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[Amy] Previously on
Little People, Big World...
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[Zach] Oh, yeah, yeah.
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[nurse] What is it?
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[Zach] It's a boy, it's a boy!
It's a boy.
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Yeah, Josiah's
a little person,
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has achondroplasia
like his siblings,
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and yeah,
now there's four of us.
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My little dwarf tribe.
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-Yeah, my tribe.
-[Tori] Posse.
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[Zach] My army, my posse.
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[Tori] Thank you guys
for being
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such good, good brothers
and sister.
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[Chris] How long
you think it'll be
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before we can get
all the family back together
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for, like, a holiday gathering
and that sort of thing?
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Probably say five years.
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-Really? You think
it'll be that long?
-Mmm-hmm.
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Must be some hurt feelings
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if you think
it'll take that long.
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This was something that
I think hit to the core
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and so I think that's hard
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just to sweep it
underneath the rug and say,
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"Okay, yeah, it's all good."
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I think it'll take time
for them.
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[Caryn]
Well, cheers to you, boss.
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You pulled it off.
You always do.
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The farm's officially been on
the market for a few days now.
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I think the relationship
with Zach kind of set back
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with me putting the farm
on the market,
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and him not feeling like
it was done properly.
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[Caryn] At some point,
you and Zach
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need to have
another conversation.
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Maybe he needs to hear that
you're sorry
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it didn't work out.
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[Zach] Since
the farm announcement,
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we haven't seen much
of my dad.
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In my mind, we, like...
My dad screwed the family.
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And, you know,
he's playing victim.
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I, like, I would look at it
like farm's done.
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[children babbling]
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[shouting] Ah!
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[Zach] Oh, oh, oh, okay. Okay.
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She just headbutted him.
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It's just been over two weeks
since we brought Josiah home,
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and it's been going great.
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You know, it's an infant,
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it's a newborn in the house,
you know.
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[Tori] I feel it's our,
like... it's my niche,
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like I...
this is where I wanna be.
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There's nothing
I'd rather be doing
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other than hanging out with
three little kids.
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[Tori] Jackson, what's been
your favorite part
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about being a big brother?
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Again.
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You're good at
helping Josiah, huh?
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[Zach] Pretty much
all of my immediate family
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has met Josiah now,
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my mom, my dad
and my siblings.
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But we don't have plans
for Caryn to meet Josiah.
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There still hasn't been
any recognization
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from Caryn or my dad.
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Like, they still think
they did nothing wrong.
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Which, like, I don't see how
Caryn doesn't see this, like,
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my dad put her in a situation
also where it's like,
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you got into
family business here.
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Family is always
gonna be, like...
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It's gonna be different
than when someone else
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rubs you the wrong way.
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But I don't excuse
my dad, like,
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I hold my dad responsible
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for that breakdown
in that relationship.
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[Tori] She's just trying
to hold his hand.
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[Zach laughing] Oh, wait.
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Only Daddy can say that.
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-[Tori] "No, no, no, no."
-[Zach] Yeah, what?
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Who makes you the authority?
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-No, no, no, no.
-Jackson, let her, let her.
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[Tori] Oh, and he
holds his hand?
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Yeah, look at this.
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I can never deny
Matt and Caryn
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that they were amazing to us,
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that they helped us
through many times.
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I mean, the kids loved them
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But no matter what,
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when you have two adults,
and there's kids involved,
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if those two adults
don't get along well,
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the relationship with the kids
is gonna suffer.
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[Zach] Lilah, I don't know
if he needs that right now.
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I don't think he needs
his bink right now, Lize.
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[Jackson speaking]
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[whispering]
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[Tori]
Secrets don't make friends.
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[Zach] Yeah, what was that?
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I definitely think Jackson
and Lilah have gotten closer
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-since Josiah's come
into the picture.
-Yeah.
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Which I think we were
really worried about,
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'cause they have
such a good bond,
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that we were
kinda worried about, like,
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throwing a wrench into it.
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I think this is your best.
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[Tori] I feel like I'm trying
to enjoy it more this time,
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because, like,
it's the last one.
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[Zach] You're relaxed,
you're not, like, all, like...
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[Tori] Well, he makes it
easy, though.
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He doesn't have
any, like, quirks.
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Even at night, even at night
you're not, like,
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all freaking out
and, like, getting upset
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-and all that stuff.
-Yeah.
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[Tori] I don't know,
he's just, like...
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He's so easy,
and I really am trying
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to just enjoy it this time,
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'cause I don't think
we're having any more.
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So...
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-[Zach] Let's say we aren't
having any more.
-What?
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I'm gonna put a little bit
more of a definite on it.
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[Tori] I also feel like
recovery this time
has been, uh...
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[Zach] Been better?
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[Tori] Well, like,
the hospital sucked.
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And the first
two nights sucked, home,
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but now I'm like...
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I don't hurt as bad.
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I am feeling better.
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I think I've just been
up faster, quicker.
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It's definitely like,
you gotta... Life goes on.
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You got two other kids
that you gotta worry about,
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so you're up and going faster.
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He also just doesn't have
weird quirks
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like the other kids did.
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You know? There's nothing
for me to, like, worry about.
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The worst thing he's had
is diaper rash.
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I'm like,
there's nothing else, like,
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weird about, like...
There's no throwing up.
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There's no crying
all the time.
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You know?
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Jackson as an infant
was also very easy.
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However, he was my first,
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and so I panicked
about every little thing.
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I mean, he hiccupped
and I, like, panicked.
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Lilah, love her so much.
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She was very colicky,
very finicky.
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She had really bad GERD,
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so she threw up all the time,
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she had, like,
really bad reflux.
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She was a hard baby.
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Josiah's been easy,
'cause he's easy.
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Like, he's
a straightforward kid.
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He eats, he poops, he sleeps.
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Like, he's not colicky,
he's not finnicky,
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he's just easy, so it's made
it easier to enjoy everything.
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What are they doing right now?
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Are they playing together
right now?
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I mean, I don't
hear screaming, so...
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[children giggling]
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-[Caryn] Look at this view.
-[Matt] I know. It's nice.
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This will be our backyard.
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[Caryn chuckles]
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[Matt] Now that the farm's
on the market, um,
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and, you know, I'm making
progress on my new house,
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thought I'd bring Caryn
out to the house site,
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the house pad, and give her
kind of the lay of the land
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on which way we're gonna
orient this new home.
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The house is
going to be right here.
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I mean, this will be
a little bit in the backyard.
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I've been trying to design m
ultimate dream home for year
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Many artists have been hired
to come up with ideas.
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-It's at least four or five,
I think, yeah.
-Yeah.
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Because of
the supply chain issues,
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a lot of my craziest ideas,
you know,
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are just gonna be
more difficult to achieve.
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So Caryn found a builder,
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and there's a floor plan
that works for us mostly.
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Just a few little tweaks.
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We could put
some of our ideas into it,
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but for the most part,
this is a home
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that's already been built
a couple of times.
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It's a little different,
a bit scaled back
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than what
we originally wanted,
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but when Caryn
brought this to me
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it just, click-click-click,
made sense,
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and it, you know, could be
done and achievable.
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[Caryn] So now it's in
the realtor's hands,
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so do you hear from her?
Does she give you updates?
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Yeah, a couple times
a week, and, uh...
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there's been, you know,
a handful of, um...
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preapprovals,
so that's encouraging.
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You know, these kind of
large deals take six months.
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We're what,
just one month into it.
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Um, and I've been meeting
with a lot of the buyers
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and giving them the details
that they're asking for,
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and if nobody turns out
that's the right fit,
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or, you know,
can take on this farm,
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then I'm gonna start
looking at plan B.
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Plan B is, we're working
on it, developing plan B,
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but we know there's gonna be
a plan B.
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'Cause I always have a plan B.
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[chuckles]
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I'm planning on starting
the build process, um...
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even though, um...
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So that not being sold quickly
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doesn't deter anything
on this?
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[Matt] No. If it doesn't sell,
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I'm still gonna go ahead
with the build.
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I'm still gonna start
the build. I'm not gonna wait.
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Gotcha.
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[Matt] I'm very happy
with my decision to sell.
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Of course I can look back and
say I'd do things differently.
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Almost everything
I've ever done in life,
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I look back and think,
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"Oh, jeez, I could have
done this better."
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You know, you learn
from your mistakes.
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So there's no doubt
I should have sat down
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with both Jeremy and Zachary
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at the same time
and tried to, you know,
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come together, "Hey guys,
how do we do this?" you know?
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You definitely get,
you know, smarter.
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Never smart enough, though.
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It's always just,
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you're always one word short
of saying the right thing,
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but I think, um...
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you know, I'm happy with
where things are right now.
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I went to, um, see
the little Josiah and he's...
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Oh, I've seen photos.
He's so cute.
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-Yeah, he's very professional.
-Does he look like Jackson?
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[Matt] Uh, yeah, looks, but...
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I don't know if he looks
as much like Jackson,
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I didn't quite see that,
but what I saw is
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-he's calm like Jackson.
-Ah.
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-Remember Jackson was
very, like, calm?
-Yeah.
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Like, you wake him up
and he looks around and goes,
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"That all you got?"
then goes back to sleep.
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-You know?
-[Caryn chuckles]
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[Matt] I have seven grandkid
now, and, um,
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I got a chance to, you know,
go meet little Josiah
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and hold him, and, um...
