1 00:00:05,380 --> 00:00:07,674 Previously, on Married to Medicine. 2 00:00:07,757 --> 00:00:09,759 - I think Eugene may be right. - What? 3 00:00:09,801 --> 00:00:12,220 When he said Botox can only be done by pretty people. 4 00:00:12,262 --> 00:00:13,805 [laughter] 5 00:00:13,930 --> 00:00:15,557 - We bought a building. - A building. 6 00:00:15,640 --> 00:00:16,975 A building. 7 00:00:17,100 --> 00:00:19,102 We had to just cash out 401Ks and everything. 8 00:00:19,185 --> 00:00:21,396 Everything cost money. Every single thing. 9 00:00:21,479 --> 00:00:22,939 - It isn't right. - Yeah. 10 00:00:22,981 --> 00:00:25,275 I basically am working like two full-time jobs. 11 00:00:26,192 --> 00:00:28,194 You can't keep no secrets from me. 12 00:00:28,278 --> 00:00:31,781 If I had to learn about my son being arrested on social media, 13 00:00:31,906 --> 00:00:33,408 what else is out there? 14 00:00:34,492 --> 00:00:37,787 Hey Toya, leave my ----ing kids name out of your mouth! 15 00:00:37,871 --> 00:00:40,040 How could we leave your kids out of our mouths 16 00:00:40,123 --> 00:00:42,584 when you dog our whole ----ing family? 17 00:00:42,751 --> 00:00:45,587 I know a lot about your family I've never said, Toya. 18 00:00:45,670 --> 00:00:47,172 I got a lot of secrets on her ass 19 00:00:47,255 --> 00:00:49,841 and you don't want me to drop them. I got some doozies. 20 00:00:49,924 --> 00:00:52,010 That bitch making me act crazy. 21 00:00:52,135 --> 00:00:53,303 Right, so stop it. 22 00:00:53,386 --> 00:00:55,096 [theme music] 23 00:01:15,075 --> 00:01:16,993 Am I gonna get some grandkids? 24 00:01:17,035 --> 00:01:19,162 To be honest, I don't want you to get this the wrong way, 25 00:01:19,245 --> 00:01:21,247 but like, I like a lot of girls. 26 00:01:21,790 --> 00:01:23,124 You know? 27 00:01:23,208 --> 00:01:25,001 No. 28 00:01:25,460 --> 00:01:27,295 Get you one good one, like your momma. 29 00:01:27,379 --> 00:01:28,755 [bell dings] 30 00:01:31,466 --> 00:01:33,551 Did you pick up your iron tablets? 31 00:01:33,635 --> 00:01:34,719 I did, yesterday. 32 00:01:34,803 --> 00:01:36,429 Okay, start taking those. 33 00:01:36,471 --> 00:01:37,722 They do tend to constipate you. 34 00:01:37,806 --> 00:01:39,349 Mm-hmm. 35 00:01:39,391 --> 00:01:41,142 Um, you'll be full of sh--, but don't worry about that. 36 00:01:41,184 --> 00:01:42,602 [laughter] 37 00:01:44,729 --> 00:01:45,772 You see these lips. 38 00:01:45,855 --> 00:01:47,190 He's gonna be excited too. 39 00:01:47,315 --> 00:01:48,692 He's gonna be like, okay. 40 00:01:48,775 --> 00:01:50,151 What'd he say last week? 41 00:01:50,276 --> 00:01:52,404 He asked when I can use them. 42 00:01:52,529 --> 00:01:54,197 - When you can use them? - Mm-hmm. 43 00:01:54,322 --> 00:01:56,116 And what did you say, did you follow your post instructions? 44 00:01:56,157 --> 00:01:57,867 I did. I told him you have to wait. 45 00:01:57,951 --> 00:02:00,829 Alright. Don't be messing up my work, now. 46 00:02:10,463 --> 00:02:12,173 [funky music] 47 00:02:24,519 --> 00:02:25,895 Hey, girl, hey! 48 00:02:25,979 --> 00:02:27,731 Ah, ah, wait a minute. 49 00:02:27,856 --> 00:02:29,983 You like it? You know we '70s babies, baby. 50 00:02:30,108 --> 00:02:32,277 We are, but we ain't gotta tell nobody. 51 00:02:32,402 --> 00:02:33,903 - Yes, we do. - Cause we don't look it. 52 00:02:33,945 --> 00:02:36,031 Yes, well we, we are re-defining what it looks like. 53 00:02:36,156 --> 00:02:37,574 This hair is everything. 54 00:02:37,615 --> 00:02:39,909 Is that everything? I'm telling you, look, let's do it. 55 00:02:39,993 --> 00:02:41,661 - I love it. - So first and foremost, 56 00:02:41,745 --> 00:02:43,955 I'm thinking either a red carpet or should I do a purple carpet? 57 00:02:44,998 --> 00:02:47,167 Um, back in the day, they didn't do a carpet, 58 00:02:47,250 --> 00:02:48,418 they did a soul train line. 59 00:02:48,501 --> 00:02:49,753 But yeah, but no, no. 60 00:02:49,836 --> 00:02:52,130 At Player's Ball, they had a carpet, baby. 61 00:02:52,172 --> 00:02:53,840 Look at this beautiful space. 62 00:02:53,965 --> 00:02:56,509 Hello, ladies, how are you? 63 00:02:56,551 --> 00:02:58,386 Hello! Good to see you again. 64 00:02:58,470 --> 00:03:01,264 This is the last year of my 40s. 65 00:03:01,348 --> 00:03:04,100 I'm a '70s baby, so I really wanna do a '70s party, 66 00:03:04,225 --> 00:03:06,269 and I chose the theme, "Player's Ball." 67 00:03:06,394 --> 00:03:09,481 - You remember the movie Casino? - Yes. 68 00:03:09,564 --> 00:03:10,899 Okay. Remember it was set in the '70s? 69 00:03:10,982 --> 00:03:12,067 Yes. 70 00:03:12,150 --> 00:03:13,610 So this is kind of like a hybrid of that. 71 00:03:13,693 --> 00:03:15,528 I want it to be lots of activities. 72 00:03:15,695 --> 00:03:18,323 I want people to come in in their '70s best. 73 00:03:18,406 --> 00:03:21,242 Their furs and their suits and their amazing clothes. 74 00:03:21,326 --> 00:03:23,244 Let's just have a good time. 75 00:03:23,370 --> 00:03:24,454 That's really what it's about. 76 00:03:24,579 --> 00:03:27,916 I just want this to be an opportunity 77 00:03:28,041 --> 00:03:29,167 for us to just have fun. 78 00:03:29,209 --> 00:03:30,627 Like I said in my invitation. 79 00:03:30,710 --> 00:03:34,547 You been invited to Dr. Contessa's Player's Ball. 80 00:03:34,631 --> 00:03:36,591 [laughter] 81 00:03:36,716 --> 00:03:38,051 This is so cute. 82 00:03:38,134 --> 00:03:39,427 This is going to be my first 83 00:03:39,511 --> 00:03:40,679 birthday party ever. 84 00:03:40,762 --> 00:03:42,180 Throwing it for yourself? 85 00:03:42,263 --> 00:03:44,599 I waited almost 50 years to throw myself a party. 86 00:03:44,766 --> 00:03:47,477 Or have someone throw me a party and it didn't happen. 87 00:03:48,395 --> 00:03:50,355 I don't know if I should be sad or happy. 88 00:03:50,438 --> 00:03:55,318 These husbands definitely need to do more, excluding Eugene. 89 00:03:55,402 --> 00:03:59,948 So what I'm thinking, is we have a super long runway 90 00:04:00,031 --> 00:04:02,492 and the dance floor will be here. 91 00:04:02,534 --> 00:04:04,285 Right here in the middle and the stage will be there. 92 00:04:04,411 --> 00:04:07,038 Would that be like 150-200 people? 93 00:04:07,080 --> 00:04:09,416 Four decades of life, so 200. 94 00:04:09,541 --> 00:04:12,961 I would love to stay, like, under $40,000, though. 95 00:04:15,422 --> 00:04:17,090 What? That's your budget? 96 00:04:17,173 --> 00:04:19,634 - That's too little? - That's too high. 97 00:04:19,801 --> 00:04:22,804 I think Contessa needs to take the 40K and finish her 98 00:04:22,887 --> 00:04:24,389 office that she's working on, okay? 99 00:04:24,472 --> 00:04:26,599 It's my party and I can do what I wanna do. 100 00:04:26,725 --> 00:04:28,018 I ain't gotta answer to you. 101 00:04:28,143 --> 00:04:30,103 I think this is gonna be great, 102 00:04:30,228 --> 00:04:32,105 but I don't want you having drama at your party. 103 00:04:32,188 --> 00:04:34,566 Like it should be positive energy. 104 00:04:34,649 --> 00:04:36,443 Oh, I agree. I feel like the outfits 105 00:04:36,526 --> 00:04:37,736 would make people have positive energy. 106 00:04:37,861 --> 00:04:39,195 - That's not true. 107 00:04:39,279 --> 00:04:40,488 [laughs] 108 00:04:40,530 --> 00:04:42,032 You have very low expectations of others. 109 00:04:42,115 --> 00:04:43,491 What group of friends are you talking about? 110 00:04:43,533 --> 00:04:44,909 So you're not inviting our current group? 111 00:04:44,993 --> 00:04:46,244 I'm inviting everybody. 112 00:04:46,327 --> 00:04:49,289 Last time I saw Heavenly, she was crazy, okay? 113 00:04:49,372 --> 00:04:52,167 Let's talk about the stuff that you bring to the table. 114 00:04:52,334 --> 00:04:55,003 I know a lot about your family I've never said, Toya. 115 00:04:55,128 --> 00:04:56,880 Hope her energy is good. 116 00:04:56,963 --> 00:05:00,717 Because that energy that she had the other day, it was stank. 117 00:05:00,759 --> 00:05:03,053 I wanna think that our group is gonna be able to put 118 00:05:03,136 --> 00:05:05,638 all their differences aside to celebrate me, 119 00:05:05,764 --> 00:05:07,974 for the one time in my life I've asked them to do that. 120 00:05:08,058 --> 00:05:10,393 - No resting bitch faces. - Exactly, that's so annoying. 121 00:05:10,477 --> 00:05:12,270 Don't come in critiquing everything. 122 00:05:12,354 --> 00:05:15,190 Yeah, just come here to have a good time. It's gonna be so fun. 123 00:05:15,273 --> 00:05:16,816 Thank you so much for helping me. 124 00:05:16,900 --> 00:05:18,735 You just gave me a moment, I just thought back like... 125 00:05:18,818 --> 00:05:20,111 wasn't everybody high back then? 126 00:05:20,153 --> 00:05:21,404 They were. [laughter] 127 00:05:21,488 --> 00:05:23,490 [upbeat music] 128 00:05:27,619 --> 00:05:29,662 - What's up? - What's happening? 