1 00:00:07,840 --> 00:00:10,092 [Cameron] It’s, like, where we might actually live together. 2 00:00:10,093 --> 00:00:11,593 - [Michelle] Right. - [Cameron] If I’m lucky. 3 00:00:11,594 --> 00:00:15,305 {\an8}No, if I’m lucky. [laughs] 4 00:00:15,306 --> 00:00:17,974 ♪ It’s the feeling Inside of me ♪ 5 00:00:17,975 --> 00:00:19,643 ♪ I know I can’t deny ♪ 6 00:00:19,644 --> 00:00:21,144 I’m gonna kiss you. 7 00:00:21,145 --> 00:00:22,604 ♪ It’s the feeling Inside of me ♪ 8 00:00:22,605 --> 00:00:24,356 ♪ That lifts me as I rise ♪ 9 00:00:24,357 --> 00:00:26,191 We’re gonna have a little Harry Potter night. 10 00:00:26,192 --> 00:00:27,692 [gasps] Shut up! 11 00:00:27,693 --> 00:00:28,610 [Devin] We’re gonna make our own butterbeer. 12 00:00:28,611 --> 00:00:29,694 [Caitlin gasps] 13 00:00:29,695 --> 00:00:31,363 [Caitlin] Devin is so fun. 14 00:00:31,364 --> 00:00:33,865 He’s a fantastic guy who is treating me so well. 15 00:00:33,866 --> 00:00:35,867 And we are actively working on things. 16 00:00:35,868 --> 00:00:38,036 This makes me so happy. 17 00:00:38,037 --> 00:00:39,204 [Devin laughs] 18 00:00:39,205 --> 00:00:40,831 [Devin] I want to bring her joy. 19 00:00:40,832 --> 00:00:42,457 I want her to know that I’m actually here to try, 20 00:00:42,458 --> 00:00:45,168 and I’m waiting for that effort to be reciprocated. 21 00:00:45,169 --> 00:00:48,463 I’m passionate about you, but I’m scared. 22 00:00:48,464 --> 00:00:51,800 So the fear, essentially, is losing that passion? 23 00:00:51,801 --> 00:00:53,885 - Yes. - [Mecca] Down the road? 24 00:00:53,886 --> 00:00:55,053 - Even, like, if everything on paper, like, works. - [Mecca] Respect. 25 00:00:55,054 --> 00:00:56,555 [tense music] 26 00:00:56,556 --> 00:00:58,557 The conflict is actually bringing us closer, 27 00:00:58,558 --> 00:01:01,226 because it’s helping us understand each other more. 28 00:01:01,227 --> 00:01:05,063 The emotional closeness is what brings the physical closeness. 29 00:01:05,064 --> 00:01:08,483 After I seen, you know, what was on the back side, you know what I’m saying? 30 00:01:08,484 --> 00:01:10,193 After I seen that wagon, 31 00:01:10,194 --> 00:01:13,238 and how she was carrying it, you know what I’m saying? 32 00:01:13,239 --> 00:01:15,699 At the dinner, it was very performative. 33 00:01:15,700 --> 00:01:17,325 That-- That hurt. 34 00:01:17,326 --> 00:01:19,077 [Marissa] Adam, he has a lot of strong hobbies. 35 00:01:19,078 --> 00:01:20,912 - I don’t have, like, strong hobbies. - Right. 36 00:01:20,913 --> 00:01:23,917 Like, I want to go to happy hour. 37 00:01:24,333 --> 00:01:25,584 [Adam] I’m very serious about pickleball. 38 00:01:25,585 --> 00:01:27,919 Like, I would absolutely love it 39 00:01:27,920 --> 00:01:30,006 if my wife is actually, like, naturally good. 40 00:01:30,715 --> 00:01:32,007 - Oh! - Shit! 41 00:01:32,008 --> 00:01:33,758 Things are going downhill. 42 00:01:33,759 --> 00:01:35,427 Getting to, like, go to the park, 43 00:01:35,428 --> 00:01:37,262 and just, like, challenge people in pickleball 44 00:01:37,263 --> 00:01:40,223 until we’re literally 90 years old would make me so happy. 45 00:01:40,224 --> 00:01:42,392 One of my girlfriends did have all the same hobbies, 46 00:01:42,393 --> 00:01:44,060 and, like, we started playing sports together. 47 00:01:44,061 --> 00:01:46,605 And after having that, I’m like, I can’t do without that. 48 00:01:46,606 --> 00:01:48,942 [tense music] 49 00:01:57,366 --> 00:01:58,783 {\an8}♪ You ♪ 50 00:01:58,784 --> 00:02:01,953 {\an8}♪ Decide, decide ♪ 51 00:02:01,954 --> 00:02:03,622 {\an8}I thought we had an amazing day. 52 00:02:03,623 --> 00:02:05,373 {\an8}You know, like, we met up with our friends here, 53 00:02:05,374 --> 00:02:06,583 {\an8}you know, played a bunch of pickleball. 54 00:02:06,584 --> 00:02:08,126 {\an8}Like, I had a blast. 55 00:02:08,127 --> 00:02:09,753 {\an8}Uh, and then it kinda came up 56 00:02:09,754 --> 00:02:11,213 {\an8}that Marissa had a really, like, stressful day. 57 00:02:11,214 --> 00:02:13,048 Why do you have to have the same hobbies? 58 00:02:13,049 --> 00:02:14,633 Good question, Cam. 59 00:02:14,634 --> 00:02:15,967 {\an8}[Adam] One of my last girlfriends that I dated, 60 00:02:15,968 --> 00:02:17,594 {\an8}we did have all the same hobbies. 61 00:02:17,595 --> 00:02:19,054 {\an8}We were, like, playing in leagues together, 62 00:02:19,055 --> 00:02:20,931 {\an8}and it was some of the most fun I’ve ever had 63 00:02:20,932 --> 00:02:23,266 {\an8}in my life, and after having that, I can’t do without that. 64 00:02:23,267 --> 00:02:24,769 [dramatic drum beats] 65 00:02:26,312 --> 00:02:27,812 Oh, Lord. 66 00:02:27,813 --> 00:02:29,272 [Cameron] How do you feel about that, Marissa? 67 00:02:29,273 --> 00:02:31,107 Do you think you could get to a point 68 00:02:31,108 --> 00:02:33,818 where you’re playing sports, you know, 20 to 25 hours a week? 69 00:02:33,819 --> 00:02:35,153 - And-- What-- What is that? - [Marissa guffaws] 70 00:02:35,154 --> 00:02:36,738 What is that? What’s-- 71 00:02:36,739 --> 00:02:37,782 {\an8}- I’m dead serious. - [Tori] You pose a great question. 72 00:02:39,617 --> 00:02:40,577 [couples laughing and shouting] 73 00:02:40,785 --> 00:02:42,702 {\an8}I would say no. 74 00:02:42,703 --> 00:02:44,913 Yeah, like, there is probably a level we can compromise on... 75 00:02:44,914 --> 00:02:46,331 - Yeah. - ...but no, I’m gonna say absolutely not. 76 00:02:46,332 --> 00:02:48,458 [couples laughing] 77 00:02:48,459 --> 00:02:53,964 {\an8}I have heard a lot about, you know, jet skiing, pickleball. 78 00:02:53,965 --> 00:02:56,132 A lot of your things. A lot of your interests. 79 00:02:56,133 --> 00:02:59,594 Are you willing and able to tap into her side, 80 00:02:59,595 --> 00:03:01,471 and get into the things that she wants to do? 81 00:03:01,472 --> 00:03:04,017 {\an8}[suspenseful music] 82 00:03:05,601 --> 00:03:08,478 {\an8}More Marissa time. 83 00:03:08,479 --> 00:03:11,106 {\an8}I need to accept that, like, I’m not gonna have someone 84 00:03:11,107 --> 00:03:12,691 {\an8}that’s gonna work out with me every day, you know, 85 00:03:12,692 --> 00:03:14,484 {\an8}and who’s gonna, like, try to play, like, 86 00:03:14,485 --> 00:03:16,194 {\an8}duos tournaments with me, and pickleball, you know, like, 87 00:03:16,195 --> 00:03:17,988 {\an8}I feel like she’s the normal one in the situation. 88 00:03:17,989 --> 00:03:19,531 {\an8}Like, I’m at this crazy level, 89 00:03:19,532 --> 00:03:21,199 {\an8}just really trying to push myself, and, like, 90 00:03:21,200 --> 00:03:23,326 {\an8}I’m the one who’s kind of, like, not ordinary here. 91 00:03:23,327 --> 00:03:26,871 {\an8}For someone who you can argue is not taking this seriously, 92 00:03:26,872 --> 00:03:29,541 {\an8}- this is Adam taking it seriously. - Yes! 93 00:03:29,542 --> 00:03:31,668 What I want to say to that, though, is, 94 00:03:31,669 --> 00:03:34,462 is there a sense that where he can have what he wants, 95 00:03:34,463 --> 00:03:36,798 and what he likes, and you can have what you want, 96 00:03:36,799 --> 00:03:39,551 and you like, and you guys can both be okay with that? 97 00:03:39,552 --> 00:03:41,469 - That’s what we need to figure out. - [couples] Yeah. 98 00:03:41,470 --> 00:03:44,055 We’re going to couples therapy in the next couple of days, 99 00:03:44,056 --> 00:03:47,225 and we’re going to talk about what we can do, and... 100 00:03:47,226 --> 00:03:49,060 figure out ways to compromise. 101 00:03:49,061 --> 00:03:50,812 Do you want kids? 102 00:03:50,813 --> 00:03:52,564 Hell, yeah. I’m gonna train them to be D1 athletes. 103 00:03:52,565 --> 00:03:54,399 [Cameron] I love that. Same here. 104 00:03:54,400 --> 00:03:56,067 But my point is, you’re not gonna be playing pickleball 105 00:03:56,068 --> 00:03:57,902 for three hours when you have kids. There’s-- 106 00:03:57,903 --> 00:03:59,404 Yeah, it’s gonna be six hours. 107 00:03:59,405 --> 00:04:00,405 I’m gonna be training all three of them. 108 00:04:00,406 --> 00:04:02,198 [all laughing] 109 00:04:02,199 --> 00:04:04,075 [Shawn] All right, folks, let’s keep the party going. 110 00:04:04,076 --> 00:04:05,994 - Who’s up? - Felipe and Tori! 111 00:04:05,995 --> 00:04:08,163 - Woo woo! - [all cheering] 112 00:04:08,164 --> 00:04:09,914 {\an8}All right babe, you first. 113 00:04:09,915 --> 00:04:12,500 {\an8}Like Felipe said, we-- we haven’t argued. 114 00:04:12,501 --> 00:04:14,878 I kind of hope we would argue. 115 00:04:14,879 --> 00:04:16,296 - Like, it-- - No you don’t. You’re gonna lose. 116 00:04:16,297 --> 00:04:17,589 - [Mecca laughs] - [Felipe] I’m serious. 117 00:04:17,590 --> 00:04:19,382 - Go ahead. But, I think, um... 118 00:04:19,383 --> 00:04:21,760 we kind of wanna see what that would look like, 119 00:04:21,761 --> 00:04:23,887 because we kind of are-- are big debaters, 120 00:04:23,888 --> 00:04:25,680 and we both are pretty stubborn. 121 00:04:25,681 --> 00:04:28,767 So I think that would be interesting. 122 00:04:28,768 --> 00:04:32,103 The issue that we have is-- is just the fact 123 00:04:32,104 --> 00:04:34,898 that, like, you know, like, in less than three weeks, 124 00:04:34,899 --> 00:04:37,067 I’m gonna make the biggest decision of my life. 125 00:04:37,068 --> 00:04:41,613 You know, like, I-- I’ve already thought that I made that decision, 126 00:04:41,614 --> 00:04:44,074 you know, like, which was marrying a stranger. 127 00:04:44,075 --> 00:04:47,786 But I find myself finding reasons 128 00:04:47,787 --> 00:04:50,622 of why I shouldn’t be... 129 00:04:50,623 --> 00:04:52,290 you know, married to you. 130 00:04:52,291 --> 00:04:54,294 [dramatic music] 131 00:04:56,128 --> 00:04:58,296 Subconsciously, I find myself, like, literally, like, 132 00:04:58,297 --> 00:05:00,590 as I’m going grocery shopping or walking downtown, 133 00:05:00,591 --> 00:05:01,801 like, thinking of ways out. 134 00:05:02,760 --> 00:05:04,803 Oh, wow. Oh, my goodness. 135 00:05:04,804 --> 00:05:07,097 [Felipe] I want to be certain on Decision Day. 136 00:05:07,098 --> 00:05:09,309 Especially because my single life was so incredible. 137 00:05:10,601 --> 00:05:12,727 There was literally nothing in my life 138 00:05:12,728 --> 00:05:14,147 that I didn’t have control of. 139 00:05:14,855 --> 00:05:19,734 I made my life as easy, and as carefree as I possibly could. 140 00:05:19,735 --> 00:05:22,487 If you were to ask me, like, "Do you want to get married for the rest of your life today?" 141 00:05:22,488 --> 00:05:23,822 I would say no. 142 00:05:23,823 --> 00:05:26,783 - [Mecca] Ooh! - Oh, shit. 143 00:05:26,784 --> 00:05:29,160 I don’t know if this is the right setting 144 00:05:29,161 --> 00:05:33,331 for him to expose his feelings about his wife. 145 00:05:33,332 --> 00:05:36,002 [Dr. Lisa] He’s afraid to be accountable to somebody. 146 00:05:36,669 --> 00:05:38,171 [Cameron] You’re not gonna do better than Tori. 147 00:05:39,839 --> 00:05:41,172 Let’s be honest, Felipe. 148 00:05:41,173 --> 00:05:42,674 Snap out of it, man. Come on. 149 00:05:42,675 --> 00:05:44,592 Like, seriously. What are we talking here? 150 00:05:44,593 --> 00:05:47,178 You-- You wanna just be single, and hang out with your cat? 151 00:05:47,179 --> 00:05:48,890 Like, I mean, you don’t want that life. 152 00:05:49,932 --> 00:05:52,434 Why do Married at First Sight if you’re so unsure of that? 153 00:05:52,435 --> 00:05:54,018 [Felipe] Because I was sure. 154 00:05:54,019 --> 00:05:55,854 {\an8}Yeah, my life was awesome. I was happy. Legit. 