending of her journey,
and it's one so emotional, so powerful, so unexpected
that it's gonna have all of social media on fire.
But that's not all we're cooking tonight.
This is, as you know, "The Men Tell All."
Later tonight, one man will make history
right here on this very stage.
I'm talking about Gerry, the first ever Golden Bachelor.
[cheers and applause]
This is gonna be awesome.
I've got so many questions for Gerry--
what's he looking for,
what's his biggest fear,
and how does he feel about Fantasy Suites?
I'm gonna ask him all those questions
when he joins me in the hot seat.
But before we get to all that,
got a lot of unfinished business.
We got a lot of very opinionated men.
They're sitting right in front of me.
I can tell they just can't wait any longer.
So you ready to do this?
- Yeah. - Let's do it.
[cheers and applause]
- All right, let's get it started.
Ladies and gentlemen, please welcome Spencer...
[cheers and applause]
Adrian...
[cheers and applause]
Pete...
[cheers and applause]
John...
[cheers and applause]
James...
[cheers and applause]
Caleb...
[cheers and applause]
John Henry...
[cheers and applause]
Michael...
[cheers and applause]
Aaron...
[cheers and applause]
Brayden...
[cheers and applause]
Xavier...
[cheers and applause]
Tanner...
[cheers and applause]
And Sean.
[cheers and applause]
Well, it's great having you all back here.
It's great having the gang back together.
We have a lot we want to get into.
And trust me, we're gonna get to all of it.
But I do want to go back to the very beginning.
And, John, I'll ask you.
First night in the limo, stepping outside,
you're about to meet Charity, what was that like?
- Exhilarating.
Once I got out there,
I just saw Charity for the first time.
She looks beautiful, and I forgot
everything in that moment.
It went well overall,
but those nerves were incredible.
- They were kicking? - Yeah.
- Spencer, you had quite the entrance
on the first night.
Million-dollar question--
do you regret asking Charity to kick you in the nuts?
- What do you want from someone other than
a little bit of vulnerability in a tough situation?
So, Jesse, I'm okay with it.
[laughter]
- That's an interesting perspective.
Well, I think we can all agree
that Charity's journey to find love,
it definitely has been a wild one.
So let's all take a look back.
[soft music]
- Charity is the whole package.
- The second you saw her, it was just like--
- She looked unreal.
- My heart was legit pounding.
- Hi!
all: Charity!
- Every time she walks into a room,
she is captivating.
- Everyone's happy, smiling,
cracking jokes, but it's dog-eat-dog.
- When you have all these guys vying for Charity's heart,
it's gonna be a war.
[dramatic music]
- Oh!
- You [bleep] us tonight.
- I've never been so disrespected in my life.
That was a douchebag move.
all: Oh!
[crowd shrieking]
- Sean is not here for the right reasons.
He's more interested in getting
100,000 Instagram followers.
- Barbie, can I steal you for a second?
- I know--oh, yes.
- I'll bring her right back, boys.
Just have to finish our conversation.
- You get done with time by yourself,
and then you feel the need to take more time.
It's disrespectful to the rest of the guys.
If I go home tonight, I needed the time
that you took at the beginning.
- If you're going home tonight,
it has nothing to do with me.
In this stage of the game, I'm thinking about,
how can I feel comfortable
bringing Charity home to meet my family?
- Sean, you're driving me insane, man.
- And I'm not gonna spend my time telling her
how this situation is tough because I just don't think
it would further our connection
by me expressing that to her.
- "I have really just a solid connection with her."
With his butt chin.
Dude looks like Prince Charming
off of "Shrek."
- We had a little competition,
and it was the longest kiss in Bachelor Nation history.
- To have to sit there and frickin' watch somebody--
like, that's not cool, man.
- So what would you have done, thrown a fit and walked away?
- I wouldn't have thrown a fit,
but I'm not gonna sit there and watch.
- How can you argue
about how he felt about it, bro?
- I'm not arguing how he felt.
- Like, "I don't agree with how you feel."
Bro, respect what this man is saying.
Everybody looks at me like I'm the villain,
I'm the bad guy, and it's like, bro, you're gonna go home.
You're gonna go home. You're gonna go home.
Group date's over. Everybody comes back.
Brayden is kind of like, "Oh, that's classless.
That's, like, disrespectful to the guys."
- Bro, I'm a little sensitive when my name comes up.
It's been coming up a lot after the word concern.
Why do you have to talk about me?
You're a grown man. Talk about yourself.
Talk about your family.
Talk about what you came here to do.
Don't talk about me, man.
Aah! Aah!
- Brayden's overcompensating for something.
- I'm gonna get real primal
and start humping everything.
- I don't know if he's lacking confidence
and he feels like he has to do more.
He's just making it about himself.
- I'm a [bleep], for sure, dude.
I know I'm a [bleep], but...
[laughing] I'm a [bleep] 100% of the time.
- I just need to tell you about Brayden.
He's been very vocal around the house
about not wanting to be here,
not wanting to be with someone
that's dated 20 of his friends.
- There was no reason to bring up my [...] name.
I'm gonna be like Will Smith right now
and, like, be like, "Keep my name out your [bleep] mouth."
- I feel like you're wasting people's time.
- You did me dirty, man.
It pissed me off
because you caused unnecessary drama.
My relationship with her has nothing to do with you.
I dug my own grave, man.
I opened my mouth too much.
But there's a part of me
that doesn't feel like, you know,
it's necessarily-- the door's shut
with me and Charity either.
- With Brayden gone, a lot of people
are feeling pretty relieved.
This is honestly the most mature I've seen everyone.
[gasps]
♪ ♪
- Guys, Brayden.
- You're done. She walked you out.
- That scumbag walks through the door again.
- Hello.
- Let me show up in my flip-flops, sweatpants,
and a scarf around my neck
with feather earrings hanging down.
- It's [bleep].
Like, I'm on the chopping block,
and he steals that moment from me.
Get out.
Like, what are you doing here?
It makes no sense.
- No, you apologize to John, bro.
You apologize to John, bro.
- So that's what--
- You're not a man, dude. You're not a man.
- You know what, bro? [bleep] off.
If that douchebag is the one
that ends up getting down on a knee for her,
I'm gonna be hurt that, like,
she's gonna end up with a dude like that.
- [bleep] you, bro.
- Aaron, I'll whup your ass, bro.
Get out of my [...] face. - You won't do [...], man.
You are not a man, bro, with your feather earrings.
- I'll [bleep] you up, bro. Meet me in PB, baby.
- He is just literally a [...] cancer.
This is [bleep].
- I'm not [...] talking to you.
- Close the door.
Get out of here. Punch the gas, man.
- Don't show up to "The Men Tell All," bro.
You're not [...] invited, truthfully.
[cheers and applause]
- All right, it's been pretty explosive so far.
Sean. - Jesse.
- We're not gonna waste any time, brother.
What do you got to say to that man?
- Oof.
What do I have to say?
I think you were pretty manipulative in the way
you were shaping the situation to Charity.
You're like, "Listen, I'm not--it's tough for me.
It's really tough--I don't know if I'm gonna get there."
But in the background, you never were gonna get there.
And then you started using her as like,
"Well, it's 'cause she's never off.
"Like, she's the Bachelorette, and, like,
I can never see that true side of her,"
as an excuse not to get there.
- You know what I love about that, bro,
is you're saying that I was the one
who couldn't get to the place of, like,
potentially getting engaged.
You couldn't even get her to go meet your family
'cause you were scared about that.
- My doubt was never in Charity's character
or her as a person or how great she was.
My doubt was, like, am I gonna--
am I gonna be there at the end, and I wasn't.
Obviously, that's why I'm sitting here.
That's why all of us here are sitting out here.
- Why was my doubts any different from yours, though?
- Your doubts was not about that,
about you being there in the end.
Your doubts were about her.
You're telling her you really like her,
but on the backside, you're like, "She's being fake."
And then you go and continue to accept a rose in Oceanside.
And then you went into Washington.
She spent time on you when she thought
you were gonna be able to get there.
And in your mind, in your heart,
you knew you never were.
- Until I knew, like, for sure that I wasn't gonna
be able to get to that point, I stayed.
But once I realized I wasn't
gonna get to that point, I left.
- Hold on, hold on, but my thing is, though,
is, like, then why come back and say that you had things
that were left unsaid, you know what I mean?
Because--no, hold on-- because it was critical
for the people who were still there.
Like, you've already left at this point,
and you self-eliminated.
So it's critical for the people
who are still there to get the time.
Why come back and then take that time away
from--like, that ruined the rest of the night.
Nobody else got fair time.
- So the reason why I felt like I needed to come back
is I left in a very heightened emotional state.
Like, I didn't get to say everything I wanted to.
- My thing is timing is everything.
The fact that you took that moment,
the most crucial moment of the entire week
right before a Rose Ceremony is what hurt me the most.
- You want to pretend like I came
and, like, gypped your conversation.
Like, bro, you were making out with her.
- I know. I-I was there.
- I waited for you to wipe the makeup off your face
before I even let my presence be known, dude.
- This dude was running on his emotions.
Why could you fault him for that?
- Because it got in the way
of other people being able to make--
- This ain't about everybody, dude.
- Further their connection. - This is about--
this is about her and his connection.
- It's about Charity, exactly.
- His connection ended. - Develop those connections.
- Okay, Adrian, I want to ask you,
because you obviously had concerns
about Brayden very early on.
When did you start becoming skeptical of him?
- Probably that night after the group date.
Once he said what he said, he packed his bags,
he couldn't-- he couldn't do this,
I just feel like, honestly,
he signed up for the wrong show.
- For me, like, hearing that y'all had
to sit front and center and, like, have to see
another dude make out for five minutes,
like, that's a little much.
- I just feel like that's what
this show is gonna be about.
Like, I haven't saw the show,
but I know that she's gonna probably kiss you,
kiss you, kiss you, kiss you. - Kissing is not a problem.
- So it's like, it is what it is.
- Like, it's one thing to see someone kiss around the house.