129 00:05:29,746 --> 00:05:31,373 What, you down getting something to eat? 130 00:05:31,414 --> 00:05:32,290 Yep. 131 00:05:32,457 --> 00:05:34,084 As long as you don't eat my food. 132 00:05:34,167 --> 00:05:35,377 I won't eat your food anyway. 133 00:05:35,460 --> 00:05:37,337 But you do it all the time. 134 00:05:38,546 --> 00:05:40,006 What you got to say about that? 135 00:05:41,132 --> 00:05:43,176 Absolutely nothing. 136 00:05:43,259 --> 00:05:44,719 [laughing] 137 00:05:44,761 --> 00:05:46,596 Why? Because you do eat my food all the time. 138 00:05:47,555 --> 00:05:49,808 Well, this is the thing with the leftovers. 139 00:05:49,933 --> 00:05:51,976 Don't wanna assume, like, oh, there's the refrigerator, 140 00:05:52,060 --> 00:05:54,270 this my girl and everything is ours. 141 00:05:54,437 --> 00:05:55,605 I'm eating your leftovers. 142 00:05:55,730 --> 00:05:57,273 Then what am I gonna eat? 143 00:05:57,315 --> 00:05:59,067 I don't wanna have a whole hour conversation about food. 144 00:05:59,150 --> 00:06:00,527 It's you that's talking about it! 145 00:06:00,610 --> 00:06:03,238 Guess what? I have a healthy appetite. 146 00:06:03,363 --> 00:06:05,323 You want it 15 times a day? Feed me. 147 00:06:06,157 --> 00:06:07,867 Well, he just shut my damn mouth. 148 00:06:07,951 --> 00:06:09,536 [laughter] 149 00:06:09,661 --> 00:06:11,413 I think you need to just take your shot, 150 00:06:11,496 --> 00:06:13,331 because your hormones are already like... 151 00:06:13,832 --> 00:06:16,418 Does the shot make me have like mood swings, like rage? 152 00:06:16,501 --> 00:06:17,627 Yes. 153 00:06:17,711 --> 00:06:20,171 No, not rage. I find myself crying a lot. 154 00:06:20,255 --> 00:06:22,716 [crying] I have tried with you. 155 00:06:22,799 --> 00:06:24,884 I don't even know what is the problem? 156 00:06:24,968 --> 00:06:26,553 That's not me being enraged. 157 00:06:26,594 --> 00:06:28,763 King and I are trying to get pregnant. 158 00:06:28,805 --> 00:06:32,142 Any chance there's gonna be a baby Quad coming? 159 00:06:32,183 --> 00:06:33,143 We're hoping. 160 00:06:33,226 --> 00:06:35,103 You talked about IVF, any updates? 161 00:06:35,186 --> 00:06:37,397 Yes. I am in the process, for sure. 162 00:06:37,522 --> 00:06:39,482 We have a friend who basically got pregnant at 46 163 00:06:39,524 --> 00:06:40,817 with triplets. 164 00:06:40,900 --> 00:06:42,402 And I said, "Wait a minute, where's this doctor?" 165 00:06:42,569 --> 00:06:44,863 And she's like, oh, this doctor is in Ghana. 166 00:06:44,946 --> 00:06:48,950 When I heard that, I just felt like this is where I need to be. 167 00:06:49,075 --> 00:06:50,744 I appreciate your grace in this. 168 00:06:50,910 --> 00:06:52,203 Okay. 169 00:06:52,287 --> 00:06:53,621 And your understanding. 170 00:06:53,663 --> 00:06:56,750 Jackie had agreed to be my doctor state side. 171 00:06:56,833 --> 00:07:00,211 She is responsible for all of my lab tracings. 172 00:07:00,295 --> 00:07:02,130 I have nothing but good news for you. 173 00:07:02,172 --> 00:07:04,341 Your pap is normal, mammogram is normal, 174 00:07:04,424 --> 00:07:05,800 all your tests have been normal. 175 00:07:05,884 --> 00:07:07,844 We've now had two egg retrievals. 176 00:07:07,927 --> 00:07:10,472 Alright, I'm just checking in. 177 00:07:10,597 --> 00:07:14,392 I'm getting ready for my surgery 178 00:07:14,476 --> 00:07:16,269 to have the eggs removed. 179 00:07:16,353 --> 00:07:18,188 I pray that all goes well. 180 00:07:18,271 --> 00:07:20,982 I spent my whole life trying to dodge this bullet. 181 00:07:21,066 --> 00:07:23,526 It's not a bullet. It's a blessing. 182 00:07:23,651 --> 00:07:25,362 It's a blessing... in disguise. 183 00:07:25,445 --> 00:07:27,906 I'll just be happy if we can just get another, 184 00:07:27,989 --> 00:07:29,908 what do you think, like four? How about you? 185 00:07:29,991 --> 00:07:31,368 - Six. - Six? 186 00:07:31,451 --> 00:07:32,911 So I don't have to go through this again. 187 00:07:32,994 --> 00:07:34,537 I don't want to either. 188 00:07:34,662 --> 00:07:35,663 You think I wanna stick myself? 189 00:07:35,747 --> 00:07:37,207 I'm dreading going back there now. 190 00:07:37,248 --> 00:07:39,417 You finish your food, I'm gonna go ahead and go back here 191 00:07:39,501 --> 00:07:40,752 and get prepping. 192 00:07:40,877 --> 00:07:42,420 Get your shot going so I can get ready 193 00:07:42,504 --> 00:07:44,214 for this next 24 hours of hell. 194 00:07:44,839 --> 00:07:48,301 Sticking yourself a couple of times a day, every single day, 195 00:07:48,385 --> 00:07:50,345 it's exhausting and tiring. 196 00:07:50,428 --> 00:07:52,931 But despite all the side effects, 197 00:07:53,014 --> 00:07:56,434 it still will be well worth it to me to become a mom. 198 00:07:56,518 --> 00:08:00,188 Big bad tough Miss Quad is scared of a little needle. 199 00:08:00,313 --> 00:08:01,815 I'm not scared of the needle. 200 00:08:01,898 --> 00:08:03,900 I just don't like other people doing it. 201 00:08:03,983 --> 00:08:06,277 If we get the results that we're seeking, 202 00:08:06,319 --> 00:08:07,779 it'll definitely be worth it. 203 00:08:07,862 --> 00:08:11,282 If not... I coulda bought another car. 204 00:08:12,033 --> 00:08:13,618 Let me smell your breath. 205 00:08:14,619 --> 00:08:16,121 It smells like fish! 206 00:08:16,162 --> 00:08:17,747 Go brush your teeth for real. 207 00:08:17,831 --> 00:08:19,749 Babe, you're knocking me out. 208 00:08:19,791 --> 00:08:21,459 Cause you got a problem, you're projecting it on me. 209 00:08:21,543 --> 00:08:22,752 [exhales sharply] 210 00:08:22,836 --> 00:08:23,878 You better stop. 211 00:08:23,920 --> 00:08:26,172 [laughter] 212 00:08:26,297 --> 00:08:28,383 I need CPR. 213 00:08:28,967 --> 00:08:30,176 Toya: Coming up. 214 00:08:30,301 --> 00:08:32,429 You did good on this party. 215 00:08:32,512 --> 00:08:35,181 I love all the parties that you men throw. 216 00:08:35,807 --> 00:08:37,600 Look at how sexist y'all are 217 00:08:37,642 --> 00:08:39,519 because even in the midst of the party that I threw 218 00:08:39,602 --> 00:08:41,896 for my goddamn self, y'all are talking to me about my husband. 219 00:08:45,859 --> 00:08:49,237 [upbeat music] 220 00:08:51,156 --> 00:08:52,824 Hey birthday, girl. 221 00:08:52,866 --> 00:08:54,993 - Ma'am. - Perfect timing. 222 00:08:55,076 --> 00:08:58,413 Ma'am. I dressed to work. 223 00:08:58,455 --> 00:09:00,749 Making me look bad, working in an evening gown. 224 00:09:00,790 --> 00:09:02,417 Lemme tell you why. I said let me get myself... 225 00:09:02,542 --> 00:09:04,085 like maybe get into the party mode. 226 00:09:04,210 --> 00:09:05,795 And then the universe will feel it. 227 00:09:05,920 --> 00:09:07,797 - You know what I'm saying? - I love that, you're fabulous. 228 00:09:07,839 --> 00:09:10,508 Today is the day! It's my birthday party! 229 00:09:10,592 --> 00:09:12,052 - Where are we going? - Right in here. 230 00:09:12,093 --> 00:09:13,511 - Right here? To the left? - Yes. 231 00:09:13,595 --> 00:09:15,430 I have been working my ass off. 232 00:09:15,555 --> 00:09:17,849 - This is so pretty! - Isn't this fabulous? 233 00:09:17,891 --> 00:09:20,435 [upbeat music] 234 00:09:20,810 --> 00:09:22,354 So good! 235 00:09:22,437 --> 00:09:25,273 Yeah, baby! Is that fire? 236 00:09:25,398 --> 00:09:27,734 - No, this is beautiful. - She is so awesome. 237 00:09:27,776 --> 00:09:30,737 - You are so awesome. - You did a good job. 238 00:09:30,779 --> 00:09:34,115 Do you see the record? It has my name on it! 239 00:09:34,157 --> 00:09:35,241 What?! 240 00:09:35,325 --> 00:09:37,660 It would be so great if Scott was like, 241 00:09:37,744 --> 00:09:38,912 "What can I do to help?" 242 00:09:39,037 --> 00:09:40,872 It just doesn't connect for him that way. 243 00:09:40,997 --> 00:09:43,124 Hey, I do need help. 244 00:09:43,208 --> 00:09:45,210 Didn't you say you was bringing home ice cream? 245 00:09:45,835 --> 00:09:48,171 He's a smart guy. He's book smart. 246 00:09:48,296 --> 00:09:50,256 He ain't got no common sense, but he book smart. 247 00:09:50,382 --> 00:09:52,092 I'm just playing. [laughter] 248 00:09:52,133 --> 00:09:53,677 Can I give you one piece of advice? 249 00:09:53,760 --> 00:09:54,636 Please. 250 00:09:54,678 --> 00:09:55,637 Cause how long you been married? 251 00:09:55,762 --> 00:09:56,513 10 years. 