1 00:00:01,068 --> 00:00:03,269 Viewers like you make this program possible. 2 00:00:03,270 --> 00:00:05,339 Support your local PBS station. 3 00:00:16,650 --> 00:00:18,785 GATES: I'm Henry Louis Gates, Jr. 4 00:00:18,786 --> 00:00:21,522 Welcome to "Finding Your Roots." 5 00:00:21,989 --> 00:00:25,425 In this episode, we'll meet actor Kate Burton 6 00:00:25,426 --> 00:00:28,095 and media mogul Barry Diller, 7 00:00:29,463 --> 00:00:31,931 two people whose families left them in the 8 00:00:31,932 --> 00:00:35,535 dark about their family trees. 9 00:00:35,536 --> 00:00:37,437 BURTON: For some reason, nobody talked about it, 10 00:00:37,438 --> 00:00:38,538 which is interesting. 11 00:00:38,539 --> 00:00:39,706 GATES: Mm-hmm. 12 00:00:39,707 --> 00:00:41,342 BURTON: Like, why wouldn't they talk about it? 13 00:00:41,675 --> 00:00:45,745 DILLER: It's just strange that this late in my life, 14 00:00:45,746 --> 00:00:49,717 I would learn something so central to my mother's life. 15 00:00:50,217 --> 00:00:52,420 GATES: Yeah. DILLER: Shocking. 16 00:00:53,120 --> 00:00:54,754 GATES: To uncover their roots, 17 00:00:54,755 --> 00:00:57,291 we've used every tool available. 18 00:00:57,925 --> 00:01:00,260 Genealogists comb through paper trails stretching 19 00:01:00,261 --> 00:01:02,495 back hundreds of years. 20 00:01:02,496 --> 00:01:04,497 BURTON: Oh, my God, I'm amazed. 21 00:01:04,498 --> 00:01:07,934 GATES: While DNA experts utilize the latest advances 22 00:01:07,935 --> 00:01:11,171 in genetic analysis to reveal secrets that 23 00:01:11,172 --> 00:01:13,374 have lain hidden for generations. 24 00:01:13,874 --> 00:01:15,175 DILLER: What? 25 00:01:15,176 --> 00:01:17,778 I've known nothing of any of this. 26 00:01:18,979 --> 00:01:20,980 GATES: And we've compiled it all into a 27 00:01:20,981 --> 00:01:24,852 Book of Life, a record of all of our discoveries. 28 00:01:25,753 --> 00:01:27,253 BURTON: That's so thrilling. 29 00:01:27,254 --> 00:01:28,421 DILLER: Do I get to have this? 30 00:01:28,422 --> 00:01:30,458 GATES: This is yours. DILLER: What a gift. 31 00:01:30,658 --> 00:01:33,793 GATES: And a window into the hidden past. 32 00:01:33,794 --> 00:01:35,495 BURTON: Oh, my goodness. 33 00:01:35,496 --> 00:01:36,896 So they came to the United States. 34 00:01:36,897 --> 00:01:40,134 That is incredible, I'd never known that. 35 00:01:40,734 --> 00:01:46,439 DILLER: If everybody actually told the truthful stories, 36 00:01:46,440 --> 00:01:48,742 how different it would be. 37 00:01:49,910 --> 00:01:52,278 GATES: My two guests were both raised in families 38 00:01:52,279 --> 00:01:54,447 that reinvented themselves, 39 00:01:54,448 --> 00:01:57,617 leaving their roots behind. 40 00:01:57,618 --> 00:02:00,620 In this episode, they're going to recover 41 00:02:00,621 --> 00:02:03,491 what was lost along the way, 42 00:02:03,891 --> 00:02:07,126 hearing stories about women and men who overcame enormous 43 00:02:07,127 --> 00:02:11,165 odds to lay the groundwork for their success. 44 00:02:14,168 --> 00:02:17,037 {\an8}♪ (theme music playing) ♪ 45 00:02:28,182 --> 00:02:34,188 ♪ ♪ 46 00:02:38,092 --> 00:02:40,427 (book closes). 47 00:02:44,164 --> 00:02:47,968 ♪ ♪ 48 00:02:51,839 --> 00:02:53,806 {\an8}GATES: Kate Burton is living proof that your 49 00:02:53,807 --> 00:02:56,610 {\an8}genes are only part of your destiny. 50 00:02:58,812 --> 00:03:01,681 {\an8}The child of two actors, Kate is following in her 51 00:03:01,682 --> 00:03:05,753 {\an8}parents' footsteps, but carving her own path, 52 00:03:07,054 --> 00:03:09,656 {\an8}because she knows how challenging living in 53 00:03:09,657 --> 00:03:11,358 {\an8}the limelight can be. 54 00:03:13,994 --> 00:03:16,729 Kate's parents, Sybil Williams and 55 00:03:16,730 --> 00:03:18,298 Richard Burton, 56 00:03:18,299 --> 00:03:21,001 both grew up in coal mining towns in Wales. 57 00:03:22,503 --> 00:03:26,205 They married young, and by the time Kate was born, 58 00:03:26,206 --> 00:03:28,943 her father was an international star. 59 00:03:30,644 --> 00:03:34,047 He'd soon fall in love with another star, 60 00:03:34,048 --> 00:03:38,184 Elizabeth Taylor, forcing Kate to watch her parents' 61 00:03:38,185 --> 00:03:41,956 marriage collapse in a very public way. 62 00:03:44,224 --> 00:03:47,193 Yet Kate not only endured the chaos, 63 00:03:47,194 --> 00:03:49,729 she emerged the wiser for it, 64 00:03:49,730 --> 00:03:53,232 with admiration for her father's genius 65 00:03:53,233 --> 00:03:55,936 and compassion for his complexity. 66 00:03:57,171 --> 00:04:02,175 BURTON: He was wonderful, loving. 67 00:04:02,176 --> 00:04:03,643 He was an alcoholic. 68 00:04:03,644 --> 00:04:04,811 GATES: Mm-hmm. 69 00:04:04,812 --> 00:04:06,279 BURTON: And dealt with that throughout his life. 70 00:04:06,280 --> 00:04:08,081 You know he would be okay for a while, 71 00:04:08,082 --> 00:04:10,750 but there you know, you go through the sobriety, 72 00:04:10,751 --> 00:04:13,786 and then there's like dark, you know tough time 73 00:04:13,787 --> 00:04:16,122 getting through, it can be really, really tough 74 00:04:16,123 --> 00:04:17,323 getting through that. 75 00:04:17,324 --> 00:04:19,025 And I have to say, 76 00:04:19,026 --> 00:04:20,627 to be honest, my stepmother also 77 00:04:20,628 --> 00:04:22,462 had issues that were slightly different. 78 00:04:22,463 --> 00:04:23,763 GATES: Mm-hmm. 79 00:04:23,764 --> 00:04:25,031 BURTON: My stepdad also had issues. 80 00:04:25,032 --> 00:04:26,332 So I was dealing with it wherever I went. 81 00:04:26,333 --> 00:04:27,567 My mother did not. 82 00:04:27,568 --> 00:04:29,068 She was the one who did not have those issues. 83 00:04:29,069 --> 00:04:33,373 But I got to understand at a very early age about 84 00:04:33,374 --> 00:04:35,708 alcoholism to a certain degree, 85 00:04:35,709 --> 00:04:39,078 but what I really understood at a very early age was that 86 00:04:39,079 --> 00:04:42,049 your parents can break up, and you can be okay. 87 00:04:44,685 --> 00:04:48,054 GATES: Kate, of course, would be more than just okay. 88 00:04:48,055 --> 00:04:51,057 After attending a United Nations high school in 89 00:04:51,058 --> 00:04:55,695 New York City, she went on to Brown University and 90 00:04:55,696 --> 00:04:58,932 became the first person in her family to graduate college. 91 00:05:00,701 --> 00:05:03,970 She then turned her focus to acting, 92 00:05:03,971 --> 00:05:06,507 with a cool head and a clear plan, 93 00:05:07,708 --> 00:05:10,344 even in the face of her father's objections. 94 00:05:11,912 --> 00:05:13,479 BURTON: My dad was not thrilled. 95 00:05:13,480 --> 00:05:14,881 Very not happy about it. 96 00:05:14,882 --> 00:05:16,683 And he said, "You've gone to college. 97 00:05:16,684 --> 00:05:18,017 You're the only one. 98 00:05:18,018 --> 00:05:19,252 You're the first one to go to college all the way through." 99 00:05:19,253 --> 00:05:21,087 And I went, "I know, I know." 100 00:05:21,088 --> 00:05:22,422 And I said, "But, Dad, I promise you. 101 00:05:22,423 --> 00:05:23,956 First, I'm going to apply to drama school, 102 00:05:23,957 --> 00:05:25,858 and if I don't get in, that's it." 103 00:05:25,859 --> 00:05:26,993 GATES: Right. 104 00:05:26,994 --> 00:05:28,227 BURTON: "I'll say forget it. 105 00:05:28,228 --> 00:05:29,328 I'm not like one of these crazy people who's going to 106 00:05:29,329 --> 00:05:30,730 walk around with no, no skills." 107 00:05:30,731 --> 00:05:31,931 GATES: Right. 108 00:05:31,932 --> 00:05:33,433 BURTON: So I applied to three in the United States, 109 00:05:33,434 --> 00:05:34,801 one in the UK. 110 00:05:34,802 --> 00:05:37,537 I got into two in the United States, one in the UK. 111 00:05:37,538 --> 00:05:43,577 And he, he was confused as to why 112 00:05:44,812 --> 00:05:46,979 I was choosing to stay in the United States. 113 00:05:46,980 --> 00:05:48,247 GATES: Mm-hmm. 114 00:05:48,248 --> 00:05:49,449 BURTON: He said, "Why aren't you going to the UK? 115 00:05:49,450 --> 00:05:52,351 How will you, how will you know how to speak?" 116 00:05:52,352 --> 00:05:54,153 And I was like, "Are you kidding?" 117 00:05:54,154 --> 00:05:56,055 I said, "Dad, listen to me, I'm American." 118 00:05:56,056 --> 00:05:59,358 "Like, have you not noticed? I'm from New York." 119 00:05:59,359 --> 00:06:01,160 But then, you know, and then it was Yale. 120 00:06:01,161 --> 00:06:02,128 GATES: Yeah. 121 00:06:02,129 --> 00:06:03,663 BURTON: So I said, "It's Yale." 122 00:06:03,664 --> 00:06:05,264 And he was like, "Okay." 123 00:06:05,265 --> 00:06:06,933 But he did say to me, "If after a semester 124 00:06:06,934 --> 00:06:08,367 or something you feel like you want to change, 125 00:06:08,368 --> 00:06:11,672 can you just transfer to the law school?" 126 00:06:12,239 --> 00:06:14,607 I'm like, "Dad, I don't have the qualifications 127 00:06:14,608 --> 00:06:16,276 to get into Yale Law School." 128 00:06:17,711 --> 00:06:21,481 GATES: Kate would never need to try the law. 129 00:06:21,482 --> 00:06:24,917 She was cast in a Broadway play before she even finished 130 00:06:24,918 --> 00:06:27,721 at Yale, and she hasn't looked back. 131 00:06:30,591 --> 00:06:32,759 Over the past four decades, 132 00:06:32,760 --> 00:06:36,295 she's built a remarkable career, 133 00:06:36,296 --> 00:06:39,398 appearing in dozens of plays and over 100 films 134 00:06:39,399 --> 00:06:41,667 and television shows, 135 00:06:41,668 --> 00:06:44,537 including memorable turns on "Grey's Anatomy" 136 00:06:44,538 --> 00:06:46,707 and "Scandal". 137 00:06:47,141 --> 00:06:49,475 But just as importantly, Kate has been able to do 138 00:06:49,476 --> 00:06:53,013 what she loves in the way she wants to do it, 139 00:06:54,782 --> 00:06:58,051 avoiding the turmoil that marked her youth. 