1 00:00:02,208 --> 00:00:03,417 - ♪ Closer to you ♪ 2 00:00:03,542 --> 00:00:04,792 - No one's ever gonna want to be around us. 3 00:00:04,875 --> 00:00:05,875 We're never gonna shut up. 4 00:00:06,000 --> 00:00:07,708 - 10 fearless singles 5 00:00:07,833 --> 00:00:09,000 took a brave leap of faith 6 00:00:09,083 --> 00:00:11,250 in order to find love. 7 00:00:11,375 --> 00:00:14,167 They married as complete strangers. 8 00:00:14,292 --> 00:00:17,333 ♪ ♪ 9 00:00:17,500 --> 00:00:19,417 With less than a week before Decision Day, 10 00:00:19,542 --> 00:00:21,583 our couples enjoyed a retreat with the intention 11 00:00:21,708 --> 00:00:23,667 of strengthening their bonds. 12 00:00:23,833 --> 00:00:26,333 Jasmine and Airris. 13 00:00:26,458 --> 00:00:28,500 - I think I just need for you to keep creating 14 00:00:28,583 --> 00:00:32,583 a safe space for us to continue to grow 15 00:00:32,708 --> 00:00:34,875 our connection and intimacy. 16 00:00:35,042 --> 00:00:37,667 - The fact that both of us are still trying, 17 00:00:37,792 --> 00:00:41,083 hopefully that spark can come with the little bit 18 00:00:41,208 --> 00:00:42,417 of time we have left. 19 00:00:42,542 --> 00:00:44,750 - Gina and Clint. 20 00:00:44,875 --> 00:00:49,417 - I have just fully charged my batteries being out here. 21 00:00:49,542 --> 00:00:51,250 - I think there's no doubt in my mind 22 00:00:51,375 --> 00:00:53,333 that Clint and I have fun together. 23 00:00:53,458 --> 00:00:56,958 And there could be a chance that this marriage 24 00:00:57,083 --> 00:00:58,667 could still build into something. 25 00:01:00,125 --> 00:01:02,333 - Nicole and Chris. 26 00:01:02,500 --> 00:01:05,750 - I really would love us to solidify a plan of what 27 00:01:05,875 --> 00:01:08,500 our lives together will look like after Decision Day 28 00:01:08,625 --> 00:01:12,167 because it is making me a little anxious 29 00:01:12,333 --> 00:01:14,833 and can you at least promise me 30 00:01:14,917 --> 00:01:16,833 that we will figure something out? 31 00:01:16,958 --> 00:01:17,833 - It's been the plan the whole time. 32 00:01:17,958 --> 00:01:18,958 - So yes, you're saying yes. 33 00:01:19,042 --> 00:01:21,292 OK, thank you. - Yeah. 34 00:01:21,375 --> 00:01:23,292 - Kirsten and Shaquille. 35 00:01:23,375 --> 00:01:24,833 - Where do we go from here? 36 00:01:24,917 --> 00:01:26,167 - I'm working to get on the same page. 37 00:01:26,250 --> 00:01:27,792 - Working to get on the same page. 38 00:01:27,875 --> 00:01:29,083 Do you feel like that's possible? 39 00:01:29,208 --> 00:01:30,542 - I know it's possible. 40 00:01:30,667 --> 00:01:33,333 - I just don't want my marriage to feel like a struggle. 41 00:01:33,458 --> 00:01:35,083 ♪ ♪ 42 00:01:35,208 --> 00:01:36,917 - ♪ Don't stop, don't stop ♪ 43 00:01:37,042 --> 00:01:38,708 ♪ Come on, move with me ♪ 44 00:01:38,875 --> 00:01:41,458 - And tonight, our couples must navigate the reality 45 00:01:41,583 --> 00:01:44,500 of what their lives might look like after Decision Day, 46 00:01:44,583 --> 00:01:49,167 and if their marriage has what it takes to last forever. 47 00:01:49,292 --> 00:01:50,958 - This man, you're attracted to him 48 00:01:51,083 --> 00:01:52,083 but you're questioning everything. 49 00:01:52,208 --> 00:01:54,375 Be patient with this man, for he does have 50 00:01:54,542 --> 00:01:57,667 a lot of growing up to do, but his heart is good. 51 00:01:57,792 --> 00:02:01,500 - He brings this energy that's like this sense 52 00:02:01,625 --> 00:02:03,333 of a bizarre energy. 53 00:02:03,458 --> 00:02:05,708 At first I was like, like it's the crass sense of humor, 54 00:02:05,833 --> 00:02:09,833 like almost like a feeling of secondhand embarrassment. 55 00:02:09,958 --> 00:02:13,167 - To sideline me out of nowhere 56 00:02:13,292 --> 00:02:15,500 with just like this crazy information. 57 00:02:15,625 --> 00:02:18,417 Like, why? What--what was the intent? 58 00:02:18,542 --> 00:02:20,833 - Lord. Like, I don't understand what's going on. 59 00:02:20,958 --> 00:02:22,208 [dramatic music] 60 00:02:22,333 --> 00:02:23,917 - Can I see myself with this woman 61 00:02:24,042 --> 00:02:24,917 for the rest of my life? 62 00:02:25,042 --> 00:02:26,417 Will it last? 63 00:02:26,542 --> 00:02:28,208 - When the process is done, do I still 64 00:02:28,333 --> 00:02:29,542 think I'll feel the same way? 65 00:02:29,708 --> 00:02:30,833 - Why do you want to marry this-- 66 00:02:30,958 --> 00:02:32,458 stay married to this loser? 67 00:02:32,542 --> 00:02:34,542 - Sometimes I don't feel that spark. 68 00:02:34,667 --> 00:02:35,708 - Is it me? 69 00:02:35,833 --> 00:02:36,708 - It's like, why are we here? 70 00:02:36,833 --> 00:02:37,708 Do we like each other? 71 00:02:37,833 --> 00:02:38,833 Like, what's going on? 72 00:02:38,917 --> 00:02:40,833 ♪ ♪ 73 00:02:40,958 --> 00:02:42,625 - ♪ It's all or nothing ♪ 74 00:02:42,708 --> 00:02:45,125 - This is "Married at First Sight." 75 00:02:45,250 --> 00:02:47,125 - ♪ There's no other way ♪ 76 00:02:47,208 --> 00:02:48,750 ♪ ♪ 77 00:02:48,875 --> 00:02:50,917 ♪ It's all or nothing ♪ 78 00:02:51,042 --> 00:02:53,833 [upbeat music] 79 00:02:53,917 --> 00:02:56,667 ♪ ♪ 80 00:02:56,792 --> 00:02:57,708 - Finally. 81 00:02:57,833 --> 00:03:01,667 - Home sweet home. 82 00:03:01,792 --> 00:03:03,542 - Feels so good to be home. 83 00:03:03,708 --> 00:03:06,417 - I've never been so happy to come to this apartment. 84 00:03:06,542 --> 00:03:08,333 - Oh. Thank you. - Whoa. 85 00:03:08,417 --> 00:03:10,417 You're welcome. - Heyo. 86 00:03:10,542 --> 00:03:16,083 ♪ ♪ 87 00:03:16,208 --> 00:03:17,750 - Let me just unpack. 88 00:03:17,875 --> 00:03:18,708 - It feels good to be home. 89 00:03:18,833 --> 00:03:20,083 - I know. 90 00:03:20,208 --> 00:03:21,500 I miss the boys, though. - Yeah. 91 00:03:21,625 --> 00:03:22,583 It sucks we didn't make it back in time to get them 92 00:03:22,708 --> 00:03:24,250 but it's all right. 93 00:03:24,375 --> 00:03:25,833 - But it was a worthwhile road trip, right? 94 00:03:26,000 --> 00:03:27,333 We had fun. 95 00:03:27,500 --> 00:03:29,125 - Yeah, it was a fun weekend, for sure. 96 00:03:29,250 --> 00:03:30,833 I enjoyed it. 97 00:03:30,958 --> 00:03:33,125 If I had to go just off this weekend, I don't know. 98 00:03:33,250 --> 00:03:34,667 It's kind of very close, neck and neck 99 00:03:34,792 --> 00:03:38,167 between Airris and Jas and Shaq and Kirsten 100 00:03:38,292 --> 00:03:39,500 making the biggest strides. 101 00:03:39,625 --> 00:03:41,958 - I think-- - I think it's close. 102 00:03:42,042 --> 00:03:43,375 - Jas and Airris have made the biggest. 103 00:03:43,500 --> 00:03:44,542 - Yeah. 104 00:03:44,708 --> 00:03:46,542 - And I always feel like whenever we talk 105 00:03:46,708 --> 00:03:49,333 about who's growing and who's doing well, 106 00:03:49,417 --> 00:03:50,792 we always leave ourselves out. 107 00:03:50,875 --> 00:03:52,250 - Yeah. 108 00:03:52,375 --> 00:03:54,000 - I know that we are doing really well, 109 00:03:54,125 --> 00:03:57,417 but every time we do have-- even if it's a little growth 110 00:03:57,542 --> 00:03:59,208 moment, that's huge for us 111 00:03:59,333 --> 00:04:02,458 because we have grown so much already. 112 00:04:02,542 --> 00:04:07,125 So I definitely saw a little of your competitive side 113 00:04:07,250 --> 00:04:08,625 and you saw my competitive side, 114 00:04:08,708 --> 00:04:11,958 and normally I would have been a sore loser 115 00:04:12,083 --> 00:04:13,750 or not participated. 116 00:04:13,875 --> 00:04:15,500 - Yeah. 117 00:04:15,625 --> 00:04:17,083 - Ugh. 118 00:04:17,208 --> 00:04:19,125 I have flipped a Monopoly board before. 119 00:04:19,208 --> 00:04:21,125 - Have you? - Yeah. 120 00:04:21,208 --> 00:04:23,958 I start to falter a little bit and then 121 00:04:24,083 --> 00:04:26,542 I start to get really angry. 122 00:04:26,708 --> 00:04:30,583 But because of you reminding me, like, this will be fun, 123 00:04:30,708 --> 00:04:33,708 and even if you do lose, it's OK and it's not a big deal. 124 00:04:33,875 --> 00:04:36,708 I will admit, I had fun, even though I didn't win. 125 00:04:36,875 --> 00:04:41,042 And that really showed me that if I'm with you, 126 00:04:41,167 --> 00:04:42,833 I can do anything and make it enjoyable. 127 00:04:42,958 --> 00:04:45,000 So that was a nice moment. 128 00:04:45,125 --> 00:04:48,000 And you didn't pineapple me at all. 129 00:04:48,125 --> 00:04:50,042 I think we should have a code word. 130 00:04:50,208 --> 00:04:52,042 Don't ask me why, the first thing that came into my head 131 00:04:52,208 --> 00:04:54,167 when I thought of this was pineapple. 132 00:04:54,292 --> 00:04:56,583 If you ever feel like "old Nicole" coming out 133 00:04:56,708 --> 00:04:59,042 or I'm just being too much and you're like, 134 00:04:59,167 --> 00:05:00,000 "Hey, Nicole, pineapple." 135 00:05:00,083 --> 00:05:01,958 I'm like, OK. 136 00:05:02,042 --> 00:05:05,250 He's giving me the signal to back off and just relax. 137 00:05:05,375 --> 00:05:06,500 - No, I mean, I agree with that. 138 00:05:06,625 --> 00:05:09,417 And I think it's a good thing too. 139 00:05:09,542 --> 00:05:11,375 - Were there any situations 140 00:05:11,500 --> 00:05:13,667 where you wanted to but you just didn't? 141 00:05:13,792 --> 00:05:16,750 Like I need--I need to know if I was failing at my goal. 142 00:05:16,875 --> 00:05:20,542 - I mean, honestly, speaking of that... 143 00:05:20,667 --> 00:05:23,083 ♪ ♪ 144 00:05:23,208 --> 00:05:25,750 I've never had to pineapple you. 145 00:05:25,875 --> 00:05:28,000 Like, it's not necessary, because in the beginning, 146 00:05:28,167 --> 00:05:30,167 you're probably like, I might be too much for this guy, 147 00:05:30,292 --> 00:05:31,667 I don't know this guy, like, who knows. 148 00:05:31,792 --> 00:05:34,375 I've been maybe told that I'm too much in the past. 149 00:05:34,500 --> 00:05:36,125 But I've obviously told you you're not. 150 00:05:36,208 --> 00:05:37,417 And I've told you if you get to that point, 151 00:05:37,542 --> 00:05:39,458 like, we'll just talk about it. 152 00:05:39,542 --> 00:05:41,208 So like, rather than using the word, 153 00:05:41,333 --> 00:05:42,833 I think it's more like, 154 00:05:42,917 --> 00:05:45,042 I can just give you a look or kind of like touch you 155 00:05:45,208 --> 00:05:46,958 and you're like, we understand each other. 156 00:05:47,083 --> 00:05:49,625 So I think it'd be a fun idea to just get rid of it. 157 00:05:49,750 --> 00:05:51,292 - OK. 158 00:05:51,417 --> 00:05:55,167 - So--and to kind of show that, I say let's kind of, 159 00:05:55,333 --> 00:05:56,500 do out with the pineapples. 160 00:05:56,625 --> 00:05:58,708 - We're never getting rid of pineapples. 161 00:05:58,833 --> 00:06:00,500 But we can get rid of the safe word. 162 00:06:00,667 --> 00:06:04,458 - I'm talking about the stuff in the apartment. 163 00:06:04,583 --> 00:06:07,667 - We can compromise. 164 00:06:07,750 --> 00:06:09,208 - I do love pineapples myself, but-- 165 00:06:09,333 --> 00:06:10,708 - It can go into my office. How about that? 166 00:06:10,833 --> 00:06:12,167 - It can be part of your office. 167 00:06:12,292 --> 00:06:13,333 - They don't need to be part of our marriage. 168 00:06:13,500 --> 00:06:15,167 Is that a fair compromise? - Yeah. 169 00:06:15,292 --> 00:06:18,667 - I can come on strong and be a lot. 170 00:06:18,833 --> 00:06:22,542 And I know some men can be intimidated by that. 171 00:06:22,667 --> 00:06:24,458 All right. - There's two. 172 00:06:24,542 --> 00:06:27,042 - We love you, but you're just going to come to my office. 173 00:06:27,167 --> 00:06:29,833 But my husband doesn't just love me on my good days. 174 00:06:29,917 --> 00:06:32,000 He sees more of the bad days than anything else 175 00:06:32,125 --> 00:06:35,917 and he loves me not in spite of that, but because of that. 176 00:06:36,042 --> 00:06:39,208 I wish more people could feel this way, but it's my feeling 177 00:06:39,333 --> 00:06:42,333 and I'm gonna live in it, and I love him. 178 00:06:42,458 --> 00:06:44,167 I think that's it. 179 00:06:44,292 --> 00:06:45,250 - There's one more. 180 00:06:45,375 --> 00:06:47,458 - No, that's the dog toy. 181 00:06:47,542 --> 00:06:48,792 We're not getting rid of that one. 182 00:06:48,917 --> 00:06:50,292 That is for the dog. 183 00:06:50,417 --> 00:06:51,833 - No, I'll take it back to my place for them 184 00:06:51,958 --> 00:06:53,208 so they have toys when I bring them over there. 185 00:06:53,375 --> 00:06:55,000 So don't worry about it. - OK. 186 00:06:55,125 --> 00:06:56,667 - So I'm not throwing it out, I'll just take it back. 187 00:06:56,792 --> 00:06:58,667 - We can't get rid of the dog's toy. 188 00:06:58,792 --> 00:07:02,708 ♪ ♪ 189 00:07:02,833 --> 00:07:08,000 - ♪ Ooh, where we go when we are alone ♪ 190 00:07:08,167 --> 00:07:10,167 ♪ Oh ♪ 191 00:07:10,333 --> 00:07:17,042 ♪ ♪ 192 00:07:19,958 --> 00:07:23,833 - Well, the weekend is over. [laughs] 193 00:07:24,000 --> 00:07:28,833 - Thanks for making couples retreat just smooth 194 00:07:28,917 --> 00:07:33,000 and welcoming and a lit, fun, turnt-up time. 195 00:07:33,083 --> 00:07:34,458 I appreciate it. 196 00:07:34,583 --> 00:07:36,375 - You left Airris and you came back 197 00:07:36,500 --> 00:07:38,708 Mr. Couples Retreat King. 198 00:07:38,875 --> 00:07:40,500 - Ooh. Can't get enough of that. 199 00:07:40,667 --> 00:07:42,542 - [laughs] - Hi, haters. 200 00:07:42,708 --> 00:07:44,792 - Hi, haters. - It was real. 201 00:07:44,875 --> 00:07:47,500 - It was real, it was fun, it was real fun. 202 00:07:48,708 --> 00:07:51,000 - Heading into Decision Day. 203 00:07:51,167 --> 00:07:54,292 I think each couple has some things to work on. 204 00:07:54,375 --> 00:07:55,750 - Yeah. 205 00:07:55,875 --> 00:07:59,333 - You know, so everybody makes the proper, 206 00:07:59,417 --> 00:08:01,750 best decision and no regrets. 