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- ♪ oh, even though
it looks like ♪
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- Let's do this.
- Yeah.
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- Ten singles took a leap
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Into the unknown
in search of love.
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They married
as complete strangers.
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[cheers and applause]
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- ♪ you can bring
your friends ♪
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- Last time, our couples
took their first major step
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Towards incorporating each
other into their daily lives.
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- This is elizabeth.
- Hi!
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- The positives definitely
outweigh the negatives.
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I think I was
overthinking the whole,
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Like, moving in thing too.
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- I think
we judged a little early.
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So we're on, I think,
a positive track,
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So I feel encouraged.
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- I know
in his past relationships,
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He's kind of gotten
walked all over
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Because he is such a nice guy.
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- She wants someone who's,
like,
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Going to keep her
in check in a little--
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- It's nice that you're nice.
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You just don't want
to be a pushover.
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- Yeah.
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- If we're trying
to reach that one goal,
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Which is the eight weeks,
and get to decision day,
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And say we want to be together,
what makes you attracted to me?
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- Do you want to be with shaq
for the rest of your life?
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- I can't answer that
right now.
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I don't know yet.
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[dramatic music]
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- I'm sexually,
like, attracted to him,
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But he's not there yet with me.
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- I mean, it's new for me too.
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I've never been in a situation
where, like, I didn't want to.
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- He ain't been sexually
attracted to them.
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- I would like a divorce.
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♪ ♪
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- So your marriage ends here.
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- I'm disappointed,
to say the least.
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♪ ♪
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- And tonight,
with only 5 1/2 weeks
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Until decision day,
our couples build
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On their connection and try
to create a foundation of love
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That will last a lifetime.
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- Come on, mr. Good-looking.
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We're definitely taking things
to the next level today.
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- I don't want you to,
like, see anything later
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And get upset about it,
but they asked appearance-wise.
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I said a little thicker
than I normally go for.
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- We just met each other,
so of course,
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I'm going
to want to be around you.
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[dramatic music]
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- You know,
I got a girl pregnant.
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♪ ♪
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- Do you feel like
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You're falling in love
in this marriage?
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- No, no.
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- This is what happens
when you let your wall down.
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I let somebody get close.
It just blows up in your face.
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♪ ♪
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- ♪ it's all or nothing ♪
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- This is
"married at first sight."
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- ♪ there's no other way ♪
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♪ it's all or nothing ♪
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- ♪ home is wherever you go ♪
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♪ and this much, I swear ♪
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♪ you won't be alone ♪
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[dog whining]
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- My favorite alarm clock.
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- Look how you doing it.
What is--
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- No, because you--
- you really--
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- You missed the whole--
- I did not.
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I just--it's wet right there.
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- You did the whole zigzag.
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You were supposed to mop,
like, the areas.
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- Now that our newlyweds have
settled into their new homes
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And lives together
as a married couple,
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It's time to start focusing
on what they really need.
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- You hungry?
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- Yeah, I definitely
could use some coffee.
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I'm already working in here.
[laughs]
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- Most couples
would have already built
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A strong bond
and a love to carry them
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Through life's
twists and turns,
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But our couples
still need to forge
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That critical connection.
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- How do it get wet
over here already?
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- And they'll need
to do it fast
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Because in only 5 1/2 weeks,
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They'll have to decide
whether they want
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To stay married
or get a divorce.
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[upbeat music]
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- ♪ oh, my lord,
take this hand ♪
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♪ save me from the gallows ♪
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♪ hear this news,
bear my gold ♪
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♪ spare my dough ♪
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♪ lay me in the shallows ♪
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- So covid has got your boy.
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I'm down, quarantining.
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Most of my symptoms have
just been extreme fatigue.
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And I was having, like, chills.
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Jasmine does have, like,
a long workday and schedule.
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So you know,
I am fending for myself.
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You know, had to feed myself.
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- I'm going to try and be there
for him as much as I can.
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So we're just going
to be helpful,
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And we're going
to get through this.
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[dramatic music]
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[upbeat music]
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- ♪ why don't you
light the flame? ♪
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♪ fire to guide the way ♪
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♪ show me desire ♪
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♪ I'm waiting,
I'm waiting on your love ♪
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[phone ringing]
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- Hello.
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- Oh, hello.
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- How's number one son doing?
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- Oh, mucho grand.
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- So are we having fun yet?
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- We're having a good time.
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We've had some snafus,
but for the most part,
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We get along well.
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Right now, we're just
kind of in smooth water.
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And like, it's comfortable.
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It's fine.
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Yeah, we've got the--
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We've got
the social aspect down.
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But you know, it's just like,
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Where is this stream taking us?
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- Yeah.
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- She's really been just
focused on her workplace.
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So I'm actually looking
for those deeper attributes
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And want to know gina
at a deeper level.
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- Well, those things
could come in time, so...
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- Oh, yeah?
Did they come in time with you?
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- [laughs]
yeah.
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- Mm-hmm, words of wisdom.
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- I've never been
in your position before.
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- Oh, yeah?
You never married a stranger?
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- Never...
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- Yeah, oh.
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So you, being a business owner,
do you find it hard to,
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Like, have time for yourself
or your significant others?
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- No.
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- You can step away from work
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And do all the things
you want to do.
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Like, you travel quite a bit,
go up to new york all the time.
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- Yeah, I can take as much
time off as I feel is needed.
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But...
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- So would you ever
just make business
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Your sole focus in your life?
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- In the beginning.
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You have to dedicate yourself
if you want it to succeed.
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For sanity, you do have
to break away from it
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And learn how to delegate.
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- Interesting.
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Talking with my mom,
it's definitely
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An interesting perspective.
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And I get it.
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I know I'm going to need
to support gina in this.
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But I mean, I think
there's work-life balance,
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Whether you own a business
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Or you're working
for another business.
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You have to have that balance.
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But you know, we still got
a lot of developing to do.
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And the runway
is shortening up
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Pretty quickly
to land this plane.
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It's going to be
a tough decision.
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Like, we've got
to go a far distance
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In a short period of time.
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- Sounds like, you know, this
has been quite an adventure.
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You were looking
for an adventure, right?
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- Yeah, yeah,
it's an adventure, for sure.
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- [laughs]
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[upbeat music]
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- ♪ can we make this last
forever? ♪
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♪ you and me together ♪
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♪ endless nights,
your hand... ♪
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- Hi.
- How are you?
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- Hi.
- Welcome to zen blossom.
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- This is so nice.
- How are you guys doing?
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Chris.
- Chris.
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- I'm so excited
that chris planned
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A couples' massage for us.
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It's something
I've been dying to do
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Literally since the day
I met him.
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So I'm so excited.
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- We can begin
with you face up, please.
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- Ok.
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- Last time I did
a couples' massage
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Was eight, ten years ago.
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It was a long time ago.
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It was with a toxic ex,
and it was a very awkward one.
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And so hopefully,
this is much better.
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- ♪ this last forever,
you and me together ♪
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♪ endless nights ♪
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- I didn't know I carried
that much tension
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In my arm like that.
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- I can imagine.
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- Yeah,
there was a lot of stress
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Leading up to that moment.
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[laughs]
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It's like,
who is she going to be?
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And there she is.
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- It's me.
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- Well, I mean, I think it's
just kind of growing together,
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And, you know, really making
sure that we're communicating
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At all times,
and just kind of talking
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Through, like,
what's important to us,
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And why it's important.
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- I feel like in any marriage,
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There will definitely be times
of stress and frustration.
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So I think that will always
be present in our marriage
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To a degree.
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However,
our lives fit together
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Really well right now.
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I love coming home to him.
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I love sharing a bed
with him every night.
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I love living together.
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We have such a great balance,
and I hope it continues
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Like that
for the rest of our lives.
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I just want to make sure
that I'm not, you know,
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Missing out on something
that's really important to you
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Because I just don't notice
that I'm not doing it, so--
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- No, I think you've been
doing a really good job.
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I think you should
do what feels natural to you,
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And you shouldn't hold back,
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And just making sure, like,
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If you want to just tell me
how you're feeling or, like--
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- Oh, great.
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I just always want to
make sure that your needs
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Are being met, so--
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- That's it.
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Sorry, she's getting
in there deep, and I like it.
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- Oh.
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- Do you all
massage each other?
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- A little bit.
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I've massaged her a bit,
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But probably should
massage her more than I do.
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- He's tried, but
my shoulders have been like,
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"no, back off.
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We're just going to stay
really tight in her ears," so--
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- It is one of those things
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That we definitely
should do more.
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I mean, touch is
very important to us.
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It's one of our love languages,
for sure.
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So I know it's both of ours.
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So it is one of the things that
we definitely should do more.
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- Well, that never was a love
language for me, honestly.
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- Oh, it wasn't?
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- Physical touch was
probably on the bottom
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Of my love language list.
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But since we've been married,
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It's probably number one now,
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00:10:22,447 --> 00:10:26,499
Which is wild when I hear
myself say that out loud.
257
00:10:26,618 --> 00:10:28,943
But truthfully, I didn't
like people touching me, or--
258
00:10:29,004 --> 00:10:30,261
- Oh.
259
00:10:30,263 --> 00:10:32,188
- Any kind of pda,
or when people would stand
260
00:10:32,215 --> 00:10:34,281
Next to you
and try to massage you,
261
00:10:34,343 --> 00:10:36,676
It would be like, "go away.
Don't touch me."
262
00:10:36,795 --> 00:10:39,195
And now, every time I'm--
263
00:10:39,222 --> 00:10:41,089
Like, even right now,
I can't see you,
264
00:10:41,207 --> 00:10:42,423
But I know you're near.
265
00:10:42,542 --> 00:10:44,792
I'm like, oh, I want to be,
like, closer.
266
00:10:44,853 --> 00:10:47,704
My feelings every day for chris
grow a little more.
267
00:10:47,731 --> 00:10:50,523
- ♪ this is it ♪
268
00:10:50,642 --> 00:10:52,767
- I have no doubt that I
will fall in love with chris,
269
00:10:52,885 --> 00:10:54,769
And every day,
I feel more secure
270
00:10:54,887 --> 00:10:57,138
In our relationship
and his feelings for me.
271
00:10:57,199 --> 00:11:02,143
- ♪ everything changed ♪
272
00:11:02,204 --> 00:11:04,462
[upbeat music]
273
00:11:04,464 --> 00:11:06,798
- ♪ I'm a believer ♪
274
00:11:06,800 --> 00:11:08,708
♪ ♪
275
00:11:08,827 --> 00:11:13,088
♪ in what I feel ♪
276
00:11:13,206 --> 00:11:15,790
♪ this is for real ♪
277
00:11:15,908 --> 00:11:16,958
- Hi.
278
00:11:17,076 --> 00:11:19,252
- Good morning, beautiful.
279
00:11:19,370 --> 00:11:21,404
- Good morning.
280
00:11:21,431 --> 00:11:22,931
- What's going on?
281
00:11:23,049 --> 00:11:25,207
- You're a whole wife now,
like, how are you doing?
282
00:11:25,268 --> 00:11:26,267
How are you feeling?
283
00:11:26,386 --> 00:11:28,361
Is it what you expected?
284
00:11:28,363 --> 00:11:29,637
Are you enjoying it?
285
00:11:29,756 --> 00:11:31,839
- The entire honeymoon
was amazing.
286
00:11:31,900 --> 00:11:34,417
And then,
the next best highlight
287
00:11:34,444 --> 00:11:35,993
Was moving into the apartment.
288
00:11:35,995 --> 00:11:38,329
I mean, just saying that
makes me smile, but--
289
00:11:38,331 --> 00:11:39,406
[laughter]
290
00:11:39,524 --> 00:11:41,090
- You are blushing.
291
00:11:41,118 --> 00:11:44,077
[laughter]
292
00:11:44,955 --> 00:11:47,414
- Yeah, so I was just happy.
293
00:11:47,532 --> 00:11:51,601
I felt so blessed
all at the same time.
294
00:11:51,628 --> 00:11:56,272
But I'm just hoping and waiting
for his freakin' work schedule
295
00:11:56,299 --> 00:11:58,666
To go back to normal
so that we can
296
00:11:58,785 --> 00:12:01,853
Come home at night and actually
have that quality time
297
00:12:01,855 --> 00:12:03,370
With each other.
298
00:12:03,432 --> 00:12:06,783
- Definitely be firm with that
because it's so important.
299
00:12:06,810 --> 00:12:08,359
He's going
to have to make time.
300
00:12:08,361 --> 00:12:11,345
Like,
consider it a second job.
301
00:12:11,464 --> 00:12:14,198
Marriage is his second job,
and he may be drained,
302
00:12:14,200 --> 00:12:16,109
But he's going to have
to make time for you.
303
00:12:16,227 --> 00:12:18,403
- I tried to wait up for him
last night, but I fell asleep.
304
00:12:20,657 --> 00:12:23,633
- Yeah, because he's hosting
these late-night events
305
00:12:23,660 --> 00:12:25,452
On campus for the students.
306
00:12:25,570 --> 00:12:28,562
So I'm, like, asleep
when he gets here.
307
00:12:28,623 --> 00:12:29,789
- Oh, girl.
308
00:12:29,908 --> 00:12:31,899
- I'm being as patient,
and understanding,
309
00:12:31,960 --> 00:12:33,718
And supportive as I can.
310
00:12:33,720 --> 00:12:35,937
But for me,
I just want to make for sure
311
00:12:35,939 --> 00:12:38,631
That I am a priority
in his life and not,
312
00:12:38,750 --> 00:12:41,058
You know,
slipping through the cracks.
313
00:12:41,060 --> 00:12:44,487
It's very important right now
that he and I spend time
314
00:12:44,514 --> 00:12:46,063
Getting to know each other
315
00:12:46,182 --> 00:12:47,891
Because that's the only way
that you will have
316
00:12:48,051 --> 00:12:50,735
That emotional connection
is if you're carving out time
317
00:12:50,737 --> 00:12:54,405
And being intentional
with each other.
318
00:12:54,407 --> 00:12:56,816
Like, I'm not that needy,
but with this being
319
00:12:56,935 --> 00:12:59,927
The type of process and journey
that we're on right now...
320
00:12:59,946 --> 00:13:00,962
- Yeah.
321
00:13:00,989 --> 00:13:02,822
- We have
to spend time together.
322
00:13:04,234 --> 00:13:06,067
- Yeah, and he
asked me for grace.
323
00:13:06,185 --> 00:13:09,829
And I'm like, I'm going
to continue to give you grace,
324
00:13:09,948 --> 00:13:11,772
You know, but--
325
00:13:11,833 --> 00:13:13,683
- Carve something out
where you guys
326
00:13:13,710 --> 00:13:14,926
Can do something together.
327
00:13:14,928 --> 00:13:17,186
I don't want you guys
to be missing
328
00:13:17,214 --> 00:13:19,005
A connection
just because you didn't
329
00:13:19,123 --> 00:13:20,857
Have the time and opportunity.
330
00:13:20,884 --> 00:13:22,817
You just have
to make it happen.
331
00:13:22,819 --> 00:13:25,119
Because I know that for you,
that emotional bond
332
00:13:25,280 --> 00:13:27,396
And connection
is going to be crucial
333
00:13:27,398 --> 00:13:31,351
For you saying yes
at the end of the day
334
00:13:31,469 --> 00:13:34,203
To remain married to him, so--
335
00:13:34,231 --> 00:13:35,096
- Yeah.
