- You look phenomenal. - Thank you.
- Eight bold singles took a leap of faith
in order to find love.
They married as complete strangers.
[cheers and applause]
- ♪ Hey, hey, hey
♪ Ready, set, let’s go
- Last time, our couples spent
their first official night as husband and wife.
♪ Step into my world
♪ Hey, hey, hey
- Becca and Austin.
- I had an exploratory surgery.
It turned into a diagnosis of endometriosis.
And in past relationships,
I have felt like a burden to them.
- That sucks that you, like, had to go through that.
I’m not like that.
Should--should be good.
- No, gonna be perfect. It’s great.
- [laughs]
♪ Step into my world
- Lauren and Orion.
- Just as, like, a rule of thumb,
I would just--if he’s working, just give him
like 10 minutes afterwards.
- Like now that I have these heads up,
I think it’ll be good for us moving forward
because I’m an overthinker.
- She is one of those individuals
that sometimes she does get in her head a lot.
- Get lost sometimes? - Yeah.
Sometimes you may have to reel her in.
- That can be something you all can
work on navigating together.
- Emily and Brennan.
- Fun one piece.
I don’t really know how it goes on yet.
We’ll probably get to, like, figure each other out
in, like, the bedroom more.
I did pack all my bachelorette props,
fuzzy handcuffs, lingerie.
I did not bring the whip.
I think it’s just too aggressive.
- Clare and Cameron.
- Guys in the past who don’t express that they care.
To me, that’s very, very hurtful.
Inside, I do want the physical affection.
It would be nice to feel cared for.
- Sure.
[pop music]
- ♪ No rules, just do, do what I wanna ♪
- And tonight, the couples look to grow closer
as the honeymoon begins.
- Wild sides out.
[laughter]
- This is the type of relationship
I’ve always wanted.
I’m just hoping I don’t puke.
- ♪ Get it, girl
♪ Get it, girl
- You’re just very sweet.
- Aw, thank you.
- And I like you a lot.
- Is this conversation uncomfortable for you?
- No. No, it’s not.
- No? OK.
I’m actually glad we had this talk.
I don’t know how you feel about it.
- I’m a little heated.
[dramatic music]
- I’m sorry that it’s turned into, like,
the big deal that it is.
- I feel like you have to be willing to go through--
put yourself out--I mean, you think that things that
you deserve just come upon you?
You don’t have to work for them?
- So you’re trying to make what you said
or what came up seem--
- Less offensive than what it was?
- It seemed like you tried to minimize.
[dramatic music]
- ♪ It’s all or nothing
- This is "Married At First Sight."
- ♪ There’s no other way
♪
♪ It’s all or nothing
[lively music]
♪
- I don’t know how to say that.
A few days ago, Austin was a stranger.
And now we’re on our honeymoon,
but I’m feeling excited.
I think it’ll be awesome to be able to actually talk,
get to know each other,
figure out, like, what his life is like.
And I’m ready to see what our marriage has in store.
- What are you guys really excited to do in Mexico?
Because this is some people’s-- - Hot air balloon.
- First time, right?
- We’re not going on a hot air balloon.
- We need to do, like, something really,
like, just physically--
something physical. - Yeah.
- Something physical? - Yeah.
- That is the point of the honeymoon after all, Lauren.
- What?
- To do something physical.
[laughter]
- Can I take it more like, hike, swim?
- Yeah, I agree. - Yeah.
- Sex.
- I mean, this is the first time we’re all,
like, living with each other.
- This is like--this is like a sample of like--
- I know.
It’s like, will I get really annoyed?
Maybe. [laughter]
- I think--
I think it’s a strong maybe.
[laughter]
- Uh-oh.
We’ll be--it’ll be OK.
- I feel really lucky, honestly.
I know it’s kind of early, but I already feel, like,
physically attracted to him.
He’s really considerate.
So I’m pretty happy right now.
- It’s been great, honestly.
So I’m really enjoying this time
and getting to know you has really been a pleasure.
- Aw. - Yeah.
- I would say that, for me, it has exceeded my expectations.
- Oh, yeah.
- And I’m very happy.
I mean, it could have gone way worse, but you’re OK.
[laughter]
- OK.
- I wanted to let you into, you know, OK.
All right.
- Just got to keep you on your toes, you know?
- That’s totally fair.
Yeah.
I mean, I think we vibe pretty well.
And so far, so good.
So...
- I feel like Cameron and I are very different people.
- Uh-oh.
- And that’s not a bad thing.
No, no, no--hey, listen.
That’s not a bad thing.
I think it works to our advantage.
And I think that we have a lot of learning
to do about each other, but I’m excited to get to know
Cameron more on this honeymoon.
- I think I’ve probably not been the easiest person to be
around, and I can be a lot.
And Clare is taking it like a champ.
[laughter]
- Thank you. - OK, what...
- What about you guys? - About you two?
- Twinsies.
- We nailed it.
- Done.
- No issues. - Move on.
- Really? - I feel like--
- Just like that?
- I just always imagined, like, just this, like, blob.
And then, like, when I actually saw him, I was like--
- Oh, a hairy blob. [laughter]
- Nice.
- Hearing Austin talk about his relationship with Becca,
it’s making me a little jealous.
I’m not sure exactly why Clare and I are progressing
slower than the other couples, but it does
make me curious as to maybe why Clare and I are struggling
to engage intimately.
- Is sex on the table for any of you guys?
- There is a specific thing I’m looking for,
which maybe it’s the same thing.
But I’m looking for the spark.
- Yeah.
- Something--that thing that happens,
you know, in the first few dates sometimes.
You know, and I want--
I want that to happen on our honeymoon.
I think that there’s--
I hope that there’s a moment in our future
where we maybe even without necessarily having
to communicate it, we feel it.
And then it’s on the table.
- Right-- - And then--
- But with zero pressure involved.
- Bingo.
But once that feeling that it’s on the table,
then it’s something, like, we can be like, OK,
is this something we’re doing right now or not, right?
- Right.
- Once you know it’s on the table--
- There’s a... - Then...
- There’s a... - That’s how I feel.
- There’s a--there’s a moment of chemistry
where it’s like, you’re like, oh, wait.
There’s something--oh, this might be about to get--
[laughter]
- Facial expressions.
- I would rather wait until like the intimacy
is just so built.
Like, we have that initial foundation of trust
and intimacy, and we’re at the point where
we literally want to rip each other’s clothes off.
- Mm-hmm.
- Like, that’s what I want to get to.
- Yeah. Yeah.
Well, this will just be the longest
foreplay any of us ever--
- Exactly.
It’s kind of fun.
- Yeah, I love foreplay.
- Yeah.
♪
[upbeat music]
- ♪ Lead the way in the starlight in the morning ♪
♪ Put your hands in the air
- It’s our first day, and it’s raining.
- So exciting.
- But we’ll make anything fun.
- Sure will.
- Cameron likes to sleep in, and I’m an early riser.
I’m hungry. I’m a breakfast girl.
And so I’m like, he can wake up any minute now.
- I’m excited for today.
I love an adventure, so--
- Right? Yeah. - I’m excited
for what we got going tonight.
- We get to give ourselves some time to go look for it.