252 00:09:56,596 --> 00:09:58,056 Don't ever say, "I got this." 253 00:09:58,139 --> 00:10:00,517 Like, no you don't have to, that's too much. 254 00:10:00,642 --> 00:10:02,769 Because once you do that, you kind of create this like, 255 00:10:02,811 --> 00:10:04,062 oh, okay. 256 00:10:04,145 --> 00:10:05,146 Alright, I'm gonna talk to Scott. 257 00:10:05,188 --> 00:10:06,606 I'll be like, alright, Scott. 258 00:10:06,690 --> 00:10:08,483 You gonna have to step up your underwear, huh? 259 00:10:08,566 --> 00:10:10,151 Cause they say panties for girls, so step your drawers up. 260 00:10:10,276 --> 00:10:11,945 Imma tell him. 261 00:10:12,737 --> 00:10:16,741 [upbeat music] 262 00:10:18,993 --> 00:10:20,370 Are you excited about the party? 263 00:10:20,453 --> 00:10:22,997 I am, girl, but I don't know what to expect. 264 00:10:23,123 --> 00:10:25,959 Well, just expect the unexpected, because... 265 00:10:26,001 --> 00:10:27,293 [laughter] 266 00:10:27,377 --> 00:10:29,254 Did you grow up in the '70s? 267 00:10:29,963 --> 00:10:31,214 - No. - Oh, okay. 268 00:10:31,339 --> 00:10:32,590 [laughter] 269 00:10:32,632 --> 00:10:34,467 [upbeat music] 270 00:10:36,177 --> 00:10:37,470 Bringing it all together. 271 00:10:37,595 --> 00:10:38,805 Okay, so you got bell bottoms. 272 00:10:38,888 --> 00:10:41,391 Yes, honey, boom, boom, boom. Look at my shoes. 273 00:10:41,516 --> 00:10:43,852 It looks like we were back in the '70s, right? 274 00:10:43,935 --> 00:10:45,770 No. Jimmy Choo? No, baby. 275 00:10:45,812 --> 00:10:47,814 I like the way people dressed in the '70s, 276 00:10:47,856 --> 00:10:50,233 I think that they should bring the '70s fashion back. 277 00:10:50,316 --> 00:10:52,110 The platform shoe, the makeup, 278 00:10:52,193 --> 00:10:53,987 the Afrocentricity of it all. 279 00:10:54,112 --> 00:10:57,198 Now, I was young in the '70s, 280 00:10:57,282 --> 00:11:00,410 but I do recall it was free love, honey. 281 00:11:00,452 --> 00:11:02,954 We were very free sexually back in the day, 282 00:11:03,038 --> 00:11:06,583 but so was herpes and hepatitis, so, you know. 283 00:11:06,666 --> 00:11:07,834 We paid for the freedom. 284 00:11:07,917 --> 00:11:09,961 I got a waist trainer just in case, baby. 285 00:11:10,086 --> 00:11:11,504 Okay, look at that. 286 00:11:11,629 --> 00:11:13,214 All I need... this what you doing? 287 00:11:13,256 --> 00:11:15,091 That's cute. 288 00:11:15,175 --> 00:11:17,344 [upbeat music] 289 00:11:31,316 --> 00:11:34,861 Ooh, alright. Sookie Sookie, now. 290 00:11:35,987 --> 00:11:39,324 When I think of the '70s, I think of disco, 291 00:11:39,449 --> 00:11:42,410 with a little bump action. 292 00:11:43,870 --> 00:11:46,247 Well, you got the hoes tonight, Curtis, you ready? 293 00:11:46,373 --> 00:11:47,832 Let's go get it. 294 00:11:49,292 --> 00:11:51,336 That afro, I do not miss that. 295 00:11:51,461 --> 00:11:53,129 I'm glad that era is gone. 296 00:11:53,213 --> 00:11:55,924 [upbeat music] 297 00:11:57,884 --> 00:12:00,553 This looks beautiful. Look at that. 298 00:12:07,977 --> 00:12:09,646 [laughs] 299 00:12:09,771 --> 00:12:12,440 Back in the '70s, people wore a lot of sequins. 300 00:12:12,524 --> 00:12:14,484 They was wearing the shades. 301 00:12:14,609 --> 00:12:19,489 The '70s for me was baby food, diapers, daycare. 302 00:12:19,614 --> 00:12:20,824 Huh? What? 303 00:12:20,907 --> 00:12:22,659 The '70s. I was born in 1977. 304 00:12:22,784 --> 00:12:24,369 - I was a child. - Oh. 305 00:12:24,411 --> 00:12:27,288 [upbeat music] 306 00:12:29,749 --> 00:12:32,711 Thank you, honey. Give me a little bit more, how about that? 307 00:12:33,294 --> 00:12:36,006 [camera clicking] 308 00:12:36,131 --> 00:12:38,842 When I think about the '70s... a lot of drugs. 309 00:12:38,967 --> 00:12:40,427 Oh, whoa! 310 00:12:40,552 --> 00:12:42,762 Hey, that's what you see on YouTube. 311 00:12:42,846 --> 00:12:44,472 Hi! 312 00:12:44,556 --> 00:12:46,474 [upbeat music] 313 00:12:46,558 --> 00:12:48,435 [camera clicking] 314 00:12:48,560 --> 00:12:51,563 I really like the '70s style. 315 00:12:51,646 --> 00:12:53,565 My Go-go boots. 316 00:12:53,690 --> 00:12:56,609 My wig was wigging. 317 00:12:56,693 --> 00:12:58,570 Don't be scared to touch me. [laughing] 318 00:12:58,653 --> 00:13:00,447 Hey, you know my reputation, now. 319 00:13:00,530 --> 00:13:02,741 [laughing] 320 00:13:04,576 --> 00:13:07,370 I grew up during the '70s, but I was young. 321 00:13:07,495 --> 00:13:10,123 I wasn't, you know, I wasn't out on the dating scene yet. 322 00:13:10,248 --> 00:13:13,418 I'm not that old. Talk to Curtis. 323 00:13:20,925 --> 00:13:22,177 Where your hands at? 324 00:13:23,261 --> 00:13:26,264 [music abruptly stops] 325 00:13:27,849 --> 00:13:31,061 [crowd chatter] 326 00:13:31,144 --> 00:13:33,271 You know, it's my fault. 327 00:13:33,396 --> 00:13:35,523 I shoulda got him a pimp outfit, but I felt like, you know what? 328 00:13:35,648 --> 00:13:37,525 - He pimp enough for me. - I wouldn't have worn that. 329 00:13:37,650 --> 00:13:39,319 Pimpin'! 330 00:13:39,402 --> 00:13:41,237 This is about as pimpin' as I'm gonna get. 331 00:13:41,363 --> 00:13:43,323 I like your shirt. 332 00:13:43,406 --> 00:13:45,617 It's a costume party, dude. 333 00:13:45,700 --> 00:13:47,160 Like you just don't get it, do you? 334 00:13:47,243 --> 00:13:48,536 [screaming] 335 00:13:57,253 --> 00:14:01,883 Hard 12, hard 8, hard 6, all on. 336 00:14:01,966 --> 00:14:03,802 Oh, you gambling, gambling. 337 00:14:05,011 --> 00:14:06,429 I used to, I don't gamble no more, 338 00:14:06,513 --> 00:14:08,056 I gave it up a long time ago. 339 00:14:08,181 --> 00:14:10,266 - You gave it up to the Lord. - To the Lord. 340 00:14:10,350 --> 00:14:12,018 I spoke to Contessa. Do you know how much she spent? 341 00:14:12,102 --> 00:14:13,311 No. 342 00:14:13,353 --> 00:14:15,230 - 40 grand. - That's a lot. 343 00:14:15,355 --> 00:14:16,773 Yeah. 344 00:14:16,815 --> 00:14:18,900 If this is the first time she's throwing a party... 345 00:14:18,983 --> 00:14:20,735 Everybody keep saying that. 346 00:14:20,819 --> 00:14:22,821 Just cause it's your first party, you gotta spend 40 grand. 347 00:14:22,946 --> 00:14:26,032 $40,000 where? Where is it? 348 00:14:26,157 --> 00:14:27,784 But I ain't spending 40 grand. 349 00:14:27,909 --> 00:14:31,287 When my son's about to graduate in two, three years. No. 350 00:14:31,371 --> 00:14:33,289 I didn't spend it on Michael, but I sure... 351 00:14:33,331 --> 00:14:36,376 Miles and Michael, I sure spend five on their party. 352 00:14:36,418 --> 00:14:37,544 I could see five. 353 00:14:37,669 --> 00:14:39,629 The most Simone has ever spent on a party 354 00:14:39,713 --> 00:14:41,631 is $5,000, baby. 355 00:14:41,756 --> 00:14:45,385 Miles and Michael's graduation. Won't need no damn balloons. 356 00:14:45,510 --> 00:14:47,512 Won't need no step and repeat, 357 00:14:47,637 --> 00:14:49,681 Won't need no photographer, 358 00:14:49,806 --> 00:14:51,266 won't need all that. 359 00:14:51,307 --> 00:14:53,101 When she told me earlier, I said, girl, you realise 360 00:14:53,143 --> 00:14:54,477 you could've had a little wedding? 361 00:14:54,602 --> 00:14:56,771 My wedding was $75,000. 362 00:14:57,814 --> 00:14:59,190 Yeah. - In what year? 363 00:15:02,193 --> 00:15:04,279 Shut your mouth. [laughter] 364 00:15:05,947 --> 00:15:07,741 Nice, Foxy Brown. 365 00:15:07,782 --> 00:15:09,951 Right here, guys. 366 00:15:11,578 --> 00:15:13,038 Goddess. Ladies. 367 00:15:15,457 --> 00:15:17,375 Okay, we're ready? Y'all ready? 368 00:15:17,500 --> 00:15:20,795 Relax, babe, we're here to be enjoying ourselves. Just relax. 369 00:15:20,879 --> 00:15:22,464 I got your back. 370 00:15:22,547 --> 00:15:25,675 Don't you dare be trying to take no credit for anything. 371 00:15:25,759 --> 00:15:27,635 Scott did not plan this party. 372 00:15:27,719 --> 00:15:29,929 We're gonna have fun. 373 00:15:29,971 --> 00:15:32,640 This player knows what she likes and she knows what she wants. 374 00:15:32,724 --> 00:15:34,768 - Don't be copping out. - And everything that I do, 375 00:15:34,893 --> 00:15:37,270 she gonna reject. Okay? So, boom! 376 00:15:37,354 --> 00:15:40,440 Hello, hello, party people in the place to be. 377 00:15:40,482 --> 00:15:42,233 Can I have your attention please? 378 00:15:42,359 --> 00:15:44,652 All you pimps and players in here, 379 00:15:44,778 --> 00:15:46,988 I want you to make a lot of noise 380 00:15:47,030 --> 00:15:48,698 and give a round of applause to... 381 00:15:48,823 --> 00:15:52,660 my homegirl, Contessa. Make some noise for Contessa. 