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[narrator]
Previously on Sister Wives..
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[Christine] Isabelle's movin
to North Carolina.
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There's nothing
that can prepare you
to say goodbye.
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It's super cool that, Matty
Janelle's daughter,
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and Isabelle, my daughter,
are super close.
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They're raised with this
big huge family,
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in this
big huge family picture.
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But by leaving Kody,
I'm really changing
the dynamic.
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When I tell you that
keeps me up at night,
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believe me
that keeps me up at night.
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Make sure
you're showing your best side.
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Jen and I just have this
awesome relationship
where we just laugh.
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I've had those
kind of relationships
within my family before,
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but my family is kind of wei
right now.
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And it feels good
to matter to somebody.
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[Christine] Kody, Meri,
Janelle and Robyn
are all coming over,
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'cause I need
to tell them that
my house is under contract.
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I'm angry about Christine
leaving the family.
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[Kody] We never made
an official agreement.
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We never went
to our church leaders
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and said,
"Hey, we're divorced."
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You know, would they even
allow us a divorce.
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I was sitting there
talking with Truely,
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and she's like, "Well,
you and mom are divorced."
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It was
a little bit news to me.
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Technically, till
Christine is physical
with another man
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she's not divorced.
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[Kody] So Christine's got
the five of us together.
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Her house in under contract
it's being sold.
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And she has just told us that
she's moving in a week.
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This is
a very difficult conversation.
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A year ago
when I looked at
mine and Kody's relationship
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and just wasn't...
really felt like
I couldn't stay.
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But I hadn't quite decided
to move and to leave.
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And I looked
at our relationship,
how I was,
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I just got to thinking,
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it's not a relationship
I would wish on
any friend of mine.
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But you said you didn't wanna
be married to me anymore
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when we were talking
about moving to Utah.
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So that conversation...
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I thought
my interpretation
of the conversation
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was at
the end of the conversation.
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I thought that
you might be on
team we can move.
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Polygamy got you criminalized.
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And I wonder
why we're still here.
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We can move back home.
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I wanna move back.
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I'm in a place
where I feel like
my kids love it here.
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This is the most likely place
for any of our kids
to move back,
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our adult kids.
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I'm surprised
because I thought
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Kody was more
in favor of this.
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But he's acting
like we've never
even talked about this,
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and that
he wasn't in favor of it
last time we talked.
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Meri, I can't
do marriage with Kody anymore.
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I don't wanna...
I don't wanna do it anymore.
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We're you open to it?
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We're you open
to moving, Kody?
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I didn't wanna move.
I liked the idea
of living in Utah.
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I don't
like the idea of moving.
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To me he was open to Utah,
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-end of the conversation.
-But I wonder,
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isn't this bigger
than just that?
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I mean,
this is bigger than just that.
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This wasn't just about
the move to Utah,
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-No.
-this wasn't just about...
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It was
just one of those things
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where I was, like,
"Am I really
just on my own already?"
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That's what it felt like.
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'Cause I thought before,
like, really, honestly.
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He was giddy
when we talked
about moving to--
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No. No, no, no, no.
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I remember it different.
It's fine, I mean...
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This is what I remember.
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I was interested
in the family,
not in the man.
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That's been your mantra.
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But it became about the man,
and not about the family.
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And that
I think is my angry place.
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That's the reason
I'm struggling with this.
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It's 'cause we've invested,
invested, invested,
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and it wasn't
about the family,
it was about the man.
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And this is my frustration.
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And it's also my accusation.
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I'm angry that
you weren't willing
to invest in the family,
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but you were only interested
in what I could do for you.
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Me as a resource for you.
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And it breaks my heart
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'cause now we're at this point
where it's just over,
and it's done.
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I thank you
for coming into the family,
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and help me
sort of gather out
this mess that I was in.
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It stings when he says that
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because it's directed
at me, probably.
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[Meri] You know when
Janelle came into the famil
I was jealous.
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I was sad because
I didn't have the time
with him that I had prior.
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You know, I was young,
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I was not yet [laughs]
fully mature,
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uh, nor was he or her,
you know. I mean, we just...
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We're dealing
with a lot of new situations.
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And so, he's like,
"Oh, let's get Christine
and come and save the day."
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And that... that stings.
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I also thank you
for ripping off the Band-Aid
so quickly
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because it was
never going to work
if it all had to be about me,
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as you had always indicated
it wasn't.
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[Janelle] I think
that's a low blow.
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I think
she was about the family.
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She's been about the family,
she's been about the kids.
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And she needed
more of relationship with hi
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You know,
I think there's a point
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where you stick around
and you try to make it work,
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and then there's a point
where it just doesn't work
anymore.
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And why be miserable,
miserable for years, decades.
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You came into our lives,
you did us a favor.
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You're leaving,
I almost feel like
it's a favor too.
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[Robyn sighs]
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But I don't know
because I'm still upset,
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'cause I'm trying
to figure this out.
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This is awkward.
They're sort of
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hashing out their relationship
in front of us.
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[sighs]
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What else, if they talk.
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If they're talking.
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[Robyn] I believe that
there's always a chance
for a miracle.
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People go through, like...
get close to divorce
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and then change their mind
all the time.
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She may say she's divorced,
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but in my head,
technically, she's not.
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So I'm just kinda like,
well, maybe they can
talk this out.
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So... [sighs]
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-Don't word it,
just think about what I said.
-Uh-huh, no.
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Um...
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Soak in that.
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Wow. You better not
give my any rebuttal,
just listen to what I said.
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I mean, I don't know
who this patriarchal guy is
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'cause this is not the guy
I was married to for years.
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I did love you.
I did have a family
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of having sister wives,
of raising kids together.
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If you and I
don't have a good marriage,
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and, like,
this is an important part
of having a plural family,
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that each relationship
and each marriage
is strong too.
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We always talk about
this spokes in the wheel,
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and when there's a spoke
that's broken,
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how do we keep it going?
And so I stayed.
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I made it about the family.
I did so much for the family.
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[indistinct chatter]
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[Christine] It was all
about having family function
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family get-togethers,
and family parties.
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My house was always open
to everybody.
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I loved he big family
activities that we had.
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The big family is great.
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But when you feel
like you're a minimal person
in Kody's big picture,
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and really don't even matter
in the big picture,
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it changes
the perspective on everything.
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I've been heartbroken
for years.
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For years
I've been heartbroken
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in our relationship.
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-I'm just tired of
being heartbroken...
-Because you've...
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-...just tired.
-No big picture, just you.
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You don't think
I stayed for the big picture
as long as I did?
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I guess. I guess.
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-'Cause I wanted it to work.
-Thank you. I just wasn't...
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I don't know.
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There's this
realization of, um, screw it.
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You know, it's like,
"Listen this has been bad
for a long time,"
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and I sat here
whining about it
breaking up recently.
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Whereas I'm lucky
it even lasted this long.
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I'm coming to that realizati
that I'm so upset about
how this has gone down.
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And I don't know
the exact reason,
I don't know.
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I think I'm angry
because when you get divorced
you're supposed to be.
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I have no idea
what's going on with me,
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but I'm really upset by this.
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And if I really boil it down,
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if I bring it to the core of
what's going on,
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it feels like
after all I've done,
I'm being rejected anyway.
