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Why isn't that lamp on?

2
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I made that shade for you
three sessions ago

3
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and you've never turned it on.

4
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The chemical smell coming off it

5
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led me to do some research
on papier-mâché.

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The word "flammable"
kept coming up.

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Flammable, inflammable.

8
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I can never get it straight.
Which one are kid's pajamas?

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The point is,
thin smelly paper and heat

10
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are not two things
I want to put together.

11
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Look, I have a spare room.

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I've got to do something
productive with it.

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Doesn't have to be papier-mâché.

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It could be something
more game-changing,

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like, I don't know,
driftwood furniture.

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I like it. Repurposing.

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When Christy was little,
"repurposing"

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was just a fancy word
for survival.

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You find a TV set
on the side of the road,

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you break out the glassand turn it into puppet theater.

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Inventive.

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Until it gets stolen,
then you're stuck

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with two potatoes
that have wigs.

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Uh, by the way,
how's Christy doing?

25
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She's great. Did you know
how big driftwood furniture was

26
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in the '60s?

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I think it's time
for a comeback,

28
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like civil disobedience
and feathered hair.

29
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You have no idea how great
I looked with feathered hair.

30
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I have another client whose
daughter went away to college.

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It's a big life change.

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It's hard to concentrate
on what you're saying,

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what with it
being so dark in here.

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Fine, I'll turn it on.

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Huh.

36
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Maybe I was wrong.

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Really gives the room
a nice, warm glow.

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Oh!

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Say what you will,
but that was frickin' cool.

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♪

41
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Mm-mm. Mm-mm.

42
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Ooh.

43
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How many dating
sites are you on?

44
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All of them,
including Farmers Only.

45
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I can get a whole lot
of house in Iowa.

46
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You have a whole lot
of house here.

47
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Yeah, but it doesn't
have a sexy farmer in it.

48
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I don't know. I havea bone to pick with farmers.

49
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Why should the whole worldhave to change their clocks

50
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twice a year just because theydon't want to work in the dark?

51
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Bring a flashlight.

52
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Jill, I think it's great
you're trying to be proactive,

53
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but you and Andy
just broke up.

54
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It's okay to be sad.

55
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Nope. I'm skipping
over the "sweatpants,

56
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"pint of ice cream, head
under the water in the tub

57
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a little too long" stage.

58
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Hey, what about that guy Davewho shared at the meeting today?

59
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Dave is two days sober.He's still got more meth

60
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in his systemthan a rodeo clown.

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Yeah, what I'm hearing is
he can stay up all night

62
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and has laser focus.

63
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Geez Louise, has it been
20 minutes already?

64
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We need to feed
the parking meter.

65
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You know, if you put more than
25 cents in at a time, you...

66
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Don't start with me, Tammy.

67
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Here, we should usethese nickels.

68
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I'm going to the ladies'.

69
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Oh, my God,she drives me insane.

70
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I picked up on the whole"we" means "you" thing.

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You don't even knowthe half of it.

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I mean, you guys get to seewise, patient Marjorie.

73
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I live with her.I see Marjorie raw and uncut.

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She lashes out if things
aren't done her way.

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She hovers around me going,
"No, no, no. No, no, no."

76
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All I can think of is what those"No, no, no's" would sound like

77
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under a pillow.

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[muffled]: No, no, no.That's not how you smother.

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No...

80
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Why don't you just
stand your ground?

81
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'Cause I'm more comfortable
seething with resentment.

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On my way, boss. I hate my life.

83
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So I'm thinking
I put my driftwood bin here,

84
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my table saw here.

85
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Oh, by the way, we're gonna needto go to the beach this weekend.

86
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No place my wheelchair
loves more than the beach.

87
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So you're locked
in on driftwood?

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I just said
I had a driftwood bin.

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Yes, I'm locked in on it.

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God, see, this is what
it was like for the masters.

91
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Michelangelo's husband
sat there eating a grape going,

92
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[Italian accent]: "I don't get
it, why paint on the ceilings?"

93
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Little hard to keep up.

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Yesterday you were
looking at kilns.

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This conversation is over.

