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[narrator] Previously
on Sister Wives.
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So, you told us, originally,
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that you were going to keep
a place here.
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Oh, I'll be up in Parowan.
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We had that discussion
about where our relationship
is at.
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Yeah, I'm not
interested in faking
a relationship.
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No, that's not me saying
I can't work on it.
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Well, don't blame me
for not loving you.
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I was doing my duty.
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Blame yourself
if I don't love you, okay?
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[woman] Are you gonna
make mud pies?
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[Janelle]
I love this property.
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It's like everything
that we had wanted in a piece.
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Maddie, look how big
this property is.
It goes clear back.
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[Robyn]
If Janelle were to move,
it would devastate me.
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I don't know how
to let this all go,
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and I have not let go
of Janelle.
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So, I'm excited to where
this is going to be going to.
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I'm really excited.
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I'm going to move forward
and find happiness and joy
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outside of my club.
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Because it was my club,
and I got kicked out of it.
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[theme music playing]
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[light clinking]
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Meri's decided
to move to Utah,
to Parowan.
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She's just doing
those kind of things
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that you do
when your life changes.
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She's giving a bunch
of her living room furniture
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to her brother-in-law, Nathan,
and her sister, Rebecca.
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Nathan happens to be
my best friend.
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And I'm gonna take
the trailer over, we're gonna
load that up,
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and then, Nathan's gonna
take it to their place.
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Yeah, they definitely are
in the loop of what's going on
with us. [chuckles]
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-Hey!
-Hi!
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-[Kody] It's like... [laughs]
-[indistinct chatter]
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...I helped Christine
move out.
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I helped her load the trailer,
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it was our last fight,
I think.
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More than anything,
those are going with me
this trip.
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-They are.
-Well, I wouldn't--
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-I would wait, and then--
-No, I know you wouldn't.
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-Everything--
-Kody, I know. Thank you.
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I'm going to be
in charge of this.
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This... this whole thing,
this whole divorce thing,
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I don't know
the rules, [scoffs]
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I don't know what it's
supposed to be like.
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I can't tell you,
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other than, well,
I'm gonna help Meri
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do whatever she needs to do.
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I told her to call me anytime.
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[Meri] Have a seat.
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-Would you like
this furniture?
-[Rebecca] I really like...
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-I would.
-Do you love it?
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-Do you want to
take it home with you?
-[Rebecca] I would love it.
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-[Meri] Yes, for sure.
-So, are you like... sure?
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I feel like
this has been such...
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-a part of your house
forever. [chuckling]
-[Meri] No.
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-It's a little weird.
-[Meri] Yeah,
Kody and I got this
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when we first moved to Vegas.
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So, why do you need
to let it go?
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So... [sighs]
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Um, I'm going to be moving out
to the bed and breakfast.
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-You are?
-Yeah.
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So, Kody and I, I mean, I know
that you guys know that,
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obviously,
there's been issues,
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but we have finalized
the separation.
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-[Rebecca] Like, official?
-Done, done, done.
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Like, it's done. Yeah.
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-[exhales]
-[Nathan] How do you mean?
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After 32 years,
I'm a single woman.
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[chuckles]
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When-- How old were you
when you got married?
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Nineteen.
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So, 32 years, so...
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You know,
it is actually really...
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strange [chuckles]
to be single
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after over three decades.
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You know,
the last time I was single
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was when I was 19, you know?
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So, this is
definitely different.
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I'm still trying
to get used to it,
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and get my head
wrapped around it.
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[laughs] Like,
it's kind of weird.
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How are you feeling about it?
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I've had a lot of
varying emotions.
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I cried a lot the week after.
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I went through
the church process,
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and got it, like, terminated.
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Did they handle that well?
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Like, do you feel like
they were fair,
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and, like, listened to you,
or how was the process?
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It was a good process for me.
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Kody might say otherwise.
[laughs]
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-[Rebecca laughing]
-We had already had
the divorce.
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Divorce and divorce,
so, basically,
I'm a double D now.
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[Rebecca] Double D Meri.
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Yeah, I mean,
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it's kind of interesting,
because I did go through that,
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a legal divorce,
you know, years ago,
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for the benefit of Robyn
and her kids.
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Okay, Meri, if you could
just sign right here?
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[softly] Okay.
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[Meri] That was very hard,
emotionally.
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I believe that Kody
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really misunderstands
my emotion.
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He has said that
he thinks it is
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because I lost
some sort of power,
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and part of me is like,
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"Oh, I didn't know
you gave me power." [scoffing]
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It's like, I didn't know
that I had any power
of being the first wife.
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You know? Like, that...
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That was really kind of
weird and insulting,
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because it had nothing
to do with that.
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The legal terminology
is really weird.
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"It is hereby ordered,
adjudged and decreed
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that all parties are granted
a final decree of divorce...
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...between Meri and Kody
are dissolved, set aside,
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and forever held for naught."
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It was really just
kind of a mind game on me.
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At the same time,
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I knew that mine
and Kody's relationship
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was not in a solid place.
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And so, it was a very
scary moment for me, too,
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because I didn't know
what was going to change.
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You know, I knew it was scary
for some of my sister wives,
too, you know?
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I remember, he had
a conversation with Janelle,
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and she was concerned
about things changing.
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And...
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[sighs]
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they did. [scoffs]
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You know?
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So, you're obviously getting
rid of a lot of things.
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What are you going to do
with the stuff that's died
in the 32 years of memory?
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[chuckling] So, Kody was here
the other day,
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and he's like,
"You're not keeping this?
Isn't it sentimental?"
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-Sentimental for a...
-[Rebecca] Sentimental to you.
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-Divorce?
-...broken marriage?
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Is that how you see it?
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It didn't-- Well, it is.
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[Robyn] Mary moving to Parowan
is really painful and hard,
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but, like, my heart
has gone out to her so much,
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as about how long
she's kind of been hanging on.
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Like, I just really want her
to find happiness, too.
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Was it, like,
amiable or awkward?
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Yeah. So, he and I
were on a conversation,
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you know, on a phone call
the other day,
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and we were disagreeing
about something.
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And he was trying to say
this is the point
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where our relationship
started failing,
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and I was like, "No, it was
a lot different for me."
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And he was, like,
very much disagreeing.
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And I said, "That's not
how it was for me,"
and, "Goodbye."
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I'm not going to engage in
when he's getting all riled up
like that.
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-[Rebecca] Yeah.
-It just does me no purpose.
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And it does us no purpose.
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Can you even really
pinpoint a time, though?
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I don't think there is
one defining moment
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-to be honest with you.
-[Rebecca] Agreed.
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-Yeah. Yeah.
-I don't think that you can.
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Kody has said different times
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for his defining moment...
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-[Rebecca] Yeah.
-I mean, let's just talk
about catfishing, right?
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-[Rebecca laughs]
-It's like, "Mm,
but what led up to that?"
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What about comments
that Kody has said
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that... [scoffs] the problem,
the storm that was Meri
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started, you know,
a year or two
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after the marriage started.
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-How's it going?
-Pretty good.
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-How was your day?
-Good.
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You know, my...
my day was really,
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-really quite nice.
-Good.
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[Kody] We were dysfunctional
from the beginning.
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I don't know what happened.
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Meri, yeah, talks about...
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we were great
when we were together.
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If this is great,
then maybe I don't want it.
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It's a little bit confusing
to me
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that Kody
has this narrative now
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that there was never
any good times.
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We have lots of video.
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We have lots of photos.
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There was good
in our relationship.
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There was a lot of it.
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Have you had a chance
to talk with, like, Christine
and Janelle, or...
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No.
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No.
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Yeah, we're not... we're not
sister wives anymore.
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I just don't know.
There's a lot of things
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that I have to wrap
my head around and figure out,
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like what to do with,
you know?
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He doesn't seem like
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the same
happy-go-lucky person...
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-No, he doesn't.
-...that I am
super-familiar with.
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-He's looking sad.
-Well, the person you marry
is not the person you divorce.
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That's true, and also...
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He really doesn't seem like
the happy person
that he used to be.
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[splutters]
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I'm angry.
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You know, it's like...
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It's not that I'm grumpy
or yelling or doing something,
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it's that I have resting
[bleep] face.
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[Janelle] Kody's always been
kind of intense,
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even when he's
just talking seriously,
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you know,
he tends to have this face.
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[exclaims] I call it
his murder face. I hate it.
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I'm like, "You can't use
the murder face on the kids."
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He's like,
"Get in your pajamas!"
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I'm like, "That's too scary.
Take it back a notch."
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Lift the eyebrows.
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"Okay, get in your pajamas."
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[laughs]
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So, it looks like he's here.
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"We're about to pull up,"
but he says he needs
your help.
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It's gonna be awkward.
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I mean, it's gonna be awkward.
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[Kody] Meri and I, we've
been awkward for a long time.
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I don't know if
it'll be awkward forever,
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or if it's even going
to be awkward today.
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Avoid the ice.
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How's it going?
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- [speaking other language]
-[in English] Hey, man,
good to see you.
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Kody?
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[Nathan chuckles]
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-Kody?
-[distant indistinct chatter]
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-[Kody clears throat]
-How's it going for you, bro?
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-Mm, it's going all right.
-[Meri] Yoo-hoo!
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-Yoo-hoo! I know, right?
-[both laughing]
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Kody, this is all ice.
You might want
to back up more.
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I'm coming to look at it.
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[Meri] As I'm getting rid
of things,
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it's actually getting rid
of something in me
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that I feel like
I need to get rid of
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so that I can move on
to whatever I'm moving on to.
