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The Bachelorette
<i>starts right now.</i>

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Walking into
the cocktail party tonight,

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all of us are in good spirits.

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{\an8}Nerves are there,
but I don't know.

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{\an8}I'm looking--
I'm looking forward to it.

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Yeah. I don't know about y'all,
but walked in here,

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and I was like,
"Where'd everybody go?"

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I think we're all
in a similar boat,

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like, excited and nervous
kind of mixed together.

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{\an8}But everybody seems
to be on a great vibe.

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Guys, the gentlemen
with the roses,

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man, how y'all feeling
right now?

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Lucky to be alive.
Lucky to be here.

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Dude, I'm-- I'm just happy.
I'm cheesing.

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Jenn's obviously amazing.

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We're all, you know, fighting
for her heart right now,

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but let's just have
a great night.

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Let's try to keep it drama-free.
So cheers.

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- Cheers. Cheers, man.
- Cheers. Cheers.

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Cheers. Cheers.

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This is the most
confident that I've felt

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in terms
of my connection with Jenn.

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{\an8}You know, there are some things

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{\an8}that Jenn and I both kind of
can relate to,

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{\an8}especially being
first-generation Americans

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like Jenn and I both are.

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So yeah, I want to build on
that foundation that we started.

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I'm excited for tonight.

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I will say
another thing, though.

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I've never grown up
with a brother.

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And so lucky to be here with
you guys and have that support.

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So I just wanted to give a
shout-out to you guys for real.

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I'm happy.
I think it's good right now.

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Dare I say it, I think this
might be the first

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{\an8}cocktail party where there is
absolutely no drama.

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This week, there's just a
lot that's on my mind, you know?

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I have 11 guys here
that I have been dating

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for the past few weeks,
who I've grown a lot with.

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But then this morning,
there was a big surprise.

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- Hi.

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What is going on?

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What are you doing here?

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My ex-boyfriend Matt
flew on his own

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from Boston to see me.

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I would love to join you,
to express to you

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how much
I still strongly care for you.

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Like what,
you're ready to get engaged?

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- I'm ready to do it.
- Matthew.

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I know it's not the first time
I've said this,

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but I really do love you.

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Matthew.

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I'm just taken aback.

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Like, I don't know
what I'm going to do.

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Hey.
Hey, Jesse.

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Jenn, how are you?
Good to see you.

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You look great. You doing okay?

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Thank you. Yeah.

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It's been a long day today.

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Yeah.
Quite the day, too, I know.

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Yeah. Yeah.

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So Matt flew himself halfway
around the world to talk to you.

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- Yeah.
- To tell you how he feels.

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I mean, I do have to
give it to him.

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That's a pretty
romantic gesture.

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I'm just in disbelief.
I-I couldn't believe it

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when I saw that he was here,
and I was so confused and--

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Did you have any idea
he felt that way?

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No. You know,
we'd been friends

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for so long after the breakup

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that I just didn't know,
like, that was how he felt.

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I don't know. I mean,
no one's ever told me

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that they're in love
with me before, so...

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So how did it feel, then,
to hear him say that, like that?

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I mean, it definitely has me
even more confused now.

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Matt's here tonight.
I do think you guys should talk,

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because no matter
what you decide to do, Jenn,

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I think it really
could change everything.

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- Yeah.
- I'm sure you've also thought

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about the other guys,
too, and--

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Yeah. I mean, I do have
11 amazing guys inside,

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and they make me feel so
deserving and worth being here.

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And I can see
my future here with them.

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- They have no idea.
- Yeah.

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I mean, what do you think
they're going to think

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if somehow he were to join?

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What do you think
you want to do?

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I don't even know-- I don't
know what to think of that.

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I have to make an incredibly
difficult decision.

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Do I let Matt join this journey
with me?

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Thanks for your help.
- Great seeing you.

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I am afraid of what it might
stir up in some of these guys

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and how they might
feel about it.

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You know, I'm pumped

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for really everybody
in this room right now, man.

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Just hoping that we just
finish out the week with a bang.

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Yep.

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I just don't know how
they're gonna react to it all.

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I can only hope
that they trust me.

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I don't know, man. It's tough.
Nerves are going to be there,

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especially with 11 guys
like this.

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But anyway--

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- Whoo!
- Hey!

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How are we doing?
Good.

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First, I just want
to thank you guys

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for truly an amazing week
for me.

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Um, you know,

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I know I've talked
to a lot of you about my past.

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And my past has started
to impact me

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in a lot more ways
than I imagined.

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Um, I do feel like I need
to be honest with you guys.

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I was in the city, and someone
from my past interrupted me,

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and it was my ex-boyfriend Matt.

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And he flew all the way
here to Auckland

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to basically profess
his love for me.

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And he wants to be with me,

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and he wants to join
this journey.

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Um, I mean...

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There's a lot of feelings.

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There's a lot of things
going on.

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So, Matt is here tonight,

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and I do need to talk to him.

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So I will be right back.

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What-- What-- Does anyone
want to talk on that?

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What is everyone's thoughts?

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I need a drink.

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{\an8}This sucks.
That is a gut punch

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{\an8}to everybody sitting
in that room right there.

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{\an8}Like, did I expect this?
Not even a little bit.

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Do I want this?

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Not even a little bit.
But it seems like it's something

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we're just gonna
have to deal with.

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You know, it's easy
to jump to conclusions

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{\an8}that, you know, does he come
and stay in the house?

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{\an8}Does she leave with him?

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Ultimately,
it's her decision.

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I just don't want to see her
get hurt again.

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We all took that
kind of personally.

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We're all putting our hearts
on the line.

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{\an8}There's already some good men
in the picture,

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{\an8}so I'm not happy about it.

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There's no blueprint
for how to, like, behave

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or act or to navigate
the situation, right?

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{\an8}To think that someone has this,
like, unfair advantage

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{\an8}of, like, having
a history with her,

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it's like, how do you even
compete with that?

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You guys all know, bro,

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it hits a different with an ex
when you know them.

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- Hi.
- Hi. How are you?

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That guy does have
an unfair advantage, 100%.

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He knows Jenn more than
any of us in this room.

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And I think it's kind of wack
and corny

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if he's able to come in here
and, you know, stay.

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And I'm personally
not cool with that.

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You didn't think something like
that was going to happen tonight

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{\an8}and then boom,
hit the fan once again.

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{\an8}So here we are.

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That is a gut punch
right now to hear that

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I can literally feel
the blood boil inside of me.

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Is he joining the house?

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I don't know.
Is Jenn gonna allow this

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to be happening right now?
I think that's wack, honestly,

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if that guy's gonna come in here

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after all we've poured in.
I think it's kind of wack.

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I personally don't want to be
a part of that.

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She's talked to at least
a few of us

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about her past relationships.

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If he does come here,
it's for a reason.

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{\an8}Jenn tells us all that
one of her ex-boyfriends

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{\an8}flew to Auckland
and surprised her

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and that he was here tonight

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and that she needed to go
have a conversation with him

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and that she was going
to hear him out.

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I think all the guys
are either shocked or upset.

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People are definitely
in their emotions.

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How are you feeling?

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Um,

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I feel a little nervous.

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I just want you to know,
like, I appreciate everything

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that you've done
in coming here.

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Like, it touches my heart.

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Like, it's not something
that anyone's ever done for me.

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And I guess, I mean,
I'm still confused.

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Like, why now?

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I mean,
it's really now or never.

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You're leaving this thing
engaged.

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There's no flexibility there.

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I just didn't know
you felt that way.

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I would say it didn't
happen all at once.

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But over time, finding us
coming back together, we--

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I just saw things in you
that just made things so deep.

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I know. I-I mean,
like, thinking back to,

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like, our relationship and all
the good times that we had,

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and, like, you're such
an important person in my life.

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And, like,
it does make me sentimental.

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When we first really
tried things out,

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we were much different people.

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We were not the adults
that we are today.

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And I just feel like

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as we've grown
into more adults over time,

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we've just found this bond
growing stronger.

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And I hope that you can see
how much that you mean to me.

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I'm just not ready to let it go.

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Like, this is hard for me,

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because you know
how much I care about you.

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When I think about Matt
and our relationship,

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you know, we had a lot
of great times together,

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and we're just compatible
in a lot of different ways.

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At the same time, you know,

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I've been dating these 11 guys.
I feel torn.

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I'm fighting between this past
versus this newness.

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You know, I don't
want to hurt anyone,

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but I have to make a decision.

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I'm frustrated, bro.
- You're hot right now.

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You know what I'm saying?
I saw you had that glow on you,

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and now it's like
getting hit by a bus.

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She has cried
about her past, bro.

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The thing
that I'm saying is--

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And now she's gonna
let her past

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back into her life
like that so easily?

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- The thing that I'm saying--
- And walk among us?

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I did this already.
I've been there, bro.

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I ain't doing it again, bro.
I ain't doing it again.

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- She might tell him off.
- She might.

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- She might not.
- She might let his ass here.

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And that's why we gotta wait
to see what happens.

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- She does, I'm leaving.
- Don't-- Don't say that, bro.

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- Yeah, she does, I'm leaving.
- Don't say that.

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Jenn has to deal
with her own things, too.

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Wait to see what happens,

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and then we take it
from there, bro.

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{\an8}I'm livid, man. I mean,

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{\an8}the fact that
this guy is even here

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is just a problem.
For me, it's like

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my own past trauma.,
It's kind of been creeping up.

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You know, I've been
cheated on in the past.

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It's not a good feeling for me.

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And I know this isn't
necessarily that,

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but it feels like it for sure.

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The fact that she's going to let
somebody come here and do all--

240
00:10:30,756 --> 00:10:32,299
Why are we just, like,
sitting here letting it happen?

241
00:10:32,299 --> 00:10:33,717
I'm gonna wait.
I'm gonna wait.

242
00:10:33,717 --> 00:10:36,428
If she walks in here
with this guy,

243
00:10:36,428 --> 00:10:38,722
this rose doesn't mean
anything to me.

244
00:10:52,194 --> 00:10:54,404
Uh, just wanted
to take a second

245
00:10:54,404 --> 00:10:56,907
to let you guys know
I did come here

246
00:10:56,907 --> 00:11:00,827
completely on my own volition.

247
00:11:00,827 --> 00:11:02,621
But she let me know,

248
00:11:02,621 --> 00:11:05,916
you know, her future's
in this room.

249
00:11:05,916 --> 00:11:07,876
She feels confident

250
00:11:07,876 --> 00:11:12,506
that you guys can offer her
something I can't.

251
00:11:12,506 --> 00:11:14,966
And I'm just here to,
you know, apologize.

252
00:11:14,966 --> 00:11:18,804
I'm not here to take anything
away from your experience.

253
00:11:18,804 --> 00:11:21,223
I wish you all the best.
I wish her the best.

254
00:11:21,223 --> 00:11:22,849
Smart girl.

255
00:11:22,849 --> 00:11:24,518
I do want to say
something right here.

256
00:11:24,518 --> 00:11:28,688
Um, even if you did walk
into this house,

257
00:11:28,688 --> 00:11:32,401
I think you can sit
and look amongst this crowd.

258
00:11:32,401 --> 00:11:35,737
We got some good dudes
right here, and, uh, yeah.

259
00:11:35,737 --> 00:11:38,740
I'm glad that you gonna
stay in the past, my boy.

260
00:11:38,740 --> 00:11:41,410
I think I feel
a little defeated.

261
00:11:41,410 --> 00:11:45,247
{\an8}All the growth that she's had
and the journey

262
00:11:45,247 --> 00:11:48,500
that she's been on
has changed her.

263
00:11:48,500 --> 00:11:51,711
And I have to respect that.

264
00:11:51,711 --> 00:11:52,921
Good luck.

265
00:11:52,921 --> 00:11:56,508
At least we both get the closure
that we didn't get,

266
00:11:56,508 --> 00:12:01,221
but it just wasn't
what I had hoped for.

267
00:12:01,221 --> 00:12:03,265
We good. We good.
It's all done.

268
00:12:03,265 --> 00:12:04,808
It's all squashed.
I think all of us,

269
00:12:04,808 --> 00:12:07,811
what we've seen in Jenn,
she just proved to us.

270
00:12:07,811 --> 00:12:11,523
So, uh, I'm happy for everybody.
I'm happy that

271
00:12:11,523 --> 00:12:13,900
is gone and we good.

272
00:12:13,900 --> 00:12:16,820
It felt good. It was
the reassurance that I needed.

273
00:12:16,820 --> 00:12:18,780
{\an8}I jumped to conclusions
for the wrong reasons,

274
00:12:18,780 --> 00:12:21,241
and Jenn was smart enough
in that moment

275
00:12:21,241 --> 00:12:22,868
to realize what she had.

276
00:12:22,868 --> 00:12:26,705
I got to trust her on that.
I got to trust her on that.

277
00:12:26,705 --> 00:12:31,835
Today has been an emotional
roller coaster for me.

278
00:12:31,835 --> 00:12:34,838
You know, Matt told me today
that he is in love with me,

279
00:12:34,838 --> 00:12:37,757
and that's not something
that I've ever heard before.

280
00:12:37,757 --> 00:12:39,593
Um, hearing it from him,
you know,

281
00:12:39,593 --> 00:12:43,889
it was all the right things,
but said by the wrong guy.

282
00:12:43,889 --> 00:12:48,477
Looking around this room, I know
that the right guy is in here.

283
00:12:48,477 --> 00:12:50,187
And I've said it before,
and I'll say it again,

284
00:12:50,187 --> 00:12:52,230
like, my future is in this room.

285
00:12:52,230 --> 00:12:54,566
Like, my husband
is in this room.

286
00:12:54,566 --> 00:12:57,736
But we do have
a rose ceremony tonight,

287
00:12:57,736 --> 00:13:00,739
and I do have some
difficult decisions to make,

288
00:13:00,739 --> 00:13:02,824
and that crushes me, as well.

289
00:13:02,824 --> 00:13:07,662
So I will see you guys there.

290
00:13:10,874 --> 00:13:13,877
Hearing Jenn does see
her future in this room,

291
00:13:13,877 --> 00:13:16,505
of course, there's a weight
off your shoulders, you know?

292
00:13:16,505 --> 00:13:19,966
But there's still
10 amazing other guys.

293
00:13:22,385 --> 00:13:24,513
We didn't get
alone time tonight.

294
00:13:24,513 --> 00:13:27,557
{\an8}I hope that what we have
is strong enough

295
00:13:27,557 --> 00:13:30,519
{\an8}that she sees me
in a greater light

296
00:13:30,519 --> 00:13:34,773
than she sees some of
the other guys in the house.

297
00:13:34,773 --> 00:13:36,316
Jenn made it clear

298
00:13:36,316 --> 00:13:37,901
that she's looking
for her future husband,

299
00:13:37,901 --> 00:13:40,487
{\an8}and that's the big thing
I have to hold on to.

300
00:13:40,487 --> 00:13:42,948
I know that I'm ready
for an engagement,

301
00:13:42,948 --> 00:13:46,868
and I'm very hopeful
that that's what this could be.

302
00:13:59,005 --> 00:14:00,840
Grant.

303
00:14:04,844 --> 00:14:07,055
Grant, will you
accept this rose?

304
00:14:07,055 --> 00:14:08,848
Of course. Watch out.

305
00:14:16,106 --> 00:14:17,941
There's a lot
at stake tonight.

306
00:14:17,941 --> 00:14:21,695
I can feel however I want
to feel about our connection.

307
00:14:21,695 --> 00:14:25,448
But if there isn't a rose
on my lapel tonight,

308
00:14:25,448 --> 00:14:27,826
then it doesn't
really mean anything.

309
00:14:27,826 --> 00:14:29,327
Jeremy.

310
00:14:29,327 --> 00:14:33,832
That is a scary thing
to think about.

311
00:14:33,832 --> 00:14:36,001
Jeremy,
will you accept this rose?

312
00:14:36,001 --> 00:14:38,003
Of course.

313
00:14:47,095 --> 00:14:49,097
Jonathon.

314
00:14:49,097 --> 00:14:51,891
Oh, my gosh. I mean,
I'm confident, but I'm nervous.

315
00:14:51,891 --> 00:14:53,852
Jonathon, will you
accept this rose?

316
00:14:53,852 --> 00:14:55,145
Of course.

317
00:14:55,145 --> 00:14:57,856
{\an8}I am praying my name is next.

318
00:14:57,856 --> 00:15:00,442
To get a rose from Jenn
means that she sees me

319
00:15:00,442 --> 00:15:04,404
and she sees a future.
So that means the world.

320
00:15:04,404 --> 00:15:06,406
Spencer.

321
00:15:09,451 --> 00:15:11,328
Spencer, will you
accept this rose?

322
00:15:11,328 --> 00:15:14,873
Without a question.
Absolutely.

323
00:15:19,169 --> 00:15:22,380
{\an8}For me to get a rose tonight
would be huge.

324
00:15:22,380 --> 00:15:24,633
Dylan.
This is why I'm here,

325
00:15:24,633 --> 00:15:25,925
to build my relationship
with Jenn

326
00:15:25,925 --> 00:15:27,844
and see if we're a good match

327
00:15:27,844 --> 00:15:30,513
and build up on the foundation
that we started on day one.

328
00:15:30,513 --> 00:15:32,057
Dylan, will you
accept this rose?

329
00:15:32,057 --> 00:15:33,892
Of course.

330
00:15:33,892 --> 00:15:36,978
So a rose tonight
would be everything.

331
00:15:42,108 --> 00:15:47,364
Gentlemen, Jenn,
it's the final rose tonight.

332
00:15:47,364 --> 00:15:49,949
When you're ready.
- Thank you.

333
00:16:10,095 --> 00:16:11,971
Austin.

334
00:16:16,017 --> 00:16:17,977
Austin, will you
accept this rose?

335
00:16:17,977 --> 00:16:19,813
Of course.