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very cute, very calm.
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Very wonderful little fella
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And, you know, little person
and, uh,
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he reminds me a lot
of Jackson. He's very calm.
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-Jackson seemed so big.
-Yeah.
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-I bet he's just
the best big brother.
-Yeah.
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[Caryn] I would love
to see the grandkids.
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I miss them so much.
I haven't met Josiah.
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But I don't feel welcomed so
I'm just kinda standing down
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and letting Matt do the
grandfather thing right now
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Three little achon,
dwarf babies, and, um...
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Four out of five
in that family.
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[Matt] Four out of five
in that family.
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I was super happy
to meet Josiah
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after he was born
and get to hold him.
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I was a little sad
that Caryn wasn't there.
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She loves babies,
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and, you know, even though
we're not officially married,
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I think people know that,
you know,
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Caryn isn't going anywhere.
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She's a big, big part
of my life now.
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And Caryn's getting
a lot of blame
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from Zach and Tori,
and I don't...
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I don't think it's deserved.
259
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Caryn, more than me,
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I think she's really hurt
by the process.
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I think they should show her
some respect.
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She's on their team.
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Um, you know, and so
to alienate her is probably,
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you know, not a mature way
to handle things.
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Come to Caryn and her
relationship with Tori,
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I hope it heals.
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Two people can never
come together and heal
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if they don't each
give a little bit.
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[Matt reading]
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[Chris] I got
this bike for Jackson,
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and this had the lowest
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-seat setting I could find.
-Yeah.
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I hope Zach and Tori don't
feel like I'm intruding on...
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[laughs] That I'm getting his
first bike instead of them.
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[Matt reading]
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[Caryn] I know it's probabl
weird for you guys,
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-coming to town
and there's no kids.
-No little Jackson.
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I wish we could have sat and
talked about it like adults,
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because they just left,
280
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and so I don't know
what to do.
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[tool whirring]
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-Hey babe.
-Hey.
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You got room in here amongst
all my garage sale stuff?
284
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Well, I'm glad you're
getting rid of a bunch of it.
285
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Well, we'll see how it goes.
286
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Okay, what are you doing now?
287
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-I cut the post down...
-Uh-huh.
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...on the bottom of the seat
so now it's bottomed out.
289
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-Uh-huh.
-I mean, that's kinda what...
290
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You know, even though
this is a used bike,
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what inspired me to get it is
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-this had the lowest
seat setting I could find.
-Yeah.
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[Chris] I got this bike
for Jackson, and, uh,
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it's kind of
a belated birthday gift.
295
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I wasn't able to go to
his actual birthday party
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at the time and take the bik
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and actually I think
this is working out better,
298
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you know, 'cause we can
kinda focus on
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him trying it out,
300
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versus he'd be distracted
with all the other toys,
301
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birthday present.
302
00:13:04,692 --> 00:13:09,120
I'm hoping this'll work,
but if not,
303
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I'm gonna cut these blocks
out, I'll do four of 'em.
304
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That's how I did it
when I grew up.
305
00:13:15,245 --> 00:13:16,377
Well, my dad did it.
306
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-Wood blocks on the pedals?
-Yeah.
307
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I totally remember that.
308
00:13:20,875 --> 00:13:23,676
I remember really liking,
you know, riding a bike.
309
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I don't really remember
a lot of
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modifications that
my parents did.
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But once I was able
to do a two-wheel bike,
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my dad came up with
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getting some wood
and attaching it to the pedal
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so that my feet
could reach it.
315
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I think this is
a very good starter bike
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since he's really
never had one
317
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-except for maybe a trike.
-Yeah.
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I hope Zach and Tori don't
feel like I'm intruding on...
319
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[laughs] That I'm getting his
first bike instead of them,
320
00:13:56,086 --> 00:13:58,628
but I don't know, this is like
a rite of passage, you know?
321
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For me it's just a lot of fun
to be able to be a part of it.
322
00:14:01,174 --> 00:14:02,924
Oh, you just like
having kids around
323
00:14:03,001 --> 00:14:05,468
and having that little moment
of an experience.
324
00:14:05,470 --> 00:14:06,845
Well, that too.
Maybe we'll have to leave...
325
00:14:06,880 --> 00:14:08,588
you know, keep this here,
326
00:14:08,590 --> 00:14:10,640
-and he has to come here
to ride it!
-Oh yeah, that could be.
327
00:14:10,642 --> 00:14:12,976
I think if I'd ever
had the opportunity
328
00:14:12,978 --> 00:14:14,853
of having my own kids, I mean,
329
00:14:14,929 --> 00:14:16,354
there are certain milestones,
like a bike.
330
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And just the thrill of
331
00:14:19,985 --> 00:14:24,195
sharing a new experience
with a child is...
332
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to me is a lot of fun,
333
00:14:25,440 --> 00:14:27,323
and I'm hoping that I get
334
00:14:27,358 --> 00:14:28,774
a lot more
of those opportunities.
335
00:14:28,776 --> 00:14:31,870
Without taking too much away
from their own parents.
336
00:14:31,872 --> 00:14:35,081
You know, I hope that
there's a few new experiences
337
00:14:35,158 --> 00:14:36,833
that I can be a part of.
338
00:14:36,835 --> 00:14:40,670
So, I would love to do this
before we take off
339
00:14:40,714 --> 00:14:42,797
-on our motorcycle trip.
-Yeah.
340
00:14:42,874 --> 00:14:47,552
So, we're going on an 18-day
motorcycle trip.
341
00:14:47,554 --> 00:14:50,847
Our destination
is Skagway, Alaska.
342
00:14:50,891 --> 00:14:53,641
Hopefully we'll see
a lot more animals.
343
00:14:53,718 --> 00:14:55,977
We really wanna see
the wildlife.
344
00:14:56,012 --> 00:14:57,395
I'm super excited
about doing this trip.
345
00:14:57,397 --> 00:15:00,940
It's gonna be
some amazing new country,
346
00:15:00,942 --> 00:15:04,235
and hopefully, um,
things will be just great.
347
00:15:04,312 --> 00:15:06,571
[Amy] So, hey, have you heard
348
00:15:06,648 --> 00:15:09,699
anything from Matt
about this whole house thing?
349
00:15:09,743 --> 00:15:12,243
I almost wanna
call him and say,
350
00:15:12,320 --> 00:15:14,162
"Hey, how's it going?
Any showings?"
351
00:15:14,164 --> 00:15:16,122
Um, I just checked
this morning,
352
00:15:16,124 --> 00:15:18,625
-it's still active
so it's not pending...
-Yeah.
353
00:15:18,701 --> 00:15:20,835
...so obviously they haven't
accepted an offer yet,
354
00:15:20,837 --> 00:15:22,921
but I am tempted, though,
to call him and say,
355
00:15:22,923 --> 00:15:25,131
"Hey, how's it going?"
[laughs]
356
00:15:25,208 --> 00:15:26,424
I'm really curious
what kind of...
357
00:15:26,501 --> 00:15:29,552
Well, if you do, babe,
you let me know, okay?
358
00:15:29,554 --> 00:15:31,930
Okay? 'Cause I ain't. I...
359
00:15:31,932 --> 00:15:35,725
You know? To me, it's done.
360
00:15:35,769 --> 00:15:38,394
When I found out that
Matt went live
361
00:15:38,438 --> 00:15:41,022
with the sale of the home,
it was on the MLS,
362
00:15:41,057 --> 00:15:42,148
of course I had to
take a look,
363
00:15:42,225 --> 00:15:43,733
you know, look it up,
and yeah,
364
00:15:43,735 --> 00:15:45,151
I was kinda surprised
at the price.
365
00:15:45,186 --> 00:15:47,028
It was a bit higher than what
366
00:15:47,030 --> 00:15:51,199
he had talked to me
about previously.
367
00:15:51,275 --> 00:15:54,285
But there's a lot
to like about it,
368
00:15:54,362 --> 00:15:55,912
and, um,
369
00:15:55,914 --> 00:15:58,539
you know, I think he's gonna
get some activity on it.
370
00:15:59,167 --> 00:16:00,458
You know,
I could raise the seat up
371
00:16:00,535 --> 00:16:01,793
if you wanna give it a try.
372
00:16:01,869 --> 00:16:04,837
I think my butt will be
too big for the seat.
373
00:16:04,914 --> 00:16:06,464
That's true.
Wouldn't want you to break it
374
00:16:06,541 --> 00:16:07,590
before he got a chance to try.
375
00:16:07,592 --> 00:16:09,717
Oh, really? Really?
376
00:16:09,719 --> 00:16:11,511
-Really, babe? Really?
-I'm kidding!
377
00:16:11,587 --> 00:16:13,721
[laughs] I'm kidding.
378
00:16:13,807 --> 00:16:15,348
Oh, gosh.
379
00:16:15,350 --> 00:16:19,060
-I tell ya.
-[Chris sighs]
380
00:16:28,405 --> 00:16:31,406
[Zach] Lilah and me
are gonna move this dirt pile.
381
00:16:31,482 --> 00:16:34,117
You're just wanting to use
your boy-toy here?
382
00:16:34,160 --> 00:16:35,493
Yeah.
