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{\an8}[Matt Roloff] Previously on
Little People, Big World...
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{\an8}So I know you were anxious
to get back down
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and see your mom.
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-Are you thinking
this week or next week?
-Yeah,
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I'm thinking... I... Yeah.
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I'm concerned about
my mother a lot
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with dad passing.
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She lost her lifelong partner.
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I know that it's still
a very difficult,
tough road for her.
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-Surprise!
-Surprise!
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This was a huge surprise.
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I really had no idea.
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I really had no idea.
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Gonna be a hard act to follow.
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-[laughs]
-No, no, no, no.
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Look at that little Josiah!
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I'm feeling reflective
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on my dad passing away.
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That's why with,
um, all the kids,
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I'm redoubling my efforts
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to check in on them all
as often as possible.
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She's cute
in her little dress.
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-She's a fine girl when
she has a little dress on.
-[Tori Roloff] Oh, yeah.
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[Zach Roloff] When we
see my dad,
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we talk about
what the kids are doing
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and just, you know,
what's going on.
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and just, you know,
what's going on.
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Sometimes it's better
just to, you know,
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just keep the peace.
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[Amy Roloff]
Oh, is that from me?
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[Chris Marek] Nice card, hon.
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I tell you, it really is.
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Happy, happy post-birthday!
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-Thank you. [laughs]
-Whoops.
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[laughs]
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Party was a big hit.
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Party was a big hit.
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Everybody seemed
to have a good time.
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I had a great time.
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It started off
as totally unexpected,
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but it was just
a fun event, you know,
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we had good music,
good food, good friends.
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-Surprise!
-Surprise!
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[all cheering]
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It was a perfect evening.
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'Cause it was all
about you, babe.
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No, that's not
why it was perfect.
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-It was...
-Oh, I know. But for me,
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-it was nice to do
something just for you.
-[Chris] Aw.
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Yeah.
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-I'm glad you liked it.
-Good job.
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-I'm glad you liked it.
-Good job.
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Babe, I can't believe
we're almost in one year
of being married.
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[Chris] I know.
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Maybe we can, um,
go to The Reserve...
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-[Chris] Hogwash.
-...and have dinner there.
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[Chris] Yeah.
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-Is that a date?
-That's a date.
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-Okay.
-Yeah.
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[Amy] Our one year anniversary
is coming up,
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and that's pretty significant.
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I've come away from divorce
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liking who I am.
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The one thing I do
realize about myself,
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I think I will always have
some sort of guard up.
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Life was moving
so fast with Matt,
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Life was moving
so fast with Matt,
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I think I always had it up.
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It was almost,
like, reactionary.
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I think Chris
brings out in me,
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you know,
a little more confidence,
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a little more strength.
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Even though
my guard may be up,
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I don't need it to be up
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as often as much as with Matt.
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And I'm content.
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Oh, did I tell you,
I texted Matt this morning?
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Oh, no. What for?
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I'm just kinda curious
about his house,
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you know, where he's at.
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You know, last time we talked,
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um, they had trenched out
for the foundation.
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um, they had trenched out
for the foundation.
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I'm curious if
they've actually poured
the foundation yet.
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Mmm-hmm. Mmm-hmm.
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So I'm gonna go over
and talk to them about that,
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and he's been wanting
to talk to us
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-about pumpkin season.
-Oh, yeah.
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Anyway, I'd like to go
check that out,
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-and see what's going down.
-Okay, you can go do that.
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And give me the lowdown
on what pumpkin season
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-may look like.
-[Chris] You don't want to go?
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-No.
-Okay.
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-You don't mind
if I go, right?
-No, I don't care.
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Okay.
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Are you up for doing
what you usually do?
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I have to
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get my head around it?
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Why?
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'Cause I think
the farm for me,
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'Cause I think
the farm for me,
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-now everything's changed.
-[Chris] Mmm.
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[Amy] I think because
the farm is up for sale,
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I think it just changes
pumpkin season for me
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on that personal level.
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I think what makes, you know,
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pumpkin season
a little more unique
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is when there's some of
the family members involved.
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I don't think all of the kids
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will really be a part
of pumpkin season this year.
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So, you know,
you're asking people to come
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to something
that was our home.
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to something
that was our home.
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Um, I think when it's just
another pumpkin place,
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people will still come,
which is very, very good,
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but I just wonder,
will it have its same...
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...family type
of personal perspective
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compared to something else.
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I'm debating whether
to be there or not,
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or how do I want to be there.
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If he's going to pare it down
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to, you know, just a couple
wagon tours,
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he really probably
doesn't even need my help.
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But I'd like to know
from him though.
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But I'd like to know
from him though.
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Just get the lowdown,
and, you know, we'll see.
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Okay.
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{\an8}[Tori] What's up, dude?
How was school today?
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You had chapel today?
What did you guys do
in chapel?
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They had to carry
their own chairs.
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[gasps] Did you carry
your own chair?
Are you that strong?
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Did the teacher carry
your classmate's chairs?
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Why didn't you
carry your chair?
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[Tori] Oh, I hope
you weren't being lazy.
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[Zach] It's been
a really good summer,
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and now there's a lot
of changes happening.
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Jackson started
kindergarten this fall,
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and he's loving it.
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He's making a lot of friends,
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and he, his school
is kinda cool.
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He has, like,
computer class...
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-Art.
-...art class...
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-PE.
-...music, PE.
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-PE.
-...music, PE.
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So his favorite
is, uh, art class
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and computer class.
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[mumbling indistinctly]
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[Tori laughs]
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She's an actual wrecking ball.
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Lilah's loving
her situation right now.
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She's loving
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having the extra alone time
with Zach and I
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while Jackson's at school.
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And she's loving
being able to, like,
be the big sister and
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just have the attention
on her for once
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'cause that hasn't happened
a lot in her life.
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'cause that hasn't happened
a lot in her life.
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Josiah's awake.
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-[Lilah Roloff exclaims]
-[Tori] Like, awake awake?
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-Or like...
-[Zach] Eh, just whining.
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Josiah's getting
to be four months,
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and, um, we've been
sleep training him.
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Last night was probably
rougher for me.
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[Tori] Yesterday,
I have never,
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I, like, literally can't
remember a time in my life
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I've been that emotionally,
physically drained in my life.
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I'm very sleep deprived.
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Literally my only complaint
about Josiah,
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he's such an easy baby,
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he just doesn't
sleep at night.
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Like, he's just
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Like, he's just
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on the struggle bus,
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which is, like,
it's killing everyone.
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We're struggling, like,
it's just, it's not fun
to be honest.
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It's hard.
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My niche in life,
I truly believe,
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is being a mom.
I love being a mom.
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So when I have days
like yesterday,
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where I just didn't
have patience for my kids,
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like, I just,
when I get upset at them
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because of something
that's, like, affecting me,
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I hate that.
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Like, I just went
to bed last night
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with, like,
the worst mom guilt.
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[Zach] When I get mad
at the kids,
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[Zach] When I get mad
at the kids,
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it's because
I'm mad at the kids.
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I don't feel dad guilt.
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That's not true.
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-[Zach] But I got--
-There's been times
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that you've gotten mad
that you've felt guilty after.
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[Zach] Okay,
every now and then maybe.
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But it's not, like,
the same guilt.
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-We're talking about
different types.
-[Tori] It's not
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the same guilt,
my guilt is like,
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"Did I spend enough
time with them?"
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"Did I, like, listen to them?"
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-"Did I..."
-[Zach] Yeah, my guilt
is probably like,
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"I probably shouldn't
have done that." [laughs]
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[both laugh]
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[Tori] We can joke,
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but when you have
a lack of sleep,
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and you feel like
you're sinking and failing
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as a mother, it can be like...
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...frustrating.
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Well, and, like,
just when I, like, yell,
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Well, and, like,
just when I, like, yell,
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just 'cause I don't feel
like I yell a lot ever...
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-[Zach laughs]
-I literally... I...
Can you leave?
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You don't yell that much,
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-but you yell.
-I don't yell ever.
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Oh, I wouldn't say ever,
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but, yeah, you're right.
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You don't, compared
to a lot of parents,
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you do not yell.
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This is what's frustrating
about you though,
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this is why I get overwhelmed.
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Honestly, Zach, this is why
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because you don't
give me any credit
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-for anything.
-[Zach] No, Tori,
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I'm giving you credit,
I'm just saying...
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[Tori] You do not though.
You don't.
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...ever is strong.
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...ever is strong.
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You know what hurt
my feelings the other day?
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What hurt your feelings?
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You don't even care.
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-Give me what
hurt your feelings.
-[Tori] You literally,
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I'm making Jackson's lunch...
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-[Zach] Yeah.
-...and you go,
"Oh, it's just,
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you're just trying
to make it look good."
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I said cute, okay?
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Look cute, whatever.
It's even worse.
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Instead of, like,
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"Tori, thank you for
making our children lunch."
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I would say Zach takes care
of the outside of the house,
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and I take care
of the inside of the house.
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I do breakfast, feed the kids,
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get Jackson ready for school,
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get Jackson ready for school,
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take him to school,
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and then come home
when Josiah goes down
for his first nap.
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Then it's just
me and Lilah, and we play,
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and then he wakes up,
we do lunch.
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It's, like, exhausting.
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-[Zach] Yeah.
-I just wish you would
give me a little more credit
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-at being a mom.
-[Zach] I do give you credit,
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-but I also hold--
-You don't.
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-You don't
-I hold you accountable too.
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But that's why
I have days like yesterday
though, Zachary,
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that's why I get burnt out
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because I can't always,
like, be like that.
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No, I get it.
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[Tori] No, you don't.
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-I do.
-[Jackson Roloff exclaiming]
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[sighs]
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[Zach] So you're sleeping
upstairs tonight?
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[Zach] So you're sleeping
upstairs tonight?
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I'm sleeping upstairs tonight.
261
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I'm gonna sleep
down the road tonight.
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[laughs]
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[Tori] I feel
underappreciated all the time.
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This is also an issue
in our marriage currently
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because I'm exhausted.
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-[Zach] Sleep is
very important.
-I'm, like, literally
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pouring from an empty cup,
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and everybody wants
something from me.
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And so, like, if I don't have
anything to give,
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it's, the whole,
everything just, like,
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freaks out.
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Also, we have lost
our babysitter roster up here,
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so that's been hard.
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I definitely need a break.
