1 00:00:01,902 --> 00:00:03,402 [Matt Roloff] Previously on Little People, Big World... 2 00:00:03,437 --> 00:00:05,304 So I know you were anxious to get back down 3 00:00:05,339 --> 00:00:06,805 and see your mom. 4 00:00:06,841 --> 00:00:08,540 -Are you thinking this week or next week? -Yeah, 5 00:00:08,576 --> 00:00:10,743 I'm thinking... I... Yeah. 6 00:00:10,778 --> 00:00:12,678 I'm concerned about my mother a lot 7 00:00:12,713 --> 00:00:14,146 with dad passing. 8 00:00:14,181 --> 00:00:17,149 She lost her lifelong partner. 9 00:00:17,184 --> 00:00:20,719 I know that it's still a very difficult, tough road for her. 10 00:00:22,957 --> 00:00:26,191 -Surprise! -Surprise! 11 00:00:26,227 --> 00:00:27,893 This was a huge surprise. 12 00:00:27,928 --> 00:00:30,162 I really had no idea. 13 00:00:30,197 --> 00:00:31,563 Gonna be a hard act to follow. 14 00:00:31,599 --> 00:00:34,199 -[laughs] -No, no, no, no. 15 00:00:36,570 --> 00:00:38,837 Look at that little Josiah! 16 00:00:38,873 --> 00:00:40,372 I'm feeling reflective 17 00:00:40,408 --> 00:00:42,408 on my dad passing away. 18 00:00:42,443 --> 00:00:45,077 That's why with, um, all the kids, 19 00:00:45,112 --> 00:00:46,879 I'm redoubling my efforts 20 00:00:46,914 --> 00:00:49,948 to check in on them all as often as possible. 21 00:00:49,984 --> 00:00:51,750 She's cute in her little dress. 22 00:00:51,786 --> 00:00:54,253 -She's a fine girl when she has a little dress on. -[Tori Roloff] Oh, yeah. 23 00:00:55,156 --> 00:00:56,355 [Zach Roloff] When we see my dad, 24 00:00:56,390 --> 00:00:58,123 we talk about what the kids are doing 25 00:00:58,159 --> 00:01:00,392 and just, you know, what's going on. 26 00:01:00,428 --> 00:01:02,227 Sometimes it's better just to, you know, 27 00:01:03,330 --> 00:01:04,329 just keep the peace. 28 00:01:18,446 --> 00:01:20,646 [Amy Roloff] Oh, is that from me? 29 00:01:20,681 --> 00:01:22,548 [Chris Marek] Nice card, hon. 30 00:01:22,583 --> 00:01:23,749 I tell you, it really is. 31 00:01:23,784 --> 00:01:25,417 Happy, happy post-birthday! 32 00:01:25,453 --> 00:01:26,885 -Thank you. [laughs] -Whoops. 33 00:01:26,921 --> 00:01:28,620 [laughs] 34 00:01:29,290 --> 00:01:30,889 Party was a big hit. 35 00:01:30,925 --> 00:01:32,224 Everybody seemed to have a good time. 36 00:01:32,259 --> 00:01:33,258 I had a great time. 37 00:01:33,294 --> 00:01:35,127 It started off as totally unexpected, 38 00:01:35,162 --> 00:01:37,429 but it was just a fun event, you know, 39 00:01:37,465 --> 00:01:39,565 we had good music, good food, good friends. 40 00:01:39,600 --> 00:01:44,136 -Surprise! -Surprise! 41 00:01:44,171 --> 00:01:48,140 [all cheering] 42 00:01:48,909 --> 00:01:50,109 It was a perfect evening. 43 00:01:50,144 --> 00:01:51,743 'Cause it was all about you, babe. 44 00:01:51,779 --> 00:01:53,579 No, that's not why it was perfect. 45 00:01:53,614 --> 00:01:55,314 -It was... -Oh, I know. But for me, 46 00:01:55,349 --> 00:01:58,217 -it was nice to do something just for you. -[Chris] Aw. 47 00:01:58,252 --> 00:01:59,351 Yeah. 48 00:01:59,386 --> 00:02:01,386 -I'm glad you liked it. -Good job. 49 00:02:01,422 --> 00:02:04,823 Babe, I can't believe we're almost in one year of being married. 50 00:02:04,859 --> 00:02:05,924 [Chris] I know. 51 00:02:05,960 --> 00:02:08,861 Maybe we can, um, go to The Reserve... 52 00:02:08,896 --> 00:02:10,129 -[Chris] Hogwash. -...and have dinner there. 53 00:02:10,164 --> 00:02:11,230 [Chris] Yeah. 54 00:02:11,265 --> 00:02:12,731 -Is that a date? -That's a date. 55 00:02:12,766 --> 00:02:13,799 -Okay. -Yeah. 56 00:02:13,834 --> 00:02:15,701 [Amy] Our one year anniversary is coming up, 57 00:02:15,736 --> 00:02:18,003 and that's pretty significant. 58 00:02:18,038 --> 00:02:19,605 I've come away from divorce 59 00:02:20,407 --> 00:02:22,307 liking who I am. 60 00:02:22,343 --> 00:02:24,343 The one thing I do realize about myself, 61 00:02:24,378 --> 00:02:27,379 I think I will always have some sort of guard up. 62 00:02:27,414 --> 00:02:30,048 Life was moving so fast with Matt, 63 00:02:30,084 --> 00:02:31,517 I think I always had it up. 64 00:02:31,552 --> 00:02:33,252 It was almost, like, reactionary. 65 00:02:33,287 --> 00:02:35,587 I think Chris brings out in me, 66 00:02:35,623 --> 00:02:37,222 you know, a little more confidence, 67 00:02:37,258 --> 00:02:38,323 a little more strength. 68 00:02:38,359 --> 00:02:40,259 Even though my guard may be up, 69 00:02:40,294 --> 00:02:41,827 I don't need it to be up 70 00:02:41,862 --> 00:02:44,363 as often as much as with Matt. 71 00:02:44,398 --> 00:02:47,366 And I'm content. 72 00:02:47,401 --> 00:02:49,535 Oh, did I tell you, I texted Matt this morning? 73 00:02:50,004 --> 00:02:51,703 Oh, no. What for? 74 00:02:51,739 --> 00:02:53,972 I'm just kinda curious about his house, 75 00:02:54,008 --> 00:02:55,040 you know, where he's at. 76 00:02:55,075 --> 00:02:56,708 You know, last time we talked, 77 00:02:56,744 --> 00:02:59,011 um, they had trenched out for the foundation. 78 00:02:59,046 --> 00:03:01,079 I'm curious if they've actually poured the foundation yet. 79 00:03:01,115 --> 00:03:02,181 Mmm-hmm. Mmm-hmm. 80 00:03:02,216 --> 00:03:03,715 So I'm gonna go over and talk to them about that, 81 00:03:03,751 --> 00:03:06,418 and he's been wanting to talk to us 82 00:03:06,453 --> 00:03:08,086 -about pumpkin season. -Oh, yeah. 83 00:03:08,122 --> 00:03:09,655 Anyway, I'd like to go check that out, 84 00:03:09,690 --> 00:03:11,890 -and see what's going down. -Okay, you can go do that. 85 00:03:11,926 --> 00:03:13,592 And give me the lowdown on what pumpkin season 86 00:03:13,627 --> 00:03:14,760 -may look like. -[Chris] You don't want to go? 87 00:03:14,795 --> 00:03:16,361 -No. -Okay. 88 00:03:16,397 --> 00:03:18,096 -You don't mind if I go, right? -No, I don't care. 89 00:03:18,132 --> 00:03:19,198 Okay. 90 00:03:19,233 --> 00:03:21,300 Are you up for doing what you usually do? 91 00:03:22,036 --> 00:03:23,001 I have to 92 00:03:24,004 --> 00:03:25,337 get my head around it? 93 00:03:25,372 --> 00:03:26,638 Why? 94 00:03:26,674 --> 00:03:28,207 'Cause I think the farm for me, 95 00:03:28,242 --> 00:03:30,642 -now everything's changed. -[Chris] Mmm. 96 00:03:30,678 --> 00:03:32,945 [Amy] I think because the farm is up for sale, 97 00:03:32,980 --> 00:03:36,782 I think it just changes pumpkin season for me 98 00:03:37,718 --> 00:03:39,318 on that personal level. 99 00:03:39,353 --> 00:03:41,420 I think what makes, you know, 100 00:03:41,455 --> 00:03:43,222 pumpkin season a little more unique 101 00:03:43,257 --> 00:03:46,525 is when there's some of the family members involved. 102 00:03:47,261 --> 00:03:48,727 I don't think all of the kids 103 00:03:48,762 --> 00:03:52,064 will really be a part of pumpkin season this year. 104 00:03:52,099 --> 00:03:54,233 So, you know, you're asking people to come 105 00:03:54,268 --> 00:03:56,568 to something that was our home. 106 00:03:56,604 --> 00:04:00,939 Um, I think when it's just another pumpkin place, 107 00:04:00,975 --> 00:04:03,542 people will still come, which is very, very good, 108 00:04:03,577 --> 00:04:06,445 but I just wonder, will it have its same... 109 00:04:07,615 --> 00:04:11,216 ...family type of personal perspective 110 00:04:11,885 --> 00:04:13,518 compared to something else. 111 00:04:13,554 --> 00:04:16,121 I'm debating whether to be there or not, 112 00:04:16,156 --> 00:04:17,456 or how do I want to be there. 113 00:04:18,525 --> 00:04:20,592 If he's going to pare it down 114 00:04:20,628 --> 00:04:22,761 to, you know, just a couple wagon tours, 115 00:04:22,796 --> 00:04:24,429 he really probably doesn't even need my help. 116 00:04:24,465 --> 00:04:26,632 But I'd like to know from him though. 117 00:04:26,667 --> 00:04:29,401 Just get the lowdown, and, you know, we'll see. 118 00:04:29,436 --> 00:04:30,535 Okay. 119 00:04:42,383 --> 00:04:44,416 [Tori] What's up, dude? How was school today? 120 00:04:44,451 --> 00:04:46,585 You had chapel today? What did you guys do in chapel? 121 00:04:48,622 --> 00:04:50,122 They had to carry their own chairs. 122 00:04:50,157 --> 00:04:53,191 [gasps] Did you carry your own chair? Are you that strong? 123 00:04:57,031 --> 00:04:59,031 Did the teacher carry your classmate's chairs? 124 00:05:04,171 --> 00:05:05,871 Why didn't you carry your chair? 125 00:05:08,742 --> 00:05:10,642 [Tori] Oh, I hope you weren't being lazy. 126 00:05:10,678 --> 00:05:11,877 [Zach] It's been a really good summer, 127 00:05:11,912 --> 00:05:13,512 and now there's a lot of changes happening. 128 00:05:13,547 --> 00:05:15,614 Jackson started kindergarten this fall, 129 00:05:15,649 --> 00:05:16,748 and he's loving it. 130 00:05:16,784 --> 00:05:18,283 He's making a lot of friends, 131 00:05:18,319 --> 00:05:20,352 and he, his school is kinda cool. 132 00:05:20,387 --> 00:05:22,020 He has, like, computer class... 133 00:05:22,056 --> 00:05:23,388 -Art. -...art class... 134 00:05:23,424 --> 00:05:24,923 -PE. -...music, PE. 135 00:05:24,958 --> 00:05:27,492 So his favorite is, uh, art class 136 00:05:27,528 --> 00:05:28,960 and computer class. 