1 00:00:01,523 --> 00:00:03,786 Dre: Back in the day, you didn't know all that much 2 00:00:03,829 --> 00:00:05,353 about people around you -- 3 00:00:05,396 --> 00:00:09,096 your co-workers, acquaintances, your mailman. 4 00:00:09,139 --> 00:00:12,969 Most people were strangers who lived a life of mystery, 5 00:00:13,013 --> 00:00:15,798 because there was a thing called privacy. 6 00:00:15,841 --> 00:00:19,062 But since the explosion of social media, 7 00:00:19,106 --> 00:00:23,327 everyone knows everything about everybody. 8 00:00:23,371 --> 00:00:25,938 And in these politically divided times, 9 00:00:25,982 --> 00:00:29,377 this onslaught of social media means 10 00:00:29,420 --> 00:00:33,729 we know everyone's thoughts on every single issue. 11 00:00:33,772 --> 00:00:36,427 That can really change your perception of a person. 12 00:00:36,471 --> 00:00:39,213 Take Bow's cousin Gary, for example. 13 00:00:39,256 --> 00:00:41,519 I knew he lived somewhere in L.A. 14 00:00:41,563 --> 00:00:44,087 and thought you should go for it on fourth and 1. 15 00:00:44,131 --> 00:00:48,700 But social media introduced me to a whole other side of Gary. 16 00:00:48,744 --> 00:00:50,485 That's where I found out he was 17 00:00:50,528 --> 00:00:54,097 BLM's newest, whitest ally. 18 00:00:54,141 --> 00:00:57,709 So, with George Floyd's murder and the uprisings, 19 00:00:57,753 --> 00:01:00,147 I guess I shouldn't have been surprised when this happened. 20 00:01:00,190 --> 00:01:02,062 [ Cellphone ringing ] 21 00:01:02,105 --> 00:01:03,454 Hey, Gary! 22 00:01:03,498 --> 00:01:05,239 I've been waiting on this call, man. 23 00:01:05,282 --> 00:01:06,762 When is the fantasy draft? 24 00:01:06,805 --> 00:01:08,329 Gary: What are you talking about football, man? 25 00:01:08,372 --> 00:01:09,808 Turn on the news. 26 00:01:09,852 --> 00:01:12,246 America doesn't care about Black people, okay? 27 00:01:12,289 --> 00:01:20,080 We need to make a change ASAP, and you need to help me. 28 00:01:20,123 --> 00:01:21,733 Gary: Hey, man, I'm sorry to call again, 29 00:01:21,777 --> 00:01:23,692 but Bow isn't picking up, and I just got to say 30 00:01:23,735 --> 00:01:25,607 this country isso behind. 31 00:01:25,650 --> 00:01:28,044 It feels like the '80s. Or the '60s. 32 00:01:28,088 --> 00:01:29,828 Whichever decade is the most racist. 33 00:01:29,872 --> 00:01:31,221 Call me back. This is Gary. 34 00:01:31,265 --> 00:01:34,703 Yeah. Mm-hmm. This is the sixth one that he left me. 35 00:01:34,746 --> 00:01:36,052 Mm-hmm. 36 00:01:36,096 --> 00:01:38,141 Bow, our relationshipisn't meant to handle this. 37 00:01:38,185 --> 00:01:40,100 The only timeI should see Gary cry is 38 00:01:40,143 --> 00:01:43,407 when they're reuniting a soldierwith a dog at halftime. 39 00:01:43,451 --> 00:01:47,498 Gary has been emotional his entire life. 40 00:01:47,542 --> 00:01:50,632 He cried four times during the movie "Face/Off." 41 00:01:50,675 --> 00:01:52,851 That's why I don't answer any of his calls. 42 00:01:52,895 --> 00:01:54,375 Eh, ah, uh, Bow... 43 00:01:54,418 --> 00:01:57,029 I feel that White people arelosing their mind, all right? 44 00:01:57,073 --> 00:01:58,944 [ Chuckles ] They've all been reaching out 45 00:01:58,988 --> 00:02:01,599 because some meme told themto check on their Black friends. 46 00:02:01,643 --> 00:02:03,210 Oh, I know. 47 00:02:03,253 --> 00:02:04,559 I know, Dre. 48 00:02:04,602 --> 00:02:06,169 Hmm? 49 00:02:06,213 --> 00:02:08,171 Listen.[ Cellphone beeps ] 50 00:02:08,215 --> 00:02:11,174 Woman: [ Sobbing ] What happened to Americ-- 51 00:02:11,218 --> 00:02:14,003 [ Cellphone beeps ]Woman #2: I just feel so terrible about my own privilege. 52 00:02:14,046 --> 00:02:15,961 If you want to skip tennis --[ Cellphone beeps ] 53 00:02:16,005 --> 00:02:18,834 Woman #3: I think my daughter needs a Black hero right now, and I -- 54 00:02:18,877 --> 00:02:20,444 Okay. Okay. Okay. Enough. 55 00:02:20,488 --> 00:02:22,185 None of those people are my friends. 56 00:02:22,229 --> 00:02:23,273 Not a one. 57 00:02:23,317 --> 00:02:24,840 And that last woman -- 58 00:02:24,883 --> 00:02:27,103 she's just someone who found my wallet in 2005. 59 00:02:27,147 --> 00:02:28,322 That's crazy. 60 00:02:28,365 --> 00:02:29,888 Bow, you know what? 61 00:02:29,932 --> 00:02:32,891 I feel that the people who arecalling are drowning in guilt 62 00:02:32,935 --> 00:02:35,807 and are lookingfor a Black life preserver. 63 00:02:35,851 --> 00:02:38,723 But I didn't expect that from Gary! 64 00:02:38,767 --> 00:02:40,334 The best thing that you can do here 65 00:02:40,377 --> 00:02:42,336 is pretend that this call never happened. 