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Being in a relationship is difficult enough.
Add to it addiction, and you have a perfect recipe
for tornado to come that you're not going to be able to stop.
There's that old.
Saying misery loves company.
I can't see it being anything other than a nightmare.
The worst hell you have ever had in your entire life.
Couples in their addiction just tear each other apart.
You were done with that.
We were done with that, and you brought it back.
The dishonesty.
Fuck you.
I'm going.
I'm done.
The manipulation.
The fighting.
My god.
This is absolutely your fault.
And the codependency is deep.
The only thing harder than fighting an addiction
is fighting codependency at the same time.
They're playing that dance of death,
and they're killing each other.
The first time Tim and I used together, he
offered me one, joking around.
Tim has been in a relationship with Jessica for three years.
Give me a nice hug and a kiss.
My cardinal rule was never date a drug addict.
I've been hooked on fentanyl for about two years.
Tim's been doing this for 28 years.
All they care about is drugs.
Those are little $5 pieces of crap.
How many do you want?
Tim and Jessica are very toxic for each other.
Let's move forward.
I'm upset now, and you want people to come over.
I'm so mad at you right now.
They're in a sick Romeo and Juliet type situation.
They're asking if you're going to get help today.
Tim, you have to try.
You're not going to control this.
I'm controlling it.
The addiction will only get worse.
They both need help, or they're going to die.
Tim.
Hey, I'm coming up right now with your brekky.
Oh, good. Perfect.
Thank you.
French toast and eggs.
Did you want more coffee or--
OK.
Thank you, honey.
Bye.
I'll go first.
My name is Timothy Mark.
My name is Jessica, and Tim
and I have been together for the past three years.
I met Jess originally in fifth grade.
- Sixth grade. - Huh?
Sixth grade.
Sixth grade actually.
Perfect timing.
Sweet.
I hope it's not cold.
Perfect.
My favorite thing about Jess is that she's so caring,
and she's a lot like my mother.
I'm a mama's boy, like probably to a fault.
And Jess is very attentive to all my needs.
I don't have any Xanax left, right?
You took them back from me.
I'm pretty sure you ate them.
Do you need me to get the shower ready before I go down?
TIM: Yeah.
1 gram of fentanyl could make someone OD.
I hate those (Bleep) commercials.
I use it all just because it makes everything easier.
It could erase bad memories.
It can make a bad relationship good.
You got bags and (Bleep).
Are you good?
Yeah.
I have everything I need.
I also use fentanyl because I can't cope with his substance
abuse and my stress.
Originally, I used marijuana, alcohol for a long time.
But I've been hooked on fentanyl for about two years now.
Tim was the one who introduced her to stronger stuff he.
He got my daughter hooked on fentanyl.
Very bad move.
For the most part, my use is strictly so I can function,
so I can be OK.
I am using about three to five bags a day.
A bag, it's probably the amount of a crushed up Tylenol.
Becoming an addict, letting that happen, choosing that,
it was a choice.
And now, my health is declining.
And you don't feel a need to take care of yourself
as much when you're using because you don't feel worthy.
She's lost a lot of weight.
She's so gaunt, thin
She has no control over herself now.
I'm nervous that that might not be enough.
Yeah.
JESSICA: OK.
Also, Tim is enabling Jessica with the connections he has
and the stuff that he brings over to the house.
Here. Just two.
I think Tim and Jessica are very toxic for each other.
I don't think they're good for each other.
So that's what I just bought, right there.
That's $100 worth of fentanyl.
If you empty out a bag, there's probably like 0.1 grams,
and that's $2.
Whatever is better.
I would drink 10 of these and 80 bags of fentanyl a day
and just get completely obliterated.
I was so terrified of him dying,
I would literally stay up all night and watch him sleep.
Tim is addicted to fentanyl.
Oh, here's a crack pipe right here.
JESSICA: Crack.
Alcohol.
Xanax.
He's addicted to whatever will take
his mind off of responsibility.
Tim has suffered for decades.
He's been doing this for 28 years.
I can't imagine what's happening inside his body
with all the different drugs that he's taken.
It has to have taken a toll.
And I'm afraid someday he's going to be in renal failure.
Right now, all they care about is drugs.
It's all consuming.
I definitely need a little small pick me up.
If Tim doesn't stop, I'm going to lose my brother.
They both need help, or they're going to die.
Yeah.
Can you give me a list?
Yeah.
I have three children from a past relationship.
Ricky, Mandy, and Shane.
They are the most amazing things in this world.
Because I'm living now in another town, Jessica,
she moved into my home with her kids a couple of years ago.
She's not working.
I don't know how hard she's trying to find a job.
I just know she hasn't paid rent in over a year.
What else did you need?
Stuff like carrots.
Stuff that I could like take to work or something.
Like salad stuff?
Tim will be happy about that.
Tim's usually been staying at Jessica's or over in
the apartment over our garage.
I'll go check in on him.
If you think of anything else, let me know.
He was living with Jessica.
But then if they had a fight, which they often do fight,
he would go to his apartment at our house for a night.
And then they'd make up the next day.
Then he'd go back.
I'm not going to do anything crazy.
I'm just going to go take care of some things.
We don't need anything.
So you were going to go to Hartford,
but we don't even really need anything, do we?
Like you have a lot of stuff.
- All right, babe. - You don't know what you--
OK. You do what you're going to do.
Yeah.
Give me a kiss.
All right.
Have a good day.
Love you.
JESSICA: Love you.
I love Jess, and she's had a lot of life stuff going on.
So I try to make sure that we're taking care of.
I'm going to bring you to the hood hood.
There's no city in the United States like Hartford.
Every one of these streets has drugs on it.
Like all these people outside are selling drugs.
Everyone.
I don't go get the drugs.
Tim, that's his responsibility.
But it causes me a great deal of anxiety when he's buying.
I am very afraid of what can happen to him.
My cardinal rule up until now was never date a drug addict
because two dead batteries doesn't start a car, bro.
I was on Facebook during COVID,
and I saw Tim through a mutual friend.
And I remembered him from sixth grade.
He was the fat and funny kid.
I actually had a crush on him.
And he asked if he could FaceTime with me.
And he's like, why don't you come see me?
And I'm like, OK.
Why not?
When I met Jess, she was really cool.
Not just the average girl.
Like she was mad cool.
And I liked her right off the rip.
Tim has been in a relationship with Jessica for a few years
now.
