1 00:00:01,202 --> 00:00:02,868 [narrator] Previously on Sister Wives. 2 00:00:02,870 --> 00:00:04,803 [Christine] Kody, Meri, Janelle and Robyn are all coming over 3 00:00:04,805 --> 00:00:08,107 because I need to tell them that my house is now under contract. 4 00:00:08,109 --> 00:00:10,109 Congratulations, you're leaving the family. 5 00:00:10,111 --> 00:00:12,511 Like, I don't know what I'm supposed to say to this. 6 00:00:12,513 --> 00:00:17,616 [Kody] You never tried to have a really good relationship with these other people. 7 00:00:17,618 --> 00:00:22,955 Man, just the knife in the kidneys over all these years! 8 00:00:22,957 --> 00:00:25,424 It doesn't matter. It's over. 9 00:00:25,426 --> 00:00:28,961 I mean, again, our relationship doesn't change 10 00:00:28,963 --> 00:00:33,732 just because my mom's decided to leave dad. It doesn't change it. 11 00:00:33,801 --> 00:00:35,233 You're still mom. 12 00:00:35,235 --> 00:00:39,304 I am open and interested in a relationship with any of the kids 13 00:00:39,306 --> 00:00:41,140 or wives that want one. 14 00:00:41,241 --> 00:00:43,742 It's what I've always wanted. 15 00:00:43,811 --> 00:00:46,912 It was really important to me for everybody 16 00:00:46,914 --> 00:00:48,547 to come say goodbye to my mom. 17 00:00:48,616 --> 00:00:52,851 It's raining. I'm leaving in five minutes. 18 00:00:52,920 --> 00:00:55,020 I'm in this sort of weird place where 19 00:00:55,022 --> 00:00:58,824 I don't want to see Christine ever again. 20 00:00:58,826 --> 00:01:00,692 I... I don't want to think about her. 21 00:01:00,694 --> 00:01:04,530 I don't want to drive past this house ever again and mourn this. 22 00:01:04,532 --> 00:01:06,932 I don't want to deal with this at all. 23 00:01:07,001 --> 00:01:08,100 You guys, thank you for coming. 24 00:01:08,102 --> 00:01:10,302 Hey, it means a lot to me that you came. 25 00:01:10,304 --> 00:01:11,937 [sobbing] 26 00:01:13,941 --> 00:01:16,241 So it's very apparent how awkward we all are. 27 00:01:16,343 --> 00:01:20,746 But Janelle and her kids are on one side, and Robyn and Kody are on the other, 28 00:01:20,848 --> 00:01:24,450 and none of us want to be here. 29 00:01:58,185 --> 00:02:00,619 [Christine] So I am moving today. Oh, my gosh. 30 00:02:00,621 --> 00:02:02,488 It's here. It's here. It's here. 31 00:02:02,490 --> 00:02:07,259 I am moving to Utah. I have a home, it's a rental I haven't seen it. 32 00:02:07,328 --> 00:02:10,496 It's a sight unseen because Mykelti did a walk-through 33 00:02:10,498 --> 00:02:12,564 and she says I'll love it. 34 00:02:12,633 --> 00:02:14,600 It's great. And it's new. 35 00:02:16,804 --> 00:02:20,906 About a week ago, I got an offer on my house, but it fell through today, 36 00:02:20,908 --> 00:02:24,409 as we're loading up the truck. So the house is back on the market 37 00:02:24,411 --> 00:02:26,745 and people are coming today to look at it. 38 00:02:26,814 --> 00:02:28,614 We're going to load up everything. 39 00:02:28,616 --> 00:02:32,551 And then if we have time left, we will clean. 40 00:02:32,653 --> 00:02:34,653 So initially, when I had the offer on my house, 41 00:02:34,722 --> 00:02:37,489 I had three weeks before the closing date. 42 00:02:37,491 --> 00:02:39,091 Okay, let's go do a once-over. 43 00:02:39,093 --> 00:02:42,628 So now I've got to clean everything out so the house can be shown, 44 00:02:42,630 --> 00:02:44,229 but I'm not going to be able to have 45 00:02:44,231 --> 00:02:45,764 enough room to take all of my stuff. 46 00:02:45,832 --> 00:02:47,232 I'm gonna have to still come back. 47 00:02:47,334 --> 00:02:50,702 So we're just gonna put everything in the garage and leave it there 48 00:02:50,704 --> 00:02:53,138 and I'll be back in a couple of weeks, in a week or so or whatever 49 00:02:53,240 --> 00:02:55,707 to come and get the rest of my stuff. 50 00:02:55,709 --> 00:02:57,910 -What a view, huh? -[Mykelti] It is a beautiful view. 51 00:02:57,912 --> 00:02:59,545 Oh, gosh. It is a great day, too. 52 00:02:59,646 --> 00:03:02,114 Most of the local family gathered together to say 53 00:03:02,116 --> 00:03:04,049 goodbye to Christine last night. 54 00:03:04,051 --> 00:03:06,818 It was extremely awkward. 55 00:03:06,820 --> 00:03:09,021 -Hi, Christine. Good luck. -Bye, thank you. 56 00:03:09,023 --> 00:03:11,123 -Bye. -Bye. Thank you. 57 00:03:11,125 --> 00:03:14,226 -Thank you. -Okay. Safe travels. We'll see you. 58 00:03:14,228 --> 00:03:16,128 That was awkward and horrible. 59 00:03:18,232 --> 00:03:19,565 And... 60 00:03:21,602 --> 00:03:24,036 I have no idea what to do with it. 61 00:03:24,038 --> 00:03:27,940 Christine doesn't want a relationship with me or my kids. 62 00:03:28,041 --> 00:03:31,810 I guess she disappears to a certain extent out of my life. 63 00:03:31,812 --> 00:03:36,315 If I happen to run into her when Truely is over, 64 00:03:36,317 --> 00:03:39,251 just sort of stay out of her way. 65 00:03:39,320 --> 00:03:41,320 [Christine] This one looks perfect. 66 00:03:41,322 --> 00:03:44,356 No one ever wants to leave a marriage. 67 00:03:44,424 --> 00:03:46,725 And especially after, what, 27 years? 68 00:03:46,727 --> 00:03:51,363 It's a long time to be in a marriage and to be in a relationship with people. 69 00:03:51,432 --> 00:03:55,334 And I'm leaving broken hearts behind. And that's what's hard. 70 00:03:57,004 --> 00:04:01,340 Truely's stressed today. She's very nervous. 71 00:04:01,441 --> 00:04:05,043 Moving's hard and starting over is really hard. 72 00:04:05,145 --> 00:04:06,778 I know I'm moving her to better. 73 00:04:06,780 --> 00:04:12,050 I'm fully confident, moving her to a better life. But she doesn't know that yet. 74 00:04:14,822 --> 00:04:19,625 [Robyn] It's really hard to be optimistic when a bomb just went off 75 00:04:19,627 --> 00:04:23,528 and blew up pretty much all of your hopes. 76 00:04:23,530 --> 00:04:27,532 The collateral damage will last for generations. 77 00:04:27,601 --> 00:04:29,568 [Meri] As the news about Christine leaving 78 00:04:29,570 --> 00:04:32,104 has been more public and has spread, 79 00:04:32,106 --> 00:04:34,940 you know, more and more people know about it, 80 00:04:34,942 --> 00:04:37,209 it shocks me how mean people are. 81 00:04:37,211 --> 00:04:40,512 I think that's it. I think that's all we have left. 82 00:04:40,514 --> 00:04:43,949 These people, like, come at me and they're just like, 83 00:04:44,018 --> 00:04:46,051 "Why can't you be strong like Christine?" 84 00:04:46,153 --> 00:04:49,454 "Why don't you leave Kody? He's such a..." Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. 85 00:04:49,523 --> 00:04:52,724 Like, the whole list of things that they say about Kody. 86 00:04:52,726 --> 00:04:55,627 It frustrates me because, you know what? 87 00:04:55,629 --> 00:04:59,564 Christine has her own value regardless of Kody. 88 00:04:59,633 --> 00:05:03,402 I have my own value regardless of Kody. 89 00:05:03,404 --> 00:05:05,537 [Janelle] I have coffee. 90 00:05:05,639 --> 00:05:07,939 -I have coffee. -Janelle! 91 00:05:08,041 --> 00:05:10,809 -[Janelle] I have coffee. -Nice. 92 00:05:10,811 --> 00:05:16,615 I'll always be grateful to Janelle for how amazing she's been during all of this. 93 00:05:16,617 --> 00:05:21,053 She's been supportive of me leaving and me moving 94 00:05:21,121 --> 00:05:24,823 and leaving the family and changing the whole dynamic of the family. 95 00:05:24,825 --> 00:05:27,926 Thank you for everybody for coming this long distance. 96 00:05:27,928 --> 00:05:31,163 And thank you for helping me so much. 97 00:05:31,231 --> 00:05:35,867 Thank you for being one of my best friends, Janelle. Thank you. 98 00:05:35,936 --> 00:05:37,736 And this to... to new beginnings, right? 99 00:05:37,805 --> 00:05:38,937 -New beginnings. -To new beginnings. 100 00:05:38,939 --> 00:05:40,238 New beginnings. 101 00:05:40,340 --> 00:05:43,208 I see now without the sister wife piece. 102 00:05:43,210 --> 00:05:46,611 Like, where we're just two people with this shared life experience. 