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Um, okay, so yeah,
you're upstairs,
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Lilah's with me,
Jackson's in his room,
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and Josiah's in Lilah's room.
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Musical beds.
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[Zach] When we bought
this house,
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we knew only having
two bedrooms for the kids
downstairs could be an issue.
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But, uh, you know,
at the time, we didn't
think about that.
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Right now, Josiah's been
sleeping in Lilah's room.
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And the challenge is
he'll wake up
in the middle of the night,
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uh, and we don't want him
to wake up Lilah.
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So we have to go in there.
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Instead of letting him
just cry, we give him
the binkie.
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Instead of letting him
just cry, we give him
the binkie.
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And we don't want him
sleeping in Jackson's room.
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He has school,
so we wanna make sure
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he's getting
a good night's sleep.
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And we don't want Josiah
in our room because we want
our own space.
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Accurate.
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And so we're just trying
to figure out what to do.
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[Zach] We'll get through this.
295
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I do just wish you would
appreciate me more.
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I do appreciate you, Tori.
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-I just...
-You don't say it.
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I keep you sharp.
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On your toes.
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Men look it in
and they keep it sharp.
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-[chuckles]
-[Zach laughs]
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{\an8}[Matt reading]
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{\an8}So back to pumpkin season,
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{\an8}you know, if you're cutting it
in half, you probably don't
even need my help.
305
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Well, no, we do.
We always want
a family member to do it.
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You know, I don't know
if Amy's really
100% committed.
307
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And it would definitely
be weird for me to do it
without her.
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We wanna talk to you
about more hours, not less.
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[both laughing]
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{\an8}[Matt reading]
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{\an8}Are you, uh, doing anything
with pumpkin season this year?
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-No.
-[Chris] No?
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I will not regret if this is
the last year of pumpkin
season
314
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I will not regret if this is
the last year of pumpkin
season
315
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and we did not,
like, participate.
316
00:11:02,367 --> 00:11:06,400
The farm is not a place of joy
for me anymore.
317
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-Knock, knock. Hey, man.
-How are ya?
318
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-How you doing?
-Good to see you.
319
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-Long time.
-Yeah, it's been
a little while.
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-A couple of weeks, yeah.
-I think, uh, probably haven't
seen you since the, uh,
321
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-the OPA.
-Take a seat.
322
00:11:28,867 --> 00:11:31,567
Yeah, right, OPA,
that was a good time,
wasn't it?
323
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-It was, yeah.
-Did you have as much fun
as we did?
324
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[Chris] I did,
we had a good time.
325
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[Matt] It was fun, yeah. Um...
326
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[Chris] Yeah.
327
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So I haven't seen a pending
sign over here yet.
328
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So I haven't seen a pending
sign over here yet.
329
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-What's happening?
-[chuckles] Yeah,
we got close
330
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-a couple times.
-Oh, is that right?
331
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-Yeah. Got real close
a couple of times.
-Did you get an offer?
332
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No, in the end,
it just wasn't...
I don't think the right fit.
333
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Chris is always interested
in the latest sort of update
on the house sale
334
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because, I mean,
he's in the real estate
business.
335
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So, naturally, he's curious
about what's going on.
336
00:12:01,467 --> 00:12:04,100
I'm okay when Chris
asks questions.
337
00:12:04,166 --> 00:12:07,567
I don't think he's just
asking me 'cause it's family
gossip or anything.
338
00:12:07,567 --> 00:12:10,002
I think he's asking
'cause he has a sincere
interest in it.
339
00:12:10,002 --> 00:12:10,066
I think he's asking
'cause he has a sincere
interest in it.
340
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You ready to do
a price reduction yet?
341
00:12:11,467 --> 00:12:13,100
-Nah, I don't think so.
-No?
342
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I mean, I'm not ready
for that yet.
343
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-Okay.
-I'm gonna let the whole
cycle play out.
344
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-At least until
after pumpkin season.
-Yeah.
345
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[both chuckle]
346
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[Matt] We're in the middle
of it right now.
347
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We already kind of
kicked it into high gear.
348
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We're gonna go forward
with pumpkin season.
349
00:12:26,667 --> 00:12:28,567
Um, it's gonna be
an interesting year
350
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because once again,
we're kind of trying
to set our expectations
351
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and figure out, you know,
the economy's kind of
crazy right now.
352
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So I'm predicting
just a little bit softer year,
you know.
353
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But I think that's kind of,
um, what the world
calls for right now.
354
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But I think that's kind of,
um, what the world
calls for right now.
355
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We were debating
about whether to do the tours
356
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or not and then I came
to this conclusion
357
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that maybe we'll cut back
on the tours.
358
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-Mmm-hmm.
-You know, we're trying
to simplify.
359
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But you're not sure yet
whether it's gonna be
the same route...
360
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The route will be the same.
361
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Hard to believe that just
a little less than a year ago,
I got married right there.
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[both laugh]
363
00:13:01,767 --> 00:13:04,700
So are we ready to see you
do the, uh, you know...
364
00:13:04,767 --> 00:13:07,300
-No. [mutters]
I don't think so.
-No?
365
00:13:07,367 --> 00:13:09,767
You know there's a setback
on my house?
366
00:13:09,767 --> 00:13:10,002
-Did you hear about that?
-No.
367
00:13:10,002 --> 00:13:11,000
-Did you hear about that?
-No.
368
00:13:11,266 --> 00:13:13,367
Well, now it's all ready
for the foundation,
369
00:13:13,367 --> 00:13:16,367
but then we found out
that the county
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-is 16 to 20 weeks out.
-Oh, man.
That's a long time.
371
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That's like four months.
So I'm like, well, if I can't
start in January,
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-I don't wanna be building
in the rain.
-Right.
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-Let's go check it out.
I'll show it to you.
-Yeah.
374
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[Matt] I'm way behind
on pumpkin season setup.
375
00:13:32,266 --> 00:13:35,000
Last year it was all about
getting Amy and Chris'
wedding.
376
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The flowers, getting the place
ready for that
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right in the middle
of pumpkin season
and, um,
378
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this year, you know,
it's different
life challenges.
379
00:13:40,002 --> 00:13:41,000
this year, you know,
it's different
life challenges.
380
00:13:43,467 --> 00:13:45,767
-Sorry about your dad.
-Yeah.
381
00:13:45,767 --> 00:13:48,066
-That was a tough, uh,
tough one.
-Yeah.
382
00:13:48,066 --> 00:13:51,166
-It kind of came up
out of the blue.
-Yeah.
383
00:13:51,166 --> 00:13:53,700
-Well, sorry to hear that.
-Yeah, that was...
384
00:13:53,767 --> 00:13:57,100
Unfortunately,
it's inevitable, but it still
leaves a big hole.
385
00:13:57,166 --> 00:13:59,400
It's been a couple of weeks,
uh, since my dad passed.
386
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So I'm headed to Arizona soon
to check on my mother.
387
00:14:02,667 --> 00:14:05,900
I was just there,
but I'm trying to get
down there
388
00:14:05,967 --> 00:14:09,266
as often as I possibly can
right now.
389
00:14:09,266 --> 00:14:10,002
My mom is doing well.
Much better than I expected.
390
00:14:10,002 --> 00:14:11,000
My mom is doing well.
Much better than I expected.
391
00:14:15,066 --> 00:14:18,767
I mean, she relied on my dad
and my dad told me,
392
00:14:18,767 --> 00:14:22,867
you know, on his death bed,
he said, "Oh, I think
I spoiled your mother.
393
00:14:22,867 --> 00:14:25,567
You know, can you take over?"
394
00:14:25,567 --> 00:14:28,400
Um, and, um, you know,
395
00:14:28,467 --> 00:14:30,900
I promised him I would
keep an eye on her
and watch after her.
396
00:14:30,967 --> 00:14:35,700
And which is what I'm doing,
why I'm going back and forth
as often as I am.
397
00:14:35,767 --> 00:14:38,200
I'm gonna check on my mother
and then, um...
398
00:14:39,266 --> 00:14:40,002
[sighs] Yeah, I'm kind of
trying to be very...
399
00:14:40,002 --> 00:14:41,000
[sighs] Yeah, I'm kind of
trying to be very...
400
00:14:42,066 --> 00:14:44,166
-Getting her squared away.
-Yeah.
401
00:14:44,166 --> 00:14:46,700
Usually Caryn would go with me
to Arizona,
402
00:14:46,767 --> 00:14:50,100
but she's gonna be taking care
of her grandson this weekend,
403
00:14:50,166 --> 00:14:51,867
so I'm gonna go on my own.
404
00:14:51,867 --> 00:14:54,600
[Chris] So this is a huge
packed pad.
405
00:14:54,667 --> 00:14:57,166
The perimeter of your house
isn't gonna be this big,
is it?
406
00:14:57,166 --> 00:15:00,100
[Matt] No, basically,
you have to kind of
have the packed soil
407
00:15:00,166 --> 00:15:02,767
about, I think it's like
five feet beyond
408
00:15:02,767 --> 00:15:04,367
-the furthest perimeter.
-Okay.
409
00:15:04,367 --> 00:15:06,667
All right, so the foundation's
gonna sit right
on top of this.
410
00:15:06,667 --> 00:15:07,700
[Matt] Yes.
411
00:15:07,700 --> 00:15:09,600
Even though the ground
is ready, I mean,
412
00:15:09,667 --> 00:15:10,002
I may not lay a foundation
until next year.
413
00:15:10,002 --> 00:15:11,000
I may not lay a foundation
until next year.
414
00:15:12,166 --> 00:15:14,767
The fact that the permits
are gummed up does
415
00:15:14,767 --> 00:15:19,767
put a wrench in a lot
of things including
my plan to marry Caryn.
416
00:15:19,767 --> 00:15:21,867
I think... We don't have
a house.
417
00:15:21,867 --> 00:15:24,567
If we got married,
we'd wanna naturally
live together
418
00:15:24,567 --> 00:15:26,667
and have a, you know,
landing place.
419
00:15:26,667 --> 00:15:28,800
So that is highly
disappointing
420
00:15:28,867 --> 00:15:31,867
that the house isn't where
we were hoping it would be.
421
00:15:31,867 --> 00:15:33,233
So back to pumpkin season.
422
00:15:33,233 --> 00:15:37,567
What are your thoughts
on Amy? Just the usual
meet and greet?
423
00:15:37,567 --> 00:15:39,467
Well, see, that's what
I wanted to talk
to you guys about.