But the relationship was a rocky one.
In the beginning, I thought it was just like a lot
of the guys I was meeting.
Functioning addicts.
And I was drinking.
So I didn't think much of it.
But hindsight, you know.
The first time Tim and I used together,
it was probably about a year into the relationship.
He offered me one, joking around because he
would always say, if you ever use this, I'll kill you.
And I said, well, that's funny because I already have.
I took from you a few times, that I didn't use a whole bag,
that I just did a little bit.
And I showed him how I did it.
And after that, we used together.
She wasn't a drug addict before I met her.
So it was straight.
And now that she's become a drug addict, it's like (Bleep).
Tim and Jessica take care of each other.
They rely on each other.
They love each other.
But they enable each other to continue to be addicts.
So now, we're entering like a really, really,
really, really bad section.
Like real dangerous.
So I'm about to go buy a piece of crack right now.
We'll go up in this house right here.
You guys stay right here.
You know what?
This is kind of not good.
Yeah.
Shut that door real quick.
It's bad.
I just thought it would be good, but it's not.
When stuff goes south out here, it goes south immediately.
But I still wanted to get some crack.
I have ties to this community that go back you years,
doing drugs with certain people and buying
drugs for me and Jess.
Don't worry about nothing.
What up?
He does have a good heart.
Unfortunately, his addiction makes
it easier to make poor choices.
And I'm constantly wondering if he's
going to be on time, if I'm going to get sick,
and I'm not going to be able to get what I need for the night
because he's passed out.
This is what I bought.
Those are little $5 pieces of crack.
Good crack too.
Well, that's what he said.
Our life has become unmanageable.
Alcohol and drugs.
It's the biggest (Bleep) nightmare of my life.
Where was I with the seasoning?
Salt. Mandy, Tim, and I will enjoy it all.
Jessica dotes on Tim.
She waits on him.
She loves him.
She really, really loves him.
Hey.
What's up, babe?
I got some more (Bleep) out there.
I got dinner going.
How many did you have?
Just like what there was the second one.
OK.
NARRATOR: I like a traditional relationship, where the woman
takes care of her man with like needs
and food and stuff like that, and the man
takes care of the woman financially and stuff.
And I haven't like lived up to my part of the deal,
and I'll admit it.
I haven't been like the best provider yet.
I've tried quite a bit though.
It's very hard.
Does his best at trying to be what he's promised to me
and who he wants to be.
This is crack, which I got to get a little bit more of.
Money is always on my mind because we're broke as (Bleep).
But I can honestly say that at least we're
taken care of, drugs-wise.
How was your day today, babe?
Busy.
But it was good. TIM: You have a good day?
Yeah.
I'm glad, baby.
I love you.
Give me a nice hug and a kiss.
Their relationship doesn't seem normal to me.
He's very dependent on her to take care of him.
But she's also dependent on him.
I think she thrives on taking care of people.
Can I have another beer?
Not cold.
But there is one more beer, right?
Yeah.
I only had one beer today.
I thought it was three.
No.
That'll be the--
The third, right?
That's what you said earlier.
Yeah.
We will be happy eventually.
I'll make sure that this is a happy family.
I'll be right back.
My name is Darren Hobbs.
I've been an interventionist for 11 years.
Zach and I just landed.
We've got two interventions this week for Tim and Jessica.
They're in a really sick Romeo and Juliet type
situation, where they get sicker and sicker by the day.
Time is of the essence.
So we've got a lot of family info to wrap our arms around,
and we're going to get straight to it.
All right, man.
Let's go through this.
Jessica lives in a house owned by her dad
with her three children.
17-year-old boy, 22-year-old boy, and then we
got a 24-year-old girl.
And they're playing with fentanyl
Right.
You're playing Russian roulette.
Tim is there most nights, except when
living over his parents' owned garage about 10 minutes away.
Tim and Jessica, sounds like they've been dating exclusively
for about pandemic plus.
The beginning of COVID, and nobody was moving.
So if you started a relationship,
you were full blown day three, right?
So we're fighting fentanyl, crack, and some sick family
dynamics, and probably codependency between them
too, right?
Because misery together is way better
than misery of being alone.
The only thing harder than fighting against addiction
is fighting against addiction and codependency
at the same time.
With Tim and Jessica, we've definitely
got our work cut out for us.
My anxiety is pretty high because my mom's on her way
here.
I talked to my family very seldom
because I'm hiding from them.
I don't want anyone to see me like this.
Honey.
My baby girl.
I love Jessie.
She has a lot of joy or did.
But the co-dependency with Tim is strong.
She believes that she can come out of this,
and I believe she can.
I've always believed in her.
Where's the Mandy?
Working.
She's working.
Doing her waitressing tonight.
How are you?
Good.
The other day, I was going through my pictures
from your baby book.
I was reading things about you and your sisters.
It was so sweet.
When Jessie was born, she was sparkling.
She was charismatic.
People loved her.
And I loved being a mom.
I had some struggles, sure.
But my struggles were with my husband.
After Jessie and I's father split up,
I thought I would do great.
I thought I would be supermom and rise to the occasion,
but I didn't.
I felt alone.
And I made some really bad decisions.
When I was 7 or 8, my mom was our friend.
She was not our mom.
There was a lot of drinking in my home.
There was always a party going on.
It became a free for all.
And I let my children run wild.
We were the party house, for sure.
At that time, I tried some dilaudid.
But you can't always get dilaudid.
And so along comes the heroin.
I was caught in my addiction for a year and a half.
And that was a really hard year and a half on my children.
We didn't eat right.
We didn't have furniture.
My father I think provided a little bit more of that
than my mother did at times.
But her addiction was severe.
And she subjected us to a lot of scary situations.
Bad neighborhoods, scary truck stops buying drugs.
It wasn't a healthy home, but I love you.
And we've got to stop the cycle.
Yeah.
There's no doubt in my mind.
It's been very emotionally trying.
But I definitely feel more and more like myself every day.
You're telling me that you don't take the fentanyl now?
No, I do.
I do.
So.
Thank you for being honest.
Jessie.
It's all right, mom.
I'll be all right.
Jess.
JESSICA: I'm sorry.
Now that I found out she's using again,
I wonder, will she make it through another day?
And her children, what will they do without their mom?
So I got fentanyl because of my panic attacks, my issues
with him.
Do you think you can get better with him?
I was inspired by Tim, and I saw a new prospect
for me and the kids.
