1 00:00:02,344 --> 00:00:04,551 [Kody] Previously on Sister Wives... 2 00:00:04,586 --> 00:00:06,137 I gotta get back in the sun. 3 00:00:06,172 --> 00:00:07,344 I don't wanna get chilled. 4 00:00:07,379 --> 00:00:09,379 Not with coronavirus going free. 5 00:00:09,413 --> 00:00:11,103 Something's brewing. 6 00:00:11,137 --> 00:00:14,241 -It's the respiratory droplets that we're scared about. -Yeah, just hold your breath. 7 00:00:14,275 --> 00:00:18,862 Coronavirus is literally rolling through society. 8 00:00:18,896 --> 00:00:20,931 We'll have to decide what we really want. 9 00:00:20,965 --> 00:00:23,827 Do you want to have a relationship 10 00:00:23,862 --> 00:00:25,482 with your sister wife? 11 00:00:25,517 --> 00:00:27,965 Maybe, and this would be heartbreaking, 12 00:00:28,000 --> 00:00:30,413 there are some of us who are like, "Look, I don't want it anymore." 13 00:00:30,448 --> 00:00:32,827 Yeah, I'm sure everybody hates me all the time. 14 00:00:32,862 --> 00:00:37,000 Uh, I don't know why Christine is saying this. 15 00:00:37,034 --> 00:00:39,448 Like, that's, that's scary. 16 00:00:39,482 --> 00:00:41,034 [Kody] I was out of turn 17 00:00:41,068 --> 00:00:45,000 because I was angry because I felt like I was giving, 18 00:00:45,034 --> 00:00:47,482 like I was giving you what you wanted, and then you didn't want it, 19 00:00:47,517 --> 00:00:50,413 and I gave you what you wanted, and you didn't want it. 20 00:00:50,448 --> 00:00:52,448 -That's, that's how I perceived it. -[Robyn] That's weird. 21 00:00:52,482 --> 00:00:54,310 -Okay. -And I apologize. 22 00:00:54,655 --> 00:00:55,793 Thank you. 23 00:00:55,827 --> 00:00:57,310 Whatever. 24 00:00:57,344 --> 00:00:59,655 I'm just acquiescing here. This is ridiculous. 25 00:01:43,551 --> 00:01:47,103 So, a few months ago, there was this emerging virus 26 00:01:47,137 --> 00:01:50,758 called coronavirus, COVID-19. 27 00:01:50,793 --> 00:01:52,620 And it got into the United States 28 00:01:52,655 --> 00:01:55,482 and became what they're calling pandemic. 29 00:01:55,517 --> 00:01:59,482 Public health became concerned about this coronavirus enough 30 00:01:59,517 --> 00:02:01,517 to start closing some businesses. 31 00:02:01,551 --> 00:02:03,379 They've closed some college campuses. 32 00:02:03,413 --> 00:02:06,103 Even Aspyn's mall was closed, where she was working. 33 00:02:12,034 --> 00:02:15,034 Last week, the five adults, we were in Utah 34 00:02:15,068 --> 00:02:17,000 looking at wedding venues with Audrey and Mariah. 35 00:02:18,172 --> 00:02:20,655 Now almost everybody is home. 36 00:02:20,689 --> 00:02:22,413 The family needs to sort of connect. 37 00:02:22,448 --> 00:02:25,413 So we're gonna do a call, basically, where we'll be able 38 00:02:25,448 --> 00:02:27,793 to see each other on our screens. 39 00:02:28,379 --> 00:02:30,655 Hello! Hey, guys. 40 00:02:30,689 --> 00:02:31,827 Hey, you're sideways. 41 00:02:31,862 --> 00:02:33,379 -You're sideways. -You're sideways. 42 00:02:34,482 --> 00:02:35,827 No, you're sideways. 43 00:02:35,862 --> 00:02:37,551 You're sideways. 44 00:02:37,586 --> 00:02:38,931 Can I fix that at all? 45 00:02:38,965 --> 00:02:41,517 I'm afraid to touch anything 'cause I'm new to this. 46 00:02:41,551 --> 00:02:43,068 [chuckles] I don't know. 47 00:02:43,103 --> 00:02:46,551 Okay? So, yeah. No, this is, like, my first teleconference on my phone. 48 00:02:46,586 --> 00:02:48,344 So I don't exactly know what I'm doing here. 49 00:02:48,379 --> 00:02:50,896 And apparently, I'm... I think we'll leave it like that. 50 00:02:50,931 --> 00:02:53,241 Unlock your phone. Maybe try unlocking your phone. 51 00:02:53,275 --> 00:02:56,310 No, I did unlock it. I unlocked it already. 52 00:02:56,344 --> 00:02:59,275 After the wedding venue tour, um, I got home 53 00:02:59,310 --> 00:03:01,310 and then Gwendlyn, Ysabel, 54 00:03:01,344 --> 00:03:03,827 and Truely and I went to North Carolina 55 00:03:03,862 --> 00:03:06,034 to visit Maddie and Caleb and Axel and Evie K. 56 00:03:06,068 --> 00:03:08,275 What if I just turn my phone the other way? 57 00:03:08,827 --> 00:03:10,310 [Janelle chuckles] 58 00:03:11,206 --> 00:03:13,482 There. Is that better? 59 00:03:14,965 --> 00:03:16,620 Am I still sideways? 60 00:03:16,655 --> 00:03:19,379 I called Maddie first to make sure she was good with it, 61 00:03:19,413 --> 00:03:22,137 but it wasn't, like, it wasn't as alarming. 62 00:03:22,172 --> 00:03:24,448 Covid wasn't as alarming at that point. 63 00:03:24,482 --> 00:03:26,655 After we got North Carolina, 64 00:03:26,689 --> 00:03:29,827 that's when Covid became more of a scare. 65 00:03:29,862 --> 00:03:31,655 It's supposed to be spring break. 66 00:03:31,689 --> 00:03:34,862 Yeah, no. Craziest spring break ever. How's Flagstaff? 67 00:03:34,896 --> 00:03:36,413 Quiet. 68 00:03:36,448 --> 00:03:39,448 Christine won't be home physically in Flagstaff for another few days. 69 00:03:39,482 --> 00:03:41,620 This stuff is all unfolding really fast. 70 00:03:41,655 --> 00:03:44,931 I think we just need to touch base and see where everybody's at 71 00:03:44,965 --> 00:03:48,137 and try to make a game plan with this really, 72 00:03:48,172 --> 00:03:49,862 this quickly changing landscape. 73 00:03:49,896 --> 00:03:52,448 I am not kidding when I tell you I have sleepless nights. 74 00:03:52,482 --> 00:03:53,896 I wake up several times in the night 75 00:03:53,931 --> 00:03:56,275 worrying that I'm not gonna be able to make it back home. 76 00:03:56,310 --> 00:03:58,000 You might be stuck, Christine, 77 00:03:58,034 --> 00:04:00,103 because what I'm hearing is that it's... 78 00:04:00,137 --> 00:04:03,103 The big... The big worry is that it's being 79 00:04:03,137 --> 00:04:07,310 transported via airplanes because people are traveling. 80 00:04:07,344 --> 00:04:09,793 We're concerned about 'em closing the airports. 81 00:04:09,827 --> 00:04:12,275 That'd make it really hard for people to travel. 82 00:04:12,310 --> 00:04:15,827 Like, Christine to get home with the kids from North Carolina. 83 00:04:15,862 --> 00:04:19,310 What if all of our flights got cancelled because airlines stopped flying? 84 00:04:19,344 --> 00:04:20,517 I didn't know what was gonna happen. 85 00:04:20,551 --> 00:04:22,586 No one knows. No one knows what's happening. 86 00:04:22,620 --> 00:04:24,827 This whole thing is stressing me out so bad 87 00:04:24,862 --> 00:04:27,413 that the kids and I are self-quarantining at home right now. 88 00:04:27,862 --> 00:04:28,931 Oh, wow. 89 00:04:28,965 --> 00:04:31,862 I've had pneumonia before and Sol has had... 90 00:04:31,896 --> 00:04:34,896 Sol had RSV when he was little, 91 00:04:34,931 --> 00:04:37,482 and I've talked to our family doctor on the phone, 92 00:04:37,517 --> 00:04:39,241 and she basically said 93 00:04:39,275 --> 00:04:41,517 those two things right there 94 00:04:41,551 --> 00:04:44,068 are, like, high-risk situations. 95 00:04:44,103 --> 00:04:45,931 RSV is a virus 96 00:04:45,965 --> 00:04:49,034 that you basically can suffocate to death. 97 00:04:50,586 --> 00:04:52,551 Somehow Sol all had got RSV. 98 00:04:52,586 --> 00:04:55,034 I took him in to my pediatrician, 99 00:04:55,068 --> 00:04:56,862 and they, within minutes, 100 00:04:56,896 --> 00:04:58,793 they almost admitted him to the hospital, 101 00:04:58,827 --> 00:05:00,827 but it basically weakened his lungs. 102 00:05:00,862 --> 00:05:04,482 You know, I mean, at my house, it doesn't seem like very much has changed. 103 00:05:04,517 --> 00:05:06,724 We're still kind of in the spring break mentality. 104 00:05:06,758 --> 00:05:08,241 So we're just kicking around home, 105 00:05:08,275 --> 00:05:10,137 but nothing seems that different. 106 00:05:10,172 --> 00:05:13,551 I... We're still kind of in this mentality of like, 107 00:05:13,586 --> 00:05:14,931 "Oh, it's a long spring break." 108 00:05:14,965 --> 00:05:17,689 Based on what I'm seeing online 109 00:05:17,724 --> 00:05:19,896 and all of the research I've been doing, 110 00:05:19,931 --> 00:05:24,241 We, we might be here longer than just a couple of weeks. 111 00:05:24,275 --> 00:05:25,655 I guess I'm optimistic. 112 00:05:25,689 --> 00:05:27,689 I don't think it's gonna be over in two weeks, 113 00:05:27,724 --> 00:05:29,551 but I'm hoping that, like, by three or four, 114 00:05:29,586 --> 00:05:31,172 they have it under control 115 00:05:31,206 --> 00:05:32,482 'cause we have this small town. 116 00:05:32,517 --> 00:05:34,275 We have no exposures yet. 117 00:05:34,310 --> 00:05:36,000 I'm crossing my fingers that you're right. 118 00:05:36,034 --> 00:05:38,137 I just don't know. We live only two hours away 119 00:05:38,172 --> 00:05:40,206 from one of the biggest cities in the United States. 120 00:05:40,241 --> 00:05:41,896 So I'm a little nervous about it. 121 00:05:41,931 --> 00:05:44,517 Because everybody else is being careful, 122 00:05:44,551 --> 00:05:46,000 I'm gonna be careful. 