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I've been through a war.
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Parasites--my brother had parasites in his brain.
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An epic,epic war.
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I know.But the good news is that we won.
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Archer is nearly himself again.
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Nearly?
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What,what,what,is something wrong?
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No.No,no,no.god,no.No,no,no.
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Everything is fine.
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All parts are working.
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-Okay,my brother,my brother,my brother,my brother.
-Sorry.
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It's just that it's...
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it's good.We're really good.
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You know,I...
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-I think he's my boyfriend.
-What?
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Well,you know,he sleeps over every night and he calls constantly.
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He's been talking lately.
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Addison,I think I have a man.
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archer is committing.
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All right.I'm getting another bottle of wine.
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Yes,please.
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Easy.Just got stitches.
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Archer?
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Archer.Archer!
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What are you-- shame on you.
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Is this your wife?
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Are you married?
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No,but...
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he has a girlfriend who is here.
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damn it.
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Look,I'm sure you're a very nice person but
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-- a little old to be getting felt up in the foyer-- but now it's all the best.
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Bye-bye now.
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yoU.
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You've gotta get that lipstick wiped off your face.
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is this pre or post sex?
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I hope you used a condom,you whore.
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I'm in trouble,right?
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hey,dell.Can I call...
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yeah,is she...
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is she okay?
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okay.
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Great.I'll,I'll be right there.Thanks,bye.
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Addison,anything to eat?
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Hey,I'm edible.
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What are you doing here?
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Okay,you two,you just do whatever it is the two of you do.I gotta go.
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come on,come on,bear down.One more big push.
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It's a fast labor.I'm sorry.I thought I could do this one solo.
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You're doing great.
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Come on,leanne.You're almost there.
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good.Good,good,good,good,good.
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I can see his head.
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All right,great.The baby's coming.Come on,leanne.Come on.
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you did it.
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matthew.
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He's here.He's here.
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I want to hold him.
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Can I hold my little boy?
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come on.
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What's wrong?
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It's not a boy.
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What--what,the ultrasound was wrong?
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It's a girl?
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I'm not re.
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Proudly Presents
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Private Pratice
Season 2 Episode 17
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I know this is impossibly hard,and we don't have all the answers ye but...
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your baby has something like a penis.
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There's also a vaginal opening.
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the baby's heart and lungs and brain are-- are all very healthy,
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and--and that's important for you to understand.
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But what is it?
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We'll run some genetic and hormonal tests.
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I'll consult with my colleague dr.Bennett.
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She's an excellent endocrinologist.We're gonna get you answers.
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Okay,well,until then,uh,I mean,what-- what do we tell people?
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I mean,what do we-- what do we call him?
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He's--he's matthew.
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He's--he's supposed to be...
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he's supposed to be matthew.
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Why'd you go to seattle?
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I'm sorry.
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It's just,it's running through my mind on a loop,like a song I can't stop humming.
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So I have to ask-- seattle,why'd you go?
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Archer's surgery.
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Look,naomi likes to pretend like she has it all together£¬
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-but--she's an ivy-league-educated doctor with the best shoe collection I've ever seen,so she does have it all gether.
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Usually,but,archer getting sick...
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you thought she'd ed a shoulder to lean on.
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Yeah.
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Okay.
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Is it...
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okay?
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I think it's great.
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You've managed the impossible,you know?
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You've--you've maintained a good relationship with your ex...
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which is why I like you.
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I like you,too.
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you wanna go again?
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Yes,please.
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hey,violet.
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Hi,sheldon.
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I-I was wondering,I run a couples' therapy group,and my co-leader is down with a stomach bug,and
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--and think it's very important that we have a male and female therapist
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-- you know,role modeling and communicatiomodeling.
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And,I wondered if you'd like to fill in.
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I know,not such a great idea considering,but...
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no,no.
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I-I,I think it's good.
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I like working with couples.
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Are you sure?
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Yeah.What time?
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Our conference room at 1:00.It's lunchtime.
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Okay,see you then.
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Violet.
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How is it...
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the baby?
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-It's fine.
-Good.
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That's good that it's fine,because
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-- sheldon,I would really appreciate it if we didn'talk about this right now,
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because I don't know if I can handle it.
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Okay?But I'll see you later.
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Hey,pete.
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you got that look-- that "it's impossible to decipher violet" look.
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I've just given up.
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I'm going with cool.
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Not cold,just cool.
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hell.I'll go with cold.
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Yeah.
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Therapy should be interesting.
