1 00:00:01,034 --> 00:00:02,836 - Welcome to a very special edition 2 00:00:02,836 --> 00:00:04,404 of "The Bachelorette." 3 00:00:04,404 --> 00:00:05,906 You're looking very nervous right now. 4 00:00:05,906 --> 00:00:07,674 How come? Y'all ready for this? 5 00:00:07,674 --> 00:00:11,778 It's a "Men Tell All" like you've never seen before. 6 00:00:11,778 --> 00:00:13,080 All of your favorite men 7 00:00:13,080 --> 00:00:15,983 from Charity's season are back. 8 00:00:15,983 --> 00:00:17,251 - It was really just "The Brayden show." 9 00:00:17,251 --> 00:00:18,385 Like, you guys watched all that. 10 00:00:18,385 --> 00:00:20,120 So, like, once that energy was gone-- 11 00:00:20,120 --> 00:00:21,355 - He finally had a shot. 12 00:00:21,355 --> 00:00:23,390 - And they've got a lot to say. 13 00:00:23,390 --> 00:00:25,025 - He was telling us one side 14 00:00:25,025 --> 00:00:26,493 and telling her a different side. 15 00:00:26,493 --> 00:00:27,794 - I was being real. 16 00:00:27,794 --> 00:00:29,129 Like, I'm not manipulating this girl. 17 00:00:29,129 --> 00:00:30,731 - You are a bitch. 18 00:00:30,731 --> 00:00:31,999 That is what you are. 19 00:00:31,999 --> 00:00:33,634 - I didn't care about taking away your time. 20 00:00:33,634 --> 00:00:34,601 To be honest, I didn't care about 21 00:00:34,601 --> 00:00:35,969 taking away anyone else's. 22 00:00:35,969 --> 00:00:38,338 - Comments of, like, "Turn off being the Bachelorette." 23 00:00:38,338 --> 00:00:40,807 I don't think I ever put on for anybody in this house. 24 00:00:40,807 --> 00:00:42,609 - Those feelings are still there. 25 00:00:42,609 --> 00:00:45,445 I think about our time together literally every day. 26 00:00:45,445 --> 00:00:47,981 - Please let me know how the hell I'm supposed to, 27 00:00:47,981 --> 00:00:49,883 like, take that moving forward. 28 00:00:49,883 --> 00:00:51,652 [dramatic music] 29 00:00:51,652 --> 00:00:53,120 - Plus... 30 00:00:53,120 --> 00:00:55,055 - There will be people who try to break you down. 31 00:00:55,055 --> 00:00:56,924 There will be people who try to tell you 32 00:00:56,924 --> 00:00:58,559 you are not worthy. 33 00:00:58,559 --> 00:01:01,628 - Three favorite Bachelorette royals return. 34 00:01:01,628 --> 00:01:03,397 - I'm the old gal, the OG. 35 00:01:03,397 --> 00:01:05,065 I feel very maternal. 36 00:01:05,065 --> 00:01:06,066 I'm so proud of you. 37 00:01:06,066 --> 00:01:07,334 - Oh, thank you. 38 00:01:07,334 --> 00:01:08,735 - And then... 39 00:01:08,735 --> 00:01:11,738 Bachelor Nation is falling for this man. 40 00:01:11,738 --> 00:01:14,975 I'm talking about Gerry, the first ever Golden Bachelor. 41 00:01:14,975 --> 00:01:17,177 all: Gerry! Gerry! Gerry! 42 00:01:17,177 --> 00:01:18,946 - Find out why. 43 00:01:18,946 --> 00:01:20,914 You were trending on social media. 44 00:01:20,914 --> 00:01:22,382 - If I knew what that meant, 45 00:01:22,382 --> 00:01:25,252 I'm sure I would appreciate it a whole lot more. 46 00:01:25,252 --> 00:01:27,254 I believe I'll find my person, 47 00:01:27,254 --> 00:01:29,823 the new person that will make me whole again. 48 00:01:29,823 --> 00:01:34,828 - It's all starting right now on "The Men Tell All." 49 00:01:34,828 --> 00:01:37,831 [upbeat music] 50 00:01:37,831 --> 00:01:40,734 [cheers and applause] 51 00:01:40,734 --> 00:01:44,538 ♪ ♪ 52 00:01:44,538 --> 00:01:46,039 Thanks, guys. 53 00:01:46,039 --> 00:01:47,407 How are we doing? 54 00:01:47,407 --> 00:01:49,476 Thank you. 55 00:01:49,476 --> 00:01:50,611 Good evening, everybody. 56 00:01:50,611 --> 00:01:51,979 I'm Jesse Palmer, and welcome 57 00:01:51,979 --> 00:01:54,481 to "The Bachelorette," "The Men Tell All." 58 00:01:54,481 --> 00:01:56,450 And what a season it's been already. 59 00:01:56,450 --> 00:01:58,085 You know, when Charity's journey began on this 60 00:01:58,085 --> 00:02:00,354 very special 20th season of "The Bachelorette," 61 00:02:00,354 --> 00:02:03,156 she was ready to leave her past heartbreaks behind 62 00:02:03,156 --> 00:02:04,458 and find the love of her life. 63 00:02:04,458 --> 00:02:07,961 And with 25 of America's most eligible bachelors, 64 00:02:07,961 --> 00:02:09,796 the odds were definitely in her favor. 65 00:02:09,796 --> 00:02:13,100 But nobody could have predicted the drama that would follow. 66 00:02:13,100 --> 00:02:15,869 We've had so many unforgettable moments up to this point, 67 00:02:15,869 --> 00:02:17,971 and I've got a feeling we're gonna have 68 00:02:17,971 --> 00:02:19,473 a few more of those right here tonight. 69 00:02:19,473 --> 00:02:20,807 Now, of course, the most memorable men 70 00:02:20,807 --> 00:02:22,542 from the season are here with us. 71 00:02:22,542 --> 00:02:23,677 We got John. 72 00:02:23,677 --> 00:02:24,678 Sean made it. 73 00:02:24,678 --> 00:02:25,779 Adrian's in attendance. 74 00:02:25,779 --> 00:02:26,880 We got Xavier. 75 00:02:26,880 --> 00:02:29,916 And, oh, yes, even Brayden's here. 76 00:02:29,916 --> 00:02:31,485 Great earrings, brother. 77 00:02:31,485 --> 00:02:32,786 Loving the look. 78 00:02:32,786 --> 00:02:34,821 They cannot wait to spill all the tea, 79 00:02:34,821 --> 00:02:37,391 and I, for one, am very thirsty. 80 00:02:37,391 --> 00:02:39,092 Of course, our Bachelorette, Charity, 81 00:02:39,092 --> 00:02:40,861 is gonna be here tonight as well. 82 00:02:40,861 --> 00:02:42,896 [cheers and applause] 83 00:02:42,896 --> 00:02:43,897 I know. 84 00:02:43,897 --> 00:02:45,265 I just want to stop right here. 85 00:02:45,265 --> 00:02:47,868 Can we just take a moment and give it up for Charity? 86 00:02:47,868 --> 00:02:49,670 She's been absolutely amazing. 87 00:02:49,670 --> 00:02:52,039 [cheers and applause] 88 00:02:52,039 --> 00:02:53,440 You know, it's wild. 89 00:02:53,440 --> 00:02:56,076 Charity really has captivated all of Bachelor Nation 90 00:02:56,076 --> 00:02:57,978 with her grace, her beauty, her charm. 91 00:02:57,978 --> 00:03:00,013 The big question now, how is this whole thing 92 00:03:00,013 --> 00:03:01,248 gonna end for her? 93 00:03:01,248 --> 00:03:02,683 Well, later tonight, you're gonna get 94 00:03:02,683 --> 00:03:04,685 an exclusive sneak peek at the ending of her journey, 95 00:03:04,685 --> 00:03:08,088 and it's one so emotional, so powerful, so unexpected 96 00:03:08,088 --> 00:03:10,991 that it's gonna have all of social media on fire. 97 00:03:10,991 --> 00:03:12,759 But that's not all we're cooking tonight. 98 00:03:12,759 --> 00:03:14,594 This is, as you know, "The Men Tell All." 99 00:03:14,594 --> 00:03:17,130 Later tonight, one man will make history 100 00:03:17,130 --> 00:03:19,399 right here on this very stage. 101 00:03:19,399 --> 00:03:22,335 I'm talking about Gerry, the first ever Golden Bachelor. 102 00:03:22,335 --> 00:03:25,539 [cheers and applause] 103 00:03:27,007 --> 00:03:28,275 This is gonna be awesome. 104 00:03:28,275 --> 00:03:29,843 I've got so many questions for Gerry-- 105 00:03:29,843 --> 00:03:31,178 what's he looking for, 106 00:03:31,178 --> 00:03:32,879 what's his biggest fear, 107 00:03:32,879 --> 00:03:34,948 and how does he feel about Fantasy Suites? 108 00:03:34,948 --> 00:03:36,683 I'm gonna ask him all those questions 109 00:03:36,683 --> 00:03:38,351 when he joins me in the hot seat. 110 00:03:38,351 --> 00:03:39,753 But before we get to all that, 111 00:03:39,753 --> 00:03:41,254 got a lot of unfinished business. 112 00:03:41,254 --> 00:03:42,923 We got a lot of very opinionated men. 113 00:03:42,923 --> 00:03:44,391 They're sitting right in front of me. 114 00:03:44,391 --> 00:03:45,892 I can tell they just can't wait any longer. 115 00:03:45,892 --> 00:03:47,728 So you ready to do this? 116 00:03:47,728 --> 00:03:48,862 - Yeah. - Let's do it. 117 00:03:48,862 --> 00:03:50,530 [cheers and applause] 118 00:03:50,530 --> 00:03:51,898 - All right, let's get it started. 119 00:03:51,898 --> 00:03:54,701 Ladies and gentlemen, please welcome Spencer... 120 00:03:54,701 --> 00:03:56,536 [cheers and applause] 121 00:03:56,536 --> 00:03:57,571 Adrian... 122 00:03:57,571 --> 00:03:59,072 [cheers and applause] 123 00:03:59,072 --> 00:04:00,073 Pete... 124 00:04:00,073 --> 00:04:01,575 [cheers and applause] 125 00:04:01,575 --> 00:04:02,609 John... 126 00:04:02,609 --> 00:04:04,711 [cheers and applause] 127 00:04:04,711 --> 00:04:05,779 James... 128 00:04:05,779 --> 00:04:07,214 [cheers and applause] 129 00:04:07,214 --> 00:04:08,348 Caleb... 130 00:04:08,348 --> 00:04:10,050 [cheers and applause] 131 00:04:10,050 --> 00:04:11,251 John Henry... 132 00:04:11,251 --> 00:04:12,452 [cheers and applause] 133 00:04:12,452 --> 00:04:13,620 Michael... 134 00:04:13,620 --> 00:04:14,654 [cheers and applause] 135 00:04:14,654 --> 00:04:15,789 Aaron... 136 00:04:15,789 --> 00:04:16,890 [cheers and applause] 137 00:04:16,890 --> 00:04:18,024 Brayden... 138 00:04:18,024 --> 00:04:19,392 [cheers and applause] 139 00:04:19,392 --> 00:04:20,560 Xavier... 140 00:04:20,560 --> 00:04:22,229 [cheers and applause] 141 00:04:22,229 --> 00:04:23,330 Tanner... 142 00:04:23,330 --> 00:04:24,564 [cheers and applause] 143 00:04:24,564 --> 00:04:25,932 And Sean. 144 00:04:25,932 --> 00:04:28,802 [cheers and applause] 145 00:04:28,802 --> 00:04:30,837 Well, it's great having you all back here. 146 00:04:30,837 --> 00:04:32,439 It's great having the gang back together. 147 00:04:32,439 --> 00:04:34,074 We have a lot we want to get into. 148 00:04:34,074 --> 00:04:35,475 And trust me, we're gonna get to all of it. 149 00:04:35,475 --> 00:04:36,977 But I do want to go back to the very beginning. 150 00:04:36,977 --> 00:04:38,178 And, John, I'll ask you. 151 00:04:38,178 --> 00:04:40,647 First night in the limo, stepping outside, 152 00:04:40,647 --> 00:04:43,049 you're about to meet Charity, what was that like? 153 00:04:43,049 --> 00:04:44,084 - Exhilarating. 154 00:04:44,084 --> 00:04:45,252 Once I got out there, 155 00:04:45,252 --> 00:04:46,820 I just saw Charity for the first time. 156 00:04:46,820 --> 00:04:47,888 She looks beautiful, and I forgot 157 00:04:47,888 --> 00:04:48,922 everything in that moment. 158 00:04:48,922 --> 00:04:49,923 It went well overall, 159 00:04:49,923 --> 00:04:51,291 but those nerves were incredible. 160 00:04:51,291 --> 00:04:52,759 - They were kicking? - Yeah. 161 00:04:52,759 --> 00:04:55,428 - Spencer, you had quite the entrance 162 00:04:55,428 --> 00:04:56,429 on the first night. 163 00:04:56,429 --> 00:04:57,931 Million-dollar question-- 164 00:04:57,931 --> 00:05:00,834 do you regret asking Charity to kick you in the nuts? 165 00:05:00,834 --> 00:05:03,136 - What do you want from someone other than 166 00:05:03,136 --> 00:05:05,138 a little bit of vulnerability in a tough situation? 167 00:05:05,138 --> 00:05:08,074 So, Jesse, I'm okay with it. 168 00:05:08,074 --> 00:05:10,877 [laughter] 169 00:05:10,877 --> 00:05:13,880 - That's an interesting perspective. 170 00:05:13,880 --> 00:05:15,549 Well, I think we can all agree 171 00:05:15,549 --> 00:05:17,050 that Charity's journey to find love, 172 00:05:17,050 --> 00:05:18,919 it definitely has been a wild one. 173 00:05:18,919 --> 00:05:20,520 So let's all take a look back. 174 00:05:20,520 --> 00:05:23,089 [soft music] 175 00:05:23,089 --> 00:05:25,158 - Charity is the whole package. 176 00:05:25,158 --> 00:05:27,027 - The second you saw her, it was just like-- 177 00:05:27,027 --> 00:05:28,161 - She looked unreal. 178 00:05:28,161 --> 00:05:30,163 - My heart was legit pounding. 179 00:05:30,163 --> 00:05:31,398 - Hi! 180 00:05:31,398 --> 00:05:33,433 all: Charity! 181 00:05:33,433 --> 00:05:35,168 - Every time she walks into a room, 182 00:05:35,168 --> 00:05:36,303 she is captivating. 183 00:05:36,303 --> 00:05:37,804 - Everyone's happy, smiling, 184 00:05:37,804 --> 00:05:40,207 cracking jokes, but it's dog-eat-dog. 185 00:05:40,207 --> 00:05:42,776 - When you have all these guys vying for Charity's heart, 186 00:05:42,776 --> 00:05:44,077 it's gonna be a war. 187 00:05:44,077 --> 00:05:45,679 [dramatic music] 188 00:05:45,679 --> 00:05:46,780 - Oh! 189 00:05:46,780 --> 00:05:48,014 - You [bleep] us tonight. 190 00:05:48,014 --> 00:05:49,950 - I've never been so disrespected in my life. 191 00:05:49,950 --> 00:05:51,451 That was a douchebag move. 192 00:05:51,451 --> 00:05:52,519 all: Oh! 193 00:05:52,519 --> 00:05:55,155 [crowd shrieking] 194 00:05:55,155 --> 00:05:57,023 - Sean is not here for the right reasons. 195 00:05:57,023 --> 00:05:58,625 He's more interested in getting 196 00:05:58,625 --> 00:05:59,993 100,000 Instagram followers. 197 00:05:59,993 --> 00:06:01,094 - Barbie, can I steal you for a second? 198 00:06:01,094 --> 00:06:02,495 - I know--oh, yes. 199 00:06:02,495 --> 00:06:03,997 - I'll bring her right back, boys. 200 00:06:03,997 --> 00:06:06,099 Just have to finish our conversation. 201 00:06:06,099 --> 00:06:08,301 - You get done with time by yourself, 202 00:06:08,301 --> 00:06:10,904 and then you feel the need to take more time. 203 00:06:10,904 --> 00:06:13,206 It's disrespectful to the rest of the guys. 204 00:06:13,206 --> 00:06:15,375 If I go home tonight, I needed the time 205 00:06:15,375 --> 00:06:16,376 that you took at the beginning. 206 00:06:16,376 --> 00:06:18,011 - If you're going home tonight, 207 00:06:18,011 --> 00:06:19,346 it has nothing to do with me. 208 00:06:19,346 --> 00:06:21,214 In this stage of the game, I'm thinking about, 209 00:06:21,214 --> 00:06:22,749 how can I feel comfortable 210 00:06:22,749 --> 00:06:24,317 bringing Charity home to meet my family? 211 00:06:24,317 --> 00:06:26,753 - Sean, you're driving me insane, man. 212 00:06:26,753 --> 00:06:28,188 - And I'm not gonna spend my time telling her 213 00:06:28,188 --> 00:06:30,290 how this situation is tough because I just don't think 214 00:06:30,290 --> 00:06:32,092 it would further our connection 215 00:06:32,092 --> 00:06:34,160 by me expressing that to her. 216 00:06:34,160 --> 00:06:36,663 - "I have really just a solid connection with her." 217 00:06:36,663 --> 00:06:38,198 With his butt chin. 218 00:06:38,198 --> 00:06:39,532 Dude looks like Prince Charming 219 00:06:39,532 --> 00:06:40,967 off of "Shrek." 220 00:06:40,967 --> 00:06:42,936 - We had a little competition, 221 00:06:42,936 --> 00:06:46,373 and it was the longest kiss in Bachelor Nation history. 222 00:06:46,373 --> 00:06:48,375 - To have to sit there and frickin' watch somebody-- 223 00:06:48,375 --> 00:06:49,910 like, that's not cool, man. 224 00:06:49,910 --> 00:06:52,212 - So what would you have done, thrown a fit and walked away? 225 00:06:52,212 --> 00:06:53,313 - I wouldn't have thrown a fit, 226 00:06:53,313 --> 00:06:54,481 but I'm not gonna sit there and watch. 227 00:06:54,481 --> 00:06:55,715 - How can you argue 228 00:06:55,715 --> 00:06:57,083 about how he felt about it, bro? 229 00:06:57,083 --> 00:06:58,351 - I'm not arguing how he felt. 230 00:06:58,351 --> 00:06:59,519 - Like, "I don't agree with how you feel." 231 00:06:59,519 --> 00:07:02,055 Bro, respect what this man is saying. 232 00:07:02,055 --> 00:07:03,890 Everybody looks at me like I'm the villain, 233 00:07:03,890 --> 00:07:06,293 I'm the bad guy, and it's like, bro, you're gonna go home. 234 00:07:06,293 --> 00:07:07,661 You're gonna go home. You're gonna go home. 235 00:07:07,661 --> 00:07:08,862 You're gonna go home. 236 00:07:08,862 --> 00:07:10,764 Group date's over. Everybody comes back. 237 00:07:10,764 --> 00:07:13,500 Brayden is kind of like, "Oh, that's classless. 238 00:07:13,500 --> 00:07:15,869 That's, like, disrespectful to the guys." 239 00:07:15,869 --> 00:07:17,771 - Bro, I'm a little sensitive when my name comes up. 240 00:07:17,771 --> 00:07:19,639 It's been coming up a lot after the word concern. 241 00:07:19,639 --> 00:07:20,874 Why do you have to talk about me? 242 00:07:20,874 --> 00:07:22,342 You're a grown man. Talk about yourself. 243 00:07:22,342 --> 00:07:23,543 Talk about your family. 244 00:07:23,543 --> 00:07:24,778 Talk about what you came here to do. 245 00:07:24,778 --> 00:07:26,212 Don't talk about me, man. 246 00:07:26,212 --> 00:07:28,114 Aah! Aah! 247 00:07:28,114 --> 00:07:30,350 - Brayden's overcompensating for something. 248 00:07:30,350 --> 00:07:31,484 - I'm gonna get real primal 249 00:07:31,484 --> 00:07:32,652 and start humping everything. 250 00:07:32,652 --> 00:07:34,020 - I don't know if he's lacking confidence 251 00:07:34,020 --> 00:07:35,322 and he feels like he has to do more. 252 00:07:35,322 --> 00:07:36,923 He's just making it about himself. 253 00:07:36,923 --> 00:07:37,991 - I'm a [bleep], for sure, dude. 254 00:07:37,991 --> 00:07:39,392 I know I'm a [bleep], but... 255 00:07:39,392 --> 00:07:41,561 [laughing] I'm a [bleep] 100% of the time. 256 00:07:41,561 --> 00:07:43,897 - I just need to tell you about Brayden. 257 00:07:43,897 --> 00:07:45,532 He's been very vocal around the house 258 00:07:45,532 --> 00:07:47,067 about not wanting to be here, 259 00:07:47,067 --> 00:07:48,368 not wanting to be with someone 260 00:07:48,368 --> 00:07:49,836 that's dated 20 of his friends. 261 00:07:49,836 --> 00:07:52,172 - There was no reason to bring up my [...] name. 262 00:07:52,172 --> 00:07:53,673 I'm gonna be like Will Smith right now 263 00:07:53,673 --> 00:07:56,176 and, like, be like, "Keep my name out your [bleep] mouth." 264 00:07:56,176 --> 00:07:57,844 - I feel like you're wasting people's time. 265 00:07:57,844 --> 00:07:59,179 - You did me dirty, man. 266 00:07:59,179 --> 00:08:00,313 It pissed me off 267 00:08:00,313 --> 00:08:02,315 because you caused unnecessary drama. 268 00:08:02,315 --> 00:08:04,617 My relationship with her has nothing to do with you. 269 00:08:04,617 --> 00:08:05,618 I dug my own grave, man. 270 00:08:05,618 --> 00:08:06,619 I opened my mouth too much. 271 00:08:06,619 --> 00:08:07,787 But there's a part of me 272 00:08:07,787 --> 00:08:08,955 that doesn't feel like, you know, 273 00:08:08,955 --> 00:08:10,557 it's necessarily-- the door's shut 274 00:08:10,557 --> 00:08:11,858 with me and Charity either. 275 00:08:11,858 --> 00:08:13,093 - With Brayden gone, a lot of people 276 00:08:13,093 --> 00:08:14,627 are feeling pretty relieved. 277 00:08:14,627 --> 00:08:17,597 This is honestly the most mature I've seen everyone. 278 00:08:17,597 --> 00:08:18,598 [gasps] 279 00:08:18,598 --> 00:08:20,133 ♪ ♪ 280 00:08:20,133 --> 00:08:21,401 - Guys, Brayden. 281 00:08:21,401 --> 00:08:23,103 - You're done. She walked you out. 282 00:08:23,103 --> 00:08:25,038 - That scumbag walks through the door again. 283 00:08:25,038 --> 00:08:26,306 - Hello. 284 00:08:26,306 --> 00:08:28,908 - Let me show up in my flip-flops, sweatpants, 285 00:08:28,908 --> 00:08:30,477 and a scarf around my neck 286 00:08:30,477 --> 00:08:31,845 with feather earrings hanging down. 287 00:08:31,845 --> 00:08:32,912 - It's [bleep]. 288 00:08:32,912 --> 00:08:34,481 Like, I'm on the chopping block, 289 00:08:34,481 --> 00:08:36,349 and he steals that moment from me. 290 00:08:36,349 --> 00:08:37,350 Get out. 291 00:08:37,350 --> 00:08:38,451 Like, what are you doing here? 292 00:08:38,451 --> 00:08:40,086 It makes no sense. 293 00:08:40,086 --> 00:08:41,421 - No, you apologize to John, bro. 294 00:08:41,421 --> 00:08:42,756 You apologize to John, bro. 295 00:08:42,756 --> 00:08:44,157 - So that's what-- 296 00:08:44,157 --> 00:08:46,559 - You're not a man, dude. You're not a man. 297 00:08:46,559 --> 00:08:48,061 - You know what, bro? [bleep] off. 298 00:08:48,061 --> 00:08:49,462 If that douchebag is the one 299 00:08:49,462 --> 00:08:50,764 that ends up getting down on a knee for her, 300 00:08:50,764 --> 00:08:51,965 I'm gonna be hurt that, like, 301 00:08:51,965 --> 00:08:53,433 she's gonna end up with a dude like that. 302 00:08:53,433 --> 00:08:54,634 - [bleep] you, bro. 303 00:08:54,634 --> 00:08:56,102 - Aaron, I'll whup your ass, bro. 304 00:08:56,102 --> 00:08:57,504 Get out of my [...] face. - You won't do [...], man. 305 00:08:57,504 --> 00:08:58,838 You are not a man, bro, with your feather earrings. 306 00:08:58,838 --> 00:09:01,107 - I'll [bleep] you up, bro. Meet me in PB, baby. 307 00:09:01,107 --> 00:09:03,843 - He is just literally a [...] cancer. 308 00:09:03,843 --> 00:09:04,911 This is [bleep]. 309 00:09:04,911 --> 00:09:06,279 - I'm not [...] talking to you. 310 00:09:06,279 --> 00:09:07,347 - Close the door. 311 00:09:07,347 --> 00:09:09,449 Get out of here. Punch the gas, man. 312 00:09:09,449 --> 00:09:10,917 - Don't show up to "The Men Tell All," bro. 313 00:09:10,917 --> 00:09:13,420 You're not [...] invited, truthfully. 314 00:09:13,420 --> 00:09:16,423 [cheers and applause] 315 00:09:16,423 --> 00:09:19,759 - All right, it's been pretty explosive so far. 316 00:09:19,759 --> 00:09:21,161 Sean. - Jesse. 317 00:09:21,161 --> 00:09:22,862 - We're not gonna waste any time, brother. 318 00:09:22,862 --> 00:09:24,431 What do you got to say to that man? 319 00:09:24,431 --> 00:09:25,732 - Oof. 320 00:09:25,732 --> 00:09:27,200 What do I have to say? 321 00:09:27,200 --> 00:09:28,935 I think you were pretty manipulative in the way 322 00:09:28,935 --> 00:09:30,437 you were shaping the situation to Charity. 323 00:09:30,437 --> 00:09:31,905 You're like, "Listen, I'm not--it's tough for me. 324 00:09:31,905 --> 00:09:33,573 It's really tough--I don't know if I'm gonna get there." 325 00:09:33,573 --> 00:09:35,341 But in the background, you never were gonna get there. 326 00:09:35,341 --> 00:09:37,343 And then you started using her as like, 327 00:09:37,343 --> 00:09:38,578 "Well, it's 'cause she's never off. 328 00:09:38,578 --> 00:09:39,779 "Like, she's the Bachelorette, and, like, 329 00:09:39,779 --> 00:09:41,147 I can never see that true side of her," 330 00:09:41,147 --> 00:09:42,715 as an excuse not to get there. 331 00:09:42,715 --> 00:09:43,850 - You know what I love about that, bro, 332 00:09:43,850 --> 00:09:44,984 is you're saying that I was the one 333 00:09:44,984 --> 00:09:45,985 who couldn't get to the place of, like, 334 00:09:45,985 --> 00:09:47,253 potentially getting engaged. 