1 00:00:01,800 --> 00:00:03,300 {\an8}[Matt Roloff] Previously on Little People, Big World... 2 00:00:03,367 --> 00:00:05,200 {\an8}So I know you were anxious to get back down 3 00:00:05,266 --> 00:00:06,700 and see your mom. 4 00:00:06,767 --> 00:00:08,467 -Are you thinking this week or next week? -Yeah, 5 00:00:08,467 --> 00:00:10,667 I'm thinking... I... Yeah. 6 00:00:10,667 --> 00:00:12,567 I'm concerned about my mother a lot 7 00:00:12,567 --> 00:00:14,066 with dad passing. 8 00:00:14,066 --> 00:00:17,066 She lost her lifelong partner. 9 00:00:17,066 --> 00:00:20,600 I know that it's still a very difficult, tough road for her. 10 00:00:22,867 --> 00:00:26,100 -Surprise! -Surprise! 11 00:00:26,100 --> 00:00:27,767 This was a huge surprise. 12 00:00:27,767 --> 00:00:30,000 I really had no idea. 13 00:00:30,000 --> 00:00:30,066 I really had no idea. 14 00:00:30,066 --> 00:00:31,000 Gonna be a hard act to follow. 15 00:00:31,467 --> 00:00:34,100 -[laughs] -No, no, no, no. 16 00:00:36,467 --> 00:00:38,700 Look at that little Josiah! 17 00:00:38,767 --> 00:00:40,266 I'm feeling reflective 18 00:00:40,266 --> 00:00:42,266 on my dad passing away. 19 00:00:42,266 --> 00:00:44,967 That's why with, um, all the kids, 20 00:00:44,967 --> 00:00:46,767 I'm redoubling my efforts 21 00:00:46,767 --> 00:00:49,800 to check in on them all as often as possible. 22 00:00:49,867 --> 00:00:51,600 She's cute in her little dress. 23 00:00:51,667 --> 00:00:54,100 -She's a fine girl when she has a little dress on. -[Tori Roloff] Oh, yeah. 24 00:00:55,000 --> 00:00:56,200 [Zach Roloff] When we see my dad, 25 00:00:56,266 --> 00:00:58,000 we talk about what the kids are doing 26 00:00:58,000 --> 00:01:00,000 and just, you know, what's going on. 27 00:01:00,000 --> 00:01:00,300 and just, you know, what's going on. 28 00:01:00,367 --> 00:01:01,000 Sometimes it's better just to, you know, 29 00:01:03,266 --> 00:01:04,266 just keep the peace. 30 00:01:18,367 --> 00:01:20,567 [Amy Roloff] Oh, is that from me? 31 00:01:20,567 --> 00:01:22,467 [Chris Marek] Nice card, hon. 32 00:01:22,467 --> 00:01:23,667 I tell you, it really is. 33 00:01:23,667 --> 00:01:25,300 Happy, happy post-birthday! 34 00:01:25,367 --> 00:01:26,767 -Thank you. [laughs] -Whoops. 35 00:01:26,767 --> 00:01:28,500 [laughs] 36 00:01:29,166 --> 00:01:30,000 Party was a big hit. 37 00:01:30,000 --> 00:01:30,767 Party was a big hit. 38 00:01:30,767 --> 00:01:31,000 Everybody seemed to have a good time. 39 00:01:32,166 --> 00:01:33,200 I had a great time. 40 00:01:33,266 --> 00:01:35,100 It started off as totally unexpected, 41 00:01:35,166 --> 00:01:37,467 but it was just a fun event, you know, 42 00:01:37,467 --> 00:01:39,667 we had good music, good food, good friends. 43 00:01:39,667 --> 00:01:44,367 -Surprise! -Surprise! 44 00:01:44,367 --> 00:01:48,467 [all cheering] 45 00:01:49,266 --> 00:01:50,467 It was a perfect evening. 46 00:01:50,467 --> 00:01:52,166 'Cause it was all about you, babe. 47 00:01:52,166 --> 00:01:54,000 No, that's not why it was perfect. 48 00:01:54,066 --> 00:01:55,767 -It was... -Oh, I know. But for me, 49 00:01:55,767 --> 00:01:58,767 -it was nice to do something just for you. -[Chris] Aw. 50 00:01:58,767 --> 00:01:59,967 Yeah. 51 00:01:59,967 --> 00:02:00,000 -I'm glad you liked it. -Good job. 52 00:02:00,000 --> 00:02:01,000 -I'm glad you liked it. -Good job. 53 00:02:02,100 --> 00:02:05,600 Babe, I can't believe we're almost in one year of being married. 54 00:02:05,667 --> 00:02:06,767 [Chris] I know. 55 00:02:06,767 --> 00:02:09,767 Maybe we can, um, go to The Reserve... 56 00:02:09,767 --> 00:02:11,066 -[Chris] Hogwash. -...and have dinner there. 57 00:02:11,066 --> 00:02:12,166 [Chris] Yeah. 58 00:02:12,166 --> 00:02:13,700 -Is that a date? -That's a date. 59 00:02:13,767 --> 00:02:14,900 -Okay. -Yeah. 60 00:02:14,900 --> 00:02:16,767 [Amy] Our one year anniversary is coming up, 61 00:02:16,767 --> 00:02:19,100 and that's pretty significant. 62 00:02:19,166 --> 00:02:20,767 I've come away from divorce 63 00:02:21,567 --> 00:02:23,500 liking who I am. 64 00:02:23,567 --> 00:02:25,567 The one thing I do realize about myself, 65 00:02:25,567 --> 00:02:28,700 I think I will always have some sort of guard up. 66 00:02:28,767 --> 00:02:30,000 Life was moving so fast with Matt, 67 00:02:30,000 --> 00:02:31,000 Life was moving so fast with Matt, 68 00:02:31,467 --> 00:02:32,967 I think I always had it up. 69 00:02:32,967 --> 00:02:34,700 It was almost, like, reactionary. 70 00:02:34,767 --> 00:02:37,100 I think Chris brings out in me, 71 00:02:37,166 --> 00:02:38,767 you know, a little more confidence, 72 00:02:38,767 --> 00:02:39,900 a little more strength. 73 00:02:39,967 --> 00:02:41,900 Even though my guard may be up, 74 00:02:41,967 --> 00:02:43,500 I don't need it to be up 75 00:02:43,567 --> 00:02:46,100 as often as much as with Matt. 76 00:02:46,166 --> 00:02:49,166 And I'm content. 77 00:02:49,166 --> 00:02:51,400 Oh, did I tell you, I texted Matt this morning? 78 00:02:51,867 --> 00:02:53,600 Oh, no. What for? 79 00:02:53,667 --> 00:02:55,967 I'm just kinda curious about his house, 80 00:02:55,967 --> 00:02:57,066 you know, where he's at. 81 00:02:57,066 --> 00:02:58,767 You know, last time we talked, 82 00:02:58,767 --> 00:03:00,000 um, they had trenched out for the foundation. 83 00:03:00,000 --> 00:03:01,000 um, they had trenched out for the foundation. 84 00:03:01,166 --> 00:03:03,300 I'm curious if they've actually poured the foundation yet. 85 00:03:03,367 --> 00:03:04,433 Mmm-hmm. Mmm-hmm. 86 00:03:04,467 --> 00:03:06,000 So I'm gonna go over and talk to them about that, 87 00:03:06,000 --> 00:03:08,767 and he's been wanting to talk to us 88 00:03:08,767 --> 00:03:10,467 -about pumpkin season. -Oh, yeah. 89 00:03:10,467 --> 00:03:12,100 Anyway, I'd like to go check that out, 90 00:03:12,100 --> 00:03:14,367 -and see what's going down. -Okay, you can go do that. 91 00:03:14,367 --> 00:03:16,100 And give me the lowdown on what pumpkin season 92 00:03:16,166 --> 00:03:17,300 -may look like. -[Chris] You don't want to go? 93 00:03:17,367 --> 00:03:18,967 -No. -Okay. 94 00:03:18,967 --> 00:03:20,767 -You don't mind if I go, right? -No, I don't care. 95 00:03:20,767 --> 00:03:21,867 Okay. 96 00:03:21,867 --> 00:03:24,000 Are you up for doing what you usually do? 97 00:03:24,767 --> 00:03:25,767 I have to 98 00:03:26,767 --> 00:03:28,166 get my head around it? 99 00:03:28,166 --> 00:03:29,467 Why? 100 00:03:29,467 --> 00:03:30,000 'Cause I think the farm for me, 101 00:03:30,000 --> 00:03:31,000 'Cause I think the farm for me, 102 00:03:31,100 --> 00:03:33,567 -now everything's changed. -[Chris] Mmm. 103 00:03:33,567 --> 00:03:35,900 [Amy] I think because the farm is up for sale, 104 00:03:35,967 --> 00:03:39,867 I think it just changes pumpkin season for me 105 00:03:40,800 --> 00:03:42,467 on that personal level. 106 00:03:42,467 --> 00:03:44,600 I think what makes, you know, 107 00:03:44,667 --> 00:03:46,467 pumpkin season a little more unique 108 00:03:46,467 --> 00:03:49,867 is when there's some of the family members involved. 109 00:03:50,600 --> 00:03:52,100 I don't think all of the kids 110 00:03:52,100 --> 00:03:55,500 will really be a part of pumpkin season this year. 111 00:03:55,567 --> 00:03:57,767 So, you know, you're asking people to come 112 00:03:57,767 --> 00:04:00,000 to something that was our home. 113 00:04:00,000 --> 00:04:00,166 to something that was our home. 114 00:04:00,166 --> 00:04:01,000 Um, I think when it's just another pumpkin place, 115 00:04:04,667 --> 00:04:07,367 people will still come, which is very, very good, 116 00:04:07,367 --> 00:04:10,367 but I just wonder, will it have its same... 117 00:04:11,500 --> 00:04:15,200 ...family type of personal perspective 118 00:04:15,867 --> 00:04:17,567 compared to something else. 119 00:04:17,567 --> 00:04:20,200 I'm debating whether to be there or not, 120 00:04:20,266 --> 00:04:21,600 or how do I want to be there. 121 00:04:22,667 --> 00:04:24,800 If he's going to pare it down 122 00:04:24,867 --> 00:04:27,000 to, you know, just a couple wagon tours, 123 00:04:27,066 --> 00:04:28,767 he really probably doesn't even need my help. 124 00:04:28,767 --> 00:04:30,000 But I'd like to know from him though. 125 00:04:30,000 --> 00:04:31,000 But I'd like to know from him though. 126 00:04:31,000 --> 00:04:33,867 Just get the lowdown, and, you know, we'll see. 127 00:04:33,867 --> 00:04:35,000 Okay. 128 00:04:47,100 --> 00:04:49,200 {\an8}[Tori] What's up, dude? How was school today? 129 00:04:49,266 --> 00:04:51,467 You had chapel today? What did you guys do in chapel? 130 00:04:53,500 --> 00:04:55,066 They had to carry their own chairs. 131 00:04:55,066 --> 00:04:58,200 [gasps] Did you carry your own chair? Are you that strong? 132 00:05:02,166 --> 00:05:04,266 Did the teacher carry your classmate's chairs? 133 00:05:09,500 --> 00:05:11,266 Why didn't you carry your chair? 134 00:05:14,166 --> 00:05:16,166 [Tori] Oh, I hope you weren't being lazy. 135 00:05:16,166 --> 00:05:17,400 [Zach] It's been a really good summer, 136 00:05:17,467 --> 00:05:19,100 and now there's a lot of changes happening. 137 00:05:19,100 --> 00:05:21,266 Jackson started kindergarten this fall, 138 00:05:21,266 --> 00:05:22,367 and he's loving it. 139 00:05:22,367 --> 00:05:24,000 He's making a lot of friends, 140 00:05:24,000 --> 00:05:26,100 and he, his school is kinda cool. 141 00:05:26,100 --> 00:05:27,800 He has, like, computer class... 142 00:05:27,867 --> 00:05:29,200 -Art. -...art class... 143 00:05:29,266 --> 00:05:30,000 -PE. -...music, PE. 144 00:05:30,000 --> 00:05:30,767 -PE. -...music, PE. 145 00:05:30,767 --> 00:05:31,000 So his favorite is, uh, art class 146 00:05:33,467 --> 00:05:34,900 and computer class. 