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You and violet are in therapy?
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no.
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No,we're doing therapy together.
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It's a couples' group.
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You're leading it as a couple?
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Yes,we are.
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Good luck with that.
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you should have seen the look on their faces,naomi.
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It was awful,like this is their fault.
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Are you okay?
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What?
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No,what...
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what do we tell them?
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--Well,I wish I had a good answer,but the baby does have 11-beta hydroxylase deficiency.--What is it?
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It is an enzyme deficiency that causes an overproduction of testosterone in the baby in utero.
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That's why the baby has both male and female sex organs.
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Karyotype is x-X.
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So the baby's a girl?
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Well,no.It's not that simple.
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Yes,genetically,it is a girl,but about 30% of these cases,these kids orient towards male.
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So we can't tell the parents what sex the baby is?
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Well,they'll have to choose,and then we can surgically correct the genitalia.
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Wait,you just said there's a 30% margin for error.
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Post-operative healing is faster and it leaves the genitalia functional.
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I'll support it with hormone therapy.
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Yeah,but what if they choose wrong,and the baby orients the other way?
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Exactly.We should have them choose the gender now,but not do surgery.
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Let them the raise the baby as a boy or a girl,
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and then when the baby becomes an adolescent,it makes up its own mind.
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That's the problem.
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Leaving it an "it.
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" Every sleepover,every-- every swim party or locker room is gonna be cause for panic.
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Well,maybe it should be whatever it is and never lop off any body parts.
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and I was worried I'd be missing all the fun.
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Lopping off body parts?
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Intersex baby.
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Can of worms.
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some people think gender is hardwired,so
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whatever you do,it's not gonna change the outcome.Me?I find it freakish.Lop ay.
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how was yourirst day back?
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It's perfect now.
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good morning,dr.King.
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move in with me,cooper.
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Charlotte-- I know you care about violet and her baby.
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And I understand why you wanted to move in with heR.
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But you can still be there for both of them without living at her place.
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Violet's afraid to be alone.
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So I need to be there for heR.
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I'm your girlfriend.
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And I am here for you.
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And living with violet,it doesn't change that.
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my patience only goes so far.
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so...
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it's a boy,but it could also be a girl?
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My god.
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What are we supposed to do?
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How do we decide?
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Well,the odds say that your baby will most likely identify as a female,
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so we can do corrective surgery and give the baby the appropriate genitalia.
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You--you want to take my baby-- my son--and cut off his penis?
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Alternately,you can choose a gender now,raise the baby,and then when he or she matures,you reevaluate.
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And hide this for his entire childhood?
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What would we tell him?
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I mean,how do you-- how do you even begin to explain this to a little kid?
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Well,that not everybody's the same,that it's okay to be different.
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But it's not okay.
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Kids are cruel.
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One kid sees him in the bathroom,everyone's talking,teasing him.
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I mean,that's-- that's what kids do.
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That's not the life we want.
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We need to make this right.
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We need to put this behind us,behind him or her and make it right.
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But what's the best way?
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I like women.I like a lot of women.
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But I am not married to naomi,
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-and she is not the mother of my children.
-Naomi sat
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--by your side while you had surgery,she held your hand.
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You're upstairs sticking your tongue down her throat,seeing her every day,
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letting her believe that you two have something together-- well,I thought I was dying.
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You are...
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you are asking me to lie for you.
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you are making me feel dirty and cheap,
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and I'm 10 years old again telling mother that I went out for ice cream with daddy
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when really I'm sitting in his office while he's screwing his secretary down the hall.
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I'm too much of a snob to screw sretaries.
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-You think this is funny?!
-No.
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I think that you're one to talk.
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I seem to remember something about you doing your husband's best friend behind his back.
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That was once.I slipped once.
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okay,so you're like-- you're like an alcoholic?
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-You're on a program...
-my god.
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-You...-"god grant me the serenity" and all that crap?
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Are so mean when you know that I am right.
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You know what?I am mean when I want you to mind your own business.
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I won't keep your secrets for-- yes,you will.
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Montgomerys look the other way when it is none of their business.
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Now there's a sight for sore eyes.
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I got patients lined up for weeks waiting for you to get back.
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Well,that's me-- money in the bank.
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I like money in the bank.
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What?
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I like your brother.
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He's my golden boy.
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Beverly.
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You okay?
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I'm fine.I just,uh...
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I had to see you again.
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This is the fourth time this week.
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Well,I checked your schedule.I know you have an opening.
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Beverly-- come on,pete.Just a quickie.
