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Previously on
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I gotta get back in the sun.
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I don't wanna get chilled.
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Not with coronavirus
going free.
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Something's brewing.
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-It's the respiratory droplets
that we're scared about.
-Yeah, just hold your breath.
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Coronavirus is literally
rolling through society.
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We'll have to decide
what we really want.
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Do you want to have
a relationship
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with your sister wife?
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Maybe, and this
would be heartbreaking,
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there are some of us
who are like, "Look, I don't
want it anymore."
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Yeah, I'm sure everybody
hates me all the time.
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Uh, I don't know why
Christine is saying this.
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Like, that's, that's scary.
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I was out of turn
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because I was angry
because I felt like
I was giving,
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like I was giving you
what you wanted,
and then you didn't want it,
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and I gave you
what you wanted,
and you didn't want it.
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-That's, that's how
I perceived it.
That's weird.
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-Okay.
-And I apologize.
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Thank you.
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Whatever.
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I'm just acquiescing here.
This is ridiculous.
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So, a few months ago,
there was this emerging virus
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called coronavirus, COVID-19.
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And it got
into the United States
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and became what they're calling pandemic.
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Public health became concerned
about this coronavirus enough
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to start closing
some businesses.
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They've closed
some college campuses.
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Even Aspyn's mall was closed,
where she was working.
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Last week, the five adults,
we were in Utah
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looking at wedding venues
with Audrey and Mariah.
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Now almost everybody is home.
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The family needs to
sort of connect.
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So we're gonna do a call,
basically, where we'll be able
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to see each other
on our screens.
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Hello! Hey, guys.
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Hey, you're sideways.
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-You're sideways.
-You're sideways.
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No, you're sideways.
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You're sideways.
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Can I fix that at all?
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I'm afraid to touch anything
'cause I'm new to this.
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I don't know.
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Okay? So, yeah. No, this is,
like, my first teleconference
on my phone.
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So I don't exactly know
what I'm doing here.
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And apparently, I'm...
I think we'll leave it
like that.
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Unlock your phone.
Maybe try unlocking
your phone.
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No, I did unlock it.
I unlocked it already.
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After the wedding venue tour,
um, I got home
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and then Gwendlyn, Ysabel,
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and Truely and I
went to North Carolina
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to visit Maddie and Caleb
and Axel and Evie K.
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What if I just turn
my phone the other way?
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There. Is that better?
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Am I still sideways?
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I called Maddie first
to make sure
she was good with it,
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but it wasn't, like,
it wasn't as alarming.
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Covid wasn't as alarming
at that point.
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After we got North Carolina,
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that's when Covid became
more of a scare.
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It's supposed to be
spring break.
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Yeah, no.
Craziest spring break ever.
How's Flagstaff?
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Quiet.
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Christine won't be home
physically in Flagstaff
for another few days.
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This stuff is all unfolding
really fast.
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I think we just need
to touch base and see
where everybody's at
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and try to make a game plan
with this really,
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this quickly
changing landscape.
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I am not kidding
when I tell you
I have sleepless nights.
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I wake up several times
in the night
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worrying that I'm not gonna
be able to make it back home.
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You might be stuck, Christine,
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because what I'm hearing
is that it's...
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The big... The big worry
is that it's being
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transported via airplanes
because people are traveling.
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We're concerned about 'em
closing the airports.
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That'd make it really hard
for people to travel.
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Like, Christine to get home
with the kids
from North Carolina.
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What if all of our flights
got cancelled because airlines
stopped flying?
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I didn't know
what was gonna happen.
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No one knows.
No one knows what's happening.
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This whole thing
is stressing me out so bad
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that the kids and I
are self-quarantining
at home right now.
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Oh, wow.
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I've had pneumonia before
and Sol has had...
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Sol had RSV
when he was little,
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and I've talked
to our family doctor
on the phone,
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and she basically said
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those two things right there
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are, like,
high-risk situations.
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RSV is a virus
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that you basically
can suffocate to death.
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Somehow Sol all had got RSV.
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I took him in
to my pediatrician,
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and they, within minutes,
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they almost admitted him
to the hospital,
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but it basically
weakened his lungs.
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You know, I mean, at my house, it doesn't seem like
very much has changed.
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We're still kind of in the spring break mentality.
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So we're just
kicking around home,
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but nothing
seems that different.
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I... We're still kind of
in this mentality of like,
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"Oh, it's a long
spring break."
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Based on
what I'm seeing online
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and all of the research
I've been doing,
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We, we might be here longer
than just a couple of weeks.
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I guess I'm optimistic.
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I don't think it's gonna
be over in two weeks,
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but I'm hoping that, like,
by three or four,
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they have it under control
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'cause we have
this small town.
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We have no exposures yet.
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I'm crossing my fingers
that you're right.
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I just don't know.
We live only two hours away
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from one of the biggest cities in the United States.
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So I'm a little nervous
about it.
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Because everybody else
is being careful,
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I'm gonna be careful.
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I mean, yes, you don't want
to get it yourself.
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That's the truth.
But at the same time,
the big thing,
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the reason why they're having
everybody social distance
and stay at home
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is so that it doesn't
spread to everybody else.
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So it's... The issue is,
is that in the hospitals,
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they don't have the equipment
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to take care of people
who are sick.
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When I come back
to North Carolina,
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are we gonna
need to be quarantined?
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So, as long as we
all stay away
from other people
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and our kids
stay away from other people,
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then we're probably
gonna be fine.
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We just need to keep us
and our children,
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um, unexposed.
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Here's the thing.
We are a big family,
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but we don't see each other
every day.
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Like, if we're just kind of
keeping our distance
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from town and everybody else,
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like, I'm not
too concerned about it.
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If we're all being careful...
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I mean,
we're not going anywhere
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except for the grocery store
that's needed or whatever.
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...couldn't we all
just hang together?
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So that's where I'm at.
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You guys don't think...
You guys think
it's okay and safe
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for us to kinda
spend time together?
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I mean, I guess
that's my thought process.
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I envision us,
like, just hanging out
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with all this spare time,
and, like--
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You think that's safe for us
to be, like, spending time
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with each other
and stuff like that?
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Yeah, 'cause I think
we're all being careful.
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I mean, to me, this seems,
like, a kind of a bonus thing.
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Like, I've been wanting
the family
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to be more close together
and spend more time.
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And now we're gonna have to
almost do it out of necessity.
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Can't go anywhere,
can't do anything,
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can't buy anything,
can't eat out.
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But, you know, we can all
hang out together at home.
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Under the circumstances
I'm, I'm a little nervous.
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I'm cautious.
I feel a little bit
stressed out by it.
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I don't think
this is going away.
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For me right now I have
Garrison and Gabriel
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who are in the prime
of their social life.
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So I'm asking 'em
to be really careful
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about going out and staying
socially distanced.
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And they're starting to feel
a little bit, like,
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"Are you sure
we're not overreacting?"
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'Cause it's really kind of
changed their culture.
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It's, it's hard. It's hard
on these older kids
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who are used to being
out about with their friends.
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And I'm starting
to see little...
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I'm starting to see
little pieces of that
at my house.
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I don't know what to think.
It's kind of surreal.
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So I see that...
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On one hand I feel like,
"Wow, this is fun.
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The kids are home
an extra week.
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We're gonna have so much fun."
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But it's so crazy
'cause of what I see
on the news media
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versus what I see
in my local community
is not...
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They don't match.
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I don't see anybody sick
in Flagstaff, I don't see...
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And so I'm like,
wow, what is going on here?
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Is this, like,
a big city thing?
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Is this, like, a weird thing?
Are they trying
to make me afraid?
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You know, I don't really know
what to think right now
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as far as us being together
as a family.
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I don't want to be isolated
from our family,
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but at the same time,
I don't really know
what to think,
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what is smart to be doing.
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We just...
I just don't know right now.
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But I wanna make sure
that we're, you know,
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sticking together as a family.
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You know, we've had
conversations recently,
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somewhat recently about,
you know,
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making more of an effort
within the family
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to be closer,
to work through issues,
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to, you know,
figure things out with us.
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If we start talking
about social distancing
from each other
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because different parts of us
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may not be social distancing
from everybody else...
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...then it's...
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It's like,
"What are what are we doing?
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I don't even know.
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Like, how can we
work our relationships
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if we can't even see
each other to talk to you?
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If the family
stays away from anybody
that's non-family,
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then we'll be able
to hang out all summer.
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So is that a hard sacrifice
for us?
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It's just a temporary thing.
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I mean, we'll be okay, right?
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I think that it's easy for us
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to just sort of take, uh...
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...steps that are cautious.
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Let's just... Let's just
be careful as a family.
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It won't hurt the kids
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to avoid being around friends
for a, a little while.
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Let's just be careful.
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Hi.
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As a mom, I do not want
Mariah and Audrey
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to be stuck in Chicago
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if it's gonna be hit
really hard.
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So I guess things are
getting kinda crazy
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in, like, some other states
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that are more
densely populated.
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The National Guard
has been called in.
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Wow.