424
00:15:39,467 --> 00:15:40,002
I like her doing that
and I wanted to ask you
about, um, the tours.
425
00:15:40,002 --> 00:15:41,000
I like her doing that
and I wanted to ask you
about, um, the tours.
426
00:15:44,166 --> 00:15:46,100
You know, as far
as helping out pumpkin season,
427
00:15:46,166 --> 00:15:48,467
you know, we're expecting
Amy and Chris, of course,
428
00:15:48,467 --> 00:15:51,266
Jacob and Isabel
are also helping out.
429
00:15:51,266 --> 00:15:54,467
Amy is really the face
of the family during
pumpkin season.
430
00:15:54,467 --> 00:15:57,000
So she has
a very important role.
431
00:15:57,066 --> 00:16:00,667
Last year, if I remember,
you did like two hours
a day, right?
432
00:16:00,667 --> 00:16:03,667
Uh, yeah, it was two
or three hours, um.
433
00:16:03,667 --> 00:16:06,367
You know, if you're cutting it
in half, you probably
don't even need my help.
434
00:16:06,367 --> 00:16:09,800
Well, no, we do.
We always want
a family member to do it.
435
00:16:09,867 --> 00:16:10,002
We wanna talk to you
about more hours.
436
00:16:10,002 --> 00:16:11,000
We wanna talk to you
about more hours.
437
00:16:11,667 --> 00:16:13,567
-Oh. [laughs]
-It's not less. [laughs]
438
00:16:13,567 --> 00:16:17,300
When Matt first asked
if I wanted to do, uh,
pumpkin season,
439
00:16:17,367 --> 00:16:20,300
my first response was
yes, I had a good time
last year.
440
00:16:20,367 --> 00:16:24,667
Um, but, uh, then, I,
you know, got to thinking I,
441
00:16:24,667 --> 00:16:27,300
you know, I don't know
if Amy's 100% committed.
442
00:16:27,367 --> 00:16:29,567
And it would definitely
be weird,
443
00:16:29,567 --> 00:16:31,867
it wouldn't be nearly
as much fun for me to do it
without her.
444
00:16:31,867 --> 00:16:35,900
So I really need to make sure
that she's 100% committed
445
00:16:35,967 --> 00:16:39,400
before I tell Matt
that I'm 100% committed.
446
00:16:39,467 --> 00:16:40,002
So I'm supposed to, you know,
bring back some info to Amy,
447
00:16:40,002 --> 00:16:41,000
So I'm supposed to, you know,
bring back some info to Amy,
448
00:16:42,667 --> 00:16:45,467
but maybe when we get closer,
449
00:16:45,467 --> 00:16:49,867
we'll come back
and have a happy hour drink
and discuss details.
450
00:16:49,867 --> 00:16:51,767
[Matt] Yeah, that sounds
like a good time.
451
00:17:17,867 --> 00:17:21,667
My mother lives
in an apartment
in a senior home.
452
00:17:21,667 --> 00:17:26,567
Just a few miles away
from my house in Arizona
that I have with Caryn.
453
00:17:26,567 --> 00:17:28,700
My folks weren't there
very long
454
00:17:28,767 --> 00:17:31,567
before my dad passed,
but my dad made sure
455
00:17:31,567 --> 00:17:35,266
that they were set up
and my mother was
very comfortable,
456
00:17:35,266 --> 00:17:37,767
but she still has
some health challenges.
457
00:17:37,767 --> 00:17:39,967
You know, my mom
messed up her hip.
458
00:17:39,967 --> 00:17:40,002
You know, created a challenge
for her physically
to get around.
459
00:17:40,002 --> 00:17:41,000
You know, created a challenge
for her physically
to get around.
460
00:17:43,266 --> 00:17:46,166
And then, you know,
she has some high
blood pressure,
461
00:17:46,166 --> 00:17:50,100
and some other medical
issues that come with aging.
462
00:17:50,100 --> 00:17:52,900
The thing that concerns me
the absolute most
463
00:17:52,967 --> 00:17:55,867
about her being alone
is that she would fall.
464
00:17:55,867 --> 00:17:58,266
And if she falls,
465
00:17:58,266 --> 00:18:02,600
that could impact her mobility
even more significantly.
466
00:18:02,667 --> 00:18:04,066
Where do you wanna eat at?
467
00:18:04,066 --> 00:18:06,967
Oh, I've got down
at the garden cafe
I think is the best.
468
00:18:06,967 --> 00:18:09,867
-I'm dying for a cup
of coffee.
-We could go down there.
469
00:18:09,867 --> 00:18:10,002
I think my mother,
all of us, are still kind of
in a state of shock
470
00:18:10,002 --> 00:18:11,000
I think my mother,
all of us, are still kind of
in a state of shock
471
00:18:13,367 --> 00:18:15,000
over losing my dad.
472
00:18:15,066 --> 00:18:17,800
And, um, you know,
I think she just hasn't
473
00:18:17,867 --> 00:18:20,300
completely entered
into the grieving space.
474
00:18:20,367 --> 00:18:21,867
You know, and that's yet
to come.
475
00:18:21,867 --> 00:18:23,867
I think that might
be true for all of us.
476
00:18:23,867 --> 00:18:26,266
We haven't really fully
processed
477
00:18:26,266 --> 00:18:28,300
the fact that my dad is gone.
478
00:18:28,367 --> 00:18:30,166
You're gonna be able
to get in here by yourself?
479
00:18:30,166 --> 00:18:33,166
Yeah, Dad was teaching me this
just before he left.
480
00:18:33,166 --> 00:18:35,100
Is how to transfer. Okay.
Here I go.
481
00:18:35,166 --> 00:18:38,100
-One, two, three.
-Yep, stand up first.
482
00:18:38,166 --> 00:18:39,567
-Yeah, there you go.
-How do you like that?
483
00:18:40,367 --> 00:18:41,000
-Okay.
-Yeah.
484
00:18:41,667 --> 00:18:42,667
Yeah, I think.
485
00:18:42,667 --> 00:18:44,800
Good. That's a good transfer.
486
00:18:45,367 --> 00:18:46,467
Super good transfer.
487
00:18:46,467 --> 00:18:47,900
-[server] Good morning.
-Hi.
488
00:18:48,900 --> 00:18:50,000
[server] You know
we do coffee, right?
489
00:18:50,066 --> 00:18:52,266
-Regular? Okay.
-Yes.
490
00:18:52,266 --> 00:18:56,200
My dad, you know,
super social guy.
491
00:18:56,266 --> 00:19:01,367
And, you know, my mom
is not quite as, uh, outgoing
as Dad.
492
00:19:01,367 --> 00:19:03,667
So we just wanna make sure,
you know,
493
00:19:03,667 --> 00:19:07,400
that my mother is not
retreating into her room,
494
00:19:07,467 --> 00:19:10,002
but continuing to meet
more and more people.
495
00:19:10,002 --> 00:19:10,567
but continuing to meet
more and more people.
496
00:19:12,200 --> 00:19:13,200
{\an8}Yeah.
497
00:19:14,266 --> 00:19:15,700
{\an8}Yeah, come on over.
498
00:19:16,800 --> 00:19:18,967
You always sit with us.
499
00:19:18,967 --> 00:19:20,900
Deloris is a really good
friend of my mother's.
500
00:19:20,967 --> 00:19:23,767
She's been a great companion
since my dad's passing.
501
00:19:23,767 --> 00:19:25,266
How have you been?
502
00:19:25,266 --> 00:19:27,667
I'm doing good. Thank you.
503
00:19:27,667 --> 00:19:30,367
-Good, good. You look great.
-Oh, thank you.
504
00:19:30,367 --> 00:19:33,600
My mom just really enjoys
Deloris' company.
505
00:19:33,667 --> 00:19:35,700
So, Mom,
how do you see this going?
506
00:19:35,767 --> 00:19:37,266
The event going down for Dad?
507
00:19:37,266 --> 00:19:39,967
-I think everybody's
getting excited to get that.
-Yeah.
508
00:19:39,967 --> 00:19:40,002
One thing is we definitely
want to have
is a military color guard,
509
00:19:40,002 --> 00:19:41,000
One thing is we definitely
want to have
is a military color guard,
510
00:19:43,567 --> 00:19:44,967
-which means, uh...
-[Matt] Oh, oh, right.
511
00:19:44,967 --> 00:19:46,700
They... Dad used
to really love that
512
00:19:46,700 --> 00:19:49,567
-when he'd go to, like,
different friends' memorials.
-[Matt] Right, right. Yeah.
513
00:19:49,567 --> 00:19:52,266
And then I would do
a slideshow.
514
00:19:52,266 --> 00:19:53,567
Oh, yeah.
515
00:19:53,567 --> 00:19:55,767
[Matt] And we immediately
delayed the idea of a memorial
516
00:19:55,767 --> 00:19:57,900
until later in the year.
517
00:19:57,967 --> 00:20:01,600
When the bulk of the family
was available
and gave us time to grieve,
518
00:20:01,667 --> 00:20:02,867
and then put that together.
519
00:20:02,867 --> 00:20:05,567
So now it's set for
the first week of November.
520
00:20:05,567 --> 00:20:07,567
This is not gonna be
a traditional funeral,
521
00:20:07,567 --> 00:20:10,002
you know, where you go
to the gravesite and it's sad.
522
00:20:10,002 --> 00:20:10,567
you know, where you go
to the gravesite and it's sad.
523
00:20:10,567 --> 00:20:11,000
I mean, this is...
You know, you...
524
00:20:12,066 --> 00:20:13,867
A lot of people call it
a celebration of life,
525
00:20:13,867 --> 00:20:17,700
but it's really a memorial
where we memorialize, uh,
526
00:20:17,767 --> 00:20:19,867
you know, Papa,
and we show, you know,
527
00:20:19,867 --> 00:20:22,500
happy pictures
and play upbeat music,
528
00:20:22,567 --> 00:20:25,600
and, uh, that's sort
of what the plan is.
529
00:20:25,667 --> 00:20:27,767
[Peggy] Someone said I need
a yellow flag.
530
00:20:27,767 --> 00:20:29,100
-[Matt] Yeah.
-[Peggy chuckling]
531
00:20:29,166 --> 00:20:30,567
And I'm only going half speed.
532
00:20:30,567 --> 00:20:32,400
[Matt] Yeah, I thought we were
gonna have a race.