123 00:05:46,034 --> 00:05:48,172 I mean, yes, you don't want to get it yourself. 124 00:05:48,206 --> 00:05:50,482 That's the truth. But at the same time, the big thing, 125 00:05:50,517 --> 00:05:54,103 the reason why they're having everybody social distance and stay at home 126 00:05:54,137 --> 00:05:56,310 is so that it doesn't spread to everybody else. 127 00:05:56,344 --> 00:05:58,310 So it's... The issue is, is that in the hospitals, 128 00:05:58,344 --> 00:06:00,034 they don't have the equipment 129 00:06:00,068 --> 00:06:01,931 to take care of people who are sick. 130 00:06:01,965 --> 00:06:04,586 When I come back to North Carolina, 131 00:06:04,620 --> 00:06:07,413 are we gonna need to be quarantined? 132 00:06:07,448 --> 00:06:12,172 So, as long as we all stay away from other people 133 00:06:12,206 --> 00:06:14,482 and our kids stay away from other people, 134 00:06:14,517 --> 00:06:16,103 then we're probably gonna be fine. 135 00:06:16,137 --> 00:06:18,448 We just need to keep us and our children, 136 00:06:19,310 --> 00:06:21,310 um, unexposed. 137 00:06:21,344 --> 00:06:23,482 Here's the thing. We are a big family, 138 00:06:23,517 --> 00:06:25,517 but we don't see each other every day. 139 00:06:25,551 --> 00:06:28,482 Like, if we're just kind of keeping our distance 140 00:06:28,517 --> 00:06:30,310 from town and everybody else, 141 00:06:30,344 --> 00:06:32,655 like, I'm not too concerned about it. 142 00:06:32,689 --> 00:06:34,275 If we're all being careful... 143 00:06:34,310 --> 00:06:35,517 I mean, we're not going anywhere 144 00:06:35,551 --> 00:06:38,172 except for the grocery store that's needed or whatever. 145 00:06:38,206 --> 00:06:39,758 ...couldn't we all just hang together? 146 00:06:39,793 --> 00:06:41,103 So that's where I'm at. 147 00:06:41,137 --> 00:06:42,827 You guys don't think... You guys think it's okay and safe 148 00:06:42,862 --> 00:06:46,551 for us to kinda spend time together? 149 00:06:46,586 --> 00:06:48,172 I mean, I guess that's my thought process. 150 00:06:48,206 --> 00:06:50,482 I envision us, like, just hanging out 151 00:06:50,517 --> 00:06:53,448 with all this spare time, and, like-- 152 00:06:53,482 --> 00:06:56,724 You think that's safe for us to be, like, spending time 153 00:06:56,758 --> 00:06:58,655 with each other and stuff like that? 154 00:06:58,689 --> 00:07:00,620 Yeah, 'cause I think we're all being careful. 155 00:07:00,655 --> 00:07:03,137 I mean, to me, this seems, like, a kind of a bonus thing. 156 00:07:03,172 --> 00:07:04,379 Like, I've been wanting the family 157 00:07:04,413 --> 00:07:06,344 to be more close together and spend more time. 158 00:07:06,379 --> 00:07:08,931 And now we're gonna have to almost do it out of necessity. 159 00:07:08,965 --> 00:07:10,172 Can't go anywhere, can't do anything, 160 00:07:10,206 --> 00:07:11,413 can't buy anything, can't eat out. 161 00:07:11,448 --> 00:07:13,379 But, you know, we can all hang out together at home. 162 00:07:13,413 --> 00:07:16,793 [Robyn] Under the circumstances I'm, I'm a little nervous. 163 00:07:16,827 --> 00:07:19,758 I'm cautious. I feel a little bit stressed out by it. 164 00:07:19,793 --> 00:07:22,000 I don't think this is going away. 165 00:07:23,172 --> 00:07:25,241 For me right now I have Garrison and Gabriel 166 00:07:25,275 --> 00:07:27,620 who are in the prime of their social life. 167 00:07:27,655 --> 00:07:29,620 So I'm asking 'em to be really careful 168 00:07:29,655 --> 00:07:32,103 about going out and staying socially distanced. 169 00:07:32,137 --> 00:07:34,689 And they're starting to feel a little bit, like, 170 00:07:34,724 --> 00:07:36,517 "Are you sure we're not overreacting?" 171 00:07:36,551 --> 00:07:39,724 'Cause it's really kind of changed their culture. 172 00:07:39,758 --> 00:07:42,034 It's, it's hard. It's hard on these older kids 173 00:07:42,068 --> 00:07:44,379 who are used to being out about with their friends. 174 00:07:44,413 --> 00:07:45,758 And I'm starting to see little... 175 00:07:45,793 --> 00:07:48,586 I'm starting to see little pieces of that at my house. 176 00:07:48,620 --> 00:07:51,172 I don't know what to think. It's kind of surreal. 177 00:07:51,206 --> 00:07:52,448 So I see that... 178 00:07:52,482 --> 00:07:55,034 On one hand I feel like, "Wow, this is fun. 179 00:07:55,068 --> 00:07:56,344 The kids are home an extra week. 180 00:07:56,379 --> 00:07:57,793 We're gonna have so much fun." 181 00:07:57,827 --> 00:08:00,448 But it's so crazy 'cause of what I see on the news media 182 00:08:00,482 --> 00:08:02,689 versus what I see in my local community is not... 183 00:08:02,724 --> 00:08:04,000 They don't match. 184 00:08:04,034 --> 00:08:06,896 I don't see anybody sick in Flagstaff, I don't see... 185 00:08:06,931 --> 00:08:08,758 And so I'm like, wow, what is going on here? 186 00:08:08,793 --> 00:08:10,379 Is this, like, a big city thing? 187 00:08:10,413 --> 00:08:13,034 Is this, like, a weird thing? Are they trying to make me afraid? 188 00:08:13,068 --> 00:08:15,310 You know, I don't really know what to think right now 189 00:08:15,344 --> 00:08:18,103 as far as us being together as a family. 190 00:08:18,137 --> 00:08:22,103 I don't want to be isolated from our family, 191 00:08:22,137 --> 00:08:24,206 but at the same time, I don't really know what to think, 192 00:08:24,241 --> 00:08:25,620 what is smart to be doing. 193 00:08:25,655 --> 00:08:27,689 We just... I just don't know right now. 194 00:08:27,724 --> 00:08:29,862 But I wanna make sure that we're, you know, 195 00:08:29,896 --> 00:08:31,655 sticking together as a family. 196 00:08:31,689 --> 00:08:35,034 You know, we've had conversations recently, 197 00:08:35,068 --> 00:08:37,137 somewhat recently about, you know, 198 00:08:37,172 --> 00:08:39,482 making more of an effort within the family 199 00:08:39,517 --> 00:08:41,931 to be closer, to work through issues, 200 00:08:41,965 --> 00:08:45,517 to, you know, figure things out with us. 201 00:08:45,551 --> 00:08:49,068 If we start talking about social distancing from each other 202 00:08:49,896 --> 00:08:52,310 because different parts of us 203 00:08:52,344 --> 00:08:55,517 may not be social distancing from everybody else... 204 00:08:56,896 --> 00:08:58,827 ...then it's... 205 00:09:00,103 --> 00:09:02,000 It's like, "What are what are we doing? 206 00:09:02,034 --> 00:09:03,034 I don't even know. 207 00:09:03,068 --> 00:09:05,034 Like, how can we work our relationships 208 00:09:05,068 --> 00:09:06,793 if we can't even see each other to talk to you? 209 00:09:08,241 --> 00:09:11,413 [Kody] If the family stays away from anybody that's non-family, 210 00:09:11,448 --> 00:09:13,241 then we'll be able to hang out all summer. 211 00:09:13,275 --> 00:09:15,551 So is that a hard sacrifice for us? 212 00:09:15,586 --> 00:09:17,172 It's just a temporary thing. 213 00:09:17,206 --> 00:09:19,000 I mean, we'll be okay, right? 214 00:09:19,793 --> 00:09:22,724 I think that it's easy for us 215 00:09:22,758 --> 00:09:24,206 to just sort of take, uh... 216 00:09:25,137 --> 00:09:26,517 ...steps that are cautious. 217 00:09:26,551 --> 00:09:28,689 Let's just... Let's just be careful as a family. 218 00:09:29,379 --> 00:09:31,068 It won't hurt the kids 219 00:09:31,103 --> 00:09:34,586 to avoid being around friends for a, a little while. 220 00:09:34,620 --> 00:09:35,896 Let's just be careful. 221 00:09:39,310 --> 00:09:40,379 Hi. 222 00:09:40,413 --> 00:09:42,827 As a mom, I do not want Mariah and Audrey 223 00:09:42,862 --> 00:09:44,620 to be stuck in Chicago 224 00:09:44,655 --> 00:09:46,862 if it's gonna be hit really hard. 225 00:09:46,896 --> 00:09:49,310 So I guess things are getting kinda crazy 226 00:09:49,344 --> 00:09:51,000 in, like, some other states 227 00:09:51,034 --> 00:09:52,896 that are more densely populated. 228 00:09:52,931 --> 00:09:54,827 The National Guard has been called in. 229 00:09:55,551 --> 00:09:57,068 Wow. 230 00:09:57,103 --> 00:10:00,965 So, I think, realistically, I could survive on four, 231 00:10:01,000 --> 00:10:04,034 but five is gonna be appropriate, probably. 232 00:10:04,068 --> 00:10:05,896 Whatever it takes to get the job done 233 00:10:05,931 --> 00:10:07,827 without your fingers pushing through 234 00:10:07,862 --> 00:10:09,137 -the toilet paper. -Oh, gosh! 235 00:10:09,586 --> 00:10:10,896 [girl retches] 236 00:10:10,931 --> 00:10:12,517 -I already know and it's disgusting! -You fold it in half. 237 00:10:13,068 --> 00:10:14,034 [chuckles] 238 00:10:14,068 --> 00:10:15,551 Oh, gosh. What the heck? 239 00:10:21,724 --> 00:10:23,000 [Kody] Kody's log. 240 00:10:23,034 --> 00:10:27,655 Earth date 03.22.2020. 241 00:10:27,689 --> 00:10:30,172 The whole country has sort of been told 242 00:10:30,206 --> 00:10:32,344 that we need to start doing, um... 243 00:10:33,965 --> 00:10:35,655 ...social distancing. 244 00:10:35,689 --> 00:10:37,758 That's not an easy thing for our family. 245 00:10:38,275 --> 00:10:40,034 I got a big family. 