335 00:09:47,253 --> 00:09:48,421 You couldn't even get her to go meet your family 336 00:09:48,421 --> 00:09:49,689 'cause you were scared about that. 337 00:09:49,689 --> 00:09:51,758 - My doubt was never in Charity's character 338 00:09:51,758 --> 00:09:54,461 or her as a person or how great she was. 339 00:09:54,461 --> 00:09:56,429 My doubt was, like, am I gonna-- 340 00:09:56,429 --> 00:09:58,098 am I gonna be there at the end, and I wasn't. 341 00:09:58,098 --> 00:09:59,365 Obviously, that's why I'm sitting here. 342 00:09:59,365 --> 00:10:00,800 That's why all of us here are sitting out here. 343 00:10:00,800 --> 00:10:02,102 - Why was my doubts any different from yours, though? 344 00:10:02,102 --> 00:10:03,203 - Your doubts was not about that, 345 00:10:03,203 --> 00:10:04,204 about you being there in the end. 346 00:10:04,204 --> 00:10:05,371 Your doubts were about her. 347 00:10:05,371 --> 00:10:06,806 You're telling her you really like her, 348 00:10:06,806 --> 00:10:08,741 but on the backside, you're like, "She's being fake." 349 00:10:08,741 --> 00:10:11,511 And then you go and continue to accept a rose in Oceanside. 350 00:10:11,511 --> 00:10:12,712 And then you went into Washington. 351 00:10:12,712 --> 00:10:14,814 She spent time on you when she thought 352 00:10:14,814 --> 00:10:15,849 you were gonna be able to get there. 353 00:10:15,849 --> 00:10:17,083 And in your mind, in your heart, 354 00:10:17,083 --> 00:10:18,485 you knew you never were. 355 00:10:18,485 --> 00:10:20,787 - Until I knew, like, for sure that I wasn't gonna 356 00:10:20,787 --> 00:10:22,522 be able to get to that point, I stayed. 357 00:10:22,522 --> 00:10:23,523 But once I realized I wasn't 358 00:10:23,523 --> 00:10:25,225 gonna get to that point, I left. 359 00:10:25,225 --> 00:10:26,860 - Hold on, hold on, but my thing is, though, 360 00:10:26,860 --> 00:10:29,195 is, like, then why come back and say that you had things 361 00:10:29,195 --> 00:10:30,697 that were left unsaid, you know what I mean? 362 00:10:30,697 --> 00:10:32,432 Because--no, hold on-- because it was critical 363 00:10:32,432 --> 00:10:33,633 for the people who were still there. 364 00:10:33,633 --> 00:10:34,734 Like, you've already left at this point, 365 00:10:34,734 --> 00:10:35,802 and you self-eliminated. 366 00:10:35,802 --> 00:10:36,870 So it's critical for the people 367 00:10:36,870 --> 00:10:38,438 who are still there to get the time. 368 00:10:38,438 --> 00:10:40,240 Why come back and then take that time away 369 00:10:40,240 --> 00:10:41,808 from--like, that ruined the rest of the night. 370 00:10:41,808 --> 00:10:43,243 Nobody else got fair time. 371 00:10:43,243 --> 00:10:45,545 - So the reason why I felt like I needed to come back 372 00:10:45,545 --> 00:10:47,380 is I left in a very heightened emotional state. 373 00:10:47,380 --> 00:10:49,182 Like, I didn't get to say everything I wanted to. 374 00:10:49,182 --> 00:10:51,751 - My thing is timing is everything. 375 00:10:51,751 --> 00:10:53,620 The fact that you took that moment, 376 00:10:53,620 --> 00:10:55,455 the most crucial moment of the entire week 377 00:10:55,455 --> 00:10:58,358 right before a Rose Ceremony is what hurt me the most. 378 00:10:58,358 --> 00:10:59,425 - You want to pretend like I came 379 00:10:59,425 --> 00:11:00,627 and, like, gypped your conversation. 380 00:11:00,627 --> 00:11:02,162 Like, bro, you were making out with her. 381 00:11:02,162 --> 00:11:03,696 - I know. I-I was there. 382 00:11:03,696 --> 00:11:05,231 - I waited for you to wipe the makeup off your face 383 00:11:05,231 --> 00:11:06,766 before I even let my presence be known, dude. 384 00:11:06,766 --> 00:11:08,101 - This dude was running on his emotions. 385 00:11:08,101 --> 00:11:09,369 Why could you fault him for that? 386 00:11:09,369 --> 00:11:10,503 - Because it got in the way 387 00:11:10,503 --> 00:11:11,538 of other people being able to make-- 388 00:11:11,538 --> 00:11:12,772 - This ain't about everybody, dude. 389 00:11:12,772 --> 00:11:13,940 - Further their connection. - This is about-- 390 00:11:13,940 --> 00:11:15,375 this is about her and his connection. 391 00:11:15,375 --> 00:11:16,910 - It's about Charity, exactly. 392 00:11:16,910 --> 00:11:18,311 - His connection ended. - Develop those connections. 393 00:11:18,311 --> 00:11:19,479 - Okay, Adrian, I want to ask you, 394 00:11:19,479 --> 00:11:20,747 because you obviously had concerns 395 00:11:20,747 --> 00:11:22,549 about Brayden very early on. 396 00:11:22,549 --> 00:11:25,118 When did you start becoming skeptical of him? 397 00:11:25,118 --> 00:11:26,553 - Probably that night after the group date. 398 00:11:26,553 --> 00:11:28,288 Once he said what he said, he packed his bags, 399 00:11:28,288 --> 00:11:29,489 he couldn't-- he couldn't do this, 400 00:11:29,489 --> 00:11:30,557 I just feel like, honestly, 401 00:11:30,557 --> 00:11:31,724 he signed up for the wrong show. 402 00:11:31,724 --> 00:11:33,059 - For me, like, hearing that y'all had 403 00:11:33,059 --> 00:11:34,327 to sit front and center and, like, have to see 404 00:11:34,327 --> 00:11:35,428 another dude make out for five minutes, 405 00:11:35,428 --> 00:11:36,429 like, that's a little much. 406 00:11:36,429 --> 00:11:37,430 - I just feel like that's what 407 00:11:37,430 --> 00:11:38,831 this show is gonna be about. 408 00:11:38,831 --> 00:11:40,133 Like, I haven't saw the show, 409 00:11:40,133 --> 00:11:41,601 but I know that she's gonna probably kiss you, 410 00:11:41,601 --> 00:11:43,002 kiss you, kiss you, kiss you. - Kissing is not a problem. 411 00:11:43,002 --> 00:11:44,537 - So it's like, it is what it is. 412 00:11:44,537 --> 00:11:46,105 - Like, it's one thing to see someone kiss around the house. 413 00:11:46,105 --> 00:11:47,507 I mean, we don't have a lot of space, bro. 414 00:11:47,507 --> 00:11:49,042 But, like, a five-minute-long kiss, 415 00:11:49,042 --> 00:11:51,044 forced to sit front and center in a crowd of over 100 people. 416 00:11:51,044 --> 00:11:52,178 - But it's a competition, Brayden. 417 00:11:52,178 --> 00:11:53,346 They should have had better answers. 418 00:11:53,346 --> 00:11:54,480 - They should have been allowed to leave. 419 00:11:54,480 --> 00:11:55,615 - That's what-- that is what it is. 420 00:11:55,615 --> 00:11:56,816 Maybe they would have been up there. 421 00:11:56,816 --> 00:11:58,051 I would have loved to have a great answer 422 00:11:58,051 --> 00:11:59,719 and been able to kiss her for 4 1/2 minutes. 423 00:11:59,719 --> 00:12:01,120 [laughter] - I know, obviously, 424 00:12:01,120 --> 00:12:02,422 that was a very tough date 425 00:12:02,422 --> 00:12:04,591 for those that were there to have to watch that. 426 00:12:04,591 --> 00:12:05,792 You're not the only ones. 427 00:12:05,792 --> 00:12:07,560 I mean, Yosef has a daughter at home. 428 00:12:07,560 --> 00:12:10,029 [laughter] 429 00:12:10,029 --> 00:12:11,698 - But we all know what we signed up for, 430 00:12:11,698 --> 00:12:13,900 that she's going to kiss someone else. 431 00:12:13,900 --> 00:12:15,702 Everybody up here probably got a kiss, 432 00:12:15,702 --> 00:12:17,637 and somebody probably saw it, right? 433 00:12:17,637 --> 00:12:19,038 So it's the same [...]. 434 00:12:19,038 --> 00:12:21,574 I meant stuff. I'm sorry. [laughs] 435 00:12:21,574 --> 00:12:25,411 - Brayden, you were saying all along you were being real, 436 00:12:25,411 --> 00:12:27,680 and everybody else was being fake. 437 00:12:27,680 --> 00:12:29,048 - It's not that they were being fake. 438 00:12:29,048 --> 00:12:31,584 I guess their realness is just different than mine, 439 00:12:31,584 --> 00:12:32,719 I guess. - How so? 440 00:12:32,719 --> 00:12:34,053 [laughter] 441 00:12:34,053 --> 00:12:36,122 - For people to say that they didn't have a level 442 00:12:36,122 --> 00:12:38,291 of a façade on would be a lie. 443 00:12:38,291 --> 00:12:39,592 I mean, the fact that some people are even editing 444 00:12:39,592 --> 00:12:40,860 their cuss words right now-- 445 00:12:40,860 --> 00:12:42,428 like, at home, you'd be cussing like regular. 446 00:12:42,428 --> 00:12:44,030 But the fact that you're curbing your cuss words 447 00:12:44,030 --> 00:12:45,398 saying, oh, sorry, like, that's you putting on 448 00:12:45,398 --> 00:12:46,666 a façade and protecting that part of you. 449 00:12:46,666 --> 00:12:47,900 - I just didn't know if we can cuss or not, 450 00:12:47,900 --> 00:12:48,935 but I don't give a [...]-- you know that. 451 00:12:48,935 --> 00:12:50,069 [laughter] 452 00:12:50,069 --> 00:12:51,237 - Again, though, that's what I'm saying. 453 00:12:51,237 --> 00:12:52,505 - Come on, now. - That's what I'm saying. 454 00:12:52,505 --> 00:12:53,773 - You know what's up with me. - The fact that-- 455 00:12:53,773 --> 00:12:54,907 the fact that you even had that in your head, 456 00:12:54,907 --> 00:12:56,109 though, is what I'm talking about, 457 00:12:56,109 --> 00:12:57,543 is that, like... - Because I just don't know. 458 00:12:57,543 --> 00:12:58,945 - Is that hesitancy to be, like, be genuinely yourself. 459 00:12:58,945 --> 00:13:00,179 You were hesitant to be genuinely yourself 460 00:13:00,179 --> 00:13:01,247 to the point where you're like, oh, sorry, 461 00:13:01,247 --> 00:13:02,382 I can't say that, like... 462 00:13:02,382 --> 00:13:03,716 - I mean, I still meant what I said. 463 00:13:03,716 --> 00:13:06,653 So, look, I feel like he was telling us one side 464 00:13:06,653 --> 00:13:07,820 and telling her a different side. 465 00:13:07,820 --> 00:13:09,022 - Give me a moment, bro. Give me a mo-- 466 00:13:09,022 --> 00:13:10,490 Give me an example, because, like-- 467 00:13:10,490 --> 00:13:11,991 - Well, apparently--When I had the conversation with her, 468 00:13:11,991 --> 00:13:13,860 she was in shock--like, whoa, I didn't know he said that. 469 00:13:13,860 --> 00:13:16,763 If he's as honest as he say he is with her, 470 00:13:16,763 --> 00:13:18,364 it wouldn't have been a surprise or a shock 471 00:13:18,364 --> 00:13:20,366 or whatever--just like, "Oh, yeah, I know. He told me." 472 00:13:20,366 --> 00:13:21,534 And it would have been a done deal. 473 00:13:21,534 --> 00:13:22,669 But unless something was shared 474 00:13:22,669 --> 00:13:24,904 that wasn't 100% true-- 475 00:13:24,904 --> 00:13:26,973 - There was something that was shared there wasn't 100% true, 476 00:13:26,973 --> 00:13:28,708 and it was you saying that I called her classless. 477 00:13:28,708 --> 00:13:30,677 I never called her classless. That's not something I said. 478 00:13:30,677 --> 00:13:31,678 So don't put that word in my mouth. 479 00:13:31,678 --> 00:13:32,912 - I wouldn't have made it up. 480 00:13:32,912 --> 00:13:36,182 - Well, you did. - Do we have the tape or not? 481 00:13:36,182 --> 00:13:38,484 - Show us the tapes! - Because it didn't happen. 482 00:13:38,484 --> 00:13:41,321 - So nobody--nobody else heard him say that about the date-- 483 00:13:41,321 --> 00:13:43,022 saying that it was classless and disrespectful? 484 00:13:43,022 --> 00:13:44,624 So, look-- - Did it happen, Jesse? 485 00:13:44,624 --> 00:13:46,225 - This is what it come down to me-- 486 00:13:46,225 --> 00:13:47,927 [laughter] 487 00:13:47,927 --> 00:13:49,362 - I'm trying to find that out right now. 488 00:13:49,362 --> 00:13:50,863 I wasn't at the pool. - I'm not saying ask Jesse. 489 00:13:50,863 --> 00:13:52,432 Ask these people here. - Whether it's proof or not-- 490 00:13:52,432 --> 00:13:54,901 - Did you guys hear me--did I ever say classless, anyone? 491 00:13:54,901 --> 00:13:56,135 Anyone? crowd: Yeah. 492 00:13:56,135 --> 00:13:57,236 - I said classless? 493 00:13:57,236 --> 00:13:59,839 [laughter] - Yeah. 494 00:13:59,839 --> 00:14:01,274 So, yeah, apparently, maybe I did. 495 00:14:01,274 --> 00:14:02,375 - All right, well, it sounds like there's 496 00:14:02,375 --> 00:14:03,743 a lot that still needs to be said. 497 00:14:03,743 --> 00:14:05,278 But we do need to take a quick break real quick. 498 00:14:05,278 --> 00:14:06,612 When we come back, 499 00:14:06,612 --> 00:14:08,014 we'll have more from "The Men Tell All." 500 00:14:08,014 --> 00:14:09,148 Stick around. 501 00:14:09,148 --> 00:14:10,850 [cheers and applause] 502 00:14:10,850 --> 00:14:13,286 [dramatic music] 503 00:14:13,286 --> 00:14:18,358 ♪ ♪ 504 00:14:20,159 --> 00:14:22,195 [cheers and applause] 505 00:14:22,195 --> 00:14:23,730 - Welcome back to a very special 506 00:14:23,730 --> 00:14:26,165 20th-anniversary edition of "The Bachelorette," 507 00:14:26,165 --> 00:14:27,533 "The Men Tell All." 508 00:14:27,533 --> 00:14:28,501 Of course, I'm here with the guys 509 00:14:28,501 --> 00:14:29,702 from Charity's season. 510 00:14:29,702 --> 00:14:31,437 Things are already pretty tense. 511 00:14:31,437 --> 00:14:32,772 We're gonna dive right back into it. 512 00:14:32,772 --> 00:14:34,941 Tanner, what was it about Brayden's behavior, 513 00:14:34,941 --> 00:14:37,610 his approach in Washington that rubbed you the wrong way? 514 00:14:37,610 --> 00:14:39,812 - I was looking at Brayden as someone 515 00:14:39,812 --> 00:14:41,581 that got validation week after week. 516 00:14:41,581 --> 00:14:43,449 I mean, you did. You got the First Impression Rose. 517 00:14:43,449 --> 00:14:45,318 Then you went on an amazing one-on-one date 518 00:14:45,318 --> 00:14:46,753 that someone like myself or John B. 519 00:14:46,753 --> 00:14:48,054 would have loved to go on. 520 00:14:48,054 --> 00:14:49,922 But as time went on, man, 521 00:14:49,922 --> 00:14:52,859 you just got--became more negative every single week. 522 00:14:52,859 --> 00:14:54,894 I was becoming more negative myself. 523 00:14:54,894 --> 00:14:56,129 By the time it got to Washington 524 00:14:56,129 --> 00:14:57,530 when you were like, "I'm packing my bags, 525 00:14:57,530 --> 00:14:59,899 I'm out of here," I was like, 526 00:14:59,899 --> 00:15:01,334 "Maybe I want to get out of here, too." 527 00:15:01,334 --> 00:15:03,503 And then I'm happy I stayed, because eventually 528 00:15:03,503 --> 00:15:06,539 I found out who the ac-- who Charity truly actually was. 529 00:15:06,539 --> 00:15:07,907 - When I was saying I was out of here, 530 00:15:07,907 --> 00:15:09,442 it was never about Charity that I was out of there. 531 00:15:09,442 --> 00:15:10,943 It was about this experience. - It was about Charity, 532 00:15:10,943 --> 00:15:12,011 and it was about the experience. 533 00:15:12,011 --> 00:15:13,279 - What did I say about Charity that-- 534 00:15:13,279 --> 00:15:14,614 - You said--you were questioning everything. 535 00:15:14,614 --> 00:15:15,882 You said, "I don't believe anything she's saying. 536 00:15:15,882 --> 00:15:17,016 I don't know what's true and what's not." 537 00:15:17,016 --> 00:15:18,050 - You were saying a lot of that. 538 00:15:18,050 --> 00:15:19,318 - You called her fake. - I mean, 539 00:15:19,318 --> 00:15:20,553 I'm not the only person that heard it, man. 540 00:15:20,553 --> 00:15:21,888 - You told her to stop being the Bachelorette. 541 00:15:21,888 --> 00:15:23,122 - I did ask her to stop being the Bachelorette. 542 00:15:23,122 --> 00:15:24,524 - It was tough on the outside just because 543 00:15:24,524 --> 00:15:25,925 I didn't have the time, and I wanted the time. 544 00:15:25,925 --> 00:15:26,926 And you were constantly complaining 545 00:15:26,926 --> 00:15:28,428 about your experience. 546 00:15:28,428 --> 00:15:30,029 I'm like, dude, I would kill to have the experience 547 00:15:30,029 --> 00:15:31,297 you've had on the show so far 548 00:15:31,297 --> 00:15:32,465 and getting to know her as well as you did. 549 00:15:32,465 --> 00:15:33,666 - Like, you said you were jealous 550 00:15:33,666 --> 00:15:34,967 of my experience on the show, but, like, 551 00:15:34,967 --> 00:15:36,369 how do you form a connection with someone 552 00:15:36,369 --> 00:15:37,970 when someone's--other people are constantly going 553 00:15:37,970 --> 00:15:39,472 and whispering and talking [bleep] to the girl 554 00:15:39,472 --> 00:15:40,973 that you like, that you've been open with, 555 00:15:40,973 --> 00:15:43,042 you've been transparent with, and have that stuff 556 00:15:43,042 --> 00:15:44,610 come back and hit you and bite you in the ass? 557 00:15:44,610 --> 00:15:46,179 - Because you weren't smart about what you said. 558 00:15:46,179 --> 00:15:47,814 - Because I was being real. 559 00:15:47,814 --> 00:15:49,015 Like, I'm not manipulating this girl. 560 00:15:49,015 --> 00:15:50,216 - You said--you said, 561 00:15:50,216 --> 00:15:51,751 "I was just throwing stuff out there." 562 00:15:51,751 --> 00:15:53,619 You can't just throw things out there 563 00:15:53,619 --> 00:15:54,854 on ears that-- - You're right. 564 00:15:54,854 --> 00:15:56,389 - You don't know what they're gonna think. 565 00:15:56,389 --> 00:15:57,824 - Okay. And that's what I forgot, dude. 566 00:15:57,824 --> 00:15:58,958 - You have to be smarter about it. 567 00:15:58,958 --> 00:16:00,359 - I forgot that I have to be smart. 568 00:16:00,359 --> 00:16:01,694 I have to play a game. I gotta manipulate everyone. 569 00:16:01,694 --> 00:16:03,095 - It's not a game. - Be careful with your words. 570 00:16:03,095 --> 00:16:04,697 - You're right, dude, you know what, next time, bro, 571 00:16:04,697 --> 00:16:05,698 if I ever come on the show-- - Be careful with your words. 572 00:16:05,698 --> 00:16:06,966 - I don't know, man. 573 00:16:06,966 --> 00:16:07,967 - His biggest problem was that he was too honest 574 00:16:07,967 --> 00:16:09,435 and he's got weird earrings. 575 00:16:09,435 --> 00:16:11,370 Like, I mean, I don't see how that's that big of an issue. 576 00:16:11,370 --> 00:16:13,172 - I guess what just bothers me about the whole thing 577 00:16:13,172 --> 00:16:15,908 is, like, none of the guys ever came up to me 578 00:16:15,908 --> 00:16:17,743 and told me they had any problems with me. 579 00:16:17,743 --> 00:16:19,212 Like, I found out that all the guys 580 00:16:19,212 --> 00:16:20,313 had problems with me through either Charity... 581 00:16:20,313 --> 00:16:21,647 - It didn't happen until Washington. 582 00:16:21,647 --> 00:16:23,082 - Or even running back-- even running back the tapes. 583 00:16:23,082 --> 00:16:24,383 - It did not happen until Washington, dude. 584 00:16:24,383 --> 00:16:26,219 - Like, me and Tanner were roommates in Washington. 585 00:16:26,219 --> 00:16:27,720 I thought-- I thought we were boys. 586 00:16:27,720 --> 00:16:29,489 And then, you know, to see him talking about me 587 00:16:29,489 --> 00:16:31,557 in that light and the fact that he didn't--like, 588 00:16:31,557 --> 00:16:33,326 he can say that on camera behind my back 589 00:16:33,326 --> 00:16:34,927 but didn't say that to my face, that hurt. 590 00:16:34,927 --> 00:16:36,729 - What did I say behind your back that wasn't true? 591 00:16:36,729 --> 00:16:39,499 - You said Brayden's immature, and he's bugging me. 592 00:16:39,499 --> 00:16:41,000 To find--like, you actually were talking smack 593 00:16:41,000 --> 00:16:42,869 the whole time, bro, like even in Oceanside, 594 00:16:42,869 --> 00:16:44,237 you're like, "Oh, Brayden's gonna go and tell her 595 00:16:44,237 --> 00:16:45,371 "exactly what she wants to hear 596 00:16:45,371 --> 00:16:46,706 because that's what Brayden does." 597 00:16:46,706 --> 00:16:48,007 - Because you talked yourself out of everything. 598 00:16:48,007 --> 00:16:49,375 - I never talked--again, I never went and told her. 599 00:16:49,375 --> 00:16:50,743 - I mean, night one, you talked yourself out of that. 600 00:16:50,743 --> 00:16:52,612 And then Oceanside, you talked yourself out of it, 601 00:16:52,612 --> 00:16:54,113 so I just felt like you were just gonna keep doing it. 602 00:16:54,113 --> 00:16:55,748 - But I never blew smoke up her ass, bro. 603 00:16:55,748 --> 00:16:57,517 - In the moment, Brayden, when we're in Washington 604 00:16:57,517 --> 00:17:00,853 and I do want a one-on-one and I still haven't gotten 605 00:17:00,853 --> 00:17:03,089 any time and you're just taking the attention away 606 00:17:03,089 --> 00:17:04,524 from Charity and everyone else and making it on you, 607 00:17:04,524 --> 00:17:06,359 it was annoying in that moment. - Mm. 608 00:17:06,359 --> 00:17:08,261 - And a lot of people on that group date felt the same way, 609 00:17:08,261 --> 00:17:09,996 but my interviews were the ones that were shown, yeah. 610 00:17:09,996 --> 00:17:11,898 - All right, well, Sean, when Brayden decided to leave, 611 00:17:11,898 --> 00:17:15,301 you in particular seemed really excited about that. 612 00:17:15,301 --> 00:17:16,469 - Best day of my life. 613 00:17:16,469 --> 00:17:17,637 - He finally had a shot. 614 00:17:17,637 --> 00:17:18,771 [laughter] 615 00:17:18,771 --> 00:17:20,106 - What made you so happy about that? 616 00:17:20,106 --> 00:17:21,374 - Throughout the entire journey, 617 00:17:21,374 --> 00:17:23,676 like, the one person that made it about themselves 618 00:17:23,676 --> 00:17:25,578 more than anyone was Brayden. 619 00:17:25,578 --> 00:17:27,046 And, like, it was really just "The Brayden Show." 620 00:17:27,046 --> 00:17:29,448 So, like, once that energy was gone in Washington, 621 00:17:29,448 --> 00:17:30,816 it was just like, we're all here. 622 00:17:30,816 --> 00:17:32,985 We're here for her, and let's see what happens. 623 00:17:32,985 --> 00:17:35,888 - I want to turn the page and go back to Oceanside. 624 00:17:35,888 --> 00:17:39,525 James, you found yourself really frustrated with Sean. 625 00:17:39,525 --> 00:17:40,927 - Yeah. - How come? 626 00:17:40,927 --> 00:17:43,696 - So I think there was kind of this mutual respect 627 00:17:43,696 --> 00:17:45,031 that we all had for each other. 628 00:17:45,031 --> 00:17:46,766 Then Oceanside happens, 629 00:17:46,766 --> 00:17:49,569 and you get this one-on-one time with her. 630 00:17:49,569 --> 00:17:51,704 And, honestly, I didn't even have a problem with that. 631 00:17:51,704 --> 00:17:54,407 The problem happened when you decided 632 00:17:54,407 --> 00:17:55,808 to park your little keister in between 633 00:17:55,808 --> 00:17:57,910 four guys on the couch, knowing exactly 634 00:17:57,910 --> 00:17:59,612 where she was going to sit, then take her 635 00:17:59,612 --> 00:18:00,813 right away at the beginning of the night 636 00:18:00,813 --> 00:18:02,248 and talk to her for another 30 minutes. 