533
00:20:32,467 --> 00:20:33,734
[Peggy] Yeah.
534
00:20:36,667 --> 00:20:39,066
-[Matt chuckling] You're
getting that down, huh?
-Yeah.
535
00:20:49,266 --> 00:20:51,266
[Matt] To go in the room after
he was no...
536
00:20:51,266 --> 00:20:55,166
you know, no longer with us,
and, uh, looking at all
the photos,
537
00:20:55,166 --> 00:20:58,266
and kind of realizing
this is gonna
be my mother's room
538
00:20:58,266 --> 00:21:00,467
and Dad's not gonna be
here anymore.
539
00:21:00,467 --> 00:21:03,600
You know, it's...
it's a sad thought to think
540
00:21:03,667 --> 00:21:08,667
that such a radical change
can happen so quickly.
541
00:21:08,667 --> 00:21:10,002
[Peggy] Matt, you wanted one
of Dad's Bibles right?
542
00:21:10,002 --> 00:21:10,967
[Peggy] Matt, you wanted one
of Dad's Bibles right?
543
00:21:10,967 --> 00:21:11,000
Oh, yeah, yeah. But while...
you know, I mean...
544
00:21:13,166 --> 00:21:15,367
I don't want to take it away
while you're using it,
but yeah.
545
00:21:15,367 --> 00:21:18,667
[Peggy] No, no. I've got about
six Bibles, so this is, uh...
546
00:21:18,667 --> 00:21:20,567
...Dad's. You can see
how worn out it is.
547
00:21:20,567 --> 00:21:22,467
[Matt] Yeah. Oh, yeah.
548
00:21:22,467 --> 00:21:24,300
[Peggy] He's got
lots of scripture
in there that's all...
549
00:21:24,367 --> 00:21:26,266
Does it have his name in it?
550
00:21:26,266 --> 00:21:28,266
We've been... We've married
64 years,
551
00:21:28,266 --> 00:21:30,266
and he loved
me unconditionally.
552
00:21:30,266 --> 00:21:34,100
{\an8}We had a terrific marriage,
and he was a good man.
553
00:21:34,100 --> 00:21:35,800
{\an8}Oh, now I miss him more, now.
554
00:21:35,867 --> 00:21:36,967
{\an8}That's the way
it's supposed to be.
555
00:21:36,967 --> 00:21:38,467
-You're supposed
to miss him, yeah.
-Yeah, yeah.
556
00:21:39,800 --> 00:21:40,002
[Matt] Wow, you've got quite
a few wonderful cards.
557
00:21:40,002 --> 00:21:41,000
[Matt] Wow, you've got quite
a few wonderful cards.
558
00:21:42,467 --> 00:21:45,100
Ever... Are all
your old friends finding you?
559
00:21:45,100 --> 00:21:46,967
Yeah, they are, surprisingly.
560
00:21:46,967 --> 00:21:49,567
I still don't really realize
that Ron's gone.
561
00:21:49,567 --> 00:21:52,000
I get up and I think,
"Oh, I better be quiet."
562
00:21:52,000 --> 00:21:54,166
-You know? But,
and it's just these pillows...
-You don't wanna wake him up.
563
00:21:54,166 --> 00:21:56,500
Don't wanna wake him up.
Yeah, wish I could.
564
00:21:56,567 --> 00:21:57,467
-Mmm-hmm.
-Um...
565
00:21:58,266 --> 00:21:59,367
It's just a strange feeling.
566
00:21:59,367 --> 00:22:02,000
But it's not... it's not sad.
567
00:22:02,000 --> 00:22:05,200
So that's what's...
that's what's
really surprised me.
568
00:22:05,266 --> 00:22:06,800
-Maybe that day will come.
-Yeah.
569
00:22:06,867 --> 00:22:07,667
I hope not.
570
00:22:10,667 --> 00:22:11,000
{\an8}[Matt] Coming up...
571
00:22:11,567 --> 00:22:12,567
{\an8}[Zach] Go!
572
00:22:13,600 --> 00:22:14,500
{\an8}[Amy laughing]
573
00:22:14,567 --> 00:22:15,367
There's your brother!
574
00:22:16,467 --> 00:22:17,767
{\an8}[Jackson speaking]
575
00:22:17,767 --> 00:22:20,567
[Tori] Okay, now Lilah,
if you squirt him,
he can squirt you.
576
00:22:21,266 --> 00:22:23,367
-Whoa!
-[Tori laughing]
577
00:22:38,600 --> 00:22:39,800
Lilah, put your sunglasses on.
578
00:22:41,367 --> 00:22:43,166
-[Chris] Hey, guys! Welcome!
-[Tori] Hello!
579
00:22:43,166 --> 00:22:45,400
Hey, Jackson. Hi, Lilah.
580
00:22:45,467 --> 00:22:47,100
-[Zach] Hey.
-[Tori] Good to see you.
581
00:22:47,100 --> 00:22:48,600
[Chris] I like
your sunglasses, Lilah.
582
00:22:48,667 --> 00:22:49,600
[Tori] What do you say?
583
00:22:50,700 --> 00:22:51,867
Say thank you?
584
00:22:51,867 --> 00:22:53,567
Yeah, take your shoes off.
Stay a while.
585
00:22:54,567 --> 00:22:56,970
-[Zach] Hey.
-[Amy] Hi!
586
00:22:56,970 --> 00:22:57,000
-[Zach] Hey.
-[Amy] Hi!
587
00:22:57,066 --> 00:22:59,266
[Zach] We have not been
to Mimi and Chris's
in a while,
588
00:22:59,266 --> 00:23:01,767
so we're here for
a pool party
in their backyard.
589
00:23:01,767 --> 00:23:03,367
Jackson likes kiddie pools.
590
00:23:03,367 --> 00:23:04,667
[both] So does Lilah.
591
00:23:04,667 --> 00:23:06,367
-They both love water.
-Yeah.
592
00:23:06,367 --> 00:23:07,367
Little kiddie pool action.
593
00:23:08,200 --> 00:23:10,000
-[gasping] What?
-[Jackson] Gotcha.
594
00:23:10,000 --> 00:23:12,000
-[Zach laughing]
-You can't do that.
595
00:23:12,066 --> 00:23:13,867
[Zach] Wait, Jackson, get her!
She's getting you!
596
00:23:13,867 --> 00:23:14,700
Go!
597
00:23:15,700 --> 00:23:16,867
[Amy laughing]
598
00:23:18,767 --> 00:23:19,867
Here, let me load you up.
599
00:23:21,100 --> 00:23:22,367
There's your brother!
600
00:23:22,367 --> 00:23:24,266
{\an8}[Jackson laughing
and speaking]
601
00:23:24,266 --> 00:23:26,000
[Tori] Okay,
now Lilah, though,
if you squirt him,
602
00:23:26,066 --> 00:23:26,970
he can squirt you.
603
00:23:26,970 --> 00:23:27,000
he can squirt you.
604
00:23:31,700 --> 00:23:34,066
-Whoa!
-[Tori laughing]
605
00:23:34,066 --> 00:23:36,000
[Chris] Somebody told me that
she's starting
to say some words?
606
00:23:36,066 --> 00:23:37,767
-She's starting to speak
a little bit? Yeah?
-[Zach] Oh, yeah.
607
00:23:37,767 --> 00:23:39,367
She's speaking a lot
better now.
608
00:23:39,367 --> 00:23:40,567
Wow.
609
00:23:40,567 --> 00:23:41,767
Lilah's speech has gotten...
610
00:23:41,767 --> 00:23:43,166
-...a lot better.
-Yeah, it has gotten
a lot better.
611
00:23:43,166 --> 00:23:45,400
-Her vocabulary has gotten...
-We counted
to ten this morning.
612
00:23:45,467 --> 00:23:47,800
-Yeah, she's starting...
She says thank you...
-She's doing really good.
613
00:23:47,867 --> 00:23:49,867
And I feel like it's helped
her confidence a lot, too.
614
00:23:49,867 --> 00:23:51,700
[Zach] There will be times
when I still don't know
what she's saying,
615
00:23:51,767 --> 00:23:53,767
and she'll say it to me
in such a sass.
616
00:23:53,767 --> 00:23:55,800
Like, "I can...
like, why wouldn't you...
617
00:23:55,867 --> 00:23:56,970
-...understand me?"
-"Why can't you
understand me?"
618
00:23:56,970 --> 00:23:57,000
-...understand me?"
-"Why can't you
understand me?"
619
00:23:57,467 --> 00:23:58,567
How are you doing?
620
00:23:59,900 --> 00:24:01,000
How are you doing?
621
00:24:02,166 --> 00:24:03,000
Hmm?
622
00:24:04,266 --> 00:24:07,400
-[Tori] Yeah!
-[Zach] Whoa!
623
00:24:07,467 --> 00:24:09,200
Can you put your whole
body underwater?
624
00:24:09,266 --> 00:24:11,300
You can do it!
Put your whole
head underwater.
625
00:24:18,500 --> 00:24:20,900
[Chris] Amy and I are having
our one year anniversary
coming up.
626
00:24:20,967 --> 00:24:22,567
-Nice. When is
your anniversary?
-[Chris] So...
627
00:24:22,567 --> 00:24:23,634
-[Amy] The 28th.
-[Tori] 28th!
628
00:24:23,634 --> 00:24:25,800
-28th.
-Oh wow, okay.
It's been a year? Wow.
629
00:24:25,867 --> 00:24:26,970
[Zach] It's crazy.
A lot happened in one year.
630
00:24:26,970 --> 00:24:27,000
[Zach] It's crazy.
A lot happened in one year.
631
00:24:27,967 --> 00:24:29,700
Yeah, my mom's wedding
was around the time
632
00:24:29,767 --> 00:24:31,700
the farm deal
kind of went bad.
633
00:24:31,767 --> 00:24:33,667
And, uh, the move was hard.
634
00:24:33,667 --> 00:24:35,400
Moving's hard.
635
00:24:35,400 --> 00:24:39,000
And also still processing
the farm deal and the fallout
and everything.
636
00:24:39,000 --> 00:24:41,767
So, a lot happened in a year.
637
00:24:41,767 --> 00:24:45,767
We'll do our, uh, um,
our yearly celebration
638
00:24:45,767 --> 00:24:47,100
at, uh, the reserve.
639
00:24:47,166 --> 00:24:48,300
-Where we had
our first date.
-[Zach] Oh.
640
00:24:48,367 --> 00:24:49,834
Oh, nice.