- Yeah.
- Oh, not bad.
- No.
It looks like it’s clearing--clearing up.
- It’s still a little cloudy.
- There’s--there’s some blue.
[upbeat music]
♪
- I like that we’re both, like, monsters in the morning,
but, like, happy monsters.
[laughter]
Austin’s morning noises are that
of a pterodactyl that mated with a newborn corgi puppy.
[screeching]
- [laughing]
Hey, yeah.
That was [bleep] it.
That was--you nailed it.
That was 100%, right?
- And then you talk to yourself a little bit,
and then you just roll over and you’re like--
[gurgling]
Austin and I are equal parts weird.
Like I didn’t really ask for weird,
I don’t think, from the experts.
But the expert said, you need this, which they were right,
because I’m also that weird.
- You like papaya?
- A-pa-pa-ya?
- Papaya.
- A-pa-pa-ya! A-pa-pa-pa-ya!
- All right, howler monkey.
- Whoa, that papaya tastes savory.
- One thing that is kind of cool about our relationship
is we’re a good balance of silly and serious.
And after only knowing each other for a few days,
it’s insane.
It’s so weird that I might have met someone
who is the one.
Aliens, are they real?
- Yeah. - Yeah.
I totally believe that there are other living entities
in our grand universe.
- Yeah.
There’s no way that we are the only dumb ones
who are doing this [bleep].
There are other life forces eating fruit
in a tub somewhere.
Or maybe not, maybe we’re the dumb ones.
[laughter]
- ♪ Can you handle this
♪ Don’t say I didn’t warn you ♪
♪ Can you handle this
♪ It might be too much for you ♪
- Mm. Pain.
- So you didn’t fall this morning, correct?
- No-- - OK.
- It was last night.
- Oh, wait. Really?
- Yeah.
Last night, while we’re in the shower,
I left the shower to go get more towels.
And when I took a turn, I took a tumble.
You didn’t hear the big kaboom?
[laughter]
We did take, like, the PG-13 shower, mostly naked.
The shower was good, until I slipped
and, like, broke my hand.
But that was the most unclothed we’ve been
because we’re just not there yet.
We haven’t had the sex talk.
So, like, taking it slow while still being together.
I was like, oh, that was graceful.
[laughter]
Just gonna go walk this off.
- Wow.
So you woke up, and it still hurts?
- Mm-hmm. - That’s sucks.
Got to ice it.
- I didn’t want to tell you because I didn’t
want to be a little bitch.
And then I was like, you know, I’ll be fine.
And then I couldn’t feel my hand this morning,
and then it was time to make sure it was OK.
- Drama in paradise.
Well, cheers to being committed.
[laughs] - Cheers.
[upbeat music]
- This coffee is so good.
I’m so happy. How’s your drink?
- Good.
- Food’s good.
- Mm-hmm.
- In the morning, I cook eggs--
eggs and cheese with a little peanut butter toast.
- Oh.
- Would you like that? - Mm-hmm.
I don’t really love peanut butter though.
I like jelly on toast.
- So jelly on yours?
- Mm-hmm, strawberry.
- OK, I think I can do that.
- It’s kind of like what Costco has.
It’s like what I eat too.
- So I’ll cook breakfast, you cook dinner?
- Mm-hmm. - Perfect.
It’s gonna be nice.
- I want that. Like, I need a routine.
I need a better balance.
- I’m so good at that.
- Great.
I have a bad work-life balance right now,
but I want to get better.
- You’re just so busy. - Yeah.
But also, I haven’t really had to stop for anyone, you know?
It’s hard for me to shut off my laptop
because there’s money to be made, you know?
- Are you still hungry to make more money?
- I am.
- I never want you to, like, lose that drive like that.
- Yeah. - Like that’s our flame.
You know what I mean?
Like my mom’s worked for 30 years doing--
- Yeah, I’m not--
- I don’t think I have it in me to,
like, not work a little bit.
- Like I want to just build, like, our legacy,
build something that, like, we’re very proud of.
- And I think it just comes down to being,
like--having, like, drive and a good work ethic.
I just feel like money always follows that.
- Yeah.
- And, like, I’m successful.
I know you’re successful.
And, like, I think it’s important to be
on the same page that we’re gonna, like, keep that up.
- Agreed.
- Power couple.
- Power couple, it’s got a nice ring to it, huh?
- It does.
- For me, my--
like, I’ve worked this hard because
I want to be able to provide the best life for our family.
So I want someone who understands the grind
because I’ve just been storing, stashing, stashing.
- I don’t like math.
I don’t really get it.
- Yeah.
- I’m bad at budgeting.
I just like to do what I want when I want
and, like, have the money to do it.
- Have like a--
- I like traveling, go out, eat where I want.
I would like my money to go farther...
- Yeah.
- In, like, a lot of different ways.
But I don’t really know where my money goes, to be honest.
[tense music]
- I’m very big on living below our means.
Do you feel-- - That’s how you should do.
- Do you feel that way too?
- I feel like I believe that,
but I can do better at living that way.
♪
- I got to look into this, see what’s going on over there.
Where all that money is going, we’ll find out real quick.
- [chuckles]
- Audit--auditor Brennan over here, all of a sudden.
- Room for growth for me.
Openness, though, for you to take the reins on this.
- I have no issues with that.
[laughter]
- ♪ Why do you come
♪ Why do you go away
- We just had a yummy breakfast.
We’re ready to take on the day.
We’re both caffeinated.
Um...
I’ve been up for hours.
I’m gonna need a nap pretty soon.
And you got the swim trunks.
- Togs.
- Or do these match, or no?
- Not on purpose.
- No, they don’t--no, they don’t match, though.
These are two different patterns.
No, that’s a good-- good look.
- Oh, yeah.
- Oh, wow. - Now that--
- You look like--
- That is a boy who is ready to paddleboard.
- [laughs] I don’t even know what to say.
I mean, you’ve even got the shoes and everything.
- Yes. I told you, water shoes.
- Yeah.
- No, it looks great.
- It fit all in my--in my-- in my little suitcase
that apparently no one believes that I can bring anything in.
So last night, Clare and I, we had
a good discussion about physical touch and intimacy.
And I’m--honestly, I think I might be a little more
confused because, personally,
I didn’t get a clear understanding
of what she wants.
- You look like a dad.
[laughs]
- Well, I am a husband. - Right.
- I mean, that’s close. That’s one step.
- It’s just looks like you should
have, like, three kiddos falling
behind you for some reason.
- I’d be the coolest dad in--
- That outfit is... - The whole wide world.
Thank you very much.
- It’s very interesting
- It’s very important to me to get an energy
of comfort and safety from the woman I’m with,
and I usually make the first move.
But she keeps making jokes
about my lack of fashion sense.
And in this moment, my feeling is
that she doesn’t feel comfortable enough
with me yet.
So I’m waiting.
- You ready?
- It’s pretty--pretty rough out there.
I hope we’re not going out there.
- It’s a little choppy.
OK, let’s go.
[upbeat music]
- This is gonna be fun.
- I know. I’m excited.
All right.
- Here you go.
- Awesome, thank you.
- You’re welcome.
Are we nervous?
- It’s a little windy.