155 00:05:55,855 --> 00:05:57,772 But I still felt lonely. 156 00:05:57,773 --> 00:05:59,774 And I’m trying to, like, bring myself back to that, right? 157 00:05:59,775 --> 00:06:01,776 Of-- of why I did it in the first place. 158 00:06:01,777 --> 00:06:03,862 But that’s not to say that I wasn’t happy before. 159 00:06:03,863 --> 00:06:06,281 Tori, what are your thoughts on that? 160 00:06:06,282 --> 00:06:10,244 I think that Felipe has work to do, individually, on his own. 161 00:06:10,703 --> 00:06:12,328 - And that’s not my job. - [Dr. Lisa] Oof. 162 00:06:12,329 --> 00:06:13,788 - Oh... - [Dr. Lisa] She’s so not codependent. 163 00:06:13,789 --> 00:06:15,331 Look at how strong that answer is. 164 00:06:15,332 --> 00:06:17,208 I’m securing myself, 165 00:06:17,209 --> 00:06:20,296 and I’m just not gonna carry things that aren’t mine. 166 00:06:21,046 --> 00:06:23,047 What were, like, the amazing parts about your life 167 00:06:23,048 --> 00:06:25,593 that you don’t think Tori could amplify? 168 00:06:26,719 --> 00:06:29,472 If I’m being real with you guys, I like sleeping with a bunch of women. 169 00:06:30,514 --> 00:06:31,557 Oh, shit. 170 00:06:33,184 --> 00:06:34,517 Did I just hear that right? 171 00:06:34,518 --> 00:06:36,728 [tense music] 172 00:06:36,729 --> 00:06:38,146 [Tori] What’s going on here? 173 00:06:38,147 --> 00:06:39,481 Like, what-- what’s happening? 174 00:06:39,482 --> 00:06:41,357 Do you wanna, like, go hoe out? 175 00:06:41,358 --> 00:06:43,568 Is that what this is? 176 00:06:43,569 --> 00:06:45,528 Like, if you want to go be with hoes, be with hoes. 177 00:06:45,529 --> 00:06:48,239 But there’s no other indicators of that, 178 00:06:48,240 --> 00:06:50,700 so it’s super confusing. 179 00:06:50,701 --> 00:06:52,410 I just don’t understand, and honestly, 180 00:06:52,411 --> 00:06:54,245 I’d rather it align, than not align. 181 00:06:54,246 --> 00:06:56,666 Because it would be easier for me to wrap my head around. 182 00:06:58,334 --> 00:07:00,210 Is it the monogamy that scares you? 183 00:07:00,211 --> 00:07:02,253 I don’t know-- I don’t know if I’m scared of it. 184 00:07:02,254 --> 00:07:05,924 But I was just, I was-- I was-- I was happy fucking around. 185 00:07:05,925 --> 00:07:08,510 [tense music] 186 00:07:08,511 --> 00:07:10,720 {\an8}I don’t know why you’re married, bro, like... 187 00:07:10,721 --> 00:07:13,932 {\an8}whoo! [laughs] Yeah. 188 00:07:13,933 --> 00:07:15,643 Let a dog be a dog. 189 00:07:16,519 --> 00:07:18,269 [Belléjolie] You always talk great about Tori. 190 00:07:18,270 --> 00:07:19,771 You talk about how much you like her. 191 00:07:19,772 --> 00:07:22,941 {\an8}And so I think it is going to be a decision 192 00:07:22,942 --> 00:07:24,692 {\an8}you have to make for yourself. 193 00:07:24,693 --> 00:07:26,444 And also you’re gonna get old one day, 194 00:07:26,445 --> 00:07:28,071 and women aren’t gonna like you. 195 00:07:28,072 --> 00:07:31,115 You ain’t Peter Pan, man. You’re gonna grow up. 196 00:07:31,116 --> 00:07:32,909 [Devin] Straight up, I feel like you’re copping out. 197 00:07:32,910 --> 00:07:34,452 {\an8}You’re jeopardizing yourself, and you’re falling 198 00:07:34,453 --> 00:07:36,120 {\an8}right back into the patterns that you said 199 00:07:36,121 --> 00:07:37,205 {\an8}that you were gonna try and break through this. 200 00:07:37,206 --> 00:07:38,873 I don’t disagree with Devin. 201 00:07:38,874 --> 00:07:42,753 I think to a large degree, this is self-sabotage. 202 00:07:43,754 --> 00:07:45,630 Last time, during the group dinner, 203 00:07:45,631 --> 00:07:48,466 you talked about being afraid of losing passion. 204 00:07:48,467 --> 00:07:50,885 And so, like, with what you’re describing today, 205 00:07:50,886 --> 00:07:54,097 I’m just wondering whether it’s because you do want 206 00:07:54,098 --> 00:07:55,183 to chase passion. 207 00:07:55,808 --> 00:07:58,768 My worry is that I’m in a race. 208 00:07:58,769 --> 00:08:01,813 And trying to fall in love with Tori before Decision Day, 209 00:08:01,814 --> 00:08:03,648 or else my brain’s gonna fuck it up. 210 00:08:03,649 --> 00:08:05,984 Because I know if I’m in love, I’m, like, good. I’m done. 211 00:08:05,985 --> 00:08:07,612 I’m fine. Like, I’m not worried. 212 00:08:08,237 --> 00:08:11,656 Right? That’s kind of what I meant. 213 00:08:11,657 --> 00:08:13,242 It feels like a race. 214 00:08:14,743 --> 00:08:16,452 Look at how she takes it on the chin. 215 00:08:16,453 --> 00:08:17,996 She is so stoic. 216 00:08:17,997 --> 00:08:19,414 [Paul] I think he’s getting it tonight. 217 00:08:19,415 --> 00:08:21,749 And not in a good way. 218 00:08:21,750 --> 00:08:23,668 A lot of things that you’ve said 219 00:08:23,669 --> 00:08:25,336 are the same things that I’m feeling. 220 00:08:25,337 --> 00:08:27,797 There is that fear of commitment. 221 00:08:27,798 --> 00:08:30,842 Obviously, it’s very scary. 222 00:08:30,843 --> 00:08:33,636 But, um, after that group session 223 00:08:33,637 --> 00:08:36,014 where I said "undecided", 224 00:08:36,015 --> 00:08:38,099 might not be my same answer today. 225 00:08:38,100 --> 00:08:40,643 - Oh! - [couples] What? What? 226 00:08:40,644 --> 00:08:41,769 [all cheering] 227 00:08:41,770 --> 00:08:43,688 [Shawn] What is happening. 228 00:08:43,689 --> 00:08:47,025 And yeah, the more time I spend around this girl, 229 00:08:47,026 --> 00:08:49,360 the more time, like, we get to connect, 230 00:08:49,361 --> 00:08:50,695 and bond, and just... 231 00:08:50,696 --> 00:08:52,947 and talk, and do things together, 232 00:08:52,948 --> 00:08:54,991 I’m just like, why would I not say yes? 233 00:08:54,992 --> 00:08:57,702 Like, I would almost be stupid to say no. 234 00:08:57,703 --> 00:08:59,370 You know what I’m sayin’? Like, dead-ass. 235 00:08:59,371 --> 00:09:01,164 [all laughing] 236 00:09:01,165 --> 00:09:04,459 I did a lot of self-reflection after that group session. 237 00:09:04,460 --> 00:09:05,960 I’m not gonna lie. 238 00:09:05,961 --> 00:09:07,128 I don’t know if any of you guys noticed, 239 00:09:07,129 --> 00:09:09,130 but I walked out of there hurt. 240 00:09:09,131 --> 00:09:11,507 I definitely got grilled. 241 00:09:11,508 --> 00:09:13,886 I got cooked. And I didn’t see that coming. 242 00:09:15,346 --> 00:09:17,513 Let me just clear one thing up right now. 243 00:09:17,514 --> 00:09:20,683 I will say I was not a fan of how we were painted. 244 00:09:20,684 --> 00:09:23,186 Mecca is not performative. He’s exaggerated. 245 00:09:23,187 --> 00:09:25,021 So, in group settings, for example, 246 00:09:25,022 --> 00:09:26,522 he’s gonna be more animated. 247 00:09:26,523 --> 00:09:28,191 That’s who Mecca is. 248 00:09:28,192 --> 00:09:30,735 Everything he has said about me has been genuine. 249 00:09:30,736 --> 00:09:33,529 And he is consistent with what he says with me 250 00:09:33,530 --> 00:09:36,240 behind closed doors, and in front of everybody, 251 00:09:36,241 --> 00:09:37,575 I get the same Mecca. 252 00:09:37,576 --> 00:09:40,244 Mecca, you’re not gonna find better. 253 00:09:40,245 --> 00:09:42,664 She has your back. She loves you. 254 00:09:42,665 --> 00:09:44,248 She’s running to your defense. 255 00:09:44,249 --> 00:09:45,875 Man, I look and I say, we all should be so lucky 256 00:09:45,876 --> 00:09:47,752 to have someone in our corner. 257 00:09:47,753 --> 00:09:49,045 Agreed. 258 00:09:49,046 --> 00:09:51,422 I just want to say I apologize, 259 00:09:51,423 --> 00:09:55,426 because I was one of those people who did think you were being performative. 260 00:09:55,427 --> 00:09:57,095 [Mecca] I appreciate what you’re saying now, Michelle. 261 00:09:57,096 --> 00:10:00,556 Because, Michelle, I see you as a very down-to-earth, 262 00:10:00,557 --> 00:10:03,017 very genuine and real person. 263 00:10:03,018 --> 00:10:04,936 So, that’s what made it hurt even more. 264 00:10:04,937 --> 00:10:07,605 I was like, damn-- I was like, even Michelle? 265 00:10:07,606 --> 00:10:11,275 - [all laughing] - I was like, no way! What? 266 00:10:11,276 --> 00:10:13,528 - I was so hurt. - The drinks were flowing. 267 00:10:13,529 --> 00:10:15,822 [Mecca] So, I-- I appreciate-- I appreciate you saying that. 268 00:10:15,823 --> 00:10:18,282 And you’re talking from the outside, you know? 269 00:10:18,283 --> 00:10:19,910 - You don’t know what’s happening behind closed doors. - [Michelle] Right, exactly. 270 00:10:20,119 --> 00:10:22,078 - [Belléjolie] So, yeah. - You know, you can be skeptical 271 00:10:22,079 --> 00:10:23,955 about things, and they can seem a little too good to be true. 272 00:10:23,956 --> 00:10:25,373 - Like, all right, what’s really going on here? - For sure. 273 00:10:25,374 --> 00:10:26,416 - Right. - Like when Nikki and Shawn 274 00:10:26,417 --> 00:10:28,209 aligned on a 10 out of 10. 275 00:10:28,210 --> 00:10:30,336 - [Mecca] Yeah! Yeah! - [Belléjolie] Yes! 276 00:10:30,337 --> 00:10:32,088 - And we were all like, "Oh my gosh." - [Mecca] Yeah, it was crazy. 277 00:10:32,089 --> 00:10:33,131 - [Belléjolie] And it was real. - [Mecca] That was crazy. 278 00:10:33,132 --> 00:10:35,633 [Nick] I love that energy. 279 00:10:35,634 --> 00:10:38,094 - I feel like you defending Mecca and your relationship, like... - [Nikki] That’s it, yeah. 280 00:10:38,095 --> 00:10:41,139 ...shows how much, like, growth and, like, care you all have for each other. 281 00:10:41,140 --> 00:10:42,932 - Like... - Yeah. 282 00:10:42,933 --> 00:10:45,226 But yeah, I think for us, we definitely wanted to work on 283 00:10:45,227 --> 00:10:46,978 getting deeper with each other, and, like, 284 00:10:46,979 --> 00:10:48,771 understanding each other at a more vulnerable, 285 00:10:48,772 --> 00:10:50,940 open-hearted level. 286 00:10:50,941 --> 00:10:53,901 For, like, our intimacy night, we had, like, a list of questions. 287 00:10:53,902 --> 00:10:56,279 They were all, like, deeper, like, get-to-know-you questions. 288 00:10:56,280 --> 00:10:58,906 And I think it went really well for us. 289 00:10:58,907 --> 00:11:00,742 - I thought so. You can give your take. - Yeah. Yeah. 290 00:11:00,743 --> 00:11:03,745 Uh, but I think what I really appreciate about Courteney 291 00:11:03,746 --> 00:11:06,164 is I notice now, when she leaves, 292 00:11:06,165 --> 00:11:08,082 she’ll, like, take the extra time to come over 293 00:11:08,083 --> 00:11:09,751 and, like, give me a hug before she leaves the apartment. 294 00:11:09,752 --> 00:11:11,252 - [all] Aww! - [Nikki] Oh, Courteney! 295 00:11:11,253 --> 00:11:12,795 [Nick] Which I really appreciate. 296 00:11:12,796 --> 00:11:14,338 - I’m affectionate. - [Shawn] Love that! 297 00:11:14,339 --> 00:11:17,049 I like to see him kind of talking kindly about her. 298 00:11:17,050 --> 00:11:19,343 Yeah, it’d be great if she could say the same for him. 299 00:11:19,344 --> 00:11:20,970 [laughs] 300 00:11:20,971 --> 00:11:22,513 You know, we went into our session with Lisa, 301 00:11:22,514 --> 00:11:24,432 and she’s like, you know, we need a reset. 302 00:11:24,433 --> 00:11:25,808 Like, I have to remember that, you know, 303 00:11:25,809 --> 00:11:27,351 there’s two of us in this partnership. 304 00:11:27,352 --> 00:11:28,853 So, I made, like, a really conscious decision 305 00:11:28,854 --> 00:11:31,689 to put in more effort, more physical touch. 306 00:11:31,690 --> 00:11:34,192 Like, in the morning, if I’m up already, 307 00:11:34,193 --> 00:11:36,694 I make an effort to, like, text him, hey, like, hope you slept well, and whatever. 