1 00:00:02,208 --> 00:00:04,333 - ♪ 'Cause I'm a believer 2 00:00:04,333 --> 00:00:07,208 - Ten singles took a bold leap of faith 3 00:00:07,292 --> 00:00:09,125 in order to find love. 4 00:00:09,208 --> 00:00:11,458 They married as complete strangers. 5 00:00:11,542 --> 00:00:13,708 [crowd cheers] 6 00:00:13,833 --> 00:00:14,708 [upbeat music] 7 00:00:14,833 --> 00:00:15,750 Last time... 8 00:00:19,375 --> 00:00:21,667 - With less than three weeks before Decision Day... 9 00:00:21,750 --> 00:00:23,625 - ♪ Mírame, mirate ♪ 10 00:00:23,708 --> 00:00:25,375 ♪ Look at me, look at you 11 00:00:25,458 --> 00:00:27,000 - Hello. 12 00:00:27,083 --> 00:00:29,333 - Our couples gathered to celebrate the union 13 00:00:29,375 --> 00:00:32,667 of Chloe and Michael, our fifth and final couple. 14 00:00:32,708 --> 00:00:35,125 - May I? - Yes. 15 00:00:35,208 --> 00:00:38,167 - ♪ I'm so glad I came to you ♪ 16 00:00:38,208 --> 00:00:40,000 - Clare and Cameron. 17 00:00:40,083 --> 00:00:42,375 [crowd cheers] 18 00:00:42,500 --> 00:00:45,333 - I think just seeing Michael and Chloe 19 00:00:45,458 --> 00:00:48,500 brings me to a space of, like, reflection. 20 00:00:48,583 --> 00:00:51,875 It's super strange to be here without Cameron. 21 00:00:51,958 --> 00:00:53,333 Hi, Cameron. 22 00:00:53,417 --> 00:00:55,000 I'm just calling to see how you're doing. 23 00:00:55,125 --> 00:00:56,708 I'm at the wedding right now. 24 00:00:56,833 --> 00:00:58,000 I miss you. 25 00:00:58,042 --> 00:01:00,000 - Emily and Brennan. 26 00:01:00,125 --> 00:01:01,708 - Who's your wife? 27 00:01:01,792 --> 00:01:04,333 - Oh, her. - Yeah! 28 00:01:04,417 --> 00:01:05,625 I know Brennan thinks we don't have chemistry, 29 00:01:05,708 --> 00:01:07,000 but, like, I know we do. 30 00:01:07,083 --> 00:01:09,208 Like, I'm now, just like, trying to have fun. 31 00:01:09,292 --> 00:01:10,833 I hope he comes along. 32 00:01:10,958 --> 00:01:12,583 Whoo! 33 00:01:12,667 --> 00:01:13,500 [glass shatters] - Oh! 34 00:01:13,625 --> 00:01:14,792 [laughter and chatter] 35 00:01:14,875 --> 00:01:17,208 I think I'm done for the night. 36 00:01:17,292 --> 00:01:19,208 - Chloe and Michael. 37 00:01:19,292 --> 00:01:21,542 - Oh, it's so strange 38 00:01:21,625 --> 00:01:25,792 to take off this entire beautiful, glamorous day 39 00:01:25,917 --> 00:01:28,792 and be totally vulnerable. 40 00:01:28,875 --> 00:01:30,458 Are you a cuddler? - I am. 41 00:01:30,542 --> 00:01:32,292 - [giggles] 42 00:01:32,375 --> 00:01:34,167 I'll let you be big spoon. 43 00:01:36,125 --> 00:01:37,583 - ♪ 'Cause tonight, tonight 44 00:01:37,667 --> 00:01:39,542 - And tonight, while the newlyweds 45 00:01:39,708 --> 00:01:41,000 enjoy their honeymoon... 46 00:01:41,083 --> 00:01:42,958 - You have such magical hands, Michael. 47 00:01:42,958 --> 00:01:44,625 - Now you know my evil plan. 48 00:01:44,708 --> 00:01:46,458 I just booked this so that I could massage you. 49 00:01:46,542 --> 00:01:49,792 - Tensions begin to escalate. 50 00:01:49,875 --> 00:01:52,208 - I mean, I think obviously, like, 51 00:01:52,292 --> 00:01:54,667 physical intimacy is still something 52 00:01:54,750 --> 00:01:57,708 that I just need more time. 53 00:01:57,708 --> 00:01:59,333 [dramatic music] 54 00:01:59,417 --> 00:02:01,500 - I don't feel like you treat me as a friend 55 00:02:01,583 --> 00:02:05,667 to, like--to me, like, in-- - OK, let's-- 56 00:02:05,708 --> 00:02:08,042 Are you sure you want to go down this--you want to do this? 57 00:02:08,125 --> 00:02:09,250 - He's silencing you, 58 00:02:09,333 --> 00:02:10,500 and that's not fair. - I know. 59 00:02:10,583 --> 00:02:11,500 - Personally, I think you should 60 00:02:11,625 --> 00:02:13,500 run for the hills. 61 00:02:13,542 --> 00:02:16,292 - Tomorrow, reality hits. - Yeah. 62 00:02:16,375 --> 00:02:19,958 - And it's absolutely freaking terrifying. 63 00:02:20,042 --> 00:02:21,333 I'm saying I don't know if I can do this. 64 00:02:21,375 --> 00:02:23,750 ♪ 65 00:02:23,833 --> 00:02:24,833 [upbeat music] 66 00:02:24,917 --> 00:02:26,458 - ♪ It's all or nothing 67 00:02:26,542 --> 00:02:29,000 - This is "Married at First Sight." 68 00:02:29,042 --> 00:02:30,708 - ♪ There's no other way 69 00:02:30,792 --> 00:02:32,667 ♪ 70 00:02:32,708 --> 00:02:35,417 ♪ It's all or nothing 71 00:02:35,500 --> 00:02:37,833 - ♪ Look how far we came, lifestyle amazing ♪ 72 00:02:37,917 --> 00:02:40,250 ♪ Popping champagne with the top-floor views ♪ 73 00:02:40,375 --> 00:02:41,667 ♪ Yeah, we really made it 74 00:02:41,708 --> 00:02:43,000 ♪ We really made it 75 00:02:43,083 --> 00:02:44,667 ♪ This is one hell of a life 76 00:02:44,792 --> 00:02:46,000 ♪ 77 00:02:46,083 --> 00:02:47,375 - Good morning. 78 00:02:47,500 --> 00:02:49,125 - I think you're-- I think you're jealous 79 00:02:49,208 --> 00:02:50,250 at how good I slept last night. 80 00:02:50,333 --> 00:02:51,833 - Yeah, I think I probably am, 81 00:02:51,917 --> 00:02:54,667 because I did not. 82 00:02:54,708 --> 00:02:57,208 - Because I was encroaching in your bed? 83 00:02:57,208 --> 00:02:58,833 - I don't know what it was. 84 00:02:58,875 --> 00:03:00,250 - But I'm, like-- 85 00:03:00,333 --> 00:03:01,917 I'm a good, like, cuddle partner though, right? 86 00:03:02,000 --> 00:03:03,083 - You're a very good cuddle partner. 87 00:03:03,167 --> 00:03:04,792 Actually, you're a very good cuddle-bug. 88 00:03:04,875 --> 00:03:08,167 My four panic attacks had nothing to do with you. 89 00:03:08,208 --> 00:03:10,042 They were, you know-- 90 00:03:10,125 --> 00:03:11,333 - For the record, they were the cutest 91 00:03:11,417 --> 00:03:13,417 panic attacks I've ever seen. - [laughs] 92 00:03:13,500 --> 00:03:15,667 - I can give you a preview if you want a preview. 93 00:03:15,667 --> 00:03:17,750 - I would love a preview. Go ahead. 94 00:03:17,833 --> 00:03:19,125 - So we got to switch it up a little bit, so. 95 00:03:19,208 --> 00:03:21,042 - OK. 96 00:03:21,208 --> 00:03:22,583 OK, so I'm the big spoon. - You're me, right? 97 00:03:22,667 --> 00:03:24,000 - Got it. OK. - I'm you, and-- 98 00:03:24,083 --> 00:03:25,458 - Yep. 99 00:03:25,542 --> 00:03:27,000 - You're nice and, like, calm, and then-- 100 00:03:27,042 --> 00:03:29,500 - Yep. [laughs] 101 00:03:29,583 --> 00:03:32,708 - You kind of--you wanted to survey the land real quick. 102 00:03:32,875 --> 00:03:35,667 And to be honest, like, 103 00:03:35,708 --> 00:03:38,417 the first time, I thought I, like, bumped into you, 104 00:03:38,500 --> 00:03:40,417 or, like, I don't know, 105 00:03:40,542 --> 00:03:42,667 that I accidentally, like, hit you or something. 106 00:03:42,750 --> 00:03:46,417 And--but then, like, the second or third time, 107 00:03:46,500 --> 00:03:48,333 I was like, OK, this-- 108 00:03:48,375 --> 00:03:49,708 - This is where we live now. 109 00:03:49,792 --> 00:03:51,167 - I'm gonna have to let her work through this. 110 00:03:51,208 --> 00:03:52,667 - Oh, my gosh. - This is gonna-- 111 00:03:52,708 --> 00:03:54,667 this is my life now. - This is where we live now. 112 00:03:54,708 --> 00:03:58,917 So I have dealt with panic attacks 113 00:03:59,000 --> 00:04:02,667 in really stressful situations for a lot of years. 114 00:04:02,792 --> 00:04:06,500 So anytime my body is pumped full of cortisol, 115 00:04:06,542 --> 00:04:08,958 it feels like I react with a panic attack. 116 00:04:09,083 --> 00:04:10,917 They don't happen when I'm awake. 117 00:04:11,000 --> 00:04:12,708 They just happen at night. - I was literally about to ask. 118 00:04:12,875 --> 00:04:14,333 Like, is this literally just when you sleep? 119 00:04:14,375 --> 00:04:15,500 - Just when I'm sleeping. 120 00:04:15,583 --> 00:04:16,667 Don't feel a thing during the day. 121 00:04:16,792 --> 00:04:18,833 I've never had one during the day. 122 00:04:18,958 --> 00:04:21,750 It's just when I'm sleeping. - I almost prefer that, 123 00:04:21,875 --> 00:04:23,333 because, like, if you had them while you were awake, 124 00:04:23,417 --> 00:04:25,292 then it's like--then I always have to be ready for them. 125 00:04:25,375 --> 00:04:26,792 So now I just have to be ready for them 126 00:04:26,875 --> 00:04:27,875 when we get ready for bed. 127 00:04:27,958 --> 00:04:29,583 - Small window of time. - Yeah. 128 00:04:29,667 --> 00:04:31,833 - Yeah. No, they--and they only happen 129 00:04:31,958 --> 00:04:33,208 when I'm, like, super stressed. 130 00:04:33,333 --> 00:04:37,250 So as soon as things aren't so stressful, 131 00:04:37,375 --> 00:04:39,292 going to be sleeping as hard as you. 132 00:04:39,375 --> 00:04:42,333 [laughter] 133 00:04:42,417 --> 00:04:44,667 I've never had four panic attacks at once. 134 00:04:44,750 --> 00:04:46,625 It probably didn't help having a brand-new man 135 00:04:46,708 --> 00:04:48,917 that I've never known at any point in my life 136 00:04:49,000 --> 00:04:50,667 laying next to me. 137 00:04:50,708 --> 00:04:53,208 But I've just conditioned myself 138 00:04:53,292 --> 00:04:54,500 to sleep really lightly. 139 00:04:54,583 --> 00:04:56,417 I've been alone for such a long time. 140 00:04:56,500 --> 00:04:58,083 And I didn't have my sound machine. 141 00:04:58,167 --> 00:04:59,875 I didn't have my humidifier. 142 00:05:00,000 --> 00:05:02,000 I didn't have my essential oils being diffused. 143 00:05:02,042 --> 00:05:03,958 But I feel like when you have a partner 144 00:05:04,042 --> 00:05:05,917 that's ready to navigate 145 00:05:06,042 --> 00:05:08,250 something that you really don't have any control over, 146 00:05:08,333 --> 00:05:11,833 um, it's pretty sweet. 147 00:05:11,875 --> 00:05:13,042 They might just subside. 148 00:05:13,125 --> 00:05:14,833 I might never see them again. 149 00:05:14,917 --> 00:05:16,333 - You know, going into this first night, 150 00:05:16,458 --> 00:05:17,875 was there any sense of worry of, like, 151 00:05:17,958 --> 00:05:20,250 OK, is it going to be a little bit different 152 00:05:20,333 --> 00:05:21,583 as we're winding down 153 00:05:21,667 --> 00:05:23,000 and what's he going to be like? 154 00:05:23,042 --> 00:05:24,458 - Nope. - OK, good. 155 00:05:24,542 --> 00:05:26,000 - Nope. There was never a moment 156 00:05:26,125 --> 00:05:27,750 where I was thinking, 157 00:05:27,833 --> 00:05:30,958 when is the other shoe going to drop? 158 00:05:31,042 --> 00:05:32,500 You're too loved. 159 00:05:32,583 --> 00:05:35,542 People that are as loved as you are 160 00:05:35,667 --> 00:05:39,583 have got to have a genuineness and an authenticity to them. 161 00:05:39,667 --> 00:05:42,000 So I love to have you in my space. 162 00:05:42,083 --> 00:05:43,500 - Yeah? Just all into it. 163 00:05:43,583 --> 00:05:45,167 Even if it creates panic attacks, 164 00:05:45,250 --> 00:05:46,917 you'll still allow it? - Touch me. 165 00:05:47,000 --> 00:05:49,208 Eventually, we'll get over the panic attacks, I think. 166 00:05:49,292 --> 00:05:51,917 I feel like they'll go. They'll subside. 167 00:05:52,000 --> 00:05:55,958 One thing that we can only share with each other is touch. 168 00:05:56,042 --> 00:05:58,500 - Yeah. - And that, to me, 169 00:05:58,542 --> 00:06:02,333 signifies that we are together, that we are committed, 170 00:06:02,417 --> 00:06:04,458 and that we want to be together and committed. 171 00:06:04,542 --> 00:06:06,000 So please touch me. 172 00:06:06,083 --> 00:06:07,667 Touch me. 173 00:06:07,667 --> 00:06:10,917 ♪ 174 00:06:11,042 --> 00:06:13,833 [upbeat music] 175 00:06:13,875 --> 00:06:20,458 ♪ 176 00:06:20,542 --> 00:06:23,500 - I'm fangirling because I love the musical "Hamilton," 177 00:06:23,583 --> 00:06:25,500 and Hamilton has been in this house. 178 00:06:25,583 --> 00:06:26,875 - This is George Washington's house though. 179 00:06:26,958 --> 00:06:29,042 - Yeah, but-- well, we don't care about that. 180 00:06:29,125 --> 00:06:31,875 What we care about is that Hamilton has been in here. 181 00:06:31,958 --> 00:06:35,083 We are visiting Austin's family. 182 00:06:35,167 --> 00:06:37,750 [laughs] - Cheese. 183 00:06:37,833 --> 00:06:39,500 - I mean, we bitch about our full-size bed. 184 00:06:39,583 --> 00:06:41,250 What do you think about this? 185 00:06:41,333 --> 00:06:43,375 - Looks comfy. 186 00:06:43,458 --> 00:06:47,000 Sleeping on 2x4s, 2x6s. 187 00:06:47,083 --> 00:06:48,875 - Could we snuggle on that? 188 00:06:48,958 --> 00:06:50,667 - [laughs] 189 00:06:50,750 --> 00:06:52,000 - Who do these remind you of? 190 00:06:52,083 --> 00:06:55,417 - Remind me of King Michael, 191 00:06:55,500 --> 00:06:58,375 the man who lost his princess. 192 00:06:58,500 --> 00:06:59,500 - But gained a new one. 193 00:06:59,542 --> 00:07:00,833 - But gained a queen. 194 00:07:00,917 --> 00:07:03,833 - Yeah, nice. 195 00:07:03,917 --> 00:07:06,667 Michael, we hope one day your sword ends up in a museum 196 00:07:06,792 --> 00:07:09,708 of "Married at First Sight" history. 197 00:07:09,792 --> 00:07:15,500 ♪ 198 00:07:15,542 --> 00:07:16,833 - Ready to rock and roll? 199 00:07:16,875 --> 00:07:20,167 I'm excited to go on this honeymoon. 200 00:07:20,208 --> 00:07:21,292 - Wow, you look cute. 201 00:07:21,375 --> 00:07:22,708 - Thanks. 202 00:07:22,708 --> 00:07:24,375 Don't forget your Mr. hat. 203 00:07:24,458 --> 00:07:27,333 I'll be sure to put on Mrs. 204 00:07:27,375 --> 00:07:28,875 [sighs] 205 00:07:29,000 --> 00:07:31,625 - Right now, I'm just full of optimism 206 00:07:31,708 --> 00:07:33,375 with this journey with Chloe. 