207 00:08:01,875 --> 00:08:04,208 [soft music] 208 00:08:04,375 --> 00:08:08,167 I feel like everybody's headed on the right path, overall. 209 00:08:08,333 --> 00:08:11,167 So I feel like, just coming back after couples retreat, 210 00:08:11,292 --> 00:08:12,833 having that reset. 211 00:08:12,958 --> 00:08:16,208 It appeared that everybody left like, in good spirits. 212 00:08:16,375 --> 00:08:18,250 - Yeah, to leave better than you came. 213 00:08:18,375 --> 00:08:19,333 - Happy for us. 214 00:08:19,500 --> 00:08:22,833 I'm happy for the group overall. 215 00:08:22,917 --> 00:08:24,500 - Yeah. 216 00:08:24,583 --> 00:08:26,458 - I feel like you've already, like, 217 00:08:26,542 --> 00:08:28,542 shown improvement and made efforts 218 00:08:28,667 --> 00:08:31,667 to like, you know, work on the things that we discussed. 219 00:08:31,792 --> 00:08:36,458 So I just need you to just to continue like, speaking up. 220 00:08:36,542 --> 00:08:39,833 That's when you're the best version of yourself, so. 221 00:08:40,000 --> 00:08:41,708 ♪ ♪ 222 00:08:41,875 --> 00:08:44,708 What do you need from me to do? 223 00:08:44,833 --> 00:08:49,708 - I feel like just continue to create the safe space for me 224 00:08:49,875 --> 00:08:52,792 so that I can feel OK if you do something, 225 00:08:52,917 --> 00:08:54,667 or just expressing how I'm feeling in general, 226 00:08:54,792 --> 00:08:57,667 whether it has anything to do with you or not, 227 00:08:57,792 --> 00:08:59,750 and trusting that like, you want to hear that 228 00:08:59,875 --> 00:09:02,417 and that you want to listen to me and that you care. 229 00:09:02,542 --> 00:09:05,833 And then just basically us finding different ways 230 00:09:06,000 --> 00:09:08,917 to connect and to like, increase our intimacy. 231 00:09:09,042 --> 00:09:10,500 - Yeah. 232 00:09:10,625 --> 00:09:11,875 I would have no issue. 233 00:09:12,000 --> 00:09:13,833 Like if there were times where like, 234 00:09:13,958 --> 00:09:16,708 you initiated like, a hand grab or a hug or something. 235 00:09:16,875 --> 00:09:20,167 I mean, you already have, so. 236 00:09:20,292 --> 00:09:22,333 - I just want to feel like you want to do those things. 237 00:09:22,417 --> 00:09:24,708 So. 238 00:09:24,875 --> 00:09:26,500 - And I feel like we've started a little bit 239 00:09:26,667 --> 00:09:29,583 and it doesn't feel forced, it doesn't feel like-- 240 00:09:29,708 --> 00:09:31,000 you know, like it feels natural. 241 00:09:31,125 --> 00:09:32,708 So I feel like the more and more we do it, 242 00:09:32,833 --> 00:09:35,000 it will just continue to feel natural 243 00:09:35,167 --> 00:09:36,667 because for the longest-- 244 00:09:36,792 --> 00:09:38,583 the longer we didn't do it, 245 00:09:38,708 --> 00:09:40,375 it felt awkward to do it, you know? 246 00:09:40,542 --> 00:09:42,833 So. - Yeah. 247 00:09:43,000 --> 00:09:45,292 - Feel like we can just continue to do 248 00:09:45,417 --> 00:09:46,667 those things going forward. 249 00:09:46,792 --> 00:09:50,833 - ♪ Let the magic begin ♪ 250 00:09:50,958 --> 00:09:53,667 ♪ ♪ 251 00:09:53,750 --> 00:09:56,792 [upbeat country music] 252 00:09:56,875 --> 00:10:03,708 ♪ ♪ 253 00:10:06,333 --> 00:10:07,292 - I'm ready for a coffee. 254 00:10:07,417 --> 00:10:09,375 What about you, buddy, huh? 255 00:10:09,500 --> 00:10:11,292 You need that caffeine kick? 256 00:10:11,417 --> 00:10:13,667 Get you a triple espresso. 257 00:10:13,792 --> 00:10:15,667 Things are going really well for me and Gina 258 00:10:15,792 --> 00:10:17,750 right now, just where we are in our relationship, 259 00:10:17,875 --> 00:10:21,500 but it's been maybe a little more slow rolling. 260 00:10:21,583 --> 00:10:24,333 On the other hand, Hank is my boy. 261 00:10:24,500 --> 00:10:26,667 We've got a full-on bromance for sure, 262 00:10:26,833 --> 00:10:30,167 so we have a good connection. 263 00:10:30,333 --> 00:10:32,333 We're a pack. 264 00:10:32,417 --> 00:10:33,958 Hanky. 265 00:10:34,042 --> 00:10:35,542 What do you want? 266 00:10:35,708 --> 00:10:39,417 Do you want something of the fall season? 267 00:10:39,542 --> 00:10:41,083 Yeah. 268 00:10:41,208 --> 00:10:45,667 I would like to get a pumpkin cream cold brew 269 00:10:45,792 --> 00:10:48,583 and then for my furry canine companion 270 00:10:48,708 --> 00:10:51,000 we would like a pup cup. 271 00:10:51,125 --> 00:10:53,500 ♪ ♪ 272 00:10:53,583 --> 00:10:55,042 Come here, buddy. 273 00:10:55,167 --> 00:10:56,167 You want a pup cup? 274 00:10:56,333 --> 00:10:58,042 Oh, there it is. 275 00:10:58,167 --> 00:10:59,083 Here it is. 276 00:10:59,208 --> 00:11:00,500 Oh, it's so good. 277 00:11:00,625 --> 00:11:02,292 Yes, get it all over your face. 278 00:11:02,417 --> 00:11:03,625 Get it. 279 00:11:03,750 --> 00:11:06,667 Oh, it's so good. 280 00:11:06,792 --> 00:11:10,292 You are all the way in that thing. 281 00:11:10,375 --> 00:11:13,333 Good for you. 282 00:11:13,458 --> 00:11:15,667 Oh, so much drool. 283 00:11:15,792 --> 00:11:19,083 I would hate to hurt Gina's feelings 284 00:11:19,208 --> 00:11:21,208 and say that Hank loves me more, 285 00:11:21,375 --> 00:11:22,708 but he loves me more. 286 00:11:22,875 --> 00:11:25,667 You all jazzed up too? 287 00:11:25,792 --> 00:11:28,667 All hyped up on some whipped cream? 288 00:11:28,792 --> 00:11:32,708 [upbeat music] 289 00:11:32,875 --> 00:11:35,708 - ♪ Oh, is this love, is it right ♪ 290 00:11:35,833 --> 00:11:37,625 ♪ All I know is what I like ♪ 291 00:11:37,708 --> 00:11:39,833 ♪ ♪ 292 00:11:39,958 --> 00:11:41,875 - How's your day going? - Good. How you doing? 293 00:11:42,000 --> 00:11:43,417 - Happy to see you, brother. 294 00:11:43,542 --> 00:11:44,833 - Happy to see you too. 295 00:11:44,958 --> 00:11:47,833 - Oh, Lord, we have so much catching up to do. 296 00:11:47,958 --> 00:11:49,125 - Yeah. Definitely. 297 00:11:49,250 --> 00:11:50,417 How are you doing? 298 00:11:50,542 --> 00:11:52,333 - I'm doing good. I'm doing good. 299 00:11:52,417 --> 00:11:55,417 You know, Shaquille and I are still on this journey. 300 00:11:55,542 --> 00:11:58,292 - How's it been going? - [sighs] 301 00:11:58,417 --> 00:12:00,250 It's been up and down, honestly. 302 00:12:00,375 --> 00:12:04,208 Like, we've had our good days and we've had other days 303 00:12:04,333 --> 00:12:07,125 where we still try to figure out the communication. 304 00:12:07,208 --> 00:12:09,583 And when we're together, I don't feel like 305 00:12:09,708 --> 00:12:12,292 we're having enough intentional conversations. 306 00:12:12,417 --> 00:12:14,708 - When you say intentional, what do you mean? 307 00:12:14,833 --> 00:12:16,417 - Like, where do we see this marriage going? 308 00:12:16,542 --> 00:12:20,292 Like, what are our plans after this experience is over, 309 00:12:20,417 --> 00:12:22,167 like our living situations? 310 00:12:22,250 --> 00:12:25,000 Like, intentional conversations like that, the real me, like. 311 00:12:25,083 --> 00:12:27,042 - So what do you think gonna happen next? 312 00:12:27,208 --> 00:12:29,167 Without him saying anything, what do you think? 313 00:12:29,292 --> 00:12:32,000 - I'm still a little undecided because I still 314 00:12:32,083 --> 00:12:36,625 don't feel 100%, like, emotionally connected to him. 315 00:12:36,750 --> 00:12:38,667 And then sometimes I also don't feel 316 00:12:38,792 --> 00:12:42,042 like the physical connection is there as well. 317 00:12:42,167 --> 00:12:43,917 Like, I don't feel like we're being affectionate 318 00:12:44,042 --> 00:12:45,542 enough towards each other. 319 00:12:45,708 --> 00:12:47,167 I just don't-- 320 00:12:47,333 --> 00:12:49,583 I don't feel like he's trying to win me over. 321 00:12:49,708 --> 00:12:51,708 Like I don't feel like he's that interested 322 00:12:51,833 --> 00:12:53,292 in being in this marriage with me. 323 00:12:53,417 --> 00:12:55,958 ♪ ♪ 324 00:12:56,042 --> 00:12:57,458 It just feels like we're-- 325 00:12:57,542 --> 00:12:59,042 - Disconnected. - Disconnected. 326 00:12:59,208 --> 00:13:01,042 And it feels like we're just living 327 00:13:01,208 --> 00:13:03,083 with each other and existing together. 328 00:13:05,042 --> 00:13:08,708 I feel like he is trying to insert himself 329 00:13:08,833 --> 00:13:10,500 in so many things at one time 330 00:13:10,625 --> 00:13:12,833 that he's gonna miss out on something. 331 00:13:12,958 --> 00:13:14,500 - He gotta keep school over here, 332 00:13:14,625 --> 00:13:16,167 he got to keep his wife right here, 333 00:13:16,333 --> 00:13:18,667 he got to keep his job over there. 334 00:13:18,833 --> 00:13:20,792 Because if you try to put all them things together, 335 00:13:20,875 --> 00:13:22,667 then you really not gonna know. 336 00:13:22,792 --> 00:13:23,917 - So he needs to find balance. 337 00:13:24,042 --> 00:13:25,042 - And that's why it's hard. 338 00:13:25,208 --> 00:13:26,833 Yeah, that's why it's hard for you 339 00:13:27,000 --> 00:13:29,667 to feel secure because he's doing a lot of things 340 00:13:29,833 --> 00:13:32,167 at one time to try to get to where he's going, 341 00:13:32,333 --> 00:13:33,875 which is understandable. 342 00:13:34,042 --> 00:13:35,833 But you got to really learn to separate them things 343 00:13:36,000 --> 00:13:39,500 because you don't want your job and your marriage 344 00:13:39,583 --> 00:13:42,125 going hand in hand, because you start doing stuff 345 00:13:42,250 --> 00:13:43,958 like that, it just, it don't turn out right. 346 00:13:44,042 --> 00:13:45,875 - You lose focus, yeah. 347 00:13:47,708 --> 00:13:49,167 Thank you. 348 00:13:49,292 --> 00:13:50,708 - So do you feel like it's anything you need to fix? 349 00:13:50,875 --> 00:13:52,083 - I mean... 350 00:13:52,208 --> 00:13:53,042 - Do you feel like he's just 351 00:13:53,167 --> 00:13:55,250 the happiest man in the world? 352 00:13:55,375 --> 00:13:58,000 - He said he's happy, but now that we've been together 353 00:13:58,125 --> 00:14:01,625 for a while, I really feel like in order for me 354 00:14:01,708 --> 00:14:03,708 to continue to make him happy, it's like, 355 00:14:03,875 --> 00:14:06,000 make for sure that he's coming around the family 356 00:14:06,125 --> 00:14:07,500 and everything because that's something 357 00:14:07,667 --> 00:14:08,958 that he really wants. 358 00:14:09,042 --> 00:14:10,208 So I can definitely kind of like, step up 359 00:14:10,375 --> 00:14:12,042 and take the initiative. 360 00:14:12,208 --> 00:14:14,792 Make him feel like he's part of our family, because he is. 361 00:14:14,875 --> 00:14:17,292 He married into our family. 362 00:14:17,417 --> 00:14:19,292 So I am gonna have something at the house, 363 00:14:19,417 --> 00:14:23,875 but it'd just be me, you, Mama, and Shaquille, 364 00:14:24,042 --> 00:14:26,000 because we're the only ones that are available. 365 00:14:26,083 --> 00:14:27,875 And I know you don't have much time because you have to work, 366 00:14:28,000 --> 00:14:30,500 so I appreciate you just hop by. 367 00:14:30,625 --> 00:14:32,167 - But I still want to make him-- 368 00:14:32,292 --> 00:14:34,042 - Feel welcome. - Make him feel welcome, 369 00:14:34,167 --> 00:14:37,125 make him feel like he family. - Mm-hmm. 370 00:14:37,208 --> 00:14:41,000 And I want to take him by Dad's house soon 371 00:14:41,167 --> 00:14:43,000 because he still hasn't met Daddy yet. 372 00:14:43,083 --> 00:14:44,792 - I know you want to make sure he's the right person 373 00:14:44,917 --> 00:14:46,208 though, when you take him to Daddy. 374 00:14:46,333 --> 00:14:48,000 - [laughs] 375 00:14:48,125 --> 00:14:49,250 - Just like, I'll be whole. 376 00:14:49,375 --> 00:14:50,292 That's like the judge. 377 00:14:50,417 --> 00:14:51,792 - Right. 378 00:14:51,917 --> 00:14:53,500 - That's the judge. You got to make sure. 379 00:14:53,625 --> 00:14:59,167 He got the magic eye, he can see it, he can feel it. 380 00:14:59,250 --> 00:15:01,125 [laughter] 381 00:15:01,208 --> 00:15:02,125 - Yeah. 382 00:15:02,250 --> 00:15:04,667 So we'll see what Daddy says. 383 00:15:04,750 --> 00:15:06,208 But I want to feel it too. 384 00:15:06,333 --> 00:15:07,292 - I feel you. 385 00:15:07,417 --> 00:15:09,000 - I want to feel it. 386 00:15:09,125 --> 00:15:13,417 I'm always like, one foot over the fence and one foot 387 00:15:13,542 --> 00:15:16,583 on the other side of the fence because if we're meant to be, 388 00:15:16,708 --> 00:15:17,750 we're meant to be. 389 00:15:17,875 --> 00:15:19,750 But I also want to feel it. 390 00:15:19,875 --> 00:15:24,583 And right now, I'm not feeling it 100%. 391 00:15:24,708 --> 00:15:27,708 So I don't know. 392 00:15:27,833 --> 00:15:29,417 ♪ ♪ 393 00:15:33,333 --> 00:15:34,458 [rock music] 394 00:15:34,542 --> 00:15:38,042 ♪ ♪ 395 00:15:38,167 --> 00:15:39,500 - Oh, there's old cars. 396 00:15:39,583 --> 00:15:41,083 That's crazy. 397 00:15:41,208 --> 00:15:42,833 My brother's a life coach, so honestly, 398 00:15:42,917 --> 00:15:45,000 he has a lot of really good insight. 399 00:15:45,125 --> 00:15:47,167 So I wanted to bring Brandon here today 400 00:15:47,292 --> 00:15:49,042 because I thought it'd be a cool place just to kind of 401 00:15:49,167 --> 00:15:51,958 chat about my big decision and how things are going, 402 00:15:52,042 --> 00:15:54,000 but also, kind of just look at some vintage cars, 403 00:15:54,167 --> 00:15:56,542 look at a little bit of blast from the past kind of thing. 404 00:15:57,792 --> 00:16:01,000 [upbeat music] 405 00:16:01,125 --> 00:16:03,375 - This one is quite interesting. 406 00:16:03,542 --> 00:16:06,500 You notice if you look down, it's on two wheels in line. 407 00:16:06,667 --> 00:16:10,042 So it's a little gyroscope in there, it spins up. 408 00:16:10,167 --> 00:16:11,292 Show you guys something else. 409 00:16:11,375 --> 00:16:12,333 - Yeah. 410 00:16:12,458 --> 00:16:16,500 [whirring] 411 00:16:16,583 --> 00:16:17,875 Wow, that's crazy. 