383
00:16:35,570 --> 00:16:36,719
Today I'm gonna work on
my bridge project,
384
00:16:36,721 --> 00:16:38,371
because when
the creek comes through,
385
00:16:38,406 --> 00:16:40,147
it splits the property
in half.
386
00:16:40,149 --> 00:16:43,209
So I wanna build a bridge s
I can get across to that sid
387
00:16:43,211 --> 00:16:45,211
Yeah, I'm working on project
388
00:16:46,965 --> 00:16:49,716
I'm doing it for us, Tori,
and our kids.
389
00:16:49,718 --> 00:16:50,958
This is the thing.
390
00:16:50,960 --> 00:16:52,427
He didn't tell me
he was buying a tractor.
391
00:16:52,503 --> 00:16:54,762
He didn't ask.
He just bought one.
392
00:16:54,764 --> 00:16:57,056
Such a deal came up,
you just can't say no.
393
00:16:57,058 --> 00:16:58,933
But you could tell your wife.
394
00:16:58,935 --> 00:17:01,853
Yeah, I did it before the guy
got seller's remorse.
395
00:17:01,929 --> 00:17:05,231
Okay, however though,
I have a trust for my husband
396
00:17:05,308 --> 00:17:07,734
that he's not gonna do
something stupid.
397
00:17:07,736 --> 00:17:09,986
Like buy an excavator.
398
00:17:10,030 --> 00:17:12,572
-Did you buy an excavator?
-[cackles]
399
00:17:12,648 --> 00:17:15,033
No, I didn't.
400
00:17:15,910 --> 00:17:17,618
[Tori] Lilah!
401
00:17:19,039 --> 00:17:20,705
Look at her push you
out of the way.
402
00:17:20,782 --> 00:17:22,689
[Zach] I know.
403
00:17:22,767 --> 00:17:25,001
-[Tori] Lilah loves
the tractor.
-[Zach] Loves the tractor.
404
00:17:25,045 --> 00:17:26,794
Last night at, like,
eight o'clock,
405
00:17:26,871 --> 00:17:28,421
her and I are just bouncing
around on the tractor.
406
00:17:28,498 --> 00:17:29,630
On the little tractor.
407
00:17:29,707 --> 00:17:32,633
See? She knows I'm giving them
408
00:17:32,710 --> 00:17:36,012
-great, great, core memories.
-It's expensive, though.
409
00:17:36,056 --> 00:17:37,764
[Zach] All right, get in.
410
00:17:44,898 --> 00:17:46,355
Growing up on the farm,
411
00:17:46,399 --> 00:17:47,732
you just get experiences
412
00:17:47,809 --> 00:17:49,734
that, like, you just
don't get in the city
413
00:17:49,811 --> 00:17:50,943
and neighborhoods.
414
00:17:51,020 --> 00:17:52,653
Yeah, I grew up on tractors
415
00:17:52,655 --> 00:17:55,698
So it's cool
I'm able to have this proper
416
00:17:55,700 --> 00:17:58,117
and give my kids
fun experiences like that.
417
00:17:59,537 --> 00:18:01,037
I'm proud of the life
we've started
418
00:18:01,039 --> 00:18:02,563
up here in Battle Ground.
419
00:18:02,640 --> 00:18:04,624
Just teaching the kids,
like, yeah, you can do
420
00:18:04,700 --> 00:18:06,250
anything you need to,
but just figuring out
421
00:18:06,252 --> 00:18:08,586
how you can get that done.
422
00:18:08,588 --> 00:18:11,464
Didn't get the farm but we'r
starting our own legacy here
423
00:18:11,466 --> 00:18:13,716
and giving our kids
a good life.
424
00:18:15,095 --> 00:18:17,053
It's fine that we don't live
on the farm.
425
00:18:17,097 --> 00:18:18,262
And even though
our relationship
426
00:18:18,339 --> 00:18:19,822
is in a better spot,
427
00:18:19,824 --> 00:18:21,182
I don't think the relationsh
with my dad's
428
00:18:21,259 --> 00:18:22,749
gonna be the same.
429
00:18:22,827 --> 00:18:26,771
How he came to that conclusion
is what's very upsetting.
430
00:18:26,848 --> 00:18:29,440
Look at how she's walking.
Why is she walking like that?
431
00:18:29,442 --> 00:18:31,275
So she doesn't get mud
on her shoes.
432
00:18:31,277 --> 00:18:33,778
That's how girls walk. We walk
like this so we don't...
433
00:18:33,780 --> 00:18:35,196
Stop being weird. Come on.
434
00:18:35,273 --> 00:18:36,614
[Tori] ...you don't get mud.
435
00:18:38,409 --> 00:18:40,034
[Amy reading]
436
00:18:40,111 --> 00:18:41,536
[Amy] Hey Jackson,
437
00:18:41,538 --> 00:18:44,038
Chris has something
very special for you.
438
00:18:45,208 --> 00:18:46,607
Here.
439
00:18:46,684 --> 00:18:48,334
Chris, I think,
is trying to find things
440
00:18:48,411 --> 00:18:49,869
to connect with the kids on.
441
00:18:49,871 --> 00:18:52,088
He's got the fish tank,
he did the bike thing.
442
00:18:52,132 --> 00:18:55,550
Jackson, he's very stoic,
very, like, no reaction.
443
00:18:55,626 --> 00:18:57,218
[Chris] You wanna
give it a try?
444
00:19:09,274 --> 00:19:10,481
[Deb] Come on, baby.
445
00:19:10,558 --> 00:19:11,983
Come on, baby girl.
446
00:19:11,985 --> 00:19:13,943
Oopsie! Oopsie!
447
00:19:13,987 --> 00:19:16,154
Okay, I have not
really walked in, like...
448
00:19:16,230 --> 00:19:17,613
How long?
449
00:19:17,648 --> 00:19:19,323
Like two weeks. Not good.
450
00:19:19,400 --> 00:19:21,951
-Well then, you know what?
-I slipped a few days.
451
00:19:21,995 --> 00:19:25,079
We have to get,
or I have to get back into it.
452
00:19:25,081 --> 00:19:28,583
I've been trying to work ou
for the last two months.
453
00:19:28,585 --> 00:19:31,377
I wanna continue to walk
right up to
454
00:19:31,379 --> 00:19:34,005
just before we leave
for the big Alaska trip,
455
00:19:34,040 --> 00:19:36,465
so I'm walking
with my good friend Deb.
456
00:19:36,509 --> 00:19:38,718
Anybody can walk
a whole lot faster than I ca
457
00:19:38,794 --> 00:19:43,014
so I'm very appreciative that
she lets me walk with her,
458
00:19:43,090 --> 00:19:46,225
but, you know, I gotta
take in every day I can.
459
00:19:46,644 --> 00:19:48,077
[Deb] How much have you lost?
460
00:19:48,079 --> 00:19:50,438
So, probably about seven,
eight more pounds to go.
461
00:19:50,514 --> 00:19:51,731
[Deb] And you've lost
how much?
462
00:19:51,807 --> 00:19:53,024
-Seven.
-Okay.
463
00:19:53,100 --> 00:19:56,110
We started two months ago
and I'm like, "What?
464
00:19:56,187 --> 00:19:59,405
This isn't going fast enough!"
465
00:19:59,482 --> 00:20:02,742
My original weight loss goal
was about 15 pounds.
466
00:20:02,818 --> 00:20:05,036
I think Chris's was 20.
467
00:20:05,112 --> 00:20:06,913
I think
we both haven't achieved
468
00:20:06,915 --> 00:20:08,998
as much as we had hoped,
469
00:20:09,042 --> 00:20:12,835
but, you know, there comes to
a point at a certain age where
470
00:20:12,879 --> 00:20:16,464
I just wanna chill, but I
gotta get up and do it again.
471
00:20:17,217 --> 00:20:20,635
[Deb] So, with married life
with Chris,
472
00:20:20,711 --> 00:20:23,179
and the grandkids,
'cause he never had kids.
473
00:20:23,181 --> 00:20:25,097
[Amy] That's the thing
he's really getting into,
474
00:20:25,174 --> 00:20:26,224
especially for the boys.
475
00:20:26,300 --> 00:20:27,892
-You know?
-Well, now they're family.
476
00:20:27,969 --> 00:20:29,268
They're his family, too.
477
00:20:29,345 --> 00:20:31,354
Well, he's enjoying
seeing that.
478
00:20:31,389 --> 00:20:33,105
Oh, I love that.
479
00:20:33,107 --> 00:20:38,110
I'm happy that
Chris has been able to
480
00:20:38,112 --> 00:20:40,613
embrace and enjoy
481
00:20:40,690 --> 00:20:43,950
having my kids
and the grandkids over.
482
00:20:44,026 --> 00:20:45,952
Chris had to come on his own
483
00:20:45,954 --> 00:20:48,287
I didn't wanna
push that on to him.
484
00:20:48,364 --> 00:20:51,832
To me, that doesn't create
a good relationship.
485
00:20:51,834 --> 00:20:55,753
So this had to come from him,
him wanting to do this,
486
00:20:55,755 --> 00:21:00,800
and I'm thrilled that,
you know, he's doing it,
487
00:21:00,876 --> 00:21:02,551
and that makes me happy.
488
00:21:02,595 --> 00:21:04,220
How is that new little baby?
489
00:21:04,264 --> 00:21:05,846
-Oh, Josiah?
