- Four newlywed couples put their futures
in the hands of experts
when they married as complete strangers.
♪
Last time, the honeymoons continued in Mexico.
♪
- I'm just unbelievably pleasantly surprised.
You are truly such an amazing person,
and it helps that you're easy on the eyes.
- [laughs]
♪
- Trust, for me, is one of the biggest things I look for,
and I feel like you're really starting to earn my trust.
- I'm not in the circle yet.
- We're getting there.
- We're in the outer ring. - We're working on it.
♪
- Do you guys have any fears of what might change
when reality comes back?
- I honestly, like, think we're gonna do pretty well.
- Me, being an overthinker, I'm already thinking
about the things that will go wrong when we're back.
But like, what could go right?
♪
- How do you feel that I had sex two months ago?
- Being honest, it kind of took sex off the table for me.
[dramatic music]
♪
- ♪ I like you right by my side ♪
- Tonight, our couples enjoy the final days
of their honeymoon.
- ♪ We go together
♪ Wherever you go, I go
- Aww, thank you.
- I think something that we haven't dove into super deep
is religion.
- We should talk about that.
- Right now? - No, probably not now.
♪
- Do you know how to have fun?
- Do you like to have fun? What the [bleep] is that?
- I have to go to the hospital in Cancun.
- Hopefully, he didn't leave, leave and go home.
I don't know. - It's his escape plan.
♪
- Our honeymoon has been a little bit
of a roller coaster, I'd say.
- She was saying that I am lying
about how things played out.
- I just had this huge blow-up with him
in which I was yelling, and I asked for a divorce.
- Do you want a divorce?
♪
- I have no idea where we go from here.
♪
- ♪ It's all or nothing
- This is "Married at First Sight."
- ♪ There's no other way
♪
♪ It's all or nothing
[tense music]
♪
- How do you feel that
I had sex two months ago?
- Being honest, it kind of took sex off the table for me.
♪
- All right, what's next? Sex is done.
♪
- Curious as to where you're sitting with it.
It really just sounds to me like you're not okay with it.
- It felt mildly judgey.
It's like, why did that make that the reason
and that sex wasn't an option?
- Well, that's not the reason, but it does play a part.
- Okay, now I'm confused again.
- I still feel like there's a lot of steps of getting
to know each other so that, you know,
it's not something we would regret.
You know, and it could just be my own opinion about it,
but I just want to take the right steps in the marriage.
I don't want sex to be a checked off thing with it.
- Things you say don't necessarily align
with this conversation that I feel like
we're having on the things that we're talking about.
- Why, because maybe we're talking about super open
about sex conversation?
- It's not even about being super open
about sex conversation.
And if you're not aware of your flip-flopping,
I think we should just have a quiet meal.
I have nothing else to add about sex.
I think I would appreciate quietness.
- Okay. - Yeah.
- Okay.
You know, if I'm being honest,
I'm not really good with the quietness.
- I'm not gonna beat a dead horse,
and I don't have the mental capacity
to sit here and discuss things where I already feel like
there's nothing more conducive or constructive to say.
- Right, but we still have to figure this out and navigate.
- But does it have to happen now?
- Why not?
- Because I don't feel safe.
Why does that not speak to you?
- It does.
- No, it doesn't, because you keep asking me,
"Well, why can't we do it right now?"
I think this is a valuable conversation, too,
and clearly, one that needs more conversation on.
Like, we need ample time to discuss this.
- Okay. - Okay.
You know, I am very, you know,
sorry if you felt like I was pressing something.
- I don't like a--
I don't need a, "I'm sorry if you felt apology."
And you know damn well
that's not an apology to give someone.
You are more mature than that to say,
"I'm sorry if you felt."
- Then I guess I really have nothing else to say.
- ♪ No more love songs
♪ I'm done with playing over you ♪
♪
- ♪ We've come so far, so far ♪
♪ And I'm not looking back now ♪
- Cheers. - Cheers.
Cheers to a great day. - Great day.
- Oh, that's good.
- Strong, it's fine. - Good?
- Mm-hmm. - Yeah?
- Are you feeling fine after the boat?
- Yeah, I think we had a nice talk
about where we've been
and, like, where we're headed, which is kind of cool.
How do you feel about it? - I agree.
I feel like now we can maybe, like,
move into, like, the next phase of conversations.
- Yeah. - Like religion.
I feel like we should talk about it,
and our little "Chrismukkah" situation.
- You celebrate Christmas growing up, right?
- Catholic, but, like, fake Catholic.
- Yeah.
Yeah, I mean, I was raised Jewish.
- Do you wanna raise the kids Jewish?
- Um, I'm not sure.
- I definitely don't want kids to be Catholic,
so I'm open to whatever.
- You would convert?
- I would. - Really?
- Mm-hmm. - Wow.
- I don't really know what that entails.
- Neither do I.
- I don't want my kids to be Catholic.
- Is there a reason why?
- I just think it's a little culty for me.
- It's honestly just so refreshing to hear
how open you are about everything.
It just feels so easy to talk to you.
It just leaves the door open for us to figure
everything out, honestly, 'cause I'm the same way.
Like, my views always change, you know,
when I learn new things.
It's just refreshing to see, like,
you have that similar mindset, so I appreciate you, honestly.
- Yeah, I guess we'll figure this out together.
- Cheers to together.
- But what about kids?
Thank you.
- Thank you.
- So how many kids have you, like, always imagined?
- Two.
- Boys? - I think I'd be happy any way.
Ideally, like, boy, girl would be nice.
- That's what I want too. - Two?
- And I want boy, girl.
I want older boy, younger girl.
- I just want them to be, like, best friends.
- Same.
- I want it to be, like,
probably about, like, three years apart,
give us enough time in between.
- Nice little gap.
- So, real topic at hand here--
what are we doing on football Sundays?
Like, are we turning on the Jets game or the Bills game?
Or are we turning on the Bengals?
Do you have a team?
- I'm a dedicated Broncos fan now.
- Oh, [bleep].
