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[Kody] Previously on
Sister Wives...
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[Christine] I don't have
a relationship
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with Kody and Robyn.
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I've moved on.
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I'd been out on a few dates,
met some really nice guys.
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It's just fun, really like it.
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I did take a trip up to Utah
earlier this week.
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I decided
I was gonna move forward with
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the official termination
through the church
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where we had gotten married.
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[Kody] I had moved on
a long time ago
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but I was afraid
of what she would do
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if I ripped off that Band-Aid.
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Just him, he's so hurt
that I'm just...
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I just don't get to have
the perfect Christmas.
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[theme music playing]
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This Christmas
is the first Christmas
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where I was just
with the one wife
and her children.
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Kids are waking up,
we're gonna open
some presents.
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Doing our best
to engage the family,
to be happy about it.
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Really just engage,
be present right here.
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Right now in this moment.
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[indistinct chatter]
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[Robyn]
It wasn't my first Christmas
without everybody else,
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but it was my first Christmas
without Meri.
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There's so much
that's unwrapped here.
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That's Kody.
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[laughs]
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Robyn likes to wrap
all the presents.
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Lot of work, lot of work,
so usually I'm way, way late.
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So our Christmas this year
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is going to be
Aspyn and Mitch,
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Mykelti and Tony
and the babies.
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Ysabel, Truely and I.
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It's gonna be definitely
a smaller Christmas this year.
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[indistinct chatter]
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Wait.
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No way.
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-[Christine] Guess what it is?
-It's a bobble head.
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-That is.
-It's hilarious.
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-It is a bobble head.
-Wait, that is so funny.
I'm obsessed.
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It doesn't feel I guess
like Christmas
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'cause there's just...
there's no chaos.
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I think that just getting
used to being an adult
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without the Christmas
that I grew up with is hard.
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The plan today is just...
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honestly hangout
and play with the babies.
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So, um... Happy Christmas.
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I'm here at Maddie's.
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What is it?
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She does all
the Christmas traditions,
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like they go see the lights
with the kids,
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and... I just thought
it would be so much fun
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to be where the kids where
for Christmas this year.
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Oh, my gosh!
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A train!
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[Meri] So this year
for Christmas
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I came up to Salt Lake.
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And I'm gonna spend it with
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my good friends
Lisa and Amber.
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Lisa used to babysit me
when I was really young.
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And then of course
I've known Amber
almost her whole life.
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Kody and I made the decision
that we're splitting up.
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There's absolutely
no way shape of form
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that I would choose to spend
Christmas with them.
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Why would I do that?
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That makes no sense.
That will never happen.
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Like we're done.
Like our marriage is over.
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I'm not gonna just...
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go be a third wheel.
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Future's so bright
I gotta wear shades.
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[both laughing]
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Cheers.
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I'd rather...
be somewhere that...
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people want me, you know.
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[indistinct chatter]
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[Janelle] It's been
a very fun, relaxing,
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if not kind of weird holiday.
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Became really, really aware...
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especially when it gets time
to cook some of those foods
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that we've always had the...
I never participated
in the making of,
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I'm like, "Oh, I have
to look up a recipe."
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And then I had
to try to remember
what everybody did, so
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that was kind of different.
But anyway,
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it's been
a really good day so far.
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-Hop along.
-Oh, my God, she's wild.
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[Mykelti] There's a lot of
just the... the small things
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that each one of my parents
brought in
to the Brown family.
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And added to the traditions
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of what we did around
our holidays that have been...
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are gone now.
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Because my family,
just the dynamic
looks different.
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-[Kody] The goodies.
-[boy exclaims]
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[Kody] Hope you like
those goodies.
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[Robyn] The best part
of Christmas for me is that
the kids had a good Christmas
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and they were having
a good time.
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For my children's sake,
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I just need to focus on
what's good today.
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And that's what I did.
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I think this will slowly
become the new norm
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and that's okay.
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[Meri] I love Christmas time.
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I have loved the years that
we have spent together.
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I have loved all the memories
that we have created.
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And people evolve.
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And we don't do that anymore,
and that's okay.
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There's no way for me to know
what each year's gonna bring.
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It'll probably be something
different every year.
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[Aspyn] My mom had went
on a couple of dates,
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and she didn't really talk
too much about people
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but she's... started talking
a lot about...
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this one guy that
she went on a date with.
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I'm excited
for my mom to date.
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She's never
really dated before,
she didn't...
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really date guys
before my dad.
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She liked my dad
and then they got married.
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Um, so this is
her first experience,
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and it's really exciting
for her.
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And I'm excited for her.
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-[Tony] Here you go.
-[woman] Oh, my God.
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-[woman 2] You gonna come
play with mama?
-[woman] What?
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-Come play with me.
-[Tony] Here you go.
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-I love you.
-[Tony] Here.
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I have been going on dates
for about six months,
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just not really dating
one specific person,
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but dated different guys
for like six months.
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One guy was very religious.
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I don't know how
we ever matched up at all.
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I told him that
I was a polygamist.
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And he was like, "Wait, what?"
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And then there was
another time it was sad,
it was, um...
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I was on a second date
with a guy.
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We had a great time
on our first date.
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In our second date
we started talking about...
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then I just started sharing
a little bit,
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just about polygamy
and things like that.
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And he'd never heard about
polygamy at all.
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This is over, and I was like,
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whoa, this is serious.
This is serious
to some people.
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I'm just about 52,
and the idea of dating...
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is so weird.
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Then add the fact that...
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I was in a plural family
for 30 something years.
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You know what I mean, like,
they may just think that
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that's what I'm interested in,
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just because that's what
I've done for so long.
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[gasps] Who's that?
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[Aspyn] Hey.
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[Janelle] I know Christine,
like she told me
a few months ago
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that she, um,
hired a match maker.
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I don't... I don't know
if she's found anybody yet.
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If I ever meet somebody again,
it will be...
have to be organic.
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So I'm just not going to...
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going to that... I just know,
it's just I can't.
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Not interested.
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In the datings apes...
dating apps... scene.
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So if her moving on means...
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finding somebody new,
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like, I hope she does it.
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My life and Christine's life
are separate and private
from each other.
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And I... I would expect
that she'd be dating.
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It's really none
of my business.
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Babies, Mitchell!
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Hello.
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-Ysabel just went
to pick up Truely.
-Thank you.
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[Christine] When I decided
to start dating,
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I was just nervous.
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But I wanted to date
and I wanted to...
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be on a date.
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And so, I contacted
a match maker.
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When I left Kody I decided
I wanted to find someone
who was bald
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and had tattoos
and drove a motorcycle
and stuff.
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And just... just to find
something so... different.
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But really, honestly
I thought that sounded
just extremely sexy.
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-Have a seat.
-Yeah, yeah.
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You wanted... you want us
to talk before...
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Truely gets here?
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-Yes.
-[Mykelti] Do you have
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anything you need to tell us
before Truely gets here?
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[Christine] No. Do you have
anything you need to tell me
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before Truely gets here?
[chuckling]
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Tony, do you have anything
you need to tell mom
before Truely gets here?
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No. I'm waiting for Truely
to get here.
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What were you guys's
first impressions
of David? There.
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Well, I like him.
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Wow. That was like the most
unsmooth transition ever.
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-That was not.
-What the heck?
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David's my boyfriend.
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I met him online, and...
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we met in person four...
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like, about a month
after we started talking,
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we met in person.
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And the date went great.
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He was just charming and kind.
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His eyes were amazing.
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And he's everything
that I was looking for.
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And then
we went on a second date,
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and... I told him everything.
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Blurted out everything.
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And he already knew
about polygamy,
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he'd already heard about it.
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And I'm like, "You don't want
to be a polygamist, right?"
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He's like, "No!"
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No. I'm a monogamist."
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I'm like, "Okay, well,
that's good."
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So what are you guys's
first impressions with David?
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I let him hold my kid,
that says a lot.
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I don't let everybody
hold my children.
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Hey, he was pretty good...
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-with the kids.
-[Christine] Yeah? Cool.
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[Tony] Yeah, I like how
he survived.
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[Mykelti] Do you...
I don't know if you want
to talk about that.
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Oh, yeah, I know.
Because his wife died.
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-His wife died...
-I know. His youngest was six.
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...and left him
with eight kids.
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And... he didn't get addicted
to gambling and drugs.
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-And he made it,
like he came out...
-Yeah.
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...the other side
with pretty decent kids,
that's hard.
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He's a father of eight kids.
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And he has zzz... ten...
he has nine,
he has nine grandkids.
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His wife passed away
eleven years ago.
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Hey, Paedon.
Hey, buddy, how are you?
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[Paedon] I'm doing well.
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[Ysabel] Thank you.
