1 00:00:02,937 --> 00:00:04,878 - You look very beautiful. - Thank you. 2 00:00:04,997 --> 00:00:07,039 - Ten singles put their trust in the experts 3 00:00:07,157 --> 00:00:09,466 In order to find love. 4 00:00:09,626 --> 00:00:12,386 They married as complete strangers. 5 00:00:12,504 --> 00:00:14,071 [upbeat music] 6 00:00:14,098 --> 00:00:16,481 - ♪ so real ♪ 7 00:00:16,483 --> 00:00:19,076 - Last time, our couples continued to work 8 00:00:19,103 --> 00:00:21,912 On creating a new, shared world together. 9 00:00:21,939 --> 00:00:23,321 - ♪ have a good time ♪ 10 00:00:23,323 --> 00:00:26,400 - Gina and clint. 11 00:00:26,518 --> 00:00:27,993 - ♪ so fit and flirty ♪ 12 00:00:27,995 --> 00:00:31,329 - It's nice for us to have that time together. 13 00:00:31,331 --> 00:00:34,591 Maybe that'll spark some romantic feelings. 14 00:00:34,618 --> 00:00:36,410 Let's hit the town. - ♪ so real ♪ 15 00:00:36,528 --> 00:00:39,221 - Nicole and chris. 16 00:00:39,223 --> 00:00:40,931 - Appearance-wise, I said beautiful smile, 17 00:00:40,958 --> 00:00:42,824 Beautiful face, beautiful eyes. 18 00:00:42,943 --> 00:00:44,493 But I did say, like, a little--little thicker 19 00:00:44,611 --> 00:00:45,894 Than I normally go for. 20 00:00:45,921 --> 00:00:47,046 [music slows to halt] 21 00:00:47,164 --> 00:00:48,255 But not in a bad way. 22 00:00:48,373 --> 00:00:50,082 - Please just avoid "the thick," 23 00:00:50,200 --> 00:00:51,825 Because this is something that could 24 00:00:51,844 --> 00:00:54,352 Potentially be hurtful to me. 25 00:00:54,354 --> 00:00:56,838 - Jasmine and airris. 26 00:00:56,957 --> 00:00:59,183 - Never have I had sex with other people watching. 27 00:00:59,343 --> 00:01:00,859 - You've never had a threesome? 28 00:01:00,861 --> 00:01:03,437 - [clears throat] no. More like a orgy. 29 00:01:03,555 --> 00:01:06,031 - I had told him I wanted to have deeper conversations, 30 00:01:06,033 --> 00:01:09,034 But him, like, talking about sex, 31 00:01:09,036 --> 00:01:11,386 Um...That ain't it. 32 00:01:11,447 --> 00:01:13,739 - Kirsten and shaquille. 33 00:01:13,857 --> 00:01:16,033 - And I know it's hard for you to just open up 34 00:01:16,193 --> 00:01:17,284 To a person that you just met. 35 00:01:17,402 --> 00:01:19,803 But hey--hey, we married. 36 00:01:19,830 --> 00:01:21,379 We started with commitment. 37 00:01:21,381 --> 00:01:24,382 But it's like, I honestly don't want decision day to come 38 00:01:24,384 --> 00:01:27,536 And I'm still feeling how I do now. 39 00:01:27,654 --> 00:01:30,613 - ♪ now that you're back in the life ♪ 40 00:01:30,674 --> 00:01:32,523 - Congrats. I mean, we've made it a month. 41 00:01:32,525 --> 00:01:34,151 - Ok. - Clink, clink, clink, clink. 42 00:01:34,178 --> 00:01:37,045 - Tonight, our couples celebrate a major milestone 43 00:01:37,047 --> 00:01:38,547 In their relationship. 44 00:01:38,549 --> 00:01:40,273 - How's the intimacy level or the chemistry level? 45 00:01:40,392 --> 00:01:43,327 It's like--I just feel like it's really little. 46 00:01:43,354 --> 00:01:46,738 I'm like, what in the hell? 47 00:01:46,740 --> 00:01:49,224 - Like, I've put in a lot into past relationships, 48 00:01:49,342 --> 00:01:51,001 And it felt very one-sided. 49 00:01:51,028 --> 00:01:52,669 - If you try to make everybody happy, 50 00:01:52,696 --> 00:01:54,488 You won't make anybody happy. 51 00:01:54,606 --> 00:01:56,506 Chris is a nice guy. You know what he needs? 52 00:01:56,534 --> 00:01:58,959 He needs a little big dick energy here, is what he needs. 53 00:01:58,961 --> 00:02:02,604 - I was kind of closer towards being checked out. 54 00:02:02,665 --> 00:02:04,414 [dramatic music] 55 00:02:04,575 --> 00:02:06,475 - How much time for you to let down that guard? 56 00:02:06,477 --> 00:02:07,993 ♪ ♪ 57 00:02:08,111 --> 00:02:09,503 - I'm letting it down day by day. 58 00:02:09,621 --> 00:02:10,745 - I don't see it. 59 00:02:10,864 --> 00:02:12,840 ♪ ♪ 60 00:02:12,958 --> 00:02:14,157 [upbeat music] 61 00:02:14,218 --> 00:02:15,883 - ♪ it's all or nothing ♪ 62 00:02:16,003 --> 00:02:18,403 - This is "married at first sight." 63 00:02:18,405 --> 00:02:21,623 - ♪ there's no other way ♪ 64 00:02:21,684 --> 00:02:23,942 ♪ it's all or nothing ♪ 65 00:02:23,944 --> 00:02:26,311 - ♪ live it up ♪ 66 00:02:26,430 --> 00:02:28,613 ♪ raise your cup ♪ 67 00:02:28,615 --> 00:02:31,491 ♪ we'll keep dancing till the sun is coming up ♪ 68 00:02:31,493 --> 00:02:33,043 - I gotta get to work. - Ok. 69 00:02:33,070 --> 00:02:34,661 - So I'll talk to you when I get back. 70 00:02:34,663 --> 00:02:36,638 - All right, I'll finish everything up. 71 00:02:36,699 --> 00:02:37,805 - Which one do you want? Pick one. 72 00:02:37,867 --> 00:02:40,517 - That--that one. 73 00:02:40,519 --> 00:02:41,885 Thank--ooh. 74 00:02:41,912 --> 00:02:43,628 - With the one-month anniversary 75 00:02:43,630 --> 00:02:45,813 Just around the corner, our couples will need 76 00:02:45,875 --> 00:02:48,709 To remind themselves of the commitment they made... 77 00:02:48,827 --> 00:02:51,170 - You just grab it by the-- - yeah, just grab it. 78 00:02:51,288 --> 00:02:53,154 - The bottom of it, the base of it. 79 00:02:53,215 --> 00:02:56,541 I never knew this is what it took to repot a plant. 80 00:02:56,543 --> 00:02:59,436 - And focus on the needs of their partners 81 00:02:59,438 --> 00:03:01,388 Before they have to make that fateful decision 82 00:03:01,506 --> 00:03:04,165 Whether to stay married or get a divorce. 83 00:03:04,226 --> 00:03:05,817 - I want to start baking. 84 00:03:05,819 --> 00:03:07,077 - Baking? - Mm-hmm. 85 00:03:07,104 --> 00:03:08,562 - I make chocolate soufflés. 86 00:03:08,680 --> 00:03:10,898 - That's next level. - It's... 87 00:03:11,016 --> 00:03:12,232 - I was just trying to make a cake. 88 00:03:12,351 --> 00:03:14,008 - Not easy. - [laughs] 89 00:03:14,069 --> 00:03:16,962 [upbeat hip-hop music] 90 00:03:16,964 --> 00:03:24,077 ♪ ♪ 91 00:03:24,079 --> 00:03:26,430 - I'm really ready to get my feet in here. 92 00:03:26,457 --> 00:03:28,573 ♪ ♪ 93 00:03:28,575 --> 00:03:31,009 - Can you believe it's been one month since the wedding? 94 00:03:31,011 --> 00:03:32,677 - I feel like it was yesterday. 95 00:03:32,679 --> 00:03:35,180 - We got married, went on the honeymoon, moved in. 96 00:03:35,182 --> 00:03:37,441 You know what I'm saying? Within 30 days. 97 00:03:37,468 --> 00:03:39,684 - And that is not you. [laughs] 98 00:03:39,686 --> 00:03:41,336 - It's still taking me some time 99 00:03:41,454 --> 00:03:45,599 To, like, open up to him, and be vulnerable. 100 00:03:45,717 --> 00:03:47,709 And he's patient, but I'm like, 101 00:03:47,770 --> 00:03:49,937 We still have to have, like, conversation, 102 00:03:50,055 --> 00:03:53,123 Because I don't want him to go into decision day 103 00:03:53,150 --> 00:03:54,441 Feeling like he doesn't know me 104 00:03:54,559 --> 00:03:56,034 Or, like, I didn't give my all to him. 105 00:03:56,036 --> 00:03:57,444 - Mm-hmm. 106 00:03:57,562 --> 00:03:59,129 - Like, I appreciate you being patient, 107 00:03:59,156 --> 00:04:01,298 But we still have to, you know, continue to work 108 00:04:01,325 --> 00:04:04,058 And pour into each other and put in the effort. 109 00:04:04,119 --> 00:04:06,544 Like, if he's there, I want his attention. 110 00:04:06,546 --> 00:04:09,105 I want him to hold me and talk to me 111 00:04:09,266 --> 00:04:11,466 And really connect with me. 112 00:04:11,468 --> 00:04:12,884 That'll make me feel comfortable. 113 00:04:12,886 --> 00:04:14,569 - Mm! - Yeah. So-- 114 00:04:14,630 --> 00:04:16,721 - 'cause I mean, wedding day, he was all over you. 115 00:04:16,723 --> 00:04:18,815 - I know. - I'm shocked to hear this. 116 00:04:18,842 --> 00:04:22,560 So how do you feel, like-- in the one month, 117 00:04:22,562 --> 00:04:25,913 Like, that-- did that change from-- 118 00:04:25,975 --> 00:04:29,234 Was it, like, a peak of that, and then that changed? 119 00:04:29,236 --> 00:04:31,495 - I definitely feel like our marriage has been 120 00:04:31,522 --> 00:04:34,389 Up and down depending on the day. 121 00:04:34,507 --> 00:04:37,667 With real life sinking back in and us going back to reality, 122 00:04:37,695 --> 00:04:39,077 That's a totally different shift. 123 00:04:39,079 --> 00:04:40,570 So... - Mm-hmm. 124 00:04:40,572 --> 00:04:42,672 - Some days he comes home and he does make time for me 125 00:04:42,700 --> 00:04:45,400 And he does talk to me, and then sometimes it's like, 126 00:04:45,518 --> 00:04:47,677 You know, like, I'm tired. 127 00:04:47,705 --> 00:04:49,754 It does make me a little upset, 128 00:04:49,756 --> 00:04:51,906 And it makes me feel a little rejected 129 00:04:52,025 --> 00:04:53,425 And question this marriage. 130 00:04:53,427 --> 00:04:56,202 Like, are we going to be able to continue this marriage 131 00:04:56,321 --> 00:04:58,672 If he's not giving me that attention? 132 00:04:58,790 --> 00:05:01,266 Like, the attraction has grown between shaquille and I. 133 00:05:01,268 --> 00:05:04,436 And I think that shaquille, maybe he's still feeling it 134 00:05:04,438 --> 00:05:07,364 A certain way by, you know, me not being 135 00:05:07,391 --> 00:05:08,682 Physically attracted to him. 136 00:05:08,800 --> 00:05:10,775 But we're supposed to be moving past that. 137 00:05:10,777 --> 00:05:12,427 We're supposed to be in the present 138 00:05:12,545 --> 00:05:14,521 And focusing on the future. 139 00:05:14,639 --> 00:05:16,373 I said, "when you walk in this house, 140 00:05:16,400 --> 00:05:18,933 "like, you need to hug me or kiss me. 141 00:05:19,052 --> 00:05:22,029 Like, you can't just walk in and be like, 'oh, hey.'" 142 00:05:22,147 --> 00:05:24,089 Like, how can that build 143 00:05:24,091 --> 00:05:25,549 The connection or the chemistry? 144 00:05:25,576 --> 00:05:27,942 - Right, right. - Like, how do I feel wanted? 145 00:05:28,061 --> 00:05:31,187 Like, I'm working on trying to show you this, 146 00:05:31,248 --> 00:05:35,450 But, like, if you're pulling back and holding back now, 147 00:05:35,568 --> 00:05:37,969 That's not going to help our chemistry grow. 148 00:05:37,971 --> 00:05:39,729 It's not going to help our marriage grow. 149 00:05:39,757 --> 00:05:41,823 Like, both of us can't have walls up in this marriage, 150 00:05:41,884 --> 00:05:43,884 Because it won't make it anywhere. 151 00:05:44,002 --> 00:05:47,904 [tense music] 152 00:05:47,931 --> 00:05:49,789 - ♪ this is how you do it now ♪ 153 00:05:49,808 --> 00:05:53,702 [upbeat music] 154 00:05:53,704 --> 00:05:55,111 - Hello! 155 00:05:55,113 --> 00:05:56,687 - Hi, guys. There they are. 156 00:05:56,689 --> 00:05:58,239 - Hi, boys! - Here they are. 157 00:05:58,241 --> 00:06:00,466 - Calm down, boys. Calm down. - Hi, boys. 158 00:06:00,586 --> 00:06:02,343 Hi. - Calm down. 159 00:06:02,404 --> 00:06:04,279 - I'm really excited that my dad is coming over tonight 160 00:06:04,398 --> 00:06:07,715 To see our apartment and talk to chris 161 00:06:07,717 --> 00:06:08,550 Outside of the wedding. 162 00:06:08,668 --> 00:06:10,235 This is our home. 163 00:06:10,353 --> 00:06:11,736 - Ok. Then they--and there they go. 164 00:06:11,855 --> 00:06:13,020 - This is our kitchen. 165 00:06:13,082 --> 00:06:14,973 - All right. Well, this is chris. 166 00:06:14,975 --> 00:06:17,667 - This is--yes, my husband. - Hi. Ok. 167 00:06:17,828 --> 00:06:18,985 - Remember him from the wedding a few weeks ago? 168 00:06:19,004 --> 00:06:21,088 - Yeah, I didn't remember his name for a second. 169 00:06:21,206 --> 00:06:22,839 - Oh, no. It's all good. - It's all right. It's ok. 170 00:06:22,999 --> 00:06:25,350 - My dad is definitely very vocal and opinionated. 171 00:06:25,352 --> 00:06:28,837 He was so nervous before I married chris 172 00:06:28,955 --> 00:06:30,271 Because he didn't really understand 173 00:06:30,273 --> 00:06:31,664 Why I was doing this. 174 00:06:31,683 --> 00:06:33,783 So I'm really happy he gets to see chris 175 00:06:33,811 --> 00:06:36,620 And spend time with him and see how we're living together. 176 00:06:36,647 --> 00:06:39,122 This is our living room. - Ooh, very nice. 177 00:06:39,149 --> 00:06:41,666 - And this is our collection of pineapples and... 178 00:06:41,668 --> 00:06:43,001 Both: Dinosaurs. 179 00:06:43,119 --> 00:06:44,735 - You've noticed she has an interest in dinosaurs. 180 00:06:44,737 --> 00:06:45,995 - Oh, yeah. Yeah. - Can't get enough dinosaurs. 181 00:06:45,997 --> 00:06:47,388 - Dinosaurs and pineapples. That's all her. 182 00:06:47,508 --> 00:06:48,949 - And this is our bedroom. 183 00:06:49,067 --> 00:06:50,867 - Is this where you sleep, chris? 184 00:06:51,027 --> 00:06:52,177 - Yeah, I sleep right there. 185 00:06:52,179 --> 00:06:54,562 - Only when he's not in trouble. 186 00:06:54,564 --> 00:06:57,140 - Mark has been very skeptical since the beginning. 187 00:06:57,167 --> 00:06:58,508 - Well, son... - How are you doing? 188 00:06:58,510 --> 00:07:00,085 - I'm ok. How are you? 189 00:07:00,203 --> 00:07:02,421 - I can--I can wait and earn the-- 190 00:07:02,539 --> 00:07:04,089 - The "dad," yeah. - To call you dad. 191 00:07:04,207 --> 00:07:05,465 It's fine. I get it. - Yeah, it's like-- 192 00:07:05,584 --> 00:07:06,891 We'll talk anyways. 193 00:07:06,893 --> 00:07:08,560 - Yeah. - We'll see. 194 00:07:08,562 --> 00:07:10,153 - Totally comfortable and understandable 195 00:07:10,180 --> 00:07:12,005 That he doesn't want me to call him dad yet. 196 00:07:12,123 --> 00:07:14,707 But it is very important to have family members' approval. 197 00:07:14,826 --> 00:07:16,993 He obviously means the world to nicole. 198 00:07:17,020 --> 00:07:18,812 So I'm hoping now that he's met me 199 00:07:18,930 --> 00:07:20,922 And sees the type of person I am, 200 00:07:20,983 --> 00:07:22,740 That he's starting to feel a little more at ease. 201 00:07:22,742 --> 00:07:25,577 And I am hoping that mark really sees 202 00:07:25,579 --> 00:07:27,504 That this marriage is working. 203 00:07:27,531 --> 00:07:29,322 So how--how have you been? 204 00:07:29,441 --> 00:07:31,916 - I have been good. I'm glad I was able to come by. 205 00:07:31,918 --> 00:07:33,234 I wanted to check up and see what was going on. 206 00:07:33,353 --> 00:07:34,494 - Yeah. 207 00:07:34,613 --> 00:07:35,920 - She says only nice things about you. 208 00:07:35,922 --> 00:07:37,088 - That's good. - You know? 209 00:07:37,090 --> 00:07:38,348 How are you feeling about all this? 210 00:07:38,375 --> 00:07:39,641 Are you ready to be married? 211 00:07:39,668 --> 00:07:40,909 I mean, do you feel married, as a thing? 212 00:07:41,027 --> 00:07:42,352 - Yeah, yeah, I definitely feel married. 