I mean, we don't have a lot of space, bro.
But, like, a five-minute-long kiss,
forced to sit front and center in a crowd of over 100 people.
- But it's a competition, Brayden.
They should have had better answers.
- They should have been allowed to leave.
- That's what-- that is what it is.
Maybe they would have been up there.
I would have loved to have a great answer
and been able to kiss her for 4 1/2 minutes.
[laughter] - I know, obviously,
that was a very tough date
for those that were there to have to watch that.
You're not the only ones.
I mean, Yosef has a daughter at home.
[laughter]
- But we all know what we signed up for,
that she's going to kiss someone else.
Everybody up here probably got a kiss,
and somebody probably saw it, right?
So it's the same [...].
I meant stuff. I'm sorry. [laughs]
- Brayden, you were saying all along you were being real,
and everybody else was being fake.
- It's not that they were being fake.
I guess their realness is just different than mine,
I guess. - How so?
[laughter]
- For people to say that they didn't have a level
of a façade on would be a lie.
I mean, the fact that some people are even editing
their cuss words right now--
like, at home, you'd be cussing like regular.
But the fact that you're curbing your cuss words
saying, oh, sorry, like, that's you putting on
a façade and protecting that part of you.
- I just didn't know if we can cuss or not,
but I don't give a [...]-- you know that.
[laughter]
- Again, though, that's what I'm saying.
- Come on, now. - That's what I'm saying.
- You know what's up with me. - The fact that--
the fact that you even had that in your head,
though, is what I'm talking about,
is that, like... - Because I just don't know.
- Is that hesitancy to be, like, be genuinely yourself.
You were hesitant to be genuinely yourself
to the point where you're like, oh, sorry,
I can't say that, like...
- I mean, I still meant what I said.
So, look, I feel like he was telling us one side
and telling her a different side.
- Give me a moment, bro. Give me a mo--
Give me an example, because, like--
- Well, apparently--When I had the conversation with her,
she was in shock--like, whoa, I didn't know he said that.
If he's as honest as he say he is with her,
it wouldn't have been a surprise or a shock
or whatever--just like, "Oh, yeah, I know. He told me."
And it would have been a done deal.
But unless something was shared
that wasn't 100% true--
- There was something that was shared there wasn't 100% true,
and it was you saying that I called her classless.
I never called her classless. That's not something I said.
So don't put that word in my mouth.
- I wouldn't have made it up.
- Well, you did. - Do we have the tape or not?
- Show us the tapes! - Because it didn't happen.
- So nobody--nobody else heard him say that about the date--
saying that it was classless and disrespectful?
So, look-- - Did it happen, Jesse?
- This is what it come down to me--
[laughter]
- I'm trying to find that out right now.
I wasn't at the pool. - I'm not saying ask Jesse.
Ask these people here. - Whether it's proof or not--
- Did you guys hear me--did I ever say classless, anyone?
Anyone? crowd: Yeah.
- I said classless?
[laughter] - Yeah.
So, yeah, apparently, maybe I did.
- All right, well, it sounds like there's
a lot that still needs to be said.
But we do need to take a quick break real quick.
When we come back,
we'll have more from "The Men Tell All."
Stick around.
[cheers and applause]
[dramatic music]
♪ ♪
[cheers and applause]
- Welcome back to a very special
20th-anniversary edition of "The Bachelorette,"
"The Men Tell All."
Of course, I'm here with the guys
from Charity's season.
Things are already pretty tense.
We're gonna dive right back into it.
Tanner, what was it about Brayden's behavior,
his approach in Washington that rubbed you the wrong way?
- I was looking at Brayden as someone
that got validation week after week.
I mean, you did. You got the First Impression Rose.
Then you went on an amazing one-on-one date
that someone like myself or John B.
would have loved to go on.
But as time went on, man,
you just got--became more negative every single week.
I was becoming more negative myself.
By the time it got to Washington
when you were like, "I'm packing my bags,
I'm out of here," I was like,
"Maybe I want to get out of here, too."
And then I'm happy I stayed, because eventually
I found out who the ac-- who Charity truly actually was.
- When I was saying I was out of here,
it was never about Charity that I was out of there.
It was about this experience. - It was about Charity,
and it was about the experience.
- What did I say about Charity that--
- You said--you were questioning everything.
You said, "I don't believe anything she's saying.
I don't know what's true and what's not."
- You were saying a lot of that.
- You called her fake. - I mean,
I'm not the only person that heard it, man.
- You told her to stop being the Bachelorette.
- I did ask her to stop being the Bachelorette.
- It was tough on the outside just because
I didn't have the time, and I wanted the time.
And you were constantly complaining
about your experience.
I'm like, dude, I would kill to have the experience
you've had on the show so far
and getting to know her as well as you did.
- Like, you said you were jealous
of my experience on the show, but, like,
how do you form a connection with someone
when someone's--other people are constantly going
and whispering and talking [bleep] to the girl
that you like, that you've been open with,
you've been transparent with, and have that stuff
come back and hit you and bite you in the ass?
- Because you weren't smart about what you said.
- Because I was being real.
Like, I'm not manipulating this girl.
- You said--you said,
"I was just throwing stuff out there."
You can't just throw things out there
on ears that-- - You're right.
- You don't know what they're gonna think.
- Okay. And that's what I forgot, dude.
- You have to be smarter about it.
- I forgot that I have to be smart.
I have to play a game. I gotta manipulate everyone.
- It's not a game. - Be careful with your words.
- You're right, dude, you know what, next time, bro,
if I ever come on the show-- - Be careful with your words.
- I don't know, man.
- His biggest problem was that he was too honest
and he's got weird earrings.
Like, I mean, I don't see how that's that big of an issue.
- I guess what just bothers me about the whole thing
is, like, none of the guys ever came up to me
and told me they had any problems with me.
Like, I found out that all the guys
had problems with me through either Charity...
- It didn't happen until Washington.
- Or even running back-- even running back the tapes.
- It did not happen until Washington, dude.
- Like, me and Tanner were roommates in Washington.
I thought-- I thought we were boys.
And then, you know, to see him talking about me
in that light and the fact that he didn't--like,
he can say that on camera behind my back
but didn't say that to my face, that hurt.
- What did I say behind your back that wasn't true?
- You said Brayden's immature, and he's bugging me.
To find--like, you actually were talking smack
the whole time, bro, like even in Oceanside,
you're like, "Oh, Brayden's gonna go and tell her
"exactly what she wants to hear
because that's what Brayden does."
- Because you talked yourself out of everything.
- I never talked--again, I never went and told her.
- I mean, night one, you talked yourself out of that.
And then Oceanside, you talked yourself out of it,
so I just felt like you were just gonna keep doing it.
- But I never blew smoke up her ass, bro.
- In the moment, Brayden, when we're in Washington
and I do want a one-on-one and I still haven't gotten
any time and you're just taking the attention away
from Charity and everyone else and making it on you,
it was annoying in that moment. - Mm.
- And a lot of people on that group date felt the same way,
but my interviews were the ones that were shown, yeah.
- All right, well, Sean, when Brayden decided to leave,
you in particular seemed really excited about that.
- Best day of my life.
- He finally had a shot.
[laughter]
- What made you so happy about that?
- Throughout the entire journey,
like, the one person that made it about themselves
more than anyone was Brayden.
And, like, it was really just "The Brayden Show."
So, like, once that energy was gone in Washington,
it was just like, we're all here.
We're here for her, and let's see what happens.
- I want to turn the page and go back to Oceanside.
James, you found yourself really frustrated with Sean.
- Yeah. - How come?
- So I think there was kind of this mutual respect
that we all had for each other.
Then Oceanside happens,
and you get this one-on-one time with her.
And, honestly, I didn't even have a problem with that.
The problem happened when you decided
to park your little keister in between
four guys on the couch, knowing exactly
where she was going to sit, then take her
right away at the beginning of the night
and talk to her for another 30 minutes.
Like, I got 3 minutes with her at the end of the night
because there just wasn't enough time for her.
- I never wanted to punch somebody in the face more,
to be honest.
- It wasn't the fact that
you took her first that I have a problem with.
It was you had a group of loser Barbies, right,
loser Kens, we're all sitting in a room together.
And the last thing we want to see
is your ass coming in skipping and singing a song.
Like, you're gonna get-- you just--
you walked into a hornet's nest.
You knew it, too.
You're like, "Oh, here I am."
- What's really funny about that moment is, like,
when I came back, like, I left the guys.
We just had, like, the most incredible date in Oceanside.
And everyone's vibing with each other, dancing,
singing, having a good time.
That's when I left the guys.
So I thought, man, everyone's still happy.
Like, it was such a good day.
So that was my mindset coming back in.
And I was actually shocked when the guys weren't like,
"Oh, let's go!"
They were pretty pissed, so...
- Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa.
- Sean, you do say, like, oh--
- Hold up, hold up, real quick, real quick.
- Who the heck even are you? - [laughs] Yeah.
- Peter, nice to meet you. I went home--
I went home night one. - Oh, wait. You were the dude.
He's back!
Oh, give it up for Peter, guys!
[light cheers and applause] Yeah. Come on, Pete.
Give us the floor. You got the floor.
- Okay, I actually want to take a second.
Pete, obviously, you got sent home on the first night.
We barely got to know you.
And there was no drama until you went home.
Can you shed some light on that for us
and educate us on what happened?
- After the season wrapped, we had a cast Zoom call.
Long story short, 15 or 16 of the guys
at the end of their headshots put the initials
"[bleep] P" after their post.
Brayden was actually man enough
to come to me and tell me what it--what it meant.
And what it meant was, "[bleep] Peter."
Went to bed that night kind of confused
and ultimately pretty upset.
I didn't know any of these guys.
I met them for two minutes, maybe some five minutes.
And to have people, you know, put this online
for the world to see really affected me.
So, for those of you who don't know,
that's kind of the story of what [bleep] P was.
- Before we go any further, we shouldn't have done that.
It was a bad play.
It was just an inside joke.
