[narrator] Previously on Sister Wives...
[Robyn] You better talk about Christmas, I guess.
[Kody] I don't know what there is to talk about.
[Robyn] Well...
Is Janelle not coming over on Christmas?
No.
It's weird, I don't know what's going on.
No, you make this excuse forever.
-But I-- -Shut your [bleep] mouth
and let me talk to you for a minute.
No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.
You know what, let me tell you what.
[both] No.
-You stay and talk. -[Koby] I'm done listening to you.
-Okay, so we're done? -[Kody] Goodbye.
[bleep] you.
[Robyn] I thought you were talking to her about this and stuff.
[Kody] Oh, no, we didn't talk.
So, no, we're not doing Christmas together.
[sighs]
[Janelle] He doesn't want the responsibility
of being the husband who says,
"I don't want to be married to you anymore."
I don't know if I have to get a lawyer,
I don't know.
[Kody] Janelle and I got in a fight ten days ago.
And I just triggered over and over and over.
Just trigger, trigger, trigger.
I might not have been right, but I was angry as hell.
I haven't talked to her since.
I don't know when I'm gonna talk to her.
[Janelle] I know what he said to me.
I know what he yelled at me in the car the other day.
"Choose me or, you know, choose your loyalties
or you won't have a husband."
I feel like he's just looking for ways to get rid of me.
I don't know if this is fixable.
He acts like I've done him wrong.
I think he's, um,
played favorites for a long time.
And Robyn lives the way he wants to run his family.
So I guess he's just gonna ride off.
All of his kids, all his other kids.
I think he didn't want to be a plural husband anymore.
[Koby] Janelle and I spent months
building up to the big fight we just had.
It's just one betrayal after another
in my mind.
I'm not looking for mea culpas here.
I'm not looking for an apology.
I just wanna be able to have a civil discussion.
And then, she's getting so frustrated
when I'm talking to her,
that she's telling me to shut the f up.
And that triggered me.
So she's talks about me being mean.
I see her as the one that's mean here.
I'm pretty depressed about it.
Never in a million years did I think
I would get in this position.
Choose him, choose my children.
I don't know who says that,
and now he acts like...
Now he's flipped it and said it's--
it's all my fault?
I don't recognize this man.
I don't. I don't know who this guy is.
Maybe this is who he always was,
I don't know. [crying]
But I don't recognize this very mean person.
[sniffles]
I'm stuck.
Financially, I have nothing.
Christine had the house, I have nothing.
Um, my name is on property with everybody else.
Probably nobody will cooperate now
and play ball.
I have nothing.
I can't believe I'm 50, and...
I can't even do my own thing.
'Cause I-- I'm so tied up with them, financially.
And I can't do anything.
I'm stuck.
I can't believe I got myself into this position.
How dumb is that? I know better.
[sniffles]
[indistinct chatter and laughter]
-[thuds] -[woman] Whoo!
[woman 2] Okay, that's enough.
Everything this year is just so weird.
You know, I feel like really just...
stuck in the middle.
This is Christmas eve,
and it's not as Christmassy as I should be.
[indistinct conversation]
[all exclaiming]
[indistinct conversation]
I'm super excited to not do Christmas when everybody's here.
Are you kidding?
I'm so excited.
[chuckles] I'm so ready for a chill, easy, quiet,
not a lot of presence,
just hanging out, having great food,
and playing games.
Okay, how are those noodles, Gabe?
[Gabriel] Um, just about done.
-About two or three minutes out. -Okay.
[Janelle] It's Christmas eve,
and we are actually cooking our meal for tonight.
I haven't spoken to Kody since the day he walked out the door.
No text, no conversation,
and he hasn't been in contact with Savanah either.
I haven't said anything to them about the argument.
Why? I mean, why?
[Gabriel] This is gonna be a great lasagna.
[Janelle] Well, I sort of had to improvise some of it, but...
We take our marriage covenants very seriously.
I'm sort of stuck here.
I don't want it back,
but I don't feel like I can walk away.