213 00:07:42,379 --> 00:07:43,578 You know, we have a really good time together. 214 00:07:43,696 --> 00:07:45,096 She takes care. 215 00:07:45,098 --> 00:07:47,081 Like, she's, like, an awesome mom to the dogs. 216 00:07:47,200 --> 00:07:48,750 Like, she takes really good care of them. 217 00:07:48,868 --> 00:07:50,451 She loves spending time with them. 218 00:07:50,512 --> 00:07:52,512 And she gets up earlier than I do, so-- 219 00:07:52,631 --> 00:07:54,014 - I'm a night owl, so I can understand 220 00:07:54,132 --> 00:07:55,532 Where you're coming from. - Same. Same. 221 00:07:55,559 --> 00:07:56,925 There's been times where I'm-- I feel myself 222 00:07:57,043 --> 00:07:58,518 Waking up a little bit earlier and earlier every day. 223 00:07:58,637 --> 00:08:00,845 But it's not quite the same level as her. 224 00:08:00,847 --> 00:08:02,096 - My advice is, you want to change-- 225 00:08:02,215 --> 00:08:03,190 If you want to change your hours 226 00:08:03,308 --> 00:08:04,357 Or she wants to change her hours, 227 00:08:04,476 --> 00:08:05,800 Which she probably won't, that's great. 228 00:08:05,861 --> 00:08:07,468 But don't change because you want-- 229 00:08:07,529 --> 00:08:09,045 You think that's what she wants. 230 00:08:09,072 --> 00:08:12,048 You need to be your--you need to be true to yourself. 231 00:08:12,075 --> 00:08:13,492 - It just feels really easy. 232 00:08:13,610 --> 00:08:14,976 Like, it feels like we've been together 233 00:08:14,995 --> 00:08:16,569 For a lot longer than almost a month. 234 00:08:16,688 --> 00:08:19,130 So, like, it's crazy to think it's already been that long. 235 00:08:19,132 --> 00:08:20,965 But at the same time, like, I feel like I've known her 236 00:08:20,967 --> 00:08:22,300 A lot longer than that. - Ok. 237 00:08:22,302 --> 00:08:25,061 And that is fantastic, and I love to hear that. 238 00:08:25,088 --> 00:08:26,804 But now let me just throw a little cold water 239 00:08:26,806 --> 00:08:28,139 On all that. - Yeah. 240 00:08:28,141 --> 00:08:29,382 - First of all, you're in the honeymoon stage, 241 00:08:29,501 --> 00:08:30,808 Which you know, you're still on honeymoon stage. 242 00:08:30,810 --> 00:08:32,310 And second of all, relationships are not easy, 243 00:08:32,312 --> 00:08:33,737 As you know. Marriages are not easy. 244 00:08:33,764 --> 00:08:35,572 Nicole is not easy. 245 00:08:35,599 --> 00:08:37,407 If you take a step back, she's gonna take a step forward. 246 00:08:37,434 --> 00:08:38,575 If you take a step back, she's gonna take 247 00:08:38,602 --> 00:08:39,834 Another step forward. 248 00:08:39,895 --> 00:08:41,411 And then you're gonna lose sense of self. 249 00:08:41,438 --> 00:08:43,563 Don't--you can take a step back, 250 00:08:43,682 --> 00:08:45,974 But make sure you take a step forward. 251 00:08:46,092 --> 00:08:47,751 You don't want to be codependent on her, you know. 252 00:08:47,778 --> 00:08:49,236 "if you're happy, I'm happy"? You be happy. 253 00:08:49,354 --> 00:08:50,495 If you're happy, she'll be happy. 254 00:08:50,497 --> 00:08:51,755 - Oh, yeah. No, for sure. 255 00:08:51,782 --> 00:08:52,997 And I've realized that from past relationships. 256 00:08:52,999 --> 00:08:54,983 Like, I've put in a lot into past relationships, 257 00:08:55,101 --> 00:08:56,484 And it felt very one-sided. 258 00:08:56,603 --> 00:08:58,245 - If you try to make everybody happy, 259 00:08:58,363 --> 00:08:59,520 You won't make anybody happy. 260 00:08:59,581 --> 00:09:01,188 [tense music] 261 00:09:01,250 --> 00:09:02,766 - Chris is a nice guy. 262 00:09:02,793 --> 00:09:04,751 You know what he needs? I'm gonna say it on camera. 263 00:09:04,869 --> 00:09:07,679 He needs a little big dick energy here, is what he needs. 264 00:09:07,681 --> 00:09:09,697 It's not taking anything away from him, 265 00:09:09,758 --> 00:09:11,608 Because he's a good-- he seems like a great guy 266 00:09:11,635 --> 00:09:12,926 And everything else like that. 267 00:09:13,044 --> 00:09:14,519 He doesn't need to be a neanderthal, 268 00:09:14,521 --> 00:09:16,187 And he doesn't need to have to thump his chest. 269 00:09:16,189 --> 00:09:19,432 But you can be an alpha quietly and confidently. 270 00:09:19,551 --> 00:09:21,526 And I believe he has that quiet confidence. 271 00:09:21,528 --> 00:09:22,860 He just needs to show it. 272 00:09:22,862 --> 00:09:28,382 ♪ ♪ 273 00:09:28,443 --> 00:09:31,077 [upbeat music] 274 00:09:31,079 --> 00:09:32,962 - ♪ baby, I'll be all right ♪ 275 00:09:32,990 --> 00:09:34,506 ♪ I'll be ok ♪ 276 00:09:34,508 --> 00:09:35,623 ♪ let me spend a moment ♪ 277 00:09:35,625 --> 00:09:37,117 ♪ take it day by day ♪ 278 00:09:37,235 --> 00:09:38,301 ♪ baby, I'll be all right ♪ 279 00:09:38,328 --> 00:09:41,379 - What up, bruh? - You good? 280 00:09:41,381 --> 00:09:43,373 - Always good to see another married black man. 281 00:09:43,533 --> 00:09:46,126 - [laughs] 282 00:09:46,244 --> 00:09:47,644 Oh, man. 283 00:09:47,671 --> 00:09:49,296 My first time seeing you since you got married. 284 00:09:49,414 --> 00:09:50,463 How has it been? 285 00:09:50,582 --> 00:09:52,056 - It's been. 286 00:09:52,058 --> 00:09:54,033 It's been going. 287 00:09:54,052 --> 00:09:58,062 - Is it anything you expected? 288 00:09:58,064 --> 00:10:00,156 - I don't know what I expected, so I'm just-- 289 00:10:00,183 --> 00:10:01,883 I'm in it, you know. 290 00:10:02,001 --> 00:10:04,085 We've got the one-month anniversary coming. 291 00:10:04,146 --> 00:10:05,662 It's crazy that it's already been a month. 292 00:10:05,689 --> 00:10:07,889 - One month. - Time flies, like... 293 00:10:08,007 --> 00:10:09,482 She ain't had no-- she ain't having no baby 294 00:10:09,601 --> 00:10:10,908 If she ain't had no-- 295 00:10:10,910 --> 00:10:12,669 - Oh, no. No, no, no. No, ain't-- 296 00:10:12,696 --> 00:10:15,171 - No honeymoon? None of that? - None of that. 297 00:10:15,198 --> 00:10:16,673 - So y'all ain't done nothing? 298 00:10:16,700 --> 00:10:18,916 - Nah. - What base you on? 299 00:10:18,918 --> 00:10:20,160 You been--you done tried 300 00:10:20,278 --> 00:10:21,961 And got denied, or you just ain't tried? 301 00:10:21,963 --> 00:10:25,423 - I'm in the parking lot. I only got my uniform on. 302 00:10:25,425 --> 00:10:27,834 - Yeah, the-- a whole month, no sex. 303 00:10:27,952 --> 00:10:30,261 That's-- - a whole month. Newlywed. 304 00:10:30,263 --> 00:10:32,597 - You a virgin again. That's crazy. 305 00:10:32,599 --> 00:10:34,007 You got married not to have sex. 306 00:10:34,125 --> 00:10:35,525 It's-- - [laughs] 307 00:10:35,552 --> 00:10:37,268 - It's kind of backwards, but right. 308 00:10:37,270 --> 00:10:39,362 - This whole process is backwards, so-- 309 00:10:39,389 --> 00:10:41,439 - You think she waiting on you to initiate something, 310 00:10:41,441 --> 00:10:43,608 Or do you think that you waiting on her? 311 00:10:43,610 --> 00:10:45,093 - She's waiting on me. 312 00:10:45,211 --> 00:10:46,870 But she's already-- she feels the energy. 313 00:10:46,897 --> 00:10:47,854 Like, I've already-- 314 00:10:47,972 --> 00:10:49,689 - What energy is that? 315 00:10:49,808 --> 00:10:52,709 - I told her I wasn't, like, physically attracted to her. 316 00:10:52,736 --> 00:10:55,378 So it don't make me feel like the best person 317 00:10:55,405 --> 00:10:58,865 Or, like-- but I got to be honest. 318 00:10:58,983 --> 00:11:00,625 I'm not saying, like, she's ugly. 319 00:11:00,627 --> 00:11:02,051 I don't think anybody would say that. 320 00:11:02,079 --> 00:11:03,628 Like, she's just not, like, my normal type. 321 00:11:03,630 --> 00:11:05,780 - She's just not your type. - There you go. 322 00:11:05,898 --> 00:11:07,707 - So what do you need from her? Because you're hung up on-- 323 00:11:07,826 --> 00:11:09,893 - I just need a-- I just need a vibe, man. 324 00:11:09,920 --> 00:11:11,211 - Is--we hung up-- - ok. 325 00:11:11,329 --> 00:11:12,954 Have you ever been-- you ever seen a chick 326 00:11:13,072 --> 00:11:15,732 That maybe, like, she might not be, like, your type, 327 00:11:15,759 --> 00:11:17,217 But maybe her swag, right? 328 00:11:17,335 --> 00:11:19,068 - Right. - Maybe she dress crazy. 329 00:11:19,096 --> 00:11:20,403 Like, maybe she a sneaker head. 330 00:11:20,430 --> 00:11:21,738 She just always fly. - Yeah. 331 00:11:21,765 --> 00:11:22,980 - That might make her attractive. 332 00:11:22,982 --> 00:11:24,741 Or she hella funny. 333 00:11:24,768 --> 00:11:26,000 Like, y'all just be cracking up. 334 00:11:26,061 --> 00:11:27,560 That makes you attracted. - Right. 335 00:11:27,679 --> 00:11:29,245 - I don't have-- - any of that. 336 00:11:29,272 --> 00:11:30,655 - I don't have any of that. 337 00:11:30,657 --> 00:11:32,081 But I'm still learning about her. 338 00:11:32,109 --> 00:11:33,249 - That's what I'm saying. Like, if she has to-- 339 00:11:33,276 --> 00:11:35,418 - So maybe, like, I'll find something. 340 00:11:35,445 --> 00:11:37,311 - I don't know how to feel about all the information. 341 00:11:37,430 --> 00:11:42,091 I thought that this process went kind of smoother 342 00:11:42,119 --> 00:11:43,668 And better for him. 343 00:11:43,670 --> 00:11:45,094 I feel like it's rough for him now. 344 00:11:45,122 --> 00:11:46,663 So I kind of feel for my boy. 345 00:11:46,823 --> 00:11:48,389 I hope things can get better. 346 00:11:48,391 --> 00:11:49,857 That's not the news that I wanted to hear. 347 00:11:49,918 --> 00:11:52,009 So what do you plan to do to make it better? 348 00:11:52,011 --> 00:11:53,678 Like, do you have a plan to try to make it better, 349 00:11:53,680 --> 00:11:55,362 Or you just like, "[bleep] it"? 350 00:11:55,424 --> 00:11:58,683 - I feel like just going out, continuing to date. 351 00:11:58,685 --> 00:12:00,109 And, like, even though we're married... 352 00:12:00,137 --> 00:12:01,094 - Right. - It's like, we're-- 353 00:12:01,212 --> 00:12:02,503 - So you guys date each other-- 354 00:12:02,622 --> 00:12:03,947 - It seems like a backwards process, right? 355 00:12:03,974 --> 00:12:05,949 So I feel like we gotta date and go out and do stuff 356 00:12:05,976 --> 00:12:09,543 And just create those vibes, create those good moments. 357 00:12:09,604 --> 00:12:10,954 - Y'all have a-- 358 00:12:10,981 --> 00:12:12,530 Do y'all have the time and opportunity to date, 359 00:12:12,532 --> 00:12:14,340 Or y'all schedule is just so booked up? 360 00:12:14,359 --> 00:12:15,783 - Our schedules are so different. 361 00:12:15,785 --> 00:12:18,278 But, you know, there are moments. 362 00:12:18,396 --> 00:12:19,854 So we gotta, like, kind of take advantage of those. 363 00:12:19,972 --> 00:12:21,873 - Yeah. 364 00:12:21,875 --> 00:12:24,451 - I'm hopeful that things will improve. 365 00:12:24,569 --> 00:12:26,393 But I need help. 366 00:12:26,555 --> 00:12:27,996 Like, I don't really know what to do, you know. 367 00:12:28,114 --> 00:12:31,458 So--but I'm open to listening to--whether it's harold, 368 00:12:31,576 --> 00:12:33,977 Whether it's johnny, whether it's chee, 369 00:12:34,004 --> 00:12:36,454 Whether it's fallina, whether it's dr. Pepper, 370 00:12:36,572 --> 00:12:38,831 Whether it's pastor cal, like, 371 00:12:38,950 --> 00:12:41,017 Hopefully I have a tribe of people that, 372 00:12:41,019 --> 00:12:42,409 Like, you know, kind of help me and point me 373 00:12:42,471 --> 00:12:43,711 In the right direction. 374 00:12:43,830 --> 00:12:44,912 It's not like I'll just-- 375 00:12:44,973 --> 00:12:45,972 I'm just throwing in the towel... 376 00:12:46,090 --> 00:12:47,398 - Yeah. - And I'm just, like, 377 00:12:47,400 --> 00:12:49,642 Not making any effort or trying to do anything. 378 00:12:49,761 --> 00:12:51,585 Like, that's not what's going on. 379 00:12:51,646 --> 00:12:54,088 - My advice is, if you think she need more, 380 00:12:54,149 --> 00:12:55,573 You need to either give it to her 381 00:12:55,575 --> 00:12:57,000 Or ask her then what she want. 382 00:12:57,027 --> 00:12:59,002 Because if both of y'all are not talking, 383 00:12:59,029 --> 00:13:00,153 Then she--you got to think. 384 00:13:00,271 --> 00:13:01,671 She could say the same thing about you. 385 00:13:01,698 --> 00:13:03,247 - Right. 386 00:13:03,249 --> 00:13:04,340 - Y'all got a lot of catching up to do. 387 00:13:04,367 --> 00:13:05,750 - Yeah. 388 00:13:05,752 --> 00:13:06,868 [soft dramatic music] 389 00:13:10,648 --> 00:13:13,516 [upbeat country music] 390 00:13:13,676 --> 00:13:18,320 ♪ ♪ 391 00:13:18,481 --> 00:13:19,964 - Feeling good about this redneck bus tour. 392 00:13:20,083 --> 00:13:22,025 It's "where caviar meets collard greens." 393 00:13:22,052 --> 00:13:23,802 ♪ ♪ 394 00:13:23,920 --> 00:13:25,452 - Well, I was-- I was born in arkansas, 395 00:13:25,514 --> 00:13:27,196 So I can teach us all the redneck jokes on the bus. 396 00:13:27,224 --> 00:13:28,940 - There we go. - Yes. I love that. 397 00:13:28,942 --> 00:13:31,034 - I was born in houston, texas, so I'll teach you 398 00:13:31,061 --> 00:13:32,368 All the cool southern things. 399 00:13:32,395 --> 00:13:33,703 - All right. 400 00:13:33,730 --> 00:13:34,979 - Got nothing to contribute but joy. 401 00:13:35,098 --> 00:13:37,941 - Ok. We're glad to have you. 402 00:13:38,101 --> 00:13:41,285 - I'm super excited that chris and nicole invited us 403 00:13:41,287 --> 00:13:44,355 To a comedy bus tour today to celebrate 404 00:13:44,473 --> 00:13:46,215 Our one-month anniversary. 405 00:13:46,243 --> 00:13:48,142 I've never really been doing a lot 406 00:13:48,203 --> 00:13:50,628 Of these tourist-type things in nashville. 407 00:13:50,630 --> 00:13:52,296 So this will be fun. 408 00:13:52,298 --> 00:13:53,873 And yeah, I think it'll be an awesome double date. 409 00:13:53,992 --> 00:13:55,558 - All right. 410 00:13:55,585 --> 00:13:57,043 Well, good afternoon, ladies and gentlemen. 411 00:13:57,161 --> 00:13:58,611 Welcome to nashville. 412 00:13:58,630 --> 00:14:00,939 Thank y'all for taking the redneck comedy tour bus 413 00:14:01,057 --> 00:14:02,398 With us today. 414 00:14:02,558 --> 00:14:04,342 How long y'all been married? 415 00:14:04,460 --> 00:14:06,035 - About one month, exactly! - One month! 416 00:14:06,096 --> 00:14:07,904 Whoo! - One month exactly. 417 00:14:07,931 --> 00:14:09,388 How long y'all been married? 418 00:14:09,507 --> 00:14:10,698 Both: One month. - Yeah. 419 00:14:10,700 --> 00:14:12,358 - Y'all been married one month too? 420 00:14:12,360 --> 00:14:15,052 Both: Yep. 421 00:14:15,171 --> 00:14:16,795 - It was a buy one, get one free. 422 00:14:16,815 --> 00:14:18,990 [laughter] - we got swingers on the bus. 423 00:14:18,992 --> 00:14:20,558 [laughter] 424 00:14:20,676 --> 00:14:23,252 - You know, gina and I, we're taking it slow, 425 00:14:23,280 --> 00:14:25,195 And--but we're growing collectively. 