1 00:00:01,202 --> 00:00:02,935 [narrator] Previously on Sister Wives.. 2 00:00:05,039 --> 00:00:08,607 So, Ysabel initially, like, they were told they could all go back to the classroom. 3 00:00:08,609 --> 00:00:10,342 So I would like her to go in person. 4 00:00:10,411 --> 00:00:12,511 If Ysabel's gonna go back to school, 5 00:00:12,513 --> 00:00:15,314 then that totally changes everything at your house, Christine. 6 00:00:15,316 --> 00:00:18,417 [mocking Kody] "If you go to school, I can't see you." I think that's ridiculous. 7 00:00:19,487 --> 00:00:23,055 I'm telling my sister wives that I'm leaving Kody. 8 00:00:23,057 --> 00:00:28,260 I have decided to leave. I'm gonna leave, Kody. 9 00:00:28,295 --> 00:00:30,562 Well, damn. I mean, what do you say? 10 00:00:31,899 --> 00:00:34,299 [Janelle Brown] I'm just processing. 11 00:00:34,301 --> 00:00:39,238 If everybody's willing to conform to patriarchy, I guess... 12 00:00:42,209 --> 00:00:44,710 ...I'm gonna be the head of my household again. 13 00:00:44,712 --> 00:00:46,812 Yeah, I didn't know I'd signed up for patriarchy. 14 00:00:46,814 --> 00:00:49,415 That's not what we all agreed on in the very beginning. 15 00:00:54,255 --> 00:00:56,422 If you move to Utah, what about Truely? 16 00:00:56,424 --> 00:00:58,323 I think Truely's gonna be fine. 17 00:00:58,325 --> 00:00:59,758 She's never gonna come back? 18 00:00:59,827 --> 00:01:04,329 You can't take her from me. It'll have to be 50/50. 19 00:01:04,331 --> 00:01:08,000 She didn't ask me if I was okay if I didn't stay at her house, 20 00:01:08,002 --> 00:01:09,535 she just told me not to. 21 00:01:09,537 --> 00:01:13,639 She didn't ask if it was okay if she moved my stuff out, she just did it. 22 00:01:13,707 --> 00:01:17,543 She didn't ask if it was okay if she moved to Utah and took Truely, 23 00:01:17,644 --> 00:01:19,545 she just told me she was gonna do it. 24 00:01:19,646 --> 00:01:22,114 Now he wants 50/50 time with them? 25 00:01:22,116 --> 00:01:28,253 Well, hell. He could have had 50/50 time with us the whole [bleep] time we lived here. 26 00:01:54,815 --> 00:01:58,283 Christine and I have been on the fast track from separation to divorce 27 00:01:58,285 --> 00:02:00,118 now for a few months, I guess. 28 00:02:03,824 --> 00:02:08,060 The last time the family got together was when Christine told us she was leaving. 29 00:02:08,062 --> 00:02:13,198 I feel very separated from the family. 30 00:02:13,200 --> 00:02:17,503 Even with me, with my relationship with Janelle and with Robyn and the kids 31 00:02:17,505 --> 00:02:19,805 I've struggled through this process. 32 00:02:23,644 --> 00:02:26,912 I'm just trying to deal with it, but I've got other problems coming up, 33 00:02:26,914 --> 00:02:30,215 you know? Janelle's gotta move, she's buying an RV, 34 00:02:30,217 --> 00:02:33,018 I've got to figure out a way to get that onto the property, 35 00:02:33,020 --> 00:02:34,853 and so I gotta hurry up and get over to Janelle's house 36 00:02:34,922 --> 00:02:36,622 so we can figure this out. 37 00:02:39,393 --> 00:02:42,060 [Janelle] I went with Kody to pick this truck up about a week ago. 38 00:02:42,162 --> 00:02:44,163 -[Kody] How's it going? -[Janelle] Hi, honey. 39 00:02:44,264 --> 00:02:48,634 It can pull a lot, and it will be big enough to pull the trailer I bought. 40 00:02:48,702 --> 00:02:51,303 [Kody] Nice to see you. So... 41 00:02:51,305 --> 00:02:55,440 Yeah, I guess we are... I guess he got this truck. 42 00:02:55,509 --> 00:02:58,110 "Oh, we have to buy a truck to move a trailer." I'm like... 43 00:02:58,946 --> 00:03:00,946 ..."No. You don't." 44 00:03:00,948 --> 00:03:05,417 I saw my sister-in-law, my brother's widow, 45 00:03:05,419 --> 00:03:08,554 um, back in the holidays, and I was like, 46 00:03:08,622 --> 00:03:11,557 "If you're ever gonna sell that truck, then I'd like to buy it." 47 00:03:11,625 --> 00:03:15,827 That'd be just fun as can be to keep that truck in the family. 48 00:03:15,829 --> 00:03:20,432 So I bought my brother's truck from his widow, 49 00:03:21,135 --> 00:03:24,636 and I, it gives me a bit of joy 50 00:03:24,738 --> 00:03:28,807 to have that, you know, so, and now of course, 51 00:03:28,809 --> 00:03:32,811 it's a big enough truck. It's big, it's tough, and it will pull the RV. 52 00:03:32,813 --> 00:03:35,347 There's just a couple things that happened that made me realize 53 00:03:35,416 --> 00:03:37,449 -I needed a bigger truck, but not all the time. -[Janelle] Yeah. 54 00:03:37,551 --> 00:03:40,285 And the problem is I don't like having equipment that I don't use. 55 00:03:40,287 --> 00:03:42,554 Well, I drive this, and I love it. 56 00:03:42,623 --> 00:03:45,958 I don't want to wear out this truck on a soccer mom, okay? 57 00:03:46,059 --> 00:03:48,393 Okay, well then don't complain to me, [mocking Kody] "I don't want to have..." 58 00:03:48,395 --> 00:03:50,963 -[Kody] Okay, the whole-- -"...equipment that I don't use." I use it. 59 00:03:50,965 --> 00:03:53,165 I really do love it. I would figure out, like, 60 00:03:53,233 --> 00:03:55,500 it's as big as Caleb and Maddie's truck, 61 00:03:55,502 --> 00:03:57,236 and Maddie drives that thing like a boss, 62 00:03:57,304 --> 00:03:59,538 so I know I can figure out how to drive this thing. 63 00:03:59,607 --> 00:04:02,140 It's kind of a funny thought of, like, 64 00:04:02,242 --> 00:04:07,913 seeing Janelle driving all over Flagstaff in this big, huge truck. 65 00:04:07,915 --> 00:04:09,414 [Janelle] You can figure ou anything, right? 66 00:04:09,416 --> 00:04:12,918 It just takes a little bit of time and some practice. 67 00:04:12,920 --> 00:04:17,556 I've also head funny stories about Janelle struggling to drive big vehicles 68 00:04:17,591 --> 00:04:21,526 and to do things, and stuff like that, so, I mean, I don't know. 69 00:04:22,630 --> 00:04:24,863 You and I honestly need to go out to the property 70 00:04:24,931 --> 00:04:28,033 -and look at where we want our home site, specifically. -[Janelle] Yeah. 71 00:04:28,035 --> 00:04:31,703 I mean, the biggest thing is I'm moving into the trailer in six weeks. 72 00:04:31,705 --> 00:04:33,305 I have to be out of here in six weeks. 73 00:04:35,609 --> 00:04:38,310 My vision for the property is that we'll start 74 00:04:38,312 --> 00:04:41,446 with what they call a casita, it's a very popular thing here. 75 00:04:41,515 --> 00:04:45,050 Basically for us it'll be a detached garage with a living space above it. 76 00:04:45,052 --> 00:04:48,220 In a few years or whatever, we'll build the bigger house. 77 00:04:48,222 --> 00:04:52,057 It's May already, and... uh, 78 00:04:52,159 --> 00:04:54,760 I'm moving onto the property at the end of June. 79 00:04:54,828 --> 00:04:58,063 I really am hoping to be able to break ground by the wintertime. 80 00:04:58,832 --> 00:04:59,831 [Kody] Um... 81 00:05:02,202 --> 00:05:03,802 Have you, are you starting to sort out what 82 00:05:03,804 --> 00:05:05,103 -you're keeping and what you're dumping? -Yeah. 83 00:05:05,105 --> 00:05:07,306 -[Kody] Okay. -[Janelle] 'Cause I'm only really taking like 84 00:05:07,308 --> 00:05:11,109 three suitcases worth of stuff to the trailer 'cause it's small. 