147 00:05:34,967 --> 00:05:37,600 [mumbling indistinctly] 148 00:05:40,266 --> 00:05:42,200 [Tori laughs] 149 00:05:42,266 --> 00:05:44,667 She's an actual wrecking ball. 150 00:05:44,667 --> 00:05:47,600 Lilah's loving her situation right now. 151 00:05:47,667 --> 00:05:49,100 She's loving 152 00:05:49,100 --> 00:05:51,467 having the extra alone time with Zach and I 153 00:05:51,467 --> 00:05:52,867 while Jackson's at school. 154 00:05:52,867 --> 00:05:56,667 And she's loving being able to, like, be the big sister and 155 00:05:56,667 --> 00:05:58,567 just have the attention on her for once 156 00:05:58,567 --> 00:06:00,000 'cause that hasn't happened a lot in her life. 157 00:06:00,000 --> 00:06:00,700 'cause that hasn't happened a lot in her life. 158 00:06:01,266 --> 00:06:02,367 Josiah's awake. 159 00:06:02,367 --> 00:06:03,800 -[Lilah Roloff exclaims] -[Tori] Like, awake awake? 160 00:06:03,867 --> 00:06:06,166 -Or like... -[Zach] Eh, just whining. 161 00:06:06,166 --> 00:06:07,767 Josiah's getting to be four months, 162 00:06:07,767 --> 00:06:10,266 and, um, we've been sleep training him. 163 00:06:10,266 --> 00:06:13,667 Last night was probably rougher for me. 164 00:06:13,667 --> 00:06:15,467 [Tori] Yesterday, I have never, 165 00:06:15,467 --> 00:06:17,467 I, like, literally can't remember a time in my life 166 00:06:17,467 --> 00:06:20,200 I've been that emotionally, physically drained in my life. 167 00:06:21,367 --> 00:06:22,867 I'm very sleep deprived. 168 00:06:22,867 --> 00:06:25,667 Literally my only complaint about Josiah, 169 00:06:25,667 --> 00:06:27,367 he's such an easy baby, 170 00:06:27,367 --> 00:06:28,967 he just doesn't sleep at night. 171 00:06:28,967 --> 00:06:30,000 Like, he's just 172 00:06:30,000 --> 00:06:30,066 Like, he's just 173 00:06:31,100 --> 00:06:32,367 on the struggle bus, 174 00:06:32,367 --> 00:06:34,367 which is, like, it's killing everyone. 175 00:06:34,367 --> 00:06:38,100 We're struggling, like, it's just, it's not fun to be honest. 176 00:06:38,667 --> 00:06:40,300 It's hard. 177 00:06:40,367 --> 00:06:42,367 My niche in life, I truly believe, 178 00:06:42,367 --> 00:06:44,367 is being a mom. I love being a mom. 179 00:06:44,367 --> 00:06:46,066 So when I have days like yesterday, 180 00:06:46,066 --> 00:06:49,166 where I just didn't have patience for my kids, 181 00:06:49,166 --> 00:06:52,567 like, I just, when I get upset at them 182 00:06:52,567 --> 00:06:54,700 because of something that's, like, affecting me, 183 00:06:54,767 --> 00:06:55,800 I hate that. 184 00:06:55,867 --> 00:06:57,100 Like, I just went to bed last night 185 00:06:57,166 --> 00:06:59,100 with, like, the worst mom guilt. 186 00:06:59,166 --> 00:07:00,000 [Zach] When I get mad at the kids, 187 00:07:00,000 --> 00:07:00,367 [Zach] When I get mad at the kids, 188 00:07:00,367 --> 00:07:01,000 it's because I'm mad at the kids. 189 00:07:01,767 --> 00:07:03,667 I don't feel dad guilt. 190 00:07:03,667 --> 00:07:04,867 That's not true. 191 00:07:04,867 --> 00:07:06,000 -[Zach] But I got-- -There's been times 192 00:07:06,000 --> 00:07:07,700 that you've gotten mad that you've felt guilty after. 193 00:07:07,767 --> 00:07:08,867 [Zach] Okay, every now and then maybe. 194 00:07:08,867 --> 00:07:10,100 But it's not, like, the same guilt. 195 00:07:10,100 --> 00:07:11,367 -We're talking about different types. -[Tori] It's not 196 00:07:11,367 --> 00:07:12,667 the same guilt, my guilt is like, 197 00:07:12,667 --> 00:07:14,200 "Did I spend enough time with them?" 198 00:07:14,266 --> 00:07:15,467 "Did I, like, listen to them?" 199 00:07:15,467 --> 00:07:16,900 -"Did I..." -[Zach] Yeah, my guilt is probably like, 200 00:07:16,967 --> 00:07:18,567 "I probably shouldn't have done that." [laughs] 201 00:07:18,567 --> 00:07:20,867 [both laugh] 202 00:07:20,867 --> 00:07:21,900 [Tori] We can joke, 203 00:07:21,967 --> 00:07:23,500 but when you have a lack of sleep, 204 00:07:23,567 --> 00:07:25,467 and you feel like you're sinking and failing 205 00:07:25,467 --> 00:07:27,567 as a mother, it can be like... 206 00:07:28,600 --> 00:07:29,967 ...frustrating. 207 00:07:29,967 --> 00:07:30,000 Well, and, like, just when I, like, yell, 208 00:07:30,000 --> 00:07:31,000 Well, and, like, just when I, like, yell, 209 00:07:32,266 --> 00:07:34,900 just 'cause I don't feel like I yell a lot ever... 210 00:07:36,967 --> 00:07:39,767 -[Zach laughs] -I literally... I... Can you leave? 211 00:07:40,567 --> 00:07:41,600 You don't yell that much, 212 00:07:41,667 --> 00:07:43,867 -but you yell. -I don't yell ever. 213 00:07:43,867 --> 00:07:45,600 Oh, I wouldn't say ever, 214 00:07:45,667 --> 00:07:46,767 but, yeah, you're right. 215 00:07:46,767 --> 00:07:48,600 You don't, compared to a lot of parents, 216 00:07:48,667 --> 00:07:49,700 you do not yell. 217 00:07:49,767 --> 00:07:51,567 This is what's frustrating about you though, 218 00:07:51,567 --> 00:07:52,900 this is why I get overwhelmed. 219 00:07:52,967 --> 00:07:54,367 Honestly, Zach, this is why 220 00:07:54,367 --> 00:07:56,100 because you don't give me any credit 221 00:07:56,100 --> 00:07:57,166 -for anything. -[Zach] No, Tori, 222 00:07:57,166 --> 00:07:58,700 I'm giving you credit, I'm just saying... 223 00:07:58,767 --> 00:07:59,767 [Tori] You do not though. You don't. 224 00:07:59,767 --> 00:08:00,000 ...ever is strong. 225 00:08:00,000 --> 00:08:01,000 ...ever is strong. 226 00:08:01,467 --> 00:08:03,100 You know what hurt my feelings the other day? 227 00:08:03,100 --> 00:08:04,166 What hurt your feelings? 228 00:08:05,200 --> 00:08:06,667 You don't even care. 229 00:08:06,667 --> 00:08:08,166 -Give me what hurt your feelings. -[Tori] You literally, 230 00:08:08,166 --> 00:08:09,800 I'm making Jackson's lunch... 231 00:08:09,867 --> 00:08:11,867 -[Zach] Yeah. -...and you go, "Oh, it's just, 232 00:08:11,867 --> 00:08:13,800 you're just trying to make it look good." 233 00:08:13,867 --> 00:08:15,266 I said cute, okay? 234 00:08:15,266 --> 00:08:17,100 Look cute, whatever. It's even worse. 235 00:08:17,767 --> 00:08:18,967 Instead of, like, 236 00:08:18,967 --> 00:08:22,166 "Tori, thank you for making our children lunch." 237 00:08:22,166 --> 00:08:24,767 I would say Zach takes care of the outside of the house, 238 00:08:24,767 --> 00:08:26,667 and I take care of the inside of the house. 239 00:08:26,667 --> 00:08:29,166 I do breakfast, feed the kids, 240 00:08:29,166 --> 00:08:30,000 get Jackson ready for school, 241 00:08:30,000 --> 00:08:31,000 get Jackson ready for school, 242 00:08:31,867 --> 00:08:33,133 take him to school, 243 00:08:33,166 --> 00:08:35,100 and then come home when Josiah goes down for his first nap. 244 00:08:35,100 --> 00:08:37,266 Then it's just me and Lilah, and we play, 245 00:08:37,266 --> 00:08:39,400 and then he wakes up, we do lunch. 246 00:08:39,467 --> 00:08:40,900 It's, like, exhausting. 247 00:08:40,900 --> 00:08:43,000 -[Zach] Yeah. -I just wish you would give me a little more credit 248 00:08:43,000 --> 00:08:44,166 -at being a mom. -[Zach] I do give you credit, 249 00:08:44,166 --> 00:08:45,266 -but I also hold-- -You don't. 250 00:08:45,266 --> 00:08:46,867 -You don't -I hold you accountable too. 251 00:08:46,867 --> 00:08:49,266 But that's why I have days like yesterday though, Zachary, 252 00:08:49,266 --> 00:08:50,767 that's why I get burnt out 253 00:08:50,767 --> 00:08:53,667 because I can't always, like, be like that. 254 00:08:53,667 --> 00:08:54,867 No, I get it. 255 00:08:54,867 --> 00:08:56,000 [Tori] No, you don't. 256 00:08:56,000 --> 00:08:57,900 -I do. -[Jackson Roloff exclaiming] 257 00:08:57,967 --> 00:08:59,400 [sighs] 258 00:08:59,467 --> 00:09:00,000 [Zach] So you're sleeping upstairs tonight? 259 00:09:00,000 --> 00:09:00,867 [Zach] So you're sleeping upstairs tonight? 260 00:09:00,867 --> 00:09:01,000 I'm sleeping upstairs tonight. 261 00:09:02,066 --> 00:09:03,867 I'm gonna sleep down the road tonight. 262 00:09:03,867 --> 00:09:05,700 [laughs] 263 00:09:05,767 --> 00:09:08,166 [Tori] I feel underappreciated all the time. 264 00:09:08,166 --> 00:09:10,500 This is also an issue in our marriage currently 265 00:09:11,266 --> 00:09:12,767 because I'm exhausted. 266 00:09:12,767 --> 00:09:14,166 -[Zach] Sleep is very important. -I'm, like, literally 267 00:09:14,166 --> 00:09:15,567 pouring from an empty cup, 268 00:09:15,567 --> 00:09:18,066 and everybody wants something from me. 269 00:09:18,066 --> 00:09:20,800 And so, like, if I don't have anything to give, 270 00:09:20,867 --> 00:09:23,166 it's, the whole, everything just, like, 271 00:09:23,767 --> 00:09:25,000 freaks out. 272 00:09:25,066 --> 00:09:27,500 Also, we have lost our babysitter roster up here, 273 00:09:27,567 --> 00:09:28,567 so that's been hard. 274 00:09:28,567 --> 00:09:29,867 I definitely need a break. 275 00:09:31,266 --> 00:09:33,700 Um, okay, so yeah, you're upstairs, 276 00:09:33,767 --> 00:09:35,667 Lilah's with me, Jackson's in his room, 277 00:09:35,667 --> 00:09:37,000 and Josiah's in Lilah's room. 278 00:09:37,000 --> 00:09:38,200 Musical beds. 279 00:09:39,567 --> 00:09:41,367 [Zach] When we bought this house, 280 00:09:41,367 --> 00:09:45,867 we knew only having two bedrooms for the kids downstairs could be an issue. 281 00:09:45,867 --> 00:09:48,867 But, uh, you know, at the time, we didn't think about that. 282 00:09:48,867 --> 00:09:51,867 Right now, Josiah's been sleeping in Lilah's room. 283 00:09:51,867 --> 00:09:54,667 And the challenge is he'll wake up in the middle of the night, 284 00:09:54,667 --> 00:09:56,867 uh, and we don't want him to wake up Lilah. 285 00:09:56,867 --> 00:09:58,367 So we have to go in there. 286 00:09:58,367 --> 00:10:00,000 Instead of letting him just cry, we give him the binkie. 287 00:10:00,000 --> 00:10:00,700 Instead of letting him just cry, we give him the binkie. 288 00:10:00,767 --> 00:10:01,000 And we don't want him sleeping in Jackson's room. 289 00:10:03,467 --> 00:10:05,567 He has school, so we wanna make sure 290 00:10:05,567 --> 00:10:07,467 he's getting a good night's sleep. 