426 00:14:25,197 --> 00:14:28,557 Things were very regressive in the honeymoon, 427 00:14:28,618 --> 00:14:30,093 And now things are building. 428 00:14:30,120 --> 00:14:33,337 So we're getting to a much better point, 429 00:14:33,339 --> 00:14:35,390 And that's encouraging for me, and hopefully 430 00:14:35,392 --> 00:14:37,858 It's encouraging for this one too. 431 00:14:37,919 --> 00:14:39,418 - Well, I'm gonna do y'all a favor. 432 00:14:39,420 --> 00:14:41,311 I'm gonna teach you how to talk like a redneck. 433 00:14:41,313 --> 00:14:42,455 First word--turest. 434 00:14:42,573 --> 00:14:43,631 All: Turest. 435 00:14:43,750 --> 00:14:44,807 - Turest. All: Turest. 436 00:14:44,809 --> 00:14:46,259 - We got "bless your heart." 437 00:14:46,377 --> 00:14:47,993 - Oh, bless your heart. 438 00:14:48,013 --> 00:14:49,679 How many of you heard that since you've been here? 439 00:14:49,839 --> 00:14:51,723 Momanem. You know what that is? 440 00:14:51,841 --> 00:14:53,616 - Momanem. How's your momanem? 441 00:14:53,643 --> 00:14:55,593 - Momanem? - How's your mom and them? 442 00:14:55,711 --> 00:14:59,088 Momanem. - Oh, oh, like my mom and them. 443 00:14:59,149 --> 00:15:01,365 - Here's my favorite redneck word. 444 00:15:01,367 --> 00:15:02,883 You're going to love this one. 445 00:15:02,885 --> 00:15:04,702 Cooter. Both: Cooter! 446 00:15:04,704 --> 00:15:05,870 - You know what a cooter is? 447 00:15:05,872 --> 00:15:07,371 - Sure do. - Yep. 448 00:15:07,373 --> 00:15:09,523 - A cooter is something you can eat. 449 00:15:09,642 --> 00:15:11,951 [music slows to halt] 450 00:15:12,070 --> 00:15:13,578 - Well, I know-- 451 00:15:13,696 --> 00:15:15,771 That's--that's what they're saying in biology. 452 00:15:15,932 --> 00:15:17,290 - It's not a female body part. 453 00:15:17,408 --> 00:15:18,899 We call that a beaver. 454 00:15:18,960 --> 00:15:20,293 - Oh! 455 00:15:20,411 --> 00:15:22,053 - Yeah. - [laughs] 456 00:15:22,055 --> 00:15:23,554 - A cooter is a turtle, y'all. 457 00:15:23,556 --> 00:15:25,222 It's a type of turtle. - A turtle? 458 00:15:25,224 --> 00:15:26,240 - What? - Yeah. 459 00:15:26,301 --> 00:15:27,316 Y'all ain't never heard of that? 460 00:15:27,344 --> 00:15:28,559 - No, I've never heard that. 461 00:15:28,561 --> 00:15:29,543 Oh, naked people. - Look. Naked people. 462 00:15:29,662 --> 00:15:31,228 - All the naked people. 463 00:15:31,347 --> 00:15:32,388 It's tallywackers and beavers. 464 00:15:32,548 --> 00:15:34,215 - There you go. Tallywackers and-- 465 00:15:34,333 --> 00:15:36,525 [laughs] - he's good. He's good. 466 00:15:36,527 --> 00:15:38,661 - If y'all look over here to your left, 467 00:15:38,688 --> 00:15:41,830 We've got historic rca studio b. 468 00:15:41,832 --> 00:15:44,867 We've got the legends corner, tootsies orchid lounge. 469 00:15:44,869 --> 00:15:46,653 Hey, have y'all been in robert's? 470 00:15:46,771 --> 00:15:48,321 - Baloney sandwich. - Yeah. 471 00:15:48,439 --> 00:15:50,097 - Fried baloney sandwich. 472 00:15:50,158 --> 00:15:53,009 That's--we're going right there. 473 00:15:53,036 --> 00:15:55,495 We're about to pull up here at the ole smoky 474 00:15:55,613 --> 00:15:57,346 Moonshine distillery. 475 00:15:57,374 --> 00:15:58,572 I've had a great time. 476 00:15:58,691 --> 00:15:59,924 Have y'all had a good time today? 477 00:15:59,926 --> 00:16:01,926 [all cheering] - sure did. 478 00:16:01,928 --> 00:16:08,132 ♪ ♪ 479 00:16:09,602 --> 00:16:11,002 - Hello, hello. - How you doing? 480 00:16:11,120 --> 00:16:12,578 - Hi. - Well, come on in. 481 00:16:12,697 --> 00:16:14,605 - Wow. - Have a seat. 482 00:16:14,607 --> 00:16:15,940 - All right. 483 00:16:15,942 --> 00:16:17,791 - Got y'all a little tasting lined up for you. 484 00:16:17,852 --> 00:16:19,427 - All right. - Yeehaw. 485 00:16:19,545 --> 00:16:20,653 - And we are gonna start out one of our tried and true 486 00:16:20,655 --> 00:16:21,521 Flavors right here, ok? 487 00:16:21,639 --> 00:16:23,088 This is our apple pie. 488 00:16:23,108 --> 00:16:25,449 - Good old americana apple pie. 489 00:16:25,451 --> 00:16:26,709 - There you go. - Yeah. 490 00:16:26,736 --> 00:16:28,211 - To one month for all of us. - Cheers. 491 00:16:28,238 --> 00:16:31,230 - May we always have full cups. 492 00:16:31,348 --> 00:16:33,932 - I love it. America. 493 00:16:33,952 --> 00:16:35,451 - That's nice. - Whoa! 494 00:16:35,611 --> 00:16:37,278 - All right. This is salty caramel. 495 00:16:37,396 --> 00:16:39,021 ♪ ♪ 496 00:16:39,082 --> 00:16:40,431 - Ooh! - Cheers. 497 00:16:40,433 --> 00:16:41,749 - Hey, cilantro. 498 00:16:41,868 --> 00:16:43,509 ♪ ♪ 499 00:16:43,511 --> 00:16:45,061 Put that in pancakes. 500 00:16:45,088 --> 00:16:46,153 - Yeah, I want that on my pancakes. 501 00:16:46,214 --> 00:16:48,822 - Exactly. - This is mountain java. 502 00:16:48,883 --> 00:16:50,091 - All right. - Yeah. 503 00:16:50,209 --> 00:16:51,992 ♪ ♪ 504 00:16:51,994 --> 00:16:53,252 - That's good. - That's so good. 505 00:16:53,370 --> 00:16:56,431 - This is a pb&j shot. 506 00:16:56,549 --> 00:16:57,831 - Mm. - Mm. 507 00:16:57,892 --> 00:17:00,484 - Yeah. Oh, yeah. Yeah. - That is nuts. 508 00:17:00,486 --> 00:17:01,894 - I think I love you. Yeah. - [laughs] 509 00:17:02,013 --> 00:17:03,563 - Wayne. - Sorry, but-- 510 00:17:03,681 --> 00:17:05,156 - She hasn't said that to me, yet, so... 511 00:17:05,158 --> 00:17:06,991 - Wayne, you're stealing all of our girls now. 512 00:17:06,993 --> 00:17:08,417 [laughter] 513 00:17:08,445 --> 00:17:10,069 - I--I've already been spoken for. 514 00:17:10,188 --> 00:17:11,662 Just saying. - Oh. Good for you. 515 00:17:11,664 --> 00:17:12,922 - How long have you been married? 516 00:17:12,949 --> 00:17:14,331 - I've been married for six years. 517 00:17:14,333 --> 00:17:15,499 - Oh, wow. - Wow. 518 00:17:15,501 --> 00:17:16,759 Do you have any advice for us? 519 00:17:16,786 --> 00:17:18,335 We're freshly on our one month. - One month. 520 00:17:18,337 --> 00:17:19,746 - One-month anniversaries are coming up, 521 00:17:19,864 --> 00:17:21,172 And you look very wise. 522 00:17:21,174 --> 00:17:22,932 - I would say honesty. 523 00:17:22,959 --> 00:17:24,742 Honesty is one of those things, because you can always 524 00:17:24,860 --> 00:17:26,527 Verbalize it, and if you hold it in, 525 00:17:26,588 --> 00:17:28,771 It doesn't help anything. 526 00:17:28,798 --> 00:17:30,364 - That's good. I like that. 527 00:17:30,425 --> 00:17:31,941 - We've been told we're too honest. 528 00:17:31,968 --> 00:17:35,444 - Yeah. [laughter] 529 00:17:35,472 --> 00:17:36,912 - So how have you guys been doing? 530 00:17:36,973 --> 00:17:38,264 Does clint do all the cooking? 531 00:17:38,382 --> 00:17:39,523 - Clint does most of the cooking. 532 00:17:39,525 --> 00:17:40,783 - Gina's cooked. 533 00:17:40,810 --> 00:17:42,376 - I've cooked a little bit, yeah, 534 00:17:42,437 --> 00:17:45,863 - And gina has been a very willing helper. 535 00:17:45,865 --> 00:17:47,005 - It seems like you two are working 536 00:17:47,025 --> 00:17:48,507 Well together as a team. 537 00:17:48,509 --> 00:17:50,217 - Yeah. Yeah. - That's important, right? 538 00:17:50,278 --> 00:17:51,794 That doesn't come easily. 539 00:17:51,821 --> 00:17:53,871 - Yeah, and I think, like, our-- 540 00:17:53,873 --> 00:17:56,032 We had a big honeymoon hurdle, obviously. 541 00:17:56,192 --> 00:17:57,358 - Sure. 542 00:17:57,476 --> 00:18:00,428 - And our biggest goal was just, 543 00:18:00,430 --> 00:18:02,563 Like, have fun together, and that's what we've done. 544 00:18:02,624 --> 00:18:04,307 Like we've just been like, we're just gonna have fun, 545 00:18:04,334 --> 00:18:06,867 Like, and see what grows from there. 546 00:18:06,986 --> 00:18:08,795 - How's hank been adjusting to-- 547 00:18:08,913 --> 00:18:11,722 - I think--I think he needs to incorporate 548 00:18:11,724 --> 00:18:12,982 The last name webb. 549 00:18:13,009 --> 00:18:14,391 - [laughs] 550 00:18:14,393 --> 00:18:15,742 - Because I love that now. I love that. 551 00:18:15,804 --> 00:18:17,228 - Do you think gina needs to incorporate 552 00:18:17,230 --> 00:18:18,471 The last name webb? 553 00:18:18,589 --> 00:18:19,472 - Isn't that, like, standard, I guess? 554 00:18:19,590 --> 00:18:21,123 - Yeah, I think that's-- 555 00:18:21,284 --> 00:18:24,660 - Like, personally for me, from a logistical perspective, 556 00:18:24,687 --> 00:18:25,919 I don't know if you men know this, 557 00:18:25,980 --> 00:18:27,388 But it's a nightmare to change-- 558 00:18:27,506 --> 00:18:28,664 - I think that's-- 559 00:18:28,691 --> 00:18:29,649 I think it's a little cop-out. 560 00:18:29,767 --> 00:18:31,000 - Well, no. 561 00:18:31,027 --> 00:18:32,759 I'm happy--I'm happy to do it. 562 00:18:32,821 --> 00:18:36,230 But I can't confidently, like, go through all that paperwork 563 00:18:36,348 --> 00:18:39,458 Without knowing--or I can't a month into this say, 564 00:18:39,576 --> 00:18:41,026 Like, I'm comfortable enough with our relationship... 565 00:18:41,145 --> 00:18:42,578 - Fair. Fair. 566 00:18:42,738 --> 00:18:44,730 - To change my passport, my social security card, 567 00:18:44,749 --> 00:18:45,865 Go to the dmv-- 568 00:18:45,983 --> 00:18:47,125 - Oh, do you mean change it right now? 569 00:18:47,243 --> 00:18:49,385 - Right, like, right now, I can't. 570 00:18:49,387 --> 00:18:51,337 - For sure I want her to take my last name one day. 571 00:18:51,455 --> 00:18:54,190 But, like, honestly, that can wait until after decision day. 572 00:18:54,217 --> 00:18:55,341 I'm on--totally ok with that. 573 00:18:55,459 --> 00:18:57,101 - I'm going to take it. 574 00:18:57,103 --> 00:18:59,178 I just, it's--you know, I haven't had the time 575 00:18:59,297 --> 00:19:01,438 To go to the social security office and the dmv. 576 00:19:01,440 --> 00:19:03,107 I don't even have a tennessee license. 577 00:19:03,109 --> 00:19:04,592 Don't tell anyone. 578 00:19:04,710 --> 00:19:06,369 - 12 months from now. Let's use that as the context. 579 00:19:06,396 --> 00:19:08,871 - Oh, 12 months from now, if we're still just as happy, 580 00:19:08,898 --> 00:19:10,614 I have no problem doing it. 581 00:19:10,616 --> 00:19:12,525 - Oh, yeah, if we decide at the end of this 582 00:19:12,643 --> 00:19:16,362 It's a 100% successful marriage, after a year, fine. 583 00:19:16,480 --> 00:19:17,471 - If we have-- 584 00:19:17,532 --> 00:19:18,972 - So we're not super concerned-- 585 00:19:19,033 --> 00:19:21,642 - If we have kids, their last name's gonna be webb. 586 00:19:21,703 --> 00:19:23,386 - [laughing] oh, no. 587 00:19:23,413 --> 00:19:26,463 - Look at that. - Hell yeah. 588 00:19:26,465 --> 00:19:28,616 This girl might be, like, world-class. 589 00:19:28,734 --> 00:19:30,376 - World-class woman right there. 590 00:19:30,494 --> 00:19:31,785 - [laughs] 591 00:19:31,904 --> 00:19:34,305 - ♪ ooh ♪ 592 00:19:34,307 --> 00:19:36,373 ♪ I won't give up on you ♪ 593 00:19:36,492 --> 00:19:41,545 ♪ I won't give up on you ♪ 594 00:19:41,547 --> 00:19:43,589 - ♪ tick, tick, boom, oh, yeah ♪ 595 00:19:43,707 --> 00:19:45,049 ♪ come on, let's get it started ♪ 596 00:19:45,167 --> 00:19:46,409 ♪ tick, tick, boom ♪ 597 00:19:46,436 --> 00:19:47,893 - I feel like it's probably, like, 598 00:19:47,895 --> 00:19:49,519 A michael myers-type situation. 599 00:19:49,639 --> 00:19:51,546 - Oh, god. 600 00:19:51,608 --> 00:19:53,440 - How are y'all doing? - Hi. 601 00:19:53,559 --> 00:19:54,658 - We're ready to break some stuff. 602 00:19:54,660 --> 00:19:56,118 - All right. 603 00:19:56,120 --> 00:19:58,713 - So it's our one-month, you know, anniversary 604 00:19:58,715 --> 00:20:00,965 And I have a date night planned for me and jasmine 605 00:20:01,083 --> 00:20:02,825 To go to a rage room, you know, because I've been 606 00:20:02,985 --> 00:20:04,810 Kind of feeling that she has 607 00:20:04,829 --> 00:20:06,337 A hard time expressing her feelings. 608 00:20:06,339 --> 00:20:08,931 So maybe this is a better way for her to let it all out. 609 00:20:08,958 --> 00:20:10,691 - All right, guys. 610 00:20:10,752 --> 00:20:12,743 Welcome to the rage room. 611 00:20:12,861 --> 00:20:15,421 You guys have two buckets of breakable items. 612 00:20:15,539 --> 00:20:19,892 You can throw the glass against the walls all day long. 613 00:20:19,894 --> 00:20:22,853 Your weapons of choice are right here. 614 00:20:22,855 --> 00:20:25,080 And-- [ceramic crashing] 615 00:20:25,141 --> 00:20:26,507 That's how you do it. - All right. 616 00:20:26,625 --> 00:20:28,041 - Have fun, guys. 617 00:20:28,102 --> 00:20:29,693 - I'm ready to break some stuff. 618 00:20:29,695 --> 00:20:31,653 - Obviously you ready to break stuff. 619 00:20:31,655 --> 00:20:34,564 - Just let it out, whether you got to scream. 620 00:20:34,566 --> 00:20:36,767 It's a safe space, you know. That's why we're here. 621 00:20:36,885 --> 00:20:38,794 Just get it all out. 622 00:20:38,821 --> 00:20:41,297 - You got anything you got to get out? 623 00:20:41,324 --> 00:20:42,815 - Just the world, man. 624 00:20:42,933 --> 00:20:44,850 It's a crazy place. I'm over. I'm over it. 625 00:20:44,869 --> 00:20:46,302 I'm over it all. 626 00:20:46,329 --> 00:20:47,453 I'm just ready to just break [bleep]. 627 00:20:47,571 --> 00:20:49,896 You know, tear it up. - Ok. 628 00:20:50,058 --> 00:20:51,106 - ♪ you can't deny it ♪ 629 00:20:51,167 --> 00:20:52,566 ♪ you can't deny it ♪ 630 00:20:52,585 --> 00:20:53,867 ♪ you can't deny it ♪ 631 00:20:53,986 --> 00:20:55,586 ♪ you can't deny it ♪ 632 00:20:55,705 --> 00:20:57,346 - I have frustration I need to let out, 633 00:20:57,348 --> 00:21:00,541 Just because I'm not really happy 634 00:21:00,701 --> 00:21:02,242 With where we are in our marriage. 635 00:21:02,303 --> 00:21:04,136 - ♪ that's the sound of love ♪ 636 00:21:04,255 --> 00:21:06,380 ♪ that's the sound of everything ♪ 637 00:21:06,498 --> 00:21:08,432 - We haven't really progressed in a way 638 00:21:08,551 --> 00:21:11,310 That I thought we would have, like, coming into this. 639 00:21:11,429 --> 00:21:14,087 - ♪ oh, that's the sound of freedom ♪ 640 00:21:14,089 --> 00:21:15,572 - Before even getting married, 641 00:21:15,574 --> 00:21:20,378 I was just eager to have babies, build an empire. 642 00:21:20,380 --> 00:21:23,339 I feel like I've been preparing to be a wife for years, 643 00:21:23,366 --> 00:21:28,661 And, you know, I'm not as enthusiastic as I was before. 644 00:21:30,314 --> 00:21:32,456 I'm good at that. 645 00:21:32,575 --> 00:21:35,826 I'm trying my best to be more open 646 00:21:35,944 --> 00:21:38,963 And to be more, you know, optimistic. 