412 00:16:18,042 --> 00:16:19,250 - Does it run? Yes. 413 00:16:19,375 --> 00:16:20,167 Is it practical? 414 00:16:20,292 --> 00:16:21,875 No, not really. [laughter] 415 00:16:22,000 --> 00:16:25,167 ♪ ♪ 416 00:16:25,333 --> 00:16:26,250 - Oh, man. 417 00:16:26,375 --> 00:16:27,708 - Pretty cool place. - Yeah. 418 00:16:27,875 --> 00:16:31,042 Yeah, I appreciate you taking the time to come here. 419 00:16:31,208 --> 00:16:34,000 Obviously big day's coming up for me. 420 00:16:34,167 --> 00:16:35,542 Decision Day is coming really quick. 421 00:16:35,708 --> 00:16:37,667 It's kind of crazy that it's already almost here. 422 00:16:37,750 --> 00:16:38,708 - Yeah, it flew by. 423 00:16:38,833 --> 00:16:39,708 Are you excited? 424 00:16:39,875 --> 00:16:40,875 - Yeah, no, I'm real excited. 425 00:16:41,042 --> 00:16:42,750 It's been a journey. 426 00:16:42,875 --> 00:16:45,667 I feel really good about like, where me and Nicole are at. 427 00:16:45,750 --> 00:16:47,583 We get along really well. 428 00:16:47,708 --> 00:16:49,542 We've had like little bumps here and there, 429 00:16:49,667 --> 00:16:50,875 but nothing major. 430 00:16:51,042 --> 00:16:52,333 - It seems like you guys have really 431 00:16:52,458 --> 00:16:54,167 come together and created an understanding 432 00:16:54,292 --> 00:16:56,125 between each other, and that's only 433 00:16:56,250 --> 00:16:58,208 gonna continue to develop. 434 00:16:58,375 --> 00:17:02,167 - I mean, you know, she does have kind of a bit of a more 435 00:17:02,292 --> 00:17:04,792 intense personality than I do, but like, 436 00:17:04,875 --> 00:17:06,333 we balance each other out. 437 00:17:06,458 --> 00:17:08,167 Like when she gets kind of ahead of herself 438 00:17:08,333 --> 00:17:10,667 and going a mile a minute, like, I'm able to kind of-- 439 00:17:10,792 --> 00:17:12,750 - Re-center. 440 00:17:12,875 --> 00:17:14,208 - Re-center her, calm her down a little bit, and like be like, 441 00:17:14,375 --> 00:17:16,167 hey, give her a different perspective on stuff. 442 00:17:16,333 --> 00:17:18,542 - So is there like-- is there anything you can 443 00:17:18,708 --> 00:17:22,792 think of that you feel like she could do better at this stage? 444 00:17:22,917 --> 00:17:25,125 - Before we said we loved each other, 445 00:17:25,208 --> 00:17:28,167 she was like, questioning our relationship and the aspect 446 00:17:28,250 --> 00:17:31,542 of like, well, you know, I'm going through some stuff, 447 00:17:31,708 --> 00:17:34,125 I'm resolving stuff and if you're not planning 448 00:17:34,208 --> 00:17:36,125 on being here to like-- 449 00:17:36,250 --> 00:17:39,250 through that to help, let me know now, kind of thing. 450 00:17:39,375 --> 00:17:42,583 But yeah, I mean and then she also, you know, she does. 451 00:17:42,708 --> 00:17:45,167 She's a very self-critical of herself at times, 452 00:17:45,292 --> 00:17:48,000 like her body image and stuff and she doesn't need to be. 453 00:17:48,125 --> 00:17:49,583 So I always try to tell her how beautiful she is 454 00:17:49,708 --> 00:17:51,125 and things like that. 455 00:17:51,208 --> 00:17:53,583 So she's working on that stuff but she's 456 00:17:53,708 --> 00:17:55,167 gotten better at it like-- 457 00:17:55,292 --> 00:17:56,167 - Kind of like, put her guard down, basically. 458 00:17:56,250 --> 00:17:57,750 - Yeah. - Yeah. 459 00:17:57,875 --> 00:17:59,292 It's kind of mind blowing to think 460 00:17:59,375 --> 00:18:00,917 like how much your life has changed in such 461 00:18:01,042 --> 00:18:02,583 a short, short time, right? 462 00:18:02,708 --> 00:18:04,167 [laughs] - Yeah. Yeah, no. 463 00:18:04,250 --> 00:18:05,792 I mean, it really has been. 464 00:18:05,917 --> 00:18:07,625 Like, I mean literally two months ago, I was single, 465 00:18:07,750 --> 00:18:09,000 didn't even have a girlfriend. 466 00:18:09,083 --> 00:18:12,667 And now I'm married and I'm just-- 467 00:18:12,833 --> 00:18:14,792 when looking into Decision Day, 468 00:18:14,875 --> 00:18:16,833 I'm just thinking, like, 469 00:18:17,000 --> 00:18:20,458 can I see myself with this woman for the rest of my life? 470 00:18:20,542 --> 00:18:22,917 What is that--what is life after this process 471 00:18:23,042 --> 00:18:24,417 gonna look like? 472 00:18:24,542 --> 00:18:27,542 Like, is this what the happiness is now, 473 00:18:27,708 --> 00:18:29,000 but will it last? 474 00:18:29,125 --> 00:18:31,500 And if it doesn't, it would literally-- 475 00:18:31,667 --> 00:18:33,375 it'd be heartbreaking-- it really would, 476 00:18:33,500 --> 00:18:35,250 because like, we've put in so much work 477 00:18:35,375 --> 00:18:38,375 and we've done so much together that like, I just-- 478 00:18:38,542 --> 00:18:40,542 I don't know. 479 00:18:40,667 --> 00:18:43,000 ♪ ♪ 480 00:18:43,125 --> 00:18:46,000 - ♪ Oh, oh, oh ♪ 481 00:18:46,125 --> 00:18:47,917 ♪ Feeling confident ♪ 482 00:18:48,042 --> 00:18:51,792 ♪ Oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh ♪ 483 00:18:51,875 --> 00:18:54,292 ♪ Oh, oh, oh ♪ 484 00:18:54,375 --> 00:18:55,708 ♪ Anything, I'ma keep rock, rock, I'ma keep ♪ 485 00:18:55,875 --> 00:18:57,667 ♪ Rockin' it confident ♪ 486 00:18:57,792 --> 00:19:01,375 ♪ Oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh ♪ 487 00:19:01,500 --> 00:19:05,083 ♪ Anything, I'ma keep rockin' it confident ♪ 488 00:19:06,042 --> 00:19:07,167 - How's married life treating you? 489 00:19:07,250 --> 00:19:09,292 - Dude, we're-- we're still married. 490 00:19:09,375 --> 00:19:10,833 - Yeah? - We're still married. 491 00:19:10,958 --> 00:19:12,125 We're having fun. 492 00:19:12,208 --> 00:19:13,250 We're having a good time. 493 00:19:13,375 --> 00:19:14,792 - No--no moves made yet or-- 494 00:19:14,875 --> 00:19:16,292 - No moves. 495 00:19:16,417 --> 00:19:17,500 - So it's not vice versa either? 496 00:19:17,583 --> 00:19:19,125 She hasn't tried to put a move on-- 497 00:19:19,250 --> 00:19:20,417 - No, like, I grazed her butt once. 498 00:19:20,542 --> 00:19:22,458 I was like, oh, my God, I'm so sorry. 499 00:19:22,583 --> 00:19:23,750 She's like, you don't have to be apologetic. 500 00:19:23,875 --> 00:19:25,208 - Right, right. 501 00:19:25,375 --> 00:19:27,625 - You know, the other things are like strong, 502 00:19:27,708 --> 00:19:29,000 and they're nice. 503 00:19:29,083 --> 00:19:31,000 You know, it's stronger than a lot 504 00:19:31,167 --> 00:19:32,667 of the other relationships I've had. 505 00:19:32,750 --> 00:19:33,958 - Yeah. 506 00:19:34,083 --> 00:19:36,083 - She's trying to get out of that work focus 507 00:19:36,208 --> 00:19:38,458 where like, that's her sole focus in life. 508 00:19:38,542 --> 00:19:41,667 And so she's adaptable, she's moldable and to like 509 00:19:41,833 --> 00:19:43,167 see that potential. 510 00:19:43,292 --> 00:19:45,125 - Yeah, that's good. 511 00:19:45,208 --> 00:19:48,167 I am surprised that Clint and Gina are not-- 512 00:19:48,333 --> 00:19:49,583 they're not attracted to each other. 513 00:19:49,708 --> 00:19:51,125 I think Clint's a good-looking dude 514 00:19:51,208 --> 00:19:53,208 and I think Gina is a good-looking girl. 515 00:19:53,375 --> 00:19:56,167 Me and Gina are both entrepreneurs, hard workers, 516 00:19:56,292 --> 00:20:00,208 goal-oriented, not these big partiers 517 00:20:00,375 --> 00:20:03,375 and I think we're both attracted--or like, 518 00:20:03,500 --> 00:20:05,042 I'm pretty sure she found me attractive 519 00:20:05,167 --> 00:20:06,625 and I clearly think she's attractive. 520 00:20:06,750 --> 00:20:09,167 So yeah, I wish maybe me and Gina would have 521 00:20:09,333 --> 00:20:12,625 been matched over me and Dom. 522 00:20:12,708 --> 00:20:14,708 If she wasn't married, yeah, maybe we'd go on a date. 523 00:20:14,833 --> 00:20:15,833 Who knows? 524 00:20:15,917 --> 00:20:17,167 - So what about you, dude? 525 00:20:17,333 --> 00:20:18,583 You dating, you getting out there? 526 00:20:18,708 --> 00:20:20,167 - Yeah, I've been doing a little dating. 527 00:20:20,292 --> 00:20:21,167 - Anybody special? 528 00:20:21,292 --> 00:20:23,083 - No, not really. 529 00:20:23,208 --> 00:20:24,875 A couple--I've only gone on a couple of dates, 530 00:20:25,000 --> 00:20:28,583 but yeah, just playing the-- 531 00:20:28,708 --> 00:20:29,917 - Playing the field. 532 00:20:30,042 --> 00:20:31,208 - I didn't want to say play the field. 533 00:20:31,375 --> 00:20:32,833 - Play the field. 534 00:20:32,958 --> 00:20:33,958 - I don't think there's anything wrong with it. 535 00:20:34,083 --> 00:20:35,542 I would love your perspective. 536 00:20:35,667 --> 00:20:40,500 But I knew Dom for 14 days, and we didn't-- 537 00:20:40,625 --> 00:20:42,042 I thought we had a connection and then 538 00:20:42,208 --> 00:20:44,333 clearly we didn't, so you know, 539 00:20:44,417 --> 00:20:45,750 I came into this looking for love. 540 00:20:45,875 --> 00:20:50,167 So I don't see the point of holding back and waiting 541 00:20:50,292 --> 00:20:51,958 any longer than I need to. - Yeah, of course not. 542 00:20:52,083 --> 00:20:53,292 I mean, it's like, why would you 543 00:20:53,417 --> 00:20:54,833 deprive yourself of the opportunity 544 00:20:54,958 --> 00:20:55,708 of meeting the right person? 545 00:20:55,833 --> 00:20:57,167 - Yeah. 546 00:20:57,250 --> 00:20:58,333 - So you've got to get out there 547 00:20:58,500 --> 00:21:00,458 and you've got to keep moving, right? 548 00:21:00,542 --> 00:21:01,500 You've got to keep pushing. 549 00:21:01,625 --> 00:21:04,250 - Yeah, so it's been going. 550 00:21:04,375 --> 00:21:05,500 It feels good to get back out there 551 00:21:05,583 --> 00:21:06,833 and hopefully I find the one. 552 00:21:07,000 --> 00:21:08,500 We'll see. 553 00:21:08,625 --> 00:21:10,250 - You're walking away with a different perspective. 554 00:21:10,375 --> 00:21:11,833 - Oh, for sure. 555 00:21:11,917 --> 00:21:13,000 - You know, you've learned a couple of things. 556 00:21:13,083 --> 00:21:14,417 - Yeah. 557 00:21:14,542 --> 00:21:16,000 - You've been exposed to marriage. 558 00:21:16,125 --> 00:21:17,833 Like you can say, "I've been married. 559 00:21:17,958 --> 00:21:19,500 I was a married man." 560 00:21:19,667 --> 00:21:22,500 So yeah, dude, I think you'll be fine. 561 00:21:22,625 --> 00:21:23,667 - Yeah. 562 00:21:23,792 --> 00:21:25,625 I'm looking forward to the future. 563 00:21:25,750 --> 00:21:26,792 So. 564 00:21:26,875 --> 00:21:28,375 Couldn't be more excited. 565 00:21:28,500 --> 00:21:30,000 I guess you don't know yet, because you still 566 00:21:30,083 --> 00:21:31,500 have Decision Day coming, 567 00:21:31,625 --> 00:21:33,125 but how do you see your future going 568 00:21:33,208 --> 00:21:36,292 and what's your next step here? 569 00:21:36,375 --> 00:21:38,917 - We got a lot of sailing regattas that are coming up. 570 00:21:39,042 --> 00:21:41,667 Take some time off and-- - Awesome. 571 00:21:41,750 --> 00:21:44,333 - Yeah, just-- - That's how I picture you. 572 00:21:44,458 --> 00:21:46,500 - Taking in life, you know, and if that has Gina 573 00:21:46,667 --> 00:21:48,500 in that picture, then great. 574 00:21:48,667 --> 00:21:55,000 ♪ ♪ 575 00:21:55,125 --> 00:21:56,500 [upbeat music] 576 00:21:56,625 --> 00:22:02,875 ♪ ♪ 577 00:22:06,833 --> 00:22:08,333 - What up, brother? How's the wife? 578 00:22:08,417 --> 00:22:10,167 - All is good. 579 00:22:10,333 --> 00:22:12,000 Waiting around for the baby, the princess. 580 00:22:12,125 --> 00:22:13,500 - Oh. 581 00:22:13,625 --> 00:22:14,583 - How is your wife? 582 00:22:14,708 --> 00:22:16,000 How are you and your wife? 583 00:22:16,125 --> 00:22:18,292 How are you, like, mentally? 584 00:22:18,375 --> 00:22:21,000 - Mentally out of 10, 585 00:22:21,125 --> 00:22:25,500 I would say kind of like 6, 7. 586 00:22:25,625 --> 00:22:30,500 I'm still trying to balance our marriage, school, work, 587 00:22:30,625 --> 00:22:32,292 and making sure that, you know, I'm showing up in, 588 00:22:32,375 --> 00:22:35,250 you know, my best self and my most authentic self. 589 00:22:35,375 --> 00:22:38,083 - I know y'all still have Decision Day, right? 590 00:22:38,208 --> 00:22:39,958 How far are y'all out from that? 591 00:22:40,042 --> 00:22:41,583 - We're a few days out. 592 00:22:41,708 --> 00:22:45,458 But even with that, it's like, it's kind of like, 593 00:22:45,583 --> 00:22:48,375 where are we in our marriage? 594 00:22:48,500 --> 00:22:50,333 And it's kind of like a tricky place, 595 00:22:50,417 --> 00:22:54,667 because we honestly just been trying to vibe 596 00:22:54,792 --> 00:22:57,667 and show up for each other and everything else. 597 00:22:57,750 --> 00:23:01,167 And I always say, like, we're growing, 598 00:23:01,292 --> 00:23:04,083 but are we growing together? 599 00:23:04,208 --> 00:23:05,500 - So y'all basically just 600 00:23:05,625 --> 00:23:06,750 going through the growing pains? 601 00:23:06,875 --> 00:23:07,792 - Just going through the growing pains. 602 00:23:07,917 --> 00:23:09,333 And I was like, you know, when is it 603 00:23:09,458 --> 00:23:11,000 gonna be a time to where like, 604 00:23:11,125 --> 00:23:14,042 the vines just connect and then we just start, like, 605 00:23:14,167 --> 00:23:16,292 growing together, you know? 606 00:23:16,375 --> 00:23:18,333 - I mean, in a perfect world, that takes place 607 00:23:18,417 --> 00:23:19,833 like, on a fast timeline. 608 00:23:19,917 --> 00:23:22,625 But in reality, I mean, you know, 609 00:23:22,708 --> 00:23:24,208 that's a lifelong journey. 610 00:23:24,375 --> 00:23:26,500 So I just tell you to be patient. 611 00:23:26,625 --> 00:23:28,250 But so how was the family? 612 00:23:28,375 --> 00:23:29,833 Because that's big too. 613 00:23:29,917 --> 00:23:31,750 Like, so have you been talking-- 614 00:23:31,875 --> 00:23:33,125 have y'all been FaceTiming the family back home? 615 00:23:33,250 --> 00:23:34,958 - Like, we talk to my family often. 