- You look very beautiful. - Thank you.
- Ten singles put their trust in the experts
In order to find love.
They married as complete strangers.
[upbeat music]
- ♪ so real ♪
- Last time, our couples continued to work
On creating a new, shared world together.
- ♪ have a good time ♪
- Gina and clint.
- ♪ so fit and flirty ♪
- It's nice for us to have that time together.
Maybe that'll spark some romantic feelings.
Let's hit the town. - ♪ so real ♪
- Nicole and chris.
- Appearance-wise, I said beautiful smile,
Beautiful face, beautiful eyes.
But I did say, like, a little--little thicker
Than I normally go for.
[music slows to halt]
But not in a bad way.
- Please just avoid "the thick,"
Because this is something that could
Potentially be hurtful to me.
- Jasmine and airris.
- Never have I had sex with other people watching.
- You've never had a threesome?
- [clears throat] no. More like a orgy.
- I had told him I wanted to have deeper conversations,
But him, like, talking about sex,
Um...That ain't it.
- Kirsten and shaquille.
- And I know it's hard for you to just open up
To a person that you just met.
But hey--hey, we married.
We started with commitment.
But it's like, I honestly don't want decision day to come
And I'm still feeling how I do now.
- ♪ now that you're back in the life ♪
- Congrats. I mean, we've made it a month.
- Ok. - Clink, clink, clink, clink.
- Tonight, our couples celebrate a major milestone
In their relationship.
- How's the intimacy level or the chemistry level?
It's like--I just feel like it's really little.
I'm like, what in the hell?
- Like, I've put in a lot into past relationships,
And it felt very one-sided.
- If you try to make everybody happy,
You won't make anybody happy.
Chris is a nice guy. You know what he needs?
He needs a little big dick energy here, is what he needs.
- I was kind of closer towards being checked out.
[dramatic music]
- How much time for you to let down that guard?
♪ ♪
- I'm letting it down day by day.
- I don't see it.
♪ ♪
[upbeat music]
- ♪ it's all or nothing ♪
- This is "married at first sight."
- ♪ there's no other way ♪
♪ it's all or nothing ♪
- ♪ live it up ♪
♪ raise your cup ♪
♪ we'll keep dancing till the sun is coming up ♪
- I gotta get to work. - Ok.
- So I'll talk to you when I get back.
- All right, I'll finish everything up.
- Which one do you want? Pick one.
- That--that one.
Thank--ooh.
- With the one-month anniversary
Just around the corner, our couples will need
To remind themselves of the commitment they made...
- You just grab it by the-- - yeah, just grab it.
- The bottom of it, the base of it.
I never knew this is what it took to repot a plant.
- And focus on the needs of their partners
Before they have to make that fateful decision
Whether to stay married or get a divorce.
- I want to start baking.
- Baking? - Mm-hmm.
- I make chocolate soufflés.
- That's next level. - It's...
- I was just trying to make a cake.
- Not easy. - [laughs]
[upbeat hip-hop music]
♪ ♪
- I'm really ready to get my feet in here.
♪ ♪
- Can you believe it's been one month since the wedding?
- I feel like it was yesterday.
- We got married, went on the honeymoon, moved in.
You know what I'm saying? Within 30 days.
- And that is not you. [laughs]
- It's still taking me some time
To, like, open up to him, and be vulnerable.
And he's patient, but I'm like,
We still have to have, like, conversation,
Because I don't want him to go into decision day
Feeling like he doesn't know me
Or, like, I didn't give my all to him.
- Mm-hmm.
- Like, I appreciate you being patient,
But we still have to, you know, continue to work
And pour into each other and put in the effort.
Like, if he's there, I want his attention.
I want him to hold me and talk to me
And really connect with me.
That'll make me feel comfortable.
- Mm! - Yeah. So--
- 'cause I mean, wedding day, he was all over you.
- I know. - I'm shocked to hear this.
So how do you feel, like-- in the one month,
Like, that-- did that change from--
Was it, like, a peak of that, and then that changed?
- I definitely feel like our marriage has been
Up and down depending on the day.
With real life sinking back in and us going back to reality,
That's a totally different shift.
So... - Mm-hmm.
- Some days he comes home and he does make time for me
And he does talk to me, and then sometimes it's like,
You know, like, I'm tired.
It does make me a little upset,
And it makes me feel a little rejected
And question this marriage.
Like, are we going to be able to continue this marriage
If he's not giving me that attention?
Like, the attraction has grown between shaquille and I.
And I think that shaquille, maybe he's still feeling it
A certain way by, you know, me not being
Physically attracted to him.
But we're supposed to be moving past that.
We're supposed to be in the present
And focusing on the future.
I said, "when you walk in this house,
"like, you need to hug me or kiss me.
Like, you can't just walk in and be like, 'oh, hey.'"
Like, how can that build
The connection or the chemistry?
- Right, right. - Like, how do I feel wanted?
Like, I'm working on trying to show you this,
But, like, if you're pulling back and holding back now,
That's not going to help our chemistry grow.
It's not going to help our marriage grow.
Like, both of us can't have walls up in this marriage,
Because it won't make it anywhere.
[tense music]
- ♪ this is how you do it now ♪
[upbeat music]
- Hello!
- Hi, guys. There they are.
- Hi, boys! - Here they are.
- Calm down, boys. Calm down. - Hi, boys.
Hi. - Calm down.
- I'm really excited that my dad is coming over tonight
To see our apartment and talk to chris
Outside of the wedding.
This is our home.
- Ok. Then they--and there they go.
- This is our kitchen.
- All right. Well, this is chris.
- This is--yes, my husband. - Hi. Ok.
- Remember him from the wedding a few weeks ago?
- Yeah, I didn't remember his name for a second.
- Oh, no. It's all good. - It's all right. It's ok.
- My dad is definitely very vocal and opinionated.
He was so nervous before I married chris
Because he didn't really understand
Why I was doing this.
So I'm really happy he gets to see chris
And spend time with him and see how we're living together.
This is our living room. - Ooh, very nice.
- And this is our collection of pineapples and...
Both: Dinosaurs.
- You've noticed she has an interest in dinosaurs.
- Oh, yeah. Yeah. - Can't get enough dinosaurs.
- Dinosaurs and pineapples. That's all her.
- And this is our bedroom.
- Is this where you sleep, chris?
- Yeah, I sleep right there.
- Only when he's not in trouble.
- Mark has been very skeptical since the beginning.
- Well, son... - How are you doing?
- I'm ok. How are you?
- I can--I can wait and earn the--
- The "dad," yeah. - To call you dad.
It's fine. I get it. - Yeah, it's like--
We'll talk anyways.
- Yeah. - We'll see.
- Totally comfortable and understandable
That he doesn't want me to call him dad yet.
But it is very important to have family members' approval.
He obviously means the world to nicole.
So I'm hoping now that he's met me
And sees the type of person I am,
That he's starting to feel a little more at ease.
And I am hoping that mark really sees
That this marriage is working.
So how--how have you been?
- I have been good. I'm glad I was able to come by.
