1 00:00:02,319 --> 00:00:03,818 Announcer: This program contains subject 2 00:00:03,838 --> 00:00:05,078 Matter and language that may be disturbing to some viewers. 3 00:00:05,172 --> 00:00:06,338 Viewer discretion is advised. 4 00:00:15,665 --> 00:00:16,590 Jordan: My name is jordan. 5 00:00:16,742 --> 00:00:18,183 I'm 34. 6 00:00:18,410 --> 00:00:20,477 I would definitely consider myself an alcoholic. 7 00:00:24,933 --> 00:00:25,649 What do you want? 8 00:00:30,347 --> 00:00:31,697 You already had some this morning? 9 00:00:37,429 --> 00:00:39,872 He can drink up to 750 milliliter of vodka 10 00:00:40,099 --> 00:00:43,358 In a single sitting. 11 00:00:43,377 --> 00:00:46,528 You all right? 12 00:00:46,547 --> 00:00:49,623 Aubre: He has to be helped to do normal daily tasks, 13 00:00:49,717 --> 00:00:52,051 And he really can't help anyone right now because he can't 14 00:00:52,202 --> 00:00:53,469 Even take care of himself. 15 00:00:57,558 --> 00:00:58,307 Careful. 16 00:01:05,566 --> 00:01:08,216 Derek: Seeing jordan today, he looks like a complete shell 17 00:01:08,310 --> 00:01:10,460 Of his former self. 18 00:01:10,479 --> 00:01:12,387 Jordan had a very accomplished career starting 19 00:01:12,481 --> 00:01:14,222 With his military service. 20 00:01:14,316 --> 00:01:17,150 He's an accomplished veteran who served our country. 21 00:01:17,303 --> 00:01:19,561 After that, he went into the nursing community. 22 00:01:19,655 --> 00:01:21,471 He was a beloved icu nurse. 23 00:01:21,490 --> 00:01:24,566 He fought on the front lines of covid. 24 00:01:24,585 --> 00:01:25,733 Lisa: Jordan. 25 00:01:25,753 --> 00:01:26,734 Yeah? 26 00:01:26,829 --> 00:01:28,995 Lisa: What are you doing. 27 00:01:29,148 --> 00:01:30,589 I'm fine. 28 00:01:30,816 --> 00:01:31,757 No, you're not fine. 29 00:01:31,908 --> 00:01:33,908 There you go. 30 00:01:34,002 --> 00:01:39,005 Lisa: Jordan's drinking has caused a lot of heartache 31 00:01:39,100 --> 00:01:45,420 And a lot of stress on every member of our family. 32 00:01:45,514 --> 00:01:47,439 What did you drink? 33 00:01:47,666 --> 00:01:48,273 I'm fine. 34 00:01:52,504 --> 00:01:53,278 Jordan: Yes, ma'am. 35 00:01:53,430 --> 00:01:54,113 All right. 36 00:01:56,433 --> 00:01:58,175 Linda: The alcohol addiction has gotten 37 00:01:58,268 --> 00:02:02,028 So out of control with jordan that I 38 00:02:02,181 --> 00:02:04,790 Am afraid he's going to die. 39 00:02:05,017 --> 00:02:10,546 This intervention, it is his life or his death. 40 00:02:30,300 --> 00:02:32,568 Derek: Jordan drinks all day every day. 41 00:02:35,805 --> 00:02:37,564 As long as he can get his hands on some alcohol, 42 00:02:37,658 --> 00:02:41,067 He'll be drinking it. 43 00:02:41,220 --> 00:02:43,387 Jordan: I've been hospitalized with a blood 44 00:02:43,405 --> 00:02:47,291 Alcohol level of 0.536. 45 00:02:51,005 --> 00:02:57,992 Jordan has been arrested for three charges of extreme dui. 46 00:02:58,012 --> 00:03:00,737 Jordan currently lives with my mom and dad 47 00:03:00,756 --> 00:03:03,164 Because he really has no other place to go. 48 00:03:03,184 --> 00:03:04,683 Lisa: Jordan! 49 00:03:04,910 --> 00:03:08,245 You're standing there pissing on my floor. 50 00:03:08,338 --> 00:03:11,097 You're pissing on my wall. 51 00:03:11,192 --> 00:03:13,433 Jordan's alcoholism has come to the point 52 00:03:13,527 --> 00:03:18,530 Where if he doesn't have it, he shakes and trembles. 53 00:03:18,682 --> 00:03:21,758 From a medical standpoint, he can't be without it. 54 00:03:21,777 --> 00:03:24,945 Aubre: He's very skinny now from what he used to be 55 00:03:25,039 --> 00:03:28,265 And he's becoming frail. 56 00:03:28,283 --> 00:03:30,876 This one is this dinner plate from last night, where 57 00:03:31,027 --> 00:03:34,713 He did not eat his dinner. 58 00:03:34,940 --> 00:03:36,882 Two or three bites out of this one. 59 00:03:37,109 --> 00:03:41,628 This is his dinner plate from the night before. 60 00:03:41,722 --> 00:03:44,848 Our problem is just drink until whenever. 61 00:03:55,978 --> 00:03:57,978 So you are feeling like you need a drink right now? 62 00:03:58,072 --> 00:03:59,404 Yes, probably about 3 ounces. 63 00:04:03,059 --> 00:04:06,152 All right. 64 00:04:06,305 --> 00:04:10,824 So today I'm preparing a monitored amount 65 00:04:10,976 --> 00:04:15,737 Of alcohol for jordan every three hours to keep him stable. 66 00:04:15,831 --> 00:04:20,817 Because last night, he drank so much that I was concerned 67 00:04:20,910 --> 00:04:22,594 He was going to have a stroke. 68 00:04:25,824 --> 00:04:29,268 I don't like myself doing this because phil 69 00:04:29,419 --> 00:04:32,512 And I don't allow drinking in our home. 70 00:04:32,664 --> 00:04:39,352 But when he is this dependent on alcohol, if he just quits, 71 00:04:39,505 --> 00:04:41,095 He will go into seizures. 72 00:04:41,115 --> 00:04:43,282 And I can't handle that. 73 00:04:43,509 --> 00:04:47,619 So it's better than me seeing him in a state 74 00:04:47,846 --> 00:04:52,866 Where I would have to call 911 and get an ambulance 75 00:04:52,960 --> 00:04:54,459 To come and intervene. 76 00:04:57,798 --> 00:04:59,022 This is 3 ounces. 77 00:04:59,115 --> 00:05:00,540 This is what we agreed on. 78 00:05:00,634 --> 00:05:03,193 I have enough to sustain you. 79 00:05:03,211 --> 00:05:03,969 Ok. 80 00:05:07,049 --> 00:05:10,050 I don't really like my mom being a bartender. 81 00:05:10,202 --> 00:05:13,979 It's disgraceful to me. 82 00:05:14,130 --> 00:05:17,316 3 ounces of vodka every three hours, 83 00:05:17,543 --> 00:05:19,985 It's much less than I've drank in a long time. 84 00:05:20,212 --> 00:05:26,158 So there's going to come a point where, you know, 85 00:05:26,309 --> 00:05:27,576 I'm going to have to have something. 86 00:05:30,906 --> 00:05:31,997 What happened last night? 87 00:05:34,910 --> 00:05:36,393 I said do not ever do that. 88 00:05:36,411 --> 00:05:37,894 If we need to, we will. 89 00:05:37,913 --> 00:05:40,655 You couldn't stand on your own two legs. 90 00:05:40,674 --> 00:05:41,581 We got you up. 91 00:05:41,675 --> 00:05:43,249 You fell on the floor. 92 00:05:43,344 --> 00:05:45,085 You couldn't even crawl. 93 00:05:45,179 --> 00:05:48,905 You couldn't put one hand in front of the other or a knee. 94 00:05:48,924 --> 00:05:51,499 I don't think that's the case, but-- 95 00:05:51,518 --> 00:05:53,577 And your eyes were just rolling 96 00:05:53,595 --> 00:05:54,669 Into the back of your head. 97 00:05:54,688 --> 00:05:55,912 I was probably tired. 98 00:05:55,931 --> 00:05:58,005 No, stop making that excuse. 99 00:05:58,025 --> 00:05:59,432 I am tired of hearing the excuse. 100 00:05:59,585 --> 00:06:00,266 Ok. 101 00:06:00,361 --> 00:06:01,768 I'm tired. 102 00:06:01,920 --> 00:06:03,920 When I go overboard and drink too much, 103 00:06:04,013 --> 00:06:07,199 It's bits and pieces that you remember. 104 00:06:07,350 --> 00:06:10,276 It's-- it's difficult sometimes because there's gaps, 105 00:06:10,371 --> 00:06:15,432 Trying to put together things somebody has told you about. 