308 00:11:36,695 --> 00:11:38,613 Those are things I would never think of doing, 309 00:11:38,614 --> 00:11:40,448 because that’s not what I need. 310 00:11:40,449 --> 00:11:42,033 But if that’s what someone else needs, it’s like, okay. 311 00:11:42,034 --> 00:11:43,868 If I want my independence, then I need to make sure 312 00:11:43,869 --> 00:11:45,536 that he feels secure in this relationship. 313 00:11:45,537 --> 00:11:47,330 And I think he’s happy. 314 00:11:47,331 --> 00:11:49,624 - Yay! - [all cheering] 315 00:11:49,625 --> 00:11:50,792 - [applause] - [Devin] Wow. 316 00:11:50,793 --> 00:11:52,502 Exactly. 317 00:11:52,503 --> 00:11:53,836 So, like, how-- how has the intimacy been for you? 318 00:11:53,837 --> 00:11:54,962 Does it feel forced for you? 319 00:11:54,963 --> 00:11:56,714 Or are you actually liking it? 320 00:11:56,715 --> 00:11:58,216 [Courteney] I mean, of course I like it. 321 00:11:58,217 --> 00:12:00,384 Kissing or whatever, like, that feels good. 322 00:12:00,385 --> 00:12:02,053 That feels normal. 323 00:12:02,054 --> 00:12:03,387 I don’t think it’s something that, like, I need, 324 00:12:03,388 --> 00:12:05,097 but I’m doing it because I care about him, 325 00:12:05,098 --> 00:12:07,517 and I want to make that effort to make him feel that I, 326 00:12:07,518 --> 00:12:09,894 you know, am all about you, and I want you, and I want you to be happy. 327 00:12:09,895 --> 00:12:12,146 - [Felipe] Hmm. - I mean, I’m hearing you talk, 328 00:12:12,147 --> 00:12:13,981 I’m like, wow, okay, wait, I need to, like, maybe get coffee with you, 329 00:12:13,982 --> 00:12:15,650 and, like, sit, and apply this to us. 330 00:12:15,651 --> 00:12:17,235 - [all laughing] - I can see him over here, like, 331 00:12:17,236 --> 00:12:19,821 nodding, like, yep, yep. She should do that. 332 00:12:19,822 --> 00:12:22,573 I’m like, I’m like, fuck, damn it, Courteney. 333 00:12:22,574 --> 00:12:26,787 I think Courteney, in my mind, is a huge question mark. 334 00:12:27,704 --> 00:12:30,039 There was one point in the night at the first dinner, 335 00:12:30,040 --> 00:12:31,999 where your back was completely towards Nick, 336 00:12:32,000 --> 00:12:33,586 and Nick was just, you know, just chilling. 337 00:12:34,086 --> 00:12:36,504 What’s the point? Like, I don’t-- I don’t see it. 338 00:12:36,505 --> 00:12:38,424 I never saw a connection on your behalf. 339 00:12:39,341 --> 00:12:40,842 [tense music] 340 00:12:40,843 --> 00:12:42,552 [Courteney] Are you freaking kidding me? 341 00:12:42,553 --> 00:12:45,263 I said everything that I’m changing for the better, 342 00:12:45,264 --> 00:12:47,765 in our relationship to make this work. 343 00:12:47,766 --> 00:12:49,684 No one likes to have fingers pointed at them, 344 00:12:49,685 --> 00:12:53,104 and so I’m on the defensive end right now. 345 00:12:53,105 --> 00:12:56,065 I do like Nick, and I genuinely feel 346 00:12:56,066 --> 00:12:57,692 like there is a connection there. 347 00:12:57,693 --> 00:12:59,360 But at the same time, you know, to be honest, 348 00:12:59,361 --> 00:13:01,112 I don’t know if anyone else noticed, 349 00:13:01,113 --> 00:13:04,448 but I’m making a lot of changes to make this work, 350 00:13:04,449 --> 00:13:06,534 and I didn’t hear one thing that Nick said 351 00:13:06,535 --> 00:13:09,579 he was doing to make the changes to make this work. 352 00:13:09,580 --> 00:13:12,291 ♪ Everything changes ♪ 353 00:13:13,792 --> 00:13:15,418 ♪ Ooh ♪ 354 00:13:15,419 --> 00:13:18,462 I was gonna let it just sit, 355 00:13:18,463 --> 00:13:19,964 but now I’m gonna stand up for myself. 356 00:13:19,965 --> 00:13:21,215 - I don’t know what you’re doing. - [Mecca] Oh! 357 00:13:21,216 --> 00:13:22,134 Okay. 358 00:13:23,552 --> 00:13:26,305 ♪ Everything changes ♪ 359 00:13:31,894 --> 00:13:35,062 {\an8}I’m making a lot of changes to make this work, 360 00:13:35,063 --> 00:13:38,024 {\an8}and I didn’t hear one thing that Nick said he was doing 361 00:13:38,025 --> 00:13:40,026 {\an8}to make the changes to make this work. 362 00:13:40,027 --> 00:13:43,154 And I am restructuring my whole independency. 363 00:13:43,155 --> 00:13:44,697 - I don’t know what you’re doing. - [Mecca] Oh! 364 00:13:44,698 --> 00:13:46,324 Okay. 365 00:13:46,325 --> 00:13:48,452 Sorry. That was old me. That wasn’t very nice. 366 00:13:49,369 --> 00:13:51,412 {\an8}Well, one of the biggest things that you asked for from me 367 00:13:51,413 --> 00:13:54,165 {\an8}was sharing more of myself on a deeper level. 368 00:13:54,166 --> 00:13:55,918 That is what I’ve been intentionally doing. 369 00:13:56,877 --> 00:13:58,878 If you don’t notice that, I am sorry, but I... 370 00:13:58,879 --> 00:14:01,255 - No! - ...I have been actually making a conscious effort 371 00:14:01,256 --> 00:14:03,424 - to ask you more about your childhood... - Yeah. 372 00:14:03,425 --> 00:14:05,718 [Nick] ...and what makes you tick, and things like that, but. 373 00:14:05,719 --> 00:14:09,263 You were, it-- it just, it goes beyond, like, playing a game, you know? 374 00:14:09,264 --> 00:14:11,599 {\an8}And it’s just, it-- it was more just like... 375 00:14:11,600 --> 00:14:13,434 {\an8}- you know what, we can talk about it later. - Yeah, we’ll talk about it. 376 00:14:13,435 --> 00:14:14,518 {\an8}No, that’s what I’m saying. Like, we’ll talk about it. 377 00:14:14,519 --> 00:14:15,937 {\an8}I’m excited for it. 378 00:14:15,938 --> 00:14:17,730 {\an8}If these guys wanna go the distance, 379 00:14:17,731 --> 00:14:20,107 {\an8}I think that they are going to need to do whatever 380 00:14:20,108 --> 00:14:22,401 {\an8}is difficult for them, whether that’s being vulnerable, 381 00:14:22,402 --> 00:14:23,903 {\an8}whether that’s being more communicative. 382 00:14:23,904 --> 00:14:26,113 Yeah, I agree with you. 383 00:14:26,114 --> 00:14:28,240 {\an8}To, like, keep it a little more light, 384 00:14:28,241 --> 00:14:30,034 {\an8}you know, things are going great. 385 00:14:30,035 --> 00:14:31,786 It’s crazy. 386 00:14:31,787 --> 00:14:33,955 First week of practice, it’s like, I’m a better coach, 387 00:14:33,956 --> 00:14:35,206 because, like, I’m, like, in a better mood, and, like, I’m, like, more-- 388 00:14:35,207 --> 00:14:38,125 - [all] Ooh! - [Cameron] Yeah. 389 00:14:38,126 --> 00:14:40,419 {\an8}- I like that. - Love that! 390 00:14:40,420 --> 00:14:43,214 I went to her home in West Seattle, 391 00:14:43,215 --> 00:14:45,132 went to her favorite spots. 392 00:14:45,133 --> 00:14:48,594 I’m really starting to not only think about living with her, 393 00:14:48,595 --> 00:14:51,764 but, like, when the season’s over, maybe move here. 394 00:14:51,765 --> 00:14:54,266 My lease is up at my place, and, like, I’m going to go get 395 00:14:54,267 --> 00:14:55,643 a month-to-month spot in Portland, 396 00:14:55,644 --> 00:14:57,812 because, like, I want to be open. 397 00:14:57,813 --> 00:15:02,066 {\an8}I’ve started integrating him into my world with, like, my friends. 398 00:15:02,067 --> 00:15:06,654 With previous exes, my friends weren’t the biggest fans of them, 399 00:15:06,655 --> 00:15:09,909 but, like, he just blends in so well, and, like, 400 00:15:10,492 --> 00:15:14,161 it’s just showing me that he just fits right into my life. 401 00:15:14,162 --> 00:15:18,124 I mean, even just, like, the fact that he’s driving back and forth between Seattle 402 00:15:18,125 --> 00:15:21,293 and Portland, it just shows, like, 403 00:15:21,294 --> 00:15:24,964 how much work he is putting into what he does, 404 00:15:24,965 --> 00:15:27,174 - and me as well... - Yeah. Yeah. 405 00:15:27,175 --> 00:15:29,845 - ...and it’s just really special. - [Belléjolie] Yes. 406 00:15:30,929 --> 00:15:33,597 So, you’re going to relocate, and not coach or what? 407 00:15:33,598 --> 00:15:35,766 Not saying I would, like, give up on my dream 408 00:15:35,767 --> 00:15:37,351 because I want to be with her, but it’s, like, 409 00:15:37,352 --> 00:15:39,186 maybe it looks a little different. 410 00:15:39,187 --> 00:15:42,606 Maybe there’s more than one part of, like, the dream I have. 411 00:15:42,607 --> 00:15:46,694 You can have all, like, the money or the success, 412 00:15:46,695 --> 00:15:48,487 but, like, I don’t know. 413 00:15:48,488 --> 00:15:50,656 Like, I’m-- I’ve been lonely, you know, straight up. 414 00:15:50,657 --> 00:15:52,992 Like, I came back after winning the championship, 415 00:15:52,993 --> 00:15:55,327 biggest game of my career, and it doesn’t really matter 416 00:15:55,328 --> 00:15:56,871 if I don’t have someone to share it with. 417 00:15:56,872 --> 00:15:58,205 - [Belléjolie] I love that. - So, yeah. 418 00:15:58,206 --> 00:16:00,374 It’s not giving up on the dream. 419 00:16:00,375 --> 00:16:02,960 - It’s just, like, trying to, like, incorporate it. - Exactly. Yes. 420 00:16:02,961 --> 00:16:06,213 I mean, it’s not all about, like, just, like, what I want to do career-wise. 421 00:16:06,214 --> 00:16:07,548 {\an8}Right. 422 00:16:07,549 --> 00:16:09,383 {\an8}I think y’all are killing it. 423 00:16:09,384 --> 00:16:11,218 Caitlin and I have been lacking physical connection 424 00:16:11,219 --> 00:16:13,220 or any sort of connection. 425 00:16:13,221 --> 00:16:15,890 I still feel like we’re not at a place 426 00:16:15,891 --> 00:16:19,311 where we’re even really, like, connected or friends. 427 00:16:20,729 --> 00:16:23,189 Sometimes I still question if she likes me. 428 00:16:23,190 --> 00:16:24,482 Whoa. 429 00:16:24,483 --> 00:16:25,818 - [Belléjolie] Yeah. - Oh, shit. 430 00:16:29,571 --> 00:16:31,197 I like hearing this from Devin, right? 431 00:16:31,198 --> 00:16:33,199 He’s speaking his truth. 432 00:16:33,200 --> 00:16:35,159 We’ve been asking him to turn his light on, 433 00:16:35,160 --> 00:16:37,912 and this is him saying, "This is how I feel." 434 00:16:37,913 --> 00:16:40,247 He doesn’t like this marriage as it is. 435 00:16:40,248 --> 00:16:42,708 Who would like it? He feels like she’s not into him. 436 00:16:42,709 --> 00:16:44,418 I wouldn’t like it, either. 437 00:16:44,419 --> 00:16:47,338 Ultimately, my way to adjust was just to pull away, 438 00:16:47,339 --> 00:16:48,923 and to make her come to me. 439 00:16:48,924 --> 00:16:51,175 But in her coming to me, it’s been way slower 440 00:16:51,176 --> 00:16:52,927 than I’m even-- ever been used to. 441 00:16:52,928 --> 00:16:54,720 But-- But, like, don’t discount that it’s happening. 442 00:16:54,721 --> 00:16:56,097 No, it’s definitely happening. That’s what I’m saying. 443 00:16:56,098 --> 00:16:57,848 But it’s slow. I was getting there. 444 00:16:57,849 --> 00:16:59,934 - Give a girl some credit. - I was-- I was getting there. 445 00:16:59,935 --> 00:17:01,352 - [Caitlin] Like, it’s just a shit-on-me session. - You didn’t-- 446 00:17:01,353 --> 00:17:03,771 You didn’t let me finish my thought. Okay? 447 00:17:03,772 --> 00:17:05,439 I’m just saying that I feel like this is just a shit-on-Caitlin session right now. 448 00:17:05,440 --> 00:17:07,608 Not at all. It’s not that at all. 449 00:17:07,609 --> 00:17:09,153 Okay, I’m just telling you, that’s is what I feel like, though. 450 00:17:09,444 --> 00:17:11,445 [scoffs] Absolutely blindsided. 451 00:17:11,446 --> 00:17:13,572 I’m not gonna say the entire week was perfect, 452 00:17:13,573 --> 00:17:15,908 but I feel like there were a lot of, like, really good moments. 