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And it's just not
rejection for me,
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it's rejection
for some of my kids,
and my other wives.
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I have seen her
non-acceptance of Robyn
through the years.
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She's treated you like dirt
from the very beginning.
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That's the relationship
you have with her,
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and that's the reason
I'm angry
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That's the reason
I'm pissed off.
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I just feel like,
now that she's leaving,
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I just felt like giving her
a piece of my mind
without leaving.
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[sobbing]
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So I'm curious, in all of this
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it seems like
my relationship
with all the kids,
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the adult kids,
is really off too.
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Have you been talking
to the adult kids about this?
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No, we don't. We rarely--
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No one wants to talk
about this.
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Think your relationship
is off with your kids
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because of COVID,
not because of me.
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Bull. You're telling them.
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It's Christine telling them.
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She's running to this person,
to this person,
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to this person,
to this person,
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to complain
about the relationship.
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She's playing a game.
She's been playing games
for years.
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I just call bull [bleep]
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[scoffs]
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I...
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I cannot figure out
why I'm so angry.
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I mean, it's sad.
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I've seen you grieving, Kody,
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like in a way I've never
seen you grieve before.
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You disguise it,
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but it's grief.
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I don't know
how to explain it,
he's just been off.
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He's gone to
a more angry place quickly...
quicker than he ever did.
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I finally realized
it's a grieving process
for him.
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I guess, maybe I'm mad
because I feel
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like an investor
who poured everything
that he had into something,
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and then, you know,
it just didn't work.
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In our marriage
I was putting so much effort.
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I was holding her hand,
I was kissing her.
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Well, I wasn't in love.
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I was doing it
as my duty as a husband.
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And she's not either.
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I mean, she quit
loving me years ago.
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And now that we're here,
I'm just so upset.
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Because it's like... It's not
the breakup of two people,
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it's the breakup of a family.
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Is it too much of a shock?
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Hass anybody else
got anything to say,
or is it just...
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You have a look on your face
like you know the whole world,
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but you're not
gonna say something.
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-What?
-You look like
the bird that ate the mouse.
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What do you think
I have to say?
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[laughs]
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I don't know why
he's saying this to me,
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I really don't. I mean,
I've had plenty of thoughts
throughout the conversation,
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but they're really not...
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It's really not my business
to say.
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Tone in her voice
says it all, doesn't it?
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No. I really don't know
what you're talking about.
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I know Meri's ticks,
I know her.
236
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She's leaking emotionally,
237
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uh, and I recognize it
after all these years.
238
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It drives me nuts normally,
239
00:12:41,027 --> 00:12:44,462
but now I'm looking forward
to sort of be supportive.
240
00:12:44,531 --> 00:12:47,432
Really, I feel
like I'm swimming...
241
00:12:48,502 --> 00:12:50,535
[sighs] in some
really deep water,
242
00:12:50,637 --> 00:12:53,204
and I'm looking for somebody
to throw me a life raft here.
243
00:12:53,206 --> 00:12:55,140
'Cause I think
this is the last time
244
00:12:55,208 --> 00:12:57,041
we're ever gonna have
this discussion,
245
00:12:57,143 --> 00:12:59,444
-right? So...
-Meet here and talk here?
246
00:12:59,546 --> 00:13:02,814
Well, yeah.
The house will be sold,
you'll be gone. This is it.
247
00:13:02,816 --> 00:13:05,049
And I'm the only one
saying something,
248
00:13:05,151 --> 00:13:07,519
and I'm just
a mixed ball of emotions.
249
00:13:07,521 --> 00:13:09,420
You're not the only one
that's saying something.
250
00:13:13,827 --> 00:13:15,627
I'm struggling today, so...
251
00:13:18,632 --> 00:13:20,397
I'll do better another day.
252
00:13:22,536 --> 00:13:25,537
[Robyn] This whole thing
that she's telling us
today is just a shock.
253
00:13:26,606 --> 00:13:28,940
I don't know.
Today I just know
that I'm not...
254
00:13:33,547 --> 00:13:38,817
I'm not completely calm.
I'm struggling.
255
00:13:41,555 --> 00:13:45,323
Somedays I get
really, like, "Hey,
we'll figure this out.
256
00:13:45,325 --> 00:13:48,593
We'll figure out someway
to still make it be cohesive
257
00:13:48,595 --> 00:13:51,329
and workable,
and that kind of thing."
I don't know about today.
258
00:13:56,736 --> 00:14:00,205
It's a strange world
to be going through a divorce
259
00:14:00,207 --> 00:14:05,510
I guess, while
you're married to somebody
who's loyal and loving.
260
00:14:06,613 --> 00:14:08,913
But she's been
going through it with me.
261
00:14:08,915 --> 00:14:10,748
She came in this family
cap in hand,
262
00:14:10,850 --> 00:14:13,251
saying, "Please accept me.
Please accept my children."
263
00:14:13,319 --> 00:14:18,623
She with me is being rejected.
264
00:14:18,625 --> 00:14:22,126
Dealing with
a lot of anger and mourning...
265
00:14:29,302 --> 00:14:32,303
I don't mean to push you away,
I'm just frustrated.
266
00:14:32,305 --> 00:14:34,606
You're not pushing me away.
I know you're frustrated,
267
00:14:34,608 --> 00:14:37,508
and I know you're angry,
and I know it's hard.
268
00:14:45,418 --> 00:14:46,918
[sighs] Hmmm.
269
00:14:46,920 --> 00:14:50,221
[Kody] My emotions
feels so pathetic
270
00:14:51,124 --> 00:14:53,057
that I'm frustrated by it.
271
00:14:54,794 --> 00:14:56,828
Plural marriage isn't easy.
272
00:14:56,830 --> 00:14:59,163
And on a bad day
you can feel trapped in it.
273
00:15:00,066 --> 00:15:01,699
And she's getting out the...
274
00:15:06,506 --> 00:15:07,705
the lobster bucket.
275
00:15:09,743 --> 00:15:13,845
I'm in this
really hard lifestyle,
276
00:15:14,614 --> 00:15:16,814
partly because of her.
277
00:15:16,816 --> 00:15:19,550
And it has been
very very hard,
278
00:15:19,619 --> 00:15:21,753
partly because of her.
279
00:15:21,854 --> 00:15:24,222
And she's just leaving now.
280
00:15:27,761 --> 00:15:29,761
[Robyn] I have
definitely been mourning
281
00:15:29,862 --> 00:15:32,230
the loss of
the family culture.
282
00:15:32,232 --> 00:15:35,033
Are you interested in, like,
trying to work stuff out,
283
00:15:35,035 --> 00:15:37,402
maybe from the past
how many years?
284
00:15:37,404 --> 00:15:40,204
I think for right now
I need space.
285
00:15:40,206 --> 00:15:41,739
-[Robyn] Okay.
-For right now.
286
00:15:41,841 --> 00:15:43,741
[Meri] Well, I may as well
stand up and leave.
287
00:15:43,843 --> 00:15:46,911
There's no point
of me being here
in this conversation.
288
00:15:46,913 --> 00:15:50,448
It's kind of that
last little bit of hope
sort of dying.