382 00:15:52,744 --> 00:15:54,037 [upbeat music] 383 00:15:54,162 --> 00:15:56,456 [cheering] 384 00:15:59,668 --> 00:16:00,919 Go, girl! 385 00:16:04,339 --> 00:16:07,300 [camera clicking] 386 00:16:07,384 --> 00:16:09,469 Hello, everybody! Hey, guys! 387 00:16:09,594 --> 00:16:12,847 Oh, my God, you look amazing! 388 00:16:12,889 --> 00:16:14,808 - Thank you, thank you. - You're as pretty as can be. 389 00:16:14,891 --> 00:16:16,559 - Happy birthday. - You're almost as pretty as me. 390 00:16:16,685 --> 00:16:17,894 Thank you. 391 00:16:17,977 --> 00:16:19,521 My party today is the party of my dreams. 392 00:16:19,604 --> 00:16:21,064 Hey! 393 00:16:21,189 --> 00:16:24,275 But the price of this party was definitely a bit excessive. 394 00:16:24,317 --> 00:16:26,986 [upbeat music] 395 00:16:27,487 --> 00:16:28,947 Look at you gorgeous. 396 00:16:29,030 --> 00:16:30,782 Could've cut the cake price in half, 397 00:16:30,824 --> 00:16:32,742 could've cut the food budget in half. 398 00:16:32,784 --> 00:16:34,285 And we would've had it in my living room. 399 00:16:34,411 --> 00:16:35,829 Y'all look amazing. 400 00:16:35,954 --> 00:16:37,580 Maybe the best thing for you to have done 401 00:16:37,706 --> 00:16:38,790 is to stay out of my way. 402 00:16:38,873 --> 00:16:40,166 That's right. I believe-- 403 00:16:40,250 --> 00:16:41,835 It turned out exactly the way I wanted it. 404 00:16:41,876 --> 00:16:43,086 I believe that. 405 00:16:43,169 --> 00:16:46,172 [upbeat music] 406 00:16:49,467 --> 00:16:51,845 You made your entrance by your damn self. 407 00:16:51,928 --> 00:16:54,472 Yeah, my whole family came here! I love you! 408 00:16:56,182 --> 00:16:58,601 We dancin'. Come on, come on. 409 00:16:58,727 --> 00:17:00,854 I haven't seen you since I started letting my hair 410 00:17:00,895 --> 00:17:01,771 grow out. 411 00:17:01,896 --> 00:17:04,107 What's happenin'? 412 00:17:04,190 --> 00:17:06,067 You looking good, Scott. 413 00:17:13,158 --> 00:17:16,786 Boy, bye. You know you had nothing to do with this party. 414 00:17:16,911 --> 00:17:18,872 [laughing] 415 00:17:18,955 --> 00:17:21,249 I think that was shade. That was a little shade. 416 00:17:21,291 --> 00:17:22,667 They're trying. They're trying. They're trying. 417 00:17:22,709 --> 00:17:26,921 No, no. I love all the parties that you men throw. 418 00:17:26,963 --> 00:17:28,173 Shade. 419 00:17:28,256 --> 00:17:30,091 Cause all we gotta do is cut a check. 420 00:17:30,967 --> 00:17:32,093 Coming up. 421 00:17:32,218 --> 00:17:34,763 You ----ing complain all the ----ing time 422 00:17:34,846 --> 00:17:35,889 about your husband! 423 00:17:36,014 --> 00:17:37,515 What kind of friends focus on the negative? 424 00:17:37,557 --> 00:17:38,433 These, bitch! 425 00:17:38,558 --> 00:17:40,060 Ooh, okay, girl. 426 00:17:44,356 --> 00:17:46,941 [upbeat music] 427 00:17:56,493 --> 00:17:58,453 I think that was shade. That was a little shade. 428 00:17:58,536 --> 00:18:00,121 They're trying. They're trying. They're trying. 429 00:18:00,246 --> 00:18:04,125 No, no. All... I love all the parties that you men throw. 430 00:18:04,250 --> 00:18:05,377 Shade. 431 00:18:05,460 --> 00:18:07,379 Cause all you gotta do is cut a check. 432 00:18:07,462 --> 00:18:09,964 I went and picked up the cupcakes today, goddamn it. 433 00:18:10,507 --> 00:18:12,050 [laughter] 434 00:18:12,133 --> 00:18:15,970 Do you think I care what these heckling hens are saying 435 00:18:16,096 --> 00:18:19,391 about me not throwing a party for my wife? 436 00:18:19,474 --> 00:18:20,642 [laughter] No. 437 00:18:20,767 --> 00:18:24,562 [upbeat music] 438 00:18:29,818 --> 00:18:31,653 This era here, got [bleep] up. 439 00:18:31,736 --> 00:18:33,363 Yeah, really [bleep] up. 440 00:18:33,405 --> 00:18:36,825 Bend down, when we bent over for our men, right? 441 00:18:39,369 --> 00:18:41,663 - We'd bend over backwards. - Oh, okay. 442 00:18:41,705 --> 00:18:42,997 [laughing] 443 00:18:43,123 --> 00:18:46,459 There's a reason why people of my age can keep a man 444 00:18:46,501 --> 00:18:48,294 and the younger people cannot. 445 00:18:48,336 --> 00:18:49,713 They don't wanna do that no more. 446 00:18:49,796 --> 00:18:51,673 These young girls, they don't wanna do that. 447 00:18:51,715 --> 00:18:54,718 You know Heavenly ain't cooking every meal for her man 448 00:18:54,843 --> 00:18:57,929 nor is she bringing Damon's slippers to sit... 449 00:18:57,971 --> 00:19:00,140 Girl, get you a life. 450 00:19:00,181 --> 00:19:02,559 But I'd bend over backwards for mine. 451 00:19:02,642 --> 00:19:04,185 [sipping] 452 00:19:04,269 --> 00:19:06,312 If he was a good man, I ain't got no problem with that. 453 00:19:06,438 --> 00:19:08,398 Bend it over, buss it open wide. 454 00:19:08,440 --> 00:19:09,941 [upbeat music] 455 00:19:10,483 --> 00:19:12,277 I'll go talk on the mic and bring you out. 456 00:19:12,318 --> 00:19:15,113 I have two outfits, and if I'm gonna change, 457 00:19:15,238 --> 00:19:16,614 he needs to change into something else. 458 00:19:16,656 --> 00:19:18,783 Hello! 459 00:19:18,867 --> 00:19:20,535 What's happening? You changed clothes? 460 00:19:20,618 --> 00:19:23,455 Just once, just once. Just a little something situation. 461 00:19:23,580 --> 00:19:26,541 - My gift to you. - Boy... stop. 462 00:19:26,624 --> 00:19:27,917 Little something, little something. 463 00:19:28,001 --> 00:19:30,378 Gene, how you been, man? - I'm good. I'm good. 464 00:19:30,420 --> 00:19:32,088 We missed you at the thing the other night. 465 00:19:32,213 --> 00:19:33,381 Yeah, I-- 466 00:19:33,465 --> 00:19:34,674 You working out of town and stuff? 467 00:19:34,758 --> 00:19:36,176 Yeah. I've been, I've been working out of town. 468 00:19:36,217 --> 00:19:38,178 I go out of town, I work and then I come back. 469 00:19:38,261 --> 00:19:39,721 I just got back yesterday. 470 00:19:39,804 --> 00:19:41,681 I'm working at five different hospitals right now. 471 00:19:41,723 --> 00:19:43,600 They're all at least two hours away, 472 00:19:43,683 --> 00:19:46,936 but every hospital, the nurses after the first day are like, 473 00:19:46,978 --> 00:19:48,646 "Can you work here all the time?" 474 00:19:51,649 --> 00:19:53,401 Wait, wait, only the nurses? What about the patients? 475 00:19:53,526 --> 00:19:55,445 - No, the-- - Only the nurses are saying? 476 00:19:55,570 --> 00:19:56,988 I wanna see the nurses. 477 00:19:57,739 --> 00:19:59,783 I just wanna see the nurses, man. 478 00:19:59,908 --> 00:20:02,202 You wanna confirm this? 479 00:20:02,327 --> 00:20:04,329 You feeding into that bull. 480 00:20:04,412 --> 00:20:06,331 Some of these nurses are actually men. 481 00:20:06,456 --> 00:20:07,999 Are they? - Yes. 482 00:20:08,083 --> 00:20:09,668 What his name? - Alright. Paul. 483 00:20:09,751 --> 00:20:11,169 So then Paul went up to you and said, 484 00:20:11,211 --> 00:20:12,754 - "Man, I want you to stay." - Yes. 485 00:20:12,837 --> 00:20:17,092 Nurses know how you behave and who they wanna work with. 486 00:20:18,176 --> 00:20:19,678 Cool guy. He actually knows Curtis. 487 00:20:19,761 --> 00:20:21,137 - Okay. - So there's proof. 488 00:20:21,221 --> 00:20:22,389 Mm-hm. 489 00:20:22,472 --> 00:20:24,349 Everybody, eyes over here. 490 00:20:24,391 --> 00:20:26,559 Well everybody, I'd like to thank every... 491 00:20:26,643 --> 00:20:28,978 each and every one of you for coming out tonight. 492 00:20:29,104 --> 00:20:30,188 Scott is talking. 493 00:20:30,271 --> 00:20:32,148 I don't know if she's told you guys, 494 00:20:32,232 --> 00:20:34,359 but this is her first major birthday party 495 00:20:34,484 --> 00:20:35,902 in her whole life. 496 00:20:35,985 --> 00:20:37,153 [cheering] 497 00:20:37,278 --> 00:20:39,698 And I also will tell you that she did a lot 498 00:20:39,739 --> 00:20:41,199 to get this party going. 499 00:20:41,282 --> 00:20:43,952 She said she did a lot. She did everything, she said. 500 00:20:44,077 --> 00:20:45,704 She's a strong force in our household. 501 00:20:45,745 --> 00:20:47,831 I celebrate her for it. 502 00:20:47,956 --> 00:20:50,375 And I'm gonna share one more thing with you. 503 00:20:50,458 --> 00:20:52,836 A long time ago, before my mother passed, 504 00:20:52,877 --> 00:20:54,838 me and my mother, we would watch movies together. 505 00:20:54,963 --> 00:20:58,133 And she said, "Contessa remind me of Rose." 506 00:21:00,218 --> 00:21:03,304 She's like, "Rose would jump back on the boat for your ass. 507 00:21:03,346 --> 00:21:07,267 Just like she did on... on the Titanic." 508 00:21:07,934 --> 00:21:10,645 Why do women have to go through such a struggle... 