96
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How do you stay so cool?

97
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'Cause I know it's not about me.

98
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She's yelling at you.
Isn't that about you?

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I used to think that,
and then I saw her yelling

100
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at a hat blowing down
the street.

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Was it a fedora?
Because a lot of us were lied to

102
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about how fashionable
those were.

103
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I'm angry, too.

104
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No, the point is
it's not personal.

105
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I just wish I could be
that zen with Marjorie.

106
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She's never satisfied
no matter how hard I try.

107
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She has 24 different sighs
to convey disappointment.

108
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She can even close the fridge
in a way that says,

109
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"You've let me down."

110
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You know, all those sentences
started with "she."

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[scoffs]
Because she's the problem.

112
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[laughs]: Hey, I get it.
It took me a long time

113
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to learn how to live
with Bonnie.

114
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But I started going
to Al-Anon meetings

115
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and that really helped me
with this whole

116
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"living with a lunatic" stuff.

117
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I don't think I'm allowed
to go to those meetings

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because I'm an alcoholic.

119
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Oh, we have plenty
of alcoholics there.

120
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We call you double winners.

121
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Double winners?Yeah.

122
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I like it already.

123
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No offense,

124
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but I think this wood drifted
out to sea for a reason.

125
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You know,
if you're gonna complain,

126
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I'm not gonna make you
one for Christmas.

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[thumping on door]

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Hey, how you doing?

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[quietly]:
You see her, too, right?

130
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Oh, uh, wow. Look at that.
[chuckles]

131
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Gorgeous, right?

132
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It certainly is
a unique shape.

133
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It's like someone
spilled something

134
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and that spill
hardened into a table.

135
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Are you bringing it
just to show me?

136
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Well, it's not going
back in my car.

137
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Oh, hi.
It's Jill, right?

138
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Aren't you sweet
to remember?

139
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How have you been?Getting heavy.

140
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Oh, uh, let me
help you with that.

141
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Well, would you look at that?

142
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Chivalry is not dead.

143
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No, but something in this table
sure smells like it is.

144
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That could be a sand crab.

145
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I probably should've
let the wood dry out.

146
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Where do you want it?
Here? Good.

147
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This is lovely.

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Big upgrade
since the last time I was here.

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Oh, yeah, no lawn chairs,
it's not dark

150
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and there's a plant in the
corner instead of me weeping.

151
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Oh, hush that fuss.

152
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It's nice to see
a man's sensitive side.

153
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Okay, Scarlett.

154
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Cutting in on my healing time.

155
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Yeah, I should get going back
to my big old lonely house.

156
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Uh, let me show you to the door.

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It's the door-shaped hole
with the door attached to it

158
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right behind me.

159
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That room is just
brimming with potential,

160
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but Adam doesn't see it.

161
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He's just not capable
of supporting my dreams.

162
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Well, your dreams have
been quite the moving target.

163
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What's that supposed to mean?

164
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Well, let me see.

165
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Um, I don't have them all,
but, uh, florist.

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Cobbler.

167
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Cartoon voice-over actor.

168
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Mayor.

169
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Excuse me, y-you've been
writing down what I say?

170
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Yeah. What do you think
I've been doing?

171
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Grocery list, drawing penises.
I don't know.

172
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How about we step back
and examine

173
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your recent
entrepreneurial impulses?

174
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And where they come from.

175
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You mean like you stepped back
to ogle my friend Jill?

176
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What?

177
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Oh, come on, I saw you.

178
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You practically stepped
on your tongue.

179
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That is ridiculous.

180
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If you say so.

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[laughs]:
Oh, I am, I'm freshly dating.

182
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I'm not ready for divorce.

183
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I-I mean...
You know what I mean.

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Wow, it's like watching
a coming-of-age movie.

185
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Can we please get back to you
and your creative pursuits?

186
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Maybe I could photograph babies.

187
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Every phone call with my mom
used to be a boxing match.

188
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So I set a boundary.

189
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I talk to her until I hear
the ice in her glass,

190
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then I say,
"Bye, Mom, I love you."

191
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Detach with love.

