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[narrator]
Previously on Sister Wives..
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So, Ysabel initially, like,
they were told they could all
go back to the classroom.
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So I would like
her to go in person.
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If Ysabel's gonna go
back to school,
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then that totally changes
everything at your house,
Christine.
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[mocking Kody] "If you go
to school, I can't see you."
I think that's ridiculous.
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I'm telling my sister wives
that I'm leaving Kody.
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I have decided to leave.
I'm gonna leave, Kody.
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Well, damn.
I mean, what do you say?
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[Janelle Brown]
I'm just processing.
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If everybody's willing
to conform to patriarchy,
I guess...
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...I'm gonna be the head
of my household again.
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Yeah, I didn't know
I'd signed up for patriarchy.
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That's not what we
all agreed on
in the very beginning.
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If you move to Utah,
what about Truely?
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I think Truely's
gonna be fine.
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She's never gonna come back?
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You can't take her from me.
It'll have to be 50/50.
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She didn't ask me
if I was okay if I didn't
stay at her house,
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she just told me not to.
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She didn't ask if it was okay
if she moved my stuff out,
she just did it.
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She didn't ask if it was okay
if she moved to Utah
and took Truely,
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she just told me
she was gonna do it.
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Now he wants
50/50 time with them?
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Well, hell. He could have had
50/50 time with us the whole
[bleep] time we lived here.
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Christine and I have been
on the fast track from
separation to divorce
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now for a few months, I guess.
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The last time the family got
together was when Christine
told us she was leaving.
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I feel very separated
from the family.
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Even with me, with my
relationship with Janelle
and with Robyn and the kids
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I've struggled
through this process.
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I'm just trying to deal
with it, but I've got
other problems coming up,
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you know?
Janelle's gotta move,
she's buying an RV,
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I've got to figure out a way
to get that onto the property,
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and so I gotta hurry up
and get over
to Janelle's house
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so we can
figure this out.
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[Janelle] I went with Kody
to pick this truck up
about a week ago.
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-[Kody] How's it going?
-[Janelle] Hi, honey.
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It can pull a lot, and it will
be big enough to pull
the trailer I bought.
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[Kody]
Nice to see you. So...
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Yeah, I guess we are...
I guess he got this truck.
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"Oh, we have to buy a truck
to move a trailer."
I'm like...
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..."No. You don't."
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I saw my sister-in-law,
my brother's widow,
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um, back in the holidays,
and I was like,
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"If you're ever gonna sell
that truck, then I'd like
to buy it."
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That'd be just fun as can be
to keep that truck
in the family.
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So I bought my brother's truck
from his widow,
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and I, it gives me
a bit of joy
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to have that, you know,
so, and now of course,
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it's a big enough truck.
It's big, it's tough,
and it will pull the RV.
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There's just a couple things
that happened that made
me realize
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-I needed a bigger truck,
but not all the time.
-[Janelle] Yeah.
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And the problem
is I don't like having
equipment that I don't use.
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Well, I drive this,
and I love it.
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I don't want
to wear out this truck
on a soccer mom, okay?
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Okay, well then don't complain
to me, [mocking Kody]
"I don't want to have..."
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-[Kody] Okay, the whole--
-"...equipment that
I don't use." I use it.
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I really do love it.
I would figure out, like,
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it's as big
as Caleb and Maddie's truck,
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and Maddie drives that thing
like a boss,
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so I know I can figure out
how to drive this thing.
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It's kind of a funny thought
of, like,
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seeing Janelle driving
all over Flagstaff
in this big, huge truck.
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[Janelle] You can figure ou
anything, right?
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It just takes a little bit
of time and some practice.
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I've also head funny stories
about Janelle struggling
to drive big vehicles
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and to do things, and stuff
like that, so, I mean,
I don't know.
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You and I honestly need
to go out to the property
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-and look at where we want
our home site, specifically.
-[Janelle] Yeah.
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I mean, the biggest thing
is I'm moving into the trailer
in six weeks.
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I have to be out of here
in six weeks.
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My vision for the property
is that we'll start
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with what they call a casita,
it's a very popular
thing here.
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Basically for us
it'll be a detached garage
with a living space above it.
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In a few years or whatever,
we'll build the bigger house.
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It's May already, and...
uh,
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I'm moving onto the property
at the end of June.
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I really am hoping to be able
to break ground
by the wintertime.
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[Kody] Um...
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Have you, are you starting
to sort out what
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-you're keeping and what
you're dumping?
-Yeah.
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-[Kody] Okay.
-[Janelle] 'Cause I'm only
really taking like
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three suitcases worth of stuff
to the trailer
'cause it's small.
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She's moving into a house
the size of, like,
my kitchen and living room.
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I don't see Kody doing well
in this fifth will.
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There's nothing out there.
It's just bare land.
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She'll figure it out.
She figures out everything.
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She wants to do something
bad enough, she's gonna do it.
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[Kody] I don't want
to put all my stuff
in storage.
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It's not gonna have a place
with Janelle.
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So now I've gotta move
all of my stuff from Janelle's
house to Robyn's house.
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Kody's always had a lot
of stuff. He's always had
a lot of stuff.
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And in Vegas, like, he had
four houses that he would put
his stuff in.
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So he had four
of everything, right? Or mor
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And now, I know
he doesn't have
his stuff at Meri's.
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Of course he doesn't have
his stuff at my house.
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He can't put his stuff
at Janelle's 'cause she has
a little tiny trailer.
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So it's either in storage
somewhere or at Robyn's.
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No idea where
he has his stuff.
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[Kody]
We're kind of under the gun.
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I think we need
to go look at the property
and figure out, um...
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Well, the biggest thing
is where are we gonna
put the trailer?
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And I did see one space
that I think works
really well.
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We might need more
than one space, though.
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I agree, 'cause we have
to move it every four months.
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The county has a rule
that you can only keep an RV
or a trailer or something
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on your property
for 120 consecutive days.
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My plan is that I should
hopefully be done building
in a year.
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So in that year,
I need to move my trailer
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every 120 days
to somebody else's parcel,
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so that we stay within
county code.
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You and I need to really
go out on the property
and look.
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Yeah, 'cause we're bringing
the trailer home.
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I think we're gonna have
to take it right out there.
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Which means that I gotta have,
uh, somebody come in and pour
some gravel or something out.
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We should have never bought
the RV 'cause we're gonna
be moving it all the time.