509 00:21:10,770 --> 00:21:13,523 to earn their position with a man? 510 00:21:13,648 --> 00:21:15,150 [bubbles] 511 00:21:15,233 --> 00:21:19,362 I'm going down. Always Rose, though, but I'm going down. 512 00:21:19,404 --> 00:21:21,281 Like... why? 513 00:21:21,322 --> 00:21:23,324 Alright. Please dance, have a good time 514 00:21:23,408 --> 00:21:24,909 and thank you guys for coming out. 515 00:21:24,951 --> 00:21:27,412 There's food outside, there's food inside, enjoy yourselves. 516 00:21:27,495 --> 00:21:28,663 Thank you guys for showing up for me. 517 00:21:28,788 --> 00:21:30,248 [upbeat music] 518 00:21:36,713 --> 00:21:38,590 [cheering] 519 00:21:38,715 --> 00:21:40,300 - Hey! - Hey! How y'all doing? 520 00:21:40,383 --> 00:21:43,678 Why are you in prom gear and we're in '70s apparel? 521 00:21:43,762 --> 00:21:45,180 Because it's my party. 522 00:21:45,263 --> 00:21:46,806 Somebody needs to be able to tell the difference between 523 00:21:46,848 --> 00:21:48,224 y'all and me. I mean, I'm just saying. 524 00:21:48,308 --> 00:21:49,934 - Correct! You're right. - Whose party is it? 525 00:21:49,976 --> 00:21:52,354 Whose party is it, right? 526 00:21:52,437 --> 00:21:53,772 Did you have a good time tonight? 527 00:21:53,813 --> 00:21:55,440 I had a good time, I did. 528 00:21:55,565 --> 00:21:57,567 Did you want your husband to throw it or were you okay? 529 00:21:57,650 --> 00:22:00,070 I just said, this is my last year of my 40's, 530 00:22:00,153 --> 00:22:02,322 and I'm not going to leave my 40's 531 00:22:02,405 --> 00:22:05,283 and this first half of my like, life with any regrets. 532 00:22:05,367 --> 00:22:07,410 And I think I had a vision in my head. 533 00:22:07,494 --> 00:22:09,621 I think... I don't know if it would've been 534 00:22:09,704 --> 00:22:12,624 what I was expecting if somebody else planned it for me. 535 00:22:12,707 --> 00:22:14,501 Like what if he did something like in the backyard? 536 00:22:14,542 --> 00:22:15,752 I really wanted to be somewhere 537 00:22:15,877 --> 00:22:17,462 where people could get drinks and get food-- 538 00:22:17,545 --> 00:22:20,256 But why not just tell him that and then have him do it? 539 00:22:20,298 --> 00:22:22,133 I told him. I mean, I've been waiting, he know me. 540 00:22:22,258 --> 00:22:23,426 It's been 20 years. 541 00:22:23,551 --> 00:22:26,388 Don't y'all believe that from the beginning 542 00:22:26,471 --> 00:22:29,599 of the relationship we teach the man how to think? 543 00:22:29,724 --> 00:22:31,101 That's so true, Simone. 544 00:22:31,226 --> 00:22:34,979 So if you're... if the bar of expectation is low... 545 00:22:35,021 --> 00:22:39,234 they can jump right over that and they don't move the bar, 546 00:22:39,317 --> 00:22:41,319 we have to move the bar. 547 00:22:41,945 --> 00:22:45,198 My first mother's day, Cecil didn't have a card for me 548 00:22:45,281 --> 00:22:48,326 and I'm like, I got this little sucker over here sucking on me 549 00:22:48,451 --> 00:22:51,079 and you don't have a card? 550 00:22:52,622 --> 00:22:54,749 Marriage is about teamwork. 551 00:22:54,874 --> 00:22:56,876 It is about supporting one another. 552 00:22:57,002 --> 00:23:01,214 But sometimes, I feel taken for granted. 553 00:23:01,256 --> 00:23:03,591 Why we gotta re-evaluate our marriages 554 00:23:03,675 --> 00:23:05,051 after this amazing party right now, 555 00:23:05,176 --> 00:23:06,678 what is happening right now? 556 00:23:06,720 --> 00:23:08,596 No, re-evaluating our marriages is major. 557 00:23:08,638 --> 00:23:10,682 He knows, he knows that I handle sh--. 558 00:23:10,724 --> 00:23:13,518 I handle sh-- and that's what he was probably waiting for, 559 00:23:13,601 --> 00:23:15,186 me to handle it and ultimately I did. 560 00:23:15,812 --> 00:23:17,522 You gotta go home and live with that man. 561 00:23:17,605 --> 00:23:19,899 You gotta go and lay in the same bed 562 00:23:19,983 --> 00:23:21,568 that he sleeps in. 563 00:23:21,609 --> 00:23:23,194 So I get why you're taking up for him. 564 00:23:23,236 --> 00:23:24,863 You don't want that smoke at home. 565 00:23:24,946 --> 00:23:27,365 I had a great party, I was very happy. 566 00:23:27,407 --> 00:23:29,743 I learned my lesson with Contessa, 567 00:23:29,826 --> 00:23:31,578 I am not touching her marriage, baby. 568 00:23:31,619 --> 00:23:33,329 I'm running for state representative 569 00:23:33,371 --> 00:23:34,914 and I just need to be quiet. 570 00:23:35,040 --> 00:23:36,791 Look at how sexist y'all are 571 00:23:36,875 --> 00:23:38,793 because even in the midst of the party that I threw 572 00:23:38,877 --> 00:23:41,046 for my goddamn self, y'all talking to me about my husband. 573 00:23:41,087 --> 00:23:43,965 Y'all came in on my goddamn birthday talking to me about... 574 00:23:44,049 --> 00:23:46,718 Happy birthday, still. 575 00:23:46,801 --> 00:23:49,095 You were sitting in the best party you've ever attended 576 00:23:49,179 --> 00:23:51,389 and you gonna asking me why Scott didn't do it. 577 00:23:51,514 --> 00:23:53,892 You better do the flip, baby, you better flip that sh--. 578 00:23:53,975 --> 00:23:55,643 This is my party. 579 00:23:55,769 --> 00:23:59,397 Because I am the best planner for my birthday party, okay? 580 00:23:59,439 --> 00:24:02,025 My party was epic. Game changer. 581 00:24:02,150 --> 00:24:05,236 Yes, come on! Yes! Yes! 582 00:24:05,320 --> 00:24:08,990 Yes, come on! You better come on! Yes! 583 00:24:10,700 --> 00:24:12,202 Coming up. 584 00:24:12,327 --> 00:24:15,455 If I'm dead before he finishes law school, then what? 585 00:24:15,538 --> 00:24:17,582 - That can happen. - I'm done talking about this. 586 00:24:17,665 --> 00:24:21,294 You are so ----ing entitled. I am done! 587 00:24:26,257 --> 00:24:28,259 [upbeat music] 588 00:24:31,388 --> 00:24:33,640 Bro, back up. Back up. Back up. Back up. 589 00:24:34,474 --> 00:24:36,226 Okay, I'm gonna get the plates. 590 00:24:36,309 --> 00:24:39,562 [upbeat music] 591 00:24:40,522 --> 00:24:44,401 I ordered them some graduation thank you cards. 592 00:24:44,442 --> 00:24:46,069 I'm old school. 593 00:24:46,236 --> 00:24:49,614 A written thank you note will always be nice. 594 00:24:53,868 --> 00:24:56,037 I need... this. 595 00:24:56,162 --> 00:24:57,455 This. 596 00:24:58,289 --> 00:24:59,290 Pow! 597 00:24:59,457 --> 00:25:01,501 [shakes cocktail shaker] 598 00:25:01,584 --> 00:25:05,547 Ooh! I'm not gonna lie, that looks good as hell. 599 00:25:05,630 --> 00:25:08,633 [upbeat music] 600 00:25:10,176 --> 00:25:12,887 What up, boys? Haircuts. Haircuts. 601 00:25:12,971 --> 00:25:13,888 Smelling good. 602 00:25:14,055 --> 00:25:15,140 Haircuts. 603 00:25:15,306 --> 00:25:17,559 You wanna fix some food? 604 00:25:17,726 --> 00:25:20,228 - Food? We got the food. - We got y'all. 605 00:25:20,353 --> 00:25:21,938 - Come on, sit down. - Look at y'all. 606 00:25:21,980 --> 00:25:23,690 This is so sweet. 607 00:25:23,815 --> 00:25:25,567 This is our celebration to y'all. 608 00:25:25,650 --> 00:25:28,445 We had our graduation party, this y'all graduation party. 609 00:25:29,320 --> 00:25:32,323 We've been waiting for them to get their degrees. 610 00:25:32,365 --> 00:25:34,534 We knew they could do it. 611 00:25:34,826 --> 00:25:36,119 It's impressive. 612 00:25:36,161 --> 00:25:39,039 They definitely took different routes to get there. 613 00:25:39,122 --> 00:25:40,373 He had a gap year. 614 00:25:40,457 --> 00:25:42,208 Malia Obama she did a gap year in Europe. 615 00:25:42,375 --> 00:25:44,627 Miles took his gap year in school. 616 00:25:44,669 --> 00:25:45,837 Involuntarily. 617 00:25:45,920 --> 00:25:47,297 [shrieks] 618 00:25:47,422 --> 00:25:49,674 Do you want me to help you? - Help me do what? 619 00:25:49,758 --> 00:25:52,886 Help you make your bed. - You're not funny. 620 00:25:54,888 --> 00:25:57,849 Now, it's time to pay bills, baby. 621 00:25:58,933 --> 00:26:00,977 Bills, bills, bills. [laughing] 622 00:26:01,144 --> 00:26:04,564 This is a surprise, brother. You got some food. 623 00:26:04,606 --> 00:26:05,857 Yep, yep. 624 00:26:07,067 --> 00:26:08,985 Ooh, this... - That's good. 625 00:26:09,027 --> 00:26:10,487 Piping hot. 626 00:26:10,570 --> 00:26:14,407 So how does it feel to have one less thing off the plate? 627 00:26:14,574 --> 00:26:16,618 Nothing. It feels like nothing. 628 00:26:16,785 --> 00:26:20,205 So we talked about... in high school, right? 629 00:26:20,246 --> 00:26:22,540 I got the Jeep, the Jeep was cool, 630 00:26:22,582 --> 00:26:25,669 but now we're starting to teeter towards Jeep not being so cool. 631 00:26:25,835 --> 00:26:26,961 So now it's like-- 632 00:26:27,087 --> 00:26:28,546 Oh, really, what makes a Jeep not so cool? 633 00:26:28,713 --> 00:26:30,507 No, it's cool, but it's just like, I'm tired of seeing it. 634 00:26:30,590 --> 00:26:31,966 I know you tired of seeing it. 635 00:26:32,092 --> 00:26:33,218 Tired. 