137 00:05:28,996 --> 00:05:31,596 [mumbling indistinctly] 138 00:05:34,168 --> 00:05:36,101 [Tori laughs] 139 00:05:36,136 --> 00:05:38,470 She's an actual wrecking ball. 140 00:05:38,505 --> 00:05:41,373 Lilah's loving her situation right now. 141 00:05:41,408 --> 00:05:42,808 She's loving 142 00:05:42,843 --> 00:05:45,143 having the extra alone time with Zach and I 143 00:05:45,179 --> 00:05:46,511 while Jackson's at school. 144 00:05:46,547 --> 00:05:50,182 And she's loving being able to, like, be the big sister and 145 00:05:50,217 --> 00:05:52,050 just have the attention on her for once 146 00:05:52,086 --> 00:05:54,086 'cause that hasn't happened a lot in her life. 147 00:05:54,621 --> 00:05:55,687 Josiah's awake. 148 00:05:55,723 --> 00:05:57,122 -[Lilah Roloff exclaims] -[Tori] Like, awake awake? 149 00:05:57,157 --> 00:05:59,424 -Or like... -[Zach] Eh, just whining. 150 00:05:59,460 --> 00:06:00,992 Josiah's getting to be four months, 151 00:06:01,028 --> 00:06:03,428 and, um, we've been sleep training him. 152 00:06:03,464 --> 00:06:06,765 Last night was probably rougher for me. 153 00:06:06,800 --> 00:06:08,533 [Tori] Yesterday, I have never, 154 00:06:08,569 --> 00:06:10,435 I, like, literally can't remember a time in my life 155 00:06:10,471 --> 00:06:13,105 I've been that emotionally, physically drained in my life. 156 00:06:14,274 --> 00:06:15,741 I'm very sleep deprived. 157 00:06:15,776 --> 00:06:18,477 Literally my only complaint about Josiah, 158 00:06:18,512 --> 00:06:20,112 he's such an easy baby, 159 00:06:20,147 --> 00:06:21,646 he just doesn't sleep at night. 160 00:06:21,682 --> 00:06:22,714 Like, he's just 161 00:06:23,751 --> 00:06:24,983 on the struggle bus, 162 00:06:25,018 --> 00:06:26,985 which is, like, it's killing everyone. 163 00:06:27,020 --> 00:06:30,555 We're struggling, like, it's just, it's not fun to be honest. 164 00:06:31,158 --> 00:06:32,758 It's hard. 165 00:06:32,793 --> 00:06:34,760 My niche in life, I truly believe, 166 00:06:34,795 --> 00:06:36,695 is being a mom. I love being a mom. 167 00:06:36,730 --> 00:06:38,363 So when I have days like yesterday, 168 00:06:38,399 --> 00:06:41,366 where I just didn't have patience for my kids, 169 00:06:41,402 --> 00:06:44,703 like, I just, when I get upset at them 170 00:06:44,738 --> 00:06:46,805 because of something that's, like, affecting me, 171 00:06:46,840 --> 00:06:47,906 I hate that. 172 00:06:47,941 --> 00:06:49,174 Like, I just went to bed last night 173 00:06:49,209 --> 00:06:51,109 with, like, the worst mom guilt. 174 00:06:51,145 --> 00:06:52,244 [Zach] When I get mad at the kids, 175 00:06:52,279 --> 00:06:53,645 it's because I'm mad at the kids. 176 00:06:53,680 --> 00:06:55,480 I don't feel dad guilt. 177 00:06:55,516 --> 00:06:56,648 That's not true. 178 00:06:56,683 --> 00:06:57,783 -[Zach] But I got-- -There's been times 179 00:06:57,818 --> 00:06:59,451 that you've gotten mad that you've felt guilty after. 180 00:06:59,486 --> 00:07:00,585 [Zach] Okay, every now and then maybe. 181 00:07:00,621 --> 00:07:01,686 But it's not, like, the same guilt. 182 00:07:01,722 --> 00:07:03,021 -We're talking about different types. -[Tori] It's not 183 00:07:03,056 --> 00:07:04,289 the same guilt, my guilt is like, 184 00:07:04,324 --> 00:07:05,791 "Did I spend enough time with them?" 185 00:07:05,826 --> 00:07:06,992 "Did I, like, listen to them?" 186 00:07:07,027 --> 00:07:08,427 -"Did I..." -[Zach] Yeah, my guilt is probably like, 187 00:07:08,462 --> 00:07:10,028 "I probably shouldn't have done that." [laughs] 188 00:07:10,063 --> 00:07:12,264 [both laugh] 189 00:07:12,299 --> 00:07:13,298 [Tori] We can joke, 190 00:07:13,333 --> 00:07:14,866 but when you have a lack of sleep, 191 00:07:14,902 --> 00:07:16,768 and you feel like you're sinking and failing 192 00:07:16,804 --> 00:07:18,804 as a mother, it can be like... 193 00:07:19,840 --> 00:07:21,139 ...frustrating. 194 00:07:21,175 --> 00:07:23,408 Well, and, like, just when I, like, yell, 195 00:07:23,444 --> 00:07:25,977 just 'cause I don't feel like I yell a lot ever... 196 00:07:27,981 --> 00:07:30,715 -[Zach laughs] -I literally... I... Can you leave? 197 00:07:31,485 --> 00:07:32,551 You don't yell that much, 198 00:07:32,586 --> 00:07:34,719 -but you yell. -I don't yell ever. 199 00:07:34,755 --> 00:07:36,455 Oh, I wouldn't say ever, 200 00:07:36,490 --> 00:07:37,589 but, yeah, you're right. 201 00:07:37,624 --> 00:07:39,357 You don't, compared to a lot of parents, 202 00:07:39,393 --> 00:07:40,459 you do not yell. 203 00:07:40,494 --> 00:07:42,227 This is what's frustrating about you though, 204 00:07:42,262 --> 00:07:43,562 this is why I get overwhelmed. 205 00:07:43,597 --> 00:07:44,996 Honestly, Zach, this is why 206 00:07:45,032 --> 00:07:46,665 because you don't give me any credit 207 00:07:46,700 --> 00:07:47,732 -for anything. -[Zach] No, Tori, 208 00:07:47,768 --> 00:07:49,234 I'm giving you credit, I'm just saying... 209 00:07:49,269 --> 00:07:50,268 [Tori] You do not though. You don't. 210 00:07:50,304 --> 00:07:51,803 ...ever is strong. 211 00:07:51,839 --> 00:07:53,438 You know what hurt my feelings the other day? 212 00:07:53,474 --> 00:07:54,439 What hurt your feelings? 213 00:07:55,509 --> 00:07:56,942 You don't even care. 214 00:07:56,977 --> 00:07:58,376 -Give me what hurt your feelings. -[Tori] You literally, 215 00:07:58,412 --> 00:08:00,011 I'm making Jackson's lunch... 216 00:08:00,047 --> 00:08:01,980 -[Zach] Yeah. -...and you go, "Oh, it's just, 217 00:08:02,015 --> 00:08:03,915 you're just trying to make it look good." 218 00:08:03,951 --> 00:08:05,317 I said cute, okay? 219 00:08:05,352 --> 00:08:07,118 Look cute, whatever. It's even worse. 220 00:08:07,788 --> 00:08:08,920 Instead of, like, 221 00:08:08,956 --> 00:08:12,090 "Tori, thank you for making our children lunch." 222 00:08:12,125 --> 00:08:14,626 I would say Zach takes care of the outside of the house, 223 00:08:14,661 --> 00:08:16,428 and I take care of the inside of the house. 224 00:08:16,463 --> 00:08:18,864 I do breakfast, feed the kids, 225 00:08:18,899 --> 00:08:20,866 get Jackson ready for school, 226 00:08:21,502 --> 00:08:22,767 take him to school, 227 00:08:22,803 --> 00:08:24,669 and then come home when Josiah goes down for his first nap. 228 00:08:24,705 --> 00:08:26,838 Then it's just me and Lilah, and we play, 229 00:08:26,874 --> 00:08:28,907 and then he wakes up, we do lunch. 230 00:08:28,942 --> 00:08:30,308 It's, like, exhausting. 231 00:08:30,344 --> 00:08:32,377 -[Zach] Yeah. -I just wish you would give me a little more credit 232 00:08:32,412 --> 00:08:33,545 -at being a mom. -[Zach] I do give you credit, 233 00:08:33,580 --> 00:08:34,646 -but I also hold-- -You don't. 234 00:08:34,681 --> 00:08:36,181 -You don't -I hold you accountable too. 235 00:08:36,216 --> 00:08:38,517 But that's why I have days like yesterday though, Zachary, 236 00:08:38,552 --> 00:08:39,985 that's why I get burnt out 237 00:08:40,020 --> 00:08:42,821 because I can't always, like, be like that. 238 00:08:42,856 --> 00:08:43,955 No, I get it. 239 00:08:43,991 --> 00:08:45,090 [Tori] No, you don't. 240 00:08:45,125 --> 00:08:46,958 -I do. -[Jackson Roloff exclaiming] 241 00:08:46,994 --> 00:08:48,426 [sighs] 242 00:08:48,462 --> 00:08:49,761 [Zach] So you're sleeping upstairs tonight? 243 00:08:49,796 --> 00:08:50,929 I'm sleeping upstairs tonight. 244 00:08:50,964 --> 00:08:52,664 I'm gonna sleep down the road tonight. 245 00:08:52,699 --> 00:08:54,533 [laughs] 246 00:08:54,568 --> 00:08:56,935 [Tori] I feel underappreciated all the time. 247 00:08:56,970 --> 00:08:59,170 This is also an issue in our marriage currently 248 00:08:59,940 --> 00:09:01,406 because I'm exhausted. 249 00:09:01,441 --> 00:09:02,774 -[Zach] Sleep is very important. -I'm, like, literally 250 00:09:02,809 --> 00:09:04,142 pouring from an empty cup, 251 00:09:04,177 --> 00:09:06,578 and everybody wants something from me. 252 00:09:06,613 --> 00:09:09,247 And so, like, if I don't have anything to give, 253 00:09:09,283 --> 00:09:11,550 it's, the whole, everything just, like, 254 00:09:12,152 --> 00:09:13,351 freaks out. 255 00:09:13,387 --> 00:09:15,787 Also, we have lost our babysitter roster up here, 256 00:09:15,822 --> 00:09:16,821 so that's been hard. 257 00:09:16,857 --> 00:09:18,089 I definitely need a break. 258 00:09:19,459 --> 00:09:21,860 Um, okay, so yeah, you're upstairs, 259 00:09:21,895 --> 00:09:23,728 Lilah's with me, Jackson's in his room, 260 00:09:23,764 --> 00:09:25,030 and Josiah's in Lilah's room. 261 00:09:25,065 --> 00:09:26,231 Musical beds. 262 00:09:27,534 --> 00:09:29,200 [Zach] When we bought this house, 263 00:09:29,236 --> 00:09:33,705 we knew only having two bedrooms for the kids downstairs could be an issue. 264 00:09:33,740 --> 00:09:36,675 But, uh, you know, at the time, we didn't think about that. 265 00:09:36,710 --> 00:09:39,578 Right now, Josiah's been sleeping in Lilah's room. 266 00:09:39,613 --> 00:09:42,314 And the challenge is he'll wake up in the middle of the night, 267 00:09:42,349 --> 00:09:44,449 uh, and we don't want him to wake up Lilah. 268 00:09:44,484 --> 00:09:45,784 So we have to go in there. 