[Narrator] Previously on 'Sex & Violence'.
I love you.
[screaming]
It's okay. It's okay.
Just don't move. Just don't move.
I'm a victim's advocate.
Did your husband do this to you?
If your wife contacts you--
You're giving me your number?
I want to report a homicide. And come fast. Now!
You fuckin' gonna rape me?
If this had happened to my partner, he wouldn't be here.
[Therapist] Would it have happened to your partner?
They would have had an easier time raping him.
Why do you want to become foster parents?
We'd like to adopt, eventually.
This is for real?
Yes. Congratulations.
We've reached the bottom of the foster parent list.
And that's you.
Bless your ice cold heart.
Any tips on talking about it?
I've been over things with her. Just, she's pretty.
I think that's what you have to see.
That's how people have seen her and how she sees herself.
He broke your arm to control you, hmm?
Because you had your own thoughts. You spoke your mind.
But now, hmm, now, you're gonna make your own choices.
You know, you have to consider this as your two weeks notice.
Find another job.
I want you to contact me soon.
I'm sorry for your loss. I-I really liked your mother.
Hello.
Hello? Police.
AH! AH! Jesus. Fuck.
You scream like a girl, man.
Oh my God.
Ah, this is gonna be a long night.
No bars for me.
I tripped over a fucking body.
You should apply to be a CSI.
Clear.
And clear.
I'm gonna call it in.
Hanged himself.
And left the door open?
I don't know. Someone was here and then they left?
This isn't a hanging, this is autoerotic asphyxiation.
He wasn't trying to kill himself.
He was... like trying to... give himself an intense orgasm.
It's breath play. It's a fetish.
Stop lookin' at me like that.
You are a fountain of information.
Kung Fu died of it.
What?
The actor that played Kung Fu.
This was an accident. But, someone was here and took off.
How's it work?
I don't know.
How do you give yourself an orgasm hanging from a door?
I don't know.
Sounded like you knew. A lot, actually.
How do I say that? Auto what? Autoerotic what?
Look it up. Just look it up.
[pornographic movie sounds from the television]
[female voice from answering machine]
It's me. I want to see you today. Call me back Jasper.
Jasper.
Ah, Seamus.
Jasper, some of the Judges were talking at lunch today.
Seems you've lost every decision for the last couple of weeks.
Just the battles. Not the wars.
But don't you think the public deserves a vigorous prosecution?
What's going on old friend?
You can't even be bothered to stand up
when you address the court these days.
Beatrix left me.
Oh no. I knew it had to be something serious.
My God, it's hard to start again at your age.
I know when Alex left me,
I didn't know what to do with myself for almost a year.
But, I didn't let it destroy my work or my career.
But you know, if you don't stand up to address the bench,
I gonna have to find you in contempt.
♪
[knocking at door]
♪
Hi.
Ben.
Yes. Good to meet you.
Jasper.
Can I get you something? A drink maybe?
A vodka would be great.
Take a seat.
Thank you.
I have to admit. I've never done this before.
You've never been with, with an escort? Is that--
With a man.
Hmm. Well, start at the top I always say.
Or the bottom, if you prefer.
But, everybody's got to start somewhere.
Well I guess you want some money?
Thanks.
You're welcome.
So, do you want to have sex here or in the bedroom?
So soon?
No, no. No rush.
It's just I find that sometimes an hour goes by really fast.
Well, maybe you could tell me a little something about yourself.
Yeah. Sure. What do you want to know?
Are you in school or ah?
No, I haven't been in school for quite awhile. I'm a graduate.
In what?
Well, liberal arts and I have a masters in music.
Music.
Yep, Ethnomusicology.
Really.
Yep, what about you? What do you do?
Lawyer.
Should I take my clothes off?
Yeah, there is a bathroom right there.
Well, is here okay?
Fine.
Yeah. Okay.
Oh my God. You're incredibly beautiful.
You're not so bad yourself. So you gonna join me?
Uhm, do you kiss?
I don't usually kiss. But, seeing as it's your first time.
That was pretty good for your first boy kiss. I must say.
Let me loosen you up here a little.
Don't worry, I'll take good care of ya. Don't be nervous.
Um, I like your moustache.
Thank you.
I'm into vintage porn.
I've got a vintage moustache.
You've got a vintage moustache.
Do you like your nipples played with?
I don't know.
I've had my dick sucked many times in my life.
Yeah.
Could I suck yours?
Tssk, yeah.
Any tips?
Tips? Yeah, like a rocket pop.
Now, it's an acquired taste.
Ah.
You're good at that.
Ah, ah, ah, ah, ah. Umm.
Oh, ah, ah, ah.
You're a wild man. I like it.
We need to get your sperm count.
I'll get the calculator.
I want an independent auditor.
I have a microscope.
No. I've seen you count bowling scores.
Spares confuse me.
