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- It's nice to meet you.
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- 10 singles took a daring
leap of faith to find love.
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They married
complete strangers.
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- ♪ go, go, go ♪
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- ♪ I'm coming home,
back where I belong ♪
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♪ I'm coming home ♪
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- Last time,
the honeymoon came to an end
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And the couples started
to experience married life
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Back in nashville.
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- ♪ I'm coming home ♪
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- Nicole and chris.
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- I can't thank you enough,
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The willingness
of having your dad
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Come out and watch charlie.
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- You don't always
have to be the rock
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And the strong person.
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And I think we handled it
as a team.
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And it's just made us stronger
as a couple and a family.
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♪ ♪
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- Kirsten and shaquille.
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- We have to learn
each other's, like,
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How we live.
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- Oh, don't worry.
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I'll definitely let you know.
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We're at a good space.
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I feel like it can be better.
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And I know that
it takes me making
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Certain moves to have a better
relationship with shaquille.
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- Jasmine and airris.
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- Is that the obituary
for your dad?
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- Yeah.
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That's one of the first things
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I think about when I wake up.
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- He is trying to be
emotionally available.
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The end goal is for us
to be together
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And for us to fall in love.
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- Gina and clint.
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- I talked about, like,
slender and athletic.
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It was the wrong choice
of words.
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- I will say
he immediately apologized.
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It was actually healthy.
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We had to approach it head-on.
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- Looking forward
to having more time
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Collectively together
to really get to know
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Each other on that next scale.
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Finally home.
- Cheers.
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- Back in nashville.
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- Cheers to our new place.
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- Domynique and mackinley.
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- This is my hangout spot.
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- Okay.
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Is any of this yours?
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- No.
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I was up front from the get
on my living situation.
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Now it's this big thing.
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And I don't know
where things go from here.
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I wanted to not jump
into a place when I was--
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- Yeah, but like,
jump into a marriage, though?
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[pop music]
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- Hello.
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- And tonight, the couples
will move in together...
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- Is that it?
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- As real life
is about to begin.
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Like all women,
you want to be seen
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For more than just my value.
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- You want to be desired.
- Like she said.
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What the heck? Rip--
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You know, rip off my clothes,
you know what I mean?
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- Sometimes you got to be
a little uncomfortable
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To work through things.
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And we got to be open.
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- Mm-hmm.
- We got to be up front.
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- Is that bag coming in here,
or no?
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- Honestly, just like, not
really feeling it right now.
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Feel free to stay.
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- I think we both need
our space.
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[tense music]
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- My wife is like, very, very,
like, attracted to me
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And into me,
and I'm not on that same level.
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- Is there any chemistry there?
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- Not really.
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- Domynique,
what is your perspective?
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- I mean...
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- Do you want to stay married?
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Are we moving forward?
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Or is this the day
that we decide
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We're getting a divorce?
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- [sighs] I don't know.
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- ♪ it's all or nothing ♪
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- This is
"married at first sight."
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- ♪ there's no other way ♪
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♪ ♪
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♪ it's all or nothing ♪
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- ♪ we go together
like peaches and cream ♪
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♪ oh, oh, hey ♪
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♪ staying overnight,
sweet dreams ♪
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♪ oh, oh, hey ♪
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- Just excited
to meet your dogs
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Because they're gonna be
my two new sons.
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And I hope they like me,
because obviously,
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Their opinion of me
matters to you.
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- That's true.
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♪ ♪
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Hi, boys.
- Hi, puppies.
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- Come here, boys.
- Hi.
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Hi.
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Let me close the door. Hello.
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- Look at your mama.
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It's your mama.
- Hi, puppies.
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- It's your mama.
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- Hi.
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- My dogs have never
had a mom before.
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I want them to love her.
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I want my dogs,
her dog, and us
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All to be just one
big, happy family.
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That's the greeting you'll
get every day with these guys.
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- Aw, good.
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- And so this is a very big
moment for me.
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- Hello.
- Hi, boys.
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- Hi, kodah.
- This is your mama.
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- It's me.
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I'm your mama now.
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Okay, that's okay with you?
Okay.
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- And it's just
a great feeling.
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♪ ♪
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Oh, there goes kodah again.
- Okay.
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This is a bachelor bedroom
for sure, but--
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- But--
- that's okay.
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- Big, nice bed.
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- Nice, big bed.
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Is this where you sleep, kodah?
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- This is where he sleeps,
literally like right here.
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- Kodah, where do you sleep?
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- So he always has to be
on my left side.
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- So you usually--
- I usually--
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I sleep, like, in the middle.
- Okay.
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Chris's dogs are his babies.
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He would honestly jump in front
of a bus to save one of them.
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He loves his.
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I am obsessed with mine.
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So it's one of many things
we have in common.
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[dog growling]
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Is this what your dad has
taught you to do in the bed?
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- No.
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Stupid.
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Stop, kodah.
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- You know what?
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If he has seen chris
in action before
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And this is what he's doing,
then I feel pretty good
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About what my future sex life
is gonna look like,
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'cause that dog is humping.
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Kodah.
- Kodah.
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[chuckles] kodah, stop it.
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- Where do you work?
Like, where is your--
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- Literally, this is my office.
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Normally I just sit right here.
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A little fireplace--
heat actually comes out
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Of it too, in the wintertime.
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- That is really cool.
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I'm definitely thinking
about what's happening
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After the eight weeks.
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And I'm already thinking about
our next steps after that.
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And ideally,
that would be to have
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A home together
with a backyard for our dogs,
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Room for our offices,
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And just a really nice
dream home.
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And these are the--
kobe and kodah's.
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And then this is charlie.
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This is your dad.
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And this is me.
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And that's us as a family.
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And you like your mama
the best.
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Aw, that's so sweet.
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♪ ♪
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[light music]
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♪ ♪
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- Here to see dom's home
for the first time,
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Where she lives, how she lives.
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I'm sure her apartment's great.
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It's not a basement.
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I'm the big loser here
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And living
with family and friends.
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So that's my story so far.
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♪ ♪
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- Here we are.
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- Nice.
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I'm gonna take my shoes off.
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- Thank you.
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- Of course, of course.
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- This is where I come to hide.
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- I like it.
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It's very nice.
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- Thank you.
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♪ ♪
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I try to take a little pride.
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I got some boxes over there
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Because they don't believe
in storage here.
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- Okay.
- So I'm on the waiting list
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To get a storage unit.
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- Nice.
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♪ ♪
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- Feel free to, like,
browse around.
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♪ ♪
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- I mean,
I don't need to browse.
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You didn't browse my place.
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♪ ♪
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I mean, there wasn't much
to browse, but--
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- Yeah.
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♪ ♪
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- It sucks, you know.
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I expected him to, like,
want to be in my apartment
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And want to get to know me.
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But like, this is who mack is.
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Like, it's a lot.
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I want us both to be,
like, gung ho
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And excited to, like,
go and do things,
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Not, like, me, like,
having to, like,
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Push, push, push, push, push,
you know?
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I mean--
- but that's just not who I am.
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♪ ♪
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What do we have next?
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- The one place left,
the bathroom.
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- Okay.
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♪ ♪
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Nice big closet, lots of stuff.
- Yeah.
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No, this is not big.
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- Okay.
- It's small.
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It could be double the size.
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- Yeah?
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[tense music]
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Like the white here and there.
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- I like--I love white.
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- Yeah, it's very cool.
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- It's because
when I was a kid,
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My mom would not let me wear
white clothes
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Because I would always come
home and they were trashed.
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- Oh, yeah.
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- So now I'm like,
oh, I can do white.
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- Nice.
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♪ ♪
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Need help with anything?
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- Mm-mm.
- No?
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- Nope.
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- Okay.
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♪ ♪
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- Honestly, the look on
his face, his energy--
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I'm not really getting
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The fact
that he wants to be here.
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So I'm just gonna, like
pack up my stuff real quick,
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And we can get out.
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♪ ♪
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Or maybe
I shouldn't pack it at all.
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[laughs] just leave it here.
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If we did make it past,
you know,
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The next eight weeks,
like, is this somewhere
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You could see yourself staying?
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♪ ♪
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- Who knows? We'll see.
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- All right.
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Good talk.
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♪ ♪
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[mellow music]
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♪ ♪
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[knocking]
267
00:08:53,408 --> 00:08:55,141
- Hello!
- Oh!
268
00:08:55,160 --> 00:08:56,250
Easy, big guy.
269
00:08:56,252 --> 00:08:58,352
Going right for the goods.
270
00:08:58,413 --> 00:08:59,763
Hi, boy.
271
00:08:59,790 --> 00:09:02,340
- Welcome to
gangsta's paradise.
272
00:09:02,342 --> 00:09:03,416
- I see this.
273
00:09:03,535 --> 00:09:05,118
All right.
- Yeah, hey.
274
00:09:05,236 --> 00:09:06,786
- How you doing?
- Good. How's it going?
275
00:09:06,904 --> 00:09:08,830
- Yeah, it's going well.
276
00:09:08,832 --> 00:09:09,989
- Come on in. Come on in.
277
00:09:10,008 --> 00:09:11,299
- Okay, let's check it.
278
00:09:13,620 --> 00:09:15,369
- So bedroom...
279
00:09:15,430 --> 00:09:16,930
- Yeah, all your bedding.
280
00:09:17,048 --> 00:09:20,858
You can do pull-ups on this,
get ready to go to bed.
281
00:09:20,860 --> 00:09:23,061
- And then closet.
- Yeah.
282
00:09:23,179 --> 00:09:24,621
- I think I have, like,
a suitcase problem.
283
00:09:24,648 --> 00:09:26,606
I just buy bags all the time.
284
00:09:26,725 --> 00:09:28,215
- I do too.
285
00:09:28,277 --> 00:09:29,943
Yeah, gina's place
looks neatly organized.
286
00:09:30,061 --> 00:09:31,869
It's well-decorated.
287
00:09:31,871 --> 00:09:34,872
We got cool shades.
- [laughs]
288
00:09:34,874 --> 00:09:37,300
There's a--I think
I'm also a sunglass hoarder.
289
00:09:37,327 --> 00:09:39,110
Oh, those are actually--
- are these prescription?
290
00:09:39,228 --> 00:09:40,519
- Those are actually
prescription, yes.
291
00:09:40,539 --> 00:09:42,380
- [laughs]
it's like, whoa, man.
292
00:09:42,382 --> 00:09:44,432
You know, she's got room for
hank to kind of run around.
293
00:09:44,434 --> 00:09:45,809
Giddyap. Giddyap.
294
00:09:45,836 --> 00:09:47,535
- Jeez.
295
00:09:47,654 --> 00:09:50,797
- But I'm looking forward
to sharing a space together.
296
00:09:50,915 --> 00:09:52,724
It's gonna be important.
297
00:09:52,726 --> 00:09:55,168
We have got to spend time
to understand who each other is
298
00:09:55,286 --> 00:09:56,853
And if we're gonna grow
and develop,
299
00:09:56,855 --> 00:09:59,672
Because we have
a lot to work on.
300
00:09:59,791 --> 00:10:02,634
[sighs]
- [laughs]
301
00:10:02,752 --> 00:10:03,885
Hank, is that your bed, buddy?
302
00:10:04,003 --> 00:10:05,020
What is he doing?
303
00:10:05,138 --> 00:10:06,529
- Is this where
he normally lays?
304
00:10:06,531 --> 00:10:07,606
- He likes to lay up there.
305
00:10:07,724 --> 00:10:08,698
And he looks down at the park.
306
00:10:08,700 --> 00:10:10,984
- Yeah, this is comfy.
307
00:10:11,102 --> 00:10:13,911
- So how are you feeling?
308
00:10:14,030 --> 00:10:15,447
- Good.
309
00:10:15,565 --> 00:10:17,899
I mean, we've already spent
so much time together.
310
00:10:18,017 --> 00:10:20,160
And so I don't think there's
gonna be any surprises
311
00:10:20,278 --> 00:10:23,071
As far as, like,
living together.
312
00:10:23,189 --> 00:10:26,699
But no,
I'm looking forward to it.
313
00:10:26,818 --> 00:10:27,942
We'll see what happens.
314
00:10:27,961 --> 00:10:29,761
- I'm a little nervous.
315
00:10:29,763 --> 00:10:31,046
- Yeah?
316
00:10:32,749 --> 00:10:34,174
- I just don't know
how I'm feeling about,
317
00:10:34,292 --> 00:10:36,526
Like, the whole
moving in right away.
318
00:10:36,553 --> 00:10:39,028
♪ ♪
319
00:10:39,056 --> 00:10:42,866
Right now, I'm just not seeing,
like, the progression
320
00:10:42,893 --> 00:10:45,777
That I had hoped for.
321
00:10:45,779 --> 00:10:47,854
- Why is that?
322
00:10:47,972 --> 00:10:52,208
- Over the past week, like,
there's been nothing romantic.
323
00:10:52,235 --> 00:10:54,952
And that's, like, a huge part
of being in a marriage.
324
00:10:54,954 --> 00:10:56,788
- Yeah.
325
00:10:56,790 --> 00:10:58,548
- Something's, like,
seriously missing, you know?
326
00:10:58,575 --> 00:11:00,274
- Yeah.
327
00:11:00,393 --> 00:11:02,369
- Obviously, I want to spend
time getting to know you.
328
00:11:02,487 --> 00:11:04,387
But the whole, like,
jumping in and moving together
329
00:11:04,414 --> 00:11:06,280
At the place
that we're in right now,
330
00:11:06,399 --> 00:11:08,375
That's adding a level of--
331
00:11:08,493 --> 00:11:11,394
I think it would cause us to
pull apart more than it would
332
00:11:11,421 --> 00:11:13,121
Cause us to grow
because we're gonna be, like,
333
00:11:13,239 --> 00:11:15,656
Uncomfortable,
walking on eggshells, like,
334
00:11:15,717 --> 00:11:18,385
Trying to figure out,
day in and day out,
335
00:11:18,503 --> 00:11:20,403
If we're, you know, compatible.
336
00:11:20,430 --> 00:11:23,297
♪ ♪
337
00:11:23,416 --> 00:11:24,982
- This is a marriage too,
though.
338
00:11:24,984 --> 00:11:26,226
- Yeah.
339
00:11:26,344 --> 00:11:27,819
- So it's like,
sometimes you've gotta be
340
00:11:27,821 --> 00:11:29,562
A little uncomfortable
to work through things.
341
00:11:29,681 --> 00:11:30,972
And we've got to be open.
342
00:11:31,090 --> 00:11:32,673
We've got to be up front,
you know?
343
00:11:32,734 --> 00:11:33,991
The physical attraction thing
isn't there.
344
00:11:33,993 --> 00:11:34,901
- Yeah.
345
00:11:35,019 --> 00:11:36,569
- But did we commit?
346
00:11:36,688 --> 00:11:38,287
Did we say we're gonna get
married to a stranger?
347
00:11:38,289 --> 00:11:39,622
Yes.
- Mm-hmm.
348
00:11:39,624 --> 00:11:41,090
- Did we say that
we were gonna work through
349
00:11:41,118 --> 00:11:42,583
Any challenges or difficulties?
350
00:11:42,585 --> 00:11:44,585
Yes.
351
00:11:44,587 --> 00:11:46,320
- I think that I'm really
walking in, like,
352
00:11:46,439 --> 00:11:48,647
A place of uncertainty
right now.
353
00:11:48,667 --> 00:11:50,341
I know that we both signed up
for this process
354
00:11:50,343 --> 00:11:51,525
And this marriage.
355
00:11:51,545 --> 00:11:53,043
And we gave vows.
356
00:11:53,045 --> 00:11:55,396
And so the last thing
you want to do
357
00:11:55,398 --> 00:11:59,259
Is start to admit that it's
not working like you had hoped.
358
00:11:59,377 --> 00:12:02,353
- You know, maybe there
is growth that can happen.
359
00:12:02,355 --> 00:12:06,282
So I want to stick it out
and see what happens.
360
00:12:06,309 --> 00:12:08,351
♪ ♪
361
00:12:12,198 --> 00:12:13,639
- ♪ watch out ♪
362
00:12:13,758 --> 00:12:15,625
♪ I'm coming through ♪
363
00:12:15,785 --> 00:12:17,694
♪ stacking up my ws ♪
364
00:12:17,854 --> 00:12:19,553
♪ think I'm gonna let you in ♪
365
00:12:19,614 --> 00:12:21,414
♪ forget it ♪
366
00:12:21,416 --> 00:12:23,241
♪ if you want to join forces,
then let's get it ♪
367
00:12:23,359 --> 00:12:24,743
- It's such a quiet street.