291 00:10:07,467 --> 00:10:10,500 And we don't want Josiah in our room because we want our own space. 292 00:10:11,100 --> 00:10:12,166 Accurate. 293 00:10:12,166 --> 00:10:15,400 And so we're just trying to figure out what to do. 294 00:10:15,467 --> 00:10:16,867 [Zach] We'll get through this. 295 00:10:16,867 --> 00:10:18,767 I do just wish you would appreciate me more. 296 00:10:18,767 --> 00:10:20,700 I do appreciate you, Tori. 297 00:10:20,767 --> 00:10:22,367 -I just... -You don't say it. 298 00:10:22,367 --> 00:10:23,400 I keep you sharp. 299 00:10:23,867 --> 00:10:25,567 On your toes. 300 00:10:25,567 --> 00:10:27,667 Men look it in and they keep it sharp. 301 00:10:27,667 --> 00:10:29,100 -[chuckles] -[Zach laughs] 302 00:10:31,767 --> 00:10:33,166 {\an8}[Matt reading] 303 00:10:33,166 --> 00:10:34,767 {\an8}So back to pumpkin season, 304 00:10:34,800 --> 00:10:37,066 {\an8}you know, if you're cutting it in half, you probably don't even need my help. 305 00:10:37,066 --> 00:10:40,166 Well, no, we do. We always want a family member to do it. 306 00:10:40,166 --> 00:10:43,100 You know, I don't know if Amy's really 100% committed. 307 00:10:43,100 --> 00:10:46,367 And it would definitely be weird for me to do it without her. 308 00:10:46,367 --> 00:10:49,567 We wanna talk to you about more hours, not less. 309 00:10:49,567 --> 00:10:50,867 [both laughing] 310 00:10:52,400 --> 00:10:53,867 {\an8}[Matt reading] 311 00:10:53,867 --> 00:10:56,367 {\an8}Are you, uh, doing anything with pumpkin season this year? 312 00:10:56,367 --> 00:10:57,700 -No. -[Chris] No? 313 00:10:57,700 --> 00:11:00,000 I will not regret if this is the last year of pumpkin season 314 00:11:00,000 --> 00:11:00,700 I will not regret if this is the last year of pumpkin season 315 00:11:00,767 --> 00:11:01,000 and we did not, like, participate. 316 00:11:02,367 --> 00:11:06,400 The farm is not a place of joy for me anymore. 317 00:11:18,567 --> 00:11:21,166 -Knock, knock. Hey, man. -How are ya? 318 00:11:21,166 --> 00:11:22,667 -How you doing? -Good to see you. 319 00:11:22,667 --> 00:11:24,367 -Long time. -Yeah, it's been a little while. 320 00:11:24,367 --> 00:11:27,166 -A couple of weeks, yeah. -I think, uh, probably haven't seen you since the, uh, 321 00:11:27,166 --> 00:11:28,867 -the OPA. -Take a seat. 322 00:11:28,867 --> 00:11:31,567 Yeah, right, OPA, that was a good time, wasn't it? 323 00:11:31,567 --> 00:11:34,367 -It was, yeah. -Did you have as much fun as we did? 324 00:11:34,367 --> 00:11:35,567 [Chris] I did, we had a good time. 325 00:11:35,567 --> 00:11:37,300 [Matt] It was fun, yeah. Um... 326 00:11:37,367 --> 00:11:38,767 [Chris] Yeah. 327 00:11:38,767 --> 00:11:40,002 So I haven't seen a pending sign over here yet. 328 00:11:40,002 --> 00:11:41,000 So I haven't seen a pending sign over here yet. 329 00:11:41,467 --> 00:11:43,867 -What's happening? -[chuckles] Yeah, we got close 330 00:11:43,867 --> 00:11:45,266 -a couple times. -Oh, is that right? 331 00:11:45,266 --> 00:11:48,467 -Yeah. Got real close a couple of times. -Did you get an offer? 332 00:11:48,467 --> 00:11:52,166 No, in the end, it just wasn't... I don't think the right fit. 333 00:11:52,166 --> 00:11:56,300 Chris is always interested in the latest sort of update on the house sale 334 00:11:56,367 --> 00:11:58,367 because, I mean, he's in the real estate business. 335 00:11:58,367 --> 00:12:01,400 So, naturally, he's curious about what's going on. 336 00:12:01,467 --> 00:12:04,100 I'm okay when Chris asks questions. 337 00:12:04,166 --> 00:12:07,567 I don't think he's just asking me 'cause it's family gossip or anything. 338 00:12:07,567 --> 00:12:10,002 I think he's asking 'cause he has a sincere interest in it. 339 00:12:10,002 --> 00:12:10,066 I think he's asking 'cause he has a sincere interest in it. 340 00:12:10,066 --> 00:12:11,000 You ready to do a price reduction yet? 341 00:12:11,467 --> 00:12:13,100 -Nah, I don't think so. -No? 342 00:12:13,166 --> 00:12:15,066 I mean, I'm not ready for that yet. 343 00:12:15,066 --> 00:12:17,300 -Okay. -I'm gonna let the whole cycle play out. 344 00:12:17,367 --> 00:12:20,100 -At least until after pumpkin season. -Yeah. 345 00:12:20,166 --> 00:12:21,100 [both chuckle] 346 00:12:21,166 --> 00:12:22,567 [Matt] We're in the middle of it right now. 347 00:12:22,567 --> 00:12:24,567 We already kind of kicked it into high gear. 348 00:12:24,567 --> 00:12:26,600 We're gonna go forward with pumpkin season. 349 00:12:26,667 --> 00:12:28,567 Um, it's gonna be an interesting year 350 00:12:28,567 --> 00:12:32,000 because once again, we're kind of trying to set our expectations 351 00:12:32,000 --> 00:12:35,100 and figure out, you know, the economy's kind of crazy right now. 352 00:12:35,100 --> 00:12:38,867 So I'm predicting just a little bit softer year, you know. 353 00:12:38,867 --> 00:12:40,002 But I think that's kind of, um, what the world calls for right now. 354 00:12:40,002 --> 00:12:41,000 But I think that's kind of, um, what the world calls for right now. 355 00:12:42,967 --> 00:12:46,100 We were debating about whether to do the tours 356 00:12:46,100 --> 00:12:47,900 or not and then I came to this conclusion 357 00:12:47,967 --> 00:12:50,700 that maybe we'll cut back on the tours. 358 00:12:50,767 --> 00:12:52,166 -Mmm-hmm. -You know, we're trying to simplify. 359 00:12:52,166 --> 00:12:54,967 But you're not sure yet whether it's gonna be the same route... 360 00:12:54,967 --> 00:12:57,000 The route will be the same. 361 00:12:57,066 --> 00:13:00,667 Hard to believe that just a little less than a year ago, I got married right there. 362 00:13:00,667 --> 00:13:01,767 [both laugh] 363 00:13:01,767 --> 00:13:04,700 So are we ready to see you do the, uh, you know... 364 00:13:04,767 --> 00:13:07,300 -No. [mutters] I don't think so. -No? 365 00:13:07,367 --> 00:13:09,767 You know there's a setback on my house? 366 00:13:09,767 --> 00:13:10,002 -Did you hear about that? -No. 367 00:13:10,002 --> 00:13:11,000 -Did you hear about that? -No. 368 00:13:11,266 --> 00:13:13,367 Well, now it's all ready for the foundation, 369 00:13:13,367 --> 00:13:16,367 but then we found out that the county 370 00:13:16,367 --> 00:13:21,367 -is 16 to 20 weeks out. -Oh, man. That's a long time. 371 00:13:21,367 --> 00:13:24,166 That's like four months. So I'm like, well, if I can't start in January, 372 00:13:24,166 --> 00:13:26,166 -I don't wanna be building in the rain. -Right. 373 00:13:26,166 --> 00:13:29,066 -Let's go check it out. I'll show it to you. -Yeah. 374 00:13:29,066 --> 00:13:32,266 [Matt] I'm way behind on pumpkin season setup. 375 00:13:32,266 --> 00:13:35,000 Last year it was all about getting Amy and Chris' wedding. 376 00:13:35,000 --> 00:13:37,166 The flowers, getting the place ready for that 377 00:13:37,166 --> 00:13:39,700 right in the middle of pumpkin season and, um, 378 00:13:39,767 --> 00:13:40,002 this year, you know, it's different life challenges. 379 00:13:40,002 --> 00:13:41,000 this year, you know, it's different life challenges. 380 00:13:43,467 --> 00:13:45,767 -Sorry about your dad. -Yeah. 381 00:13:45,767 --> 00:13:48,066 -That was a tough, uh, tough one. -Yeah. 382 00:13:48,066 --> 00:13:51,166 -It kind of came up out of the blue. -Yeah. 383 00:13:51,166 --> 00:13:53,700 -Well, sorry to hear that. -Yeah, that was... 384 00:13:53,767 --> 00:13:57,100 Unfortunately, it's inevitable, but it still leaves a big hole. 385 00:13:57,166 --> 00:13:59,400 It's been a couple of weeks, uh, since my dad passed. 386 00:13:59,467 --> 00:14:02,667 So I'm headed to Arizona soon to check on my mother. 387 00:14:02,667 --> 00:14:05,900 I was just there, but I'm trying to get down there 388 00:14:05,967 --> 00:14:09,266 as often as I possibly can right now. 389 00:14:09,266 --> 00:14:10,002 My mom is doing well. Much better than I expected. 390 00:14:10,002 --> 00:14:11,000 My mom is doing well. Much better than I expected. 391 00:14:15,066 --> 00:14:18,767 I mean, she relied on my dad and my dad told me, 392 00:14:18,767 --> 00:14:22,867 you know, on his death bed, he said, "Oh, I think I spoiled your mother. 393 00:14:22,867 --> 00:14:25,567 You know, can you take over?" 394 00:14:25,567 --> 00:14:28,400 Um, and, um, you know, 395 00:14:28,467 --> 00:14:30,900 I promised him I would keep an eye on her and watch after her. 396 00:14:30,967 --> 00:14:35,700 And which is what I'm doing, why I'm going back and forth as often as I am. 397 00:14:35,767 --> 00:14:38,200 I'm gonna check on my mother and then, um... 398 00:14:39,266 --> 00:14:40,002 [sighs] Yeah, I'm kind of trying to be very... 399 00:14:40,002 --> 00:14:41,000 [sighs] Yeah, I'm kind of trying to be very... 400 00:14:42,066 --> 00:14:44,166 -Getting her squared away. -Yeah. 401 00:14:44,166 --> 00:14:46,700 Usually Caryn would go with me to Arizona, 402 00:14:46,767 --> 00:14:50,100 but she's gonna be taking care of her grandson this weekend, 403 00:14:50,166 --> 00:14:51,867 so I'm gonna go on my own. 404 00:14:51,867 --> 00:14:54,600 [Chris] So this is a huge packed pad. 405 00:14:54,667 --> 00:14:57,166 The perimeter of your house isn't gonna be this big, is it? 406 00:14:57,166 --> 00:15:00,100 [Matt] No, basically, you have to kind of have the packed soil 407 00:15:00,166 --> 00:15:02,767 about, I think it's like five feet beyond 408 00:15:02,767 --> 00:15:04,367 -the furthest perimeter. -Okay. 409 00:15:04,367 --> 00:15:06,667 All right, so the foundation's gonna sit right on top of this. 410 00:15:06,667 --> 00:15:07,700 [Matt] Yes. 411 00:15:07,700 --> 00:15:09,600 Even though the ground is ready, I mean, 412 00:15:09,667 --> 00:15:10,002 I may not lay a foundation until next year. 413 00:15:10,002 --> 00:15:11,000 I may not lay a foundation until next year. 414 00:15:12,166 --> 00:15:14,767 The fact that the permits are gummed up does 415 00:15:14,767 --> 00:15:19,767 put a wrench in a lot of things including my plan to marry Caryn. 