453 00:17:15,909 --> 00:17:18,035 And yes, there’s, like, a lot of, like, other things that we need to work on. 454 00:17:18,036 --> 00:17:21,539 So, to have it be so negative, and so, like, negatively focused, like... 455 00:17:21,540 --> 00:17:23,040 [takes a deep breath] 456 00:17:23,041 --> 00:17:24,792 Ugh! Like, help me out a little, here. 457 00:17:24,793 --> 00:17:26,752 I see you, and I hear you, and I understand you. 458 00:17:26,753 --> 00:17:29,463 And I’m sorry that you feel that it’s a shit-on-Caitlin session. 459 00:17:29,464 --> 00:17:32,092 I will adjust how we’re talking about this. 460 00:17:32,717 --> 00:17:33,969 Okay? 461 00:17:34,719 --> 00:17:36,428 I’ve been feeling this way for a little while, 462 00:17:36,429 --> 00:17:38,764 and I feel like I just need to talk on it. 463 00:17:38,765 --> 00:17:42,393 She’s making steps, you know, and it’s not at the pace that I-- that I need. 464 00:17:42,394 --> 00:17:44,603 I feel rejected still. 465 00:17:44,604 --> 00:17:46,981 [tense music] 466 00:17:46,982 --> 00:17:49,984 Last night, we went out, and we had a great time playing pool and stuff, 467 00:17:49,985 --> 00:17:52,653 but, like, I was dancing, having a good time, trying to be goofy, 468 00:17:52,654 --> 00:17:55,156 and, like, I didn’t feel like she saw me or looked at me. 469 00:17:55,157 --> 00:17:56,657 - So it’s, like... - Are you dancing and being goofy 470 00:17:56,658 --> 00:17:58,826 because you want me to acknowledge you, 471 00:17:58,827 --> 00:18:01,245 - or are you just having a good time? - No, that’s just who I am. 472 00:18:01,246 --> 00:18:03,455 - But it’s also-- But it’s-- - Yeah, and I like that you’re having a good time. 473 00:18:03,456 --> 00:18:05,082 But if I’m with my wife, I want my wife to see me, hear me, understand me, 474 00:18:05,083 --> 00:18:07,168 and, like, play into it a little bit. 475 00:18:07,169 --> 00:18:08,919 Like, give me a smile. 476 00:18:08,920 --> 00:18:10,296 Give a little shoulder shimmy back. 477 00:18:10,297 --> 00:18:12,841 Like, like, give me something. 478 00:18:14,259 --> 00:18:16,760 - Do you like Devin? Like, do you-- - Yes. 479 00:18:16,761 --> 00:18:18,512 Honestly, I’m kind of, like, caught off guard, 480 00:18:18,513 --> 00:18:20,306 just because this week has been feeling a lot better, 481 00:18:20,307 --> 00:18:22,309 and I’m feeling like it’s very, like, negative right now, 482 00:18:22,517 --> 00:18:25,519 which is kind of, like, a little jarring for me. 483 00:18:25,520 --> 00:18:28,189 I feel like you guys both have interest in each other, 484 00:18:28,190 --> 00:18:31,525 and that in your head and in your feelings, you-- you are trying. 485 00:18:31,526 --> 00:18:33,861 - Yeah, not-- not everything has been dark. - No. 486 00:18:33,862 --> 00:18:36,155 You know what I mean? Well, I really, really like Cait. 487 00:18:36,156 --> 00:18:39,116 I love her heart. I love how she shows up for people. 488 00:18:39,117 --> 00:18:41,493 I love her love for her family and, like, all this stuff, 489 00:18:41,494 --> 00:18:43,037 you know what I mean? But it’s, like... 490 00:18:43,038 --> 00:18:44,705 I need-- I need to feel that. 491 00:18:44,706 --> 00:18:46,957 I need to feel that I can show up for her as a man, 492 00:18:46,958 --> 00:18:50,211 and be her safe place, but not be fighting for it. 493 00:18:50,212 --> 00:18:51,879 And if this is, like, how it is, 494 00:18:51,880 --> 00:18:54,215 like, I’m-- this is not my ideal marriage. 495 00:18:54,216 --> 00:18:56,550 [somber music] 496 00:18:56,551 --> 00:18:59,386 {\an8}There’s no fault in accepting 497 00:18:59,387 --> 00:19:03,474 {\an8}if you either are into someone or not into someone, 498 00:19:03,475 --> 00:19:07,311 {\an8}and also maybe into someone at your own speed. 499 00:19:07,312 --> 00:19:09,396 {\an8}Like, that’s not wrong. 500 00:19:09,397 --> 00:19:10,816 - [couples] Mm-hmm. Right. Literally. - There’s no wrong in that. 501 00:19:11,024 --> 00:19:13,067 - There’s no fault in that. - [Michelle] Right. Right. 502 00:19:13,068 --> 00:19:16,153 And no matter, this is a very unorthodox experiment altogether. 503 00:19:16,154 --> 00:19:18,197 Like, don’t make that think that you’re flawed. 504 00:19:18,198 --> 00:19:20,032 - You’re not flawed. - [Belléjolie] Right. 505 00:19:20,033 --> 00:19:21,700 You are human, and you’re allowed to be human. 506 00:19:21,701 --> 00:19:23,410 - [Belléjolie] Literally. - And, Devin, 507 00:19:23,411 --> 00:19:25,079 you’re allowed to be human, and love how you love. 508 00:19:25,080 --> 00:19:27,248 And I think that’s for all of us. 509 00:19:27,249 --> 00:19:28,999 For all of us, literally, for sure. 510 00:19:29,000 --> 00:19:30,586 - [applause] - [Shawn] You said that. 511 00:19:30,752 --> 00:19:31,752 {\an8}- [Nikki] Let’s end on that. - You said that well, Tori. 512 00:19:31,753 --> 00:19:32,920 {\an8}Thank you. 513 00:19:32,921 --> 00:19:34,047 {\an8}All right, Dr. Shawn, toast us! 514 00:19:34,589 --> 00:19:36,757 To just getting 1% better every day 515 00:19:36,758 --> 00:19:38,926 at this crazy thing we’re all deciding to do. 516 00:19:38,927 --> 00:19:41,720 - [Mecca] 1% better! - [Felipe] Yeah. 1% better. 517 00:19:41,721 --> 00:19:43,555 That’s the goal. That’s the goal. 518 00:19:43,556 --> 00:19:44,933 Absolutely. 519 00:19:50,563 --> 00:19:52,773 ♪ Too much, big hearts ♪ 520 00:19:52,774 --> 00:19:53,899 {\an8}♪ Break ’em all ♪ 521 00:19:53,900 --> 00:19:55,609 {\an8}Yeesh, babe. 522 00:19:55,610 --> 00:19:57,278 {\an8}Do you think that dinner was worse than the first one? 523 00:19:57,279 --> 00:20:00,155 Felipe opened up heavily. 524 00:20:00,156 --> 00:20:01,282 For sure. 525 00:20:01,283 --> 00:20:03,909 Said things that... [chuckles] 526 00:20:03,910 --> 00:20:06,662 to be honest, I don’t know if I would say. 527 00:20:06,663 --> 00:20:08,998 I’m like, wait, what? 528 00:20:08,999 --> 00:20:10,958 - Yeah. - "I like sleeping around with women." 529 00:20:10,959 --> 00:20:12,835 I’m like, "Oh, shit." 530 00:20:12,836 --> 00:20:15,421 ♪ Come on, make it beat harder ♪ 531 00:20:15,422 --> 00:20:16,757 {\an8}♪ Ooh, ooh ♪ 532 00:20:19,175 --> 00:20:20,677 I’m nervous about how you feel. 533 00:20:26,141 --> 00:20:28,600 I want loyalty. I want respect. 534 00:20:28,601 --> 00:20:30,853 I want monogamy. 535 00:20:30,854 --> 00:20:33,355 And if you can’t provide that, then, like, 536 00:20:33,356 --> 00:20:36,193 that doesn’t seem like a marriage that would be fitting. 537 00:20:36,860 --> 00:20:41,531 Do you, I guess, question whether I can be monogamous? 538 00:20:42,198 --> 00:20:45,035 If you’re questioning it day in, day out, 539 00:20:46,536 --> 00:20:48,829 I’m going to worry about that. 540 00:20:48,830 --> 00:20:54,043 You need to have a really open mind to everything, 541 00:20:54,044 --> 00:20:55,711 including of what’s in front of you. 542 00:20:55,712 --> 00:20:58,714 Because, like, it’s not going to be there forever. 543 00:20:58,715 --> 00:21:01,216 I can’t do that work for you. 544 00:21:01,217 --> 00:21:03,470 But, like, figure your shit out a little bit. 545 00:21:04,679 --> 00:21:06,305 Okay. 546 00:21:06,306 --> 00:21:08,223 I don’t think the ship has sunk, by any means, 547 00:21:08,224 --> 00:21:11,143 but also, like, I’m not going to convince someone to be with me. 548 00:21:11,144 --> 00:21:12,978 [Felipe] I really fucking like you, Tori. 549 00:21:12,979 --> 00:21:14,480 I think you’re fucking awesome. 550 00:21:14,481 --> 00:21:16,231 I’m 100% committed to you, and that’s it. 551 00:21:16,232 --> 00:21:18,400 I’m-- I’m hoping I can be that forever. 552 00:21:18,401 --> 00:21:20,152 I just, I just don’t know right now. 553 00:21:20,153 --> 00:21:23,073 ♪ When it all fades out ♪ 554 00:21:24,282 --> 00:21:27,868 ♪ We’ll be standing here ♪ 555 00:21:27,869 --> 00:21:29,870 ♪ When it all comes down ♪ 556 00:21:29,871 --> 00:21:34,750 {\an8}I do feel like Devin and Nick are in the same kind of boat. 557 00:21:34,751 --> 00:21:36,585 {\an8}- Very similar boat. - Where they’re, like, 558 00:21:36,586 --> 00:21:39,755 {\an8}they are, like, wanting to connect with the girls more, 559 00:21:39,756 --> 00:21:41,757 {\an8}- and the girls have walls up. - [Adam] Yeah. 560 00:21:41,758 --> 00:21:45,260 I feel like Courteney, like, genuinely is trying. 561 00:21:45,261 --> 00:21:47,179 Yeah. 562 00:21:47,180 --> 00:21:48,931 After all the things that she said, and she is frustrated. 563 00:21:48,932 --> 00:21:50,724 She’s putting in more effort than Caitlin, I feel like. 564 00:21:50,725 --> 00:21:52,101 Yes, I-- I would agree with that. 565 00:21:52,102 --> 00:21:53,227 - That’s what it comes down to. - Yeah. 566 00:21:53,228 --> 00:21:54,438 {\an8}Yeah. 567 00:22:03,405 --> 00:22:04,614 {\an8}Oh! 568 00:22:07,283 --> 00:22:13,038 ♪ This is my siren call ♪ 569 00:22:13,039 --> 00:22:17,709 {\an8}♪ A void inside ♪ 570 00:22:17,710 --> 00:22:19,378 {\an8}I do just want to say that I’m sorry 571 00:22:19,379 --> 00:22:21,755 {\an8}that that’s the way that that happened, 572 00:22:21,756 --> 00:22:23,800 {\an8}and that’s the way that that went down. 573 00:22:24,134 --> 00:22:26,802 That was not at all my intention behind that. 574 00:22:26,803 --> 00:22:29,138 I feel like you were... immediately just, like, 575 00:22:29,139 --> 00:22:31,932 presented, like, everything in an extremely negative light. 576 00:22:31,933 --> 00:22:35,270 Like, I don’t know what way you hoped that would end. 577 00:22:40,608 --> 00:22:42,985 I feel, like, so difficult to love right now. 578 00:22:42,986 --> 00:22:44,903 Like, literally, that’s how I’m feeling. 579 00:22:44,904 --> 00:22:47,948 Like, I just feel like it’s so hard. 580 00:22:47,949 --> 00:22:49,451 I mean, it kind of feels that way. 581 00:22:53,496 --> 00:22:55,497 Like, do you ever, like, just sit down in your day 582 00:22:55,498 --> 00:22:57,959 and, like, list out the positive things that happened with us? 583 00:22:58,501 --> 00:23:00,461 Because I feel like any time you get-- you get probed, 584 00:23:00,462 --> 00:23:03,005 you get asked, you’re like, "Yep, this is shitty." 585 00:23:03,006 --> 00:23:04,465 "I wish that this was better." 586 00:23:04,466 --> 00:23:06,008 "I’m still not getting enough from her." 587 00:23:06,009 --> 00:23:07,676 Whereas when I’m probed about you, I’m like, 588 00:23:07,677 --> 00:23:09,803 "He literally does all of this. It’s insane." 589 00:23:09,804 --> 00:23:11,972 Like, I don’t-- like, I’ve never been treated this way. 590 00:23:11,973 --> 00:23:13,640 This is, like, amazing. 591 00:23:13,641 --> 00:23:15,350 But I don’t need to hear it in front of the cameras. 592 00:23:15,351 --> 00:23:17,644 - Fuck these cameras. - It’s-- It’s-- 593 00:23:17,645 --> 00:23:19,855 Just take-- you talk about cameras more than anybody I’ve ever met in my life. 594 00:23:19,856 --> 00:23:21,732 It’s because the only time that I feel like we actually get to connect 595 00:23:21,733 --> 00:23:23,859 and, like, have, like, conversation, and time, 596 00:23:23,860 --> 00:23:26,361 and I see your personality is in front of these fucking cameras. 597 00:23:26,362 --> 00:23:28,155 Go revisit. 598 00:23:28,156 --> 00:23:29,656 What was your favorite day that we ever spent together? 599 00:23:29,657 --> 00:23:31,033 Was that at the EDM Fest? 600 00:23:31,034 --> 00:23:32,494 - Yes, it was. - Show me the cameras. 601 00:23:33,536 --> 00:23:35,496 I’m not doing the nitpick again. 602 00:23:35,497 --> 00:23:37,706 And so if you can’t, like, just see and, like, 603 00:23:37,707 --> 00:23:40,209 clock things when they happen versus you, like, 604 00:23:40,210 --> 00:23:43,170 focusing on everything horrible that you think is going on in this relationship, 605 00:23:43,171 --> 00:23:45,797 then there will be zero forward movement. 