103 00:05:46,613 --> 00:05:49,114 We're gonna be such great friends. I mean, we are. 104 00:05:49,116 --> 00:05:51,316 We're gonna be, and that's gonna continue. 105 00:05:51,318 --> 00:05:54,619 -Thank you. See you later. -See you later. 106 00:05:54,621 --> 00:05:57,522 -Okay. It's not... It's not goodbye. -No. 107 00:05:57,524 --> 00:05:59,024 -I'll see you in a week. -See you soon. 108 00:05:59,026 --> 00:06:00,525 -See you later. -Just see you later. 109 00:06:00,527 --> 00:06:01,827 So not only is she supporting me, 110 00:06:01,829 --> 00:06:05,931 but she's helping me look forward to my next adventure. 111 00:06:05,933 --> 00:06:08,033 Yeah. I couldn't ask for a better friend, ever. 112 00:06:09,703 --> 00:06:12,237 Um, Christine is leaving. 113 00:06:18,712 --> 00:06:19,911 [sighs] 114 00:06:19,913 --> 00:06:22,047 I'm good until I think about it. So... 115 00:06:26,019 --> 00:06:28,787 It's not the end. It's just the end of a chapter. 116 00:06:28,789 --> 00:06:34,126 So, a big, big chapter. The end of the book, maybe. 117 00:06:34,128 --> 00:06:38,830 All of a sudden my whole world looks different. So... 118 00:06:46,206 --> 00:06:49,107 Yeah. Like, we just... I don't think any of us know what goes on now. 119 00:06:49,109 --> 00:06:51,042 We're just gonna have to make it up. 120 00:06:51,044 --> 00:06:54,746 There's no pattern. There's no rules. There's no guidelines. 121 00:06:55,649 --> 00:06:58,116 It's whatever we want it to be, now. 122 00:07:01,789 --> 00:07:04,322 -[producer speaking] -[chuckles] 123 00:07:06,627 --> 00:07:11,229 It's hard to leave. Gosh, it's really hard to leave. 124 00:07:11,231 --> 00:07:14,199 Ending a chapter is really hard no matter what, you know? 125 00:07:15,903 --> 00:07:19,204 All right, lovelies. Let's go. That's it. 126 00:07:19,206 --> 00:07:22,240 Freedom! I mean, next adventure! 127 00:07:23,610 --> 00:07:27,245 -You are the best therapy. -We're gonna be neighbors. 128 00:07:28,515 --> 00:07:31,149 She's moving today, she's leaving. And I'm... 129 00:07:31,251 --> 00:07:35,020 There's a sense that I feel like I'm just, in a way, coping. 130 00:07:35,022 --> 00:07:38,156 And I really want to tell her I loved you. 131 00:07:38,225 --> 00:07:41,993 I loved you. Why did you betray me? 132 00:07:41,995 --> 00:07:44,129 I worked for this. 133 00:07:46,800 --> 00:07:50,602 And that's almost just pathetic because she's leaving. 134 00:07:50,604 --> 00:07:53,738 She's done. And I've got to accept that. 135 00:07:53,807 --> 00:07:56,107 But I don't want to because it's breaking my heart. 136 00:07:58,512 --> 00:08:01,513 [Christine] Everything that I was feeling before about being nervous, 137 00:08:01,515 --> 00:08:03,114 it's gone all of a sudden. 138 00:08:03,116 --> 00:08:06,151 This is what I was waiting for. This is what I was hoping for. 139 00:08:14,761 --> 00:08:16,628 This is a test to show how... 140 00:08:16,630 --> 00:08:18,630 [both giggling] 141 00:08:18,632 --> 00:08:20,332 -[doctor] Okay. Again. -You're doing good. 142 00:08:24,404 --> 00:08:25,937 Honey, I'm home. 143 00:08:26,006 --> 00:08:27,639 -Hey. -[Kody] Hi. 144 00:08:33,046 --> 00:08:35,413 [Christine] We've had a lot of good memories at this house, 145 00:08:35,415 --> 00:08:40,218 a lot of great times and great parties and great gatherings. 146 00:08:40,220 --> 00:08:44,356 But I'm so excited to just move on. 147 00:08:48,028 --> 00:08:50,061 Today I get to be at home. 148 00:08:54,101 --> 00:08:55,700 It's late. It is super late. 149 00:08:55,702 --> 00:08:58,803 We're getting in kind of late, but Aspyn's gonna meet us there. 150 00:08:58,805 --> 00:09:01,339 -[Christine] Aspyn. -I missed you. 151 00:09:01,441 --> 00:09:03,542 [Christine] Hi, baby. Aw. 152 00:09:03,610 --> 00:09:06,611 I've been moving towards family and moving, and she's here. 153 00:09:06,613 --> 00:09:09,948 And gosh, it just feels so overwhelmingly amazing. 154 00:09:10,017 --> 00:09:12,017 I just made the right decision. 155 00:09:12,019 --> 00:09:13,552 -You ready to go see our new house? -Yeah. 156 00:09:13,620 --> 00:09:15,820 Okay. That sounds good to me, too. 157 00:09:15,822 --> 00:09:17,322 I don't want to move anything in yet. 158 00:09:17,324 --> 00:09:20,125 I want a tour. I want a tour of my house. 159 00:09:20,127 --> 00:09:23,128 -Mom. -This is perfect. Truely has two sinks. 160 00:09:23,130 --> 00:09:25,363 Whoa! A huge mirror. 161 00:09:25,465 --> 00:09:28,733 There's a separate door to the toilet. It's pretty awesome. 162 00:09:28,835 --> 00:09:30,602 And the laundry room. Did you see the laundry room? 163 00:09:30,604 --> 00:09:32,404 Oh, oh, oh. 164 00:09:32,406 --> 00:09:35,540 You could have a dance party in that laundry room. It's huge. 165 00:09:35,642 --> 00:09:38,944 Oh, this is the other bedroom. Okay. 166 00:09:39,012 --> 00:09:42,747 It's cute. It's really pretty and it's new and it's clean. 167 00:09:44,051 --> 00:09:47,519 So is this your room? Is this Truely's room? 168 00:09:47,521 --> 00:09:51,623 [Truely chanting] Truely's room. Truely's room. 169 00:09:51,625 --> 00:09:54,125 [Christine] Truely has picke a bedroom and she likes it. 170 00:09:54,127 --> 00:09:56,461 It's helping Truely even be more okay. 171 00:09:56,529 --> 00:09:58,330 This has been stressful. 172 00:09:58,332 --> 00:10:02,033 There's been a lot going on. Kind of excited for the new adventure. 173 00:10:02,102 --> 00:10:04,636 It will all be a lot of new, though. That's the thing. 174 00:10:04,738 --> 00:10:08,540 I mean, she spent like more than half of her life with the family. 175 00:10:08,609 --> 00:10:10,175 So how the relationship's gonna be different 176 00:10:10,177 --> 00:10:12,110 between the kids and the other moms and everything? 177 00:10:12,112 --> 00:10:13,611 -Mm-hmm. -Mm-hmm. 178 00:10:13,613 --> 00:10:17,215 Yeah, like, nervous about that. Like, how the family changes. 179 00:10:17,217 --> 00:10:21,052 Because it's definitely changed. It's totally different now. 180 00:10:21,154 --> 00:10:23,154 I'm in the master's. This will be mine. 181 00:10:23,256 --> 00:10:25,423 En suite, you know, it's called the en suite. 182 00:10:25,425 --> 00:10:29,694 This is now my room, and it's just mine. 183 00:10:29,696 --> 00:10:31,563 I get to decorate it how I want. 184 00:10:31,665 --> 00:10:34,699 I'm gonna buy new furniture for it exactly how I want. 185 00:10:34,701 --> 00:10:37,802 Oh, please, mama. That's happening tonight. 186 00:10:37,804 --> 00:10:40,005 And it's just mine. 187 00:10:40,007 --> 00:10:43,742 This is a great space. I'm only gonna have a queen size bed anyway. 188 00:10:43,843 --> 00:10:45,210 It just represents everything, so I'm just 189 00:10:45,212 --> 00:10:49,347 excited to have it be my space alone for a while. 190 00:10:55,222 --> 00:10:58,323 -Her offer didn't go through on the house. -Yeah. 191 00:10:58,325 --> 00:11:00,325 Why don't we buy it? 192 00:11:00,327 --> 00:11:03,461 We buy the house, we build on Coyote Pass, 193 00:11:03,563 --> 00:11:06,598 you move into that house, we rent this house. 194 00:11:06,600 --> 00:11:10,902 -I want my own house. -I don't want to live in an RV. 195 00:11:10,904 --> 00:11:14,005 Dude, you have a house. You go home and you live in the house with Robyn. 196 00:11:14,007 --> 00:11:16,608 And I don't have a house still. 197 00:11:26,820 --> 00:11:30,522 I'm still hand-carrying water from the water source to my trailer. 198 00:11:30,524 --> 00:11:32,290 Christine's house fell out of contract, 199 00:11:32,292 --> 00:11:34,426 so she said it was okay for me to come over here. 200 00:11:34,428 --> 00:11:38,630 I come over here and I fill up my water from her back tap, 201 00:11:38,632 --> 00:11:41,332 and then I take it and put it in my RV. 202 00:11:41,401 --> 00:11:43,301 -Hey. -Oh, hi, honey. 203 00:11:43,303 --> 00:11:46,037 I drove by it and driving by, and I saw your... 204 00:11:46,139 --> 00:11:49,507 -[Janelle] Doing water. -Well, I saw you walk in just as I was pulling by. 205 00:11:49,509 --> 00:11:52,110 Hi. How's it going, sweetheart? 