Hi, good to see you, too.
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Paedon, you can actually sit
over there by Mitchell too.
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David and I have been
on many dates now.
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And it's only been a month.
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It just feels bright.
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I'm 50, I know what I want,
I know what I had before.
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This feels totally different.
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And I dated enough guys
in the past year to know
what I'm looking for.
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-You have?
-So,
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I consider a eight a lot.
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-Um... a lot of guys
to go out with.
-Eight?
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-Yeah, I would consider...
-I don't know,
it's not double digits.
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-What?
-You...
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-You have double digits?
-Only one was two dates.
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Only one made it to two dates,
two dates besides David.
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-I'm 50, I know what
I'm looking for up here.
-Yeah.
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Truely, can I ask you
a question and get
an honest answer from you?
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-Like a legit...
-Let them know.
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[Mykelti]
Like, can I get a legit,
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-honest answer.
-What is your question?
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What do you think about David?
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He... is funny
and I get along with him.
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[Mykelti] Good.
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I like him.
248
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[Christine]
I'm glad you guys like him.
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He reminds me of Kody.
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-[Christine] Oh, God.
-[man] Oh, fun.
251
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-What? It's true.
-[woman] Wow.
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You gotta expand
on that, Tony.
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He's... he's like from
the same generation for sure.
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All this boomer stuff that
I have no idea
what he was saying...
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[Mykelti]
Tony, he's not a boomer.
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He's totally a boomer,
are you kidding?
257
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-No, he's not a boomer.
-Bro!
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Okay, he's 59, wait. He's 59.
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-Fifty-nine?
-Does that make...
Yeah, I know.
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-[Tony] Sixty years ago?
-[Aspyn] That's the same
as you, right, Mom?
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-[Ysabel] No. Mum's 50.
-I'm 50.
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[Aspyn] No, I know
how old you are.
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I mean it's the same
generation as you.
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-I don't know.
-[Tony] That's like
cold war stuff, man.
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-Cold war?
-[woman] Tony!
266
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-Oh, my words, do you know
when the cold war was?
-When was it?
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I think I'm older
than you think.
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See, I'm not a boomer,
269
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and David's only five years
older than I am.
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So I don't think
he's a boomer.
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I'm not a frickin' boomer.
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I'm not a boomer.
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I'm not. My mom's a boomer.
Is David a boomer?
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Is 1967...
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[chuckles]
Am I dating a boomer?
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So David's a boomer
and my mom's a boomer.
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David is eight years older
than I am.
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Eight.
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[whispering] He's a boomer.
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All I know was like,
the 80s are my jam.
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Like, I loved the 80s.
282
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Like, I hear 80s music now,
and I'm like all over that.
283
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Gen X,
we're the feral generation.
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What a great time to be alive.
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You know, like,
you're a teenager in the 80s,
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you got music videos.
287
00:13:07,567 --> 00:13:10,266
You got fashion just like...
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there's so many
amazing things happened.
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Duran Duran happened
in the 80s.
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[Christine laughs]
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Yeah, he was 58 when we met,
292
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but then he had his birthday,
so he is 59.
293
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I tease him about his age
all the time though.
294
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-He's great.
-Tease about it more
when he's 60.
295
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I mean, when you...
if you guys are still
dating by then.
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-Yeah, that's
a long time to go.
-I will.
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I guarantee we will be, so.
298
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I knew after our first date
that this was something
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that I wanted
to really invest in.
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My kids, it's...
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It's gonna be
too soon for them.
302
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I mean, it's important for me
to know how my kids
feel about David.
303
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But however they feel
is not gonna end
my relationship with David.
304
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We have said the magical words
to each other.
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Who said it first?
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-Him of course.
-What?
307
00:14:00,166 --> 00:14:02,166
-Oh, God.
-He said it first?
308
00:14:02,166 --> 00:14:05,500
He did say it first.
I said it right after though.
309
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[Christine] Okay, good.
Ysabel, I think...
if you don't mind,
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00:14:16,900 --> 00:14:19,166
I think... what was
your initial reaction
of David,
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how do you feel like?
'Cause I think that
out of all my kids,
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you are taking it
the hardest.
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Can we ask about that?
314
00:14:24,600 --> 00:14:27,266
-[Tony] Wait. Really, is he?
-I'm not taking it hard.
315
00:14:27,266 --> 00:14:29,066
I said you're taking it
the hardest.
316
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I'm just moving slower.
317
00:14:30,867 --> 00:14:33,533
[Tony] I... I also think
you're taking it the hardest.
318
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[Ysabel] Anyways...
319
00:14:34,834 --> 00:14:36,567
I feel like you're
more protective of me
than anyone else.
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00:14:36,567 --> 00:14:38,033
Yeah, maybe.
321
00:14:38,100 --> 00:14:41,166
As happy as I am for her,
I think that there is...
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like a strangeness in it
323
00:14:42,867 --> 00:14:45,533
just because I've only known
her as married to my dad.
324
00:14:45,600 --> 00:14:48,066
So she's divorced.
She's only been divorced
for a little bit.
325
00:14:48,066 --> 00:14:51,767
And so it's a little...
I think...
326
00:14:51,767 --> 00:14:53,033
just strange.
327
00:14:53,100 --> 00:14:54,533
I thought it was fine.
I thought it was fine.
328
00:14:54,600 --> 00:14:57,567
I do know however think
you guys are moving so,
so fast.
329
00:14:57,567 --> 00:14:59,166
-[Tony] Agreed.
-So fast.
330
00:14:59,166 --> 00:15:01,133
I proposed to Tony
before two months.
331
00:15:01,200 --> 00:15:02,667
-[Ysabel] I'm not talking
about you right now.
-I'm just saying.
332
00:15:02,667 --> 00:15:03,967
I'm talking about mom.
333
00:15:03,967 --> 00:15:06,867
This is all fast.
It definitely is.
334
00:15:06,867 --> 00:15:10,333
Um, I think it's harder
for some siblings than others.
335
00:15:10,400 --> 00:15:12,667
If Christine's
wanting to date,
336
00:15:12,667 --> 00:15:14,634
she should have been dating...
337
00:15:14,700 --> 00:15:17,667
In my mind it's like,
whenever she felt like
she was divorced.
338
00:15:17,667 --> 00:15:19,667
I... I agree with you,
it is moving fast.
339
00:15:19,667 --> 00:15:21,133
[Mykelti]
I think it's also like
you've never been
340
00:15:21,200 --> 00:15:23,467
physically affectionate
with somebody before.
341
00:15:23,467 --> 00:15:25,667
-[Christine] Yeah.
-Because I mean, you got dad
and his other wives
342
00:15:25,667 --> 00:15:27,967
and you're not really
physically affectionate
in front of them.
343
00:15:27,967 --> 00:15:29,834
Well, dad and I
really never were that
344
00:15:29,900 --> 00:15:31,667
-physically affectionate
anyway.
-[Mykelti] Yeah.
345
00:15:31,667 --> 00:15:34,266
How is that with you guys
seeing me
physically affectionate?
346
00:15:34,266 --> 00:15:36,667
[Mykelti] I like it.
I think it's healthy.
347
00:15:36,667 --> 00:15:39,333
Ysabel doesn't like PDA
from anybody though.
348
00:15:39,400 --> 00:15:40,867
[Paedon]
I'm super happy for you.
349
00:15:40,867 --> 00:15:44,166
-Just in general...
-It's weird.
I'm happy for you.
350
00:15:44,166 --> 00:15:46,200
But I'd rather not be
in the same room.
351
00:15:46,900 --> 00:15:49,533
So we kiss, and we hug
in front of our kids.
352
00:15:49,600 --> 00:15:52,133
It's a whole new world
for them.
353
00:15:52,200 --> 00:15:54,533
And David and I
just don't care.
354
00:15:54,600 --> 00:15:57,367
And our kids are just going to
have to get used to it.
355
00:15:57,367 --> 00:15:59,233
I mean Kody and I were
always very affectionate.
356
00:15:59,300 --> 00:16:01,934
I just was
uncomfortable with PDA
in front of everybody.
357
00:16:02,000 --> 00:16:06,033
Personally, I think
there's a limit to PDA.
358
00:16:06,100 --> 00:16:09,767
Whether you're in a plural
family or... just dating,
359
00:16:09,767 --> 00:16:12,100
you know, like,
nobody wants to see...
360
00:16:12,100 --> 00:16:14,066
You know,
"Hey, go get a room."
361
00:16:14,066 --> 00:16:16,066
You know what I mean, like...
362
00:16:16,066 --> 00:16:17,567
be respectful.