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So, I think, realistically,
I could survive on four,
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but five is gonna be
appropriate, probably.
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Whatever it takes
to get the job done
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without your fingers
pushing through
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-the toilet paper.
-Oh, gosh!
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-I already know
and it's disgusting!
-You fold it in half.
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Oh, gosh. What the heck?
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Kody's log.
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Earth date 03.22.2020.
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The whole country
has sort of been told
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that we need
to start doing, um...
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...social distancing.
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That's not an easy thing
for our family.
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I got a big family.
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I mean, if one of us gets sick
244
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with this Covid thing
going on,
245
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then it's literally
quarantining the family.
246
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The kids are like, "Why can't we see each other?"
247
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Well, because every person
248
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that interacts
with another person
in the family
249
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mathematically increases
250
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the potential exposure
to this virus.
251
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Because I've got family
in three, four different home,
252
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I'm gonna spread this out.
253
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I just barely got back, um,
from North Carolina
254
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and everything's closed.
255
00:11:16,689 --> 00:11:20,862
Flagstaff is dead.
Like, it's dead.
256
00:11:20,896 --> 00:11:22,206
The gyms are closed,
everything's closed.
257
00:11:22,241 --> 00:11:23,724
It's so weird.
258
00:11:25,931 --> 00:11:29,241
I was hoping to have
the family over
for breakfast to discuss,
259
00:11:29,275 --> 00:11:30,413
you know, the next steps
and stuff.
260
00:11:31,413 --> 00:11:33,000
So, why aren't we
261
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having a family gathering
this morning?
262
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And no one's coming.
263
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Yeah, I have a bit
of a cold, too.
264
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And...
265
00:11:59,758 --> 00:12:02,689
So, I woke up
and I just felt achy.
266
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Like, I had some congestion
267
00:12:04,137 --> 00:12:06,689
and I was achy,
and my throat
was a little sore.
268
00:12:06,724 --> 00:12:08,758
And I thought, "Oh, my word."
269
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Like, I don't know.
If I get normal sick now...
270
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If it's, if it's...
If I'm normal sick
271
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or if I have the coronavirus,
I have no idea. Like...
272
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It may not be anything.
273
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Likely, it's not anything.
Hopefully, it's not anything.
274
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You know, we just don't
wanna take any risks.
275
00:12:22,931 --> 00:12:24,689
It appears that coronavirus
276
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is going to change
our lifestyle somewhat.
277
00:12:27,896 --> 00:12:30,206
Um, family's
not getting together.
278
00:12:30,241 --> 00:12:32,172
I don't know
how often we're gonna
get together honestly.
279
00:12:32,206 --> 00:12:33,758
No one really wants corona.
280
00:12:33,793 --> 00:12:35,689
You could have let me
put on make-up first.
281
00:12:35,724 --> 00:12:37,758
-Gosh.
Whoo!
282
00:12:37,793 --> 00:12:38,586
Oops.
283
00:12:41,103 --> 00:12:42,862
So, I just found out today
284
00:12:42,896 --> 00:12:47,344
that Flagstaff now has
a case of coronavirus.
285
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And now I feel...
And, like, I felt like...
286
00:12:51,827 --> 00:12:54,172
...because we were so far away
from everything,
287
00:12:54,206 --> 00:12:57,655
because we're kind of,
you know, in this little town
288
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up on the mountain,
that we were okay,
289
00:12:59,344 --> 00:13:01,620
and now, um...
290
00:13:03,172 --> 00:13:06,000
I don't know.
I feel... I feel scared.
291
00:13:12,896 --> 00:13:15,241
New York has been hit
really hard with this.
292
00:13:15,275 --> 00:13:17,517
Washington state
and California...
293
00:13:17,551 --> 00:13:19,103
They're all being hit
really hard,
294
00:13:19,137 --> 00:13:21,551
and they're saying
that Chicago
295
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is the next big city
to be hit.
296
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Hi.
297
00:13:31,965 --> 00:13:33,137
-Hello.
-Hi.
298
00:13:33,172 --> 00:13:35,551
As a mom, I do not want
Mariah and Audrey
299
00:13:35,586 --> 00:13:37,344
to be stuck in Chicago
300
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if it's gonna be hit
really hard.
301
00:13:39,551 --> 00:13:41,793
So I guess things
are getting kinda crazy
302
00:13:41,827 --> 00:13:43,827
in, like, some other states
303
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that are more
densely populated.
304
00:13:45,931 --> 00:13:47,620
The National Guard
has been called in.
305
00:13:48,137 --> 00:13:49,379
Wow.
306
00:13:49,413 --> 00:13:51,827
I've been hearing that they're
talking about closing borders
307
00:13:51,862 --> 00:13:54,034
between the states
just to help,
308
00:13:54,068 --> 00:13:56,137
like, this whole
social distance thing
309
00:13:56,172 --> 00:13:58,793
so that people are not
traveling all over the place.
310
00:13:58,827 --> 00:14:02,655
Like, when,
when are these border
gonna be shut down?
311
00:14:02,689 --> 00:14:04,103
Like, I don't even know.
312
00:14:04,137 --> 00:14:07,827
So... So I think
we should, like, go now.
313
00:14:07,862 --> 00:14:09,655
-Yeah.
-You guys want to leave?
314
00:14:09,689 --> 00:14:10,931
Yeah.
-Like, now?
315
00:14:10,965 --> 00:14:12,827
Pretty much
my jaw was dropping.
316
00:14:12,862 --> 00:14:14,275
I'll come help you guys.
317
00:14:14,310 --> 00:14:16,931
-I'll come do what I need
to do to help you.
-Thank you.
318
00:14:16,965 --> 00:14:18,827
But, like,
what are you thinking?
319
00:14:18,862 --> 00:14:20,827
I mean, like,
as soon as possible.
320
00:14:20,862 --> 00:14:23,448
They're already
planning on moving to Utah.
321
00:14:23,482 --> 00:14:26,724
Like, let's just get you
out of Chicago
322
00:14:26,758 --> 00:14:28,551
and just come here
323
00:14:28,586 --> 00:14:31,551
and just land and breathe
for a second,
and we'll figure it out.
324
00:14:31,586 --> 00:14:35,586
I mean, I can jump
on the plane tonight
or tomorrow and come out.
325
00:14:35,620 --> 00:14:37,413
Oh, my gosh.
Are you guys ready for that?
326
00:14:38,000 --> 00:14:39,310
-No.
-No, actually.
327
00:14:39,344 --> 00:14:41,379
We literally were just talking
about how I'm, like,
328
00:14:41,413 --> 00:14:42,793
I'm not ready to go like this.
329
00:14:42,827 --> 00:14:44,862
-No.
-Kinda feels...
330
00:14:44,896 --> 00:14:46,413
-It feels weird.
-Makes you feel sick.
331
00:14:46,448 --> 00:14:48,758
This is the first time
through all of this
332
00:14:48,793 --> 00:14:53,310
that I have really felt
a sense of, like, urgency.
333
00:14:53,344 --> 00:14:56,344
My kids are in a place
and I need to get to them,
334
00:14:56,379 --> 00:14:57,724
and I need to help them
get out.
335
00:14:57,758 --> 00:15:00,137
I feel like I'm in a dream.
I am not even kidding.
336
00:15:00,172 --> 00:15:01,965
It is the weirdest emotion
right now.
337
00:15:02,000 --> 00:15:03,896
I can't imagine
what you guys are thinking.
338
00:15:03,931 --> 00:15:06,000
-My heart is soft.
-It feels like, really...
339
00:15:07,724 --> 00:15:09,344
-I don't even know.
-Ominous.
340
00:15:09,379 --> 00:15:11,344
-Yeah, yeah.
Ominous is a great... Yeah.
-Yeah.
341
00:15:11,379 --> 00:15:12,551
That's a great way
to put it.
342
00:15:14,517 --> 00:15:15,896
I've heard
there's a lot of cases
343
00:15:15,931 --> 00:15:19,551
of Covid-19 in Chicago.
344
00:15:19,586 --> 00:15:23,586
Maybe they should just leave,
but it's not my place
to say that to them.
345
00:15:23,620 --> 00:15:25,448
Seriously,
they need to leave.
346
00:15:25,482 --> 00:15:27,586
Oh, gosh.
Before it closes down, right?
347
00:15:27,620 --> 00:15:30,482
I don't even know
if I would be functioning
in this situation.
348
00:15:30,517 --> 00:15:32,172
I'm such a slow,
methodical thinker.
349
00:15:32,206 --> 00:15:34,413
I don't do well
in these situations.
350
00:15:34,448 --> 00:15:35,724
Thank goodness Meri does.
351
00:15:35,758 --> 00:15:38,482
And Mariah's pretty
matter of fact.
I think Audrey is too.
352
00:15:38,517 --> 00:15:39,413
But wow.
353
00:15:39,448 --> 00:15:42,172
Let me talk to Dad
354
00:15:42,206 --> 00:15:44,517
and see if he has
any thoughts on it.
355
00:15:44,551 --> 00:15:47,034
-Thank you. Thank you.