Yeah, well there's a few million spares in your spunk.
We hope.
Hi.
How are you?
Not too bad.
Why did you even bother with the t-shirt?
Something to take off.
Ummm.
So...
So.
So, your first time. What did you think?
I could learn to enjoy that.
It's not like I imagined but, nothing ever is.
No, I-I know what you mean.
Because I didn't try it until I was thirty.
You're over thirty?
Yeah. Well thank you.
I know it's weird at first cause it's like, it's...
I think the weirdness isn't so much what your skin is feeling,
I think it's more what's in your head.
Do you know what I mean? That, and the stubble.
I guess the stubble is the main difference.
No, I've been with women a lot stubblier that you are.
Gross. You're funny.
So what changed for you?
Like were you always curious about guys, or?
Maybe. You know a lot of things were off the table
when I was young and single, that seem perfectly normal now.
Hmm... well listen, I gonna get going.
I could pay you another hour.
No, I gotta, I gotta to pick up my kids in the morning
and get 'em to school.
You got kids?
Yeah, I do. I wanna show you, here.
I got two. I got a boy and a girl.
And this is Amy. Connor.
They're stunning. Like dad.
Amy is the musician and Connor likes to breaks things.
So, I'm hoping he'll go into demolition.
They're good kids.
[knocking at door] Oh, shit.
Jesus, Jasper. Sorry.
What the hell are you doing?
Are you fucking kidding me? Are you fuckingkidding me!
What are youdoing, lettin' yourself in?
I called you and I knocked. Oh my God!
Well close the door!
Well this explains a fucking laundry list of bullshit
for the last twenty-five years.
Hi, hi I'm Ben.
Hi.
Well good for you, Jasper.
Nice to meet you.
Oh, it's nice to meet you too, Ben.
Aren't you gonna say, It's not what I think?
I don't care what you think. You left.
Good thing, apparently. You're welcome.
I need to get some paperwork.
What paperwork?
On my parents. I left it here.
This couldn't have waited?
No. My father needs medical attention.
[Jasper] What's wrong?
He needs to go into a home, so they need all his paperwork.
Don't get dressed on my account.
Where are you putting him?
Oh, don't... worry about it, Jasper.
So are uh, are you gay now?
No.
Well, umm, I gotta go.
So... and you know where to find me. All right?
Bye.
Have you been hiding this?
No.
Whattaya doing, Jasper?
I'm trying. What are you doing?
I'm not trying that.
You know, Bea. For the last ten years with you,
every day I wondered if I was ever going to have sex again.
Every day I wondered that and I chose to still stay with you.
Well our estrangement has now taken on a different context.
What happens is over the last ten years, the world changed.
The whole world. But you and me, we never tried to keep up.
So I'm gonna try to figure out how I've changed
over the last ten, twenty-five years.
I'm gonna really try... Everything.
Everything. Everything!
Here're your keys.
All right, so Nora, Steven is going to take you to school.
And Kai, I'm gonna take you to see your Mom.
If that sounds all right?
[Kai] That sounds great.
Great. You get that coat on. Come here.
Hey, could you drop Nora?
It's the opposite direction.
I didn't finish my draft.
Okay, well you're gonna have to apologize to someone.
Could it be you?
No.
[Steven] Please.
I can walk myself.
No. You must never walk anywhere by yourself.
I'll take you, because you are adorable.
You can help me finish my work. Can you draw?
[Nora] Well, yeah.
Excellent.
What are you laughing at?
Hi.
This is Ginger.
Hi Ginger, I'm Marjorie. I work here.
Would you like to come in?
It's been a pretty big move for Ginger.
She should lie down.
Right. Of course. Um, let's go this way.
Room's right up the stairs.
And ah, this room's actually the closest to the bathroom.
This is where I'm gonna live?
Well. I think you're gonna get on disability.
They're not gonna give you a hard time.
Disability.
Yeah. It'll be a ltiile bit of money so you can get a place.
When you're stronger. It's not a lot of money.
But, at least you won't have to live in a room.
Besides you got time. There's lots of time.
They ah, they say your boy's coming.
This will be an easy place for him to visit you.
Not like the hospital.
But we'll keep it short at first, okay?
Thank you.
I'm worried your father's going to get off.
I fuckin' hate him.
This wasn't the first time he hurt her. Right?
As long as I can remember.
It's important you say that in court.
My mother never accepted help.
The amount of times that I tried to get her out of there.
You can only stay in that situation for so long.
I haven't, I haven't seen her in years.
I always knew this was going to happen.
You must tell that to the judge.
My mother never accepted help while she was alive.
And you think that she's gonna want my help, now?
She wouldn't. She doesn't.
She would even forgive him now.
She wouldn't even want me to testify.
No. She left him.
In the end, she left him.
She went back to him.
No. She, she was living in a safe house.
She didn't go back to live with him.