368
00:12:24,861 --> 00:12:26,327
- It is.
369
00:12:26,446 --> 00:12:30,414
I'm a little nervous
because I have nine puppies.
370
00:12:30,416 --> 00:12:31,616
And at the wedding,
371
00:12:31,734 --> 00:12:33,217
When I told him
about all the dogs,
372
00:12:33,219 --> 00:12:35,336
He was very taken back by it.
373
00:12:39,158 --> 00:12:41,926
- 13 dogs?
374
00:12:42,045 --> 00:12:43,603
♪ ♪
375
00:12:43,605 --> 00:12:45,363
- I mean,
I just hope he sees that
376
00:12:45,365 --> 00:12:47,198
It's not that overwhelming.
377
00:12:47,200 --> 00:12:48,749
We'll see.
378
00:12:48,769 --> 00:12:52,979
All right,
welcome to my humble abode.
379
00:12:53,097 --> 00:12:54,831
- Dang.
380
00:12:54,858 --> 00:12:56,240
This is pretty impressive.
381
00:12:56,242 --> 00:12:58,485
Like, if I had
all of these titles,
382
00:12:58,603 --> 00:12:59,986
Like, you wouldn't be able
to tell me nothing.
383
00:13:00,104 --> 00:13:01,913
I mean, it's good
that you're humble.
384
00:13:01,915 --> 00:13:03,397
But I think you need to step
it up, like, a little bit.
385
00:13:03,516 --> 00:13:04,966
- Oh, okay.
386
00:13:05,084 --> 00:13:06,400
- Like, everybody
ain't got like crowns
387
00:13:06,519 --> 00:13:08,419
And titles and stuff.
388
00:13:08,421 --> 00:13:10,471
- That was my first
national title.
389
00:13:10,499 --> 00:13:12,539
I was national elite miss.
390
00:13:12,659 --> 00:13:15,426
[both laughing]
391
00:13:15,428 --> 00:13:17,670
You have to, like, push it.
It, like, sits.
392
00:13:17,789 --> 00:13:21,933
- You look like a black
game of thrones character.
393
00:13:21,935 --> 00:13:24,252
I told the experts
I wanted a black queen.
394
00:13:24,370 --> 00:13:26,571
Then I come in here
and I see all these crowns.
395
00:13:26,573 --> 00:13:28,747
They, like, literally gave me
a queen, a black queen.
396
00:13:28,767 --> 00:13:31,776
So it was nice just, like,
putting that crown on her head
397
00:13:31,778 --> 00:13:36,205
And just kind of seeing that,
you know, come to life.
398
00:13:36,233 --> 00:13:39,375
- And then after I gave
this title up, I--
399
00:13:39,402 --> 00:13:40,935
- What do you mean,
you gave it up to who?
400
00:13:41,053 --> 00:13:42,603
- So you only keep the title
for a year.
401
00:13:42,722 --> 00:13:43,905
- Oh, okay.
402
00:13:44,023 --> 00:13:46,832
- Yep, then I upgraded
to miss tennessee.
403
00:13:46,834 --> 00:13:48,259
- Okay.
404
00:13:48,261 --> 00:13:49,702
- And then I upgraded to
405
00:13:49,821 --> 00:13:50,887
The united states
of america's miss.
406
00:13:50,914 --> 00:13:53,798
- The whole country?
- [laughs]
407
00:13:53,800 --> 00:13:56,133
Yeah.
408
00:13:56,135 --> 00:13:59,354
- So like, what's after
miss united states?
409
00:13:59,356 --> 00:14:00,613
Like, what's after that?
- So united states
410
00:14:00,632 --> 00:14:02,948
Is kind of like the highest
of the highest.
411
00:14:02,968 --> 00:14:06,294
But there's, like, a million
different pageant systems.
412
00:14:06,412 --> 00:14:07,737
[dog barking]
413
00:14:07,764 --> 00:14:08,963
So there's just a lot
of pageant systems.
414
00:14:09,081 --> 00:14:09,964
- Somebody's barking.
415
00:14:10,082 --> 00:14:10,965
What's going on?
416
00:14:11,083 --> 00:14:12,392
- Well, that's the dogs.
417
00:14:12,510 --> 00:14:13,651
- The infinite dogs?
418
00:14:13,653 --> 00:14:14,561
- Yeah.
419
00:14:14,679 --> 00:14:16,320
- There's 20 of them, right?
420
00:14:16,322 --> 00:14:18,857
- No,
there's nine puppies left.
421
00:14:18,975 --> 00:14:21,826
And then my girl dog,
duchess, who had them.
422
00:14:21,828 --> 00:14:23,144
- Can we see these puppies
that people are buying up?
423
00:14:23,262 --> 00:14:26,155
- Let's see the puppies. Yeah.
424
00:14:26,157 --> 00:14:28,374
- These nine dogs,
I'm just imagining, like,
425
00:14:28,376 --> 00:14:30,259
What if they were all loose?
426
00:14:30,287 --> 00:14:32,003
We had a dog when I was three
in my grandmother's house.
427
00:14:32,005 --> 00:14:33,321
And the dog, like,
scratched me, like,
428
00:14:33,439 --> 00:14:34,855
In the middle of my forehead.
429
00:14:34,916 --> 00:14:36,249
And I was just kind
of like traumatized.
430
00:14:36,367 --> 00:14:37,916
And like, you know,
that's not cool.
431
00:14:37,918 --> 00:14:38,910
That's not what
I'm trying to have at home.
432
00:14:39,028 --> 00:14:41,178
[puppies whining]
433
00:14:41,180 --> 00:14:43,673
- All right, I'll let you get
the runt baby.
434
00:14:43,833 --> 00:14:45,499
- The runt baby?
435
00:14:45,618 --> 00:14:48,903
- This is the runt
of the litter, tesla.
436
00:14:48,905 --> 00:14:50,204
[playful music]
437
00:14:50,265 --> 00:14:52,506
- This don't seem so bad.
- See?
438
00:14:52,625 --> 00:14:54,175
- Till he start, like,
peeing all over the house.
439
00:14:54,293 --> 00:14:55,676
- [laughs]
440
00:14:55,795 --> 00:14:57,261
- But right now--
441
00:14:57,263 --> 00:14:59,171
So he grows to be that size?
442
00:14:59,190 --> 00:15:01,849
- We'll he'll get about--no,
he won't get as big as mama.
443
00:15:01,968 --> 00:15:03,601
And this is duchie.
444
00:15:03,719 --> 00:15:04,769
This is mama dog.
445
00:15:04,887 --> 00:15:06,771
♪ ♪
446
00:15:06,889 --> 00:15:09,223
This is the one that's coming
to the apartment.
447
00:15:09,284 --> 00:15:11,558
♪ ♪
448
00:15:11,620 --> 00:15:13,560
- If he was like this size,
like this was my puppy,
449
00:15:13,722 --> 00:15:14,954
I could let him--
450
00:15:15,073 --> 00:15:16,213
I would let him lay
in the bed with me.
451
00:15:16,215 --> 00:15:17,373
- See? I told you.
452
00:15:17,533 --> 00:15:19,024
[laughs]
453
00:15:19,044 --> 00:15:20,952
Knowing that he's, like,
enjoying the puppies
454
00:15:21,070 --> 00:15:23,054
And that aspect of my life,
455
00:15:23,056 --> 00:15:25,906
It makes me feel
more attracted to him.
456
00:15:25,967 --> 00:15:27,475
- I love the way they--
what kind are they?
457
00:15:27,477 --> 00:15:28,443
- Goldendoodles.
- Okay.
458
00:15:28,445 --> 00:15:29,802
- Mini goldendoodles.
459
00:15:29,921 --> 00:15:32,138
- So I know that I like
mini goldendoodles.
460
00:15:32,256 --> 00:15:33,881
- But I fall in love quick.
461
00:15:34,000 --> 00:15:35,450
So it also worries me.
462
00:15:35,452 --> 00:15:36,801
Like, am I gonna fall
in love with this man,
463
00:15:36,919 --> 00:15:40,087
And he'd be like, cool,
thank you, like, great job?
464
00:15:40,148 --> 00:15:43,257
I mean, who knows?
465
00:15:43,318 --> 00:15:45,551
Look, it's falling asleep.
466
00:15:45,570 --> 00:15:47,219
- I mean, that's what I do.
I'm just a natural.
467
00:15:47,238 --> 00:15:48,646
- [laughs]
468
00:15:48,764 --> 00:15:51,716
[upbeat music]
469
00:15:51,718 --> 00:15:57,938
♪ ♪
470
00:15:57,958 --> 00:16:01,459
- Welcome to my place.
471
00:16:03,262 --> 00:16:04,595
You know.
472
00:16:04,597 --> 00:16:05,746
- It's very clean.
473
00:16:05,865 --> 00:16:08,007
- Very clean, very neat.
474
00:16:08,126 --> 00:16:09,509
I'm nervous about him
seeing my place.
475
00:16:09,627 --> 00:16:12,820
Shaquille's apartment
and my apartment
476
00:16:12,847 --> 00:16:14,939
Is like day and night.
477
00:16:14,941 --> 00:16:18,092
He has, like, pictures
everywhere, plants everywhere,
478
00:16:18,210 --> 00:16:20,094
Like, a sewing station.
479
00:16:20,096 --> 00:16:22,522
And I just am a minimalist.
480
00:16:22,640 --> 00:16:25,349
So we definitely have
two different styles.
481
00:16:25,468 --> 00:16:27,868
So we'll see
what shaquille has to say.
482
00:16:27,870 --> 00:16:29,261
- You don't have bar stools?
483
00:16:29,280 --> 00:16:30,947
- No, I haven't gotten
any bar stools,
484
00:16:31,107 --> 00:16:33,098
Just the things you need.
485
00:16:33,218 --> 00:16:35,735
♪ ♪
486
00:16:35,853 --> 00:16:39,764
- It's so weird you don't
have no photos in here, like...
487
00:16:39,766 --> 00:16:41,431
- I was thinking about--
488
00:16:41,433 --> 00:16:42,391
- None of, like,
your line sisters,
489
00:16:42,419 --> 00:16:44,060
Your best friends, nobody?
490
00:16:44,087 --> 00:16:45,486
- There's some little pictures
right there.
491
00:16:45,547 --> 00:16:47,221
♪ ♪
492
00:16:47,223 --> 00:16:48,189
- I was really shocked.
493
00:16:48,191 --> 00:16:50,041
Cookies, spinach.
494
00:16:50,159 --> 00:16:52,626
I was really looking forward
to learning more about kirsten
495
00:16:52,745 --> 00:16:54,178
From her apartment.
496
00:16:54,297 --> 00:16:56,497
But it looks like
she just moved in yesterday.
497
00:16:56,516 --> 00:16:58,466
- This is my bedroom.
498
00:16:58,584 --> 00:17:00,000
[mellow music]
499
00:17:00,061 --> 00:17:01,152
- It's weird.
500
00:17:01,154 --> 00:17:03,220
♪ ♪
501
00:17:03,339 --> 00:17:05,130
I've never seen this,
like, just a person
502
00:17:05,250 --> 00:17:06,991
Who just lived very minimal,
like--
503
00:17:06,993 --> 00:17:09,210
- Mm-hmm. Not overly decorated.
504
00:17:09,370 --> 00:17:11,036
It's just enough.
505
00:17:11,038 --> 00:17:12,313
- I don't know
if it's just enough.
506
00:17:12,473 --> 00:17:14,089
I was like,
is this a model home?
507
00:17:14,091 --> 00:17:15,775
Like, did we walk
into the wrong apartment?
508
00:17:15,893 --> 00:17:17,243
It doesn't look lived in.
509
00:17:17,361 --> 00:17:18,977
- You think I need more?
510
00:17:18,997 --> 00:17:21,072
I don't need too much more.
- A nightstand or something.
511
00:17:21,190 --> 00:17:23,115
Like, where do you put
your phone at, at night?
512
00:17:23,234 --> 00:17:24,116
- On the bed.
513
00:17:24,235 --> 00:17:26,177
I put it on the bed with me.
514
00:17:26,179 --> 00:17:28,012
♪ ♪
515
00:17:28,014 --> 00:17:29,830
This is my closet.
516
00:17:29,949 --> 00:17:31,323
- Oh.
517
00:17:31,342 --> 00:17:33,684
Look at these shoes
just laying here.
518
00:17:33,686 --> 00:17:34,986
[quirky music]
519
00:17:34,988 --> 00:17:36,395
We walked in kirsten's closet,
520
00:17:36,397 --> 00:17:38,598
And I all of a sudden
got anxiety.
521
00:17:38,716 --> 00:17:40,374
Hats, purses--it was like,
522
00:17:40,393 --> 00:17:41,667
Where's the organization
in here?
523
00:17:41,686 --> 00:17:42,835
You got papers up there.
524
00:17:42,854 --> 00:17:44,412
You got books.
525
00:17:44,530 --> 00:17:46,380
Why you don't have it
hanging on the--
526
00:17:46,441 --> 00:17:47,531
- Why did I fold it over
like that?
527
00:17:47,533 --> 00:17:49,183
- [speaking indistinctly]
- [laughs]
528
00:17:49,301 --> 00:17:50,701
- This is not okay.
529
00:17:50,703 --> 00:17:52,520
We got to work together
to make sure,
530
00:17:52,638 --> 00:17:55,372
Like, our apartment that we
live in together is organized.
531
00:17:55,374 --> 00:17:56,707
- Are you stressed out
by my closet?
532
00:17:56,709 --> 00:17:58,392
- Oh, I'm so stressed.
- I can tell.
533
00:17:58,453 --> 00:18:02,729
♪ ♪
534
00:18:02,749 --> 00:18:05,691
[soft music]
535
00:18:05,810 --> 00:18:12,256
♪ ♪
536
00:18:14,085 --> 00:18:16,544
- So how you feeling?
537
00:18:16,662 --> 00:18:18,137
- Feeling okay.
538
00:18:18,256 --> 00:18:20,231
I like your place.
539
00:18:20,233 --> 00:18:21,808
Your house is nice.
- Are you sure?
540
00:18:21,926 --> 00:18:23,326
- What do you mean?
541
00:18:23,353 --> 00:18:26,237
- Your energy was very...
542
00:18:26,239 --> 00:18:28,405
"don't want to be here
right now."
543
00:18:28,407 --> 00:18:29,982
♪ ♪
544
00:18:30,101 --> 00:18:32,059
- Well, yeah.
545
00:18:32,178 --> 00:18:34,654
I mean, you know, it's just,
like, one thing after another
546
00:18:34,772 --> 00:18:36,263
That you don't like about me.
547
00:18:36,324 --> 00:18:37,931
[tense music]
548
00:18:37,992 --> 00:18:39,909
I mean, I know I'm introverted
and I'm not
549
00:18:40,069 --> 00:18:42,570
The most outgoing person
for the most part.
550
00:18:42,688 --> 00:18:46,907
But I think there's things that
I'm not getting that I want.
551
00:18:47,026 --> 00:18:50,761
So yeah, I don't know
what to think of--
552
00:18:50,763 --> 00:18:54,415
- What are those things?
553
00:18:54,533 --> 00:18:57,451
- You know, my dogs are
a huge part of my life.
554
00:18:57,512 --> 00:18:59,862
And they're treated
like family and kids.
555
00:18:59,889 --> 00:19:01,180
And so they are
on the furniture.
556
00:19:01,299 --> 00:19:02,590
They are in the bed.
557
00:19:02,708 --> 00:19:04,350
You know, they do shed.
558
00:19:04,468 --> 00:19:06,577
And I feel like
with your perspective
559
00:19:06,579 --> 00:19:08,246
And the things you want,
like, yeah,
560
00:19:08,248 --> 00:19:09,689
I don't want to bring my dogs
because it's--
561
00:19:09,807 --> 00:19:11,082
You're not comfortable with it.
562
00:19:11,084 --> 00:19:12,616
- I believe that dogs
563
00:19:12,618 --> 00:19:14,685
Should be, like, a benefit.
564
00:19:14,803 --> 00:19:16,520
And I don't believe
that dogs should, like,
565
00:19:16,639 --> 00:19:18,531
Run the household, you know?
566
00:19:18,649 --> 00:19:20,032
Like, I don't want to come in,
like,
567
00:19:20,151 --> 00:19:22,293
The comforter's covered
in dog fur.
568
00:19:22,295 --> 00:19:26,146
Like, all of that
just kind of grosses me out.