207 00:07:33,458 --> 00:07:34,667 I was worried she could feel 208 00:07:34,750 --> 00:07:36,500 like a second fiddle or a second place, 209 00:07:36,583 --> 00:07:38,333 you know, being re-matched with me. 210 00:07:38,375 --> 00:07:41,292 But I'm really happy that we don't have to brace for that. 211 00:07:41,375 --> 00:07:43,000 - Load it up. - For efficiency, 212 00:07:43,083 --> 00:07:45,667 we should put your stuff first. - [laughs] 213 00:07:45,792 --> 00:07:48,292 - Like, we have great chemistry right now, 214 00:07:48,375 --> 00:07:50,917 and I kind of just want to continue to ride that momentum. 215 00:07:51,000 --> 00:07:52,250 Is there a little bit of nervousness 216 00:07:52,333 --> 00:07:53,583 that accompanies that? 217 00:07:53,667 --> 00:07:55,708 Sure. There's a level of, like, 218 00:07:55,833 --> 00:07:57,833 even if I do everything perfect, 219 00:07:57,917 --> 00:07:59,667 which isn't going to happen, 220 00:07:59,750 --> 00:08:02,417 you know, 50% of it is going to be dependent on her. 221 00:08:02,542 --> 00:08:04,500 There's a level of unknown. 222 00:08:04,542 --> 00:08:07,708 But I think it'll be easy with her. 223 00:08:07,792 --> 00:08:10,667 - I just love how different we are with our packing skills. 224 00:08:10,750 --> 00:08:13,750 Being the minimalist that I am, I want to know what's in there. 225 00:08:13,833 --> 00:08:17,333 - You know, I have scarves, flannel, 226 00:08:17,375 --> 00:08:19,500 coats buried down here, some pants, 227 00:08:19,583 --> 00:08:22,250 some just random, like, tops and stuff, 228 00:08:22,375 --> 00:08:26,917 blazer, dress shirts, sweater, more sweaters, extra shoes. 229 00:08:27,000 --> 00:08:29,667 - [laughs] I love that you are ready 230 00:08:29,750 --> 00:08:33,042 with multiple outfit choices per day. 231 00:08:33,042 --> 00:08:35,083 Probably all the clothes in my closet 232 00:08:35,208 --> 00:08:37,917 would fit into six bags. 233 00:08:38,000 --> 00:08:41,583 And I love that we've left half of his closet at home. 234 00:08:41,667 --> 00:08:43,667 He's just so prepared. 235 00:08:43,750 --> 00:08:45,458 He's got everything. 236 00:08:45,542 --> 00:08:47,250 ♪ 237 00:08:47,333 --> 00:08:48,458 Let's honeymoon. 238 00:08:48,542 --> 00:08:50,292 - Let's. - [laughs] 239 00:08:50,375 --> 00:08:55,500 ♪ 240 00:08:55,625 --> 00:08:57,708 - ♪ I'll take the risk 241 00:08:57,792 --> 00:08:59,542 ♪ Through the turn and twists ♪ 242 00:08:59,625 --> 00:09:02,000 ♪ Leave no stones unturned 243 00:09:02,042 --> 00:09:03,833 ♪ 244 00:09:03,875 --> 00:09:08,417 - Should we find a talking stick? 245 00:09:08,500 --> 00:09:09,833 - Looks like our best option. 246 00:09:09,917 --> 00:09:13,542 - There we go. - Talking paddle. 247 00:09:13,625 --> 00:09:15,667 We need to work on our active listening 248 00:09:15,708 --> 00:09:17,000 and not interrupting each other. 249 00:09:17,042 --> 00:09:19,417 So we decided to use a talking stick 250 00:09:19,500 --> 00:09:22,000 to help practice these two things 251 00:09:22,042 --> 00:09:25,625 and to slowly but surely start rebuilding the trust 252 00:09:25,708 --> 00:09:28,000 that I apparently broke in the Dr. Pia visit. 253 00:09:28,083 --> 00:09:31,333 - We are rebuilding trust right now. 254 00:09:31,417 --> 00:09:33,333 - What did I do to break the trust? 255 00:09:33,417 --> 00:09:35,292 - When we say we're gonna do things, 256 00:09:35,375 --> 00:09:37,000 then we actually do them. 257 00:09:37,125 --> 00:09:39,500 - So trust for you, as you've just outlined, 258 00:09:39,542 --> 00:09:42,250 it is, like, consistency. 259 00:09:42,375 --> 00:09:43,500 - Yep. 260 00:09:43,500 --> 00:09:46,667 - I think trust means everything 261 00:09:46,750 --> 00:09:48,833 for a friendship or a relationship 262 00:09:48,917 --> 00:09:50,250 'cause I think that's, like, the foundation 263 00:09:50,333 --> 00:09:53,000 of everything else working. 264 00:09:53,125 --> 00:09:56,167 Consistency actually is big for me. 265 00:09:56,292 --> 00:10:01,667 Listening, not interrupting, what we're both working on. 266 00:10:01,750 --> 00:10:05,583 Just continue to be patient, 267 00:10:05,667 --> 00:10:08,500 um, showing you care. 268 00:10:08,542 --> 00:10:10,542 ♪ 269 00:10:10,625 --> 00:10:12,375 - I care about you a lot, so obviously, like, 270 00:10:12,458 --> 00:10:15,500 I want you in my life, and 271 00:10:15,542 --> 00:10:18,917 you know, losing you would suck. 272 00:10:19,000 --> 00:10:23,083 But that's why I'm trying, so that that doesn't happen. 273 00:10:23,167 --> 00:10:26,667 [soft dramatic music] 274 00:10:26,750 --> 00:10:30,292 - I also care about you a lot. 275 00:10:30,375 --> 00:10:33,333 But I am afraid that sometimes, 276 00:10:33,458 --> 00:10:37,792 I'm semi-losing myself along the way, 277 00:10:37,875 --> 00:10:40,375 like maybe putting up with stuff or, like, 278 00:10:40,458 --> 00:10:44,458 not being treated in the way, like, I feel like I deserve. 279 00:10:44,542 --> 00:10:46,625 ♪ 280 00:10:46,708 --> 00:10:49,917 So I'm afraid that, because I care about you a lot, 281 00:10:50,042 --> 00:10:52,583 I... 282 00:10:52,667 --> 00:10:56,833 still get, like, very emotional 283 00:10:56,917 --> 00:10:58,667 because I care, and I'm afraid 284 00:10:58,792 --> 00:11:01,208 that is not always healthy for me. 285 00:11:01,292 --> 00:11:04,667 ♪ 286 00:11:04,792 --> 00:11:07,333 - I think for me, it's just making sure we don't 287 00:11:07,417 --> 00:11:10,667 blur the lines between a friendship and a relationship, 288 00:11:10,750 --> 00:11:13,500 because I think that's easy in this process. 289 00:11:13,583 --> 00:11:15,167 - OK. 290 00:11:15,292 --> 00:11:17,042 ♪ 291 00:11:17,125 --> 00:11:20,125 - So just trying to navigate those waters. 292 00:11:20,208 --> 00:11:23,750 We're friendly, but not overstepping or anything. 293 00:11:23,833 --> 00:11:25,500 I feel like we've been doing a good job 294 00:11:25,583 --> 00:11:26,833 of showcasing our friendship. 295 00:11:26,875 --> 00:11:28,667 - Yeah. We're definitely, like, 296 00:11:28,708 --> 00:11:30,458 on a good path forward. 297 00:11:30,542 --> 00:11:32,000 And I think we've actually reset. 298 00:11:32,125 --> 00:11:35,292 But I have maybe different expectations for us. 299 00:11:35,375 --> 00:11:37,458 ♪ 300 00:11:37,542 --> 00:11:40,167 - Like, what are you talking about? 301 00:11:40,292 --> 00:11:45,167 - I just--I feel sometimes like how I've expressed, 302 00:11:45,208 --> 00:11:47,375 I don't feel like you treat me as a friend, 303 00:11:47,458 --> 00:11:49,000 to, like--to me, like, in-- 304 00:11:49,083 --> 00:11:50,417 - OK, let's-- 305 00:11:52,958 --> 00:11:54,083 Are you sure you want to go down this-- 306 00:11:54,208 --> 00:11:57,167 you want to do this? 307 00:11:57,250 --> 00:11:59,500 - I think it's just acknowledging 308 00:11:59,583 --> 00:12:03,000 that I am your friend sometimes. 309 00:12:03,042 --> 00:12:06,708 And it feels like you don't even-- 310 00:12:06,792 --> 00:12:11,667 or it feels to me like you don't necessarily do that. 311 00:12:11,750 --> 00:12:14,958 - Tell me specifically what I did 312 00:12:15,042 --> 00:12:18,125 that you didn't feel great about. 313 00:12:18,208 --> 00:12:21,167 - Like, last night at the wedding, 314 00:12:21,208 --> 00:12:23,917 like, I didn't feel like there was any effort 315 00:12:24,000 --> 00:12:26,000 from even a friend to, like, 316 00:12:26,083 --> 00:12:28,333 want to have fun and hang out. 317 00:12:28,417 --> 00:12:32,292 And sometimes, like, a little bit more effort 318 00:12:32,375 --> 00:12:34,750 might have to take place in order for that to happen. 319 00:12:34,833 --> 00:12:36,958 It hurts my feelings when people come up to me 320 00:12:37,042 --> 00:12:40,167 and, like, say, "You don't even look like you are friends." 321 00:12:40,292 --> 00:12:42,000 - That's what someone said to you? 322 00:12:42,083 --> 00:12:43,542 - Mm-hmm. 323 00:12:43,625 --> 00:12:46,042 - I mean, if people want to come up to you 324 00:12:46,167 --> 00:12:50,083 and say mean things, like, that's unfortunate. 325 00:12:50,167 --> 00:12:53,042 It's up to us whether we choose to hear it or ignore it. 326 00:12:53,125 --> 00:12:55,125 I think for us, it'll be a lot better 327 00:12:55,208 --> 00:12:57,125 if we ignore it and focus on us. 328 00:12:57,208 --> 00:12:59,500 ♪ 329 00:12:59,542 --> 00:13:01,667 Do you agree? 330 00:13:01,667 --> 00:13:03,667 - I agree, um, 331 00:13:03,750 --> 00:13:04,875 but I think there's a difference 332 00:13:04,958 --> 00:13:06,875 from, like, anyone saying something, 333 00:13:06,958 --> 00:13:08,208 and some of our closer friends. 334 00:13:08,292 --> 00:13:12,250 Like, that's where it hurts my feelings more. 335 00:13:12,333 --> 00:13:16,333 - I think we just need time to continue to move forward 336 00:13:16,375 --> 00:13:18,667 in the right direction. 337 00:13:18,750 --> 00:13:20,333 - I know he says he cares about me a lot, 338 00:13:20,417 --> 00:13:23,167 but, like, I just don't really feel that a lot of the time. 339 00:13:23,250 --> 00:13:24,875 Maybe I just need to go back to what I said, 340 00:13:24,958 --> 00:13:27,000 which was, no expectations. 341 00:13:27,083 --> 00:13:28,750 And then you can't get frustrated 342 00:13:28,833 --> 00:13:30,833 or you can't get upset. 343 00:13:30,875 --> 00:13:32,625 And I don't really think I have many expectations 344 00:13:32,708 --> 00:13:34,333 of him at all right now. 345 00:13:34,375 --> 00:13:36,750 - I think as long as we are happy with one another, 346 00:13:36,833 --> 00:13:38,083 that's all that matters. 347 00:13:38,208 --> 00:13:43,167 ♪ 348 00:13:47,333 --> 00:13:48,750 - ♪ Good energy 349 00:13:48,833 --> 00:13:51,083 ♪ Yeah, yeah, yeah, whoo! 350 00:13:51,167 --> 00:13:55,667 - So we are headed on our honeymoon. 351 00:13:55,708 --> 00:13:58,750 Really enjoying Sleeping Beauty snoozing. 352 00:13:58,833 --> 00:14:00,333 Look at him. 353 00:14:00,417 --> 00:14:04,542 He doesn't snore, though, so I feel like that's a win. 354 00:14:04,667 --> 00:14:07,458 [upbeat music] 355 00:14:07,542 --> 00:14:10,375 ♪ 356 00:14:10,458 --> 00:14:13,625 - This is all it? This is pretty damn big. 357 00:14:13,708 --> 00:14:15,792 - Ooh. Here we go. - Oh, OK, it's up here. 358 00:14:15,875 --> 00:14:19,792 ♪ 359 00:14:19,875 --> 00:14:21,167 I just really want to continue 360 00:14:21,208 --> 00:14:22,917 all the positive momentum that we've been having. 361 00:14:23,000 --> 00:14:24,458 The chemistry's been there. 362 00:14:24,542 --> 00:14:26,250 Everything has been real easy. 363 00:14:26,333 --> 00:14:28,958 And right now, you would hope it would stay easy, 364 00:14:29,042 --> 00:14:30,792 because this is a time for us to enjoy. 365 00:14:30,875 --> 00:14:32,167 I'm just looking forward to seeing 366 00:14:32,250 --> 00:14:34,208 what the day and night entails today 367 00:14:34,292 --> 00:14:36,333 for our first day on our honeymoon. 368 00:14:36,417 --> 00:14:38,250 - We certainly hope you enjoy your honeymoon 369 00:14:38,333 --> 00:14:40,167 here at the Cheyenne Mountain Resort. 370 00:14:40,208 --> 00:14:41,333 - All right, thank you. - Thank you. 371 00:14:41,417 --> 00:14:44,042 - Thank you so much. both: Thank you. 372 00:14:44,125 --> 00:14:51,000 ♪ 373 00:14:52,250 --> 00:14:53,667 - Ooh, damn, we've got a lot of space. 374 00:14:53,708 --> 00:14:57,083 - Oh, my goodness. 375 00:14:57,167 --> 00:15:01,083 Oh, this is beautiful. 376 00:15:01,167 --> 00:15:03,000 Aw. 377 00:15:03,042 --> 00:15:04,625 Want to do the honors? 378 00:15:04,708 --> 00:15:06,542 Oh, here we go. 379 00:15:06,667 --> 00:15:08,625 [cork pops] Oh. 380 00:15:08,708 --> 00:15:09,667 - Easy. - Professional. 381 00:15:09,708 --> 00:15:11,000 - Easy. 382 00:15:11,042 --> 00:15:12,500 I am getting pretty good at this, 383 00:15:12,542 --> 00:15:13,958 if I may say so myself. 384 00:15:14,042 --> 00:15:15,500 - Thank you. 385 00:15:15,583 --> 00:15:17,667 ♪ 386 00:15:17,750 --> 00:15:20,250 - And then a cheers for us. 387 00:15:20,333 --> 00:15:22,208 - Cheers to the honeymoon. - Mm-hmm. 388 00:15:22,292 --> 00:15:24,792 ♪ 389 00:15:24,917 --> 00:15:28,208 Do you have any expectations for the honeymoon? 390 00:15:28,208 --> 00:15:30,917 - I think I'm just excited to keep learning 391 00:15:31,000 --> 00:15:32,375 as much as we can about each other. 392 00:15:32,458 --> 00:15:35,125 - I mean, we're on vacation, so it is different. 393 00:15:35,208 --> 00:15:37,167 But I feel like it's also giving me a glimpse of, like, 394 00:15:37,208 --> 00:15:39,333 what it'll be like to live with you. 395 00:15:39,375 --> 00:15:41,708 So you know, I'm kind of expecting 396 00:15:41,792 --> 00:15:43,667 to just understand more, like, 397 00:15:43,708 --> 00:15:45,000 what it's like to live with Chloe 398 00:15:45,083 --> 00:15:47,333 and, you know, that experience. 399 00:15:47,417 --> 00:15:51,417 So I'm gonna take every, like, little data point I can. 400 00:15:51,500 --> 00:15:55,000 Do you have any specific hopes for our honeymoon? 401 00:15:55,042 --> 00:15:59,917 - I hope it is as much fun as I know it will be. 402 00:16:00,000 --> 00:16:01,958 I'm ready to go adventure. - Mm-hmm. 403 00:16:02,042 --> 00:16:03,833 It looks so beautiful outside. 404 00:16:03,958 --> 00:16:05,292 I definitely want to make sure we do some, 405 00:16:05,375 --> 00:16:07,708 like, outdoor activities. - Yep. 406 00:16:07,792 --> 00:16:09,833 Ready to do some rock climbing. - Mm. 407 00:16:09,917 --> 00:16:11,500 - I'm actually in my element. 