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-Hi, Rebecca. How are you?
Nice to see you.
-Hey. Good. How are you?
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-You, too.
-[Kody] I'm good.
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-Hey, Meri, don't fall
and hurt yourself.
-[Meri] Hi.
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-I'm having a go of it.
-[Kody] Good.
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So, um, you know
what we ought to do,
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is just get a shovel
and just move this real quick,
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or I'll drive over it.
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But we should drop the ramp
just right here.
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He and I are divorced now,
and I'm moving away.
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Like, what... I don't know
what it's going to look like.
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I love that you picked Moab.
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I'm from Moab.
I love rock climbing.
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What I like about Moab,
it's that you're going, like,
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200 million years ago
when the dinosaurs roamed.
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That's like...
that's our kind of people.
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-Yeah, we like
adventurous couples.
-[indistinct chatter]
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I've gone down there
and taken a few ladies
with me,
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and they never want
to go back.
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And so, I said, "The one
that will love Moab like I do,
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that's the one I'll marry."
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[upbeat country music playing]
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[Christine] Let's get out.
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How was that drive?
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-[David] It was wonderful.
-[Christine] It was long.
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Today, David and I
are going to Moab.
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We're going to look at
wedding venues!
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It's the end of January.
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We met the beginning
of December,
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but, no, we're looking at
wedding venues today.
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[indistinct chatter]
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It's David, me, his son, Max,
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Ysabel, and Truely.
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-Hey, guys.
-[Christine] Hi!
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Welcome to
the Red Earth venue.
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Thank you.
It's lovely to be here.
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-Hi. Hi. Christine.
-Angela. Good to meet you,
Christine.
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-Nice to meet you.
-David.
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-David. Okay, and we got kids.
-Kids.
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I'm really happy for her.
She's sparkling and glowing.
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And he is
absolutely smitten with her,
and he should be.
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And he's incredible
with Truely,
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and his children
are phenomenal.
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But... it is moving
extremely fast.
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Faster than
I think I would like it.
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Okay. Well, great.
I hear you guys are engaged.
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Not engaged yet.
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-Okay, but close-ish?
-But we've got to get the--
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-We gotta get
the venue down, you know?
-[chuckles] Yeah.
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We're not engaged yet.
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But you've got to get
your, like...
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the wedding venue locked down,
you know?
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He's already locked me down.
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But the wedding venue,
he's really got to get that
locked down.
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-You know, you have--
-We don't know when
to do when stuff.
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-Yes.
-We know that we need
to get the venue,
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so we know when to tell people
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-to mark it
on their calendar, right?
-Yes.
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-No, totally.
That makes sense for sure.
-[Christine] Yeah. Yeah.
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-Well, congratulations,
regardless.
-Thank you.
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-Planning a wedding
is exciting.
-Yes.
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Okay, so Christine came out,
and she was telling us
about David.
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It seems kind of soon,
but It's just one of
those things, I guess.
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"If you know, you know, "
they say.
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Hey, we've been dating
for a good...
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like, six weeks
to two months already.
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Oh, yeah, we're on top of it.
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We are not
taking it slow. I'm 50.
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I mean, I'm like, you must be
somewhat adventurous
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-if you're kind of
going for Moab, then--
-I... I'm from Moab.
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I love rock climbing.
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Generally, the people
that are drawn here,
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are the adventurous types.
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[David]
What I like about Moab,
besides the Red Cliffs,
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it's that you're going, like,
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200 million years ago
when the dinosaurs roamed.
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[Angela] So, yeah,
we'll go on in,
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we can come check out
the space...
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[David] And I wanted
to share it with somebody.
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Um, in fact,
I've gone down there
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and taken a few ladies
with me,
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and they never want
to go back.
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And so I said, "The one
that will love Moab like I do,
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that's the one I'll marry."
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[Christine] Ah, nice.
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-[grunts] Oh, my God, again?
-I'm sorry, Mom.
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-I didn't mean to push you.
-Oh, my gosh!
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-[Truely] I didn't mean
to push you again.
-She keeps coming in between--
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-I didn't mean to push you.
-You know, Truely,
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we're gonna be together,
I don't know what to tell you.
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I don't know if Kody knows
anything about David and I.
I have no idea.
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No, he stopped telling me
about things
that were happening
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in his life a long time ago.
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You know, I don't update him
on anything.
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So, the whole thing
is not to decorate.
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-You let everything decorate.
-Oh, you can
absolutely decorate.
331
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But we wanted this space to be
kind of a neutral palette.
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-[Christine] Yes.
-These are all,
like, clay tiles,
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handmade clay tiles,
each individually placed
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kind of to reflect the...
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You know, they have,
like, a desert look,
but they're neutral,
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so you can bring in
colorful florals,
you can be vibrant,
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you can be...
you can be very neutral.
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We just kind of wanted it
to be an open canvas.
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[Kody] In our religion,
marriages are supposed
to be eternal. [scoffs] Okay?
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Why do you have people
who don't know each other
get married
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if you think
you're stuck forever?
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Not just for life,
but for eternity?
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I've heard rumors
about Christine dating,
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I've heard rumors, um, that
he's Christine's soulmate.
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She's very excited
about the relationship.
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I'm offended for her
on the idea that
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she would be stuck with me
for eternity
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when her soulmate
was out there to be found.
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-So, these are just
giant pivot doors.
-[David] Oh, that's cool.
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-Just kind of rotate it
just like that.
-[Christine] Whoa!
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[daughters] What?
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[David] My kids,
a few of them had doubts
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because I dated so long,
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they thought I was
just another... number.
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But the way
that you take care of me,
the way you do things,
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I never got treated
like that before.
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So I knew then, it was like,
"What, we're going to wait for
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another month, two months?"
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We have a lot of vacations
to go on.
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[both chuckle]
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[Angela] So, yeah,
essentially, you guys can
open up this whole back wall.
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So, the pivot doors,
the accordion style doors
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and then, that pivot door
right there.
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That's 1,800
square feet inside,
365
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-and then 2,300
square feet outside.
-Oh, my gosh.
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So, it just kind of makes it
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-this nice
indoor-outdoor space.
-Perfect.
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When Kody and I got married,
I was the third wife
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in a plural family.
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So, to me, it was
really inappropriate
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for us to have anything
really, really big.
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Like, our church really taught
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that the first marriage
could have anything
that it wanted.
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But the second,
third couldn't.
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They were, like, hush-hush.
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Isn't that ridiculous?
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In a church that supports
polygamous marriages,
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you would think
that every marriage
deserved recognition.
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And a big, huge party.
It is still a wedding,
you know?
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Anyway, they don't.
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A lot of the pressure
to marry Christine,
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I feel like came from--
I had known her
for a long time.
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And I knew she wanted
to be in my family.
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I really liked her family.
385
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She was... she was...
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mm, polygamy royalty.
387
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The whole
"polygamous royalty" thing,
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that came from Kody.
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I never cared about that.
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How many people
does it, like...
can you put here?
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Yeah, so, venue capacity
is 120.
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-That's what we have
tables and chairs for.
-Okay.
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We don't necessarily cap it.
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Um, like if you did want
to increase, you can.
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We just recommend
opening that back wall.
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-We have a massive situation.
Like, we have a lot of kids...
-Okay.
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-Yes.
-...and a huge family.
398
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We have a lot of people
coming to our wedding.
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We don't know
exactly how many.
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I don't know how big
it's going to get. No idea.
401
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You can even expand
out here, if you want
a larger dining space...
402
00:17:10,467 --> 00:17:12,400
-Sure.
-...and, kind of,
increase it up to,
403
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I don't know,
200 people or whatever.
404
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So, as beautiful
as Red Earth is,
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and Angela's been wonderful,
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it's just...
we just need bigger.
407
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-You don't want to trip again.
-[chuckles] Oh, my gosh.
408
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-[Angela] So good
to meet you guys!
-Good to meet you, too!
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-[Angela] Congratulations.
-Thank you.
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This won't work for us.
We're going to have to
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just keep looking for
another place.
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But we have somewhere else
we're going to be
going to today.
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When Sonny and Cher
got divorced, I was six,
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and it broke my heart,
it freaked me out.
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It's like, divorce,
it saddened me.
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This isn't supposed to be
part of the story
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that I'm writing about myself.
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We crashed the ship...
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and that does...
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make me terribly sad.
421
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[Kody] So have you got
a shovel,
422
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-or is it just your--
-[Christine] Yep.
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[Kody] Oh, wait,
I got shovels.
424
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-You know, I have a shovel.
-I had to... I had to
dig that out.
425
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-Oh, gosh,
it's been a morning.
-[Rebecca] Oh. What's that?
426
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-[laughs]
-Everybody notices.
427
00:18:12,600 --> 00:18:14,100
-Well, it's because...
-Well, it's because
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-it's a new thing.
-...you wore a necklace.
429
00:18:15,300 --> 00:18:16,867
-Yeah, I haven't
seen it before.
-You don't wear necklaces.
430
00:18:16,867 --> 00:18:18,033
-This is a new thing.
-Yeah, it just...
431
00:18:18,033 --> 00:18:19,867
-Well, listen, I...
-I just want to know
what it means.
432
00:18:19,867 --> 00:18:21,667
-I'm curious.
-A person gets a divorce,
what are they going to do?
433
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They're gonna start changing.
434
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It feels like I'm moving
my ex-wife out of her house.
435
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It's not necessarily awkward,
436
00:18:27,467 --> 00:18:29,266
but it's just what it is.
