Psychologist believe that every aspect of our lives
all our thought processes and behavior patterns
are the direct result of our relationship to our parents.
You're looking all thoughtful?
I was just thinking how pretty you are.
And also how pretty our children would be.
Children?
Like, multiple?
Child.
Let's just start with one, see how that goes.
You wanna start?
I'm just saying you're pretty.
That's all I'm saying.
That every relationship that we have
is really just another version of that first relationship.
Have you talked to Dr Wyatt?
When was the last time...
It's just us trying over and over again
to get it right.
- Alex? - In here.
Izzie's not here and Cristina isn't answering her phone
and I have a thing, so I need you to be a girl for me.
What'd he do? You want me to kick his ass?
- He wants me to have a baby. - So you do want me to kick his ass.
Do you want to have a baby?
A baby doesn't want me. I have the worst mother in the world.
I would be the worst mother in the world.
Izzie wants a divorce. She sent the papers.
- The official papers - Want me to kick her ass?
- He's being a girl for me. - Dude, it's true.
Right.
There's a guy downstairs says he's your brother
You want me to send him here
since this seems to be where you receive your visitors?
- Tell him to wait. - Right.
You have a brother?
Do you want me to go get rid of him?
What's he doing here?
Alex is the oldest, then me, them Amber
Amber's graduating from St Savior's in may, she's...
She's smart, like Alex. She could go to college if she wanted to, but she's like
what's the point, you know? I don't know what to tell her.
Alex's the doctor in the family. I just move people for a living.
- What are you doing here? - Man, you got old.
- What are you doing here? - I had to drive to Portland on a job
- since I was in the neighborhood - Portland's not on the neighborhood.
It's three hours. Three hours in my sleep.
He's your brother. He's allowed to come say hi.
You're gonna be late for pre-rounds.
It was very nice to meet you. I'm Lexie by the way.
I'm overdue for a visit. It's been seven years.
- No it has not. - Since you've been home.
- Seven years. - You haven't been home in seven years?
I have this.
- I'm Derek, nice meeting you. - Aaron.
Take care. I'll see you.
Meredith by the way.
Nice to meet you.
Has it been seven years?
Amber was 10 the last time we saw you.
What's going on, what do you want?
I do miss you, okay and I did want to say hi, but...
since you're a doctor...
I thought I'd ask.
Should I be worried about this?
Season 06 Episode 19 Sympathy for The Parents
- Thank you. - Cappuccino
So, how'd the date go with Teddy?
I don't know if I'd call it a date.
Doesn't going on a date imply actually going somewhere?
Shut up! You had sex?
Pound cake.
I love pound cake.
Rich buttery pound cake.
Yum pound cake.
- Pound cake? - I'm good thanks.
Good.
So what exactly constitutes a pound cake?
It's a yellow cake.
Kind of heavy.
Come on. A code for something dirty, right?
Like you eat her pound cake, she eats your pound cake.
Please!
Tell me it's dirty, cause otherwise that was the most boring conversation
I've ever been a part of.
We are talking about pound cake cause I want a kid and she doesn't.
And we're not talking about that.
How long are you two not gonna have that conversation?
A year, two years, five?
- You and Teddy ate pound cake together? - You are changing the subject.
You like how I do that.
So... how was it?
Mind blowing!
I pounded her cake, she pounded mine
Excellent pound caking!
- Pound caking is not a thing. - Whatever.
I blew her mind!
- Life changing? - Life changing earth-shattering.
The point is he's a legend for a reason, he has skill that I never knew existed.
It was like there was a party going on.
A party in your panties.
- Morning. - Good morning.
See you.
He's always so grumpy.
He's going through something and Cristina doesn't get it.
She can't which isn't her fault but I do get it and
I can't be there for him and that's...
that's really heard.
But, you're seeing mark.
But, I'm seeing Mark.
So then a couple days ago, we're at the grocery store Gary and I...
the next thing I know, I'm flat on my back in the frozen foods section.
- She fainted. - I've never fainted.
I've never see anybody faint. I don't believe in fainting.
- Did you hit your head? - Would've if this one hadn't caught me.