269 00:09:45,819 --> 00:09:48,219 Instead of letting him just cry, we give him the binkie. 270 00:09:48,255 --> 00:09:50,922 And we don't want him sleeping in Jackson's room. 271 00:09:50,958 --> 00:09:52,924 He has school, so we wanna make sure 272 00:09:52,960 --> 00:09:54,826 he's getting a good night's sleep. 273 00:09:54,861 --> 00:09:57,762 And we don't want Josiah in our room because we want our own space. 274 00:09:58,365 --> 00:09:59,364 Accurate. 275 00:09:59,399 --> 00:10:02,567 And so we're just trying to figure out what to do. 276 00:10:02,603 --> 00:10:04,002 [Zach] We'll get through this. 277 00:10:04,037 --> 00:10:05,804 I do just wish you would appreciate me more. 278 00:10:05,839 --> 00:10:07,739 I do appreciate you, Tori. 279 00:10:07,774 --> 00:10:09,307 -I just... -You don't say it. 280 00:10:09,343 --> 00:10:10,342 I keep you sharp. 281 00:10:10,811 --> 00:10:12,444 On your toes. 282 00:10:12,479 --> 00:10:14,512 Men look it in and they keep it sharp. 283 00:10:14,548 --> 00:10:15,914 -[chuckles] -[Zach laughs] 284 00:10:18,518 --> 00:10:19,918 [Matt reading] 285 00:10:19,953 --> 00:10:21,486 So back to pumpkin season, 286 00:10:21,521 --> 00:10:23,688 you know, if you're cutting it in half, you probably don't even need my help. 287 00:10:23,724 --> 00:10:26,758 Well, no, we do. We always want a family member to do it. 288 00:10:26,793 --> 00:10:29,594 You know, I don't know if Amy's really 100% committed. 289 00:10:29,630 --> 00:10:32,764 And it would definitely be weird for me to do it without her. 290 00:10:32,799 --> 00:10:35,900 We wanna talk to you about more hours, not less. 291 00:10:35,936 --> 00:10:37,135 [both laughing] 292 00:10:38,672 --> 00:10:40,105 [Matt reading] 293 00:10:40,140 --> 00:10:42,507 Are you, uh, doing anything with pumpkin season this year? 294 00:10:42,542 --> 00:10:43,842 -No. -[Chris] No? 295 00:10:43,877 --> 00:10:46,711 I will not regret if this is the last year of pumpkin season 296 00:10:46,747 --> 00:10:48,346 and we did not, like, participate. 297 00:10:48,382 --> 00:10:52,283 The farm is not a place of joy for me anymore. 298 00:11:04,031 --> 00:11:06,564 -Knock, knock. Hey, man. -How are ya? 299 00:11:06,600 --> 00:11:08,033 -How you doing? -Good to see you. 300 00:11:08,068 --> 00:11:09,701 -Long time. -Yeah, it's been a little while. 301 00:11:09,736 --> 00:11:12,437 -A couple of weeks, yeah. -I think, uh, probably haven't seen you since the, uh, 302 00:11:12,472 --> 00:11:14,072 -the OPA. -Take a seat. 303 00:11:14,107 --> 00:11:16,708 Yeah, right, OPA, that was a good time, wasn't it? 304 00:11:16,743 --> 00:11:19,444 -It was, yeah. -Did you have as much fun as we did? 305 00:11:19,479 --> 00:11:20,612 [Chris] I did, we had a good time. 306 00:11:20,647 --> 00:11:22,313 [Matt] It was fun, yeah. Um... 307 00:11:22,349 --> 00:11:23,715 [Chris] Yeah. 308 00:11:23,750 --> 00:11:26,317 So I haven't seen a pending sign over here yet. 309 00:11:26,353 --> 00:11:28,720 -What's happening? -[chuckles] Yeah, we got close 310 00:11:28,755 --> 00:11:30,088 -a couple times. -Oh, is that right? 311 00:11:30,123 --> 00:11:33,224 -Yeah. Got real close a couple of times. -Did you get an offer? 312 00:11:33,260 --> 00:11:36,828 No, in the end, it just wasn't... I don't think the right fit. 313 00:11:36,863 --> 00:11:40,832 Chris is always interested in the latest sort of update on the house sale 314 00:11:40,867 --> 00:11:42,834 because, I mean, he's in the real estate business. 315 00:11:42,869 --> 00:11:45,804 So, naturally, he's curious about what's going on. 316 00:11:45,839 --> 00:11:48,440 I'm okay when Chris asks questions. 317 00:11:48,475 --> 00:11:51,810 I don't think he's just asking me 'cause it's family gossip or anything. 318 00:11:51,845 --> 00:11:54,212 I think he's asking 'cause he has a sincere interest in it. 319 00:11:54,247 --> 00:11:55,580 You ready to do a price reduction yet? 320 00:11:55,615 --> 00:11:57,215 -Nah, I don't think so. -No? 321 00:11:57,250 --> 00:11:59,117 I mean, I'm not ready for that yet. 322 00:11:59,152 --> 00:12:01,319 -Okay. -I'm gonna let the whole cycle play out. 323 00:12:01,354 --> 00:12:04,022 -At least until after pumpkin season. -Yeah. 324 00:12:04,057 --> 00:12:05,023 [both chuckle] 325 00:12:05,058 --> 00:12:06,424 [Matt] We're in the middle of it right now. 326 00:12:06,460 --> 00:12:08,359 We already kind of kicked it into high gear. 327 00:12:08,395 --> 00:12:10,395 We're gonna go forward with pumpkin season. 328 00:12:10,430 --> 00:12:12,297 Um, it's gonna be an interesting year 329 00:12:12,332 --> 00:12:15,633 because once again, we're kind of trying to set our expectations 330 00:12:15,669 --> 00:12:18,670 and figure out, you know, the economy's kind of crazy right now. 331 00:12:18,705 --> 00:12:22,373 So I'm predicting just a little bit softer year, you know. 332 00:12:22,409 --> 00:12:26,344 But I think that's kind of, um, what the world calls for right now. 333 00:12:26,379 --> 00:12:29,414 We were debating about whether to do the tours 334 00:12:29,449 --> 00:12:31,182 or not and then I came to this conclusion 335 00:12:31,218 --> 00:12:33,918 that maybe we'll cut back on the tours. 336 00:12:33,954 --> 00:12:35,253 -Mmm-hmm. -You know, we're trying to simplify. 337 00:12:35,288 --> 00:12:38,056 But you're not sure yet whether it's gonna be the same route... 338 00:12:38,091 --> 00:12:40,024 The route will be the same. 339 00:12:40,060 --> 00:12:43,528 Hard to believe that just a little less than a year ago, I got married right there. 340 00:12:43,563 --> 00:12:44,629 [both laugh] 341 00:12:44,664 --> 00:12:47,532 So are we ready to see you do the, uh, you know... 342 00:12:47,567 --> 00:12:50,068 -No. [mutters] I don't think so. -No? 343 00:12:50,103 --> 00:12:52,470 You know there's a setback on my house? 344 00:12:52,506 --> 00:12:53,872 -Did you hear about that? -No. 345 00:12:53,907 --> 00:12:55,974 Well, now it's all ready for the foundation, 346 00:12:56,009 --> 00:12:58,910 but then we found out that the county 347 00:12:58,945 --> 00:13:03,815 -is 16 to 20 weeks out. -Oh, man. That's a long time. 348 00:13:03,850 --> 00:13:06,518 That's like four months. So I'm like, well, if I can't start in January, 349 00:13:06,553 --> 00:13:08,453 -I don't wanna be building in the rain. -Right. 350 00:13:08,488 --> 00:13:11,289 -Let's go check it out. I'll show it to you. -Yeah. 351 00:13:11,324 --> 00:13:14,459 [Matt] I'm way behind on pumpkin season setup. 352 00:13:14,494 --> 00:13:17,061 Last year it was all about getting Amy and Chris' wedding. 353 00:13:17,097 --> 00:13:19,230 The flowers, getting the place ready for that 354 00:13:19,266 --> 00:13:21,699 right in the middle of pumpkin season and, um, 355 00:13:21,735 --> 00:13:24,369 this year, you know, it's different life challenges. 356 00:13:25,372 --> 00:13:27,605 -Sorry about your dad. -Yeah. 357 00:13:27,641 --> 00:13:29,841 -That was a tough, uh, tough one. -Yeah. 358 00:13:29,876 --> 00:13:32,877 -It kind of came up out of the blue. -Yeah. 359 00:13:32,913 --> 00:13:35,380 -Well, sorry to hear that. -Yeah, that was... 360 00:13:35,415 --> 00:13:38,616 Unfortunately, it's inevitable, but it still leaves a big hole. 361 00:13:38,652 --> 00:13:40,852 It's been a couple of weeks, uh, since my dad passed. 362 00:13:40,887 --> 00:13:44,055 So I'm headed to Arizona soon to check on my mother. 363 00:13:44,090 --> 00:13:47,192 I was just there, but I'm trying to get down there 364 00:13:47,227 --> 00:13:50,461 as often as I possibly can right now. 365 00:13:50,497 --> 00:13:56,100 My mom is doing well. Much better than I expected. 366 00:13:56,136 --> 00:13:59,737 I mean, she relied on my dad and my dad told me, 367 00:13:59,773 --> 00:14:03,775 you know, on his death bed, he said, "Oh, I think I spoiled your mother. 368 00:14:03,810 --> 00:14:06,377 You know, can you take over?" 369 00:14:06,413 --> 00:14:09,180 Um, and, um, you know, 370 00:14:09,216 --> 00:14:11,616 I promised him I would keep an eye on her and watch after her. 371 00:14:11,651 --> 00:14:16,287 And which is what I'm doing, why I'm going back and forth as often as I am. 372 00:14:16,323 --> 00:14:18,723 I'm gonna check on my mother and then, um... 373 00:14:19,793 --> 00:14:22,460 [sighs] Yeah, I'm kind of trying to be very... 374 00:14:22,495 --> 00:14:24,562 -Getting her squared away. -Yeah. 375 00:14:24,598 --> 00:14:27,031 Usually Caryn would go with me to Arizona, 376 00:14:27,067 --> 00:14:30,335 but she's gonna be taking care of her grandson this weekend, 377 00:14:30,370 --> 00:14:32,036 so I'm gonna go on my own. 378 00:14:32,072 --> 00:14:34,772 [Chris] So this is a huge packed pad. 379 00:14:34,808 --> 00:14:37,175 The perimeter of your house isn't gonna be this big, is it? 380 00:14:37,210 --> 00:14:40,044 [Matt] No, basically, you have to kind of have the packed soil 381 00:14:40,080 --> 00:14:42,647 about, I think it's like five feet beyond 382 00:14:42,682 --> 00:14:44,215 -the furthest perimeter. -Okay. 383 00:14:44,251 --> 00:14:46,451 All right, so the foundation's gonna sit right on top of this. 384 00:14:46,486 --> 00:14:47,418 [Matt] Yes. 385 00:14:47,454 --> 00:14:49,320 Even though the ground is ready, I mean, 386 00:14:49,356 --> 00:14:51,823 I may not lay a foundation until next year. 387 00:14:51,858 --> 00:14:54,392 The fact that the permits are gummed up does 388 00:14:54,427 --> 00:14:59,230 put a wrench in a lot of things including my plan to marry Caryn. 