437
00:18:29,266 --> 00:18:30,433
Do I keep turning?
438
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-[Christine] Dude, please.
-[Nathan] I'll shuffle quick.
439
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[Christine]
Holy freaking freak.
440
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-Freak, freak, freak.
-We're okay, dear.
441
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[Christine] A little bit more.
442
00:18:37,467 --> 00:18:38,700
[Christine and Nathan]
And stop.
443
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[Nathan] Perfect.
444
00:18:40,233 --> 00:18:43,000
He said what he wanted to do,
and he's done it.
445
00:18:43,000 --> 00:18:44,467
[Christine] Well,
he's so amazing.
446
00:18:44,467 --> 00:18:46,867
-Damn! I wish
I was married to him.
-[Rebecca chuckles]
447
00:18:46,867 --> 00:18:48,900
I got to thank you
on behalf of my wife.
448
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You've made her
a very happy woman.
449
00:18:50,467 --> 00:18:51,767
[splutters] Ah, it's just...
450
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I'm just glad Rebecca's happy
with the furniture.
451
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She's excited.
452
00:18:55,400 --> 00:18:58,100
-Yeah, there's one woman happy
in my life now.
-[both chuckle]
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[Christine] I'm happy.
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[Kody laughing] Rebecca...
455
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-Hallelujah!
-[Nathan] True! True!
456
00:19:03,700 --> 00:19:06,266
Uh, thanks, Kody,
for all of this,
457
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that I can get new furniture.
458
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He was talking about Robyn.
459
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I... I don't know
what to say. I mean,
460
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I... it was a little
self-deprecating,
461
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but Robyn and I
are having our own struggle.
462
00:19:16,100 --> 00:19:19,667
We're both mourning
this experience
that we're having,
463
00:19:19,667 --> 00:19:21,667
and we're struggling
in different ways,
464
00:19:21,667 --> 00:19:23,500
we're mourning
in different ways.
465
00:19:25,166 --> 00:19:27,567
Hmm, here's an irony.
466
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I'm pretty much sure
I sold that dream to you.
467
00:19:29,967 --> 00:19:32,600
The whole family dream,
the big family dream.
468
00:19:33,200 --> 00:19:34,533
I'm not sure I...
469
00:19:35,667 --> 00:19:38,400
I'm still embracing that dream
in any way.
470
00:19:38,400 --> 00:19:39,967
Well, I am.
471
00:19:39,967 --> 00:19:41,734
[Kody] Robyn doesn't
seem happy.
472
00:19:43,100 --> 00:19:47,634
I don't believe
that's an indicator
about our relationship...
473
00:19:48,467 --> 00:19:49,233
specifically.
474
00:19:49,233 --> 00:19:51,000
I think it's about
a big picture.
475
00:19:51,000 --> 00:19:52,467
Okay.
476
00:19:52,467 --> 00:19:54,667
-Okay.
-All right, what do we
got going on?
477
00:19:54,667 --> 00:19:57,467
-[Rebecca] Will you show him?
-All right, well,
we've got this furniture.
478
00:19:57,467 --> 00:19:59,367
Can I get a drink
of water first, Meri?
479
00:19:59,367 --> 00:20:01,166
-I've been...
-Can you ask, "please"?
480
00:20:01,166 --> 00:20:02,066
-...running that thing...
-[Rebecca laughs]
481
00:20:02,066 --> 00:20:03,667
-...all over.
-[Christine] Just kidding.
482
00:20:03,667 --> 00:20:04,967
Of course.
483
00:20:04,967 --> 00:20:05,734
[Kody laughing]
484
00:20:05,734 --> 00:20:07,800
-What?
-Nothing, it's just funny.
485
00:20:07,800 --> 00:20:09,400
[laughing] Thank you.
486
00:20:09,400 --> 00:20:11,600
-It's funny? You asked.
-[Kody] No, it's just--
487
00:20:11,600 --> 00:20:14,200
-Thank you.
-I deliver.
488
00:20:14,200 --> 00:20:15,767
[Meri chuckling]
489
00:20:15,767 --> 00:20:18,100
[Kody] Meri seems
a little lighter.
490
00:20:18,100 --> 00:20:20,233
You know,
the pressure's off of Meri.
491
00:20:21,600 --> 00:20:22,500
By all indications,
492
00:20:22,500 --> 00:20:26,000
I think Meri might
start to feel better.
493
00:20:26,000 --> 00:20:28,000
I'm glad one woman's happy.
494
00:20:28,000 --> 00:20:30,567
It feels like he's
projecting a little bit
495
00:20:30,567 --> 00:20:32,400
because maybe he feels like
496
00:20:32,400 --> 00:20:34,667
the pressure is
off of him. [chuckles]
497
00:20:34,667 --> 00:20:37,100
Because, let's be real,
498
00:20:37,100 --> 00:20:39,233
Kody doesn't know me.
499
00:20:39,767 --> 00:20:40,867
[Rebekah] We were kind of...
500
00:20:40,867 --> 00:20:43,133
We had a conversation earlier
about how to, like...
501
00:20:44,367 --> 00:20:46,367
split our loyalties.
502
00:20:46,367 --> 00:20:47,667
[Meri] I basically...
I basically...
503
00:20:47,667 --> 00:20:48,700
You don't have to split
504
00:20:48,700 --> 00:20:50,100
-loyalties with me, Meri.
-Mary can [indistinct]
505
00:20:50,100 --> 00:20:51,867
...Nathan can stay
with you. [laughs]
506
00:20:51,867 --> 00:20:53,300
[Kody] Oh, okay.
507
00:20:53,300 --> 00:20:55,667
-I told Nathan--
-Oh, that's actually
a great idea.
508
00:20:55,667 --> 00:20:58,867
I told Nathan,
"You're going to have
to choose."
509
00:20:58,867 --> 00:21:02,166
I chose the blonde
with the long hair.
510
00:21:02,166 --> 00:21:03,467
[Kody] Wow!
511
00:21:03,467 --> 00:21:04,767
Oh, my goodness.
512
00:21:04,767 --> 00:21:06,867
Well, everybody's got a good
sense of humor about it.
513
00:21:06,867 --> 00:21:08,066
It's just final.
514
00:21:08,066 --> 00:21:10,934
It's been what it is
for so many years.
515
00:21:11,567 --> 00:21:14,700
-It's sad.
-Why is it sad to you?
516
00:21:14,700 --> 00:21:16,900
Just the end of an era,
you know, just...
517
00:21:17,467 --> 00:21:18,300
Whether it works or not,
518
00:21:18,300 --> 00:21:22,367
it's still sad
when it doesn't work.
519
00:21:22,367 --> 00:21:25,000
You know, I literally have
good days and bad days.
520
00:21:25,000 --> 00:21:25,767
And for a couple of years,
521
00:21:25,767 --> 00:21:27,300
I think they were
all bad days.
522
00:21:27,300 --> 00:21:28,433
Okay, fine,
523
00:21:29,100 --> 00:21:31,266
we're going to grow up now.
524
00:21:31,266 --> 00:21:33,467
We're going to say,
"Divorce happens.
525
00:21:33,467 --> 00:21:36,000
Yeah, you're
pissed off about it,
526
00:21:36,000 --> 00:21:37,767
but we're going to grow up now
527
00:21:37,767 --> 00:21:40,066
and put on a smiley face."
528
00:21:40,066 --> 00:21:43,867
I think his realization
after I took the steps
529
00:21:43,867 --> 00:21:46,000
for the separation
through the church,
530
00:21:46,000 --> 00:21:49,867
I think that realization
kind of hit him
531
00:21:49,867 --> 00:21:52,467
a little bit different
than maybe he expected.
532
00:21:52,467 --> 00:21:54,533
Different than
I expected it to hit him.
533
00:21:56,000 --> 00:21:58,000
Like, I think
he was just shocked.
534
00:21:58,000 --> 00:21:59,166
Like he was like,
"Wait, like--"
535
00:21:59,166 --> 00:22:00,266
[Rebekah] That you actually
went and did
536
00:22:00,266 --> 00:22:01,266
that part of it? Or...
537
00:22:01,266 --> 00:22:03,000
Yeah, he was like,
"Why did it happen so fast?"
538
00:22:03,000 --> 00:22:04,667
-[chuckles] You know
what I mean?
-[Kody] Mmm... Maybe.
539
00:22:04,667 --> 00:22:07,400
Maybe it's like, you know,
I sort of understand.
540
00:22:07,400 --> 00:22:08,567
I sort of get it.
541
00:22:08,567 --> 00:22:10,900
I was surprised.
542
00:22:10,900 --> 00:22:14,300
[Rebekah] Well, I mean,
from looking in...
543
00:22:14,300 --> 00:22:15,500
And honestly...
544
00:22:15,500 --> 00:22:18,767
Well, I don't know where
you and Janelle stand.
545
00:22:18,767 --> 00:22:20,300
As far as I've heard,
you're separated.
546
00:22:20,300 --> 00:22:21,333
I don't know if there's any...
547
00:22:21,333 --> 00:22:22,967
No, she's just not
interested in a relationship.
548
00:22:22,967 --> 00:22:26,066
She's just, plumb,
not interested
in a relationship.
549
00:22:26,066 --> 00:22:29,400
They were...
It was more like they left.
550
00:22:29,400 --> 00:22:30,800
What do you mean
"in this situation"?
551
00:22:30,800 --> 00:22:32,500
I mean, so you're saying
it's my own darn fault?