336
00:13:35,214 --> 00:13:36,797
- Just gonna have to.
337
00:13:36,858 --> 00:13:39,667
- ♪ I'm reaching out ♪
338
00:13:39,694 --> 00:13:42,362
[somber music]
339
00:13:42,480 --> 00:13:43,404
♪ oh ♪
340
00:13:47,293 --> 00:13:50,461
♪ and I just go in circles
trying to think straight ♪
341
00:13:50,463 --> 00:13:53,873
[soft music]
342
00:13:53,992 --> 00:13:57,484
- Jasmine made me some
vegetable soup last night,
343
00:13:57,546 --> 00:13:58,953
Which was pretty good.
344
00:13:59,071 --> 00:14:04,792
So in terms of jasmine nursing
me or helping me get back,
345
00:14:04,911 --> 00:14:08,662
On a scale of ten,
I'll give her about a seven,
346
00:14:08,823 --> 00:14:10,381
Which isn't bad.
347
00:14:10,499 --> 00:14:14,302
It's our first sick encounter
as a married couple.
348
00:14:14,420 --> 00:14:17,730
Looking forward to getting
all my energy and my mojo back
349
00:14:17,849 --> 00:14:22,159
And just living normal again.
350
00:14:22,161 --> 00:14:25,238
- ♪ oh, one day, you'll see ♪
351
00:14:25,356 --> 00:14:32,245
♪ I was born to be a vip,
a vip, hey ♪
352
00:14:32,363 --> 00:14:34,989
[upbeat music]
353
00:14:35,149 --> 00:14:36,482
- Hey, hey.
354
00:14:36,501 --> 00:14:38,384
- Hi, I'm here for my 12:00.
355
00:14:38,386 --> 00:14:40,745
- [laughs]
reyna can't take you today.
356
00:14:40,747 --> 00:14:42,630
- Sorry, I'm busy.
- She's busy.
357
00:14:45,309 --> 00:14:47,084
- Yeah, I booked
one last night.
358
00:14:47,203 --> 00:14:50,279
- I'm just so ready
to introduce clint to the team.
359
00:14:50,307 --> 00:14:52,015
I just want
to see what the team thinks
360
00:14:52,175 --> 00:14:55,209
About clint because
they spend every day with me.
361
00:14:55,270 --> 00:14:56,710
And so I'm just--
362
00:14:56,730 --> 00:14:58,605
I'm kind of ready
for them to size him up.
363
00:14:58,723 --> 00:15:00,881
- Well, give me the tour.
- This is it.
364
00:15:00,942 --> 00:15:02,417
- What's up?
365
00:15:02,535 --> 00:15:04,152
- This is where we manage
to work eight people.
366
00:15:04,270 --> 00:15:05,945
- This is where we slay hair.
- This is nice.
367
00:15:06,064 --> 00:15:07,447
- Here's the party.
- It's very organized.
368
00:15:07,565 --> 00:15:09,181
- It's very stressful in here.
369
00:15:09,300 --> 00:15:11,242
We've gotten to a point
where we've accepted
370
00:15:11,361 --> 00:15:14,362
That we need to have a little
more emotional intimacy.
371
00:15:14,480 --> 00:15:17,123
So that only comes with
sharing your life with someone.
372
00:15:17,241 --> 00:15:18,899
- And you got
the big bidet here.
373
00:15:18,960 --> 00:15:21,093
- Yep.
- This is nice.
374
00:15:21,095 --> 00:15:22,453
- It's actually comfortable.
375
00:15:22,571 --> 00:15:24,881
Gina and I have worked really
hard to make this comfortable.
376
00:15:25,041 --> 00:15:28,167
- Sorry, bathroom moment.
I can't, I can't.
377
00:15:28,285 --> 00:15:29,710
- [laughs]
378
00:15:29,712 --> 00:15:32,030
He's apologizing
for his bathroom humor.
379
00:15:32,032 --> 00:15:33,139
- You're good.
380
00:15:33,257 --> 00:15:35,216
- [laughs]
381
00:15:35,334 --> 00:15:36,726
- Are you messy?
382
00:15:36,886 --> 00:15:38,494
Both: No.
383
00:15:38,521 --> 00:15:39,996
- Ok, I'd envisioned
you being messy.
384
00:15:40,023 --> 00:15:40,980
I don't know why.
385
00:15:41,099 --> 00:15:42,089
- You envisioned
him being messy?
386
00:15:42,150 --> 00:15:43,624
- Really?
- Yeah.
387
00:15:43,626 --> 00:15:45,576
- Why, is it because he has,
like, a beard or something?
388
00:15:45,578 --> 00:15:46,985
- That's interesting.
- I don't know why.
389
00:15:47,105 --> 00:15:48,929
- I guess I'm not
well put together.
390
00:15:48,949 --> 00:15:50,173
- No, I think jokesters--
391
00:15:50,200 --> 00:15:51,841
- Is it because he looks
a little, like, granol--
392
00:15:51,868 --> 00:15:52,900
Oh, because he's a jokester?
393
00:15:53,019 --> 00:15:54,251
- Jokesters are always,
like, messy.
394
00:15:54,253 --> 00:15:55,495
- Oh.
395
00:15:55,613 --> 00:15:57,271
- Like, butt jokes are
just always, you're dirty.
396
00:15:57,332 --> 00:15:58,665
- Yeah.
[laughter]
397
00:15:58,783 --> 00:16:00,308
- You're dirty
because you told a butt joke.
398
00:16:00,310 --> 00:16:01,909
- I go against the grain,
apparently.
399
00:16:02,028 --> 00:16:04,003
You know, gina's
really pulled into her work,
400
00:16:04,122 --> 00:16:07,415
But just seeing her
interact with her staff
401
00:16:07,533 --> 00:16:10,835
And to see what the salon even
looks like, I'm impressed.
402
00:16:10,953 --> 00:16:13,529
It looks great.
She's very ambitious.
403
00:16:13,556 --> 00:16:15,314
She's entrepreneurial.
404
00:16:15,316 --> 00:16:17,791
So I think that's something
that I'm attracted to.
405
00:16:17,852 --> 00:16:22,629
But at the same time,
you got to live your life.
406
00:16:22,691 --> 00:16:24,832
Like, success is
one aspect of it.
407
00:16:24,834 --> 00:16:28,269
But I want to make sure that
we make time for each other.
408
00:16:28,271 --> 00:16:29,378
You got to enjoy your life.
409
00:16:29,406 --> 00:16:31,397
- Ok.
- Go to work.
410
00:16:31,399 --> 00:16:33,524
- See ya, see ya.
- Y'all go back to work.
411
00:16:33,642 --> 00:16:35,350
[upbeat music]
412
00:16:35,412 --> 00:16:38,779
- ♪ it's just
the things that you do ♪
413
00:16:38,939 --> 00:16:41,173
♪ they make me go
kind of crazy ♪
414
00:16:41,292 --> 00:16:44,711
- You look so pretty.
- Thank you.
415
00:16:44,829 --> 00:16:47,063
Thank you, thank you.
416
00:16:47,090 --> 00:16:49,190
- There you go.
417
00:16:49,217 --> 00:16:51,025
- Sit here.
418
00:16:51,027 --> 00:16:54,387
- Here you go.
- Thank you, my dear.
419
00:16:54,505 --> 00:16:56,163
Oh, wow, I can't walk today.
420
00:16:56,224 --> 00:16:58,649
Am I drunk already just
looking at the absinthe?
421
00:16:58,651 --> 00:17:00,468
So I planned a special
date night for chris
422
00:17:00,628 --> 00:17:03,504
Because I really want him
to see my neighborhood
423
00:17:03,565 --> 00:17:05,748
And the things that I like
and make me happy.
424
00:17:05,775 --> 00:17:08,359
And there's this special place
that I always pass,
425
00:17:08,478 --> 00:17:10,236
And I always want to go into,
but I've been waiting
426
00:17:10,354 --> 00:17:12,255
For a special person
to take there.
427
00:17:12,282 --> 00:17:13,406
And it's all
about experiencing
428
00:17:13,524 --> 00:17:14,815
New things together.
429
00:17:14,934 --> 00:17:16,108
- There you go.
- Oh, look at that.
430
00:17:16,227 --> 00:17:17,243
- That's the
flores right there.
431
00:17:17,361 --> 00:17:18,427
- Ooh.
- Wow, look at that.
432
00:17:18,455 --> 00:17:20,096
- That's very pretty.
- Very blue.
433
00:17:20,123 --> 00:17:22,506
- Ooh, ok,
so this is the magic.
434
00:17:22,508 --> 00:17:23,841
- So the tutorial here, ok?
- All right.
435
00:17:23,843 --> 00:17:25,084
- Ok, I'm ready.
436
00:17:25,203 --> 00:17:26,527
- All right, so what
you're going to do
437
00:17:26,588 --> 00:17:27,920
Is there's a slotted
spoon right there.
438
00:17:28,039 --> 00:17:29,363
Go ahead and put that
on top of your glass.
439
00:17:29,424 --> 00:17:30,681
- Oh, ok, ok.
440
00:17:30,683 --> 00:17:31,607
- So those are sugar cubes,
so go ahead
441
00:17:31,634 --> 00:17:32,592
And unwrap one sugar cube.
442
00:17:32,710 --> 00:17:34,402
- Ok, wow, this is,
like, science.
443
00:17:34,404 --> 00:17:35,536
I love it.
- It really is.
444
00:17:35,597 --> 00:17:37,204
- There you go.
- Great, ok.
445
00:17:37,265 --> 00:17:38,431
- Yeah, put it on top.
446
00:17:38,549 --> 00:17:40,207
And just go ahead
and turn the tap on.
447
00:17:40,268 --> 00:17:41,967
- Here comes the magic.
- There we go.
448
00:17:42,086 --> 00:17:43,578
- And what you need
to do with yours
449
00:17:43,580 --> 00:17:45,354
Is you take it by the stem,
and you go like that.
450
00:17:45,356 --> 00:17:46,606
- [laughs]
- very fancy.
451
00:17:46,724 --> 00:17:48,191
- For sure.
452
00:17:48,351 --> 00:17:49,283
Well--
453
00:17:49,285 --> 00:17:50,684
- All right.
454
00:17:50,803 --> 00:17:51,944
- Cheers.
455
00:17:52,063 --> 00:17:53,446
- Cheers to long-lasting
relationship,
456
00:17:53,564 --> 00:17:56,190
And many more adventures
together, and, you know,
457
00:17:56,308 --> 00:17:57,450
Exploring this world together.
458
00:17:57,568 --> 00:17:58,951
- Oh, I love that.
459
00:17:59,070 --> 00:18:00,728
Cheers.
- Cheers.
460
00:18:00,730 --> 00:18:03,531
[soft music]
461
00:18:03,649 --> 00:18:05,366
♪ ♪
462
00:18:05,368 --> 00:18:06,733
Does it need more sugar?
463
00:18:06,795 --> 00:18:10,797
- Yeah,
it's an interesting flavor.
464
00:18:10,915 --> 00:18:13,149
Well, I've tried absinthe
for the first time.
465
00:18:13,176 --> 00:18:15,042
- There you go.
466
00:18:15,161 --> 00:18:18,805
So I think that we are
growing, like, every day.
467
00:18:18,923 --> 00:18:22,975
And you know, I'm definitely
proud to call you my wife.
468
00:18:23,094 --> 00:18:24,885
♪ ♪
469
00:18:24,887 --> 00:18:28,255
- You know, obviously, we're
married, and the goal is...
470
00:18:28,316 --> 00:18:30,316
Not fall in love,
but as pastor cal put it,
471
00:18:30,434 --> 00:18:33,577
Grow into love,
and of course, that's the goal,
472
00:18:33,579 --> 00:18:36,747
But we've never full-on
had the love conversation.
473
00:18:36,749 --> 00:18:37,673
I know it's kind of--
- yeah.
474
00:18:37,700 --> 00:18:39,158
- Elephant in the room.
475
00:18:39,277 --> 00:18:42,511
So I think it would make me
feel a lot better
476
00:18:42,539 --> 00:18:43,663
If we could talk about it,
477
00:18:43,781 --> 00:18:46,106
But I would love
to know how you feel
478
00:18:46,167 --> 00:18:49,443
Because I don't want to just
withhold it because I'm like,
479
00:18:49,504 --> 00:18:51,095
Oh, he knows how I feel.
480
00:18:51,097 --> 00:18:52,946
And you're sitting there
like, does she even like me?
481
00:18:53,007 --> 00:18:55,675
I think whoever feels that
they love the other person
482
00:18:55,793 --> 00:18:57,084
Should say it first.
483
00:18:57,203 --> 00:18:59,620
I would love
for that person to be chris.
484
00:18:59,681 --> 00:19:02,122
- Yeah, I mean,
it's one of those things, like,
485
00:19:02,183 --> 00:19:04,867
I definitely don't want
to feel pressured
486
00:19:04,894 --> 00:19:06,627
Into saying it, either.
487
00:19:06,688 --> 00:19:08,445
And it's not even,
like, fear of, like,
488
00:19:08,447 --> 00:19:09,705
You not saying it back.
489
00:19:09,732 --> 00:19:11,765
It's one of those things that,
like, I think
490
00:19:11,884 --> 00:19:13,117
You say it when you're ready.
491
00:19:13,119 --> 00:19:14,435
And you just want
to make sure that it's,
492
00:19:14,553 --> 00:19:16,136
Like, real when you do say it.
493
00:19:16,197 --> 00:19:17,771
And that's kind
of where I'm at.
494
00:19:17,890 --> 00:19:19,674
- And like, there's going
to be days where we don't like
495
00:19:19,701 --> 00:19:21,417
Each other, but we still,
at the end of the day,
496
00:19:21,419 --> 00:19:22,793
Are like, "I love you."
497
00:19:22,795 --> 00:19:24,478
So I'm not saying it.
- [laughs]
498
00:19:24,539 --> 00:19:26,889
- I'm just saying there
will be days in the future.
499
00:19:26,916 --> 00:19:28,207
- I know.
500
00:19:28,326 --> 00:19:30,251
- But that's
when I feel like it'll be
501
00:19:30,369 --> 00:19:31,752
Comfortable to say I love you.
502
00:19:31,871 --> 00:19:33,120
Like, I don't
really like you today,
503
00:19:33,280 --> 00:19:35,973
But I still love you.
504
00:19:35,975 --> 00:19:37,991
- I think nicole wants me
to say I love you first,
505
00:19:38,052 --> 00:19:40,444
But one of my past
relationships,
506
00:19:40,446 --> 00:19:43,647
I definitely said it
before I was ready to say it.
507
00:19:43,649 --> 00:19:46,150
And it was one of those things,
like, once you kind of say it,
508
00:19:46,152 --> 00:19:47,468
You can't take it back.
509
00:19:47,586 --> 00:19:49,136
So you definitely want
to make sure you say it
510
00:19:49,255 --> 00:19:51,004
When you actually mean it
and when it feels right.
511
00:19:51,065 --> 00:19:52,823
I mean, I definitely don't
put a timetable on it.
512
00:19:52,825 --> 00:19:55,067
Like, if it's a month,
if it's two months,
513
00:19:55,186 --> 00:19:57,403
If it's three months,
like, you know?
514
00:19:57,521 --> 00:20:01,257
And right now, it's not,
like, time to say it.