66 00:02:42,379 --> 00:02:43,424 Mm. 67 00:02:43,467 --> 00:02:45,208 It's Gary. All right? 68 00:02:45,252 --> 00:02:46,557 So in a few weeks, 69 00:02:46,601 --> 00:02:48,733 when "The Great British Bake Off" comes back on, 70 00:02:48,777 --> 00:02:51,171 he will forget that Black lives ever mattered. 71 00:02:51,214 --> 00:02:52,433 Yeah,you're probably right. 72 00:02:52,476 --> 00:02:53,434 Mm-hmm. 73 00:02:53,477 --> 00:02:54,870 I'll delete them. Yeah. 74 00:02:54,913 --> 00:02:57,960 Maybe it'll all go awayon its own, 75 00:02:58,003 --> 00:03:01,659 just like a jury summonsor a red light ticket. 76 00:03:01,703 --> 00:03:02,921 Pshh.[ Cellphone chimes ] 77 00:03:02,965 --> 00:03:04,880 Oh! Look at this. 78 00:03:04,923 --> 00:03:08,884 CVS is alerting us that Black lives matter 79 00:03:08,927 --> 00:03:12,322 andthere is 20% off of all Tussin. 80 00:03:12,366 --> 00:03:13,758 Oh. 81 00:03:13,802 --> 00:03:16,196 ♪♪ 82 00:03:16,239 --> 00:03:17,414 Babe, you are so sweet 83 00:03:17,458 --> 00:03:19,068 for helping me with my psych homework. 84 00:03:19,111 --> 00:03:20,374 I don't mind at all. 85 00:03:20,417 --> 00:03:22,985 I feel like psychologistsare real doctors. 86 00:03:23,028 --> 00:03:24,160 I don't care what my mom says. 87 00:03:24,204 --> 00:03:25,770 [ Toaster pops ] 88 00:03:25,814 --> 00:03:26,989 Oh, no. 89 00:03:27,032 --> 00:03:29,121 Jack, we have talked about this. 90 00:03:29,165 --> 00:03:30,688 It is hot when it comes out. 91 00:03:30,732 --> 00:03:32,342 No, no, no. I-I chipped the icing. 92 00:03:32,386 --> 00:03:34,083 Well, it's still gonna taste the same. 93 00:03:34,126 --> 00:03:36,128 It's not for me. It's for Diane. 94 00:03:36,172 --> 00:03:39,131 She places a high value on the aesthetic of the toaster pasty. 95 00:03:39,175 --> 00:03:40,742 Well, if she's that particular, 96 00:03:40,785 --> 00:03:43,005 wouldn't it just be easier for her to make it herself? 97 00:03:43,048 --> 00:03:45,964 [ Laughing ][ Laughing ] 98 00:03:46,008 --> 00:03:47,749 Junior, school your girl. 99 00:03:47,792 --> 00:03:50,186 She's clearly never been on the business end of Diane's wrath. 100 00:03:50,230 --> 00:03:52,493 [ Exhales deeply ] Mnh-mnh. 101 00:03:52,536 --> 00:03:54,234 Whoa, Junior. 102 00:03:54,277 --> 00:03:56,888 Your brother is acting out this theory in my textbook. 103 00:03:56,932 --> 00:03:59,021 [ Toaster clicks ]Jack clearly has 104 00:03:59,064 --> 00:04:01,371 what the book calls a fearful attachment. 105 00:04:01,415 --> 00:04:04,200 He will do anything to make his twin sister happy. 106 00:04:04,244 --> 00:04:06,333 Wow. That does make sense. 107 00:04:06,376 --> 00:04:08,509 You know, one time, Diane got the flu, 108 00:04:08,552 --> 00:04:10,641 and Jack immediately tried to register 109 00:04:10,685 --> 00:04:11,729 [ Toaster pops ]to be an organ donor. 110 00:04:11,773 --> 00:04:14,210 [ Inhales sharply ] Ah. 111 00:04:14,254 --> 00:04:17,953 You know, Jack, just because you love your sister 112 00:04:17,996 --> 00:04:20,477 doesn't mean you got to burn your fingerprints off for her. 113 00:04:20,521 --> 00:04:22,131 If you ever want to talk about ways 114 00:04:22,174 --> 00:04:24,176 to assert yourself in your relationship 115 00:04:24,220 --> 00:04:26,788 and break free from your fear of rejection, 116 00:04:26,831 --> 00:04:27,789 I'm here. 117 00:04:27,832 --> 00:04:29,312 I'll think about it. 118 00:04:29,356 --> 00:04:30,357 Whoa! Whoa! 119 00:04:30,400 --> 00:04:31,706 Jack, you should feel lucky 120 00:04:31,749 --> 00:04:34,404 that Olivia has blessed you with this knowledge. 121 00:04:34,448 --> 00:04:37,407 You know, some day, Mom is gonna spend hundreds of dollars 122 00:04:37,451 --> 00:04:39,061 for you to get this same kind of therapy. 123 00:04:39,104 --> 00:04:40,671 Good. 124 00:04:40,715 --> 00:04:42,978 Because I saw Grandma changing for the pool once, 125 00:04:43,021 --> 00:04:44,719 and it really messed me up. 126 00:04:44,762 --> 00:04:46,677 Ugh. 127 00:04:46,721 --> 00:04:49,985 [ Cellphone chiming ] Even though Bow told me to ignore Gary, 128 00:04:50,028 --> 00:04:52,553 it didn't seem like he was going to let me do that. 129 00:04:52,596 --> 00:04:54,511 Stevens: Hold everything. Dre's got a problem. 130 00:04:54,555 --> 00:04:57,209 My money is on bad credit score. 131 00:04:57,253 --> 00:04:58,428 Dre: No. 132 00:04:58,472 --> 00:05:00,648 Bow's White cousin Gary -- 133 00:05:00,691 --> 00:05:01,866 he wants to talk to me about race. 134 00:05:03,085 --> 00:05:04,434 How is that a problem for you? 135 00:05:04,478 --> 00:05:07,045 Yeah, you talk so much about race, Dre, 136 00:05:07,089 --> 00:05:10,092 I watch "American History X" totally differently now. 137 00:05:10,135 --> 00:05:11,746 I don't talk about it that much. 138 00:05:11,789 --> 00:05:13,443 [ Laughing ] What?![ Laughs ] 139 00:05:13,487 --> 00:05:16,838 You talk about race so much, we basically owe you tuition. 