Because my faith doesn't really allow for me
to just say, "I'm done."
I boxed up his stuff, he's not come to pick it up,
so I just put it in storage.
He can come get it,
and if he doesn't want it after a while,
I might just give it away.
[Gabriel] And this will be the top layer,
which needs to be cooked the least.
-'cause the top layer will get cooked the most. -You know, I don't know.
You're making a lot of assumptions about cooking,
that I just don't know.
The last two years have been really hard.
We were one big family,
and now, we're kind of separate.
I am glad to maintain a--
a pretty happy with-- relationship with a lot of my family.
I can't help to feel that, uh,
we've kept the door open when, um, some haven't.
[Gabriel] Well, I mean, your focus is cheese.
-Which is important. -Gabe, noodles.
[Gabriel] Warm noodles which are right there.
-[Janelle] Perfect. -[Gabriel] Heck, yeah.
[Janelle] Now, some more tomato.
[Garrison] We've reached out and tried to be open,
and it's been neglected and overlooked
for offenses that were believed to have happened,
but they never did.
[Kody] The idea that they wanted to connect with Robyn and her kids,
with Robyn and I rejected them is-- is not true.
I have reached out, only to get rejection.
They're not being fair.
-[indistinct chatter] -[Kody] Ooh, I want some of that.
[Kody] Let's warm it.
Hey, let's--
Let's warm that, okay?
The spaghetti sauce.
-[woman 3] Warm it? -[Kody] Yeah, great.
[Meri indistinct] ravioli is what I always do on Christmas eve.
It's almost like a lasagna dish,
but not with lasagna noodles.
It has butterfly noodles.
I don't care that the package says "bowtie noodles".
They're butterfly noodles.
[Robyn] I started collecting the-- the Dickens' Christmas village,
because Kody really likes A Christmas Carol
written by Charles Dickens.
[Kody] The whole Dickens story's very-- very special for me.
Ebenezer Scrooge got the lucky shot
of seeing what the--
what he looked like five years in the future.
And maybe, I need to look five years in my future.
[indistinct conversation]
[woman 4] Hi, baby. Hi.
-[baby cooing] -I know [indistinct]
Truely knows that she's gonna see Kody in a couple of days.
She doesn't really clock what she's missing.
She's been around enough divorced kids
to know she'll get presents everywhere.
-[woman 4] Merry Christmas. -[woman 5] Merry Christmas!
[all exclaiming]
God bless us, everyone!
For Christmas day tomorrow,
we're gonna go to Mykelti's house.
We're just gonna-- hang out there,
and we're just gonna hang out.
[Kody] Hey, she wants you to stop.
How about everybody get off their phones, though?
I mean, it's Christmas eve,
-You have a-- -[woman 6] Can you say,
[woman 6] "Merry Christmas eve", or something?
Merry Christmas, everybody.
My tradition has always been on Christmas eve,
to give the kids their Christmas jammies.
This year, we changed it up,
and they're getting blankets.
[kid exclaims]
[Kody] It's probably very awkward for Meri.
This is mine and Robyn's house.
[kid exclaims]
[Kody] Robyn and I always have to tone down
our romantic tension completely.
I know that it's different for Meri and Kody.
Out of respect for her and out of love for her,
I'm careful.
[Meri] Kody doesn't hide things well,
and I'm well aware.
It's kind of like, being the other woman.
[laughs]
[Kody] "And she brought forth her firstborn son,
and wrapped him in swaddling clothes,
and laid him in a manger;
because there was no room for them in the inn."
We read through the nativity.
We have an experience together.
You know, tomorrow's gonna be Christmas,
we'll be super focused on who's here and who we love,
and stuff like that.
But I'm coming at this with a deficit.
My bank account of love has-- has--
has been just-- just--
My heart has just been ripped to pieces.
And I'm not yet in that place
that I keep praying I can get to,
where I'm just accepting
what has happened and where we're at,
and it's put into a box.
Do the best I can
to give anything that I still can
to my children that are here with me now.