515
00:20:01,284 --> 00:20:02,575
That's all there is to it.
516
00:20:02,693 --> 00:20:05,261
- ♪ oh, oh, oh ♪
517
00:20:05,288 --> 00:20:07,580
♪ yeah, yeah ♪
518
00:20:07,698 --> 00:20:08,581
♪ whoa, oh, whoa ♪
519
00:20:12,462 --> 00:20:14,236
- ♪ whoa, oh, oh, oh ♪
520
00:20:14,297 --> 00:20:16,305
[soft music]
521
00:20:16,307 --> 00:20:20,593
♪ whoa, oh, oh, oh ♪
522
00:20:20,711 --> 00:20:23,262
- Are you crazy, bud?
523
00:20:24,899 --> 00:20:28,059
- A little bonkers.
- You are nuts.
524
00:20:28,177 --> 00:20:31,020
- Typically, a couple has
built a foundation on love
525
00:20:31,180 --> 00:20:33,113
Before committing
to a marriage,
526
00:20:33,115 --> 00:20:35,716
But our newlyweds only began
that work
527
00:20:35,735 --> 00:20:37,593
When they first met
at the altar.
528
00:20:37,595 --> 00:20:42,681
Building strong feelings takes
time, effort, and especially,
529
00:20:42,700 --> 00:20:44,683
Open and honest communication.
530
00:20:44,702 --> 00:20:46,043
- Long week?
531
00:20:46,045 --> 00:20:48,545
- Yeah, you know,
marriage, dogs.
532
00:20:48,547 --> 00:20:49,863
- It's a lot to manage,
533
00:20:49,982 --> 00:20:51,332
But I think
we're doing really well.
534
00:20:51,450 --> 00:20:55,478
- But for some,
love has been slower to grow.
535
00:20:55,505 --> 00:20:57,629
- Who's here?
- I don't know.
536
00:20:57,631 --> 00:20:59,531
- Sometimes,
when we see them struggling
537
00:20:59,550 --> 00:21:02,576
To get to a more
emotional level,
538
00:21:02,637 --> 00:21:04,879
We need to give them
some extra work.
539
00:21:04,881 --> 00:21:07,047
- Holy moly.
- That's a lot.
540
00:21:07,166 --> 00:21:08,824
- So to help
our couples maximize
541
00:21:08,851 --> 00:21:11,477
Their potential for love,
we're giving them
542
00:21:11,595 --> 00:21:13,662
Some deeper topics to discuss.
543
00:21:13,690 --> 00:21:15,498
- "we encourage you
to hold hands
544
00:21:15,525 --> 00:21:16,590
During this conversation."
545
00:21:16,651 --> 00:21:18,909
- Ok, we've done that.
- Ok.
546
00:21:18,911 --> 00:21:21,094
- Do you go biscuits
or waffles?
547
00:21:21,155 --> 00:21:22,413
- Waffles.
- Good.
548
00:21:22,415 --> 00:21:23,656
- I'm a waffler.
549
00:21:23,774 --> 00:21:25,491
"what are three things
that bring you joy?"
550
00:21:25,609 --> 00:21:28,669
- What brings me joy?
551
00:21:28,671 --> 00:21:30,404
Such a loaded question.
552
00:21:30,522 --> 00:21:35,001
And like, I would say,
definitely quality time
553
00:21:35,119 --> 00:21:39,246
With people that I love
brings me joy.
554
00:21:39,365 --> 00:21:40,931
Traveling brings me joy.
Is that a thing?
555
00:21:40,933 --> 00:21:43,600
- Sure, yeah.
- Yeah.
556
00:21:43,602 --> 00:21:46,587
- And I would say just
decompressing brings me joy.
557
00:21:46,705 --> 00:21:48,439
- Yeah.
- Yeah.
558
00:21:48,441 --> 00:21:50,123
- I'm in the three f club,
so...
559
00:21:50,184 --> 00:21:51,291
- Ok.
- Friends...
560
00:21:51,352 --> 00:21:52,852
- Ok.
- Family...
561
00:21:52,970 --> 00:21:54,020
- Family.
562
00:21:54,138 --> 00:21:56,872
- Do you know what
the third one is?
563
00:21:56,899 --> 00:21:58,941
- No.
564
00:22:00,386 --> 00:22:02,044
Food.
- Food.
565
00:22:02,071 --> 00:22:03,838
- Got it.
- Friends, family, food.
566
00:22:03,865 --> 00:22:07,199
Those things bring a big smile
on my face every single time.
567
00:22:07,318 --> 00:22:08,809
- I can agree with it.
568
00:22:08,870 --> 00:22:11,704
- "share with each other
things that were difficult
569
00:22:11,822 --> 00:22:14,782
For you in life and how
you managed to overcome them."
570
00:22:14,900 --> 00:22:19,061
- For sure, like, childhood
was pretty difficult for me.
571
00:22:19,088 --> 00:22:22,214
You know, like, my mom and dad
were divorced at a young age.
572
00:22:22,333 --> 00:22:23,924
We moved around a lot.
573
00:22:24,043 --> 00:22:27,219
So I had to do a lot
of therapy to try
574
00:22:27,338 --> 00:22:30,072
To work through, like, that.
575
00:22:30,099 --> 00:22:34,894
But I really think the way that
I've overcome most adversity
576
00:22:35,012 --> 00:22:37,246
Is just, like, a mind shift.
577
00:22:37,273 --> 00:22:39,707
- Yeah.
- Like, a mindset shift.
578
00:22:39,709 --> 00:22:41,567
And also know,
at the end of the day,
579
00:22:41,685 --> 00:22:43,085
That no matter
what you come from,
580
00:22:43,112 --> 00:22:46,179
You're not necessarily
a product of an environment.
581
00:22:46,181 --> 00:22:47,180
What about you?
582
00:22:47,200 --> 00:22:48,440
- Oh, man.
583
00:22:48,559 --> 00:22:51,652
So you know,
I got a girl pregnant.
584
00:22:51,770 --> 00:22:54,154
And she had a miscarriage,
unfortunately,
585
00:22:54,273 --> 00:22:56,022
After a couple of weeks.
586
00:22:56,084 --> 00:22:59,343
And it tore me up
because I was super excited to,
587
00:22:59,345 --> 00:23:03,255
Like, have a kid,
and we didn't plan on it.
588
00:23:03,374 --> 00:23:05,833
We had the conversation,
like, was she going to keep it?
589
00:23:05,951 --> 00:23:07,426
Did she not want to?
590
00:23:07,545 --> 00:23:08,827
Like, ultimately,
it was her decision,
591
00:23:08,846 --> 00:23:09,762
But I wanted her to have it.
592
00:23:09,880 --> 00:23:11,463
Like, I will be--
- yeah.
593
00:23:11,582 --> 00:23:13,057
- Always present
in the kid's life.
594
00:23:13,175 --> 00:23:14,675
I will be
the financial supporter,
595
00:23:14,793 --> 00:23:17,603
Like, regardless
of what happens to us.
596
00:23:17,721 --> 00:23:19,346
Like, I was fully committed.
597
00:23:19,465 --> 00:23:21,181
And she ended up
having a miscarriage.
598
00:23:21,300 --> 00:23:23,016
It wasn't either of our fault.
599
00:23:23,135 --> 00:23:26,553
But I literally
was getting full-body rashes
600
00:23:26,614 --> 00:23:28,205
Because I was so nervous.
601
00:23:28,207 --> 00:23:30,023
- Aww.
602
00:23:30,142 --> 00:23:32,785
- And I've never had physical
symptoms to an emotional--
603
00:23:32,903 --> 00:23:33,953
- Yeah.
604
00:23:34,071 --> 00:23:35,454
- Like, that was my response
605
00:23:35,573 --> 00:23:39,625
Was a physical response to
an emotional situation, so...
606
00:23:39,743 --> 00:23:42,461
- It is super sad that
he had such an emotional
607
00:23:42,580 --> 00:23:44,571
And physical response
to his ex-girlfriend
608
00:23:44,632 --> 00:23:46,148
And the miscarriage.
609
00:23:46,175 --> 00:23:47,800
And it's important,
I think, to share those types
610
00:23:47,918 --> 00:23:49,485
Of vulnerable moments
with someone
611
00:23:49,512 --> 00:23:52,138
When you're trying to really
build a relationship.
612
00:23:52,256 --> 00:23:54,156
It definitely makes me
feel a little bit closer
613
00:23:54,183 --> 00:23:55,324
That he can trust in me
614
00:23:55,351 --> 00:23:57,351
And share those types
of things.
615
00:23:58,980 --> 00:24:01,546
- "what scares you
about your level of chemistry
616
00:24:01,566 --> 00:24:03,457
With your spouse?"
617
00:24:03,459 --> 00:24:04,900
- I think we both know
the answer to this one.
618
00:24:05,060 --> 00:24:06,660
- Yeah, yeah,
that's an easy one.
619
00:24:06,662 --> 00:24:08,154
- That's the easiest
question on there.
620
00:24:08,272 --> 00:24:09,246
- Yeah.
621
00:24:09,248 --> 00:24:11,231
- I mean,
will it continue to grow?
622
00:24:11,350 --> 00:24:15,402
I think that's my fear is,
like, I think we're in a place
623
00:24:15,521 --> 00:24:18,497
Of, like, really trying.
624
00:24:18,616 --> 00:24:20,774
And I commend both
of us for that.
625
00:24:20,793 --> 00:24:23,018
But just knowing, like,
there is a decision day,
626
00:24:23,045 --> 00:24:24,186
And will it get there--
627
00:24:24,213 --> 00:24:25,171
- Yeah.
628
00:24:25,289 --> 00:24:26,279
- I think is the fear.
629
00:24:26,299 --> 00:24:29,541
- Yeah, yeah, yeah, same.
630
00:24:29,660 --> 00:24:31,084
Yeah,
we've had some challenges
631
00:24:31,203 --> 00:24:34,104
In the relationship,
no doubt, but, you know,
632
00:24:34,106 --> 00:24:36,790
I want to be
married more than anything.
633
00:24:36,851 --> 00:24:39,718
So I think we need to get out,
do some active stuff,
634
00:24:39,836 --> 00:24:42,354
Go have nice dinners,
stare at the stars.
635
00:24:42,473 --> 00:24:43,998
You know,
we need to make sure, like,
636
00:24:44,000 --> 00:24:47,100
Can we try to make that bond,
637
00:24:47,219 --> 00:24:49,937
That connection
before decision day?
638
00:24:50,055 --> 00:24:53,123
♪ ♪
639
00:24:53,125 --> 00:24:56,051
[upbeat music]
640
00:24:56,078 --> 00:24:59,129
♪ ♪
641
00:24:59,131 --> 00:25:00,706
- Have you been
in love before?
642
00:25:00,824 --> 00:25:02,875
♪ ♪
643
00:25:02,993 --> 00:25:05,185
- I have.
- Really?
644
00:25:05,213 --> 00:25:07,880
How did you know
you were in love?
645
00:25:07,998 --> 00:25:11,250
- Um...
646
00:25:11,252 --> 00:25:13,551
- Are you still in love?
647
00:25:13,553 --> 00:25:15,646
- Can I think of my answer?
648
00:25:15,648 --> 00:25:17,548
- [laughs]
ok, I'm just asking.
649
00:25:17,666 --> 00:25:19,934
I'm just trying to see,
you know.
650
00:25:20,052 --> 00:25:21,802
- Because someone
took time with me.
651
00:25:21,920 --> 00:25:25,372
Like, I was, like, living
my dreams and everything,
652
00:25:25,374 --> 00:25:28,992
And everything that I
had got going on in life
653
00:25:28,994 --> 00:25:32,029
And just was very patient.
654
00:25:32,147 --> 00:25:33,863
You know,
it was a great feeling.
655
00:25:33,865 --> 00:25:35,924
And it's something
that I never felt before,
656
00:25:35,952 --> 00:25:38,318
And it was a great feeling
of, you know,
657
00:25:38,437 --> 00:25:41,388
Feeling actually love.
658
00:25:41,415 --> 00:25:44,266
Because growing up
in a single-parent household,
659
00:25:44,293 --> 00:25:47,052
My mom did the best
she could to show us
660
00:25:47,054 --> 00:25:48,504
What true love meant.
661
00:25:48,664 --> 00:25:49,580
- Mm-hmm.
662
00:25:49,698 --> 00:25:51,031
- But from
the male perspective,
663
00:25:51,192 --> 00:25:53,942
It was like,
being thrown to the world
664
00:25:53,970 --> 00:25:55,493
And said,
go out there and love.
665
00:25:55,513 --> 00:25:57,254
And you really don't
understand, like,
666
00:25:57,372 --> 00:26:00,565
What it really means until
someone comes in your life
667
00:26:00,567 --> 00:26:02,268
And they show you
what it could mean.
668
00:26:02,386 --> 00:26:03,602
- Mm-hmm.
669
00:26:03,721 --> 00:26:06,522
- It's like, ok,
like, this feels good.
670
00:26:06,682 --> 00:26:08,240
- I mean,
I definitely can relate.
671
00:26:08,242 --> 00:26:10,276
Like, I've been in love before.
672
00:26:10,394 --> 00:26:13,571
My last relationship,
I was in for four years,
673
00:26:13,689 --> 00:26:19,960
You know,
so having someone have my heart
674
00:26:19,962 --> 00:26:22,195
And things not work out
675
00:26:22,356 --> 00:26:23,931
Definitely made me
a little closed off
676
00:26:23,933 --> 00:26:25,065
And have my guard up.
677
00:26:25,226 --> 00:26:27,634
So it took me
a little while to heal.
678
00:26:27,636 --> 00:26:31,538
I didn't always
open up to my ex
679
00:26:31,657 --> 00:26:35,709
And tell him how I feel or,
like, my thoughts.
680
00:26:35,869 --> 00:26:37,878
And so I know
that that's something
681
00:26:37,996 --> 00:26:40,580
That I have to work on
because I do want us
682
00:26:40,641 --> 00:26:42,899
To continue to grow
in this marriage.
683
00:26:42,901 --> 00:26:46,753
And hopefully, you know,
we'll fall in love.
684
00:26:46,814 --> 00:26:51,825
- Like, what would it take
for you to, like, fall in love?
685
00:26:51,827 --> 00:26:55,428
- It would definitely take
a lot of quality time,
686
00:26:55,489 --> 00:26:58,824
Just me being around you, like,
and knowing all about you,
687
00:26:58,942 --> 00:27:01,410
And knowing how you feel,
when you feel, how you feel--
688
00:27:01,570 --> 00:27:02,828
- Mm-hmm.
689
00:27:02,946 --> 00:27:04,437
- And how I can
make you feel better.
690
00:27:04,498 --> 00:27:06,498
So it's definitely going to--
it'll definitely take time.
691
00:27:06,617 --> 00:27:12,254
And quality time is the biggest
way to us falling in love.
692
00:27:12,414 --> 00:27:14,973
♪ ♪
693
00:27:14,975 --> 00:27:18,059
What will it take
for you to fall in love?
694
00:27:18,061 --> 00:27:20,179
- Time.
- Only time will tell.
695
00:27:20,297 --> 00:27:22,030
- Only time will really tell.
696
00:27:22,058 --> 00:27:23,590
- Spending time
with each other.
697
00:27:23,709 --> 00:27:25,250
- No, that's what you said.