246 00:10:40,068 --> 00:10:42,551 I mean, if one of us gets sick 247 00:10:42,586 --> 00:10:44,758 with this Covid thing going on, 248 00:10:44,793 --> 00:10:47,517 then it's literally quarantining the family. 249 00:10:47,551 --> 00:10:50,206 The kids are like, "Why can't we see each other?" 250 00:10:51,137 --> 00:10:53,862 Well, because every person 251 00:10:53,896 --> 00:10:56,241 that interacts with another person in the family 252 00:10:56,275 --> 00:10:58,793 mathematically increases 253 00:10:58,827 --> 00:11:03,896 the potential exposure to this virus. 254 00:11:03,931 --> 00:11:07,655 Because I've got family in three, four different home, 255 00:11:07,689 --> 00:11:09,206 I'm gonna spread this out. 256 00:11:11,482 --> 00:11:14,310 I just barely got back, um, from North Carolina 257 00:11:14,344 --> 00:11:16,655 and everything's closed. 258 00:11:16,689 --> 00:11:20,862 Flagstaff is dead. Like, it's dead. 259 00:11:20,896 --> 00:11:22,206 The gyms are closed, everything's closed. 260 00:11:22,241 --> 00:11:23,724 It's so weird. 261 00:11:25,931 --> 00:11:29,241 I was hoping to have the family over for breakfast to discuss, 262 00:11:29,275 --> 00:11:30,413 you know, the next steps and stuff. 263 00:11:31,413 --> 00:11:33,000 [Kody] So, why aren't we 264 00:11:33,034 --> 00:11:35,206 having a family gathering this morning? 265 00:11:42,448 --> 00:11:43,586 And no one's coming. 266 00:11:50,896 --> 00:11:52,620 [Gwendlyn] Yeah, I have a bit of a cold, too. 267 00:11:56,000 --> 00:11:56,896 And... 268 00:11:59,758 --> 00:12:02,689 So, I woke up and I just felt achy. 269 00:12:02,724 --> 00:12:04,103 Like, I had some congestion 270 00:12:04,137 --> 00:12:06,689 and I was achy, and my throat was a little sore. 271 00:12:06,724 --> 00:12:08,758 And I thought, "Oh, my word." 272 00:12:08,793 --> 00:12:10,931 Like, I don't know. If I get normal sick now... 273 00:12:10,965 --> 00:12:12,655 If it's, if it's... If I'm normal sick 274 00:12:12,689 --> 00:12:15,724 or if I have the coronavirus, I have no idea. Like... 275 00:12:16,413 --> 00:12:18,137 It may not be anything. 276 00:12:18,172 --> 00:12:20,965 Likely, it's not anything. Hopefully, it's not anything. 277 00:12:21,000 --> 00:12:22,896 You know, we just don't wanna take any risks. 278 00:12:22,931 --> 00:12:24,689 It appears that coronavirus 279 00:12:24,724 --> 00:12:26,931 is going to change our lifestyle somewhat. 280 00:12:27,896 --> 00:12:30,206 Um, family's not getting together. 281 00:12:30,241 --> 00:12:32,172 I don't know how often we're gonna get together honestly. 282 00:12:32,206 --> 00:12:33,758 No one really wants corona. 283 00:12:33,793 --> 00:12:35,689 You could have let me put on make-up first. 284 00:12:35,724 --> 00:12:37,758 -Gosh. -[Child] Whoo! 285 00:12:37,793 --> 00:12:38,586 Oops. 286 00:12:41,103 --> 00:12:42,862 [Robyn] So, I just found out today 287 00:12:42,896 --> 00:12:47,344 that Flagstaff now has a case of coronavirus. 288 00:12:48,344 --> 00:12:50,413 And now I feel... And, like, I felt like... 289 00:12:51,827 --> 00:12:54,172 ...because we were so far away from everything, 290 00:12:54,206 --> 00:12:57,655 because we're kind of, you know, in this little town 291 00:12:57,689 --> 00:12:59,310 up on the mountain, that we were okay, 292 00:12:59,344 --> 00:13:01,620 and now, um... 293 00:13:03,172 --> 00:13:06,000 I don't know. I feel... I feel scared. 294 00:13:12,896 --> 00:13:15,241 [Meri] New York has been hit really hard with this. 295 00:13:15,275 --> 00:13:17,517 Washington state and California... 296 00:13:17,551 --> 00:13:19,103 They're all being hit really hard, 297 00:13:19,137 --> 00:13:21,551 and they're saying that Chicago 298 00:13:21,586 --> 00:13:24,413 is the next big city to be hit. 299 00:13:24,448 --> 00:13:25,620 [line ringing] 300 00:13:30,896 --> 00:13:31,931 Hi. 301 00:13:31,965 --> 00:13:33,137 -Hello. -Hi. 302 00:13:33,172 --> 00:13:35,551 As a mom, I do not want Mariah and Audrey 303 00:13:35,586 --> 00:13:37,344 to be stuck in Chicago 304 00:13:37,379 --> 00:13:39,517 if it's gonna be hit really hard. 305 00:13:39,551 --> 00:13:41,793 So I guess things are getting kinda crazy 306 00:13:41,827 --> 00:13:43,827 in, like, some other states 307 00:13:43,862 --> 00:13:45,896 that are more densely populated. 308 00:13:45,931 --> 00:13:47,620 The National Guard has been called in. 309 00:13:48,137 --> 00:13:49,379 Wow. 310 00:13:49,413 --> 00:13:51,827 I've been hearing that they're talking about closing borders 311 00:13:51,862 --> 00:13:54,034 between the states just to help, 312 00:13:54,068 --> 00:13:56,137 like, this whole social distance thing 313 00:13:56,172 --> 00:13:58,793 so that people are not traveling all over the place. 314 00:13:58,827 --> 00:14:02,655 Like, when, when are these border gonna be shut down? 315 00:14:02,689 --> 00:14:04,103 Like, I don't even know. 316 00:14:04,137 --> 00:14:07,827 So... So I think we should, like, go now. 317 00:14:07,862 --> 00:14:09,655 -Yeah. -You guys want to leave? 318 00:14:09,689 --> 00:14:10,931 -[Mariah] Yeah. -Like, now? 319 00:14:10,965 --> 00:14:12,827 Pretty much my jaw was dropping. 320 00:14:12,862 --> 00:14:14,275 I'll come help you guys. 321 00:14:14,310 --> 00:14:16,931 -I'll come do what I need to do to help you. -Thank you. 322 00:14:16,965 --> 00:14:18,827 But, like, what are you thinking? 323 00:14:18,862 --> 00:14:20,827 I mean, like, as soon as possible. 324 00:14:20,862 --> 00:14:23,448 They're already planning on moving to Utah. 325 00:14:23,482 --> 00:14:26,724 Like, let's just get you out of Chicago 326 00:14:26,758 --> 00:14:28,551 and just come here 327 00:14:28,586 --> 00:14:31,551 and just land and breathe for a second, and we'll figure it out. 328 00:14:31,586 --> 00:14:35,586 I mean, I can jump on the plane tonight or tomorrow and come out. 329 00:14:35,620 --> 00:14:37,413 Oh, my gosh. Are you guys ready for that? 330 00:14:38,000 --> 00:14:39,310 -No. -No, actually. 331 00:14:39,344 --> 00:14:41,379 We literally were just talking about how I'm, like, 332 00:14:41,413 --> 00:14:42,793 I'm not ready to go like this. 333 00:14:42,827 --> 00:14:44,862 -No. -Kinda feels... 334 00:14:44,896 --> 00:14:46,413 -It feels weird. -Makes you feel sick. 335 00:14:46,448 --> 00:14:48,758 This is the first time through all of this 336 00:14:48,793 --> 00:14:53,310 that I have really felt a sense of, like, urgency. 337 00:14:53,344 --> 00:14:56,344 My kids are in a place and I need to get to them, 338 00:14:56,379 --> 00:14:57,724 and I need to help them get out. 339 00:14:57,758 --> 00:15:00,137 I feel like I'm in a dream. I am not even kidding. 340 00:15:00,172 --> 00:15:01,965 It is the weirdest emotion right now. 341 00:15:02,000 --> 00:15:03,896 I can't imagine what you guys are thinking. 342 00:15:03,931 --> 00:15:06,000 -My heart is soft. -It feels like, really... 343 00:15:07,724 --> 00:15:09,344 -I don't even know. -Ominous. 344 00:15:09,379 --> 00:15:11,344 -Yeah, yeah. Ominous is a great... Yeah. -Yeah. 345 00:15:11,379 --> 00:15:12,551 That's a great way to put it. 346 00:15:14,517 --> 00:15:15,896 [Robyn] I've heard there's a lot of cases 347 00:15:15,931 --> 00:15:19,551 of Covid-19 in Chicago. 348 00:15:19,586 --> 00:15:23,586 Maybe they should just leave, but it's not my place to say that to them. 349 00:15:23,620 --> 00:15:25,448 [Christine] Seriously, they need to leave. 350 00:15:25,482 --> 00:15:27,586 Oh, gosh. Before it closes down, right? 351 00:15:27,620 --> 00:15:30,482 I don't even know if I would be functioning in this situation. 352 00:15:30,517 --> 00:15:32,172 I'm such a slow, methodical thinker. 353 00:15:32,206 --> 00:15:34,413 I don't do well in these situations. 354 00:15:34,448 --> 00:15:35,724 Thank goodness Meri does. 355 00:15:35,758 --> 00:15:38,482 And Mariah's pretty matter of fact. I think Audrey is too. 356 00:15:38,517 --> 00:15:39,413 But wow. 357 00:15:39,448 --> 00:15:42,172 Let me talk to Dad 358 00:15:42,206 --> 00:15:44,517 and see if he has any thoughts on it. 359 00:15:44,551 --> 00:15:47,034 -Thank you. Thank you. -Talk to you soon. 360 00:15:47,068 --> 00:15:49,310 -This is crazy. Okay. All right. -This is nuts. 361 00:15:49,344 --> 00:15:50,655 I love you guys. I'll talk to you soon. 362 00:15:50,689 --> 00:15:52,103 You, too. I love you, too. 363 00:15:52,137 --> 00:15:53,413 All right, bye. 364 00:15:54,275 --> 00:15:55,827 I... I'm feeling the stress. 365 00:15:56,896 --> 00:15:59,137 And I'm feeling like I just need to fix it, 366 00:15:59,172 --> 00:16:00,206 I need to do something. 367 00:16:00,241 --> 00:16:02,620 And, like, when my girls are in danger... 368 00:16:02,655 --> 00:16:04,137 And this is how I feel right now. 369 00:16:04,172 --> 00:16:06,965 They're in danger and I need to get 'em out 370 00:16:16,689 --> 00:16:17,931 [Christine] Okay, Kody. 371 00:16:17,965 --> 00:16:19,448 [Aspyn] Are you doing the thing that Grandpa Bill did? 372 00:16:19,482 --> 00:16:21,862 -[Christine] No. It's a different one. -Do you wanna sit down 373 00:16:21,896 --> 00:16:24,000 -and join us? -[Christine] 374 00:16:24,034 --> 00:16:25,724 This is a real conversation. 