-Talk to you soon.
356
00:15:47,068 --> 00:15:49,310
-This is crazy.
Okay. All right.
-This is nuts.
357
00:15:49,344 --> 00:15:50,655
I love you guys.
I'll talk to you soon.
358
00:15:50,689 --> 00:15:52,103
You, too.
I love you, too.
359
00:15:52,137 --> 00:15:53,413
All right, bye.
360
00:15:54,275 --> 00:15:55,827
I... I'm feeling the stress.
361
00:15:56,896 --> 00:15:59,137
And I'm feeling like
I just need to fix it,
362
00:15:59,172 --> 00:16:00,206
I need to do something.
363
00:16:00,241 --> 00:16:02,620
And, like, when my girls
are in danger...
364
00:16:02,655 --> 00:16:04,137
And this is
how I feel right now.
365
00:16:04,172 --> 00:16:06,965
They're in danger
and I need to get 'em out
366
00:16:16,689 --> 00:16:17,931
Okay, Kody.
367
00:16:17,965 --> 00:16:19,448
Are you doing the thing
that Grandpa Bill did?
368
00:16:19,482 --> 00:16:21,862
No. It's a different one.
-Do you wanna sit down
369
00:16:21,896 --> 00:16:24,000
-and join us?
370
00:16:24,034 --> 00:16:25,724
This is a real conversation.
371
00:16:25,758 --> 00:16:28,206
We have to ration
toilet paper.
372
00:16:28,241 --> 00:16:29,344
Well, no, it's not just that.
373
00:16:29,379 --> 00:16:32,172
I plunged a toilet that looked
like the whole roll
374
00:16:32,206 --> 00:16:34,758
had been used to wipe
somebody's behind.
375
00:16:34,793 --> 00:16:36,862
I'm not blaming anybody
for using,
376
00:16:36,896 --> 00:16:38,206
but when I have
to plunge a toilet
377
00:16:38,241 --> 00:16:41,482
because a half, a half,
half a roll
378
00:16:41,517 --> 00:16:43,034
is in the toilet...
379
00:16:43,068 --> 00:16:45,379
Now, I had to...
I've caught other little kids.
380
00:16:45,413 --> 00:16:48,379
I mean,
it's normal for little kids
to go like this.
381
00:16:48,413 --> 00:16:49,482
This is a bad idea.
382
00:16:49,517 --> 00:16:51,931
Don't do this. This is not
how you wipe your bottom.
383
00:16:52,551 --> 00:16:53,655
Okay? You don't just--
384
00:16:53,689 --> 00:16:55,103
You're wasting
all of that.
385
00:16:55,137 --> 00:16:57,413
-That's a humongous waste.
-Believe me, I'll use it.
386
00:16:57,448 --> 00:16:59,862
Now I realize
that keeps your fingers
387
00:16:59,896 --> 00:17:01,862
from pushing through,
388
00:17:01,896 --> 00:17:04,482
but that's a humongous waste,
all right?
389
00:17:04,517 --> 00:17:07,586
'Cause you get one good wipe,
and that's all.
390
00:17:07,620 --> 00:17:09,655
Yeah, I've been to the store
a couple of times,
391
00:17:09,689 --> 00:17:12,000
and the toilet paper
392
00:17:12,034 --> 00:17:14,655
and paper towel aisles
are empty.
393
00:17:15,413 --> 00:17:16,827
Empty.
394
00:17:16,862 --> 00:17:20,586
Now one, one square
is way too little, okay?
395
00:17:20,620 --> 00:17:22,137
That's, that's the miserly,
396
00:17:22,172 --> 00:17:23,413
and we're not
gonna be miserly.
397
00:17:23,448 --> 00:17:24,758
That's just disgusting.
398
00:17:24,793 --> 00:17:26,896
I don't know
what their toilet paper
situation is.
399
00:17:26,931 --> 00:17:28,551
I think... Goodness,
am I one of those people
400
00:17:28,586 --> 00:17:30,931
who has, like, a big shipment
delivered every three months
401
00:17:30,965 --> 00:17:33,172
because I hate going
to the grocery store?
402
00:17:33,206 --> 00:17:35,965
So I'm good because
I'm a toilet paper hog.
403
00:17:36,000 --> 00:17:38,310
I am.
I use lots of toilet paper.
404
00:17:38,344 --> 00:17:41,034
So I would be
a very guilty party
in this conversation.
405
00:17:41,068 --> 00:17:43,241
So one,
one piece is too little.
406
00:17:43,275 --> 00:17:47,413
So I think, realistically,
I can survive on four.
407
00:17:47,448 --> 00:17:51,000
But five is gonna be
appropriate, probably.
408
00:17:51,034 --> 00:17:54,517
And you fold it
and then you fold it.
409
00:17:54,551 --> 00:17:57,689
I'm actually really, um,
a huge culprit
410
00:17:57,724 --> 00:17:59,793
when it comes to using
too much toilet paper.
411
00:17:59,827 --> 00:18:02,310
And then once you've done
one swipe...
412
00:18:02,344 --> 00:18:03,689
I'm sorry this is disgusting,
413
00:18:03,724 --> 00:18:05,931
but this is what
you have to talk about
with your kids.
414
00:18:05,965 --> 00:18:07,413
Later on we'll have
a birds and the bees
415
00:18:07,448 --> 00:18:09,000
so Truely knows
how babies are made.
416
00:18:10,379 --> 00:18:12,586
-I already know
and it's disgusting!
-You fold it in half...
417
00:18:12,620 --> 00:18:15,275
You know, bathroom
experiences are private.
418
00:18:15,310 --> 00:18:16,551
They're embarrassing.
419
00:18:16,586 --> 00:18:17,793
And here we are
talking about it.
420
00:18:17,827 --> 00:18:18,758
It's awesome.
421
00:18:18,793 --> 00:18:20,931
If you're really good
and skilled,
422
00:18:20,965 --> 00:18:22,827
you might be able to get
three wipes
423
00:18:22,862 --> 00:18:24,862
out of this
by folding it in half...
424
00:18:24,896 --> 00:18:28,000
Whatever it takes
to get the job done
without your fingers
425
00:18:28,034 --> 00:18:30,068
-pushing through
the toilet paper.
-Oh, gosh!
426
00:18:31,000 --> 00:18:33,517
What about...
About when you have...
427
00:18:33,551 --> 00:18:36,103
When you, you...
When you just...
428
00:18:36,137 --> 00:18:37,310
When it's messy?
429
00:18:37,344 --> 00:18:38,586
When you poop?
-Yeah.
430
00:18:38,620 --> 00:18:40,758
Well, just--
-And you need
a lot of toilet paper.
431
00:18:40,793 --> 00:18:42,034
All right. Once again--
432
00:18:42,068 --> 00:18:43,517
No, wait.
I have an answer. No.
433
00:18:43,551 --> 00:18:45,620
You put a little bit of lotion
on your toilet paper.
434
00:18:46,931 --> 00:18:48,931
You put a little bit of lotion
on your toilet paper
435
00:18:48,965 --> 00:18:50,931
and it'll pick things up
a lot easier.
436
00:18:50,965 --> 00:18:52,517
-God, why are we--
-No, that's Brazil.
437
00:18:52,551 --> 00:18:53,758
That is from Brazil.
438
00:18:53,793 --> 00:18:55,482
Take this seriously, ladies.
439
00:18:55,517 --> 00:18:57,241
I just plunged a toilet.
440
00:18:57,275 --> 00:19:00,655
And when I'm not here,
you have to plunge it, lady.
441
00:19:00,689 --> 00:19:02,034
You have to plunge it
when I'm not here.
442
00:19:02,068 --> 00:19:04,103
-Dude, I plunge the toilets
when you're not here.
-No, no.
443
00:19:04,137 --> 00:19:06,965
-You realize that?
-Every house that I'm at,
I plunge the toilet.
444
00:19:07,000 --> 00:19:08,413
And I have
to plunge them often.
445
00:19:08,448 --> 00:19:09,965
Dad, thank you
for this lesson.
446
00:19:10,000 --> 00:19:12,241
-I will remember it
for the rest of my life.
Grandpa Bill!
447
00:19:12,275 --> 00:19:13,586
-Grandpa Bill!
Do you remember that?
448
00:19:13,620 --> 00:19:15,103
Yeah, Grandpa Bill lesson.
449
00:19:15,137 --> 00:19:17,137
And, Dad, I already
know how babies are made.
-All right, stop.
450
00:19:17,172 --> 00:19:18,896
-The Grandpa Bill lesson...
-It was traumatizing.
451
00:19:18,931 --> 00:19:20,689
Grandpa Bill is Meri's dad.
452
00:19:20,724 --> 00:19:22,758
The Grandpa Bill lesson...
Just listen.
453
00:19:24,517 --> 00:19:25,758
It only takes
one square.
454
00:19:25,793 --> 00:19:26,965
One square.
455
00:19:27,000 --> 00:19:29,655
Yeah, that's, that's...
That's my dad.
456
00:19:29,689 --> 00:19:31,000
Grab it in a corner.