85 00:05:11,111 --> 00:05:17,949 She's moving into a house the size of, like, my kitchen and living room. 86 00:05:20,220 --> 00:05:24,056 I don't see Kody doing well in this fifth will. 87 00:05:24,058 --> 00:05:27,426 There's nothing out there. It's just bare land. 88 00:05:28,562 --> 00:05:30,996 She'll figure it out. She figures out everything. 89 00:05:30,998 --> 00:05:34,099 She wants to do something bad enough, she's gonna do it. 90 00:05:34,101 --> 00:05:36,134 [Kody] I don't want to put all my stuff in storage. 91 00:05:36,203 --> 00:05:39,471 It's not gonna have a place with Janelle. 92 00:05:39,473 --> 00:05:45,811 So now I've gotta move all of my stuff from Janelle's house to Robyn's house. 93 00:05:45,813 --> 00:05:49,715 Kody's always had a lot of stuff. He's always had a lot of stuff. 94 00:05:49,717 --> 00:05:53,652 And in Vegas, like, he had four houses that he would put his stuff in. 95 00:05:54,655 --> 00:05:57,422 So he had four of everything, right? Or mor 96 00:05:57,424 --> 00:06:00,425 And now, I know he doesn't have his stuff at Meri's. 97 00:06:00,427 --> 00:06:02,026 Of course he doesn't have his stuff at my house. 98 00:06:02,028 --> 00:06:04,963 He can't put his stuff at Janelle's 'cause she has a little tiny trailer. 99 00:06:04,965 --> 00:06:07,699 So it's either in storage somewhere or at Robyn's. 100 00:06:07,701 --> 00:06:09,601 No idea where he has his stuff. 101 00:06:11,004 --> 00:06:12,938 [Kody] We're kind of under the gun. 102 00:06:13,039 --> 00:06:17,142 I think we need to go look at the property and figure out, um... 103 00:06:17,211 --> 00:06:19,111 Well, the biggest thing is where are we gonna put the trailer? 104 00:06:19,113 --> 00:06:22,814 And I did see one space that I think works really well. 105 00:06:22,816 --> 00:06:24,916 We might need more than one space, though. 106 00:06:24,918 --> 00:06:28,120 I agree, 'cause we have to move it every four months. 107 00:06:28,122 --> 00:06:32,357 The county has a rule that you can only keep an RV or a trailer or something 108 00:06:32,393 --> 00:06:35,527 on your property for 120 consecutive days. 109 00:06:35,529 --> 00:06:39,564 My plan is that I should hopefully be done building in a year. 110 00:06:39,600 --> 00:06:42,601 So in that year, I need to move my trailer 111 00:06:42,603 --> 00:06:45,604 every 120 days to somebody else's parcel, 112 00:06:45,606 --> 00:06:48,039 so that we stay within county code. 113 00:06:48,141 --> 00:06:50,409 You and I need to really go out on the property and look. 114 00:06:50,411 --> 00:06:51,710 Yeah, 'cause we're bringing the trailer home. 115 00:06:51,712 --> 00:06:53,678 I think we're gonna have to take it right out there. 116 00:06:53,680 --> 00:06:58,817 Which means that I gotta have, uh, somebody come in and pour some gravel or something out. 117 00:06:58,819 --> 00:07:03,221 We should have never bought the RV 'cause we're gonna be moving it all the time. 118 00:07:03,223 --> 00:07:06,625 Just do me a huge favor, and everybody else a huge favor, just, 119 00:07:06,627 --> 00:07:08,760 let's talk to each one of your sister wives 120 00:07:08,829 --> 00:07:11,062 and get their permission for every little aspect 121 00:07:11,131 --> 00:07:14,833 of what we're doing when it comes to the property. 122 00:07:14,935 --> 00:07:18,403 I'm struggling because I'm not optimistic about ho this is gonna come together 123 00:07:19,640 --> 00:07:24,042 She's gotta ask permission to be on somebody else's property. 124 00:07:24,044 --> 00:07:27,446 This is typical Kody, like, he's all on board for something, 125 00:07:27,514 --> 00:07:29,815 and then he goes away for a couple of days, and he comes back and he's like, 126 00:07:29,817 --> 00:07:31,383 "Oh, my God. We got all these problems. 127 00:07:31,385 --> 00:07:33,752 "You gotta ask your sister wives. You gotta, blah, blah, blah. 128 00:07:33,821 --> 00:07:38,390 Why? Like, why? I don't need their permission. We've already agreed. 129 00:07:38,392 --> 00:07:41,026 I do not have time for this. 130 00:07:43,430 --> 00:07:46,798 What if I don't want an RV pad in that spot 131 00:07:46,800 --> 00:07:50,735 that she just decides to put her trailer temporarily? 132 00:07:50,837 --> 00:07:54,139 [Robyn Brown] So there's a permanent cycle. Kody and Janelle are out there, 133 00:07:54,208 --> 00:07:57,943 will they start kind of formulating ways to get these pieces paid off 134 00:07:58,044 --> 00:07:59,444 so that we can get started? 135 00:07:59,546 --> 00:08:00,946 Maybe this will be good. 136 00:08:02,516 --> 00:08:05,517 [Kody] There's things that Janelle does frequentl 137 00:08:05,519 --> 00:08:09,721 that aren't like a married husband and wife, as we do things separate. 138 00:08:11,291 --> 00:08:15,126 He's no longer advocating. He's no longer acting as my husband here. 139 00:08:19,099 --> 00:08:22,934 All right, honey, I'm gonna... I gotta run and do some errands. 140 00:08:25,506 --> 00:08:27,005 Do you wanna go get the trailer and then we'll have the boys? 141 00:08:27,007 --> 00:08:29,741 Uh, yeah. I'll go grab the trailer, and, um... 142 00:08:32,513 --> 00:08:36,414 -I guess, maybe the boys will help me load the... -The piano. 143 00:08:36,416 --> 00:08:37,716 -[Kody]...piano tonight. Okay. -[Janelle] All right. 144 00:08:47,327 --> 00:08:50,228 She wants to get moving. She wants to get something done. 145 00:08:50,230 --> 00:08:54,199 And I'm resistant because there's a lot of things to do in that process, 146 00:08:54,201 --> 00:08:56,601 and it starts with asking other people 147 00:08:56,603 --> 00:08:59,170 if you can park your RV on their property. 148 00:08:59,172 --> 00:09:01,506 I'm not going to ask. 149 00:09:10,050 --> 00:09:12,717 [Janelle] We bought the property three freakin' years ago. 150 00:09:12,719 --> 00:09:14,352 We should have done this already. 151 00:09:14,354 --> 00:09:17,322 [mocking Kody] "Well, maybe we should get together and talk about it again?" 152 00:09:17,324 --> 00:09:19,791 No. You guys figure out what you're gonna do with your lots 153 00:09:19,793 --> 00:09:21,426 'cause I need to move forward with mine. 154 00:09:26,133 --> 00:09:30,201 I don't have a home in six weeks. I could not get a hold of any rentals. 155 00:09:30,203 --> 00:09:33,805 I bought a trailer. I'm out there in six weeks. 156 00:09:33,807 --> 00:09:36,341 [Kody] Thanks for coming, gang. We're gonna... 157 00:09:36,409 --> 00:09:39,110 Just, yeah. Look at the property and give you guys 158 00:09:39,112 --> 00:09:41,313 an idea, 'cause I know, Carmel, we talked about plans. 