192
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I don't go to bed angry,
and with all my new free time,

193
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I learned to play the guitar.

194
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"Detach with love." Did
she just make that up?

195
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No, no, that's
a big one around here.

196
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Wow, it's so weird to
hear this side of it.

197
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I mean, technically, I have
heard this side of it,

198
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but I wasn't exactly
sober at my intervention.

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[applause]

200
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Would anyone else
like to share?

201
00:08:49,616 --> 00:08:50,965
Uh, hi, I'm Adam.

202
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ALL:
Hi, Adam.

203
00:08:52,227 --> 00:08:54,490
Uh, okay, well,
this won't take long.

204
00:08:54,534 --> 00:08:56,013
I had a great week,

205
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which is kind of a miracle
since my wife is spinning out.

206
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Normally,
I would try to stop it,

207
00:09:01,541 --> 00:09:03,499
but that's like trying
to stop a fan with your hand.

208
00:09:03,543 --> 00:09:06,284
[imitates grinding] And then you
just end up with a bloody stump.

209
00:09:06,328 --> 00:09:09,766
So, I just walked away.

210
00:09:09,810 --> 00:09:11,159
And let me tell you,

211
00:09:11,202 --> 00:09:13,335
I win all those fights
that don't happen.

212
00:09:13,378 --> 00:09:15,119
Thanks.

213
00:09:16,120 --> 00:09:17,687
Is that also something
you guys say?

214
00:09:17,731 --> 00:09:19,384
No, that one
I just came up with.

215
00:09:19,428 --> 00:09:21,561
[imitates explosion]

216
00:09:21,604 --> 00:09:24,085
Would our, uh, newcomer
like to share?

217
00:09:24,128 --> 00:09:25,739
Oh, sure. Uh, okay.
[clears throat]

218
00:09:25,782 --> 00:09:27,262
Hi, I'm Tammy.ALL:
Hi, Tammy.

219
00:09:27,305 --> 00:09:28,785
Uh, this is my first meeting.

220
00:09:28,829 --> 00:09:32,310
Um, I'm here because,
well, I live with an alcoholic.

221
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I also am an alcoholic,

222
00:09:34,574 --> 00:09:38,229
so from all of us
to all of you, sorry.

223
00:09:44,627 --> 00:09:46,368
Oh, no, no, no.
That's the coffee urn.

224
00:09:46,411 --> 00:09:48,196
We use the other one
for hot water.

225
00:09:48,239 --> 00:09:49,501
What's the difference?

226
00:09:49,545 --> 00:09:51,852
[scoffs]
"What's the difference?"

227
00:09:54,637 --> 00:09:56,596
[sighs]What?

228
00:09:56,639 --> 00:09:59,076
You could've saved the water.

229
00:10:01,731 --> 00:10:03,124
You know what?

230
00:10:03,167 --> 00:10:05,953
I love you,
and I think you got this.

231
00:10:08,999 --> 00:10:10,697
God, that feels good.

232
00:10:10,740 --> 00:10:13,787
What?I just Al-Anon'd the
crap out of Marjorie.

233
00:10:13,830 --> 00:10:15,397
Oh, right.
You went to Adam's meeting.

234
00:10:15,440 --> 00:10:16,441
So what did he say
about me?

235
00:10:16,485 --> 00:10:17,660
You know I can't
tell you that.

236
00:10:17,704 --> 00:10:19,140
[sighs] Thought
if I asked it real fast,

237
00:10:19,183 --> 00:10:20,532
you could make it happen.

238
00:10:21,577 --> 00:10:24,058
[sighs] I did another lap
around the room.

239
00:10:24,101 --> 00:10:26,234
None of the guys
got better looking.

240
00:10:26,277 --> 00:10:27,714
One even got worse.

241
00:10:27,757 --> 00:10:30,673
You're cruising an 11:00 a.m.
meeting on a Wednesday.

242
00:10:30,717 --> 00:10:32,022
What about Harry?

243
00:10:32,066 --> 00:10:34,024
He gave up corn
and his eczema went away.

244
00:10:34,068 --> 00:10:35,243
You know
what didn't go away?