106 00:06:15,525 --> 00:06:18,284 You were so inebriated last night. 107 00:06:18,437 --> 00:06:23,548 You had dad and I extremely scared. 108 00:06:23,700 --> 00:06:25,609 And I'm still alive today. 109 00:06:25,702 --> 00:06:29,721 Last night, you could not say mom. 110 00:06:29,873 --> 00:06:30,889 Well, that was last night. 111 00:06:31,116 --> 00:06:32,373 Look at me. 112 00:06:32,393 --> 00:06:35,952 It scared me, jordan. 113 00:06:35,971 --> 00:06:37,287 Vincent: I don't think my parents 114 00:06:37,380 --> 00:06:38,638 Should be responsible for babysitting 115 00:06:38,732 --> 00:06:40,306 Jordan on a daily basis. 116 00:06:40,459 --> 00:06:42,459 I feel that jordan is being enabled 117 00:06:42,552 --> 00:06:44,477 And hasn't gotten any better. 118 00:06:44,571 --> 00:06:47,239 Nothing's changed and I disagree with him being there. 119 00:06:54,081 --> 00:06:57,916 Jordan: Sometimes I drink without my parents seeing me 120 00:06:58,143 --> 00:07:02,236 Just because we need to continuously have a drink 121 00:07:02,330 --> 00:07:04,756 So that I can just feel better. 122 00:07:08,095 --> 00:07:16,268 Over a given day, I drink a bottle s vodka or tequila. 123 00:07:16,419 --> 00:07:21,181 I'll buy it and then drink half of it within about 30 seconds. 124 00:07:21,275 --> 00:07:25,193 And then progressively through the night, finish it off. 125 00:07:31,118 --> 00:07:34,360 Sometimes I just hide it somewhere 126 00:07:34,513 --> 00:07:38,123 Because I respect them, so I'll adhere to what they wish. 127 00:07:42,779 --> 00:07:44,129 Lisa: I don't particularly like it 128 00:07:44,280 --> 00:07:47,040 When jordan goes on a walk this late at night 129 00:07:47,192 --> 00:07:51,711 When it's dark out, because I know whenever he goes out 130 00:07:51,863 --> 00:07:55,715 The door, day or night time, he doesn't make 131 00:07:55,867 --> 00:07:57,625 The most rational decisions. 132 00:07:57,644 --> 00:08:00,312 And I know he wanted to go somewhere where 133 00:08:00,463 --> 00:08:02,964 He could buy some alcohol. 134 00:08:02,983 --> 00:08:06,543 And, you know, he's just drinking until he 135 00:08:06,561 --> 00:08:07,652 Walks back in the door. 136 00:08:11,474 --> 00:08:14,951 Phil: And usually, jordan hides his booze down here. 137 00:08:17,814 --> 00:08:19,164 Only one bottle. 138 00:08:19,391 --> 00:08:22,075 Usually I look in there and there's several. 139 00:08:22,227 --> 00:08:24,336 Lisa: Jordan will hide the alcohol, 140 00:08:24,563 --> 00:08:30,091 And he will sneak upstairs to the bathroom and drink it. 141 00:08:33,180 --> 00:08:33,845 This is a lot. 142 00:08:36,517 --> 00:08:38,742 Oh, goodness. 143 00:08:38,760 --> 00:08:42,262 All this stuff. 144 00:08:42,414 --> 00:08:45,190 We got some money to buy this, but we're 145 00:08:45,341 --> 00:08:47,174 Making this truck payments every month that we 146 00:08:47,269 --> 00:08:50,587 Have been for the last year. 147 00:08:50,605 --> 00:08:52,013 Why he is home? 148 00:08:52,032 --> 00:08:55,016 I can encourage him to follow the plan that 149 00:08:55,035 --> 00:08:57,685 I've set up for him, but jordan is 150 00:08:57,704 --> 00:09:02,782 An adult so I cannot stop him. 151 00:09:02,934 --> 00:09:06,027 What a lot. 152 00:09:06,121 --> 00:09:09,381 [music playing] 153 00:09:14,203 --> 00:09:15,703 Ken seeley: My name is ken seeley. 154 00:09:15,722 --> 00:09:18,223 I'm a certified case manager interventionist. 155 00:09:18,374 --> 00:09:22,468 Today I'm meeting with jordan's siblings, aubreana and derek, 156 00:09:22,563 --> 00:09:26,122 To find out what it's been like in the last few months 157 00:09:26,141 --> 00:09:27,715 And how we ended up here. 158 00:09:27,809 --> 00:09:29,959 [knock on door] 159 00:09:29,978 --> 00:09:30,810 Hi. 160 00:09:30,962 --> 00:09:32,053 Hey, how's it going? 161 00:09:32,072 --> 00:09:33,479 Derek, jordan's older brother. 162 00:09:33,574 --> 00:09:34,573 Ken seeley: Nice to meet you. 163 00:09:40,247 --> 00:09:42,322 Tell me a little bit what's been going on. 164 00:09:42,416 --> 00:09:45,642 I'm very happy that we're able to do this and hopefully get 165 00:09:45,735 --> 00:09:47,234 Jordan the help that he needs. 166 00:09:47,329 --> 00:09:49,087 How bad has it been? 167 00:09:49,238 --> 00:09:51,590 You know, he has to drink to pretty much stay alive now 168 00:09:51,741 --> 00:09:53,091 Or otherwise he's shaking. 169 00:09:53,242 --> 00:09:55,668 He can't take care of himself anymore. 170 00:09:55,821 --> 00:09:57,821 My mom kind of has to baby him now. 171 00:09:57,914 --> 00:09:59,747 A lot of people, they get addicted 172 00:09:59,841 --> 00:10:01,916 Because of some form of trauma. 173 00:10:01,935 --> 00:10:05,345 So I wanted to find out what your childhood was like. 174 00:10:05,497 --> 00:10:07,088 What was it like for him? 175 00:10:07,182 --> 00:10:09,682 My parents, you know, raised us the best they could. 176 00:10:09,776 --> 00:10:15,171 We never, in childhood, like, really wanted for anything. 177 00:10:15,190 --> 00:10:17,857 We would go on vacations together as a family. 178 00:10:17,951 --> 00:10:20,526 We went to church every Sunday together as a family. 179 00:10:20,621 --> 00:10:23,121 We would all sit down together and have dinner as a family. 180 00:10:23,272 --> 00:10:25,181 Jordan is the one that's right below me, 181 00:10:25,274 --> 00:10:27,016 So we would do everything together. 182 00:10:27,035 --> 00:10:30,611 We would go fishing and hunting with my dad and my grandpa. 183 00:10:30,705 --> 00:10:32,372 We went to the same school. 184 00:10:32,466 --> 00:10:33,965 We would dress alike. 185 00:10:34,117 --> 00:10:35,859 Twinning is what we kind of called it. 186 00:10:35,952 --> 00:10:37,861 I mean, we were absolutely best friends. 187 00:10:37,879 --> 00:10:39,787 So what was going on at 18? 188 00:10:39,881 --> 00:10:42,215 That's when he joined the army. 189 00:10:42,309 --> 00:10:45,551 Jordan: I joined the army because my grandfather 190 00:10:45,704 --> 00:10:48,204 Had done a lot of great work in the army. 191 00:10:48,223 --> 00:10:51,816 Just always wanted to follow in his footsteps. 192 00:10:52,043 --> 00:10:53,818 During my time in the army, I met my wife. 193 00:10:53,970 --> 00:10:57,897 And overall, it was the best times of my life. 194 00:10:58,049 --> 00:11:00,492 I loved where I was working in the army. 195 00:11:00,719 --> 00:11:04,996 And then I loved building a life and a family. 196 00:11:05,223 --> 00:11:09,316 I have two daughters age 12 and six right now. 197 00:11:09,336 --> 00:11:13,988 I was 100% involved at any second that I could be. 198 00:11:14,007 --> 00:11:15,415 I changed diapers. 199 00:11:15,509 --> 00:11:18,492 I take them to school, fishing, everything 200 00:11:18,512 --> 00:11:20,161 You could do outdoors. 201 00:11:20,255 --> 00:11:21,846 I was excited to be a dad. 202 00:11:21,998 --> 00:11:24,908 How was he like at family events with the kids? 203 00:11:24,926 --> 00:11:27,168 We would all, like, play badminton together and-- 204 00:11:27,262 --> 00:11:28,428 Derek: Volunteer at the church. 