206 00:11:52,112 --> 00:11:53,511 [Savanah] To be completely honest, 207 00:11:53,513 --> 00:11:57,415 I do not like having to do so many tours, 208 00:11:57,417 --> 00:12:00,351 um, things that would be simpler in an apartment. 209 00:12:00,453 --> 00:12:02,721 I don't think we understood what we were getting into 210 00:12:02,723 --> 00:12:04,321 quite as well as we thought we did. 211 00:12:04,323 --> 00:12:08,727 But it's... it's... it's just one of those things that you have to do. 212 00:12:08,729 --> 00:12:13,198 So I was here yesterday and I saw Christine off and she said-- 213 00:12:13,200 --> 00:12:15,500 I just thought it'd be easier just to come over here. 214 00:12:15,502 --> 00:12:19,003 Well, her... her offer didn't go through on the house. 215 00:12:19,005 --> 00:12:22,207 Yeah. She... she said that. 216 00:12:22,209 --> 00:12:23,541 Why don't we buy it? 217 00:12:25,412 --> 00:12:28,546 We buy the house, we build on Coyote Pass, 218 00:12:28,615 --> 00:12:31,916 you move into that house, we rent this house. 219 00:12:31,918 --> 00:12:34,352 That's the plan with Robyn's house. 220 00:12:34,420 --> 00:12:36,221 I just-- my heart-- I want a house. 221 00:12:36,223 --> 00:12:38,089 I'm ready to be settled in my own house. 222 00:12:38,091 --> 00:12:39,357 Yeah, but we're a year from that. 223 00:12:39,426 --> 00:12:41,826 Even if we start building right away. 224 00:12:41,828 --> 00:12:46,030 Yeah, I just... Kody, I don't think I can do both. 225 00:12:46,032 --> 00:12:50,502 I... I can't afford both house mortgages. 226 00:12:50,504 --> 00:12:56,107 I can't buy this house and in any shape or form, finance another house. 227 00:12:56,109 --> 00:12:59,744 No matter, even if it's small. Like, I just can't. 228 00:12:59,846 --> 00:13:03,815 I don't know why we couldn't... Okay. All we got to do is get... 229 00:13:03,817 --> 00:13:06,317 I talk... So, I called Kelly today because you and I have been all this... 230 00:13:06,319 --> 00:13:08,953 We just, like, we... Our friends say this. 231 00:13:09,055 --> 00:13:10,722 -Yeah yeah, yeah. -You know what I mean? 232 00:13:10,724 --> 00:13:13,958 And he said it would be two years of renting this to somebody else before... 233 00:13:13,960 --> 00:13:15,960 Oh it's not a year. 234 00:13:15,962 --> 00:13:18,963 So Kelly is a mortgage professional here in town 235 00:13:19,032 --> 00:13:21,633 that we've used for a lot of our financing. 236 00:13:21,734 --> 00:13:25,303 And he said you would have to rent it for two years 237 00:13:25,305 --> 00:13:30,041 before somebody would not count that mortgage towards your debt to income 238 00:13:30,043 --> 00:13:32,343 when you're trying to finance something else. 239 00:13:32,412 --> 00:13:34,612 And I don't want this house. I want to be out on the property. 240 00:13:34,614 --> 00:13:37,849 That's the whole reason I've been doing everything I've been doing. 241 00:13:37,918 --> 00:13:39,851 I want to be out there. 242 00:13:39,886 --> 00:13:41,352 I still think you're not being open-minded. 243 00:13:41,454 --> 00:13:43,421 -Okay, Kody, I talked to Kelly. -I know. 244 00:13:43,423 --> 00:13:45,323 -He says two years. So what? -[Janelle] I'm not gonna... 245 00:13:45,325 --> 00:13:47,158 It takes a whole year to build. 246 00:13:47,160 --> 00:13:49,427 No. I'm not gonna say-- Well, no, Kody, the problem is I wouldn't be able to build. 247 00:13:49,429 --> 00:13:52,697 I can't even get a construction loan if I buy this house. 248 00:13:52,699 --> 00:13:55,733 You know, if Janelle wouldn't have bought the RV, 249 00:13:55,802 --> 00:13:59,304 she could have been able to afford the mortgage on Christine's house. 250 00:13:59,306 --> 00:14:01,806 If we are able to pull out, pay off the land this year, 251 00:14:01,808 --> 00:14:05,710 then why wouldn't we be able to actually just fund your construction next year? 252 00:14:05,712 --> 00:14:07,745 No. God. 253 00:14:07,814 --> 00:14:09,647 It's like... No, Kody, it's like everybody's lost 254 00:14:09,749 --> 00:14:12,317 sight of the reason that we moved here was to build out there. 255 00:14:12,319 --> 00:14:15,954 I know, but this is... I'm not saying we're not building out there. 256 00:14:16,055 --> 00:14:17,455 I'm saying we're simply just buying an asset. 257 00:14:17,524 --> 00:14:18,957 I just thought... No, this really... 258 00:14:18,992 --> 00:14:20,591 Just something that becomes... 259 00:14:20,593 --> 00:14:23,261 He told me it would be two years before I could apply, two years of rent. 260 00:14:23,363 --> 00:14:27,899 So where am I going to live for those two years... that we're renting this? 261 00:14:27,901 --> 00:14:30,835 I'm just being creative and a little bit argumentative here with Janelle, 262 00:14:30,904 --> 00:14:32,937 but the whole point is, is I want to get her into a home 263 00:14:33,006 --> 00:14:36,207 and Christine's house is here, available and easy. 264 00:14:36,209 --> 00:14:38,042 I can be built in a year. 265 00:14:40,247 --> 00:14:42,413 I just... I see that we just lack creativity here. 266 00:14:42,415 --> 00:14:43,915 I understand what what Kelly is saying but-- 267 00:14:43,917 --> 00:14:47,018 No, Kody, I want to go forward with this build. 268 00:14:47,020 --> 00:14:49,387 But I don't know why we would not go forward... 269 00:14:49,389 --> 00:14:51,155 Because the money I'd have to put as a down payment 270 00:14:51,257 --> 00:14:55,226 on this would basically almost pay off the land. 271 00:14:55,228 --> 00:14:59,664 -No, I'm, I'm... We can do both. -I just... I don't think so. 272 00:15:01,101 --> 00:15:03,935 I'm the one who gets the taxes to the accountant 273 00:15:03,937 --> 00:15:07,505 I see how the money was dispersed from the family account 274 00:15:07,507 --> 00:15:10,708 and there was enough money outside of the debts 275 00:15:10,710 --> 00:15:15,313 and our daily expenses that was spent on other things. 276 00:15:15,315 --> 00:15:17,515 And I'm just saying, if we were prioritizing 277 00:15:17,517 --> 00:15:22,487 like we did when we bought other houses, we could pay off the land. 278 00:15:22,489 --> 00:15:25,223 You know, we've always worked together 279 00:15:25,225 --> 00:15:27,759 to take care of the whole family. 280 00:15:27,860 --> 00:15:30,495 We worked together to buy Christine her house. 281 00:15:30,497 --> 00:15:33,264 We worked together to take care of the kids. 282 00:15:33,333 --> 00:15:36,000 And I know right now we're in a position 283 00:15:36,002 --> 00:15:39,604 where we can't pay off that property yet. 284 00:15:39,606 --> 00:15:42,040 And I know that that's got to be stressful 285 00:15:42,042 --> 00:15:44,309 and frustrating for Janelle. 286 00:15:44,311 --> 00:15:46,010 It's frustrating to me as well 287 00:15:46,012 --> 00:15:51,215 because all I wanted to do is get our butts out there on that property. 288 00:15:51,217 --> 00:15:54,686 It's interesting because Janelle has never discussed 289 00:15:54,688 --> 00:16:01,025 paying off Coyote Pass or the work on the Coyote Pass with Meri or with Robyn. 290 00:16:01,027 --> 00:16:04,862 I am more than willing to put money in that direction. 291 00:16:04,964 --> 00:16:07,398 But we have to have it to do it. 292 00:16:07,400 --> 00:16:09,300 Kody, I just don't think so. I think it will slow me down. 293 00:16:09,302 --> 00:16:10,802 And once again, I'll be stuck in this... 294 00:16:10,804 --> 00:16:13,938 a house that is not the one I want. 295 00:16:14,040 --> 00:16:19,744 If you're gonna stay in an area, buying is always fiscally responsible 296 00:16:19,813 --> 00:16:22,113 if the market doesn't just crater. 297 00:16:22,115 --> 00:16:26,517 The second reason I don't want to rent is if we bought Christine's house 298 00:16:26,519 --> 00:16:28,953 and then she builds on Coyote Pass, 299 00:16:28,955 --> 00:16:33,324 she moves to Coyote Pass, she's got a rental property, that becomes an asset. 