245
00:10:35,286 --> 00:10:36,461
Complaining
about his eczema.

246
00:10:36,505 --> 00:10:38,246
We get it, Harry.
Move on.

247
00:10:39,247 --> 00:10:40,988
Bonnie, I was thinking,
would you mind if I...

248
00:10:41,031 --> 00:10:43,120
Trevor's off-limits.

249
00:10:43,164 --> 00:10:44,339
But that's not what--

250
00:10:44,382 --> 00:10:46,558
I-I mean, I wasn't even...

251
00:10:46,602 --> 00:10:48,125
Why?

252
00:10:49,474 --> 00:10:50,867
Because he's my therapist.

253
00:10:50,911 --> 00:10:52,869
I like to think he folds up
at the end of the day

254
00:10:52,913 --> 00:10:53,914
and goes in the cupboard.

255
00:10:53,957 --> 00:10:56,090
That's true.
Therapists and magicians

256
00:10:56,133 --> 00:10:58,396
should not have sex lives.

257
00:10:58,440 --> 00:10:59,963
What about me? I need one.

258
00:11:00,007 --> 00:11:02,139
I'd rather you date
the twitchy meth head.

259
00:11:02,183 --> 00:11:04,489
Oh, he's got a
girlfriend. I checked.

260
00:11:07,318 --> 00:11:09,451
Here's the thing.
The minute I decide

261
00:11:09,494 --> 00:11:12,062
what I'm gonna be doing
in that room, I'm in a box.

262
00:11:12,106 --> 00:11:14,282
And then, for the rest of my
life, I'm the hot palm reader

263
00:11:14,325 --> 00:11:15,718
in the upstairs bedroom.

264
00:11:15,762 --> 00:11:16,937
Oh, you're gonna be a psychic?

265
00:11:16,980 --> 00:11:18,460
Great, you just put me in a box.

266
00:11:18,503 --> 00:11:20,767
And I knew you were gonna do it.

267
00:11:21,985 --> 00:11:25,380
Perhaps your reluctance
to choose a course of action

268
00:11:25,423 --> 00:11:27,774
might be tied to the room
itself.

269
00:11:27,817 --> 00:11:29,384
I know.
There's a weird energy in there.

270
00:11:29,427 --> 00:11:30,994
I think it might be haunted.

271
00:11:31,038 --> 00:11:33,301
Or perhaps...

272
00:11:33,344 --> 00:11:35,477
someone you cared about deeply
used to live in it.

273
00:11:35,520 --> 00:11:37,784
I don't know
who rented it before me.

274
00:11:38,872 --> 00:11:41,918
As I recall,
they left an ashtray.

275
00:11:41,962 --> 00:11:43,485
God, don't you miss smoking?

276
00:11:43,528 --> 00:11:45,269
Oh, I smoke.

277
00:11:45,313 --> 00:11:46,967
You lucky bastard.

278
00:11:47,010 --> 00:11:49,491
Describe your last cigarette
in detail.

279
00:11:49,534 --> 00:11:52,668
But before, I was referring
to Christy.

280
00:11:52,712 --> 00:11:53,756
Why?

281
00:11:53,800 --> 00:11:54,975
Because I was trying
to make you see

282
00:11:55,018 --> 00:11:56,454
that maybe you don't want
to change the room

283
00:11:56,498 --> 00:11:58,805
because, as long
as it stays the same,

284
00:11:58,848 --> 00:12:00,067
then you can still believe

285
00:12:00,110 --> 00:12:02,156
that Christy
might be coming back to it.

286
00:12:02,199 --> 00:12:04,245
And altering it means

287
00:12:04,288 --> 00:12:05,812
you might have to accept
the fact

288
00:12:05,855 --> 00:12:07,770
that she might be gone for good.

289
00:12:07,814 --> 00:12:09,467
That's ridiculous.

290
00:12:09,511 --> 00:12:10,730
Humor me.

291
00:12:10,773 --> 00:12:12,775
How about I give you
a homework assignment?

292
00:12:12,819 --> 00:12:15,038
Ugh. Go on.