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Just do me a huge favor,
and everybody else
a huge favor, just,
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let's talk to each one
of your sister wives
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and get their permission
for every little aspect
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of what we're doing
when it comes to the property.
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I'm struggling because
I'm not optimistic about ho
this is gonna come together
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She's gotta ask permission
to be on somebody
else's property.
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This is typical Kody, like,
he's all on board
for something,
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and then he goes away for
a couple of days, and he comes
back and he's like,
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"Oh, my God.
We got all these problems.
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"You gotta ask
your sister wives.
You gotta, blah, blah, blah.
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Why? Like, why?
I don't need their permission.
We've already agreed.
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I do not have time for this.
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What if I don't want
an RV pad in that spot
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that she just decides to put
her trailer temporarily?
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[Robyn Brown] So there's
a permanent cycle. Kody
and Janelle are out there,
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will they start
kind of formulating ways
to get these pieces paid off
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so that we can get started?
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Maybe this will be good.
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[Kody] There's things
that Janelle does frequentl
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that aren't like a married
husband and wife,
as we do things separate.
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He's no longer advocating.
He's no longer acting
as my husband here.
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All right, honey, I'm gonna...
I gotta run and do
some errands.
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Do you wanna go get
the trailer and then
we'll have the boys?
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Uh, yeah.
I'll go grab the trailer,
and, um...
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-I guess, maybe the boys
will help me load the...
-The piano.
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-[Kody]...piano tonight. Okay.
-[Janelle] All right.
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She wants to get moving.
She wants to get
something done.
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And I'm resistant because
there's a lot of things to do
in that process,
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and it starts with asking
other people
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if you can park your RV
on their property.
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I'm not going to ask.
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[Janelle] We bought
the property three
freakin' years ago.
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We should have done
this already.
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[mocking Kody] "Well, maybe
we should get together
and talk about it again?"
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No. You guys figure out
what you're gonna do
with your lots
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'cause I need to move forward
with mine.
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I don't have a home
in six weeks. I could not
get a hold of any rentals.
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I bought a trailer.
I'm out there in six weeks.
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[Kody]
Thanks for coming, gang.
We're gonna...
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Just, yeah.
Look at the property
and give you guys
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an idea, 'cause I know,
Carmel, we talked about plans.
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Before we start
the actual house plans,
I kind of want the experts
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to kinda see and weigh in
and see what really needs
to be done here.
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What I like is coming up
the hill. We're out
of the water a little bit.
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-I mean, like, right?
-[man] Exactly, yeah.
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[Kody] Well, I still wanna
put the RV there 'cause
it's close
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-to the road and easier.
-[Janelle] That's fine.
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[man] That'd be your driveway
come in here.
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[Kody] This is gonna
be really satisfactory
to Janelle because
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where she's finally pushed u
to the point where we're
making a plan for something
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There's a method
to her madness,
but it's very dangerous
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to try and push around people
who are resistant to what
you're trying to push.
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From what I understand,
I don't think there's really
anything that can be done yet
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because we've got to pay
for the property before
we start doing anything.
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So there's a lot
of steps, still,
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and I just don't know
how fast that's gonna happen
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I don't want anything to do
with Coyote Pass...
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...but it's not my land,
it's their land.
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They can do whatever
that want with it.
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So then right here
is a better place
for the house.
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[Janelle] I think so.
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Like, there's been
kind of this idea
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of her hopping pieces
of property kind of a thing.
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[chuckles] It's really
not being talked about a lot.
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It's just kind of happening.
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I'm trying to sit here
and figure out why she thinks
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we're gonna be able
to do this.
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For me, Kody, it's really
about building fast.
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I feel like if there's a will,
there's a way.
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[Kody] Cost of lumber prices,
is that really impacting
the overall cost nowadays?
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-Do you know?
-[man] Oh, yeah.
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It's the cost of everything
going up right now too.
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-[Kody] But it's everything.
Okay.
-Yeah.
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I've been saving my money.
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I've been scrimping and saving
and sacrificing
so I could build.
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-[Kody] Thanks for coming.
I really appreciate it.
-[woman] Thank you.
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I don't have anywhere
to live right now,
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so I'm gonna do this trailer,
I'm gonna try to make
it happen.
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I think it's time that
the family prioritizes
paying off the property.
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[Meri Brown] Kody actually
said to me the other day,
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"Why don't you just move
up there?" That was not
my intention.
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I was there at
the very beginning.
I helped start this family.
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It was me and him,
and we had plans.
He loved me.
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[Meri]
So, it has been...
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four weeks yesterday
since my mom passed away.
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My mom passed away.
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She was living
in my bed and breakfast,
and she was running that.
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Her death was very sudden
and unexpected.
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Her clothes were just still
sitting there on her bed.
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And I just didn't even
move them, you know?
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Yeah, it was unexpected.
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It's...
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...been really hard, like,
trying to just, like,
figure out life without her,
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and what to do
and how to do it and...
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[sighs]
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Bonnie's passing
was a huge shock.
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Huge.
I didn't know she was sick.
I had no idea.
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[Janelle]
Bonnie was vibrant
and running the B and B,
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and then she just kinda
got sick one day.
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It was almost like she
kinda had the flu,
and then, like, within a week
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she was gone, like her heart.
It was shocking.
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[Kody]
You know I love Bonnie.
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She was just a dear part
of the family, I thought.
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It was just sudden.
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Obviously I have
my ups and downs and...
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...this week has been a down.
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So, I've basically
at this point, I've shut
the bed and breakfast down.
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I just needed time
to grieve, myself,
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and I needed time
to figure out what to do.
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Kody actually said
to me the other day...
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...he's like,
"Why don't you
just move up there?"
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[chuckling] So, I'm like,
"Uh, that was not
my intention?"
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[exhales] Well, Kody
probably didn't mean
this in a bad way.
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At the same time, it could
be completely misunderstood
to a point where it's...
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...you know, insensitive,
and Kody does think out loud.
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He has a tendency to process
and be creative out loud,
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and it's frightening
sometimes,
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and not even,
and maybe not even sensitive,
you know?
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It was something
that just didn't need
to be said.
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[Christine] I never thought
Meri bought this place so
she would move there.
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She bought this so her family
would have it back
in her family.
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She's made that
so abundantly clear that
she's not going to live there.
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I can't tell you
how many times she's made
that abundantly clear.
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From the very beginning
she's not been interested
in living there permanently.
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You know, I told him
I didn't want to.
