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♪

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Me and my mum certainly
don't have a habit of

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keeping the house clean.

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This is not a safe
place to eat, or cook...

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Pretty scary.

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♪

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Waking up to a big bag
of trash next to you...

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It's not a way to live.

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♪

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My hoarding has hindered
his social life.

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It's no fair, is it?

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I just have cuss words
in my head.

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♪

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I need the family to
come together here.

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It's hard for me to not want
to see what all is in there.

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See how I'm not looking
at it and saying no?

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Where does she go if
her home was taken away?

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This is too much for you,
we can stop.

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It's stressing me out now.

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It seems that Tajko would
be better off without me.

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I'm sorry that
I am this way.

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It's an emergency situation.

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♪

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♪

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♪

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What do you feel like today?

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- Eggs and bacon, I guess.
- Okay, can you grab them?

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I don't want toast though,

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I'm just having
eggs and bacon.

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Okay.

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I'm Lori, and I live
in Kugluktuk, Nunavut.

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♪

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Kugluktuk is a community in
the Western Canadian Arctic.

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We're about 1600
people living here.

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Over 20 years that I've
lived here, you know,

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it's really become my home.

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I'm a sister, a mother,
administrator, a friend.

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The biggest challenge in my
life is my hoarding disorder.

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♪

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There are four
bedrooms upstairs.

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♪

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It's very chaotic.

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You see like piles of
clothes in disarray.

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There's not really any
area in this house

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that does not have stuff.

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Makes me feel a lot of guilt
and a lot of shame

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because I know it
shouldn't be that way.

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You ready to eat, then?

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I think so- Well,
do we have forks and...

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spoons?

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- Oh, man, I forgot about that.
- Want to check your room?

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My name is Tajko,
and Lori is my mom.

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And is there none
in the kitchen?

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I think you need to
check your room, Mom.

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You always leave them
in your room.

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Here's a plastic spoon,
that's no good.

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Okay, I'll go up to my room
and take a look.

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♪

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I feel a little sad,
I feel frustrated, and...

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a little disappointed when
I think of the way

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she has almost tried to
hide the way we live,

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for fear that it might
tarnish the way

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other people view us.

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All right. [Sighing]

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Am I sitting on it?
Oh, this one?

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I think you are,
thank you.

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Tajko is my only son, and...

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he's 17 years' old.

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Because of my behavior...

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he didn't have playdates
and birthday parties.

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He didn't have the social life
that he deserved.

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And sometimes I have said
that it seems that

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Tajko would be better
off without me,

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like I feel like
I'm hurting him.

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♪

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My name is Nadene,

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and I'm one of Lori's
best friends.

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Her and I have been
friends for nine years.

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I have never seen the
inside of her home.

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From what I'm told,

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her hoarding
issue is extreme.

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If Lori doesn't get help,
I fear it's going to put

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a strain on her relationship
with Tajko because

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he's going to feel like
he was held back.

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Ah.

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Dang.

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♪

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There's a lot of plumbing
issues in this house that

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I haven't attended to.

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Right now we wash our
hands in the bathtub

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in the upstairs
bathroom because...

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the tap on the sink
is not working.

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Then in the kitchen,
you'll see more chaos.

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There's a dishwasher that
hasn't worked for many years.

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And, one side of the sink
doesn't drain.

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And then, in the
downstairs bathroom,

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I honestly don't know
if the bathtub and

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sink are working, but I
do know that the toilet

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was leaking out the bottom.

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I haven't called a plumber
to fix those problems.

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I feel overwhelmed,
and I feel ashamed,

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and I feel
embarrassed

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by the state of my home.

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♪

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I think I started
collecting things

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when I really got into
online shopping.

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♪

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The thing that is the
biggest issue is clothing.

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If I see something I like,

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I want to get it
in every color.

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There's a momentary high,
you know, and I imagine...

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you know, that some outfit
is going to be life changing.

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And, yet, when it arrives,
I just feel overwhelmed and

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kind of dread because I think,
ugh, I did it again,

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where am I gonna put this?

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♪

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I've spent 1000 bucks
on clothes at a time,

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multiple times.

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There's an exercise machine in
a box still that I ordered

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from The Shopping Channel
that was like 2 or $3,000.

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It's still in the box
because I don't know how to

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put it together, and I don't
have room for it.

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All this time I've spent
buying this stuff,

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when I think about that, how
this money could have been

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directed toward Tajko's
education, I feel awful.

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♪

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My name is Kathy, and
I'm Lori's older sister.

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My parents were collectors.

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More coming from a place
of not wanting to waste,

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but saving things in case

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they would be
useful in some way.

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We had a really sort of
casual lifestyle

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when it was just my mom,
but when my dad was home

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it was kind of
more regimented.

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When my dad was
coming home,

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I felt anxiety and stress

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that my mom was also feeling
because we knew he'd be

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expecting the house
to be a certain way.

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And if we didn't
meet his standards,

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the main worry that we had
was that my mom

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would be the brunt of
the criticism,

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and we didn't like to
see her endure that.

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♪

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Growing up, it was
stressful at times, too,

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because he had an
issue with alcohol...

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and we would worry about
where he was going to be at

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with his consumption
in any given day.

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I feel that Dad was
living with trauma

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from wartime experiences.

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And my mum, you know,
did not have good self-esteem.

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And part of it was
coming from the way

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she was treated
by my dad.

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When my parents
passed away...

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and we were clearing the
family home, you know,

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we found so many items,
you know,

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that had been stashed away,
like pantyhose to use

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for gardening, like to tie up
your tomato plants or,

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you know, bread,
bread bag tabs or

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just everything saved, everywhere.

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I think that that saving
things in case they

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might be useful to her or
to someone else,

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I think that it somewhat
contributes to

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the difficulty
in letting go.

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My sister is quite
the opposite of me.

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She maintains her home
and her belongings,

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very organized.

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I haven't reached out to my
sister in the past because

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I felt too ashamed for her
to see how we are living.

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I think she'll be shocked.

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My name is Keith.

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I'm Lori's ex and the
father of our son, Tajko.

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We worked in the same
tavern in Ottawa.

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She always lit up the
room when she came in.

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♪

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I got a job offer,
here, and...

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I asked him if he would
like to come, and he did.

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We didn't know what to expect,
we just knew that there was...

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good work to be had.

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♪

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I was told the baby
was not viable.

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And, I could wait it out
or be induced,

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and I opted to be induced.

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So, I went through
a labor experience,

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and the baby was stillborn.
So, very traumatic.

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[Keith] Before she was
pregnant, well,

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I told Lori I was leaving,

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and she told me
she was pregnant.

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And I stayed, and...

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that episode
brought us together.

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After that loss, I was...

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really heartbroken
and really depressed.

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She was dead set on
getting pregnant again.

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♪

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Tajko was born
in March of 2005,

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and we were overjoyed
to have him.

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My boy is perfect.

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He was born 10 pounds,
some odd ounces.

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He was huge.

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Came out with a
full head of hair.

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I could have swore
he had teeth.

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No. [Laughing]

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He was kind of
a miracle baby.

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So, we were all
super happy.

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♪

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[Keith] When people would
come to the home,

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they rarely came farther
than the front door.

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[Lori] I know I was aware that
seeing me keep buying and

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buying and buying was
stressful for him.

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He knew, you know, that we
had other expenses to

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attend to and other hopes
for the future.

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So, I'm sure it was
very frustrating.

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I felt buried.

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I, I was very depressed.

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I remember Keith saying-
he later retracted it-

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"You are a great person,
but your problems,

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you know,
outweigh the good."

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And that was something
that really...

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kind of, I felt that.

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♪

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Tajko was very sad and,
you know, missed his papa.

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I was more panicked
as a single parent,

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wondering how was
I going to survive,

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working full-time with
a six-year-old child.

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I think my issue also got a
lot worse when Keith and I

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parted ways because then
there's no one here now

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to disapprove, so I'm going
to get what I want.

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♪

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Keith hasn't seen the house
in more than 10 years.

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When Tajko and
I video chat,

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he hides the house from me.

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He points the camera
at the ceiling, mostly,

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if he doesn't cover the
camera with his face.

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[Tajko] This situation
makes me

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angry in a lot
of ways because

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I know that we could be
doing something about it,

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but we aren't.

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It's very taxing on
my mental health.

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♪

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I do feel very trapped,

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both in our home
and in our town,

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because it's such a huge
task to climb out of this

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figurative and literal
hole we've dug ourselves.

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♪

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I've tried to explain to
her that the biggest thing

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keeping us both from
being happy is the house.

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But as the child trying
to instruct my parent,

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it's kind of an
impossible challenge.

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You know, he's talked about
staying here an extra year,

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you know, to work on the
house because

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he doesn't feel that
I would be safe.

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Where does she go if
her home was taken away,

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because it's uninhabitable?
Then what?

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That, and your son.

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00:13:56,792 --> 00:13:59,542
That really troubles me,
that my problem and

255
00:13:59,667 --> 00:14:03,042
my behavior would
further harm him.

256
00:14:03,042 --> 00:14:04,167
I can't live like
this anymore.

257
00:14:08,208 --> 00:14:13,667
♪

258
00:14:13,667 --> 00:14:15,292
An open-door policy
is really

259
00:14:15,292 --> 00:14:17,000
the way of life here
in Kugluktuk.

260
00:14:17,000 --> 00:14:18,417
Most people don't
lock their doors,

261
00:14:18,417 --> 00:14:22,417
and most people from here
don't knock on the doors of

262
00:14:22,417 --> 00:14:26,167
their friends and family,
they just walk in.

263
00:14:26,167 --> 00:14:29,000
But I don't feel comfortable
inviting people in my home

264
00:14:29,000 --> 00:14:30,250
because of the way it looks.

265
00:14:30,250 --> 00:14:33,042
I feel embarrassed and
ashamed of the chaos.

266
00:14:33,167 --> 00:14:35,708
♪

267
00:14:35,708 --> 00:14:38,250
Sometimes I feel
like a fraud,

268
00:14:38,375 --> 00:14:43,125
when people call me things
like generous and giving,

269
00:14:43,125 --> 00:14:45,292
because I look
around myself,

270
00:14:45,292 --> 00:14:48,625
and I see so many things
that I'm hanging on to.

271
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It makes me feel like what I
try to project to the world

272
00:14:52,708 --> 00:14:55,542
is not like my
real life at home.

273
00:14:55,542 --> 00:15:05,583
♪

274
00:15:10,625 --> 00:15:17,500
♪

275
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My name is Sarah Ahmed.

276
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I'm a psychotherapist
that specializes in

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problematic behaviors,
including hoarding.

278
00:15:23,625 --> 00:15:25,500
[Knocking]

279
00:15:25,500 --> 00:15:29,708
♪

280
00:15:29,708 --> 00:15:31,417
- Hi.
- Hi, Lori?

281
00:15:31,417 --> 00:15:33,333
- Yes, I'm Lori.
- Hi, Lori, I'm Sarah.

282
00:15:33,333 --> 00:15:35,000
- Nice to meet you.
- Oh, hi, Sarah.

283
00:15:35,000 --> 00:15:36,750
So good to meet you,
thanks for coming.

284
00:15:36,750 --> 00:15:38,625
- This is big, this is huge.
- It is.

285
00:15:38,625 --> 00:15:40,792
It's something I really
wished for, for a long time.

286
00:15:40,792 --> 00:15:42,333
Yeah?
If it's okay with you,

287
00:15:42,333 --> 00:15:43,500
I'd love to go in,
take a look.

288
00:15:43,625 --> 00:15:45,083
Yeah, for sure.
If you want to go ahead...

289
00:15:45,083 --> 00:15:46,833
- I'm sorry, it's really tight.
- That's okay.

290
00:15:46,958 --> 00:15:48,167
But if we turn left,
we'll be in the kitchen.

291
00:15:48,167 --> 00:15:49,917
Okay.

292
00:15:49,917 --> 00:15:51,667
Oh, the door
doesn't open.

293
00:15:51,667 --> 00:15:54,167
Yeah,
I'm sorry about that.

294
00:15:54,167 --> 00:15:55,708
To the left, you said?

295
00:15:55,708 --> 00:15:57,625
Yes, please,
this is the kitchen.

296
00:15:57,625 --> 00:15:59,458
Okay, yep, I see
a fridge here.

297
00:15:59,458 --> 00:16:02,917
- Yeah.
- Okay.

298
00:16:03,042 --> 00:16:05,500
Wow, that's a,
a lot of stuff.

299
00:16:05,500 --> 00:16:08,333
Yeah, way too much.

300
00:16:08,333 --> 00:16:11,833
The dishwasher doesn't work.

301
00:16:11,833 --> 00:16:14,375
This side of the
sink doesn't drain.

302
00:16:14,375 --> 00:16:17,208
Okay, and so, are you washing
the dishes on the left side?

303
00:16:17,208 --> 00:16:19,375
Mhm, washing and
rinsing on that one.

304
00:16:19,500 --> 00:16:21,833
It seems like you're also
cooking a little bit... as well?

305
00:16:21,833 --> 00:16:24,500
Mhm, not, not so much.
Just the stovetop.

306
00:16:24,500 --> 00:16:27,000
We can't- the oven, we can't
use the oven right now.

307
00:16:27,000 --> 00:16:29,833
Yeah. Who lives here in the
house with you, Lori?

308
00:16:29,833 --> 00:16:31,750
Ah, it's just me
and my son, Tajko.

309
00:16:31,750 --> 00:16:33,667
He's 17.

310
00:16:33,667 --> 00:16:35,542
[Sarah] For a lot of us,
the kitchen is actually

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the heart of the home.

312
00:16:37,125 --> 00:16:39,458
And this is a space where
we share memories together.

313
00:16:39,458 --> 00:16:42,792
It seems like an incredibly
sad space for a mother

314
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to make meals for her son.

315
00:16:45,333 --> 00:16:49,833
I know that my hoarding has
hindered his social life.

316
00:16:49,833 --> 00:16:52,958
You know, he doesn't invite
groups of friends in freely

317
00:16:52,958 --> 00:16:54,333
like he should be able to.

318
00:16:54,500 --> 00:16:57,333
And, we haven't had birthday
parties here for him.

319
00:16:57,333 --> 00:17:00,208
I have a lot of guilt and
shame about that.

320
00:17:00,208 --> 00:17:02,667
♪

321
00:17:02,667 --> 00:17:05,208
Here we have the
laundry room.

322
00:17:05,208 --> 00:17:07,833
Mhm.
It's a lot of clothes.

323
00:17:07,833 --> 00:17:10,167
Yeah, a lot of them
have been washed and

324
00:17:10,333 --> 00:17:12,333
laid out to dry and
never put away.

325
00:17:12,333 --> 00:17:15,125
The dryer's not
working right now.

326
00:17:15,125 --> 00:17:17,208
And I see over there,
there's a bathroom.

327
00:17:17,208 --> 00:17:21,333
Yeah, we don't use that one
because the toilet's not good.

328
00:17:21,333 --> 00:17:24,083
The water leaks out the
bottom when you flush it.

329
00:17:24,083 --> 00:17:26,833
And how come you didn't have
anybody come in to fix it?

330
00:17:26,958 --> 00:17:28,292
Because of the mess,
I guess.

331
00:17:28,292 --> 00:17:31,042
I haven't called anybody in
because I'm embarrassed

332
00:17:31,042 --> 00:17:32,917
about the mess, and I
haven't taken initiative

333
00:17:32,917 --> 00:17:34,292
to clean it up.

334
00:17:34,292 --> 00:17:36,500
Having access to a
functional bathroom is

335
00:17:36,667 --> 00:17:40,167
one of the basic needs of
every human being.

336
00:17:40,292 --> 00:17:42,250
- To the left here?
- Yes, please.

337
00:17:42,375 --> 00:17:43,958
And that will be
the living room.

338
00:17:43,958 --> 00:17:46,583
- Okay.
- Common area.

339
00:17:46,583 --> 00:17:50,375
And is this where you
spend most of your time?

340
00:17:50,375 --> 00:17:55,000
Not so much myself, but Tajko
does spend a lot of time

341
00:17:55,000 --> 00:17:57,167
particularly in this
corner here

342
00:17:57,167 --> 00:18:01,208
where the TV and
computer are.

343
00:18:01,208 --> 00:18:02,875
You know, this is,
this is a table

344
00:18:03,042 --> 00:18:04,625
where he does
his homework.

345
00:18:04,625 --> 00:18:08,042
And these chairs,
he plays a video game.

346
00:18:08,042 --> 00:18:09,625
Sometimes we sit here
together and

347
00:18:09,625 --> 00:18:11,875
have our dinner together
and watch a show.

348
00:18:12,000 --> 00:18:13,500
Do you fight a lot?

349
00:18:13,500 --> 00:18:16,792
The only time we do
have conflict, really,

350
00:18:16,792 --> 00:18:19,375
is usually when...

351
00:18:19,375 --> 00:18:21,250
when we are trying
to work on the mess,

352
00:18:21,250 --> 00:18:23,667
and he's got a different
approach than I.

353
00:18:23,792 --> 00:18:25,083
So, what's your approach?

354
00:18:25,083 --> 00:18:27,250
Do you find you're a bit
more passive and

355
00:18:27,375 --> 00:18:29,000
you kind of just back up?

356
00:18:29,000 --> 00:18:32,500
I guess it's a,
it's usually about, you know,

357
00:18:32,500 --> 00:18:34,125
how we're going to
categorize things,

358
00:18:34,125 --> 00:18:35,667
how we're going to
sort through things.

359
00:18:35,667 --> 00:18:40,208
And, I'm really stuck on the
need to feel like I need to

360
00:18:40,208 --> 00:18:43,542
go through every single item
and decide for

361
00:18:43,542 --> 00:18:46,958
every single item, even if
it's obviously trash.

362
00:18:46,958 --> 00:18:49,125
And so, of course,
that's tough for him...

363
00:18:49,125 --> 00:18:52,000
- Yeah.
- And it's frustrating.

364
00:18:52,000 --> 00:18:54,000
So, I see there's a
combination of

365
00:18:54,000 --> 00:18:55,333
things over here.

