JESSE: The Bachelorette starts right now.
JOHN: Walking into the cocktail party tonight,
all of us are in good spirits.
Nerves are there, but I don't know.
I'm looking-- I'm looking forward to it.
Yeah. I don't know about y'all, but walked in here,
and I was like, "Where'd everybody go?"
JONATHON: I think we're all in a similar boat,
like, excited and nervous kind of mixed together.
But everybody seems to be on a great vibe.
Guys, the gentlemen with the roses,
man, how y'all feeling right now?
Lucky to be alive. Lucky to be here.
Dude, I'm-- I'm just happy. I'm cheesing.
Jenn's obviously amazing.
We're all, you know, fighting for her heart right now,
but let's just have a great night.
Let's try to keep it drama-free. So cheers.
- Cheers. Cheers, man. - Cheers. Cheers.
MAN: Cheers. Cheers.
THOMAS N.: This is the most confident that I've felt
in terms of my connection with Jenn.
You know, there are some things
that Jenn and I both kind of can relate to,
especially being first-generation Americans
like Jenn and I both are.
So yeah, I want to build on that foundation that we started.
I'm excited for tonight.
DYLAN: I will say another thing, though.
I've never grown up with a brother.
And so lucky to be here with you guys and have that support.
So I just wanted to give a shout-out to you guys for real.
I'm happy. I think it's good right now.
Dare I say it, I think this might be the first
cocktail party where there is absolutely no drama.
JENN: This week, there's just a lot that's on my mind, you know?
I have 11 guys here that I have been dating
for the past few weeks, who I've grown a lot with.
But then this morning, there was a big surprise.
[ gasps ] - Hi.
What is going on?
What are you doing here?
My ex-boyfriend Matt flew on his own
from Boston to see me.
I would love to join you, to express to you
how much I still strongly care for you.
Like what, you're ready to get engaged?
- I'm ready to do it. - Matthew.
I know it's not the first time I've said this,
but I really do love you.
Matthew.
I'm just taken aback.
Like, I don't know what I'm going to do.
Hey. JENN: Hey, Jesse.
Jenn, how are you? Good to see you.
You look great. You doing okay?
Thank you. Yeah.
It's been a long day today.
Yeah. Quite the day, too, I know.
Yeah. Yeah.
So Matt flew himself halfway around the world to talk to you.
- Yeah. - To tell you how he feels.
I mean, I do have to give it to him.
That's a pretty romantic gesture.
I'm just in disbelief. I-I couldn't believe it
when I saw that he was here, and I was so confused and--
Did you have any idea he felt that way?
No. You know, we'd been friends
for so long after the breakup
that I just didn't know, like, that was how he felt.
I don't know. I mean, no one's ever told me
that they're in love with me before, so...
So how did it feel, then, to hear him say that, like that?
I mean, it definitely has me even more confused now.
JESSE: Matt's here tonight. I do think you guys should talk,
because no matter what you decide to do, Jenn,
I think it really could change everything.
- Yeah. - I'm sure you've also thought
about the other guys, too, and--
Yeah. I mean, I do have 11 amazing guys inside,
and they make me feel so deserving and worth being here.
And I can see my future here with them.
- They have no idea. - Yeah.
I mean, what do you think they're going to think
if somehow he were to join?
What do you think you want to do?
I don't even know-- I don't know what to think of that.
I have to make an incredibly difficult decision.
Do I let Matt join this journey with me?
Thanks for your help. - Great seeing you.
I am afraid of what it might stir up in some of these guys
and how they might feel about it.
You know, I'm pumped
for really everybody in this room right now, man.
Just hoping that we just finish out the week with a bang.
Yep.
JENN: I just don't know how they're gonna react to it all.
I can only hope that they trust me.
I don't know, man. It's tough. Nerves are going to be there,
especially with 11 guys like this.
But anyway--
- Whoo! - Hey!
JENN: [ speaks indistinctly ]
How are we doing? MAN: Good.
JENN: [ sighs ]
First, I just want to thank you guys
for truly an amazing week for me.
Um, you know,
I know I've talked to a lot of you about my past.
And my past has started to impact me
in a lot more ways than I imagined.
Um, I do feel like I need to be honest with you guys.
I was in the city, and someone from my past interrupted me,
and it was my ex-boyfriend Matt.
And he flew all the way here to Auckland
to basically profess his love for me.
And he wants to be with me,
and he wants to join this journey.
Um, I mean...
There's a lot of feelings.
There's a lot of things going on.
So, Matt is here tonight,
and I do need to talk to him.
[ sighs ] So I will be right back.
What-- What-- Does anyone want to talk on that?
What is everyone's thoughts?
DEVIN: I need a drink.
This sucks. That is a gut punch
to everybody sitting in that room right there.
Like, did I expect this? Not even a little bit.
Do I want this?
Not even a little bit. But it seems like it's something
we're just gonna have to deal with.
SPENCER: You know, it's easy to jump to conclusions
that, you know, does he come and stay in the house?
Does she leave with him?
Ultimately, it's her decision.
I just don't want to see her get hurt again.
We all took that kind of personally.
We're all putting our hearts on the line.
There's already some good men in the picture,
so I'm not happy about it.
There's no blueprint for how to, like, behave
or act or to navigate the situation, right?
To think that someone has this, like, unfair advantage
of, like, having a history with her,
it's like, how do you even compete with that?
You guys all know, bro,
it hits a different with an ex when you know them.
- Hi. - Hi. How are you?
AUSTIN: That guy does have an unfair advantage, 100%.
He knows Jenn more than any of us in this room.
And I think it's kind of wack and corny
if he's able to come in here and, you know, stay.
And I'm personally not cool with that.
You didn't think something like that was going to happen tonight
and then boom, [bleep] hit the fan once again.
So here we are.
SAM M.: That is a gut punch right now to hear that [bleep]
I can literally feel the blood boil inside of me.
Is he joining the house?
I don't know. Is Jenn gonna allow this
to be happening right now? I think that's wack, honestly,
if that guy's gonna come in here
after all we've poured in. I think it's kind of wack.
I personally don't want to be a part of that.
She's talked to at least a few of us
about her past relationships.
If he does come here, it's for a reason.
Jenn tells us all that one of her ex-boyfriends
flew to Auckland and surprised her
and that he was here tonight
and that she needed to go have a conversation with him
and that she was going to hear him out.
I think all the guys are either shocked or upset.
People are definitely in their emotions.
JENN: How are you feeling?
Um,
I feel a little nervous.
I just want you to know, like, I appreciate everything
that you've done in coming here.
Like, it touches my heart.
Like, it's not something that anyone's ever done for me.
And I guess, I mean, I'm still confused.
Like, why now?
MATT: I mean, it's really now or never.
You're leaving this thing engaged.
There's no flexibility there.
I just didn't know you felt that way.
I would say it didn't happen all at once.
But over time, finding us coming back together, we--
I just saw things in you that just made things so deep.
[ sighs ]
I know. I-I mean, like, thinking back to,
like, our relationship and all the good times that we had,
and, like, you're such an important person in my life.
And, like, it does make me sentimental.
When we first really tried things out,
we were much different people.
We were not the adults that we are today.
And I just feel like
as we've grown into more adults over time,
we've just found this bond growing stronger.
And I hope that you can see how much that you mean to me.
I'm just not ready to let it go.
Like, this is hard for me,
because you know how much I care about you.
When I think about Matt and our relationship,
you know, we had a lot of great times together,
and we're just compatible in a lot of different ways.
At the same time, you know,
I've been dating these 11 guys. I feel torn.
I'm fighting between this past versus this newness.
You know, I don't want to hurt anyone,
but I have to make a decision.
DEVIN: I'm frustrated, bro. - You're hot right now.
You know what I'm saying? I saw you had that glow on you,
and now it's like getting hit by a bus.
She has cried about her past, bro.
The thing that I'm saying is--
And now she's gonna let her past
back into her life like that so easily?
- The thing that I'm saying-- - And walk among us?
I did this already. I've been there, bro.