416 00:15:19,767 --> 00:15:21,867 I think... We don't have a house. 417 00:15:21,867 --> 00:15:24,567 If we got married, we'd wanna naturally live together 418 00:15:24,567 --> 00:15:26,667 and have a, you know, landing place. 419 00:15:26,667 --> 00:15:28,800 So that is highly disappointing 420 00:15:28,867 --> 00:15:31,867 that the house isn't where we were hoping it would be. 421 00:15:31,867 --> 00:15:33,233 So back to pumpkin season. 422 00:15:33,233 --> 00:15:37,567 What are your thoughts on Amy? Just the usual meet and greet? 423 00:15:37,567 --> 00:15:39,467 Well, see, that's what I wanted to talk to you guys about. 424 00:15:39,467 --> 00:15:40,002 I like her doing that and I wanted to ask you about, um, the tours. 425 00:15:40,002 --> 00:15:41,000 I like her doing that and I wanted to ask you about, um, the tours. 426 00:15:44,166 --> 00:15:46,100 You know, as far as helping out pumpkin season, 427 00:15:46,166 --> 00:15:48,467 you know, we're expecting Amy and Chris, of course, 428 00:15:48,467 --> 00:15:51,266 Jacob and Isabel are also helping out. 429 00:15:51,266 --> 00:15:54,467 Amy is really the face of the family during pumpkin season. 430 00:15:54,467 --> 00:15:57,000 So she has a very important role. 431 00:15:57,066 --> 00:16:00,667 Last year, if I remember, you did like two hours a day, right? 432 00:16:00,667 --> 00:16:03,667 Uh, yeah, it was two or three hours, um. 433 00:16:03,667 --> 00:16:06,367 You know, if you're cutting it in half, you probably don't even need my help. 434 00:16:06,367 --> 00:16:09,800 Well, no, we do. We always want a family member to do it. 435 00:16:09,867 --> 00:16:10,002 We wanna talk to you about more hours. 436 00:16:10,002 --> 00:16:11,000 We wanna talk to you about more hours. 437 00:16:11,667 --> 00:16:13,567 -Oh. [laughs] -It's not less. [laughs] 438 00:16:13,567 --> 00:16:17,300 When Matt first asked if I wanted to do, uh, pumpkin season, 439 00:16:17,367 --> 00:16:20,300 my first response was yes, I had a good time last year. 440 00:16:20,367 --> 00:16:24,667 Um, but, uh, then, I, you know, got to thinking I, 441 00:16:24,667 --> 00:16:27,300 you know, I don't know if Amy's 100% committed. 442 00:16:27,367 --> 00:16:29,567 And it would definitely be weird, 443 00:16:29,567 --> 00:16:31,867 it wouldn't be nearly as much fun for me to do it without her. 444 00:16:31,867 --> 00:16:35,900 So I really need to make sure that she's 100% committed 445 00:16:35,967 --> 00:16:39,400 before I tell Matt that I'm 100% committed. 446 00:16:39,467 --> 00:16:40,002 So I'm supposed to, you know, bring back some info to Amy, 447 00:16:40,002 --> 00:16:41,000 So I'm supposed to, you know, bring back some info to Amy, 448 00:16:42,667 --> 00:16:45,467 but maybe when we get closer, 449 00:16:45,467 --> 00:16:49,867 we'll come back and have a happy hour drink and discuss details. 450 00:16:49,867 --> 00:16:51,767 [Matt] Yeah, that sounds like a good time. 451 00:17:17,867 --> 00:17:21,667 My mother lives in an apartment in a senior home. 452 00:17:21,667 --> 00:17:26,567 Just a few miles away from my house in Arizona that I have with Caryn. 453 00:17:26,567 --> 00:17:28,700 My folks weren't there very long 454 00:17:28,767 --> 00:17:31,567 before my dad passed, but my dad made sure 455 00:17:31,567 --> 00:17:35,266 that they were set up and my mother was very comfortable, 456 00:17:35,266 --> 00:17:37,767 but she still has some health challenges. 457 00:17:37,767 --> 00:17:39,967 You know, my mom messed up her hip. 458 00:17:39,967 --> 00:17:40,002 You know, created a challenge for her physically to get around. 459 00:17:40,002 --> 00:17:41,000 You know, created a challenge for her physically to get around. 460 00:17:43,266 --> 00:17:46,166 And then, you know, she has some high blood pressure, 461 00:17:46,166 --> 00:17:50,100 and some other medical issues that come with aging. 462 00:17:50,100 --> 00:17:52,900 The thing that concerns me the absolute most 463 00:17:52,967 --> 00:17:55,867 about her being alone is that she would fall. 464 00:17:55,867 --> 00:17:58,266 And if she falls, 465 00:17:58,266 --> 00:18:02,600 that could impact her mobility even more significantly. 466 00:18:02,667 --> 00:18:04,066 Where do you wanna eat at? 467 00:18:04,066 --> 00:18:06,967 Oh, I've got down at the garden cafe I think is the best. 468 00:18:06,967 --> 00:18:09,867 -I'm dying for a cup of coffee. -We could go down there. 469 00:18:09,867 --> 00:18:10,002 I think my mother, all of us, are still kind of in a state of shock 470 00:18:10,002 --> 00:18:11,000 I think my mother, all of us, are still kind of in a state of shock 471 00:18:13,367 --> 00:18:15,000 over losing my dad. 472 00:18:15,066 --> 00:18:17,800 And, um, you know, I think she just hasn't 473 00:18:17,867 --> 00:18:20,300 completely entered into the grieving space. 474 00:18:20,367 --> 00:18:21,867 You know, and that's yet to come. 475 00:18:21,867 --> 00:18:23,867 I think that might be true for all of us. 476 00:18:23,867 --> 00:18:26,266 We haven't really fully processed 477 00:18:26,266 --> 00:18:28,300 the fact that my dad is gone. 478 00:18:28,367 --> 00:18:30,166 You're gonna be able to get in here by yourself? 479 00:18:30,166 --> 00:18:33,166 Yeah, Dad was teaching me this just before he left. 480 00:18:33,166 --> 00:18:35,100 Is how to transfer. Okay. Here I go. 481 00:18:35,166 --> 00:18:38,100 -One, two, three. -Yep, stand up first. 482 00:18:38,166 --> 00:18:39,567 -Yeah, there you go. -How do you like that? 483 00:18:40,367 --> 00:18:41,000 -Okay. -Yeah. 484 00:18:41,667 --> 00:18:42,667 Yeah, I think. 485 00:18:42,667 --> 00:18:44,800 Good. That's a good transfer. 486 00:18:45,367 --> 00:18:46,467 Super good transfer. 487 00:18:46,467 --> 00:18:47,900 -[server] Good morning. -Hi. 488 00:18:48,900 --> 00:18:50,000 [server] You know we do coffee, right? 489 00:18:50,066 --> 00:18:52,266 -Regular? Okay. -Yes. 490 00:18:52,266 --> 00:18:56,200 My dad, you know, super social guy. 491 00:18:56,266 --> 00:19:01,367 And, you know, my mom is not quite as, uh, outgoing as Dad. 492 00:19:01,367 --> 00:19:03,667 So we just wanna make sure, you know, 493 00:19:03,667 --> 00:19:07,400 that my mother is not retreating into her room, 494 00:19:07,467 --> 00:19:10,002 but continuing to meet more and more people. 495 00:19:10,002 --> 00:19:10,567 but continuing to meet more and more people. 496 00:19:12,200 --> 00:19:13,200 {\an8}Yeah. 497 00:19:14,266 --> 00:19:15,700 {\an8}Yeah, come on over. 498 00:19:16,800 --> 00:19:18,967 You always sit with us. 499 00:19:18,967 --> 00:19:20,900 Deloris is a really good friend of my mother's. 500 00:19:20,967 --> 00:19:23,767 She's been a great companion since my dad's passing. 501 00:19:23,767 --> 00:19:25,266 How have you been? 502 00:19:25,266 --> 00:19:27,667 I'm doing good. Thank you. 503 00:19:27,667 --> 00:19:30,367 -Good, good. You look great. -Oh, thank you. 504 00:19:30,367 --> 00:19:33,600 My mom just really enjoys Deloris' company. 505 00:19:33,667 --> 00:19:35,700 So, Mom, how do you see this going? 506 00:19:35,767 --> 00:19:37,266 The event going down for Dad? 507 00:19:37,266 --> 00:19:39,967 -I think everybody's getting excited to get that. -Yeah. 508 00:19:39,967 --> 00:19:40,002 One thing is we definitely want to have is a military color guard, 509 00:19:40,002 --> 00:19:41,000 One thing is we definitely want to have is a military color guard, 510 00:19:43,567 --> 00:19:44,967 -which means, uh... -[Matt] Oh, oh, right. 511 00:19:44,967 --> 00:19:46,700 They... Dad used to really love that 512 00:19:46,700 --> 00:19:49,567 -when he'd go to, like, different friends' memorials. -[Matt] Right, right. Yeah. 513 00:19:49,567 --> 00:19:52,266 And then I would do a slideshow. 514 00:19:52,266 --> 00:19:53,567 Oh, yeah. 515 00:19:53,567 --> 00:19:55,767 [Matt] And we immediately delayed the idea of a memorial 516 00:19:55,767 --> 00:19:57,900 until later in the year. 517 00:19:57,967 --> 00:20:01,600 When the bulk of the family was available and gave us time to grieve, 518 00:20:01,667 --> 00:20:02,867 and then put that together. 519 00:20:02,867 --> 00:20:05,567 So now it's set for the first week of November. 520 00:20:05,567 --> 00:20:07,567 This is not gonna be a traditional funeral, 521 00:20:07,567 --> 00:20:10,002 you know, where you go to the gravesite and it's sad. 522 00:20:10,002 --> 00:20:10,567 you know, where you go to the gravesite and it's sad. 523 00:20:10,567 --> 00:20:11,000 I mean, this is... You know, you... 524 00:20:12,066 --> 00:20:13,867 A lot of people call it a celebration of life, 525 00:20:13,867 --> 00:20:17,700 but it's really a memorial where we memorialize, uh, 526 00:20:17,767 --> 00:20:19,867 you know, Papa, and we show, you know, 527 00:20:19,867 --> 00:20:22,500 happy pictures and play upbeat music, 528 00:20:22,567 --> 00:20:25,600 and, uh, that's sort of what the plan is. 529 00:20:25,667 --> 00:20:27,767 [Peggy] Someone said I need a yellow flag. 530 00:20:27,767 --> 00:20:29,100 -[Matt] Yeah. -[Peggy chuckling] 531 00:20:29,166 --> 00:20:30,567 And I'm only going half speed. 532 00:20:30,567 --> 00:20:32,400 [Matt] Yeah, I thought we were gonna have a race. 533 00:20:32,467 --> 00:20:33,734 [Peggy] Yeah. 534 00:20:36,667 --> 00:20:39,066 -[Matt chuckling] You're getting that down, huh? -Yeah. 535 00:20:49,266 --> 00:20:51,266 [Matt] To go in the room after he was no... 536 00:20:51,266 --> 00:20:55,166 you know, no longer with us, and, uh, looking at all the photos, 537 00:20:55,166 --> 00:20:58,266 and kind of realizing this is gonna be my mother's room 538 00:20:58,266 --> 00:21:00,467 and Dad's not gonna be here anymore. 539 00:21:00,467 --> 00:21:03,600 You know, it's... it's a sad thought to think 540 00:21:03,667 --> 00:21:08,667 that such a radical change can happen so quickly. 541 00:21:08,667 --> 00:21:10,002 [Peggy] Matt, you wanted one of Dad's Bibles right? 