375 00:16:25,758 --> 00:16:28,206 We have to ration toilet paper. 376 00:16:28,241 --> 00:16:29,344 Well, no, it's not just that. 377 00:16:29,379 --> 00:16:32,172 I plunged a toilet that looked like the whole roll 378 00:16:32,206 --> 00:16:34,758 had been used to wipe somebody's behind. 379 00:16:34,793 --> 00:16:36,862 I'm not blaming anybody for using, 380 00:16:36,896 --> 00:16:38,206 but when I have to plunge a toilet 381 00:16:38,241 --> 00:16:41,482 because a half, a half, half a roll 382 00:16:41,517 --> 00:16:43,034 is in the toilet... 383 00:16:43,068 --> 00:16:45,379 Now, I had to... I've caught other little kids. 384 00:16:45,413 --> 00:16:48,379 I mean, it's normal for little kids to go like this. 385 00:16:48,413 --> 00:16:49,482 This is a bad idea. 386 00:16:49,517 --> 00:16:51,931 Don't do this. This is not how you wipe your bottom. 387 00:16:52,551 --> 00:16:53,655 Okay? You don't just-- 388 00:16:53,689 --> 00:16:55,103 [Gwendlyn] You're wasting all of that. 389 00:16:55,137 --> 00:16:57,413 -That's a humongous waste. -Believe me, I'll use it. 390 00:16:57,448 --> 00:16:59,862 Now I realize that keeps your fingers 391 00:16:59,896 --> 00:17:01,862 from pushing through, 392 00:17:01,896 --> 00:17:04,482 but that's a humongous waste, all right? 393 00:17:04,517 --> 00:17:07,586 'Cause you get one good wipe, and that's all. 394 00:17:07,620 --> 00:17:09,655 Yeah, I've been to the store a couple of times, 395 00:17:09,689 --> 00:17:12,000 and the toilet paper 396 00:17:12,034 --> 00:17:14,655 and paper towel aisles are empty. 397 00:17:15,413 --> 00:17:16,827 Empty. 398 00:17:16,862 --> 00:17:20,586 Now one, one square is way too little, okay? 399 00:17:20,620 --> 00:17:22,137 That's, that's the miserly, 400 00:17:22,172 --> 00:17:23,413 and we're not gonna be miserly. 401 00:17:23,448 --> 00:17:24,758 That's just disgusting. 402 00:17:24,793 --> 00:17:26,896 I don't know what their toilet paper situation is. 403 00:17:26,931 --> 00:17:28,551 I think... Goodness, am I one of those people 404 00:17:28,586 --> 00:17:30,931 who has, like, a big shipment delivered every three months 405 00:17:30,965 --> 00:17:33,172 because I hate going to the grocery store? 406 00:17:33,206 --> 00:17:35,965 So I'm good because I'm a toilet paper hog. 407 00:17:36,000 --> 00:17:38,310 I am. I use lots of toilet paper. 408 00:17:38,344 --> 00:17:41,034 So I would be a very guilty party in this conversation. 409 00:17:41,068 --> 00:17:43,241 So one, one piece is too little. 410 00:17:43,275 --> 00:17:47,413 So I think, realistically, I can survive on four. 411 00:17:47,448 --> 00:17:51,000 But five is gonna be appropriate, probably. 412 00:17:51,034 --> 00:17:54,517 And you fold it and then you fold it. 413 00:17:54,551 --> 00:17:57,689 I'm actually really, um, a huge culprit 414 00:17:57,724 --> 00:17:59,793 when it comes to using too much toilet paper. 415 00:17:59,827 --> 00:18:02,310 And then once you've done one swipe... 416 00:18:02,344 --> 00:18:03,689 I'm sorry this is disgusting, 417 00:18:03,724 --> 00:18:05,931 but this is what you have to talk about with your kids. 418 00:18:05,965 --> 00:18:07,413 Later on we'll have a birds and the bees 419 00:18:07,448 --> 00:18:09,000 so Truely knows how babies are made. 420 00:18:09,034 --> 00:18:10,344 [girl retches] 421 00:18:10,379 --> 00:18:12,586 -I already know and it's disgusting! -You fold it in half... 422 00:18:12,620 --> 00:18:15,275 You know, bathroom experiences are private. 423 00:18:15,310 --> 00:18:16,551 They're embarrassing. 424 00:18:16,586 --> 00:18:17,793 And here we are talking about it. 425 00:18:17,827 --> 00:18:18,758 It's awesome. 426 00:18:18,793 --> 00:18:20,931 If you're really good and skilled, 427 00:18:20,965 --> 00:18:22,827 you might be able to get three wipes 428 00:18:22,862 --> 00:18:24,862 out of this by folding it in half... 429 00:18:24,896 --> 00:18:28,000 Whatever it takes to get the job done without your fingers 430 00:18:28,034 --> 00:18:30,068 -pushing through the toilet paper. -Oh, gosh! 431 00:18:31,000 --> 00:18:33,517 What about... About when you have... 432 00:18:33,551 --> 00:18:36,103 When you, you... When you just... 433 00:18:36,137 --> 00:18:37,310 [Kody] When it's messy? 434 00:18:37,344 --> 00:18:38,586 -[Christine] When you poop? -Yeah. 435 00:18:38,620 --> 00:18:40,758 -[Kody] Well, just-- -And you need a lot of toilet paper. 436 00:18:40,793 --> 00:18:42,034 All right. Once again-- 437 00:18:42,068 --> 00:18:43,517 [Christine] No, wait. I have an answer. No. 438 00:18:43,551 --> 00:18:45,620 You put a little bit of lotion on your toilet paper. 439 00:18:45,655 --> 00:18:46,896 [Gwendlyn retches] 440 00:18:46,931 --> 00:18:48,931 You put a little bit of lotion on your toilet paper 441 00:18:48,965 --> 00:18:50,931 and it'll pick things up a lot easier. 442 00:18:50,965 --> 00:18:52,517 -God, why are we-- -No, that's Brazil. 443 00:18:52,551 --> 00:18:53,758 That is from Brazil. 444 00:18:53,793 --> 00:18:55,482 Take this seriously, ladies. 445 00:18:55,517 --> 00:18:57,241 I just plunged a toilet. 446 00:18:57,275 --> 00:19:00,655 And when I'm not here, you have to plunge it, lady. 447 00:19:00,689 --> 00:19:02,034 You have to plunge it when I'm not here. 448 00:19:02,068 --> 00:19:04,103 -Dude, I plunge the toilets when you're not here. -No, no. 449 00:19:04,137 --> 00:19:06,965 -You realize that? -Every house that I'm at, I plunge the toilet. 450 00:19:07,000 --> 00:19:08,413 And I have to plunge them often. 451 00:19:08,448 --> 00:19:09,965 [Ysabel] Dad, thank you for this lesson. 452 00:19:10,000 --> 00:19:12,241 -I will remember it for the rest of my life. -[Christine] Grandpa Bill! 453 00:19:12,275 --> 00:19:13,586 -Grandpa Bill! -[Aspyn] Do you remember that? 454 00:19:13,620 --> 00:19:15,103 [Christine] Yeah, Grandpa Bill lesson. 455 00:19:15,137 --> 00:19:17,137 -[Truely] And, Dad, I already know how babies are made. -All right, stop. 456 00:19:17,172 --> 00:19:18,896 -The Grandpa Bill lesson... -It was traumatizing. 457 00:19:18,931 --> 00:19:20,689 Grandpa Bill is Meri's dad. 458 00:19:20,724 --> 00:19:22,758 The Grandpa Bill lesson... Just listen. 459 00:19:24,517 --> 00:19:25,758 [Christine] It only takes one square. 460 00:19:25,793 --> 00:19:26,965 One square. 461 00:19:27,000 --> 00:19:29,655 Yeah, that's, that's... That's my dad. 462 00:19:29,689 --> 00:19:31,000 Grab it in a corner. 463 00:19:31,896 --> 00:19:33,586 -[Ysabel gasps] No! -[Truely] No! 464 00:19:33,620 --> 00:19:34,689 -[Ysabel gasps] -Wipe! 465 00:19:35,965 --> 00:19:37,172 Wipe. 466 00:19:37,206 --> 00:19:39,413 [chuckles] Oh, gosh. 467 00:19:39,448 --> 00:19:43,758 Oh! Ugh! This is kinda starting to turn my stomach a little bit. 468 00:19:44,517 --> 00:19:45,448 Wipe. 469 00:19:47,137 --> 00:19:48,965 -Clean out your fingernails. -[Mitch groans] 470 00:19:49,000 --> 00:19:50,000 [Ysabel] No! 471 00:19:50,793 --> 00:19:53,413 It is absolutely disgusting! 472 00:19:53,448 --> 00:19:55,896 But this is the humor of my dad! 473 00:19:55,931 --> 00:19:58,689 It was a joke. We never did it that way. 474 00:19:59,310 --> 00:20:00,379 [Christine laughs] 475 00:20:00,413 --> 00:20:02,862 No, that's disgusting! You're not-- 476 00:20:02,896 --> 00:20:04,793 That was amazing. Thank you, Dad. 477 00:20:04,827 --> 00:20:06,448 Take a bow! Take a bow! 478 00:20:06,482 --> 00:20:08,103 [Christine] Wait. 'Cause that was beautiful! 479 00:20:11,034 --> 00:20:13,793 -[Mariah] Yeah. -This is just the two of them. I can't in good conscience, 480 00:20:13,827 --> 00:20:15,517 like, leave just the two of them to do this. 481 00:20:15,551 --> 00:20:16,724 -That's my problem. -I know but I-- 482 00:20:16,758 --> 00:20:18,068 -You-- -But I-- 483 00:20:18,103 --> 00:20:20,655 -You getting on a plane is exposure. -It's stupid. I know. 484 00:20:20,689 --> 00:20:23,827 Um, this is my daughter, and I'm gonna go help them. 485 00:20:23,862 --> 00:20:26,793 -This is so hard for me. -What? 486 00:20:26,827 --> 00:20:30,413 Meri thinks about Meri and Mariah and Audrey 487 00:20:30,448 --> 00:20:33,758 I'm required to consider the entire family. 488 00:20:45,310 --> 00:20:50,068 [Kody] Hey, everybody, it's still March 23rd. 489 00:20:50,103 --> 00:20:52,310 Meri called me and said she had emergency. 490 00:20:52,344 --> 00:20:54,517 She... Well, I guess it's emergency. 491 00:20:54,551 --> 00:20:58,206 She's gotta talk to me about something going on 492 00:20:58,241 --> 00:20:59,965 and wanted me to come over and talk to her. 493 00:21:00,000 --> 00:21:02,551 So I'm headed over to Meri sounds right now. 494 00:21:03,655 --> 00:21:05,862 Yeah, I'm really stressed out, actually. 495 00:21:05,896 --> 00:21:08,758 I just had this conversation with the girls. 