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I told him I had no intention
of doing that,
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and he was kind of surprised,
you know? He was like,
"Oh, really?"
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I was there
at the very beginning.
I helped start this family.
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It was me and him,
and we had plans.
He loved me.
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For him to just be like,
"Uh, you know, just go
up there now." [chuckles]
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It didn't make sense.
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[sniffles] I guess I'm still
just in this place with him,
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or he's still in this place
where he thinks that, like,
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the point of me buying
this was
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to get away.
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And...
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...that really saddens me
a lot.
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The reason I'm suggesting
this to Meri is, honestly,
as a family,
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anymore it doesn't feel lik
we actually interact
that much.
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I'm not even trying
to push her away,
I'm just...
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She's laying this burden
that she has at my feet,
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about the struggle she has
about what to do with
Lizzie's Heritage Inn,
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and now that her
mom's passed, and I'm like,
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"Well, here's a solution
for you."
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I'm sorry to let Kody
or anybody else
in my family
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who thinks that I just
want to move up here.
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You know, it's like,
I just, I feel bad
that after so long
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we're still having
this conversation.
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I think that when Kody and
got married, and then when
Janelle married him,
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and then when Christine
came in the family,
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and then even when Robyn
came in the family,
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I think that we had
this ideal that we would
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be able to get
through everything.
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And I really want...
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...to have
those conversations.
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I really want
to have those relationships,
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and I think that things
can be healed where people
want to heal them.
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And if we don't...
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...I don't know
what our family's
gonna look like.
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I just feel like I'm, like,
doing all I can to, um...
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...reassure people
that I'm not going anywhere.
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Christine having had
the discussion with us
that she did
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about, you know, leaving
and wanting to move
to Utah,
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really affects me.
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Dealing with all this,
plus the B and B,
plus losing mom,
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plus my conflict with Kody,
I need to just figure out...
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...what it is that
I can control...
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...that I can get through.
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At this point, I just,
I don't know what to do.
I am lost...
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I feel empty.
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I feel...
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[clicks tongue]...like I have
to figure out a lot of stuff.
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And I don't know how
to figure it out, and, um...
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And the house just feels
really empty without mom here.
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So...
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I'll just keep working
on it, I guess.
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[sighs]
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Some days I feel better,
and I can go out
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and see people,
and I can put on
more of a bright face,
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but there's days
that I just don't want to,
and I don't feel capable...
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...and so I just stay
in my house.
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[sniffles]
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[Kody] The house
that Janelle is renting
is selling.
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She's not buying it,
so we're moving out.
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She looks in the marketplace
for a day, half hour,
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immediately went,
"Well, I can't find a place,
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so I'm going to buy
an RV." [laughs]
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So, we're gonna go see
the RV, like, that I bought
site unseen.
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-Yeah.
-[laughing]
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So, today we're looking
at the RV
I actually purchased,
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but we won't take it home
now for about a month.
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So, we're gonna go see
the trailer, so I can get
an idea what it looks like
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and how much stuff to bring
when I move in,
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and then we'll go back
and get it in a few weeks.
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We're here at the RV place,
it's Janelle's birthday,
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and we're looking
at her birthday present.
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No, Kody did not buy
this for me. I don't know
what he's talking about.
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This is me buying this.
I guess it's my
birthday present to myself.
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[chuckles] I never told...
I joked about Janelle
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having the RV
for her birthday.
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It was more like her
birthday present to herself.
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I never made any innuendo,
none, that I had bought
the RV.
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We can't pick it up
for, like, another week
and a half or so,
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but we're gonna go see
if I really bought what
I thought I bought.
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-That's the scary thing.
-That's gonna be interesting.
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00:20:02,001 --> 00:20:04,202
-Yeah.
-So, let's go.
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[Janelle] All right.
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I don't want
to be a Negative Nelly,
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but, I, like,
one day it's like,
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"Ok, 'kay. This will be cool."
And the next day, I'm like,
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00:20:11,377 --> 00:20:13,511
"Oh, my goodness.
This is ridiculous."
329
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I have not seen
a picture of the actual
trailer I bought.
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This is everything
you should not do
in a transaction.
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[Kody] What?
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-[Janelle] You've got
your pass?
-[Kody] In my pocket.
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So we're getting
out of our truck
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and I'm, like, "Well,
let's film the big reveal."
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And she's, like, "No, no, no.
I don't want...
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Let's go look at it first,
I don't want it...
No, don't film it."
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00:20:34,934 --> 00:20:36,634
I don't think anyone's
wearing a mask anymore.
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00:20:37,837 --> 00:20:41,005
Oh, I'm just following you
a little ways.
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00:20:41,007 --> 00:20:44,041
We didn't shoot us
at the trailer,
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00:20:44,043 --> 00:20:46,510
because Janelle
was too vulnerable.
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All right, now let's go.
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Could you please?
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[Kody] No, I'm not going to,
I was just going to film you
walking over a bit.
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I think I saw it online
and I'm, like, "Oh,
that's big. No, no, it's big."
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00:21:01,361 --> 00:21:07,598
Like, it's big, you step up
like, three steps to get
into it and it's massive.
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It's small, it just seems big,
because we're not in it.
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00:21:13,940 --> 00:21:17,008
I really like it,
I'm glad it's so big,
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because, honestly,
Savanah and I need
to live in this.
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I'm still moving
forward in my life.
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And I'm trying
to move myself forward
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and improve my situation
and get a house built,
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00:21:29,122 --> 00:21:31,856
but all around me
it feels like there's all this
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00:21:31,957 --> 00:21:34,825
chaos and uncertainty,
because Christine is leaving.
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00:21:34,827 --> 00:21:39,030
What does it mean?
Are the kids gonna come home
all together for the holidays?
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00:21:39,032 --> 00:21:40,298
Like, there's
all these huge...
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Like, I feel like I'm
on this little path
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00:21:41,701 --> 00:21:44,035
and there's all these
big question marks
all around me
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and all I can do is just
keep moving forward
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00:21:47,106 --> 00:21:50,908
and try to be open
and flexible to whatever
the future looks like.
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We're throwing Ysabel
a graduation party.
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Hi! You're so pretty!
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[Robyn] There's so many issu
still kind of happening.
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So I'm a little bit nervous,
'cause I'm, like, "Okay,
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00:22:06,626 --> 00:22:09,560
are we gonna be able
to be around each other
or is it gonna be tense?"
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[Janelle] So I have
about two and half weeks
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before I have to be out
of my rental house.