140 00:06:59,019 --> 00:07:01,020 BURTON: I always think how lucky I am. 141 00:07:01,021 --> 00:07:02,488 GATES: Mm-hmm. 142 00:07:02,489 --> 00:07:05,458 BURTON: Growing up with Dad and Elizabeth as my two 143 00:07:05,459 --> 00:07:11,097 of my four parents, um, I saw huge fame very, 144 00:07:11,098 --> 00:07:12,765 very close up. 145 00:07:12,766 --> 00:07:14,133 GATES: Mm-hmm. 146 00:07:14,134 --> 00:07:17,604 BURTON: And I've never aspired, never wanted that to be my life. 147 00:07:18,005 --> 00:07:19,238 And it hasn't been. 148 00:07:19,239 --> 00:07:22,608 And so I feel extremely blessed that I've gotten 149 00:07:22,609 --> 00:07:25,044 to play these incredible roles. 150 00:07:25,045 --> 00:07:26,479 GATES: Mm-hmm. 151 00:07:26,480 --> 00:07:30,583 BURTON: But it's a combination of luck, skill, 152 00:07:30,584 --> 00:07:33,187 being in the right place at the right time. 153 00:07:33,420 --> 00:07:38,825 And I was very blessed because I was find, 154 00:07:38,826 --> 00:07:40,860 I was having opportunity. 155 00:07:40,861 --> 00:07:42,161 GATES: Mm-hmm. 156 00:07:42,162 --> 00:07:43,963 BURTON: And I was able to fulfill the requirements 157 00:07:43,964 --> 00:07:45,565 to get the part. 158 00:07:45,566 --> 00:07:47,900 And getting the part, as my friend Jane Kaczmarek 159 00:07:47,901 --> 00:07:49,368 says, is a miracle. 160 00:07:49,369 --> 00:07:51,471 I mean, every time you do, it's a miracle. 161 00:07:52,840 --> 00:07:57,109 GATES: My second guest is Barry Diller, 162 00:07:57,110 --> 00:07:59,979 one of the most influential figures in the history 163 00:07:59,980 --> 00:08:02,549 of American entertainment. 164 00:08:03,884 --> 00:08:08,020 Barry famously worked his way up the Hollywood ladder, 165 00:08:08,021 --> 00:08:10,089 starting with a job in the mail room of the 166 00:08:10,090 --> 00:08:12,359 William Morris talent agency. 167 00:08:13,227 --> 00:08:16,463 But his story is a bit more complicated than that. 168 00:08:18,732 --> 00:08:20,900 Raised in Beverly Hills, 169 00:08:20,901 --> 00:08:23,736 the child of a real estate developer, 170 00:08:23,737 --> 00:08:26,907 Barry was always intrigued by show business. 171 00:08:28,475 --> 00:08:31,644 But growing up, he showed no inclination for 172 00:08:31,645 --> 00:08:34,181 a job of any kind. 173 00:08:34,448 --> 00:08:36,382 DILLER: I hated school. 174 00:08:36,383 --> 00:08:38,651 I very rarely went to high school. 175 00:08:38,652 --> 00:08:40,253 GATES: Mm-hmm. 176 00:08:40,254 --> 00:08:41,888 DILLER: And it was presumed, actually, 177 00:08:41,889 --> 00:08:43,155 that I would never work. 178 00:08:43,156 --> 00:08:44,357 GATES: Mm-hmm. 179 00:08:44,358 --> 00:08:45,758 DILLER: And there was no pressure from my parents. 180 00:08:45,759 --> 00:08:47,193 They couldn't have cared less. 181 00:08:47,194 --> 00:08:48,494 GATES: Mm. 182 00:08:48,495 --> 00:08:49,929 DILLER: So, for a year after high school, 183 00:08:49,930 --> 00:08:51,063 I did nothing. 184 00:08:51,064 --> 00:08:52,298 GATES: Mm-hmm. 185 00:08:52,299 --> 00:08:53,599 DILLER: Just hibernated around. 186 00:08:53,600 --> 00:08:56,502 But I had this thing of, well, entertainment, 187 00:08:56,503 --> 00:08:57,436 but where? 188 00:08:57,437 --> 00:08:58,804 What? What can I do? 189 00:08:58,805 --> 00:09:00,039 I'm 19 years old. 190 00:09:00,040 --> 00:09:01,574 Who's going to pay attention to me? 191 00:09:01,575 --> 00:09:05,611 And I'd heard about the William Morris Agency mail room. 192 00:09:05,612 --> 00:09:12,319 And so one of my best friends' father was Danny Thomas. 193 00:09:13,220 --> 00:09:14,754 GATES: Mm. 194 00:09:14,755 --> 00:09:17,356 DILLER: Who, at that time, was the probably biggest 195 00:09:17,357 --> 00:09:21,228 television personality in entertainment. 196 00:09:21,728 --> 00:09:23,696 GATES: We watched "The Danny Thomas Show" every week. 197 00:09:23,697 --> 00:09:25,731 DILLER: Yeah, he was incredibly successful. 198 00:09:25,732 --> 00:09:30,704 And he was kind of a bit like a father to me. 199 00:09:31,138 --> 00:09:32,505 GATES: Mm-hmm. 200 00:09:32,506 --> 00:09:33,739 DILLER: So I called him. 201 00:09:33,740 --> 00:09:34,974 He was performing in Las Vegas, and I said, 202 00:09:34,975 --> 00:09:36,108 "I need your help." 203 00:09:36,109 --> 00:09:37,410 He said, "What can I do for you, my son?" 204 00:09:37,411 --> 00:09:40,379 And I said, "I want to go to William Morris' mail room." 205 00:09:40,380 --> 00:09:42,281 And he said, "Oh, that's easy. 206 00:09:42,282 --> 00:09:43,950 Can I go back to my massage now?" 207 00:09:43,951 --> 00:09:45,451 (laughing). 208 00:09:45,452 --> 00:09:47,254 And the next day I was there. 209 00:09:48,989 --> 00:09:50,990 GATES: The mail room ignited something inside 210 00:09:50,991 --> 00:09:56,263 Barry, an ambition that fueled an unprecedented rise. 211 00:09:58,332 --> 00:10:02,002 Within a decade, Barry had left William Morris for ABC, 212 00:10:02,736 --> 00:10:04,937 where he'd end up as vice president of 213 00:10:04,938 --> 00:10:07,107 prime time television. 214 00:10:08,342 --> 00:10:10,943 He then set his sights on feature films, 215 00:10:10,944 --> 00:10:15,414 and in 1974, when he was just 32 years old, 216 00:10:15,415 --> 00:10:18,284 he took over Paramount, one of Hollywood's most 217 00:10:18,285 --> 00:10:20,354 prestigious studios. 218 00:10:21,188 --> 00:10:24,591 At first, it seemed like he was in over his head. 219 00:10:26,493 --> 00:10:28,194 DILLER: No one from television had come 220 00:10:28,195 --> 00:10:30,329 into the movie business at that time. 221 00:10:30,330 --> 00:10:33,432 I mean, movie people basically peed on people 222 00:10:33,433 --> 00:10:34,867 in television. 223 00:10:34,868 --> 00:10:38,004 They were so snotty towards television. 224 00:10:38,005 --> 00:10:40,039 And I was very clearly a television person. 225 00:10:40,040 --> 00:10:41,440 So the first couple of years were 226 00:10:41,441 --> 00:10:42,775 really, really tough. 227 00:10:42,776 --> 00:10:44,977 GATES: What was the uh, the turning point, 228 00:10:44,978 --> 00:10:48,047 when you knew you were going to be successful? 229 00:10:48,048 --> 00:10:50,483 DILLER: Well, we started developing movies rather 230 00:10:50,484 --> 00:10:54,821 than buying packages and listening to other people. 231 00:10:55,088 --> 00:11:00,326 We used our own instincts, and I got confidence in 232 00:11:00,327 --> 00:11:02,161 that development process. 233 00:11:02,162 --> 00:11:04,030 Nevertheless, during that period, 234 00:11:04,031 --> 00:11:07,066 we were also releasing one dog movie after the other. 235 00:11:07,067 --> 00:11:09,935 But then we produced a movie called 236 00:11:09,936 --> 00:11:11,404 "Looking for Mr. Goodbar." 237 00:11:11,405 --> 00:11:12,772 GATES: Oh, yeah. 238 00:11:12,773 --> 00:11:13,939 DILLER: Which was based on a book, 239 00:11:13,940 --> 00:11:16,876 the first book I bought when I got to Paramount. 240 00:11:16,877 --> 00:11:20,379 And it was a good, solid success. 241 00:11:20,380 --> 00:11:21,747 GATES: Mm-hmm. 242 00:11:21,748 --> 00:11:24,750 DILLER: And then right after that came 243 00:11:24,751 --> 00:11:26,685 "Saturday Night Fever." 244 00:11:26,686 --> 00:11:27,953 GATES: Yeah. 245 00:11:27,954 --> 00:11:29,755 DILLER: And right after that came "Grease." 246 00:11:29,756 --> 00:11:31,057 GATES: Mm-hmm. 247 00:11:31,058 --> 00:11:33,459 DILLER: Literally this bonanza of successes... 248 00:11:33,460 --> 00:11:34,593 GATES: Mm-hmm. 249 00:11:34,594 --> 00:11:35,961 DILLER: ...one after the other... 250 00:11:35,962 --> 00:11:37,129 GATES: Mm-hmm. 251 00:11:37,130 --> 00:11:38,564 DILLER: ...out of this development process. 252 00:11:38,565 --> 00:11:39,865 GATES: Mm-hmm. 253 00:11:39,866 --> 00:11:43,736 DILLER: So I knew it was good, but thought it would never 254 00:11:43,737 --> 00:11:45,871 come to fruition, at least for me, 255 00:11:45,872 --> 00:11:47,808 because they'd throw me out before then. 256 00:11:48,208 --> 00:11:49,843 But luckily, they didn't. 257 00:11:51,344 --> 00:11:54,947 GATES: Paramount would reap the rewards of that decision. 258 00:11:54,948 --> 00:11:58,484 Under Barry's leadership, the studio enjoyed a sustained 259 00:11:58,485 --> 00:12:00,954 period of phenomenal success. 260 00:12:02,422 --> 00:12:04,924 And Barry, who would eventually go on to build 261 00:12:04,925 --> 00:12:08,662 a corporate empire of his own, became an icon, 262 00:12:10,530 --> 00:12:13,834 much to the surprise of those who'd watched him grow up. 263 00:12:14,901 --> 00:12:16,502 GATES: What did your parents think? 264 00:12:16,503 --> 00:12:18,137 (laughing). 265 00:12:18,138 --> 00:12:19,705 DILLER: You mean as I became successful? 266 00:12:19,706 --> 00:12:21,006 GATES: Yes. 267 00:12:21,007 --> 00:12:23,309 DILLER: I think it was like... a space alien. 268 00:12:23,310 --> 00:12:25,911 I think they, I think they thought, 269 00:12:25,912 --> 00:12:28,080 "How in God's name did this happen?" 270 00:12:28,081 --> 00:12:30,883 There was no show, sign. 271 00:12:30,884 --> 00:12:35,188 You could point to nothing that would have predicted this. 272 00:12:35,822 --> 00:12:39,625 But they were very happy for me, for sure. 273 00:12:39,626 --> 00:12:42,361 I mean it was just like, 274 00:12:42,362 --> 00:12:44,864 it was both happiness and wonderment. 275 00:12:44,865 --> 00:12:47,868 How did, how did this happen? 276 00:12:48,468 --> 00:12:51,604 GATES: While my guests may seem different on the surface, 277 00:12:51,605 --> 00:12:54,273 actually, they have a great deal in common. 278 00:12:54,274 --> 00:12:59,346 Both grew up in comfort, thanks to ancestors who did not. 279 00:12:59,880 --> 00:13:02,982 And both came to me hoping to explore the stories 280 00:13:02,983 --> 00:13:05,185 about those ancestors. 281 00:13:07,854 --> 00:13:11,390 I started with Kate Burton and with her father, 282 00:13:11,391 --> 00:13:15,428 Richard, with whom she shares much more than a profession. 283 00:13:18,131 --> 00:13:22,335 BURTON: I think I have a lot of my father's brio. 284 00:13:22,736 --> 00:13:24,270 GATES: Uh-huh. 285 00:13:24,271 --> 00:13:26,839 BURTON: And I think I definitely have some of his, 286 00:13:26,840 --> 00:13:29,575 you know, sort of grittiness that I think 287 00:13:29,576 --> 00:13:31,744 sort of came quite naturally to him. 288 00:13:31,745 --> 00:13:34,213 But I had a very different childhood. 