Mrs Clark has anemic and guaiac positive, so
there's definitely internal bleeding, which means it's coming from a...
friable tumor near the ampulla of vater.
Thank you for that Dr Kepner.
She told us the biopsy showed the cancer was back.
But she said you might be able to take it out.
There's a chance I won't be able to go in as deeply as I'll need to,
but I promise to do everything I can.
- Anything you could do... - We appreciate it Dr Webber.
Thank you.
- I honestly don't think I need surgery - You do.
- It doesn't even hurt that bad. - You've an ombilical hernia.
You need surgery, so shut up and fill out the paperwork.
Surgery's gonna make it hurt worse. Remember when dad had his gallbladder
- Stop talking and write. - Write what?
I don't have insurance. What am I supposed to write?
- Ask Bailey to do it pro bono. - I can't ask her to do that.
- He's your brother. - Evilspawn has a brother?
Nice to meet you Dr Yang. I'm Aaron Karev.
My god! You're so nice. He's so nice!
Why can you be nice like your brother?
- Angelspawn - Why can't you?
Fair enough.
- What's up, you called? - Ten times.
Owen's still in his dark place, and he's so not talking.
So I turn off my cell in case he would say something which he didn't.
Men are stupid.
Derek ask me to have a baby with me this morning.
Really stupid.
Great! The pit... with Owen... and his dark place.
What do we got?
A cop with multiple GSW's.
- How many cop did you say? - Just one.
Officer Gina Thomson, 34. GSW's to the hip and chest
Vitals 100 over 70 pulse 118, respiration 28
- It's quite a police escort there. - I told those guy I was gonna be fine.
- I wonder why they didn't believe you. - I've been in worse shape.
- Seriously? - You should see the others guys.
You took down three guys by yourself?
Girl's gotta do what a girl's gotta do. Am I right ladies?
- How many bullet wounds? - Four, but I'm wondering...
No exit wound for the right leg.
- I have to get in there and debride. - Trajectory seems...
Three chest wounds can't be transthoracic...
Baby, look at you.
I'm okay Baby, they're taking really good care of me.
It's my husband Jimmy. This is Lieutenant Moore
- What'd you find out at the scene? - You were told to wait for backup.
I was first, heard a shot, went in.
You disobeyed a direct order, endangered your own life
- and everybody in the building. - I took down three men by myself
- And you got yourself suspended for it. - What?
It's going to the review board,
you'll be lucky to have a job by the end of the day
I gotta get out
- She's bleeding into her chest. - Throw in the chest tube now!
I gotta go. Please!
Just lie back. Take a deep breath. All you have to do is breathe.
Did you consider doing a Whipple on Mrs Clark?
I did.
but since the cancer came back, I think I can do a local resection
and get the entire visible tumor.
- Dr Kepner, are we boring you? - No, Sir.
I wasn't expecting Chief Shepherd
to be up in the gallery during a general surgery
But I guess it's the chief job... Evaluating, observing...
You're in my OR. The only one observing
and evaluating you right now, is me
I'm sorry Sir.
- Go get it guys. - With the orange or the red
How's that? Orange and red.
- Dr Bailey, You got a second? - I do, I have a second
which is why I'm spending it with my child.
Say bye-bye Dr Karev.
Bye-bye.
My little brother is here, with what looks like a umbilical hernia.
I didn't know Dr Karev had a little brother.
Did you know Dr Karev had a little brother?
He has no money, he doesn't have insurance, so...
Mommy sees where this is going.
He'd have to have you perform the surgery pro bono.
Did you hear that funny word?
pro bono
Mommy's got a mountain of surgeries to schedule.
Does she have time to do free surgeries?
I'll scheduled your surgeries
for the next... week, if you want.
You think mommy should fix up Dr Karev's brother and make him feel better?
Two weeks, a month?
All right!
I will meet Dr Karev's brother in a half an hour
Say bye-bye Dr Karev. Bye-bye.
I would have done it anyway, but he just kept talking.
You're so good.
- How is she? - She did great in there
She was a total trouper but the surgery went great.
We got the tumor, all of it, with good margins.
Thank you, thank you so much.
My wife keeps telling me...
I need to be more manly about all this.
She's the one with the cancer, and afraid I'm the one who won't make it.