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The boys have been a godsend.
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They've really helped
with the packing
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and then helping me
move the heavy boxes.
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[Kody] Janelle and I are
in the middle of moving.
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We've got to pick up
an RV in a week or so.
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We've got two and half weeks
before we're supposed
to be out of this house.
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Basically, having moved
all of our stuff into storag
units and living in the RV.
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We're pretty strung out.
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00:22:55,441 --> 00:23:01,345
I know some family members
who, the idea of us living
in this RV,
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00:23:01,414 --> 00:23:02,913
makes them cringe.
377
00:23:09,722 --> 00:23:14,558
I probably wouldn't consider
living in a RV
on the property.
378
00:23:14,627 --> 00:23:18,362
There's not a big enough RV
for my five kids.
379
00:23:18,464 --> 00:23:21,031
[chuckling] Yeah, let's
just stick to that.
380
00:23:21,934 --> 00:23:25,035
Living in an RV
is not something
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00:23:25,037 --> 00:23:29,640
that I would want to do,
unless I was actually,
like, traveling the country.
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00:23:33,045 --> 00:23:35,813
[Kody] I'm meeting
with my friend, my neighbor
Pete Page,
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an he's a buddy of mine
who moves dirt.
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00:23:38,718 --> 00:23:40,751
[Janelle] Pete is putting
in culverts where the water
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00:23:40,853 --> 00:23:42,453
would naturally come
down off the hill,
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00:23:42,522 --> 00:23:44,221
so that it doesn't
wash out the driveway.
387
00:23:47,059 --> 00:23:49,326
So a culvert is basically
this metal pipe
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that runs under
whatever roadway
you're building
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and allows the water
to flow through.
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00:23:56,702 --> 00:23:58,302
[Kody] The whole thing
just makes me feel,
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like, a lot of pressure
to do a lot of something
392
00:24:01,040 --> 00:24:03,941
that we can't get done
completely right now.
393
00:24:03,943 --> 00:24:07,411
It's a stretching of a budget
that's got...
394
00:24:08,347 --> 00:24:10,314
Ugh, It's nerve-racking.
395
00:24:10,316 --> 00:24:14,118
I imagined, um,
that where we put the trailer
396
00:24:14,120 --> 00:24:18,722
would be the edge
of where the drive would
kind of come up.
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00:24:18,724 --> 00:24:21,091
Christine's leaving,
that actually doesn't chang
398
00:24:21,093 --> 00:24:24,295
my motivation for putting
five houses on Coyote Pass.
399
00:24:24,297 --> 00:24:28,065
My whole motivation
of having five homes
there would be, you know,
400
00:24:28,133 --> 00:24:31,936
a house for Janelle,
a house for Robyn,
a house for Meri
401
00:24:31,938 --> 00:24:35,506
and then the two other lots
Christine's lot and my lot,
402
00:24:35,508 --> 00:24:38,542
would be so that we can rent
them out as well.
403
00:24:38,644 --> 00:24:44,215
That's called an asset,
that helps, basically,
us survive our retirement.
404
00:24:46,953 --> 00:24:52,990
My life is in a form of limb
because Christine's leaving
405
00:24:52,992 --> 00:24:54,925
and I don't know
what that looks like.
406
00:24:57,029 --> 00:25:00,030
I've been sort
of in the anger phase
of divorce
407
00:25:00,032 --> 00:25:03,200
and so I've not been
addressing it very well.
408
00:25:03,202 --> 00:25:07,538
You know, so I guess
this construction project
with Janelle and Pete,
409
00:25:07,640 --> 00:25:09,306
kind of one of those things
to get my mind
410
00:25:09,308 --> 00:25:12,309
off of my divorce frustration,
but I...
411
00:25:12,311 --> 00:25:15,813
Dude, I am in the anger phase
and every once in a while,
412
00:25:15,815 --> 00:25:20,417
I just get tied up in knots
over Christine leaving.
413
00:25:28,728 --> 00:25:32,630
[Christine] So, then I'm gon
drape it right here for you
and this way it won't go.
414
00:25:32,632 --> 00:25:35,799
Now don't blow up any more
greens until you really
need them, okay?
415
00:25:35,801 --> 00:25:38,235
We're throwing Ysabel
a graduation party,
416
00:25:38,337 --> 00:25:42,473
a huge graduation party, well,
as big as we can have today.
417
00:25:42,475 --> 00:25:43,941
You're doing great, thank you.
418
00:25:48,347 --> 00:25:51,448
Ysabel wants to travel
really bad after graduation
419
00:25:51,550 --> 00:25:54,151
so we're having a world theme.
420
00:25:55,621 --> 00:25:57,721
Uh, we have
a lot of decorations,
421
00:25:57,723 --> 00:26:00,658
but they're not staying
and... The food's done.
422
00:26:05,264 --> 00:26:06,630
I need everybody's help.
423
00:26:06,632 --> 00:26:08,599
I need Gwen's help,
I need Ysabel's help,
424
00:26:08,601 --> 00:26:10,100
I need Truely's help
for today.
425
00:26:10,102 --> 00:26:12,903
Well, Kody calls Ysabel
and says, "Hey,
426
00:26:12,905 --> 00:26:15,573
how about if we go hang out
today before your party?"
427
00:26:15,575 --> 00:26:17,240
And I almost freakin' lost it.
428
00:26:17,242 --> 00:26:22,046
Instead of Kody saying,
"Hey, do you need some help
with Ysabel's party?"
429
00:26:22,048 --> 00:26:26,650
'Cause it's his daughter, God.
[exclaims in frustration]
Okay.
430
00:26:28,821 --> 00:26:32,523
I have to have Gwendlyn run
a couple of errands,
so I have Truely's help.
431
00:26:32,525 --> 00:26:33,724
You're doing great, kid.
432
00:26:36,195 --> 00:26:38,562
You're living your best life,
I like it.
433
00:26:38,664 --> 00:26:40,064
I want to support
Kody's relationship
434
00:26:40,132 --> 00:26:42,499
with his kids,
so I'm going to play nice.
435
00:26:42,501 --> 00:26:44,802
Things are not gonna
get done though,
I'm just telling you now.
436
00:26:47,306 --> 00:26:52,409
The best part is that everyone
has either had a COVID test
or they're vaccinated.
437
00:26:52,411 --> 00:26:55,346
And everybody
that lives in Flagstaff
is coming
438
00:26:55,447 --> 00:26:57,948
and we get to hug
and touch people.