366
00:18:55,500 --> 00:18:58,208
Yeah, a ton of clothes,
in a whole range of sizes.

367
00:18:58,208 --> 00:18:59,792
I gained a lot of
weight recently,

368
00:18:59,792 --> 00:19:03,167
and so there's a lot of
clothes that I'm hoping to

369
00:19:03,167 --> 00:19:06,000
get my weight down again
and use them again.

370
00:19:06,000 --> 00:19:08,375
Lori is holding on to this
version of herself

371
00:19:08,500 --> 00:19:10,875
from a few years ago, and
feels as though if she

372
00:19:10,875 --> 00:19:14,625
went back to that version,
she would be happier.

373
00:19:14,625 --> 00:19:18,000
What would you say
the stuff represents?

374
00:19:18,000 --> 00:19:19,542
You know, right now
when I look at it,

375
00:19:19,667 --> 00:19:22,833
I just see sadness.

376
00:19:22,833 --> 00:19:25,042
You know, and- yeah.

377
00:19:25,042 --> 00:19:28,625
♪ [Somber piano]

378
00:19:28,625 --> 00:19:31,417
And also a lot of, a lot
of waste, like, you know,

379
00:19:31,417 --> 00:19:34,292
wasted- wasted money,
wasted space.

380
00:19:34,292 --> 00:19:36,292
I wish I had,
you know, put,

381
00:19:36,292 --> 00:19:40,250
put all the money
towards something...

382
00:19:40,250 --> 00:19:44,208
worthwhile, like
Tajko's education and...

383
00:19:44,208 --> 00:19:47,750
you know, left this space
for him and I to use.

384
00:19:47,750 --> 00:19:50,333
It's very evident that
Lori feels like

385
00:19:50,333 --> 00:19:52,292
she's not good
enough for her son,

386
00:19:52,417 --> 00:19:54,333
and that he deserves better.

387
00:19:54,458 --> 00:19:58,417
And there's so much guilt, so
she tries to escape from it.

388
00:19:58,542 --> 00:20:01,208
And that escape can look
like purchasing more items.

389
00:20:01,333 --> 00:20:03,625
Well, I do know
one thing, Lori...

390
00:20:03,625 --> 00:20:05,458
Neither you or me,
we have a time machine,

391
00:20:05,458 --> 00:20:07,333
we can't go back in time.
- Right.

392
00:20:07,333 --> 00:20:09,167
What I do know is we can do
something, moving forward.

393
00:20:09,167 --> 00:20:12,167
Yes, that's what
I'm hoping for.

394
00:20:12,167 --> 00:20:15,250
My job here is to give Lori
the tools to let go of

395
00:20:15,250 --> 00:20:18,542
her past, and be able
to see her future.

396
00:20:18,667 --> 00:20:21,417
She's got a lot of work to
do to be able to get there.

397
00:20:21,417 --> 00:20:25,333
♪

398
00:20:25,333 --> 00:20:27,208
I notice the
sink is, is full,

399
00:20:27,208 --> 00:20:29,250
so the sink is not being used?

400
00:20:29,250 --> 00:20:30,417
It's not working right now.

401
00:20:30,417 --> 00:20:32,375
- Yeah, okay.
- Yeah.

402
00:20:32,375 --> 00:20:34,708
- And the door isn't opening...
- The door, no.

403
00:20:34,833 --> 00:20:37,167
So, you're not able to close
the door to your bedroom

404
00:20:37,167 --> 00:20:38,875
as well, when you're
using the bathroom,

405
00:20:38,875 --> 00:20:39,958
is that right, Lori?

406
00:20:39,958 --> 00:20:42,208
- Yeah, that's right.
- Yeah.

407
00:20:42,333 --> 00:20:44,000
The shower and
the tub do work,

408
00:20:44,000 --> 00:20:45,625
but because the
sink's not working,

409
00:20:45,625 --> 00:20:48,750
after we use the toilet, we wash
our hands at the tub.

410
00:20:50,708 --> 00:20:53,125
In here is...

411
00:20:53,125 --> 00:20:55,000
my room, this is
where I sleep.

412
00:20:55,000 --> 00:20:59,333
♪

413
00:20:59,333 --> 00:21:01,917
That must not be comfortable.
It doesn't look it.

414
00:21:01,917 --> 00:21:03,500
It's not comfortable at all.

415
00:21:03,500 --> 00:21:05,208
You're eating
over here as well?

416
00:21:05,208 --> 00:21:07,333
Sometimes I eat up here.

417
00:21:07,333 --> 00:21:10,208
And the black bag right
next to you, is that...?

418
00:21:10,208 --> 00:21:14,250
Trash. [Voice cracking]
Mhm.

419
00:21:14,250 --> 00:21:17,500
Waking up to a big bag of
trash next to you is...

420
00:21:17,500 --> 00:21:21,458
It's not a way to live,
it's no way to live, right.

421
00:21:21,458 --> 00:21:25,167
She's so ridden with guilt,
and she feels so bad

422
00:21:25,167 --> 00:21:27,000
about not being able to
provide for her son,

423
00:21:27,125 --> 00:21:30,750
that she chooses to punish
herself by continuing to live

424
00:21:30,750 --> 00:21:34,667
in a space like this when she
knows that it is not safe,

425
00:21:34,667 --> 00:21:37,583
hygienic, or healthy,
by any means.

426
00:21:37,875 --> 00:21:39,583
I would like to live
in a different way.

427
00:21:39,583 --> 00:21:41,750
I don't know if I deserve it
because I'm the only one

428
00:21:41,875 --> 00:21:44,917
that brought all
this junk in here.

429
00:21:45,042 --> 00:21:47,333
Sometimes I think-
[Sniffling]-

430
00:21:47,333 --> 00:21:49,208
that Tajko would be
better off without me.

431
00:21:49,208 --> 00:21:49,917
[Sniffling]

432
00:21:54,000 --> 00:22:00,500
♪

433
00:22:01,417 --> 00:22:04,583
Sometimes, the nature
of living here can be a

434
00:22:04,583 --> 00:22:07,167
challenge because of the
varying degrees of light

435
00:22:07,167 --> 00:22:08,833
through the year.

436
00:22:08,833 --> 00:22:12,208
In the summer, we have
24 hours of daylight.

437
00:22:12,333 --> 00:22:14,167
And it's- sometimes your
body doesn't know

438
00:22:14,167 --> 00:22:16,583
when it's time to go to bed.

439
00:22:16,708 --> 00:22:18,167
And then again
in the winter,

440
00:22:18,167 --> 00:22:20,750
it's close to 24 hours
of darkness.

441
00:22:20,875 --> 00:22:22,292
It can be dark when
you walk to work and

442
00:22:22,292 --> 00:22:24,333
dark when you walk home.

443
00:22:24,458 --> 00:22:27,333
Sometimes, we can be
confined to our homes for

444
00:22:27,333 --> 00:22:29,833
days at a time
because of weather.

445
00:22:29,833 --> 00:22:32,750
At those times, it doesn't
feel good to be

446
00:22:32,750 --> 00:22:35,417
in this house amongst
all this stuff.

447
00:22:35,542 --> 00:22:45,500
♪

448
00:22:50,542 --> 00:22:59,000
♪

449
00:22:59,000 --> 00:23:00,583
- Hi, Papa.
- There is only one.

450
00:23:00,583 --> 00:23:03,500
There is only-
Long time no see.

451
00:23:03,500 --> 00:23:06,000
- It's been a while.
- Yeah.

452
00:23:06,000 --> 00:23:08,667
- Geez.
- Crazy. [Laughing]

453
00:23:08,667 --> 00:23:11,042
I kept imagining how
big he must look.

454
00:23:11,042 --> 00:23:14,375
You don't quite get that
when you're video chatting.

455
00:23:14,500 --> 00:23:17,458
And to see him in
person was great.

456
00:23:17,458 --> 00:23:19,792
- Hi, Kathy.
- Hi, Taj.

457
00:23:19,792 --> 00:23:23,542
Hi, Keith.
Thank you for coming.

458
00:23:23,542 --> 00:23:26,875
Her being brave
enough to invite me

459
00:23:26,875 --> 00:23:29,333
makes me very grateful
and proud of her.

460
00:23:29,333 --> 00:23:33,167
And I can't wait to help...

461
00:23:33,167 --> 00:23:37,500
because she would
do it for me, too.

462
00:23:37,500 --> 00:23:40,667
- It's a lot to take in.
- [Laughing] Yeah.

463
00:23:40,667 --> 00:23:41,833
[Sighing]

464
00:23:41,958 --> 00:23:44,875
- I still think I'm dreaming.
- Yeah.

465
00:23:45,000 --> 00:23:49,375
I'm sure there's a lot of
emotions that are going on.

466
00:23:49,375 --> 00:23:51,542
Lori, I know this is a
huge, huge, huge deal,

467
00:23:51,542 --> 00:23:53,333
and you've got a lot
of feelings about it.

468
00:23:53,458 --> 00:23:56,042
And you're very nervous
and very anxious about

469
00:23:56,042 --> 00:23:58,167
your sister seeing your
place for the first time.

470
00:23:58,167 --> 00:24:01,292
Keith also being in there after
a very long time. Nervous?

471
00:24:01,292 --> 00:24:03,708
Nervous,
really nervous, yeah.

472
00:24:03,708 --> 00:24:05,375
I'm going to invite our
professional organizer,

473
00:24:05,375 --> 00:24:07,125
Kim Diamond.

474
00:24:07,125 --> 00:24:08,375
- Hello, everyone.
- Hi, Kim.

475
00:24:08,375 --> 00:24:10,500
- Glad to meet you all.
- Thank you.

476
00:24:10,500 --> 00:24:12,417
Happy to meet you.

477
00:24:12,417 --> 00:24:13,667
My name is Kim Diamond,

478
00:24:13,667 --> 00:24:15,667
and I'm a certified
professional organizer,

479
00:24:15,667 --> 00:24:19,375
specializing in hoarding
disorder and hoarding behaviors.

480
00:24:19,500 --> 00:24:20,792
- Lori, I'll be here with you.
- Okay, thank you.

481
00:24:20,792 --> 00:24:23,250
Me, you, and Tajko,
we're going to be over here,

482
00:24:23,375 --> 00:24:25,875
and we'll let Kim,
Kathy, and Keith go in.

483
00:24:26,042 --> 00:24:26,833
- Okay.
- Okay?

484
00:24:26,958 --> 00:24:28,667
Yeah.

485
00:24:28,792 --> 00:24:38,583
♪

486
00:24:38,583 --> 00:24:40,333
Take a deep breath,
just remind yourself

487
00:24:40,500 --> 00:24:41,333
she's here to help.

488
00:24:41,333 --> 00:24:43,375
Yeah.

489
00:24:43,500 --> 00:24:53,458
♪ [Quiet instrumental
growing in intensity] ♪

490
00:24:58,417 --> 00:24:59,167
♪ [Quiet instrumental
growing in intensity] ♪

491
00:24:59,167 --> 00:25:05,958
♪ [Tense instrumental]

492
00:25:05,958 --> 00:25:13,250
♪

493
00:25:13,375 --> 00:25:16,917
What are you
feeling right now?

494
00:25:16,917 --> 00:25:21,375
That the love between
my sister and Tajko...

495
00:25:21,500 --> 00:25:25,667
♪

496
00:25:25,792 --> 00:25:28,958
...is above the effects
of this problem.

497
00:25:28,958 --> 00:25:31,167
It's a pretty difficult
problem, yeah.

498
00:25:31,333 --> 00:25:33,833
What about you, Keith?

499
00:25:33,833 --> 00:25:37,750
I just have cuss words
in my head.

500
00:25:37,750 --> 00:25:42,500
She said it was worse,
I couldn't fathom.

501
00:25:42,500 --> 00:25:44,333
So, would you say it's like
twice as bad as

502
00:25:44,333 --> 00:25:45,667
when you last saw?
At least?

503
00:25:45,667 --> 00:25:47,500
Yeah, it's at
least twice as bad.

504
00:25:47,625 --> 00:25:51,000
Yeah?
So, as you can see,

505
00:25:51,000 --> 00:25:56,000
this is not a safe place
to eat or cook.

506
00:25:56,125 --> 00:25:59,333
There's a lot of safety
hazards just in this one room.

507
00:25:59,458 --> 00:26:01,250
You alright, Kathy?

508
00:26:01,375 --> 00:26:02,875
Yeah, it's overwhelming.

509
00:26:02,875 --> 00:26:05,333
I can see it on
both your faces.

510
00:26:05,333 --> 00:26:11,833
♪ [Somber instrumental]

511
00:26:11,833 --> 00:26:19,833
♪

512
00:26:19,833 --> 00:26:22,042
[Sighing]

513
00:26:22,167 --> 00:26:27,250
♪

514
00:26:27,375 --> 00:26:29,792
What are you thinking?

515
00:26:29,792 --> 00:26:32,000
My boy.

516
00:26:32,000 --> 00:26:36,417
♪

517
00:26:36,417 --> 00:26:37,750
If there was ever a
fire in that house,

518
00:26:37,750 --> 00:26:40,500
there's so much stuff
to get through, that...

519
00:26:40,625 --> 00:26:43,917
getting out unscathed
would be a miracle.

520
00:26:43,917 --> 00:26:45,708
This is Geezer.

521
00:26:45,833 --> 00:26:48,625
He's been dead for
a couple of years.

522
00:26:48,625 --> 00:26:50,833
- Was that a cat or a dog?
- Cat.

523
00:26:50,833 --> 00:26:54,458
He always used to sleep here.

524
00:26:54,458 --> 00:26:56,292
But as you can see this...

525
00:26:56,292 --> 00:26:57,708
we can't see the floor.

526
00:26:57,708 --> 00:26:58,875
- Yeah.
- Yeah.

527
00:26:59,000 --> 00:27:00,958
This stuff is
closing in on them.

528
00:27:00,958 --> 00:27:06,833
♪

529
00:27:06,833 --> 00:27:09,333
- This is Tajko's room?
- Yeah.

530
00:27:09,333 --> 00:27:17,167
♪

531
00:27:17,167 --> 00:27:20,125
It's no fair, is it?

532
00:27:20,125 --> 00:27:24,667
Lori's filled that room up,
and that's a danger to Tajko.

533
00:27:24,667 --> 00:27:26,667
It's a massive fire hazard.

534
00:27:26,667 --> 00:27:30,833
I can see the sadness
in their faces.

535
00:27:30,833 --> 00:27:33,208
Everywhere I turn
in this house:

536
00:27:33,208 --> 00:27:34,667
hazard, hazard, hazard.

537
00:27:34,667 --> 00:27:36,625
It's going
to be really tough.

538
00:27:36,625 --> 00:27:38,125
Her mattress.

539
00:27:38,125 --> 00:27:40,625
[Sighing]

540
00:27:40,625 --> 00:27:45,750
[Voice cracking]
Oh, that makes me sad.

541
00:27:45,750 --> 00:27:46,875
It's hard to believe
she'd get

542
00:27:46,875 --> 00:27:49,500
a good night's
sleep in here.

543
00:27:49,875 --> 00:27:51,875
We're not even on the ground,
we're standing on stuff.

544
00:27:51,875 --> 00:27:56,042
- On stuff, yeah.
- And again...

545
00:27:56,042 --> 00:27:58,333
Can't get out this door,
can't- you know,

546
00:27:58,458 --> 00:28:02,000
this is,
this is impossible.

547
00:28:02,000 --> 00:28:05,625
I need the family to
come together here,

548
00:28:05,750 --> 00:28:07,542
support Lori and be a really
important part of

549
00:28:07,667 --> 00:28:10,542
this process, or I
can't get it done.

550
00:28:10,542 --> 00:28:12,917
And right now,
they're so overwhelmed,

551
00:28:12,917 --> 00:28:15,292
I don't know if they're going
to be able to handle this.

552
00:28:15,292 --> 00:28:18,667
It's an emergency situation.

553
00:28:18,667 --> 00:28:20,792
Yeah, it is, it is.

554
00:28:25,083 --> 00:28:35,042
♪

555
00:28:36,167 --> 00:28:37,917
Lori's saying that
she's ready for this,

556
00:28:37,917 --> 00:28:40,417
but I'm really not sure.

557
00:28:40,417 --> 00:28:43,167
Tajko's looking to move
away and start his life.

558
00:28:43,167 --> 00:28:45,833
But, he wants to do that
without having to worry about

559
00:28:45,833 --> 00:28:48,333
his mom's safety or
her mental health.

560
00:28:48,458 --> 00:28:58,417
♪

561
00:29:02,083 --> 00:29:05,833
- Oh, my God.
- I'm so sorry.

562
00:29:05,833 --> 00:29:07,792
Maybe we can go right
to the living room.

563
00:29:07,792 --> 00:29:09,000
Just let me stand
on the step and

564
00:29:09,125 --> 00:29:11,500
we're going to go that way.

565
00:29:11,500 --> 00:29:13,417
Oh my.

566
00:29:13,417 --> 00:29:15,333
♪

567
00:29:15,458 --> 00:29:16,958
I'm sorry, I'm sorry to
put you through this.

568
00:29:16,958 --> 00:29:19,667
You don't be sorry, because
that's not something-

569
00:29:19,667 --> 00:29:21,542
You're not putting me
through anything.

570
00:29:21,542 --> 00:29:25,000
I'm in this for the long haul.

571
00:29:25,000 --> 00:29:26,875
This is a different set up
for somebody

572
00:29:26,875 --> 00:29:29,667
who's dealing with an
issue in their life.

573
00:29:29,667 --> 00:29:32,125
It isn't a quiet
meeting or something.

574
00:29:32,125 --> 00:29:34,500
You're exposing yourself
to everybody,

575
00:29:34,625 --> 00:29:38,167
and you're having to deal
with everything right away.

576
00:29:38,333 --> 00:29:40,583
Her friends have to
be there for her.

577
00:29:40,708 --> 00:29:42,542
And I will, and we will.

578
00:29:42,542 --> 00:29:52,583
♪

579
00:29:57,500 --> 00:29:59,000
♪

580
00:29:59,000 --> 00:30:01,083
These are not pros,
they have not been trained.