I wanted to check up and see what was going on.
- Yeah.
- She says only nice things about you.
- That's good. - You know?
How are you feeling about all this?
Are you ready to be married?
I mean, do you feel married, as a thing?
- Yeah, yeah, I definitely feel married.
You know, we have a really good time together.
She takes care.
Like, she's, like, an awesome mom to the dogs.
Like, she takes really good care of them.
She loves spending time with them.
And she gets up earlier than I do, so--
- I'm a night owl, so I can understand
Where you're coming from. - Same. Same.
There's been times where I'm-- I feel myself
Waking up a little bit earlier and earlier every day.
But it's not quite the same level as her.
- My advice is, you want to change--
If you want to change your hours
Or she wants to change her hours,
Which she probably won't, that's great.
But don't change because you want--
You think that's what she wants.
You need to be your--you need to be true to yourself.
- It just feels really easy.
Like, it feels like we've been together
For a lot longer than almost a month.
So, like, it's crazy to think it's already been that long.
But at the same time, like, I feel like I've known her
A lot longer than that. - Ok.
And that is fantastic, and I love to hear that.
But now let me just throw a little cold water
On all that. - Yeah.
- First of all, you're in the honeymoon stage,
Which you know, you're still on honeymoon stage.
And second of all, relationships are not easy,
As you know. Marriages are not easy.
Nicole is not easy.
If you take a step back, she's gonna take a step forward.
If you take a step back, she's gonna take
Another step forward.
And then you're gonna lose sense of self.
Don't--you can take a step back,
But make sure you take a step forward.
You don't want to be codependent on her, you know.
"if you're happy, I'm happy"? You be happy.
If you're happy, she'll be happy.
- Oh, yeah. No, for sure.
And I've realized that from past relationships.
Like, I've put in a lot into past relationships,
And it felt very one-sided.
- If you try to make everybody happy,
You won't make anybody happy.
[tense music]
- Chris is a nice guy.
You know what he needs? I'm gonna say it on camera.
He needs a little big dick energy here, is what he needs.
It's not taking anything away from him,
Because he's a good-- he seems like a great guy
And everything else like that.
He doesn't need to be a neanderthal,
And he doesn't need to have to thump his chest.
But you can be an alpha quietly and confidently.
And I believe he has that quiet confidence.
He just needs to show it.
♪ ♪
[upbeat music]
- ♪ baby, I'll be all right ♪
♪ I'll be ok ♪
♪ let me spend a moment ♪
♪ take it day by day ♪
♪ baby, I'll be all right ♪
- What up, bruh? - You good?
- Always good to see another married black man.
- [laughs]
Oh, man.
My first time seeing you since you got married.
How has it been?
- It's been.
It's been going.
- Is it anything you expected?
- I don't know what I expected, so I'm just--
I'm in it, you know.
We've got the one-month anniversary coming.
It's crazy that it's already been a month.
- One month. - Time flies, like...
She ain't had no-- she ain't having no baby
If she ain't had no--
- Oh, no. No, no, no. No, ain't--
- No honeymoon? None of that? - None of that.
- So y'all ain't done nothing?
- Nah. - What base you on?
You been--you done tried
And got denied, or you just ain't tried?
- I'm in the parking lot. I only got my uniform on.
- Yeah, the-- a whole month, no sex.
That's-- - a whole month. Newlywed.
- You a virgin again. That's crazy.
You got married not to have sex.
It's-- - [laughs]
- It's kind of backwards, but right.
- This whole process is backwards, so--
- You think she waiting on you to initiate something,
Or do you think that you waiting on her?
- She's waiting on me.
But she's already-- she feels the energy.
Like, I've already--
- What energy is that?
- I told her I wasn't, like, physically attracted to her.
So it don't make me feel like the best person
Or, like-- but I got to be honest.
I'm not saying, like, she's ugly.
I don't think anybody would say that.
Like, she's just not, like, my normal type.
- She's just not your type. - There you go.
- So what do you need from her? Because you're hung up on--
- I just need a-- I just need a vibe, man.
- Is--we hung up-- - ok.
Have you ever been-- you ever seen a chick
That maybe, like, she might not be, like, your type,
But maybe her swag, right?
- Right. - Maybe she dress crazy.
Like, maybe she a sneaker head.
She just always fly. - Yeah.
- That might make her attractive.
Or she hella funny.
Like, y'all just be cracking up.
That makes you attracted. - Right.
- I don't have-- - any of that.
- I don't have any of that.
But I'm still learning about her.
- That's what I'm saying. Like, if she has to--
- So maybe, like, I'll find something.
- I don't know how to feel about all the information.
I thought that this process went kind of smoother
And better for him.
I feel like it's rough for him now.
So I kind of feel for my boy.
I hope things can get better.
That's not the news that I wanted to hear.
So what do you plan to do to make it better?
Like, do you have a plan to try to make it better,
Or you just like, "[bleep] it"?
- I feel like just going out, continuing to date.
And, like, even though we're married...
- Right. - It's like, we're--
- So you guys date each other--
- It seems like a backwards process, right?
So I feel like we gotta date and go out and do stuff
And just create those vibes, create those good moments.
- Y'all have a--
Do y'all have the time and opportunity to date,
Or y'all schedule is just so booked up?
- Our schedules are so different.
But, you know, there are moments.
So we gotta, like, kind of take advantage of those.
- Yeah.
- I'm hopeful that things will improve.
But I need help.
Like, I don't really know what to do, you know.
So--but I'm open to listening to--whether it's harold,
Whether it's johnny, whether it's chee,
Whether it's fallina, whether it's dr. Pepper,
Whether it's pastor cal, like,
Hopefully I have a tribe of people that,
Like, you know, kind of help me and point me
In the right direction.
It's not like I'll just--
I'm just throwing in the towel...
- Yeah. - And I'm just, like,
Not making any effort or trying to do anything.
Like, that's not what's going on.
- My advice is, if you think she need more,
You need to either give it to her
Or ask her then what she want.
Because if both of y'all are not talking,
Then she--you got to think.
She could say the same thing about you.
- Right.
- Y'all got a lot of catching up to do.
- Yeah.
[soft dramatic music]
[upbeat country music]
♪ ♪
- Feeling good about this redneck bus tour.
It's "where caviar meets collard greens."
♪ ♪
- Well, I was-- I was born in arkansas,
So I can teach us all the redneck jokes on the bus.
- There we go. - Yes. I love that.
- I was born in houston, texas, so I'll teach you
All the cool southern things.
- All right.
- Got nothing to contribute but joy.
- Ok. We're glad to have you.
- I'm super excited that chris and nicole invited us
To a comedy bus tour today to celebrate
Our one-month anniversary.
I've never really been doing a lot
Of these tourist-type things in nashville.
So this will be fun.
And yeah, I think it'll be an awesome double date.
- All right.
Well, good afternoon, ladies and gentlemen.
Welcome to nashville.
Thank y'all for taking the redneck comedy tour bus
With us today.
How long y'all been married?
- About one month, exactly! - One month!