She didn't pack a bag. She just went back to see him.
And he killed her. He killed her because she left him.
She left him?
Yes. In the end, she left him.
She left--
Here have a drink. Here.
Oh, it's, it's not your fault, no.
Your mother knew that you loved her. She told me so. Oh.
It's my Irish pride.
This is so fucked up.
Oh, oh yeah, do it.
Oh, oh, oh, ah do it.
Ah, ah, oh!
Ah, oh yeah!
We shouldn't be doing this.
But we are.
No, we don't have to finish every stupid thing we start.
Hey, this is Kai. He's here to see Mrs. Kim.
Hey, Kai. Nice jacket.
Thanks.
I'm gonna get Marjorie to take you to see your Mom, okay?
Uh, you are not allowed past this point.
But if you want to help me in the kitchen
while Kai visits with his Mom, that'd be great.Cool.
Look who's here.
Kai. Come here, baby.
It's okay, Kai. Mommy's hurt but she still loves you.
You can hug her gently. It's okay.
What happened to you?
I got burned.
Honey, Daddy got angry and he hurt Mommy.
And that's why you haven't seen Daddy.
But if you do see Daddy, you don't go off with him.
You tell your foster dad.
Okay.
It's just really important that if you see daddy,
you do not go off with him. Do you understand?
Is he not my Daddy anymore?
He's just not allowed to see you, for now.
It's really important.
Ah, but you know what would make Mommy really happy?
If you gave her a hug.
Go ahead.
I love you.
No, no kisses. Just kiss my hand.
I love you.
So uh, how come they let you work here if no men are allowed?
They don't think I'm a man, I practically grew up here.
My Mom was in and outta this place so many times.
So is this like the end of the line then for you?
It's a good job.
Oh very. Just, is it your goal? Like, forever?
Forever? No. This place is always teetering on the brink.
Any plans to go to school or anything?
School, no. Anything, maybe.
Well, the world's your oyster.
Ha ha. No, it's not.
Come on, sure it is.
That's Shakespeare, you know?
World's your oyster? Really.
An oyster won't sell you its pearl, you have to steal it.
Crack it open. Take it by force.
And I don't steal what's not mine. Including husbands.
[knocking at door]
What?
Hi.
Is Alex around?
No.
Oh, ah.
Who are you?
A friend of Alex.
Do you wanna come in?
Uh, okay.
I'm just staying here.
Could I get a drink?
Um, we have water, wine, beer, liquor.
Wanna have a beer?
Do you like dogs?
Why didn't you talk to me about these things? These feelings.
I was just curious. I'm horny.
My whole body feels like a... a dry sponge. I'm the tin man.
I'm rusty and I'm just working out my kinks.
You could always make me laugh.
If you were to come back to me.
If you were to came back to me and consider having sex with me,
I wouldn't need anything else.
If that were ever possible Jasper, it's not now.
Not after this.
I mean, I'm not angry that you're trying to find happiness.
For all of my life you made me happy.
Not for a long time Jasper.
But we tried.
And these past couple of months that we've been apart, I felt--
Have been a fuckin' nightmare--
I've felt better. Okay?
I've been spending my time differently,
learning about myself.
Maybe for you it's about sex and for me, it's other things, work.
I think that we just felt like failures for so long,
because we did, we failed... Each other.
Listen, I was sorry to hear about Cassie.
She was a great dog.
Great partner.
Ah, hey at least they gave you a new bitch, huh.
Thank you Duffis.
Are you fucking my daughter?
Ah, sorry.
Get the hell outta here.
Take a hint. Don't come back.
I like him.
You can't stay here. We have to make other arrangements.
Hi Jasper. Hey, oh, nice place.
Come in. Have a drink.
Fucking huge ceilings, hey.
Hmm, just wondering... what's this?
They dismissed your case.
Why?
Lack of evidence.
So the worst thing a woman can do is fend off a rapist?
He's suing me?
That's a civil suit.
I don't do civil suits.
You're one piece of shit lawyer Jasper, aren't you?
Rapes a cop and you can't even get it to trial.
Attempted.
Attempted. Whatever the fuck!
You know, I'm not the first he tried to rape.
And I won't be his last. So that sick fuck I can handle.
But you, you piece of fucking shit crown prosecutors,
who can't put anyone behind bars,
unless there's a fucking video tape of the crime!
You, I can't do a thing about!
And you are worse than the rapists and the muggers.
[whispered] Get out of my house.
[whispered] Make me.
[whispered] Quickly, get out of my house.
Make me.
[continued whispering] Why don't you just do what you're supposed to do?
Get to the hospital. I could have had his DNA all over you
and I could have put that mother fucker away,
where he belonged for the duration.
How did it go?
They didn't really tell me.
They want him to go back every couple'a days though.
Did you see the mother? Was she some kind of junkie?