140 00:05:16,881 --> 00:05:19,406 Dre, I thought Rodney King was King of South L.A. real estate 141 00:05:19,449 --> 00:05:20,711 until I met you. 142 00:05:20,755 --> 00:05:23,671 Because of you, Dre, I now have a relationship 143 00:05:23,714 --> 00:05:25,586 with my daughter's boyfriend, Lamar. 144 00:05:25,629 --> 00:05:28,023 Your daughter has a Black boyfriend? 145 00:05:28,066 --> 00:05:30,286 Yes, Dre, she has a Black boyfriend. 146 00:05:30,330 --> 00:05:31,853 And because of you, 147 00:05:31,896 --> 00:05:35,073 I didn't assume that he wanted fried chicken for dinner. 148 00:05:35,117 --> 00:05:39,077 Well, you know, now that I think about it... 149 00:05:39,121 --> 00:05:41,950 Gary didn't call just anyBlack friend. 150 00:05:41,993 --> 00:05:43,821 No, he did not.He called the... 151 00:05:43,865 --> 00:05:45,345 Yep. ...Black friend. 152 00:05:45,388 --> 00:05:46,694 You're damn right. 153 00:05:46,737 --> 00:05:48,652 You know, he needs me. It's time I answer his call. 154 00:05:48,696 --> 00:05:49,392 Yeah. 155 00:05:49,436 --> 00:05:50,741 Feel that, Dre? 156 00:05:50,785 --> 00:05:51,742 What? 157 00:05:51,786 --> 00:05:52,961 Come on. 158 00:05:53,004 --> 00:05:54,876 That's progress. 159 00:05:54,919 --> 00:05:58,662 Thisis the dream Rodney King was talking about. 160 00:05:58,706 --> 00:06:00,403 The guys were right. 161 00:06:00,447 --> 00:06:02,100 I had to take advantage 162 00:06:02,144 --> 00:06:05,495 of the opportunity to build a better White man. 163 00:06:05,539 --> 00:06:06,757 Gary! 164 00:06:06,801 --> 00:06:08,150 Hey, man. Oh. [ Exhales deeply ] 165 00:06:08,193 --> 00:06:10,152 Hey, thanks for being down to talk. 166 00:06:10,195 --> 00:06:12,937 Hey. Well, you know what? You picked the right person. 167 00:06:12,981 --> 00:06:15,549 I am excited to be your race master. 168 00:06:15,592 --> 00:06:16,898 [ Inhales sharply ] 169 00:06:16,941 --> 00:06:19,466 Lesson number one -- let's lose the word "master." 170 00:06:19,509 --> 00:06:21,250 It gets weird real quick. 171 00:06:24,645 --> 00:06:27,212 Like a lot of White people, it turned out Gary had a ton 172 00:06:27,256 --> 00:06:28,866 that he wanted to get off his chest 173 00:06:28,910 --> 00:06:30,302 to his Black friend. 174 00:06:30,346 --> 00:06:32,174 I guess just since the uprisings, 175 00:06:32,217 --> 00:06:35,612 I've felt very lost and discouraged 176 00:06:35,656 --> 00:06:38,180 that I haven't done my fair share 177 00:06:38,223 --> 00:06:41,401 of really trying to understand the Black experience, 178 00:06:41,444 --> 00:06:42,924 and I just want to do better. 179 00:06:42,967 --> 00:06:44,534 Mm. 180 00:06:44,578 --> 00:06:47,755 So, that... is just the first step. 181 00:06:47,798 --> 00:06:49,191 Yeah. 182 00:06:49,234 --> 00:06:51,236 What if I were to give you an opportunity 183 00:06:51,280 --> 00:06:53,456 to learn more about the Black experience? 184 00:06:53,500 --> 00:06:55,197 Yes. 185 00:06:55,240 --> 00:06:56,459 Ask me anything. 186 00:06:56,503 --> 00:06:57,504 Anything? 187 00:06:57,547 --> 00:06:59,941 Yes. Anything. No question is dumb. 188 00:06:59,984 --> 00:07:01,029 Great. 189 00:07:01,072 --> 00:07:03,118 Um...what is Bruno Mars? 190 00:07:03,161 --> 00:07:04,032 He's Black, right? 191 00:07:06,469 --> 00:07:08,123 That's...your question? 192 00:07:08,166 --> 00:07:09,516 I don't know, man! I froze! 193 00:07:09,559 --> 00:07:11,300 This whole thing feels like a setup. 194 00:07:11,343 --> 00:07:13,128 No, no, no. It's -- It's not. Honestly. 195 00:07:13,171 --> 00:07:15,086 You're -- Gary, ask me anything, man. 196 00:07:15,130 --> 00:07:17,001 Just ask. Anything! 197 00:07:17,045 --> 00:07:19,264 If I'm singing alongto a rap song... Mm-hmm. 198 00:07:19,308 --> 00:07:22,050 ...and they say the N-word, do I just go silent, 199 00:07:22,093 --> 00:07:24,966 or can I say..."ninja"? 200 00:07:25,009 --> 00:07:26,707 [ Exhales deeply, chuckles ] 201 00:07:26,750 --> 00:07:28,230 Wh-- You almost had me there, Gary. 202 00:07:28,273 --> 00:07:31,451 Uh...you know, I-I-I think it's safe to say 203 00:07:31,494 --> 00:07:34,323 that you should never sing along to a rap song. 204 00:07:34,366 --> 00:07:35,367 Ever. 205 00:07:35,411 --> 00:07:36,368 But what about Macklemore? 206 00:07:36,412 --> 00:07:37,935 Eh-- 207 00:07:37,979 --> 00:07:39,067 You know what? 208 00:07:39,110 --> 00:07:40,982 Uh... 209 00:07:41,025 --> 00:07:42,505 let me break it down to you. 210 00:07:42,549 --> 00:07:45,377 ♪ Hit it Once Gary and I got going, 211 00:07:45,421 --> 00:07:47,510 something beautiful happened. 