641
00:24:49,834 --> 00:24:51,066
[Chris] So you guys didn't
live together before
you got married, then?
642
00:24:51,066 --> 00:24:52,400
[Zach] No.
643
00:24:52,400 --> 00:24:55,200
I wanted to act like
we were married
to get all that stuff,
644
00:24:55,266 --> 00:24:56,970
-to see if it was gonna
turn into anything big.
-[Zach] Yeah.
645
00:24:56,970 --> 00:24:57,000
-to see if it was gonna
turn into anything big.
-[Zach] Yeah.
646
00:24:57,467 --> 00:24:58,767
[Chris] I mean,
if it was going
to be a deal killer,
647
00:24:58,767 --> 00:24:59,867
I wanted to know
ahead of time.
648
00:24:59,867 --> 00:25:01,166
[laughing]
649
00:25:01,166 --> 00:25:04,467
I've definitely had to, uh,
make adjustments on
650
00:25:04,467 --> 00:25:09,800
not having as much control
over the environment
I live in every day.
651
00:25:10,800 --> 00:25:14,667
And, uh, that's taken
a lot of compromising,
652
00:25:14,667 --> 00:25:17,600
and, um,
still working on that.
653
00:25:17,667 --> 00:25:19,100
[Zach] Yeah, are we eating
out here, or...
654
00:25:19,166 --> 00:25:20,667
Yeah, dinner's ready
if you guys want.
655
00:25:20,667 --> 00:25:22,100
I can dish up.
656
00:25:22,166 --> 00:25:23,967
I think adjustments in
a relationship
657
00:25:23,967 --> 00:25:26,066
will always be ongoing.
658
00:25:26,066 --> 00:25:26,970
But I think for me,
adjustments would be
paying a little more attention
659
00:25:26,970 --> 00:25:27,000
But I think for me,
adjustments would be
paying a little more attention
660
00:25:30,767 --> 00:25:34,467
to what works for Chris,
or what makes him happy,
661
00:25:34,467 --> 00:25:37,467
which is basically
one word... neatness.
662
00:25:37,467 --> 00:25:41,867
And so I continue to try
and get better at that.
663
00:25:41,867 --> 00:25:44,266
But other than that, you know,
it's been great!
664
00:25:45,066 --> 00:25:45,867
Mmm.
665
00:25:48,000 --> 00:25:49,266
Is that good food?
666
00:25:49,867 --> 00:25:51,200
[Tori] This is really good.
667
00:25:51,266 --> 00:25:53,567
I was worried that
the sausage
wouldn't quite work.
668
00:25:53,567 --> 00:25:55,266
-[Tori] I told you,
I've told you.
-[Zach] No, it's super good.
669
00:25:55,266 --> 00:25:56,867
[Tori] Her new thing is rice.
670
00:25:56,867 --> 00:25:56,970
-And so, life is okay?
Going good?
-[Zach] Yeah.
671
00:25:56,970 --> 00:25:57,000
-And so, life is okay?
Going good?
-[Zach] Yeah.
672
00:26:00,667 --> 00:26:01,667
-[Amy] Um...
-[Zach] I'm thinking we might
673
00:26:01,667 --> 00:26:04,066
move Jackson upstairs
pretty soon, though.
674
00:26:04,066 --> 00:26:05,433
That'll be a big thing.
675
00:26:05,433 --> 00:26:08,367
[Zach] Slide Lilah over,
and then get Josiah
where Lilah is.
676
00:26:08,367 --> 00:26:10,066
[Tori] They go back
and forth daily.
677
00:26:10,066 --> 00:26:12,000
-[Zach] Yeah, I know.
-[Tori] It's like, it's a good
choice or not.
678
00:26:12,066 --> 00:26:13,333
Yeah.
679
00:26:13,333 --> 00:26:15,567
[Zach] Sleep training
has been kind of rough, um...
680
00:26:15,567 --> 00:26:17,867
Tori's slept upstairs
in our bonus room
a couple times,
681
00:26:17,867 --> 00:26:19,066
I've slept upstairs...
682
00:26:19,567 --> 00:26:20,467
We've...
683
00:26:20,467 --> 00:26:21,767
[chuckling]
684
00:26:21,767 --> 00:26:24,467
Lilah has slept in our room,
I've slept in Jackson's room,
685
00:26:24,467 --> 00:26:25,867
Jackson has slept in our room.
686
00:26:25,867 --> 00:26:26,970
Josiah has slept everywhere.
687
00:26:26,970 --> 00:26:27,000
Josiah has slept everywhere.
688
00:26:27,266 --> 00:26:28,500
We slept outside in the tent.
689
00:26:28,567 --> 00:26:31,266
-I've slept outside
on the bench.
-Yeah!
690
00:26:31,266 --> 00:26:32,767
-We have many different...
-Many different.
691
00:26:32,767 --> 00:26:36,367
We've had many different
combinations to make
this work.
692
00:26:36,367 --> 00:26:37,767
But we need something
more permanent.
693
00:26:37,767 --> 00:26:39,400
We need a better solution.
694
00:26:39,467 --> 00:26:42,567
Are you, uh,
doing anything with
pumpkin season this year?
695
00:26:42,567 --> 00:26:43,467
-No.
-[Chris] No?
696
00:26:45,100 --> 00:26:46,867
No interest, no... whatever.
697
00:26:48,967 --> 00:26:50,100
[Amy] I know,
I was debating...
698
00:26:51,100 --> 00:26:52,000
...since so much has changed.
699
00:26:52,767 --> 00:26:55,367
I know that Chris
and Matt talked,
700
00:26:55,367 --> 00:26:56,970
and Matt let Chris know
what pumpkin season
may look like,
701
00:26:56,970 --> 00:26:57,000
and Matt let Chris know
what pumpkin season
may look like,
702
00:26:58,567 --> 00:27:01,000
what in general
may be happening.
703
00:27:01,066 --> 00:27:04,300
But with everything going on
with the property
and the house,
704
00:27:04,367 --> 00:27:07,767
I don't anticipate all
of the kids
really "participating"
705
00:27:07,767 --> 00:27:09,367
in pumpkin season this year.
706
00:27:09,367 --> 00:27:13,100
And sometimes I think
it's best just to...
707
00:27:13,100 --> 00:27:15,500
...end it while you still
have a good thought,
708
00:27:15,567 --> 00:27:17,000
a good memory about it.
709
00:27:17,000 --> 00:27:19,100
And so, until I talk to Matt,
710
00:27:19,166 --> 00:27:21,400
I'm just not...
I'm really not sure
how I feel,
711
00:27:21,467 --> 00:27:23,100
and what I want to do.
712
00:27:23,166 --> 00:27:25,867
It's gonna be interesting
to see who does come,
713
00:27:25,867 --> 00:27:26,970
-because they're probably
gonna wonder, like...
-[Zach] None of them go.
714
00:27:26,970 --> 00:27:27,000
-because they're probably
gonna wonder, like...
-[Zach] None of them go.
715
00:27:27,667 --> 00:27:29,100
...what is pumpkin season
over there?
716
00:27:29,100 --> 00:27:30,500
[Chris] People are gonna
wanna see something.
717
00:27:30,500 --> 00:27:32,400
I don't think it's
gonna be all that much
different than last year.
718
00:27:32,467 --> 00:27:35,000
-I think it's gonna be
super well attended, though.
-[Chris] Yeah.
719
00:27:37,667 --> 00:27:40,467
Time does change
how you feel about things.
720
00:27:40,467 --> 00:27:43,967
I will not regret if this
is the last
true pumpkin season...
721
00:27:43,967 --> 00:27:46,000
...and we did not, like,
participate or anything.
722
00:27:46,000 --> 00:27:48,400
Like... the glory days
when we met,
723
00:27:48,467 --> 00:27:50,667
-and it was all
of our friends...
-Yeah.
724
00:27:50,667 --> 00:27:52,567
-...working. It's just...
-It's just not
that at all anymore.
725
00:27:52,567 --> 00:27:53,867
-That was 12 years ago.
-Yeah.
726
00:27:53,867 --> 00:27:56,066
-It... Those are over.
-The farm is not...
727
00:27:57,100 --> 00:27:59,600
...like, a place
of joy for me anymore.
728
00:28:03,567 --> 00:28:05,100
-[Amy chuckling] Oh, God.
-[Tori] Not particularly.
729
00:28:07,200 --> 00:28:08,100
{\an8}Yeah!
730
00:28:08,100 --> 00:28:09,567
{\an8}[Lilah speaking]
731
00:28:09,567 --> 00:28:11,500
[Amy] "Dada?" And who's this?
732
00:28:11,967 --> 00:28:12,867
[Lilah] Uh...
733
00:28:12,867 --> 00:28:14,367
[whispering] Chris.
734
00:28:14,367 --> 00:28:15,266
[Lilah] Huh?
735
00:28:15,266 --> 00:28:16,300
-[Amy] Chris.
-Say "Chris."
736
00:28:16,367 --> 00:28:18,000
-[Lilah mumbling]
-You can say it.
737
00:28:19,200 --> 00:28:20,467
-No?
-"No." [chuckling]
738
00:28:30,066 --> 00:28:32,567
[Matt] Tonight, I'm gonna take
my mother to dinner.
739
00:28:32,567 --> 00:28:35,700
I'm pretty encouraged
my mother
is really stepping up
740
00:28:35,767 --> 00:28:38,000
to... to be as independent
as possible.
741
00:28:38,066 --> 00:28:40,300
I am my own
physical limitation.
742
00:28:40,367 --> 00:28:42,166
Caryn helped me
with stuff, so...
743
00:28:42,166 --> 00:28:45,667
...um, it's, it's a little bit
of a double...
double challenge,
744
00:28:45,667 --> 00:28:47,800
helping my mom out
where I can.
745
00:28:47,867 --> 00:28:49,066
Can you go ahead and climb in,
746
00:28:49,066 --> 00:28:51,567
-and I'll put
the walker in there.
-I will.
747
00:28:51,567 --> 00:28:53,200
-Do you know how
to fold these things?
-I don't.
748
00:28:53,266 --> 00:28:56,600
But we have this van
that has suspension
that goes up and down,
749
00:28:56,667 --> 00:28:56,970
so I'm able to get my mom
into the van pretty easily.
750
00:28:56,970 --> 00:28:57,000
so I'm able to get my mom
into the van pretty easily.