637 00:18:02,248 --> 00:18:04,283 Like, I got 3 minutes with her at the end of the night 638 00:18:04,283 --> 00:18:06,185 because there just wasn't enough time for her. 639 00:18:06,185 --> 00:18:07,753 - I never wanted to punch somebody in the face more, 640 00:18:07,753 --> 00:18:08,754 to be honest. 641 00:18:08,754 --> 00:18:10,156 - It wasn't the fact that 642 00:18:10,156 --> 00:18:12,658 you took her first that I have a problem with. 643 00:18:12,658 --> 00:18:15,394 It was you had a group of loser Barbies, right, 644 00:18:15,394 --> 00:18:18,064 loser Kens, we're all sitting in a room together. 645 00:18:18,064 --> 00:18:20,266 And the last thing we want to see 646 00:18:20,266 --> 00:18:23,569 is your ass coming in skipping and singing a song. 647 00:18:23,569 --> 00:18:25,705 Like, you're gonna get-- you just-- 648 00:18:25,705 --> 00:18:27,039 you walked into a hornet's nest. 649 00:18:27,039 --> 00:18:28,040 You knew it, too. 650 00:18:28,040 --> 00:18:29,408 You're like, "Oh, here I am." 651 00:18:29,408 --> 00:18:30,876 - What's really funny about that moment is, like, 652 00:18:30,876 --> 00:18:32,979 when I came back, like, I left the guys. 653 00:18:32,979 --> 00:18:35,514 We just had, like, the most incredible date in Oceanside. 654 00:18:35,514 --> 00:18:37,149 And everyone's vibing with each other, dancing, 655 00:18:37,149 --> 00:18:38,284 singing, having a good time. 656 00:18:38,284 --> 00:18:39,518 That's when I left the guys. 657 00:18:39,518 --> 00:18:41,320 So I thought, man, everyone's still happy. 658 00:18:41,320 --> 00:18:42,488 Like, it was such a good day. 659 00:18:42,488 --> 00:18:44,423 So that was my mindset coming back in. 660 00:18:44,423 --> 00:18:46,192 And I was actually shocked when the guys weren't like, 661 00:18:46,192 --> 00:18:47,393 "Oh, let's go!" 662 00:18:47,393 --> 00:18:48,461 They were pretty pissed, so... 663 00:18:48,461 --> 00:18:49,629 - Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa. 664 00:18:49,629 --> 00:18:51,197 - Sean, you do say, like, oh-- 665 00:18:51,197 --> 00:18:53,065 - Hold up, hold up, real quick, real quick. 666 00:18:53,065 --> 00:18:55,034 - Who the heck even are you? - [laughs] Yeah. 667 00:18:55,034 --> 00:18:56,836 - Peter, nice to meet you. I went home-- 668 00:18:56,836 --> 00:18:58,704 I went home night one. - Oh, wait. You were the dude. 669 00:18:58,704 --> 00:19:00,239 He's back! 670 00:19:00,239 --> 00:19:02,008 Oh, give it up for Peter, guys! 671 00:19:02,008 --> 00:19:04,110 [light cheers and applause] Yeah. Come on, Pete. 672 00:19:04,110 --> 00:19:05,277 Give us the floor. You got the floor. 673 00:19:05,277 --> 00:19:06,679 - Okay, I actually want to take a second. 674 00:19:06,679 --> 00:19:08,314 Pete, obviously, you got sent home on the first night. 675 00:19:08,314 --> 00:19:09,682 We barely got to know you. 676 00:19:09,682 --> 00:19:12,785 And there was no drama until you went home. 677 00:19:12,785 --> 00:19:14,353 Can you shed some light on that for us 678 00:19:14,353 --> 00:19:16,088 and educate us on what happened? 679 00:19:16,088 --> 00:19:19,091 - After the season wrapped, we had a cast Zoom call. 680 00:19:19,091 --> 00:19:21,994 Long story short, 15 or 16 of the guys 681 00:19:21,994 --> 00:19:25,097 at the end of their headshots put the initials 682 00:19:25,097 --> 00:19:27,266 "[bleep] P" after their post. 683 00:19:27,266 --> 00:19:28,968 Brayden was actually man enough 684 00:19:28,968 --> 00:19:31,470 to come to me and tell me what it--what it meant. 685 00:19:31,470 --> 00:19:33,205 And what it meant was, "[bleep] Peter." 686 00:19:33,205 --> 00:19:35,775 Went to bed that night kind of confused 687 00:19:35,775 --> 00:19:37,576 and ultimately pretty upset. 688 00:19:37,576 --> 00:19:38,978 I didn't know any of these guys. 689 00:19:38,978 --> 00:19:41,881 I met them for two minutes, maybe some five minutes. 690 00:19:41,881 --> 00:19:45,518 And to have people, you know, put this online 691 00:19:45,518 --> 00:19:47,887 for the world to see really affected me. 692 00:19:47,887 --> 00:19:49,121 So, for those of you who don't know, 693 00:19:49,121 --> 00:19:51,323 that's kind of the story of what [bleep] P was. 694 00:19:51,323 --> 00:19:53,693 - Before we go any further, we shouldn't have done that. 695 00:19:53,693 --> 00:19:55,094 It was a bad play. 696 00:19:55,094 --> 00:19:57,029 It was just an inside joke. 697 00:19:57,029 --> 00:20:00,433 Nobody would have known it was against Peter 698 00:20:00,433 --> 00:20:04,904 if, you know, this guy, like, shared it, so, like-- 699 00:20:04,904 --> 00:20:06,305 - Well, we actually have some of those posts 700 00:20:06,305 --> 00:20:07,707 just to sort of help everybody 701 00:20:07,707 --> 00:20:09,008 understand kind of what's going on. 702 00:20:09,008 --> 00:20:10,276 So here's a post from Sean. 703 00:20:10,276 --> 00:20:12,311 And, "It's a love story, baby, just say yes." 704 00:20:12,311 --> 00:20:14,080 But you look at the bottom left corner, 705 00:20:14,080 --> 00:20:15,081 there's [bleep] P. 706 00:20:15,081 --> 00:20:16,315 - I didn't know what it meant. 707 00:20:16,315 --> 00:20:18,551 The thing I think that upset me a lot 708 00:20:18,551 --> 00:20:21,687 was my family, my parents, my church group, 709 00:20:21,687 --> 00:20:23,823 my volunteer group, they all saw that. 710 00:20:23,823 --> 00:20:24,857 - There is no chance they saw that 711 00:20:24,857 --> 00:20:25,891 and thought about that. 712 00:20:25,891 --> 00:20:27,059 Are you kidding me? 713 00:20:27,059 --> 00:20:28,694 - Pete, did you have any idea night one 714 00:20:28,694 --> 00:20:30,129 that you were rubbing people the wrong way like that? 715 00:20:30,129 --> 00:20:31,864 - No idea. No, honestly, when Brayden told me that, 716 00:20:31,864 --> 00:20:33,232 I honestly was shocked. 717 00:20:33,232 --> 00:20:34,633 I had no idea I was rubbing people the wrong way. 718 00:20:34,633 --> 00:20:35,768 Why would you put that online? 719 00:20:35,768 --> 00:20:37,103 I've never done anything to you personally. 720 00:20:37,103 --> 00:20:38,270 - Because you are a bitch. That is what you are. 721 00:20:38,270 --> 00:20:39,472 - I've never done anything to your family. 722 00:20:39,472 --> 00:20:40,806 I've never done anything to anyone on this stage. 723 00:20:40,806 --> 00:20:42,441 - It's basically because you said "[bleep] you" 724 00:20:42,441 --> 00:20:44,276 to every single dude that tried to speak to you 725 00:20:44,276 --> 00:20:45,711 or speak to them. 726 00:20:45,711 --> 00:20:47,046 You just did the same thing to everyone. 727 00:20:47,046 --> 00:20:48,781 - I don't agree with that. I don't agree with that. 728 00:20:48,781 --> 00:20:51,217 - The very first night, you sit down right next to me. 729 00:20:51,217 --> 00:20:52,618 And you look at the camera, and you look at me. 730 00:20:52,618 --> 00:20:54,053 You look at the camera, and you open your body up, 731 00:20:54,053 --> 00:20:55,788 make sure the camera's getting you at the right angle. 732 00:20:55,788 --> 00:20:58,624 And you go, so who do you think is here for the wrong reasons? 733 00:20:58,624 --> 00:21:00,960 And I'm like, "I don't know. You maybe." Like... 734 00:21:00,960 --> 00:21:03,963 - Homey, you were the first one on the Zoom call 735 00:21:03,963 --> 00:21:06,532 after everyone got home to ask about endorsement deals. 736 00:21:06,532 --> 00:21:08,734 And you were on the TV show for five seconds. 737 00:21:08,734 --> 00:21:09,835 - Mm-hmm. - Five seconds. 738 00:21:09,835 --> 00:21:11,303 I remember you laughing and saying, 739 00:21:11,303 --> 00:21:12,605 "Thanks for putting me on the map. 740 00:21:12,605 --> 00:21:14,006 I'll make a T-shirt out of it." 741 00:21:14,006 --> 00:21:15,241 - And monetize it. 742 00:21:15,241 --> 00:21:16,408 - 'Cause he's trying to make a joke out of it, 743 00:21:16,408 --> 00:21:17,643 and it always was a joke. 744 00:21:17,643 --> 00:21:19,011 - Then the next night, 745 00:21:19,011 --> 00:21:21,113 you use this as a platform as a pity party. 746 00:21:21,113 --> 00:21:22,815 I have no respect for that, dude. 747 00:21:22,815 --> 00:21:25,017 Shut the [bleep] up. - So, Peter, I will say this. 748 00:21:25,017 --> 00:21:27,586 I'm sorry for putting that on my page. 749 00:21:27,586 --> 00:21:30,156 I thought it was an inside joke, and it was wrong. 750 00:21:30,156 --> 00:21:31,757 At the end of the day, all these guys 751 00:21:31,757 --> 00:21:33,058 will speak to my character. 752 00:21:33,058 --> 00:21:35,461 I'm a good guy, and I made a mistake. 753 00:21:35,461 --> 00:21:37,763 - I do have to say, I am pretty curious 754 00:21:37,763 --> 00:21:39,665 after listening to you all, because this is a lot 755 00:21:39,665 --> 00:21:41,333 of stuff that I didn't know-- 756 00:21:41,333 --> 00:21:43,035 Pete, did you actually ever make T-shirts? 757 00:21:43,035 --> 00:21:44,236 - Of course not. 758 00:21:44,236 --> 00:21:45,738 - Okay, it never happened? - Never happened. 759 00:21:45,738 --> 00:21:47,072 - But you said you were going to? 760 00:21:47,072 --> 00:21:48,607 - I never--I don't believe I ever said that. 761 00:21:48,607 --> 00:21:50,442 - Yo, let's run that tape back, please. 762 00:21:50,442 --> 00:21:52,077 [laughter] 763 00:21:52,077 --> 00:21:53,846 We'll you show everyone how [...] fake you are, dude. 764 00:21:53,846 --> 00:21:55,114 It'll be great. - All right. 765 00:21:55,114 --> 00:21:56,816 Well, gentlemen, look, I appreciate you all. 766 00:21:56,816 --> 00:21:58,250 I told you that I wanted the tea. 767 00:21:58,250 --> 00:22:00,486 And alas, my cup runneth over. 768 00:22:00,486 --> 00:22:01,854 So thank you all for that. 769 00:22:01,854 --> 00:22:04,957 All right, coming up, his scarf game is strong. 770 00:22:04,957 --> 00:22:07,893 His earrings actually have their own social-media handle. 771 00:22:07,893 --> 00:22:10,663 And he always--just like tonight--he finds himself 772 00:22:10,663 --> 00:22:12,298 in the middle of the drama. 773 00:22:12,298 --> 00:22:13,666 Of course, I'm talking about Brayden. 774 00:22:13,666 --> 00:22:16,035 He's gonna join me right here in the hot seat 775 00:22:16,035 --> 00:22:18,504 when "The Bachelorette," "The Men Tell All" returns. 776 00:22:18,504 --> 00:22:21,507 [cheers and applause] 777 00:22:22,942 --> 00:22:25,077 [upbeat music] 778 00:22:25,077 --> 00:22:27,246 [cheers and applause] 779 00:22:27,246 --> 00:22:28,714 We're back on "The Men Tell All." 780 00:22:28,714 --> 00:22:30,015 Everybody still having fun? 781 00:22:30,015 --> 00:22:31,584 [cheers and applause] 782 00:22:31,584 --> 00:22:35,588 All right, well, this man's bold fashion choices 783 00:22:35,588 --> 00:22:36,856 and his bold personality 784 00:22:36,856 --> 00:22:38,724 that rubbed a lot of the guys the wrong way. 785 00:22:38,724 --> 00:22:41,360 But the big question is, what's his side of the story? 786 00:22:41,360 --> 00:22:42,628 We're about to find that out. 787 00:22:42,628 --> 00:22:44,597 Brayden, why don't you come on up? 788 00:22:44,597 --> 00:22:48,267 [cheers and applause] 789 00:22:48,267 --> 00:22:50,369 - "The Brayden Show." 790 00:22:50,369 --> 00:22:51,604 - Good seeing you, brother. - Good to see you. 791 00:22:51,604 --> 00:22:53,572 - Good having you here, man. Have a seat. 792 00:22:53,572 --> 00:22:56,542 Well, Brayden, never a boring day 793 00:22:56,542 --> 00:22:57,576 on "The Bachelorette" for you. 794 00:22:57,576 --> 00:22:59,378 It was quite the journey. 795 00:22:59,378 --> 00:23:00,512 Let's take a look back. 796 00:23:00,512 --> 00:23:02,448 [soft music] 797 00:23:02,448 --> 00:23:04,183 - You look absolutely frickin' amazing. 798 00:23:04,183 --> 00:23:05,584 Oh, my God. - Oh, my goodness, thank you. 799 00:23:05,584 --> 00:23:06,852 Nice to meet you. - Hi, nice to meet you. 800 00:23:06,852 --> 00:23:08,320 Sorry for the awkward side hug. - No, it's fine. 801 00:23:08,320 --> 00:23:09,521 You got something hiding under there. 802 00:23:09,521 --> 00:23:10,823 - Yes, I do. 803 00:23:10,823 --> 00:23:12,157 I work as a nurse in San Diego. - Okay. Great. 804 00:23:12,157 --> 00:23:13,359 - And so I figured that, you know, 805 00:23:13,359 --> 00:23:14,894 gotta be responsible and make sure 806 00:23:14,894 --> 00:23:16,795 we're, you know, up to date on our shots. 807 00:23:16,795 --> 00:23:17,897 - What are we cheersing to? 808 00:23:17,897 --> 00:23:18,898 - A shot at love. 809 00:23:18,898 --> 00:23:20,232 - Shot at love, love that. 810 00:23:21,834 --> 00:23:22,801 - Oh, God. 811 00:23:22,801 --> 00:23:23,903 Oh! [coughs] 812 00:23:23,903 --> 00:23:25,204 - You didn't take your lime. Come on. 813 00:23:25,204 --> 00:23:26,505 - I need the lime. 814 00:23:26,505 --> 00:23:29,241 - With Brayden, we immediately hit it off. 815 00:23:29,241 --> 00:23:30,809 I'm already giddy. Like, I'm laughing. 816 00:23:30,809 --> 00:23:32,211 That's evidence. 817 00:23:32,211 --> 00:23:35,214 You have truly been a breath of fresh air for me. 818 00:23:35,214 --> 00:23:38,117 Brayden, will you accept the First Impression Rose? 819 00:23:38,117 --> 00:23:39,385 - I would absolutely love to accept. 820 00:23:39,385 --> 00:23:40,619 - Perfect. 821 00:23:40,619 --> 00:23:42,221 I feel very strongly about Brayden. 822 00:23:42,221 --> 00:23:43,722 I feel very relaxed. 823 00:23:43,722 --> 00:23:45,357 I feel my best self with him. 824 00:23:45,357 --> 00:23:48,060 - Oh, there's a dolphin! - Oh, my God, there's so many! 825 00:23:48,060 --> 00:23:49,595 We're just so in sync with each other. 826 00:23:49,595 --> 00:23:50,896 It's so fun. 827 00:23:50,896 --> 00:23:52,564 - I'm hitting it that way. Okay. 828 00:23:52,564 --> 00:23:55,367 - Oh, my God, Brayden! 829 00:23:55,367 --> 00:23:56,936 That was incredible. 830 00:23:56,936 --> 00:24:00,072 It feels so right. It feels so real. 831 00:24:00,072 --> 00:24:01,273 ♪ ♪ 832 00:24:01,273 --> 00:24:02,908 This really could be my person, 833 00:24:02,908 --> 00:24:05,878 and I see a forever future with him. 834 00:24:05,878 --> 00:24:07,579 - We had a little competition, 835 00:24:07,579 --> 00:24:11,317 and it was the longest kiss in Bachelor Nation history. 836 00:24:11,317 --> 00:24:13,619 - Okay, I don't want to hear anymore. 837 00:24:13,619 --> 00:24:15,721 I understand Charity is gonna be kissing people. 838 00:24:15,721 --> 00:24:18,824 But she made them watch Joey kiss her for five minutes. 839 00:24:18,824 --> 00:24:21,493 I think it was very disrespectful. 840 00:24:21,493 --> 00:24:22,661 - He's been very vocal around the house 841 00:24:22,661 --> 00:24:24,330 about not wanting to be here, 842 00:24:24,330 --> 00:24:27,666 not wanting to be with someone that's dated 20 of his friends. 843 00:24:27,666 --> 00:24:30,336 - I'm irritated times a million. 844 00:24:30,336 --> 00:24:32,338 He has a rose on his chest. 845 00:24:32,338 --> 00:24:34,506 I will rip that [...] off. 846 00:24:34,506 --> 00:24:35,708 Hi. 847 00:24:35,708 --> 00:24:38,243 - How's it going? - What's the conversation? 848 00:24:38,243 --> 00:24:39,778 - There's one person here 849 00:24:39,778 --> 00:24:41,714 that's packed their bags more than twice. 850 00:24:41,714 --> 00:24:43,415 - Yeah, and it's been me. 851 00:24:43,415 --> 00:24:44,416 - Oh. 852 00:24:44,416 --> 00:24:46,418 [dramatic music] 853 00:24:46,418 --> 00:24:47,786 Okay. 854 00:24:47,786 --> 00:24:49,355 ♪ ♪ 855 00:24:49,355 --> 00:24:51,490 Like, what are you--what are you feeling right now? 856 00:24:51,490 --> 00:24:52,725 - I'm feeling like-- 857 00:24:52,725 --> 00:24:53,859 I feel like I like you, but I feel like 858 00:24:53,859 --> 00:24:55,794 I don't want to be here right now. 859 00:24:55,794 --> 00:24:58,497 ♪ ♪ 860 00:24:58,497 --> 00:25:00,132 And I don't feel like I'm capable 861 00:25:00,132 --> 00:25:02,601 of getting there in this environment. 862 00:25:02,601 --> 00:25:03,836 - Let's go, then. 863 00:25:03,836 --> 00:25:05,070 I'll walk you out. 864 00:25:05,070 --> 00:25:06,672 ♪ ♪ 865 00:25:06,672 --> 00:25:08,607 - I feel as though I've been honest. 866 00:25:08,607 --> 00:25:10,342 I feel as though I've been transparent. 867 00:25:10,342 --> 00:25:11,877 I'm not sure if I can get there, 868 00:25:11,877 --> 00:25:13,779 but honestly, she's worth trying for. 869 00:25:13,779 --> 00:25:15,614 That has not changed. 870 00:25:15,614 --> 00:25:16,882 Maybe I'll watch this back 871 00:25:16,882 --> 00:25:19,118 and realize I was a total [bleep]. 872 00:25:19,118 --> 00:25:20,552 I don't know. 873 00:25:20,552 --> 00:25:23,889 It's just--I tried coming in here and being 100% me 874 00:25:23,889 --> 00:25:26,725 the entire time, but if she wants to reach out to me, 875 00:25:26,725 --> 00:25:28,060 I'm here. 876 00:25:28,060 --> 00:25:29,728 ♪ ♪ 877 00:25:29,728 --> 00:25:32,765 [scattered applause] 878 00:25:37,069 --> 00:25:38,804 - All right, did Charity ever reach out to you, by the way? 879 00:25:38,804 --> 00:25:39,938 - No, she didn't. 880 00:25:39,938 --> 00:25:41,373 - Not surprised. - Yeah. 881 00:25:41,373 --> 00:25:44,410 - Um, how does it feel for you when you watch that back? 882 00:25:44,410 --> 00:25:46,145 - Honestly, watching it back was tough. 883 00:25:46,145 --> 00:25:48,514 Um, what bothered me watching it all back 884 00:25:48,514 --> 00:25:52,084 is to see that she was feeling all those things for me. 885 00:25:52,084 --> 00:25:54,420 Me and her had such amazing conversations. 886 00:25:54,420 --> 00:25:56,789 We are both huge on our family. 887 00:25:56,789 --> 00:25:59,391 We both work in psych and just knowing how, like, you know, 888 00:25:59,391 --> 00:26:01,093 how patient someone has to be to be able to work 889 00:26:01,093 --> 00:26:04,396 in that environment, and just how patient she was with me. 890 00:26:04,396 --> 00:26:05,697 Like, I had told her on our date 891 00:26:05,697 --> 00:26:06,999 that I had a lot of reservations. 892 00:26:06,999 --> 00:26:08,100 She was understanding, 893 00:26:08,100 --> 00:26:09,668 and she didn't hold it against me. 894 00:26:09,668 --> 00:26:12,271 - Was it reservations about whether or not 895 00:26:12,271 --> 00:26:14,640 Charity was the right person for you in your life, 896 00:26:14,640 --> 00:26:16,975 or was it reservations that you just couldn't get 897 00:26:16,975 --> 00:26:18,811 down on a knee in this environment? 898 00:26:18,811 --> 00:26:21,280 - I mean, it was more so the getting down on the knee. 899 00:26:21,280 --> 00:26:23,515 The idea of getting married at the end of this-- 900 00:26:23,515 --> 00:26:25,551 with all the drama, I just couldn't do it. 901 00:26:25,551 --> 00:26:28,220 And once I realized I couldn't give her what she wanted, 902 00:26:28,220 --> 00:26:30,022 I realized, like, I shouldn't be there anymore. 903 00:26:30,022 --> 00:26:31,156 - Okay. 904 00:26:31,156 --> 00:26:33,158 In Skamania, Washington, you showed up. 905 00:26:33,158 --> 00:26:34,426 You left. 906 00:26:34,426 --> 00:26:37,029 You came back. How come? 907 00:26:37,029 --> 00:26:38,530 - I wanted to let her know it was the experience. 908 00:26:38,530 --> 00:26:40,065 It wasn't her that got to me. 909 00:26:40,065 --> 00:26:41,633 Like, she's amazing. 910 00:26:41,633 --> 00:26:43,202 And I didn't want to take any time away from the guys 911 00:26:43,202 --> 00:26:44,770 'cause I'd already been caught up 912 00:26:44,770 --> 00:26:46,638 in so much frickin' drama that took away time from the guys. 913 00:26:46,638 --> 00:26:48,173 So I was trying to just keep my head down 914 00:26:48,173 --> 00:26:50,742 and just walk out and not make it about me, you know? 915 00:26:50,742 --> 00:26:52,377 But the guys definitely made it about me. 916 00:26:52,377 --> 00:26:54,012 - I mean, a lot of you were-- you were pissed. 917 00:26:54,012 --> 00:26:55,948 John, you were one of the guys that made that walk. 918 00:26:55,948 --> 00:26:57,282 - I mean, because the week before, 919 00:26:57,282 --> 00:26:58,684 I was the only one defending you. 920 00:26:58,684 --> 00:27:00,319 Then to be the guy who gets interrupted 921 00:27:00,319 --> 00:27:03,288 and loses a little bit of time and isn't able to finish 922 00:27:03,288 --> 00:27:05,457 his conversation with Charity, like, it--it hurt. 923 00:27:05,457 --> 00:27:07,092 - If it means anything, I thought your conversation 924 00:27:07,092 --> 00:27:09,061 with her was amazing-- heard the whole thing, but... 925 00:27:09,061 --> 00:27:10,496 - Thank you. Thanks. 926 00:27:10,496 --> 00:27:12,064 - Can I say something-- can I say something, please? 927 00:27:12,064 --> 00:27:14,466 If you knew, though, Brayden, that, like, the conversation 928 00:27:14,466 --> 00:27:15,767 that you were gonna have with Charity 929 00:27:15,767 --> 00:27:17,603 wasn't gonna change anything at all, 930 00:27:17,603 --> 00:27:20,372 the mature thing to do in that situation is to read the room. 931 00:27:20,372 --> 00:27:21,740 You say, this isn't the right time 932 00:27:21,740 --> 00:27:23,275 to have this conversation, because you're not 933 00:27:23,275 --> 00:27:25,244 going to matter beyond that point. 934 00:27:25,244 --> 00:27:27,246 - Right. I didn't care about taking away your time. 935 00:27:27,246 --> 00:27:28,480 To be honest, I didn't care 936 00:27:28,480 --> 00:27:30,082 about taking away anyone else's time. 937 00:27:30,082 --> 00:27:31,884 I cared about apologizing to someone I hurt, 938 00:27:31,884 --> 00:27:34,186 that I was pursuing a relationship with. 939 00:27:34,186 --> 00:27:35,888 Like, that was my intention. 940 00:27:35,888 --> 00:27:38,724 - How surprised are you at how angry everybody was? 941 00:27:38,724 --> 00:27:42,828 I've never seen a group of men chase a dude outside, 942 00:27:42,828 --> 00:27:46,031 yelling at him all the way to the bus. 943 00:27:46,031 --> 00:27:47,466 Like, where was that about to go? 944 00:27:47,466 --> 00:27:48,800 - I mean, I'm just gonna be real, like, 945 00:27:48,800 --> 00:27:50,502 I was gonna--I was gonna-- I was gonna beat them up. 946 00:27:50,502 --> 00:27:51,570 - You were about to throw down right there? 