Are you converting me to a Broncos fan?
I am--I do love the Broncos, though.
- I mean, I just committed this year.
So I feel like that's a lot of converting
on my end, though, so--
- So if you want me to convert to a Broncos fan...
- I feel like we maybe need to convert in my direction.
- I can compromise. - You can compromise?
- You've compromised so much for me.
I feel like this is the least I can do
is compromise on the Broncos.
Okay, you know what? In the effort of unity--
- I feel like we should meet in the middle
because we both live here for now.
- So is that gonna change if we move to another state?
- Wherever we go, that's where our kids are gonna be.
- So we're gonna have to get a lot of jerseys.
- Well, that's already, like, avoiding a big fight.
- That's where my mom said we'd clash.
'Cause if we agree on everything,
how are we gonna challenge each other?
- No, I think you will challenge me.
- I think you will too.
♪
- Yeah.
- I don't think that will ever change.
♪
-♪ Let's go
- All right, I'm just gonna get changed.
- Okay, I'm just gonna pack up some of my stuff.
- Brush time.
- Hello, brush time.
- Our room's a mess.
- Okay, well, good night.
- Funny meeting you here.
- Hey. - Hey.
- Is there a temporary solution?
You know, I'm really sorry if I didn't support you
in the way that you needed in that moment.
And you know, I'm really--
I am really curious if you feel like, you know,
this whole sex being off the table is because you had sex.
- Yes, I feel that way because you said that.
- It's not off the table because of that.
- So why'd you say that?
Stand on what you said.
- I am. You know, and I apologize for--
- I don't want an apology.
I don't wanna hear I'm sorry.
I want answers.
Why did you say that if that's not what you meant?
♪
- Well, because it--
I mean--because it's, you know, kind of the truth.
♪
- There we go. - Yeah.
- You're finally starting to tell the truth.
So why is it the truth? - I've always been truthful.
- Now, let's not start this [bleep], Orion, okay?
We're having a constructive conversation, right?
- Okay. - We telling the truth.
Because downstairs you said, well, that's not all it was,
and now you said it is the truth.
Why is that?
- Well, because you were engaged.
Were you not?
- I was engaged before I got selected?
When I had sex in December, I was not selected for this.
- I mean, but you signed up for the show, right?
- So you're saying that you feel like I did not
take this as serious as you.
- That's not what I'm saying.
- Then I need you to say an answer, Orion.
I very much need you to say an answer.
I don't do well with this.
Whatever this is, I don't do well with gray.
- I understand. I know.
- I promise you it's not gonna hurt my feelings,
but I need you to say the answer
as to why that comment made you take sex off the table.
- I mean, because intention with this process, right?
- So you feel like I lacked intention with the process?
- Did you? You know?
- No, we're talking about what you felt right now.
You tell me.
- I guess, you know, I don't feel comfortable with the fact
that while you started this process,
going through this process and everything
that it has to do with it, you did sleep with somebody else.
- I did.
♪
But why is it because I did something different
than you, why does that make my intentions
not as pure as yours?
- I never said that your intention weren't--
- You didn't say it, but you're not saying a lot,
but things are being implied.
And that's what's being implied.
- But I am not judging you for it.
- But you assumed that because I did that,
that I was not moving in the way,
that you would want your future wife to move in.
- No, I just felt very uncomfortable
that you did that.
You signed up for this.
- But why-- no, that's not fair.
It's not.
And I'm not gonna sit here and act like
it is fair of you to say that.
And I'm gonna stand on that [bleep].
- And what I'm standing on is, I did not judge you.
- Okay.
- I did not judge you.
- But you made assumptions.
- No, I didn't make assumptions, Lauren.
- I probably won't get a clear answer on that either.
- It made me uncomfortable.
- And that's--I think that is completely fair to say.
- That's--that's all I have to give you.
- Okay.
- You know, and the way it came up,
you know, it was careless on my part.
You know, but that is the truth of it.
- And I think that your truth is your truth.
And that's all you have at the end of the day,
so stand on it.
- Okay. - Okay.
- ♪ There's one last breath
♪ Before the light fades out
♪ And we drown
♪
♪ And we drown
- ♪ All I need is your love
♪ Your love
♪ All I need
- Good morning.
How'd you sleep? - I slept great.
Except for every time I woke up, you were awake.
- Yeah, I didn't sleep.
Something happened yesterday I think in the water.
Like, I dived down to, like, the bottom
and, like, picked up the sand and stuff.
And I did hear some popping. - And now it's like--
- Yeah, it feels like someone's pushing a sharp object
into the side of my head. - I'm sorry.
Oh, no, that's not good. We need to get that checked.
- Yes, I think we-- yeah, go to a doctor.
- So first off, I have, like, a mandatory meeting
that I have to do for work.
- Well, maybe I'll go to the doctor
when you go to your meeting.
I think as long as we take care of it today, then we're good.
- Okay, before we do that, should we eat breakfast?
- What's my order?
- Okay, pancakes with scrambled eggs with iced coffee.
- Yeah-huh. How do I like my coffee?
- Just black, black and iced and then with syrup
on the pancakes. - Yeah.
- I feel really good about the honeymoon so far.
I think there is a different level of intimacy
that wasn't there at the beginning.
And so the attraction is developing, and it's growing.
And so it's just kind of a relief for me that that's--
we've been able to get to that point.
- I think when we live together,
we're gonna be great at it.
I don't know how you're feeling about
where we are in our relationship
and moving in together, like...
- You know, I'm a very independent person.
I tend to do a lot of things by myself.
But the reason I did this because I don't wanna
have to do that alone all the time.
Is that to say that it's not gonna be hard
to adjust to that?
No, it's going to be hard.
It's just going to be a lot of change,
and that's just what it is.
- I mean, we don't crowd each other.
- No.
- But, like, we enjoy being around each other.
I'm not following you around like, you know,
a little puppy or something.
- I would be like, get away from me.
And I wouldn't do the same for you.
- Right, but we can-- like, we can do our own thing,
and then we can settle down together, which just feels
very natural and healthy.