581
00:30:01,083 --> 00:30:03,958
I hope they can
handle this huge task,

582
00:30:03,958 --> 00:30:06,000
'cause this is not for
the faint of heart.

583
00:30:06,000 --> 00:30:07,958
♪

584
00:30:07,958 --> 00:30:09,750
One theme that comes up
with Lori often,

585
00:30:09,750 --> 00:30:11,958
is how people perceive her.

586
00:30:11,958 --> 00:30:14,667
Lori is going to be
facing her biggest fear,

587
00:30:14,667 --> 00:30:17,542
which is having to open up
her door to invite

588
00:30:17,667 --> 00:30:19,667
members of her
community to go in.

589
00:30:19,667 --> 00:30:24,750
And this is something
she's never done.

590
00:30:24,750 --> 00:30:25,875
Welcome, everybody.

591
00:30:25,875 --> 00:30:27,667
Thank you so much
for being here.

592
00:30:27,792 --> 00:30:29,333
- How's everyone feeling?
- Good.

593
00:30:29,333 --> 00:30:32,208
- Great.
- Yeah? Big day.

594
00:30:32,208 --> 00:30:34,667
I am so happy to see this
number of people here

595
00:30:34,667 --> 00:30:36,333
supporting you, Lori.

596
00:30:36,333 --> 00:30:38,000
We're harnessing the
power of community,

597
00:30:38,125 --> 00:30:40,917
and we have this amazing
team here behind me.

598
00:30:40,917 --> 00:30:42,792
We've got a big task ahead.

599
00:30:42,792 --> 00:30:44,000
Mm-hm.

600
00:30:44,000 --> 00:30:45,917
Lots of emotions,
lots of hard work.

601
00:30:46,042 --> 00:30:47,708
In my wildest dreams,

602
00:30:47,833 --> 00:30:49,667
I didn't really think it
would be possible.

603
00:30:49,667 --> 00:30:51,125
And here we are.

604
00:30:51,125 --> 00:30:53,833
It's a miracle,
it feels like a miracle.

605
00:30:53,833 --> 00:30:55,875
What I need to
know from you is,

606
00:30:56,000 --> 00:30:58,000
do I have your permission
to go in the house?

607
00:30:58,000 --> 00:31:00,292
And, do we have your
permission- and I mean,

608
00:31:00,292 --> 00:31:04,375
we, all of us here-
to decide if there's garbage,

609
00:31:04,375 --> 00:31:06,542
can we just immediately
get rid of that and

610
00:31:06,542 --> 00:31:07,667
not have to check with you?

611
00:31:07,792 --> 00:31:09,000
Yes, please.

612
00:31:09,000 --> 00:31:10,750
If we think it's not
salvageable any way and

613
00:31:10,875 --> 00:31:12,667
it looks like garbage,
that's an okay?

614
00:31:12,667 --> 00:31:13,958
- It's okay.
- Confirmed.

615
00:31:13,958 --> 00:31:16,000
We got that, team?
All right.

616
00:31:16,125 --> 00:31:18,917
My concern is, is her
definition of garbage and

617
00:31:19,042 --> 00:31:21,667
our definition of garbage
the same thing?'

618
00:31:21,667 --> 00:31:23,625
'Cause often it's not.

619
00:31:23,625 --> 00:31:26,500
♪

620
00:31:26,500 --> 00:31:29,333
So here, let's grab some
corners, let's lay these out.

621
00:31:29,333 --> 00:31:31,167
Great.

622
00:31:31,167 --> 00:31:33,500
I'm amazed at the range
of people that have

623
00:31:33,500 --> 00:31:35,333
shown up to help today.

624
00:31:35,333 --> 00:31:37,792
We have teenagers all the
way up to grandmothers,

625
00:31:37,792 --> 00:31:39,833
and that's amazing.

626
00:31:39,958 --> 00:31:42,458
That shows how much Lori
matters to this community,

627
00:31:42,458 --> 00:31:44,833
and it's clear how much
they care about her.

628
00:31:44,833 --> 00:31:46,875
Take this out and
then pull things out.

629
00:31:46,875 --> 00:31:49,583
Again, papers
and books, keep.

630
00:31:49,583 --> 00:31:52,750
Get this porch all cleared.

631
00:31:52,750 --> 00:31:55,500
My plan always starts
with safety first.

632
00:31:55,500 --> 00:31:57,167
I need to clear the entryway

633
00:31:57,167 --> 00:31:59,167
so the front door
can open fully.

634
00:31:59,167 --> 00:32:01,125
Right now,
there's no way.

635
00:32:01,125 --> 00:32:11,167
♪

636
00:32:16,167 --> 00:32:17,042
♪

637
00:32:17,042 --> 00:32:18,500
- Okay.
- That can definitely go.

638
00:32:18,500 --> 00:32:19,833
I'm seeing papers.

639
00:32:19,833 --> 00:32:21,500
Yeah, these papers
can go, please.

640
00:32:21,500 --> 00:32:24,292
Not only do we have to
separate the garbage-

641
00:32:24,417 --> 00:32:27,542
the things to get rid of-
from usable items,

642
00:32:27,542 --> 00:32:30,833
but I've got to make the most
of this to get as much stuff

643
00:32:30,833 --> 00:32:32,708
to this community
donation event that

644
00:32:32,708 --> 00:32:34,125
we're doing at the end.

645
00:32:34,125 --> 00:32:37,417
I've got a lot to pull off
in a short amount of time.

646
00:32:37,417 --> 00:32:38,375
Yeah, the boxes-

647
00:32:38,500 --> 00:32:40,167
Okay, so look,
look at that, yeah.

648
00:32:40,167 --> 00:32:42,333
And then,
if we find any...

649
00:32:42,333 --> 00:32:45,833
if we find any stray
pots and pans inside,

650
00:32:45,833 --> 00:32:47,667
I'll be happy to donate
those ones and

651
00:32:47,667 --> 00:32:48,750
replace them with a set.

652
00:32:48,750 --> 00:32:49,917
Yeah, start new.

653
00:32:49,917 --> 00:32:52,042
Yeah, that table
can be donated.

654
00:32:52,042 --> 00:32:53,875
These have seen better days.

655
00:32:53,875 --> 00:32:55,458
They're sitting
in water, okay,

656
00:32:55,458 --> 00:32:57,833
so I'm pretty sure most of
the stuff in here

657
00:32:57,833 --> 00:32:59,708
is rusted and can go.

658
00:32:59,708 --> 00:33:01,125
- Yeah.
- Okay.

659
00:33:01,125 --> 00:33:02,958
And a box of brand
new hangers...

660
00:33:02,958 --> 00:33:04,125
probably a keep?

661
00:33:04,125 --> 00:33:05,833
I would like to
keep those, please.

662
00:33:05,833 --> 00:33:08,917
So, we will keep those.
You're doing great.

663
00:33:08,917 --> 00:33:10,500
Thank you, feels good.

664
00:33:10,500 --> 00:33:11,708
- It does?
- Yeah.

665
00:33:11,708 --> 00:33:13,500
Oh! See what
we've got here?

666
00:33:13,500 --> 00:33:15,792
- Looks like trash.
- It looks kind of rough.

667
00:33:15,792 --> 00:33:19,667
- Yeah.
- Trash, please, yep.

668
00:33:19,667 --> 00:33:21,208
How's that feel?
Is it all wet?

669
00:33:21,208 --> 00:33:24,167
Does it smell, I can't- My
sense of smell is really bad.

670
00:33:24,167 --> 00:33:26,833
- [Sniffing] Whoa!
- Really bad?

671
00:33:26,833 --> 00:33:28,125
- Yep.
- Okay, we're throwing it.

672
00:33:28,125 --> 00:33:30,167
- That's going.
- Okay.

673
00:33:30,292 --> 00:33:32,958
- I got a good sense of smell.
- Okay, yeah.

674
00:33:32,958 --> 00:33:35,333
- Great decision.
- Thanks.

675
00:33:35,333 --> 00:33:38,250
It's, it's helping me a lot,
working with you.

676
00:33:38,375 --> 00:33:39,708
I wouldn't, I probably
wouldn't have

677
00:33:39,708 --> 00:33:40,958
done that by myself.

678
00:33:40,958 --> 00:33:42,708
Well, it's like having a
trainer at the gym.

679
00:33:42,833 --> 00:33:46,167
You tend to do more reps and
get more out of your workout

680
00:33:46,167 --> 00:33:48,708
when you have the pro
standing with you.

681
00:33:48,833 --> 00:33:52,167
Oh my God,
that's crazy.

682
00:33:52,167 --> 00:33:55,167
Look what's going way to the-
look what's going to the dump.

683
00:33:55,167 --> 00:33:57,375
That's awesome.
[Laughing]

684
00:33:59,042 --> 00:34:00,167
[Laughing]

685
00:34:00,167 --> 00:34:01,458
I thought this would be
one of the more

686
00:34:01,458 --> 00:34:03,208
challenging parts, too, so
I'm looking forward to

687
00:34:03,333 --> 00:34:05,667
how the rest of the house
moves along.

688
00:34:05,667 --> 00:34:07,833
- Yeah, I'm on a roll.
- Can I give you a hug?

689
00:34:07,833 --> 00:34:10,750
Please.

690
00:34:10,750 --> 00:34:14,208
- Thank you.
- Thank you, too.

691
00:34:14,333 --> 00:34:17,917
It's clear that Lori is
ready for this process.

692
00:34:17,917 --> 00:34:18,958
She's done some work.

693
00:34:19,417 --> 00:34:22,250
However, it almost is too
easy right now, so I'm...

694
00:34:22,250 --> 00:34:25,875
I've got my little warning
signs and warning bells

695
00:34:25,875 --> 00:34:29,333
going off, and I just want to
make sure that this is real.

696
00:34:29,333 --> 00:34:32,500
Because often, it may
start quickly that way,

697
00:34:32,500 --> 00:34:34,333
but then come to a grinding
halt when we hit

698
00:34:34,458 --> 00:34:36,458
one item that triggers
something.

699
00:34:36,458 --> 00:34:38,000
And I don't know
what those are.

700
00:34:38,000 --> 00:34:40,417
It could happen at any time.

701
00:34:44,708 --> 00:34:54,667
♪

702
00:34:58,542 --> 00:35:00,167
We've cleared the
entryway and

703
00:35:00,167 --> 00:35:02,000
a little bit
into the kitchen.

704
00:35:02,000 --> 00:35:03,875
And all of that
is out on tarps,

705
00:35:03,875 --> 00:35:06,583
and it is a lot of stuff.

706
00:35:06,583 --> 00:35:10,208
It looks like the contents of
a house are out on the grass

707
00:35:10,208 --> 00:35:12,167
on those tarps, but
it's actually a very,

708
00:35:12,292 --> 00:35:15,625
very small space in the house.

709
00:35:15,625 --> 00:35:17,458
Here we go.

710
00:35:17,458 --> 00:35:19,292
♪

711
00:35:19,292 --> 00:35:20,500
- You're holding that end?
- Yeah.

712
00:35:20,500 --> 00:35:21,500
Awesome.

713
00:35:21,500 --> 00:35:23,208
In order for this
job to get done,

714
00:35:23,208 --> 00:35:25,667
it's important that two
things happen:

715
00:35:25,667 --> 00:35:28,167
Lori still feels like
she has control,

716
00:35:28,167 --> 00:35:29,667
but at the same time,

717
00:35:29,667 --> 00:35:32,542
she's got to allow her
trusted family members,

718
00:35:32,542 --> 00:35:35,458
or even friends, to make
decisions on her behalf.

719
00:35:35,458 --> 00:35:37,333
Otherwise,
this is impossible.

720
00:35:37,333 --> 00:35:39,750
There's no way we can get
this amount of stuff

721
00:35:39,875 --> 00:35:43,167
sorted and dealt with.
No way.

722
00:35:43,167 --> 00:35:45,542
Okay, so that can junk,
right behind you, if you like...

723
00:35:45,542 --> 00:35:46,667
Junk, okay.

724
00:35:46,667 --> 00:35:49,083
But I think we'll send
this up for sorting.

725
00:35:49,083 --> 00:35:52,500
[Kim] Oh, yeah.
[Lori] Um...

726
00:35:52,500 --> 00:35:55,625
Yeah, this is garbage
'cause it's been scratched.

727
00:35:55,625 --> 00:35:56,667
Okay.

728
00:35:56,667 --> 00:35:59,667
This is garbage,
right behind you.

729
00:35:59,667 --> 00:36:02,042
♪

730
00:36:02,167 --> 00:36:04,792
She is letting go
without looking.

731
00:36:04,792 --> 00:36:06,458
That worries me
a bit because

732
00:36:06,458 --> 00:36:08,333
I don't want her
to have regret.

733
00:36:08,333 --> 00:36:11,750
How about I have you two
go up and sort together?

734
00:36:11,750 --> 00:36:13,417
Because I think you make a
pretty good team on that.

735
00:36:13,542 --> 00:36:14,417
Yep.

736
00:36:14,542 --> 00:36:15,583
And you can help
each other with maybe

737
00:36:15,583 --> 00:36:17,000
some of the
tougher decisions.

738
00:36:17,000 --> 00:36:18,292
- Sure.
- Alright, sounds good.

739
00:36:18,292 --> 00:36:20,292
- Devil's advocate.
- Yep.

740
00:36:20,292 --> 00:36:23,583
Lori and Tajko are heading up
to work on the tarped areas.

741
00:36:23,708 --> 00:36:25,708
I've got to get into this
kitchen because

742
00:36:25,708 --> 00:36:27,417
there's a lot to deal with.

743
00:36:29,833 --> 00:36:32,333
There is a lot of food that
should have been refrigerated

744
00:36:32,458 --> 00:36:33,708
that's sitting out
on the counter,

745
00:36:33,708 --> 00:36:35,667
like salad dressings
and mayonnaise.

746
00:36:35,667 --> 00:36:38,167
And, I'm scared they've
been eating that.

747
00:36:38,167 --> 00:36:41,167
So, we have to get that
stuff out of there,

748
00:36:41,167 --> 00:36:44,583
and make sure there's
only safe food left.

749
00:36:44,708 --> 00:36:46,833
I've got to make this kitchen
clean and usable again.

750
00:36:46,958 --> 00:36:51,708
♪

751
00:36:54,042 --> 00:37:04,000
♪

752
00:37:07,000 --> 00:37:10,000
Is this a good shirt
to wear one day?

753
00:37:10,000 --> 00:37:12,417
What?!

754
00:37:12,542 --> 00:37:14,458
Can you put this on the
keep pile, please?

755
00:37:14,458 --> 00:37:16,042
- Ah...
- Will it fit you?

756
00:37:16,167 --> 00:37:17,833
- That's Taj.
- Really?

757
00:37:17,833 --> 00:37:19,500
- Yeah, can you keep that, Taj?
- I guess.

758
00:37:19,625 --> 00:37:21,583
Can you put this one
there too, please?

759
00:37:21,583 --> 00:37:24,333
- Okay...
- Let's keep that.

760
00:37:24,333 --> 00:37:26,042
- Is there stuff in here?
- I like to keep these.

761
00:37:26,042 --> 00:37:28,333
These are ski pants
that I can fit.

762
00:37:28,333 --> 00:37:30,708
[Lori humming]
Ooh-hoo-hoo-hoo.

763
00:37:30,833 --> 00:37:33,750
Okay, I'm just taking
a few keeps here.

764
00:37:33,750 --> 00:37:36,250
When it comes to my mom, she
needs to look at each thing

765
00:37:36,250 --> 00:37:39,333
individually, and that's a
little frustrating to me.

766
00:37:39,458 --> 00:37:42,833
Would you ever wear snowboard
pants like this, Taj?

767
00:37:42,833 --> 00:37:44,167
Okay.

768
00:37:44,167 --> 00:37:46,167
- Child hat.
- Barb made that.

769
00:37:46,167 --> 00:37:48,958
With a bonus inside it...
Wood picks.

770
00:37:48,958 --> 00:37:51,583
Oh! Keep those, please,
those were gifted to us.

771
00:37:51,708 --> 00:37:53,000
Okay.

772
00:37:53,125 --> 00:37:55,875
♪

773
00:37:56,000 --> 00:37:58,000
I do think I'd have greater
relief just kind of

774
00:37:58,000 --> 00:37:59,625
letting this all go at once.

775
00:37:59,625 --> 00:38:01,667
I know, I'm trying to get there,
but I'm not there yet.

776
00:38:01,792 --> 00:38:03,208
Yeah, it's stressing me
out right now.

777
00:38:03,208 --> 00:38:05,792
- What?
- It's stressing me out now.

778
00:38:05,792 --> 00:38:06,833
[Sighing]

779
00:38:06,958 --> 00:38:08,292
Because you know there's
thousands in there,

780
00:38:08,292 --> 00:38:09,833
and we'll never get
rid of it all at once.

781
00:38:09,833 --> 00:38:12,583
Or, unless we decide
for them all at once.

782
00:38:12,583 --> 00:38:13,833
I'm sorry, honey,
I'm trying to get there,

783
00:38:13,958 --> 00:38:15,167
but I'm not there yet.

784
00:38:15,167 --> 00:38:16,958
- I'm just warming up, okay?
- I know.

785
00:38:16,958 --> 00:38:18,167
Can you be patient
with me, please?

786
00:38:18,167 --> 00:38:21,000
I'll try to be.

787
00:38:21,000 --> 00:38:24,125
I feel like I need to see a
little bit more of the stuff

788
00:38:24,125 --> 00:38:26,125
that's coming from inside.

789
00:38:26,125 --> 00:38:28,375
Or that I would like to.

790
00:38:28,375 --> 00:38:30,167
I've seen her
like this before,

791
00:38:30,167 --> 00:38:32,625
and whenever we try
to go through things,

792
00:38:32,625 --> 00:38:37,083
she seems to need to be in
charge of every single item.

793
00:38:37,083 --> 00:38:38,542
Even though this
needs to be washed,

794
00:38:38,542 --> 00:38:40,542
you want to keep this, right?
- No.

795
00:38:40,542 --> 00:38:43,000
See how I'm not looking
at it, and saying no?

796
00:38:43,000 --> 00:38:44,417
Okay.