Nobody would have known it was against Peter
if, you know, this guy, like, shared it, so, like--
- Well, we actually have some of those posts
just to sort of help everybody
understand kind of what's going on.
So here's a post from Sean.
And, "It's a love story, baby, just say yes."
But you look at the bottom left corner,
there's [bleep] P.
- I didn't know what it meant.
The thing I think that upset me a lot
was my family, my parents, my church group,
my volunteer group, they all saw that.
- There is no chance they saw that
and thought about that.
Are you kidding me?
- Pete, did you have any idea night one
that you were rubbing people the wrong way like that?
- No idea. No, honestly, when Brayden told me that,
I honestly was shocked.
I had no idea I was rubbing people the wrong way.
Why would you put that online?
I've never done anything to you personally.
- Because you are a bitch. That is what you are.
- I've never done anything to your family.
I've never done anything to anyone on this stage.
- It's basically because you said "[bleep] you"
to every single dude that tried to speak to you
or speak to them.
You just did the same thing to everyone.
- I don't agree with that. I don't agree with that.
- The very first night, you sit down right next to me.
And you look at the camera, and you look at me.
You look at the camera, and you open your body up,
make sure the camera's getting you at the right angle.
And you go, so who do you think is here for the wrong reasons?
And I'm like, "I don't know. You maybe." Like...
- Homey, you were the first one on the Zoom call
after everyone got home to ask about endorsement deals.
And you were on the TV show for five seconds.
- Mm-hmm. - Five seconds.
I remember you laughing and saying,
"Thanks for putting me on the map.
I'll make a T-shirt out of it."
- And monetize it.
- 'Cause he's trying to make a joke out of it,
and it always was a joke.
- Then the next night,
you use this as a platform as a pity party.
I have no respect for that, dude.
Shut the [bleep] up. - So, Peter, I will say this.
I'm sorry for putting that on my page.
I thought it was an inside joke, and it was wrong.
At the end of the day, all these guys
will speak to my character.
I'm a good guy, and I made a mistake.
- I do have to say, I am pretty curious
after listening to you all, because this is a lot
of stuff that I didn't know--
Pete, did you actually ever make T-shirts?
- Of course not.
- Okay, it never happened? - Never happened.
- But you said you were going to?
- I never--I don't believe I ever said that.
- Yo, let's run that tape back, please.
[laughter]
We'll you show everyone how [...] fake you are, dude.
It'll be great. - All right.
Well, gentlemen, look, I appreciate you all.
I told you that I wanted the tea.
And alas, my cup runneth over.
So thank you all for that.
All right, coming up, his scarf game is strong.
His earrings actually have their own social-media handle.
And he always--just like tonight--he finds himself
in the middle of the drama.
Of course, I'm talking about Brayden.
He's gonna join me right here in the hot seat
when "The Bachelorette," "The Men Tell All" returns.
[cheers and applause]
[upbeat music]
[cheers and applause]
We're back on "The Men Tell All."
Everybody still having fun?
[cheers and applause]
All right, well, this man's bold fashion choices
and his bold personality
that rubbed a lot of the guys the wrong way.
But the big question is, what's his side of the story?
We're about to find that out.
Brayden, why don't you come on up?
[cheers and applause]
- "The Brayden Show."
- Good seeing you, brother. - Good to see you.
- Good having you here, man. Have a seat.
Well, Brayden, never a boring day
on "The Bachelorette" for you.
It was quite the journey.
Let's take a look back.
[soft music]
- You look absolutely frickin' amazing.
Oh, my God. - Oh, my goodness, thank you.
Nice to meet you. - Hi, nice to meet you.
Sorry for the awkward side hug. - No, it's fine.
You got something hiding under there.
- Yes, I do.
I work as a nurse in San Diego. - Okay. Great.
- And so I figured that, you know,
gotta be responsible and make sure
we're, you know, up to date on our shots.
- What are we cheersing to?
- A shot at love.
- Shot at love, love that.
- Oh, God.
Oh! [coughs]
- You didn't take your lime. Come on.
- I need the lime.
- With Brayden, we immediately hit it off.
I'm already giddy. Like, I'm laughing.
That's evidence.
You have truly been a breath of fresh air for me.
Brayden, will you accept the First Impression Rose?
- I would absolutely love to accept.
- Perfect.
I feel very strongly about Brayden.
I feel very relaxed.
I feel my best self with him.
- Oh, there's a dolphin! - Oh, my God, there's so many!
We're just so in sync with each other.
It's so fun.
- I'm hitting it that way. Okay.
- Oh, my God, Brayden!
That was incredible.
It feels so right. It feels so real.
♪ ♪
This really could be my person,
and I see a forever future with him.
- We had a little competition,
and it was the longest kiss in Bachelor Nation history.
- Okay, I don't want to hear anymore.
I understand Charity is gonna be kissing people.
But she made them watch Joey kiss her for five minutes.
I think it was very disrespectful.
- He's been very vocal around the house
about not wanting to be here,
not wanting to be with someone that's dated 20 of his friends.
- I'm irritated times a million.
He has a rose on his chest.
I will rip that [...] off.
Hi.
- How's it going? - What's the conversation?
- There's one person here
that's packed their bags more than twice.
- Yeah, and it's been me.
- Oh.
[dramatic music]
Okay.
♪ ♪
Like, what are you--what are you feeling right now?
- I'm feeling like--
I feel like I like you, but I feel like
I don't want to be here right now.
♪ ♪
And I don't feel like I'm capable
of getting there in this environment.
- Let's go, then.
I'll walk you out.
♪ ♪
- I feel as though I've been honest.
I feel as though I've been transparent.
I'm not sure if I can get there,
but honestly, she's worth trying for.
That has not changed.
Maybe I'll watch this back
and realize I was a total [bleep].
I don't know.
It's just--I tried coming in here and being 100% me
the entire time, but if she wants to reach out to me,
I'm here.
♪ ♪
[scattered applause]
- All right, did Charity ever reach out to you, by the way?
- No, she didn't.
- Not surprised. - Yeah.
- Um, how does it feel for you when you watch that back?
- Honestly, watching it back was tough.
Um, what bothered me watching it all back
is to see that she was feeling all those things for me.
Me and her had such amazing conversations.
We are both huge on our family.
We both work in psych and just knowing how, like, you know,
how patient someone has to be to be able to work
in that environment, and just how patient she was with me.
Like, I had told her on our date
that I had a lot of reservations.
She was understanding,
and she didn't hold it against me.
- Was it reservations about whether or not
Charity was the right person for you in your life,
or was it reservations that you just couldn't get
down on a knee in this environment?
- I mean, it was more so the getting down on the knee.
The idea of getting married at the end of this--
with all the drama, I just couldn't do it.
And once I realized I couldn't give her what she wanted,
I realized, like, I shouldn't be there anymore.
- Okay.
In Skamania, Washington, you showed up.
You left.
You came back. How come?
- I wanted to let her know it was the experience.
It wasn't her that got to me.
Like, she's amazing.
And I didn't want to take any time away from the guys
'cause I'd already been caught up
in so much frickin' drama that took away time from the guys.
So I was trying to just keep my head down
and just walk out and not make it about me, you know?
But the guys definitely made it about me.
- I mean, a lot of you were-- you were pissed.
John, you were one of the guys that made that walk.
- I mean, because the week before,
I was the only one defending you.
Then to be the guy who gets interrupted
and loses a little bit of time and isn't able to finish
his conversation with Charity, like, it--it hurt.
- If it means anything, I thought your conversation
with her was amazing-- heard the whole thing, but...
- Thank you. Thanks.
- Can I say something-- can I say something, please?
If you knew, though, Brayden, that, like, the conversation
that you were gonna have with Charity
wasn't gonna change anything at all,
the mature thing to do in that situation is to read the room.
You say, this isn't the right time
to have this conversation, because you're not
going to matter beyond that point.
- Right. I didn't care about taking away your time.
To be honest, I didn't care
about taking away anyone else's time.
I cared about apologizing to someone I hurt,
that I was pursuing a relationship with.
Like, that was my intention.
- How surprised are you at how angry everybody was?
I've never seen a group of men chase a dude outside,
yelling at him all the way to the bus.
Like, where was that about to go?
- I mean, I'm just gonna be real, like,
I was gonna--I was gonna-- I was gonna beat them up.
- You were about to throw down right there?
- I was gonna throw down, yeah.
- Yeah, Jesse, it was about to get live real quick.
[laughter] It was about to get--
- I mean, I don't know, like, I'm not an aggressive person.
It's not often that I want to fight people.
But, like, again, I was ready to fight 'em.
By the way, no-- there was no driver in the van
when he said, like, "Hit the gas."
I just want to make that clear.
[laughter]
He was sitting there. He said "hit the gas" to nobody.
I feel like I need to make that clear.
- I mean, why do you think
you rubbed so many people the wrong way?
Why were you getting under their skin?
- Maybe the way I can come across sometimes
can come across as maybe arrogant
or maybe cocky or something like that.
I'm not like your traditional type of guy, I guess.
- Listen, we can't wrap this up before we talk
about something very, very important--
your style.
- Oh, shoot.
Speaking--hey, wait, hold on. Hold on.
- You gotta walk us through this.
I mean, like, how do you put the earrings
and the scarf together? - I don't know.
I feel like clothes are a fun way to express yourself.
Like, earrings are a new thing for me, to be honest.
Like, within the last year, I got them pierced,
and then it's just been, like--
- You bought a lot of earrings in a very short amount of time.
- I have, dude.
Like, when I find something I like,
I kind of just dive into it, and, like,
you know, it becomes, like, a part of me.
But I did bring you a little present, Jesse.
- Uh-oh, I got some--
- I got you some clip-on earrings.
- I got some clip-on earrings.
- I don't know, I-- I didn't know
if you'd let me pierce your ears on live TV.
- Piercing ear probably a no.
I'm not gonna lie.
I've always been kind of curious myself
how this might go or look.
- Oh, yeah, that's a look, man. - Oh, yeah.