389 00:14:59,266 --> 00:15:01,266 I think... We don't have a house. 390 00:15:01,301 --> 00:15:03,935 If we got married, we'd wanna naturally live together 391 00:15:03,970 --> 00:15:05,970 and have a, you know, landing place. 392 00:15:06,006 --> 00:15:08,072 So that is highly disappointing 393 00:15:08,108 --> 00:15:11,042 that the house isn't where we were hoping it would be. 394 00:15:11,077 --> 00:15:12,377 So back to pumpkin season. 395 00:15:12,412 --> 00:15:16,648 What are your thoughts on Amy? Just the usual meet and greet? 396 00:15:16,683 --> 00:15:18,516 Well, see, that's what I wanted to talk to you guys about. 397 00:15:18,551 --> 00:15:23,054 I like her doing that and I wanted to ask you about, um, the tours. 398 00:15:23,089 --> 00:15:24,956 You know, as far as helping out pumpkin season, 399 00:15:24,991 --> 00:15:27,258 you know, we're expecting Amy and Chris, of course, 400 00:15:27,294 --> 00:15:30,028 Jacob and Isabel are also helping out. 401 00:15:30,063 --> 00:15:33,097 Amy is really the face of the family during pumpkin season. 402 00:15:33,133 --> 00:15:35,566 So she has a very important role. 403 00:15:35,602 --> 00:15:39,103 Last year, if I remember, you did like two hours a day, right? 404 00:15:39,139 --> 00:15:42,073 Uh, yeah, it was two or three hours, um. 405 00:15:42,108 --> 00:15:44,642 You know, if you're cutting it in half, you probably don't even need my help. 406 00:15:44,678 --> 00:15:48,046 Well, no, we do. We always want a family member to do it. 407 00:15:48,081 --> 00:15:49,847 We wanna talk to you about more hours. 408 00:15:49,883 --> 00:15:51,716 -Oh. [laughs] -It's not less. [laughs] 409 00:15:51,751 --> 00:15:55,353 When Matt first asked if I wanted to do, uh, pumpkin season, 410 00:15:55,388 --> 00:15:58,289 my first response was yes, I had a good time last year. 411 00:15:58,325 --> 00:16:02,527 Um, but, uh, then, I, you know, got to thinking I, 412 00:16:02,562 --> 00:16:05,129 you know, I don't know if Amy's 100% committed. 413 00:16:05,165 --> 00:16:07,298 And it would definitely be weird, 414 00:16:07,334 --> 00:16:09,600 it wouldn't be nearly as much fun for me to do it without her. 415 00:16:09,636 --> 00:16:13,504 So I really need to make sure that she's 100% committed 416 00:16:13,540 --> 00:16:16,941 before I tell Matt that I'm 100% committed. 417 00:16:16,977 --> 00:16:20,078 So I'm supposed to, you know, bring back some info to Amy, 418 00:16:20,113 --> 00:16:22,880 but maybe when we get closer, 419 00:16:22,916 --> 00:16:27,151 we'll come back and have a happy hour drink and discuss details. 420 00:16:27,187 --> 00:16:28,953 [Matt] Yeah, that sounds like a good time. 421 00:16:54,414 --> 00:16:58,116 My mother lives in an apartment in a senior home. 422 00:16:58,151 --> 00:17:02,887 Just a few miles away from my house in Arizona that I have with Caryn. 423 00:17:02,922 --> 00:17:04,989 My folks weren't there very long 424 00:17:05,025 --> 00:17:07,759 before my dad passed, but my dad made sure 425 00:17:07,794 --> 00:17:11,362 that they were set up and my mother was very comfortable, 426 00:17:11,398 --> 00:17:13,865 but she still has some health challenges. 427 00:17:13,900 --> 00:17:15,967 You know, my mom messed up her hip. 428 00:17:16,002 --> 00:17:19,203 You know, created a challenge for her physically to get around. 429 00:17:19,239 --> 00:17:22,040 And then, you know, she has some high blood pressure, 430 00:17:22,075 --> 00:17:25,877 and some other medical issues that come with aging. 431 00:17:25,912 --> 00:17:28,613 The thing that concerns me the absolute most 432 00:17:28,648 --> 00:17:31,449 about her being alone is that she would fall. 433 00:17:31,484 --> 00:17:33,818 And if she falls, 434 00:17:33,853 --> 00:17:38,022 that could impact her mobility even more significantly. 435 00:17:38,058 --> 00:17:39,424 Where do you wanna eat at? 436 00:17:39,459 --> 00:17:42,260 Oh, I've got down at the garden cafe I think is the best. 437 00:17:42,295 --> 00:17:45,096 -I'm dying for a cup of coffee. -We could go down there. 438 00:17:45,131 --> 00:17:48,533 I think my mother, all of us, are still kind of in a state of shock 439 00:17:48,568 --> 00:17:50,134 over losing my dad. 440 00:17:50,170 --> 00:17:52,870 And, um, you know, I think she just hasn't 441 00:17:52,906 --> 00:17:55,306 completely entered into the grieving space. 442 00:17:55,341 --> 00:17:56,808 You know, and that's yet to come. 443 00:17:56,843 --> 00:17:58,743 I think that might be true for all of us. 444 00:17:58,778 --> 00:18:01,145 We haven't really fully processed 445 00:18:01,181 --> 00:18:03,114 the fact that my dad is gone. 446 00:18:03,149 --> 00:18:04,916 You're gonna be able to get in here by yourself? 447 00:18:04,951 --> 00:18:07,885 Yeah, Dad was teaching me this just before he left. 448 00:18:07,921 --> 00:18:09,754 Is how to transfer. Okay. Here I go. 449 00:18:09,789 --> 00:18:12,690 -One, two, three. -Yep, stand up first. 450 00:18:12,725 --> 00:18:14,058 -Yeah, there you go. -How do you like that? 451 00:18:16,112 --> 00:18:17,211 Super good transfer. 452 00:18:17,247 --> 00:18:18,579 -[server] Good morning. -Hi. 453 00:18:19,582 --> 00:18:20,648 [server] You know we do coffee, right? 454 00:18:20,683 --> 00:18:22,850 -Regular? Okay. -Yes. 455 00:18:22,886 --> 00:18:26,654 My dad, you know, super social guy. 456 00:18:26,689 --> 00:18:31,659 And, you know, my mom is not quite as, uh, outgoing as Dad. 457 00:18:31,694 --> 00:18:33,928 So we just wanna make sure, you know, 458 00:18:33,963 --> 00:18:35,930 that my mother is not retreating into her room, 459 00:18:35,965 --> 00:18:36,931 Yeah. 460 00:18:37,967 --> 00:18:39,400 Yeah, come on over. 461 00:18:40,470 --> 00:18:42,570 You always sit with us. 462 00:18:42,605 --> 00:18:44,472 Deloris is a really good friend of my mother's. 463 00:18:44,507 --> 00:18:47,241 She's been a great companion since my dad's passing. 464 00:18:47,277 --> 00:18:48,709 How have you been? 465 00:18:48,745 --> 00:18:51,078 I'm doing good. Thank you. 466 00:18:51,114 --> 00:18:53,714 -Good, good. You look great. -Oh, thank you. 467 00:18:53,750 --> 00:18:56,884 My mom just really enjoys Deloris' company. 468 00:18:56,920 --> 00:18:58,920 So, Mom, how do you see this going? 469 00:18:58,955 --> 00:19:00,421 The event going down for Dad? 470 00:19:00,456 --> 00:19:03,090 -I think everybody's getting excited to get that. -Yeah. 471 00:19:03,126 --> 00:19:06,561 One thing is we definitely want to have is a military color guard, 472 00:19:06,596 --> 00:19:07,929 -which means, uh... -[Matt] Oh, oh, right. 473 00:19:07,964 --> 00:19:09,630 They... Dad used to really love that 474 00:19:09,666 --> 00:19:12,433 -when he'd go to, like, different friends' memorials. -[Matt] Right, right. Yeah. 475 00:19:12,468 --> 00:19:15,102 And then I would do a slideshow. 476 00:19:15,138 --> 00:19:16,204 Oh, yeah. 477 00:19:16,239 --> 00:19:18,472 [Matt] And we immediately delayed the idea of a memorial 478 00:19:18,508 --> 00:19:20,608 until later in the year. 479 00:19:20,643 --> 00:19:24,212 When the bulk of the family was available and gave us time to grieve, 480 00:19:24,247 --> 00:19:25,346 and then put that together. 481 00:19:25,381 --> 00:19:28,049 So now it's set for the first week of November. 482 00:19:28,084 --> 00:19:30,017 This is not gonna be a traditional funeral, 483 00:19:30,053 --> 00:19:32,954 you know, where you go to the gravesite and it's sad. 484 00:19:32,989 --> 00:19:34,355 I mean, this is... You know, you... 485 00:19:34,390 --> 00:19:37,725 A lot of people call it a celebration of life, 486 00:19:37,760 --> 00:19:39,827 you know, Papa, and we show, you know, 487 00:19:39,863 --> 00:19:42,430 happy pictures and play upbeat music, 488 00:19:42,465 --> 00:19:45,433 and, uh, that's sort of what the plan is. 489 00:19:45,468 --> 00:19:47,568 [Peggy] Someone said I need a yellow flag. 490 00:19:47,604 --> 00:19:48,870 -[Matt] Yeah. -[Peggy chuckling] 491 00:19:48,905 --> 00:19:50,271 And I'm only going half speed. 492 00:19:50,306 --> 00:19:52,073 [Matt] Yeah, I thought we were gonna have a race. 493 00:19:52,108 --> 00:19:52,907 [Peggy] Yeah. 494 00:19:56,212 --> 00:19:58,546 -[Matt chuckling] You're getting that down, huh? -Yeah. 495 00:20:08,524 --> 00:20:10,524 [Matt] To go in the room after he was no... 496 00:20:10,560 --> 00:20:14,228 you know, no longer with us, and, uh, looking at all the photos, 497 00:20:14,264 --> 00:20:17,265 and kind of realizing this is gonna be my mother's room 498 00:20:17,300 --> 00:20:19,433 and Dad's not gonna be here anymore. 499 00:20:19,469 --> 00:20:22,470 You know, it's... it's a sad thought to think 500 00:20:22,505 --> 00:20:27,441 that such a radical change can happen so quickly. 501 00:20:27,477 --> 00:20:29,644 [Peggy] Matt, you wanted one of Dad's Bibles right? 