606 00:23:45,798 --> 00:23:48,718 We will be in a stagnant, stagnant water forever. 607 00:23:50,470 --> 00:23:53,222 There’s a rejection that I feel from you, 608 00:23:53,223 --> 00:23:55,976 and it’s different than anything I’ve ever experienced. 609 00:23:59,062 --> 00:24:03,148 Now I feel like I suck at everything, because I can’t have the-- 610 00:24:03,149 --> 00:24:05,400 a couple days to just, like, relax 611 00:24:05,401 --> 00:24:07,402 and be able to, like, lean into you in the way you want. 612 00:24:07,403 --> 00:24:10,822 So I don’t know what else to do. 613 00:24:10,823 --> 00:24:14,201 ♪ Didn’t believe in love ♪ 614 00:24:14,202 --> 00:24:15,412 [Devin sighs] 615 00:24:17,080 --> 00:24:19,249 ♪ Thought it’s something ♪ 616 00:24:20,416 --> 00:24:23,252 ♪ I’m just not capable of ♪ 617 00:24:23,253 --> 00:24:25,671 Today was kind of a kick in the face for me. 618 00:24:25,672 --> 00:24:28,507 Everything is just not enough. 619 00:24:28,508 --> 00:24:30,594 [sobbing] 620 00:24:32,762 --> 00:24:35,348 How do I up the effort... 621 00:24:36,349 --> 00:24:39,101 when now I’m feeling like this? 622 00:24:39,102 --> 00:24:40,602 So... 623 00:24:40,603 --> 00:24:42,396 I’m, like, one second away from dry-heaving, 624 00:24:42,397 --> 00:24:44,731 so I’m just trying to keep it together. 625 00:24:44,732 --> 00:24:46,733 ♪ Help me ♪ 626 00:24:46,734 --> 00:24:48,026 ♪ I’ll fall ♪ 627 00:24:48,027 --> 00:24:50,864 ♪ Don’t let it end ♪ 628 00:24:53,741 --> 00:24:57,746 ♪ How I feel, How else to fight ♪ 629 00:24:58,371 --> 00:25:01,582 ♪ From a place Where there they are calling ♪ 630 00:25:01,583 --> 00:25:03,335 I’m just, like, frustrated with the whole night, you know? 631 00:25:03,793 --> 00:25:06,295 From tonight, like, me and her should be the ones to break up. 632 00:25:06,296 --> 00:25:07,963 You know what I mean? 633 00:25:07,964 --> 00:25:09,590 I think it’s a fair assessment, just because of 634 00:25:09,591 --> 00:25:10,966 where we’re at, and how the conversation went. 635 00:25:10,967 --> 00:25:13,885 ♪ I give my all ♪ 636 00:25:13,886 --> 00:25:17,806 ♪ It’s in your hands ♪ 637 00:25:17,807 --> 00:25:19,725 But, I mean, we were saying the same exact thing 638 00:25:19,726 --> 00:25:22,811 after, you know, the first dinner with Shawn and Nikki, 639 00:25:22,812 --> 00:25:25,272 and now they seem like one of the strongest right now. 640 00:25:25,273 --> 00:25:27,566 So it’s about how we move, 641 00:25:27,567 --> 00:25:29,901 ’cause under three weeks, there’s a decision, 642 00:25:29,902 --> 00:25:31,778 and then all of this shit’s gone. 643 00:25:31,779 --> 00:25:34,199 And it’s either, like, we’re together or we’re not. 644 00:25:34,824 --> 00:25:38,660 ♪ I will lay my life And all that I am ♪ 645 00:25:38,661 --> 00:25:41,830 ♪ In your hands ♪ 646 00:25:41,831 --> 00:25:43,667 [Caitlin sniffling] 647 00:25:49,130 --> 00:25:52,215 ♪ Are you ready for this? ♪ 648 00:25:52,216 --> 00:25:53,800 ♪ Mm-hmm, are you ♪ 649 00:25:53,801 --> 00:25:55,636 - [Shawn] All righty. You ready? - [Nikki] Yes! 650 00:25:55,637 --> 00:25:57,471 [Shawn] Let’s go. 651 00:25:57,472 --> 00:25:59,808 {\an8}- It’s really two hours. - Mm-hmm. 652 00:26:01,809 --> 00:26:04,563 Take a nap, so you can be awake when you get to my place. 653 00:26:05,647 --> 00:26:07,566 [snoring] 654 00:26:10,735 --> 00:26:12,946 {\an8}[upbeat music] 655 00:26:15,740 --> 00:26:17,240 [Nikki yawning] 656 00:26:17,241 --> 00:26:19,160 That was a nice little nap. 657 00:26:23,998 --> 00:26:28,169 So what are you most looking forward to showing me today? 658 00:26:28,336 --> 00:26:29,920 It’s a really simple place, 659 00:26:29,921 --> 00:26:31,922 so it still feels kind of like I just moved in. 660 00:26:31,923 --> 00:26:33,465 You’ll notice that 661 00:26:33,466 --> 00:26:35,342 I don’t have a lot of stuff on the walls. 662 00:26:35,343 --> 00:26:37,262 So, hope you like it. 663 00:26:38,971 --> 00:26:41,807 {\an8}- Welcome to my home. - Awesome. 664 00:26:41,808 --> 00:26:45,769 Where I haven’t done much here in some time. 665 00:26:45,770 --> 00:26:47,312 - [Nikki] Okay. - [Shawn] As you can see, 666 00:26:47,313 --> 00:26:49,648 I’ve got to clean up a little bit, but... 667 00:26:49,649 --> 00:26:51,692 I’m never here, so, that’s that. 668 00:26:51,693 --> 00:26:53,318 Okay. 669 00:26:53,319 --> 00:26:54,778 This is where I don’t have anything to eat. 670 00:26:54,779 --> 00:26:56,363 You literally just have condiments. 671 00:26:56,364 --> 00:26:58,490 - Pretty much, pretty much. - It’s so bachelor-y. 672 00:26:58,491 --> 00:27:00,701 The progress we’re making in our relationship right now, 673 00:27:00,702 --> 00:27:02,369 it feels very real to me. 674 00:27:02,370 --> 00:27:04,162 Really simple. 675 00:27:04,163 --> 00:27:06,164 Welcome to my living room. 676 00:27:06,165 --> 00:27:09,126 We still need to, like, progress things physically, 677 00:27:09,127 --> 00:27:11,503 but Nikki is thinking about the future. 678 00:27:11,504 --> 00:27:13,296 She is being soft. 679 00:27:13,297 --> 00:27:15,632 She is, you know, checking in on me while I’m at work, 680 00:27:15,633 --> 00:27:16,885 sending me text messages, 681 00:27:17,051 --> 00:27:18,510 making sure we have food in the house, 682 00:27:18,511 --> 00:27:20,053 and making plans for dinner. I mean, 683 00:27:20,054 --> 00:27:21,888 she is now starting to show up 684 00:27:21,889 --> 00:27:23,515 as the wife that I’ve been waiting for. 685 00:27:23,516 --> 00:27:27,060 So, this is a gaming chair. Are you a gamer? 686 00:27:27,061 --> 00:27:29,187 Nope. It’s just the most comfortable chair 687 00:27:29,188 --> 00:27:30,731 - for doing work. - Okay. 688 00:27:30,732 --> 00:27:32,524 I like your book collection. 689 00:27:32,525 --> 00:27:34,234 I’m sure you have some of your favorites. 690 00:27:34,235 --> 00:27:36,361 Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah. As you can tell, I like to read. 691 00:27:36,362 --> 00:27:38,155 I’m a little bit of a nerd. You’ll see, also, that I wrote a book, 692 00:27:38,156 --> 00:27:39,906 so, you see my book down there, some copies of that. 693 00:27:39,907 --> 00:27:41,408 - [Nikki] This one? - [Shawn] Mm-hmm. 694 00:27:41,409 --> 00:27:43,744 [Nikki] Very cool. All right. What’s next? 695 00:27:43,745 --> 00:27:46,913 [Shawn] Let’s show you where the magic happens. 696 00:27:46,914 --> 00:27:48,708 All right. 697 00:27:50,042 --> 00:27:53,254 Oh, my gosh. It is, like, so firm. 698 00:27:53,588 --> 00:27:55,839 - Oh, it feels so good. - Like, how do you sleep on this? 699 00:27:55,840 --> 00:27:59,342 I sleep like a baby on this. It’s great! 700 00:27:59,343 --> 00:28:01,052 It feels like I’m on the floor. 701 00:28:01,053 --> 00:28:02,596 I feel like I can just literally go to sleep 702 00:28:02,597 --> 00:28:03,930 literally right now. 703 00:28:03,931 --> 00:28:05,725 I would not live here. 704 00:28:06,684 --> 00:28:08,101 This would not be our home. 705 00:28:08,102 --> 00:28:10,520 I actually expected this place 706 00:28:10,521 --> 00:28:12,773 to be a bit more well-decorated, 707 00:28:12,774 --> 00:28:14,441 a bit cleaner, a bit neater. 708 00:28:14,442 --> 00:28:16,443 He kind of presents like he’s very put together, 709 00:28:16,444 --> 00:28:19,362 and I expected that to be evident in the way he lives. 710 00:28:19,363 --> 00:28:22,032 So, now, we gotta make a move and see your place. 711 00:28:22,033 --> 00:28:23,533 Okay, let’s do that. 712 00:28:23,534 --> 00:28:25,035 Yeah? You ready to make this move? 713 00:28:25,036 --> 00:28:26,746 - See the other side. - [Shawn] All right. 714 00:28:31,250 --> 00:28:33,585 How long have you been in this apartment, or this house? 715 00:28:33,586 --> 00:28:36,046 I bought this house, like, almost two years ago. 716 00:28:36,047 --> 00:28:37,714 Still fairly new. 717 00:28:37,715 --> 00:28:39,758 Yeah, it feels new. I feel like I’m still decorating 718 00:28:39,759 --> 00:28:42,552 and getting the décor set up. 719 00:28:42,553 --> 00:28:46,141 It takes time if you want a more curated look. 720 00:28:48,309 --> 00:28:50,478 [♪] 721 00:28:51,646 --> 00:28:54,147 {\an8}- It’s a shoeless house. - [Shawn] Shoeless. 722 00:28:54,148 --> 00:28:56,107 But we’re fine to put our shoes 723 00:28:56,108 --> 00:28:57,651 in this little cabinet that I have set up here. 724 00:28:57,652 --> 00:28:59,320 Okay. 725 00:28:59,904 --> 00:29:03,615 - Oh, wow. Beautiful. - Thank you. 726 00:29:03,616 --> 00:29:05,784 You’ve done more than a little bit with this. 727 00:29:05,785 --> 00:29:07,327 Thank you. 728 00:29:07,328 --> 00:29:09,287 - Very nice. Here? - Yeah. 729 00:29:09,288 --> 00:29:10,914 - Okay. Awesome. - Okay. 730 00:29:10,915 --> 00:29:12,666 So, yeah, this is the main living space. 731 00:29:12,667 --> 00:29:14,167 Obviously, this is the kitchen. 732 00:29:14,168 --> 00:29:16,503 - Yes. - I spend a lot of time here. 733 00:29:16,504 --> 00:29:18,506 - I love a good island. - Yes. 734 00:29:18,756 --> 00:29:22,968 This open cabinet situation I really love. 735 00:29:22,969 --> 00:29:25,136 - I love that. - Do you want a fridge tour? 736 00:29:25,137 --> 00:29:27,681 There’s a little, wee bit more than yours. 737 00:29:27,682 --> 00:29:30,100 It’s condiments and beverages. 738 00:29:30,101 --> 00:29:32,018 [both laugh] 739 00:29:32,019 --> 00:29:32,978 - And there is a half-bottle of Veuve. - [Shawn] Cool. 740 00:29:32,979 --> 00:29:34,437 [laughs] Just in case. 741 00:29:34,438 --> 00:29:35,856 Because there’s always a celebration. 742 00:29:35,857 --> 00:29:37,691 - This is gorgeous. - Thank you. 743 00:29:37,692 --> 00:29:39,609 This is actually my favorite piece of furniture 744 00:29:39,610 --> 00:29:41,736 in the entire house. 745 00:29:41,737 --> 00:29:43,530 - Is there an origin with this? Like, is there-- Why? - Uh, India. 746 00:29:43,531 --> 00:29:45,198 - Oh, India? - Yeah. 747 00:29:45,199 --> 00:29:46,533 - Wait, from India? - [Nikki] Yeah, yeah, yeah. 748 00:29:46,534 --> 00:29:47,951 This is amazing. 749 00:29:47,952 --> 00:29:49,536 I mean, I bought it from West Elm. 750 00:29:49,537 --> 00:29:51,288 - Right. Okay. - Right. 751 00:29:51,289 --> 00:29:52,706 - All right. - And then, yeah, 752 00:29:52,707 --> 00:29:55,041 - this is the living room area. - Comfy. 753 00:29:55,042 --> 00:29:57,210 Oh, this rug is also from India. 754 00:29:57,211 --> 00:29:59,671 - [Shawn] Nice. - So I actually went to Bangalore and brought this back. 755 00:29:59,672 --> 00:30:01,506 - [Shawn] Ooh-hoo-hoo! - [Nikki] And it feels so good on the feet. 756 00:30:01,507 --> 00:30:03,508 - [Shawn] It feels great. - [Nikki] Take my socks off, 757 00:30:03,509 --> 00:30:05,176 - and feel it on my feet. - [Shawn] It feels great on the feet. 758 00:30:05,177 --> 00:30:07,053 She’s very bougie. I think she’s probably used to 759 00:30:07,054 --> 00:30:09,222 being the bougiest of her group. 760 00:30:09,223 --> 00:30:11,850 But I come from a very bougie group. 761 00:30:11,851 --> 00:30:14,395 And so Nikki’s house is not, like, 762 00:30:15,229 --> 00:30:17,188 so mind-blowing, in my mind. 763 00:30:17,189 --> 00:30:19,482 But it’s very-- she’s worked very hard. 764 00:30:19,483 --> 00:30:21,192 And it has very nice, beautiful things 765 00:30:21,193 --> 00:30:22,403 that I really respect. 766 00:30:22,987 --> 00:30:25,989 [Nikki] The second floor. This is the guest bathroom. 