205 00:11:28,522 --> 00:11:29,579 Yeah. 206 00:11:29,597 --> 00:11:31,338 He was a really good father. 207 00:11:31,433 --> 00:11:34,434 In the military, was there any traumatic experiences there? 208 00:11:34,586 --> 00:11:35,509 Did he go overseas? 209 00:11:35,529 --> 00:11:37,344 Did he-- 210 00:11:37,439 --> 00:11:39,531 Something happened for sure when he was in the army. 211 00:11:39,682 --> 00:11:42,442 So when jordan was in the army, he went to fort benning 212 00:11:42,594 --> 00:11:44,944 For airborne school. 213 00:11:45,096 --> 00:11:47,931 During a training event, he fell off one of the towers, 214 00:11:48,024 --> 00:11:50,041 And he injured his back, which resulted 215 00:11:50,193 --> 00:11:53,603 In him not successfully completing the course. 216 00:11:53,696 --> 00:11:55,455 Jordan: I served eight years in the army 217 00:11:55,549 --> 00:11:58,717 Before they medically discharged me because of it. 218 00:11:58,944 --> 00:12:02,462 It's absolutely very difficult because I have 219 00:12:02,556 --> 00:12:04,447 Had a great time in the army. 220 00:12:04,466 --> 00:12:07,726 So after I was honorably discharged from the military, 221 00:12:07,953 --> 00:12:11,454 I chose to go to nursing school so that I could 222 00:12:11,547 --> 00:12:14,958 Serve in a different capacity. 223 00:12:15,051 --> 00:12:17,235 During my job as an icu nurse, I love the fact 224 00:12:17,462 --> 00:12:20,463 That I can just help people on their worst 225 00:12:20,556 --> 00:12:21,906 Day of their entire lives. 226 00:12:22,133 --> 00:12:23,724 Derek: It seemed like jordan and his family 227 00:12:23,744 --> 00:12:25,910 Were doing very well, taking care of his daughters, 228 00:12:26,062 --> 00:12:28,413 Really living in the life that he had set out for. 229 00:12:28,640 --> 00:12:32,900 And then when he was 32, covid-19 came to the us. 230 00:12:32,919 --> 00:12:37,088 The trauma, his experiences that build up. 231 00:12:37,240 --> 00:12:40,817 So did he ever talk to you guys about how it was 232 00:12:40,835 --> 00:12:42,835 Working in icu during covid? 233 00:12:42,988 --> 00:12:44,596 It took a lot out of him. 234 00:12:44,747 --> 00:12:48,099 He was the last person that a lot of these people saw. 235 00:12:48,251 --> 00:12:51,344 And I just remember him saying that, you know, 236 00:12:51,496 --> 00:12:54,680 The amount of death that he was around was really hard for him. 237 00:12:54,833 --> 00:12:56,682 I think it was very shocking for jordan 238 00:12:56,777 --> 00:13:00,336 To see that he was losing so many patients to covid-19. 239 00:13:00,355 --> 00:13:02,429 And I remember when jordan's drinking 240 00:13:02,449 --> 00:13:06,117 Went from casual drinks to drinking on a day-to-day basis. 241 00:13:06,344 --> 00:13:09,788 And it just seems like it's progressively gotten worse. 242 00:13:09,939 --> 00:13:12,290 He was telling me that he would stop off and get three bottles 243 00:13:12,441 --> 00:13:13,866 Of wine and drink those on his way home 244 00:13:13,960 --> 00:13:15,109 Just so he could go to sleep. 245 00:13:15,128 --> 00:13:18,855 That was his everyday routine. 246 00:13:18,873 --> 00:13:21,524 That was a period of time when it was very hopeless for him. 247 00:13:21,543 --> 00:13:24,302 I saw the relationship between him and his wife deteriorate. 248 00:13:28,124 --> 00:13:31,551 Jordan: You lose a lot in the icu. 249 00:13:31,645 --> 00:13:38,875 It's absolutely very demanding to deal with the trauma 250 00:13:38,893 --> 00:13:42,228 And distress and sadness. 251 00:13:42,322 --> 00:13:45,306 And a lot of times, I would take extra shifts 252 00:13:45,400 --> 00:13:47,641 And not be at home. 253 00:13:47,661 --> 00:13:51,721 So then my drinking picked up more than it ever had. 254 00:13:51,814 --> 00:13:54,223 And how long did he work in icu? 255 00:13:54,242 --> 00:13:56,075 Up until nine months ago. 256 00:13:56,169 --> 00:13:58,986 Jordan had gone to work, just got to work, 257 00:13:59,005 --> 00:14:01,731 And his wife called him while he was there on the floor 258 00:14:01,824 --> 00:14:05,159 And told him that she wanted a divorce. 259 00:14:05,178 --> 00:14:09,422 She just unloaded on him, saying, you're never home. 260 00:14:09,516 --> 00:14:11,015 You know, you're drunk a lot. 261 00:14:11,242 --> 00:14:14,093 And all of the distress that created it 262 00:14:14,245 --> 00:14:16,271 Caused something to happen to him that particular night. 263 00:14:21,844 --> 00:14:25,196 I can't really say that on camera? 264 00:14:25,423 --> 00:14:28,199 That's really what made him hit rock bottom. 265 00:14:28,351 --> 00:14:31,185 I think that's where it got really bad. 266 00:14:31,204 --> 00:14:32,704 What happened? 267 00:14:32,931 --> 00:14:37,191 He overdosed at a hospital that he was working at 268 00:14:37,285 --> 00:14:38,710 And clinically died. 269 00:14:45,385 --> 00:14:47,051 What happened? 270 00:14:47,203 --> 00:14:51,130 He overdosed at a hospital that he was working at 271 00:14:51,282 --> 00:14:53,950 And clinically died. 272 00:14:53,968 --> 00:14:57,312 [music playing] 273 00:15:01,902 --> 00:15:03,902 But after he overdosed, he was not 274 00:15:04,129 --> 00:15:07,238 Able to go back to the hospital that he was working at. 275 00:15:07,465 --> 00:15:10,557 I'm sure he's probably just stayed drunk the entire time 276 00:15:10,577 --> 00:15:11,984 To deal with it. 277 00:15:12,137 --> 00:15:13,745 And unfortunately now, he's been drinking 278 00:15:13,896 --> 00:15:15,729 Very hard alcohol as well. 279 00:15:15,749 --> 00:15:16,989 Drinks half a bottle of vodka. 280 00:15:17,083 --> 00:15:17,916 That's just-- 281 00:15:18,067 --> 00:15:19,751 That's his life right now? 282 00:15:19,978 --> 00:15:22,812 Since-- since our brother died, our little brother aaron. 283 00:15:22,830 --> 00:15:24,571 No way. 284 00:15:24,591 --> 00:15:25,665 I'm so sorry. 285 00:15:25,759 --> 00:15:26,382 What happened? 286 00:15:31,765 --> 00:15:37,009 In October of '21, we lost our middle brother aaron. 287 00:15:37,103 --> 00:15:39,162 How did he pass away? 288 00:15:39,180 --> 00:15:41,940 The official report is that he died of suicide. 289 00:15:42,167 --> 00:15:44,591 Wow. 290 00:15:44,611 --> 00:15:45,835 How old was he? Aubre: 31. 291 00:15:45,928 --> 00:15:46,686 Derek: 31. 292 00:15:46,838 --> 00:15:48,020 31? 293 00:15:48,173 --> 00:15:48,929 Oh, my god. 294 00:15:48,949 --> 00:15:49,906 I'm so sorry. 295 00:15:53,194 --> 00:15:55,861 So it has to be traumatic on him, my god, to-- 296 00:15:56,014 --> 00:15:59,031 I mean, talk about wanting to numb something out. 297 00:15:59,184 --> 00:16:02,685 Jordan has called aubre at 4:00 in the morning her time. 298 00:16:02,778 --> 00:16:04,945 Insinuating about hurting himself. 299 00:16:04,965 --> 00:16:06,947 Even though what just happened with your brother, 300 00:16:06,967 --> 00:16:08,191 He still talks-- 301 00:16:08,209 --> 00:16:09,467 He's made comments before. 