636 00:26:33,259 --> 00:26:36,763 What we do have to look at though, 637 00:26:36,846 --> 00:26:40,725 is your financial situation to see if... 638 00:26:40,809 --> 00:26:44,270 you could afford to make any payments. 639 00:26:45,397 --> 00:26:48,483 I put some numbers... I did some figures for you. 640 00:26:48,525 --> 00:26:50,944 Hold on one second while I get my iPad. 641 00:26:50,985 --> 00:26:52,821 I just wanna say before you go, 642 00:26:52,946 --> 00:26:55,240 make sure whatever you bring out on that iPad 643 00:26:55,365 --> 00:26:58,368 is not gonna cause me to pick up your pasta off your plate 644 00:26:58,451 --> 00:27:00,036 and feed it to the dogs. 645 00:27:00,161 --> 00:27:02,205 Yeah. It might. 646 00:27:02,372 --> 00:27:05,375 Once Miles and Michael told me that they were gonna be 647 00:27:05,500 --> 00:27:09,462 graduating this year, all I've been able to think about 648 00:27:09,504 --> 00:27:12,674 is moving forward financially. 649 00:27:12,841 --> 00:27:15,844 Basically, what I did was just calculate... 650 00:27:16,886 --> 00:27:20,015 the Chase bill for last year, month by month. 651 00:27:21,182 --> 00:27:22,475 January-- 652 00:27:22,600 --> 00:27:23,893 Mama, can I stop you right there? 653 00:27:23,977 --> 00:27:26,271 Why does this have to be negative? 654 00:27:26,354 --> 00:27:27,772 It doesn't, it doesn't, it doesn't. 655 00:27:27,814 --> 00:27:29,566 It's factual information. 656 00:27:29,607 --> 00:27:36,072 Michael spent over $60,000 by himself on this card. 657 00:27:36,114 --> 00:27:37,240 The Chase bill-- 658 00:27:37,323 --> 00:27:40,702 If I were you and I wanted a car, 659 00:27:40,785 --> 00:27:43,079 I wouldn't be arguing with the person you're asking 660 00:27:43,204 --> 00:27:44,372 to buy the car. 661 00:27:44,456 --> 00:27:46,291 But that's me. 662 00:27:46,332 --> 00:27:50,628 This needs to be shared, so that he has a clear understanding 663 00:27:50,670 --> 00:27:52,589 about the value of money. 664 00:27:52,672 --> 00:27:57,594 About the value of just swiping a mother----ing credit card. 665 00:27:57,635 --> 00:28:01,765 So have you been thinking about where you wanna go 666 00:28:01,806 --> 00:28:05,602 to law school, how you gonna finance your education? 667 00:28:05,685 --> 00:28:08,980 I do have a mother who... 668 00:28:09,022 --> 00:28:11,733 makes pretty good money. 669 00:28:14,194 --> 00:28:16,363 I don't feel like I should be 670 00:28:16,529 --> 00:28:18,156 footing the bill for anything 671 00:28:18,198 --> 00:28:22,869 other than the roof over your head, that sort of a thing. 672 00:28:23,995 --> 00:28:26,539 So when you start talking about law school, 673 00:28:26,706 --> 00:28:28,083 graduate school and so forth, 674 00:28:28,124 --> 00:28:30,669 if you're not getting any support, right? 675 00:28:30,710 --> 00:28:32,629 If no one's helping you to do that 676 00:28:32,754 --> 00:28:36,591 and it sounds like, based on what your mom is saying, 677 00:28:36,675 --> 00:28:39,052 that's what would be the ideal situation. 678 00:28:39,094 --> 00:28:41,638 So the only one here at the table 679 00:28:41,680 --> 00:28:47,268 with an actual graduate doctorate degree... is me. 680 00:28:48,853 --> 00:28:53,733 And how I did it, was I got scholarship money and loans. 681 00:28:54,651 --> 00:28:56,444 Your mom wasn't able to do 682 00:28:56,528 --> 00:28:58,738 the things for you that you are able to do for us. 683 00:28:58,822 --> 00:29:00,448 [slurping] 684 00:29:00,532 --> 00:29:01,950 [dramatic music] 685 00:29:02,075 --> 00:29:03,743 What about all the rich white kids? 686 00:29:03,827 --> 00:29:05,370 Their parents pay for their way to do everything 687 00:29:05,495 --> 00:29:09,290 and then they get out of college debt-free and are millionaires. 688 00:29:12,085 --> 00:29:16,214 So what about all the white people who pay for their kids 689 00:29:16,256 --> 00:29:20,093 to go to school, be debt-free and they still ain't doing sh--? 690 00:29:24,264 --> 00:29:25,849 Now, Michael's point is still a valid one. 691 00:29:25,890 --> 00:29:27,267 We are blessed. 692 00:29:27,350 --> 00:29:30,979 We are in a situation where we can help. 693 00:29:32,272 --> 00:29:35,900 Who here at the table gives a [bleep] 694 00:29:36,067 --> 00:29:38,194 about how hard I'm working, 695 00:29:38,236 --> 00:29:41,448 instead of being able to move towards retirement? 696 00:29:42,741 --> 00:29:44,159 Me. 697 00:29:48,246 --> 00:29:51,291 He said that he thinks every day about how he can, 698 00:29:51,332 --> 00:29:53,918 what he can do to be able to give back to you. 699 00:29:54,002 --> 00:29:55,503 - That's what he said. - I understand-- 700 00:29:55,628 --> 00:29:57,047 But then don't-- 701 00:29:57,088 --> 00:29:59,549 If I'm dead before he finishes law school, then what? 702 00:29:59,591 --> 00:30:01,968 That can happen because God might take you away. 703 00:30:03,428 --> 00:30:04,888 I'm done talking about this. 704 00:30:04,929 --> 00:30:06,514 Oh, I don't care. 705 00:30:06,556 --> 00:30:07,682 Be done. 706 00:30:07,849 --> 00:30:10,894 I get tired of being the lone man out. 707 00:30:10,977 --> 00:30:12,645 It's always three against one. 708 00:30:12,729 --> 00:30:14,731 - I'm jumping in. - I said do not ----ing jump in. 709 00:30:14,856 --> 00:30:16,483 - You can't speak for me-- - Well, after you-- 710 00:30:16,608 --> 00:30:17,650 Cause you don't think like me! 711 00:30:17,817 --> 00:30:19,069 After you speak I'm gonna speak. 712 00:30:19,194 --> 00:30:21,571 You don't think like me, you don't support me on [bleep]! 713 00:30:21,654 --> 00:30:22,655 Where did that come from? 714 00:30:25,909 --> 00:30:28,995 The bottom line is you are so ----ing entitled, 715 00:30:29,120 --> 00:30:31,373 is what this revealed to me. 716 00:30:31,456 --> 00:30:34,250 I'm done! I'm done! 717 00:30:34,417 --> 00:30:37,379 I don't owe you a mother----ing thing from here! 718 00:30:37,462 --> 00:30:39,422 [dramatic music] 719 00:30:39,464 --> 00:30:40,674 [bleep] you! 720 00:30:40,715 --> 00:30:45,512 I have given you everything I have to give! 721 00:30:50,642 --> 00:30:52,519 [upbeat music] 722 00:30:55,939 --> 00:30:57,399 [laughing] 723 00:30:57,482 --> 00:30:59,442 Mommy time tonight? 724 00:30:59,484 --> 00:31:01,361 You wanna just rest? 725 00:31:01,444 --> 00:31:02,821 - Rest? - Yes. 726 00:31:02,904 --> 00:31:05,949 - And wake up in the morning-- - That's not... uh-uh. 727 00:31:05,990 --> 00:31:09,119 And, and, and get your, get your day started off right. 728 00:31:09,202 --> 00:31:11,871 And then in the morning you gonna be... I'm late. 729 00:31:11,955 --> 00:31:13,331 [laughing] 730 00:31:13,665 --> 00:31:16,001 [upbeat music] 731 00:31:18,253 --> 00:31:20,547 Trying to reverse the big back? 732 00:31:20,630 --> 00:31:22,090 [laughter] 733 00:31:22,173 --> 00:31:24,634 You trying to say my back big? - It's not big, just wide. 734 00:31:24,718 --> 00:31:26,553 I'm small in the waist and cute in the face. 735 00:31:26,636 --> 00:31:28,054 With the big back? 736 00:31:28,138 --> 00:31:29,014 [laughing] 737 00:31:29,889 --> 00:31:31,433 [upbeat music] 738 00:31:33,309 --> 00:31:35,103 Or maybe rotate it over. No. 739 00:31:35,145 --> 00:31:37,188 Oh, that's probably a good idea. See? Teamwork. 740 00:31:37,313 --> 00:31:39,441 That's what I'm saying, let me be your team right now. 741 00:31:39,566 --> 00:31:42,152 You going in the opposite direction. 742 00:31:42,235 --> 00:31:43,945 You going in the opposite direction. 743 00:31:44,029 --> 00:31:45,321 No. 744 00:31:45,405 --> 00:31:47,866 [upbeat music] 745 00:31:58,793 --> 00:32:00,670 - Come on in. - I must be the first to arrive. 746 00:32:00,754 --> 00:32:02,130 - You are. - Okay. 747 00:32:04,632 --> 00:32:07,844 I'm gonna have a blueberry margarita. 748 00:32:07,886 --> 00:32:08,845 Blueberry margarita? 749 00:32:08,970 --> 00:32:11,056 - Hey, how are you? - Good. 750 00:32:11,139 --> 00:32:12,640 - Hey, missy. - Hey. 751 00:32:12,682 --> 00:32:16,019 Drinking already? - Girl, yes. Cute bag. 752 00:32:16,102 --> 00:32:17,896 When you start drinking? - Yesterday. 753 00:32:17,979 --> 00:32:20,023 Praise God. Can I get a Dirty Shirley? 754 00:32:20,106 --> 00:32:22,484 So how you been? You look cute today. 755 00:32:22,567 --> 00:32:25,820 Girl, we had a family dinner 756 00:32:25,904 --> 00:32:28,031 that went all the way left. 757 00:32:28,740 --> 00:32:31,242 Got an attitude cause I'm not gonna pay 758 00:32:31,326 --> 00:32:32,786 for law school. 759 00:32:32,869 --> 00:32:35,080 I never said I was paying for law school, dude. 760 00:32:35,163 --> 00:32:37,457 I don't think you should. 