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Okay.
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I feel like paul doesn't share much of himselwith me either.
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He hardly wants to have sex anymore.
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I get home from work,I'm tired,and you don't seem that interested.
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But when I ask you what's going on,you won't talk to me.
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I want to know what's going on with you up here.
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See,there's your first mistake,thinking much of anything goes on for us guys up here.
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you know what I think,greg?
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I think we guys like women to think that.
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Maybe we think it ourselves,but part of that is that we don't look at ourselves,
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don't ask ourselves what we're thinking or feeling.
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exactly.
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I mean,the truth is,all of us have things going on inside.
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I mean,right now,everyone in this room,
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sheldon and me included,have a thousand things going on.
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And the trick is to open yourself to that and to share it.
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Well,that--that's not to say,of course,that there aren't pieces you want to keep to yourself.
259
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-You don't want to lose yourself in a relationship.
-No.
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No,but the beauty of good communication is that when you share
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-- share what you're thinking,good or bad
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-- you both feel better,maybe help each other.
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Ryan and I used to have that.
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Back in high school when we met,we talked about everything.
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And now all you want to talk about are the kids.
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That's not true.
267
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But I'm there with them all day.
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Y-you don't want to know about that?
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That's my world.
270
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I know it's hard,herein the group,but talking--it really will make things better.
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Beverly...
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I love seeing you,but this has gotta stop.
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I can't stay away.
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Whatever you do,whenever you put yourands on me,I swear,it's...magic.
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It's not magic,and it's not
276
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-- hey,I've been reading up a lot on reiki therapy,healing hands.
277
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It's supposed to be incredible.
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Let's try it.
279
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I'm not a specialist at reiki.I can't do that.
280
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Pete,you can do whatever you want to me.
281
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As a doctor,I can't keep pretending this is okay.
282
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Come on.Just one more time.
283
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It's been taken care of.
284
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If you could just file it,that would be great.Thanks.
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-Hi.
-Hello.
286
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You know what?
287
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We haven't been speaking for two weeks.I...
288
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miss you.
289
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Don't treat me like the pervert next door.
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If you lived next door,we wouldn't be having the problem.
291
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You know what?I want to get past this.We need to get past this.
292
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What's it gonna take for you to forgive me?
293
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I don't know,cooper.
294
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I'm working on it.
295
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We walked past your wall of pictures
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-- all those kids--happy and sweet and,normal.
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And that's what...
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our baby should be.
299
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And surgery can do that.
300
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Surgery can give your baby gender-distinct genitalia,yes.
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And we can know?
302
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We can stop saying...
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"it"?
304
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Great.So let-- let's do that.
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Can we do it soon?
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I can book an O.R.For tomorrow.
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Afterward,we'll supplement with estrogen she'll be as healthy as possible.
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No.
309
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No,no,no.
310
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That's not what we want.
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It was clear to us from the second we saw his face-- he'S...
312
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he's matthew.
313
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But only 30% of these babies orient toward male.
314
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You said you don't know.
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We know.
316
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He's our son.
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You're gonna give us our son.
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I just saw ryan and eleanor in the stairwell.
319
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You mean ryan and sasha?
320
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N-no,I mean ryan and eleanor.
321
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They were communicating,lip-to-lip.
322
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D-did they see you?
323
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No,they were too focused.
324
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I can't believe this.
325
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Maybe it's a cry for help.
326
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A-an affair in a stairwell after marriage counseling is a cry for help?
327
00:15:19,590 --> 00:15:21,920
Well,they haven't been able to communicate in their own relationships,
328
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so they do this awful thing where they could get caught because they want to force the communication.
329
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Only we can't tell on them.
330
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It's not like they disclosed this in session.
331
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I don't think the waivers apply.
332
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Well,I'm not suggesting outing them.
333
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I'm just saying,we get them to tell.
334
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How is exposing an affair going to improve communication?
335
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So we let the secret keep festering till it poisons every aspect of the group?
336
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It'll become the 800-pound gorilla in the room.
337
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As therapists,we need to acknowledge that gorilla and take steps to deal with it.
338
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We don't know what they feel about this.
339
00:15:46,660 --> 00:15:48,600
We don't know what they think about it.They could be in love.
340
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This could be a onetime thing.
341
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Which is why we need to talk to them.
342
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Look,what I think-- as bad as this is,
343
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getting them to confess could be the breakthrough the group needs.
344
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I was rprised that you changed your mind about doing the surgery.