Whoo! - One month exactly.
How long y'all been married?
Both: One month. - Yeah.
- Y'all been married one month too?
Both: Yep.
- It was a buy one, get one free.
[laughter] - we got swingers on the bus.
[laughter]
- You know, gina and I, we're taking it slow,
And--but we're growing collectively.
Things were very regressive in the honeymoon,
And now things are building.
So we're getting to a much better point,
And that's encouraging for me, and hopefully
It's encouraging for this one too.
- Well, I'm gonna do y'all a favor.
I'm gonna teach you how to talk like a redneck.
First word--turest.
All: Turest.
- Turest. All: Turest.
- We got "bless your heart."
- Oh, bless your heart.
How many of you heard that since you've been here?
Momanem. You know what that is?
- Momanem. How's your momanem?
- Momanem? - How's your mom and them?
Momanem. - Oh, oh, like my mom and them.
- Here's my favorite redneck word.
You're going to love this one.
Cooter. Both: Cooter!
- You know what a cooter is?
- Sure do. - Yep.
- A cooter is something you can eat.
[music slows to halt]
- Well, I know--
That's--that's what they're saying in biology.
- It's not a female body part.
We call that a beaver.
- Oh!
- Yeah. - [laughs]
- A cooter is a turtle, y'all.
It's a type of turtle. - A turtle?
- What? - Yeah.
Y'all ain't never heard of that?
- No, I've never heard that.
Oh, naked people. - Look. Naked people.
- All the naked people.
It's tallywackers and beavers.
- There you go. Tallywackers and--
[laughs] - he's good. He's good.
- If y'all look over here to your left,
We've got historic rca studio b.
We've got the legends corner, tootsies orchid lounge.
Hey, have y'all been in robert's?
- Baloney sandwich. - Yeah.
- Fried baloney sandwich.
That's--we're going right there.
We're about to pull up here at the ole smoky
Moonshine distillery.
I've had a great time.
Have y'all had a good time today?
[all cheering] - sure did.
♪ ♪
- Hello, hello. - How you doing?
- Hi. - Well, come on in.
- Wow. - Have a seat.
- All right.
- Got y'all a little tasting lined up for you.
- All right. - Yeehaw.
- And we are gonna start out one of our tried and true
Flavors right here, ok?
This is our apple pie.
- Good old americana apple pie.
- There you go. - Yeah.
- To one month for all of us. - Cheers.
- May we always have full cups.
- I love it. America.
- That's nice. - Whoa!
- All right. This is salty caramel.
♪ ♪
- Ooh! - Cheers.
- Hey, cilantro.
♪ ♪
Put that in pancakes.
- Yeah, I want that on my pancakes.
- Exactly. - This is mountain java.
- All right. - Yeah.
♪ ♪
- That's good. - That's so good.
- This is a pb&j shot.
- Mm. - Mm.
- Yeah. Oh, yeah. Yeah. - That is nuts.
- I think I love you. Yeah. - [laughs]
- Wayne. - Sorry, but--
- She hasn't said that to me, yet, so...
- Wayne, you're stealing all of our girls now.
[laughter]
- I--I've already been spoken for.
Just saying. - Oh. Good for you.
- How long have you been married?
- I've been married for six years.
- Oh, wow. - Wow.
Do you have any advice for us?
We're freshly on our one month. - One month.
- One-month anniversaries are coming up,
And you look very wise.
- I would say honesty.
Honesty is one of those things, because you can always
Verbalize it, and if you hold it in,
It doesn't help anything.
- That's good. I like that.
- We've been told we're too honest.
- Yeah. [laughter]
- So how have you guys been doing?
Does clint do all the cooking?
- Clint does most of the cooking.
- Gina's cooked.
- I've cooked a little bit, yeah,
- And gina has been a very willing helper.
- It seems like you two are working
Well together as a team.
- Yeah. Yeah. - That's important, right?
That doesn't come easily.
- Yeah, and I think, like, our--
We had a big honeymoon hurdle, obviously.
- Sure.
- And our biggest goal was just,
Like, have fun together, and that's what we've done.
Like we've just been like, we're just gonna have fun,
Like, and see what grows from there.
- How's hank been adjusting to--
- I think--I think he needs to incorporate
The last name webb.
- [laughs]
- Because I love that now. I love that.
- Do you think gina needs to incorporate
The last name webb?
- Isn't that, like, standard, I guess?
- Yeah, I think that's--
- Like, personally for me, from a logistical perspective,
I don't know if you men know this,
But it's a nightmare to change--
- I think that's--
I think it's a little cop-out.
- Well, no.
I'm happy--I'm happy to do it.
But I can't confidently, like, go through all that paperwork
Without knowing--or I can't a month into this say,
Like, I'm comfortable enough with our relationship...
- Fair. Fair.
- To change my passport, my social security card,
Go to the dmv--
- Oh, do you mean change it right now?
- Right, like, right now, I can't.
- For sure I want her to take my last name one day.
But, like, honestly, that can wait until after decision day.
I'm on--totally ok with that.
- I'm going to take it.
I just, it's--you know, I haven't had the time
To go to the social security office and the dmv.
I don't even have a tennessee license.
Don't tell anyone.
- 12 months from now. Let's use that as the context.
- Oh, 12 months from now, if we're still just as happy,
I have no problem doing it.
- Oh, yeah, if we decide at the end of this
It's a 100% successful marriage, after a year, fine.
- If we have--
- So we're not super concerned--
- If we have kids, their last name's gonna be webb.
- [laughing] oh, no.
- Look at that. - Hell yeah.
This girl might be, like, world-class.
- World-class woman right there.
- [laughs]
- ♪ ooh ♪
♪ I won't give up on you ♪
- ♪ tick, tick, boom, oh, yeah ♪
♪ come on, let's get it started ♪
♪ tick, tick, boom ♪
- I feel like it's probably, like,
A michael myers-type situation.
- Oh, god.
- How are y'all doing? - Hi.
- We're ready to break some stuff.
- All right.
- So it's our one-month, you know, anniversary
And I have a date night planned for me and jasmine
To go to a rage room, you know, because I've been
Kind of feeling that she has
A hard time expressing her feelings.
So maybe this is a better way for her to let it all out.
- All right, guys.
Welcome to the rage room.
You guys have two buckets of breakable items.
You can throw the glass against the walls all day long.
Your weapons of choice are right here.
And-- [ceramic crashing]
That's how you do it. - All right.
- Have fun, guys.
- I'm ready to break some stuff.
- Obviously you ready to break stuff.
- Just let it out, whether you got to scream.
It's a safe space, you know. That's why we're here.
Just get it all out.
- You got anything you got to get out?
- Just the world, man.
It's a crazy place. I'm over. I'm over it.
I'm over it all.
I'm just ready to just break [bleep].
You know, tear it up. - Ok.
- ♪ you can't deny it ♪
♪ you can't deny it ♪
- I have frustration I need to let out,
Just because I'm not really happy
With where we are in our marriage.