212 00:07:47,554 --> 00:07:50,687 [ Rob Base and DJ E-Z Rock's "It Takes Two" plays ] 213 00:07:50,731 --> 00:07:53,908 ♪♪ 214 00:07:53,951 --> 00:07:56,519 ♪ It takes two to make a thing go right ♪ 215 00:07:58,390 --> 00:08:00,001 ♪ It takes two to make it outta sight ♪ 216 00:08:00,044 --> 00:08:02,264 ♪♪ 217 00:08:02,307 --> 00:08:04,484 ♪ It takes two to make a thing go right ♪ 218 00:08:06,703 --> 00:08:08,792 ♪ It takes two to make it outta sight ♪ 219 00:08:09,750 --> 00:08:10,794 ♪ Hit it 220 00:08:10,838 --> 00:08:12,361 ♪ I wanna rock right now 221 00:08:12,404 --> 00:08:15,103 ♪ I'm Rob Base, and I came to get down ♪ 222 00:08:15,146 --> 00:08:16,757 ♪ I'm not internationally known ♪ 223 00:08:16,800 --> 00:08:18,367 ♪ But I'm known to rock the microphone ♪ 224 00:08:18,410 --> 00:08:19,934 All right. 225 00:08:19,977 --> 00:08:21,979 Let me ask you this. 226 00:08:22,023 --> 00:08:24,155 How many Black friends do you have? 227 00:08:24,199 --> 00:08:25,461 ♪ No, not a loser 228 00:08:25,505 --> 00:08:28,290 Not counting family members and co-workers. 229 00:08:28,333 --> 00:08:30,031 ♪ Ladies love me, girls adore me ♪ 230 00:08:30,074 --> 00:08:32,120 ♪ I mean, even the ones who never saw me ♪ 231 00:08:32,163 --> 00:08:34,078 ♪ Like the way that I rhyme at a show ♪ 232 00:08:34,122 --> 00:08:35,906 ♪ The reason why, man, I don't know ♪ 233 00:08:35,950 --> 00:08:37,560 ♪ So let's go, 'cause 234 00:08:38,996 --> 00:08:41,216 ♪ It takes two to make a thing go right ♪ 235 00:08:43,435 --> 00:08:45,568 ♪ It takes two to make it outta sight ♪ 236 00:08:45,612 --> 00:08:47,265 ♪ It takes two, i-it takes two 237 00:08:47,309 --> 00:08:48,615 ♪ I-It takes two to make a... 238 00:08:48,658 --> 00:08:51,400 So, that's how redlining 239 00:08:51,443 --> 00:08:54,838 prevented Black people from even participating 240 00:08:54,882 --> 00:08:58,625 in the greatest accumulation of wealth in American history? 241 00:08:58,668 --> 00:08:59,974 That's right. 242 00:09:00,017 --> 00:09:01,671 See, they didn't teach us that in school. 243 00:09:01,715 --> 00:09:02,977 Ha! They taught us 244 00:09:03,020 --> 00:09:06,328 that every American had the same opportunity. 245 00:09:06,371 --> 00:09:09,244 Well, that's what they wanted you to think. 246 00:09:09,287 --> 00:09:11,028 Because if Black people were responsible 247 00:09:11,072 --> 00:09:12,595 for our own oppression, 248 00:09:12,639 --> 00:09:15,990 then that would make it easier to reinforce the narrative 249 00:09:16,033 --> 00:09:18,470 of White success and Black failure. 250 00:09:18,514 --> 00:09:21,212 And if our failure was ourfault, 251 00:09:21,256 --> 00:09:22,866 then White people wouldn't have any responsibility 252 00:09:22,910 --> 00:09:23,867 to make change. 253 00:09:23,911 --> 00:09:25,521 I hear you, man. 254 00:09:25,565 --> 00:09:28,132 And I got to say, I want to be responsible, you know? 255 00:09:28,176 --> 00:09:30,221 I want to do something. Okay. 256 00:09:30,265 --> 00:09:33,877 Well, these books can explain it a whole lot better than I can. 257 00:09:33,921 --> 00:09:36,619 If you want to put in the work, that's a great place to start. 258 00:09:36,663 --> 00:09:38,316 Thanks, man. Can't wait to read. 259 00:09:38,360 --> 00:09:39,622 All right. 260 00:09:39,666 --> 00:09:41,798 Hey, good luck on your journey, grasshopper. 261 00:09:41,842 --> 00:09:43,539 All right. [ Chuckles ] 262 00:09:43,583 --> 00:09:44,671 Oh! Uh, one more thing. 263 00:09:44,714 --> 00:09:45,759 Yeah? 264 00:09:45,802 --> 00:09:47,543 Is it weird to like "Hamilton"? 265 00:09:47,587 --> 00:09:49,719 Our future's at stake, Gary. 266 00:09:49,763 --> 00:09:51,765 We don't have time for non-"Wiz" musicals. 267 00:09:51,808 --> 00:09:53,418 Right. All right? 268 00:09:53,462 --> 00:09:56,378 Now, ease on down that road. [ Laughs ] 269 00:09:56,421 --> 00:09:59,163 ♪♪ 270 00:09:59,207 --> 00:10:00,774 [ Exhales deeply ] 271 00:10:00,817 --> 00:10:02,732 Jack: Hey, Olivia. 272 00:10:02,776 --> 00:10:04,995 Once I started thinking about what you said about Diane, 273 00:10:05,039 --> 00:10:06,083 it made a lot of sense. 274 00:10:06,127 --> 00:10:07,911 I came up with a lot of grievances. 275 00:10:07,955 --> 00:10:09,696 And once I got going, it didn't stop. 276 00:10:09,739 --> 00:10:11,088 Good job.Wait. Wait, wait, wait, wait. 277 00:10:11,132 --> 00:10:13,917 All of this... is about Diane? 