542 00:21:10,002 --> 00:21:10,967 [Peggy] Matt, you wanted one of Dad's Bibles right? 543 00:21:10,967 --> 00:21:11,000 Oh, yeah, yeah. But while... you know, I mean... 544 00:21:13,166 --> 00:21:15,367 I don't want to take it away while you're using it, but yeah. 545 00:21:15,367 --> 00:21:18,667 [Peggy] No, no. I've got about six Bibles, so this is, uh... 546 00:21:18,667 --> 00:21:20,567 ...Dad's. You can see how worn out it is. 547 00:21:20,567 --> 00:21:22,467 [Matt] Yeah. Oh, yeah. 548 00:21:22,467 --> 00:21:24,300 [Peggy] He's got lots of scripture in there that's all... 549 00:21:24,367 --> 00:21:26,266 Does it have his name in it? 550 00:21:26,266 --> 00:21:28,266 We've been... We've married 64 years, 551 00:21:28,266 --> 00:21:30,266 and he loved me unconditionally. 552 00:21:30,266 --> 00:21:34,100 {\an8}We had a terrific marriage, and he was a good man. 553 00:21:34,100 --> 00:21:35,800 {\an8}Oh, now I miss him more, now. 554 00:21:35,867 --> 00:21:36,967 {\an8}That's the way it's supposed to be. 555 00:21:36,967 --> 00:21:38,467 -You're supposed to miss him, yeah. -Yeah, yeah. 556 00:21:39,800 --> 00:21:40,002 [Matt] Wow, you've got quite a few wonderful cards. 557 00:21:40,002 --> 00:21:41,000 [Matt] Wow, you've got quite a few wonderful cards. 558 00:21:42,467 --> 00:21:45,100 Ever... Are all your old friends finding you? 559 00:21:45,100 --> 00:21:46,967 Yeah, they are, surprisingly. 560 00:21:46,967 --> 00:21:49,567 I still don't really realize that Ron's gone. 561 00:21:49,567 --> 00:21:52,000 I get up and I think, "Oh, I better be quiet." 562 00:21:52,000 --> 00:21:54,166 -You know? But, and it's just these pillows... -You don't wanna wake him up. 563 00:21:54,166 --> 00:21:56,500 Don't wanna wake him up. Yeah, wish I could. 564 00:21:56,567 --> 00:21:57,467 -Mmm-hmm. -Um... 565 00:21:58,266 --> 00:21:59,367 It's just a strange feeling. 566 00:21:59,367 --> 00:22:02,000 But it's not... it's not sad. 567 00:22:02,000 --> 00:22:05,200 So that's what's... that's what's really surprised me. 568 00:22:05,266 --> 00:22:06,800 -Maybe that day will come. -Yeah. 569 00:22:06,867 --> 00:22:07,667 I hope not. 570 00:22:10,667 --> 00:22:11,000 {\an8}[Matt] Coming up... 571 00:22:11,567 --> 00:22:12,567 {\an8}[Zach] Go! 572 00:22:13,600 --> 00:22:14,500 {\an8}[Amy laughing] 573 00:22:14,567 --> 00:22:15,367 There's your brother! 574 00:22:16,467 --> 00:22:17,767 {\an8}[Jackson speaking] 575 00:22:17,767 --> 00:22:20,567 [Tori] Okay, now Lilah, if you squirt him, he can squirt you. 576 00:22:21,266 --> 00:22:23,367 -Whoa! -[Tori laughing] 577 00:22:38,600 --> 00:22:39,800 Lilah, put your sunglasses on. 578 00:22:41,367 --> 00:22:43,166 -[Chris] Hey, guys! Welcome! -[Tori] Hello! 579 00:22:43,166 --> 00:22:45,400 Hey, Jackson. Hi, Lilah. 580 00:22:45,467 --> 00:22:47,100 -[Zach] Hey. -[Tori] Good to see you. 581 00:22:47,100 --> 00:22:48,600 [Chris] I like your sunglasses, Lilah. 582 00:22:48,667 --> 00:22:49,600 [Tori] What do you say? 583 00:22:50,700 --> 00:22:51,867 Say thank you? 584 00:22:51,867 --> 00:22:53,567 Yeah, take your shoes off. Stay a while. 585 00:22:54,567 --> 00:22:56,970 -[Zach] Hey. -[Amy] Hi! 586 00:22:56,970 --> 00:22:57,000 -[Zach] Hey. -[Amy] Hi! 587 00:22:57,066 --> 00:22:59,266 [Zach] We have not been to Mimi and Chris's in a while, 588 00:22:59,266 --> 00:23:01,767 so we're here for a pool party in their backyard. 589 00:23:01,767 --> 00:23:03,367 Jackson likes kiddie pools. 590 00:23:03,367 --> 00:23:04,667 [both] So does Lilah. 591 00:23:04,667 --> 00:23:06,367 -They both love water. -Yeah. 592 00:23:06,367 --> 00:23:07,367 Little kiddie pool action. 593 00:23:08,200 --> 00:23:10,000 -[gasping] What? -[Jackson] Gotcha. 594 00:23:10,000 --> 00:23:12,000 -[Zach laughing] -You can't do that. 595 00:23:12,066 --> 00:23:13,867 [Zach] Wait, Jackson, get her! She's getting you! 596 00:23:13,867 --> 00:23:14,700 Go! 597 00:23:15,700 --> 00:23:16,867 [Amy laughing] 598 00:23:18,767 --> 00:23:19,867 Here, let me load you up. 599 00:23:21,100 --> 00:23:22,367 There's your brother! 600 00:23:22,367 --> 00:23:24,266 {\an8}[Jackson laughing and speaking] 601 00:23:24,266 --> 00:23:26,000 [Tori] Okay, now Lilah, though, if you squirt him, 602 00:23:26,066 --> 00:23:26,970 he can squirt you. 603 00:23:26,970 --> 00:23:27,000 he can squirt you. 604 00:23:31,700 --> 00:23:34,066 -Whoa! -[Tori laughing] 605 00:23:34,066 --> 00:23:36,000 [Chris] Somebody told me that she's starting to say some words? 606 00:23:36,066 --> 00:23:37,767 -She's starting to speak a little bit? Yeah? -[Zach] Oh, yeah. 607 00:23:37,767 --> 00:23:39,367 She's speaking a lot better now. 608 00:23:39,367 --> 00:23:40,567 Wow. 609 00:23:40,567 --> 00:23:41,767 Lilah's speech has gotten... 610 00:23:41,767 --> 00:23:43,166 -...a lot better. -Yeah, it has gotten a lot better. 611 00:23:43,166 --> 00:23:45,400 -Her vocabulary has gotten... -We counted to ten this morning. 612 00:23:45,467 --> 00:23:47,800 -Yeah, she's starting... She says thank you... -She's doing really good. 613 00:23:47,867 --> 00:23:49,867 And I feel like it's helped her confidence a lot, too. 614 00:23:49,867 --> 00:23:51,700 [Zach] There will be times when I still don't know what she's saying, 615 00:23:51,767 --> 00:23:53,767 and she'll say it to me in such a sass. 616 00:23:53,767 --> 00:23:55,800 Like, "I can... like, why wouldn't you... 617 00:23:55,867 --> 00:23:56,970 -...understand me?" -"Why can't you understand me?" 618 00:23:56,970 --> 00:23:57,000 -...understand me?" -"Why can't you understand me?" 619 00:23:57,467 --> 00:23:58,567 How are you doing? 620 00:23:59,900 --> 00:24:01,000 How are you doing? 621 00:24:02,166 --> 00:24:03,000 Hmm? 622 00:24:04,266 --> 00:24:07,400 -[Tori] Yeah! -[Zach] Whoa! 623 00:24:07,467 --> 00:24:09,200 Can you put your whole body underwater? 624 00:24:09,266 --> 00:24:11,300 You can do it! Put your whole head underwater. 625 00:24:18,500 --> 00:24:20,900 [Chris] Amy and I are having our one year anniversary coming up. 626 00:24:20,967 --> 00:24:22,567 -Nice. When is your anniversary? -[Chris] So... 627 00:24:22,567 --> 00:24:23,634 -[Amy] The 28th. -[Tori] 28th! 628 00:24:23,634 --> 00:24:25,800 -28th. -Oh wow, okay. It's been a year? Wow. 629 00:24:25,867 --> 00:24:26,970 [Zach] It's crazy. A lot happened in one year. 630 00:24:26,970 --> 00:24:27,000 [Zach] It's crazy. A lot happened in one year. 631 00:24:27,967 --> 00:24:29,700 Yeah, my mom's wedding was around the time 632 00:24:29,767 --> 00:24:31,700 the farm deal kind of went bad. 633 00:24:31,767 --> 00:24:33,667 And, uh, the move was hard. 634 00:24:33,667 --> 00:24:35,400 Moving's hard. 635 00:24:35,400 --> 00:24:39,000 And also still processing the farm deal and the fallout and everything. 636 00:24:39,000 --> 00:24:41,767 So, a lot happened in a year. 637 00:24:41,767 --> 00:24:45,767 We'll do our, uh, um, our yearly celebration 638 00:24:45,767 --> 00:24:47,100 at, uh, the reserve. 639 00:24:47,166 --> 00:24:48,300 -Where we had our first date. -[Zach] Oh. 640 00:24:48,367 --> 00:24:49,834 Oh, nice. 641 00:24:49,834 --> 00:24:51,066 [Chris] So you guys didn't live together before you got married, then? 642 00:24:51,066 --> 00:24:52,400 [Zach] No. 643 00:24:52,400 --> 00:24:55,200 I wanted to act like we were married to get all that stuff, 644 00:24:55,266 --> 00:24:56,970 -to see if it was gonna turn into anything big. -[Zach] Yeah. 645 00:24:56,970 --> 00:24:57,000 -to see if it was gonna turn into anything big. -[Zach] Yeah. 646 00:24:57,467 --> 00:24:58,767 [Chris] I mean, if it was going to be a deal killer, 647 00:24:58,767 --> 00:24:59,867 I wanted to know ahead of time. 648 00:24:59,867 --> 00:25:01,166 [laughing] 649 00:25:01,166 --> 00:25:04,467 I've definitely had to, uh, make adjustments on 650 00:25:04,467 --> 00:25:09,800 not having as much control over the environment I live in every day. 651 00:25:10,800 --> 00:25:14,667 And, uh, that's taken a lot of compromising, 652 00:25:14,667 --> 00:25:17,600 and, um, still working on that. 653 00:25:17,667 --> 00:25:19,100 [Zach] Yeah, are we eating out here, or... 654 00:25:19,166 --> 00:25:20,667 Yeah, dinner's ready if you guys want. 655 00:25:20,667 --> 00:25:22,100 I can dish up. 656 00:25:22,166 --> 00:25:23,967 I think adjustments in a relationship 657 00:25:23,967 --> 00:25:26,066 will always be ongoing. 658 00:25:26,066 --> 00:25:26,970 But I think for me, adjustments would be paying a little more attention 659 00:25:26,970 --> 00:25:27,000 But I think for me, adjustments would be paying a little more attention 660 00:25:30,767 --> 00:25:34,467 to what works for Chris, or what makes him happy, 661 00:25:34,467 --> 00:25:37,467 which is basically one word... neatness. 662 00:25:37,467 --> 00:25:41,867 And so I continue to try and get better at that. 663 00:25:41,867 --> 00:25:44,266 But other than that, you know, it's been great! 664 00:25:45,066 --> 00:25:45,867 Mmm. 665 00:25:48,000 --> 00:25:49,266 Is that good food? 666 00:25:49,867 --> 00:25:51,200 [Tori] This is really good. 667 00:25:51,266 --> 00:25:53,567 I was worried that the sausage wouldn't quite work. 668 00:25:53,567 --> 00:25:55,266 -[Tori] I told you, I've told you. -[Zach] No, it's super good. 669 00:25:55,266 --> 00:25:56,867 [Tori] Her new thing is rice. 670 00:25:56,867 --> 00:25:56,970 -And so, life is okay? Going good? -[Zach] Yeah. 671 00:25:56,970 --> 00:25:57,000 -And so, life is okay? Going good? -[Zach] Yeah. 672 00:26:00,667 --> 00:26:01,667 -[Amy] Um... -[Zach] I'm thinking we might 673 00:26:01,667 --> 00:26:04,066 move Jackson upstairs pretty soon, though. 674 00:26:04,066 --> 00:26:05,433 That'll be a big thing. 675 00:26:05,433 --> 00:26:08,367 [Zach] Slide Lilah over, and then get Josiah where Lilah is. 676 00:26:08,367 --> 00:26:10,066 [Tori] They go back and forth daily. 