496 00:21:08,793 --> 00:21:11,586 If they end up leaving Chicago now 497 00:21:11,620 --> 00:21:13,896 during all this Covid stuff, 498 00:21:13,931 --> 00:21:15,344 it's gonna be it. 499 00:21:15,379 --> 00:21:17,103 They won't be going back. 500 00:21:17,137 --> 00:21:19,931 I need to figure out how to help them. 501 00:21:19,965 --> 00:21:22,620 [Kody] Janelle thought she had an allergy this morning. 502 00:21:22,655 --> 00:21:24,172 So I called her and said, 503 00:21:24,206 --> 00:21:27,793 "Well, why don't we do a dry run and get a test? 504 00:21:27,827 --> 00:21:29,137 And she's like, you know what? 505 00:21:29,172 --> 00:21:31,758 Their county doesn't have any money for tests. 506 00:21:31,793 --> 00:21:33,551 You can't run and get a test. 507 00:21:33,586 --> 00:21:35,310 That's gonna be a struggle, you know? 508 00:21:35,344 --> 00:21:38,206 Hey, runny eyes and sore throat and sniffy nose. 509 00:21:38,241 --> 00:21:40,206 That... That's the signs of Covid. 510 00:21:40,241 --> 00:21:44,551 Wait. That's also everybody who has seasonal allergies. 511 00:21:44,586 --> 00:21:46,724 So how are we gonna know without testing? 512 00:21:46,758 --> 00:21:48,655 There's no testing. 513 00:21:48,689 --> 00:21:50,000 I mean, how are we gonna know? 514 00:21:50,034 --> 00:21:52,586 I think some of the family is actually worried about 515 00:21:52,620 --> 00:21:54,965 how big our family is, how much we interact 516 00:21:55,000 --> 00:21:57,310 and, and who takes 517 00:21:57,344 --> 00:21:59,241 this seriously and who doesn't. 518 00:21:59,275 --> 00:22:01,448 So, I'm the most dangerous person in the whole family 519 00:22:01,482 --> 00:22:04,310 when it comes to Covid-19 because I'm going from house to house. 520 00:22:04,344 --> 00:22:06,482 I could spread it from house to house. 521 00:22:06,517 --> 00:22:07,965 You pick your side literally. 522 00:22:08,000 --> 00:22:11,620 There's almost a divide, like, "Oh, we need to quarantine right now" 523 00:22:11,655 --> 00:22:13,103 and others who are going, "You know what? 524 00:22:13,137 --> 00:22:15,827 Why don't we spread it around so we can all, you know, 525 00:22:15,862 --> 00:22:18,827 like, check and see if we're immune to the flu or if we're gonna get it?" 526 00:22:21,068 --> 00:22:23,965 No, because that's too much finger pointing. 527 00:22:30,896 --> 00:22:31,758 [door closes] 528 00:22:31,793 --> 00:22:32,724 [Kody] Hi. 529 00:22:33,965 --> 00:22:34,724 [chuckles] Hi. 530 00:22:34,758 --> 00:22:35,724 [Kody] How's going? 531 00:22:35,758 --> 00:22:37,551 I just had... 532 00:22:38,965 --> 00:22:41,000 [exhales deeply] ...a phone call. 533 00:22:41,034 --> 00:22:41,862 [Kody] All right. 534 00:22:41,896 --> 00:22:43,827 I don't know at this point 535 00:22:43,862 --> 00:22:46,586 if I need to just get on a plane and fly out tonight. 536 00:22:46,620 --> 00:22:48,241 I'm feeling the anxiety. 537 00:22:48,275 --> 00:22:50,965 I can't imagine what Mariah and Audrey are feeling. 538 00:22:53,655 --> 00:22:56,724 Listen, I don't wanna shut Meri down, but in the... 539 00:22:56,758 --> 00:22:57,965 And so I'm being really careful 540 00:22:58,000 --> 00:22:59,586 'cause Meri's in a bit of a panic mode. 541 00:22:59,620 --> 00:23:00,931 "I've gotta go rescue my daughter. 542 00:23:00,965 --> 00:23:02,241 I gotta go rescue my daughter. 543 00:23:02,275 --> 00:23:03,827 I gotta go rescue my daughter." 544 00:23:03,862 --> 00:23:07,758 And I'm... I don't wanna stop her because she'll fight me. 545 00:23:07,793 --> 00:23:11,103 So I'd rather just sort of slowly work in 546 00:23:11,137 --> 00:23:13,724 the common sense about... 547 00:23:13,758 --> 00:23:17,137 We don't want a rescuing party being put at risk 548 00:23:17,172 --> 00:23:18,793 'cause we're increasing our risk. 549 00:23:20,172 --> 00:23:21,241 [phone chimes] 550 00:23:21,275 --> 00:23:22,172 Hi. 551 00:23:22,206 --> 00:23:23,000 -Hi. -Hello. 552 00:23:23,724 --> 00:23:24,689 [Mariah] This is crazy. 553 00:23:24,724 --> 00:23:27,689 How much stuff have you guys got? 554 00:23:27,724 --> 00:23:30,103 I don't think it's that much, but Audrey thinks it's a lot. 555 00:23:30,137 --> 00:23:32,724 No, I don't think it's a lot. I just think it's more than she thinks we have. 556 00:23:32,758 --> 00:23:34,931 So, we have, like, a dining room table and chairs. 557 00:23:34,965 --> 00:23:36,965 Then we have our king size bed. 558 00:23:37,000 --> 00:23:40,655 For the price that it'll cost us to come out there and get you, 559 00:23:40,689 --> 00:23:44,103 you could probably replace all that furniture. 560 00:23:44,137 --> 00:23:46,724 You want us to just leave with what we can put in our car? 561 00:23:46,758 --> 00:23:47,724 [Kody] Here's the thing. 562 00:23:47,758 --> 00:23:49,620 If I come out there, it's gonna take me 563 00:23:49,655 --> 00:23:52,862 two or three days to get there with the trailer. 564 00:23:52,896 --> 00:23:56,862 And you put me at risk with all the rest of family. 565 00:23:56,896 --> 00:23:59,931 Honestly, it was kinda weird when we got on the call with them 566 00:23:59,965 --> 00:24:03,620 and Kody just started talking to them like I didn't even exist. 567 00:24:03,655 --> 00:24:05,068 "Meri, you're not going." 568 00:24:05,103 --> 00:24:08,137 He never said that, but it was just like, 569 00:24:08,172 --> 00:24:11,344 Let's talk about other options that didn't even include me. 570 00:24:11,379 --> 00:24:14,896 And I'm like, um, this is my daughter and I'm gonna go help them. 571 00:24:14,931 --> 00:24:16,551 -[Mariah] Yeah. -This is just the two of them. 572 00:24:16,586 --> 00:24:18,103 I can't, in good conscience, 573 00:24:18,137 --> 00:24:19,758 like, leave just the two of them to do this. 574 00:24:19,793 --> 00:24:21,241 -That's my problem. -I know but-- 575 00:24:21,275 --> 00:24:23,379 -You getting on a plane is exposure. -But I totally get... 576 00:24:23,413 --> 00:24:24,793 It's stupid. I know. 577 00:24:24,827 --> 00:24:28,413 Meri thinks about Meri and Mariah and Audrey. 578 00:24:28,448 --> 00:24:31,827 I'm required to consider the entire family. 579 00:24:31,862 --> 00:24:35,137 You guys should pack up and leave us fast as you can 580 00:24:35,172 --> 00:24:36,862 if you're gonna do this. 581 00:24:36,896 --> 00:24:39,448 Waiting for me or Mom to get there... 582 00:24:40,206 --> 00:24:42,965 ...is, is stalling you out. 583 00:24:43,000 --> 00:24:46,206 I really do. I understand that there is a concern. 584 00:24:46,241 --> 00:24:50,137 My thinking is if there's a risk to me. 585 00:24:50,172 --> 00:24:53,206 I don't care because I'm gonna help my daughter. 586 00:24:53,241 --> 00:24:54,793 [Kody] I'll have to calm Meri down. 587 00:24:54,827 --> 00:24:58,724 Meri's very anxious that she's not there rescuing them 588 00:24:58,758 --> 00:25:00,379 'cause that's her purpose in life. 589 00:25:00,413 --> 00:25:03,068 But she's still... That instinct to go rescue 590 00:25:03,103 --> 00:25:05,517 is just overwhelming her, and I'm trying to go, 591 00:25:05,551 --> 00:25:07,724 "Hey, it's okay. It's okay. 592 00:25:08,172 --> 00:25:09,689 They'll be okay." 593 00:25:09,724 --> 00:25:13,379 You guys could have, um, 594 00:25:13,413 --> 00:25:14,931 I guess a rental truck. 595 00:25:14,965 --> 00:25:16,896 -Just get this ten-foot truck. -They can't. They... 596 00:25:16,931 --> 00:25:18,172 Just the two of them can't. 597 00:25:18,206 --> 00:25:20,172 -We can definitely move everything out. -Yeah. 598 00:25:20,206 --> 00:25:23,206 [Meri] Listen, right now there is a lot of stress. 599 00:25:23,241 --> 00:25:26,344 It's this urgency for them 600 00:25:26,379 --> 00:25:28,310 to get out of Chicago. 601 00:25:28,344 --> 00:25:30,241 I'm a mom and I want to help. 602 00:25:30,275 --> 00:25:31,344 That's what I do. 603 00:25:31,379 --> 00:25:33,275 This is so hard for me. 604 00:25:34,068 --> 00:25:35,931 What? 605 00:25:35,965 --> 00:25:38,000 -What, them coming here by themselves? -Yes. 606 00:25:38,034 --> 00:25:39,965 -No, I know. -It doesn't make sense for you to... 607 00:25:40,000 --> 00:25:42,827 It's just the mom in me that is doing this. 608 00:25:42,862 --> 00:25:44,620 I don't like it when he makes sense 609 00:25:44,655 --> 00:25:47,068 when I wanna do something. [scoffs] 610 00:25:47,103 --> 00:25:50,793 You guys' combined age is 46, right? 611 00:25:50,827 --> 00:25:51,862 Forty-seven? 612 00:25:51,896 --> 00:25:54,034 You guys are almost my age, okay? 613 00:25:54,068 --> 00:25:57,172 We are... All of us combined, we are almost as old as Dad. 614 00:25:57,206 --> 00:26:00,896 Yeah, I could do this all by myself, okay? 615 00:26:00,931 --> 00:26:03,448 So you guys could do it together. 616 00:26:03,482 --> 00:26:05,413 I know they could do this without me. 617 00:26:06,896 --> 00:26:08,344 I just wanna be there for 'em. 618 00:26:11,034 --> 00:26:13,137 -Okay, that sounds good. -Gather the information. 619 00:26:13,172 --> 00:26:14,724 Find out, okay? And then let us know. 620 00:26:14,758 --> 00:26:16,310 -Okay. Sounds good. -Okay. All right. 