289
00:15:58,525 --> 00:15:59,423
[scoffs]
290
00:16:15,842 --> 00:16:18,142
So... Okay,
I guess I have a question.
291
00:16:21,014 --> 00:16:25,516
Are you in a place
where you just wanna go
do your thing?
292
00:16:27,053 --> 00:16:30,722
And those of the kids
that have relationship
with you,
293
00:16:30,724 --> 00:16:33,358
you'll spend time with them,
or whatever.
294
00:16:33,393 --> 00:16:36,828
And then the rest of us,
that, maybe you don't have
a great relationship with,
295
00:16:36,830 --> 00:16:40,164
do we just need to, like,
give you your space?
296
00:16:40,233 --> 00:16:42,734
Are you interested in
some sort of a...
297
00:16:44,304 --> 00:16:46,037
like, trying
to work stuff out,
298
00:16:46,106 --> 00:16:47,905
maybe from the past
how many years?
299
00:16:50,110 --> 00:16:52,944
I think for right now
I need space.
300
00:16:53,013 --> 00:16:54,145
-[Robyn] Okay.
-For right now.
301
00:16:55,849 --> 00:16:57,749
[Robyn] I have
definitely been mourning
302
00:16:59,319 --> 00:17:03,054
the loss of
the family culture, and...
303
00:17:03,156 --> 00:17:05,890
You know,
there's this part of me...
304
00:17:05,892 --> 00:17:07,925
There's this part of me
that wondered, you know,
305
00:17:07,927 --> 00:17:12,163
if Kody's not in the picture
for her,
306
00:17:12,232 --> 00:17:16,934
will it be easier for her
to have a relationship
with me and my kids.
307
00:17:18,338 --> 00:17:20,638
And, so...
308
00:17:27,647 --> 00:17:30,681
So that's what
I'm kind of asking.
309
00:17:30,683 --> 00:17:36,154
Um, but I do see us
getting together
for family reunions,
310
00:17:36,255 --> 00:17:40,425
and I do see us
having fun together, and...
311
00:17:40,427 --> 00:17:42,326
Is that the extent of
what you want?
312
00:17:44,264 --> 00:17:46,597
-Just a family reunion?
-For now, yeah.
313
00:17:46,599 --> 00:17:48,099
Okay.
314
00:17:48,101 --> 00:17:50,501
As far as the relationships
with the other adults,
315
00:17:50,503 --> 00:17:52,203
I think
Janelle and I are super close,
316
00:17:52,205 --> 00:17:55,706
but I'm not that
close with the rest of you.
317
00:17:55,708 --> 00:17:57,208
And for right now...
318
00:17:59,245 --> 00:18:00,812
I kinda need it that way.
319
00:18:05,952 --> 00:18:07,452
[sniffling]
320
00:18:10,156 --> 00:18:13,724
It's kind of that
last little bit of hope
sort of dying.
321
00:18:18,565 --> 00:18:20,198
My immediate thought was,
322
00:18:20,200 --> 00:18:22,400
"Well, I may as well
just stand up and leave,"
323
00:18:22,402 --> 00:18:26,003
'cause there's no point
of me being here
in this conversation.
324
00:18:26,005 --> 00:18:28,239
She doesn't
wanna work on anything.
325
00:18:28,308 --> 00:18:32,410
And I have seen
her non-acceptance of Robyn.
326
00:18:32,412 --> 00:18:37,415
And I have seen
her disdain for me
through the years.
327
00:18:37,417 --> 00:18:42,053
So as much as it hurts me,
328
00:18:42,055 --> 00:18:47,358
um, I'm glad to know
where she actually stands.
329
00:18:47,427 --> 00:18:49,727
Look, I'm not trying to end it
that way though.
330
00:18:49,729 --> 00:18:51,062
-To me it's not the end.
-[Robyn] No, listen.
331
00:18:51,131 --> 00:18:53,965
-It's kinda like...
-This isn't like a...
332
00:18:54,033 --> 00:18:57,702
This isn't like a...
It's not a trap question.
333
00:18:57,704 --> 00:18:59,403
-I didn't think so.
-It's a real question.
334
00:18:59,405 --> 00:19:00,705
I think
it's a real question too,
335
00:19:00,707 --> 00:19:02,340
and I appreciate
the real question.
336
00:19:02,441 --> 00:19:04,342
It's like,
I don't know what I am.
337
00:19:07,213 --> 00:19:09,914
She's treated you like dirt
from the very beginning.
338
00:19:09,916 --> 00:19:12,450
That's the relationship
you have with her,
339
00:19:13,520 --> 00:19:15,219
and that's the reason
I'm angry.
340
00:19:15,221 --> 00:19:18,523
That's the reason
I'm pissed off, is because...
341
00:19:22,729 --> 00:19:27,465
You never tried
to have a good relationship
with these other people!
342
00:19:27,533 --> 00:19:29,734
And that's the reason
I'm pissed off.
343
00:19:29,835 --> 00:19:32,904
-That's not true. Yes, I did.
-It's just vomiting out of me
344
00:19:32,906 --> 00:19:34,238
because I've sat here with it
345
00:19:34,340 --> 00:19:36,908
just like,
"Christine try and do this."
346
00:19:36,910 --> 00:19:40,011
You wanted to renegotiate
a relationship with me,
347
00:19:40,013 --> 00:19:43,114
but you wouldn't even
have a decent one with them.
348
00:19:43,116 --> 00:19:45,516
Always about the kids,
that was the easy part.
349
00:19:47,720 --> 00:19:48,919
Man!
350
00:19:48,921 --> 00:19:52,423
Just the knife in the kidneys
over all these years.
351
00:19:55,528 --> 00:19:57,428
[Kody whispers] Oh, no.
352
00:19:57,430 --> 00:20:01,799
[in normal voice] And
the sacrifices that I made,
to love you!
353
00:20:04,304 --> 00:20:05,603
Wasted!
354
00:20:15,014 --> 00:20:18,282
Accountability is what
I've been asking for here.
355
00:20:18,284 --> 00:20:22,053
And you are running away,
rather than being accountable.
356
00:20:23,323 --> 00:20:27,058
You're like, "I'm divorced.
[snaps fingers]
I'm leaving.
357
00:20:27,126 --> 00:20:29,860
I'm done with you.
You're out of my house."
358
00:20:32,065 --> 00:20:36,500
Instead of actually making
the relationships work
and trying.
359
00:20:39,305 --> 00:20:42,240
If you're not trying
to be your best self
in this relationship
360
00:20:42,308 --> 00:20:45,810
or in this family,
then you are wasting
your time.
361
00:20:45,812 --> 00:20:48,312
Marriage is a call
to be better than you are.
362
00:20:49,515 --> 00:20:51,315
Plural marriages
are a higher call.
363
00:20:52,051 --> 00:20:53,250
[exhales]
364
00:21:00,960 --> 00:21:03,861
Okay, look, I never tried
to treat anybody like crap.
365
00:21:03,930 --> 00:21:06,030
I never tried. I never did.
366
00:21:06,032 --> 00:21:07,131
But you did.
367
00:21:07,133 --> 00:21:10,134
-Well, I'm sorry,
I didn't want to.