502 00:20:29,679 --> 00:20:31,812 Oh, yeah, yeah. But while... you know, I mean... 503 00:20:31,848 --> 00:20:33,948 I don't want to take it away while you're using it, but yeah. 504 00:20:33,983 --> 00:20:37,184 [Peggy] No, no. I've got about six Bibles, so this is, uh... 505 00:20:37,220 --> 00:20:39,020 ...Dad's. You can see how worn out it is. 506 00:20:39,055 --> 00:20:40,888 [Matt] Yeah. Oh, yeah. 507 00:20:40,924 --> 00:20:42,690 [Peggy] He's got lots of scripture in there that's all... 508 00:20:42,725 --> 00:20:44,592 Does it have his name in it? 509 00:20:44,627 --> 00:20:46,527 We've been... We've married 64 years, 510 00:20:46,562 --> 00:20:48,529 and he loved me unconditionally. 511 00:20:48,564 --> 00:20:52,199 We had a terrific marriage, and he was a good man. 512 00:20:52,235 --> 00:20:53,901 Oh, now I miss him more, now. 513 00:20:53,937 --> 00:20:55,002 That's the way it's supposed to be. 514 00:20:55,038 --> 00:20:56,470 -You're supposed to miss him, yeah. -Yeah, yeah. 515 00:20:57,840 --> 00:21:00,408 [Matt] Wow, you've got quite a few wonderful cards. 516 00:21:00,443 --> 00:21:02,944 Ever... Are all your old friends finding you? 517 00:21:02,979 --> 00:21:04,779 Yeah, they are, surprisingly. 518 00:21:04,814 --> 00:21:07,348 I still don't really realize that Ron's gone. 519 00:21:07,383 --> 00:21:09,717 I get up and I think, "Oh, I better be quiet." 520 00:21:09,752 --> 00:21:11,852 -You know? But, and it's just these pillows... -You don't wanna wake him up. 521 00:21:11,888 --> 00:21:14,055 Don't wanna wake him up. Yeah, wish I could. 522 00:21:14,090 --> 00:21:14,956 -Mmm-hmm. -Um... 523 00:21:15,792 --> 00:21:16,824 It's just a strange feeling. 524 00:21:16,859 --> 00:21:19,393 But it's not... it's not sad. 525 00:21:19,429 --> 00:21:22,563 So that's what's... that's what's really surprised me. 526 00:21:22,598 --> 00:21:24,098 -Maybe that day will come. -Yeah. 527 00:21:24,133 --> 00:21:24,932 I hope not. 528 00:21:27,870 --> 00:21:28,736 [Matt] Coming up... 529 00:21:28,771 --> 00:21:29,704 [Zach] Go! 530 00:21:30,740 --> 00:21:31,605 [Amy laughing] 531 00:21:31,641 --> 00:21:32,440 There's your brother! 532 00:21:33,509 --> 00:21:34,809 [Jackson speaking] 533 00:21:34,844 --> 00:21:37,545 [Tori] Okay, now Lilah, if you squirt him, he can squirt you. 534 00:21:38,214 --> 00:21:40,247 -Whoa! -[Tori laughing] 535 00:21:55,031 --> 00:21:56,163 Lilah, put your sunglasses on. 536 00:21:57,700 --> 00:21:59,433 -[Chris] Hey, guys! Welcome! -[Tori] Hello! 537 00:21:59,469 --> 00:22:01,669 Hey, Jackson. Hi, Lilah. 538 00:22:01,704 --> 00:22:03,304 -[Zach] Hey. -[Tori] Good to see you. 539 00:22:03,339 --> 00:22:04,772 [Chris] I like your sunglasses, Lilah. 540 00:22:04,807 --> 00:22:05,740 [Tori] What do you say? 541 00:22:06,776 --> 00:22:07,875 Say thank you? 542 00:22:07,910 --> 00:22:09,543 Yeah, take your shoes off. Stay a while. 543 00:22:10,546 --> 00:22:12,980 -[Zach] Hey. -[Amy] Hi! 544 00:22:13,016 --> 00:22:15,116 [Zach] We have not been to Mimi and Chris's in a while, 545 00:22:15,151 --> 00:22:17,551 so we're here for a pool party in their backyard. 546 00:22:17,587 --> 00:22:19,120 Jackson likes kiddie pools. 547 00:22:19,155 --> 00:22:20,388 [both] So does Lilah. 548 00:22:20,423 --> 00:22:22,023 -They both love water. -Yeah. 549 00:22:22,058 --> 00:22:23,024 Little kiddie pool action. 550 00:22:23,860 --> 00:22:25,593 -[gasping] What? -[Jackson] Gotcha. 551 00:22:25,628 --> 00:22:27,561 -[Zach laughing] -You can't do that. 552 00:22:27,597 --> 00:22:29,330 [Zach] Wait, Jackson, get her! She's getting you! 553 00:22:29,365 --> 00:22:30,197 Go! 554 00:22:31,167 --> 00:22:32,266 [Amy laughing] 555 00:22:34,137 --> 00:22:35,202 Here, let me load you up. 556 00:22:36,439 --> 00:22:37,638 There's your brother! 557 00:22:37,673 --> 00:22:39,507 [Jackson laughing and speaking] 558 00:22:39,542 --> 00:22:41,208 [Tori] Okay, now Lilah, though, if you squirt him, 559 00:22:41,244 --> 00:22:42,443 he can squirt you. 560 00:22:46,783 --> 00:22:49,083 -Whoa! -[Tori laughing] 561 00:22:49,118 --> 00:22:51,018 [Chris] Somebody told me that she's starting to say some words? 562 00:22:51,054 --> 00:22:52,686 -She's starting to speak a little bit? Yeah? -[Zach] Oh, yeah. 563 00:22:52,722 --> 00:22:54,255 She's speaking a lot better now. 564 00:22:54,290 --> 00:22:55,456 Wow. 565 00:22:55,491 --> 00:22:56,590 Lilah's speech has gotten... 566 00:22:56,626 --> 00:22:57,925 -...a lot better. -Yeah, it has gotten a lot better. 567 00:22:57,960 --> 00:23:00,194 -Her vocabulary has gotten... -We counted to ten this morning. 568 00:23:00,229 --> 00:23:02,530 -Yeah, she's starting... She says thank you... -She's doing really good. 569 00:23:02,565 --> 00:23:04,532 And I feel like it's helped her confidence a lot, too. 570 00:23:04,567 --> 00:23:06,267 [Zach] There will be times when I still don't know what she's saying, 571 00:23:06,302 --> 00:23:08,269 and she'll say it to me in such a sass. 572 00:23:08,304 --> 00:23:10,271 Like, "I can... like, why wouldn't you... 573 00:23:10,306 --> 00:23:11,872 -...understand me?" -"Why can't you understand me?" 574 00:23:11,908 --> 00:23:12,940 How are you doing? 575 00:23:14,243 --> 00:23:15,276 How are you doing? 576 00:23:16,479 --> 00:23:17,278 Hmm? 577 00:23:18,514 --> 00:23:21,582 -[Tori] Yeah! -[Zach] Whoa! 578 00:23:21,617 --> 00:23:23,350 Can you put your whole body underwater? 579 00:23:23,386 --> 00:23:25,386 You can do it! Put your whole head underwater. 580 00:23:32,428 --> 00:23:34,762 [Chris] Amy and I are having our one year anniversary coming up. 581 00:23:34,797 --> 00:23:36,363 -Nice. When is your anniversary? -[Chris] So... 582 00:23:36,399 --> 00:23:37,364 -[Amy] The 28th. -[Tori] 28th! 583 00:23:37,400 --> 00:23:39,567 -28th. -Oh wow, okay. It's been a year? Wow. 584 00:23:39,602 --> 00:23:41,635 [Zach] It's crazy. A lot happened in one year. 585 00:23:41,671 --> 00:23:43,370 Yeah, my mom's wedding was around the time 586 00:23:43,406 --> 00:23:45,306 the farm deal kind of went bad. 587 00:23:45,341 --> 00:23:47,174 And, uh, the move was hard. 588 00:23:47,210 --> 00:23:48,776 Moving's hard. 589 00:23:48,811 --> 00:23:52,413 And also still processing the farm deal and the fallout and everything. 590 00:23:52,448 --> 00:23:55,116 So, a lot happened in a year. 591 00:23:55,151 --> 00:23:59,053 We'll do our, uh, um, our yearly celebration 592 00:23:59,088 --> 00:24:00,354 at, uh, the reserve. 593 00:24:00,389 --> 00:24:01,522 -Where we had our first date. -[Zach] Oh. 594 00:24:01,557 --> 00:24:02,990 Oh, nice. 595 00:24:03,025 --> 00:24:04,125 [Chris] So you guys didn't live together before you got married, then? 596 00:24:04,160 --> 00:24:05,392 [Zach] No. 597 00:24:05,428 --> 00:24:08,195 I wanted to act like we were married to get all that stuff, 598 00:24:08,231 --> 00:24:10,364 -to see if it was gonna turn into anything big. -[Zach] Yeah. 599 00:24:10,399 --> 00:24:11,665 [Chris] I mean, if it was going to be a deal killer, 600 00:24:11,701 --> 00:24:12,700 I wanted to know ahead of time. 601 00:24:12,735 --> 00:24:14,034 [laughing] 602 00:24:14,070 --> 00:24:17,204 I've definitely had to, uh, make adjustments on 603 00:24:17,240 --> 00:24:22,409 not having as much control over the environment I live in every day. 604 00:24:23,412 --> 00:24:27,148 And, uh, that's taken a lot of compromising, 605 00:24:27,183 --> 00:24:30,050 and, um, still working on that. 606 00:24:30,086 --> 00:24:31,519 [Zach] Yeah, are we eating out here, or... 607 00:24:31,554 --> 00:24:33,053 Yeah, dinner's ready if you guys want. 608 00:24:33,089 --> 00:24:34,455 I can dish up. 609 00:24:34,490 --> 00:24:36,223 I think adjustments in a relationship 610 00:24:36,259 --> 00:24:38,325 will always be ongoing. 611 00:24:38,361 --> 00:24:42,863 But I think for me, adjustments would be paying a little more attention 612 00:24:42,899 --> 00:24:46,500 to what works for Chris, or what makes him happy, 613 00:24:46,536 --> 00:24:49,436 which is basically one word... neatness. 614 00:24:49,472 --> 00:24:53,741 And so I continue to try and get better at that. 615 00:24:53,776 --> 00:24:56,043 But other than that, you know, it's been great! 616 00:24:56,846 --> 00:24:57,645 Mmm. 617 00:24:59,715 --> 00:25:00,915 Is that good food? 618 00:25:01,551 --> 00:25:02,816 [Tori] This is really good. 619 00:25:02,852 --> 00:25:05,119 I was worried that the sausage wouldn't quite work. 620 00:25:05,154 --> 00:25:06,720 -[Tori] I told you, I've told you. -[Zach] No, it's super good. 621 00:25:06,756 --> 00:25:08,289 [Tori] Her new thing is rice. 622 00:25:08,324 --> 00:25:11,025 -And so, life is okay? Going good? -[Zach] Yeah. 623 00:25:12,028 --> 00:25:13,027 -[Amy] Um... -[Zach] I'm thinking we might 624 00:25:13,062 --> 00:25:15,329 move Jackson upstairs pretty soon, though. 625 00:25:15,364 --> 00:25:16,630 That'll be a big thing. 626 00:25:16,666 --> 00:25:19,567 [Zach] Slide Lilah over, and then get Josiah where Lilah is. 627 00:25:19,602 --> 00:25:21,202 [Tori] They go back and forth daily. 