I ain't doing it again, bro. I ain't doing it again.
- She might tell him off. - She might.
- She might not. - She might let his ass here.
And that's why we gotta wait to see what happens.
- She does, I'm leaving. - Don't-- Don't say that, bro.
- Yeah, she does, I'm leaving. - Don't say that.
Jenn has to deal with her own things, too.
Wait to see what happens,
and then we take it from there, bro.
I'm livid, man. I mean,
the fact that this guy is even here
is just a problem. For me, it's like
my own past trauma., It's kind of been creeping up.
You know, I've been cheated on in the past.
It's not a good feeling for me.
And I know this isn't necessarily that,
but it feels like it for sure.
The fact that she's going to let somebody come here and do all--
Why are we just, like, sitting here letting it happen?
I'm gonna wait. I'm gonna wait.
If she walks in here with this guy,
this rose doesn't mean anything to me.
Uh, just wanted to take a second
to let you guys know I did come here
completely on my own volition.
But she let me know,
you know, her future's in this room.
She feels confident
that you guys can offer her something I can't.
And I'm just here to, you know, apologize.
I'm not here to take anything away from your experience.
I wish you all the best. I wish her the best.
Smart girl.
I do want to say something right here.
Um, even if you did walk into this house,
I think you can sit and look amongst this crowd.
We got some good dudes right here, and, uh, yeah.
I'm glad that you gonna stay in the past, my boy.
MATT: I think I feel a little defeated.
All the growth that she's had and the journey
that she's been on has changed her.
And I have to respect that.
Good luck.
At least we both get the closure that we didn't get,
but it just wasn't what I had hoped for.
SAM M.: We good. We good. It's all done.
It's all squashed. I think all of us,
what we've seen in Jenn, she just proved to us.
So, uh, I'm happy for everybody. I'm happy that [bleep]
is gone and we good. [ laughter ]
DEVIN: It felt good. It was the reassurance that I needed.
I jumped to conclusions for the wrong reasons,
and Jenn was smart enough in that moment
to realize what she had.
I got to trust her on that. I got to trust her on that.
Today has been an emotional roller coaster for me.
You know, Matt told me today that he is in love with me,
and that's not something that I've ever heard before.
Um, hearing it from him, you know,
it was all the right things, but said by the wrong guy.
Looking around this room, I know that the right guy is in here.
And I've said it before, and I'll say it again,
like, my future is in this room.
Like, my husband is in this room.
But we do have a rose ceremony tonight,
and I do have some difficult decisions to make,
and that crushes me, as well.
So I will see you guys there.
JONATHON: Hearing Jenn does see her future in this room,
of course, there's a weight off your shoulders, you know?
But there's still 10 amazing other guys.
We didn't get alone time tonight.
I hope that what we have is strong enough
that she sees me in a greater light
than she sees some of the other guys in the house.
SPENCER: Jenn made it clear
that she's looking for her future husband,
and that's the big thing I have to hold on to.
I know that I'm ready for an engagement,
and I'm very hopeful that that's what this could be.
Grant.
Grant, will you accept this rose?
Of course. Watch out.
SPENCER: There's a lot at stake tonight.
I can feel however I want to feel about our connection.
But if there isn't a rose on my lapel tonight,
then it doesn't really mean anything.
Jeremy.
That is a scary thing to think about.
Jeremy, will you accept this rose?
Of course.
Jonathon.
JOHN: Oh, my gosh. I mean, I'm confident, but I'm nervous.
Jonathon, will you accept this rose?
Of course.
I am praying my name is next.
To get a rose from Jenn means that she sees me
and she sees a future. So that means the world.
Spencer.
Spencer, will you accept this rose?
Without a question. Absolutely.
For me to get a rose tonight would be huge.
Dylan. THOMAS N.: This is why I'm here,
to build my relationship with Jenn
and see if we're a good match
and build up on the foundation that we started on day one.
Dylan, will you accept this rose?
Of course.
THOMAS N.: So a rose tonight would be everything.
Gentlemen, Jenn, it's the final rose tonight.
When you're ready. - Thank you.
Austin.
Austin, will you accept this rose?
Of course.
Thomas, John, I'm really sorry.
Please take a moment, say your goodbyes.
[ men murmuring indistinctly ]
I hope you find everything you're looking for.
Thank you. You, too, honestly. You're amazing. Seriously.
Tonight was hard.
It's not easy sending people home at this point
because of how strongly I feel for them.
Appreciate you.
But I have to do what's right for me and put myself first,
which I haven't always done.
Cheers to realizing
this present group of guys right here
is much better than anything in your past.
Cheers. MAN: Cheers to the future.
Tonight was a monumental night.
It's like we're really, truly putting the past in the past.
We are fully embracing
this bright future that I know I have ahead of me
because of the guys that are here.
To love.
- To love! - To love!
JESSE: I don't know if you knew this,
but the coffee culture here in Auckland is absolutely amazing.
JENN: Really? - They take their coffee
so, so seriously.
Okay. Well, this is actually really good.
And I needed this. - It was a long day yesterday.
Yeah. Last night was crazy.
I finally closed the door on that chapter
and closed the door on the woman that I used to be.
And I want to focus on digging deeper with these guys,
because I do think this is a crucial week
to continue building momentum in all of these relationships.
JESSE: What do you feel like you still want to see
from the guys here moving forward?
Um, obviously there's something there.
There's banter. There's chemistry.
But with each week, I can feel that I get a better sense
of what I want in a future.
The more and more I'm building these relationships,
I'm seeing the things that I do want.
JONATHON: This is about to start to get weird with y'all.
Like, we're breaking that feeling's threshold,
and that showed last night. Lot of guys were upset,
and this is where it kind of gets
a little bit more real. Yeah.
The main thing I'm hoping for is a one on one.
I think that would be amazing. Um, I just see
the way that you guys look after an entire day with her.
I want to look and feel like that, too.
Boys, boys, boys. I got us a date card.
Ooh.
Right back at it.
JEREMY: We only have nine guys left,
so it's starting to get real.
And, you know, the process is starting to move fast.
So I'm hopefully getting a one on one today.
GRANT: I haven't had a one on one with Jenn,
so I'm at a disadvantage in that aspect.
But, you know, I feel like my time is coming.
So I'm going to stay optimistic and see what happens.
"Jonathon, It's time for our love to take flight.
Love, Jenn."
I am over the moon right now.
Take flight?
MAN: Gonna be something with a plane.
MAN #2: Or hot air-- They do hot air balloons.
- Or hot air balloon. - Oh, man.
JONATHON: I hope not. [ laughter ]
Ever since I got here, you crave that one on one time
just to really dive a little bit deeper into your emotions.
And every week, you sit there, and your name's not called,
and then it's called, and you're like,
"Did you guys hear that, too?"
The date card said, "It's time for our love to take flight."
I don't like heights, so I'm like,
what in the hell could there be that involves flight?
Oh, man, I hate [bleep] helicopters.
JENN: Hey! - Hi.
How are you?
I don't know what is with you and heights,
but I can already tell.
- How are you doing? - I'm doing good.
Good.
Okay, well, we are gonna take a ride in the helicopter.
Have you ever been in a helicopter before?
I have. I hate helicopters.
That is literally the last thing I wanted to do today.
If we go down, at least we go down together.
The goal here is to get over the fear with Jenn
and just get lost in the moment with her.
JENN: Alright. Let's go.
She jumped out of a plane. She's jumped off the building.
She's gone on helicopter rides now before.
So I'm going to make her feel very needed.
It's okay. It's gonna be okay.
Don't worry. I'll break your fall.
JONATHON: The shaking is a little, you know--
JENN: Yeah. It's gonna be good. It's gonna be fine.
Jonathon is a little scared right now.
Wow. - Why is it so choppy?
JENN: Look how pretty, though. This is our first test,
you know, if I'm gonna be there for him and his fears,
and I'm gonna reassure him that everything's gonna be okay.
JONATHON: Holy [bleep] - Hey.