- For sure.
- I know relationships can be really stressful for people,
and I've had very stressful relationships
where, like, coming home was, like,
the worst part of the day.
And I know that for me, the only way
it's gonna work out is that when I walk through the door,
like, all my problems, like, melt away.
And I really think that that can happen with Clare.
Oh, man, yeah, if we got signs here on the honeymoon
that living together was gonna be terrible,
oh, man, I would be-- I would be scared right now.
- But it is scary altogether.
I think I'm still scared. I'm not like, well--
- It's a lot of new territory.
- Yeah, you nailed it.
Like, It's gonna be a lot of change.
♪
- I would wait for you, but I--
- You don't have to wait for me.
- My body has never been so excited to see protein.
- Hits the spot, eh?
- I feel it coursing through my veins.
Do I look like the Hulk yet?
- Absolutely, you're [bleep] turning She-Hulk pink.
- I have something very intense to tell you.
- Okay.
- And I've been meaning to tell you for a while.
I'm not a natural pink.
- No!
Divorce?
So, is there anything you wanna talk about,
anything specific?
- I think something that we haven't...
dove into super deep is religion.
- [coughs]
- Like, we just have--
we haven't really talked about it.
- I don't know what that is. I've never heard of religion.
♪
We should talk about that.
- Right now?
- No, probably not now.
♪
- I'm definitely trying to give him space,
but it stings a little trying to connect with your partner
and feeling rejected.
- It's early. - It's early.
- I don't wanna scare you off quite yet.
♪
- When I woke up, Orion wasn't in bed with me.
We did sleep in the same bed, but we did have
some more conversation last night.
And I did tell him that I felt like
I was just being judged and attacked for my sexual past.
I just felt very isolated and very unsupported and unheard,
to which he did get really emotional
and expressed that he does understand
that the consistency has not been there,
specifically on the subject of sex.
He told me that he doesn't care
that I had sex two months ago.
You know, I'm definitely able to extend grace
in this situation.
But while I'm extending grace,
it still makes me just feel a little
unsettled in the marriage.
♪
[blows raspberry] I don't know, y'all.
[upbeat music]
- Just remember I'm going left-handed.
- The drink in the hand is key for me.
- ♪ Doing it all in the name of fame ♪
♪ Crazy nights
- Hey, you are so good with your left.
♪
- I like that. Got it.
Then that's game.
♪
Oh. - Whoo!
Maybe I'm gonna be, like, the super competitive one.
- All right, okay.
I'm done with this.
- Is that all you wanted and more?
- Nice to, like, clear our heads
and just have fun, you know?
- Even with my crippled hand, I also found out
that I might be a left-handed athlete.
Do you know how to have fun?
- Yeah, like, did you not see that?
- I know. You're letting me win.
- Why did you ask that?
You're like, do you like to have fun?
- I was just joking.
♪
Oh. - It's fine.
You can be honest. - I'm just kidding.
Like, I thought you were just more, like, competitive.
- You think I only care about winning.
- No, I don't.
♪
I know you like to have fun. I'm just kidding.
- To me, it's just, we're having fun together,
and who cares, you know?
It's like, it's just all in good fun.
- Like, we're both trying to take this slow
and, like, really understand each other.
But I'm just taken back 'cause, like,
he's seeing something different,
and I'm trying to figure out what that means.
- Do you like to have fun? What the [bleep] is that?
♪
- Oh, my God, sorry.
- Mr. "Does he like to have fun."
- You have to stop thinking about everything.
- Trust me, you'll know when mad, actually.
- Just turn.
- You? Why?
It takes a lot.
And the only people who have ever actually
gotten me really mad is my parents, so.
- Well, wifey's right up there.
[laughs]
- ♪ I don't want trouble in my way ♪
♪ I won't go there till it's over ♪
♪ I'll fight another day
- Hey. - Hey, how was the gym?
- Sweaty.
Leg day, cardio day, tired day.
- Yeah.
Today, I feel very tired.
- Yeah?
- Yeah, I would say, you know, I know we, uh,
we were a little offbeat this morning.
- Yeah.
- You know, and I kinda feel like, you know,
I kinda still need to sit in my emotions.
You know, 'cause I'm really just feeling
emotionally depleted.
- I think that yesterday was just a lot.
I do offer you grace in that moment.
I know that was not necessarily your best self.
And sometimes that happens.
You know, we've been there, and I'm not
going to hold that moment against you
or hold it over our marriage 'cause that's not fair.
But the emotions just aren't dissipating as quickly
as I would like them to.
- Yeah, and I would say I'm in the same boat,
but I think everything that you are feeling is fair.
You know, and I understand, you know,
the contradictory topic that we were talking about.
And I think just with the long day
that we had and everything else,
it's a real [bleep] excuse.
You now, but I really did just drop the ball.
♪
- I think moving forward, I just need
consistency in your words.
Because I feel like I haven't backtracked
or changed words on what I say to you.
And I would just appreciate that from you
moving forward as well--
not to just put all the blame on you
because I know I got very vocally dramatic with you.
But I think my frustrations were just so high
that I didn't really feel like you were my husband.
I honestly just felt like you were
a man that I met six days ago.
♪
- And I understand that.
I think that's really fair to feel that way.
You know, because, you know, I wasn't being
your husband in that moment.
- We've both had moments where we weren't our best selves,
but I've also seen a lot of moments
where I feel like you were at your best,
and I think that at your purest, most genuine,
that's who you really are.
- Thanks.
- You know, we got this.
- ♪ I won't let you go
♪
- Come sit by me. Come on.
It's okay, it's okay,
it's okay, it's okay, it's okay.
It's okay.
- ♪ All that we fight for
♪ Got lost in the shuffle
♪ But all I know
♪
- Okay, looks like we're here.
- Hola!
Saw the doctor at the resort,
and she doesn't have the specialized knowledge
to know if my ear is damaged.
So I'm going to a doctor in the city of Cancun.
I have to go to the hospital in Cancun.