569
00:19:26,148 --> 00:19:27,740
My thing with the dogs
is, like,
570
00:19:27,858 --> 00:19:29,633
You've been here five months,
571
00:19:29,635 --> 00:19:30,984
And you haven't brought
your dogs.
572
00:19:31,045 --> 00:19:32,712
♪ ♪
573
00:19:32,830 --> 00:19:35,806
- So you don't think
my dogs are a big deal to me?
574
00:19:35,808 --> 00:19:38,158
- I mean, if they were,
I feel like
575
00:19:38,219 --> 00:19:40,386
They would have been here
by now.
576
00:19:40,504 --> 00:19:41,478
- Yeah, I guess you're right.
577
00:19:41,480 --> 00:19:42,796
I don't like my dogs.
578
00:19:42,915 --> 00:19:44,891
And I don't care
if they're here.
579
00:19:45,009 --> 00:19:46,500
[laughing]
580
00:19:46,561 --> 00:19:47,968
- That's not what I said.
581
00:19:48,087 --> 00:19:48,969
- Isn't it?
582
00:19:49,088 --> 00:19:50,396
- No.
583
00:19:50,514 --> 00:19:51,689
- I moved down here.
584
00:19:51,807 --> 00:19:54,158
I wanted to restructure,
take a break.
585
00:19:54,160 --> 00:19:55,309
I said, I'm gonna--
the donnellys.
586
00:19:55,427 --> 00:19:56,477
I'm gonna go down to tennessee.
587
00:19:56,595 --> 00:19:57,403
I've always wanted
to move there.
588
00:19:57,521 --> 00:19:58,738
- Test it out.
589
00:19:58,856 --> 00:19:59,772
- Let's take the time--
what's that?
590
00:19:59,890 --> 00:20:01,382
- Test it out.
591
00:20:01,409 --> 00:20:03,183
- Well, I didn't want
to jump into a place.
592
00:20:03,244 --> 00:20:05,002
I've been--I've spent half
my time back in michigan,
593
00:20:05,004 --> 00:20:06,304
Half the time here.
594
00:20:06,306 --> 00:20:07,488
I wasn't gonna bring them in
595
00:20:07,648 --> 00:20:09,415
Until I got an apartment
or a house.
596
00:20:09,533 --> 00:20:11,842
Maybe you think I'm not stable
because of that.
597
00:20:11,844 --> 00:20:13,085
Um...
598
00:20:13,204 --> 00:20:14,662
I do pretty well in cannabis.
599
00:20:14,780 --> 00:20:17,831
And the money thing
is not a problem at all.
600
00:20:17,950 --> 00:20:20,575
So yeah, I don't know.
601
00:20:20,637 --> 00:20:24,538
I'm just--I'm not feeling good
about where we're at.
602
00:20:24,599 --> 00:20:26,474
♪ ♪
603
00:20:28,244 --> 00:20:30,678
I don't--I don't think
you've asked once
604
00:20:30,796 --> 00:20:32,346
About my dogs, either.
605
00:20:32,464 --> 00:20:33,606
I don't think
you've asked their names,
606
00:20:33,724 --> 00:20:35,215
To see pictures of them.
607
00:20:35,276 --> 00:20:38,343
Like, it's kind of hurtful
to me, considering
608
00:20:38,363 --> 00:20:41,013
I've expressed how big
of a deal they are to me.
609
00:20:41,032 --> 00:20:43,682
- Really? We're gonna have
an argument about your dogs?
610
00:20:43,701 --> 00:20:47,119
Like, there's so much more
to be talked about.
611
00:20:47,238 --> 00:20:50,364
♪ ♪
612
00:20:50,482 --> 00:20:51,848
- Yeah, you're right.
613
00:20:51,850 --> 00:20:56,087
♪ ♪
614
00:21:00,159 --> 00:21:02,226
- ♪ turn around ♪
615
00:21:02,228 --> 00:21:04,445
♪ ♪
616
00:21:04,447 --> 00:21:06,197
♪ like I've done ♪
617
00:21:06,199 --> 00:21:07,940
♪ ♪
618
00:21:07,942 --> 00:21:09,733
- Ready to meet your brothers?
619
00:21:09,735 --> 00:21:12,052
You can see your dada.
620
00:21:12,171 --> 00:21:14,738
This will be charlie's first
time meeting his new brothers.
621
00:21:14,740 --> 00:21:18,651
I'm a little nervous because
they really have to get along.
622
00:21:18,769 --> 00:21:21,228
Um, our marriage
kind of depends on it.
623
00:21:21,347 --> 00:21:24,164
You have to be a good boy,
okay, charlie?
624
00:21:24,166 --> 00:21:26,826
Getting rid of anyone's dog
is never an option.
625
00:21:26,944 --> 00:21:29,086
And if they didn't get along,
I don't know
626
00:21:29,088 --> 00:21:30,437
What other option
we would have.
627
00:21:30,456 --> 00:21:32,197
[dog barking]
what's happening, charlie?
628
00:21:32,316 --> 00:21:35,459
[dogs barking]
629
00:21:39,598 --> 00:21:40,673
- Hey.
630
00:21:40,791 --> 00:21:43,484
Hey, hey, hey, hey, hey.
Hold on.
631
00:21:43,486 --> 00:21:46,420
- I'm imagining this scenario
is not gonna go well.
632
00:21:46,538 --> 00:21:50,016
And it's just gonna be
a dog royal rumble.
633
00:21:50,134 --> 00:21:51,759
[dogs barking]
- hey, calm down. Kodah. Kodah.
634
00:21:51,877 --> 00:21:53,944
- But charlie understands
dog language.
635
00:21:53,946 --> 00:21:56,372
So he's cool, calm,
and collected.
636
00:21:56,399 --> 00:21:57,898
He's a good boy.
637
00:21:58,017 --> 00:21:58,858
[upbeat music]
638
00:21:58,976 --> 00:22:01,352
- Kobe, kodah.
639
00:22:01,470 --> 00:22:02,561
Go ahead.
640
00:22:02,679 --> 00:22:03,804
- Charlie, come here, baby.
641
00:22:03,823 --> 00:22:04,788
- Come here.
642
00:22:04,790 --> 00:22:06,123
Go ahead.
643
00:22:06,125 --> 00:22:08,100
- Just being dogs,
doing their thing.
644
00:22:08,219 --> 00:22:09,327
- Oh, they're getting along,
though.
645
00:22:09,445 --> 00:22:11,345
No aggression.
- That's good.
646
00:22:11,464 --> 00:22:13,013
I mean, they honestly couldn't
care less about each other.
647
00:22:13,041 --> 00:22:14,773
But that's great.
648
00:22:14,792 --> 00:22:16,542
This is the dullest playdate
I've ever been to.
649
00:22:16,660 --> 00:22:20,746
But it's saving our marriage
from potential disaster.
650
00:22:20,748 --> 00:22:23,123
- Huge relief.
The temperament's good.
651
00:22:23,242 --> 00:22:25,384
But the apartment has
a two-dog limit rule.
652
00:22:25,503 --> 00:22:27,461
And between me and nicole,
we have three dogs.
653
00:22:27,579 --> 00:22:29,380
So it's definitely not ideal.
654
00:22:29,498 --> 00:22:32,349
You know, obviously,
I don't ever want charlie
655
00:22:32,351 --> 00:22:33,783
To be separate from you.
656
00:22:33,785 --> 00:22:35,394
And you know,
we'll definitely have to talk
657
00:22:35,513 --> 00:22:37,003
About figuring out
how to get them all together.
658
00:22:37,065 --> 00:22:38,822
- I'll be sad to be
without charlie for a little.
659
00:22:38,824 --> 00:22:40,474
But I know he's in good hands.
660
00:22:40,592 --> 00:22:42,326
And you'll just have to give me
extra attention
661
00:22:42,328 --> 00:22:43,419
When charlie's not there
662
00:22:43,446 --> 00:22:44,828
Because I'm used to it
from him.
663
00:22:44,830 --> 00:22:47,239
So I'll just be as needy
as the dogs.
664
00:22:47,358 --> 00:22:48,649
- I can give you
your puppy cuddles.
665
00:22:48,767 --> 00:22:50,150
It's okay.
[both laughing]
666
00:22:50,269 --> 00:22:52,144
- Thank you.
667
00:22:52,163 --> 00:22:53,687
♪ ♪
668
00:22:53,748 --> 00:22:54,930
- ♪ I am free ♪
669
00:22:54,957 --> 00:22:56,073
♪ I am me ♪
670
00:22:56,191 --> 00:22:57,591
♪ I am who I want to be ♪
671
00:22:57,593 --> 00:22:59,176
- And we're back.
672
00:22:59,178 --> 00:23:03,847
♪ ♪
673
00:23:03,849 --> 00:23:05,833
- Well, that didn't go
as planned.
674
00:23:05,951 --> 00:23:08,836
- The start to married life
is becoming real
675
00:23:08,996 --> 00:23:10,930
As our couples are faced
with the fact
676
00:23:11,048 --> 00:23:14,191
That they are living with
someone they hardly know.
677
00:23:14,193 --> 00:23:15,393
- You gonna grab it?
- You got it.
678
00:23:15,511 --> 00:23:16,635
- Oh, okay.
- You got it.
679
00:23:16,753 --> 00:23:18,345
- Oh, okay.
- You got it. Let me see.
680
00:23:18,464 --> 00:23:21,047
Let me check your muscles.
- Weak. Weak.
681
00:23:21,109 --> 00:23:24,551
- Living together can really
make or break a couple
682
00:23:24,570 --> 00:23:27,345
Because it requires
a tremendous amount
683
00:23:27,365 --> 00:23:30,207
Of cooperation and compromise.
684
00:23:30,209 --> 00:23:32,543
Both partners are
often used to living life
685
00:23:32,545 --> 00:23:34,044
On their own terms.
686
00:23:34,046 --> 00:23:36,688
And now they need
to look outside
687
00:23:36,707 --> 00:23:39,166
Their own personal wants
and needs
688
00:23:39,285 --> 00:23:42,719
In order for cohabitation
in their marriages
689
00:23:42,721 --> 00:23:44,121
To be successful.
690
00:23:44,239 --> 00:23:45,497
♪ ♪
691
00:23:45,616 --> 00:23:47,967
- Oh, buddy.
Are you excited?
692
00:23:48,085 --> 00:23:49,209
- He'll eventually lay down.
693
00:23:49,328 --> 00:23:51,637
- Huh? Are you excited?
694
00:23:51,755 --> 00:23:53,213
He's all jazzed up.
695
00:23:53,373 --> 00:23:54,381
[upbeat music]
696
00:23:54,500 --> 00:23:56,383
So what do you think?
697
00:23:56,502 --> 00:23:58,902
Like, maybe I take
the second bedroom?
698
00:23:58,904 --> 00:24:00,237
You take the first bedroom?
699
00:24:00,239 --> 00:24:01,664
Like, do we try that?
700
00:24:01,691 --> 00:24:04,241
Or do we progress to that?
701
00:24:04,243 --> 00:24:07,352
Because I want to try
to make it work.
702
00:24:07,471 --> 00:24:09,280
You know, at least giving it
an honest shot.
703
00:24:09,398 --> 00:24:11,748
- Yeah.
704
00:24:11,750 --> 00:24:16,086
I just don't want
to, like, feel forced.
705
00:24:16,088 --> 00:24:17,921
♪ ♪
706
00:24:17,923 --> 00:24:21,000
And by, like, just moving right
in, where we're at right now,
707
00:24:21,118 --> 00:24:23,410
I feel like that is
forcing something.
708
00:24:23,529 --> 00:24:26,930
So I'm just not feeling ready
for us to move in together.
709
00:24:26,932 --> 00:24:29,115
♪ ♪
710
00:24:29,177 --> 00:24:31,184
[tense music]
711
00:24:31,186 --> 00:24:34,120
- I think it would be healthy
in the relationship
712
00:24:34,182 --> 00:24:36,122
For us to have more exposure
to each other.
713
00:24:36,184 --> 00:24:39,034
So that's my perspective,
is like,
714
00:24:39,061 --> 00:24:41,127
Hey, let's give it a shot.
715
00:24:41,189 --> 00:24:42,671
But if she's not comfortable
with that,
716
00:24:42,732 --> 00:24:44,156
Then absolutely I'm not--
717
00:24:44,158 --> 00:24:45,949
I'm not gonna force anything.
718
00:24:46,068 --> 00:24:47,351
- I don't want to get
to the end of, like,
719
00:24:47,469 --> 00:24:49,770
The eight weeks
and then we're just
720
00:24:49,888 --> 00:24:51,880
Going through the motions of,
like, trying to make it work
721
00:24:51,908 --> 00:24:53,607
For the sake of that
we signed up for this.
722
00:24:53,725 --> 00:24:54,533
Do you know what I mean?
723
00:24:54,652 --> 00:24:55,792
- Yeah.
724
00:24:55,794 --> 00:25:02,833
♪ ♪
725
00:25:03,385 --> 00:25:06,353
[tense music]
726
00:25:06,380 --> 00:25:13,260
♪ ♪
727
00:25:21,053 --> 00:25:22,895
- Well, what's the plan?
728
00:25:23,013 --> 00:25:25,205
- What do you mean?
729
00:25:25,207 --> 00:25:27,157
- Are you just--
is that bag coming in here?
730
00:25:27,159 --> 00:25:28,174
Or no?
731
00:25:28,336 --> 00:25:32,379
- Um, honestly,
732
00:25:32,406 --> 00:25:34,739
Just, like, not really
feeling it right now.
733
00:25:34,741 --> 00:25:37,301
♪ ♪
734
00:25:37,419 --> 00:25:40,746
Like, I'm not gonna have
petty arguments.
735
00:25:43,400 --> 00:25:45,225
- My dogs aren't petty to me.
736
00:25:45,253 --> 00:25:47,678
So that's a petty argument
for you but not for me.
737
00:25:47,680 --> 00:25:49,421
Um...
738
00:25:49,540 --> 00:25:53,942
- The last thing I want
is for, like, this to spiral.
739
00:25:53,970 --> 00:25:58,931
You know, like,
I feel like it's pretty--
740
00:25:59,049 --> 00:26:02,434
Like, the energy right now,
I feel like, is manageable.
741
00:26:02,553 --> 00:26:03,602
You know what I mean?
742
00:26:03,721 --> 00:26:06,305
Like, I'm not feeling like,
743
00:26:06,423 --> 00:26:08,048
"oh, I hate his guts,"
you know.
744
00:26:08,067 --> 00:26:10,626
- I don't hate your guts
by any means.
745
00:26:10,653 --> 00:26:12,886
And I've expressed
multiple times
746
00:26:12,947 --> 00:26:15,856
That you're a great person.
747
00:26:15,974 --> 00:26:18,542
I feel like I've been spiraling
since the honeymoon.
748
00:26:18,544 --> 00:26:20,819
♪ ♪
749
00:26:20,937 --> 00:26:22,621
And I feel like every day
there's something else
750
00:26:22,740 --> 00:26:24,698
About me that you don't like.
751
00:26:24,816 --> 00:26:27,400
And I've made compromises
over and over,
752
00:26:27,461 --> 00:26:31,071
Whether it's horseback riding,
the sailboat, the dogs.
753
00:26:31,132 --> 00:26:33,048
But I just feel like there's
no compromise on your end.
754
00:26:33,208 --> 00:26:34,817
And it's just been
over and over
755
00:26:34,844 --> 00:26:36,543
Of things I'm doing wrong.
756
00:26:36,662 --> 00:26:37,970
And--
- what do you mean?
757
00:26:38,088 --> 00:26:39,471
'cause you're making it seem
like I just,
758
00:26:39,590 --> 00:26:43,050
Like, expect everything
to be perfect, like...
759
00:26:43,168 --> 00:26:44,735
- I honestly felt like
760
00:26:44,737 --> 00:26:46,570
That's what you expected
on the honeymoon.
761
00:26:46,572 --> 00:26:49,973
♪ ♪
762
00:26:49,975 --> 00:26:55,078
- I expected you
to want to do more.
763
00:26:55,080 --> 00:26:58,248
I expected, like,
not to have to, like,
764
00:26:58,250 --> 00:26:59,658
Push you to do things.
765
00:26:59,777 --> 00:27:02,661
Like, it is mentally
exhausting for me
766
00:27:02,780 --> 00:27:05,238
To always have to be
the smiling face,
767
00:27:05,357 --> 00:27:06,439
The supporter,
768
00:27:06,500 --> 00:27:07,908
The one to pull things
out of you
769
00:27:08,026 --> 00:27:09,926
That you might not want to do.