761 00:32:37,540 --> 00:32:39,084 Me and him were going back and forth. 762 00:32:39,125 --> 00:32:40,877 Cecil was silent, boo. 763 00:32:40,960 --> 00:32:44,631 I get tired of being the bad cop all by myself all the time. 764 00:32:44,714 --> 00:32:46,383 I understand, boo. 765 00:32:46,466 --> 00:32:49,094 I just need a break from the people that... 766 00:32:49,177 --> 00:32:51,763 last night went more... I just need a break. 767 00:32:53,139 --> 00:32:56,017 [upbeat music] 768 00:32:57,602 --> 00:32:59,604 - Hey, ladies. - Hey, how are you? 769 00:32:59,688 --> 00:33:03,817 - How you doing? - You did that. You did that. 770 00:33:03,900 --> 00:33:05,110 Thank you. 771 00:33:05,235 --> 00:33:08,238 I have a card for you. Happy birthday. 772 00:33:08,279 --> 00:33:10,490 - I'm doing good, thank you. - How old are you now? 773 00:33:10,532 --> 00:33:11,991 - I'm 42. - You look amazing. 774 00:33:12,033 --> 00:33:13,910 - I don't look it, do I? - You do not. 775 00:33:13,993 --> 00:33:16,287 It's my birthday. We gonna have some food. 776 00:33:16,371 --> 00:33:18,373 We gonna have some drinks. Let's turn up a little bit. 777 00:33:18,498 --> 00:33:21,543 My hubby surprised me. He was like, 778 00:33:21,626 --> 00:33:24,004 invite your friends and I'm gonna pay for y'all to eat, 779 00:33:24,129 --> 00:33:26,214 drink and have a good night. 780 00:33:26,297 --> 00:33:28,174 So your husband did this for you? 781 00:33:28,258 --> 00:33:29,426 Yes. He did. 782 00:33:29,509 --> 00:33:31,177 But Contessa's husband did not do it for her. 783 00:33:31,261 --> 00:33:33,304 So do you think you should tone it down 784 00:33:33,346 --> 00:33:34,806 a little bit in front of people? 785 00:33:34,848 --> 00:33:35,932 I can't tone it down, 786 00:33:36,057 --> 00:33:37,350 cause my man is my man. 787 00:33:37,434 --> 00:33:39,519 [laughter] 788 00:33:40,353 --> 00:33:43,481 I mean, I got a good man, so. 789 00:33:43,565 --> 00:33:45,316 - Happy birthday! - Thank you! 790 00:33:45,442 --> 00:33:49,404 - Happy birthday, babe. - Good, welcome. 791 00:33:49,446 --> 00:33:52,949 - Happy birthday, hello. - Thank you. I love it. 792 00:33:53,033 --> 00:33:54,284 [kissing] 793 00:33:54,367 --> 00:33:55,744 Come sit down. 794 00:33:58,371 --> 00:34:01,374 What's up? Where the party at? 795 00:34:01,499 --> 00:34:03,293 Oh hell no. 796 00:34:03,376 --> 00:34:04,627 Where the [bleep] party? 797 00:34:04,711 --> 00:34:07,297 Hey! I can't bend down because my sh-- short. 798 00:34:07,422 --> 00:34:08,590 Oh, sh--. 799 00:34:08,673 --> 00:34:10,258 [laughing] Ooh, hey, thang. 800 00:34:10,383 --> 00:34:11,885 - Hi! - Hi, girls! 801 00:34:11,968 --> 00:34:14,054 - So cute! - Hey y'all! 802 00:34:14,137 --> 00:34:15,930 [laughter] 803 00:34:16,014 --> 00:34:17,515 Everybody look good. 804 00:34:17,599 --> 00:34:20,727 Don't feel underdressed. Y'all look just fine. 805 00:34:22,562 --> 00:34:24,981 Look at Jackie's face. 806 00:34:26,107 --> 00:34:30,153 This brand name beyotch is always gonna have 807 00:34:30,236 --> 00:34:34,532 something to say if you're not wearing Gucci, Prada, Fendi, 808 00:34:34,616 --> 00:34:37,952 or something. Girl, you better get yourself some Zara. 809 00:34:39,454 --> 00:34:41,331 Some of us professional women-- 810 00:34:41,456 --> 00:34:42,832 Uh, we all professionals. 811 00:34:42,916 --> 00:34:44,542 Have more places to go than to the party. 812 00:34:44,584 --> 00:34:45,794 So are you saying that the women 813 00:34:45,877 --> 00:34:47,128 that walked in aren't professional? 814 00:34:47,212 --> 00:34:48,213 I'm just talking about you. 815 00:34:49,005 --> 00:34:50,840 [laughing] Ohh! 816 00:34:51,883 --> 00:34:54,469 If professional means being you, I wanna be me. 817 00:34:54,552 --> 00:34:55,970 I don't wanna be you. 818 00:34:56,096 --> 00:34:57,597 That's all I'm saying. 819 00:34:57,639 --> 00:34:59,557 Bartender, this sh-- starting already. 820 00:35:00,433 --> 00:35:01,810 The shade has already started. 821 00:35:01,893 --> 00:35:03,895 They ain't even sang Happy Birthday yet. 822 00:35:04,020 --> 00:35:06,648 Well we done took over, it's Brandi's day, okay? 823 00:35:06,690 --> 00:35:08,483 So, look. So first off, let's get some shots. 824 00:35:08,608 --> 00:35:11,027 Her man paying for this so he said that I can have 825 00:35:11,152 --> 00:35:13,571 all the shots I wanted, that's what he said. 826 00:35:13,655 --> 00:35:15,782 He did. He said you could have all the shots. 827 00:35:16,783 --> 00:35:18,743 I love this. At Contessa's party 828 00:35:18,827 --> 00:35:21,413 I feel like we all didn't get a chance to really like kick it. 829 00:35:21,496 --> 00:35:23,081 To me that's the only negative about having a party. 830 00:35:23,164 --> 00:35:25,959 We don't get to spend any quality time with everybody. 831 00:35:26,084 --> 00:35:27,544 That's why the next day I did a brunch. 832 00:35:27,627 --> 00:35:29,421 I said, "If I didn't get a chance to hug you, 833 00:35:29,462 --> 00:35:32,007 please come to my house." And I literally cooked from like, 834 00:35:32,090 --> 00:35:33,466 10 o'clock in the morning-- 835 00:35:33,591 --> 00:35:34,718 You cooked after your party? 836 00:35:35,301 --> 00:35:37,721 - Until 9 o'clock. - Where was Scott the next day? 837 00:35:37,846 --> 00:35:39,514 - He can cook. - He was outside smoking cigars. 838 00:35:42,934 --> 00:35:45,103 Scott ain't planning sh--, but... 839 00:35:45,186 --> 00:35:48,857 Scott must've been exhausted after Contessa's party. 840 00:35:48,940 --> 00:35:51,401 - You did good on this party. - I tried. 841 00:35:51,443 --> 00:35:56,364 After wearing that wig and that pimp coat, he was tired. 842 00:35:56,489 --> 00:35:58,658 I enjoy taking care of people. 843 00:35:58,742 --> 00:36:01,119 I know, but somebody needs to take care of you at some point. 844 00:36:01,202 --> 00:36:02,203 I do agree. I do. 845 00:36:02,328 --> 00:36:03,580 I think paying for that party 846 00:36:03,663 --> 00:36:04,664 was Scotty taking care of me. 847 00:36:04,748 --> 00:36:06,082 Alright, I'm gonna bring it back to me 848 00:36:06,166 --> 00:36:07,792 for a second cause it is my birthday. 849 00:36:07,834 --> 00:36:09,419 Not for a second, for the night. 850 00:36:09,502 --> 00:36:12,005 My husband and my kids on the phone, so, one. 851 00:36:12,130 --> 00:36:13,673 Wait, hold on. 852 00:36:13,798 --> 00:36:16,384 Y'all this is my husband. All of my kids. 853 00:36:16,426 --> 00:36:18,261 Hi! 854 00:36:18,386 --> 00:36:21,014 Hi, how are you? So they wanted to say thank you. 855 00:36:21,097 --> 00:36:24,476 - Alright. - Thank you. 856 00:36:24,976 --> 00:36:27,020 Thank you, baby, I love you. 857 00:36:27,103 --> 00:36:30,065 - Alright, thank you. Bye. - Thank you. 858 00:36:30,190 --> 00:36:32,275 Why is she thanking him so much? 859 00:36:32,359 --> 00:36:35,570 Is this like a really expensive restaurant? 860 00:36:35,695 --> 00:36:37,989 Like, was this a lot of money? 861 00:36:38,073 --> 00:36:39,699 Happy birthday! 862 00:36:39,824 --> 00:36:42,118 Happy birthday, Brandi, this is an amazing dinner party. 863 00:36:42,243 --> 00:36:45,872 I think you should eat before the food starts getting cold. 864 00:36:45,955 --> 00:36:47,332 Yes, somebody say a prayer. 865 00:36:47,415 --> 00:36:49,668 Can we pray to God or do we have to pray for your husband 866 00:36:49,709 --> 00:36:50,960 for thanking him for the food? 867 00:36:51,044 --> 00:36:52,504 [dramatic music] 868 00:36:52,629 --> 00:36:55,048 [laughing] 869 00:36:57,092 --> 00:36:58,468 You in your feelings, but it's okay. 870 00:36:58,551 --> 00:37:00,261 We thanking these husbands a lot. 871 00:37:00,345 --> 00:37:02,764 These husbands get a lot of credit for some basic sh--. 872 00:37:05,684 --> 00:37:08,853 Contessa's retaliating cause she's feeling a way 873 00:37:08,937 --> 00:37:12,065 that Scott has never planned a birthday party for her. 874 00:37:12,232 --> 00:37:14,943 We in a strip mall, I mean... Not a plaza. 875 00:37:16,027 --> 00:37:17,737 She's still upset about that party. 876 00:37:17,862 --> 00:37:19,864 Here's the thing, my... my husband paid for this. 877 00:37:19,948 --> 00:37:22,283 He paid for everybody to come and have a good night. 878 00:37:22,367 --> 00:37:24,452 My husband is amazing, so I give my husband props 879 00:37:24,577 --> 00:37:25,912 and I'll tell anybody. 880 00:37:26,037 --> 00:37:29,040 So I'm sorry Contessa if that's a problem for you 881 00:37:29,082 --> 00:37:30,250 or anyone else, but-- 882 00:37:30,375 --> 00:37:31,960 I think y'all the ones with the problem. 