- Yeah. - So I'm gonna go there.
- Yeah, all right, that sounds good.
I don't know if I can go 'cause I have my meeting.
- I know, I know.
- But, yeah, let me know how it goes.
I know that he is in a lot of pain,
and I do feel really bad for him.
So yeah, I don't know. I hope it all works out.
I hope that he gets whatever he needs
so that he can start, like, healing 'cause, like,
he hasn't slept because of this.
So I hope that they fix whatever the issue is.
♪
- ♪ It's the feeling that you give me ♪
♪ Every time that you are with me ♪
- I picked flowers on the beach.
- [laughs]
We couldn't do this in Denver. - No!
- But could you pick me a flower off of the beach
with the ocean behind me? - No.
How many rose beaches do we have in Denver?
- Three.
- [laughs] All right.
- All in my imagination.
- I just kind of wanna clear everything up with you.
I know in the past you had boyfriends
who were avoidant
and make sure you aren't feeling that way with me.
- In past relationships, I think it's been my go-to
to rush in pretty quickly by way of, like,
really deep, hard conversations
because I've found-- - Right off the bat?
- Yeah. - Oh, interesting.
- Like, they're topics that are important to me,
and so when I've dated people in the past, like,
I do bring them up right away.
♪
- Well, to each their own, you know?
- Yeah, and I know that there might be differences there
because I was raised Jewish, but I'm personally agnostic.
But like, I also know that those differences
have caused me such anxiety before in past relationships.
And with you, I don't feel that.
- I'm just, like, plain old Christian.
But my parents didn't exactly line up on faith.
So seeing how they maneuvered those topics, like,
I think that is beneficial, especially considering
we might have differences in those areas now.
- We know we do.
But like, there's so much else there,
where in past relationships, there hasn't.
And I've only, like, looked for those commonalities,
latched on to those commonalities,
and used those as a foundation.
And that has failed me.
I feel like by us building a foundation on all
of the other aspects of our relationship
and all of our other strengths and everything else,
we will be able to get through a lot.
- I agree 100%.
I think we are learning how one another communicates,
and I think the best way to do that
is starting out with the small issues
and then moving to the big ones.
- Yeah, and I personally am not extremely worried
about how the, like, issues that we haven't talked about
might impact our relationship.
Like, I feel like we are strong,
and I feel like we're so understanding of each other,
and this time will only make that better.
- Yeah, totally.
- ♪ Let's make some waves
♪
[upbeat music]
- Yeah, I think I'm very much in my head right now.
- Yeah?
- Yeah, 'cause, I mean, right now,
I actually feel kind of bad that,
you know, I'm not as talkative or as touchy
as I have been.
I know it can be, like, a bit of a night and day difference.
- I'm like that too. That's okay.
- Okay.
- Orion is still feeling like he failed the marriage
and failed me, so I wanted to have
a conversation with Dr. Pia.
I'm really hoping that she can give us some better tools
to navigate conflict in the moment
and maybe do better
at compartmentalizing in the moment.
Come a little closer, just because--
- Yeah, sure, sure.
Here we go. - Okay.
- Hi. - Hi.
- Hi, how are you both doing?
- Good. - Doing good.
How are you? - Good. Good.
So tell me, what's going on?
- So, last night, something came up, you know,
I'd not really discussed with Lauren before.
And what it specifically was, was she had--
she had had sex two months prior to, you know,
our marriage, and I kind of said
that, you know, sex is off the table.
- Gotcha.
Orion, is that still how you're feeling?
- Honestly, no.
You know, but what I do know that has come clear
is just, you know, I do think
that we need more of a foundation.
And so, you know, I think I failed her
in using the words that I did,
and because of it, I kind of put Lauren
in a very uncomfortable situation
where she didn't feel safe.
And I just--and I just really feel like I failed her
as a husband in the moment.
You know, and right now, it's actually--
- [whispering] It's okay, it's okay.
- It's heavy.
- You didn't fail me, okay?
- So I appreciate your vulnerability
even in this moment, Orion,
and I appreciate you acknowledging
your ownership into what contributed to this conflict.
I'm also hearing a lot of judgmental words
for yourself, right, like, I failed.
Right, I'm a failure.
And so I'm curious if that is your perspective, Lauren.
- No, I've tried to explain to him
that I don't feel like he's failing me in this marriage.
It just comes with the territory
of being married for seven days.
- Orion, can you believe her that
she doesn't view you as a failure and think
that you failed the marriage?
- I can feel it, you know, because I think
when the elevation of emotions toned down,
she did do a good job, you know,
reassuring me and everything.
But it was very apparent for me when, I guess,
the tone of the conversation got elevated,
I did feel myself, you know, get uncomfortable.
And I started to get confused.
And the reason why it's affecting me as much as it is
is because I had to protect my mom and sister
from my stepfather growing up,
and it's not something I want to be a part of our marriage.
But right now, I'm having a really hard time just feeling
confident in that, you know, just because of how intense
and how raw the emotions were last night.
- Okay.
So in that, I hear perhaps that you need for the tone
to be calm, for voices to not be elevated,
maybe to remain respectful of one another?
- Yeah.
- Okay. Lauren, can you agree to that?
- Yeah, I know that in the heat of the moment,
my tone does elevate.
I would definitely say that there was no yelling
last night, but I get a little bit
more animated when I'm frustrated
and when I'm not feeling heard.
- Sure. And that makes sense, right?
I heard that you didn't feel safe,
and I heard that you felt attacked.
- I honestly just felt judged for being myself,
and I felt like he was saying that my intentions
weren't as pure as his.
- I never questioned her intentions.
I just feel like I was very careless
in the way it came up.
- Do you believe her when she says
she is taking this seriously?
The fact that she had sex two months ago
does not impact how much she's committed
to this relationship.
- I believe her, yeah.
- Does that feel genuine, Lauren?
- Yeah, it does.
So what I'm going to offer to you is this.
I'm gonna leave you with this.
I want you to think about your marriage
as a bank account, an emotional bank account.