-[bleep]
368
00:21:10,203 --> 00:21:11,202
...so much!
369
00:21:11,204 --> 00:21:12,903
I didn't mean to.
370
00:21:12,905 --> 00:21:13,604
[Kody] Oh, gosh.
371
00:21:13,606 --> 00:21:15,506
And you admitted to it.
372
00:21:15,508 --> 00:21:17,408
And you couldn't correct it.
373
00:21:18,745 --> 00:21:21,946
And now we're sitting here
with a broken family over it.
374
00:21:22,048 --> 00:21:24,348
And you're like
the fricking Pied Piper.
375
00:21:24,350 --> 00:21:28,352
-You're trying to take
the kids with you.
-No, that's not even-- Okay.
376
00:21:28,454 --> 00:21:29,754
[Kody sighs]
377
00:21:31,057 --> 00:21:35,059
I could sit here and dissect
everything that Kody has said,
378
00:21:35,161 --> 00:21:36,227
and give you my point.
379
00:21:37,130 --> 00:21:38,529
But we've done this for year
380
00:21:39,866 --> 00:21:40,965
I'm tired.
381
00:21:41,501 --> 00:21:42,500
I'm tired.
382
00:21:43,303 --> 00:21:45,403
It doesn't matter,
it's over.
383
00:21:52,245 --> 00:21:55,313
So, thank you.
Thank you for coming.
It was a blessing.
384
00:21:55,315 --> 00:21:56,914
Thank you for leaving.
385
00:21:56,916 --> 00:22:00,851
Cause now, I'm sitting
here trying to find
the silver lining.
386
00:22:00,920 --> 00:22:02,820
Uh, I just hope
it's a blessing.
387
00:22:07,026 --> 00:22:08,726
[Kody exhales]
388
00:22:16,703 --> 00:22:20,338
I just feel like, for the past
14 years, I've just been
sucking it up with her.
389
00:22:20,406 --> 00:22:22,707
Y'know, just trying
to be a loving husband.
390
00:22:22,709 --> 00:22:24,141
And now that she's leaving,
391
00:22:24,143 --> 00:22:26,410
I just felt like giving her
a piece of my mind
without leaving.
392
00:22:28,448 --> 00:22:31,916
And this ain't my fault,
you did this, is what
I feel like.
393
00:22:33,453 --> 00:22:35,619
I don't care if that's
not fair. That's how I feel.
394
00:22:36,122 --> 00:22:37,555
She did this.
395
00:22:40,526 --> 00:22:43,861
She's gonna go around
telling my kids that
I didn't love her.
396
00:22:47,133 --> 00:22:50,601
I feel like she needs
to realize, here with this,
397
00:22:50,603 --> 00:22:52,036
that she wasn't loving me.
398
00:22:56,609 --> 00:22:59,110
[Christine whines]
Thanks, honey.
399
00:23:07,220 --> 00:23:10,921
I'm not trying to take sides,
but I feel like Kody
was really harsh.
400
00:23:10,923 --> 00:23:13,224
Even though he tried
to dilute it a little bit,
401
00:23:13,226 --> 00:23:15,626
it seemed very pointing
to one relationship.
402
00:23:16,562 --> 00:23:19,163
I just feel like,
being a good sister wife,
403
00:23:20,733 --> 00:23:24,402
it takes both sides. It takes
reciprocation, it takes work
on all the sides.
404
00:23:24,404 --> 00:23:27,705
And work on the part
of the husband.
405
00:23:27,707 --> 00:23:31,842
[Kody] J anelle has a great
deal of sympathy for Christi
during this divorce.
406
00:23:31,944 --> 00:23:34,311
But it's a disappointment,
it's a sadness to me.
407
00:23:34,313 --> 00:23:39,016
Because what Janelle has
showed me is no tenderness,
no kindness, no empathy,
408
00:23:39,018 --> 00:23:41,152
while I'm going through
the divorce.
409
00:23:42,321 --> 00:23:44,555
-I didn't try and be anything.
-I know.
410
00:23:44,624 --> 00:23:46,056
I think it's emotion.
411
00:23:46,058 --> 00:23:48,025
-I didn't try to be
a bad anything.
-It's emotion.
412
00:23:49,629 --> 00:23:51,462
[Meri] This is not
just emotions.
413
00:23:51,530 --> 00:23:54,999
That response from Kody
was not just emotion.
414
00:23:55,001 --> 00:23:58,202
That response from Kody
was real.
415
00:23:58,204 --> 00:24:02,506
And he said some things
he probably has been
holding in for a long time.
416
00:24:03,843 --> 00:24:05,142
I'm glad he said it.
417
00:24:09,715 --> 00:24:12,950
[Christine] I-- Why don't
they talk to me?
418
00:24:13,052 --> 00:24:15,886
If my sister wives are mad
at me, why don't they
talk to me?
419
00:24:15,888 --> 00:24:19,156
Instead of talking to Kody.
It doesn't help.
420
00:24:19,192 --> 00:24:23,494
I know that in our family,
every one of us,
421
00:24:23,496 --> 00:24:28,599
has had a conversation
with another one of us,
about another one of us.
422
00:24:28,601 --> 00:24:31,969
It has happened with Robyn,
with Kody, Janelle
and Christine.
423
00:24:31,971 --> 00:24:33,603
Like, everybody.
424
00:24:35,007 --> 00:24:37,708
[Robyn] I learned very earl
on in my relationship
with Kody,
425
00:24:37,710 --> 00:24:42,112
venting my frustrations about
a sister wife didn't work.
426
00:24:42,114 --> 00:24:44,648
It made him angry, it made him
upset and I realized,
427
00:24:44,717 --> 00:24:46,617
I was talking about
someone he loved.
428
00:24:46,619 --> 00:24:50,120
Christine, for two years now,
was constantly complaining
429
00:24:50,122 --> 00:24:54,325
about her sister wives and w
she didn't wanna live
with them in one house.
430
00:24:54,327 --> 00:24:59,463
It hasn't been the other wives
tattling or backstabbing her
or anything like that.
431
00:24:59,532 --> 00:25:04,201
It's been her telling me
how she felt about them.
432
00:25:06,906 --> 00:25:11,008
I guess, y'know, I wanted
to double check.
Y'know, it sounds like
433
00:25:11,010 --> 00:25:12,242
you must continue to have
434
00:25:12,244 --> 00:25:14,044
the relationships with
the people you're
close with,
435
00:25:14,146 --> 00:25:18,949
and um, those that you aren't
close with, um, they just--
436
00:25:18,951 --> 00:25:22,820
You just wanted
to stay distant.
437
00:25:26,526 --> 00:25:28,526
-[Robyn] Okay, all right.
-For right now.
438
00:25:32,565 --> 00:25:34,197
Sorry to see you go.
439
00:25:43,743 --> 00:25:46,644
[Robyn] Through the years,
as I have had issues
with Christine,
440
00:25:46,745 --> 00:25:49,213
I've tried very hard
441
00:25:49,215 --> 00:25:53,217
to approach her, to try
to talk to her, to text her,
to call her.
442
00:25:53,219 --> 00:25:56,520
I was met with walls,
rejection.
443
00:25:56,522 --> 00:26:02,259
Um, just her not wanting
to discuss things through.
