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[Matt Roloff] Previously on
Little People, Big World...
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So I know you were anxious
to get back down
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and see your mom.
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-Are you thinking
this week or next week?
-Yeah,
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I'm thinking... I... Yeah.
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I'm concerned about
my mother a lot
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with dad passing.
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She lost her lifelong partner.
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I know that it's still
a very difficult,
tough road for her.
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-Surprise!
-Surprise!
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This was a huge surprise.
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I really had no idea.
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Gonna be a hard act to follow.
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-[laughs]
-No, no, no, no.
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Look at that little Josiah!
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I'm feeling reflective
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on my dad passing away.
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That's why with,
um, all the kids,
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I'm redoubling my efforts
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to check in on them all
as often as possible.
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She's cute
in her little dress.
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-She's a fine girl when
she has a little dress on.
-[Tori Roloff] Oh, yeah.
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[Zach Roloff] When we
see my dad,
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we talk about
what the kids are doing
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and just, you know,
what's going on.
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Sometimes it's better
just to, you know,
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just keep the peace.
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[Amy Roloff]
Oh, is that from me?
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[Chris Marek] Nice card, hon.
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I tell you, it really is.
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Happy, happy post-birthday!
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-Thank you. [laughs]
-Whoops.
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[laughs]
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Party was a big hit.
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Everybody seemed
to have a good time.
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I had a great time.
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It started off
as totally unexpected,
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but it was just
a fun event, you know,
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we had good music,
good food, good friends.
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-Surprise!
-Surprise!
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[all cheering]
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It was a perfect evening.
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'Cause it was all
about you, babe.
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No, that's not
why it was perfect.
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-It was...
-Oh, I know. But for me,
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-it was nice to do
something just for you.
-[Chris] Aw.
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Yeah.
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-I'm glad you liked it.
-Good job.
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Babe, I can't believe
we're almost in one year
of being married.
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[Chris] I know.
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Maybe we can, um,
go to The Reserve...
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-[Chris] Hogwash.
-...and have dinner there.
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[Chris] Yeah.
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-Is that a date?
-That's a date.
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-Okay.
-Yeah.
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[Amy] Our one year anniversary
is coming up,
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and that's pretty significant.
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I've come away from divorce
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liking who I am.
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The one thing I do
realize about myself,
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I think I will always have
some sort of guard up.
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Life was moving
so fast with Matt,
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I think I always had it up.
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It was almost,
like, reactionary.
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I think Chris
brings out in me,
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you know,
a little more confidence,
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a little more strength.
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Even though
my guard may be up,
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I don't need it to be up
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as often as much as with Matt.
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And I'm content.
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Oh, did I tell you,
I texted Matt this morning?
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Oh, no. What for?
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I'm just kinda curious
about his house,
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you know, where he's at.
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You know, last time we talked,
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um, they had trenched out
for the foundation.
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I'm curious if
they've actually poured
the foundation yet.
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Mmm-hmm. Mmm-hmm.
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So I'm gonna go over
and talk to them about that,
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and he's been wanting
to talk to us
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-about pumpkin season.
-Oh, yeah.
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Anyway, I'd like to go
check that out,
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-and see what's going down.
-Okay, you can go do that.
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And give me the lowdown
on what pumpkin season
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-may look like.
-[Chris] You don't want to go?
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-No.
-Okay.
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-You don't mind
if I go, right?
-No, I don't care.
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Okay.
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Are you up for doing
what you usually do?
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I have to
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get my head around it?
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Why?
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'Cause I think
the farm for me,
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-now everything's changed.
-[Chris] Mmm.
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[Amy] I think because
the farm is up for sale,
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I think it just changes
pumpkin season for me
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on that personal level.
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I think what makes, you know,
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pumpkin season
a little more unique
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is when there's some of
the family members involved.
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I don't think all of the kids
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will really be a part
of pumpkin season this year.
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So, you know,
you're asking people to come
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to something
that was our home.
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Um, I think when it's just
another pumpkin place,
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people will still come,
which is very, very good,
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but I just wonder,
will it have its same...
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...family type
of personal perspective
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compared to something else.
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I'm debating whether
to be there or not,
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or how do I want to be there.
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If he's going to pare it down
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to, you know, just a couple
wagon tours,
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he really probably
doesn't even need my help.
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But I'd like to know
from him though.
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Just get the lowdown,
and, you know, we'll see.
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Okay.
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[Tori] What's up, dude?
How was school today?
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You had chapel today?
What did you guys do
in chapel?
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They had to carry
their own chairs.
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[gasps] Did you carry
your own chair?
Are you that strong?
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Did the teacher carry
your classmate's chairs?
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Why didn't you
carry your chair?
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[Tori] Oh, I hope
you weren't being lazy.
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[Zach] It's been
a really good summer,
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and now there's a lot
of changes happening.
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Jackson started
kindergarten this fall,
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and he's loving it.
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He's making a lot of friends,
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and he, his school
is kinda cool.
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He has, like,
computer class...
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-Art.
-...art class...
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-PE.
-...music, PE.
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So his favorite
is, uh, art class
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and computer class.
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[mumbling indistinctly]
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[Tori laughs]
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She's an actual wrecking ball.
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Lilah's loving
her situation right now.
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She's loving
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having the extra alone time
with Zach and I
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while Jackson's at school.
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And she's loving
being able to, like,
be the big sister and
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just have the attention
on her for once
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'cause that hasn't happened
a lot in her life.
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Josiah's awake.
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-[Lilah Roloff exclaims]
-[Tori] Like, awake awake?
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-Or like...
-[Zach] Eh, just whining.
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Josiah's getting
to be four months,
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and, um, we've been
sleep training him.
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Last night was probably
rougher for me.
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[Tori] Yesterday,
I have never,
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I, like, literally can't
remember a time in my life
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I've been that emotionally,
physically drained in my life.
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I'm very sleep deprived.
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Literally my only complaint
about Josiah,
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he's such an easy baby,
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he just doesn't
sleep at night.
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Like, he's just
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on the struggle bus,
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which is, like,
it's killing everyone.
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We're struggling, like,
it's just, it's not fun
to be honest.
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It's hard.
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My niche in life,
I truly believe,
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is being a mom.
I love being a mom.
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So when I have days
like yesterday,
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where I just didn't
have patience for my kids,
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like, I just,
when I get upset at them
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because of something
that's, like, affecting me,
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I hate that.
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Like, I just went
to bed last night
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with, like,
the worst mom guilt.
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[Zach] When I get mad
at the kids,
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it's because
I'm mad at the kids.
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I don't feel dad guilt.
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That's not true.
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-[Zach] But I got--
-There's been times
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that you've gotten mad
that you've felt guilty after.
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[Zach] Okay,
every now and then maybe.
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But it's not, like,
the same guilt.
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-We're talking about
different types.
-[Tori] It's not
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the same guilt,
my guilt is like,
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"Did I spend enough
time with them?"
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"Did I, like, listen to them?"
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-"Did I..."
-[Zach] Yeah, my guilt
is probably like,
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"I probably shouldn't
have done that." [laughs]
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[both laugh]
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[Tori] We can joke,
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but when you have
a lack of sleep,
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and you feel like
you're sinking and failing
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as a mother, it can be like...
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...frustrating.
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Well, and, like,
just when I, like, yell,
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just 'cause I don't feel
like I yell a lot ever...
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-[Zach laughs]
-I literally... I...
Can you leave?
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You don't yell that much,
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-but you yell.
-I don't yell ever.
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Oh, I wouldn't say ever,
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but, yeah, you're right.
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You don't, compared
to a lot of parents,
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you do not yell.
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This is what's frustrating
about you though,
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this is why I get overwhelmed.
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Honestly, Zach, this is why
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because you don't
give me any credit
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-for anything.
-[Zach] No, Tori,
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I'm giving you credit,
I'm just saying...
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[Tori] You do not though.
You don't.
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...ever is strong.
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You know what hurt
my feelings the other day?
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What hurt your feelings?
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You don't even care.
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-Give me what
hurt your feelings.
-[Tori] You literally,
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I'm making Jackson's lunch...
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-[Zach] Yeah.
-...and you go,
"Oh, it's just,
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you're just trying
to make it look good."
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I said cute, okay?
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Look cute, whatever.
It's even worse.
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Instead of, like,
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"Tori, thank you for
making our children lunch."
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I would say Zach takes care
of the outside of the house,
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and I take care
of the inside of the house.
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I do breakfast, feed the kids,
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get Jackson ready for school,
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take him to school,
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and then come home
when Josiah goes down
for his first nap.
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Then it's just
me and Lilah, and we play,
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and then he wakes up,
we do lunch.
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It's, like, exhausting.
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-[Zach] Yeah.
-I just wish you would
give me a little more credit
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-at being a mom.
-[Zach] I do give you credit,
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-but I also hold--
-You don't.
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-You don't
-I hold you accountable too.
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But that's why
I have days like yesterday
though, Zachary,
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that's why I get burnt out
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because I can't always,
like, be like that.
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No, I get it.
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[Tori] No, you don't.
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-I do.
-[Jackson Roloff exclaiming]
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[sighs]
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[Zach] So you're sleeping
upstairs tonight?
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I'm sleeping upstairs tonight.
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I'm gonna sleep
down the road tonight.
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[laughs]
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[Tori] I feel
underappreciated all the time.
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This is also an issue
in our marriage currently
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because I'm exhausted.
249
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-[Zach] Sleep is
very important.
-I'm, like, literally
250
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pouring from an empty cup,
251
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and everybody wants
something from me.
252
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And so, like, if I don't have
anything to give,
253
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it's, the whole,
everything just, like,
254
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freaks out.
255
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Also, we have lost
our babysitter roster up here,
256
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so that's been hard.
257
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I definitely need a break.
258
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Um, okay, so yeah,
you're upstairs,
259
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Lilah's with me,
Jackson's in his room,
260
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and Josiah's in Lilah's room.