No, no, no, no, not in a nervous holy [bleep] way.
Like, look at this. JENN: It's pretty.
Auckland is gorgeous. JONATHON: Stunning.
JENN: My relationship with Jonathon,
you know, there's something there.
There's a spark. There's chemistry.
But for some reason, it hasn't really taken off the ground yet.
There's the hotel! Hi, boys.
Bye, boys. - Jealous? No, I'm kidding.
[ both chuckle ]
JENN: He and I just have this giggly, goofy energy,
which I love, but we haven't really gotten
to where we're just open and vulnerable,
and I think that's really what we need
to get to the next level.
So, we finally have left Auckland,
and now we're entering the beautiful island of Waiheke,
known for its wine.
- I knew it! - Yeah.
- I knew it. - Yeah!
JONATHON: Just not thinking about it anymore.
JENN: Good.
JONATHON: You helped me get through that more than you know.
Landing safely.
After Jenn was able to calm me down a little bit,
we flew into an absolutely beautiful venue.
It's something that you can only see in, like, magazines.
And being beside Jenn,
knowing that she has a beautiful day planned for us,
I'm over the moon.
I'm gonna do a cartwheel.
Are you?
Oh. Alright, I got you. You ready? Look.
Do a cartwheel.
Oh! Okay. Okay. Not bad.
So pretty. Oh, my gosh. We should play hide and seek.
- Who's counting first? - I'm counting.
- Are you? - 1, 2, 3, 4,
5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10.
Marco?
- Polo! - [ gasps ] I hear you!
Jonathon and I are literally at a vineyard,
the most romantic place ever,
and we're still just being our goofy selves.
I found you. - Okay, now I'm out of breath.
JENN: He brings out the weirdest parts of me,
and we just have a good time whenever we're together.
Hey, man. From distance.
Okay, ready?
How did you do that?!
Watch what I can do with my mouth.
JONATHON: This day is like one of those ones
that you see in movies, like a rom com.
I mean, fun. The banter,
the jokes, the rapport are all there.
Will you accept this grape?
I'd be honored.
But that's also my biggest fear is,
is this just friendly?
What do you think? Should we get in the hot tub?
- Should we hop in? - Yeah.
Can we connect on an emotional level?
I'm going to try my best,
so I hope that she's comfortable enough
with what we have that she can open up
past the fun, surface level stuff, as well.
[ Jenn laughs ]
JONATHON: I meant to ask, did you have any fears
going into today with me specifically?
No, I don't think so. Did anything about today scare you?
- I mean... - Tell me.
- Only one fear. - Tell me. What?
My-- My biggest fear for-- for us
is breaking past the fun and friendly phase.
- Okay. - You know what I mean?
Do we connect on that deeper emotional level?
'Cause it's huge. It's hugely important.
- I agree. - And it's something I'm bad at.
Like, we are both very intuitive people,
and I think today was all about having fun.
But I know that you have layers to peel back.
Yeah.
JENN: You know, the fun is there.
The physical is there with Jonathon.
And what's missing is really just being able
to emotionally connect.
And I hope that we'll be able to do that.
A rose means a lot more than previous roses have meant.
And for me to be able to give out a rose to Jonathon,
I have to feel like we can break past that fun barrier.
JONATHON: Oh, my God. That dress is beautiful, by the way.
Boom. JENN: You're too nice.
You're too nice. JONATHON: Are you kidding me?
[ Jenn giggles ]
JENN: That is so cool.
Thank you. - You're very welcome.
Appreciate you.
Jenn and I's relationship has been
nothing but, like, fun, good-- good vibes.
There's never a dull moment when we're hanging out.
She brings light to every situation.
The glow and the energy and the fun around us
throughout the day was amazing.
I'd like to make a toast to an incredible day
with an incredible man,
and to getting to know each other a lot deeper.
- Cheers. - Cheers.
JONATHON: There's a shared bond over, like,
how fun and how light we look at life.
But Jenn doesn't know the emotional distress
or the life-changing qualities
that happened to me from my past relationship,
and it's something that I want to make sure she's aware of.
But, you know, I'm scared.
Today was amazing, seriously. - Yeah.
Like, I haven't had the immediate banter and fun
and laughs with somebody like that I think ever.
One thing that I really love about each other
and about today is, like,
you allow me to fully be myself. And that's not something
that I've had in previous relationships before.
And that's why, like, today was so fun for me,
is like we were fully able to just be ourselves.
And that's important to me, you know?
Yeah. And with that,
obviously there's topics I want to cover
and things I want you to know about me
and things I want to know about you.
- Absolutely. - Um,
I know it's been kind of on repeat
that I've told you like I'm bad at emoting,
and I think it's more that I'm bad at opening all the way up.
- Mm-hmm. - So for me, it's like
I have a very hard time fully trusting
that somebody is exactly what they say they are.
And I don't want to give somebody my all
when I don't know
what all is inside of them. - Mm-hmm.
And I think that's a problem a lot of people have,
but everybody has it for different reasons.
- Sure. - And I think from mine,
I met a girl
and just fell really hard, really fast.
And we lived together for two years,
looked at rings,
looked into the future, talked about kids,
and then it all kind of turned south.
She was going through a very hard time,
and she would start to, like,
self-medicate or, like, abuse alcohol
to cover up some of the pain like she was going through.
And this went on for like months
until like one day, it just like got out of hand.
And we started just like getting into it a little bit,
and she would question my character
and say that I was abusive and controlling and manipulative
for questioning what she was doing,
words that kind of haunt me still to this day.
And it just it reached a breaking point
for-- for her words. She just snapped and get the [bleep] out.
Like, I don't want to see you again.
And it tore me down.
And it took this kid who grew up as a hopeless romantic,
wanting that rom com kind of love,
and it absolutely destroyed me to my core.
JENN: I feel for him for going through that,
and I know how detrimental that can be to one's self-worth.
I mean, I've been through the same thing.
I can relate to you more than you know.
I did have a toxic ex-boyfriend who, in the same way,
gaslit me all the time and was manipulative.
And I think when you're in
like an emotionally abusive relationship,
it really takes a toll on you,
and you carry that with you for a long time.
I can see exactly like where you're coming from,
and the fears of emoting
and the fears of fully trusting someone again,
because they can use it against you.
- Yeah. - If that makes any sense.
Yeah. Complete sense. It's a hard pill to swallow,
and not many people have the ability
to, like, make me understand in the way that you are.
Like, it's-- it's refreshing.
It means the world. Thank you. - Of course.
Listening to her, we share a lot of commonalities
when it comes to emotional distress in the past.
And she makes me feel heard.
And I'm happy that I got to open up about these things.
DEVIN: I think we can all agree
that Jonathon is a stand-up dude,
but I hate the idea of thinking of mans
having fun with my girl. MAN: Your girl?
DEVIN: Yeah. AUSTIN: All I know is Jonathon
is with me wife right now. [ laughter ]
Jonathon has had his one on one today.
He is getting that quality time with Jenn, and I want that, too.
SAM M.: We got a date card. - Oh!
Sheesh!
To get that one on one would really signify
if this is something that, you know,
can be a thing moving forward.
SAM M.: It's a group date.
Devin.
Sam.
Marcus.
Spencer.
Jeremy.
Dylan.
Austin.
"Love is messy. Jenn."
MAN: Hey. SAM M.: This sounds like fun.
- Congrats, man. - Congrats, bro.
- Thank you. - Congrats, Grant.
GRANT: I'm happy. I'm happy I'm getting the one on one.
You know, try to dig a little deeper emotionally.
And, uh, I'm-a lay my cards out there and see how it falls.
I'm happy I finally got a one on one date with Jenn.
I've been anticipating. I've been wanting it.
I'm super excited. I want to see her.
I want to dive deeper into our relationship.
And I want to get to know her better,
and I want her to know me better.
I-I have no thoughts at the moment.
AUSTIN: It sucks, because I feel like most of the guys
are not even just one step ahead of me.
They're like a few steps ahead of me, and I'm a little jealous,
because I still need to know
if Jenn's the right girl for me, you know?