767 00:30:25,990 --> 00:30:27,574 No Number Twos on the first floor. 768 00:30:27,575 --> 00:30:29,242 On the first floor. 769 00:30:29,243 --> 00:30:30,994 The-- The powder room is only for Number One. 770 00:30:30,995 --> 00:30:32,078 So what about guests who come in on the first floor? 771 00:30:32,079 --> 00:30:33,580 What do you want them to do? 772 00:30:33,581 --> 00:30:35,248 - They would come to here. - Oh, okay. Gotcha. 773 00:30:35,249 --> 00:30:37,417 I don’t like that radiating through the first floor. 774 00:30:37,418 --> 00:30:39,044 - The bedroom is like this. - [Shawn] It’s just a bed. 775 00:30:39,045 --> 00:30:41,421 - It’s super, you know. - I love it. 776 00:30:41,422 --> 00:30:43,089 Oh, this bed is too soft. 777 00:30:43,090 --> 00:30:44,591 Oh, isn’t it? You’re melting. 778 00:30:44,592 --> 00:30:47,093 - Look at you. - Oh, I can’t do it. 779 00:30:47,094 --> 00:30:49,262 - You literally are melting. - It’s-- I’m falling. 780 00:30:49,263 --> 00:30:50,764 So, this is a convertible bed. 781 00:30:50,765 --> 00:30:53,767 Okay. Oh, yeah. See? 782 00:30:53,768 --> 00:30:55,435 All right. We’re the same kind of bougie. 783 00:30:55,436 --> 00:30:57,062 - I love that. - Yeah. 784 00:30:57,063 --> 00:30:58,897 [sighing] 785 00:30:58,898 --> 00:31:02,025 - Want to go back downstairs? - Yes. Let’s go. Let’s do it. 786 00:31:02,026 --> 00:31:03,278 All right. 787 00:31:03,861 --> 00:31:05,779 That concludes the official house tour. 788 00:31:05,780 --> 00:31:06,947 [Shawn] Amazing. 789 00:31:06,948 --> 00:31:09,407 [both sighing] 790 00:31:09,408 --> 00:31:13,411 If we were to stay together after Decision Day, 791 00:31:13,412 --> 00:31:16,122 how do you imagine, like, we’d live? 792 00:31:16,123 --> 00:31:19,292 Like, are we in Bremerton? Are we in Columbia? 793 00:31:19,293 --> 00:31:20,919 - Is it Columbia City? - Columbia City. 794 00:31:20,920 --> 00:31:23,046 - Columbia City, like... - Or Central District. 795 00:31:23,047 --> 00:31:25,632 - What’s your feeling? What do you like? - Definitely not Bremerton. 796 00:31:25,633 --> 00:31:27,050 [laughing] 797 00:31:27,051 --> 00:31:28,301 Let’s just put that out there. 798 00:31:28,302 --> 00:31:29,970 Shot down. Okay. 799 00:31:29,971 --> 00:31:32,305 - Bremerton’s great. - It’s not great. 800 00:31:32,306 --> 00:31:34,307 - You don’t have to say that. - Well, no, it’s great. 801 00:31:34,308 --> 00:31:36,309 - I don’t love Bremerton. - I’ll finish the sentence. 802 00:31:36,310 --> 00:31:39,147 - Okay. - It’s great for someone who works in Bremerton. 803 00:31:39,438 --> 00:31:40,772 But no, I would not want to live there. 804 00:31:40,773 --> 00:31:42,148 Okay. 805 00:31:42,149 --> 00:31:45,151 So, I definitely could see us living here. 806 00:31:45,152 --> 00:31:48,655 Mm-hmm. And I can also see myself here, as well. 807 00:31:48,656 --> 00:31:50,867 I was hoping you’d say that. 808 00:31:51,325 --> 00:31:55,161 I’m grateful for this experiment to give me 809 00:31:55,162 --> 00:31:57,998 a chance at, like, a real, lasting love. 810 00:31:57,999 --> 00:32:02,168 I’ve been waiting a very long time to be married. 811 00:32:02,169 --> 00:32:04,838 And we have a lot of things in common. 812 00:32:04,839 --> 00:32:07,007 And we have some differences that I find interesting 813 00:32:07,008 --> 00:32:09,175 that could actually provide, like, 814 00:32:09,176 --> 00:32:11,095 some stimulation for both of us. 815 00:32:11,345 --> 00:32:13,805 I think it’s a matter of whether we can, 816 00:32:13,806 --> 00:32:15,515 in these short couple of weeks together, 817 00:32:15,516 --> 00:32:18,852 feel like we have enough of an emotional connection 818 00:32:18,853 --> 00:32:20,979 to say yes on Decision Day. 819 00:32:20,980 --> 00:32:23,189 - Super proud of you. Like, really great work. - Thank you. 820 00:32:23,190 --> 00:32:26,526 Like, it’s rare to see someone doing as well as you are doing. 821 00:32:26,527 --> 00:32:28,862 - Aw. - And, uh, so, keep it going. 822 00:32:28,863 --> 00:32:30,196 Thank you. I appreciate that. 823 00:32:30,197 --> 00:32:32,365 I love a strong, good, accomplished 824 00:32:32,366 --> 00:32:34,117 - Black woman doing her thing. - [Nikki] Thanks. 825 00:32:34,118 --> 00:32:35,702 - So, high-five. - High-fives. 826 00:32:35,703 --> 00:32:37,370 - Well done. - Appreciate that. 827 00:32:37,371 --> 00:32:38,706 - Appreciate you. Yeah. - [Shawn] Definitely, yeah. 828 00:32:44,628 --> 00:32:46,963 {\an8}♪ Got butterflies, You’re liable ♪ 829 00:32:46,964 --> 00:32:51,384 {\an8}We’re headed down to Portland so I can finally see Cam’s spot. 830 00:32:51,385 --> 00:32:53,470 This is our first road trip. 831 00:32:53,471 --> 00:32:56,639 It’s amazing that I have an awesome tour guide. 832 00:32:56,640 --> 00:32:58,725 ♪ I want you ♪ 833 00:32:58,726 --> 00:33:01,436 {\an8}♪ I want you So bad, bad, bad ♪ 834 00:33:01,437 --> 00:33:04,647 {\an8}Do you think you’ll be able to convince me to move to Portland? 835 00:33:04,648 --> 00:33:06,483 I’m not gonna try to convince you because 836 00:33:06,484 --> 00:33:08,151 it’s not what’s best for us, 837 00:33:08,152 --> 00:33:10,612 but I do want you at least to be like, 838 00:33:10,613 --> 00:33:13,698 okay, this would be a nice place to live if we ended up here. 839 00:33:13,699 --> 00:33:15,450 ♪ I can’t stop this feeling ♪ 840 00:33:15,451 --> 00:33:16,951 [Cameron] My place! 841 00:33:16,952 --> 00:33:18,620 {\an8}- All right, you ready? - [Michelle] Yeah. 842 00:33:18,621 --> 00:33:20,497 {\an8}- [Cameron] Don’t judge. - [Michelle] Okay. 843 00:33:20,498 --> 00:33:21,833 Oh, my gosh. 844 00:33:22,833 --> 00:33:24,834 Look at all the plants. 845 00:33:24,835 --> 00:33:26,836 [Cameron] I’m a fan of foliage. 846 00:33:26,837 --> 00:33:29,172 This one doesn’t look like it’s doing too well. 847 00:33:29,173 --> 00:33:30,757 What are you talking about? Look at that. 848 00:33:30,758 --> 00:33:32,008 There are no leaves. 849 00:33:32,009 --> 00:33:33,344 - It’s okay. - Okay. 850 00:33:33,844 --> 00:33:36,179 - Who painted this? - [Cameron] My mom. 851 00:33:36,180 --> 00:33:38,348 - Really? - [Cameron] Yeah. 852 00:33:38,349 --> 00:33:39,766 - She did a great job. - [Cameron] Don’t you think it looks like her? 853 00:33:39,767 --> 00:33:40,975 Yeah, it looks exactly like Olive. 854 00:33:40,976 --> 00:33:43,603 This is my room. It’s minimalist. 855 00:33:43,604 --> 00:33:48,860 Wow. A king-size bed. This is pretty comfortable. 856 00:33:49,110 --> 00:33:50,319 - I know. - Yeah. 857 00:33:51,028 --> 00:33:52,779 - [Cameron] Watch this. - [Michelle] Okay. 858 00:33:52,780 --> 00:33:54,781 I’ve really been waiting for you to get here 859 00:33:54,782 --> 00:33:56,658 - so we could do this. - [laughs] 860 00:33:56,659 --> 00:33:58,535 Like, look how nice this is. 861 00:33:58,536 --> 00:34:01,037 [laughs] This is, like, what old people do. 862 00:34:01,038 --> 00:34:03,289 I know. Isn’t this nice? 863 00:34:03,290 --> 00:34:04,666 I mean, yeah. 864 00:34:04,667 --> 00:34:06,042 [laughs] 865 00:34:06,043 --> 00:34:08,878 It’s definitely a man cave. 866 00:34:08,879 --> 00:34:12,215 Could have used a few more decorations in there. 867 00:34:12,216 --> 00:34:14,092 He has a lot of plants. 868 00:34:14,093 --> 00:34:16,219 I don’t have a green thumb, but I’ve always loved 869 00:34:16,220 --> 00:34:19,222 the idea of living in a place with lots of greenery. 870 00:34:19,223 --> 00:34:21,391 So, I hope that when we get a place, 871 00:34:21,392 --> 00:34:23,561 he’ll take care of all the plants for us. 872 00:34:23,853 --> 00:34:25,646 - I could get used to this. - I know. 873 00:34:27,857 --> 00:34:32,612 {\an8}♪ You need some money ♪ 874 00:34:33,028 --> 00:34:35,238 {\an8}- Hello. - [Dr. Lisa] Hi, you guys! 875 00:34:35,239 --> 00:34:36,990 {\an8}How are you doing? It’s nice to see you. 876 00:34:36,991 --> 00:34:38,908 {\an8}- I’m so happy to see you both. - Likewise. Likewise. 877 00:34:38,909 --> 00:34:40,493 - Hi! - Good to see you. 878 00:34:40,494 --> 00:34:42,245 Oh, my God. 879 00:34:42,246 --> 00:34:45,748 You guys, I realize I didn’t do either of your reveals. 880 00:34:45,749 --> 00:34:47,417 [Adam and Marissa] I know. 881 00:34:47,418 --> 00:34:49,043 And I haven’t done a session with you yet. 882 00:34:49,044 --> 00:34:50,211 - No. - I know. 883 00:34:50,212 --> 00:34:52,088 How is everything? 884 00:34:52,089 --> 00:34:57,010 We had our, uh, first, like, bad day, and it was his dream day. 885 00:34:57,011 --> 00:35:00,722 - We, like, arrived to the pickleball courts on a jet ski. - Mm-hmm. 886 00:35:00,723 --> 00:35:04,310 And I was, like, having, like, an off day, you could say. 887 00:35:05,060 --> 00:35:07,020 Which is, like, first of a thousand you’ll have in a marriage. 888 00:35:07,021 --> 00:35:08,521 - Right. - [Adam] For sure. 889 00:35:08,522 --> 00:35:09,939 What was the meaning you assigned to it? 890 00:35:09,940 --> 00:35:11,774 Calling the whole thing into question? 891 00:35:11,775 --> 00:35:13,611 Freaking out? Like, what did that look like? 892 00:35:13,819 --> 00:35:15,528 Yeah, it gave me a little bit of, like, worry for the future, 893 00:35:15,529 --> 00:35:17,280 because that’s something 894 00:35:17,281 --> 00:35:18,948 I want to do, like, five days a week in the summer. 895 00:35:18,949 --> 00:35:20,867 You know, like, that’s my ideal day. 896 00:35:20,868 --> 00:35:23,369 So, for you, it called compatibility into question? 897 00:35:23,370 --> 00:35:25,622 A little bit, I guess. Yeah. 898 00:35:25,623 --> 00:35:28,291 And? What does that feel like? Does it freak you out? Does it, like-- 899 00:35:28,292 --> 00:35:29,959 Oh, yeah. Definitely, yeah. 900 00:35:29,960 --> 00:35:32,462 I mean, it’s scary for sure, and, like, everything had 901 00:35:32,463 --> 00:35:33,796 just been going so well, so it just 902 00:35:33,797 --> 00:35:35,299 kinda, like, caught me off guard. 903 00:35:36,091 --> 00:35:40,428 I’m interested to learn 904 00:35:40,429 --> 00:35:43,806 why everything gets done at level 10. 905 00:35:43,807 --> 00:35:48,269 Whenever I meet someone who’s all-in on something at 10... 906 00:35:48,270 --> 00:35:51,105 - Yeah. Yeah. - I’m always like, what are you running from? 907 00:35:51,106 --> 00:35:54,776 - What is happening that there’s not a little fluidity? - [Adam] Yeah. 908 00:35:54,777 --> 00:35:56,736 I’ve always been, like, an all-in 909 00:35:56,737 --> 00:35:58,988 or all-out type of person. You know, like, 910 00:35:58,989 --> 00:36:01,950 With everything in my life, I would always just, like, push myself. 911 00:36:01,951 --> 00:36:03,826 And I don’t know, I think it was just 912 00:36:03,827 --> 00:36:05,578 instilled from my dad at, like, a young age to just always 913 00:36:05,579 --> 00:36:07,747 do your best, no matter what. 914 00:36:07,748 --> 00:36:10,124 Your dad is the one that gave you a need for excellence. 915 00:36:10,125 --> 00:36:12,460 I would say so. Like, he-- yeah, has always 916 00:36:12,461 --> 00:36:14,671 really pushed himself in, like, anything he’s done. 917 00:36:14,672 --> 00:36:16,464 He wouldn’t really directly push me, I feel like, 918 00:36:16,465 --> 00:36:19,342 just indirectly, just by leading by example, I guess. 