336
00:16:30,115 --> 00:16:33,576
Thomas, John,
I'm really sorry.

337
00:16:33,576 --> 00:16:36,162
Please take a moment,
say your goodbyes.

338
00:16:45,922 --> 00:16:48,049
I hope you find
everything you're looking for.

339
00:16:48,049 --> 00:16:52,345
Thank you. You, too, honestly.
You're amazing. Seriously.

340
00:16:52,345 --> 00:16:54,139
Tonight was hard.

341
00:16:54,139 --> 00:16:56,641
It's not easy sending
people home at this point

342
00:16:56,641 --> 00:16:59,853
because of how strongly
I feel for them.

343
00:17:05,150 --> 00:17:06,776
Appreciate you.

344
00:17:11,406 --> 00:17:14,743
But I have to do what's right
for me and put myself first,

345
00:17:14,743 --> 00:17:16,077
which I haven't always done.

346
00:17:16,077 --> 00:17:17,704
Cheers to realizing

347
00:17:17,704 --> 00:17:20,582
this present group of guys
right here

348
00:17:20,582 --> 00:17:22,542
is much better
than anything in your past.

349
00:17:22,542 --> 00:17:23,960
Cheers.
Cheers to the future.

350
00:17:23,960 --> 00:17:26,129
Tonight was
a monumental night.

351
00:17:26,129 --> 00:17:29,466
It's like we're really, truly
putting the past in the past.

352
00:17:29,466 --> 00:17:32,010
We are fully embracing

353
00:17:32,010 --> 00:17:33,970
this bright future that I know
I have ahead of me

354
00:17:33,970 --> 00:17:35,555
because of the guys
that are here.

355
00:17:35,555 --> 00:17:36,681
To love.

356
00:17:36,681 --> 00:17:38,683
- To love!
- To love!

357
00:17:46,691 --> 00:17:48,276
I don't know
if you knew this,

358
00:17:48,276 --> 00:17:51,112
but the coffee culture here in
Auckland is absolutely amazing.

359
00:17:51,112 --> 00:17:52,447
Really?
- They take their coffee

360
00:17:52,447 --> 00:17:54,032
so, so seriously.

361
00:17:54,032 --> 00:17:55,742
Okay. Well, this is actually
really good.

362
00:17:55,742 --> 00:17:58,077
And I needed this.
- It was a long day yesterday.

363
00:17:58,077 --> 00:18:00,997
Yeah.
Last night was crazy.

364
00:18:00,997 --> 00:18:03,958
I finally closed the door
on that chapter

365
00:18:03,958 --> 00:18:06,211
and closed the door on the woman
that I used to be.

366
00:18:06,211 --> 00:18:09,714
And I want to focus on digging
deeper with these guys,

367
00:18:09,714 --> 00:18:11,424
because I do think
this is a crucial week

368
00:18:11,424 --> 00:18:14,803
to continue building momentum
in all of these relationships.

369
00:18:14,803 --> 00:18:16,679
What do you feel like
you still want to see

370
00:18:16,679 --> 00:18:18,723
from the guys here
moving forward?

371
00:18:18,723 --> 00:18:21,643
Um, obviously
there's something there.

372
00:18:21,643 --> 00:18:23,269
There's banter.
There's chemistry.

373
00:18:23,269 --> 00:18:28,858
But with each week, I can feel
that I get a better sense

374
00:18:28,858 --> 00:18:30,985
of what I want in a future.

375
00:18:30,985 --> 00:18:33,029
The more and more I'm building
these relationships,

376
00:18:33,029 --> 00:18:37,033
I'm seeing the things
that I do want.

377
00:18:37,033 --> 00:18:38,701
This is about to start
to get weird with y'all.

378
00:18:38,701 --> 00:18:41,204
Like, we're breaking
that feeling's threshold,

379
00:18:41,204 --> 00:18:44,165
and that showed last night.
Lot of guys were upset,

380
00:18:44,165 --> 00:18:46,167
and this is where
it kind of gets

381
00:18:46,167 --> 00:18:49,295
a little bit more real. Yeah.

382
00:18:49,295 --> 00:18:51,130
The main thing I'm hoping
for is a one on one.

383
00:18:51,130 --> 00:18:54,509
I think that would be amazing.
Um, I just see

384
00:18:54,509 --> 00:18:58,179
the way that you guys look
after an entire day with her.

385
00:18:58,179 --> 00:19:00,765
I want to look
and feel like that, too.

386
00:19:00,765 --> 00:19:04,227
Boys, boys, boys.
I got us a date card.

387
00:19:04,227 --> 00:19:07,689
Ooh.

388
00:19:07,689 --> 00:19:09,566
Right back at it.

389
00:19:09,566 --> 00:19:11,359
We only have nine guys left,

390
00:19:11,359 --> 00:19:13,945
so it's starting to get real.

391
00:19:13,945 --> 00:19:16,614
{\an8}And, you know, the process
is starting to move fast.

392
00:19:16,614 --> 00:19:20,368
{\an8}So I'm hopefully getting
a one on one today.

393
00:19:22,161 --> 00:19:24,789
I haven't had
a one on one with Jenn,

394
00:19:24,789 --> 00:19:27,166
so I'm at a disadvantage
in that aspect.

395
00:19:27,166 --> 00:19:29,878
{\an8}But, you know, I feel
like my time is coming.

396
00:19:29,878 --> 00:19:34,215
{\an8}So I'm going to stay optimistic
and see what happens.

397
00:19:40,013 --> 00:19:43,391
"Jonathon, It's time
for our love to take flight.

398
00:19:43,391 --> 00:19:47,020
Love, Jenn."

399
00:19:47,020 --> 00:19:50,148
I am over the moon right now.

400
00:19:50,148 --> 00:19:51,316
Take flight?

401
00:19:51,316 --> 00:19:53,026
Gonna be
something with a plane.

402
00:19:53,026 --> 00:19:54,402
Or hot air--
They do hot air balloons.

403
00:19:54,402 --> 00:19:56,613
- Or hot air balloon.
- Oh, man.

404
00:19:56,613 --> 00:19:59,240
I hope not.

405
00:19:59,240 --> 00:20:02,327
Ever since I got here,
you crave that one on one time

406
00:20:02,327 --> 00:20:05,413
{\an8}just to really dive a little bit
deeper into your emotions.

407
00:20:05,413 --> 00:20:08,082
{\an8}And every week, you sit there,
and your name's not called,

408
00:20:08,082 --> 00:20:10,543
and then it's called,
and you're like,

409
00:20:10,543 --> 00:20:12,253
"Did you guys hear that, too?"

410
00:20:12,253 --> 00:20:15,298
The date card said, "It's time
for our love to take flight."

411
00:20:15,298 --> 00:20:17,383
I don't like heights,
so I'm like,

412
00:20:17,383 --> 00:20:21,262
what in the hell could there be
that involves flight?

413
00:20:22,931 --> 00:20:26,309
Oh, man, I hate
helicopters.

414
00:20:31,731 --> 00:20:32,899
Hey!
- Hi.

415
00:20:32,899 --> 00:20:34,275
How are you?

416
00:20:34,275 --> 00:20:36,444
I don't know what is
with you and heights,

417
00:20:36,444 --> 00:20:38,321
but I can already tell.

418
00:20:38,321 --> 00:20:41,032
- How are you doing?
- I'm doing good.

419
00:20:41,032 --> 00:20:42,283
Good.

420
00:20:42,283 --> 00:20:45,370
Okay, well, we are gonna
take a ride in the helicopter.

421
00:20:45,370 --> 00:20:47,080
Have you ever been
in a helicopter before?

422
00:20:47,080 --> 00:20:48,581
I have. I hate helicopters.

423
00:20:48,581 --> 00:20:50,875
That is literally the last thing
I wanted to do today.

424
00:20:50,875 --> 00:20:53,044
If we go down,
at least we go down together.

425
00:20:53,044 --> 00:20:55,713
The goal here is
to get over the fear with Jenn

426
00:20:55,713 --> 00:20:57,715
and just get lost
in the moment with her.

427
00:20:57,715 --> 00:20:59,550
Alright. Let's go.

428
00:20:59,550 --> 00:21:02,136
She jumped out of a plane.
She's jumped off the building.

429
00:21:02,136 --> 00:21:04,389
She's gone on helicopter
rides now before.

430
00:21:04,389 --> 00:21:07,016
So I'm going to make her
feel very needed.

431
00:21:07,016 --> 00:21:08,768
It's okay.
It's gonna be okay.

432
00:21:08,768 --> 00:21:10,395
It's gonna be okay.

433
00:21:10,395 --> 00:21:12,355
Don't worry.
I'll break your fall.

434
00:21:12,355 --> 00:21:14,065
The shaking
is a little, you know--

435
00:21:14,065 --> 00:21:17,402
Yeah. It's gonna be good.
It's gonna be fine.

436
00:21:17,402 --> 00:21:20,780
Jonathon is a little scared
right now.

437
00:21:20,780 --> 00:21:22,365
Wow.
- Why is it so choppy?

438
00:21:22,365 --> 00:21:25,284
Look how pretty, though.
This is our first test,

439
00:21:25,284 --> 00:21:28,162
you know, if I'm gonna be there
for him and his fears,

440
00:21:28,162 --> 00:21:31,582
and I'm gonna reassure him
that everything's gonna be okay.

441
00:21:31,582 --> 00:21:33,292
Holy
- Hey.

442
00:21:33,292 --> 00:21:34,877
No, no, no, no, not in
a nervous holy [bleep] way.

443
00:21:34,877 --> 00:21:36,838
Like, look at this.
It's pretty.

444
00:21:36,838 --> 00:21:39,340
Auckland is gorgeous.
Stunning.

445
00:21:39,340 --> 00:21:40,925
My relationship with Jonathon,

446
00:21:40,925 --> 00:21:42,260
you know,
there's something there.

447
00:21:42,260 --> 00:21:44,178
There's a spark.
There's chemistry.

448
00:21:44,178 --> 00:21:46,389
But for some reason, it hasn't
really taken off the ground yet.

449
00:21:46,389 --> 00:21:50,435
There's the hotel! Hi, boys.

450
00:21:50,435 --> 00:21:52,395
Bye, boys.
- Jealous? No, I'm kidding.

451
00:21:54,147 --> 00:21:58,401
He and I just have
this giggly, goofy energy,

452
00:21:58,401 --> 00:22:00,987
which I love,
but we haven't really gotten

453
00:22:00,987 --> 00:22:03,072
to where we're just open
and vulnerable,

454
00:22:03,072 --> 00:22:04,741
and I think that's really
what we need

455
00:22:04,741 --> 00:22:06,659
to get to the next level.

456
00:22:06,659 --> 00:22:09,370
So, we finally
have left Auckland,

457
00:22:09,370 --> 00:22:13,332
and now we're entering
the beautiful island of Waiheke,

458
00:22:13,332 --> 00:22:14,625
known for its wine.

459
00:22:14,625 --> 00:22:15,960
- I knew it!
- Yeah.

460
00:22:15,960 --> 00:22:17,336
- I knew it.
- Yeah!

461
00:22:17,336 --> 00:22:19,297
Just not
thinking about it anymore.

462
00:22:19,297 --> 00:22:20,673
Good.

463
00:22:20,673 --> 00:22:23,968
You helped me get
through that more than you know.

464
00:22:23,968 --> 00:22:25,595
Landing safely.

465
00:22:25,595 --> 00:22:28,431
After Jenn was able
to calm me down a little bit,

466
00:22:28,431 --> 00:22:31,517
we flew into
an absolutely beautiful venue.

467
00:22:31,517 --> 00:22:34,353
It's something that you can
only see in, like, magazines.

468
00:22:34,353 --> 00:22:36,105
And being beside Jenn,

469
00:22:36,105 --> 00:22:38,941
knowing that she has
a beautiful day planned for us,

470
00:22:38,941 --> 00:22:41,778
I'm over the moon.

471
00:22:41,778 --> 00:22:42,904
I'm gonna do a cartwheel.

472
00:22:42,904 --> 00:22:44,405
Are you?

473
00:22:44,405 --> 00:22:47,158
Oh. Alright, I got you.
You ready? Look.

474
00:22:47,158 --> 00:22:49,035
Do a cartwheel.

475
00:22:49,035 --> 00:22:53,664
Oh! Okay. Okay. Not bad.

476
00:22:53,664 --> 00:22:57,210
So pretty. Oh, my gosh.
We should play hide and seek.

477
00:22:57,210 --> 00:22:59,003
- Who's counting first?
- I'm counting.

478
00:22:59,003 --> 00:23:01,506
- Are you?
- 1, 2, 3, 4,

479
00:23:01,506 --> 00:23:06,427
5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10.

480
00:23:06,427 --> 00:23:07,470
Marco?

481
00:23:07,470 --> 00:23:09,931
- Polo!
I hear you!

482
00:23:09,931 --> 00:23:11,974
Jonathon and I are literally
at a vineyard,

483
00:23:11,974 --> 00:23:13,601
the most romantic place ever,

484
00:23:13,601 --> 00:23:16,562
and we're still just being
our goofy selves.

485
00:23:16,562 --> 00:23:18,439
I found you.
- Okay, now I'm out of breath.

486
00:23:18,439 --> 00:23:21,275
He brings out
the weirdest parts of me,

487
00:23:21,275 --> 00:23:24,529
and we just have a good time
whenever we're together.

488
00:23:24,529 --> 00:23:25,780
Hey, man. From distance.

489
00:23:25,780 --> 00:23:28,699
Okay, ready?

490
00:23:28,699 --> 00:23:31,285
How did you do that?!

491
00:23:31,285 --> 00:23:33,412
Watch what I can do
with my mouth.

492
00:23:35,748 --> 00:23:37,291
This day
is like one of those ones

493
00:23:37,291 --> 00:23:40,044
that you see in movies,
like a rom com.

494
00:23:40,044 --> 00:23:41,838
I mean, fun. The banter,

495
00:23:41,838 --> 00:23:44,340
the jokes,
the rapport are all there.

496
00:23:44,340 --> 00:23:46,717
Will you accept this grape?

497
00:23:46,717 --> 00:23:48,928
I'd be honored.

498
00:23:50,721 --> 00:23:52,682
But that's also
my biggest fear is,

499
00:23:52,682 --> 00:23:54,433
is this just friendly?

500
00:23:54,433 --> 00:23:56,102
What do you think?
Should we get in the hot tub?

501
00:23:56,102 --> 00:23:57,895
- Should we hop in?
- Yeah.

502
00:23:57,895 --> 00:24:01,232
Can we connect
on an emotional level?

503
00:24:01,232 --> 00:24:02,650
I'm going to try my best,

504
00:24:02,650 --> 00:24:04,986
so I hope that
she's comfortable enough

505
00:24:04,986 --> 00:24:06,988
with what we have
that she can open up

506
00:24:06,988 --> 00:24:10,700
past the fun,
surface level stuff, as well.

507
00:24:12,535 --> 00:24:13,953
I meant to ask,
did you have any fears

508
00:24:13,953 --> 00:24:15,580
going into today
with me specifically?

509
00:24:15,580 --> 00:24:19,167
No, I don't think so. Did
anything about today scare you?

510
00:24:19,167 --> 00:24:20,751
- I mean...
- Tell me.

511
00:24:20,751 --> 00:24:23,337
- Only one fear.
- Tell me. What?

512
00:24:23,337 --> 00:24:25,965
My-- My biggest fear
for-- for us

513
00:24:25,965 --> 00:24:29,594
is breaking past the fun
and friendly phase.

514
00:24:29,594 --> 00:24:31,179
- Okay.
- You know what I mean?

515
00:24:31,179 --> 00:24:33,639
Do we connect on that
deeper emotional level?

516
00:24:33,639 --> 00:24:35,474
'Cause it's huge.
It's hugely important.

517
00:24:35,474 --> 00:24:37,685
- I agree.
- And it's something I'm bad at.

518
00:24:37,685 --> 00:24:39,520
Like, we are both
very intuitive people,

519
00:24:39,520 --> 00:24:41,564
and I think today
was all about having fun.

520
00:24:41,564 --> 00:24:43,816
But I know that
you have layers to peel back.

521
00:24:43,816 --> 00:24:45,151
Yeah.

522
00:24:45,151 --> 00:24:46,611
You know,
the fun is there.

523
00:24:46,611 --> 00:24:48,237
The physical is there
with Jonathon.

524
00:24:48,237 --> 00:24:49,906
And what's missing
is really just being able

525
00:24:49,906 --> 00:24:51,490
to emotionally connect.

526
00:24:51,490 --> 00:24:54,243
And I hope that
we'll be able to do that.

527
00:24:54,243 --> 00:24:58,206
A rose means a lot more
than previous roses have meant.

528
00:24:58,206 --> 00:25:02,418
And for me to be able
to give out a rose to Jonathon,

529
00:25:02,418 --> 00:25:07,131
I have to feel like we can
break past that fun barrier.

530
00:25:15,389 --> 00:25:18,517
Oh, my God. That dress
is beautiful, by the way.

531
00:25:18,517 --> 00:25:20,102
Boom.
You're too nice.

532
00:25:20,102 --> 00:25:21,771
You're too nice.
Are you kidding me?

533
00:25:23,231 --> 00:25:26,567
That is so cool.

534
00:25:26,567 --> 00:25:28,694
Thank you.
- You're very welcome.

535
00:25:28,694 --> 00:25:29,904
Appreciate you.

536
00:25:29,904 --> 00:25:31,530
{\an8}Jenn and I's
relationship has been

537
00:25:31,530 --> 00:25:33,741
{\an8}nothing but, like, fun,
good-- good vibes.

538
00:25:33,741 --> 00:25:36,577
{\an8}There's never a dull moment
when we're hanging out.

539
00:25:36,577 --> 00:25:39,622
She brings light
to every situation.