289 00:13:34,214 --> 00:13:35,714 GATES: Mm-hmm. 290 00:13:35,715 --> 00:13:37,816 BURTON: He was duking it out from the age of a very 291 00:13:37,817 --> 00:13:42,221 young age, and I, I was allowed to, to become an adult 292 00:13:42,222 --> 00:13:45,659 in a more holistic way. 293 00:13:47,961 --> 00:13:49,728 GATES: As we began to research her father's 294 00:13:49,729 --> 00:13:53,466 childhood, it was easy to see what Kate meant. 295 00:13:55,368 --> 00:13:59,039 {\an8}Richard suffered a great deal from a very young age. 296 00:14:00,340 --> 00:14:04,076 {\an8}His mother died before he was even two years old, 297 00:14:04,077 --> 00:14:07,880 {\an8}and he was raised largely by one of his older sisters 298 00:14:07,881 --> 00:14:10,883 because his father, a coal miner, 299 00:14:10,884 --> 00:14:13,486 was struggling mightily to make ends meet. 300 00:14:15,989 --> 00:14:18,057 What's it like to see that, to think of your grandfather 301 00:14:18,058 --> 00:14:21,026 doing that for a living? 302 00:14:21,027 --> 00:14:25,731 BURTON: I think the um, the reality of what it was 303 00:14:25,732 --> 00:14:28,802 to be a coal miner is mind-bending. 304 00:14:29,102 --> 00:14:30,636 GATES: Mm-hmm. 305 00:14:30,637 --> 00:14:33,073 BURTON: I mean, it was such a brutal job. 306 00:14:33,306 --> 00:14:34,573 GATES: Mm. 307 00:14:34,574 --> 00:14:39,345 BURTON: My mother spoke more about the experience 308 00:14:39,346 --> 00:14:41,947 of growing up in a coal mining community and what, 309 00:14:41,948 --> 00:14:46,218 you know just things like they took their baths. 310 00:14:46,219 --> 00:14:48,187 They came home covered in soot... 311 00:14:48,188 --> 00:14:49,755 GATES: Mm-hmm. 312 00:14:49,756 --> 00:14:51,257 BURTON: ...and they were immediately went to take a bath. 313 00:14:51,258 --> 00:14:53,425 Their clothes were taken off them, 314 00:14:53,426 --> 00:14:55,227 left outside to soak. 315 00:14:55,228 --> 00:14:57,796 I mean there was such a, the mother, 316 00:14:57,797 --> 00:15:00,366 the wives and mothers were, they had a routine. 317 00:15:00,367 --> 00:15:02,501 That was the only way, because they couldn't 318 00:15:02,502 --> 00:15:03,736 come into the house... 319 00:15:03,737 --> 00:15:05,104 GATES: Mm-hmm. 320 00:15:05,105 --> 00:15:06,405 BURTON: ...with their work clothes on. 321 00:15:06,406 --> 00:15:07,773 GATES: Mm-mm. 322 00:15:07,774 --> 00:15:09,008 BURTON: But it is, I've never seen these. 323 00:15:09,009 --> 00:15:10,376 I've seen pictures of coal miners, 324 00:15:10,377 --> 00:15:11,644 but I've never seen these. 325 00:15:11,645 --> 00:15:13,847 I mean, that is really... 326 00:15:14,147 --> 00:15:16,248 GATES: Coal had been the dominant industry in Wales 327 00:15:16,249 --> 00:15:20,986 since the mid-1800s, and Kate's grandfather was 328 00:15:20,987 --> 00:15:23,923 not her first ancestor to work in the mines. 329 00:15:25,959 --> 00:15:28,827 Her great-grandfather, Thomas Jenkins, 330 00:15:28,828 --> 00:15:31,665 was mining by the time he was 13 years old. 331 00:15:33,400 --> 00:15:35,601 And tragically, the job would leave him 332 00:15:35,602 --> 00:15:37,370 in terrible straits. 333 00:15:38,772 --> 00:15:43,409 BURTON: Thomas Jenkins, age 47, profession, 334 00:15:43,410 --> 00:15:46,378 coal miner, cause of death, 335 00:15:46,379 --> 00:15:50,283 fracture of spine with displacement three years. 336 00:15:50,884 --> 00:15:52,484 GATES: Mm. BURTON: Three years? 337 00:15:52,485 --> 00:15:54,453 GATES: Yeah, that he suffered three years. 338 00:15:54,454 --> 00:15:56,388 BURTON: Oh, God. 339 00:15:56,389 --> 00:15:57,856 GATES: Did you have any idea that your 340 00:15:57,857 --> 00:15:59,258 great-grandfather had died... 341 00:15:59,259 --> 00:16:01,226 BURTON: No. GATES: ...so young? 342 00:16:01,227 --> 00:16:04,663 BURTON: No. So young. 343 00:16:04,664 --> 00:16:07,032 GATES: And he was injured in the mine, 344 00:16:07,033 --> 00:16:09,001 and then suffered three years from the injury. 345 00:16:09,002 --> 00:16:11,971 BURTON: Oh, God. How awful. 346 00:16:12,205 --> 00:16:13,706 Wow, that's incredible. 347 00:16:13,707 --> 00:16:15,074 GATES: This is like a page out of a Dickens novel. 348 00:16:15,075 --> 00:16:16,241 BURTON: Yeah, well, it is. 349 00:16:16,242 --> 00:16:18,078 GATES: You know? BURTON: It is, completely. 350 00:16:19,546 --> 00:16:22,414 GATES: This story was about to take a twist that 351 00:16:22,415 --> 00:16:24,718 Dickens himself might have enjoyed. 352 00:16:26,619 --> 00:16:29,121 Records show that Kate's great-grandfather was born 353 00:16:29,122 --> 00:16:33,826 in Pontrhydyfen, a village in South Wales, 354 00:16:33,827 --> 00:16:36,995 and that he was one of at least nine children, 355 00:16:36,996 --> 00:16:39,666 many of whom would end up in the mines. 356 00:16:40,834 --> 00:16:44,136 But when we focused on two of his siblings, 357 00:16:44,137 --> 00:16:47,539 a pair of brothers named John and David, 358 00:16:47,540 --> 00:16:50,944 we found ourselves in a most unexpected place. 359 00:16:51,878 --> 00:16:54,446 BURTON: "The receipt whereof is hereby acknowledged 360 00:16:54,447 --> 00:16:57,783 of all the following described tracts, 361 00:16:57,784 --> 00:17:01,220 parcels, and lots lying and being situated 362 00:17:01,221 --> 00:17:07,459 in the original town of Roslyn, county of Kititas..." 363 00:17:07,460 --> 00:17:08,961 GATES: Kititas. BURTON: Kititas. 364 00:17:08,962 --> 00:17:10,462 GATES: Uh-huh. 365 00:17:10,463 --> 00:17:11,964 BURTON: "...and Territory of Washington." 366 00:17:11,965 --> 00:17:13,966 GATES: Territory of Washington. 367 00:17:13,967 --> 00:17:15,667 You have any idea what's going on there? 368 00:17:15,668 --> 00:17:17,169 BURTON: No. 369 00:17:17,170 --> 00:17:18,837 GATES: This is a deed of sale between your 370 00:17:18,838 --> 00:17:21,573 great-granduncles, John and David Jenkins... 371 00:17:21,574 --> 00:17:23,075 BURTON: Right. 372 00:17:23,076 --> 00:17:24,476 GATES: ...in Washington Territory in the 373 00:17:24,477 --> 00:17:26,111 United States of America. 374 00:17:26,112 --> 00:17:27,946 BURTON: Oh, my God. 375 00:17:27,947 --> 00:17:29,815 Oh, my goodness. 376 00:17:29,816 --> 00:17:30,949 That's incredible. 377 00:17:30,950 --> 00:17:32,251 GATES: Have you... BURTON: Wow. 378 00:17:32,252 --> 00:17:33,385 GATES: ...ever heard anything about that? 379 00:17:33,386 --> 00:17:35,822 BURTON: No, I never have. That's mind-bending. 380 00:17:37,357 --> 00:17:39,391 GATES: We don't know when John and David left for 381 00:17:39,392 --> 00:17:41,427 the United States. 382 00:17:41,428 --> 00:17:44,097 Their immigration records have been lost. 383 00:17:45,098 --> 00:17:49,468 {\an8}But we do know that by 1887, the two had settled 384 00:17:49,469 --> 00:17:54,474 {\an8}in Roslyn, Washington, about 80 miles east of Seattle. 385 00:17:56,142 --> 00:17:58,544 And they almost certainly came to America seeking a better 386 00:17:58,545 --> 00:17:59,912 life for themselves. 387 00:17:59,913 --> 00:18:01,380 BURTON: Yeah, yeah. 388 00:18:01,381 --> 00:18:02,948 GATES: And let's see what they did when they got here. 389 00:18:02,949 --> 00:18:03,916 BURTON: Okay. 390 00:18:03,917 --> 00:18:05,451 GATES: Would you please turn the page? 391 00:18:05,452 --> 00:18:06,885 BURTON: Okay. 392 00:18:06,886 --> 00:18:08,187 This is a newspaper article published in the 393 00:18:08,188 --> 00:18:11,089 "East Washingtonian," June 2nd, 1888, about a 394 00:18:11,090 --> 00:18:14,126 month and a half after the deed we just showed you. 395 00:18:14,127 --> 00:18:16,428 Would you please read the transcribed section 396 00:18:16,429 --> 00:18:17,863 in that white box? 397 00:18:17,864 --> 00:18:20,098 BURTON: "Roslyn is growing wonderfully. 398 00:18:20,099 --> 00:18:23,535 The grass is green, weather fine, and flowers blooming. 399 00:18:23,536 --> 00:18:26,839 There are 2,000 inhabitants, two churches, 400 00:18:26,840 --> 00:18:28,307 two schools. 401 00:18:28,308 --> 00:18:30,876 The Northern Pacific Coal Company have on 402 00:18:30,877 --> 00:18:33,345 their payroll 650 men. 403 00:18:33,346 --> 00:18:36,982 The mining company is opening a new mine above the town, 404 00:18:36,983 --> 00:18:40,920 which will require a large number of additional hands." 405 00:18:41,521 --> 00:18:43,255 Oh my gosh. 406 00:18:43,256 --> 00:18:45,657 GATES: Roslyn... BURTON: Just can't stay away. 407 00:18:45,658 --> 00:18:48,060 They can't stay away. 408 00:18:48,061 --> 00:18:49,795 GATES: And John and David worked in the mines. 409 00:18:49,796 --> 00:18:51,930 BURTON: Oh my good, well, that's what they knew how to do. 410 00:18:51,931 --> 00:18:53,866 GATES: That's a long way to go to stay in the mines. 411 00:18:53,867 --> 00:18:56,269 BURTON: Yeah. That's amazing, wow. 412 00:18:57,303 --> 00:18:59,304 GATES: Kate's relatives may have been working a 413 00:18:59,305 --> 00:19:03,443 familiar job, but there was a significant difference. 414 00:19:04,978 --> 00:19:08,982 In Roslyn, miners made about $18 per week. 415 00:19:10,783 --> 00:19:14,353 Back in Wales, they made the equivalent of about 416 00:19:14,354 --> 00:19:16,990 $4 for the same labor. 417 00:19:19,492 --> 00:19:24,096 BURTON: Wow, that's amazing. 418 00:19:24,097 --> 00:19:25,831 I mean, there you go. 419 00:19:25,832 --> 00:19:27,165 That's why the... 420 00:19:27,166 --> 00:19:28,367 GATES: There you go. 421 00:19:28,368 --> 00:19:29,601 BURTON: ...America, why people moved here. 422 00:19:29,602 --> 00:19:31,003 GATES: Can you imagine hearing that you could 423 00:19:31,004 --> 00:19:33,305 make $18 a week instead of $4? 424 00:19:33,306 --> 00:19:35,007 BOTH: $4. BURTON: Four dollars. 425 00:19:35,008 --> 00:19:36,608 GATES: You're like, "I think I'm out of here." 426 00:19:36,609 --> 00:19:37,943 BURTON: Yeah, I think, "I got to go." 427 00:19:37,944 --> 00:19:39,011 GATES: Yeah. 428 00:19:39,012 --> 00:19:41,047 BURTON: That's amazing, that's amazing. 429 00:19:41,748 --> 00:19:43,782 GATES: Even though John and David were doing better 430 00:19:43,783 --> 00:19:48,054 in their new home, they still faced immense challenges. 