300 00:16:33,326 --> 00:16:37,628 Never did Kody say, "Hey, honey, let's do this. It's a house for you." 301 00:16:37,630 --> 00:16:40,798 All Kody ever talked about was how much he was sad 302 00:16:40,800 --> 00:16:43,501 that he was losing this house that Christine had. 303 00:16:43,503 --> 00:16:46,304 He loved it. He didn't want to lose it. 304 00:16:46,306 --> 00:16:49,807 So it sort of felt like he was using me and my buying power 305 00:16:49,809 --> 00:16:52,910 to save this house that he loves. 306 00:16:52,912 --> 00:16:56,714 Like I would be in this home that isn't really one of my favorite homes 307 00:16:56,716 --> 00:17:00,718 and it would be where I would be forever stuck. 308 00:17:00,720 --> 00:17:02,620 You're not thinking like an entrepreneur. You're seeing... 309 00:17:02,622 --> 00:17:05,123 Okay, I get all that, Kody, but I don't have a house. 310 00:17:05,125 --> 00:17:07,425 I want my own house. 311 00:17:09,095 --> 00:17:12,563 -I want my own house. -[Kody] You are moving into a rental because... 312 00:17:12,632 --> 00:17:14,899 For six months, because I don't want to stay out there in the winters. 313 00:17:14,901 --> 00:17:18,302 -And I don't want to live in an RV. -That's fine. 314 00:17:18,304 --> 00:17:20,438 We don't have to. We can stay in town and rent. 315 00:17:23,943 --> 00:17:25,343 Dude, you have a house, you go home 316 00:17:25,445 --> 00:17:27,045 and you live in the house with Robyn. 317 00:17:27,146 --> 00:17:28,546 I have no house. 318 00:17:28,648 --> 00:17:31,716 We've been in Flagstaff for four freaking years, 319 00:17:31,718 --> 00:17:34,118 and I don't have a house still. 320 00:17:34,120 --> 00:17:38,756 Financially, at least up until fairly recently, 321 00:17:38,825 --> 00:17:42,160 our family's always kind of, like, worked together 322 00:17:42,261 --> 00:17:47,598 and just put whatever funds that we had where they needed to go. 323 00:17:47,600 --> 00:17:53,371 When I sold my house in Vega I gave my money that I made from that house to Robyn 324 00:17:53,373 --> 00:17:56,240 so that she could buy her house here in Flagstaff 325 00:17:56,309 --> 00:17:59,610 You know, like, that's just what we've done. We've always worked together. 326 00:17:59,612 --> 00:18:06,217 Um, and like, I have no problem with the fact that I'm renting still. 327 00:18:06,219 --> 00:18:09,687 I understand that you think you can't do both, 328 00:18:09,689 --> 00:18:13,324 but there's a way if there's a will. 329 00:18:13,326 --> 00:18:16,661 I've been pushing this house of Christine's onto Janelle for a long time 330 00:18:16,729 --> 00:18:18,196 and Janelle is like, "Stop it." 331 00:18:18,198 --> 00:18:20,264 She doesn't want to buy Christine's house. 332 00:18:20,300 --> 00:18:22,300 She wants to build her own house. 333 00:18:22,302 --> 00:18:24,602 If she can't work with me to solve the problems, 334 00:18:24,604 --> 00:18:28,039 then she gets to solve the problems on her own. 335 00:18:28,041 --> 00:18:30,741 And the way she's going about it with buying the RV, 336 00:18:30,810 --> 00:18:34,312 with moving out there, with this whole charade... 337 00:18:35,748 --> 00:18:36,948 it's not working. 338 00:18:38,952 --> 00:18:41,052 Oh, it really is raining. 339 00:18:41,121 --> 00:18:43,955 He's not listening at all to the reasons 340 00:18:43,957 --> 00:18:47,058 that I can't do this or don't want to do this. 341 00:18:47,126 --> 00:18:49,827 It's almost like he just feels like if he keeps telling me, 342 00:18:49,829 --> 00:18:51,863 he's gonna steamroll me and I'm gonna lay down 343 00:18:51,931 --> 00:18:53,164 and be like, "Okay, we'll do it." 344 00:18:55,502 --> 00:18:57,902 I'm not trying to force her into anything. 345 00:18:57,904 --> 00:19:00,004 I'm trying to have a conversation. 346 00:19:00,006 --> 00:19:01,506 She's gonna do whatever she wants. 347 00:19:01,508 --> 00:19:02,707 She always has. 348 00:19:05,945 --> 00:19:08,613 I'm optimistic that everything will be fine, 349 00:19:08,615 --> 00:19:09,814 but I don't know. 350 00:19:09,816 --> 00:19:11,415 Things are really broken. 351 00:19:11,417 --> 00:19:13,518 I don't think that there's a lot of trust 352 00:19:13,520 --> 00:19:15,920 between all three of us at all. 353 00:19:15,922 --> 00:19:17,355 And I think that my relationship with them 354 00:19:17,423 --> 00:19:18,723 is just gonna stay like this. 355 00:19:31,204 --> 00:19:34,105 I have my house on the market in Flagstaff. 356 00:19:34,107 --> 00:19:36,407 There was a buyer, but they fell through. 357 00:19:36,409 --> 00:19:37,742 And now there's a new buyer. 358 00:19:37,843 --> 00:19:39,210 But I still have a lot of stuff there 359 00:19:39,212 --> 00:19:40,511 that I have to move out. 360 00:19:40,513 --> 00:19:42,747 So we're back and just for fun, 361 00:19:42,782 --> 00:19:44,949 Truely's gonna spend the nig in Janelle's RV 362 00:19:45,051 --> 00:19:46,717 just so she can have a little bit of fun 363 00:19:46,719 --> 00:19:48,719 and spend some time with Janelle and Savanah. 364 00:19:48,721 --> 00:19:50,555 [Truely] Thank you so much for letting me stay here. 365 00:19:50,623 --> 00:19:52,557 -Of course. -[Janelle] Oh, I'm so excited you're here, True. 366 00:19:52,658 --> 00:19:55,726 [Christine] I would love to just stay home in Utah and settle. 367 00:19:55,728 --> 00:19:58,829 I was so excited about moving and progressing 368 00:19:58,831 --> 00:20:00,598 and moving forward with life, 369 00:20:00,600 --> 00:20:02,099 but then I have to go back to Flagstaff. 370 00:20:02,101 --> 00:20:03,634 So I'm like, "Ugh." 371 00:20:03,736 --> 00:20:05,036 We're just gonna keep moving forward. 372 00:20:06,639 --> 00:20:08,206 -What do you think? -It's great. Thank you. 373 00:20:08,208 --> 00:20:10,308 -Yeah? -It's kind of different, huh? 374 00:20:10,310 --> 00:20:12,109 -Kind of different. -Yeah. 375 00:20:12,111 --> 00:20:13,744 I'm so glad to have Truely over. 376 00:20:13,846 --> 00:20:16,380 I think Truely is such a cool kid. 377 00:20:16,382 --> 00:20:19,951 You can have these adult lev conversations with her and you forget she's 11. 378 00:20:20,019 --> 00:20:21,819 It's just fun to have her over. 379 00:20:21,821 --> 00:20:24,822 Yes. This is my first sleepover in the RV. 380 00:20:24,824 --> 00:20:26,857 We might do some stargazing. 381 00:20:26,959 --> 00:20:29,760 -[Truely gasps] -The stars look pretty great here. 382 00:20:29,862 --> 00:20:33,798 Um, and my mom is a huge astronomy nerd. 383 00:20:33,800 --> 00:20:34,932 I'm a skywatcher. 384 00:20:34,934 --> 00:20:37,501 I'm enthralled with it, I'm passionate about it. 385 00:20:37,503 --> 00:20:39,637 If I discovered a star, I would just call it my babi 386 00:20:39,739 --> 00:20:41,505 because it's my star, I can call whatever I wanted. 387 00:20:41,507 --> 00:20:43,441 I have lots of babies in my world. 388 00:20:43,509 --> 00:20:46,310 Some of them have got grown up, some of them are little. 389 00:20:46,312 --> 00:20:47,945 But I would just call it my babies. 390 00:20:47,947 --> 00:20:49,947 ♪ Short pants ♪ 391 00:20:49,949 --> 00:20:51,816 ♪ This is what they are ♪ 392 00:20:54,621 --> 00:20:56,954 [Janelle] So one thing that's been kind of fun about living out in the RV 393 00:20:56,990 --> 00:20:59,624 is we cook out often. 394 00:20:59,626 --> 00:21:02,460 We'll do hot dogs or hamburgers 395 00:21:02,561 --> 00:21:05,663 or like those little foil packet dinners or something. 396 00:21:05,765 --> 00:21:08,499 It's fun. It's like, it's like camping every night. 397 00:21:08,501 --> 00:21:09,800 -[Truely] Uh... -[Savanah] Chocolate... 398 00:21:09,802 --> 00:21:11,102 -[indistinct chatter] -The cinnamon... 399 00:21:11,104 --> 00:21:12,403 Oh, blow it out. Blow it out. 400 00:21:12,405 --> 00:21:13,838 True, blow. 401 00:21:13,939 --> 00:21:15,239 All right, can you eat them like that? 402 00:21:15,308 --> 00:21:16,741 -Yep. I love it burnt. -Oh, okay. 403 00:21:16,842 --> 00:21:19,210 I put it directly in the flame on purpose. 404 00:21:19,212 --> 00:21:21,846 So when I eat marshmallows, when I eat s'mores, 405 00:21:21,947 --> 00:21:25,149 I purposefully burn the marshmallow. 406 00:21:25,251 --> 00:21:26,550 It tastes burnt on the outside, 407 00:21:26,619 --> 00:21:29,453 but it's overly creamy on the inside. 