444
00:26:02,328 --> 00:26:05,763
I feel like there's been some
things said against me
behind my back.
445
00:26:07,567 --> 00:26:11,068
So do I wanna be friends
with someone who complains
about me behind my back?
446
00:26:11,837 --> 00:26:12,903
Well, not right now.
447
00:26:15,341 --> 00:26:18,309
[Robyn sobbing]
448
00:26:35,494 --> 00:26:38,562
I think this is one
of the saddest conversations
I've ever been in.
449
00:26:39,832 --> 00:26:44,134
I don't regret leaving
at all, though.
450
00:26:44,236 --> 00:26:49,707
I still stand firm that
leaving is 100%
the right thing to do.
451
00:26:49,709 --> 00:26:54,311
And moving and getting
away is definitely
the right thing to do.
452
00:26:54,313 --> 00:26:56,313
But I'm sorry I'm leaving
a mess behind.
453
00:26:58,718 --> 00:27:00,517
[Robyn sobbing]
454
00:27:24,210 --> 00:27:28,112
So, about a week ago,
Christine announced
to me and the other wives
455
00:27:28,114 --> 00:27:31,949
that she was moving.
That the house was sold
and she was leaving.
456
00:27:32,051 --> 00:27:35,519
I guess this became
the ultimate awareness for me,
457
00:27:35,521 --> 00:27:38,722
where I finally had to admit
she's leaving and I had
a meltdown.
458
00:27:40,059 --> 00:27:43,060
But I'm trying
to put that to the side.
459
00:27:43,129 --> 00:27:47,164
And, uh, go on with my other
relationships as best I can.
460
00:27:50,136 --> 00:27:51,802
[Janelle] Since we all talke
to Christine at her house,
461
00:27:51,804 --> 00:27:54,605
we've all sort of retreated
back to our little holes.
462
00:27:54,607 --> 00:27:58,108
So I don't know, I haven't
seen anybody, I don't know
what everybody is planning.
463
00:27:58,110 --> 00:28:00,744
But I have to keep moving
forward on the property.
464
00:28:00,846 --> 00:28:04,415
I don't know if it means
I'm gonna live here alone
or what,
465
00:28:04,417 --> 00:28:08,218
but, my eggs are all in this
basket and I'm just moving
forward.
466
00:28:08,220 --> 00:28:11,255
APS came out and I talked
to them about everything.
467
00:28:11,323 --> 00:28:13,457
-[Kody] About electric?
-Mmm-hmm.
468
00:28:13,559 --> 00:28:15,859
APS stands
for Arizona Public Service.
469
00:28:15,961 --> 00:28:19,830
They're basically the provider
for electricity in this area.
470
00:28:19,832 --> 00:28:23,434
So, we can't get electric
for an empty lot.
471
00:28:23,535 --> 00:28:27,237
It's a little but intimidating
to think about staying
over the winter.
472
00:28:27,306 --> 00:28:32,042
I-- I think, may be it might
work without electricity.
473
00:28:32,044 --> 00:28:33,143
I'd have to have--
474
00:28:34,046 --> 00:28:36,046
I don't know.
I'm willing to try.
475
00:28:36,115 --> 00:28:38,148
Because I believe so much
in staying out here
476
00:28:38,250 --> 00:28:40,150
and bringing this house
to fruition.
477
00:28:40,252 --> 00:28:44,254
[Kody] Like, okay, so we could
get electric with a permit
for building though, right?
478
00:28:44,356 --> 00:28:45,956
[Janelle] Yeah, I mean,
so that's down the road.
479
00:28:46,025 --> 00:28:49,159
But in October, I'm gonna have
to move up there
for a little bit.
480
00:28:49,228 --> 00:28:51,829
So, I've been at the trailer
two months.
481
00:28:51,831 --> 00:28:55,032
It's mid-August, I have two
more months before
the permit runs out.
482
00:28:55,034 --> 00:28:59,036
In our county, we only can
stay on our own property
483
00:28:59,071 --> 00:29:01,105
for four months a year
in a trailer.
484
00:29:01,107 --> 00:29:04,708
So I have to have somewhere
to go for November, December,
January, February.
485
00:29:04,710 --> 00:29:07,044
Hopefully, by February,
I'll start building.
486
00:29:07,113 --> 00:29:10,314
So I had planned to move up
to lot 3, which was gonna b
Christine's lot,
487
00:29:10,316 --> 00:29:11,448
for the winter.
488
00:29:11,517 --> 00:29:13,951
I know my heat works
cause I've been using it.
489
00:29:14,854 --> 00:29:16,486
I mean, I'm really
good to try--
490
00:29:16,488 --> 00:29:19,123
-Your generator's working
really good, right?
-Yeah, I know, it's so great!
491
00:29:19,125 --> 00:29:23,060
My heat is propane and I have
these very big tanks.
492
00:29:23,095 --> 00:29:25,963
And I just need a generator
or a battery,
493
00:29:26,031 --> 00:29:29,600
which I would charge up
the battery during the day
and it runs all night.
494
00:29:29,602 --> 00:29:31,401
I can run the heater.
495
00:29:31,403 --> 00:29:33,904
So, I'm willing to try it.
496
00:29:33,906 --> 00:29:36,840
I-- It's a really
big difference,
497
00:29:36,942 --> 00:29:40,844
um, in Flagstaff, living
in town, versus living
out here.
498
00:29:40,946 --> 00:29:44,047
The winters are harsher,
it's colder.
499
00:29:44,049 --> 00:29:47,618
Way more snow,
it's just a hard winter.
500
00:29:47,620 --> 00:29:50,721
And I can't even imagine
trying to do it in...
501
00:29:50,723 --> 00:29:54,258
But, basically, y'know, I've--
Savanah's settled in.
She's okay.
502
00:29:54,326 --> 00:29:56,293
-Yeah.
-[Janelle] Y'know what I mean?
She's doing all right.
503
00:29:56,295 --> 00:30:00,364
So my ultimate goal
with building would
be to have a house built
504
00:30:00,465 --> 00:30:02,800
by the time Savanah goes
to her senior year.
505
00:30:02,802 --> 00:30:04,501
That is about a year from no
506
00:30:04,503 --> 00:30:07,504
I'm up against huge odds
to make this happen.
507
00:30:07,506 --> 00:30:09,606
But the plans are being drawn.
508
00:30:09,608 --> 00:30:12,910
I know what it's gonna look
like, I can visualize it
in my head.
509
00:30:12,912 --> 00:30:15,145
I want this to happen.
510
00:30:15,247 --> 00:30:19,149
So I can be done by next
school year, if it gets--
If everything stays on track.
511
00:30:20,319 --> 00:30:21,952
Hmm.
512
00:30:22,054 --> 00:30:25,322
There-- There's so many
moving parts to this.
513
00:30:25,324 --> 00:30:31,361
And she keeps trying to move
forward without coming back
to the one main thing.
514
00:30:31,430 --> 00:30:32,830
That's the main thing.
515
00:30:32,832 --> 00:30:35,532
We have to pay off
the property.
516
00:30:35,601 --> 00:30:38,502
We do not have the means
to pay off the property.