439
00:26:58,017 --> 00:26:59,316
And that's what Ysabel
was hoping for
440
00:26:59,318 --> 00:27:02,419
was to get everybody together,
um, so everybody can hug.
441
00:27:02,421 --> 00:27:05,756
So that's really what
this is all about.
442
00:27:10,129 --> 00:27:13,831
I just told the adults
a few weeks ago
443
00:27:13,833 --> 00:27:20,070
that I was leaving Kody
and I was moving back to Utah,
444
00:27:20,072 --> 00:27:21,638
hopefully in September.
445
00:27:21,640 --> 00:27:24,208
No secret that Kody and I have
been in a rough spot
for a long time.
446
00:27:25,011 --> 00:27:28,646
And I've decided to leave.
447
00:27:28,714 --> 00:27:29,913
I'm gonna leave Kody.
448
00:27:31,617 --> 00:27:33,050
We haven't talked since.
449
00:27:36,922 --> 00:27:39,657
I knew it was
asking a lot of them
450
00:27:39,758 --> 00:27:43,761
to get together just two weeks
after I told them
I was leaving Kody,
451
00:27:43,829 --> 00:27:48,032
but I also wanted them
to know that this might be
452
00:27:48,034 --> 00:27:49,833
one of the last times
we get together.
453
00:27:52,638 --> 00:27:55,806
Christine has told us
that she's leaving Kody
for good.
454
00:27:55,808 --> 00:27:58,175
So I'm a little bit nervous,
'cause I'm, like, "Okay,
455
00:27:58,177 --> 00:28:01,311
are we gonna be able
to be around each other
and be normal
456
00:28:01,313 --> 00:28:04,648
and natural and comfortable
or is it gonna be tense?"
457
00:28:05,818 --> 00:28:10,621
I don't know
what kids know
that I'm leaving Kody.
458
00:28:10,623 --> 00:28:13,657
All of my kids,
except for Truely know,
459
00:28:13,693 --> 00:28:17,361
um, and I know
that Janelle's kids know,
460
00:28:17,430 --> 00:28:20,864
but I don't know
about Robyn's kids or Mariah,
I really have no idea.
461
00:28:22,101 --> 00:28:24,401
[Janelle] My kids know
Christine's leaving.
462
00:28:24,403 --> 00:28:26,804
I don't think
Gabriel and Garrison
are really that concerned,
463
00:28:26,806 --> 00:28:29,640
'cause they're already talking
about visiting Christine
in Utah.
464
00:28:29,709 --> 00:28:33,711
They just see it
as a disruption,
not a discontinuation.
465
00:28:36,215 --> 00:28:38,615
[Kody] Okay, you guys
can get out of your seats now.
466
00:28:38,617 --> 00:28:41,919
I told all my kids,
even Sol and Ari,
467
00:28:41,921 --> 00:28:44,421
about what's going
on with Christine.
468
00:28:44,423 --> 00:28:51,462
Dayton and Breanna are sad
and confused and frustrated.
Sol and Ari are so confused.
469
00:28:53,032 --> 00:28:54,431
And so sad.
470
00:28:56,702 --> 00:28:59,103
Oh, look, it's Gabe,
Garrison and Savanah.
471
00:28:59,105 --> 00:29:01,739
[all exclaiming]
472
00:29:01,840 --> 00:29:06,710
For a lot of reasons,
we haven't gotten together,
COVID being one of them.
473
00:29:06,712 --> 00:29:07,745
Come on and hug me.
474
00:29:08,714 --> 00:29:11,615
There's so many issues
still kind of happening
475
00:29:11,617 --> 00:29:14,118
that it was just, like,
it's too raw to get together.
476
00:29:14,120 --> 00:29:18,822
I don't know exactly,
but, you know, I...
I don't know.
477
00:29:18,824 --> 00:29:21,258
[Ysabel] Hi! You're so pretty!
478
00:29:21,360 --> 00:29:22,192
[Kody] Go and say hi.
479
00:29:22,194 --> 00:29:23,761
[Ysabel] Ariella!
480
00:29:23,763 --> 00:29:25,763
[Kody] I'm really glad
the kids are able
to all interact now,
481
00:29:25,864 --> 00:29:27,564
just be able to say hi
to each other.
482
00:29:27,633 --> 00:29:28,599
You look so good.
483
00:29:28,601 --> 00:29:30,934
Hi, you!
484
00:29:31,003 --> 00:29:34,938
[Christine] This is kind
of also a farewell
for Ysabel too, a little bit
485
00:29:34,940 --> 00:29:38,208
I mean, in a couple of month
Ysabel and I are driving
cross-country.
486
00:29:38,210 --> 00:29:39,810
And she's gonna live
with Maddie and Caleb
487
00:29:39,812 --> 00:29:41,945
and go to school
in North Carolina.
488
00:29:42,047 --> 00:29:44,615
[indistinct conversation]
489
00:29:48,521 --> 00:29:51,522
[Kody] I'm really happy
that the kids are all havin
a really good time.
490
00:29:51,524 --> 00:29:55,826
I cannot get out from under
this cloud of sadness.
491
00:29:56,929 --> 00:30:01,498
And it's because of the nuance
of a break up.
492
00:30:01,500 --> 00:30:03,834
And I don't know what
this is going to lead to.
493
00:30:03,936 --> 00:30:05,636
I don't know what else
is going to go on.
494
00:30:08,440 --> 00:30:12,543
I was honestly relieved
when I heard my mom
was leaving my dad.
495
00:30:12,611 --> 00:30:15,245
They're not happy,
they're not in love.
496
00:30:15,314 --> 00:30:20,717
[all singing] Happy birthday
to you, happy birthday to you.
497
00:30:20,719 --> 00:30:24,655
With my mom and dad
getting a divorce,
I did see it coming.
498
00:30:24,756 --> 00:30:26,623
Of course, like,
I'm sad about it.
499
00:30:29,628 --> 00:30:33,163
[Christine] Right now,
I'm just trying to be presen
here and just focus here.
500
00:30:33,265 --> 00:30:34,798
[woman] Where do
you want these?
501
00:30:34,800 --> 00:30:38,202
-[Christine] Oh,
inside for now.
-[woman] Inside? Okay.
502
00:30:38,204 --> 00:30:42,105
I think with my mom
and my dad getting a divorce,
503
00:30:42,107 --> 00:30:44,842
if I'm honest,
I did see it coming.