- ♪ that's the sound of love ♪
♪ that's the sound of everything ♪
- We haven't really progressed in a way
That I thought we would have, like, coming into this.
- ♪ oh, that's the sound of freedom ♪
- Before even getting married,
I was just eager to have babies, build an empire.
I feel like I've been preparing to be a wife for years,
And, you know, I'm not as enthusiastic as I was before.
I'm good at that.
I'm trying my best to be more open
And to be more, you know, optimistic.
But I'm definitely overwhelmed
And, you know, frustrated with everything.
Cheers.
One, two, three.
♪ ♪
A lot is going to have to change for us
To actually have a shot at having a successful marriage.
♪ ♪
But it feels good to let out some frustration,
You know, and break [bleep].
- ♪ c'mon! ♪
♪ oh, oh, whoo! ♪
- Feel better? - Yeah.
♪ ♪
[upbeat music]
- Can you believe that it's been a month already?
- No.
- It--it feels like a month to me.
- It do? - Yeah.
I feel like we've learned so much about each other.
- A one-month anniversary may not be a typical milestone
For most relationships,
But these couples are far from typical.
- At one month, very happy.
What about you? Are you very happy?
- Yeah, I'm excited.
Wait till you see what I have in store for you.
- Over the past four weeks, they've gone
Through many ups and downs
And pushed through setbacks in order to allow
Their relationships to grow and evolve.
So now is a perfect time for them to reflect
And celebrate their journey so far.
[energetic music]
♪ ♪
- Should we put a bag on you?
You can be our mule?
Huh?
Hank, the mule?
♪ ♪
How many of these iv things is it safe to drink?
I feel like I need, like, four more.
This morning I'm feeling a little rough.
Last night, the--the good times got ahold of me
And continue to drag me down the road.
I found out moonshine comes in 372 different flavors,
And I like just about every one of them.
2:00 a.M. Pizza.
But I have to push through it
Because it's our one-month anniversary,
And we're going to rutledge falls today.
We're--we're doing a little jamaica re-creation.
You know, our whole journey to the waterfall was insane.
So hopefully it's going to be a nice, easy trip.
These roses look as healthy as I feel.
- So the big one month.
- One month. - Watch out.
- What a landmark.
- Don't you feel like it's been really fast,
But also, like, slow-mo?
- Yeah.
- Our one month of marriage already feels
Like three months of marriage because you dive in so quickly
Into things that you typically wouldn't cover
If you were in a normal dating scenario.
Ready, freddie?
- I think so.
- I think that clint and I are definitely growing
And just having a better understanding of one another
And getting to the crust, like clint likes to say.
[laughs]
Ok, let's go!
♪ ♪
- ♪ I believe in love ♪
♪ I'm walking kinda funky but I don't care ♪
- It would have been easy just to do
Flowers or something simple,
But with how things have been going,
And how great she's been and how supportive she's been
With everything, with the dogs and everything else,
Like, I really wanted to show my appreciation in a big way.
I have a huge surprise for nicole,
And I can't wait to show her.
- ♪ I believe in love ♪
[toy helicopter beeps]
[richard wagner's "ride of the valkyries"]
[dramatic orchestra music]
♪ ♪
Nicole.
Hey. [chuckles]
- Hello. - Oh.
Hold on.
Pretty sweet, huh?
- Hello, mr. Drone copter.
Is this how you're going to deliver me
Coffee in the morning? Put it on a little--
- Oh, yeah.
- "let's"--oh, "let's take our relationship
To the next level."
Ok. Playing with toys?
I love that.
- So we're taking a helicopter ride today.
[chuckling] - oh, my god!
Fun! - So--
- Chris is going above and beyond.
He does that every day, but we're literally going
Above and beyond our great city.
I've never been on one.
That's so fun. - I know. Neither have I.
- I'm really looking forward to doing this with him.
I can't imagine anyone else I'd want to be
In a helicopter with.
I cannot wait.
- Happy one month. - Happy anniversary.
One month down, plenty more to go.
- There you go.
Let's get ready. - All right.
[upbeat music]
♪ ♪
- Oh.
"happy one-month, shaq and kirsten."
- Do you know how to skate? - I do.
I love skating.
I don't always get the chance to, but I love it.
- This is the perfect
One-month celebration for shaquille and I.
I love to skate, and I am always telling shaquille,
Like, "hey, my sisters and my brothers,
We all used to go skating together."
And I think it's so thoughtful for him to create this for us
To watch each other have fun and laugh
And dance on our skates.
- Hoo, I can barely move.
We should have-- maybe we should have
Put these on before we put on all this.
- [giggling]
[quirky music]
- I didn't think it was going to be
This challenging getting ready.
- Uh-huh! - Ok.
- ♪ it's so good when we get it together ♪
♪ I can tell by the look in your eye ♪
♪ but you know that I'm gonna get ever ♪
- Let me get on your back. - Uh-uh.
- I'm catching up to come get on your back.
- All right.
- ♪ you're so good for me ♪
- Kirsten is the way better skater than I am.
I'm not ashamed to say it.
She's skating backwards. She's doing tricks.
She's dancing.
And I'm like, wow, like, I love it.
[both laughing]
We're in the moment and having fun
And just enjoying some quality time together.
[sighs]
- You know I love our time together,
And I think this is a great way to celebrate our marriage,
By doing something fun, and I really am enjoying
Myself and enjoying you.
[soft music]
- Yeah, it's been great.
These last few weeks has been just a lot, from...
Marriage and school and work.
I really still can't believe it's been a month.
Like, it just seemed like yesterday
We was preparing for the wedding.
What? - It feels like a month to me.
- It does? - Yeah.
I really feel like we have a bright future ahead of us.
- What do you look forward to the most, though?
- Spending--spending time in my life with you,
Like, making memories.
I can't wait for us to start traveling together.
- For me, what I'm looking forward to most
Is spending quality time with your friends,
Spending quality time with your family.
Like, family is a very, very important aspect of my life.
And it's always about me learning
Who you are around different people as well.
Like, there's so many more factors to kirsten
That I don't know about.
It's kirsten the best friend, kirsten the sister,
Kirsten the daughter.
I'm in tune to learning kirsten all across the board.
- I mean, in order to get to know me like that,
Like, you just really have to be around me.
- You don't think I'd be around you, though?
- I mean, sometimes.
[tense music]
Sometimes you are around. But also, when you're around,
We both still have to be intentional
When we're around each other and have
Intentional conversations.
Like--and that's how I let my guard down,
Because I'm like, "oh, I can trust shaquille.
Like, he's focused on me right now."
Like, it gives me that comfortability
To, like, open up to you.
♪ ♪
- I definitely feel like me and kirsten are still
Not on the same page when it comes back
To us spending quality time and everything,
Because I've been around her.
I've been a--we've-- we've been places.
We've been in a moment.
And it's always just give it a little bit more time.
So I'm like, well, what do I have to do
Differently when I'm around her
To get that side of her?
Well, how much time for you to let down that guard
To allow that to happen?
- I'm letting it down day by day.
- Are you? - Mm-hmm.
Yeah.