So that’s--that’s what’s kind of making me nervous.
But... - But there’s no rain...
- At the same... - So we should be OK.
- Time, if I fall, I fall.
And that is--that is what it is.
Nice.
- And I’m gonna push you on.
- Ah!
All right, we’re going. Later, Cameron.
- Bye.
- You’re gonna the middle.
The middle of the--
- See you back at the room.
- OK.
- Wait, where am I going? - Ready?
- Ready.
- You’re up.
- This is a very good place to start.
I think, you know, we’re both having fun,
and we actually are, like-- enjoy each other’s presence.
- ♪ Underneath is where she’s hiding ♪
♪ But you’re fighting
- We’re learning, how do we ignite the spark?
How do we make it grow?
- ♪ If she don’t know it
♪ Then she can’t fake it
♪ And I’m not gonna make her take something that I’ve got ♪
- I think, you know, we’re making those baby steps.
They’re not huge steps.
They’re not massive steps, but they’re baby steps.
That was fun.
Cameron, taking his sweet, sweet, sweet time.
- ♪ Let’s get away, holiday
♪ Warm breeze, salty air
- It’s our first vacation together.
- Yeah.
It’s been crazy.
Do you want to get warmer?
- Yes.
- Yes, OK.
- Away from the wind.
- Yeah, be a little warmer.
Oh, this is actually even better.
- Is it?
- Yeah, this is nice.
- Oh, yeah.
I like this. OK.
First night, how you feel? First day--
- First day? I feel good today.
- Yeah.
- I feel good today. You know--
- Yesterday was a lot.
- Yesterday was definitely a lot,
kind of just all the traveling.
And then we’re still very new to each other.
- We’re not strangers.
No, we got past that.
- We passed the stranger-- stranger danger.
- But, you know, I do want to make sure that you do feel
safe through all of this-- safe, comfortable.
It’s kind of my biggest priority right now
and then getting to know you.
- I appreciate that.
- Yeah.
- Hearing him say that, it kind of just
makes me feel really excited because one thing
my mom stressed is that
she wanted me to be with a strong man
that made me feel safe.
And once I feel safe enough to be vulnerable,
safe enough to just be my authentic self with him,
that will make me feel loved and supported by him.
And we can just go deeper from there.
- You know, I do have to say.
I really enjoyed our conversation
last night at the aqua bar.
Yeah.
- We touched on a lot of things.
You know, only one kid.
- One kid.
- One kid, but open for adoption.
- Open for adoption.
- Open for adoption, which, I think,
is honestly really amazing because there’s a lot of kids
out there who, you know, they don’t have--
they don’t have things.
You know, and I don’t know.
You know, being someone who gives, someone who likes to--
- Like, we’re good providers. - Yeah.
Yeah.
- We’re givers.
I could tell that off--based upon you
and things that I’ve seen.
So I think--one, I think when that time comes,
we would make great parents.
And it would be great to, you know,
just keep our options open...
- Sure.
- Outside of natural births...
- Right.
- With adoption, you know?
- OK.
Well, you know, I think you’d make a great mother.
And honestly, you know, I say that confidently,
you know, knowing you for as short as I have.
- Right?
- But no, just you’re very warm.
You have a very warm aura about you, you know?
And I don’t know.
As a kid, I definitely needed that growing up.
So, you know, just that alone,
I know that you’re--you’re just years ahead of anybody else.
- Thanks.
I think, for me, like, when we have
these kind of conversations about the future,
it gives me a little bit more reassurance, like, in the now.
- Gotcha.
- And I get that we don’t need to,
like, plan everything out--
- Right. But it’s...
- But it’s-- - Nice to hear.
- Yeah. - OK.
It’s nice to hear.
It’s very comforting to talk about the future
and what that holds because I am
looking for everlasting love.
So, you know, I think it is really
amazing how well we got matched together by the experts.
Honestly, as feelings are growing, the chemistry,
it really does just, you know--just
start to build more and more.
It’s nice to feel nice, to feel seen, to feel heard.
And that’s why I’m enjoying this so much.
That’s why I’m enjoying you so much.
- I’m glad you feel that way.
I think we both had like--
what’s the word?
Maybe, like, underwhelming relationships in the past,
or just not fulfilling.
- They just kind of fizzled out.
- Fizz--that’s actually the exact
word I’ve used in the past.
And I think if we just, like, continue
to make it a habit of getting to know
who Lauren and Orion are today at this moment,
there can’t be a fizzle.
- I would definitely boast about my marriage
to anybody, which like, you know, we don’t have a problem.
And if we do, we figure it out together.
- Yeah.
You know, I think we’re pretty good at this marriage thing.
- I think so too. Yeah.
- ♪ ’Cause everything that I could dream ♪
♪ Will turn into an island fling ♪
[upbeat music]
♪
- That was fun. What did do you think?
- I liked it very much.
- Yeah, I felt like your balance surprised me.
- Oh, thank you.
- Neither of us fell.
- Nice job. - Love that.
- You were fast.
I couldn’t keep up.
This was my first time paddle boarding.
And, you know, to--to be able to do that with you, I think,
has, like, a whole extra element to it.
I think we got to see at least a little bit
of a different side of each other,
which I think any of that, for me, personally, is good.
- I could not agree more.
- The more I get to know the fun side of Clare,
the more I feel comfortable advancing
my physical connection with Clare.
I do find her attractive, and I do like her.
And I hope moving forward that we can just be more relaxed
around each other, and I hope that
that will lead to more opportunity
for physical intimacy.
Well, I think we--
we bonded against our common enemy, the wind and the water.
- I agree.
- Now--now we--
- But also, about the fact that we were having fun.
- Yeah.
- We bonded on that as well.
- Yeah.
I had a lot of fun.
How are you feeling?
- I’m feeling good.
Yeah, no, I think that
it’s a beautiful setting.
And I think, how can you not have just a great time?
And that’s what we’re doing. - Yeah.
- So I’m feeling-- - Yeah.
- I’m feeling great.
- Yeah.
What--what do you--
what do you want to know?
You want to get to know me? - [laughs]
Just anything?
- I don’t know. - What do I want to know?
- So you--you’re still in school--like you’re--
I don’t want to say still in school like
it’s a bad thing, but you’re... - Yeah.
- Still in school?
- I’m in my last year
of my master’s program.
- Yeah, and you’re-- you fix bikes, correct?
- Yeah.
I mean, I didn’t do my master’s in bike fixing.
- Right.
- Do you ever get, like, bored of that?
- I mean, I--
- I feel like that gets very repetitive.
- I mean, every--
every fracture is different.
It’s kind of like a surgeon.
Like, do surgeons get bored?
I mean, I guess at some point.
But, like, every--
- Yeah, right.
So every bike is different?
- Every single one, the way they break is different.
- Yeah. You love your job?
- Yeah, I do. I do.
Like for--for a lot of people in Boulder,
their bikes are, like-- they’re their lives.
Like it’s their--it’s their entire social network.
It’s like if they don’t have their bicycle,
their mental health starts to decline, you know?
- Right.
- Like the stories that we heard of,
like, people in lockdown and all that.
And just, like, knowing--
like, knowing that their only escape was that they could,
like, go outside and do the... - Right, which is...