You're doing just fine. You both are. Would you like to see her?
- Can I? - She should be waking up any minute.
How is it your brother is a surgeon
and you waited months to take care of this?
I don't know. Karevs are tough.
I guess five years in foster care will do that to you.
Foster care?
You're all foster children?
Me and Amber were in and out, but
Alex, he had like,
Seventeen different foster homes in five years.
- So, Alex was a foster child. - Yeah, cause my mom was, you know?
It was before they have all the meds that they have today, she was...
Guess she was doing her best, but my daddy...
wasn't a good guy. He was...
Whatever so...
He got shipped around a lot, and
He was a pretty rough kid if you didn't know him,
so people didn't like to keep him.
- He ended up in juvie. - Juvenile detention?
Yeah cause...
My mom... Sometimes, she forget to...
buy food, so... He was good though. People wouldn't have even known
he was stealing if it hadn't been on tape.
How old was he?
11, maybe 12.
What do we do at 28-07?
Dude, you talking crap in here?
- No. - Dude, I work here.
So go to work. Check the chest tube in 28-07.
- Go. - Shut it, Aaron.
- So what happened after juvie? - I don't think that Alex...
Mind your business. Aaron, after juvie?
You couldn't expect me to just sit there with a 10-71 in progress.
I had good, solid information the perps were threatening a 2-1-7.
- We need to take you to surgery. - Did you get that? It was a 10-71.
He got that. But you gotta go with them.
Wait! This is important. They're gonna need a statement.
That's what's important, trying to save your job?
Listen, every year, you promise me that once you make detective,
we're gonna... buy a house,
have a kid and settle down.
It's been seven years.
Every time you get close to a promotion, you go do something stupid.
Now these people are trying to save your life,
and you want 'em to wait.
I'm not gonna stand here and watch you die.
I want a life with you, I want a long...
Happy, boring life.
Tell me everything you did.
I was trying to wean her off the ventilator,
butshe wasn't breathing on her own.
So I put her back on her previous vent settings.
- What's happening to her? - She may have stroked out.
Get a CT and get the scans to Shepherd and also run an EEG.
We need to find out right away if there's any brain activity.
If there's not, then we need...
She looks great.
Thank God.
Dr. Grey told me you got the tumor.
Thank you so much, dr. Webber.
Can I wake her?
Sweetheart?
You still sleeping?
Alison?
The doctors said you did great in there.
Honey?
You awake?
The patient's had a massive hemorrhage. You see here?
The left temporal lobe?
The hemorrhage, it's looks like it...
That bleed is huge.
- What? - You look even prettier in your scrubs.
What are you gonna do about your giant stroke?
- Nothing. - Nothing?
Mrs. Clark has a left temporal lobe hemorrhage
that's extended into the ventricular system. There's nothing we can do.
- Want to get a cup of coffee? - Only if you tell me how pretty I am?
I've got three bowel injuries here.
- Anything? - I found what did the damage.
- You see the bullet? - Lodged near the liver.
I'm looking at a devastator.
- What? What does that mean? - It means be careful.
They're sharp like shrapnel and they explode on impact.
Can you imagine going to work knowing you're gonna end up
- on the wrong side of a gun? - I know. She is awesome.
Now her husband wants her to give it all up? He's like,
let's popping out babies or I'm leaving.
Why one or the other?
Cause you don't have kids if you're facing mortar fire every day.
- It screws with your head. - Is that why you don't have 'em, Iraq?
First it was residency, and then it was Iraq,
and now it's, I don't know, waiting for the right guy?
- You want to have kids? - Wait. You don't?
Have you met me? No.
We're done here.
- I think I feel it. - Feel what?
The bullet. It's right next to the heart.
There's still some bleeding. Don't worry. I got it.
Don't touch it!
- Damn it, Cristina. - What just happened?
You essentially fired a bullet into that patient's chest is what you did.
That's my intestine?
That part right there is supposed to be on the inside of the membrane,
- not the outside. - Dude, that is sick.
Can I get a copy of one of these? I want to hang it from my fridge.
Are we doing consults at the desk nowadays?
- Cause I need to use the computer. - This is Alex's brother.
- Aaron, this is Arizona Robbins. - Nice to meet you.