552
00:22:32,500 --> 00:22:33,900
I was like, "Well, yeah,
because you're the one
553
00:22:33,900 --> 00:22:36,100
that said you didn't want to
be married to her." [laughs]
554
00:22:36,100 --> 00:22:37,867
-[Kody] I know, but--
-[Rebekah] You know? I mean...
555
00:22:37,867 --> 00:22:39,667
-[Kody] I mean,
there's a reason--
-With this situation, it's--
556
00:22:39,667 --> 00:22:42,000
It's like, you can keep
going down that road,
557
00:22:42,000 --> 00:22:43,567
and nothing's going to change.
558
00:22:43,567 --> 00:22:45,166
And I'm not blaming.
559
00:22:45,166 --> 00:22:46,367
It's just like we...
560
00:22:46,367 --> 00:22:48,700
That's not a road
for us any longer.
561
00:22:49,567 --> 00:22:51,667
And that is sad.
562
00:22:51,667 --> 00:22:55,166
I'm guilty of marrying people
I wasn't in love with.
563
00:22:55,166 --> 00:22:58,000
I just think
that he has amnesia
564
00:22:58,000 --> 00:22:59,600
[chuckles]
when it comes to the past
565
00:22:59,600 --> 00:23:01,400
because he...
566
00:23:01,400 --> 00:23:03,700
You know, you just
can't keep up
567
00:23:03,700 --> 00:23:06,300
that kind of pretense
for 20 years.
568
00:23:06,300 --> 00:23:07,767
I know what happened.
569
00:23:07,767 --> 00:23:09,600
He can say whatever he wants.
570
00:23:09,600 --> 00:23:10,600
It's fine.
571
00:23:10,600 --> 00:23:12,900
Because I just
don't care anymore.
[chuckles]
572
00:23:12,900 --> 00:23:14,767
This is Kody's current theme,
573
00:23:14,767 --> 00:23:16,500
and that is
that he never loved
574
00:23:16,500 --> 00:23:18,266
me or Janelle or Christine.
575
00:23:18,266 --> 00:23:20,500
It's getting to the point
that it's annoying.
576
00:23:20,500 --> 00:23:22,467
Gosh, Kody, just man up
577
00:23:22,467 --> 00:23:25,266
and be honest.
578
00:23:25,266 --> 00:23:28,266
I know that I put everything
that I could into it
579
00:23:28,266 --> 00:23:30,600
and I would still put into it.
580
00:23:30,600 --> 00:23:33,266
But I also know
that it's not something
581
00:23:33,266 --> 00:23:35,000
that is comfortable for him
582
00:23:35,000 --> 00:23:36,467
or right for him
or good for him,
583
00:23:36,467 --> 00:23:40,066
and that's not fair
to either of us.
584
00:23:40,066 --> 00:23:43,166
I don't always know
what to believe.
585
00:23:43,166 --> 00:23:44,667
The eternal marriage.
586
00:23:44,667 --> 00:23:46,567
I think the,
"Don't get divorced.
587
00:23:46,567 --> 00:23:48,000
Jesus said
not to get divorced."
588
00:23:48,000 --> 00:23:50,367
But it's a big concept.
589
00:23:50,367 --> 00:23:52,266
I don't know
what to think about it.
590
00:23:52,266 --> 00:23:54,700
Other than
it offends me to think
591
00:23:54,700 --> 00:23:56,900
that I would be stuck
with those three women.
592
00:23:58,967 --> 00:24:00,100
It literally does.
593
00:24:00,100 --> 00:24:01,767
It's like, it offends me
594
00:24:01,767 --> 00:24:05,100
to think that
God would cause me
595
00:24:05,100 --> 00:24:07,367
or them to suffer.
596
00:24:07,367 --> 00:24:10,667
Let's let's hang on that
and stop making people
597
00:24:10,667 --> 00:24:13,100
stay in these
terrible relationships.
598
00:24:13,100 --> 00:24:16,467
When Sonny and Cher
got divorced, I was six.
599
00:24:16,467 --> 00:24:18,266
Five. I was five.
600
00:24:18,266 --> 00:24:19,367
And it broke my heart.
601
00:24:19,367 --> 00:24:20,467
It freaked me out.
I was, like,
602
00:24:20,467 --> 00:24:22,266
"Divorce is the biggest
evil of..."
603
00:24:22,266 --> 00:24:25,266
You know, it was just
something that saddened me.
604
00:24:25,266 --> 00:24:26,900
At six and seven years old,
605
00:24:26,900 --> 00:24:29,800
I had no awareness
that the idea,
606
00:24:29,800 --> 00:24:31,133
the concept of divorce
607
00:24:31,667 --> 00:24:32,467
was real.
608
00:24:32,467 --> 00:24:34,066
Sonny and Cher
getting a divorce...
609
00:24:34,066 --> 00:24:35,266
Devastating.
610
00:24:35,266 --> 00:24:37,767
Like, "Does that
really happen?"
611
00:24:37,767 --> 00:24:40,000
This isn't supposed
to be part of the story
612
00:24:40,000 --> 00:24:42,300
that I'm writing about myself.
613
00:24:42,300 --> 00:24:43,567
You know what I mean?
614
00:24:43,567 --> 00:24:45,000
You know, everybody's...
Their story...
615
00:24:45,000 --> 00:24:46,734
You're the author
of your story.
616
00:24:47,400 --> 00:24:49,300
My story has taken a turn.
617
00:24:51,567 --> 00:24:52,934
We've ridden the wave.
618
00:24:53,367 --> 00:24:55,600
We've crashed the ship.
619
00:24:55,600 --> 00:24:57,900
We've survived,
we're on the shore,
620
00:24:58,667 --> 00:25:00,233
but we crashed the ship.
621
00:25:02,166 --> 00:25:03,767
That's the realization.
622
00:25:03,767 --> 00:25:06,233
We crashed the ship.
623
00:25:07,400 --> 00:25:08,800
And that does...
624
00:25:10,767 --> 00:25:12,600
make me terribly sad.
625
00:25:15,066 --> 00:25:17,233
[indistinct conversation]
626
00:25:17,667 --> 00:25:18,967
[Ysabel] Oh, my gosh.
627
00:25:18,967 --> 00:25:21,000
It makes me just a little
bit uncomfortable...
628
00:25:21,000 --> 00:25:22,700
Oh, what the heck?
629
00:25:23,066 --> 00:25:24,567
-Trueley!
-Aargh!
630
00:25:24,567 --> 00:25:27,200
They always look away
or harass us when we kiss,
631
00:25:27,200 --> 00:25:28,834
but it's not going to stop us.
632
00:25:45,667 --> 00:25:47,266
No, we're not engaged.
633
00:25:47,266 --> 00:25:49,133
And here we are,
looking at wedding venues.
634
00:25:51,100 --> 00:25:52,200
[David] I love going to Moab.
635
00:25:52,200 --> 00:25:53,867
That's my favorite
place to go.
636
00:25:53,867 --> 00:25:56,166
Because we started
talking about wedding places
637
00:25:56,166 --> 00:25:57,266
and venues.
638
00:25:57,266 --> 00:25:59,467
And so you said,
"Yeah, I'd like to go
check it out."
639
00:25:59,467 --> 00:26:00,500
I'm like, "Yes!"
640
00:26:00,500 --> 00:26:01,867
I don't care where we go.
641
00:26:01,867 --> 00:26:03,700
I just care about my dress.
642
00:26:03,700 --> 00:26:05,367
I'm walking down
the aisle to you.
643
00:26:05,367 --> 00:26:07,867
Well, if that's the case,
so why didn't we go
to Vegas, then?
644
00:26:07,867 --> 00:26:10,233
-I don't want a Vegas wedding.
-[laughs]
645
00:26:10,800 --> 00:26:12,700
Oh, my gosh.
646
00:26:12,700 --> 00:26:13,867
[woman] Hello. Good morning.
647
00:26:13,867 --> 00:26:15,166
-Hi. Good morning.
-Hello, how are you?
648
00:26:15,166 --> 00:26:17,166
-Hi.
-Are you David and Christine?
649
00:26:17,166 --> 00:26:18,800
-[David and Christine]
Yes, we are.
-I'm Shelley.
650
00:26:18,800 --> 00:26:20,166
-Oh, hi! Nice to meet you.
-Nice to meet you.
651
00:26:20,166 --> 00:26:21,100
-Nice to meet you.
-Hi.
652
00:26:21,100 --> 00:26:22,300
-Good to meet you.
-How was your drive in?
653
00:26:22,300 --> 00:26:23,867
-Lovely. It's beautiful.
-Wonderful.
654
00:26:23,867 --> 00:26:26,166
I think you guys are looking
at fall dates, kind of.
655
00:26:26,166 --> 00:26:27,767
-[Christine] We are. Yeah.
-[David] Yeah. Yeah.
656
00:26:27,767 --> 00:26:30,300
All right. So I'm
going to show you some
venue options.
657
00:26:30,300 --> 00:26:32,000
I do know your party
is quite large...
658
00:26:32,000 --> 00:26:33,400
-Yes.
-[Shelley] ...so we'll
have to find
659
00:26:33,400 --> 00:26:35,266
-some different solutions
with that.
-Okay.
660
00:26:35,266 --> 00:26:36,967
But I'll show you
all the areas
661
00:26:36,967 --> 00:26:38,967
-and show you a few rooms.
-[Christine] Wonderful.
662
00:26:38,967 --> 00:26:40,000
And then kind of
go from there.
663
00:26:40,000 --> 00:26:42,500
I think I was more in
on the plan than you were,
664
00:26:42,500 --> 00:26:44,800
because I just said,
"You ready to look at rings?"