457
00:19:31,896 --> 00:19:33,586
No!
No!
458
00:19:33,620 --> 00:19:34,689
-Wipe!
459
00:19:35,965 --> 00:19:37,172
Wipe.
460
00:19:37,206 --> 00:19:39,413
Oh, gosh.
461
00:19:39,448 --> 00:19:43,758
Oh! Ugh! This is kinda
starting to turn
my stomach a little bit.
462
00:19:44,517 --> 00:19:45,448
Wipe.
463
00:19:47,137 --> 00:19:48,965
-Clean out your fingernails.
464
00:19:49,000 --> 00:19:50,000
No!
465
00:19:50,793 --> 00:19:53,413
It is absolutely disgusting!
466
00:19:53,448 --> 00:19:55,896
But this is the humor
of my dad!
467
00:19:55,931 --> 00:19:58,689
It was a joke.
We never did it that way.
468
00:20:00,413 --> 00:20:02,862
No, that's disgusting!
You're not--
469
00:20:02,896 --> 00:20:04,793
That was amazing.
Thank you, Dad.
470
00:20:04,827 --> 00:20:06,448
Take a bow! Take a bow!
471
00:20:06,482 --> 00:20:08,103
Wait.
'Cause that was beautiful!
472
00:20:11,034 --> 00:20:13,793
Yeah.
-This is just the two of them.
I can't in good conscience,
473
00:20:13,827 --> 00:20:15,517
like, leave just
the two of them to do this.
474
00:20:15,551 --> 00:20:16,724
-That's my problem.
-I know but I--
475
00:20:16,758 --> 00:20:18,068
-You--
-But I--
476
00:20:18,103 --> 00:20:20,655
-You getting on a plane
is exposure.
-It's stupid. I know.
477
00:20:20,689 --> 00:20:23,827
Um, this is my daughter,
and I'm gonna go help them.
478
00:20:23,862 --> 00:20:26,793
-This is so hard for me.
-What?
479
00:20:26,827 --> 00:20:30,413
Meri thinks about Meri
and Mariah and Audrey
480
00:20:30,448 --> 00:20:33,758
I'm required
to consider the entire family.
481
00:20:45,310 --> 00:20:50,068
Hey, everybody,
it's still March 23rd.
482
00:20:50,103 --> 00:20:52,310
Meri called me
and said she had emergency.
483
00:20:52,344 --> 00:20:54,517
She... Well, I guess
it's emergency.
484
00:20:54,551 --> 00:20:58,206
She's gotta talk to me
about something going on
485
00:20:58,241 --> 00:20:59,965
and wanted me to come over
and talk to her.
486
00:21:00,000 --> 00:21:02,551
So I'm headed over
to Meri sounds right now.
487
00:21:03,655 --> 00:21:05,862
Yeah, I'm really
stressed out, actually.
488
00:21:05,896 --> 00:21:08,758
I just had this conversation
with the girls.
489
00:21:08,793 --> 00:21:11,586
If they end up
leaving Chicago now
490
00:21:11,620 --> 00:21:13,896
during all this Covid stuff,
491
00:21:13,931 --> 00:21:15,344
it's gonna be it.
492
00:21:15,379 --> 00:21:17,103
They won't be going back.
493
00:21:17,137 --> 00:21:19,931
I need to figure out
how to help them.
494
00:21:19,965 --> 00:21:22,620
Janelle thought she had
an allergy this morning.
495
00:21:22,655 --> 00:21:24,172
So I called her and said,
496
00:21:24,206 --> 00:21:27,793
"Well, why don't we do
a dry run and get a test?
497
00:21:27,827 --> 00:21:29,137
And she's like, you know what?
498
00:21:29,172 --> 00:21:31,758
Their county doesn't have
any money for tests.
499
00:21:31,793 --> 00:21:33,551
You can't run and get a test.
500
00:21:33,586 --> 00:21:35,310
That's gonna be
a struggle, you know?
501
00:21:35,344 --> 00:21:38,206
Hey, runny eyes
and sore throat
and sniffy nose.
502
00:21:38,241 --> 00:21:40,206
That... That's the signs
of Covid.
503
00:21:40,241 --> 00:21:44,551
Wait. That's also everybody
who has seasonal allergies.
504
00:21:44,586 --> 00:21:46,724
So how are we gonna know
without testing?
505
00:21:46,758 --> 00:21:48,655
There's no testing.
506
00:21:48,689 --> 00:21:50,000
I mean, how are we
gonna know?
507
00:21:50,034 --> 00:21:52,586
I think some of the family
is actually worried about
508
00:21:52,620 --> 00:21:54,965
how big our family is,
how much we interact
509
00:21:55,000 --> 00:21:57,310
and, and who takes
510
00:21:57,344 --> 00:21:59,241
this seriously
and who doesn't.
511
00:21:59,275 --> 00:22:01,448
So, I'm the most
dangerous person
in the whole family
512
00:22:01,482 --> 00:22:04,310
when it comes to Covid-19
because I'm going
from house to house.
513
00:22:04,344 --> 00:22:06,482
I could spread it
from house to house.
514
00:22:06,517 --> 00:22:07,965
You pick your side literally.
515
00:22:08,000 --> 00:22:11,620
There's almost a divide, like, "Oh, we need to quarantine
right now"
516
00:22:11,655 --> 00:22:13,103
and others who are going,
"You know what?
517
00:22:13,137 --> 00:22:15,827
Why don't we spread it around
so we can all, you know,
518
00:22:15,862 --> 00:22:18,827
like, check and see
if we're immune to the flu
or if we're gonna get it?"
519
00:22:21,068 --> 00:22:23,965
No, because that's
too much finger pointing.
520
00:22:31,793 --> 00:22:32,724
Hi.
521
00:22:33,965 --> 00:22:34,724
Hi.
522
00:22:34,758 --> 00:22:35,724
How's going?
523
00:22:35,758 --> 00:22:37,551
I just had...
524
00:22:38,965 --> 00:22:41,000
...a phone call.
525
00:22:41,034 --> 00:22:41,862
All right.
526
00:22:41,896 --> 00:22:43,827
I don't know at this point
527
00:22:43,862 --> 00:22:46,586
if I need to just
get on a plane
and fly out tonight.
528
00:22:46,620 --> 00:22:48,241
I'm feeling the anxiety.
529
00:22:48,275 --> 00:22:50,965
I can't imagine what Mariah
and Audrey are feeling.
530
00:22:53,655 --> 00:22:56,724
Listen, I don't wanna
shut Meri down, but in the...
531
00:22:56,758 --> 00:22:57,965
And so I'm being
really careful
532
00:22:58,000 --> 00:22:59,586
'cause Meri's in a bit
of a panic mode.
533
00:22:59,620 --> 00:23:00,931
"I've gotta go
rescue my daughter.
534
00:23:00,965 --> 00:23:02,241
I gotta go
rescue my daughter.
535
00:23:02,275 --> 00:23:03,827
I gotta go rescue
my daughter."
536
00:23:03,862 --> 00:23:07,758
And I'm...
I don't wanna stop her
because she'll fight me.
537
00:23:07,793 --> 00:23:11,103
So I'd rather just sort of
slowly work in
538
00:23:11,137 --> 00:23:13,724
the common sense about...
539
00:23:13,758 --> 00:23:17,137
We don't want a rescuing party
being put at risk
540
00:23:17,172 --> 00:23:18,793
'cause we're increasing
our risk.
541
00:23:21,275 --> 00:23:22,172
Hi.
542
00:23:22,206 --> 00:23:23,000
-Hi.
-Hello.
543
00:23:23,724 --> 00:23:24,689
This is crazy.
544
00:23:24,724 --> 00:23:27,689
How much stuff
have you guys got?
545
00:23:27,724 --> 00:23:30,103
I don't think it's that much,
but Audrey thinks it's a lot.
546
00:23:30,137 --> 00:23:32,724
No, I don't think it's a lot.
I just think it's more
than she thinks we have.
547
00:23:32,758 --> 00:23:34,931
So, we have, like,
a dining room table
and chairs.
548
00:23:34,965 --> 00:23:36,965
Then we have
our king size bed.
549
00:23:37,000 --> 00:23:40,655
For the price
that it'll cost us to come
out there and get you,
550
00:23:40,689 --> 00:23:44,103
you could probably
replace all that furniture.
551
00:23:44,137 --> 00:23:46,724
You want us to just leave
with what we can put
in our car?
552
00:23:46,758 --> 00:23:47,724
Here's the thing.
553
00:23:47,758 --> 00:23:49,620
If I come out there,
it's gonna take me
554
00:23:49,655 --> 00:23:52,862
two or three days
to get there with the trailer.
555
00:23:52,896 --> 00:23:56,862
And you put me at risk
with all the rest of family.
556
00:23:56,896 --> 00:23:59,931
Honestly, it was kinda weird
when we got on the call
with them
557
00:23:59,965 --> 00:24:03,620
and Kody just started
talking to them
like I didn't even exist.
558
00:24:03,655 --> 00:24:05,068
"Meri, you're not going."