I need some more time to get to that point.
I know you're a glass half full kind of girl.
Absolutely.
And I've looked at my whole life that way.
- Mm-hmm. - Growing up, like, I wasn't
handed anything on a silver platter.
- Mm-hmm. - Like, I watched
my immediate family go through a ton of turmoil.
My mom was a young, single mom.
She had me at 27. She had my sister at 17,
my brother at 20. And I would see
the sadness or the turmoil,
and all I would want to do is make them smile.
Mm. Do you feel like you kind of
had to put on a stronger front for your family?
And do you feel like that's why it's harder for you to emote,
because you don't want to show that side of you,
because you feel like it's a weakness?
- Yeah, probably. - I'm only saying that
because I've been through very similar,
not the same. But, you know, my parents are divorced,
and growing up, they fought a lot. It was very toxic.
And seeing everything that was going on in the house,
I felt like growing up, I had to put on a stronger front,
because if I broke down,
like, who was going to take care of me?
Like, my parents were too busy fighting.
So it was almost like this mask that I had to put on.
And I do feel like it's harder for me to emote.
It's harder for me to be vulnerable, because I feel
as if, if I show weakness in any kind of way,
like being vulnerable, then everything falls apart.
- Yeah. - I mean, that's why
a lot of my relationships failed or were toxic
is because I didn't have a voice.
It's a two-way street, though.
- Yeah, yeah. - Like, you deserve somebody
to make sure they get that out of you,
like, and be able to read between the lines and be like,
"Hey, I know you're putting on a front right now.
What the hell is wrong? Talk to me."
I agree. But at the same time,
I think over the years
and especially in the past few weeks,
I've understood that it's important to be able
to let your guard down and show your weakness sometimes,
because that is what allows someone to be there for you.
- Yeah. - So we're on the same page.
- Yeah. Yeah. - Don't you think?
Yeah, for sure.
Sitting here with Jenn right now, I just feel heard.
It feels great to be able to open up
about something like that and let her know where I stand.
She happens to be on the same ladder that I'm on.
And she just helped me get to the next step,
and it felt amazing.
So, I have one more thing for you.
Jonathon and I are growing a lot tonight.
We've been through very similar experiences,
and now I feel that we can really build
a great future together.
I just feel like I can understand you a lot better now
and that we can both relate on so much about how we grew up
and the relationships that we were in
and what we learned from it, you know?
With that said, Jonathon, will you accept this rose?
Of course.
I'm so excited. That rose means
that we're on the right path.
I want to be the man that she is looking for
and see if that ferocious love she's been chasing
is something that I'm capable of giving to her.
[ thunder rumbles ]
♪ Say you'll try, say you'll try ♪
No way.
♪ Say you're mine, all mine ♪
♪ I wanna make you believe that love is real, baby ♪
♪ I want to give you ♪
♪ All that you've been craving ♪
JONATHON: Today was like a romantic movie.
And I couldn't be happier that she is the one to do it with.
The right person will make that rom com love stay alive
as long as you can.
♪ I wanna make you believe ♪
♪ That our love is the real thing ♪
[ Jenn laughs ]
JENN: Today I have a group date with seven guys.
Four of these guys, I've already had a one on one date with,
so it'll be a really good test to see if those connections
still shine. I mean, it's all about
who's going to make an effort today, right,
and who I'm going to be noticing.
The date card said love is messy or something like that,
which my original thought is,
oh, we're doing something in the mud.
And, you know, I just got some fresh new kicks, man.
I'm not trying to get them all muddy.
- Hi, there. - Hello!
- Hey. - Hey.
AUSTIN: I've only had group dates up to this point,
and I see the way these guys are talking about her,
how they've really gotten deep with Jenn,
and I just have not. But I'm just going to make
the most of the opportunity that I'm given.
And, you know, that opportunity is this group date.
How are you guys doing?
So good. How are you?
Good. Are you guys excited?
- Absolutely. - Super.
Before we start today, I do want to introduce you guys
to some of my new friends.
Oh.
[ hoofbeats rumbling ]
[ dog barking ]
[ sheep bleating ]
[ man laughs ] - Oh.
MAN: Oh! MAN #2: Oh!
Whoa! - It's me. I'm the leader.
MAN: Are they joining us in the house?
[ sheep continue bleating ]
Dude, that guy has a lot of sheep.
Oh, the dog's just like the boss in the background.
[ dog barking ]
I didn't know New Zealand had that many sheep.
Crazy.
So, we are on a sheep farm, and this is Dianne and Richard.
And not only do they own the sheep farm,
but they've also been married for over 45 years.
Their teamwork on the farm
is a true example of their strong bond.
And they're going to show us how it's done today.
Today we're looking for the most valuable farmer.
And at the end of the day,
one of you blokes is going to be able to spend
a little bit of extra time with the Bachelorette.
SAM M.: Growing up on a farm,
I've been around animals my whole life,
whether it's cattle, whether it's horses.
Um, there's not really much that I feel like I can't do.
So I'm in a win-win situation right here.
So we're going to bring the sheep up.
I'm going to get you guys to herd them through the gate.
Yeah! Whoo! MAN: There she is.
So I'm going to say go in a moment.
But I'm telling you, you're going to put them through
that wooden gate in the right hand corner.
Okay? Ready?
Go.
MAN: Alright, should we come up here?
I'm going to go this way.
[ all speaking indistinctly ]
Okay, okay. We've got them over here.
- Hey, hey, hey! - Hey, hey, hey, hey!
Oi, oi, oi, oi! - Oh, no.
- Oi, oi, oi! Oi, oi! Oi! - Yeah. Yeah.
DEVIN: Our strategy was to kind of, like, fan out
and try and corral the sheep in a way,
which it worked for about five seconds.
- Oh, no! - Where you going?
No, no, no!
They're going the wrong way!
He's going! You got to keep them in!
Oh, they're not afraid!
Where's the-- Where's the fence?
Where's the [bleep] gate?
What is happening?
You have 500 sheep just running everywhere,
and you're not corralling them into anything.
It was, uh, chaotic.
- Go! - They're going down.
[ sheep continue bleating ]
Will someone tell us what gate they're going through?
[ ding! ] [ sheep bleats ]
Oh, this is impossible.
Hey! Hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey.
Hey, hey. Hey.
Well, the first thing I would have done was open the gate,
and that was sort of seriously a disappointment that they didn't.
- Hey, open the-- - Hey, hey, hey!
I thought, what's going to happen here?
Which gate?
[ ding! ] [ sheep bleats ]
- Alright, hey. - Yo, open the gate.
Okay. JENN: Which gate is it?
If they'd opened that gate,
I'm sure the sheep would have streamed through.
[ dog barking ] JENN: Where are they going?
At a certain point, I think we just give up.
MAN: Oh, my God.
- I feel like a dog. - I know,
and not in like the cool, fun way.
[ sheep bleating ]
RICHARD: Not a lot of collective intelligence
that you didn't think to open the gate.
But, um, these are our cattle yards. We've had stock through,
and there's a lot of muck and everything here.
And we want you to grab a shovel and a bucket each.
You got to be absolutely joking, man.
This is like my worst nightmare.
RICHARD: A little bit of time constraint.
We haven't got all afternoon.
DIANNE: It really is hard work on a farm.
There's a lot of physicality,
and it's not like going to the gym.
MAN: Come here. I'll grab you, bro.
Is this actual [bleep]?
AUSTIN: I don't know if I'd call it fun.
I could think of like 10,000 other things I'd have, you know,
rather done than have [bleep] all over me today.
But, you know, at this point, I'm doing anything to hopefully
get that extra time with Jenn today.
JENN: Surprisingly, it doesn't smell that bad.
I feel like it could smell worse.
Being out here in nature
is something that I would do naturally,
and it's just nice to be able to enjoy it with guys.
But also like at this point in the journey, you know,
I'm looking for a guy who's gonna make time with me
to make a moment with me.
And, you know, that's what I'm really looking forward to today.