770
00:27:09,928 --> 00:27:12,612
Like, it is exhausting to me.
771
00:27:12,673 --> 00:27:15,115
♪ ♪
772
00:27:15,176 --> 00:27:16,616
- I don't know what to say.
773
00:27:16,677 --> 00:27:19,920
I just feel like complete
[beep] since the honeymoon,
774
00:27:20,038 --> 00:27:21,180
That I ruined your time,
775
00:27:21,298 --> 00:27:23,423
That I'm some
super negative [beep]
776
00:27:23,542 --> 00:27:25,108
Who cracks bad jokes.
777
00:27:25,110 --> 00:27:26,259
- I mean, you don't think
that I feel bad?
778
00:27:26,378 --> 00:27:29,705
Like, I felt quite [beep] too.
779
00:27:29,732 --> 00:27:32,257
So--
- I don't--I'm not sure why.
780
00:27:32,276 --> 00:27:33,934
Like, I didn't make
a single complaint
781
00:27:34,052 --> 00:27:35,786
About you the entire trip.
782
00:27:35,788 --> 00:27:38,197
♪ ♪
783
00:27:38,315 --> 00:27:39,456
- I just can't right now.
784
00:27:39,458 --> 00:27:42,459
Like, the negative attitude,
785
00:27:42,461 --> 00:27:44,703
The pettiness, and then, like,
786
00:27:44,822 --> 00:27:46,947
No apartment,
and all these things
787
00:27:47,065 --> 00:27:50,867
Just kind of combining for me,
it's just like...
788
00:27:50,986 --> 00:27:52,686
I cannot.
789
00:27:52,688 --> 00:27:53,887
So, yeah, it's fine.
790
00:27:53,889 --> 00:27:55,321
No, I'm not moving in.
791
00:27:55,383 --> 00:27:57,883
I'm gonna go home
and take a bath.
792
00:27:58,001 --> 00:27:59,760
♪ ♪
793
00:28:03,006 --> 00:28:05,132
- Yeah.
794
00:28:05,250 --> 00:28:07,467
- I think we both need
our space.
795
00:28:07,586 --> 00:28:11,730
So I guess we'll wait to see
what pastor cal has to say.
796
00:28:11,849 --> 00:28:13,490
- Yeah.
797
00:28:13,492 --> 00:28:18,404
♪ ♪
798
00:28:23,360 --> 00:28:26,762
- ♪ I'm bringing the fire ♪
799
00:28:26,789 --> 00:28:28,055
♪ I'm ultraviolet ♪
800
00:28:28,082 --> 00:28:29,056
- I'm really looking forward
801
00:28:29,083 --> 00:28:30,432
To speaking with pastor cal.
802
00:28:30,459 --> 00:28:31,675
- I don't know. For me,
803
00:28:31,677 --> 00:28:32,935
I might be
a little bit nervous.
804
00:28:32,962 --> 00:28:34,753
I'm like, what is he
gonna be asking us?
805
00:28:34,872 --> 00:28:35,987
- It's kind of like
the teacher is coming in.
806
00:28:36,006 --> 00:28:37,322
- The pastor.
807
00:28:37,341 --> 00:28:38,757
[knocking]
808
00:28:38,876 --> 00:28:40,517
- Oh, my gosh.
809
00:28:40,519 --> 00:28:41,610
Hello.
810
00:28:41,637 --> 00:28:42,928
- Hi.
811
00:28:43,046 --> 00:28:45,038
I'm meeting with the couples
because it's time
812
00:28:45,099 --> 00:28:48,441
For them to start having
those important conversations
813
00:28:48,602 --> 00:28:50,527
That will shape
their marriage.
814
00:28:50,529 --> 00:28:51,878
- Oh, man.
815
00:28:51,939 --> 00:28:53,513
What's up, pastor?
816
00:28:53,632 --> 00:28:55,048
- It's good to see you again,
brother.
817
00:28:55,109 --> 00:28:56,275
- What's up, man?
818
00:28:56,393 --> 00:28:57,317
- What are their positives?
819
00:28:57,436 --> 00:28:58,777
What are their compatibilities?
820
00:28:58,896 --> 00:29:01,421
What are their
compatible differences?
821
00:29:01,423 --> 00:29:03,690
Can this person be someone
that you can spend
822
00:29:03,809 --> 00:29:05,108
The rest of your life with?
823
00:29:05,227 --> 00:29:07,043
We believe it can be,
824
00:29:07,045 --> 00:29:09,029
But it's now time
for them to find out
825
00:29:09,147 --> 00:29:12,398
And to dig deep
and get those answers.
826
00:29:12,460 --> 00:29:13,533
So let's talk.
827
00:29:13,652 --> 00:29:14,901
Let's talk.
828
00:29:14,920 --> 00:29:15,902
I want to know
how you're doing, okay?
829
00:29:15,921 --> 00:29:17,829
How was the wedding?
830
00:29:17,948 --> 00:29:19,723
When the doors open, you came
walking down the aisle,
831
00:29:19,725 --> 00:29:20,707
What did you think?
832
00:29:20,826 --> 00:29:22,468
- Oh, I was relieved.
833
00:29:22,586 --> 00:29:24,862
Like, I thought--
I was like okay, he's--
834
00:29:24,864 --> 00:29:28,048
I thought he was fine,
so easy on the eyes.
835
00:29:28,050 --> 00:29:29,783
- Fine. Okay. All right.
- Yeah, I was--I was happy.
836
00:29:29,810 --> 00:29:31,718
- He a'ight.
[laughter]
837
00:29:31,837 --> 00:29:34,054
- Pastors hate too.
I'm learning something new.
838
00:29:34,056 --> 00:29:35,388
- Oh, whatever.
Whatever, man.
839
00:29:35,507 --> 00:29:37,641
Ain't no hate.
840
00:29:37,759 --> 00:29:38,992
Then you had the honeymoon.
841
00:29:38,994 --> 00:29:40,327
- Then we had the honeymoon.
842
00:29:40,329 --> 00:29:42,913
- Mm-hmm. And?
843
00:29:42,915 --> 00:29:44,823
- Um...
844
00:29:47,853 --> 00:29:50,754
- Hey. I'm--I'm here--
845
00:29:50,756 --> 00:29:52,405
I'm here to dive deep, man.
846
00:29:52,524 --> 00:29:56,243
- So on the honeymoon,
I was kind of like stressing
847
00:29:56,245 --> 00:30:00,914
Because my wife is like very,
very, like, attracted to me
848
00:30:01,032 --> 00:30:03,266
And into me.
849
00:30:03,268 --> 00:30:05,085
And I'm not on that
same level yet.
850
00:30:05,203 --> 00:30:06,345
Like, it's not equal.
851
00:30:06,463 --> 00:30:10,273
♪ ♪
852
00:30:10,275 --> 00:30:12,943
- Is she physically attractive?
853
00:30:12,945 --> 00:30:14,611
♪ ♪
854
00:30:14,613 --> 00:30:17,013
- She's physically attractive,
855
00:30:17,132 --> 00:30:19,691
But I feel like
people have types.
856
00:30:19,810 --> 00:30:21,026
- I'm not his type.
857
00:30:21,144 --> 00:30:23,636
- Really?
858
00:30:23,697 --> 00:30:26,006
How did you feel about that?
859
00:30:26,008 --> 00:30:28,508
- I mean, do I want him
to, like, be attracted to me
860
00:30:28,510 --> 00:30:30,118
And want to rip my clothes off?
Yeah.
861
00:30:30,120 --> 00:30:31,795
But...
- Say that again.
862
00:30:31,797 --> 00:30:33,296
[laughter]
863
00:30:33,298 --> 00:30:34,965
- Do I want him
to be attracted to me
864
00:30:34,967 --> 00:30:36,299
And want to rip my clothes off?
865
00:30:36,301 --> 00:30:38,651
- Uh-huh.
- Yeah.
866
00:30:38,712 --> 00:30:40,228
- Like,
that's one of the reasons
867
00:30:40,256 --> 00:30:43,047
I was, like, stressed out
on the honeymoon.
868
00:30:43,049 --> 00:30:44,775
'cause I felt that.
869
00:30:44,777 --> 00:30:47,327
So I was feeling almost
like guilty almost.
870
00:30:47,388 --> 00:30:51,147
Like, you know, why don't
I feel the same way?
871
00:30:51,149 --> 00:30:52,632
- Yeah.
872
00:30:52,751 --> 00:30:53,725
- Normally it's like
the other way around.
873
00:30:53,844 --> 00:30:56,002
Like, I'm a very sexual person.
874
00:30:56,021 --> 00:30:59,139
And like, then I see
the hotel suite in jamaica.
875
00:30:59,141 --> 00:31:00,907
We got, like, a private shower.
876
00:31:00,909 --> 00:31:03,676
Like normal single me,
I'm on the balcony going crazy.
877
00:31:03,737 --> 00:31:05,571
It's secluded.
878
00:31:05,689 --> 00:31:08,481
Like, I'm making an r&b video
in this--in this bathroom.
879
00:31:08,600 --> 00:31:10,409
But my mind wasn't there.
880
00:31:10,527 --> 00:31:11,668
So I'm trying to figure out,
like,
881
00:31:11,670 --> 00:31:13,553
Bro, what's wrong with you?
882
00:31:13,581 --> 00:31:16,481
Like, the mental pressure,
like maybe I'm making it--
883
00:31:16,500 --> 00:31:18,524
- You making it
a whole big thing.
884
00:31:18,586 --> 00:31:20,994
♪ ♪
885
00:31:21,112 --> 00:31:22,588
This is your marriage.
886
00:31:22,706 --> 00:31:24,106
You can make this
whatever you want to make it,
887
00:31:24,133 --> 00:31:25,999
Or you can destroy it,
you know,
888
00:31:26,117 --> 00:31:28,418
Based on how you think
and what you tell yourself.
889
00:31:28,536 --> 00:31:29,678
- Right.
- You know,
890
00:31:29,838 --> 00:31:31,504
Is there any kind
of physicality
891
00:31:31,623 --> 00:31:33,706
Between the two of you?
892
00:31:33,726 --> 00:31:35,208
- We hold hands.
893
00:31:35,369 --> 00:31:37,077
You know, like,
if we're sitting
894
00:31:37,104 --> 00:31:38,695
Like at a restaurant
or a dinner, you know,
895
00:31:38,697 --> 00:31:41,348
There's, like,
skin-to-skin contact.
896
00:31:41,466 --> 00:31:43,750
- How does that make you feel
when that happens?
897
00:31:43,777 --> 00:31:44,826
- I mean, it feels natural.
898
00:31:44,828 --> 00:31:46,987
It feels--it feels normal.
899
00:31:47,105 --> 00:31:49,597
I don't feel forced to do it.
900
00:31:49,658 --> 00:31:52,042
- I think that is a big thing
right there.
901
00:31:52,044 --> 00:31:54,969
♪ ♪
902
00:31:54,971 --> 00:31:57,956
And I'm wondering how much
of your feelings
903
00:31:58,075 --> 00:32:02,052
Have to do with
this whole process.
904
00:32:02,054 --> 00:32:03,386
- Yeah, because it's a lot.
905
00:32:03,388 --> 00:32:04,829
- It's a lot.
- Yeah.
906
00:32:04,948 --> 00:32:08,258
- And I know quite often,
especially for strong people,
907
00:32:08,377 --> 00:32:11,077
It's like, I don't want nobody
telling me what to do.
908
00:32:11,138 --> 00:32:13,229
I don't want nobody
to put me in no situation
909
00:32:13,348 --> 00:32:14,322
Where I got to perform.
- Mm-hmm.
910
00:32:14,350 --> 00:32:15,799
- Right.
911
00:32:15,917 --> 00:32:16,892
- And sometimes that can
kind of shut you down.
912
00:32:17,052 --> 00:32:18,042
Right?
913
00:32:18,162 --> 00:32:19,719
- That makes sense.
914
00:32:19,838 --> 00:32:21,313
- So I want you to do me
a favor.
915
00:32:21,431 --> 00:32:23,823
Jasmine, can you let him know,
916
00:32:23,825 --> 00:32:25,642
What is it that you
really like about him?
917
00:32:25,760 --> 00:32:27,227
♪ ♪
918
00:32:27,345 --> 00:32:31,231
- So I really like
that you are honest.
919
00:32:31,349 --> 00:32:33,692
I have always been kind of told
what I need to hear.
920
00:32:33,694 --> 00:32:36,511
And so with you, you always,
even if you think
921
00:32:36,538 --> 00:32:39,906
It's gonna hurt my feelings,
you are very open and up front.
922
00:32:39,908 --> 00:32:40,940
I like that about you.
923
00:32:41,001 --> 00:32:42,350
I like that
you have work ethic.
924
00:32:42,378 --> 00:32:43,852
Like, you're ready
to go to work.
925
00:32:43,879 --> 00:32:45,762
You're ready to be better.
926
00:32:45,764 --> 00:32:48,281
Like, you are always striving
for more.
927
00:32:48,342 --> 00:32:50,342
Also, I like that you make me
feel comfortable too.
928
00:32:50,460 --> 00:32:52,285
Even if we're not, you know,
where we need to be,
929
00:32:52,346 --> 00:32:55,621
He still tries to make sure
that I'm comfortable.
930
00:32:55,783 --> 00:32:57,915
- How does it make you feel
to hear her say that?
931
00:32:57,935 --> 00:33:00,760
- Um, it makes me feel good,
you know?
932
00:33:00,879 --> 00:33:03,522
Like I'm doing
some things right.
933
00:33:03,640 --> 00:33:05,598
I feel like
it's a solid foundation.
934
00:33:05,717 --> 00:33:08,785
Like, we have, like, something
to, you know, build off of.
935
00:33:08,787 --> 00:33:10,120
- Yeah.
936
00:33:10,122 --> 00:33:12,839
Tell her what you like
about her.
937
00:33:12,841 --> 00:33:15,125
- I love that, like,
you work with kids.
938
00:33:15,127 --> 00:33:16,535
Like, I think
that's super awesome.
939
00:33:16,653 --> 00:33:18,962
I feel like
you're a great role model,
940
00:33:18,964 --> 00:33:22,315
And a person for them
to look up to and aspire to be.
941
00:33:22,376 --> 00:33:25,043
I love, like, how close-knit
you are with your family.
942
00:33:25,162 --> 00:33:26,953
And you're like a go-getter.
943
00:33:27,072 --> 00:33:29,205
You know, you're like juggling,
like, cheering,
944
00:33:29,324 --> 00:33:32,217
Breeding dogs,
doing aesthetician stuff.
945
00:33:32,335 --> 00:33:34,127
You know, you just--
you got your hands
946
00:33:34,245 --> 00:33:35,628
In a lot of different places.
947
00:33:35,747 --> 00:33:38,965
And I like that you're not
just in one lane.
948
00:33:39,084 --> 00:33:40,984
Like, I told her this,
like, if we had kids
949
00:33:40,986 --> 00:33:42,728
And I was terminally ill,
and they was like,
950
00:33:42,846 --> 00:33:45,138
You got a week to live,
I would, like, died peacefully,
951
00:33:45,256 --> 00:33:48,491
Like, knowing, like, my kids
are, like, in good hands.
952
00:33:48,493 --> 00:33:50,068
And I can't say that
about, like--
953
00:33:50,187 --> 00:33:52,270
I've learned that quick.
954
00:33:52,388 --> 00:33:54,680
- When you talk about who
she is and the kind of--
955
00:33:54,742 --> 00:33:58,744
And her heart, her values,
who this woman is,
956
00:33:58,862 --> 00:34:03,081
That's what you need to focus
on and fall in love with.
957
00:34:03,200 --> 00:34:05,250
Now, to your credit, you know,
958
00:34:05,368 --> 00:34:07,227
You're not saying,
"I'm out of here."
959
00:34:07,345 --> 00:34:08,420
- Exactly.
- Right.
960
00:34:08,538 --> 00:34:10,163
Because you realize her value.
961
00:34:10,281 --> 00:34:11,931
- Yes.
962
00:34:11,933 --> 00:34:14,867
- And want to be seen
for more than just my value.
963
00:34:14,928 --> 00:34:16,570
- I want to be desired.
- Yeah.
964
00:34:16,597 --> 00:34:18,229
You want me to be--
you want to be desired.
965
00:34:18,348 --> 00:34:20,265
You want to look at me,
like she said,
966
00:34:20,383 --> 00:34:22,041
What the heck, rip--you know,
rip off my clothes.
967
00:34:22,102 --> 00:34:24,068
You know what I mean?