- Why I didn't meet you at the wedding? - Actually...
That's right. No one's family came. Last-minute switcheroo, all that.
- What wedding? - No one's.
Alex got married?
I'm just gonna go use the computer over there.
Bye.
He got married and he didn't even call us?
It sounds weird, but it was totally a spur-of-the-moment thing,
- cause of the cancer. - Alex has cancer?
No, Izzie has cancer.
- Who's Izzie? - Alex's wife.
But... she's not really his wife anymore.
- I really, I wouldn't worry about it. - They got divorced?
No, but they a... She left. And then, she came back.
But he didn't really think it was the right thing...
Stop talking.
- You all right? - There's shrapnel everywhere.
I was going for the bleeder. I didn't touch the bullet. I swear.
I don't know what happened.
When your commanding officer tells you to stand down, you stand down.
I'm not in the army. And you're not my commanding officer.
Dr. Altman and I are your attending. And you are our subordinate.
You do exactly as we say even if you do not agree.
Do you know why? Because we know more than you do.
We know that devastator bullets have chemicals in them,
and sometimes they do not detonate on impact.
Sometimes the heat from that bovie
is enough to make them explode. Do you understand?
Dr. Yang, do you understand?
For whatever it's worth, I would've done the same thing Yang did. Anybody would.
If it's a bleeder, the damage is already done.
There's no point in arguing about it. Let's just fix it.
I need your hands right now, right here.
Okay, you see this? Hold it.
Dude, how could you not have told me you got married?
- You told him? - No!
It wasn't me. Some of it was, but...
It was Arizona Robbins, and it was an accident.
She figured your brother would already know that you're married
This is why I didn't want to tell you. I knew you'd make a big deal.
It's a big deal. You get married, you walk out on your wife...
I didn't walk out on my wife. She walked out on me. She walked out.
You have any idea what mom's gonna do when she finds out?
- She's gonna go off her meds. - No
cause you're not gonna tell her.
You're gonna get your surgery, back in your truck,
and you're gonna get the hell outta here.
Fine. You know what? I don't need your free surgery.
- I'll see ya. - Stop.
- You're not going anywhere. - I don't need your crap!
You walk out on us, you walk out on your wife?
- Like father, like son. - Take that back.
Take it back!
No, this is not happening...
- What the hell is your problem?! - You are!
You hitting people now, too? You really did turn into dad.
Walk away. Alex, walk away. Just walk away.
Give him some space, okay? Don't follow him.
- I need a gurney. Run. - Right away.
She could wake up, right?
People wake up from comas all the time.
I'm sorry.
Your wife's coma is irreversible.
Dr. Grey, would you explain it, please?
Mrs. Clark's scans showed a massive hemorrhage in her brain.
And the E.E.G. showed minimal brain activity.
But that means there's hope, right?
Because... At least there's activity.
And her heart is still beating.
Only because the mechanical ventilator is breathing for her.
When we turn the machine off,
the heart won't get the oxygen it needs, and it will stop.
Why would you turn it off? People can live for years on these machines.
The advanced directive your wife signed
specifically requested no mechanical ventilation.
She filled that form out 3 years ago when the cancer was first diagnosed.
The doctor told her she had six months to live.
And she held on for another three years.
She'll come back from this, too. You'll see.
You can't unplug her.
Legally, we don't have a choice, sir.
But... she's my wife.
- It's my choice. - It's your wife's choice...
And she made it three years ago.
You said the surgery went fine.
- That's what you said. - It did. But...
You're not a doctor. You're a child!
And you're useless! I'm done talking with you.
I'm done talking with all of you.
Who's in charge here?
He protected me my whole life.
Kicked my dad's ass so hard, the son of a bitch never came back.
I always thought he did that for me, but maybe he just likes throwing punches.
I like you. I do, but you can't talk about my friend that way. Okay?
I need you to count backwards from ten for me, okay?
Okay.
Ten.
Nine.
Eight.
That's it.
A junkie dad, a crackpot mom,
and somehow Karev still became a doctor.
I'm not easily impressed, but I'm impressed.
- Prep him. We'll go scrub. - Yes, doctor.