647 00:21:39,081 --> 00:21:42,174 But I'm definitely overwhelmed 648 00:21:42,293 --> 00:21:44,493 And, you know, frustrated with everything. 649 00:21:44,554 --> 00:21:46,303 Cheers. 650 00:21:46,305 --> 00:21:47,430 One, two, three. 651 00:21:47,590 --> 00:21:49,698 ♪ ♪ 652 00:21:49,726 --> 00:21:52,009 A lot is going to have to change for us 653 00:21:52,011 --> 00:21:55,037 To actually have a shot at having a successful marriage. 654 00:21:55,064 --> 00:21:56,964 ♪ ♪ 655 00:21:56,966 --> 00:21:59,275 But it feels good to let out some frustration, 656 00:21:59,435 --> 00:22:00,860 You know, and break [bleep]. 657 00:22:00,978 --> 00:22:02,211 - ♪ c'mon! ♪ 658 00:22:02,238 --> 00:22:04,697 ♪ oh, oh, whoo! ♪ 659 00:22:04,815 --> 00:22:07,349 ♪ oh, oh, whoo! ♪ 660 00:22:07,351 --> 00:22:09,543 ♪ oh, oh, whoo! ♪ 661 00:22:09,545 --> 00:22:11,387 - Feel better? - Yeah. 662 00:22:11,414 --> 00:22:11,996 ♪ ♪ 663 00:22:15,752 --> 00:22:17,584 [upbeat music] 664 00:22:17,703 --> 00:22:21,105 - Can you believe that it's been a month already? 665 00:22:21,107 --> 00:22:22,473 - No. 666 00:22:22,475 --> 00:22:24,275 - It--it feels like a month to me. 667 00:22:24,277 --> 00:22:25,775 - It do? - Yeah. 668 00:22:25,777 --> 00:22:28,145 I feel like we've learned so much about each other. 669 00:22:28,147 --> 00:22:31,164 - A one-month anniversary may not be a typical milestone 670 00:22:31,225 --> 00:22:33,166 For most relationships, 671 00:22:33,227 --> 00:22:35,819 But these couples are far from typical. 672 00:22:35,821 --> 00:22:37,563 - At one month, very happy. 673 00:22:37,681 --> 00:22:39,431 What about you? Are you very happy? 674 00:22:39,550 --> 00:22:41,025 - Yeah, I'm excited. 675 00:22:41,143 --> 00:22:43,009 Wait till you see what I have in store for you. 676 00:22:43,071 --> 00:22:44,828 - Over the past four weeks, they've gone 677 00:22:44,830 --> 00:22:46,589 Through many ups and downs 678 00:22:46,616 --> 00:22:49,216 And pushed through setbacks in order to allow 679 00:22:49,243 --> 00:22:52,428 Their relationships to grow and evolve. 680 00:22:52,455 --> 00:22:54,914 So now is a perfect time for them to reflect 681 00:22:55,032 --> 00:22:57,674 And celebrate their journey so far. 682 00:22:57,676 --> 00:23:00,452 [energetic music] 683 00:23:00,571 --> 00:23:06,425 ♪ ♪ 684 00:23:06,544 --> 00:23:08,594 - Should we put a bag on you? 685 00:23:08,712 --> 00:23:10,471 You can be our mule? 686 00:23:10,589 --> 00:23:11,672 Huh? 687 00:23:11,832 --> 00:23:13,232 Hank, the mule? 688 00:23:13,234 --> 00:23:16,360 ♪ ♪ 689 00:23:16,362 --> 00:23:18,729 How many of these iv things is it safe to drink? 690 00:23:21,442 --> 00:23:24,718 I feel like I need, like, four more. 691 00:23:24,779 --> 00:23:27,254 This morning I'm feeling a little rough. 692 00:23:27,256 --> 00:23:30,858 Last night, the--the good times got ahold of me 693 00:23:30,976 --> 00:23:33,660 And continue to drag me down the road. 694 00:23:33,662 --> 00:23:38,732 I found out moonshine comes in 372 different flavors, 695 00:23:38,793 --> 00:23:42,269 And I like just about every one of them. 696 00:23:42,296 --> 00:23:44,429 2:00 a.M. Pizza. 697 00:23:44,548 --> 00:23:46,390 But I have to push through it 698 00:23:46,392 --> 00:23:48,575 Because it's our one-month anniversary, 699 00:23:48,636 --> 00:23:51,244 And we're going to rutledge falls today. 700 00:23:51,305 --> 00:23:54,306 We're--we're doing a little jamaica re-creation. 701 00:23:54,425 --> 00:23:57,309 You know, our whole journey to the waterfall was insane. 702 00:23:57,428 --> 00:24:01,455 So hopefully it's going to be a nice, easy trip. 703 00:24:01,457 --> 00:24:03,524 These roses look as healthy as I feel. 704 00:24:06,103 --> 00:24:08,446 - So the big one month. 705 00:24:08,564 --> 00:24:09,655 - One month. - Watch out. 706 00:24:09,773 --> 00:24:11,582 - What a landmark. 707 00:24:11,584 --> 00:24:14,251 - Don't you feel like it's been really fast, 708 00:24:14,253 --> 00:24:16,102 But also, like, slow-mo? 709 00:24:16,164 --> 00:24:17,571 - Yeah. 710 00:24:17,689 --> 00:24:19,865 - Our one month of marriage already feels 711 00:24:19,983 --> 00:24:23,093 Like three months of marriage because you dive in so quickly 712 00:24:23,095 --> 00:24:26,839 Into things that you typically wouldn't cover 713 00:24:26,957 --> 00:24:29,282 If you were in a normal dating scenario. 714 00:24:29,343 --> 00:24:30,985 Ready, freddie? 715 00:24:30,987 --> 00:24:32,820 - I think so. 716 00:24:32,822 --> 00:24:34,771 - I think that clint and I are definitely growing 717 00:24:34,773 --> 00:24:36,773 And just having a better understanding of one another 718 00:24:36,775 --> 00:24:39,776 And getting to the crust, like clint likes to say. 719 00:24:39,778 --> 00:24:41,094 [laughs] 720 00:24:41,213 --> 00:24:42,563 Ok, let's go! 721 00:24:44,783 --> 00:24:48,843 ♪ ♪ 722 00:24:48,905 --> 00:24:51,030 - ♪ I believe in love ♪ 723 00:24:51,148 --> 00:24:55,275 ♪ I'm walking kinda funky but I don't care ♪ 724 00:24:55,394 --> 00:24:56,443 - It would have been easy just to do 725 00:24:56,562 --> 00:24:57,978 Flowers or something simple, 726 00:24:58,039 --> 00:24:59,955 But with how things have been going, 727 00:25:00,115 --> 00:25:02,199 And how great she's been and how supportive she's been 728 00:25:02,317 --> 00:25:04,150 With everything, with the dogs and everything else, 729 00:25:04,212 --> 00:25:06,954 Like, I really wanted to show my appreciation in a big way. 730 00:25:07,114 --> 00:25:08,522 I have a huge surprise for nicole, 731 00:25:08,524 --> 00:25:09,790 And I can't wait to show her. 732 00:25:09,908 --> 00:25:11,283 - ♪ I believe in love ♪ 733 00:25:11,302 --> 00:25:13,385 [toy helicopter beeps] 734 00:25:13,387 --> 00:25:16,121 [richard wagner's "ride of the valkyries"] 735 00:25:16,140 --> 00:25:19,149 [dramatic orchestra music] 736 00:25:19,151 --> 00:25:21,668 ♪ ♪ 737 00:25:21,729 --> 00:25:23,203 Nicole. 738 00:25:23,231 --> 00:25:26,415 Hey. [chuckles] 739 00:25:26,442 --> 00:25:27,858 - Hello. - Oh. 740 00:25:27,977 --> 00:25:29,376 Hold on. 741 00:25:29,403 --> 00:25:30,494 Pretty sweet, huh? 742 00:25:30,496 --> 00:25:33,313 - Hello, mr. Drone copter. 743 00:25:33,432 --> 00:25:35,591 Is this how you're going to deliver me 744 00:25:35,618 --> 00:25:36,650 Coffee in the morning? Put it on a little-- 745 00:25:36,768 --> 00:25:38,927 - Oh, yeah. 746 00:25:38,955 --> 00:25:41,221 - "let's"--oh, "let's take our relationship 747 00:25:41,223 --> 00:25:42,990 To the next level." 748 00:25:43,108 --> 00:25:44,825 Ok. Playing with toys? 749 00:25:44,943 --> 00:25:46,159 I love that. 750 00:25:46,278 --> 00:25:48,845 - So we're taking a helicopter ride today. 751 00:25:48,847 --> 00:25:50,163 [chuckling] - oh, my god! 752 00:25:50,282 --> 00:25:51,582 Fun! - So-- 753 00:25:51,700 --> 00:25:53,417 - Chris is going above and beyond. 754 00:25:53,535 --> 00:25:55,928 He does that every day, but we're literally going 755 00:25:56,046 --> 00:25:57,930 Above and beyond our great city. 756 00:25:58,048 --> 00:25:59,339 I've never been on one. 757 00:25:59,458 --> 00:26:00,857 That's so fun. - I know. Neither have I. 758 00:26:00,859 --> 00:26:02,935 - I'm really looking forward to doing this with him. 759 00:26:03,053 --> 00:26:04,270 I can't imagine anyone else I'd want to be 760 00:26:04,388 --> 00:26:05,345 In a helicopter with. 761 00:26:05,464 --> 00:26:07,005 I cannot wait. 762 00:26:07,024 --> 00:26:09,667 - Happy one month. - Happy anniversary. 763 00:26:09,785 --> 00:26:11,118 One month down, plenty more to go. 764 00:26:11,120 --> 00:26:12,344 - There you go. 765 00:26:12,363 --> 00:26:13,862 Let's get ready. - All right. 766 00:26:13,864 --> 00:26:16,723 [upbeat music] 767 00:26:16,884 --> 00:26:19,960 ♪ ♪ 768 00:26:19,962 --> 00:26:22,011 - Oh. 769 00:26:22,013 --> 00:26:25,457 "happy one-month, shaq and kirsten." 770 00:26:25,576 --> 00:26:27,200 - Do you know how to skate? - I do. 771 00:26:27,319 --> 00:26:28,869 I love skating. 772 00:26:28,987 --> 00:26:31,647 I don't always get the chance to, but I love it. 773 00:26:31,674 --> 00:26:33,148 - This is the perfect 774 00:26:33,175 --> 00:26:35,208 One-month celebration for shaquille and I. 775 00:26:35,327 --> 00:26:38,637 I love to skate, and I am always telling shaquille, 776 00:26:38,756 --> 00:26:41,565 Like, "hey, my sisters and my brothers, 777 00:26:41,567 --> 00:26:43,642 We all used to go skating together." 778 00:26:43,761 --> 00:26:47,663 And I think it's so thoughtful for him to create this for us 779 00:26:47,690 --> 00:26:50,390 To watch each other have fun and laugh 780 00:26:50,550 --> 00:26:52,526 And dance on our skates. 781 00:26:52,645 --> 00:26:54,077 - Hoo, I can barely move. 782 00:26:54,079 --> 00:26:55,553 We should have-- maybe we should have 783 00:26:55,573 --> 00:26:57,323 Put these on before we put on all this. 784 00:26:57,441 --> 00:27:00,400 - [giggling] 785 00:27:00,519 --> 00:27:02,903 [quirky music] 786 00:27:03,021 --> 00:27:04,071 - I didn't think it was going to be 787 00:27:04,189 --> 00:27:05,438 This challenging getting ready. 788 00:27:05,440 --> 00:27:07,399 - Uh-huh! - Ok. 789 00:27:07,518 --> 00:27:11,295 - ♪ it's so good when we get it together ♪ 790 00:27:11,413 --> 00:27:15,098 ♪ I can tell by the look in your eye ♪ 791 00:27:15,100 --> 00:27:17,359 ♪ but you know that I'm gonna get ever ♪ 792 00:27:17,386 --> 00:27:19,586 - Let me get on your back. - Uh-uh. 793 00:27:19,705 --> 00:27:20,754 - I'm catching up to come get on your back. 794 00:27:20,872 --> 00:27:22,256 - All right. 795 00:27:22,258 --> 00:27:25,734 - ♪ you're so good for me ♪ 796 00:27:25,736 --> 00:27:28,646 - Kirsten is the way better skater than I am. 797 00:27:28,764 --> 00:27:31,515 I'm not ashamed to say it. 798 00:27:31,517 --> 00:27:33,208 She's skating backwards. She's doing tricks. 799 00:27:33,235 --> 00:27:34,726 She's dancing. 800 00:27:34,845 --> 00:27:36,336 And I'm like, wow, like, I love it. 801 00:27:36,364 --> 00:27:39,106 [both laughing] 802 00:27:39,108 --> 00:27:40,991 We're in the moment and having fun 803 00:27:41,110 --> 00:27:43,844 And just enjoying some quality time together. 804 00:27:43,871 --> 00:27:46,463 [sighs] 805 00:27:46,465 --> 00:27:48,515 - You know I love our time together, 806 00:27:48,517 --> 00:27:52,378 And I think this is a great way to celebrate our marriage, 807 00:27:52,496 --> 00:27:56,139 By doing something fun, and I really am enjoying 808 00:27:56,141 --> 00:27:57,466 Myself and enjoying you. 809 00:27:57,626 --> 00:27:59,126 [soft music] 810 00:27:59,244 --> 00:28:00,727 - Yeah, it's been great. 811 00:28:00,729 --> 00:28:04,056 These last few weeks has been just a lot, from... 812 00:28:04,174 --> 00:28:06,800 Marriage and school and work. 813 00:28:06,918 --> 00:28:09,319 I really still can't believe it's been a month. 814 00:28:09,321 --> 00:28:10,821 Like, it just seemed like yesterday 815 00:28:10,823 --> 00:28:12,656 We was preparing for the wedding. 816 00:28:12,658 --> 00:28:14,233 What? - It feels like a month to me. 817 00:28:14,351 --> 00:28:16,159 - It does? - Yeah. 818 00:28:16,161 --> 00:28:20,072 I really feel like we have a bright future ahead of us. 819 00:28:20,190 --> 00:28:22,165 - What do you look forward to the most, though? 820 00:28:22,167 --> 00:28:24,651 - Spending--spending time in my life with you, 821 00:28:24,770 --> 00:28:26,319 Like, making memories. 822 00:28:26,438 --> 00:28:29,297 I can't wait for us to start traveling together. 823 00:28:29,299 --> 00:28:31,825 - For me, what I'm looking forward to most 824 00:28:31,943 --> 00:28:33,919 Is spending quality time with your friends, 825 00:28:34,037 --> 00:28:36,588 Spending quality time with your family. 826 00:28:36,707 --> 00:28:40,700 Like, family is a very, very important aspect of my life. 827 00:28:40,720 --> 00:28:42,836 And it's always about me learning 828 00:28:42,954 --> 00:28:45,597 Who you are around different people as well. 829 00:28:45,716 --> 00:28:48,358 Like, there's so many more factors to kirsten 830 00:28:48,360 --> 00:28:50,043 That I don't know about. 831 00:28:50,104 --> 00:28:52,679 It's kirsten the best friend, kirsten the sister, 832 00:28:52,798 --> 00:28:54,865 Kirsten the daughter. 833 00:28:54,867 --> 00:28:59,870 I'm in tune to learning kirsten all across the board. 834 00:28:59,872 --> 00:29:02,314 - I mean, in order to get to know me like that, 835 00:29:02,432 --> 00:29:07,043 Like, you just really have to be around me. 836 00:29:07,045 --> 00:29:09,379 - You don't think I'd be around you, though? 837 00:29:09,381 --> 00:29:12,140 - I mean, sometimes. 838 00:29:12,168 --> 00:29:13,717 [tense music] 839 00:29:13,719 --> 00:29:16,720 Sometimes you are around. But also, when you're around, 840 00:29:16,722 --> 00:29:18,722 We both still have to be intentional 841 00:29:18,724 --> 00:29:20,649 When we're around each other and have 842 00:29:20,676 --> 00:29:22,134 Intentional conversations. 843 00:29:22,252 --> 00:29:24,636 Like--and that's how I let my guard down, 844 00:29:24,755 --> 00:29:27,130 Because I'm like, "oh, I can trust shaquille. 845 00:29:27,249 --> 00:29:29,040 Like, he's focused on me right now." 846 00:29:29,059 --> 00:29:31,159 Like, it gives me that comfortability 847 00:29:31,187 --> 00:29:32,903 To, like, open up to you. 848 00:29:32,905 --> 00:29:35,314 ♪ ♪ 849 00:29:35,432 --> 00:29:37,057 - I definitely feel like me and kirsten are still 850 00:29:37,175 --> 00:29:38,758 Not on the same page when it comes back 851 00:29:38,819 --> 00:29:42,321 To us spending quality time and everything, 852 00:29:42,439 --> 00:29:45,232 Because I've been around her. 853 00:29:45,350 --> 00:29:47,493 I've been a--we've-- we've been places. 854 00:29:47,611 --> 00:29:49,419 We've been in a moment. 855 00:29:49,421 --> 00:29:52,072 And it's always just give it a little bit more time. 856 00:29:52,190 --> 00:29:53,665 So I'm like, well, what do I have to do 857 00:29:53,784 --> 00:29:55,909 Differently when I'm around her 858 00:29:56,027 --> 00:29:58,186 To get that side of her? 859 00:29:58,214 --> 00:30:00,247 Well, how much time for you to let down that guard 860 00:30:00,365 --> 00:30:03,008 To allow that to happen? 861 00:30:03,126 --> 00:30:05,585 - I'm letting it down day by day. 862 00:30:05,704 --> 00:30:07,587 - Are you? - Mm-hmm. 863 00:30:07,706 --> 00:30:08,588 Yeah. 864 00:30:08,707 --> 00:30:09,789 - I don't-- 865 00:30:09,850 --> 00:30:11,791 I don't see it. 866 00:30:11,852 --> 00:30:13,869 Like, I don't be seeing that you let your guard down. 867 00:30:13,896 --> 00:30:15,187 We talk about it. 868 00:30:15,305 --> 00:30:16,947 Like, today is all about, like, moving forward, 869 00:30:16,949 --> 00:30:18,431 So I don't want to harp on it. 870 00:30:18,550 --> 00:30:20,025 But we always talk about, you know, 871 00:30:20,143 --> 00:30:21,710 Getting to that next stage, and then we always 872 00:30:21,737 --> 00:30:23,286 End up in the same place. 