- Yeah.
968
00:34:24,070 --> 00:34:26,671
- I mean, if it's natural
for you, hold her hand,
969
00:34:26,690 --> 00:34:29,616
Or however you choose
to have physical contact,
970
00:34:29,618 --> 00:34:31,384
And the more
talking about things
971
00:34:31,445 --> 00:34:33,019
And just speaking
to the positive,
972
00:34:33,138 --> 00:34:35,221
The more attraction
is going to happen.
973
00:34:35,282 --> 00:34:36,689
♪ ♪
974
00:34:36,808 --> 00:34:38,691
You guys are at a point
975
00:34:38,810 --> 00:34:41,761
Where you can create
something incredible.
976
00:34:41,789 --> 00:34:44,364
- I feel like y'all matched me
with what I needed.
977
00:34:44,482 --> 00:34:46,382
- Yeah.
- And I feel like I understand.
978
00:34:46,384 --> 00:34:47,717
I get it.
979
00:34:47,719 --> 00:34:49,052
♪ ♪
980
00:34:49,054 --> 00:34:50,962
- ♪ even if you
take your time ♪
981
00:34:51,081 --> 00:34:53,131
♪ I'm going all in ♪
982
00:34:53,250 --> 00:34:55,408
♪ ♪
983
00:34:55,469 --> 00:34:59,154
- ♪ space, I want to feel it ♪
984
00:34:59,181 --> 00:35:01,581
♪ I want to feel it ♪
985
00:35:01,642 --> 00:35:04,551
♪ I need some space ♪
986
00:35:04,669 --> 00:35:06,069
- How's it going, guys?
987
00:35:06,071 --> 00:35:07,771
- It's going.
- Yeah. It's going.
988
00:35:07,889 --> 00:35:09,940
We've got a lot to discuss.
989
00:35:10,058 --> 00:35:11,407
We've got a lot for you.
990
00:35:11,409 --> 00:35:12,425
- Gina, you know,
your expression
991
00:35:12,486 --> 00:35:13,576
Just said, like, 100 words.
992
00:35:13,578 --> 00:35:14,486
- I know.
993
00:35:14,604 --> 00:35:16,154
I'm guilty of that.
994
00:35:16,273 --> 00:35:18,998
- Gina's still reluctant
to move in.
995
00:35:19,000 --> 00:35:21,151
I think there may be still
some contention
996
00:35:21,269 --> 00:35:23,328
Around some comments
that I made.
997
00:35:23,446 --> 00:35:25,229
So I'd like to air
the laundry,
998
00:35:25,249 --> 00:35:26,998
Make sure we're on
the same page,
999
00:35:27,117 --> 00:35:29,926
So we can cleanly move
forward.
1000
00:35:29,928 --> 00:35:31,427
♪ ♪
1001
00:35:31,546 --> 00:35:33,705
- All right.
1002
00:35:33,823 --> 00:35:35,173
Let's talk about the marriage.
1003
00:35:35,292 --> 00:35:37,250
Let's talk about expectations
1004
00:35:37,368 --> 00:35:41,096
And where it started to derail.
- Yeah.
1005
00:35:41,256 --> 00:35:44,624
- Because initially, when you
saw him, you were like, okay.
1006
00:35:44,685 --> 00:35:46,943
- For him I was like, okay,
like, I love his beard.
1007
00:35:46,945 --> 00:35:48,094
He's got good hair.
1008
00:35:48,213 --> 00:35:49,946
I love--like, I'm always,
like, digging
1009
00:35:49,948 --> 00:35:52,840
For the gold and what I find--
1010
00:35:52,901 --> 00:35:54,693
If I had to pick out
attractive features,
1011
00:35:54,811 --> 00:35:57,120
I'll typically pick out
the attractive
1012
00:35:57,122 --> 00:35:59,214
Before I'll pick out
the unattractive.
1013
00:35:59,241 --> 00:36:02,125
But the, like,
"slender, athletic" comment
1014
00:36:02,127 --> 00:36:04,511
On the honeymoon
really struck a chord.
1015
00:36:04,513 --> 00:36:07,297
- Typically,
the girls that I have dated
1016
00:36:07,299 --> 00:36:09,782
Are very athletic, slender.
1017
00:36:09,901 --> 00:36:11,951
So, I mean,
that's just the type of mold
1018
00:36:12,070 --> 00:36:14,654
That I'm attracted to.
1019
00:36:14,715 --> 00:36:16,364
- It befuddles me.
1020
00:36:16,425 --> 00:36:18,008
Because I look
at the two of you,
1021
00:36:18,126 --> 00:36:20,610
And I'm like, what the heck?
1022
00:36:20,612 --> 00:36:24,130
Because, I mean,
you cannot sit here
1023
00:36:24,249 --> 00:36:28,542
And honestly tell me that
this woman is unattractive.
1024
00:36:28,704 --> 00:36:30,836
- Oh, no.
Never--never said that.
1025
00:36:30,856 --> 00:36:32,981
I apologized.
I learned from it.
1026
00:36:33,141 --> 00:36:35,299
That is no longer
in my vernacular.
1027
00:36:35,319 --> 00:36:38,612
And you know, I want to be
as adaptable as possible.
1028
00:36:42,659 --> 00:36:44,201
- You know, there's also
been disparaging comments
1029
00:36:44,319 --> 00:36:46,002
Towards me, like "gingers."
1030
00:36:46,004 --> 00:36:47,211
- I don't really vibe
with redheads
1031
00:36:47,213 --> 00:36:49,639
Or, like, gingery features.
1032
00:36:49,641 --> 00:36:51,190
- Mm-hmm.
1033
00:36:51,251 --> 00:36:52,400
That's something
you're just like,
1034
00:36:52,461 --> 00:36:54,052
Oh, okay,
ginger, ginger, ginger.
1035
00:36:54,054 --> 00:36:55,119
You don't just throw
that term out there
1036
00:36:55,238 --> 00:36:57,088
And you're not absolved of it.
1037
00:36:57,207 --> 00:36:58,864
- Well, I guess that's where
I, like, didn't think that
1038
00:36:58,926 --> 00:37:00,850
It was offensive,
because it is so openly used
1039
00:37:00,852 --> 00:37:02,326
In the hair world.
1040
00:37:02,446 --> 00:37:03,703
But weight is something
that's an accusation.
1041
00:37:03,764 --> 00:37:05,188
It's not a fact.
1042
00:37:05,190 --> 00:37:08,207
And so to point out
someone's weight,
1043
00:37:08,268 --> 00:37:10,101
It almost made me feel like,
well, what does he think?
1044
00:37:10,220 --> 00:37:11,102
I'm like lazy?
1045
00:37:11,221 --> 00:37:12,437
Like I don't work out?
1046
00:37:12,555 --> 00:37:14,597
Or don't--
- no, no, no.
1047
00:37:14,599 --> 00:37:16,808
When I say athletic,
I mean athlete,
1048
00:37:16,926 --> 00:37:18,610
Like somebody
that is considered--
1049
00:37:18,728 --> 00:37:20,536
- But how do you know
that I'm not an athlete?
1050
00:37:20,538 --> 00:37:22,205
- Because we talked about--
1051
00:37:22,207 --> 00:37:23,923
- If I do hiit workouts
six days a week, like that's--
1052
00:37:23,925 --> 00:37:26,343
- Because we talked
about the things that we do.
1053
00:37:26,461 --> 00:37:28,011
- I can hold your ass
in the gym.
1054
00:37:28,013 --> 00:37:29,346
- Oh, I'm sure--
- that's what an athlete is.
1055
00:37:29,348 --> 00:37:31,139
- You probably could.
1056
00:37:31,166 --> 00:37:33,549
- This whole thing
has started to derail
1057
00:37:33,551 --> 00:37:36,902
With some really
ridiculous comments.
1058
00:37:36,964 --> 00:37:40,164
If you start off and you
sabotage it by talking about,
1059
00:37:40,283 --> 00:37:42,183
You know, what we don't
like about each other,
1060
00:37:42,185 --> 00:37:43,543
What kind of crap is that?
1061
00:37:43,661 --> 00:37:46,979
Nobody in any relationship
will ever succeed
1062
00:37:46,981 --> 00:37:48,372
Using that method.
1063
00:37:48,392 --> 00:37:49,299
It just doesn't work.
1064
00:37:49,417 --> 00:37:52,143
♪ ♪
1065
00:37:52,262 --> 00:37:54,737
I understand here
that you didn't move in.
1066
00:37:54,739 --> 00:37:55,814
- Yeah.
1067
00:37:55,932 --> 00:37:57,631
I just feel like it would be
1068
00:37:57,693 --> 00:37:59,392
More beneficial for us
to, like,
1069
00:37:59,510 --> 00:38:01,411
Spend a little more time
really getting
1070
00:38:01,413 --> 00:38:02,762
To know each other
without the pressure
1071
00:38:02,823 --> 00:38:04,914
Of feeling like we need
to check off a box.
1072
00:38:04,916 --> 00:38:06,149
- I understand
how you feel that way.
1073
00:38:06,267 --> 00:38:07,233
- Yeah. And so--
- but that's not--
1074
00:38:07,352 --> 00:38:09,327
That's not right.
1075
00:38:09,446 --> 00:38:12,897
The only time I encourage
couples to take time apart
1076
00:38:12,916 --> 00:38:15,441
Is if there's major hostility.
1077
00:38:15,443 --> 00:38:18,594
This notion of, hey,
let's take some time away
1078
00:38:18,596 --> 00:38:20,279
And figure it out,
1079
00:38:20,340 --> 00:38:23,024
Who are you
figuring it out with?
1080
00:38:23,051 --> 00:38:24,434
No.
1081
00:38:24,436 --> 00:38:26,044
Let's just be honest
with ourselves.
1082
00:38:26,162 --> 00:38:28,079
The intention of not
moving in together
1083
00:38:28,198 --> 00:38:31,016
Was actually a step in
you not being together.
1084
00:38:31,134 --> 00:38:33,351
♪ ♪
1085
00:38:33,470 --> 00:38:35,312
I've seen couples go through
much worse than this.
1086
00:38:35,430 --> 00:38:37,080
- Yeah.
1087
00:38:37,082 --> 00:38:40,616
- But the question is for you,
because it's not my call,
1088
00:38:40,618 --> 00:38:45,547
I need to know,
are we moving forward,
1089
00:38:45,574 --> 00:38:48,700
Or is this the day
that we decide
1090
00:38:48,818 --> 00:38:50,885
We're getting a divorce?
1091
00:38:50,912 --> 00:38:53,504
Because if you continue
to be separate,
1092
00:38:53,623 --> 00:38:55,723
Let's call it what it is.
1093
00:38:55,751 --> 00:38:58,134
It's a step towards
your demise.
1094
00:38:58,136 --> 00:39:01,921
♪ ♪
1095
00:39:07,161 --> 00:39:09,629
♪ ♪
1096
00:39:09,747 --> 00:39:11,789
- So let's make some decisions.
1097
00:39:11,808 --> 00:39:13,424
♪ ♪
1098
00:39:13,543 --> 00:39:15,968
- I'm a person of conviction.
1099
00:39:16,087 --> 00:39:18,337
And when I say
I'm gonna do something,
1100
00:39:18,398 --> 00:39:20,690
I commit.
1101
00:39:20,809 --> 00:39:24,343
So I want to spend our time,
1102
00:39:24,363 --> 00:39:28,180
Like, hanging out and growing.
1103
00:39:28,241 --> 00:39:30,733
Like, whatever semblance
of a foundation we have,
1104
00:39:30,735 --> 00:39:32,243
I think there are
some very strong points.
1105
00:39:32,362 --> 00:39:34,019
- Yeah.
1106
00:39:34,081 --> 00:39:38,583
- And I'm committed to you.
1107
00:39:38,701 --> 00:39:41,219
So I want to continue.
1108
00:39:41,221 --> 00:39:44,864
♪ ♪
1109
00:39:44,925 --> 00:39:46,465
- I'm not one
to give up either.
1110
00:39:46,467 --> 00:39:48,927
So I definitely want
to take this time
1111
00:39:49,045 --> 00:39:51,354
To, like, continue
to get to know one another
1112
00:39:51,356 --> 00:39:54,357
And--and see if
we can really make it work.
1113
00:39:54,359 --> 00:39:57,176
- What do you think
the first step should be?
1114
00:39:57,295 --> 00:39:59,679
- I think the moving in,
for me, is just still--
1115
00:39:59,797 --> 00:40:02,774
I don't feel in my soul
right about it.
1116
00:40:02,892 --> 00:40:04,684
- Why?
- Right this second.
1117
00:40:04,802 --> 00:40:07,086
Um, I just felt like
it would be worse to move in
1118
00:40:07,088 --> 00:40:08,780
And, like, sleep
in separate bedrooms.
1119
00:40:08,898 --> 00:40:10,298
I feel like that's
just automatically
1120
00:40:10,325 --> 00:40:12,692
Setting us up for failure,
like, in the beginning.
1121
00:40:12,810 --> 00:40:14,452
And that's what I would--
if we move in together,
1122
00:40:14,571 --> 00:40:16,546
That's what I would feel
most comfortable doing.
1123
00:40:16,548 --> 00:40:17,972
Because we need
to be well rested.
1124
00:40:17,999 --> 00:40:19,532
And so I'm like--
I just don't--
1125
00:40:19,650 --> 00:40:21,066
- Well, even if--
- I'm just not there yet.
1126
00:40:21,228 --> 00:40:22,234
And I don't know how
to explain it, but--
1127
00:40:22,395 --> 00:40:24,145
- That's okay. I hear you.
1128
00:40:24,172 --> 00:40:26,464
But even if you sleep in
different bedrooms, I get it.
1129
00:40:26,583 --> 00:40:29,375
- Like, that feels worse
than just like--
1130
00:40:29,494 --> 00:40:31,361
- Well, then don't.
1131
00:40:31,363 --> 00:40:33,813
Clint, do you--
do you want gina to move in?
1132
00:40:33,815 --> 00:40:35,381
- Yeah.
1133
00:40:35,500 --> 00:40:38,643
I mean, I think
in order for us to grow,
1134
00:40:38,761 --> 00:40:41,279
We have to have more exposure.
1135
00:40:41,281 --> 00:40:43,148
- And just communicating
with each other
1136
00:40:43,266 --> 00:40:45,183
And start speaking some
of the positive things
1137
00:40:45,301 --> 00:40:47,560
Into each other's lives.
- Yeah.
1138
00:40:47,678 --> 00:40:49,428
- Because you're this guy,
you have your success,
1139
00:40:49,489 --> 00:40:52,157
You do your thing, but you
like to have a good time.
1140
00:40:52,275 --> 00:40:53,599
- Sure.
- Yeah.
1141
00:40:53,660 --> 00:40:55,510
- You need that.
1142
00:40:55,537 --> 00:40:57,269
You need that part of him.
1143
00:40:57,330 --> 00:40:59,589
And there are parts of her
1144
00:40:59,591 --> 00:41:03,301
That you really need
in your life.
1145
00:41:03,303 --> 00:41:05,661
What are you feeling
right now, gina?
1146
00:41:05,780 --> 00:41:07,246
- Um...
1147
00:41:07,365 --> 00:41:08,781
I don't know.
1148
00:41:08,842 --> 00:41:10,766
- Now, come on.
Let's talk it out, hon.
1149
00:41:10,768 --> 00:41:12,010
- No, I do need that.
1150
00:41:12,128 --> 00:41:14,270
♪ ♪
1151
00:41:14,272 --> 00:41:16,155
But it's just hard
to take steps
1152
00:41:16,316 --> 00:41:18,958
That you're, like,
super uncomfortable with.
1153
00:41:19,019 --> 00:41:23,446
And I feel like I still don't
feel good about the decision.
1154
00:41:23,448 --> 00:41:25,248
And so--
- about the decision?
1155
00:41:25,250 --> 00:41:26,416
- Like, just to move in
and stuff.
1156
00:41:26,534 --> 00:41:27,466
Like, that's not where I'm at.
1157
00:41:27,527 --> 00:41:28,743
- Okay.
1158
00:41:28,745 --> 00:41:31,120
We'll take it day by day.
1159
00:41:31,122 --> 00:41:32,363
- Yeah.
1160
00:41:32,482 --> 00:41:34,273
♪ ♪
1161
00:41:34,392 --> 00:41:38,344
- You both are deciding
to give this another try.
1162
00:41:38,346 --> 00:41:39,478
Is that fair to say?
1163
00:41:39,539 --> 00:41:41,280
- Yeah.