We're meeting Gary Clark in Shepherd's office.
Five minutes.
I told a patient's husband that... she was fine,
that her surgery went perfectly.
The next thing we know, she has a stroke,
and we are supposed to just unplug her.
And I know that I am supposed to toughen up.
I know that I am supposed to not care, but
How do you not care?
It's the hardest part of the job...
The very hardest part.
How did you do it?
How did you learn?
I'm still learning.
Why is her BP still low? She still bleeding?
I got it under control.
We've had LR, blood hanging since we got here,
we can't seem to catch up. Her liver bleeding?
She's right. There's bleeding in the retroperitoneum.
- We need a retractor. - That's a lot of blood.
Get in there suction. Where it's coming from?
- I can't see past the clots. - Suction's clogging now.
- Let's use our hands, scoop. - Did you check the uterine artery?
- That could be the source. - Down to 64 over 32.
We stop this thing or we're lose her.
If we hadn't been distracted by artillery in the OR,
- we might have found this earlier. - Not now.
That was our fault in there. We were speaking in shorthand.
We forget sometimes that you guys are civilians
and that you don't know about ballistics.
No, it's not just that. It was...
It's not the first time.
He's been...
It's been...
He has been through so much.
It's not like he talks about it.
He can't.
I can't talk about it either most days.
Owen had it worse than me.
He has it worse.
He's triggered. Right now, he's triggered,
and his triggers might never go away. They'll get better over time,
if you give him time, which you should, because
he is in love with you.
- He just needs time. - He needs therapy.
- I keep telling him to go to Gr. Wyatt - Don't do that.
He won't go if you tell him to.
He's very...
He's a guy that way, a man.
Don't ever tell him what to do.
Tell him how you feel.
When's the best time to have kids?
The best time to have kids...
Is never.
You asked.
Yeah, but...
they cry all the time, nonstop.
They never sleep. They're terrible conversationalists.
And they take everything you've got...
all your time, all your focus, all your patience, all your sleep...
everything... till you got nothing left for you.
But this morning...
Little Tuck woke me up by...
putting his nose up against mine...
his cold, little nose.
And he goes, " wake up. "
and he got the " k " sound in " wake. " " wake up. "
see, up until today, he'd say " d " instead of " k. "
" wade up. "
Him nailing that " k " sound...
It's the pride I felt,
the irrational, unbridled, joy...
It's at least as good as any Whipple.
If you're waiting for the perfect time to have kids,
you're never going to have kids.
Aaron's surgery went well.
His hernia defect was fairly large,
but Bailey was able to use mesh to bridge it.
So...
He'll be waking up in a few minutes if you want to stop by.
I'm deeply sorry for your...
for your loss.
No, don't speak about my wife as if she's dead.
She's still here. She could wake up.
She's not gonna wake up,
not with the brain damage she suffered.
You don't know that.
If we don't obey your wife's directive, if we ignore her wishes...
- She signed that form 3 years ago... - Her health will deteriorate.
She'll lose body mass. She'll have no immune system.
She'll require around-the-clock care,
and that can become very expensive very quickly.
I don't care about that.
It'll be no life for either of you.
And that's why your wife signed the advanced directive.
She didn't want to have to live her life this way.
And she didn't want you to live your life this way either.
Don't you speak for my wife.
Don't you dare speak for my wife.
I'm sorry,
but the ethics committee has reviewed your case.
We are bound by law
to obey her wishes.
If you unplug my wife...
You'll be killing her.
I'm sorry.
You should tell...
Take all the time you need to call your family...
To say good-bye.
There's no one to call. We didn't have any family.
It was just us.
We didn't have any kids.
It's just me.
He's my sister's husband.
Excuse me?
- Don't play stupid. - I'm not playing stupid. I'm stupid.
I'm stupid and I'm humiliated and I'm sorry.
I've never felt anything...
I've never felt like this before.
If you could please forget what you saw,
cause I promise, you will never see it again,
and we can just go back to being doctors.
Please.
This day sucks. I hate this day.
You don't have to be here. You can go.
I'm making sure you don't croak,
and then I'm outta here.
You... saved my ass every day when were kids.
You were a better parent than mom and dad put together.