So we're trying.
We're trying.
I don't know if the love is strong enough to endure this.
But right now, they're not good for each other.
I'm working through it, OK?
JESSICA: Maybe the flannel is at your mom's?
Trying to help Tim get ready for the day.
When I met him, I wasn't looking for a relationship.
He was supposed to just be my (Bleep)boy.
But he wanted more.
I think that's the best he's going to get.
Belt. It feels really good to be wanted that much
and to be needed that much, but that wasn't supposed to happen.
I should have left.
You do have these two pair of pants that are clean.
I did find this, right?
You're good.
You got what you need.
Well, I can get to go and see my dad.
I love my dad.
But I personally severed my relationship with my father
temporarily because I didn't want
to see him hurt over what I was doing to him and the addiction
that I have.
I'm like way behind.
Oh, my gosh.
This is not good.
But my father was recently diagnosed with Parkinson's.
So I want to see my dad.
I just wish this was under different circumstances.
So I'm going to talk to my dad about the stuff I said
I wanted to talk to him about.
TIM: Oh, good.
About your business, and about the bears,
and why the tools are in use and missing and such.
So hopefully, that goes well.
JESSICA: I know.
I'm starting to have a panic attack.
OK.
He came to my house three months ago to get a lot of his stuff,
and I hid like a coward because I couldn't face him.
So I hid in my room.
I tried to protect his things, and I didn't.
OK.
And I (Bleep) up in that regard because I
didn't protect his things.
I love you too.
Wish me luck.
You stole them, right?
I'm the only one who stole the tools.
I turned a blind eye.
I didn't--
Oh, you never said, go ahead, take that?
I gave you some of them, and I admitted that.
OK.
Yeah.
It is exciting to see my dad.
But I'm starting to think about what I have to say.
And it's going to cause him pain that I don't
want him to have to deal with.
He's already in enough pain.
This unfortunately will help me face the moment.
When I was younger, mom and dad were no longer together.
Mom was using.
Dad was drinking.
I just want to be OK.
It's been tough for Jessica for a lot of years.
After me and her mother split up,
I'd go to work, get home, drink, and go
to sleep, and go to work.
That was my lifestyle.
JESSICA: As a teenager, my Kodak moments
were getting drunk and blowing shotguns of weed
with my father.
I feel that she thought she could get away with drinking
heavy because I used to.
And then she lost her brother, and it
got completely out of control.
We were very close growing up.
So when my brother Donnie took his life, it took a part of me
with him.
It was horrible.
It was unbelievable.
And after that, she met her boyfriend, Rick.
He was a little rough around the edges.
But then again, my family was too.
My kid's father, Rick, and Tim are
so much alike in so many ways, in their manliness,
in their affection.
I loved him.
He was my best friend.
But we were not healthy for one another.
I was using alcohol at that point.
It was just alcohol.
And Rick was a binge user, the fentanyl.
It was so bad.
Rick's death tore everybody up.
And I don't think Jessie got past it, even to this day.
JESSICA: Hi, papa.
DON: Hi.
I apologize that it's taken so long.
But--
You've been taking your time with that for a long time.
Yes.
I have, too long.
And this is where I'm trying to start
being honest with everyone.
DON: OK.
So who's allowed to go to the basement and take my tools?
I had a whole bunch of woodworking planes.
I had a bucket of wrenches down there.
I don't know what happened to them.
OK.
So that happened when I was at my worst on fentanyl.
And it was me turning a blind eye because I
wasn't up for fighting.
I did let him take some of your tools for his woodworking,
and he did make some poor choices with them.
What do you mean?
He sold them?
I don't know which ones, to be honest.
And he doesn't even remember because of his addictions
are so severe.
Wow.
For him to be allowed into the house and take my stuff away,
it's very disconcerting.
He's got to come to grips with a lot of areas.
The consequences of what she's doing
hasn't been favorable for anybody,
especially my property.
We're not pleased at all with any of it.
So what now?
So I do love him very much.
He has a lot of potential.
He has so much talent, and he has changed a lot for me.
He is very sweet and kind.
DON: I don't know if being with him
is going to do you any good.
I'm aware of that, and I am working on it.
Everything he's doing, he's going
to wind up like Ricky did.
Using for so many years, it's just incredibly bad.
It's something his body will just give out.
And what he's really worried about
is that it's going to be you, Jess.
I never want to hurt people, and I never want my problems
to be someone else's.
I feel completely ashamed of myself,
that I picked fentanyl over my family and my children.
It seems like you got to make a decision for your life.
RHONDA: So you're going to cut dad's hair?
Yeah.
RHONDA: And I'm going to make you some coffee?
You got to make it, all right, like light and sweet.
Light and sweet.
We have a very, very close relationship, always have.
He says he's a straight up mama's boy,
and he's proud of it.
But I just want so much more for him.
Tim is very artistic.
He cuts hair.
He cuts trees.
He makes sculptures.
He's really all around good at anything he does.
But he just can't seem to stick to one of them.
You know, the drugs just get in the way.
So honey, do you think you're going
to ever cut trees down again, or are you
going to stick to sculpting?
Oh, I'm going to do both.
I'm going to build my credit back up,
and I'm going to buy all the stuff I need.
But the most important part of that recipe for success
is going to recovery.
Yeah.
But hasn't worked in the past.
Tim was just a happy little boy.
He had good friends.
But he was a chubby kid, and he was picked on a lot for that.
At 10, I was locked in a bathroom.
And the kid sprayed oven cleaner and a bunch of (Bleep)
like that under the door.
His father end up coming home and stopping him.
Being bullied, it was very hard on him.
And because of this, he had no self-esteem.
When Tim was 11, he started being disruptive in class.
They wanted to put him on medication,
and we didn't want him on medication.
We had heard too many things about Adderall
and those medications.
So I regret that I will regret that till the day I die.
TIFFANY: Tim started drinking heavily at a very young age,
like 12, 13.
He self-medicated in an effort to make himself feel normal.
I used alcohol and drugs to turn into something different.
He started using drugs, getting
in with the wrong people.
People that did dope and heroin.
And he just started acting out.
He would put himself in situations
where he would get arrested.
All of his crimes have been really, really petty stupid.
Things like stealing some liquor out
of a store, violation of probation due to dirty urine.
So it extends the probation.
TIFFANY: After he got out of prison, he was sober.
And Tim came to live with me.