919 00:36:19,343 --> 00:36:21,678 What about sports, instrument, martial arts? 920 00:36:21,679 --> 00:36:24,681 Like, did you have stuff growing up that they were like, 921 00:36:24,682 --> 00:36:26,599 excellence, Adam, pursuit of excellence or no? 922 00:36:26,600 --> 00:36:28,810 There was some stuff, yeah, like, classical piano, I was-- 923 00:36:28,811 --> 00:36:30,853 - You played piano? - I did, yeah. 924 00:36:30,854 --> 00:36:34,190 I had to play, like, an hour every day, and I did, like, lessons 925 00:36:34,191 --> 00:36:37,485 for, like, 13, 14 years, I’m sure, like, a very long time. Um... 926 00:36:37,486 --> 00:36:40,280 Joyfully, or because they were like, do it, and? 927 00:36:40,281 --> 00:36:42,490 No, they made me. Yeah, it was a fight. 928 00:36:42,491 --> 00:36:44,284 And they also made me do Boy Scouts, 929 00:36:44,285 --> 00:36:46,119 and they made me go all the way up to Eagle Scout. 930 00:36:46,120 --> 00:36:48,997 And I remember I, like, hid both, like, to my grave. 931 00:36:48,998 --> 00:36:52,000 I thought it was, like, super dorky. And I’ll never forget this day, 932 00:36:52,001 --> 00:36:54,377 I was, like, hanging out with, like, a bunch of new friends. 933 00:36:54,378 --> 00:36:56,796 Like, first time I had all my new high school friends over. 934 00:36:56,797 --> 00:36:58,381 And I had to, like, beg my parents, I’m like, 935 00:36:58,382 --> 00:37:00,300 do not bring up piano, 936 00:37:00,301 --> 00:37:02,218 do not bring up Boy Scouts, like, anything else. 937 00:37:02,219 --> 00:37:05,013 And my mom comes in, we’re all just sitting in a circle. 938 00:37:05,014 --> 00:37:08,391 And she’s like, Adam, you have your, like, Boy Scout troop meeting in an hour, 939 00:37:08,392 --> 00:37:10,018 and then you have a piano lesson after. 940 00:37:10,019 --> 00:37:11,978 And I was just like, I’m cooked. 941 00:37:11,979 --> 00:37:13,604 Like, she-- like, it was horrible. 942 00:37:13,605 --> 00:37:15,565 What is it like to have these two major features 943 00:37:15,566 --> 00:37:17,900 of your upbringing and childhood and, like, 944 00:37:17,901 --> 00:37:20,987 devotion of time that you didn’t feel proud of? 945 00:37:20,988 --> 00:37:22,822 I mean, it was kinda tough back then. 946 00:37:22,823 --> 00:37:25,158 I kinda just, like, hid it. But now, like, I don’t care. 947 00:37:25,159 --> 00:37:27,368 Do you think that’s why you live so out loud 948 00:37:27,369 --> 00:37:29,370 in your own right now, right? 949 00:37:29,371 --> 00:37:31,164 - Yeah. - Like, you don’t have a quiet ownership of things. 950 00:37:31,165 --> 00:37:32,749 It’s a very demonstrative ownership. 951 00:37:32,750 --> 00:37:34,417 - For sure. - I wonder if 952 00:37:34,418 --> 00:37:36,586 - it comes from sort of a reaction... - Yeah. 953 00:37:36,587 --> 00:37:38,838 ...to having that stuff back when. 954 00:37:38,839 --> 00:37:40,590 Like, I’ve always been so passionate about things. 955 00:37:40,591 --> 00:37:42,258 Like, I can’t really remember when I’ve done 956 00:37:42,259 --> 00:37:43,885 something for, like, an extended period of time 957 00:37:43,886 --> 00:37:46,095 where I didn’t push it to, like, 100 out of 10. 958 00:37:46,096 --> 00:37:49,766 So, I am wondering, like, does your partner need 959 00:37:49,767 --> 00:37:53,019 to rise to that level of intensity? 960 00:37:53,020 --> 00:37:54,896 Yeah, I really want someone who’s, like, active and, like, 961 00:37:54,897 --> 00:37:56,689 into being fit and, like, putting a lot of time into that. 962 00:37:56,690 --> 00:37:58,274 Because that’s just, like, what I’ve gotten 963 00:37:58,275 --> 00:37:59,901 so into the last, like, couple years. 964 00:37:59,902 --> 00:38:01,944 And I see myself, like, skiing aggressively 965 00:38:01,945 --> 00:38:03,780 ’til I’m, like, 60, 70, and then still, like, 966 00:38:03,781 --> 00:38:06,240 skiing, like, lightly ’til I’m, like, 90, ideally, right? 967 00:38:06,241 --> 00:38:08,618 And then, like, playing pickleball the next, like, 60 years. 968 00:38:08,619 --> 00:38:10,453 I see my life, like, extremely physical. 969 00:38:10,454 --> 00:38:12,121 I just love it. Like, it just makes me feel alive. 970 00:38:12,122 --> 00:38:13,873 So, it’s tough to ignore it. 971 00:38:13,874 --> 00:38:16,084 What comes up for you when you hear all of that? 972 00:38:16,085 --> 00:38:17,752 [Marissa sighs heavily] 973 00:38:17,753 --> 00:38:20,004 He has had a girlfriend who was able to keep up 974 00:38:20,005 --> 00:38:22,215 with him before, and that’s who I’m being compared to. 975 00:38:22,216 --> 00:38:24,133 It obviously didn’t work out for other reasons, 976 00:38:24,134 --> 00:38:26,427 but that’s always gonna be in the back of his head that, 977 00:38:26,428 --> 00:38:28,429 you know, I’m now the one who can’t keep up. 978 00:38:28,430 --> 00:38:30,973 And then I have someone who’s, like, 979 00:38:30,974 --> 00:38:33,893 yeah, but I’m at this level and you’re at this level. 980 00:38:33,894 --> 00:38:36,396 And so I’m, like, I can’t... 981 00:38:36,397 --> 00:38:40,985 get to the intensity level that he is wanting. 982 00:38:42,945 --> 00:38:45,072 Do you want to be in a situation like that? 983 00:38:46,407 --> 00:38:50,410 I think I become a little stressed, for sure. 984 00:38:50,411 --> 00:38:52,328 [Dr. Lisa] Does it show up as anxiety? 985 00:38:52,329 --> 00:38:54,999 - Does it show-- It does. - Yeah, it’s anxiety. 986 00:38:55,833 --> 00:38:58,084 - [Dr. Lisa] Can you talk me through that? - Yeah. 987 00:38:58,085 --> 00:38:59,836 High-performing people have it. That’s why I asked. 988 00:38:59,837 --> 00:39:02,004 Yeah, no, I think I’ve struggled 989 00:39:02,005 --> 00:39:04,132 with anxiety ever since I was a little kid. 990 00:39:04,133 --> 00:39:05,675 - Oh. - [Marissa] Yeah. 991 00:39:05,676 --> 00:39:07,468 Depression, too? They love each other. 992 00:39:07,469 --> 00:39:10,179 Yeah, super anxious, scared kid, 993 00:39:10,180 --> 00:39:12,975 and then, super depressed teenager. 994 00:39:14,643 --> 00:39:17,311 [soft music] 995 00:39:17,312 --> 00:39:19,605 [Adam] Mm-hmm. 996 00:39:19,606 --> 00:39:24,944 And I’ve done, like, a lot of work to... [sighs] ...fight those things. 997 00:39:24,945 --> 00:39:27,280 But I’m in a really stressful situation now, 998 00:39:27,281 --> 00:39:29,866 with this pressure-cooker of a situation, and... 999 00:39:29,867 --> 00:39:32,034 - This? - Yeah. 1000 00:39:32,035 --> 00:39:34,495 And, you know, not being able to do 1001 00:39:34,496 --> 00:39:36,706 my routine or the things that I like. 1002 00:39:36,707 --> 00:39:41,043 So, I’m having a lot of anxiety... 1003 00:39:41,044 --> 00:39:42,712 and, like, trouble communicating 1004 00:39:42,713 --> 00:39:45,131 because I’m not putting my best foot forward. 1005 00:39:45,132 --> 00:39:48,718 I’m really anxious and... 1006 00:39:48,719 --> 00:39:50,887 not so much depressed these days. 1007 00:39:50,888 --> 00:39:55,558 Like, that was really, like, my high school self. 1008 00:39:55,559 --> 00:39:57,727 But anxiety still lives. 1009 00:39:57,728 --> 00:39:59,230 - [Dr. Lisa] Yeah. - Yeah. 1010 00:39:59,646 --> 00:40:01,647 Every day I’m so hard on myself. 1011 00:40:01,648 --> 00:40:03,566 Because, like, in past relationships, 1012 00:40:03,567 --> 00:40:05,651 if I wasn’t, like, perfect, 1013 00:40:05,652 --> 00:40:07,904 or, like, I forgot to take the veggies out 1014 00:40:07,905 --> 00:40:10,031 or, like, switch the laundry 1015 00:40:10,032 --> 00:40:11,407 or, like, the tiniest things, like, 1016 00:40:11,408 --> 00:40:13,075 I loaded the dishwasher the wrong way, 1017 00:40:13,076 --> 00:40:15,244 like, I would literally be scolded. 1018 00:40:15,245 --> 00:40:19,582 Are you nervous that someone as intense as Adam 1019 00:40:19,583 --> 00:40:22,251 can actually be a trigger for this anxiety? 1020 00:40:22,252 --> 00:40:25,588 - Yeah. - Like, I’m listening to what triggers your anxiety, 1021 00:40:25,589 --> 00:40:28,382 and the need to be excellent in your own right, 1022 00:40:28,383 --> 00:40:30,092 - and the need to sort of get everything done. - Sure. 1023 00:40:30,093 --> 00:40:32,428 - Oh, my God, yeah. - And, like... 1024 00:40:32,429 --> 00:40:35,348 - Oh, my God, you’re married to sort of your core trigger. - Like... exactly. 1025 00:40:35,349 --> 00:40:37,016 No, it-- that’s such a good point. 1026 00:40:37,017 --> 00:40:39,936 Like, I strive to be perfect, 1027 00:40:39,937 --> 00:40:41,729 - and that’s obviously not attainable. - [Dr. Lisa] I know. 1028 00:40:41,730 --> 00:40:43,439 It’s interesting. 1029 00:40:43,440 --> 00:40:47,027 What I really am hearing is ability to be flexible or not, 1030 00:40:47,611 --> 00:40:51,280 ability to compromise, fluidity versus rigidity. 1031 00:40:51,281 --> 00:40:53,784 I’m wondering what comes up when I frame it that way. 1032 00:40:55,452 --> 00:40:57,453 Yeah, I mean, that makes sense, for sure. 1033 00:40:57,454 --> 00:40:59,539 Like, we’re obviously gonna have to compromise, you know? 1034 00:40:59,540 --> 00:41:01,290 Like, that’s the underlying, I guess, 1035 00:41:01,291 --> 00:41:03,459 - kind of solution to this all. - [Dr. Lisa] But, can you? 1036 00:41:03,460 --> 00:41:05,878 I don’t know if I’ll be, like, 100% satisfied. 1037 00:41:05,879 --> 00:41:07,046 - Right. - Like, I-- we have no idea. 1038 00:41:07,047 --> 00:41:08,464 That’s a very honest statement. 1039 00:41:08,465 --> 00:41:11,343 You have deferred so far. 1040 00:41:11,802 --> 00:41:15,888 My concern is because you probably, 1041 00:41:15,889 --> 00:41:17,265 if I’m being predictive, 1042 00:41:17,266 --> 00:41:20,268 are gonna be the less fluid one, 1043 00:41:20,269 --> 00:41:24,397 are you going to over-defer for peacekeeping purposes, 1044 00:41:24,398 --> 00:41:28,276 or for maintaining the stability of the marriage, 1045 00:41:28,277 --> 00:41:30,778 - or so he doesn’t leave? - [Marissa] Right. 1046 00:41:30,779 --> 00:41:32,405 That’s what I told him, too, 1047 00:41:32,406 --> 00:41:38,077 I was like, I’m not going to try to, you know, 1048 00:41:38,078 --> 00:41:40,788 maintain this level of intensity, 1049 00:41:40,789 --> 00:41:43,000 because I know that’s just not me. 1050 00:41:44,126 --> 00:41:46,085 [Adam] It’s definitely a really tough position. 1051 00:41:46,086 --> 00:41:48,296 Marissa’s so awesome. Our personalities really mesh. 1052 00:41:48,297 --> 00:41:50,131 A lot of our time together, it’s just like, 1053 00:41:50,132 --> 00:41:52,174 us laughing and having fun. Like, that’s great. 1054 00:41:52,175 --> 00:41:54,677 She’s a 10 out of 10 phenomenal human being. 1055 00:41:54,678 --> 00:41:56,512 It’s sad for me that she’s not, like, 1056 00:41:56,513 --> 00:41:58,014 super down to, like, work out 1057 00:41:58,015 --> 00:41:59,682 or do a bunch of, like, sports and whatnot, 1058 00:41:59,683 --> 00:42:01,142 but I’m also not gonna, like, 1059 00:42:01,143 --> 00:42:02,852 try and change someone, you know? 1060 00:42:02,853 --> 00:42:04,770 Like, you should love someone, like, how they are. 1061 00:42:04,771 --> 00:42:06,856 I’m down to see if we can compromise 1062 00:42:06,857 --> 00:42:09,025 and both adjust to make that happen together, 1063 00:42:09,026 --> 00:42:11,277 just because, you know, like, I want this to be my person. 1064 00:42:11,278 --> 00:42:16,699 I appreciate how open you guys came, and how much we hit. 1065 00:42:16,700 --> 00:42:18,577 - You can’t lose your voice. - [Adam] For sure. 1066 00:42:19,036 --> 00:42:21,037 - I won’t. - [Dr. Lisa] I know. 1067 00:42:21,038 --> 00:42:22,663 I won’t let her. 1068 00:42:22,664 --> 00:42:24,206 - That. - Sweet. 1069 00:42:24,207 --> 00:42:27,209 That is the right answer. That’s the right answer. 