665
00:26:44,800 --> 00:26:46,000
And you went, "What?"
666
00:26:46,000 --> 00:26:47,100
It's like, I was
aggressive at first,
667
00:26:47,100 --> 00:26:48,000
but then you were like,
668
00:26:48,000 --> 00:26:49,567
"We need to get rings,
we need to look--
669
00:26:49,567 --> 00:26:51,000
Let's go look
at wedding venues."
670
00:26:51,000 --> 00:26:52,767
And it was like, "Okay. Okay."
671
00:26:52,767 --> 00:26:55,066
Oh, yes!
672
00:26:55,066 --> 00:26:55,967
[David] This is cool.
673
00:26:55,967 --> 00:26:58,400
So this is what we call
the Colorado Room.
674
00:26:58,400 --> 00:27:00,567
[Christine] Okay, so how many
people in this room?
675
00:27:00,567 --> 00:27:02,300
[Shelley] We can do
rectangle tables.
676
00:27:02,300 --> 00:27:03,467
We had a wedding in December
677
00:27:03,467 --> 00:27:05,367
that we fit
190 people in here.
678
00:27:05,367 --> 00:27:07,867
-Okay.
-That was utilizing the stage
679
00:27:07,867 --> 00:27:09,667
as kind of like
your head table.
680
00:27:09,667 --> 00:27:12,767
Okay, so we're thinking
a minimum of 350.
681
00:27:12,767 --> 00:27:13,834
We were-- [chuckles]
682
00:27:13,834 --> 00:27:16,867
My daughter was
just saying yesterday,
they had...
683
00:27:16,867 --> 00:27:19,367
450 invitations were
sent out for her wedding.
684
00:27:19,367 --> 00:27:22,166
And she's like,
"Considering how big
your family is
685
00:27:22,166 --> 00:27:23,133
and David's family,
686
00:27:23,133 --> 00:27:26,467
you're looking at, like,
700 people, probably."
687
00:27:26,467 --> 00:27:27,467
I mean, that's ridiculous.
688
00:27:27,467 --> 00:27:29,000
We don't want...
That's insane.
689
00:27:29,000 --> 00:27:30,567
-[Shelley laughs]
-So we will need--
690
00:27:30,567 --> 00:27:31,467
That's a lot of people.
691
00:27:31,467 --> 00:27:33,000
[Christine] We have
really big families.
692
00:27:33,000 --> 00:27:34,367
I have six kids,
but then I have...
693
00:27:34,367 --> 00:27:36,867
We have 18 kids
all together in my family.
694
00:27:36,867 --> 00:27:39,200
-And then David has...
-I have eight kids.
695
00:27:39,200 --> 00:27:40,367
Their spouses.
696
00:27:40,367 --> 00:27:41,400
-Yes.
-Grandkids.
697
00:27:41,400 --> 00:27:45,266
When you're part of
David's life, you're family.
698
00:27:45,266 --> 00:27:47,166
If you want
to limit it to 300,
699
00:27:47,166 --> 00:27:49,166
you only get to pick
150 people.
700
00:27:49,166 --> 00:27:50,700
[chuckles]
701
00:27:50,700 --> 00:27:52,867
If we did it here
or out there...
702
00:27:52,867 --> 00:27:55,667
Have the wedding,
and have, like, a tent,
703
00:27:55,667 --> 00:27:58,166
can you fit
more people outside?
704
00:27:58,166 --> 00:27:59,166
Definitely, yes.
705
00:27:59,166 --> 00:28:02,200
Christine deserves to have
a nice, big wedding
706
00:28:02,200 --> 00:28:03,467
that she never had,
707
00:28:03,467 --> 00:28:06,166
and that's the thing
that I want to give to her.
708
00:28:06,166 --> 00:28:08,133
Even though it would be
cheaper to go to Vegas.
709
00:28:08,667 --> 00:28:10,100
Just saying.
710
00:28:10,100 --> 00:28:12,266
-Oh, this is cool out here.
-[Christine laughs]
711
00:28:12,266 --> 00:28:13,533
This is beautiful.
712
00:28:13,533 --> 00:28:15,867
[Shelley]
This is where the bride
would come out, typically.
713
00:28:15,867 --> 00:28:19,100
-[Christine] Yeah.
-[Shelley] And do her
grand entrance here.
714
00:28:19,100 --> 00:28:20,000
[Christine chuckles]
715
00:28:20,000 --> 00:28:21,367
[Shelley] So we've got
the wedding deck.
716
00:28:21,367 --> 00:28:22,567
You can't beat this view.
717
00:28:22,567 --> 00:28:24,400
-It's beautiful.
-No, you can't.
718
00:28:26,300 --> 00:28:29,300
[Kody] My wedding day
with Christine was... [sighs]
719
00:28:29,300 --> 00:28:30,767
I'll be honest with you,
I was very sad.
720
00:28:30,767 --> 00:28:32,900
I struggled to
get work off for it.
721
00:28:33,567 --> 00:28:35,200
I had two wives in total.
722
00:28:35,200 --> 00:28:37,867
One of them was pregnant.
723
00:28:37,867 --> 00:28:40,767
And when I arrived,
I had a 1,000-yard stare
724
00:28:40,767 --> 00:28:42,634
with a bride that I...
725
00:28:46,800 --> 00:28:49,834
was marrying in some form
of obligation.
726
00:28:51,467 --> 00:28:52,567
I realize now that
727
00:28:52,567 --> 00:28:55,066
that was not fair
to Christine.
728
00:28:55,066 --> 00:28:57,100
I'm wearing sneakers
to your wedding.
729
00:28:57,100 --> 00:28:58,967
You can wear whatever you want
to our wedding, baby.
730
00:28:58,967 --> 00:29:01,400
It probably would be
advisable in the grass.
731
00:29:01,400 --> 00:29:03,266
If you wear heels,
you'll sink in it.
732
00:29:03,266 --> 00:29:04,967
Yeah. No, I want
you comfortable.
733
00:29:04,967 --> 00:29:07,100
[David] She's gone.
734
00:29:07,100 --> 00:29:08,567
So this is our
wedding deck area.
735
00:29:08,567 --> 00:29:10,467
This is where the chairs
and everything...
736
00:29:10,467 --> 00:29:11,767
You would come out here.
737
00:29:11,767 --> 00:29:13,500
And then, I was thinking,
738
00:29:13,500 --> 00:29:15,567
if you are going to have
that many people,
739
00:29:15,567 --> 00:29:18,000
we would want to utilize
this grass area...
740
00:29:18,000 --> 00:29:19,300
-[Christine] Yes
-[Shelley] ...and possibly...
741
00:29:19,300 --> 00:29:21,100
What we call our
River Deck down below.
742
00:29:21,100 --> 00:29:22,200
So we can go...
743
00:29:22,200 --> 00:29:24,266
I'll take you guys down there
to show you all that.
744
00:29:24,266 --> 00:29:25,800
-We can walk down here?
-If we want to walk
down here--
745
00:29:25,800 --> 00:29:27,367
Yeah. I'll take you guys
to the stage
746
00:29:27,367 --> 00:29:29,266
-and you can check it out.
-So this is where
I would be to walk.
747
00:29:29,266 --> 00:29:32,000
-[Shelley] Yes.
-Oh, what the heck?
748
00:29:32,000 --> 00:29:33,367
-Trueley!
-Aargh!
749
00:29:33,367 --> 00:29:34,200
[all laughing]
750
00:29:34,200 --> 00:29:36,100
[Christine] Ha-ha!
What's up, sucker?
751
00:29:36,100 --> 00:29:39,567
[chuckles]
We've got Ysabel and Max
and Trueley with us.
752
00:29:39,567 --> 00:29:41,066
-Yeah.
-They always look away
753
00:29:41,066 --> 00:29:42,467
or harass us when we kiss.
754
00:29:42,467 --> 00:29:43,967
But it's not going to stop us.
755
00:29:43,967 --> 00:29:46,266
No, Trueley likes
to break us up
756
00:29:46,266 --> 00:29:47,333
-from that.
-She does.
757
00:29:47,333 --> 00:29:48,700
But it just means she wants
to be hugged tighter.
758
00:29:48,700 --> 00:29:50,567
[David] See how big
this place is right here.
759
00:29:50,567 --> 00:29:51,867
Can have a lot
of people out here.
760
00:29:51,867 --> 00:29:53,066
Beautiful. Oh, God, not again.
761
00:29:53,066 --> 00:29:55,700
Yes, we would need to utilize
probably most of this area.
762
00:29:55,700 --> 00:29:56,700
[David chuckles]
763
00:29:56,700 --> 00:29:58,900
Especially if you're to have
almost 700 people.
764
00:29:58,900 --> 00:29:59,867
-[laughs]
-Yeah.
765
00:29:59,867 --> 00:30:01,200
They don't
like it necessarily,
766
00:30:01,200 --> 00:30:02,900
but they don't
not like it either.
767
00:30:02,900 --> 00:30:05,700
I think they like it,
but it's just awkward to them
768
00:30:05,700 --> 00:30:08,467
that they see you
being affectionate...
769
00:30:08,467 --> 00:30:10,467
-Yeah. Have your kids, like...
-...with somebody.
770
00:30:10,467 --> 00:30:12,367
Did Max see be affectionate
with somebody?
771
00:30:12,367 --> 00:30:13,400
Yeah, they did.
772
00:30:13,400 --> 00:30:14,900
We won't go down that road.