408 00:21:29,522 --> 00:21:31,722 It tastes actually really good. 409 00:21:31,724 --> 00:21:34,425 Do you want chocolate graham crackers 410 00:21:34,427 --> 00:21:36,060 or the kind that are like the regular, 411 00:21:36,062 --> 00:21:37,461 but they have cinnamon on them? 412 00:21:37,563 --> 00:21:39,063 Um, I'll have the regular. 413 00:21:39,065 --> 00:21:40,431 -Okay. -I'm trying to... 414 00:21:41,501 --> 00:21:43,701 show Truely that it's cool to live out here. 415 00:21:43,703 --> 00:21:47,938 I even went and got some really fun sugary breakfast cereal, 416 00:21:48,007 --> 00:21:49,607 which I never keep around 417 00:21:49,609 --> 00:21:52,043 because I wanted it to make it like this, 418 00:21:52,045 --> 00:21:55,046 this amusement park experience where she's like, 419 00:21:55,147 --> 00:21:56,947 "Wow, we did s'mores and I love..." 420 00:21:57,049 --> 00:21:59,050 I wanted her to be like, "That was really fun," 421 00:21:59,052 --> 00:22:02,920 you know, so I was like bending over backwards to make it fun for her. 422 00:22:05,525 --> 00:22:08,959 [Truely] We roasted marshmallows, we stargazed a little. 423 00:22:09,061 --> 00:22:11,662 We just had fun, and like, it was like, 424 00:22:11,731 --> 00:22:13,264 "Okay, this is like the last time 425 00:22:13,333 --> 00:22:15,266 that I'll see you in a couple of months." 426 00:22:15,334 --> 00:22:16,434 So, like... 427 00:22:19,605 --> 00:22:20,805 [crickets chirping] 428 00:22:28,514 --> 00:22:32,216 [Christine] So this is my last morning in Flagstaff. 429 00:22:32,218 --> 00:22:35,486 It is weird. It's surreal to be here. 430 00:22:35,488 --> 00:22:39,790 I moved from this house, like, 20 days ago, 431 00:22:39,792 --> 00:22:41,459 so we're just visiting. 432 00:22:41,527 --> 00:22:43,761 It doesn't feel like our house anymore. 433 00:22:43,829 --> 00:22:45,129 Not at all. 434 00:22:45,131 --> 00:22:50,601 The house sold and, um, the first buyers backed out, 435 00:22:50,603 --> 00:22:53,404 'cause there were some electrical problems that I didn't know about. 436 00:22:53,406 --> 00:22:55,106 Anyway, we're getting the electrical problems fixed. 437 00:22:55,108 --> 00:22:56,307 We have another offer. 438 00:22:56,309 --> 00:22:58,209 It looks really solid now, 439 00:22:58,211 --> 00:23:00,544 and they want to close early as well. 440 00:23:00,613 --> 00:23:03,147 They came in asking at a great price. 441 00:23:03,249 --> 00:23:04,648 Everything was great. 442 00:23:04,717 --> 00:23:07,418 So I need to finish clearing everything out. 443 00:23:09,055 --> 00:23:10,955 It's exciting. 444 00:23:10,957 --> 00:23:12,089 Robyn drove by yesterday 445 00:23:12,091 --> 00:23:13,657 and the kids rolled down the windows 446 00:23:13,759 --> 00:23:15,326 and, you know, waved and yelled and stuff. 447 00:23:15,328 --> 00:23:16,427 It was really cute. 448 00:23:16,429 --> 00:23:20,064 And I'm optimistic that everything will be fine, 449 00:23:20,132 --> 00:23:21,399 but I don't know. 450 00:23:21,401 --> 00:23:23,734 Things are really broken, more broken than ever right now. 451 00:23:23,803 --> 00:23:25,102 And Janelle and I are fine. 452 00:23:25,104 --> 00:23:27,405 That's the relationship that I really want to keep 453 00:23:27,407 --> 00:23:30,040 really, really solid and really, really strong. 454 00:23:30,042 --> 00:23:32,343 Every time I've come into town, I've seen her. 455 00:23:32,445 --> 00:23:34,211 We'll do coffee together in the morning 456 00:23:34,213 --> 00:23:35,513 and hang out for a little bi 457 00:23:35,515 --> 00:23:37,815 And it's just easier. 458 00:23:37,817 --> 00:23:40,785 It's taking off the label of sister wife, 459 00:23:40,787 --> 00:23:42,953 and we're just friends, but we're closer than friends 460 00:23:42,955 --> 00:23:44,655 because we've raised kids together. 461 00:23:44,723 --> 00:23:46,257 I don't know if Janelle and I can be sister wives 462 00:23:46,358 --> 00:23:48,659 if we're not married to the same guy, you know? 463 00:23:48,727 --> 00:23:50,261 I don't know. 464 00:23:50,362 --> 00:23:53,364 Honestly, of all my sisters... my "sister wives", 465 00:23:53,433 --> 00:23:54,498 like the real sister wives, 466 00:23:54,500 --> 00:23:56,133 the ones who are all married to Kody, 467 00:23:56,235 --> 00:23:57,802 Christine was always kind of the heart 468 00:23:57,804 --> 00:23:59,837 of that relationship for me. 469 00:23:59,939 --> 00:24:02,339 I've struggled with Meri and we've worked for a lot of years 470 00:24:02,408 --> 00:24:04,508 to try to figure ourselves out. 471 00:24:04,510 --> 00:24:07,411 And Robyn, there's a lot of problems, 472 00:24:07,413 --> 00:24:11,215 but Christine truly is, in my head, 473 00:24:11,217 --> 00:24:13,417 the definition of a sister wife. 474 00:24:13,419 --> 00:24:15,119 You share a big portion of your life with, 475 00:24:15,121 --> 00:24:16,587 you have history with, 476 00:24:16,589 --> 00:24:18,956 you have all these things, you're a support network for each other. 477 00:24:19,058 --> 00:24:21,592 So, yeah, I think we're still sister wives. 478 00:24:21,594 --> 00:24:23,861 Are you interested in some sort of a, 479 00:24:25,832 --> 00:24:27,598 like, trying to work stuff out 480 00:24:27,600 --> 00:24:29,400 maybe from the past how many years? 481 00:24:31,704 --> 00:24:34,405 I think for right now, I need space. 482 00:24:34,407 --> 00:24:36,440 -Okay. -For right now. 483 00:24:36,542 --> 00:24:38,442 I haven't spoken with Robyn or Meri 484 00:24:38,544 --> 00:24:41,412 since we talked all together 485 00:24:41,414 --> 00:24:42,847 And I think that my relationship with them 486 00:24:42,948 --> 00:24:44,515 is just gonna stay like this, 487 00:24:44,517 --> 00:24:45,950 where when we see each other, 488 00:24:45,952 --> 00:24:47,818 we'll be amiable and we'll be kind, 489 00:24:47,820 --> 00:24:50,020 but we won't seek each other out. 490 00:24:50,022 --> 00:24:54,091 I mean, things could change years later. 491 00:24:54,093 --> 00:24:56,227 I don't think that there's a lot of trust 492 00:24:56,229 --> 00:24:58,128 between all three of us at all. 493 00:24:59,365 --> 00:25:00,998 The house is just so empty 494 00:25:01,000 --> 00:25:04,735 and it's weird, 495 00:25:04,837 --> 00:25:07,404 surreal, hard, good, 496 00:25:07,406 --> 00:25:10,040 fun, exciting. 497 00:25:10,042 --> 00:25:13,344 Um, so exciting to just... 498 00:25:14,413 --> 00:25:16,046 [sighs] ...leave. 499 00:25:17,416 --> 00:25:19,483 I don't like to be here. 500 00:25:19,485 --> 00:25:21,719 I would prefer to be anywhere else 501 00:25:21,721 --> 00:25:25,122 because anywhere else, I'm strong and independent and fun and fearless 502 00:25:25,124 --> 00:25:28,125 and can rise to any occasio and can do anything I want. 503 00:25:28,127 --> 00:25:31,962 You put me back here and I'm a wife in a loveless marriage... 504 00:25:33,266 --> 00:25:37,801 that was going nowhere, and I don't like to be that. 505 00:25:37,803 --> 00:25:41,839 So it's like, um, a farewell to that, too. 506 00:25:48,414 --> 00:25:49,947 So yeah, I've got to keep moving forward. 507 00:25:50,049 --> 00:25:52,182 So we need to meet with everybody and figure out 508 00:25:52,184 --> 00:25:54,818 if everybody is good with the dividing still or... 509 00:25:54,820 --> 00:25:57,521 [Kody] There's an element that I'm struggling with here. 510 00:25:57,523 --> 00:26:00,858 I've been left feeling pretty disrespected. 511 00:26:00,927 --> 00:26:05,162 Men don't love people back who don't respect them. 512 00:26:05,264 --> 00:26:07,331 I'm not gonna break my back to work for you 513 00:26:07,333 --> 00:26:08,699 when you don't respect me. 514 00:26:09,702 --> 00:26:10,968 I'm just not. 515 00:26:24,850 --> 00:26:26,750 I've been working all morning just cleaning up yard work 516 00:26:26,786 --> 00:26:30,921 over at Robyn's house and stopping over at Janelle's RV. 517 00:26:30,923 --> 00:26:32,356 She's got something she wants to show me. 518 00:26:33,960 --> 00:26:35,492 You know, Janelle and I have been living 519 00:26:35,494 --> 00:26:38,262 in this RV together for a while. 