363
00:16:17,567 --> 00:16:20,266
[Kody] I hated PDA
because I had four wives,
364
00:16:20,266 --> 00:16:23,166
and it was just
always awkward,
never quite right.
365
00:16:23,166 --> 00:16:26,233
I... I'll... I actually...
366
00:16:26,300 --> 00:16:29,100
I like doing PDA now.
367
00:16:29,100 --> 00:16:31,734
But Robyn's very shy.
368
00:16:33,100 --> 00:16:35,967
So the other evening
when you were over...
369
00:16:35,967 --> 00:16:38,367
-and David was here...
-It's so weird.
370
00:16:38,367 --> 00:16:40,133
-[Ysabel] Yeah,
it is really weird.
-It is so weird.
371
00:16:40,200 --> 00:16:43,467
-We were just sitting there.
-[Mykelti] I don't think
it's weird.
372
00:16:43,467 --> 00:16:47,667
Yeah, my mom always wanted
more physical affection
from Dad.
373
00:16:47,667 --> 00:16:49,867
And she didn't really get it.
374
00:16:49,867 --> 00:16:54,200
And so now she's gonna have
one person to herself,
who she can have...
375
00:16:55,200 --> 00:16:58,834
physical affection with
publicly as much as she wants.
376
00:16:58,900 --> 00:17:00,266
So do you think
this is long term?
377
00:17:00,266 --> 00:17:01,867
[Christine] Yes.
378
00:17:01,867 --> 00:17:03,266
I do.
379
00:17:03,266 --> 00:17:05,567
-He's cool. He's chill.
-[Mykelti] Are all his kids
on-board with you?
380
00:17:05,567 --> 00:17:06,967
Oh, yeah. Big time.
381
00:17:06,967 --> 00:17:08,667
-I gotta go to work.
-They took us two
on a date,
382
00:17:08,667 --> 00:17:10,734
like, his kids...
his oldest kid,
383
00:17:10,800 --> 00:17:13,100
-like took us
on a chocolate date.
-That's so cute.
384
00:17:13,100 --> 00:17:15,133
-That's where that was?
-Yeah, that's where that
chocolate bar comes from.
385
00:17:15,200 --> 00:17:16,567
-I want t try that chocolate.
-Yeah.
386
00:17:16,567 --> 00:17:18,467
-[Aspyn] I think Ysabel's
gotta go to work.
-Yeah. I gotta leave.
387
00:17:18,467 --> 00:17:20,166
-You guys try
that chocolate.
-Oh, I love you.
388
00:17:20,166 --> 00:17:21,834
-Tell me how you like it.
-[Aspyn] Ysabel,
just really quick.
389
00:17:21,900 --> 00:17:23,634
-Sorry, you can go.
-You're okay?
390
00:17:23,700 --> 00:17:26,467
I just think it's okay also
that you're having feelings
391
00:17:26,467 --> 00:17:28,033
-about this, like...
-[Christine] Yes.
392
00:17:28,033 --> 00:17:30,834
-[Ysabel] I think so, too.
-It's not like a crazy thing,
like, that you are...
393
00:17:30,900 --> 00:17:33,467
I think what you're doing,
how fast you're going,
it's okay.
394
00:17:33,467 --> 00:17:35,867
And I'll...
I'll get used to it.
395
00:17:35,867 --> 00:17:37,000
And it's okay
to get used to it, too.
396
00:17:37,000 --> 00:17:39,533
-But it might take me...
but I'm doing fine now.
-Yeah.
397
00:17:39,600 --> 00:17:40,967
-Okay, good. Good.
-Yeah.
398
00:17:40,967 --> 00:17:43,133
Mom, acknowledging
it's going fast,
399
00:17:43,200 --> 00:17:44,667
isn't us telling you
that it's bad.
400
00:17:44,667 --> 00:17:46,567
-[Christine] Yeah, I know...
-It's just... it's just being
us observant.
401
00:17:46,567 --> 00:17:48,567
It's just like, "Oh, this is
going really fast."
402
00:17:48,567 --> 00:17:50,934
-Me... okay.
-It's not...
it's not telling...
403
00:17:51,000 --> 00:17:52,734
it's not us telling you
to stop or slow down.
404
00:17:52,800 --> 00:17:54,166
Oh, good, because I wouldn't.
405
00:17:54,166 --> 00:17:55,667
-[chuckles]
-It's true, it's going...
406
00:17:55,667 --> 00:17:58,233
It just... it is going fast.
It's just us observing.
407
00:17:58,300 --> 00:18:01,767
This is arguably mom's
first boyfriend ever.
408
00:18:01,767 --> 00:18:05,834
So... I think
they're moving fast, but...
409
00:18:07,400 --> 00:18:09,133
It's also completely okay,
410
00:18:09,200 --> 00:18:11,567
because this is a brand new
experience for her at least.
411
00:18:11,567 --> 00:18:14,934
[Christine] And I told him...
I said that there's a lot
of extra kids in my life,
412
00:18:15,000 --> 00:18:18,667
and I want you to meet
all of them and Janelle
and everybody and he's like,
413
00:18:18,667 --> 00:18:20,133
"I'll meet whoever you want."
414
00:18:20,133 --> 00:18:23,467
The second date that
we went on was the date
where I told him everything.
415
00:18:23,467 --> 00:18:26,100
And us talking about
me being a polygamist,
416
00:18:26,100 --> 00:18:28,367
he's like, "I've known
some polygamists."
417
00:18:28,367 --> 00:18:31,934
Such a relief that
he understood polygamy.
418
00:18:32,000 --> 00:18:34,834
We have said the magical words
to each other.
419
00:18:34,900 --> 00:18:36,867
But it only took us a week.
What?
420
00:18:36,867 --> 00:18:39,033
Oh, I was gonna high-five you,
but then...
421
00:18:39,100 --> 00:18:40,767
-You wait, you said I love you
within a week?
-[Christine] Yes.
422
00:18:40,767 --> 00:18:43,133
It was a week and a day.
It was just a week.
423
00:18:43,200 --> 00:18:44,967
-[chuckles]
-Who said it first?
424
00:18:44,967 --> 00:18:46,767
-Him of course.
-What?
425
00:18:46,767 --> 00:18:48,934
-Oh, God.
-He said it first?
426
00:18:49,000 --> 00:18:50,467
He did say it first.
427
00:18:50,467 --> 00:18:52,433
I said it right after though.
428
00:18:52,500 --> 00:18:55,033
I want mom to be happy,
I want mom to be safe.
429
00:18:55,100 --> 00:18:57,634
And I'm holding judgement
until I meet him.
430
00:18:57,700 --> 00:18:59,266
But from what I've seen
and heard, she's happy.
431
00:18:59,266 --> 00:19:01,033
And I think she'll be okay.
432
00:19:01,100 --> 00:19:04,266
We sat down, I met...
I went through
and met his family.
433
00:19:04,266 --> 00:19:06,667
And then we sat down
off to the side,
434
00:19:06,667 --> 00:19:09,467
he just pulled, uh,
my chair next to him,
435
00:19:09,467 --> 00:19:11,133
and he just pulled me
into him,
436
00:19:11,200 --> 00:19:13,200
and we just cuddled,
and I thought...
437
00:19:14,066 --> 00:19:16,233
Everything is crazy
all around us,
438
00:19:16,300 --> 00:19:20,367
and I'm like, so everything
is gonna be crazy
all around us,
439
00:19:20,367 --> 00:19:23,533
but right here
we're gonna be calm and...
440
00:19:24,800 --> 00:19:27,533
I legit felt calm
for the first time in my life,
441
00:19:27,600 --> 00:19:31,100
and I put my hand on his heart
and it was racing so fast.
442
00:19:31,100 --> 00:19:34,233
And my heart
was racing so fast,
443
00:19:34,300 --> 00:19:35,634
but it was like...
444
00:19:36,800 --> 00:19:39,567
a breath. And...
[chuckles softly]
445
00:19:39,567 --> 00:19:41,567
I just realized
I loved him then.
446
00:19:41,567 --> 00:19:43,500
And I would do this...
447
00:19:44,266 --> 00:19:46,000
for the rest of my life.
448
00:19:48,500 --> 00:19:52,133
It was the most
amazing memory...
449
00:19:52,867 --> 00:19:54,834
experience...
450
00:19:54,900 --> 00:19:57,433
and then our souls
just synced up.
451
00:19:57,500 --> 00:19:59,433
And our heartbeats synced up.
452
00:20:00,166 --> 00:20:03,600
And I realized
I was in love with him.
453
00:20:09,867 --> 00:20:11,567
[Kody]
My whole life with Meri,
454
00:20:11,567 --> 00:20:13,166
she has said one thing
455
00:20:13,166 --> 00:20:15,066
and I have felt the vibe
for another.