278 00:10:13,961 --> 00:10:14,831 Mm-hmm. 279 00:10:14,875 --> 00:10:16,441 [ Chuckles ] 280 00:10:16,485 --> 00:10:18,052 You're not planning on giving this to her, are you? 281 00:10:18,095 --> 00:10:20,228 No, no, no, no, no. This is great progress, Jack. 282 00:10:20,271 --> 00:10:22,099 You've identified your issues. 283 00:10:22,143 --> 00:10:23,492 Now you just got to find the time 284 00:10:23,535 --> 00:10:25,363 where you can both look each other in the eye 285 00:10:25,407 --> 00:10:26,930 and you tell her what's bothering you. 286 00:10:26,974 --> 00:10:28,366 Good job. 287 00:10:28,410 --> 00:10:31,413 Ornow that you have gotten your feelings 288 00:10:31,456 --> 00:10:33,807 out of your body and onto this paper, 289 00:10:33,850 --> 00:10:35,635 you can burn it. 290 00:10:35,678 --> 00:10:39,551 That way, no one ever gets to read it, 291 00:10:39,595 --> 00:10:43,381 and no one will ever punish you for writing it. 292 00:10:43,425 --> 00:10:45,383 Ooh, that reminds me of what she said 293 00:10:45,427 --> 00:10:47,168 when I tried to wear that fedora. 294 00:10:47,211 --> 00:10:48,517 Let me see. Wh-- 295 00:10:48,560 --> 00:10:51,041 Be right back. I need more paper. 296 00:10:51,085 --> 00:10:52,564 Wh-- 297 00:10:52,608 --> 00:10:53,827 Isn't this great? 298 00:10:53,870 --> 00:10:56,612 Jack's gonna heal his attachment issues. 299 00:10:56,656 --> 00:10:58,570 Oh, I feel really good about this. 300 00:10:58,614 --> 00:10:59,920 [ Chuckles nervously ] 301 00:10:59,963 --> 00:11:03,271 H-Hey, babe, you know I -- I love when you feel good, 302 00:11:03,314 --> 00:11:05,752 but, um... I feel like maybe 303 00:11:05,795 --> 00:11:08,711 you don't know Diane well enough to give this kind of advice. 304 00:11:08,755 --> 00:11:09,712 You know? 305 00:11:09,756 --> 00:11:11,061 Oh, really? 306 00:11:11,105 --> 00:11:12,410 Um... 307 00:11:12,454 --> 00:11:13,977 I see what's going on here. 308 00:11:14,021 --> 00:11:15,718 You want to protect Jack, 309 00:11:15,762 --> 00:11:17,938 but you're also worried about hurting myfeelings. 310 00:11:18,895 --> 00:11:20,810 Textbook anxious attachment. 311 00:11:20,854 --> 00:11:22,725 You have abandonment issues. 312 00:11:22,769 --> 00:11:24,684 What? No, I don't. 313 00:11:24,727 --> 00:11:27,251 You're so terrified you'll say or do the wrong thing, 314 00:11:27,295 --> 00:11:28,731 you try to keep me happy, 315 00:11:28,775 --> 00:11:31,342 even if that means not standing up for yourself. 316 00:11:31,386 --> 00:11:34,084 What? Okay, that is ridiculous. 317 00:11:35,999 --> 00:11:37,653 Maybe "ridiculous" is too harsh a word. 318 00:11:37,697 --> 00:11:38,741 What do you think? 319 00:11:38,785 --> 00:11:40,003 [ Smacks lips ] 320 00:11:40,047 --> 00:11:42,005 I am gonna get a book out of this family. 321 00:11:42,049 --> 00:11:43,833 [ Chuckles ] And I will buy it. 322 00:11:43,877 --> 00:11:44,704 [ Inhales sharply ] 323 00:11:46,575 --> 00:11:50,318 I had done it. I had molded a squishy mind. 324 00:11:50,361 --> 00:11:55,062 And I knew that, thanks to me, Gary was going to be an ally. 325 00:11:55,105 --> 00:11:57,542 You and Gary were up late last night. 326 00:11:57,586 --> 00:11:58,935 [ Refrigerator door closes ] 327 00:11:58,979 --> 00:12:01,851 Your cousin and I had an excellent conversation. 328 00:12:01,895 --> 00:12:03,548 Did ya? Yes. 329 00:12:03,592 --> 00:12:07,161 I led a horse to water, and I taught him how to fish. 330 00:12:07,204 --> 00:12:09,511 I am pretty sure that you can't cure 331 00:12:09,554 --> 00:12:11,948 40 years of racist conditioning in one night. 332 00:12:11,992 --> 00:12:14,777 Bow, Bow, Bow. 333 00:12:14,821 --> 00:12:17,649 This is just like the Magic Eye all over again. 334 00:12:17,693 --> 00:12:18,563 No. 335 00:12:18,607 --> 00:12:20,261 Just because you can't see it 336 00:12:20,304 --> 00:12:21,784 doesn't mean it's not there. 337 00:12:21,828 --> 00:12:23,133 That was a defective painting. 338 00:12:23,177 --> 00:12:24,831 Ha! And you need to trust me. 339 00:12:24,874 --> 00:12:27,703 I grew up in a mixed family. 340 00:12:27,747 --> 00:12:31,751 And my cousins and I had these conversations about Reagan 341 00:12:31,794 --> 00:12:33,274 all those years ago, 342 00:12:33,317 --> 00:12:35,798 the same way you're having them now. 343 00:12:35,842 --> 00:12:39,933 This is never ending, and it is not yours to fix. 344 00:12:39,976 --> 00:12:41,586 I don't mind, Bow. 345 00:12:41,630 --> 00:12:42,936 It's what I do. 346 00:12:42,979 --> 00:12:43,980 It's w-- 347 00:12:44,024 --> 00:12:45,068 Stevens. 348 00:12:45,112 --> 00:12:46,287 [ Sighs ] Josh. 349 00:12:46,330 --> 00:12:47,679 Oh, my God. 350 00:12:47,723 --> 00:12:48,898 Gary. 351 00:12:48,942 --> 00:12:50,595 [ Chuckles ] 352 00:12:50,639 --> 00:12:52,859 Give me enough time, and I can convert 353 00:12:52,902 --> 00:12:55,600 any AM radio host in this country. 