At first, it was wonderful.
We developed the best relationship we've ever had.
Everything was an adventure because Tim, when
he's doing well, is the most fun, coolest person
you will ever meet.
But after a couple of months, it all went south.
Tim started using heroin.
He started using cocaine.
He was drinking heavily again.
I wanted to be clean and not have to worry about anything,
but a lot of violence happened to me in jail.
And I was forced to do things that I didn't want to do.
I can't really get into specifics because I don't
know if I could get arrested still
or the statute of limitations.
I don't know.
Now things are worse than ever.
He's doing fentanyl every day.
TIM: It's so bad.
Like I'm so deep into this drug addiction.
I'm so deep.
Speaking of, I'm starting to get a little sick.
Tim has absolutely no control over his life.
That's pretty much it.
Thank you making me look good, Tim.
Without my parents taking care of him,
he would be on the streets, homeless, or in jail, or dead.
Well.
Nothing crazy.
How much are you asking?
Just $20.
Yeah.
Yeah, I guess so.
I've been enabling him by giving him money.
And it's wrong.
I'm not giving him money for drugs.
I was giving him money for living expenses.
But that's kind of this sorry excuse.
Thank you.
I love you, guys.
Love you too, baby.
Probably shouldn't have done that.
I want to get this done, so I can get paid.
Right now, it is.
Yeah.
I got 10 orders after--
not 10.
Like maybe four to six definite.
They're little ones.
They're like 3 to 4 feet.
And I could bang one out a day at $300 to $500.
I won't get out of bed for less than $300.
I mean, I owned a tree removal business.
I used to make--
I made $17,000 in three days before.
It's been difficult for him to get a job.
In his defense, he has a record.
Anybody does background checks.
And so that's why he started his own business,
his tree business.
He had people working for him.
He really had a lot of success.
But there was an accident.
Generally, before the accident, he
would not drink during the job.
So whether his intoxication had anything to do with it,
I don't I don't know.
But he stopped cutting trees.
Tim says when he's dope sick, every fiber in your being
is just, it's firing.
And it terrifies him.
And so the first thing he does is buy drugs.
[phone ringing]
What up, brother?
I need a half a stick.
All right.
I'll be right there.
I've been sick and got off (Bleep) only because I was forced to
by going to jail.
It was the worst nightmare.
Trust me.
What's up, dawg?
Tim told me that one time when he had gone to jail, withdrawal
was so painful that he would actually
throw himself up against the cement wall
to knock himself out.
That was his way of dealing with the pain.
So I got two dimes of crack and five bundles of fentanyl.
I'm so worried all the time about him.
There was one time in his 20s, he overdosed.
I heard this loud thud downstairs.
And as I turned the corner, I saw Tim's legs horizontally
sticking out of the bathroom.
He was blue.
He had passed out.
Having worked in the hospital in the morgue,
it was the same look ahead seen in the morgue.
It was the look of death.
The medics showed up and administered Narcan,
and he came to.
They took him to the hospital.
It was terrible.
He would have died if Mark hadn't have been home.
I am.
I'm not worried about OD'ing at all.
That scares me, seeing as my kid's
father died of an overdose.
That's what I do.
I just straight (Bleep) dedicate myself all day.
DARREN: Thank you for being willing to talk with me.
I appreciate you coming.
Absolutely.
The most important thing here is that we
get Tim in a position to make some better
decisions with his life.
Yeah.
OK.
So tell me.
Does Tim ever come to you for cash?
Not anymore.
He used to.
I bought him clothes, food.
I bought him shoes, boots, a car stereo.
I bailed him out of jail.
How were you able to stop?
I put my foot down.
I have my own life I have my own financial responsibilities,
and I can't take care of him.
Right.
What do you think his addiction has cost the family all in,
guess at dollar amount?
Well, I think it's thousands of dollars.
Yeah.
We've all contributed to his addiction
in that we didn't kick him out sooner, didn't set boundaries.
We've given him money when he's had to have it.
We probably have contributed today, very sorry to say.
So Tim has gone through life very comfortable
with the arrangement he's got with mom and dad.
Out of what they feel to be love and concern,
they have tried to help him manage his addiction
by mitigating the consequences.
Yeah.
The fear has always been that we're going to lose him.
In my book, to not be complicit in Tim harming
himself is where we got to be.
And today, your mom and dad are sitting in the MVP chair.
They're the most important people here because they've
been his biggest enablers.
Yeah.
His mom, she's a lot like me.
A mother that feels so much guilt that she
gives him whatever he wants.
Other people may say, how could you do that?
But these choices that we've made, it's been out of just
desperation.
How much does Tim transfer the need for mom to his need
to Jessica?
They are interchangeable pretty much.
He can't survive on his own in any way.
He can't take care of himself.
Tim's mom and his dad taught him to be helpless.
And right now, it pays off for him
to do just enough to keep mom and dad happy,
just enough to keep Jessica happy.
And what we need to do for Tim is take the enabling away
and allow him to feel that life's consequences are
coming for him.
He's only hanging on to the bottom of the barrel
because he's got Jessica on one side,
and he's got mom and dad on the other.
Yeah.
Are you willing to push your mom and dad
should they get cold feet?
Yes.
Cut off the resources.
Cut off the resources because Tim won't consider changing
until the family changes.
I've been hooked on punching all for about two years.
Tim is addicted to fentanyl, crack, alcohol.
Tim has been in a relationship with Jessica
for a couple of years.
I hope it's not cold.
Jessica dotes on Tim.
Jessica's mom and dad have substance history.
Her brother committing suicide and HER husband
that passed away of fentanyl.
It's untreated trauma.
He was a chubby kid, and he was picked on.
At 10, I was locked in a bathroom,
and A kid sprayed oven cleaner under the door.
Your mom and dad, they've been his biggest enablers.
How much are you asking for?
Just $20.
Thank you.
Time is of the essence.
They get sicker and sicker by the day.
We've definitely got our work cut out for us.
ZACH: You must be Louise.
LOUISE: Yes, I am.
Come on in.
Appreciate you having me over.
We appreciate you taking the time to come and talk to us.
Of course.
So what I want to do today is just
grab as much info as possible.
We just want to get the best picture that we possibly can,
so we can plan accordingly.
That way, we can make this a success.
So Don, can you talk to me about anything that you could
perceive as potential trauma?
When it comes to addiction, that's
usually set off with like a catalyst,
a trauma, an incident.