408 00:16:11,542 --> 00:16:13,292 I'm in my zen. 409 00:16:13,375 --> 00:16:18,333 Only time will tell if Michael and I are really able to grow 410 00:16:18,417 --> 00:16:21,125 a connection that is going to last us for a lifetime, 411 00:16:21,208 --> 00:16:23,500 and kind of take it as it comes. 412 00:16:23,542 --> 00:16:25,417 I don't want anything to feel forced. 413 00:16:25,500 --> 00:16:27,208 I don't want to also feel like we're holding ourselves back 414 00:16:27,333 --> 00:16:29,333 from doing something that would feel 415 00:16:29,417 --> 00:16:30,917 like a really natural step to take. 416 00:16:31,000 --> 00:16:32,542 So we'll see what the honeymoon does. 417 00:16:32,667 --> 00:16:35,167 Honeymoons tend to have a wild effect on people. 418 00:16:35,250 --> 00:16:37,333 So you just never know. [laughs] 419 00:16:37,375 --> 00:16:39,333 Ready to go adventure? - Mm-hmm. 420 00:16:39,417 --> 00:16:42,292 - Hashtag, honeymoon. [chuckles] 421 00:16:42,375 --> 00:16:46,167 [upbeat music] 422 00:16:46,250 --> 00:16:49,000 ♪ 423 00:16:49,042 --> 00:16:50,667 - This view is just-- isn't it beautiful? 424 00:16:50,750 --> 00:16:53,417 - Yeah, no, I feel like it's-- I actually do take for granted 425 00:16:53,500 --> 00:16:55,875 that we literally get to look at Union Station every day. 426 00:16:56,000 --> 00:16:57,708 - Yeah. No, I get it. 427 00:16:57,833 --> 00:16:59,833 - How are you doing? How are we doing? 428 00:16:59,917 --> 00:17:03,000 - That's the million-dollar question. 429 00:17:03,000 --> 00:17:05,167 Yeah, I think I'm just-- I'm feeling good. 430 00:17:05,250 --> 00:17:08,000 But after Cameron's surgery, he's been sleeping 431 00:17:08,042 --> 00:17:09,167 literally for the past, like, week. 432 00:17:09,333 --> 00:17:11,167 So when I don't hear from him, I kind of worry. 433 00:17:11,208 --> 00:17:12,875 But then I realize, he's recovering. 434 00:17:12,958 --> 00:17:14,667 He's hanging in there. 435 00:17:14,750 --> 00:17:17,333 It's just like, I don't want to be happy-go-lucky, cheery 436 00:17:17,375 --> 00:17:19,583 when, like, he's having a very hard time. 437 00:17:19,667 --> 00:17:23,250 It just to me feels like I'm being fake, and like-- 438 00:17:23,333 --> 00:17:25,167 - But I also feel like he'd want you to have fun. 439 00:17:25,250 --> 00:17:26,250 - Yeah. - And I'm not saying, like, 440 00:17:26,333 --> 00:17:27,500 you can't feel the way you feel, 441 00:17:27,583 --> 00:17:29,542 but I feel like there's only so much you can do. 442 00:17:29,625 --> 00:17:31,208 - Right. - And I feel like he would, 443 00:17:31,292 --> 00:17:34,000 like, honestly be, like, more sad if he knew that you, 444 00:17:34,083 --> 00:17:36,125 like, weren't having fun. - Yeah. 445 00:17:36,208 --> 00:17:37,958 Right, right. Sometimes I lose sight of that 446 00:17:38,042 --> 00:17:40,000 during this process, you know? 447 00:17:40,083 --> 00:17:41,833 But yeah, how are you doing? 448 00:17:41,917 --> 00:17:43,083 - Like, I really feel like 449 00:17:43,167 --> 00:17:45,167 there's been different mental tolls on me 450 00:17:45,250 --> 00:17:46,917 of, like, me trying to fix him in the relationship, 451 00:17:47,042 --> 00:17:48,708 and then us being friends. 452 00:17:48,833 --> 00:17:50,542 And I feel like I've almost been, like, more taken 453 00:17:50,625 --> 00:17:53,250 for a toll in our friendship trying to be reset. 454 00:17:53,375 --> 00:17:54,583 - Than the marriage? - Because it's more of, like, 455 00:17:54,667 --> 00:17:55,833 a weird mind-[bleep]. 456 00:17:55,875 --> 00:17:56,958 - Yeah. - And I'm like, 457 00:17:57,042 --> 00:17:58,625 this is honestly harder, and, like, 458 00:17:58,708 --> 00:17:59,917 you're not even treating me like a friend. 459 00:18:00,000 --> 00:18:01,208 Like, what the [bleep]? 460 00:18:01,292 --> 00:18:02,792 - Also, I think the way he nitpicks 461 00:18:02,875 --> 00:18:05,125 what you say is not something a friend would do. 462 00:18:05,208 --> 00:18:06,292 He's silencing you... 463 00:18:06,375 --> 00:18:07,583 - I know. - And that's not fair. 464 00:18:07,667 --> 00:18:09,917 I mean, the friendship that he's talking about, 465 00:18:10,000 --> 00:18:11,417 I'm not sure where that is. 466 00:18:11,500 --> 00:18:13,292 - [chuckles] - I don't see it. 467 00:18:13,375 --> 00:18:15,500 It's like, you can just be real and raw 468 00:18:15,625 --> 00:18:17,000 and let her be herself. 469 00:18:17,125 --> 00:18:18,333 But you're trying to, like, put her in a mold 470 00:18:18,417 --> 00:18:20,250 that is, like, not who she is. 471 00:18:20,375 --> 00:18:21,500 And that's, like, very unfair. - But it's weird. 472 00:18:21,583 --> 00:18:22,500 He, like, was fine with that, though. 473 00:18:22,625 --> 00:18:24,167 He was fine with me being myself 474 00:18:24,292 --> 00:18:25,833 for a really long time... - It is weird that it-- 475 00:18:25,917 --> 00:18:28,250 - Until it wasn't for him 476 00:18:28,333 --> 00:18:30,292 and, like, his narrative and his image 477 00:18:30,375 --> 00:18:34,083 that he is trying to have portrayed on camera 478 00:18:34,208 --> 00:18:36,042 and, like, whatever the [bleep] he wanted out of this. 479 00:18:36,208 --> 00:18:37,083 - Yeah. - Because I said that 480 00:18:37,208 --> 00:18:38,292 on the honeymoon. I was like, 481 00:18:38,375 --> 00:18:39,500 thanks for letting me be myself. 482 00:18:39,542 --> 00:18:41,375 There's a lot to me. I get that. 483 00:18:41,458 --> 00:18:42,625 - And it's like, that's who you are. 484 00:18:42,708 --> 00:18:44,417 - That is me. - Never not be yourself 485 00:18:44,417 --> 00:18:46,083 for some man who wants you to not be. 486 00:18:46,167 --> 00:18:47,208 - I think actually he does not like that. 487 00:18:47,292 --> 00:18:49,167 I really don't. - OK, well--yeah. 488 00:18:49,208 --> 00:18:50,917 I have no words other than, eff that. 489 00:18:51,042 --> 00:18:53,167 ♪ 490 00:18:53,208 --> 00:18:55,333 - It just still hurts no matter what, like, 491 00:18:55,375 --> 00:18:58,000 to have someone that says-- that cares about you 492 00:18:58,042 --> 00:18:59,333 and you care about them, or, like... 493 00:18:59,375 --> 00:19:00,875 - Yeah, of course. - You felt some way, whatever. 494 00:19:00,958 --> 00:19:03,708 Like, he--he doesn't. 495 00:19:03,792 --> 00:19:05,833 - He just seems very closed off to me right now. 496 00:19:05,917 --> 00:19:07,583 I feel like you are very open. 497 00:19:07,667 --> 00:19:10,667 It's very clear that there's an open person here 498 00:19:10,708 --> 00:19:13,167 who's ready to, like, figure this out, 499 00:19:13,208 --> 00:19:15,583 and there's somebody who's completely closed off 500 00:19:15,667 --> 00:19:17,958 who's saying that they're open and friendship, 501 00:19:18,042 --> 00:19:19,500 and this and that and the other. 502 00:19:19,583 --> 00:19:21,167 But it's just clear in the behavior that 503 00:19:21,208 --> 00:19:23,708 that is not what's true. 504 00:19:23,792 --> 00:19:25,625 ♪ 505 00:19:25,708 --> 00:19:28,333 - To some extent, like, this honestly is 506 00:19:28,417 --> 00:19:32,208 the best he can do for what he is and what I've learned. 507 00:19:32,292 --> 00:19:34,167 - See, even saying that though, you're giving him 508 00:19:34,250 --> 00:19:35,708 the benefit of the doubt, which is a beautiful thing-- 509 00:19:35,833 --> 00:19:36,875 - But it's not even the benefit of the doubt. 510 00:19:37,000 --> 00:19:37,833 Like, it's literally facts. 511 00:19:37,958 --> 00:19:39,542 As I listen to this, I'm like, 512 00:19:39,625 --> 00:19:43,167 that is just, like, what he is capable of. 513 00:19:43,250 --> 00:19:44,542 And that's why I say, like, it's sad. 514 00:19:44,625 --> 00:19:46,000 - Yeah, it is sad. 515 00:19:46,042 --> 00:19:47,833 - I don't know what to do. 516 00:19:47,875 --> 00:19:50,000 I'm not giving up. 517 00:19:50,042 --> 00:19:52,792 But, like, it's very hard. 518 00:19:52,875 --> 00:19:53,833 - Yeah. 519 00:19:58,208 --> 00:19:59,708 - ♪ You and I 520 00:19:59,708 --> 00:20:01,083 ♪ 521 00:20:01,458 --> 00:20:04,167 ♪ Together forever and always ♪ 522 00:20:04,250 --> 00:20:06,375 ♪ It's you and I 523 00:20:06,458 --> 00:20:11,667 - Are you excited for one epic outdoor adventure? 524 00:20:11,708 --> 00:20:13,042 - I am. 525 00:20:13,167 --> 00:20:14,833 Do you approve of my attire? 526 00:20:14,917 --> 00:20:16,583 Will I be able to make it through with this? 527 00:20:16,708 --> 00:20:19,375 - I probably wouldn't have approved 528 00:20:19,375 --> 00:20:22,542 if your shoes didn't coordinate with your headband. 529 00:20:22,667 --> 00:20:24,875 If those had been two different colors... 530 00:20:24,958 --> 00:20:26,667 - Then I'd have to change? 531 00:20:26,708 --> 00:20:28,417 - I probably would have pivoted to a different activity. 532 00:20:28,542 --> 00:20:29,875 - OK. - But now that-- 533 00:20:29,958 --> 00:20:32,958 you know, head to toe. 534 00:20:33,042 --> 00:20:35,833 [upbeat music] 535 00:20:35,875 --> 00:20:40,708 ♪ 536 00:20:40,833 --> 00:20:42,667 Nice. OK. 537 00:20:42,750 --> 00:20:44,167 - Hello. Welcome. 538 00:20:44,250 --> 00:20:45,292 - Hey. 539 00:20:45,375 --> 00:20:46,583 I'm Chloe. - Mike. 540 00:20:46,583 --> 00:20:47,792 - Chloe, Mike, nice to meet you guys. 541 00:20:47,875 --> 00:20:49,458 I'm just gonna have you stand right behind 542 00:20:49,542 --> 00:20:50,667 these harnesses here. - OK. 543 00:20:50,708 --> 00:20:52,167 - So first thing to do is gear up. 544 00:20:52,250 --> 00:20:53,875 - OK. - So if you want to stand 545 00:20:54,000 --> 00:20:55,083 right there, Mike, right there. 546 00:20:55,167 --> 00:20:56,375 - Sure. - Perfect. 547 00:20:56,458 --> 00:20:58,417 Step through the loops on the harness here. 548 00:20:58,500 --> 00:21:00,000 So you're going to step here, here. 549 00:21:00,083 --> 00:21:02,750 - OK. Good, I think. 550 00:21:02,833 --> 00:21:04,875 - What brought you guys out here today? 551 00:21:05,000 --> 00:21:07,250 - Well, we are on our honeymoon. 552 00:21:07,333 --> 00:21:09,833 And I think the fastest way to learn 553 00:21:09,917 --> 00:21:12,083 as much as we can about each other is to put ourselves 554 00:21:12,167 --> 00:21:14,208 in very stressful situations. - [laughs] 555 00:21:14,292 --> 00:21:16,708 - So I chose this adventure 556 00:21:16,792 --> 00:21:18,208 because I'm terrified of heights, and I thought 557 00:21:18,292 --> 00:21:20,083 I would face my fears with my husband, 558 00:21:20,167 --> 00:21:21,542 testing his ability to support me... 559 00:21:21,625 --> 00:21:22,667 - You can draw off my strength. 560 00:21:22,750 --> 00:21:25,542 - In all of my-- in all of my fears. 561 00:21:25,625 --> 00:21:27,000 - Hold up, how do I look? - Very-- 562 00:21:27,125 --> 00:21:28,458 - How's this look? - So sexy. 563 00:21:28,542 --> 00:21:30,958 - Does it complement my hips? - Yeah, yeah, no. 564 00:21:31,042 --> 00:21:32,458 Draws attention right to 'em. 565 00:21:32,542 --> 00:21:34,542 - All right. Anyways-- 566 00:21:34,542 --> 00:21:37,167 so if you two just want to go ahead and grab your helmets. 567 00:21:37,208 --> 00:21:43,917 ♪ 568 00:21:44,042 --> 00:21:46,125 - Am I choking you? - [laughing] My chin. 569 00:21:46,208 --> 00:21:48,042 - Oh, I grabbed your chin? 570 00:21:48,042 --> 00:21:49,167 ♪ 571 00:21:49,250 --> 00:21:50,667 Is that good? - Yeah. 572 00:21:50,750 --> 00:21:52,167 OK. - Perfect. 573 00:21:52,250 --> 00:21:54,000 Grab those bags. Grab your waters. 574 00:21:54,083 --> 00:21:55,875 - All right. Let's do it. 575 00:21:55,958 --> 00:22:02,292 ♪ 576 00:22:02,375 --> 00:22:03,792 Yeah, I'll watch you. 577 00:22:03,875 --> 00:22:05,750 OK, we're totally good. 578 00:22:05,875 --> 00:22:08,500 Yeah. Sure. 579 00:22:08,542 --> 00:22:10,167 - You got it? - Yeah. 580 00:22:10,250 --> 00:22:11,292 - Do you like holding my hand, 581 00:22:11,375 --> 00:22:12,125 or would you rather hold, like-- 582 00:22:12,208 --> 00:22:13,750 - Um, yeah. 583 00:22:13,833 --> 00:22:16,583 You go forward, and I'll just hold your shoulder. 584 00:22:16,708 --> 00:22:18,167 Feeling stable. - Doing good? 585 00:22:18,250 --> 00:22:19,458 - Yep. 586 00:22:19,542 --> 00:22:21,250 I am-- - You are pro-ing it. 587 00:22:21,333 --> 00:22:23,500 - I am in it to win it. 588 00:22:23,583 --> 00:22:24,792 - I'm just keeping up with you now. 589 00:22:24,917 --> 00:22:26,875 - Get up. OK. 590 00:22:27,000 --> 00:22:28,375 Wow. 591 00:22:28,500 --> 00:22:31,250 My heart's about to pop out of my chest. 592 00:22:31,333 --> 00:22:33,167 Oh, God, survival. 593 00:22:33,250 --> 00:22:34,667 It just, uh-- 594 00:22:34,750 --> 00:22:35,875 ♪ 595 00:22:36,000 --> 00:22:37,750 [bleep]. 596 00:22:37,875 --> 00:22:39,333 OK. 597 00:22:39,375 --> 00:22:40,875 All righty. 598 00:22:40,875 --> 00:22:44,125 I'll follow you. 599 00:22:44,208 --> 00:22:45,500 - How are we living, Chloe? Good? 600 00:22:45,542 --> 00:22:47,167 - I mean, I've never been up this high. 601 00:22:47,250 --> 00:22:49,625 But I'm-- - You're doing great. 602 00:22:49,708 --> 00:22:51,000 - Oy. 603 00:22:54,208 --> 00:22:56,000 Oh, goodness gracious me. 604 00:22:56,083 --> 00:22:57,125 Holy cow. 605 00:22:57,208 --> 00:23:01,583 ♪ 606 00:23:01,667 --> 00:23:03,250 Oh, my goodness. - All right. 607 00:23:03,250 --> 00:23:04,667 ♪ 608 00:23:04,750 --> 00:23:07,000 - Whoo! 609 00:23:07,042 --> 00:23:08,208 Whoo! - Be proud, huh? 610 00:23:08,208 --> 00:23:10,000 - Holy smokes. 611 00:23:10,125 --> 00:23:12,083 We did it. 612 00:23:12,208 --> 00:23:13,917 This adventure definitely pulled me 613 00:23:14,000 --> 00:23:16,000 out of my comfort zone, which I haven't necessarily 614 00:23:16,083 --> 00:23:17,375 been out of that in a while. 