628 00:25:21,237 --> 00:25:23,103 -[Zach] Yeah, I know. -[Tori] It's like, it's a good choice or not. 629 00:25:23,139 --> 00:25:24,238 Yeah. 630 00:25:24,273 --> 00:25:26,574 [Zach] Sleep training has been kind of rough, um... 631 00:25:26,609 --> 00:25:28,809 Tori's slept upstairs in our bonus room a couple times, 632 00:25:28,844 --> 00:25:29,944 I've slept upstairs... 633 00:25:30,479 --> 00:25:31,312 We've... 634 00:25:31,347 --> 00:25:32,613 [chuckling] 635 00:25:32,648 --> 00:25:35,249 Lilah has slept in our room, I've slept in Jackson's room, 636 00:25:35,284 --> 00:25:36,650 Jackson has slept in our room. 637 00:25:36,686 --> 00:25:38,018 Josiah has slept everywhere. 638 00:25:38,054 --> 00:25:39,220 We slept outside in the tent. 639 00:25:39,255 --> 00:25:41,922 -I've slept outside on the bench. -Yeah! 640 00:25:41,958 --> 00:25:43,390 -We have many different... -Many different. 641 00:25:43,426 --> 00:25:46,860 We've had many different combinations to make this work. 642 00:25:46,896 --> 00:25:48,262 But we need something more permanent. 643 00:25:48,297 --> 00:25:49,863 We need a better solution. 644 00:25:49,899 --> 00:25:52,900 Are you, uh, doing anything with pumpkin season this year? 645 00:25:52,935 --> 00:25:53,767 -No. -[Chris] No? 646 00:25:55,404 --> 00:25:57,137 No interest, no... whatever. 647 00:25:59,175 --> 00:26:00,241 [Amy] I know, I was debating... 648 00:26:01,210 --> 00:26:02,076 ...since so much has changed. 649 00:26:02,845 --> 00:26:05,346 I know that Chris and Matt talked, 650 00:26:05,381 --> 00:26:08,449 and Matt let Chris know what pumpkin season may look like, 651 00:26:08,484 --> 00:26:10,884 what in general may be happening. 652 00:26:10,920 --> 00:26:14,121 But with everything going on with the property and the house, 653 00:26:14,156 --> 00:26:17,491 I don't anticipate all of the kids really "participating" 654 00:26:17,526 --> 00:26:19,026 in pumpkin season this year. 655 00:26:19,061 --> 00:26:22,663 And sometimes I think it's best just to... 656 00:26:22,698 --> 00:26:25,032 ...end it while you still have a good thought, 657 00:26:25,067 --> 00:26:26,467 a good memory about it. 658 00:26:26,502 --> 00:26:28,569 And so, until I talk to Matt, 659 00:26:28,604 --> 00:26:30,804 I'm just not... I'm really not sure how I feel, 660 00:26:30,840 --> 00:26:32,473 and what I want to do. 661 00:26:32,508 --> 00:26:35,142 It's gonna be interesting to see who does come, 662 00:26:35,177 --> 00:26:36,910 -because they're probably gonna wonder, like... -[Zach] None of them go. 663 00:26:36,946 --> 00:26:38,279 ...what is pumpkin season over there? 664 00:26:38,314 --> 00:26:39,647 [Chris] People are gonna wanna see something. 665 00:26:39,682 --> 00:26:41,548 I don't think it's gonna be all that much different than last year. 666 00:26:41,584 --> 00:26:44,051 -I think it's gonna be super well attended, though. -[Chris] Yeah. 667 00:26:46,656 --> 00:26:49,423 Time does change how you feel about things. 668 00:26:49,458 --> 00:26:52,793 I will not regret if this is the last true pumpkin season... 669 00:26:52,828 --> 00:26:54,795 ...and we did not, like, participate or anything. 670 00:26:54,830 --> 00:26:57,164 Like... the glory days when we met, 671 00:26:57,199 --> 00:26:59,300 -and it was all of our friends... -Yeah. 672 00:26:59,335 --> 00:27:01,135 -...working. It's just... -It's just not that at all anymore. 673 00:27:01,170 --> 00:27:02,403 -That was 12 years ago. -Yeah. 674 00:27:02,438 --> 00:27:04,538 -It... Those are over. -The farm is not... 675 00:27:05,541 --> 00:27:08,008 ...like, a place of joy for me anymore. 676 00:27:11,914 --> 00:27:13,380 -[Amy chuckling] Oh, God. -[Tori] Not particularly. 677 00:27:15,451 --> 00:27:16,283 Yeah! 678 00:27:16,319 --> 00:27:17,751 [Lilah speaking] 679 00:27:17,787 --> 00:27:19,620 [Amy] "Dada?" And who's this? 680 00:27:20,056 --> 00:27:20,921 [Lilah] Uh... 681 00:27:20,956 --> 00:27:22,389 [whispering] Chris. 682 00:27:22,425 --> 00:27:23,290 [Lilah] Huh? 683 00:27:23,326 --> 00:27:24,325 -[Amy] Chris. -Say "Chris." 684 00:27:24,360 --> 00:27:25,959 -[Lilah mumbling] -You can say it. 685 00:27:27,163 --> 00:27:28,362 -No? -"No." [chuckling] 686 00:27:37,740 --> 00:27:40,174 [Matt] Tonight, I'm gonna take my mother to dinner. 687 00:27:40,209 --> 00:27:43,277 I'm pretty encouraged my mother is really stepping up 688 00:27:43,312 --> 00:27:45,512 to... to be as independent as possible. 689 00:27:45,548 --> 00:27:47,748 I am my own physical limitation. 690 00:27:47,783 --> 00:27:49,583 Caryn helped me with stuff, so... 691 00:27:49,618 --> 00:27:52,986 ...um, it's, it's a little bit of a double... double challenge, 692 00:27:53,022 --> 00:27:55,089 helping my mom out where I can. 693 00:27:55,124 --> 00:27:56,290 Can you go ahead and climb in, 694 00:27:56,325 --> 00:27:58,659 -and I'll put the walker in there. -I will. 695 00:27:58,694 --> 00:28:00,294 -Do you know how to fold these things? -I don't. 696 00:28:00,329 --> 00:28:03,630 But we have this van that has suspension that goes up and down, 697 00:28:03,666 --> 00:28:07,201 so I'm able to get my mom into the van pretty easily. 698 00:28:07,236 --> 00:28:08,135 [Peggy] Yeah. 699 00:28:08,170 --> 00:28:09,002 Okay. 700 00:28:09,038 --> 00:28:10,270 There we go. 701 00:28:10,306 --> 00:28:12,172 Now we've jinxed it and you're gonna splat on the ground. 702 00:28:12,208 --> 00:28:14,341 Oh, my... thanks. I hope not. 703 00:28:23,285 --> 00:28:24,284 [Peggy] Hi, there. 704 00:28:24,320 --> 00:28:26,353 She likes to, you know, have a reason to kind of 705 00:28:26,389 --> 00:28:28,155 get herself dressed up a little bit. 706 00:28:28,190 --> 00:28:29,690 So, even though it's a little bit more work, 707 00:28:29,725 --> 00:28:32,893 it's really nice to, you know, go eat something different, 708 00:28:32,928 --> 00:28:35,696 you know, than the same... the same thing every single day. 709 00:28:35,731 --> 00:28:37,464 And how would you like your filet cooked on that? 710 00:28:37,500 --> 00:28:40,401 -Raw. -[waiter laughs] Raw, okay. Awesome. 711 00:28:40,436 --> 00:28:42,803 -I meant rare. -[Matt] Okay, rare. 712 00:28:42,838 --> 00:28:44,671 And I don't really see that changing. 713 00:28:44,707 --> 00:28:47,674 I see more trips down there, not, you know, definitely not less. 714 00:28:49,211 --> 00:28:51,311 Dad would love to come to a place like this. 715 00:28:51,347 --> 00:28:52,746 -He loves Vietnamese food. -[Matt] Yeah. 716 00:28:52,782 --> 00:28:54,715 Dad and I would love to go out once in a while, 717 00:28:54,750 --> 00:28:56,750 -you know, this was nice. -Yeah. 718 00:28:56,786 --> 00:28:58,419 -[waiter] Waters here for you. -[Peggy] Thank you. 719 00:28:58,454 --> 00:28:59,620 [waiter] Of course. 720 00:28:59,655 --> 00:29:01,889 And he loved to, um, meet people. 721 00:29:01,924 --> 00:29:04,792 So I kinda got used to the idea of him going out. 722 00:29:04,827 --> 00:29:07,261 Otherwise, we were with each other 24/7, which was wonderful. 723 00:29:07,296 --> 00:29:09,296 Yeah. 724 00:29:09,331 --> 00:29:11,465 In fact, the reason he had our chairs close together there 725 00:29:11,500 --> 00:29:12,933 -in front of the TV, -Yeah. 726 00:29:12,968 --> 00:29:14,435 was he wanted to hold hands. 727 00:29:16,038 --> 00:29:17,771 -He loved me dearly. -Oh. 728 00:29:17,807 --> 00:29:20,741 -Everybody just told me that. It was very humbling. -Yeah. Oh, yeah. 729 00:29:20,776 --> 00:29:22,543 [Matt] My mother and father had 730 00:29:22,578 --> 00:29:25,379 a long and very loving relationship. 731 00:29:25,414 --> 00:29:27,414 Um, and having dinner with my mom 732 00:29:27,450 --> 00:29:29,616 sort of reinforces how important 733 00:29:29,652 --> 00:29:31,452 that Caryn is in my life. 734 00:29:32,988 --> 00:29:34,588 [Peggy] We had a lot of experiences in our life. 735 00:29:34,623 --> 00:29:36,089 Dad was really good. 736 00:29:36,125 --> 00:29:38,959 -He took you on camping trips with your classrooms, -Yeah. Yeah. 737 00:29:38,994 --> 00:29:40,694 and Yosemite, I think he went? 738 00:29:40,729 --> 00:29:42,963 Oh, I remember crossing a river, he scared us to death. 739 00:29:42,998 --> 00:29:44,832 -[laughs] -This rushing river, 740 00:29:44,867 --> 00:29:46,767 and he walked across the rocks. 741 00:29:46,802 --> 00:29:48,735 -Oh, yeah. -He was very sure-footed. 742 00:29:50,206 --> 00:29:52,005 [Matt] My childhood was very fun. 743 00:29:52,041 --> 00:29:53,440 You know, we did a lot of family trips, 744 00:29:53,476 --> 00:29:54,708 you know, around the country. 745 00:29:54,743 --> 00:29:56,710 We went camping a lot. 746 00:29:56,745 --> 00:29:58,979 Um, you know, I always loved my folks 747 00:29:59,014 --> 00:30:01,048 for the way they raised us, um, 748 00:30:01,083 --> 00:30:03,884 you know, my folks never had any history of dwarfism in their family. 749 00:30:03,919 --> 00:30:05,519 You know, all of a sudden, poof, you know, 750 00:30:05,554 --> 00:30:07,421 they have a baby that's a dwarf. 751 00:30:07,456 --> 00:30:10,791 You know, they had my sister first. Zero physical ailments, 752 00:30:10,826 --> 00:30:14,094 and then, uh, you know, my brother and I both had dwarfism. 