- It's fair.
1164
00:41:41,399 --> 00:41:43,041
- So this means
that we've got to push
1165
00:41:43,159 --> 00:41:46,377
Through some
uncomfortable feelings.
1166
00:41:46,496 --> 00:41:47,954
♪ ♪
1167
00:41:48,114 --> 00:41:49,847
It's tough.
- Yeah.
1168
00:41:49,849 --> 00:41:51,991
- Marriage requires sometimes
1169
00:41:52,052 --> 00:41:54,126
An incredible amount
of personal sacrifice.
1170
00:41:54,245 --> 00:41:56,120
And the reason people
don't make it in marriage
1171
00:41:56,139 --> 00:41:57,630
Now a lot of times
is because they're
1172
00:41:57,790 --> 00:41:59,398
Not willing to do that.
1173
00:41:59,400 --> 00:42:00,858
It's all, I want to do
what I want to do.
1174
00:42:00,860 --> 00:42:02,352
Well, then you don't
want to be married.
1175
00:42:02,470 --> 00:42:03,819
- ♪ is this right for me ♪
1176
00:42:03,821 --> 00:42:05,038
- If you're not willing
to change,
1177
00:42:05,065 --> 00:42:05,930
You're not willing
to be married.
1178
00:42:06,048 --> 00:42:06,989
You have to change.
1179
00:42:06,991 --> 00:42:08,808
- Yeah.
1180
00:42:08,968 --> 00:42:10,977
- That's the beauty of it.
1181
00:42:11,137 --> 00:42:15,240
- ♪ I can't tell
if it's right for me ♪
1182
00:42:15,358 --> 00:42:17,558
- ♪ shake it up
in a small town ♪
1183
00:42:17,619 --> 00:42:19,552
♪ revved up,
now it's going down ♪
1184
00:42:19,554 --> 00:42:20,720
- Look, it--
1185
00:42:20,722 --> 00:42:22,588
It's a new home, buddies.
1186
00:42:22,590 --> 00:42:26,483
- Hello, my three boys.
1187
00:42:26,503 --> 00:42:28,193
Hi.
1188
00:42:28,255 --> 00:42:30,329
I'm really excited that
chris's dogs are moving in.
1189
00:42:30,448 --> 00:42:32,682
And, obviously, I wish
charlie could be here too,
1190
00:42:32,684 --> 00:42:35,334
But charlie is with my dad.
1191
00:42:35,453 --> 00:42:37,687
And I still get to visit him
every day.
1192
00:42:37,689 --> 00:42:40,339
So it's kind of
a win-win for now.
1193
00:42:40,458 --> 00:42:41,741
- Check it out.
1194
00:42:41,859 --> 00:42:43,101
Come on. Check it out.
1195
00:42:43,219 --> 00:42:45,636
- ♪ living it up ♪
1196
00:42:45,755 --> 00:42:46,771
- They're going right
to the bathroom.
1197
00:42:46,889 --> 00:42:48,139
- No.
That's what they have to do.
1198
00:42:48,257 --> 00:42:49,440
They have to check every room.
- Yeah.
1199
00:42:49,559 --> 00:42:51,200
- Making sure we're safe.
That's all.
1200
00:42:51,202 --> 00:42:52,351
How was your day, otherwise?
1201
00:42:52,470 --> 00:42:53,444
- It was good.
1202
00:42:53,563 --> 00:42:54,887
I'm just happy we're moved in.
1203
00:42:55,006 --> 00:42:56,247
We have the dogs.
1204
00:42:56,249 --> 00:42:57,581
We have each other.
1205
00:42:57,583 --> 00:42:58,824
And now we can just be
a married couple.
1206
00:42:58,943 --> 00:43:00,118
- Just--
1207
00:43:00,236 --> 00:43:01,293
- Oh, you like me?
- Yeah.
1208
00:43:01,295 --> 00:43:02,378
Kobe loves you.
1209
00:43:02,380 --> 00:43:04,788
- You're like your new mom?
1210
00:43:04,908 --> 00:43:06,599
That's very sweet.
1211
00:43:06,626 --> 00:43:07,867
- Do you like her? Huh?
1212
00:43:07,985 --> 00:43:09,711
You got a mommy now.
You look happy.
1213
00:43:09,871 --> 00:43:10,795
- It's about time, dad.
1214
00:43:10,913 --> 00:43:12,237
- He's, like, smiling.
So happy.
1215
00:43:12,299 --> 00:43:14,031
[dog panting]
1216
00:43:14,050 --> 00:43:16,984
- Um, kind of--not trying
to get into a big topic,
1217
00:43:17,012 --> 00:43:18,986
But one of the things
I really want to talk about
1218
00:43:19,014 --> 00:43:21,964
Is, I know both of our leases
are up at, like, the same time.
1219
00:43:22,083 --> 00:43:23,341
- Yeah.
1220
00:43:23,459 --> 00:43:25,084
- I mean,
it literally ends, like,
1221
00:43:25,103 --> 00:43:28,146
Pretty much at the end
of all this, like, experience,
1222
00:43:28,264 --> 00:43:30,923
But everywhere makes you give
a 60-day notice.
1223
00:43:31,084 --> 00:43:33,359
So I have to let them know
this week, unfortunately.
1224
00:43:33,478 --> 00:43:35,153
And I know you have
a couple more weeks than I do.
1225
00:43:35,271 --> 00:43:37,246
- I have two weeks,
so not that much.
1226
00:43:37,248 --> 00:43:38,397
- It's one of those things,
like,
1227
00:43:38,516 --> 00:43:39,749
We definitely need
to talk about,
1228
00:43:39,751 --> 00:43:41,400
Because we've had
an amazing start,
1229
00:43:41,519 --> 00:43:43,753
And we're heading
in the right direction.
1230
00:43:43,755 --> 00:43:46,605
But I don't want to be rushed
into making a decision of,
1231
00:43:46,666 --> 00:43:50,168
Like, where to live
after decision day.
1232
00:43:50,286 --> 00:43:52,670
You know, obviously,
neither of us
1233
00:43:52,789 --> 00:43:54,188
Have ever lived
with anybody before.
1234
00:43:54,215 --> 00:43:56,248
So this is, like, uncharted
territory for both of us.
1235
00:43:56,367 --> 00:43:57,933
And it's one of those things
where, like,
1236
00:43:57,935 --> 00:44:00,119
If we have
forever together, like,
1237
00:44:00,138 --> 00:44:02,654
What's the rush
to move in right away?
1238
00:44:02,656 --> 00:44:04,774
I kind of feel like we should
rather take our time
1239
00:44:04,776 --> 00:44:06,125
Finding the right place for us.
1240
00:44:06,186 --> 00:44:07,685
- Oh.
1241
00:44:07,804 --> 00:44:09,704
- So I was thinking that
we just renew
1242
00:44:09,731 --> 00:44:12,948
For, like, nine months,
if that's an option for you.
1243
00:44:12,950 --> 00:44:15,193
That would give us
till next summer.
1244
00:44:15,311 --> 00:44:16,769
We'd just have sleepovers
and stuff.
1245
00:44:16,929 --> 00:44:18,829
So...
1246
00:44:18,948 --> 00:44:21,457
♪ ♪
1247
00:44:21,459 --> 00:44:23,368
- I would think it would be
very hard to go back
1248
00:44:23,486 --> 00:44:26,462
To not living together,
and living alone,
1249
00:44:26,464 --> 00:44:29,131
And not wanting
to see each other.
1250
00:44:29,133 --> 00:44:31,817
Are you at all concerned
if we live separately
1251
00:44:31,878 --> 00:44:34,120
That we'll kind of fall
into a pattern of,
1252
00:44:34,238 --> 00:44:35,487
Well, we live separately,
1253
00:44:35,548 --> 00:44:37,156
We don't ever need
to live back together.
1254
00:44:37,217 --> 00:44:38,883
Or we'll see each other
every day,
1255
00:44:39,001 --> 00:44:41,052
But then maybe
it's five days a week,
1256
00:44:41,170 --> 00:44:43,328
And then maybe
it's two days a week.
1257
00:44:43,390 --> 00:44:47,133
Like, are you concerned at all
we'll fall into dating,
1258
00:44:47,251 --> 00:44:48,968
But in a negative way?
1259
00:44:49,086 --> 00:44:50,728
- Yeah, I mean,
I can see, I guess,
1260
00:44:50,847 --> 00:44:52,897
A little bit
of the concern there.
1261
00:44:53,015 --> 00:44:55,658
But just thinking realistically
about it too,
1262
00:44:55,660 --> 00:44:58,569
Like, let's say we do
make it through this,
1263
00:44:58,688 --> 00:45:00,405
And then--but, like, you know,
a couple of months after,
1264
00:45:00,523 --> 00:45:01,513
We run into problems.
1265
00:45:01,574 --> 00:45:02,573
Like, it's very possible.
1266
00:45:02,692 --> 00:45:03,566
Like, it's one
of those things--
1267
00:45:03,684 --> 00:45:04,734
- I'm not listening.
1268
00:45:04,852 --> 00:45:06,552
- No, I'm not saying
it's going to,
1269
00:45:06,554 --> 00:45:08,170
But I'm just trying to think
in terms of that too.
1270
00:45:08,172 --> 00:45:09,688
Because, like,
it's a big decision.
1271
00:45:09,749 --> 00:45:12,675
♪ ♪
1272
00:45:12,677 --> 00:45:14,193
- If we're living apart
and we have to start
1273
00:45:14,254 --> 00:45:17,496
Making plans to see each other,
that just feels like dating.
1274
00:45:17,615 --> 00:45:20,365
And if we're really gonna have
a life together,
1275
00:45:20,427 --> 00:45:21,834
It involves us
living together.
1276
00:45:21,952 --> 00:45:24,429
So I'm not okay
with living separately
1277
00:45:24,547 --> 00:45:26,522
Until we figure
something else out.
1278
00:45:26,524 --> 00:45:29,175
And it's stressful because,
especially with your partner,
1279
00:45:29,293 --> 00:45:30,693
You want to be
on the same page,
1280
00:45:30,695 --> 00:45:34,622
Especially with these
big lifelong decisions.
1281
00:45:34,649 --> 00:45:37,124
Like, if we weren't on
the same page here,
1282
00:45:37,152 --> 00:45:39,444
That could be a reason
for us not to stay together.
1283
00:45:39,562 --> 00:45:44,449
♪ ♪
1284
00:45:48,070 --> 00:45:50,446
- ♪ it's all or nothing ♪
1285
00:45:50,564 --> 00:45:54,399
- ♪ we are fire ♪
1286
00:45:54,561 --> 00:45:57,295
♪ burning fire ♪
1287
00:45:57,413 --> 00:46:00,339
♪ ♪
1288
00:46:02,026 --> 00:46:04,243
- So what's going on, guys?
1289
00:46:04,304 --> 00:46:07,046
- I mean, there's a lot
going on right now.
1290
00:46:07,164 --> 00:46:08,531
- Well, let's go back
to the wedding.
1291
00:46:08,533 --> 00:46:09,682
Tell me, how was it?
1292
00:46:09,801 --> 00:46:11,033
- We had a great time.
- Our families
1293
00:46:11,152 --> 00:46:12,718
Really, like, just mesh,
which was crazy.
1294
00:46:12,837 --> 00:46:14,287
Like, when I walked out,
1295
00:46:14,289 --> 00:46:16,071
My family was talking
to her family.
1296
00:46:16,073 --> 00:46:17,231
I'm like,
is this a family reunion?
1297
00:46:17,391 --> 00:46:18,549
- It felt like
a family reunion.
1298
00:46:18,568 --> 00:46:20,242
♪ ♪
1299
00:46:20,244 --> 00:46:21,819
- Now that you're
actually married,
1300
00:46:21,938 --> 00:46:24,338
I mean, is it anything
like you thought?
1301
00:46:24,365 --> 00:46:26,157
- It just feels natural,
honestly.
1302
00:46:26,275 --> 00:46:28,292
Like, he doesn't feel
like a stranger.
1303
00:46:28,294 --> 00:46:30,961
He's been overly communicating.
1304
00:46:31,080 --> 00:46:32,421
- Overly communicating.
You hear that?
1305
00:46:32,423 --> 00:46:34,757
- Yeah. Uh-huh. Good. Good.
1306
00:46:34,759 --> 00:46:38,344
Let's talk about--let's talk
about guys on your honeymoon.
1307
00:46:38,346 --> 00:46:42,381
- [sighs] we had the debate.
1308
00:46:42,500 --> 00:46:44,675
I feel like you play
and joke around a lot.
1309
00:46:44,794 --> 00:46:46,101
- You don't like
the sense of humor though?
1310
00:46:46,103 --> 00:46:47,619
- A little sense of humor.
- What's a little?
1311
00:46:47,680 --> 00:46:48,679
- It's a time and place
for everything.
1312
00:46:48,798 --> 00:46:50,272
- What's a little?
- Like--
1313
00:46:50,274 --> 00:46:51,682
- What's a little?
1314
00:46:51,801 --> 00:46:52,942
- If you're going overboard,
then I'll be like,
1315
00:46:52,944 --> 00:46:55,627
Okay, shaquille, enough.
1316
00:46:55,688 --> 00:46:57,129
♪ ♪
1317
00:46:57,190 --> 00:47:00,783
And I kind of told him,
like, going forward,
1318
00:47:00,785 --> 00:47:03,619
Like, if I have a problem
or an issue, I'll let you know.
1319
00:47:03,621 --> 00:47:06,471
But I don't want to always
point every single thing out
1320
00:47:06,533 --> 00:47:07,623
That I have a problem with.
1321
00:47:07,625 --> 00:47:08,883
- What was the issue?
1322
00:47:09,043 --> 00:47:12,211
- He was just joking
or whatever.
1323
00:47:12,213 --> 00:47:14,388
And I didn't feel like
it was a need to joke.
1324
00:47:14,415 --> 00:47:16,648
And I told him it's a time
and place for everything.
1325
00:47:16,709 --> 00:47:19,910
But with his big personality
and the person that he is,
1326
00:47:20,029 --> 00:47:21,020
That's what he does.
1327
00:47:21,047 --> 00:47:22,487
- Let me tell you something.
1328
00:47:22,507 --> 00:47:25,157
I've been married for a while.
1329
00:47:25,218 --> 00:47:30,129
And my wife thinks
I'm corny with my jokes.
1330
00:47:30,247 --> 00:47:31,130
Right?
1331
00:47:31,248 --> 00:47:33,407
But I don't care.
1332
00:47:33,434 --> 00:47:34,466
I will tell them.
1333
00:47:34,585 --> 00:47:36,018
It'll be a bad joke, I tell it.
1334
00:47:36,137 --> 00:47:37,536
And she's like, oh, god.
1335
00:47:37,564 --> 00:47:38,529
But you know what?
- Oh, my god.
1336
00:47:38,531 --> 00:47:40,172
- Here's the thing.
1337
00:47:40,191 --> 00:47:41,524
You're gonna have to just
brush it off and realize,
1338
00:47:41,642 --> 00:47:43,008
This is his sense of humor.
1339
00:47:43,127 --> 00:47:44,476
You don't have
to always like it.
1340
00:47:44,595 --> 00:47:45,677
You understand what I'm saying?
1341
00:47:45,738 --> 00:47:46,845
- Mm-hmm.
1342
00:47:46,906 --> 00:47:48,330
- See?
1343
00:47:48,332 --> 00:47:50,575
You can honestly live
with me being corny.
1344
00:47:50,693 --> 00:47:52,243
Even if you don't like
the joke,
1345
00:47:52,361 --> 00:47:54,737
Just allow me to be happy
in the moment.
1346
00:47:54,855 --> 00:47:56,289
♪ ♪
1347
00:47:56,407 --> 00:47:58,624
- It's okay to have fun
and joke around and play,
1348
00:47:58,743 --> 00:48:01,660
But it's like, I want
that emotional connection.
1349
00:48:01,779 --> 00:48:03,679
I feel like that builds
the chemistry,
1350
00:48:03,681 --> 00:48:05,697
Like, on an emotional level.
1351
00:48:05,758 --> 00:48:08,275
Because the chemistry has
to be there in the marriage.
1352
00:48:08,303 --> 00:48:10,535
- So I want to know,
is there any chemistry there?
1353
00:48:10,597 --> 00:48:14,640
♪ ♪
1354
00:48:14,759 --> 00:48:16,375
- Not really.
1355
00:48:16,436 --> 00:48:19,595
[tense music]
1356
00:48:19,713 --> 00:48:20,837
- Yeah.