698
00:27:25,269 --> 00:27:28,095
- [laughs]
it's time-related.
699
00:27:28,255 --> 00:27:31,932
- We can be apart, and I will
still look at that as time.
700
00:27:32,050 --> 00:27:33,784
I definitely want
to give kirsten
701
00:27:33,786 --> 00:27:35,135
My undivided attention.
702
00:27:35,296 --> 00:27:37,071
But for me,
that's kind of hard
703
00:27:37,189 --> 00:27:39,639
Because I have
to make myself happy.
704
00:27:39,700 --> 00:27:42,934
And once I make myself happy,
then I can make her happier.
705
00:27:42,953 --> 00:27:45,871
But if I'm not making myself
happy by going to the gym,
706
00:27:45,989 --> 00:27:49,725
By, you know, catching up
with my friends or my family,
707
00:27:49,752 --> 00:27:51,877
I don't want
to just get miserable.
708
00:27:51,995 --> 00:27:54,320
- Like, I like having
your attention.
709
00:27:54,382 --> 00:27:55,472
[laughs]
710
00:27:55,474 --> 00:27:57,457
So that's something
that I need.
711
00:27:57,576 --> 00:27:59,951
I won't always be this needy.
712
00:27:59,970 --> 00:28:02,328
I mean,
but we just met each other.
713
00:28:02,390 --> 00:28:04,723
So of course, I'm going
to want to be around you.
714
00:28:04,842 --> 00:28:07,317
I'm gonna want
to spend time with you.
715
00:28:07,319 --> 00:28:09,536
Like, that's a good thing.
716
00:28:09,538 --> 00:28:13,006
Like, I should want to do
those things with my husband.
717
00:28:13,125 --> 00:28:16,602
- We both have to be really
be intentional of our time,
718
00:28:16,604 --> 00:28:20,072
You know, and the time
that we have together.
719
00:28:20,190 --> 00:28:22,216
- Yeah.
720
00:28:22,243 --> 00:28:24,743
- ♪ whatever, whatever,
do whatever ♪
721
00:28:24,862 --> 00:28:28,247
♪ whatever it takes ♪
722
00:28:34,463 --> 00:28:35,938
♪ ♪
723
00:28:35,965 --> 00:28:39,258
- Duchess is about
to get a bath.
724
00:28:39,376 --> 00:28:40,700
Mm-hmm.
725
00:28:40,761 --> 00:28:42,702
- Are you going
to take over the bath?
726
00:28:42,763 --> 00:28:43,929
- Yeah, I got it.
727
00:28:44,047 --> 00:28:46,173
It can't be that hard.
728
00:28:46,291 --> 00:28:48,617
It feels great to be feeling
like myself again.
729
00:28:48,644 --> 00:28:50,769
You know,
I'm on the other side of covid.
730
00:28:50,888 --> 00:28:52,529
I definitely appreciate,
you know,
731
00:28:52,531 --> 00:28:54,672
Jasmine's help for helping
me get back to health.
732
00:28:54,692 --> 00:28:57,351
So I kind of want to, you
know, return the same favor.
733
00:28:57,353 --> 00:28:59,219
I know you normally take her
to the dog groomer,
734
00:28:59,238 --> 00:29:03,181
But maybe this will be a way
for me to lighten the load.
735
00:29:03,200 --> 00:29:06,193
Washing duchess is,
you know, just my opportunity
736
00:29:06,311 --> 00:29:09,455
To reciprocate and,
you know, just help her.
737
00:29:09,573 --> 00:29:11,031
And it's also, like,
an opportunity for me
738
00:29:11,149 --> 00:29:13,800
And duchess to bond as well.
739
00:29:13,802 --> 00:29:16,903
Oh, yeah, I have never
washed a dog before.
740
00:29:16,964 --> 00:29:22,301
So I don't know
if I'm doing it right.
741
00:29:22,419 --> 00:29:23,743
It looks right to me.
742
00:29:23,904 --> 00:29:26,062
- [laughs]
oh, my god.
743
00:29:26,064 --> 00:29:29,224
- What are
my dog-bathing skills?
744
00:29:29,384 --> 00:29:31,885
- Right now,
you're about a 6 1/2.
745
00:29:32,003 --> 00:29:33,720
You splashing a lot of water.
746
00:29:33,839 --> 00:29:35,455
Still got soap over here.
747
00:29:35,574 --> 00:29:37,715
- Where?
- Look.
748
00:29:37,735 --> 00:29:39,425
- Oh.
- No!
749
00:29:39,487 --> 00:29:40,911
- She's over it.
750
00:29:40,913 --> 00:29:42,078
- She said you wasn't
getting it off fast enough.
751
00:29:42,080 --> 00:29:43,396
- Oh.
752
00:29:43,515 --> 00:29:45,398
- Airris,
he's really not a dog person.
753
00:29:45,517 --> 00:29:48,309
So for him to be like,
"let's go give duchess a bath,"
754
00:29:48,370 --> 00:29:49,628
I was happy about that.
755
00:29:49,630 --> 00:29:51,388
Don't shake.
756
00:29:51,390 --> 00:29:53,916
I just feel like
the more things we do
757
00:29:54,076 --> 00:29:56,109
And the more we learn
about each other, you know,
758
00:29:56,170 --> 00:29:57,836
We're going
to be able to progress
759
00:29:57,955 --> 00:29:59,871
Of move forward
in our marriage.
760
00:29:59,990 --> 00:30:02,048
- Shake, shake, shake.
761
00:30:02,167 --> 00:30:05,076
- It was a very cute gesture
of him to offer
762
00:30:05,095 --> 00:30:06,486
For us to give her a bath,
763
00:30:06,488 --> 00:30:08,647
But she's going
to the groomer this week.
764
00:30:08,649 --> 00:30:12,417
- Looking good,
smelling good, curls popping.
765
00:30:12,436 --> 00:30:16,412
- [laughs]
oh, my goodness.
766
00:30:16,414 --> 00:30:19,207
[upbeat music]
767
00:30:19,235 --> 00:30:26,456
♪ ♪
768
00:30:26,650 --> 00:30:27,825
- I wasn't getting you food.
769
00:30:27,943 --> 00:30:29,709
I was just turning
off the dryer.
770
00:30:29,711 --> 00:30:32,538
- Come on, buddy.
771
00:30:33,590 --> 00:30:35,982
See?
- It looks so good.
772
00:30:36,043 --> 00:30:37,150
- Yeah, I mean,
even though I was
773
00:30:37,211 --> 00:30:40,562
Kind of just not evenly
cutting the top,
774
00:30:40,589 --> 00:30:41,788
When you kind of gel it up--
775
00:30:41,907 --> 00:30:43,290
- No, it looks good.
- And stuff, it looks--
776
00:30:43,408 --> 00:30:44,883
You know,
you can't really notice it.
777
00:30:45,002 --> 00:30:46,810
Like, I think it's always
important to look good.
778
00:30:46,812 --> 00:30:51,497
I want my wife to see a cool,
confident, sexy chris.
779
00:30:51,517 --> 00:30:54,726
I think attraction is
definitely key to a marriage.
780
00:30:54,845 --> 00:30:57,079
And although
things are going great,
781
00:30:57,106 --> 00:30:58,671
We're not in love yet.
782
00:30:58,691 --> 00:31:00,540
I can see it turning into love.
783
00:31:00,568 --> 00:31:02,826
I think the more we can
be open with each other,
784
00:31:02,828 --> 00:31:05,011
That attraction
can grow even stronger.
785
00:31:05,072 --> 00:31:07,739
And then, you know,
I feel like that love
786
00:31:07,858 --> 00:31:10,242
Can grow and get deeper.
787
00:31:10,360 --> 00:31:12,944
You know, I definitely
always like to make sure
788
00:31:12,946 --> 00:31:14,054
I look good for you.
789
00:31:14,172 --> 00:31:15,521
I, like,
want to make sure that, like,
790
00:31:15,583 --> 00:31:17,157
I'm improving myself.
791
00:31:17,275 --> 00:31:19,159
And when my hair gets long
and stuff--and I know that--
792
00:31:19,277 --> 00:31:20,552
- It looks good.
793
00:31:20,554 --> 00:31:23,496
- You know, you know
I have some body issue,
794
00:31:23,615 --> 00:31:27,033
Like, insecurity stuff, like,
not quite where I want to be.
795
00:31:27,094 --> 00:31:28,335
But I'm working on it.
796
00:31:28,453 --> 00:31:29,945
- I mean, who is, really?
- I want to get there.
797
00:31:29,972 --> 00:31:30,870
So I get it.
- So...
798
00:31:30,931 --> 00:31:32,614
- I feel the same way.
799
00:31:32,641 --> 00:31:34,540
Like, I'm not really
where I want to be,
800
00:31:34,602 --> 00:31:36,192
But I always want
to look good for you.
801
00:31:36,194 --> 00:31:39,504
And I feel like
we are doing that together
802
00:31:39,523 --> 00:31:41,189
And, like,
eating a little healthier,
803
00:31:41,350 --> 00:31:42,457
Working out a little more.
804
00:31:42,484 --> 00:31:43,609
But I think you
look great, so--
805
00:31:43,727 --> 00:31:45,110
- Thank you.
No, I know.
806
00:31:45,228 --> 00:31:46,612
- I understand you want
to look good for me,
807
00:31:46,730 --> 00:31:48,554
But I want you
to do things for you
808
00:31:48,616 --> 00:31:51,783
Because I am very attracted
to you as is.
809
00:31:51,902 --> 00:31:54,377
So please don't feel like,
you know,
810
00:31:54,379 --> 00:31:56,729
You have to do something
because you want me
811
00:31:56,790 --> 00:31:58,031
To feel a certain way.
812
00:31:58,149 --> 00:31:59,866
- Yeah, no,
I mean, no, for sure,
813
00:32:00,026 --> 00:32:04,404
And that's the way--you know,
I want you to feel the same.
814
00:32:04,465 --> 00:32:07,315
You know, and,
honestly, I just wanted
815
00:32:07,343 --> 00:32:11,061
To let you know, like,
I was asked a question, like,
816
00:32:11,063 --> 00:32:13,880
Of appearance and things
like that.
817
00:32:13,999 --> 00:32:15,732
You know,
one of the things I did say
818
00:32:15,734 --> 00:32:17,525
That I wanted to make sure,
like, I told you
819
00:32:17,527 --> 00:32:20,253
Because I don't want you to,
like, see anything later
820
00:32:20,314 --> 00:32:21,738
And get upset about it,
821
00:32:21,740 --> 00:32:23,556
But you know,
they asked appearance-wise.
822
00:32:23,675 --> 00:32:25,651
I said beautiful smile,
beautiful face,
823
00:32:25,769 --> 00:32:27,319
Beautiful eyes, but I did say,
824
00:32:27,437 --> 00:32:29,729
Like, a little thicker
than I normally go for,
825
00:32:29,848 --> 00:32:32,098
But not in a bad way.
826
00:32:32,159 --> 00:32:34,493
I mean, on wedding day,
I definitely--you know,
827
00:32:34,611 --> 00:32:35,919
I was very attracted to her.
828
00:32:35,921 --> 00:32:37,329
I thought
she was very beautiful.
829
00:32:37,447 --> 00:32:39,772
But typically, you know,
she's a little thicker
830
00:32:39,833 --> 00:32:41,774
Than I normally go for,
but not in a bad way.
831
00:32:41,835 --> 00:32:45,712
And for me, like,
thick is, like, athletic.
832
00:32:45,831 --> 00:32:47,430
You know, it's not a bad thing.
833
00:32:47,432 --> 00:32:50,175
It's sexy, you know,
and it's like, I was in no way
834
00:32:50,293 --> 00:32:52,268
Trying to upset or anything.
835
00:32:52,270 --> 00:32:53,620
- Right.
836
00:32:53,622 --> 00:32:55,855
- I was just being honest
in the moment.
837
00:32:55,857 --> 00:32:58,608
And I know, like,
later on, even, like,
838
00:32:58,610 --> 00:33:01,611
You referred to yourself
as a little bit thicker, but--
839
00:33:01,613 --> 00:33:03,596
- It's very different.
- Yeah, no, I know.
840
00:33:03,715 --> 00:33:08,360
- So I mean,
it is a little jarring to hear,
841
00:33:08,478 --> 00:33:10,636
You know,
your husband say something
842
00:33:10,698 --> 00:33:14,700
That could be perceived
as somewhat insulting.
843
00:33:14,818 --> 00:33:17,110
I do call myself
a thicker girl, but--
844
00:33:17,228 --> 00:33:18,611
- It's different, I know.
845
00:33:18,730 --> 00:33:20,646
- It's very--girls can
say whatever they want.
846
00:33:20,708 --> 00:33:22,632
It's very different
to hear someone else say it.
847
00:33:22,634 --> 00:33:24,650
I'm definitely taken aback
a little bit.
848
00:33:24,712 --> 00:33:27,153
It's not something
I expected to hear my husband
849
00:33:27,214 --> 00:33:28,621
Say that he has said about me.
850
00:33:28,740 --> 00:33:31,282
I have full-blown
body dysmorphia.
851
00:33:31,284 --> 00:33:33,593
It is something I've been
dealing with for years.
852
00:33:33,712 --> 00:33:36,404
I'm from new york,
a large city surrounded
853
00:33:36,432 --> 00:33:38,122
By fitness influencers.
854
00:33:38,242 --> 00:33:41,076
So naturally,
I started to compare myself
855
00:33:41,103 --> 00:33:43,503
Against all of them,
and that's something
856
00:33:43,522 --> 00:33:46,306
That I have been working on.
857
00:33:46,424 --> 00:33:48,083
So I'm a little shocked.
858
00:33:48,110 --> 00:33:52,112
I have to hide my rolls
as we have this conversation.
859
00:33:53,991 --> 00:33:55,982
I mean, I'm not where
I want to be in life,
860
00:33:56,101 --> 00:33:57,350
But I'll always be
a little thicker.
861
00:33:57,411 --> 00:33:58,485
I was just--
- right.
862
00:33:58,603 --> 00:33:59,911
- Born and bred this way.
863
00:34:00,030 --> 00:34:01,079
Can't change that.
864
00:34:01,198 --> 00:34:03,248
And honestly,
like, if we go down
865
00:34:03,366 --> 00:34:04,657
The road of children
in the future,
866
00:34:04,776 --> 00:34:06,009
I'll be real thick.
867
00:34:06,011 --> 00:34:07,602
- Like, your body type
is your body type.
868
00:34:07,629 --> 00:34:09,938
[tense music]
869
00:34:09,965 --> 00:34:12,974
- This is a very
uncomfortable conversation,
870
00:34:12,976 --> 00:34:14,926
Telling your wife,
hey, I made a comment
871
00:34:15,045 --> 00:34:16,261
About your weight
or body type.
872
00:34:16,379 --> 00:34:20,373
So I think he's got a lot
of balls right now.
873
00:34:20,434 --> 00:34:22,675
It's ok for me to call
myself thick, and I know--
874
00:34:22,794 --> 00:34:25,361
- No, understandable.
- Thick is not a bad thing.
875
00:34:25,363 --> 00:34:27,013
But if someone's like,
describe your wife,
876
00:34:27,132 --> 00:34:29,048
You can say, "she's strong,
she's sexy, she's a badass."
877
00:34:29,068 --> 00:34:30,067
- No, I understand.