261
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Musical beds.
262
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[Zach] When we bought
this house,
263
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we knew only having
two bedrooms for the kids
downstairs could be an issue.
264
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But, uh, you know,
at the time, we didn't
think about that.
265
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Right now, Josiah's been
sleeping in Lilah's room.
266
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And the challenge is
he'll wake up
in the middle of the night,
267
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uh, and we don't want him
to wake up Lilah.
268
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So we have to go in there.
269
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Instead of letting him
just cry, we give him
the binkie.
270
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And we don't want him
sleeping in Jackson's room.
271
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He has school,
so we wanna make sure
272
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he's getting
a good night's sleep.
273
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And we don't want Josiah
in our room because we want
our own space.
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Accurate.
275
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And so we're just trying
to figure out what to do.
276
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[Zach] We'll get through this.
277
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I do just wish you would
appreciate me more.
278
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I do appreciate you, Tori.
279
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-I just...
-You don't say it.
280
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I keep you sharp.
281
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On your toes.
282
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Men look it in
and they keep it sharp.
283
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-[chuckles]
-[Zach laughs]
284
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[Matt reading]
285
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So back to pumpkin season,
286
00:10:21,521 --> 00:10:23,688
you know, if you're cutting it
in half, you probably don't
even need my help.
287
00:10:23,724 --> 00:10:26,758
Well, no, we do.
We always want
a family member to do it.
288
00:10:26,793 --> 00:10:29,594
You know, I don't know
if Amy's really
100% committed.
289
00:10:29,630 --> 00:10:32,764
And it would definitely
be weird for me to do it
without her.
290
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We wanna talk to you
about more hours, not less.
291
00:10:35,936 --> 00:10:37,135
[both laughing]
292
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[Matt reading]
293
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Are you, uh, doing anything
with pumpkin season this year?
294
00:10:42,542 --> 00:10:43,842
-No.
-[Chris] No?
295
00:10:43,877 --> 00:10:46,711
I will not regret if this is
the last year of pumpkin
season
296
00:10:46,747 --> 00:10:48,346
and we did not,
like, participate.
297
00:10:48,382 --> 00:10:52,283
The farm is not a place of joy
for me anymore.
298
00:11:04,031 --> 00:11:06,564
-Knock, knock. Hey, man.
-How are ya?
299
00:11:06,600 --> 00:11:08,033
-How you doing?
-Good to see you.
300
00:11:08,068 --> 00:11:09,701
-Long time.
-Yeah, it's been
a little while.
301
00:11:09,736 --> 00:11:12,437
-A couple of weeks, yeah.
-I think, uh, probably haven't
seen you since the, uh,
302
00:11:12,472 --> 00:11:14,072
-the OPA.
-Take a seat.
303
00:11:14,107 --> 00:11:16,708
Yeah, right, OPA,
that was a good time,
wasn't it?
304
00:11:16,743 --> 00:11:19,444
-It was, yeah.
-Did you have as much fun
as we did?
305
00:11:19,479 --> 00:11:20,612
[Chris] I did,
we had a good time.
306
00:11:20,647 --> 00:11:22,313
[Matt] It was fun, yeah. Um...
307
00:11:22,349 --> 00:11:23,715
[Chris] Yeah.
308
00:11:23,750 --> 00:11:26,317
So I haven't seen a pending
sign over here yet.
309
00:11:26,353 --> 00:11:28,720
-What's happening?
-[chuckles] Yeah,
we got close
310
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-a couple times.
-Oh, is that right?
311
00:11:30,123 --> 00:11:33,224
-Yeah. Got real close
a couple of times.
-Did you get an offer?
312
00:11:33,260 --> 00:11:36,828
No, in the end,
it just wasn't...
I don't think the right fit.
313
00:11:36,863 --> 00:11:40,832
Chris is always interested
in the latest sort of update
on the house sale
314
00:11:40,867 --> 00:11:42,834
because, I mean,
he's in the real estate
business.
315
00:11:42,869 --> 00:11:45,804
So, naturally, he's curious
about what's going on.
316
00:11:45,839 --> 00:11:48,440
I'm okay when Chris
asks questions.
317
00:11:48,475 --> 00:11:51,810
I don't think he's just
asking me 'cause it's family
gossip or anything.
318
00:11:51,845 --> 00:11:54,212
I think he's asking
'cause he has a sincere
interest in it.
319
00:11:54,247 --> 00:11:55,580
You ready to do
a price reduction yet?
320
00:11:55,615 --> 00:11:57,215
-Nah, I don't think so.
-No?
321
00:11:57,250 --> 00:11:59,117
I mean, I'm not ready
for that yet.
322
00:11:59,152 --> 00:12:01,319
-Okay.
-I'm gonna let the whole
cycle play out.
323
00:12:01,354 --> 00:12:04,022
-At least until
after pumpkin season.
-Yeah.
324
00:12:04,057 --> 00:12:05,023
[both chuckle]
325
00:12:05,058 --> 00:12:06,424
[Matt] We're in the middle
of it right now.
326
00:12:06,460 --> 00:12:08,359
We already kind of
kicked it into high gear.
327
00:12:08,395 --> 00:12:10,395
We're gonna go forward
with pumpkin season.
328
00:12:10,430 --> 00:12:12,297
Um, it's gonna be
an interesting year
329
00:12:12,332 --> 00:12:15,633
because once again,
we're kind of trying
to set our expectations
330
00:12:15,669 --> 00:12:18,670
and figure out, you know,
the economy's kind of
crazy right now.
331
00:12:18,705 --> 00:12:22,373
So I'm predicting
just a little bit softer year,
you know.
332
00:12:22,409 --> 00:12:26,344
But I think that's kind of,
um, what the world
calls for right now.
333
00:12:26,379 --> 00:12:29,414
We were debating
about whether to do the tours
334
00:12:29,449 --> 00:12:31,182
or not and then I came
to this conclusion
335
00:12:31,218 --> 00:12:33,918
that maybe we'll cut back
on the tours.
336
00:12:33,954 --> 00:12:35,253
-Mmm-hmm.
-You know, we're trying
to simplify.
337
00:12:35,288 --> 00:12:38,056
But you're not sure yet
whether it's gonna be
the same route...
338
00:12:38,091 --> 00:12:40,024
The route will be the same.
339
00:12:40,060 --> 00:12:43,528
Hard to believe that just
a little less than a year ago,
I got married right there.
340
00:12:43,563 --> 00:12:44,629
[both laugh]
341
00:12:44,664 --> 00:12:47,532
So are we ready to see you
do the, uh, you know...
342
00:12:47,567 --> 00:12:50,068
-No. [mutters]
I don't think so.
-No?
343
00:12:50,103 --> 00:12:52,470
You know there's a setback
on my house?
344
00:12:52,506 --> 00:12:53,872
-Did you hear about that?
-No.
345
00:12:53,907 --> 00:12:55,974
Well, now it's all ready
for the foundation,
346
00:12:56,009 --> 00:12:58,910
but then we found out
that the county
347
00:12:58,945 --> 00:13:03,815
-is 16 to 20 weeks out.
-Oh, man.
That's a long time.
348
00:13:03,850 --> 00:13:06,518
That's like four months.
So I'm like, well, if I can't
start in January,
349
00:13:06,553 --> 00:13:08,453
-I don't wanna be building
in the rain.
-Right.
350
00:13:08,488 --> 00:13:11,289
-Let's go check it out.
I'll show it to you.
-Yeah.
351
00:13:11,324 --> 00:13:14,459
[Matt] I'm way behind
on pumpkin season setup.
352
00:13:14,494 --> 00:13:17,061
Last year it was all about
getting Amy and Chris'
wedding.
353
00:13:17,097 --> 00:13:19,230
The flowers, getting the place
ready for that
354
00:13:19,266 --> 00:13:21,699
right in the middle
of pumpkin season
and, um,
355
00:13:21,735 --> 00:13:24,369
this year, you know,
it's different
life challenges.
356
00:13:25,372 --> 00:13:27,605
-Sorry about your dad.
-Yeah.
357
00:13:27,641 --> 00:13:29,841
-That was a tough, uh,
tough one.
-Yeah.
358
00:13:29,876 --> 00:13:32,877
-It kind of came up
out of the blue.
-Yeah.
359
00:13:32,913 --> 00:13:35,380
-Well, sorry to hear that.
-Yeah, that was...
360
00:13:35,415 --> 00:13:38,616
Unfortunately,
it's inevitable, but it still
leaves a big hole.
361
00:13:38,652 --> 00:13:40,852
It's been a couple of weeks,
uh, since my dad passed.
362
00:13:40,887 --> 00:13:44,055
So I'm headed to Arizona soon
to check on my mother.
363
00:13:44,090 --> 00:13:47,192
I was just there,
but I'm trying to get
down there
364
00:13:47,227 --> 00:13:50,461
as often as I possibly can
right now.
365
00:13:50,497 --> 00:13:56,100
My mom is doing well.
Much better than I expected.
366
00:13:56,136 --> 00:13:59,737
I mean, she relied on my dad
and my dad told me,
367
00:13:59,773 --> 00:14:03,775
you know, on his death bed,
he said, "Oh, I think
I spoiled your mother.
368
00:14:03,810 --> 00:14:06,377
You know, can you take over?"
369
00:14:06,413 --> 00:14:09,180
Um, and, um, you know,
370
00:14:09,216 --> 00:14:11,616
I promised him I would
keep an eye on her
and watch after her.
371
00:14:11,651 --> 00:14:16,287
And which is what I'm doing,
why I'm going back and forth
as often as I am.
372
00:14:16,323 --> 00:14:18,723
I'm gonna check on my mother
and then, um...
373
00:14:19,793 --> 00:14:22,460
[sighs] Yeah, I'm kind of
trying to be very...
374
00:14:22,495 --> 00:14:24,562
-Getting her squared away.