456
00:20:15,066 --> 00:20:17,634
I felt like I'd been shoveled
bull [bleep] my whole life.
457
00:20:17,700 --> 00:20:20,100
Had I wanted to leave sooner,
458
00:20:20,100 --> 00:20:22,200
I would've left sooner.
459
00:20:24,000 --> 00:20:26,800
[instrumental music playing]
460
00:20:32,467 --> 00:20:33,834
[Janelle] It takes
a complete--
461
00:20:33,834 --> 00:20:34,800
Like I have to like,
462
00:20:34,867 --> 00:20:35,967
yesterday when we were cooking
463
00:20:35,967 --> 00:20:38,033
and everything,
it was hard for me
to settle down.
464
00:20:38,033 --> 00:20:40,934
But now I'm like,
"Oh okay, this is good.
465
00:20:40,934 --> 00:20:42,367
This is good today."
466
00:20:42,367 --> 00:20:44,333
I'm here.
Savanah is with me.
467
00:20:44,400 --> 00:20:46,767
We're always talking about
where could we get property?
468
00:20:46,767 --> 00:20:48,734
What about the property
in Montana?
469
00:20:48,734 --> 00:20:50,734
'Cause we loved it there.
470
00:20:50,800 --> 00:20:51,867
My opinion is,
471
00:20:51,867 --> 00:20:54,867
-if we find
just a plot of land...
-That's right.
472
00:20:54,867 --> 00:20:57,967
...that is just so amazing
that we've got to have it,
473
00:20:57,967 --> 00:21:00,266
-then let's buy th--
-I wish that one wasn't
474
00:21:00,266 --> 00:21:01,734
40 miles from now.
475
00:21:01,734 --> 00:21:05,333
And then we can start working
on building the house,
our house, together.
476
00:21:05,400 --> 00:21:06,867
[Janelle] Maddie and Caleb
and I,
477
00:21:06,867 --> 00:21:08,767
we realized that we both
kind of want to do
the same thing.
478
00:21:08,767 --> 00:21:10,734
I have kids who want to have
a piece of property.
479
00:21:10,800 --> 00:21:12,066
We would
never be real farmers.
480
00:21:12,066 --> 00:21:13,834
Like we're never gonna be
real farmers.
481
00:21:13,834 --> 00:21:15,066
It'd be awesome.
482
00:21:15,066 --> 00:21:17,100
But we'll hobby farm around,
483
00:21:17,100 --> 00:21:20,834
and maybe we'll...
have some chickens
484
00:21:20,834 --> 00:21:23,500
and a garden, and maybe we'll
grow something, I don't know.
485
00:21:27,967 --> 00:21:31,000
The property in Montana
is exactly what you think of
when you think of the West.
486
00:21:31,000 --> 00:21:34,367
It's sagebrush knee high
all over the place.
487
00:21:34,367 --> 00:21:36,166
There's a little creek
that runs across it,
488
00:21:36,166 --> 00:21:37,900
which is very rare
in the West.
489
00:21:37,967 --> 00:21:40,367
And it's just cute.
It's just perfect.
490
00:21:40,367 --> 00:21:43,567
I talked to your dad
and I decided I wanted
you just to buy me out.
491
00:21:43,567 --> 00:21:46,100
And I think that was
interesting to him.
492
00:21:46,100 --> 00:21:47,667
Um...
493
00:21:47,667 --> 00:21:50,133
But your dad doesn't
take action really fast.
494
00:21:50,133 --> 00:21:53,834
Like until it's like...
everything's falling down
495
00:21:53,834 --> 00:21:55,600
and then he
finally gets like--
496
00:21:57,567 --> 00:22:00,133
I'm actually going
to still consult a lawyer.
497
00:22:00,133 --> 00:22:04,333
I still have the property
in Flagstaff, Coyote Pass.
498
00:22:04,400 --> 00:22:06,800
We're gonna split it
four ways.
499
00:22:06,867 --> 00:22:08,333
And the last I talked to Kody,
500
00:22:08,333 --> 00:22:12,000
he says he doesn't have
his part of the money
to pay off the property.
501
00:22:12,867 --> 00:22:15,467
I have my part,
and it's just sitting there.
502
00:22:15,467 --> 00:22:19,533
It's really up to Meri, Robyn,
Kody and I to pay it off.
503
00:22:19,600 --> 00:22:24,967
Look, all of my
"retirement", all the money
I've saved
504
00:22:24,967 --> 00:22:28,367
is tied up right now
in these properties
on Coyote Pass.
505
00:22:28,367 --> 00:22:32,367
I have suggested to Kody
that he just get a loan
and finance me out.
506
00:22:32,367 --> 00:22:34,100
Get my portion out.
507
00:22:34,100 --> 00:22:37,100
Because when we're pooling
our efforts and our resources,
508
00:22:37,100 --> 00:22:40,166
then all of a sudden
everything-- So much more.
509
00:22:40,166 --> 00:22:43,066
-Lot more stuff
-So much more
becomes possible.
510
00:22:43,066 --> 00:22:44,100
I'm so ready,
511
00:22:44,100 --> 00:22:46,166
as I'm living
in this apartment
in Flagstaff,
512
00:22:46,166 --> 00:22:48,266
I'm so ready to be somewhere
513
00:22:48,266 --> 00:22:51,934
that I can choose
which furniture
I want permanently.
514
00:22:51,934 --> 00:22:53,900
Like I would love
to settle somewhere.
515
00:22:53,967 --> 00:22:56,533
I'm so ready
to settle somewhere.
516
00:22:56,600 --> 00:22:59,000
You know, I can remember...
517
00:22:59,000 --> 00:23:01,967
It was right after we'd moved
to Las Vegas,
518
00:23:01,967 --> 00:23:04,266
and I just had this
perspective change
519
00:23:04,266 --> 00:23:06,367
where all of sudden I'm like,
"You know what?
520
00:23:06,367 --> 00:23:08,367
I'm not gonna sit around
and wait for Kody."
521
00:23:08,367 --> 00:23:09,767
And if I sat around
and wait for him,
522
00:23:09,767 --> 00:23:11,433
nothing ever would happen.
523
00:23:11,500 --> 00:23:12,166
Nothing.
524
00:23:12,166 --> 00:23:13,400
[instrumental music playing]
525
00:23:24,500 --> 00:23:25,600
[Kody] I'm going over
to Meri's place.
526
00:23:25,600 --> 00:23:27,934
We're gonna talk about
our divorce, our breakup.
527
00:23:27,934 --> 00:23:29,567
I think there's
just some things
528
00:23:29,567 --> 00:23:30,700
we've got to clarify.
529
00:23:33,266 --> 00:23:34,934
My whole life with Meri,
530
00:23:34,934 --> 00:23:36,467
she has said one thing
531
00:23:36,467 --> 00:23:38,367
and I have felt the vibe
for another.
532
00:23:38,367 --> 00:23:41,000
And I'm not gonna sit and
accuse her of gaslighting.
533
00:23:41,066 --> 00:23:43,567
But I felt like I'd been
shoveled bull [bleep]
my whole life.
534
00:23:43,567 --> 00:23:45,500
I don't know
where she's at ever.
535
00:23:46,500 --> 00:23:47,800
[Meri] Oh Hi.
Come on in.
536
00:23:47,867 --> 00:23:49,000
-[Kody] How's it going?
-I'm good.
537
00:23:49,066 --> 00:23:49,667
How are you?
538
00:23:49,667 --> 00:23:52,000
-I'm good.
-Good, good.
539
00:23:52,000 --> 00:23:54,266
[Meri] A few months ago,
Kody and Robyn and I
540
00:23:54,266 --> 00:23:55,867
were out at the property.
541
00:23:55,867 --> 00:23:59,000
We ended up talking
about our relationship.
542
00:23:59,066 --> 00:24:03,800
After that, I ended up
moving forward
543
00:24:03,867 --> 00:24:05,433
and taking the steps
544
00:24:05,500 --> 00:24:10,000
through the church
that we were married in
545
00:24:10,066 --> 00:24:12,967
to terminate the marriage.
546
00:24:15,667 --> 00:24:17,800
Dave and I have been dating
for about a month.
547
00:24:19,166 --> 00:24:20,100
-Hi, baby.
-Hello.
548
00:24:20,100 --> 00:24:21,200
Come in.
549
00:24:24,133 --> 00:24:24,967
[kisses]
550
00:24:24,967 --> 00:24:26,100
Hi.
551
00:24:26,100 --> 00:24:27,734
I would like you
to meet David.
552
00:24:27,734 --> 00:24:28,800
Ta da!