159 00:09:41,315 --> 00:09:44,215 Before we start the actual house plans, I kind of want the experts 160 00:09:44,217 --> 00:09:48,219 to kinda see and weigh in and see what really needs to be done here. 161 00:09:48,221 --> 00:09:52,023 What I like is coming up the hill. We're out of the water a little bit. 162 00:09:52,025 --> 00:09:54,326 -I mean, like, right? -[man] Exactly, yeah. 163 00:09:54,328 --> 00:09:56,962 [Kody] Well, I still wanna put the RV there 'cause it's close 164 00:09:56,997 --> 00:09:58,196 -to the road and easier. -[Janelle] That's fine. 165 00:09:58,198 --> 00:09:59,864 [man] That'd be your driveway come in here. 166 00:09:59,866 --> 00:10:02,133 [Kody] This is gonna be really satisfactory to Janelle because 167 00:10:02,202 --> 00:10:06,004 where she's finally pushed u to the point where we're making a plan for something 168 00:10:06,006 --> 00:10:08,573 There's a method to her madness, but it's very dangerous 169 00:10:08,575 --> 00:10:11,910 to try and push around people who are resistant to what you're trying to push. 170 00:10:15,816 --> 00:10:19,517 From what I understand, I don't think there's really anything that can be done yet 171 00:10:19,519 --> 00:10:23,521 because we've got to pay for the property before we start doing anything. 172 00:10:23,523 --> 00:10:25,557 So there's a lot of steps, still, 173 00:10:25,625 --> 00:10:28,727 and I just don't know how fast that's gonna happen 174 00:10:28,729 --> 00:10:32,364 I don't want anything to do with Coyote Pass... 175 00:10:34,101 --> 00:10:36,935 ...but it's not my land, it's their land. 176 00:10:37,037 --> 00:10:38,703 They can do whatever that want with it. 177 00:10:41,608 --> 00:10:45,010 So then right here is a better place for the house. 178 00:10:45,012 --> 00:10:46,378 [Janelle] I think so. 179 00:10:46,380 --> 00:10:48,413 Like, there's been kind of this idea 180 00:10:48,415 --> 00:10:51,549 of her hopping pieces of property kind of a thing. 181 00:10:51,618 --> 00:10:54,619 [chuckles] It's really not being talked about a lot. 182 00:10:54,621 --> 00:10:57,255 It's just kind of happening. 183 00:10:57,324 --> 00:11:00,659 I'm trying to sit here and figure out why she thinks 184 00:11:00,760 --> 00:11:02,227 we're gonna be able to do this. 185 00:11:02,229 --> 00:11:04,963 For me, Kody, it's really about building fast. 186 00:11:05,065 --> 00:11:07,632 I feel like if there's a will, there's a way. 187 00:11:07,634 --> 00:11:12,037 [Kody] Cost of lumber prices, is that really impacting the overall cost nowadays? 188 00:11:12,039 --> 00:11:13,805 -Do you know? -[man] Oh, yeah. 189 00:11:13,807 --> 00:11:16,307 It's the cost of everything going up right now too. 190 00:11:16,309 --> 00:11:17,442 -[Kody] But it's everything. Okay. -Yeah. 191 00:11:17,511 --> 00:11:19,010 I've been saving my money. 192 00:11:19,012 --> 00:11:22,747 I've been scrimping and saving and sacrificing so I could build. 193 00:11:22,816 --> 00:11:24,716 -[Kody] Thanks for coming. I really appreciate it. -[woman] Thank you. 194 00:11:26,420 --> 00:11:28,253 I don't have anywhere to live right now, 195 00:11:28,321 --> 00:11:30,955 so I'm gonna do this trailer, I'm gonna try to make it happen. 196 00:11:30,957 --> 00:11:34,426 I think it's time that the family prioritizes paying off the property. 197 00:11:40,400 --> 00:11:43,201 [Meri Brown] Kody actually said to me the other day, 198 00:11:43,203 --> 00:11:47,238 "Why don't you just move up there?" That was not my intention. 199 00:11:47,340 --> 00:11:50,608 I was there at the very beginning. I helped start this family. 200 00:11:50,610 --> 00:11:55,513 It was me and him, and we had plans. He loved me. 201 00:12:02,622 --> 00:12:05,256 [Meri] So, it has been... 202 00:12:06,226 --> 00:12:10,328 four weeks yesterday since my mom passed away. 203 00:12:11,198 --> 00:12:12,831 My mom passed away. 204 00:12:12,833 --> 00:12:17,102 She was living in my bed and breakfast, and she was running that. 205 00:12:20,273 --> 00:12:23,041 Her death was very sudden and unexpected. 206 00:12:23,043 --> 00:12:26,010 Her clothes were just still sitting there on her bed. 207 00:12:29,015 --> 00:12:31,149 And I just didn't even move them, you know? 208 00:12:33,120 --> 00:12:35,153 Yeah, it was unexpected. 209 00:12:37,724 --> 00:12:40,058 It's... 210 00:12:40,127 --> 00:12:44,162 ...been really hard, like, trying to just, like, figure out life without her, 211 00:12:44,231 --> 00:12:47,132 and what to do and how to do it and... 212 00:12:48,602 --> 00:12:49,634 [sighs] 213 00:12:49,703 --> 00:12:52,036 Bonnie's passing was a huge shock. 214 00:12:58,211 --> 00:13:02,947 Huge. I didn't know she was sick. I had no idea. 215 00:13:03,049 --> 00:13:06,951 [Janelle] Bonnie was vibrant and running the B and B, 216 00:13:07,053 --> 00:13:08,720 and then she just kinda got sick one day. 217 00:13:08,722 --> 00:13:13,558 It was almost like she kinda had the flu, and then, like, within a week 218 00:13:13,593 --> 00:13:16,828 she was gone, like her heart. It was shocking. 219 00:13:18,064 --> 00:13:19,831 [Kody] You know I love Bonnie. 220 00:13:19,833 --> 00:13:22,433 She was just a dear part of the family, I thought. 221 00:13:23,537 --> 00:13:24,702 It was just sudden. 222 00:13:28,542 --> 00:13:31,142 Obviously I have my ups and downs and... 223 00:13:34,848 --> 00:13:36,548 ...this week has been a down. 224 00:13:38,552 --> 00:13:42,854 So, I've basically at this point, I've shut the bed and breakfast down. 225 00:13:42,956 --> 00:13:45,156 I just needed time to grieve, myself, 226 00:13:45,225 --> 00:13:47,225 and I needed time to figure out what to do. 227 00:13:48,328 --> 00:13:51,729 Kody actually said to me the other day... 228 00:13:51,731 --> 00:13:54,199 ...he's like, "Why don't you just move up there?" 229 00:13:54,201 --> 00:14:00,104 [chuckling] So, I'm like, "Uh, that was not my intention?" 230 00:14:00,106 --> 00:14:03,842 [exhales] Well, Kody probably didn't mean this in a bad way. 231 00:14:03,910 --> 00:14:09,113 At the same time, it could be completely misunderstood to a point where it's... 232 00:14:09,115 --> 00:14:13,251 ...you know, insensitive, and Kody does think out loud. 233 00:14:13,353 --> 00:14:17,322 He has a tendency to process and be creative out loud, 234 00:14:17,324 --> 00:14:19,157 and it's frightening sometimes, 235 00:14:19,225 --> 00:14:23,628 and not even, and maybe not even sensitive, you know? 236 00:14:23,630 --> 00:14:26,898 It was something that just didn't need to be said. 237 00:14:26,900 --> 00:14:29,734 [Christine] I never thought Meri bought this place so she would move there. 238 00:14:29,803 --> 00:14:34,239 She bought this so her family would have it back in her family. 239 00:14:34,340 --> 00:14:39,544 She's made that so abundantly clear that she's not going to live there. 240 00:14:39,646 --> 00:14:43,014 I can't tell you how many times she's made that abundantly clear. 241 00:14:43,016 --> 00:14:49,120 From the very beginning she's not been interested in living there permanently. 242 00:14:49,122 --> 00:14:50,722 You know, I told him I didn't want to. 243 00:14:50,724 --> 00:14:53,725 I told him I had no intention of doing that, 244 00:14:53,727 --> 00:14:57,629 and he was kind of surprised, you know? He was like, "Oh, really?" 245 00:14:57,631 --> 00:15:00,365 I was there at the very beginning. I helped start this family. 246 00:15:02,535 --> 00:15:07,805 It was me and him, and we had plans. He loved me. 247 00:15:11,945 --> 00:15:18,016 For him to just be like, "Uh, you know, just go up there now." [chuckles] 248 00:15:20,553 --> 00:15:23,788 It didn't make sense. 