-Yeah.
490
00:21:05,848 --> 00:21:07,348
I just saw them the other day.
491
00:21:07,425 --> 00:21:10,518
-Oh! [giggles]
-Oh, he's a cutie.
492
00:21:10,594 --> 00:21:12,186
Anything else going on?
493
00:21:12,188 --> 00:21:14,730
No, not really. I mean,
494
00:21:14,774 --> 00:21:16,315
you know, you probably heard
the farm's up for sale.
495
00:21:16,434 --> 00:21:17,692
-[Deb] I did hear.
-You know.
496
00:21:17,694 --> 00:21:19,568
And how do the kids feel?
497
00:21:19,612 --> 00:21:21,821
-You know, I just think
they're ready to move on.
-Yeah.
498
00:21:21,823 --> 00:21:24,949
It's like, let it be for sale,
you know?
499
00:21:25,026 --> 00:21:27,368
We tried,
and we're tired, and...
500
00:21:27,445 --> 00:21:29,829
-Just... It's in the past.
-Yeah. Move on.
501
00:21:29,998 --> 00:21:31,864
It's still...
502
00:21:31,940 --> 00:21:34,000
-You know, having
the issue or whatever.
-It's a piece of your life.
503
00:21:34,002 --> 00:21:35,918
I think the thing
he doesn't understand,
504
00:21:35,920 --> 00:21:38,963
but this is how
always Matt has been,
505
00:21:39,040 --> 00:21:41,048
come and go.
If it wasn't for me,
506
00:21:41,125 --> 00:21:42,842
we probably would have
left that farm
507
00:21:42,844 --> 00:21:44,343
-within five, 10, eight years.
-Yeah.
508
00:21:44,420 --> 00:21:46,053
'Cause he moved a lot
as a kid.
509
00:21:46,055 --> 00:21:47,513
I didn't, I never moved.
510
00:21:47,590 --> 00:21:50,850
-But I like that stability
for kids, and...
-Yeah.
511
00:21:50,926 --> 00:21:53,269
When we first bought
the farm house,
512
00:21:53,304 --> 00:21:56,272
I don't think
Matt intended to be there
513
00:21:56,274 --> 00:21:58,274
as long as, you know,
we all have been.
514
00:21:58,276 --> 00:22:01,444
We had originally put an offer
on a neighborhood house
515
00:22:01,446 --> 00:22:04,322
but Matt found
this farm piece of property.
516
00:22:04,398 --> 00:22:07,867
And so I told him,
"I mean, life happens,
517
00:22:07,869 --> 00:22:11,579
but if at all possible,
I don't wanna really move
518
00:22:11,581 --> 00:22:13,164
while the kids are growing up.
519
00:22:13,240 --> 00:22:15,041
I would like them to have
520
00:22:15,043 --> 00:22:18,461
a place that they can
always remember, call home."
521
00:22:18,504 --> 00:22:19,879
I think legacy is important
522
00:22:19,955 --> 00:22:22,798
I think it should
mean something.
523
00:22:22,842 --> 00:22:26,052
Well, that house, that was
your home for how many years?
524
00:22:26,087 --> 00:22:28,596
Well, for me,
probably about 29.
525
00:22:28,672 --> 00:22:30,806
-Gosh. Well...
-Um, yeah.
526
00:22:30,850 --> 00:22:33,642
-Now you got a new home.
-Yeah.
527
00:22:33,686 --> 00:22:35,394
[Amy] You know,
the house is up for sale,
528
00:22:35,396 --> 00:22:37,730
I mean, there's nothing really
I can do about it.
529
00:22:37,807 --> 00:22:39,398
It is what it is.
530
00:22:39,475 --> 00:22:42,151
I just hope that all the kid
531
00:22:42,153 --> 00:22:43,986
have some sort of good memory
532
00:22:43,988 --> 00:22:47,073
about how they grew up,
where they grew up.
533
00:22:47,149 --> 00:22:48,949
[Debs] How long
are you guys gonna be gone?
534
00:22:48,951 --> 00:22:50,785
[Amy] Uh, the 2nd
through the 20th.
535
00:22:50,787 --> 00:22:52,912
[Deb] Oh, that's gonna be fun.
536
00:22:52,914 --> 00:22:54,205
[Amy] We leave, like,
a week from now.
537
00:22:54,207 --> 00:22:56,265
[Deb] That is gonna be
so much fun.
538
00:22:56,267 --> 00:22:57,666
[Amy] We are so excited that
it's not gonna be
great weather this weekend,
539
00:22:57,710 --> 00:22:59,418
'cause we have so much to do.
540
00:22:59,420 --> 00:23:01,045
[Deb laughs]
541
00:23:08,429 --> 00:23:10,304
[Josiah fusses]
542
00:23:10,306 --> 00:23:12,681
Come here. Yeah.
543
00:23:12,725 --> 00:23:14,725
I hear ya, honey.
544
00:23:15,311 --> 00:23:16,852
There we go.
545
00:23:17,605 --> 00:23:19,271
It's been a month
since Josiah's been born,
546
00:23:19,306 --> 00:23:20,398
and we're starting
to take him out more.
547
00:23:21,067 --> 00:23:23,859
Oh, what are you doing?
548
00:23:23,903 --> 00:23:25,319
[Zach] Today we're meeting
my mom and Chris
549
00:23:25,396 --> 00:23:27,029
at the park in Portland.
550
00:23:27,031 --> 00:23:29,365
Chris said that he had
a surprise for Jackson
551
00:23:29,409 --> 00:23:31,200
so we're excited
to see what it is.
552
00:23:33,871 --> 00:23:36,872
[Tori] Where are
you guys going?
553
00:23:36,916 --> 00:23:39,375
[Amy] Well, it's a nice little
postage stamp of a park.
554
00:23:39,419 --> 00:23:42,336
Yeah. Cute little place.
Hey Zach.
555
00:23:42,413 --> 00:23:45,005
-[Zach] Hi, how's it going?
-[Chris] Good.
556
00:23:45,082 --> 00:23:47,133
Lilah sure likes the...
557
00:23:47,135 --> 00:23:50,678
The little playground?
Hey Lilah!
558
00:23:50,754 --> 00:23:52,721
[Chris] Oh. How's he doing?
559
00:23:52,765 --> 00:23:55,182
[Tori] He thinks he's hungry,
but he's not.
560
00:23:55,259 --> 00:23:57,143
-Aww.
-That's all you do.
561
00:23:57,219 --> 00:24:00,438
So far everything's good?
Healthy and...
562
00:24:00,440 --> 00:24:02,773
-[Tori] Everything's great.
-That's good.
563
00:24:02,775 --> 00:24:04,775
This is the second time
that I've met Josiah.
564
00:24:04,852 --> 00:24:07,278
Zach and Tori came over once,
565
00:24:07,280 --> 00:24:09,280
and I did get a chance
to meet Josiah,
566
00:24:09,356 --> 00:24:12,450
but, you know, I mean,
at that age he's just
567
00:24:12,568 --> 00:24:14,827
-a little shriveled ball
of flesh.
-He's not shriveled!
568
00:24:14,904 --> 00:24:17,204
He barely had his eyes open,
I mean, you know...
569
00:24:17,206 --> 00:24:19,540
And you held him,
but you didn't want to.
570
00:24:19,542 --> 00:24:23,544
Yeah, I've just
never been into babies.
571
00:24:23,621 --> 00:24:26,005
I feel uncomfortable,
you know,
572
00:24:26,081 --> 00:24:27,298
holding or picking them up
573
00:24:27,300 --> 00:24:29,925
because, you know,
they just seem
574
00:24:29,969 --> 00:24:31,677
so vulnerable, so fragile.
575
00:24:31,754 --> 00:24:33,971
Until they start speaking
576
00:24:33,973 --> 00:24:36,682
and I can
communicate with them, uh...
577
00:24:36,759 --> 00:24:38,225
-And interacting with them.
-Yeah, yeah.
578
00:24:38,227 --> 00:24:40,561
It's just a lot more fun
to interact that way,
579
00:24:40,563 --> 00:24:43,355
so, um, yeah.
580
00:24:43,432 --> 00:24:45,524
It's all
a big learning experience.
581
00:24:45,818 --> 00:24:47,059
[Amy] Hey Jackson,
582
00:24:47,135 --> 00:24:49,111
Chris has something
very special for you.
583
00:24:49,155 --> 00:24:50,696
Okay?
584
00:24:53,493 --> 00:24:54,658
[Jackson speaking]
585
00:24:54,660 --> 00:24:56,952
[Amy] All right, Chris!
586
00:24:56,996 --> 00:24:58,245
[Tori] Hey, that's awesome!
587
00:24:58,322 --> 00:25:00,122
[Zach] Yeah, that's way cool.
588
00:25:00,166 --> 00:25:01,665
-[Amy] Oh, dear.
-[Zach] Are you stoked?
589
00:25:01,667 --> 00:25:03,167
[Amy] Do you like that bike?
590
00:25:03,244 --> 00:25:04,210
[Jackson speaking]
591
00:25:04,286 --> 00:25:06,921
[Chris] You wanna
give it a try?
592
00:25:06,997 --> 00:25:08,964
Jackson, here, you gotta put
your helmet on, though.
593
00:25:09,884 --> 00:25:11,416
Here.