504
00:30:44,910 --> 00:30:48,846
But, of course, like, I'm sad
about it, like, sometimes
it just doesn't work out.
505
00:30:48,914 --> 00:30:51,748
And I'm happy that my mom
will be able to find somebody
506
00:30:51,817 --> 00:30:54,051
who she's really, really,
really happy with.
507
00:30:56,922 --> 00:31:01,058
I was honestly relieved
when I heard my mom
was leaving my dad.
508
00:31:01,060 --> 00:31:03,427
They're not happy,
they're not in love.
509
00:31:04,864 --> 00:31:08,198
I thought it was
a little inevitable.
510
00:31:08,200 --> 00:31:13,537
I can't imagine any man
being perfect enough
511
00:31:13,606 --> 00:31:16,306
to be able
to handle four wives.
512
00:31:18,410 --> 00:31:20,444
[Kody] I've got,
what feels like,
513
00:31:20,512 --> 00:31:22,946
very strained relationships
with a bunch of the kids.
514
00:31:23,048 --> 00:31:25,315
I'm not in a good place
with everybody.
515
00:31:25,317 --> 00:31:27,317
And it's not that I'm trying
to be angry
516
00:31:27,319 --> 00:31:31,421
or trying to hold them
accountable in this moment
or anything like that.
517
00:31:31,423 --> 00:31:34,057
I don't feel like I've
got the respect
that I should have.
518
00:31:40,232 --> 00:31:43,500
No, I'm not okay.
I'm here in a...
519
00:31:44,536 --> 00:31:46,436
I'm here, I'm in a funk.
520
00:31:46,538 --> 00:31:52,643
It's kind of, uh,
this loneliness,
521
00:31:54,346 --> 00:31:57,915
combined with a bitterness
with the entire family.
522
00:32:00,419 --> 00:32:02,252
[Christine] Okay, everybody!
523
00:32:03,222 --> 00:32:05,355
Hey, everybody,
it's time to gather up.
524
00:32:05,424 --> 00:32:09,059
I'm gonna get the cake ready,
we can sing happy birthday
to Yzzy.
525
00:32:09,962 --> 00:32:11,428
[Janelle] So, Ysabel,
you're 18.
526
00:32:11,430 --> 00:32:14,998
[Christine] All right, this is
a birthday slash graduation.
527
00:32:15,000 --> 00:32:16,900
[Kody] Are you sweet 17?
528
00:32:16,902 --> 00:32:19,336
[Ysabel] Uh, I'm almost
sweet 18.
529
00:32:19,405 --> 00:32:21,605
-Oh, yeah, you're...
-[Ysabel] This is an 18 party.
530
00:32:21,607 --> 00:32:24,641
-Yeah, so you're sweet 18.
-[exclaims]
531
00:32:24,743 --> 00:32:26,109
Finally I'm sweet.
532
00:32:26,111 --> 00:32:27,711
That'll get you a new car.
533
00:32:27,713 --> 00:32:29,146
Whoo!
534
00:32:29,214 --> 00:32:31,815
-[woman] Thank you,
I'm excited.
-That was worth it, yeah!
535
00:32:31,817 --> 00:32:36,620
It was worth it
because you didn't waste
the kisses on any stupid boys.
536
00:32:36,622 --> 00:32:42,326
A sweet 16 birthday party
is a birthday party where
the girl hasn't been kissed.
537
00:32:42,328 --> 00:32:44,227
I don't know where
this term came from.
538
00:32:44,229 --> 00:32:45,762
It was something I was
hearing in high school,
539
00:32:45,831 --> 00:32:48,065
was, you know, the girl
who hasn't ever kissed a boy.
540
00:32:48,100 --> 00:32:52,602
Young men and young women,
or men and women,
should both do the same thing.
541
00:32:52,604 --> 00:32:59,810
You protect yourself,
you find trust before you're
driven mad with sexuality.
542
00:32:59,812 --> 00:33:05,615
[all singing] Happy birthday
to you, happy birthday to you.
543
00:33:05,617 --> 00:33:09,052
[Ysabel] We kind of jumped
right back to where we were
544
00:33:09,054 --> 00:33:13,523
before the COVID hit back,
we're just, like,
family again.
545
00:33:14,126 --> 00:33:15,525
Which is really nice.
546
00:33:15,527 --> 00:33:18,795
[all singing] Happy birthday
to you.
547
00:33:18,797 --> 00:33:20,764
-[all cheering]
-Thank you, guys.
548
00:33:22,534 --> 00:33:24,801
-[Kody] I don't even think
you got them all.
-Not even any of them.
549
00:33:26,005 --> 00:33:29,106
[Robyn] It feels
like old times
for sure right now.
550
00:33:29,108 --> 00:33:30,941
And I just kind of wanna
hang on to this moment,
551
00:33:31,043 --> 00:33:36,046
'cause I just don't know
when the next time will be
that we'll be doing this.
552
00:33:36,048 --> 00:33:37,614
[woman 1] I think you should
tell some stories
553
00:33:37,616 --> 00:33:39,082
about these pictures,
like, they're--
554
00:33:39,084 --> 00:33:41,551
[woman 2] Oh, good idea!
555
00:33:41,620 --> 00:33:45,822
This is a fun picture
with Gwendlyn and Savanah.
556
00:33:45,824 --> 00:33:47,824
We're trying
to distract Ysabel,
557
00:33:47,826 --> 00:33:50,027
so we can kind of set up
for this song,
558
00:33:50,029 --> 00:33:52,229
but we wanted to do something
special for her.
559
00:33:52,231 --> 00:33:56,099
So we're setting up
a guitar and a mic,
560
00:33:56,101 --> 00:33:59,403
so that we can sing
this song for Ysabel
561
00:33:59,405 --> 00:34:02,606
and we're trying
to distract her over here
while we get set up.
562
00:34:02,608 --> 00:34:05,242
This is... I love this one
where she's just,
like, snarfing.
563
00:34:05,343 --> 00:34:06,709
[Ysabel] That was
my first birthday.
564
00:34:06,711 --> 00:34:08,545
-Making a mess of herself.
-That one is?
Your first birthday?
565
00:34:08,614 --> 00:34:10,247
[Ysabel] Yeah.
566
00:34:10,249 --> 00:34:11,982
[Christine] Aurora's gonna
start plucking away
on her guitar
567
00:34:11,984 --> 00:34:13,817
and then start
doing the song.