302 00:16:09,694 --> 00:16:11,135 Wow. 303 00:16:11,287 --> 00:16:14,472 On top of all the loss in the covid icu, 304 00:16:14,699 --> 00:16:17,533 He's going through trauma with his wife. 305 00:16:17,626 --> 00:16:23,314 And then now losing his brother is just piling on to his trauma 306 00:16:23,541 --> 00:16:26,225 And just making it so devastating 307 00:16:26,377 --> 00:16:29,153 That he just doesn't see a way out right now. 308 00:16:29,305 --> 00:16:31,564 If he doesn't get help, we will 309 00:16:31,658 --> 00:16:33,232 Be burying another brother, and my parents 310 00:16:33,326 --> 00:16:35,067 Will be burying another child. 311 00:16:35,161 --> 00:16:36,902 And then we'll probably be burying a mom right after that. 312 00:16:37,055 --> 00:16:37,745 Wow. 313 00:16:46,914 --> 00:16:50,324 I hope jordan eats tonight because I am 314 00:16:50,343 --> 00:16:53,469 Very, very worried about him. 315 00:16:56,332 --> 00:17:01,519 I'm very concerned about his nutritional health. 316 00:17:01,670 --> 00:17:05,189 The last time he ate a meal was four days ago, 317 00:17:05,416 --> 00:17:09,752 And I just see him slowly withering. 318 00:17:09,845 --> 00:17:10,987 Right, hand me your plate, please. 319 00:17:14,517 --> 00:17:15,775 You haven't eaten in days. 320 00:17:15,869 --> 00:17:18,778 So please eat. 321 00:17:18,872 --> 00:17:24,767 So in the last few days, I haven't eaten much. 322 00:17:24,860 --> 00:17:29,297 I would say alcohol took precedence over eating. 323 00:17:38,132 --> 00:17:40,725 You can't just undo this. 324 00:17:40,876 --> 00:17:42,727 I understand that, jordan. 325 00:17:42,954 --> 00:17:47,456 You can't just quit cold turkey or you're going to seize, 326 00:17:47,475 --> 00:17:49,550 Go into seizures and die. 327 00:17:49,644 --> 00:17:52,795 But the last three weeks, it's gotten 328 00:17:52,814 --> 00:17:54,980 Worse and worse and worse. 329 00:17:55,075 --> 00:17:56,315 I'm fine. 330 00:17:56,467 --> 00:17:58,409 I don't even want to eat right now. 331 00:17:58,636 --> 00:17:59,577 So let me wrap it-- 332 00:17:59,804 --> 00:18:00,820 Wrap it up. 333 00:18:00,972 --> 00:18:02,246 Wrap it up, put it in the fridge. 334 00:18:02,473 --> 00:18:04,064 Ok. 335 00:18:04,084 --> 00:18:04,916 Don't worry about me. 336 00:18:05,143 --> 00:18:05,750 I'm fine. 337 00:18:05,977 --> 00:18:06,976 No, you're not fine. 338 00:18:06,994 --> 00:18:07,752 I'm fine. 339 00:18:14,094 --> 00:18:18,429 Lisa: Jordan always just tells me I'm fine, I'm fine. 340 00:18:18,581 --> 00:18:23,159 He doesn't acknowledge how hurt that makes me because I 341 00:18:23,177 --> 00:18:26,104 See that he's not fine. 342 00:18:26,331 --> 00:18:28,922 I don't think he wants to admit truly 343 00:18:28,942 --> 00:18:32,193 To himself how not well he is. 344 00:18:40,345 --> 00:18:42,102 I need to be outside. 345 00:18:42,122 --> 00:18:45,865 I'm not known as an indoors person at all. 346 00:18:45,959 --> 00:18:47,700 Oh, boy. 347 00:18:47,852 --> 00:18:52,279 So whatever it takes to get me out of there and outside, 348 00:18:52,298 --> 00:18:53,047 I'll take it. 349 00:18:56,210 --> 00:19:00,638 Lisa: It's very sad to see him in a state that he is. 350 00:19:06,813 --> 00:19:11,107 Very difficult as his mom because I want to fix him. 351 00:19:15,546 --> 00:19:16,154 And I can't. 352 00:19:25,832 --> 00:19:27,498 Jordan. 353 00:19:27,725 --> 00:19:29,834 Jordan! 354 00:19:30,061 --> 00:19:31,335 Look at me. 355 00:19:31,562 --> 00:19:33,820 Jordan! 356 00:19:33,915 --> 00:19:35,256 Do I need to call an ambulance? 357 00:19:43,758 --> 00:19:46,075 Jordan! 358 00:19:46,093 --> 00:19:48,911 Do I need to call an ambulance? 359 00:19:48,930 --> 00:19:53,840 By the time night came around, he was so inebriated that phil 360 00:19:53,860 --> 00:20:02,925 And I almost called 911. 361 00:20:03,018 --> 00:20:04,202 What do you want to eat with this? 362 00:20:07,448 --> 00:20:08,539 What's the option? 363 00:20:08,766 --> 00:20:10,857 Lisa: But he, so far today, is good. 364 00:20:10,877 --> 00:20:12,693 He's talking. 365 00:20:12,787 --> 00:20:15,713 And so I'm trying metered drinking again and preparing 366 00:20:15,940 --> 00:20:17,548 To watch him today. 367 00:20:17,700 --> 00:20:19,442 First of all, how many ounces are we going to do? 368 00:20:19,535 --> 00:20:21,535 4. 369 00:20:21,554 --> 00:20:23,203 Start with 4. 370 00:20:23,223 --> 00:20:25,038 Start with 4? 371 00:20:25,132 --> 00:20:27,616 We'll start with 4 and then we'll do 3 the next time. 372 00:20:27,710 --> 00:20:29,134 All right. 373 00:20:29,287 --> 00:20:34,881 Losing one child has shattered my heart. 374 00:20:34,901 --> 00:20:37,068 Stop. 375 00:20:37,295 --> 00:20:41,722 All right, that is 3 and 1/2, all right? 376 00:20:41,741 --> 00:20:44,057 And it is 12:15. 377 00:20:44,077 --> 00:20:47,470 We're going to also document the timing of this today. 378 00:20:47,563 --> 00:20:54,901 If I lost jordan, I don't know how 379 00:20:54,921 --> 00:20:56,545 Much longer I can keep living. 380 00:21:02,336 --> 00:21:04,169 [phone ringing] 381 00:21:04,264 --> 00:21:05,337 Daughter 1 (on phone): Hello. 382 00:21:05,490 --> 00:21:06,655 Hey, bubba. 383 00:21:06,674 --> 00:21:07,598 Daughter 1 (on phone): Hi. 384 00:21:07,825 --> 00:21:09,325 What are you doing? 385 00:21:09,343 --> 00:21:11,435 Daughter 1 (on phone): I'm eating a popsicle. 386 00:21:11,662 --> 00:21:13,437 What flavor? 387 00:21:13,589 --> 00:21:15,180 Daughter 1 (on phone): Cherry. - Cherry? 388 00:21:15,275 --> 00:21:16,499 Daughter 1 (on phone): Mm-hmm. 389 00:21:16,517 --> 00:21:18,501 That's my girl. 390 00:21:18,519 --> 00:21:19,668 Daughter 2 (on phone): Hi, dad. 391 00:21:19,762 --> 00:21:20,519 Hey, baby. 392 00:21:20,671 --> 00:21:21,595 How are you? 393 00:21:21,614 --> 00:21:22,947 Daughter 2 (on phone): I'm good. 394 00:21:23,098 --> 00:21:24,782 I talk to my daughters every single day. 395 00:21:28,288 --> 00:21:31,363 I can't see them, but at least I can speak with them. 396 00:21:31,516 --> 00:21:33,457 How was school today? 397 00:21:33,609 --> 00:21:34,867 Daughter 1 (on phone): It was ok. 398 00:21:35,019 --> 00:21:37,353 What did you make for lunch? 399 00:21:37,371 --> 00:21:41,465 Daughter 1 (on phone): I had a capri sun and a yogurt. 400 00:21:41,617 --> 00:21:43,134 Jordan: The calls from my daughters 401 00:21:43,285 --> 00:21:46,787 Are important because they need me and I wouldn't drink 402 00:21:46,806 --> 00:21:50,382 The amount that I'd do if I was with them, 403 00:21:50,535 --> 00:21:53,052 If I were able to see them. 404 00:21:53,146 --> 00:21:55,371 Well, I miss you guys so much. 405 00:21:55,464 --> 00:21:56,814 Daughter 1 (on phone): I miss you too. 406 00:21:56,965 --> 00:21:58,482 Daughter 2 (on phone): I miss you too. 407 00:21:58,709 --> 00:22:01,319 Jordan: Talk to you tomorrow, ok? 408 00:22:01,470 --> 00:22:02,469 Daughter 1 (on phone): Ok. 409 00:22:02,488 --> 00:22:03,804 All right, I love you. 410 00:22:03,898 --> 00:22:05,214 Daughter 1 (on phone): Love you too. 411 00:22:05,232 --> 00:22:05,806 Daughter 2 (on phone): Love you too. 412 00:22:05,900 --> 00:22:06,565 Love you, baby. 413 00:22:06,717 --> 00:22:07,808 Bye. 414 00:22:07,902 --> 00:22:08,826 Daughter 2 (on phone): Bye. 415 00:22:12,165 --> 00:22:15,624 [sniffs] 416 00:22:27,238 --> 00:22:28,471 I just miss my kids. 417 00:22:32,518 --> 00:22:34,518 Talking to them is not enough. 