773
00:30:14,900 --> 00:30:16,000
[laughs]
774
00:30:16,000 --> 00:30:17,767
We won't go there. [chuckles]
775
00:30:17,767 --> 00:30:19,567
You guys are looking
at a Sunday, right?
776
00:30:19,567 --> 00:30:20,333
Is that when
you're wanting it?
777
00:30:20,333 --> 00:30:22,100
-Sunday, Saturday is fine.
-Okay.
778
00:30:22,100 --> 00:30:23,867
The first available,
this fall,
779
00:30:23,867 --> 00:30:25,133
that I have would be...
780
00:30:25,600 --> 00:30:27,166
would be October 8th.
781
00:30:27,166 --> 00:30:29,400
During that time, in October,
782
00:30:29,400 --> 00:30:31,367
just everything
is green, blooming.
783
00:30:31,367 --> 00:30:33,000
-In October it's green here?
-Yes, yes.
784
00:30:33,000 --> 00:30:34,667
I can show you
some pictures of mine.
785
00:30:34,667 --> 00:30:35,700
-So you can-- [laughs]
-[Christine] Okay.
786
00:30:35,700 --> 00:30:37,300
-So you can see
how green it is?
-That'd be cool.
787
00:30:37,300 --> 00:30:38,967
Well, he saw a wedding
here one time,
788
00:30:38,967 --> 00:30:40,300
and that's where
he thought, like--
789
00:30:40,300 --> 00:30:42,300
Oh, yeah. Like I said,
I seen a wedding here,
790
00:30:42,300 --> 00:30:45,000
and I thought it'd be so cool
to have a wedding here.
791
00:30:45,000 --> 00:30:47,066
Little did I know
that it could be me.
792
00:30:47,066 --> 00:30:48,400
[Shelley laughs]
That it could be you.
793
00:30:48,400 --> 00:30:49,500
[David] Mmm-hmm.
794
00:30:49,800 --> 00:30:51,467
[Ysabel] Oh, my gosh.
795
00:30:51,467 --> 00:30:53,000
I think I'm still
not used to my mom
796
00:30:53,000 --> 00:30:54,700
being so affectionate
with somebody else.
797
00:30:54,700 --> 00:30:55,967
Like, my dad and her...
798
00:30:55,967 --> 00:30:57,567
Not to, like, compare
their relationship.
799
00:30:57,567 --> 00:30:59,800
But to me, this is what
I'm familiar with.
800
00:30:59,800 --> 00:31:01,367
So my dad and her weren't...
801
00:31:01,367 --> 00:31:02,767
They didn't hold hands
in public.
802
00:31:02,767 --> 00:31:04,700
It makes me just a little
bit uncomfortable,
803
00:31:04,700 --> 00:31:06,300
but, like, not in,
like, a bad way.
804
00:31:06,300 --> 00:31:09,900
Yeah, it feels fast,
but I've moved on,
805
00:31:09,900 --> 00:31:11,467
kind of. [chuckles]
806
00:31:11,467 --> 00:31:13,200
I'm really excited
to walk down the aisle.
807
00:31:13,200 --> 00:31:14,467
I've never had
that experience before.
808
00:31:14,467 --> 00:31:16,100
Like, when I got
married before,
809
00:31:16,100 --> 00:31:17,400
it's just
a religious ceremony,
810
00:31:17,400 --> 00:31:19,367
it's all indoors.
811
00:31:19,367 --> 00:31:21,900
Nope, I've never walked
down the aisle. Never.
812
00:31:22,266 --> 00:31:23,166
Never had the walk-down.
813
00:31:23,166 --> 00:31:24,767
So when Maddie got married,
814
00:31:24,767 --> 00:31:28,133
and we were all there
at her wedding...
815
00:31:31,667 --> 00:31:33,800
I was like, "Gosh,
816
00:31:33,800 --> 00:31:36,367
this would have been
great to get, actually,"
817
00:31:36,367 --> 00:31:38,000
I even told Kody, I'm like,
818
00:31:38,000 --> 00:31:40,767
"If we ever
get married again..."
819
00:31:40,767 --> 00:31:42,300
Because I assumed
I would just marry him again.
820
00:31:42,300 --> 00:31:45,066
You know, like
a recommitment, whatever.
821
00:31:45,066 --> 00:31:47,000
"...I really want to
walk down the aisle."
822
00:31:47,467 --> 00:31:50,166
And he's like, "Okay," so...
823
00:31:50,166 --> 00:31:52,900
Anyway, it didn't happen.
It's fine.
824
00:31:52,900 --> 00:31:54,467
This would just be awesome
to have, like,
825
00:31:54,467 --> 00:31:55,567
a walking down
the aisle thing.
826
00:31:55,567 --> 00:31:57,100
So I'm super excited.
827
00:31:57,100 --> 00:31:58,533
Because I've never
done that before.
828
00:31:59,300 --> 00:32:01,767
[Janelle]
So when we married before
in our church,
829
00:32:01,767 --> 00:32:02,767
it's not a big deal,
830
00:32:02,767 --> 00:32:06,000
like, there's not a big
walk down the aisle.
831
00:32:06,000 --> 00:32:07,600
It's a religious ceremony,
and then afterwards,
832
00:32:07,600 --> 00:32:09,266
you have kind of
little bit of a party.
833
00:32:09,266 --> 00:32:11,667
We had a small, very, very
small get-together
834
00:32:11,667 --> 00:32:13,266
at his mother's house.
835
00:32:13,266 --> 00:32:14,800
I didn't even have a dress.
836
00:32:15,867 --> 00:32:17,467
I thought I'd get you a ring.
837
00:32:17,467 --> 00:32:19,767
-Yeah, and you
want to do that?
-[chuckles]
838
00:32:19,767 --> 00:32:22,066
You won't like this at all.
It's a string.
839
00:32:22,066 --> 00:32:23,266
It's a...[gasps]
840
00:32:23,266 --> 00:32:26,567
Kody, at the time that I was
getting to know him and stuff,
841
00:32:26,567 --> 00:32:29,200
he had talked about how
Christine and Janelle
842
00:32:29,200 --> 00:32:31,567
didn't get what they deserved.
843
00:32:31,567 --> 00:32:34,900
And he said,
"Marriage should be
celebrated,
844
00:32:34,900 --> 00:32:37,066
and I've learned my lesson.
845
00:32:37,066 --> 00:32:40,533
And I'm not going
to do that again."
846
00:32:42,567 --> 00:32:45,066
And I did it
for the sake of him
847
00:32:45,066 --> 00:32:46,667
and what he wanted
848
00:32:46,667 --> 00:32:48,200
and what he believed
and thought.
849
00:32:48,200 --> 00:32:51,667
My wedding day
and my reception
850
00:32:51,667 --> 00:32:53,100
was not about me.
851
00:32:53,100 --> 00:32:54,867
It wasn't about Kody and me.
852
00:32:54,867 --> 00:32:57,266
It was about
celebrating a marriage,
853
00:32:57,266 --> 00:32:59,900
and it was about the family,
and I made sure of that.
854
00:33:01,000 --> 00:33:03,600
Trueley, stand up there
under that arch right there.
855
00:33:04,800 --> 00:33:07,133
[David] Pretend you're
doing nothing.
856
00:33:10,266 --> 00:33:11,900
[David chuckles]
857
00:33:11,900 --> 00:33:13,133
[Christine chuckles]
858
00:33:14,200 --> 00:33:15,500
See how cool this is up here.
859
00:33:15,500 --> 00:33:16,867
This is really cool, baby.
860
00:33:16,867 --> 00:33:18,700
Great place to have a wedding.
861
00:33:19,800 --> 00:33:21,100
I'd marry you here.
862
00:33:23,367 --> 00:33:24,567
I'd marry you, too.
863
00:33:24,567 --> 00:33:27,767
[chuckles] Mmm.
864
00:33:27,767 --> 00:33:30,367
You know what?
I've got a lot of vibes
and feelings
865
00:33:30,367 --> 00:33:32,700
and thoughts about
this experience
866
00:33:32,700 --> 00:33:35,200
that tend to make
me feel bitter,
867
00:33:35,200 --> 00:33:38,266
and so it's hard for me
to even talk about
868
00:33:38,266 --> 00:33:39,867
my wedding day with Christine.
869
00:33:39,867 --> 00:33:42,400
[chuckles] God.
I'm going to keep you.
870
00:33:44,667 --> 00:33:47,266
What I remember
about the experience
871
00:33:47,266 --> 00:33:49,967
was that it was
a very sad day.
872
00:33:49,967 --> 00:33:52,400
And when we broke up
at the end,
873
00:33:53,600 --> 00:33:57,667
it really made me
question my life a lot.
874
00:33:57,667 --> 00:33:58,767
[Christine chuckles]
875
00:33:58,767 --> 00:33:59,600
[David] Really, really pretty.
876
00:33:59,600 --> 00:34:01,166
[Christine]
Oh baby, it's beautiful.
877
00:34:01,166 --> 00:34:03,133
-[David] So are you.
-[Christine laughs]
878
00:34:11,467 --> 00:34:12,367
[David] I love you.
879
00:34:12,367 --> 00:34:13,233
[Christine] I love you.
880
00:34:14,100 --> 00:34:15,934
-[David] I love you.
-[Christine sighs]
881
00:34:20,000 --> 00:34:21,467
It's interesting to me
882
00:34:21,467 --> 00:34:22,900
that Meri and I
are safe enough
883
00:34:22,900 --> 00:34:25,467
with each other right now
to joke around.