- I don't--
I don't see it.
Like, I don't be seeing that you let your guard down.
We talk about it.
Like, today is all about, like, moving forward,
So I don't want to harp on it.
But we always talk about, you know,
Getting to that next stage, and then we always
End up in the same place.
- Well, starting today, since we're talking
About moving forward, we're going to do just that.
And we can only start here and figure it out from here.
- But with time, it's like, yeah, time is of the essence,
But time is ticking as well.
- We have a lifetime.
♪ ♪
- We have a lifetime, but we also have
A decision date
That we both have to work towards
To get to there, and we--
- To get to the lifetime?
- To get to the lifetime, you know, decision day come,
Then the lifetime comes.
- It is very hard for me to determine, like,
Is shaquille more focused on decision day,
Or is he focused on our marriage as a lifetime?
I'm struggling sometimes and becoming
Very hesitant of having him around my friends and family.
Like, I don't want my friends and family to be attached
To shaquille, and then he's like, "oh, well,
I'm one foot in, one foot out."
Like, I don't know how this is going to work out.
And I'm going to feel comfortable having you
Around my family and friends all the time
When I know that you're committed to me
Regardless of a decision day.
♪ ♪
[upbeat music]
- All right. We're ready?
Ready for the trip?
- I'm ready. - All right.
Let's do this.
♪ ♪
All right.
Let's go do some hiking.
♪ ♪
- I'd say this is less hiccups than what jamaica was.
The last time that I went on this type of hike
Was in jamaica, so I'm excited.
I don't get out of nashville very often.
So that's something I've always wanted to do, just experience
All the waterfalls and different beautiful hikes
Around nashville.
And I'm feeling great about being
Able to do this with clint.
We've made it.
- Here we are.
- Hank, where you at, bud?
- Beautiful waterfall.
- It's so pretty.
- ♪ we're just having fun ♪
♪ we're still having fun ♪
♪ and we say hey, hey, hey ♪
♪ ♪
- Hank is losing it. [dog barking]
He split, swam to the other side.
This is what I'm really looking for in a marriage.
You know, I was looking for someone who is loyal,
Compassionate, who has a very strong sense of humor,
And adventurous.
And I got that with clint.
So I'm definitely feeling hopeful,
And I can definitely see a future with clint.
[laughs] no!
- ♪ all I need is your love ♪
- We're here at some phenomenal, beautiful location
For our one-month anniversary.
I'm hoping that tonight we have a conversation and agree on,
You know, where we're going moving forward,
Because I think it's much needed.
So fingers crossed about tonight
And our one-month anniversary dinner
And us being able to move forward
In a positive direction.
Look at this.
- And so we got this.
- Oh!
Ok, photographer.
[soft music]
Mm.
My mommy.
I love this picture of me and my daddy.
- Look like he was about to pass out.
- [laughs]
I think walking down the aisle is when it hit me.
Like, girl, you getting married at first sight.
- Right.
- This is right after we went and sat down
And just started immediately asking
Each other all the questions.
- The very first conversation.
- Mm-hmm.
- Very first cheers.
You look happy.
- Yeah.
I was really happy that day.
[tense music]
As I'm looking through the photos and, like, seeing,
Like, how happy I was, and I don't feel like,
You know, I'm still in that space,
Just because of everything that's kind of transpired.
Am I still open-minded? Yes.
Am I still, you know, putting in, like, 3,000%?
Yes.
But I feel like the--
The jasmine right now in this one-month
Is just a lot more guarded than I was,
You know, on wedding day.
- And our wedding vows.
- Oh, goodness.
[laughs] the vows.
Mine were definitely...
- Yours was long. - [laughing] like, longer.
[laughs]
- "love is giving someone the power to destroy you
"but trusting that they won't.
I vow to trust you."
Love is seeing something in someone
That they don't see in themselves.
I vow to see you.
"love is about a continuous effort
"and constantly wanting to put forth the effort for love.
I vow to put forth that effort each and every day."
- So have you put forth effort each and every day?
- No, I haven't put forth effort each and every day.
- And why do you feel like you haven't?
[soft music]
♪ ♪
- I haven't, I guess, because,
Like, marriage is challenging.
Like, I was still in shock.
Like, I feel like I'm kind of finally
Getting around to the fact that, like, oh, wow,
Like, I'm married, you know?
But, like, it just happened, like, so fast,
And things is kind of like a blur.
Like, you get married, and then, boom,
You're on a honeymoon, and boom, you're moving in.
It's like, you know, you don't really have time to, like,
Sit and, like, process it all.
♪ ♪
- I'm hoping that that changes moving forward for us.
- I know the process that I signed up for is very unique.
But, you know, so far the majority of this marriage,
It hasn't, like, gone as I've expected.
But I would like to find a middle ground with jasmine.
For me, you know, to make this marriage improve, you know,
I just need a better, you know, connection to find,
You know, what we share, what our commonalities are,
Things that we both believe.
It's something I plan to work on and refocus
And recharge, like, spring forward
Going into the next month.
And for whatever reason, you know, we talk more and have
Better conversations when we're, like, out,
Like, going on dates.
So, you know, I just want to continue to do that,
And hopefully, you know, throughout those dates,
We'll start to find those commonalities
And shared interests, you know,
And the attraction will start to grow.
The second month anniversary is better than the first.
- [laughs] ok.
Cheers to that, for sure.
♪ ♪
[pop music]
- ♪ there ain't nothing to it ♪
♪ celebrating life but now it's yours ♪
- [with english accent] and off we go.
- Off we go on our heli tour.
- Heli tour.
We're doing a heli tour.
- This is such a fun and unique idea.
- When I'm in a relationship with somebody,
I definitely like to spoil them,
Especially when they make me feel special.
So, like, I definitely like to show her
That she means a lot to me.
And she's never done a helicopter ride before,
And neither have I, so it's going to be
A really cool experience, and I can't wait
To share it with her.
- Has it hit you at all?
We're just celebrating one month of marriage.
- Yeah. No, it's crazy.
And, I mean, I wanted to do something--
I'm more--I'm not a materialistic person,
So I'm more about memories and adventures...
- Yeah.
- Rather than, like, buying, like,
Flowers or a purse or...
- Right. - Something materialistic.
- There's so many things that I love about my husband.
But my favorite thing is that he just always makes me
Feel so special, and I never have to question
If he likes me or if he wants to be with me,
Because he just always shows that he does.
- And we're here.
Here we go. Are you ready? - I'm ready.
Let's go on this heli ride.
- ♪ you're the only one for me ♪
- So we're waiting to go on our helicopter tour.
We have some champagne.
- Bubbly. Some bubbly.
- Maybe I'm a little nervous now,
But I've got my husband to protect me.
- ♪ doo, doo, doo, doo, it's you and I ♪
- We're taking off.
- ♪ my firefly ♪
♪ doo, doo, doo, doo, it's you and I ♪
♪ you light me up from inside ♪
- There's so many things every day
I learn about my husband that I love.
And I feel like my feelings are just building so much.