-Yeah.
375
00:14:24,598 --> 00:14:27,031
Usually Caryn would go with me
to Arizona,
376
00:14:27,067 --> 00:14:30,335
but she's gonna be taking care
of her grandson this weekend,
377
00:14:30,370 --> 00:14:32,036
so I'm gonna go on my own.
378
00:14:32,072 --> 00:14:34,772
[Chris] So this is a huge
packed pad.
379
00:14:34,808 --> 00:14:37,175
The perimeter of your house
isn't gonna be this big,
is it?
380
00:14:37,210 --> 00:14:40,044
[Matt] No, basically,
you have to kind of
have the packed soil
381
00:14:40,080 --> 00:14:42,647
about, I think it's like
five feet beyond
382
00:14:42,682 --> 00:14:44,215
-the furthest perimeter.
-Okay.
383
00:14:44,251 --> 00:14:46,451
All right, so the foundation's
gonna sit right
on top of this.
384
00:14:46,486 --> 00:14:47,418
[Matt] Yes.
385
00:14:47,454 --> 00:14:49,320
Even though the ground
is ready, I mean,
386
00:14:49,356 --> 00:14:51,823
I may not lay a foundation
until next year.
387
00:14:51,858 --> 00:14:54,392
The fact that the permits
are gummed up does
388
00:14:54,427 --> 00:14:59,230
put a wrench in a lot
of things including
my plan to marry Caryn.
389
00:14:59,266 --> 00:15:01,266
I think... We don't have
a house.
390
00:15:01,301 --> 00:15:03,935
If we got married,
we'd wanna naturally
live together
391
00:15:03,970 --> 00:15:05,970
and have a, you know,
landing place.
392
00:15:06,006 --> 00:15:08,072
So that is highly
disappointing
393
00:15:08,108 --> 00:15:11,042
that the house isn't where
we were hoping it would be.
394
00:15:11,077 --> 00:15:12,377
So back to pumpkin season.
395
00:15:12,412 --> 00:15:16,648
What are your thoughts
on Amy? Just the usual
meet and greet?
396
00:15:16,683 --> 00:15:18,516
Well, see, that's what
I wanted to talk
to you guys about.
397
00:15:18,551 --> 00:15:23,054
I like her doing that
and I wanted to ask you
about, um, the tours.
398
00:15:23,089 --> 00:15:24,956
You know, as far
as helping out pumpkin season,
399
00:15:24,991 --> 00:15:27,258
you know, we're expecting
Amy and Chris, of course,
400
00:15:27,294 --> 00:15:30,028
Jacob and Isabel
are also helping out.
401
00:15:30,063 --> 00:15:33,097
Amy is really the face
of the family during
pumpkin season.
402
00:15:33,133 --> 00:15:35,566
So she has
a very important role.
403
00:15:35,602 --> 00:15:39,103
Last year, if I remember,
you did like two hours
a day, right?
404
00:15:39,139 --> 00:15:42,073
Uh, yeah, it was two
or three hours, um.
405
00:15:42,108 --> 00:15:44,642
You know, if you're cutting it
in half, you probably
don't even need my help.
406
00:15:44,678 --> 00:15:48,046
Well, no, we do.
We always want
a family member to do it.
407
00:15:48,081 --> 00:15:49,847
We wanna talk to you
about more hours.
408
00:15:49,883 --> 00:15:51,716
-Oh. [laughs]
-It's not less. [laughs]
409
00:15:51,751 --> 00:15:55,353
When Matt first asked
if I wanted to do, uh,
pumpkin season,
410
00:15:55,388 --> 00:15:58,289
my first response was
yes, I had a good time
last year.
411
00:15:58,325 --> 00:16:02,527
Um, but, uh, then, I,
you know, got to thinking I,
412
00:16:02,562 --> 00:16:05,129
you know, I don't know
if Amy's 100% committed.
413
00:16:05,165 --> 00:16:07,298
And it would definitely
be weird,
414
00:16:07,334 --> 00:16:09,600
it wouldn't be nearly
as much fun for me to do it
without her.
415
00:16:09,636 --> 00:16:13,504
So I really need to make sure
that she's 100% committed
416
00:16:13,540 --> 00:16:16,941
before I tell Matt
that I'm 100% committed.
417
00:16:16,977 --> 00:16:20,078
So I'm supposed to, you know,
bring back some info to Amy,
418
00:16:20,113 --> 00:16:22,880
but maybe when we get closer,
419
00:16:22,916 --> 00:16:27,151
we'll come back
and have a happy hour drink
and discuss details.
420
00:16:27,187 --> 00:16:28,953
[Matt] Yeah, that sounds
like a good time.
421
00:16:54,414 --> 00:16:58,116
My mother lives
in an apartment
in a senior home.
422
00:16:58,151 --> 00:17:02,887
Just a few miles away
from my house in Arizona
that I have with Caryn.
423
00:17:02,922 --> 00:17:04,989
My folks weren't there
very long
424
00:17:05,025 --> 00:17:07,759
before my dad passed,
but my dad made sure
425
00:17:07,794 --> 00:17:11,362
that they were set up
and my mother was
very comfortable,
426
00:17:11,398 --> 00:17:13,865
but she still has
some health challenges.
427
00:17:13,900 --> 00:17:15,967
You know, my mom
messed up her hip.
428
00:17:16,002 --> 00:17:19,203
You know, created a challenge
for her physically
to get around.
429
00:17:19,239 --> 00:17:22,040
And then, you know,
she has some high
blood pressure,
430
00:17:22,075 --> 00:17:25,877
and some other medical
issues that come with aging.
431
00:17:25,912 --> 00:17:28,613
The thing that concerns me
the absolute most
432
00:17:28,648 --> 00:17:31,449
about her being alone
is that she would fall.
433
00:17:31,484 --> 00:17:33,818
And if she falls,
434
00:17:33,853 --> 00:17:38,022
that could impact her mobility
even more significantly.
435
00:17:38,058 --> 00:17:39,424
Where do you wanna eat at?
436
00:17:39,459 --> 00:17:42,260
Oh, I've got down
at the garden cafe
I think is the best.
437
00:17:42,295 --> 00:17:45,096
-I'm dying for a cup
of coffee.
-We could go down there.
438
00:17:45,131 --> 00:17:48,533
I think my mother,
all of us, are still kind of
in a state of shock
439
00:17:48,568 --> 00:17:50,134
over losing my dad.
440
00:17:50,170 --> 00:17:52,870
And, um, you know,
I think she just hasn't
441
00:17:52,906 --> 00:17:55,306
completely entered
into the grieving space.
442
00:17:55,341 --> 00:17:56,808
You know, and that's yet
to come.
443
00:17:56,843 --> 00:17:58,743
I think that might
be true for all of us.
444
00:17:58,778 --> 00:18:01,145
We haven't really fully
processed
445
00:18:01,181 --> 00:18:03,114
the fact that my dad is gone.
446
00:18:03,149 --> 00:18:04,916
You're gonna be able
to get in here by yourself?
447
00:18:04,951 --> 00:18:07,885
Yeah, Dad was teaching me this
just before he left.
448
00:18:07,921 --> 00:18:09,754
Is how to transfer. Okay.
Here I go.
449
00:18:09,789 --> 00:18:12,690
-One, two, three.
-Yep, stand up first.
450
00:18:12,725 --> 00:18:14,058
-Yeah, there you go.
-How do you like that?
451
00:18:16,112 --> 00:18:17,211
Super good transfer.
452
00:18:17,247 --> 00:18:18,579
-[server] Good morning.
-Hi.
453
00:18:19,582 --> 00:18:20,648
[server] You know
we do coffee, right?
454
00:18:20,683 --> 00:18:22,850
-Regular? Okay.
-Yes.
455
00:18:22,886 --> 00:18:26,654
My dad, you know,
super social guy.
456
00:18:26,689 --> 00:18:31,659
And, you know, my mom
is not quite as, uh, outgoing
as Dad.
457
00:18:31,694 --> 00:18:33,928
So we just wanna make sure,
you know,
458
00:18:33,963 --> 00:18:35,930
that my mother is not
retreating into her room,
459
00:18:35,965 --> 00:18:36,931
Yeah.
460
00:18:37,967 --> 00:18:39,400
Yeah, come on over.
461
00:18:40,470 --> 00:18:42,570
You always sit with us.
462
00:18:42,605 --> 00:18:44,472
Deloris is a really good
friend of my mother's.
463
00:18:44,507 --> 00:18:47,241
She's been a great companion
since my dad's passing.
464
00:18:47,277 --> 00:18:48,709
How have you been?
465
00:18:48,745 --> 00:18:51,078
I'm doing good. Thank you.
466
00:18:51,114 --> 00:18:53,714
-Good, good. You look great.
-Oh, thank you.
467
00:18:53,750 --> 00:18:56,884
My mom just really enjoys
Deloris' company.
468
00:18:56,920 --> 00:18:58,920
So, Mom,
how do you see this going?
469
00:18:58,955 --> 00:19:00,421
The event going down for Dad?
470
00:19:00,456 --> 00:19:03,090
-I think everybody's
getting excited to get that.
-Yeah.
471
00:19:03,126 --> 00:19:06,561
One thing is we definitely
want to have
is a military color guard,
472
00:19:06,596 --> 00:19:07,929
-which means, uh...
-[Matt] Oh, oh, right.
473
00:19:07,964 --> 00:19:09,630
They... Dad used
to really love that
474
00:19:09,666 --> 00:19:12,433
-when he'd go to, like,
different friends' memorials.
-[Matt] Right, right. Yeah.
475
00:19:12,468 --> 00:19:15,102
And then I would do
a slideshow.
476
00:19:15,138 --> 00:19:16,204
Oh, yeah.
477
00:19:16,239 --> 00:19:18,472
[Matt] And we immediately
delayed the idea of a memorial
478
00:19:18,508 --> 00:19:20,608
until later in the year.