I know she had a hard time when Ricky was alive.
Their relationship always scared the hell out of me.
Can you talk to me about that?
Can you walk me through like what that looked like?
They fight a lot.
Was it verbal?
Was it physical?
Both.
I used to give Jessie my old cars, fixed them up
and give them to her.
In case she needed an escape route,
she could just go turn the key and leave.
She never did.
I was learning a lot about what abuse was.
But he needed me so much, I stayed.
I was fighting for me and my children,
and he was getting sicker and sicker.
And I prayed every night that God would help him and give us
a better chance at a real life.
When her husband passed away, how did you see her respond?
I really can't tell you because I
didn't see much of her. ZACH: How come?
I guess she just stayed away because she
had three kids to raise.
So we weren't really close after Ricky passed away.
With Jessica, it'd be easy to make the connection
of her having a sense of my first relationship
failed via death.
Therefore, I failed.
Jessica needs somebody to fix, to, quote unquote,
redeem herself from the husband that passed away fentanyl.
That's the real drug of choice.
In what ways so far have you guys tried to help Jessica?
Well, I've been just paying the mortgage
because it's my house, and my stuff was in there.
OK.
And for the last year and a half,
hasn't paid any utilities.
So we're footing the bill.
And with her dealing with Tim and everything,
a lot of my stuff just wound up missing.
Things got really bad once Tim came into the picture.
Jessica's dad paying her bills,
putting a roof over her head is going
to be a hurdle because she has the kids,
and she can hide behind that guise of I
need this to feed them.
Effective immediately, we have to curve any enabling
that we provide to her.
Which is very difficult.
It is.
But our enablement of Jessica allows Jessica
to do what Jessica does and also adds fuel to the fire for her
to be able to enable 10 more.
It really is like a perfect storm here.
Yeah.
Tim and Jessica being in a relationship
complicates their ability to get sober.
Especially with Jessica, it's going to be like having
two withdrawals at once.
One from fentanyl, the other one from Tim.
I want to be real clear, like this is life and death for her.
Hello.
Hey. JAY: What's going on?
What's up? JAY: How are you?
Good.
How have you been?
Hey.
Hey, honey.
How you doing?
Is that your coloring book?
You haven't seen Uncle Timmy for a while, huh?
Wow.
That's awesome.
I got to use the bathroom real quick.
I'm just going to take a leak.
I'll be right back.
What do you think he's doing in the bathroom?
I don't know.
You tell me.
I see Tim very rarely.
The addiction has made it impossible to have a
true, meaningful relationship.
When I first had my six-year-old daughter Lilly,
I was hopeful that Tim was going to be in her life.
But Lilly and Tim have never developed
a relationship because doing drugs
is like breathing for Tim.
I think it's more important to him than anything.
So how's the bear going?
The big bear?
It's all right.
What do you mean?
Did you sneeze and cut off an air or something?
I'm not 100% happy, but they're happy.
They're real happy.
I just, I'm not as happy.
JAY: That's the part.
You have the opportunity, and you have the skill.
But you need to actually be able to maintain.
It's hard to maintain when you wake up sick.
Like my blood pressure is high.
Sometimes, I could feel my heart beating through my eyeballs.
Do you have any idea how bad that is for you?
Is it really?
Do you know what can happen to you?
Yeah, like a stroke or something?
Kidney failure?
I'm a dialysis nurse, and I've confronted him about
his addiction many, many times.
I've had so many talks with him.
I don't believe I really ever have gotten through to him.
My habit is bad.
I don't even know how I'm still alive honestly.
I don't know how exactly what's going to happen.
I love you guys.
I love all three of you guys very much.
And I want to be there for you guys, especially her,
and I know I haven't been.
I'm the only one at all our family
and extended family that's (Bleep) up.
I just want to be a part of a good family structure
that we have.
And I'm not.
We love you.
I love you guys too.
I'm so sorry, Tiff, that I haven't been there for you.
This can't go on forever.
Stop talking about her.
I don't give a (Bleep) about her.
How does she not know that?
I haven't talked to her or seen her in person in years.
What the (Bleep) are you talking about?
Lisa is Tim's ex-girlfriend.
They dated for quite a few years many years ago.
Their relationship ended because of Tim's addiction.
She wouldn't let me do drugs.
She was like, you're not coming in the house if you do drugs.
Lisa was total opposite of Jessica.
I still love Lisa, but they're not
together now, even though Jessica
keeps thinking that they are.
He pulls her back in whenever he's either afraid
that I'm going to leave him or talking to someone else,
talking to other men.
He'll reach out to her to get me jealous.
And it works.
If you would forget about Lisa, this would not exist.
Lisa who?
I already forgot about her.
Come over.
Let's call her together, even though that
would just reignite (Bleep).
Oh, my phone just died.
(Bleep).
I honestly love the (Bleep) out of Jess.
But Jess is the one that looks her up,
and it's a (Bleep) up situation.
Hey.
You still want to argue with me?
What can I say that makes you mad?
No.
I'm not going to argue with you.
It's hard to tell if Tim and Jessica are in love because
of the drugs that they're using and the enmeshment that they
have.
That could appear a lot like love between a man and a woman
when they're both whacked out on fentanyl.
I only had like what equates to two bags today.
I'm tired, and I don't feel good.
Say you're sorry.
No.
I'm not sorry.
Say you're sorry.
So I don't want nothing from you then,
no, because I'm not sorry. - I'm just (Bleep) with you.
Relax.
Well, I don't like when you play around when it's serious.
Like I'm serious.
Here.
I got you.
Here.
How many do you want?
One for right now.
I'll give you more than one.
That's the one, two.
That's good.
Are you sure?
You don't want three?
Jessica's getting more and more
sucked into drugs being with Tim because I
don't see any way out of it.
I see an early grave for her.
Baby, don't be so upset.
Baby, I am upset.
Try to be in a good mood.
JESSICA: No.
I'm not in a good mood.
TIM: Just relax, yo.
Just sit down and relax.
Let's watch TV and relax.
[phone ringing]
Yo.
What up, bro?
We're just chilling at the crib right now, bro.
If you want to come through, you can come through.
Like tonight is a good time.
Yeah.
Come over, bro, if you want.
I'm so (Bleep) mad at you right now.
Oh, my god.
It's not that big of a deal, yo.
I was mad because you were telling me
you wanted to leave me over me doing something
that I (Bleep) didn't fully do.