418 00:22:37,264 --> 00:22:38,189 I need to be with them. 419 00:22:44,422 --> 00:22:48,366 Lisa: Jordan has not seen his daughters for many months. 420 00:22:48,593 --> 00:22:52,761 His daughters live in north carolina with their mother. 421 00:22:52,855 --> 00:22:58,709 And he is heartbroken and shattered to the fact 422 00:22:58,861 --> 00:23:03,772 That he has not been able to be a hands-on father. 423 00:23:03,866 --> 00:23:09,369 He wants that relationship back with his daughters desperately. 424 00:23:09,389 --> 00:23:13,782 They're 2,000 miles away from me. 425 00:23:13,801 --> 00:23:22,733 So breaking that line of connection is difficult. 426 00:23:22,885 --> 00:23:25,069 Phil: Jordan has, on several occasions, 427 00:23:25,296 --> 00:23:28,072 After he talks to his daughter, he goes and drinks behind 428 00:23:28,299 --> 00:23:32,058 Closed doors just to be able to function 429 00:23:32,078 --> 00:23:33,077 To calm his nerves down. 430 00:23:37,158 --> 00:23:41,160 Apparently, jordan is extremely intoxicated 431 00:23:41,312 --> 00:23:42,828 When he talks to the girls. 432 00:23:42,922 --> 00:23:45,756 And I could see the anguish in just in his demeanor. 433 00:23:45,983 --> 00:23:48,074 He just feels hopeless and feels like there's 434 00:23:48,094 --> 00:23:49,844 No way of recovering his life. 435 00:23:54,492 --> 00:23:56,842 I knew that this controlled drinking for jordan 436 00:23:56,936 --> 00:24:01,830 Was just a band-aid fix for his condition. 437 00:24:01,924 --> 00:24:05,517 I was kind of hoping it might last a little longer because it 438 00:24:05,611 --> 00:24:08,094 Just gives us a little bit of reprieve from the chaos, 439 00:24:08,189 --> 00:24:12,766 But certainly no surprise that he's failed once again. 440 00:24:12,785 --> 00:24:17,529 And if he doesn't get help, you know, we may never see him 441 00:24:17,623 --> 00:24:19,865 Again, whether he dies or he just ends up out on the street 442 00:24:20,017 --> 00:24:20,916 Somewhere wandering around. 443 00:24:31,362 --> 00:24:33,637 Jordan: My ex-wife and my brother 444 00:24:33,864 --> 00:24:36,122 Passing away, I mean, it's a whole lot of things 445 00:24:36,142 --> 00:24:37,766 That brought me to this point. 446 00:24:41,630 --> 00:24:46,317 I was pulled away from my kids, the hospital that I worked at. 447 00:24:52,658 --> 00:24:53,741 I've lost everything. 448 00:25:02,484 --> 00:25:04,668 I know your dad couldn't come, right? 449 00:25:04,820 --> 00:25:09,155 Phil is not able to be with us right now because he got a call 450 00:25:09,175 --> 00:25:13,418 From his work to go from flying passengers 451 00:25:13,571 --> 00:25:19,332 To flying 737 cargo jet, which is setting 452 00:25:19,426 --> 00:25:22,002 Us up for his retirement. 453 00:25:22,021 --> 00:25:23,579 Something he's been waiting nearly 454 00:25:23,597 --> 00:25:25,414 Three years to be accepted for. 455 00:25:25,507 --> 00:25:27,507 Yeah, it's a hard decision, right? 456 00:25:27,527 --> 00:25:31,845 I know he wishes he could be here, but all of the siblings 457 00:25:31,864 --> 00:25:37,350 Have flown out from their homes to be here for jordan. 458 00:25:37,370 --> 00:25:39,444 There's a lot of ptsd, right? 459 00:25:39,597 --> 00:25:41,930 There's a lot of trauma that he was dealing with. 460 00:25:41,949 --> 00:25:45,951 Coming home from work, you know, drinking three bottles of wine 461 00:25:46,045 --> 00:25:47,694 To deal with all those deaths. 462 00:25:47,788 --> 00:25:50,122 I mean, I couldn't even imagine seeing that every day 463 00:25:50,274 --> 00:25:51,440 Constantly. 464 00:25:51,458 --> 00:25:53,442 And then in the middle of all that, 465 00:25:53,460 --> 00:25:56,962 Losing his kids and his wife and losing his brother. 466 00:25:57,114 --> 00:25:59,948 And so it's like, piling and piling 467 00:26:00,042 --> 00:26:02,301 And piling and piling on top of them. 468 00:26:02,395 --> 00:26:04,395 And then you're all the way in another country, right? 469 00:26:04,546 --> 00:26:05,545 The furthest away. 470 00:26:05,565 --> 00:26:06,730 Yes, I live in Italy. 471 00:26:06,957 --> 00:26:08,140 And how is it affecting you where 472 00:26:08,234 --> 00:26:10,067 You have to pick up the phone? 473 00:26:10,218 --> 00:26:13,219 I care more for him than I do myself in making sure that he's 474 00:26:13,239 --> 00:26:14,630 Ok, because I don't know if it'll 475 00:26:14,648 --> 00:26:16,481 Be the last time I talk to him. 476 00:26:16,576 --> 00:26:17,891 Yeah. 477 00:26:17,985 --> 00:26:19,651 And, you know, it's affecting my mom. 478 00:26:19,745 --> 00:26:23,563 It's affecting my dad and causing them stress and chaos 479 00:26:23,583 --> 00:26:25,249 As well. 480 00:26:25,476 --> 00:26:29,086 It's the disease that's doing that because that's not-- 481 00:26:29,313 --> 00:26:30,904 It's still keeping you guys hostage. 482 00:26:30,923 --> 00:26:32,072 And it still is something that you have to deal with. 483 00:26:32,091 --> 00:26:33,165 It is. 484 00:26:33,259 --> 00:26:34,574 Addiction is a family disease. 485 00:26:34,594 --> 00:26:36,260 If you're not taking care of you, 486 00:26:36,411 --> 00:26:38,429 You're never going to take care of him. 487 00:26:38,656 --> 00:26:40,931 You know, he's the one drinking himself to death, 488 00:26:41,158 --> 00:26:42,433 But you're the ones that are killing 489 00:26:42,660 --> 00:26:44,827 Yourselves, worrying yourselves to death 490 00:26:44,845 --> 00:26:47,087 And trying to control it. 491 00:26:47,181 --> 00:26:52,184 Well, if I fix this, then we all have a better chance. 492 00:26:52,336 --> 00:26:53,593 Your dad's a pilot. 493 00:26:53,613 --> 00:26:55,261 What do they say when the oxygen happens? 494 00:26:55,356 --> 00:26:56,447 Who do you put it on first? 495 00:26:56,674 --> 00:26:58,765 Yourself before helping others. 496 00:26:58,784 --> 00:26:59,766 It's not healthy. 497 00:26:59,860 --> 00:27:01,101 It's not one for the other. 498 00:27:01,120 --> 00:27:02,620 It's not an even exchange. - I know. 499 00:27:02,847 --> 00:27:04,363 Ken seeley: You're not doing it for him. 500 00:27:04,515 --> 00:27:06,790 There's a saying in recovery, like, 501 00:27:06,942 --> 00:27:10,944 Codependency kills more addicts than addiction itself. 502 00:27:11,038 --> 00:27:14,857 Because every single addict has to hit a rock bottom. 503 00:27:14,875 --> 00:27:16,875 But when the co-dependency is there, 504 00:27:16,969 --> 00:27:21,046 You're putting this huge cushion underneath that rock bottom. 505 00:27:21,198 --> 00:27:23,215 And you're letting them stay comfortable. 506 00:27:23,309 --> 00:27:24,716 It never gets painful. 507 00:27:24,869 --> 00:27:26,368 Absolutely. 