- One thing that they loved. - Nice that you offer that.
I think that’s really cool. - I mean...
- That’s very cool. - It’s important to me.
It’s--I care about the engineering and the materials,
but the people side of it is just as important.
- For sure.
And I think that’s something we bond on too is, like,
I think some people are OK in a job that they don’t love,
because whether it makes them money or whatever.
And it is, for me, it’s, like, that’s not what matters.
It’s the fact that you enjoy doing what you do...
- Yeah. - You know?
I respect that.
♪
[salsa music]
♪
- I’m gonna brush my teeth...
- OK. - Real quick.
- I’m gonna finish my make--
I’m almost done.
Actually, I got to lay my edges down.
- Can I watch you put your edges down?
- Did you say put my edges down?
- No, just watch, just watch.
- But what did you call it? - Edges?
- But what did you say?
Say the whole thing.
- Can I watch you put your edges down?
- Lay, I’m gonna lay... - Oh.
- The edges.
- Lay your edges.
- Yes, you can definitely watch me lay my edges.
Gel, brush...
- OK.
- Comb.
- Nice.
- So first, comb the little naps out.
[laughs] That’s what that sound is.
Take a little gel.
I really like a little sideburn action.
- Mm-hmm.
- So I always ask my braiders, like,
leave a little hair out on the side,
so I can get a nice little swoopity-swoop.
- Usually getting ready for, like, pow-wows,
getting in regalia and things like that,
I think my mom and Bronte, they spent
about two hours doing hair.
Yeah, just pulling it tight...
- Just making sure it, like... - Getting it braided.
- Looks perfect... - Mm-hmm.
- At least enough.
- Yeah.
- And they have long hair.
So I bet it does take two hours.
This is why we call it laying the edges down, just to,
like, make sure-- - Oh, and it helps...
- Yeah. - Lay it down?
- Yeah, just to... - OK
- Help it lay down. - Yeah.
- There’s no right or wrong way to tie it,
just as long as it’s tight around.
- I think it is really amazing that she’s able to, you know,
just let me in on her culture.
Everything I could learn about that, you know, and the ways
that I can show support, you know,
for her background and her even familial traditions, you know?
I’m there for it.
- You smell good.
I want to smell good too.
- I will say that.
You have smelled phenomenal.
- Thank you.
I appreciate that.
It’s all for you, baby.
[upbeat music]
- ♪ It’s all you, girl
♪ Watch you move
♪ You’re so cool, girl
♪ You’re so cool
- The boat. - The boat.
- The boat!
I’m on a boat.
Hi. - Hello.
How are you? - Good, and you?
both: Good.
- Mighty nice.
- It’s just like the weather.
- Aw, you’re so cute.
- You’re so cute.
[laughter]
[soft guitar music]
♪
- A little pelican.
- That’s not a pelican.
You put your hand here.
- Put where?
- There. - There?
- I want to grab it. - Oh, OK,
in case we hit turbulence?
[laughter]
- Something that I’ve learned about you
which I was pleasantly surprised about
is how equally sensitive and goofy you are.
You’re very good at, like, being in tune with, like,
when I need something and then, like,
being affectionate with the way that you give me that.
Whether it be, like, picking up my suitcase or, like,
doing any little thing.
- Aw, the little things.
- I need to be reassured often...
- OK.
- For my overthinking mind.
- Am I good at doing that or do I need to get better?
- You’ve already gotten better. - Oh, OK. Great.
- Yeah, like, I feel like sometimes
I have to look at you and say, I’m feeling this way.
Please tell me otherwise.
Then you do.
- I don’t think that’s getting better, but--
- I think it is.
- OK.
- And I’m learning--
I’m learning how great of a guy you are.
I already knew that, but it’s nice to like--
- It’s a long journey.
Sometimes it takes time to get there.
- It’s nice to, like, witness what
all of your friends and family have said
and, like, see that it’s true.
- Aw.
I think one thing I’ve learned is,
like, how strong of a person you are and how,
like, capable--
after, like, you shared, you know, your details
about your surgery and your health issues, like, you know,
I feel like a lot of people don’t see how it affects you.
And I think that’s purposeful.
And you’re, like, strong enough to, like, keep your composure
and so, like, in tune with yourself enough to,
like, actually enjoy a moment, whether you’re in pain or not.
And I, like--
I really admire that.
I think that’s-- that’s incredible.
- That means a lot that you see that because it’s
so hard to share that... - Well, you’re also--
- Moment. - Yeah, of course. Yeah.
- I don’t share that side of me with a lot of people,
and I don’t share when I’m in pain
or what I’ve gone through with everyone.
For him to be ingesting it and, like,
interpreting it in that way rather than a negative
is amazing.
We’re learning a lot.
- Learning a lot.
Excited to keep-- keep learning.
- Taking notes.
Can I kiss you?
- Yes.
- Austin makes me feel seen and appreciated,
and I want to do this every day.
- ♪ Give it all that I have
♪ No holding me back
- Not get married to a stranger every day,
just be with him on a honeymoon every day.
- ♪ The whole world is watching ♪
♪ And I need to show them who I am ♪
- I wouldn’t want to be doing this with anybody else.
- ♪ Because I’m a believer
♪ And I won’t stop until the end of the road ♪
♪ Yeah, unstoppable
[upbeat music]
- ♪ Hey, yeah
♪ You’re dancing for me
♪ Look, see
♪ You’re smiling for me
- Oh, it’s nice. - Yeah.
- Cool.
- You want to sit over here?
- This is nice.
- How many shots do you think we’re gonna get?
- Probably a lot.
- I’m, like, nervous.
I’ve never have mezcal.
So this is gonna be quite interesting.
- Buenas tardes. - Buenas tardes.
- Oh, wow.
- How are you?
It’s mezcal el viejo.
- OK. - OK.
- Are we supposed to drink the whole thing?
- Yes. - Oh.
[glasses clinking]
- Salud.
- Uh-oh.
[salsa music]
Mmm.
- OK.
Maybe we take a little break from this.
- Hey, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.
You’re gonna do all of these.
- Cheers.
[glasses clinking]
♪
Mmm. Not bad.
♪
Delicious.
What is that, brownie?
- [laughs]
- It’s so good.
Oh, look, there’s more.
OK.
- I’m gonna do yours and see if I cry after, like today.
- I don’t cry.
That was sweat.
- [laughs]
- God. - Wild sides out.
[laughter]
- And cheers. All right, ready?
We got to do the whole fancy thing.
I know it’s a little-- all right, hold on.
I’m gonna come in here.
- ♪ It all starts with one spark ♪
♪ Let your colors shine right from the heart ♪
- This is the type of relationship I’ve always
wanted, just getting to try new experiences
that I’ve never done before.
And I’m just hoping I don’t puke.
[laughs]
- Where are you from, Long Island?
- Mm-hmm.
- I’m from Long Island.
I’m in New York. I like pizza.
- Yeah.
[laughter]
- Were you a partier in college?
- I wouldn’t say I’m a partier, but, like, I had fun.
- I was a huge partier.
- Huge? - Yeah.
- Uh-oh.
- I feel like I went to a big party school.