559
00:24:05,103 --> 00:24:08,137
He never said that,
but it was just like,
560
00:24:08,172 --> 00:24:11,344
Let's talk about other options
that didn't even include me.
561
00:24:11,379 --> 00:24:14,896
And I'm like, um,
this is my daughter
and I'm gonna go help them.
562
00:24:14,931 --> 00:24:16,551
Yeah.
-This is just the two of them.
563
00:24:16,586 --> 00:24:18,103
I can't, in good conscience,
564
00:24:18,137 --> 00:24:19,758
like, leave just the two
of them to do this.
565
00:24:19,793 --> 00:24:21,241
-That's my problem.
-I know but--
566
00:24:21,275 --> 00:24:23,379
-You getting on a plane
is exposure.
-But I totally get...
567
00:24:23,413 --> 00:24:24,793
It's stupid. I know.
568
00:24:24,827 --> 00:24:28,413
Meri thinks about Meri
and Mariah and Audrey.
569
00:24:28,448 --> 00:24:31,827
I'm required to consider
the entire family.
570
00:24:31,862 --> 00:24:35,137
You guys should pack up
and leave us fast as you can
571
00:24:35,172 --> 00:24:36,862
if you're gonna do this.
572
00:24:36,896 --> 00:24:39,448
Waiting for me or Mom
to get there...
573
00:24:40,206 --> 00:24:42,965
...is, is stalling you out.
574
00:24:43,000 --> 00:24:46,206
I really do. I understand
that there is a concern.
575
00:24:46,241 --> 00:24:50,137
My thinking is
if there's a risk to me.
576
00:24:50,172 --> 00:24:53,206
I don't care
because I'm gonna help
my daughter.
577
00:24:53,241 --> 00:24:54,793
I'll have to calm
Meri down.
578
00:24:54,827 --> 00:24:58,724
Meri's very anxious
that she's not there
rescuing them
579
00:24:58,758 --> 00:25:00,379
'cause that's her purpose
in life.
580
00:25:00,413 --> 00:25:03,068
But she's still...
That instinct to go rescue
581
00:25:03,103 --> 00:25:05,517
is just overwhelming her,
and I'm trying to go,
582
00:25:05,551 --> 00:25:07,724
"Hey, it's okay. It's okay.
583
00:25:08,172 --> 00:25:09,689
They'll be okay."
584
00:25:09,724 --> 00:25:13,379
You guys could have, um,
585
00:25:13,413 --> 00:25:14,931
I guess a rental truck.
586
00:25:14,965 --> 00:25:16,896
-Just get this ten-foot truck.
-They can't. They...
587
00:25:16,931 --> 00:25:18,172
Just the two of them can't.
588
00:25:18,206 --> 00:25:20,172
-We can definitely
move everything out.
-Yeah.
589
00:25:20,206 --> 00:25:23,206
Listen, right now
there is a lot of stress.
590
00:25:23,241 --> 00:25:26,344
It's this urgency for them
591
00:25:26,379 --> 00:25:28,310
to get out of Chicago.
592
00:25:28,344 --> 00:25:30,241
I'm a mom and I want to help.
593
00:25:30,275 --> 00:25:31,344
That's what I do.
594
00:25:31,379 --> 00:25:33,275
This is so hard for me.
595
00:25:34,068 --> 00:25:35,931
What?
596
00:25:35,965 --> 00:25:38,000
-What, them coming here
by themselves?
-Yes.
597
00:25:38,034 --> 00:25:39,965
-No, I know.
-It doesn't make sense
for you to...
598
00:25:40,000 --> 00:25:42,827
It's just the mom in me
that is doing this.
599
00:25:42,862 --> 00:25:44,620
I don't like it
when he makes sense
600
00:25:44,655 --> 00:25:47,068
when I wanna do something.
601
00:25:47,103 --> 00:25:50,793
You guys' combined
age is 46, right?
602
00:25:50,827 --> 00:25:51,862
Forty-seven?
603
00:25:51,896 --> 00:25:54,034
You guys
are almost my age, okay?
604
00:25:54,068 --> 00:25:57,172
We are... All of us combined,
we are almost as old as Dad.
605
00:25:57,206 --> 00:26:00,896
Yeah, I could do this
all by myself, okay?
606
00:26:00,931 --> 00:26:03,448
So you guys
could do it together.
607
00:26:03,482 --> 00:26:05,413
I know they could do this
without me.
608
00:26:06,896 --> 00:26:08,344
I just wanna be there for 'em.
609
00:26:11,034 --> 00:26:13,137
-Okay, that sounds good.
-Gather the information.
610
00:26:13,172 --> 00:26:14,724
Find out, okay?
And then let us know.
611
00:26:14,758 --> 00:26:16,310
-Okay. Sounds good.
-Okay. All right.
612
00:26:16,344 --> 00:26:17,482
-Thanks, guys.
-All right. Okay.
613
00:26:17,517 --> 00:26:18,482
-Love you.
-Love you.
614
00:26:18,517 --> 00:26:20,172
-Love you. Talk to you soon.
-Good to see ya.
615
00:26:20,206 --> 00:26:21,344
-Bye-bye.
-Bye.
616
00:26:22,758 --> 00:26:25,896
I just felt helpless
sitting here
and doing nothing.
617
00:26:28,103 --> 00:26:31,620
Meri, uh, that's just part
of being a grown-up.
618
00:26:31,655 --> 00:26:33,379
You and I did
crazier moves than that
619
00:26:33,413 --> 00:26:34,758
when we were
younger than them.
620
00:26:36,862 --> 00:26:38,379
Okay? They can do this.
621
00:26:42,448 --> 00:26:44,275
Hi, sweetheart.
622
00:26:44,310 --> 00:26:47,275
Honey, I know
that you were
623
00:26:47,310 --> 00:26:48,758
planning on
being here tonight.
624
00:26:48,793 --> 00:26:49,931
I'm just gonna
make the decision.
625
00:26:49,965 --> 00:26:51,758
I want Kody to stay away
from my home
626
00:26:51,793 --> 00:26:53,482
until we can figure out
how bad this is gonna get.
627
00:27:02,034 --> 00:27:04,931
So, I've talked
to Mariah a couple
of times today.
628
00:27:04,965 --> 00:27:07,241
They left three days ago.
629
00:27:07,275 --> 00:27:09,034
They've taken three days
to drive here,
630
00:27:09,068 --> 00:27:11,931
and it was
a little bit nerve-racking,
631
00:27:12,482 --> 00:27:14,827
um, the whole situation.
632
00:27:14,862 --> 00:27:17,379
I ended up not going
to help them move,
633
00:27:17,413 --> 00:27:18,758
which was really hard for me.
634
00:27:18,793 --> 00:27:20,862
I wanna be there and help
and I should
635
00:27:20,896 --> 00:27:22,620
because that's what moms do.
636
00:27:22,655 --> 00:27:27,275
But, it, uh...
In light of the whole reason
637
00:27:27,310 --> 00:27:29,068
that they're leaving Chicago,
638
00:27:29,103 --> 00:27:32,206
which is Covid-19,
639
00:27:32,241 --> 00:27:34,931
it doesn't make any sense.
640
00:27:34,965 --> 00:27:36,241
It's foolish of me.
641
00:27:37,517 --> 00:27:40,172
I think it's just
that mom instinct.
642
00:27:40,206 --> 00:27:42,103
When there is a danger
or a threat,
643
00:27:42,137 --> 00:27:44,689
you want your kid
close to you.
644
00:27:44,724 --> 00:27:46,724
-Hi.
-How's it going?
645
00:27:46,758 --> 00:27:49,034
Good.
How are you guys?
646
00:27:50,655 --> 00:27:52,068
-I don't know.
-Aww.
647
00:27:52,103 --> 00:27:53,517
The reason that I'm not
actually there
648
00:27:53,551 --> 00:27:55,551
when they come home
and helping them unload
649
00:27:55,586 --> 00:27:58,206
and everything is because,
you know, they traveled
from another state.
650
00:27:58,241 --> 00:27:59,827
I need them to actually, like,
651
00:27:59,862 --> 00:28:03,137
semi-quarantine or quarantine
for a while
652
00:28:03,172 --> 00:28:05,241
before I have
any exposure to 'em.
653
00:28:05,275 --> 00:28:07,344
Oh, my goodness!
Oh, my goodness!
654
00:28:07,379 --> 00:28:09,034
-Hi!
Oh, my goodness.
655
00:28:09,068 --> 00:28:12,379
I am glad that Mariah
and Audrey are here.
656
00:28:14,103 --> 00:28:16,689
We're just gonna
quarantine together.
657
00:28:16,724 --> 00:28:19,275
And it means
we're not gonna see
658
00:28:19,310 --> 00:28:21,931
the rest of the family
for a couple of weeks.
659
00:28:21,965 --> 00:28:24,275
-Hi! Hi!
Oh, my goodness.
Are you thirsty?
660
00:28:24,310 --> 00:28:25,896
Are you excited?
661
00:28:25,931 --> 00:28:27,965
Are you so excited to be
in the snow?