594
00:25:11,493 --> 00:25:13,719
-It's just like your scooter.
-This is a brand new thing.
595
00:25:14,805 --> 00:25:18,265
[Amy] Hey Lilah Ray!
Come on, Lilah!
596
00:25:18,267 --> 00:25:20,017
Have you been on
one of these yet?
597
00:25:20,094 --> 00:25:21,644
[Amy] Besides a tricycle?
598
00:25:21,687 --> 00:25:23,145
They've all been too big.
599
00:25:23,189 --> 00:25:26,899
Jackson, he's very stoic,
very, like, no reaction.
600
00:25:26,976 --> 00:25:28,859
You won't know
if he likes something
601
00:25:28,936 --> 00:25:31,904
until you get him home, alone,
602
00:25:31,981 --> 00:25:33,864
to see how much
he talks about it.
603
00:25:33,941 --> 00:25:35,274
But I think it was really ni
604
00:25:35,350 --> 00:25:37,618
that Chris found a bike
that fits Jackson
605
00:25:37,620 --> 00:25:40,663
without having Jackson there.
I am impressed.
606
00:25:42,625 --> 00:25:44,500
[Chris] You know how
to get on one of those?
607
00:25:45,419 --> 00:25:47,836
Okay, so put this foot
on this pedal
608
00:25:47,838 --> 00:25:49,505
and then swing
the other leg around.
609
00:25:50,675 --> 00:25:51,715
There you go.
610
00:25:51,792 --> 00:25:54,260
Here, step up there.
There you go.
611
00:25:56,639 --> 00:25:59,014
Oh yeah, yeah,
get on the seat.
612
00:25:59,049 --> 00:26:01,475
-Okay. Now.
-Can he reach them? Yes!
613
00:26:01,552 --> 00:26:03,269
Now, you press this way to go
614
00:26:03,345 --> 00:26:06,605
and then if you wanna stop,
push back and it'll stop.
615
00:26:06,607 --> 00:26:08,983
Okay? All right.
616
00:26:09,059 --> 00:26:12,778
Jackson was just barely abl
to reach the pedals.
617
00:26:12,855 --> 00:26:14,196
It turned out that
my block idea
618
00:26:14,240 --> 00:26:15,948
was a blockhead idea.
619
00:26:16,025 --> 00:26:17,950
-[laughs]
-It didn't work.
620
00:26:18,027 --> 00:26:19,910
When he went to put
his feet on the pedal,
621
00:26:19,987 --> 00:26:22,371
they would flip,
and wouldn't end up
622
00:26:22,373 --> 00:26:25,082
-in the right position
for his feet.
-I see.
623
00:26:25,159 --> 00:26:27,084
-You gotta push that down.
-[Tori] Just watch, honey.
624
00:26:27,086 --> 00:26:28,252
[gasps]
625
00:26:28,254 --> 00:26:29,795
[Tori] Gotta keep going, J.
626
00:26:29,872 --> 00:26:31,839
-Just keep going forward.
-[Tori] There you go.
627
00:26:31,915 --> 00:26:34,466
-Gotta push down, push down.
-There you go. Keep going!
628
00:26:34,543 --> 00:26:35,718
Watch where you're going.
629
00:26:35,761 --> 00:26:37,094
Push down that way,
not behind you.
630
00:26:37,096 --> 00:26:38,429
The other way's gonna stop.
631
00:26:38,505 --> 00:26:40,264
I think he might have just
been trying out the brake.
632
00:26:40,341 --> 00:26:41,432
There you go. And then watch
where you're going.
633
00:26:41,508 --> 00:26:42,766
You gotta steer, too.
634
00:26:42,843 --> 00:26:45,728
-[Amy] Yeah, there you go.
-[Tori] Good job, J.
635
00:26:45,771 --> 00:26:47,896
-[Tori] Nice, dude!
-Good job, Jackson.
636
00:26:55,114 --> 00:26:58,699
When it's on this side,
this foot, push down,
637
00:26:58,701 --> 00:27:01,201
but then once it goes here,
638
00:27:01,278 --> 00:27:03,996
once it goes right here,
stop pushing
639
00:27:03,998 --> 00:27:05,873
and only push on this foot.
640
00:27:05,875 --> 00:27:08,250
Okay? Right, left.
641
00:27:09,003 --> 00:27:12,504
Right, left. Right, left.
642
00:27:13,674 --> 00:27:16,884
There you go.
Push down and forward.
643
00:27:16,960 --> 00:27:19,011
There you go, there you go!
644
00:27:19,722 --> 00:27:21,680
Chris, I think,
is trying to find
645
00:27:21,682 --> 00:27:23,182
things to connect
with the kids on.
646
00:27:23,184 --> 00:27:25,601
He's got the fish tank,
he did the bike thing.
647
00:27:25,645 --> 00:27:28,979
So it's nice of Chris to tak
some interest in the kids
648
00:27:28,981 --> 00:27:31,440
and does fun things like that.
So I think it was great.
649
00:27:31,484 --> 00:27:32,900
[Chris] Yeah, I've never
taught a kid
650
00:27:32,976 --> 00:27:34,209
how to ride a bike before.
651
00:27:34,211 --> 00:27:36,779
I certainly don't remember
when I learned.
652
00:27:36,781 --> 00:27:38,197
You just keep moving forward.
653
00:27:38,199 --> 00:27:40,199
Keep going, keep going.
654
00:27:40,201 --> 00:27:42,368
No backwards,
just keep going forward.
655
00:27:42,444 --> 00:27:44,578
-All right!
-[Tori] There you go!
656
00:27:44,655 --> 00:27:46,497
Watch where
you're going, though.
657
00:27:46,573 --> 00:27:50,668
I was really happy that
Jackson took to the bike.
658
00:27:50,670 --> 00:27:53,796
He struggled a little bit
at first, and I was--
659
00:27:53,839 --> 00:27:55,714
Well, he kept not knowing
how to go forward,
660
00:27:55,791 --> 00:27:57,174
how to go forward
and the brakes.
661
00:27:57,176 --> 00:27:58,384
[Chris] Yeah, yeah,
he kept hitting the brake.
662
00:27:58,386 --> 00:28:00,219
But in the end
it seemed like, yeah,
663
00:28:00,295 --> 00:28:02,054
like he liked it,
like he enjoyed it.
664
00:28:02,131 --> 00:28:03,329
Good job. That's awesome.
665
00:28:03,407 --> 00:28:05,073
[Zach] Jackson,
good job starting that.
666
00:28:05,075 --> 00:28:06,475
-Yeah, we'll have to
practice that.
-Hey, Jackson, Jackson.
667
00:28:06,519 --> 00:28:08,227
What do you tell
Chris and Mimi?
668
00:28:08,604 --> 00:28:10,229
You're welcome.
669
00:28:11,691 --> 00:28:14,566
-[Jackson] Lilah, you...
-[Tori] Watch out, watch out.
670
00:28:14,568 --> 00:28:15,693
[Amy] Good job, babe.
671
00:28:15,695 --> 00:28:17,486
You know,
it's watching stuff like this
672
00:28:17,530 --> 00:28:19,279
where I regret that
I never had kids.
673
00:28:19,356 --> 00:28:20,948
-Oh!
-You know, I...
674
00:28:21,024 --> 00:28:23,158
didn't have
any of these moments.
675
00:28:23,160 --> 00:28:26,495
Well, now you have
these ones to share.
676
00:28:26,530 --> 00:28:28,914
Well, Jackson, we're glad
that you like the bike.
677
00:28:28,991 --> 00:28:31,166
Chris was so excited
to give that to you.
678
00:28:31,168 --> 00:28:33,043
[Chris] Mmm.
679
00:28:36,340 --> 00:28:38,632
Can I try it? [groans]
680
00:28:38,709 --> 00:28:40,300
Oh, my gosh.
681
00:28:42,221 --> 00:28:43,929
Here I go. Whoo!
682
00:28:44,006 --> 00:28:46,557
Whoa-ho-ho!
683
00:28:48,436 --> 00:28:50,644
[Zach] Gosh, knuckleheads.
684
00:28:51,731 --> 00:28:53,105
[Matt reading]
685
00:28:53,182 --> 00:28:55,607
So, that's Matt's
future home site.
686
00:28:55,609 --> 00:28:57,985
The plan is for Matt and I
to move in together
687
00:28:57,987 --> 00:28:59,528
once the house build
is complete.
688
00:28:59,530 --> 00:29:03,031
I would be really sad
if he builds this
689
00:29:03,075 --> 00:29:07,619
and then the kids don't feel
like he's worthy of coming.
690
00:29:07,621 --> 00:29:11,248
Right now
everything is so turmoil,
691
00:29:11,250 --> 00:29:15,294
and I don't know, I don't know
how it fell apart so bad.
692
00:29:29,185 --> 00:29:31,685
You guys gonna be able to come
and help us out
for pumpkin season?
693
00:29:31,687 --> 00:29:33,228
Yeah, we'll be here.
694
00:29:33,230 --> 00:29:35,397
I should be able to show you
your new bedroom.
695
00:29:35,441 --> 00:29:36,648
-It should be a frame.
-[laughs] My new bedroom!
696
00:29:36,725 --> 00:29:38,108
You won't be able
to sleep in it.