JESSICA: That's not what happened.
What happened then?
I'm upset now, and you want people
to come over when I'm upset.
We haven't even like made up.
We haven't even--
I hugged you when you came in, and we said, OK.
I'm sorry.
You don't have to hold grudges for everything.
Let's move forward.
Like it changed--
like I don't even know what's happening right now.
This is what I'm talking about when she can't let (Bleep) go.
This will go on for (Bleep) a week.
JESSICA: Liar.
You liar.
It hurts.
Oh, my god.
When he's intoxicated, he turns into another person.
Tim Dog takes over.
He's very disrespectful and argumentative.
You can't put it all on me because it's not all on me.
When we were on the phone, we said we were going to talk.
I apologize.
I got a little bit pissed off because I read--
I read the text that you sent me.
You're on something like I could leave
you in the drop of a dime.
That (Bleep) makes me feel like our relationship has no stability,
as if I just met you last week.
I am getting tired.
I have been tired.
I have been telling you for a long time
that I can't take much more.
[ring tone]
Wagner.
Oh, good lord.
Wagner.
I don't want him here.
Yo, Swagner is going to stop by.
Hey, don't.
Yo, please don't give me a hard time.
He's only going to be here for a second.
Sometimes, I want to leave him, and he's aware.
But I have a very hard time with letting go of people.
What up, bro?
I've been drinking too.
With Tim and Jess, it's like this constant roller coaster.
What up, y'all?
What's going on.
I didn't know you had all this going on.
They're not the same in any way, shape,
or form, except for the drugs.
Can we get a lighter?
It's just a scary thing.
And they both need help.
They need to separate.
They need to work on themselves.
I'm like really angry.
This is not living.
But I am very addicted to Tim.
Even if I were to leave Tim, I would
call him back for the drugs.
Thank you guys for all being willing to be here today.
I know this is going to be tough for everybody involved.
But we're all going to be moving in the same direction.
We know we're battling not just addiction,
but we're battling codependency.
We're also fighting a very sick and toxic relationship.
Both Tim and Jessica are symptomatic of sick families.
The fact that both of these guys are now in their mid 40s
and have been enabled to get this sick
by each of their families means that they have been failed.
So we're going to have action plans that include everyone,
and we're all going to move forward.
We're going to lead you all in writing some letters.
But first, I want to talk about bottom lines.
For both Jessica and for Tim, bottom lines are consequences.
For Tim, going back almost 30 years now, in Tim's mind,
he's got his number one advocate, this safety net.
A mom.
You know, he's been through some rough times.
And I just feel bad for him.
And so I just always want to make things better for him.
But your kindness isn't generosity,
and fears have kept him housed in safe.
And for us to move forward with Tim,
you have to say, hey, we love you so much that we're going
to let you be uncomfortable.
We can no longer house you here.
We can no longer support you financially, right?
If Tim declines tomorrow, will Tim be financially supported?
No.
DARREN: Are you going to allow him in your home?
No.
ZACK: Effective when?
Immediately.
Good.
And for you with communication,
it's not that I'm turning my back on you.
It's I will only talk to you if you're
ready to talk about treatment.
OK.
Do you think that you're up for it?
I have to be.
I will.
It's going to be hard because he does rely on me a lot.
It's a little scary.
But I'm going to have to be tougher than I've ever been.
But yeah.
I'm afraid.
I'm worried that he's going to have to go through a lot
of pain, suffering.
I love him.
Now if we pivoted over and related
the same kind of things going on with Jessica,
like we can see it there too.
Absolutely.
I told Don that I want him to shut down the house.
Shut it down.
And Don is willing to do that, correct?
Well, we've been wanting to do it.
Good.
We need to get that on the market
and sold because that whole situation has
just enabled Jess, and somewhat Tim,
to continue their addiction.
Right.
Are you guys paying the utilities at the home?
Shut them off.
Right.
Yep.
KATHY: We can do it.
So let's talk about Jess's possible objections
to going to treatment.
Well, it's going to be Tim.
It's going to be Mandy.
And it's going to be Ricky and Shane.
We have a situation for the boys.
So the boys will be OK.
Where will the boys be going?
With my other daughter.
Awesome.
Mandy is an adult. She has a job.
She should technically be able to go out on her own.
Good.
I want to emphasize and just reemphasize
and smash home for everybody.
These are not punitive.
This is literally I love you so much,
I'm not looking the other way anymore.
Moving forward, the enabling that's
gotten us this far I have no doubt
has come from a place of love from you guys.
But refusing to feed this deadly disease
is not what love and support looks like.
OK.
My hope for tomorrow is that these families
stand in their truth and deliver the message that they're
no longer willing to sit idly by and watch their loved ones die.
Tomorrow, the cycle is broken.
We're going to dismantle it all the way tomorrow.
Thank you all for joining us this morning.
A few of you guys have mentioned that this process
is an answered prayer.
If it wouldn't offend anybody, I'd like to have one more
prayer, all of us together.
I wanted to do Tim and Jessica's intervention separately
because I thought securing Jessica's
agreement would likely influence Tim to be
able to make a good decision.
Father, we thank You for this opportunity.
If Jessica agrees to go, I believe
Jessica is going to be the leverage to get a yes from Tim.
We thank You for the strength that this family has shown.
The courage they've come with, to use words of love,
and kindness, and compassion.
We ask You to guide every word we choose today.
We know You're with us.
We thank You for this opportunity.
We love You. We thank You.
Amen.
All right.
So one of the push.
Yeah.
As Jessica enters, we're going to get up.
You guys are all going to give her big hugs.
She'll be here soon.
All right, guys.
Let's stand up.
Let's embrace her like you already
know this is the thing that's going to change her life.
Jess.
Hey.
Hi.
Hello, everybody.
Hi, girl.
ZACK: Please join us.
Looks like an intervention I think.
Well, Jessica.
This gentlemen is Darren Hobbs.
Nice to meet you.
My name is Zach Livingston.
And this is an intervention.
This is an opportunity where we get to break some cycles.
I've asked your family to write some letters.
Are you open to hearing these letters?
Sure. DARREN: OK, Don.
Would you like to read your letter?
Dear, Jess.
I love you with all my heart, and I always will.
You've always been just the best to me.
And it's very difficult to watch you,
what you've been dealing with, what you're going through.
Over the last three years, you seem to be slowly wasting away.