508 00:27:26,387 --> 00:27:27,886 Ken seeley: And until he hits that rock bottom 509 00:27:27,980 --> 00:27:30,981 And it's painful, he's never going to stop. 510 00:27:31,133 --> 00:27:32,966 Vincent: We all look at this opportunity tomorrow 511 00:27:33,060 --> 00:27:35,653 Is the end of many years of suffering 512 00:27:35,804 --> 00:27:37,470 And all the issues he's brought us. 513 00:27:37,564 --> 00:27:39,973 So if he turns down this opportunity, 514 00:27:39,992 --> 00:27:41,659 It's going to be devastating. 515 00:27:41,810 --> 00:27:45,053 And we just hope and pray that he goes, because if not, 516 00:27:45,072 --> 00:27:46,905 Nobody knows what else to do for him. 517 00:27:46,999 --> 00:27:51,001 He has no other alternatives besides jail or death. 518 00:27:51,153 --> 00:27:53,228 What are the things that we could 519 00:27:53,247 --> 00:27:57,675 Raise that rock bottom with to be motivated to want to change? 520 00:27:57,902 --> 00:27:58,992 His kids. 521 00:27:59,011 --> 00:28:00,569 They're already gone. 522 00:28:00,662 --> 00:28:02,738 But you could point it out as it would be more-- 523 00:28:02,756 --> 00:28:08,852 If you don't go, your children will be taken away-- 524 00:28:09,079 --> 00:28:09,853 For good. 525 00:28:10,080 --> 00:28:11,580 For good. 526 00:28:11,673 --> 00:28:13,265 You have no chance of getting custody. 527 00:28:13,417 --> 00:28:19,771 If you don't go, you will lose your nursing 528 00:28:19,924 --> 00:28:22,107 License permanently. 529 00:28:22,259 --> 00:28:23,608 Those are really good ones. 530 00:28:23,761 --> 00:28:24,927 I'm going to sell his truck. 531 00:28:25,020 --> 00:28:25,777 There you go. That's perfect. 532 00:28:25,930 --> 00:28:27,095 Ok. 533 00:28:27,114 --> 00:28:28,597 Dad's going to sell his motorcycle. 534 00:28:28,615 --> 00:28:30,374 So he won't have those. 535 00:28:30,525 --> 00:28:35,045 And with jordan, I think the positives, if you go, 536 00:28:35,197 --> 00:28:41,367 There are people that can help you with keeping 537 00:28:41,462 --> 00:28:43,795 His nursing license active. 538 00:28:43,889 --> 00:28:45,464 And custody of the kids. 539 00:28:45,616 --> 00:28:47,224 He could get joint custody. 540 00:28:47,451 --> 00:28:48,633 And there's so much that he could 541 00:28:48,786 --> 00:28:50,543 Gain if he chooses recovery. 542 00:28:50,637 --> 00:28:52,730 If he chooses to go, yes. 543 00:28:52,881 --> 00:28:54,790 And being at your house isn't helping him either. 544 00:28:54,883 --> 00:28:57,309 His behavior hasn't changed. 545 00:28:57,461 --> 00:28:59,628 I think the biggest issue lies within my parents. 546 00:28:59,646 --> 00:29:01,129 My parents had told him in the past 547 00:29:01,148 --> 00:29:02,798 That he wasn't allowed to drink there. 548 00:29:02,891 --> 00:29:04,649 If he did, he could be kicked out. 549 00:29:04,802 --> 00:29:06,059 And they've never done that. 550 00:29:06,153 --> 00:29:07,911 So I feel that by allowing him to stay 551 00:29:08,138 --> 00:29:11,081 There despite his actions, they're enabling him. 552 00:29:11,308 --> 00:29:13,066 If he chooses not to go tomorrow, 553 00:29:13,085 --> 00:29:14,752 Are you going to let him back into the house? 554 00:29:18,924 --> 00:29:20,240 That's very good bottom line. 555 00:29:20,259 --> 00:29:23,485 That-- that-- that's-- 556 00:29:23,504 --> 00:29:27,431 I mean, like, I don't even want to go down that road. 557 00:29:27,582 --> 00:29:28,173 We have to. 558 00:29:28,267 --> 00:29:29,433 Lisa: I know. 559 00:29:29,660 --> 00:29:30,917 For the sake of the intervention. 560 00:29:30,936 --> 00:29:32,511 Is he going to stay at your house tomorrow 561 00:29:32,663 --> 00:29:35,922 Night if he says no? 562 00:29:36,016 --> 00:29:43,280 I will have to somehow figure out how to tell him no, 563 00:29:43,507 --> 00:29:46,766 We wouldn't be able to be in the house. 564 00:29:46,786 --> 00:29:47,451 I don't know. 565 00:29:50,272 --> 00:29:52,197 One way or another if I would actually 566 00:29:52,349 --> 00:29:54,533 Be able to kick him out. 567 00:29:54,685 --> 00:29:56,701 How do you do this to your child? 568 00:29:56,854 --> 00:29:58,203 How? 569 00:29:58,355 --> 00:30:02,299 And I'm hoping and praying that he says yes 570 00:30:02,450 --> 00:30:05,427 And I don't even have to put that in on the table. 571 00:30:18,633 --> 00:30:22,060 I had jordan at home this morning. 572 00:30:22,212 --> 00:30:25,380 I was monitoring how much he was drinking so he wouldn't 573 00:30:25,399 --> 00:30:28,325 Be too intoxicated today. 574 00:30:28,552 --> 00:30:31,161 I had to make sure he had enough alcohol within him 575 00:30:31,313 --> 00:30:35,574 So his brain wouldn't go into seizures. 576 00:30:35,668 --> 00:30:40,486 I've been worried all night long just thinking about what 577 00:30:40,581 --> 00:30:42,914 If he does not accept this. 578 00:30:43,008 --> 00:30:49,404 How am I going to tell my son that he can't come back home 579 00:30:49,497 --> 00:30:53,592 And sleep in my home with me? 580 00:30:53,686 --> 00:30:54,685 Jordan, we got to go. 581 00:30:58,840 --> 00:30:59,481 We have an update? 582 00:31:03,195 --> 00:31:04,586 Perfect. 583 00:31:04,679 --> 00:31:06,179 So how are you guys feeling? - Unknown. 584 00:31:06,273 --> 00:31:07,772 This is kind of unsettling. 585 00:31:07,925 --> 00:31:11,017 If jordan didn't go and my mom had to kick him out, 586 00:31:11,036 --> 00:31:13,762 I think my dad would have to leave his position he's 587 00:31:13,780 --> 00:31:16,281 Training for because he wouldn't really be able to handle being 588 00:31:16,433 --> 00:31:19,117 So far away knowing that my mom was at home alone 589 00:31:19,211 --> 00:31:20,452 With jordan in that situation. 590 00:31:20,546 --> 00:31:22,195 And that's a big fear. 591 00:31:22,214 --> 00:31:23,955 He finally got this opportunity after three years, 592 00:31:24,108 --> 00:31:25,716 And I would hate to see it go away for him. 593 00:31:25,943 --> 00:31:26,942 Yeah. 594 00:31:26,960 --> 00:31:28,944 How are you feeling, jordan? 595 00:31:28,962 --> 00:31:30,629 I'm feeling ok. 596 00:31:30,781 --> 00:31:34,132 Right now, I'm not highly intoxicated by any means. 597 00:31:34,284 --> 00:31:35,559 And they just pulled up outside. 598 00:31:35,710 --> 00:31:36,393 Thank you. 599 00:31:43,961 --> 00:31:45,569 Oh, my gosh. 600 00:31:45,720 --> 00:31:46,552 Feeling all right? 601 00:31:46,572 --> 00:31:47,362 Yeah. 602 00:31:50,300 --> 00:31:52,659 I can't feel my feet, but I'll be all right. 603 00:32:01,478 --> 00:32:02,169 Hi, jordan. 604 00:32:04,924 --> 00:32:05,589 How you doing? 605 00:32:08,260 --> 00:32:08,908 Nice to meet you. 606 00:32:08,928 --> 00:32:09,834 You too. 607 00:32:09,987 --> 00:32:10,594 Jordan. 608 00:32:10,821 --> 00:32:11,428 Jordan. 609 00:32:14,433 --> 00:32:16,582 When did you get here? 610 00:32:16,602 --> 00:32:18,660 A couple of days ago. 611 00:32:18,679 --> 00:32:21,663 So I had the opportunity sitting down with your family 612 00:32:21,756 --> 00:32:23,774 And plan an intervention for you. 613 00:32:24,001 --> 00:32:26,426 They just put together some thoughts, 614 00:32:26,520 --> 00:32:28,094 And they just wrote them down if it's 615 00:32:28,188 --> 00:32:29,688 Ok if they could share them. 616 00:32:29,782 --> 00:32:32,449 Hopefully, a great opportunity for you, but that's 617 00:32:32,600 --> 00:32:33,408 All up to you. 618 00:32:36,346 --> 00:32:37,788 I'm willing to listen, yeah. 619 00:32:37,939 --> 00:32:40,457 So, vincent, you want to start? 