697
00:29:38,110 --> 00:29:40,277
I don't think you guys are
gonna let me in that house.
698
00:29:40,354 --> 00:29:42,780
That's what I like
about your DW,
699
00:29:42,782 --> 00:29:43,781
you don't have to
take your shoes off.
700
00:29:43,857 --> 00:29:45,199
That's true.
701
00:29:45,201 --> 00:29:47,034
Cowboy Bob and his wife Jody
702
00:29:47,110 --> 00:29:49,870
I just met Jody
in recent years,
703
00:29:49,872 --> 00:29:51,622
you know, 10 years ago,
but Bob I've known
704
00:29:51,698 --> 00:29:53,832
for 40-some-odd years.
705
00:29:53,909 --> 00:29:55,083
We grew up together
706
00:29:55,127 --> 00:29:56,418
just south of San Francisco
707
00:29:56,420 --> 00:29:58,670
in a town called San Bruno.
708
00:29:58,747 --> 00:30:01,423
We were, I think,
14 or 15 years old,
709
00:30:01,467 --> 00:30:03,509
and we went
to junior high together
710
00:30:03,585 --> 00:30:06,053
and high school together.
711
00:30:06,129 --> 00:30:10,098
And Bob and Jody, they're in
town for a couple of days.
712
00:30:10,142 --> 00:30:14,102
He was on his way
up to northern California
713
00:30:14,146 --> 00:30:17,564
and kinda detoured through to
come see us here at the farm.
714
00:30:17,641 --> 00:30:20,150
What are you boys chatting?
715
00:30:20,152 --> 00:30:22,402
-Minding our own business.
-Hey hey hey.
716
00:30:22,479 --> 00:30:26,281
-We are going
to go take a walk.
-Oh, okay.
717
00:30:26,325 --> 00:30:28,242
[Matt] Only one condition.
When you come back,
718
00:30:28,318 --> 00:30:29,785
you can't have
a honey-do-list.
719
00:30:29,829 --> 00:30:31,453
[Caryn] Well, that's what
we're working on.
720
00:30:31,497 --> 00:30:33,372
Don't talk about us
while we're gone.
721
00:30:33,448 --> 00:30:35,874
Uh, we might,
just a little bit.
722
00:30:35,876 --> 00:30:38,752
[Caryn] I met Jody
maybe seven, eight years ago
723
00:30:38,829 --> 00:30:40,838
You know, Bob and Matt
were good friends,
724
00:30:40,914 --> 00:30:42,923
and they would come up
for pumpkin season
725
00:30:43,000 --> 00:30:44,716
and stay on the farm, so we...
726
00:30:44,793 --> 00:30:46,301
so we got to be good friends
really quickly.
727
00:30:46,345 --> 00:30:48,846
She's a really neat person.
728
00:30:48,922 --> 00:30:52,808
Oh, yeah, this isn't
getting much use these days.
729
00:30:52,852 --> 00:30:54,643
[Jody] Well, that has to be
sad right there.
730
00:30:54,645 --> 00:30:56,395
[Caryn] I know,
it's probably weird
731
00:30:56,513 --> 00:30:57,855
for you guys coming to town
and there's no...
732
00:30:57,857 --> 00:30:59,189
[Jody] No little kids.
733
00:30:59,266 --> 00:31:00,732
-[Caryn] Kids.
-[Jody] No little Jackson.
734
00:31:00,809 --> 00:31:02,267
Well, I bet
he misses being here
735
00:31:02,269 --> 00:31:05,904
because he always loved
to come and play on the farm.
736
00:31:05,981 --> 00:31:07,447
You and Bob
went up to see them.
737
00:31:07,524 --> 00:31:08,699
-We did.
-So you've seen
their new place.
738
00:31:08,817 --> 00:31:09,867
We saw their new place.
739
00:31:09,943 --> 00:31:11,952
They didn't have chickens
at that time.
740
00:31:12,029 --> 00:31:15,080
Uh, but I think maybe they've
gotten chickens by now.
741
00:31:15,082 --> 00:31:17,416
So I've heard. [chuckles]
742
00:31:17,492 --> 00:31:21,086
Bob and Jody have known
Zach and Tori for a long tim
743
00:31:21,121 --> 00:31:23,171
So they were aware, you know,
744
00:31:23,215 --> 00:31:25,382
that things were not
super-cohesive.
745
00:31:25,459 --> 00:31:28,385
Um, I think they had
hoped to see them,
746
00:31:28,462 --> 00:31:30,762
but it just... You know,
every family has stuff,
747
00:31:30,764 --> 00:31:33,348
so the stars weren't aligned.
748
00:31:33,350 --> 00:31:35,559
It's hard, you know, I think
749
00:31:35,561 --> 00:31:39,187
blending families... You know,
Matt and I aren't married
750
00:31:39,189 --> 00:31:40,455
but I still went all in
751
00:31:40,457 --> 00:31:41,982
because I plan to spend
my life with Matt.
752
00:31:42,059 --> 00:31:45,235
And so I love those kids like,
753
00:31:45,237 --> 00:31:46,904
seriously, like they
were blood,
754
00:31:46,980 --> 00:31:49,990
and I don't really have
any tools
755
00:31:50,067 --> 00:31:51,992
to fix this,
756
00:31:51,994 --> 00:31:54,953
and I have to let it run
its course. It's his family.
757
00:31:54,955 --> 00:31:56,246
It is his family.
758
00:31:56,323 --> 00:31:58,624
He's gonna have to figure out
how to fix this.
759
00:31:58,700 --> 00:32:02,044
You know, honestly,
I remain really sad
760
00:32:02,079 --> 00:32:04,546
about the whole situation.
I wish it had never happened.
761
00:32:04,590 --> 00:32:05,964
If we could go back in time,
762
00:32:06,041 --> 00:32:08,634
I know Matt and I
would do things differently.
763
00:32:08,710 --> 00:32:12,638
I wish I knew how
to move forward. I'm ready,
764
00:32:12,714 --> 00:32:16,183
and if I were to see
an opportunity to fix it,
765
00:32:16,185 --> 00:32:17,809
I would be all over it.
766
00:32:17,886 --> 00:32:19,978
But the opportunity
hasn't really come around
767
00:32:20,055 --> 00:32:22,397
that feels natural.
768
00:32:22,524 --> 00:32:26,443
When it all went down
and the big meeting went bad,
769
00:32:26,520 --> 00:32:30,614
I'm sure there were things
that Matt said or I jumped in.
770
00:32:30,732 --> 00:32:33,742
I wish that after it was over,
771
00:32:33,786 --> 00:32:36,036
we could have sat and talked
about it like adults.
772
00:32:36,038 --> 00:32:37,871
'Cause we didn't ever have
a chance to say,
773
00:32:37,948 --> 00:32:39,289
"Wow, we didn't
mean it that way.
774
00:32:39,366 --> 00:32:40,832
This is actually where
we were coming from."
775
00:32:40,834 --> 00:32:42,584
We haven't had
that opportunity
776
00:32:42,628 --> 00:32:45,921
because they just left, and so
I don't know what to do.
777
00:32:47,091 --> 00:32:49,341
This whole thing
has been painful.
778
00:32:49,418 --> 00:32:52,970
You know, if my kids
weren't talking to me,
779
00:32:53,046 --> 00:32:55,138
I'd probably go show up
on their doorstep
780
00:32:55,215 --> 00:32:56,556
and just be like,
"Let's work this out.
781
00:32:56,558 --> 00:32:59,101
Like, time is getting
away from us.
782
00:32:59,186 --> 00:33:01,061
I'm not... I don't like this."
783
00:33:01,138 --> 00:33:03,480
And I would love to do that,
784
00:33:03,557 --> 00:33:04,856
in this situation
it's just not my place.
785
00:33:04,858 --> 00:33:06,858
Each family has
their own dynamic,
786
00:33:06,935 --> 00:33:09,778
and so I can't instill
my process on to this family.
787
00:33:09,780 --> 00:33:12,030
They have their way, and so
788
00:33:12,107 --> 00:33:15,826
I need to let Matt
kind of work through this.
789
00:33:16,996 --> 00:33:21,039
So that... That's Matt's
future home site.
790
00:33:21,116 --> 00:33:22,958
-That big pile of dirt.
-[Jody] Oh.
791
00:33:23,002 --> 00:33:24,876
So it's hard to vision,
792
00:33:24,878 --> 00:33:26,962
but somewhere out here
is the backyard.
793
00:33:27,006 --> 00:33:28,321
Somewhere out here.
794
00:33:28,398 --> 00:33:30,465
Maybe in a year from now,
when you guys come,
795
00:33:30,467 --> 00:33:33,427
we'll be able
to actually sit out here
796
00:33:33,503 --> 00:33:35,178
instead of the back of the DW.
797
00:33:35,180 --> 00:33:38,306
How do you feel about
maybe living here now?
798
00:33:38,308 --> 00:33:39,683
[Caryn] I'm excited.
799
00:33:39,685 --> 00:33:41,018
I don't think I care
where we live,
800
00:33:41,020 --> 00:33:45,689
but it was time
to move toward our future.
801
00:33:45,691 --> 00:33:48,525
The plan is for Matt and I
to move in together
802
00:33:48,560 --> 00:33:50,360
once the house build
is complete.