873 00:30:23,288 --> 00:30:25,447 - Well, starting today, since we're talking 874 00:30:25,607 --> 00:30:28,959 About moving forward, we're going to do just that. 875 00:30:28,961 --> 00:30:32,779 And we can only start here and figure it out from here. 876 00:30:32,898 --> 00:30:36,633 - But with time, it's like, yeah, time is of the essence, 877 00:30:36,635 --> 00:30:37,801 But time is ticking as well. 878 00:30:37,803 --> 00:30:39,211 - We have a lifetime. 879 00:30:39,329 --> 00:30:43,139 ♪ ♪ 880 00:30:43,141 --> 00:30:44,691 - We have a lifetime, but we also have 881 00:30:44,718 --> 00:30:46,793 A decision date 882 00:30:46,912 --> 00:30:48,236 That we both have to work towards 883 00:30:48,264 --> 00:30:49,555 To get to there, and we-- 884 00:30:49,673 --> 00:30:51,406 - To get to the lifetime? 885 00:30:51,433 --> 00:30:52,799 - To get to the lifetime, you know, decision day come, 886 00:30:52,918 --> 00:30:55,001 Then the lifetime comes. 887 00:30:55,062 --> 00:30:58,063 - It is very hard for me to determine, like, 888 00:30:58,181 --> 00:31:00,657 Is shaquille more focused on decision day, 889 00:31:00,659 --> 00:31:02,568 Or is he focused on our marriage as a lifetime? 890 00:31:02,686 --> 00:31:04,978 I'm struggling sometimes and becoming 891 00:31:05,096 --> 00:31:08,423 Very hesitant of having him around my friends and family. 892 00:31:08,450 --> 00:31:10,667 Like, I don't want my friends and family to be attached 893 00:31:10,669 --> 00:31:13,353 To shaquille, and then he's like, "oh, well, 894 00:31:13,372 --> 00:31:14,988 I'm one foot in, one foot out." 895 00:31:15,106 --> 00:31:17,841 Like, I don't know how this is going to work out. 896 00:31:17,843 --> 00:31:20,026 And I'm going to feel comfortable having you 897 00:31:20,087 --> 00:31:21,770 Around my family and friends all the time 898 00:31:21,797 --> 00:31:23,422 When I know that you're committed to me 899 00:31:23,540 --> 00:31:25,257 Regardless of a decision day. 900 00:31:25,375 --> 00:31:30,971 ♪ ♪ 901 00:31:34,809 --> 00:31:35,309 [upbeat music] 902 00:31:35,427 --> 00:31:36,910 - All right. We're ready? 903 00:31:36,912 --> 00:31:38,270 Ready for the trip? 904 00:31:38,388 --> 00:31:39,955 - I'm ready. - All right. 905 00:31:39,982 --> 00:31:41,031 Let's do this. 906 00:31:41,033 --> 00:31:47,905 ♪ ♪ 907 00:31:54,404 --> 00:31:56,713 All right. 908 00:31:56,715 --> 00:31:58,048 Let's go do some hiking. 909 00:31:58,050 --> 00:32:01,567 ♪ ♪ 910 00:32:01,629 --> 00:32:06,139 - I'd say this is less hiccups than what jamaica was. 911 00:32:06,141 --> 00:32:08,942 The last time that I went on this type of hike 912 00:32:08,944 --> 00:32:11,394 Was in jamaica, so I'm excited. 913 00:32:11,396 --> 00:32:13,730 I don't get out of nashville very often. 914 00:32:13,732 --> 00:32:16,941 So that's something I've always wanted to do, just experience 915 00:32:16,943 --> 00:32:19,719 All the waterfalls and different beautiful hikes 916 00:32:19,838 --> 00:32:21,404 Around nashville. 917 00:32:21,406 --> 00:32:22,322 And I'm feeling great about being 918 00:32:22,324 --> 00:32:24,298 Able to do this with clint. 919 00:32:24,360 --> 00:32:26,559 We've made it. 920 00:32:26,678 --> 00:32:27,727 - Here we are. 921 00:32:27,846 --> 00:32:29,396 - Hank, where you at, bud? 922 00:32:29,514 --> 00:32:31,339 - Beautiful waterfall. 923 00:32:31,367 --> 00:32:32,950 - It's so pretty. 924 00:32:33,068 --> 00:32:34,417 - ♪ we're just having fun ♪ 925 00:32:34,419 --> 00:32:35,735 ♪ we're still having fun ♪ 926 00:32:35,854 --> 00:32:37,888 ♪ and we say hey, hey, hey ♪ 927 00:32:37,890 --> 00:32:39,990 ♪ ♪ 928 00:32:40,108 --> 00:32:41,574 - Hank is losing it. [dog barking] 929 00:32:41,735 --> 00:32:44,610 He split, swam to the other side. 930 00:32:44,672 --> 00:32:47,005 This is what I'm really looking for in a marriage. 931 00:32:47,124 --> 00:32:51,584 You know, I was looking for someone who is loyal, 932 00:32:51,703 --> 00:32:55,363 Compassionate, who has a very strong sense of humor, 933 00:32:55,391 --> 00:32:56,682 And adventurous. 934 00:32:56,800 --> 00:32:58,425 And I got that with clint. 935 00:32:58,543 --> 00:33:00,944 So I'm definitely feeling hopeful, 936 00:33:00,946 --> 00:33:04,372 And I can definitely see a future with clint. 937 00:33:04,400 --> 00:33:07,617 [laughs] no! 938 00:33:07,619 --> 00:33:12,063 - ♪ all I need is your love ♪ 939 00:33:12,182 --> 00:33:16,176 - We're here at some phenomenal, beautiful location 940 00:33:16,178 --> 00:33:18,678 For our one-month anniversary. 941 00:33:18,839 --> 00:33:23,208 I'm hoping that tonight we have a conversation and agree on, 942 00:33:23,326 --> 00:33:25,352 You know, where we're going moving forward, 943 00:33:25,354 --> 00:33:26,970 Because I think it's much needed. 944 00:33:26,972 --> 00:33:29,047 So fingers crossed about tonight 945 00:33:29,166 --> 00:33:30,623 And our one-month anniversary dinner 946 00:33:30,742 --> 00:33:32,125 And us being able to move forward 947 00:33:32,243 --> 00:33:34,236 In a positive direction. 948 00:33:34,263 --> 00:33:37,355 Look at this. 949 00:33:37,357 --> 00:33:39,032 - And so we got this. 950 00:33:39,059 --> 00:33:40,441 - Oh! 951 00:33:40,443 --> 00:33:43,078 Ok, photographer. 952 00:33:43,105 --> 00:33:45,530 [soft music] 953 00:33:45,532 --> 00:33:47,157 Mm. 954 00:33:47,159 --> 00:33:48,674 My mommy. 955 00:33:48,736 --> 00:33:50,068 I love this picture of me and my daddy. 956 00:33:50,187 --> 00:33:52,237 - Look like he was about to pass out. 957 00:33:52,355 --> 00:33:54,164 - [laughs] 958 00:33:54,166 --> 00:33:57,067 I think walking down the aisle is when it hit me. 959 00:33:57,185 --> 00:34:00,495 Like, girl, you getting married at first sight. 960 00:34:00,655 --> 00:34:02,222 - Right. 961 00:34:02,224 --> 00:34:04,599 - This is right after we went and sat down 962 00:34:04,626 --> 00:34:06,150 And just started immediately asking 963 00:34:06,270 --> 00:34:07,719 Each other all the questions. 964 00:34:07,721 --> 00:34:09,212 - The very first conversation. 965 00:34:09,331 --> 00:34:10,680 - Mm-hmm. 966 00:34:10,682 --> 00:34:12,182 - Very first cheers. 967 00:34:12,184 --> 00:34:13,533 You look happy. 968 00:34:13,594 --> 00:34:16,352 - Yeah. 969 00:34:16,471 --> 00:34:17,804 I was really happy that day. 970 00:34:17,923 --> 00:34:20,690 [tense music] 971 00:34:20,692 --> 00:34:23,193 As I'm looking through the photos and, like, seeing, 972 00:34:23,195 --> 00:34:26,012 Like, how happy I was, and I don't feel like, 973 00:34:26,131 --> 00:34:27,789 You know, I'm still in that space, 974 00:34:27,816 --> 00:34:30,883 Just because of everything that's kind of transpired. 975 00:34:30,944 --> 00:34:33,111 Am I still open-minded? Yes. 976 00:34:33,230 --> 00:34:36,889 Am I still, you know, putting in, like, 3,000%? 977 00:34:36,950 --> 00:34:37,949 Yes. 978 00:34:38,068 --> 00:34:39,692 But I feel like the-- 979 00:34:39,811 --> 00:34:41,970 The jasmine right now in this one-month 980 00:34:41,997 --> 00:34:44,047 Is just a lot more guarded than I was, 981 00:34:44,049 --> 00:34:45,231 You know, on wedding day. 982 00:34:45,292 --> 00:34:47,217 - And our wedding vows. 983 00:34:47,219 --> 00:34:48,460 - Oh, goodness. 984 00:34:48,578 --> 00:34:51,463 [laughs] the vows. 985 00:34:51,581 --> 00:34:53,023 Mine were definitely... 986 00:34:53,025 --> 00:34:55,926 - Yours was long. - [laughing] like, longer. 987 00:34:56,044 --> 00:34:58,711 [laughs] 988 00:34:58,830 --> 00:35:01,840 - "love is giving someone the power to destroy you 989 00:35:01,958 --> 00:35:03,374 "but trusting that they won't. 990 00:35:03,393 --> 00:35:05,376 I vow to trust you." 991 00:35:05,395 --> 00:35:07,737 Love is seeing something in someone 992 00:35:07,739 --> 00:35:09,906 That they don't see in themselves. 993 00:35:09,908 --> 00:35:12,317 I vow to see you. 994 00:35:12,435 --> 00:35:15,854 "love is about a continuous effort 995 00:35:15,972 --> 00:35:19,098 "and constantly wanting to put forth the effort for love. 996 00:35:19,118 --> 00:35:22,268 I vow to put forth that effort each and every day." 997 00:35:22,387 --> 00:35:25,831 - So have you put forth effort each and every day? 998 00:35:25,949 --> 00:35:30,076 - No, I haven't put forth effort each and every day. 999 00:35:30,195 --> 00:35:32,245 - And why do you feel like you haven't? 1000 00:35:32,363 --> 00:35:35,173 [soft music] 1001 00:35:35,292 --> 00:35:37,600 ♪ ♪ 1002 00:35:37,602 --> 00:35:40,679 - I haven't, I guess, because, 1003 00:35:40,797 --> 00:35:43,122 Like, marriage is challenging. 1004 00:35:43,183 --> 00:35:44,516 Like, I was still in shock. 1005 00:35:44,634 --> 00:35:48,111 Like, I feel like I'm kind of finally 1006 00:35:48,113 --> 00:35:50,188 Getting around to the fact that, like, oh, wow, 1007 00:35:50,307 --> 00:35:51,873 Like, I'm married, you know? 1008 00:35:51,900 --> 00:35:53,859 But, like, it just happened, like, so fast, 1009 00:35:53,977 --> 00:35:55,268 And things is kind of like a blur. 1010 00:35:55,386 --> 00:35:57,529 Like, you get married, and then, boom, 1011 00:35:57,647 --> 00:35:59,664 You're on a honeymoon, and boom, you're moving in. 1012 00:35:59,666 --> 00:36:01,575 It's like, you know, you don't really have time to, like, 1013 00:36:01,693 --> 00:36:04,127 Sit and, like, process it all. 1014 00:36:04,129 --> 00:36:06,346 ♪ ♪ 1015 00:36:06,464 --> 00:36:10,074 - I'm hoping that that changes moving forward for us. 1016 00:36:10,193 --> 00:36:14,954 - I know the process that I signed up for is very unique. 1017 00:36:15,073 --> 00:36:18,308 But, you know, so far the majority of this marriage, 1018 00:36:18,310 --> 00:36:21,144 It hasn't, like, gone as I've expected. 1019 00:36:21,262 --> 00:36:25,798 But I would like to find a middle ground with jasmine. 1020 00:36:25,959 --> 00:36:28,801 For me, you know, to make this marriage improve, you know, 1021 00:36:28,920 --> 00:36:33,139 I just need a better, you know, connection to find, 1022 00:36:33,258 --> 00:36:35,734 You know, what we share, what our commonalities are, 1023 00:36:35,852 --> 00:36:37,660 Things that we both believe. 1024 00:36:37,662 --> 00:36:40,496 It's something I plan to work on and refocus 1025 00:36:40,498 --> 00:36:43,849 And recharge, like, spring forward 1026 00:36:43,911 --> 00:36:46,336 Going into the next month. 1027 00:36:46,338 --> 00:36:48,504 And for whatever reason, you know, we talk more and have 1028 00:36:48,506 --> 00:36:50,081 Better conversations when we're, like, out, 1029 00:36:50,200 --> 00:36:51,491 Like, going on dates. 1030 00:36:51,609 --> 00:36:54,177 So, you know, I just want to continue to do that, 1031 00:36:54,179 --> 00:36:56,179 And hopefully, you know, throughout those dates, 1032 00:36:56,181 --> 00:36:58,148 We'll start to find those commonalities 1033 00:36:58,150 --> 00:36:59,216 And shared interests, you know, 1034 00:36:59,334 --> 00:37:01,142 And the attraction will start to grow. 1035 00:37:01,144 --> 00:37:04,520 The second month anniversary is better than the first. 1036 00:37:04,522 --> 00:37:05,538 - [laughs] ok. 1037 00:37:05,599 --> 00:37:07,357 Cheers to that, for sure. 1038 00:37:07,359 --> 00:37:12,303 ♪ ♪ 1039 00:37:12,422 --> 00:37:13,730 [pop music] 1040 00:37:13,848 --> 00:37:15,774 - ♪ there ain't nothing to it ♪ 1041 00:37:15,892 --> 00:37:20,036 ♪ celebrating life but now it's yours ♪ 1042 00:37:20,038 --> 00:37:21,780 - [with english accent] and off we go. 1043 00:37:21,898 --> 00:37:24,281 - Off we go on our heli tour. 1044 00:37:24,401 --> 00:37:25,984 - Heli tour. 1045 00:37:26,102 --> 00:37:28,211 We're doing a heli tour. 1046 00:37:28,213 --> 00:37:30,196 - This is such a fun and unique idea. 1047 00:37:30,315 --> 00:37:31,397 - When I'm in a relationship with somebody, 1048 00:37:31,458 --> 00:37:33,049 I definitely like to spoil them, 1049 00:37:33,051 --> 00:37:34,292 Especially when they make me feel special. 1050 00:37:34,411 --> 00:37:36,962 So, like, I definitely like to show her 1051 00:37:37,080 --> 00:37:38,738 That she means a lot to me. 1052 00:37:38,799 --> 00:37:40,982 And she's never done a helicopter ride before, 1053 00:37:41,009 --> 00:37:42,375 And neither have I, so it's going to be 1054 00:37:42,493 --> 00:37:43,726 A really cool experience, and I can't wait 1055 00:37:43,728 --> 00:37:44,727 To share it with her. 1056 00:37:44,729 --> 00:37:46,078 - Has it hit you at all? 1057 00:37:46,139 --> 00:37:48,372 We're just celebrating one month of marriage. 1058 00:37:48,392 --> 00:37:49,774 - Yeah. No, it's crazy. 1059 00:37:49,776 --> 00:37:51,159 And, I mean, I wanted to do something-- 1060 00:37:51,186 --> 00:37:53,270 I'm more--I'm not a materialistic person, 1061 00:37:53,388 --> 00:37:55,071 So I'm more about memories and adventures... 1062 00:37:55,073 --> 00:37:56,255 - Yeah. 1063 00:37:56,316 --> 00:37:57,482 - Rather than, like, buying, like, 1064 00:37:57,600 --> 00:37:58,891 Flowers or a purse or... 1065 00:37:59,010 --> 00:38:01,202 - Right. - Something materialistic. 1066 00:38:01,204 --> 00:38:03,655 - There's so many things that I love about my husband. 1067 00:38:03,773 --> 00:38:06,249 But my favorite thing is that he just always makes me 1068 00:38:06,251 --> 00:38:08,660 Feel so special, and I never have to question 1069 00:38:08,778 --> 00:38:11,087 If he likes me or if he wants to be with me, 1070 00:38:11,089 --> 00:38:13,681 Because he just always shows that he does. 1071 00:38:13,709 --> 00:38:15,333 - And we're here. 1072 00:38:15,452 --> 00:38:18,261 Here we go. Are you ready? - I'm ready. 1073 00:38:18,263 --> 00:38:20,997 Let's go on this heli ride. 1074 00:38:21,115 --> 00:38:25,543 - ♪ you're the only one for me ♪ 1075 00:38:25,661 --> 00:38:28,346 - So we're waiting to go on our helicopter tour. 1076 00:38:28,465 --> 00:38:30,073 We have some champagne. 1077 00:38:30,075 --> 00:38:31,774 - Bubbly. Some bubbly. 1078 00:38:31,776 --> 00:38:33,443 - Maybe I'm a little nervous now, 1079 00:38:33,445 --> 00:38:38,348 But I've got my husband to protect me. 1080 00:38:38,350 --> 00:38:42,860 - ♪ doo, doo, doo, doo, it's you and I ♪ 1081 00:38:42,862 --> 00:38:44,654 - We're taking off. 1082 00:38:44,773 --> 00:38:47,090 - ♪ my firefly ♪ 1083 00:38:47,092 --> 00:38:50,777 ♪ doo, doo, doo, doo, it's you and I ♪ 1084 00:38:50,895 --> 00:38:53,796 ♪ you light me up from inside ♪ 1085 00:38:53,798 --> 00:38:56,407 - There's so many things every day 1086 00:38:56,526 --> 00:38:58,667 I learn about my husband that I love. 1087 00:38:58,669 --> 00:39:02,297 And I feel like my feelings are just building so much. 1088 00:39:02,457 --> 00:39:04,974 And honestly, I can't imagine doing this 1089 00:39:04,976 --> 00:39:07,627 Or spending this life with anyone else at this point. 