- Ooh, okay. - How are we--
- Okay. Okay. [cheers and applause]
- Do we-- - Whoo!
- Can we go-- can we go for this?
[cheers and applause]
Yeah? - Come on, look at this man.
Look at this man.
- Listen, man, big picture, regardless of whether or not
people, they agree with you or they don't, the one thing
I will say, you have been your true authentic self
throughout this entire experience.
And if I'm not mistaken, Brayden here
is packing his earrings and his scarves,
and he's taking them to the beaches of Paradise.
Are you not?
[cheers and applause]
Oh, boy.
In fact, we actually have a little clip of you
from your time down in Paradise
that we're gonna show everybody.
You're looking very nervous right now.
How come? - Dude.
- You all ready for this? [cheers and applause]
All right, here we go.
- When I first saw you, I was like, oh, the earrings,
I love 'em. - Yeah?
- And everyone's like, really?
I was like, yes, I do.
- I think you're the only person that actually--
actually liked my earrings.
- Really? [laughs] - Yeah.
- Honestly, I was taken by surprise by Brayden.
It's not just that he's hot.
I mean, he has, like, depth, and that's, honestly,
few and far between that you can find these days in men.
He's like a golden retriever. [chuckles]
And I love it.
You're funny.
[romantic music]
♪ ♪
- Whoo!
She's a great kisser.
Kat Izzo is a great kisser.
10 out of 10, recommend. [laughs]
♪ ♪
[cheers and applause]
- All right, all right, dude, Brayden, honestly, honestly...
yeah, I'd say that you were definitely in your element.
I'd say Paradise was more your dojo.
- Yeah, a little bit. - For sure.
All right, but we're not gonna spoil what happened
with you down in Paradise.
Everybody's gonna have to tune in and find out.
Great seeing you, man.
Thanks for the earrings. Appreciate you.
All right, coming up next, Xavier is gonna be
joining me in the hot seat.
So what does he have to say
about his shocking departure that left Charity in tears?
We're gonna find out when we return.
[cheers and applause]
[upbeat music]
- Welcome back to "The Men Tell All."
Well, it's already been a very explosive evening.
And we are literally just getting started.
But this next man, he was moments away
from stepping into the Fantasy Suite with Charity
when it all went wrong.
Xavier, let's have a talk about it.
Why don't you come up?
[cheers and applause, scattered boos]
Good seeing you, brother.
All right, man, have a seat.
Well, listen, when I think back to your journey with Charity,
everything just seemed to come so easy for the two of you
until that fateful night in Fiji.
So let's take a look back at how everything unfolded
and then ultimately unraveled that night.
[soft music]
- How you doing? - I'm doing good.
How are you? You look good. - Good evening. Oh, my God.
- Spiffy!
Xavier, Xavier, Xavier, he is one
I gotta keep my eyes on for sure.
Whoo! Oh, God.
No way. - It's cold.
- With Xavier, it feels very natural.
♪ ♪
And there is, like, this physical attractiveness.
I'm feeling really happy and a little giddy--
actually not a little giddy, a lot of giddy.
- What are you most wary about in a marriage?
- It is the infidelity thing.
I'm always wondering, like, what if that is, like,
something that could happen again?
- What you're gonna get from me is complete honesty.
- Mm-hmm. - Like, I'm not hiding
any part of me from you.
- Xavier reminds me a lot of my past relationships.
- Come here, come here, come here.
God, yes.
- It's like he's scared to commit to one person,
but he's someone who's gentle, who's kind.
Chemistry is there.
It's like, for me, truly, like, a total package.
- Charity, honestly...
I'm falling in love with you.
- Same here.
Oh, my goodness.
To hear those words, it's so reassuring for me.
I want this to be a forever thing.
I do see Xavier as my husband.
♪ ♪
- So, in the past with my ex,
I was unfaithful,
and I wanted to tell you that
because I know that
that is, like, very triggering for you.
[tense music]
- This is exactly what my ex did
on and off for about six years.
To hear him say this a week out,
two weeks out from proposal,
this took me for a loop!
I am very curious to know, like, was it multiple times?
- It was multiple times in the span of five days.
- Oh, okay.
- I'm not going to do that if I know that you're my end.
- Okay.
- Is it gonna be hard to do that?
Hell, yes... [crowd gasps]
Because I've never been
in a position where it's like,
you have to just choose
one woman for the rest of your life
and that freedom is gone.
And for me to get to that point,
that has to happen tonight.
I need to see more.
- I'm so mad. I'm so mad.
What do you need to see?
Us in a bedroom is not gonna determine
whether or not you can see
longevity in a relationship.
[cheers and applause]
Mm-mm. No way.
Who Charity Lawson is in 2023--
not willing to settle,
not willing to put up
with just whatever-- it's not happening.
- Okay.
[cheers and applause]
- Let's go.
We're like a week out from proposal,
and you can't tell me that you trust yourself
from not making a mistake of loyalty again?
Like, I'm not-- I'm not doing that.
I'm sorry.
[crying]
Hell to the no.
[crying] I'm so upset.
[sobs]
♪ ♪
- All right, what are you feeling?
- Um, it's kind of tough to watch back,
because I feel like me bringing up my past,
I just wanted to be so honest with her.
[sighs]
That conversation just did not happen
like I had planned it to happen.
And I just stuck my foot in my mouth,
and I made a mistake
instead of making her feel...
like she was the only woman for me.
- It's interesting.
In that conversation after the breakup,
you're at the car,
and that's when you told her you loved her.
- Mm-hmm. - Why that moment?
Why then?
- I just wanted to let her know, like,
how I truly felt about her.
And...
I think what kind of, like, made me kind of snap
and stick my foot in my mouth was,
one of my biggest fears is
for love to not be reciprocated to me.
And so...
Oof. Um...
At that Hometown,
you know, I told her I was falling in love with her.
And I guess I expected her to say it back...
and I shouldn't have expected that.
But that fear kind of just arose
and took me back to that really hard time.
And I kind of just melted.
- I can tell just by talking to you
that this is something that's been
weighing on you very heavily. - For sure.
- What's life been like for you since that night in Fiji?
- You know, I was in love with her.
And, uh...
it was really difficult to kind of move on from that,
because, you know, those feelings don't just go away.
I think about our time together literally every day.
Um...
So I had to get a therapist because I felt like
there was some work that I had to do on myself
in order to be ready for somebody
that is my forever person.
- You said that you were in love with Charity.
- Mm-hmm.
- And I can tell you've been thinking about her a lot
ever since then.
How do you think Charity feels about you right now?
- Uh, I really have no idea.
I just want her to know that I want her
to be, like, super happy.
And I want her to thrive
in everything that she will do in the future.
And I truly want the best for her.
- Are you nervous to see her?
- Yeah.
- When we come back, Charity will join us
right here on the stage.
What is she gonna have to say to Xavier
and all of her other exes?
We're about to find that out, so don't go away.
[cheers and applause]
♪ ♪
[upbeat music]
- Welcome back.
Well, it's already been
a dramatic and a very emotional night.
But what does Charity have to say about it all?
I say we bring her out.
Ladies and gentlemen, please welcome
your Bachelorette, Charity.
[cheers and applause]
♪ ♪
- Hey, boys.
♪ ♪
- How are you? - Hi.
- [muffled speech]
- Great seeing you. Have a seat.
- All right.
- Oh, my gosh. - Ah!
- It's so great seeing you. How are you feeling?
- I'm feeling great, honestly.
I'm excited to be here, honestly.
Hey, boys. [laughs]
- I was gonna ask, how is it to be face-to-face
with all these guys for the first time since we filmed?
- They're great, so it's good to be back.
It's good to see you guys. You guys look great, so...
- Well, take me back to the very first night
when you met all these guys. - Yeah.
- Your brother, Nehemiah, of course, showed up.
What did it mean to you to have your brother there that night?
I think that's so special.
- Oh, it was truly special.
I mean, I was so nervous coming into all of this.
And, like, I really didn't know what I was walking into.
You truly can't prepare for something like this.
And so just to have that little comfort from home
and someone who's so close to me, it was really good.
- Especially on night one. - Especially on night one.
- When you know the nerves are literally sky high.
Of course, by the end of the night,
you had given your First Impression Rose
to Brayden. - Mm-hmm.
- What was it about Brayden that you liked so much?
- Yeah, I think we just, like, really clicked.
And, like, he has a very charismatic energy
and personality.
Obviously, like, the chemistry was there, so...
It was there. - I was just gonna say,
you could really see the chemistry.
You could feel it, too.
It wasn't too long after that, though,
that he started voicing some concerns
about this whole process... - Yeah.
- And whether or not he could get to an engagement
in this environment.
Is there anything you'd like to say to him?
- Uh, yeah, I mean, obviously, like,
I'm just gonna start off by saying, like, obviously,
thank you for, like, coming on this whole journey.
It was an honor and pleasure meeting you.
I will be honest.
I did not like how you talked about our relationship
to a lot of the guys.
That was really hard for me to watch back.
I was caught off guard by, like, you know,
the comments of, like, wanting me to not--
like, you know, turn off of being the Bachelorette,
of just, like, wanting to see me off.
And I'm like, I feel like I was
my 100% authentic self to you the whole time.
I don't think I ever put on for anybody in this house.
And I hope a lot of the guys
could also, like, testify to that.
But at the end of the day, I don't regret anything.
I gave you a lot more grace than I think
I should have given you, if I'm being honest.
But just grateful for the whole experience.
So we'll leave it at that.
[cheers and applause]
- She's 100% valid in how she's feeling about that.
From the very beginning, I wasn't sure
if the environment was the best environment for me.
But the only thing that, like, I took out of it
was the fact that I really liked you.
I felt like every time we hung out,
every time we got to spend that time together,
there was that spark that, you know,
you want when you meet someone.
And so, like, that's why I wanted to stay.
That's what I was really trying to stay for.
I could have been better about sharing
some of the stuff with the guys.