751
00:29:00,367 --> 00:29:01,266
[Peggy] Yeah.
752
00:29:01,266 --> 00:29:02,166
Okay.
753
00:29:02,166 --> 00:29:03,467
There we go.
754
00:29:03,467 --> 00:29:05,367
Now we've jinxed it
and you're gonna splat
on the ground.
755
00:29:05,367 --> 00:29:07,600
Oh, my... thanks. I hope not.
756
00:29:16,767 --> 00:29:17,834
[Peggy] Hi, there.
757
00:29:17,834 --> 00:29:19,900
She likes to, you know,
have a reason to kind of
758
00:29:19,967 --> 00:29:21,767
get herself dressed up
a little bit.
759
00:29:21,767 --> 00:29:23,300
So, even though it's a little
bit more work,
760
00:29:23,367 --> 00:29:26,600
it's really nice to, you know,
go eat something different,
761
00:29:26,667 --> 00:29:26,970
you know, than the same...
the same thing
every single day.
762
00:29:26,970 --> 00:29:27,000
you know, than the same...
the same thing
every single day.
763
00:29:29,467 --> 00:29:31,266
And how would you like
your filet cooked on that?
764
00:29:31,266 --> 00:29:34,300
-Raw.
-[waiter laughs]
Raw, okay. Awesome.
765
00:29:34,367 --> 00:29:36,767
-I meant rare.
-[Matt] Okay, rare.
766
00:29:36,767 --> 00:29:38,667
And I don't really
see that changing.
767
00:29:38,667 --> 00:29:41,767
I see more trips down there,
not, you know,
definitely not less.
768
00:29:43,300 --> 00:29:45,467
Dad would love to come
to a place like this.
769
00:29:45,467 --> 00:29:46,967
-He loves Vietnamese food.
-[Matt] Yeah.
770
00:29:46,967 --> 00:29:48,967
Dad and I would love
to go out once in a while,
771
00:29:48,967 --> 00:29:51,066
-you know, this was nice.
-Yeah.
772
00:29:51,066 --> 00:29:52,767
-[waiter] Waters here for you.
-[Peggy] Thank you.
773
00:29:52,767 --> 00:29:54,000
[waiter] Of course.
774
00:29:54,000 --> 00:29:56,300
And he loved to, um,
meet people.
775
00:29:56,367 --> 00:29:56,970
So I kinda got used
to the idea of him going out.
776
00:29:56,970 --> 00:29:57,000
So I kinda got used
to the idea of him going out.
777
00:29:59,266 --> 00:30:01,800
Otherwise, we were
with each other 24/7,
which was wonderful.
778
00:30:01,867 --> 00:30:03,867
Yeah.
779
00:30:03,867 --> 00:30:06,100
In fact, the reason
he had our chairs
close together there
780
00:30:06,166 --> 00:30:07,600
-in front of the TV,
-Yeah.
781
00:30:07,667 --> 00:30:09,166
was he wanted to hold hands.
782
00:30:10,800 --> 00:30:12,567
-He loved me dearly.
-Oh.
783
00:30:12,567 --> 00:30:15,600
-Everybody just told me that.
It was very humbling.
-Yeah. Oh, yeah.
784
00:30:15,667 --> 00:30:17,467
[Matt] My mother
and father had
785
00:30:17,467 --> 00:30:20,367
a long and very
loving relationship.
786
00:30:20,367 --> 00:30:22,467
Um, and having dinner
with my mom
787
00:30:22,467 --> 00:30:24,700
sort of reinforces
how important
788
00:30:24,767 --> 00:30:26,600
that Caryn is in my life.
789
00:30:28,166 --> 00:30:29,800
[Peggy] We had a lot
of experiences in our life.
790
00:30:29,867 --> 00:30:31,300
Dad was really good.
791
00:30:31,367 --> 00:30:34,266
-He took you on camping trips
with your classrooms,
-Yeah. Yeah.
792
00:30:34,266 --> 00:30:36,066
and Yosemite, I think he went?
793
00:30:36,066 --> 00:30:38,367
Oh, I remember
crossing a river,
he scared us to death.
794
00:30:38,367 --> 00:30:40,266
-[laughs]
-This rushing river,
795
00:30:40,266 --> 00:30:42,266
and he walked
across the rocks.
796
00:30:42,266 --> 00:30:44,300
-Oh, yeah.
-He was very sure-footed.
797
00:30:45,767 --> 00:30:47,667
[Matt] My childhood
was very fun.
798
00:30:47,667 --> 00:30:49,100
You know, we did a lot
of family trips,
799
00:30:49,166 --> 00:30:50,467
you know, around the country.
800
00:30:50,467 --> 00:30:52,500
We went camping a lot.
801
00:30:52,567 --> 00:30:54,867
Um, you know, I always
loved my folks
802
00:30:54,867 --> 00:30:56,967
for the way
they raised us, um,
803
00:30:56,967 --> 00:30:56,970
you know, my folks never
had any history of dwarfism
in their family.
804
00:30:56,970 --> 00:30:57,000
you know, my folks never
had any history of dwarfism
in their family.
805
00:30:59,867 --> 00:31:01,567
You know, all of a sudden,
poof, you know,
806
00:31:01,567 --> 00:31:03,467
they have a baby
that's a dwarf.
807
00:31:03,467 --> 00:31:06,967
You know, they had
my sister first.
Zero physical ailments,
808
00:31:06,967 --> 00:31:10,367
and then, uh, you know,
my brother and I both
had dwarfism.
809
00:31:10,367 --> 00:31:13,000
So I can only imagine
810
00:31:13,767 --> 00:31:16,467
the absolute shock
811
00:31:16,467 --> 00:31:18,667
that my parents would've felt.
812
00:31:18,667 --> 00:31:21,767
Despite all that, I always
felt completely loved,
813
00:31:21,767 --> 00:31:24,867
and my folks felt like
they were proud of me.
814
00:31:24,867 --> 00:31:26,970
That's a special,
special parent
815
00:31:26,970 --> 00:31:27,000
That's a special,
special parent
816
00:31:27,367 --> 00:31:30,367
to be able to provide
that kind of upbringing.
817
00:31:30,367 --> 00:31:34,467
And certainly a lot of that
has rubbed off on me.
818
00:31:34,467 --> 00:31:38,000
And I, you know,
try to do some of those
things with my kids.
819
00:31:38,066 --> 00:31:39,800
How's yours? Does it have
any flavor to it?
820
00:31:39,867 --> 00:31:41,367
Yeah, it's good.
821
00:31:44,500 --> 00:31:47,300
-Our life is gonna
be different.
-Mmm-hmm.
822
00:31:47,367 --> 00:31:51,066
-Dad made a big impact
on a lot of people.
-Yeah.
823
00:31:51,066 --> 00:31:53,600
You know, he knew who he was,
and where he was going,
824
00:31:53,667 --> 00:31:55,000
-and, yeah.
-Yeah.
825
00:31:56,567 --> 00:31:56,970
[Matt] I think my mother's
putting on a very brave face.
826
00:31:56,970 --> 00:31:57,000
[Matt] I think my mother's
putting on a very brave face.
827
00:31:59,166 --> 00:32:01,567
My parents were married
for virtually
828
00:32:01,567 --> 00:32:03,400
their entire adult life.
829
00:32:03,467 --> 00:32:05,567
So it's only natural
for my mom
830
00:32:05,567 --> 00:32:09,700
to struggle a little bit
with my dad's absence.
831
00:32:09,767 --> 00:32:12,567
Well, I'm glad we got
to try this place.
832
00:32:12,567 --> 00:32:15,900
Yeah, I am, too.
Dad would love
to have been here.
833
00:32:15,967 --> 00:32:18,700
-He loved Vietnamese food.
He loved everything.
-Yeah. Mmm-hmm.
834
00:32:18,767 --> 00:32:21,467
-Are you, um,
ready to make the journey?
-Yup.
835
00:32:24,767 --> 00:32:25,967
{\an8}[announcer] Coming up...
836
00:32:25,967 --> 00:32:26,970
{\an8}I couldn't believe when
you proposed to me.
837
00:32:26,970 --> 00:32:27,000
{\an8}I couldn't believe when
you proposed to me.
838
00:32:29,467 --> 00:32:31,400
You were so nervous,
weren't you?
839
00:32:31,467 --> 00:32:32,767
-Were you nervous?
-No, no.
840
00:32:32,767 --> 00:32:33,967
Yeah, you were.
841
00:32:33,967 --> 00:32:36,867
You got so, like,
emotional or teary-eyed.
842
00:32:36,867 --> 00:32:39,166
-Oh, please, I didn't
get teary-eyed.
-[laughs]
843
00:32:39,166 --> 00:32:40,467
I was a rock.
844
00:32:57,567 --> 00:32:59,767
[Chris] Would you like me
to pull your chair out?
845
00:32:59,767 --> 00:33:01,266
-[Amy] If you want.
-Do you like that?
846
00:33:01,266 --> 00:33:02,467
[Amy] Oh, sure.
847
00:33:03,467 --> 00:33:04,767
-Yeah.
-I mean, I don't know
848
00:33:04,767 --> 00:33:07,500
-if it's better for you
to adjust your own--
-I just...
849
00:33:07,567 --> 00:33:09,000
I don't know,
I just figure it's...
850
00:33:09,066 --> 00:33:10,600
-[Chris] Do you want,
do you want closer?
-Yeah.
851
00:33:10,667 --> 00:33:12,867
[Amy] It's our first year
wedding anniversary,
852
00:33:12,867 --> 00:33:13,962
and we made a decision
853
00:33:13,962 --> 00:33:14,000
and we made a decision
854
00:33:16,266 --> 00:33:18,367
after he proposed to me,
855
00:33:18,367 --> 00:33:21,200
that why don't we
make this a yearly event?
856
00:33:21,266 --> 00:33:23,600
To celebrate getting engaged,
857
00:33:23,667 --> 00:33:25,567
first date, being married?
858
00:33:25,567 --> 00:33:27,367
So we chose The Reserve,
859
00:33:27,367 --> 00:33:28,867
because that's where, gosh,
860
00:33:28,867 --> 00:33:31,867
-life-changing
moments happened.
-Yeah.
861
00:33:31,867 --> 00:33:34,567
Six years ago
was our first date.
862
00:33:35,800 --> 00:33:39,266
And three years ago
was when I proposed.