621 00:26:16,344 --> 00:26:17,482 -Thanks, guys. -All right. Okay. 622 00:26:17,517 --> 00:26:18,482 -Love you. -Love you. 623 00:26:18,517 --> 00:26:20,172 -Love you. Talk to you soon. -Good to see ya. 624 00:26:20,206 --> 00:26:21,344 -Bye-bye. -Bye. 625 00:26:22,758 --> 00:26:25,896 I just felt helpless sitting here and doing nothing. 626 00:26:28,103 --> 00:26:31,620 Meri, uh, that's just part of being a grown-up. 627 00:26:31,655 --> 00:26:33,379 You and I did crazier moves than that 628 00:26:33,413 --> 00:26:34,758 when we were younger than them. 629 00:26:36,862 --> 00:26:38,379 Okay? They can do this. 630 00:26:42,448 --> 00:26:44,275 -[line rings] -[Kody] Hi, sweetheart. 631 00:26:44,310 --> 00:26:47,275 Honey, I know that you were 632 00:26:47,310 --> 00:26:48,758 planning on being here tonight. 633 00:26:48,793 --> 00:26:49,931 I'm just gonna make the decision. 634 00:26:49,965 --> 00:26:51,758 I want Kody to stay away from my home 635 00:26:51,793 --> 00:26:53,482 until we can figure out how bad this is gonna get. 636 00:27:02,034 --> 00:27:04,931 [Meri] So, I've talked to Mariah a couple of times today. 637 00:27:04,965 --> 00:27:07,241 They left three days ago. 638 00:27:07,275 --> 00:27:09,034 They've taken three days to drive here, 639 00:27:09,068 --> 00:27:11,931 and it was a little bit nerve-racking, 640 00:27:12,482 --> 00:27:14,827 um, the whole situation. 641 00:27:14,862 --> 00:27:17,379 I ended up not going to help them move, 642 00:27:17,413 --> 00:27:18,758 which was really hard for me. 643 00:27:18,793 --> 00:27:20,862 I wanna be there and help and I should 644 00:27:20,896 --> 00:27:22,620 because that's what moms do. 645 00:27:22,655 --> 00:27:27,275 But, it, uh... In light of the whole reason 646 00:27:27,310 --> 00:27:29,068 that they're leaving Chicago, 647 00:27:29,103 --> 00:27:32,206 which is Covid-19, 648 00:27:32,241 --> 00:27:34,931 it doesn't make any sense. 649 00:27:34,965 --> 00:27:36,241 It's foolish of me. 650 00:27:37,517 --> 00:27:40,172 I think it's just that mom instinct. 651 00:27:40,206 --> 00:27:42,103 When there is a danger or a threat, 652 00:27:42,137 --> 00:27:44,689 you want your kid close to you. 653 00:27:44,724 --> 00:27:46,724 -Hi. -How's it going? 654 00:27:46,758 --> 00:27:49,034 [Meri laughs] Good. How are you guys? 655 00:27:50,655 --> 00:27:52,068 -I don't know. -Aww. 656 00:27:52,103 --> 00:27:53,517 The reason that I'm not actually there 657 00:27:53,551 --> 00:27:55,551 when they come home and helping them unload 658 00:27:55,586 --> 00:27:58,206 and everything is because, you know, they traveled from another state. 659 00:27:58,241 --> 00:27:59,827 I need them to actually, like, 660 00:27:59,862 --> 00:28:03,137 semi-quarantine or quarantine for a while 661 00:28:03,172 --> 00:28:05,241 before I have any exposure to 'em. 662 00:28:05,275 --> 00:28:07,344 [Meri] Oh, my goodness! Oh, my goodness! 663 00:28:07,379 --> 00:28:09,034 -Hi! -[Mariah] Oh, my goodness. 664 00:28:09,068 --> 00:28:12,379 [Meri] I am glad that Mariah and Audrey are here. 665 00:28:14,103 --> 00:28:16,689 We're just gonna quarantine together. 666 00:28:16,724 --> 00:28:19,275 And it means we're not gonna see 667 00:28:19,310 --> 00:28:21,931 the rest of the family for a couple of weeks. 668 00:28:21,965 --> 00:28:24,275 -Hi! Hi! -[Mariah] Oh, my goodness. Are you thirsty? 669 00:28:24,310 --> 00:28:25,896 [Meri] Are you excited? 670 00:28:25,931 --> 00:28:27,965 Are you so excited to be in the snow? 671 00:28:28,000 --> 00:28:29,551 Let's go inside and sleep. 672 00:28:29,586 --> 00:28:31,758 [Meri] Okay. I think the sleeping is good for you guys. 673 00:28:39,551 --> 00:28:41,034 [line rings] 674 00:28:42,172 --> 00:28:43,241 [Kody] Hi, sweetheart. 675 00:28:43,275 --> 00:28:44,655 Hey. Honey, I know 676 00:28:44,689 --> 00:28:48,724 that you were planning on being here tonight, 677 00:28:48,758 --> 00:28:50,068 but I've really been thinking, 678 00:28:50,103 --> 00:28:53,689 and I'm, I'm, I'm concerned 679 00:28:53,724 --> 00:28:57,448 that this household at least is a little bit of a risk point. 680 00:28:57,482 --> 00:28:59,034 I have Garrison. He's still working. 681 00:28:59,068 --> 00:29:01,965 The construction crews are all strong. 682 00:29:02,000 --> 00:29:04,448 We shouldn't have you come for a little bit maybe. 683 00:29:08,689 --> 00:29:10,724 So, I've been kinda watching the news, 684 00:29:10,758 --> 00:29:12,517 and they're started to talk about everybody staying home. 685 00:29:12,551 --> 00:29:16,931 But I have Garrison who works with construction crews and stuff here in town. 686 00:29:16,965 --> 00:29:20,068 I've got Gabriel, who is being careful associating with his friends, 687 00:29:20,103 --> 00:29:22,137 but I can't guarantee what that looks like yet. 688 00:29:22,172 --> 00:29:24,586 So instead of sitting here and waiting to be told 689 00:29:24,620 --> 00:29:27,413 or it's having something horrible happen that makes a decision, 690 00:29:27,448 --> 00:29:28,482 I'm just gonna make the decision. 691 00:29:28,517 --> 00:29:30,275 I want Kody to stay away from my home 692 00:29:30,310 --> 00:29:32,655 until we can figure out how bad this is gonna get. 693 00:29:32,689 --> 00:29:34,517 But, Kody, I have this because I have boys 694 00:29:34,551 --> 00:29:36,689 that are working outside the house, Garrison. 695 00:29:36,724 --> 00:29:39,068 -And this is nobody's fault. It's just circumstance. -Yeah. 696 00:29:39,103 --> 00:29:42,034 And I'm trying to be... I'm trying to be 697 00:29:42,068 --> 00:29:45,758 really brave and really smart and really logical. 698 00:29:45,793 --> 00:29:49,827 [voice breaks] 'Cause I don't know what that's like to not to you for that long. 699 00:29:49,862 --> 00:29:50,896 [clears throat] 700 00:29:50,931 --> 00:29:53,724 Yes, this is hard for me, but I'm trying to stay 701 00:29:53,758 --> 00:29:55,793 in that clinical, logical place. 702 00:29:55,827 --> 00:29:59,344 I present a risk. My household presents a risk. 703 00:29:59,379 --> 00:30:02,000 You know, sometimes I just don't quite understand 704 00:30:02,034 --> 00:30:05,344 everything going on in this family. 705 00:30:05,379 --> 00:30:07,793 I don't know. I don't know why she's just calling me 706 00:30:07,827 --> 00:30:11,827 and telling me, just like, "Hey, this is the way it's gonna be." 707 00:30:11,862 --> 00:30:15,172 No, I would worry too much that there could be risk. 708 00:30:15,206 --> 00:30:17,413 I mean, you and I will survive this. 709 00:30:17,448 --> 00:30:20,103 You're gonna owe me big time, buddy man, when we're done here. 710 00:30:20,137 --> 00:30:22,344 I wish you could have had a camera on me. 711 00:30:22,379 --> 00:30:24,827 That's... That's a statement of pressure. 712 00:30:24,862 --> 00:30:26,965 Like, "You gotta make up for this somehow." 713 00:30:27,000 --> 00:30:28,793 [stutters] What? 714 00:30:28,827 --> 00:30:32,379 You're making these choices and you're telling the kids 715 00:30:32,413 --> 00:30:34,413 to continue with what's normal in their lives, 716 00:30:34,448 --> 00:30:36,172 and I'm supposed to pay for that? 717 00:30:36,206 --> 00:30:38,413 I just have to get a dig in, 718 00:30:38,448 --> 00:30:41,517 saying, "Look, I am making a big sacrifice here, man. You owe me." 719 00:30:41,551 --> 00:30:44,310 I'm implying he owes me some sort of tropical vacation 720 00:30:44,344 --> 00:30:47,965 or whatever, 'cause I feel like... Okay, it's a little bit childish. 721 00:30:48,000 --> 00:30:50,689 But it's like I'm making such a big sacrifice, which I'm choosing to do. 722 00:30:50,724 --> 00:30:52,620 But I still... I guess I sort of... I'm like, 723 00:30:52,655 --> 00:30:54,517 "Give me some acknowledgement here 724 00:30:54,551 --> 00:30:59,586 that I'm making this really hard sacrifice and that you understand it." 725 00:30:59,620 --> 00:31:03,034 [Kody] I know that the real reason isn't just Garrison's work. 726 00:31:03,068 --> 00:31:07,827 It's that him and Gabriel both have a social life that they're not... That... 727 00:31:07,862 --> 00:31:09,758 I don't even know if that's the reason. 728 00:31:09,793 --> 00:31:12,620 What I do know is that they're of the age group 729 00:31:12,655 --> 00:31:15,275 that tends to not take this seriously, 730 00:31:15,310 --> 00:31:18,000 and they're the age group that they're saying isn't affected by it. 731 00:31:18,689 --> 00:31:20,310 [Kody sighs] 732 00:31:24,413 --> 00:31:26,379 No, because I know everybody's gonna... No, look. 733 00:31:26,413 --> 00:31:28,137 Robyn's gonna be like, "No, you have to see the kids" 734 00:31:28,172 --> 00:31:30,206 'cause she's really adamant about that. 735 00:31:30,241 --> 00:31:33,172 She is definitely resistant to the opinions of others right now. 736 00:31:33,206 --> 00:31:35,655 I don't feel like this is a conversation that we have with them. 737 00:31:35,689 --> 00:31:38,206 I mean, yes, after we've decided. 