It's hard when the questions are being asked
to kind of just, like, keep quiet, to be honest,
and it's probably not my best suit.
And, again, I'm sorry if that--
you know, me talking to the guys definitely
hurt you in any way-- that wasn't my intention.
But I'm grateful for getting to meet you.
I'm grateful for getting to have the time
I got to have with you. - Mm-hmm.
- And, yeah. - Thank you.
[cheers and applause]
- All right, well, Sean, you had one
of the more emotional goodbyes of the season.
What would you like to say to Charity?
- Can I come up there? - Hi.
Oh, is he coming up? - Hi. If it's all right, yeah.
- Okay.
- I was thinking a lot about, like,
any question that I had--sorry. - Okay.
No, you're fine.
- But I really don't have
any questions at all. - Okay.
I think, like, the entire time, you did nothing
but, like, follow your heart.
And, like, when you have 25 people here, like,
people end up getting hurt. - Mm-hmm.
- But I wanted to thank you for being the Bachelorette
'cause you showed us nothing but grace and class
the entire time. - Thank you.
- You allowed us to, like, open up and feel
comfortable in situations that, in turn, I felt feelings
I haven't felt in so long. - Mm-hmm.
- So thank you for that.
You made all of us better men.
So I just want to say thank you.
I have no questions. - Thank you.
That was sweet. Thank you, Sean.
- Did you just invite yourself in your own hot seat?
- I was like--
- Sean, go back to your seat.
Go back right now.
- Sorry about that.
- You have to be invited up here.
He broke the Bachelor hot seat code.
- He literally did.
- You don't invite yourself into the hot seat.
- Sorry.
- That was nice, though, so thank you, Sean.
- Tanner, obviously, you went home
in New Orleans that-- one step away
from getting a Hometown date,
bringing Charity home to meet your family.
What would you like to say to Charity?
- Yeah, I really don't have any questions
because I feel like... - Yeah.
- We didn't really leave any stone unturned.
And I feel like throughout my experience,
you know, we continued to meet
each other halfway. - Yeah.
- And I continued to check in with you.
And I just wanted to try to, you know,
create an organic relationship, right,
in, like, the most un-organic way possible.
- Truly. [laughs]
- And that's why I never wanted to put any pressure on you.
You know, I wasn't ever trying
to put you in a certain position.
But thank you.
I mean, it was one of the best experiences of my life.
So, no questions, just want to let you know that.
- Thank you, Tanner. Thank you.
[cheers and applause]
- All right, John, obviously, you were really frustrated
in Washington when you went home.
Is there anything that you didn't get to say
to Charity then that you wish you could now?
- Please take me back. [laughter]
I won't lie.
You know, when I got let go in Skamania,
I was surprised.
And no disrespect to the guys who made it further,
but I felt like we had a stronger connection
than some of the guys.
And so it did catch me off guard.
- Yeah. - So I guess my question is,
if you have any understanding of kind what happened?
- That's always, like, a tricky question to answer,
because I think, for me, it's like, it's never--
I don't ever want anyone leaving this, like, experience
thinking that they did something wrong
or, like, they weren't enough.
It's just, honestly, what truly I think
I, like, am looking for or, like, what I need
as, like, the weeks progress.
But nothing that you did, and I don't want you
to think that because... - No. I appreciate it.
- You know, you're awesome.
And I've told you that. - Thank you.
- You're awesome. He is.
He's awesome.
[cheers and applause]
- We also do have to talk about the man
who you sent home in Fiji last week,
who is here with us tonight.
That's, of course, Xavier.
That was obviously a devastating breakup.
How does it feel to see Xavier for the first time
since that night?
- It's hard. Yeah.
- What's the hardest part about it?
- That was just, like, not something I saw coming.
I think, for me, in that moment
when me and Xavier had that conversation,
the way everything just, like, kind of came out,
I was like, this should have been
told to me way ahead of time.
It's like, you just don't wake up one morning
and feel like, okay, I just don't want to do--
Like, that's not--like, you probably knew in the moment
when I had the conversation in New Orleans
whether or not this is something
that you saw with me.
And I don't think, honestly, at the end of it,
like, he really ever saw himself,
like, truly getting down on one knee
or just, like, being with me.
- Okay, I had a chance to speak to Xavier about it
a little bit earlier. - Yeah.
- I think you two have a lot that you should talk about.
Is it okay if we invite Xavier on up?
- Mm-hmm. Yeah.
- Xavier, why don't you come back, man?
[applause]
[tense music]
All right, well, before we get to this,
we are gonna take a quick break.
- Okay.
- Because when we come back, Xavier and Charity,
they're gonna be talking for the very first time
since that dramatic breakup in Fiji.
Stick around.
[indistinct chatter, applause]
♪ ♪
[tense music]
♪ ♪
- Welcome back, Bachelor Nation.
Obviously, I'm here now with Charity and Xavier.
They obviously haven't spoken
since that fateful night in Fiji.
So, Charity, Xavier... - [clears throat]
- I just wanted to open it up
to the two of you to talk to each other.
- Mm-hmm. - Floor is yours.
- So one thing I want to say is, like, I denounce cheating.
I don't think you should ever cheat.
And if you have a problem in your relationship,
you should focus on making it better.
And in Fiji, in my heart, there was no doubt
that I wanted to be with you
and that I was ready to be with you.
But in my head, I had that doubt,
and I didn't know how to suppress it.
I can be that faithful person.
It just didn't come out in the right way.
- We're a week out from a proposal,
and it's like, I almost wish that, okay,
maybe we could have had this conversation at Hometowns.
Or maybe we could have had this conversation, like,
I don't know, in New Orleans, in Washington, whenever.
- Right. - And it's like,
what you were saying to me just honestly
could have been a conversation
that would have saved me a lot of pain.
And I think, obviously, I hate to say it,
but, like, I don't think
I would have brought you to that point
because I would have known then that you were not ready.
Obviously, we're talking about, like, your infidelity
and, like, what that meant.
You were saying, "I don't want to cheat on you."
Well, instead of saying, "I don't want to cheat,"
"I won't cheat on you." - Won't--exactly.
- Like, it's things like that.
It's like, that's plain and simple.
Like, if you have love for me or if you care for me,
you won't do that to a person that you're with.
Like, it's just plain and simple.
[cheers and applause]
Mm-hmm. - 100%.
- And then at the end, when I'm walking you out,
I'm putting you in the car,
and you decide to say, "I love you."
And it's like, you had all day.
We had a whole date that we spent together,
which was incredible. - Mm-hmm.
- And then we get to this dinner, and it's like,
that's the timing that you decide to just throw out,
"I love you."
Saying I love you is not gonna turn around the situation.
You said what you said,
and, like, that's just what it is.
So you just, like, kept almost essentially
digging yourself deeper.
And it's like, what the [bleep] is going on?
- I knew that you were sending me home at that point,
and I just wanted to let you know how I felt.
I just wanted to give us a chance...
- Yeah. - Because I really loved you
at that point. - Mm-hmm.
- And not knowing how you felt about me
really just, like, messed my mind up.
- But do you remember me--
in that conversation, I asked you--I was like,
what reassurance do you need from me?
And I said, is it because I haven't verbalized
that I was in love with you yet?
And you said to me, like, no, that wasn't the case.
You just wanted to know, like,
okay, like, what are the things that you liked about me,
like, you know, all these things.
And it's like, Xavier, I've told you that.
I've told you that so many times
about what I liked about you
and where I was at with my feelings for you.
It's just, I hadn't said those words,
and, like, at that point, I hadn't said those words
to other people, too.
So it's like, I was just getting to a place
where I knew in my heart of hearts
that when I say those words,
like, it's not something I just say lightly.
I don't just toss around, like, "I love you."
Like, I'm not gonna just say it to you,
and I know, like, your commitment isn't to me.
And so me asking you in that conversation--
I asked you so many times at that dinner,
like, do you trust yourself?
Do you trust yourself to be committed?
And, like, you told me time and time again,
it's like, I don't know. Like, I don't know.
Marriage scares me.
Like, commitment to one person scares me.
- Yeah. - Please, let me know
how the hell I'm supposed to, like, take that, and be like,
"Oh, this is great, like, this is solid."
Like, I'd be a fool to sit there and be like, all right,
he just told me, "I don't want commitment,
or I basically don't trust myself to commit."
So I don't--
- 100%, I--
[applause]
Yeah, so I think in a marriage--
when you're getting married,
there's a fear of, like, commitment.
There's a fear of marrying the wrong person.
There's a fear of a lot of things.
- And that's fair. - And so that allowed--
I allowed that to consume me... - Mm-hmm.
- Instead of, you know, allowing myself
to hone in on what was beautiful
about being with you.
I think about that conversation every day.
I sometimes shed tears about it
because it was really tough to, like...
share that part about me
and have it go, like...
so horribly.
Obviously, I wish my answers reflected the man
that I want to be in the future,
which is a faithful man to his wife.
And I just really want to, like, thank you
for allowing me in that space,
because it wasn't that I was trying to get there
to just have sex with you.
That was not my goal.
My goal was to hear more and deepen
that connection that we had.
I genuinely saw you as my wife.
- Mm-hmm. - And I...
was trying to do everything in my power
to allow you to know exactly who I was.
- Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. - Right.
- You were in love
with Charity in Fiji. - Yeah.
- What are your feelings toward her now?
- I'm not gonna lie to you.
I still have those feelings,
and it's great to sit next to you.
And I'm just happy that, you know,
I can bring this to some sort of closure
because I felt like...
we ended so abruptly.
And, like, I really kind of, like,
get really emotional about that
because...
it really messed me up.
Yeah, yeah.
I got one more thing, and I'll be right back.
- What? - Okay.
[soft music]
♪ ♪
[indistinct whispering]
So, I think, Charity, you definitely carried yourself
with grace and poise. - Mm-hmm.
- And I just wanted to make you this knit rose to just...
- Thank you.
- Show you that I definitely cared.
And at the end of the day, I'm super happy
and hopeful that you found your forever person.