797
00:38:44,417 --> 00:38:45,583
I'm at the point where

798
00:38:45,583 --> 00:38:46,833
I don't have to look at it,
you know?

799
00:38:46,833 --> 00:38:47,833
Okay.

800
00:38:47,833 --> 00:38:49,833
I can understand her
difficulty a little bit.

801
00:38:49,833 --> 00:38:51,917
There's some things here
and there that I, myself,

802
00:38:52,042 --> 00:38:55,042
would like to keep, but I
know that it's past the

803
00:38:55,042 --> 00:38:57,542
point of no return and that
we need to do our best

804
00:38:57,542 --> 00:39:00,667
to get things
out of the house.

805
00:39:00,667 --> 00:39:03,167
She says things like,
"Oh, I feel so bad for

806
00:39:03,167 --> 00:39:04,583
the way I raised my boy.
I wish I could have

807
00:39:04,583 --> 00:39:07,750
given him a better
upbringing in this house."

808
00:39:07,750 --> 00:39:10,417
And at the same time,
she says, like,

809
00:39:10,417 --> 00:39:12,625
she needs to go through all
of these clothes and

810
00:39:12,625 --> 00:39:14,375
keep some of these items.

811
00:39:14,500 --> 00:39:15,917
So, that makes me
mad a little

812
00:39:15,917 --> 00:39:18,000
'cause it's- it feels
a little hypocritical.

813
00:39:18,000 --> 00:39:19,333
And I'm trying to-

814
00:39:19,333 --> 00:39:21,000
We knew that there'd
be sticky spots.

815
00:39:21,000 --> 00:39:22,833
Yeah, for sure, for sure.

816
00:39:22,833 --> 00:39:26,458
♪

817
00:39:26,458 --> 00:39:28,083
Keith actually seems a
little bit distant

818
00:39:28,083 --> 00:39:29,833
from Lori and his son.

819
00:39:29,833 --> 00:39:32,000
But I'm just going to
see how things play out,

820
00:39:32,000 --> 00:39:34,333
because sometimes ex-partners
need a little bit of time

821
00:39:34,333 --> 00:39:38,167
to warm up to each other.

822
00:39:38,167 --> 00:39:40,333
Oh, I want to keep these.

823
00:39:40,333 --> 00:39:42,458
This is my oldest
item of clothing.

824
00:39:42,458 --> 00:39:49,333
♪

825
00:39:49,333 --> 00:39:51,000
There's so much
stuff to go through.

826
00:39:51,000 --> 00:39:53,833
And if Lori is going to keep
analyzing every single item,

827
00:39:53,958 --> 00:39:55,417
there is no way we're
going to get through

828
00:39:55,417 --> 00:39:57,125
this entire house.

829
00:39:57,125 --> 00:39:59,333
♪

830
00:39:59,458 --> 00:40:00,750
- Mama.
- Uh-huh?

831
00:40:00,750 --> 00:40:04,333
We have your boxes
ready for you to look.

832
00:40:04,333 --> 00:40:05,833
We're going to show you
what's in them and

833
00:40:05,958 --> 00:40:07,167
hope that you approve.

834
00:40:07,167 --> 00:40:09,208
Okay.

835
00:40:09,208 --> 00:40:12,167
There's quite a
number of new,

836
00:40:12,167 --> 00:40:14,667
never-used items of
clothing in here.

837
00:40:14,667 --> 00:40:16,083
We both agree that
these are things that

838
00:40:16,083 --> 00:40:19,833
we don't need in
the house and...

839
00:40:19,833 --> 00:40:22,167
are better in the
use of other people.

840
00:40:22,167 --> 00:40:25,125
Okay... Okay.

841
00:40:25,125 --> 00:40:27,833
- You approve of that?
- Um...

842
00:40:27,833 --> 00:40:30,250
I, I'm, I- I got
to be honest,

843
00:40:30,250 --> 00:40:32,958
it's hard for me to not want
to see what all is in there.

844
00:40:32,958 --> 00:40:35,417
You'd maybe like to,
but wouldn't you-

845
00:40:35,417 --> 00:40:38,917
If you had the two options,
to keep them or live in

846
00:40:38,917 --> 00:40:41,833
a cleaner room, I think
I know the answer.

847
00:40:41,833 --> 00:40:42,833
- Right.
- Right?

848
00:40:42,833 --> 00:40:44,333
And so, we're choosing
the latter right now.

849
00:40:44,333 --> 00:40:45,708
If you have been
managing without them...

850
00:40:45,708 --> 00:40:49,333
Yeah, so you don't need
to see them, frankly.

851
00:40:49,333 --> 00:40:53,500
And I hope you can
get towards that.

852
00:40:53,500 --> 00:40:55,375
Mm-hm.
[Sniffling]

853
00:40:55,500 --> 00:40:58,417
Thank you for getting closer.

854
00:40:58,542 --> 00:41:00,667
Yeah, I don't know
how to express it.

855
00:41:00,667 --> 00:41:04,167
[Crying]

856
00:41:04,292 --> 00:41:07,125
Difficult feelings,
like, and...

857
00:41:07,125 --> 00:41:13,500
♪

858
00:41:13,500 --> 00:41:16,625
Like it's, it's hard for me
to hear you saying

859
00:41:16,750 --> 00:41:18,250
you don't need this,
you don't need this,

860
00:41:18,250 --> 00:41:19,875
you don't need this,
you know?

861
00:41:19,875 --> 00:41:22,667
But it's just, it's just,
it's my disorder talking,

862
00:41:22,667 --> 00:41:24,583
you know, that...

863
00:41:24,708 --> 00:41:27,208
it distorts it to
hear it that way.

864
00:41:27,208 --> 00:41:30,208
And...
[Crying]

865
00:41:30,208 --> 00:41:32,000
Right.

866
00:41:32,000 --> 00:41:35,667
It's just- it just doesn't
sit well and...

867
00:41:35,667 --> 00:41:37,500
I have to work through it.

868
00:41:37,500 --> 00:41:39,250
She thinks we're
fighting against her,

869
00:41:39,375 --> 00:41:41,833
but really I know that this
is just her way of expressing

870
00:41:41,833 --> 00:41:45,500
that it's an overwhelming
situation to face the problem

871
00:41:45,625 --> 00:41:49,083
we've been living
through for a long time.

872
00:41:49,208 --> 00:41:53,375
It's not as easy as I was
hoping it was gonna be.

873
00:41:53,375 --> 00:41:55,333
So, think of how much
smaller the task is

874
00:41:55,333 --> 00:41:57,833
if we just accept that
it's gone already.

875
00:41:57,833 --> 00:42:01,333
You mean just take
all these as they are?

876
00:42:01,333 --> 00:42:04,042
More or less.

877
00:42:04,042 --> 00:42:08,250
Half the battle is accepting
that it's already done for

878
00:42:08,250 --> 00:42:10,875
and there's no way to make
use of all these items now,

879
00:42:10,875 --> 00:42:14,958
so looking at it is
kind of a waste of time.

880
00:42:14,958 --> 00:42:17,667
Okay, so what is the best
thing for me to do, I wonder?

881
00:42:17,667 --> 00:42:20,042
I would say, in a way,
Mama, nothing.

882
00:42:20,042 --> 00:42:21,292
It's best
to do nothing...

883
00:42:21,292 --> 00:42:23,292
Go away?
[Laughing] Like...

884
00:42:23,292 --> 00:42:26,000
I'm just checking in. Lori,
I'm just checking in.

885
00:42:26,125 --> 00:42:27,000
How are you doing?

886
00:42:27,000 --> 00:42:28,500
I'm sorry that I
have this disorder.

887
00:42:28,500 --> 00:42:29,958
You don't have to apologize.

888
00:42:29,958 --> 00:42:32,667
No, I feel like I do because
I know it's hard to

889
00:42:32,667 --> 00:42:35,667
understand when you don't
think the way I do but...

890
00:42:35,667 --> 00:42:39,708
♪

891
00:42:39,833 --> 00:42:44,083
You never have to apologize
for your disorder.

892
00:42:44,083 --> 00:42:46,167
♪

893
00:42:46,167 --> 00:42:48,875
- Thank you. [Sighing]
- Okay?

894
00:42:48,875 --> 00:42:50,375
Thanks.

895
00:42:50,500 --> 00:42:52,833
The most frustrating
thing is

896
00:42:52,833 --> 00:42:55,500
the power of old
ways of thinking.

897
00:42:55,500 --> 00:42:57,792
To see my sister
suffer and then say,

898
00:42:57,792 --> 00:43:00,083
I'm sorry, when it's
really a disorder,

899
00:43:00,208 --> 00:43:02,167
that makes it hard.

900
00:43:02,292 --> 00:43:03,333
- I love you guys.
- Love you.

901
00:43:03,333 --> 00:43:05,250
Thanks, Sarah.

902
00:43:05,250 --> 00:43:07,667
♪

903
00:43:07,667 --> 00:43:09,042
I don't know.
I just don't, I really-

904
00:43:09,042 --> 00:43:10,250
I just don't know
what to do next.

905
00:43:10,250 --> 00:43:12,000
Will you take this Rubbermaid?

906
00:43:12,000 --> 00:43:13,833
Take it?
Take it to the donation?

907
00:43:13,833 --> 00:43:15,042
I can take it, I'd like to.

908
00:43:15,042 --> 00:43:16,667
Okay.

909
00:43:16,833 --> 00:43:19,042
I'm happy you can
let something go.

910
00:43:19,042 --> 00:43:20,667
Yeah.

911
00:43:20,667 --> 00:43:22,417
Lori needs to remember that
everyone is here

912
00:43:22,417 --> 00:43:23,958
to support her.

913
00:43:23,958 --> 00:43:25,833
And she has to trust her
friends and family

914
00:43:25,833 --> 00:43:28,208
to make difficult decisions.

915
00:43:29,125 --> 00:43:31,500
♪

916
00:43:31,500 --> 00:43:33,083
We had a lot of wins today,

917
00:43:33,083 --> 00:43:35,875
but we barely made a
dent in the house.

918
00:43:36,000 --> 00:43:38,625
And we're already
overwhelming her so,

919
00:43:38,625 --> 00:43:41,917
with day two tomorrow,
if Lori shuts down,

920
00:43:41,917 --> 00:43:44,000
there's no way we're
getting this done.

921
00:43:44,000 --> 00:43:46,708
♪

922
00:43:50,875 --> 00:44:00,833
♪

923
00:44:03,167 --> 00:44:06,458
Waking up to a big bag of
trash next to you is...

924
00:44:06,458 --> 00:44:07,833
It's not a way to live.

925
00:44:07,833 --> 00:44:09,542
It's no way to live, right.

926
00:44:09,542 --> 00:44:15,917
♪

927
00:44:15,917 --> 00:44:18,542
It's not as easy as I was
hoping it was gonna be.

928
00:44:18,542 --> 00:44:20,375
It's stressing me out now.

929
00:44:20,500 --> 00:44:23,208
Imagining and actually doing
are two different things so,

930
00:44:23,208 --> 00:44:26,583
Lori seeing her stuff
actually leaving on the truck

931
00:44:26,583 --> 00:44:29,333
and going to the
dump is hard.

932
00:44:29,333 --> 00:44:30,708
And that's going
to bring out

933
00:44:30,833 --> 00:44:33,500
even more emotions
every time a truck leaves.

934
00:44:33,500 --> 00:44:34,625
It could increase
her anxiety,

935
00:44:34,625 --> 00:44:35,875
it could shut her down.

936
00:44:36,000 --> 00:44:38,167
I really hope she can do this.

937
00:44:38,167 --> 00:44:48,167
♪

938
00:44:51,167 --> 00:44:53,500
Good morning, everyone.
How's everyone doing?

939
00:44:53,500 --> 00:44:55,000
- Good morning.
- Great.

940
00:44:55,125 --> 00:44:58,292
Lori, your energy yesterday,
your motivation,

941
00:44:58,292 --> 00:45:00,833
your progress through
the porch was incredible.

942
00:45:00,833 --> 00:45:02,500
And I think it's
safe to say

943
00:45:02,500 --> 00:45:04,667
we were all so, so
proud of you.

944
00:45:04,667 --> 00:45:07,958
- Mhm, thanks.
- However, I did notice...

945
00:45:07,958 --> 00:45:10,917
As we slowly started to move
to the bags of clothing,

946
00:45:11,042 --> 00:45:12,042
there was a bit
of resistance.

947
00:45:12,042 --> 00:45:14,000
- Yes.
- What was coming up?

948
00:45:14,000 --> 00:45:15,917
Um...

949
00:45:15,917 --> 00:45:18,667
I guess I'd call it anxiety.

950
00:45:18,667 --> 00:45:22,167
And, you know, worry that
when others were helping

951
00:45:22,167 --> 00:45:26,000
make decisions that they
would donate one of the

952
00:45:26,125 --> 00:45:28,083
few things that I
do actually use.

953
00:45:28,083 --> 00:45:30,667
Letting go of all of
those bins yesterday

954
00:45:30,667 --> 00:45:32,667
was a huge moment.

955
00:45:32,667 --> 00:45:34,500
And I just want you to
remember that moment and

956
00:45:34,500 --> 00:45:37,667
bring that energy back
to all the tasks

957
00:45:37,667 --> 00:45:39,500
we're going to
be doing today.

958
00:45:39,500 --> 00:45:41,792
Yesterday, we basically
got kind of

959
00:45:41,792 --> 00:45:44,000
one and a half rooms done,
and that resulted in

960
00:45:44,000 --> 00:45:46,083
a pretty big mountain
of stuff here...

961
00:45:46,208 --> 00:45:49,125
and two and a half
truckloads of garbage,

962
00:45:49,250 --> 00:45:50,667
which is fantastic.

963
00:45:50,667 --> 00:45:52,292
But that was one and
a half rooms.

964
00:45:52,292 --> 00:45:55,333
We've got three big
rooms to do today.

965
00:45:55,458 --> 00:45:58,250
Sunroom: that's to clear
another exit/entrance

966
00:45:58,250 --> 00:46:00,292
to the house.
Very important for safety.

967
00:46:00,292 --> 00:46:02,625
The laundry room,
and the living room.

968
00:46:02,625 --> 00:46:04,042
A lot of clothing in there.

969
00:46:04,167 --> 00:46:06,292
And, some of that stuff
might be hard for you

970
00:46:06,292 --> 00:46:09,333
because you've identified
clothing as your hot spot.

971
00:46:09,333 --> 00:46:12,208
Sarah's going to be with you
every step of the way when

972
00:46:12,208 --> 00:46:15,167
you need that kind of support
or if you hit a roadblock.

973
00:46:15,167 --> 00:46:18,500
Nadene is here ready to
take those donations to the

974
00:46:18,500 --> 00:46:20,708
community donation day
that's happening tomorrow,

975
00:46:20,708 --> 00:46:22,750
so that we can
get these amazing,

976
00:46:22,750 --> 00:46:24,917
useful things that are
no longer of use to you,

977
00:46:24,917 --> 00:46:26,792
back into the community.

978
00:46:26,792 --> 00:46:29,375
So, there will be a tsunami
of stuff coming out.

979
00:46:29,375 --> 00:46:30,667
Alright.

980
00:46:30,833 --> 00:46:32,875
But you've got an amazing
team of support right

981
00:46:33,000 --> 00:46:36,083
beside you here, that are
ready and willing to help you.

982
00:46:36,083 --> 00:46:39,833
Knowing me, I may
lapse in my clarity.

983
00:46:39,833 --> 00:46:41,833
So, feel free to remind me

984
00:46:41,833 --> 00:46:44,250
what I promised
you all, please.

985
00:46:44,250 --> 00:46:47,417
And thank you for
being here... everyone.

986
00:46:47,417 --> 00:46:50,167
♪

987
00:46:50,167 --> 00:46:52,292
Let's, let's put leggings...

988
00:46:52,292 --> 00:46:56,500
Lori's given us permission
to throw out obvious garbage.

989
00:46:56,500 --> 00:46:57,833
And I want to capitalize on

990
00:46:57,833 --> 00:46:59,875
the progress
we've made so far.

991
00:46:59,875 --> 00:47:01,958
There are going to be some
challenges that were inside

992
00:47:01,958 --> 00:47:04,083
of the house, bringing
things outside to Lori,

993
00:47:04,083 --> 00:47:07,333
that are a little harder
for her to get rid of.

994
00:47:07,333 --> 00:47:10,958
I'm instructing the crew to
really be more diligent about

995
00:47:10,958 --> 00:47:12,917
making sure that stuff
does not get out for

996
00:47:12,917 --> 00:47:14,167
the sorting for Lori.

997
00:47:14,167 --> 00:47:16,875
That's going to slow
her down even more.

998
00:47:16,875 --> 00:47:18,583
I don't know what to do next.

999
00:47:18,708 --> 00:47:25,333
♪

1000
00:47:25,333 --> 00:47:27,000
[Sighing] Keith?

1001
00:47:27,000 --> 00:47:30,667
I think this might
have been yours.

1002
00:47:30,667 --> 00:47:32,167
Keith?

1003
00:47:32,167 --> 00:47:34,208
Keith has barely said
two words to Lori

1004
00:47:34,208 --> 00:47:35,375
since he got here.

1005
00:47:35,375 --> 00:47:37,375
It could be resentment
towards her because of

1006
00:47:37,500 --> 00:47:39,583
how her hoarding has
impacted their son.

1007
00:47:39,583 --> 00:47:41,625
I don't know.

1008
00:47:41,625 --> 00:47:42,833
But I think it's time for me
and Keith

1009
00:47:42,833 --> 00:47:44,875
to have a quick chat.

1010
00:47:44,875 --> 00:47:47,083
- Hey, Keith.
- Hey, Sarah.

1011
00:47:47,083 --> 00:47:48,167
How's it going?
Can I actually just

1012
00:47:48,167 --> 00:47:49,208
chat with you,
real quick?

1013
00:47:49,375 --> 00:47:50,667
Okay.

1014
00:47:50,667 --> 00:47:52,292
I haven't seen too
much interaction

1015
00:47:52,292 --> 00:47:53,208
with the two of you.