620 00:32:40,684 --> 00:32:42,517 Jordan. 621 00:32:42,610 --> 00:32:46,037 I think about when I was young go into your army 622 00:32:46,190 --> 00:32:49,040 Basic training graduation, and you inspired 623 00:32:49,193 --> 00:32:51,693 Me to join the army as well. 624 00:32:51,712 --> 00:32:55,030 I remember back before falling into addiction how motivated, 625 00:32:55,048 --> 00:32:57,215 Determined, and successful you were. 626 00:32:57,367 --> 00:33:00,126 I don't want you to continue down this terrible path that 627 00:33:00,220 --> 00:33:05,223 Will ultimately lead to death or incarceration, if not changed. 628 00:33:05,317 --> 00:33:07,058 Derek, you want to go? 629 00:33:07,152 --> 00:33:09,894 Jordan, I'm here today because at one point in time, 630 00:33:09,989 --> 00:33:10,821 You were my best friend. 631 00:33:14,885 --> 00:33:19,496 Some of the best memories in my life were made with you. 632 00:33:19,647 --> 00:33:20,956 You and I have grown apart over time. 633 00:33:24,336 --> 00:33:27,653 Life has taken us on different paths as we had our families 634 00:33:27,673 --> 00:33:28,839 And work to provide for them. 635 00:33:32,511 --> 00:33:35,754 I deserve to have my brother back, and mom 636 00:33:35,848 --> 00:33:39,516 Cannot bury another son. 637 00:33:39,667 --> 00:33:41,167 Let's hear what your sister has to say. 638 00:33:41,186 --> 00:33:42,744 You want to read your letter? 639 00:33:42,837 --> 00:33:44,521 Jordan, one of my favorite memories 640 00:33:44,672 --> 00:33:46,414 Is when I turned eight or nine and I 641 00:33:46,433 --> 00:33:47,858 Decided I didn't want to grow up and I 642 00:33:48,009 --> 00:33:50,268 Wanted to be a baby again. 643 00:33:50,362 --> 00:33:53,030 Everyone thought I was bizarre and made me feel wrong. 644 00:33:53,257 --> 00:33:55,348 You saw that I was hurt by that and went out to buy 645 00:33:55,442 --> 00:33:57,868 Me a pacifier and a blanket. 646 00:33:58,095 --> 00:34:02,205 You made me feel happy again on my birthday. 647 00:34:02,357 --> 00:34:04,282 That's when I knew you were truly a good person that 648 00:34:04,376 --> 00:34:06,785 Had a caring and tender heart. 649 00:34:06,937 --> 00:34:08,770 Getting your call when you would overdose 650 00:34:08,789 --> 00:34:11,697 Was one of the most painful phone calls I have had. 651 00:34:11,717 --> 00:34:13,699 Because of that, I put myself through hours 652 00:34:13,719 --> 00:34:15,218 Of your drunken phone calls almost 653 00:34:15,370 --> 00:34:17,612 In tears on the other end. 654 00:34:17,631 --> 00:34:20,706 I'm fearful every day we will have to bury another brother. 655 00:34:20,726 --> 00:34:22,542 Your daughters will grow up without a father, 656 00:34:22,636 --> 00:34:24,969 And mom and dad will lose another son. 657 00:34:25,122 --> 00:34:26,805 We are pleading with you that you 658 00:34:26,957 --> 00:34:29,958 Get the help you deserve and take control of your life back. 659 00:34:30,051 --> 00:34:31,810 Will you accept this once-in-a-lifetime 660 00:34:31,904 --> 00:34:33,987 Opportunity to save yourself and our family? 661 00:34:37,134 --> 00:34:39,984 So, mom, you want to read your letter? 662 00:34:40,137 --> 00:34:42,470 Jordan. 663 00:34:42,489 --> 00:34:47,417 I am here today because I love you. 664 00:34:47,644 --> 00:34:53,239 I remember your childhood, and it makes me smile. 665 00:34:53,333 --> 00:35:00,097 And then you became a father, an absolutely great dad. 666 00:35:00,248 --> 00:35:06,661 Sadly, ever since the alcohol has taken you over, 667 00:35:06,680 --> 00:35:10,849 It has compromised your relationships 668 00:35:11,001 --> 00:35:12,109 With your precious girls. 669 00:35:15,005 --> 00:35:19,098 And it stole your nursing career and caused so much 670 00:35:19,118 --> 00:35:23,695 Stress and worry on dad and I. 671 00:35:23,789 --> 00:35:29,108 Every day I fear that I'm going to go check on you 672 00:35:29,128 --> 00:35:29,960 And that you'll be dead. 673 00:35:32,798 --> 00:35:36,133 Jordan, I don't want to live this way anymore. 674 00:35:36,360 --> 00:35:42,305 Now you need to be here for yourself too. 675 00:35:42,532 --> 00:35:44,366 [sobbing] 676 00:35:44,384 --> 00:35:46,534 They're all here because they love you. 677 00:35:46,628 --> 00:35:47,869 And they're all worried about you 678 00:35:47,888 --> 00:35:50,388 Because they already lost one sibling. 679 00:35:50,540 --> 00:35:52,632 They can't lose you. 680 00:35:52,726 --> 00:35:53,966 And they won't. 681 00:35:53,986 --> 00:35:56,636 Well, they're pretty close to it. 682 00:35:56,730 --> 00:35:59,381 I'm very self sufficient. 683 00:35:59,399 --> 00:36:00,899 There are two little girls right now 684 00:36:01,051 --> 00:36:02,141 That do not have a dad. 685 00:36:02,235 --> 00:36:04,327 Lisa: Your family needs you. 686 00:36:04,479 --> 00:36:07,055 Right now, it's pretty critical. 687 00:36:07,073 --> 00:36:09,815 Like, you, you are so close to death. 688 00:36:09,835 --> 00:36:12,060 It's a realistic fear of not knowing 689 00:36:12,078 --> 00:36:13,086 If you're going to be alive. 690 00:36:21,588 --> 00:36:23,588 You are so close to death. 691 00:36:23,682 --> 00:36:26,090 Your mom said she was going to call the ambulance 692 00:36:26,185 --> 00:36:27,909 Because you couldn't come to. 693 00:36:27,928 --> 00:36:29,427 I mean, that's pretty close. 694 00:36:29,579 --> 00:36:30,412 Your organs-- you know. 695 00:36:30,430 --> 00:36:31,913 You're a nurse. 696 00:36:31,932 --> 00:36:35,358 Your organs can't handle much more of this. 697 00:36:35,510 --> 00:36:38,361 The girls are, like, the highlight of your life, 698 00:36:38,588 --> 00:36:41,923 But with your drinking and the way everything's 699 00:36:41,942 --> 00:36:43,942 Been going over the last nine months, 700 00:36:44,036 --> 00:36:47,687 You haven't had the fire, the motivation, the resources 701 00:36:47,706 --> 00:36:49,447 To fight for them the way that you have to 702 00:36:49,599 --> 00:36:53,435 In order to be their dad again daily in their life. 703 00:36:53,453 --> 00:36:55,620 I fought several times. 704 00:36:55,772 --> 00:36:56,438 Yes. 705 00:36:56,456 --> 00:36:58,048 I was defeated. 706 00:36:58,199 --> 00:36:59,216 You haven't been defeated. 707 00:36:59,367 --> 00:37:00,550 It's not too late. 708 00:37:00,777 --> 00:37:02,293 You have to get the help, though. 709 00:37:02,387 --> 00:37:05,780 And then you have to accept the help to take to the court. 710 00:37:05,799 --> 00:37:09,784 We found a treatment center in texas, warriors heart. 711 00:37:09,877 --> 00:37:13,805 And it's for vets and first responders. 