883 00:37:33,670 --> 00:37:36,381 Did you hear my husband complain one minute about how much money 884 00:37:36,464 --> 00:37:37,549 that was spent? 885 00:37:37,674 --> 00:37:39,050 No. I don't think, but I don't think-- 886 00:37:39,134 --> 00:37:40,885 The only thing that my husband did not do was plan it. 887 00:37:40,969 --> 00:37:43,179 But I'll be honest, if he would've did this 888 00:37:43,263 --> 00:37:46,182 as my first birthday party, I would've been underwhelmed. 889 00:37:46,224 --> 00:37:49,102 [dramatic music] 890 00:37:50,437 --> 00:37:52,272 This is not a birthday party, in my opinion. 891 00:37:52,355 --> 00:37:54,315 Whoa, whoa, whoa, let's bring this back. 892 00:37:54,441 --> 00:37:56,026 Let's bring this back. 893 00:37:56,109 --> 00:37:57,777 It's not a comparison. 894 00:37:57,902 --> 00:38:00,321 That was a party, this is not a party. This is a dinner. 895 00:38:00,405 --> 00:38:01,823 This is getting out of hand. 896 00:38:01,948 --> 00:38:05,076 [dramatic music] 897 00:38:10,915 --> 00:38:13,585 [upbeat music] 898 00:38:16,129 --> 00:38:17,922 Did you hear my husband complain one minute 899 00:38:18,006 --> 00:38:19,257 about how much money I was spending? 900 00:38:19,341 --> 00:38:21,551 But I'll be honest, if he would've did this 901 00:38:21,634 --> 00:38:24,596 as my first birthday party, I would've been underwhelmed. 902 00:38:28,892 --> 00:38:30,560 Whoa, whoa, whoa, let's bring this back. 903 00:38:30,602 --> 00:38:32,937 Let's bring this back. Because this is getting out of hand. 904 00:38:33,021 --> 00:38:34,898 This is not a party. This is a dinner. 905 00:38:34,939 --> 00:38:36,316 This is a dinner, right. 906 00:38:36,399 --> 00:38:38,818 Brandi spent zero, my husband paid for it. 907 00:38:38,943 --> 00:38:40,862 I brought some money just in case. 908 00:38:44,282 --> 00:38:46,117 - Y'all... ooh. - Money for what? 909 00:38:46,159 --> 00:38:47,285 Girl, put your stuff back. 910 00:38:47,369 --> 00:38:48,870 You brought all your birthday money? 911 00:38:48,953 --> 00:38:51,623 I mean we got a joint bank account, I got access. 912 00:38:51,706 --> 00:38:53,083 Get your coin purse, put it back. 913 00:38:53,166 --> 00:38:55,085 Baby, the shade is real, baby. 914 00:38:55,168 --> 00:38:56,711 The shade's very real. 915 00:38:57,879 --> 00:38:59,130 Why you throwing money on the table? 916 00:38:59,255 --> 00:39:00,674 If I'm not mistaken, 917 00:39:00,715 --> 00:39:02,717 at your party, you said 918 00:39:02,801 --> 00:39:05,345 you wanted somebody to do something nice for you. 919 00:39:05,428 --> 00:39:06,888 He knows this is a big deal, 920 00:39:06,971 --> 00:39:08,848 I doubt he's gonna come in here and didn't have 921 00:39:08,890 --> 00:39:09,891 anything planned for you. 922 00:39:09,974 --> 00:39:11,226 I hope not. 923 00:39:11,309 --> 00:39:13,395 Here you go. It might not be from Scott, 924 00:39:13,436 --> 00:39:16,231 but you getting wined and dined with a nice meal. 925 00:39:17,565 --> 00:39:19,734 Be grateful. Really? 926 00:39:19,818 --> 00:39:22,529 Contessa was upset. 927 00:39:22,570 --> 00:39:24,239 What was I upset about? 928 00:39:24,364 --> 00:39:26,199 About Scott not throwing a party for you. 929 00:39:26,825 --> 00:39:28,868 And I don't know why you forgot. 930 00:39:30,620 --> 00:39:33,123 Me saying I'm throwing a party for myself. 931 00:39:33,164 --> 00:39:35,834 The question becomes, what is this paternalistic world 932 00:39:35,875 --> 00:39:37,961 that some man has to throw some sh-- for me? 933 00:39:38,044 --> 00:39:39,754 I make just as much money as him. 934 00:39:42,924 --> 00:39:46,011 Not only does Contessa complain about Scott to her friends. 935 00:39:46,094 --> 00:39:47,887 So he's cheating, is that what's-- 936 00:39:47,971 --> 00:39:48,930 I don't know what nobody is 937 00:39:49,014 --> 00:39:50,390 ever doing. 938 00:39:50,515 --> 00:39:52,142 And then she switches her story. 939 00:39:52,183 --> 00:39:55,103 She get mad if you remember what she said the day before. 940 00:39:55,145 --> 00:39:57,856 Keep your opinions about my spouse 941 00:39:57,939 --> 00:39:59,983 to your goddamn mother----ing self. 942 00:40:00,608 --> 00:40:02,110 Now I've learned to just accept it. 943 00:40:02,235 --> 00:40:04,529 Stay up out of Contessa's sh-- if you know better. 944 00:40:04,654 --> 00:40:06,448 Why ----ing focus on the negative? 945 00:40:06,531 --> 00:40:08,366 What kind of friends focus on the negative? 946 00:40:08,408 --> 00:40:11,327 - These, bitch. - Ooh. Okay, girl. 947 00:40:12,370 --> 00:40:13,997 All we're saying at the end of the day, 948 00:40:14,080 --> 00:40:17,208 is that you ----ing complain all the ----ing time 949 00:40:17,334 --> 00:40:18,585 about your husband. 950 00:40:18,626 --> 00:40:20,962 You complain all the time about your husband, 951 00:40:21,004 --> 00:40:23,256 And it's ----ing not right, bitch. 952 00:40:25,508 --> 00:40:27,344 Now can we move on? Where the [bleep] is the cake? 953 00:40:27,469 --> 00:40:31,181 - This is overstimulating. - This is hot. Whoo! 954 00:40:31,306 --> 00:40:32,766 Wow! [laughing] 955 00:40:32,807 --> 00:40:34,934 This might be normal behavior for everybody. 956 00:40:35,060 --> 00:40:36,686 I think this is what I'm learning. 957 00:40:36,770 --> 00:40:40,148 And eventually, probably, y'all hug and laugh. 958 00:40:40,273 --> 00:40:42,192 I ain't even did sh--, I'm tired of y'all. 959 00:40:42,275 --> 00:40:43,568 It always comes back to this. 960 00:40:43,651 --> 00:40:44,819 Y'all get me all hot... 961 00:40:44,944 --> 00:40:46,112 Until next time. 962 00:40:46,196 --> 00:40:48,281 So do you think... 963 00:40:48,406 --> 00:40:51,618 that there is ever a time where... 964 00:40:51,701 --> 00:40:54,245 where maybe you are frustrated, maybe you do-- 965 00:40:54,329 --> 00:40:55,997 - We all are. - Hey, be quiet. 966 00:40:56,122 --> 00:40:58,416 - Oh, sorry. I'm sorry. - Be quiet. 967 00:40:58,500 --> 00:41:00,377 We've been married for 20 years 968 00:41:00,502 --> 00:41:03,713 and if I spent all of my time focusing on the negatives, 969 00:41:03,797 --> 00:41:05,840 I would be like many of my 970 00:41:05,965 --> 00:41:07,050 girlfriends out here who are single. 971 00:41:07,092 --> 00:41:09,010 And maybe at 30 years... 972 00:41:09,094 --> 00:41:12,180 he's gonna do some of those things that I've asked for. 973 00:41:12,263 --> 00:41:16,101 I've been married 29. He's not gonna do anything. 974 00:41:16,226 --> 00:41:17,977 Right. [laughing] 975 00:41:18,061 --> 00:41:19,479 Dang! 976 00:41:19,604 --> 00:41:21,064 I was like, please enlighten her. 977 00:41:21,189 --> 00:41:24,442 So yes, it would be great if he would sometimes buy me 978 00:41:24,484 --> 00:41:26,236 a Rolls-Royce, but I like the ring better. 979 00:41:26,277 --> 00:41:28,363 Some people here married and don't even wanna be damn married 980 00:41:28,488 --> 00:41:30,240 no damn more. 981 00:41:30,281 --> 00:41:31,825 I don't know how I got in it. 982 00:41:31,866 --> 00:41:34,911 All I know is, I can go in my safe and I see, 983 00:41:34,994 --> 00:41:36,246 I have a wedding ring too. 984 00:41:36,329 --> 00:41:38,540 Marriage ain't just all of that. 985 00:41:38,623 --> 00:41:41,167 Difference is, I have a wedding ring and a Rolls-Royce. 986 00:41:41,251 --> 00:41:42,544 And I don't have a headache. 987 00:41:42,627 --> 00:41:44,462 Now clock that, tea. 988 00:41:46,047 --> 00:41:49,092 Well Quad, who here doesn't wanna be married anymore, 989 00:41:49,175 --> 00:41:50,301 other than me? 990 00:41:50,343 --> 00:41:52,929 [dramatic music] 991 00:41:53,013 --> 00:41:56,099 What? Yes, you do, yes you do. 992 00:41:56,141 --> 00:41:59,686 You have no idea. 993 00:42:01,438 --> 00:42:04,482 Don't say that, don't say that. Don't say that, Simone. 994 00:42:07,694 --> 00:42:10,488 Next time, on Married to Medicine. 995 00:42:10,572 --> 00:42:13,158 People file for divorce for all kind of sh-- nowadays. 996 00:42:14,826 --> 00:42:16,911 I fussed my boy out. He left. 997 00:42:17,037 --> 00:42:18,872 I don't even know where the [bleep] he is. 998 00:42:19,581 --> 00:42:21,291 Dr. Jackie wanna see you. 999 00:42:21,374 --> 00:42:22,876 - Nice to meet you. - Look how he smiles. 1000 00:42:22,959 --> 00:42:24,711 You probably delivered him. 1001 00:42:25,712 --> 00:42:27,255 You forgot your shirt off with-- 1002 00:42:27,339 --> 00:42:28,465 Bro, I love the house, 1003 00:42:28,548 --> 00:42:29,674 but I'm a little bit uncomfortable. 1004 00:42:29,799 --> 00:42:30,967 Why they naked men? 1005 00:42:31,092 --> 00:42:32,719 Don't ----ing cuss at me! 1006 00:42:32,802 --> 00:42:34,471 But the ladies next to you took it personal too. 1007 00:42:34,554 --> 00:42:36,431 [bleep] them bitches!