Me and Robyn are the only ones trying.
Like, even trying to hold this family together.
[Janelle] But Savanah, you have other gifts.
I kind of told the kids
their dad and I had had a really bad fight
that we probably weren't coming back from.
This is the first year
that I'll be doing Christmas separate from everybody.
I mean, ironically,
Janelle's doing Christmas separate too, with her kids.
And I have no idea what Kody, Robyn and Meri are doing for Christmas.
It's Christmas day.
I am on my way over to Robyn's house.
To be honest with you, I feel like...
me and Robyn are the only ones trying.
Like, even trying to hold this family together.
I-- I'm just so frustrated [laughs]
with so many people right now.
For this Christmas, unfortunately,
it's just, um, Meri, my kids, Kody and I.
We're just gonna make it the best day
that it can possibly be.
I really don't expect that we'll see Kody.
I really don't.
It's been a week and a half,
and he hasn't said a thing,
or called or texted Savanah, so...
I don't know. I hope so.
'Cause my hell, it's Christmas,
and this is your girl, your daughter who lives in town,
and she's done nothing to you.
Merry Christmas.
The kids are up
and we're ready to start looking over,
they're gonna go through their stockings.
Everyone's ready?
-[woman 7] Yes. -[Kode] All right, okay.
[Robyn] Kody's got this crazy surprise.
I'm hoping that the kids just lose interest. Yeah.
[laughs]
[all exclaiming]
[Kody] So we got scooters,
and we got helmets for everybody.
Motorized vehicles are not my favorite thing.
I'm not excited.
[Kody] We used to call them mini bikes when I was little.
We got the property out there.
I wanna have some fun on it.
They're not even expensive.
[indistinct conversation]
I think they're dangerous.
[Kody] Kids, so you have to wear goggles and helmets,
probably gloves.
[Robyn] I kind of wonder
if Kody was trying to compensate
with these bikes.
Instead of the kids focusing on the fact
that family isn't all together,
he's gone, "Look, look at this pretty cool thing over here."
Compensate for what it is we're actually missing here.
[Janelle] It's Christmas day!
My boys are here, Savanah's here,
but we are at a vacation rental.
-Thank you, Mom. [laughs] -[mimics whipping]
It's a gift card. [laughs]
[Janelle] It's a gift certificate weekend [indistinct]
-Okay. -Oh, thank you, Mom.
[Janelle] I feel overwhelming relief,
but there is a little bit of a sadness
that Kody is not showing up for his kids, not Savanah.
-[Kody] Merry Christmas, -[Savanah speaking indistinctly]
[Kody] everybody open your stockings.
[Janelle] For the last 30 years,
I've celebrated Christmas as a family.
[Kody] Thanks for being here, thanks for being born.
-[Janelle] Yeah. -[Kody] You're awesome, every one of you.
[Janelle] Miss the big Christmas, it was fun.
But this feels good, this feels peaceful.
This feels joyful.
Everybody wanted gift cards this year.
So I'm like, "That's easy."
But Savanah, you have other gifts.
I kind of told the kids
their dad and I had had a really bad fight
that we probably weren't coming back from.
My kids weren't surprised.
They've observed our relationship for several years
and thought maybe [clicks tongue]
it was time for me to get something,
do something different.
Find something better.
-Thank you, Mom. -Thanks, Mom.
-Merry Christmas, Mom.
[Janelle] Sorry, didn't mean to tape it so long.
I thought, uh, the Christmas we did
with just Mom and, uh, Mom's kids
was very quiet.
But it was honestly, in my opinion, kind of pleasant.
It was good.
[Gabriel] I went into it thinking that it would be
a little bit like, hard to swallow
that nobody was there,
but I actually found myself enjoying it a lot.
I have not heard from anybody here in Flagstaff,
as far as family goes.
[Kody] Janelle had already decided that she was to--
gonna do Christmas separate.
You know, after the fight, there was nothing.
And that-- I just didn't see the point.
Janelle was, uh, just as absent as I was.