616 00:23:35,042 --> 00:23:36,917 You know, like, I have the phone on speaker 617 00:23:37,042 --> 00:23:38,792 and we all having like one conversation. 618 00:23:38,875 --> 00:23:40,500 Anybody in my family I'm talking to, I try to like, 619 00:23:40,667 --> 00:23:42,792 include Kirsten in the conversation. 620 00:23:42,875 --> 00:23:45,667 But honestly, like, I haven't met her dad. 621 00:23:45,792 --> 00:23:47,667 - So it's been kind of like closed off? 622 00:23:47,792 --> 00:23:49,833 - For me, that's been a huge part 623 00:23:49,958 --> 00:23:51,792 because like, I want to understand 624 00:23:51,917 --> 00:23:54,167 the family aspect because ultimately, 625 00:23:54,250 --> 00:23:55,083 like, I do want a family. 626 00:23:55,208 --> 00:23:56,542 - Yeah. 627 00:23:56,667 --> 00:23:59,083 - Can you see me being around your family 628 00:23:59,208 --> 00:24:00,875 without you around? 629 00:24:01,042 --> 00:24:03,500 Can you see us having kids and, you know, 630 00:24:03,583 --> 00:24:05,750 me dropping the kids off to your parents' house? 631 00:24:05,875 --> 00:24:09,125 You know, I just want to feel included in Kirsten's life. 632 00:24:09,250 --> 00:24:11,000 - Yeah. 633 00:24:11,125 --> 00:24:12,167 It's gonna be tough. 634 00:24:12,292 --> 00:24:15,458 ♪ ♪ 635 00:24:15,542 --> 00:24:19,500 - ♪ My eyes on the prize, I'm not letting go ♪ 636 00:24:19,583 --> 00:24:21,125 ♪ The others can try ♪ 637 00:24:21,250 --> 00:24:23,083 ♪ I've got this for sure ♪ 638 00:24:23,208 --> 00:24:24,250 ♪ ♪ 639 00:24:24,375 --> 00:24:25,250 - Hi. 640 00:24:25,375 --> 00:24:26,875 - Hey. 641 00:24:27,042 --> 00:24:28,250 My name's Cherry. 642 00:24:28,375 --> 00:24:29,125 - Jasmine. - Gina. 643 00:24:29,250 --> 00:24:30,167 - Hi. 644 00:24:30,292 --> 00:24:31,625 How's it going? 645 00:24:31,750 --> 00:24:32,917 Are you ready to learn how to pole dance? 646 00:24:33,042 --> 00:24:34,042 - We are ready. - Yes. 647 00:24:34,208 --> 00:24:35,250 - OK. - Born ready. 648 00:24:35,375 --> 00:24:37,583 - I didn't bring shoes like that. 649 00:24:37,708 --> 00:24:39,125 - OK. 650 00:24:39,208 --> 00:24:41,708 - I feel like for me and Gina throughout this process, 651 00:24:41,875 --> 00:24:44,583 you know, our husbands have not been attracted to us. 652 00:24:44,708 --> 00:24:46,667 So I was just like, let's get our sexy back. 653 00:24:46,833 --> 00:24:48,750 Like, let's not worry about, you know, 654 00:24:48,875 --> 00:24:50,167 the things they're saying. 655 00:24:50,292 --> 00:24:52,042 Let's do something that's sexy to us 656 00:24:52,167 --> 00:24:53,375 and makes ourselves feel good. 657 00:24:53,542 --> 00:24:55,625 - So you're gonna have your dominant hand 658 00:24:55,708 --> 00:24:59,667 high on the pole, and then you're just going to walk. 659 00:24:59,792 --> 00:25:02,042 With that second hand you can go up your body, 660 00:25:02,167 --> 00:25:04,375 go through your hair. 661 00:25:04,500 --> 00:25:05,875 - Yes, Gina. 662 00:25:06,042 --> 00:25:07,583 - We're gonna body roll. 663 00:25:07,708 --> 00:25:11,167 So you're gonna go head, chest, forward. 664 00:25:11,292 --> 00:25:12,667 - OK. 665 00:25:12,833 --> 00:25:14,583 - And then wiggle your heels in and out. 666 00:25:14,708 --> 00:25:16,208 - Oh, oh. - Clap it. 667 00:25:16,375 --> 00:25:17,583 - Clap it a little bit. 668 00:25:17,708 --> 00:25:19,833 - I see that booty in the mirror. 669 00:25:20,000 --> 00:25:22,417 [laughter] 670 00:25:22,542 --> 00:25:26,667 - So then to add some spin, left leg up high, 671 00:25:26,833 --> 00:25:30,125 and then we'll jump towards the leg we have picked up. 672 00:25:30,208 --> 00:25:31,333 ♪ ♪ 673 00:25:31,417 --> 00:25:33,833 Yeah! 674 00:25:33,958 --> 00:25:36,042 And here, we're in the perfect position 675 00:25:36,208 --> 00:25:37,167 to twerk it out. 676 00:25:37,250 --> 00:25:39,625 - Okay, sis. - [laughs] 677 00:25:39,708 --> 00:25:40,625 - At the end of the day as a wife, 678 00:25:40,708 --> 00:25:41,958 like, you want to feel sexy. 679 00:25:42,042 --> 00:25:43,958 And so at this point, I'm open to anything. 680 00:25:44,042 --> 00:25:46,333 [laughs] 681 00:25:46,458 --> 00:25:47,500 - Do we want to go over everything 682 00:25:47,667 --> 00:25:48,833 you've learned again? - Yes. 683 00:25:48,958 --> 00:25:50,167 - Yeah. - We'll start with the walks. 684 00:25:50,292 --> 00:25:52,958 Two, three, then body roll. 685 00:25:53,083 --> 00:25:54,250 [music playing] 686 00:25:54,375 --> 00:25:57,167 Circle, circle. 687 00:25:57,292 --> 00:25:58,958 Yeah. 688 00:25:59,083 --> 00:26:00,792 Got it. 689 00:26:00,917 --> 00:26:03,833 - ♪ On a big jet overseas, let's get higher ♪ 690 00:26:03,917 --> 00:26:05,292 ♪ Let's go spend this money ♪ 691 00:26:05,417 --> 00:26:07,625 ♪ 'Cause we got too much of it ♪ 692 00:26:07,708 --> 00:26:09,333 ♪ Boy, we gonna spend this money ♪ 693 00:26:09,458 --> 00:26:13,000 ♪ Let's go get some rides, a house and designers ♪ 694 00:26:13,125 --> 00:26:14,833 ♪ When are we gonna spend this money ♪ 695 00:26:14,917 --> 00:26:17,333 ♪ 'Cause we got too much of it ♪ 696 00:26:17,458 --> 00:26:20,167 - Bravo. [laughter] 697 00:26:20,292 --> 00:26:23,083 I heard Jasmine was doing a little pole dancing class 698 00:26:23,208 --> 00:26:25,208 and I thought it'd be a good idea to surprise her. 699 00:26:25,375 --> 00:26:26,500 - So I'm gonna go. You can... 700 00:26:26,625 --> 00:26:28,000 - Get out of here. 701 00:26:28,083 --> 00:26:31,167 - Let your wifey twerk a little bit for you. 702 00:26:31,292 --> 00:26:33,292 - I've never seen Jasmine in this light, in this element. 703 00:26:33,375 --> 00:26:35,292 Take it from the top. 704 00:26:35,375 --> 00:26:36,667 - Here we go. 705 00:26:36,792 --> 00:26:38,167 - ♪ It's my time ♪ 706 00:26:38,250 --> 00:26:40,042 ♪ And I'm taking my shot ♪ 707 00:26:40,208 --> 00:26:41,458 - I knew she could dance, you know, obviously 708 00:26:41,583 --> 00:26:43,333 from her cheer background. 709 00:26:43,417 --> 00:26:45,000 But just like, seeing her on a pole, like, you know, 710 00:26:45,083 --> 00:26:46,208 it's pretty sexy. 711 00:26:46,333 --> 00:26:48,333 - ♪ Dreaming ♪ 712 00:26:48,417 --> 00:26:50,792 ♪ Dreaming ♪ 713 00:26:50,917 --> 00:26:53,917 ♪ It's my time and I'm taking my shot ♪ 714 00:26:54,042 --> 00:26:57,958 ♪ I'ma fly, give it all that I got ♪ 715 00:26:58,042 --> 00:27:00,333 ♪ If I'm gonna dream, then I'm gonna ♪ 716 00:27:00,417 --> 00:27:03,333 ♪ Dreaming, dreaming ♪ 717 00:27:03,500 --> 00:27:06,833 ♪ ♪ 718 00:27:06,917 --> 00:27:08,667 - You got to have a certification to be a stripper 719 00:27:08,792 --> 00:27:10,667 or you just start, you just show up to the club? 720 00:27:10,792 --> 00:27:13,583 - I don't know the stripper qualifications. 721 00:27:13,708 --> 00:27:14,917 - You ain't trying to find out? 722 00:27:15,042 --> 00:27:17,667 You look like you had such a good time. 723 00:27:17,792 --> 00:27:19,375 We'll get one for the house. 724 00:27:19,500 --> 00:27:20,292 - A pole for the house? 725 00:27:20,417 --> 00:27:21,375 - Yeah. 726 00:27:21,500 --> 00:27:27,417 - ♪ Rock this boat ♪ 727 00:27:27,542 --> 00:27:28,750 - ♪ Na, na, na, na, na, na ♪ 728 00:27:28,875 --> 00:27:29,708 ♪ Na, na, na, na, na, na, na ♪ 729 00:27:29,833 --> 00:27:31,333 ♪ Na, na, na, na, na, na, na ♪ 730 00:27:31,417 --> 00:27:32,667 - What are you doing over there? 731 00:27:32,750 --> 00:27:36,583 - We are having breakfast. 732 00:27:36,708 --> 00:27:37,958 - Oh, really? 733 00:27:38,042 --> 00:27:39,500 - What's up? 734 00:27:39,583 --> 00:27:41,458 - You really trying to fluff me up, right? 735 00:27:41,542 --> 00:27:42,958 You know I've gained weight. 736 00:27:43,083 --> 00:27:45,875 - No, I just want to make sure that you're eating. 737 00:27:46,000 --> 00:27:47,875 - How can I jump in and help you? 738 00:27:48,000 --> 00:27:52,292 - Um, we can make cinnamon pancakes. 739 00:27:52,375 --> 00:27:57,458 ♪ ♪ 740 00:27:57,542 --> 00:27:59,792 - I'm only gonna eat one pancake 741 00:27:59,875 --> 00:28:02,583 because I had chicken and waffles earlier. 742 00:28:02,708 --> 00:28:04,667 - Oh. 743 00:28:04,750 --> 00:28:06,417 - I had a good talk with my brother. 744 00:28:06,542 --> 00:28:10,250 We were just talking about you and I and Decision Day 745 00:28:10,375 --> 00:28:13,583 and he was like, just making for sure that we're talking 746 00:28:13,708 --> 00:28:15,417 through things and having the conversations 747 00:28:15,542 --> 00:28:17,917 and spending the time that we need to. 748 00:28:18,042 --> 00:28:19,292 - You ready to put it in the skillet? 749 00:28:19,375 --> 00:28:22,792 - Yeah. 750 00:28:22,875 --> 00:28:24,167 I'm inviting my family over. 751 00:28:24,250 --> 00:28:25,167 - Here? 752 00:28:25,250 --> 00:28:26,208 - Yeah. 753 00:28:26,375 --> 00:28:27,167 - Oh. 754 00:28:27,333 --> 00:28:29,083 That's dope. 755 00:28:29,208 --> 00:28:32,208 - We can hang out and have some family time together. 756 00:28:34,708 --> 00:28:37,375 - Why do you think it's taken a while to like-- 757 00:28:37,500 --> 00:28:38,667 that moment to happen, though? 758 00:28:41,292 --> 00:28:44,208 - Because people are working, and it's always like, 759 00:28:44,375 --> 00:28:45,625 hit or miss. 760 00:28:45,708 --> 00:28:47,375 - But for me, like, I'm the person 761 00:28:47,500 --> 00:28:48,833 that say people make time for what 762 00:28:49,000 --> 00:28:50,083 they want to make time for. - I agree. 763 00:28:50,208 --> 00:28:52,625 - And it's like, is it important to you, 764 00:28:52,750 --> 00:28:55,583 is it important to them to actually like, 765 00:28:55,708 --> 00:28:58,500 want to meet me, because I am like, 766 00:28:58,625 --> 00:29:00,833 a part of their family now. 767 00:29:01,000 --> 00:29:03,958 So it's kind of like, is it me, like, 768 00:29:04,042 --> 00:29:06,292 or is it them like trying to hold back, or is it you? 769 00:29:06,375 --> 00:29:09,125 So it's like, for me, like understanding like, 770 00:29:09,250 --> 00:29:11,000 the biggest-- 771 00:29:11,167 --> 00:29:13,667 - No, that's it, it's just the scheduling. 772 00:29:13,750 --> 00:29:15,417 - So the scheduling been a problem 773 00:29:15,542 --> 00:29:17,333 for like, two months now? 774 00:29:17,417 --> 00:29:19,125 - Yeah, it has. 775 00:29:20,667 --> 00:29:21,583 - That's what we'll go with. 776 00:29:21,708 --> 00:29:23,333 The scheduling. 777 00:29:23,458 --> 00:29:24,333 - Yeah. 778 00:29:26,042 --> 00:29:28,000 - It's kind of really weird. 779 00:29:28,083 --> 00:29:31,208 I don't know if it's not enough communication or a lack 780 00:29:31,375 --> 00:29:34,000 of communication and what it may be with her family, 781 00:29:34,125 --> 00:29:35,833 but it's kind of weird to know like, 782 00:29:35,958 --> 00:29:38,167 if she's been asking for them to just stop by, 783 00:29:38,292 --> 00:29:39,833 just to check up on us to see how we're doing 784 00:29:39,958 --> 00:29:41,875 in our marriage for months, 785 00:29:42,000 --> 00:29:43,875 do her family just really not support her? 786 00:29:44,000 --> 00:29:45,167 And I guess I never been through that 787 00:29:45,292 --> 00:29:46,750 because my family always just show up 788 00:29:46,875 --> 00:29:49,083 and support whenever the case might be. 789 00:29:49,208 --> 00:29:52,500 But for her family not to show up and support her when she 790 00:29:52,625 --> 00:29:55,000 asked them in her time of need for something that she 791 00:29:55,083 --> 00:29:57,042 really needs, and they don't, 792 00:29:57,208 --> 00:29:58,792 it's like, oh. 793 00:29:58,917 --> 00:30:01,000 If there's a hesitation of, well, 794 00:30:01,125 --> 00:30:02,875 I don't know if we're going to be together 795 00:30:03,042 --> 00:30:06,458 Decision Day or afterwards, like, if that's the case, 796 00:30:06,542 --> 00:30:08,042 that's cool with me too. 797 00:30:08,167 --> 00:30:09,625 - If that was the case, I would just say that. 798 00:30:09,708 --> 00:30:12,292 Now that really isn't the case anymore. 799 00:30:14,458 --> 00:30:18,250 But I was telling my brother, 800 00:30:18,375 --> 00:30:21,292 sometimes I just want you to make me feel... 801 00:30:24,833 --> 00:30:26,792 Like you like me, basically. 802 00:30:26,917 --> 00:30:29,833 [tense music] 803 00:30:29,958 --> 00:30:32,250 Sometimes I don't feel that spark. 804 00:30:32,375 --> 00:30:35,167 Like, and I don't have that affection sometimes. 805 00:30:35,292 --> 00:30:39,000 Like, when you come home, I don't feel 806 00:30:39,167 --> 00:30:40,667 like you're happy to be here. 807 00:30:40,792 --> 00:30:42,500 Sometimes you don't talk and I'm like, 808 00:30:42,625 --> 00:30:44,333 I just don't get that feeling. 809 00:30:44,417 --> 00:30:51,125 ♪ ♪ 810 00:30:58,917 --> 00:31:02,000 Sometimes I just don't feel like we're connected. 811 00:31:02,083 --> 00:31:03,750 Sometimes I feel like we're in the same room, 812 00:31:03,875 --> 00:31:05,792 just existing there, and not even talking 813 00:31:05,875 --> 00:31:07,417 or touching each other. 814 00:31:13,917 --> 00:31:15,500 That's weird to me. 815 00:31:15,583 --> 00:31:17,708 ♪ ♪ 816 00:31:17,875 --> 00:31:18,833 It's like, why we here? 817 00:31:18,958 --> 00:31:19,917 Do we like each other? 818 00:31:20,042 --> 00:31:21,250 Like, what's going on? 819 00:31:27,083 --> 00:31:28,208 - We never had a conversation about it. 820 00:31:28,333 --> 00:31:30,208 I didn't know you felt like that. 821 00:31:30,333 --> 00:31:31,458 - Yeah. 822 00:31:31,583 --> 00:31:32,958 Well, I'm telling you now 823 00:31:33,042 --> 00:31:36,208 so we can work on it. 824 00:31:36,333 --> 00:31:40,875 ♪ ♪ 825 00:31:41,042 --> 00:31:43,833 [upbeat music] 826 00:31:43,917 --> 00:31:47,250 ♪ ♪ 827 00:31:47,375 --> 00:31:49,417 - Blindfolds. - Not blindfolds. 