It’s hard to.
It’s all in the past...
ish.
- Open up.
- I’m a married woman now.
- A married woman.
- But still fun.
Very important.
- I feel like we balance each other out.
- Yeah, like, we’re similar, but we do
have our own personalities.
It works with each other.
Like I’m really emotional.
- Sometimes I get sappy.
- Oh, you have emotions?
- Sap. - Sap.
- Yeah.
- Where does sap-- like down here?
- It’s like pride to the left next to the dessert section,
if I’m being honest.
[light music]
I feel like I’ve known you for a long time.
And it’s just really nice to, like, hang out with you,
honestly.
It just kind of feels like we’re
picking up where we left off. - Mm-hmm.
- You know?
- Mm-hmm.
We’re very similar.
- The same values, which is, like, pretty cool,
the real important stuff.
All this time, like, dating, I thought,
like, am I just different?
Like, I feel like I can say something,
and you wouldn’t, like, judge me for it.
I feel like you would be like, yeah.
- Hell, yeah.
- Is that scary for you?
- It’s not scary.
It’s just, like, crazy.
Like I’ve just never met anyone like--
like me, let alone, like, someone I like.
You know?
- ♪ Feeling so anxious and nervous ♪
♪ But I know that you will be worth it ♪
♪ More than I ever dreamed
♪ I guess this is happening
- I’m gonna take another shot.
Do you want one? - Yeah.
Cheers.
Where have you been my whole life?
- I don’t know. [glasses clinking]
- ♪ Tonight, this feeling so sweet ♪
♪ This rhythm taking over me, oh ♪
- You want me to get on that side?
- Yeah, you want to try this? - Yeah.
- All right.
I think we should both sit down--
- Like both sit down at the same time.
- At the same time. - Oh, [bleep].
- And-- - Ooh.
- Oh, look at that.
- Yeah, you went for it. You got it.
- Oh, sh--
- I got to give you some more room.
- Oh, no. Oh, no.
- You good? [laughs]
- Yeah. Yeah, I’m good.
I’m good. I’m good.
- OK. You got enough room?
- [sighs]
- Hammocks are relaxing.
- You know, I could probably just hang out
here for the rest of the day.
- Oh, thank you so much.
- Thank you.
Cheers.
- Cheers.
- I still, like, wake up and think like this [bleep]
is crazy, that we did this. - All the time. All the time.
- But it’s also, like, going so well that I’m like--
- It feels really natural.
- But we’re still crazy as [bleep] for doing this.
- Yeah.
- I mean, but I wouldn’t want to do it...
- Cheers to crazy. - With anyone else.
- Aw, thanks, babe.
Cheers to crazy.
- Mm-hmm.
- Thanks. - Aw.
- What did we book?
Oh, we did Mexican food for dinner.
- Yeah, Mexican food.
I’m a big foodie, honestly.
- I really love that you can cook.
I haven’t had too many partners that cook well.
- Ooh, OK.
So you believe in gender roles in the house?
- Yeah.
I think there’s room for flexible gender roles
too, especially as it talks--as it pertains
to, like, household stuff. - Right, of course.
- Yeah, yeah, yeah.
So, like, do I think I should be in the kitchen cooking?
No, like, all the time.
Do I want to cook for my man though?
- But you should know how to cook.
- Yeah.
I think every adult should know how to cook.
But also, like, do I also, like, stereotypically, like,
want to cook for my man?
Yes, I do.
And things like that, I’m like, yeah, I still want to do.
Like I still want to be a wife to you.
- Mm-hmm.
And I still want to be a husband.
- Yeah, like how we talked about,
like, financial roles in the house.
- Yeah. Yeah.
- I feel like, yeah, you should be the provider.
- The 60-40, 70-30.
- No, you said 80-20.
I think I like that number. - No--I--
- But no, we can stick... - No, no, no.
- At 70-30. - I did, because...
no, and I said 80-20 because that is naturally how I like...
- How you are. - To be.
- I love that. - Yeah.
- I love that.
- It can take a little bit to get there.
It is something that I want to give you, though.
- Yeah? - Mm-hmm.
- I do get the vibes that, OK,
you want to provide for the household
and be, like, the man of the house.
And I appreciate that because that’s what I’m looking for.
But with that being said, I also want to give.
I don’t want you to feel the burden
and the weight of household financial duties alone.
- Right.
- I very much want you to feel like we’re
a partnership in this. - Absolutely
- So-- - Yeah, we’re a team in this.
- Yeah.
Well, we’ll figure that out as we go.
- Of course.
- But I’m glad that we talked about that
because it was on my mind.
But I know when it comes to money--
- It can be touchy for a lot of people.
- Especially men... - Sure, yeah.
- To be honest.
And that’s why I wanted you to like...
- Yeah. - Bring that up on your time.
- Honestly, that’s why I initiated it.
- Yeah. I was like-- - That’s why...
- Because I was not-- - I initiated it.
- I was not going to initiate
the money conversation at all.
I don’t feel comfortable doing that with men.
I just prefer y’all to do that.
You to do that.
- Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.
- So, like, what’s your, like, manscaping, like,
below and above the waist like?
I just got to know-- - OK.
- Just so I know what to prepare for.
- Well-- - Is it a jungle?
- No, I was gonna say it’s nothing prehistoric.
- Is it a forest?
- It’s nothing prehistoric.
It’s nothing prehistoric.
You know, I keep it low. - OK.
- I keep it soft.
- How do you keep it soft?
- So for Christmas,
I got something from my brother.
It was called Manscape.
It was, like, a whole kit.
So I get, like, aftershave for my nuts...
[laughter]
Things like that.
- We’re adults.
- You know. Yeah. Yeah.
You know, I’m just-- I don’t know.
I take care of myself. - So it’s soft?
- Yeah. I take care of myself.
- OK. So you keep it low.
- Yeah. - OK.
I like low over no, honestly. - Yeah.
I keep it low, not bald.
- For men, I like low over no.
- Yeah, low, not bold.
- Your eyelashes are really pretty.
- Thank you.
- They’re real sexy like.
- Ooh. - Mm, mm. [laughs]
[soft music]
- ♪ I don’t know what you put on me ♪
♪ You got me going crazy
♪ Don’t know what you put upon me ♪
♪ On me
♪ You got me so in love
♪ I want to play it rough
♪ I’m gonna turn it up
♪
- ♪ Loving you like you’re mine ♪
♪ Giving you everything I’ve got ♪
♪ I’m gonna change your life
- Gonna eat so much food. - Steak.
- And then we’re not gonna fit in our clothes.
- These hot, sexy clothes.
- Ooh!
We cute!
- Ooh!
- He’s cute.
I’ll keep him.
- ♪ Look me in your eyes
♪ ’Cause I’ve been loving you like you’re mine ♪
- Should I grab your chair for you?
- No. - Oh, that’d be nice.
- [bleep] the patriarchy. [laughs]
- [laughs] OK.
[laughter]
You got it.
- Just kidding.
Do you want me to pull your chair out for you?
- I don’t think it works like that.
- I’m just kidding.
Do you want to know what the best view is?
Your face. - I was gonna say.
This one right here?
- Just your face.
Your face, my face.