540
00:25:39,622 --> 00:25:42,708
The glow and the energy
and the fun around us

541
00:25:42,708 --> 00:25:44,460
throughout the day was amazing.

542
00:25:44,460 --> 00:25:47,922
I'd like to make a toast
to an incredible day

543
00:25:47,922 --> 00:25:49,507
with an incredible man,

544
00:25:49,507 --> 00:25:53,261
and to getting to know
each other a lot deeper.

545
00:25:53,261 --> 00:25:54,679
- Cheers.
- Cheers.

546
00:25:54,679 --> 00:25:56,514
There's
a shared bond over, like,

547
00:25:56,514 --> 00:25:58,724
how fun and how light
we look at life.

548
00:25:58,724 --> 00:26:02,144
But Jenn doesn't know
the emotional distress

549
00:26:02,144 --> 00:26:04,480
or the life-changing qualities

550
00:26:04,480 --> 00:26:07,775
that happened to me
from my past relationship,

551
00:26:07,775 --> 00:26:11,904
and it's something that I want
to make sure she's aware of.

552
00:26:11,904 --> 00:26:13,572
But, you know, I'm scared.

553
00:26:13,572 --> 00:26:15,574
Today was amazing, seriously.
- Yeah.

554
00:26:15,574 --> 00:26:18,744
Like, I haven't had
the immediate banter and fun

555
00:26:18,744 --> 00:26:23,082
and laughs with somebody
like that I think ever.

556
00:26:23,082 --> 00:26:25,668
One thing that I really love
about each other

557
00:26:25,668 --> 00:26:27,378
and about today is, like,

558
00:26:27,378 --> 00:26:29,672
you allow me to fully be myself.
And that's not something

559
00:26:29,672 --> 00:26:32,341
that I've had in previous
relationships before.

560
00:26:32,341 --> 00:26:35,386
And that's why, like,
today was so fun for me,

561
00:26:35,386 --> 00:26:39,140
is like we were fully able
to just be ourselves.

562
00:26:39,140 --> 00:26:41,350
And that's important to me,
you know?

563
00:26:41,350 --> 00:26:43,519
Yeah. And with that,

564
00:26:43,519 --> 00:26:45,354
obviously there's topics
I want to cover

565
00:26:45,354 --> 00:26:46,814
and things I want you
to know about me

566
00:26:46,814 --> 00:26:47,940
and things I want
to know about you.

567
00:26:47,940 --> 00:26:50,276
- Absolutely.
- Um,

568
00:26:50,276 --> 00:26:51,610
I know it's been
kind of on repeat

569
00:26:51,610 --> 00:26:54,113
that I've told you
like I'm bad at emoting,

570
00:26:54,113 --> 00:26:58,617
and I think it's more that I'm
bad at opening all the way up.

571
00:26:58,617 --> 00:27:00,828
- Mm-hmm.
- So for me, it's like

572
00:27:00,828 --> 00:27:03,497
I have a very hard time
fully trusting

573
00:27:03,497 --> 00:27:05,458
that somebody is exactly
what they say they are.

574
00:27:05,458 --> 00:27:07,710
And I don't want to give
somebody my all

575
00:27:07,710 --> 00:27:10,171
when I don't know

576
00:27:10,171 --> 00:27:11,881
what all is inside of them.
- Mm-hmm.

577
00:27:11,881 --> 00:27:13,716
And I think that's a problem
a lot of people have,

578
00:27:13,716 --> 00:27:16,093
but everybody has it
for different reasons.

579
00:27:16,093 --> 00:27:19,847
- Sure.
- And I think from mine,

580
00:27:19,847 --> 00:27:21,349
I met a girl

581
00:27:21,349 --> 00:27:23,476
and just fell really hard,
really fast.

582
00:27:23,476 --> 00:27:25,728
And we lived together
for two years,

583
00:27:25,728 --> 00:27:27,563
looked at rings,

584
00:27:27,563 --> 00:27:30,858
looked into the future,
talked about kids,

585
00:27:30,858 --> 00:27:34,612
and then it all
kind of turned south.

586
00:27:34,612 --> 00:27:36,447
She was going through
a very hard time,

587
00:27:36,447 --> 00:27:39,158
and she would start to, like,

588
00:27:39,158 --> 00:27:40,785
self-medicate
or, like, abuse alcohol

589
00:27:40,785 --> 00:27:44,330
to cover up some of the pain
like she was going through.

590
00:27:44,330 --> 00:27:45,790
And this went on for like months

591
00:27:45,790 --> 00:27:48,334
until like one day, it
just like got out of hand.

592
00:27:48,334 --> 00:27:50,795
And we started just like
getting into it a little bit,

593
00:27:50,795 --> 00:27:53,672
and she would question
my character

594
00:27:53,672 --> 00:27:58,094
and say that I was abusive
and controlling and manipulative

595
00:27:58,094 --> 00:28:00,721
for questioning
what she was doing,

596
00:28:00,721 --> 00:28:05,184
words that kind of haunt me
still to this day.

597
00:28:05,184 --> 00:28:08,020
And it just it reached
a breaking point

598
00:28:08,020 --> 00:28:11,732
for-- for her words. She just
snapped and get the [bleep] out.

599
00:28:11,732 --> 00:28:15,361
Like, I don't want
to see you again.

600
00:28:15,361 --> 00:28:18,656
And it tore me down.

601
00:28:18,656 --> 00:28:23,244
And it took this kid who grew up
as a hopeless romantic,

602
00:28:23,244 --> 00:28:25,579
wanting that rom com
kind of love,

603
00:28:25,579 --> 00:28:28,791
and it absolutely
destroyed me to my core.

604
00:28:30,292 --> 00:28:31,794
I feel for him
for going through that,

605
00:28:31,794 --> 00:28:36,841
and I know how detrimental
that can be to one's self-worth.

606
00:28:36,841 --> 00:28:39,802
I mean, I've been through
the same thing.

607
00:28:39,802 --> 00:28:43,431
I can relate to you
more than you know.

608
00:28:43,431 --> 00:28:47,351
I did have a toxic ex-boyfriend
who, in the same way,

609
00:28:47,351 --> 00:28:50,646
gaslit me all the time
and was manipulative.

610
00:28:50,646 --> 00:28:53,315
And I think when you're in

611
00:28:53,315 --> 00:28:55,151
like an emotionally
abusive relationship,

612
00:28:55,151 --> 00:28:56,694
it really takes a toll on you,

613
00:28:56,694 --> 00:29:00,698
and you carry that with you
for a long time.

614
00:29:00,698 --> 00:29:03,075
I can see exactly like
where you're coming from,

615
00:29:03,075 --> 00:29:04,660
and the fears of emoting

616
00:29:04,660 --> 00:29:07,538
and the fears of fully
trusting someone again,

617
00:29:07,538 --> 00:29:10,416
because they can use it
against you.

618
00:29:10,416 --> 00:29:12,543
- Yeah.
- If that makes any sense.

619
00:29:12,543 --> 00:29:14,795
Yeah. Complete sense.
It's a hard pill to swallow,

620
00:29:14,795 --> 00:29:16,714
and not many people
have the ability

621
00:29:16,714 --> 00:29:19,675
to, like, make me understand
in the way that you are.

622
00:29:19,675 --> 00:29:22,386
Like, it's-- it's refreshing.

623
00:29:22,386 --> 00:29:24,805
It means the world. Thank you.
- Of course.

624
00:29:24,805 --> 00:29:27,850
Listening to her, we share
a lot of commonalities

625
00:29:27,850 --> 00:29:31,437
when it comes to emotional
distress in the past.

626
00:29:31,437 --> 00:29:32,938
And she makes me feel heard.

627
00:29:32,938 --> 00:29:37,610
And I'm happy that I got
to open up about these things.

628
00:29:37,610 --> 00:29:38,819
I think we can all agree

629
00:29:38,819 --> 00:29:40,362
that Jonathon is
a stand-up dude,

630
00:29:40,362 --> 00:29:42,198
but I hate the idea
of thinking of mans

631
00:29:42,198 --> 00:29:43,782
having fun with my girl.
Your girl?

632
00:29:43,782 --> 00:29:45,743
Yeah.
All I know is Jonathon

633
00:29:45,743 --> 00:29:48,496
is with me wife right now.

634
00:29:48,496 --> 00:29:50,915
{\an8}Jonathon has had
his one on one today.

635
00:29:50,915 --> 00:29:56,212
He is getting that quality time
with Jenn, and I want that, too.

636
00:29:56,212 --> 00:29:58,964
We got a date card.
- Oh!

637
00:29:58,964 --> 00:30:00,466
Sheesh!

638
00:30:00,466 --> 00:30:03,219
To get that one on one
would really signify

639
00:30:03,219 --> 00:30:04,553
if this is something
that, you know,

640
00:30:04,553 --> 00:30:06,805
can be a thing moving forward.

641
00:30:09,266 --> 00:30:11,477
It's a group date.

642
00:30:14,355 --> 00:30:17,733
Devin.

643
00:30:17,733 --> 00:30:19,985
Sam.

644
00:30:19,985 --> 00:30:22,029
Marcus.

645
00:30:22,029 --> 00:30:23,948
Spencer.

646
00:30:23,948 --> 00:30:26,158
Jeremy.

647
00:30:26,158 --> 00:30:28,494
Dylan.

648
00:30:32,122 --> 00:30:34,041
Austin.

649
00:30:37,545 --> 00:30:40,965
"Love is messy. Jenn."

650
00:30:40,965 --> 00:30:43,509
Hey.
This sounds like fun.

651
00:30:43,509 --> 00:30:44,843
- Congrats, man.
- Congrats, bro.

652
00:30:44,843 --> 00:30:46,720
- Thank you.
- Congrats, Grant.

653
00:30:46,720 --> 00:30:49,848
I'm happy. I'm happy
I'm getting the one on one.

654
00:30:49,848 --> 00:30:52,685
You know, try to dig
a little deeper emotionally.

655
00:30:52,685 --> 00:30:56,939
And, uh, I'm-a lay my cards
out there and see how it falls.

656
00:30:56,939 --> 00:31:00,067
I'm happy I finally got
a one on one date with Jenn.

657
00:31:00,067 --> 00:31:01,944
I've been anticipating.
I've been wanting it.

658
00:31:01,944 --> 00:31:03,779
{\an8}I'm super excited.
I want to see her.

659
00:31:03,779 --> 00:31:05,447
{\an8}I want to dive deeper
into our relationship.

660
00:31:05,447 --> 00:31:06,824
{\an8}And I want to get
to know her better,

661
00:31:06,824 --> 00:31:08,367
and I want her
to know me better.

662
00:31:08,367 --> 00:31:11,870
I-I have no thoughts
at the moment.

663
00:31:11,870 --> 00:31:14,039
It sucks, because
I feel like most of the guys

664
00:31:14,039 --> 00:31:16,041
are not even
just one step ahead of me.

665
00:31:16,041 --> 00:31:19,044
They're like a few steps ahead
of me, and I'm a little jealous,

666
00:31:19,044 --> 00:31:20,671
because I still need to know

667
00:31:20,671 --> 00:31:23,507
if Jenn's the right girl for me,
you know?

668
00:31:23,507 --> 00:31:27,720
I need some more time
to get to that point.

669
00:31:27,720 --> 00:31:29,930
I know you're
a glass half full kind of girl.

670
00:31:29,930 --> 00:31:31,473
Absolutely.

671
00:31:31,473 --> 00:31:32,975
And I've looked at
my whole life that way.

672
00:31:32,975 --> 00:31:35,477
- Mm-hmm.
- Growing up, like, I wasn't

673
00:31:35,477 --> 00:31:36,895
handed anything
on a silver platter.

674
00:31:36,895 --> 00:31:38,731
- Mm-hmm.
- Like, I watched

675
00:31:38,731 --> 00:31:41,400
my immediate family
go through a ton of turmoil.

676
00:31:41,400 --> 00:31:43,569
My mom was a young, single mom.

677
00:31:43,569 --> 00:31:46,280
She had me at 27.
She had my sister at 17,

678
00:31:46,280 --> 00:31:49,074
my brother at 20.
And I would see

679
00:31:49,074 --> 00:31:50,993
the sadness or the turmoil,

680
00:31:50,993 --> 00:31:52,953
and all I would want to do
is make them smile.

681
00:31:52,953 --> 00:31:54,663
Mm.
Do you feel like you kind of

682
00:31:54,663 --> 00:31:57,791
had to put on a stronger front
for your family?

683
00:31:57,791 --> 00:32:00,002
And do you feel like that's why
it's harder for you to emote,

684
00:32:00,002 --> 00:32:02,713
because you don't want
to show that side of you,

685
00:32:02,713 --> 00:32:05,924
because you feel like
it's a weakness?

686
00:32:05,924 --> 00:32:08,552
- Yeah, probably.
- I'm only saying that

687
00:32:08,552 --> 00:32:10,929
because I've been through
very similar,

688
00:32:10,929 --> 00:32:15,017
not the same. But, you know,
my parents are divorced,

689
00:32:15,017 --> 00:32:17,686
and growing up, they fought
a lot. It was very toxic.

690
00:32:17,686 --> 00:32:20,064
And seeing everything
that was going on in the house,

691
00:32:20,064 --> 00:32:23,442
I felt like growing up, I had
to put on a stronger front,

692
00:32:23,442 --> 00:32:25,152
because if I broke down,

693
00:32:25,152 --> 00:32:26,945
like, who was going
to take care of me?

694
00:32:26,945 --> 00:32:29,323
Like, my parents were
too busy fighting.

695
00:32:29,323 --> 00:32:31,950
So it was almost like this mask
that I had to put on.

696
00:32:31,950 --> 00:32:35,913
And I do feel like
it's harder for me to emote.

697
00:32:35,913 --> 00:32:39,083
It's harder for me to be
vulnerable, because I feel

698
00:32:39,083 --> 00:32:42,670
as if, if I show weakness
in any kind of way,

699
00:32:42,670 --> 00:32:44,963
like being vulnerable,
then everything falls apart.

700
00:32:44,963 --> 00:32:46,548
- Yeah.
- I mean, that's why

701
00:32:46,548 --> 00:32:48,884
a lot of my relationships failed
or were toxic

702
00:32:48,884 --> 00:32:50,844
is because
I didn't have a voice.

703
00:32:50,844 --> 00:32:52,554
It's a two-way street, though.

704
00:32:52,554 --> 00:32:54,056
- Yeah, yeah.
- Like, you deserve somebody

705
00:32:54,056 --> 00:32:55,974
to make sure
they get that out of you,

706
00:32:55,974 --> 00:32:58,936
like, and be able to read
between the lines and be like,

707
00:32:58,936 --> 00:33:01,271
"Hey, I know you're putting on
a front right now.

708
00:33:01,271 --> 00:33:03,941
What the hell is wrong?
Talk to me."

709
00:33:03,941 --> 00:33:06,276
I agree.
But at the same time,

710
00:33:06,276 --> 00:33:07,736
I think over the years

711
00:33:07,736 --> 00:33:09,071
and especially
in the past few weeks,

712
00:33:09,071 --> 00:33:11,990
I've understood
that it's important to be able

713
00:33:11,990 --> 00:33:14,118
to let your guard down and show
your weakness sometimes,

714
00:33:14,118 --> 00:33:18,956
because that is what allows
someone to be there for you.

715
00:33:18,956 --> 00:33:21,458
- Yeah.
- So we're on the same page.

716
00:33:21,458 --> 00:33:23,794
- Yeah. Yeah.
- Don't you think?

717
00:33:23,794 --> 00:33:26,714
Yeah, for sure.

718
00:33:26,714 --> 00:33:30,426
Sitting here with Jenn
right now, I just feel heard.

719
00:33:30,426 --> 00:33:32,010
It feels great to be able
to open up

720
00:33:32,010 --> 00:33:35,180
about something like that
and let her know where I stand.

721
00:33:35,180 --> 00:33:37,975
She happens to be
on the same ladder that I'm on.

722
00:33:37,975 --> 00:33:41,228
And she just helped me
get to the next step,

723
00:33:41,228 --> 00:33:43,105
and it felt amazing.

724
00:33:43,105 --> 00:33:47,776
So, I have one
more thing for you.

725
00:33:47,776 --> 00:33:50,237
Jonathon and I
are growing a lot tonight.

726
00:33:50,237 --> 00:33:53,073
We've been through
very similar experiences,

727
00:33:53,073 --> 00:33:56,368
and now I feel
that we can really build

728
00:33:56,368 --> 00:33:58,120
a great future together.

729
00:33:58,120 --> 00:34:00,956
I just feel like I can
understand you a lot better now

730
00:34:00,956 --> 00:34:04,668
and that we can both relate
on so much about how we grew up

731
00:34:04,668 --> 00:34:06,503
and the relationships
that we were in

732
00:34:06,503 --> 00:34:09,006
and what we learned from it,
you know?

733
00:34:09,006 --> 00:34:14,261
With that said, Jonathon,
will you accept this rose?

734
00:34:14,261 --> 00:34:16,805
Of course.

735
00:34:16,805 --> 00:34:18,724
I'm so excited. That rose means

736
00:34:18,724 --> 00:34:21,143
that we're on the right path.

737
00:34:21,143 --> 00:34:24,062
I want to be the man
that she is looking for

738
00:34:24,062 --> 00:34:27,733
and see if that ferocious love
she's been chasing

739
00:34:27,733 --> 00:34:30,694
is something that I'm capable
of giving to her.

740
00:34:32,988 --> 00:34:35,365
♪ Say you'll try,
say you'll try ♪

741
00:34:35,365 --> 00:34:37,493
No way.

742
00:34:37,493 --> 00:34:42,080
♪ Say you're mine, all mine ♪

743
00:34:42,080 --> 00:34:48,253
♪ I wanna make you believe
that love is real, baby ♪

744
00:34:51,548 --> 00:34:53,425
♪ I want to give you ♪

745
00:34:53,425 --> 00:34:58,180
♪ All that you've been craving ♪

746
00:34:58,180 --> 00:35:00,307
Today
was like a romantic movie.