479
00:19:20,643 --> 00:19:24,212
When the bulk of the family
was available
and gave us time to grieve,
480
00:19:24,247 --> 00:19:25,346
and then put that together.
481
00:19:25,381 --> 00:19:28,049
So now it's set for
the first week of November.
482
00:19:28,084 --> 00:19:30,017
This is not gonna be
a traditional funeral,
483
00:19:30,053 --> 00:19:32,954
you know, where you go
to the gravesite and it's sad.
484
00:19:32,989 --> 00:19:34,355
I mean, this is...
You know, you...
485
00:19:34,390 --> 00:19:37,725
A lot of people call it
a celebration of life,
486
00:19:37,760 --> 00:19:39,827
you know, Papa,
and we show, you know,
487
00:19:39,863 --> 00:19:42,430
happy pictures
and play upbeat music,
488
00:19:42,465 --> 00:19:45,433
and, uh, that's sort
of what the plan is.
489
00:19:45,468 --> 00:19:47,568
[Peggy] Someone said I need
a yellow flag.
490
00:19:47,604 --> 00:19:48,870
-[Matt] Yeah.
-[Peggy chuckling]
491
00:19:48,905 --> 00:19:50,271
And I'm only going half speed.
492
00:19:50,306 --> 00:19:52,073
[Matt] Yeah, I thought we were
gonna have a race.
493
00:19:52,108 --> 00:19:52,907
[Peggy] Yeah.
494
00:19:56,212 --> 00:19:58,546
-[Matt chuckling] You're
getting that down, huh?
-Yeah.
495
00:20:08,524 --> 00:20:10,524
[Matt] To go in the room after
he was no...
496
00:20:10,560 --> 00:20:14,228
you know, no longer with us,
and, uh, looking at all
the photos,
497
00:20:14,264 --> 00:20:17,265
and kind of realizing
this is gonna
be my mother's room
498
00:20:17,300 --> 00:20:19,433
and Dad's not gonna be
here anymore.
499
00:20:19,469 --> 00:20:22,470
You know, it's...
it's a sad thought to think
500
00:20:22,505 --> 00:20:27,441
that such a radical change
can happen so quickly.
501
00:20:27,477 --> 00:20:29,644
[Peggy] Matt, you wanted one
of Dad's Bibles right?
502
00:20:29,679 --> 00:20:31,812
Oh, yeah, yeah. But while...
you know, I mean...
503
00:20:31,848 --> 00:20:33,948
I don't want to take it away
while you're using it,
but yeah.
504
00:20:33,983 --> 00:20:37,184
[Peggy] No, no. I've got about
six Bibles, so this is, uh...
505
00:20:37,220 --> 00:20:39,020
...Dad's. You can see
how worn out it is.
506
00:20:39,055 --> 00:20:40,888
[Matt] Yeah. Oh, yeah.
507
00:20:40,924 --> 00:20:42,690
[Peggy] He's got
lots of scripture
in there that's all...
508
00:20:42,725 --> 00:20:44,592
Does it have his name in it?
509
00:20:44,627 --> 00:20:46,527
We've been... We've married
64 years,
510
00:20:46,562 --> 00:20:48,529
and he loved
me unconditionally.
511
00:20:48,564 --> 00:20:52,199
We had a terrific marriage,
and he was a good man.
512
00:20:52,235 --> 00:20:53,901
Oh, now I miss him more, now.
513
00:20:53,937 --> 00:20:55,002
That's the way
it's supposed to be.
514
00:20:55,038 --> 00:20:56,470
-You're supposed
to miss him, yeah.
-Yeah, yeah.
515
00:20:57,840 --> 00:21:00,408
[Matt] Wow, you've got quite
a few wonderful cards.
516
00:21:00,443 --> 00:21:02,944
Ever... Are all
your old friends finding you?
517
00:21:02,979 --> 00:21:04,779
Yeah, they are, surprisingly.
518
00:21:04,814 --> 00:21:07,348
I still don't really realize
that Ron's gone.
519
00:21:07,383 --> 00:21:09,717
I get up and I think,
"Oh, I better be quiet."
520
00:21:09,752 --> 00:21:11,852
-You know? But,
and it's just these pillows...
-You don't wanna wake him up.
521
00:21:11,888 --> 00:21:14,055
Don't wanna wake him up.
Yeah, wish I could.
522
00:21:14,090 --> 00:21:14,956
-Mmm-hmm.
-Um...
523
00:21:15,792 --> 00:21:16,824
It's just a strange feeling.
524
00:21:16,859 --> 00:21:19,393
But it's not... it's not sad.
525
00:21:19,429 --> 00:21:22,563
So that's what's...
that's what's
really surprised me.
526
00:21:22,598 --> 00:21:24,098
-Maybe that day will come.
-Yeah.
527
00:21:24,133 --> 00:21:24,932
I hope not.
528
00:21:27,870 --> 00:21:28,736
[Matt] Coming up...
529
00:21:28,771 --> 00:21:29,704
[Zach] Go!
530
00:21:30,740 --> 00:21:31,605
[Amy laughing]
531
00:21:31,641 --> 00:21:32,440
There's your brother!
532
00:21:33,509 --> 00:21:34,809
[Jackson speaking]
533
00:21:34,844 --> 00:21:37,545
[Tori] Okay, now Lilah,
if you squirt him,
he can squirt you.
534
00:21:38,214 --> 00:21:40,247
-Whoa!
-[Tori laughing]
535
00:21:55,031 --> 00:21:56,163
Lilah, put your sunglasses on.
536
00:21:57,700 --> 00:21:59,433
-[Chris] Hey, guys! Welcome!
-[Tori] Hello!
537
00:21:59,469 --> 00:22:01,669
Hey, Jackson. Hi, Lilah.
538
00:22:01,704 --> 00:22:03,304
-[Zach] Hey.
-[Tori] Good to see you.
539
00:22:03,339 --> 00:22:04,772
[Chris] I like
your sunglasses, Lilah.
540
00:22:04,807 --> 00:22:05,740
[Tori] What do you say?
541
00:22:06,776 --> 00:22:07,875
Say thank you?
542
00:22:07,910 --> 00:22:09,543
Yeah, take your shoes off.
Stay a while.
543
00:22:10,546 --> 00:22:12,980
-[Zach] Hey.
-[Amy] Hi!
544
00:22:13,016 --> 00:22:15,116
[Zach] We have not been
to Mimi and Chris's
in a while,
545
00:22:15,151 --> 00:22:17,551
so we're here for
a pool party
in their backyard.
546
00:22:17,587 --> 00:22:19,120
Jackson likes kiddie pools.
547
00:22:19,155 --> 00:22:20,388
[both] So does Lilah.
548
00:22:20,423 --> 00:22:22,023
-They both love water.
-Yeah.
549
00:22:22,058 --> 00:22:23,024
Little kiddie pool action.
550
00:22:23,860 --> 00:22:25,593
-[gasping] What?
-[Jackson] Gotcha.
551
00:22:25,628 --> 00:22:27,561
-[Zach laughing]
-You can't do that.
552
00:22:27,597 --> 00:22:29,330
[Zach] Wait, Jackson, get her!
She's getting you!
553
00:22:29,365 --> 00:22:30,197
Go!
554
00:22:31,167 --> 00:22:32,266
[Amy laughing]
555
00:22:34,137 --> 00:22:35,202
Here, let me load you up.
556
00:22:36,439 --> 00:22:37,638
There's your brother!
557
00:22:37,673 --> 00:22:39,507
[Jackson laughing
and speaking]
558
00:22:39,542 --> 00:22:41,208
[Tori] Okay,
now Lilah, though,
if you squirt him,
559
00:22:41,244 --> 00:22:42,443
he can squirt you.
560
00:22:46,783 --> 00:22:49,083
-Whoa!
-[Tori laughing]
561
00:22:49,118 --> 00:22:51,018
[Chris] Somebody told me that
she's starting
to say some words?
562
00:22:51,054 --> 00:22:52,686
-She's starting to speak
a little bit? Yeah?
-[Zach] Oh, yeah.
563
00:22:52,722 --> 00:22:54,255
She's speaking a lot
better now.
564
00:22:54,290 --> 00:22:55,456
Wow.
565
00:22:55,491 --> 00:22:56,590
Lilah's speech has gotten...
566
00:22:56,626 --> 00:22:57,925
-...a lot better.
-Yeah, it has gotten
a lot better.
567
00:22:57,960 --> 00:23:00,194
-Her vocabulary has gotten...
-We counted
to ten this morning.
568
00:23:00,229 --> 00:23:02,530
-Yeah, she's starting...
She says thank you...
-She's doing really good.
569
00:23:02,565 --> 00:23:04,532
And I feel like it's helped
her confidence a lot, too.
570
00:23:04,567 --> 00:23:06,267
[Zach] There will be times
when I still don't know
what she's saying,
571
00:23:06,302 --> 00:23:08,269
and she'll say it to me
in such a sass.
572
00:23:08,304 --> 00:23:10,271
Like, "I can...
like, why wouldn't you...
573
00:23:10,306 --> 00:23:11,872
-...understand me?"
-"Why can't you
understand me?"
574
00:23:11,908 --> 00:23:12,940
How are you doing?
575
00:23:14,243 --> 00:23:15,276
How are you doing?
576
00:23:16,479 --> 00:23:17,278
Hmm?
577
00:23:18,514 --> 00:23:21,582
-[Tori] Yeah!
-[Zach] Whoa!
578
00:23:21,617 --> 00:23:23,350
Can you put your whole
body underwater?
579
00:23:23,386 --> 00:23:25,386
You can do it!
Put your whole
head underwater.
580
00:23:32,428 --> 00:23:34,762
[Chris] Amy and I are having
our one year anniversary
coming up.