1090 00:39:07,745 --> 00:39:09,929 - ♪ doo, doo, doo, doo ♪ 1091 00:39:10,048 --> 00:39:11,647 ♪ it's you and I ♪ 1092 00:39:11,649 --> 00:39:14,500 ♪ you light me up from inside ♪ 1093 00:39:14,561 --> 00:39:15,769 ♪ my firefly ♪ 1094 00:39:19,516 --> 00:39:21,491 [pop music] 1095 00:39:21,493 --> 00:39:23,659 - ♪ I like you better this way ♪ 1096 00:39:23,661 --> 00:39:25,403 ♪ I like you better this way ♪ 1097 00:39:25,522 --> 00:39:27,513 ♪ I like you better ♪ 1098 00:39:27,574 --> 00:39:29,665 ♪ I like you better this way ♪ 1099 00:39:29,667 --> 00:39:32,034 - [laughs] what are you scared of? 1100 00:39:32,036 --> 00:39:33,595 Come here. 1101 00:39:33,622 --> 00:39:35,430 - ♪ I like you better ♪ 1102 00:39:35,457 --> 00:39:39,267 - Welcome to jamaica! 1103 00:39:39,427 --> 00:39:42,303 - Oh, ok. 1104 00:39:42,305 --> 00:39:44,864 Wow. I didn't bring my passport. 1105 00:39:44,883 --> 00:39:48,259 Tonight we are continuing doing a re-creation 1106 00:39:48,378 --> 00:39:53,064 Of our jamaican festivities for our one-month anniversary. 1107 00:39:53,066 --> 00:39:55,007 You know, I just want us to celebrate where we. 1108 00:39:55,126 --> 00:39:59,104 We are better people, and we're a better couple 1109 00:39:59,222 --> 00:40:01,289 Because of the way we've handled things. 1110 00:40:01,316 --> 00:40:03,032 Like, we're going to need to expedite 1111 00:40:03,034 --> 00:40:04,976 The pace a little bit, but I think that's just 1112 00:40:05,094 --> 00:40:07,145 Going to come naturally. 1113 00:40:07,263 --> 00:40:09,147 Waterfalls and oxtail. 1114 00:40:09,265 --> 00:40:10,240 Now we're living. 1115 00:40:10,358 --> 00:40:11,758 - You know. 1116 00:40:11,760 --> 00:40:12,867 - Now we're living the real life. 1117 00:40:13,027 --> 00:40:14,285 - [laughs] 1118 00:40:14,404 --> 00:40:16,228 - Mm-hmm. And a bone. 1119 00:40:16,289 --> 00:40:18,640 [music slows to a stop] - mm-mm. 1120 00:40:18,667 --> 00:40:20,032 - Was that a tailbone? 1121 00:40:20,151 --> 00:40:22,377 - Amazing. - Literal tailbone. 1122 00:40:22,537 --> 00:40:24,162 ♪ ♪ 1123 00:40:24,280 --> 00:40:27,148 Have you ever had camel? - No. 1124 00:40:27,175 --> 00:40:28,650 And sometimes when I eat with you, 1125 00:40:28,677 --> 00:40:29,968 I immediately want to stop eating. 1126 00:40:30,086 --> 00:40:33,062 - Yeah. - [laughs] 1127 00:40:33,064 --> 00:40:34,989 Hank will eat all the kinds of meats with you. 1128 00:40:35,016 --> 00:40:38,309 He don't even care. - Yeah. 1129 00:40:38,428 --> 00:40:40,528 - What if it was, like, the apocalypse, 1130 00:40:40,530 --> 00:40:42,029 Just you and hank. 1131 00:40:42,031 --> 00:40:43,148 Would you eat him? - Mm-hmm. 1132 00:40:43,266 --> 00:40:45,132 - You would? - No. 1133 00:40:45,193 --> 00:40:46,467 - I would--I would let him eat me. 1134 00:40:46,628 --> 00:40:48,486 Like--[laughs] - let him eat you? 1135 00:40:48,605 --> 00:40:49,904 Like, go ahead, just take-- - just take me out. 1136 00:40:50,064 --> 00:40:51,489 - Just take my leg. - Just take me out, buddy. 1137 00:40:51,608 --> 00:40:54,826 [laughs] - I want you to survive. 1138 00:40:54,944 --> 00:40:57,011 - What are you going to do, eat hank and then stay 1139 00:40:57,038 --> 00:40:58,421 Alone the rest of your life? 1140 00:40:58,423 --> 00:40:59,681 - Yeah, and just... - That sucks. 1141 00:40:59,708 --> 00:41:01,315 - Feel guilty because you ate hank. 1142 00:41:01,376 --> 00:41:02,850 - Your only friend in life. 1143 00:41:02,878 --> 00:41:04,494 - We're talking about eating hank right now. 1144 00:41:04,612 --> 00:41:06,078 What has happened? - On our one-month ann-- 1145 00:41:06,197 --> 00:41:07,446 I was, like, getting all the animals. 1146 00:41:07,507 --> 00:41:10,933 - Our conversations have deteriorated substantially. 1147 00:41:10,935 --> 00:41:12,101 Hank, sorry. 1148 00:41:12,103 --> 00:41:14,362 ♪ ♪ 1149 00:41:14,389 --> 00:41:17,891 - Well, what are you most excited about for month two? 1150 00:41:18,009 --> 00:41:19,609 The crust? - The crust. 1151 00:41:19,727 --> 00:41:22,586 We--yeah, we need to get more crusty. 1152 00:41:22,706 --> 00:41:24,964 - Ok. - I demand more crust. 1153 00:41:25,025 --> 00:41:27,350 Outside of work, like, who is gina? 1154 00:41:27,468 --> 00:41:29,660 Who do you want to be, like, ten years from now? 1155 00:41:29,662 --> 00:41:31,045 - [sighs] I don't know. 1156 00:41:31,072 --> 00:41:32,788 - It's a fun exercise to go through. 1157 00:41:32,790 --> 00:41:34,473 You've got to have, like, a goal, right? 1158 00:41:34,534 --> 00:41:35,641 - Yeah, I mean-- 1159 00:41:35,702 --> 00:41:36,884 - You have a goal in your business, 1160 00:41:36,912 --> 00:41:37,960 But you have to have a personal goal 1161 00:41:37,962 --> 00:41:40,112 For, like, what do you want for you? 1162 00:41:40,231 --> 00:41:42,782 - Like, the whole reason that I run my business at all 1163 00:41:42,784 --> 00:41:44,842 Is because I have a passion for mentoring people. 1164 00:41:44,844 --> 00:41:46,193 - You run a good shop. 1165 00:41:46,254 --> 00:41:47,895 - Oh, that's sweet. - You do. 1166 00:41:47,923 --> 00:41:50,806 So, you know, the way people look up to you, 1167 00:41:50,808 --> 00:41:53,234 That's--I admire that, and I see, like-- 1168 00:41:53,261 --> 00:41:55,512 I see a lot of those qualities, like, 1169 00:41:55,630 --> 00:41:57,938 The drive and the motivation that I have, 1170 00:41:57,940 --> 00:42:00,408 And it's nice to see somebody that reciprocates those values. 1171 00:42:00,435 --> 00:42:01,476 - Mm-hmm. 1172 00:42:01,636 --> 00:42:04,136 I love that you, like, overly commit 1173 00:42:04,255 --> 00:42:05,805 To whatever it is, 1174 00:42:05,923 --> 00:42:07,732 Without, like, caring what anyone thinks. 1175 00:42:07,850 --> 00:42:09,934 [laughs] it's funny. 1176 00:42:10,052 --> 00:42:11,919 It's-- [dog barking] 1177 00:42:11,947 --> 00:42:14,163 Hank loves it too. - Yeah. 1178 00:42:14,165 --> 00:42:15,498 - You just love to have a good time. 1179 00:42:15,500 --> 00:42:17,149 You don't take life too seriously. 1180 00:42:17,268 --> 00:42:18,760 I like that. That's growing on me. 1181 00:42:18,787 --> 00:42:22,163 ♪ ♪ 1182 00:42:22,323 --> 00:42:26,309 - To really look back, and to say, like, 1183 00:42:26,311 --> 00:42:28,661 We're in a good place right now, and we're able 1184 00:42:28,779 --> 00:42:31,256 To--to grow, that's a lot. 1185 00:42:31,374 --> 00:42:33,958 Like, I think we've made monumental leaps 1186 00:42:34,076 --> 00:42:36,352 From where we were even two weeks ago. 1187 00:42:36,354 --> 00:42:38,854 And we'll see. We're both committed people. 1188 00:42:38,856 --> 00:42:42,075 So we're going to continue and just work at it. 1189 00:42:42,077 --> 00:42:43,359 We're going to work at it. 1190 00:42:43,361 --> 00:42:45,695 You always take everything in stride, 1191 00:42:45,697 --> 00:42:48,531 And you're ready to just try something different. 1192 00:42:48,533 --> 00:42:50,199 And that's-- - yeah. Except for oxtail. 1193 00:42:50,201 --> 00:42:52,993 - Except for oxtail. - [laughs] I was kidding. 1194 00:42:52,995 --> 00:42:55,630 - ♪ you can start again ♪ 1195 00:42:55,657 --> 00:42:59,801 ♪ ♪ 1196 00:42:59,828 --> 00:43:01,778 - ♪ I'm yours tonight ♪ 1197 00:43:01,780 --> 00:43:04,539 ♪ you don't have to worry ♪ 1198 00:43:04,699 --> 00:43:08,843 ♪ our love burns brighter than the sun ♪ 1199 00:43:09,003 --> 00:43:10,302 - Always champagne. 1200 00:43:10,304 --> 00:43:12,263 - Oh, man. - [laughs] 1201 00:43:12,265 --> 00:43:14,098 - ♪ you don't have to worry ♪ 1202 00:43:14,100 --> 00:43:16,892 ♪ our love burns brighter than the sun ♪ 1203 00:43:16,894 --> 00:43:18,060 - Cheers. 1204 00:43:18,062 --> 00:43:20,488 - What are we cheersin' to? 1205 00:43:20,515 --> 00:43:21,806 - Um... 1206 00:43:21,924 --> 00:43:23,141 - [laughs] 1207 00:43:23,259 --> 00:43:24,817 - Two-month anniversary. 1208 00:43:24,819 --> 00:43:26,543 - Two-months? It's been one month, though. 1209 00:43:26,563 --> 00:43:27,829 [laughs] 1210 00:43:27,856 --> 00:43:31,316 ♪ ♪ 1211 00:43:31,434 --> 00:43:33,743 - Thank you. You're so kind. 1212 00:43:33,745 --> 00:43:34,894 - Thank you. 1213 00:43:35,012 --> 00:43:37,004 ♪ ♪ 1214 00:43:37,032 --> 00:43:38,764 So we've made it one month. 1215 00:43:38,825 --> 00:43:41,509 - Mm-hmm. - And that's a milestone. 1216 00:43:41,536 --> 00:43:44,178 - What are you looking forward to going forward? 1217 00:43:44,205 --> 00:43:46,656 ♪ ♪ 1218 00:43:46,774 --> 00:43:51,594 - Well, I'm hoping this is, like, a reset, a recharge. 1219 00:43:51,596 --> 00:43:55,264 I feel like we were stagnant, and then you got covid. 1220 00:43:55,266 --> 00:43:59,193 So I feel like moving forward, it's not stagnant anymore 1221 00:43:59,220 --> 00:44:03,756 And that we both make changes moving forward to be better. 1222 00:44:03,874 --> 00:44:06,400 ♪ ♪ 1223 00:44:06,402 --> 00:44:08,369 So where is your head at right now? 1224 00:44:08,396 --> 00:44:10,780 Like, what are you feeling? 1225 00:44:10,782 --> 00:44:14,299 - The first couple of weeks, I was kind of closer 1226 00:44:14,361 --> 00:44:17,119 Towards being checked out. 1227 00:44:17,121 --> 00:44:18,771 - Mm-hmm. 1228 00:44:18,889 --> 00:44:21,716 - And I'm trying to get to, like, at least, like-- 1229 00:44:21,743 --> 00:44:24,202 Like, a middle ground place. 1230 00:44:24,320 --> 00:44:26,779 - So you want to move into... 1231 00:44:26,897 --> 00:44:29,799 - Yeah, like-- - a better space. 1232 00:44:29,801 --> 00:44:31,893 Because we've been stagnant. - Yeah. 1233 00:44:31,920 --> 00:44:34,136 But I feel like I've struggled with, like, 1234 00:44:34,138 --> 00:44:35,396 Trying to navigate, 1235 00:44:35,423 --> 00:44:37,899 How can I not hurt your feelings, 1236 00:44:37,926 --> 00:44:41,811 But also, like, you know, like, being in my truth. 1237 00:44:41,813 --> 00:44:43,646 I'm like-- - what do you mean by that? 1238 00:44:43,648 --> 00:44:47,225 - I feel like it would be easier if we just, like... 1239 00:44:47,343 --> 00:44:51,821 [cicada droning] 1240 00:44:51,823 --> 00:44:53,338 Said there wasn't going to be, like... 1241 00:44:53,400 --> 00:44:56,401 [cicada droning] 1242 00:44:56,519 --> 00:44:59,587 Like, any sex until, like, after decision day. 1243 00:44:59,614 --> 00:45:03,149 [dramatic music] 1244 00:45:03,267 --> 00:45:04,608 It would be, like, a weight. 1245 00:45:04,727 --> 00:45:06,351 It wouldn't be like a, "oh, is today going to be-- 1246 00:45:06,371 --> 00:45:07,578 Is it going to happen this week?" 1247 00:45:07,697 --> 00:45:09,080 - Well, I don't feel like it's a weight. 1248 00:45:09,198 --> 00:45:11,098 Do you feel like it's a weight? - I don't know. I'm just-- 1249 00:45:11,126 --> 00:45:12,934 - I'm not expecting it. - I'm just saying. 1250 00:45:12,961 --> 00:45:15,511 ♪ ♪ 1251 00:45:15,513 --> 00:45:18,330 - I think we need to grow our intimacy. 1252 00:45:18,449 --> 00:45:20,775 And when I say intimacy, I don't just mean sex. 1253 00:45:20,802 --> 00:45:22,001 - I don't want to keep getting asked, like... 1254 00:45:22,119 --> 00:45:23,611 - Ok. So we're committed-- 1255 00:45:23,638 --> 00:45:24,870 - "have y'all had sex yet? When are you gonna have sex? 1256 00:45:24,931 --> 00:45:26,948 Why ain't you having sex?" whoo, whoo, whoo. 1257 00:45:26,975 --> 00:45:30,117 - So are we committed to having sex after decision day? 1258 00:45:30,145 --> 00:45:32,152 - Yeah. 1259 00:45:32,154 --> 00:45:34,564 - But growing intimacy in other ways before decision day? 1260 00:45:34,682 --> 00:45:37,032 - Yeah. - Ok. 1261 00:45:37,034 --> 00:45:39,034 - I just think right now, where I'm at, 1262 00:45:39,036 --> 00:45:41,295 Us having sex would just increase 1263 00:45:41,322 --> 00:45:43,631 Her, like, emotional attachment to me. 1264 00:45:43,658 --> 00:45:45,541 Like, in the past, have I had sex 1265 00:45:45,543 --> 00:45:47,543 And not even cared about how the other person's feeling? 1266 00:45:47,545 --> 00:45:50,045 Yes, but that was, like, an immature version of me. 1267 00:45:50,047 --> 00:45:51,380 I'm at this point, I've had enough 1268 00:45:51,382 --> 00:45:52,807 Meaningless sex in my life. 1269 00:45:52,834 --> 00:45:54,867 Like, I want it to mean something. 1270 00:45:54,985 --> 00:45:56,869 ♪ ♪ 1271 00:45:56,987 --> 00:46:01,223 So that's where I'm at. 1272 00:46:01,225 --> 00:46:04,576 - Well, I just hope that we can get 1273 00:46:04,637 --> 00:46:09,991 To more of a common ground 1274 00:46:10,018 --> 00:46:11,750 And get you more in than out. 1275 00:46:11,811 --> 00:46:13,160 - Right. 1276 00:46:13,188 --> 00:46:14,996 - I'm willing to put in the work 1277 00:46:15,023 --> 00:46:18,649 And do whatever is possible, you know, to make it work. 1278 00:46:18,768 --> 00:46:21,168 But I obviously can't do that by myself. 1279 00:46:21,196 --> 00:46:23,004 [soft pop music] 1280 00:46:23,031 --> 00:46:25,915 - ♪ I'm calling you home ♪ 1281 00:46:25,917 --> 00:46:28,493 ♪ I'm right here waiting for you ♪ 1282 00:46:33,892 --> 00:46:36,425 - ♪ driving the night away ♪ 1283 00:46:36,427 --> 00:46:39,020 ♪ look to the right of me, oh ♪ 1284 00:46:39,047 --> 00:46:42,006 - Kobe, are you excited to see when mommy and daddy first met? 1285 00:46:42,124 --> 00:46:44,233 - He looks so excited. 1286 00:46:44,235 --> 00:46:45,809 All right. Let me plug this in. 1287 00:46:45,811 --> 00:46:49,563 All right. And play. 1288 00:46:49,565 --> 00:46:52,107 - [gasps] oh! 1289 00:46:52,109 --> 00:46:55,019 ♪ ♪ 1290 00:46:55,137 --> 00:46:58,130 Oh, look how handsome you are! 1291 00:46:58,191 --> 00:46:59,932 Oh. 1292 00:47:00,050 --> 00:47:02,518 And I remember everyone standing. 1293 00:47:02,636 --> 00:47:04,862 ♪ ♪ 1294 00:47:04,981 --> 00:47:06,547 You're about to see me. 1295 00:47:06,574 --> 00:47:09,108 - There's your pop. - I'm going to cry. 1296 00:47:09,226 --> 00:47:12,169 - Aww. Here you are. 1297 00:47:12,171 --> 00:47:13,930 Look at that. See? 1298 00:47:13,932 --> 00:47:15,798 Big smile. 1299 00:47:15,800 --> 00:47:18,209 - We're both like, "yes, not a troll." 1300 00:47:18,327 --> 00:47:19,544 - [chuckles] 1301 00:47:19,662 --> 00:47:22,046 You look very beautiful. - Thank you. Thank you. 1302 00:47:22,164 --> 00:47:23,564 My makeup looks so bad. 1303 00:47:23,591 --> 00:47:25,157 [quirky music] 1304 00:47:25,218 --> 00:47:27,126 Well, it's nice to meet you. 1305 00:47:27,244 --> 00:47:30,120 All right. Let's do this! - Yeah. 1306 00:47:30,139 --> 00:47:32,481 We're dorks. [laughs] - my makeup was so bad. 1307 00:47:32,483 --> 00:47:34,225 - No, you're great. 