553
00:24:30,233 --> 00:24:31,500
[instrumental music playing]
554
00:24:38,133 --> 00:24:39,867
[Christine] When I was still
married to Kody,
555
00:24:39,867 --> 00:24:42,133
Nancy, our therapist, told me
556
00:24:42,133 --> 00:24:43,934
to make a list of qualities
557
00:24:43,934 --> 00:24:45,233
that I was looking for in
a husband
558
00:24:45,233 --> 00:24:46,967
that was super important
to me.
559
00:24:46,967 --> 00:24:49,000
And it was like,
a good communicator,
560
00:24:49,066 --> 00:24:50,867
someone who was going
to be present in my life,
561
00:24:50,867 --> 00:24:53,233
someone who wanted to be
around my children,
562
00:24:53,233 --> 00:24:54,934
someone who was
attracted to me,
563
00:24:54,934 --> 00:24:56,266
just a list of things.
564
00:24:56,266 --> 00:25:00,133
And Kody wasn't any
of the things on the list.
565
00:25:02,734 --> 00:25:04,433
I told him the list
and he's like,
566
00:25:04,500 --> 00:25:06,667
"I'm not any of those things
for you".
567
00:25:06,667 --> 00:25:08,400
I said, "No, you're not".
568
00:25:10,967 --> 00:25:13,066
David and I have been dating
for about a month,
569
00:25:13,066 --> 00:25:14,433
and he's awesome.
570
00:25:14,500 --> 00:25:15,467
He loves family.
571
00:25:15,467 --> 00:25:17,567
Family is the most
important thing to him.
572
00:25:17,567 --> 00:25:19,734
He's owned
his own drywall business.
573
00:25:19,734 --> 00:25:23,233
He has a reputation
of being honest
574
00:25:23,233 --> 00:25:26,100
and real with people.
575
00:25:26,100 --> 00:25:30,400
And he's really
a great communicator.
576
00:25:31,934 --> 00:25:33,000
-Hi baby.
-Hello.
577
00:25:33,066 --> 00:25:34,100
Come in.
578
00:25:36,567 --> 00:25:37,634
[kisses]
579
00:25:37,700 --> 00:25:38,433
Hi.
580
00:25:38,433 --> 00:25:40,367
I would like you
to meet David.
581
00:25:40,367 --> 00:25:42,100
Ta da!
582
00:25:42,100 --> 00:25:44,734
My boyfriend. Isn't that
the dumbest word?
583
00:25:44,734 --> 00:25:47,133
-Boyfriend?
-It's like we're adults,
584
00:25:47,133 --> 00:25:49,000
so I feel like
love of my life.
585
00:25:49,066 --> 00:25:50,900
But that really
is a lot but...
586
00:25:50,967 --> 00:25:51,734
This is David.
587
00:25:51,734 --> 00:25:52,800
[David speaking]
588
00:25:52,867 --> 00:25:53,567
Okay.
589
00:25:53,567 --> 00:25:55,467
That's probably inappropriate.
590
00:25:55,467 --> 00:25:57,066
[chuckles]
591
00:25:57,066 --> 00:25:58,000
[both] Soulmates.
592
00:25:58,000 --> 00:25:59,800
-He's my yeah,
definitely soulmate.
-Yeah.
593
00:25:59,867 --> 00:26:00,734
-He's my--
-soulmate.
594
00:26:00,734 --> 00:26:02,567
-Yeah.
-Unicorn. You're my unicorn.
595
00:26:02,567 --> 00:26:04,000
Yeah. Thanks, babe.
596
00:26:04,000 --> 00:26:05,000
My name is David.
597
00:26:05,066 --> 00:26:07,433
I am from Salt Lake.
598
00:26:07,500 --> 00:26:10,367
I have eight kids
and my wife passed away
599
00:26:10,367 --> 00:26:11,500
about 12 years ago.
600
00:26:11,500 --> 00:26:14,467
I started dating and gave up
about eight years into it.
601
00:26:14,467 --> 00:26:17,433
And then
three years afterwards,
602
00:26:17,500 --> 00:26:18,867
she messaged me
603
00:26:18,867 --> 00:26:20,834
on a mess... on a date site
604
00:26:20,834 --> 00:26:21,967
and here we are.
605
00:26:24,934 --> 00:26:26,367
[Christine] Third date
I was like,
606
00:26:26,367 --> 00:26:29,000
"Are you gonna
friend zone me?" [giggles]
607
00:26:29,000 --> 00:26:30,467
You didn't kiss me
and blah-blah-blah.
608
00:26:30,467 --> 00:26:31,467
Yeah, you're aggressive.
609
00:26:31,467 --> 00:26:33,967
Like, boom,
we're out on a date...
610
00:26:33,967 --> 00:26:35,200
"Wanna kiss?"
611
00:26:36,000 --> 00:26:37,100
Like you didn't kiss me
on the second date.
612
00:26:37,100 --> 00:26:40,867
Well, you were desperate
for some affection. [laughs]
613
00:26:41,767 --> 00:26:43,367
[chuckles softly] I was, okay?
614
00:26:43,367 --> 00:26:45,467
Specifically from you, though.
615
00:26:45,467 --> 00:26:47,133
-Okay?
-Yes.
616
00:26:53,233 --> 00:26:54,166
[David and Christine speaking]
617
00:26:59,233 --> 00:27:00,367
[Christine] And I'm like,
"Well, what,
618
00:27:00,367 --> 00:27:01,667
I mean, you didn't kiss me
on our first date."
619
00:27:01,667 --> 00:27:03,400
-So I'm like, you know...
-No.
620
00:27:05,734 --> 00:27:09,533
Third date,
it was a make out session.
621
00:27:09,600 --> 00:27:11,600
-[chuckling] You don't need
to go that far.
-[laughing]
622
00:27:12,400 --> 00:27:15,266
You're really,
really special to me.
623
00:27:15,266 --> 00:27:16,867
I know, baby.
624
00:27:16,867 --> 00:27:21,166
Someone told me that
when I least suspect
I'll find that person.
625
00:27:21,166 --> 00:27:22,600
And they're so right.
626
00:27:25,066 --> 00:27:27,900
You, however,
you were fast.
627
00:27:27,967 --> 00:27:29,367
[David giggling]
628
00:27:29,367 --> 00:27:31,100
Now, when you see
something good,
629
00:27:31,100 --> 00:27:34,867
see how well you are
with your kids, I love it.
630
00:27:34,867 --> 00:27:36,567
Everything about you.
631
00:27:36,567 --> 00:27:39,000
I like your craziness.
632
00:27:39,066 --> 00:27:40,367
I like everything about you.
633
00:27:40,367 --> 00:27:42,700
You're just--
You're perfect for me.
634
00:27:43,667 --> 00:27:45,667
Your eyes are
what got me first.
635
00:27:45,667 --> 00:27:47,734
-I remember you saying that...
-Oh no.
636
00:27:47,800 --> 00:27:49,066
...about the light
in your eyes.
637
00:27:52,867 --> 00:27:54,600
[guitar music playing]
638
00:28:03,300 --> 00:28:04,433
What's going on with you?
639
00:28:05,300 --> 00:28:07,066
Oh, I'll be up in Parowan.
640
00:28:08,467 --> 00:28:10,367
So you're gonna move there
and live there?
641
00:28:10,367 --> 00:28:13,200
Yeah. I am now. [laughs]
642
00:28:14,767 --> 00:28:16,667
I mean,
we had that discussion
643
00:28:16,667 --> 00:28:18,900
about where our
relationship is at.
644
00:28:18,967 --> 00:28:21,266
After you made it very clear
that you weren't interested
645
00:28:21,266 --> 00:28:24,300
in working
on a relationship with me...
646
00:28:26,100 --> 00:28:27,667
Well, don't blame me
for not loving you.
647
00:28:27,667 --> 00:28:29,367
I was doing my duty.
648
00:28:29,367 --> 00:28:32,266
Blame yourself
if I don't love you, okay?
649
00:28:32,266 --> 00:28:34,667
When I'm in love
with a woman...
650
00:28:34,667 --> 00:28:37,533
[laughs] ...that's her fault.
651
00:28:40,266 --> 00:28:43,734
So what happens
if I'm not in love
with a woman?
652
00:28:43,800 --> 00:28:45,200
Is that just my fault?
653
00:28:46,233 --> 00:28:48,567
If I'm mad about woman,
654
00:28:48,567 --> 00:28:52,567
passionate, want to serve her,
want to rub her feet,
655
00:28:52,567 --> 00:28:54,667
want to carry in
her groceries?
656
00:28:54,667 --> 00:28:57,367
If I'm in--
If I want to buy her jewelry.
657
00:28:57,367 --> 00:29:00,266
If I want her to feel special,
all the time.