947 00:27:51,570 --> 00:27:52,971 - I was gonna throw down, yeah. 948 00:27:52,971 --> 00:27:54,540 - Yeah, Jesse, it was about to get live real quick. 949 00:27:54,540 --> 00:27:56,074 [laughter] It was about to get-- 950 00:27:56,074 --> 00:27:58,677 - I mean, I don't know, like, I'm not an aggressive person. 951 00:27:58,677 --> 00:28:00,245 It's not often that I want to fight people. 952 00:28:00,245 --> 00:28:02,247 But, like, again, I was ready to fight 'em. 953 00:28:02,247 --> 00:28:05,050 By the way, no-- there was no driver in the van 954 00:28:05,050 --> 00:28:06,818 when he said, like, "Hit the gas." 955 00:28:06,818 --> 00:28:08,120 I just want to make that clear. 956 00:28:08,120 --> 00:28:09,721 [laughter] 957 00:28:09,721 --> 00:28:11,890 He was sitting there. He said "hit the gas" to nobody. 958 00:28:11,890 --> 00:28:13,825 I feel like I need to make that clear. 959 00:28:13,825 --> 00:28:15,093 - I mean, why do you think 960 00:28:15,093 --> 00:28:16,428 you rubbed so many people the wrong way? 961 00:28:16,428 --> 00:28:18,063 Why were you getting under their skin? 962 00:28:18,063 --> 00:28:20,299 - Maybe the way I can come across sometimes 963 00:28:20,299 --> 00:28:22,000 can come across as maybe arrogant 964 00:28:22,000 --> 00:28:23,936 or maybe cocky or something like that. 965 00:28:23,936 --> 00:28:27,039 I'm not like your traditional type of guy, I guess. 966 00:28:27,039 --> 00:28:28,941 - Listen, we can't wrap this up before we talk 967 00:28:28,941 --> 00:28:30,943 about something very, very important-- 968 00:28:30,943 --> 00:28:32,211 your style. 969 00:28:32,211 --> 00:28:33,312 - Oh, shoot. 970 00:28:33,312 --> 00:28:35,747 Speaking--hey, wait, hold on. Hold on. 971 00:28:35,747 --> 00:28:37,382 - You gotta walk us through this. 972 00:28:37,382 --> 00:28:39,051 I mean, like, how do you put the earrings 973 00:28:39,051 --> 00:28:40,819 and the scarf together? - I don't know. 974 00:28:40,819 --> 00:28:43,055 I feel like clothes are a fun way to express yourself. 975 00:28:43,055 --> 00:28:44,990 Like, earrings are a new thing for me, to be honest. 976 00:28:44,990 --> 00:28:46,358 Like, within the last year, I got them pierced, 977 00:28:46,358 --> 00:28:47,926 and then it's just been, like-- 978 00:28:47,926 --> 00:28:49,695 - You bought a lot of earrings in a very short amount of time. 979 00:28:49,695 --> 00:28:50,796 - I have, dude. 980 00:28:50,796 --> 00:28:52,164 Like, when I find something I like, 981 00:28:52,164 --> 00:28:53,799 I kind of just dive into it, and, like, 982 00:28:53,799 --> 00:28:55,167 you know, it becomes, like, a part of me. 983 00:28:55,167 --> 00:28:57,002 But I did bring you a little present, Jesse. 984 00:28:57,002 --> 00:28:58,103 - Uh-oh, I got some-- 985 00:28:58,103 --> 00:28:59,104 - I got you some clip-on earrings. 986 00:28:59,104 --> 00:29:00,305 - I got some clip-on earrings. 987 00:29:00,305 --> 00:29:01,573 - I don't know, I-- I didn't know 988 00:29:01,573 --> 00:29:03,242 if you'd let me pierce your ears on live TV. 989 00:29:03,242 --> 00:29:05,010 - Piercing ear probably a no. 990 00:29:05,010 --> 00:29:06,144 I'm not gonna lie. 991 00:29:06,144 --> 00:29:07,246 I've always been kind of curious myself 992 00:29:07,246 --> 00:29:08,680 how this might go or look. 993 00:29:08,680 --> 00:29:09,915 - Oh, yeah, that's a look, man. - Oh, yeah. 994 00:29:09,915 --> 00:29:11,383 - Ooh, okay. - How are we-- 995 00:29:11,383 --> 00:29:13,719 - Okay. Okay. [cheers and applause] 996 00:29:13,719 --> 00:29:15,187 - Do we-- - Whoo! 997 00:29:15,187 --> 00:29:16,688 - Can we go-- can we go for this? 998 00:29:16,688 --> 00:29:17,789 [cheers and applause] 999 00:29:17,789 --> 00:29:18,991 Yeah? - Come on, look at this man. 1000 00:29:18,991 --> 00:29:20,492 Look at this man. 1001 00:29:20,492 --> 00:29:23,161 - Listen, man, big picture, regardless of whether or not 1002 00:29:23,161 --> 00:29:25,597 people, they agree with you or they don't, the one thing 1003 00:29:25,597 --> 00:29:27,699 I will say, you have been your true authentic self 1004 00:29:27,699 --> 00:29:29,034 throughout this entire experience. 1005 00:29:29,034 --> 00:29:31,436 And if I'm not mistaken, Brayden here 1006 00:29:31,436 --> 00:29:34,506 is packing his earrings and his scarves, 1007 00:29:34,506 --> 00:29:37,643 and he's taking them to the beaches of Paradise. 1008 00:29:37,643 --> 00:29:38,777 Are you not? 1009 00:29:38,777 --> 00:29:41,313 [cheers and applause] 1010 00:29:41,313 --> 00:29:42,648 Oh, boy. 1011 00:29:42,648 --> 00:29:46,685 In fact, we actually have a little clip of you 1012 00:29:46,685 --> 00:29:48,754 from your time down in Paradise 1013 00:29:48,754 --> 00:29:49,955 that we're gonna show everybody. 1014 00:29:49,955 --> 00:29:51,556 You're looking very nervous right now. 1015 00:29:51,556 --> 00:29:52,958 How come? - Dude. 1016 00:29:52,958 --> 00:29:55,360 - You all ready for this? [cheers and applause] 1017 00:29:55,360 --> 00:29:56,962 All right, here we go. 1018 00:29:59,398 --> 00:30:01,066 - When I first saw you, I was like, oh, the earrings, 1019 00:30:01,066 --> 00:30:02,701 I love 'em. - Yeah? 1020 00:30:02,701 --> 00:30:04,036 - And everyone's like, really? 1021 00:30:04,036 --> 00:30:05,937 I was like, yes, I do. 1022 00:30:05,937 --> 00:30:07,372 - I think you're the only person that actually-- 1023 00:30:07,372 --> 00:30:08,707 actually liked my earrings. 1024 00:30:08,707 --> 00:30:10,509 - Really? [laughs] - Yeah. 1025 00:30:10,509 --> 00:30:13,378 - Honestly, I was taken by surprise by Brayden. 1026 00:30:13,378 --> 00:30:14,780 It's not just that he's hot. 1027 00:30:14,780 --> 00:30:18,116 I mean, he has, like, depth, and that's, honestly, 1028 00:30:18,116 --> 00:30:20,786 few and far between that you can find these days in men. 1029 00:30:20,786 --> 00:30:23,221 He's like a golden retriever. [chuckles] 1030 00:30:23,221 --> 00:30:25,524 And I love it. 1031 00:30:25,524 --> 00:30:27,526 You're funny. 1032 00:30:27,526 --> 00:30:30,529 [romantic music] 1033 00:30:30,529 --> 00:30:34,466 ♪ ♪ 1034 00:30:34,466 --> 00:30:36,001 - Whoo! 1035 00:30:36,001 --> 00:30:37,235 She's a great kisser. 1036 00:30:37,235 --> 00:30:39,271 Kat Izzo is a great kisser. 1037 00:30:39,271 --> 00:30:41,373 10 out of 10, recommend. [laughs] 1038 00:30:41,373 --> 00:30:46,111 ♪ ♪ 1039 00:30:46,111 --> 00:30:49,147 [cheers and applause] 1040 00:30:53,352 --> 00:30:57,589 - All right, all right, dude, Brayden, honestly, honestly... 1041 00:30:57,589 --> 00:31:00,459 yeah, I'd say that you were definitely in your element. 1042 00:31:00,459 --> 00:31:02,160 I'd say Paradise was more your dojo. 1043 00:31:02,160 --> 00:31:03,595 - Yeah, a little bit. - For sure. 1044 00:31:03,595 --> 00:31:05,464 All right, but we're not gonna spoil what happened 1045 00:31:05,464 --> 00:31:06,732 with you down in Paradise. 1046 00:31:06,732 --> 00:31:08,800 Everybody's gonna have to tune in and find out. 1047 00:31:08,800 --> 00:31:09,901 Great seeing you, man. 1048 00:31:09,901 --> 00:31:12,204 Thanks for the earrings. Appreciate you. 1049 00:31:12,204 --> 00:31:13,972 All right, coming up next, Xavier is gonna be 1050 00:31:13,972 --> 00:31:15,207 joining me in the hot seat. 1051 00:31:15,207 --> 00:31:16,675 So what does he have to say 1052 00:31:16,675 --> 00:31:19,444 about his shocking departure that left Charity in tears? 1053 00:31:19,444 --> 00:31:21,179 We're gonna find out when we return. 1054 00:31:21,179 --> 00:31:24,216 [cheers and applause] 1055 00:31:27,052 --> 00:31:29,888 [upbeat music] 1056 00:31:29,888 --> 00:31:31,723 - Welcome back to "The Men Tell All." 1057 00:31:31,723 --> 00:31:35,060 Well, it's already been a very explosive evening. 1058 00:31:35,060 --> 00:31:36,728 And we are literally just getting started. 1059 00:31:36,728 --> 00:31:39,164 But this next man, he was moments away 1060 00:31:39,164 --> 00:31:41,733 from stepping into the Fantasy Suite with Charity 1061 00:31:41,733 --> 00:31:44,469 when it all went wrong. 1062 00:31:44,469 --> 00:31:46,037 Xavier, let's have a talk about it. 1063 00:31:46,037 --> 00:31:47,372 Why don't you come up? 1064 00:31:47,372 --> 00:31:51,543 [cheers and applause, scattered boos] 1065 00:31:51,543 --> 00:31:52,978 Good seeing you, brother. 1066 00:31:52,978 --> 00:31:54,980 All right, man, have a seat. 1067 00:31:54,980 --> 00:31:58,950 Well, listen, when I think back to your journey with Charity, 1068 00:31:58,950 --> 00:32:02,421 everything just seemed to come so easy for the two of you 1069 00:32:02,421 --> 00:32:03,755 until that fateful night in Fiji. 1070 00:32:03,755 --> 00:32:06,458 So let's take a look back at how everything unfolded 1071 00:32:06,458 --> 00:32:08,894 and then ultimately unraveled that night. 1072 00:32:10,562 --> 00:32:11,863 [soft music] 1073 00:32:11,863 --> 00:32:13,732 - How you doing? - I'm doing good. 1074 00:32:13,732 --> 00:32:16,001 How are you? You look good. - Good evening. Oh, my God. 1075 00:32:16,001 --> 00:32:17,502 - Spiffy! 1076 00:32:17,502 --> 00:32:19,971 Xavier, Xavier, Xavier, he is one 1077 00:32:19,971 --> 00:32:22,307 I gotta keep my eyes on for sure. 1078 00:32:22,307 --> 00:32:23,708 Whoo! Oh, God. 1079 00:32:23,708 --> 00:32:25,143 No way. - It's cold. 1080 00:32:25,143 --> 00:32:27,112 - With Xavier, it feels very natural. 1081 00:32:27,112 --> 00:32:29,381 ♪ ♪ 1082 00:32:29,381 --> 00:32:32,851 And there is, like, this physical attractiveness. 1083 00:32:32,851 --> 00:32:35,620 I'm feeling really happy and a little giddy-- 1084 00:32:35,620 --> 00:32:38,190 actually not a little giddy, a lot of giddy. 1085 00:32:38,190 --> 00:32:42,060 - What are you most wary about in a marriage? 1086 00:32:42,060 --> 00:32:44,729 - It is the infidelity thing. 1087 00:32:44,729 --> 00:32:46,998 I'm always wondering, like, what if that is, like, 1088 00:32:46,998 --> 00:32:48,867 something that could happen again? 1089 00:32:48,867 --> 00:32:51,303 - What you're gonna get from me is complete honesty. 1090 00:32:51,303 --> 00:32:52,804 - Mm-hmm. - Like, I'm not hiding 1091 00:32:52,804 --> 00:32:55,207 any part of me from you. 1092 00:32:55,207 --> 00:32:58,276 - Xavier reminds me a lot of my past relationships. 1093 00:32:58,276 --> 00:32:59,878 - Come here, come here, come here. 1094 00:32:59,878 --> 00:33:01,446 God, yes. 1095 00:33:01,446 --> 00:33:04,149 - It's like he's scared to commit to one person, 1096 00:33:04,149 --> 00:33:06,785 but he's someone who's gentle, who's kind. 1097 00:33:06,785 --> 00:33:08,286 Chemistry is there. 1098 00:33:08,286 --> 00:33:11,490 It's like, for me, truly, like, a total package. 1099 00:33:11,490 --> 00:33:14,359 - Charity, honestly... 1100 00:33:14,359 --> 00:33:16,194 I'm falling in love with you. 1101 00:33:16,194 --> 00:33:17,829 - Same here. 1102 00:33:17,829 --> 00:33:19,331 Oh, my goodness. 1103 00:33:19,331 --> 00:33:23,068 To hear those words, it's so reassuring for me. 1104 00:33:23,068 --> 00:33:26,271 I want this to be a forever thing. 1105 00:33:26,271 --> 00:33:28,440 I do see Xavier as my husband. 1106 00:33:28,440 --> 00:33:31,009 ♪ ♪ 1107 00:33:31,009 --> 00:33:33,778 - So, in the past with my ex, 1108 00:33:33,778 --> 00:33:37,148 I was unfaithful, 1109 00:33:37,148 --> 00:33:39,784 and I wanted to tell you that 1110 00:33:39,784 --> 00:33:40,886 because I know that 1111 00:33:40,886 --> 00:33:43,922 that is, like, very triggering for you. 1112 00:33:43,922 --> 00:33:45,423 [tense music] 1113 00:33:45,423 --> 00:33:47,125 - This is exactly what my ex did 1114 00:33:47,125 --> 00:33:49,294 on and off for about six years. 1115 00:33:49,294 --> 00:33:51,630 To hear him say this a week out, 1116 00:33:51,630 --> 00:33:54,299 two weeks out from proposal, 1117 00:33:54,299 --> 00:33:58,637 this took me for a loop! 1118 00:33:58,637 --> 00:34:02,107 I am very curious to know, like, was it multiple times? 1119 00:34:02,107 --> 00:34:06,211 - It was multiple times in the span of five days. 1120 00:34:06,211 --> 00:34:08,079 - Oh, okay. 1121 00:34:08,079 --> 00:34:11,716 - I'm not going to do that if I know that you're my end. 1122 00:34:11,716 --> 00:34:12,918 - Okay. 1123 00:34:12,918 --> 00:34:14,920 - Is it gonna be hard to do that? 1124 00:34:14,920 --> 00:34:16,688 Hell, yes... [crowd gasps] 1125 00:34:16,688 --> 00:34:18,123 Because I've never been 1126 00:34:18,123 --> 00:34:20,125 in a position where it's like, 1127 00:34:20,125 --> 00:34:21,560 you have to just choose 1128 00:34:21,560 --> 00:34:23,461 one woman for the rest of your life 1129 00:34:23,461 --> 00:34:26,531 and that freedom is gone. 1130 00:34:26,531 --> 00:34:30,268 And for me to get to that point, 1131 00:34:30,268 --> 00:34:33,004 that has to happen tonight. 1132 00:34:33,004 --> 00:34:35,674 I need to see more. 1133 00:34:35,674 --> 00:34:37,709 - I'm so mad. I'm so mad. 1134 00:34:37,709 --> 00:34:38,977 What do you need to see? 1135 00:34:38,977 --> 00:34:40,879 Us in a bedroom is not gonna determine 1136 00:34:40,879 --> 00:34:42,347 whether or not you can see 1137 00:34:42,347 --> 00:34:44,249 longevity in a relationship. 1138 00:34:44,249 --> 00:34:45,584 [cheers and applause] 1139 00:34:45,584 --> 00:34:47,919 Mm-mm. No way. 1140 00:34:47,919 --> 00:34:50,488 Who Charity Lawson is in 2023-- 1141 00:34:50,488 --> 00:34:51,823 not willing to settle, 1142 00:34:51,823 --> 00:34:53,158 not willing to put up 1143 00:34:53,158 --> 00:34:55,660 with just whatever-- it's not happening. 1144 00:34:55,660 --> 00:34:57,429 - Okay. 1145 00:34:57,429 --> 00:34:58,930 [cheers and applause] 1146 00:34:58,930 --> 00:35:00,198 - Let's go. 1147 00:35:00,198 --> 00:35:02,434 We're like a week out from proposal, 1148 00:35:02,434 --> 00:35:05,837 and you can't tell me that you trust yourself 1149 00:35:05,837 --> 00:35:09,374 from not making a mistake of loyalty again? 1150 00:35:09,374 --> 00:35:11,409 Like, I'm not-- I'm not doing that. 1151 00:35:11,409 --> 00:35:12,477 I'm sorry. 1152 00:35:12,477 --> 00:35:13,745 [crying] 1153 00:35:13,745 --> 00:35:17,215 Hell to the no. 1154 00:35:17,215 --> 00:35:20,285 [crying] I'm so upset. 1155 00:35:20,285 --> 00:35:22,287 [sobs] 1156 00:35:22,287 --> 00:35:24,222 ♪ ♪ 1157 00:35:29,361 --> 00:35:31,129 - All right, what are you feeling? 1158 00:35:32,330 --> 00:35:35,033 - Um, it's kind of tough to watch back, 1159 00:35:35,033 --> 00:35:39,371 because I feel like me bringing up my past, 1160 00:35:39,371 --> 00:35:41,706 I just wanted to be so honest with her. 1161 00:35:43,141 --> 00:35:44,576 [sighs] 1162 00:35:44,576 --> 00:35:47,545 That conversation just did not happen 1163 00:35:47,545 --> 00:35:49,514 like I had planned it to happen. 1164 00:35:49,514 --> 00:35:51,416 And I just stuck my foot in my mouth, 1165 00:35:51,416 --> 00:35:53,318 and I made a mistake 1166 00:35:53,318 --> 00:35:56,621 instead of making her feel... 1167 00:35:56,621 --> 00:35:59,624 like she was the only woman for me. 1168 00:35:59,624 --> 00:36:00,825 - It's interesting. 1169 00:36:00,825 --> 00:36:03,395 In that conversation after the breakup, 1170 00:36:03,395 --> 00:36:05,030 you're at the car, 1171 00:36:05,030 --> 00:36:06,865 and that's when you told her you loved her. 1172 00:36:06,865 --> 00:36:08,700 - Mm-hmm. - Why that moment? 1173 00:36:08,700 --> 00:36:09,768 Why then? 1174 00:36:11,302 --> 00:36:13,171 - I just wanted to let her know, like, 1175 00:36:13,171 --> 00:36:15,173 how I truly felt about her. 1176 00:36:15,173 --> 00:36:17,108 And... 1177 00:36:17,108 --> 00:36:20,512 I think what kind of, like, made me kind of snap 1178 00:36:20,512 --> 00:36:23,415 and stick my foot in my mouth was, 1179 00:36:23,415 --> 00:36:26,084 one of my biggest fears is 1180 00:36:26,084 --> 00:36:30,755 for love to not be reciprocated to me. 1181 00:36:30,755 --> 00:36:32,857 And so... 1182 00:36:32,857 --> 00:36:36,027 Oof. Um... 1183 00:36:36,027 --> 00:36:37,762 At that Hometown, 1184 00:36:37,762 --> 00:36:41,933 you know, I told her I was falling in love with her. 1185 00:36:41,933 --> 00:36:46,171 And I guess I expected her to say it back... 1186 00:36:46,171 --> 00:36:49,240 and I shouldn't have expected that. 1187 00:36:49,240 --> 00:36:53,611 But that fear kind of just arose 1188 00:36:53,611 --> 00:36:58,450 and took me back to that really hard time. 1189 00:36:58,450 --> 00:37:02,187 And I kind of just melted. 1190 00:37:02,187 --> 00:37:03,488 - I can tell just by talking to you 1191 00:37:03,488 --> 00:37:04,756 that this is something that's been 1192 00:37:04,756 --> 00:37:06,458 weighing on you very heavily. - For sure. 1193 00:37:06,458 --> 00:37:10,829 - What's life been like for you since that night in Fiji? 1194 00:37:10,829 --> 00:37:13,331 - You know, I was in love with her. 1195 00:37:13,331 --> 00:37:16,901 And, uh... 1196 00:37:16,901 --> 00:37:21,473 it was really difficult to kind of move on from that, 1197 00:37:21,473 --> 00:37:24,809 because, you know, those feelings don't just go away. 1198 00:37:24,809 --> 00:37:28,947 I think about our time together literally every day. 1199 00:37:28,947 --> 00:37:30,281 Um... 1200 00:37:31,950 --> 00:37:35,487 So I had to get a therapist because I felt like 1201 00:37:35,487 --> 00:37:38,990 there was some work that I had to do on myself 1202 00:37:38,990 --> 00:37:43,561 in order to be ready for somebody 1203 00:37:43,561 --> 00:37:45,263 that is my forever person. 1204 00:37:45,263 --> 00:37:47,365 - You said that you were in love with Charity. 1205 00:37:47,365 --> 00:37:48,700 - Mm-hmm. 1206 00:37:48,700 --> 00:37:50,435 - And I can tell you've been thinking about her a lot 1207 00:37:50,435 --> 00:37:52,570 ever since then. 1208 00:37:52,570 --> 00:37:55,140 How do you think Charity feels about you right now? 1209 00:37:56,508 --> 00:37:58,576 - Uh, I really have no idea. 1210 00:37:58,576 --> 00:38:01,679 I just want her to know that I want her 1211 00:38:01,679 --> 00:38:03,281 to be, like, super happy. 1212 00:38:03,281 --> 00:38:06,718 And I want her to thrive 1213 00:38:06,718 --> 00:38:09,821 in everything that she will do in the future. 1214 00:38:09,821 --> 00:38:12,190 And I truly want the best for her. 1215 00:38:12,190 --> 00:38:13,558 - Are you nervous to see her? 1216 00:38:16,861 --> 00:38:18,062 - Yeah. 1217 00:38:18,062 --> 00:38:20,098 - When we come back, Charity will join us 1218 00:38:20,098 --> 00:38:21,599 right here on the stage. 1219 00:38:21,599 --> 00:38:23,701 What is she gonna have to say to Xavier 1220 00:38:23,701 --> 00:38:25,069 and all of her other exes? 1221 00:38:25,069 --> 00:38:27,472 We're about to find that out, so don't go away. 1222 00:38:27,472 --> 00:38:30,241 [cheers and applause] 1223 00:38:30,241 --> 00:38:34,445 ♪ ♪ 1224 00:38:36,414 --> 00:38:39,651 [upbeat music] 1225 00:38:39,651 --> 00:38:40,718 - Welcome back. 1226 00:38:40,718 --> 00:38:41,953 Well, it's already been 1227 00:38:41,953 --> 00:38:44,389 a dramatic and a very emotional night. 1228 00:38:44,389 --> 00:38:46,825 But what does Charity have to say about it all? 1229 00:38:46,825 --> 00:38:48,459 I say we bring her out. 1230 00:38:48,459 --> 00:38:50,128 Ladies and gentlemen, please welcome 1231 00:38:50,128 --> 00:38:52,730 your Bachelorette, Charity. 1232 00:38:52,730 --> 00:38:55,733 [cheers and applause] 1233 00:38:55,733 --> 00:38:58,670 ♪ ♪ 1234 00:38:58,670 --> 00:38:59,838 - Hey, boys. 1235 00:38:59,838 --> 00:39:01,873 ♪ ♪ 1236 00:39:01,873 --> 00:39:02,941 - How are you? - Hi. 1237 00:39:02,941 --> 00:39:04,809 - [muffled speech] 1238 00:39:04,809 --> 00:39:06,778 - Great seeing you. Have a seat. 1239 00:39:06,778 --> 00:39:07,979 - All right. 1240 00:39:10,248 --> 00:39:12,584 - Oh, my gosh. - Ah! 1241 00:39:12,584 --> 00:39:15,320 - It's so great seeing you. How are you feeling? 1242 00:39:15,320 --> 00:39:17,188 - I'm feeling great, honestly. 1243 00:39:17,188 --> 00:39:18,489 I'm excited to be here, honestly. 1244 00:39:18,489 --> 00:39:19,924 Hey, boys. [laughs] 1245 00:39:19,924 --> 00:39:21,559 - I was gonna ask, how is it to be face-to-face 1246 00:39:21,559 --> 00:39:23,695 with all these guys for the first time since we filmed? 1247 00:39:23,695 --> 00:39:25,496 - They're great, so it's good to be back. 1248 00:39:25,496 --> 00:39:27,131 It's good to see you guys. You guys look great, so... 1249 00:39:27,131 --> 00:39:29,033 - Well, take me back to the very first night 1250 00:39:29,033 --> 00:39:30,268 when you met all these guys. - Yeah. 1251 00:39:30,268 --> 00:39:32,270 - Your brother, Nehemiah, of course, showed up. 1252 00:39:32,270 --> 00:39:34,105 What did it mean to you to have your brother there that night? 1253 00:39:34,105 --> 00:39:35,106 I think that's so special. 1254 00:39:35,106 --> 00:39:36,574 - Oh, it was truly special. 1255 00:39:36,574 --> 00:39:38,910 I mean, I was so nervous coming into all of this. 1256 00:39:38,910 --> 00:39:41,813 And, like, I really didn't know what I was walking into. 1257 00:39:41,813 --> 00:39:44,115 You truly can't prepare for something like this. 1258 00:39:44,115 --> 00:39:46,818 And so just to have that little comfort from home 1259 00:39:46,818 --> 00:39:50,321 and someone who's so close to me, it was really good. 1260 00:39:50,321 --> 00:39:51,823 - Especially on night one. - Especially on night one. 1261 00:39:51,823 --> 00:39:53,992 - When you know the nerves are literally sky high. 1262 00:39:53,992 --> 00:39:55,460 Of course, by the end of the night, 1263 00:39:55,460 --> 00:39:57,195 you had given your First Impression Rose 1264 00:39:57,195 --> 00:39:58,596 to Brayden. - Mm-hmm. 1265 00:39:58,596 --> 00:40:00,465 - What was it about Brayden that you liked so much? 1266 00:40:00,465 --> 00:40:03,768 - Yeah, I think we just, like, really clicked. 1267 00:40:03,768 --> 00:40:05,603 And, like, he has a very charismatic energy 1268 00:40:05,603 --> 00:40:06,838 and personality. 1269 00:40:06,838 --> 00:40:08,840 Obviously, like, the chemistry was there, so... 1270 00:40:08,840 --> 00:40:09,941 It was there. - I was just gonna say, 1271 00:40:09,941 --> 00:40:11,009 you could really see the chemistry. 