And honestly, I can't imagine doing this
Or spending this life with anyone else at this point.
- ♪ doo, doo, doo, doo ♪
♪ it's you and I ♪
♪ you light me up from inside ♪
♪ my firefly ♪
[pop music]
- ♪ I like you better this way ♪
♪ I like you better this way ♪
♪ I like you better ♪
♪ I like you better this way ♪
- [laughs] what are you scared of?
Come here.
- ♪ I like you better ♪
- Welcome to jamaica!
- Oh, ok.
Wow. I didn't bring my passport.
Tonight we are continuing doing a re-creation
Of our jamaican festivities for our one-month anniversary.
You know, I just want us to celebrate where we.
We are better people, and we're a better couple
Because of the way we've handled things.
Like, we're going to need to expedite
The pace a little bit, but I think that's just
Going to come naturally.
Waterfalls and oxtail.
Now we're living.
- You know.
- Now we're living the real life.
- [laughs]
- Mm-hmm. And a bone.
[music slows to a stop] - mm-mm.
- Was that a tailbone?
- Amazing. - Literal tailbone.
♪ ♪
Have you ever had camel? - No.
And sometimes when I eat with you,
I immediately want to stop eating.
- Yeah. - [laughs]
Hank will eat all the kinds of meats with you.
He don't even care. - Yeah.
- What if it was, like, the apocalypse,
Just you and hank.
Would you eat him? - Mm-hmm.
- You would? - No.
- I would--I would let him eat me.
Like--[laughs] - let him eat you?
Like, go ahead, just take-- - just take me out.
- Just take my leg. - Just take me out, buddy.
[laughs] - I want you to survive.
- What are you going to do, eat hank and then stay
Alone the rest of your life?
- Yeah, and just... - That sucks.
- Feel guilty because you ate hank.
- Your only friend in life.
- We're talking about eating hank right now.
What has happened? - On our one-month ann--
I was, like, getting all the animals.
- Our conversations have deteriorated substantially.
Hank, sorry.
♪ ♪
- Well, what are you most excited about for month two?
The crust? - The crust.
We--yeah, we need to get more crusty.
- Ok. - I demand more crust.
Outside of work, like, who is gina?
Who do you want to be, like, ten years from now?
- [sighs] I don't know.
- It's a fun exercise to go through.
You've got to have, like, a goal, right?
- Yeah, I mean--
- You have a goal in your business,
But you have to have a personal goal
For, like, what do you want for you?
- Like, the whole reason that I run my business at all
Is because I have a passion for mentoring people.
- You run a good shop.
- Oh, that's sweet. - You do.
So, you know, the way people look up to you,
That's--I admire that, and I see, like--
I see a lot of those qualities, like,
The drive and the motivation that I have,
And it's nice to see somebody that reciprocates those values.
- Mm-hmm.
I love that you, like, overly commit
To whatever it is,
Without, like, caring what anyone thinks.
[laughs] it's funny.
It's-- [dog barking]
Hank loves it too. - Yeah.
- You just love to have a good time.
You don't take life too seriously.
I like that. That's growing on me.
♪ ♪
- To really look back, and to say, like,
We're in a good place right now, and we're able
To--to grow, that's a lot.
Like, I think we've made monumental leaps
From where we were even two weeks ago.
And we'll see. We're both committed people.
So we're going to continue and just work at it.
We're going to work at it.
You always take everything in stride,
And you're ready to just try something different.
And that's-- - yeah. Except for oxtail.
- Except for oxtail. - [laughs] I was kidding.
- ♪ you can start again ♪
♪ ♪
- ♪ I'm yours tonight ♪
♪ you don't have to worry ♪
♪ our love burns brighter than the sun ♪
- Always champagne.
- Oh, man. - [laughs]
- ♪ you don't have to worry ♪
♪ our love burns brighter than the sun ♪
- Cheers.
- What are we cheersin' to?
- Um...
- [laughs]
- Two-month anniversary.
- Two-months? It's been one month, though.
[laughs]
♪ ♪
- Thank you. You're so kind.
- Thank you.
♪ ♪
So we've made it one month.
- Mm-hmm. - And that's a milestone.
- What are you looking forward to going forward?
♪ ♪
- Well, I'm hoping this is, like, a reset, a recharge.
I feel like we were stagnant, and then you got covid.
So I feel like moving forward, it's not stagnant anymore
And that we both make changes moving forward to be better.
♪ ♪
So where is your head at right now?
Like, what are you feeling?
- The first couple of weeks, I was kind of closer
Towards being checked out.
- Mm-hmm.
- And I'm trying to get to, like, at least, like--
Like, a middle ground place.
- So you want to move into...
- Yeah, like-- - a better space.
Because we've been stagnant. - Yeah.
But I feel like I've struggled with, like,
Trying to navigate,
How can I not hurt your feelings,
But also, like, you know, like, being in my truth.
I'm like-- - what do you mean by that?
- I feel like it would be easier if we just, like...
[cicada droning]
Said there wasn't going to be, like...
[cicada droning]
Like, any sex until, like, after decision day.
[dramatic music]
It would be, like, a weight.
It wouldn't be like a, "oh, is today going to be--
Is it going to happen this week?"
- Well, I don't feel like it's a weight.
Do you feel like it's a weight? - I don't know. I'm just--
- I'm not expecting it. - I'm just saying.
♪ ♪
- I think we need to grow our intimacy.
And when I say intimacy, I don't just mean sex.
- I don't want to keep getting asked, like...
- Ok. So we're committed--
- "have y'all had sex yet? When are you gonna have sex?
Why ain't you having sex?" whoo, whoo, whoo.
- So are we committed to having sex after decision day?
- Yeah.
- But growing intimacy in other ways before decision day?
- Yeah. - Ok.
- I just think right now, where I'm at,
Us having sex would just increase
Her, like, emotional attachment to me.
Like, in the past, have I had sex
And not even cared about how the other person's feeling?
Yes, but that was, like, an immature version of me.
I'm at this point, I've had enough
Meaningless sex in my life.
Like, I want it to mean something.
♪ ♪
So that's where I'm at.
- Well, I just hope that we can get
To more of a common ground
And get you more in than out.
- Right.
- I'm willing to put in the work
And do whatever is possible, you know, to make it work.
But I obviously can't do that by myself.
[soft pop music]
- ♪ I'm calling you home ♪
♪ I'm right here waiting for you ♪
- ♪ driving the night away ♪
♪ look to the right of me, oh ♪
- Kobe, are you excited to see when mommy and daddy first met?
- He looks so excited.
All right. Let me plug this in.
All right. And play.
- [gasps] oh!
♪ ♪
Oh, look how handsome you are!
Oh.
And I remember everyone standing.
♪ ♪
You're about to see me.
- There's your pop. - I'm going to cry.
- Aww. Here you are.
Look at that. See?
Big smile.
- We're both like, "yes, not a troll."
- [chuckles]
You look very beautiful. - Thank you. Thank you.
My makeup looks so bad.
[quirky music]
Well, it's nice to meet you.
All right. Let's do this! - Yeah.