520 00:26:38,364 --> 00:26:40,164 It's been less than a picnic, 521 00:26:40,265 --> 00:26:41,999 so it's like, oh, we're just going 522 00:26:42,001 --> 00:26:45,202 to ignore the problems in the relationship. 523 00:26:45,337 --> 00:26:46,637 Carpet... [mimics sweeping] 524 00:26:47,940 --> 00:26:49,206 [Janelle] What's the log? 525 00:26:50,610 --> 00:26:53,611 [Kody] Uh, I'm, uh... 526 00:26:53,613 --> 00:26:57,615 I'm moving them out of Robyn's backyard. 527 00:26:57,617 --> 00:26:59,216 [Janelle] Wow. That's a hook up. 528 00:26:59,218 --> 00:27:01,719 [Kody] We've got a pile of logs that we've been salvaging. 529 00:27:01,721 --> 00:27:04,655 We'll peel it, put it up to dry, 530 00:27:04,724 --> 00:27:07,558 and hopefully it'll end up being a good log. 531 00:27:07,626 --> 00:27:09,727 -What are you doing? -Oh, I got the plans. You want to see 'em? 532 00:27:09,729 --> 00:27:11,528 So, I... I actually... She sent him to me 533 00:27:11,530 --> 00:27:12,630 and I had them printed. 534 00:27:12,632 --> 00:27:14,798 All right. That's... that's awesome. Yeah. 535 00:27:14,800 --> 00:27:16,500 We've got a drawing here. 536 00:27:16,502 --> 00:27:18,802 A drafted drawing of the house. 537 00:27:18,804 --> 00:27:20,437 Basically, this is what we would take 538 00:27:20,539 --> 00:27:22,106 to a builder to have them bid it. 539 00:27:22,108 --> 00:27:25,342 And we'd also be able to get a permit off of it, I think. 540 00:27:25,411 --> 00:27:26,443 I'm actually pretty excited. 541 00:27:26,545 --> 00:27:27,845 So there's more than one copy here 542 00:27:27,913 --> 00:27:30,414 because we'll have to have multiple builders look at it. 543 00:27:32,218 --> 00:27:34,451 -So that's what we-- -[Kody] That's just her rendering, right? 544 00:27:34,553 --> 00:27:36,186 [Janelle] Yeah, that's the... but the basic look, right? 545 00:27:36,188 --> 00:27:38,622 With the pointed roof, the way you wanted it or something with the decks. 546 00:27:38,624 --> 00:27:40,758 -Yeah, that's called a gable end. Yeah. -Okay. 547 00:27:40,859 --> 00:27:43,594 This house that I'm planning on building is only gonna be 1200 square feet. 548 00:27:43,596 --> 00:27:45,062 So it's small. 549 00:27:45,064 --> 00:27:49,433 So we had thought to make the roof pointed like it'll feel more open. 550 00:27:49,535 --> 00:27:52,703 So it's gonna have that one really big garage. 551 00:27:52,705 --> 00:27:54,138 It won't be big enough for this, 552 00:27:54,206 --> 00:27:55,706 but this is, that has the pop out. 553 00:27:55,708 --> 00:27:57,307 So these are a little shorter. 554 00:27:57,309 --> 00:27:59,610 So that's gonna be a pretty nice sized garage. 555 00:27:59,612 --> 00:28:03,714 So the house I'm building is technically more like a casita, 556 00:28:03,716 --> 00:28:05,682 which means a small house. 557 00:28:05,684 --> 00:28:09,286 So I have a three bay garag and then the house is gonna built up on top of it. 558 00:28:09,288 --> 00:28:14,725 It's an easy way to save building costs if you put it on top of your garage. 559 00:28:14,727 --> 00:28:18,962 So the master's 15... almost by 15X15. 560 00:28:18,964 --> 00:28:21,198 So that would be big enough for our bed set. 561 00:28:21,200 --> 00:28:26,036 And then Savanah's room is a little smaller, but that's big enough for her. 562 00:28:26,105 --> 00:28:27,570 [Kody] Yeah. 563 00:28:27,572 --> 00:28:29,406 The house I'm gonna build is gonna be a two bedroom. 564 00:28:29,408 --> 00:28:33,010 The only person who's still living at home with me is Savanah. 565 00:28:33,012 --> 00:28:37,514 And so I wanted to save the bulk of the space for the big great room, 566 00:28:37,516 --> 00:28:39,349 because that's where you spend most of your time anyway. 567 00:28:39,451 --> 00:28:42,152 So this has the existing lot lines. 568 00:28:42,221 --> 00:28:46,590 So I can build this on the existing 569 00:28:46,592 --> 00:28:49,993 because I fit in with it, with all the right setbacks 570 00:28:49,995 --> 00:28:53,464 [Kody] We're not... we won't build until we've done this subdivision. 571 00:28:53,565 --> 00:28:58,168 So we... Our next move is to try and do the subdivision. 572 00:28:58,170 --> 00:28:59,636 This is typical Kody. 573 00:28:59,738 --> 00:29:04,108 Like, things aren't going awesome, like it's been a hard summer 574 00:29:04,110 --> 00:29:08,545 and now all of a sudden this is all my fault, it's all my problem, 575 00:29:08,647 --> 00:29:11,148 and I'm somehow inconveniencing him. 576 00:29:11,217 --> 00:29:14,151 It's astounding. It's astounding. 577 00:29:14,253 --> 00:29:15,753 We want to do the subdivision. 578 00:29:15,755 --> 00:29:18,922 The main reason is because we want to get a fifth lot out of this location. 579 00:29:18,924 --> 00:29:23,193 So in order for us to divid the properties and get that fifth lot, 580 00:29:23,195 --> 00:29:24,828 we'd have to pay it off. 581 00:29:24,830 --> 00:29:26,330 Then we're able to start building. 582 00:29:26,332 --> 00:29:28,398 Until then, we can't start building. 583 00:29:28,400 --> 00:29:31,034 Well, then... but things have changed. Things have changed. 584 00:29:31,036 --> 00:29:32,202 What are we going to do? 585 00:29:32,204 --> 00:29:34,338 We just have to discuss that with the rest of the, 586 00:29:34,439 --> 00:29:36,940 you know, like with Meri and Robyn. 587 00:29:36,942 --> 00:29:39,943 Yeah, because there's just no longer five of us. 588 00:29:40,045 --> 00:29:42,045 [Kody] Janelle might be wondering if we're still gonna 589 00:29:42,047 --> 00:29:44,448 have five lots because Christine's left. 590 00:29:44,550 --> 00:29:50,220 And yes, we would, because that's going to increase our value of the property by 20%. 591 00:29:50,222 --> 00:29:53,023 So we do need to get together and talk about like what the 592 00:29:53,025 --> 00:29:55,159 land's gonna look like now, I guess. 593 00:29:55,260 --> 00:29:58,228 Yeah, we'll just gather everybody up to do that. But it's still... 594 00:29:58,230 --> 00:30:01,165 I want to divide it the same way. 595 00:30:01,233 --> 00:30:03,801 -Same way we planned, divide it the same way. -Well, let's just talk... 596 00:30:03,803 --> 00:30:06,336 You know, Kody is stuck on this five lots. 597 00:30:06,438 --> 00:30:11,241 He, even with Christine gone, there's four lots. We could make this work. 598 00:30:11,310 --> 00:30:13,644 I think he thinks he's some sort of guy who's gonna 599 00:30:13,712 --> 00:30:16,847 build all these houses, rent them and that's great. 600 00:30:16,949 --> 00:30:19,917 That's great if he wants to, just, just give me my piece. 601 00:30:19,919 --> 00:30:21,718 I just want my piece. I want my estate. 602 00:30:21,720 --> 00:30:24,688 I want to be able to build on my... build a house. 603 00:30:24,690 --> 00:30:28,892 This has gotten kind of ridiculous because we don't have the money now. 604 00:30:28,894 --> 00:30:32,930 And I think it's an illusion that she's convincing herself 605 00:30:32,932 --> 00:30:36,233 of that somehow if she works her will, 606 00:30:36,335 --> 00:30:38,502 that we'll be successful at this. 607 00:30:38,504 --> 00:30:41,605 And it's just, there's-- it's just not there. 608 00:30:41,607 --> 00:30:43,707 -Are you going to show these to Meri and Robyn? -Yeah. 609 00:30:43,709 --> 00:30:46,643 Yeah, I mean, if they're interesting, if they're interested. 610 00:30:46,745 --> 00:30:48,912 -They probably will be. -That's cool. 611 00:30:48,914 --> 00:30:51,348 I live in a bureaucracy. 612 00:30:51,450 --> 00:30:54,451 Like, we do everything by committee decision. 613 00:30:54,520 --> 00:30:57,921 It's the most frustrating part of my life. 614 00:30:57,923 --> 00:31:01,258 I honestly think it's just part of a plural family tha chooses to work together. 615 00:31:01,326 --> 00:31:03,827 There are many plural families who, like, the wives 616 00:31:03,829 --> 00:31:05,362 all maintain their own separate households. 617 00:31:05,430 --> 00:31:06,863 They're all very independent. 618 00:31:06,865 --> 00:31:10,500 The husband disperses his resources among his households. 619 00:31:10,502 --> 00:31:13,871 We chose a long time ago to work together. 