1070 00:42:27,210 --> 00:42:29,797 ♪ Can you hold me tonight ♪ 1071 00:42:33,300 --> 00:42:36,385 {\an8}♪ Yes, you We’re breaking all the rules ♪ 1072 00:42:36,386 --> 00:42:39,263 {\an8}Even though his parents are in Europe right now, 1073 00:42:39,264 --> 00:42:41,807 {\an8}I can’t wait to check out their house. 1074 00:42:41,808 --> 00:42:45,728 I hope that we get to see some baby pics of him. 1075 00:42:45,729 --> 00:42:49,106 {\an8}There’s Bella in the back. Olive’s in the crate. 1076 00:42:49,107 --> 00:42:51,317 [Cameron] What part of Portland are we in? 1077 00:42:51,318 --> 00:42:53,486 [Michelle] We are in the northeast side. 1078 00:42:53,487 --> 00:42:55,821 Just say northeast. We don’t say the northeast side. 1079 00:42:55,822 --> 00:42:58,616 [Michelle] Oh, okay. We’re-- We’re in the northeast. 1080 00:42:58,617 --> 00:43:00,284 No, just we’re in northeast. 1081 00:43:00,285 --> 00:43:02,912 - [Michelle] We’re in northeast. - Gosh. 1082 00:43:02,913 --> 00:43:05,833 I used to roam this neighborhood with my friends. 1083 00:43:06,333 --> 00:43:08,250 We could just kind of walk and meet up 1084 00:43:08,251 --> 00:43:10,087 in someone’s house or, like, a park. 1085 00:43:10,671 --> 00:43:12,838 I kind of want our kids to be able to do that. 1086 00:43:12,839 --> 00:43:14,507 [Michelle] I want that, too. 1087 00:43:14,508 --> 00:43:17,093 {\an8}Wow. Look at that entrance. 1088 00:43:17,094 --> 00:43:18,345 {\an8}[Cameron] Beautiful door, hey? 1089 00:43:18,970 --> 00:43:23,099 {\an8}[Michelle] Oh, Bella’s so excited to check it out. 1090 00:43:23,100 --> 00:43:25,518 - You ready to go to my room? - [gasps] Yes. 1091 00:43:25,519 --> 00:43:27,354 This is so nice. 1092 00:43:27,979 --> 00:43:31,524 [Cameron] These are my trophies. Tennis. First place. 1093 00:43:31,525 --> 00:43:32,983 There’s some second-place trophies. 1094 00:43:32,984 --> 00:43:34,486 Why did I keep those? 1095 00:43:34,861 --> 00:43:36,696 My parents, like, saved everything. 1096 00:43:36,697 --> 00:43:39,407 Oh, geez. Cam’s poems! 1097 00:43:39,408 --> 00:43:43,119 - [both laughing] - Oh, this is so good. Oh, my God. 1098 00:43:43,120 --> 00:43:45,121 "I love to eat. 1099 00:43:45,122 --> 00:43:48,874 In the kitchen, all foods taste good when my mouth is itchin’." 1100 00:43:48,875 --> 00:43:50,876 [Michelle laughing] 1101 00:43:50,877 --> 00:43:52,628 [Cameron] Oh, man. 1102 00:43:52,629 --> 00:43:56,716 The first girl I ever kissed, her name was Michelle. 1103 00:43:56,717 --> 00:43:59,135 It was right on this-- this-- this very bed. 1104 00:43:59,136 --> 00:44:00,970 [Michelle] Oh, no. 1105 00:44:00,971 --> 00:44:02,722 We’ve come full circle. 1106 00:44:02,723 --> 00:44:06,016 Well, there’d only be one other way to come full circle. 1107 00:44:06,017 --> 00:44:07,560 [laughing] 1108 00:44:07,561 --> 00:44:09,186 You can be my second Michelle kiss. 1109 00:44:09,187 --> 00:44:10,730 But isn’t that sloppy seconds? 1110 00:44:10,731 --> 00:44:14,567 I mean, it was 20-- 22 years ago, but... 1111 00:44:14,568 --> 00:44:15,861 [laughing] 1112 00:44:17,696 --> 00:44:19,323 Okay. 1113 00:44:21,491 --> 00:44:24,243 [soft music] 1114 00:44:24,244 --> 00:44:28,248 - What? - [laughing] You’re just so silly. 1115 00:44:28,832 --> 00:44:31,917 I was 16, was the last time I had a Michelle in my bed. 1116 00:44:31,918 --> 00:44:34,253 Now I’m in the bedroom with a wife named Michelle, 1117 00:44:34,254 --> 00:44:36,547 and it’s hard to even believe that it’s true. 1118 00:44:36,548 --> 00:44:38,716 All right, the basement. 1119 00:44:38,717 --> 00:44:41,093 This is where we’d, like, hang out and be away from the parents. 1120 00:44:41,094 --> 00:44:43,220 Yeah, I loved being away from the parents. 1121 00:44:43,221 --> 00:44:45,598 The best. Take a seat. I got something to show you. 1122 00:44:45,599 --> 00:44:47,016 Smells like Home Depot. 1123 00:44:47,017 --> 00:44:48,726 [Cameron] I know, it’s nice. 1124 00:44:48,727 --> 00:44:51,604 Everything in our marriage has seemed so easy, 1125 00:44:51,605 --> 00:44:54,023 and I don’t even get nervous thinking about 1126 00:44:54,024 --> 00:44:56,942 her coming to Christmas dinner with my family. 1127 00:44:56,943 --> 00:44:58,611 They’ve only met her one time. 1128 00:44:58,612 --> 00:45:01,572 That level of connection, that’s not a normal thing. 1129 00:45:01,573 --> 00:45:02,948 This is the Cam box. 1130 00:45:02,949 --> 00:45:04,366 I’m just showing you my trophies. 1131 00:45:04,367 --> 00:45:05,743 I don’t need to show you that I was 1132 00:45:05,744 --> 00:45:07,286 the league MVP and rebound leader. 1133 00:45:07,287 --> 00:45:09,079 - And you don’t care about that. - [laughing] 1134 00:45:09,080 --> 00:45:10,623 [Cameron] I have a basketball card. 1135 00:45:10,624 --> 00:45:12,082 [Michelle] Oh, damn. 1136 00:45:12,083 --> 00:45:13,793 How much do you think this is worth? 1137 00:45:13,794 --> 00:45:15,713 Negative 50 cents. 1138 00:45:16,630 --> 00:45:20,132 I like showing stuff like this to someone who’s really special. 1139 00:45:20,133 --> 00:45:21,759 [Michelle] I loved coming here. 1140 00:45:21,760 --> 00:45:23,761 I could spend more time here, for sure. 1141 00:45:23,762 --> 00:45:26,555 I like the food scene. I like the neighborhoods. 1142 00:45:26,556 --> 00:45:28,557 Cost of living is way better. 1143 00:45:28,558 --> 00:45:30,436 [clicks tongue] It’s not bad. 1144 00:45:30,894 --> 00:45:33,145 [Michelle] Moving to Portland might be an option. 1145 00:45:33,146 --> 00:45:35,773 I was feeling pretty strongly against it, 1146 00:45:35,774 --> 00:45:39,485 but after seeing the home that he grew up in, 1147 00:45:39,486 --> 00:45:43,823 it’s so obvious Cam had an amazing life, 1148 00:45:43,824 --> 00:45:46,160 and he wants something similar for his children. 1149 00:45:46,660 --> 00:45:49,995 I know we still have a couple more weeks until Decision Day, 1150 00:45:49,996 --> 00:45:53,499 but, you know, I’m already thinking way past that 1151 00:45:53,500 --> 00:45:57,336 and thinking about moving in together, and... 1152 00:45:57,337 --> 00:46:02,550 I want our kids to, you know, to have this great kind of childhood 1153 00:46:02,551 --> 00:46:07,179 with loving parents who, like, teach them to work hard, 1154 00:46:07,180 --> 00:46:09,014 and strict, but not too strict. 1155 00:46:09,015 --> 00:46:10,975 - I’ll be the strict one. - [Michelle] Yes. 1156 00:46:10,976 --> 00:46:14,146 - You’re the bad cop. - [Cameron] I’m the bad cop, for sure. 1157 00:46:14,688 --> 00:46:17,441 - Yeah. - Aw. [laughing] 1158 00:46:19,150 --> 00:46:20,319 That means a lot. 1159 00:46:21,027 --> 00:46:23,781 ♪ Take me over all the lights ♪ 1160 00:46:24,489 --> 00:46:27,157 ♪ And take me to the edge Of time ♪ 1161 00:46:27,158 --> 00:46:29,702 I can’t believe that we’re here. 1162 00:46:29,703 --> 00:46:32,872 ♪ Gonna get A little lost with you ♪ 1163 00:46:32,873 --> 00:46:35,334 I mean what I said, I found my person. 1164 00:46:37,669 --> 00:46:38,794 [laughs] 1165 00:46:38,795 --> 00:46:41,882 [♪] 1166 00:46:43,466 --> 00:46:45,551 {\an8}I’m just getting to the point where, like, 1167 00:46:45,552 --> 00:46:48,304 {\an8}I’m getting really tired of 1168 00:46:48,305 --> 00:46:51,724 {\an8}Felipe saying, I like you so much, and, like, oh my gosh, 1169 00:46:51,725 --> 00:46:55,728 {\an8}I didn’t expect to see this future and all of these things. 1170 00:46:55,729 --> 00:46:57,396 And, like... 1171 00:46:57,397 --> 00:46:59,690 like, I think we both really have a lot of chemistry, 1172 00:46:59,691 --> 00:47:03,527 and I think we both know that, and have talked about that, 1173 00:47:03,528 --> 00:47:05,905 and acknowledged that, but also it’s like, 1174 00:47:05,906 --> 00:47:10,326 why go through this process if you’re not sure? 1175 00:47:10,327 --> 00:47:13,621 Like, if you-- like, it’s shocking that you like me so much, and-- 1176 00:47:13,622 --> 00:47:15,915 but you’re, like, worried you’re gonna cheat on me, 1177 00:47:15,916 --> 00:47:18,000 then what the-- What are you doing this for? 1178 00:47:18,001 --> 00:47:22,254 ♪ I don’t know Which way is up ♪ 1179 00:47:22,255 --> 00:47:25,758 I think he genuinely thinks we’re good right now. 1180 00:47:25,759 --> 00:47:28,387 How? Like, what? 1181 00:47:28,762 --> 00:47:31,680 I just don’t understand his thought process at all. 1182 00:47:31,681 --> 00:47:34,433 Honestly, I just feel like I need space from him a little bit. 1183 00:47:34,434 --> 00:47:39,229 ♪ When will Enough be enough? ♪ 1184 00:47:39,230 --> 00:47:41,523 I’m torn between, like, having a conversation 1185 00:47:41,524 --> 00:47:45,569 and just, like, not wanting to deal with it right now. 1186 00:47:45,570 --> 00:47:47,237 Like, it’s just too much. I’ve got work. 1187 00:47:47,238 --> 00:47:50,074 I’ve got my family. I’ve got a lot of shit going on, 1188 00:47:50,075 --> 00:47:54,453 and I just don’t have bandwidth to, like, coddle his feelings 1189 00:47:54,454 --> 00:47:57,122 about his indecisiveness, about his player ways. 1190 00:47:57,123 --> 00:47:59,083 Like, figure it the fuck out. 1191 00:47:59,084 --> 00:48:03,589 ♪ When will Enough be enough? ♪ 1192 00:48:04,798 --> 00:48:06,632 {\an8}How many babies are we going to have? 1193 00:48:06,633 --> 00:48:08,217 {\an8}[smooching noises] 1194 00:48:08,218 --> 00:48:11,136 Hey, oh! [laughing] 1195 00:48:11,137 --> 00:48:13,472 I don’t need you all over me, like, unless we’re in bed. 1196 00:48:13,473 --> 00:48:14,932 [clicks tongue] 1197 00:48:14,933 --> 00:48:16,433 [Nikki] I mean, I love how when you cook, 1198 00:48:16,434 --> 00:48:18,477 you clean up after yourself. That’s huge. 1199 00:48:18,478 --> 00:48:20,312 That alone should be enough for you to say yes. 1200 00:48:20,313 --> 00:48:21,605 [Nikki laughs] Right? 1201 00:48:21,606 --> 00:48:23,315 The sparks are flying now. 1202 00:48:23,316 --> 00:48:25,110 I just still don’t know if I buy it, to be honest. 1203 00:48:26,444 --> 00:48:28,572 Tonight’s session is designed to be hard. 1204 00:48:29,322 --> 00:48:32,074 [tense music] 1205 00:48:32,075 --> 00:48:34,284 - You are, like, married to me. - Yeah. 1206 00:48:34,285 --> 00:48:37,205 So, there’s really no reason to not be comfortable. 1207 00:48:38,164 --> 00:48:41,583 Today, you have to decide if you are all in or not. 1208 00:48:41,584 --> 00:48:43,961 [♪] 1209 00:48:43,962 --> 00:48:45,546 I want you. 1210 00:48:45,547 --> 00:48:47,172 You say you’re into me, but I don’t feel that, 1211 00:48:47,173 --> 00:48:49,842 - like, really, at all. - I just want to fix this. 1212 00:48:49,843 --> 00:48:52,012 I am, uh, committed to Tori. 1213 00:48:52,470 --> 00:48:53,637 Today. 1214 00:48:53,638 --> 00:48:55,681 [♪] 1215 00:48:55,682 --> 00:48:57,474 Do you have faith in your marriage? 1216 00:48:57,475 --> 00:49:00,853 I just wanted it to work so badly, and I was so hopeful. 1217 00:49:00,854 --> 00:49:02,771 [♪] 1218 00:49:02,772 --> 00:49:04,691 [Paul] You two have agreed that... 1219 00:49:06,151 --> 00:49:08,779 you’d like to end your marriage tonight. 1220 00:49:13,950 --> 00:49:16,201 {\an8}♪ Enemies to lovers ♪ 1221 00:49:16,202 --> 00:49:18,620 {\an8}♪ Keep it undercover ♪ 1222 00:49:18,621 --> 00:49:20,456 {\an8}♪ Oh, you got a soft side ♪ 1223 00:49:20,457 --> 00:49:22,458 {\an8}♪ Imma take a bite ♪ 1224 00:49:22,459 --> 00:49:24,877 {\an8}♪ Enemies to lovers ♪ 1225 00:49:24,878 --> 00:49:27,296 {\an8}♪ Gonna stay with each other ♪ 1226 00:49:27,297 --> 00:49:29,214 {\an8}♪ Bring it to the light side ♪ 1227 00:49:29,215 --> 00:49:31,134 {\an8}♪ You can dream it, right? ♪