Wow, what a twirly dress.
That's just beautiful. Thank you.
I'm kind of compartmentalized.
Janelle is out of mind and out of sight for me right now.
Yes, this is a struggle.
My loyal wife and her children,
we.
We want something special.
So I am blocking everything else out for today.
Okay, Paeden, do we have, uh,
what's it called, uh, uh, celery? Uh, ground celery?
For breakfast, we're having crepes, okay?
It looks like tortillas, they're not.
They're crepes, okay?
It's more French, less Mexican.
[Solomon] Everyone in my family likes crepes,
but except for me.
Because I don't like the--
the texture, I don't like strawberries,
I don't like the breading.
Crepes are one of my loveliest desserts.
I love 'em,
'cause of the cream, and the powdered sugar,
and the texture, and...
All the stuff about crepes is basically what I love.
You just need to count your lucky stars
that you're not seeing what Kody's putting in his crepe.
[clicks tongue] It's nasty.
Oh. That's divine.
Most of everybody has two crepes.
One is their mille crepe, and one is a dessert crepe.
So, I'll usually have two crepes.
They're a little mixture of both.
What my dad puts on his crepes in--
is a lot of gross stuff, and sweet stuff.
It's just disgusting.
He's a heathy person, but a disgusting person, too.
Must be Robyn's influence on him.
I have no idea. [laughs]
[Robyn] Uh, he like, puts mozzarella cheese
and he puts berries,
and some sort of weird aioli.
It's a burrito that's French.
Not tasty looking.
It's a cornucopia of fun food.
A sort of sacred loneliness
the women have had in principle.
There's this term of "sacred loneliness"
because their husband's not around as much.
I've never heard this term "sacred loneliness".
I think it's stupid.
Like, you're supposed to honor the fact that you're lonely?
[laughs]
We've managed to get our family
through the holidays.
And that experience was very isolating.
I'm in this bad place with Janelle,
and Christine's gone.
Don't even know what to do with Meri.
And even with Robyn,
kind of feeling like I've been pretty much grouch for two years.
My friend Nathan and I are just going for a drive.
We don't really have a destination.
It's mostly about just wanting to talk to him freely
about his own advice and experience
in being a polygamist going through a divorce.
Come in.
-[Ethan] Hey, man. -How's it going?
-[Ethan groans] -[Kody chuckles]
-Going great. -How was your drive?
It was good. It was really good.
My wife and Meri are sisters.
And-- and that's how
Kody and I became brother in laws.
It's when I married my wife.
[Kody] Do you know the weirdest thing that I'm experiencing?
[Nathan] What's that?
I don't know how to explain this, man.
I'm going through a divorce,
and I'm still...
got a wife that I'm in love with.
When Kody became public,
uh, he wanted to show the world
that plural families, uh, could be loving, functional.
It's a strange thing now
that the world gets to watch what, uh,
happens when...
when they break down, and, uh...
you know, hope that when people see that,
they have compassion.
I know that Janelle and Robyn are looking at me
and-- and they're like,
looking at me like they don't know me.
There's no getting around that.
You know that, um,
when Beth left me, uh,
I was still married to Rebecca.
I've lived plural marriage before,
I've had, um, two wives.
My second wife, uh,
decided it wasn't for her anymore and she left.
And so, so--
That's-That's my history and my background on that.
He had a-- an experience that started out very positive and ended very negative.
It took me several years, many years,
to get to a sort of equilibrium.
But, even now that I'm-- I feel like that I'm somewhat more imbalanced.
It's a new equal-- I'm not the same person.
Until a person's been divorced,
you don't know how...
fundamentally it changes you, it alters you.
It's a weird place to be, where you had this big family,
and it's a big thing.
And now we've got this small thing going on.
It's not unimportant, and it is beautiful.
But it's not big like this other was, and can I adjust?
But I don't want to sit and identify as a monogamous.
If you are what you do, then what are you when you don't?
Can I be a monogamous?
Can I manage this? I mean, this-- this is smaller.