803
00:33:50,437 --> 00:33:52,612
We've been together
for many years,
804
00:33:52,689 --> 00:33:54,573
and we love
being in Arizona together,
805
00:33:54,649 --> 00:33:56,825
that's kinda where we
"lived together" on vacation.
806
00:33:56,869 --> 00:34:00,078
And so this will
really feel solid.
807
00:34:00,080 --> 00:34:02,039
Like kind of turning
that final page
808
00:34:02,115 --> 00:34:04,291
on being together
all the time,
809
00:34:04,293 --> 00:34:07,461
so it's exciting
and slightly terrifying.
810
00:34:07,537 --> 00:34:11,131
I would be really sad
if he builds this
811
00:34:11,208 --> 00:34:14,468
and then the kids
don't feel like
812
00:34:14,544 --> 00:34:17,137
he's worthy of coming, or...
813
00:34:17,222 --> 00:34:20,932
You know, the idea is to have
a space where we can look out
814
00:34:20,934 --> 00:34:24,186
and see all my grandchildren,
his grandchildren, his kids.
815
00:34:24,188 --> 00:34:27,105
Right now
everything is so turmoil,
816
00:34:27,182 --> 00:34:30,442
-and it's just so unfortunate.
-Yeah.
817
00:34:30,444 --> 00:34:33,403
I don't know, I don't know how
it fell apart so bad.
818
00:34:33,522 --> 00:34:34,321
Yeah.
819
00:34:34,397 --> 00:34:36,031
[Caryn] It was nice
820
00:34:36,075 --> 00:34:37,824
having a heartfelt
conversation with Jody.
821
00:34:37,901 --> 00:34:39,868
It's just someone
to bounce stuff off.
822
00:34:39,912 --> 00:34:41,578
They have family stuff,
823
00:34:41,580 --> 00:34:43,997
so we have a lot in common
in that area.
824
00:34:43,999 --> 00:34:45,373
It's just...
825
00:34:45,417 --> 00:34:48,251
It's great to have
great people in your life.
826
00:34:48,328 --> 00:34:51,379
Cheers. Next year we'll be
toasting to some wine
827
00:34:51,423 --> 00:34:52,647
and maybe the kids will be
828
00:34:52,649 --> 00:34:54,091
out there
running in the fields, right?
829
00:34:54,167 --> 00:34:55,759
You might have
a new grandchild by then.
830
00:34:55,761 --> 00:34:57,302
[scoffs]
831
00:34:57,379 --> 00:34:58,595
[Caryn] I'm not sure
where to go from here.
832
00:34:58,597 --> 00:35:00,931
I think I'm open
but I'm not pushing.
833
00:35:01,007 --> 00:35:04,017
I heard a saying once:
if you build it,
they will come.
834
00:35:04,094 --> 00:35:06,436
Let's be hopeful on that.
835
00:35:06,438 --> 00:35:08,563
Well, I'm glad to have you.
836
00:35:08,607 --> 00:35:10,232
[Jody] I know!
837
00:35:11,276 --> 00:35:12,526
[Amy reading]
838
00:35:12,602 --> 00:35:13,835
[Bob] I know there's, like,
839
00:35:13,837 --> 00:35:16,279
a lot of turmoil,
let's say, with family.
840
00:35:16,356 --> 00:35:18,448
[Matt] I mean,
I think Zach's very upset.
841
00:35:18,525 --> 00:35:21,409
But he sat down,
one conversation,
842
00:35:21,453 --> 00:35:22,744
and came out with demands.
843
00:35:22,779 --> 00:35:24,579
A lot of people say that
844
00:35:24,581 --> 00:35:27,249
I told the kids that they
would inherit this property,
845
00:35:27,251 --> 00:35:29,793
and I never said
anybody would inherit it.
846
00:35:29,870 --> 00:35:34,548
I definitely made
some mistakes along the way.
847
00:35:44,476 --> 00:35:47,519
Root beer!
Thank you. My favorite.
848
00:35:47,596 --> 00:35:49,771
-Cheers.
-All right.
849
00:35:49,857 --> 00:35:51,231
What's up?
850
00:35:52,067 --> 00:35:53,358
Mmm.
851
00:35:54,111 --> 00:35:56,653
That's good root beer, baby.
852
00:35:56,730 --> 00:35:58,280
When are you going on
your horseback...
853
00:35:58,323 --> 00:36:00,031
your horse-backing trip?
854
00:36:00,108 --> 00:36:02,242
We go Wednesday.
855
00:36:02,319 --> 00:36:06,163
Bobby, as we always
called him through school,
856
00:36:06,281 --> 00:36:07,956
um, was always a cowboy.
857
00:36:08,000 --> 00:36:09,624
He always wore
a big belt buckle
858
00:36:09,668 --> 00:36:11,126
and a cowboy hat,
that was his thing.
859
00:36:11,170 --> 00:36:14,004
And I was a little bit
more of a hippy.
860
00:36:14,080 --> 00:36:16,548
I had long hair, and he was
a little bit more clean-cut
861
00:36:16,625 --> 00:36:20,177
Now he's retired
and enjoying life
862
00:36:20,253 --> 00:36:23,180
and he sort of spends
a fair amount of time
on the road.
863
00:36:23,182 --> 00:36:26,892
And they come by and spend
a week, and we hang out
864
00:36:26,968 --> 00:36:29,394
and share war stories.
865
00:36:29,471 --> 00:36:31,980
So, you've heard about
all the craziness going on.
866
00:36:32,024 --> 00:36:33,648
That's one of the things
why I wanted to come up here
867
00:36:33,692 --> 00:36:35,692
so I could get it
from your mouth.
868
00:36:35,769 --> 00:36:37,527
There's a lot going on
in the farm, huh?
869
00:36:37,604 --> 00:36:39,863
-Yeah.
-I couldn't believe
you're selling it.
870
00:36:39,940 --> 00:36:42,407
You know, I'm trying to...
871
00:36:42,484 --> 00:36:44,743
get to retirement stage.
872
00:36:44,745 --> 00:36:48,955
I know there's, like, a lot
of turmoil, let's say,
873
00:36:49,032 --> 00:36:51,750
with the family and the farm
and who's gonna live there
874
00:36:51,752 --> 00:36:53,752
and who's gonna buy it.
How's that going?
875
00:36:54,588 --> 00:36:56,922
[Matt] Yeah, I mean, I think
Zach's very upset,
876
00:36:56,998 --> 00:37:01,426
but he sat down,
one conversation,
877
00:37:01,503 --> 00:37:03,303
and he came in with demands,
878
00:37:03,380 --> 00:37:04,537
-you know,
that just couldn't be...
-Oh, yeah.
879
00:37:04,614 --> 00:37:07,682
That went beyond price
and had to do with
880
00:37:07,717 --> 00:37:09,809
all the other guarantees
he wanted, you know?
881
00:37:09,811 --> 00:37:11,728
And the maintenance,
and this, and...
882
00:37:11,846 --> 00:37:13,980
Things that I just,
I, you know...
883
00:37:13,982 --> 00:37:16,733
couldn't accommodate.
884
00:37:16,810 --> 00:37:19,194
Family, negotiating with
family's gotta be
885
00:37:19,196 --> 00:37:20,695
-a tough thing to do.
-Yeah.
886
00:37:20,739 --> 00:37:22,447
Yes. I don't think, um...
887
00:37:22,524 --> 00:37:24,491
You might have
a stubborn streak.
888
00:37:24,567 --> 00:37:26,743
-Have you ever seen
the stubborn streak?
-Yeah, I have.
889
00:37:26,745 --> 00:37:28,870
But I also know nobody
that cares
890
00:37:28,914 --> 00:37:30,321
about his family
more than you.
891
00:37:30,323 --> 00:37:32,624
And I don't know if
your family understands that.
892
00:37:32,626 --> 00:37:34,834
I think that they,
a lot of times they see
893
00:37:34,911 --> 00:37:38,088
kinda like crossing the Ts,
dotting the Is and all that,
894
00:37:38,164 --> 00:37:40,382
and that you're some
businessman and all that.
895
00:37:40,467 --> 00:37:41,816
I know different.
896
00:37:41,818 --> 00:37:43,510
-You have to
take care of yourself.
-Yeah.
897
00:37:43,512 --> 00:37:46,221
But I know you also wanna
take care of your family.
898
00:37:46,265 --> 00:37:47,764
And I don't know
if they see that
899
00:37:47,841 --> 00:37:49,474
as much as, like, I can,
900
00:37:49,551 --> 00:37:50,976
being from the outside
looking in.
901
00:37:51,052 --> 00:37:52,585
[Matt] Mmm.
902
00:37:52,662 --> 00:37:55,105
The last thing I wanna do
is open this all up again,
903
00:37:55,107 --> 00:37:56,398
but I feel much better
904
00:37:56,441 --> 00:37:59,150
having the chance to talk
with an old buddy
905
00:37:59,152 --> 00:38:00,944
that I've known,
and who's known me
906
00:38:00,979 --> 00:38:02,570
for as many years as he has.