747
00:35:00,307 --> 00:35:03,519
And I couldn't be happier that
she is the one to do it with.

748
00:35:03,519 --> 00:35:07,272
The right person will make
that rom com love stay alive

749
00:35:07,272 --> 00:35:09,608
as long as you can.

750
00:35:09,608 --> 00:35:12,069
♪ I wanna make you believe ♪

751
00:35:12,069 --> 00:35:16,782
♪ That our love
is the real thing ♪

752
00:35:36,885 --> 00:35:39,555
Today I have a group
date with seven guys.

753
00:35:39,555 --> 00:35:41,974
Four of these guys, I've already
had a one on one date with,

754
00:35:41,974 --> 00:35:46,186
so it'll be a really good test
to see if those connections

755
00:35:46,186 --> 00:35:48,272
still shine.
I mean, it's all about

756
00:35:48,272 --> 00:35:49,356
who's going to make
an effort today, right,

757
00:35:49,356 --> 00:35:52,234
and who I'm going
to be noticing.

758
00:35:53,610 --> 00:35:58,323
{\an8}The date card said love
is messy or something like that,

759
00:35:58,323 --> 00:35:59,741
which my original thought is,

760
00:35:59,741 --> 00:36:01,535
oh, we're doing
something in the mud.

761
00:36:01,535 --> 00:36:04,371
And, you know, I just got
some fresh new kicks, man.

762
00:36:04,371 --> 00:36:06,081
I'm not trying
to get them all muddy.

763
00:36:06,081 --> 00:36:08,250
- Hi, there.
- Hello!

764
00:36:08,250 --> 00:36:09,835
- Hey.
- Hey.

765
00:36:09,835 --> 00:36:12,296
I've only had
group dates up to this point,

766
00:36:12,296 --> 00:36:15,382
{\an8}and I see the way these guys
are talking about her,

767
00:36:15,382 --> 00:36:17,217
how they've really
gotten deep with Jenn,

768
00:36:17,217 --> 00:36:19,553
and I just have not.
But I'm just going to make

769
00:36:19,553 --> 00:36:21,680
the most of the opportunity
that I'm given.

770
00:36:21,680 --> 00:36:25,100
And, you know, that opportunity
is this group date.

771
00:36:25,100 --> 00:36:26,268
How are you guys doing?

772
00:36:26,268 --> 00:36:28,020
So good. How are you?

773
00:36:28,020 --> 00:36:29,146
Good. Are you guys excited?

774
00:36:29,146 --> 00:36:30,606
- Absolutely.
- Super.

775
00:36:30,606 --> 00:36:33,025
Before we start today,
I do want to introduce you guys

776
00:36:33,025 --> 00:36:34,776
to some of my new friends.

777
00:36:34,776 --> 00:36:36,194
Oh.

778
00:36:45,495 --> 00:36:48,415
- Oh.

779
00:36:48,415 --> 00:36:50,292
Oh!
Oh!

780
00:36:50,292 --> 00:36:52,294
Whoa!
- It's me. I'm the leader.

781
00:36:52,294 --> 00:36:54,630
Are they joining us
in the house?

782
00:36:59,968 --> 00:37:01,762
Dude, that guy has
a lot of sheep.

783
00:37:01,762 --> 00:37:05,015
Oh, the dog's just like
the boss in the background.

784
00:37:06,934 --> 00:37:10,771
I didn't know New Zealand
had that many sheep.

785
00:37:10,771 --> 00:37:13,440
Crazy.

786
00:37:13,440 --> 00:37:18,278
So, we are on a sheep farm,
and this is Dianne and Richard.

787
00:37:18,278 --> 00:37:20,739
And not only do they own
the sheep farm,

788
00:37:20,739 --> 00:37:24,284
but they've also been married
for over 45 years.

789
00:37:24,284 --> 00:37:25,577
Their teamwork on the farm

790
00:37:25,577 --> 00:37:28,080
is a true example
of their strong bond.

791
00:37:28,080 --> 00:37:30,582
And they're going to show us
how it's done today.

792
00:37:30,582 --> 00:37:33,418
Today we're looking
for the most valuable farmer.

793
00:37:33,418 --> 00:37:35,295
And at the end of the day,

794
00:37:35,295 --> 00:37:37,005
one of you blokes
is going to be able to spend

795
00:37:37,005 --> 00:37:40,300
a little bit of extra time
with the Bachelorette.

796
00:37:40,300 --> 00:37:41,718
Growing up on a farm,

797
00:37:41,718 --> 00:37:43,345
I've been around animals
my whole life,

798
00:37:43,345 --> 00:37:45,222
{\an8}whether it's cattle,
whether it's horses.

799
00:37:45,222 --> 00:37:48,850
{\an8}Um, there's not really much
that I feel like I can't do.

800
00:37:48,850 --> 00:37:51,687
So I'm in a win-win situation
right here.

801
00:37:51,687 --> 00:37:53,563
So we're going
to bring the sheep up.

802
00:37:53,563 --> 00:37:57,275
I'm going to get you guys
to herd them through the gate.

803
00:37:57,275 --> 00:37:59,277
Yeah! Whoo!
There she is.

804
00:37:59,277 --> 00:38:01,405
So I'm going to say
go in a moment.

805
00:38:01,405 --> 00:38:03,073
But I'm telling you,
you're going to put them through

806
00:38:03,073 --> 00:38:07,285
that wooden gate
in the right hand corner.

807
00:38:07,285 --> 00:38:10,080
Okay? Ready?

808
00:38:10,080 --> 00:38:11,498
Go.

809
00:38:11,498 --> 00:38:15,460
Alright, should we
come up here?

810
00:38:15,460 --> 00:38:17,129
I'm going to go this way.

811
00:38:18,463 --> 00:38:20,340
Okay, okay.
We've got them over here.

812
00:38:20,340 --> 00:38:22,467
- Hey, hey, hey!
- Hey, hey, hey, hey!

813
00:38:22,467 --> 00:38:24,052
Oi, oi, oi, oi!
- Oh, no.

814
00:38:24,052 --> 00:38:26,638
- Oi, oi, oi! Oi, oi! Oi!
- Yeah. Yeah.

815
00:38:26,638 --> 00:38:28,306
Our strategy
was to kind of, like, fan out

816
00:38:28,306 --> 00:38:29,850
{\an8}and try and corral the sheep
in a way,

817
00:38:29,850 --> 00:38:31,727
{\an8}which it worked for
about five seconds.

818
00:38:31,727 --> 00:38:33,186
- Oh, no!
- Where you going?

819
00:38:33,186 --> 00:38:34,354
No, no, no!

820
00:38:34,354 --> 00:38:36,481
They're going the wrong way!

821
00:38:36,481 --> 00:38:38,358
He's going!
You got to keep them in!

822
00:38:38,358 --> 00:38:40,777
Oh, they're not afraid!

823
00:38:40,777 --> 00:38:42,446
Where's the--
Where's the fence?

824
00:38:42,446 --> 00:38:44,322
Where's the [bleep] gate?

825
00:38:44,322 --> 00:38:45,615
What is happening?

826
00:38:45,615 --> 00:38:47,701
You have 500 sheep
just running everywhere,

827
00:38:47,701 --> 00:38:50,412
and you're not corralling them
into anything.

828
00:38:50,412 --> 00:38:52,330
It was, uh, chaotic.

829
00:38:52,330 --> 00:38:54,332
- Go!
- They're going down.

830
00:38:56,418 --> 00:39:00,088
Will someone tell us
what gate they're going through?

831
00:39:02,466 --> 00:39:04,885
Oh, this is impossible.

832
00:39:04,885 --> 00:39:06,803
Hey! Hey, hey, hey,
hey, hey, hey, hey, hey.

833
00:39:06,803 --> 00:39:08,430
Hey, hey. Hey.

834
00:39:08,430 --> 00:39:10,891
Well, the first thing I would
have done was open the gate,

835
00:39:10,891 --> 00:39:14,352
and that was sort of seriously a
disappointment that they didn't.

836
00:39:14,352 --> 00:39:15,687
- Hey, open the--
- Hey, hey, hey!

837
00:39:15,687 --> 00:39:17,397
I thought,
what's going to happen here?

838
00:39:17,397 --> 00:39:19,357
Which gate?

839
00:39:21,443 --> 00:39:22,611
- Alright, hey.
- Yo, open the gate.

840
00:39:22,611 --> 00:39:24,404
Okay.
Which gate is it?

841
00:39:24,404 --> 00:39:26,073
{\an8}If they'd opened that gate,

842
00:39:26,073 --> 00:39:28,742
{\an8}I'm sure the sheep
would have streamed through.

843
00:39:28,742 --> 00:39:31,453
{\an8}Where are they going?

844
00:39:31,453 --> 00:39:33,955
{\an8}At a certain point,
I think we just give up.

845
00:39:33,955 --> 00:39:35,499
Oh, my God.

846
00:39:35,499 --> 00:39:37,626
- I feel like a dog.
- I know,

847
00:39:37,626 --> 00:39:40,128
and not in like
the cool, fun way.

848
00:39:41,588 --> 00:39:43,423
Not a lot
of collective intelligence

849
00:39:43,423 --> 00:39:45,717
that you didn't think
to open the gate.

850
00:39:45,717 --> 00:39:48,929
But, um, these are our cattle
yards. We've had stock through,

851
00:39:48,929 --> 00:39:51,389
and there's a lot of muck
and everything here.

852
00:39:51,389 --> 00:39:55,602
And we want you to grab a shovel
and a bucket each.

853
00:39:55,602 --> 00:39:58,313
You got to be
absolutely joking, man.

854
00:39:58,313 --> 00:39:59,481
This is like my worst nightmare.

855
00:39:59,481 --> 00:40:01,566
A little bit of time constraint.

856
00:40:01,566 --> 00:40:03,610
We haven't got all afternoon.

857
00:40:03,610 --> 00:40:05,320
It really is hard work
on a farm.

858
00:40:05,320 --> 00:40:06,530
There's a lot of physicality,

859
00:40:06,530 --> 00:40:10,617
and it's not like
going to the gym.

860
00:40:10,617 --> 00:40:13,286
Come here. I'll grab you, bro.

861
00:40:13,286 --> 00:40:15,413
Is this actual [bleep]?

862
00:40:15,413 --> 00:40:17,290
I don't know if I'd call it fun.

863
00:40:17,290 --> 00:40:20,544
{\an8}I could think of like 10,000
other things I'd have, you know,

864
00:40:20,544 --> 00:40:23,004
{\an8}rather done than have
all over me today.

865
00:40:23,004 --> 00:40:26,591
But, you know, at this point,
I'm doing anything to hopefully

866
00:40:26,591 --> 00:40:29,177
get that extra time
with Jenn today.

867
00:40:29,177 --> 00:40:31,596
Surprisingly,
it doesn't smell that bad.

868
00:40:31,596 --> 00:40:33,306
I feel like
it could smell worse.

869
00:40:33,306 --> 00:40:34,558
Being out here in nature

870
00:40:34,558 --> 00:40:36,393
is something
that I would do naturally,

871
00:40:36,393 --> 00:40:39,062
and it's just nice to be able
to enjoy it with guys.

872
00:40:39,062 --> 00:40:41,773
But also like at this point
in the journey, you know,

873
00:40:41,773 --> 00:40:44,484
I'm looking for a guy
who's gonna make time with me

874
00:40:44,484 --> 00:40:46,153
to make a moment with me.

875
00:40:46,153 --> 00:40:48,947
And, you know, that's what I'm
really looking forward to today.

876
00:40:48,947 --> 00:40:50,532
How you feeling?
Good.

877
00:40:50,532 --> 00:40:51,950
Yeah?
Good, yeah.

878
00:40:51,950 --> 00:40:53,535
I know the party
was a little crazy for you.

879
00:40:53,535 --> 00:40:55,495
Oh, yeah. Yeah.

880
00:40:55,495 --> 00:40:57,372
Boy.
What is this?

881
00:40:57,372 --> 00:40:59,541
Me and all the guys
were shoveling

882
00:40:59,541 --> 00:41:01,209
and, uh, yeah, we all look up

883
00:41:01,209 --> 00:41:03,837
and see that Devin
has stole our girlfriend.

884
00:41:03,837 --> 00:41:06,548
Yeah, well, that bit,
like, are we shocked at all?

885
00:41:06,548 --> 00:41:07,841
No, not at-- not at all.

886
00:41:07,841 --> 00:41:11,553
I've learned
not to be surprised.

887
00:41:11,553 --> 00:41:13,930
I think it shows a huge sign
of disrespect,

888
00:41:13,930 --> 00:41:15,515
{\an8}and I don't think
that's a quality

889
00:41:15,515 --> 00:41:17,642
{\an8}that Jenn is really
looking for, as well.

890
00:41:17,642 --> 00:41:19,311
But I really don't care.

891
00:41:19,311 --> 00:41:21,980
Lions don't concern themselves
with the opinions of sheep.

892
00:41:21,980 --> 00:41:25,108
I'm surprised we didn't
shovel him into one of these.

893
00:41:25,108 --> 00:41:27,611
Hey, Devin, let's get your ass
to work. Come pick this up.

894
00:41:27,611 --> 00:41:29,613
Come on, boy.
- I'm coming, I'm coming,

895
00:41:29,613 --> 00:41:31,448
I'm coming.
- Come pick that [bleep] up.

896
00:41:31,448 --> 00:41:33,658
{\an8}For the remainder of the day,
I hope we're doing something

897
00:41:33,658 --> 00:41:35,368
{\an8}a little bit more clean.

898
00:41:35,368 --> 00:41:38,663
Maybe we're milking some cows.
That'd be fun.

899
00:41:38,663 --> 00:41:40,749
Hopefully nothing
to do with poop.

900
00:41:40,749 --> 00:41:43,835
Now, you've got
some implements in here

901
00:41:43,835 --> 00:41:46,546
to get the dirt off
the back of the sheep.

902
00:41:46,546 --> 00:41:50,300
I believe you call it
dingleberries.

903
00:41:50,300 --> 00:41:52,302
Love me some dingleberries.

904
00:41:52,302 --> 00:41:54,221
So you take these
whole things off right here?

905
00:41:54,221 --> 00:41:56,264
Take it off.
Okay. Yeah.

906
00:41:56,264 --> 00:41:58,308
Just to think, the guy
who's done the best out of this

907
00:41:58,308 --> 00:42:01,686
gets to spend a little bit
of time with you later today.

908
00:42:01,686 --> 00:42:03,063
{\an8}- Mm.
- You know, I thought

909
00:42:03,063 --> 00:42:05,398
{\an8}I did pretty well at farming.
We had to cut

910
00:42:05,398 --> 00:42:08,985
some dingleberries out of
the sheep's, you know... bottom.

911
00:42:08,985 --> 00:42:10,904
No, that's not enough.
Keep going.

912
00:42:10,904 --> 00:42:14,241
Getting the wool and
putting it in the little bins

913
00:42:14,241 --> 00:42:16,660
and even drinking all
these different kinds of milk.

914
00:42:16,660 --> 00:42:19,120
To a beautiful day
in the countryside

915
00:42:19,120 --> 00:42:21,957
and to scooping up
each other's

916
00:42:21,957 --> 00:42:23,750
Oh.
To scooping.

917
00:42:23,750 --> 00:42:25,418
Cheers.
I would love to hear

918
00:42:25,418 --> 00:42:28,129
my name, you know, uh, when it
comes to the best farmer award.

919
00:42:28,129 --> 00:42:30,924
I feel like I put in that work
today. I did it all for Jenn,

920
00:42:30,924 --> 00:42:33,218
and, you know,
hopefully she sees that.

921
00:42:33,218 --> 00:42:36,388
Well, there's lots
of qualities

922
00:42:36,388 --> 00:42:37,889
that have come out, there.

923
00:42:37,889 --> 00:42:40,600
What we're, you know,
looking for is, uh, someone

924
00:42:40,600 --> 00:42:44,980
who we think would be a great
farmer and a great partner.

925
00:42:44,980 --> 00:42:47,816
We've decided
and agreed that, uh,

926
00:42:47,816 --> 00:42:50,485
it's Devin.
- Beautiful.

927
00:42:50,485 --> 00:42:54,114
Who will have
the quality time with Jenn.

928
00:42:54,114 --> 00:42:55,991
I think the view looks really
good over here, too, guys.

929
00:42:55,991 --> 00:42:57,617
Yeah, can we
cut dingleberries again?

930
00:42:57,617 --> 00:42:59,327
Can we cut
dingleberries again?

931
00:42:59,327 --> 00:43:02,455
{\an8}Doesn't make sense to me.
It really doesn't, you know?

932
00:43:02,455 --> 00:43:03,957
{\an8}Every time I looked at Devin,

933
00:43:03,957 --> 00:43:06,835
{\an8}he was kind of off, you know,
trying to talk to Jenn.

934
00:43:06,835 --> 00:43:09,421
And so I think he won
the best talker award today.

935
00:43:09,421 --> 00:43:13,800
But best farmer award,
I-I don't know about that one.

936
00:43:13,800 --> 00:43:15,844
Devin? Really?

937
00:43:15,844 --> 00:43:18,263
Someone else definitely
deserves that,

938
00:43:18,263 --> 00:43:19,764
and it's not Devin.

939
00:43:19,764 --> 00:43:21,725
[Bleep] Devin.

940
00:43:35,947 --> 00:43:38,241
Today was interesting,
because it kind of showed

941
00:43:38,241 --> 00:43:40,785
that, you know, life's
not always going to be

942
00:43:40,785 --> 00:43:42,954
jumping out of airplanes
and riding helicopters

943
00:43:42,954 --> 00:43:46,416
{\an8}and going on beautiful dates.
The inevitable truth of life

944
00:43:46,416 --> 00:43:50,253
{\an8}is you're going to have days
of shoveling

945
00:43:50,253 --> 00:43:51,838
Fancy, fancy.