517
00:30:38,504 --> 00:30:43,340
Therefore, we cannot get
the lots organized
the way we need to.
518
00:30:43,442 --> 00:30:46,210
Christine is picking up
and she's moving to Utah.
519
00:30:46,212 --> 00:30:49,446
We're done. She's done
with us, she's out.
520
00:30:49,548 --> 00:30:52,616
She's leaving, so she's
basically handing over
521
00:30:52,618 --> 00:30:55,853
her value
in Coyote Pass to me
522
00:30:55,954 --> 00:30:59,923
as exchange for my equity
in her house that
she's selling.
523
00:30:59,925 --> 00:31:05,529
But we can't pay off
Coyote Pass by
selling off a lot.
524
00:31:05,531 --> 00:31:10,534
Cause we've got to--
We need to pay it off
so we can reconfigure it,
525
00:31:10,636 --> 00:31:12,436
so we get more value
out of it.
526
00:31:12,537 --> 00:31:15,405
Y'know, I mean, like, may be
it's a horrible other thing
and I give up.
527
00:31:15,407 --> 00:31:18,208
But part of me is like,
I'm just determined,
528
00:31:18,911 --> 00:31:20,344
to try to make this work.
529
00:31:23,315 --> 00:31:25,115
Hmm. Okay.
530
00:31:25,117 --> 00:31:28,852
Look, Kody has never really
been engaged in my housing
since I moved here.
531
00:31:28,954 --> 00:31:32,222
He was mad when I went
from my first rental
to my second rental,
532
00:31:32,224 --> 00:31:34,424
even though the second
rental was much bigger.
533
00:31:34,426 --> 00:31:36,827
He was mad because
it wasn't as nice.
534
00:31:36,829 --> 00:31:39,096
But you know what, he has
a house that he lives in
535
00:31:39,098 --> 00:31:41,298
upon the hill with Robyn
and it's really nice.
536
00:31:41,300 --> 00:31:45,102
And I have nothing. So I'm
trying hard to build myself
something here.
537
00:31:45,104 --> 00:31:48,505
The original plan from
the very beginning was that
we would build on Coyote Pass
538
00:31:48,507 --> 00:31:50,841
but we ran into some real
problems when we moved here.
539
00:31:50,909 --> 00:31:53,210
So, we bought a house
for Christine,
540
00:31:53,212 --> 00:31:56,313
and then eventually, we had
to buy a house for Robyn.
541
00:31:56,315 --> 00:31:58,615
I know this
is bothering Janelle,
542
00:31:58,617 --> 00:32:02,452
but I've been invested in this
from the very beginning.
543
00:32:02,554 --> 00:32:06,323
And the problem is,
we do discuss it,
I get involved in her house,
544
00:32:06,325 --> 00:32:10,060
but she doesn't like me being
involved because I disagree
with her.
545
00:32:10,062 --> 00:32:12,562
So instead of coming
to a meeting of the minds,
546
00:32:12,631 --> 00:32:14,164
she just does
whatever she wants.
547
00:32:15,534 --> 00:32:17,200
Look, I know you're like,
"We should have just bought."
548
00:32:17,202 --> 00:32:19,303
-But I felt like this
was the right thing to do.
-No, no, no.
549
00:32:19,305 --> 00:32:21,438
It's not even just buying,
it's just renting.
550
00:32:21,540 --> 00:32:24,708
Kody, if I were to ride
in town, it would just be out
of sight, out of mind again,
551
00:32:24,710 --> 00:32:26,109
y'know, I mean...
552
00:32:26,111 --> 00:32:28,045
So, that was part
of the whole reason
I wanted to move out here,
553
00:32:28,113 --> 00:32:30,547
was to keep me
moving along.
554
00:32:32,618 --> 00:32:36,620
I have gotten myself in a very
stupid position as far as
an independent woman.
555
00:32:36,622 --> 00:32:38,755
If I were to leave, or want
to leave right now,
556
00:32:38,857 --> 00:32:41,758
I would have no estate.
I have nothing to leave
to my kids.
557
00:32:41,827 --> 00:32:44,027
My hands are completely tied
558
00:32:44,029 --> 00:32:47,831
cause everything I have
asset wise has everybody
else's name on it too.
559
00:32:50,202 --> 00:32:53,303
[Robyn] We all are owners
of property.
560
00:32:53,305 --> 00:32:55,605
Our names are on different
pieces of the properties,
561
00:32:55,607 --> 00:32:58,442
so we do-- We actually all
do have an asset.
562
00:32:58,510 --> 00:33:02,045
My home does have Kody
and I's name on it.
563
00:33:02,047 --> 00:33:08,518
Y'know, through the years,
we've had multiple people
on the homes,
564
00:33:08,520 --> 00:33:14,624
because in the past, we real
have just worked together
as a family, y'know.
565
00:33:14,626 --> 00:33:18,228
And so, it really didn't
matter, we all just kind of
had each other's backs.
566
00:33:18,230 --> 00:33:22,032
And, y'know, we're all
in this together.
567
00:33:22,134 --> 00:33:26,903
[Janelle] Honestly, I gave
half the proceeds from
my house in like, Vegas,
568
00:33:26,905 --> 00:33:30,507
to Robyn to help purchase this
house that she's in currently.
569
00:33:30,509 --> 00:33:34,177
We also, at that time, pooled
a lot of money from the joint
family account
570
00:33:34,179 --> 00:33:35,812
to help get her
into that house.
571
00:33:35,814 --> 00:33:38,515
We have a family account
and the same amount
of money is in it
572
00:33:38,517 --> 00:33:40,717
as when we bought
Robyn's house.
573
00:33:40,719 --> 00:33:44,521
And it was okay to deplete
at that point, to pay
for Robyn's house.
574
00:33:44,523 --> 00:33:47,958
And I'm like,
"We did it for Robyn,
we did it for Christine,
575
00:33:47,960 --> 00:33:50,594
why can it not be
my turn?"
576
00:33:50,596 --> 00:33:55,399
Well, it wasn't a matter
of finding the money,
for Christine's house,
577
00:33:55,401 --> 00:33:58,702
or finding the money
for Robyn's house,
578
00:33:58,704 --> 00:34:01,204
it was a matter of having
the money.
579
00:34:02,207 --> 00:34:04,708
Now, we don't have
the money.
580
00:34:04,710 --> 00:34:06,076
So, I'll keep moving forward.
581
00:34:06,078 --> 00:34:07,944
Cause I have to think that
whatever we're doing
582
00:34:07,946 --> 00:34:10,514
is going to blaze the trail
for the other pieces.
583
00:34:11,550 --> 00:34:12,516
[Kody] Yeah.
584
00:34:13,719 --> 00:34:16,520
I'm in this weird place
with my wives.
585
00:34:16,522 --> 00:34:18,822
I've got this huge struggle
that's going on
with Christine,
586
00:34:18,824 --> 00:34:22,125
and what's happened
is I've just become agreeabl
587
00:34:22,127 --> 00:34:26,029
That's why I'm sitting
here, just going,
"Yeah, yeah, yeah."
588
00:34:26,031 --> 00:34:29,933
When I know it's just--
There's a disconnect.