We've got to work on putting deposits
into that bank account, 'cause every time
there's this negative interaction,
whenever there is an argument, wherever one is shutting down
or whatever, it's a withdrawal.
And what we don't want to happen
is have our bank account go into the negative.
So we have to keep feeding into it.
So now, while you're on your honeymoon,
enjoy one another, focus on having fun.
- You know, I don't wanna speak for her,
but, you know, I feel like there have been a lot
of great deposits in our bank account.
But this was just a really big withdrawal for me.
- And that's okay.
That just means we're gonna continue
to put in more deposits, okay?
All right, y'all, it was a pleasure talking with you.
- Thank you so much. - Thank you so much, Dr. Pia.
- You're welcome. - Bye.
I really appreciate you doing that.
And know that I don't feel like
it was a big withdrawal last night.
I expressed my emotions, and I think
we've come to an understanding.
- Yeah, I think so too.
And I think right now, it's just what I'm feeling.
- Is there anything that I can offer you or do?
- I think--I would think that space would be helpful
so that I can get my feet back on the floor.
- I can just come back to you later.
- Yeah, 'cause I-- yeah, I definitely
do need to, uh, catch my breath.
- Okay. - Okay. Thank you.
♪
- So it's the first time that I am in this hotel room
without Cameron, and all I have to do is just...
[sighs, laughs]
It has been so much fun spending time with him.
To go from single to this has been an adjustment,
to say the very least.
But I do hope that Cameron is doing well.
I hope that his ear, you know, gets fixed
and that the pain goes away.
Yeah.
♪
- ♪ Live it up
♪ Raise your cup
♪ We'll keep dancing till the sun is coming up ♪
♪ Live it up
♪ Can't get enough
♪ So live it up
- Where is Cameron?
- Cameron wasn't feeling great.
He literally didn't sleep last night the entire night.
But he went to the doctors.
And yeah, I think he just has an ear infection.
So hopefully, he shows up. I don't know.
- Yeah, yeah, hopefully he's doing okay.
- Hopefully he shows up.
- Hopefully he didn't leave and go home.
I don't know, but yeah.
- Maybe he got-- - It's his escape plan.
- What did you guys do today?
- We were supposed to go to the beach,
but we ended up on a FaceTime with Dr. Pia.
Probably our first hurdle of-- - Second hurdle.
- Yeah, so we've been communicating through that
and giving each other clarity in it.
- And lots of space. - Yeah.
- Sometimes space is good and necessary.
- Yeah, there's been a lot of that today.
♪
- [gasps] Shut up.
- That is as tall as me.
[laughter]
- What?
That's so sweet.
- What is this? - Oh, thank you.
How's your ear, for one? - Better.
- Better. This is so sweet.
- We've spent so much time talking about ways
of showing affection.
I decided to go back to basics.
- There you go.
- Thank you, Cameron. - You're welcome.
- You're the bomb. I really appreciate you.
I have no words for how much that means to me.
Because it means more than just the roses
and how beautiful they are, but it's the fact that
he was going through such a hard day
and went out of his way to make that happen.
- How's the ear?
- Yeah. - Yeah, better.
Apparently a course of antibiotics,
and I'll be right.
- Nice, okay.
- That was so, so sweet.
I will not cry, but that was sweet.
- Guys, I'm sad that we're leaving soon.
- I know.
- I think I'm just so happy with our honeymoon.
I think I didn't expect to get out of it what I got,
which is, I think relief and distraction from a lot
of the physical and mental pain that I've gone through
in the last few months.
And it's funny 'cause, like, I remember asking for somebody
with, like, a sense of humor.
But I don't remember asking for, like,
the weirdest person, the weirdest puppy
that ever lived. - I love weird.
- Yeah, and that's what they gave me, and, like,
I'm really happy that that's what they gave me.
- Yeah. - Same.
We had fun. I'm good.
- Our honeymoon has been a little bit
of a roller coaster, I'd say,
kind of like one extreme to the next.
So you know, I'm just enjoying the ride.
- I also think, like, having a roller coaster now
is better than having a roller coaster down the road.
- I said the same thing.
I think I'd rather get all the loop de loops out now
and see how everything else goes after.
- We're kind of approaching it in a different fashion.
Things that we presume might be contentious,
we're putting off to a later date
so we can build a foundation and really understand
one another before we take on those bigger, harder issues.
- Yeah, I think that's also a good way of doing it.
- Yeah. - Everyone's different.
- There's no right or wrong way.
- There's not. - Everyone's different.
- There's no really guidebook for marriage.
If there was, I would have read it.
[laughter]
- For me, I feel like the honeymoon
is going way better than I could have ever expected.
So I just appreciate you for just being you
and making it so much fun.
That's really all that matters.
- But I sometimes am a little too sarcastic,
and I'm used to speaking my mind
and not having any repercussions
on anyone but myself.
So I just wanna be more aware in the way
that I usually would, like, just say things
and, like, not think.
But I really wanna be more cognizant of, like,
the effects it has on us together.
- Yeah, I appreciate that.
- What about you guys?
- I think, like, specifically, Clare and I--
I haven't said this before, so I guess
I'm gonna gauge your reaction.
[laughter]
I think that we're the kinds of people that,
like, if we were dating, like,
we wouldn't throw ourselves at each other.
- Right. - Right?
So I think when we go back,
what I think's gonna be important is
transitioning a friendship into a romantic one.
♪
- I appreciate that.
And I think something I need to be better about
is, like, waiting before I just respond.
'Cause sometimes it's just, like, reacting in that moment
when I should be, like, processing it
and then saying something.
- I mean, you're the fastest gun in the West.
I'll give you that.
- Yeah, but I need to chill.
- I feel like we definitely have that in common.
That's why--that's probably why we bonded.
- Yeah, I agree. I agree. I know.
I'm like, she's my soul sister. She gets it.
- I definitely think I got
what I wanted out of this honeymoon.
Just be careful what you ask for,
'cause I think my goal was to see what makes Orion tick,
and we got there.