249 00:15:23,790 --> 00:15:27,625 [sniffles] I guess I'm still just in this place with him, 250 00:15:27,627 --> 00:15:30,561 or he's still in this place where he thinks that, like, 251 00:15:30,663 --> 00:15:33,631 the point of me buying this was 252 00:15:34,401 --> 00:15:35,400 to get away. 253 00:15:36,703 --> 00:15:37,902 And... 254 00:15:39,506 --> 00:15:41,906 ...that really saddens me a lot. 255 00:15:41,908 --> 00:15:46,844 The reason I'm suggesting this to Meri is, honestly, as a family, 256 00:15:46,946 --> 00:15:49,614 anymore it doesn't feel lik we actually interact that much. 257 00:15:50,817 --> 00:15:53,418 I'm not even trying to push her away, I'm just... 258 00:15:53,420 --> 00:15:56,254 She's laying this burden that she has at my feet, 259 00:15:56,323 --> 00:16:00,658 about the struggle she has about what to do with Lizzie's Heritage Inn, 260 00:16:00,727 --> 00:16:03,461 and now that her mom's passed, and I'm like, 261 00:16:03,530 --> 00:16:06,864 "Well, here's a solution for you." 262 00:16:06,933 --> 00:16:10,234 I'm sorry to let Kody or anybody else in my family 263 00:16:10,303 --> 00:16:13,504 who thinks that I just want to move up here. 264 00:16:13,506 --> 00:16:18,009 You know, it's like, I just, I feel bad that after so long 265 00:16:18,011 --> 00:16:21,112 we're still having this conversation. 266 00:16:21,114 --> 00:16:24,749 I think that when Kody and got married, and then when Janelle married him, 267 00:16:24,851 --> 00:16:26,751 and then when Christine came in the family, 268 00:16:26,853 --> 00:16:29,120 and then even when Robyn came in the family, 269 00:16:29,122 --> 00:16:32,824 I think that we had this ideal that we would 270 00:16:32,826 --> 00:16:35,159 be able to get through everything. 271 00:16:39,232 --> 00:16:41,332 And I really want... 272 00:16:42,502 --> 00:16:44,635 ...to have those conversations. 273 00:16:44,737 --> 00:16:47,705 I really want to have those relationships, 274 00:16:47,707 --> 00:16:53,211 and I think that things can be healed where people want to heal them. 275 00:16:57,317 --> 00:16:58,750 And if we don't... 276 00:17:01,121 --> 00:17:04,355 ...I don't know what our family's gonna look like. 277 00:17:04,457 --> 00:17:08,526 I just feel like I'm, like, doing all I can to, um... 278 00:17:10,930 --> 00:17:13,031 ...reassure people that I'm not going anywhere. 279 00:17:13,033 --> 00:17:17,802 Christine having had the discussion with us that she did 280 00:17:17,804 --> 00:17:21,606 about, you know, leaving and wanting to move to Utah, 281 00:17:22,308 --> 00:17:23,808 really affects me. 282 00:17:25,145 --> 00:17:29,514 Dealing with all this, plus the B and B, plus losing mom, 283 00:17:29,516 --> 00:17:34,218 plus my conflict with Kody, I need to just figure out... 284 00:17:35,422 --> 00:17:38,556 ...what it is that I can control... 285 00:17:40,126 --> 00:17:43,761 ...that I can get through. 286 00:17:43,863 --> 00:17:47,565 At this point, I just, I don't know what to do. I am lost... 287 00:17:51,738 --> 00:17:53,404 I feel empty. 288 00:17:54,707 --> 00:17:56,107 I feel... 289 00:17:58,344 --> 00:18:02,313 [clicks tongue]...like I have to figure out a lot of stuff. 290 00:18:02,315 --> 00:18:05,316 And I don't know how to figure it out, and, um... 291 00:18:09,255 --> 00:18:12,824 And the house just feels really empty without mom here. 292 00:18:14,527 --> 00:18:15,526 So... 293 00:18:19,332 --> 00:18:21,332 I'll just keep working on it, I guess. 294 00:18:22,402 --> 00:18:23,434 [sighs] 295 00:18:24,504 --> 00:18:27,939 Some days I feel better, and I can go out 296 00:18:28,040 --> 00:18:31,242 and see people, and I can put on more of a bright face, 297 00:18:31,344 --> 00:18:35,113 but there's days that I just don't want to, and I don't feel capable... 298 00:18:36,416 --> 00:18:38,716 ...and so I just stay in my house. 299 00:18:42,122 --> 00:18:43,654 [sniffles] 300 00:18:51,464 --> 00:18:53,965 [Kody] The house that Janelle is renting is selling. 301 00:18:54,033 --> 00:18:56,801 She's not buying it, so we're moving out. 302 00:18:56,803 --> 00:19:00,438 She looks in the marketplace for a day, half hour, 303 00:19:00,507 --> 00:19:02,907 immediately went, "Well, I can't find a place, 304 00:19:02,909 --> 00:19:06,444 so I'm going to buy an RV." [laughs] 305 00:19:07,914 --> 00:19:11,215 So, we're gonna go see the RV, like, that I bought site unseen. 306 00:19:11,217 --> 00:19:12,517 -Yeah. -[laughing] 307 00:19:12,519 --> 00:19:14,719 So, today we're looking at the RV I actually purchased, 308 00:19:14,721 --> 00:19:17,421 but we won't take it home now for about a month. 309 00:19:17,423 --> 00:19:21,025 So, we're gonna go see the trailer, so I can get an idea what it looks like 310 00:19:21,027 --> 00:19:23,261 and how much stuff to bring when I move in, 311 00:19:23,329 --> 00:19:26,197 and then we'll go back and get it in a few weeks. 312 00:19:26,199 --> 00:19:30,535 We're here at the RV place, it's Janelle's birthday, 313 00:19:30,636 --> 00:19:33,838 and we're looking at her birthday present. 314 00:19:33,940 --> 00:19:37,041 No, Kody did not buy this for me. I don't know what he's talking about. 315 00:19:37,143 --> 00:19:41,412 This is me buying this. I guess it's my birthday present to myself. 316 00:19:41,414 --> 00:19:44,849 [chuckles] I never told... I joked about Janelle 317 00:19:44,918 --> 00:19:46,951 having the RV for her birthday. 318 00:19:47,053 --> 00:19:48,819 It was more like her birthday present to herself. 319 00:19:48,821 --> 00:19:53,858 I never made any innuendo, none, that I had bought the RV. 320 00:19:53,926 --> 00:19:56,661 We can't pick it up for, like, another week and a half or so, 321 00:19:56,762 --> 00:19:59,964 but we're gonna go see if I really bought what I thought I bought. 322 00:19:59,966 --> 00:20:01,999 -That's the scary thing. -That's gonna be interesting. 323 00:20:02,001 --> 00:20:04,202 -Yeah. -So, let's go. 324 00:20:04,204 --> 00:20:05,102 [Janelle] All right. 325 00:20:05,104 --> 00:20:06,938 I don't want to be a Negative Nelly, 326 00:20:06,940 --> 00:20:09,607 but, I, like, one day it's like, 327 00:20:09,609 --> 00:20:11,375 "Ok, 'kay. This will be cool." And the next day, I'm like, 328 00:20:11,377 --> 00:20:13,511 "Oh, my goodness. This is ridiculous." 329 00:20:13,513 --> 00:20:17,548 I have not seen a picture of the actual trailer I bought. 330 00:20:17,617 --> 00:20:21,719 This is everything you should not do in a transaction. 331 00:20:22,622 --> 00:20:23,954 [Kody] What? 332 00:20:23,956 --> 00:20:25,356 -[Janelle] You've got your pass? -[Kody] In my pocket. 333 00:20:25,458 --> 00:20:26,958 So we're getting out of our truck 334 00:20:26,960 --> 00:20:29,260 and I'm, like, "Well, let's film the big reveal." 335 00:20:29,362 --> 00:20:30,828 And she's, like, "No, no, no. I don't want... 336 00:20:30,830 --> 00:20:34,832 Let's go look at it first, I don't want it... No, don't film it." 337 00:20:34,934 --> 00:20:36,634 I don't think anyone's wearing a mask anymore. 338 00:20:37,837 --> 00:20:41,005 Oh, I'm just following you a little ways. 339 00:20:41,007 --> 00:20:44,041 We didn't shoot us at the trailer, 340 00:20:44,043 --> 00:20:46,510 because Janelle was too vulnerable. 341 00:20:46,512 --> 00:20:47,912 All right, now let's go. 342 00:20:47,914 --> 00:20:49,646 Could you please? 