662
00:28:28,000 --> 00:28:29,551
Let's go inside and sleep.
663
00:28:29,586 --> 00:28:31,758
Okay.
I think the sleeping
is good for you guys.
664
00:28:42,172 --> 00:28:43,241
Hi, sweetheart.
665
00:28:43,275 --> 00:28:44,655
Hey. Honey, I know
666
00:28:44,689 --> 00:28:48,724
that you were planning
on being here tonight,
667
00:28:48,758 --> 00:28:50,068
but I've really been thinking,
668
00:28:50,103 --> 00:28:53,689
and I'm, I'm, I'm concerned
669
00:28:53,724 --> 00:28:57,448
that this household
at least is a little bit
of a risk point.
670
00:28:57,482 --> 00:28:59,034
I have Garrison.
He's still working.
671
00:28:59,068 --> 00:29:01,965
The construction crews
are all strong.
672
00:29:02,000 --> 00:29:04,448
We shouldn't have you
come for a little bit maybe.
673
00:29:08,689 --> 00:29:10,724
So, I've been kinda
watching the news,
674
00:29:10,758 --> 00:29:12,517
and they're started to talk
about everybody staying home.
675
00:29:12,551 --> 00:29:16,931
But I have Garrison
who works with construction
crews and stuff here in town.
676
00:29:16,965 --> 00:29:20,068
I've got Gabriel,
who is being careful
associating with his friends,
677
00:29:20,103 --> 00:29:22,137
but I can't guarantee
what that looks like yet.
678
00:29:22,172 --> 00:29:24,586
So instead of sitting here
and waiting to be told
679
00:29:24,620 --> 00:29:27,413
or it's having something
horrible happen
that makes a decision,
680
00:29:27,448 --> 00:29:28,482
I'm just gonna
make the decision.
681
00:29:28,517 --> 00:29:30,275
I want Kody to stay away
from my home
682
00:29:30,310 --> 00:29:32,655
until we can figure out
how bad this is gonna get.
683
00:29:32,689 --> 00:29:34,517
But, Kody, I have this
because I have boys
684
00:29:34,551 --> 00:29:36,689
that are working
outside the house,
Garrison.
685
00:29:36,724 --> 00:29:39,068
-And this is nobody's fault.
It's just circumstance.
-Yeah.
686
00:29:39,103 --> 00:29:42,034
And I'm trying to be...
I'm trying to be
687
00:29:42,068 --> 00:29:45,758
really brave and really smart
and really logical.
688
00:29:45,793 --> 00:29:49,827
'Cause
I don't know what that's like
to not to you for that long.
689
00:29:50,931 --> 00:29:53,724
Yes, this is hard for me,
but I'm trying to stay
690
00:29:53,758 --> 00:29:55,793
in that clinical,
logical place.
691
00:29:55,827 --> 00:29:59,344
I present a risk.
My household presents a risk.
692
00:29:59,379 --> 00:30:02,000
You know, sometimes I just
don't quite understand
693
00:30:02,034 --> 00:30:05,344
everything going on
in this family.
694
00:30:05,379 --> 00:30:07,793
I don't know. I don't know
why she's just calling me
695
00:30:07,827 --> 00:30:11,827
and telling me, just like,
"Hey, this is the way
it's gonna be."
696
00:30:11,862 --> 00:30:15,172
No, I would worry too much
that there could be risk.
697
00:30:15,206 --> 00:30:17,413
I mean, you and I
will survive this.
698
00:30:17,448 --> 00:30:20,103
You're gonna owe me
big time, buddy man,
when we're done here.
699
00:30:20,137 --> 00:30:22,344
I wish you could have had
a camera on me.
700
00:30:22,379 --> 00:30:24,827
That's... That's a statement
of pressure.
701
00:30:24,862 --> 00:30:26,965
Like, "You gotta make up
for this somehow."
702
00:30:27,000 --> 00:30:28,793
What?
703
00:30:28,827 --> 00:30:32,379
You're making these choices
and you're telling the kids
704
00:30:32,413 --> 00:30:34,413
to continue with what's normal
in their lives,
705
00:30:34,448 --> 00:30:36,172
and I'm supposed
to pay for that?
706
00:30:36,206 --> 00:30:38,413
I just have to get a dig in,
707
00:30:38,448 --> 00:30:41,517
saying, "Look, I am making
a big sacrifice here, man.
You owe me."
708
00:30:41,551 --> 00:30:44,310
I'm implying he owes me
some sort of tropical vacation
709
00:30:44,344 --> 00:30:47,965
or whatever,
'cause I feel like... Okay,
it's a little bit childish.
710
00:30:48,000 --> 00:30:50,689
But it's like I'm making
such a big sacrifice,
which I'm choosing to do.
711
00:30:50,724 --> 00:30:52,620
But I still... I guess
I sort of... I'm like,
712
00:30:52,655 --> 00:30:54,517
"Give me some
acknowledgement here
713
00:30:54,551 --> 00:30:59,586
that I'm making
this really hard sacrifice
and that you understand it."
714
00:30:59,620 --> 00:31:03,034
I know that the real reason
isn't just Garrison's work.
715
00:31:03,068 --> 00:31:07,827
It's that him and Gabriel
both have a social life
that they're not... That...
716
00:31:07,862 --> 00:31:09,758
I don't even know
if that's the reason.
717
00:31:09,793 --> 00:31:12,620
What I do know is that
they're of the age group
718
00:31:12,655 --> 00:31:15,275
that tends to
not take this seriously,
719
00:31:15,310 --> 00:31:18,000
and they're the age group
that they're saying
isn't affected by it.
720
00:31:24,413 --> 00:31:26,379
No, because I know
everybody's gonna...
No, look.
721
00:31:26,413 --> 00:31:28,137
Robyn's gonna be like,
"No, you have to see the kids"
722
00:31:28,172 --> 00:31:30,206
'cause she's really adamant
about that.
723
00:31:30,241 --> 00:31:33,172
She is definitely resistant
to the opinions
of others right now.
724
00:31:33,206 --> 00:31:35,655
I don't feel like this is
a conversation
that we have with them.
725
00:31:35,689 --> 00:31:38,206
I mean, yes,
after we've decided.
726
00:31:38,241 --> 00:31:41,068
I don't know
if they necessarily
come into play here.
727
00:31:43,000 --> 00:31:47,724
I feel like it would be better
if the whole family
was on the same page
728
00:31:47,758 --> 00:31:49,655
instead of just Janelle
making a decision
729
00:31:49,689 --> 00:31:51,172
and Christine making
a decision
730
00:31:51,206 --> 00:31:54,620
and Meri making a decision
and Robyn making a decision.
731
00:31:54,655 --> 00:31:57,896
I'm feeling kind of powerless
in this whole situation.
732
00:31:57,931 --> 00:31:59,724
And so this is one way
I can protect.
733
00:32:05,172 --> 00:32:08,241
You know, it's just one
of those times when maybe
734
00:32:08,275 --> 00:32:10,896
I wish I just told my wives
what we were gonna do.
735
00:32:11,896 --> 00:32:13,793
But I'm so confused
by this whole thing
736
00:32:13,827 --> 00:32:15,344
that I don't even know
what to do.
737
00:32:16,034 --> 00:32:17,758
I don't want 'em be swayed...
738
00:32:19,103 --> 00:32:21,000
...in their,
in their decisions
739
00:32:21,034 --> 00:32:23,241
because of my emotion.
740
00:32:29,551 --> 00:32:31,000
All right.
741
00:32:35,620 --> 00:32:38,206
All right.
So, you guys, I've had
a conversation with Kody.
742
00:32:38,241 --> 00:32:42,413
Because I have Garrison
and everybody who are still
working outside the home,
743
00:32:42,448 --> 00:32:46,379
I think maybe I better, like,
744
00:32:46,413 --> 00:32:48,448
not have Kody even come.
745
00:32:48,482 --> 00:32:50,206
This is
where I feel like maybe
746
00:32:50,241 --> 00:32:52,689
what's best for the group
is more important.
747
00:32:52,724 --> 00:32:54,896
I don't know.
I guess not everybody
agrees with that.
748
00:32:54,931 --> 00:32:56,551
So I guess this is
what we're choosing.
749
00:32:57,241 --> 00:32:58,586
It's freakin' heartbreaking.
750
00:33:07,034 --> 00:33:08,862
So, Janelle called me
earlier today
751
00:33:08,896 --> 00:33:10,862
basically saying,
"I don't want you to come over
752
00:33:10,896 --> 00:33:13,241
'cause the, you know,
you could get exposure.
753
00:33:13,275 --> 00:33:15,793
We've gotta be careful."
Okay, I get that.
754
00:33:15,827 --> 00:33:18,000
I mean, like, if we're
going to make the steps,
755
00:33:18,034 --> 00:33:21,827
then we all sort of need
to invest in this
756
00:33:21,862 --> 00:33:23,931
so that we're justifying
757
00:33:23,965 --> 00:33:25,827
the sacrifice others
are making
758
00:33:25,862 --> 00:33:28,344
by making those sacrifices
all together
759
00:33:28,379 --> 00:33:31,172
in order to keep ourselves
all well and healthy.