We're dorks. [laughs] - my makeup was so bad.
- No, you're great.
- I wasn't really a fan of how I looked on my wedding day.
It's--on our wedding day.
It's not how I envisioned myself looking.
And seeing it on video just made me feel worse about it.
But I'm happy-- - you looked good.
- And my makeup was terrible.
My hair had fall-- it was just a whole thing.
- I thought you looked good. - Thank you.
- And now, by the authority vested in me...
- Best part. They're gonna kiss.
- [laughs] I think that's what happens, right?
- But most of all, by the power
Of your own love...
- They're gonna kiss.
- I pronounce...
- Think they're gonna kiss?
- That you are married.
Now you may call yourselves
Those cherished names, husband and wife.
Chris, you may now kiss your bride!
[all cheering] - I just went for it.
I just went for it. - Yes, he did it.
- I didn't care. I went for it. - That's how you do it.
[cheers and applause]
[pop music]
- ♪ and I wanna prove ♪
- You didn't-- you didn't turn me down.
- No.
I never will.
[cheers and applause]
- Feels like so long ago.
Isn't that crazy?
- And it feels so ridiculous--
- That was, like, a month. That's it.
It's amazing, like, to see where we've--
How far we've come since then, to be honest.
- I'm so happy.
I would do that again every single day.
Maybe not that, because that was a really long day,
And my makeup looked like trash.
- Nicole's being a little too overly critical of herself.
Again, she looked very beautiful in that moment.
That was a moment that she was extremely happy, extremely--
Just beaming herself.
And I don't know, it's just-- it's concerning
That she can end up bringing herself down.
It was--it was a really amazing moment,
And it's led us to here, and yeah.
I mean, you can pick apart everything that you want,
But don't be ashamed of it.
Like, she doesn't need to be so critical.
Like, it kind of is one of those things
Where the more it comes up, the more it starts to become
Kind of an issue and an annoyance, to be honest.
- You signed up for the good and the bad times, right?
- Oh, I know.
One month down, many to go.
[glasses clink] - many to go.
[tense music]
♪ ♪
- ♪ feels so darn good to be around you ♪
- Well, shall we get ready?
- Yeah.
Let's--let's go dial it up to a 9.
- Spiff it up.
- Our couples have made it halfway to decision day.
But they're not all on the same marital path.
- I'm wonder who had the best one month.
I feel like we had a really good, fun one month.
- So it's important for them to meet with the other couples,
To not only discuss how far they've come,
But to offer support and advice to those who need it.
- You look so handsome! - Wow. You look so beautiful.
You look good. - So--thanks.
I know, we've been snazzing it up lately.
- No parties while we're gone.
Ok? - Let's do it.
- Bye, boys. - Bye, boys.
We'll see you later. - Be good.
Be good boys. - Be good boys.
- We'll be back.
- Let's make like a tree and leave.
- [laughs]
[upbeat music]
- ♪ turn the lights on me ♪
♪ can't you see I'm flawless and want to see ♪
- Tonight, we are heading to dinner
With all the other couples to celebrate
Our one-month anniversary.
I'm super-excited to reconnect with the brides
And the grooms, too, and just see what's been going on
With them for the last month.
It's good to kind of pick their brain
And--and gain insight on what's working for them
And what's not working for them.
And it does make me, at least, feel a little bit more at ease
Knowing that they're-- they're going through
Similar struggles and hurdles as us.
- Oh, yeah!
- Oh, shoot!
- Party bus.
- Oh, no, no. - Oh.
- You got it.
- That's what you learned in boy scouts?
- Yeah, mormon boy scouts. All: Mormon boy scouts.
- Throw the tack. - Mormon boy scouts, 1993.
- That's it. That was the year.
- '93? - No. It wouldn't be.
- No, because you were born in, what, '77?
[music slows to a halt] - '81?
[laughter]
- I thought you were--
- Am I, like, the first space program or something?
- That was, like, the nicest shade I've heard in a while.
- Damn! - I was just kidding!
- I didn't bring my burn cream with me.
[laughter]
[pop music]
♪ ♪
- ♪ ooh, la-la-la-la ♪
♪ this is how you make it hot ♪
♪ do you see me? ♪
♪ I'm the one who's making all those eyes ♪
♪ it's just a party and I know ♪
♪ I'm what you're looking for ♪
♪ so let me break it down ♪
♪ 'cause this is how I do it, boy ♪
♪ ♪
- Damn. I don't know.
- Oh, and we have little name tag things.
- Thank you.
♪ ♪
- Well, congrats. I mean, we've made it a month.
- Crazy.
- A month ago, I didn't think we'd get here,
But here we are.
- Clink, clink, clink clink, clink, clink.
- Clink. Clinking.
- I would love to hear how everyone celebrated.
- What'd everybody do? - We went to rutledge falls.
- Yeah, so we decided to do a jamaican redemption...
- Oh, nice. - Party.
- And we saddled up hank.
We had the whole family. - Yeah, hank went.
- Aww, the family. - Oh, hank?
- Clint and hank are bonding.
They're in love.
- But are clint and gina bonding?
[lighthearted music]
- Yeah. - Yeah, we're bonding.
- Yeah.
We've--we've come a long way in a couple weeks.
And so we just--we keep propping each other up.
And it's nice to focus on the positives.
Yeah, we feel like we're in a great place.
- I didn't have high hopes for you guys after jamaica.
- Thanks. Yeah. Perfect. - I'm sorry.
But truthfully, you two have turned it around,
And it's really beautiful to see.
- I think y'all look great together, though.
- I agree. - Yeah, for real.
- Thanks. - Y'all do. Y'all do.
- With hank, too, I'm like, yeah,
Y'all look great together.
- And y'all have a good time together too.
- Yeah, we do. Yeah.
- So that's definitely something.
- Well, yeah, we're in a good place.
But time's ticking too.
But we're--yeah, we're at least on the right trajectory.
- Yeah.
♪ ♪
- So, jas and airris, what about you?
Have things developed?
I mean, you guys--you know, I'm a body-language reader,
And you're already giving me great vibes.
So I feel good about what you're about to say,
And please don't let me down.
[tense music]
♪ ♪
- I'm--I mean, I'm attracted to him.
So it's just like,
I'm just kind of letting him take the lead.
And if it grows for him, great,
And if it doesn't, I have to accept it, so...
- It does feel like you guys are doing more.
You're getting to know each other's personalities, and...
- Yeah. - Feelings are being shared.
So, I mean, it might not be physical growth.
But one day you might be like, "wow,
I'm in love with his or her personality,"
And then the physical just naturally comes, so...
- Yeah. - I still have really
High hopes for you guys. - [laughs]
- Yeah.
- Airris needs to start treating his wife
Like a wife and not a friend.
- And with airris, I think he's just definitely
In his own head about it.
Like, jas is a beautiful woman.
But again, it's one of those things
Where he seems to kind of just not really feel that way.
And I don't know.
I mean, it's going to be tough for them
To kind of get over that hump.
- I mean, pastor cal was like,
"you got to be more intentional.