615 00:23:17,458 --> 00:23:20,292 But Michael really prioritized me 616 00:23:20,375 --> 00:23:23,000 and what it is that I needed to feel safe. 617 00:23:23,042 --> 00:23:24,208 - You all right? 618 00:23:24,375 --> 00:23:26,125 ♪ 619 00:23:26,208 --> 00:23:27,667 - Oh, that's beautiful. 620 00:23:27,750 --> 00:23:29,917 I never want to do that again. 621 00:23:30,000 --> 00:23:31,583 That was really scary. 622 00:23:31,667 --> 00:23:33,917 This is probably the most stressful, dangerous situation 623 00:23:34,000 --> 00:23:36,542 I've put myself in in a really long time. 624 00:23:36,542 --> 00:23:39,292 So I'm happy to have Michael. 625 00:23:39,375 --> 00:23:42,667 May we approach all obstacles in marriage just like this. 626 00:23:42,750 --> 00:23:44,208 High five. 627 00:23:44,292 --> 00:23:45,333 We did it. - High five. 628 00:23:45,333 --> 00:23:48,250 ♪ 629 00:23:48,375 --> 00:23:49,542 - Should we look down 630 00:23:49,667 --> 00:23:51,958 and be grateful that we're not falling? 631 00:23:52,042 --> 00:23:54,375 - Well, I mean, if you want to continually 632 00:23:54,458 --> 00:23:55,750 face your fears, sure. 633 00:23:55,875 --> 00:23:58,000 - [groans] That's too scary for me. 634 00:23:58,000 --> 00:24:00,583 - Do you have any-- I mean, are heights-- 635 00:24:00,667 --> 00:24:03,250 like, is the fear of heights number one on that list? 636 00:24:03,333 --> 00:24:05,542 - Yeah, today really forced me 637 00:24:05,625 --> 00:24:07,875 out of my comfort zone, which was good. 638 00:24:07,958 --> 00:24:10,667 What about you? What are you afraid of? 639 00:24:10,750 --> 00:24:13,000 - I like to think I have a healthy respect for the ocean. 640 00:24:13,042 --> 00:24:15,708 Like, I'll go in it, and I enjoy water activities. 641 00:24:15,792 --> 00:24:17,750 But I know they do scare me, so, like, 642 00:24:17,875 --> 00:24:19,833 if we would ever do scuba diving or something, 643 00:24:19,958 --> 00:24:21,708 that would-- you know, that would 644 00:24:21,792 --> 00:24:25,167 take a lot out of me mentally and emotionally. 645 00:24:25,250 --> 00:24:27,042 When I was young, I used to really be scared of, 646 00:24:27,125 --> 00:24:29,667 like, roller coasters if they went upside down. 647 00:24:29,792 --> 00:24:32,083 I mean, I'm still scared of them now, 648 00:24:32,167 --> 00:24:35,333 but not nearly to the extent that I was when I was young. 649 00:24:35,417 --> 00:24:36,667 But those are, like-- those would be, like, 650 00:24:36,750 --> 00:24:38,000 the only fears that I could think of 651 00:24:38,083 --> 00:24:41,333 that would even rival your fear of heights. 652 00:24:41,458 --> 00:24:43,042 - Rival this? [laughs] 653 00:24:43,167 --> 00:24:45,708 Well, hey, I'm up here and I'm looking down. 654 00:24:45,792 --> 00:24:47,167 - How about on the opposite end though? 655 00:24:47,292 --> 00:24:50,000 Like, I mean we've broached so many different topics, 656 00:24:50,042 --> 00:24:52,583 but we haven't even gone through, like, the basics. 657 00:24:52,708 --> 00:24:55,458 Like, we've talked about how I could be your support system. 658 00:24:55,542 --> 00:24:57,417 And you know, today, I tried to be that. 659 00:24:57,500 --> 00:24:59,083 - Yeah, you were. 660 00:24:59,208 --> 00:25:02,208 - Is there a particular type of support that you prefer. 661 00:25:02,333 --> 00:25:03,667 Like, is it verbal support? 662 00:25:03,750 --> 00:25:06,375 Is it just, like, a quiet, you know, 663 00:25:06,375 --> 00:25:07,917 just physically being there? 664 00:25:08,000 --> 00:25:11,000 Like, what support type resonates with you most? 665 00:25:11,083 --> 00:25:13,917 - I'm kind of one of those that never asks for help. 666 00:25:14,042 --> 00:25:17,083 I'm one of those that's never going to probably be the first 667 00:25:17,167 --> 00:25:20,958 to dive in and say, I need you to support me in this way. 668 00:25:21,042 --> 00:25:23,417 But you continually reminding me 669 00:25:23,542 --> 00:25:26,792 that I should be leaning on you that way 670 00:25:26,875 --> 00:25:30,458 is going to help a lot as I work to be 671 00:25:30,542 --> 00:25:33,500 a little less fully independent 672 00:25:33,583 --> 00:25:36,250 and maybe more of a partner in this journey. 673 00:25:36,333 --> 00:25:38,583 What about you? 674 00:25:38,667 --> 00:25:41,417 - I probably have a little bit of that in me, 675 00:25:41,500 --> 00:25:43,542 like what you have where you don't want to burden someone. 676 00:25:43,667 --> 00:25:45,583 - Yeah. - But I think 677 00:25:45,667 --> 00:25:47,792 I don't recognize all the time that, like, 678 00:25:47,875 --> 00:25:50,292 oh, [bleep], I'm struggling more than I think I am. 679 00:25:50,375 --> 00:25:51,708 Like, you start seeing 680 00:25:51,875 --> 00:25:54,167 that my whole schedule is out of whack. 681 00:25:54,167 --> 00:25:56,000 I mean, that would be the insight I would give you, 682 00:25:56,042 --> 00:25:57,917 that, like, you know, your boy's probably struggling. 683 00:25:58,042 --> 00:25:59,500 - [laughs] 684 00:25:59,583 --> 00:26:00,917 If you feel like you're getting out of whack, 685 00:26:01,042 --> 00:26:03,708 I hope that you have the opportunity 686 00:26:03,833 --> 00:26:05,333 to say things feel a little bit off. 687 00:26:05,417 --> 00:26:06,250 - Mm-hmm. - I'm going to do my best 688 00:26:06,333 --> 00:26:07,625 to learn it. - Sure. 689 00:26:07,708 --> 00:26:10,000 - But before I learn it, definitely let me know 690 00:26:10,042 --> 00:26:11,542 if things are not feeling quite right. 691 00:26:11,625 --> 00:26:13,917 - I will. - I'm here to help. 692 00:26:14,000 --> 00:26:18,208 I'm here to be the ascending mountain support in your life. 693 00:26:18,292 --> 00:26:19,333 - [laughing] Yeah. 694 00:26:19,375 --> 00:26:21,958 ♪ 695 00:26:22,042 --> 00:26:24,333 - ♪ Don't make it complicated ♪ 696 00:26:24,375 --> 00:26:28,708 ♪ 697 00:26:28,792 --> 00:26:34,167 - Tonight is our next expert visit with Pastor Cal. 698 00:26:34,292 --> 00:26:37,750 You know, these things are always interesting 699 00:26:37,833 --> 00:26:40,042 to get ready for. 700 00:26:40,167 --> 00:26:42,125 There's always, like, a little bit of, like, 701 00:26:42,208 --> 00:26:45,042 anxiousness, I guess, just because, I don't know, 702 00:26:45,042 --> 00:26:47,083 Brennan and I don't have the best trajectory 703 00:26:47,208 --> 00:26:49,500 of having the smoothest of conversations. 704 00:26:49,583 --> 00:26:51,333 I'm not really worried about 705 00:26:51,500 --> 00:26:53,208 discussing anything in particular. 706 00:26:53,375 --> 00:26:55,333 I'm always just worried that, like, something I say, 707 00:26:55,375 --> 00:26:58,500 I think, is going to spark a reaction out of Brennan, 708 00:26:58,542 --> 00:27:00,292 just because he's very sensitive, I think, 709 00:27:00,375 --> 00:27:02,708 to these types of topics. 710 00:27:02,708 --> 00:27:05,792 And sometimes, what I think is totally, like, 711 00:27:05,875 --> 00:27:08,167 not sensitive or a big deal, he does. 712 00:27:08,250 --> 00:27:09,500 So I just get-- 713 00:27:09,500 --> 00:27:13,667 I'm always cautious or--yeah. 714 00:27:13,708 --> 00:27:14,958 Like, I just never know maybe, like, 715 00:27:15,042 --> 00:27:21,000 what can make him maybe get a little uneasy. 716 00:27:21,042 --> 00:27:23,417 Stay tuned for what happens after. 717 00:27:23,542 --> 00:27:26,333 [car horns honking] 718 00:27:26,417 --> 00:27:31,375 ♪ 719 00:27:34,333 --> 00:27:35,375 Do you want some water? 720 00:27:35,500 --> 00:27:36,875 - Thanks. 721 00:27:40,500 --> 00:27:43,333 Anything you're nervous about? 722 00:27:43,375 --> 00:27:44,667 - I get nervous sometimes 723 00:27:44,708 --> 00:27:50,083 if I...just don't say the right thing. 724 00:27:50,167 --> 00:27:51,833 [knock on door] 725 00:27:51,875 --> 00:27:54,042 - You know, this whole friendship reset, 726 00:27:54,125 --> 00:27:56,083 the element has been to remove all the pressure 727 00:27:56,208 --> 00:27:58,292 and just focus on the good things between us. 728 00:27:58,375 --> 00:27:59,667 Come on in. 729 00:27:59,708 --> 00:28:01,458 - Always look so good. 730 00:28:01,542 --> 00:28:02,542 - I think Emily and I, you know, 731 00:28:02,667 --> 00:28:04,875 we've had a lot of talks, so hopefully 732 00:28:04,958 --> 00:28:06,208 we're finally on the same page. 733 00:28:06,292 --> 00:28:08,917 - How are you, beautiful lady? - How are you? 734 00:28:08,917 --> 00:28:10,583 Good to see you. - You too. 735 00:28:10,708 --> 00:28:11,667 Look at you. You look all nice. 736 00:28:11,750 --> 00:28:12,583 - You know. - He's a'ight. 737 00:28:12,667 --> 00:28:14,000 - Yeah, he's fine. 738 00:28:14,000 --> 00:28:15,917 He's fine. 739 00:28:16,042 --> 00:28:18,167 - So what's up, guys? - Welcome back. 740 00:28:18,208 --> 00:28:20,917 ♪ 741 00:28:21,000 --> 00:28:22,208 We have a new setup since you came. 742 00:28:22,333 --> 00:28:23,458 - I know, right? 743 00:28:23,542 --> 00:28:24,875 Wasn't it different the last time? 744 00:28:24,958 --> 00:28:25,833 - Yeah. 745 00:28:25,917 --> 00:28:26,958 - The seating was different, right? 746 00:28:27,083 --> 00:28:28,042 - Yeah. - We had the couch that way. 747 00:28:28,125 --> 00:28:29,542 - Yeah, the couch was over here. 748 00:28:29,542 --> 00:28:32,292 So tell me, how have things been going? 749 00:28:32,375 --> 00:28:34,667 I know that, you know, you guys are not, you know, 750 00:28:34,750 --> 00:28:37,458 setting the romantic world on fire right now. 751 00:28:37,542 --> 00:28:38,875 [chuckles] 752 00:28:38,958 --> 00:28:41,292 Well, let's talk about it. 753 00:28:41,375 --> 00:28:43,083 Are you happy? 754 00:28:43,167 --> 00:28:44,833 - Yeah, I'm happy. 755 00:28:44,958 --> 00:28:49,667 If I wasn't happy, I would leave. 756 00:28:49,708 --> 00:28:51,792 But I just care about him. 757 00:28:51,875 --> 00:28:55,125 Sometimes I'm like, why am I still here? 758 00:28:55,208 --> 00:28:57,000 Um... 759 00:28:57,083 --> 00:28:58,000 - OK. 760 00:28:58,042 --> 00:29:00,458 - I still have faith in us. 761 00:29:00,542 --> 00:29:03,625 I respect what he needs. 762 00:29:03,708 --> 00:29:06,458 I'm happy to let him do whatever 763 00:29:06,542 --> 00:29:10,667 to let the reset, like, progress. 764 00:29:10,792 --> 00:29:15,250 But for me, I want a husband, not a friendship. 765 00:29:15,333 --> 00:29:17,958 - So I'm glad to see the commitment, 766 00:29:18,042 --> 00:29:20,667 because once you get into the friend zone, 767 00:29:20,708 --> 00:29:22,792 you don't see each other as romantic partners. 768 00:29:22,875 --> 00:29:25,167 You're looking at each other as buddies. 769 00:29:25,250 --> 00:29:26,708 You're punching each other on the shoulder. 770 00:29:26,792 --> 00:29:28,125 That's not why you're here. 771 00:29:28,208 --> 00:29:30,042 But speaking of why you are here, 772 00:29:30,125 --> 00:29:35,042 I want to share with you each other's interviews. 773 00:29:35,125 --> 00:29:37,500 OK, this is when we first sat down with you 774 00:29:37,542 --> 00:29:39,833 early in the matchmaking process. 775 00:29:39,917 --> 00:29:41,917 I want you to see these videos because I want you to see 776 00:29:42,000 --> 00:29:44,458 what you were asking for when we first started. 777 00:29:44,542 --> 00:29:46,250 - Hm. 778 00:29:46,375 --> 00:29:47,917 - Oh, wow. 779 00:29:48,042 --> 00:29:49,958 - We do our absolute best 780 00:29:50,042 --> 00:29:52,500 in trying to match you as well as we can. 781 00:29:52,542 --> 00:29:54,833 And you both said, you know, you guys see the values 782 00:29:54,917 --> 00:29:59,500 that you guys have that are really, really compatible. 783 00:29:59,542 --> 00:30:02,417 [in video] How about-- how do you deal with conflict? 784 00:30:02,417 --> 00:30:04,958 - I think I deal with it well. 785 00:30:05,042 --> 00:30:07,917 I would say the one part that I don't do well is, 786 00:30:08,042 --> 00:30:09,333 I'm really sensitive and emotional. 787 00:30:09,417 --> 00:30:11,167 So I'm really working on trying to, like, 788 00:30:11,250 --> 00:30:15,333 not be emotional in the way that I deal with it. 789 00:30:15,417 --> 00:30:16,667 - What do you think are the ingredients 790 00:30:16,708 --> 00:30:18,917 for a successful marriage? 791 00:30:19,000 --> 00:30:22,667 - You definitely have to give and take and compromise. 792 00:30:22,750 --> 00:30:25,833 And also, like, you have to realize it's a lot of work, 793 00:30:25,917 --> 00:30:28,833 and you can't give up when things get tough. 794 00:30:28,875 --> 00:30:30,417 - Give me a few characteristics 795 00:30:30,542 --> 00:30:32,250 of a potential husband. 796 00:30:32,333 --> 00:30:37,458 - Definitely loyal, driven, kind. 797 00:30:37,458 --> 00:30:39,958 I think, like, if you aren't kind to others or yourself 798 00:30:40,042 --> 00:30:43,458 or to your partner, it's hard to have, 799 00:30:43,542 --> 00:30:46,958 like, other positive things translate. 800 00:30:47,042 --> 00:30:50,833 - So tell me, what do you think? 801 00:30:50,958 --> 00:30:52,375 - Same girl. - Is it the same girl? 802 00:30:52,458 --> 00:30:53,667 - Same girl. - This is the same person 803 00:30:53,792 --> 00:30:54,542 that you're married to? 804 00:30:54,625 --> 00:30:55,667 - Yeah. 805 00:30:55,708 --> 00:30:56,833 - Yeah, yeah. 806 00:30:56,875 --> 00:30:58,500 She seems pretty consistent. 807 00:30:58,583 --> 00:30:59,792 What do you think? 808 00:30:59,875 --> 00:31:01,875 - Yeah. I would say... 809 00:31:01,875 --> 00:31:03,500 - Yeah, yeah. - Consistent. 810 00:31:03,542 --> 00:31:06,000 - All right. 