354 00:12:55,644 --> 00:12:56,688 Huh. 355 00:12:56,732 --> 00:12:57,733 Watch. 356 00:12:57,777 --> 00:13:00,083 ♪♪ 357 00:13:00,127 --> 00:13:04,000 I can't believe I was ever attracted to this side of you! 358 00:13:05,088 --> 00:13:07,221 [ Cellphone rings ] 359 00:13:07,264 --> 00:13:09,614 Hey, Gary. My man. What's up? 360 00:13:09,658 --> 00:13:11,660 Dre, we need to talk. 361 00:13:11,703 --> 00:13:13,096 Uh... 362 00:13:13,140 --> 00:13:15,751 Hey, d-does it have to be right now? 363 00:13:15,795 --> 00:13:17,840 You know, I'm, uh, I'm taking care of the baby. 364 00:13:17,884 --> 00:13:18,841 Can I please come over? 365 00:13:18,885 --> 00:13:21,017 Sure. Why not? 366 00:13:21,061 --> 00:13:23,106 Good, 'cause I'm outside right now. 367 00:13:23,150 --> 00:13:24,804 What?[ Door closes ] 368 00:13:24,847 --> 00:13:27,284 Did you know that right now, as we speak, 369 00:13:27,328 --> 00:13:30,418 White gentrifiers are moving into Black communities? 370 00:13:30,461 --> 00:13:32,463 Okay, and starting their own charter schools, 371 00:13:32,507 --> 00:13:34,596 which takes away the funding from the public schools 372 00:13:34,639 --> 00:13:36,337 that everybody else has to go to? 373 00:13:36,380 --> 00:13:37,904 So that leaves the Black schools 374 00:13:37,947 --> 00:13:39,862 completely understaffed and underfunded. 375 00:13:39,906 --> 00:13:40,776 It's terrible. 376 00:13:40,820 --> 00:13:42,734 You are totally right, Gary, 377 00:13:42,778 --> 00:13:44,345 and I agree with you. 378 00:13:44,388 --> 00:13:46,173 So, tell me this -- what's your plan? 379 00:13:46,216 --> 00:13:47,870 Ha. I'm glad you asked. 380 00:13:47,914 --> 00:13:49,654 First of all, I'm starting a parents' group. 381 00:13:49,698 --> 00:13:52,222 We're gonna write letters and make calls every day 382 00:13:52,266 --> 00:13:53,876 to politicians. Okay. 383 00:13:53,920 --> 00:13:56,444 And I think I can also organize a Zoom fundraising concert 384 00:13:56,487 --> 00:13:58,533 with the bassist from The Goo Goo Dolls. 385 00:13:58,576 --> 00:14:00,317 He's a friend of a friend. Okay. 386 00:14:00,361 --> 00:14:01,579 I don't know if -- Okay. Okay. 387 00:14:01,623 --> 00:14:04,234 Gary, let me ask you this -- 388 00:14:04,278 --> 00:14:06,802 are you putting your kids in public school? 389 00:14:06,846 --> 00:14:09,152 Well, [clears throat] great question. 390 00:14:09,196 --> 00:14:11,067 And we are considering it. 391 00:14:11,111 --> 00:14:12,503 I haven't talked to Jennifer about it, 392 00:14:12,547 --> 00:14:13,896 but it is on the table. 393 00:14:13,940 --> 00:14:18,466 Are...you...sending your kids to public school? 394 00:14:18,509 --> 00:14:20,076 I mean, I wish I could. 395 00:14:20,120 --> 00:14:21,817 The school that we're zoned for, 396 00:14:21,861 --> 00:14:23,906 the -- the testing scores there are not great, so -- 397 00:14:23,950 --> 00:14:25,690 Okay. Gary, let me -- let me get this straight. 398 00:14:25,734 --> 00:14:28,215 So, you want to topple the system... Yes. 399 00:14:28,258 --> 00:14:31,131 ...but you're not willing to do the one thing that you cando? 400 00:14:31,174 --> 00:14:34,786 I hear ya, but why do my kids have to be the guinea pigs? 401 00:14:34,830 --> 00:14:36,440 I mean, yourkids don't go to public school. 402 00:14:36,484 --> 00:14:38,921 That's the whole thing! 403 00:14:38,965 --> 00:14:41,358 When White kids go to these schools, 404 00:14:41,402 --> 00:14:43,621 they suddenly find resources! 405 00:14:43,665 --> 00:14:46,537 But my Black kids going there doesn't change a thing. 406 00:14:46,581 --> 00:14:48,713 So if you're not willing to do that, 407 00:14:48,757 --> 00:14:51,107 you know, there's not much that we really need to talk about. 408 00:14:52,369 --> 00:14:54,502 Hey, I'm just trying to be an ally here. 409 00:14:54,545 --> 00:14:55,895 Okay. Hey, look, Gary. 410 00:14:55,938 --> 00:14:57,984 You know, I really thought this was a great idea, 411 00:14:58,027 --> 00:15:01,465 but I'm starting to feel like this is just a big mistake. 412 00:15:01,509 --> 00:15:03,946 I'm sorry, but I can't take you on. 413 00:15:03,990 --> 00:15:05,643 Okay? Bye. 414 00:15:05,687 --> 00:15:07,907 Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa! Look. 415 00:15:07,950 --> 00:15:11,649 I'm just a White man standing in front of his Black cousin, 416 00:15:11,693 --> 00:15:14,870 asking him to solve racism -- together. 417 00:15:14,914 --> 00:15:16,437 I can't do it, Gary. 418 00:15:16,480 --> 00:15:17,917 Hey. Lose my number, man. 419 00:15:17,960 --> 00:15:19,701 Wh-- Yeah. 420 00:15:19,744 --> 00:15:21,572 I understand what's going on. This is part of the process. 