431 00:19:49,489 --> 00:19:54,059 In 1888, Roslyn burned to the ground, 432 00:19:54,060 --> 00:19:57,764 and the brothers likely lost everything they owned. 433 00:19:59,465 --> 00:20:01,533 John disappears from the paper trail just a 434 00:20:01,534 --> 00:20:06,873 few years later, but David pressed on and prospered. 435 00:20:08,875 --> 00:20:10,375 BURTON: "David M. Jenkins, 436 00:20:10,376 --> 00:20:12,578 head of household, age 56, 437 00:20:12,579 --> 00:20:16,248 citizenship naturalized, occupation farmer, 438 00:20:16,249 --> 00:20:19,251 ownership of home, owns farm. 439 00:20:19,252 --> 00:20:23,456 Rachel, wife, age 52, Olive, daughter, age 18, 440 00:20:24,223 --> 00:20:29,128 Helena, daughter, age 15, Celia, daughter, age 22." 441 00:20:30,363 --> 00:20:32,831 GATES: There's David and his family in 1910. 442 00:20:32,832 --> 00:20:34,700 David owned his own farm. 443 00:20:34,701 --> 00:20:36,201 BURTON: Wow. 444 00:20:36,202 --> 00:20:38,670 GATES: And he was a naturalized US citizen 445 00:20:38,671 --> 00:20:41,374 just 20 years after he arrived from Wales. 446 00:20:41,641 --> 00:20:43,475 BURTON: Mm. GATES: He owned a farm. 447 00:20:43,476 --> 00:20:45,711 BURTON: Mm, got out of the mine. 448 00:20:45,712 --> 00:20:47,279 GATES: How does it feel to see that? 449 00:20:47,280 --> 00:20:48,680 BURTON: That's great. 450 00:20:48,681 --> 00:20:51,016 I mean, it's great because he probably did something 451 00:20:51,017 --> 00:20:53,151 that was going to extend his, 452 00:20:53,152 --> 00:20:54,386 he was going to have a better life. 453 00:20:54,387 --> 00:20:56,521 He was going to extend his life, is not doing that... 454 00:20:56,522 --> 00:20:58,123 GATES: Yeah. 455 00:20:58,124 --> 00:21:00,326 BURTON: ...terrible, terrible work. 456 00:21:01,194 --> 00:21:03,862 GATES: As it turns out, David was not the only 457 00:21:03,863 --> 00:21:06,866 member of his family to take a chance on America. 458 00:21:08,067 --> 00:21:11,970 By 1880, his sister Cecilia was raising her 459 00:21:11,971 --> 00:21:16,074 family in Pennsylvania, and his brother William, 460 00:21:16,075 --> 00:21:19,011 who was working as a miner in Wales when he was 461 00:21:19,012 --> 00:21:22,648 11 years old, had crossed the Atlantic and 462 00:21:22,649 --> 00:21:25,018 was living with his family in Illinois. 463 00:21:26,786 --> 00:21:28,954 BURTON: Oh my goodness. 464 00:21:28,955 --> 00:21:30,255 GATES: What do you think your father would've made 465 00:21:30,256 --> 00:21:31,556 of all this? 466 00:21:31,557 --> 00:21:33,592 BURTON: I think it would have made him so happy to 467 00:21:33,593 --> 00:21:39,598 think that they got out of the life of you are born, 468 00:21:39,599 --> 00:21:43,635 you hit the age of 11, you start working in the coal mines. 469 00:21:43,636 --> 00:21:45,237 GATES: Right. 470 00:21:45,238 --> 00:21:47,339 BURTON: I think he would have been very happy that 471 00:21:47,340 --> 00:21:49,374 that mold had been broken, 472 00:21:49,375 --> 00:21:50,842 that that pattern had been broken, 473 00:21:50,843 --> 00:21:52,844 which is, let's face it, what he did. 474 00:21:52,845 --> 00:21:54,312 GATES: Sure. 475 00:21:54,313 --> 00:21:57,049 BURTON: He broke the pattern, and so I think he would've been, 476 00:21:57,050 --> 00:21:59,285 he would've been very gratified by that. 477 00:21:59,519 --> 00:22:01,019 GATES: Does learning all this change the way you 478 00:22:01,020 --> 00:22:04,923 see yourself or help you understand yourself better, 479 00:22:04,924 --> 00:22:06,425 more fully? 480 00:22:06,426 --> 00:22:09,695 BURTON: Yes, I've always had an adventurous spirit. 481 00:22:09,696 --> 00:22:11,229 GATES: Right. 482 00:22:11,230 --> 00:22:13,098 BURTON: And it is amazing to think that, you know, 483 00:22:13,099 --> 00:22:16,868 about my parents and how adventurous they were, 484 00:22:16,869 --> 00:22:20,305 how adventurous Dad was, and you know, 485 00:22:20,306 --> 00:22:25,812 that that spirit comes from your heritage. 486 00:22:28,047 --> 00:22:31,516 GATES: Much like Kate Burton, Barry Diller was about to 487 00:22:31,517 --> 00:22:34,286 see that he has a stronger connection to his 488 00:22:34,287 --> 00:22:37,490 father's roots than he'd ever imagined. 489 00:22:39,258 --> 00:22:42,527 And this discovery would be particularly surprising 490 00:22:42,528 --> 00:22:44,496 because Barry told me that he and his father had 491 00:22:44,497 --> 00:22:49,001 very little in common, especially when it came to work. 492 00:22:51,037 --> 00:22:54,607 DILLER: Somebody asked me, "What work did he actually do?" 493 00:22:55,007 --> 00:23:00,645 He was in the building business and related things, 494 00:23:00,646 --> 00:23:04,983 and they said, "No, no, what did he do?" 495 00:23:04,984 --> 00:23:07,219 And I said, "Screw if I know." 496 00:23:07,220 --> 00:23:11,323 He went to the office maybe three, four hours a day. 497 00:23:11,324 --> 00:23:13,692 GATES: Mm. DILLER: I know he had a desk. 498 00:23:13,693 --> 00:23:15,827 (laughs). 499 00:23:15,828 --> 00:23:17,696 He never really talked about it. 500 00:23:17,697 --> 00:23:20,766 I mean, I knew what business world they were in, 501 00:23:20,767 --> 00:23:24,503 and I knew some of the things, but he, he, 502 00:23:24,504 --> 00:23:26,873 he was not ambitious. 503 00:23:28,441 --> 00:23:31,409 GATES: While his father may have lacked ambition, 504 00:23:31,410 --> 00:23:34,513 moving back just one generation, we came to 505 00:23:34,514 --> 00:23:37,950 a man who most decidedly did not. 506 00:23:38,618 --> 00:23:41,787 Barry's grandfather, Bernard Diller, 507 00:23:41,788 --> 00:23:46,159 was an entrepreneur, very much in Barry's own mold. 508 00:23:47,226 --> 00:23:49,829 Yet Bernard died before Barry was born, 509 00:23:50,496 --> 00:23:54,133 and little of his story had been passed down. 510 00:23:54,500 --> 00:23:57,435 So we set out to reconstruct it, 511 00:23:57,436 --> 00:23:59,704 starting with an advertisement that was placed 512 00:23:59,705 --> 00:24:03,709 in a San Francisco newspaper in 1935. 513 00:24:05,411 --> 00:24:07,747 DILLER: Oh my God. 514 00:24:08,080 --> 00:24:09,681 I love that. 515 00:24:09,682 --> 00:24:12,884 GATES: Your grandfather opened an all-kosher store 516 00:24:12,885 --> 00:24:15,821 called Diller's Market, and there it is. 517 00:24:15,822 --> 00:24:17,289 Have you ever seen a picture of it before? 518 00:24:17,290 --> 00:24:18,790 DILLER: Of course not. 519 00:24:18,791 --> 00:24:21,092 GATES: And it was truly a family business. 520 00:24:21,093 --> 00:24:22,794 Did your father ever talk much about his time 521 00:24:22,795 --> 00:24:24,329 working for his father? 522 00:24:24,330 --> 00:24:26,665 DILLER: Yes, this is what I do know. 523 00:24:26,666 --> 00:24:30,902 He worked in his father's store and 524 00:24:30,903 --> 00:24:33,738 hated every second of it. 525 00:24:33,739 --> 00:24:35,373 GATES: Mm-hmm. 526 00:24:35,374 --> 00:24:37,108 DILLER: Because it was, I gather from him, 527 00:24:37,109 --> 00:24:39,244 really hard work. 528 00:24:39,245 --> 00:24:40,846 GATES: Mm-hmm. 529 00:24:40,847 --> 00:24:42,647 DILLER: And that explains why he never really 530 00:24:42,648 --> 00:24:43,849 wanted to work again. 531 00:24:43,850 --> 00:24:45,918 (laughs). 532 00:24:46,118 --> 00:24:48,119 GATES: As we pored over the records that Barry's 533 00:24:48,120 --> 00:24:52,657 grandfather left behind, we discovered that Bernard 534 00:24:52,658 --> 00:24:55,261 did much more than run a market. 535 00:24:55,995 --> 00:24:58,363 He was also deeply involved in the life of 536 00:24:58,364 --> 00:25:00,633 his adopted hometown. 537 00:25:02,501 --> 00:25:04,569 DILLER: "Bernard Diller rose to business success 538 00:25:04,570 --> 00:25:07,005 through his own efforts. 539 00:25:07,006 --> 00:25:08,907 He came to San Francisco in 1903, 540 00:25:08,908 --> 00:25:12,878 establishing a market in the Orthodox community of the city. 541 00:25:12,879 --> 00:25:16,648 From then, he won not only their patronage but their 542 00:25:16,649 --> 00:25:20,285 affection and esteem, being lionized by many 543 00:25:20,286 --> 00:25:23,021 as virtually the mayor of San Francisco's 544 00:25:23,022 --> 00:25:25,090 Orthodox Section. 545 00:25:25,091 --> 00:25:27,492 A member and director of a variety of Jewish 546 00:25:27,493 --> 00:25:30,161 organizations, he was constantly sought out 547 00:25:30,162 --> 00:25:32,899 for counsel and benefactions." 548 00:25:33,633 --> 00:25:39,104 Wow. I did know that he was a very respected person 549 00:25:39,105 --> 00:25:40,639 in his community. 550 00:25:40,640 --> 00:25:42,140 GATES: Mm-hmm. 551 00:25:42,141 --> 00:25:45,911 DILLER: Uh, and, but that's really all I know. 552 00:25:45,912 --> 00:25:47,646 This is impressive. 553 00:25:47,647 --> 00:25:49,014 GATES: It was. 554 00:25:49,015 --> 00:25:51,717 DILLER: Wow, this connects me to my roots. 555 00:25:52,919 --> 00:25:55,287 GATES: Barry wondered how his grandfather had ended up 556 00:25:55,288 --> 00:25:58,790 in San Francisco in the first place. 557 00:25:58,791 --> 00:26:00,926 The answer seems to be that he was searching 558 00:26:00,927 --> 00:26:04,130 for opportunity, relentlessly. 559 00:26:07,099 --> 00:26:11,970 Bernard arrived in California in 1903 after having 560 00:26:11,971 --> 00:26:15,541 tried his hand in Beaumont, Texas. 561 00:26:15,942 --> 00:26:19,378 But his journey began in an even more remote place. 562 00:26:21,047 --> 00:26:23,481 The passenger list of the ship that brought Bernard 563 00:26:23,482 --> 00:26:27,319 to America indicates that his original name was 564 00:26:27,320 --> 00:26:31,489 Berel Diller and that his previous residence was 565 00:26:31,490 --> 00:26:34,993 a town called Staryi Sambir. 566 00:26:34,994 --> 00:26:39,464 It's located in what was then the Austro-Hungarian Empire, 567 00:26:39,465 --> 00:26:42,301 and is now Ukraine. 568 00:26:43,069 --> 00:26:47,373 And on the left, you could see photos of Staryi Sambir. 