You have to initiate."
But it's just like, how do you really want to initiate
Something with someone after they tell you, you know,
Like, "it ain't really there for me"?
So we're going to try to be more intentional
And initiate, but--
- I think just not rushing the process.
Like, I mean, I feel that for sure.
Like, I think all you can do is focus on where you're at
Day by day and continue to remind yourself that, like,
This still is one month in.
So it's a-- it's a conscious choice.
So...
- I have a question.
I mean, I can only ask you guys...
- Yeah. - That I know.
Is married sex different from, like, single sex?
- I feel like it-- - that's a good question.
- A little bit, because we know we have the rest
Of our lives to have sex, so we don't feel
The pressure to do it every time we're next to each other.
But at the same time, like, we just started.
So we want to do it as often as possible.
So it's a weird balance to find.
- Yeah, yeah.
- Yeah, so... - I mean--no?
Are you guys-- - uh.
- [gasp] - no.
[laughs]
- Has anything progressed in the intimacy department?
And I don't mean kissing on the mouth,
Because we should be all doing that.
Well, you guys should at least be doing that.
No pressure.
- I mean, I've seen how you rub his head.
Just saying. - Yeah.
- Is the head a turn-on for you now?
- It's there, for sure.
- It's there. - It is. It's there.
It's nice, and it's smooth.
- Are we hitting any new bases?
- Um, not really.
[dramatic music]
What do you think?
- You don't know? Are you awake?
- Like, we have a little bit of connection.
Like, the chemistry's there a little bit.
- I think it's--I think it's there, honestly,
And I think, you know, for me--
- I've definitely been giving kirsten grace and patience.
But sometimes that just run thin.
And I don't know if I can move forward in my life knowing
That, you know, I put forth all of the effort, you know,
To break down my walls, to be vulnerable,
To work on things that I know I need
To work on in our marriage,
And the same energy is not given.
♪ ♪
- Seems like a sore subject.
♪ ♪
[tense music]
♪ ♪
- Like, we have a little bit of connection.
Like, the chemistry is there a little bit.
- I think it's-- I think it's there, honestly.
And I think, you know, for me--
- Shaq's like, I'm ready to make out.
- It seems like a sore subject.
- Well, I find, like, over-communication
Is always better than under-communication.
You've got to be ready to be vulnerable,
Because this is a crazy situation.
It's not normal.
- And that comes to-- all of that comes with,
Like, learning each other, and having that time.
- Well, we're just growing. And, you know--
- It's taking some time.
- It's been a month, guys. It's--
- Yeah, that's--I think that's when you just have to, like...
[clicks tongue] take a step back,
And just constantly remind yourself,
Like, how crazy this is.
Because it's crazy. - Yeah, it is.
- Well, and I think the common denominator with all of us
Is, like, grace.
Like, all of us have different areas
That we can consistently be extending grace
And growing through, so...
- Here's to grace and growth, right here.
- Yeah, grace and growth. - Grace and growth. G and g.
Both: Clink, clink, clink clink, clink, clink.
- ♪ mountains are for burning ♪
♪ heavens are for flying ♪
♪ with your hand in mine, we can do anything ♪
♪ we can do anything ♪
- Oh, goodness. What a night.
♪ ♪
[laughing]
Oh, goodness.
I'm glad we can laugh now.
I was a little stressed out at the table.
- It just--for me, I guess, every time
When we get together, it's like something--
I always hit another level. Like--
- Mm-hmm.
- Ok, we talk about these things.
We're working towards, you know,
Getting to the next level, and then it's like, boom.
- Well, what was it that I said that made you feel like
It's a setback in our marriage?
- You know, when you be like, you know, you was like--
They was all, "how's the intimacy level
Or the chemistry level," you was like,
"I just feel like it's really little."
I'm like, what in the hell?
[tense music]
I just really want to know, like, what kirsten needs.
Because it seem like every time I'm trying
Or get to, you know, the next level,
It's like when we get
In front of everybody else, I'm left blindsided,
Because I'm like, damn, she couldn't
Tell me this at the house?
Like, she couldn't tell me when we got home later?
She can't tell me how she honestly feel?
- So I check in with you sometimes,
And I'm like, "shaquille, how do you feel right now?"
Like, you don't--you have to check in with me too and say,
"kirsten, how do you feel right now,"
If I'm not telling you how I feel
When I ask you how you're feeling.
And that's when it goes back to the communication level.
So you're not going to know how I feel about
An intimacy level between you and I
If you're not asking me that question.
- You just can't come out and tell me?
♪ ♪
- That's what I'm saying-- if I don't come out
And tell you, then you should ask.
- You want me-- - I ask you how you feel.
Like, yeah, you should ask me how I feel.
- Kirsten, I always ask you, like, you know,
How are we doing, you know?
- When have you asked me that?
- Ok. Let's see.
Kirsten renee,
How do you feel about our marriage right now?
- I definitely feel like we need to work on communication.
Like, this is horrible right now.
And I really feel like the intimacy level
Could be better.
- At the beginning, I had to grow and say,
Like, ok, I can be patient enough
And wait till it happened.
But now it's like it's on kirsten time.
Kirsten want it to happen when she want it to happen.
But at the beginning, you had that guard up,
And you did not want that to happen at all.
You barely wanted me to touch you.
- But now that we're there, and I'm starting
To open up to you and I'm letting those walls down,
It seem like-- - but that's on your time.
- I know, but-- - but you don't look at it
From my position to say, ok-- - ok. Explain to me.
- It--it seem like, in your life,
That it's always been on your time of which you want it.
And for me, like, no, that ain't gonna fly.
It's not all about kirsten.
- It's not, and I tell you that too.
It's about the both of us.
But this is not gonna help our relationship.
This is not gonna help our marriage grow.
♪ ♪
- I don't know if I want to be with somebody
Who just continues to have a guard up with somebody
Who actually want to be in this marriage with them.
♪ ♪
- Next time on "married at first sight"...
[goats bleating]
- ♪ so keep digging deeper ♪
- How are you?
- ♪ soon I'm gonna find myself ♪
- Dr. Pepper!
- Our couples must learn to go deeper with their spouses
In order to make an informed decision about their future.
- So what about chemistry and intimacy?
How is that increasing?
♪ ♪
- We've been doing better at it.
- [laughs] - because at first--
- Dr. Pepper's like, "good."
- We've been doing better.
- I've just started to love myself,
And now I'm in this marriage that I've longed for forever,
And now my person not even feeling me.
[dramatic music]
- You know, I grew up with a single mom,
And so I'm-- it's easy for me to be
Super vulnerable with women.
But with men, I've struggled with opening up.
- I've noticed, since we've been married,
That my past relationships actually affected me
A lot more than they did, because being vulnerable
Made you weak.
And when you're weak, you get taken advantage of.
I'm a little worried that I'll just wake up,
And this little happy life we're living won't--
Won't be so happy anymore.
- You both made this enormous commitment to each other.
You need to go over and above what feels easy.
I'm asking you to dig deep and do that.