658
00:29:00,266 --> 00:29:04,900
If I'm in love with a woman,
I think that is her fault.
659
00:29:06,266 --> 00:29:07,533
I'm not placing blame.
660
00:29:07,600 --> 00:29:09,433
All I did
was acknowledge the fact
661
00:29:09,500 --> 00:29:11,367
that he told me
he was not interested
662
00:29:11,367 --> 00:29:13,300
in working on a relationship.
663
00:29:13,367 --> 00:29:15,266
You want me to own it
that much?
664
00:29:15,266 --> 00:29:17,166
-I'm not saying anything...
-I didn't say I wasn't
interested
665
00:29:17,166 --> 00:29:18,867
-in working on it.
-...about owing anything.
666
00:29:18,867 --> 00:29:22,967
I did say I didn't want--
I could fake through it.
667
00:29:24,166 --> 00:29:26,567
Yeah. I'm not interested
in faking in a relationship.
668
00:29:26,567 --> 00:29:28,734
That's not me saying,
I can't work on it.
669
00:29:28,734 --> 00:29:30,567
You're trying to
make me own it.
670
00:29:30,567 --> 00:29:33,233
-That's really not where--
-I didn't really know
we were having a fight here.
671
00:29:33,233 --> 00:29:35,567
-I did not know that
this is a fight conversation.
-It's not.
672
00:29:35,567 --> 00:29:37,567
I'm not...
I'm not open to that.
673
00:29:37,567 --> 00:29:39,934
-[Kody] It's not.
-I'll shut it down right now.
674
00:29:39,934 --> 00:29:42,266
It's an
accountability conversation...
675
00:29:42,266 --> 00:29:45,433
-Right.
-...that we agreed mutually
676
00:29:45,500 --> 00:29:47,467
that the relationship
isn't going to progress.
677
00:29:47,467 --> 00:29:49,600
-You're right. We did.
-Okay.
678
00:29:54,300 --> 00:29:55,467
You had a part in it,
679
00:29:55,467 --> 00:29:57,066
I had a part in it.
680
00:29:57,066 --> 00:29:59,867
I took the steps
and we are done.
681
00:29:59,867 --> 00:30:03,000
Moving on?
Moving forward together?
682
00:30:07,934 --> 00:30:10,600
-There's no
moving forward together.
-Right.
683
00:30:12,467 --> 00:30:13,634
Okay.
684
00:30:13,700 --> 00:30:15,066
I used to hang out
with Meri and Kody
685
00:30:15,066 --> 00:30:17,367
before I even married Kody.
686
00:30:17,367 --> 00:30:20,433
And they always were
just goofy together.
687
00:30:20,500 --> 00:30:23,166
They had their arguments
for sure.
688
00:30:23,166 --> 00:30:24,533
We were in it
for the long haul.
689
00:30:24,600 --> 00:30:26,233
We were figuring it out.
690
00:30:26,233 --> 00:30:28,000
And there was
a lot of emotional growth,
691
00:30:28,000 --> 00:30:30,000
I think, that came from
all of us trying to figure out
692
00:30:30,066 --> 00:30:31,567
how to work with family
693
00:30:31,567 --> 00:30:33,467
around all the
different personalities.
694
00:30:33,467 --> 00:30:35,567
The breakdown of mine,
and Kody's relationship
695
00:30:35,567 --> 00:30:37,100
is definitely not all on him.
696
00:30:37,100 --> 00:30:39,467
Because I definitely
had my part in it.
697
00:30:39,467 --> 00:30:45,567
And I don't think
that he likes to see
that he failed.
698
00:30:45,567 --> 00:30:47,166
But if you
didn't want to fail,
699
00:30:47,166 --> 00:30:51,900
maybe you shouldn't have...
married the wrong person.
700
00:30:51,967 --> 00:30:53,767
One or two or three times.
701
00:30:53,767 --> 00:30:55,133
Nobody won here.
702
00:30:58,834 --> 00:31:00,867
I never would have thought
we would be here.
703
00:31:00,867 --> 00:31:02,166
Yeah, me either.
704
00:31:03,967 --> 00:31:07,467
I got a special phone call
from a special person.
705
00:31:07,467 --> 00:31:09,033
I got a call from the church.
706
00:31:09,033 --> 00:31:10,967
They said they give
Meri a release,
707
00:31:10,967 --> 00:31:13,100
a divorce
on a account of abandonment,
708
00:31:13,100 --> 00:31:14,867
and I just don't believe
that that's true at all.
709
00:31:14,867 --> 00:31:16,166
She was never abandoned.
710
00:31:17,000 --> 00:31:18,266
He knew what was happening.
711
00:31:18,266 --> 00:31:19,867
He could have been involved.
712
00:31:19,867 --> 00:31:21,900
He could have
gone to the meeting with me.
713
00:31:23,934 --> 00:31:27,367
[Meri] I know that they use
the words abandonment.
714
00:31:27,367 --> 00:31:30,667
And he really
didn't like that.
715
00:31:30,667 --> 00:31:35,400
Most people don't like
what is truth.
716
00:31:40,300 --> 00:31:42,734
[Kody] Why did you move
so quickly on it then?
717
00:31:42,734 --> 00:31:43,834
Quickly?
718
00:31:44,934 --> 00:31:47,900
It's interesting
that you're saying
that it's quickly.
719
00:31:47,967 --> 00:31:52,000
This has been a long, long,
slow and painful process.
720
00:31:52,000 --> 00:31:53,367
I married you in 1990
721
00:31:53,367 --> 00:31:56,834
because I was committed to it
and I loved you.
722
00:31:56,834 --> 00:31:59,533
Basically, the statements
are all of this.
723
00:32:01,166 --> 00:32:03,734
You can choose, but I cannot.
724
00:32:03,734 --> 00:32:05,467
I-- Who said that?
725
00:32:05,467 --> 00:32:08,533
-When I was called
and told about our...
-Termination?
726
00:32:08,600 --> 00:32:10,066
Termination.
727
00:32:10,066 --> 00:32:12,433
That's bull [bleep].
728
00:32:12,500 --> 00:32:15,867
-[Kody] Well...
-That is so not fair to me.
729
00:32:15,867 --> 00:32:17,467
-And that is so not fair
to you.
-I agree.
730
00:32:17,467 --> 00:32:21,200
I would have rather,
you have told me Kody,
years ago.
731
00:32:22,266 --> 00:32:23,567
[Kody] I... I felt compelled
732
00:32:23,567 --> 00:32:25,066
to always stick it out
with Meri,
733
00:32:25,066 --> 00:32:27,300
even though
the relationship was terrible.
734
00:32:27,367 --> 00:32:28,834
I remember
when Sonny and Cher
735
00:32:28,834 --> 00:32:30,700
got divorced when I was six...
736
00:32:31,667 --> 00:32:33,867
and it rattled me.
737
00:32:33,867 --> 00:32:38,533
I do not know why
I'm still holding on
738
00:32:39,166 --> 00:32:40,000
a little bit.
739
00:32:40,000 --> 00:32:43,667
Because I know damn well
740
00:32:43,667 --> 00:32:46,634
that I don't want to be
in this relationship,
741
00:32:46,700 --> 00:32:50,800
and I know damn well
that I don't want to be
742
00:32:50,867 --> 00:32:53,300
in a relationship
with Janelle.
743
00:32:53,367 --> 00:32:57,467
And I know that Christine
did me a favor
744
00:32:57,467 --> 00:33:01,066
by being brave enough
to leave.
745
00:33:05,233 --> 00:33:08,000
Had I wanted to leave sooner,
746
00:33:08,000 --> 00:33:09,800
I would have left sooner.
747
00:33:09,867 --> 00:33:11,767
You don't know
you're in a bad relationship,
748
00:33:11,767 --> 00:33:13,900
you just think you're in
a normal relationship.
749
00:33:13,967 --> 00:33:15,367
Some people call it F and F,
750
00:33:15,367 --> 00:33:17,066
and the second word
is "Fight".
751
00:33:17,066 --> 00:33:21,000
That doesn't create intimacy
that just creates orgasms.
752
00:33:22,667 --> 00:33:24,634
[instrumental music playing]
753
00:33:29,467 --> 00:33:32,634
[Meri] I'm not gonna offer him
a lot of information.
754
00:33:32,700 --> 00:33:35,533
With me, with Christine,
with Janelle,
755
00:33:35,600 --> 00:33:37,233
you know they've left him.
756
00:33:37,233 --> 00:33:39,800
They've separated
their relationships.
757
00:33:39,867 --> 00:33:41,900
Like, they're gonna have lives
758
00:33:41,967 --> 00:33:44,667
that he doesn't
need to know about.