293
00:12:15,082 --> 00:12:18,128
Before you worry
about what's going in,

294
00:12:18,172 --> 00:12:22,002
how about you worry about
packing up what's going out?

295
00:12:25,570 --> 00:12:26,702
Did you wear cologne
'cause you thought

296
00:12:26,746 --> 00:12:28,051
you'd see my friend Jill today?

297
00:12:28,095 --> 00:12:30,358
I'm sorry, we're out of time.

298
00:12:33,840 --> 00:12:36,364
Can we get these
groceries put away?

299
00:12:36,407 --> 00:12:39,106
Marjorie, I love you,
but I'm good.

300
00:12:39,149 --> 00:12:41,108
I didn't ask if you were good.

301
00:12:41,151 --> 00:12:42,892
I just want to get the salmon
into the fridge

302
00:12:42,936 --> 00:12:44,676
before the cats catch on.

303
00:12:44,720 --> 00:12:47,767
I love you. You got this.

304
00:12:47,810 --> 00:12:51,683
We don't leave an eggy plate
in the sink without rinsing it.

305
00:12:51,727 --> 00:12:55,122
I do. But I say that
with much affection.

306
00:12:57,602 --> 00:12:59,213
Okay.

307
00:12:59,256 --> 00:13:00,954
Time to chat.

308
00:13:01,955 --> 00:13:02,999
All of a sudden,

309
00:13:03,043 --> 00:13:05,306
you have been
very cold,

310
00:13:05,349 --> 00:13:07,569
very distant, very...

311
00:13:07,612 --> 00:13:09,223
Detached with love?

312
00:13:09,266 --> 00:13:11,747
Just because you've said
"I love you" a thousand times

313
00:13:11,791 --> 00:13:13,488
doesn't mean it's been loving.

314
00:13:13,531 --> 00:13:15,882
Well, I've been going to Al-Anon
and learning about boundaries.

315
00:13:15,925 --> 00:13:17,448
I'm familiar with that program,

316
00:13:17,492 --> 00:13:19,711
and you're not doing it right.

317
00:13:20,712 --> 00:13:22,497
See? Always correcting me.

318
00:13:22,540 --> 00:13:25,239
And I'm always pretzeling
myself to please you.

319
00:13:25,282 --> 00:13:27,415
I've never even told
you I hate salmon.

320
00:13:27,458 --> 00:13:29,678
[exhales] Weight lifted.

321
00:13:29,721 --> 00:13:31,898
I don't think you realize
how hard you are to live with.

322
00:13:31,941 --> 00:13:33,421
You have so many rules.

323
00:13:33,464 --> 00:13:35,553
[sighs]
Well, it is my house.

324
00:13:35,597 --> 00:13:37,425
Yes, but it happens at the
bistro, it happens at meetings,

325
00:13:37,468 --> 00:13:39,514
it happened in the
dressing room at Marshalls.

326
00:13:39,557 --> 00:13:41,342
I can put my own shirt on!

327
00:13:41,385 --> 00:13:42,909
It was a turtleneck, Tammy.

328
00:13:42,952 --> 00:13:44,606
They're tricky.

329
00:13:46,260 --> 00:13:48,915
I didn't realize
you were so unhappy.

330
00:13:48,958 --> 00:13:51,178
Ah. I wasunhappy,

331
00:13:51,221 --> 00:13:54,268
but now I win every
discussion I don't have.

332
00:13:54,311 --> 00:13:56,879
What?Something we say.
You wouldn't get it.

333
00:13:56,923 --> 00:13:59,055
By the way, the cats
are going to town on the salmon.

334
00:13:59,099 --> 00:14:01,014
Oh!

335
00:14:01,057 --> 00:14:03,016
No, no, no! No, no, no!

336
00:14:03,059 --> 00:14:04,887
Where do you want to start?

337
00:14:04,931 --> 00:14:06,410
I don't care.

338
00:14:06,454 --> 00:14:08,586
This is Trevor's
lame assignment.

339
00:14:08,630 --> 00:14:10,458
Okay, well, why don't
we tackle the closet first?