581
00:23:34,797 --> 00:23:36,363
-Nice. When is
your anniversary?
-[Chris] So...
582
00:23:36,399 --> 00:23:37,364
-[Amy] The 28th.
-[Tori] 28th!
583
00:23:37,400 --> 00:23:39,567
-28th.
-Oh wow, okay.
It's been a year? Wow.
584
00:23:39,602 --> 00:23:41,635
[Zach] It's crazy.
A lot happened in one year.
585
00:23:41,671 --> 00:23:43,370
Yeah, my mom's wedding
was around the time
586
00:23:43,406 --> 00:23:45,306
the farm deal
kind of went bad.
587
00:23:45,341 --> 00:23:47,174
And, uh, the move was hard.
588
00:23:47,210 --> 00:23:48,776
Moving's hard.
589
00:23:48,811 --> 00:23:52,413
And also still processing
the farm deal and the fallout
and everything.
590
00:23:52,448 --> 00:23:55,116
So, a lot happened in a year.
591
00:23:55,151 --> 00:23:59,053
We'll do our, uh, um,
our yearly celebration
592
00:23:59,088 --> 00:24:00,354
at, uh, the reserve.
593
00:24:00,389 --> 00:24:01,522
-Where we had
our first date.
-[Zach] Oh.
594
00:24:01,557 --> 00:24:02,990
Oh, nice.
595
00:24:03,025 --> 00:24:04,125
[Chris] So you guys didn't
live together before
you got married, then?
596
00:24:04,160 --> 00:24:05,392
[Zach] No.
597
00:24:05,428 --> 00:24:08,195
I wanted to act like
we were married
to get all that stuff,
598
00:24:08,231 --> 00:24:10,364
-to see if it was gonna
turn into anything big.
-[Zach] Yeah.
599
00:24:10,399 --> 00:24:11,665
[Chris] I mean,
if it was going
to be a deal killer,
600
00:24:11,701 --> 00:24:12,700
I wanted to know
ahead of time.
601
00:24:12,735 --> 00:24:14,034
[laughing]
602
00:24:14,070 --> 00:24:17,204
I've definitely had to, uh,
make adjustments on
603
00:24:17,240 --> 00:24:22,409
not having as much control
over the environment
I live in every day.
604
00:24:23,412 --> 00:24:27,148
And, uh, that's taken
a lot of compromising,
605
00:24:27,183 --> 00:24:30,050
and, um,
still working on that.
606
00:24:30,086 --> 00:24:31,519
[Zach] Yeah, are we eating
out here, or...
607
00:24:31,554 --> 00:24:33,053
Yeah, dinner's ready
if you guys want.
608
00:24:33,089 --> 00:24:34,455
I can dish up.
609
00:24:34,490 --> 00:24:36,223
I think adjustments in
a relationship
610
00:24:36,259 --> 00:24:38,325
will always be ongoing.
611
00:24:38,361 --> 00:24:42,863
But I think for me,
adjustments would be
paying a little more attention
612
00:24:42,899 --> 00:24:46,500
to what works for Chris,
or what makes him happy,
613
00:24:46,536 --> 00:24:49,436
which is basically
one word... neatness.
614
00:24:49,472 --> 00:24:53,741
And so I continue to try
and get better at that.
615
00:24:53,776 --> 00:24:56,043
But other than that, you know,
it's been great!
616
00:24:56,846 --> 00:24:57,645
Mmm.
617
00:24:59,715 --> 00:25:00,915
Is that good food?
618
00:25:01,551 --> 00:25:02,816
[Tori] This is really good.
619
00:25:02,852 --> 00:25:05,119
I was worried that
the sausage
wouldn't quite work.
620
00:25:05,154 --> 00:25:06,720
-[Tori] I told you,
I've told you.
-[Zach] No, it's super good.
621
00:25:06,756 --> 00:25:08,289
[Tori] Her new thing is rice.
622
00:25:08,324 --> 00:25:11,025
-And so, life is okay?
Going good?
-[Zach] Yeah.
623
00:25:12,028 --> 00:25:13,027
-[Amy] Um...
-[Zach] I'm thinking we might
624
00:25:13,062 --> 00:25:15,329
move Jackson upstairs
pretty soon, though.
625
00:25:15,364 --> 00:25:16,630
That'll be a big thing.
626
00:25:16,666 --> 00:25:19,567
[Zach] Slide Lilah over,
and then get Josiah
where Lilah is.
627
00:25:19,602 --> 00:25:21,202
[Tori] They go back
and forth daily.
628
00:25:21,237 --> 00:25:23,103
-[Zach] Yeah, I know.
-[Tori] It's like, it's a good
choice or not.
629
00:25:23,139 --> 00:25:24,238
Yeah.
630
00:25:24,273 --> 00:25:26,574
[Zach] Sleep training
has been kind of rough, um...
631
00:25:26,609 --> 00:25:28,809
Tori's slept upstairs
in our bonus room
a couple times,
632
00:25:28,844 --> 00:25:29,944
I've slept upstairs...
633
00:25:30,479 --> 00:25:31,312
We've...
634
00:25:31,347 --> 00:25:32,613
[chuckling]
635
00:25:32,648 --> 00:25:35,249
Lilah has slept in our room,
I've slept in Jackson's room,
636
00:25:35,284 --> 00:25:36,650
Jackson has slept in our room.
637
00:25:36,686 --> 00:25:38,018
Josiah has slept everywhere.
638
00:25:38,054 --> 00:25:39,220
We slept outside in the tent.
639
00:25:39,255 --> 00:25:41,922
-I've slept outside
on the bench.
-Yeah!
640
00:25:41,958 --> 00:25:43,390
-We have many different...
-Many different.
641
00:25:43,426 --> 00:25:46,860
We've had many different
combinations to make
this work.
642
00:25:46,896 --> 00:25:48,262
But we need something
more permanent.
643
00:25:48,297 --> 00:25:49,863
We need a better solution.
644
00:25:49,899 --> 00:25:52,900
Are you, uh,
doing anything with
pumpkin season this year?
645
00:25:52,935 --> 00:25:53,767
-No.
-[Chris] No?
646
00:25:55,404 --> 00:25:57,137
No interest, no... whatever.
647
00:25:59,175 --> 00:26:00,241
[Amy] I know,
I was debating...
648
00:26:01,210 --> 00:26:02,076
...since so much has changed.
649
00:26:02,845 --> 00:26:05,346
I know that Chris
and Matt talked,
650
00:26:05,381 --> 00:26:08,449
and Matt let Chris know
what pumpkin season
may look like,
651
00:26:08,484 --> 00:26:10,884
what in general
may be happening.
652
00:26:10,920 --> 00:26:14,121
But with everything going on
with the property
and the house,
653
00:26:14,156 --> 00:26:17,491
I don't anticipate all
of the kids
really "participating"
654
00:26:17,526 --> 00:26:19,026
in pumpkin season this year.
655
00:26:19,061 --> 00:26:22,663
And sometimes I think
it's best just to...
656
00:26:22,698 --> 00:26:25,032
...end it while you still
have a good thought,
657
00:26:25,067 --> 00:26:26,467
a good memory about it.
658
00:26:26,502 --> 00:26:28,569
And so, until I talk to Matt,
659
00:26:28,604 --> 00:26:30,804
I'm just not...
I'm really not sure
how I feel,
660
00:26:30,840 --> 00:26:32,473
and what I want to do.
661
00:26:32,508 --> 00:26:35,142
It's gonna be interesting
to see who does come,
662
00:26:35,177 --> 00:26:36,910
-because they're probably
gonna wonder, like...
-[Zach] None of them go.
663
00:26:36,946 --> 00:26:38,279
...what is pumpkin season
over there?
664
00:26:38,314 --> 00:26:39,647
[Chris] People are gonna
wanna see something.
665
00:26:39,682 --> 00:26:41,548
I don't think it's
gonna be all that much
different than last year.
666
00:26:41,584 --> 00:26:44,051
-I think it's gonna be
super well attended, though.
-[Chris] Yeah.
667
00:26:46,656 --> 00:26:49,423
Time does change
how you feel about things.
668
00:26:49,458 --> 00:26:52,793
I will not regret if this
is the last
true pumpkin season...
669
00:26:52,828 --> 00:26:54,795
...and we did not, like,
participate or anything.
670
00:26:54,830 --> 00:26:57,164
Like... the glory days
when we met,
671
00:26:57,199 --> 00:26:59,300
-and it was all
of our friends...
-Yeah.
672
00:26:59,335 --> 00:27:01,135
-...working. It's just...
-It's just not
that at all anymore.
673
00:27:01,170 --> 00:27:02,403
-That was 12 years ago.
-Yeah.
674
00:27:02,438 --> 00:27:04,538
-It... Those are over.
-The farm is not...
675
00:27:05,541 --> 00:27:08,008
...like, a place
of joy for me anymore.
676
00:27:11,914 --> 00:27:13,380
-[Amy chuckling] Oh, God.
-[Tori] Not particularly.
677
00:27:15,451 --> 00:27:16,283
Yeah!
678
00:27:16,319 --> 00:27:17,751
[Lilah speaking]
679
00:27:17,787 --> 00:27:19,620
[Amy] "Dada?" And who's this?
680
00:27:20,056 --> 00:27:20,921
[Lilah] Uh...
681
00:27:20,956 --> 00:27:22,389
[whispering] Chris.
682
00:27:22,425 --> 00:27:23,290
[Lilah] Huh?
683
00:27:23,326 --> 00:27:24,325
-[Amy] Chris.
-Say "Chris."
684
00:27:24,360 --> 00:27:25,959
-[Lilah mumbling]
-You can say it.
685
00:27:27,163 --> 00:27:28,362
-No?
-"No." [chuckling]
686
00:27:37,740 --> 00:27:40,174
[Matt] Tonight, I'm gonna take
my mother to dinner.