738 00:31:38,241 --> 00:31:41,068 I don't know if they necessarily come into play here. 739 00:31:43,000 --> 00:31:47,724 I feel like it would be better if the whole family was on the same page 740 00:31:47,758 --> 00:31:49,655 instead of just Janelle making a decision 741 00:31:49,689 --> 00:31:51,172 and Christine making a decision 742 00:31:51,206 --> 00:31:54,620 and Meri making a decision and Robyn making a decision. 743 00:31:54,655 --> 00:31:57,896 I'm feeling kind of powerless in this whole situation. 744 00:31:57,931 --> 00:31:59,724 And so this is one way I can protect. 745 00:32:05,172 --> 00:32:08,241 You know, it's just one of those times when maybe 746 00:32:08,275 --> 00:32:10,896 I wish I just told my wives what we were gonna do. 747 00:32:11,896 --> 00:32:13,793 But I'm so confused by this whole thing 748 00:32:13,827 --> 00:32:15,344 that I don't even know what to do. 749 00:32:16,034 --> 00:32:17,758 I don't want 'em be swayed... 750 00:32:19,103 --> 00:32:21,000 ...in their, in their decisions 751 00:32:21,034 --> 00:32:23,241 because of my emotion. 752 00:32:29,551 --> 00:32:31,000 All right. 753 00:32:35,620 --> 00:32:38,206 [Janelle] All right. So, you guys, I've had a conversation with Kody. 754 00:32:38,241 --> 00:32:42,413 Because I have Garrison and everybody who are still working outside the home, 755 00:32:42,448 --> 00:32:46,379 I think maybe I better, like, 756 00:32:46,413 --> 00:32:48,448 not have Kody even come. 757 00:32:48,482 --> 00:32:50,206 This is where I feel like maybe 758 00:32:50,241 --> 00:32:52,689 what's best for the group is more important. 759 00:32:52,724 --> 00:32:54,896 I don't know. I guess not everybody agrees with that. 760 00:32:54,931 --> 00:32:56,551 So I guess this is what we're choosing. 761 00:32:57,241 --> 00:32:58,586 It's freakin' heartbreaking. 762 00:33:07,034 --> 00:33:08,862 So, Janelle called me earlier today 763 00:33:08,896 --> 00:33:10,862 basically saying, "I don't want you to come over 764 00:33:10,896 --> 00:33:13,241 'cause the, you know, you could get exposure. 765 00:33:13,275 --> 00:33:15,793 We've gotta be careful." Okay, I get that. 766 00:33:15,827 --> 00:33:18,000 I mean, like, if we're going to make the steps, 767 00:33:18,034 --> 00:33:21,827 then we all sort of need to invest in this 768 00:33:21,862 --> 00:33:23,931 so that we're justifying 769 00:33:23,965 --> 00:33:25,827 the sacrifice others are making 770 00:33:25,862 --> 00:33:28,344 by making those sacrifices all together 771 00:33:28,379 --> 00:33:31,172 in order to keep ourselves all well and healthy. 772 00:33:31,206 --> 00:33:33,241 Right now it's speaker phones, okay? 773 00:33:34,344 --> 00:33:35,448 Yeah. I'm recording. 774 00:33:35,482 --> 00:33:37,551 Okay, it's on speaker. I'm good. 775 00:33:37,586 --> 00:33:41,241 So gotta figure out how to accommodate the virus 776 00:33:41,275 --> 00:33:44,965 as well as our family lifestyle and interaction. 777 00:33:45,000 --> 00:33:48,275 I'm in this place where I can't think about how long this might be 778 00:33:48,310 --> 00:33:49,862 'cause it kinda makes me crazy 779 00:33:49,896 --> 00:33:52,482 'cause I'm a little... I've got cabin fever. 780 00:33:52,517 --> 00:33:54,655 You could always go hiking. 781 00:33:55,862 --> 00:33:58,965 Nobody's... There's no restrictions on hiking. 782 00:33:59,000 --> 00:34:00,482 As long as it's not snowing. 783 00:34:00,517 --> 00:34:04,172 -Well, and that, that exercise and getting-- -I didn't hear any of you. 784 00:34:04,206 --> 00:34:07,551 This conference call is very hard to actually get an edge in. 785 00:34:07,586 --> 00:34:08,793 -It's easy. -Okay. 786 00:34:08,827 --> 00:34:10,275 -About getting out-- -The forest service is closed-- 787 00:34:11,896 --> 00:34:14,344 -Ladies, let's establish-- -The forest service is closed down at the-- 788 00:34:14,379 --> 00:34:15,689 I'm halfway through a sentence. 789 00:34:15,724 --> 00:34:17,931 I don't even finish it, and I'm getting cut off. 790 00:34:17,965 --> 00:34:20,724 We're gonna establish some rules right now 791 00:34:20,758 --> 00:34:24,172 because this conference call will just drive us all nuts. 792 00:34:24,206 --> 00:34:27,379 We're gonna start with one person, 793 00:34:27,413 --> 00:34:30,310 and they're gonna set up their thoughts, 794 00:34:30,344 --> 00:34:33,586 and then they're going to pass the baton 795 00:34:33,620 --> 00:34:35,586 to the next person, okay? 796 00:34:35,620 --> 00:34:38,000 Finish a damn sentence before you... 797 00:34:38,034 --> 00:34:39,965 You know, just let somebody finish the sentence. 798 00:34:40,000 --> 00:34:43,034 Says the guy who interrupts us most of the time. 799 00:34:43,068 --> 00:34:45,379 So, everybody will stop talking now. 800 00:34:45,413 --> 00:34:48,137 And I'm going to tell Janelle 801 00:34:48,172 --> 00:34:52,413 to give us her thoughts from our discussion today. 802 00:34:52,448 --> 00:34:54,931 [Janelle] All right. So, you guys, I've had a conversation with Kody. 803 00:34:54,965 --> 00:34:59,137 Because I have Garrison and everybody who are still working outside the home, 804 00:34:59,172 --> 00:35:02,448 and you guys have pretty much naturally self-quarantined 805 00:35:02,482 --> 00:35:03,689 'cause your kids are all home. 806 00:35:03,724 --> 00:35:05,275 They're not in school. They're not working. 807 00:35:05,310 --> 00:35:08,862 But I pose a risk point for exposure. 808 00:35:08,896 --> 00:35:12,172 I think maybe I better, 809 00:35:12,206 --> 00:35:14,655 like, not have Kody even come 810 00:35:14,689 --> 00:35:18,551 because if for some reason we ended up infected, 811 00:35:18,586 --> 00:35:20,689 he would then bring it to all of you guys. 812 00:35:20,724 --> 00:35:23,482 I was talking to Kody about it, like, a couple days ago. 813 00:35:23,517 --> 00:35:25,655 and I was just saying, "Hey, how would you feel 814 00:35:25,689 --> 00:35:27,793 about going to, like, one house 815 00:35:27,827 --> 00:35:30,517 and staying put there for a few days? 816 00:35:30,551 --> 00:35:32,413 And then when you're done, you know, as long as 817 00:35:32,448 --> 00:35:34,275 everyone's well and everything, 818 00:35:34,310 --> 00:35:37,137 then move on to the next house for a couple of days. 819 00:35:37,172 --> 00:35:38,793 But when you get to the next house, 820 00:35:38,827 --> 00:35:41,310 just make sure you shower really well 821 00:35:41,344 --> 00:35:43,586 and, you know, wash the clothes. 822 00:35:43,620 --> 00:35:45,103 Like, take the clothes off immediately, 823 00:35:45,137 --> 00:35:47,137 put them in the washer immediately. 824 00:35:47,172 --> 00:35:50,620 So, my schedule is always a sensitive subject. 825 00:35:50,655 --> 00:35:52,344 All my wives have a different opinion 826 00:35:52,379 --> 00:35:54,034 of what my schedule should be. 827 00:35:54,068 --> 00:35:57,758 But the issue is is it's a sensitive subject to me, 828 00:35:57,793 --> 00:35:59,241 and I don't like them telling me 829 00:35:59,275 --> 00:36:00,862 what my schedule is. 830 00:36:00,896 --> 00:36:03,000 -You have to pass the baton now. -Janelle, how about-- 831 00:36:03,034 --> 00:36:06,620 No, no. Just wait. Just... If you're done, pass the baton. 832 00:36:06,655 --> 00:36:08,103 I'm done. I'd like to know... 833 00:36:08,137 --> 00:36:10,275 Janelle, I'd like to know your thoughts, and then Kody and then Robyn. 834 00:36:10,310 --> 00:36:12,586 Can we do it like that? And then go on to Meri? 835 00:36:12,620 --> 00:36:14,275 Can we do it in that order? 836 00:36:14,310 --> 00:36:16,896 -'Cause I wanna know how everybody feels. -No, you gotta pass the baton 837 00:36:16,931 --> 00:36:18,586 -to one person. -Fine, I'll pass it to Janelle. 838 00:36:18,620 --> 00:36:20,896 Gosh, you're so cranky. 839 00:36:20,931 --> 00:36:22,793 It's 'cause you guys are talking about my body. 840 00:36:22,827 --> 00:36:25,413 I feel like I'm being passed around like a rag doll now. 841 00:36:25,448 --> 00:36:27,241 Kody, all I did was offer up a suggestion 842 00:36:27,275 --> 00:36:29,206 -when I was talking about a couple of days. -That's okay. 843 00:36:29,241 --> 00:36:32,517 It doesn't mean that think you're a rag doll or a baton for goodness' sake. 844 00:36:32,551 --> 00:36:33,862 Who's speaking now? 845 00:36:34,206 --> 00:36:35,103 God. 846 00:36:35,137 --> 00:36:36,551 Holy... I'm just trying to... 847 00:36:39,034 --> 00:36:40,758 It's like he's acting like we've objectified him. 848 00:36:40,793 --> 00:36:43,310 No, we are a family, and we're trying to work this out. 849 00:36:43,344 --> 00:36:45,827 He knew whatever the hell he wants to do his own body. 850 00:36:45,862 --> 00:36:47,344 This is not what this is about. 851 00:36:47,379 --> 00:36:50,241 I'm just trying to make... Whatever. God. 852 00:36:50,275 --> 00:36:52,310 I actually... Look, I thought about that. 853 00:36:52,344 --> 00:36:55,172 But honestly, what happens is you don't know if you've gotten it 854 00:36:55,206 --> 00:36:58,344 into your respiratory system until two weeks. 