1272 00:40:11,009 --> 00:40:12,176 You could feel it, too. 1273 00:40:12,176 --> 00:40:13,711 It wasn't too long after that, though, 1274 00:40:13,711 --> 00:40:15,380 that he started voicing some concerns 1275 00:40:15,380 --> 00:40:16,881 about this whole process... - Yeah. 1276 00:40:16,881 --> 00:40:19,183 - And whether or not he could get to an engagement 1277 00:40:19,183 --> 00:40:20,752 in this environment. 1278 00:40:20,752 --> 00:40:22,287 Is there anything you'd like to say to him? 1279 00:40:22,287 --> 00:40:25,490 - Uh, yeah, I mean, obviously, like, 1280 00:40:25,490 --> 00:40:26,958 I'm just gonna start off by saying, like, obviously, 1281 00:40:26,958 --> 00:40:30,228 thank you for, like, coming on this whole journey. 1282 00:40:30,228 --> 00:40:33,398 It was an honor and pleasure meeting you. 1283 00:40:33,398 --> 00:40:35,066 I will be honest. 1284 00:40:35,066 --> 00:40:37,902 I did not like how you talked about our relationship 1285 00:40:37,902 --> 00:40:39,137 to a lot of the guys. 1286 00:40:39,137 --> 00:40:41,205 That was really hard for me to watch back. 1287 00:40:41,205 --> 00:40:45,143 I was caught off guard by, like, you know, 1288 00:40:45,143 --> 00:40:47,679 the comments of, like, wanting me to not-- 1289 00:40:47,679 --> 00:40:49,647 like, you know, turn off of being the Bachelorette, 1290 00:40:49,647 --> 00:40:51,516 of just, like, wanting to see me off. 1291 00:40:51,516 --> 00:40:53,184 And I'm like, I feel like I was 1292 00:40:53,184 --> 00:40:55,820 my 100% authentic self to you the whole time. 1293 00:40:55,820 --> 00:40:59,023 I don't think I ever put on for anybody in this house. 1294 00:40:59,023 --> 00:41:00,858 And I hope a lot of the guys 1295 00:41:00,858 --> 00:41:02,460 could also, like, testify to that. 1296 00:41:02,460 --> 00:41:05,596 But at the end of the day, I don't regret anything. 1297 00:41:05,596 --> 00:41:07,098 I gave you a lot more grace than I think 1298 00:41:07,098 --> 00:41:09,334 I should have given you, if I'm being honest. 1299 00:41:09,334 --> 00:41:13,271 But just grateful for the whole experience. 1300 00:41:13,271 --> 00:41:14,872 So we'll leave it at that. 1301 00:41:14,872 --> 00:41:17,141 [cheers and applause] 1302 00:41:17,141 --> 00:41:19,677 - She's 100% valid in how she's feeling about that. 1303 00:41:19,677 --> 00:41:21,045 From the very beginning, I wasn't sure 1304 00:41:21,045 --> 00:41:23,848 if the environment was the best environment for me. 1305 00:41:23,848 --> 00:41:25,817 But the only thing that, like, I took out of it 1306 00:41:25,817 --> 00:41:27,385 was the fact that I really liked you. 1307 00:41:27,385 --> 00:41:28,853 I felt like every time we hung out, 1308 00:41:28,853 --> 00:41:30,755 every time we got to spend that time together, 1309 00:41:30,755 --> 00:41:32,390 there was that spark that, you know, 1310 00:41:32,390 --> 00:41:33,791 you want when you meet someone. 1311 00:41:33,791 --> 00:41:37,328 And so, like, that's why I wanted to stay. 1312 00:41:37,328 --> 00:41:39,697 That's what I was really trying to stay for. 1313 00:41:39,697 --> 00:41:41,332 I could have been better about sharing 1314 00:41:41,332 --> 00:41:42,600 some of the stuff with the guys. 1315 00:41:42,600 --> 00:41:44,435 It's hard when the questions are being asked 1316 00:41:44,435 --> 00:41:46,804 to kind of just, like, keep quiet, to be honest, 1317 00:41:46,804 --> 00:41:48,539 and it's probably not my best suit. 1318 00:41:48,539 --> 00:41:50,241 And, again, I'm sorry if that-- 1319 00:41:50,241 --> 00:41:51,876 you know, me talking to the guys definitely 1320 00:41:51,876 --> 00:41:53,478 hurt you in any way-- that wasn't my intention. 1321 00:41:53,478 --> 00:41:55,813 But I'm grateful for getting to meet you. 1322 00:41:55,813 --> 00:41:57,181 I'm grateful for getting to have the time 1323 00:41:57,181 --> 00:41:58,483 I got to have with you. - Mm-hmm. 1324 00:41:58,483 --> 00:42:00,852 - And, yeah. - Thank you. 1325 00:42:00,852 --> 00:42:02,687 [cheers and applause] 1326 00:42:02,687 --> 00:42:04,022 - All right, well, Sean, you had one 1327 00:42:04,022 --> 00:42:06,124 of the more emotional goodbyes of the season. 1328 00:42:06,124 --> 00:42:08,593 What would you like to say to Charity? 1329 00:42:08,593 --> 00:42:10,294 - Can I come up there? - Hi. 1330 00:42:10,294 --> 00:42:11,696 Oh, is he coming up? - Hi. If it's all right, yeah. 1331 00:42:11,696 --> 00:42:12,797 - Okay. 1332 00:42:12,797 --> 00:42:15,800 - I was thinking a lot about, like, 1333 00:42:15,800 --> 00:42:17,702 any question that I had--sorry. - Okay. 1334 00:42:17,702 --> 00:42:19,103 No, you're fine. 1335 00:42:19,103 --> 00:42:20,304 - But I really don't have 1336 00:42:20,304 --> 00:42:21,639 any questions at all. - Okay. 1337 00:42:21,639 --> 00:42:23,007 I think, like, the entire time, you did nothing 1338 00:42:23,007 --> 00:42:24,308 but, like, follow your heart. 1339 00:42:24,308 --> 00:42:26,911 And, like, when you have 25 people here, like, 1340 00:42:26,911 --> 00:42:28,346 people end up getting hurt. - Mm-hmm. 1341 00:42:28,346 --> 00:42:30,348 - But I wanted to thank you for being the Bachelorette 1342 00:42:30,348 --> 00:42:32,617 'cause you showed us nothing but grace and class 1343 00:42:32,617 --> 00:42:34,218 the entire time. - Thank you. 1344 00:42:34,218 --> 00:42:36,020 - You allowed us to, like, open up and feel 1345 00:42:36,020 --> 00:42:38,589 comfortable in situations that, in turn, I felt feelings 1346 00:42:38,589 --> 00:42:39,857 I haven't felt in so long. - Mm-hmm. 1347 00:42:39,857 --> 00:42:40,958 - So thank you for that. 1348 00:42:40,958 --> 00:42:42,727 You made all of us better men. 1349 00:42:42,727 --> 00:42:43,795 So I just want to say thank you. 1350 00:42:43,795 --> 00:42:44,796 I have no questions. - Thank you. 1351 00:42:44,796 --> 00:42:46,197 That was sweet. Thank you, Sean. 1352 00:42:46,197 --> 00:42:48,232 - Did you just invite yourself in your own hot seat? 1353 00:42:48,232 --> 00:42:49,934 - I was like-- 1354 00:42:49,934 --> 00:42:50,935 - Sean, go back to your seat. 1355 00:42:50,935 --> 00:42:52,036 Go back right now. 1356 00:42:52,036 --> 00:42:53,037 - Sorry about that. 1357 00:42:53,037 --> 00:42:54,772 - You have to be invited up here. 1358 00:42:54,772 --> 00:42:56,407 He broke the Bachelor hot seat code. 1359 00:42:56,407 --> 00:42:57,742 - He literally did. 1360 00:42:57,742 --> 00:42:59,210 - You don't invite yourself into the hot seat. 1361 00:42:59,210 --> 00:43:00,411 - Sorry. 1362 00:43:00,411 --> 00:43:02,046 - That was nice, though, so thank you, Sean. 1363 00:43:02,046 --> 00:43:04,082 - Tanner, obviously, you went home 1364 00:43:04,082 --> 00:43:06,851 in New Orleans that-- one step away 1365 00:43:06,851 --> 00:43:08,319 from getting a Hometown date, 1366 00:43:08,319 --> 00:43:10,321 bringing Charity home to meet your family. 1367 00:43:10,321 --> 00:43:11,722 What would you like to say to Charity? 1368 00:43:11,722 --> 00:43:13,691 - Yeah, I really don't have any questions 1369 00:43:13,691 --> 00:43:14,892 because I feel like... - Yeah. 1370 00:43:14,892 --> 00:43:16,861 - We didn't really leave any stone unturned. 1371 00:43:16,861 --> 00:43:20,431 And I feel like throughout my experience, 1372 00:43:20,431 --> 00:43:21,699 you know, we continued to meet 1373 00:43:21,699 --> 00:43:23,101 each other halfway. - Yeah. 1374 00:43:23,101 --> 00:43:25,002 - And I continued to check in with you. 1375 00:43:25,002 --> 00:43:28,005 And I just wanted to try to, you know, 1376 00:43:28,005 --> 00:43:30,174 create an organic relationship, right, 1377 00:43:30,174 --> 00:43:31,742 in, like, the most un-organic way possible. 1378 00:43:31,742 --> 00:43:33,277 - Truly. [laughs] 1379 00:43:33,277 --> 00:43:35,146 - And that's why I never wanted to put any pressure on you. 1380 00:43:35,146 --> 00:43:36,247 You know, I wasn't ever trying 1381 00:43:36,247 --> 00:43:38,049 to put you in a certain position. 1382 00:43:38,049 --> 00:43:39,484 But thank you. 1383 00:43:39,484 --> 00:43:41,152 I mean, it was one of the best experiences of my life. 1384 00:43:41,152 --> 00:43:42,887 So, no questions, just want to let you know that. 1385 00:43:42,887 --> 00:43:44,755 - Thank you, Tanner. Thank you. 1386 00:43:44,755 --> 00:43:47,225 [cheers and applause] 1387 00:43:47,225 --> 00:43:49,360 - All right, John, obviously, you were really frustrated 1388 00:43:49,360 --> 00:43:50,695 in Washington when you went home. 1389 00:43:50,695 --> 00:43:52,130 Is there anything that you didn't get to say 1390 00:43:52,130 --> 00:43:53,798 to Charity then that you wish you could now? 1391 00:43:53,798 --> 00:43:57,768 - Please take me back. [laughter] 1392 00:43:57,768 --> 00:43:59,036 I won't lie. 1393 00:43:59,036 --> 00:44:01,139 You know, when I got let go in Skamania, 1394 00:44:01,139 --> 00:44:02,507 I was surprised. 1395 00:44:02,507 --> 00:44:04,142 And no disrespect to the guys who made it further, 1396 00:44:04,142 --> 00:44:06,511 but I felt like we had a stronger connection 1397 00:44:06,511 --> 00:44:07,645 than some of the guys. 1398 00:44:07,645 --> 00:44:09,814 And so it did catch me off guard. 1399 00:44:09,814 --> 00:44:12,350 - Yeah. - So I guess my question is, 1400 00:44:12,350 --> 00:44:15,219 if you have any understanding of kind what happened? 1401 00:44:15,219 --> 00:44:17,388 - That's always, like, a tricky question to answer, 1402 00:44:17,388 --> 00:44:19,991 because I think, for me, it's like, it's never-- 1403 00:44:19,991 --> 00:44:22,627 I don't ever want anyone leaving this, like, experience 1404 00:44:22,627 --> 00:44:24,061 thinking that they did something wrong 1405 00:44:24,061 --> 00:44:26,264 or, like, they weren't enough. 1406 00:44:26,264 --> 00:44:28,399 It's just, honestly, what truly I think 1407 00:44:28,399 --> 00:44:30,835 I, like, am looking for or, like, what I need 1408 00:44:30,835 --> 00:44:33,171 as, like, the weeks progress. 1409 00:44:33,171 --> 00:44:35,339 But nothing that you did, and I don't want you 1410 00:44:35,339 --> 00:44:36,841 to think that because... - No. I appreciate it. 1411 00:44:36,841 --> 00:44:37,975 - You know, you're awesome. 1412 00:44:37,975 --> 00:44:39,510 And I've told you that. - Thank you. 1413 00:44:39,510 --> 00:44:41,078 - You're awesome. He is. 1414 00:44:41,078 --> 00:44:42,313 He's awesome. 1415 00:44:42,313 --> 00:44:45,316 [cheers and applause] 1416 00:44:45,316 --> 00:44:47,318 - We also do have to talk about the man 1417 00:44:47,318 --> 00:44:49,120 who you sent home in Fiji last week, 1418 00:44:49,120 --> 00:44:50,288 who is here with us tonight. 1419 00:44:50,288 --> 00:44:51,989 That's, of course, Xavier. 1420 00:44:51,989 --> 00:44:54,025 That was obviously a devastating breakup. 1421 00:44:54,025 --> 00:44:57,061 How does it feel to see Xavier for the first time 1422 00:44:57,061 --> 00:44:58,529 since that night? 1423 00:44:58,529 --> 00:44:59,730 - It's hard. Yeah. 1424 00:44:59,730 --> 00:45:01,232 - What's the hardest part about it? 1425 00:45:01,232 --> 00:45:03,935 - That was just, like, not something I saw coming. 1426 00:45:03,935 --> 00:45:07,138 I think, for me, in that moment 1427 00:45:07,138 --> 00:45:10,041 when me and Xavier had that conversation, 1428 00:45:10,041 --> 00:45:12,410 the way everything just, like, kind of came out, 1429 00:45:12,410 --> 00:45:14,045 I was like, this should have been 1430 00:45:14,045 --> 00:45:16,447 told to me way ahead of time. 1431 00:45:16,447 --> 00:45:18,583 It's like, you just don't wake up one morning 1432 00:45:18,583 --> 00:45:20,651 and feel like, okay, I just don't want to do-- 1433 00:45:20,651 --> 00:45:22,954 Like, that's not--like, you probably knew in the moment 1434 00:45:22,954 --> 00:45:24,589 when I had the conversation in New Orleans 1435 00:45:24,589 --> 00:45:26,090 whether or not this is something 1436 00:45:26,090 --> 00:45:27,425 that you saw with me. 1437 00:45:27,425 --> 00:45:30,895 And I don't think, honestly, at the end of it, 1438 00:45:30,895 --> 00:45:32,663 like, he really ever saw himself, 1439 00:45:32,663 --> 00:45:34,865 like, truly getting down on one knee 1440 00:45:34,865 --> 00:45:36,267 or just, like, being with me. 1441 00:45:36,267 --> 00:45:37,969 - Okay, I had a chance to speak to Xavier about it 1442 00:45:37,969 --> 00:45:39,437 a little bit earlier. - Yeah. 1443 00:45:39,437 --> 00:45:41,172 - I think you two have a lot that you should talk about. 1444 00:45:41,172 --> 00:45:42,907 Is it okay if we invite Xavier on up? 1445 00:45:42,907 --> 00:45:44,108 - Mm-hmm. Yeah. 1446 00:45:44,108 --> 00:45:46,244 - Xavier, why don't you come back, man? 1447 00:45:46,244 --> 00:45:47,812 [applause] 1448 00:45:47,812 --> 00:45:49,947 [tense music] 1449 00:45:49,947 --> 00:45:52,617 All right, well, before we get to this, 1450 00:45:52,617 --> 00:45:54,085 we are gonna take a quick break. 1451 00:45:54,085 --> 00:45:55,419 - Okay. 1452 00:45:55,419 --> 00:45:56,954 - Because when we come back, Xavier and Charity, 1453 00:45:56,954 --> 00:45:58,990 they're gonna be talking for the very first time 1454 00:45:58,990 --> 00:46:00,658 since that dramatic breakup in Fiji. 1455 00:46:00,658 --> 00:46:01,993 Stick around. 1456 00:46:01,993 --> 00:46:04,462 [indistinct chatter, applause] 1457 00:46:04,462 --> 00:46:08,599 ♪ ♪ 1458 00:46:10,534 --> 00:46:13,537 [tense music] 1459 00:46:13,537 --> 00:46:15,206 ♪ ♪ 1460 00:46:15,206 --> 00:46:16,474 - Welcome back, Bachelor Nation. 1461 00:46:16,474 --> 00:46:18,843 Obviously, I'm here now with Charity and Xavier. 1462 00:46:18,843 --> 00:46:20,077 They obviously haven't spoken 1463 00:46:20,077 --> 00:46:21,646 since that fateful night in Fiji. 1464 00:46:21,646 --> 00:46:23,080 So, Charity, Xavier... - [clears throat] 1465 00:46:23,080 --> 00:46:24,215 - I just wanted to open it up 1466 00:46:24,215 --> 00:46:25,816 to the two of you to talk to each other. 1467 00:46:25,816 --> 00:46:27,351 - Mm-hmm. - Floor is yours. 1468 00:46:27,351 --> 00:46:30,154 - So one thing I want to say is, like, I denounce cheating. 1469 00:46:30,154 --> 00:46:32,056 I don't think you should ever cheat. 1470 00:46:32,056 --> 00:46:34,225 And if you have a problem in your relationship, 1471 00:46:34,225 --> 00:46:37,061 you should focus on making it better. 1472 00:46:37,061 --> 00:46:41,198 And in Fiji, in my heart, there was no doubt 1473 00:46:41,198 --> 00:46:43,567 that I wanted to be with you 1474 00:46:43,567 --> 00:46:45,503 and that I was ready to be with you. 1475 00:46:45,503 --> 00:46:49,640 But in my head, I had that doubt, 1476 00:46:49,640 --> 00:46:54,045 and I didn't know how to suppress it. 1477 00:46:54,045 --> 00:46:57,515 I can be that faithful person. 1478 00:46:57,515 --> 00:47:00,651 It just didn't come out in the right way. 1479 00:47:00,651 --> 00:47:02,586 - We're a week out from a proposal, 1480 00:47:02,586 --> 00:47:04,955 and it's like, I almost wish that, okay, 1481 00:47:04,955 --> 00:47:07,658 maybe we could have had this conversation at Hometowns. 1482 00:47:07,658 --> 00:47:09,427 Or maybe we could have had this conversation, like, 1483 00:47:09,427 --> 00:47:11,595 I don't know, in New Orleans, in Washington, whenever. 1484 00:47:11,595 --> 00:47:12,797 - Right. - And it's like, 1485 00:47:12,797 --> 00:47:14,832 what you were saying to me just honestly 1486 00:47:14,832 --> 00:47:16,000 could have been a conversation 1487 00:47:16,000 --> 00:47:17,668 that would have saved me a lot of pain. 1488 00:47:17,668 --> 00:47:19,437 And I think, obviously, I hate to say it, 1489 00:47:19,437 --> 00:47:20,638 but, like, I don't think 1490 00:47:20,638 --> 00:47:22,440 I would have brought you to that point 1491 00:47:22,440 --> 00:47:25,676 because I would have known then that you were not ready. 1492 00:47:25,676 --> 00:47:28,012 Obviously, we're talking about, like, your infidelity 1493 00:47:28,012 --> 00:47:29,780 and, like, what that meant. 1494 00:47:29,780 --> 00:47:31,849 You were saying, "I don't want to cheat on you." 1495 00:47:31,849 --> 00:47:33,584 Well, instead of saying, "I don't want to cheat," 1496 00:47:33,584 --> 00:47:34,785 "I won't cheat on you." - Won't--exactly. 1497 00:47:34,785 --> 00:47:35,820 - Like, it's things like that. 1498 00:47:35,820 --> 00:47:37,221 It's like, that's plain and simple. 1499 00:47:37,221 --> 00:47:39,123 Like, if you have love for me or if you care for me, 1500 00:47:39,123 --> 00:47:40,891 you won't do that to a person that you're with. 1501 00:47:40,891 --> 00:47:42,660 Like, it's just plain and simple. 1502 00:47:42,660 --> 00:47:45,930 [cheers and applause] 1503 00:47:47,798 --> 00:47:49,567 Mm-hmm. - 100%. 1504 00:47:49,567 --> 00:47:51,502 - And then at the end, when I'm walking you out, 1505 00:47:51,502 --> 00:47:52,636 I'm putting you in the car, 1506 00:47:52,636 --> 00:47:55,106 and you decide to say, "I love you." 1507 00:47:55,106 --> 00:47:56,841 And it's like, you had all day. 1508 00:47:56,841 --> 00:47:58,642 We had a whole date that we spent together, 1509 00:47:58,642 --> 00:48:00,044 which was incredible. - Mm-hmm. 1510 00:48:00,044 --> 00:48:01,712 - And then we get to this dinner, and it's like, 1511 00:48:01,712 --> 00:48:03,781 that's the timing that you decide to just throw out, 1512 00:48:03,781 --> 00:48:05,516 "I love you." 1513 00:48:05,516 --> 00:48:07,785 Saying I love you is not gonna turn around the situation. 1514 00:48:07,785 --> 00:48:08,886 You said what you said, 1515 00:48:08,886 --> 00:48:10,254 and, like, that's just what it is. 1516 00:48:10,254 --> 00:48:12,456 So you just, like, kept almost essentially 1517 00:48:12,456 --> 00:48:13,858 digging yourself deeper. 1518 00:48:13,858 --> 00:48:16,794 And it's like, what the [bleep] is going on? 1519 00:48:16,794 --> 00:48:19,930 - I knew that you were sending me home at that point, 1520 00:48:19,930 --> 00:48:22,600 and I just wanted to let you know how I felt. 1521 00:48:22,600 --> 00:48:24,268 I just wanted to give us a chance... 1522 00:48:24,268 --> 00:48:26,470 - Yeah. - Because I really loved you 1523 00:48:26,470 --> 00:48:27,805 at that point. - Mm-hmm. 1524 00:48:27,805 --> 00:48:30,975 - And not knowing how you felt about me 1525 00:48:30,975 --> 00:48:33,711 really just, like, messed my mind up. 1526 00:48:33,711 --> 00:48:35,312 - But do you remember me-- 1527 00:48:35,312 --> 00:48:37,782 in that conversation, I asked you--I was like, 1528 00:48:37,782 --> 00:48:39,917 what reassurance do you need from me? 1529 00:48:39,917 --> 00:48:41,685 And I said, is it because I haven't verbalized 1530 00:48:41,685 --> 00:48:44,789 that I was in love with you yet? 1531 00:48:44,789 --> 00:48:47,191 And you said to me, like, no, that wasn't the case. 1532 00:48:47,191 --> 00:48:48,692 You just wanted to know, like, 1533 00:48:48,692 --> 00:48:50,327 okay, like, what are the things that you liked about me, 1534 00:48:50,327 --> 00:48:51,562 like, you know, all these things. 1535 00:48:51,562 --> 00:48:53,330 And it's like, Xavier, I've told you that. 1536 00:48:53,330 --> 00:48:54,698 I've told you that so many times 1537 00:48:54,698 --> 00:48:56,400 about what I liked about you 1538 00:48:56,400 --> 00:48:58,402 and where I was at with my feelings for you. 1539 00:48:58,402 --> 00:48:59,870 It's just, I hadn't said those words, 1540 00:48:59,870 --> 00:49:01,839 and, like, at that point, I hadn't said those words 1541 00:49:01,839 --> 00:49:03,107 to other people, too. 1542 00:49:03,107 --> 00:49:04,775 So it's like, I was just getting to a place 1543 00:49:04,775 --> 00:49:06,177 where I knew in my heart of hearts 1544 00:49:06,177 --> 00:49:07,378 that when I say those words, 1545 00:49:07,378 --> 00:49:08,779 like, it's not something I just say lightly. 1546 00:49:08,779 --> 00:49:10,448 I don't just toss around, like, "I love you." 1547 00:49:10,448 --> 00:49:11,949 Like, I'm not gonna just say it to you, 1548 00:49:11,949 --> 00:49:14,752 and I know, like, your commitment isn't to me. 1549 00:49:14,752 --> 00:49:17,154 And so me asking you in that conversation-- 1550 00:49:17,154 --> 00:49:19,323 I asked you so many times at that dinner, 1551 00:49:19,323 --> 00:49:20,791 like, do you trust yourself? 1552 00:49:20,791 --> 00:49:22,426 Do you trust yourself to be committed? 1553 00:49:22,426 --> 00:49:23,861 And, like, you told me time and time again, 1554 00:49:23,861 --> 00:49:25,296 it's like, I don't know. Like, I don't know. 1555 00:49:25,296 --> 00:49:26,997 Like, I don't know. Marriage scares me. 1556 00:49:26,997 --> 00:49:28,799 Like, commitment to one person scares me. 1557 00:49:28,799 --> 00:49:30,301 - Yeah. - Please, let me know 1558 00:49:30,301 --> 00:49:32,870 how the hell I'm supposed to, like, take that, and be like, 1559 00:49:32,870 --> 00:49:34,805 "Oh, this is great, like, this is solid." 1560 00:49:34,805 --> 00:49:37,141 Like, I'd be a fool to sit there and be like, all right, 1561 00:49:37,141 --> 00:49:38,943 he just told me, "I don't want commitment, 1562 00:49:38,943 --> 00:49:40,778 or I basically don't trust myself to commit." 1563 00:49:40,778 --> 00:49:42,513 So I don't-- 1564 00:49:42,513 --> 00:49:43,848 - 100%, I-- 1565 00:49:43,848 --> 00:49:46,684 [applause] 1566 00:49:49,019 --> 00:49:51,388 Yeah, so I think in a marriage-- 1567 00:49:51,388 --> 00:49:52,690 when you're getting married, 1568 00:49:52,690 --> 00:49:54,391 there's a fear of, like, commitment. 1569 00:49:54,391 --> 00:49:56,694 There's a fear of marrying the wrong person. 1570 00:49:56,694 --> 00:49:59,330 There's a fear of a lot of things. 1571 00:49:59,330 --> 00:50:01,265 - And that's fair. - And so that allowed-- 1572 00:50:01,265 --> 00:50:03,234 I allowed that to consume me... - Mm-hmm. 1573 00:50:03,234 --> 00:50:06,003 - Instead of, you know, allowing myself 1574 00:50:06,003 --> 00:50:10,174 to hone in on what was beautiful 1575 00:50:10,174 --> 00:50:13,210 about being with you. 1576 00:50:13,210 --> 00:50:15,779 I think about that conversation every day. 1577 00:50:15,779 --> 00:50:18,616 I sometimes shed tears about it 1578 00:50:18,616 --> 00:50:21,385 because it was really tough to, like... 1579 00:50:21,385 --> 00:50:23,454 share that part about me 1580 00:50:23,454 --> 00:50:25,956 and have it go, like... 1581 00:50:25,956 --> 00:50:27,658 so horribly. 