677 00:26:10,066 --> 00:26:12,000 -[Zach] Yeah, I know. -[Tori] It's like, it's a good choice or not. 678 00:26:12,066 --> 00:26:13,333 Yeah. 679 00:26:13,333 --> 00:26:15,567 [Zach] Sleep training has been kind of rough, um... 680 00:26:15,567 --> 00:26:17,867 Tori's slept upstairs in our bonus room a couple times, 681 00:26:17,867 --> 00:26:19,066 I've slept upstairs... 682 00:26:19,567 --> 00:26:20,467 We've... 683 00:26:20,467 --> 00:26:21,767 [chuckling] 684 00:26:21,767 --> 00:26:24,467 Lilah has slept in our room, I've slept in Jackson's room, 685 00:26:24,467 --> 00:26:25,867 Jackson has slept in our room. 686 00:26:25,867 --> 00:26:26,970 Josiah has slept everywhere. 687 00:26:26,970 --> 00:26:27,000 Josiah has slept everywhere. 688 00:26:27,266 --> 00:26:28,500 We slept outside in the tent. 689 00:26:28,567 --> 00:26:31,266 -I've slept outside on the bench. -Yeah! 690 00:26:31,266 --> 00:26:32,767 -We have many different... -Many different. 691 00:26:32,767 --> 00:26:36,367 We've had many different combinations to make this work. 692 00:26:36,367 --> 00:26:37,767 But we need something more permanent. 693 00:26:37,767 --> 00:26:39,400 We need a better solution. 694 00:26:39,467 --> 00:26:42,567 Are you, uh, doing anything with pumpkin season this year? 695 00:26:42,567 --> 00:26:43,467 -No. -[Chris] No? 696 00:26:45,100 --> 00:26:46,867 No interest, no... whatever. 697 00:26:48,967 --> 00:26:50,100 [Amy] I know, I was debating... 698 00:26:51,100 --> 00:26:52,000 ...since so much has changed. 699 00:26:52,767 --> 00:26:55,367 I know that Chris and Matt talked, 700 00:26:55,367 --> 00:26:56,970 and Matt let Chris know what pumpkin season may look like, 701 00:26:56,970 --> 00:26:57,000 and Matt let Chris know what pumpkin season may look like, 702 00:26:58,567 --> 00:27:01,000 what in general may be happening. 703 00:27:01,066 --> 00:27:04,300 But with everything going on with the property and the house, 704 00:27:04,367 --> 00:27:07,767 I don't anticipate all of the kids really "participating" 705 00:27:07,767 --> 00:27:09,367 in pumpkin season this year. 706 00:27:09,367 --> 00:27:13,100 And sometimes I think it's best just to... 707 00:27:13,100 --> 00:27:15,500 ...end it while you still have a good thought, 708 00:27:15,567 --> 00:27:17,000 a good memory about it. 709 00:27:17,000 --> 00:27:19,100 And so, until I talk to Matt, 710 00:27:19,166 --> 00:27:21,400 I'm just not... I'm really not sure how I feel, 711 00:27:21,467 --> 00:27:23,100 and what I want to do. 712 00:27:23,166 --> 00:27:25,867 It's gonna be interesting to see who does come, 713 00:27:25,867 --> 00:27:26,970 -because they're probably gonna wonder, like... -[Zach] None of them go. 714 00:27:26,970 --> 00:27:27,000 -because they're probably gonna wonder, like... -[Zach] None of them go. 715 00:27:27,667 --> 00:27:29,100 ...what is pumpkin season over there? 716 00:27:29,100 --> 00:27:30,500 [Chris] People are gonna wanna see something. 717 00:27:30,500 --> 00:27:32,400 I don't think it's gonna be all that much different than last year. 718 00:27:32,467 --> 00:27:35,000 -I think it's gonna be super well attended, though. -[Chris] Yeah. 719 00:27:37,667 --> 00:27:40,467 Time does change how you feel about things. 720 00:27:40,467 --> 00:27:43,967 I will not regret if this is the last true pumpkin season... 721 00:27:43,967 --> 00:27:46,000 ...and we did not, like, participate or anything. 722 00:27:46,000 --> 00:27:48,400 Like... the glory days when we met, 723 00:27:48,467 --> 00:27:50,667 -and it was all of our friends... -Yeah. 724 00:27:50,667 --> 00:27:52,567 -...working. It's just... -It's just not that at all anymore. 725 00:27:52,567 --> 00:27:53,867 -That was 12 years ago. -Yeah. 726 00:27:53,867 --> 00:27:56,066 -It... Those are over. -The farm is not... 727 00:27:57,100 --> 00:27:59,600 ...like, a place of joy for me anymore. 728 00:28:03,567 --> 00:28:05,100 -[Amy chuckling] Oh, God. -[Tori] Not particularly. 729 00:28:07,200 --> 00:28:08,100 {\an8}Yeah! 730 00:28:08,100 --> 00:28:09,567 {\an8}[Lilah speaking] 731 00:28:09,567 --> 00:28:11,500 [Amy] "Dada?" And who's this? 732 00:28:11,967 --> 00:28:12,867 [Lilah] Uh... 733 00:28:12,867 --> 00:28:14,367 [whispering] Chris. 734 00:28:14,367 --> 00:28:15,266 [Lilah] Huh? 735 00:28:15,266 --> 00:28:16,300 -[Amy] Chris. -Say "Chris." 736 00:28:16,367 --> 00:28:18,000 -[Lilah mumbling] -You can say it. 737 00:28:19,200 --> 00:28:20,467 -No? -"No." [chuckling] 738 00:28:30,066 --> 00:28:32,567 [Matt] Tonight, I'm gonna take my mother to dinner. 739 00:28:32,567 --> 00:28:35,700 I'm pretty encouraged my mother is really stepping up 740 00:28:35,767 --> 00:28:38,000 to... to be as independent as possible. 741 00:28:38,066 --> 00:28:40,300 I am my own physical limitation. 742 00:28:40,367 --> 00:28:42,166 Caryn helped me with stuff, so... 743 00:28:42,166 --> 00:28:45,667 ...um, it's, it's a little bit of a double... double challenge, 744 00:28:45,667 --> 00:28:47,800 helping my mom out where I can. 745 00:28:47,867 --> 00:28:49,066 Can you go ahead and climb in, 746 00:28:49,066 --> 00:28:51,567 -and I'll put the walker in there. -I will. 747 00:28:51,567 --> 00:28:53,200 -Do you know how to fold these things? -I don't. 748 00:28:53,266 --> 00:28:56,600 But we have this van that has suspension that goes up and down, 749 00:28:56,667 --> 00:28:56,970 so I'm able to get my mom into the van pretty easily. 750 00:28:56,970 --> 00:28:57,000 so I'm able to get my mom into the van pretty easily. 751 00:29:00,367 --> 00:29:01,266 [Peggy] Yeah. 752 00:29:01,266 --> 00:29:02,166 Okay. 753 00:29:02,166 --> 00:29:03,467 There we go. 754 00:29:03,467 --> 00:29:05,367 Now we've jinxed it and you're gonna splat on the ground. 755 00:29:05,367 --> 00:29:07,600 Oh, my... thanks. I hope not. 756 00:29:16,767 --> 00:29:17,834 [Peggy] Hi, there. 757 00:29:17,834 --> 00:29:19,900 She likes to, you know, have a reason to kind of 758 00:29:19,967 --> 00:29:21,767 get herself dressed up a little bit. 759 00:29:21,767 --> 00:29:23,300 So, even though it's a little bit more work, 760 00:29:23,367 --> 00:29:26,600 it's really nice to, you know, go eat something different, 761 00:29:26,667 --> 00:29:26,970 you know, than the same... the same thing every single day. 762 00:29:26,970 --> 00:29:27,000 you know, than the same... the same thing every single day. 763 00:29:29,467 --> 00:29:31,266 And how would you like your filet cooked on that? 764 00:29:31,266 --> 00:29:34,300 -Raw. -[waiter laughs] Raw, okay. Awesome. 765 00:29:34,367 --> 00:29:36,767 -I meant rare. -[Matt] Okay, rare. 766 00:29:36,767 --> 00:29:38,667 And I don't really see that changing. 767 00:29:38,667 --> 00:29:41,767 I see more trips down there, not, you know, definitely not less. 768 00:29:43,300 --> 00:29:45,467 Dad would love to come to a place like this. 769 00:29:45,467 --> 00:29:46,967 -He loves Vietnamese food. -[Matt] Yeah. 770 00:29:46,967 --> 00:29:48,967 Dad and I would love to go out once in a while, 771 00:29:48,967 --> 00:29:51,066 -you know, this was nice. -Yeah. 772 00:29:51,066 --> 00:29:52,767 -[waiter] Waters here for you. -[Peggy] Thank you. 773 00:29:52,767 --> 00:29:54,000 [waiter] Of course. 774 00:29:54,000 --> 00:29:56,300 And he loved to, um, meet people. 775 00:29:56,367 --> 00:29:56,970 So I kinda got used to the idea of him going out. 776 00:29:56,970 --> 00:29:57,000 So I kinda got used to the idea of him going out. 777 00:29:59,266 --> 00:30:01,800 Otherwise, we were with each other 24/7, which was wonderful. 778 00:30:01,867 --> 00:30:03,867 Yeah. 779 00:30:03,867 --> 00:30:06,100 In fact, the reason he had our chairs close together there 780 00:30:06,166 --> 00:30:07,600 -in front of the TV, -Yeah. 781 00:30:07,667 --> 00:30:09,166 was he wanted to hold hands. 782 00:30:10,800 --> 00:30:12,567 -He loved me dearly. -Oh. 783 00:30:12,567 --> 00:30:15,600 -Everybody just told me that. It was very humbling. -Yeah. Oh, yeah. 784 00:30:15,667 --> 00:30:17,467 [Matt] My mother and father had 785 00:30:17,467 --> 00:30:20,367 a long and very loving relationship. 786 00:30:20,367 --> 00:30:22,467 Um, and having dinner with my mom 787 00:30:22,467 --> 00:30:24,700 sort of reinforces how important 788 00:30:24,767 --> 00:30:26,600 that Caryn is in my life. 789 00:30:28,166 --> 00:30:29,800 [Peggy] We had a lot of experiences in our life. 790 00:30:29,867 --> 00:30:31,300 Dad was really good. 791 00:30:31,367 --> 00:30:34,266 -He took you on camping trips with your classrooms, -Yeah. Yeah. 792 00:30:34,266 --> 00:30:36,066 and Yosemite, I think he went? 793 00:30:36,066 --> 00:30:38,367 Oh, I remember crossing a river, he scared us to death. 794 00:30:38,367 --> 00:30:40,266 -[laughs] -This rushing river, 795 00:30:40,266 --> 00:30:42,266 and he walked across the rocks. 796 00:30:42,266 --> 00:30:44,300 -Oh, yeah. -He was very sure-footed. 797 00:30:45,767 --> 00:30:47,667 [Matt] My childhood was very fun. 798 00:30:47,667 --> 00:30:49,100 You know, we did a lot of family trips, 799 00:30:49,166 --> 00:30:50,467 you know, around the country. 800 00:30:50,467 --> 00:30:52,500 We went camping a lot. 801 00:30:52,567 --> 00:30:54,867 Um, you know, I always loved my folks 802 00:30:54,867 --> 00:30:56,967 for the way they raised us, um, 803 00:30:56,967 --> 00:30:56,970 you know, my folks never had any history of dwarfism in their family. 804 00:30:56,970 --> 00:30:57,000 you know, my folks never had any history of dwarfism in their family. 805 00:30:59,867 --> 00:31:01,567 You know, all of a sudden, poof, you know, 806 00:31:01,567 --> 00:31:03,467 they have a baby that's a dwarf. 807 00:31:03,467 --> 00:31:06,967 You know, they had my sister first. Zero physical ailments, 808 00:31:06,967 --> 00:31:10,367 and then, uh, you know, my brother and I both had dwarfism. 