828 00:31:49,542 --> 00:31:52,125 - Now that Jasmine and Airris are finally in a place 829 00:31:52,250 --> 00:31:55,875 where they're opening up to intimacy in their marriage, 830 00:31:56,000 --> 00:31:58,042 we've sent them a surprise to help them ignite 831 00:31:58,208 --> 00:32:01,417 that spark that's starting to grow. 832 00:32:01,542 --> 00:32:04,167 - Handcuffs, no keys. 833 00:32:04,250 --> 00:32:06,375 - [laughs] 834 00:32:06,500 --> 00:32:08,083 That's a massager. 835 00:32:08,208 --> 00:32:10,000 - I don't know what feathers are supposed to do. 836 00:32:10,083 --> 00:32:12,000 - It's just kind of like a-- 837 00:32:12,125 --> 00:32:14,333 like a soft touch. 838 00:32:14,458 --> 00:32:15,833 - OK, I guess that's-- 839 00:32:15,958 --> 00:32:18,333 - Nobody ever rubbed you with feather before? 840 00:32:18,417 --> 00:32:20,917 - No, but it's a whole world out there. 841 00:32:21,042 --> 00:32:23,333 I mean, might do something to somebody. 842 00:32:23,458 --> 00:32:24,333 - See, it's like a-- 843 00:32:24,500 --> 00:32:25,625 like a tickle. 844 00:32:25,708 --> 00:32:28,500 [soft music] 845 00:32:28,625 --> 00:32:30,917 ♪ ♪ 846 00:32:31,042 --> 00:32:32,667 That tickle? 847 00:32:32,792 --> 00:32:35,917 ♪ ♪ 848 00:32:36,042 --> 00:32:37,333 Does it tickle? 849 00:32:37,417 --> 00:32:39,083 - It's probably like certain areas 850 00:32:39,208 --> 00:32:40,917 that are more sensitive than others. 851 00:32:41,042 --> 00:32:43,625 Like, I'm sure a feather on the gooch 852 00:32:43,708 --> 00:32:45,500 will probably feel sensational. 853 00:32:45,583 --> 00:32:46,833 - All right, Airris. 854 00:32:47,000 --> 00:32:49,708 - Oh, you know what is good too? 855 00:32:49,875 --> 00:32:53,667 - What? - Put the blindfold on. 856 00:32:53,792 --> 00:32:56,375 So the next pageant you in when they got you wearing heels 857 00:32:56,542 --> 00:32:59,042 all day, you can just come home and just 858 00:32:59,167 --> 00:33:01,542 get a nice foot massage. 859 00:33:01,667 --> 00:33:06,708 ♪ ♪ 860 00:33:06,833 --> 00:33:08,667 - You're pretty good at foot massages. 861 00:33:08,792 --> 00:33:10,625 ♪ ♪ 862 00:33:10,750 --> 00:33:12,667 You got all the pressure points. 863 00:33:12,750 --> 00:33:14,708 - Mm-hmm. - You know. 864 00:33:14,833 --> 00:33:19,208 ♪ ♪ 865 00:33:19,333 --> 00:33:22,417 - I guess we can try the handcuffs. 866 00:33:22,542 --> 00:33:23,583 - OK. 867 00:33:23,708 --> 00:33:25,792 I'll do this on your back. 868 00:33:25,917 --> 00:33:29,375 [soft music] 869 00:33:29,500 --> 00:33:31,083 - ♪ We dreamed about this day ♪ 870 00:33:31,208 --> 00:33:33,250 ♪ In times before ♪ 871 00:33:33,375 --> 00:33:35,167 - Just relax. 872 00:33:35,292 --> 00:33:37,583 - Mm-hmm. 873 00:33:37,708 --> 00:33:39,167 I could get used to this. 874 00:33:39,292 --> 00:33:41,333 ♪ ♪ 875 00:33:41,458 --> 00:33:43,208 Thank you so much. 876 00:33:45,167 --> 00:33:48,375 Would you ever be like, a dominatrix? 877 00:33:48,500 --> 00:33:50,958 - I don't think I'm opposed to it. 878 00:33:51,042 --> 00:33:52,292 But I'm not trying to like-- 879 00:33:52,417 --> 00:33:53,833 - You ain't trying to punch nobody. 880 00:33:54,000 --> 00:33:55,125 - No, no, no. 881 00:33:55,208 --> 00:33:57,375 - Like, if I was just like, slap me. 882 00:33:57,500 --> 00:33:58,875 - I don't think you want to be slapped. 883 00:33:59,000 --> 00:34:00,458 - I mean, I don't know. 884 00:34:00,542 --> 00:34:03,083 I might get slapped and I might be like, ooh. 885 00:34:03,208 --> 00:34:05,000 They might come back, you have a mask on, 886 00:34:05,125 --> 00:34:07,500 I'll be chained up to the wall or something. 887 00:34:07,583 --> 00:34:09,167 This might be the beginning of it. 888 00:34:09,292 --> 00:34:12,083 Come on, let's just try it real quick. 889 00:34:12,208 --> 00:34:14,042 On the count of three. 890 00:34:14,167 --> 00:34:17,250 Ready, let me--hold on, let me psych myself up for it. 891 00:34:17,375 --> 00:34:18,958 All right. Come on, Come on. 892 00:34:19,042 --> 00:34:20,042 - Oh, my goodness. 893 00:34:20,167 --> 00:34:21,792 OK, count me down. 894 00:34:21,875 --> 00:34:23,458 - One, two. 895 00:34:23,542 --> 00:34:24,458 Harder! 896 00:34:24,542 --> 00:34:26,833 Come on. 897 00:34:26,958 --> 00:34:28,333 Is that all you got? 898 00:34:28,417 --> 00:34:30,167 You're trying to turn me on. 899 00:34:30,250 --> 00:34:31,958 - I don't know if you want a hard-- 900 00:34:32,083 --> 00:34:33,458 - Slap me harder. Slap me harder. 901 00:34:33,583 --> 00:34:35,042 One, two, three. 902 00:34:35,167 --> 00:34:36,583 Oh, yeah. Harder, a little bit harder. 903 00:34:36,708 --> 00:34:37,583 - Hard than that? - Yeah, harder than that. 904 00:34:37,708 --> 00:34:39,042 Come on. 905 00:34:39,208 --> 00:34:43,000 You got to look at me sensual, and then slap me. 906 00:34:43,167 --> 00:34:44,458 Come on. - Oh, damn. 907 00:34:44,542 --> 00:34:46,917 - One, two, three. 908 00:34:47,042 --> 00:34:48,375 OK, we got something. We got something. 909 00:34:48,542 --> 00:34:49,750 - Is that better? 910 00:34:49,875 --> 00:34:51,083 - We're working with something. 911 00:34:51,208 --> 00:34:53,333 I do consider myself a sexual person 912 00:34:53,417 --> 00:34:55,958 and that was one of the things I was excited about 913 00:34:56,083 --> 00:34:57,500 coming in the marriage is like, you know, 914 00:34:57,583 --> 00:34:59,500 they ask me like, what is married sex like? 915 00:34:59,625 --> 00:35:00,875 And I don't know, but it's something I'm excited about, 916 00:35:01,042 --> 00:35:02,833 looking forward to. 917 00:35:02,917 --> 00:35:05,167 And I do feel like there's a sexual, intimate energy 918 00:35:05,292 --> 00:35:07,000 shift that's slowly starting. 919 00:35:07,083 --> 00:35:09,000 So, you know, who knows what will happen? 920 00:35:09,125 --> 00:35:14,667 - ♪ Everybody needs somebody to love ♪ 921 00:35:14,792 --> 00:35:16,958 ♪ ♪ 922 00:35:17,083 --> 00:35:19,875 [upbeat music] 923 00:35:20,000 --> 00:35:23,500 ♪ ♪ 924 00:35:23,625 --> 00:35:27,375 [video call ringing] 925 00:35:27,542 --> 00:35:28,542 - There he is. 926 00:35:28,708 --> 00:35:30,125 - There he is. 927 00:35:30,208 --> 00:35:31,333 - I won't take up too much of your time 928 00:35:31,458 --> 00:35:32,542 because I know, you know-- 929 00:35:32,708 --> 00:35:34,333 - My time is your time. 930 00:35:34,458 --> 00:35:37,167 Whatever time you need you have. 931 00:35:37,250 --> 00:35:38,458 I got to go. I'll see you later. 932 00:35:38,542 --> 00:35:40,167 - Yeah. 933 00:35:40,250 --> 00:35:42,250 No, I just I wanted to talk to you, 934 00:35:42,375 --> 00:35:44,833 chit chat a little because Decision Day 935 00:35:44,917 --> 00:35:46,333 is coming up in a few days. 936 00:35:46,417 --> 00:35:48,042 - What can I possibly say? 937 00:35:48,208 --> 00:35:49,500 Because this is your decision to make. 938 00:35:49,583 --> 00:35:51,167 - I know. 939 00:35:51,292 --> 00:35:52,917 - You make a decision, you make it right. 940 00:35:53,042 --> 00:35:54,708 I'll support whatever decision you make unless I thought 941 00:35:54,875 --> 00:35:56,167 he was a total loser, and then I'd be like, 942 00:35:56,292 --> 00:35:57,833 why do you want to marry this-- 943 00:35:57,958 --> 00:35:59,000 stay married to this loser? 944 00:35:59,083 --> 00:36:00,250 He's absolutely not a loser, 945 00:36:00,375 --> 00:36:01,458 and he's not a serial killer. 946 00:36:01,542 --> 00:36:03,375 So we have him-- - There you go. 947 00:36:03,500 --> 00:36:06,000 I don't want to make a decision 948 00:36:06,125 --> 00:36:07,708 based on how I feel in this moment. 949 00:36:07,833 --> 00:36:11,167 I need to make a decision based on how I've felt 950 00:36:11,250 --> 00:36:13,625 this entire time, how I feel about me and Chris 951 00:36:13,708 --> 00:36:16,333 and what our future looks like, because if I say yes, 952 00:36:16,500 --> 00:36:17,875 it's because I think this is the man I'm spending 953 00:36:18,042 --> 00:36:20,708 the rest of my life with. 954 00:36:20,833 --> 00:36:24,458 - He seems to be stable, pragmatic, intelligent, 955 00:36:24,583 --> 00:36:26,833 emotionally stable, which is two words 956 00:36:26,958 --> 00:36:28,333 you don't usually use for men. 957 00:36:28,458 --> 00:36:31,958 Plus it's clearly working for you two. 958 00:36:32,042 --> 00:36:33,750 So I'm supportive of you two. 959 00:36:33,875 --> 00:36:35,792 I'm supportive of him with you, because Lord knows, 960 00:36:35,875 --> 00:36:39,333 he needs support, and I'm supportive of you with him. 961 00:36:39,458 --> 00:36:41,792 - I feel really good about him and our future together. 962 00:36:41,875 --> 00:36:44,000 Honestly, our living situation which we still 963 00:36:44,125 --> 00:36:49,458 need to confirm and finalize is the one thing that's really 964 00:36:49,542 --> 00:36:51,167 stressing me out the most. 965 00:36:51,292 --> 00:36:53,333 It's like, how can we be a proper married couple 966 00:36:53,417 --> 00:36:55,125 with no plan to live together? 967 00:36:55,250 --> 00:36:57,292 - Living separately is not a good thing because 968 00:36:57,375 --> 00:36:59,042 you take a step backwards. 969 00:36:59,167 --> 00:37:03,042 - Like him being so chill about it is a little frustrating 970 00:37:03,167 --> 00:37:05,708 because like, OK, you keep saying it's going to get done, 971 00:37:05,833 --> 00:37:09,000 but how do we take the steps to get it done? 972 00:37:09,083 --> 00:37:11,583 I would love, by Decision Day, even if we don't have 973 00:37:11,708 --> 00:37:14,500 our situation finalized, we at least have 974 00:37:14,583 --> 00:37:18,708 a better idea than just, it'll work out because 975 00:37:18,875 --> 00:37:20,542 it's going to work out is not enough for me 976 00:37:20,667 --> 00:37:24,292 to have an emphatic, 100% yes. 977 00:37:24,417 --> 00:37:26,833 - I mean, you're gonna do this, do it. 978 00:37:26,917 --> 00:37:29,458 If you don't want to do it, don't do it. 979 00:37:29,583 --> 00:37:31,375 But if you're gonna kind of do it, you're not doing it. 980 00:37:31,500 --> 00:37:32,875 That's what I said, 99% commitment 981 00:37:33,000 --> 00:37:34,458 is 100% uncommitted. 982 00:37:34,542 --> 00:37:36,000 You're either gonna do it or you don't. 983 00:37:36,125 --> 00:37:37,500 There's no, well, we might do it. 984 00:37:37,625 --> 00:37:38,875 We'll just have to see how it works out. 985 00:37:39,000 --> 00:37:45,125 - ♪ This was never your time ♪ 986 00:37:45,250 --> 00:37:45,833 - ♪ Shout it out ♪ 987 00:37:45,958 --> 00:37:46,542 ♪ When you're on ♪ 988 00:37:46,708 --> 00:37:48,417 ♪ If you wanna sing along ♪ 989 00:37:48,542 --> 00:37:51,000 ♪ Everyone, let me hear you say ♪ 990 00:37:51,125 --> 00:37:54,292 ♪ Oh, yeah ♪ 991 00:37:54,417 --> 00:37:56,167 - Hey, hey. - What's up? 992 00:37:56,292 --> 00:37:58,042 How you doing? - Good. 993 00:37:58,208 --> 00:37:59,125 - Good, good. What's going on, man? 994 00:37:59,250 --> 00:38:00,542 - Clint, Marlon. - Marlon. 995 00:38:00,708 --> 00:38:02,250 Nice to meet you. - Nice to meet you, man. 996 00:38:02,375 --> 00:38:03,625 - For sure. For sure. 997 00:38:03,708 --> 00:38:05,250 - Thanks for coming in to do this. 998 00:38:05,375 --> 00:38:07,167 - For sure. Thank you guys for having me. 999 00:38:07,292 --> 00:38:08,542 Go ahead and get you right here, man. 1000 00:38:08,708 --> 00:38:09,833 - Oh, man. - Are you nervous? 1001 00:38:10,000 --> 00:38:11,333 - I'm strapping in. 1002 00:38:11,458 --> 00:38:12,417 I feel like I'm getting ready to like 1003 00:38:12,542 --> 00:38:14,333 get out of the Earth orbit. 1004 00:38:14,417 --> 00:38:15,875 - Whatever, you live on adrenaline. 1005 00:38:16,000 --> 00:38:17,417 - Taking it off. 1006 00:38:17,542 --> 00:38:21,208 - I'm about to get slayed by a professional. 1007 00:38:21,375 --> 00:38:22,333 - For the first time in how long? 1008 00:38:22,417 --> 00:38:24,667 - This dome piece has not seen 1009 00:38:24,750 --> 00:38:28,333 the scissors of another in eight years. 1010 00:38:28,417 --> 00:38:30,458 I'm a big time outdoors guy. - OK. 1011 00:38:30,542 --> 00:38:33,875 - So I sail, I hike, camp, all that stuff. 1012 00:38:34,000 --> 00:38:35,833 So I like the length just because it's easy for me 1013 00:38:35,917 --> 00:38:37,625 to maintain. I don't have to put anything-- 1014 00:38:37,750 --> 00:38:39,208 I don't put anything in it, right, 1015 00:38:39,375 --> 00:38:41,625 but I'm not opposed to doing something stylish. 1016 00:38:41,750 --> 00:38:42,583 - OK. 1017 00:38:42,708 --> 00:38:44,167 - So--and Gina's been like, 1018 00:38:44,292 --> 00:38:45,167 you're getting a damn haircut. 1019 00:38:45,250 --> 00:38:46,417 So. 1020 00:38:46,542 --> 00:38:48,083 - Do you like the length on it? 1021 00:38:48,208 --> 00:38:49,667 - Yeah, I think the length looks good. 1022 00:38:49,750 --> 00:38:51,875 I mean, I think it could go either way. 1023 00:38:52,000 --> 00:38:54,500 So it kind of just depends on what you're comfortable with. 1024 00:38:54,667 --> 00:38:56,250 - I don't know. - What do you think? 1025 00:38:56,375 --> 00:38:59,000 - Will you still love him if he cuts it all off? 1026 00:39:00,042 --> 00:39:01,167 - Either way. [laughter] 1027 00:39:01,292 --> 00:39:02,208 - All right. 1028 00:39:02,375 --> 00:39:03,167 I got you. 1029 00:39:03,292 --> 00:39:04,833 Cool. 1030 00:39:04,917 --> 00:39:07,292 - Clint's been his own stylist for eight years. 1031 00:39:07,375 --> 00:39:08,917 It's like baby's first haircut, you know? 1032 00:39:09,042 --> 00:39:11,542 - OK, gotcha. 1033 00:39:11,708 --> 00:39:14,667 You're gonna sit still, right? [laughter] 1034 00:39:14,792 --> 00:39:16,750 - I'm fully confident that Marlon 1035 00:39:16,875 --> 00:39:18,417 is gonna cut your hair better than you. 1036 00:39:18,542 --> 00:39:21,042 - Well, I feel better that you feel good about it. 1037 00:39:21,208 --> 00:39:22,667 - I wouldn't lead you astray. 1038 00:39:22,750 --> 00:39:24,333 - OK, all right. 1039 00:39:24,417 --> 00:39:25,833 Let's do this thing. 