And hopefully, it's something we can laugh about
maybe not tomorrow, but maybe in a few weeks.
But we figured out that I am a very fiery person,
and my tone can kind of dictate
the flow of conversation sometimes.
And I never want Orion to feel like my tone is making him
regress in the conversation.
So I'm gonna do better.
And I want to apologize.
My jokes don't always land where they're supposed to,
and I sometimes speak without consideration
to your feelings, or at least I did in that moment.
I've used terms that, when I was younger,
that I didn't even know were derogatory.
- Redskin?
- No, I don't think I've ever used that language.
But, like, I don't even know what redskin means, honestly.
Oh, I do.
I just looked at your face.
♪
I know we're still navigating that,
and I don't expect it to be an overnight thing.
I don't expect it to be an over week thing.
But I'm just very apologetic for just how it made you feel.
I think that hurt me the most, just knowing that it hurt you.
And I'm still working with that too.
- The unintentional joke, you know, it cut really deep.
And it is definitely the one thing that
I cannot stop thinking about.
But it's really hard to be vulnerable
with all the other couples about what had taken place
because I'm not sure if they would understand,
you know, just with the topic of, you know,
race, culture, things like that.
But, you know, it's still-- it's still a big obstacle.
You know, one thing that I do want to improve on,
being a little more consistent with sharing my feelings,
you know, when things do come up.
You know, and so I do want to improve on, you know,
voicing it, regardless of how I'm feeling.
- And I just want you to feel safe
that you can do that, honestly.
I tell you all the time, I'm pretty strong.
Like, you can't really hurt my feelings too bad.
I mean, you can, but you know, I feel like
we're learning each other, and so it's better
to just lay it all out on the table.
- Yes.
But I know for me, you know, I do kind of--
I reserve myself.
So I'm trying to not do that so much
and actually open up a different door
that honestly, right now, does feel a little scary.
It does feel a little scary.
♪
- ♪ Take a deep breath
♪ And open my eyes
♪ I've been waiting all my life ♪
[upbeat music]
- Good morning. How'd you sleep?
- Better.
- Yeah, I didn't notice you, like,
awake all night, which is good. - No. No.
- That means your ear is not hurting nearly as much, right?
- Yes, the pain has reduced, I'd say, significantly.
Now, it feels like it's kind of blocked, which is a good thing
that I got the antibiotics.
'Cause that's, like-- that's definitely--
- It's not painful, it's just kind of uncomfortable.
- Yeah, exactly. - That's good.
- But I think I'll be fine now.
- That's good. - Yeah.
So we're about to go on our second travel journey
as a married couple.
- First was not the greatest.
- I mean, not the greatest for you.
- Not the worst--right. - It was great for me.
- 'Cause I didn't really understand you
at the beginning.
- Well, as you described to me, you felt abandoned.
- That's dramatic. - I'm sorry, is that not--
- You were just booking, hauling away.
- Okay. - You know what I mean?
Like, you were a man on a mission.
And I was like, I don't even know where he is at this--
but the communication was very much lacking.
- Yes, you felt that I just left you behind.
Is that fair? - Sort of. Yeah, yeah.
- Okay, okay, and that was not my intention at all.
- Yeah, I don't know.
What was I supposed to think that you were running--
I guess there was just a missing link there.
- Did you think I was running away?
- I thought you were just like, yeah, on a mission
'cause that's kind of your personality too.
It's like bing, bing. We have this to do, that.
And I was just like, he needs to chill out.
He needs to take a chill.
But now I'm understanding where that came from,
and that helps.
- Going back home, that needs to be
at the forefront of my mind.
- I overreacted is what happened there.
- Yes, and I was confused by the over--you know, just by--
- So was I. - I think it was a long day.
- Right, right, right, right. - We were both exhausted.
And I don't blame you at all.
It was a lot.
And I think--honestly, I think we're better for it.
Even if it could have been better in the moment,
I think now we're better for it.
- And it'll make going back a lot easier.
- Yeah.
Yeah, I think--I think you maybe give me more
of the benefit of the doubt, and me for you as well,
where it's like we know we have good intentions
about how we wanna treat each other,
right, and it's just assuming the best but, you know,
asking if something's wrong. - Yeah. Yeah.
Yeah, no, I get that.
I think I can't wait to, like, I go home
and get back to my routine.
I think I've been really missing that.
- Well, I need that routine as well,
and I just hope that we can learn the new routine.
- Yeah.
- 'Cause it's not gonna be the same.
- Yeah, you're right.
You're right. [laughs]
♪
- We were up pretty late last night chatting,
until about 3:00.
Last night, Lauren and I were, you know,
kind of recapping of the honeymoon, and, uh...
♪
A dialogue opened up.
- He let me know that he's just not sure
if he can come back from the offensive comment
I made in the hot tub.
- Something I haven't told her was, you know,
one of the biggest feelings that happened to me
in that moment was, you know, I felt like a minority
in my marriage, which is something that, you know,
really hasn't gone away.
- I definitely take ownership of what I said
and the impact it has had on the marriage.
But the repercussions are going to make me
feel equally disconnected from the marriage.
And I don't know how to move in a marriage
where I don't feel married.
I guess we'll see.
What a way to end the honeymoon.
[upbeat music]
♪
- Good morning. - Morning.
You ready to get up?
- No. Ready to go home?
- Not at all.
- But we get to move in.
- [clears throat] Excited for that.
- Is there anything you're nervous for getting back?
- I'm not nervous because I know
you won't be as messy at the house as you are here.
- I don't know what you're talking about.
- If you are, we gonna have issues.
- [laughs] No.
To be a functioning adult in society
and then to also find another functioning adult
and then to live together and to make that work together,
that is-- that's a milestone, baby.
But I just need him to keep showing up authentically
who he is and all of the sides to him--
good, bad.
Although, I haven't really seen a bad side,
but all the good sides that I've seen
and the bad sides to come.
- So basically, when we move back to Denver,
we're taking two very independent lives
and smushing them together. - Yeah.