340
00:14:10,501 --> 00:14:12,503
Oh, good idea.

341
00:14:14,331 --> 00:14:16,116
Unbelievable.

342
00:14:16,159 --> 00:14:18,640
Christy could've packed
this up a little. [scoffs]

343
00:14:18,683 --> 00:14:20,424
Look at all these
tiny hoodies.

344
00:14:20,468 --> 00:14:21,991
You'd think I have
a ten-year-old son.

345
00:14:22,035 --> 00:14:24,298
She probably left stuff here
for when she visits.

346
00:14:24,341 --> 00:14:25,516
Oh, like that's gonna happen.

347
00:14:25,560 --> 00:14:26,517
Of course it is.

348
00:14:26,561 --> 00:14:27,910
No, she used
to call me every day.

349
00:14:27,954 --> 00:14:29,651
Now I'm lucky
if she calls me once a week.

350
00:14:29,694 --> 00:14:31,522
She's busy.Yeah, not too busy

351
00:14:31,566 --> 00:14:33,394
to have two dates with a guy.

352
00:14:33,437 --> 00:14:35,962
Too busy to tell me. I had
to hear about it from Wendy.

353
00:14:36,005 --> 00:14:37,137
Oh, you mean Bennett.

354
00:14:37,180 --> 00:14:38,312
Bennett?!

355
00:14:38,355 --> 00:14:39,922
His name is Bennett?

356
00:14:39,966 --> 00:14:41,054
[scoffs]

357
00:14:41,097 --> 00:14:42,316
Bet he wears
boat shoes.

358
00:14:42,359 --> 00:14:43,534
Bonnie!

359
00:14:43,578 --> 00:14:45,014
What? By the time
she's done with school,

360
00:14:45,058 --> 00:14:47,234
she'll be too fancy
for these clothes

361
00:14:47,277 --> 00:14:48,713
and too fancy for me!

362
00:14:48,757 --> 00:14:50,628
Those just as easily
could've gone in the boxes.

363
00:14:50,672 --> 00:14:51,891
Yeah. You're right.

364
00:14:51,934 --> 00:14:53,153
Oh, she's not
gonna need this.

365
00:14:53,196 --> 00:14:55,198
She's not
gonna need this.

366
00:14:55,242 --> 00:14:57,374
A picture of me
she obviously didn't want.

367
00:14:57,418 --> 00:14:59,942
Oh, look, the earrings I gave
her which she said she loved

368
00:14:59,986 --> 00:15:01,944
but I guess not enough
to take to law school.

369
00:15:01,988 --> 00:15:03,511
Okay, Bon,
come here and sit down.

370
00:15:03,554 --> 00:15:06,209
What, on the bed Christy's
never gonna sleep in again?

371
00:15:06,253 --> 00:15:07,950
Not gonna need this anymore!

372
00:15:11,475 --> 00:15:13,216
What's going on up there?!

373
00:15:13,260 --> 00:15:15,871
Don't worry!
My therapist told me to do this!

374
00:15:19,831 --> 00:15:21,964
[Bonnie shouting, grunting
in distance]

375
00:15:22,008 --> 00:15:24,662
What's happening?I have no idea. One minute,
we're boxing up clothes,

376
00:15:24,706 --> 00:15:26,664
the next,she's freaking out.Why?

377
00:15:26,708 --> 00:15:29,624
Christy has too many sweatshirts
and she's never coming home.

378
00:15:29,667 --> 00:15:31,191
That's crazy.

379
00:15:31,234 --> 00:15:33,106
Agreed.
Let's bail and hit a meeting.

380
00:15:33,149 --> 00:15:34,934
No, I'm not gonna bail
on my wife.

381
00:15:34,977 --> 00:15:37,110
But this isn't about you.
Don't get sucked in.

382
00:15:37,153 --> 00:15:38,720
Bloody stumps!

383
00:15:38,763 --> 00:15:41,027
Tammy, you can have boundaries
and still help people.

384
00:15:41,070 --> 00:15:44,334
Bonnie! Can you come down
so we can talk?

385
00:15:44,378 --> 00:15:45,553
BONNIE:
No!