569 00:26:47,740 --> 00:26:50,442 Have you ever heard any family stories about this place? 570 00:26:50,443 --> 00:26:52,377 DILLER: Are you crazy? 571 00:26:52,378 --> 00:26:54,579 No. 572 00:26:54,580 --> 00:26:57,816 Well, we're going to take you to Staryi Sambir. 573 00:26:57,817 --> 00:27:00,052 Turn the page. 574 00:27:00,619 --> 00:27:03,121 This is a page from a Polish journal called 575 00:27:03,122 --> 00:27:05,423 "Law and Administration Review." 576 00:27:05,424 --> 00:27:08,827 This entry is dated January 9th, 1897. 577 00:27:08,828 --> 00:27:10,962 Would you please read that transcribed section? 578 00:27:10,963 --> 00:27:14,065 DILLER: How did this, how'd you frigging find this? 579 00:27:14,066 --> 00:27:18,036 "The Imperial and Royal Regional Court of Sambir. 580 00:27:18,037 --> 00:27:21,139 This commercial court announces that a commercial 581 00:27:21,140 --> 00:27:23,742 company by the name of Berel Diller and 582 00:27:23,743 --> 00:27:26,378 Chaim Gartner was entered in the 583 00:27:26,379 --> 00:27:30,181 Commercial Registrar for the enterprise of leasing 584 00:27:30,182 --> 00:27:32,450 an American water mill. 585 00:27:32,451 --> 00:27:35,353 The general members of the company are Berel Diller, 586 00:27:35,354 --> 00:27:38,723 owner of real estate and merchant in Staryi Sambir, 587 00:27:38,724 --> 00:27:41,126 as well as Chaim Gartner, owner of real estate and 588 00:27:41,127 --> 00:27:44,029 merchant in Pianowica." 589 00:27:44,030 --> 00:27:45,563 GATES: That's right. 590 00:27:45,564 --> 00:27:46,865 DILLER: So they were, they were merchants. 591 00:27:46,866 --> 00:27:48,166 GATES: Yes. 592 00:27:48,167 --> 00:27:50,235 Your grandfather was extremely ambitious and 593 00:27:50,236 --> 00:27:54,440 hardworking, willing to roll the dice. 594 00:27:55,374 --> 00:27:57,175 DILLER: Hmm. GATES: Sound familiar? 595 00:27:57,176 --> 00:28:00,646 DILLER: Yeah. 596 00:28:01,480 --> 00:28:04,416 GATES: What do you think Berel would've made of you? 597 00:28:04,417 --> 00:28:08,854 DILLER: Oh, beyond his, I could imagine, imagination. 598 00:28:09,155 --> 00:28:10,889 GATES: Mm-hmm. DILLER: I would think. 599 00:28:10,890 --> 00:28:12,624 GATES: Yeah. He would've been proud. 600 00:28:12,625 --> 00:28:14,359 DILLER: I think he might've been. 601 00:28:14,360 --> 00:28:16,561 GATES: And he would say, "Takes after me." 602 00:28:16,562 --> 00:28:18,497 {\an8}(laughter). 603 00:28:19,198 --> 00:28:23,002 {\an8}We had one more detail to share with Barry. 604 00:28:23,202 --> 00:28:26,404 {\an8}Records from in and around Staryi Sambir document 605 00:28:26,405 --> 00:28:28,707 {\an8}a series of marriages among his relatives. 606 00:28:31,110 --> 00:28:33,511 They allowed us to map his paternal roots in 607 00:28:33,512 --> 00:28:37,916 the region back two more generations, 608 00:28:37,917 --> 00:28:42,187 and to identify four of his great-great-grandparents 609 00:28:42,188 --> 00:28:44,457 by name. 610 00:28:44,857 --> 00:28:48,093 They were all likely born sometime over 200 years ago 611 00:28:48,094 --> 00:28:50,328 in the early 1800s. 612 00:28:50,329 --> 00:28:53,164 DILLER: Huh. GATES: Did you ever imagine... 613 00:28:53,165 --> 00:28:54,466 DILLER: I never. 614 00:28:54,467 --> 00:28:55,834 GATES: ...when you walked through that door... 615 00:28:55,835 --> 00:28:58,203 DILLER: Are you kidding? GATES: We went back to... 616 00:28:58,204 --> 00:28:59,871 DILLER: That's such, I mean, it's just how you could 617 00:28:59,872 --> 00:29:02,240 do this is just... 618 00:29:02,241 --> 00:29:03,942 Oof. 619 00:29:03,943 --> 00:29:07,078 GATES: You have extraordinarily deep roots 620 00:29:07,079 --> 00:29:09,815 in this one particular part of the world. 621 00:29:12,218 --> 00:29:15,587 Is that a grounding feeling? 622 00:29:15,588 --> 00:29:17,822 DILLER: Well, it's revelatory to such 623 00:29:17,823 --> 00:29:21,427 an extent that I can't even grasp it. 624 00:29:21,961 --> 00:29:24,730 GATES: Mm-hmm. 625 00:29:25,097 --> 00:29:30,401 DILLER: I mean, roots to me has been a word 626 00:29:30,402 --> 00:29:34,140 I've only understood definitionally. 627 00:29:34,907 --> 00:29:37,142 To think I actually have roots... 628 00:29:37,143 --> 00:29:38,943 GATES: Mm-hmm. 629 00:29:38,944 --> 00:29:42,148 DILLER: It's an emotional thing. 630 00:29:48,120 --> 00:29:50,421 GATES: We'd already seen how Kate Burton's father, 631 00:29:50,422 --> 00:29:53,224 Richard, escaped the Dickensian world that 632 00:29:53,225 --> 00:29:55,494 had entrapped his ancestors. 633 00:29:56,929 --> 00:29:59,931 Now turning to Kate's mother, Sybil, we found 634 00:29:59,932 --> 00:30:02,935 ourselves back in that same world. 635 00:30:05,671 --> 00:30:10,175 Just like Richard, Sybil was born in South Wales, 636 00:30:10,176 --> 00:30:12,677 the daughter of a coal miner. 637 00:30:12,678 --> 00:30:15,346 And she, too, lost her mother at a young age 638 00:30:15,347 --> 00:30:18,484 and was raised, in part, by an older sister. 639 00:30:20,352 --> 00:30:22,587 Sybil also seems to have shared her husband's 640 00:30:22,588 --> 00:30:25,823 talent for reinvention. 641 00:30:25,824 --> 00:30:28,593 Most notably, when her marriage dissolved, 642 00:30:28,594 --> 00:30:30,962 she moved to New York City, 643 00:30:30,963 --> 00:30:34,465 joined together with friends to open a nightclub, 644 00:30:34,466 --> 00:30:36,936 and started over. 645 00:30:38,637 --> 00:30:42,540 BURTON: My mother had a discotheque. 646 00:30:42,541 --> 00:30:45,710 As one's mom, you know, and oh, and by the way, 647 00:30:45,711 --> 00:30:48,012 was always an incredible mom. 648 00:30:48,013 --> 00:30:49,581 GATES: Uh-huh. 649 00:30:49,582 --> 00:30:52,350 BURTON: And when she was at this club, 650 00:30:52,351 --> 00:30:55,954 she, there was a house band called The Wild Ones. 651 00:30:55,955 --> 00:31:00,626 And she started to date the lead singer. 652 00:31:00,859 --> 00:31:02,427 GATES: Huh. 653 00:31:02,428 --> 00:31:06,130 BURTON: And the band had come over to my house, 654 00:31:06,131 --> 00:31:08,199 and I'd met them, and they were great, you know, 655 00:31:08,200 --> 00:31:10,134 whatever, and I was you know, jus, you know a 656 00:31:10,135 --> 00:31:13,204 very friendly kid. 657 00:31:13,205 --> 00:31:15,607 And then she said to me one day, 658 00:31:15,608 --> 00:31:18,042 "I have met somebody that I want to marry." 659 00:31:18,043 --> 00:31:19,877 I was eight years old. 660 00:31:19,878 --> 00:31:21,346 And I said, "Who is it?" 661 00:31:21,347 --> 00:31:22,680 Thinking, "Oh, no." 662 00:31:22,681 --> 00:31:24,749 Like, "What is she going to say? Some terrible person." 663 00:31:24,750 --> 00:31:27,118 And she said, "Jordan." 664 00:31:27,119 --> 00:31:28,853 GATES: Mm. 665 00:31:28,854 --> 00:31:30,088 BURTON: And I went, "Jordan?" 666 00:31:30,089 --> 00:31:31,456 "From the group?" 667 00:31:31,457 --> 00:31:34,026 And she said, "Yes." And I went, "Great." 668 00:31:35,861 --> 00:31:39,897 GATES: Jordan would become a beloved stepfather to Kate 669 00:31:39,898 --> 00:31:42,901 and help cement her mother's place in America. 670 00:31:44,169 --> 00:31:47,739 But in uprooting her family, Sybil had put an ocean 671 00:31:47,740 --> 00:31:50,875 between herself and her homeland, 672 00:31:50,876 --> 00:31:54,113 and Kate came to me knowing little about her mother's roots. 673 00:31:56,649 --> 00:32:00,151 We set out to change that and soon found ourselves 674 00:32:00,152 --> 00:32:02,820 in the archives of Cilgerran, 675 00:32:02,821 --> 00:32:05,757 the village where Sybil's father was born and 676 00:32:05,758 --> 00:32:08,494 where his family lived for generations. 677 00:32:11,130 --> 00:32:13,464 BURTON: "Marriage solemnized at the parish church 678 00:32:13,465 --> 00:32:17,769 in the parish of Cilgerran, June 20th, 1844, 679 00:32:17,770 --> 00:32:21,306 between David Rees, profession, slater." 680 00:32:21,307 --> 00:32:22,774 GATES: Mm-hmm. 681 00:32:22,775 --> 00:32:24,108 BURTON: "His father's name, John Rees, 682 00:32:24,109 --> 00:32:25,543 profession, slater. 683 00:32:25,544 --> 00:32:28,313 And Sarah Williams, her father's name, 684 00:32:28,314 --> 00:32:31,850 David Williams, profession, laborer." 685 00:32:32,051 --> 00:32:33,618 GATES: That's your great-great-grandparents' 686 00:32:33,619 --> 00:32:35,320 marriage record. 687 00:32:35,321 --> 00:32:36,788 BURTON: Wow. 688 00:32:36,789 --> 00:32:38,122 GATES: It tells us the names of their fathers, 689 00:32:38,123 --> 00:32:40,725 who were therefore your third great-grandfathers. 690 00:32:40,726 --> 00:32:42,560 Your great-great-great grandfathers. 691 00:32:42,561 --> 00:32:43,895 BURTON: Right. 692 00:32:43,896 --> 00:32:45,196 GATES: What's it like to see that? 693 00:32:45,197 --> 00:32:46,397 BURTON: Amazing, it's extraordinary. 694 00:32:46,398 --> 00:32:49,634 I just I can't believe it. 695 00:32:49,635 --> 00:32:52,870 Yeah, no, I, I knew that Cilgerran was a part 696 00:32:52,871 --> 00:32:55,273 of the further back part of... 697 00:32:55,274 --> 00:32:56,507 GATES: Uh-huh. 698 00:32:56,508 --> 00:32:58,009 BURTON: ...Mom's family. GATES: Right. 699 00:32:58,010 --> 00:32:59,377 BURTON: And that's in the west of Wales, I believe. 700 00:32:59,378 --> 00:33:00,712 Yeah. 701 00:33:00,713 --> 00:33:02,680 GATES: Do you know what a slater does? 702 00:33:02,681 --> 00:33:04,649 BURTON: Putting, is it getting slate from 703 00:33:04,650 --> 00:33:06,184 the slate mine? 704 00:33:06,185 --> 00:33:07,418 GATES: Yeah. BURTON: Yeah. 705 00:33:07,419 --> 00:33:08,586 GATES: Or the quarry. BURTON: Yeah, the quarry. 706 00:33:08,587 --> 00:33:09,821 GATES: Cutting stone. BURTON: Yeah, cutting stone. 707 00:33:09,822 --> 00:33:11,022 GATES: Huge industry in Wales at that time. 708 00:33:11,023 --> 00:33:12,156 BURTON: Yeah. 709 00:33:12,157 --> 00:33:13,458 GATES: Sounds better than coal mining. 710 00:33:13,459 --> 00:33:14,726 BURTON: It does sound better, I think you're outside. 711 00:33:14,727 --> 00:33:15,860 GATES: Yeah. BURTON: Yeah. 712 00:33:15,861 --> 00:33:16,928 GATES: Yeah. 713 00:33:16,929 --> 00:33:18,563 (laughing). 