It's like, you've gone to a place--
Through-- because of the divorce,
-you've gone to a place you hadn't been before. -Yup.
Stupid things go through my mind, like "I wish I would've done that"
"I wish we wouldn't have ever gotten married",
"I wish I could go back in time."
Yeah, no, every guy who's--
Not every--
I'm guessing that most men who go through divorce,
go through a breakup-- even I-- certainly feel the same way.
Part of this, and I'm gonna be real, problem with you,
your other wives, they lost a sister wife too.
I was all bitter and resentful, I agree,
that spilled out all over Rebecca
and I forgot that she lost a childhood best friend
as well as a sister wife.
It's not just the husband that's being left.
Robyn's feeling the ultimate rejection.
I'm dealing with some depression, and some mourning
and loss and grieving,
and it's a very difficult, heartbreaking situation.
You know how society's been for, you know, eons of time,
that any strong man...
would have more than one woman,
whether they were married or not, whatever,
and, you know, there's just something about us,
in plural marriage for men,
they really struggle to acknowledge that-that difficulty
that a woman has...
in plural marriage.
We-We dismiss it.
I think, um, that can happen.
[sighs] It's-It's crazy, this sort of sacred loneliness,
that woman have had in the principle.
There's this term of "sacred loneliness",
because the husband's not around as much.
[laughs] Sacred loneliness?
I've never heard this term, sacred loneliness.
I think it's stupid.
Like, you're supposed to honor the fact that you're lonely?
Yeah, it is that you sacrifice
some of your emotional needs
because you wanna live plural marriage.
[laughs]
I hear Kody talk about how hard plural marriage is on the women,
and it's like, oh, now you figure that out? [scoffs]
You know what I mean?
I've always thought it was...
I've always thought it was so dumb. Sorry.
Yeah, plural marriage can be lonely.
In my head, it's an opportunity for you to...
get a relationship with God.
For me, the principle in-in plural marriage,
it is about a woman's right to choose
who her husband gets to be and who gets to be the father of her children.
And if they happen to me married,
yeah, so what?
She still gets to choose.
On the flipside of that coin, though,
-they have the freedom to-- Yeah. -[Kody] To leave as well.
What is overlooked is that it can be difficult for the guy, too.
I mean, it is-- it's a real work.
Each wife wanted me to be a 100% there.
It was exhausting.
And they got a break every other day.
If they all agree that they were gonna do this,
maybe they had more faith in me.
The wife's just tired of hearing about the struggle.
Until you've sat in the seat and, you know,
been a guy that's had four wives
and tried to meet the emotional, spiritual, physical, uh,
mental needs of four women.
You know, it's like, it's uh...
it-- there's a hubris that comes with judgment.
I courted Meri and I courted Robyn.
But Christine and Janelle both asked if they could be in the family.
And with that ask, I had some special requirements that I wanted them to meet
in order to come in the family.
And mainly, that was there'll be other wives,
you've gotta to be committed to me.
It's improper for a man to be out chasing wives.
It's generally a woman approaches the family,
and says that, "Look, I feel like I've had a spiritual revelation
that maybe I belong in your family."
He now keeps saying that Christine and I asked to be in the family,
and Robyn was invited.
Somehow, because Christine and I asked, we deserve less,
we should be happy with what we got.
It wasn't like we were begging to be in the family.
We simply asked, there was a courtship, and then we all got married.
[Kody] They had their full choice to be in this family.
And after they went through this process with us,
they decided they don't wanna be part of it.
You get in this place where it's like, "Well...
I should just be the devil I think I am now."
You're gonna have to face the darkest parts of yourself.
[Kody] And it's weird, I am.
This is stuff that I should be keeping to myself.
I don't want Robyn to see this.
I mean, there's, like, I-- I just--
never foresaw this happening to me,
and I never foresaw my reaction to this happening.
I just-- I was so optimistic about living plural marriage,
[chuckles sarcastically] everybody seemed happy.
And they're not now.
Nobody's happy now.
It's heartbreaking.