620 00:31:13,873 --> 00:31:17,407 And even though that's changed a little bit in the last six or seven years, 621 00:31:17,409 --> 00:31:18,842 everybody's really starting to think more 622 00:31:18,944 --> 00:31:20,844 about their estate and all that stuff. 623 00:31:20,946 --> 00:31:22,212 So we're separating. 624 00:31:22,214 --> 00:31:24,248 There's still very intertwined pieces of our lives 625 00:31:24,316 --> 00:31:25,916 that we have to work together on. 626 00:31:27,753 --> 00:31:30,187 [Kody] In the very beginning when our family came togethe 627 00:31:30,189 --> 00:31:33,824 we built a family that said, these are our children. 628 00:31:33,826 --> 00:31:36,860 And as those older children started to grow up and leave 629 00:31:36,962 --> 00:31:39,630 it stopped being our children. 630 00:31:39,632 --> 00:31:42,399 It started being my children and your children. 631 00:31:42,401 --> 00:31:46,336 So I've got Robyn with, you know, no empty nest. Nobody's left home. 632 00:31:46,438 --> 00:31:49,606 And Janelle, almost everybody has left home. 633 00:31:49,608 --> 00:31:52,743 Christine, almost everybody's left home. 634 00:31:52,844 --> 00:31:54,745 We're in a very different place. 635 00:31:54,846 --> 00:31:58,916 It's not necessarily sinister, but the family's not working together anymore 636 00:31:58,918 --> 00:32:01,718 and hasn't for a very long time. 637 00:32:01,720 --> 00:32:04,054 You know, it's like it doesn really hurt for Janelle to g 638 00:32:04,156 --> 00:32:07,557 and spend the holidays with her kids. 639 00:32:07,659 --> 00:32:11,194 But what does that do for me? I've got little kids at home. 640 00:32:11,196 --> 00:32:14,498 It's an evolution in the family that has left me 641 00:32:14,500 --> 00:32:20,237 feeling alone in many ways and not supported by my wives. 642 00:32:20,339 --> 00:32:24,007 -Yeah. -Is anyone else thinking about coming soon? 643 00:32:24,009 --> 00:32:26,243 -Building soon? -Um... 644 00:32:26,345 --> 00:32:29,146 I don't really talk with Meri about it. 645 00:32:29,247 --> 00:32:32,716 Any time I bring it out, she just seems really wishy-washy about it. 646 00:32:32,718 --> 00:32:35,052 I don't know what she's thinking, what her intentions are, 647 00:32:35,153 --> 00:32:38,055 but she would be the most likely to start building nex 648 00:32:38,757 --> 00:32:40,057 And I want, I want that. 649 00:32:40,092 --> 00:32:42,326 I want her to feel like she can do that, you know, 650 00:32:42,328 --> 00:32:46,229 so she'll be partnering with us on, you know, 651 00:32:46,231 --> 00:32:47,597 what we want to accomplish out here, 652 00:32:47,599 --> 00:32:49,633 especially getting it paid off. 653 00:32:49,702 --> 00:32:52,202 -But she's got to decide where she's gonna build there. -[Janelle] Yeah. 654 00:32:52,204 --> 00:32:54,471 So that's a conversation, that's a really, that's the next step. 655 00:32:54,473 --> 00:32:55,838 There can... We can't assume. 656 00:32:55,840 --> 00:32:58,208 -So we just have to-- -Can't make any assumptions so... 657 00:32:58,210 --> 00:33:00,344 So we just have to talk to them about where, 658 00:33:00,412 --> 00:33:02,746 what we're doing with the property now that there's not Christine. 659 00:33:02,815 --> 00:33:04,380 Right. 660 00:33:04,382 --> 00:33:07,417 So since we started having all these conversations about the property, 661 00:33:07,419 --> 00:33:10,220 and I get that I was kind of undecided, like, 662 00:33:10,222 --> 00:33:12,022 for a while, like, "Do I want to be in the trees? 663 00:33:12,024 --> 00:33:14,024 Do I not want to be in the trees?" You know? 664 00:33:14,026 --> 00:33:16,693 Like, this was a big conversation. 665 00:33:16,695 --> 00:33:21,365 But since we decided, like, where the property lines 666 00:33:21,433 --> 00:33:25,402 were all gonna be and, like, we knew who was gonna be 667 00:33:25,404 --> 00:33:27,904 on each piece of property, 668 00:33:27,906 --> 00:33:29,706 I've been like, "Great, this is it." 669 00:33:29,708 --> 00:33:31,708 So I just rented a house. 670 00:33:31,710 --> 00:33:35,512 I didn't want to tie up the funds for when I could 671 00:33:35,514 --> 00:33:38,215 eventually build out on the property. 672 00:33:38,217 --> 00:33:39,916 So yeah, I've got to keep moving forward. 673 00:33:39,918 --> 00:33:41,752 So we need to meet with everybody and figure out 674 00:33:41,754 --> 00:33:44,521 if everybody is good with the dividing still or... 675 00:33:47,059 --> 00:33:50,427 [Kody] There's an element th I'm struggling with here, 676 00:33:50,429 --> 00:33:53,964 and we've just gone through this entire COVID thing 677 00:33:54,033 --> 00:33:58,135 where I've been left feeling pretty disrespected. 678 00:33:58,137 --> 00:34:01,838 I'm not gonna break my back to work for you when you don't respect me. 679 00:34:02,541 --> 00:34:03,940 I'm just not. 680 00:34:04,042 --> 00:34:05,976 Janelle needs somebody who'll break their back 681 00:34:05,978 --> 00:34:08,812 to get this project done and that's not me right now. 682 00:34:13,352 --> 00:34:17,120 Men don't feel love from women who don't respect them. 683 00:34:17,122 --> 00:34:21,324 I feel like Janelle struggles to respect me or show me respect. 684 00:34:21,326 --> 00:34:23,026 It might be an unfair statement. I don't know. 685 00:34:23,028 --> 00:34:25,429 Maybe it's just the way that we argue. 686 00:34:25,431 --> 00:34:30,100 If you don't respect me, don't bother with the love. 687 00:34:30,102 --> 00:34:31,601 It just doesn't work in my world. 688 00:34:37,509 --> 00:34:39,810 Don't think you should put the snowblower in first. 689 00:34:39,812 --> 00:34:41,044 -Let me-- -[Christine] Okay. 690 00:34:41,146 --> 00:34:44,047 He doesn't need to be here micromanaging how I fill up 691 00:34:44,116 --> 00:34:46,116 this trailer with the last of my crap. 692 00:34:46,118 --> 00:34:48,819 We never had a snowblower in Utah. And there was... 693 00:34:48,821 --> 00:34:51,721 I know. But I have one now, and I love it. 694 00:34:51,723 --> 00:34:54,524 She's proving that she's the independent woman now 695 00:34:54,526 --> 00:34:58,328 by telling me how the best way to pack this is. 696 00:34:58,330 --> 00:35:01,465 It bothered me to the core. 697 00:35:11,310 --> 00:35:14,344 So I got a trailer to put my last minute things in it. 698 00:35:15,914 --> 00:35:17,514 Hey. 699 00:35:17,516 --> 00:35:19,616 So Kody's gonna come help load the snowblower because it's just too heavy. 700 00:35:19,618 --> 00:35:21,184 I can't make it work, but that's it, 701 00:35:21,186 --> 00:35:22,953 I can load the rest of it just fine. 702 00:35:23,054 --> 00:35:25,322 -So are you moving all of that stuff... -Hopefully. That'll be great. 703 00:35:25,324 --> 00:35:26,456 [Kody] ...on this trip? 704 00:35:26,458 --> 00:35:28,125 Order of importance, the snowblower because 705 00:35:28,127 --> 00:35:30,193 I want the weight in the front of the thing. 706 00:35:30,195 --> 00:35:32,963 You know, I guess I can help her load the whole trailer. 707 00:35:33,064 --> 00:35:34,965 I don't know what else she's doing. 708 00:35:35,033 --> 00:35:37,100 Here's the thing, Christine. This... this weight, 709 00:35:37,102 --> 00:35:39,536 the weight of these items should go in the front 710 00:35:39,605 --> 00:35:41,304 because that's all your organization. 711 00:35:41,306 --> 00:35:45,675 When you're pulling a trailer, you want the weight in the front. 712 00:35:45,677 --> 00:35:49,312 If your weight is in the back, then it starts lifting 713 00:35:49,314 --> 00:35:52,816 in a way that will start making the trailer rock on the road. 714 00:35:52,818 --> 00:35:55,919 The snowblower, though it's heavy, isn't condensed 715 00:35:55,921 --> 00:35:58,622 It's... You're not gonna have the same density 716 00:35:58,624 --> 00:36:01,057 as you will by putting all the boxes in front. 717 00:36:01,059 --> 00:36:03,260 So I think she should put the boxes in the front. 