714 00:33:18,564 --> 00:33:20,932 Working in a quarry was undoubtedly healthier than 715 00:33:20,933 --> 00:33:24,902 coal mining, and it seems that for a time, 716 00:33:24,903 --> 00:33:26,704 Kate's mother's ancestors fared much 717 00:33:26,705 --> 00:33:29,007 better than her father's. 718 00:33:29,508 --> 00:33:33,077 The 1855 census for Cilgerran shows her 719 00:33:33,078 --> 00:33:37,248 great-great-grandparents, David and Sarah Rees, 720 00:33:37,249 --> 00:33:40,685 living with their three children on High Street, 721 00:33:40,686 --> 00:33:44,656 an address that appears to have been rather picturesque. 722 00:33:47,326 --> 00:33:50,228 You could see photos of the same street on the left, 723 00:33:50,229 --> 00:33:52,029 taken about 55 years later. 724 00:33:52,030 --> 00:33:53,364 BURTON: Mm. 725 00:33:53,365 --> 00:33:54,565 GATES: But there likely was not much difference. 726 00:33:54,566 --> 00:33:56,100 BURTON: I bet there wasn't. 727 00:33:56,101 --> 00:33:57,468 Yeah. 728 00:33:57,469 --> 00:33:58,770 GATES: What's it like to see that? 729 00:33:58,771 --> 00:33:59,871 BURTON: Oh. 730 00:33:59,872 --> 00:34:01,305 GATES: To imagine your ancestors' lives there? 731 00:34:01,306 --> 00:34:03,374 BURTON: Amazing, it's so wonderful. 732 00:34:03,375 --> 00:34:04,876 GATES: Mm. 733 00:34:04,877 --> 00:34:06,310 BURTON: And all the ladies with their little aprons. 734 00:34:06,311 --> 00:34:07,912 I can't believe it. 735 00:34:07,913 --> 00:34:09,046 Oh, my God. 736 00:34:09,047 --> 00:34:10,849 That's amazing. 737 00:34:11,450 --> 00:34:14,852 GATES: Regrettably, David and Sarah's good fortune 738 00:34:14,853 --> 00:34:17,088 wouldn't last. 739 00:34:17,089 --> 00:34:19,991 Quarry work was physically demanding, 740 00:34:19,992 --> 00:34:21,659 and as David aged, 741 00:34:21,660 --> 00:34:24,863 it seems he was no longer up to it. 742 00:34:25,130 --> 00:34:29,300 In 1891, when he was 70 years old, 743 00:34:29,301 --> 00:34:32,538 the census lists him as a general laborer. 744 00:34:33,272 --> 00:34:36,974 And seven years later, we found him and Sarah in the 745 00:34:36,975 --> 00:34:41,480 town of Cardigan in truly dire circumstances. 746 00:34:43,649 --> 00:34:49,021 BURTON: "Date of the order of admission, June 8th, 1898." 747 00:34:49,655 --> 00:34:51,756 GATES: In 1898, David and Sarah were admitted 748 00:34:51,757 --> 00:34:55,893 into the Cardigan Union Workhouse. 749 00:34:55,894 --> 00:34:57,728 BURTON: Wow. 750 00:34:57,729 --> 00:34:59,897 GATES: David was 77, and Sarah was 75. 751 00:34:59,898 --> 00:35:01,499 BURTON: Wow. 752 00:35:01,500 --> 00:35:04,268 GATES: And that's the workhouse over on the left. 753 00:35:04,269 --> 00:35:08,941 BURTON: Oh, my God. My God. 754 00:35:09,408 --> 00:35:10,975 GATES: Mm. 755 00:35:10,976 --> 00:35:12,376 BURTON: Talk about Dickens. 756 00:35:12,377 --> 00:35:14,212 GATES: Yeah. BURTON: Wow. 757 00:35:14,213 --> 00:35:16,681 GATES: That means they were likely destitute. 758 00:35:16,682 --> 00:35:18,349 BURTON: Oh, my goodness. 759 00:35:18,350 --> 00:35:20,318 GATES: Mm. BURTON: Ugh. 760 00:35:20,319 --> 00:35:21,986 That's incredible. 761 00:35:21,987 --> 00:35:23,387 GATES: And you've heard of a workhouse before? 762 00:35:23,388 --> 00:35:24,789 BURTON: Yes, from Dickens. 763 00:35:24,790 --> 00:35:26,324 GATES: Yeah, yeah, me too. BURTON: From Charles Dickens. 764 00:35:26,325 --> 00:35:28,627 {\an8}Wow. 765 00:35:30,629 --> 00:35:32,463 {\an8}GATES: The workhouse system was introduced to 766 00:35:32,464 --> 00:35:35,567 {\an8}Great Britain in the 1830s. 767 00:35:36,635 --> 00:35:40,204 {\an8}By the time Kate's ancestors arrived at Cardigan, 768 00:35:40,205 --> 00:35:43,175 it had evolved to offer a cold bargain. 769 00:35:44,476 --> 00:35:47,545 People who entered were given food and shelter in 770 00:35:47,546 --> 00:35:50,249 exchange for physically demanding labor. 771 00:35:51,750 --> 00:35:55,253 Men broke stones for roads, chopped wood, 772 00:35:55,254 --> 00:35:57,688 and ground corn. 773 00:35:57,689 --> 00:36:00,558 Women did the laundry and the cooking. 774 00:36:00,559 --> 00:36:02,693 BURTON: Mm. 775 00:36:02,694 --> 00:36:04,462 That's really... 776 00:36:04,463 --> 00:36:07,164 GATES: According to scholars with whom we consulted, 777 00:36:07,165 --> 00:36:10,034 since they went in together, they probably could not 778 00:36:10,035 --> 00:36:12,036 survive outside on their own. 779 00:36:12,037 --> 00:36:14,071 BURTON: Mm. Yeah, yeah. 780 00:36:14,072 --> 00:36:16,641 Oh, God. 781 00:36:16,642 --> 00:36:18,175 GATES: So let's see what... 782 00:36:18,176 --> 00:36:19,710 BURTON: That's real bad. 783 00:36:19,711 --> 00:36:21,145 GATES: ...happened in the workhouse. 784 00:36:21,146 --> 00:36:22,413 BURTON: Okay. 785 00:36:22,414 --> 00:36:23,814 GATES: This is another record from the workhouse. 786 00:36:23,815 --> 00:36:25,149 BURTON: Oh, my God. 787 00:36:25,150 --> 00:36:26,584 GATES: It's dated July 1st, 1898, less 788 00:36:26,585 --> 00:36:27,952 than a month after your ancestors were admitted. 789 00:36:27,953 --> 00:36:29,453 Would you please read that transcribed section? 790 00:36:29,454 --> 00:36:30,655 BURTON: Mm. 791 00:36:30,656 --> 00:36:31,856 "Discharge book. 792 00:36:31,857 --> 00:36:33,324 Date, July 1st, 1898. 793 00:36:33,325 --> 00:36:34,592 Name, Sarah Rees. 794 00:36:34,593 --> 00:36:36,093 How discharged, sent to asylum." 795 00:36:36,094 --> 00:36:38,062 GATES: Mm. BURTON: Oh, gosh. 796 00:36:38,063 --> 00:36:39,230 I never knew about this, 797 00:36:39,231 --> 00:36:42,167 and I don't think Mom did either. 798 00:36:43,235 --> 00:36:45,570 GATES: According to this record, 799 00:36:45,571 --> 00:36:48,039 Sarah was transferred from the workhouse to 800 00:36:48,040 --> 00:36:51,009 what we now call a psychiatric hospital. 801 00:36:52,010 --> 00:36:55,246 We believe she may have been suffering from dementia, 802 00:36:55,247 --> 00:36:57,449 but we can't be certain. 803 00:36:58,984 --> 00:37:03,655 All we know is that her condition did not improve. 804 00:37:06,825 --> 00:37:08,359 BURTON: Wow. 805 00:37:08,360 --> 00:37:10,061 GATES: Would you please read the transcribed section? 806 00:37:10,062 --> 00:37:12,897 BURTON: "When and where died, 9th December, 1898, 807 00:37:12,898 --> 00:37:15,266 lunatic asylum, Carmarthen. 808 00:37:15,267 --> 00:37:17,335 Sarah Rees, 75 years. 809 00:37:17,336 --> 00:37:21,106 Cause of death, chronic cerebral atrophy of some years." 810 00:37:21,406 --> 00:37:22,773 GATES: Mm. 811 00:37:22,774 --> 00:37:27,545 BURTON: Oh, so for yeah, so yeah, later that year. 812 00:37:27,546 --> 00:37:30,214 GATES: Yep, chronic cerebral atrophy causes 813 00:37:30,215 --> 00:37:32,183 the brain to shrink faster... 814 00:37:32,184 --> 00:37:33,684 BURTON: Mm. 815 00:37:33,685 --> 00:37:35,252 GATES: ...than what's typical with aging. 816 00:37:35,253 --> 00:37:36,754 BURTON: Mm. 817 00:37:36,755 --> 00:37:38,122 GATES: And it's a symptom of stroke or... 818 00:37:38,123 --> 00:37:39,423 BURTON: Oh. 819 00:37:39,424 --> 00:37:40,858 GATES: ...traumatic brain injury and dementia. 820 00:37:40,859 --> 00:37:42,493 BURTON: Yeah, and of course, they didn't have, 821 00:37:42,494 --> 00:37:43,995 they knew so little. 822 00:37:43,996 --> 00:37:45,262 GATES: Yeah. 823 00:37:45,263 --> 00:37:46,964 BURTON: You know, they don't know how to treat anything. 824 00:37:46,965 --> 00:37:49,067 That's incredible. 825 00:37:49,835 --> 00:37:52,470 GATES: When Sarah was sent to the asylum, 826 00:37:52,471 --> 00:37:53,871 her husband, David, 827 00:37:53,872 --> 00:37:56,440 remained behind in the workhouse, 828 00:37:56,441 --> 00:37:58,744 without any family to care for him. 829 00:38:02,614 --> 00:38:04,582 His death certificate indicates that he died 830 00:38:04,583 --> 00:38:09,021 just three years later at the age of 81. 831 00:38:13,392 --> 00:38:15,292 BURTON: That's just so heartbreaking. 832 00:38:15,293 --> 00:38:16,594 GATES: Mm. 833 00:38:16,595 --> 00:38:18,162 BURTON: It is really heartbreaking to read. 834 00:38:18,163 --> 00:38:19,463 Yeah. 835 00:38:19,464 --> 00:38:20,665 GATES: What do you think your mom would've made of 836 00:38:20,666 --> 00:38:22,366 all of this? 837 00:38:22,367 --> 00:38:23,701 BURTON: I think it would have, 838 00:38:23,702 --> 00:38:25,136 I think it would have been hard for her to hear. 839 00:38:25,137 --> 00:38:26,604 GATES: Oh, yeah. 840 00:38:26,605 --> 00:38:27,905 BURTON: I mean, I do think the one thing that 841 00:38:27,906 --> 00:38:31,976 I can say about both my parents is that they 842 00:38:31,977 --> 00:38:35,846 really experienced people stepping up 843 00:38:35,847 --> 00:38:37,481 when, when loss happened. 844 00:38:37,482 --> 00:38:38,849 GATES: Mm-hmm. 845 00:38:38,850 --> 00:38:40,651 BURTON: There was always, in, in, in those, 846 00:38:40,652 --> 00:38:42,219 you know, for both their communities and 847 00:38:42,220 --> 00:38:45,122 their families, their, their unit families, 848 00:38:45,123 --> 00:38:46,557 that people stepped up. 849 00:38:46,558 --> 00:38:47,925 GATES: Mm-hmm. 850 00:38:47,926 --> 00:38:49,293 BURTON: Whereas clearly in this situation, 851 00:38:49,294 --> 00:38:50,528 that did not happen. 852 00:38:50,529 --> 00:38:51,796 GATES: No. 853 00:38:51,797 --> 00:38:53,064 BURTON: And I think it would've been hard for 854 00:38:53,065 --> 00:38:54,532 my mom to hear this. 855 00:38:54,533 --> 00:38:55,933 GATES: Mm. 856 00:38:55,934 --> 00:38:57,535 BURTON: But my mother also had a magnificent 857 00:38:57,536 --> 00:38:59,236 ability to compartmentalize. 858 00:38:59,237 --> 00:39:00,905 And I mean that in the best way. 859 00:39:00,906 --> 00:39:02,373 GATES: Yeah. 860 00:39:02,374 --> 00:39:06,477 BURTON: You know she was able to focus forward. 861 00:39:06,478 --> 00:39:08,079 She was always about moving forward. 862 00:39:08,080 --> 00:39:09,547 She did talk about the past. 863 00:39:09,548 --> 00:39:11,782 She did talk about her childhood, 864 00:39:11,783 --> 00:39:14,085 which she considered to be, with all the loss, 865 00:39:14,086 --> 00:39:15,553 a very happy childhood. 