- Mm-hmm. - It sucks that it wasn't me.
But I understand that you're gonna do great things.
- Thank you.
I hope that you do take this and use it to your advantage.
I'm glad that we obviously got to talk about this.
And hopefully, like,
moving forward, like, I wish you the best.
- I'm really happy that you had this chance
to really hash this out and talk face-to-face, too.
So, Xavier, thank you again for being here so much.
- Absolutely. Thank you.
- Okay, when we return, we got more with Charity
and the men on this very special 20th anniversary
of "The Bachelorette," "The Men Tell All."
And then later, the Golden Bachelor is here.
So how does he feel about making out
with a bunch of women?
You're gonna find out 'cause I'm gonna ask him.
It's all coming up, so don't go away.
♪ ♪
[cheers and applause]
[upbeat music]
- Welcome back to "The Men Tell All."
Of course, I'm here right now with our Bachelorette, Charity.
How you doing so far?
- I'm doing great. - You holding up?
- Yeah, this has been great. - It has been great.
It's obviously been a very revealing night so far.
- Yeah. Yeah.
- And it's actually now about to get
a little bit more revealing. - Oh, great. [laughs]
In what ways?
- In a fun way, because we're about to take
a look back at a few moments that, Bachelor Nation,
you never got to see.
Now, some of them are funny, some of them are
a bit embarrassing. - Oh, no.
- And some of them are just downright outrageous.
Charity, you haven't seen any of this.
- I don't know what's happening.
- Are you ready? - I don't know--Yeah.
- Guys, you might want to cover your eyes.
All right, well, "Barbie" has taken the country by storm,
and Bachelor Nation is no different.
On the group date in Oceanside, Charity, of course,
was our Barbie, but were any of the guys Ken-ough for her?
[laughter]
[quirky music]
- I feel like we need to give each of them
a moment to kind of, like, show off their looks.
- Oh, like a little mini-fashion-show moment.
- A little fashion show? Strut.
- Cowboy Ken, come on up.
- Come on down. [people cheering]
Oh, he got a lasso. - Oh!
- Ooh!
- I am Barbie today.
Oh, God, I'm scared. [chuckles]
And I'm looking for my perfect Ken.
- O, that's good. Yeah, yeah. - Oh, that was cute!
- Now, Cowboy Ken, they gonna see right through his act.
He's not really the cowboy they think he is.
He's too fashionable to be a cowboy.
[laughter]
[indistinct chatter]
- I am Ice Skating Ken.
Movement's gonna be limited,
but I'm gonna do my best to--to--
to--you know, a little double triple axel.
Whoa. See?
[indistinct chatter] - What is the bucket?
- This date takes a whole lot of balls.
- You're not wrong.
- And, sadly, Birthday Suit Ken doesn't have any.
[laughter]
[cheers and applause]
- All right, so I gotta know--
did any of you guys keep the Ken costumes,
and have you been wearing them at home?
Caleb?
- I wear it on a daily basis.
I mean--I'm kidding.
- I mean, clearly. [laughs]
- I literally brought the coat here.
I was gonna wear it. - Did you?
- I didn't want to-- You know what I'm saying?
I didn't want to steal the show.
[laughter]
- I know John can't wear his costume around because--
- Yeah, I burned it. Yeah. - You would get arre--
- America saw too much of me there.
- You would get arrested for indecent exposure, for sure.
[applause]
Now, obviously, you all saw the dodgeball date, right?
But what you didn't get to see
was the intense preparation
that these guys put in before the game.
Oh, yeah, let's just say, it got a little hairy.
[laughter]
You're all gonna be going head-to-head
in a dodgeball game.
[all cheering] - Let's go!
- Ah, there's one thing I forgot, though.
- [laughing]
- We gotta get your uniforms.
[cheering, laughter]
- Oh-ho-ho.
- I mean, come on, Jesse.
I don't know--
Oh, I forgot, these are your uniforms.
What is that?
- Oh, dude, this is so tight.
Oh, my God.
- That's not gonna fit.
- This is wild. Okay.
- These aren't even men's.
- What is this? This is not--what is this?
Is this the Spice channel? [laughs]
- How's the booty look?
- Well, shoot. - It's a little hairy.
- Should we do a little trim, butt trim?
- I do believe in manscaping.
[shaver buzzing, laughter]
But the last five days, the battery ran out.
So I'm looking clean on the front
and full kitten on the back.
Help!
[laughter]
Help!
[cheers and applause]
- All right, Aaron, you have to educate America.
What does "full kitten in the back" mean?
- Uh... - Full bush?
- Exactly what you'd imagine full kitten in the back is--
just you're clean cut, hardwood floors,
and then the back is all carpet.
[laughter] Yeah.
- For anybody that says "The Bachelorette"
is not an educational show... - Yeah.
- Obviously, you're not watching.
[applause]
All right, well, there are so many really funny moments
that Bachelor Nation never got to see, right?
I'm talking about bloopers!
[cheers and applause] Y'all ready to see them?
Charity, let's do this. You know 'em. You love 'em.
Here they are, bloopers.
[cheers and applause]
- Charity, there's more about me
that, obviously, that you don't know, too.
- Yeah. [door slamming]
And I don't know.
This connection that you can build with people
is, like, so special... - Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.
and it's like--I love this. [door creaking]
- Mm-hmm. I do, too. - You know, I love learning
about people and... [banging]
Feeling things, and this--
I think someone's dead. - [laughs]
- Everything okay? - Oopsies.
- All right, three, two, one.
[crashing]
Oh!
Oh, my God.
Oh, did I break it?
- Athlete! [crashing]
- Oh, no!
- Opa!
- Sean, are you kidding me, Sean?
- Like, the group setting is obviously way more intimate
with her walking in-- - Ooh, heads up. Heads up.
[crashing] - Whoa!
- How did you see that?
- Ah, the Aarons, I love you, dude.
- The Aarons. I love you too, dude.
- Oh, my leg. Ow! My head.
What the hell is that?
- Oh, God.
- Oh, my God.
They got low-hanging [bleep] here.
- And whatever I need to do
to, you know, keep earning time...
- Whoo!
- And keep, you know, growing as an individual here...
- It's game time, baby!
- But also showing Charity who I am.
- Ow! - I'm pumped.
I'm not gonna leave anything back.
- Hey, I scream! - Want to start screaming?
- Do I want to start screaming?
Hell, yeah, I want to start screaming.
Hey, we're talking over here!
- You could use this one-on-one time?
- Yeah, yeah, for sure.
Yeah, thank you. Thank you.
- They can pound sand, LBS sand, baby.
L-B-S. That's a wrap.
- Oh! Whoa! Okay.
all: Hey!
[upbeat music]
- Stay here. Be my Will Smith.
♪ ♪
[cheers and applause]
- [vocalizing goofily]
- I can moonwalk.
- The longest kiss in Bachelor history
is 3 minutes and 22 seconds,
and I'm about to break it.
[quirky music]
Eh, I'm gonna keep going.
♪ ♪
Whoo!
All right.
- Spicy?
- No, it feels good.
A little--Oh, God.
That was, like, overdose.
Oh, my God, my mouth is gonna be on fire.
[romantic music]
[audience whooping]
[person screaming]
[ominous music]
[romantic music]
- Oh, jeez.
[ominous music]
- Oh, no!
- [growling]
[laughter]
- There's no way. I just--
Who is it? - It's Jesse Palmer.
- I wish you could have seen your faces.
- No way. - That was so good.
- I was just like, there's not a chance I'm looking at this.
- I was just going for a walk, getting some air.
You kids get back to doing what you were doing.
I need a burrito.
[cheers and applause]
Spent a lot of time in that Bigfoot costume,
maybe a little too much time.
You know, speaking of creatures,
look who's in the audience tonight.
We got Captain Tom.
He's the swamp boat captain who took Tanner and Sean out
on their two-on-one date.
Let's hear it for Captain Tom, everybody.
- Okay. [laughs]
- Captain Tom, it's so great seeing you here.
Obviously, you were on the two-on-one date
with both Sean and Tanner.
What was that date like for you?
- It was all right, yeah.
Uh, Miss Chastity there--
- Charity. - Miss Charity.
- That's all right. [laughter]
- Chastity there. - He's gonna say it wrong.
- Or Charity--Charity. - Charity's there.
For Charity, she's a beautiful young lady,
and whoever she pick gonna be a lucky man.
- Thank you.
- So, obviously, you had a chance
to get to know both Tanner and Sean a little bit.
You know, Charity, she didn't hand out a rose on that date.
So, if it had been you handing out a rose,
Captain Tom, who would you have given it to?
- One like this?
- Yeah, like that. Where did that come from?
- I'll kill you. - Ah!
- It was both gentlemen on the boat.
They got along pretty good.
And I got to look at body action--
who was getting along with who
and who focuses on who's talking
and who's actually listening.
And I was thinking, well,
Sean, if you'd accept this rose...
[cheers and applause]
- Wow.
- I get a rose?
- I don't know.
- Absolutely.
Here, give me a hug. - Okay.
- Sean, I gotta say, dude, listen,
I know you didn't get Charity's final rose,
but at least you're not going empty-handed tonight.
- It's a good consolation prize.
- You must be real proud of yourself.
- I'm all right. Yeah.
- Hey, listen, Captain Tom,
thank you so much for being here.
We really appreciate having you here.
Thank you, young pop.
All right, Charity, don't go anywhere.
Stick around, because when we come back,
we got some really special guests that are here,
and they want to say hi to you.
And then we've got Gerry the Golden Bachelor who's here.
So stick around, Bachelor Nation.
We'll be right back.
[cheers and applause]
♪ ♪
[upbeat music]
♪ ♪
- Welcome back to a very special edition--
the 20th season
of "The Bachelorette," "The Men Tell All."
And, Charity, I just gotta tell you,
you have been an absolutely amazing Bachelorette.
- Thank you. Thank you.
- Just so much class, so much grace,
and you're so deserving.
And, you know, before we let you go...
- Yeah. - In celebration
of this great 20th season... - Yeah.