878
00:34:30,185 --> 00:34:31,518
- But please
just avoid the thick
879
00:34:31,636 --> 00:34:34,037
Because this is something
that could potentially
880
00:34:34,039 --> 00:34:35,630
Be hurtful to me.
881
00:34:35,657 --> 00:34:39,725
[dramatic music]
882
00:34:39,787 --> 00:34:41,861
- ♪ you don't have
to be perfect ♪
883
00:34:42,021 --> 00:34:44,564
♪ for everything to be right ♪
884
00:34:44,583 --> 00:34:49,311
♪ because anything is worth it
just to call you mine ♪
885
00:34:49,338 --> 00:34:50,870
- Need a hand, captain?
886
00:34:50,989 --> 00:34:53,431
- Oh, hi there.
- [laughs]
887
00:34:53,433 --> 00:34:55,801
- How's it going?
- Good.
888
00:34:55,919 --> 00:34:57,560
Is this the infamous "dang"?
889
00:34:57,562 --> 00:34:59,471
- This is the "dang."
- dang.
890
00:34:59,589 --> 00:35:00,806
- Welcome to "dang."
891
00:35:00,924 --> 00:35:02,549
- Setting things up?
892
00:35:02,667 --> 00:35:04,451
- You want to come aboard?
- Sure.
893
00:35:04,453 --> 00:35:08,471
- It's time to get gina on the
boat for the very first time.
894
00:35:08,473 --> 00:35:10,816
This is my pride and joy.
- Ok.
895
00:35:10,934 --> 00:35:12,667
- Get her into my world
just a little bit.
896
00:35:12,694 --> 00:35:16,321
We're going to tiptoe into the
lukewarm waters of minnetonka.
897
00:35:16,439 --> 00:35:18,097
I'll teach you some things.
- Ok.
898
00:35:18,117 --> 00:35:19,324
- We're going
to hoist some sails.
899
00:35:19,442 --> 00:35:20,826
- Yeah, whatever that means.
[laughs]
900
00:35:20,944 --> 00:35:23,036
- We're going to get after it.
901
00:35:24,331 --> 00:35:26,348
So this is the main sail.
- Ok.
902
00:35:26,375 --> 00:35:28,107
- This is called the boom.
903
00:35:28,168 --> 00:35:30,518
It's called the boom because
when it hits you in the head,
904
00:35:30,546 --> 00:35:31,578
That's the sound it makes.
905
00:35:31,696 --> 00:35:33,355
- It's boom, yeah.
- Boom.
906
00:35:33,382 --> 00:35:35,507
So you want
to look out for that.
907
00:35:35,625 --> 00:35:38,526
I want just shove
off the dock,
908
00:35:38,554 --> 00:35:41,513
Get a nice breeze,
get the spinnaker up.
909
00:35:41,631 --> 00:35:42,788
- Are you leaving?
910
00:35:42,850 --> 00:35:44,516
- I'm going
to untie us from the dock.
911
00:35:44,634 --> 00:35:46,034
- Don't leave me here.
912
00:35:46,194 --> 00:35:47,443
- Oh, see ya.
913
00:35:47,445 --> 00:35:51,447
Have her experience,
like, a nice, easy,
914
00:35:51,449 --> 00:35:54,967
Light breeze sailing day,
915
00:35:55,028 --> 00:35:56,786
How exhilarating it is,
916
00:35:56,788 --> 00:36:00,306
And just to have her
kind of taste the passion
917
00:36:00,367 --> 00:36:03,142
That I've had
for sailing for my whole life.
918
00:36:03,203 --> 00:36:04,644
Ok, we ready?
919
00:36:04,705 --> 00:36:06,371
- Ready.
920
00:36:06,489 --> 00:36:09,374
- I think she'll absolutely
adore it, but maybe not.
921
00:36:09,492 --> 00:36:12,794
Like, either way, I'm hoping
we connect more mentally,
922
00:36:12,954 --> 00:36:15,988
And that'll help us kinda get
out of this rut a little bit.
923
00:36:16,049 --> 00:36:18,400
But we're going
to see how this goes.
924
00:36:18,427 --> 00:36:20,143
- Don't fall overboard,
you know?
925
00:36:20,145 --> 00:36:21,477
- Yeah, stay on the boat.
926
00:36:21,479 --> 00:36:23,571
[upbeat music]
927
00:36:23,599 --> 00:36:27,575
- ♪ I've been driving down
that long and dusty road ♪
928
00:36:27,603 --> 00:36:29,360
- Keep going?
- Yeah.
929
00:36:29,362 --> 00:36:31,796
- ♪ for longer
than I'd like to admit ♪
930
00:36:31,815 --> 00:36:33,297
- Right.
- Perfect.
931
00:36:33,317 --> 00:36:34,407
- Good?
932
00:36:34,409 --> 00:36:35,525
- ♪ I've been searching ♪
933
00:36:35,644 --> 00:36:37,419
- Now, we're sailing.
- [laughs]
934
00:36:37,446 --> 00:36:39,070
- ♪ for that long lost
missing piece ♪
935
00:36:39,189 --> 00:36:43,650
♪ to make the puzzle
of my life make sense ♪
936
00:36:43,768 --> 00:36:46,819
- So if you pull it toward you,
it's going to go right.
937
00:36:46,938 --> 00:36:48,388
- And if I push it away,
it goes that way.
938
00:36:48,390 --> 00:36:49,889
- It's going to go left, yeah.
- Ok.
939
00:36:49,891 --> 00:36:51,357
- So just think the opposite.
940
00:36:51,418 --> 00:36:55,562
- ♪ oh, a lonely flag
out in the breeze ♪
941
00:36:55,564 --> 00:36:57,605
- When did you start sailing?
942
00:36:57,633 --> 00:36:59,699
- Oh, when I was a fetus.
943
00:36:59,760 --> 00:37:02,576
- Literally, like, in the womb.
- In the womb.
944
00:37:02,638 --> 00:37:04,996
My mom was
a sailing instructor.
945
00:37:05,015 --> 00:37:06,539
- Oh, really?
- Yeah.
946
00:37:06,600 --> 00:37:09,926
My whole family--well,
I'm, like, eighth generation.
947
00:37:10,044 --> 00:37:12,878
Sailing, to me,
is a lifestyle.
948
00:37:12,940 --> 00:37:16,441
I come from, you know,
generations of sailors,
949
00:37:16,559 --> 00:37:20,678
And my grandfathers were
commodores at the local club.
950
00:37:20,697 --> 00:37:23,748
So it was kind
of that connecting string
951
00:37:23,750 --> 00:37:27,443
That really brought together
my whole family.
952
00:37:27,562 --> 00:37:30,396
- So you were just, like,
a little baby on a sailboat.
953
00:37:30,515 --> 00:37:31,923
That's cute.
954
00:37:31,925 --> 00:37:34,358
- Yeah.
955
00:37:34,478 --> 00:37:36,736
All right,
so get ready to tack.
956
00:37:36,797 --> 00:37:40,973
You're just going to change it
from one side to the other.
957
00:37:40,975 --> 00:37:43,226
- Here she goes, baby.
958
00:37:43,228 --> 00:37:46,704
[upbeat music]
959
00:37:46,723 --> 00:37:49,949
Wow, this is just crazy.
960
00:37:49,951 --> 00:37:51,067
- So good.
961
00:37:51,069 --> 00:37:53,886
- I'm definitely
loving sailing.
962
00:37:54,005 --> 00:37:57,148
It's definitely relaxing.
He's in his element.
963
00:37:57,267 --> 00:38:00,668
And I can see why he likes
to spend his time there.
964
00:38:00,696 --> 00:38:02,654
All right, here we are.
965
00:38:02,772 --> 00:38:04,489
- Yeah, here we are.
- Not moving.
966
00:38:04,607 --> 00:38:06,491
- This is sailing with no wind.
967
00:38:06,609 --> 00:38:09,010
Our breeze is kind of kaput.
968
00:38:09,037 --> 00:38:10,328
- Yeah.
969
00:38:10,447 --> 00:38:12,922
I would rate
our sailing experience a nine,
970
00:38:12,924 --> 00:38:14,332
Only because we
didn't have much wind.
971
00:38:14,451 --> 00:38:16,167
- The good thing is,
we have a motor.
972
00:38:16,286 --> 00:38:18,944
- But I think that clint
and I are definitely growing,
973
00:38:19,006 --> 00:38:21,180
And just having a better
understanding of one another,
974
00:38:21,182 --> 00:38:22,615
And really getting
to know each other,
975
00:38:22,676 --> 00:38:23,949
And it feels good.
976
00:38:24,011 --> 00:38:25,268
I like it.
977
00:38:25,270 --> 00:38:26,511
Hey, we tried.
978
00:38:26,629 --> 00:38:29,772
- Yeah, no, we had
a nice sail out, for sure.
979
00:38:29,774 --> 00:38:33,184
- ♪ let's see what we can be ♪
980
00:38:36,931 --> 00:38:38,965
- ♪ stay on a roll,
yeah, yeah ♪
981
00:38:38,967 --> 00:38:40,500
♪ I've cracked the code,
yeah, yeah ♪
982
00:38:40,527 --> 00:38:42,802
♪ I'm on the go,
like whoa, whoa, whoa ♪
983
00:38:42,863 --> 00:38:45,137
♪ I'm on the go ♪
984
00:38:45,157 --> 00:38:46,714
- What time
are the guys coming?
985
00:38:46,742 --> 00:38:48,616
- They should be here
in a minute.
986
00:38:48,777 --> 00:38:50,943
- I hope they
like these cookies.
987
00:38:51,104 --> 00:38:52,762
- The good ones
are the burnt ones.
988
00:38:52,764 --> 00:38:54,113
We give them options.
- All of them, yeah.
989
00:38:54,273 --> 00:38:55,206
- Options, they get options.
990
00:38:55,325 --> 00:38:56,883
[knocking on door]
991
00:38:56,885 --> 00:39:01,546
So today is the day kirsten
is finally meeting my mentees.
992
00:39:01,664 --> 00:39:04,490
At the institution I work at,
I mentor, you know,
993
00:39:04,492 --> 00:39:05,692
A great group of students,
994
00:39:05,719 --> 00:39:07,785
But these guys
are really my guys.
995
00:39:07,804 --> 00:39:10,813
- Hey, guys!
Come on in.
996
00:39:10,815 --> 00:39:11,814
- I love mentoring.
997
00:39:11,816 --> 00:39:13,149
I love guiding them
998
00:39:13,151 --> 00:39:14,817
Through their matriculation
through college
999
00:39:14,819 --> 00:39:16,870
And helping them get to the
next stage in their life.
1000
00:39:16,872 --> 00:39:19,138
Make sure they, you know,
keep their grades up,
1001
00:39:19,298 --> 00:39:21,541
Internships,
job opportunities,
1002
00:39:21,543 --> 00:39:23,159
Life outside of work.
1003
00:39:23,161 --> 00:39:25,845
These guys
are a huge part of my life.
1004
00:39:25,906 --> 00:39:27,313
- I'm kirsten.
Nice to meet y'all.
1005
00:39:27,432 --> 00:39:30,015
- Nice to meet you.
- Are y'all hungry?
1006
00:39:30,077 --> 00:39:32,569
All: Yes.
- Ok.
1007
00:39:32,571 --> 00:39:35,597
- I'm hoping that kirsten
understands why I spend
1008
00:39:35,624 --> 00:39:37,340
A lot of my time with them.
1009
00:39:37,342 --> 00:39:39,509
And hopefully,
she can understand
1010
00:39:39,511 --> 00:39:40,693
That this is my job.
1011
00:39:40,754 --> 00:39:42,361
This is my career.
1012
00:39:42,422 --> 00:39:44,155
There's going to have
to be a lot of compromise
1013
00:39:44,174 --> 00:39:45,507
In moving forward.
1014
00:39:45,667 --> 00:39:48,000
- So I just--
I'm so happy to meet you guys.
1015
00:39:48,119 --> 00:39:49,777
I've heard
so many great things.
1016
00:39:49,805 --> 00:39:53,448
I wanted to know, like,
how he leads you guys,
1017
00:39:53,475 --> 00:39:56,025
How he's had an impact
over your lives.
1018
00:39:56,027 --> 00:39:59,512
Like, what type
of mentor is he?
1019
00:39:59,630 --> 00:40:01,280
- At first,
I thought he was super corny.
1020
00:40:01,282 --> 00:40:03,866
- [laughs]
you thought he was corny?
1021
00:40:03,868 --> 00:40:06,202
Tell me one of his--
what did he do?
1022
00:40:06,204 --> 00:40:08,371
Like, tell me one of his jokes
and what happened?
1023
00:40:08,373 --> 00:40:10,632
- We're like, ok,
it was funny at first,
1024
00:40:10,659 --> 00:40:12,300
But then, I took a step back.
1025
00:40:12,327 --> 00:40:13,860
And I realized,
like, he really hip.
1026
00:40:13,978 --> 00:40:15,878
And so, like, that fearless--
- he's hip?
1027
00:40:15,880 --> 00:40:17,396
Y'all make him sound
like a old man.
1028
00:40:17,457 --> 00:40:19,549
- No, but like--
- like, dang, who am I?
1029
00:40:19,551 --> 00:40:21,717
- Like, he will be texting in
a group chat with the students.
1030
00:40:21,719 --> 00:40:23,569
Like, he will get down,
and he will dance on the floor.
1031
00:40:23,630 --> 00:40:25,054
So like--
- yeah, I saw his dancing.
1032
00:40:25,056 --> 00:40:26,314
- Like that fearless mentality,
1033
00:40:26,341 --> 00:40:28,057
It kind of makes students
gravitate towards him
1034
00:40:28,059 --> 00:40:28,983
Because, oh, he one of us.
1035
00:40:29,010 --> 00:40:30,543
- Because he feels relatable.
1036
00:40:30,661 --> 00:40:33,396
He can relate to you guys
in so many different ways.
1037
00:40:33,398 --> 00:40:34,897
So were y'all
kind of nervous for him
1038
00:40:34,899 --> 00:40:36,373
To go through
this entire marriage?
1039
00:40:36,393 --> 00:40:37,633
- A little bit.
1040
00:40:37,752 --> 00:40:39,661
- Like, what were you guys
so nervous about?
1041
00:40:39,688 --> 00:40:41,237
- Being completely transparent,
1042
00:40:41,239 --> 00:40:43,556
I was just hoping
it wasn't somebody ugly.
1043
00:40:43,674 --> 00:40:45,408
[laughter]
- for real.
1044
00:40:45,410 --> 00:40:47,760
But you're beautiful.
Who do your hair?
1045
00:40:47,821 --> 00:40:49,003
[laughter]
1046
00:40:49,030 --> 00:40:50,413
- I did my own.
- You did?
1047
00:40:50,415 --> 00:40:51,506
Oh!
- I curled it.
1048
00:40:51,533 --> 00:40:52,748
No, I curled it myself,
that's all.
1049
00:40:52,750 --> 00:40:54,917
- Ok.
- So you 30?
1050
00:40:54,919 --> 00:40:55,768
- Yeah.
- She's 31.
1051
00:40:55,829 --> 00:40:57,102
- I'm 31.
- 31?
1052
00:40:57,164 --> 00:40:58,830
Ok, so, like,
you've been set in your ways
1053
00:40:58,948 --> 00:41:00,439
For 30 years
and not being in a marriage.