- You think that will be an issue?
You think we'll be able to handle it well?
- There will always be a learning curve, like,
when you blend a life with anybody.
And so we will tackle them one day,
one step, one task at a time.
I'm excited to learn how to show up for you
in those difficult ways
and also in the exciting ways that--
you know, like, when something good happens, like,
with one of your friends, or if you have a bad day at work,
you know, stuff like that, just learning how to show up
to you--for you in that way.
- That's nice.
♪
Ditto.
No, I agree.
I...look forward to doing that,
albeit, I'm unsure...
what exactly that entails at this moment.
I'm not fearful of it.
I do know you need to be well-fed and well-rested,
so I feel like I've already learned a lot.
- And how do you think you can show up for me
emotionally when we get back?
- Oh, by opening up and going deeper.
♪
- Do you wanna answer seriously?
- That is serious.
I just, like, don't know how to answer it.
I mean, yeah, I will always show up for you
and do my best to not only, like,
progress this relationship, but also, like,
be there for you.
And although I don't know what that entails, like,
that doesn't stop me from wanting to do that.
Aww.
He answered right this time. - That one gets a kiss.
[both laugh]
- Psshew. Okay.
- What was that? - That was a high five.
I recognize that my hand moves so fast it's just a blur.
- Lightning bolt. Pew!
♪
- [singing in Spanish]
♪
- Do you want me to help you with your stuff?
- Wow. No, but thank you.
- I mean--
- I can be packed literally in two minutes.
- Okay, cool, cool.
- ♪ My bags are packed
- Perfect.
- ♪ No, there's no turning back ♪
♪ I'm coming home
♪
- Usually, I sit on it, but I don't think
I needed to do that today.
♪
- All right, let's go meet everyone for breakfast
before we head out. - Yeah.
- Giddy up. - Andale, andale.
- All right, rolling out.
- ♪ I'm coming home
♪ My bags are packed
♪ I'm coming home
♪ No, there's no turning back ♪
♪ I'm coming home
♪ 'Cause it's been too long
♪ I'm coming home
- Where do you wanna sit? - Sit, yeah.
- [crying]
I just be trying to hold it together in front of y'all.
I'm trying so hard.
Because I did feel myself falling for him,
and now I'm just like, "Well, what the [bleep]?"
- Yeah.
- And then today, I'm trying to go downstairs to get my stuff,
and I overhear him say that he felt like
I didn't have his back.
And it's just little things that have happened to me
that I'm like, you know, I can give you grace for that.
You know, I know that's not your best self.
I know that we are working through this,
blah, blah, blah, but for this, he's like,
no, you attacked my community, my culture.
And I'm just like, how many more ways can I say I'm sorry?
How many more times can I tell you
that I am researching and doing what I need to do
to figure out how to navigate this intercultural relationship
that I've never done before
because I care so much about you?
And you're down here saying that I don't have your back
and that I failed the marriage.
- This is so hard.
I'm just so frustrated with not being I feel, like, understood.
And I don't think I'm making it any better
because I just had this huge blow-up with him
in which I was yelling, and I asked for a divorce
because he told me that he feels like I failed him
and I failed the marriage.
And I took my ring off today, but I'm just so mad.
I'm just so [bleep] mad.
♪
- Honestly, other than losing my mom,
I think this is the most difficult
physically and emotionally thing
that I have ever done in my life.
♪
- ♪ It's just another one of those days ♪
♪ One of those days
♪ That never ends
- Hey.
- What's going on, Orion?
How you doing, man?
- I'm doing all right.
First off, thank you so much for taking the time to really,
you know, I guess, be here with me.
- Not a problem.
I just wanted to see what's going on
and talk to you to see what I can do to help.
- I had brought up a derogatory term.
And after I brought that up,
she made a very careless, crude joke.
- Did at any point she say that she was wrong
or admit it was crass?
- After, you know, emotions had settled,
she really expressed herself how she was feeling, you know,
and, you know, let me know that, you know,
it was very vile, she shouldn't have done it,
things like that, which I thought was really nice.
But also with that, the weight of the joke
started to really sit with me in the sense where I was
really starting to feel, honestly,
really offended and violated in it.
- You have every right to stand firmly
against anyone who wants to use a derogatory term
about you or your culture.
Look, of all people, I get that,
and she does, too, which is why we thought--
which is why this is so surprising that
this is a conflict for you guys,
because it shouldn't be.
- Yeah, and really, this was the last thing
I expected to happen.
- But did you-- so she did apologize?
- Yes.
- Did you accept her apology?
- Honestly, this is why it's hard to accept the apology.
Because today, we got into it, and, you know, she was saying
that I am lying about how things played out.
And then it went as far as, you know, she wanted a divorce.
She's not attracted, and she took her ring off.
I mean, it's just--
- Yeah, that-- that--that's just--
that's reaction, man.
That is a knee-jerk reaction to pain.
Yeah, I get it, man. Yeah, I--yeah.
How do you feel?
- Right now, I am sad in the fact that I know she cares.
I know she cares a lot about me,
and we've built a really great connection.
But any time it does come up,
because it is still sitting,
you know, not naturally with me,
it gets pretty explosive.
- You haven't had a chance to express how you actually feel.
- Truly.
- I think there needs to be a conversation
where we all can talk about this,
and we can come to some conclusions.
- Agreed. - Fair enough?
- Yes, agreed.
- Okay, where is she right now?
- Okay, let me talk to Lauren.
- Thank you. - All right.
We're good, buddy. I got you.
- Thank you.
♪
- Ready to bounce?
- Let's see, we're waiting on one or two?
- We're missing Lauren--
- Are the other two over there with you?
- Okay.
- ♪ So now we're chilling longer ♪
♪
- Hey, Pastor Cal.
- What's going on, Lauren?
- The days are running together.
I don't know if it was yesterday.
Whatever day we went on the boat,
I asked him if we were good on that conversation
we had in the tub.
And he told me we're good.
Next thing I know, he's not good.