1040 00:39:25,958 --> 00:39:27,667 - We're going to go from Jesus to Bradley Cooper. 1041 00:39:27,792 --> 00:39:30,750 - Ooh, I love it. - Let's run it. 1042 00:39:30,875 --> 00:39:33,750 - ♪ Uh-huh, living on my own accord ♪ 1043 00:39:33,875 --> 00:39:35,500 ♪ Living out dreams and more ♪ 1044 00:39:35,625 --> 00:39:37,500 ♪ This that life I chose ♪ 1045 00:39:37,625 --> 00:39:40,000 ♪ Now, before I go, yeah ♪ 1046 00:39:40,083 --> 00:39:42,333 - Oh, that's already looking so much better. 1047 00:39:42,458 --> 00:39:43,792 Not that it was bad. 1048 00:39:43,875 --> 00:39:47,083 I commend your work, Clint, but sometimes 1049 00:39:47,208 --> 00:39:48,333 it's just a professional eye. 1050 00:39:48,500 --> 00:39:49,833 - I was just a DIY-er. 1051 00:39:49,958 --> 00:39:51,083 - You're going to feel so much better with it 1052 00:39:51,208 --> 00:39:52,167 not like, thick at your neck. 1053 00:39:52,250 --> 00:39:54,125 I bet it's hot. 1054 00:39:54,250 --> 00:39:55,833 - It's good for the winter. 1055 00:39:55,958 --> 00:39:56,625 - He's a mountain man. 1056 00:39:56,708 --> 00:39:58,625 - It's like Hank's fur. 1057 00:39:58,750 --> 00:39:59,667 - Something a little lighter. 1058 00:39:59,833 --> 00:40:00,833 - Yeah, it's definitely lighter. 1059 00:40:01,000 --> 00:40:02,333 I think I lost 10 pounds off my head. 1060 00:40:02,500 --> 00:40:03,583 - No gym required. 1061 00:40:03,708 --> 00:40:06,000 - It's definitely shorter. 1062 00:40:06,125 --> 00:40:07,833 Don't kill me. - [laughs] 1063 00:40:07,958 --> 00:40:09,292 - Rough but clean? 1064 00:40:09,375 --> 00:40:11,083 Purposely rugged. 1065 00:40:11,208 --> 00:40:12,167 - That's it. 1066 00:40:12,292 --> 00:40:14,292 Fresh out the box. 1067 00:40:14,375 --> 00:40:15,667 - All right, man. 1068 00:40:15,833 --> 00:40:17,417 Gina, get your opinion on it. 1069 00:40:17,542 --> 00:40:18,833 Let me know what you think. 1070 00:40:18,958 --> 00:40:20,125 How is that? 1071 00:40:20,208 --> 00:40:21,833 - Look at that. - Yeah. 1072 00:40:21,958 --> 00:40:23,625 - Fresh. - Yeah. 1073 00:40:23,708 --> 00:40:25,875 A lot cleaner. - Rugged. 1074 00:40:26,000 --> 00:40:28,167 - Yeah. 1075 00:40:28,292 --> 00:40:29,583 Looks good. - I love it. 1076 00:40:29,708 --> 00:40:30,833 - Dude, nice. - Nice. 1077 00:40:31,000 --> 00:40:32,625 - Looks good. 1078 00:40:32,708 --> 00:40:34,500 - He's got some swag, he's looking good. 1079 00:40:34,625 --> 00:40:37,042 So I don't know if we're at the point of that 1080 00:40:37,167 --> 00:40:38,667 leading on to anything. 1081 00:40:38,750 --> 00:40:41,000 But, you know honestly, that might be 1082 00:40:41,167 --> 00:40:43,000 what I've been missing this entire marriage. 1083 00:40:43,083 --> 00:40:44,000 ♪ ♪ 1084 00:40:44,167 --> 00:40:45,333 I don't know. 1085 00:40:45,458 --> 00:40:47,875 - I might have a whole new swag now. 1086 00:40:48,042 --> 00:40:49,167 - Oh. 1087 00:40:49,292 --> 00:40:51,292 The King of Swag has arrived. 1088 00:40:51,417 --> 00:40:52,250 - Sultan of Swag. 1089 00:40:52,375 --> 00:40:53,542 - The Sultan of Swag. 1090 00:40:53,708 --> 00:40:55,125 - I love it. Love it. 1091 00:40:55,208 --> 00:40:56,917 - ♪ Have my own back ♪ 1092 00:40:57,042 --> 00:40:59,875 [upbeat music] 1093 00:41:00,000 --> 00:41:03,208 ♪ ♪ 1094 00:41:03,375 --> 00:41:06,917 - When I was younger, we used to go to my grandma's house 1095 00:41:07,042 --> 00:41:09,708 every weekend so we would go to church with her. 1096 00:41:09,833 --> 00:41:12,583 And then we used to be in the kids choir. 1097 00:41:12,708 --> 00:41:14,333 We used to have to go up there and sing-- 1098 00:41:14,458 --> 00:41:16,042 - You probably sung your heart out. 1099 00:41:16,167 --> 00:41:19,792 - Mm-hmm. [laughs] 1100 00:41:19,875 --> 00:41:22,292 - Kirsten and I are very strong-minded individuals, 1101 00:41:22,375 --> 00:41:24,958 and I think we both have high expectations. 1102 00:41:25,042 --> 00:41:28,292 So I think it's important to make sure that we are being 1103 00:41:28,375 --> 00:41:30,000 intentional about our faith as well, 1104 00:41:30,083 --> 00:41:32,167 making sure that God is directing our path, 1105 00:41:32,292 --> 00:41:34,042 that we are making decisions that 1106 00:41:34,167 --> 00:41:35,583 are according to God's word 1107 00:41:35,708 --> 00:41:37,792 and just keeping our faith first. 1108 00:41:37,875 --> 00:41:43,667 ♪ ♪ 1109 00:41:43,750 --> 00:41:47,125 If I go to church every Sunday, every Bible study, I would. 1110 00:41:47,250 --> 00:41:49,167 When I was growing up, we always went to church. 1111 00:41:49,292 --> 00:41:50,667 Like, we lived by the church. 1112 00:41:50,792 --> 00:41:52,583 So it's kind of like, when I went to college, 1113 00:41:52,708 --> 00:41:53,958 I always went to church. 1114 00:41:54,083 --> 00:41:55,625 Like, it wasn't the thing to where 1115 00:41:55,750 --> 00:41:58,125 someone had to make me do. 1116 00:41:58,208 --> 00:42:01,208 And you know, I definitely want church to be like, 1117 00:42:01,333 --> 00:42:02,875 a safe haven for us. 1118 00:42:03,042 --> 00:42:05,167 Like even if like, you don't feel like going, I don't feel 1119 00:42:05,292 --> 00:42:07,250 like going, like, we kind of like, push ourselves to be 1120 00:42:07,375 --> 00:42:08,833 like, we need to go together. 1121 00:42:08,958 --> 00:42:11,333 - Like, I definitely make for sure 1122 00:42:11,458 --> 00:42:14,500 we attend church together, because that's important to me 1123 00:42:14,625 --> 00:42:16,333 and that's something that I want for our marriage 1124 00:42:16,500 --> 00:42:18,333 going forward, you know? 1125 00:42:18,458 --> 00:42:21,833 Because it is very important to have this spiritual connection 1126 00:42:21,958 --> 00:42:24,833 with you because I feel like that 1127 00:42:25,000 --> 00:42:27,833 can help us to be strong together. 1128 00:42:27,958 --> 00:42:30,625 - Definitely the foundation. - Mm-hmm. 1129 00:42:30,750 --> 00:42:32,500 - Even like this marriage, I've been praying 1130 00:42:32,583 --> 00:42:36,042 like that he just lead us in the right direction 1131 00:42:36,208 --> 00:42:37,833 and order our steps. 1132 00:42:37,958 --> 00:42:40,500 And I know it's been--at times, it's been challenging. 1133 00:42:40,625 --> 00:42:42,167 But I know, like, I've been definitely tapping 1134 00:42:42,292 --> 00:42:44,417 into my faith to say like, Lord, like, I don't 1135 00:42:44,542 --> 00:42:45,792 understand what's going on. 1136 00:42:45,875 --> 00:42:48,000 I may not understand what you're 1137 00:42:48,083 --> 00:42:50,000 doing but I will continue on this path 1138 00:42:50,125 --> 00:42:52,333 of life of where you want me to go, to guide me 1139 00:42:52,417 --> 00:42:55,167 and to lead me. 1140 00:42:55,292 --> 00:42:58,542 - I mean, I pray daily for the both of us, 1141 00:42:58,667 --> 00:43:01,125 you know, for this marriage and we also 1142 00:43:01,250 --> 00:43:05,375 have to be mindful that God, you know, will watch over us 1143 00:43:05,542 --> 00:43:07,000 and he will guide us. 1144 00:43:07,083 --> 00:43:09,667 But we also have to put in the work as well. 1145 00:43:09,833 --> 00:43:11,958 - And just continue to grow. 1146 00:43:12,042 --> 00:43:13,250 - Amen to that. 1147 00:43:13,375 --> 00:43:15,375 Amen to that. 1148 00:43:15,500 --> 00:43:17,333 [sighs] 1149 00:43:17,417 --> 00:43:19,583 Fix it, Lord. 1150 00:43:19,708 --> 00:43:22,042 Let it all be done in your will. 1151 00:43:22,208 --> 00:43:27,167 ♪ Hallelujah ♪ 1152 00:43:27,250 --> 00:43:29,625 [chuckles] 1153 00:43:29,708 --> 00:43:32,875 [upbeat music] 1154 00:43:33,000 --> 00:43:39,958 ♪ ♪ 1155 00:43:40,083 --> 00:43:43,208 [chimes clinking] 1156 00:43:43,333 --> 00:43:44,375 - Hi there. - Hi. 1157 00:43:44,542 --> 00:43:45,500 - How are you? - Good. 1158 00:43:45,625 --> 00:43:46,500 - Good. - Good. 1159 00:43:46,625 --> 00:43:47,708 My name is Jennifer Green. 1160 00:43:47,833 --> 00:43:49,042 - Hi, nice to meet you. 1161 00:43:49,167 --> 00:43:50,417 - And I'm happy to do your readings. 1162 00:43:50,542 --> 00:43:51,917 - Thank you. 1163 00:43:52,042 --> 00:43:53,542 - It's just been an emotional roller coaster 1164 00:43:53,708 --> 00:43:54,875 of just really trying to figure out 1165 00:43:55,042 --> 00:43:57,042 if he likes me, if he doesn't. 1166 00:43:57,208 --> 00:43:59,167 He's been very hot and cold throughout this whole process 1167 00:43:59,292 --> 00:44:02,708 but our relationship in this moment is in a good place. 1168 00:44:02,833 --> 00:44:06,167 And so I brought Airris here today with the medium 1169 00:44:06,292 --> 00:44:09,792 just because I wanted to put him in the environment 1170 00:44:09,875 --> 00:44:12,000 to where he could possibly connect with some loved ones. 1171 00:44:12,125 --> 00:44:13,500 And I just thought it would be another 1172 00:44:13,625 --> 00:44:16,500 great first experience for us. 1173 00:44:16,583 --> 00:44:17,625 - Have either one of you had readings before? 1174 00:44:17,708 --> 00:44:18,833 - No. I haven't. - No. 1175 00:44:18,917 --> 00:44:20,458 - No? - First time. 1176 00:44:20,542 --> 00:44:22,167 - I want you to sign me your name. 1177 00:44:22,292 --> 00:44:23,167 Full name. 1178 00:44:26,792 --> 00:44:28,583 I've done this for a long time, 1179 00:44:28,708 --> 00:44:30,958 and I've only seen this two other times. 1180 00:44:31,042 --> 00:44:32,625 - Two other times? - Yes. 1181 00:44:32,750 --> 00:44:33,875 The way how your signature is. - Oh. 1182 00:44:34,042 --> 00:44:36,167 - How your A-- Airris, just with the energy 1183 00:44:36,292 --> 00:44:38,292 of your handwriting, your spirit has 1184 00:44:38,417 --> 00:44:39,833 a strong energy of confident 1185 00:44:39,958 --> 00:44:41,250 and it's destined to be a statement. 1186 00:44:41,375 --> 00:44:43,333 A statement wherever you're at. 1187 00:44:43,417 --> 00:44:45,917 Where your name is strong, your last name and energy 1188 00:44:46,042 --> 00:44:49,792 becomes a little bit confusing and weak. 1189 00:44:49,875 --> 00:44:51,792 So this tells me that you're still finding out 1190 00:44:51,875 --> 00:44:53,750 and discovering who you are. 1191 00:44:53,875 --> 00:44:56,333 Now Jasmine, from your name, the first initial J, 1192 00:44:56,417 --> 00:44:58,167 strong, powerful. 1193 00:44:58,292 --> 00:45:01,125 I know who I am, I know what I'm doing and I'm confident. 1194 00:45:01,250 --> 00:45:04,000 But you question yourself so much 1195 00:45:04,083 --> 00:45:06,000 and you carry a lot of fear on you. 1196 00:45:06,083 --> 00:45:07,667 There's a lot of fear in what you're doing. 1197 00:45:07,792 --> 00:45:10,333 Fear of a mistake, fear of regret, 1198 00:45:10,417 --> 00:45:12,000 fear of not--fear of failing. 1199 00:45:12,125 --> 00:45:13,833 This is a time decisions are made. 1200 00:45:13,958 --> 00:45:16,375 So in both of your readings, decisions are being made. 1201 00:45:16,542 --> 00:45:19,083 And this is inside your cards. 1202 00:45:19,208 --> 00:45:24,667 So this shows your spirit that you have begin something 1203 00:45:24,792 --> 00:45:27,917 that you almost went in, almost like a fool, 1204 00:45:28,042 --> 00:45:31,917 very blinded, without much knowledge. 1205 00:45:32,042 --> 00:45:35,208 - Mm-hmm. - And your spirit has-- 1206 00:45:35,375 --> 00:45:39,083 your spirit's been holding a lot of guard up 1207 00:45:39,208 --> 00:45:41,125 to watch over your heart chakra. 1208 00:45:41,208 --> 00:45:44,833 - I am very fearful of making a wrong choice 1209 00:45:45,000 --> 00:45:49,833 or, you know, making a mistake or something like that, so. 1210 00:45:50,000 --> 00:45:54,458 - First energy shows me that this man that you sit next to 1211 00:45:54,542 --> 00:45:57,083 truly wishes you well. 1212 00:45:57,208 --> 00:45:58,667 Wholeheartedly, unconditionally, 1213 00:45:58,750 --> 00:46:00,250 wishes you well. 1214 00:46:00,375 --> 00:46:02,625 And it tells me he's a man of his word. 1215 00:46:02,708 --> 00:46:04,292 There is a good connection here. 1216 00:46:04,417 --> 00:46:06,833 ♪ ♪ 1217 00:46:07,000 --> 00:46:11,583 Airris, first energy I feel is a strong presence of female, 1218 00:46:11,708 --> 00:46:13,417 very, very motherly. 1219 00:46:13,542 --> 00:46:18,792 This woman is--she is, looks like she's in the kitchen, 1220 00:46:18,917 --> 00:46:20,500 maybe you look five or six. 1221 00:46:20,667 --> 00:46:22,833 She doesn't see you as a grown up, she sees you as a child. 1222 00:46:22,958 --> 00:46:24,833 You carry favorite child energy on you. 1223 00:46:24,917 --> 00:46:26,208 And she has you sitting in a chair and she's 1224 00:46:26,333 --> 00:46:28,417 bringing you a plate of food and she's 1225 00:46:28,542 --> 00:46:29,708 kissing you on your head. 1226 00:46:29,833 --> 00:46:30,833 Who is this female? 1227 00:46:30,917 --> 00:46:32,958 - My great-grandmother. 1228 00:46:33,083 --> 00:46:35,833 - She loves you and she's proud of you. 1229 00:46:36,000 --> 00:46:37,667 And she says she wants you to settle down 1230 00:46:37,792 --> 00:46:38,917 and it's time to have children. 1231 00:46:39,042 --> 00:46:40,042 She wants to see you settled. 1232 00:46:40,167 --> 00:46:41,208 She's worried about you 1233 00:46:41,375 --> 00:46:43,667 and she likes Jasmine very much. 1234 00:46:43,833 --> 00:46:46,500 And I hear, "She's the first girl that I like." 1235 00:46:46,625 --> 00:46:49,417 - [chuckles] 1236 00:46:49,542 --> 00:46:52,333 - And she likes you because you have old-fashioned energy. 1237 00:46:52,500 --> 00:46:55,000 You have an old soul. 1238 00:46:55,125 --> 00:46:57,500 And that's a good energy. - Yeah. 1239 00:46:57,667 --> 00:46:59,500 - That's good. 1240 00:46:59,583 --> 00:47:00,833 Relax your hand for me. 1241 00:47:01,000 --> 00:47:03,208 Let me see your hands for me, Jasmine. 1242 00:47:06,417 --> 00:47:09,750 Spirit wants you to note that your energy, your reading, 1243 00:47:09,875 --> 00:47:12,875 now is a time for your eyes to be on yourself. 