760
00:33:31,206 --> 00:33:33,241
Right now
it's speaker phones, okay?
761
00:33:34,344 --> 00:33:35,448
Yeah. I'm recording.
762
00:33:35,482 --> 00:33:37,551
Okay, it's on speaker.
I'm good.
763
00:33:37,586 --> 00:33:41,241
So gotta figure out
how to accommodate the virus
764
00:33:41,275 --> 00:33:44,965
as well as our family
lifestyle and interaction.
765
00:33:45,000 --> 00:33:48,275
I'm in this place
where I can't think about
how long this might be
766
00:33:48,310 --> 00:33:49,862
'cause it kinda makes me crazy
767
00:33:49,896 --> 00:33:52,482
'cause I'm a little...
I've got cabin fever.
768
00:33:52,517 --> 00:33:54,655
You could always go hiking.
769
00:33:55,862 --> 00:33:58,965
Nobody's...
There's no restrictions
on hiking.
770
00:33:59,000 --> 00:34:00,482
As long as it's not snowing.
771
00:34:00,517 --> 00:34:04,172
-Well, and that, that exercise
and getting--
-I didn't hear any of you.
772
00:34:04,206 --> 00:34:07,551
This conference call
is very hard to actually
get an edge in.
773
00:34:07,586 --> 00:34:08,793
-It's easy.
-Okay.
774
00:34:08,827 --> 00:34:10,275
-About getting out--
-The forest service
is closed--
775
00:34:11,896 --> 00:34:14,344
-Ladies, let's establish--
-The forest service
is closed down at the--
776
00:34:14,379 --> 00:34:15,689
I'm halfway
through a sentence.
777
00:34:15,724 --> 00:34:17,931
I don't even finish it,
and I'm getting cut off.
778
00:34:17,965 --> 00:34:20,724
We're gonna establish
some rules right now
779
00:34:20,758 --> 00:34:24,172
because this conference call
will just drive us all nuts.
780
00:34:24,206 --> 00:34:27,379
We're gonna start
with one person,
781
00:34:27,413 --> 00:34:30,310
and they're gonna
set up their thoughts,
782
00:34:30,344 --> 00:34:33,586
and then they're going to
pass the baton
783
00:34:33,620 --> 00:34:35,586
to the next person, okay?
784
00:34:35,620 --> 00:34:38,000
Finish a damn sentence
before you...
785
00:34:38,034 --> 00:34:39,965
You know, just let somebody
finish the sentence.
786
00:34:40,000 --> 00:34:43,034
Says the guy who interrupts us
most of the time.
787
00:34:43,068 --> 00:34:45,379
So, everybody
will stop talking now.
788
00:34:45,413 --> 00:34:48,137
And I'm going to tell Janelle
789
00:34:48,172 --> 00:34:52,413
to give us her thoughts
from our discussion today.
790
00:34:52,448 --> 00:34:54,931
All right.
So, you guys, I've had
a conversation with Kody.
791
00:34:54,965 --> 00:34:59,137
Because I have Garrison
and everybody who are still
working outside the home,
792
00:34:59,172 --> 00:35:02,448
and you guys have pretty much
naturally self-quarantined
793
00:35:02,482 --> 00:35:03,689
'cause your kids are all home.
794
00:35:03,724 --> 00:35:05,275
They're not in school.
They're not working.
795
00:35:05,310 --> 00:35:08,862
But I pose a risk point
for exposure.
796
00:35:08,896 --> 00:35:12,172
I think maybe I better,
797
00:35:12,206 --> 00:35:14,655
like, not have Kody even come
798
00:35:14,689 --> 00:35:18,551
because if for some reason
we ended up infected,
799
00:35:18,586 --> 00:35:20,689
he would then bring it
to all of you guys.
800
00:35:20,724 --> 00:35:23,482
I was talking to Kody about
it, like, a couple days ago.
801
00:35:23,517 --> 00:35:25,655
and I was just saying,
"Hey, how would you feel
802
00:35:25,689 --> 00:35:27,793
about going to, like,
one house
803
00:35:27,827 --> 00:35:30,517
and staying put there
for a few days?
804
00:35:30,551 --> 00:35:32,413
And then when you're done,
you know, as long as
805
00:35:32,448 --> 00:35:34,275
everyone's well
and everything,
806
00:35:34,310 --> 00:35:37,137
then move on to the next house for a couple of days.
807
00:35:37,172 --> 00:35:38,793
But when you get
to the next house,
808
00:35:38,827 --> 00:35:41,310
just make sure
you shower really well
809
00:35:41,344 --> 00:35:43,586
and, you know,
wash the clothes.
810
00:35:43,620 --> 00:35:45,103
Like, take the clothes off
immediately,
811
00:35:45,137 --> 00:35:47,137
put them
in the washer immediately.
812
00:35:47,172 --> 00:35:50,620
So, my schedule is always
a sensitive subject.
813
00:35:50,655 --> 00:35:52,344
All my wives
have a different opinion
814
00:35:52,379 --> 00:35:54,034
of what my schedule
should be.
815
00:35:54,068 --> 00:35:57,758
But the issue is
is it's a sensitive
subject to me,
816
00:35:57,793 --> 00:35:59,241
and I don't like them
telling me
817
00:35:59,275 --> 00:36:00,862
what my schedule is.
818
00:36:00,896 --> 00:36:03,000
-You have to pass
the baton now.
-Janelle, how about--
819
00:36:03,034 --> 00:36:06,620
No, no. Just wait.
Just... If you're done,
pass the baton.
820
00:36:06,655 --> 00:36:08,103
I'm done. I'd like to know...
821
00:36:08,137 --> 00:36:10,275
Janelle, I'd like to know
your thoughts, and then Kody
and then Robyn.
822
00:36:10,310 --> 00:36:12,586
Can we do it like that?
And then go on to Meri?
823
00:36:12,620 --> 00:36:14,275
Can we do it in that order?
824
00:36:14,310 --> 00:36:16,896
-'Cause I wanna know
how everybody feels.
-No, you gotta pass the baton
825
00:36:16,931 --> 00:36:18,586
-to one person.
-Fine, I'll pass it
to Janelle.
826
00:36:18,620 --> 00:36:20,896
Gosh, you're so cranky.
827
00:36:20,931 --> 00:36:22,793
It's 'cause you guys
are talking about my body.
828
00:36:22,827 --> 00:36:25,413
I feel like I'm being
passed around
like a rag doll now.
829
00:36:25,448 --> 00:36:27,241
Kody, all I did
was offer up a suggestion
830
00:36:27,275 --> 00:36:29,206
-when I was talking
about a couple of days.
-That's okay.
831
00:36:29,241 --> 00:36:32,517
It doesn't mean that think
you're a rag doll or a baton
for goodness' sake.
832
00:36:32,551 --> 00:36:33,862
Who's speaking now?
833
00:36:34,206 --> 00:36:35,103
God.
834
00:36:35,137 --> 00:36:36,551
Holy... I'm just trying to...
835
00:36:39,034 --> 00:36:40,758
It's like he's acting like
we've objectified him.
836
00:36:40,793 --> 00:36:43,310
No, we are a family,
and we're trying
to work this out.
837
00:36:43,344 --> 00:36:45,827
He knew whatever the hell
he wants to do his own body.
838
00:36:45,862 --> 00:36:47,344
This is not
what this is about.
839
00:36:47,379 --> 00:36:50,241
I'm just trying to make...
Whatever. God.
840
00:36:50,275 --> 00:36:52,310
I actually...
Look, I thought about that.
841
00:36:52,344 --> 00:36:55,172
But honestly, what happens
is you don't know
if you've gotten it
842
00:36:55,206 --> 00:36:58,344
into your respiratory system
until two weeks.
843
00:36:58,379 --> 00:36:59,793
And that's why
Mariah and Audrey
844
00:36:59,827 --> 00:37:01,689
are quarantining
the way that they are.
845
00:37:01,724 --> 00:37:04,448
That's why it's so important
that we do stay,
846
00:37:04,482 --> 00:37:08,620
you know, away from anybody
and everybody.
847
00:37:08,655 --> 00:37:12,068
And it kinda sucks
that at this point,
848
00:37:12,103 --> 00:37:14,482
maybe it includes family, too.
849
00:37:19,793 --> 00:37:22,896
It's just such
a kind of crazy shock
850
00:37:22,931 --> 00:37:25,482
to think of Kody
not going to Janelle's house.
851
00:37:25,517 --> 00:37:28,862
You know, it's like,
"No, this is not what you do,
you know."
852
00:37:28,896 --> 00:37:32,000
It's, like, your family.
We're a family.
853
00:37:33,310 --> 00:37:35,103
It's, it's really tough
854
00:37:35,137 --> 00:37:39,275
to even consider
that part of this whole thing
855
00:37:39,310 --> 00:37:41,379
with this stupid disease
856
00:37:41,413 --> 00:37:44,724
is the idea
that we can't be a family.