- No.
1357
00:48:20,857 --> 00:48:22,481
- What do you think?
1358
00:48:22,600 --> 00:48:24,533
- I think
there's some chemistry there.
1359
00:48:24,535 --> 00:48:26,252
♪ ♪
1360
00:48:26,254 --> 00:48:28,370
Like, when we go
to sleep at night, like,
1361
00:48:28,372 --> 00:48:31,690
She's laid up on me, and then,
you know, we'll separate.
1362
00:48:31,809 --> 00:48:33,192
- There's gotta be something,
1363
00:48:33,310 --> 00:48:34,877
At least a basic chemistry
experiment, you know.
1364
00:48:34,879 --> 00:48:37,196
- Right.
- Yeah.
1365
00:48:37,314 --> 00:48:39,123
- You know,
I kiss her forehead.
1366
00:48:39,241 --> 00:48:40,565
You know?
- Okay.
1367
00:48:40,627 --> 00:48:42,067
So, I mean, it's there.
1368
00:48:42,128 --> 00:48:43,202
It's just taking a while.
1369
00:48:43,320 --> 00:48:45,871
And I have to let my guard down
1370
00:48:45,990 --> 00:48:48,073
And express myself
to shaquille.
1371
00:48:48,134 --> 00:48:49,800
- Yes.
1372
00:48:49,919 --> 00:48:51,226
Yes.
1373
00:48:51,228 --> 00:48:53,012
'cause I have a feeling here
1374
00:48:53,130 --> 00:48:57,308
That you will take the weight
on yourself
1375
00:48:57,426 --> 00:48:59,827
And not say nothing
and just bear it,
1376
00:48:59,854 --> 00:49:01,253
Hoping it'll just go away.
1377
00:49:01,314 --> 00:49:02,496
- Yeah.
1378
00:49:02,523 --> 00:49:04,923
- Am I right?
- That's right.
1379
00:49:04,984 --> 00:49:07,117
- That's what
your husband's for.
1380
00:49:07,236 --> 00:49:09,153
- Yeah.
- And I tell her that.
1381
00:49:09,271 --> 00:49:11,989
When we talk, I said, you know,
if you ever feel like--
1382
00:49:12,108 --> 00:49:14,599
Like I'm not doing something,
or you want more,
1383
00:49:14,661 --> 00:49:16,860
Or anything, like, tell me.
1384
00:49:16,979 --> 00:49:18,770
If something is on your mind,
tell me.
1385
00:49:18,790 --> 00:49:20,831
- Right. Right.
1386
00:49:20,950 --> 00:49:26,337
Your needs, your desires,
your requirements in marriage,
1387
00:49:26,455 --> 00:49:30,249
They have to be clearly
communicated to him.
1388
00:49:30,367 --> 00:49:33,819
Or else you're expecting him
to respond
1389
00:49:33,821 --> 00:49:36,514
To something
that you're feeling,
1390
00:49:36,632 --> 00:49:39,425
Not something
you're communicating.
1391
00:49:39,543 --> 00:49:44,279
We can do anything for you
if we know what that thing is.
1392
00:49:44,281 --> 00:49:46,323
- I know. I know. It's a lot.
1393
00:49:46,325 --> 00:49:49,468
Like, just being vulnerable
and opening up.
1394
00:49:49,529 --> 00:49:52,438
Like, I don't typically express
how I feel.
1395
00:49:52,556 --> 00:49:54,106
- Right.
1396
00:49:54,224 --> 00:49:57,534
What happens when
you never let people in?
1397
00:49:57,536 --> 00:50:00,963
- I never get what I deserve
or what I want out of life.
1398
00:50:00,965 --> 00:50:02,665
So I'm learning that.
1399
00:50:02,783 --> 00:50:05,334
- Unless you can give it all
to yourself, which you can't.
1400
00:50:05,453 --> 00:50:07,652
♪ ♪
1401
00:50:07,714 --> 00:50:10,655
- I feel like I've been more
vulnerable than kirsten.
1402
00:50:10,675 --> 00:50:13,709
Like, I've really been
laying my life out
1403
00:50:13,827 --> 00:50:15,961
As far as the injury, school.
1404
00:50:16,080 --> 00:50:17,279
- You're an open book.
1405
00:50:17,281 --> 00:50:19,022
- I really am an open book.
1406
00:50:19,024 --> 00:50:20,725
- But I asked you those
questions about your injuries
1407
00:50:20,843 --> 00:50:21,892
And stuff like that.
1408
00:50:22,011 --> 00:50:23,635
- But the thing is, I always--
1409
00:50:23,754 --> 00:50:25,804
If I ask something,
she'll pivot it back to me.
1410
00:50:25,964 --> 00:50:27,473
- Okay.
1411
00:50:27,591 --> 00:50:29,308
Next time we'll just
keep it all on me.
1412
00:50:29,426 --> 00:50:30,909
- All on you.
1413
00:50:30,911 --> 00:50:34,496
- So you're going
to have to provide
1414
00:50:34,498 --> 00:50:36,257
A safe place for her.
1415
00:50:36,284 --> 00:50:41,120
And that's gonna require you
to blindly trust him.
1416
00:50:41,238 --> 00:50:42,371
Okay?
1417
00:50:42,490 --> 00:50:44,457
♪ ♪
1418
00:50:44,575 --> 00:50:49,828
You guys are the perfect
example of a power couple,
1419
00:50:49,947 --> 00:50:51,172
Of what it can look like.
1420
00:50:51,332 --> 00:50:53,323
You really are.
1421
00:50:53,342 --> 00:50:55,100
Because I think you both are
going in the same direction.
1422
00:50:55,102 --> 00:50:57,019
You both want the same
things out of life.
1423
00:50:57,021 --> 00:50:59,238
It can happen with you guys.
1424
00:50:59,265 --> 00:51:01,732
But it also, the same power--
because you both
1425
00:51:01,734 --> 00:51:03,175
Are very strong people.
1426
00:51:03,335 --> 00:51:05,235
You're doing things
on your own.
1427
00:51:05,237 --> 00:51:08,272
So it could either be a great
success, or it could be...
1428
00:51:08,390 --> 00:51:09,774
[mimics explosion]
1429
00:51:09,892 --> 00:51:14,779
♪ ♪
1430
00:51:18,876 --> 00:51:21,010
- ♪ you got me speechless ♪
1431
00:51:21,128 --> 00:51:23,854
[bird chirping]
1432
00:51:23,873 --> 00:51:25,856
♪ I've been thinking about
giving you my heart ♪
1433
00:51:25,875 --> 00:51:27,458
- Look at you.
1434
00:51:27,576 --> 00:51:28,626
You guys look good together.
- Yeah.
1435
00:51:28,744 --> 00:51:29,768
- You really do.
1436
00:51:29,770 --> 00:51:31,194
- We think so.
- I'm happy.
1437
00:51:31,314 --> 00:51:33,297
I mean, we were happy
that we've been hearing
1438
00:51:33,415 --> 00:51:34,632
That things are going great,
1439
00:51:34,750 --> 00:51:37,876
That you guys are just
moving along swimmingly.
1440
00:51:37,995 --> 00:51:40,245
- Yeah. I mean...
- Smooth sailing so far.
1441
00:51:40,306 --> 00:51:43,039
- Yeah, I mean, it's been
way better than I expected.
1442
00:51:43,059 --> 00:51:44,399
- Right. Right. Right.
1443
00:51:44,401 --> 00:51:45,217
And how do you feel
about this guy?
1444
00:51:45,335 --> 00:51:46,552
- He's the best.
1445
00:51:46,670 --> 00:51:48,053
We have so much in common
1446
00:51:48,172 --> 00:51:50,422
That it feels like
it's not real.
1447
00:51:50,483 --> 00:51:51,723
- Well, very good.
1448
00:51:51,842 --> 00:51:53,951
I mean, that's awesome.
1449
00:51:53,953 --> 00:51:57,429
I know that you have so many
similarities with my lovely
1450
00:51:57,490 --> 00:51:58,656
Nicole here.
I know.
1451
00:51:58,774 --> 00:52:00,415
She's a strong personality.
1452
00:52:00,417 --> 00:52:01,750
- Yeah.
1453
00:52:01,868 --> 00:52:03,026
- That's never been a secret,
right?
1454
00:52:03,145 --> 00:52:05,996
How is--how is her personality?
1455
00:52:06,115 --> 00:52:07,498
- Honestly, she's been great.
1456
00:52:07,616 --> 00:52:10,384
I know she said at times
she can be very intense
1457
00:52:10,386 --> 00:52:12,019
And a little hotheaded
at times,
1458
00:52:12,046 --> 00:52:13,595
But I honestly
haven't seen that.
1459
00:52:13,597 --> 00:52:16,072
♪ ♪
1460
00:52:16,092 --> 00:52:18,408
- You have seen it.
1461
00:52:18,427 --> 00:52:21,170
This is a terrible picture.
1462
00:52:21,288 --> 00:52:22,671
I hate everything about it.
1463
00:52:22,789 --> 00:52:25,683
Whoever picked this, you suck.
1464
00:52:25,801 --> 00:52:30,721
This is a [beep] wedding photo,
and you suck.
1465
00:52:30,839 --> 00:52:32,723
Don't you want us
to stay married?
1466
00:52:32,841 --> 00:52:36,168
And this is the picture you
want us to use to represent?
1467
00:52:36,170 --> 00:52:38,170
- Do you have any fear
that she'll blow up on you?
1468
00:52:38,172 --> 00:52:39,338
- Not at the moment. No.
1469
00:52:39,456 --> 00:52:41,365
- Not at the moment.
1470
00:52:41,483 --> 00:52:43,200
- I mean, you will
have to hear me complain
1471
00:52:43,319 --> 00:52:45,703
Because I look to you
for comfort.
1472
00:52:45,821 --> 00:52:49,198
And you are very calming
and make me feel better.
1473
00:52:49,316 --> 00:52:53,060
But I don't think that I
would ever take it out--
1474
00:52:53,087 --> 00:52:56,179
- Well, and like, I've learned
from past relationships not--
1475
00:52:56,181 --> 00:52:57,673
I mean, I used to get walked
over in past relationships.
1476
00:52:57,791 --> 00:52:59,358
It's not a secret.
1477
00:52:59,385 --> 00:53:01,443
Like, I definitely have learned
to have a backbone,
1478
00:53:01,562 --> 00:53:03,495
And definitely stand up
and be like--call things out.
1479
00:53:03,556 --> 00:53:06,557
But honestly, with her,
I feel like I can be that open
1480
00:53:06,675 --> 00:53:08,409
And I can be that honest
and up front with her.
1481
00:53:08,436 --> 00:53:10,728
Like, for example,
when we talked about--
1482
00:53:10,846 --> 00:53:12,730
The big discussion about
our leases and everything,
1483
00:53:12,848 --> 00:53:14,139
That's a big decision.
1484
00:53:14,299 --> 00:53:15,733
And that was one
that I wanted to make together
1485
00:53:15,851 --> 00:53:17,993
Because it's gonna impact
both of us.
1486
00:53:17,995 --> 00:53:19,478
So--
- yeah. Okay.
1487
00:53:19,596 --> 00:53:21,906
So why--what is the decision?
1488
00:53:22,024 --> 00:53:24,333
- We're renewing both of
our leases for nine months.
1489
00:53:24,335 --> 00:53:26,092
- Why?
1490
00:53:26,094 --> 00:53:28,003
- Because we want
to take our time,
1491
00:53:28,005 --> 00:53:29,930
Like, finding a perfect place.
1492
00:53:29,957 --> 00:53:32,174
And also things are
going great right now,
1493
00:53:32,176 --> 00:53:34,025
But, like, we don't want
to be homeless, like--
1494
00:53:34,086 --> 00:53:35,252
- How would you be homeless?
1495
00:53:35,371 --> 00:53:37,346
- If things didn't work out.
1496
00:53:37,348 --> 00:53:39,273
- You have to start acting
as though
1497
00:53:39,300 --> 00:53:41,442
You're going to be married
forever.
1498
00:53:41,469 --> 00:53:43,185
- Yeah.
I fully appreciate that.
1499
00:53:43,187 --> 00:53:44,836
It's just one of those things,
like,
1500
00:53:44,955 --> 00:53:47,539
We'd rather be safe
than sorry in this situation.
1501
00:53:47,600 --> 00:53:49,007
- I agree with pastor cal.
1502
00:53:49,126 --> 00:53:51,193
I think married couples
should live together,
1503
00:53:51,195 --> 00:53:53,028
But I don't want
to rock the boat.
1504
00:53:53,030 --> 00:53:55,697
I would rather not add that
stress to our relationship.
1505
00:53:55,699 --> 00:53:59,034
So I'm gonna just go with it.
1506
00:53:59,036 --> 00:54:02,204
- I'll give you two weeks
living apart,
1507
00:54:02,206 --> 00:54:06,300
And you guys are gonna be
finding a way to be together.
1508
00:54:06,327 --> 00:54:08,360
Let me tell you something
about you guys.
1509
00:54:08,478 --> 00:54:10,545
Because you can make this
marriage whatever you want.
1510
00:54:10,547 --> 00:54:12,214
And if you both,
as you do right now,
1511
00:54:12,216 --> 00:54:13,523
If you both want this
to succeed,
1512
00:54:13,542 --> 00:54:14,449
It's going to succeed.
1513
00:54:14,568 --> 00:54:16,551
All right?
1514
00:54:16,553 --> 00:54:18,003
But I want you to know, you're
gonna hit some roadblocks.
1515
00:54:18,122 --> 00:54:19,963
You're gonna hit
some challenges.
1516
00:54:20,082 --> 00:54:23,000
And when those things happen,
remember the fact
1517
00:54:23,118 --> 00:54:27,054
That you really,
really like each other.
1518
00:54:27,214 --> 00:54:29,715
All right. Have you guys used--
no one has used the l word.
1519
00:54:29,833 --> 00:54:31,233
- No.
- No.
1520
00:54:31,235 --> 00:54:32,751
- But what do I ask you
every day?
1521
00:54:32,812 --> 00:54:34,720
- You ask if decision day
was today, what would I say?
1522
00:54:34,880 --> 00:54:35,646
- And what do you say
every day?
1523
00:54:35,764 --> 00:54:36,722
- I say yes.
1524
00:54:36,840 --> 00:54:38,983
- You ask him every day?
1525
00:54:39,101 --> 00:54:40,242
- Every day.
1526
00:54:40,244 --> 00:54:41,426
- Every--tell me why.
1527
00:54:41,487 --> 00:54:43,412
- So it kind of started
as a joke,
1528
00:54:43,414 --> 00:54:44,838
But now it's kind of
like a temperature check.
1529
00:54:44,865 --> 00:54:47,992
Like, are we still
saying yes 100%?
1530
00:54:48,110 --> 00:54:50,344
Are we saying maybe?
1531
00:54:50,371 --> 00:54:52,663
- Here's what I want you
to kind of
1532
00:54:52,781 --> 00:54:54,498
Just give some pause to.
1533
00:54:54,616 --> 00:54:55,907
- Yeah.
1534
00:54:56,026 --> 00:54:57,609
- Now, right now,
things are going great.
1535
00:54:57,670 --> 00:55:01,096
- Right.
- So that works.
1536
00:55:01,098 --> 00:55:04,616
If you had a bad argument
and all of a sudden
1537
00:55:04,677 --> 00:55:07,845
You're feeling like, "I don't
know if I like this guy.
1538
00:55:07,963 --> 00:55:10,347
I really don't like him
right now,"
1539
00:55:10,466 --> 00:55:12,683
And you ask him that question,
1540
00:55:12,801 --> 00:55:15,927
When you're in a valley
and not on a mountain,
1541
00:55:16,046 --> 00:55:18,497
It's going to affect you guys.
- Yeah.
1542
00:55:18,499 --> 00:55:20,024
- Because all of a sudden,
okay, oh, god,
1543
00:55:20,142 --> 00:55:21,358
My marriage is in trouble.
Oh, okay.
1544
00:55:21,477 --> 00:55:22,967
Okay. What's wrong? Okay.
1545
00:55:23,029 --> 00:55:25,879
It's gonna send you
into an unnecessary tailspin.
1546
00:55:25,906 --> 00:55:27,622
- I really appreciate
pastor cal
1547
00:55:27,624 --> 00:55:28,615
And all of his wisdom,
1548
00:55:28,776 --> 00:55:30,567
But I'm gonna ask him
1549
00:55:30,685 --> 00:55:31,659
What he would say
on decision day,
1550
00:55:31,661 --> 00:55:32,794
Because I like it.