1016
00:47:53,208 --> 00:47:54,750
I just wanted to just
check in to see

1017
00:47:54,750 --> 00:47:56,292
if there's something
coming up for you.

1018
00:47:56,292 --> 00:47:59,167
Frustration or feeling angry.
What's going on?

1019
00:47:59,167 --> 00:48:04,042
It is an awkward...
situation.

1020
00:48:04,167 --> 00:48:05,833
It's overwhelming
and awkward.

1021
00:48:05,833 --> 00:48:07,000
Yeah.

1022
00:48:07,125 --> 00:48:10,708
I'm frustrated
and overwhelmed.

1023
00:48:10,708 --> 00:48:15,292
I see a lot of the brand new
stuff that never got used,

1024
00:48:15,292 --> 00:48:18,458
and I think it's going to be
an eye opener for Lori

1025
00:48:18,458 --> 00:48:22,583
on how to use her money.

1026
00:48:22,583 --> 00:48:25,667
Leaving emotions out of
it is better for me and...

1027
00:48:25,667 --> 00:48:27,875
comes naturally, I suppose,

1028
00:48:27,875 --> 00:48:31,042
just so I can tackle the
task at hand.

1029
00:48:31,042 --> 00:48:33,333
You know, something I
was wondering is like,

1030
00:48:33,333 --> 00:48:34,833
if that's the nature
of your relationship,

1031
00:48:34,833 --> 00:48:36,500
and even when you guys
were together, right?

1032
00:48:36,500 --> 00:48:40,000
Like, is that something that
came up, where it was just...

1033
00:48:40,000 --> 00:48:42,125
she would do her thing, you
would do your thing and so

1034
00:48:42,125 --> 00:48:44,417
she's probably just
defaulting back to that

1035
00:48:44,542 --> 00:48:46,958
with you, like, "Okay, cool,
Keith's here, he's just,

1036
00:48:46,958 --> 00:48:48,208
I'm not going to
question him"?

1037
00:48:48,208 --> 00:48:49,583
- Doing his thing?
- He's doing his thing.

1038
00:48:49,583 --> 00:48:52,417
Maybe, maybe that's a
lot to do with it, yeah.

1039
00:48:52,417 --> 00:48:54,500
We never really
cleaned up together.

1040
00:48:54,500 --> 00:48:57,917
I always did it by myself
when she was out.

1041
00:48:57,917 --> 00:49:01,000
I came up here to
help Lori and my son.

1042
00:49:01,000 --> 00:49:03,042
And I'm gonna roll up my
sleeves and keep doing

1043
00:49:03,042 --> 00:49:05,667
what I'm doing
until it's all done.

1044
00:49:05,792 --> 00:49:08,208
Keith clearly is a
man of few words,

1045
00:49:08,208 --> 00:49:10,167
but it's nice to see he's
supporting Lori with

1046
00:49:10,167 --> 00:49:13,292
his actions, especially for
the sake of their son.

1047
00:49:13,292 --> 00:49:22,292
♪

1048
00:49:22,292 --> 00:49:24,208
We're going through
the items in the house.

1049
00:49:24,208 --> 00:49:27,542
They're densely packed,
there's so much.

1050
00:49:27,542 --> 00:49:29,000
It's like a tossed salad.

1051
00:49:29,125 --> 00:49:31,542
Everything is so mixed up
and intertwined.

1052
00:49:31,542 --> 00:49:35,167
It takes that much longer
to sort it and separate the

1053
00:49:35,167 --> 00:49:37,875
stuff to keep versus the
stuff that's got to go.

1054
00:49:37,875 --> 00:49:47,917
♪

1055
00:49:52,833 --> 00:49:53,833
♪

1056
00:49:53,833 --> 00:49:55,042
I would like to keep that.

1057
00:49:55,167 --> 00:49:56,792
I'll put it on the, I'll put
it on our keep pile,

1058
00:49:56,792 --> 00:49:58,833
okay, thank you.

1059
00:49:58,833 --> 00:50:00,917
I better get quicker.

1060
00:50:00,917 --> 00:50:02,000
I'll get quicker.

1061
00:50:02,000 --> 00:50:03,750
[Lori humming]

1062
00:50:03,750 --> 00:50:06,667
[Effort grunting]

1063
00:50:06,667 --> 00:50:09,333
Oh...

1064
00:50:09,333 --> 00:50:11,625
There's so many bins
with like, toys.

1065
00:50:11,625 --> 00:50:12,958
Like, do we just
throw the toys,

1066
00:50:12,958 --> 00:50:14,167
or do we try to
go through them?

1067
00:50:14,167 --> 00:50:17,542
Um...
[Sighing]

1068
00:50:17,542 --> 00:50:20,708
Lori's pace is a bit too slow
for what we need right now.

1069
00:50:20,708 --> 00:50:23,375
There is so much clothing,
and some of it is brand new

1070
00:50:23,375 --> 00:50:26,958
with tags, and that's made her
stop and look at each item.

1071
00:50:26,958 --> 00:50:30,083
I've gotta
speed this up.

1072
00:50:30,208 --> 00:50:32,625
I've asked Nadene to
step in and help Lori.

1073
00:50:32,625 --> 00:50:35,375
She's having a hard time with
some of the decision making.

1074
00:50:35,500 --> 00:50:37,750
She and Lori have been
friends for over nine years,

1075
00:50:37,750 --> 00:50:40,333
and there's good trust there,
and I think Nadene's the

1076
00:50:40,333 --> 00:50:43,208
person we need right
now to help Lori.

1077
00:50:43,333 --> 00:50:45,583
These boots and this is
going to go in a tub,

1078
00:50:45,583 --> 00:50:47,458
it's gonna go to donation.

1079
00:50:47,458 --> 00:50:48,458
Throw it all?

1080
00:50:48,583 --> 00:50:50,000
Most of it's garbage,
leave it in the box,

1081
00:50:50,000 --> 00:50:51,500
and he'll just haul it down.

1082
00:50:51,500 --> 00:50:54,208
Okay, Keith, we got another
garbage box for you.

1083
00:50:54,208 --> 00:50:56,000
So, let's get another tub.

1084
00:50:56,000 --> 00:50:57,792
This is how we're going
to get through these

1085
00:50:57,792 --> 00:50:59,667
30 more tubs out here.

1086
00:50:59,667 --> 00:51:01,042
I'm going to stay
right on them.

1087
00:51:01,042 --> 00:51:03,167
Look, there's no time for
talk here and that,

1088
00:51:03,167 --> 00:51:05,542
let's keep go,
go, go, go, go.

1089
00:51:05,542 --> 00:51:08,875
Because we have more
stuff than we have time.

1090
00:51:08,875 --> 00:51:10,167
[Sighing] This one...

1091
00:51:10,167 --> 00:51:11,917
It's all dirty
and that, Lori,

1092
00:51:11,917 --> 00:51:13,458
we've got bags of good stuff.

1093
00:51:13,458 --> 00:51:14,958
Okay...

1094
00:51:14,958 --> 00:51:17,792
♪

1095
00:51:17,792 --> 00:51:19,417
[Lori humming]

1096
00:51:19,542 --> 00:51:20,792
- These all keepers?
- Is this all donated?

1097
00:51:20,792 --> 00:51:22,292
Ah, maybe.

1098
00:51:22,292 --> 00:51:24,625
Okay, we can't have a maybe,
we need a yes or a no.

1099
00:51:24,625 --> 00:51:26,542
Yeah, Mom, you got to be able
to go through that box and

1100
00:51:26,542 --> 00:51:28,167
say this is good to go.

1101
00:51:28,167 --> 00:51:30,750
I'm putting the ones that
I'm giving away on this side

1102
00:51:30,875 --> 00:51:33,167
and ones I'd like to keep
on this side right now.

1103
00:51:33,292 --> 00:51:35,125
- Okay?
- Go, go, go.

1104
00:51:35,125 --> 00:51:36,583
This is good to go, Mama.
This is good to go.

1105
00:51:36,583 --> 00:51:38,208
[Sighing]

1106
00:51:38,208 --> 00:51:40,958
Okay, let me be your mediator
and help you out, okay?

1107
00:51:40,958 --> 00:51:42,917
Am I not gonna need a
few clothes to wear?

1108
00:51:42,917 --> 00:51:45,125
Like, am I, am I,
am I gonna,

1109
00:51:45,125 --> 00:51:47,333
am I gonna buy entirely
new clothes?

1110
00:51:47,333 --> 00:51:49,875
Can I not keep three and
give that many away though,

1111
00:51:49,875 --> 00:51:51,167
is that not okay?

1112
00:51:51,292 --> 00:51:52,958
Yes, that's okay.

1113
00:51:52,958 --> 00:51:54,542
Okay, I thought
that was okay.

1114
00:51:54,667 --> 00:51:56,500
- Is that not okay for you?
- We need to be faster.

1115
00:51:56,500 --> 00:51:57,833
We need to be
serious about this.

1116
00:51:57,958 --> 00:51:59,375
He doesn't mean
to overwhelm you.

1117
00:51:59,375 --> 00:52:01,167
- I don't want to attack you.
- We're all coming at you.

1118
00:52:01,167 --> 00:52:03,333
Well, that's what
it feels like.

1119
00:52:03,458 --> 00:52:06,667
♪

1120
00:52:06,667 --> 00:52:09,500
I'm sorry, I'm not doing
that good right now.

1121
00:52:09,625 --> 00:52:13,000
[Crying]

1122
00:52:13,000 --> 00:52:14,667
♪ [Suspenseful]

1123
00:52:14,792 --> 00:52:16,333
Lori has walked away.

1124
00:52:16,333 --> 00:52:19,167
It could go either two ways:
She just needs a little break,

1125
00:52:19,167 --> 00:52:20,875
and is going
to be right back.

1126
00:52:21,042 --> 00:52:22,333
Or she's shutting down.

1127
00:52:22,333 --> 00:52:24,375
And she's my main
decision-maker.

1128
00:52:24,375 --> 00:52:26,208
I've seen this
happen before,

1129
00:52:26,208 --> 00:52:28,125
and sometimes they
don't come back.

1130
00:52:28,292 --> 00:52:30,500
I'm sorry that I am this way.

1131
00:52:30,500 --> 00:52:32,500
♪ [Suspenseful]

1132
00:52:36,583 --> 00:52:45,500
♪

1133
00:52:45,500 --> 00:52:47,958
Lori is walking away,
and leaving the building.

1134
00:52:48,792 --> 00:52:51,792
The stuff coming out is
coming to a grinding halt in

1135
00:52:51,792 --> 00:52:55,667
a big pile, and I don't have
my key decision-maker here to

1136
00:52:55,667 --> 00:52:59,000
determine what's being kept
and what's going to go.

1137
00:52:59,000 --> 00:53:01,500
If she comes back,
I'm worried that this

1138
00:53:01,500 --> 00:53:04,000
massive pile is going to
send her back crying.

1139
00:53:04,000 --> 00:53:05,500
It's overwhelming.

1140
00:53:05,500 --> 00:53:07,292
How am I going to get
this done without her?

1141
00:53:07,292 --> 00:53:10,167
♪ [Suspenseful]

1142
00:53:10,167 --> 00:53:20,167
♪ [Gentle piano music]

1143
00:53:20,583 --> 00:53:22,833
[Crying]
Thank you, thank you.

1144
00:53:22,833 --> 00:53:25,708
[Sighing]

1145
00:53:25,708 --> 00:53:28,083
- How you doing?
- Thanks.

1146
00:53:28,208 --> 00:53:31,000
This is normal. Hey?

1147
00:53:31,000 --> 00:53:32,417
I guess.
[Sighing]

1148
00:53:32,417 --> 00:53:35,542
You're doing wonderful.
Okay?

1149
00:53:35,667 --> 00:53:38,792
Well, everybody's telling me
I'm moving too slow.

1150
00:53:38,792 --> 00:53:40,333
And I'm doing my best.

1151
00:53:40,333 --> 00:53:44,208
You know what?
It's a time factor.

1152
00:53:44,333 --> 00:53:47,250
- Yeah.
- It's not against you.

1153
00:53:47,250 --> 00:53:49,042
It's against the
clock racing, right?

1154
00:53:49,042 --> 00:53:50,208
Yeah.

1155
00:53:50,333 --> 00:53:52,125
Think about what
we're doing anyway,

1156
00:53:52,125 --> 00:53:54,500
it's almost unrealistic,
isn't it?

1157
00:53:54,625 --> 00:53:56,292
It took years to
pile all that stuff.

1158
00:53:56,292 --> 00:53:57,667
- Yeah, yeah, yeah.
- Right?

1159
00:53:57,667 --> 00:54:01,083
Yeah. [Sighing]

1160
00:54:01,083 --> 00:54:05,042
I think I need a, I need a
break from everybody, like...

1161
00:54:05,042 --> 00:54:09,083
Okay, okay,
that's understandable.

1162
00:54:09,083 --> 00:54:11,292
She's overwhelmed that
everybody is

1163
00:54:11,292 --> 00:54:13,542
maybe telling
her what to do.

1164
00:54:13,542 --> 00:54:14,500
Thanks.

1165
00:54:14,667 --> 00:54:16,833
Oh, my God, girlie,
what you're doing.

1166
00:54:16,833 --> 00:54:19,792
We are just reaching the inner
part of the problem with her.

1167
00:54:19,792 --> 00:54:22,333
So, we stop, we let
her know we love her,

1168
00:54:22,333 --> 00:54:23,500
we care about her...

1169
00:54:23,625 --> 00:54:25,375
we're only here to help her.

1170
00:54:25,375 --> 00:54:27,542
We're here because she's
asked us to be here.

1171
00:54:27,542 --> 00:54:30,083
- Okay!
- Okay, thanks, Nadene.

1172
00:54:30,083 --> 00:54:32,458
I went down and gave her a
hug and we talked for a bit,

1173
00:54:32,458 --> 00:54:34,125
and we laughed a bit.

1174
00:54:34,125 --> 00:54:36,125
You take a deep breath,
you know,

1175
00:54:36,125 --> 00:54:37,958
and then you go forward.

1176
00:54:37,958 --> 00:54:39,500
That's not been
an easy thing,

1177
00:54:39,500 --> 00:54:40,750
especially when,
you know,

1178
00:54:40,750 --> 00:54:42,792
you're kind of
causing it for her.

1179
00:54:42,792 --> 00:54:51,083
♪

1180
00:54:51,083 --> 00:54:52,667
This entire experience,

1181
00:54:52,667 --> 00:54:54,833
it's extremely
overwhelming for her.

1182
00:54:54,833 --> 00:54:57,042
What she's been dealing with
over the last two days is

1183
00:54:57,208 --> 00:54:59,625
something she's never
dealt with before.

1184
00:54:59,625 --> 00:55:02,875
I want to be mindful of
certain things that perhaps

1185
00:55:03,000 --> 00:55:06,583
might be contributing
to how she's feeling.

1186
00:55:06,583 --> 00:55:09,667
I know that sometimes when
we're helping her clean out

1187
00:55:09,792 --> 00:55:13,042
the area and spaces, we refer
to things like garbage or

1188
00:55:13,042 --> 00:55:16,500
trash or junk, and that can
feel quite hurtful, right?

1189
00:55:16,667 --> 00:55:19,500
Because these are items
that are meaningful to her,

1190
00:55:19,500 --> 00:55:21,500
and she holds on to them.

1191
00:55:21,625 --> 00:55:25,917
She likes to apologize and
kind of blame herself

1192
00:55:25,917 --> 00:55:27,625
for a lot of this, and...

1193
00:55:27,625 --> 00:55:29,833
just to help her understand
that this is all,

1194
00:55:29,833 --> 00:55:32,667
this is about getting
better for all of us.

1195
00:55:32,667 --> 00:55:34,333
It's difficult
for her, right,

1196
00:55:34,333 --> 00:55:36,875
she's so scared of the
judgment that's going to come

1197
00:55:36,875 --> 00:55:39,667
from people and, this is
actually coming to be true.

1198
00:55:39,792 --> 00:55:42,500
Language like that can feel
so triggering and heavy that,

1199
00:55:42,500 --> 00:55:44,000
"Oh, you know what,
what I've done,

1200
00:55:44,000 --> 00:55:46,333
they're judging me for it."

1201
00:55:46,333 --> 00:55:48,333
It's overwhelming,
there's a lot.

1202
00:55:48,333 --> 00:55:50,500
- Welcome, Lori.
- Hi.

1203
00:55:50,500 --> 00:55:53,167
I know you had to take a
moment to kind of step away.

1204
00:55:53,167 --> 00:55:54,500
Talk to us.

1205
00:55:54,500 --> 00:55:57,500
I guess I've been...

1206
00:55:57,500 --> 00:56:02,292
feeling it in a different
way today, and...

1207
00:56:02,292 --> 00:56:04,625
Like, I know, I know that
I can be frustrating

1208
00:56:04,625 --> 00:56:08,667
to work with, I know I
work really slowly.

1209
00:56:08,667 --> 00:56:10,292
Um...

1210
00:56:10,292 --> 00:56:12,875
[Sniffing & sighing]

1211
00:56:12,875 --> 00:56:15,250
♪

1212
00:56:15,250 --> 00:56:19,625
[Crying]

1213
00:56:19,625 --> 00:56:22,000
And I'm just
finding I can't...

1214
00:56:22,125 --> 00:56:23,542
watch what they're,

1215
00:56:23,542 --> 00:56:27,542
what they're doing too
closely because...

1216
00:56:27,542 --> 00:56:31,167
sometimes, people make
decisions different than

1217
00:56:31,167 --> 00:56:33,417
what I would make,
you know, and it's...

1218
00:56:33,417 --> 00:56:37,500
it's just hard.
I'm finding it hard.

1219
00:56:37,500 --> 00:56:39,792
None of this is going to
be effective if we continue

1220
00:56:39,792 --> 00:56:43,417
doing what we're doing and
it's not working for you.

1221
00:56:43,417 --> 00:56:47,042
Because then, it's just
removing physical items.

1222
00:56:47,167 --> 00:56:48,417
There's no change
in behavior,

1223
00:56:48,417 --> 00:56:50,500
and we want that.

1224
00:56:50,500 --> 00:56:53,875
If this is too much for you,
we can stop.