1582 00:50:27,658 --> 00:50:31,762 Obviously, I wish my answers reflected the man 1583 00:50:31,762 --> 00:50:33,731 that I want to be in the future, 1584 00:50:33,731 --> 00:50:36,300 which is a faithful man to his wife. 1585 00:50:36,300 --> 00:50:38,836 And I just really want to, like, thank you 1586 00:50:38,836 --> 00:50:40,604 for allowing me in that space, 1587 00:50:40,604 --> 00:50:44,008 because it wasn't that I was trying to get there 1588 00:50:44,008 --> 00:50:45,209 to just have sex with you. 1589 00:50:45,209 --> 00:50:47,211 That was not my goal. 1590 00:50:47,211 --> 00:50:50,180 My goal was to hear more and deepen 1591 00:50:50,180 --> 00:50:52,983 that connection that we had. 1592 00:50:52,983 --> 00:50:55,753 I genuinely saw you as my wife. 1593 00:50:55,753 --> 00:50:59,390 - Mm-hmm. - And I... 1594 00:50:59,390 --> 00:51:03,494 was trying to do everything in my power 1595 00:51:03,494 --> 00:51:05,863 to allow you to know exactly who I was. 1596 00:51:05,863 --> 00:51:07,731 - Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. - Right. 1597 00:51:07,731 --> 00:51:08,766 - You were in love 1598 00:51:08,766 --> 00:51:10,134 with Charity in Fiji. - Yeah. 1599 00:51:10,134 --> 00:51:11,936 - What are your feelings toward her now? 1600 00:51:11,936 --> 00:51:13,103 - I'm not gonna lie to you. 1601 00:51:13,103 --> 00:51:14,271 I still have those feelings, 1602 00:51:14,271 --> 00:51:16,273 and it's great to sit next to you. 1603 00:51:16,273 --> 00:51:18,676 And I'm just happy that, you know, 1604 00:51:18,676 --> 00:51:21,845 I can bring this to some sort of closure 1605 00:51:21,845 --> 00:51:24,281 because I felt like... 1606 00:51:24,281 --> 00:51:27,384 we ended so abruptly. 1607 00:51:27,384 --> 00:51:29,486 And, like, I really kind of, like, 1608 00:51:29,486 --> 00:51:32,156 get really emotional about that 1609 00:51:32,156 --> 00:51:34,858 because... 1610 00:51:34,858 --> 00:51:36,660 it really messed me up. 1611 00:51:36,660 --> 00:51:38,228 Yeah, yeah. 1612 00:51:41,065 --> 00:51:43,100 I got one more thing, and I'll be right back. 1613 00:51:43,100 --> 00:51:44,702 - What? - Okay. 1614 00:51:44,702 --> 00:51:47,705 [soft music] 1615 00:51:47,705 --> 00:51:51,508 ♪ ♪ 1616 00:51:51,508 --> 00:51:55,646 [indistinct whispering] 1617 00:51:55,646 --> 00:51:58,916 So, I think, Charity, you definitely carried yourself 1618 00:51:58,916 --> 00:52:01,719 with grace and poise. - Mm-hmm. 1619 00:52:01,719 --> 00:52:05,356 - And I just wanted to make you this knit rose to just... 1620 00:52:05,356 --> 00:52:06,557 - Thank you. 1621 00:52:06,557 --> 00:52:10,194 - Show you that I definitely cared. 1622 00:52:10,194 --> 00:52:14,732 And at the end of the day, I'm super happy 1623 00:52:14,732 --> 00:52:17,334 and hopeful that you found your forever person. 1624 00:52:17,334 --> 00:52:19,269 - Mm-hmm. - It sucks that it wasn't me. 1625 00:52:19,269 --> 00:52:22,106 But I understand that you're gonna do great things. 1626 00:52:22,106 --> 00:52:23,641 - Thank you. 1627 00:52:23,641 --> 00:52:26,410 I hope that you do take this and use it to your advantage. 1628 00:52:26,410 --> 00:52:28,545 I'm glad that we obviously got to talk about this. 1629 00:52:28,545 --> 00:52:30,614 And hopefully, like, 1630 00:52:30,614 --> 00:52:32,683 moving forward, like, I wish you the best. 1631 00:52:32,683 --> 00:52:34,785 - I'm really happy that you had this chance 1632 00:52:34,785 --> 00:52:36,987 to really hash this out and talk face-to-face, too. 1633 00:52:36,987 --> 00:52:38,455 So, Xavier, thank you again for being here so much. 1634 00:52:38,455 --> 00:52:39,723 - Absolutely. Thank you. 1635 00:52:39,723 --> 00:52:41,725 - Okay, when we return, we got more with Charity 1636 00:52:41,725 --> 00:52:44,728 and the men on this very special 20th anniversary 1637 00:52:44,728 --> 00:52:46,230 of "The Bachelorette," "The Men Tell All." 1638 00:52:46,230 --> 00:52:48,799 And then later, the Golden Bachelor is here. 1639 00:52:48,799 --> 00:52:50,267 So how does he feel about making out 1640 00:52:50,267 --> 00:52:51,669 with a bunch of women? 1641 00:52:51,669 --> 00:52:54,004 You're gonna find out 'cause I'm gonna ask him. 1642 00:52:54,004 --> 00:52:55,639 It's all coming up, so don't go away. 1643 00:52:55,639 --> 00:52:58,842 ♪ ♪ 1644 00:53:00,277 --> 00:53:02,813 [cheers and applause] 1645 00:53:02,813 --> 00:53:05,716 [upbeat music] 1646 00:53:05,716 --> 00:53:07,551 - Welcome back to "The Men Tell All." 1647 00:53:07,551 --> 00:53:09,753 Of course, I'm here right now with our Bachelorette, Charity. 1648 00:53:09,753 --> 00:53:10,821 How you doing so far? 1649 00:53:10,821 --> 00:53:12,256 - I'm doing great. - You holding up? 1650 00:53:12,256 --> 00:53:13,624 - Yeah, this has been great. - It has been great. 1651 00:53:13,624 --> 00:53:16,126 It's obviously been a very revealing night so far. 1652 00:53:16,126 --> 00:53:17,261 - Yeah. Yeah. 1653 00:53:17,261 --> 00:53:19,430 - And it's actually now about to get 1654 00:53:19,430 --> 00:53:21,799 a little bit more revealing. - Oh, great. [laughs] 1655 00:53:21,799 --> 00:53:23,067 In what ways? 1656 00:53:23,067 --> 00:53:25,436 - In a fun way, because we're about to take 1657 00:53:25,436 --> 00:53:27,871 a look back at a few moments that, Bachelor Nation, 1658 00:53:27,871 --> 00:53:29,139 you never got to see. 1659 00:53:29,139 --> 00:53:31,475 Now, some of them are funny, some of them are 1660 00:53:31,475 --> 00:53:32,943 a bit embarrassing. - Oh, no. 1661 00:53:32,943 --> 00:53:34,978 - And some of them are just downright outrageous. 1662 00:53:34,978 --> 00:53:36,113 Charity, you haven't seen any of this. 1663 00:53:36,113 --> 00:53:37,214 - I don't know what's happening. 1664 00:53:37,214 --> 00:53:38,649 - Are you ready? - I don't know--Yeah. 1665 00:53:38,649 --> 00:53:40,451 - Guys, you might want to cover your eyes. 1666 00:53:40,451 --> 00:53:42,853 All right, well, "Barbie" has taken the country by storm, 1667 00:53:42,853 --> 00:53:45,222 and Bachelor Nation is no different. 1668 00:53:45,222 --> 00:53:47,558 On the group date in Oceanside, Charity, of course, 1669 00:53:47,558 --> 00:53:51,495 was our Barbie, but were any of the guys Ken-ough for her? 1670 00:53:51,495 --> 00:53:52,496 [laughter] 1671 00:53:52,496 --> 00:53:54,331 [quirky music] 1672 00:53:54,331 --> 00:53:56,600 - I feel like we need to give each of them 1673 00:53:56,600 --> 00:53:59,169 a moment to kind of, like, show off their looks. 1674 00:53:59,169 --> 00:54:00,971 - Oh, like a little mini-fashion-show moment. 1675 00:54:00,971 --> 00:54:02,606 - A little fashion show? Strut. 1676 00:54:02,606 --> 00:54:04,308 - Cowboy Ken, come on up. 1677 00:54:04,308 --> 00:54:06,744 - Come on down. [people cheering] 1678 00:54:06,744 --> 00:54:08,345 Oh, he got a lasso. - Oh! 1679 00:54:08,345 --> 00:54:09,346 - Ooh! 1680 00:54:09,346 --> 00:54:10,748 - I am Barbie today. 1681 00:54:10,748 --> 00:54:13,484 Oh, God, I'm scared. [chuckles] 1682 00:54:13,484 --> 00:54:15,586 And I'm looking for my perfect Ken. 1683 00:54:15,586 --> 00:54:18,288 - O, that's good. Yeah, yeah. - Oh, that was cute! 1684 00:54:18,288 --> 00:54:20,858 - Now, Cowboy Ken, they gonna see right through his act. 1685 00:54:20,858 --> 00:54:22,559 He's not really the cowboy they think he is. 1686 00:54:22,559 --> 00:54:24,495 He's too fashionable to be a cowboy. 1687 00:54:24,495 --> 00:54:26,196 [laughter] 1688 00:54:26,196 --> 00:54:27,598 [indistinct chatter] 1689 00:54:27,598 --> 00:54:29,299 - I am Ice Skating Ken. 1690 00:54:29,299 --> 00:54:30,868 Movement's gonna be limited, 1691 00:54:30,868 --> 00:54:33,003 but I'm gonna do my best to--to-- 1692 00:54:33,003 --> 00:54:35,239 to--you know, a little double triple axel. 1693 00:54:35,239 --> 00:54:36,907 Whoa. See? 1694 00:54:36,907 --> 00:54:39,309 [indistinct chatter] - What is the bucket? 1695 00:54:39,309 --> 00:54:41,378 - This date takes a whole lot of balls. 1696 00:54:41,378 --> 00:54:42,746 - You're not wrong. 1697 00:54:42,746 --> 00:54:45,816 - And, sadly, Birthday Suit Ken doesn't have any. 1698 00:54:45,816 --> 00:54:48,285 [laughter] 1699 00:54:48,285 --> 00:54:50,654 [cheers and applause] 1700 00:54:50,654 --> 00:54:52,623 - All right, so I gotta know-- 1701 00:54:52,623 --> 00:54:54,825 did any of you guys keep the Ken costumes, 1702 00:54:54,825 --> 00:54:56,426 and have you been wearing them at home? 1703 00:54:56,426 --> 00:54:57,628 Caleb? 1704 00:54:57,628 --> 00:54:59,096 - I wear it on a daily basis. 1705 00:54:59,096 --> 00:55:00,364 I mean--I'm kidding. 1706 00:55:00,364 --> 00:55:01,899 - I mean, clearly. [laughs] 1707 00:55:01,899 --> 00:55:03,600 - I literally brought the coat here. 1708 00:55:03,600 --> 00:55:04,802 I was gonna wear it. - Did you? 1709 00:55:04,802 --> 00:55:06,470 - I didn't want to-- You know what I'm saying? 1710 00:55:06,470 --> 00:55:07,971 I didn't want to steal the show. 1711 00:55:07,971 --> 00:55:09,373 [laughter] 1712 00:55:09,373 --> 00:55:10,974 - I know John can't wear his costume around because-- 1713 00:55:10,974 --> 00:55:12,943 - Yeah, I burned it. Yeah. - You would get arre-- 1714 00:55:12,943 --> 00:55:14,411 - America saw too much of me there. 1715 00:55:14,411 --> 00:55:16,480 - You would get arrested for indecent exposure, for sure. 1716 00:55:16,480 --> 00:55:18,115 [applause] 1717 00:55:18,115 --> 00:55:20,751 Now, obviously, you all saw the dodgeball date, right? 1718 00:55:20,751 --> 00:55:22,052 But what you didn't get to see 1719 00:55:22,052 --> 00:55:24,822 was the intense preparation 1720 00:55:24,822 --> 00:55:26,957 that these guys put in before the game. 1721 00:55:26,957 --> 00:55:30,527 Oh, yeah, let's just say, it got a little hairy. 1722 00:55:30,527 --> 00:55:32,095 [laughter] 1723 00:55:32,095 --> 00:55:33,997 You're all gonna be going head-to-head 1724 00:55:33,997 --> 00:55:35,766 in a dodgeball game. 1725 00:55:35,766 --> 00:55:38,735 [all cheering] - Let's go! 1726 00:55:38,735 --> 00:55:40,704 - Ah, there's one thing I forgot, though. 1727 00:55:40,704 --> 00:55:41,872 - [laughing] 1728 00:55:41,872 --> 00:55:44,441 - We gotta get your uniforms. 1729 00:55:44,441 --> 00:55:47,811 [cheering, laughter] 1730 00:55:47,811 --> 00:55:49,146 - Oh-ho-ho. 1731 00:55:49,146 --> 00:55:50,714 - I mean, come on, Jesse. 1732 00:55:50,714 --> 00:55:51,815 I don't know-- 1733 00:55:51,815 --> 00:55:54,017 Oh, I forgot, these are your uniforms. 1734 00:55:54,017 --> 00:55:55,185 What is that? 1735 00:55:55,185 --> 00:55:57,554 - Oh, dude, this is so tight. 1736 00:55:57,554 --> 00:55:58,655 Oh, my God. 1737 00:55:58,655 --> 00:55:59,823 - That's not gonna fit. 1738 00:55:59,823 --> 00:56:01,325 - This is wild. Okay. 1739 00:56:01,325 --> 00:56:03,227 - These aren't even men's. 1740 00:56:03,227 --> 00:56:04,995 - What is this? This is not--what is this? 1741 00:56:04,995 --> 00:56:07,130 Is this the Spice channel? [laughs] 1742 00:56:07,130 --> 00:56:08,265 - How's the booty look? 1743 00:56:08,265 --> 00:56:10,067 - Well, shoot. - It's a little hairy. 1744 00:56:10,067 --> 00:56:12,569 - Should we do a little trim, butt trim? 1745 00:56:12,569 --> 00:56:15,372 - I do believe in manscaping. 1746 00:56:15,372 --> 00:56:17,674 [shaver buzzing, laughter] 1747 00:56:17,674 --> 00:56:20,677 But the last five days, the battery ran out. 1748 00:56:20,677 --> 00:56:22,846 So I'm looking clean on the front 1749 00:56:22,846 --> 00:56:24,448 and full kitten on the back. 1750 00:56:24,448 --> 00:56:26,083 Help! 1751 00:56:26,083 --> 00:56:28,051 [laughter] 1752 00:56:28,051 --> 00:56:29,553 Help! 1753 00:56:29,553 --> 00:56:32,756 [cheers and applause] 1754 00:56:32,756 --> 00:56:35,125 - All right, Aaron, you have to educate America. 1755 00:56:35,125 --> 00:56:37,427 What does "full kitten in the back" mean? 1756 00:56:37,427 --> 00:56:38,929 - Uh... - Full bush? 1757 00:56:38,929 --> 00:56:41,298 - Exactly what you'd imagine full kitten in the back is-- 1758 00:56:41,298 --> 00:56:44,001 just you're clean cut, hardwood floors, 1759 00:56:44,001 --> 00:56:45,802 and then the back is all carpet. 1760 00:56:45,802 --> 00:56:47,871 [laughter] Yeah. 1761 00:56:47,871 --> 00:56:49,573 - For anybody that says "The Bachelorette" 1762 00:56:49,573 --> 00:56:51,441 is not an educational show... - Yeah. 1763 00:56:51,441 --> 00:56:53,443 - Obviously, you're not watching. 1764 00:56:53,443 --> 00:56:54,878 [applause] 1765 00:56:54,878 --> 00:56:57,014 All right, well, there are so many really funny moments 1766 00:56:57,014 --> 00:56:59,416 that Bachelor Nation never got to see, right? 1767 00:56:59,416 --> 00:57:02,152 I'm talking about bloopers! 1768 00:57:02,152 --> 00:57:04,488 [cheers and applause] Y'all ready to see them? 1769 00:57:04,488 --> 00:57:07,224 Charity, let's do this. You know 'em. You love 'em. 1770 00:57:07,224 --> 00:57:08,992 Here they are, bloopers. 1771 00:57:08,992 --> 00:57:10,761 [cheers and applause] 1772 00:57:10,761 --> 00:57:11,962 - Charity, there's more about me 1773 00:57:11,962 --> 00:57:13,997 that, obviously, that you don't know, too. 1774 00:57:13,997 --> 00:57:15,832 - Yeah. [door slamming] 1775 00:57:15,832 --> 00:57:17,067 And I don't know. 1776 00:57:17,067 --> 00:57:18,669 This connection that you can build with people 1777 00:57:18,669 --> 00:57:20,470 is, like, so special... - Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. 1778 00:57:20,470 --> 00:57:22,306 and it's like--I love this. [door creaking] 1779 00:57:22,306 --> 00:57:23,974 - Mm-hmm. I do, too. - You know, I love learning 1780 00:57:23,974 --> 00:57:25,309 about people and... [banging] 1781 00:57:25,309 --> 00:57:27,144 Feeling things, and this-- 1782 00:57:27,144 --> 00:57:28,578 I think someone's dead. - [laughs] 1783 00:57:28,578 --> 00:57:29,980 - Everything okay? - Oopsies. 1784 00:57:29,980 --> 00:57:33,250 - All right, three, two, one. 1785 00:57:33,250 --> 00:57:34,451 [crashing] 1786 00:57:34,451 --> 00:57:35,585 Oh! 1787 00:57:35,585 --> 00:57:36,586 Oh, my God. 1788 00:57:36,586 --> 00:57:38,021 Oh, did I break it? 1789 00:57:38,021 --> 00:57:40,057 - Athlete! [crashing] 1790 00:57:40,057 --> 00:57:41,625 - Oh, no! 1791 00:57:41,625 --> 00:57:42,693 - Opa! 1792 00:57:42,693 --> 00:57:44,795 - Sean, are you kidding me, Sean? 1793 00:57:44,795 --> 00:57:47,564 - Like, the group setting is obviously way more intimate 1794 00:57:47,564 --> 00:57:49,700 with her walking in-- - Ooh, heads up. Heads up. 1795 00:57:49,700 --> 00:57:51,001 [crashing] - Whoa! 1796 00:57:51,001 --> 00:57:52,803 - How did you see that? 1797 00:57:52,803 --> 00:57:54,104 - Ah, the Aarons, I love you, dude. 1798 00:57:54,104 --> 00:57:55,605 - The Aarons. I love you too, dude. 1799 00:57:55,605 --> 00:57:57,741 - Oh, my leg. Ow! My head. 1800 00:57:57,741 --> 00:57:59,543 What the hell is that? 1801 00:57:59,543 --> 00:58:00,944 - Oh, God. 1802 00:58:00,944 --> 00:58:02,279 - Oh, my God. 1803 00:58:02,279 --> 00:58:04,114 They got low-hanging [bleep] here. 1804 00:58:04,114 --> 00:58:05,215 - And whatever I need to do 1805 00:58:05,215 --> 00:58:06,216 to, you know, keep earning time... 1806 00:58:06,216 --> 00:58:07,617 - Whoo! 1807 00:58:07,617 --> 00:58:08,986 - And keep, you know, growing as an individual here... 1808 00:58:08,986 --> 00:58:10,087 - It's game time, baby! 1809 00:58:10,087 --> 00:58:11,088 - But also showing Charity who I am. 1810 00:58:11,088 --> 00:58:12,189 - Ow! - I'm pumped. 1811 00:58:12,189 --> 00:58:13,357 I'm not gonna leave anything back. 1812 00:58:13,357 --> 00:58:14,591 - Hey, I scream! - Want to start screaming? 1813 00:58:14,591 --> 00:58:15,792 - Do I want to start screaming? 1814 00:58:15,792 --> 00:58:17,160 Hell, yeah, I want to start screaming. 1815 00:58:17,160 --> 00:58:20,063 Hey, we're talking over here! 1816 00:58:20,063 --> 00:58:22,132 - You could use this one-on-one time? 1817 00:58:22,132 --> 00:58:24,301 - Yeah, yeah, for sure. 1818 00:58:24,301 --> 00:58:27,838 Yeah, thank you. Thank you. 1819 00:58:27,838 --> 00:58:30,407 - They can pound sand, LBS sand, baby. 1820 00:58:30,407 --> 00:58:34,044 L-B-S. That's a wrap. 1821 00:58:34,044 --> 00:58:35,912 - Oh! Whoa! Okay. 1822 00:58:35,912 --> 00:58:38,048 all: Hey! 1823 00:58:38,048 --> 00:58:42,152 [upbeat music] 1824 00:58:42,152 --> 00:58:44,221 - Stay here. Be my Will Smith. 1825 00:58:44,221 --> 00:58:46,089 ♪ ♪ 1826 00:58:46,089 --> 00:58:48,859 [cheers and applause] 1827 00:58:48,859 --> 00:58:50,594 - [vocalizing goofily] 1828 00:58:50,594 --> 00:58:51,762 - I can moonwalk. 1829 00:58:51,762 --> 00:58:54,965 - The longest kiss in Bachelor history 1830 00:58:54,965 --> 00:58:56,967 is 3 minutes and 22 seconds, 1831 00:58:56,967 --> 00:58:59,369 and I'm about to break it. 1832 00:58:59,369 --> 00:59:02,639 [quirky music] 1833 00:59:02,639 --> 00:59:05,175 Eh, I'm gonna keep going. 1834 00:59:05,175 --> 00:59:09,513 ♪ ♪ 1835 00:59:09,513 --> 00:59:10,647 Whoo! 1836 00:59:10,647 --> 00:59:11,648 All right. 1837 00:59:11,648 --> 00:59:12,816 - Spicy? 1838 00:59:12,816 --> 00:59:14,418 - No, it feels good. 1839 00:59:14,418 --> 00:59:16,653 A little--Oh, God. 1840 00:59:16,653 --> 00:59:17,921 That was, like, overdose. 1841 00:59:17,921 --> 00:59:20,557 Oh, my God, my mouth is gonna be on fire. 1842 00:59:20,557 --> 00:59:22,759 [romantic music] 1843 00:59:22,759 --> 00:59:26,363 [audience whooping] 1844 00:59:26,363 --> 00:59:27,664 [person screaming] 1845 00:59:27,664 --> 00:59:28,698 [ominous music] 1846 00:59:28,698 --> 00:59:30,967 [romantic music] 1847 00:59:30,967 --> 00:59:31,968 - Oh, jeez. 1848 00:59:31,968 --> 00:59:34,271 [ominous music] 1849 00:59:34,271 --> 00:59:35,272 - Oh, no! 1850 00:59:35,272 --> 00:59:37,441 - [growling] 1851 00:59:37,441 --> 00:59:39,709 [laughter] 1852 00:59:39,709 --> 00:59:41,812 - There's no way. I just-- 1853 00:59:41,812 --> 00:59:43,313 Who is it? - It's Jesse Palmer. 1854 00:59:43,313 --> 00:59:44,981 - I wish you could have seen your faces. 1855 00:59:44,981 --> 00:59:46,583 - No way. - That was so good. 1856 00:59:46,583 --> 00:59:48,351 - I was just like, there's not a chance I'm looking at this. 1857 00:59:48,351 --> 00:59:50,020 - I was just going for a walk, getting some air. 1858 00:59:50,020 --> 00:59:52,289 You kids get back to doing what you were doing. 1859 00:59:52,289 --> 00:59:54,391 I need a burrito. 1860 00:59:54,391 --> 00:59:58,395 [cheers and applause] 1861 00:59:58,395 --> 01:00:01,064 Spent a lot of time in that Bigfoot costume, 1862 01:00:01,064 --> 01:00:02,599 maybe a little too much time. 1863 01:00:02,599 --> 01:00:05,335 You know, speaking of creatures, 1864 01:00:05,335 --> 01:00:06,536 look who's in the audience tonight. 1865 01:00:06,536 --> 01:00:08,405 We got Captain Tom. 1866 01:00:08,405 --> 01:00:12,109 He's the swamp boat captain who took Tanner and Sean out 1867 01:00:12,109 --> 01:00:13,410 on their two-on-one date. 1868 01:00:13,410 --> 01:00:15,545 Let's hear it for Captain Tom, everybody. 1869 01:00:15,545 --> 01:00:16,780 - Okay. [laughs] 1870 01:00:16,780 --> 01:00:18,548 - Captain Tom, it's so great seeing you here. 1871 01:00:18,548 --> 01:00:20,183 Obviously, you were on the two-on-one date 1872 01:00:20,183 --> 01:00:21,551 with both Sean and Tanner. 1873 01:00:21,551 --> 01:00:23,653 What was that date like for you? 1874 01:00:23,653 --> 01:00:25,489 - It was all right, yeah. 1875 01:00:25,489 --> 01:00:27,557 Uh, Miss Chastity there-- 1876 01:00:27,557 --> 01:00:28,658 - Charity. - Miss Charity. 1877 01:00:28,658 --> 01:00:30,227 - That's all right. [laughter] 1878 01:00:30,227 --> 01:00:32,696 - Chastity there. - He's gonna say it wrong. 1879 01:00:32,696 --> 01:00:35,198 - Or Charity--Charity. - Charity's there. 1880 01:00:35,198 --> 01:00:37,300 For Charity, she's a beautiful young lady, 1881 01:00:37,300 --> 01:00:39,703 and whoever she pick gonna be a lucky man. 1882 01:00:39,703 --> 01:00:41,304 - Thank you. 1883 01:00:41,304 --> 01:00:42,839 - So, obviously, you had a chance 1884 01:00:42,839 --> 01:00:45,742 to get to know both Tanner and Sean a little bit. 1885 01:00:45,742 --> 01:00:49,045 You know, Charity, she didn't hand out a rose on that date. 1886 01:00:49,045 --> 01:00:52,048 So, if it had been you handing out a rose, 1887 01:00:52,048 --> 01:00:54,317 Captain Tom, who would you have given it to? 1888 01:00:54,317 --> 01:00:55,519 - One like this? 1889 01:00:55,519 --> 01:00:57,554 - Yeah, like that. Where did that come from? 1890 01:00:57,554 --> 01:00:59,422 - I'll kill you. - Ah! 1891 01:00:59,422 --> 01:01:00,724 - It was both gentlemen on the boat. 1892 01:01:00,724 --> 01:01:02,225 They got along pretty good. 1893 01:01:02,225 --> 01:01:03,693 And I got to look at body action-- 1894 01:01:03,693 --> 01:01:05,028 who was getting along with who 1895 01:01:05,028 --> 01:01:06,696 and who focuses on who's talking 1896 01:01:06,696 --> 01:01:07,998 and who's actually listening. 1897 01:01:07,998 --> 01:01:09,499 And I was thinking, well, 1898 01:01:09,499 --> 01:01:11,268 Sean, if you'd accept this rose... 1899 01:01:11,268 --> 01:01:13,236 [cheers and applause] 1900 01:01:13,236 --> 01:01:15,472 - Wow. 1901 01:01:15,472 --> 01:01:16,640 - I get a rose? 1902 01:01:16,640 --> 01:01:17,707 - I don't know. 1903 01:01:17,707 --> 01:01:18,708 - Absolutely. 1904 01:01:18,708 --> 01:01:20,410 Here, give me a hug. - Okay. 1905 01:01:20,410 --> 01:01:21,745 - Sean, I gotta say, dude, listen, 1906 01:01:21,745 --> 01:01:23,246 I know you didn't get Charity's final rose, 1907 01:01:23,246 --> 01:01:25,382 but at least you're not going empty-handed tonight. 1908 01:01:25,382 --> 01:01:26,683 - It's a good consolation prize. 1909 01:01:26,683 --> 01:01:28,218 - You must be real proud of yourself. 1910 01:01:28,218 --> 01:01:29,419 - I'm all right. Yeah. 1911 01:01:29,419 --> 01:01:30,487 - Hey, listen, Captain Tom, 1912 01:01:30,487 --> 01:01:31,688 thank you so much for being here. 1913 01:01:31,688 --> 01:01:32,989 We really appreciate having you here. 1914 01:01:32,989 --> 01:01:34,391 Thank you, young pop. 1915 01:01:34,391 --> 01:01:36,459 All right, Charity, don't go anywhere. 