DEVIN: How you feeling? JENN: Good.
DEVIN: Yeah? JENN: Good, yeah.
I know the party was a little crazy for you.
JENN: Oh, yeah. Yeah.
MAN: Boy. MAN #2: What is this?
SAM M.: Me and all the guys were shoveling [bleep]
and, uh, yeah, we all look up
and see that Devin has stole our girlfriend.
MAN: Yeah, well, that bit, like, are we shocked at all?
MAN #2: No, not at-- not at all.
SAM M.: I've learned not to be surprised.
I think it shows a huge sign of disrespect,
and I don't think that's a quality
that Jenn is really looking for, as well.
But I really don't care.
Lions don't concern themselves with the opinions of sheep.
I'm surprised we didn't shovel him into one of these.
Hey, Devin, let's get your ass to work. Come pick this up.
Come on, boy. - I'm coming, I'm coming,
I'm coming. - Come pick that [bleep] up.
For the remainder of the day, I hope we're doing something
a little bit more clean.
Maybe we're milking some cows. That'd be fun.
Hopefully nothing to do with poop.
Now, you've got some implements in here
to get the dirt off the back of the sheep.
I believe you call it dingleberries.
Love me some dingleberries.
AUSTIN: So you take these whole things off right here?
RICHARD: Take it off. AUSTIN: Okay. Yeah.
Just to think, the guy who's done the best out of this
gets to spend a little bit of time with you later today.
- Mm. - You know, I thought
I did pretty well at farming. We had to cut
some dingleberries out of the sheep's, you know... bottom.
RICHARD: No, that's not enough. Keep going.
AUSTIN: Getting the wool and putting it in the little bins
and even drinking all these different kinds of milk.
To a beautiful day in the countryside
and to scooping up each other's [bleep]
MAN: Oh. MAN #2: To scooping.
MAN #3: Cheers. AUSTIN: I would love to hear
my name, you know, uh, when it comes to the best farmer award.
I feel like I put in that work today. I did it all for Jenn,
and, you know, hopefully she sees that.
Well, there's lots of qualities
that have come out, there.
What we're, you know, looking for is, uh, someone
who we think would be a great farmer and a great partner.
We've decided and agreed that, uh,
it's Devin. - Beautiful.
RICHARD: Who will have the quality time with Jenn.
I think the view looks really good over here, too, guys.
MARCUS: Yeah, can we cut dingleberries again?
MAN: Can we cut dingleberries again?
Doesn't make sense to me. It really doesn't, you know?
Every time I looked at Devin,
he was kind of off, you know, trying to talk to Jenn.
And so I think he won the best talker award today.
But best farmer award, I-I don't know about that one.
MAN: Devin? Really?
Someone else definitely deserves that,
and it's not Devin.
MAN: [Bleep] Devin.
[ sheep bleats ]
MARCUS: Today was interesting, because it kind of showed
that, you know, life's not always going to be
jumping out of airplanes and riding helicopters
and going on beautiful dates. The inevitable truth of life
is you're going to have days of shoveling [bleep]
MAN: Fancy, fancy.
MARCUS: I think that we had a lighthearted day today,
day full of laughs, and I hope that we can
kind of carry that energy into the after party.
JEREMY: Devin, you think you deserved farmer of the day?
Honest answer.
For me, I think it was more about initiative,
of doing what I've always been doing.
That's really insightful.
I know it's pretty basic, but it means a lot, you know?
Yeah.
DEVIN: Few of the guys are a little bit jealous
that I got picked as farmer of the day,
but I've had conversations with Jenn
that I think other people haven't had.
[ sighs ] JENN: Hi, guys.
Hello. How are you?
DEVIN: So tonight I hope I get the rose,
just because these roses mean something at this point.
She's feeling a certain type of way about me
more than she's feeling a certain type of way about you.
And you can no longer deny that.
JENN: [ sighs ] Alright, well, I want to thank you guys
for such a memorable day in the countryside.
That being said, I really want to make tonight
all about why we're choosing each other
and to furthering our connection.
- Absolutely. - Cheers.
Cheers to that.
JENN: Cheers.
[ men murmuring indistinctly ]
AUSTIN: Today has been a really tough day for me.
You know, I'm one of two guys that haven't got a one on one.
I'm the only guy in the house that has not received
either a one on one or a group date rose.
There's so many guys here
that have such a strong connection with Jenn,
and I just don't have that.
And, you know, it sucks. It's not easy at all.
I don't think I've had a mimosa since college.
- Were you in a frat? - I was.
- What frat were you in? - AEPi.
Were you a frat boy?
[ laughing ] Why are you petting me right now?
What is going on? What is going on here?
I don't-- I don't even know what I was doing.
[ both laugh ]
- So you were a frat boy. - No.
What was your college experience like?
It was like-- It was actually so transformative,
'cause I went from, like, the fat kid end of high school to--
- You were not fat. - No, I promise you, I was.
I'm not saying like I was obese, but I was definitely overweight.
Like, there's just, like, an insecurity.
- Sure. - And like, uh,
like a loneliness, even though, like, you have friends.
No, I get that. Do you still feel lonely?
I think I'm like-- I've never said this to anyone,
but I think I'm, like, low-key afraid of being lonely.
- What do you mean? - Like...
I feel like I give a lot. - Mm-hmm.
In relationships, and I feel like I'm scared of, like,
that not being reciprocated and then, like, ending up alone.
What are you afraid of in relationships?
Mm...
giving too much to the wrong person.
I've been burned in the past for giving too much.
And then when you really put everything into a relationship,
and then they're not giving it back,
it's like over time, it makes you want to close up, I think.
- I know what you mean. - Yeah.
JEREMY: Genuinely, I feel great when I'm with Jenn.
And I guess it was like, a bit more of a serious convo
than-- than we normally have. But it's not a bad thing.
I'm so comfortable around her, and it's a lot of fun,
and we make each other smile and laugh.
And, like, I can't ask for anything more than that.
For the sake of being on the same wavelength, like--
- [ laughing ] - Why are you laughing?
You're petting me again.
DEVIN: It's like reality sets back in
when the rose is, like, right in front of you.
You know, like the day goes by. Everybody's having a great time.
Then pbht. Rose.
SAM M.: We're down to nine guys,
and we know that she has connections
with every single one of them.
And that means everybody's kind of on the chopping block.
It's a different-- It's a different ballgame now.
AUSTIN: They were talking about the group date rose,
you know, sitting there on the table tonight.
And, uh, whoever gets that rose tonight
is getting a piece of Jenn's heart, you know?
That's a lot of validation and reassurance that,
you know, they can feel very confident moving forward
into next week and, you know, to hopefully hometowns.
Austin, my guy.
Can I steal her from you when you're ready?
Yeah, of course.
But, you know, there was a reason
I didn't really get into that conversation,
because I have a very tough decision to make.
[ sighs ] Alright. Well, how are you doing?
- I'm doing alright. - Yeah?
Um, yeah. You know, obviously,
coming into this, I told you
I was always going to be honest and up-front with you.
100%, you should be, every time.
You know, at every moment I can.
And, um, you know, just, I feel like
I've been playing catch-up this whole time. I really do.
Um, you have some amazing guys here that are ready
to give you absolutely everything that you deserve.
And with the way that things have gone for me
in this journey,
I don't think that I can do that.
What are you-- What are you saying?
I'm saying I don't think it's fair to you,
and I don't think it's fair to the other guys
that I continue this journey with you.
Okay. I mean, it is a bit of a shock.
Um, it's not what I was expecting.
It's not what I wanted to hear.
But I can understand if this is what you want to do,
and I can accept that, and I will respect that.
- Can I have a hug? - Yeah. Of course.
I didn't know that Austin was going to leave tonight.
I didn't know that he was at such a low place
that he thought he was going to leave.
And for me, it's like,
am I just doing a bad job?
I want to be enough for somebody.
And it seems like I wasn't enough for Austin.
[ door shuts ]
Every time you say your husband is in that room,
he really is. I wish you nothing but the best,
and I mean that from the bottom of my heart.