863
00:33:39,266 --> 00:33:41,500
And then because of COVID,
we couldn't come.
864
00:33:41,567 --> 00:33:43,100
Oh, yeah, yeah.
Yeah, that's right.
865
00:33:43,100 --> 00:33:43,962
So this will be our
first real dinner here
866
00:33:43,962 --> 00:33:44,000
So this will be our
first real dinner here
867
00:33:45,266 --> 00:33:47,300
-since, uh, I proposed.
-Yeah.
868
00:33:47,367 --> 00:33:49,300
-Still good memories?
-Yeah.
869
00:33:49,367 --> 00:33:52,166
I'm just so happy I was
able to trick you
into saying yes.
870
00:33:52,166 --> 00:33:55,400
[laughs] That you did.
871
00:33:55,467 --> 00:33:57,367
It's on this hand.
872
00:33:57,367 --> 00:33:58,800
Still looking pretty.
873
00:34:00,867 --> 00:34:03,300
-The ring looks good, too.
-[laughs]
874
00:34:04,667 --> 00:34:06,400
-Yeah.
-[Amy laughs] Yeah.
875
00:34:06,467 --> 00:34:10,000
I couldn't believe
when you proposed to me.
876
00:34:10,066 --> 00:34:12,100
You were so nervous,
weren't you?
877
00:34:12,100 --> 00:34:13,600
-Were you nervous?
-No, no.
878
00:34:13,667 --> 00:34:13,962
Yeah, you were.
879
00:34:13,962 --> 00:34:14,000
Yeah, you were.
880
00:34:18,367 --> 00:34:19,700
What?
881
00:34:20,600 --> 00:34:21,767
Nothing.
882
00:34:21,767 --> 00:34:23,166
You were nervous, you were...
883
00:34:23,166 --> 00:34:24,600
I had it all figured out.
884
00:34:24,667 --> 00:34:26,900
And then you were like...
Oh, you got so,
885
00:34:26,967 --> 00:34:29,100
like, emotional or teary-eyed.
886
00:34:29,100 --> 00:34:30,900
-Oh, please, I didn't
get teary-eyed.
-[laughs]
887
00:34:30,967 --> 00:34:32,767
[Chris] I was a rock.
888
00:34:32,767 --> 00:34:34,567
[laughs]
889
00:34:37,800 --> 00:34:39,300
[laughing] What?
890
00:34:39,367 --> 00:34:40,467
[Chris sniffles]
891
00:34:40,467 --> 00:34:43,600
[voice shaking]
It's been an amazing journey.
892
00:34:43,667 --> 00:34:43,962
And you're the one
I want to finish it with.
893
00:34:43,962 --> 00:34:44,000
And you're the one
I want to finish it with.
894
00:34:47,200 --> 00:34:49,600
[Amy] Chris doesn't
show emotions.
895
00:34:50,567 --> 00:34:52,700
Uh, often, even to this day,
896
00:34:52,767 --> 00:34:55,367
that I've been married
and with him for so long.
897
00:34:55,367 --> 00:34:57,200
But when he did,
898
00:34:57,266 --> 00:35:00,767
because I wasn't used
to him doing that,
899
00:35:00,767 --> 00:35:02,367
I, I didn't know what to do.
900
00:35:04,667 --> 00:35:06,767
-Will you marry me?
-Oh, my God!
901
00:35:06,767 --> 00:35:09,000
[Amy laughs]
902
00:35:09,000 --> 00:35:10,567
Yes!
903
00:35:10,567 --> 00:35:11,800
I wasn't crying.
904
00:35:11,867 --> 00:35:13,900
[chuckling] You just got
a little watery.
905
00:35:13,967 --> 00:35:14,000
-Oh, it was smoky out there.
-[laughs]
906
00:35:16,367 --> 00:35:18,266
Happy one-year anniversary.
907
00:35:18,266 --> 00:35:20,667
-Happy one-year
anniversary, babe.
-Mmm.
908
00:35:22,000 --> 00:35:24,567
-Here's the salad for you.
-Oh, okay, thank you.
909
00:35:24,567 --> 00:35:26,867
-Mmm, thank you.
-Enjoy.
910
00:35:29,367 --> 00:35:32,100
So what are the most
favorite things that
you did this year?
911
00:35:32,767 --> 00:35:34,367
Oh, the motorcycle ride
912
00:35:34,367 --> 00:35:36,867
-Yeah.
-was the most adventurous.
913
00:35:36,867 --> 00:35:38,467
[Amy] I, I would,
I would say so, too.
914
00:35:39,567 --> 00:35:42,200
Can I handle it?
Can I handle three more days
915
00:35:42,266 --> 00:35:43,962
before our final destination?
916
00:35:43,962 --> 00:35:44,000
before our final destination?
917
00:35:44,066 --> 00:35:47,000
Before we turn around
and come home? Oof.
918
00:35:48,000 --> 00:35:49,467
[whispering] I don't know.
919
00:35:49,467 --> 00:35:50,867
[in normal voice]
Can we handle it, babe?
920
00:35:50,867 --> 00:35:52,567
{\an8}[Chris speaking]
921
00:35:52,567 --> 00:35:54,900
{\an8}[Amy] Oh, you're in it
for the long haul? [laughs]
922
00:35:54,967 --> 00:35:56,567
[Chris] We're both
on the same page,
923
00:35:56,567 --> 00:35:58,800
that our future
is really gonna be...
924
00:35:58,867 --> 00:36:00,700
I know we wanna do
a lot of traveling
in our future.
925
00:36:00,767 --> 00:36:04,567
And I'm hoping to keep up
with the new adventures,
you know?
926
00:36:04,567 --> 00:36:07,300
Now that we're married,
I don't wanna become
927
00:36:07,367 --> 00:36:09,100
too sedentary and think,
you know,
928
00:36:09,100 --> 00:36:10,467
the wooing stage is over,
929
00:36:10,467 --> 00:36:12,867
I wanna keep going,
I wanna, you know, explore--
930
00:36:12,867 --> 00:36:13,962
-Oh, you wanna
keep wooing me?
-That, too.
931
00:36:13,962 --> 00:36:14,000
-Oh, you wanna
keep wooing me?
-That, too.
932
00:36:15,166 --> 00:36:16,900
-Yeah.
-Oh, okay.
933
00:36:16,967 --> 00:36:19,900
And my way of doing that
is new experiences.
934
00:36:19,967 --> 00:36:23,066
You know, getting out
and exploring
and doing fun stuff.
935
00:36:23,066 --> 00:36:24,367
-Okay.
-Keep moving.
936
00:36:25,367 --> 00:36:27,100
Oh, I'm looking forward
to the balloon ride
937
00:36:27,100 --> 00:36:28,567
-that you got me
for my birthday.
-Yeah.
938
00:36:28,567 --> 00:36:31,000
That'll be our first thing.
939
00:36:31,000 --> 00:36:33,800
-And then we're gonna
go back to Michigan.
-Yeah, I wanna do that.
940
00:36:33,867 --> 00:36:36,266
Lord willing, my father
will still be okay.
941
00:36:36,266 --> 00:36:37,400
I hope so.
942
00:36:37,467 --> 00:36:39,266
Do you ever see him
flying out here again,
943
00:36:39,266 --> 00:36:41,467
or was the wedding
his last plane trip?
944
00:36:41,467 --> 00:36:43,266
-I think the wedding
was his last plane trip.
-Yeah.
945
00:36:43,266 --> 00:36:43,962
-I'm just really
glad he did it.
-Yeah.
946
00:36:43,962 --> 00:36:44,000
-I'm just really
glad he did it.
-Yeah.
947
00:36:45,667 --> 00:36:48,166
And I'm so happy we
got married on the farm, too.
948
00:36:48,166 --> 00:36:50,767
-I think that worked
out really well.
-Yeah, I did too.
949
00:36:50,767 --> 00:36:53,266
That was a wonderful moment.
950
00:36:53,266 --> 00:36:55,667
I'm glad it came to me again.
951
00:36:55,667 --> 00:36:57,567
I never thought it would.
952
00:36:57,567 --> 00:36:58,667
-No?
-I never expected that.
953
00:36:59,667 --> 00:37:02,100
[Amy]
Having a second opportunity,
954
00:37:02,166 --> 00:37:06,000
you know, at having
a wonderful relationship
with Chris,
955
00:37:06,066 --> 00:37:07,667
is being reminded.
956
00:37:07,667 --> 00:37:10,000
It's not only the mechanics
of a relationship,
957
00:37:10,066 --> 00:37:13,600
but also the joy and giving
958
00:37:13,667 --> 00:37:13,962
in a relationship as well.
959
00:37:13,962 --> 00:37:14,000
in a relationship as well.
960
00:37:15,767 --> 00:37:18,567
[Chris] I feel like we're
still continuing to learn
961
00:37:18,567 --> 00:37:19,667
-[Amy] Mmm-hmm.
-about each other,
962
00:37:19,667 --> 00:37:22,567
and how to happily
live with each other.
963
00:37:22,567 --> 00:37:25,800
But for me, there's never
been a single moment
964
00:37:25,867 --> 00:37:29,000
or instance where I've had
any doubt or regret.
965
00:37:29,000 --> 00:37:30,867
-That you wanted to run?
-Yeah.
966
00:37:30,867 --> 00:37:32,300
Neither have I.
967
00:37:33,467 --> 00:37:35,567
Here's to the continuation
968
00:37:35,567 --> 00:37:37,967
of the sweetness
of life together.
969
00:37:37,967 --> 00:37:39,166
Here's to the next six months.
970
00:37:40,100 --> 00:37:42,367
-I love you.
-I love you, too.
971
00:37:42,367 --> 00:37:43,500
[Amy] Mmm.
972
00:37:55,300 --> 00:37:57,266
What are they gonna do
in the dunk tank?
973
00:37:58,200 --> 00:37:59,467
Where is that dunking table?
974
00:37:59,467 --> 00:38:02,300
-I think it's outside
on the back patio.
-Oh.
975
00:38:02,367 --> 00:38:06,000
Today's my last day,
uh, here in Arizona
visiting my mother,
976
00:38:06,000 --> 00:38:09,367
and there's a kind
of a country fair, carnival,
977
00:38:09,367 --> 00:38:11,667
uh, themed party going on
978
00:38:11,667 --> 00:38:13,300
at her center today.
979
00:38:13,367 --> 00:38:16,500
Keeps everybody, you know,
active and entertained.