855 00:36:58,379 --> 00:36:59,793 And that's why Mariah and Audrey 856 00:36:59,827 --> 00:37:01,689 are quarantining the way that they are. 857 00:37:01,724 --> 00:37:04,448 That's why it's so important that we do stay, 858 00:37:04,482 --> 00:37:08,620 you know, away from anybody and everybody. 859 00:37:08,655 --> 00:37:12,068 And it kinda sucks that at this point, 860 00:37:12,103 --> 00:37:14,482 maybe it includes family, too. 861 00:37:15,689 --> 00:37:16,793 [exhales] 862 00:37:19,793 --> 00:37:22,896 It's just such a kind of crazy shock 863 00:37:22,931 --> 00:37:25,482 to think of Kody not going to Janelle's house. 864 00:37:25,517 --> 00:37:28,862 You know, it's like, "No, this is not what you do, you know." 865 00:37:28,896 --> 00:37:32,000 It's, like, your family. We're a family. 866 00:37:33,310 --> 00:37:35,103 It's, it's really tough 867 00:37:35,137 --> 00:37:39,275 to even consider that part of this whole thing 868 00:37:39,310 --> 00:37:41,379 with this stupid disease 869 00:37:41,413 --> 00:37:44,724 is the idea that we can't be a family. 870 00:37:44,758 --> 00:37:49,137 If we lived in one house during all of this, I think it would be easier. 871 00:37:50,448 --> 00:37:52,413 We'd have to come to an agreement, 872 00:37:52,448 --> 00:37:55,103 and we would have to work it out together 873 00:37:55,137 --> 00:37:56,758 because we were living in the same home. 874 00:37:56,793 --> 00:37:58,068 We'd have to. 875 00:38:00,482 --> 00:38:02,965 Sorry, Janelle, I get what you're saying, but... 876 00:38:04,551 --> 00:38:08,172 Are you... I'm just worried about your kids and you and Kody and everything. 877 00:38:08,206 --> 00:38:09,344 I'm just worried about you guys. 878 00:38:09,379 --> 00:38:10,689 I don't know how this will work. 879 00:38:10,724 --> 00:38:14,586 It's completely challenging our priorities 880 00:38:14,620 --> 00:38:16,137 and what's important to us. 881 00:38:16,172 --> 00:38:19,655 Like, how do we deal with this the right way? 882 00:38:19,689 --> 00:38:22,413 For now, to me my gut feels like... 883 00:38:23,724 --> 00:38:25,862 ...to err on the side of extreme caution 884 00:38:25,896 --> 00:38:27,206 makes the most sense. 885 00:38:27,241 --> 00:38:30,517 Like, it just seems like it would be the most logical thing. 886 00:38:30,551 --> 00:38:32,689 It's the least amount of sacrifice. 887 00:38:32,724 --> 00:38:34,551 Okay, so if I'm gonna sacrifice 888 00:38:34,586 --> 00:38:37,068 being able to see, um, the kids, 889 00:38:37,103 --> 00:38:41,448 then everybody has to double down on this sacrifice 890 00:38:42,689 --> 00:38:44,689 in such a way that it's like 891 00:38:44,724 --> 00:38:48,275 you don't go to town and your kids don't go to town. 892 00:38:48,310 --> 00:38:52,172 I love that idea, but, psychologically, I have to get out. 893 00:38:52,206 --> 00:38:54,965 I will be bonkers if I don't have my... 894 00:38:55,000 --> 00:38:59,517 I go to the grocery store and they sanitize the carts when you walk in. 895 00:38:59,551 --> 00:39:03,137 And I mean, that's my only out, really, right now. 896 00:39:03,172 --> 00:39:06,655 Because each wife sort of runs her household 897 00:39:06,689 --> 00:39:08,896 and we're not agreeing 898 00:39:08,931 --> 00:39:11,965 on how we're going to run each household the same, 899 00:39:12,000 --> 00:39:15,034 we're literally getting to a place where it feels like we're every, 900 00:39:15,068 --> 00:39:19,034 every house for themselves, every mother for themselves. 901 00:39:19,068 --> 00:39:22,689 [Janelle] Honestly, I'm not out here to control what everybody else is gonna do. 902 00:39:22,724 --> 00:39:25,310 And I don't think Kody should put some sort of moratorium, either. 903 00:39:25,344 --> 00:39:26,931 I think everybody has to make their own decision. 904 00:39:26,965 --> 00:39:29,896 [Kody] Janelle's not gonna sacrifice anything but time with me. 905 00:39:29,931 --> 00:39:34,379 But she's not gonna sacrifice her kids for that time with me. 906 00:39:34,413 --> 00:39:35,827 And it's just one of those weird things. 907 00:39:35,862 --> 00:39:38,896 It's like, if we don't get on the same page, 908 00:39:38,931 --> 00:39:40,586 it's like, put it off on the next person. 909 00:39:40,620 --> 00:39:42,689 Well, I feel like it's being put off onto me. 910 00:39:42,724 --> 00:39:45,724 I'm the only one that ends up having any exposure 911 00:39:45,758 --> 00:39:47,931 to any of the rest of the family. 912 00:39:47,965 --> 00:39:52,275 So each family's basically quarantined to home 913 00:39:52,310 --> 00:39:55,758 so to speak with the exception of getting the groceries, 914 00:39:55,793 --> 00:39:58,275 getting gas, getting the essentials. 915 00:39:59,103 --> 00:40:00,206 Um... 916 00:40:02,620 --> 00:40:06,620 So... And then social distancing in that place. 917 00:40:06,655 --> 00:40:09,620 You guys can do what you want and do what you feel, 918 00:40:09,655 --> 00:40:14,413 but I don't feel like you're infringing on my decision 919 00:40:14,448 --> 00:40:17,620 or penalizing me for this by being, doing those... 920 00:40:17,655 --> 00:40:19,482 Like, going to town for your groceries and stuff. 921 00:40:19,517 --> 00:40:22,896 There's this sort of thing that happens in our relationships 922 00:40:22,931 --> 00:40:25,068 that I guess is only fair in plural marriage 923 00:40:25,103 --> 00:40:27,068 is that the mom... 924 00:40:28,068 --> 00:40:29,482 The household belongs to her. 925 00:40:30,689 --> 00:40:32,275 It just feels odd to me. 926 00:40:32,310 --> 00:40:33,758 "Okay, this what you're gonna do." 927 00:40:34,620 --> 00:40:35,482 Well, wait a second. 928 00:40:36,379 --> 00:40:38,310 Do I have a say in this? 929 00:40:38,344 --> 00:40:44,137 It's hard for me to see that this is anything but overreacting. 930 00:40:44,172 --> 00:40:47,827 However, on the backside of this... 931 00:40:49,172 --> 00:40:52,034 ...if we found out it was the right thing... 932 00:40:52,068 --> 00:40:54,827 You never know what the right thing is until you've done it... 933 00:40:57,379 --> 00:41:00,344 ...and got the validation from the choice. 934 00:41:00,379 --> 00:41:02,655 A lot has happened this last week. 935 00:41:02,689 --> 00:41:05,379 There's so much moreinformation just being poured out. 936 00:41:05,413 --> 00:41:06,862 Every single day is different. 937 00:41:06,896 --> 00:41:09,862 It's not like anything is staying the same. 938 00:41:09,896 --> 00:41:12,482 Every single day, there's new cases. 939 00:41:12,517 --> 00:41:16,172 Every single day, there's new information, all conflicting, by the way. 940 00:41:16,206 --> 00:41:18,137 All right, guys, I really gotta get going. 941 00:41:18,172 --> 00:41:21,103 So, I... Just know I'm really good with this decision. 942 00:41:21,137 --> 00:41:24,344 It makes a lot of sense to me. Kody, you used to always say, 943 00:41:24,379 --> 00:41:26,413 "Choose the choice that allows you to choose again." 944 00:41:26,448 --> 00:41:28,034 I feel like that applies here. 945 00:41:28,068 --> 00:41:29,344 This isn't a made decision. 946 00:41:29,379 --> 00:41:30,931 I've gotta think about this a bit. 947 00:41:32,103 --> 00:41:35,896 This is where I feel like maybe, 948 00:41:35,931 --> 00:41:38,517 what's best for the group is more important. 949 00:41:38,551 --> 00:41:40,655 I don't know. I guess not everybody agrees with that. 950 00:41:40,689 --> 00:41:43,103 So I guess this is what we're choosing. 951 00:41:43,137 --> 00:41:46,172 It's freakin' heartbreaking that this is where we're at, 952 00:41:46,206 --> 00:41:47,344 that this is what we've decided 953 00:41:47,379 --> 00:41:48,689 and this is how we're gonna do this. 954 00:41:49,862 --> 00:41:51,758 It's sad to me. 955 00:41:52,827 --> 00:41:54,862 [Kody] Next time on Sister Wives... 956 00:41:54,896 --> 00:41:58,689 We have a pandemic breakout of Covid-19 in the United States. 957 00:41:58,724 --> 00:42:01,758 [Janelle] There's a new stay-at-home order 958 00:42:01,793 --> 00:42:04,000 from the governor for the whole state of Arizona. 959 00:42:04,034 --> 00:42:06,862 [Christine] A lot has happened in the last couple of weeks. 960 00:42:06,896 --> 00:42:09,379 We're going back to normal for a very long time. 961 00:42:09,413 --> 00:42:13,517 [Christine] The cases have grown, the fear has grown. 962 00:42:13,551 --> 00:42:18,379 It just seems like this is, like, some sort of a thing that's hunting us almost. 963 00:42:18,413 --> 00:42:21,068 We are changing our entire society for this. 964 00:42:21,103 --> 00:42:23,931 We are changing our family for this. 965 00:42:23,965 --> 00:42:27,413 Today I had contact with people 966 00:42:27,448 --> 00:42:29,586 who had been in the same county 967 00:42:29,620 --> 00:42:32,862 where the new case has been diagnosed. 968 00:42:32,896 --> 00:42:36,724 If we're not gonna see Dad, why would I social distance? I mean, I'm not at risk.