568
00:34:13,819 --> 00:34:17,320
And then I'm gonna sing
and then Gabe's gonna join in
569
00:34:17,322 --> 00:34:19,122
and then everybody's
gonna join in.
570
00:34:19,124 --> 00:34:21,925
I'm excited,
they practiced so well.
571
00:34:21,927 --> 00:34:24,761
As far as I know,
this is a complete surprise
for her.
572
00:34:24,830 --> 00:34:27,831
[laughing] I did
practice the song, yeah.
573
00:34:27,833 --> 00:34:28,565
[strumming guitar]
574
00:34:30,302 --> 00:34:32,235
Oh, no. No.
575
00:34:33,305 --> 00:34:35,005
Oh, my God.
Wait, I'm gonna cry.
576
00:34:39,211 --> 00:34:42,212
♪ I am unwritten ♪
577
00:34:42,214 --> 00:34:44,881
♪ Can't read my mind ♪
578
00:34:44,883 --> 00:34:49,519
♪ I'm undefined, yeah ♪
579
00:34:49,521 --> 00:34:52,756
[Christine] It's a very
appropriate song
for someone who's graduating
580
00:34:53,759 --> 00:34:56,159
♪ Feel the rain on your skin ♪
581
00:34:56,228 --> 00:34:58,728
♪ No one else can
Feel it for you ♪
582
00:34:58,730 --> 00:35:00,897
♪ Only you can let it in ♪
583
00:35:00,899 --> 00:35:02,999
♪ No one else
No one else ♪
584
00:35:03,001 --> 00:35:05,836
♪ Can speak the words
On your lips ♪
585
00:35:05,937 --> 00:35:08,638
[Kody] She starts
hearing the song
and we've got her immediatel
586
00:35:08,740 --> 00:35:14,211
♪ Release your inhibitions ♪
587
00:35:14,213 --> 00:35:16,646
♪ Feel the rain on your skin ♪
588
00:35:16,748 --> 00:35:19,116
♪ No one else
Can feel it for you ♪
589
00:35:19,118 --> 00:35:21,351
♪ Only you can let it in ♪
590
00:35:21,419 --> 00:35:23,653
♪ No one else
No one else ♪
591
00:35:23,722 --> 00:35:26,089
♪ Can speak the words
On your lips ♪
592
00:35:26,091 --> 00:35:27,724
[Christine] It was really
sweet for them to do
593
00:35:27,792 --> 00:35:30,727
and, you know, the three
of those girls are really
pretty close.
594
00:35:30,729 --> 00:35:33,730
♪ Today is where
Your book begins ♪
595
00:35:35,033 --> 00:35:37,434
Oh, you guys are so sweet.
596
00:35:38,537 --> 00:35:41,805
♪ The rest is
Still unwritten ♪
597
00:35:43,041 --> 00:35:46,510
♪ The rest is
Still unwritten ♪
598
00:35:48,614 --> 00:35:53,783
Bravo! That was beautiful.
Thank you, guys,
I appreciate it.
599
00:35:53,785 --> 00:35:56,119
Ah, I was perfect.
600
00:35:56,121 --> 00:36:00,023
And then the best part,
Ysabel was surprised
and then she was touched.
601
00:36:00,025 --> 00:36:01,858
And she loved it.
602
00:36:01,927 --> 00:36:03,560
So it just... It's the best.
603
00:36:07,332 --> 00:36:09,599
How does this not work
for everybody?
604
00:36:10,502 --> 00:36:13,737
Why isn't this something
we're staying for?
605
00:36:13,805 --> 00:36:17,641
The message that we had
to the world about polygamy
606
00:36:17,742 --> 00:36:20,310
um, seems so dysfunctional
now.
607
00:36:26,018 --> 00:36:30,220
I'm just excited to be here,
it's like it's healing,
it's nice.
608
00:36:32,691 --> 00:36:34,357
[Ysabel] The party I think
went really well.
609
00:36:34,459 --> 00:36:36,326
I think everyone had
a good time.
610
00:36:36,328 --> 00:36:39,062
I think, overall,
it was successful.
611
00:36:43,302 --> 00:36:45,035
[Meri] The graduation
party was a crazy thing.
612
00:36:46,104 --> 00:36:49,206
Especially since Ysabel
is moving away.
613
00:36:49,208 --> 00:36:52,542
She just glows happiness.
614
00:36:52,611 --> 00:36:57,714
It's gonna be kind of a bummer
not to be able to see her
very often.
615
00:37:01,119 --> 00:37:03,253
Thank you,
I appreciate it so much.
616
00:37:03,322 --> 00:37:04,421
I appreciate you.
617
00:37:05,324 --> 00:37:06,623
I'm glad we were
able to do that for you.
618
00:37:06,625 --> 00:37:08,124
[Christine] I'm extremely
proud of her.
619
00:37:08,126 --> 00:37:12,062
Um, she's just full of grace
and kindness.
620
00:37:12,130 --> 00:37:15,599
And just sweet,
but so much strength.
621
00:37:15,601 --> 00:37:17,534
-You ready?
-[Ysabel] I'm ready.
622
00:37:21,106 --> 00:37:24,641
[Christine] And she's dealt
with so much, scoliosis,
migraines.
623
00:37:24,743 --> 00:37:27,911
She's had it rougher
than the rest of my kids,
yet here she is,
624
00:37:27,913 --> 00:37:30,580
glowing and shining
and amazing.
625
00:37:30,582 --> 00:37:32,215
She's an amazing person.
626
00:37:32,217 --> 00:37:33,717
You guys are amazeballs!
627
00:37:37,322 --> 00:37:39,055
[Janelle] So now she's gonn
move to North Carolina
628
00:37:39,157 --> 00:37:41,024
and live with Maddie
and Caleb.
629
00:37:41,026 --> 00:37:42,258
And it's gonna
be really great,
630
00:37:42,260 --> 00:37:45,328
'cause she will be able
to out and kind of experience
631
00:37:45,330 --> 00:37:48,698
the world outside her mom's
home and outside of Flagstaff,
632
00:37:48,700 --> 00:37:51,334
but she'll be sort
of in a safe,
protected environment,
633
00:37:51,336 --> 00:37:53,336
cause Maddie and Caleb
will be there.
634
00:38:01,013 --> 00:38:07,250
[Robyn] It's strange, becaus
like, we're in this moment
and we're having a nice time
635
00:38:10,122 --> 00:38:13,723
How is this wrong?