946
00:43:51,838 --> 00:43:54,424
I think that we had
a lighthearted day today,

947
00:43:54,424 --> 00:43:56,134
day full of laughs,
and I hope that we can

948
00:43:56,134 --> 00:43:59,387
kind of carry that energy
into the after party.

949
00:43:59,387 --> 00:44:02,349
Devin, you think
you deserved farmer of the day?

950
00:44:02,349 --> 00:44:04,225
Honest answer.

951
00:44:04,225 --> 00:44:06,353
For me, I think
it was more about initiative,

952
00:44:06,353 --> 00:44:09,731
of doing what
I've always been doing.

953
00:44:09,731 --> 00:44:11,649
That's really insightful.

954
00:44:11,649 --> 00:44:15,236
I know it's pretty basic,
but it means a lot, you know?

955
00:44:15,236 --> 00:44:18,490
Yeah.

956
00:44:18,490 --> 00:44:20,241
Few of the guys
are a little bit jealous

957
00:44:20,241 --> 00:44:22,744
that I got picked
as farmer of the day,

958
00:44:22,744 --> 00:44:24,954
but I've had conversations
with Jenn

959
00:44:24,954 --> 00:44:28,875
that I think
other people haven't had.

960
00:44:28,875 --> 00:44:30,710
Hi, guys.

961
00:44:30,710 --> 00:44:32,003
Hello. How are you?

962
00:44:32,003 --> 00:44:34,464
So tonight
I hope I get the rose,

963
00:44:34,464 --> 00:44:36,800
just because these roses
mean something at this point.

964
00:44:36,800 --> 00:44:38,426
{\an8}She's feeling a certain
type of way about me

965
00:44:38,426 --> 00:44:40,845
{\an8}more than she's feeling
a certain type of way about you.

966
00:44:40,845 --> 00:44:42,972
{\an8}And you can no longer deny that.

967
00:44:42,972 --> 00:44:45,225
[ sighs ] Alright, well,
I want to thank you guys

968
00:44:45,225 --> 00:44:48,269
for such a memorable day
in the countryside.

969
00:44:48,269 --> 00:44:50,146
That being said,
I really want to make tonight

970
00:44:50,146 --> 00:44:52,899
all about why
we're choosing each other

971
00:44:52,899 --> 00:44:55,652
and to furthering
our connection.

972
00:44:55,652 --> 00:44:56,861
- Absolutely.
- Cheers.

973
00:44:56,861 --> 00:44:58,738
Cheers to that.

974
00:44:58,738 --> 00:44:59,989
Cheers.

975
00:45:02,992 --> 00:45:05,537
Today has been
a really tough day for me.

976
00:45:05,537 --> 00:45:08,331
{\an8}You know, I'm one of two guys
that haven't got a one on one.

977
00:45:08,331 --> 00:45:10,792
{\an8}I'm the only guy in the house
that has not received

978
00:45:10,792 --> 00:45:13,670
{\an8}either a one on one
or a group date rose.

979
00:45:13,670 --> 00:45:15,004
There's so many guys here

980
00:45:15,004 --> 00:45:19,592
that have such a strong
connection with Jenn,

981
00:45:19,592 --> 00:45:21,928
and I just don't have that.

982
00:45:21,928 --> 00:45:24,931
And, you know, it sucks.
It's not easy at all.

983
00:45:24,931 --> 00:45:26,891
I don't think I've had
a mimosa since college.

984
00:45:26,891 --> 00:45:29,894
- Were you in a frat?
- I was.

985
00:45:29,894 --> 00:45:31,938
- What frat were you in?
- AEPi.

986
00:45:31,938 --> 00:45:33,940
Were you a frat boy?

987
00:45:33,940 --> 00:45:35,942
Why are you
petting me right now?

988
00:45:35,942 --> 00:45:38,987
What is going on?
What is going on here?

989
00:45:38,987 --> 00:45:41,448
I don't-- I don't even know
what I was doing.

990
00:45:43,867 --> 00:45:45,827
- So you were a frat boy.
- No.

991
00:45:45,827 --> 00:45:48,371
What was your college
experience like?

992
00:45:48,371 --> 00:45:50,373
It was like-- It was actually
so transformative,

993
00:45:50,373 --> 00:45:53,251
'cause I went from, like, the
fat kid end of high school to--

994
00:45:53,251 --> 00:45:55,295
- You were not fat.
- No, I promise you, I was.

995
00:45:55,295 --> 00:45:57,380
I'm not saying like I was obese,
but I was definitely overweight.

996
00:45:57,380 --> 00:46:00,425
Like, there's just,
like, an insecurity.

997
00:46:00,425 --> 00:46:01,885
- Sure.
- And like, uh,

998
00:46:01,885 --> 00:46:04,220
like a loneliness, even though,
like, you have friends.

999
00:46:04,220 --> 00:46:06,222
No, I get that.
Do you still feel lonely?

1000
00:46:06,222 --> 00:46:08,349
I think I'm like--
I've never said this to anyone,

1001
00:46:08,349 --> 00:46:10,852
but I think I'm, like, low-key
afraid of being lonely.

1002
00:46:10,852 --> 00:46:14,022
- What do you mean?
- Like...

1003
00:46:14,022 --> 00:46:16,649
I feel like I give a lot.
- Mm-hmm.

1004
00:46:16,649 --> 00:46:19,319
In relationships, and
I feel like I'm scared of, like,

1005
00:46:19,319 --> 00:46:22,822
that not being reciprocated
and then, like, ending up alone.

1006
00:46:22,822 --> 00:46:24,949
What are you afraid of
in relationships?

1007
00:46:24,949 --> 00:46:26,910
Mm...

1008
00:46:26,910 --> 00:46:29,037
giving too much
to the wrong person.

1009
00:46:29,037 --> 00:46:31,164
I've been burned in the past
for giving too much.

1010
00:46:31,164 --> 00:46:35,835
And then when you really put
everything into a relationship,

1011
00:46:35,835 --> 00:46:37,795
and then they're not
giving it back,

1012
00:46:37,795 --> 00:46:42,717
it's like over time, it makes
you want to close up, I think.

1013
00:46:42,717 --> 00:46:44,177
- I know what you mean.
- Yeah.

1014
00:46:44,177 --> 00:46:46,471
Genuinely, I feel great
when I'm with Jenn.

1015
00:46:46,471 --> 00:46:48,473
{\an8}And I guess it was like,
a bit more of a serious convo

1016
00:46:48,473 --> 00:46:51,518
{\an8}than-- than we normally have.
But it's not a bad thing.

1017
00:46:51,518 --> 00:46:54,103
I'm so comfortable around her,
and it's a lot of fun,

1018
00:46:54,103 --> 00:46:56,105
and we make each other smile
and laugh.

1019
00:46:56,105 --> 00:46:59,400
And, like, I can't ask
for anything more than that.

1020
00:47:07,992 --> 00:47:10,828
For the sake of being
on the same wavelength, like--

1021
00:47:10,828 --> 00:47:12,789
- Why are you laughing?

1022
00:47:12,789 --> 00:47:15,208
You're petting me again.

1023
00:47:16,125 --> 00:47:17,627
It's like reality sets back in

1024
00:47:17,627 --> 00:47:20,088
when the rose is, like,
right in front of you.

1025
00:47:20,088 --> 00:47:23,675
You know, like the day goes by.
Everybody's having a great time.

1026
00:47:23,675 --> 00:47:26,886
Then pbht. Rose.

1027
00:47:26,886 --> 00:47:29,013
We're down to nine guys,

1028
00:47:29,013 --> 00:47:31,724
and we know
that she has connections

1029
00:47:31,724 --> 00:47:33,351
with every single one of them.

1030
00:47:33,351 --> 00:47:36,145
And that means everybody's
kind of on the chopping block.

1031
00:47:36,145 --> 00:47:38,982
It's a different--
It's a different ballgame now.

1032
00:47:38,982 --> 00:47:41,526
They were talking about
the group date rose,

1033
00:47:41,526 --> 00:47:43,361
you know, sitting there
on the table tonight.

1034
00:47:43,361 --> 00:47:46,155
And, uh, whoever gets
that rose tonight

1035
00:47:46,155 --> 00:47:48,866
{\an8}is getting a piece
of Jenn's heart, you know?

1036
00:47:48,866 --> 00:47:51,286
{\an8}That's a lot of validation
and reassurance that,

1037
00:47:51,286 --> 00:47:54,163
you know, they can feel
very confident moving forward

1038
00:47:54,163 --> 00:47:57,542
into next week and, you know,
to hopefully hometowns.

1039
00:47:57,542 --> 00:47:59,210
Austin, my guy.

1040
00:47:59,210 --> 00:48:01,504
Can I steal her from you
when you're ready?

1041
00:48:01,504 --> 00:48:02,964
Yeah, of course.

1042
00:48:02,964 --> 00:48:04,465
But, you know,
there was a reason

1043
00:48:04,465 --> 00:48:06,175
I didn't really get into
that conversation,

1044
00:48:06,175 --> 00:48:11,097
because I have
a very tough decision to make.

1045
00:48:11,097 --> 00:48:13,933
Alright.
Well, how are you doing?

1046
00:48:13,933 --> 00:48:15,685
- I'm doing alright.
- Yeah?

1047
00:48:15,685 --> 00:48:19,022
Um, yeah. You know, obviously,

1048
00:48:19,022 --> 00:48:20,523
coming into this, I told you

1049
00:48:20,523 --> 00:48:23,192
I was always going to be honest
and up-front with you.

1050
00:48:23,192 --> 00:48:25,069
100%, you should be,
every time.

1051
00:48:25,069 --> 00:48:26,988
You know,
at every moment I can.

1052
00:48:26,988 --> 00:48:29,407
And, um, you know,
just, I feel like

1053
00:48:29,407 --> 00:48:32,285
I've been playing catch-up
this whole time. I really do.

1054
00:48:32,285 --> 00:48:35,330
Um, you have some
amazing guys here that are ready

1055
00:48:35,330 --> 00:48:39,125
to give you absolutely
everything that you deserve.

1056
00:48:39,125 --> 00:48:42,295
And with the way
that things have gone for me

1057
00:48:42,295 --> 00:48:44,005
in this journey,

1058
00:48:44,005 --> 00:48:47,008
I don't think
that I can do that.

1059
00:48:47,008 --> 00:48:49,260
What are you--
What are you saying?

1060
00:48:52,472 --> 00:48:54,474
I'm saying I don't think
it's fair to you,

1061
00:48:54,474 --> 00:48:57,935
and I don't think it's fair
to the other guys

1062
00:48:57,935 --> 00:49:01,939
that I continue
this journey with you.

1063
00:49:01,939 --> 00:49:05,652
Okay. I mean,
it is a bit of a shock.

1064
00:49:05,652 --> 00:49:08,112
Um, it's not
what I was expecting.

1065
00:49:08,112 --> 00:49:09,906
It's not what I wanted to hear.

1066
00:49:09,906 --> 00:49:13,201
But I can understand
if this is what you want to do,

1067
00:49:13,201 --> 00:49:17,038
and I can accept that,
and I will respect that.

1068
00:49:17,038 --> 00:49:20,124
- Can I have a hug?
- Yeah. Of course.

1069
00:49:26,339 --> 00:49:30,885
I didn't know that Austin
was going to leave tonight.

1070
00:49:30,885 --> 00:49:32,970
I didn't know that he was
at such a low place

1071
00:49:32,970 --> 00:49:34,222
that he thought
he was going to leave.

1072
00:49:34,222 --> 00:49:37,058
And for me, it's like,

1073
00:49:37,058 --> 00:49:40,103
am I just doing a bad job?

1074
00:49:40,103 --> 00:49:41,813
I want to be enough
for somebody.

1075
00:49:41,813 --> 00:49:44,774
And it seems like
I wasn't enough for Austin.

1076
00:49:50,613 --> 00:49:53,449
Every time you say
your husband is in that room,

1077
00:49:53,449 --> 00:49:55,618
he really is. I wish you
nothing but the best,

1078
00:49:55,618 --> 00:49:57,412
and I mean that
from the bottom of my heart.

1079
00:49:57,412 --> 00:50:00,456
Thank you so much.
Thank you.

1080
00:50:07,839 --> 00:50:10,508
Alright. Goodbye.

1081
00:50:13,553 --> 00:50:18,766
Does the whole situation
make me scared? Yeah.

1082
00:50:18,766 --> 00:50:21,144
It's like, how many
of these other guys

1083
00:50:21,144 --> 00:50:22,937
are feeling this way
that I don't know about?

1084
00:50:22,937 --> 00:50:25,189
Is the next one just going
to walk out the door, too?

1085
00:50:25,189 --> 00:50:27,066
Maybe I'm not enough
for Marcus.

1086
00:50:27,066 --> 00:50:31,362
Maybe I'm not enough for Sam M.
Maybe I'm not enough for Devin.

1087
00:50:49,213 --> 00:50:51,257
Probably not.

1088
00:50:59,348 --> 00:51:03,352
Mm, 'cause I think
it breaks the...

1089
00:51:03,352 --> 00:51:05,563
little wall that I put up.

1090
00:51:05,563 --> 00:51:11,235
It breaks the little mask that
I put up that I'm so confident.

1091
00:51:11,235 --> 00:51:12,361
And that's what they love,

1092
00:51:12,361 --> 00:51:14,238
you know,
is a confident woman.

1093
00:51:14,238 --> 00:51:18,242
And I think it breaks the facade

1094
00:51:18,242 --> 00:51:21,204
of what an amazing person I am.

1095
00:51:21,204 --> 00:51:26,542
And if I tell them, then they
see how worthless I am.

1096
00:51:41,390 --> 00:51:45,561
I guess today, I just
don't feel good enough.

1097
00:51:45,561 --> 00:51:49,649
I don't feel... worthy enough.

1098
00:51:49,649 --> 00:51:51,317
And as much as I can say

1099
00:51:51,317 --> 00:51:53,945
that I can see a future
at the end of this,

1100
00:51:53,945 --> 00:51:56,155
I also see a future
where I end up alone

1101
00:51:56,155 --> 00:51:59,158
because nobody chooses me.

1102
00:52:09,252 --> 00:52:12,463
Can someone fill me in on
this Austin situation, please?

1103
00:52:12,463 --> 00:52:15,424
I mean, you know,
I room with the dude.

1104
00:52:15,424 --> 00:52:17,510
He's, uh, expressed his doubts.

1105
00:52:17,510 --> 00:52:19,512
You know, I think the fact
that he hasn't really

1106
00:52:19,512 --> 00:52:23,808
had the chance to explore
that connection, I know.

1107
00:52:23,808 --> 00:52:27,562
He's kind of been
having those doubts.

1108
00:52:27,562 --> 00:52:29,856
How do you think Jenn's feeling?

1109
00:52:32,316 --> 00:52:36,863
Austin going home
leaves me feeling like I failed

1110
00:52:36,863 --> 00:52:41,826
and that maybe I'm not
the right woman for these men.

1111
00:52:41,826 --> 00:52:44,495
I'm scared and I'm nervous
to tell the guys.

1112
00:52:44,495 --> 00:52:46,247
I definitely think
a lot of my relationships

1113
00:52:46,247 --> 00:52:48,124
in the past haven't worked out

1114
00:52:48,124 --> 00:52:50,251
because I haven't been able
to really let my guard down

1115
00:52:50,251 --> 00:52:53,296
and show the guy,
like, how I'm feeling.

1116
00:52:53,296 --> 00:52:55,423
But I just don't like
being vulnerable.

1117
00:52:55,423 --> 00:52:58,175
I don't like showing
a part of myself

1118
00:52:58,175 --> 00:53:01,804
that is weak and insecure.

1119
00:53:08,603 --> 00:53:12,982
Today has been
a crazy day for me,

1120
00:53:12,982 --> 00:53:16,777
and I want to just really be
honest about how I'm feeling.

1121
00:53:16,777 --> 00:53:19,739
I just think it's important
for you all to know this,

1122
00:53:19,739 --> 00:53:22,575
because I had a chat
with Austin,

1123
00:53:22,575 --> 00:53:25,328
and he just didn't feel like
it was right

1124
00:53:25,328 --> 00:53:30,917
for him to stay,
so he left tonight.

1125
00:53:30,917 --> 00:53:32,501
Yeah.

1126
00:53:35,463 --> 00:53:37,131
I just--
I'm going to be honest.

1127
00:53:37,131 --> 00:53:39,300
It was like-- It brought up
a lot of feelings today

1128
00:53:39,300 --> 00:53:44,764
of just not being good enough.

1129
00:53:44,764 --> 00:53:47,433
And you tell me
all the time, like,

1130
00:53:47,433 --> 00:53:49,352
how amazing I'm doing
and all this stuff,

1131
00:53:49,352 --> 00:53:54,440
and I just don't
feel it sometimes.

1132
00:53:54,440 --> 00:53:56,817
And I don't-- I don't know.

1133
00:53:56,817 --> 00:53:59,445
I think it just brought up
a lot of feelings today

1134
00:53:59,445 --> 00:54:02,281
of me not feeling good enough.

1135
00:54:02,281 --> 00:54:05,326
And I can sit here
and-- and tell you how much

1136
00:54:05,326 --> 00:54:09,538
I can see a future in this room,
and I believe in that.

1137
00:54:09,538 --> 00:54:14,585
But I also see a future
in which I end up alone.

1138
00:54:24,929 --> 00:54:28,432
As someone also that

1139
00:54:28,432 --> 00:54:32,144
I have a really hard time
being vulnerable,

1140
00:54:32,144 --> 00:54:35,564
when you open up, and you don't
just show the happy,

1141
00:54:35,564 --> 00:54:40,444
positive, whatever, it's brave
to be able to do that.