And every day, I feel bad for Amber
that she has just me instead of you.
What happened to you?
I send you money every month.
I send mom her meds.
You want that to stop?
I am this close to being a real surgeon.
I can't...
I can't be in that and do this.
I can't.
Amber's a good kid.
She turned out okay. You'd like her.
You turned out okay, too.
I'm sorry your wife left you...
Or got cancer or whatever.
Thanks.
We repaired the damage to your liver and intestine,
cleaned out your fractured hip and fixed your lung.
There was a bullet, and some shrapnel near your heart.
But Dr. Altman was able to repair all the damage.
Thank you.
Thank you all so much.
Honestly, I don't even know what to say.
There was,
there were complications.
There was a lot of bleeding in the abdomen.
The uterine artery was involved.
We were able to stop the bleed, but...
in order to do that, we had to...
Remove your uterus.
What?
We had to perform a hysterectomy.
I'm sorry.
She can't... We can't have kids?
I'm so sorry.
We can never have kids?
It's okay. It's all right.
How long has he been there?
About three hours.
It's time.
See it through.
No, please.
I'm sorry.
I keep telling myself
there's a chance she'll wake up...
Once you turn off the respirator.
There is a chance...
Even if it's just less than a 1% chance...
That she'll start breathing again?
Miracles do happen.
That's what she always says.
Please.
Please, darling, wake up.
Please.
I am so sorry.
Were you checking up on me in that surgery today?
No, I wasn't checking up on you. I was observing.
You know that's the closest I get to an O.R. these days?
I'm gonna choose to believe you on that.
They were married 32 years.
There was nothing you could've done.
I'm going home to my wife. You should do the same thing.
Looking good.
You're gonna be back on the beat in no time.
That's what they call it, the beat?
Yes, they do, and, no, she won't.
Jimmy and I talked about it. I'm quitting.
- What? - Why?
Cause Jimmy's right.
It's a job, you know? And I love it.
But I love my husband, too.
And what, we're gonna adopt ten Haitian orphans or something?
Eight.
- Congratulations. - Thank you.
I want you to know, I did the best I could with the review board.
- It's okay. - And they want you back on the job.
Are you kidding me?
Welcome back, officer Thompson.
Look out now. Watch out.
Thank you so much.
- Where's Aaron? - He went back to Iowa.
You let him drive after surgery?
I'm not his dad. He's got my number.
You know you're nothing like your father?
You're nothing like your mother.
You're good.
So you'd be good. You'd be a good mom.
It's the most important job in the world.
You probably should need a license to do it.
But then most of us wouldn't even pass the written exam.
You ever wonder if moisturizer really works?
What's in the stuff?
I'm a doctor, and I haven't even heard of half of it.
" dimethicone. " no idea.
" distearyldim-dimo "...
I can't even pronounce that.
- So " disteary "... - I want to have a baby.
And I can't talk about lotion or pound cake or anything else,
because you don't want to have a baby, and I do.
We're gonna talk about it.
We are gonna talk about it.
Some people are naturals.
They were born to do it.
Some have other gifts.
- You're making dinner. - It's just pasta.
It smells good.
Are you baking bread?
You said you don't want to have kids.
What?
The sausages are burning.
- They're fine. - They're burning.
Damn it!
I'm sorry.
Are you scared of me?
I don't want to be.
I have to go back to Dr. Wyatt.
It's okay.
But the good news is...
biology dictates, you don't have to do it alone.
I don't want you to be alone.
If anything should happen to me...
I don't want it to... Just be you.
We would make pretty babies.
So you're thinking about it?
You can waste your whole life wondering...
but the only way to find out what kind of parent you'd be
is to finally stop talking about it...
but we're not making babies right now.
We're practicing.
It's very important to practice.
And just do it.
You taste good.
You have no idea how good you taste.
I'm really, really...
enjoying myself with you.
I am, but I need to...
I need to be honest about something.
No, you don't...
if you're honestly enjoying yourself.
I am.
Then right now...
That's as honest as you have to be.
Now turn over.
I want to try a little milk chocolate on your belly button.
Ignore 'em. They'll go away.
I'll get rid of 'em.
The baby's coming! Right now!
He's coming.
The baby's coming.
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