345
00:16:02,760 --> 00:16:03,990
Well,I can help them,nai.
346
00:16:04,060 --> 00:16:08,215
You know,the thompsons,they are desperate to change their situation,
347
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for them and for the baby.
348
00:16:11,320 --> 00:16:12,690
And...
349
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you made a very good case that surgery is the only way to really do that.
350
00:16:16,370 --> 00:16:18,010
I did,but...
351
00:16:18,070 --> 00:16:18,830
a boy?
352
00:16:18,910 --> 00:16:20,530
The odds are stacked against that.
353
00:16:20,600 --> 00:16:22,030
Gender's not my choice.It's theirs.
354
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And they want him past this.
355
00:16:23,430 --> 00:16:25,430
They want him better,and I can help.
356
00:16:25,480 --> 00:16:27,580
Hey,speaking of better...
357
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I was thinking of borrowing archer for a few days.
358
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A weekend in palm springs.
359
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You know,sleeping late,getting massages-- nai.
360
00:16:35,400 --> 00:16:36,680
What?
361
00:16:36,760 --> 00:16:39,090
Do--do you think that's a good idea?
362
00:16:39,140 --> 00:16:40,320
A trip with me?
363
00:16:40,380 --> 00:16:42,430
No,no.I mean,just,you know...
364
00:16:42,510 --> 00:16:43,070
healthwise.
365
00:16:43,150 --> 00:16:45,620
he--he can go back to work,but--but...
366
00:16:45,680 --> 00:16:47,620
-going to a spa is strenuous?
-no,no,no.
367
00:16:47,700 --> 00:16:49,320
But I mean,you know archer.
368
00:16:49,380 --> 00:16:53,360
I mean,he's--he's-- he's gonna want to play golf,tennis.He'll--he'll push himself.
369
00:16:53,430 --> 00:16:54,370
You don't want me to go.
370
00:16:54,430 --> 00:16:57,600
No!No.I do--it's just...
371
00:16:57,680 --> 00:16:58,410
why rush it?
372
00:16:58,470 --> 00:17:05,000
Because I want to go away with my boyfriend,like a woman,like a-a woman with a lover.
373
00:17:05,050 --> 00:17:06,630
Lover?
374
00:17:06,700 --> 00:17:08,080
Lover.I like that.
375
00:17:08,150 --> 00:17:09,750
That's a lot better than boyfriend.
376
00:17:09,820 --> 00:17:11,210
He's my lover.
377
00:17:11,270 --> 00:17:12,600
What do you think?
378
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-Lover.
-no.Yeah,it sounds stupid.
379
00:17:15,530 --> 00:17:16,790
It sounds like a soap opera.
380
00:17:16,840 --> 00:17:20,280
No,no,it's not-- what about paramour?
381
00:17:27,390 --> 00:17:29,270
Arch,come on.We're gonna be late.
382
00:17:32,480 --> 00:17:35,750
You really need to lea how to knock.
383
00:17:40,200 --> 00:17:41,480
I'm sorry.
384
00:17:41,520 --> 00:17:44,180
No.That's,that's just what I get.
385
00:17:44,240 --> 00:17:45,440
Hey,you okay?
386
00:17:45,540 --> 00:17:46,190
Don't touch me.
387
00:17:46,280 --> 00:17:47,380
'Cause my sister walked in?
388
00:17:47,450 --> 00:17:51,030
No.We just...we never shod've...
389
00:17:51,090 --> 00:17:53,750
I never should've done it.
390
00:18:02,720 --> 00:18:04,770
where are,archer and addison?
391
00:18:04,840 --> 00:18:06,190
Addison's waiting for him at the office.
392
00:18:06,240 --> 00:18:07,490
It's his first day back.
393
00:18:07,570 --> 00:18:09,080
He's got a lot of work to catch up on,so...
394
00:18:09,150 --> 00:18:12,240
charlotte's probably holding his feet to the fire.
395
00:18:15,690 --> 00:18:17,110
Where's archer?
396
00:18:17,200 --> 00:18:18,850
he,he got stuck at the office.
397
00:18:18,910 --> 00:18:20,850
I-I don't think he's gonna make it.
398
00:18:20,920 --> 00:18:22,990
Aren't we here celebrating his first day back?
399
00:18:23,040 --> 00:18:24,390
Well,maybe I should call him.
400
00:18:24,450 --> 00:18:27,650
he was with a patient when I-I left.
401
00:18:27,790 --> 00:18:29,620
I'm gonna get a drink.