759
00:33:44,667 --> 00:33:47,000
I think that realization
is gonna be
760
00:33:47,000 --> 00:33:48,400
a little bit hard for him.
761
00:33:48,467 --> 00:33:50,533
[Kody] Listen, it's confusing
from day one.
762
00:33:51,500 --> 00:33:53,467
-[Meri] That's sad
to me that our--
-What do you mean?
763
00:33:53,467 --> 00:33:55,533
That our relationship
was so confusing.
764
00:33:55,600 --> 00:33:57,133
That our relationship
was so confusing
765
00:33:57,133 --> 00:33:58,867
after the first year
or the second year
766
00:33:58,867 --> 00:34:00,400
or the fourth year
or whatever.
767
00:34:00,467 --> 00:34:02,967
I wish I wouldn't have
ever married her.
768
00:34:05,667 --> 00:34:07,000
I married a woman
769
00:34:07,066 --> 00:34:10,700
that I just didn't love
so much
770
00:34:11,367 --> 00:34:13,667
that I wanted to serve her.
771
00:34:13,667 --> 00:34:16,367
And then because
whatever I did,
772
00:34:16,367 --> 00:34:18,166
was never enough!
773
00:34:21,767 --> 00:34:26,634
This marriage was on the rocks
the entire marriage.
774
00:34:27,400 --> 00:34:29,100
And how would I know that?
775
00:34:30,667 --> 00:34:34,367
Because I had
such a better relationship
776
00:34:35,266 --> 00:34:39,600
with Janelle, with Christine,
with Robyn.
777
00:34:40,266 --> 00:34:43,100
And Janelle
and Christine didn't survive.
778
00:34:45,967 --> 00:34:48,100
I should have gotten out
of the relationship
779
00:34:48,100 --> 00:34:49,600
25 years ago.
780
00:34:50,867 --> 00:34:52,567
[Janelle] I don't know
who this guy is.
781
00:34:52,567 --> 00:34:55,567
To say the things
that he's saying now...
782
00:34:55,567 --> 00:34:59,133
this is not the guy
that we were married to.
783
00:34:59,133 --> 00:35:02,133
I wish you would have
made your choice sooner.
784
00:35:02,133 --> 00:35:04,367
[Meri] My choice
was always to stay.
785
00:35:04,367 --> 00:35:08,900
Had I wanted to leave sooner,
I would have left sooner.
786
00:35:09,834 --> 00:35:11,634
You don't get to be
in plural marriage,
787
00:35:11,700 --> 00:35:12,700
you know, with leadership.
788
00:35:12,700 --> 00:35:15,000
Leadership will never
allow you to marry again
789
00:35:15,000 --> 00:35:16,233
if you're discarding wives.
790
00:35:16,233 --> 00:35:20,400
Well, I... I was
in terrible relationships
791
00:35:20,467 --> 00:35:22,066
but wasn't willing
to discard them,
792
00:35:22,066 --> 00:35:23,100
didn't want to discard them,
793
00:35:23,100 --> 00:35:25,734
didn't even know I was
in terrible relationships.
794
00:35:25,800 --> 00:35:27,734
You don't know
you're in a bad relationship.
795
00:35:27,734 --> 00:35:29,767
You just think you're in
a normal relationship
796
00:35:29,767 --> 00:35:32,000
'cause all your friends
have the same problem.
797
00:35:32,066 --> 00:35:34,367
Until you're in
a normal relationship
798
00:35:34,367 --> 00:35:38,133
that has deep
emotional intimacy
799
00:35:38,133 --> 00:35:39,300
instead of the...
800
00:35:41,567 --> 00:35:42,934
Some people call it F and F,
801
00:35:42,934 --> 00:35:44,500
and the second word
is "Fight".
802
00:35:45,266 --> 00:35:47,700
Or F and F,
and the first word is "Fight".
803
00:35:49,667 --> 00:35:51,100
That doesn't create intimacy.
804
00:35:51,100 --> 00:35:53,600
That just creates orgasms.
805
00:35:54,233 --> 00:35:55,467
[Kody] You know
what really sucks?
806
00:35:55,467 --> 00:35:56,900
It's not divorce that sucks,
807
00:35:56,967 --> 00:35:58,734
it's marrying
the wrong person.
808
00:35:58,734 --> 00:36:00,500
Because you don't know...
809
00:36:05,367 --> 00:36:06,900
[sighs in exasperation]
810
00:36:06,967 --> 00:36:07,834
[laughs sarcastically]
811
00:36:07,834 --> 00:36:09,567
Wow. Okay.
812
00:36:09,567 --> 00:36:11,734
Because you married me
at six months,
813
00:36:11,734 --> 00:36:14,000
you married the wrong person
and you just didn't know.
814
00:36:14,066 --> 00:36:15,266
I'm not even
saying that, Meri.
815
00:36:15,266 --> 00:36:16,734
-That's what it sounds like.
-[Kody] We're breaking up now.
816
00:36:16,734 --> 00:36:18,634
Does it mean
it was the right person?
817
00:36:18,700 --> 00:36:20,233
Or was just
right at the right time?
818
00:36:20,233 --> 00:36:22,467
I don't know.
I can't philosophize this.
819
00:36:22,467 --> 00:36:24,467
We could philosophize it
to death.
820
00:36:24,467 --> 00:36:26,934
-Yeah.
-All I know is that
you and I
821
00:36:26,934 --> 00:36:31,333
have different time stamps on
when we weren't happy anymore.
822
00:36:31,333 --> 00:36:32,734
Mm-hmm.
823
00:36:32,734 --> 00:36:37,233
What sucks is...
marrying the wrong person
824
00:36:37,233 --> 00:36:39,567
and not having
the decency to tell her
825
00:36:39,567 --> 00:36:42,500
until 32 years later.
826
00:36:43,166 --> 00:36:46,133
[instrumental music playing]
827
00:36:51,467 --> 00:36:54,266
[Christine] I'm just excited
to be with somebody.
828
00:36:54,266 --> 00:36:57,066
There's no threats
of anybody else.
829
00:36:57,066 --> 00:36:58,567
It's just me.
830
00:36:58,567 --> 00:37:01,567
Isn't that weird to think
of polygamy as a threat
831
00:37:01,567 --> 00:37:03,266
and the other women
832
00:37:03,266 --> 00:37:05,734
as a threat
to your relationship?
833
00:37:05,800 --> 00:37:07,567
Remember, how I told you
my biggest thing
834
00:37:07,567 --> 00:37:10,300
on New Year's Eve
was to have somebody to kiss
835
00:37:10,367 --> 00:37:11,333
because we all
just did it together
836
00:37:11,333 --> 00:37:12,734
and you don't really have
837
00:37:12,734 --> 00:37:15,000
someone to kiss
on New Year's Eve.
838
00:37:15,066 --> 00:37:17,100
Nothing wrong
with being affectionate.
839
00:37:17,100 --> 00:37:18,734
Nothing wrong at all.
840
00:37:18,800 --> 00:37:20,867
Like Kody and I never
really were affect--
841
00:37:20,867 --> 00:37:23,000
Even when we were
just together,
842
00:37:23,066 --> 00:37:25,333
with the two of us,
we really weren't that much--
843
00:37:25,333 --> 00:37:27,333
Not like we are. [chuckles]
844
00:37:27,333 --> 00:37:30,300
-Not like we are.
-[laughs] No,
we're not at all. No.
845
00:37:30,367 --> 00:37:32,066
-[Christine] Oh my God.
-[laughs]
846
00:37:32,066 --> 00:37:33,166
All the time.
847
00:37:33,166 --> 00:37:35,000
-Yeah.
-I love it. Thank you.
848
00:37:35,066 --> 00:37:36,133
Thank you.
849
00:37:36,133 --> 00:37:38,266
I didn't know I liked
being affectionate so much.
850
00:37:38,266 --> 00:37:40,734
I felt like Kody and Robyn
were soulmates.
851
00:37:40,800 --> 00:37:43,967
I feel like today
they are soulmates.
852
00:37:43,967 --> 00:37:48,734
And just like last week,
I realized,
853
00:37:48,800 --> 00:37:51,800
oh, this is how
soulmates feel.
854
00:37:52,667 --> 00:37:53,634
Okay.
855
00:37:53,634 --> 00:37:55,467
Now I know why Kody
really wants to be over
856
00:37:55,467 --> 00:37:57,266
at Robyn's house all the time.
857
00:37:57,266 --> 00:37:58,367
This is how they feel.
858
00:37:58,367 --> 00:38:00,266
Of course, I would never
wanna leave David.
859
00:38:00,266 --> 00:38:03,100
I would not wanna o
stay somewhere else.