1308 00:47:34,343 --> 00:47:36,410 - I wasn't really a fan of how I looked on my wedding day. 1309 00:47:36,437 --> 00:47:37,912 It's--on our wedding day. 1310 00:47:37,939 --> 00:47:40,565 It's not how I envisioned myself looking. 1311 00:47:40,683 --> 00:47:44,159 And seeing it on video just made me feel worse about it. 1312 00:47:44,161 --> 00:47:46,328 But I'm happy-- - you looked good. 1313 00:47:46,330 --> 00:47:48,497 - And my makeup was terrible. 1314 00:47:48,499 --> 00:47:49,740 My hair had fall-- it was just a whole thing. 1315 00:47:49,859 --> 00:47:51,409 - I thought you looked good. - Thank you. 1316 00:47:51,527 --> 00:47:54,053 - And now, by the authority vested in me... 1317 00:47:54,055 --> 00:47:55,079 - Best part. They're gonna kiss. 1318 00:47:55,197 --> 00:47:56,747 They're gonna kiss. 1319 00:47:56,866 --> 00:47:58,374 - [laughs] I think that's what happens, right? 1320 00:47:58,492 --> 00:47:59,325 - But most of all, by the power 1321 00:47:59,443 --> 00:48:00,843 Of your own love... 1322 00:48:00,845 --> 00:48:01,827 - They're gonna kiss. 1323 00:48:01,946 --> 00:48:03,362 - I pronounce... 1324 00:48:03,423 --> 00:48:04,422 - Think they're gonna kiss? 1325 00:48:04,540 --> 00:48:06,732 - That you are married. 1326 00:48:06,734 --> 00:48:08,517 Now you may call yourselves 1327 00:48:08,519 --> 00:48:10,410 Those cherished names, husband and wife. 1328 00:48:10,471 --> 00:48:12,930 Chris, you may now kiss your bride! 1329 00:48:13,049 --> 00:48:14,539 [all cheering] - I just went for it. 1330 00:48:14,601 --> 00:48:16,191 I just went for it. - Yes, he did it. 1331 00:48:16,193 --> 00:48:18,177 - I didn't care. I went for it. - That's how you do it. 1332 00:48:18,295 --> 00:48:20,938 [cheers and applause] 1333 00:48:21,057 --> 00:48:24,867 [pop music] 1334 00:48:24,869 --> 00:48:27,294 - ♪ and I wanna prove ♪ 1335 00:48:27,322 --> 00:48:28,553 - You didn't-- you didn't turn me down. 1336 00:48:28,615 --> 00:48:29,864 - No. 1337 00:48:30,024 --> 00:48:31,357 I never will. 1338 00:48:31,475 --> 00:48:33,467 [cheers and applause] 1339 00:48:33,494 --> 00:48:34,693 - Feels like so long ago. 1340 00:48:34,812 --> 00:48:35,786 Isn't that crazy? 1341 00:48:35,905 --> 00:48:37,288 - And it feels so ridiculous-- 1342 00:48:37,406 --> 00:48:38,789 - That was, like, a month. That's it. 1343 00:48:38,908 --> 00:48:40,457 It's amazing, like, to see where we've-- 1344 00:48:40,459 --> 00:48:43,351 How far we've come since then, to be honest. 1345 00:48:43,353 --> 00:48:44,629 - I'm so happy. 1346 00:48:44,747 --> 00:48:46,405 I would do that again every single day. 1347 00:48:46,466 --> 00:48:48,057 Maybe not that, because that was a really long day, 1348 00:48:48,059 --> 00:48:50,709 And my makeup looked like trash. 1349 00:48:50,828 --> 00:48:53,045 - Nicole's being a little too overly critical of herself. 1350 00:48:53,163 --> 00:48:55,047 Again, she looked very beautiful in that moment. 1351 00:48:55,165 --> 00:48:59,051 That was a moment that she was extremely happy, extremely-- 1352 00:48:59,169 --> 00:49:00,736 Just beaming herself. 1353 00:49:00,738 --> 00:49:02,571 And I don't know, it's just-- it's concerning 1354 00:49:02,573 --> 00:49:04,315 That she can end up bringing herself down. 1355 00:49:04,433 --> 00:49:07,559 It was--it was a really amazing moment, 1356 00:49:07,678 --> 00:49:09,987 And it's led us to here, and yeah. 1357 00:49:10,106 --> 00:49:12,931 I mean, you can pick apart everything that you want, 1358 00:49:12,992 --> 00:49:15,417 But don't be ashamed of it. 1359 00:49:15,419 --> 00:49:17,161 Like, she doesn't need to be so critical. 1360 00:49:17,279 --> 00:49:19,238 Like, it kind of is one of those things 1361 00:49:19,356 --> 00:49:22,925 Where the more it comes up, the more it starts to become 1362 00:49:22,927 --> 00:49:26,020 Kind of an issue and an annoyance, to be honest. 1363 00:49:26,047 --> 00:49:27,855 - You signed up for the good and the bad times, right? 1364 00:49:27,882 --> 00:49:29,614 - Oh, I know. 1365 00:49:29,676 --> 00:49:31,692 One month down, many to go. 1366 00:49:31,719 --> 00:49:33,419 [glasses clink] - many to go. 1367 00:49:33,537 --> 00:49:36,438 [tense music] 1368 00:49:36,440 --> 00:49:39,517 ♪ ♪ 1369 00:49:39,635 --> 00:49:44,696 - ♪ feels so darn good to be around you ♪ 1370 00:49:44,698 --> 00:49:46,916 - Well, shall we get ready? 1371 00:49:46,918 --> 00:49:48,300 - Yeah. 1372 00:49:48,361 --> 00:49:50,377 Let's--let's go dial it up to a 9. 1373 00:49:50,405 --> 00:49:51,937 - Spiff it up. 1374 00:49:52,056 --> 00:49:55,399 - Our couples have made it halfway to decision day. 1375 00:49:55,401 --> 00:49:58,435 But they're not all on the same marital path. 1376 00:49:58,454 --> 00:50:00,871 - I'm wonder who had the best one month. 1377 00:50:00,990 --> 00:50:03,315 I feel like we had a really good, fun one month. 1378 00:50:03,376 --> 00:50:05,501 - So it's important for them to meet with the other couples, 1379 00:50:05,619 --> 00:50:07,469 To not only discuss how far they've come, 1380 00:50:07,471 --> 00:50:10,806 But to offer support and advice to those who need it. 1381 00:50:10,808 --> 00:50:14,443 - You look so handsome! - Wow. You look so beautiful. 1382 00:50:14,445 --> 00:50:15,720 You look good. - So--thanks. 1383 00:50:15,838 --> 00:50:17,921 I know, we've been snazzing it up lately. 1384 00:50:18,040 --> 00:50:20,057 - No parties while we're gone. 1385 00:50:20,176 --> 00:50:21,592 Ok? - Let's do it. 1386 00:50:21,710 --> 00:50:23,035 - Bye, boys. - Bye, boys. 1387 00:50:23,062 --> 00:50:24,127 We'll see you later. - Be good. 1388 00:50:24,147 --> 00:50:26,046 Be good boys. - Be good boys. 1389 00:50:26,107 --> 00:50:27,672 - We'll be back. 1390 00:50:27,734 --> 00:50:29,466 - Let's make like a tree and leave. 1391 00:50:29,485 --> 00:50:30,609 - [laughs] 1392 00:50:33,731 --> 00:50:35,013 [upbeat music] 1393 00:50:35,033 --> 00:50:37,316 - ♪ turn the lights on me ♪ 1394 00:50:37,434 --> 00:50:42,096 ♪ can't you see I'm flawless and want to see ♪ 1395 00:50:42,123 --> 00:50:44,506 - Tonight, we are heading to dinner 1396 00:50:44,508 --> 00:50:46,675 With all the other couples to celebrate 1397 00:50:46,677 --> 00:50:48,360 Our one-month anniversary. 1398 00:50:48,421 --> 00:50:50,921 I'm super-excited to reconnect with the brides 1399 00:50:51,040 --> 00:50:54,500 And the grooms, too, and just see what's been going on 1400 00:50:54,618 --> 00:50:55,700 With them for the last month. 1401 00:50:55,762 --> 00:50:57,261 It's good to kind of pick their brain 1402 00:50:57,379 --> 00:50:59,930 And--and gain insight on what's working for them 1403 00:51:00,049 --> 00:51:01,932 And what's not working for them. 1404 00:51:02,051 --> 00:51:04,193 And it does make me, at least, feel a little bit more at ease 1405 00:51:04,195 --> 00:51:05,877 Knowing that they're-- they're going through 1406 00:51:05,938 --> 00:51:08,013 Similar struggles and hurdles as us. 1407 00:51:08,132 --> 00:51:09,515 - Oh, yeah! 1408 00:51:09,517 --> 00:51:10,649 - Oh, shoot! 1409 00:51:10,768 --> 00:51:12,117 - Party bus. 1410 00:51:12,119 --> 00:51:14,587 - Oh, no, no. - Oh. 1411 00:51:14,589 --> 00:51:15,946 - You got it. 1412 00:51:16,065 --> 00:51:17,689 - That's what you learned in boy scouts? 1413 00:51:17,808 --> 00:51:19,724 - Yeah, mormon boy scouts. All: Mormon boy scouts. 1414 00:51:19,786 --> 00:51:23,971 - Throw the tack. - Mormon boy scouts, 1993. 1415 00:51:23,998 --> 00:51:25,531 - That's it. That was the year. 1416 00:51:25,649 --> 00:51:27,699 - '93? - No. It wouldn't be. 1417 00:51:27,818 --> 00:51:29,643 - No, because you were born in, what, '77? 1418 00:51:29,670 --> 00:51:31,295 [music slows to a halt] - '81? 1419 00:51:31,413 --> 00:51:34,706 [laughter] 1420 00:51:34,825 --> 00:51:36,375 - I thought you were-- 1421 00:51:36,493 --> 00:51:38,210 - Am I, like, the first space program or something? 1422 00:51:38,328 --> 00:51:40,154 - That was, like, the nicest shade I've heard in a while. 1423 00:51:40,181 --> 00:51:41,639 - Damn! - I was just kidding! 1424 00:51:41,757 --> 00:51:43,899 - I didn't bring my burn cream with me. 1425 00:51:43,901 --> 00:51:45,518 [laughter] 1426 00:51:49,298 --> 00:51:50,106 [pop music] 1427 00:51:50,224 --> 00:51:54,926 ♪ ♪ 1428 00:51:54,928 --> 00:51:58,447 - ♪ ooh, la-la-la-la ♪ 1429 00:51:58,566 --> 00:52:00,649 ♪ this is how you make it hot ♪ 1430 00:52:00,767 --> 00:52:02,309 ♪ do you see me? ♪ 1431 00:52:02,370 --> 00:52:04,078 ♪ I'm the one who's making all those eyes ♪ 1432 00:52:04,238 --> 00:52:06,080 ♪ it's just a party and I know ♪ 1433 00:52:06,240 --> 00:52:07,681 ♪ I'm what you're looking for ♪ 1434 00:52:07,708 --> 00:52:09,332 ♪ so let me break it down ♪ 1435 00:52:09,334 --> 00:52:11,076 ♪ 'cause this is how I do it, boy ♪ 1436 00:52:11,195 --> 00:52:12,503 ♪ ♪ 1437 00:52:12,621 --> 00:52:13,912 - Damn. I don't know. 1438 00:52:14,031 --> 00:52:16,023 - Oh, and we have little name tag things. 1439 00:52:16,050 --> 00:52:17,266 - Thank you. 1440 00:52:17,268 --> 00:52:19,343 ♪ ♪ 1441 00:52:19,461 --> 00:52:21,253 - Well, congrats. I mean, we've made it a month. 1442 00:52:21,371 --> 00:52:22,771 - Crazy. 1443 00:52:22,773 --> 00:52:23,922 - A month ago, I didn't think we'd get here, 1444 00:52:24,041 --> 00:52:25,424 But here we are. 1445 00:52:25,542 --> 00:52:26,533 - Clink, clink, clink clink, clink, clink. 1446 00:52:26,561 --> 00:52:28,869 - Clink. Clinking. 1447 00:52:28,896 --> 00:52:30,929 - I would love to hear how everyone celebrated. 1448 00:52:31,089 --> 00:52:33,765 - What'd everybody do? - We went to rutledge falls. 1449 00:52:33,884 --> 00:52:37,060 - Yeah, so we decided to do a jamaican redemption... 1450 00:52:37,179 --> 00:52:38,604 - Oh, nice. - Party. 1451 00:52:38,764 --> 00:52:40,197 - And we saddled up hank. 1452 00:52:40,316 --> 00:52:41,623 We had the whole family. - Yeah, hank went. 1453 00:52:41,625 --> 00:52:43,717 - Aww, the family. - Oh, hank? 1454 00:52:43,744 --> 00:52:46,528 - Clint and hank are bonding. 1455 00:52:46,647 --> 00:52:48,706 They're in love. 1456 00:52:48,824 --> 00:52:50,507 - But are clint and gina bonding? 1457 00:52:50,509 --> 00:52:53,485 [lighthearted music] 1458 00:52:53,546 --> 00:52:54,728 - Yeah. - Yeah, we're bonding. 1459 00:52:54,755 --> 00:52:56,380 - Yeah. 1460 00:52:56,498 --> 00:52:59,099 We've--we've come a long way in a couple weeks. 1461 00:52:59,101 --> 00:53:02,185 And so we just--we keep propping each other up. 1462 00:53:02,187 --> 00:53:04,738 And it's nice to focus on the positives. 1463 00:53:04,898 --> 00:53:06,373 Yeah, we feel like we're in a great place. 1464 00:53:06,434 --> 00:53:08,150 - I didn't have high hopes for you guys after jamaica. 1465 00:53:08,152 --> 00:53:10,986 - Thanks. Yeah. Perfect. - I'm sorry. 1466 00:53:10,988 --> 00:53:13,730 But truthfully, you two have turned it around, 1467 00:53:13,732 --> 00:53:15,449 And it's really beautiful to see. 1468 00:53:15,451 --> 00:53:16,825 - I think y'all look great together, though. 1469 00:53:16,827 --> 00:53:17,809 - I agree. - Yeah, for real. 1470 00:53:17,928 --> 00:53:19,586 - Thanks. - Y'all do. Y'all do. 1471 00:53:19,614 --> 00:53:21,012 - With hank, too, I'm like, yeah, 1472 00:53:21,073 --> 00:53:22,239 Y'all look great together. 1473 00:53:22,358 --> 00:53:23,924 - And y'all have a good time together too. 1474 00:53:23,951 --> 00:53:25,167 - Yeah, we do. Yeah. 1475 00:53:25,169 --> 00:53:26,243 - So that's definitely something. 1476 00:53:26,362 --> 00:53:27,653 - Well, yeah, we're in a good place. 1477 00:53:27,771 --> 00:53:29,488 But time's ticking too. 1478 00:53:29,606 --> 00:53:33,100 But we're--yeah, we're at least on the right trajectory. 1479 00:53:33,260 --> 00:53:34,743 - Yeah. 1480 00:53:34,861 --> 00:53:37,087 ♪ ♪ 1481 00:53:37,206 --> 00:53:39,106 - So, jas and airris, what about you? 1482 00:53:39,133 --> 00:53:40,682 Have things developed? 1483 00:53:40,684 --> 00:53:42,760 I mean, you guys--you know, I'm a body-language reader, 1484 00:53:42,878 --> 00:53:44,611 And you're already giving me great vibes. 1485 00:53:44,639 --> 00:53:46,822 So I feel good about what you're about to say, 1486 00:53:46,824 --> 00:53:48,373 And please don't let me down. 1487 00:53:48,434 --> 00:53:51,185 [tense music] 1488 00:53:51,345 --> 00:53:53,195 ♪ ♪ 1489 00:53:53,197 --> 00:53:54,621 - I'm--I mean, I'm attracted to him. 1490 00:53:54,649 --> 00:53:55,956 So it's just like, 1491 00:53:55,983 --> 00:53:57,775 I'm just kind of letting him take the lead. 1492 00:53:57,893 --> 00:54:00,486 And if it grows for him, great, 1493 00:54:00,604 --> 00:54:03,113 And if it doesn't, I have to accept it, so... 1494 00:54:03,232 --> 00:54:05,132 - It does feel like you guys are doing more. 1495 00:54:05,159 --> 00:54:07,675 You're getting to know each other's personalities, and... 1496 00:54:07,677 --> 00:54:09,703 - Yeah. - Feelings are being shared. 1497 00:54:09,863 --> 00:54:11,713 So, I mean, it might not be physical growth. 1498 00:54:11,715 --> 00:54:13,865 But one day you might be like, "wow, 1499 00:54:13,984 --> 00:54:15,792 I'm in love with his or her personality," 1500 00:54:15,794 --> 00:54:18,103 And then the physical just naturally comes, so... 1501 00:54:18,130 --> 00:54:19,738 - Yeah. - I still have really 1502 00:54:19,799 --> 00:54:22,524 High hopes for you guys. - [laughs] 1503 00:54:22,526 --> 00:54:24,059 - Yeah. 1504 00:54:24,061 --> 00:54:26,128 - Airris needs to start treating his wife 1505 00:54:26,246 --> 00:54:28,046 Like a wife and not a friend. 1506 00:54:28,165 --> 00:54:29,990 - And with airris, I think he's just definitely 1507 00:54:30,017 --> 00:54:31,158 In his own head about it. 1508 00:54:31,185 --> 00:54:32,309 Like, jas is a beautiful woman. 1509 00:54:32,428 --> 00:54:34,328 But again, it's one of those things 1510 00:54:34,355 --> 00:54:37,556 Where he seems to kind of just not really feel that way. 1511 00:54:37,716 --> 00:54:39,208 And I don't know. 1512 00:54:39,210 --> 00:54:40,409 I mean, it's going to be tough for them 1513 00:54:40,411 --> 00:54:41,743 To kind of get over that hump. 1514 00:54:41,745 --> 00:54:42,894 - I mean, pastor cal was like, 1515 00:54:43,055 --> 00:54:43,988 "you got to be more intentional. 1516 00:54:44,106 --> 00:54:45,914 You have to initiate." 1517 00:54:45,916 --> 00:54:48,099 But it's just like, how do you really want to initiate 1518 00:54:48,260 --> 00:54:50,360 Something with someone after they tell you, you know, 1519 00:54:50,479 --> 00:54:52,537 Like, "it ain't really there for me"? 