687
00:27:40,209 --> 00:27:43,277
I'm pretty encouraged
my mother
is really stepping up
688
00:27:43,312 --> 00:27:45,512
to... to be as independent
as possible.
689
00:27:45,548 --> 00:27:47,748
I am my own
physical limitation.
690
00:27:47,783 --> 00:27:49,583
Caryn helped me
with stuff, so...
691
00:27:49,618 --> 00:27:52,986
...um, it's, it's a little bit
of a double...
double challenge,
692
00:27:53,022 --> 00:27:55,089
helping my mom out
where I can.
693
00:27:55,124 --> 00:27:56,290
Can you go ahead and climb in,
694
00:27:56,325 --> 00:27:58,659
-and I'll put
the walker in there.
-I will.
695
00:27:58,694 --> 00:28:00,294
-Do you know how
to fold these things?
-I don't.
696
00:28:00,329 --> 00:28:03,630
But we have this van
that has suspension
that goes up and down,
697
00:28:03,666 --> 00:28:07,201
so I'm able to get my mom
into the van pretty easily.
698
00:28:07,236 --> 00:28:08,135
[Peggy] Yeah.
699
00:28:08,170 --> 00:28:09,002
Okay.
700
00:28:09,038 --> 00:28:10,270
There we go.
701
00:28:10,306 --> 00:28:12,172
Now we've jinxed it
and you're gonna splat
on the ground.
702
00:28:12,208 --> 00:28:14,341
Oh, my... thanks. I hope not.
703
00:28:23,285 --> 00:28:24,284
[Peggy] Hi, there.
704
00:28:24,320 --> 00:28:26,353
She likes to, you know,
have a reason to kind of
705
00:28:26,389 --> 00:28:28,155
get herself dressed up
a little bit.
706
00:28:28,190 --> 00:28:29,690
So, even though it's a little
bit more work,
707
00:28:29,725 --> 00:28:32,893
it's really nice to, you know,
go eat something different,
708
00:28:32,928 --> 00:28:35,696
you know, than the same...
the same thing
every single day.
709
00:28:35,731 --> 00:28:37,464
And how would you like
your filet cooked on that?
710
00:28:37,500 --> 00:28:40,401
-Raw.
-[waiter laughs]
Raw, okay. Awesome.
711
00:28:40,436 --> 00:28:42,803
-I meant rare.
-[Matt] Okay, rare.
712
00:28:42,838 --> 00:28:44,671
And I don't really
see that changing.
713
00:28:44,707 --> 00:28:47,674
I see more trips down there,
not, you know,
definitely not less.
714
00:28:49,211 --> 00:28:51,311
Dad would love to come
to a place like this.
715
00:28:51,347 --> 00:28:52,746
-He loves Vietnamese food.
-[Matt] Yeah.
716
00:28:52,782 --> 00:28:54,715
Dad and I would love
to go out once in a while,
717
00:28:54,750 --> 00:28:56,750
-you know, this was nice.
-Yeah.
718
00:28:56,786 --> 00:28:58,419
-[waiter] Waters here for you.
-[Peggy] Thank you.
719
00:28:58,454 --> 00:28:59,620
[waiter] Of course.
720
00:28:59,655 --> 00:29:01,889
And he loved to, um,
meet people.
721
00:29:01,924 --> 00:29:04,792
So I kinda got used
to the idea of him going out.
722
00:29:04,827 --> 00:29:07,261
Otherwise, we were
with each other 24/7,
which was wonderful.
723
00:29:07,296 --> 00:29:09,296
Yeah.
724
00:29:09,331 --> 00:29:11,465
In fact, the reason
he had our chairs
close together there
725
00:29:11,500 --> 00:29:12,933
-in front of the TV,
-Yeah.
726
00:29:12,968 --> 00:29:14,435
was he wanted to hold hands.
727
00:29:16,038 --> 00:29:17,771
-He loved me dearly.
-Oh.
728
00:29:17,807 --> 00:29:20,741
-Everybody just told me that.
It was very humbling.
-Yeah. Oh, yeah.
729
00:29:20,776 --> 00:29:22,543
[Matt] My mother
and father had
730
00:29:22,578 --> 00:29:25,379
a long and very
loving relationship.
731
00:29:25,414 --> 00:29:27,414
Um, and having dinner
with my mom
732
00:29:27,450 --> 00:29:29,616
sort of reinforces
how important
733
00:29:29,652 --> 00:29:31,452
that Caryn is in my life.
734
00:29:32,988 --> 00:29:34,588
[Peggy] We had a lot
of experiences in our life.
735
00:29:34,623 --> 00:29:36,089
Dad was really good.
736
00:29:36,125 --> 00:29:38,959
-He took you on camping trips
with your classrooms,
-Yeah. Yeah.
737
00:29:38,994 --> 00:29:40,694
and Yosemite, I think he went?
738
00:29:40,729 --> 00:29:42,963
Oh, I remember
crossing a river,
he scared us to death.
739
00:29:42,998 --> 00:29:44,832
-[laughs]
-This rushing river,
740
00:29:44,867 --> 00:29:46,767
and he walked
across the rocks.
741
00:29:46,802 --> 00:29:48,735
-Oh, yeah.
-He was very sure-footed.
742
00:29:50,206 --> 00:29:52,005
[Matt] My childhood
was very fun.
743
00:29:52,041 --> 00:29:53,440
You know, we did a lot
of family trips,
744
00:29:53,476 --> 00:29:54,708
you know, around the country.
745
00:29:54,743 --> 00:29:56,710
We went camping a lot.
746
00:29:56,745 --> 00:29:58,979
Um, you know, I always
loved my folks
747
00:29:59,014 --> 00:30:01,048
for the way
they raised us, um,
748
00:30:01,083 --> 00:30:03,884
you know, my folks never
had any history of dwarfism
in their family.
749
00:30:03,919 --> 00:30:05,519
You know, all of a sudden,
poof, you know,
750
00:30:05,554 --> 00:30:07,421
they have a baby
that's a dwarf.
751
00:30:07,456 --> 00:30:10,791
You know, they had
my sister first.
Zero physical ailments,
752
00:30:10,826 --> 00:30:14,094
and then, uh, you know,
my brother and I both
had dwarfism.
753
00:30:14,129 --> 00:30:16,697
So I can only imagine
754
00:30:17,433 --> 00:30:20,100
the absolute shock
755
00:30:20,135 --> 00:30:22,236
that my parents would've felt.
756
00:30:22,271 --> 00:30:25,272
Despite all that, I always
felt completely loved,
757
00:30:25,307 --> 00:30:28,308
and my folks felt like
they were proud of me.
758
00:30:28,344 --> 00:30:30,711
That's a special,
special parent
759
00:30:30,746 --> 00:30:33,647
to be able to provide
that kind of upbringing.
760
00:30:33,682 --> 00:30:37,651
And certainly a lot of that
has rubbed off on me.
761
00:30:37,686 --> 00:30:41,121
And I, you know,
try to do some of those
things with my kids.
762
00:30:41,156 --> 00:30:42,856
How's yours? Does it have
any flavor to it?
763
00:30:42,892 --> 00:30:44,391
Yeah, it's good.
764
00:30:47,463 --> 00:30:50,197
-Our life is gonna
be different.
-Mmm-hmm.
765
00:30:50,232 --> 00:30:53,800
-Dad made a big impact
on a lot of people.
-Yeah.
766
00:30:53,836 --> 00:30:56,270
You know, he knew who he was,
and where he was going,
767
00:30:56,305 --> 00:30:57,504
-and, yeah.
-Yeah.
768
00:30:59,174 --> 00:31:01,642
[Matt] I think my mother's
putting on a very brave face.
769
00:31:01,677 --> 00:31:04,011
My parents were married
for virtually
770
00:31:04,046 --> 00:31:05,846
their entire adult life.
771
00:31:05,881 --> 00:31:07,981
So it's only natural
for my mom
772
00:31:08,017 --> 00:31:12,019
to struggle a little bit
with my dad's absence.
773
00:31:12,054 --> 00:31:14,788
Well, I'm glad we got
to try this place.
774
00:31:14,823 --> 00:31:18,058
Yeah, I am, too.
Dad would love
to have been here.
775
00:31:18,093 --> 00:31:20,794
-He loved Vietnamese food.
He loved everything.
-Yeah. Mmm-hmm.
776
00:31:20,829 --> 00:31:23,463
-Are you, um,
ready to make the journey?
-Yup.
777
00:31:26,669 --> 00:31:27,868
[announcer] Coming up...
778
00:31:27,903 --> 00:31:30,437
I couldn't believe when
you proposed to me.
779
00:31:31,307 --> 00:31:33,173
You were so nervous,
weren't you?
780
00:31:33,208 --> 00:31:34,508
-Were you nervous?
-No, no.
781
00:31:34,543 --> 00:31:35,676
Yeah, you were.
782
00:31:35,711 --> 00:31:38,545
You got so, like,
emotional or teary-eyed.
783
00:31:38,581 --> 00:31:40,747
-Oh, please, I didn't
get teary-eyed.
-[laughs]
784
00:31:40,783 --> 00:31:42,015
I was a rock.
785
00:31:58,567 --> 00:32:00,734
[Chris] Would you like me
to pull your chair out?
786
00:32:00,769 --> 00:32:02,135
-[Amy] If you want.
-Do you like that?
787
00:32:02,171 --> 00:32:03,303
[Amy] Oh, sure.
788
00:32:04,340 --> 00:32:05,606
-Yeah.
-I mean, I don't know
789
00:32:05,641 --> 00:32:08,275
-if it's better for you
to adjust your own--
-I just...
790
00:32:08,310 --> 00:32:09,743
I don't know,
I just figure it's...
791
00:32:09,778 --> 00:32:11,311
-[Chris] Do you want,
do you want closer?
-Yeah.