589
00:34:30,035 --> 00:34:33,303
And in order for her
to start building
on this land,
590
00:34:33,305 --> 00:34:35,005
we have to pay it off.
591
00:34:35,507 --> 00:34:36,606
All right.
592
00:34:38,510 --> 00:34:42,212
I needed a place where I could
actually nurture
593
00:34:42,214 --> 00:34:44,815
a relationship with Janelle
and Savanah.
594
00:34:45,417 --> 00:34:46,750
And it's too late.
595
00:34:47,519 --> 00:34:49,319
We already have the RV.
596
00:34:49,321 --> 00:34:51,655
Well, I'll look
into getting propane.
597
00:34:51,723 --> 00:34:53,723
-[Janelle] All right, baby.
See you later.
-[Kody] See ya.
598
00:34:55,194 --> 00:35:00,063
It's exhausting
our emotional resources.
599
00:35:02,901 --> 00:35:04,434
[Janelle] I'm not asking
him to do anything.
600
00:35:04,436 --> 00:35:06,403
I'm not asking anyone else
to come out here and build,
601
00:35:06,405 --> 00:35:08,939
nobody else has to make
any decisions.
602
00:35:08,941 --> 00:35:11,041
And I'm not asking him
for any money,
603
00:35:11,043 --> 00:35:13,210
except for the money that
the family has pledged
604
00:35:13,212 --> 00:35:16,246
to pay off this property
when we first bought it.
605
00:35:16,314 --> 00:35:18,815
So, that's all I'm asking,
is for him to honor
that commitment,
606
00:35:18,817 --> 00:35:21,751
for everybody to prioritize
that and then after that,
I don't care.
607
00:35:21,853 --> 00:35:23,954
I'm just trying to build
something for myself here.
608
00:35:27,025 --> 00:35:28,925
Today was the first day
of school for the kids.
609
00:35:29,060 --> 00:35:31,628
-Hi, Ariella. Hi, Sol.
-Hi.
610
00:35:31,630 --> 00:35:34,931
First day of school. Mommy.
First day of school. Mommy.
611
00:35:34,933 --> 00:35:36,233
Good job, high five.
612
00:35:36,301 --> 00:35:38,101
[Kody] Ariella
is my 18th child.
613
00:35:38,103 --> 00:35:40,837
And there is this sense
of this being the last,
614
00:35:40,939 --> 00:35:42,439
both for me and for Robyn.
615
00:35:42,507 --> 00:35:44,274
[Kody] Let's write your name.
616
00:35:44,276 --> 00:35:46,309
[Christine] I think one
of the most important
parts about me leaving Kody
617
00:35:46,311 --> 00:35:51,047
was to keep the good
memories that he has
with the kids present.
618
00:35:51,116 --> 00:35:54,351
You don't want your kids
to have just-- Remember
all the negative times.
619
00:35:54,419 --> 00:35:55,952
That doesn't serve anybody.
620
00:36:08,934 --> 00:36:13,803
So things are really, really
difficult right now
with the family.
621
00:36:13,805 --> 00:36:17,040
But, y'know, Kody and I still
have little kids.
622
00:36:17,142 --> 00:36:20,510
They're going back to school
in person, for the first time.
623
00:36:20,512 --> 00:36:24,214
And, y'know, I want to have
them feel special
624
00:36:24,216 --> 00:36:26,416
and like, excited about
their day and stuff.
625
00:36:27,219 --> 00:36:28,652
Oh, my goodness.
626
00:36:29,421 --> 00:36:31,154
Fun, fun, school.
627
00:36:31,256 --> 00:36:33,290
Today was the first day
of school for the kids.
628
00:36:33,292 --> 00:36:37,427
But, the most important thing
is it's Ari's first day
of kindergarten.
629
00:36:37,429 --> 00:36:42,065
Solomon was in third grade
last year and he was online
the whole, entire year.
630
00:36:42,133 --> 00:36:45,602
This is his first day back
in person, too, which
is really fun.
631
00:36:45,604 --> 00:36:47,704
-Hi!
-Hi, Ariella.
632
00:36:47,706 --> 00:36:49,139
-Hi!
-[Kody] Hi, Sol.
633
00:36:49,241 --> 00:36:50,540
[Breanna] Happy first day!
634
00:36:50,609 --> 00:36:52,108
-[Kody] How was it?
-[Solomon and Ariella] Good.
635
00:36:52,110 --> 00:36:53,310
Did you make friends?
636
00:36:53,312 --> 00:36:54,411
-[Solomon] Yeah.
-[Ariella] Yes.
637
00:36:54,413 --> 00:36:57,480
We did get a report
from Ariella's teacher
638
00:36:57,482 --> 00:37:00,817
that there was a girl that
was there, that was shy
and sad.
639
00:37:00,819 --> 00:37:04,721
And that Ari was very helpfu
and she tried to hold
her hand,
640
00:37:04,723 --> 00:37:06,456
and, uh, help
this other person.
641
00:37:06,525 --> 00:37:07,757
Hey, come here.
642
00:37:07,826 --> 00:37:09,826
-Hey, I wanna know
how your day was.
-Breanna!
643
00:37:09,828 --> 00:37:11,127
[Ariella] My day was good.
644
00:37:11,129 --> 00:37:13,563
[Kody] Ari is very gregariou
very brave.
645
00:37:13,632 --> 00:37:16,533
She's a little girl that
I'm actually very proud of.
646
00:37:16,635 --> 00:37:20,937
I made a friend with Sad,
cause I wouldn't leave
her alone.
647
00:37:21,039 --> 00:37:23,907
[Kody] Okay, you're friend
with Sad, cause you wouldn't
leave her alone?
648
00:37:23,909 --> 00:37:24,841
Yeah.
649
00:37:27,713 --> 00:37:29,346
Were you being
too much of a pest?
650
00:37:29,447 --> 00:37:31,648
[Robyn] Oh, we don't use
that word. Let's be nice.
651
00:37:33,252 --> 00:37:35,118
You were bugging her?
652
00:37:35,120 --> 00:37:37,721
-Oh, really? I'm so sorry.
-[Robyn giggles]
653
00:37:37,723 --> 00:37:40,624
She-- She kept running
away from me.
654
00:37:40,626 --> 00:37:42,959
Why was she running away?
655
00:37:49,835 --> 00:37:51,334
He cut her off.
656
00:37:52,204 --> 00:37:53,803
Breaking up, yeah.
657
00:37:53,805 --> 00:37:55,939
[Robyn] Were you nervous
when I dropped you off
to school today?
658
00:37:55,941 --> 00:37:57,340
-Yeah.
-[Robyn] You were?
659
00:37:57,442 --> 00:38:00,043
Did that teacher take you
to your class?
660
00:38:00,145 --> 00:38:02,112
-[Ariella] Yeah. Yeah.
-And you were okay?
661
00:38:02,114 --> 00:38:05,048
I almost ran back to her,
662
00:38:05,117 --> 00:38:07,217
but I was like, "No, first day
of school. Mommy.
663
00:38:07,219 --> 00:38:10,320
First day of school. Mommy.
First day of school. Mommy."
664
00:38:10,322 --> 00:38:12,322
Ari, you're shy.