421 00:15:25,446 --> 00:15:27,361 Hey. Hey. 422 00:15:27,404 --> 00:15:29,493 What are you doing out here by yourself? 423 00:15:29,537 --> 00:15:31,843 [ Gasps ] Oh, no. 424 00:15:31,887 --> 00:15:34,150 Did you find the Playboy that your mom was in? 425 00:15:34,194 --> 00:15:36,022 I told you -- those pictures she sent to Hugh Hefner 426 00:15:36,065 --> 00:15:38,285 were unsolicited. 427 00:15:38,328 --> 00:15:39,634 No. 428 00:15:39,677 --> 00:15:42,985 I had to drop Gary. He got to be too much. 429 00:15:43,029 --> 00:15:44,160 [ Sighing ] Dre. 430 00:15:45,422 --> 00:15:48,338 Dre, Dre. 431 00:15:48,382 --> 00:15:51,037 Dre. 432 00:15:51,080 --> 00:15:55,476 Did he surprise you and do exactly what I said he would? 433 00:15:55,519 --> 00:15:57,782 Thanks for not rubbing it in. 434 00:15:57,826 --> 00:15:59,480 I knew you would end up here 435 00:15:59,523 --> 00:16:02,309 because I have done this so many times before, Dre, 436 00:16:02,352 --> 00:16:04,789 and I didn't want you to be disappointed, the way I was. 437 00:16:04,833 --> 00:16:08,054 Gary wanted to jump in and fix the entire system 438 00:16:08,097 --> 00:16:10,012 without owning his own part in it. 439 00:16:11,274 --> 00:16:14,277 Sometimes I think it's easier to post "Black lives matter" 440 00:16:14,321 --> 00:16:17,106 and shame your grandma online than look in the mirror 441 00:16:17,150 --> 00:16:18,586 and realize that you are complicit. 442 00:16:18,629 --> 00:16:19,935 Yes! 443 00:16:19,979 --> 00:16:23,156 What is it about this moment that so many people 444 00:16:23,199 --> 00:16:26,376 are finally comfortable saying Black lives matter? 445 00:16:27,595 --> 00:16:29,684 Where were they for Aiyana Jones, 446 00:16:29,727 --> 00:16:33,470 Trayvon Martin, Mike Brown, Sandra Bland? 447 00:16:33,514 --> 00:16:38,519 I think that after four years of overt tiki torch racism, 448 00:16:38,562 --> 00:16:41,391 it's socially acceptable for White people 449 00:16:41,435 --> 00:16:45,047 to finally fight for the dignity of Black people. 450 00:16:45,091 --> 00:16:45,961 That's what scares me. 451 00:16:46,005 --> 00:16:47,267 I know. 452 00:16:47,310 --> 00:16:49,791 If they can flip a switch and care, 453 00:16:49,834 --> 00:16:51,488 they can just as easily flip a switch 454 00:16:51,532 --> 00:16:52,533 and go back to notcaring. 455 00:16:52,576 --> 00:16:53,969 Agreed. 456 00:16:54,013 --> 00:16:55,492 And what are we supposed to say next time we see Gary? 457 00:16:55,536 --> 00:16:57,407 Oh, my God. Dre. 458 00:16:57,451 --> 00:16:59,801 You still want to engage him? 459 00:16:59,844 --> 00:17:01,933 He's the only oneof your family members that I like, Bow. 460 00:17:01,977 --> 00:17:03,065 What?! 461 00:17:03,109 --> 00:17:04,110 I'm not ready to let that go. 462 00:17:04,153 --> 00:17:05,676 Oh, my God. 463 00:17:05,720 --> 00:17:07,156 He goes for it on fourth and 1 464 00:17:07,200 --> 00:17:08,984 no matter where he is on the field! 465 00:17:09,028 --> 00:17:10,377 What's fourth and 1? 466 00:17:10,420 --> 00:17:12,118 See? You wouldn't understand. 467 00:17:12,161 --> 00:17:13,902 Okay. 468 00:17:13,945 --> 00:17:15,121 Okay. 469 00:17:15,164 --> 00:17:17,949 When I win the Nobel Prize for psychology, 470 00:17:17,993 --> 00:17:19,299 I'm gonna shout you out. 471 00:17:19,342 --> 00:17:20,517 You better. 472 00:17:20,561 --> 00:17:21,779 [ Chuckles ] 473 00:17:21,823 --> 00:17:22,780 Um... 474 00:17:22,824 --> 00:17:25,392 Oh, hey. How'd it go with Diane? 475 00:17:25,435 --> 00:17:26,741 Oh, well, uh, about that -- 476 00:17:26,784 --> 00:17:29,091 Actually, I've got to talk to you 477 00:17:29,135 --> 00:17:30,832 about this psychology stuff. 478 00:17:30,875 --> 00:17:32,660 Okay. 479 00:17:32,703 --> 00:17:35,576 I don't think it's a good idea for you to diagnose my family. 480 00:17:35,619 --> 00:17:39,797 Yeah, we have our problems, but what family doesn't? 481 00:17:39,841 --> 00:17:41,973 Plus, if you would've tried this on my grandma, 482 00:17:42,017 --> 00:17:43,671 she probably would've shot you in your belly. 483 00:17:43,714 --> 00:17:45,151 She's done it before. 484 00:17:45,194 --> 00:17:47,501 Why didn't you say this the other day? 485 00:17:47,544 --> 00:17:49,459 It's my usual MO to squash my feelings 486 00:17:49,503 --> 00:17:51,244 to make other people happy. 487 00:17:51,287 --> 00:17:55,509 But I love our relationship, and because of that, 488 00:17:55,552 --> 00:17:58,077 it's important that I let you know how I really feel. 489 00:17:58,120 --> 00:17:59,600 Ohh. 490 00:17:59,643 --> 00:18:01,080 I'm so sorry. 491 00:18:01,123 --> 00:18:02,733 I did it again. 