1225
00:56:53,875 --> 00:56:59,458
♪

1226
00:56:59,458 --> 00:57:03,042
No, please don't stop.
I want to continue, please.

1227
00:57:03,042 --> 00:57:06,292
♪

1228
00:57:06,292 --> 00:57:07,833
Because we can also
take a bit of a break

1229
00:57:07,833 --> 00:57:10,250
if you want us to stop.
- No, no, I...

1230
00:57:10,250 --> 00:57:11,458
I had a break
and I appreciate it,

1231
00:57:11,458 --> 00:57:13,250
but I would like
to keep going.

1232
00:57:13,250 --> 00:57:16,417
- Okay.
- Please don't stop.

1233
00:57:16,417 --> 00:57:19,208
I want to continue, please.

1234
00:57:19,208 --> 00:57:21,292
I'm really proud of Lori.

1235
00:57:21,292 --> 00:57:23,625
She came back, and she
wants to keep going,

1236
00:57:23,625 --> 00:57:26,375
which tells me that she's
processing the emotions

1237
00:57:26,375 --> 00:57:27,667
through the discomfort,

1238
00:57:27,667 --> 00:57:29,958
instead of avoiding it and
shutting down.

1239
00:57:29,958 --> 00:57:34,833
♪

1240
00:57:34,833 --> 00:57:36,708
[Kim]
It's tough for Lori today.

1241
00:57:36,833 --> 00:57:38,917
We're throwing a
lot of stuff at her.

1242
00:57:39,042 --> 00:57:40,875
Frankly, two to three times
the amount of stuff

1243
00:57:41,000 --> 00:57:42,792
we did yesterday.

1244
00:57:42,792 --> 00:57:44,833
♪

1245
00:57:44,833 --> 00:57:47,542
I was able to get around into a
storage room and get another

1246
00:57:47,542 --> 00:57:50,250
door open, so we have
another point of entry and

1247
00:57:50,250 --> 00:57:52,583
exit to get more stuff
out of the house.

1248
00:57:52,583 --> 00:57:55,417
♪

1249
00:57:55,417 --> 00:57:57,667
Holy cow, look at all
that stuff that's garbage.

1250
00:57:57,667 --> 00:57:59,292
I can't even look at it.

1251
00:57:59,292 --> 00:58:02,667
Look at it, like-
I see lots of bins and-

1252
00:58:02,667 --> 00:58:04,208
They're throwing
that cooler away?

1253
00:58:04,208 --> 00:58:06,625
♪

1254
00:58:06,625 --> 00:58:09,375
That thing, me and Aunty
decided that because

1255
00:58:09,375 --> 00:58:11,958
it's got, it's got dust,
dirt and grass in there,

1256
00:58:11,958 --> 00:58:13,500
it's like the bottom
has disintegrated.

1257
00:58:13,500 --> 00:58:15,000
We wanted to ask you,
the bottom's all rusted out.

1258
00:58:15,000 --> 00:58:16,500
It's an antique, though.

1259
00:58:16,500 --> 00:58:18,958
Like, I still like it
for a display but...

1260
00:58:18,958 --> 00:58:20,833
- Okay.
- I don't know.

1261
00:58:20,833 --> 00:58:24,208
- I guess let it go, but this is-
- You gotta let go.

1262
00:58:24,208 --> 00:58:27,583
This is like, it's just,
this is the part I find hard,

1263
00:58:27,583 --> 00:58:29,167
like, things that
I really like-

1264
00:58:29,167 --> 00:58:30,583
Your collectibles.

1265
00:58:30,708 --> 00:58:34,167
People are saying, Oh,
that's filthy, that's gross.

1266
00:58:34,167 --> 00:58:36,542
Did you know where
that cooler was?

1267
00:58:36,542 --> 00:58:39,375
It was in that
water room area.

1268
00:58:39,375 --> 00:58:41,042
[Sighing]

1269
00:58:41,042 --> 00:58:45,000
We can't live like this,
you know? It's...

1270
00:58:45,000 --> 00:58:48,208
This home is antique, and it
could be in much better shape.

1271
00:58:48,208 --> 00:58:50,625
That, that-
stuff like that is,

1272
00:58:50,625 --> 00:58:51,667
some of it
might be antique,

1273
00:58:51,667 --> 00:58:53,500
but it's already gone,
you know?

1274
00:58:53,500 --> 00:58:58,042
Yeah... But I thought, like,
I thought I clearly said

1275
00:58:58,042 --> 00:59:00,500
I would like to keep
the Coke stuff.

1276
00:59:00,625 --> 00:59:01,917
We can go and grab that off.

1277
00:59:02,042 --> 00:59:03,458
- You want to look at it?
- Yeah, come and look at it.

1278
00:59:03,458 --> 00:59:05,958
- No, no, I'll-
- It's gone already.

1279
00:59:06,083 --> 00:59:08,333
It can go, it can go,
but it just...

1280
00:59:08,333 --> 00:59:10,417
it hurts, it hurts.

1281
00:59:10,417 --> 00:59:13,000
Like, me and Kathy
were aware of that.

1282
00:59:13,125 --> 00:59:15,708
This was our decision
with that Coke cooler.

1283
00:59:15,708 --> 00:59:17,375
But you gave us clearance
to make decisions,

1284
00:59:17,375 --> 00:59:22,542
and we thought it was
very damaged and...

1285
00:59:22,542 --> 00:59:25,417
But I guess I would have
hoped that since I had said

1286
00:59:25,417 --> 00:59:27,000
I'd like to keep
the Coke stuff,

1287
00:59:27,000 --> 00:59:29,458
that you would have let me
in on the conversation.

1288
00:59:29,458 --> 00:59:32,375
Yeah, we could take it
off the truck, so...

1289
00:59:32,375 --> 00:59:33,708
We can regroup about it.

1290
00:59:33,708 --> 00:59:36,250
No, no, it's okay,
it's okay.

1291
00:59:36,250 --> 00:59:37,958
I got to let it go.

1292
00:59:37,958 --> 00:59:41,000
♪

1293
00:59:41,000 --> 00:59:42,417
- Hey, Lori.
- Hi.

1294
00:59:42,417 --> 00:59:45,083
- How's it going?
- It's alright, thanks.

1295
00:59:45,083 --> 00:59:47,500
I know there were specific
items you requested for,

1296
00:59:47,500 --> 00:59:49,833
and I know one of the
items that you were

1297
00:59:49,833 --> 00:59:53,000
requested for
ends up in the...

1298
00:59:53,000 --> 00:59:56,750
truck, where all the
disposable items are.

1299
00:59:56,875 --> 00:59:58,750
I want to know how
you're feeling.

1300
00:59:58,750 --> 01:00:01,417
I guess at that moment
I was just thinking...

1301
01:00:01,417 --> 01:00:06,875
well, you know, why are we
talking about guidelines or

1302
01:00:06,875 --> 01:00:09,167
requests if they're not
going to be followed?

1303
01:00:09,167 --> 01:00:11,083
That's how I was
feeling in that moment.

1304
01:00:11,208 --> 01:00:13,792
Lori, you're not wrong.
You asked for that, right,

1305
01:00:13,792 --> 01:00:15,542
and we said you're
the boss, so...

1306
01:00:15,542 --> 01:00:18,333
you are the one
who gets to decide.

1307
01:00:18,333 --> 01:00:20,125
And I understand Tajko,
you know,

1308
01:00:20,125 --> 01:00:24,000
made a decision that
it's not functional.

1309
01:00:24,000 --> 01:00:27,750
I just want to make sure that
you're being very intentional

1310
01:00:27,750 --> 01:00:30,000
as well about your choices
rather than doing something

1311
01:00:30,000 --> 01:00:33,667
just to please your
son and your sister.

1312
01:00:33,667 --> 01:00:35,000
I don't, I don't
want you to do that.

1313
01:00:35,000 --> 01:00:37,583
And you're making
so much progress.

1314
01:00:37,583 --> 01:00:39,958
I think your son
can attest to that.

1315
01:00:39,958 --> 01:00:42,875
More than I've
ever seen before.

1316
01:00:42,875 --> 01:00:44,833
Because remember,
if you're doing it for others,

1317
01:00:44,833 --> 01:00:47,042
when they leave,
the behaviors are going

1318
01:00:47,042 --> 01:00:48,958
to come back, and none
of us want that.

1319
01:00:48,958 --> 01:00:50,625
We're looking for a
change in behavior,

1320
01:00:50,625 --> 01:00:54,750
not just removal
of physical items.

1321
01:00:54,750 --> 01:00:56,958
Do you want to
think about it?

1322
01:00:56,958 --> 01:00:58,833
No, thanks.

1323
01:00:58,958 --> 01:01:01,167
I really, I really want to
stay with letting it go.

1324
01:01:01,167 --> 01:01:02,833
- Okay.
- Yeah.

1325
01:01:02,833 --> 01:01:05,000
I'm really proud of Lori.

1326
01:01:05,167 --> 01:01:07,667
She's making a lot
of progress today.

1327
01:01:07,917 --> 01:01:11,333
She is able to understand the
discomfort that comes with

1328
01:01:11,333 --> 01:01:15,625
being able to let go of items
that have no purpose for her.

1329
01:01:15,625 --> 01:01:17,750
This was a big moment for her.

1330
01:01:21,583 --> 01:01:31,542
♪

1331
01:01:35,875 --> 01:01:38,667
It's day three, and I've got
an even bigger job today

1332
01:01:38,667 --> 01:01:40,708
than I had yesterday.

1333
01:01:40,708 --> 01:01:45,000
Upstairs: bedrooms, bathroom,
like, key living space.

1334
01:01:45,000 --> 01:01:47,167
And I know that there's
going to be a lot of emotion

1335
01:01:47,167 --> 01:01:50,375
in there for everybody.

1336
01:01:50,375 --> 01:01:52,833
Lori's really concerned that
we're going to get rid of

1337
01:01:52,958 --> 01:01:55,333
clothes that she
wants to keep.

1338
01:01:55,333 --> 01:01:58,708
We've got a whole pile of
bins on the hill there that

1339
01:01:58,708 --> 01:02:00,958
need decisions, and that's
going to be

1340
01:02:00,958 --> 01:02:02,417
way too much for her.

1341
01:02:02,542 --> 01:02:05,167
So, I'm hoping that she will
delegate that decision-making

1342
01:02:05,167 --> 01:02:09,167
power to my team.
We can look at a bin,

1343
01:02:09,292 --> 01:02:11,958
pull out anything good,
and the rest will go...

1344
01:02:11,958 --> 01:02:14,042
'cause we've got a
donation day happening,

1345
01:02:14,042 --> 01:02:16,292
and I've only got the
truck for an hour or two,

1346
01:02:16,292 --> 01:02:18,083
and I've got to fill it.

1347
01:02:20,542 --> 01:02:22,708
Ah, this can donate.

1348
01:02:22,833 --> 01:02:24,250
Maybe this one's new.

1349
01:02:24,375 --> 01:02:25,583
This can donate, yeah.

1350
01:02:25,583 --> 01:02:27,667
This looks like a
lot of junk to me.

1351
01:02:27,667 --> 01:02:29,750
Taj has been
really great today.

1352
01:02:29,750 --> 01:02:32,458
This has been hard on
him his whole life.

1353
01:02:32,458 --> 01:02:35,000
And, this process
is hard on him.

1354
01:02:35,000 --> 01:02:36,792
That's an extension cord,
I'll keep this.

1355
01:02:36,792 --> 01:02:38,792
We're gonna really get to
work on his room 'cause

1356
01:02:38,792 --> 01:02:43,958
I know he cannot wait to
have that as his own space,

1357
01:02:43,958 --> 01:02:47,250
'cause really two-thirds of
that room is his mom's stuff.

1358
01:02:47,250 --> 01:02:49,875
♪

1359
01:02:49,875 --> 01:02:53,500
You've been working so hard,
and I know that this space is

1360
01:02:53,625 --> 01:02:56,500
something you've wanted to
reclaim for a long time and

1361
01:02:56,500 --> 01:02:59,333
have it back in your
full possession.

1362
01:02:59,333 --> 01:03:01,833
So, I want to clear
out your mom's stuff,

1363
01:03:01,833 --> 01:03:03,667
and you said there might be
some of your dad's stuff.

1364
01:03:03,792 --> 01:03:06,708
I really want to give
this room back to you,

1365
01:03:06,708 --> 01:03:08,625
so that this is your space,

1366
01:03:08,625 --> 01:03:10,250
'cause it hasn't
been your space...

1367
01:03:10,250 --> 01:03:12,250
probably almost
since day one, right?

1368
01:03:12,375 --> 01:03:14,583
Yeah, this is the first space
I have to clear for myself,

1369
01:03:14,583 --> 01:03:16,000
so I'm...

1370
01:03:16,000 --> 01:03:17,625
happy to come back to it and
it's the last space

1371
01:03:17,625 --> 01:03:20,042
that we're going to
properly clear.

1372
01:03:20,042 --> 01:03:22,125
Yeah, this is going to be
Tajko's room again.

1373
01:03:22,125 --> 01:03:25,792
Yeah.

1374
01:03:25,792 --> 01:03:27,542
Garbage...

1375
01:03:27,542 --> 01:03:29,333
Garbage.

1376
01:03:29,333 --> 01:03:31,458
Me and my mom certainly
don't have a habit of

1377
01:03:31,458 --> 01:03:33,375
keeping the house
clean and...

1378
01:03:33,500 --> 01:03:35,625
tackling the house in such
a big way has been

1379
01:03:35,625 --> 01:03:38,000
a lot for both of us.

1380
01:03:38,000 --> 01:03:39,667
And I'm really starting to
think about how we're going

1381
01:03:39,792 --> 01:03:41,917
to adjust to a home with
much less items.

1382
01:03:41,917 --> 01:03:43,125
It's going to be good
in a lot of ways,

1383
01:03:43,125 --> 01:03:44,417
but I know we're
going to be feeling

1384
01:03:44,542 --> 01:03:46,500
like a part
of us is missing.

1385
01:03:46,500 --> 01:03:48,875
Alright, garbage, garbage.

1386
01:03:48,875 --> 01:03:50,167
Taj and I are
working in his room,

1387
01:03:50,167 --> 01:03:52,208
and he's an absolute machine.

1388
01:03:52,208 --> 01:03:54,167
Gone, gone, keep.

1389
01:03:54,167 --> 01:03:55,500
Yes, no.

1390
01:03:55,500 --> 01:03:57,625
And he's making
great decisions.

1391
01:03:57,625 --> 01:03:59,542
I can't believe
he's a teenager.

1392
01:03:59,667 --> 01:04:01,292
He's so mature.

1393
01:04:01,292 --> 01:04:04,292
But I want to get 100%
for him because this is so

1394
01:04:04,292 --> 01:04:08,667
important for a guy his age,
and he needs his own space.

1395
01:04:08,667 --> 01:04:11,458
Thank you. Okay.

1396
01:04:11,458 --> 01:04:12,417
What we're doing right now,

1397
01:04:12,417 --> 01:04:13,792
I really want to see
this corner clear.

1398
01:04:13,792 --> 01:04:15,458
I've always had to
stick to my bed area.

1399
01:04:15,458 --> 01:04:18,292
I look forward to being able
to do things outside of that.

1400
01:04:18,292 --> 01:04:20,667
Maybe a computer set up
in here, it'd be awesome.

1401
01:04:20,667 --> 01:04:22,000
I want to make the
most of this

1402
01:04:22,000 --> 01:04:23,292
clean slate
we've been given.

1403
01:04:23,417 --> 01:04:26,000
A lot of the things I own
were selected by my mom.

1404
01:04:26,000 --> 01:04:29,500
So, seeing those go and
working with a clean house,

1405
01:04:29,625 --> 01:04:32,208
I look forward to being able
to personalize a little more.

1406
01:04:32,208 --> 01:04:42,250
♪

1407
01:04:43,500 --> 01:04:46,333
Kathy, I found something
I wanted to show you.

1408
01:04:46,333 --> 01:04:50,667
Really cute photo album.
Who is this little baby?

1409
01:04:50,833 --> 01:04:52,167
[Laughing]

1410
01:04:52,167 --> 01:04:58,000
This is one of Lori's
closest friends, growing up.

1411
01:04:58,000 --> 01:05:01,417
They did a lot of
fun things together.

1412
01:05:01,542 --> 01:05:05,083
They used to pretend they
were hosting a cooking show.

1413
01:05:05,083 --> 01:05:06,917
[Laughing]
Yeah...

1414
01:05:06,917 --> 01:05:10,125
Yep, this is- this whole
album must be a gift from

1415
01:05:10,125 --> 01:05:12,792
one of her closest friends
while she was growing up.

1416
01:05:12,792 --> 01:05:14,250
- That's her friend?
- Yes, yes.

1417
01:05:14,375 --> 01:05:15,417
That's so sweet.

1418
01:05:15,417 --> 01:05:18,792
She added a real playful
spirit to our family.

1419
01:05:18,792 --> 01:05:21,250
Yeah, which is
so nice to hear.

1420
01:05:21,250 --> 01:05:24,542
And it must make it that much
more difficult, you know,

1421
01:05:24,542 --> 01:05:27,500
when you think about your
baby sister who brought

1422
01:05:27,625 --> 01:05:31,208
such a joyful, playful
energy to the household,

1423
01:05:31,208 --> 01:05:34,458
having to live like this.

1424
01:05:34,458 --> 01:05:37,125
[Sighing]

1425
01:05:37,125 --> 01:05:38,250
Yeah.

1426
01:05:38,250 --> 01:05:39,792
Why don't I give
this to you?

1427
01:05:39,792 --> 01:05:42,750
I'm sure your sister
would love to see this.

1428
01:05:42,875 --> 01:05:44,917
Yes, she will, she will.

1429
01:05:45,042 --> 01:05:48,000
She'll laugh.

1430
01:05:48,000 --> 01:05:49,708
- Lori?
- Yeah?

1431
01:05:49,708 --> 01:05:52,167
- I found something.
- Oh, boy.

1432
01:05:52,292 --> 01:05:54,292
- It's really sweet.
- Okay.