It pains me that you don't call when you say you will
and that we hardly get together anymore.
You promised to look after my house and my belongings,
but the house and the lawn are falling into disrepair,
and many of the belongings are gone.
I hope you will please get the help you need.
I hope you decide to today.
Love you.
DARREN: Kathy?
Jessie.
You sure did shine as you helped in church
and with family and friends, and your happiness was contagious.
Somewhere, 2 and 1/2 years ago, your calls to me
became sullen, and desperate, and unhappy.
You spoke of nightmares and feelings of inadequacy.
You lost your shine and your happiness.
Your sparkle was gone.
And I'm so worried about you.
We love you.
Please, please, please.
DARREN: Mandy.
I said, mom, I love you, and I want
you to get the help you need to be
able to enjoy your life freely.
I don't want to live my life constantly
worried about you and the boys.
And I've been scared for your guys' futures.
I'm scared you'll die, go through more losses,
and that me and the boys will be left without both parents.
I need you back.
I need you healthy.
I need my mother again.
Will you please accept help with us today?
Mom, I cannot lose you.
Even just that thought kills me.
I've already dealt with that with dad.
Like I cannot-- and you're everything to me.
Like you're my best friend.
You're everything.
I talk to you about everything.
Like I need you.
I really need you.
I'm so sorry that you've been through all this.
Like I wish I could take that away from you.
So like you'd just be happy.
I love you.
I'm so sorry.
ZACK: Jessica, I know you're hearing everyone
at the end of their letter asking if you're
going to get help today.
And before you even answer the question,
I just want to make it clear exactly what that help is.
There's a treatment center.
It's called Casa Capri Recovery.
And it's in Newport Beach, California.
It's all-female.
24/7 care with nothing but women who
have had the same exact issues and struggles that you've had.
Who's going to be there for my boys and my daughter?
You don't have to worry about anything.
Who's going to be with my babies?
Please.
DARREN: We've got that taken care of too.
ZACK: We've checked every box that you can possibly have,
so you could get healthy.
I need my kids to be OK, or else, I won't be.
OK.
And we'll be there as like a secondary to help out, get them
jobs, work towards getting their licenses.
Where's Mandy?
I'm going to be fine, mom.
Don't worry about anything.
Please accept help.
Please.
Please accept help.
Please.
ZACK: Look at the hope in her eyes
when we talk about the resources that we have,
so you can get healthy.
This is all of our prayers being answered.
When do I go?
Today.
I want you to shine again.
Let's go.
I'm so proud of you.
I'm so happy with you, mom.
Thank you.
Great.
That's great.
I think it went really well.
I'm glad she accepted.
I hope she comes back just a happy--
Jess that I used to remember.
I love you.
I don't even know how to explain my excitement.
I feel like everything that I've been hoping for is
finally like coming true.
You've been so tired for so long, Jessie.
This place is going to take care of you.
I'm so proud of Jessica, that she did the right thing,
and she's accepted treatment.
And she could be Jessie again.
The next couple of hours are going to be bang, bang.
We're going to get you something to eat.
We've got your clothes.
We've got supplies and toiletries.
There's a van outside.
We've got a nurse.
We're going to make sure that you're stable, you're safe.
We also want you to be able to say goodbye to Tim.
Tim's going to have a meeting very much
like this one in a short time.
And you're going to go to your process
and become the healthiest version of you.
Tim's hopefully going to agree to go get help.
And it's going to put both you guys in a good spot.
I'm glad Tim's getting an opportunity.
I really hope he takes it.
But I am concerned about him leaving.
Jessica just accepted treatment.
But I don't want to put her on a plane
just yet because we still have to do Tim's intervention.
So if Tim has a bunch of no's to accepting treatment,
I want to arrive at Tim's intervention with Jessica,
so I can have Jessica make an ask to Tim.
She's the one who has the firepower to move
him towards the common goal.
Every bit of worry and concern you
guys have had to this point for Tim,
we get to put that to rest today by taking definite action.
My schedule is crazy.
I never know when something's going to happen,
if I don't have enough (Bleep).
I can't start to go into withdrawal,
or else, it'll be ugly.
Today is cycle break day.
We're done.
Sounds good.
OK, guys.
Hey, Tim.
Hey.
What's going on?
I haven't had a hug for so long.
I love you so much.
Love you, Tim.
Tim, I'm Darren.
Hey, what's up, buddy?
Good to see you, man.
You too.
You want to have a seat with us?
Yeah.
Right here, sweetie.
So Tim, your family and I have been
in contact lately about what's been going on with you.
Yeah.
I don't know you very well, but I know
these guys love you to pieces.
And what I've heard over these last few days
is how precious you are to them and how
concerned they are for you.
I've asked your mom and dad and Tiffany
to write you some letters.
Would you allow them to read them?
Yeah, absolutely.
Tiffany, would you go first?
Sure.
Timmy, I love how big your heart is.
I love how generous you are and how
willing you are to help others.
I love how funny you are.
I've watched your addiction get steadily
worse over the last 30 years.
Recovery has never really happened for you.
I know you're addicted to fentanyl.
I know this is a death sentence.
I'm afraid every day that we're going to lose you.
When I watched you hold Lilly for the first time,
you said this is it.
This is the reason I will stay sober.
For my niece.
My heart was so full.
But it wasn't true.
And it hurts not to have you be a part
of Lilly's life and my life.
DARREN: Thank you, Tiffany.
Mark.
Tim, I wish I had thought to tell you how proud I was
all the times you reached out to help friends
and strangers who needed help.
But your addiction started turning for the worst.
One of the worst days of my life,
when I found you on the floor, cyanotic,
purple-faced, and not breathing.
Having actually worked in a morgue,
I knew what death looked like.
You did not look any different than the corpses
I'd seen at work.
Thankfully, the medics arrived and managed to bring you back.
Tim, the effects of your addiction on your family
has taken a heavy toll.
For 28 years now, the emotional, psychological, and financial
impact of your addiction has been devastating.
We made mistakes of enabling, and we are embarking
on a new path of correcting those mistakes by changing how
we respond to our addiction as enablers
and to your addiction of substance abuse.
With all my love, dad.
Thanks, dad.
DARREN: Miss Rhonda?
Tim.
The things I love most about you are your huge hugs
and how much you make me feel loved and special.
Always making me feel good about myself and telling me
I look beautiful.
It broke my heart when you were 16 or 17 and had a court date.