1551
00:55:32,796 --> 00:55:34,112
And I don't give a [beep].
1552
00:55:34,272 --> 00:55:35,763
♪ ♪
1553
00:55:35,765 --> 00:55:37,374
- Your--your foundation here
is pretty strong.
1554
00:55:37,493 --> 00:55:38,876
- Yeah.
1555
00:55:38,994 --> 00:55:41,545
- But has that led to intimacy
in your marriage?
1556
00:55:41,663 --> 00:55:43,955
- We have been intimate
as of this week.
1557
00:55:44,074 --> 00:55:45,156
- Yeah.
- Awesome.
1558
00:55:45,217 --> 00:55:46,733
Awesome. Awesome.
1559
00:55:46,761 --> 00:55:47,959
Did that bring you closer?
1560
00:55:48,078 --> 00:55:49,494
- Yes.
- Yeah, it did.
1561
00:55:49,555 --> 00:55:51,296
- So then--so then as far
as the intimacy is concerned,
1562
00:55:51,415 --> 00:55:53,131
Has it been sort of
an equal initiation?
1563
00:55:53,250 --> 00:55:54,892
- Yeah.
- It just started.
1564
00:55:55,010 --> 00:55:55,893
- You didn't have
to break down walls?
1565
00:55:56,011 --> 00:55:57,652
- No. It just started.
1566
00:55:57,654 --> 00:55:59,563
So, you know, as soon as
you guys are out of here,
1567
00:55:59,681 --> 00:56:02,140
Maybe...
[laughter]
1568
00:56:02,259 --> 00:56:03,809
Maybe we wrap this up
a little early.
1569
00:56:03,927 --> 00:56:05,160
- I like that--[laughs]
1570
00:56:05,162 --> 00:56:06,495
- It was almost like
in a movie.
1571
00:56:06,497 --> 00:56:08,313
Like, we both just looked
at each other
1572
00:56:08,432 --> 00:56:10,165
And we were like...
- It's time.
1573
00:56:10,167 --> 00:56:10,949
♪ ♪
1574
00:56:16,248 --> 00:56:21,660
♪ ♪
1575
00:56:21,778 --> 00:56:24,012
- Hello.
- Hello.
1576
00:56:24,014 --> 00:56:27,666
♪ ♪
1577
00:56:27,784 --> 00:56:29,334
- Mack and I have not spoken
1578
00:56:29,453 --> 00:56:32,429
Since I decided not to move
into the apartment.
1579
00:56:32,548 --> 00:56:36,174
♪ ♪
1580
00:56:36,293 --> 00:56:38,427
I am big on
positive vibes only.
1581
00:56:38,545 --> 00:56:42,380
Like, I don't like to give
energy to negative situations.
1582
00:56:42,441 --> 00:56:48,052
And the negative attitude,
the lack of adventurousness,
1583
00:56:48,114 --> 00:56:49,947
Those are not energies,
1584
00:56:50,065 --> 00:56:52,616
Those are not things
that I need in my life.
1585
00:56:52,734 --> 00:56:53,826
[knocking]
1586
00:56:57,415 --> 00:56:59,063
- Hello. Hello.
1587
00:56:59,083 --> 00:57:00,916
- The man of the hour.
1588
00:57:01,034 --> 00:57:02,175
You've got
some explaining to do.
1589
00:57:02,177 --> 00:57:03,568
- No, I don't.
1590
00:57:03,687 --> 00:57:05,462
You've got
some explaining to do.
1591
00:57:05,581 --> 00:57:06,630
- Would you like a drink?
1592
00:57:06,748 --> 00:57:08,364
- No. I'm gonna pass.
1593
00:57:08,384 --> 00:57:09,741
- Okay.
- Thank you.
1594
00:57:09,802 --> 00:57:11,367
How are you doing?
1595
00:57:11,387 --> 00:57:13,536
You guys are married.
1596
00:57:13,556 --> 00:57:14,780
- We are.
- Yeah.
1597
00:57:14,782 --> 00:57:16,140
- Okay.
- We are.
1598
00:57:16,258 --> 00:57:17,266
Indeed.
- Yeah.
1599
00:57:18,927 --> 00:57:20,994
- [sighs]
- all right.
1600
00:57:21,021 --> 00:57:24,314
You are poised for battle.
1601
00:57:24,433 --> 00:57:26,625
I'm just looking at you,
your posture.
1602
00:57:26,652 --> 00:57:28,243
You are poised for battle.
1603
00:57:28,245 --> 00:57:29,895
♪ ♪
1604
00:57:30,013 --> 00:57:31,487
Why?
1605
00:57:31,489 --> 00:57:34,633
- Because we both have
some concerns.
1606
00:57:34,635 --> 00:57:36,885
- About what?
1607
00:57:36,887 --> 00:57:38,704
- He feels like
there are things,
1608
00:57:38,822 --> 00:57:41,406
Like, on the top of his list
that he asked for in a spouse
1609
00:57:41,525 --> 00:57:43,492
That he didn't get.
- Okay.
1610
00:57:43,610 --> 00:57:46,019
- And then
I also feel the same way.
1611
00:57:46,046 --> 00:57:48,079
- What's at the top of your
list that you didn't get?
1612
00:57:48,198 --> 00:57:52,250
- Like, outgoing,
1613
00:57:52,369 --> 00:57:54,586
You know,
someone more positive,
1614
00:57:54,746 --> 00:57:56,680
Like, more optimistic,
adventurous.
1615
00:57:56,798 --> 00:57:57,756
You know, like--
- adventurous.
1616
00:57:57,874 --> 00:58:00,609
And he's not adventurous?
1617
00:58:00,611 --> 00:58:02,352
- Over the honeymoon,
I kind of felt like
1618
00:58:02,471 --> 00:58:05,022
I was like, come on.
1619
00:58:05,140 --> 00:58:07,316
♪ ♪
1620
00:58:09,311 --> 00:58:10,936
- You don't take risks?
1621
00:58:11,054 --> 00:58:13,104
- No, I do take risks.
1622
00:58:13,223 --> 00:58:15,524
But like, if we're talking
adventure and sailing
1623
00:58:15,642 --> 00:58:20,704
And riding horses, you know,
maybe once a month.
1624
00:58:20,822 --> 00:58:22,814
But you know, coming into this,
1625
00:58:22,875 --> 00:58:25,483
I did want somebody that was
somewhat more extroverted,
1626
00:58:25,544 --> 00:58:28,712
But like not somebody
so adventurous as dom.
1627
00:58:28,830 --> 00:58:31,431
♪ ♪
1628
00:58:31,433 --> 00:58:34,943
- So you didn't--you didn't
give us the measurement?
1629
00:58:34,945 --> 00:58:36,795
- To an extent,
I guess, that's--
1630
00:58:36,913 --> 00:58:38,980
So that's up there.
1631
00:58:38,982 --> 00:58:40,999
And then dom is a dog person.
1632
00:58:41,060 --> 00:58:42,834
She doesn't claim that
she's, like, not a dog person,
1633
00:58:42,895 --> 00:58:45,737
But I have different standards
and stuff for my dogs.
1634
00:58:45,739 --> 00:58:48,065
- You know dogs on the bed
was a deal breaker for me.
1635
00:58:48,183 --> 00:58:50,651
♪ ♪
1636
00:58:50,811 --> 00:58:51,977
- That can be compromised.
1637
00:58:52,095 --> 00:58:54,371
Do your dogs have to sleep
in the bed?
1638
00:58:54,373 --> 00:58:56,180
- I mean, they don't have to.
1639
00:58:56,242 --> 00:59:00,151
♪ ♪
1640
00:59:00,270 --> 00:59:03,747
- I want you to see
that some of this is absurd.
1641
00:59:03,865 --> 00:59:06,950
This is all stuff
that can be compromised
1642
00:59:07,068 --> 00:59:09,995
When two people care
about each other.
1643
00:59:10,113 --> 00:59:11,313
Did you want marriage,
1644
00:59:11,315 --> 00:59:12,847
Or did you want marriage
on your terms?
1645
00:59:12,849 --> 00:59:16,334
♪ ♪
1646
00:59:16,453 --> 00:59:18,670
- I mean, I--I wanted marriage,
1647
00:59:18,788 --> 00:59:21,581
But I didn't think
that I was gonna get someone
1648
00:59:21,642 --> 00:59:23,400
That was a polar opposite
of me.
1649
00:59:23,402 --> 00:59:25,102
- He is not a polar opposite
to you.
1650
00:59:25,220 --> 00:59:26,261
- We're in agreeance.
1651
00:59:26,379 --> 00:59:27,670
- Well, then you guys lied.
1652
00:59:27,790 --> 00:59:30,181
♪ ♪
1653
00:59:30,300 --> 00:59:33,143
Honestly,
when we put you guys together,
1654
00:59:33,261 --> 00:59:37,622
We had so much faith that this
was going to be a good match.
1655
00:59:37,624 --> 00:59:39,516
You both expressed
that you wanted
1656
00:59:39,518 --> 00:59:40,993
A certain amount
of independence
1657
00:59:41,111 --> 00:59:42,319
In your relationship.
1658
00:59:42,437 --> 00:59:44,471
You didn't want a needy spouse.
1659
00:59:44,498 --> 00:59:47,231
And domynique,
you need somebody
1660
00:59:47,251 --> 00:59:48,700
Who's going to be there
for you,
1661
00:59:48,818 --> 00:59:50,477
Who's going to be a protector,
1662
00:59:50,504 --> 00:59:52,621
Who's going to be honest
with you,
1663
00:59:52,739 --> 00:59:54,631
Who's going to be faithful.
1664
00:59:54,750 --> 00:59:57,943
You asked for an older,
more mature man,
1665
00:59:57,945 --> 01:00:00,912
Somebody who's going to be
a stable person
1666
01:00:00,973 --> 01:00:04,232
That you can build
a long-term life with.
1667
01:00:04,234 --> 01:00:06,042
And mack, you asked for someone
1668
01:00:06,061 --> 01:00:08,453
Who is going to pull you
out of your shell.
1669
01:00:08,455 --> 01:00:11,047
And you wanted a go-getter
just like yourself,
1670
01:00:11,066 --> 01:00:13,758
Who can grow with you,
and somebody
1671
01:00:13,819 --> 01:00:16,578
Who can accomplish things
and build a family
1672
01:00:16,580 --> 01:00:19,764
And just enjoy life together.
1673
01:00:19,825 --> 01:00:22,492
And we gave each of you
what you asked for
1674
01:00:22,611 --> 01:00:24,870
And what you needed.
1675
01:00:24,988 --> 01:00:26,270
The question here is,
1676
01:00:26,290 --> 01:00:29,833
Have you guys
even given it a chance?
1677
01:00:29,951 --> 01:00:31,543
♪ ♪
1678
01:00:34,514 --> 01:00:37,315
- I wanted someone
who was more established,
1679
01:00:37,317 --> 01:00:41,678
Like, secure in their place,
where they are in life.
1680
01:00:41,797 --> 01:00:45,682
Taking into consideration,
like, how old he is,
1681
01:00:45,801 --> 01:00:48,593
I expected more.
1682
01:00:48,712 --> 01:00:50,278
And then, like,
you didn't want to find a place
1683
01:00:50,280 --> 01:00:51,355
And, like, sign a lease,
1684
01:00:51,473 --> 01:00:52,697
But you wanted to jump
into a marriage?
1685
01:00:52,699 --> 01:00:54,424
Like...
1686
01:00:54,443 --> 01:00:56,860
- So what?
1687
01:00:56,978 --> 01:00:59,521
People make decisions
about their lives
1688
01:00:59,639 --> 01:01:01,523
That we might not
always agree with,
1689
01:01:01,641 --> 01:01:04,125
But they have a right
to make those decisions.
1690
01:01:04,127 --> 01:01:06,411
Marriage is when
two people come together,
1691
01:01:06,530 --> 01:01:08,146
And they decide, you know what?
1692
01:01:08,207 --> 01:01:10,131
Let's build a life together.
1693
01:01:10,133 --> 01:01:12,909
We're going to make different
decisions now together.
1694
01:01:13,027 --> 01:01:15,337
♪ ♪
1695
01:01:15,455 --> 01:01:17,288
I know the man ain't broke.
1696
01:01:17,407 --> 01:01:19,657
- I felt judged
by the basement thing,
1697
01:01:19,718 --> 01:01:24,388
Because you could have taken me
to a corner in a tent,
1698
01:01:24,506 --> 01:01:27,424
And I wouldn't have been
less attracted to you.
1699
01:01:27,542 --> 01:01:28,967
And I feel like
that was your takeaway
1700
01:01:29,085 --> 01:01:30,485
From the basement thing.
1701
01:01:30,487 --> 01:01:33,504
- It's just a turnoff for me.
1702
01:01:33,565 --> 01:01:36,658
Like, if you would have had
four roommates,
1703
01:01:36,660 --> 01:01:37,767
That would have been better.
1704
01:01:37,886 --> 01:01:39,177
- I would rather live
in a basement
1705
01:01:39,196 --> 01:01:40,404
Than have four roommates.
- I don't understand.
1706
01:01:40,522 --> 01:01:41,738
How is having four roommates
better?
1707
01:01:41,857 --> 01:01:42,997
- Because then he would have
had his own space.
1708
01:01:42,999 --> 01:01:44,182
You know what I mean?
1709
01:01:44,243 --> 01:01:45,283
Like, he would have, like,
had a place--
1710
01:01:45,402 --> 01:01:46,459
- I have two bedrooms
and a bathroom.
1711
01:01:46,461 --> 01:01:48,704
- Are you gonna let me talk,
bro?
1712
01:01:48,822 --> 01:01:51,039
Jeez louise,
I'm not talking over you.
1713
01:01:51,158 --> 01:01:53,792
- You're right. You're right.
My apologies.
1714
01:01:53,910 --> 01:01:56,327
- So what do you want--
what do you want to do?
1715
01:01:56,446 --> 01:01:57,587
[tense music]
1716
01:01:57,706 --> 01:01:59,030
- I don't know. Like...
1717
01:01:59,091 --> 01:02:00,698
♪ ♪
1718
01:02:00,759 --> 01:02:03,184
I'm--honestly, like,
I'm just kind of over it.
1719
01:02:03,186 --> 01:02:04,761
♪ ♪
1720
01:02:04,880 --> 01:02:07,021
- What does that mean,
"I'm over it"?
1721
01:02:07,023 --> 01:02:08,824
I'm over this conversation?
1722
01:02:08,826 --> 01:02:10,992
I'm over the marriage?
1723
01:02:10,994 --> 01:02:12,360
What does that mean?
1724
01:02:12,362 --> 01:02:19,342
♪ ♪
1725
01:02:19,361 --> 01:02:21,269
- ♪ you've got it ♪
1726
01:02:21,387 --> 01:02:23,313
- Next time on
"married at first sight"...
1727
01:02:23,431 --> 01:02:25,723
- ♪ you've got it, it all ♪
1728
01:02:25,884 --> 01:02:27,150
- We had a nice little
candlelight dinner.
1729
01:02:27,268 --> 01:02:28,851
- How romantic did
the honeymoon get?
1730
01:02:28,971 --> 01:02:30,561
- Did we have sex?
1731
01:02:30,581 --> 01:02:33,290
- Communication is, bar none,
best I've ever had.
1732
01:02:33,408 --> 01:02:34,833
- So we got a housewarming
coming up.
1733
01:02:34,951 --> 01:02:36,960
- I'm not coming.
1734
01:02:37,078 --> 01:02:38,879
- So is it like
a personality clash?
1735
01:02:39,039 --> 01:02:41,055
- I didn't feel respected.
1736
01:02:41,057 --> 01:02:42,907
She basically told me
I was a fake person.
1737
01:02:42,968 --> 01:02:45,409
- I feel like no
wasn't an acceptable answer.
1738
01:02:45,471 --> 01:02:48,579
And I am--
you know I'm very honest.
1739
01:02:48,640 --> 01:02:51,883
- My concern is that
I'm gonna be the one to--
1740
01:02:52,001 --> 01:02:52,917
- You're gonna be the [bleep].
1741
01:02:52,978 --> 01:02:54,052
- I'm gonna be the [bleep].
1742
01:02:54,170 --> 01:02:55,278
- So do you want to be married?
1743
01:02:55,280 --> 01:02:56,905
♪ ♪
1744
01:02:56,907 --> 01:02:58,156
- You are going to regret this.
1745
01:02:58,158 --> 01:03:03,445
♪ ♪