665
00:38:12,924 --> 00:38:14,124
[giggles]
666
00:38:15,227 --> 00:38:17,427
-Why are you offended?
-[sighs]
667
00:38:17,429 --> 00:38:18,428
It's true.
668
00:38:18,430 --> 00:38:20,330
Mama was sad when she
dropped you off.
669
00:38:20,332 --> 00:38:23,600
Yeah, I was like,
[in childish voice]
"My baby, my baby."
670
00:38:23,602 --> 00:38:24,834
[in normal voice] I think it
was the hardest--
671
00:38:24,936 --> 00:38:26,936
It was the hardest drop off
I've ever done.
672
00:38:26,938 --> 00:38:29,139
And I went and got in the car
with Kody and I was like,
673
00:38:29,240 --> 00:38:33,310
"Gosh, that-- That's scary.
That's hard. I don't like
this." And...
674
00:38:33,312 --> 00:38:35,345
He was like, "Yeah,
that was weird."
675
00:38:35,414 --> 00:38:38,615
And he was getting
a little bit, like, emotional,
676
00:38:38,617 --> 00:38:43,053
cause he's like, "That's
my last kindergartener
too." And...
677
00:38:43,055 --> 00:38:45,355
And it was-- I don't know,
it was just kind of like,
678
00:38:45,424 --> 00:38:47,691
this moment we just sat there
in it going,
679
00:38:47,693 --> 00:38:52,462
"Well, y'know, this is--
This is kind of difficult
to do."
680
00:38:52,564 --> 00:38:54,364
-[pleasant music playing]
-[children chattering]
681
00:38:54,466 --> 00:38:56,032
How do you open it, huh?
682
00:38:56,101 --> 00:38:58,935
-[children giggling
and chattering]
-We can be quiet.
683
00:38:59,004 --> 00:39:02,639
[Janelle] So, Kody, especial
when they were little,
was such a good dad.
684
00:39:02,741 --> 00:39:05,809
Like, I can remember a lot
of things, like walking
in a line,
685
00:39:05,811 --> 00:39:07,844
and probably trying to go
brush their teeth
or something.
686
00:39:07,946 --> 00:39:09,913
[in sing-song voice] Da-da.
687
00:39:09,915 --> 00:39:13,516
-[Kody] Da-da.
-[children] Da-da.
688
00:39:13,518 --> 00:39:17,454
I thought Kody was stellar,
he did such an amazing job
relating to his kids.
689
00:39:17,555 --> 00:39:19,823
[Meri] When each of Kody's
kids were born,
690
00:39:19,825 --> 00:39:22,826
they all just brought him
so much joy.
691
00:39:22,828 --> 00:39:26,262
I mean, he loved hanging
out with them.
692
00:39:26,364 --> 00:39:29,199
Y'know, he was always
a really, really, good dad.
693
00:39:29,201 --> 00:39:31,835
[Kody] Let's write your name.
694
00:39:31,936 --> 00:39:34,637
[Christine] I think one
of the most important
parts about me leaving Kody
695
00:39:34,739 --> 00:39:39,409
was to keep the good
memories that he has
with the kids present.
696
00:39:39,411 --> 00:39:43,113
He used to wrestle with
the older kids all the time
697
00:39:43,115 --> 00:39:44,447
I just think it's important
to remember
698
00:39:44,449 --> 00:39:46,750
all the good memories
that the kids have
of their dad.
699
00:39:46,818 --> 00:39:50,053
You don't want your kids
to have just-- Remember
all the negative times.
700
00:39:50,122 --> 00:39:51,721
That doesn't serve anybody.
701
00:39:51,723 --> 00:39:54,257
Uh, what would you call this?
Your unicorn?
702
00:39:54,359 --> 00:39:56,626
Lunch-- Well, you ate
everything but the apple.
703
00:39:56,628 --> 00:39:59,462
-[Robyn] Almost all of it--
Yeah, that's how much.
-Good job, high five.
704
00:39:59,564 --> 00:40:02,098
[Kody] Ariella
is my 18th child.
705
00:40:02,100 --> 00:40:06,236
And there is this sense
of this being the last,
both for me and for Robyn,
706
00:40:07,205 --> 00:40:09,105
of being a very...
707
00:40:09,908 --> 00:40:12,041
Somehow, we just
wanna cherish.
708
00:40:12,143 --> 00:40:16,146
I sort of want to every day
engage or find out, "What wa
your day like?" And...
709
00:40:16,948 --> 00:40:20,717
It's a poignant thought.
710
00:40:20,719 --> 00:40:22,018
Sobering if you will,
711
00:40:23,054 --> 00:40:26,089
to think that this
is your last out of so many.
712
00:40:26,091 --> 00:40:28,525
-All right, did you have
a great day at school?
-[Ariella] Yes, I did.
713
00:40:28,527 --> 00:40:30,994
-Did you have a great day
at school?
-Yes.
714
00:40:30,996 --> 00:40:33,630
-Breanna, did you have a great
day at school?
-I had a great day.
715
00:40:33,632 --> 00:40:35,064
-[Kody] Probably cause a boy
was there.
-[Robyn] Senior!
716
00:40:35,066 --> 00:40:36,599
-[Kody] Let's go.
-Oh, my God!
717
00:40:36,601 --> 00:40:39,636
-[Kody] Kids, get inside.
-She's gonna graduate
this year. [whoops]
718
00:40:39,737 --> 00:40:40,503
[Kody] Come on inside.
719
00:40:40,505 --> 00:40:42,338
And cut.
720
00:40:42,440 --> 00:40:43,606
[man] Wow.
721
00:40:45,410 --> 00:40:47,510
[Kody] Next time,
on Sister Wives...
722
00:40:47,512 --> 00:40:49,646
-Mom, do you wanna know
something exciting?
-[Christine] Yes
723
00:40:49,747 --> 00:40:52,248
-We're gonna live 20 minutes
away from each other.
-[screams]
724
00:40:52,317 --> 00:40:54,350
I want my mom to have
everybody say goodbye to her.
725
00:40:54,452 --> 00:40:58,321
Is any of the family--
Are you guys gonna do
anything like, a goodbye?
726
00:40:58,323 --> 00:41:01,424
Are we gonna go dump
toilets on their lawn?
727
00:41:01,426 --> 00:41:03,393
Like what are we doing?
What's the plan?
728
00:41:03,395 --> 00:41:04,828
I don't think we're doing
anything like that.
729
00:41:04,830 --> 00:41:08,064
Yes, she's divorcing my dad,
but she's not saying,
730
00:41:08,066 --> 00:41:10,433
"Okay, peace out, I'm done
with every single one of you."
731
00:41:10,502 --> 00:41:12,302
I'm leaving in five minutes.
732
00:41:12,304 --> 00:41:14,838
I feel like my life
is being unraveled before me.
733
00:41:14,906 --> 00:41:17,507
Hey, guys, thank you
for coming. Hey, it means
a lot to me that you came.
734
00:41:18,243 --> 00:41:19,909
[Christine crying]
735
00:41:19,911 --> 00:41:22,512
I think this
was the worst goodbye
736
00:41:23,148 --> 00:41:24,747
that I've ever witnessed.
737
00:41:24,849 --> 00:41:27,050
[Christine crying]