866 00:39:15,554 --> 00:39:16,887 GATES: Mm. 867 00:39:16,888 --> 00:39:18,622 BURTON: She considered... she loved her community. 868 00:39:18,623 --> 00:39:21,625 She adored, you know, the stories she told, 869 00:39:21,626 --> 00:39:24,562 always about her growing-up years, 870 00:39:24,563 --> 00:39:26,931 always had great humor and love, and how... 871 00:39:26,932 --> 00:39:28,299 GATES: Well, let me ask you about that, 872 00:39:28,300 --> 00:39:29,767 because someone else would've been marked and damaged, 873 00:39:29,768 --> 00:39:30,901 and "Life cheated me." 874 00:39:30,902 --> 00:39:32,069 BURTON: Yeah. 875 00:39:32,070 --> 00:39:33,270 GATES: "My mother was taken away at 10." 876 00:39:33,271 --> 00:39:34,605 BURTON: Mm. GATES: What is... 877 00:39:34,606 --> 00:39:35,973 BURTON: She did not have that attitude. 878 00:39:35,974 --> 00:39:37,441 GATES: Yeah. BURTON: She did not. 879 00:39:37,442 --> 00:39:38,676 She never did. 880 00:39:38,677 --> 00:39:41,912 She always had, you know, truly, the, and this was her, 881 00:39:41,913 --> 00:39:43,514 her great friend, who's a beautiful actress, 882 00:39:43,515 --> 00:39:45,483 Millie Perkins, always used to send the 883 00:39:45,484 --> 00:39:46,917 most wonderful cards, and one of them, 884 00:39:46,918 --> 00:39:48,152 and Mom had it framed, 885 00:39:48,153 --> 00:39:49,587 said, "Bloom where you're planted." 886 00:39:49,588 --> 00:39:52,022 And I remember that was the first time I'd ever heard that, 887 00:39:52,023 --> 00:39:53,624 and that was Mom's attitude. 888 00:39:53,625 --> 00:39:55,025 GATES: Mm-hmm. 889 00:39:55,026 --> 00:39:58,295 BURTON: She had a capability to bloom 890 00:39:58,296 --> 00:40:00,132 where she was planted. 891 00:40:03,368 --> 00:40:06,070 GATES: Turning back to Barry Diller, 892 00:40:06,071 --> 00:40:10,074 we shifted from his father's family to his mother's, 893 00:40:10,075 --> 00:40:12,444 and confronted a mystery. 894 00:40:13,845 --> 00:40:16,447 Barry told me that his mother struggled with 895 00:40:16,448 --> 00:40:19,551 migraine headaches and repressed emotions, 896 00:40:20,485 --> 00:40:22,954 and Barry thought he knew why. 897 00:40:23,955 --> 00:40:26,724 During her childhood, she had spent several years 898 00:40:26,725 --> 00:40:30,861 at an orphanage following the death of her father, 899 00:40:30,862 --> 00:40:34,966 Barry's grandfather, a man named Harry Addison. 900 00:40:36,368 --> 00:40:39,538 But that's where the mystery began. 901 00:40:39,738 --> 00:40:41,806 Barry had been told that Harry died in 902 00:40:41,807 --> 00:40:44,708 a streetcar accident. 903 00:40:44,709 --> 00:40:48,079 Yet newspapers from the time tell a different story. 904 00:40:51,383 --> 00:40:53,117 DILLER: "Harry Addison, age 32, 905 00:40:53,118 --> 00:40:54,585 Boston Elevated conductor, 906 00:40:54,586 --> 00:40:56,487 committed suicide late this 907 00:40:56,488 --> 00:41:00,057 afternoon at his home by shooting himself. 908 00:41:00,058 --> 00:41:02,393 Addison was employed by the street railway company 909 00:41:02,394 --> 00:41:05,796 for nearly five years, and he had been away sick 910 00:41:05,797 --> 00:41:10,568 for a fortnight, and his fellow employees believe 911 00:41:10,569 --> 00:41:12,838 his sickness had made him despondent." 912 00:41:15,207 --> 00:41:21,313 Pfft, well, I'm shocked. 913 00:41:22,047 --> 00:41:27,251 I don't know what I am, but that my mother never 914 00:41:27,252 --> 00:41:32,190 discussed this, and I presume, 915 00:41:32,624 --> 00:41:35,794 although we don't know, maybe she didn't know. 916 00:41:36,127 --> 00:41:37,561 She was only three. 917 00:41:37,562 --> 00:41:39,096 GATES: She was only three. 918 00:41:39,097 --> 00:41:44,169 DILLER: But suicide in my family, 919 00:41:44,703 --> 00:41:46,738 would've never dreamt it. 920 00:41:47,472 --> 00:41:50,407 GATES: We don't know what drove Barry's grandfather 921 00:41:50,408 --> 00:41:54,378 to take his own life, but it's easy to understand 922 00:41:54,379 --> 00:41:56,947 why it was kept a secret, 923 00:41:56,948 --> 00:41:59,517 especially given what happened next. 924 00:42:02,387 --> 00:42:05,055 Harry's death left his wife, Dora, 925 00:42:05,056 --> 00:42:07,859 in an extremely vulnerable position. 926 00:42:08,727 --> 00:42:11,095 With three young children to raise, 927 00:42:11,096 --> 00:42:16,700 including an infant, she soon moved from Massachusetts to 928 00:42:16,701 --> 00:42:22,239 San Francisco, and there, according to Barry's relatives, 929 00:42:22,240 --> 00:42:25,043 Dora did something unimaginable. 930 00:42:26,578 --> 00:42:29,980 She put her children in an orphanage so that she 931 00:42:29,981 --> 00:42:32,918 could marry a wealthy man. 932 00:42:33,852 --> 00:42:37,488 It sounded like one of Grimm's Fairy Tales, 933 00:42:37,489 --> 00:42:39,757 but like some family stories, 934 00:42:39,758 --> 00:42:42,494 it did contain an element of truth. 935 00:42:45,463 --> 00:42:49,034 DILLER: "Pacific Hebrew Orphan Asylum." 936 00:42:49,567 --> 00:42:54,072 Oh my God. Date of admission, December 12th, 1914. 937 00:42:55,807 --> 00:42:58,175 GATES: Mm-hmm. 938 00:42:58,176 --> 00:43:00,077 DILLER: A few months later. GATES: A few months later. 939 00:43:00,078 --> 00:43:05,050 He died September 18th, and this is a few months later. 940 00:43:05,550 --> 00:43:08,353 DILLER: Where is this? GATES: It's San Francisco. 941 00:43:08,620 --> 00:43:10,487 DILLER: So she goes to San Francisco and immediately 942 00:43:10,488 --> 00:43:12,189 puts her children in. 943 00:43:12,190 --> 00:43:15,693 GATES: In under three months, your mother lost her father, 944 00:43:15,694 --> 00:43:17,928 was moved all the way across the country, 945 00:43:17,929 --> 00:43:20,130 3,000 miles, and was admitted to 946 00:43:20,131 --> 00:43:23,601 an orphanage under the care of total strangers. 947 00:43:24,736 --> 00:43:28,039 Now, think about that trauma. 948 00:43:29,140 --> 00:43:32,010 DILLER: Geez. Yeah. 949 00:43:32,210 --> 00:43:34,244 GATES: Horrible. I mean, poor kid. 950 00:43:34,245 --> 00:43:37,348 DILLER: That she even survived, I mean, yeah, okay. 951 00:43:37,349 --> 00:43:39,350 GATES: Yeah. DILLER: Migraines, for sure. 952 00:43:39,351 --> 00:43:42,586 GATES: Yeah, did your mom ever talk about... 953 00:43:42,587 --> 00:43:45,522 DILLER: She never talked ever, once, ever, 954 00:43:45,523 --> 00:43:47,291 about her years in the orphanage. 955 00:43:47,292 --> 00:43:48,792 GATES: Mm. 956 00:43:48,793 --> 00:43:50,194 DILLER: Ever. 957 00:43:50,195 --> 00:43:52,364 Ever. 958 00:43:53,365 --> 00:43:55,833 GATES: Barry's mother may not have discussed it, 959 00:43:55,834 --> 00:43:58,837 but she spent over a decade in the orphanage. 960 00:44:00,205 --> 00:44:02,373 And combing through its archives, 961 00:44:02,374 --> 00:44:05,175 we were able to give Barry a glimpse 962 00:44:05,176 --> 00:44:08,179 of those crucial years in her life. 963 00:44:08,646 --> 00:44:10,647 What's it like to see that? 964 00:44:10,648 --> 00:44:15,853 DILLER: I can only conjure up what abandonment must've 965 00:44:15,854 --> 00:44:17,488 been like. 966 00:44:17,489 --> 00:44:19,089 GATES: Mm-hmm. 967 00:44:19,090 --> 00:44:20,924 DILLER: And even if these were... 968 00:44:20,925 --> 00:44:23,260 I see this picture, it looks... 969 00:44:23,261 --> 00:44:25,829 So it's not the picture I had in mind of what the 970 00:44:25,830 --> 00:44:27,131 orphanage looked like. 971 00:44:27,132 --> 00:44:28,465 I had in mind... 972 00:44:28,466 --> 00:44:30,634 GATES: Right. DILLER: ...some prison... 973 00:44:30,635 --> 00:44:32,136 GATES: Yeah. 974 00:44:32,137 --> 00:44:34,471 DILLER: ...with an ogre at the top. 975 00:44:34,472 --> 00:44:36,940 GATES: Mm-hmm. 976 00:44:36,941 --> 00:44:40,778 DILLER: But I, I, I can't, I don't know... 977 00:44:40,779 --> 00:44:42,446 GATES: Mm. DILLER: ...what she must... 978 00:44:42,447 --> 00:44:44,882 I know it, I know in some respects, 979 00:44:44,883 --> 00:44:46,683 it severely damaged her. 980 00:44:46,684 --> 00:44:48,152 GATES: Mm-hmm. DILLER: That, I know. 981 00:44:48,153 --> 00:44:49,319 GATES: Mm. 982 00:44:49,320 --> 00:44:51,256 DILLER: I don't know anything more than that. 983 00:44:51,623 --> 00:44:54,258 GATES: Trying to add to Barry's knowledge, 984 00:44:54,259 --> 00:44:56,528 we soon noticed something surprising. 985 00:44:59,431 --> 00:45:01,498 Records at the orphanage didn't match what Barry 986 00:45:01,499 --> 00:45:04,436 had been told about his grandmother, Dora. 987 00:45:05,937 --> 00:45:09,406 Instead, they show that Dora did not initially put 988 00:45:09,407 --> 00:45:12,377 all three of her children in the orphanage. 989 00:45:13,344 --> 00:45:16,214 She kept the infant at home with her. 990 00:45:17,015 --> 00:45:19,883 What's more, it seems that Dora did not marry 991 00:45:19,884 --> 00:45:22,553 a wealthy man. 992 00:45:22,554 --> 00:45:25,090 Quite the contrary. 993 00:45:25,723 --> 00:45:28,992 DILLER: Dora Addison, maiden name Falk. 994 00:45:28,993 --> 00:45:32,596 Address of guardian or parent, unknown. 995 00:45:32,597 --> 00:45:35,633 Unable to support except herself and infant. 996 00:45:35,834 --> 00:45:37,668 GATES: And then above, unable to support... 997 00:45:37,669 --> 00:45:39,336 DILLER: Yes, it says McAllister Street. 998 00:45:39,337 --> 00:45:41,138 GATES: But it's struck out. 999 00:45:41,139 --> 00:45:42,573 DILLER: Why? 1000 00:45:42,574 --> 00:45:45,375 GATES: In 1914, when your mother was in the orphanage, 1001 00:45:45,376 --> 00:45:48,278 her mother was also living in San Francisco, 1002 00:45:48,279 --> 00:45:50,447 and this record gives us a clue about what 1003 00:45:50,448 --> 00:45:52,716 she was going through. 1004 00:45:52,717 --> 00:45:55,886 Can you read for me again the remarks in the document? 1005 00:45:55,887 --> 00:45:57,287 What does it say? 1006 00:45:57,288 --> 00:45:59,556 DILLER: Unable to support except herself and infant. 