1142
00:54:40,444 --> 00:54:43,948
Like, I couldn't do
what you've done, so...

1143
00:54:43,948 --> 00:54:45,700
Thank you. Thank you.

1144
00:54:45,700 --> 00:54:48,869
Yeah. You've preached
for the last couple weeks

1145
00:54:48,869 --> 00:54:52,498
about you seeing your husband
in this group.

1146
00:54:52,498 --> 00:54:54,333
And I'm going to speak for me.

1147
00:54:54,333 --> 00:54:57,586
I'm going to speak for
everybody else here, as well.

1148
00:54:57,586 --> 00:55:00,423
We see our wife, as well.

1149
00:55:00,423 --> 00:55:02,049
I care about Jenn a lot.

1150
00:55:02,049 --> 00:55:04,593
{\an8}I don't just want pieces of her.
You know, I want all of her.

1151
00:55:04,593 --> 00:55:07,346
{\an8}I want the good. I want the bad.
I want the ugly.

1152
00:55:07,346 --> 00:55:08,848
Jenn, you want to go chat?

1153
00:55:08,848 --> 00:55:10,349
I wanted to be able
to express to her,

1154
00:55:10,349 --> 00:55:12,560
it's alright
to not be your best self.

1155
00:55:12,560 --> 00:55:14,895
It's alright to be
a little vulnerable.

1156
00:55:14,895 --> 00:55:17,898
You don't think it makes you
look at me differently?

1157
00:55:17,898 --> 00:55:19,692
What would I look
at you differently for?

1158
00:55:19,692 --> 00:55:23,195
I don't know. I always have
this strong, confident,

1159
00:55:23,195 --> 00:55:26,407
daredevil side to me,
and I think letting it down

1160
00:55:26,407 --> 00:55:31,120
makes people see a different
side of me that I don't love.

1161
00:55:31,120 --> 00:55:34,457
I could ask you
the exact same question.

1162
00:55:34,457 --> 00:55:36,542
If I let my guard down,

1163
00:55:36,542 --> 00:55:40,379
would you still be able
to love me?

1164
00:55:40,379 --> 00:55:43,883
So my answer is the same.

1165
00:55:43,883 --> 00:55:48,179
I think she heard all of it, and
it's a hell of a good feeling

1166
00:55:48,179 --> 00:55:50,222
to watch her respond
the way that she did.

1167
00:55:50,222 --> 00:55:52,516
As long as I'm here,

1168
00:55:52,516 --> 00:55:54,643
if I can be a bit
of a mirror for you

1169
00:55:54,643 --> 00:55:58,898
and show you
how incredible you are,

1170
00:55:58,898 --> 00:56:02,693
because the person
that we see is just,

1171
00:56:02,693 --> 00:56:05,488
I think, way more incredible
than what you get to see.

1172
00:56:05,488 --> 00:56:09,700
- When I think of someone I can
rely on, it's always you.
- Yeah?

1173
00:56:09,700 --> 00:56:11,494
And I always look forward
to every conversation

1174
00:56:11,494 --> 00:56:15,039
that we have and every moment
we have together.

1175
00:56:15,039 --> 00:56:17,958
And I just want you
to know that.

1176
00:56:17,958 --> 00:56:20,961
{\an8}When she says that I can
make her feel better

1177
00:56:20,961 --> 00:56:23,339
{\an8}or she, like, wants me around
when she's down,

1178
00:56:23,339 --> 00:56:24,882
like, I know that's true

1179
00:56:24,882 --> 00:56:26,759
because I can--
I can feel that.

1180
00:56:26,759 --> 00:56:28,344
I know it's tough
to watch someone

1181
00:56:28,344 --> 00:56:29,512
that you, like, care about

1182
00:56:29,512 --> 00:56:31,263
kind of going through
a hard time,

1183
00:56:31,263 --> 00:56:35,518
but the fact that I get to be
a part of the reason

1184
00:56:35,518 --> 00:56:37,561
why some of those
negative emotions

1185
00:56:37,561 --> 00:56:40,606
turn back into positive emotions
is, like...

1186
00:56:40,606 --> 00:56:42,483
That's an awesome feeling.

1187
00:56:42,483 --> 00:56:45,820
I don't know what you've
been through in your life

1188
00:56:45,820 --> 00:56:51,700
to make you feel like you
aren't worthy of being chosen,

1189
00:56:51,700 --> 00:56:55,496
but I think you are
worthy and more.

1190
00:56:55,496 --> 00:56:57,748
And if it's not me
that shows you,

1191
00:56:57,748 --> 00:56:59,875
someone here
will show you that.

1192
00:56:59,875 --> 00:57:01,710
Thank you for
being here for me.

1193
00:57:01,710 --> 00:57:03,879
I couldn't be anywhere else.

1194
00:57:03,879 --> 00:57:07,133
I've been waiting
to tell her these words.

1195
00:57:07,133 --> 00:57:11,595
She is deserving of everything
that she talks about.

1196
00:57:11,595 --> 00:57:13,681
Thankfully, you know,
I got a smile out of her.

1197
00:57:13,681 --> 00:57:18,060
{\an8}And to watch the light go back
into somebody's eyes

1198
00:57:18,060 --> 00:57:22,815
just after being, you know,
kind of dark, felt great.

1199
00:57:26,861 --> 00:57:30,072
The night didn't go
the way I expected it to go,

1200
00:57:30,072 --> 00:57:32,741
but in a way
it kind of went better

1201
00:57:32,741 --> 00:57:35,828
than any night could have gone.

1202
00:57:37,997 --> 00:57:41,041
Today, in probably
one of my hardest moments,

1203
00:57:41,041 --> 00:57:42,918
each and every one of you guys
have showed up

1204
00:57:42,918 --> 00:57:44,712
and accepted me for who I am,

1205
00:57:44,712 --> 00:57:48,174
and that's not something
I've ever had before.

1206
00:57:48,174 --> 00:57:49,675
So because of that,

1207
00:57:49,675 --> 00:57:53,554
I don't think it's fair
to give out a rose tonight.

1208
00:57:53,554 --> 00:57:55,556
That being said,
thank you so much

1209
00:57:55,556 --> 00:58:00,394
for an amazing, amazing day
and turning it around for me.

1210
00:58:00,394 --> 00:58:04,148
Um, yeah. I hope you guys
have a good night.

1211
00:58:08,736 --> 00:58:13,574
Opening up about how I feel
and showing the guys

1212
00:58:13,574 --> 00:58:17,953
a part of me
that I don't like to show,

1213
00:58:17,953 --> 00:58:22,374
and to have them accept
that with open arms,

1214
00:58:22,374 --> 00:58:27,630
I feel like a burden
has been taken off of me.

1215
00:58:27,630 --> 00:58:31,425
Thank you. Alright.
Bye, guys.

1216
00:58:31,425 --> 00:58:32,801
Have a good night.

1217
00:58:46,523 --> 00:58:52,363
Waking up this morning,
I am feeling so much better.

1218
00:58:52,363 --> 00:58:56,075
Austin leaving affected me more
than I thought that it would.

1219
00:58:56,075 --> 00:58:58,285
But to be able to
just kind of lay all the cards

1220
00:58:58,285 --> 00:59:00,287
out on the table last night
with the guys

1221
00:59:00,287 --> 00:59:03,082
and for them to accept me
for who I really am,

1222
00:59:03,082 --> 00:59:06,543
you know, it's just
a liberating feeling.

1223
00:59:06,543 --> 00:59:07,920
I just feel this is gonna

1224
00:59:07,920 --> 00:59:10,005
propel me forward
in this journey.

1225
00:59:10,005 --> 00:59:14,635
So I am very excited
about my date today with Grant.

1226
00:59:14,635 --> 00:59:17,680
- Run!

1227
00:59:19,848 --> 00:59:22,017
How are you?
Oh!

1228
00:59:22,017 --> 00:59:26,021
- You're so good-looking.

1229
00:59:26,021 --> 00:59:29,775
I'm very attracted to Grant.
Grant is very hot. Yes.

1230
00:59:29,775 --> 00:59:32,278
I'm just excited to finally
get outside of the city,

1231
00:59:32,278 --> 00:59:34,154
and so I have
a surprise for you.

1232
00:59:34,154 --> 00:59:36,573
- Alright, let's do it.
- Okay. Let's go.

1233
00:59:36,573 --> 00:59:38,951
I have so much more
to learn about Grant.

1234
00:59:38,951 --> 00:59:42,246
And today I really want
to just be able to know,

1235
00:59:42,246 --> 00:59:43,914
like, what makes him him

1236
00:59:43,914 --> 00:59:48,752
and to see if he is someone
who can really see me for me.

1237
00:59:48,752 --> 00:59:50,754
This is beautiful.

1238
00:59:50,754 --> 00:59:53,632
- Uh-oh, we got some horses.

1239
00:59:53,632 --> 00:59:56,051
- This is our surprise!
- Oh, my gosh.

1240
00:59:56,051 --> 00:59:58,429
We-- look, ooh!
We got the horses. Wow.

1241
00:59:58,429 --> 01:00:01,265
I'm super excited.
Like, Jenn, she's so beautiful.

1242
01:00:01,265 --> 01:00:03,809
And I'm just happy to see her
and get the day started.

1243
01:00:03,809 --> 01:00:06,770
Hi. You're cute.
Hey.

1244
01:00:06,770 --> 01:00:09,898
It is a little nerve-racking,
All this pressure on one date.

1245
01:00:09,898 --> 01:00:12,609
{\an8}But one-on-one at this point
is make or break for me.

1246
01:00:12,609 --> 01:00:14,194
How are you feeling?
- Good.

1247
01:00:14,194 --> 01:00:15,779
You know, yesterday,
like, they were saying

1248
01:00:15,779 --> 01:00:17,197
that, you know,
you weren't feeling the best.

1249
01:00:17,197 --> 01:00:19,366
Oh, they're spilling
my secrets, huh?

1250
01:00:19,366 --> 01:00:21,243
- They weren't spilling them.
- I'm just kidding.
I'm just saying.

1251
01:00:21,243 --> 01:00:23,954
Yeah, no, thank you for asking.
No, I feel really, really good.

1252
01:00:23,954 --> 01:00:29,043
I think yesterday was just like
a moment of me needing to, um,

1253
01:00:29,043 --> 01:00:30,753
just, like,
get something off my chest

1254
01:00:30,753 --> 01:00:32,087
that I've been feeling
for a while,

1255
01:00:32,087 --> 01:00:35,799
and it was good
to have it received so well.

1256
01:00:35,799 --> 01:00:37,176
But thank you for checking in.

1257
01:00:37,176 --> 01:00:38,719
- Of course.
- I appreciate that.

1258
01:00:38,719 --> 01:00:40,346
I found out last night

1259
01:00:40,346 --> 01:00:42,431
that Jenn didn't have
the best day yesterday.

1260
01:00:42,431 --> 01:00:45,434
So I'm gonna go into today
and just make her feel special,

1261
01:00:45,434 --> 01:00:47,811
you know, and that's giving her
a piece of my heart

1262
01:00:47,811 --> 01:00:49,188
and letting her know
that I'm intentional

1263
01:00:49,188 --> 01:00:51,065
with what I'm saying
and how I feel,

1264
01:00:51,065 --> 01:00:54,026
and letting her know that
I'm here, I'm all the way in.

1265
01:00:55,986 --> 01:00:58,322
Before the date...
Uh-huh.

1266
01:00:58,322 --> 01:01:00,407
...I was
a little nervous a little bit.
Why were you nervous?

1267
01:01:00,407 --> 01:01:03,494
You know, 'cause,
I don't know, anticipation.

1268
01:01:03,494 --> 01:01:06,538
But then you get-- you get here
and everything is smooth,
you know?

1269
01:01:06,538 --> 01:01:07,664
Yeah.

1270
01:01:07,664 --> 01:01:09,541
Okay. Good boy.

1271
01:01:09,541 --> 01:01:11,126
Wow, you look good
on that horse, girl.

1272
01:01:12,336 --> 01:01:14,254
I think I'm a horse girl now.

1273
01:01:14,254 --> 01:01:16,757
Would you own a horse?

1274
01:01:16,757 --> 01:01:20,552
I would love to.
I want to own a farm.

1275
01:01:20,552 --> 01:01:21,720
Oh, yeah?
Yeah.

1276
01:01:21,720 --> 01:01:23,931
I love animals.

1277
01:01:23,931 --> 01:01:26,850
We're riding through the trail,
and Jenn is looking fire.

1278
01:01:26,850 --> 01:01:29,019
She-- Jenn is beautiful
every time I see her.

1279
01:01:29,019 --> 01:01:30,729
- There you go.

1280
01:01:30,729 --> 01:01:33,690
She knows how to
carry herself in any situation.

1281
01:01:33,690 --> 01:01:35,359
You know, she's cool.
Smooth.

1282
01:01:35,359 --> 01:01:39,154
Whoo! Look at that. Wow.

1283
01:01:40,447 --> 01:01:43,242
This is one of those dates
where I just can't believe

1284
01:01:43,242 --> 01:01:44,701
that this is real life.

1285
01:01:44,701 --> 01:01:47,204
How beautiful is this?
It's so beautiful.

1286
01:01:47,204 --> 01:01:48,831
I'm in a movie right now.

1287
01:01:48,831 --> 01:01:51,333
This is the perfect place
to fall in love.

1288
01:01:52,459 --> 01:01:55,712
But the reality is, there is
a lot of pressure on this date

1289
01:01:55,712 --> 01:01:58,841
because last night
made me realize

1290
01:01:58,841 --> 01:02:01,135
how strong
some of my relationships are,

1291
01:02:01,135 --> 01:02:04,721
and I'm hoping that Grant
and I can get there too.

1292
01:02:06,098 --> 01:02:08,892
I really feel like
I connected with my horse
by the end of the day.

1293
01:02:08,892 --> 01:02:12,312
- Right, right.
- I don't know, it's just nice
to really, like,

1294
01:02:12,312 --> 01:02:15,149
clear your mind in nature
and, like,

1295
01:02:15,149 --> 01:02:17,109
those are the things
that I love to do.

1296
01:02:17,109 --> 01:02:18,777
If you look over,
look, they're staring at us.

1297
01:02:18,777 --> 01:02:20,279
Look.
They're staring at us.

1298
01:02:20,279 --> 01:02:23,240
- The horses, they miss us.
- They miss us, right?

1299
01:02:24,032 --> 01:02:26,910
- Damn.
- Oof.

1300
01:02:26,910 --> 01:02:29,663
Cheers to this crazy weather
in New Zealand.

1301
01:02:29,663 --> 01:02:31,748
- Getting cold?
- No.

1302
01:02:31,748 --> 01:02:33,250
Just a little wet.

1303
01:02:33,250 --> 01:02:35,335
From the...
- From the rain.

1304
01:02:35,335 --> 01:02:36,837
I've been waiting
for this moment

1305
01:02:36,837 --> 01:02:38,964
to just get close to Jenn,
to talk to her,

1306
01:02:38,964 --> 01:02:41,717
and it starts raining
on this perfect day.

1307
01:02:41,717 --> 01:02:43,093
Here. Come here.

1308
01:02:43,093 --> 01:02:45,220
- Aah!

1309
01:02:45,220 --> 01:02:47,764
It makes the date
even better, in my opinion.

1310
01:02:47,764 --> 01:02:48,974
Aah!

1311
01:02:48,974 --> 01:02:50,934
It's not always
gonna be perfect.

1312
01:02:50,934 --> 01:02:53,979
Sometimes it's gonna rain,
sometimes it's gonna be sunny.

1313
01:02:53,979 --> 01:02:55,481
But you got to
make it through.

1314
01:02:55,481 --> 01:02:57,441
That's something that you have
to do in a relationship.

1315
01:02:58,775 --> 01:03:00,819
After last night,
you feel better?

1316
01:03:00,819 --> 01:03:02,154
Yeah, yeah, no.

1317
01:03:02,154 --> 01:03:03,822
I think it was
a really nice moment for me

1318
01:03:03,822 --> 01:03:06,533
to be able to really,
like, let my guard down

1319
01:03:06,533 --> 01:03:10,204
and-- and let the guys know
how I was really feeling

1320
01:03:10,204 --> 01:03:12,623
and let you know
that last night,

1321
01:03:12,623 --> 01:03:13,916
like, yeah, I'm not perfect.

1322
01:03:13,916 --> 01:03:15,918
I have bad days and--

1323
01:03:15,918 --> 01:03:17,336
You don't have to be
perfect with me, like...

1324
01:03:17,336 --> 01:03:18,587
Thank you.

1325
01:03:18,587 --> 01:03:20,339
I'm not perfect,
you're not perfect.

1326
01:03:20,339 --> 01:03:22,341
But that's when-- that's when
you know that it's love

1327
01:03:22,341 --> 01:03:24,384
is when you can accept
somebody for their
imperfections.

1328
01:03:24,384 --> 01:03:27,137
- Yeah.
- So it's, like, you don't
have to be perfect at all.

1329
01:03:27,137 --> 01:03:28,889
You know what I'm saying?
I'mma rock with you.

1330
01:03:28,889 --> 01:03:31,683
- Thank you, thank you.
- You know? So...

1331
01:03:31,683 --> 01:03:33,310
My feelings for Jenn
are definitely deeper

1332
01:03:33,310 --> 01:03:35,604
than they were,
like, a lot deeper.

1333
01:03:37,481 --> 01:03:39,107
Since the beginning,
every time I see her,

1334
01:03:39,107 --> 01:03:41,652
my feelings are growing,
and I think that

1335
01:03:41,652 --> 01:03:45,697
there's another level
that could be unlocked.

1336
01:03:45,697 --> 01:03:48,283
Hopefully she feels the same.

1337
01:03:48,283 --> 01:03:50,869
I'm just gonna continue
putting everything out there.

1338
01:03:50,869 --> 01:03:53,163
No way.