Thank you so much. JENN: Thank you.
Alright. Goodbye.
JENN: Does the whole situation make me scared? Yeah.
It's like, how many of these other guys
are feeling this way that I don't know about?
Is the next one just going to walk out the door, too?
Maybe I'm not enough for Marcus.
Maybe I'm not enough for Sam M. Maybe I'm not enough for Devin.
Probably not.
Mm, 'cause I think it breaks the...
little wall that I put up.
It breaks the little mask that I put up that I'm so confident.
And that's what they love,
you know, is a confident woman.
And I think it breaks the facade
of what an amazing person I am.
And if I tell them, then they see how worthless I am.
I guess today, I just don't feel good enough.
I don't feel... worthy enough.
And as much as I can say
that I can see a future at the end of this,
I also see a future where I end up alone
because nobody chooses me.
MAN: Can someone fill me in on this Austin situation, please?
I mean, you know, I room with the dude.
He's, uh, expressed his doubts.
You know, I think the fact that he hasn't really
had the chance to explore that connection, I know.
He's kind of been having those doubts.
MAN: How do you think Jenn's feeling?
JENN: Austin going home leaves me feeling like I failed
and that maybe I'm not the right woman for these men.
I'm scared and I'm nervous to tell the guys.
I definitely think a lot of my relationships
in the past haven't worked out
because I haven't been able to really let my guard down
and show the guy, like, how I'm feeling.
But I just don't like being vulnerable.
I don't like showing a part of myself
that is weak and insecure.
[ exhales sharply ]
Today has been a crazy day for me,
and I want to just really be honest about how I'm feeling.
I just think it's important for you all to know this,
because I had a chat with Austin,
and he just didn't feel like it was right
for him to stay, so he left tonight.
Yeah.
I just-- I'm going to be honest.
It was like-- It brought up a lot of feelings today
of just not being good enough.
And you tell me all the time, like,
how amazing I'm doing and all this stuff,
and I just don't feel it sometimes.
And I don't-- I don't know.
I think it just brought up a lot of feelings today
of me not feeling good enough.
And I can sit here and-- and tell you how much
I can see a future in this room, and I believe in that.
But I also see a future in which I end up alone.
As someone also that
I have a really hard time being vulnerable,
when you open up, and you don't just show the happy,
positive, whatever, it's brave to be able to do that.
Like, I couldn't do what you've done, so...
Thank you. Thank you.
Yeah. You've preached for the last couple weeks
about you seeing your husband in this group.
And I'm going to speak for me.
I'm going to speak for everybody else here, as well.
We see our wife, as well.
I care about Jenn a lot.
I don't just want pieces of her. You know, I want all of her.
I want the good. I want the bad. I want the ugly.
Jenn, you want to go chat?
I wanted to be able to express to her,
it's alright to not be your best self.
It's alright to be a little vulnerable.
You don't think it makes you look at me differently?
What would I look at you differently for?
I don't know. I always have this strong, confident,
daredevil side to me, and I think letting it down
makes people see a different side of me that I don't love.
I could ask you the exact same question.
If I let my guard down,
would you still be able to love me?
So my answer is the same.
I think she heard all of it, and it's a hell of a good feeling
to watch her respond the way that she did.
MARCUS: As long as I'm here,
if I can be a bit of a mirror for you
and show you how incredible you are,
because the person that we see is just,
I think, way more incredible than what you get to see.
- When I think of someone I can rely on, it's always you. - Yeah?
And I always look forward to every conversation
that we have and every moment we have together.
And I just want you to know that.
When she says that I can make her feel better
or she, like, wants me around when she's down,
like, I know that's true
because I can-- I can feel that.
I know it's tough to watch someone
that you, like, care about
kind of going through a hard time,
but the fact that I get to be a part of the reason
why some of those negative emotions
turn back into positive emotions is, like...
That's an awesome feeling.
I don't know what you've been through in your life
to make you feel like you aren't worthy of being chosen,
but I think you are worthy and more.
And if it's not me that shows you,
someone here will show you that.
Thank you for being here for me.
I couldn't be anywhere else.
I've been waiting to tell her these words.
She is deserving of everything that she talks about.
Thankfully, you know, I got a smile out of her.
And to watch the light go back into somebody's eyes
just after being, you know, kind of dark, felt great.
JENN: The night didn't go the way I expected it to go,
but in a way it kind of went better
than any night could have gone.
[ sighs ]
Today, in probably one of my hardest moments,
each and every one of you guys have showed up
and accepted me for who I am,
and that's not something I've ever had before.
So because of that,
I don't think it's fair to give out a rose tonight.
That being said, thank you so much
for an amazing, amazing day and turning it around for me.
Um, yeah. I hope you guys have a good night.
♪
Opening up about how I feel and showing the guys
a part of me that I don't like to show,
and to have them accept that with open arms,
I feel like a burden has been taken off of me.
Thank you. Alright. Bye, guys.
MAN: Have a good night.
♪
JENN: Waking up this morning, I am feeling so much better.
Austin leaving affected me more than I thought that it would.
But to be able to just kind of lay all the cards
out on the table last night with the guys
and for them to accept me for who I really am,
you know, it's just a liberating feeling.
I just feel this is gonna
propel me forward in this journey.
So I am very excited about my date today with Grant.
- [ laughs ] - Run! [ laughs ]
How are you? Oh! [ laughs ]
- You're so good-looking. - [ laughing ]
I'm very attracted to Grant. Grant is very hot. Yes.
I'm just excited to finally get outside of the city,
and so I have a surprise for you.
- Alright, let's do it. - Okay. Let's go.
I have so much more to learn about Grant.
And today I really want to just be able to know,
like, what makes him him
and to see if he is someone who can really see me for me.
This is beautiful.
- [ chuckles ] - Uh-oh, we got some horses.
- This is our surprise! - Oh, my gosh.
We-- look, ooh! We got the horses. Wow.
I'm super excited. Like, Jenn, she's so beautiful.
And I'm just happy to see her and get the day started.
JENN: Hi. You're cute. GRANT: Hey.
It is a little nerve-racking, All this pressure on one date.
But one-on-one at this point is make or break for me.
How are you feeling? - Good.
You know, yesterday, like, they were saying
that, you know, you weren't feeling the best.
Oh, they're spilling my secrets, huh?
- They weren't spilling them. - I'm just kidding. I'm just saying.
Yeah, no, thank you for asking. No, I feel really, really good.
I think yesterday was just like a moment of me needing to, um,
just, like, get something off my chest
that I've been feeling for a while,
and it was good to have it received so well.
But thank you for checking in.
- Of course. - I appreciate that.
I found out last night
that Jenn didn't have the best day yesterday.
So I'm gonna go into today and just make her feel special,
you know, and that's giving her a piece of my heart
and letting her know that I'm intentional
with what I'm saying and how I feel,
and letting her know that I'm here, I'm all the way in.
[ horse neighs ]
Before the date... JENN: Uh-huh.
GRANT: ...I was a little nervous a little bit. JENN: Why were you nervous?
GRANT: You know, 'cause, I don't know, anticipation.
But then you get-- you get here and everything is smooth, you know?
JENN: Yeah. [ horse neighs ]
Okay. Good boy.
GRANT: Wow, you look good on that horse, girl.
[ laughter ]
JENN: I think I'm a horse girl now.
GRANT: [ laughs ] Would you own a horse?
JENN: I would love to. I want to own a farm.
GRANT: Oh, yeah? JENN: Yeah.
I love animals.
We're riding through the trail, and Jenn is looking fire.
She-- Jenn is beautiful every time I see her.
[ horse neighs ] - There you go.
GRANT: She knows how to carry herself in any situation.
You know, she's cool. Smooth.
Whoo! Look at that. Wow.
JENN: This is one of those dates where I just can't believe
that this is real life.
How beautiful is this? GRANT: It's so beautiful.
JENN: I'm in a movie right now.
This is the perfect place to fall in love.