402
00:18:34,300 --> 00:18:35,530
what***
403
00:18:35,590 --> 00:18:37,360
Scotch,neat.
404
00:18:39,620 --> 00:18:40,960
What...
405
00:18:41,700 --> 00:18:42,880
how come you're not with them?
406
00:18:42,940 --> 00:18:44,080
I decided I like the quiet.
407
00:18:44,160 --> 00:18:45,600
Yeah,me,too.
408
00:18:46,350 --> 00:18:48,130
I thought you'd be in a great mood.
409
00:18:48,220 --> 00:18:50,020
Archer's back at work,things are back to normal.
410
00:18:50,100 --> 00:18:52,230
Yeah,you'd think.
411
00:18:54,430 --> 00:18:55,620
What?
412
00:18:57,110 --> 00:18:59,230
Can I tell you something...
413
00:18:59,320 --> 00:19:01,190
and you can't tell...
414
00:19:02,050 --> 00:19:03,780
you can't tell anyone?
415
00:19:03,890 --> 00:19:05,480
Anything.
416
00:19:08,420 --> 00:19:09,030
Dison?
417
00:19:09,110 --> 00:19:10,790
never mind.Forget it.
418
00:19:10,900 --> 00:19:11,850
Hey,don't do that.
419
00:19:11,920 --> 00:19:14,560
Don't--don't shut yourself off from me.
420
00:19:14,630 --> 00:19:16,550
you don'tneed to see my crazy.
421
00:19:16,640 --> 00:19:19,970
you don't think I have crazy?
422
00:19:23,540 --> 00:19:25,370
do you feel left out?
423
00:19:25,450 --> 00:19:26,590
No.
424
00:19:26,680 --> 00:19:28,510
I feel...
425
00:19:30,060 --> 00:19:31,620
broken.
426
00:19:33,950 --> 00:19:37,480
archer is cheating on naomi...
427
00:19:37,580 --> 00:19:43,800
which is wrong on so many levels,but mostly because he's gonna hurt her.
428
00:19:43,870 --> 00:19:45,910
He will,and there's nothing...
429
00:19:45,980 --> 00:19:48,940
I just...I can'T...
430
00:19:52,230 --> 00:19:54,000
it's okay.
431
00:19:54,090 --> 00:19:55,470
You're okay.
432
00:19:55,540 --> 00:19:56,900
What do I do?
433
00:19:57,200 --> 00:20:00,430
People make their own choices.
434
00:20:00,500 --> 00:20:02,010
You can't do it for them.
435
00:20:07,470 --> 00:20:11,920
yes,well,that is.Buit's not--it's not-- I don't think it's-- sorry I'm late.
1
00:20:33,520 --> 00:20:34,860
you want to talk about this?
2
00:20:34,860 --> 00:20:36,450
-Will it help? -No.
3
00:20:36,450 --> 00:20:38,190
Then what's the point?
4
00:20:38,190 --> 00:20:39,110
Addie.
5
00:20:39,110 --> 00:20:40,730
Don'T...
6
00:20:40,730 --> 00:20:43,260
don't be this guy,archer.
7
00:20:43,260 --> 00:20:47,440
Don't be this limited,short-sighted,not-good-enough guy,please.
8
00:20:47,440 --> 00:20:49,610
Look,I like naomi.I really do.
9
00:20:49,610 --> 00:20:52,230
It's just...
10
00:20:52,230 --> 00:20:53,660
I'm sorry.
11
00:20:53,660 --> 00:20:55,460
Don't apologize to me.Why don't you apologize to her?
12
00:20:55,460 --> 00:20:57,840
You know,I hated him.I hated dad for years.
13
00:20:57,840 --> 00:21:00,480
Past tense.Hated.What,do you love him now?Now he's your hero?
14
00:21:00,480 --> 00:21:02,000
I am him,addison.
15
00:21:02,000 --> 00:21:03,280
I am him!
16
00:21:03,280 --> 00:21:04,310
Like father,like son.
17
00:21:04,310 --> 00:21:06,600
You know,whatever he passed down to me,I'm missing a gene.
18
00:21:06,600 --> 00:21:08,100
You don't think I want to be better?
19
00:21:08,100 --> 00:21:10,080
You don't think I want to be a good man in a storm?
20
00:21:10,080 --> 00:21:11,110
I don't have it in me.
21
00:21:11,110 --> 00:21:12,370
That's a cop-out.
22
00:21:12,370 --> 00:21:16,490
Maybe it is,but it's honest.