1339
01:03:53,163 --> 01:03:53,914
No.

1340
01:03:53,914 --> 01:03:55,082
And you know, hopefully,

1341
01:03:55,082 --> 01:03:57,084
she sees that my sincerity

1342
01:03:57,084 --> 01:03:59,503
and the way I feel is real.

1343
01:03:59,503 --> 01:04:01,129
So we gonna see, you know?

1344
01:04:01,129 --> 01:04:03,840
Hopefully,
it continues into tonight.

1345
01:04:18,981 --> 01:04:21,149
So how was the day?

1346
01:04:21,149 --> 01:04:23,360
I thought it was lovely.
How was your day?

1347
01:04:23,360 --> 01:04:25,904
I thought
it was lovely too.
Good.

1348
01:04:25,904 --> 01:04:27,906
It was a great day.
Jenn is amazing.

1349
01:04:27,906 --> 01:04:31,702
{\an8}And it's literally everything
I expected it to be.

1350
01:04:33,787 --> 01:04:35,831
Thank you.

1351
01:04:35,831 --> 01:04:39,793
But Jenn knows basically
the surface-level stuff.

1352
01:04:39,793 --> 01:04:41,878
But, like, she doesn't know
what makes me me.

1353
01:04:41,878 --> 01:04:44,923
She doesn't know my relationship
with my family.

1354
01:04:44,923 --> 01:04:46,842
I need to know if I can be able
to open up to her

1355
01:04:46,842 --> 01:04:48,468
and we can be able
to trust each other

1356
01:04:48,468 --> 01:04:53,807
and she's able to understand me,
and I'm able to understand her.

1357
01:04:53,807 --> 01:04:55,100
It was perfectly
imperfect today.

1358
01:04:55,100 --> 01:04:57,019
It was--
It was a great day.

1359
01:04:57,019 --> 01:04:58,895
I agree.
Perfectly imperfect.

1360
01:04:58,895 --> 01:05:00,188
Like all relationships,

1361
01:05:00,188 --> 01:05:02,107
you know, like nothing's
ever gonna be 100%.

1362
01:05:02,107 --> 01:05:05,110
Okay. So a little bit
about imperfections.

1363
01:05:05,110 --> 01:05:07,988
I want to get to know you
a little better.
- Yeah. Yeah.

1364
01:05:07,988 --> 01:05:11,074
But I wanted to get into,
you know,

1365
01:05:11,074 --> 01:05:12,909
what kind of makes me
the man I am

1366
01:05:12,909 --> 01:05:16,622
and what makes me--
kind of make me tick,

1367
01:05:16,622 --> 01:05:18,749
or what makes me
want to be better.

1368
01:05:18,749 --> 01:05:22,127
And a lot of that
has to do with my father.

1369
01:05:22,127 --> 01:05:25,422
You know,
my father has been an addict

1370
01:05:25,422 --> 01:05:28,967
for like 30 years.

1371
01:05:28,967 --> 01:05:31,928
Addiction is-- is a hard thing
because, you know, growing up,

1372
01:05:31,928 --> 01:05:33,764
my pops was everything,
like, he was my superhero,

1373
01:05:33,764 --> 01:05:35,223
you know,
he used to take me to the park,

1374
01:05:35,223 --> 01:05:37,976
and he always used to be

1375
01:05:37,976 --> 01:05:40,270
inebriated or, like,
intoxicated,

1376
01:05:40,270 --> 01:05:42,105
under, you know, the substance.

1377
01:05:42,105 --> 01:05:46,068
And the worst thing is,
I didn't know.

1378
01:05:46,068 --> 01:05:48,362
When you're a child,
you believe everything,
you know what I'm saying,

1379
01:05:48,362 --> 01:05:50,405
and the one person I trusted
the most was, like,

1380
01:05:50,405 --> 01:05:51,823
always lying, you know?

1381
01:05:51,823 --> 01:05:54,117
- Mmh.
- So that was something. But...

1382
01:05:54,117 --> 01:05:56,495
So you felt lied to a lot
growing up?

1383
01:05:56,495 --> 01:05:57,954
Yeah. Of course.

1384
01:05:57,954 --> 01:05:59,206
In my eyes, I'm like,
"You're a man.

1385
01:05:59,206 --> 01:06:01,917
Why can't you do
what you have to do?"

1386
01:06:01,917 --> 01:06:04,044
But before I came here,

1387
01:06:04,044 --> 01:06:06,171
you know, he had gotten
fired from his job.

1388
01:06:06,171 --> 01:06:08,715
And you know,
sometimes addicts, they blame.

1389
01:06:08,715 --> 01:06:11,218
So he was blaming everybody.
"Oh, my boss this,
my boss that."

1390
01:06:11,218 --> 01:06:14,304
And I was like, "Listen, Dad,
like, I don't [ bleep ] care."

1391
01:06:16,181 --> 01:06:17,849
This is like the proudest
I've ever been on my dad.

1392
01:06:17,849 --> 01:06:19,935
He called me the next day,
and he said,

1393
01:06:19,935 --> 01:06:20,977
"I'm checking into rehab."

1394
01:06:20,977 --> 01:06:22,979
- Mmh.
- Checked into rehab.

1395
01:06:22,979 --> 01:06:25,232
And ever since that,
we had a talk, and he was like,

1396
01:06:25,232 --> 01:06:28,068
"Listen, son, like,
this is the first time

1397
01:06:28,068 --> 01:06:31,029
that you know the real me
when I'm not intoxicated."

1398
01:06:31,029 --> 01:06:34,241
So I'm, like, really
leaning into that.

1399
01:06:34,241 --> 01:06:37,953
So now he's like a little
under two months sober.
- Okay.

1400
01:06:37,953 --> 01:06:39,246
- So...
- Amazing.

1401
01:06:39,246 --> 01:06:41,289
You know, I hope he--
I hope he holds strong,

1402
01:06:41,289 --> 01:06:44,876
and, like, it's his first time
living too, you know, so...

1403
01:06:44,876 --> 01:06:46,545
You know,
I've worked in the E.R.

1404
01:06:46,545 --> 01:06:49,589
and I've seen a lot of patients
come in with substance abuse,

1405
01:06:49,589 --> 01:06:51,007
and addiction is a sickness.

1406
01:06:51,007 --> 01:06:53,969
And for you to be willing
to stick it through

1407
01:06:53,969 --> 01:06:55,554
and be by your dad's side,

1408
01:06:55,554 --> 01:06:58,390
I can only imagine
how much that means to him.

1409
01:06:58,390 --> 01:07:02,644
And that speaks volumes
to who you are as a person,

1410
01:07:02,644 --> 01:07:05,230
and I can't imagine the weight
that you had to bear

1411
01:07:05,230 --> 01:07:07,065
with all of that
going on growing up.

1412
01:07:07,065 --> 01:07:09,192
And my heart goes out to you.

1413
01:07:09,192 --> 01:07:12,529
Thank you. That means
a lot to me, you know?

1414
01:07:12,529 --> 01:07:16,742
My mission in life is to be
the man that my father wasn't.

1415
01:07:16,742 --> 01:07:18,910
Mm-hmm.
And I can feel that.

1416
01:07:20,871 --> 01:07:24,416
I feel a lot closer to Grant
after having this conversation,

1417
01:07:24,416 --> 01:07:26,001
because there was a lot

1418
01:07:26,001 --> 01:07:28,128
of troubled times
growing up for him.

1419
01:07:28,128 --> 01:07:31,131
I think there was a lot
of frustrations growing up,

1420
01:07:31,131 --> 01:07:35,177
and I can relate to that so much

1421
01:07:35,177 --> 01:07:39,097
because I saw
my parents' relationship

1422
01:07:39,097 --> 01:07:40,557
deteriorate in front of my eyes.

1423
01:07:40,557 --> 01:07:44,227
I didn't have a male role model
in my life, really.

1424
01:07:44,227 --> 01:07:48,273
Like, my dad,
he decided to take off and, um,

1425
01:07:48,273 --> 01:07:50,066
like, basically lose contact.

1426
01:07:50,066 --> 01:07:53,987
So my mom, she took on
that two-parent role.

1427
01:07:53,987 --> 01:07:58,074
So I can understand,
like, not having a father figure

1428
01:07:58,074 --> 01:08:00,994
and wanting to have
that father figure in a way.

1429
01:08:00,994 --> 01:08:02,287
Do you feel like
that negatively affected you,

1430
01:08:02,287 --> 01:08:04,289
or do you feel like it
made you stronger?

1431
01:08:04,289 --> 01:08:06,249
For a while, I was
kind of going through life

1432
01:08:06,249 --> 01:08:11,087
not knowing what to make of not
having a father figure,

1433
01:08:11,087 --> 01:08:13,089
and there were certain things
in my life

1434
01:08:13,089 --> 01:08:15,175
that had happened or certain
ways that I would act,

1435
01:08:15,175 --> 01:08:18,220
and I didn't really know
the root of the problem.

1436
01:08:18,220 --> 01:08:20,096
And I was searching for love
in all the wrong places

1437
01:08:20,096 --> 01:08:22,182
and dating the wrong people.

1438
01:08:22,182 --> 01:08:24,810
And before I knew it,
I was in a relationship

1439
01:08:24,810 --> 01:08:29,189
that completely was just toxic
and an emotionally abusive one,

1440
01:08:29,189 --> 01:08:31,149
and it just was not good.

1441
01:08:31,149 --> 01:08:36,446
Um, I felt like I was silenced
and I didn't have a voice.

1442
01:08:36,446 --> 01:08:40,283
And sensitive topics
would be brought up--

1443
01:08:40,283 --> 01:08:44,579
racism, Asian hate, like,
sexism,

1444
01:08:44,579 --> 01:08:45,789
whatever it was.

1445
01:08:45,789 --> 01:08:48,166
He would
shut me down immediately

1446
01:08:48,166 --> 01:08:50,836
and tell me that I was wrong
and gaslight me

1447
01:08:50,836 --> 01:08:53,380
and tell me that racism
was fake and--

1448
01:08:53,380 --> 01:08:56,132
and that it's all
in people's heads

1449
01:08:56,132 --> 01:08:59,761
and that I wasn't being
open enough to the world,

1450
01:08:59,761 --> 01:09:01,137
and-- and that
just goes against

1451
01:09:01,137 --> 01:09:02,931
everything that I believe in.

1452
01:09:02,931 --> 01:09:06,101
But I was so chained up
in this relationship

1453
01:09:06,101 --> 01:09:09,229
and I didn't know
how to stand up for myself.

1454
01:09:09,229 --> 01:09:12,274
But that is why now,
like, it is so important for me

1455
01:09:12,274 --> 01:09:15,360
to be in a relationship where
I feel like I do have a voice

1456
01:09:15,360 --> 01:09:17,445
and I feel like
I can stand up for myself,

1457
01:09:17,445 --> 01:09:22,242
and I can tell my partner
when something is bothering me.

1458
01:09:22,242 --> 01:09:23,368
That's powerful.

1459
01:09:23,368 --> 01:09:27,539
And I feel like
we have a lot in common.

1460
01:09:27,539 --> 01:09:31,251
And I appreciate the fact
that you speak up.
- Thank you.

1461
01:09:31,251 --> 01:09:32,752
I encourage you to always
speak your mind,

1462
01:09:32,752 --> 01:09:34,254
you know, because--
- Thank you.

1463
01:09:34,254 --> 01:09:36,214
Especially for what
you're willing to fight for,

1464
01:09:36,214 --> 01:09:38,592
racism or equality,
things like that.

1465
01:09:38,592 --> 01:09:40,677
Like, you need somebody
that's on your same wavelength

1466
01:09:40,677 --> 01:09:42,804
and that could encourage you
and pour into you.

1467
01:09:42,804 --> 01:09:45,974
- Thank you.
- I see that, so I'm in your
corner, you know?

1468
01:09:45,974 --> 01:09:47,851
Thank you.

1469
01:09:47,851 --> 01:09:52,314
For Grant and I to be having
such an emotional conversation

1470
01:09:52,314 --> 01:09:55,191
and to be talking about
really heavy topics

1471
01:09:55,191 --> 01:09:58,778
and for Grant to understand
where I'm coming from,

1472
01:09:58,778 --> 01:10:00,488
it feels like
a true partnership here.

1473
01:10:00,488 --> 01:10:03,992
And I just really feel like he
accepts me for who I am so far,

1474
01:10:03,992 --> 01:10:07,120
and it feels really good
to have someone do that.

1475
01:10:07,120 --> 01:10:08,663
Getting colder out here.
- The warmth.

1476
01:10:08,663 --> 01:10:10,206
- Mnnnh!

1477
01:10:10,206 --> 01:10:14,419
I feel closer to Grant.
I feel aligned with Grant.

1478
01:10:14,419 --> 01:10:19,341
I feel like Grant has a lot of
the things that I'm looking for.

1479
01:10:23,720 --> 01:10:25,305
I want to thank you

1480
01:10:25,305 --> 01:10:30,310
for seriously
just the most amazing day today.

1481
01:10:30,310 --> 01:10:32,228
A lot of the things that you
opened up about tonight,

1482
01:10:32,228 --> 01:10:35,315
I resonate with so much,
more than you know.

1483
01:10:35,315 --> 01:10:39,444
And for us to both be able to
sit here and talk about our past

1484
01:10:39,444 --> 01:10:42,614
and to turn that
into a promising future

1485
01:10:42,614 --> 01:10:46,785
that we both want is really rare
and special to me.

1486
01:10:46,785 --> 01:10:52,290
And that being said, Grant,
will you accept this rose?

1487
01:10:52,290 --> 01:10:54,209
Of course.

1488
01:10:56,503 --> 01:10:59,839
Put it right here.

1489
01:10:59,839 --> 01:11:01,466
- Perfect.

1490
01:11:08,890 --> 01:11:10,934
I feel great.

1491
01:11:10,934 --> 01:11:12,352
If I was on top
of the world earlier,

1492
01:11:12,352 --> 01:11:14,062
I'm on top of the moon now,
so...

1493
01:11:14,062 --> 01:11:15,897
Feel like a million bucks.

1494
01:11:15,897 --> 01:11:17,482
I enjoy every time we kiss,
so...

1495
01:11:17,482 --> 01:11:19,317
- Me too.

1496
01:11:19,317 --> 01:11:21,486
You might see me with a smile
on my face for next week.

1497
01:11:21,486 --> 01:11:24,447
Just walking around,
like, just happy.

1498
01:11:25,991 --> 01:11:27,367
I knew something was there.

1499
01:11:27,367 --> 01:11:29,327
Now I know for sure
that it's deeper

1500
01:11:29,327 --> 01:11:33,415
than just attraction
to each other.

1501
01:11:33,415 --> 01:11:38,086
I see somebody that
I could have a life with.

1502
01:11:38,086 --> 01:11:40,213
I see myself starting to fall,

1503
01:11:40,213 --> 01:11:44,300
and I feel like it's supposed
to happen this way.

1504
01:11:44,300 --> 01:11:47,178
I don't know
how it could get any better.

1505
01:12:01,192 --> 01:12:03,278
There's eight guys right now,

1506
01:12:03,278 --> 01:12:05,071
and six of them
don't have a rose

1507
01:12:05,071 --> 01:12:07,407
going into
the cocktail party tonight.

1508
01:12:07,407 --> 01:12:10,744
This whole process
is coming to a head quickly.

1509
01:12:10,744 --> 01:12:14,414
{\an8}So now more than ever,
every conversation counts.

1510
01:12:14,414 --> 01:12:18,418
I mean, there's strong
connections everywhere,

1511
01:12:18,418 --> 01:12:21,546
and it's kind of scary.

1512
01:12:24,007 --> 01:12:26,509
Jenn does have to make
a big decision tonight.

1513
01:12:26,509 --> 01:12:29,512
So I think everyone's
feeling the pressure.

1514
01:12:29,512 --> 01:12:32,390
{\an8}Two of the guys in the house
have roses already.

1515
01:12:32,390 --> 01:12:34,392
Jonathan and Grant.

1516
01:12:34,392 --> 01:12:36,352
But I think anyone
who saw Jenn this week

1517
01:12:36,352 --> 01:12:39,898
and didn't say everything
that they needed to say

1518
01:12:39,898 --> 01:12:42,067
is realizing that tonight

1519
01:12:42,067 --> 01:12:45,236
you either have to
to lean in or go home.

1520
01:12:46,446 --> 01:12:48,281
It's crazy 'cause, like,

1521
01:12:48,281 --> 01:12:50,241
you never think
that you develop feelings

1522
01:12:50,241 --> 01:12:54,579
for somebody after five weeks
of knowing them.

1523
01:12:54,579 --> 01:12:57,248
Me personally,
I-- I am like--

1524
01:12:57,248 --> 01:12:58,374
this is the first time
I'm saying this, like,

1525
01:12:58,374 --> 01:13:00,251
and this is in front
of you guys.

1526
01:13:00,251 --> 01:13:02,087
Like, I think that I'm--
I genuinely think

1527
01:13:02,087 --> 01:13:04,089
that I'm falling
in love with Jenn.

1528
01:13:08,134 --> 01:13:10,220
I don't say that lightly,
you know?

1529
01:13:10,220 --> 01:13:11,763
So I-- it's weird.

1530
01:13:11,763 --> 01:13:13,473
It's like you kind of know

1531
01:13:13,473 --> 01:13:15,600
when you're--
you know, you're tripping

1532
01:13:15,600 --> 01:13:17,852
and then you start falling,
you know what I'm saying?

1533
01:13:17,852 --> 01:13:20,105
And then you try to say like,
"Man, like, nah,

1534
01:13:20,105 --> 01:13:21,231
like, let me chill."

1535
01:13:21,231 --> 01:13:22,857
But, like, you're already there.

1536
01:13:22,857 --> 01:13:26,361
After our date yesterday,
I knew I was developing feelings

1537
01:13:26,361 --> 01:13:28,947
{\an8}and it just hit me like,
"Damn.