809 00:31:10,367 --> 00:31:13,000 So I can only imagine 810 00:31:13,767 --> 00:31:16,467 the absolute shock 811 00:31:16,467 --> 00:31:18,667 that my parents would've felt. 812 00:31:18,667 --> 00:31:21,767 Despite all that, I always felt completely loved, 813 00:31:21,767 --> 00:31:24,867 and my folks felt like they were proud of me. 814 00:31:24,867 --> 00:31:26,970 That's a special, special parent 815 00:31:26,970 --> 00:31:27,000 That's a special, special parent 816 00:31:27,367 --> 00:31:30,367 to be able to provide that kind of upbringing. 817 00:31:30,367 --> 00:31:34,467 And certainly a lot of that has rubbed off on me. 818 00:31:34,467 --> 00:31:38,000 And I, you know, try to do some of those things with my kids. 819 00:31:38,066 --> 00:31:39,800 How's yours? Does it have any flavor to it? 820 00:31:39,867 --> 00:31:41,367 Yeah, it's good. 821 00:31:44,500 --> 00:31:47,300 -Our life is gonna be different. -Mmm-hmm. 822 00:31:47,367 --> 00:31:51,066 -Dad made a big impact on a lot of people. -Yeah. 823 00:31:51,066 --> 00:31:53,600 You know, he knew who he was, and where he was going, 824 00:31:53,667 --> 00:31:55,000 -and, yeah. -Yeah. 825 00:31:56,567 --> 00:31:56,970 [Matt] I think my mother's putting on a very brave face. 826 00:31:56,970 --> 00:31:57,000 [Matt] I think my mother's putting on a very brave face. 827 00:31:59,166 --> 00:32:01,567 My parents were married for virtually 828 00:32:01,567 --> 00:32:03,400 their entire adult life. 829 00:32:03,467 --> 00:32:05,567 So it's only natural for my mom 830 00:32:05,567 --> 00:32:09,700 to struggle a little bit with my dad's absence. 831 00:32:09,767 --> 00:32:12,567 Well, I'm glad we got to try this place. 832 00:32:12,567 --> 00:32:15,900 Yeah, I am, too. Dad would love to have been here. 833 00:32:15,967 --> 00:32:18,700 -He loved Vietnamese food. He loved everything. -Yeah. Mmm-hmm. 834 00:32:18,767 --> 00:32:21,467 -Are you, um, ready to make the journey? -Yup. 835 00:32:24,767 --> 00:32:25,967 {\an8}[announcer] Coming up... 836 00:32:25,967 --> 00:32:26,970 {\an8}I couldn't believe when you proposed to me. 837 00:32:26,970 --> 00:32:27,000 {\an8}I couldn't believe when you proposed to me. 838 00:32:29,467 --> 00:32:31,400 You were so nervous, weren't you? 839 00:32:31,467 --> 00:32:32,767 -Were you nervous? -No, no. 840 00:32:32,767 --> 00:32:33,967 Yeah, you were. 841 00:32:33,967 --> 00:32:36,867 You got so, like, emotional or teary-eyed. 842 00:32:36,867 --> 00:32:39,166 -Oh, please, I didn't get teary-eyed. -[laughs] 843 00:32:39,166 --> 00:32:40,467 I was a rock. 844 00:32:57,567 --> 00:32:59,767 [Chris] Would you like me to pull your chair out? 845 00:32:59,767 --> 00:33:01,266 -[Amy] If you want. -Do you like that? 846 00:33:01,266 --> 00:33:02,467 [Amy] Oh, sure. 847 00:33:03,467 --> 00:33:04,767 -Yeah. -I mean, I don't know 848 00:33:04,767 --> 00:33:07,500 -if it's better for you to adjust your own-- -I just... 849 00:33:07,567 --> 00:33:09,000 I don't know, I just figure it's... 850 00:33:09,066 --> 00:33:10,600 -[Chris] Do you want, do you want closer? -Yeah. 851 00:33:10,667 --> 00:33:12,867 [Amy] It's our first year wedding anniversary, 852 00:33:12,867 --> 00:33:13,962 and we made a decision 853 00:33:13,962 --> 00:33:14,000 and we made a decision 854 00:33:16,266 --> 00:33:18,367 after he proposed to me, 855 00:33:18,367 --> 00:33:21,200 that why don't we make this a yearly event? 856 00:33:21,266 --> 00:33:23,600 To celebrate getting engaged, 857 00:33:23,667 --> 00:33:25,567 first date, being married? 858 00:33:25,567 --> 00:33:27,367 So we chose The Reserve, 859 00:33:27,367 --> 00:33:28,867 because that's where, gosh, 860 00:33:28,867 --> 00:33:31,867 -life-changing moments happened. -Yeah. 861 00:33:31,867 --> 00:33:34,567 Six years ago was our first date. 862 00:33:35,800 --> 00:33:39,266 And three years ago was when I proposed. 863 00:33:39,266 --> 00:33:41,500 And then because of COVID, we couldn't come. 864 00:33:41,567 --> 00:33:43,100 Oh, yeah, yeah. Yeah, that's right. 865 00:33:43,100 --> 00:33:43,962 So this will be our first real dinner here 866 00:33:43,962 --> 00:33:44,000 So this will be our first real dinner here 867 00:33:45,266 --> 00:33:47,300 -since, uh, I proposed. -Yeah. 868 00:33:47,367 --> 00:33:49,300 -Still good memories? -Yeah. 869 00:33:49,367 --> 00:33:52,166 I'm just so happy I was able to trick you into saying yes. 870 00:33:52,166 --> 00:33:55,400 [laughs] That you did. 871 00:33:55,467 --> 00:33:57,367 It's on this hand. 872 00:33:57,367 --> 00:33:58,800 Still looking pretty. 873 00:34:00,867 --> 00:34:03,300 -The ring looks good, too. -[laughs] 874 00:34:04,667 --> 00:34:06,400 -Yeah. -[Amy laughs] Yeah. 875 00:34:06,467 --> 00:34:10,000 I couldn't believe when you proposed to me. 876 00:34:10,066 --> 00:34:12,100 You were so nervous, weren't you? 877 00:34:12,100 --> 00:34:13,600 -Were you nervous? -No, no. 878 00:34:13,667 --> 00:34:13,962 Yeah, you were. 879 00:34:13,962 --> 00:34:14,000 Yeah, you were. 880 00:34:18,367 --> 00:34:19,700 What? 881 00:34:20,600 --> 00:34:21,767 Nothing. 882 00:34:21,767 --> 00:34:23,166 You were nervous, you were... 883 00:34:23,166 --> 00:34:24,600 I had it all figured out. 884 00:34:24,667 --> 00:34:26,900 And then you were like... Oh, you got so, 885 00:34:26,967 --> 00:34:29,100 like, emotional or teary-eyed. 886 00:34:29,100 --> 00:34:30,900 -Oh, please, I didn't get teary-eyed. -[laughs] 887 00:34:30,967 --> 00:34:32,767 [Chris] I was a rock. 888 00:34:32,767 --> 00:34:34,567 [laughs] 889 00:34:37,800 --> 00:34:39,300 [laughing] What? 890 00:34:39,367 --> 00:34:40,467 [Chris sniffles] 891 00:34:40,467 --> 00:34:43,600 [voice shaking] It's been an amazing journey. 892 00:34:43,667 --> 00:34:43,962 And you're the one I want to finish it with. 893 00:34:43,962 --> 00:34:44,000 And you're the one I want to finish it with. 894 00:34:47,200 --> 00:34:49,600 [Amy] Chris doesn't show emotions. 895 00:34:50,567 --> 00:34:52,700 Uh, often, even to this day, 896 00:34:52,767 --> 00:34:55,367 that I've been married and with him for so long. 897 00:34:55,367 --> 00:34:57,200 But when he did, 898 00:34:57,266 --> 00:35:00,767 because I wasn't used to him doing that, 899 00:35:00,767 --> 00:35:02,367 I, I didn't know what to do. 900 00:35:04,667 --> 00:35:06,767 -Will you marry me? -Oh, my God! 901 00:35:06,767 --> 00:35:09,000 [Amy laughs] 902 00:35:09,000 --> 00:35:10,567 Yes! 903 00:35:10,567 --> 00:35:11,800 I wasn't crying. 904 00:35:11,867 --> 00:35:13,900 [chuckling] You just got a little watery. 905 00:35:13,967 --> 00:35:14,000 -Oh, it was smoky out there. -[laughs] 906 00:35:16,367 --> 00:35:18,266 Happy one-year anniversary. 907 00:35:18,266 --> 00:35:20,667 -Happy one-year anniversary, babe. -Mmm. 908 00:35:22,000 --> 00:35:24,567 -Here's the salad for you. -Oh, okay, thank you. 909 00:35:24,567 --> 00:35:26,867 -Mmm, thank you. -Enjoy. 910 00:35:29,367 --> 00:35:32,100 So what are the most favorite things that you did this year? 911 00:35:32,767 --> 00:35:34,367 Oh, the motorcycle ride 912 00:35:34,367 --> 00:35:36,867 -Yeah. -was the most adventurous. 913 00:35:36,867 --> 00:35:38,467 [Amy] I, I would, I would say so, too. 914 00:35:39,567 --> 00:35:42,200 Can I handle it? Can I handle three more days 915 00:35:42,266 --> 00:35:43,962 before our final destination? 916 00:35:43,962 --> 00:35:44,000 before our final destination? 917 00:35:44,066 --> 00:35:47,000 Before we turn around and come home? Oof. 918 00:35:48,000 --> 00:35:49,467 [whispering] I don't know. 919 00:35:49,467 --> 00:35:50,867 [in normal voice] Can we handle it, babe? 920 00:35:50,867 --> 00:35:52,567 {\an8}[Chris speaking] 921 00:35:52,567 --> 00:35:54,900 {\an8}[Amy] Oh, you're in it for the long haul? [laughs] 922 00:35:54,967 --> 00:35:56,567 [Chris] We're both on the same page, 923 00:35:56,567 --> 00:35:58,800 that our future is really gonna be... 924 00:35:58,867 --> 00:36:00,700 I know we wanna do a lot of traveling in our future. 925 00:36:00,767 --> 00:36:04,567 And I'm hoping to keep up with the new adventures, you know? 926 00:36:04,567 --> 00:36:07,300 Now that we're married, I don't wanna become 927 00:36:07,367 --> 00:36:09,100 too sedentary and think, you know, 928 00:36:09,100 --> 00:36:10,467 the wooing stage is over, 929 00:36:10,467 --> 00:36:12,867 I wanna keep going, I wanna, you know, explore-- 930 00:36:12,867 --> 00:36:13,962 -Oh, you wanna keep wooing me? -That, too. 931 00:36:13,962 --> 00:36:14,000 -Oh, you wanna keep wooing me? -That, too. 932 00:36:15,166 --> 00:36:16,900 -Yeah. -Oh, okay. 933 00:36:16,967 --> 00:36:19,900 And my way of doing that is new experiences. 934 00:36:19,967 --> 00:36:23,066 You know, getting out and exploring and doing fun stuff. 935 00:36:23,066 --> 00:36:24,367 -Okay. -Keep moving. 936 00:36:25,367 --> 00:36:27,100 Oh, I'm looking forward to the balloon ride 937 00:36:27,100 --> 00:36:28,567 -that you got me for my birthday. -Yeah. 938 00:36:28,567 --> 00:36:31,000 That'll be our first thing. 939 00:36:31,000 --> 00:36:33,800 -And then we're gonna go back to Michigan. -Yeah, I wanna do that. 940 00:36:33,867 --> 00:36:36,266 Lord willing, my father will still be okay. 941 00:36:36,266 --> 00:36:37,400 I hope so. 942 00:36:37,467 --> 00:36:39,266 Do you ever see him flying out here again, 943 00:36:39,266 --> 00:36:41,467 or was the wedding his last plane trip? 944 00:36:41,467 --> 00:36:43,266 -I think the wedding was his last plane trip. -Yeah. 945 00:36:43,266 --> 00:36:43,962 -I'm just really glad he did it. -Yeah. 946 00:36:43,962 --> 00:36:44,000 -I'm just really glad he did it. -Yeah. 947 00:36:45,667 --> 00:36:48,166 And I'm so happy we got married on the farm, too. 948 00:36:48,166 --> 00:36:50,767 -I think that worked out really well. -Yeah, I did too. 949 00:36:50,767 --> 00:36:53,266 That was a wonderful moment. 950 00:36:53,266 --> 00:36:55,667 I'm glad it came to me again. 951 00:36:55,667 --> 00:36:57,567 I never thought it would. 952 00:36:57,567 --> 00:36:58,667 -No? -I never expected that. 953 00:36:59,667 --> 00:37:02,100 [Amy] Having a second opportunity, 954 00:37:02,166 --> 00:37:06,000 you know, at having a wonderful relationship with Chris, 955 00:37:06,066 --> 00:37:07,667 is being reminded. 