23
00:21:21,390 --> 00:21:24,210
do you usually do this,have us come in alone?
24
00:21:24,210 --> 00:21:26,490
Sheldon's never done this before.
25
00:21:26,490 --> 00:21:31,260
Well,sometimes I find things that are best serv outside the group.
26
00:21:38,160 --> 00:21:40,200
What's going on?
27
00:21:40,760 --> 00:21:43,760
I saw you in the stairwell yesterday.
28
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god.
29
00:21:45,180 --> 00:21:46,510
It just happened.
30
00:21:46,510 --> 00:21:52,270
After the first session,ryan and I,we started talking,anD...
31
00:21:52,270 --> 00:21:53,310
it was easy.
32
00:21:53,310 --> 00:21:56,940
Everything you said about communication that we coul't do with our spouses,
33
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the o of us could.
34
00:22:01,150 --> 00:22:02,740
Are you gonna tell?
35
00:22:02,740 --> 00:22:05,370
Uh,you can't do that.
36
00:22:05,370 --> 00:22:07,460
Can you?
37
00:22:07,460 --> 00:22:09,900
You might think that keeping this a secret is a good thing
38
00:22:09,900 --> 00:22:11,950
and that holding it in is better,
39
00:22:11,950 --> 00:22:15,660
but I think it would be best for both of you to go home,
40
00:22:15,660 --> 00:22:19,230
talk to your spouses and work together to try to figure this out.
41
00:22:19,230 --> 00:22:24,140
You came to the group to work on your marriages,to make things better.
42
00:22:24,140 --> 00:22:28,290
Is that still what you want,to work on your marriages?
43
00:22:28,700 --> 00:22:30,280
We want to be together.
44
00:22:30,280 --> 00:22:35,090
And if telling our spouses is the first step to a new life together...
45
00:22:35,820 --> 00:22:38,820
we'll do it.
46
00:22:42,000 --> 00:22:45,460
Instead of wanting to save their marriage,they're just willing to walk away.
47
00:22:45,460 --> 00:22:47,640
Well,maybe it's a good thing.
48
00:22:47,640 --> 00:22:49,330
I mean,if it's not working,why force it?
49
00:22:49,330 --> 00:22:53,790
I don't know what's worse-- to be faithful in a loveless marriage or to cheat to find true love.
50
00:22:53,790 --> 00:22:55,150
what are we talking about?
51
00:22:55,150 --> 00:22:57,010
keeping secrets.
52
00:22:57,010 --> 00:22:59,430
That's tough,keing people's secrets.
53
00:22:59,430 --> 00:23:00,960
Yeah,that's why it's better not to.
54
00:23:00,960 --> 00:23:04,370
I mean,if--if you care about that person,you just tell 'em,bottom line.
55
00:23:04,370 --> 00:23:05,860
especially in a marriage.
56
00:23:05,860 --> 00:23:08,560
The bond between a husband and wife is sacrosanct.
57
00:23:08,560 --> 00:23:11,610
Like the bond between a parent and a child.
58
00:23:13,890 --> 00:23:15,090
how is the thompson baby?
59
00:23:15,090 --> 00:23:16,580
I'm operating today.
60
00:23:16,580 --> 00:23:19,300
The parents want a boy,and I think it's important to respect that.
61
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What about what that kid wants?
62
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He's a little young to make that decision.
63
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I hope you make the right onE.
64
00:23:25,840 --> 00:23:28,170
Are you hungry?
65
00:23:28,170 --> 00:23:29,810
Frustrated.
66
00:23:29,810 --> 00:23:31,630
Charlotte acts like I'm cheating on her.
67
00:23:31,630 --> 00:23:33,510
I mean,here I am trying to be the good guy...
68
00:23:33,510 --> 00:23:34,870
all I get is guilt.
69
00:23:34,870 --> 00:23:38,660
I'm--I'm really not the person you should talk to about this,cooper.
70
00:23:38,660 --> 00:23:40,970
Talk to her.
71
00:23:49,740 --> 00:23:53,020
Charlotte,we need to talk.
72
00:23:54,030 --> 00:23:55,580
Charlotte.
73
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Stop.
74
00:23:56,990 --> 00:24:00,110
Stop treating me like I've done something horrible,
75
00:24:00,110 --> 00:24:04,470
like taking care of my friend is cheating on you.
76
00:24:05,090 --> 00:24:06,530
-You don't know-- -no,you don't know.