1916 01:01:36,459 --> 01:01:38,795 Stick around, because when we come back, 1917 01:01:38,795 --> 01:01:41,131 we got some really special guests that are here, 1918 01:01:41,131 --> 01:01:42,666 and they want to say hi to you. 1919 01:01:42,666 --> 01:01:45,502 And then we've got Gerry the Golden Bachelor who's here. 1920 01:01:45,502 --> 01:01:46,970 So stick around, Bachelor Nation. 1921 01:01:46,970 --> 01:01:48,572 We'll be right back. 1922 01:01:48,572 --> 01:01:51,341 [cheers and applause] 1923 01:01:51,341 --> 01:01:55,545 ♪ ♪ 1924 01:01:57,514 --> 01:02:00,517 [upbeat music] 1925 01:02:00,517 --> 01:02:02,452 ♪ ♪ 1926 01:02:02,452 --> 01:02:04,354 - Welcome back to a very special edition-- 1927 01:02:04,354 --> 01:02:05,689 the 20th season 1928 01:02:05,689 --> 01:02:07,457 of "The Bachelorette," "The Men Tell All." 1929 01:02:07,457 --> 01:02:09,359 And, Charity, I just gotta tell you, 1930 01:02:09,359 --> 01:02:12,128 you have been an absolutely amazing Bachelorette. 1931 01:02:12,128 --> 01:02:13,463 - Thank you. Thank you. 1932 01:02:13,463 --> 01:02:15,298 - Just so much class, so much grace, 1933 01:02:15,298 --> 01:02:16,933 and you're so deserving. 1934 01:02:16,933 --> 01:02:18,668 And, you know, before we let you go... 1935 01:02:18,668 --> 01:02:19,836 - Yeah. - In celebration 1936 01:02:19,836 --> 01:02:21,671 of this great 20th season... - Yeah. 1937 01:02:21,671 --> 01:02:23,506 - I got a few friends here... - Okay. 1938 01:02:23,506 --> 01:02:25,642 - That think just as highly of you as I do. 1939 01:02:25,642 --> 01:02:28,511 And they may know a little something about everything 1940 01:02:28,511 --> 01:02:30,580 you've been going through. - Okay. [laughs] 1941 01:02:30,580 --> 01:02:33,850 - All right, everybody, please welcome former Bachelorettes 1942 01:02:33,850 --> 01:02:36,253 Trista Sutter, Desiree Siegfried, 1943 01:02:36,253 --> 01:02:38,054 and DeAnna Pappas. 1944 01:02:38,054 --> 01:02:41,324 [cheers and applause] 1945 01:02:41,324 --> 01:02:42,993 Hey. - Hi. 1946 01:02:45,128 --> 01:02:48,598 - So good seeing you. How are you? 1947 01:02:48,598 --> 01:02:50,967 - Hey. - Awesome, how's it going? 1948 01:02:50,967 --> 01:02:53,470 You look fantastic. Great seeing you. 1949 01:02:53,470 --> 01:02:54,671 - We're gonna squish on the couch. 1950 01:02:54,671 --> 01:02:56,106 - That's all right. - How cool is this, 1951 01:02:56,106 --> 01:02:57,440 by the way, to have them here? - You don't understand. 1952 01:02:57,440 --> 01:02:58,808 I'm, like, trying to keep it cool right now 1953 01:02:58,808 --> 01:03:00,143 because these are, like-- - Aww. 1954 01:03:00,143 --> 01:03:01,645 - No, for real, these are like OGs. 1955 01:03:01,645 --> 01:03:03,580 And it's like--especially Trista, like, we would not-- 1956 01:03:03,580 --> 01:03:06,583 I would not be here without you, like, seriously. 1957 01:03:06,583 --> 01:03:08,518 - They all are such superstars, obviously. 1958 01:03:08,518 --> 01:03:10,120 And, look, I know the three of you, 1959 01:03:10,120 --> 01:03:11,655 you don't need any introduction. 1960 01:03:11,655 --> 01:03:15,025 But here's just a little reminder of why 1961 01:03:15,025 --> 01:03:17,727 these queens are, well... - I don't want to cry. 1962 01:03:17,727 --> 01:03:18,895 - Queens. - I know. 1963 01:03:18,895 --> 01:03:22,032 [soft music] 1964 01:03:22,032 --> 01:03:26,403 - I am so excited. I am the Bachelorette. 1965 01:03:26,403 --> 01:03:29,673 Even though I did not meet, you know, my Prince Charming 1966 01:03:29,673 --> 01:03:31,174 on "The Bachelorette"... 1967 01:03:31,174 --> 01:03:33,176 Ooh, I'm scared. [chuckles] 1968 01:03:33,176 --> 01:03:36,413 I truly believe at that point in my life, 1969 01:03:36,413 --> 01:03:38,181 that is where I was supposed to be. 1970 01:03:38,181 --> 01:03:39,816 The show ultimately led me 1971 01:03:39,816 --> 01:03:43,053 to my two children, Addison and Austin. 1972 01:03:43,053 --> 01:03:44,321 [laughter] 1973 01:03:44,321 --> 01:03:46,323 I'm the happiest woman in the world. 1974 01:03:46,323 --> 01:03:47,991 ♪ ♪ 1975 01:03:47,991 --> 01:03:50,093 - Will you marry me? 1976 01:03:50,093 --> 01:03:52,629 - Yes, a thousand times. 1977 01:03:52,629 --> 01:03:59,002 ♪ ♪ 1978 01:03:59,002 --> 01:04:02,439 I want to grow old and gray. 1979 01:04:02,439 --> 01:04:07,877 ♪ ♪ 1980 01:04:07,877 --> 01:04:10,146 - It is out of love and affection 1981 01:04:10,146 --> 01:04:11,848 for Trista and Ryan, 1982 01:04:11,848 --> 01:04:14,751 I now pronounce you husband and wife. 1983 01:04:14,751 --> 01:04:16,986 Will you please kiss your bride? 1984 01:04:16,986 --> 01:04:19,923 ♪ ♪ 1985 01:04:19,923 --> 01:04:22,826 [cheers and applause] 1986 01:04:22,826 --> 01:04:25,962 ♪ ♪ 1987 01:04:25,962 --> 01:04:30,200 [cheers and applause] 1988 01:04:30,200 --> 01:04:32,168 - Oh, my God. 1989 01:04:32,168 --> 01:04:34,804 - We will be celebrating 20 years in December. 1990 01:04:34,804 --> 01:04:36,339 - Oh, my God. - Wow. 1991 01:04:36,339 --> 01:04:37,974 - I love that. - Yeah. 1992 01:04:37,974 --> 01:04:39,242 - It's crazy. 1993 01:04:39,242 --> 01:04:41,478 - I mean, it's amazing. - That's incredible. 1994 01:04:41,478 --> 01:04:42,946 - Aw, look at my-- 1995 01:04:42,946 --> 01:04:44,114 - Here's a picture of you and your family. 1996 01:04:44,114 --> 01:04:45,648 There's Ryan and the kids. 1997 01:04:45,648 --> 01:04:48,418 - I mean, Max just turned 16 years old yesterday. 1998 01:04:48,418 --> 01:04:49,853 I have a 16-year-old. - Oh, my God. 1999 01:04:49,853 --> 01:04:50,987 Happy birthday. 2000 01:04:50,987 --> 01:04:52,455 - But life is really good. 2001 01:04:52,455 --> 01:04:54,691 It's really hard to believe 2002 01:04:54,691 --> 01:04:57,827 that we were at the start of all of this. 2003 01:04:57,827 --> 01:05:02,332 And to think that this would be where we are now is... 2004 01:05:02,332 --> 01:05:04,200 - Insane. - It is insane. 2005 01:05:04,200 --> 01:05:06,236 - Des, what about you? What's the latest and greatest? 2006 01:05:06,236 --> 01:05:08,271 - I mean, our life is so normal, 2007 01:05:08,271 --> 01:05:11,441 and it's adventurous with two little boys running around. 2008 01:05:11,441 --> 01:05:13,777 Looking back at the proposal and stuff, 2009 01:05:13,777 --> 01:05:15,578 I feel so far removed, but it's such 2010 01:05:15,578 --> 01:05:19,649 a vital point in our story and in our journey. 2011 01:05:19,649 --> 01:05:21,351 So, when the boys are ready to find out 2012 01:05:21,351 --> 01:05:23,820 how Mommy and Daddy met, I'm gonna have to call you. 2013 01:05:23,820 --> 01:05:25,722 [laughter] 2014 01:05:25,722 --> 01:05:27,323 - DeAnna, what about you? Catch us up. 2015 01:05:27,323 --> 01:05:29,826 - Golly, where do I begin? 2016 01:05:29,826 --> 01:05:31,828 [laughter] 2017 01:05:31,828 --> 01:05:35,732 I'm in a bit of a transitional phase 2018 01:05:35,732 --> 01:05:37,200 and finding myself again. 2019 01:05:37,200 --> 01:05:38,835 I always knew I was pretty strong, 2020 01:05:38,835 --> 01:05:40,670 but I have learned just how resilient I truly am. 2021 01:05:40,670 --> 01:05:41,704 - Mm-hmm. 2022 01:05:41,704 --> 01:05:42,906 - And I'm single. - Amen. 2023 01:05:42,906 --> 01:05:44,073 - I'm single. - Whoo! 2024 01:05:44,073 --> 01:05:45,074 - Thank you. - She's single. 2025 01:05:45,074 --> 01:05:46,176 Let's get her a man. 2026 01:05:46,176 --> 01:05:47,310 - If you guys plan to do 2027 01:05:47,310 --> 01:05:49,479 a Golden Bachelorette, just call me. 2028 01:05:49,479 --> 01:05:50,880 - That's right! - Just call me. 2029 01:05:50,880 --> 01:05:52,449 - I think you have a long way off to go. 2030 01:05:52,449 --> 01:05:54,150 - I don't need to get married ever again. 2031 01:05:54,150 --> 01:05:55,985 - Charity, this is such a cool opportunity... 2032 01:05:55,985 --> 01:05:57,620 - Yeah. - And a moment, obviously, 2033 01:05:57,620 --> 01:05:59,522 having all this wisdom here... - Mm-hmm. Yeah. 2034 01:05:59,522 --> 01:06:01,024 - Of having been the Bachelorettes before. 2035 01:06:01,024 --> 01:06:03,426 Do you have any questions for the three of them? 2036 01:06:03,426 --> 01:06:04,494 - I have so many, but I, like-- 2037 01:06:04,494 --> 01:06:05,795 I'm gonna start with you, Trista. 2038 01:06:05,795 --> 01:06:08,364 Obviously, you have remained with your person, 2039 01:06:08,364 --> 01:06:10,934 and that gives me so much inspiration and hope. 2040 01:06:10,934 --> 01:06:14,003 So, with that, what would be your advice for just, like, 2041 01:06:14,003 --> 01:06:16,039 you know, like, making it, you know, work 2042 01:06:16,039 --> 01:06:18,808 in a long-lasting, like, healthy marriage? 2043 01:06:18,808 --> 01:06:21,478 - Yeah. You know, I will say that we're not perfect, 2044 01:06:21,478 --> 01:06:22,712 like everybody. - Yeah. 2045 01:06:22,712 --> 01:06:25,815 - But forgiveness-- I've said this a lot. 2046 01:06:25,815 --> 01:06:26,916 Because you're having 2047 01:06:26,916 --> 01:06:28,318 a really bad day... - Mm-hmm. 2048 01:06:28,318 --> 01:06:30,854 - And you say something that maybe you regret 2049 01:06:30,854 --> 01:06:33,623 or whatever-- just the little forgiveness 2050 01:06:33,623 --> 01:06:36,025 throughout the day. - Going back and having--yeah. 2051 01:06:36,025 --> 01:06:38,862 - You have to choose to prioritize the relationship... 2052 01:06:38,862 --> 01:06:40,463 - Mm-hmm. - Because there is 2053 01:06:40,463 --> 01:06:44,234 so much pressure, and there's so many opinions. 2054 01:06:44,234 --> 01:06:45,668 - Yeah. - Especially-- 2055 01:06:45,668 --> 01:06:48,104 - Unwanted opinions. - Unwanted opinions. 2056 01:06:48,104 --> 01:06:49,973 - Obviously, social media is so much more, 2057 01:06:49,973 --> 01:06:52,342 like, heavier in this day and age. 2058 01:06:52,342 --> 01:06:54,277 People give unwarranted comments. 2059 01:06:54,277 --> 01:06:58,014 How do you navigate that space of just, like, the critics and, 2060 01:06:58,014 --> 01:07:00,183 you know, the pressure that it places on your relationship? 2061 01:07:00,183 --> 01:07:03,286 - You have to remember who you are at your core. 2062 01:07:03,286 --> 01:07:05,922 There will always be people who are not on your ride. 2063 01:07:05,922 --> 01:07:07,290 - That's correct. 2064 01:07:07,290 --> 01:07:08,992 - There will be people who try to break you down. 2065 01:07:08,992 --> 01:07:10,793 - Yeah. - There will be people 2066 01:07:10,793 --> 01:07:12,862 who try to tell you you are not worthy. 2067 01:07:12,862 --> 01:07:15,298 And I encourage you to remember you are all of those things. 2068 01:07:15,298 --> 01:07:16,799 - That I am. - Yes. 2069 01:07:16,799 --> 01:07:18,968 - Yes. - Yes. 2070 01:07:18,968 --> 01:07:20,603 - Go, Dee. Go, Dee. 2071 01:07:20,603 --> 01:07:23,139 - Preach it. [applause, laughter] 2072 01:07:23,139 --> 01:07:25,275 - You can only control you. - That's right. 2073 01:07:25,275 --> 01:07:28,511 - And I believe in this season, you've done a really good job 2074 01:07:28,511 --> 01:07:31,781 of being you and standing up for who you are 2075 01:07:31,781 --> 01:07:34,150 and what you believe in and using your voice. 2076 01:07:34,150 --> 01:07:35,852 And I encourage you to still do that. 2077 01:07:35,852 --> 01:07:36,953 - Yeah. - Don't lose that. 2078 01:07:36,953 --> 01:07:38,321 Don't let people take that from you. 2079 01:07:38,321 --> 01:07:40,723 - You're doing incredible. - Oh, my God, thank you. 2080 01:07:40,723 --> 01:07:42,625 Thank you, guys. - You're doing great, girl. 2081 01:07:42,625 --> 01:07:45,161 - I have always said that I feel very maternal 2082 01:07:45,161 --> 01:07:47,130 towards everyone on the show 2083 01:07:47,130 --> 01:07:50,133 just because I'm the old gal, the OG. 2084 01:07:50,133 --> 01:07:52,335 - Uh-huh. - But... 2085 01:07:52,335 --> 01:07:54,871 but I'm so proud of you. - Oh, thank you. 2086 01:07:54,871 --> 01:07:57,774 - You really are just so classy 2087 01:07:57,774 --> 01:07:59,442 and so respectful. - Oh. Thank you. 2088 01:07:59,442 --> 01:08:01,144 - And I think you're doing an incredible job. 2089 01:08:01,144 --> 01:08:04,514 - I also just love, like-- you're able to give us insight 2090 01:08:04,514 --> 01:08:06,783 into what you're thinking and what you're feeling, 2091 01:08:06,783 --> 01:08:08,651 and I think it's really beautiful, 2092 01:08:08,651 --> 01:08:10,119 and it's fun to watch. 2093 01:08:10,119 --> 01:08:11,988 - Very true to your feelings-- you spoke your mind, 2094 01:08:11,988 --> 01:08:13,556 and you are strong. - Yes! 2095 01:08:13,556 --> 01:08:14,991 - Thank you. - Yes! 2096 01:08:14,991 --> 01:08:17,427 - I agree. Couldn't agree more. [cheers and applause] 2097 01:08:17,427 --> 01:08:19,295 - Ooh, I didn't know we were going to church today. 2098 01:08:19,295 --> 01:08:21,698 I love this. I love that. [laughter] 2099 01:08:21,698 --> 01:08:23,466 - It really, really is such great advice. 2100 01:08:23,466 --> 01:08:26,002 And I think it's so cool having former Bachelorettes 2101 01:08:26,002 --> 01:08:28,705 come back and support our current Bachelorette. 2102 01:08:28,705 --> 01:08:30,039 It's something that's really empowering. 2103 01:08:30,039 --> 01:08:31,474 It's really, really great to see. 2104 01:08:31,474 --> 01:08:33,476 - It's a tight group of people. - It is. It really is. 2105 01:08:33,476 --> 01:08:35,211 - We are each other's biggest supporters. 2106 01:08:35,211 --> 01:08:36,412 - We are family. - We are. 2107 01:08:36,412 --> 01:08:38,448 - We are family. - Well, Trista, Des, DeAnna, 2108 01:08:38,448 --> 01:08:40,283 thank you so much for being here. 2109 01:08:40,283 --> 01:08:42,418 Let's hear it for our three former Bachelorettes, everyone. 2110 01:08:42,418 --> 01:08:44,387 [cheers and applause] 2111 01:08:44,387 --> 01:08:46,756 And also, Charity, thank you so much for being here. 2112 01:08:46,756 --> 01:08:48,625 It's great seeing you again. Thank you for facing 2113 01:08:48,625 --> 01:08:50,693 all of your former boyfriends. - The men. 2114 01:08:50,693 --> 01:08:52,695 - And we're gonna see you back here next week 2115 01:08:52,695 --> 01:08:54,063 when we see how your journey unfolds. 2116 01:08:54,063 --> 01:08:55,331 It's gonna be fun. 2117 01:08:55,331 --> 01:08:57,133 Let's hear it again for Charity, everybody. 2118 01:08:57,133 --> 01:09:00,269 [cheers and applause] 2119 01:09:00,269 --> 01:09:03,773 All right, well, coming up, we held a nationwide search 2120 01:09:03,773 --> 01:09:05,108 to find the perfect guy 2121 01:09:05,108 --> 01:09:07,610 to be our very first Golden Bachelor. 2122 01:09:07,610 --> 01:09:09,312 And guess what, we found him. 2123 01:09:09,312 --> 01:09:10,713 And he's here. 2124 01:09:10,713 --> 01:09:12,982 And then later, we're gonna get a sneak peek 2125 01:09:12,982 --> 01:09:14,617 at the finale that is sure to have 2126 01:09:14,617 --> 01:09:16,119 all of Bachelor Nation talking. 2127 01:09:16,119 --> 01:09:19,155 That's all coming up when "The Men Tell All" returns. 2128 01:09:19,155 --> 01:09:20,923 ♪ ♪ 2129 01:09:20,923 --> 01:09:22,225 It's so great seeing you all. 2130 01:09:24,027 --> 01:09:28,231 [upbeat music] 2131 01:09:28,231 --> 01:09:29,799 - Welcome back, everybody. 2132 01:09:29,799 --> 01:09:34,170 Now, for years, Bachelor Nation has been clamoring for a show 2133 01:09:34,170 --> 01:09:36,139 just like "The Bachelor" but for-- 2134 01:09:36,139 --> 01:09:37,807 I don't know how I can say this-- 2135 01:09:37,807 --> 01:09:40,276 an older and wiser crowd, let's just say. 2136 01:09:40,276 --> 01:09:43,479 Well, the show is finally here, and it's called 2137 01:09:43,479 --> 01:09:45,114 "The Golden Bachelor." 2138 01:09:45,114 --> 01:09:47,316 [cheers and applause] 2139 01:09:47,316 --> 01:09:49,352 That's right, and we couldn't be 2140 01:09:49,352 --> 01:09:50,453 more excited about it 2141 01:09:50,453 --> 01:09:52,955 or about our Golden Bachelor himself. 2142 01:09:52,955 --> 01:09:55,258 Now, his name is Gerry, and if you didn't know 2143 01:09:55,258 --> 01:09:57,226 anything about him, just trust me, 2144 01:09:57,226 --> 01:10:00,563 you are absolutely going to love him. 2145 01:10:00,563 --> 01:10:01,731 Take a look. 2146 01:10:01,731 --> 01:10:05,234 [dramatic music] 2147 01:10:05,234 --> 01:10:06,502 - Aah! 2148 01:10:06,502 --> 01:10:07,904 [laughs] 2149 01:10:07,904 --> 01:10:09,205 I'm Gerry. 2150 01:10:09,205 --> 01:10:10,640 I'm 71 years young. 2151 01:10:10,640 --> 01:10:12,709 I'm from Indiana, and I'm going to be 2152 01:10:12,709 --> 01:10:14,143 the first Golden Bachelor, 2153 01:10:14,143 --> 01:10:17,513 because it's never too late to fall in love again. 2154 01:10:17,513 --> 01:10:19,182 [train horn blares] 2155 01:10:19,182 --> 01:10:20,616 [soft music] 2156 01:10:20,616 --> 01:10:22,485 I married my high-school sweetheart, 2157 01:10:22,485 --> 01:10:25,154 Toni, in 1972. 2158 01:10:25,154 --> 01:10:29,092 We had 43 wonderful years together. 2159 01:10:29,092 --> 01:10:31,694 We had two daughters, and I now have 2160 01:10:31,694 --> 01:10:34,130 two wonderful granddaughters. 2161 01:10:34,130 --> 01:10:36,966 We had a real typical but beautiful life-- 2162 01:10:36,966 --> 01:10:39,202 full of love, full of activity. 2163 01:10:39,202 --> 01:10:42,271 And as years went on, I retired. 2164 01:10:42,271 --> 01:10:44,907 We had a plan, and we had an idea 2165 01:10:44,907 --> 01:10:47,577 of what our dream house was going to be. 2166 01:10:47,577 --> 01:10:51,914 So, when Toni retired at the end of May in 2017, 2167 01:10:51,914 --> 01:10:56,552 we bought that dream house, closed on it on June 6th. 2168 01:10:58,154 --> 01:11:00,890 [somber music] 2169 01:11:00,890 --> 01:11:02,759 From June 6th on, 2170 01:11:02,759 --> 01:11:05,695 it didn't go according to plan at all. 2171 01:11:05,695 --> 01:11:08,364 You know, she became ill, 2172 01:11:08,364 --> 01:11:12,135 and her situation got worse over a couple of weeks. 2173 01:11:12,135 --> 01:11:13,903 ♪ ♪ 2174 01:11:13,903 --> 01:11:17,473 [voice breaking] And so we went to the emergency room, 2175 01:11:17,473 --> 01:11:20,843 and she had a bacterial infection 2176 01:11:20,843 --> 01:11:24,847 that infected her kidneys and infected her liver. 2177 01:11:24,847 --> 01:11:27,150 And so I took my wife 2178 01:11:27,150 --> 01:11:30,286 to the emergency room on July 7th. 2179 01:11:30,286 --> 01:11:33,022 She passed away on July 15th. 2180 01:11:33,022 --> 01:11:35,358 [crying] 2181 01:11:35,358 --> 01:11:39,395 ♪ ♪ 2182 01:11:39,395 --> 01:11:41,430 [normal voice] Every time I look at that lake, 2183 01:11:41,430 --> 01:11:43,533 I go, this is her dream. 2184 01:11:43,533 --> 01:11:46,002 This is what she deserves. 2185 01:11:46,002 --> 01:11:48,471 Why am I standing here alone? 2186 01:11:48,471 --> 01:11:52,809 It will be six years since she passed away. 2187 01:11:52,809 --> 01:11:54,877 No one's ever gonna replace Toni. 2188 01:11:54,877 --> 01:11:55,978 - I love you, Dad. - Thanks for everything. 2189 01:11:55,978 --> 01:11:57,880 - Love you. - Thanks, guys. 2190 01:11:57,880 --> 01:11:59,382 [indistinct chatter] 2191 01:11:59,382 --> 01:12:02,552 But the love of my daughters and my granddaughters 2192 01:12:02,552 --> 01:12:04,720 pulled me out of a dark spot. 2193 01:12:04,720 --> 01:12:08,057 - This isn't to replace her but to just find somebody 2194 01:12:08,057 --> 01:12:10,059 that makes you happy. 2195 01:12:10,059 --> 01:12:12,195 My dad is just such a fun guy. 2196 01:12:12,195 --> 01:12:14,797 He's so personable and lovable. 2197 01:12:14,797 --> 01:12:16,199 Way to go, Dad! 2198 01:12:16,199 --> 01:12:18,067 He's so kind, and he has so much to give. 2199 01:12:18,067 --> 01:12:20,903 He just deserves to find that in somebody else. 2200 01:12:20,903 --> 01:12:23,005 - Where are the babes you're looking for? 2201 01:12:23,005 --> 01:12:27,043 - I don't know that they've even been chosen yet. 2202 01:12:27,043 --> 01:12:30,046 I have passed the STD test and the drug test. 2203 01:12:30,046 --> 01:12:31,781 [laughter] 2204 01:12:31,781 --> 01:12:33,616 Best-case scenario is I find out 2205 01:12:33,616 --> 01:12:35,384 that Helen Mirren's on the market, 2206 01:12:35,384 --> 01:12:38,221 and she's really happy to be on "The Golden Bachelor." 2207 01:12:38,221 --> 01:12:41,090 - You can't be laughing. You gotta have a straight face. 2208 01:12:41,090 --> 01:12:43,559 Well, don't make it look like you're gonna cry. 2209 01:12:43,559 --> 01:12:44,961 - I guess the first thing I'm worried about 2210 01:12:44,961 --> 01:12:46,662 is remembering 25 names. 2211 01:12:46,662 --> 01:12:48,531 Eunice, will you accept this rose? 2212 01:12:48,531 --> 01:12:49,599 [laughter] 2213 01:12:49,599 --> 01:12:51,367 Gertrude, I'm sorry. 2214 01:12:51,367 --> 01:12:53,069 This isn't gonna work. 2215 01:12:53,069 --> 01:12:55,705 I hope at the end of it, I find the person 2216 01:12:55,705 --> 01:12:57,840 that I'll spend the rest of my life with 2217 01:12:57,840 --> 01:12:59,375 that will complete our family. 2218 01:12:59,375 --> 01:13:00,643 - Cheers. 2219 01:13:00,643 --> 01:13:02,778 - Cheers to Ger-bear. - Cheers. 2220 01:13:02,778 --> 01:13:04,280 - I want to fall in love. 2221 01:13:04,280 --> 01:13:06,082 I really want to find my person 2222 01:13:06,082 --> 01:13:11,020 who can put me in my place when I need it 2223 01:13:11,020 --> 01:13:13,522 and make me smile at it, 2224 01:13:13,522 --> 01:13:17,860 the person who can lay down beside you at night... 2225 01:13:17,860 --> 01:13:21,364 [voice breaking] Not have to say anything, and you feel it. 2226 01:13:21,364 --> 01:13:23,132 That's love. 2227 01:13:23,132 --> 01:13:24,700 ♪ ♪ 2228 01:13:24,700 --> 01:13:27,503 That's what I want. 2229 01:13:27,503 --> 01:13:30,106 And I know that person's out there. 2230 01:13:30,106 --> 01:13:32,141 ♪ ♪ 2231 01:13:32,141 --> 01:13:35,177 [cheers and applause] 2232 01:13:40,616 --> 01:13:42,018 - Isn't he great? 2233 01:13:42,018 --> 01:13:43,686 Man, his story gets me every time. 2234 01:13:43,686 --> 01:13:45,454 And, of course, he's here tonight. 