1433
01:05:54,292 --> 01:05:57,167
- Your dear, dear friend.
- Mhm?

1434
01:05:57,167 --> 01:06:02,208
- And this album.
- Oh...

1435
01:06:02,208 --> 01:06:04,375
- Oh, my gosh.
- [Laughing]

1436
01:06:04,375 --> 01:06:06,625
It's got very precious
family photos.

1437
01:06:06,625 --> 01:06:08,167
- Oh my gosh.
- Look.

1438
01:06:08,167 --> 01:06:11,167
Wow.
Yeah, that's funny.

1439
01:06:11,167 --> 01:06:14,333
Yeah, this is a very
special selection.

1440
01:06:14,333 --> 01:06:18,167
Mhm. Oh, my gosh.

1441
01:06:18,167 --> 01:06:20,833
- So cute.
- Little ones.

1442
01:06:20,833 --> 01:06:23,083
That's awesome.
Thank you.

1443
01:06:23,083 --> 01:06:24,750
Thanks so much for being here.

1444
01:06:24,875 --> 01:06:26,667
I love you so much.

1445
01:06:26,667 --> 01:06:28,958
Okay, now get back to it.
No, I'm just kidding.

1446
01:06:28,958 --> 01:06:30,875
Ha-ha!
Just joking.

1447
01:06:30,875 --> 01:06:33,833
- Just joking.
- On the double.

1448
01:06:33,833 --> 01:06:35,958
[Laughing]

1449
01:06:35,958 --> 01:06:38,000
Sounds like Dad.

1450
01:06:38,000 --> 01:06:40,875
Later, alligator.

1451
01:06:40,875 --> 01:06:42,875
Back to it.

1452
01:06:42,875 --> 01:06:50,167
♪

1453
01:06:50,167 --> 01:06:52,250
Day two was hard for Lori
'cause we really

1454
01:06:52,375 --> 01:06:54,542
got into the nitty
gritty of clothes.

1455
01:06:54,667 --> 01:06:57,417
And,
that overwhelmed her.

1456
01:06:57,417 --> 01:06:59,333
I was worried that was
going to happen again,

1457
01:06:59,333 --> 01:07:01,583
but here we are working
through clothes...

1458
01:07:01,708 --> 01:07:03,792
and she is doing great.

1459
01:07:03,792 --> 01:07:05,042
Ah, donate.

1460
01:07:05,042 --> 01:07:07,542
Donate... Donate.

1461
01:07:07,542 --> 01:07:09,417
[Kim] So, I'm going to
capitalize on that,

1462
01:07:09,417 --> 01:07:11,333
and I'm going
to run with it.

1463
01:07:11,500 --> 01:07:17,000
♪

1464
01:07:17,000 --> 01:07:21,958
Oh, wow. Lori!

1465
01:07:21,958 --> 01:07:23,167
Where's all the stuff?

1466
01:07:23,167 --> 01:07:25,667
Oh, wow, amazing.

1467
01:07:25,792 --> 01:07:27,917
- Lori!
- Yeah! Kim!

1468
01:07:28,042 --> 01:07:30,875
- Come to me, come to me.
- [Laughing] Hi.

1469
01:07:30,875 --> 01:07:33,042
So, I'm assuming
you saw behind you?

1470
01:07:33,042 --> 01:07:34,375
- Yeah.
- What do you think about that?

1471
01:07:34,500 --> 01:07:36,333
I think it's a miracle.
Thank you so much.

1472
01:07:36,333 --> 01:07:38,875
- It kind of was, to be honest.
- Yeah, no, I agree.

1473
01:07:39,000 --> 01:07:41,333
Everyone here did
such a great job.

1474
01:07:41,333 --> 01:07:43,125
They carefully pulled out
good things that

1475
01:07:43,125 --> 01:07:44,500
we kept for you.

1476
01:07:44,500 --> 01:07:47,000
And we've got great
donations on the cube truck,

1477
01:07:47,000 --> 01:07:49,083
which will be
leaving very soon.

1478
01:07:49,083 --> 01:07:50,333
So, we got it
done in time.

1479
01:07:50,333 --> 01:07:53,583
The power of community is
pretty spectacular here.

1480
01:07:53,583 --> 01:07:55,750
And isn't it interesting the
community that you

1481
01:07:55,750 --> 01:07:57,500
kind of closed
your doors to...

1482
01:07:57,500 --> 01:08:00,333
and then, you opened up,
and the wonders that

1483
01:08:00,333 --> 01:08:03,208
have happened after that.
It's incredible.

1484
01:08:03,208 --> 01:08:05,542
Thank you for a
miracle, everybody.

1485
01:08:05,542 --> 01:08:09,083
I was worried how she might
react to it all being gone,

1486
01:08:09,208 --> 01:08:11,667
and a bare hill, 'cause
it's been almost

1487
01:08:11,792 --> 01:08:16,458
three days of stuff there,
and now it's all gone.

1488
01:08:16,458 --> 01:08:19,167
I'm happy, and I can
see Lori's happy.

1489
01:08:19,167 --> 01:08:21,333
That's a win-win
for both of us.

1490
01:08:21,333 --> 01:08:24,500
Okay, last bin to go
on the donation truck.

1491
01:08:24,500 --> 01:08:25,500
Yeah.

1492
01:08:25,500 --> 01:08:27,000
I nominate you to
put it on there.

1493
01:08:27,000 --> 01:08:28,583
- Sounds good to me.
- Yeah?

1494
01:08:28,708 --> 01:08:29,667
- Mhm.
- Alright.

1495
01:08:29,667 --> 01:08:31,417
Thanks.

1496
01:08:31,542 --> 01:08:39,875
♪

1497
01:08:40,000 --> 01:08:42,583
All right. Goodbye.

1498
01:08:42,708 --> 01:08:44,333
- Close the door.
- Mhm.

1499
01:08:44,333 --> 01:08:46,167
Putting that last box on the
truck with my mom

1500
01:08:46,167 --> 01:08:48,375
is like sealing the deal.

1501
01:08:48,375 --> 01:08:52,167
It's putting a massive issue
to rest after 17 years.

1502
01:08:52,167 --> 01:08:54,000
- Thanks, honey.
- I'm proud of you, Mama.

1503
01:08:54,000 --> 01:08:56,333
Thank you, honey.
I'm proud of you too.

1504
01:08:56,333 --> 01:09:00,333
[Muffled] Love you...
Love you.

1505
01:09:00,333 --> 01:09:02,042
Thank you!
Love you, too.

1506
01:09:02,042 --> 01:09:04,500
Yeah!
[Laughing]

1507
01:09:04,500 --> 01:09:06,667
Alright, bang on that
truck door, it can go.

1508
01:09:06,667 --> 01:09:08,167
[Knocking]

1509
01:09:08,292 --> 01:09:10,083
Lori and Tajko are going to
have challenges

1510
01:09:10,083 --> 01:09:12,000
in the days and
months to come.

1511
01:09:12,208 --> 01:09:15,167
But seeing that truck
drive away full of stuff...

1512
01:09:15,167 --> 01:09:16,667
that's a win.

1513
01:09:16,667 --> 01:09:18,208
Thank you so much.

1514
01:09:18,208 --> 01:09:19,583
I couldn't have done it
without you. Love you so much.

1515
01:09:19,583 --> 01:09:21,875
Yeah, couldn't have done it
without our awesome crew.

1516
01:09:27,667 --> 01:09:35,208
♪

1517
01:09:35,333 --> 01:09:38,250
Lori has let go of two
truckloads worth of stuff,

1518
01:09:38,375 --> 01:09:39,750
and they're on their way
right now to

1519
01:09:39,750 --> 01:09:41,542
the community centre,
where Nadene has

1520
01:09:41,542 --> 01:09:43,875
organized this huge
donation event.

1521
01:09:43,875 --> 01:09:46,333
That's such a beautiful
thing for Lori to do is,

1522
01:09:46,458 --> 01:09:47,833
to give back to the
community that are

1523
01:09:47,833 --> 01:09:49,250
giving to her right now.

1524
01:09:49,375 --> 01:09:51,292
I'm really proud of her.

1525
01:09:51,292 --> 01:10:01,333
♪

1526
01:10:06,042 --> 01:10:07,792
Today's a really
big day for Lori.

1527
01:10:07,792 --> 01:10:10,500
She's going to be facing all
the people in her community

1528
01:10:10,500 --> 01:10:12,625
that she's hidden her
disorder from.

1529
01:10:12,625 --> 01:10:14,875
But I'm hoping it's going to
be powerfully cathartic.

1530
01:10:14,875 --> 01:10:19,500
♪

1531
01:10:19,500 --> 01:10:21,125
Hi.

1532
01:10:21,125 --> 01:10:23,833
♪

1533
01:10:23,833 --> 01:10:25,125
- Hi, guys.
- Oh, hey, honey.

1534
01:10:25,125 --> 01:10:26,375
- How's it going?
- Hey!

1535
01:10:26,500 --> 01:10:28,958
Good, how are you?
What's happening?

1536
01:10:28,958 --> 01:10:32,083
Are you okay?

1537
01:10:32,083 --> 01:10:34,167
Are you struggling
a little today?

1538
01:10:34,167 --> 01:10:35,458
I think I'm okay.

1539
01:10:35,458 --> 01:10:36,958
I've got a little
bit of anxiety.

1540
01:10:36,958 --> 01:10:40,208
Oh, what...
how do you mean?

1541
01:10:40,208 --> 01:10:42,042
Just seeing all this,
it's very real.

1542
01:10:42,042 --> 01:10:45,333
Yeah...
No, it's understandable.

1543
01:10:45,458 --> 01:10:47,375
I thought I was ready,
and I still am,

1544
01:10:47,500 --> 01:10:48,833
but I am struggling
a little bit.

1545
01:10:48,958 --> 01:10:51,583
Yeah. I'm sure it's going to
be kind of a roller coaster

1546
01:10:51,583 --> 01:10:55,500
for me in there too.
Kind of...

1547
01:10:55,500 --> 01:10:57,667
looking forward and dreading
at the same time

1548
01:10:57,667 --> 01:11:01,125
to see what it looks like
all in one place.

1549
01:11:01,125 --> 01:11:02,500
Yeah.

1550
01:11:02,500 --> 01:11:04,833
I love you, honey,
and I'm proud of you.

1551
01:11:04,958 --> 01:11:07,333
And I'm thankful for you.

1552
01:11:07,333 --> 01:11:09,208
Can I get, can I
hug you, please?

1553
01:11:09,208 --> 01:11:11,167
Hey...
Thank you.

1554
01:11:11,167 --> 01:11:16,667
♪

1555
01:11:16,667 --> 01:11:18,167
I think I maybe
won't go in there.

1556
01:11:18,167 --> 01:11:20,000
You don't want to?
Why not, honey?

1557
01:11:20,000 --> 01:11:21,667
You don't want to take a look?

1558
01:11:21,667 --> 01:11:24,250
I think it's less stressful,
I think it's easier to...

1559
01:11:24,250 --> 01:11:25,583
- Just detach this way?
- Yeah.

1560
01:11:25,583 --> 01:11:26,917
Okay, okay.

1561
01:11:27,042 --> 01:11:31,292
Whatever you think is right,
I want to respect that.

1562
01:11:31,292 --> 01:11:35,000
Aw, I love you so much.

1563
01:11:35,000 --> 01:11:36,792
Sorry, honey.

1564
01:11:36,792 --> 01:11:39,333
♪

1565
01:11:39,333 --> 01:11:42,000
If you're ready, you'll come
in on your own.

1566
01:11:42,000 --> 01:11:45,292
Yeah. I see a lot of people
here, they're going to be...

1567
01:11:45,292 --> 01:11:47,875
much happier than we are.

1568
01:11:47,875 --> 01:11:51,333
Yeah.

1569
01:11:51,458 --> 01:11:54,208
It's a beautiful thing,
what your mom and you

1570
01:11:54,208 --> 01:11:56,958
are doing for
this community.

1571
01:11:56,958 --> 01:12:02,333
They want to share in your
happiness to come though.

1572
01:12:02,333 --> 01:12:05,000
You try and maybe hold
on to that a little bit?

1573
01:12:05,000 --> 01:12:07,500
- Yeah.
- Yeah.

1574
01:12:07,500 --> 01:12:09,000
- Group hug?
- Group hug, yeah.

1575
01:12:09,000 --> 01:12:10,500
- Group hug.
- 3, 2, 1.

1576
01:12:10,500 --> 01:12:11,792
I love you both, I love
you both so much.

1577
01:12:11,792 --> 01:12:13,667
- Me too.
- Me too, me too.

1578
01:12:13,667 --> 01:12:15,542
Good luck, guys.

1579
01:12:15,542 --> 01:12:18,583
♪

1580
01:12:18,583 --> 01:12:20,458
For the community,
this donation drive is

1581
01:12:20,458 --> 01:12:22,750
a social event that
brings them together.

1582
01:12:22,750 --> 01:12:26,750
But for Tajko, it's a
very different story.

1583
01:12:26,750 --> 01:12:30,000
Seeing the hoard all spread
out for everyone to see is

1584
01:12:30,000 --> 01:12:33,083
very overwhelming and brings
up some intense feelings

1585
01:12:33,083 --> 01:12:35,500
of loss and
shame for Tajko.

1586
01:12:35,500 --> 01:12:37,875
[Speaking Inuktitut]
Hi, everybody!

1587
01:12:37,875 --> 01:12:40,292
Wow.
[Speaking Inuktitut]

1588
01:12:40,292 --> 01:12:41,708
Oh, my gosh.

1589
01:12:41,708 --> 01:12:45,958
[Applauding]

1590
01:12:45,958 --> 01:12:47,708
Aw...

1591
01:12:47,708 --> 01:12:50,958
[Applauding]

1592
01:12:50,958 --> 01:12:53,333
So, yeah, I just wanted to
thank Nadene and everybody

1593
01:12:53,458 --> 01:12:55,292
who helped us put
this event together,

1594
01:12:55,292 --> 01:12:57,792
it's so good to see everybody.

1595
01:12:57,792 --> 01:13:00,083
Excuse us, guys.
We'll see you in there.

1596
01:13:00,083 --> 01:13:07,458
♪

1597
01:13:13,542 --> 01:13:17,333
♪

1598
01:13:17,458 --> 01:13:21,208
Wow!
Wow, wow, wow.

1599
01:13:21,208 --> 01:13:24,333
- Hi, Miriam!
- Hi, hi!

1600
01:13:24,333 --> 01:13:27,042
Take a whole bin home
for the grandkids.

1601
01:13:27,042 --> 01:13:29,458
♪

1602
01:13:29,458 --> 01:13:31,417
Oh, hi.
How are you, Scarlett?

1603
01:13:31,542 --> 01:13:33,417
- Good.
- Good to see you.

1604
01:13:33,417 --> 01:13:36,667
- It's your birthday?
- No, it's not my birthday.

1605
01:13:36,667 --> 01:13:39,042
I'm just giving
presents to everybody.

1606
01:13:39,042 --> 01:13:42,250
Lori's Santa Claus.

1607
01:13:42,375 --> 01:13:44,208
- Hi, Lori!
- Oh, hey, Joanne!

1608
01:13:44,208 --> 01:13:46,708
I'm so glad that
you're doing this.

1609
01:13:46,833 --> 01:13:48,792
So much stuff
you've been hiding,

1610
01:13:48,917 --> 01:13:51,917
now you let it all out,
good for you!

1611
01:13:51,917 --> 01:13:53,417
I can't even believe it,
when I see it

1612
01:13:53,417 --> 01:13:55,417
all spread out like this,
it really hits me,

1613
01:13:55,417 --> 01:13:58,042
what crazy amount of stuff
I had in my house.

1614
01:13:58,042 --> 01:14:01,833
♪

1615
01:14:01,833 --> 01:14:03,667
Honest to God, I don't
feel anxious at all.

1616
01:14:03,667 --> 01:14:06,042
It's nice everybody's
coming to see you.

1617
01:14:06,042 --> 01:14:07,833
I'm even seeing a couple
things going by that

1618
01:14:07,958 --> 01:14:11,167
I wouldn't have put out,
but it's okay.

1619
01:14:11,292 --> 01:14:14,458
- Hi, how are you?
- I'm good, and you?

1620
01:14:14,458 --> 01:14:16,333
Good.
Thanks for coming.

1621
01:14:16,333 --> 01:14:17,875
Oh, thank you.

1622
01:14:18,000 --> 01:14:22,125
I was honored to be a part
of all this, I will say that.

1623
01:14:22,125 --> 01:14:23,667
- I love you.
- I love you too.

1624
01:14:23,667 --> 01:14:25,333
Thank you for coming.

1625
01:14:25,333 --> 01:14:28,000
But the best part of all
was seeing my friend

1626
01:14:28,000 --> 01:14:30,167
become the person that...

1627
01:14:30,292 --> 01:14:33,375
was almost trapped inside,
that she has wanted to be for

1628
01:14:33,500 --> 01:14:36,000
so long, and seeing that
butterfly come out

1629
01:14:36,000 --> 01:14:39,458
like today, that's more
than I could ask for.

1630
01:14:39,458 --> 01:14:42,500
That was Tajko's
first concert.

1631
01:14:42,500 --> 01:14:44,583
I hope you enjoy.

1632
01:14:46,042 --> 01:14:47,167
- Lori?
- Yeah.

1633
01:14:47,167 --> 01:14:48,583
- Hi.
- Hi.

1634
01:14:48,583 --> 01:14:50,167
Oh my God.
I know.

1635
01:14:50,167 --> 01:14:51,333
It's great, eh?

1636
01:14:51,333 --> 01:14:52,667
Oh my gosh,
how are you doing?

1637
01:14:52,667 --> 01:14:54,250
I'm good,
I'm really happy.

1638
01:14:54,375 --> 01:14:55,750
Yeah, I've been
watching you from there.

1639
01:14:55,750 --> 01:14:57,500
I'm happy I got to
see so many people.

1640
01:14:57,500 --> 01:14:59,375
I saw lots of people I
haven't seen in a long time.

1641
01:14:59,375 --> 01:15:02,167
I was told this is like one
of the very few social events

1642
01:15:02,167 --> 01:15:03,333
of the year that's happened.