- I got a few friends here... - Okay.
- That think just as highly of you as I do.
And they may know a little something about everything
you've been going through. - Okay. [laughs]
- All right, everybody, please welcome former Bachelorettes
Trista Sutter, Desiree Siegfried,
and DeAnna Pappas.
[cheers and applause]
Hey. - Hi.
- So good seeing you. How are you?
- Hey. - Awesome, how's it going?
You look fantastic. Great seeing you.
- We're gonna squish on the couch.
- That's all right. - How cool is this,
by the way, to have them here? - You don't understand.
I'm, like, trying to keep it cool right now
because these are, like-- - Aww.
- No, for real, these are like OGs.
And it's like--especially Trista, like, we would not--
I would not be here without you, like, seriously.
- They all are such superstars, obviously.
And, look, I know the three of you,
you don't need any introduction.
But here's just a little reminder of why
these queens are, well... - I don't want to cry.
- Queens. - I know.
[soft music]
- I am so excited. I am the Bachelorette.
Even though I did not meet, you know, my Prince Charming
on "The Bachelorette"...
Ooh, I'm scared. [chuckles]
I truly believe at that point in my life,
that is where I was supposed to be.
The show ultimately led me
to my two children, Addison and Austin.
[laughter]
I'm the happiest woman in the world.
♪ ♪
- Will you marry me?
- Yes, a thousand times.
♪ ♪
I want to grow old and gray.
♪ ♪
- It is out of love and affection
for Trista and Ryan,
I now pronounce you husband and wife.
Will you please kiss your bride?
♪ ♪
[cheers and applause]
♪ ♪
[cheers and applause]
- Oh, my God.
- We will be celebrating 20 years in December.
- Oh, my God. - Wow.
- I love that. - Yeah.
- It's crazy.
- I mean, it's amazing. - That's incredible.
- Aw, look at my--
- Here's a picture of you and your family.
There's Ryan and the kids.
- I mean, Max just turned 16 years old yesterday.
I have a 16-year-old. - Oh, my God.
Happy birthday.
- But life is really good.
It's really hard to believe
that we were at the start of all of this.
And to think that this would be where we are now is...
- Insane. - It is insane.
- Des, what about you? What's the latest and greatest?
- I mean, our life is so normal,
and it's adventurous with two little boys running around.
Looking back at the proposal and stuff,
I feel so far removed, but it's such
a vital point in our story and in our journey.
So, when the boys are ready to find out
how Mommy and Daddy met, I'm gonna have to call you.
[laughter]
- DeAnna, what about you? Catch us up.
- Golly, where do I begin?
[laughter]
I'm in a bit of a transitional phase
and finding myself again.
I always knew I was pretty strong,
but I have learned just how resilient I truly am.
- Mm-hmm.
- And I'm single. - Amen.
- I'm single. - Whoo!
- Thank you. - She's single.
Let's get her a man.
- If you guys plan to do
a Golden Bachelorette, just call me.
- That's right! - Just call me.
- I think you have a long way off to go.
- I don't need to get married ever again.
- Charity, this is such a cool opportunity...
- Yeah. - And a moment, obviously,
having all this wisdom here... - Mm-hmm. Yeah.
- Of having been the Bachelorettes before.
Do you have any questions for the three of them?
- I have so many, but I, like--
I'm gonna start with you, Trista.
Obviously, you have remained with your person,
and that gives me so much inspiration and hope.
So, with that, what would be your advice for just, like,
you know, like, making it, you know, work
in a long-lasting, like, healthy marriage?
- Yeah. You know, I will say that we're not perfect,
like everybody. - Yeah.
- But forgiveness-- I've said this a lot.
Because you're having
a really bad day... - Mm-hmm.
- And you say something that maybe you regret
or whatever-- just the little forgiveness
throughout the day. - Going back and having--yeah.
- You have to choose to prioritize the relationship...
- Mm-hmm. - Because there is
so much pressure, and there's so many opinions.
- Yeah. - Especially--
- Unwanted opinions. - Unwanted opinions.
- Obviously, social media is so much more,
like, heavier in this day and age.
People give unwarranted comments.
How do you navigate that space of just, like, the critics and,
you know, the pressure that it places on your relationship?
- You have to remember who you are at your core.
There will always be people who are not on your ride.
- That's correct.
- There will be people who try to break you down.
- Yeah. - There will be people
who try to tell you you are not worthy.
And I encourage you to remember you are all of those things.
- That I am. - Yes.
- Yes.
- Go, Dee. Go, Dee.
- Preach it. [applause, laughter]
- You can only control you. - That's right.
- And I believe in this season, you've done a really good job
of being you and standing up for who you are
and what you believe in and using your voice.
And I encourage you to still do that.
- Yeah. - Don't lose that.
Don't let people take that from you.
- You're doing incredible. - Oh, my God, thank you.
Thank you, guys. - You're doing great, girl.
- I have always said that I feel very maternal
towards everyone on the show
just because I'm the old gal, the OG.
- Uh-huh. - But...
but I'm so proud of you. - Oh, thank you.
- You really are just so classy
and so respectful. - Oh. Thank you.
- And I think you're doing an incredible job.
- I also just love, like-- you're able to give us insight
into what you're thinking and what you're feeling,
and I think it's really beautiful,
and it's fun to watch.
- Very true to your feelings-- you spoke your mind,
and you are strong. - Yes!
- Thank you. - Yes!
- I agree. Couldn't agree more. [cheers and applause]
- Ooh, I didn't know we were going to church today.
I love this. I love that. [laughter]
- It really, really is such great advice.
And I think it's so cool having former Bachelorettes
come back and support our current Bachelorette.
It's something that's really empowering.
It's really, really great to see.
- It's a tight group of people. - It is. It really is.
- We are each other's biggest supporters.
- We are family. - We are.
- We are family. - Well, Trista, Des, DeAnna,
thank you so much for being here.
Let's hear it for our three former Bachelorettes, everyone.
[cheers and applause]
And also, Charity, thank you so much for being here.
It's great seeing you again. Thank you for facing
all of your former boyfriends. - The men.
- And we're gonna see you back here next week
when we see how your journey unfolds.
It's gonna be fun.
Let's hear it again for Charity, everybody.
[cheers and applause]
All right, well, coming up, we held a nationwide search
to find the perfect guy
to be our very first Golden Bachelor.
And guess what, we found him.
And he's here.
And then later, we're gonna get a sneak peek
at the finale that is sure to have
all of Bachelor Nation talking.
That's all coming up when "The Men Tell All" returns.
♪ ♪
It's so great seeing you all.
[upbeat music]
- Welcome back, everybody.
Now, for years, Bachelor Nation has been clamoring for a show
just like "The Bachelor" but for--
I don't know how I can say this--
an older and wiser crowd, let's just say.
Well, the show is finally here, and it's called
"The Golden Bachelor."
[cheers and applause]
That's right, and we couldn't be
more excited about it
or about our Golden Bachelor himself.
Now, his name is Gerry, and if you didn't know
anything about him, just trust me,
you are absolutely going to love him.
Take a look.
[dramatic music]
- Aah!
[laughs]
I'm Gerry.
I'm 71 years young.
I'm from Indiana, and I'm going to be
the first Golden Bachelor,
because it's never too late to fall in love again.
[train horn blares]
[soft music]
I married my high-school sweetheart,
Toni, in 1972.
We had 43 wonderful years together.
We had two daughters, and I now have
two wonderful granddaughters.
We had a real typical but beautiful life--
full of love, full of activity.
And as years went on, I retired.
We had a plan, and we had an idea
of what our dream house was going to be.
So, when Toni retired at the end of May in 2017,
we bought that dream house, closed on it on June 6th.
[somber music]
From June 6th on,
it didn't go according to plan at all.
You know, she became ill,
and her situation got worse over a couple of weeks.
♪ ♪
[voice breaking] And so we went to the emergency room,
and she had a bacterial infection
that infected her kidneys and infected her liver.
And so I took my wife
to the emergency room on July 7th.
She passed away on July 15th.
[crying]
♪ ♪
[normal voice] Every time I look at that lake,
I go, this is her dream.
This is what she deserves.
Why am I standing here alone?
It will be six years since she passed away.
No one's ever gonna replace Toni.
- I love you, Dad. - Thanks for everything.
- Love you. - Thanks, guys.
[indistinct chatter]
But the love of my daughters and my granddaughters
pulled me out of a dark spot.
- This isn't to replace her but to just find somebody
that makes you happy.
My dad is just such a fun guy.
He's so personable and lovable.
Way to go, Dad!
He's so kind, and he has so much to give.
He just deserves to find that in somebody else.
- Where are the babes you're looking for?
- I don't know that they've even been chosen yet.
I have passed the STD test and the drug test.
[laughter]
Best-case scenario is I find out
that Helen Mirren's on the market,
and she's really happy to be on "The Golden Bachelor."
- You can't be laughing. You gotta have a straight face.
Well, don't make it look like you're gonna cry.
- I guess the first thing I'm worried about
is remembering 25 names.
Eunice, will you accept this rose?
[laughter]
Gertrude, I'm sorry.
This isn't gonna work.
I hope at the end of it, I find the person
that I'll spend the rest of my life with
that will complete our family.
- Cheers.
- Cheers to Ger-bear. - Cheers.
- I want to fall in love.
I really want to find my person
who can put me in my place when I need it
and make me smile at it,
the person who can lay down beside you at night...
[voice breaking] Not have to say anything, and you feel it.
That's love.
♪ ♪
That's what I want.
And I know that person's out there.
♪ ♪
[cheers and applause]
- Isn't he great?
Man, his story gets me every time.
And, of course, he's here tonight.
So, without further ado, ladies and gentlemen,
your first ever Golden Bachelor, Gerry.
[upbeat music]
♪ ♪
[cheers and applause]
- Whoo!
♪ ♪
all: Gerry! Gerry! Gerry! Gerry! Gerry! Gerry!
- Have a seat.
Gerry! Gerry! Gerry! Gerry!