We haven’t even known each other that long,
and I just think you’re just very sweet.
- Aw, thank you.
- And I like you a lot.
- Aw, I like you too.
♪
- What were you like as a kid?
- Wild, a handful.
- That’s what your mom said.
- [laughs] You grew up in the suburbs of Chicago?
- Mm-hmm.
I grew up pretty privileged, just, like,
upper middle class, great school system.
I had a great group of friends.
A little wild as a high schooler and middle schooler.
But, um--but, yeah, I feel like just a relatively
pretty normal childhood.
Yes, thank you.
- Ooh, I’m excited.
- Yum.
How about you?
- Yes, I grew up in Boulder, and my life is pretty,
like, normal and boring. - Mm-hmm.
- I didn’t have a sibling, so, like,
that time growing up, I was, like, stuck at my--my house...
- Mm-hmm.
- And, like, bored.
- Were you ever jealous of, like, your friends
who grew up with siblings?
- No, I wasn’t jealous.
I didn’t mind being an only child.
I think, like, it--
I think, like, if I were to have kids,
I would want to have two.
- Mm-hmm.
- Do you have, like, a number of kids you want
to, like, aim for or not or--
- I feel like I’ve imagined my life either way,
with or without kids.
- OK.
- But I think largely, the decision lies in, like,
what my partner wants, not because I don’t know
what I want, but because, like, truly, either way,
I would be so happy.
Because if I didn’t have kids, like,
it would allow me to, like, foster kids or, you know,
serve my community in ways that you can’t when you have kids.
- Yeah. - But...
- Yeah.
- If you were to want kids, that would be fun.
- [laughs] Yeah, I want to have kids.
- [laughs]
- I want to have kids.
- I’m gonna throw up. - You think I was wild?
- Mm-hmm.
- That kid would be something--our kids
are gonna be something else.
[laughter]
- When do you want two kids?
- Maybe like a three-year spread.
I’ve got, like, a lot of other things I want to do--
- Yeah.
- Before I have kids. - Same.
- Like date you.
[laughs]
- ♪ Don’t want out
♪ Feeling love, feeling love
♪ And you’re all that you got ♪
- Cheers.
- Ah, to not falling in.
- Good for us.
When I--there could have been several moments.
[chuckles] Oh, thank you.
That looks delish.
- Do you want me to put it here?
- Yeah.
Thank you.
- Thank you. Perfect.
Thank you.
- Appreciate that.
- Ooh.
Ooh, this is soft. - [laughs]
- How does it feel to be on a date with me, your husband?
- I’m having fun.
[upbeat music]
- Um...
I think we can kind of, you know,
use this dinner as the start point for a fun night.
- Mm-hmm, yeah.
I know I’m having a good time when I’m laughing a lot.
- Mm.
- That’s when it’s like, OK, she--
she’s having a good time.
- Well, you laugh all the time around me.
- Yeah, ’cause I think you’re goofy, in a good way.
- Mm. - No, not--no, goofy is--
- I didn’t know goofy--
I didn’t know goofy was in a bad way.
- Oh, OK, good.
I don’t know, because I think some people hear goofy,
and they’re like--
which I--I said, like, I appreciate a goofy--
I asked for a goofy person because I feel like my job,
I can get really serious sometimes because it is
a very serious thing, right?
- Mm-hmm, mm-hmm.
- It’s people’s health.
It’s their--their minds,
and so I take that very seriously.
And sometimes I lose sight of, like, the fun parts of things.
- Yeah. - You know?
- Yeah.
- Have you gone to therapy?
- As a kid, not as--
- Yeah.
- Not as an adult, yeah.
- Do you feel like you could benefit or, like--
I mean, obviously, it’s something that is--
it’s very important to me. - Yeah.
- You know? - Yeah.
- I understand therapy.
I think it would be difficult for anyone to say earnestly
that, like, therapy wouldn’t--couldn’t do
something good for them.
- Right.
- But, you know, the--
the reason I think that would stop people
is they’re unfamiliar, so they don’t know
how much good it would do. - Right.
- Or they think that there’s some stigma to it.
- But what about you?
- I think it’s good. - Yeah.
- But why don’t you go?
- It’s just not right now in my life
something that I want to do.
Things that I need find me when I need them.
It’s not--I’m not saying that that’s a--
I’m not saying that that is the right way to go about life,
but I feel like things that you might call interventions
or however you want to define it--
- Mm-hmm.
- If it’s therapy or something else...
- Right.
- My experience is that I find
that intervention, that specific intervention,
when I need it.
- I totally look at life differently,
but I respect that.
- Mm-hmm.
- I feel like you have to be willing to go through--
put yourself out there.
I mean, you think that things that you deserve
just come upon you?
You don’t have to work for them?
That’s what I’m hearing.
- I think yes.
- That’s what you’re saying.
- To answer your question more directly, yes,
but I would change the-- - I disagree.
- But I would change the words.
- OK.
- Everyone is presented with opportunity.
- Mm-hmm.
- The question is, do you--
do you take-- do you take advantage
of the opportunity that... - Mm-hmm.
- Has been offered to you?
So I’m--I’m the person who when the door opens,
I walk through it. - Mm-hmm.
But I think that’s such a privileged way of thinking.
- Why?
- Because it’s like saying, OK, yeah, if it comes to me,
I will-- you don’t have to work for--
hard for what you have.
- I had to be there.
- Right.
- I had to be where the door was.
- But what if you had to work to be--to get to the door?
I think we just view things very, very differently
is what I’m hearing.
- You’re saying that to find the opportunity...
- Mm-hmm.
- You have to have drive?
- You do.
- You--you find more doors with drive.
- Mm-hmm.
- But people who have no drive have opportunity--
- So would you say you have no drive?
- Of course not.
- Well, I don’t know.
You’re telling me things just come to you.
And it’s like, I have no drive in order to--
- Things come to everybody.
♪
- I’m learning that we are very different people
who have very different viewpoints,
who have very different personalities.
But that doesn’t mean that we can’t find
some common things, you know.
Um, I think it’s very cool that
we can have healthy discussions and have them
not feel like an argument.
You know?
- Yes.
I think we’re very similar people with very different
viewpoints and perspectives, which I actually think
is really interesting.
And I think can be very, very complementary
and beneficial to a relationship.
- Yeah.
- I mean, you don’t want to be dating, like,
someone who’s identical to you. - Right.
I mean, we’ll figure it out at some point.
It’s just--it’s a lot to take in right now.
[dramatic music]
- [singing in Spanish]
♪
- Dude, I love this so much.
It’s been so long since I’ve just had this, like,
wave of love.
- I feel like you just need to go on vacation.
- I know.
Well, like, just--
I don’t know. - Happy.
- Yeah.
- And it’s so nice, like, disconnecting, and just--
I just feel like we’re so, like, present.
Don’t you think?
- You think that’s gonna change when
we get back to civilization?
- Yeah, a bit.
- I think we’ll still be able to,
like, focus on what matters, which is us.
- I feel like so, like, blah, lovey-dovey,
like, happy saying it.
But, like, I really couldn’t have imagined it, like,
going as great as it has.
- Yeah.