811 00:31:06,083 --> 00:31:07,833 - How much do you want this? - Very badly. 812 00:31:07,958 --> 00:31:09,500 I think I'm wearing the same shirt. 813 00:31:09,542 --> 00:31:10,667 [laughs] 814 00:31:10,708 --> 00:31:12,500 I've watched the show. 815 00:31:12,583 --> 00:31:13,833 I've studied it. 816 00:31:13,917 --> 00:31:15,042 I've watched your interactions. 817 00:31:15,125 --> 00:31:16,542 I'm extremely coachable, 818 00:31:16,625 --> 00:31:18,375 and I want to get better at relationships. 819 00:31:18,458 --> 00:31:21,250 And I think this is the platform to do it 820 00:31:21,333 --> 00:31:23,292 and find the person I'm looking for. 821 00:31:23,375 --> 00:31:24,708 - What does your spouse need to be 822 00:31:24,792 --> 00:31:26,083 on the lookout for with you? 823 00:31:26,167 --> 00:31:28,375 - I would say I am sensitive. 824 00:31:28,458 --> 00:31:34,000 So I can be emotional at times in my tone, 825 00:31:34,042 --> 00:31:35,417 but I'm not actually. 826 00:31:35,500 --> 00:31:37,042 - How do you see yourself cultivating trust 827 00:31:37,125 --> 00:31:38,125 in the marriage? 828 00:31:38,208 --> 00:31:40,792 - Just my actions, honestly. 829 00:31:40,875 --> 00:31:41,875 Just showing her that I'm there, 830 00:31:41,875 --> 00:31:45,125 making her the priority. 831 00:31:45,208 --> 00:31:46,833 - What other elements do you feel like are really going 832 00:31:46,917 --> 00:31:48,917 to be important for a successful marriage? 833 00:31:49,000 --> 00:31:51,125 - Yeah, so I'm very loving and affectionate, 834 00:31:51,208 --> 00:31:52,833 and I'm very communicative. 835 00:31:52,917 --> 00:31:55,000 And I think that is huge in a relationship. 836 00:31:55,083 --> 00:31:58,167 And I'm a pretty selfless guy, honestly. 837 00:31:58,292 --> 00:32:00,333 Like, I put everyone before myself. 838 00:32:00,417 --> 00:32:02,292 [tense music] 839 00:32:02,375 --> 00:32:04,750 - Smart guy. 840 00:32:04,875 --> 00:32:06,250 - What does marriage mean to you? 841 00:32:06,333 --> 00:32:08,083 - I think marriage for me is a life partner 842 00:32:08,167 --> 00:32:10,250 that you can conquer the world with and do anything with-- 843 00:32:10,333 --> 00:32:12,000 someone who has your back through thick and thin. 844 00:32:12,125 --> 00:32:14,000 I really, really want that. 845 00:32:14,083 --> 00:32:16,833 For me, I'm gonna trust the process, 846 00:32:16,875 --> 00:32:19,708 because I'm doing this trusting you fully. 847 00:32:19,792 --> 00:32:21,333 I know you have my back. 848 00:32:21,375 --> 00:32:22,708 I'm gonna follow the process... 849 00:32:22,792 --> 00:32:23,708 - OK. - And work on it 850 00:32:23,792 --> 00:32:24,875 the best way that I can. 851 00:32:24,875 --> 00:32:27,542 ♪ 852 00:32:27,625 --> 00:32:29,458 - I want to get your response. 853 00:32:29,542 --> 00:32:33,833 - Yeah, I see a lot of the same phrases, 854 00:32:33,917 --> 00:32:36,333 qualities that I think he emphasizes, 855 00:32:36,417 --> 00:32:39,542 which is, like, trust and being there for one another. 856 00:32:39,542 --> 00:32:42,792 Um... 857 00:32:42,875 --> 00:32:48,208 I also see some dissimilarities because we're interviewing, 858 00:32:48,292 --> 00:32:50,292 so we're on our A game. 859 00:32:50,292 --> 00:32:52,667 Yeah, but for me it's like, "trust the process." 860 00:32:52,750 --> 00:32:55,167 - Right. - And I feel like for me, 861 00:32:55,208 --> 00:32:58,125 that got cut pretty short. 862 00:32:58,125 --> 00:32:59,875 - But as far-- what, trusting the process? 863 00:32:59,958 --> 00:33:02,292 - It's just, like, trusting the process and not giving up. 864 00:33:02,375 --> 00:33:04,000 - Do you think the guy in this video 865 00:33:04,083 --> 00:33:05,458 is the guy that you're married to? 866 00:33:05,542 --> 00:33:07,458 - Uh... 867 00:33:07,542 --> 00:33:10,333 ♪ 868 00:33:14,500 --> 00:33:20,042 ♪ 869 00:33:20,208 --> 00:33:21,542 - It's kind of like the tale as old as time 870 00:33:21,625 --> 00:33:23,667 of hearing all the stuff you want to hear. 871 00:33:23,750 --> 00:33:26,250 And it's, like, a lot of the stuff that actually, like, 872 00:33:26,375 --> 00:33:28,500 isn't really there behind the scenes. 873 00:33:28,583 --> 00:33:31,125 Moral of the story's, like, he spoke true to a lot of, 874 00:33:31,208 --> 00:33:33,667 I think, what he believes in. 875 00:33:33,750 --> 00:33:36,958 Things might have just been a little bit exaggerated 876 00:33:37,042 --> 00:33:38,500 or, like, emphasized. 877 00:33:38,625 --> 00:33:41,708 Um... 878 00:33:41,792 --> 00:33:42,875 yeah. 879 00:33:42,875 --> 00:33:47,125 ♪ 880 00:33:47,208 --> 00:33:49,250 - It's different when you're in a romantic situation, 881 00:33:49,375 --> 00:33:51,833 you know? 882 00:33:51,917 --> 00:33:53,333 - Friendship was not the intention. 883 00:33:53,417 --> 00:33:54,708 - No, it was not. - Friendship is not 884 00:33:54,792 --> 00:33:55,833 how we started out. 885 00:33:55,958 --> 00:33:58,000 And I tell people, look, 886 00:33:58,125 --> 00:34:00,375 do not use the F word, 887 00:34:00,458 --> 00:34:03,208 because it kind of sets a boundary 888 00:34:03,333 --> 00:34:04,625 around your relationship, and it's very hard 889 00:34:04,708 --> 00:34:05,875 to recover from that. 890 00:34:05,958 --> 00:34:08,375 ♪ 891 00:34:08,458 --> 00:34:11,333 What does moving forward look like? 892 00:34:11,458 --> 00:34:13,875 What are your expectations, you know? 893 00:34:13,958 --> 00:34:15,708 What are you thinking, Brennan? 894 00:34:15,792 --> 00:34:17,542 - We're just trying to navigate it the best way we can. 895 00:34:17,625 --> 00:34:20,042 And, you know, if we feel comfortable enough 896 00:34:20,125 --> 00:34:21,792 to go deeper, then, you know, we'll go deeper. 897 00:34:21,875 --> 00:34:23,583 But if we're not feeling it, 898 00:34:23,667 --> 00:34:25,542 then we gotta respect each other's boundaries. 899 00:34:25,667 --> 00:34:27,583 - What if she feels comfortable enough to go deeper? 900 00:34:27,667 --> 00:34:29,667 - Great. - Are you up to doing that? 901 00:34:29,708 --> 00:34:30,792 - Sure. 902 00:34:30,875 --> 00:34:33,708 ♪ 903 00:34:33,833 --> 00:34:35,250 - What do you think? 904 00:34:35,333 --> 00:34:37,125 - There have been times 905 00:34:37,208 --> 00:34:38,708 I've been trying to respect his boundaries. 906 00:34:38,792 --> 00:34:40,333 Like, it's just delicate. 907 00:34:40,375 --> 00:34:42,417 And I think it's been a little bit more important 908 00:34:42,500 --> 00:34:44,792 for me to, like, do what is needed 909 00:34:44,875 --> 00:34:46,042 for him to feel more comfortable. 910 00:34:46,125 --> 00:34:48,500 So I feel I just don't want 911 00:34:48,583 --> 00:34:51,375 to push any boundaries in general 912 00:34:51,458 --> 00:34:55,958 and/or have that result in being more closed off. 913 00:34:56,042 --> 00:34:58,083 ♪ 914 00:34:58,167 --> 00:35:03,208 - I think that the fear of it going too fast, 915 00:35:03,292 --> 00:35:05,583 or the fear of it going somewhere 916 00:35:05,667 --> 00:35:09,333 that you don't know if that's the place you want it to go, 917 00:35:09,458 --> 00:35:11,583 it's sort of keeping everybody at bay, 918 00:35:11,667 --> 00:35:14,500 maybe more so you than you, you know? 919 00:35:14,583 --> 00:35:16,667 [laughing] This is not "Friends at First Sight." 920 00:35:16,750 --> 00:35:18,333 Don't let those words come out of your mouth, 921 00:35:18,417 --> 00:35:20,333 because normally, that's a cop-out. 922 00:35:20,417 --> 00:35:23,750 And I want you guys to get the full benefit 923 00:35:23,833 --> 00:35:25,792 of this experiment. 924 00:35:25,875 --> 00:35:28,958 You guys are gonna have to work that out with each other, OK? 925 00:35:29,042 --> 00:35:30,458 Let's see what happens. 926 00:35:30,542 --> 00:35:35,458 ♪ 927 00:35:35,542 --> 00:35:39,250 - ♪ I've been waiting my whole life ♪ 928 00:35:39,333 --> 00:35:42,250 ♪ To feel these butterflies 929 00:35:42,333 --> 00:35:46,042 ♪ This is the effect you have on me ♪ 930 00:35:46,167 --> 00:35:47,750 - Well, cheers to the honeymoon. 931 00:35:47,833 --> 00:35:48,958 - Cheers. 932 00:35:49,042 --> 00:35:50,333 ♪ 933 00:35:50,417 --> 00:35:52,208 Mmm. 934 00:35:52,292 --> 00:35:54,333 So I can't even imagine 935 00:35:54,375 --> 00:35:55,958 what it's like growing up in Santa Fe. 936 00:35:56,042 --> 00:35:57,500 Like, I don't have a preconceived notion 937 00:35:57,542 --> 00:35:58,833 of what that looks like, you know? 938 00:35:58,917 --> 00:36:02,667 - So I was born and spent the first nine years 939 00:36:02,708 --> 00:36:04,208 in Santa Fe. - OK. 940 00:36:04,292 --> 00:36:07,625 - And then from 9 to 17, when I graduated high school, 941 00:36:07,708 --> 00:36:09,500 we were in Albuquerque. 942 00:36:09,583 --> 00:36:15,333 But Santa Fe was a very interesting place. 943 00:36:15,417 --> 00:36:19,167 It was a really culturally diverse childhood for me. 944 00:36:19,208 --> 00:36:21,042 - OK. - And so it's been 945 00:36:21,125 --> 00:36:24,500 kind of the foundation of how I accept 946 00:36:24,625 --> 00:36:27,167 and really thrive with people today. 947 00:36:27,292 --> 00:36:28,708 Was there a lot of cultural diversity-- 948 00:36:28,792 --> 00:36:29,833 you grew up in Anaheim? 949 00:36:29,917 --> 00:36:31,458 - I definitely was exposed 950 00:36:31,542 --> 00:36:33,958 to a good amount of diversity, 951 00:36:34,042 --> 00:36:35,208 you know, my mom being Filipino. 952 00:36:35,292 --> 00:36:37,667 My dad was Cypriot/Greek. 953 00:36:37,792 --> 00:36:41,500 So you know, Filipino cuisine is relatively unique. 954 00:36:41,583 --> 00:36:43,667 And that's what I was used to growing up, like, eating. 955 00:36:43,750 --> 00:36:45,542 So then if I was at someone else's house, 956 00:36:45,625 --> 00:36:46,958 that's when I first realized, 957 00:36:47,042 --> 00:36:48,500 oh, OK, like, there's a difference. 958 00:36:48,625 --> 00:36:51,583 Like, squid isn't normal for some other cultures. 959 00:36:51,667 --> 00:36:53,667 - I'm curious if you identify more 960 00:36:53,750 --> 00:36:55,625 with the Filipino side or the Greek side. 961 00:36:55,708 --> 00:36:57,417 - So growing up, I definitely would have said 962 00:36:57,542 --> 00:36:59,958 the Filipino side, just because that was 963 00:37:00,042 --> 00:37:02,500 what I was exposed to more. 964 00:37:02,625 --> 00:37:06,167 Now I have a very healthy appreciation for both. 965 00:37:06,208 --> 00:37:08,042 The Greek side of my family, 966 00:37:08,125 --> 00:37:09,333 especially, like, when my dad died, 967 00:37:09,417 --> 00:37:12,250 they made me--in a good way-- 968 00:37:12,333 --> 00:37:16,417 feel like an adult that could handle it at age 14. 969 00:37:16,500 --> 00:37:19,250 - That's phenomenal. 970 00:37:19,375 --> 00:37:21,333 I'm excited to meet more of your family. 971 00:37:21,375 --> 00:37:24,333 - My mom and sister are in Vegas. 972 00:37:24,417 --> 00:37:26,917 But her and my mom are, like, best friends. 973 00:37:27,000 --> 00:37:28,042 - Best friends--BFF. - Yeah. 974 00:37:28,208 --> 00:37:29,458 Mm-hmm. - Which is amazing. 975 00:37:29,542 --> 00:37:30,917 Well, I'm looking forward to meeting them. 976 00:37:31,000 --> 00:37:32,667 - Mm-hmm. - Does she know 977 00:37:32,750 --> 00:37:34,750 that we're married, we're together? 978 00:37:34,833 --> 00:37:36,875 Does she know that yet? - No, she doesn't know. 979 00:37:36,958 --> 00:37:38,667 She doesn't know that yet. 980 00:37:38,750 --> 00:37:41,000 I did tell my mom about what happened the first time. 981 00:37:41,042 --> 00:37:43,042 And you know, that's something that's fresh in her mind. 982 00:37:43,125 --> 00:37:44,500 But my sister knows. 983 00:37:44,542 --> 00:37:47,458 You know, I told my sister about it. 984 00:37:47,542 --> 00:37:51,792 But I asked her not to tell my mom the second time around, 985 00:37:51,875 --> 00:37:54,333 because I know for my mom, when I told her 986 00:37:54,375 --> 00:37:57,167 about this potential journey the first time, 987 00:37:57,208 --> 00:37:58,625 like, it was hard for her to understand, 988 00:37:58,708 --> 00:38:01,750 why you would want to go about it this way. 989 00:38:01,833 --> 00:38:04,708 She thought that, you know, it wasn't a good idea. 990 00:38:04,792 --> 00:38:07,292 - Well, I think her reaction was totally normal. 991 00:38:07,375 --> 00:38:09,167 And I think her reaction is also something 992 00:38:09,250 --> 00:38:12,167 that I would 100% expect. 993 00:38:12,250 --> 00:38:16,500 - For me, I'm double-downing on the fact that, 994 00:38:16,542 --> 00:38:19,000 you know, as things continue to develop with us, 995 00:38:19,083 --> 00:38:22,917 any concerns she has, you know, upon meeting you, 996 00:38:23,042 --> 00:38:25,500 most of those, if not all, will evaporate. 997 00:38:25,542 --> 00:38:27,125 - Yeah. 998 00:38:27,208 --> 00:38:31,167 [tense music] 999 00:38:31,250 --> 00:38:32,792 - I want to be crystal clear. 1000 00:38:32,875 --> 00:38:35,333 Like, I'm not trying to hide you, you know, 1001 00:38:35,375 --> 00:38:38,167 or hide my family from you or vice versa. 1002 00:38:38,208 --> 00:38:39,833 So I just want you to trust me... 1003 00:38:39,833 --> 00:38:42,208 - Yeah. - You know, when the best time 1004 00:38:42,292 --> 00:38:43,792 is to tell my mom. 1005 00:38:43,875 --> 00:38:46,667 ♪ 1006 00:38:50,833 --> 00:38:52,167 [upbeat music] 1007 00:38:52,250 --> 00:38:55,083 ♪ 1008 00:38:55,167 --> 00:38:57,125 - Home sweet... ♪ Home 1009 00:38:57,208 --> 00:38:59,000 - It's a little bit of a mess. 1010 00:38:59,125 --> 00:39:00,375 Yay, travel days. 1011 00:39:00,500 --> 00:39:02,708 - Yay, travel days. 1012 00:39:02,792 --> 00:39:06,167 My back hurts, sitting in one position. 