386
00:15:45,596 --> 00:15:46,728
You tried. Let's go.

387
00:15:47,729 --> 00:15:49,122
Shh.

388
00:15:49,165 --> 00:15:51,602
Oh, it's gone quiet.
That's not good.

389
00:15:51,646 --> 00:15:54,344
All right, I'm gonna need
your help to get up the stairs.

390
00:15:54,388 --> 00:15:56,346
Piggyback
or cradle you like a baby?

391
00:15:56,390 --> 00:15:58,174
[stammers]
I can handle myself.

392
00:15:58,218 --> 00:15:59,654
I just need you
to carry my chair.

393
00:15:59,697 --> 00:16:02,265
Oh, right. God, I'm
always offering too much.

394
00:16:11,448 --> 00:16:13,059
Bonnie?

395
00:16:13,102 --> 00:16:15,104
Adam?

396
00:16:17,367 --> 00:16:19,413
What are you doing
up here?

397
00:16:19,456 --> 00:16:21,371
I came to check on you.

398
00:16:21,415 --> 00:16:24,070
Seems like you're...
having a hard time.

399
00:16:24,113 --> 00:16:25,593
Or maybe it always looks
like this.

400
00:16:25,636 --> 00:16:27,116
I don't know.
I've never seen it.

401
00:16:28,248 --> 00:16:30,467
It's usually a little neater.

402
00:16:30,511 --> 00:16:33,340
So, what are you doing
in the closet?

403
00:16:33,383 --> 00:16:34,689
Or do you hang out there?

404
00:16:34,732 --> 00:16:37,344
I don't know.
Again, first time up here.

405
00:16:38,345 --> 00:16:39,737
My daughter abandoned me.

406
00:16:39,781 --> 00:16:41,087
Aw, honey.

407
00:16:41,130 --> 00:16:42,349
It's true.

408
00:16:42,392 --> 00:16:44,177
I haven't wanted to face it,
but it's true.

409
00:16:45,178 --> 00:16:46,396
Come here.

410
00:16:48,137 --> 00:16:50,096
Trevor was right.
[cries]

411
00:16:50,139 --> 00:16:52,272
The reason I couldn't figure out
what to do with this room

412
00:16:52,315 --> 00:16:53,882
was because I...

413
00:16:53,925 --> 00:16:56,711
I didn't want to accept
that Christy's not coming back.

414
00:16:57,973 --> 00:16:59,801
I guess I just was hoping

415
00:16:59,844 --> 00:17:03,022
she'd realize she wasn't cut out
for the winter and come home.

416
00:17:03,065 --> 00:17:05,111
But...

417
00:17:05,154 --> 00:17:06,895
she's got a good coat.

418
00:17:08,375 --> 00:17:10,507
She's thriving
without me, so...

419
00:17:10,551 --> 00:17:12,814
Babe, did you ever think
that maybe she's thriving

420
00:17:12,857 --> 00:17:14,076
becauseof you?

421
00:17:14,120 --> 00:17:16,774
[exhales]
That's dumb.

422
00:17:17,775 --> 00:17:19,516
Did you know
she's dating someone?

423
00:17:19,560 --> 00:17:20,430
You mean Bennett?

424
00:17:20,474 --> 00:17:22,302
[crying]:
Oh...Shh.

425
00:17:22,345 --> 00:17:24,652
Christy's not gone forever.

426
00:17:24,695 --> 00:17:26,262
And you've been so strong.

427
00:17:26,306 --> 00:17:28,482
I'm not surprised
it's hitting you.

428
00:17:28,525 --> 00:17:29,613
I have been strong.

429
00:17:29,657 --> 00:17:31,093
Well, let me be strong tonight

430
00:17:31,137 --> 00:17:33,008
and you just let it out.

431
00:17:33,052 --> 00:17:35,445
[crying]

432
00:17:37,056 --> 00:17:40,668
Am I crazy or could we fit
a Ping-Pong table in here?

433
00:17:45,151 --> 00:17:46,717
Hey.