792
00:32:11,347 --> 00:32:13,513
[Amy] It's our first year
wedding anniversary,
793
00:32:13,549 --> 00:32:16,817
and we made a decision
794
00:32:16,852 --> 00:32:18,885
after he proposed to me,
795
00:32:18,921 --> 00:32:21,655
that why don't we
make this a yearly event?
796
00:32:21,690 --> 00:32:23,991
To celebrate getting engaged,
797
00:32:24,026 --> 00:32:25,892
first date, being married?
798
00:32:25,928 --> 00:32:27,628
So we chose The Reserve,
799
00:32:27,663 --> 00:32:29,129
because that's where, gosh,
800
00:32:29,164 --> 00:32:32,032
-life-changing
moments happened.
-Yeah.
801
00:32:32,067 --> 00:32:34,668
Six years ago
was our first date.
802
00:32:35,904 --> 00:32:39,272
And three years ago
was when I proposed.
803
00:32:39,308 --> 00:32:41,475
And then because of COVID,
we couldn't come.
804
00:32:41,510 --> 00:32:43,010
Oh, yeah, yeah.
Yeah, that's right.
805
00:32:43,045 --> 00:32:45,078
So this will be our
first real dinner here
806
00:32:45,114 --> 00:32:47,047
-since, uh, I proposed.
-Yeah.
807
00:32:47,082 --> 00:32:49,016
-Still good memories?
-Yeah.
808
00:32:49,051 --> 00:32:51,785
I'm just so happy I was
able to trick you
into saying yes.
809
00:32:51,820 --> 00:32:54,955
[laughs] That you did.
810
00:32:54,990 --> 00:32:56,857
It's on this hand.
811
00:32:56,892 --> 00:32:58,258
Still looking pretty.
812
00:33:00,295 --> 00:33:02,663
-The ring looks good, too.
-[laughs]
813
00:33:03,999 --> 00:33:05,699
-Yeah.
-[Amy laughs] Yeah.
814
00:33:05,734 --> 00:33:09,236
I couldn't believe
when you proposed to me.
815
00:33:09,271 --> 00:33:11,238
You were so nervous,
weren't you?
816
00:33:11,273 --> 00:33:12,739
-Were you nervous?
-No, no.
817
00:33:12,775 --> 00:33:13,940
Yeah, you were.
818
00:33:17,346 --> 00:33:18,679
What?
819
00:33:19,548 --> 00:33:20,714
Nothing.
820
00:33:20,749 --> 00:33:22,049
You were nervous, you were...
821
00:33:22,084 --> 00:33:23,483
I had it all figured out.
822
00:33:23,519 --> 00:33:25,719
And then you were like...
Oh, you got so,
823
00:33:25,754 --> 00:33:27,854
like, emotional or teary-eyed.
824
00:33:27,890 --> 00:33:29,623
-Oh, please, I didn't
get teary-eyed.
-[laughs]
825
00:33:29,658 --> 00:33:31,391
[Chris] I was a rock.
826
00:33:31,427 --> 00:33:33,160
[laughs]
827
00:33:36,365 --> 00:33:37,831
[laughing] What?
828
00:33:37,866 --> 00:33:38,932
[Chris sniffles]
829
00:33:38,967 --> 00:33:42,035
[voice shaking]
It's been an amazing journey.
830
00:33:42,071 --> 00:33:43,804
And you're the one
I want to finish it with.
831
00:33:45,474 --> 00:33:47,808
[Amy] Chris doesn't
show emotions.
832
00:33:48,744 --> 00:33:50,844
Uh, often, even to this day,
833
00:33:50,879 --> 00:33:53,447
that I've been married
and with him for so long.
834
00:33:53,482 --> 00:33:55,248
But when he did,
835
00:33:55,284 --> 00:33:58,685
because I wasn't used
to him doing that,
836
00:33:58,721 --> 00:34:00,253
I, I didn't know what to do.
837
00:34:02,524 --> 00:34:04,524
-Will you marry me?
-Oh, my God!
838
00:34:04,560 --> 00:34:06,727
[Amy laughs]
839
00:34:06,762 --> 00:34:08,261
Yes!
840
00:34:08,297 --> 00:34:09,496
I wasn't crying.
841
00:34:09,531 --> 00:34:11,531
[chuckling] You just got
a little watery.
842
00:34:11,567 --> 00:34:13,934
-Oh, it was smoky out there.
-[laughs]
843
00:34:13,969 --> 00:34:15,769
Happy one-year anniversary.
844
00:34:15,804 --> 00:34:18,138
-Happy one-year
anniversary, babe.
-Mmm.
845
00:34:19,475 --> 00:34:21,908
-Here's the salad for you.
-Oh, okay, thank you.
846
00:34:21,944 --> 00:34:24,177
-Mmm, thank you.
-Enjoy.
847
00:34:26,615 --> 00:34:29,249
So what are the most
favorite things that
you did this year?
848
00:34:29,952 --> 00:34:31,485
Oh, the motorcycle ride
849
00:34:31,520 --> 00:34:33,954
-Yeah.
-was the most adventurous.
850
00:34:33,989 --> 00:34:35,489
[Amy] I, I would,
I would say so, too.
851
00:34:36,625 --> 00:34:39,159
Can I handle it?
Can I handle three more days
852
00:34:39,194 --> 00:34:40,927
before our final destination?
853
00:34:40,963 --> 00:34:43,730
Before we turn around
and come home? Oof.
854
00:34:44,733 --> 00:34:46,166
[whispering] I don't know.
855
00:34:46,201 --> 00:34:47,567
[in normal voice]
Can we handle it, babe?
856
00:34:47,603 --> 00:34:49,236
[Chris speaking]
857
00:34:49,271 --> 00:34:51,505
[Amy] Oh, you're in it
for the long haul? [laughs]
858
00:34:51,540 --> 00:34:53,140
[Chris] We're both
on the same page,
859
00:34:53,175 --> 00:34:55,342
that our future
is really gonna be...
860
00:34:55,377 --> 00:34:57,177
I know we wanna do
a lot of traveling
in our future.
861
00:34:57,212 --> 00:35:00,914
And I'm hoping to keep up
with the new adventures,
you know?
862
00:35:00,949 --> 00:35:03,617
Now that we're married,
I don't wanna become
863
00:35:03,652 --> 00:35:05,318
too sedentary and think,
you know,
864
00:35:05,354 --> 00:35:06,720
the wooing stage is over,
865
00:35:06,755 --> 00:35:09,055
I wanna keep going,
I wanna, you know, explore--
866
00:35:09,091 --> 00:35:11,258
-Oh, you wanna
keep wooing me?
-That, too.
867
00:35:11,293 --> 00:35:12,993
-Yeah.
-Oh, okay.
868
00:35:13,028 --> 00:35:15,929
And my way of doing that
is new experiences.
869
00:35:15,964 --> 00:35:18,965
You know, getting out
and exploring
and doing fun stuff.
870
00:35:19,001 --> 00:35:20,233
-Okay.
-Keep moving.
871
00:35:21,236 --> 00:35:22,903
Oh, I'm looking forward
to the balloon ride
872
00:35:22,938 --> 00:35:24,371
-that you got me
for my birthday.
-Yeah.
873
00:35:24,406 --> 00:35:26,740
That'll be our first thing.
874
00:35:26,775 --> 00:35:29,476
-And then we're gonna
go back to Michigan.
-Yeah, I wanna do that.
875
00:35:29,511 --> 00:35:31,878
Lord willing, my father
will still be okay.
876
00:35:31,914 --> 00:35:33,013
I hope so.
877
00:35:33,048 --> 00:35:34,781
Do you ever see him
flying out here again,
878
00:35:34,817 --> 00:35:36,950
or was the wedding
his last plane trip?
879
00:35:36,985 --> 00:35:38,685
-I think the wedding
was his last plane trip.
-Yeah.
880
00:35:38,720 --> 00:35:41,021
-I'm just really
glad he did it.
-Yeah.
881
00:35:41,056 --> 00:35:43,423
And I'm so happy we
got married on the farm, too.
882
00:35:43,458 --> 00:35:45,992
-I think that worked
out really well.
-Yeah, I did too.
883
00:35:46,028 --> 00:35:48,428
That was a wonderful moment.
884
00:35:48,463 --> 00:35:50,730
I'm glad it came to me again.
885
00:35:50,766 --> 00:35:52,599
I never thought it would.
886
00:35:52,634 --> 00:35:53,667
-No?
-I never expected that.
887
00:35:54,636 --> 00:35:57,070
[Amy]
Having a second opportunity,
888
00:35:57,105 --> 00:36:00,841
you know, at having
a wonderful relationship
with Chris,
889
00:36:00,876 --> 00:36:02,475
is being reminded.
890
00:36:02,511 --> 00:36:04,778
It's not only the mechanics
of a relationship,
891
00:36:04,813 --> 00:36:08,281
but also the joy and giving
892
00:36:08,317 --> 00:36:10,350
in a relationship as well.
893
00:36:10,385 --> 00:36:13,086
[Chris] I feel like we're
still continuing to learn
894
00:36:13,121 --> 00:36:14,187
-[Amy] Mmm-hmm.
-about each other,
895
00:36:14,223 --> 00:36:17,023
and how to happily
live with each other.
896
00:36:17,059 --> 00:36:20,193
But for me, there's never
been a single moment
897
00:36:20,229 --> 00:36:23,296
or instance where I've had
any doubt or regret.
898
00:36:23,332 --> 00:36:25,098
-That you wanted to run?
-Yeah.
899
00:36:25,133 --> 00:36:26,533
Neither have I.
900
00:36:27,669 --> 00:36:29,703
Here's to the continuation
901
00:36:29,738 --> 00:36:32,038
of the sweetness
of life together.
902
00:36:32,074 --> 00:36:33,206
Here's to the next six months.
903
00:36:34,109 --> 00:36:36,309
-I love you.
-I love you, too.
904
00:36:36,345 --> 00:36:37,444
[Amy] Mmm.