♪ ♪
- Well... - Welcome, Gerry!
[indistinct shouting] - Hey, guys. How's it going?
- You got a lot of fans. - Mm.
- It is so great to finally get to meet you
face-to-face like this.
How you feeling right now?
- Oh, it's a whirlwind, the last couple of weeks.
I mean, I feel like the last ingredient
going into the blender for a smoothie,
and your finger's right on the button to start it.
- Yeah. - So it's amazing.
- You went from relative anonymity, right,
to just being the most talked about man in America...
[snaps fingers] Literally overnight.
What's life been like for you since the big announcement?
- I was amazed when the radio
and TV announcers
and everybody started showing up in my driveway.
And it's like, I live in the middle of nowhere.
It's hard enough to find where I live, and I live there.
[laughter] - I gotta be honest.
People literally have been going Gerry crazy
all around the country.
And I don't know if you know this or not.
Are you big into social media? - No, not really.
- Okay, well, you were actually--for a little while,
you were trending on social media--trending.
- If I knew what that meant,
I'm sure I would appreciate it a whole lot more.
- It's a really good thing, Gerry.
It means people like you,
and they're talking about you a lot.
And we've actually got some of those
social-media posts that we can share with you...
- All right. - Just kind of let you know
what everybody's been saying about you.
All right, "He's the most wholesome man.
"I love him.
Can't wait to watch."
- That's good. Wholesome, I like.
- Wholesome is good. - Yep.
- "Gerry can 'Geddit.'"
[laughter]
"Can't wait to watch his season."
- So, uh, what does "Geddit" mean?
[laughter]
- I don't think I'm allowed to say
on this network what it means. - Okay.
- This might be my favorite one of all.
"Grandzaddyyyyyy."
[cheers and applause]
- Is it good? It's good?
Okay.
- So, listen, in all seriousness, though,
I know that you're--you're very serious about this.
You're very genuine.
Have you thought about that first night at all?
Have you thought about what you're hoping to find
in these women?
- Um, I-I think what I'm-- I'm most looking for
that first night is for one of those women--
or several of those women--
to just have that look in their eye like,
"Oh, gosh, okay, I found my own grandzaddy."
[laughter, cheers, and applause]
See what I did there? - I do.
[laughter]
What about overnights?
I think one thing Bachelor Nation
is really curious about--
are there going to be Fantasy Suites?
Is that something we should expect?
- I would say yes, but that's--
[cheers and applause]
But what they would look like might be a little different.
That's a long way down the journey.
It's a long way.
And I think there's a lot of steps
that I and a potential partner
would need to go through to get to that
to make it a comfortable situation.
- Yeah. Have you been watching
Charity's season? - I have been.
- Have you? - Yeah.
- So you've been doing your homework?
- A little bit. - Yeah.
- A little bit, you know. - And, of course,
you've seen all these guys as well.
What's your impression of all of them?
- I aspire to be like them.
- Oh. - Oh, gosh.
- A bunch of cool guys, yeah.
- Do you guys have any advice
for our first Golden Bachelor here?
Anybody have any wisdom to impart onto him?
- I mean, you've done it, man.
You've had that relationship, and I say, like,
just trust your gut, 'cause you had
a relationship that lasted so long.
And, I mean, just seeing the photos and everything,
it brought tears to my eyes-- like, it was beautiful.
I mean, that's what we all aspire for.
And so I say stay true to yourself, man
'cause you got it. - Thank you.
- There is nothing we are gonna be able to say to you
in order to give you advice.
Like, you just told us that you want to be like us.
That is dead wrong.
Like, we're--we want to be like you, man.
Like, you're genuine. You're true.
Kudos to you, man.
- Thanks. [cheers and applause]
- There ain't nothing we're gonna tell you.
- Thank you. - You know, this is sort of--
it's an interesting opportunity for me, too,
because, of course, you had 43 years
of a beautiful love with the love of your life,
Toni, your high-school sweetheart.
I'm a relatively newly married guy myself.
I'm gonna be picking your brain throughout this entire thing.
Do you have any advice for people out there
that are looking for a long-lasting,
happy marriage?
- Jesse, if there's-- if there's one thing only
that I would tell you or anyone else,
it's like, look at your spouse every day
and tell them you love them,
because the day comes too soon
for one of you that you can't do that.
And...
I would give anything
to be able to do that one more time.
Tell them that you love them every day.
Give them that hug. [cheers and applause]
- Yeah, that's such great advice.
That's beautiful.
- Thank you.
- Gerry, I gotta ask you,
can you find a love like that
twice in a lifetime?
- Well, all right, so your question was,
can I find a love like that? - Mm-hmm.
- I don't think that's what I'm looking for.
What I look for at the age of 70
is different than what I looked for
when I was in high school and college.
- Mm-hmm. - So I believe
I'll find my person,
the new person that will make me whole again.
And I think we'll knit a wonderful relationship.
But I don't think it'll look like
the relationship I had with Toni.
And I don't think it would be right to do it that way.
- Yeah. I love to hear you say that you believe
you're gonna find your person.
- I do. - I believe you are, too.
Gerry, I think you are such a great example
that it's never too late to find love.
I feel so honored and lucky
that I'm gonna get a chance to go on this journey.
There is not a more deserving man
to get this opportunity. - Oh.
- So this is gonna be a lot of fun.
And I just want to say thank you again.
It's so great to finally meet you.
- Oh, I'm looking forward to it.
- Let's hear it for our first Golden Bachelor, Gerry.
[cheers and applause] - Man, this is pretty awesome.
Oh, man, thanks, guys.
Thank you. Thank you.
- And, Bachelor Nation, make sure you mark your calendars,
because Gerry's journey to find love begins this September.
All right, when we come back,
we've got a sneak peek at the explosive end
of Charity's journey.
It is absolutely crazy, so don't go away.
♪ ♪
[upbeat music]
[cheers and applause]
- Welcome back, Bachelor Nation.
Well, it's been quite a night.
And next week, Charity's journey comes
to an emotional conclusion.
The big question now--
how is this whole thing gonna end for her?
Will Dotun propose?
Will it be Joey?
And what about Aaron?
There really are so many different directions
this whole thing could go.
I was there, and, honestly, I couldn't even keep up.
So here it is.
Here's a sneak peek at Charity's final days in Fiji,
and it's more emotional and more heartbreaking
than you can even imagine.
[dramatic music]
- I am in love,
and I know that I am getting engaged,
but I don't know who it's going to be.
- I still see you as a wife.
I still see you as the mother of my children.
There's life coming back into me now.
Kissing Charity just feels
like this all wasn't for nothing.
And I'm right back in it emotionally.
- I'm glad that he did not give up on this
and that he saw me as someone worth fighting for.
But there is this new added layer of pressure.
Now I am reconsidering everything.
- There's no question in my mind
that I want you to be my wife.
- This was the most special night
that we've had together.
I'm very much in love with Charity,
and I want this to end with us engaged.
- I never imagined being in love
with three incredible guys.
But for the first time in all this,
I'm, like, truly not okay.
[sniffles] - The tears that I see,
that is where you are with yourself
in making those...
[whispering] Hard decisions.
♪ ♪
- Like, my brain is, like, clouded.
- You're gonna have to come down to one person.
- I'm very nervous.
Every second ticks closer to the proposal,
there's a little bit more doubt.
I can't imagine Charity with anybody else but me.
- I'm a little nervous about making sure
I explain myself the best way I can.
- Oh, my God.
- I just feel good every time I see you.
You make me feel very special.
- I really need help.
My mom is truly my best friend,
so her opinion is everything.
I want to know your thoughts. Like--
- Ooh. No. I don't want to do that.
- Why, though?
- I'm sitting here, and I'm just--
I'm really torn.
This doesn't make sense.
It doesn't make sense.
I'm gonna have a panic attack.
You are not supposed to say goodbye
to somebody that you love.
[crying]
♪ ♪
I'm sorry.
[cheers and applause]
- Wow, I told you.
It's gonna be an emotional one.
And so please join us next Monday
for the three-hour live finale
that promises to be one of the most intense,
one of the most emotional, and, honestly,
one of the most heartbreaking endings
in Bachelorette history.
Will Charity finally find the happiness she so deserves?
It's the dramatic conclusion
that is going to absolutely shock you to your core.
So thank you again to all the guys
who joined us here tonight
and to Gerry, our Golden Bachelor,
to our former Bachelorettes, Trista, Des, and DeAnna,
and, of course, to Charity as well.
She's just awesome.
And a big thanks to everybody here
and to all of you, Bachelor Nation.
I'm Jesse Palmer.
Good night.
[upbeat music]
[cheers and applause]
♪ ♪
- Man, meeting you guys in person is fantastic.
- Good luck, man. - Yeah.
- Hey, you're awesome, man. - Thank you.
- Embrace it, man. Once in a lifetime.
Good luck. - Great to meet you, Gerry.
Good luck with everything, man. - Thank you.
- Congratulations. - I love this.
- You're gonna do great, okay? - Are you sure
you don't have any wise words for me?
- No. Come on, Gerry.
- We can't do better than you, man.
- Stay true to yourself. - Have fun with it.
- I would say, everyone's gonna love you,
but don't read the comments. - Thank you.
- Don't read the comments. - You're good.
You'll be great. You'll be great.
- Thanks to all of you.
Yeah, I've really enjoyed watching you guys
on the show this year.
- It's gonna be likewise, man.
We're gonna be stoked watching you.
- Yeah. - Hey, thanks.
- You are setting the standard.
No pressure. [laughter]
- Yeah, no pressure at all. Yeah, no.
- Just the first one to ever do this in history.
- Just the first one.
- Like, you have a bunch of women
that are looking forward to meeting you.
So, like, let that hype you up. - Yeah, okay.
- You're literally the most wanted man
in America right now, like, in a good way, dude.
Like, that is crazy.
- You got some people out there saying grandzaddy?
That's a--that's a big deal.
- See, I really need to get more current with the terms,
don't I? [laughter]