857
00:37:44,758 --> 00:37:49,137
If we lived in one house
during all of this,
I think it would be easier.
858
00:37:50,448 --> 00:37:52,413
We'd have to come
to an agreement,
859
00:37:52,448 --> 00:37:55,103
and we would have
to work it out together
860
00:37:55,137 --> 00:37:56,758
because we were living
in the same home.
861
00:37:56,793 --> 00:37:58,068
We'd have to.
862
00:38:00,482 --> 00:38:02,965
Sorry, Janelle,
I get what you're saying,
but...
863
00:38:04,551 --> 00:38:08,172
Are you... I'm just worried
about your kids and you
and Kody and everything.
864
00:38:08,206 --> 00:38:09,344
I'm just worried
about you guys.
865
00:38:09,379 --> 00:38:10,689
I don't know
how this will work.
866
00:38:10,724 --> 00:38:14,586
It's completely challenging
our priorities
867
00:38:14,620 --> 00:38:16,137
and what's important to us.
868
00:38:16,172 --> 00:38:19,655
Like, how do we deal with this
the right way?
869
00:38:19,689 --> 00:38:22,413
For now, to me
my gut feels like...
870
00:38:23,724 --> 00:38:25,862
...to err on the side
of extreme caution
871
00:38:25,896 --> 00:38:27,206
makes the most sense.
872
00:38:27,241 --> 00:38:30,517
Like, it just seems like
it would be
the most logical thing.
873
00:38:30,551 --> 00:38:32,689
It's the least amount
of sacrifice.
874
00:38:32,724 --> 00:38:34,551
Okay,
so if I'm gonna sacrifice
875
00:38:34,586 --> 00:38:37,068
being able to see, um,
the kids,
876
00:38:37,103 --> 00:38:41,448
then everybody
has to double down
on this sacrifice
877
00:38:42,689 --> 00:38:44,689
in such a way
that it's like
878
00:38:44,724 --> 00:38:48,275
you don't go to town
and your kids
don't go to town.
879
00:38:48,310 --> 00:38:52,172
I love that idea,
but, psychologically,
I have to get out.
880
00:38:52,206 --> 00:38:54,965
I will be bonkers
if I don't have my...
881
00:38:55,000 --> 00:38:59,517
I go to the grocery store
and they sanitize the carts
when you walk in.
882
00:38:59,551 --> 00:39:03,137
And I mean,
that's my only out,
really, right now.
883
00:39:03,172 --> 00:39:06,655
Because each wife sort of
runs her household
884
00:39:06,689 --> 00:39:08,896
and we're not agreeing
885
00:39:08,931 --> 00:39:11,965
on how we're going to run
each household the same,
886
00:39:12,000 --> 00:39:15,034
we're literally getting
to a place where it feels
like we're every,
887
00:39:15,068 --> 00:39:19,034
every house for themselves,
every mother for themselves.
888
00:39:19,068 --> 00:39:22,689
Honestly, I'm not
out here to control what
everybody else is gonna do.
889
00:39:22,724 --> 00:39:25,310
And I don't think Kody
should put some
sort of moratorium, either.
890
00:39:25,344 --> 00:39:26,931
I think everybody has to make
their own decision.
891
00:39:26,965 --> 00:39:29,896
Janelle's not gonna
sacrifice anything
but time with me.
892
00:39:29,931 --> 00:39:34,379
But she's not gonna
sacrifice her kids
for that time with me.
893
00:39:34,413 --> 00:39:35,827
And it's just one of those
weird things.
894
00:39:35,862 --> 00:39:38,896
It's like, if we don't
get on the same page,
895
00:39:38,931 --> 00:39:40,586
it's like, put it off
on the next person.
896
00:39:40,620 --> 00:39:42,689
Well, I feel like
it's being put off onto me.
897
00:39:42,724 --> 00:39:45,724
I'm the only one that ends up
having any exposure
898
00:39:45,758 --> 00:39:47,931
to any of the rest
of the family.
899
00:39:47,965 --> 00:39:52,275
So each family's basically
quarantined to home
900
00:39:52,310 --> 00:39:55,758
so to speak with the exception
of getting the groceries,
901
00:39:55,793 --> 00:39:58,275
getting gas,
getting the essentials.
902
00:39:59,103 --> 00:40:00,206
Um...
903
00:40:02,620 --> 00:40:06,620
So... And then
social distancing
in that place.
904
00:40:06,655 --> 00:40:09,620
You guys can do what you want
and do what you feel,
905
00:40:09,655 --> 00:40:14,413
but I don't feel like
you're infringing
on my decision
906
00:40:14,448 --> 00:40:17,620
or penalizing me for this
by being, doing those...
907
00:40:17,655 --> 00:40:19,482
Like, going to town
for your groceries and stuff.
908
00:40:19,517 --> 00:40:22,896
There's this sort of thing
that happens
in our relationships
909
00:40:22,931 --> 00:40:25,068
that I guess is only fair
in plural marriage
910
00:40:25,103 --> 00:40:27,068
is that the mom...
911
00:40:28,068 --> 00:40:29,482
The household belongs to her.
912
00:40:30,689 --> 00:40:32,275
It just feels odd to me.
913
00:40:32,310 --> 00:40:33,758
"Okay, this what
you're gonna do."
914
00:40:34,620 --> 00:40:35,482
Well, wait a second.
915
00:40:36,379 --> 00:40:38,310
Do I have a say in this?
916
00:40:38,344 --> 00:40:44,137
It's hard for me to see
that this is anything
but overreacting.
917
00:40:44,172 --> 00:40:47,827
However,
on the backside of this...
918
00:40:49,172 --> 00:40:52,034
...if we found out
it was the right thing...
919
00:40:52,068 --> 00:40:54,827
You never know
what the right thing is
until you've done it...
920
00:40:57,379 --> 00:41:00,344
...and got the validation
from the choice.
921
00:41:00,379 --> 00:41:02,655
A lot has happened
this last week.
922
00:41:02,689 --> 00:41:05,379
There's so much moreinformation just being poured out.
923
00:41:05,413 --> 00:41:06,862
Every single day is different.
924
00:41:06,896 --> 00:41:09,862
It's not like anything
is staying the same.
925
00:41:09,896 --> 00:41:12,482
Every single day,
there's new cases.
926
00:41:12,517 --> 00:41:16,172
Every single day,
there's new information,
all conflicting, by the way.
927
00:41:16,206 --> 00:41:18,137
All right, guys,
I really gotta get going.
928
00:41:18,172 --> 00:41:21,103
So, I...
Just know I'm really good
with this decision.
929
00:41:21,137 --> 00:41:24,344
It makes a lot of sense to me.
Kody, you used to always say,
930
00:41:24,379 --> 00:41:26,413
"Choose the choice that allows
you to choose again."
931
00:41:26,448 --> 00:41:28,034
I feel like that applies here.
932
00:41:28,068 --> 00:41:29,344
This isn't a made decision.
933
00:41:29,379 --> 00:41:30,931
I've gotta think
about this a bit.
934
00:41:32,103 --> 00:41:35,896
This is where I feel like
maybe,
935
00:41:35,931 --> 00:41:38,517
what's best for the group
is more important.
936
00:41:38,551 --> 00:41:40,655
I don't know.
I guess not everybody
agrees with that.
937
00:41:40,689 --> 00:41:43,103
So I guess this is
what we're choosing.
938
00:41:43,137 --> 00:41:46,172
It's freakin' heartbreaking
that this is where we're at,
939
00:41:46,206 --> 00:41:47,344
that this is
what we've decided
940
00:41:47,379 --> 00:41:48,689
and this is how
we're gonna do this.
941
00:41:49,862 --> 00:41:51,758
It's sad to me.
942
00:41:52,827 --> 00:41:54,862
Next time on
Sister Wives...
943
00:41:54,896 --> 00:41:58,689
We have a pandemic
breakout of Covid-19
in the United States.
944
00:41:58,724 --> 00:42:01,758
There's a new
stay-at-home order
945
00:42:01,793 --> 00:42:04,000
from the governor
for the whole
state of Arizona.
946
00:42:04,034 --> 00:42:06,862
A lot has happened
in the last couple of weeks.
947
00:42:06,896 --> 00:42:09,379
We're going back to normal
for a very long time.
948
00:42:09,413 --> 00:42:13,517
The cases have grown,
the fear has grown.
949
00:42:13,551 --> 00:42:18,379
It just seems like this
is, like, some sort of a thing
that's hunting us almost.
950
00:42:18,413 --> 00:42:21,068
We are changing
our entire society for this.
951
00:42:21,103 --> 00:42:23,931
We are changing
our family for this.
952
00:42:23,965 --> 00:42:27,413
Today I had contact
with people
953
00:42:27,448 --> 00:42:29,586
who had been
in the same county
954
00:42:29,620 --> 00:42:32,862
where the new case
has been diagnosed.
955
00:42:32,896 --> 00:42:36,724
If we're not gonna see Dad,
why would I social distance?
I mean, I'm not at risk.