956 00:37:07,667 --> 00:37:10,000 It's not only the mechanics of a relationship, 957 00:37:10,066 --> 00:37:13,600 but also the joy and giving 958 00:37:13,667 --> 00:37:13,962 in a relationship as well. 959 00:37:13,962 --> 00:37:14,000 in a relationship as well. 960 00:37:15,767 --> 00:37:18,567 [Chris] I feel like we're still continuing to learn 961 00:37:18,567 --> 00:37:19,667 -[Amy] Mmm-hmm. -about each other, 962 00:37:19,667 --> 00:37:22,567 and how to happily live with each other. 963 00:37:22,567 --> 00:37:25,800 But for me, there's never been a single moment 964 00:37:25,867 --> 00:37:29,000 or instance where I've had any doubt or regret. 965 00:37:29,000 --> 00:37:30,867 -That you wanted to run? -Yeah. 966 00:37:30,867 --> 00:37:32,300 Neither have I. 967 00:37:33,467 --> 00:37:35,567 Here's to the continuation 968 00:37:35,567 --> 00:37:37,967 of the sweetness of life together. 969 00:37:37,967 --> 00:37:39,166 Here's to the next six months. 970 00:37:40,100 --> 00:37:42,367 -I love you. -I love you, too. 971 00:37:42,367 --> 00:37:43,500 [Amy] Mmm. 972 00:37:55,300 --> 00:37:57,266 What are they gonna do in the dunk tank? 973 00:37:58,200 --> 00:37:59,467 Where is that dunking table? 974 00:37:59,467 --> 00:38:02,300 -I think it's outside on the back patio. -Oh. 975 00:38:02,367 --> 00:38:06,000 Today's my last day, uh, here in Arizona visiting my mother, 976 00:38:06,000 --> 00:38:09,367 and there's a kind of a country fair, carnival, 977 00:38:09,367 --> 00:38:11,667 uh, themed party going on 978 00:38:11,667 --> 00:38:13,300 at her center today. 979 00:38:13,367 --> 00:38:16,500 Keeps everybody, you know, active and entertained. 980 00:38:16,567 --> 00:38:17,390 Drench 'em, Caroline. 981 00:38:17,390 --> 00:38:18,000 Drench 'em, Caroline. 982 00:38:19,867 --> 00:38:21,200 [laughing] 983 00:38:21,266 --> 00:38:22,467 [woman] Here we go. 984 00:38:22,467 --> 00:38:24,800 [people shouting] Ohhh! 985 00:38:24,867 --> 00:38:26,266 [people cheering] 986 00:38:27,367 --> 00:38:29,867 [Matt] My mother is doing surprisingly well, 987 00:38:29,867 --> 00:38:31,500 and she's taking care of herself. 988 00:38:31,567 --> 00:38:35,200 She's figuring out how to be independent again, um, 989 00:38:35,266 --> 00:38:37,000 and I'm very, very proud of her. 990 00:38:37,066 --> 00:38:38,467 She's sort of stepped up. 991 00:38:38,467 --> 00:38:40,467 Can you throw that far? 992 00:38:40,467 --> 00:38:42,367 -Oh, to that little flag? -You gotta hit that bucket. 993 00:38:43,400 --> 00:38:44,900 [people cheering] 994 00:38:46,266 --> 00:38:47,390 {\an8}-[Peggy] Okay, can I get a little closer? -[woman speaking] 995 00:38:47,390 --> 00:38:48,000 {\an8}-[Peggy] Okay, can I get a little closer? -[woman speaking] 996 00:38:50,567 --> 00:38:52,800 {\an8}-Aw. Oh! -[woman speaking] 997 00:38:53,667 --> 00:38:55,000 {\an8}Okay, I'm gonna go a little closer. 998 00:38:55,066 --> 00:38:57,266 {\an8}Right on your nose, huh? [laughs] 999 00:38:57,266 --> 00:38:58,600 {\an8}Hey, that's too close! 1000 00:39:00,400 --> 00:39:01,967 {\an8}-[Peggy] Oh! -[people cheering] 1001 00:39:03,667 --> 00:39:05,100 {\an8}[laughing] Sorry. 1002 00:39:05,166 --> 00:39:07,000 {\an8}Oh, I did good. Yeah. 1003 00:39:07,066 --> 00:39:08,467 Finally! 1004 00:39:10,066 --> 00:39:12,266 -Could you have gotten any closer? -[both laugh] 1005 00:39:12,266 --> 00:39:14,400 -No, I started to walk up on them. -Yeah. 1006 00:39:14,467 --> 00:39:16,567 -You could've hit them with your hand. -Yup. 1007 00:39:16,567 --> 00:39:17,390 I'm very, very happy for what I've seen so far. 1008 00:39:17,390 --> 00:39:18,000 I'm very, very happy for what I've seen so far. 1009 00:39:19,166 --> 00:39:21,600 Um, just, if she doesn't fall 1010 00:39:21,667 --> 00:39:23,500 and break a bone, or her hip, 1011 00:39:23,567 --> 00:39:25,266 or some catastrophe, 1012 00:39:25,266 --> 00:39:29,667 she could, um, stay independent, you know, indefinitely. 1013 00:39:29,667 --> 00:39:31,667 -Um, okay, well, that was a lot of fun. -It was. 1014 00:39:31,667 --> 00:39:34,967 Okay. Keep, um, you know, up with your meds. 1015 00:39:34,967 --> 00:39:37,400 -Come back soon. -Come back soon, keep up with your meds. 1016 00:39:37,467 --> 00:39:39,567 I'm really glad I get to be able to spend this time 1017 00:39:39,567 --> 00:39:41,467 with my mom, and, um, 1018 00:39:41,467 --> 00:39:44,100 you know, I'm hoping if I make it into my 80s, 1019 00:39:44,166 --> 00:39:45,967 then I get to be as, you know, 1020 00:39:45,967 --> 00:39:47,390 get to be as close to the family as she is. 1021 00:39:47,390 --> 00:39:48,000 get to be as close to the family as she is. 1022 00:39:49,266 --> 00:39:51,000 You're in good hands here. 1023 00:39:51,000 --> 00:39:53,100 -I'm in very good hands here. -And I'm very proud of you, you're doing super good. 1024 00:39:53,100 --> 00:39:55,367 -Dad would be so pleased. -He'd be very pleased. 1025 00:39:55,367 --> 00:39:58,867 My dad, he was a solid human being. Solid character. 1026 00:39:58,867 --> 00:40:01,500 Set a great example for all of his grandkids 1027 00:40:01,567 --> 00:40:03,867 and great-grandkids, you know, so. 1028 00:40:03,867 --> 00:40:07,367 He, he has a, it's a high bar, and, uh, 1029 00:40:07,367 --> 00:40:11,266 he would've put out a big effort to make sure that 1030 00:40:11,266 --> 00:40:14,567 other relationships heal and that people got along, 1031 00:40:14,567 --> 00:40:16,767 and everybody loved each other, 1032 00:40:16,767 --> 00:40:17,390 and that the family stuck together through thick and thin. 1033 00:40:17,390 --> 00:40:18,000 and that the family stuck together through thick and thin. 1034 00:40:19,767 --> 00:40:22,367 -See you. -Anyway, I'll see you in a couple weeks, okay? 1035 00:40:22,367 --> 00:40:24,767 -All right, love you. -See you. Okay, bye, love you too, sweetheart. 1036 00:40:24,767 --> 00:40:27,667 And, um, I'm gonna do my best to, you know, 1037 00:40:27,667 --> 00:40:28,900 follow in his footsteps 1038 00:40:28,967 --> 00:40:31,400 and, you know, I'm gonna do my best to honor his memory. 1039 00:40:31,467 --> 00:40:33,400 Family's important, and I'm, you know, 1040 00:40:33,467 --> 00:40:35,100 always gonna love my kids. 1041 00:40:35,166 --> 00:40:38,066 And I get it. I'm a dominant force, 1042 00:40:38,066 --> 00:40:40,100 you know, in everything that I do. 1043 00:40:40,100 --> 00:40:43,567 I apologize, but that's just the way that I am. 1044 00:40:43,567 --> 00:40:45,767 So there's no doubt I look back and think, 1045 00:40:45,767 --> 00:40:47,266 "Oh, I could've done this better." 1046 00:40:47,266 --> 00:40:47,390 You know, but I think it's time to look towards the future 1047 00:40:47,390 --> 00:40:48,000 You know, but I think it's time to look towards the future 1048 00:40:51,367 --> 00:40:53,367 and not towards the past. 1049 00:40:57,000 --> 00:40:59,467 {\an8}[announcer] Next on Little People, Big World... 1050 00:40:59,467 --> 00:41:01,000 {\an8}[Zach] Last night was rough. 1051 00:41:01,000 --> 00:41:03,667 {\an8}Last night was R-U-F-F, rough. 1052 00:41:03,667 --> 00:41:06,266 Sleep training is just, it's been impossible. 1053 00:41:06,266 --> 00:41:08,100 [wailing] 1054 00:41:08,100 --> 00:41:10,500 I haven't slept since I gave birth to him. 1055 00:41:13,166 --> 00:41:15,100 -[Amy] Hey, hey, hey. -[Tori] How are ya? 1056 00:41:15,100 --> 00:41:16,900 [Matt] Chris and Amy are gonna talk about 1057 00:41:16,967 --> 00:41:17,390 their involvement in pumpkin season. 1058 00:41:17,390 --> 00:41:18,000 their involvement in pumpkin season. 1059 00:41:18,567 --> 00:41:20,166 So let's get down to business. 1060 00:41:20,166 --> 00:41:22,467 What are you guys, um, are you still on board? 1061 00:41:22,467 --> 00:41:24,266 [Amy] Everything that's going on, 1062 00:41:24,266 --> 00:41:26,400 how this whole farm thing went down, 1063 00:41:26,467 --> 00:41:28,800 I think, you know, we're all trying to figure out 1064 00:41:28,867 --> 00:41:30,467 this is still family, 1065 00:41:30,467 --> 00:41:34,000 but how do we interact with that family now? 1066 00:41:34,000 --> 00:41:36,100 Okay, so you're doing pumpkin season this year? 1067 00:41:36,166 --> 00:41:37,467 Are you? 1068 00:41:37,467 --> 00:41:39,767 Things have changed, you know, the place is up for sale. 1069 00:41:39,767 --> 00:41:41,467 And then of course, you know, 1070 00:41:41,467 --> 00:41:44,100 -the whole thing between Matt and Chris. -Their little bromance. 1071 00:41:44,100 --> 00:41:46,567 -Yeah. -Are you okay with that? 1072 00:41:46,567 --> 00:41:47,390 [Tori] I don't know, we, like, worry about you. 1073 00:41:47,390 --> 00:41:48,000 [Tori] I don't know, we, like, worry about you. 1074 00:41:48,467 --> 00:41:51,000 -Just, like, we wanna make sure that you're, like... -Aw, my kids. 1075 00:41:51,066 --> 00:41:53,100 [Amy] I think I came away from divorce 1076 00:41:53,100 --> 00:41:55,800 knowing that I've got four kids to still be here for, 1077 00:41:55,867 --> 00:41:57,300 so they gave me a purpose. 1078 00:41:57,367 --> 00:42:00,767 {\an8}And they will always be, till... 1079 00:42:04,567 --> 00:42:07,700 {\an8}[Caryn] So, you said you had a big plan B. 1080 00:42:07,767 --> 00:42:10,800 {\an8}Occasionally even Matt Roloff's thick skull, 1081 00:42:10,867 --> 00:42:12,400 {\an8}you know, you feel like you get hit in the head 1082 00:42:12,467 --> 00:42:13,900 {\an8}with a hammer and it wakes you up. 1083 00:42:13,967 --> 00:42:16,567 {\an8}Are you gonna tell everybody? 1084 00:42:16,567 --> 00:42:17,390 {\an8}It's time to listen, [laughs] 1085 00:42:17,390 --> 00:42:18,000 {\an8}It's time to listen, [laughs] 1086 00:42:20,166 --> 00:42:22,867 {\an8}to the hammer hitting the side of my skull 1087 00:42:22,867 --> 00:42:25,266 {\an8}and do something different with the farm.