1054
00:41:00,500 --> 00:41:01,607
- All right.
1055
00:41:01,668 --> 00:41:02,758
- No, I'm just saying, like,
1056
00:41:02,760 --> 00:41:04,260
You've been living
with yourself.
1057
00:41:04,262 --> 00:41:05,428
So like,
what is the biggest thing
1058
00:41:05,430 --> 00:41:06,779
That you guys
have really sacrificed?
1059
00:41:06,840 --> 00:41:10,115
- For me, it's realizing
that I'm no longer on this path
1060
00:41:10,177 --> 00:41:12,168
Of life by myself.
1061
00:41:12,286 --> 00:41:16,830
Like, I was offered a job,
out of state, kind of far away.
1062
00:41:16,892 --> 00:41:20,185
And it's a big role.
1063
00:41:20,303 --> 00:41:22,687
And I said no.
1064
00:41:22,805 --> 00:41:24,022
- Wow.
1065
00:41:24,140 --> 00:41:25,690
♪ ♪
1066
00:41:25,808 --> 00:41:27,950
- In that moment, I made
a decision without consulting
1067
00:41:27,952 --> 00:41:29,994
With her
because I knew if I would
1068
00:41:29,996 --> 00:41:32,455
Have brought it to the table,
it would have been a problem.
1069
00:41:32,457 --> 00:41:33,940
Like, we need to focus on us.
1070
00:41:34,100 --> 00:41:37,460
So I went ahead and, as a man,
made a decision for myself.
1071
00:41:37,462 --> 00:41:40,054
It would have helped me within
my trajectory of my career.
1072
00:41:40,081 --> 00:41:41,706
But like, now I've got
to think about my wife.
1073
00:41:41,824 --> 00:41:45,317
I can't just make decisions
based upon me anymore.
1074
00:41:45,378 --> 00:41:47,545
I'm sacrificing,
you know, things
1075
00:41:47,664 --> 00:41:49,214
To stay here in nashville.
1076
00:41:49,332 --> 00:41:52,900
And I hope she appreciates me
because this is something
1077
00:41:52,928 --> 00:41:54,310
That I really wanted.
1078
00:41:54,312 --> 00:41:55,995
So it's kind of
like, I went on ahead
1079
00:41:56,056 --> 00:41:57,138
And declined it
from the beginning
1080
00:41:57,298 --> 00:41:59,482
Because I want
to get settled here.
1081
00:41:59,484 --> 00:42:01,909
And you know,
I'm in a relationship now
1082
00:42:01,937 --> 00:42:04,153
And a marriage
to where I just can't make
1083
00:42:04,155 --> 00:42:06,914
A selfish decision
just because it's going
1084
00:42:06,942 --> 00:42:08,324
To help me in my career.
1085
00:42:08,326 --> 00:42:11,010
- He and I had
this conversation.
1086
00:42:11,071 --> 00:42:12,678
Once we got married, I said,
1087
00:42:12,739 --> 00:42:14,647
I know that you're
chasing your career,
1088
00:42:14,765 --> 00:42:16,515
And I know
that job opportunities
1089
00:42:16,576 --> 00:42:18,426
May come your way,
and here it is.
1090
00:42:18,453 --> 00:42:20,595
A job opportunity
comes his way,
1091
00:42:20,622 --> 00:42:23,339
And he actually turns it down.
1092
00:42:23,341 --> 00:42:26,525
I appreciated him doing that.
1093
00:42:26,545 --> 00:42:29,762
I hope that that was his
true decision that he wanted
1094
00:42:29,764 --> 00:42:32,698
To make overall
because I want nothing
1095
00:42:32,759 --> 00:42:34,684
But the best for him and I.
1096
00:42:34,686 --> 00:42:38,071
I love nashville,
and my family is here.
1097
00:42:38,073 --> 00:42:40,690
But I definitely
don't want to hold you back
1098
00:42:40,692 --> 00:42:43,876
And, like, resent
not taking that position.
1099
00:42:43,937 --> 00:42:47,379
- ♪ I just want to say,
I hope it stays the same ♪
1100
00:42:47,440 --> 00:42:50,141
♪ got a dope little
kind of thing ♪
1101
00:42:50,259 --> 00:42:52,885
[upbeat music]
1102
00:42:52,946 --> 00:42:56,464
- ♪ when I see you,
I'm over my head ♪
1103
00:42:56,491 --> 00:43:01,369
♪ I keep thinking
that's going to change ♪
1104
00:43:01,529 --> 00:43:04,355
- "airris and jasmine,
we encourage you
1105
00:43:04,374 --> 00:43:07,232
"to have an open
and vulnerable conversation
1106
00:43:07,294 --> 00:43:09,644
"about what you think
it will take for you
1107
00:43:09,671 --> 00:43:13,389
To fall in love with your new
spouse in the real world."
1108
00:43:13,391 --> 00:43:17,260
[soft music]
1109
00:43:17,378 --> 00:43:22,748
How many times have you
been in love, like, five?
1110
00:43:22,809 --> 00:43:24,550
- What makes you think five?
1111
00:43:24,669 --> 00:43:25,584
- I don't know.
1112
00:43:25,645 --> 00:43:27,069
You said you fall
in love easily.
1113
00:43:27,071 --> 00:43:28,980
- Yeah, I do fall in love easy,
1114
00:43:29,098 --> 00:43:31,924
But I've only been
in love, like--
1115
00:43:31,985 --> 00:43:33,759
I've only been
in love three times.
1116
00:43:33,820 --> 00:43:35,411
- Ok, I was close.
1117
00:43:35,413 --> 00:43:37,980
- How many times have you been
in--oh, we know, never mind.
1118
00:43:38,099 --> 00:43:40,599
- I've never been in love.
- Forgot that.
1119
00:43:40,660 --> 00:43:43,069
We know the answer to that.
1120
00:43:43,187 --> 00:43:44,904
- Is love scary?
1121
00:43:45,022 --> 00:43:46,772
I mean, since you've been
in love so many times, like,
1122
00:43:46,833 --> 00:43:48,924
Does love scare you?
1123
00:43:48,926 --> 00:43:52,170
- Love definitely scare--
yeah, it's scary,
1124
00:43:52,288 --> 00:43:55,264
But I always feel like,
a lot of times,
1125
00:43:55,266 --> 00:43:58,250
You have to be
uncomfortable to grow.
1126
00:43:58,369 --> 00:44:01,937
- I feel like the one time
I almost did fall in love,
1127
00:44:01,939 --> 00:44:04,657
And it was trending
in that direction,
1128
00:44:04,684 --> 00:44:07,443
The person I was with just
kind of, like, ended things.
1129
00:44:07,445 --> 00:44:10,313
So even, like, that little bit
of hurt that I experienced,
1130
00:44:10,431 --> 00:44:11,706
I was like, hell no.
1131
00:44:11,733 --> 00:44:12,932
Like, I don't need this.
1132
00:44:13,050 --> 00:44:15,276
Like, I don't want
to be eating ice cream
1133
00:44:15,436 --> 00:44:17,703
And listening to r&b
alone in my room.
1134
00:44:17,705 --> 00:44:19,021
- [laughs]
1135
00:44:19,023 --> 00:44:21,306
- Like, when a man is hurt,
it's ugly.
1136
00:44:21,326 --> 00:44:24,126
Like, the male ego is,
like, so small and fragile.
1137
00:44:24,128 --> 00:44:26,962
So, like, that happened
to me at, like, 28.
1138
00:44:26,964 --> 00:44:29,481
So when that happened,
that just kind of, like,
1139
00:44:29,542 --> 00:44:31,250
Made me a worse dating partner
1140
00:44:31,369 --> 00:44:32,785
Because I was like,
oh, this is what happens
1141
00:44:32,945 --> 00:44:34,194
When you let your wall down?
1142
00:44:34,255 --> 00:44:35,487
You, like,
let somebody get close.
1143
00:44:35,548 --> 00:44:36,822
It just blows up in your face.
1144
00:44:36,883 --> 00:44:38,566
So I'm never doing this again.
1145
00:44:38,593 --> 00:44:41,544
So I literally spent,
like, almost the next decade
1146
00:44:41,662 --> 00:44:43,963
Just having my guard up.
1147
00:44:44,081 --> 00:44:47,166
To me, meeting a new person,
it was, like, a thrill,
1148
00:44:47,227 --> 00:44:48,576
Like, an excitement.
1149
00:44:48,603 --> 00:44:51,454
So any time
I've felt those feelings
1150
00:44:51,572 --> 00:44:54,540
Kind of getting close,
I was out of there.
1151
00:44:54,567 --> 00:44:56,709
- Back
to your bachelor lifestyle.
1152
00:44:56,736 --> 00:44:59,328
- Yeah, because that's
where I was, like--
1153
00:44:59,330 --> 00:45:01,531
- Comfortable.
- Comfortable.
1154
00:45:04,351 --> 00:45:06,994
- I feel like
I'm such a hopeless romantic
1155
00:45:06,996 --> 00:45:10,673
That I'm like, ok,
that one didn't work, whatever.
1156
00:45:10,675 --> 00:45:14,060
Like, I'm so hopeful
to have my forever
1157
00:45:14,062 --> 00:45:16,162
And to be in love
with that forever person.
1158
00:45:16,280 --> 00:45:19,440
I don't really feel like any of
my past relationships make me,
1159
00:45:19,467 --> 00:45:22,068
Like, not want that.
1160
00:45:22,070 --> 00:45:25,171
- Do you feel like
you're falling in love
1161
00:45:25,289 --> 00:45:26,872
In this marriage?
1162
00:45:26,933 --> 00:45:29,191
- Do I want to fall
in love in this marriage?
1163
00:45:29,193 --> 00:45:30,393
Yes, eventually.
1164
00:45:30,511 --> 00:45:33,545
But am I there?
1165
00:45:33,606 --> 00:45:36,215
No, no.
1166
00:45:36,276 --> 00:45:39,785
I've said over and over,
like, I just need more
1167
00:45:39,787 --> 00:45:41,128
Of an emotional connection.
1168
00:45:41,156 --> 00:45:44,131
I think we need to have
deeper conversations
1169
00:45:44,133 --> 00:45:47,118
And, you know,
get to the root of more things
1170
00:45:47,236 --> 00:45:51,289
Before I feel like I'll be
headed in that direction.
1171
00:45:51,407 --> 00:45:54,292
[soft music]
1172
00:45:54,410 --> 00:45:57,754
♪ ♪
1173
00:46:01,742 --> 00:46:03,851
- ♪ that girl, can't deny it ♪
1174
00:46:03,853 --> 00:46:06,137
♪ when she puts it down,
I get so excited ♪
1175
00:46:06,255 --> 00:46:09,323
- Like, I love how the leaves
are all different on these.
1176
00:46:09,350 --> 00:46:12,226
- I like this one.
- But it grows really big.
1177
00:46:12,386 --> 00:46:14,862
- Yeah.
- See, I like that one.
1178
00:46:14,864 --> 00:46:17,214
- Yeah.
- I believe in fairy tales.
1179
00:46:17,233 --> 00:46:19,500
I really believe
I can fall in love with my wife
1180
00:46:19,527 --> 00:46:21,185
Before decision day,
1181
00:46:21,303 --> 00:46:22,686
But I know it's going to take
1182
00:46:22,805 --> 00:46:25,689
So much more quality time
spending together
1183
00:46:25,808 --> 00:46:27,483
Because
that's what kirsten want.
1184
00:46:27,601 --> 00:46:30,894
Because I have been so busy
with school and work,
1185
00:46:31,014 --> 00:46:32,771
It seems like
it's not enough at times.
1186
00:46:32,832 --> 00:46:35,758
So I don't even know if me
bringing her to the plant shop
1187
00:46:35,760 --> 00:46:37,076
To do something
that I like to do
1188
00:46:37,194 --> 00:46:39,854
Will be considered
quality time to kirsten,
1189
00:46:39,881 --> 00:46:41,339
But it's something that I love.
1190
00:46:41,457 --> 00:46:43,432
So I wanted to bring her
to my world to show her,
1191
00:46:43,434 --> 00:46:45,176
Like,
this is shaquille dillon.
1192
00:46:45,294 --> 00:46:47,119
This is some things
he like doing.
1193
00:46:47,180 --> 00:46:48,787
And you know, everything--
quality time,
1194
00:46:48,848 --> 00:46:50,865
It's not always just
sitting down on a sofa
1195
00:46:50,892 --> 00:46:52,016
Just talking about life.
1196
00:46:52,134 --> 00:46:53,525
I'm a landscaper.
1197
00:46:53,527 --> 00:46:56,862
Like, I love yard work,
raking, mowing.
1198
00:46:56,864 --> 00:46:58,105
Anything outside,
I really love.
1199
00:46:58,266 --> 00:46:59,707
- Mm-hmm.
1200
00:46:59,734 --> 00:47:02,534
- But more so plants in the
house because I always say,
1201
00:47:02,536 --> 00:47:04,712
You know, I have that canvas
in my house that say,
1202
00:47:04,739 --> 00:47:05,938
"grow through
what you go through."
1203
00:47:06,056 --> 00:47:07,973
I love watching things grow.
1204
00:47:08,034 --> 00:47:11,052
And I'm growing, like,
in every sector of my life.
1205
00:47:11,079 --> 00:47:12,570
And I think you're growing.
1206
00:47:12,688 --> 00:47:15,981
And this plant is going
to represent, like, us growing.
1207
00:47:16,042 --> 00:47:18,392
And for plants, it's kind
of like, you're feeding it,
1208
00:47:18,419 --> 00:47:20,211
You know, plant food and water
1209
00:47:20,329 --> 00:47:21,987
And continuously
watching it grow.
1210
00:47:22,048 --> 00:47:23,731
And for me,
that's kind of how life works,
1211
00:47:23,758 --> 00:47:25,082
You know, the circle of life.
1212
00:47:25,200 --> 00:47:27,126
I always kind of,
like, name my plants too.
1213
00:47:27,244 --> 00:47:29,494
- Mm-hmm.
1214
00:47:29,556 --> 00:47:32,331
- You know, that way,
you can talk to 'em.
1215
00:47:32,350 --> 00:47:34,925
- I'm learning so many new
things about shaquille.
1216
00:47:35,044 --> 00:47:40,247
Like, wow, he's really
into this entire plant life.
1217
00:47:40,275 --> 00:47:42,282
- Like, this is nice.
1218
00:47:42,284 --> 00:47:46,070
- It's too pointy and spiky.
1219
00:47:46,188 --> 00:47:48,314
I do not like that one.
- I really do.
1220
00:47:48,432 --> 00:47:49,740
It's different.
1221
00:47:49,859 --> 00:47:51,242
- Why do you--you like it
because it's different?
1222
00:47:51,360 --> 00:47:52,684
- Yeah, I'm different.
1223
00:47:52,745 --> 00:47:54,728
So these are nice.
These are snake plants.
1224
00:47:54,889 --> 00:47:57,097
- I don't really like these.
1225
00:47:57,099 --> 00:47:59,133
They're scaring me.
- Scared?
1226
00:47:59,135 --> 00:48:00,434
- Yeah, they're scaring me.
1227
00:48:00,461 --> 00:48:01,419
This one is so pretty.
1228
00:48:01,537 --> 00:48:03,528
I wonder
if that gets any taller.