884
00:34:25,467 --> 00:34:27,100
Yeah, you literally
only have to use
885
00:34:27,100 --> 00:34:29,300
your leg and butt muscles.
886
00:34:29,800 --> 00:34:31,333
[all laughing]
887
00:34:32,400 --> 00:34:34,867
Why is our relationship
now easier
888
00:34:34,867 --> 00:34:37,467
than it was three months ago?
889
00:34:37,467 --> 00:34:39,400
Or six years ago?
890
00:34:51,700 --> 00:34:54,100
[Shelley] This is what we call
our Deluxe King Cabins.
891
00:34:54,100 --> 00:34:55,133
[Christine] Oh!
892
00:34:55,133 --> 00:34:58,600
These have been completely
gutted and remodeled.
893
00:34:58,600 --> 00:34:59,900
[Christine] I don't care
where we get married.
894
00:34:59,900 --> 00:35:01,166
It doesn't matter to me.
895
00:35:01,166 --> 00:35:03,400
But now that I've seen
Red Cliffs Lodge...
896
00:35:03,400 --> 00:35:06,066
Oh, the outside,
walking down the hill,
897
00:35:06,066 --> 00:35:07,266
now it's very important.
898
00:35:07,266 --> 00:35:09,166
Now I'm like,
"Oh, this is what I want now."
899
00:35:09,166 --> 00:35:11,867
But let's go ahead and go in,
and I can show you this room.
900
00:35:11,867 --> 00:35:14,233
Yes, so this is
our Deluxe King Cabin.
901
00:35:14,700 --> 00:35:15,634
One of the biggest reasons
902
00:35:15,634 --> 00:35:17,800
we want to have
our wedding here, though,
903
00:35:17,800 --> 00:35:20,600
not just the view or the hill
or anything like that,
904
00:35:20,600 --> 00:35:21,767
because it's a lodge.
905
00:35:21,767 --> 00:35:23,800
So our guests can stay here.
906
00:35:24,467 --> 00:35:26,066
So this is what
I would recommend
907
00:35:26,066 --> 00:35:27,567
for the bride and groom.
908
00:35:27,567 --> 00:35:28,200
Nice.
909
00:35:28,200 --> 00:35:30,367
-It's cozy.
-It is cozy.
910
00:35:30,367 --> 00:35:32,467
It's warm and cozy in here.
911
00:35:32,467 --> 00:35:34,166
This is my first big wedding.
912
00:35:34,166 --> 00:35:35,867
My kids have had
great weddings.
913
00:35:35,867 --> 00:35:38,100
Oh, my gosh,
they were gorgeous.
914
00:35:38,100 --> 00:35:40,300
Just being around them
was amazing,
915
00:35:40,300 --> 00:35:42,800
and planning them was fun.
916
00:35:45,367 --> 00:35:47,100
[crowd cheering]
917
00:35:48,367 --> 00:35:53,100
Ladies and gentlemen,
Mr. and Mrs. Caleb Brush.
918
00:35:53,100 --> 00:35:55,100
[Christine] It was so great.
So Maddie was first.
919
00:35:55,100 --> 00:35:56,467
It was a beautiful day.
920
00:35:56,467 --> 00:35:59,300
It was bohemian and outdoor,
921
00:35:59,300 --> 00:36:01,066
and lace everywhere,
922
00:36:01,066 --> 00:36:04,166
and it was just ethereal.
923
00:36:04,166 --> 00:36:06,567
It is now my pleasure
to present to you
924
00:36:06,567 --> 00:36:08,767
Mr. and Mrs. Padron.
925
00:36:08,767 --> 00:36:11,133
Yes! We are married.
926
00:36:11,900 --> 00:36:13,700
[Christine] And then
Mykelti's was a party.
927
00:36:13,700 --> 00:36:14,967
Big, huge party.
928
00:36:14,967 --> 00:36:16,133
It was amazing.
929
00:36:19,100 --> 00:36:20,900
And then Aspyn's was magical.
930
00:36:20,900 --> 00:36:22,500
It was very romantic.
931
00:36:23,367 --> 00:36:26,000
So being in those
was when I realized...
932
00:36:26,000 --> 00:36:27,700
"Kind of cool
to have a soulmate.
933
00:36:27,700 --> 00:36:30,367
It'd be even cooler
to have a really big wedding.
934
00:36:30,367 --> 00:36:32,900
But back then,
it wasn't in my mind
935
00:36:32,900 --> 00:36:35,266
that I would leave Kody
to get the wedding.
936
00:36:35,266 --> 00:36:38,100
I was more like,
"Eh, it would have been nice,
937
00:36:38,100 --> 00:36:40,667
but it's just
not going to happen."
938
00:36:40,667 --> 00:36:42,000
But now it's going to happen.
939
00:36:42,667 --> 00:36:44,800
I'm gonna get a big wedding.
940
00:36:50,600 --> 00:36:51,767
[indistinct conversation]
941
00:36:51,767 --> 00:36:54,667
Have a seat fully and deeply
on this couch.
942
00:36:54,667 --> 00:36:55,467
Okay.
943
00:36:57,000 --> 00:36:58,533
-[Meri] Wow.
-Did you see the pump?
944
00:36:59,367 --> 00:37:01,400
Oh! I did have to pump. Okay.
945
00:37:01,400 --> 00:37:02,533
Okay.
946
00:37:03,867 --> 00:37:06,367
I sprang from the couch. Whoa!
947
00:37:06,367 --> 00:37:08,200
-[laughs]
-I sprung!
948
00:37:08,200 --> 00:37:09,567
You did not... [indistinct]
949
00:37:09,567 --> 00:37:11,567
[Meri chuckles]
You guys are so dumb.
950
00:37:11,567 --> 00:37:12,667
It's interesting to me
951
00:37:12,667 --> 00:37:14,200
that Meri and I
are safe enough
952
00:37:14,200 --> 00:37:16,367
with each other right now
to joke around.
953
00:37:16,367 --> 00:37:18,000
There's a burden
that's been lifted
954
00:37:18,000 --> 00:37:20,000
somehow or another,
at least in this moment.
955
00:37:20,000 --> 00:37:21,667
Yeah, you literally
only have to use
956
00:37:21,667 --> 00:37:23,900
your leg and butt muscles.
957
00:37:24,266 --> 00:37:26,033
[all laughing]
958
00:37:27,000 --> 00:37:29,467
Why is our relationship
now easier
959
00:37:29,467 --> 00:37:32,066
than it was three months ago?
960
00:37:32,066 --> 00:37:34,100
Or six years ago?
961
00:37:34,100 --> 00:37:35,767
-Hey, Meri.
-[Meri] Yeah?
962
00:37:35,767 --> 00:37:37,200
[Kody] We want to put
the coffee table in next.
963
00:37:37,200 --> 00:37:38,967
You want to grab
a tape for me?
964
00:37:38,967 --> 00:37:40,367
Yes.
965
00:37:40,367 --> 00:37:42,900
It's weird. I have no idea.
966
00:37:45,567 --> 00:37:46,667
[Christine] It is gorgeous.
967
00:37:46,667 --> 00:37:47,800
We'll go in there
in just a second.
968
00:37:47,800 --> 00:37:48,700
Is that a mini hot tub?
969
00:37:48,700 --> 00:37:49,900
-It is a mini hot tub.
-[Christine] What?
970
00:37:49,900 --> 00:37:51,467
-Yes!
-Yay!
971
00:37:51,467 --> 00:37:53,100
-[David] We're not getting
in it, okay?
-[Christine] What?
972
00:37:53,100 --> 00:37:54,467
-[David] Too cold.
-Yes!
973
00:37:54,467 --> 00:37:56,567
Oh, come on, baby,
this will be perfect.
974
00:37:56,567 --> 00:37:57,900
-[chuckles]
-That's it. We have to
stay in this one.
975
00:37:57,900 --> 00:37:59,367
I know you have your RV
and everything,
976
00:37:59,367 --> 00:38:01,066
but I think this
might be happening.
977
00:38:01,066 --> 00:38:02,967
-Oh, yeah? It's cold.
-Well...
978
00:38:02,967 --> 00:38:04,333
I ain't going
in there right now.
979
00:38:04,333 --> 00:38:06,367
-Well, no, babe.
We're not [indistinct].
-This is not Polar Express.
980
00:38:06,367 --> 00:38:07,767
In plural marriages,
981
00:38:07,767 --> 00:38:09,500
some of the people
try to make them
982
00:38:09,500 --> 00:38:11,000
as traditional as they can.
983
00:38:11,000 --> 00:38:12,600
When Robin and I got married,
984
00:38:12,600 --> 00:38:14,867
she did not want to do
the whole traditional thing.
985
00:38:14,867 --> 00:38:17,600
She wanted, basically,
a private elopement.
986
00:38:17,600 --> 00:38:22,000
And I was like, "No, I'm tired
of hiding plural marriage.
987
00:38:22,000 --> 00:38:23,500
I want a celebration."
988
00:38:23,967 --> 00:38:25,600
[inaudible]
989
00:38:26,500 --> 00:38:27,767
When Kody and Robyn
got married,
990
00:38:27,767 --> 00:38:28,800
oh, it was awesome.
991
00:38:28,800 --> 00:38:29,600
It was a great day.
992
00:38:29,600 --> 00:38:32,200
Robyn was an incredible
plural wife.
993
00:38:32,200 --> 00:38:33,900
Like, she, like, said,
you know,
994
00:38:33,900 --> 00:38:35,467
"I want everybody
to have a special day.
995
00:38:35,467 --> 00:38:37,800
I want it to be a family day,
a family celebration."