712 00:37:13,899 --> 00:37:16,458 And one of the common things that I heard 713 00:37:16,551 --> 00:37:19,627 Is that therapy doesn't work for you. 714 00:37:19,721 --> 00:37:23,240 Typically, yeah, because when people 715 00:37:23,467 --> 00:37:27,652 Ask me how you're feeling, I can't really tell you. 716 00:37:27,804 --> 00:37:28,703 Like, I don't have feelings. 717 00:37:31,641 --> 00:37:35,660 And that's why we found this place because there's going 718 00:37:35,812 --> 00:37:39,497 To be a lot of people that came in with the same mentality, 719 00:37:39,591 --> 00:37:43,242 That I don't have feelings because I numb my feelings. 720 00:37:43,262 --> 00:37:46,654 I put my feelings aside to protect others. 721 00:37:46,673 --> 00:37:49,099 That's a first responder. 722 00:37:49,250 --> 00:37:51,009 That's what you've been doing all these years 723 00:37:51,161 --> 00:37:53,270 And especially during covid. 724 00:37:53,421 --> 00:37:55,254 All that trauma watching those people 725 00:37:55,348 --> 00:37:57,941 Die when you're trained to save their life and you can't. 726 00:38:01,021 --> 00:38:03,171 So that's what our hope is. 727 00:38:03,264 --> 00:38:04,948 I mean, everybody flew in here for this. 728 00:38:05,175 --> 00:38:06,766 So your sister came all the way from Italy. 729 00:38:06,785 --> 00:38:07,951 You want to answer a question? 730 00:38:10,289 --> 00:38:13,039 If you are willing to go to warriors heart right now. 731 00:38:18,297 --> 00:38:19,871 I won't have any of my stuff. 732 00:38:20,023 --> 00:38:22,690 We have your bags packed. 733 00:38:22,709 --> 00:38:23,616 Is there a flight booked? 734 00:38:23,635 --> 00:38:25,693 Yeah. 735 00:38:25,787 --> 00:38:29,864 Lisa: It's all you have to do is say yes, I want to get well. 736 00:38:29,883 --> 00:38:31,457 Derek: Anything that you need, mama mail 737 00:38:31,551 --> 00:38:32,884 You will make sure you get. 738 00:38:33,036 --> 00:38:34,627 And as soon as you get on that airplane, 739 00:38:34,721 --> 00:38:36,462 I'm going to call the facility. 740 00:38:36,556 --> 00:38:38,130 And they're going to call the courts, 741 00:38:38,150 --> 00:38:40,041 And they're going to get everything arranged. 742 00:38:40,134 --> 00:38:43,469 So they will start that process for you 743 00:38:43,488 --> 00:38:44,654 To be getting your girls back. 744 00:38:47,326 --> 00:38:48,066 All right, fine. 745 00:38:48,160 --> 00:38:49,050 Ken seeley: Good. 746 00:38:49,069 --> 00:38:50,160 Give him a hug. 747 00:38:54,816 --> 00:38:56,407 Aubre: I just really hope and pray 748 00:38:56,501 --> 00:38:59,169 That he is able to form the connection with his daughters 749 00:38:59,396 --> 00:39:02,080 That he used to have, if not a better one, 750 00:39:02,232 --> 00:39:05,175 And be the father that they need. 751 00:39:05,326 --> 00:39:06,676 Son, I love you. 752 00:39:06,903 --> 00:39:09,070 I love you. 753 00:39:09,163 --> 00:39:10,922 All right? 754 00:39:11,074 --> 00:39:15,352 I hope in treatment, jordan can get deep within himself. 755 00:39:15,579 --> 00:39:18,596 And when he does, he will be able to get 756 00:39:18,748 --> 00:39:21,432 The healing that he needs and be able to take 757 00:39:21,526 --> 00:39:23,935 That and help others. 758 00:39:24,029 --> 00:39:25,028 Guys, you've been great. 759 00:39:28,758 --> 00:39:29,424 Love you. 760 00:39:29,442 --> 00:39:30,349 Love you, jordan. 761 00:39:30,369 --> 00:39:31,201 Proud of you, jordan. 762 00:39:31,428 --> 00:39:32,160 We love you. 763 00:39:36,933 --> 00:39:38,875 You're not going to have to bury another son. 764 00:39:39,102 --> 00:39:42,770 We don't have to bury another brother. 765 00:39:42,789 --> 00:39:45,607 Dad, jordan's off to treatment. 766 00:39:45,625 --> 00:39:46,716 Phil (on phone): Oh, that's good. 767 00:39:46,868 --> 00:39:49,611 Thank god. 768 00:39:49,629 --> 00:39:53,781 Definitely a miracle and the answer to our prayers with him. 769 00:39:53,800 --> 00:39:57,227 [music playing] 770 00:40:11,058 --> 00:40:15,245 Jordan: The withdrawal symptoms are coming back at this point. 771 00:40:15,396 --> 00:40:17,914 Ken seeley: Jordan is in a really bad place right now, 772 00:40:18,141 --> 00:40:21,418 And he could die from stopping drinking alcohol. 773 00:40:21,569 --> 00:40:24,479 It's so important that we get him the medical attention 774 00:40:24,497 --> 00:40:27,832 That he needs so he could get through the withdrawals 775 00:40:27,926 --> 00:40:29,667 And get into recovery. 776 00:40:29,819 --> 00:40:30,427 Jordan. 777 00:40:34,099 --> 00:40:35,006 You're good, brother. 778 00:40:35,100 --> 00:40:36,081 It's just me, man. 779 00:40:36,176 --> 00:40:38,826 We're here to help you out. 780 00:40:38,920 --> 00:40:41,179 Jordan came in hot, you know. 781 00:40:41,273 --> 00:40:42,680 A lot of our guys do. 782 00:40:42,774 --> 00:40:44,182 They're scared. 783 00:40:44,334 --> 00:40:45,500 They're embarrassed. 784 00:40:45,518 --> 00:40:47,259 They're in shame. 785 00:40:47,353 --> 00:40:50,171 So it takes a lot of guts to walk through the front door 786 00:40:50,190 --> 00:40:51,448 Here at warriors heart. 787 00:40:51,599 --> 00:40:53,024 I'm going to get some vitals on you, ok? 788 00:40:53,118 --> 00:40:55,601 Jordan, welcome home. 789 00:40:55,695 --> 00:40:57,120 Welcome to warriors heart. 790 00:40:57,271 --> 00:40:59,271 This is our detox level of care. 791 00:40:59,291 --> 00:41:01,291 And then after that, your training begins. 792 00:41:01,518 --> 00:41:02,350 Training? 793 00:41:02,368 --> 00:41:03,126 That's what we call it. 794 00:41:05,689 --> 00:41:06,779 We got you. 795 00:41:06,873 --> 00:41:08,706 It's like the army, brother. 796 00:41:08,858 --> 00:41:09,782 Can you spot your name? 797 00:41:09,801 --> 00:41:12,543 Look, "welcome home, jordan." 798 00:41:12,637 --> 00:41:13,428 They go hard. 799 00:41:17,550 --> 00:41:20,810 [music playing] 800 00:41:24,632 --> 00:41:26,374 Feels great to be sober right now. 801 00:41:26,392 --> 00:41:27,817 Physically feeling great. 802 00:41:28,044 --> 00:41:31,546 Mentally, a lot of that clarity is coming back. 803 00:41:31,564 --> 00:41:34,974 So we have a lot of different coping strategies, group 804 00:41:35,068 --> 00:41:39,478 Therapy sessions, process groups, and one-on-one sessions 805 00:41:39,572 --> 00:41:41,055 With your individual therapist. 806 00:41:41,074 --> 00:41:44,000 I do a different project there, woodshop, 807 00:41:44,227 --> 00:41:48,654 Canine facility, where you can train service dogs 808 00:41:48,748 --> 00:41:50,507 And bring them home. 809 00:41:50,734 --> 00:41:53,067 Looking forward to getting back into the hospital 810 00:41:53,160 --> 00:41:56,328 Working as a nurse in the icu and be with my kids. 811 00:41:56,348 --> 00:41:59,240 We facetime every day. 812 00:41:59,259 --> 00:42:01,092 I definitely miss them. 813 00:42:01,244 --> 00:42:03,244 But being able to see their faces 814 00:42:03,337 --> 00:42:04,837 And hear their voices every day, it's 815 00:42:04,856 --> 00:42:06,914 Just an inspiration and motivation 816 00:42:06,933 --> 00:42:11,586 To keep moving forward and doing the next best thing. 817 00:42:11,604 --> 00:42:14,489 [music playing]