They didn't let me go upstairs.
Poor kid, mother like that.
[persistent knocking]
What is the nature of this?
Bachelorette.
And you are?
The entertainment.
Neighbours called. What's the problem?
They won't give me my clothes. They won't pay me.
And you're bleeding.
They hit me over the head with a bottle.
Th-- why?
'Cause they're shitfaced!
Okay. See if we can't get you your clothes back.
And my money. I did strip.
Fair enough.
Oh my God! Ooh!
Oh my God, so much hotter!
[giggles, woo-hoos and clapping]
This is my badge. I'm an actual police officer.
Oh my God he's real! Oh my God!
Oh my God, you're gonna bust a gut.
[girls loudly laugh]
I think I can explain this situation.
Satisfactor-or-ily... He... he's an asshole!
Stop. Stop. Stop.
He-he-he stopped too soon, he tried to rip us off.
He told me to shut up, FOR NO FUCKING REASON!
Guy's got no rhythm. At all.
And he's not really all that hot.
Yes he is. That's not the point.
This... is a customer service issue.
Yeah, 'cause, 'cause I'm a better dancer,
and I am not even claiming to be a professional. Okay?
[hoots, hollers and laughs]
Oh my God!
HA HA HA!! You are the ralph queen.
Honestly, nobody pukes like her.
She's the RALPH QUEEN!
Aw, oh no, come on honey.
Look at the little one. So cute.
[background ralphing sounds]
Do you wanna fuck me? 'Cause you can.
Lucky me.
I wanna get in your pantsss.
No thanks. I already got one asshole down there.
[Entertainer] You owe me three hundred dollars.
[clapping and cat-calls]
HEY, HEY, HEY, HEY, HEY! Simmer down!
Gimme my clothes!
Hey, hey!!
[girls cheer]
Hey.
[girls clap and cheer]
[Roach] Go. Go.
[girls clap and cheer louder]
I don't want to hear anything more about this party tonight.
Keep it down... and decent.
Hey, we're not paying you!
Can I get a ride?
What? Jesus.
Well you're gonna have to ride in the dog cage.
Wouldn't be my first time in a cage.
Well, where do you wanna go, to the E.R.?
Ah no, I think I'm all right.
You're not gonna ride around in our truck with us all night.
So, where do you want to be dropped?
I got another gig on Oxford Street.
You really make three hundred dollars for that?
Yeah.
[drunk girl] You didn't go all the way! Hey!
Straight people are somethin' fuckin' else.
Yeah, it's embarrassing.
Jesus. Don't do it sweetheart.
That short-haired girl really liked me.
Sheesh, they really all liked you.
Locker, please.
Thank you.
Beer. Thanks.
How you doin?
Good. How's your night tonight?
Where you visiting from?
New York. But, I've been living here for eleven years.
I married a local.
How's that working out?
Not so great.
I forgot my wallet. I'm gonna go to my locker.
I got ya.
First time?
No pissing, cumming or douching in the Jacuzzi.
And if you lie around on your stomach long enough,
with your ass in the air,
people will use it like a lunch room pencil sharpener.
Sociable.
Hey.
Sauna?
Sounds like a good idea to me.
So, what do you do?
Lawyer.
I know you're a lawyer.
I mean are you a top? Are you a bottom?
Frottage, red pumps, poppers? A little bit of bondage maybe?
Are you a furry, foodie?
I have no idea what you're saying.
I mean bondage. But I've never done it.
Ah, you're fascinating.
I am?
Yeah, like you just fell off the turnip truck or something.
I just fell off the married to same woman for 18 years truck.
So, you're a top.
I'm also married.
Does she know you're here?
Yes and no.
Yours?
No'ish. She left me.
Um, she's close minded?
No. She doesn't really judge people. Except, me.
Jasper, are you gonna fuck me?
You didn't come to a bathhouse to make friends?
Did you?
Hey.
Hi.
Jasper.
Liam.
Good to meet you.
Slow night in here.
Lucky me.
What's your poison, Jasper?
They got a Bayruther?
You, ah, new in town?
Nope, new in here.
Well, ah, welcome.
You're a regular?
Could say that.
You do know this is a gay bar, right?
Oh my God.
Yeah, well you wouldn't be the first to make that mistake.
I'm hopin' it's not a mistake.
But you wouldn't be my first.
Well, here's to mistakes.
[Narrator] Next time on 'Sex & Violence'.
Oh shit. Ah fuck.
Oh Rosa, I am so sorry. Ahhh.
You're the same as you were before the rape?
Attempted rape.
Yeah.
So you've always been mean, defensive and full of shit?
Yeah.
Did you sleep with a witness against Tim Fitzmorris? His son?
Alex. You really can't help yourself.
This is permanent?
And there's nothing we can do?
The Judge decides. It's not-- I'm sorry.
A lot a times children are placed back with their parents.