It was a dream and now it's gone.
It's such...
such a mess right now.
We can deny it to ourselves, but, uh,
Robyn's in for a ride,
and all-- any of the other wives that's staying with them.
[Robyn] We've never had as many problems
as we're having right now in our marriage.
He's suspicious of anybody being disloyal to him,
he's directing that at me.
It's like I don't rec-- recognize him,
I don't really recognize him right now
and I've never seen him like this before.
Instead of throwing out the old, battered sword,
it's about re-forging it into something new and shiny.
I wish I would've asked Christine why-- what made her--
why she believed in the principles, which we talked about a lot.
It'd be interesting to hear from the three of them
what their ideal is about plural marriages now.
Five years ago, I was fighting to keep it together.
"What has happened to me?"
This caused me to go...
Feel relief,
when a woman's saying "I'm leaving."
I've had to really think about plural marriage.
I still believe that it can be lived
and that there is a purpose for it.
Despite the fact that Kody and I are having problems,
I do think I could live plural marriage
and I could live plural marriage again.
I don't know if there's really an opportunity for me to live it again.
I mean, it's kind of a strange thing,
you know, go around finding people who're living plural marriage.
[Robyn] In my head, this is still something that can work.
You have to have people who are interested.
There are full-functioning plural families out there.
I think you just gotta always work together, though,
and keep that ideal,
and keep on talking about the ideal
and making sure that the ideal grows with the vision of the family.
[Meri] I don't think that the fact that our family has...
kind of fallen apart like it has
is because of polygamy.
I think it's because of personalities.
I think that he regrets marrying Christine.
I don't know where he is with Janelle.
But, I do believe a 100% that he regrets marrying me.
This whole divorce, I thought I'd handle better,
that I thought I would be able to meditate through
and I'm not even meditating now, you know?
-Yeah. -My prayers are weak and-and faithless.
You know, I just-- I'm in this, just, spot,
and wha-- I'm struggling with my own benevolence.
-I just... -[laughs]
I just wanna be a [bleep].
-You-- -For a little while, you know?
I wanna grow horns right now so bad.
I wanna say mean things, I wanna be a jackass.
It's just like this...
this urge to just...
You know, be the ass[bleep] she said I was.
You know, like, "Oh, you think I'm ass[bleep],
well, I'll show you an ass[bleep]."
You're gonna have to face the darkest parts of yourself.
And it's weird, I am!
-Yup. -And I don't like who I am!
Yup. You're gonna stare at the-the man in the mirror
and you're gonna find out how big the horns are.
There were things that I thought--
that I I never thought I could think.
-And I thought 'em. -Dude, yeah.
It's a, like, a heavy, thick drive inside of me.
-Yeah. -And it's, wh-- you talk about a gremlin?
I got a gremlin inside of me, Nathan.
I mean, the deepest temptations I've had in my whole life...
was to sit down and stop trying to be good.
And that's happening to me now.
It is just devastating.
And there's this urge that I'm seriously fighting, it's like, deep in me.
It's ugly, it's sinister,
and I-- that's the wolf you wanna starve.
But that urge to do it,
to just be mean as hell...
Just has gotten in me, just-- and it's a fight.
I don't know, I worked so hard to do what was right.
And when you lose that, and you feel like you've failed even to God,
you get in this place where it's like, "Well...
I should just be the devil I think I am now."
This is stuff that I should just be keeping to myself.
I don't want Robyn to see this.
I don't want her to know how dark I've gotten.
I'm now thinking that you probably didn't share with me your darkest thoughts.
Probably not, I don't know that anybody shares their, you know,
the ugly side of themselves
and actually finds themselves.
Just don't-- don't let her open one mirror
and take hope in the fact that you aren't acting out on that.
You know, I-I look back at my experience, when-when my wife left me,
and, uh... and I definitely wouldn't have wanted it filmed. [laughs]
I don't think I would've looked like, uh--
I-I wouldn't have come out shiny, I would've been-- I would've been very messy.