343 00:20:49,648 --> 00:20:52,250 [Kody] No, I'm not going to, I was just going to film you walking over a bit. 344 00:20:52,318 --> 00:20:57,955 I think I saw it online and I'm, like, "Oh, that's big. No, no, it's big." 345 00:21:01,361 --> 00:21:07,598 Like, it's big, you step up like, three steps to get into it and it's massive. 346 00:21:07,600 --> 00:21:11,102 It's small, it just seems big, because we're not in it. 347 00:21:13,940 --> 00:21:17,008 I really like it, I'm glad it's so big, 348 00:21:17,010 --> 00:21:20,044 because, honestly, Savanah and I need to live in this. 349 00:21:21,614 --> 00:21:23,447 I'm still moving forward in my life. 350 00:21:23,549 --> 00:21:25,616 And I'm trying to move myself forward 351 00:21:25,618 --> 00:21:29,120 and improve my situation and get a house built, 352 00:21:29,122 --> 00:21:31,856 but all around me it feels like there's all this 353 00:21:31,957 --> 00:21:34,825 chaos and uncertainty, because Christine is leaving. 354 00:21:34,827 --> 00:21:39,030 What does it mean? Are the kids gonna come home all together for the holidays? 355 00:21:39,032 --> 00:21:40,298 Like, there's all these huge... 356 00:21:40,300 --> 00:21:41,699 Like, I feel like I'm on this little path 357 00:21:41,701 --> 00:21:44,035 and there's all these big question marks all around me 358 00:21:44,103 --> 00:21:47,104 and all I can do is just keep moving forward 359 00:21:47,106 --> 00:21:50,908 and try to be open and flexible to whatever the future looks like. 360 00:21:55,048 --> 00:21:57,481 We're throwing Ysabel a graduation party. 361 00:21:57,483 --> 00:22:00,751 Hi! You're so pretty! 362 00:22:00,820 --> 00:22:04,221 [Robyn] There's so many issu still kind of happening. 363 00:22:04,223 --> 00:22:06,624 So I'm a little bit nervous, 'cause I'm, like, "Okay, 364 00:22:06,626 --> 00:22:09,560 are we gonna be able to be around each other or is it gonna be tense?" 365 00:22:26,913 --> 00:22:28,746 [Janelle] So I have about two and half weeks 366 00:22:28,815 --> 00:22:30,648 before I have to be out of my rental house. 367 00:22:30,650 --> 00:22:32,316 The boys have been a godsend. 368 00:22:32,318 --> 00:22:34,552 They've really helped with the packing 369 00:22:34,620 --> 00:22:36,554 and then helping me move the heavy boxes. 370 00:22:38,291 --> 00:22:40,358 [Kody] Janelle and I are in the middle of moving. 371 00:22:40,426 --> 00:22:43,027 We've got to pick up an RV in a week or so. 372 00:22:43,029 --> 00:22:46,163 We've got two and half weeks before we're supposed to be out of this house. 373 00:22:46,265 --> 00:22:52,436 Basically, having moved all of our stuff into storag units and living in the RV. 374 00:22:52,538 --> 00:22:53,971 We're pretty strung out. 375 00:22:55,441 --> 00:23:01,345 I know some family members who, the idea of us living in this RV, 376 00:23:01,414 --> 00:23:02,913 makes them cringe. 377 00:23:09,722 --> 00:23:14,558 I probably wouldn't consider living in a RV on the property. 378 00:23:14,627 --> 00:23:18,362 There's not a big enough RV for my five kids. 379 00:23:18,464 --> 00:23:21,031 [chuckling] Yeah, let's just stick to that. 380 00:23:21,934 --> 00:23:25,035 Living in an RV is not something 381 00:23:25,037 --> 00:23:29,640 that I would want to do, unless I was actually, like, traveling the country. 382 00:23:33,045 --> 00:23:35,813 [Kody] I'm meeting with my friend, my neighbor Pete Page, 383 00:23:35,815 --> 00:23:38,716 an he's a buddy of mine who moves dirt. 384 00:23:38,718 --> 00:23:40,751 [Janelle] Pete is putting in culverts where the water 385 00:23:40,853 --> 00:23:42,453 would naturally come down off the hill, 386 00:23:42,522 --> 00:23:44,221 so that it doesn't wash out the driveway. 387 00:23:47,059 --> 00:23:49,326 So a culvert is basically this metal pipe 388 00:23:49,328 --> 00:23:51,595 that runs under whatever roadway you're building 389 00:23:51,597 --> 00:23:53,531 and allows the water to flow through. 390 00:23:56,702 --> 00:23:58,302 [Kody] The whole thing just makes me feel, 391 00:23:58,304 --> 00:24:01,038 like, a lot of pressure to do a lot of something 392 00:24:01,040 --> 00:24:03,941 that we can't get done completely right now. 393 00:24:03,943 --> 00:24:07,411 It's a stretching of a budget that's got... 394 00:24:08,347 --> 00:24:10,314 Ugh, It's nerve-racking. 395 00:24:10,316 --> 00:24:14,118 I imagined, um, that where we put the trailer 396 00:24:14,120 --> 00:24:18,722 would be the edge of where the drive would kind of come up. 397 00:24:18,724 --> 00:24:21,091 Christine's leaving, that actually doesn't chang 398 00:24:21,093 --> 00:24:24,295 my motivation for putting five houses on Coyote Pass. 399 00:24:24,297 --> 00:24:28,065 My whole motivation of having five homes there would be, you know, 400 00:24:28,133 --> 00:24:31,936 a house for Janelle, a house for Robyn, a house for Meri 401 00:24:31,938 --> 00:24:35,506 and then the two other lots Christine's lot and my lot, 402 00:24:35,508 --> 00:24:38,542 would be so that we can rent them out as well. 403 00:24:38,644 --> 00:24:44,215 That's called an asset, that helps, basically, us survive our retirement. 404 00:24:46,953 --> 00:24:52,990 My life is in a form of limb because Christine's leaving 405 00:24:52,992 --> 00:24:54,925 and I don't know what that looks like. 406 00:24:57,029 --> 00:25:00,030 I've been sort of in the anger phase of divorce 407 00:25:00,032 --> 00:25:03,200 and so I've not been addressing it very well. 408 00:25:03,202 --> 00:25:07,538 You know, so I guess this construction project with Janelle and Pete, 409 00:25:07,640 --> 00:25:09,306 kind of one of those things to get my mind 410 00:25:09,308 --> 00:25:12,309 off of my divorce frustration, but I... 411 00:25:12,311 --> 00:25:15,813 Dude, I am in the anger phase and every once in a while, 412 00:25:15,815 --> 00:25:20,417 I just get tied up in knots over Christine leaving. 413 00:25:28,728 --> 00:25:32,630 [Christine] So, then I'm gon drape it right here for you and this way it won't go. 414 00:25:32,632 --> 00:25:35,799 Now don't blow up any more greens until you really need them, okay? 415 00:25:35,801 --> 00:25:38,235 We're throwing Ysabel a graduation party, 416 00:25:38,337 --> 00:25:42,473 a huge graduation party, well, as big as we can have today. 417 00:25:42,475 --> 00:25:43,941 You're doing great, thank you. 418 00:25:48,347 --> 00:25:51,448 Ysabel wants to travel really bad after graduation 419 00:25:51,550 --> 00:25:54,151 so we're having a world theme. 420 00:25:55,621 --> 00:25:57,721 Uh, we have a lot of decorations, 421 00:25:57,723 --> 00:26:00,658 but they're not staying and... The food's done. 422 00:26:05,264 --> 00:26:06,630 I need everybody's help. 423 00:26:06,632 --> 00:26:08,599 I need Gwen's help, I need Ysabel's help, 424 00:26:08,601 --> 00:26:10,100 I need Truely's help for today. 425 00:26:10,102 --> 00:26:12,903 Well, Kody calls Ysabel and says, "Hey, 426 00:26:12,905 --> 00:26:15,573 how about if we go hang out today before your party?" 427 00:26:15,575 --> 00:26:17,240 And I almost freakin' lost it. 428 00:26:17,242 --> 00:26:22,046 Instead of Kody saying, "Hey, do you need some help with Ysabel's party?" 