How does this not work
for everybody?
636
00:38:16,828 --> 00:38:19,763
Why isn't this something
worth fighting for?
637
00:38:19,864 --> 00:38:22,332
Why isn't this something
worth staying for?
638
00:38:26,738 --> 00:38:30,640
I don't know,
I'm just one of those peopl
who hopes constantly
639
00:38:30,709 --> 00:38:34,944
that maybe something
will spark for someone
640
00:38:34,946 --> 00:38:39,549
and they'll just go,
"Oh, this is worth figuring
out and sticking around."
641
00:38:39,617 --> 00:38:43,520
Because, I don't know,
I would look at it
and think that.
642
00:38:43,522 --> 00:38:47,057
That's your grandbaby, really?
That's nice.
643
00:38:47,125 --> 00:38:48,491
That's nice.
644
00:38:48,493 --> 00:38:50,126
[Kody] Let's just
put it there, Robyn.
645
00:38:52,064 --> 00:38:55,565
He could make Christine
feel, like, "Hey,
this is worth staying for."
646
00:39:00,005 --> 00:39:04,507
I believe God can, um,
make miracles happen.
647
00:39:09,047 --> 00:39:11,448
I wonder if it's a game.
648
00:39:11,549 --> 00:39:13,650
[Meri] You know, when I loo
at days like this,
649
00:39:13,719 --> 00:39:15,719
when we're all together
and we're smiling
650
00:39:15,721 --> 00:39:18,521
and we're setting
the crap aside.
651
00:39:18,523 --> 00:39:20,156
Like, why can't we do that?
652
00:39:20,158 --> 00:39:24,527
Why can't we work
on the things that we need
to work on between each other?
653
00:39:27,666 --> 00:39:30,800
We're not doing justice
to our family
654
00:39:30,802 --> 00:39:35,105
and we're not doing, you know,
justice to Ariella
and Solomon and Truely,
655
00:39:35,107 --> 00:39:40,243
these little ones
who really need to have
that security of family.
656
00:39:42,414 --> 00:39:46,950
I'm devoted to, you know,
doing what I need to do.
657
00:39:47,051 --> 00:39:48,551
I know that not everybody is.
658
00:39:50,122 --> 00:39:52,722
[Janelle] It feels there's
storms brewing in the family
659
00:39:52,724 --> 00:39:53,790
I don't know what they mean
660
00:39:53,792 --> 00:39:56,326
I don't know what
the outcome will be.
661
00:39:56,328 --> 00:39:57,894
I, personally,
am not very optimistic
662
00:39:57,896 --> 00:39:59,562
that we'll see
very many days like this.
663
00:39:59,631 --> 00:40:01,331
Did you say
the quiche is gluten-free?
664
00:40:01,333 --> 00:40:03,333
The quiche is gluten-free,
yes.
665
00:40:03,435 --> 00:40:05,802
Kody is not one
to hide his emotions though.
666
00:40:05,804 --> 00:40:08,104
He's more, like, gonna
show you how he's feeling.
667
00:40:08,106 --> 00:40:11,107
And I think he's
just super sad.
And it's bittersweet.
668
00:40:11,109 --> 00:40:14,110
He loves Ysabel and he hasn't
spent enough time with her
669
00:40:14,112 --> 00:40:16,012
and I think he's
probably realizing that.
670
00:40:22,487 --> 00:40:24,521
[Kody] This evening has gon
off without a hitch.
671
00:40:24,523 --> 00:40:27,724
It's been wonderful
and I think Ysabel
has felt special.
672
00:40:29,227 --> 00:40:30,260
I'm just blue.
673
00:40:32,164 --> 00:40:34,664
Sol, pull your britches up.
674
00:40:34,733 --> 00:40:40,703
We will never be there agai
if we really go through this
Christine is leaving.
675
00:40:40,705 --> 00:40:43,239
Is she really going to leave
676
00:40:43,341 --> 00:40:48,945
I'm living in a delusional
world where I'm wishing
that Christine wouldn't leave.
677
00:40:52,217 --> 00:40:54,951
I was wishing Ysabel
would go to school here.
678
00:40:55,020 --> 00:41:00,323
We would be able
to maintain some
quasi-family relationship.
679
00:41:01,927 --> 00:41:04,160
I'm struggling with...
680
00:41:04,229 --> 00:41:09,332
...sort of a state of regre
and frustration.
681
00:41:16,041 --> 00:41:18,141
It's a weird thing
to be getting left.
682
00:41:26,885 --> 00:41:29,319
It's made me question
getting into plural marriage
683
00:41:29,321 --> 00:41:34,958
It's made me question my faith
and especially,
question my religion.
684
00:41:34,960 --> 00:41:40,830
The message that we had
to the world
about functional polygamy, um,
685
00:41:40,832 --> 00:41:42,999
seems so dysfunctional now.
686
00:41:45,537 --> 00:41:47,737
[narrator reading]
687
00:41:47,839 --> 00:41:50,240
I just told Truely
that I'm moving to Utah.
688
00:41:50,341 --> 00:41:52,108
I don't know
how I feel about that.
689
00:41:52,110 --> 00:41:54,410
It feels hostile to me.
690
00:41:54,412 --> 00:41:57,413
I don't want to be
antagonistic or disagreeable
691
00:41:57,415 --> 00:41:59,782
But I don't wanna agree
to anything.
692
00:41:59,784 --> 00:42:02,218
Hey, you have a new house.
693
00:42:02,220 --> 00:42:05,321
I'm boondocking.
There's no septic,
there's no water.
694
00:42:05,323 --> 00:42:06,456
And there's no power.
695
00:42:06,525 --> 00:42:07,824
Oh, this is great, it's big.
696
00:42:07,826 --> 00:42:10,226
I do not wanna live
in the trailer.
697
00:42:10,228 --> 00:42:12,161
Janelle has a tiny,
little kitchen
698
00:42:12,230 --> 00:42:14,998
and a tiny, little house
and a tiny, little bathroom
699
00:42:15,000 --> 00:42:18,701
Why am I gonna sit here
and suffer with you
with your choices?
700
00:42:18,703 --> 00:42:22,438
[Christine] So Mykelti calle
me and we were talking
about me moving to Utah.
701
00:42:22,540 --> 00:42:24,941
But I looked behind me
and there was Truely.
702
00:42:25,944 --> 00:42:29,112
That was the worst
conversation of my life.