1229
00:48:03,590 --> 00:48:06,765
- I don't like plants
that just get like--
1230
00:48:06,767 --> 00:48:11,854
- Ok, honey,
whatever you say right now.
1231
00:48:11,856 --> 00:48:15,099
I don't think that I like
the different colors.
1232
00:48:15,217 --> 00:48:17,602
- Ok, so, with me,
this kind of plants
1233
00:48:17,720 --> 00:48:20,179
Represents two
different individuals
1234
00:48:20,181 --> 00:48:21,713
Coming together as one.
1235
00:48:21,733 --> 00:48:23,290
- Sounds like marriage.
1236
00:48:23,318 --> 00:48:26,293
Although I'm struggling
a little bit with picking out
1237
00:48:26,321 --> 00:48:29,155
A plant together,
I love that, in this moment,
1238
00:48:29,273 --> 00:48:32,041
Shaquille is able
to tell me about himself
1239
00:48:32,043 --> 00:48:34,526
And what plants mean to him.
1240
00:48:34,645 --> 00:48:38,372
And hopefully, we can have
this plant life together.
1241
00:48:38,532 --> 00:48:40,866
And that'll be something
to where we have a love
1242
00:48:40,985 --> 00:48:44,678
And a bond with each other,
bonding over this plant.
1243
00:48:44,680 --> 00:48:47,465
It's, like, nurturing
our marriage, as well.
1244
00:48:47,583 --> 00:48:49,216
Is this the one
right here I said I liked?
1245
00:48:49,377 --> 00:48:50,542
- Yeah, you say
you like this one.
1246
00:48:50,661 --> 00:48:52,153
- And see, this one is
two different colors.
1247
00:48:52,180 --> 00:48:53,745
- Is it? Ok.
1248
00:48:53,747 --> 00:48:55,656
- The leaves are different.
It's not one solid green color.
1249
00:48:55,683 --> 00:48:57,642
- Ok, so I like this one too.
So which one, though?
1250
00:48:57,760 --> 00:49:01,278
- The leaves
are bigger on this one.
1251
00:49:01,280 --> 00:49:03,422
- Yeah, I like this one
1252
00:49:03,483 --> 00:49:06,067
Because the leaves
aren't bigger.
1253
00:49:06,227 --> 00:49:08,394
You can watch it grow.
1254
00:49:08,512 --> 00:49:10,595
♪ ♪
1255
00:49:10,657 --> 00:49:14,825
- Ok, let's get this one.
1256
00:49:14,944 --> 00:49:16,661
We can watch it grow.
1257
00:49:16,779 --> 00:49:18,637
- Selby and star.
1258
00:49:18,639 --> 00:49:21,832
- We don't have to name them
after whatever's on there.
1259
00:49:21,951 --> 00:49:23,350
- You don't change their name.
1260
00:49:23,378 --> 00:49:25,911
- Ok, selby and star it is.
1261
00:49:26,030 --> 00:49:28,172
♪ ♪
1262
00:49:28,290 --> 00:49:29,690
- ♪ I know
that it feels good ♪
1263
00:49:29,717 --> 00:49:34,103
♪ yeah, it feels good, oh ♪
1264
00:49:34,105 --> 00:49:37,656
♪ yeah, yeah, yeah, but I
know that it feels good ♪
1265
00:49:37,684 --> 00:49:40,609
[upbeat music]
1266
00:49:40,611 --> 00:49:42,036
- Thanks.
1267
00:49:42,063 --> 00:49:45,114
- You're welcome.
Let's get into it.
1268
00:49:45,116 --> 00:49:47,266
- [laughs]
1269
00:49:47,384 --> 00:49:49,935
- I like to consider myself
a very sexual person.
1270
00:49:50,054 --> 00:49:52,880
And you know, I mean,
I think being open
1271
00:49:52,907 --> 00:49:54,139
When it comes
to sex is actually
1272
00:49:54,200 --> 00:49:56,383
A very attractive trait.
1273
00:49:56,411 --> 00:49:58,035
But I can tell she's
kind of a little bit more
1274
00:49:58,154 --> 00:49:59,611
Reserved in that area.
1275
00:49:59,730 --> 00:50:02,406
What's your favorite
sexual position?
1276
00:50:02,524 --> 00:50:06,727
- Oh, my gosh, airris.
1277
00:50:06,754 --> 00:50:08,045
I plead the fifth.
1278
00:50:08,164 --> 00:50:10,614
I'm not.
1279
00:50:10,633 --> 00:50:13,267
- So I just want to take this
opportunity to kind of play
1280
00:50:13,269 --> 00:50:15,185
Never have I ever
just to kind of, like,
1281
00:50:15,304 --> 00:50:17,463
Feel each other out
and give me an opportunity
1282
00:50:17,581 --> 00:50:19,073
To ask her some questions.
1283
00:50:19,100 --> 00:50:20,457
You know, who knows?
1284
00:50:20,476 --> 00:50:22,626
Maybe she'll shock me
with some crazy stories,
1285
00:50:22,645 --> 00:50:24,979
And I'll learn something new
about my wife.
1286
00:50:25,139 --> 00:50:29,475
All right, never have I ever
1287
00:50:29,635 --> 00:50:33,587
Kissed a member
of the same sex.
1288
00:50:33,614 --> 00:50:35,422
Never kissed a girl before?
- Mm-mm.
1289
00:50:35,450 --> 00:50:38,884
- Wow, bro,
start--try life again.
1290
00:50:38,886 --> 00:50:41,353
- [clears throat]
1291
00:50:41,414 --> 00:50:44,673
Never have I had sex
with other people watching me.
1292
00:50:44,675 --> 00:50:47,601
- You've never had a threesome?
1293
00:50:47,628 --> 00:50:49,253
- Nah, more like a orgy.
1294
00:50:49,371 --> 00:50:52,181
- [gasps]
oh, my--ok.
1295
00:50:52,183 --> 00:50:55,217
[laughter]
1296
00:50:59,548 --> 00:51:01,766
- I learned a few things
about him.
1297
00:51:01,884 --> 00:51:04,935
- You know, I told jasmine
that I had an orgy,
1298
00:51:05,054 --> 00:51:07,788
You know,
where there's multiple people.
1299
00:51:07,815 --> 00:51:11,776
Like, you might be
with one person, and then,
1300
00:51:11,894 --> 00:51:16,947
You and this guy,
like, switch females.
1301
00:51:17,066 --> 00:51:18,449
- Wow.
1302
00:51:23,072 --> 00:51:25,380
- [chuckles]
1303
00:51:25,382 --> 00:51:27,883
- I mean,
I'm not trying to figure out
1304
00:51:27,885 --> 00:51:29,368
How many orgies he's been to.
1305
00:51:29,486 --> 00:51:30,702
I don't know.
1306
00:51:30,821 --> 00:51:33,147
I'm fine not knowing that.
1307
00:51:33,174 --> 00:51:35,040
♪ ♪
1308
00:51:35,159 --> 00:51:38,377
I'm just drinking
just because I need to.
1309
00:51:38,495 --> 00:51:42,147
- Never have I ever
had a one-night stand.
1310
00:51:42,307 --> 00:51:44,049
- No.
1311
00:51:44,168 --> 00:51:46,018
♪ ♪
1312
00:51:46,137 --> 00:51:48,053
- [sighs]
1313
00:51:48,172 --> 00:51:50,439
♪ ♪
1314
00:51:50,558 --> 00:51:52,224
See, you supposed
to do all this stuff
1315
00:51:52,342 --> 00:51:53,792
Before you get married.
1316
00:51:53,820 --> 00:51:56,395
Like, you got to get
it out of your system.
1317
00:51:56,513 --> 00:51:58,489
Never have I ever cheated.
1318
00:51:58,607 --> 00:52:00,557
- In a relationship?
- Mm-hmm.
1319
00:52:00,576 --> 00:52:02,000
You ain't never cheated?
1320
00:52:02,002 --> 00:52:03,735
Golly.
1321
00:52:03,854 --> 00:52:05,663
- Nope.
1322
00:52:05,781 --> 00:52:09,491
- Your life sounds so boring
up until this point.
1323
00:52:09,610 --> 00:52:10,976
- Does it?
1324
00:52:10,978 --> 00:52:12,670
Because I haven't cheated
in a relationship
1325
00:52:12,788 --> 00:52:14,146
Or kissed a girl?
1326
00:52:14,148 --> 00:52:17,258
- All that stuff sound fun.
1327
00:52:17,418 --> 00:52:19,844
- I told him I wanted
to have deeper conversations.
1328
00:52:19,962 --> 00:52:22,263
I feel like we need to,
you know,
1329
00:52:22,423 --> 00:52:24,865
Connect deeper emotionally.
1330
00:52:24,892 --> 00:52:29,203
And listening to him,
like, talking about sex,
1331
00:52:29,230 --> 00:52:30,762
Mm-mm, that ain't it.
1332
00:52:30,881 --> 00:52:33,765
[dramatic music]
1333
00:52:33,884 --> 00:52:37,319
♪ ♪
1334
00:52:41,308 --> 00:52:43,025
- ♪ you catch my eye ♪
1335
00:52:43,143 --> 00:52:45,460
♪ tonight is all
about good vibes ♪
1336
00:52:45,462 --> 00:52:48,204
♪ carefree, lazy summertime ♪
1337
00:52:48,206 --> 00:52:50,315
[upbeat music]
1338
00:52:50,376 --> 00:52:52,150
- Hello, honey.
- How are you?
1339
00:52:52,211 --> 00:52:54,712
- I'm good.
How are you?
1340
00:52:54,830 --> 00:52:56,547
- What you got
going on in here?
1341
00:52:56,665 --> 00:53:01,960
- You know, a nice little
relaxation, a "spa-cation."
1342
00:53:02,120 --> 00:53:04,129
- All this for me?
- Mm-hmm.
1343
00:53:04,248 --> 00:53:06,632
I have a robe for you
and everything to change into.
1344
00:53:06,750 --> 00:53:08,200
- Ah, this is great.
1345
00:53:08,227 --> 00:53:10,110
- I hope you love
everything about it.
1346
00:53:10,112 --> 00:53:11,503
- It looks good.
It feels good.
1347
00:53:11,564 --> 00:53:13,138
It smells good.
You look good.
1348
00:53:13,257 --> 00:53:14,690
I'm good.
1349
00:53:14,808 --> 00:53:18,134
- I do like catering
to shaquille.
1350
00:53:18,154 --> 00:53:20,495
Come on, mr. Good-looking.
1351
00:53:20,497 --> 00:53:24,349
And I want to show him
that I appreciate him.
1352
00:53:24,410 --> 00:53:26,818
Now, you just sit back.
I got it from here.
1353
00:53:26,979 --> 00:53:30,597
You just relax your body
and your mind.
1354
00:53:30,625 --> 00:53:33,267
We're going to do
some back massaging.
1355
00:53:33,294 --> 00:53:35,427
- Ok.
- Is that warm enough for you?
1356
00:53:35,429 --> 00:53:36,861
- Yeah.
1357
00:53:36,923 --> 00:53:39,064
- Like, I want shaquille
and I to be on the same page.
1358
00:53:39,066 --> 00:53:42,993
You're going to relax
and get your mind right.
1359
00:53:43,112 --> 00:53:46,521
And I want to take things
to the next level today
1360
00:53:46,523 --> 00:53:49,950
And tell him, like,
I want this to grow.
1361
00:53:49,977 --> 00:53:54,754
I'm nervous to put this on
because of my eyelashes.
1362
00:53:54,815 --> 00:53:57,691
What a perfect spa day
at the house, right?
1363
00:53:57,851 --> 00:54:00,552
- I think it's great.
1364
00:54:00,613 --> 00:54:05,466
- You want to tell me one thing
about you that I don't know?
1365
00:54:05,493 --> 00:54:07,025
[soft music]
1366
00:54:07,144 --> 00:54:09,211
- Ok, I'll say this.
1367
00:54:09,213 --> 00:54:11,330
- Mm-hmm.
1368
00:54:13,650 --> 00:54:17,878
- I have insecurity issues
about who I am,
1369
00:54:18,038 --> 00:54:20,905
How I was raised,
what I want out of life.
1370
00:54:20,967 --> 00:54:23,225
Like, I've always known
myself to be different
1371
00:54:23,227 --> 00:54:26,411
Because I didn't play sports,
or, you know,
1372
00:54:26,472 --> 00:54:29,765
I had to prove myself in other
sectors of my life, and...
1373
00:54:31,168 --> 00:54:32,718
I mean,
it wasn't really a big thing,
1374
00:54:32,836 --> 00:54:34,586
But it was still
an insecurity for me
1375
00:54:34,647 --> 00:54:37,331
Because it's kind of
like, I'm in my 20s.
1376
00:54:37,358 --> 00:54:38,757
Like, why me?
1377
00:54:38,818 --> 00:54:42,319
Like, I was insecure
about the scar on my forehead.
1378
00:54:42,438 --> 00:54:45,430
- I appreciate you
for being open and honest
1379
00:54:45,491 --> 00:54:47,140
And sharing that with me.
1380
00:54:47,201 --> 00:54:49,493
I think
that you're an amazing man.
1381
00:54:49,611 --> 00:54:51,269
You are handsome,
1382
00:54:51,330 --> 00:54:53,488
And you are striving
for excellence.
1383
00:54:53,607 --> 00:54:56,375
And it looks good on you.
1384
00:54:58,546 --> 00:55:00,004
- What about yourself, though?
1385
00:55:00,122 --> 00:55:01,839
Just tell me something
about yourself that, you know,
1386
00:55:01,957 --> 00:55:03,023
I don't know.
1387
00:55:03,050 --> 00:55:05,526
- Mm, it's probably--
1388
00:55:05,553 --> 00:55:09,196
I mean, it's tons of things
about me that you don't know.
1389
00:55:09,223 --> 00:55:11,757
- Well, why?
1390
00:55:11,875 --> 00:55:15,869
- Because we have
to keep talking to each other,
1391
00:55:15,896 --> 00:55:20,532
But sometimes I can be quiet
and be in my shell.
1392
00:55:20,534 --> 00:55:21,942
- But that's something I know.
1393
00:55:22,102 --> 00:55:24,119
So tell me something else.
1394
00:55:24,121 --> 00:55:26,605
- Mm...
- Tell me something else.
1395
00:55:26,723 --> 00:55:28,774
You said it's a lot
that I don't know about you.
1396
00:55:28,892 --> 00:55:31,051
What else?
1397
00:55:31,078 --> 00:55:35,722
- I mean...
1398
00:55:35,750 --> 00:55:37,041
I don't know.
1399
00:55:37,159 --> 00:55:40,786
Like, it's not really too
much more to know about me.
1400
00:55:40,904 --> 00:55:42,788
- You just said it's a lot.
1401
00:55:42,948 --> 00:55:45,123
♪ ♪
1402
00:55:46,001 --> 00:55:49,219
- I don't know what else
to tell you about me.
1403
00:55:49,338 --> 00:55:51,238
- This is the guard
you need to let down.
1404
00:55:51,265 --> 00:55:52,631
You just told me
that it's a lot.
1405
00:55:52,749 --> 00:55:56,034
Now, you telling me
that you can't really--
1406
00:55:56,062 --> 00:55:57,928
We have to wait
and figure it out.
1407
00:55:58,046 --> 00:55:59,671
This is the guard
that we're talking about.