429 00:26:22,048 --> 00:26:26,650 'Cause it's his daughter, God. [exclaims in frustration] Okay. 430 00:26:28,821 --> 00:26:32,523 I have to have Gwendlyn run a couple of errands, so I have Truely's help. 431 00:26:32,525 --> 00:26:33,724 You're doing great, kid. 432 00:26:36,195 --> 00:26:38,562 You're living your best life, I like it. 433 00:26:38,664 --> 00:26:40,064 I want to support Kody's relationship 434 00:26:40,132 --> 00:26:42,499 with his kids, so I'm going to play nice. 435 00:26:42,501 --> 00:26:44,802 Things are not gonna get done though, I'm just telling you now. 436 00:26:47,306 --> 00:26:52,409 The best part is that everyone has either had a COVID test or they're vaccinated. 437 00:26:52,411 --> 00:26:55,346 And everybody that lives in Flagstaff is coming 438 00:26:55,447 --> 00:26:57,948 and we get to hug and touch people. 439 00:26:58,017 --> 00:26:59,316 And that's what Ysabel was hoping for 440 00:26:59,318 --> 00:27:02,419 was to get everybody together, um, so everybody can hug. 441 00:27:02,421 --> 00:27:05,756 So that's really what this is all about. 442 00:27:10,129 --> 00:27:13,831 I just told the adults a few weeks ago 443 00:27:13,833 --> 00:27:20,070 that I was leaving Kody and I was moving back to Utah, 444 00:27:20,072 --> 00:27:21,638 hopefully in September. 445 00:27:21,640 --> 00:27:24,208 No secret that Kody and I have been in a rough spot for a long time. 446 00:27:25,011 --> 00:27:28,646 And I've decided to leave. 447 00:27:28,714 --> 00:27:29,913 I'm gonna leave Kody. 448 00:27:31,617 --> 00:27:33,050 We haven't talked since. 449 00:27:36,922 --> 00:27:39,657 I knew it was asking a lot of them 450 00:27:39,758 --> 00:27:43,761 to get together just two weeks after I told them I was leaving Kody, 451 00:27:43,829 --> 00:27:48,032 but I also wanted them to know that this might be 452 00:27:48,034 --> 00:27:49,833 one of the last times we get together. 453 00:27:52,638 --> 00:27:55,806 Christine has told us that she's leaving Kody for good. 454 00:27:55,808 --> 00:27:58,175 So I'm a little bit nervous, 'cause I'm, like, "Okay, 455 00:27:58,177 --> 00:28:01,311 are we gonna be able to be around each other and be normal 456 00:28:01,313 --> 00:28:04,648 and natural and comfortable or is it gonna be tense?" 457 00:28:05,818 --> 00:28:10,621 I don't know what kids know that I'm leaving Kody. 458 00:28:10,623 --> 00:28:13,657 All of my kids, except for Truely know, 459 00:28:13,693 --> 00:28:17,361 um, and I know that Janelle's kids know, 460 00:28:17,430 --> 00:28:20,864 but I don't know about Robyn's kids or Mariah, I really have no idea. 461 00:28:22,101 --> 00:28:24,401 [Janelle] My kids know Christine's leaving. 462 00:28:24,403 --> 00:28:26,804 I don't think Gabriel and Garrison are really that concerned, 463 00:28:26,806 --> 00:28:29,640 'cause they're already talking about visiting Christine in Utah. 464 00:28:29,709 --> 00:28:33,711 They just see it as a disruption, not a discontinuation. 465 00:28:36,215 --> 00:28:38,615 [Kody] Okay, you guys can get out of your seats now. 466 00:28:38,617 --> 00:28:41,919 I told all my kids, even Sol and Ari, 467 00:28:41,921 --> 00:28:44,421 about what's going on with Christine. 468 00:28:44,423 --> 00:28:51,462 Dayton and Breanna are sad and confused and frustrated. Sol and Ari are so confused. 469 00:28:53,032 --> 00:28:54,431 And so sad. 470 00:28:56,702 --> 00:28:59,103 Oh, look, it's Gabe, Garrison and Savanah. 471 00:28:59,105 --> 00:29:01,739 [all exclaiming] 472 00:29:01,840 --> 00:29:06,710 For a lot of reasons, we haven't gotten together, COVID being one of them. 473 00:29:06,712 --> 00:29:07,745 Come on and hug me. 474 00:29:08,714 --> 00:29:11,615 There's so many issues still kind of happening 475 00:29:11,617 --> 00:29:14,118 that it was just, like, it's too raw to get together. 476 00:29:14,120 --> 00:29:18,822 I don't know exactly, but, you know, I... I don't know. 477 00:29:18,824 --> 00:29:21,258 [Ysabel] Hi! You're so pretty! 478 00:29:21,360 --> 00:29:22,192 [Kody] Go and say hi. 479 00:29:22,194 --> 00:29:23,761 [Ysabel] Ariella! 480 00:29:23,763 --> 00:29:25,763 [Kody] I'm really glad the kids are able to all interact now, 481 00:29:25,864 --> 00:29:27,564 just be able to say hi to each other. 482 00:29:27,633 --> 00:29:28,599 You look so good. 483 00:29:28,601 --> 00:29:30,934 Hi, you! 484 00:29:31,003 --> 00:29:34,938 [Christine] This is kind of also a farewell for Ysabel too, a little bit 485 00:29:34,940 --> 00:29:38,208 I mean, in a couple of month Ysabel and I are driving cross-country. 486 00:29:38,210 --> 00:29:39,810 And she's gonna live with Maddie and Caleb 487 00:29:39,812 --> 00:29:41,945 and go to school in North Carolina. 488 00:29:42,047 --> 00:29:44,615 [indistinct conversation] 489 00:29:48,521 --> 00:29:51,522 [Kody] I'm really happy that the kids are all havin a really good time. 490 00:29:51,524 --> 00:29:55,826 I cannot get out from under this cloud of sadness. 491 00:29:56,929 --> 00:30:01,498 And it's because of the nuance of a break up. 492 00:30:01,500 --> 00:30:03,834 And I don't know what this is going to lead to. 493 00:30:03,936 --> 00:30:05,636 I don't know what else is going to go on. 494 00:30:08,440 --> 00:30:12,543 I was honestly relieved when I heard my mom was leaving my dad. 495 00:30:12,611 --> 00:30:15,245 They're not happy, they're not in love. 496 00:30:15,314 --> 00:30:20,717 [all singing] Happy birthday to you, happy birthday to you. 497 00:30:20,719 --> 00:30:24,655 With my mom and dad getting a divorce, I did see it coming. 498 00:30:24,756 --> 00:30:26,623 Of course, like, I'm sad about it. 499 00:30:29,628 --> 00:30:33,163 [Christine] Right now, I'm just trying to be presen here and just focus here. 500 00:30:33,265 --> 00:30:34,798 [woman] Where do you want these? 501 00:30:34,800 --> 00:30:38,202 -[Christine] Oh, inside for now. -[woman] Inside? Okay. 502 00:30:38,204 --> 00:30:42,105 I think with my mom and my dad getting a divorce, 503 00:30:42,107 --> 00:30:44,842 if I'm honest, I did see it coming. 504 00:30:44,910 --> 00:30:48,846 But, of course, like, I'm sad about it, like, sometimes it just doesn't work out. 505 00:30:48,914 --> 00:30:51,748 And I'm happy that my mom will be able to find somebody 506 00:30:51,817 --> 00:30:54,051 who she's really, really, really happy with. 507 00:30:56,922 --> 00:31:01,058 I was honestly relieved when I heard my mom was leaving my dad. 508 00:31:01,060 --> 00:31:03,427 They're not happy, they're not in love. 509 00:31:04,864 --> 00:31:08,198 I thought it was a little inevitable. 510 00:31:08,200 --> 00:31:13,537 I can't imagine any man being perfect enough 511 00:31:13,606 --> 00:31:16,306 to be able to handle four wives. 512 00:31:18,410 --> 00:31:20,444 [Kody] I've got, what feels like, 513 00:31:20,512 --> 00:31:22,946 very strained relationships with a bunch of the kids. 514 00:31:23,048 --> 00:31:25,315 I'm not in a good place with everybody. 