1520 00:54:52,539 --> 00:54:54,489 So we're going to try to be more intentional 1521 00:54:54,608 --> 00:54:56,125 And initiate, but-- 1522 00:54:56,243 --> 00:54:57,592 - I think just not rushing the process. 1523 00:54:57,594 --> 00:54:59,428 Like, I mean, I feel that for sure. 1524 00:54:59,430 --> 00:55:02,331 Like, I think all you can do is focus on where you're at 1525 00:55:02,449 --> 00:55:05,325 Day by day and continue to remind yourself that, like, 1526 00:55:05,386 --> 00:55:07,118 This still is one month in. 1527 00:55:07,138 --> 00:55:10,922 So it's a-- it's a conscious choice. 1528 00:55:11,041 --> 00:55:12,607 So... 1529 00:55:12,609 --> 00:55:14,034 - I have a question. 1530 00:55:14,061 --> 00:55:15,160 I mean, I can only ask you guys... 1531 00:55:15,187 --> 00:55:16,537 - Yeah. - That I know. 1532 00:55:16,564 --> 00:55:19,765 Is married sex different from, like, single sex? 1533 00:55:19,883 --> 00:55:21,950 - I feel like it-- - that's a good question. 1534 00:55:21,952 --> 00:55:24,953 - A little bit, because we know we have the rest 1535 00:55:24,955 --> 00:55:26,780 Of our lives to have sex, so we don't feel 1536 00:55:26,940 --> 00:55:29,624 The pressure to do it every time we're next to each other. 1537 00:55:29,626 --> 00:55:32,369 But at the same time, like, we just started. 1538 00:55:32,488 --> 00:55:35,130 So we want to do it as often as possible. 1539 00:55:35,132 --> 00:55:36,615 So it's a weird balance to find. 1540 00:55:36,733 --> 00:55:38,467 - Yeah, yeah. 1541 00:55:38,469 --> 00:55:40,969 - Yeah, so... - I mean--no? 1542 00:55:40,971 --> 00:55:41,953 Are you guys-- - uh. 1543 00:55:42,072 --> 00:55:42,913 - [gasp] - no. 1544 00:55:43,031 --> 00:55:44,715 [laughs] 1545 00:55:44,833 --> 00:55:46,975 - Has anything progressed in the intimacy department? 1546 00:55:46,977 --> 00:55:48,977 And I don't mean kissing on the mouth, 1547 00:55:48,979 --> 00:55:50,571 Because we should be all doing that. 1548 00:55:50,598 --> 00:55:53,057 Well, you guys should at least be doing that. 1549 00:55:53,175 --> 00:55:54,999 No pressure. 1550 00:55:55,061 --> 00:55:56,485 - I mean, I've seen how you rub his head. 1551 00:55:56,487 --> 00:55:57,819 Just saying. - Yeah. 1552 00:55:57,821 --> 00:55:59,304 - Is the head a turn-on for you now? 1553 00:55:59,423 --> 00:56:00,914 - It's there, for sure. 1554 00:56:00,941 --> 00:56:02,583 - It's there. - It is. It's there. 1555 00:56:02,610 --> 00:56:04,585 It's nice, and it's smooth. 1556 00:56:04,612 --> 00:56:07,011 - Are we hitting any new bases? 1557 00:56:07,073 --> 00:56:09,073 - Um, not really. 1558 00:56:09,191 --> 00:56:11,650 [dramatic music] 1559 00:56:11,768 --> 00:56:13,184 What do you think? 1560 00:56:13,245 --> 00:56:15,003 - You don't know? Are you awake? 1561 00:56:15,005 --> 00:56:17,981 - Like, we have a little bit of connection. 1562 00:56:18,000 --> 00:56:20,842 Like, the chemistry's there a little bit. 1563 00:56:20,844 --> 00:56:23,053 - I think it's--I think it's there, honestly, 1564 00:56:23,055 --> 00:56:24,254 And I think, you know, for me-- 1565 00:56:27,184 --> 00:56:31,427 - I've definitely been giving kirsten grace and patience. 1566 00:56:31,547 --> 00:56:32,963 But sometimes that just run thin. 1567 00:56:33,081 --> 00:56:35,933 And I don't know if I can move forward in my life knowing 1568 00:56:36,051 --> 00:56:39,678 That, you know, I put forth all of the effort, you know, 1569 00:56:39,796 --> 00:56:41,788 To break down my walls, to be vulnerable, 1570 00:56:41,816 --> 00:56:43,957 To work on things that I know I need 1571 00:56:43,984 --> 00:56:45,292 To work on in our marriage, 1572 00:56:45,319 --> 00:56:48,036 And the same energy is not given. 1573 00:56:48,038 --> 00:56:49,463 ♪ ♪ 1574 00:56:49,490 --> 00:56:51,039 - Seems like a sore subject. 1575 00:56:51,041 --> 00:56:56,370 ♪ ♪ 1576 00:57:00,126 --> 00:57:01,216 [tense music] 1577 00:57:01,334 --> 00:57:02,709 ♪ ♪ 1578 00:57:02,870 --> 00:57:05,554 - Like, we have a little bit of connection. 1579 00:57:05,556 --> 00:57:07,631 Like, the chemistry is there a little bit. 1580 00:57:07,749 --> 00:57:10,008 - I think it's-- I think it's there, honestly. 1581 00:57:10,127 --> 00:57:11,710 And I think, you know, for me-- 1582 00:57:11,828 --> 00:57:13,895 - Shaq's like, I'm ready to make out. 1583 00:57:13,897 --> 00:57:17,157 - It seems like a sore subject. 1584 00:57:17,184 --> 00:57:19,209 - Well, I find, like, over-communication 1585 00:57:19,228 --> 00:57:21,211 Is always better than under-communication. 1586 00:57:21,230 --> 00:57:23,305 You've got to be ready to be vulnerable, 1587 00:57:23,423 --> 00:57:24,823 Because this is a crazy situation. 1588 00:57:24,825 --> 00:57:26,382 It's not normal. 1589 00:57:26,402 --> 00:57:28,577 - And that comes to-- all of that comes with, 1590 00:57:28,579 --> 00:57:31,095 Like, learning each other, and having that time. 1591 00:57:31,157 --> 00:57:32,898 - Well, we're just growing. And, you know-- 1592 00:57:33,016 --> 00:57:34,566 - It's taking some time. 1593 00:57:34,684 --> 00:57:36,209 - It's been a month, guys. It's-- 1594 00:57:36,211 --> 00:57:38,378 - Yeah, that's--I think that's when you just have to, like... 1595 00:57:38,380 --> 00:57:40,271 [clicks tongue] take a step back, 1596 00:57:40,332 --> 00:57:41,832 And just constantly remind yourself, 1597 00:57:41,950 --> 00:57:44,593 Like, how crazy this is. 1598 00:57:44,595 --> 00:57:46,261 Because it's crazy. - Yeah, it is. 1599 00:57:46,263 --> 00:57:48,079 - Well, and I think the common denominator with all of us 1600 00:57:48,198 --> 00:57:49,581 Is, like, grace. 1601 00:57:49,699 --> 00:57:52,309 Like, all of us have different areas 1602 00:57:52,311 --> 00:57:54,386 That we can consistently be extending grace 1603 00:57:54,505 --> 00:57:56,029 And growing through, so... 1604 00:57:56,056 --> 00:57:57,923 - Here's to grace and growth, right here. 1605 00:57:58,041 --> 00:58:00,442 - Yeah, grace and growth. - Grace and growth. G and g. 1606 00:58:00,444 --> 00:58:02,394 Both: Clink, clink, clink clink, clink, clink. 1607 00:58:06,383 --> 00:58:08,850 - ♪ mountains are for burning ♪ 1608 00:58:08,969 --> 00:58:11,302 ♪ heavens are for flying ♪ 1609 00:58:11,363 --> 00:58:14,305 ♪ with your hand in mine, we can do anything ♪ 1610 00:58:14,466 --> 00:58:15,882 ♪ we can do anything ♪ 1611 00:58:15,910 --> 00:58:19,344 - Oh, goodness. What a night. 1612 00:58:19,346 --> 00:58:20,370 What a night. 1613 00:58:20,489 --> 00:58:22,964 ♪ ♪ 1614 00:58:22,966 --> 00:58:25,617 [laughing] 1615 00:58:25,735 --> 00:58:27,418 Oh, goodness. 1616 00:58:27,420 --> 00:58:29,463 I'm glad we can laugh now. 1617 00:58:29,623 --> 00:58:32,474 I was a little stressed out at the table. 1618 00:58:32,476 --> 00:58:34,885 - It just--for me, I guess, every time 1619 00:58:35,003 --> 00:58:36,978 When we get together, it's like something-- 1620 00:58:36,980 --> 00:58:38,313 I always hit another level. Like-- 1621 00:58:38,315 --> 00:58:39,455 - Mm-hmm. 1622 00:58:39,475 --> 00:58:40,799 - Ok, we talk about these things. 1623 00:58:40,917 --> 00:58:42,166 We're working towards, you know, 1624 00:58:42,228 --> 00:58:44,636 Getting to the next level, and then it's like, boom. 1625 00:58:44,754 --> 00:58:47,231 - Well, what was it that I said that made you feel like 1626 00:58:47,349 --> 00:58:50,042 It's a setback in our marriage? 1627 00:58:50,044 --> 00:58:51,810 - You know, when you be like, you know, you was like-- 1628 00:58:51,928 --> 00:58:53,662 They was all, "how's the intimacy level 1629 00:58:53,664 --> 00:58:55,072 Or the chemistry level," you was like, 1630 00:58:55,190 --> 00:58:57,999 "I just feel like it's really little." 1631 00:58:58,001 --> 00:59:00,819 I'm like, what in the hell? 1632 00:59:00,937 --> 00:59:03,055 [tense music] 1633 00:59:03,057 --> 00:59:05,599 I just really want to know, like, what kirsten needs. 1634 00:59:05,626 --> 00:59:08,510 Because it seem like every time I'm trying 1635 00:59:08,512 --> 00:59:10,161 Or get to, you know, the next level, 1636 00:59:10,280 --> 00:59:12,180 It's like when we get 1637 00:59:12,182 --> 00:59:14,683 In front of everybody else, I'm left blindsided, 1638 00:59:14,685 --> 00:59:16,334 Because I'm like, damn, she couldn't 1639 00:59:16,453 --> 00:59:18,003 Tell me this at the house? 1640 00:59:18,121 --> 00:59:19,838 Like, she couldn't tell me when we got home later? 1641 00:59:19,956 --> 00:59:22,841 She can't tell me how she honestly feel? 1642 00:59:22,959 --> 00:59:25,118 - So I check in with you sometimes, 1643 00:59:25,145 --> 00:59:26,937 And I'm like, "shaquille, how do you feel right now?" 1644 00:59:27,055 --> 00:59:29,364 Like, you don't--you have to check in with me too and say, 1645 00:59:29,366 --> 00:59:30,791 "kirsten, how do you feel right now," 1646 00:59:30,818 --> 00:59:32,534 If I'm not telling you how I feel 1647 00:59:32,536 --> 00:59:34,111 When I ask you how you're feeling. 1648 00:59:34,229 --> 00:59:36,371 And that's when it goes back to the communication level. 1649 00:59:36,373 --> 00:59:38,389 So you're not going to know how I feel about 1650 00:59:38,450 --> 00:59:40,692 An intimacy level between you and I 1651 00:59:40,810 --> 00:59:42,544 If you're not asking me that question. 1652 00:59:42,546 --> 00:59:43,954 - You just can't come out and tell me? 1653 00:59:44,072 --> 00:59:46,214 ♪ ♪ 1654 00:59:46,216 --> 00:59:47,457 - That's what I'm saying-- if I don't come out 1655 00:59:47,576 --> 00:59:49,810 And tell you, then you should ask. 1656 00:59:49,837 --> 00:59:52,129 - You want me-- - I ask you how you feel. 1657 00:59:52,247 --> 00:59:53,555 Like, yeah, you should ask me how I feel. 1658 00:59:53,557 --> 00:59:55,132 - Kirsten, I always ask you, like, you know, 1659 00:59:55,250 --> 00:59:57,058 How are we doing, you know? 1660 00:59:57,060 --> 00:59:58,927 - When have you asked me that? 1661 01:00:00,681 --> 01:00:02,455 - Ok. Let's see. 1662 01:00:02,516 --> 01:00:05,309 Kirsten renee, 1663 01:00:05,427 --> 01:00:07,477 How do you feel about our marriage right now? 1664 01:00:07,596 --> 01:00:10,572 - I definitely feel like we need to work on communication. 1665 01:00:10,574 --> 01:00:13,424 Like, this is horrible right now. 1666 01:00:13,485 --> 01:00:16,394 And I really feel like the intimacy level 1667 01:00:16,513 --> 01:00:18,730 Could be better. 1668 01:00:18,848 --> 01:00:21,332 - At the beginning, I had to grow and say, 1669 01:00:21,334 --> 01:00:23,635 Like, ok, I can be patient enough 1670 01:00:23,637 --> 01:00:25,070 And wait till it happened. 1671 01:00:25,188 --> 01:00:26,913 But now it's like it's on kirsten time. 1672 01:00:27,074 --> 01:00:29,499 Kirsten want it to happen when she want it to happen. 1673 01:00:29,618 --> 01:00:31,776 But at the beginning, you had that guard up, 1674 01:00:31,837 --> 01:00:33,945 And you did not want that to happen at all. 1675 01:00:34,006 --> 01:00:37,499 You barely wanted me to touch you. 1676 01:00:37,617 --> 01:00:39,409 - But now that we're there, and I'm starting 1677 01:00:39,428 --> 01:00:40,952 To open up to you and I'm letting those walls down, 1678 01:00:41,013 --> 01:00:42,604 It seem like-- - but that's on your time. 1679 01:00:42,606 --> 01:00:44,514 - I know, but-- - but you don't look at it 1680 01:00:44,633 --> 01:00:47,184 From my position to say, ok-- - ok. Explain to me. 1681 01:00:47,302 --> 01:00:48,943 - It--it seem like, in your life, 1682 01:00:48,945 --> 01:00:51,688 That it's always been on your time of which you want it. 1683 01:00:51,807 --> 01:00:55,366 And for me, like, no, that ain't gonna fly. 1684 01:00:55,368 --> 01:00:57,118 It's not all about kirsten. 1685 01:00:57,120 --> 01:00:58,603 - It's not, and I tell you that too. 1686 01:00:58,722 --> 01:01:00,288 It's about the both of us. 1687 01:01:00,290 --> 01:01:02,306 But this is not gonna help our relationship. 1688 01:01:02,368 --> 01:01:04,034 This is not gonna help our marriage grow. 1689 01:01:04,152 --> 01:01:08,221 ♪ ♪ 1690 01:01:08,248 --> 01:01:10,131 - I don't know if I want to be with somebody 1691 01:01:10,133 --> 01:01:12,283 Who just continues to have a guard up with somebody 1692 01:01:12,402 --> 01:01:15,545 Who actually want to be in this marriage with them. 1693 01:01:15,664 --> 01:01:22,344 ♪ ♪ 1694 01:01:23,447 --> 01:01:25,121 - Next time on "married at first sight"... 1695 01:01:25,123 --> 01:01:26,281 [goats bleating] 1696 01:01:26,283 --> 01:01:27,891 - ♪ so keep digging deeper ♪ 1697 01:01:28,009 --> 01:01:29,484 - How are you? 1698 01:01:29,486 --> 01:01:31,578 - ♪ soon I'm gonna find myself ♪ 1699 01:01:31,605 --> 01:01:33,747 - Dr. Pepper! 1700 01:01:33,774 --> 01:01:37,341 - Our couples must learn to go deeper with their spouses 1701 01:01:37,403 --> 01:01:40,904 In order to make an informed decision about their future. 1702 01:01:41,022 --> 01:01:43,306 - So what about chemistry and intimacy? 1703 01:01:43,325 --> 01:01:44,566 How is that increasing? 1704 01:01:44,684 --> 01:01:46,034 ♪ ♪ 1705 01:01:46,153 --> 01:01:47,685 - We've been doing better at it. 1706 01:01:47,746 --> 01:01:49,779 - [laughs] - because at first-- 1707 01:01:49,898 --> 01:01:51,056 - Dr. Pepper's like, "good." 1708 01:01:51,083 --> 01:01:52,507 - We've been doing better. 1709 01:01:52,509 --> 01:01:54,317 - I've just started to love myself, 1710 01:01:54,336 --> 01:01:57,337 And now I'm in this marriage that I've longed for forever, 1711 01:01:57,497 --> 01:01:59,314 And now my person not even feeling me. 1712 01:01:59,316 --> 01:02:00,923 [dramatic music] 1713 01:02:00,925 --> 01:02:02,484 - You know, I grew up with a single mom, 1714 01:02:02,486 --> 01:02:04,594 And so I'm-- it's easy for me to be 1715 01:02:04,713 --> 01:02:06,263 Super vulnerable with women. 1716 01:02:06,381 --> 01:02:10,684 But with men, I've struggled with opening up. 1717 01:02:10,844 --> 01:02:12,527 - I've noticed, since we've been married, 1718 01:02:12,529 --> 01:02:14,670 That my past relationships actually affected me 1719 01:02:14,690 --> 01:02:17,791 A lot more than they did, because being vulnerable 1720 01:02:17,818 --> 01:02:19,459 Made you weak. 1721 01:02:19,486 --> 01:02:21,770 And when you're weak, you get taken advantage of. 1722 01:02:21,888 --> 01:02:24,948 I'm a little worried that I'll just wake up, 1723 01:02:25,066 --> 01:02:29,043 And this little happy life we're living won't-- 1724 01:02:29,045 --> 01:02:31,621 Won't be so happy anymore. 1725 01:02:31,740 --> 01:02:35,158 - You both made this enormous commitment to each other. 1726 01:02:35,276 --> 01:02:38,085 You need to go over and above what feels easy. 1727 01:02:38,087 --> 01:02:41,256 I'm asking you to dig deep and do that.