- I could have hoped for, like, something
to be like natural and, like, fun.
- I feel the same.
Like, it’s just--
I’m just enjoying it, and I’m very happy with, like,
how things are progressing.
And I just learn more and more about you,
and it just makes you more and more comfortable and more
and more attracted to you.
So I just want to carry on this momentum...
- Mm-hmm.
- And just, like, see where we go.
- What about sex?
- What about it?
- Like, do you think, like, you’re there with me?
- I think we’re building on it.
Like, we’re getting more and more, like, touchy.
And, like, I think, because we’re,
like, building our emotional, like, I think that’s just--
the physical is coming naturally,
which is really nice.
How do you feel about it?
- I am willing to just take your lead.
- I appreciate that.
- Yeah.
- Obviously, sex is super important.
But-- - Mm-hmm.
- Like, past relationships, it’s kind of, like,
changed the dynamic of the relationship.
So I think we have the luxury now where we can really focus
on the things that matter-- - Yeah.
- Versus focusing on that which could cloud.
- So where’s the link?
Feel it out.
- I’ve never focused on building
the emotional connection first.
- Yeah, I really haven’t either.
- But apparently, if you do that first and then--
- Great.
- Focus on the physical, it’s, like, that much better.
So I’m excited to see how that works.
- ♪ You make it easy, fun for you ♪
♪ Looking at me like what should we do? ♪
♪ You make it so easy
- Is that a mermaid?
- I have sensitive elbows.
- [laughs]
- Can’t touch the water-- whoa, in my trunks.
- Are you serious?
- [laughs]
- Oh, he keeps getting taller.
- I know. It’s weird.
- You have sensitive elbows?
- Here’s your water. [laughs]
What are you doing on the bar all sexy like?
- I’m modeling. - Yes.
Love it.
- No.
I’m too cold.
- So you thought the bar was a good place to stay warm.
[soft music]
- Yeah, I did.
- Good.
- Thanks for making me laugh.
- No problemo.
- The bar goddess.
- [chuckles] The bar goddess.
- I’m sorry that I’m not feeling
well enough to get in the pool and make out with you.
- It’s OK.
We can make out here.
Then we’ll go in the hot tub.
[laughter]
I totally understand.
I mean, you’ve just had surgery.
And, like, the water’s not exactly warm,
and I appreciate you being here with me.
- I just feel bad.
- Don’t feel bad. - I know.
- It’s OK.
It’s your health.
That’s the most important thing.
♪
It’s awesome that we can just, like, have fun
no matter what circumstance we’re in.
I think marriage is about being there for that other person
and sacrificing your needs for them.
I am more than willing to do that and excited to do that.
Yeah. You good?
I’m good. We good?
♪
- ♪ Beachside with my toes in the sand ♪
♪ Like I’m on vacation forever ♪
- You getting hot?
- Yeah, I’m just gonna sit out for a second.
- It is toasty.
- Yeah.
And it’s like, it’s not, like, cool air when you get out,
really. - Mm-hmm.
- So it’s just, like, hot, warm.
- Yeah. This is, like,
a happy medium I’m feeling right now.
- And I’m drinking... - Right now?
- I don’t usually drink in my bathtubs.
- Yeah, no, it definitely kicks it in--kicks in a lot
faster in the hot tub.
♪
So what is--
what’s one thing you want to find out about me
before this honeymoon ends?
- Before the honeymoon ends?
- Mm-hmm.
- I got a question.
- OK.
- You ready?
- Maybe.
[chuckles]
- Do you use the N word?
- No.
- Have you ever? - I have.
- Yeah, like, in your-- - Ignorantly.
- Younger years? - Ignorantly...
- Yeah.
- And singing along with songs.
- Can I punch you for my ancestors?
- Absolutely, yes. Thank you.
- All right. - You could--
- All right, we’re good now.
- Probably do that a lot, honestly.
- We’re good now.
- Yeah, no, I mean, you know, I was definitely,
you know, an ignorant kid-- - Mm-hmm.
- You know, not knowing stuff.
And I’ve had, you know, some of my own community,
you know, talk to me, mostly my mom--
- Mm-hmm.
- Was just like, hey, you know, don’t joke about that.
And so it was really just a big learning process growing up.
- No, I think that that is OK because I’ve used terms that--
when I was younger that I didn’t even know
were derogatory.
- Redskin? - No.
I don’t think I’ve ever used that language.
But, like-- - Yeah.
- But, no, I’ve actually never--
I don’t even know what "redskin" means, honestly.
Oh, I do.
I just looked at your face.
[tense music]
I didn’t--I didn’t. - That was a little rough.
- I’m sorry. That was a little--
I’m sorry. - That was rough.
- That was rough? - A little bit, yeah.
- Yeah? I’m sorry. - Yeah, a little bit.
- I’m actually just looking at the fact
that you’re sunburned right now around your nose.
But still, I-- - Sure.
- Shouldn’t have said that.
But I just actually never even
knew what that meant.
I’m sorry.
- Do you want to know what it means?
- If you want to, you can explain it.
- If you’d like to know, I’ll tell you.
- Yeah.
- So where the term came from is,
you know, when colonization started,
you know, what was more valuable than gold to them
was the scalp of an Indian.
- Mm. - And so for that,
when you scalp-- - I see it.
- That’s where that...
- That’s disgusting.
- Yep. - That’s absolutely disgusting,
and I’m sorry that I even--
like, I wasn’t making the joke, necessarily.
But I’m sorry I even, like, fed into that hurt for you
and that pain for you and your community.
- [chuckles] I don’t know.
You know, things like that, it’s just--
that’s not a joke.
- You want to punch me from your ancestors?
- No.
- So how do you decide whether you feel offended
or like it was a joke?
Or is there no line?
It’s just always offended?
- It’s--it’s on the delivery.
You can hear ignorance, you know, when it does come up.
And that’s kind of what happened, you know,
when we were headed to the airport.
You know, jokes came out.
- We do got to be careful in Cancún.
So, like, we just--
- That’s what I hear.
- We can’t go too off the reservation.
- Not the reserva--[laughs] - No, you’re fine.
You’re good. - Wow.
- But it’s OK.
I can hear ignorance, and you’re fine.
- Ooh. - You’re fine.
I understand ignorance,
and I’ll call it for what it is.
But also, like, just be ready for someone to say something.
- I think for me, like, as a Black woman in America,
the--we’re, like, the butt of jokes a lot.
So I’ve just developed a tough skin.
And I’m just like, sometimes [bleep] is just funny.
Sometimes it’s funny. - Sure.
- Sometimes it is offensive.
I think it’s just that we’ve been able to find
so much humor within our pain. - Sure.
- And I think that’s, like, maybe a difference with us.
- You know, growing up, you know, what came from my elders
and my Mom was just you don’t say that, you know?
And you just don’t do it because, I mean,
I don’t know--because it minimizes who you are.
And then, you know, making a joke out of the pain,
I would say my cultural background
has a very different approach.
- It’s just different, I guess. I think it’s just different.
- Yeah? - Yeah.
- Um, what do you think the difference is?
- Like, yes, we are minorities, but we came from
two totally different backgrounds.
- Sure. - Our cultures are different.