515 00:31:25,317 --> 00:31:27,317 And it's not that I'm trying to be angry 516 00:31:27,319 --> 00:31:31,421 or trying to hold them accountable in this moment or anything like that. 517 00:31:31,423 --> 00:31:34,057 I don't feel like I've got the respect that I should have. 518 00:31:40,232 --> 00:31:43,500 No, I'm not okay. I'm here in a... 519 00:31:44,536 --> 00:31:46,436 I'm here, I'm in a funk. 520 00:31:46,538 --> 00:31:52,643 It's kind of, uh, this loneliness, 521 00:31:54,346 --> 00:31:57,915 combined with a bitterness with the entire family. 522 00:32:00,419 --> 00:32:02,252 [Christine] Okay, everybody! 523 00:32:03,222 --> 00:32:05,355 Hey, everybody, it's time to gather up. 524 00:32:05,424 --> 00:32:09,059 I'm gonna get the cake ready, we can sing happy birthday to Yzzy. 525 00:32:09,962 --> 00:32:11,428 [Janelle] So, Ysabel, you're 18. 526 00:32:11,430 --> 00:32:14,998 [Christine] All right, this is a birthday slash graduation. 527 00:32:15,000 --> 00:32:16,900 [Kody] Are you sweet 17? 528 00:32:16,902 --> 00:32:19,336 [Ysabel] Uh, I'm almost sweet 18. 529 00:32:19,405 --> 00:32:21,605 -Oh, yeah, you're... -[Ysabel] This is an 18 party. 530 00:32:21,607 --> 00:32:24,641 -Yeah, so you're sweet 18. -[exclaims] 531 00:32:24,743 --> 00:32:26,109 Finally I'm sweet. 532 00:32:26,111 --> 00:32:27,711 That'll get you a new car. 533 00:32:27,713 --> 00:32:29,146 Whoo! 534 00:32:29,214 --> 00:32:31,815 -[woman] Thank you, I'm excited. -That was worth it, yeah! 535 00:32:31,817 --> 00:32:36,620 It was worth it because you didn't waste the kisses on any stupid boys. 536 00:32:36,622 --> 00:32:42,326 A sweet 16 birthday party is a birthday party where the girl hasn't been kissed. 537 00:32:42,328 --> 00:32:44,227 I don't know where this term came from. 538 00:32:44,229 --> 00:32:45,762 It was something I was hearing in high school, 539 00:32:45,831 --> 00:32:48,065 was, you know, the girl who hasn't ever kissed a boy. 540 00:32:48,100 --> 00:32:52,602 Young men and young women, or men and women, should both do the same thing. 541 00:32:52,604 --> 00:32:59,810 You protect yourself, you find trust before you're driven mad with sexuality. 542 00:32:59,812 --> 00:33:05,615 [all singing] Happy birthday to you, happy birthday to you. 543 00:33:05,617 --> 00:33:09,052 [Ysabel] We kind of jumped right back to where we were 544 00:33:09,054 --> 00:33:13,523 before the COVID hit back, we're just, like, family again. 545 00:33:14,126 --> 00:33:15,525 Which is really nice. 546 00:33:15,527 --> 00:33:18,795 [all singing] Happy birthday to you. 547 00:33:18,797 --> 00:33:20,764 -[all cheering] -Thank you, guys. 548 00:33:22,534 --> 00:33:24,801 -[Kody] I don't even think you got them all. -Not even any of them. 549 00:33:26,005 --> 00:33:29,106 [Robyn] It feels like old times for sure right now. 550 00:33:29,108 --> 00:33:30,941 And I just kind of wanna hang on to this moment, 551 00:33:31,043 --> 00:33:36,046 'cause I just don't know when the next time will be that we'll be doing this. 552 00:33:36,048 --> 00:33:37,614 [woman 1] I think you should tell some stories 553 00:33:37,616 --> 00:33:39,082 about these pictures, like, they're-- 554 00:33:39,084 --> 00:33:41,551 [woman 2] Oh, good idea! 555 00:33:41,620 --> 00:33:45,822 This is a fun picture with Gwendlyn and Savanah. 556 00:33:45,824 --> 00:33:47,824 We're trying to distract Ysabel, 557 00:33:47,826 --> 00:33:50,027 so we can kind of set up for this song, 558 00:33:50,029 --> 00:33:52,229 but we wanted to do something special for her. 559 00:33:52,231 --> 00:33:56,099 So we're setting up a guitar and a mic, 560 00:33:56,101 --> 00:33:59,403 so that we can sing this song for Ysabel 561 00:33:59,405 --> 00:34:02,606 and we're trying to distract her over here while we get set up. 562 00:34:02,608 --> 00:34:05,242 This is... I love this one where she's just, like, snarfing. 563 00:34:05,343 --> 00:34:06,709 [Ysabel] That was my first birthday. 564 00:34:06,711 --> 00:34:08,545 -Making a mess of herself. -That one is? Your first birthday? 565 00:34:08,614 --> 00:34:10,247 [Ysabel] Yeah. 566 00:34:10,249 --> 00:34:11,982 [Christine] Aurora's gonna start plucking away on her guitar 567 00:34:11,984 --> 00:34:13,817 and then start doing the song. 568 00:34:13,819 --> 00:34:17,320 And then I'm gonna sing and then Gabe's gonna join in 569 00:34:17,322 --> 00:34:19,122 and then everybody's gonna join in. 570 00:34:19,124 --> 00:34:21,925 I'm excited, they practiced so well. 571 00:34:21,927 --> 00:34:24,761 As far as I know, this is a complete surprise for her. 572 00:34:24,830 --> 00:34:27,831 [laughing] I did practice the song, yeah. 573 00:34:27,833 --> 00:34:28,565 [strumming guitar] 574 00:34:30,302 --> 00:34:32,235 Oh, no. No. 575 00:34:33,305 --> 00:34:35,005 Oh, my God. Wait, I'm gonna cry. 576 00:34:39,211 --> 00:34:42,212 ♪ I am unwritten ♪ 577 00:34:42,214 --> 00:34:44,881 ♪ Can't read my mind ♪ 578 00:34:44,883 --> 00:34:49,519 ♪ I'm undefined, yeah ♪ 579 00:34:49,521 --> 00:34:52,756 [Christine] It's a very appropriate song for someone who's graduating 580 00:34:53,759 --> 00:34:56,159 ♪ Feel the rain on your skin ♪ 581 00:34:56,228 --> 00:34:58,728 ♪ No one else can Feel it for you ♪ 582 00:34:58,730 --> 00:35:00,897 ♪ Only you can let it in ♪ 583 00:35:00,899 --> 00:35:02,999 ♪ No one else No one else ♪ 584 00:35:03,001 --> 00:35:05,836 ♪ Can speak the words On your lips ♪ 585 00:35:05,937 --> 00:35:08,638 [Kody] She starts hearing the song and we've got her immediatel 586 00:35:08,740 --> 00:35:14,211 ♪ Release your inhibitions ♪ 587 00:35:14,213 --> 00:35:16,646 ♪ Feel the rain on your skin ♪ 588 00:35:16,748 --> 00:35:19,116 ♪ No one else Can feel it for you ♪ 589 00:35:19,118 --> 00:35:21,351 ♪ Only you can let it in ♪ 590 00:35:21,419 --> 00:35:23,653 ♪ No one else No one else ♪ 591 00:35:23,722 --> 00:35:26,089 ♪ Can speak the words On your lips ♪ 592 00:35:26,091 --> 00:35:27,724 [Christine] It was really sweet for them to do 593 00:35:27,792 --> 00:35:30,727 and, you know, the three of those girls are really pretty close. 594 00:35:30,729 --> 00:35:33,730 ♪ Today is where Your book begins ♪ 595 00:35:35,033 --> 00:35:37,434 Oh, you guys are so sweet. 596 00:35:38,537 --> 00:35:41,805 ♪ The rest is Still unwritten ♪ 597 00:35:43,041 --> 00:35:46,510 ♪ The rest is Still unwritten ♪ 598 00:35:48,614 --> 00:35:53,783 Bravo! That was beautiful. Thank you, guys, I appreciate it. 599 00:35:53,785 --> 00:35:56,119 Ah, I was perfect. 600 00:35:56,121 --> 00:36:00,023 And then the best part, Ysabel was surprised and then she was touched. 601 00:36:00,025 --> 00:36:01,858 And she loved it. 602 00:36:01,927 --> 00:36:03,560 So it just... It's the best. 603 00:36:07,332 --> 00:36:09,599 How does this not work for everybody? 604 00:36:10,502 --> 00:36:13,737 Why isn't this something we're staying for? 605 00:36:13,805 --> 00:36:17,641 The message that we had to the world about polygamy 606 00:36:17,742 --> 00:36:20,310 um, seems so dysfunctional now. 607 00:36:26,018 --> 00:36:30,220 I'm just excited to be here, it's like it's healing, it's nice. 608 00:36:32,691 --> 00:36:34,357 [Ysabel] The party I think went really well. 609 00:36:34,459 --> 00:36:36,326 I think everyone had a good time. 610 00:36:36,328 --> 00:36:39,062 I think, overall, it was successful. 611 00:36:43,302 --> 00:36:45,035 [Meri] The graduation party was a crazy thing. 