77
00:24:06,530 --> 00:24:09,480
All I've ever wanted to do is make you happy.
78
00:24:09,480 --> 00:24:12,420
I can't do that if you're shutting me out.
79
00:24:16,700 --> 00:24:18,270
Please.
80
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I...
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addison?
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Addison?
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You ready to do this?
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Hey,I'm sorry we left so early last night.It'S...
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I just,uh,I think archer's just so glad to be healthy again,that we,uh...
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m sorry.No,never mind.I know...
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some details I just have to keep to myself.
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I asked him about going away,and,uh,we're thinking maybe next weekend.
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and I-I came up with a name for him.
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"Beau.
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" He's my beau.
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You know,it's--it's simple and it's a little old-fashioned,but still,I think it's better than "boyfriend.
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" I can't do this.
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Addison?
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Is something wrong?You said it was gonna be hours.
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I can't do this.I'm sorry.
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-I can't do the surgery. -Is the baby sick?
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No,no,no.The baby is fine.
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That's just it.
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The baby is fine.
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But you,naomi,we all want to change the baby into a him,into something that he's not.
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So you--you just want to leave him a freak?
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He--he's not a freak.
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Well,he is if they don't the surgery.
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Please,you gotta do this.Give us our son.
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I can'T.I can't do it.I won'T.
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uh,okay.Well,uh...
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if you want a boy,you can still have a boy.
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You can take him home and--and call him matthew and love him and accept himfor what he is
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and raise him so that,when the time comes,
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he'll make the choice that's-- that's right for him.
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And meanwhile,what,our--our kid should hide?
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Be embarrassed,humiliated,what?
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We could protect him.
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What do you think it'll be like to be a 6-year-old boy with a vagina?
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Imagine being a 20-year-old woman without one.
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We'll--we'll find another surgeon,someone who will do this.
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No.
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She's right.
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We need to think about this.
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It is too important to just hurt him this way.
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Him.That's right,him.
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That in there,our baby,it's a him.
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And leaving him like this,it's not right.
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I don't want to make a mistake.
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Well,I can'T.I can'T.I can't do this.All right?
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I can't do this.
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I can't--I can't take that home and hope it turns out right.
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I can't--I can't...
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I can't change that diaper every day and...
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I can't do this.
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I can'T.
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Mitch.
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Mitch!
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Did yesterday's session...
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bring up anything?
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R-ryan came to me.
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He--he said he wanted to talk.
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I was s-surprised.
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It had been so long.
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And he had this look on his face.
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And he started to tell me all the things that were wrong
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and how he was feeling,and I guess...
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it's not all him.
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It's me.
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It's us.
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We talked for hours,and then...
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we had sex.
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s-sasha,come on.
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we did.
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We can talk about it.
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For the first time in a long time,we had sex,and it was great.
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Something about it felt new and better and different.
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I guess because I felt like he was there.
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Ryan,I know that this might be...
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uncomfortable,but it might be helpful if you could tell us how you feel.
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Well,it wasn't what I thought I'd be saying.
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But we talked,and I remembered what we had and what we can still have.
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I had an affair.
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What the hell just happened back there?
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I don't understand what just happened.
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You agreed to do the surgery and...
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this isn't about the surgery.
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Well,what is it?
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I thought...
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that he could be a different person.
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After everything he went through,after almost dying,I thought...
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he could be a different person.
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I wanted to believe that so much that I almost cut into a baby
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to convince myself that people can change,that I can change them.
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But I can'T.
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Archer's cheating on you.
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And I'm sorry.
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Nai.
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who was it?!Someone I know?£¡
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this may be hard to hear,paul,but sometimes an affair isn't moving away,
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it's reaching out...
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for the wrong thing.
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It's reaching out towards someone who seems like an answer.
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But they're not.
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They're a crutch,a way to fill the void of something that's missing,
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the person that you really love.
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The person I really love?
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I thought I had lost that with sasha.
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I was in the same boat you are.
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Maybe we all are in the same boat.
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Buisn't it...
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isn't it worth another chance?
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I think I made a mistake,paul.
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I don't care.
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you should,because if you want anything to change,you have to work at it.
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You--you haven't shared yourself,and I...
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I understand that.
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I mean,how can you share yourse if you don't know what you think
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or you don't know what you feel,and it makes you feel pathetic and crazy and bad?
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And you think that if you share that,then they might decide that...
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you're as crazy as you feel you are.
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But we're--all of us-- we're--we're--we're human.
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We make mistakes.
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I have,I know eleanor has,and I bet you have,too.