Our cultures, the way we came about in this country
is very different.
Like, you all were here.
We were brought here against our will.
And so I feel like there’s just,
like, those subtle differences in our culture.
- Yeah. I don’t know.
- Is it uncomfortable? - Huh?
- Is this conversation uncomfortable for you?
- No, no, it’s not. - No?
OK.
- Yeah.
- I’m actually glad we had this talk.
I’m glad. - Yeah.
- I don’t know how you feel, but--
- I’m a little heated.
[tense music]
- I’m not heated, but I do find some difference
in how you handled me, a Black woman,
and how you handled a joke from a white man.
♪
I do find a little difference in your demeanor with me.
And, like, your shoulders are tense.
You’re, like, clearly heated. - Sure.
- And on the bus, it was just like, oh, he’s just ignorant.
- Well, there’s a difference between
reservation and redskin.
♪
- That’s also fair.
That is also fair.
But I think in this moment, I wasn’t, like,
calling you that. - But--
- I think there needs to be some clarity here, though.
- In what?
- In what just happened because you’re still tense.
- How so? - And you say you’re heated.
- Well, I mean, I’m, like, chilling right now.
- Well, you say you’re heated.
But you say you’re heated. - Well, I was, yeah.
- So I’m like, well, why are you--
- Because, you know, there were--you know,
you started to make comparisons.
And, you know, the way I read that is
you’re trying to make what you said
or what came up seem--
- Less offensive than what it was?
- It seemed like you tried to minimize.
- So I can see why you think I’m trying to minimize,
but I think I’m just trying to figure out what’s OK to say
in this relationship.
- I would just stay away from it.
- Or-- - You know I mean?
- Yes-- - Cracking jokes
about each other’s background and culture,
I mean, I wouldn’t deem that OK.
I wouldn’t do that to you.
- And that’s why I--
OK. No, that’s fair.
- Right? - Yeah.
- There is a massive amount of pride, you know,
in who I am and where I come from.
- And I see that, and I respect that.
- I would never want you to feel heated in the way
that I did because I said something I wasn’t aware of.
- OK. - Would you agree with that?
- Yeah. - OK.
- I do.
♪
[lively music]
♪
- You a little hungover?
- Um, maybe.
- Just a little vom? - [laughs]
- A little vomit?
- No, no, no.
- You gonna be able to eat this food?
Hi.
- Hello.
- Thank you.
Yum. - Thank you.
- Your drink is coming too.
- Perfect. - Thank you.
♪
Does it bother you that I don’t drink?
- Mm-mm.
Not even a little bit.
- Nice.
- As long as, like, it doesn’t bother you that I drink.
- No, I was ordering things for you.
- Oh, were you? Yeah, that’s right.
You were. - I got you.
- Aw, so supportive.
[laughs] - Yeah.
Ready to get you wasted.
- In your experience with, like, past exes,
were they too different from you?
- Definitely a lot of guys that I’ve dated
have avoidant conflict styles.
When a conflict arises... - Yeah.
- They just act... - Don’t know how to.
- Like it doesn’t exist...
- Yeah.
- Which was difficult. And so in that way,
for me, I definitely need someone who’s similar.
How about you?
Have exes been opposite?
- Yeah.
I mean, I think, like, dating has showed me
I was, like, attracted to people
who were different than me.
- In what ways?
- Like, I love creative women, which, like, you are.
But a lot of, like, creative types
are introverted and, like, quiet.
I need someone who can, like, keep up with me socially.
And it’s nice when you have a partner who, like, wants
to do those things with you.
- Do you feel like I’m that?
- Yeah, absolutely.
- Nice.
- Great match.
I don’t think I could have asked for a better one.
- 10 out of 10, would recommend.
- 10 out of 10--
our new life till death.
- Do you think about death?
- No.
I don’t think about death. I don’t know.
I feel like a lot of people are, like, scared to die.
- Mm-hmm.
- I’m not.
- Same.
- I just think, like, it’ll happen when it happens,
and that’s fine.
One thing that might worry me about death
is, like, if I have a family.
- Mm.
- ’Cause, like, right now, it’s me, right?
And, like, you.
And, like, it would be really sad if I died.
But, like, no one relies on me.
- Yeah.
- Does any part of that worry you?
- Uh-uh, nope.
But I used to have, like, really, really, really
bad anxiety, like, to the point where
I couldn’t get on a plane.
I couldn’t go to the grocery store alone, like--
- Wow, you’ve come a long way. - Yeah.
And so, like, now that I’ve overcome that,
I feel like I missed out on, like, so much
of life that I’m like, let’s go.
- Let’s go.
- I’ve always had anxiety.
And I’ve just done a lot of work of finally learning
how to manage it, maintain it, be open and honest about it,
and also enjoy whatever’s happening,
and just deal with things as they come.
So I was thinking, would you be interested in kayaking?
- Yeah.
You want to go kayaking?
- Yeah.
- Yeah, that sounds great. I’d love to do that.
- I don’t know how much I’ll be able to do.
But worst-case scenario, we just sit in boats
and look at each other.
- That sounds great.
- Well, kayak.
- Yeah, that’s a boat.
- Well, is a raft a boat?
- I think anything that floats is a boat.
- I float. - Then you’re a boat.
[laughter]
- Do you float?
- I motorboat.
[laughter]
- I was waiting.
Let’s go. - Let’s go.
♪
All right, quick, get in.
- OK, where do I sit?
[screams]
- All right, all right. All right.
- Where do I sit?
Which way is my feet?
- Put your butt down. Sit.
- Yes, sir. - Sit up to your knees.
Sit up here. Sit up here.
- Why? I’m already sitting.
♪
[screams]
[laughter]
♪
Out to sea.
- What a wave.
- Where are we going?
Can we just run away now?
[screams]
[mellow music]
A pelican.
That’s probably the closest I’ve ever been to a pelican.
- ♪ ’Cause I’m alive
♪ Everything that I could dream ♪
- OK, easy does it.
Easy does it.
♪
Being out on the water with Austin
is like having a sea creature that, like, takes over.
But it’s fun.
♪
So it feels like you get all those jitters
and those butterflies.
But then, at the same time, it also feels like
we’ve been together for, like, four years.
So we’re like, yeah, we got this.
- There’s a wave. Here it is.
It’s coming. It’s coming.
Here we go.
- A little wave.
We won!
[screams]
- Whoo!
- We got this.
This feels right.
♪
- You float my boat.
- Aw.
You float my boat.
- [singing in Spanish]
- Next time, the honeymoon continues to heat up.
♪
- Attagirl.
Good job.
Emily is flyboarding with, you know, a hurt wrist.
And it’s just nothing, you know, knocks her down.
- She has my back.
It’s incredible.
- If we continue to let that happen,
it would be a very disastrous situation.
- Yeah.
- Trust, for me, is one of the biggest things I look for.
And I feel like you’re really starting to earn my trust.
- So I’m not in the circle yet.
- I don’t want to discourage them
from thinking that their relationships
are right and good just because they don’t have what we have.
- But by extinguishing your own candle,
you don’t light someone else’s.
- How do you feel that I had sex two months ago?
- Being honest, uh,
it kind of took sex off the table for me.
♪