1013 00:39:06,250 --> 00:39:07,625 - Oh, you weren't in one position. 1014 00:39:07,750 --> 00:39:09,417 You were all over them-- [chuckling] 1015 00:39:09,500 --> 00:39:11,333 - [chuckling] - That airplane chair. 1016 00:39:11,417 --> 00:39:13,042 - I don't know what you're talking about. 1017 00:39:13,125 --> 00:39:14,333 - I'm surprised your head wasn't-- 1018 00:39:14,417 --> 00:39:15,917 or your feet weren't in the air at one point. 1019 00:39:16,000 --> 00:39:17,167 - [laughs] 1020 00:39:17,250 --> 00:39:19,667 I was tired. - Yeah, I know. 1021 00:39:19,750 --> 00:39:22,500 - Well, because we woke up at 8:00 a.m., which 8:00 a.m.-- 1022 00:39:22,583 --> 00:39:24,542 - No, we woke up at 7:00 a.m. - We woke up at 7:00 a.m., 1023 00:39:24,667 --> 00:39:25,958 which was technically-- - 4:00 a.m. our time. 1024 00:39:26,042 --> 00:39:27,708 - Oof. 1025 00:39:27,792 --> 00:39:30,500 - Um, yeah, 1026 00:39:30,542 --> 00:39:34,333 looking forward to a nice, long slumber. 1027 00:39:34,417 --> 00:39:37,417 How are you feeling about Dr. Pia's visit tomorrow? 1028 00:39:37,542 --> 00:39:40,167 - Yeah, I am excited to see her, I think. 1029 00:39:40,208 --> 00:39:42,667 - Yeah? - Yeah. 1030 00:39:42,750 --> 00:39:46,125 - Not gonna drop any bombs on me 1031 00:39:46,208 --> 00:39:48,333 that I don't know about, are you? 1032 00:39:48,458 --> 00:39:50,667 - Maybe. - Oh, no. 1033 00:39:50,708 --> 00:39:53,208 I mean, I think, obviously, like, 1034 00:39:53,292 --> 00:39:55,333 physical intimacy is still something 1035 00:39:55,417 --> 00:39:57,708 that we gotta be working on. 1036 00:39:57,792 --> 00:40:04,167 But like, we didn't really have time to take that step. 1037 00:40:04,250 --> 00:40:06,417 But you know, I think we've taken 1038 00:40:06,500 --> 00:40:07,958 a lot of the advice she's given us, 1039 00:40:08,042 --> 00:40:10,167 and we are applying it. 1040 00:40:10,208 --> 00:40:15,750 It just happens to be a little slower than, like, I hope, or-- 1041 00:40:15,833 --> 00:40:17,500 I don't know if you feel similarly. 1042 00:40:17,500 --> 00:40:21,250 It's just--OK, she does. 1043 00:40:21,333 --> 00:40:23,500 - Dr. Pia said, you make time. 1044 00:40:23,625 --> 00:40:27,625 - We just haven't had--when? 1045 00:40:27,708 --> 00:40:32,083 We were in Philly for four days in a house with two cats. 1046 00:40:32,208 --> 00:40:33,667 And there was no escaping it. 1047 00:40:33,750 --> 00:40:36,167 I'm allergic to cats, and I have never been 1048 00:40:36,208 --> 00:40:38,417 around them for more than, like, a couple hours. 1049 00:40:38,500 --> 00:40:42,125 And it not only, like, affected 1050 00:40:42,208 --> 00:40:44,542 my, like, nasal passages and eyes, 1051 00:40:44,625 --> 00:40:46,333 but it, like, started to affect my lungs, 1052 00:40:46,375 --> 00:40:50,875 and hope that's something that, like, 1053 00:40:50,958 --> 00:40:55,875 you recognize and, you know, can sympathize with. 1054 00:40:55,958 --> 00:40:57,667 - Yeah. 1055 00:40:57,792 --> 00:41:00,625 I know Austin means well, 1056 00:41:00,708 --> 00:41:03,833 and I know he is committed to me, 1057 00:41:03,917 --> 00:41:07,292 but it's difficult when you continue to initiate things, 1058 00:41:07,375 --> 00:41:09,667 and then continue to face rejection. 1059 00:41:09,750 --> 00:41:11,000 I'm running out of ideas. 1060 00:41:11,083 --> 00:41:13,500 I'm running out of ways for us to connect 1061 00:41:13,583 --> 00:41:16,417 that do separate us from a friendship 1062 00:41:16,500 --> 00:41:18,333 from a romantic relationship 1063 00:41:18,417 --> 00:41:19,792 that are in ways that he's comfortable 1064 00:41:19,875 --> 00:41:21,667 that still fulfill my needs. 1065 00:41:21,708 --> 00:41:24,417 Like, it feels like we're running out of avenues. 1066 00:41:24,542 --> 00:41:27,500 I think just, like, taking Dr. Pia's advice 1067 00:41:27,583 --> 00:41:29,333 about, like, the foreplay throughout the day-- 1068 00:41:29,375 --> 00:41:30,667 like, flirting and stuff like that, 1069 00:41:30,750 --> 00:41:32,458 I think, is really important. 1070 00:41:32,542 --> 00:41:34,667 - It's hard to fit it all in. 1071 00:41:34,750 --> 00:41:36,000 ♪ 1072 00:41:36,125 --> 00:41:37,500 - Yeah. 1073 00:41:37,542 --> 00:41:39,542 - As long as progress is being made, 1074 00:41:39,625 --> 00:41:43,167 that is something to be-- 1075 00:41:43,250 --> 00:41:46,375 like, to appreciate. 1076 00:41:46,375 --> 00:41:47,875 ♪ 1077 00:41:47,958 --> 00:41:49,292 What do you think? 1078 00:41:49,375 --> 00:41:52,417 - Kind of putting everything in your court for that, 1079 00:41:52,500 --> 00:41:54,500 you know? 1080 00:41:54,583 --> 00:41:56,833 - I know. 1081 00:41:56,917 --> 00:41:59,167 ♪ 1082 00:41:59,167 --> 00:42:02,000 [upbeat music] 1083 00:42:02,042 --> 00:42:07,333 ♪ 1084 00:42:07,458 --> 00:42:09,333 - Welcome to Alluvia Spa. 1085 00:42:09,375 --> 00:42:10,417 How are you two doing today? 1086 00:42:10,500 --> 00:42:11,667 - Doing well. - Good. 1087 00:42:11,792 --> 00:42:13,000 - Ready to get rubbed down. - Perfect. 1088 00:42:13,083 --> 00:42:14,417 [laughter] 1089 00:42:14,500 --> 00:42:15,417 OK. - Let's go. 1090 00:42:15,500 --> 00:42:17,042 - This way. - Yay. 1091 00:42:17,167 --> 00:42:21,250 [soft piano music] 1092 00:42:21,333 --> 00:42:24,167 - Me and you are gonna be on this first bed here. 1093 00:42:24,250 --> 00:42:26,208 - Perfect. 1094 00:42:26,292 --> 00:42:27,708 I'm assuming I'll just slide in. 1095 00:42:27,792 --> 00:42:29,625 - Yes. 1096 00:42:31,875 --> 00:42:35,375 ♪ 1097 00:42:35,500 --> 00:42:37,208 - Full nude there, husband. 1098 00:42:37,292 --> 00:42:38,500 [chuckles] 1099 00:42:38,583 --> 00:42:41,208 - Gotta embrace the moment. 1100 00:42:41,292 --> 00:42:43,958 I don't know about you. I don't feel any discomfort, 1101 00:42:44,042 --> 00:42:46,000 like, just disrobing and getting a couples' massage 1102 00:42:46,125 --> 00:42:46,875 in the same room as you. 1103 00:42:46,958 --> 00:42:48,500 - No. 1104 00:42:48,583 --> 00:42:50,667 Settled right into married life. 1105 00:42:50,750 --> 00:42:52,458 - I'm just warning you, Chloe, 1106 00:42:52,542 --> 00:42:54,500 I make noises when I get massaged. 1107 00:42:54,583 --> 00:42:56,625 - OK. What can I expect? 1108 00:42:56,708 --> 00:42:58,500 - Just mmm's. - [chuckles] 1109 00:42:58,583 --> 00:43:00,500 - Nothing--no exotic sounds. 1110 00:43:00,583 --> 00:43:01,458 - Well... 1111 00:43:01,542 --> 00:43:03,667 - Mmm. 1112 00:43:03,708 --> 00:43:06,333 [ambient music] 1113 00:43:06,375 --> 00:43:08,708 ♪ 1114 00:43:08,833 --> 00:43:11,667 So now that you see your most wonderful and glorious husband 1115 00:43:11,750 --> 00:43:13,583 exposed for the most part... 1116 00:43:13,667 --> 00:43:15,333 - Naked. 1117 00:43:15,458 --> 00:43:16,500 - Is there anything in particular 1118 00:43:16,542 --> 00:43:18,208 that catches your eye? 1119 00:43:18,208 --> 00:43:24,083 - I've never, ever dated a man that had any tattoos. 1120 00:43:24,208 --> 00:43:27,500 And you've definitely journeyed your life on your body, 1121 00:43:27,583 --> 00:43:29,167 and it's really beautiful. 1122 00:43:29,250 --> 00:43:30,583 You're just a handsome guy. 1123 00:43:30,708 --> 00:43:34,167 And I love your hair and your curls. 1124 00:43:34,250 --> 00:43:35,958 - Well, thank you. 1125 00:43:36,042 --> 00:43:38,542 I tend to gravitate towards dark features, 1126 00:43:38,667 --> 00:43:40,500 like dark eyes and darker hair. 1127 00:43:40,542 --> 00:43:42,958 So seeing you come down the aisle, 1128 00:43:43,042 --> 00:43:44,333 the first thing I saw was, like, 1129 00:43:44,458 --> 00:43:46,750 kind of your long, flowing hair. 1130 00:43:46,833 --> 00:43:49,333 I find your smile to be extremely inviting. 1131 00:43:49,417 --> 00:43:50,708 - Aw. 1132 00:43:50,792 --> 00:43:52,625 - I really like your lips. - Oh. 1133 00:43:52,708 --> 00:43:55,833 - I don't--I can't explain specifically why. 1134 00:43:55,917 --> 00:43:57,792 I just know that I really like your lips. 1135 00:43:57,875 --> 00:44:01,667 And I feel like you're so intentional 1136 00:44:01,750 --> 00:44:06,708 with showing me through your gaze that you're present. 1137 00:44:06,792 --> 00:44:09,125 - I like that list. 1138 00:44:09,208 --> 00:44:11,750 - You two want to go ahead and massage each other? 1139 00:44:11,833 --> 00:44:13,250 - [chuckles] - Yes, Michael. 1140 00:44:13,333 --> 00:44:14,250 Come massage me. - All right. 1141 00:44:14,333 --> 00:44:16,500 - OK. [laughter] 1142 00:44:16,542 --> 00:44:18,708 - My feelings right now for Chloe, I mean, 1143 00:44:18,833 --> 00:44:21,500 they just keep--they continue to keep being reinforced. 1144 00:44:21,583 --> 00:44:25,000 I've just--I've really been harping on the chemistry 1145 00:44:25,042 --> 00:44:26,875 and the momentum that we've been able to build. 1146 00:44:27,000 --> 00:44:29,750 And you know, each of these moments that we spend together, 1147 00:44:29,833 --> 00:44:31,667 it continues to reaffirm that. 1148 00:44:31,708 --> 00:44:33,167 You'll have to let me know if, like, 1149 00:44:33,250 --> 00:44:34,292 the pressure's too tough. 1150 00:44:34,375 --> 00:44:35,458 All right? - OK. 1151 00:44:35,542 --> 00:44:36,792 Yeah. - I got these strong hands. 1152 00:44:36,875 --> 00:44:38,167 - I know-- - They don't look like much. 1153 00:44:38,250 --> 00:44:39,500 - Well-- - But trust me. 1154 00:44:39,542 --> 00:44:41,042 - OK. - All right? 1155 00:44:41,167 --> 00:44:43,292 I'm very interested in being intimate with Chloe. 1156 00:44:43,292 --> 00:44:47,917 - ♪ This is one for the ages 1157 00:44:48,000 --> 00:44:52,667 ♪ We're slowly drifting into temptation ♪ 1158 00:44:52,750 --> 00:44:54,667 ♪ Hold on 1159 00:44:54,708 --> 00:44:57,000 ♪ Feeling so anxious 1160 00:44:57,042 --> 00:44:58,958 - You have such magical hands, Michael. 1161 00:44:59,042 --> 00:45:01,750 - Now you know my evil plan. 1162 00:45:01,833 --> 00:45:03,833 I just booked this so that I could massage you. 1163 00:45:03,875 --> 00:45:05,167 - [chuckles] - That was my plan all along. 1164 00:45:05,292 --> 00:45:06,833 [T. Kelley's "Oceans"] 1165 00:45:06,917 --> 00:45:09,125 - ♪ This moment, don't it 1166 00:45:09,208 --> 00:45:13,250 ♪ Feel like we're floating on emotions ♪ 1167 00:45:13,333 --> 00:45:14,417 - You know, I'll be honest. 1168 00:45:14,500 --> 00:45:18,375 I--as much as I hope for the best, 1169 00:45:18,458 --> 00:45:24,708 I try to prep for the least ideal scenario. 1170 00:45:24,792 --> 00:45:30,667 And I did not expect to have such initial chemistry. 1171 00:45:30,750 --> 00:45:35,583 - ♪ Oh, baby, this could change our lives ♪ 1172 00:45:35,667 --> 00:45:40,250 ♪ Oh, the type of love that'll make an ocean cry ♪ 1173 00:45:44,458 --> 00:45:47,208 [atmospheric music] 1174 00:45:47,208 --> 00:45:52,458 ♪ 1175 00:45:54,417 --> 00:45:55,500 [computer trills] 1176 00:45:55,542 --> 00:45:56,750 ♪ 1177 00:45:56,833 --> 00:45:58,542 - Hi. - Hello. 1178 00:45:58,625 --> 00:46:02,208 I missed you and your sweet face. 1179 00:46:02,292 --> 00:46:03,917 - I feel like we haven't talked in a while. 1180 00:46:04,000 --> 00:46:06,083 - But I've, like, kind of been filling you in on this stuff. 1181 00:46:06,167 --> 00:46:07,708 - Yeah. - But we haven't really, like, 1182 00:46:07,875 --> 00:46:09,250 talked about it face-to-face, and I just-- 1183 00:46:09,333 --> 00:46:11,292 - I also feel like your text messages 1184 00:46:11,375 --> 00:46:13,167 are always very cryptic. 1185 00:46:13,208 --> 00:46:15,167 - Yeah, and because it doesn't make sense, 1186 00:46:15,250 --> 00:46:16,500 because a lot of it doesn't make sense. 1187 00:46:16,625 --> 00:46:18,333 - Yeah. 1188 00:46:18,417 --> 00:46:20,083 - I really think after that visit with Pastor Cal, 1189 00:46:20,167 --> 00:46:22,208 it's honestly making me more confused 1190 00:46:22,292 --> 00:46:24,667 where Brennan and I stand moving forward. 1191 00:46:24,708 --> 00:46:27,667 But Kenzie's a good person to confide in. 1192 00:46:27,708 --> 00:46:30,000 She's a good, tough critic on me. 1193 00:46:30,042 --> 00:46:31,750 Like, she knows me sometimes better than I know myself. 1194 00:46:31,833 --> 00:46:33,292 She will tell me how it is. 1195 00:46:33,375 --> 00:46:35,042 Sometimes I think it's the only way 1196 00:46:35,167 --> 00:46:37,000 for me to understand things. 1197 00:46:37,083 --> 00:46:39,667 - I'm having a really hard time 1198 00:46:39,750 --> 00:46:41,750 understanding where he's coming from 1199 00:46:41,833 --> 00:46:43,292 or, like, his feelings in this, 1200 00:46:43,375 --> 00:46:47,000 because I just feel like they don't make any sense. 1201 00:46:47,083 --> 00:46:50,083 Did he think this was gonna be, like, a walk in the park? 1202 00:46:50,208 --> 00:46:52,167 - I honestly do think he thought that. 1203 00:46:52,208 --> 00:46:55,125 I think that's the tricky part, is, like, I think people go 1204 00:46:55,208 --> 00:46:56,792 through the interview process, they think these things, 1205 00:46:56,875 --> 00:46:58,458 and then they realize, like, they're not. 1206 00:46:58,542 --> 00:47:01,833 - What has he done to, like, make himself valuable to you? 1207 00:47:01,917 --> 00:47:04,000 - Like, we have very similar characteristics 1208 00:47:04,083 --> 00:47:05,833 that are important to me. 1209 00:47:05,833 --> 00:47:08,542 Like, work, being driven, like, values. 1210 00:47:08,667 --> 00:47:10,208 And we do have fun together. 