But the reality is, there is a lot of pressure on this date
because last night made me realize
how strong some of my relationships are,
and I'm hoping that Grant and I can get there too.
I really feel like I connected with my horse by the end of the day.
- Right, right. - I don't know, it's just nice to really, like,
clear your mind in nature and, like,
those are the things that I love to do.
If you look over, look, they're staring at us.
Look. [ laughs ] They're staring at us.
- The horses, they miss us. - They miss us, right?
- Damn. - Oof.
Cheers to this crazy weather in New Zealand.
- Getting cold? - No.
Just a little wet.
- [ laughs ] From the... - From the rain.
I've been waiting for this moment
to just get close to Jenn, to talk to her,
and it starts raining on this perfect day.
Here. Come here.
- Aah! - [ laughs ]
It makes the date even better, in my opinion.
Aah!
It's not always gonna be perfect.
Sometimes it's gonna rain, sometimes it's gonna be sunny.
But you got to make it through.
That's something that you have to do in a relationship.
[ thunder rumbles ]
After last night, you feel better?
Yeah, yeah, no.
I think it was a really nice moment for me
to be able to really, like, let my guard down
and-- and let the guys know how I was really feeling
and let you know that last night,
like, yeah, I'm not perfect.
I have bad days and--
You don't have to be perfect with me, like...
Thank you.
I'm not perfect, you're not perfect.
But that's when-- that's when you know that it's love
is when you can accept somebody for their imperfections.
- Yeah. - So it's, like, you don't have to be perfect at all.
You know what I'm saying? I'mma rock with you.
- Thank you, thank you. - You know? So...
My feelings for Jenn are definitely deeper
than they were, like, a lot deeper.
♪
Since the beginning, every time I see her,
my feelings are growing, and I think that
there's another level that could be unlocked.
Hopefully she feels the same.
I'm just gonna continue putting everything out there.
No way. JENN: [ laughing ]
No.
And you know, hopefully,
she sees that my sincerity
and the way I feel is real.
So we gonna see, you know?
Hopefully, it continues into tonight.
♪
GRANT: So how was the day?
JENN: I thought it was lovely. How was your day?
GRANT: I thought it was lovely too. JENN: Good.
GRANT: It was a great day. Jenn is amazing.
And it's literally everything I expected it to be.
JENN: Thank you.
GRANT: But Jenn knows basically the surface-level stuff.
But, like, she doesn't know what makes me me.
She doesn't know my relationship with my family.
I need to know if I can be able to open up to her
and we can be able to trust each other
and she's able to understand me, and I'm able to understand her.
It was perfectly imperfect today.
It was-- It was a great day.
I agree. Perfectly imperfect.
Like all relationships,
you know, like nothing's ever gonna be 100%.
Okay. So a little bit about imperfections.
I want to get to know you a little better. - Yeah. Yeah.
But I wanted to get into, you know,
what kind of makes me the man I am
and what makes me-- kind of make me tick,
or what makes me want to be better.
And a lot of that has to do with my father.
You know, my father has been an addict
for like 30 years.
Addiction is-- is a hard thing because, you know, growing up,
my pops was everything, like, he was my superhero,
you know, he used to take me to the park,
and he always used to be
inebriated or, like, intoxicated,
under, you know, the substance.
And the worst thing is, I didn't know.
When you're a child, you believe everything, you know what I'm saying,
and the one person I trusted the most was, like,
always lying, you know?
- Mmh. - So that was something. But...
So you felt lied to a lot growing up?
Yeah. Of course.
In my eyes, I'm like, "You're a man.
Why can't you do what you have to do?"
But before I came here,
you know, he had gotten fired from his job.
And you know, sometimes addicts, they blame.
So he was blaming everybody. "Oh, my boss this, my boss that."
And I was like, "Listen, Dad, like, I don't [ bleep ] care."
This is like the proudest I've ever been on my dad.
He called me the next day, and he said,
"I'm checking into rehab."
- Mmh. - Checked into rehab.
And ever since that, we had a talk, and he was like,
"Listen, son, like, this is the first time
that you know the real me when I'm not intoxicated."
So I'm, like, really leaning into that.
So now he's like a little under two months sober. - Okay.
- So... - Amazing.
You know, I hope he-- I hope he holds strong,
and, like, it's his first time living too, you know, so...
You know, I've worked in the E.R.
and I've seen a lot of patients come in with substance abuse,
and addiction is a sickness.
And for you to be willing to stick it through
and be by your dad's side,
I can only imagine how much that means to him.
And that speaks volumes to who you are as a person,
and I can't imagine the weight that you had to bear
with all of that going on growing up.
And my heart goes out to you.
Thank you. That means a lot to me, you know?
My mission in life is to be the man that my father wasn't.
Mm-hmm. And I can feel that.
I feel a lot closer to Grant after having this conversation,
because there was a lot
of troubled times growing up for him.
I think there was a lot of frustrations growing up,
and I can relate to that so much
because I saw my parents' relationship
deteriorate in front of my eyes.
I didn't have a male role model in my life, really.
Like, my dad, he decided to take off and, um,
like, basically lose contact.
So my mom, she took on that two-parent role.
So I can understand, like, not having a father figure
and wanting to have that father figure in a way.
Do you feel like that negatively affected you,
or do you feel like it made you stronger?
For a while, I was kind of going through life
not knowing what to make of not having a father figure,
and there were certain things in my life
that had happened or certain ways that I would act,
and I didn't really know the root of the problem.
And I was searching for love in all the wrong places
and dating the wrong people.
And before I knew it, I was in a relationship
that completely was just toxic and an emotionally abusive one,
and it just was not good.
Um, I felt like I was silenced and I didn't have a voice.
And sensitive topics would be brought up--
racism, Asian hate, like, sexism,
whatever it was.
He would shut me down immediately
and tell me that I was wrong and gaslight me
and tell me that racism was fake and--
and that it's all in people's heads
and that I wasn't being open enough to the world,
and-- and that just goes against
everything that I believe in.
But I was so chained up in this relationship
and I didn't know how to stand up for myself.
But that is why now, like, it is so important for me
to be in a relationship where I feel like I do have a voice
and I feel like I can stand up for myself,
and I can tell my partner when something is bothering me.
That's powerful.
And I feel like we have a lot in common.
And I appreciate the fact that you speak up. - Thank you.
I encourage you to always speak your mind,
you know, because-- - Thank you.
Especially for what you're willing to fight for,
racism or equality, things like that.
Like, you need somebody that's on your same wavelength
and that could encourage you and pour into you.
- Thank you. - I see that, so I'm in your corner, you know?
Thank you.
For Grant and I to be having such an emotional conversation
and to be talking about really heavy topics
and for Grant to understand where I'm coming from,
it feels like a true partnership here.
And I just really feel like he accepts me for who I am so far,
and it feels really good to have someone do that.
Getting colder out here. - The warmth.
- Mnnnh! - [ laughs ]
I feel closer to Grant. I feel aligned with Grant.
I feel like Grant has a lot of the things that I'm looking for.
♪
I want to thank you
for seriously just the most amazing day today.
A lot of the things that you opened up about tonight,
I resonate with so much, more than you know.
And for us to both be able to sit here and talk about our past
and to turn that into a promising future
that we both want is really rare and special to me.
And that being said, Grant, will you accept this rose?
Of course.
Put it right here.
[ laughs ] - Perfect.
♪
I feel great.
If I was on top of the world earlier,
I'm on top of the moon now, so...
Feel like a million bucks.
I enjoy every time we kiss, so...
[ laughs ] - Me too.
You might see me with a smile on my face for next week.
Just walking around, like, just happy.
JENN: [ laughs ]
GRANT: I knew something was there.
Now I know for sure that it's deeper
than just attraction to each other.
I see somebody that I could have a life with.
I see myself starting to fall,
and I feel like it's supposed to happen this way.
I don't know how it could get any better.
♪
SPENCER: There's eight guys right now,
and six of them don't have a rose
going into the cocktail party tonight.