996
00:38:37,800 --> 00:38:40,300
I've been to many
plural weddings
997
00:38:40,300 --> 00:38:41,867
where they weren't...
998
00:38:41,867 --> 00:38:42,667
Where they looked
like they were
999
00:38:42,667 --> 00:38:44,667
really difficult
for the other wives.
1000
00:38:44,667 --> 00:38:46,100
Maybe that's why
plural weddings
1001
00:38:46,100 --> 00:38:47,500
are more hush-hush.
1002
00:38:47,500 --> 00:38:51,000
Because the wives really have
a hard day that day.
1003
00:38:51,000 --> 00:38:54,200
We got you a little
welcome-to-the-club gift.
1004
00:38:59,266 --> 00:39:03,166
My main goal
was to make sure that...
1005
00:39:03,166 --> 00:39:05,500
that I was not that
1006
00:39:05,500 --> 00:39:07,567
sister wife
that was insensitive.
1007
00:39:07,567 --> 00:39:09,467
They were involved
in every single piece of it,
1008
00:39:09,467 --> 00:39:12,066
and I wanted them to feel
safe and comfortable.
1009
00:39:12,066 --> 00:39:15,900
And I have had them say
that it was, to my face.
1010
00:39:17,500 --> 00:39:20,800
Yeah, like they're
all moving on. [chuckles]
1011
00:39:20,800 --> 00:39:23,700
[scoffs] I feel like the idiot
that got left behind.
1012
00:39:25,667 --> 00:39:28,300
And then we've got
your king bedroom
1013
00:39:28,300 --> 00:39:30,500
-with a full walk-in closet.
-Oh!
1014
00:39:30,500 --> 00:39:33,166
Yes. Yes.
1015
00:39:33,166 --> 00:39:34,300
I like this.
1016
00:39:34,300 --> 00:39:36,500
-[Christine] This is nice.
-[David] I like this a lot.
1017
00:39:37,500 --> 00:39:40,266
-Just checking the bed.
That's all.
-[chuckles] God.
1018
00:39:40,266 --> 00:39:42,500
[Shelley chuckles]
It's got to be
comfortable, right?
1019
00:39:42,500 --> 00:39:44,500
-That's right.
-It has to be comfortable.
1020
00:39:44,500 --> 00:39:46,767
This is really cool.
This is beautiful.
1021
00:39:46,767 --> 00:39:48,700
You definitely did a good job
1022
00:39:48,700 --> 00:39:50,467
of redoing it,
it's really nice.
1023
00:39:50,467 --> 00:39:52,133
-[Christine] Thanks.
-You're welcome.
1024
00:39:53,367 --> 00:39:54,500
[softly] I really
like it a lot.
1025
00:39:54,500 --> 00:39:55,867
I like it a lot, too.
1026
00:39:55,867 --> 00:39:58,066
-[softly] Yeah.
-[chuckles]
1027
00:39:58,066 --> 00:40:00,667
[Christine] So we'll invite
Janelle to our wedding.
1028
00:40:00,667 --> 00:40:02,467
And then Janelle's kids.
1029
00:40:02,467 --> 00:40:03,800
Leon, for sure.
1030
00:40:04,166 --> 00:40:05,333
Meri's child.
1031
00:40:05,333 --> 00:40:09,367
I am not ready to be around
Meri and Robyn and Kody yet.
1032
00:40:09,367 --> 00:40:10,867
Perfect. Thank you.
1033
00:40:10,867 --> 00:40:12,133
Thank you. I think I...
1034
00:40:12,133 --> 00:40:14,266
After all this, I think
we at least deserve
a hug now, right?
1035
00:40:14,266 --> 00:40:15,400
-Yes!
-[indistinct] a handshake.
1036
00:40:15,400 --> 00:40:16,967
-Okay.
-[Christine laughs]
1037
00:40:16,967 --> 00:40:18,300
I gave that a hug.
1038
00:40:18,300 --> 00:40:19,367
[David] No problem.
1039
00:40:19,367 --> 00:40:20,567
Oh, it was great
meeting you guys.
1040
00:40:20,567 --> 00:40:21,600
Great to meet you, too.
1041
00:40:21,600 --> 00:40:24,000
And I hope that you choose
Red Cliffs for your...
1042
00:40:24,000 --> 00:40:26,567
for your venue
and your beautiful wedding.
1043
00:40:26,567 --> 00:40:27,500
-Yes, we will.
-Thank you.
1044
00:40:27,500 --> 00:40:28,367
Thank you very much.
1045
00:40:28,367 --> 00:40:29,500
-Thank you.
-Thank you.
1046
00:40:29,500 --> 00:40:32,166
For our wedding,
the biggest hope...
1047
00:40:32,166 --> 00:40:34,900
[exhales] to have
everybody there.
1048
00:40:35,867 --> 00:40:39,367
Really having all of our kids
there to support us
1049
00:40:39,367 --> 00:40:40,767
and just being
surrounded by family,
1050
00:40:40,767 --> 00:40:42,133
that's the vision.
1051
00:40:42,800 --> 00:40:44,400
All right, see you.
1052
00:40:44,400 --> 00:40:46,166
-She'll see you
at home, Nathan.
-I don't even know--
1053
00:40:46,166 --> 00:40:47,800
Do we have time
for lunch on the way?
1054
00:40:47,800 --> 00:40:48,700
[Nathan] Absolutely.
1055
00:40:48,700 --> 00:40:49,867
Awesome.
1056
00:40:51,266 --> 00:40:53,467
I've been wearing
my pain on my sleeve
1057
00:40:53,467 --> 00:40:55,266
for two, three years.
1058
00:40:55,266 --> 00:40:58,367
I really am tired of the pain.
1059
00:40:58,367 --> 00:41:00,900
Maybe it's a really good idea
just to lighten up.
1060
00:41:01,266 --> 00:41:02,066
And that's what it is.
1061
00:41:02,066 --> 00:41:03,867
It's like,
when your heart's dark,
1062
00:41:03,867 --> 00:41:05,166
you just got to lighten up.
1063
00:41:05,166 --> 00:41:06,767
And I know this will pass.
1064
00:41:06,767 --> 00:41:07,767
I know it will.
1065
00:41:07,767 --> 00:41:10,166
But I've already gone through,
1066
00:41:10,166 --> 00:41:12,166
like, the destruction
of my family.
1067
00:41:12,166 --> 00:41:13,200
But who cares?
1068
00:41:13,200 --> 00:41:15,266
That's happened.
It's been dark.
1069
00:41:15,266 --> 00:41:17,500
And I will move through this.
1070
00:41:18,266 --> 00:41:20,300
[laughs] And then I fell.
1071
00:41:20,300 --> 00:41:21,266
[David chuckles]
1072
00:41:21,266 --> 00:41:22,667
Okay, pictures.
1073
00:41:22,667 --> 00:41:25,100
One, two, three. Say cheese!
1074
00:41:25,100 --> 00:41:26,700
-Cheese!
-Cheese.
1075
00:41:26,700 --> 00:41:29,467
[Christine] I've never felt
this special before.
1076
00:41:29,467 --> 00:41:31,400
It's incredible to feel loved.
1077
00:41:32,000 --> 00:41:33,967
And to feel special.
1078
00:41:33,967 --> 00:41:37,667
And to plan a beautiful day,
1079
00:41:37,667 --> 00:41:39,400
knowing that you're marrying
the love of your life.
1080
00:41:39,400 --> 00:41:40,467
Oh, gosh.
1081
00:41:40,467 --> 00:41:43,000
I had no idea. It's amazing.
1082
00:41:43,367 --> 00:41:45,500
I wish this for everybody.
1083
00:41:45,500 --> 00:41:47,567
[Kody] Next time,
on Sister Wives.
1084
00:41:47,567 --> 00:41:48,900
So today is my birthday,
1085
00:41:48,900 --> 00:41:52,467
and I get to finally see
my carriage house.
1086
00:41:52,467 --> 00:41:53,867
And we can do my...
1087
00:41:53,867 --> 00:41:55,667
-[man] TRX.
-...pole dancing.
1088
00:41:55,667 --> 00:41:57,867
-I mean, TRX.
-[woman laughs]
1089
00:41:57,867 --> 00:41:59,266
I'm officially a single woman,
1090
00:41:59,266 --> 00:42:03,000
and that's weird
to wrap my head around.
1091
00:42:03,000 --> 00:42:04,567
[Christine] David's going
to come over for dinner.
1092
00:42:04,567 --> 00:42:06,300
Some of my kids
are great with David,
1093
00:42:06,300 --> 00:42:09,000
some of my kids
are like, "Hmm..."
1094
00:42:10,000 --> 00:42:13,166
It does seem really,
really, really fast.
1095
00:42:13,166 --> 00:42:14,900
I always felt like
your life centered
1096
00:42:14,900 --> 00:42:17,133
so much about Robyn's house.
1097
00:42:17,467 --> 00:42:18,433
That's his sacred cow.
1098
00:42:18,433 --> 00:42:21,166
"She's perfect.
Don't dare talk about her."
1099
00:42:21,166 --> 00:42:22,400
I'm like, "Well, dude,
how do you expect
1100
00:42:22,400 --> 00:42:23,867
to be in a plural marriage
with me,
1101
00:42:23,867 --> 00:42:26,266
if you have this person
that you worship?"
1102
00:42:26,266 --> 00:42:28,767
Janelle has a card
that says "victim" on it.
1103
00:42:28,767 --> 00:42:29,900
She likes to play it.