1244 00:47:13,042 --> 00:47:15,167 For too long, you lived for everyone else. 1245 00:47:15,250 --> 00:47:18,958 For too long, you lived in the eyes of others. 1246 00:47:19,042 --> 00:47:21,625 This man--this man, you're attracted to him, 1247 00:47:21,750 --> 00:47:23,542 but you're questioning everything. 1248 00:47:23,708 --> 00:47:25,458 Be patient with this man, for he does 1249 00:47:25,583 --> 00:47:28,375 have a lot of growing up to do, but his heart is good. 1250 00:47:28,500 --> 00:47:32,333 ♪ ♪ 1251 00:47:32,417 --> 00:47:33,667 - You come into this process and you know 1252 00:47:33,792 --> 00:47:36,042 like, what you want. 1253 00:47:36,208 --> 00:47:40,625 And then you have to kind of come to terms with what it is. 1254 00:47:40,708 --> 00:47:44,292 And I'm afraid that, you know, I could want something so bad 1255 00:47:44,417 --> 00:47:47,833 that's maybe not for me or think it's not for me 1256 00:47:48,000 --> 00:47:49,250 and then regret it later. 1257 00:47:49,375 --> 00:47:51,083 You know, so yeah, I'm definitely 1258 00:47:51,208 --> 00:47:54,292 fearful of making the wrong choice on Decision Day. 1259 00:47:54,375 --> 00:47:58,000 - And both of you have a very good chance, high level energy 1260 00:47:58,125 --> 00:48:00,083 to stay together, but the both of you 1261 00:48:00,208 --> 00:48:02,000 got to get out of your uncomfortable energies 1262 00:48:02,125 --> 00:48:03,792 and get out of everyone else's head. 1263 00:48:03,917 --> 00:48:05,542 Make the decision from the heart, 1264 00:48:05,708 --> 00:48:08,708 because something like this doesn't happen every day. 1265 00:48:08,833 --> 00:48:10,583 - ♪ Breathing ♪ 1266 00:48:10,708 --> 00:48:15,083 ♪ Keep breathing ♪ 1267 00:48:15,208 --> 00:48:16,458 [soft music] 1268 00:48:16,583 --> 00:48:19,083 ♪ ♪ 1269 00:48:19,208 --> 00:48:21,083 - Don't forget to call your mom. 1270 00:48:21,208 --> 00:48:23,375 - I know, I'm about to call her right now. 1271 00:48:23,500 --> 00:48:26,000 [line ringing] 1272 00:48:26,125 --> 00:48:29,458 Hey, when you come, park on P3. 1273 00:48:29,583 --> 00:48:31,708 ♪ ♪ 1274 00:48:31,833 --> 00:48:34,875 We'll see you in just a second. 1275 00:48:35,000 --> 00:48:37,458 I wish my brother was able to come today, 1276 00:48:37,583 --> 00:48:39,917 but he's working. 1277 00:48:40,042 --> 00:48:42,667 He wasn't able to push his schedule back to come. 1278 00:48:42,750 --> 00:48:44,542 - Oh. 1279 00:48:44,667 --> 00:48:45,667 He got to make his money. 1280 00:48:45,792 --> 00:48:46,958 - Yeah. 1281 00:48:47,042 --> 00:48:49,500 I have a working family. 1282 00:48:49,583 --> 00:48:53,167 I'm glad we all get to spend a little time together. 1283 00:48:53,292 --> 00:48:55,000 Even though it's just the three of us. 1284 00:48:55,125 --> 00:48:57,875 - Miss V is enough energy herself. 1285 00:48:58,000 --> 00:48:59,917 ♪ ♪ 1286 00:49:00,042 --> 00:49:02,292 I'm excited to see her. 1287 00:49:02,375 --> 00:49:04,542 - I thought I heard her in the hallway. 1288 00:49:04,667 --> 00:49:07,917 [line ringing] 1289 00:49:08,042 --> 00:49:11,417 - Let me see if she here. 1290 00:49:11,542 --> 00:49:13,667 - She's in a black car. 1291 00:49:13,792 --> 00:49:18,708 ♪ ♪ 1292 00:49:18,875 --> 00:49:21,000 I have a headache, and I need to eat. 1293 00:49:21,083 --> 00:49:22,667 I don't want to be hangry. 1294 00:49:22,792 --> 00:49:24,667 ♪ ♪ 1295 00:49:24,750 --> 00:49:26,792 - I found her. 1296 00:49:26,875 --> 00:49:28,417 - Hi, Mama. 1297 00:49:28,542 --> 00:49:30,000 I'm glad you made it. 1298 00:49:30,167 --> 00:49:33,208 How are you doing? - I'm well. How are you? 1299 00:49:33,375 --> 00:49:36,458 - Kirsten has planned a family dinner with her family and I, 1300 00:49:36,542 --> 00:49:39,458 and it's kind of really weird because 1301 00:49:39,542 --> 00:49:41,708 the only person that showed up was her mom. 1302 00:49:41,833 --> 00:49:43,292 But hey, we're here. 1303 00:49:43,417 --> 00:49:46,833 And at this point, this is what it is. 1304 00:49:46,958 --> 00:49:48,958 ♪ ♪ 1305 00:49:49,042 --> 00:49:50,167 - How are you? 1306 00:49:50,250 --> 00:49:52,292 - I'm doing well. - Yeah? 1307 00:49:52,375 --> 00:49:53,542 How's work? 1308 00:49:53,708 --> 00:49:54,583 - Work is good. 1309 00:49:54,708 --> 00:49:55,708 I love my job. 1310 00:49:55,875 --> 00:49:56,833 I love the people I work with. 1311 00:49:57,000 --> 00:49:58,750 The students, great leadership. 1312 00:49:58,875 --> 00:49:59,833 It's really good. 1313 00:49:59,958 --> 00:50:00,750 - Schoolyear going good? 1314 00:50:00,875 --> 00:50:02,042 - Oh, yeah. 1315 00:50:02,167 --> 00:50:03,417 It's our largest freshman class, 1316 00:50:03,542 --> 00:50:04,833 so it's a lot of people. 1317 00:50:04,958 --> 00:50:07,292 Largest enrollment in history. 1318 00:50:07,375 --> 00:50:12,875 - I'm glad that you are having a wonderful schoolyear. 1319 00:50:13,042 --> 00:50:15,000 How's the marriage going? 1320 00:50:15,167 --> 00:50:17,125 - You can go, or you want me? 1321 00:50:19,750 --> 00:50:22,833 I can be open and honest with saying like, you know, 1322 00:50:22,917 --> 00:50:24,833 like, I ain't my best self right now, like. 1323 00:50:24,958 --> 00:50:26,375 - OK. 1324 00:50:26,542 --> 00:50:28,167 - I definitely told Kirsten from the beginning 1325 00:50:28,250 --> 00:50:30,667 it was like, I saw she had guards up. 1326 00:50:30,750 --> 00:50:31,708 Like, I saw it. 1327 00:50:31,875 --> 00:50:33,167 I felt it. 1328 00:50:33,333 --> 00:50:35,042 It was like, you know, let me help you 1329 00:50:35,208 --> 00:50:37,500 take down these bricks one by one, like, 1330 00:50:37,625 --> 00:50:40,167 how can I help? 1331 00:50:40,250 --> 00:50:43,333 And then it was like, OK, they're starting to come down, 1332 00:50:43,417 --> 00:50:44,875 I'm starting to seeing light through the wall. 1333 00:50:45,042 --> 00:50:48,375 Like, it felt good. 1334 00:50:48,500 --> 00:50:51,250 But then to be here now it's kind of like-- 1335 00:50:51,375 --> 00:50:53,000 well, is my walls up? 1336 00:50:53,125 --> 00:50:54,500 Did I put up walls? 1337 00:50:54,667 --> 00:50:56,500 Like did I use her bricks that I was taking down 1338 00:50:56,667 --> 00:50:57,667 to build up my wall? 1339 00:50:57,792 --> 00:50:59,417 - The transference. 1340 00:50:59,542 --> 00:51:02,083 - Yeah, like we transferring the bricks to each other. 1341 00:51:02,208 --> 00:51:04,000 Like, I understand Kirsten wants more quality time, 1342 00:51:04,083 --> 00:51:06,000 more conversation. 1343 00:51:06,125 --> 00:51:09,167 But even in that, I like I feel like I do it. 1344 00:51:09,292 --> 00:51:13,042 But sometimes it may not be, I feel like, enough. 1345 00:51:13,208 --> 00:51:14,958 [tense music] 1346 00:51:15,042 --> 00:51:17,167 - I understand. 1347 00:51:17,250 --> 00:51:22,333 - But at the same time, I just want him to feel happy 1348 00:51:22,417 --> 00:51:24,167 when he's walking in, like happy to see me, 1349 00:51:24,333 --> 00:51:27,083 happy that he's coming home, like not being stressed out 1350 00:51:27,208 --> 00:51:28,833 and overwhelmed. 1351 00:51:28,958 --> 00:51:31,375 Like, I don't want us to just be existing together. 1352 00:51:31,500 --> 00:51:33,958 Like, I want the both of us to be happy. 1353 00:51:34,042 --> 00:51:37,042 I feel like that's what will ultimately 1354 00:51:37,167 --> 00:51:40,917 make us fall in love whenever that time comes. 1355 00:51:41,042 --> 00:51:42,667 ♪ ♪ 1356 00:51:42,792 --> 00:51:45,375 - When it's that moment that we just intertwine 1357 00:51:45,500 --> 00:51:48,375 with each other to say like, now we are growing, 1358 00:51:48,542 --> 00:51:51,375 other than growing separately. 1359 00:51:53,917 --> 00:51:55,625 - Words of wisdom to you all. 1360 00:51:57,750 --> 00:52:00,500 Let the expectations down. 1361 00:52:00,583 --> 00:52:02,417 Let those go. 1362 00:52:02,542 --> 00:52:05,042 Well, I wanted him to do it like this--he's not. 1363 00:52:05,167 --> 00:52:07,542 I wanted her to say it like this--she's not. 1364 00:52:07,667 --> 00:52:09,125 It's not happening. 1365 00:52:09,208 --> 00:52:11,000 And it's OK. 1366 00:52:11,083 --> 00:52:13,000 You expect, you're always gonna be let down. 1367 00:52:13,083 --> 00:52:16,250 Sorry. 1368 00:52:16,375 --> 00:52:18,958 You get caught up in that and you miss out on really living. 1369 00:52:19,042 --> 00:52:20,833 - Yeah. 1370 00:52:20,958 --> 00:52:22,958 - Take the wall down. 1371 00:52:23,083 --> 00:52:26,333 Pull the shade up, whichever way you want to look at it 1372 00:52:26,458 --> 00:52:28,458 and enjoy each other. 1373 00:52:28,583 --> 00:52:33,125 Relax, laugh, smile, breathe. 1374 00:52:33,250 --> 00:52:34,458 You know? 1375 00:52:34,583 --> 00:52:36,333 That's where the love grows from. 1376 00:52:36,458 --> 00:52:39,000 Living, not expecting. 1377 00:52:39,083 --> 00:52:44,000 ♪ ♪ 1378 00:52:44,125 --> 00:52:45,083 [upbeat music] 1379 00:52:45,208 --> 00:52:46,000 - ♪ This is our time now ♪ 1380 00:52:46,167 --> 00:52:47,833 ♪ Don't you dare look back ♪ 1381 00:52:47,917 --> 00:52:50,333 [knock on door] [dog barking] 1382 00:52:50,417 --> 00:52:51,542 - OK. All right. - Hey. 1383 00:52:51,667 --> 00:52:52,708 - Hi, there. 1384 00:52:52,875 --> 00:52:53,875 - Hi. 1385 00:52:54,042 --> 00:52:55,167 - Hello, there. 1386 00:52:55,250 --> 00:52:56,208 - How are you? 1387 00:52:56,333 --> 00:52:58,417 - Hi, Hank. 1388 00:52:58,542 --> 00:53:01,083 - With Decision Day less than one week away, 1389 00:53:01,208 --> 00:53:04,250 Pepper and I have decided to visit Gina and Clint, 1390 00:53:04,375 --> 00:53:06,125 who are struggling the most. 1391 00:53:06,250 --> 00:53:08,708 We want to make sure we discuss our concerns, 1392 00:53:08,875 --> 00:53:12,333 as well as help them navigate what they feel is holding them 1393 00:53:12,458 --> 00:53:15,167 back, to hopefully get them on the right track 1394 00:53:15,333 --> 00:53:17,000 before Decision Day. 1395 00:53:17,125 --> 00:53:19,000 Good to see you guys. 1396 00:53:19,083 --> 00:53:20,500 You guys look great. - Thank you. 1397 00:53:20,625 --> 00:53:22,333 - Thanks. 1398 00:53:22,458 --> 00:53:24,250 - I know you got a haircut, and are you happy with it? 1399 00:53:24,375 --> 00:53:26,042 - Yeah, I think it's great. 1400 00:53:26,167 --> 00:53:27,500 Just had--just had it done, so I haven't 1401 00:53:27,583 --> 00:53:28,750 had time to really adjust. 1402 00:53:28,875 --> 00:53:30,083 But I mean, it's not-- 1403 00:53:30,208 --> 00:53:31,917 - He said he feels lighter. - Yeah, lighter. 1404 00:53:32,042 --> 00:53:33,792 - You feel lighter? - Yeah. 1405 00:53:33,875 --> 00:53:35,292 - Yeah. I mean, 1406 00:53:35,375 --> 00:53:36,500 the hair's got some weight, man. 1407 00:53:36,667 --> 00:53:38,333 - Imagine if you cut that. - Oh. Yeah. 1408 00:53:38,458 --> 00:53:39,333 - Be a different person. 1409 00:53:39,458 --> 00:53:40,458 - I might float away. 1410 00:53:40,542 --> 00:53:42,333 - You might-- - [laughs] 1411 00:53:42,458 --> 00:53:44,833 - The reason we're here is, of course, 1412 00:53:44,917 --> 00:53:47,667 because we're less than a week away from Decision Day. 1413 00:53:47,750 --> 00:53:50,542 But also because it's kind of a moment 1414 00:53:50,708 --> 00:53:55,333 to talk about accountability and responsibility. 1415 00:53:55,458 --> 00:54:00,000 So I do, in fact, want to know what you've done to be more 1416 00:54:00,083 --> 00:54:02,542 intentional about what you do. 1417 00:54:02,667 --> 00:54:05,042 - We did my birthday, so that was one of the special things 1418 00:54:05,167 --> 00:54:07,083 that was nice for me. 1419 00:54:07,208 --> 00:54:08,583 - So let me ask you about the other things 1420 00:54:08,708 --> 00:54:10,667 that I've asked you to do. - Yeah. 1421 00:54:10,792 --> 00:54:14,167 - There's movies that I think are emotionally moving. 1422 00:54:14,333 --> 00:54:16,625 Did you ever see "Driving Miss Daisy"? 1423 00:54:16,708 --> 00:54:18,042 - Yeah. 1424 00:54:18,208 --> 00:54:19,917 - Or of "The Art of Racing in the Rain." 1425 00:54:20,042 --> 00:54:21,708 - I love that. 1426 00:54:21,875 --> 00:54:23,292 - Did you see the movies? 1427 00:54:23,375 --> 00:54:25,250 - Nope. - No. Did not see the movies. 1428 00:54:25,375 --> 00:54:27,375 - So what was I doing here last week? 1429 00:54:27,542 --> 00:54:29,042 I mean, honestly, guys. 1430 00:54:29,167 --> 00:54:31,667 I mean, you agreed. 1431 00:54:31,792 --> 00:54:33,083 So why not? 1432 00:54:33,208 --> 00:54:34,542 Why not? 1433 00:54:34,667 --> 00:54:36,500 - Yeah, I think it's just a time thing. 1434 00:54:36,583 --> 00:54:39,083 We went on the couples retreat like right after. 1435 00:54:39,208 --> 00:54:41,875 - I guarantee you if I said, I've got $3,000 for you 1436 00:54:42,042 --> 00:54:45,167 to pick up, somewhere you would have found the time. 1437 00:54:45,250 --> 00:54:46,458 - Yeah, probably. Yeah. 1438 00:54:46,542 --> 00:54:48,000 I think that's a fair statement. 1439 00:54:48,125 --> 00:54:51,500 - I want things that will be more on the emotional side 1440 00:54:51,583 --> 00:54:55,542 since you guys are highly rational, 1441 00:54:55,667 --> 00:54:58,583 which is a good thing, except that here, 1442 00:54:58,708 --> 00:55:00,833 I'm hoping for some emotion. 1443 00:55:00,917 --> 00:55:04,208 If you do these things and you are unchanged by them, 1444 00:55:04,333 --> 00:55:05,750 so be it, you know. 1445 00:55:05,875 --> 00:55:08,833 But I really want you to do them. 1446 00:55:09,000 --> 00:55:10,083 Please? 1447 00:55:10,208 --> 00:55:11,167 - Yeah, yeah. 1448 00:55:11,333 --> 00:55:13,042 I mean, we're not anti. 1449 00:55:13,167 --> 00:55:16,125 We want to do things that can encourage and invoke 1450 00:55:16,250 --> 00:55:18,167 maybe a different side of the relationship 1451 00:55:18,292 --> 00:55:19,792 that we haven't been able to tap into. 1452 00:55:19,875 --> 00:55:21,208 But it's just been crazy. 