1538
01:13:28,947 --> 01:13:30,615
{\an8}Like, is this happening?"

1539
01:13:30,615 --> 01:13:33,159
Like, what makes somebody
fall in love, you know?

1540
01:13:33,159 --> 01:13:35,829
And now I know.

1541
01:13:35,829 --> 01:13:37,288
So, at least for me.

1542
01:13:37,288 --> 01:13:39,207
It's different for everybody,
so...

1543
01:13:39,207 --> 01:13:40,667
That's something
that I'm feeling.

1544
01:13:40,667 --> 01:13:43,503
And, like,
I can't take that back.
Yeah.

1545
01:13:43,503 --> 01:13:46,548
So I'm saying it
in front of everybody.

1546
01:13:46,548 --> 01:13:49,634
Oh, man. Grant's falling
in love with Jenn.

1547
01:13:49,634 --> 01:13:54,305
And it all comes
back down to time.

1548
01:13:54,305 --> 01:13:55,932
The guys who have gone
one-on-one

1549
01:13:55,932 --> 01:13:57,433
have had more opportunity

1550
01:13:57,433 --> 01:13:59,477
{\an8}to deepen their connection,
versus me,

1551
01:13:59,477 --> 01:14:02,814
{\an8}where I still feel like I'm
missing that deeper connection.

1552
01:14:02,814 --> 01:14:06,860
You know, I had my little mini
one-on-one at the beginning,

1553
01:14:06,860 --> 01:14:08,570
but it's been a minute.

1554
01:14:08,570 --> 01:14:12,532
So time is of the essence,
especially now for me.

1555
01:14:12,532 --> 01:14:14,576
It's tough hearing that.
Right?

1556
01:14:14,576 --> 01:14:18,788
Because everybody is
feeling certain ways about Jenn.

1557
01:14:18,788 --> 01:14:20,582
You can't help but be
a little bit nervous

1558
01:14:20,582 --> 01:14:22,750
before you have a rose
on your chest.

1559
01:14:22,750 --> 01:14:26,504
And Grant made the mood
even more tense and emotional.

1560
01:14:26,504 --> 01:14:28,715
I mean, I haven't had
a one-on-one yet,

1561
01:14:28,715 --> 01:14:31,509
but the thing about
every cocktail party

1562
01:14:31,509 --> 01:14:33,803
is the time we get
to speak with Jenn.

1563
01:14:33,803 --> 01:14:37,015
{\an8}So what I can do
is make the most of the time

1564
01:14:37,015 --> 01:14:38,725
{\an8}I do have with her.

1565
01:14:43,646 --> 01:14:45,523
Hi, guys.
Hello.

1566
01:14:45,523 --> 01:14:49,777
You all look great.
Nice to see you all.

1567
01:14:51,905 --> 01:14:55,450
This week has been
a really intense week for me

1568
01:14:55,450 --> 01:14:56,951
in a lot of different ways.

1569
01:14:56,951 --> 01:14:59,204
And I do want to thank you guys
for being there for me

1570
01:14:59,204 --> 01:15:01,664
and showing up for me.

1571
01:15:01,664 --> 01:15:03,625
The other night,
when you guys accepted me

1572
01:15:03,625 --> 01:15:04,792
at my most vulnerable

1573
01:15:04,792 --> 01:15:07,879
and my most emotional
with open arms,

1574
01:15:07,879 --> 01:15:10,381
it meant so much to me.

1575
01:15:10,381 --> 01:15:12,508
It's really opened my eyes

1576
01:15:12,508 --> 01:15:14,969
to what a true relationship
means to me,

1577
01:15:14,969 --> 01:15:19,891
and it's transformed the way
I've looked at this journey.

1578
01:15:19,891 --> 01:15:22,268
I know that I'm exactly
where I need to be.

1579
01:15:22,268 --> 01:15:26,606
I know exactly
what I'm looking for.

1580
01:15:26,606 --> 01:15:29,067
And so because of that,

1581
01:15:29,067 --> 01:15:33,863
I don't feel it's fair to have
a cocktail party tonight.

1582
01:15:36,407 --> 01:15:40,036
So I will see you guys
at the rose ceremony.

1583
01:15:51,172 --> 01:15:54,634
I need a drink.

1584
01:15:54,634 --> 01:15:56,594
All dressed up
and nowhere to go.

1585
01:15:56,594 --> 01:15:59,347
Yeah, I was confident,
but damn, am I nervous now.

1586
01:16:00,807 --> 01:16:02,725
Yeah, I mean,
I felt like I didn't really

1587
01:16:02,725 --> 01:16:04,727
get enough about
what I was trying to

1588
01:16:04,727 --> 01:16:06,646
get out with her
with my last conversation,

1589
01:16:06,646 --> 01:16:10,692
and I was planning on finishing
that conversation tonight.

1590
01:16:10,692 --> 01:16:12,944
Time tonight was very crucial.

1591
01:16:12,944 --> 01:16:16,614
I was hoping to feel like
any inkling

1592
01:16:16,614 --> 01:16:19,701
of a deeper emotional
connection with her.

1593
01:16:19,701 --> 01:16:21,661
And so to not
get the opportunity

1594
01:16:21,661 --> 01:16:26,165
to see that through
is-- is devastating.

1595
01:16:26,165 --> 01:16:29,752
I don't know, you almost
take these cocktail parties

1596
01:16:29,752 --> 01:16:31,421
as like a guarantee.

1597
01:16:31,421 --> 01:16:34,257
So that really sucks.

1598
01:16:34,257 --> 01:16:35,842
If I'm being honest.

1599
01:16:35,842 --> 01:16:39,721
I not only needed the time
for Jenn and I's connection,

1600
01:16:39,721 --> 01:16:42,265
{\an8}I needed that time for myself
to prove to myself

1601
01:16:42,265 --> 01:16:43,766
{\an8}that I could be open
with someone

1602
01:16:43,766 --> 01:16:46,602
{\an8}and be okay
with being vulnerable.

1603
01:16:46,602 --> 01:16:49,689
Now I'm worried
about going home.

1604
01:16:57,822 --> 01:17:01,117
It was just scary, bro.

1605
01:17:01,117 --> 01:17:02,952
What? Getting feelings?

1606
01:17:02,952 --> 01:17:05,913
Yeah, like...

1607
01:17:05,913 --> 01:17:08,458
It's just weird, bro.
Like, I don't know.

1608
01:17:08,458 --> 01:17:10,752
{\an8}Tonight made me realize that,

1609
01:17:10,752 --> 01:17:13,713
{\an8}you know, I am falling in love
with her, and it's scary.

1610
01:17:13,713 --> 01:17:15,465
It's never happened
like this before.

1611
01:17:15,465 --> 01:17:18,634
I don't know how she feels,
and it's like...

1612
01:17:18,634 --> 01:17:22,263
You try to be, like, strong in
a situation, but...

1613
01:17:22,263 --> 01:17:23,806
Weird.
It's just weird, bro.

1614
01:17:23,806 --> 01:17:25,808
I said it in front
of everybody out there,

1615
01:17:25,808 --> 01:17:28,102
and I can't-- There's no
going back after that.

1616
01:17:28,102 --> 01:17:29,479
And I know that.

1617
01:17:29,479 --> 01:17:31,147
Don't tell anybody
I was crying.

1618
01:17:31,147 --> 01:17:33,900
Just keep it between me and you.
I won't, I won't.

1619
01:17:33,900 --> 01:17:35,735
I'mma try to wipe my tears,
go in there,

1620
01:17:35,735 --> 01:17:38,112
and just act like
none of this happened.

1621
01:17:38,112 --> 01:17:39,655
I put myself out there.

1622
01:17:39,655 --> 01:17:43,368
And even though I'm coming
into tonight with a rose,

1623
01:17:43,368 --> 01:17:45,161
I'm just trying
to hold myself together.

1624
01:17:45,161 --> 01:17:48,748
And I'm excited, but I'm nervous
at the same time.

1625
01:17:51,793 --> 01:17:55,880
I was not expecting Jenn
to cancel the cocktail party.

1626
01:17:55,880 --> 01:17:58,007
{\an8}Anyone who says
they don't have some nerves

1627
01:17:58,007 --> 01:17:59,550
{\an8}going through their head

1628
01:17:59,550 --> 01:18:01,469
{\an8}or some worry
in the back of their mind,

1629
01:18:01,469 --> 01:18:03,096
I think would be lying.

1630
01:18:03,096 --> 01:18:05,765
No matter how great of
a connection you think you have,

1631
01:18:05,765 --> 01:18:09,185
there are six other guys
hoping for a rose.

1632
01:18:12,563 --> 01:18:13,856
{\an8}I'm worried.

1633
01:18:13,856 --> 01:18:16,818
{\an8}I really needed this time
with her tonight

1634
01:18:16,818 --> 01:18:19,862
to see if I could just
further our connection.

1635
01:18:19,862 --> 01:18:24,158
But I hope that Jenn can see
that there is potential for me

1636
01:18:24,158 --> 01:18:25,785
to walk out of here with her.

1637
01:18:25,785 --> 01:18:29,872
So I guess we'll leave it up
to Jenn at this point.

1638
01:18:32,708 --> 01:18:35,670
At the end of the day,
this is the nature of the beast.

1639
01:18:35,670 --> 01:18:38,131
I don't think there's any more
pity roses to give out.

1640
01:18:38,131 --> 01:18:40,049
{\an8}There's no more wiggle room.
I mean, it's here.

1641
01:18:40,049 --> 01:18:42,051
{\an8}It's either you got it
or you don't.

1642
01:18:55,481 --> 01:18:57,150
I want you guys to know
that I value

1643
01:18:57,150 --> 01:19:00,361
each and every second
that we spend together.

1644
01:19:00,361 --> 01:19:03,990
These roses next to me
mean more than they ever have.

1645
01:19:03,990 --> 01:19:07,034
They symbolize
that I trust our relationship

1646
01:19:07,034 --> 01:19:12,540
and I trust that we have this
potential for a beautiful love.

1647
01:19:21,299 --> 01:19:22,341
Sam.

1648
01:19:27,638 --> 01:19:29,765
Sam, will you accept
this rose?

1649
01:19:30,099 --> 01:19:31,309
Of course.

1650
01:19:49,202 --> 01:19:50,244
Devin.

1651
01:19:54,665 --> 01:19:57,210
Devin,
will you accept this rose?

1652
01:19:57,210 --> 01:19:59,045
Without a doubt.

1653
01:20:06,802 --> 01:20:07,845
Marcus.

1654
01:20:10,515 --> 01:20:13,184
Marcus,
will you accept this rose?

1655
01:20:13,184 --> 01:20:14,519
Of course.

1656
01:20:25,154 --> 01:20:26,447
Jeremy.

1657
01:20:30,618 --> 01:20:32,828
Jeremy,
will you accept this rose?

1658
01:20:32,828 --> 01:20:34,372
Of course.

1659
01:20:44,840 --> 01:20:46,175
Gentlemen.

1660
01:20:46,175 --> 01:20:47,593
Jenn.

1661
01:20:47,593 --> 01:20:49,762
It's the final rose tonight.

1662
01:20:49,762 --> 01:20:51,305
When you're ready.
- Thank you.

1663
01:21:12,201 --> 01:21:13,869
Spencer.

1664
01:21:19,041 --> 01:21:21,419
Spencer,
will you accept this, rose?

1665
01:21:21,419 --> 01:21:22,920
Absolutely.

1666
01:21:25,923 --> 01:21:28,759
You look gorgeous.
- Thank you.

1667
01:21:38,311 --> 01:21:39,895
Dylan, I'm really sorry.

1668
01:21:39,895 --> 01:21:41,939
Please take a moment
and say your goodbyes.

1669
01:21:43,482 --> 01:21:45,985
You okay?
- Yeah. Thank you.

1670
01:21:47,403 --> 01:21:49,697
Love you, man.

1671
01:21:52,158 --> 01:21:54,035
It's all good.

1672
01:21:57,038 --> 01:21:59,749
Come here.

1673
01:21:59,749 --> 01:22:00,916
Thank you so much
for everything

1674
01:22:00,916 --> 01:22:02,752
and for opening your heart.

1675
01:22:02,752 --> 01:22:05,338
And I know that you
will find your person.

1676
01:22:05,338 --> 01:22:08,341
I wish you good luck,
and I'm rooting for you.

1677
01:22:08,341 --> 01:22:09,675
- Thank you so much.
- Okay.

1678
01:22:09,675 --> 01:22:11,135
Thank you.

1679
01:22:13,095 --> 01:22:14,555
Love you, bros.

1680
01:22:37,286 --> 01:22:40,081
This sucks.

1681
01:22:40,081 --> 01:22:42,124
You know,
you meet someone who

1682
01:22:42,124 --> 01:22:46,045
you feel like this person
is-- is right for me.

1683
01:22:46,045 --> 01:22:47,588
This person's it.

1684
01:22:47,588 --> 01:22:51,008
And then, you know,

1685
01:22:51,008 --> 01:22:55,012
for them not to feel
that-- feel that way is, uh...

1686
01:22:58,265 --> 01:23:00,184
...disappointing.

1687
01:23:00,184 --> 01:23:03,020
Thank you.
Thank you.

1688
01:23:03,979 --> 01:23:05,189
It hurts.

1689
01:23:05,189 --> 01:23:08,567
I'm sure it will hurt
for a little bit.

1690
01:23:16,826 --> 01:23:18,160
Oh, I'm flattered.

1691
01:23:18,160 --> 01:23:20,663
I think
there was more to me and Jenn,

1692
01:23:20,663 --> 01:23:26,085
but I'm...
just not her person.

1693
01:23:35,970 --> 01:23:37,513
To an unconditional love.

1694
01:23:37,513 --> 01:23:40,599
To a love that never dies.
Cheers.

1695
01:23:40,599 --> 01:23:42,184
Cheers.
Cheers!

1696
01:23:42,184 --> 01:23:44,228
<i>Still to come
This season...</i>

1697
01:23:44,228 --> 01:23:45,563
Three cheers for Jenn!

1698
01:23:46,939 --> 01:23:49,150
I feel so lucky right now.

1699
01:23:49,150 --> 01:23:51,736
It just feels like everything's
falling into place.

1700
01:23:51,736 --> 01:23:55,865
I'm very confident that one
of these men could be my fiancé.

1701
01:23:55,865 --> 01:23:58,826
It feels like
engagement air out here.

1702
01:23:58,826 --> 01:24:01,120
I am more ready
for an engagement

1703
01:24:01,120 --> 01:24:02,621
than I am
for anything in my whole life.

1704
01:24:02,621 --> 01:24:04,206
Whoo!

1705
01:24:04,206 --> 01:24:06,041
I've been doing nothing
but falling in love with you

1706
01:24:06,041 --> 01:24:08,961
from the first time
we had a conversation.

1707
01:24:08,961 --> 01:24:10,254
I know I haven't
told you this,

1708
01:24:10,254 --> 01:24:12,131
but, like,
I am falling for you.

1709
01:24:12,131 --> 01:24:15,176
I could see myself being with
you for the rest of my life.

1710
01:24:15,176 --> 01:24:17,553
I love you.
I love you, Jenn.

1711
01:24:17,553 --> 01:24:21,223
I'm so excited about each
and every one of these men.

1712
01:24:21,223 --> 01:24:25,186
But I've never introduced
someone to my family before.

1713
01:24:25,186 --> 01:24:27,062
I know your history
with people

1714
01:24:27,062 --> 01:24:28,647
who are
emotionally unavailable.

1715
01:24:28,647 --> 01:24:33,110
Like, you've put in so much,
but he's given so little.

1716
01:24:33,110 --> 01:24:36,530
I told her I loved her,
but right now I'm confused.

1717
01:24:36,530 --> 01:24:40,075
As my positive, like,
loving feelings grow,

1718
01:24:40,075 --> 01:24:42,495
so do, like,
my fears and my worries.

1719
01:24:42,495 --> 01:24:44,246
You deserve all the love
in the world.

1720
01:24:44,246 --> 01:24:49,126
{\an8}But I'm not there yet.
I'm struggling right now.

1721
01:24:49,126 --> 01:24:51,670
{\an8}[ crying ] I'm sick
and tired of investing

1722
01:24:51,670 --> 01:24:53,839
{\an8}so much time and energy

1723
01:24:53,839 --> 01:24:56,133
{\an8}to someone who doesn't
feel the same way.

1724
01:24:56,133 --> 01:24:58,219
{\an8}I feel like my cup
isn't being filled.

1725
01:24:58,219 --> 01:25:02,056
{\an8}I want it to work, but I don't
know what I'm supposed to do.

1726
01:25:02,056 --> 01:25:04,058
{\an8}You want to get there with me,
but when?

1727
01:25:04,058 --> 01:25:06,644
{\an8}Tomorrow? Next year?

1728
01:25:06,644 --> 01:25:08,229
{\an8}Never?

1729
01:25:08,229 --> 01:25:10,147
{\an8}At some point,
I'm just tired of it.

1730
01:25:10,147 --> 01:25:11,732
{\an8}I don't want to
feel this way.

1731
01:25:17,238 --> 01:25:20,157
{\an8}Are you okay with whatever's
gonna happen here?

1732
01:25:21,408 --> 01:25:23,994
{\an8}I'm done letting men
dictate my relationships.

1733
01:25:23,994 --> 01:25:26,205
{\an8}Are you sure
you want to do this?

1734
01:25:27,289 --> 01:25:28,833
{\an8}
What I'm about to do today

1735
01:25:28,833 --> 01:25:32,211
{\an8}is something that I never
thought that I would ever do.

1736
01:25:32,211 --> 01:25:36,799
{\an8}But I have to do
what's right for me.

1737
01:25:36,799 --> 01:25:39,260
{\an8}I can't let you propose to me.