907
00:38:02,614 --> 00:38:06,616
I definitely made
some mistakes along the way,
908
00:38:06,618 --> 00:38:08,952
and I'd say
one of my biggest mistakes
909
00:38:09,029 --> 00:38:13,873
was I continued to think that
these kids would figure out
910
00:38:13,950 --> 00:38:15,792
how to keep the farm
in the family,
911
00:38:15,869 --> 00:38:18,878
that legacy,
but the problem was,
912
00:38:18,955 --> 00:38:21,214
if I'm gonna
give you something,
913
00:38:21,291 --> 00:38:23,925
then to suddenly think,
"Oh, wait a minute, I'm sorry,
914
00:38:23,927 --> 00:38:26,386
you should probably earn that
a little bit,"
915
00:38:26,463 --> 00:38:28,638
-it's hard
to turn that corner.
-Absolutely. Right.
916
00:38:29,599 --> 00:38:30,974
[Matt] Lot of people say tha
917
00:38:31,051 --> 00:38:33,727
I told the kids that they
would inherit this property,
918
00:38:33,762 --> 00:38:36,604
and I never said
anybody would inherit it.
919
00:38:36,606 --> 00:38:37,939
I always said that
hopefully we could
920
00:38:37,941 --> 00:38:39,441
keep this as a legacy.
921
00:38:39,484 --> 00:38:42,944
That made a giant assumption
which was my fault.
922
00:38:42,988 --> 00:38:45,864
My assumption was that
923
00:38:45,940 --> 00:38:48,408
the kids were gonna work
together as a team
924
00:38:48,410 --> 00:38:51,161
and share in the business.
925
00:38:51,237 --> 00:38:54,205
But everybody had different
dreams and aspirations
926
00:38:54,282 --> 00:38:56,541
and goals
for their own individual life.
927
00:38:56,543 --> 00:38:58,126
You can't blame them for that.
928
00:38:58,170 --> 00:39:03,506
But I cannot keep
an expectation
929
00:39:03,583 --> 00:39:06,509
that no longer is valid.
930
00:39:06,511 --> 00:39:08,261
And you're beating yourself up
931
00:39:08,338 --> 00:39:10,347
over a lot of this stuff,
you know,
932
00:39:10,423 --> 00:39:12,724
and you've done
what you can do.
933
00:39:12,801 --> 00:39:15,935
But the idea that you
gave them a choice of
934
00:39:15,937 --> 00:39:17,228
possibly owning that,
935
00:39:17,305 --> 00:39:18,980
you know,
when you're still around
936
00:39:19,024 --> 00:39:22,233
is admirable, because I
don't know anybody...
937
00:39:22,310 --> 00:39:23,693
My family wouldn't
have done that.
938
00:39:23,695 --> 00:39:26,196
Have you ever heard the phrase
"I created a monster"?
939
00:39:26,272 --> 00:39:28,156
Created a bunch
of little monsters.
940
00:39:28,158 --> 00:39:30,200
-The farm is definitely
a monster.
-The farm's a monster.
941
00:39:30,276 --> 00:39:32,118
You also have four great kids.
942
00:39:32,120 --> 00:39:34,829
Like, if I was gonna say
something to them,
943
00:39:34,873 --> 00:39:37,165
I think that
they did the right thing
944
00:39:37,209 --> 00:39:39,626
by creating a piece
of their own world.
945
00:39:39,628 --> 00:39:41,336
I think they'll be
happier for that.
946
00:39:41,338 --> 00:39:42,712
I agree with that.
947
00:39:43,715 --> 00:39:47,008
I think even though
Zach never really said to me
948
00:39:47,010 --> 00:39:48,126
he wanted a blank slate,
949
00:39:48,128 --> 00:39:51,805
I do think that
Zach did want that.
950
00:39:51,881 --> 00:39:55,975
He didn't want something
that I was hovering over,
951
00:39:56,052 --> 00:39:57,977
and had all this expectation
952
00:39:57,979 --> 00:40:01,189
He wanted to be his own man
with his own creations,
953
00:40:01,233 --> 00:40:04,192
and, um, I respected that.
954
00:40:04,903 --> 00:40:09,030
So, it sells tomorrow.
What's next?
955
00:40:09,032 --> 00:40:12,033
I wanna split my time.
50%, you know,
956
00:40:12,035 --> 00:40:13,410
-would be my objective.
-Right.
957
00:40:13,486 --> 00:40:15,745
Especially now that my folks
are down there in Arizona,
958
00:40:15,747 --> 00:40:17,455
-Caryn's folks are down there.
-That's right, that's right.
959
00:40:17,532 --> 00:40:19,249
As far as the pumpkin season,
960
00:40:19,325 --> 00:40:21,751
I'm just gonna do that
961
00:40:21,828 --> 00:40:23,253
for maybe another year,
962
00:40:23,329 --> 00:40:24,646
-maybe two.
-Yeah, yeah.
963
00:40:24,648 --> 00:40:26,506
No, there's a lot of work
that goes into that.
964
00:40:26,508 --> 00:40:29,426
I think one thing you deserve
is you deserve retirement.
965
00:40:29,502 --> 00:40:31,386
Some people say
retirement is not
966
00:40:31,388 --> 00:40:33,471
what it's cracked up to be,
and it's not always.
967
00:40:33,548 --> 00:40:34,755
But I know for a fact
968
00:40:34,766 --> 00:40:37,183
you would have
so many projects going on.
969
00:40:37,260 --> 00:40:39,644
And I can see you down there
basket weaving
970
00:40:39,721 --> 00:40:42,272
-in one of those
old folks' groups, you know?
-Old folks' crochet club?
971
00:40:42,348 --> 00:40:43,857
We might be right there
with you, you know?
972
00:40:43,859 --> 00:40:46,234
[both chuckle]
973
00:40:46,278 --> 00:40:48,069
Yeah.
974
00:40:48,071 --> 00:40:49,428
Bob's a straight shooter.
975
00:40:49,506 --> 00:40:51,531
Bob would tell me directly
if he disagreed with me.
976
00:40:51,608 --> 00:40:55,743
And it meant a lot to me
that he doesn't think
977
00:40:55,745 --> 00:40:58,830
I'm that far out of line
of being fair
978
00:40:58,907 --> 00:41:01,666
and true to myself
and, you know, to the family.
979
00:41:01,743 --> 00:41:03,585
Dealing with Zach,
I'm just gonna do
980
00:41:03,628 --> 00:41:06,254
what I've always done,
take little steps,
981
00:41:06,256 --> 00:41:11,134
and do what I can and don't
dwell on what I can't change,
982
00:41:11,211 --> 00:41:13,219
and I'm just gonna
keep trying.
983
00:41:13,296 --> 00:41:15,638
[Amy] Next on
Little People, Big World...
984
00:41:15,715 --> 00:41:18,266
Bob and Jody's visit
was really nice.
985
00:41:18,310 --> 00:41:20,894
I was able to share with Bob
how disheartening it is
986
00:41:20,896 --> 00:41:22,228
that my kids
aren't just celebrating
987
00:41:22,305 --> 00:41:23,855
experiences that they had,
988
00:41:23,857 --> 00:41:25,732
instead of focusing so much
989
00:41:25,767 --> 00:41:28,026
on what they're not gonna have
in the future.
990
00:41:28,102 --> 00:41:30,695
[Caryn] This whole thing
has been painful.
991
00:41:30,772 --> 00:41:34,115
The fact that it's still
going on is heartbreaking.
992
00:41:35,827 --> 00:41:38,786
I sometimes am
a little sensitive.
993
00:41:38,788 --> 00:41:40,747
I think it has
a lot to do with
994
00:41:40,749 --> 00:41:43,416
trying to be so careful
about my image
995
00:41:43,418 --> 00:41:46,002
and how people look at me
throughout my whole life.
996
00:41:46,079 --> 00:41:47,462
There are moments where,
you know,
997
00:41:47,464 --> 00:41:50,340
it goes back to my childhood,
that, um...
998
00:41:51,009 --> 00:41:52,592
Yeah.
999
00:41:52,677 --> 00:41:56,846
What you look at as "all okay"
I look at it as critical.
1000
00:41:56,923 --> 00:41:58,515
Hey!
1001
00:41:58,517 --> 00:41:59,724
Thank you for inviting us.
1002
00:41:59,726 --> 00:42:02,227
My good friend Brian
and his wife Geri
1003
00:42:02,229 --> 00:42:04,562
flew in from Texas
a couple of days ago.
1004
00:42:04,639 --> 00:42:07,148
What did you guys think of
Matt when you first met him?
1005
00:42:07,150 --> 00:42:08,816
You were a nice guy.
You were nice to me.
1006
00:42:08,818 --> 00:42:10,693
You smiled straight to my face
1007
00:42:10,853 --> 00:42:11,736
when you stabbed me
in the back.
1008
00:42:11,813 --> 00:42:13,655
[laughing]
1009
00:42:13,698 --> 00:42:15,573
Go, shoot it! Shoot it!
1010
00:42:15,575 --> 00:42:17,075
Nice, left foot!
1011
00:42:17,151 --> 00:42:19,077
I think Grandpa's gonna be
out here soccer.
1012
00:42:19,079 --> 00:42:20,954
-[Jackson speaking]
-And Cha Cha.
1013
00:42:21,030 --> 00:42:23,623
[Tori] Caryn tells
other people that
1014
00:42:23,700 --> 00:42:24,999
she's waiting
for our olive branch,
1015
00:42:25,043 --> 00:42:27,544
and that olive branch...
1016
00:42:27,620 --> 00:42:30,380
the dove took it to
another island, I don't know.