980
00:38:16,567 --> 00:38:17,390
Drench 'em, Caroline.
981
00:38:17,390 --> 00:38:18,000
Drench 'em, Caroline.
982
00:38:19,867 --> 00:38:21,200
[laughing]
983
00:38:21,266 --> 00:38:22,467
[woman] Here we go.
984
00:38:22,467 --> 00:38:24,800
[people shouting] Ohhh!
985
00:38:24,867 --> 00:38:26,266
[people cheering]
986
00:38:27,367 --> 00:38:29,867
[Matt] My mother is doing
surprisingly well,
987
00:38:29,867 --> 00:38:31,500
and she's taking
care of herself.
988
00:38:31,567 --> 00:38:35,200
She's figuring out how
to be independent again, um,
989
00:38:35,266 --> 00:38:37,000
and I'm very,
very proud of her.
990
00:38:37,066 --> 00:38:38,467
She's sort of stepped up.
991
00:38:38,467 --> 00:38:40,467
Can you throw that far?
992
00:38:40,467 --> 00:38:42,367
-Oh, to that little flag?
-You gotta hit that bucket.
993
00:38:43,400 --> 00:38:44,900
[people cheering]
994
00:38:46,266 --> 00:38:47,390
{\an8}-[Peggy] Okay, can I get
a little closer?
-[woman speaking]
995
00:38:47,390 --> 00:38:48,000
{\an8}-[Peggy] Okay, can I get
a little closer?
-[woman speaking]
996
00:38:50,567 --> 00:38:52,800
{\an8}-Aw. Oh!
-[woman speaking]
997
00:38:53,667 --> 00:38:55,000
{\an8}Okay, I'm gonna go
a little closer.
998
00:38:55,066 --> 00:38:57,266
{\an8}Right on your
nose, huh? [laughs]
999
00:38:57,266 --> 00:38:58,600
{\an8}Hey, that's too close!
1000
00:39:00,400 --> 00:39:01,967
{\an8}-[Peggy] Oh!
-[people cheering]
1001
00:39:03,667 --> 00:39:05,100
{\an8}[laughing] Sorry.
1002
00:39:05,166 --> 00:39:07,000
{\an8}Oh, I did good. Yeah.
1003
00:39:07,066 --> 00:39:08,467
Finally!
1004
00:39:10,066 --> 00:39:12,266
-Could you have
gotten any closer?
-[both laugh]
1005
00:39:12,266 --> 00:39:14,400
-No, I started
to walk up on them.
-Yeah.
1006
00:39:14,467 --> 00:39:16,567
-You could've hit them
with your hand.
-Yup.
1007
00:39:16,567 --> 00:39:17,390
I'm very, very happy
for what I've seen so far.
1008
00:39:17,390 --> 00:39:18,000
I'm very, very happy
for what I've seen so far.
1009
00:39:19,166 --> 00:39:21,600
Um, just, if she doesn't fall
1010
00:39:21,667 --> 00:39:23,500
and break a bone, or her hip,
1011
00:39:23,567 --> 00:39:25,266
or some catastrophe,
1012
00:39:25,266 --> 00:39:29,667
she could, um,
stay independent,
you know, indefinitely.
1013
00:39:29,667 --> 00:39:31,667
-Um, okay, well,
that was a lot of fun.
-It was.
1014
00:39:31,667 --> 00:39:34,967
Okay. Keep, um, you know,
up with your meds.
1015
00:39:34,967 --> 00:39:37,400
-Come back soon.
-Come back soon,
keep up with your meds.
1016
00:39:37,467 --> 00:39:39,567
I'm really glad I get
to be able to spend this time
1017
00:39:39,567 --> 00:39:41,467
with my mom, and, um,
1018
00:39:41,467 --> 00:39:44,100
you know, I'm hoping
if I make it into my 80s,
1019
00:39:44,166 --> 00:39:45,967
then I get to be as, you know,
1020
00:39:45,967 --> 00:39:47,390
get to be as close
to the family as she is.
1021
00:39:47,390 --> 00:39:48,000
get to be as close
to the family as she is.
1022
00:39:49,266 --> 00:39:51,000
You're in good hands here.
1023
00:39:51,000 --> 00:39:53,100
-I'm in very good hands here.
-And I'm very proud of you,
you're doing super good.
1024
00:39:53,100 --> 00:39:55,367
-Dad would be so pleased.
-He'd be very pleased.
1025
00:39:55,367 --> 00:39:58,867
My dad, he was
a solid human being.
Solid character.
1026
00:39:58,867 --> 00:40:01,500
Set a great example
for all of his grandkids
1027
00:40:01,567 --> 00:40:03,867
and great-grandkids,
you know, so.
1028
00:40:03,867 --> 00:40:07,367
He, he has a,
it's a high bar, and, uh,
1029
00:40:07,367 --> 00:40:11,266
he would've put out
a big effort to make sure that
1030
00:40:11,266 --> 00:40:14,567
other relationships heal
and that people got along,
1031
00:40:14,567 --> 00:40:16,767
and everybody
loved each other,
1032
00:40:16,767 --> 00:40:17,390
and that the family
stuck together through
thick and thin.
1033
00:40:17,390 --> 00:40:18,000
and that the family
stuck together through
thick and thin.
1034
00:40:19,767 --> 00:40:22,367
-See you.
-Anyway, I'll see you
in a couple weeks, okay?
1035
00:40:22,367 --> 00:40:24,767
-All right, love you.
-See you. Okay, bye,
love you too, sweetheart.
1036
00:40:24,767 --> 00:40:27,667
And, um, I'm gonna
do my best to, you know,
1037
00:40:27,667 --> 00:40:28,900
follow in his footsteps
1038
00:40:28,967 --> 00:40:31,400
and, you know, I'm gonna do
my best to honor his memory.
1039
00:40:31,467 --> 00:40:33,400
Family's important,
and I'm, you know,
1040
00:40:33,467 --> 00:40:35,100
always gonna love my kids.
1041
00:40:35,166 --> 00:40:38,066
And I get it.
I'm a dominant force,
1042
00:40:38,066 --> 00:40:40,100
you know, in everything
that I do.
1043
00:40:40,100 --> 00:40:43,567
I apologize, but that's just
the way that I am.
1044
00:40:43,567 --> 00:40:45,767
So there's no doubt
I look back and think,
1045
00:40:45,767 --> 00:40:47,266
"Oh, I could've
done this better."
1046
00:40:47,266 --> 00:40:47,390
You know, but I think
it's time to look
towards the future
1047
00:40:47,390 --> 00:40:48,000
You know, but I think
it's time to look
towards the future
1048
00:40:51,367 --> 00:40:53,367
and not towards the past.
1049
00:40:57,000 --> 00:40:59,467
{\an8}[announcer] Next on
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1050
00:40:59,467 --> 00:41:01,000
{\an8}[Zach] Last night was rough.
1051
00:41:01,000 --> 00:41:03,667
{\an8}Last night was R-U-F-F, rough.
1052
00:41:03,667 --> 00:41:06,266
Sleep training is just,
it's been impossible.
1053
00:41:06,266 --> 00:41:08,100
[wailing]
1054
00:41:08,100 --> 00:41:10,500
I haven't slept since
I gave birth to him.
1055
00:41:13,166 --> 00:41:15,100
-[Amy] Hey, hey, hey.
-[Tori] How are ya?
1056
00:41:15,100 --> 00:41:16,900
[Matt] Chris and Amy
are gonna talk about
1057
00:41:16,967 --> 00:41:17,390
their involvement
in pumpkin season.
1058
00:41:17,390 --> 00:41:18,000
their involvement
in pumpkin season.
1059
00:41:18,567 --> 00:41:20,166
So let's get down to business.
1060
00:41:20,166 --> 00:41:22,467
What are you guys, um,
are you still on board?
1061
00:41:22,467 --> 00:41:24,266
[Amy]
Everything that's going on,
1062
00:41:24,266 --> 00:41:26,400
how this whole
farm thing went down,
1063
00:41:26,467 --> 00:41:28,800
I think, you know,
we're all trying to figure out
1064
00:41:28,867 --> 00:41:30,467
this is still family,
1065
00:41:30,467 --> 00:41:34,000
but how do we interact
with that family now?
1066
00:41:34,000 --> 00:41:36,100
Okay, so you're doing
pumpkin season this year?
1067
00:41:36,166 --> 00:41:37,467
Are you?
1068
00:41:37,467 --> 00:41:39,767
Things have changed,
you know, the place
is up for sale.
1069
00:41:39,767 --> 00:41:41,467
And then of course, you know,
1070
00:41:41,467 --> 00:41:44,100
-the whole thing between
Matt and Chris.
-Their little bromance.
1071
00:41:44,100 --> 00:41:46,567
-Yeah.
-Are you okay with that?
1072
00:41:46,567 --> 00:41:47,390
[Tori] I don't know,
we, like, worry about you.
1073
00:41:47,390 --> 00:41:48,000
[Tori] I don't know,
we, like, worry about you.
1074
00:41:48,467 --> 00:41:51,000
-Just, like, we wanna
make sure that you're, like...
-Aw, my kids.
1075
00:41:51,066 --> 00:41:53,100
[Amy] I think I came away
from divorce
1076
00:41:53,100 --> 00:41:55,800
knowing that I've got
four kids to still
be here for,
1077
00:41:55,867 --> 00:41:57,300
so they gave me a purpose.
1078
00:41:57,367 --> 00:42:00,767
{\an8}And they will
always be, till...
1079
00:42:04,567 --> 00:42:07,700
{\an8}[Caryn] So, you said
you had a big plan B.
1080
00:42:07,767 --> 00:42:10,800
{\an8}Occasionally even
Matt Roloff's thick skull,
1081
00:42:10,867 --> 00:42:12,400
{\an8}you know, you feel like
you get hit in the head
1082
00:42:12,467 --> 00:42:13,900
{\an8}with a hammer
and it wakes you up.
1083
00:42:13,967 --> 00:42:16,567
{\an8}Are you gonna tell everybody?
1084
00:42:16,567 --> 00:42:17,390
{\an8}It's time to listen, [laughs]
1085
00:42:17,390 --> 00:42:18,000
{\an8}It's time to listen, [laughs]
1086
00:42:20,166 --> 00:42:22,867
{\an8}to the hammer hitting
the side of my skull
1087
00:42:22,867 --> 00:42:25,266
{\an8}and do something different
with the farm.