860
00:38:05,033 --> 00:38:07,934
If a polygamist
were to find a soulmate,
861
00:38:07,934 --> 00:38:10,066
and have
a soulmate relationship
862
00:38:10,066 --> 00:38:11,467
with one of their wives,
863
00:38:11,467 --> 00:38:12,834
I don't know
what that looks like
864
00:38:12,834 --> 00:38:14,133
for their family.
865
00:38:14,133 --> 00:38:16,233
Because how can
he have a good relationship
866
00:38:16,233 --> 00:38:18,233
with his other wives if he has
867
00:38:18,233 --> 00:38:20,900
a soulmate relationship
with one of them?
868
00:38:21,834 --> 00:38:23,400
I really do care for you.
869
00:38:24,033 --> 00:38:25,367
You're a lot of fun.
870
00:38:25,367 --> 00:38:26,734
I'm excited.
871
00:38:27,867 --> 00:38:29,567
I'm a little nervous,
a little scared
872
00:38:29,567 --> 00:38:31,567
about where it's going,
but I'm good for it.
873
00:38:31,567 --> 00:38:33,867
-But I'm 100% on.
-Me too.
874
00:38:33,867 --> 00:38:35,600
Because you're too good
to be true.
875
00:38:36,867 --> 00:38:39,567
-Same. It's a little scary.
-Yeah.
876
00:38:39,567 --> 00:38:41,734
It's a little scary
because you're
too good to be true.
877
00:38:41,800 --> 00:38:43,533
It's because it's too good
to be true, right?
878
00:38:43,600 --> 00:38:45,367
-[David] Yes.
-That's why it's scary.
879
00:38:45,367 --> 00:38:48,033
-[David] Yep.
-How can we be soulmates
880
00:38:48,033 --> 00:38:49,467
so fast?
881
00:38:49,467 --> 00:38:50,600
We just clicked.
882
00:38:50,600 --> 00:38:51,734
-It was just something there.
-[Christine] It's scary.
883
00:38:51,734 --> 00:38:53,834
It was just-- I knew it was...
884
00:38:53,834 --> 00:38:58,200
I knew it was real, you know,
the second time I've seen you.
885
00:38:59,233 --> 00:39:00,834
I really care a lot about you.
886
00:39:00,834 --> 00:39:02,300
God, I love you.
887
00:39:02,367 --> 00:39:05,100
So I'm excited to where
this is gonna be going to.
888
00:39:05,100 --> 00:39:06,500
-[giggles]
-I'm really excited.
889
00:39:08,066 --> 00:39:09,800
We are moving fast,
890
00:39:09,867 --> 00:39:11,900
but we're not
going to slow down.
891
00:39:12,600 --> 00:39:14,266
[laughs]
892
00:39:14,266 --> 00:39:16,100
[instrumental music playing]
893
00:39:20,066 --> 00:39:21,900
[Meri] I am in a
really good place.
894
00:39:23,166 --> 00:39:28,000
I feel very peaceful
about our situation.
895
00:39:28,000 --> 00:39:29,467
He doesn't.
896
00:39:29,467 --> 00:39:32,000
Some of the things
that he's saying are
897
00:39:32,934 --> 00:39:34,700
really, really, really mean.
898
00:39:35,367 --> 00:39:39,367
He clearly has
a lot of internal
899
00:39:39,367 --> 00:39:42,834
that he still needs
to work on here.
900
00:39:42,834 --> 00:39:47,600
Where we are now is
I actually like you. [giggles]
901
00:39:48,467 --> 00:39:50,734
[scoffs] Gods be praised.
902
00:39:50,800 --> 00:39:54,467
Well, I didn't for
six years at all.
903
00:39:54,467 --> 00:39:56,100
I was trying to be--
904
00:39:56,100 --> 00:39:57,734
I think it was more than that.
905
00:39:57,734 --> 00:39:58,934
Be honest with yourself.
906
00:39:58,934 --> 00:40:01,333
No, I was just--
I don't even know.
907
00:40:01,333 --> 00:40:02,800
But it's like move,
908
00:40:02,867 --> 00:40:03,800
move from that point
909
00:40:03,800 --> 00:40:07,233
to get to the right place.
I have no idea.
910
00:40:07,233 --> 00:40:09,967
I'm not gonna go
hang out at Christmas.
911
00:40:11,467 --> 00:40:14,300
I'm not your wife anymore.
912
00:40:14,367 --> 00:40:17,333
I do have wife who says
that Meri is our family,
913
00:40:17,333 --> 00:40:20,233
and you need to have her
come over for Christmas.
914
00:40:25,867 --> 00:40:28,400
I normally
just disregard her opinion.
915
00:40:29,166 --> 00:40:31,000
No, you don't. [laughs]
916
00:40:31,000 --> 00:40:32,900
Oh yes, I do.
917
00:40:32,967 --> 00:40:34,333
[laughs]
918
00:40:34,333 --> 00:40:36,634
Really? You don't know me
If you think that
919
00:40:36,700 --> 00:40:38,867
I'm not a man of my own mind.
920
00:40:38,867 --> 00:40:40,567
I know you're a man
of your own mind.
921
00:40:40,567 --> 00:40:42,100
I also know you take
922
00:40:42,100 --> 00:40:44,266
into consideration
people's opinions.
923
00:40:45,000 --> 00:40:47,233
Oh, I don't know
how we define ourselves
924
00:40:47,233 --> 00:40:48,634
with each other from here.
925
00:40:49,367 --> 00:40:51,133
We're exes.
926
00:40:51,133 --> 00:40:52,567
Let's be real.
927
00:40:52,567 --> 00:40:54,266
You don't need to worry
about me.
928
00:40:57,834 --> 00:40:59,300
[Kody] Okay.
929
00:40:59,367 --> 00:41:01,467
I just wish you knew
how amazing
930
00:41:01,467 --> 00:41:03,000
of a person I really am.
931
00:41:06,467 --> 00:41:09,634
I don't want any more enemies,
and I don't want another loss.
932
00:41:10,400 --> 00:41:11,934
I mean,
933
00:41:11,934 --> 00:41:12,934
bon voyage.
934
00:41:12,934 --> 00:41:15,000
I just--
Happy life, happy journey.
935
00:41:15,066 --> 00:41:17,834
I don't know what to say
besides that, Meri.
936
00:41:17,834 --> 00:41:20,467
I just hope that in the future
Meri will call me
937
00:41:20,467 --> 00:41:22,800
when she's got
something fun to share.
938
00:41:22,867 --> 00:41:23,734
I am embarrassed
939
00:41:23,734 --> 00:41:29,900
that my other divorces
have created...
940
00:41:33,000 --> 00:41:36,333
contempt
and contemptuous enemies.
941
00:41:36,333 --> 00:41:38,133
Yeah, I'm sad about that.
942
00:41:39,600 --> 00:41:40,834
We'll see.
943
00:41:40,834 --> 00:41:42,867
I just do not know
what the future holds here.
944
00:41:45,266 --> 00:41:47,734
[Kody reading]
945
00:41:47,734 --> 00:41:49,734
So when we married
in our church,
946
00:41:49,800 --> 00:41:50,567
it's not a big deal.
947
00:41:50,567 --> 00:41:52,567
Like I didn't even
have a dress.
948
00:41:52,567 --> 00:41:55,033
[Robyn] My wedding day
949
00:41:55,033 --> 00:41:57,567
and my reception
was not about me.
950
00:41:57,567 --> 00:41:59,767
[man] And... stop. Perfect!
951
00:41:59,767 --> 00:42:01,266
He said what he wanted to do
952
00:42:01,266 --> 00:42:03,333
-and he'd done it.
-Well, he's so amazing.
[laughs]
953
00:42:03,333 --> 00:42:05,300
We're gonna grow up now
954
00:42:05,367 --> 00:42:07,300
and put on a smiley face.
955
00:42:07,367 --> 00:42:08,033
Okay. Well, great.
956
00:42:08,033 --> 00:42:10,000
I hear you guys are engaged?
957
00:42:10,000 --> 00:42:11,333
Not engaged yet.
958
00:42:11,333 --> 00:42:13,367
Argh! It's the end of January.
959
00:42:13,367 --> 00:42:14,967
We met
the beginning of December.
960
00:42:14,967 --> 00:42:17,533
[Ysabel] It is moving
extremely fast,
961
00:42:17,600 --> 00:42:20,467
faster than
I think I would like.
962
00:42:20,467 --> 00:42:22,667
That would be so cool
to have a wedding here.
963
00:42:22,667 --> 00:42:24,133
Done.
964
00:42:24,133 --> 00:42:25,967
[Ysabel] Oh my gosh!
965
00:42:25,967 --> 00:42:27,867
It makes me just
a little bit uncomfortable.