434
00:17:46,761 --> 00:17:48,154
Hey.[door closes]

435
00:17:48,197 --> 00:17:50,069
You want some help with that?

436
00:17:50,112 --> 00:17:51,766
Is that a trick question?

437
00:17:51,809 --> 00:17:53,463
No.

438
00:17:56,423 --> 00:17:58,729
Listen, I've been trying out
some new habits,

439
00:17:58,773 --> 00:18:01,167
and I haven't quite got
the hang of it.

440
00:18:01,210 --> 00:18:02,820
I'm sorry.

441
00:18:03,821 --> 00:18:05,127
Well,

442
00:18:05,171 --> 00:18:08,043
I have some old habits
that have crept back in,

443
00:18:08,087 --> 00:18:09,653
and I'm sorry, too.

444
00:18:09,697 --> 00:18:11,351
I love you.

445
00:18:11,394 --> 00:18:12,874
No, sincerely.
I'm not doing the thing.

446
00:18:12,917 --> 00:18:15,050
But now it sounds fake.
Forget it.

447
00:18:15,094 --> 00:18:16,486
No, no, no. I...

448
00:18:16,530 --> 00:18:18,662
[groans softly]

449
00:18:18,706 --> 00:18:20,186
I love you, too.

450
00:18:33,068 --> 00:18:35,418
[doorbell rings]

451
00:18:36,463 --> 00:18:37,420
Hi.

452
00:18:37,464 --> 00:18:38,682
Hi.

453
00:18:38,726 --> 00:18:40,206
Bonnie's not here.

454
00:18:40,249 --> 00:18:41,772
Oh, I didn't come to see Bonnie.

455
00:18:41,816 --> 00:18:43,034
I came to see you.

456
00:18:43,078 --> 00:18:44,384
As a patient?

457
00:18:44,427 --> 00:18:46,168
No, I already have a therapist.

458
00:18:46,212 --> 00:18:48,779
His name is Ted. He's
my personal shopper at Neiman's.

459
00:18:48,823 --> 00:18:49,954
[chuckles]

460
00:18:49,998 --> 00:18:51,739
I came bearing gifts.

461
00:18:52,740 --> 00:18:54,133
Wow, this is nice.

462
00:18:54,176 --> 00:18:55,264
I made it.

463
00:18:55,308 --> 00:18:56,613
I'm a little crafty, too.

464
00:18:56,657 --> 00:18:58,963
Oh, a lot crafty.
[chuckles][chuckles]

465
00:18:59,007 --> 00:19:02,141
Last time I was here, I noticed
you had a naked tissue box.

466
00:19:02,184 --> 00:19:04,534
I'm comfortable
with all things naked,

467
00:19:04,578 --> 00:19:06,188
but, in your
line of work,

468
00:19:06,232 --> 00:19:08,451
I thought it might be nice
to spruce it up a bit.

469
00:19:08,495 --> 00:19:10,453
Thank you, Jill.

470
00:19:10,497 --> 00:19:12,455
Now every time somebody
has a nervous breakdown,

471
00:19:12,499 --> 00:19:13,630
you'll think of me.

472
00:19:13,674 --> 00:19:15,719
[chuckles]
I will.[chuckles]

473
00:19:16,981 --> 00:19:21,334
Oh. Um, unfortunately,
I'm expecting a client.

474
00:19:22,422 --> 00:19:24,206
Oh. No worries.

475
00:19:24,250 --> 00:19:25,468
I got to go anyway.

476
00:19:25,512 --> 00:19:27,383
I'm parked next
to a karate studio.

477
00:19:29,211 --> 00:19:30,821
See you round.

478
00:19:30,865 --> 00:19:31,822
[chuckles softly]

479
00:19:31,866 --> 00:19:33,346
See ya.

480
00:19:38,133 --> 00:19:39,874
[whispers]:
All things naked?

481
00:19:47,577 --> 00:19:49,100
Huh.

482
00:19:49,144 --> 00:19:51,190
Perfect fit. Hmm.

483
00:19:52,234 --> 00:19:53,714
[clears throat]

484
00:19:55,455 --> 00:19:58,197
[inhales, exhales]

485
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