753 00:30:14,129 --> 00:30:16,697 So I can only imagine 754 00:30:17,433 --> 00:30:20,100 the absolute shock 755 00:30:20,135 --> 00:30:22,236 that my parents would've felt. 756 00:30:22,271 --> 00:30:25,272 Despite all that, I always felt completely loved, 757 00:30:25,307 --> 00:30:28,308 and my folks felt like they were proud of me. 758 00:30:28,344 --> 00:30:30,711 That's a special, special parent 759 00:30:30,746 --> 00:30:33,647 to be able to provide that kind of upbringing. 760 00:30:33,682 --> 00:30:37,651 And certainly a lot of that has rubbed off on me. 761 00:30:37,686 --> 00:30:41,121 And I, you know, try to do some of those things with my kids. 762 00:30:41,156 --> 00:30:42,856 How's yours? Does it have any flavor to it? 763 00:30:42,892 --> 00:30:44,391 Yeah, it's good. 764 00:30:47,463 --> 00:30:50,197 -Our life is gonna be different. -Mmm-hmm. 765 00:30:50,232 --> 00:30:53,800 -Dad made a big impact on a lot of people. -Yeah. 766 00:30:53,836 --> 00:30:56,270 You know, he knew who he was, and where he was going, 767 00:30:56,305 --> 00:30:57,504 -and, yeah. -Yeah. 768 00:30:59,174 --> 00:31:01,642 [Matt] I think my mother's putting on a very brave face. 769 00:31:01,677 --> 00:31:04,011 My parents were married for virtually 770 00:31:04,046 --> 00:31:05,846 their entire adult life. 771 00:31:05,881 --> 00:31:07,981 So it's only natural for my mom 772 00:31:08,017 --> 00:31:12,019 to struggle a little bit with my dad's absence. 773 00:31:12,054 --> 00:31:14,788 Well, I'm glad we got to try this place. 774 00:31:14,823 --> 00:31:18,058 Yeah, I am, too. Dad would love to have been here. 775 00:31:18,093 --> 00:31:20,794 -He loved Vietnamese food. He loved everything. -Yeah. Mmm-hmm. 776 00:31:20,829 --> 00:31:23,463 -Are you, um, ready to make the journey? -Yup. 777 00:31:26,669 --> 00:31:27,868 [announcer] Coming up... 778 00:31:27,903 --> 00:31:30,437 I couldn't believe when you proposed to me. 779 00:31:31,307 --> 00:31:33,173 You were so nervous, weren't you? 780 00:31:33,208 --> 00:31:34,508 -Were you nervous? -No, no. 781 00:31:34,543 --> 00:31:35,676 Yeah, you were. 782 00:31:35,711 --> 00:31:38,545 You got so, like, emotional or teary-eyed. 783 00:31:38,581 --> 00:31:40,747 -Oh, please, I didn't get teary-eyed. -[laughs] 784 00:31:40,783 --> 00:31:42,015 I was a rock. 785 00:31:58,567 --> 00:32:00,734 [Chris] Would you like me to pull your chair out? 786 00:32:00,769 --> 00:32:02,135 -[Amy] If you want. -Do you like that? 787 00:32:02,171 --> 00:32:03,303 [Amy] Oh, sure. 788 00:32:04,340 --> 00:32:05,606 -Yeah. -I mean, I don't know 789 00:32:05,641 --> 00:32:08,275 -if it's better for you to adjust your own-- -I just... 790 00:32:08,310 --> 00:32:09,743 I don't know, I just figure it's... 791 00:32:09,778 --> 00:32:11,311 -[Chris] Do you want, do you want closer? -Yeah. 792 00:32:11,347 --> 00:32:13,513 [Amy] It's our first year wedding anniversary, 793 00:32:13,549 --> 00:32:16,817 and we made a decision 794 00:32:16,852 --> 00:32:18,885 after he proposed to me, 795 00:32:18,921 --> 00:32:21,655 that why don't we make this a yearly event? 796 00:32:21,690 --> 00:32:23,991 To celebrate getting engaged, 797 00:32:24,026 --> 00:32:25,892 first date, being married? 798 00:32:25,928 --> 00:32:27,628 So we chose The Reserve, 799 00:32:27,663 --> 00:32:29,129 because that's where, gosh, 800 00:32:29,164 --> 00:32:32,032 -life-changing moments happened. -Yeah. 801 00:32:32,067 --> 00:32:34,668 Six years ago was our first date. 802 00:32:35,904 --> 00:32:39,272 And three years ago was when I proposed. 803 00:32:39,308 --> 00:32:41,475 And then because of COVID, we couldn't come. 804 00:32:41,510 --> 00:32:43,010 Oh, yeah, yeah. Yeah, that's right. 805 00:32:43,045 --> 00:32:45,078 So this will be our first real dinner here 806 00:32:45,114 --> 00:32:47,047 -since, uh, I proposed. -Yeah. 807 00:32:47,082 --> 00:32:49,016 -Still good memories? -Yeah. 808 00:32:49,051 --> 00:32:51,785 I'm just so happy I was able to trick you into saying yes. 809 00:32:51,820 --> 00:32:54,955 [laughs] That you did. 810 00:32:54,990 --> 00:32:56,857 It's on this hand. 811 00:32:56,892 --> 00:32:58,258 Still looking pretty. 812 00:33:00,295 --> 00:33:02,663 -The ring looks good, too. -[laughs] 813 00:33:03,999 --> 00:33:05,699 -Yeah. -[Amy laughs] Yeah. 814 00:33:05,734 --> 00:33:09,236 I couldn't believe when you proposed to me. 815 00:33:09,271 --> 00:33:11,238 You were so nervous, weren't you? 816 00:33:11,273 --> 00:33:12,739 -Were you nervous? -No, no. 817 00:33:12,775 --> 00:33:13,940 Yeah, you were. 818 00:33:17,346 --> 00:33:18,679 What? 819 00:33:19,548 --> 00:33:20,714 Nothing. 820 00:33:20,749 --> 00:33:22,049 You were nervous, you were... 821 00:33:22,084 --> 00:33:23,483 I had it all figured out. 822 00:33:23,519 --> 00:33:25,719 And then you were like... Oh, you got so, 823 00:33:25,754 --> 00:33:27,854 like, emotional or teary-eyed. 824 00:33:27,890 --> 00:33:29,623 -Oh, please, I didn't get teary-eyed. -[laughs] 825 00:33:29,658 --> 00:33:31,391 [Chris] I was a rock. 826 00:33:31,427 --> 00:33:33,160 [laughs] 827 00:33:36,365 --> 00:33:37,831 [laughing] What? 828 00:33:37,866 --> 00:33:38,932 [Chris sniffles] 829 00:33:38,967 --> 00:33:42,035 [voice shaking] It's been an amazing journey. 830 00:33:42,071 --> 00:33:43,804 And you're the one I want to finish it with. 831 00:33:45,474 --> 00:33:47,808 [Amy] Chris doesn't show emotions. 832 00:33:48,744 --> 00:33:50,844 Uh, often, even to this day, 833 00:33:50,879 --> 00:33:53,447 that I've been married and with him for so long. 834 00:33:53,482 --> 00:33:55,248 But when he did, 835 00:33:55,284 --> 00:33:58,685 because I wasn't used to him doing that, 836 00:33:58,721 --> 00:34:00,253 I, I didn't know what to do. 837 00:34:02,524 --> 00:34:04,524 -Will you marry me? -Oh, my God! 838 00:34:04,560 --> 00:34:06,727 [Amy laughs] 839 00:34:06,762 --> 00:34:08,261 Yes! 840 00:34:08,297 --> 00:34:09,496 I wasn't crying. 841 00:34:09,531 --> 00:34:11,531 [chuckling] You just got a little watery. 842 00:34:11,567 --> 00:34:13,934 -Oh, it was smoky out there. -[laughs] 843 00:34:13,969 --> 00:34:15,769 Happy one-year anniversary. 844 00:34:15,804 --> 00:34:18,138 -Happy one-year anniversary, babe. -Mmm. 845 00:34:19,475 --> 00:34:21,908 -Here's the salad for you. -Oh, okay, thank you. 846 00:34:21,944 --> 00:34:24,177 -Mmm, thank you. -Enjoy. 847 00:34:26,615 --> 00:34:29,249 So what are the most favorite things that you did this year? 848 00:34:29,952 --> 00:34:31,485 Oh, the motorcycle ride 849 00:34:31,520 --> 00:34:33,954 -Yeah. -was the most adventurous. 850 00:34:33,989 --> 00:34:35,489 [Amy] I, I would, I would say so, too. 851 00:34:36,625 --> 00:34:39,159 Can I handle it? Can I handle three more days 852 00:34:39,194 --> 00:34:40,927 before our final destination? 853 00:34:40,963 --> 00:34:43,730 Before we turn around and come home? Oof. 854 00:34:44,733 --> 00:34:46,166 [whispering] I don't know. 855 00:34:46,201 --> 00:34:47,567 [in normal voice] Can we handle it, babe? 856 00:34:47,603 --> 00:34:49,236 [Chris speaking] 857 00:34:49,271 --> 00:34:51,505 [Amy] Oh, you're in it for the long haul? [laughs] 858 00:34:51,540 --> 00:34:53,140 [Chris] We're both on the same page, 859 00:34:53,175 --> 00:34:55,342 that our future is really gonna be... 860 00:34:55,377 --> 00:34:57,177 I know we wanna do a lot of traveling in our future. 861 00:34:57,212 --> 00:35:00,914 And I'm hoping to keep up with the new adventures, you know? 862 00:35:00,949 --> 00:35:03,617 Now that we're married, I don't wanna become 863 00:35:03,652 --> 00:35:05,318 too sedentary and think, you know, 864 00:35:05,354 --> 00:35:06,720 the wooing stage is over, 865 00:35:06,755 --> 00:35:09,055 I wanna keep going, I wanna, you know, explore-- 866 00:35:09,091 --> 00:35:11,258 -Oh, you wanna keep wooing me? -That, too. 867 00:35:11,293 --> 00:35:12,993 -Yeah. -Oh, okay. 868 00:35:13,028 --> 00:35:15,929 And my way of doing that is new experiences. 869 00:35:15,964 --> 00:35:18,965 You know, getting out and exploring and doing fun stuff. 870 00:35:19,001 --> 00:35:20,233 -Okay. -Keep moving. 871 00:35:21,236 --> 00:35:22,903 Oh, I'm looking forward to the balloon ride 872 00:35:22,938 --> 00:35:24,371 -that you got me for my birthday. -Yeah. 873 00:35:24,406 --> 00:35:26,740 That'll be our first thing. 874 00:35:26,775 --> 00:35:29,476 -And then we're gonna go back to Michigan. -Yeah, I wanna do that. 875 00:35:29,511 --> 00:35:31,878 Lord willing, my father will still be okay. 876 00:35:31,914 --> 00:35:33,013 I hope so. 877 00:35:33,048 --> 00:35:34,781 Do you ever see him flying out here again, 878 00:35:34,817 --> 00:35:36,950 or was the wedding his last plane trip? 879 00:35:36,985 --> 00:35:38,685 -I think the wedding was his last plane trip. -Yeah. 880 00:35:38,720 --> 00:35:41,021 -I'm just really glad he did it. -Yeah. 881 00:35:41,056 --> 00:35:43,423 And I'm so happy we got married on the farm, too. 882 00:35:43,458 --> 00:35:45,992 -I think that worked out really well. -Yeah, I did too. 883 00:35:46,028 --> 00:35:48,428 That was a wonderful moment. 884 00:35:48,463 --> 00:35:50,730 I'm glad it came to me again. 