1007 00:45:59,557 --> 00:46:01,058 GATES: So you see, she wasn't married to 1008 00:46:01,059 --> 00:46:02,526 this other guy. 1009 00:46:02,527 --> 00:46:03,994 According to the orphanage, 1010 00:46:03,995 --> 00:46:06,096 Dora was struggling financially, 1011 00:46:06,097 --> 00:46:08,465 desperately, and she was only able to 1012 00:46:08,466 --> 00:46:10,367 take care of herself and that infant, 1013 00:46:10,368 --> 00:46:13,604 your 11-month-old Uncle Irving. 1014 00:46:13,605 --> 00:46:16,808 DILLER: Hmm, is all I got to say. 1015 00:46:17,642 --> 00:46:20,677 And... wait, why are they crossed out? 1016 00:46:20,678 --> 00:46:22,379 GATES: Because she was moving from place to place. 1017 00:46:22,380 --> 00:46:24,548 She was transient. 1018 00:46:24,549 --> 00:46:28,986 She was so poor that she was bouncing around 1019 00:46:28,987 --> 00:46:31,555 residences in San Francisco. 1020 00:46:31,556 --> 00:46:33,257 DILLER: Hmm. 1021 00:46:33,258 --> 00:46:34,558 GATES: That changes the picture quite a lot, 1022 00:46:34,559 --> 00:46:35,926 doesn't it? 1023 00:46:35,927 --> 00:46:37,427 DILLER: It does, it gives me some sympathy 1024 00:46:37,428 --> 00:46:38,929 that I never had. 1025 00:46:38,930 --> 00:46:40,397 GATES: Mm. 1026 00:46:40,398 --> 00:46:42,599 DILLER: Because I had believed that she was 1027 00:46:42,600 --> 00:46:47,070 placed at the orphanage because her, her, her 1028 00:46:47,071 --> 00:46:53,211 mother's new husband of wealth didn't want her. 1029 00:46:53,645 --> 00:46:55,479 GATES: Right. 1030 00:46:55,480 --> 00:46:58,415 DILLER: But that does not seem to be true. 1031 00:46:58,416 --> 00:47:01,351 GATES: That never happened. 1032 00:47:01,352 --> 00:47:03,187 DILLER: Okay. 1033 00:47:03,188 --> 00:47:04,855 GATES: In fact, quite the opposite. 1034 00:47:04,856 --> 00:47:07,090 She was struggling just to feed the little baby. 1035 00:47:07,091 --> 00:47:10,862 {\an8}DILLER: Amazing. 1036 00:47:12,897 --> 00:47:14,898 {\an8}GATES: We don't know how this story became 1037 00:47:14,899 --> 00:47:18,503 {\an8}so distorted, but we do know how it ends. 1038 00:47:20,772 --> 00:47:22,639 The 1930 census for 1039 00:47:22,640 --> 00:47:25,442 San Francisco shows Barry's mother, 1040 00:47:25,443 --> 00:47:29,847 at age 19, living in an apartment with her mother. 1041 00:47:31,149 --> 00:47:34,017 So it seems the two were able to reunite, 1042 00:47:34,018 --> 00:47:36,987 at least for a time, 1043 00:47:36,988 --> 00:47:40,190 leaving Barry to contemplate an entirely 1044 00:47:40,191 --> 00:47:42,927 new picture of his mother's childhood. 1045 00:47:45,697 --> 00:47:47,831 DILLER: First of all, it ruins a narrative story 1046 00:47:47,832 --> 00:47:49,399 that I've had for so long... 1047 00:47:49,400 --> 00:47:50,934 GATES: Right. 1048 00:47:50,935 --> 00:47:52,336 DILLER: ...which is such a cracking good, 1049 00:47:52,337 --> 00:47:56,241 terrible story, that I'm reluctant to give it up. 1050 00:47:57,242 --> 00:47:58,642 GATES: Well, because... DILLER: But. 1051 00:47:58,643 --> 00:48:00,077 GATES: ...it neatly explained the world. 1052 00:48:00,078 --> 00:48:01,378 Everything was compartmentalized, 1053 00:48:01,379 --> 00:48:03,547 and you could, and it had bad people. 1054 00:48:03,548 --> 00:48:05,215 DILLER: It had so much sympathy for my 1055 00:48:05,216 --> 00:48:06,917 mother's situation. 1056 00:48:06,918 --> 00:48:08,452 GATES: Not that being in an orphanage is not 1057 00:48:08,453 --> 00:48:12,055 sympathetic on its own, but it's completely 1058 00:48:12,056 --> 00:48:16,260 different than what I thought, what I have, 1059 00:48:16,261 --> 00:48:19,631 what I believed happened. 1060 00:48:19,864 --> 00:48:22,133 It's so starkly different. 1061 00:48:22,333 --> 00:48:24,234 GATES: Everything that you believed was wrong. 1062 00:48:24,235 --> 00:48:25,335 DILLER: Yeah. 1063 00:48:25,336 --> 00:48:28,372 But especially that she did not put my mother in 1064 00:48:28,373 --> 00:48:32,409 an orphanage while she was grandly living in 1065 00:48:32,410 --> 00:48:35,345 some penthouse in San Francisco. 1066 00:48:35,346 --> 00:48:37,347 GATES: No, far from it. 1067 00:48:37,348 --> 00:48:40,217 She might've been cleaning a penthouse in San Francisco, 1068 00:48:40,218 --> 00:48:41,652 but she was not... 1069 00:48:41,653 --> 00:48:43,020 DILLER: Ah. 1070 00:48:43,021 --> 00:48:44,254 GATES: ...sleeping with the owner of the, 1071 00:48:44,255 --> 00:48:45,789 the apartment. 1072 00:48:45,790 --> 00:48:47,958 DILLER: Wow. GATES: What do you make... 1073 00:48:47,959 --> 00:48:50,060 DILLER: Oh ha-ha, what do I make? 1074 00:48:50,061 --> 00:48:51,695 I can't. 1075 00:48:51,696 --> 00:48:53,030 I can only hear it. 1076 00:48:53,031 --> 00:48:54,431 I can't make of it yet. 1077 00:48:54,432 --> 00:48:57,134 It's just, listen, you know of the things, 1078 00:48:57,135 --> 00:48:59,970 I've lived longer than you, but I mean you know of the 1079 00:48:59,971 --> 00:49:04,007 things that are, you think are truths that turn out 1080 00:49:04,008 --> 00:49:05,809 to be giant myths. 1081 00:49:05,810 --> 00:49:07,444 GATES: Right. 1082 00:49:07,445 --> 00:49:09,279 DILLER: And they're just, they've been part of the 1083 00:49:09,280 --> 00:49:13,517 fabric of my understanding for... 1084 00:49:13,518 --> 00:49:15,752 GATES: Myths that we ordered our lives by. 1085 00:49:15,753 --> 00:49:17,154 DILLER: Yeah. 1086 00:49:17,155 --> 00:49:18,588 GATES: What do you think your mother would've made 1087 00:49:18,589 --> 00:49:20,424 of all of this? 1088 00:49:20,425 --> 00:49:22,893 DILLER: Well, we don't know what she knew. 1089 00:49:22,894 --> 00:49:24,494 GATES: Right. 1090 00:49:24,495 --> 00:49:26,430 DILLER: I think if she didn't know, 1091 00:49:26,431 --> 00:49:29,533 it would have an incredible impact on her. 1092 00:49:29,534 --> 00:49:32,936 If she did know, 1093 00:49:32,937 --> 00:49:37,641 and I suspect she must have known, 1094 00:49:37,642 --> 00:49:40,977 if she did know, then it connects to 1095 00:49:40,978 --> 00:49:47,284 the repression and uh, of her life 1096 00:49:47,285 --> 00:49:50,520 and why, and it uh, 1097 00:49:50,521 --> 00:49:54,624 the compartmentalization of her life. 1098 00:49:54,625 --> 00:49:57,895 It explains it either way. 1099 00:49:58,396 --> 00:50:00,163 GATES: The paper trail had now run out for each 1100 00:50:00,164 --> 00:50:02,566 of my guests. 1101 00:50:02,567 --> 00:50:04,167 BURTON: Oh, my goodness. 1102 00:50:04,168 --> 00:50:07,705 GATES: It was time to show them their full family trees. 1103 00:50:07,939 --> 00:50:11,609 BURTON: Oh, this is amazing. DILLER: This is fantastic. 1104 00:50:12,076 --> 00:50:14,712 I'm going to be poring over this one. 1105 00:50:15,079 --> 00:50:16,947 GATES: And see what DNA could tell us about their 1106 00:50:16,948 --> 00:50:19,283 deeper roots. 1107 00:50:20,251 --> 00:50:24,554 For Kate, her admixture reveals that 98% of her 1108 00:50:24,555 --> 00:50:28,992 DNA comes from Wales, and when we mapped her 1109 00:50:28,993 --> 00:50:32,496 ancestral towns, we saw them all clustered 1110 00:50:32,497 --> 00:50:34,898 in the same place. 1111 00:50:34,899 --> 00:50:36,533 BURTON: Oh my God, it's magnificent. 1112 00:50:36,534 --> 00:50:38,568 GATES: Your DNA is spread all over South Wales. 1113 00:50:38,569 --> 00:50:39,903 BURTON: All over South Wales. 1114 00:50:39,904 --> 00:50:41,171 That's it. 1115 00:50:41,172 --> 00:50:42,506 That's so fantastic. 1116 00:50:42,507 --> 00:50:44,909 How great. Beautiful. 1117 00:50:45,109 --> 00:50:47,744 GATES: We almost never have guests who are so 1118 00:50:47,745 --> 00:50:51,249 exclusively tied to such a small area. 1119 00:50:52,617 --> 00:50:55,886 And it brought Kate's thoughts back to her parents, 1120 00:50:55,887 --> 00:50:58,855 who kept Wales in their hearts even as 1121 00:50:58,856 --> 00:51:01,058 they left it behind. 1122 00:51:01,692 --> 00:51:05,162 BURTON: My mother and my father both absolutely 1123 00:51:05,163 --> 00:51:07,364 felt so connected to their homeland. 1124 00:51:07,365 --> 00:51:08,832 GATES: Mm. BURTON: And I do, too. 1125 00:51:08,833 --> 00:51:11,235 GATES: Yeah? BURTON: Yeah, it's beautiful. 1126 00:51:12,303 --> 00:51:14,371 GATES: Barry's DNA would reveal a connection of a 1127 00:51:14,372 --> 00:51:16,941 very different kind. 1128 00:51:17,241 --> 00:51:19,142 When we compared his genetic profile to that 1129 00:51:19,143 --> 00:51:21,812 of others who've been in the series, 1130 00:51:21,813 --> 00:51:24,347 we found a match, 1131 00:51:24,348 --> 00:51:28,653 evidence of a distant relative he never knew he had. 1132 00:51:30,254 --> 00:51:32,923 Please turn the page and meet your DNA cousin. 1133 00:51:32,924 --> 00:51:34,758 DILLER: No. 1134 00:51:34,759 --> 00:51:36,193 Sheryl Sandberg? 1135 00:51:36,194 --> 00:51:38,996 GATES: Sheryl Sandberg is your DNA cousin. 1136 00:51:39,564 --> 00:51:43,868 (laughing). 1137 00:51:44,435 --> 00:51:47,404 Barry shares identical segments of DNA on five 1138 00:51:47,405 --> 00:51:50,807 separate chromosomes with his friend and 1139 00:51:50,808 --> 00:51:53,544 {\an8}fellow business leader, Sheryl Sandberg. 1140 00:51:54,912 --> 00:51:56,681 {\an8}DILLER: I can't wait to tell her. 1141 00:51:57,482 --> 00:51:59,283 {\an8}GATES: So if we had an ideal family tree for 1142 00:52:00,084 --> 00:52:01,718 {\an8}Sheryl and an ideal family tree for you... 1143 00:52:01,719 --> 00:52:02,886 {\an8}DILLER: Somewhere up there. 1144 00:52:02,887 --> 00:52:04,287 {\an8}GATES: ...going back far, somebody would be, 1145 00:52:04,288 --> 00:52:05,922 {\an8}at least one person would be the same. 1146 00:52:05,923 --> 00:52:07,891 {\an8}DILLER: Wow, that's great. 1147 00:52:07,892 --> 00:52:10,227 {\an8}That's the end of our journey with Kate Burton 1148 00:52:10,228 --> 00:52:12,028 {\an8}and Barry Diller. 1149 00:52:12,029 --> 00:52:15,031 {\an8}Join me next time when we unlock the secrets of the 1150 00:52:15,032 --> 00:52:19,636 {\an8}past for new guests on another episode of 1151 00:52:19,637 --> 00:52:21,472 {\an8}"Finding Your Roots."