2235 01:13:45,454 --> 01:13:48,257 So, without further ado, ladies and gentlemen, 2236 01:13:48,257 --> 01:13:52,595 your first ever Golden Bachelor, Gerry. 2237 01:13:52,595 --> 01:13:55,598 [upbeat music] 2238 01:13:55,598 --> 01:13:57,533 ♪ ♪ 2239 01:13:57,533 --> 01:14:00,136 [cheers and applause] 2240 01:14:00,136 --> 01:14:02,138 - Whoo! 2241 01:14:02,138 --> 01:14:05,308 ♪ ♪ 2242 01:14:05,308 --> 01:14:09,812 all: Gerry! Gerry! Gerry! Gerry! Gerry! Gerry! 2243 01:14:09,812 --> 01:14:11,514 - Have a seat. 2244 01:14:11,514 --> 01:14:14,083 Gerry! Gerry! Gerry! Gerry! 2245 01:14:14,083 --> 01:14:16,185 ♪ ♪ 2246 01:14:16,185 --> 01:14:18,421 - Well... - Welcome, Gerry! 2247 01:14:18,421 --> 01:14:21,657 [indistinct shouting] - Hey, guys. How's it going? 2248 01:14:21,657 --> 01:14:23,426 - You got a lot of fans. - Mm. 2249 01:14:23,426 --> 01:14:25,394 - It is so great to finally get to meet you 2250 01:14:25,394 --> 01:14:26,595 face-to-face like this. 2251 01:14:26,595 --> 01:14:27,930 How you feeling right now? 2252 01:14:27,930 --> 01:14:30,232 - Oh, it's a whirlwind, the last couple of weeks. 2253 01:14:30,232 --> 01:14:32,134 I mean, I feel like the last ingredient 2254 01:14:32,134 --> 01:14:33,970 going into the blender for a smoothie, 2255 01:14:33,970 --> 01:14:36,672 and your finger's right on the button to start it. 2256 01:14:36,672 --> 01:14:38,374 - Yeah. - So it's amazing. 2257 01:14:38,374 --> 01:14:40,276 - You went from relative anonymity, right, 2258 01:14:40,276 --> 01:14:42,845 to just being the most talked about man in America... 2259 01:14:42,845 --> 01:14:44,380 [snaps fingers] Literally overnight. 2260 01:14:44,380 --> 01:14:47,249 What's life been like for you since the big announcement? 2261 01:14:47,249 --> 01:14:50,820 - I was amazed when the radio 2262 01:14:50,820 --> 01:14:52,421 and TV announcers 2263 01:14:52,421 --> 01:14:55,691 and everybody started showing up in my driveway. 2264 01:14:55,691 --> 01:14:58,160 And it's like, I live in the middle of nowhere. 2265 01:14:58,160 --> 01:15:01,297 It's hard enough to find where I live, and I live there. 2266 01:15:01,297 --> 01:15:03,299 [laughter] - I gotta be honest. 2267 01:15:03,299 --> 01:15:07,036 People literally have been going Gerry crazy 2268 01:15:07,036 --> 01:15:08,104 all around the country. 2269 01:15:08,104 --> 01:15:09,638 And I don't know if you know this or not. 2270 01:15:09,638 --> 01:15:11,474 Are you big into social media? - No, not really. 2271 01:15:11,474 --> 01:15:14,110 - Okay, well, you were actually--for a little while, 2272 01:15:14,110 --> 01:15:17,480 you were trending on social media--trending. 2273 01:15:17,480 --> 01:15:19,348 - If I knew what that meant, 2274 01:15:19,348 --> 01:15:22,051 I'm sure I would appreciate it a whole lot more. 2275 01:15:22,051 --> 01:15:23,819 - It's a really good thing, Gerry. 2276 01:15:23,819 --> 01:15:24,920 It means people like you, 2277 01:15:24,920 --> 01:15:26,322 and they're talking about you a lot. 2278 01:15:26,322 --> 01:15:28,190 And we've actually got some of those 2279 01:15:28,190 --> 01:15:30,493 social-media posts that we can share with you... 2280 01:15:30,493 --> 01:15:32,261 - All right. - Just kind of let you know 2281 01:15:32,261 --> 01:15:35,031 what everybody's been saying about you. 2282 01:15:35,031 --> 01:15:36,632 All right, "He's the most wholesome man. 2283 01:15:36,632 --> 01:15:37,633 "I love him. 2284 01:15:37,633 --> 01:15:39,468 Can't wait to watch." 2285 01:15:39,468 --> 01:15:41,670 - That's good. Wholesome, I like. 2286 01:15:41,670 --> 01:15:43,739 - Wholesome is good. - Yep. 2287 01:15:43,739 --> 01:15:45,341 - "Gerry can 'Geddit.'" 2288 01:15:45,341 --> 01:15:46,776 [laughter] 2289 01:15:46,776 --> 01:15:49,011 "Can't wait to watch his season." 2290 01:15:49,011 --> 01:15:52,415 - So, uh, what does "Geddit" mean? 2291 01:15:52,415 --> 01:15:53,749 [laughter] 2292 01:15:53,749 --> 01:15:55,317 - I don't think I'm allowed to say 2293 01:15:55,317 --> 01:15:57,119 on this network what it means. - Okay. 2294 01:15:57,119 --> 01:15:59,188 - This might be my favorite one of all. 2295 01:15:59,188 --> 01:16:01,657 "Grandzaddyyyyyy." 2296 01:16:01,657 --> 01:16:04,560 [cheers and applause] 2297 01:16:05,694 --> 01:16:07,963 - Is it good? It's good? 2298 01:16:07,963 --> 01:16:09,198 Okay. 2299 01:16:09,198 --> 01:16:11,333 - So, listen, in all seriousness, though, 2300 01:16:11,333 --> 01:16:13,636 I know that you're--you're very serious about this. 2301 01:16:13,636 --> 01:16:15,004 You're very genuine. 2302 01:16:15,004 --> 01:16:16,906 Have you thought about that first night at all? 2303 01:16:16,906 --> 01:16:19,041 Have you thought about what you're hoping to find 2304 01:16:19,041 --> 01:16:20,409 in these women? 2305 01:16:20,409 --> 01:16:23,813 - Um, I-I think what I'm-- I'm most looking for 2306 01:16:23,813 --> 01:16:26,382 that first night is for one of those women-- 2307 01:16:26,382 --> 01:16:28,384 or several of those women-- 2308 01:16:28,384 --> 01:16:31,120 to just have that look in their eye like, 2309 01:16:31,120 --> 01:16:34,557 "Oh, gosh, okay, I found my own grandzaddy." 2310 01:16:34,557 --> 01:16:38,394 [laughter, cheers, and applause] 2311 01:16:38,394 --> 01:16:40,596 See what I did there? - I do. 2312 01:16:40,596 --> 01:16:43,132 [laughter] 2313 01:16:43,132 --> 01:16:44,433 What about overnights? 2314 01:16:44,433 --> 01:16:45,935 I think one thing Bachelor Nation 2315 01:16:45,935 --> 01:16:47,770 is really curious about-- 2316 01:16:47,770 --> 01:16:49,672 are there going to be Fantasy Suites? 2317 01:16:49,672 --> 01:16:50,840 Is that something we should expect? 2318 01:16:50,840 --> 01:16:52,675 - I would say yes, but that's-- 2319 01:16:52,675 --> 01:16:55,711 [cheers and applause] 2320 01:16:58,247 --> 01:17:01,617 But what they would look like might be a little different. 2321 01:17:01,617 --> 01:17:03,786 That's a long way down the journey. 2322 01:17:03,786 --> 01:17:05,354 It's a long way. 2323 01:17:05,354 --> 01:17:07,723 And I think there's a lot of steps 2324 01:17:07,723 --> 01:17:10,392 that I and a potential partner 2325 01:17:10,392 --> 01:17:12,595 would need to go through to get to that 2326 01:17:12,595 --> 01:17:14,463 to make it a comfortable situation. 2327 01:17:14,463 --> 01:17:15,898 - Yeah. Have you been watching 2328 01:17:15,898 --> 01:17:16,999 Charity's season? - I have been. 2329 01:17:16,999 --> 01:17:18,100 - Have you? - Yeah. 2330 01:17:18,100 --> 01:17:19,502 - So you've been doing your homework? 2331 01:17:19,502 --> 01:17:20,636 - A little bit. - Yeah. 2332 01:17:20,636 --> 01:17:21,971 - A little bit, you know. - And, of course, 2333 01:17:21,971 --> 01:17:23,305 you've seen all these guys as well. 2334 01:17:23,305 --> 01:17:25,207 What's your impression of all of them? 2335 01:17:25,207 --> 01:17:26,842 - I aspire to be like them. 2336 01:17:26,842 --> 01:17:28,511 - Oh. - Oh, gosh. 2337 01:17:28,511 --> 01:17:30,713 - A bunch of cool guys, yeah. 2338 01:17:30,713 --> 01:17:32,014 - Do you guys have any advice 2339 01:17:32,014 --> 01:17:33,649 for our first Golden Bachelor here? 2340 01:17:33,649 --> 01:17:35,384 Anybody have any wisdom to impart onto him? 2341 01:17:35,384 --> 01:17:37,219 - I mean, you've done it, man. 2342 01:17:37,219 --> 01:17:39,188 You've had that relationship, and I say, like, 2343 01:17:39,188 --> 01:17:40,723 just trust your gut, 'cause you had 2344 01:17:40,723 --> 01:17:42,224 a relationship that lasted so long. 2345 01:17:42,224 --> 01:17:43,792 And, I mean, just seeing the photos and everything, 2346 01:17:43,792 --> 01:17:45,661 it brought tears to my eyes-- like, it was beautiful. 2347 01:17:45,661 --> 01:17:47,062 I mean, that's what we all aspire for. 2348 01:17:47,062 --> 01:17:48,797 And so I say stay true to yourself, man 2349 01:17:48,797 --> 01:17:50,266 'cause you got it. - Thank you. 2350 01:17:50,266 --> 01:17:53,202 - There is nothing we are gonna be able to say to you 2351 01:17:53,202 --> 01:17:54,670 in order to give you advice. 2352 01:17:54,670 --> 01:17:57,973 Like, you just told us that you want to be like us. 2353 01:17:57,973 --> 01:17:59,175 That is dead wrong. 2354 01:17:59,175 --> 01:18:01,043 Like, we're--we want to be like you, man. 2355 01:18:01,043 --> 01:18:03,612 Like, you're genuine. You're true. 2356 01:18:03,612 --> 01:18:06,048 Kudos to you, man. 2357 01:18:06,048 --> 01:18:07,316 - Thanks. [cheers and applause] 2358 01:18:07,316 --> 01:18:08,884 - There ain't nothing we're gonna tell you. 2359 01:18:08,884 --> 01:18:11,153 - Thank you. - You know, this is sort of-- 2360 01:18:11,153 --> 01:18:13,956 it's an interesting opportunity for me, too, 2361 01:18:13,956 --> 01:18:17,059 because, of course, you had 43 years 2362 01:18:17,059 --> 01:18:19,195 of a beautiful love with the love of your life, 2363 01:18:19,195 --> 01:18:21,163 Toni, your high-school sweetheart. 2364 01:18:21,163 --> 01:18:24,500 I'm a relatively newly married guy myself. 2365 01:18:24,500 --> 01:18:26,802 I'm gonna be picking your brain throughout this entire thing. 2366 01:18:26,802 --> 01:18:28,337 Do you have any advice for people out there 2367 01:18:28,337 --> 01:18:30,573 that are looking for a long-lasting, 2368 01:18:30,573 --> 01:18:32,074 happy marriage? 2369 01:18:32,074 --> 01:18:34,410 - Jesse, if there's-- if there's one thing only 2370 01:18:34,410 --> 01:18:37,413 that I would tell you or anyone else, 2371 01:18:37,413 --> 01:18:40,583 it's like, look at your spouse every day 2372 01:18:40,583 --> 01:18:42,351 and tell them you love them, 2373 01:18:42,351 --> 01:18:44,954 because the day comes too soon 2374 01:18:44,954 --> 01:18:47,990 for one of you that you can't do that. 2375 01:18:47,990 --> 01:18:50,626 And... 2376 01:18:50,626 --> 01:18:51,827 I would give anything 2377 01:18:51,827 --> 01:18:53,596 to be able to do that one more time. 2378 01:18:55,164 --> 01:18:57,333 Tell them that you love them every day. 2379 01:18:57,333 --> 01:19:00,135 Give them that hug. [cheers and applause] 2380 01:19:00,135 --> 01:19:02,004 - Yeah, that's such great advice. 2381 01:19:02,004 --> 01:19:03,372 That's beautiful. 2382 01:19:04,607 --> 01:19:05,774 - Thank you. 2383 01:19:05,774 --> 01:19:08,210 - Gerry, I gotta ask you, 2384 01:19:08,210 --> 01:19:10,946 can you find a love like that 2385 01:19:10,946 --> 01:19:13,215 twice in a lifetime? 2386 01:19:13,215 --> 01:19:15,818 - Well, all right, so your question was, 2387 01:19:15,818 --> 01:19:18,087 can I find a love like that? - Mm-hmm. 2388 01:19:18,087 --> 01:19:20,723 - I don't think that's what I'm looking for. 2389 01:19:20,723 --> 01:19:24,159 What I look for at the age of 70 2390 01:19:24,159 --> 01:19:25,561 is different than what I looked for 2391 01:19:25,561 --> 01:19:27,663 when I was in high school and college. 2392 01:19:27,663 --> 01:19:29,298 - Mm-hmm. - So I believe 2393 01:19:29,298 --> 01:19:30,699 I'll find my person, 2394 01:19:30,699 --> 01:19:33,469 the new person that will make me whole again. 2395 01:19:33,469 --> 01:19:36,905 And I think we'll knit a wonderful relationship. 2396 01:19:36,905 --> 01:19:38,774 But I don't think it'll look like 2397 01:19:38,774 --> 01:19:40,643 the relationship I had with Toni. 2398 01:19:40,643 --> 01:19:43,145 And I don't think it would be right to do it that way. 2399 01:19:43,145 --> 01:19:44,980 - Yeah. I love to hear you say that you believe 2400 01:19:44,980 --> 01:19:46,048 you're gonna find your person. 2401 01:19:46,048 --> 01:19:47,483 - I do. - I believe you are, too. 2402 01:19:47,483 --> 01:19:49,985 Gerry, I think you are such a great example 2403 01:19:49,985 --> 01:19:52,354 that it's never too late to find love. 2404 01:19:52,354 --> 01:19:54,523 I feel so honored and lucky 2405 01:19:54,523 --> 01:19:56,325 that I'm gonna get a chance to go on this journey. 2406 01:19:56,325 --> 01:19:58,294 There is not a more deserving man 2407 01:19:58,294 --> 01:19:59,528 to get this opportunity. - Oh. 2408 01:19:59,528 --> 01:20:01,330 - So this is gonna be a lot of fun. 2409 01:20:01,330 --> 01:20:02,431 And I just want to say thank you again. 2410 01:20:02,431 --> 01:20:03,532 It's so great to finally meet you. 2411 01:20:03,532 --> 01:20:04,967 - Oh, I'm looking forward to it. 2412 01:20:04,967 --> 01:20:07,569 - Let's hear it for our first Golden Bachelor, Gerry. 2413 01:20:07,569 --> 01:20:10,139 [cheers and applause] - Man, this is pretty awesome. 2414 01:20:10,139 --> 01:20:13,042 Oh, man, thanks, guys. 2415 01:20:13,042 --> 01:20:15,144 Thank you. Thank you. 2416 01:20:15,144 --> 01:20:17,680 - And, Bachelor Nation, make sure you mark your calendars, 2417 01:20:17,680 --> 01:20:20,949 because Gerry's journey to find love begins this September. 2418 01:20:20,949 --> 01:20:22,484 All right, when we come back, 2419 01:20:22,484 --> 01:20:24,486 we've got a sneak peek at the explosive end 2420 01:20:24,486 --> 01:20:25,721 of Charity's journey. 2421 01:20:25,721 --> 01:20:28,490 It is absolutely crazy, so don't go away. 2422 01:20:28,490 --> 01:20:30,392 ♪ ♪ 2423 01:20:32,194 --> 01:20:35,197 [upbeat music] 2424 01:20:35,197 --> 01:20:38,534 [cheers and applause] 2425 01:20:38,534 --> 01:20:39,835 - Welcome back, Bachelor Nation. 2426 01:20:39,835 --> 01:20:41,704 Well, it's been quite a night. 2427 01:20:41,704 --> 01:20:43,972 And next week, Charity's journey comes 2428 01:20:43,972 --> 01:20:45,607 to an emotional conclusion. 2429 01:20:45,607 --> 01:20:46,842 The big question now-- 2430 01:20:46,842 --> 01:20:49,011 how is this whole thing gonna end for her? 2431 01:20:49,011 --> 01:20:50,512 Will Dotun propose? 2432 01:20:50,512 --> 01:20:51,780 Will it be Joey? 2433 01:20:51,780 --> 01:20:53,515 And what about Aaron? 2434 01:20:53,515 --> 01:20:55,984 There really are so many different directions 2435 01:20:55,984 --> 01:20:57,319 this whole thing could go. 2436 01:20:57,319 --> 01:20:59,855 I was there, and, honestly, I couldn't even keep up. 2437 01:20:59,855 --> 01:21:01,390 So here it is. 2438 01:21:01,390 --> 01:21:03,926 Here's a sneak peek at Charity's final days in Fiji, 2439 01:21:03,926 --> 01:21:06,962 and it's more emotional and more heartbreaking 2440 01:21:06,962 --> 01:21:08,163 than you can even imagine. 2441 01:21:09,398 --> 01:21:12,401 [dramatic music] 2442 01:21:12,401 --> 01:21:13,836 - I am in love, 2443 01:21:13,836 --> 01:21:16,805 and I know that I am getting engaged, 2444 01:21:16,805 --> 01:21:20,376 but I don't know who it's going to be. 2445 01:21:20,376 --> 01:21:21,844 - I still see you as a wife. 2446 01:21:21,844 --> 01:21:23,946 I still see you as the mother of my children. 2447 01:21:23,946 --> 01:21:25,614 There's life coming back into me now. 2448 01:21:25,614 --> 01:21:26,815 Kissing Charity just feels 2449 01:21:26,815 --> 01:21:28,283 like this all wasn't for nothing. 2450 01:21:28,283 --> 01:21:30,786 And I'm right back in it emotionally. 2451 01:21:30,786 --> 01:21:33,455 - I'm glad that he did not give up on this 2452 01:21:33,455 --> 01:21:36,625 and that he saw me as someone worth fighting for. 2453 01:21:36,625 --> 01:21:40,396 But there is this new added layer of pressure. 2454 01:21:40,396 --> 01:21:43,132 Now I am reconsidering everything. 2455 01:21:43,132 --> 01:21:44,900 - There's no question in my mind 2456 01:21:44,900 --> 01:21:46,068 that I want you to be my wife. 2457 01:21:46,068 --> 01:21:47,436 - This was the most special night 2458 01:21:47,436 --> 01:21:48,704 that we've had together. 2459 01:21:48,704 --> 01:21:50,639 I'm very much in love with Charity, 2460 01:21:50,639 --> 01:21:53,509 and I want this to end with us engaged. 2461 01:21:53,509 --> 01:21:56,645 - I never imagined being in love 2462 01:21:56,645 --> 01:21:58,447 with three incredible guys. 2463 01:21:58,447 --> 01:22:01,884 But for the first time in all this, 2464 01:22:01,884 --> 01:22:03,485 I'm, like, truly not okay. 2465 01:22:03,485 --> 01:22:06,622 [sniffles] - The tears that I see, 2466 01:22:06,622 --> 01:22:08,857 that is where you are with yourself 2467 01:22:08,857 --> 01:22:11,360 in making those... 2468 01:22:11,360 --> 01:22:13,195 [whispering] Hard decisions. 2469 01:22:13,195 --> 01:22:14,563 ♪ ♪ 2470 01:22:14,563 --> 01:22:16,432 - Like, my brain is, like, clouded. 2471 01:22:16,432 --> 01:22:18,500 - You're gonna have to come down to one person. 2472 01:22:18,500 --> 01:22:19,768 - I'm very nervous. 2473 01:22:19,768 --> 01:22:21,637 Every second ticks closer to the proposal, 2474 01:22:21,637 --> 01:22:23,572 there's a little bit more doubt. 2475 01:22:23,572 --> 01:22:26,542 I can't imagine Charity with anybody else but me. 2476 01:22:26,542 --> 01:22:28,510 - I'm a little nervous about making sure 2477 01:22:28,510 --> 01:22:31,447 I explain myself the best way I can. 2478 01:22:31,447 --> 01:22:32,848 - Oh, my God. 2479 01:22:32,848 --> 01:22:35,250 - I just feel good every time I see you. 2480 01:22:35,250 --> 01:22:36,885 You make me feel very special. 2481 01:22:36,885 --> 01:22:38,120 - I really need help. 2482 01:22:38,120 --> 01:22:40,456 My mom is truly my best friend, 2483 01:22:40,456 --> 01:22:42,724 so her opinion is everything. 2484 01:22:42,724 --> 01:22:44,326 I want to know your thoughts. Like-- 2485 01:22:44,326 --> 01:22:46,395 - Ooh. No. I don't want to do that. 2486 01:22:46,395 --> 01:22:47,729 - Why, though? 2487 01:22:58,841 --> 01:23:01,677 - I'm sitting here, and I'm just-- 2488 01:23:01,677 --> 01:23:03,045 I'm really torn. 2489 01:23:03,045 --> 01:23:04,213 This doesn't make sense. 2490 01:23:04,213 --> 01:23:05,247 It doesn't make sense. 2491 01:23:05,247 --> 01:23:07,583 I'm gonna have a panic attack. 2492 01:23:07,583 --> 01:23:09,351 You are not supposed to say goodbye 2493 01:23:09,351 --> 01:23:11,353 to somebody that you love. 2494 01:23:11,353 --> 01:23:13,355 [crying] 2495 01:23:13,355 --> 01:23:15,357 ♪ ♪ 2496 01:23:15,357 --> 01:23:16,658 I'm sorry. 2497 01:23:16,658 --> 01:23:19,695 [cheers and applause] 2498 01:23:21,530 --> 01:23:22,731 - Wow, I told you. 2499 01:23:22,731 --> 01:23:24,166 It's gonna be an emotional one. 2500 01:23:24,166 --> 01:23:26,101 And so please join us next Monday 2501 01:23:26,101 --> 01:23:28,604 for the three-hour live finale 2502 01:23:28,604 --> 01:23:30,706 that promises to be one of the most intense, 2503 01:23:30,706 --> 01:23:32,674 one of the most emotional, and, honestly, 2504 01:23:32,674 --> 01:23:34,710 one of the most heartbreaking endings 2505 01:23:34,710 --> 01:23:36,111 in Bachelorette history. 2506 01:23:36,111 --> 01:23:38,981 Will Charity finally find the happiness she so deserves? 2507 01:23:38,981 --> 01:23:41,116 It's the dramatic conclusion 2508 01:23:41,116 --> 01:23:43,852 that is going to absolutely shock you to your core. 2509 01:23:43,852 --> 01:23:45,521 So thank you again to all the guys 2510 01:23:45,521 --> 01:23:47,289 who joined us here tonight 2511 01:23:47,289 --> 01:23:48,924 and to Gerry, our Golden Bachelor, 2512 01:23:48,924 --> 01:23:51,460 to our former Bachelorettes, Trista, Des, and DeAnna, 2513 01:23:51,460 --> 01:23:53,362 and, of course, to Charity as well. 2514 01:23:53,362 --> 01:23:55,163 She's just awesome. 2515 01:23:55,163 --> 01:23:56,832 And a big thanks to everybody here 2516 01:23:56,832 --> 01:23:58,200 and to all of you, Bachelor Nation. 2517 01:23:58,200 --> 01:23:59,601 I'm Jesse Palmer. 2518 01:23:59,601 --> 01:24:01,036 Good night. 2519 01:24:01,036 --> 01:24:04,039 [upbeat music] 2520 01:24:04,039 --> 01:24:07,042 [cheers and applause] 2521 01:24:07,042 --> 01:24:14,082 ♪ ♪ 2522 01:24:16,218 --> 01:24:19,354 - Man, meeting you guys in person is fantastic. 2523 01:24:19,354 --> 01:24:21,056 - Good luck, man. - Yeah. 2524 01:24:21,056 --> 01:24:22,824 - Hey, you're awesome, man. - Thank you. 2525 01:24:22,824 --> 01:24:24,560 - Embrace it, man. Once in a lifetime. 2526 01:24:24,560 --> 01:24:26,228 Good luck. - Great to meet you, Gerry. 2527 01:24:26,228 --> 01:24:27,462 Good luck with everything, man. - Thank you. 2528 01:24:27,462 --> 01:24:28,730 - Congratulations. - I love this. 2529 01:24:28,730 --> 01:24:30,132 - You're gonna do great, okay? - Are you sure 2530 01:24:30,132 --> 01:24:31,466 you don't have any wise words for me? 2531 01:24:31,466 --> 01:24:32,534 - No. Come on, Gerry. 2532 01:24:32,534 --> 01:24:33,869 - We can't do better than you, man. 2533 01:24:33,869 --> 01:24:35,571 - Stay true to yourself. - Have fun with it. 2534 01:24:35,571 --> 01:24:36,772 - I would say, everyone's gonna love you, 2535 01:24:36,772 --> 01:24:38,040 but don't read the comments. - Thank you. 2536 01:24:38,040 --> 01:24:39,274 - Don't read the comments. - You're good. 2537 01:24:39,274 --> 01:24:40,275 You'll be great. You'll be great. 2538 01:24:40,275 --> 01:24:41,643 - Thanks to all of you. 2539 01:24:41,643 --> 01:24:43,745 Yeah, I've really enjoyed watching you guys 2540 01:24:43,745 --> 01:24:45,047 on the show this year. 2541 01:24:45,047 --> 01:24:46,181 - It's gonna be likewise, man. 2542 01:24:46,181 --> 01:24:47,449 We're gonna be stoked watching you. 2543 01:24:47,449 --> 01:24:48,450 - Yeah. - Hey, thanks. 2544 01:24:48,450 --> 01:24:49,484 - You are setting the standard. 2545 01:24:49,484 --> 01:24:50,919 No pressure. [laughter] 2546 01:24:50,919 --> 01:24:54,723 - Yeah, no pressure at all. Yeah, no. 2547 01:24:54,723 --> 01:24:56,592 - Just the first one to ever do this in history. 2548 01:24:56,592 --> 01:24:57,726 - Just the first one. 2549 01:24:57,726 --> 01:24:58,860 - Like, you have a bunch of women 2550 01:24:58,860 --> 01:25:00,162 that are looking forward to meeting you. 2551 01:25:00,162 --> 01:25:02,564 So, like, let that hype you up. - Yeah, okay. 2552 01:25:02,564 --> 01:25:04,266 - You're literally the most wanted man 2553 01:25:04,266 --> 01:25:06,635 in America right now, like, in a good way, dude. 2554 01:25:06,635 --> 01:25:08,103 Like, that is crazy. 2555 01:25:08,103 --> 01:25:10,305 - You got some people out there saying grandzaddy? 2556 01:25:10,305 --> 01:25:11,940 That's a--that's a big deal. 2557 01:25:11,940 --> 01:25:14,242 - See, I really need to get more current with the terms, 2558 01:25:14,242 --> 01:25:16,278 don't I? [laughter]