885 00:35:50,766 --> 00:35:52,599 I never thought it would. 886 00:35:52,634 --> 00:35:53,667 -No? -I never expected that. 887 00:35:54,636 --> 00:35:57,070 [Amy] Having a second opportunity, 888 00:35:57,105 --> 00:36:00,841 you know, at having a wonderful relationship with Chris, 889 00:36:00,876 --> 00:36:02,475 is being reminded. 890 00:36:02,511 --> 00:36:04,778 It's not only the mechanics of a relationship, 891 00:36:04,813 --> 00:36:08,281 but also the joy and giving 892 00:36:08,317 --> 00:36:10,350 in a relationship as well. 893 00:36:10,385 --> 00:36:13,086 [Chris] I feel like we're still continuing to learn 894 00:36:13,121 --> 00:36:14,187 -[Amy] Mmm-hmm. -about each other, 895 00:36:14,223 --> 00:36:17,023 and how to happily live with each other. 896 00:36:17,059 --> 00:36:20,193 But for me, there's never been a single moment 897 00:36:20,229 --> 00:36:23,296 or instance where I've had any doubt or regret. 898 00:36:23,332 --> 00:36:25,098 -That you wanted to run? -Yeah. 899 00:36:25,133 --> 00:36:26,533 Neither have I. 900 00:36:27,669 --> 00:36:29,703 Here's to the continuation 901 00:36:29,738 --> 00:36:32,038 of the sweetness of life together. 902 00:36:32,074 --> 00:36:33,206 Here's to the next six months. 903 00:36:34,109 --> 00:36:36,309 -I love you. -I love you, too. 904 00:36:36,345 --> 00:36:37,444 [Amy] Mmm. 905 00:36:48,790 --> 00:36:50,657 What are they gonna do in the dunk tank? 906 00:36:51,627 --> 00:36:52,826 Where is that dunking table? 907 00:36:52,861 --> 00:36:55,629 -I think it's outside on the back patio. -Oh. 908 00:36:55,664 --> 00:36:59,199 Today's my last day, uh, here in Arizona visiting my mother, 909 00:36:59,234 --> 00:37:02,502 and there's a kind of a country fair, carnival, 910 00:37:02,537 --> 00:37:04,771 uh, themed party going on 911 00:37:04,806 --> 00:37:06,373 at her center today. 912 00:37:06,408 --> 00:37:09,476 Keeps everybody, you know, active and entertained. 913 00:37:09,511 --> 00:37:11,177 Drench 'em, Caroline. 914 00:37:12,748 --> 00:37:14,080 [laughing] 915 00:37:14,116 --> 00:37:15,315 [woman] Here we go. 916 00:37:15,350 --> 00:37:17,584 [people shouting] Ohhh! 917 00:37:17,619 --> 00:37:18,985 [people cheering] 918 00:37:20,055 --> 00:37:22,489 [Matt] My mother is doing surprisingly well, 919 00:37:22,524 --> 00:37:24,124 and she's taking care of herself. 920 00:37:24,159 --> 00:37:27,727 She's figuring out how to be independent again, um, 921 00:37:27,763 --> 00:37:29,496 and I'm very, very proud of her. 922 00:37:29,531 --> 00:37:30,931 She's sort of stepped up. 923 00:37:30,966 --> 00:37:32,799 Can you throw that far? 924 00:37:32,834 --> 00:37:34,668 -Oh, to that little flag? -You gotta hit that bucket. 925 00:37:35,671 --> 00:37:37,137 [people cheering] 926 00:37:38,507 --> 00:37:40,674 -[Peggy] Okay, can I get a little closer? -[woman speaking] 927 00:37:42,678 --> 00:37:44,844 -Aw. Oh! -[woman speaking] 928 00:37:45,681 --> 00:37:47,013 Okay, I'm gonna go a little closer. 929 00:37:47,049 --> 00:37:49,182 Right on your nose, huh? [laughs] 930 00:37:49,217 --> 00:37:50,517 Hey, that's too close! 931 00:37:52,287 --> 00:37:53,753 -[Peggy] Oh! -[people cheering] 932 00:37:55,424 --> 00:37:56,856 [laughing] Sorry. 933 00:37:56,892 --> 00:37:58,692 Oh, I did good. Yeah. 934 00:37:58,727 --> 00:38:00,126 Finally! 935 00:38:01,697 --> 00:38:03,830 -Could you have gotten any closer? -[both laugh] 936 00:38:03,865 --> 00:38:05,966 -No, I started to walk up on them. -Yeah. 937 00:38:06,001 --> 00:38:08,068 -You could've hit them with your hand. -Yup. 938 00:38:08,103 --> 00:38:10,603 I'm very, very happy for what I've seen so far. 939 00:38:10,639 --> 00:38:12,973 Um, just, if she doesn't fall 940 00:38:13,008 --> 00:38:14,808 and break a bone, or her hip, 941 00:38:14,843 --> 00:38:16,576 or some catastrophe, 942 00:38:16,611 --> 00:38:20,847 she could, um, stay independent, you know, indefinitely. 943 00:38:20,882 --> 00:38:22,816 -Um, okay, well, that was a lot of fun. -It was. 944 00:38:22,851 --> 00:38:25,986 Okay. Keep, um, you know, up with your meds. 945 00:38:26,021 --> 00:38:28,421 -Come back soon. -Come back soon, keep up with your meds. 946 00:38:28,457 --> 00:38:30,490 I'm really glad I get to be able to spend this time 947 00:38:30,525 --> 00:38:32,325 with my mom, and, um, 948 00:38:32,361 --> 00:38:34,928 you know, I'm hoping if I make it into my 80s, 949 00:38:34,963 --> 00:38:36,730 then I get to be as, you know, 950 00:38:36,765 --> 00:38:39,899 get to be as close to the family as she is. 951 00:38:39,935 --> 00:38:41,568 You're in good hands here. 952 00:38:41,603 --> 00:38:43,703 -I'm in very good hands here. -And I'm very proud of you, you're doing super good. 953 00:38:43,739 --> 00:38:45,905 -Dad would be so pleased. -He'd be very pleased. 954 00:38:45,941 --> 00:38:49,342 My dad, he was a solid human being. Solid character. 955 00:38:49,378 --> 00:38:51,911 Set a great example for all of his grandkids 956 00:38:51,947 --> 00:38:54,214 and great-grandkids, you know, so. 957 00:38:54,249 --> 00:38:57,617 He, he has a, it's a high bar, and, uh, 958 00:38:57,652 --> 00:39:01,454 he would've put out a big effort to make sure that 959 00:39:01,490 --> 00:39:04,657 other relationships heal and that people got along, 960 00:39:04,693 --> 00:39:06,826 and everybody loved each other, 961 00:39:06,862 --> 00:39:09,696 and that the family stuck together through thick and thin. 962 00:39:09,731 --> 00:39:12,298 -See you. -Anyway, I'll see you in a couple weeks, okay? 963 00:39:12,334 --> 00:39:14,634 -All right, love you. -See you. Okay, bye, love you too, sweetheart. 964 00:39:14,669 --> 00:39:17,470 And, um, I'm gonna do my best to, you know, 965 00:39:17,506 --> 00:39:18,671 follow in his footsteps 966 00:39:18,707 --> 00:39:21,107 and, you know, I'm gonna do my best to honor his memory. 967 00:39:21,143 --> 00:39:23,076 Family's important, and I'm, you know, 968 00:39:23,111 --> 00:39:24,744 always gonna love my kids. 969 00:39:24,780 --> 00:39:27,580 And I get it. I'm a dominant force, 970 00:39:27,616 --> 00:39:29,582 you know, in everything that I do. 971 00:39:29,618 --> 00:39:32,919 I apologize, but that's just the way that I am. 972 00:39:32,954 --> 00:39:35,088 So there's no doubt I look back and think, 973 00:39:35,123 --> 00:39:36,556 "Oh, I could've done this better." 974 00:39:36,591 --> 00:39:40,460 You know, but I think it's time to look towards the future 975 00:39:40,495 --> 00:39:42,462 and not towards the past. 976 00:39:46,001 --> 00:39:48,435 [announcer] Next on Little People, Big World... 977 00:39:48,470 --> 00:39:49,903 [Zach] Last night was rough. 978 00:39:49,938 --> 00:39:52,505 Last night was R-U-F-F, rough. 979 00:39:52,541 --> 00:39:55,075 Sleep training is just, it's been impossible. 980 00:39:55,110 --> 00:39:56,843 [wailing] 981 00:39:56,878 --> 00:39:59,212 I haven't slept since I gave birth to him. 982 00:40:01,783 --> 00:40:03,683 -[Amy] Hey, hey, hey. -[Tori] How are ya? 983 00:40:03,718 --> 00:40:05,452 [Matt] Chris and Amy are gonna talk about 984 00:40:05,487 --> 00:40:07,020 their involvement in pumpkin season. 985 00:40:07,055 --> 00:40:08,655 So let's get down to business. 986 00:40:08,690 --> 00:40:10,857 What are you guys, um, are you still on board? 987 00:40:10,892 --> 00:40:12,659 [Amy] Everything that's going on, 988 00:40:12,694 --> 00:40:14,761 how this whole farm thing went down, 989 00:40:14,796 --> 00:40:17,063 I think, you know, we're all trying to figure out 990 00:40:17,099 --> 00:40:18,665 this is still family, 991 00:40:18,700 --> 00:40:22,135 but how do we interact with that family now? 992 00:40:22,170 --> 00:40:24,204 Okay, so you're doing pumpkin season this year? 993 00:40:24,239 --> 00:40:25,472 Are you? 994 00:40:25,507 --> 00:40:27,740 Things have changed, you know, the place is up for sale. 995 00:40:27,776 --> 00:40:29,409 And then of course, you know, 996 00:40:29,444 --> 00:40:31,911 -the whole thing between Matt and Chris. -Their little bromance. 997 00:40:31,947 --> 00:40:34,347 -Yeah. -Are you okay with that? 998 00:40:34,382 --> 00:40:36,216 [Tori] I don't know, we, like, worry about you. 999 00:40:36,251 --> 00:40:38,685 -Just, like, we wanna make sure that you're, like... -Aw, my kids. 1000 00:40:38,720 --> 00:40:40,720 [Amy] I think I came away from divorce 1001 00:40:40,755 --> 00:40:43,356 knowing that I've got four kids to still be here for, 1002 00:40:43,391 --> 00:40:44,824 so they gave me a purpose. 1003 00:40:44,860 --> 00:40:48,194 And they will always be, till... 1004 00:40:52,033 --> 00:40:55,168 [Caryn] So, you said you had a big plan B. 1005 00:40:55,203 --> 00:40:58,271 Occasionally even Matt Roloff's thick skull, 1006 00:40:58,306 --> 00:40:59,873 you know, you feel like you get hit in the head 1007 00:40:59,908 --> 00:41:01,374 with a hammer and it wakes you up. 1008 00:41:01,409 --> 00:41:04,043 Are you gonna tell everybody? 1009 00:41:04,079 --> 00:41:07,614 It's time to listen, [laughs] 1010 00:41:07,649 --> 00:41:10,350 to the hammer hitting the side of my skull 1011 00:41:10,385 --> 00:41:12,752 and do something different with the farm.