1453 00:55:21,333 --> 00:55:23,292 It's been a crazy week. 1454 00:55:23,417 --> 00:55:24,542 - Looking at you guys, looking at your body language, 1455 00:55:24,667 --> 00:55:26,208 you guys look like you're comfortable 1456 00:55:26,375 --> 00:55:28,792 and you're comfortable with each other. 1457 00:55:28,875 --> 00:55:30,500 - Oh, yeah. 1458 00:55:30,583 --> 00:55:32,958 - How would you describe where you are right now? 1459 00:55:33,083 --> 00:55:34,625 - I know personally for me, 1460 00:55:34,708 --> 00:55:36,417 my feelings just haven't gotten there. 1461 00:55:36,542 --> 00:55:40,667 So they haven't progressed past friendship for me. 1462 00:55:40,833 --> 00:55:42,833 And we've been spending quality time, like, 1463 00:55:43,000 --> 00:55:47,958 and we're doing all the things that should spark that. 1464 00:55:48,083 --> 00:55:50,750 - At the wedding, if I remember it correctly, 1465 00:55:50,875 --> 00:55:54,792 there was a lot of touching, there was kissing, 1466 00:55:54,875 --> 00:55:56,500 was that real? 1467 00:55:56,625 --> 00:55:59,833 - I would probably say it just was more in the moment. 1468 00:56:00,000 --> 00:56:03,250 Looking back, I think that we are in the mix of something, 1469 00:56:03,375 --> 00:56:05,167 but I don't think it was ever a point 1470 00:56:05,292 --> 00:56:07,792 that it was like a physical draw. 1471 00:56:07,875 --> 00:56:10,333 - Yeah, I think it was like kind of the expectation, right? 1472 00:56:10,458 --> 00:56:11,417 There's just so much weight on you. 1473 00:56:11,542 --> 00:56:13,250 - "Oh, it's your wedding." 1474 00:56:13,375 --> 00:56:15,000 - Yeah, and there's so many people that came in town, 1475 00:56:15,125 --> 00:56:17,083 and it's just, that's what people expect. 1476 00:56:17,208 --> 00:56:18,750 You know, when you go to a wedding, that's what you see. 1477 00:56:18,875 --> 00:56:21,500 - But did you do that for their expectations 1478 00:56:21,625 --> 00:56:23,167 or were you feeling some-- 1479 00:56:23,250 --> 00:56:25,000 - I think both. 1480 00:56:25,167 --> 00:56:27,417 I mean, some of it was kind of like out of body experience, 1481 00:56:27,542 --> 00:56:29,417 and you know, so it's like kind of going 1482 00:56:29,542 --> 00:56:30,750 through some of the motions. 1483 00:56:30,875 --> 00:56:33,500 But together our thoughts after the fact, 1484 00:56:33,625 --> 00:56:36,333 I think like, what do you do, what's your passions, 1485 00:56:36,458 --> 00:56:37,750 what are the things you want out of life, 1486 00:56:37,875 --> 00:56:40,000 like just the normal stuff that you would do 1487 00:56:40,167 --> 00:56:41,583 when you're courting somebody. 1488 00:56:41,708 --> 00:56:43,500 - I know you, Gina, you were like, 1489 00:56:43,583 --> 00:56:45,833 let me try to make the best out of this at the wedding. 1490 00:56:45,917 --> 00:56:49,333 - I have the tendency to look at things consistently 1491 00:56:49,458 --> 00:56:50,833 with like a positive mindset. 1492 00:56:50,917 --> 00:56:53,583 But other than us just being able to have 1493 00:56:53,708 --> 00:56:56,792 personable conversation and agree on business 1494 00:56:56,875 --> 00:56:58,917 and like, support each other in that way, 1495 00:56:59,042 --> 00:57:02,667 I mean, to me, that's legitimately been it. 1496 00:57:02,750 --> 00:57:06,292 - So then what you guys want out of life-- 1497 00:57:06,417 --> 00:57:07,500 they're not compatible? 1498 00:57:07,625 --> 00:57:10,667 [dramatic music] 1499 00:57:10,833 --> 00:57:18,458 ♪ ♪ 1500 00:57:18,542 --> 00:57:19,667 [tense music] 1501 00:57:19,792 --> 00:57:23,542 - So then, what you guys want out of life are-- 1502 00:57:23,708 --> 00:57:25,625 they're not compatible. 1503 00:57:25,708 --> 00:57:27,583 - I mean, there's definitely lines 1504 00:57:27,708 --> 00:57:29,625 that blend into each other. 1505 00:57:29,750 --> 00:57:31,833 And then there's lines that deviate. 1506 00:57:31,958 --> 00:57:33,375 - Yeah. 1507 00:57:33,542 --> 00:57:34,250 But I mean, that's normal for any couple. 1508 00:57:34,375 --> 00:57:35,917 - Yeah. Yeah. 1509 00:57:36,042 --> 00:57:37,667 I'm not saying like, there's direct alignment and all that. 1510 00:57:37,792 --> 00:57:39,625 But yeah, I mean, there's also some, 1511 00:57:39,750 --> 00:57:42,583 like--we're both very business-oriented, 1512 00:57:42,708 --> 00:57:46,667 successful in our own rights, like, driven people. 1513 00:57:46,833 --> 00:57:49,083 So I think there's a lot of commonality there. 1514 00:57:49,208 --> 00:57:51,792 We have a ton of commonality, like no doubt. 1515 00:57:51,917 --> 00:57:52,958 - Absolutely, yeah. - No doubt. 1516 00:57:53,042 --> 00:57:54,417 That's not the problem. 1517 00:57:54,542 --> 00:57:55,958 - What is the problem? 1518 00:57:56,083 --> 00:57:58,667 - It's that physical aspect, like, 1519 00:57:58,792 --> 00:58:01,208 we don't have that yearn to want to get romantic 1520 00:58:01,333 --> 00:58:03,500 with each other. 1521 00:58:03,583 --> 00:58:05,333 And that's the stopgap. 1522 00:58:05,458 --> 00:58:07,458 ♪ ♪ 1523 00:58:07,583 --> 00:58:09,375 - You agree? - Yeah. 1524 00:58:09,500 --> 00:58:11,667 I think I agree with that. - Why do you think? 1525 00:58:11,833 --> 00:58:15,000 - The physical attraction wasn't there in the beginning 1526 00:58:15,125 --> 00:58:17,333 and I feel like, we talked about like, 1527 00:58:17,458 --> 00:58:22,125 some personality stuff too that I just feel like has been 1528 00:58:22,250 --> 00:58:23,417 a little bit of a mismatch. 1529 00:58:23,542 --> 00:58:25,000 - For instance? 1530 00:58:25,125 --> 00:58:27,708 - I think that Clint's personality is 1531 00:58:27,833 --> 00:58:30,167 like outrageous and wild and fun 1532 00:58:30,292 --> 00:58:33,625 and he's the life of the party, and everyone is like, 1533 00:58:33,750 --> 00:58:36,125 consistently laughing and he brings this energy 1534 00:58:36,208 --> 00:58:39,792 that's like this sense of a bizarre energy 1535 00:58:39,875 --> 00:58:41,917 that I've grown to love about him. 1536 00:58:42,042 --> 00:58:45,000 At first I was like, like it's the crass sense of humor, 1537 00:58:45,167 --> 00:58:49,125 like, almost like a feeling of secondhand embarrassment, 1538 00:58:49,250 --> 00:58:52,917 which sounds terrible to say, but for me, 1539 00:58:53,042 --> 00:58:55,292 you could be the one that everyone's like laughing at 1540 00:58:55,417 --> 00:58:56,958 and you're the life of the party, 1541 00:58:57,042 --> 00:58:59,667 but it's not someone that you like, are attracted to. 1542 00:58:59,833 --> 00:59:01,667 So I think that's one thing. 1543 00:59:01,750 --> 00:59:02,917 And then, I don't know, through this whole process, 1544 00:59:03,042 --> 00:59:04,375 I don't think there's ever been a time 1545 00:59:04,542 --> 00:59:06,875 that I really felt like a wife. 1546 00:59:07,000 --> 00:59:10,375 I don't know if I was waiting for that initiative of like, 1547 00:59:10,500 --> 00:59:13,750 someone that wants to treat you like a wife or someone that 1548 00:59:13,875 --> 00:59:15,542 wants to like, go the extra mile to prove, 1549 00:59:15,667 --> 00:59:17,500 but like I said, we've always felt like friends, 1550 00:59:17,583 --> 00:59:20,000 so why would he want to do that? 1551 00:59:20,083 --> 00:59:22,458 - But if he had? 1552 00:59:22,542 --> 00:59:23,917 - I don't--I don't know. 1553 00:59:24,042 --> 00:59:25,167 I mean, I've questioned it. I don't-- 1554 00:59:25,292 --> 00:59:26,750 - Yeah. 1555 00:59:26,875 --> 00:59:28,667 - Or like, just the act of pursuing at all. 1556 00:59:28,792 --> 00:59:32,458 Like I never felt like any act of pursuing, whatsoever. 1557 00:59:32,583 --> 00:59:33,542 - What do you think? 1558 00:59:33,708 --> 00:59:34,958 - I don't know. 1559 00:59:35,042 --> 00:59:36,750 I don't know. 1560 00:59:36,875 --> 00:59:39,667 I mean, have I taken on the full duties 1561 00:59:39,792 --> 00:59:42,833 and responsibilities that I feel like a husband would? 1562 00:59:42,958 --> 00:59:44,083 - And what are those duties, like... 1563 00:59:44,208 --> 00:59:45,667 I mean, I don't-- I mean, I don't know. 1564 00:59:45,833 --> 00:59:47,333 I'm not a husband. 1565 00:59:47,417 --> 00:59:49,000 So if you guys could give examples. 1566 00:59:49,083 --> 00:59:51,417 - I mean, you know like, I try to do thoughtful things 1567 00:59:51,542 --> 00:59:53,792 for her, you know, like cook dinners, 1568 00:59:53,875 --> 00:59:56,083 I try to incorporate her in that. 1569 00:59:56,208 --> 00:59:58,083 - Don't take this wrong way, but a lot of the cooking 1570 00:59:58,208 --> 00:59:59,458 is for Clint. So like-- 1571 00:59:59,542 --> 01:00:00,750 - He enjoys it. - I don't know. Yeah. 1572 01:00:00,875 --> 01:00:02,542 I don't know that it's necessarily like, 1573 01:00:02,708 --> 01:00:04,375 I'm doing this for Gina. 1574 01:00:04,542 --> 01:00:05,250 Like, I'm cooking this meal for Gina. 1575 01:00:05,375 --> 01:00:06,542 - There it is. 1576 01:00:06,667 --> 01:00:07,958 - Like, this is-- I'm cooking this 1577 01:00:08,083 --> 01:00:10,083 because I watch cooking shows, I love to cook 1578 01:00:10,208 --> 01:00:12,667 and I love to present and I love to cook for everyone. 1579 01:00:12,792 --> 01:00:14,333 So to me, it was never like-- 1580 01:00:14,458 --> 01:00:16,167 I appreciate your cooking, I love it, 1581 01:00:16,292 --> 01:00:18,833 but that wasn't something like, I think at the end of the day, 1582 01:00:18,917 --> 01:00:20,583 like, I'm going to make this meal 1583 01:00:20,708 --> 01:00:23,417 specifically for Gina because she loves, 1584 01:00:23,542 --> 01:00:26,375 you know what I mean? 1585 01:00:26,542 --> 01:00:29,000 - I see what she's saying, but what I'm wondering is, 1586 01:00:29,125 --> 01:00:32,042 what could he have done which would have made you feel 1587 01:00:32,208 --> 01:00:37,042 like, I see Gina and this is what she-- 1588 01:00:37,208 --> 01:00:38,750 she would really like. 1589 01:00:38,875 --> 01:00:41,125 - That's the thing is that I'm not really sure of that. 1590 01:00:41,250 --> 01:00:43,792 I just don't know that there really ever was 1591 01:00:43,917 --> 01:00:46,625 intentionality as a husband. 1592 01:00:46,708 --> 01:00:50,000 It was intentionality as anyone that you care for, 1593 01:00:50,125 --> 01:00:52,125 the same that you would do for Airris or Chris 1594 01:00:52,250 --> 01:00:54,583 or me or Nicole or anyone. 1595 01:00:54,708 --> 01:00:55,833 ♪ ♪ 1596 01:00:55,958 --> 01:00:57,833 - How did this just come up? 1597 01:00:57,917 --> 01:01:00,583 Why? What--what was the intent? 1598 01:01:00,708 --> 01:01:02,333 I'll take onus where onus is due. 1599 01:01:02,458 --> 01:01:05,667 I did not act in full capacity like a husband 1600 01:01:05,750 --> 01:01:07,083 like I could have, and that's on me. 1601 01:01:07,208 --> 01:01:09,708 And I'll wear that, and that's on me. 1602 01:01:09,875 --> 01:01:13,000 But to sideline me out of nowhere 1603 01:01:13,167 --> 01:01:15,250 with just like, this crazy information. 1604 01:01:15,375 --> 01:01:17,625 Like, we're at the end of this and then all of a sudden 1605 01:01:17,750 --> 01:01:20,208 you're like, Clint's this, Clint's that, he's weird, 1606 01:01:20,333 --> 01:01:21,458 he's creepy, he's crazy. 1607 01:01:21,542 --> 01:01:23,333 Like, whoa. 1608 01:01:23,417 --> 01:01:24,708 Very interesting. 1609 01:01:24,833 --> 01:01:28,083 - ♪ Do you believe ♪ 1610 01:01:28,208 --> 01:01:32,125 ♪ Or are they just pretty little lies ♪ 1611 01:01:32,250 --> 01:01:33,667 ♪ ♪ 1612 01:01:33,833 --> 01:01:36,500 ♪ Little lies ♪ 1613 01:01:36,625 --> 01:01:38,083 - ♪ Let's come together ♪ 1614 01:01:38,208 --> 01:01:40,750 - Next time on "Married at First Sight"... 1615 01:01:40,875 --> 01:01:42,708 - ♪ Let's make love last forever ♪ 1616 01:01:42,833 --> 01:01:44,500 - To be happy. 1617 01:01:44,583 --> 01:01:46,042 - What a ride. 1618 01:01:46,167 --> 01:01:47,833 - ♪ Let's come together ♪ 1619 01:01:47,958 --> 01:01:49,292 - Oh, look at that. 1620 01:01:49,417 --> 01:01:51,625 - Every fantasy I've had about being in love, 1621 01:01:51,708 --> 01:01:54,667 this is what those fantasies were about. 1622 01:01:54,750 --> 01:01:56,542 - For me, I do want to be a wife. 1623 01:01:56,667 --> 01:01:58,625 - He was like saying, I think things 1624 01:01:58,750 --> 01:02:00,292 could change after Decision Day. 1625 01:02:00,417 --> 01:02:01,292 Like, it'll get better. 1626 01:02:01,417 --> 01:02:03,000 We can grow our intimacy. 1627 01:02:03,083 --> 01:02:05,375 - Like, if we can't make that decision yet, 1628 01:02:05,542 --> 01:02:06,917 is it because we don't feel like 1629 01:02:07,042 --> 01:02:08,458 we're ready to live together? 1630 01:02:08,542 --> 01:02:10,000 [dramatic music] 1631 01:02:10,125 --> 01:02:13,708 - So can you see yourself maybe single again? 1632 01:02:13,833 --> 01:02:15,667 - I feel like things will get better. 1633 01:02:15,833 --> 01:02:17,750 But you know, it's up to you to believe me. 1634 01:02:17,875 --> 01:02:20,125 - I'm still unsure, I guess. 1635 01:02:20,208 --> 01:02:22,542 ♪ ♪ 1636 01:02:22,667 --> 01:02:24,625 - Hearing things. - [laughs] 1637 01:02:24,750 --> 01:02:25,750 - What is going on? 1638 01:02:25,875 --> 01:02:27,167 - I slid in Gina's DMs. 1639 01:02:27,333 --> 01:02:29,458 - I was caught completely off guard. 1640 01:02:29,542 --> 01:02:30,917 Just blindsided. 1641 01:02:31,042 --> 01:02:33,833 - I got like rescues and [bleep] veterans 1642 01:02:33,958 --> 01:02:34,917 and all of the stuff I've trained. 1643 01:02:35,042 --> 01:02:36,583 - Do I like the attention? 1644 01:02:36,708 --> 01:02:38,000 Of course I like the attention. 1645 01:02:38,167 --> 01:02:39,625 - I gotta say, this outside. 1646 01:02:39,750 --> 01:02:41,583 - What's outside? - 740. 1647 01:02:41,708 --> 01:02:44,583 - Oh, the 740. - Let's go. 1648 01:02:44,708 --> 01:02:48,500 ♪ ♪