612 00:36:46,104 --> 00:36:49,206 Especially since Ysabel is moving away. 613 00:36:49,208 --> 00:36:52,542 She just glows happiness. 614 00:36:52,611 --> 00:36:57,714 It's gonna be kind of a bummer not to be able to see her very often. 615 00:37:01,119 --> 00:37:03,253 Thank you, I appreciate it so much. 616 00:37:03,322 --> 00:37:04,421 I appreciate you. 617 00:37:05,324 --> 00:37:06,623 I'm glad we were able to do that for you. 618 00:37:06,625 --> 00:37:08,124 [Christine] I'm extremely proud of her. 619 00:37:08,126 --> 00:37:12,062 Um, she's just full of grace and kindness. 620 00:37:12,130 --> 00:37:15,599 And just sweet, but so much strength. 621 00:37:15,601 --> 00:37:17,534 -You ready? -[Ysabel] I'm ready. 622 00:37:21,106 --> 00:37:24,641 [Christine] And she's dealt with so much, scoliosis, migraines. 623 00:37:24,743 --> 00:37:27,911 She's had it rougher than the rest of my kids, yet here she is, 624 00:37:27,913 --> 00:37:30,580 glowing and shining and amazing. 625 00:37:30,582 --> 00:37:32,215 She's an amazing person. 626 00:37:32,217 --> 00:37:33,717 You guys are amazeballs! 627 00:37:37,322 --> 00:37:39,055 [Janelle] So now she's gonn move to North Carolina 628 00:37:39,157 --> 00:37:41,024 and live with Maddie and Caleb. 629 00:37:41,026 --> 00:37:42,258 And it's gonna be really great, 630 00:37:42,260 --> 00:37:45,328 'cause she will be able to out and kind of experience 631 00:37:45,330 --> 00:37:48,698 the world outside her mom's home and outside of Flagstaff, 632 00:37:48,700 --> 00:37:51,334 but she'll be sort of in a safe, protected environment, 633 00:37:51,336 --> 00:37:53,336 cause Maddie and Caleb will be there. 634 00:38:01,013 --> 00:38:07,250 [Robyn] It's strange, becaus like, we're in this moment and we're having a nice time 635 00:38:10,122 --> 00:38:13,723 How is this wrong? How does this not work for everybody? 636 00:38:16,828 --> 00:38:19,763 Why isn't this something worth fighting for? 637 00:38:19,864 --> 00:38:22,332 Why isn't this something worth staying for? 638 00:38:26,738 --> 00:38:30,640 I don't know, I'm just one of those peopl who hopes constantly 639 00:38:30,709 --> 00:38:34,944 that maybe something will spark for someone 640 00:38:34,946 --> 00:38:39,549 and they'll just go, "Oh, this is worth figuring out and sticking around." 641 00:38:39,617 --> 00:38:43,520 Because, I don't know, I would look at it and think that. 642 00:38:43,522 --> 00:38:47,057 That's your grandbaby, really? That's nice. 643 00:38:47,125 --> 00:38:48,491 That's nice. 644 00:38:48,493 --> 00:38:50,126 [Kody] Let's just put it there, Robyn. 645 00:38:52,064 --> 00:38:55,565 He could make Christine feel, like, "Hey, this is worth staying for." 646 00:39:00,005 --> 00:39:04,507 I believe God can, um, make miracles happen. 647 00:39:09,047 --> 00:39:11,448 I wonder if it's a game. 648 00:39:11,549 --> 00:39:13,650 [Meri] You know, when I loo at days like this, 649 00:39:13,719 --> 00:39:15,719 when we're all together and we're smiling 650 00:39:15,721 --> 00:39:18,521 and we're setting the crap aside. 651 00:39:18,523 --> 00:39:20,156 Like, why can't we do that? 652 00:39:20,158 --> 00:39:24,527 Why can't we work on the things that we need to work on between each other? 653 00:39:27,666 --> 00:39:30,800 We're not doing justice to our family 654 00:39:30,802 --> 00:39:35,105 and we're not doing, you know, justice to Ariella and Solomon and Truely, 655 00:39:35,107 --> 00:39:40,243 these little ones who really need to have that security of family. 656 00:39:42,414 --> 00:39:46,950 I'm devoted to, you know, doing what I need to do. 657 00:39:47,051 --> 00:39:48,551 I know that not everybody is. 658 00:39:50,122 --> 00:39:52,722 [Janelle] It feels there's storms brewing in the family 659 00:39:52,724 --> 00:39:53,790 I don't know what they mean 660 00:39:53,792 --> 00:39:56,326 I don't know what the outcome will be. 661 00:39:56,328 --> 00:39:57,894 I, personally, am not very optimistic 662 00:39:57,896 --> 00:39:59,562 that we'll see very many days like this. 663 00:39:59,631 --> 00:40:01,331 Did you say the quiche is gluten-free? 664 00:40:01,333 --> 00:40:03,333 The quiche is gluten-free, yes. 665 00:40:03,435 --> 00:40:05,802 Kody is not one to hide his emotions though. 666 00:40:05,804 --> 00:40:08,104 He's more, like, gonna show you how he's feeling. 667 00:40:08,106 --> 00:40:11,107 And I think he's just super sad. And it's bittersweet. 668 00:40:11,109 --> 00:40:14,110 He loves Ysabel and he hasn't spent enough time with her 669 00:40:14,112 --> 00:40:16,012 and I think he's probably realizing that. 670 00:40:22,487 --> 00:40:24,521 [Kody] This evening has gon off without a hitch. 671 00:40:24,523 --> 00:40:27,724 It's been wonderful and I think Ysabel has felt special. 672 00:40:29,227 --> 00:40:30,260 I'm just blue. 673 00:40:32,164 --> 00:40:34,664 Sol, pull your britches up. 674 00:40:34,733 --> 00:40:40,703 We will never be there agai if we really go through this Christine is leaving. 675 00:40:40,705 --> 00:40:43,239 Is she really going to leave 676 00:40:43,341 --> 00:40:48,945 I'm living in a delusional world where I'm wishing that Christine wouldn't leave. 677 00:40:52,217 --> 00:40:54,951 I was wishing Ysabel would go to school here. 678 00:40:55,020 --> 00:41:00,323 We would be able to maintain some quasi-family relationship. 679 00:41:01,927 --> 00:41:04,160 I'm struggling with... 680 00:41:04,229 --> 00:41:09,332 ...sort of a state of regre and frustration. 681 00:41:16,041 --> 00:41:18,141 It's a weird thing to be getting left. 682 00:41:26,885 --> 00:41:29,319 It's made me question getting into plural marriage 683 00:41:29,321 --> 00:41:34,958 It's made me question my faith and especially, question my religion. 684 00:41:34,960 --> 00:41:40,830 The message that we had to the world about functional polygamy, um, 685 00:41:40,832 --> 00:41:42,999 seems so dysfunctional now. 686 00:41:45,537 --> 00:41:47,737 [narrator reading] 687 00:41:47,839 --> 00:41:50,240 I just told Truely that I'm moving to Utah. 688 00:41:50,341 --> 00:41:52,108 I don't know how I feel about that. 689 00:41:52,110 --> 00:41:54,410 It feels hostile to me. 690 00:41:54,412 --> 00:41:57,413 I don't want to be antagonistic or disagreeable 691 00:41:57,415 --> 00:41:59,782 But I don't wanna agree to anything. 692 00:41:59,784 --> 00:42:02,218 Hey, you have a new house. 693 00:42:02,220 --> 00:42:05,321 I'm boondocking. There's no septic, there's no water. 694 00:42:05,323 --> 00:42:06,456 And there's no power. 695 00:42:06,525 --> 00:42:07,824 Oh, this is great, it's big. 696 00:42:07,826 --> 00:42:10,226 I do not wanna live in the trailer. 697 00:42:10,228 --> 00:42:12,161 Janelle has a tiny, little kitchen 698 00:42:12,230 --> 00:42:14,998 and a tiny, little house and a tiny, little bathroom 699 00:42:15,000 --> 00:42:18,701 Why am I gonna sit here and suffer with you with your choices? 700 00:42:18,703 --> 00:42:22,438 [Christine] So Mykelti calle me and we were talking about me moving to Utah. 701 00:42:22,540 --> 00:42:24,941 But I looked behind me and there was Truely. 702 00:42:25,944 --> 00:42:29,112 That was the worst conversation of my life.