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But if you can talk to her about this,if you can open up with her,
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then I--then I really think you can work through this and ma things better.
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you know what?
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I'm done.
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I'm afraid that carol will leave me,just like paul did.
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You know,when you come home at night and you talk about
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how great the guys are you work with,I feel small...
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insignificant.
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I know who im and what I am...
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but it scares me that you'll realize you could do better.
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You should've talked to me.
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Because I want you.
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I love you.
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this has got to stop.
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When I'm with you,what you do to me...
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these days,it's the best I ever feel.
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-Look,beverly-- -I-I want to try this new herb-- red clover.
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It's supposed to put years and take years off your face.
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Bev-- I know what you're gonna say.
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You have cancer.
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I know that.
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Stage ii lymphoma.
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I know that.
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God,I know that.You don't have to say it.
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I do.
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I love that you come to see me.
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You're one of my favorite patients.
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But I've referred you to the best oncologist in town,and you won't go.
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You have to go.
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I tried.I made it to the waiting room.
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but those people are so frail.
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I mean,they're bald or worse-- bad wigs and chapped skin.
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I c--I can't be like that.
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They're sick like you are,but they're getting the right treatment,
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they are trying to get better.
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-What if they don't? -Then they don't,but their eyes are wide open.
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They know they can't cheat fate.
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They're fighting,the way you should be fighting.
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I don't want to be the one...
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who dies.
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Then be e one who lives.
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he's gone.
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I'm sorry.
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I'm going home to new york.
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Are you saying good-bye...
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to naomi?
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Don't tell her about charlotte.
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That would hurt her.
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Archer,you leaving without a word--that will hurt her.
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Dot do this.
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Good-bye,addie.
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I love you.
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Wanted to see how you were doing.
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Mitch is gone.
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I don't know how I'm gonna do this alone.
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I went with blue.
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Matthew.
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mitch was so excited.
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you know...
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I know you want to save him from all that he'll go through,
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but I think you're doing the right thing.
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I hope so.
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you do not get to just cut and run just
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because you're afraid of not knowing what comes next.
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There are people that love you and that need you.
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Why are you here yelling at me?
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Because its not okay to just walk away and pretend like it doesn't matter.
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I mean,to have something incredible and not even see
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what is right in front of your face...
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your wife loves you,and you have a healthy child,
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who,yeah,has some issues,but so what?
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Everybody has issues.
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You need to be there for them,love them.
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Well,I don't know if I can.
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grow up.Be a man.
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you need to...
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not hurt the woman who loves you.
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Nice surprise.
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I slept with archer montgomery.
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I just...
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thought you should know.
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No.
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You don't get to just walk away from me after telling me that.
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How dare you?How dare you do this?
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-It's just the way I am. -that's crap!
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You did the one thing you could to push me away,
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to make me make the choice and not you.
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Guess what,charlotte.
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That's not gonna work.
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I'm not going anywhere.
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You want to sleep with some guy to hurt me,to makme back off?
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Too bad.
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I'm here.
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I'm storming the freakin' castle for you,
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and you so underestimated me.
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What,you thought I was so weak that I'm gonna walk away
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because my pride got wounded?
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you are mine.
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And I'm not walkg away because you're scared.
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god.
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I am so sorry.
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I'm so sorry.
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this one...
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I can overlook.
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This one.
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But you have to think long and hard about testing me,
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because next time,I'm gone.
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You better dig deep,charlotte,dig deep in your soul and grow the helup
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and be in this relationship ri-right now.
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I wanted to thank you for what you said today.
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I don't think I got through to paul.
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You got through to greg and carol,and we saved a marriage,maybe two.
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Trying to figure this stuff out is hard,violet.
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I mean,they come to us,they're on the brink already.
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If we turn two out of three...
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I say we won.
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It was a shock.
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I mean the pregnancy.
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It was-- it was,uh,unplanned,and I don't often do unplanned.
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So this whole thing is unfamiliar territory for me.
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And I'm just trying to...
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roll with it the best way I can.
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I know,violet.
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And I don't expect you to confide in me.
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But if you do need me,I'm here for you.
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You taste good.
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Really good.
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naomi.
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What's wrong?
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Uh,what did you just call me?
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What?
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You just called me naomi.
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no,I didn'T.
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No,I didn'T.
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You did.
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You warned me.
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I thought...
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i really thought archer had changed...
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or that he could.
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I'm sorry.
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I know he's your brother,and,um...
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I know I shouldn'T.
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