492 00:18:02,777 --> 00:18:05,780 I'm always screwing something up with my dumb psych major. 493 00:18:05,823 --> 00:18:06,868 No, baby. 494 00:18:06,911 --> 00:18:08,522 Even my own family got tired of it. 495 00:18:09,740 --> 00:18:11,568 Honestly... 496 00:18:11,612 --> 00:18:13,135 I'm just trying to impress you guys. 497 00:18:13,179 --> 00:18:14,528 Aww. 498 00:18:14,571 --> 00:18:15,964 You do impress me. 499 00:18:16,007 --> 00:18:18,140 ♪♪ 500 00:18:18,184 --> 00:18:19,533 Dre: Okay. 501 00:18:19,576 --> 00:18:21,100 Ah. All right. 502 00:18:21,143 --> 00:18:23,102 Well, thank you for the beer. 503 00:18:23,145 --> 00:18:24,625 That's not all I did. 504 00:18:24,668 --> 00:18:27,193 I had a long talk with Jennifer, and... 505 00:18:27,236 --> 00:18:29,020 it looks like we're not gonna be sending our kids 506 00:18:29,064 --> 00:18:30,631 to public school next year. 507 00:18:30,674 --> 00:18:32,720 And before you say anything, I know, man -- 508 00:18:32,763 --> 00:18:34,548 I'm a hypocrite. Mm-hmm. 509 00:18:34,591 --> 00:18:37,986 But I just don't know if I can make a huge sacrifice like that 510 00:18:38,029 --> 00:18:40,815 without knowing for sure that it's gonna pay off. 511 00:18:40,858 --> 00:18:42,599 That's what a movement is -- 512 00:18:42,643 --> 00:18:45,385 many people sacrificing parts of their lives 513 00:18:45,428 --> 00:18:48,823 to move the needle, even if the needle barely moves. 514 00:18:48,866 --> 00:18:52,653 Look, man, I know your eyes are newly open 515 00:18:52,696 --> 00:18:55,177 to all of the injustice in this country 516 00:18:55,221 --> 00:18:57,179 and you want to change everything all at once. 517 00:18:57,223 --> 00:18:58,398 Yeah. 518 00:18:58,441 --> 00:19:00,356 But what matters to memost 519 00:19:00,400 --> 00:19:06,101 is that in five days, five months, five years, 520 00:19:06,145 --> 00:19:07,624 you're still doing the work. 521 00:19:09,322 --> 00:19:12,151 You're so right, man. There's so much for me to learn. 522 00:19:12,194 --> 00:19:13,935 And there's just racism everywhere. 523 00:19:13,978 --> 00:19:16,067 Got to just open my eyes to it. 524 00:19:16,111 --> 00:19:17,504 Yep. 525 00:19:17,547 --> 00:19:19,462 Okay, let's go watch Chiefs-Redskins. 526 00:19:20,942 --> 00:19:23,205 It's the Washington Football Team. 527 00:19:23,249 --> 00:19:24,859 It is? Yeah. 528 00:19:24,902 --> 00:19:28,210 And I don't know how the Chiefs got out of changing their name. 529 00:19:28,254 --> 00:19:29,864 And, uh... 530 00:19:29,907 --> 00:19:31,561 I'm gonna get some more beer. 531 00:19:31,605 --> 00:19:33,389 Oh, well, they only brew this every three years. 532 00:19:33,433 --> 00:19:35,043 It's kind of special. 533 00:19:35,086 --> 00:19:37,001 Uh, maybe they should brew it every fiveyears. 534 00:19:37,045 --> 00:19:38,438 Hey, did you read any... 535 00:19:38,481 --> 00:19:41,223 It's good that more people are talking about things 536 00:19:41,267 --> 00:19:44,618 they wouldn't talk about even just a few years ago. 537 00:19:44,661 --> 00:19:47,534 That doesn't mean that the work is easy. 538 00:19:47,577 --> 00:19:50,667 But it shows we made progress, and that's what's important. 539 00:19:53,714 --> 00:19:56,456 But then you smear it --Dre. Thank God you're here. 540 00:19:56,499 --> 00:19:57,761 Okay, Josh and I are having what I can call a disagreement... 541 00:19:57,805 --> 00:19:59,110 Sure. 542 00:19:59,154 --> 00:20:01,504 ...about what technically constitutes blackface. 543 00:20:01,548 --> 00:20:03,332 What do you think? 544 00:20:03,376 --> 00:20:04,594 Are you serious? 545 00:20:04,638 --> 00:20:06,509 Oh, yes! Dre rant! 546 00:20:06,553 --> 00:20:07,902 I got some popcorn! 547 00:20:07,945 --> 00:20:08,642 Hold. 548 00:20:08,685 --> 00:20:09,643 And go. 549 00:20:09,686 --> 00:20:11,035 You know what? 550 00:20:11,079 --> 00:20:15,431 As a little treat, I made my rant into a song. 551 00:20:15,475 --> 00:20:18,042 What? How could you possibly have known what we were gonna ask you? 552 00:20:18,086 --> 00:20:21,089 So, you find yourself wanting to ask a Black person 553 00:20:21,132 --> 00:20:23,047 a question about race. 554 00:20:23,091 --> 00:20:24,266 Uh-huh. Well... 555 00:20:24,310 --> 00:20:31,578 ♪ What a friend we have in Google ♪ 556 00:20:31,621 --> 00:20:38,759 ♪ All your questions answered there ♪ 557 00:20:38,802 --> 00:20:45,635 ♪ What a privilege to Google 558 00:20:45,679 --> 00:20:52,294 ♪ Instead of asking your Black friends ♪ 559 00:20:52,338 --> 00:20:54,470 Hey, Dre, is it racist if I make this song my -- 560 00:20:54,514 --> 00:20:56,037 ♪ Oh, what peace it is... 561 00:20:56,080 --> 00:20:58,213 You know what? I'll just listen to the words.