1211 00:47:10,333 --> 00:47:12,000 And then I, like, just get so upset, 1212 00:47:12,042 --> 00:47:14,667 because I'm just kind of like, what is this? 1213 00:47:14,792 --> 00:47:16,458 - And I've told you this before. 1214 00:47:16,542 --> 00:47:18,875 You're brutally honest, and I appreciate that about you, 1215 00:47:19,000 --> 00:47:20,208 but, like, sometimes could be harsh, 1216 00:47:20,292 --> 00:47:21,917 and I always thought you needed someone 1217 00:47:22,042 --> 00:47:24,250 that would kind of, like, bring you down to Earth. 1218 00:47:24,375 --> 00:47:25,625 Like-- - That's the thing, is, like, 1219 00:47:25,708 --> 00:47:29,083 I don't-- as I am brutally honest, 1220 00:47:29,167 --> 00:47:31,458 I'm realizing too, in these weeks, 1221 00:47:31,542 --> 00:47:35,458 like, I don't know if he has had people call him out. 1222 00:47:35,542 --> 00:47:38,917 All the expert visits we do are obviously heavy. 1223 00:47:39,000 --> 00:47:40,292 It's like therapy. - Mm-hmm. 1224 00:47:40,417 --> 00:47:42,417 - And things definitely took a turn 1225 00:47:42,500 --> 00:47:44,292 for the worse with Dr. Pia. 1226 00:47:44,375 --> 00:47:46,542 I felt like it was my opportunity, 1227 00:47:46,667 --> 00:47:48,292 when she asks us what happened, 1228 00:47:48,375 --> 00:47:50,083 to literally answer her question. 1229 00:47:50,167 --> 00:47:52,542 And then, like, that turned into me breaking his trust, 1230 00:47:52,625 --> 00:47:55,375 and, like, him being, like-- 1231 00:47:55,458 --> 00:47:57,125 - You broke his trust because you talked 1232 00:47:57,208 --> 00:48:00,333 about your problems at therapy? 1233 00:48:00,375 --> 00:48:02,333 Biggest load of crap I've ever heard in my life. 1234 00:48:02,375 --> 00:48:03,542 - And then I was just like, what the-- 1235 00:48:03,667 --> 00:48:06,458 - He's a master manipulator. 1236 00:48:06,542 --> 00:48:09,292 I feel like you're putting so much into this, and he's not. 1237 00:48:09,375 --> 00:48:11,500 And it's like, at what point do you just say, like... 1238 00:48:11,583 --> 00:48:13,167 - I know. - He's not worth it. 1239 00:48:13,292 --> 00:48:14,958 - And that's where I battle this battle 1240 00:48:15,042 --> 00:48:16,875 in my brain every day. 1241 00:48:17,000 --> 00:48:19,083 I'm just, like, so confused. 1242 00:48:19,208 --> 00:48:21,875 Why do I still care about this [bleep]? 1243 00:48:21,958 --> 00:48:24,292 - I mean, I met him. He's very charismatic. 1244 00:48:24,375 --> 00:48:26,750 I thought he was, like, a really sweet, nice guy. 1245 00:48:26,875 --> 00:48:27,958 - Yeah. - I don't doubt that he cares 1246 00:48:28,042 --> 00:48:29,458 about you, but I think that's-- 1247 00:48:29,542 --> 00:48:32,333 - I really--but, like, I really don't know if he does. 1248 00:48:32,375 --> 00:48:35,375 He says he was, like, fun and friendly at the wedding. 1249 00:48:35,458 --> 00:48:37,667 I was like, you literally, like, didn't try to talk to me. 1250 00:48:37,750 --> 00:48:39,375 We sat next to each other. 1251 00:48:39,458 --> 00:48:41,792 - Did other people notice that? 1252 00:48:41,875 --> 00:48:43,042 - Yeah, and, like, other people, again, 1253 00:48:43,167 --> 00:48:44,375 are coming to me, and just being like, 1254 00:48:44,458 --> 00:48:45,833 why does Brennan treat you that way? 1255 00:48:45,958 --> 00:48:47,750 Or, why does he say that? And I'm like, mm-hmm. 1256 00:48:47,833 --> 00:48:49,167 It hurts my feelings. I feel like 1257 00:48:49,208 --> 00:48:51,000 that's not how a friend should be treated. 1258 00:48:51,125 --> 00:48:52,750 - No matter what kind of relationship we're in-- 1259 00:48:52,875 --> 00:48:54,167 friendship, romantically, like, 1260 00:48:54,250 --> 00:48:56,750 you just need to stick up for yourself... 1261 00:48:56,833 --> 00:48:59,833 - Yeah. - In, like, a respectful way, 1262 00:48:59,875 --> 00:49:02,000 because, like, don't bring yourself down to his level. 1263 00:49:02,083 --> 00:49:05,500 Just, like, draw a line and be like, 1264 00:49:05,542 --> 00:49:08,667 these are things that I won't tolerate. 1265 00:49:08,708 --> 00:49:11,458 - Yeah, like, what are-- I've been struggling to, like, 1266 00:49:11,542 --> 00:49:13,458 articulate, like, what my boundaries are, 1267 00:49:13,542 --> 00:49:16,125 because he's made his boundaries clear. 1268 00:49:16,208 --> 00:49:18,542 And it's more to me than just, like, trust, whatever. 1269 00:49:18,667 --> 00:49:22,167 Like, I feel like I don't know what my boundaries are, 1270 00:49:22,250 --> 00:49:25,208 now that he made his and he needs his space, 1271 00:49:25,292 --> 00:49:28,167 other than, like, no disrespect 1272 00:49:28,250 --> 00:49:32,292 in the way you treat/talk to me in public/private setting. 1273 00:49:32,292 --> 00:49:33,500 Like, I don't even know-- - Well, I think that's 1274 00:49:33,542 --> 00:49:35,167 the biggest one, is, like, he's just been 1275 00:49:35,250 --> 00:49:37,958 so disrespectful to you and your feelings, 1276 00:49:38,042 --> 00:49:40,083 and he acts like it's the Brennan show, 1277 00:49:40,167 --> 00:49:43,208 and it's only--he's the only person going through this. 1278 00:49:43,292 --> 00:49:45,042 - I've told him that. I'm like, it just feels 1279 00:49:45,167 --> 00:49:46,667 like you care more about the appearance, 1280 00:49:46,708 --> 00:49:49,042 and, like, you-- not me, not us, 1281 00:49:49,125 --> 00:49:50,833 because you make all the decisions. 1282 00:49:50,875 --> 00:49:53,417 - Yeah. Like, it's important to prioritize yourself. 1283 00:49:53,500 --> 00:49:56,167 Like, obviously, you always come first. 1284 00:49:56,208 --> 00:49:59,250 But you still have to, like, be kind to the other person. 1285 00:49:59,333 --> 00:50:02,250 He signed up for this. Like, it feels like 1286 00:50:02,375 --> 00:50:04,833 he's acting like, you know, someone kidnapped him 1287 00:50:04,875 --> 00:50:06,292 and forced him to do this. 1288 00:50:06,375 --> 00:50:07,458 - That's what I said. I was like, 1289 00:50:07,542 --> 00:50:09,000 no one's [bleep] forcing you to sleep here. 1290 00:50:09,042 --> 00:50:10,542 He's like, "You're, like, making me try 1291 00:50:10,625 --> 00:50:12,250 and fall in love with you." I'm like, I'm not trying 1292 00:50:12,333 --> 00:50:13,625 to make you fall in love with me. 1293 00:50:13,750 --> 00:50:15,458 I don't want that right now. - Oh, my God. 1294 00:50:15,542 --> 00:50:17,167 - I'm like, oh, my God. 1295 00:50:17,208 --> 00:50:18,917 I was like, friends talk about feelings too. 1296 00:50:19,042 --> 00:50:21,208 - He would be so lucky... - I know. 1297 00:50:21,292 --> 00:50:23,083 - To be in love with someone like you. 1298 00:50:23,208 --> 00:50:24,583 - Correct. - I mean, his loss big time. 1299 00:50:24,667 --> 00:50:25,958 His loss. 1300 00:50:26,042 --> 00:50:27,875 What are you gonna do? 1301 00:50:27,958 --> 00:50:31,333 - I'm at a loss. I do want to, like, 1302 00:50:31,417 --> 00:50:34,333 see if we're able to save the marriage. 1303 00:50:34,417 --> 00:50:36,042 And it's just hard when you're dealing with someone 1304 00:50:36,125 --> 00:50:38,167 who really does not want to be portrayed 1305 00:50:38,208 --> 00:50:40,500 at all bad on camera. 1306 00:50:40,625 --> 00:50:43,458 - Well, then maybe he should be less of an [bleep]. 1307 00:50:43,542 --> 00:50:45,125 - Yeah. 1308 00:50:45,208 --> 00:50:46,792 - I, like, support whatever decision you make. 1309 00:50:46,875 --> 00:50:49,667 But, like, personally, I think you should run for the hills. 1310 00:50:49,792 --> 00:50:51,375 ♪ 1311 00:50:55,375 --> 00:50:59,125 - ♪ Me and my friends live in excellence ♪ 1312 00:50:59,125 --> 00:51:00,750 ♪ It will never end 1313 00:51:00,750 --> 00:51:02,375 ♪ 1314 00:51:02,458 --> 00:51:04,333 - All right, this fits perfectly. 1315 00:51:04,417 --> 00:51:05,875 Look at that. 1316 00:51:06,000 --> 00:51:07,333 [knock on door] 1317 00:51:07,375 --> 00:51:11,125 - [gasps] It's our houseguest. 1318 00:51:11,208 --> 00:51:14,833 Mmm, can't believe it's not cauliflower. 1319 00:51:14,875 --> 00:51:16,125 - Surprise. - Hello. 1320 00:51:16,208 --> 00:51:17,750 - Hello. How are you? 1321 00:51:17,875 --> 00:51:18,917 - Good. How are you doing? 1322 00:51:19,042 --> 00:51:20,708 - Good, good. - Becca's just inside 1323 00:51:20,792 --> 00:51:21,792 eating some pizza. 1324 00:51:21,875 --> 00:51:23,875 - It smells good in here. 1325 00:51:23,958 --> 00:51:24,833 - Hello! - Becca! 1326 00:51:24,917 --> 00:51:26,875 - Wow, we all match today. 1327 00:51:26,958 --> 00:51:28,792 - It's a vibe. I'm digging it. 1328 00:51:28,875 --> 00:51:30,000 - Do you want to meet our fish? 1329 00:51:30,042 --> 00:51:32,042 - I do. Tell me about your fish. 1330 00:51:32,125 --> 00:51:34,542 - Their names are Dani and Guinn. 1331 00:51:34,625 --> 00:51:36,042 - OK. 1332 00:51:36,125 --> 00:51:37,292 All right. Sit here? 1333 00:51:37,375 --> 00:51:39,417 - Yeah. 1334 00:51:39,542 --> 00:51:42,500 - So you know, we're just a few weeks out 1335 00:51:42,542 --> 00:51:44,208 from Decision Day. 1336 00:51:44,292 --> 00:51:46,042 How has intimacy been? 1337 00:51:46,125 --> 00:51:48,667 - Well, we did the intimacy exercises 1338 00:51:48,708 --> 00:51:52,333 and, like, played around with, like, the handcuffs-- 1339 00:51:52,417 --> 00:51:54,500 not in the most sexual way, 1340 00:51:54,625 --> 00:51:56,333 but in a kind of fun, cheeky way, 1341 00:51:56,417 --> 00:52:00,083 and then had, like, a little romantic night. 1342 00:52:00,167 --> 00:52:02,833 - How sweet. OK, did you appreciate that? 1343 00:52:02,875 --> 00:52:04,500 - Yeah, of course. Definitely. 1344 00:52:04,542 --> 00:52:06,708 - OK. Did it help set the mood? 1345 00:52:06,792 --> 00:52:08,542 - [laughs] 1346 00:52:08,625 --> 00:52:09,792 - Yeah. 1347 00:52:09,875 --> 00:52:11,417 And I think I've gotten better 1348 00:52:11,417 --> 00:52:14,125 about, like, initiating things. 1349 00:52:14,208 --> 00:52:15,583 - Is he right? 1350 00:52:15,708 --> 00:52:16,958 - Yeah. - Yeah? 1351 00:52:17,042 --> 00:52:18,917 That was not all the way believable, Becca. 1352 00:52:19,000 --> 00:52:22,167 - [laughing] - Yeah, no, he's-- 1353 00:52:22,250 --> 00:52:24,000 yeah, it's--yeah. 1354 00:52:24,042 --> 00:52:25,292 - OK. 1355 00:52:25,375 --> 00:52:27,417 - It was my grandma's 97th birthday. 1356 00:52:27,542 --> 00:52:29,667 So like, made a little progress, 1357 00:52:29,708 --> 00:52:32,708 and then had to, like, put it on pause while we were away. 1358 00:52:32,833 --> 00:52:35,000 - OK. - But I did feel it, 1359 00:52:35,083 --> 00:52:38,667 like, very much halt on this trip. 1360 00:52:38,750 --> 00:52:41,000 - I've, like, developed a new allergy to cats. 1361 00:52:41,083 --> 00:52:43,167 But my aunt and uncle have two cats. 1362 00:52:43,333 --> 00:52:46,750 My throat and lungs, like, closed up. 1363 00:52:46,833 --> 00:52:49,500 It was hard for me to think about, like, anything else. 1364 00:52:49,542 --> 00:52:51,083 - So obviously, we weren't going to be doing 1365 00:52:51,208 --> 00:52:53,167 sexual things while we were there. 1366 00:52:53,208 --> 00:52:55,000 But like, for me, it's again just about, like, 1367 00:52:55,083 --> 00:52:57,292 connection and stuff like that. 1368 00:52:57,375 --> 00:53:00,833 - Sure. - So to have that halt was-- 1369 00:53:00,958 --> 00:53:02,333 it put me on edge a little bit, 1370 00:53:02,417 --> 00:53:03,958 definitely. - Mm-hmm. 1371 00:53:04,042 --> 00:53:06,500 - I did take it personally at times. 1372 00:53:06,542 --> 00:53:09,000 Like, I was looking for those little affirmations 1373 00:53:09,042 --> 00:53:11,833 to know that what I was doing-- like, I was doing a good job, 1374 00:53:11,917 --> 00:53:14,250 or that, like, I was doing OK. 1375 00:53:14,375 --> 00:53:17,125 - So the other question I was gonna ask is-- 1376 00:53:17,208 --> 00:53:18,250 I mean, everyone is different 1377 00:53:18,333 --> 00:53:20,542 about PDA around family members. 1378 00:53:20,625 --> 00:53:22,375 And I'm just curious if that was playing into it 1379 00:53:22,458 --> 00:53:23,750 for you a bit too, Austin. 1380 00:53:23,833 --> 00:53:25,167 - Yeah, for sure. I mean, 1381 00:53:25,250 --> 00:53:26,708 like, we're affectionate towards each other. 1382 00:53:26,792 --> 00:53:28,125 But we're not gonna, like, 1383 00:53:28,208 --> 00:53:31,292 make out in front of a bunch of people... 1384 00:53:31,375 --> 00:53:33,292 - Yeah, and that's not what I was... 1385 00:53:33,375 --> 00:53:34,500 - Especially family. - Asking for or talking about. 1386 00:53:34,583 --> 00:53:36,167 - Yeah. Yeah, no, no--I--yeah. 1387 00:53:36,250 --> 00:53:38,500 That's not to imply that you were like that. 1388 00:53:38,500 --> 00:53:40,250 - Right, because I think what I was just hearing you say, 1389 00:53:40,333 --> 00:53:43,333 it was not just, like, not being as touchy-feely. 1390 00:53:43,333 --> 00:53:44,750 It was, like, not being as present. 1391 00:53:44,833 --> 00:53:46,667 - Yeah, he was focused on other things, 1392 00:53:46,708 --> 00:53:49,375 which I definitely get and understand. 1393 00:53:49,500 --> 00:53:52,333 I do wish, like, even when we were away, 1394 00:53:52,417 --> 00:53:55,417 like, that there was still a little bit more flirting, 1395 00:53:55,542 --> 00:53:58,083 because I do often initiate things. 1396 00:53:58,167 --> 00:54:00,667 But I just, like-- I don't want to-- 1397 00:54:00,708 --> 00:54:02,500 I don't know, like, push things too far 1398 00:54:02,542 --> 00:54:05,458 if he's not feeling comfortable. 