This whole process is coming to a head quickly.
So now more than ever, every conversation counts.
I mean, there's strong connections everywhere,
and it's kind of scary.
MARCUS: Jenn does have to make a big decision tonight.
So I think everyone's feeling the pressure.
Two of the guys in the house have roses already.
Jonathan and Grant.
But I think anyone who saw Jenn this week
and didn't say everything that they needed to say
is realizing that tonight
you either have to to lean in or go home.
GRANT: It's crazy 'cause, like,
you never think that you develop feelings
for somebody after five weeks of knowing them.
Me personally, I-- I am like--
this is the first time I'm saying this, like,
and this is in front of you guys.
Like, I think that I'm-- I genuinely think
that I'm falling in love with Jenn.
♪
I don't say that lightly, you know?
So I-- it's weird.
It's like you kind of know
when you're-- you know, you're tripping
and then you start falling, you know what I'm saying?
And then you try to say like, "Man, like, nah,
like, let me chill."
But, like, you're already there.
After our date yesterday, I knew I was developing feelings
and it just hit me like, "Damn.
Like, is this happening?"
Like, what makes somebody fall in love, you know?
And now I know.
So, at least for me.
It's different for everybody, so...
That's something that I'm feeling.
And, like, I can't take that back. MAN: Yeah.
So I'm saying it in front of everybody.
DYLAN: Oh, man. Grant's falling in love with Jenn.
And it all comes back down to time.
The guys who have gone one-on-one
have had more opportunity
to deepen their connection, versus me,
where I still feel like I'm missing that deeper connection.
You know, I had my little mini one-on-one at the beginning,
but it's been a minute.
So time is of the essence, especially now for me.
It's tough hearing that. Right?
Because everybody is feeling certain ways about Jenn.
JEREMY: You can't help but be a little bit nervous
before you have a rose on your chest.
And Grant made the mood even more tense and emotional.
I mean, I haven't had a one-on-one yet,
but the thing about every cocktail party
is the time we get to speak with Jenn.
So what I can do is make the most of the time
I do have with her.
Hi, guys. MEN: Hello.
JENN: You all look great. Nice to see you all.
This week has been a really intense week for me
in a lot of different ways.
And I do want to thank you guys for being there for me
and showing up for me.
The other night, when you guys accepted me
at my most vulnerable
and my most emotional with open arms,
it meant so much to me.
It's really opened my eyes
to what a true relationship means to me,
and it's transformed the way I've looked at this journey.
I know that I'm exactly where I need to be.
I know exactly what I'm looking for.
And so because of that,
I don't feel it's fair to have a cocktail party tonight.
So I will see you guys at the rose ceremony.
♪
I need a drink.
All dressed up and nowhere to go.
Yeah, I was confident, but damn, am I nervous now.
[ laughs ]
DYLAN: Yeah, I mean, I felt like I didn't really
get enough about what I was trying to
get out with her with my last conversation,
and I was planning on finishing that conversation tonight.
Time tonight was very crucial.
I was hoping to feel like any inkling
of a deeper emotional connection with her.
And so to not get the opportunity
to see that through is-- is devastating.
I don't know, you almost take these cocktail parties
as like a guarantee.
So that really sucks.
If I'm being honest.
I not only needed the time for Jenn and I's connection,
I needed that time for myself to prove to myself
that I could be open with someone
and be okay with being vulnerable.
Now I'm worried about going home.
GRANT: [ sniffles ]
[ exhales sharply ]
It was just scary, bro.
What? Getting feelings?
Yeah, like...
It's just weird, bro. Like, I don't know.
Tonight made me realize that,
you know, I am falling in love with her, and it's scary.
It's never happened like this before.
I don't know how she feels, and it's like...
You try to be, like, strong in a situation, but...
Weird. It's just weird, bro.
I said it in front of everybody out there,
and I can't-- There's no going back after that.
And I know that.
Don't tell anybody I was crying.
Just keep it between me and you. - [ laughs ] I won't, I won't.
I'mma try to wipe my tears, go in there,
and just act like none of this happened.
I put myself out there.
And even though I'm coming into tonight with a rose,
I'm just trying to hold myself together.
And I'm excited, but I'm nervous at the same time.
JEREMY: I was not expecting Jenn to cancel the cocktail party.
Anyone who says they don't have some nerves
going through their head
or some worry in the back of their mind,
I think would be lying.
No matter how great of a connection you think you have,
there are six other guys hoping for a rose.
♪
DYLAN: I'm worried.
I really needed this time with her tonight
to see if I could just further our connection.
But I hope that Jenn can see that there is potential for me
to walk out of here with her.
So I guess we'll leave it up to Jenn at this point.
♪
SAM M.: At the end of the day, this is the nature of the beast.
I don't think there's any more pity roses to give out.
There's no more wiggle room. I mean, it's here.
It's either you got it or you don't.
♪
[ sighs ]
I want you guys to know that I value
each and every second that we spend together.
These roses next to me mean more than they ever have.
They symbolize that I trust our relationship
and I trust that we have this potential for a beautiful love.
♪
Sam.
♪
Sam, will you accept this rose?
Of course.
♪
Devin.
♪
Devin, will you accept this rose?
Without a doubt.
♪
Marcus.
♪
Marcus, will you accept this rose?
Of course.
♪
Jeremy.
♪
Jeremy, will you accept this rose?
Of course.
♪
Gentlemen.
Jenn.
It's the final rose tonight.
When you're ready. - Thank you.
♪
Spencer.
Spencer, will you accept this, rose?
Absolutely.
[ sighs ]
You look gorgeous. - Thank you.
♪
JESSE: Dylan, I'm really sorry.
Please take a moment and say your goodbyes.
You okay? - Yeah. Thank you.
Love you, man.
It's all good.
JENN: Come here.
Thank you so much for everything
and for opening your heart.
And I know that you will find your person.
I wish you good luck, and I'm rooting for you.
- Thank you so much. - Okay.
Thank you.
Love you, bros.
♪
This sucks.
You know, you meet someone who
you feel like this person is-- is right for me.
This person's it. [ sniffles ]
And then, you know,
for them not to feel that-- feel that way is, uh...
...disappointing.
JENN: Thank you. Thank you.
DYLAN: It hurts.
I'm sure it will hurt for a little bit.
♪
[ sniffles ]
JENN: Oh, I'm flattered.
DYLAN: I think there was more to me and Jenn,
but I'm... just not her person.
♪
GRANT: To an unconditional love.
To a love that never dies. Cheers.
JENN: Cheers. MEN: Cheers!
JESSE: Still to come This season...
MAN: Three cheers for Jenn!
[ cheering ]
JENN: I feel so lucky right now.
It just feels like everything's falling into place.
I'm very confident that one of these men could be my fiancé.
It feels like engagement air out here.
I am more ready for an engagement
than I am for anything in my whole life.
JENN: Whoo!
I've been doing nothing but falling in love with you
from the first time we had a conversation.
I know I haven't told you this,
but, like, I am falling for you.
I could see myself being with you for the rest of my life.
I love you. I love you, Jenn.
JENN: I'm so excited about each and every one of these men.
But I've never introduced someone to my family before.
I know your history with people
who are emotionally unavailable.
Like, you've put in so much, but he's given so little.
I told her I loved her, but right now I'm confused.
As my positive, like, loving feelings grow,
so do, like, my fears and my worries.
You deserve all the love in the world.
But I'm not there yet. I'm struggling right now.
JENN: [ crying ] I'm sick and tired of investing
so much time and energy
to someone who doesn't feel the same way.
I feel like my cup isn't being filled.
I want it to work, but I don't know what I'm supposed to do.
You want to get there with me, but when?
Tomorrow? Next year?
Never?
At some point, I'm just tired of it.
I don't want to feel this way.
♪
Are you okay with whatever's gonna happen here?
I'm done letting men dictate my relationships.
Are you sure you want to do this?
JENN: What I'm about to do today
is something that I never thought that I would ever do.
But I have to do what's right for me.
I can't let you propose to me.
♪