905
00:36:48,790 --> 00:36:50,657
What are they gonna do
in the dunk tank?
906
00:36:51,627 --> 00:36:52,826
Where is that dunking table?
907
00:36:52,861 --> 00:36:55,629
-I think it's outside
on the back patio.
-Oh.
908
00:36:55,664 --> 00:36:59,199
Today's my last day,
uh, here in Arizona
visiting my mother,
909
00:36:59,234 --> 00:37:02,502
and there's a kind
of a country fair, carnival,
910
00:37:02,537 --> 00:37:04,771
uh, themed party going on
911
00:37:04,806 --> 00:37:06,373
at her center today.
912
00:37:06,408 --> 00:37:09,476
Keeps everybody, you know,
active and entertained.
913
00:37:09,511 --> 00:37:11,177
Drench 'em, Caroline.
914
00:37:12,748 --> 00:37:14,080
[laughing]
915
00:37:14,116 --> 00:37:15,315
[woman] Here we go.
916
00:37:15,350 --> 00:37:17,584
[people shouting] Ohhh!
917
00:37:17,619 --> 00:37:18,985
[people cheering]
918
00:37:20,055 --> 00:37:22,489
[Matt] My mother is doing
surprisingly well,
919
00:37:22,524 --> 00:37:24,124
and she's taking
care of herself.
920
00:37:24,159 --> 00:37:27,727
She's figuring out how
to be independent again, um,
921
00:37:27,763 --> 00:37:29,496
and I'm very,
very proud of her.
922
00:37:29,531 --> 00:37:30,931
She's sort of stepped up.
923
00:37:30,966 --> 00:37:32,799
Can you throw that far?
924
00:37:32,834 --> 00:37:34,668
-Oh, to that little flag?
-You gotta hit that bucket.
925
00:37:35,671 --> 00:37:37,137
[people cheering]
926
00:37:38,507 --> 00:37:40,674
-[Peggy] Okay, can I get
a little closer?
-[woman speaking]
927
00:37:42,678 --> 00:37:44,844
-Aw. Oh!
-[woman speaking]
928
00:37:45,681 --> 00:37:47,013
Okay, I'm gonna go
a little closer.
929
00:37:47,049 --> 00:37:49,182
Right on your
nose, huh? [laughs]
930
00:37:49,217 --> 00:37:50,517
Hey, that's too close!
931
00:37:52,287 --> 00:37:53,753
-[Peggy] Oh!
-[people cheering]
932
00:37:55,424 --> 00:37:56,856
[laughing] Sorry.
933
00:37:56,892 --> 00:37:58,692
Oh, I did good. Yeah.
934
00:37:58,727 --> 00:38:00,126
Finally!
935
00:38:01,697 --> 00:38:03,830
-Could you have
gotten any closer?
-[both laugh]
936
00:38:03,865 --> 00:38:05,966
-No, I started
to walk up on them.
-Yeah.
937
00:38:06,001 --> 00:38:08,068
-You could've hit them
with your hand.
-Yup.
938
00:38:08,103 --> 00:38:10,603
I'm very, very happy
for what I've seen so far.
939
00:38:10,639 --> 00:38:12,973
Um, just, if she doesn't fall
940
00:38:13,008 --> 00:38:14,808
and break a bone, or her hip,
941
00:38:14,843 --> 00:38:16,576
or some catastrophe,
942
00:38:16,611 --> 00:38:20,847
she could, um,
stay independent,
you know, indefinitely.
943
00:38:20,882 --> 00:38:22,816
-Um, okay, well,
that was a lot of fun.
-It was.
944
00:38:22,851 --> 00:38:25,986
Okay. Keep, um, you know,
up with your meds.
945
00:38:26,021 --> 00:38:28,421
-Come back soon.
-Come back soon,
keep up with your meds.
946
00:38:28,457 --> 00:38:30,490
I'm really glad I get
to be able to spend this time
947
00:38:30,525 --> 00:38:32,325
with my mom, and, um,
948
00:38:32,361 --> 00:38:34,928
you know, I'm hoping
if I make it into my 80s,
949
00:38:34,963 --> 00:38:36,730
then I get to be as, you know,
950
00:38:36,765 --> 00:38:39,899
get to be as close
to the family as she is.
951
00:38:39,935 --> 00:38:41,568
You're in good hands here.
952
00:38:41,603 --> 00:38:43,703
-I'm in very good hands here.
-And I'm very proud of you,
you're doing super good.
953
00:38:43,739 --> 00:38:45,905
-Dad would be so pleased.
-He'd be very pleased.
954
00:38:45,941 --> 00:38:49,342
My dad, he was
a solid human being.
Solid character.
955
00:38:49,378 --> 00:38:51,911
Set a great example
for all of his grandkids
956
00:38:51,947 --> 00:38:54,214
and great-grandkids,
you know, so.
957
00:38:54,249 --> 00:38:57,617
He, he has a,
it's a high bar, and, uh,
958
00:38:57,652 --> 00:39:01,454
he would've put out
a big effort to make sure that
959
00:39:01,490 --> 00:39:04,657
other relationships heal
and that people got along,
960
00:39:04,693 --> 00:39:06,826
and everybody
loved each other,
961
00:39:06,862 --> 00:39:09,696
and that the family
stuck together through
thick and thin.
962
00:39:09,731 --> 00:39:12,298
-See you.
-Anyway, I'll see you
in a couple weeks, okay?
963
00:39:12,334 --> 00:39:14,634
-All right, love you.
-See you. Okay, bye,
love you too, sweetheart.
964
00:39:14,669 --> 00:39:17,470
And, um, I'm gonna
do my best to, you know,
965
00:39:17,506 --> 00:39:18,671
follow in his footsteps
966
00:39:18,707 --> 00:39:21,107
and, you know, I'm gonna do
my best to honor his memory.
967
00:39:21,143 --> 00:39:23,076
Family's important,
and I'm, you know,
968
00:39:23,111 --> 00:39:24,744
always gonna love my kids.
969
00:39:24,780 --> 00:39:27,580
And I get it.
I'm a dominant force,
970
00:39:27,616 --> 00:39:29,582
you know, in everything
that I do.
971
00:39:29,618 --> 00:39:32,919
I apologize, but that's just
the way that I am.
972
00:39:32,954 --> 00:39:35,088
So there's no doubt
I look back and think,
973
00:39:35,123 --> 00:39:36,556
"Oh, I could've
done this better."
974
00:39:36,591 --> 00:39:40,460
You know, but I think
it's time to look
towards the future
975
00:39:40,495 --> 00:39:42,462
and not towards the past.
976
00:39:46,001 --> 00:39:48,435
[announcer] Next on
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977
00:39:48,470 --> 00:39:49,903
[Zach] Last night was rough.
978
00:39:49,938 --> 00:39:52,505
Last night was R-U-F-F, rough.
979
00:39:52,541 --> 00:39:55,075
Sleep training is just,
it's been impossible.
980
00:39:55,110 --> 00:39:56,843
[wailing]
981
00:39:56,878 --> 00:39:59,212
I haven't slept since
I gave birth to him.
982
00:40:01,783 --> 00:40:03,683
-[Amy] Hey, hey, hey.
-[Tori] How are ya?
983
00:40:03,718 --> 00:40:05,452
[Matt] Chris and Amy
are gonna talk about
984
00:40:05,487 --> 00:40:07,020
their involvement
in pumpkin season.
985
00:40:07,055 --> 00:40:08,655
So let's get down to business.
986
00:40:08,690 --> 00:40:10,857
What are you guys, um,
are you still on board?
987
00:40:10,892 --> 00:40:12,659
[Amy]
Everything that's going on,
988
00:40:12,694 --> 00:40:14,761
how this whole
farm thing went down,
989
00:40:14,796 --> 00:40:17,063
I think, you know,
we're all trying to figure out
990
00:40:17,099 --> 00:40:18,665
this is still family,
991
00:40:18,700 --> 00:40:22,135
but how do we interact
with that family now?
992
00:40:22,170 --> 00:40:24,204
Okay, so you're doing
pumpkin season this year?
993
00:40:24,239 --> 00:40:25,472
Are you?
994
00:40:25,507 --> 00:40:27,740
Things have changed,
you know, the place
is up for sale.
995
00:40:27,776 --> 00:40:29,409
And then of course, you know,
996
00:40:29,444 --> 00:40:31,911
-the whole thing between
Matt and Chris.
-Their little bromance.
997
00:40:31,947 --> 00:40:34,347
-Yeah.
-Are you okay with that?
998
00:40:34,382 --> 00:40:36,216
[Tori] I don't know,
we, like, worry about you.
999
00:40:36,251 --> 00:40:38,685
-Just, like, we wanna
make sure that you're, like...
-Aw, my kids.
1000
00:40:38,720 --> 00:40:40,720
[Amy] I think I came away
from divorce
1001
00:40:40,755 --> 00:40:43,356
knowing that I've got
four kids to still
be here for,
1002
00:40:43,391 --> 00:40:44,824
so they gave me a purpose.
1003
00:40:44,860 --> 00:40:48,194
And they will
always be, till...
1004
00:40:52,033 --> 00:40:55,168
[Caryn] So, you said
you had a big plan B.
1005
00:40:55,203 --> 00:40:58,271
Occasionally even
Matt Roloff's thick skull,
1006
00:40:58,306 --> 00:40:59,873
you know, you feel like
you get hit in the head
1007
00:40:59,908 --> 00:41:01,374
with a hammer
and it wakes you up.
1008
00:41:01,409 --> 00:41:04,043
Are you gonna tell everybody?
1009
00:41:04,079 --> 00:41:07,614
It's time to listen, [laughs]
1010
00:41:07,649 --> 00:41:10,350
to the hammer hitting
the side of my skull
1011
00:41:10,385 --> 00:41:12,752
and do something different
with the farm.