It's like, there's a difficulty in...
saving a relationship that seems like
it would be so much easier to let it go.
-It seems like-- -And--
And-And then move on and find something else that is no longer broken.
There's an-an urge to just--
-There's real discourage-- -Break it all.
-Break it all... -There's real discouragement.
-...and start again somewhere else. -Yeah.
We have only two choices.
We can sit there and just say, "Well, it's all crap", and throw our hands up,
or we can fight to win and-and believe in redemption.
I got two of my littlest, my two youngest,
are still loving me back
and I'm thinking, "What a stupid thought to wanna run from this",
when the only thing that loves me still...
-Yeah. -I'll be abandoning, you know.
Yup. I get it.
[Kody] I just have this gut thing,
it's like, I'd like to run away, from my life.
You know, just escape, just, um...
Change my name, disappear, be somebody else.
I just-- I hate my life right now.
I've always wanted to live plural marriage from the time that I was a young woman.
This is what I'm invested in,
and so, for him to question it is like...
It feels a little bit like a dealbreaker of our marriage.
This is not what our marriage agreement is.
It would absolutely devastate me if he decided to leave me.
I mean, I know he has these thoughts,
and you can't make anybody stick around or stay.
I know he will regret it.
You know, leaving everything behind.
I just know it's from pain.
It's not because he's a selfish or bad person, he's just in pain.
I think my kids look at me and they're like,
"You're the source of my heartbreak."
-[Kody] Ysabel is setting the table, I guess. -Yeah.
They wanna say something,
and they know what they wanna say.
But they won't say it.
[men exclaiming and laughing]
-[Garrison] You were-- -[Hunter] How was the drive? [chuckles]
Long, oh my gosh.
Janelle and I decided to get a-a little vacation rental
between Christmas and New Years.
And we're in Flagstaff now, celebrating, you know,
second Christmas together, we're super excited.
Hunter came from Baltimore for Christmas,
and he's still here.
-Garrison! -[Garrison exclaims]
[Christine] And then we have Garrison, Gabe and Savanah here for Christmas as well.
We're gonna stay and hang out here for a couple of days, I'm so excited.
[all exclaiming]
[Christine] Just having everybody in the same place again,
it already feels festive.
It's cute, right? It's cute to see the kids together again.
-[Hunter exclaiming] -He's vicious.
-What's your game? -[Hunter laughs]
I still think that we have a completely whole relationship
with all of Christine and her kids.
[indistinct laughter]
-[Christine laughs] -Oh, you're gonna rub it on me?
[woman] Oh, my gosh [indistinct]
[Garrison] That was great that they showed up.
It's kind of a party. [chuckles]
It got a little too wild at times, but I am gonna blame Christine for that.
-She-- Yeah. -Blame Hunter for that. [chuckles]
We'll all point fingers, so...
-You're not wearing any-- -Hunter, you can't go inside, that's cheating.
[Hunter] I did nothing.
-[Garrison] So... -Look at my bare feet.
I think my brothers have a tendency to get a little wild,
regardless of who it is, as long as you put two of them together.
You're gonna have a party, for sure, so...
[indistinct shouting]
[all laughing]
[Gabriel] I feel like...
dad didn't make enough effort this year.
And maybe Robyn, too.
Uh, I definitely feel...
not really necessarily slighted by them,
but, absolutely neglected.
[Robyn] Janelle's boys did not want to be around me and my kids
or Kody for Christmas.
And that was very heartbreaking for me.
'Cause if I would've thought for one second they were open,
to anything to do with us,
for Christmas, I would've just pushed,
and tried to make it happen.
They decided on the separate Christmas,
without me, and without Robyn,
and without Meri.
Mykelti, Truely and Ysabel are in town.
Christmas is gone by, but we're gonna have a Christmas,
basically with them.
[indistinct conversation]
[Janelle] There's been no communication from Kody about Savanah.
She's not said, "I wanna go see dad",
and he's not called her and said, "Do you wanna come over?"
I'm kind of thinking he should say--
call and say "Hey, I wanna see you."