And so I don't really know what set it off,
but I heard him say that he felt
like I didn't have his back.
♪
And that just--
I was not my best self.
It just sent me into a spiral.
And I was like, I want a divorce.
I took my ring off.
♪
Because I felt like through this thing,
I have had his back.
And it just made me feel--
like, we already went through something where I felt
like he didn't have my back.
And I assured him and affirmed him that, you know,
it was a moment, we'll get through it.
We got into an argument,
and then he says that I failed him,
and I failed the marriage.
♪
And I know that I'm not doing everything right.
I'm taking ownership of that.
Like, I did say what I did-- I said that.
It was a joke in extreme--
I don't even wanna say poor taste.
That makes it sound minimizing, honestly.
But it was a joke that I should have never said.
And yelling and taking the ring off, like,
all of that was wrong, absolutely wrong.
But it's not that I'm not trying.
- Okay, okay. I get it. I get that. Okay?
First of all, I don't have to tell you
that taking off the ring,
saying, "I want a divorce," was a bad move.
- Yes.
- Do you want a divorce?
♪
♪ Say you hate me
♪ Just a sound
♪ Just say something
- First of all, I don't have to tell you
that taking off the ring,
saying, "I want a divorce," was a bad move.
- Yes.
- Do you want a divorce?
♪
- No, I was letting my passions override
the goal of the marriage.
- And I get it, Lauren.
Look, it was the knee-jerk reaction to pain.
You guys obviously have not talked
to any real emotional, vulnerable extent.
Right now, we're gonna deescalate.
We're gonna reset. - Okay.
- 'Cause this is too heavy at this stage in your marriage.
I need to sit in front of both of you
and talk with you together.
Okay, can we get him in here?
♪
- Hey, guys. both: Hey.
- I believe that every successful couple
has to fight through imperfection
to be perfectly perfect for each other.
So what I wanna do is use this opportunity
to talk about what has happened
and why we're at this point right now.
And then let's see how we can get through this.
You said, Lauren, that you felt
as though you gave him grace, but he's not giving you any.
And it's almost like he's not accepting your apology
or your contrition. Is that right?
- Yes.
And I feel like that's where so much of my hurt is from,
because I do see that I hurt you.
I've expressed this to you.
I've expressed this to anyone who will listen to me
that I understand the level of what I said
and why it affected you.
And I still feel like you're just like, "You don't get it.
You don't get it."
And I'm consistently telling you I do get it.
- You have.
You know, I wouldn't say that you haven't.
But when we do get onto the discussion of this,
I still have not been able to truly say how I have felt.
- Let's do it now.
Let's say exactly how you feel and how you felt.
- I feel like you not only offended me
and violated my culture, but I also feel like
you offended my family.
So there is a lot more that it extends on my end.
I have a whole community that I have to come back to,
and they are gonna have opinions about this,
my mom included, everybody around the world
who is indigenous.
It affects all of us at a much deeper level,
and that's where I feel like you don't get it.
Because I've never been able to actually say that
and finish my sentence because it goes 0 to 100.
- It went 0 to 100 because you said I didn't have your back.
- All the time.
- Okay, let's not interrupt.
Let's just--let's talk-- let's talk it through.
We're gonna talk to a complete thought,
and we're gonna wait, and we're gonna get a response.
So have you expressed to him that you understand
the depth of what was said?
- I have multiple times.
And honestly, we haven't-- you keep saying that
every time we talk about this, it goes 0 to 100,
but we haven't talked about it.
So I don't appreciate you saying that we have
when we actually haven't discussed it.
I've been trying to research and just get myself more aware
of just terms in general, not just derogatory terms
but terms of endearment in the Navajo culture,
terms--anything that I could just get off Google.
- Orion, how do you feel about that, that she's proactively
trying to learn more?
- I respect it, and I really appreciate it.
And it, you know, it speaks loads
to what we're dealing with.
- Is that not enough for you?
- Unfortunately.
- I'm sorry to hear that. I really am.
Why is that not enough?
- Because I can't get past what was said.
- So as it is right now,
are you saying you cannot forgive her?
- You know, because of this reason alone--
the first time I experienced racism,
it was within my own culture.
I was called an apple--
red on the outside, white on the inside.
And now the second time
I experienced that level of it...
♪
Was with a very crude joke from you.
- Orion, I want you to hear me.
There's an old saying, you know,
to err is human, to forgive divine.
- It is so sewn into who I am, how I grew up,
and where I came from, and it's just--
it's--I can't do it.
♪
- Lauren.
- I just gotta get myself together.
I'm coming back. I'm coming back.
♪
- Orion, she's throwing herself on the sword.
- It doesn't matter what I do.
Like, that's what I'm trying to tell y'all.
It doesn't matter.
I could write a 50-page essay and give a PowerPoint
to the entire US of A about derogatory terms
in his nation, and it wouldn't matter to him
because it's a him thing,
and there's nothing else I can do.
It's nothing more remorse--
there's nothing I can do that I haven't done.
- Yeah, and you know, honestly, it's--
I don't know what more I can say to really explain it,
but I can't move past this.
- Okay.
- I have no idea where we go from here.
- ♪ You can blame it all on me ♪
- Hold on. Hold on. Hold on.
- ♪ You can say it wasn't meant to be ♪
♪ You can claim I was impossible ♪
- [crying]
♪
- Next time on "Married at First Sight"...
- You ready to see our new apartment?
- Our couples returned home to Denver and move in together.
- We're gonna rock this. - It's gonna be easy.
[knock at door]
- Maybe we should, like, reconvene in a few days
before moving to our new place.
- Like, what the [bleep]. Like, something is off.
Like, what happened?
- We talked about religion, and we definitely
have some differing opinions.
- I don't often meet Christians who don't wanna change my mind.
- See, I didn't know this about you.
- If you just ask.
- I just need you to tell me if you're physically
attracted to me or not.
- I just can't do it.
- I didn't ever really anticipate, like,
a lot of what's happening.
- There is no romance within me anymore.
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- Do you want a divorce?
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