1408
00:55:59,732 --> 00:56:00,898
It's the brick wall.
1409
00:56:01,016 --> 00:56:02,491
- I'm still trying
to think of something
1410
00:56:02,493 --> 00:56:04,976
That I can share with you.
1411
00:56:05,095 --> 00:56:09,347
- Kirsten, your walls
are tall, like, tall.
1412
00:56:09,408 --> 00:56:13,852
And I haven't got to the
root of it of, like, why.
1413
00:56:13,913 --> 00:56:15,913
Like, why do she
have walls built up?
1414
00:56:16,031 --> 00:56:17,931
Yeah, I know you had
a past relationship,
1415
00:56:17,958 --> 00:56:21,435
But like, have you
just not letting it go?
1416
00:56:21,462 --> 00:56:24,329
I know it's hard for you
to just open up to a person
1417
00:56:24,448 --> 00:56:27,608
That you just met,
but like, hey, we married.
1418
00:56:27,635 --> 00:56:31,645
Like, we started
with commitment.
1419
00:56:31,647 --> 00:56:34,005
And we are both committed
to this marriage.
1420
00:56:34,124 --> 00:56:36,775
But it's like, being
committed is one thing,
1421
00:56:36,777 --> 00:56:38,610
But then getting
to the point to where you
1422
00:56:38,612 --> 00:56:40,787
Really love the person
is another.
1423
00:56:40,815 --> 00:56:42,989
And that's what we got
to work to get towards.
1424
00:56:42,991 --> 00:56:44,424
And it's just--
1425
00:56:44,485 --> 00:56:46,259
I honestly don't want
decision day to come
1426
00:56:46,320 --> 00:56:48,795
And I'm still
feeling how I do now.
1427
00:56:48,823 --> 00:56:50,856
- I don't want
decision day to come,
1428
00:56:50,974 --> 00:56:52,557
And you still feel
that way, either.
1429
00:56:52,559 --> 00:56:55,152
- I want to know, how can
I break down those walls?
1430
00:56:55,270 --> 00:56:58,639
When will she get to the point
to where she trust me?
1431
00:56:58,666 --> 00:57:00,124
At this point in our marriage,
1432
00:57:00,242 --> 00:57:04,478
I need her
to be 100% vulnerable.
1433
00:57:04,505 --> 00:57:06,271
Decision day is going to come.
1434
00:57:06,298 --> 00:57:08,039
And I have to be honest
with myself
1435
00:57:08,158 --> 00:57:09,983
That I can move forward
in this marriage
1436
00:57:10,010 --> 00:57:13,061
With making it work
without the experts being here,
1437
00:57:13,063 --> 00:57:15,213
Without the other couples
being here,
1438
00:57:15,332 --> 00:57:17,307
When it's just us two.
1439
00:57:17,426 --> 00:57:21,553
And I'm not confident right now
that that is going to happen.
1440
00:57:21,671 --> 00:57:25,089
- Thanks for being
patient with me
1441
00:57:25,151 --> 00:57:28,410
And working and rocking
through this together.
1442
00:57:28,412 --> 00:57:32,506
- ♪ your silence
is the loudest thing ♪
1443
00:57:32,533 --> 00:57:34,733
♪ say something ♪
1444
00:57:34,851 --> 00:57:37,911
♪ you can't expect for me ♪
1445
00:57:38,071 --> 00:57:39,580
♪ to know what you feel ♪
1446
00:57:43,294 --> 00:57:46,236
- ♪ country kissing,
count-country kissing ♪
1447
00:57:46,255 --> 00:57:49,113
♪ yeah, country kissing,
hillbilly hugging ♪
1448
00:57:49,175 --> 00:57:53,026
♪ hotter than a skillet
on top of mama's oven ♪
1449
00:57:53,053 --> 00:57:54,987
- Oh-ho-ho.
- Oh-wah.
1450
00:57:55,014 --> 00:57:57,473
- She's rocker cowgirl.
- Heck yeah.
1451
00:57:57,591 --> 00:57:59,766
- [laughs]
where's your belt at?
1452
00:57:59,927 --> 00:58:02,661
- Howdy, partner.
- Oh, [bleep].
1453
00:58:02,821 --> 00:58:05,296
All right, well, shall we?
- I ride bulls on the weekends.
1454
00:58:05,457 --> 00:58:07,131
- Should we lasso hank up
and bring him?
1455
00:58:07,151 --> 00:58:08,984
- Yeah, come on.
1456
00:58:09,102 --> 00:58:10,393
- You wanna go?
1457
00:58:10,512 --> 00:58:12,804
All right, giddyap.
1458
00:58:12,865 --> 00:58:14,372
Come on, partner.
1459
00:58:14,374 --> 00:58:16,508
- [laughs]
let's mosey.
1460
00:58:16,535 --> 00:58:18,427
- Let's mosey.
1461
00:58:18,429 --> 00:58:20,204
[upbeat music]
1462
00:58:20,322 --> 00:58:22,581
- That is a good mosey strut.
- Thanks.
1463
00:58:22,699 --> 00:58:26,284
I had no idea
that pbr was in town,
1464
00:58:26,403 --> 00:58:27,819
Which is
the professional bull riding,
1465
00:58:27,880 --> 00:58:29,955
Not pabst blue ribbon,
like most think.
1466
00:58:30,073 --> 00:58:33,792
And so I was like, hey, why
don't we strap on our boots,
1467
00:58:33,910 --> 00:58:35,385
Put on a cowboy hat,
1468
00:58:35,387 --> 00:58:37,187
And just see
what this thing is all about?
1469
00:58:37,189 --> 00:58:39,189
♪ ♪
1470
00:58:39,191 --> 00:58:40,966
- I think
this will be cool as hell.
1471
00:58:41,084 --> 00:58:43,334
- Yeah, I think
it'll be really fun.
1472
00:58:43,336 --> 00:58:45,654
- To be able to share
this experience with gina
1473
00:58:45,656 --> 00:58:46,730
Is going to be awesome.
1474
00:58:46,848 --> 00:58:48,673
Unfamiliar territory
makes you grow
1475
00:58:48,734 --> 00:58:51,326
Because it's putting you
in a circumstance
1476
00:58:51,328 --> 00:58:54,178
And situation that,
you know, you've never been in.
1477
00:58:54,240 --> 00:58:55,963
- Have a good night.
- Perfect, thanks.
1478
00:58:55,965 --> 00:58:57,941
That's, like,
the crux of who I am is,
1479
00:58:58,059 --> 00:58:59,451
I get excited
about the unknown.
1480
00:58:59,570 --> 00:59:02,079
So I like to dive into
territory that is unfamiliar
1481
00:59:02,197 --> 00:59:04,022
Because that's
where I find the most growth.
1482
00:59:04,083 --> 00:59:06,007
- I'm excited
that we're, like, out,
1483
00:59:06,009 --> 00:59:08,660
Doing things, adventuring,
1484
00:59:08,778 --> 00:59:10,996
Getting to know each other,
having fun.
1485
00:59:11,114 --> 00:59:12,998
- I know,
and this is even new for me.
1486
00:59:13,116 --> 00:59:14,165
So we're--
1487
00:59:14,284 --> 00:59:15,684
- First experience
for both of us.
1488
00:59:15,686 --> 00:59:16,851
- We're rubbing
off a little bit.
1489
00:59:16,853 --> 00:59:18,003
- Yeah.
- We're like--
1490
00:59:18,121 --> 00:59:19,871
- Experiencing
new things together.
1491
00:59:19,932 --> 00:59:22,099
- We're, like, contagious,
like a rash of sorts.
1492
00:59:22,217 --> 00:59:23,508
- Oh, like a rash?
Perfect.
1493
00:59:23,627 --> 00:59:24,601
- Like a good rash.
1494
00:59:24,720 --> 00:59:26,119
- Very romantic,
very romantic rash.
1495
00:59:26,146 --> 00:59:29,014
- Like a very nice,
romantic rash.
1496
00:59:29,132 --> 00:59:30,415
- Amazing.
- Well--
1497
00:59:30,442 --> 00:59:32,125
- All right, shall we?
- Yeah, let's do it.
1498
00:59:32,152 --> 00:59:34,628
- Cheers.
1499
00:59:34,655 --> 00:59:36,538
- Ladies and gentlemen,
1500
00:59:36,540 --> 00:59:39,499
Welcome
to the pbr championship
1501
00:59:39,501 --> 00:59:42,452
In nashville, tennessee!
1502
00:59:42,571 --> 00:59:44,496
- Yeah, let's do it!
- What?
1503
00:59:44,615 --> 00:59:46,990
- ♪ she walks in the bar
looking hollywood hot ♪
1504
00:59:47,108 --> 00:59:50,202
♪ knocking me over like
a barrel full of buckshot ♪
1505
00:59:50,204 --> 00:59:53,188
♪ ♪
1506
00:59:53,306 --> 00:59:56,041
♪ when she struts her stuff ♪
1507
00:59:56,159 --> 00:59:58,719
♪ a boy can't get enough ♪
1508
00:59:58,879 --> 01:00:00,562
♪ ♪
1509
01:00:00,564 --> 01:00:02,814
- Walking
through that fire, man!
1510
01:00:02,816 --> 01:00:03,890
Walk through that fire.
1511
01:00:04,051 --> 01:00:05,650
- Ah!
1512
01:00:05,652 --> 01:00:07,385
- ♪ shakin'
what the lord gave her ♪
1513
01:00:07,545 --> 01:00:09,788
♪ one more,
she hollers at the bartender ♪
1514
01:00:09,948 --> 01:00:12,356
♪ bottoms up,
somebody buy her a drink ♪
1515
01:00:12,358 --> 01:00:15,535
♪ girl, take that booty
to the bank, oh ♪
1516
01:00:15,537 --> 01:00:18,130
[cheers and applause]
- oh, no!
1517
01:00:18,157 --> 01:00:20,248
- ♪ like a beer commercial ♪
1518
01:00:20,250 --> 01:00:22,634
♪ a little coy
and controversial ♪
1519
01:00:22,636 --> 01:00:25,420
♪ make you say, man, react ♪
1520
01:00:25,422 --> 01:00:27,998
♪ I just got to get that back
because she's... ♪
1521
01:00:28,116 --> 01:00:31,643
- Ah!
- Hey!
1522
01:00:31,670 --> 01:00:32,911
That one looked--
1523
01:00:33,029 --> 01:00:36,006
I could have ridden that one.
1524
01:00:36,124 --> 01:00:37,490
I could bull ride.
1525
01:00:37,551 --> 01:00:39,325
I think I could bull ride.
1526
01:00:39,386 --> 01:00:41,653
- Come on, dude!
That's it!
1527
01:00:41,772 --> 01:00:43,088
- He's got it!
He got him!
1528
01:00:43,248 --> 01:00:46,441
I would die, but I could do it.
1529
01:00:46,443 --> 01:00:48,459
He's got him!
1530
01:00:48,520 --> 01:00:51,462
[both cheering]
1531
01:00:51,482 --> 01:00:53,297
♪ ♪
1532
01:00:53,359 --> 01:00:56,467
- I do not think
that clint would last
1533
01:00:56,528 --> 01:00:58,028
Three seconds on the bull.
1534
01:00:58,146 --> 01:01:01,472
A for confidence,
but I do not think
1535
01:01:01,533 --> 01:01:03,775
That he could stay on a bull.
1536
01:01:03,893 --> 01:01:06,736
♪ ♪
1537
01:01:06,855 --> 01:01:08,205
- No, I could do it.
1538
01:01:08,323 --> 01:01:09,614
I could do--I can do it.
1539
01:01:09,733 --> 01:01:14,986
♪ ♪
1540
01:01:15,047 --> 01:01:17,773
Unbelievable.
- Pretty nuts.
1541
01:01:17,775 --> 01:01:19,249
[soft music]
1542
01:01:19,367 --> 01:01:20,892
This might be
my new favorite sport.
1543
01:01:20,894 --> 01:01:22,711
- Yeah.
- I had so much fun.
1544
01:01:22,829 --> 01:01:23,862
I really did.
1545
01:01:23,980 --> 01:01:25,163
- Like, just trying
different things,
1546
01:01:25,224 --> 01:01:27,832
Getting ourselves
out of our little comfort zone.
1547
01:01:27,893 --> 01:01:29,242
- I'm feeling cultured.
1548
01:01:29,269 --> 01:01:31,169
It's literally, like,
two blocks from home.
1549
01:01:31,230 --> 01:01:32,579
Nuts.
1550
01:01:32,606 --> 01:01:35,974
You ready to hit broadway?
1551
01:01:36,092 --> 01:01:38,634
- Yeah, this is--
it's just nice to get out.
1552
01:01:38,754 --> 01:01:40,253
And I think
that's what we needed.
1553
01:01:40,280 --> 01:01:41,512
Let's go.
1554
01:01:41,532 --> 01:01:45,150
Maybe that'll spark
some romantic feelings.
1555
01:01:45,268 --> 01:01:46,576
We'll see.
1556
01:01:46,695 --> 01:01:48,153
Let's hit the town.
1557
01:01:48,271 --> 01:01:50,580
- ♪ now you've got me
screaming more, more, more ♪
1558
01:01:50,699 --> 01:01:53,083
♪ give me more ♪
1559
01:01:54,861 --> 01:01:56,586
- Next time on
"married at first sight"...
1560
01:01:56,705 --> 01:01:58,930
- Congrats.
I mean, we've made it a month.
1561
01:01:58,932 --> 01:02:00,774
- Clink, clink, clink.
1562
01:02:00,801 --> 01:02:03,401
- I really am enjoying
myself and enjoying you.
1563
01:02:03,429 --> 01:02:05,387
- Have you ever had camel?
1564
01:02:05,505 --> 01:02:06,972
- No, and sometimes,
when I eat with you,
1565
01:02:07,090 --> 01:02:09,332
I immediately want
to stop eating.
1566
01:02:09,351 --> 01:02:13,511
- I was kind of closer
towards being checked out.
1567
01:02:13,630 --> 01:02:16,773
- Like, I've put in a lot
into past relationships,
1568
01:02:16,892 --> 01:02:18,516
And it felt very one-sided.
1569
01:02:18,635 --> 01:02:20,018
- If you try to make
everybody happy,
1570
01:02:20,136 --> 01:02:21,385
You won't make anybody happy.
1571
01:02:21,447 --> 01:02:22,854
Chris is a nice guy.
1572
01:02:22,972 --> 01:02:24,856
He needs a little big dick
energy here, is what he needs.
1573
01:02:24,974 --> 01:02:26,416
- If it grows for him, great.
1574
01:02:26,418 --> 01:02:27,993
And if it doesn't,
I have to accept it.
1575
01:02:28,111 --> 01:02:30,937
It feels good to let out
some frustration,
1576
01:02:30,998 --> 01:02:33,123
You know, and break [bleep].
1577
01:02:33,241 --> 01:02:35,033
- It's not all about kirsten.
1578
01:02:35,035 --> 01:02:36,476
- This is not going
to help our marriage grow.
1579
01:02:36,503 --> 01:02:38,236
- I don't know if I want
to be with somebody
1580
01:02:38,297 --> 01:02:40,238
Who just continues to have
a guard up with somebody
1581
01:02:40,399 --> 01:02:44,651
Who actually wants to be
in the marriage with them.
1582
01:02:44,678 --> 01:02:48,513
[dramatic music]