1399 00:54:05,542 --> 00:54:08,917 - So my recommendation would be to add that extra layer 1400 00:54:09,000 --> 00:54:11,917 of vulnerability and transparency with each other. 1401 00:54:12,000 --> 00:54:13,917 Lean into the vulnerability 1402 00:54:14,000 --> 00:54:16,833 by expressing what's happening internally for you, 1403 00:54:16,875 --> 00:54:19,042 or expressing what thoughts you might be having. 1404 00:54:19,125 --> 00:54:20,792 There's always expectations. 1405 00:54:20,875 --> 00:54:22,667 And I think it's important to communicate those 1406 00:54:22,750 --> 00:54:25,208 to one another so that we don't get let down by expectations, 1407 00:54:25,292 --> 00:54:27,875 or don't develop unrealistic expectations. 1408 00:54:28,000 --> 00:54:29,500 - Yeah. - So I want you to spend 1409 00:54:29,583 --> 00:54:32,833 some time thinking about, like, what do you all need 1410 00:54:32,917 --> 00:54:36,792 in order to stay in this, like, positive progression? 1411 00:54:36,875 --> 00:54:38,417 - I want to move forward with him sexually 1412 00:54:38,500 --> 00:54:40,833 because I want-- that's what I just want to do. 1413 00:54:40,917 --> 00:54:43,083 And like, for me, it's just a matter of, like, 1414 00:54:43,167 --> 00:54:45,500 are we still moving forward? 1415 00:54:45,542 --> 00:54:46,625 - Yeah. 1416 00:54:46,708 --> 00:54:48,000 I don't think we'll have any issues. 1417 00:54:48,083 --> 00:54:50,833 ♪ 1418 00:54:50,917 --> 00:54:52,375 [upbeat music] 1419 00:54:52,458 --> 00:54:55,875 - ♪ The stars aligned when I saw you ♪ 1420 00:54:55,958 --> 00:54:58,167 ♪ I'm ready to say 1421 00:54:58,208 --> 00:55:00,292 ♪ 1422 00:55:00,375 --> 00:55:04,375 ♪ I used to feel empty-hearted ♪ 1423 00:55:04,375 --> 00:55:06,833 ♪ But when I'm with you 1424 00:55:06,958 --> 00:55:07,958 ♪ I'm here to stay 1425 00:55:08,042 --> 00:55:09,500 ♪ 1426 00:55:09,542 --> 00:55:11,833 ♪ Oh, I'm here to stay 1427 00:55:11,875 --> 00:55:13,625 - Hey, Michael. 1428 00:55:13,708 --> 00:55:15,958 ♪ 1429 00:55:16,042 --> 00:55:18,417 - This is what I get for taking a long-ass bath, huh? 1430 00:55:18,542 --> 00:55:19,958 - [laughs] - You have time 1431 00:55:20,042 --> 00:55:21,000 to set up a beautiful dinner. 1432 00:55:21,083 --> 00:55:22,792 - Aww. 1433 00:55:22,875 --> 00:55:24,042 - Mm. 1434 00:55:24,125 --> 00:55:26,292 - So have a seat. 1435 00:55:26,375 --> 00:55:27,875 - It's our own little setup here. 1436 00:55:28,000 --> 00:55:29,833 - It's our own little setup. 1437 00:55:29,917 --> 00:55:31,458 I'm gonna grab us dinner. 1438 00:55:31,542 --> 00:55:32,542 - Do you need me to help with anything? 1439 00:55:32,667 --> 00:55:33,458 - You know what? I feel like I'm gonna 1440 00:55:33,542 --> 00:55:35,250 go back to my serving days. 1441 00:55:35,333 --> 00:55:36,375 I--you know. 1442 00:55:36,458 --> 00:55:37,875 - I was a fast food employee. 1443 00:55:37,958 --> 00:55:40,833 I wasn't, like, a proper sit-down restaurant employee. 1444 00:55:40,917 --> 00:55:44,292 - Might have just put myself through school 1445 00:55:44,375 --> 00:55:48,500 with a little of the old serving action. 1446 00:55:48,583 --> 00:55:50,833 As usual, I just kind of want to pick at yours 1447 00:55:50,917 --> 00:55:52,833 instead of having my own, so-- [laughs] 1448 00:55:52,875 --> 00:55:54,708 - I was gonna say, I need a reposition some 1449 00:55:54,833 --> 00:55:56,958 so that you can have easy access here. 1450 00:55:57,042 --> 00:55:57,958 Boom. 1451 00:55:58,042 --> 00:56:00,042 - Perfect. 1452 00:56:00,125 --> 00:56:02,042 This has been so fun--and we have to go home tomorrow. 1453 00:56:02,125 --> 00:56:04,208 - I know, and plunge back into the real world? 1454 00:56:04,292 --> 00:56:05,750 - [laughs] 1455 00:56:05,833 --> 00:56:06,833 Tomorrow is gonna be a big day for us. 1456 00:56:06,958 --> 00:56:08,667 - I know. 1457 00:56:08,750 --> 00:56:10,458 - And I've been single a long time. 1458 00:56:10,542 --> 00:56:12,625 - Mm-hmm. - I'm just like, 1459 00:56:12,708 --> 00:56:16,833 wow, I'm about to have a full-blown husband 1460 00:56:16,875 --> 00:56:20,667 in our new apartment, in our new place together. 1461 00:56:20,708 --> 00:56:23,542 Holy smokes. We're really doing it. 1462 00:56:23,667 --> 00:56:27,125 And so yeah, it's been a lot for me to process. 1463 00:56:27,208 --> 00:56:29,625 [tense music] 1464 00:56:29,708 --> 00:56:32,875 We have only just as much time as we've now spent together. 1465 00:56:32,958 --> 00:56:37,250 We just don't have any point of reference with each other. 1466 00:56:37,375 --> 00:56:38,667 And we... - That's true. 1467 00:56:38,750 --> 00:56:40,625 - Were strangers up until a few days ago. 1468 00:56:40,708 --> 00:56:43,000 - We are. - We've had conversations 1469 00:56:43,042 --> 00:56:45,083 that I didn't even have 1470 00:56:45,167 --> 00:56:47,000 in relationships that I was with for so many years. 1471 00:56:47,083 --> 00:56:50,708 So I'm emotionally overwhelmed. 1472 00:56:50,792 --> 00:56:52,875 - Yeah. 1473 00:56:52,958 --> 00:56:55,958 - I think I'm just kind of processing emotions 1474 00:56:56,042 --> 00:56:59,750 that I've never, ever-- not only not felt before, 1475 00:56:59,833 --> 00:57:01,667 but didn't even know I had the capacity to feel. 1476 00:57:01,750 --> 00:57:03,417 - Sure. 1477 00:57:03,500 --> 00:57:05,375 - So I think it just kind of all hit me 1478 00:57:05,500 --> 00:57:07,667 that tomorrow, reality hits. 1479 00:57:07,708 --> 00:57:09,000 - Yeah. - We are-- 1480 00:57:09,042 --> 00:57:11,417 we are husband and wife. 1481 00:57:11,542 --> 00:57:14,250 We are moving in together. 1482 00:57:14,333 --> 00:57:16,292 And it's absolutely freaking terrifying. 1483 00:57:16,375 --> 00:57:21,000 ♪ 1484 00:57:21,083 --> 00:57:23,500 - Um... 1485 00:57:23,625 --> 00:57:24,875 - I'm saying I don't know if I can do this. 1486 00:57:24,958 --> 00:57:26,083 ♪ 1487 00:57:30,458 --> 00:57:33,583 - You're human. 1488 00:57:33,667 --> 00:57:36,000 Sure, we've only known each other for a handful of days, 1489 00:57:36,042 --> 00:57:38,458 but it's been full immersion handful of days. 1490 00:57:38,542 --> 00:57:40,458 And I'm still learning, 1491 00:57:40,542 --> 00:57:43,500 but I'm starting to get a feel for you, 1492 00:57:43,583 --> 00:57:47,875 at least in terms of, like, where your emotions are at 1493 00:57:48,000 --> 00:57:51,167 and how that affects your demeanor. 1494 00:57:51,208 --> 00:57:53,583 Right now, my balance that I'm trying to figure out 1495 00:57:53,667 --> 00:57:56,917 is when it's appropriate to kind of ask you 1496 00:57:57,000 --> 00:58:00,333 and engage you verbally on it, versus kind of giving you space 1497 00:58:00,375 --> 00:58:01,792 to work it out and feel what you need to feel. 1498 00:58:01,875 --> 00:58:04,458 Um-- - No, you shouldn't have to. 1499 00:58:04,583 --> 00:58:06,167 - But-- - You shouldn't have to, 1500 00:58:06,250 --> 00:58:09,042 because it's not your responsibility to read my mind. 1501 00:58:09,125 --> 00:58:10,417 It's not your responsibility 1502 00:58:10,542 --> 00:58:13,667 to feel that I'm having an emotional moment 1503 00:58:13,708 --> 00:58:15,583 and try to figure out what's wrong with me. 1504 00:58:15,667 --> 00:58:18,750 That's not fair. I experienced today 1505 00:58:18,750 --> 00:58:22,708 what I have always sort of done. 1506 00:58:22,792 --> 00:58:25,625 - Mm. - I internalize things. 1507 00:58:25,708 --> 00:58:28,125 I try not to burden people with them. 1508 00:58:28,208 --> 00:58:30,667 But the minute that I start feeling them too deeply, 1509 00:58:30,708 --> 00:58:35,000 I shut down just enough to make people uncomfortable. 1510 00:58:35,083 --> 00:58:37,333 It just got to a point where I was saying, 1511 00:58:37,375 --> 00:58:38,917 I gotta talk about it. - Sure. 1512 00:58:39,000 --> 00:58:41,833 - And if it's just me having a moment of just 1513 00:58:41,875 --> 00:58:44,333 overwhelm of feelings that I didn't even know I had. 1514 00:58:44,375 --> 00:58:45,708 - And I appreciate that. 1515 00:58:45,792 --> 00:58:51,958 And I also know that right now, 1516 00:58:51,958 --> 00:58:55,000 being supportive is the best role for me to be in. 1517 00:58:55,083 --> 00:58:58,625 I want to get to a space where you'd conclude, 1518 00:58:58,708 --> 00:59:02,000 what's best for me is to, you know, 1519 00:59:02,125 --> 00:59:04,875 cry on his shoulder and have him comfort me. 1520 00:59:04,958 --> 00:59:07,667 Like, I want you to get to that space. 1521 00:59:07,708 --> 00:59:10,833 But I know that that's gonna take a minute. 1522 00:59:10,875 --> 00:59:12,667 - Yeah. - You know, I'm still learning 1523 00:59:12,708 --> 00:59:14,500 about you, and I may never be able 1524 00:59:14,500 --> 00:59:16,750 to fully prescribe what's best for you. 1525 00:59:16,875 --> 00:59:19,417 I may be able to make suggestions and-- 1526 00:59:19,500 --> 00:59:22,333 you know, if you give me that audience, right? 1527 00:59:22,417 --> 00:59:25,375 But I know you know what's best for you. 1528 00:59:25,458 --> 00:59:28,500 I think you deserve 1529 00:59:28,625 --> 00:59:32,292 to feel comfortable with prioritizing yourself. 1530 00:59:32,375 --> 00:59:34,000 - Yeah. 1531 00:59:34,083 --> 00:59:38,875 - And so please, like, act in your own interest. 1532 00:59:39,000 --> 00:59:42,792 And maybe what I would ask is just trust that I trust you. 1533 00:59:42,875 --> 00:59:45,417 ♪ 1534 00:59:45,542 --> 00:59:47,542 - I believe Michael. 1535 00:59:47,625 --> 00:59:49,333 I've just never heard those words before. 1536 00:59:49,375 --> 00:59:50,708 ♪ 1537 00:59:50,792 --> 00:59:52,500 [laughing] Please stop. 1538 00:59:52,542 --> 00:59:54,375 Can we stop? 1539 00:59:54,375 --> 00:59:56,167 ♪ 1540 00:59:56,208 --> 01:00:00,042 [sniffling] 1541 01:00:00,125 --> 01:00:02,167 [exhales deeply, laughs] 1542 01:00:02,250 --> 01:00:05,042 [soft music] 1543 01:00:05,125 --> 01:00:11,958 ♪ 1544 01:00:13,375 --> 01:00:15,167 Asking me to become more selfish-- 1545 01:00:15,208 --> 01:00:17,333 who on Earth says that? 1546 01:00:17,417 --> 01:00:19,500 Please tell me who says that. 1547 01:00:19,625 --> 01:00:22,042 Who is like, "Please be more selfish"? 1548 01:00:22,125 --> 01:00:25,500 It's a lot to hear it. It's a lot to hear it. 1549 01:00:25,583 --> 01:00:29,000 I know I went so long without doing it, so... 1550 01:00:29,125 --> 01:00:30,917 ♪ 1551 01:00:31,042 --> 01:00:33,083 And so now I'm here in this place, 1552 01:00:33,208 --> 01:00:36,042 and I've got this really supportive partner 1553 01:00:36,125 --> 01:00:40,500 who is saying everything I need to hear. 1554 01:00:40,542 --> 01:00:42,333 ♪ 1555 01:00:42,417 --> 01:00:44,667 Like, it's safe enough to actually put myself first. 1556 01:00:44,708 --> 01:00:46,667 I know he's saying it. I know he means it. 1557 01:00:46,833 --> 01:00:50,500 But it's like, how on Earth could he possibly want me 1558 01:00:50,583 --> 01:00:53,000 to prioritize myself before I prioritize him? 1559 01:00:53,083 --> 01:00:54,833 - ♪ As I feel 1560 01:00:54,958 --> 01:00:56,583 - He obviously told me what I needed to hear. 1561 01:00:56,708 --> 01:00:58,667 [laughs and sniffles] 1562 01:00:58,792 --> 01:01:02,000 - ♪ In my dreams, in my dreams ♪ 1563 01:01:02,042 --> 01:01:06,333 - I want to work on feeling like 1564 01:01:06,375 --> 01:01:12,958 it's OK to put myself first. 1565 01:01:13,083 --> 01:01:14,250 Now Michael's gonna help me do that. 1566 01:01:14,333 --> 01:01:18,625 So, um, yeah. 1567 01:01:18,708 --> 01:01:21,500 I'm gonna give it 100%. 1568 01:01:21,625 --> 01:01:22,875 And he's gonna give it 100%. 1569 01:01:22,958 --> 01:01:24,667 We're gonna see where we land. 1570 01:01:24,833 --> 01:01:28,500 - ♪ In my dreams, in my dreams ♪ 1571 01:01:28,542 --> 01:01:31,375 ♪ In my dreams 1572 01:01:31,500 --> 01:01:33,167 [upbeat music] 1573 01:01:33,208 --> 01:01:34,833 - Next time... 1574 01:01:34,917 --> 01:01:36,542 - Ready to roll? - Yep. 1575 01:01:36,625 --> 01:01:38,542 ♪ 1576 01:01:38,625 --> 01:01:40,125 - Most of our couples embark 1577 01:01:40,208 --> 01:01:42,333 on a fun-filled couples' retreat, 1578 01:01:42,417 --> 01:01:45,000 where they can reset, refresh, 1579 01:01:45,042 --> 01:01:48,458 and recount their individual experiences. 1580 01:01:48,542 --> 01:01:50,042 - I could use some luck of the Irish. 1581 01:01:50,167 --> 01:01:51,958 - You could use some luck, and I could get lucky. 1582 01:01:52,042 --> 01:01:54,250 - Maybe this is where you seal the deal. 1583 01:01:54,333 --> 01:01:56,625 - Come here. 1584 01:01:56,708 --> 01:01:58,708 - I really don't know what happened. 1585 01:01:58,833 --> 01:02:00,333 He just rolled out of bed and went. 1586 01:02:00,417 --> 01:02:02,125 [dramatic music] 1587 01:02:02,208 --> 01:02:04,125 - Honestly, Lauren, I am glad you're here. 1588 01:02:04,208 --> 01:02:05,542 I'm glad you showed up. 1589 01:02:05,667 --> 01:02:07,833 - It just feels weird, I guess. 1590 01:02:07,958 --> 01:02:09,417 - I feel that. - Yeah. 1591 01:02:09,500 --> 01:02:10,542 Like, I don't know what I would gain 1592 01:02:10,625 --> 01:02:12,167 out of a conversation with him. 1593 01:02:12,250 --> 01:02:16,083 ♪ 1594 01:02:16,167 --> 01:02:17,167 - Is she all right? - [bleep]. 1595 01:02:17,250 --> 01:02:18,875 ♪ 1596 01:02:18,958 --> 01:02:20,833 - We need to get her out of here and get an ambulance. 1597 01:02:20,958 --> 01:02:22,167 She's bleeding a lot. 1598 01:02:22,250 --> 01:02:24,708 ♪ 1599 01:02:24,833 --> 01:02:26,500 - Oh, it's [bleep] bad. 1600 01:02:26,542 --> 01:02:31,708 ♪