718 00:36:03,361 --> 00:36:06,930 If this is going in the last with just soft stuff around it, 719 00:36:06,932 --> 00:36:10,400 but if it's going in first, we don't pack around it. 720 00:36:10,402 --> 00:36:12,034 -Okay. -If these boxes-- 721 00:36:12,036 --> 00:36:14,404 So you don't mind helping me with everything then, loading up everything? 722 00:36:14,406 --> 00:36:17,007 I don't think you should put the snowblower in first. 723 00:36:17,009 --> 00:36:18,708 -Let me... -[Christine] Okay. 724 00:36:18,710 --> 00:36:22,112 Oh, my gosh. All I really need his help for is the snowblower. 725 00:36:22,114 --> 00:36:23,246 That's it. 726 00:36:23,315 --> 00:36:27,784 I want it in front because then I'm done and he can go. 727 00:36:27,786 --> 00:36:30,420 That's why I keep on saying, "You're gonna help me load all of it then?" 728 00:36:30,422 --> 00:36:34,958 Trying to get him to be like "Oh, I don't want to stay and help you load all of it 729 00:36:34,960 --> 00:36:38,929 Let's put the snowblower in first" and then I'll go, "That's a great idea." 730 00:36:38,931 --> 00:36:41,198 -I mean, go ahead-- -Will you actually... 731 00:36:41,200 --> 00:36:43,500 We never had a snowblower in Utah. 732 00:36:43,502 --> 00:36:46,603 I know, but I have one now and I love it. 733 00:36:46,605 --> 00:36:49,039 He doesn't need to be here micromanaging 734 00:36:49,041 --> 00:36:52,042 how I fill up this trailer with the last of my crap. 735 00:36:52,110 --> 00:36:55,946 This is the deal. I can put the boxes in my car. I cannot put those in my car. 736 00:36:55,948 --> 00:36:59,049 More than anything, those are going with me this trip. 737 00:36:59,150 --> 00:37:00,717 They are. What? 738 00:37:00,719 --> 00:37:02,052 -I wouldn't-- -I know you wouldn't. 739 00:37:02,054 --> 00:37:04,087 Kody, I know. Thank you. 740 00:37:04,089 --> 00:37:06,256 I'm going to be in charge of this. 741 00:37:06,358 --> 00:37:10,727 I need those with me now because I can take all the boxes. 742 00:37:10,729 --> 00:37:12,062 I can take all the miscellaneous stuff. 743 00:37:12,097 --> 00:37:13,463 -[Kody] Okay. -I can take... 744 00:37:13,565 --> 00:37:15,932 No, I'm not saying right now, but I'm saying this trip. 745 00:37:16,001 --> 00:37:17,300 All right. 746 00:37:23,041 --> 00:37:25,742 Yeah. She doesn't want to listen to actually good advice, 747 00:37:25,844 --> 00:37:28,645 so I'm just gonna cram it all in here. 748 00:37:28,713 --> 00:37:29,546 [grunting] 749 00:37:29,615 --> 00:37:31,047 Let's just get this done. 750 00:37:31,049 --> 00:37:34,718 She's... she's proving that she's the independent woman now by 751 00:37:34,720 --> 00:37:37,854 telling me how the best way to pack this is. 752 00:37:37,956 --> 00:37:40,423 It bothered me to the core. 753 00:37:42,461 --> 00:37:46,730 Okay, I would start packing boxes around these. 754 00:37:46,732 --> 00:37:49,933 I think it's super important to be independent as a plural wife. 755 00:37:50,002 --> 00:37:52,035 I did. And the guy is not around. The husband is not around. 756 00:37:52,037 --> 00:37:54,537 He has so many different places to be. 757 00:37:54,639 --> 00:37:58,541 I... And frankly, that's one of my favorite qualities about myself 758 00:37:58,643 --> 00:38:00,043 that I can do things on my own. 759 00:38:00,045 --> 00:38:03,046 I think it's so empowering just to be able to get stuff done. 760 00:38:05,417 --> 00:38:06,816 I need all those bags. 761 00:38:06,818 --> 00:38:10,854 Let's get anything soft so I can build up around these now. 762 00:38:10,955 --> 00:38:15,125 We've had arguments like this forever, but I was in charge. 763 00:38:15,127 --> 00:38:17,327 She's actually reversed the roles and she says, 764 00:38:17,329 --> 00:38:19,729 "I don't care what you're saying, we're gonna do it this way. 765 00:38:20,365 --> 00:38:21,564 And I'm like... 766 00:38:24,703 --> 00:38:26,436 I don't have to help you. 767 00:38:26,538 --> 00:38:30,240 Just let me get by you. Thank you. 768 00:38:30,309 --> 00:38:33,310 I'm struggling so much with this divorce, it's probably 769 00:38:33,312 --> 00:38:35,412 poisoning my relationship with Janelle a little bit 770 00:38:35,414 --> 00:38:38,148 and definitely poisoning my relationship with Robyn a little bit. 771 00:38:38,183 --> 00:38:44,020 And I think that's partly because I haven't figured out 772 00:38:44,022 --> 00:38:47,257 what I am when we're not this family. 773 00:38:47,359 --> 00:38:49,726 Like, this has been my purpose for so long. 774 00:38:49,728 --> 00:38:51,761 This is what I've done for so long. 775 00:38:51,830 --> 00:38:54,731 I'm... I'm out of my frame and I'm out of my purpose. 776 00:38:58,103 --> 00:39:01,004 I'm spiritually off course. I know that. 777 00:39:01,006 --> 00:39:04,341 I'm a mess and I don't know 778 00:39:04,442 --> 00:39:07,911 what it's gonna take to put me back on course. 779 00:39:07,913 --> 00:39:09,612 All right. Thank you for your help. 780 00:39:09,614 --> 00:39:10,847 -Bye, dad. -[Kody] See you. Love you. 781 00:39:10,882 --> 00:39:13,149 -[Christine] Thank you. -Hey, a hug. Come on. 782 00:39:13,251 --> 00:39:15,085 Just because I'm sweaty, I'm the one that did all the work. 783 00:39:15,087 --> 00:39:16,319 Come on. 784 00:39:16,321 --> 00:39:18,655 Babe, you did not do it all, you just did a lot. 785 00:39:18,723 --> 00:39:20,924 Oh, my gosh. I think we've all learned a lesson today. 786 00:39:20,926 --> 00:39:25,762 I can stand up for myself and be strong and make a stand. 787 00:39:25,831 --> 00:39:28,798 And I can also not ask him for help ever again. 788 00:39:28,800 --> 00:39:31,334 Both have been great decisions made today. 789 00:39:31,436 --> 00:39:34,237 [Kody] All right, ladies. Have a good trip. 790 00:39:34,339 --> 00:39:36,906 [Christine] Thank you. Thanks for your help. 791 00:39:36,908 --> 00:39:38,508 Appreciate it. 792 00:39:38,510 --> 00:39:40,443 [Kody] This is the end of an era for our family. 793 00:39:40,512 --> 00:39:42,512 And she's gone. She's done. 794 00:39:42,514 --> 00:39:45,615 And I've got all these mixed feelings 795 00:39:45,617 --> 00:39:48,518 because Truely is going and that's a real disappointment. 796 00:39:48,653 --> 00:39:52,188 And I'm at this place where I can't tell 797 00:39:52,190 --> 00:39:55,125 if I'm just relieved that Christine's going 798 00:39:55,127 --> 00:39:58,728 or if I'm disappointed with it. 799 00:40:02,033 --> 00:40:04,601 She's called me a lot of things since this has happened, 800 00:40:04,603 --> 00:40:06,202 and I think she called me a coward once 801 00:40:06,204 --> 00:40:08,605 and I kind of went, "Yeah, I've been a little cowardly." 802 00:40:08,607 --> 00:40:11,441 Maybe I should have actually told her that I didn't like her. 803 00:40:13,512 --> 00:40:16,045 But what I didn't do was I didn't quit. 804 00:40:16,147 --> 00:40:19,048 Bye. Love you. Bye-bye. 805 00:40:23,622 --> 00:40:29,392 Once this anger settles, I hope I feel differently. 806 00:40:29,394 --> 00:40:32,028 But I hope it's not heartbreak. 807 00:40:32,030 --> 00:40:36,399 I just don't want to experience heartbreak here. 808 00:40:46,311 --> 00:40:48,511 [narrator] Next time on Sister Wives.. 809 00:40:48,513 --> 00:40:51,047 You and I have been acting like we weren't a married couple 810 00:40:51,116 --> 00:40:52,982 for most of our marriage, Janelle. 811 00:40:52,984 --> 00:40:54,651 Okay, I'm spitting mad now. 812 00:40:54,719 --> 00:40:57,687 Maybe this is not a good fit. Maybe this doesn't work. 813 00:40:57,689 --> 00:41:00,056 It feels like we're unraveling. 814 00:41:00,058 --> 00:41:02,425 I'm thinking, what the hell am I doing here? 815 00:41:04,029 --> 00:41:08,465 I have somebody in my life who is fundamentally loyal to me. 816 00:41:08,533 --> 00:41:11,134 I'm not gonna become Robyn. 817 00:41:11,236 --> 00:41:14,938 [Robyn] We were following all the protocols and still somehow COVID got us. 818 00:41:15,006 --> 00:41:19,142 I'm just... just waiting to see the doctor. 819 00:41:19,244 --> 00:41:21,311 [Kody] Robyn's not improving She's not improving. 820 00:41:21,313 --> 00:41:24,647 I think that I was sitting there watching Robyn, 821 00:41:24,749 --> 00:41:26,416 wondering if she was going to live.