1643
01:15:03,333 --> 01:15:05,125
Yeah, for sure.

1644
01:15:05,125 --> 01:15:06,958
How's your son doing?

1645
01:15:07,083 --> 01:15:08,667
I haven't had the chance
to check in with him so,

1646
01:15:08,667 --> 01:15:10,083
what's going on with Tajko?

1647
01:15:10,083 --> 01:15:14,042
Just before we started here,
he was just-

1648
01:15:14,042 --> 01:15:17,375
it was hard for him to
articulate, but he was...

1649
01:15:17,500 --> 01:15:19,708
He was just feeling
emotions, I guess.

1650
01:15:19,708 --> 01:15:21,083
It's a lot that's
happening and

1651
01:15:21,083 --> 01:15:22,708
it's just kind of all
registering now.

1652
01:15:22,833 --> 01:15:24,167
Sounds like he's
overwhelmed.

1653
01:15:24,167 --> 01:15:25,625
I think so, yeah.

1654
01:15:25,625 --> 01:15:28,167
Like, I mean it is-
I can understand

1655
01:15:28,167 --> 01:15:31,500
how it must be unsettling
for him, because...

1656
01:15:31,500 --> 01:15:34,917
like, unfortunately, sadly,

1657
01:15:34,917 --> 01:15:37,542
he's lived the
way we've been living

1658
01:15:37,667 --> 01:15:39,708
pretty much-
well, all his life, right?

1659
01:15:39,708 --> 01:15:43,042
So, it's very
drastic change

1660
01:15:43,042 --> 01:15:46,167
that we're... moving into.

1661
01:15:46,292 --> 01:15:47,500
Yep, yep.

1662
01:15:47,500 --> 01:15:50,667
And it makes
sense he would

1663
01:15:50,667 --> 01:15:53,000
feel some intense
emotions at some point

1664
01:15:53,125 --> 01:15:55,667
'cause he hasn't really
expressed too much yet,

1665
01:15:55,667 --> 01:15:58,375
I think. You know,
other than maybe being

1666
01:15:58,375 --> 01:16:00,500
a little bit frustrated
with me when I'm...

1667
01:16:00,500 --> 01:16:03,000
thinking I need to
keep too much. You know?

1668
01:16:03,000 --> 01:16:05,792
Do you think it'll be okay
for me to check in with him?

1669
01:16:05,792 --> 01:16:07,167
I think that would be great,
if you don't mind.

1670
01:16:07,292 --> 01:16:09,292
- I would appreciate that, yeah.
- Yeah, absolutely, yeah.

1671
01:16:09,292 --> 01:16:10,208
I'll go ahead
and I'll do that.

1672
01:16:10,208 --> 01:16:11,542
- Okay.
- Yeah, okay.

1673
01:16:11,542 --> 01:16:13,083
- Thanks.
- No problem.

1674
01:16:13,083 --> 01:16:21,500
♪

1675
01:16:21,500 --> 01:16:23,208
I'm really happy with the
amount of donations

1676
01:16:23,208 --> 01:16:25,625
we got out and the amount
of garbage we got out.

1677
01:16:25,625 --> 01:16:27,458
It was a lot.

1678
01:16:27,458 --> 01:16:29,667
♪

1679
01:16:29,667 --> 01:16:32,417
I still have a lot
of rooms to clear,

1680
01:16:32,417 --> 01:16:34,792
and then the house needs to
be cleaned and fixed up and

1681
01:16:34,792 --> 01:16:37,125
reorganized and ready.

1682
01:16:37,125 --> 01:16:40,125
There are years' worth of
grime, and food,

1683
01:16:40,125 --> 01:16:42,375
and cat litter.

1684
01:16:42,500 --> 01:16:44,125
We also need to look
at the plumbing and

1685
01:16:44,125 --> 01:16:45,708
electrical in this house.

1686
01:16:45,708 --> 01:16:48,333
Make sure it's safe,
make sure it's livable.

1687
01:16:48,333 --> 01:16:50,208
So, we're not out
of the woods yet.

1688
01:16:50,208 --> 01:17:00,250
♪

1689
01:17:01,875 --> 01:17:03,167
This is the first time I've
seen Tajko have such

1690
01:17:03,292 --> 01:17:05,875
an intense emotional
reaction to anything.

1691
01:17:05,875 --> 01:17:07,083
I need to have a quick
check in with him

1692
01:17:07,083 --> 01:17:09,333
to see what's going on.

1693
01:17:09,333 --> 01:17:11,583
Hey, Tajko.
What are you doing?

1694
01:17:11,583 --> 01:17:13,625
I'm just looking through
some of the stuff around

1695
01:17:13,625 --> 01:17:15,750
my area to see if I want
to keep any of it.

1696
01:17:15,750 --> 01:17:17,708
I just wanted to check in
with you to see

1697
01:17:17,708 --> 01:17:19,375
how things are going.

1698
01:17:19,375 --> 01:17:21,083
I'm really happy, I...

1699
01:17:21,083 --> 01:17:24,833
can hear an echo in here,
which is new,

1700
01:17:24,833 --> 01:17:27,000
because of the more space.

1701
01:17:27,000 --> 01:17:29,833
Do you ever fear that,
you know, living with

1702
01:17:29,833 --> 01:17:32,750
somebody who has concerns
with just hoarding items,

1703
01:17:32,875 --> 01:17:34,583
that you're going
to end up like that?

1704
01:17:34,583 --> 01:17:38,792
I do see myself presenting
some similar ideas,

1705
01:17:38,792 --> 01:17:43,792
and following some
similar... mindsets.

1706
01:17:43,792 --> 01:17:45,667
♪

1707
01:17:45,792 --> 01:17:48,917
I feel quite angry when,
like I said,

1708
01:17:48,917 --> 01:17:52,000
she falls back into old
habits of hoarding issues,

1709
01:17:52,000 --> 01:17:53,958
even when we have
a clean area.

1710
01:17:53,958 --> 01:17:55,833
She might say, I worry
she might say, "Wow,

1711
01:17:55,833 --> 01:17:57,667
this is great," and then
continue to practice her

1712
01:17:57,667 --> 01:17:59,500
sort of hoarding mentality
where she's like,

1713
01:17:59,500 --> 01:18:00,875
"Oh, I have this space.

1714
01:18:00,875 --> 01:18:02,458
I can buy all these gifts
I want for my friends."

1715
01:18:02,458 --> 01:18:04,708
And the cycle
sort of continues.

1716
01:18:04,708 --> 01:18:08,333
I think on her own she
would very much

1717
01:18:08,333 --> 01:18:13,208
slide back, and possibly
self-harm.

1718
01:18:13,208 --> 01:18:15,250
That's the first time
I've heard you say that.

1719
01:18:15,375 --> 01:18:17,458
Is there anything that's
happened that makes you

1720
01:18:17,458 --> 01:18:20,083
fear for, like, risk to
your mom's life?

1721
01:18:20,083 --> 01:18:23,167
She hasn't done anything
to herself, thankfully.

1722
01:18:23,292 --> 01:18:28,542
She has said some very
upsetting things that I...

1723
01:18:28,542 --> 01:18:32,500
I fear to think about
coming into reality.

1724
01:18:32,625 --> 01:18:33,958
She'll start talking
about herself

1725
01:18:33,958 --> 01:18:36,708
in a very demeaning
way, and...

1726
01:18:36,708 --> 01:18:40,083
very, in a way that it's
very frustrating to me that

1727
01:18:40,083 --> 01:18:43,542
she thinks that she's
a horrible person,

1728
01:18:43,542 --> 01:18:46,083
or pulling words out of my
mouth to say that I'm saying

1729
01:18:46,083 --> 01:18:48,917
she's horrible and
things like that.

1730
01:18:48,917 --> 01:18:50,958
I don't stress over what I
missed out because of the

1731
01:18:50,958 --> 01:18:53,833
situation, but I do stress
over not fixing the situation

1732
01:18:53,833 --> 01:18:55,833
so I can move on with my life.

1733
01:19:00,000 --> 01:19:07,917
♪

1734
01:19:08,708 --> 01:19:10,750
Today's the day,
we're handing the house

1735
01:19:10,750 --> 01:19:12,250
back to Lori and Tajko.

1736
01:19:12,250 --> 01:19:14,833
But there's still several
things that need to get done.

1737
01:19:14,833 --> 01:19:17,542
There's vacuuming, there's
dusting, there's cleaning.

1738
01:19:17,542 --> 01:19:20,042
All of this needs to happen
to bring this house up to

1739
01:19:20,042 --> 01:19:23,417
a level of sanitation
that's livable.

1740
01:19:23,417 --> 01:19:27,167
The plumbing issues with the
sinks and toilets are finally

1741
01:19:27,167 --> 01:19:31,333
being fixed, after years of
them not working properly.

1742
01:19:31,458 --> 01:19:33,500
We've got some deliveries
coming in today,

1743
01:19:33,667 --> 01:19:36,875
some furniture, new fridge
and stove, because frankly,

1744
01:19:36,875 --> 01:19:39,083
Lori's fridge and stove
were not salvageable.

1745
01:19:39,208 --> 01:19:41,083
They had to go.

1746
01:19:41,083 --> 01:19:44,750
♪

1747
01:19:44,875 --> 01:19:46,708
I'm so proud of Lori,

1748
01:19:46,708 --> 01:19:48,375
and to see the
progress she's made

1749
01:19:48,375 --> 01:19:52,292
over the last few days, over
such a short span of time.

1750
01:19:52,292 --> 01:19:55,500
When I think about the way
the community came here,

1751
01:19:55,500 --> 01:19:58,917
and were willing to do so
many different kinds of

1752
01:19:58,917 --> 01:20:02,792
dirty work, unpleasant work,
and with a smile and,

1753
01:20:02,792 --> 01:20:05,250
you know, like,
very selflessly,

1754
01:20:05,250 --> 01:20:10,458
and that is what makes this
community so very special.

1755
01:20:10,458 --> 01:20:13,167
I'm ready to go,
I'm excited.

1756
01:20:13,167 --> 01:20:17,042
Keeping my eye on the prize.

1757
01:20:17,042 --> 01:20:20,375
I know we've come a
long way since day one.

1758
01:20:20,375 --> 01:20:23,125
I'm excited and anxious to see
what the house looks like.

1759
01:20:23,125 --> 01:20:25,000
We just have a few
final touches left,

1760
01:20:25,000 --> 01:20:27,292
and then Lori and
Tajko, and her family,

1761
01:20:27,292 --> 01:20:30,042
can come in and see the
results of their hard work.

1762
01:20:30,167 --> 01:20:40,125
♪

1763
01:20:45,125 --> 01:20:45,833
♪

1764
01:20:45,833 --> 01:20:47,625
[Whispering]
Oh, my gosh.

1765
01:20:47,625 --> 01:20:50,333
Oh, my gosh!

1766
01:20:50,333 --> 01:20:55,167
[Crying]

1767
01:20:55,167 --> 01:20:57,792
It's a new oven,
it's a new fridge.

1768
01:20:57,792 --> 01:20:59,583
Is it really?

1769
01:20:59,583 --> 01:21:00,625
I thought it was
the same fridge.

1770
01:21:00,625 --> 01:21:02,583
Oh, my gosh.

1771
01:21:02,583 --> 01:21:04,958
♪

1772
01:21:04,958 --> 01:21:06,667
It's so beautiful.

1773
01:21:06,667 --> 01:21:10,500
[Crying]

1774
01:21:10,625 --> 01:21:12,000
♪

1775
01:21:12,125 --> 01:21:14,250
I haven't been smiling a lot
for the last couple years,

1776
01:21:14,250 --> 01:21:16,167
but when I walked
through that door,

1777
01:21:16,292 --> 01:21:19,625
I just feel like a weight
has been lifted off my chest.

1778
01:21:19,625 --> 01:21:24,042
Wow!

1779
01:21:24,167 --> 01:21:27,625
So much space to entertain
and feed our company.

1780
01:21:27,625 --> 01:21:31,375
I look forward to our
bright future in this room.

1781
01:21:31,375 --> 01:21:33,708
It looks like we could
have company right now.

1782
01:21:33,708 --> 01:21:36,500
I think so.
Oh, my goodness.

1783
01:21:36,500 --> 01:21:38,333
It feels like a
different house.

1784
01:21:38,458 --> 01:21:41,125
I never thought I'd see
something like this.

1785
01:21:41,125 --> 01:21:43,583
It's just surprising,
and exciting,

1786
01:21:43,583 --> 01:21:47,500
and there's so many things I
want to do with this space.

1787
01:21:47,500 --> 01:21:51,167
♪

1788
01:21:51,167 --> 01:21:52,333
Wow.

1789
01:21:52,333 --> 01:21:53,792
I don't even have
to dodge between

1790
01:21:53,792 --> 01:21:56,458
the stuff on the stairs.

1791
01:21:56,458 --> 01:21:58,792
Wow!

1792
01:21:58,792 --> 01:22:01,708
♪

1793
01:22:01,833 --> 01:22:04,917
Wow!

1794
01:22:05,042 --> 01:22:06,625
Whoa-ho-ho!

1795
01:22:06,625 --> 01:22:09,167
- Wow.
- Oh my gosh.

1796
01:22:09,167 --> 01:22:11,875
♪

1797
01:22:12,000 --> 01:22:13,250
My heart is skipping beats.

1798
01:22:13,250 --> 01:22:16,417
Yeah. Mine, too.

1799
01:22:16,417 --> 01:22:18,167
Oh!

1800
01:22:18,167 --> 01:22:20,083
♪

1801
01:22:20,208 --> 01:22:22,000
[Keith] It's hard to describe
how I'm feeling.

1802
01:22:22,000 --> 01:22:23,500
A lot of joy.

1803
01:22:23,625 --> 01:22:28,667
I'm happy that Tajko and
Lori have their space now.

1804
01:22:28,667 --> 01:22:32,833
And this was just an amazing
opportunity to see my son

1805
01:22:32,833 --> 01:22:35,875
and, to change his life,
it was...

1806
01:22:35,875 --> 01:22:38,667
[Sighing] Amazing.

1807
01:22:38,667 --> 01:22:40,875
♪

1808
01:22:40,875 --> 01:22:43,333
[Laughing]
Oh my gosh.

1809
01:22:43,333 --> 01:22:48,500
♪

1810
01:22:48,500 --> 01:22:51,833
[Crying]

1811
01:22:51,833 --> 01:22:54,208
Wow!

1812
01:22:54,333 --> 01:22:55,375
Much better.

1813
01:22:55,375 --> 01:22:58,375
So much better,
it's a different space.

1814
01:22:58,500 --> 01:23:01,208
It's a different house.

1815
01:23:01,208 --> 01:23:03,958
I want to watch my sister
and my nephew

1816
01:23:03,958 --> 01:23:06,333
more than I want
to look around.

1817
01:23:06,333 --> 01:23:10,208
And I'm just exploding with
joy because I can see

1818
01:23:10,208 --> 01:23:13,667
the emotions of joy and
gratitude and release.

1819
01:23:13,667 --> 01:23:16,333
♪

1820
01:23:16,333 --> 01:23:18,500
- [Crying]
- You'll sleep comfortably.

1821
01:23:18,500 --> 01:23:25,292
♪

1822
01:23:25,292 --> 01:23:27,667
Hi.

1823
01:23:27,667 --> 01:23:29,583
Oh my gosh,
I love it so much.

1824
01:23:29,583 --> 01:23:30,833
I can't believe it.

1825
01:23:30,833 --> 01:23:34,167
- Thank you so much.
- You're very welcome.

1826
01:23:34,167 --> 01:23:35,708
The first time I came
in here with you...

1827
01:23:35,708 --> 01:23:37,542
Yeah.

1828
01:23:37,542 --> 01:23:39,667
...you couldn't
even say the words,

1829
01:23:39,667 --> 01:23:41,875
"I deserve a space to sleep.

1830
01:23:41,875 --> 01:23:45,167
I deserve a space that's
free of everything and

1831
01:23:45,292 --> 01:23:47,875
just private and
comfortable for me."

1832
01:23:47,875 --> 01:23:49,625
- Yeah.
- How do you feel now?

1833
01:23:49,625 --> 01:23:52,583
I feel so good.
It's clear, and we're free.

1834
01:23:52,583 --> 01:23:57,042
I just feel free.
I just can't believe it.

1835
01:23:57,042 --> 01:24:01,000
- Oh, I love you so much.
- Love you too.

1836
01:24:01,000 --> 01:24:03,167
I'm so proud of you.
I'm so thankful for you.

1837
01:24:03,167 --> 01:24:05,917
This day, for me,
is absolutely the

1838
01:24:05,917 --> 01:24:08,333
second happiest
day of my life.

1839
01:24:08,333 --> 01:24:11,542
And it's second only to
the day Tajko was born.

1840
01:24:11,542 --> 01:24:12,625
♪

1841
01:24:12,625 --> 01:24:14,792
Ah!

1842
01:24:14,792 --> 01:24:16,958
This was such a
meaningful experience

1843
01:24:16,958 --> 01:24:18,625
for everybody involved.

1844
01:24:18,625 --> 01:24:21,167
It's not only going to
transform the lives of Lori

1845
01:24:21,167 --> 01:24:23,958
and Tajko, but I think it
deeply affected some of

1846
01:24:23,958 --> 01:24:25,792
the members of the
community as well.

1847
01:24:25,792 --> 01:24:29,417
Oh! Oh, my gosh.

1848
01:24:29,542 --> 01:24:31,042
I'm so glad you guys
could be here for this.

1849
01:24:31,042 --> 01:24:33,333
Yes, it's so amazing.

1850
01:24:33,333 --> 01:24:35,917
I haven't felt this
happy in a long time.

1851
01:24:35,917 --> 01:24:38,292
It's a whole new world
of opportunities.

1852
01:24:38,292 --> 01:24:40,958
And I'm excited to see
where it's going to take me.

1853
01:24:40,958 --> 01:24:42,542
Thank you.

1854
01:24:42,542 --> 01:24:45,292
[Crying]

1855
01:24:45,292 --> 01:24:55,333
♪

1856
01:25:00,375 --> 01:25:05,333
♪