They called your name.
And you went up before the judge.
Two officers came up on each side of you,
handcuffed you, and forcefully took you
to the door of the holding pen.
In a pleading voice, you said, wait.
I can't even hug my mom.
You have the potential to be successful in so
many ways, Tim.
You can cut hair.
You can cut down trees.
You can make wood sculptures.
You're funny, smart, forgiving.
Tim, will you please accept treatment today?
What do you mean by that?
What kind of treatment?
It's 90 days residential.
It's the Last Resort Recovery in Smithfield, Texas.
And it is designed for treatment resistant young men,
just like yourself.
OK.
Well, let me explain something to you real quick.
Sure.
My fentanyl habit is like 50 to 80 bags for six years.
The amount you've been doing probably
mandates that you're on a longer term taper than somebody
who's been doing half that.
Oh, (Bleep).
I understand that you believe you're unique.
I am unique with the amount that I do.
Trust me.
I'm very unique.
I haven't met anybody that does what I do and for the length
that I do.
Most people have died by now.
And I do so much fentanyl that I would be so sick that I
would probably leave the detox and get
arrested because I don't know.
I really don't know, man.
I wish this didn't happen right now.
Well, you have to go, Tim.
You have to try.
I don't have to do (Bleep).
There's nothing left for you here.
Guess what?
I'm probably not going to go.
Wrong timing, man.
Wrong timing.
Tim, the timing is never going to be right.
But the timing--
I don't care.
Wrong timing.
You're not going to control this.
I'm controlling it.
It sucks.
You shouldn't have done that.
We'll keep trying.
We're not giving up yet.
Hey, bro.
He's not going to do it.
Just (Bleep) bull(bleep).
Dude.
It's the drugs talking too.
I don't want to seem like an (Bleep), bro.
Like I don't want to seem like an [bleep]
because I'm not an [bleep].
DARREN: I don't read you as an [bleep].
But you really don't understand how sick I would be.
You've lived through this much fentanyl,
kicking it ain't going to be the one (Bleep) thing to kill you.
I'm not scared of dying.
I'm scared of--
DARREN: Well, that's the (Bleep) problem.
You're not scared of dying.
Because these people are a hell of a lot
more scared of you dying.
If he doesn't go, it's just going to be worse.
It's going to be worse than ever.
Where's my girl at?
She's close by.
She's not going into a place, is she?
Yeah.
She said yes?
Oh, my god.
I'm still standing by the consequences.
We have to.
Tim, this is our nurse.
Hi, how are you?
Nice to meet you.
So I'm a nurse practitioner.
And I'll be traveling with you.
They said that you're concerned about not
feeling well during the trip?
Well, no.
My detox is going to be outrageous, like exorcist bad.
I understand.
The facility is really, very good.
They'll know your height, your weight, your usage
and they'll manage you.
300 pounds.
Yeah.
50 bags, eight a day to 80 bags a day.
They'll be able to manage you.
I'm not going to take you anywhere that's not going to--
(Bleep) it. Let's do it.
Let's go.
OK, good.
Tim's been in and out of detoxes and rehabs,
but they've all been state-run, and most
of his actual withdrawals have happened in jail cells.
So he's never received adequate comfort meds
to know that there is a pain-free, withdrawal-free way
to do this.
And that's when he bought in.
I guess I'm going to give it a shot.
Fantastic.
Hopefully, Tim is going to have success this time,
and we can just be a family.
A big, happy family.
I feel so relieved.
You're making a good choice, Tim.
JESSICA: Hi.
How are you doing?
I wish Jess the very best.
I love her.
She loves my son.
He loves her.
I hope that she becomes clean and sober, just as I hope
that Tim does, and that they can get back together and maybe
have a nice life together.
He says couples make it if they put in the work.
So we have a real chance.
I don't know if Tim and Jessica love each other
or if they just love using together.
The only way to find out is going to be over time.
And to do that, they're going to have to be separate.
Know that's why we have Tim going to Texas and Jessica
going to California.
Proud of you.
It's time for us to go.
Take it easy, baby.
We're going to say goodbye, Tim.
I know you can do this.
I know you're making the right decision.
I'm so proud of you.
I hate that I can't be there for him,
but this is the best thing for him, for both of us.
Hey! Hi Tim.
How's it going guys
I'm Matt.
Welcome to the Last Resort, man.
I'm feeling still very nervous about the detox,
but I'm excited too though for the future.
If you're ready to do the work, man, like 100%,
you will get what you need to recover if you're willing.
Hi, Jessica.
Come on in.
I'll take your bag.
Casa Capri is a great fit for Jessica
because we'll be able to provide her with individualized care,
focus on her trauma, and really figure out healthier ways
that she can cope and move forward.
My head is like pounding.
I've just been so stressed.
It makes sense.
I'm glad you're here.
Thank you.
I have been 85 days sober today.
It feels amazing.
I feel lively.
I feel energetic.
I feel happy.
It's been very nice to have myself back.
- How are you feeling today? - Pretty good.
- Yeah? - Excited.
Yeah.
I will be leaving Wednesday.
You've done amazing work.
Thank you.
Keep going.
Jessica is a whole different Jessica today than the Jessica
who walked in.
She's done a really great job working
on boundaries and codependency.
In terms of my life goals, is to rejoin
my children after this journey.
These opportunities, they have helped
save my life in many ways.
So I'm excited to continue to do the hard work.
As far as Tim and I, I can't wait to see him sober,
and I do want to be able to share that with him.
Hey, Dakota.
How you doing?
I'm not going to lie to you, the detox was horrendous.
But I've been sober 90 days tomorrow.
And it's been truly humbling.
Find a spot where you can really
feel rooted and grounded.
Let her explore.
Physically, I feel great.
Emotionally, I'm happy.
THERAPIST: The confidence that you're
walking with is giving her a secure place
to attach to and connect to.
Tim definitely has a tendency towards codependency,
and he's worked through that.
He's grown a lot in that area.
And the sky is the limit for him.
THERAPIST: It's a beautiful work with her.
I enjoyed it thoroughly.
Did you enjoy that?
My relationship with Jess is we're both at a different point
in our life.
And I still love her.
And hopefully, things will work out.
We'll just take her back to her pen over here.
What motivates me to stay clean
is just living life and experiencing life
with a clear head, clean and sober,
which is something I've really never did it as an adult.
So it's going to be a new experience for sure.