I don't think it's her place to chase him and say, "I wanna see you, dad."
Hey, Avalon.
[indistinct background conversation]
[Kody] Avalon is, uh, like-- fun as a barrel of monkeys.
I wuv Avalon.
[chuckles] That girl has my heart.
[indistinct conversation]
[Robyn] Mykelti has made it clear that she's neutral.
[indistinct conversation]
Mykelti's the bridge, between the family.
She's always gotten along with everybody.
Christine, before she left
Flagstaff and-and Kody,
she-she told me that she didn't wanna have a relationship
with me and my kids.
If she wanted to reach out with my kids
and my kids wanted that relationship with her,
they... they'd have my blessing.
[Kody] Now I can let, uh...
Now we can wake up the rest of the kids, I guess.
We stayed the night, we're gonna have a Christmas morning.
I just figured, well, let's just do Christmas.
We'll open some presents, it'll be fun.
Make it as fun as we can.
-[Kody] Merry Christmas. -[everyone] Merry Christmas.
[Kody] Okay.
[kids chattering and exclaiming]
[Kody] Oh, Ariella, are you putting on makeup?
Who's-Who's makeup kit do you have?
-It's mine. -[Kody] Is that yours?
Who-Who puts all your toys here in the morning?
-On Christmas morning? -[Ariella] Santa!
[Kody] San-- Santa does?
Yeah.
[Kody] And he gave you a makeup kit?
-Yeah! -[Kody] And you're putting it on right now?
-Yeah. [chuckles] -[Kody] Can I see you put it on?
He-- look-look at me and bat your eyes.
Oh, wow. Okay, cool.
I didn't want Ysabel and Truely and Mykelti
to be the only ones opening gifts,
and so, I saved some of, um, my own kids', like, gifts.
Wanted it to feel like Christmas.
Ari's personality, is, um,
she's...
kind of annoying, sweet, crazy,
uh, imaginative and uh, I forget the fifth one.
What did you say about me?
I can't think.
[laughs]
You're gonna-- you're so gonna be dead.
Solomon is like a little twerp sometimes.
-He... he sometimes wants to kiss my nose. -I don't--
And sometimes, he wants...
to boss me around.
-Um, he is, uh, a little annoying. -[mouthing]
He's just basically a yucky kid.
And a funny kid and a sweet kid.
-Okay, thank you-- -Give me a kiss.
[Kody] Just, uh...
-You wanna sit with me? -Nuh-uh.
You need the loveseat.
[Robyn] We were opening presents.
Kody started asking me to come over and sit with him.
You-- why are you standing?
[Robyn] I didn't wanna make a big scene.
I don't wanna rub this in Mykelti and Ysabel and Truely's face.
[Kody] I'm not that optimistic right now,
we're coming out of the holidays and it's been the--
like, the hardest year of my life.
I don't know what our family looks like a year from now.
This whole breakup thing and the whole fight with Janelle,
leaving me in pretty deep sorrow.
I'm struggling to reach out to my kids anymore
because Janelle's household is the source of my pain.
I want a good Christmas.
I am present and standard with Robyn and her kids
as best as I can be so that I can enjoy my Christmas.
I know that there's some things I've gotta change.
But I'm not ready.
It's maybe not the best, but it's the place I'm in right at this moment.
And there will be other Christmases.
[narrator] Next time on Sister Wives...
[Robyn] Plural marriage is just hard.
I felt like he wasn't spending enough time at my house.
She knew that Kody was over at her house more than anybody else's.
They couldn't trust her.
I mean, at this point, Kody and I are separate.
I haven't talked to him, I haven't seen him.
I still have my religious beliefs,
so I can't just say, "Okay, well, I'm gonna go find somebody else",
'cause that does not really work for me.
We're technically undefined. We're probably still married.
I... am making some changes.
Peace out, signing out, bitches. [chuckles]
[Kody] Too many lines have been crossed.
I don't wanna live like this anymore.
I need a reason why my family got blown to smithereens.