[Cameron] It’s, like, where we might actually live together.
- [Michelle] Right. - [Cameron] If I’m lucky.
No, if I’m lucky. [laughs]
♪ It’s the feeling Inside of me ♪
♪ I know I can’t deny ♪
I’m gonna kiss you.
♪ It’s the feeling Inside of me ♪
♪ That lifts me as I rise ♪
We’re gonna have a little Harry Potter night.
[gasps] Shut up!
[Devin] We’re gonna make our own butterbeer.
[Caitlin gasps]
[Caitlin] Devin is so fun.
He’s a fantastic guy who is treating me so well.
And we are actively working on things.
This makes me so happy.
[Devin laughs]
[Devin] I want to bring her joy.
I want her to know that I’m actually here to try,
and I’m waiting for that effort to be reciprocated.
I’m passionate about you, but I’m scared.
So the fear, essentially, is losing that passion?
- Yes. - [Mecca] Down the road?
- Even, like, if everything on paper, like, works. - [Mecca] Respect.
[tense music]
The conflict is actually bringing us closer,
because it’s helping us understand each other more.
The emotional closeness is what brings the physical closeness.
After I seen, you know, what was on the back side, you know what I’m saying?
After I seen that wagon,
and how she was carrying it, you know what I’m saying?
At the dinner, it was very performative.
That-- That hurt.
[Marissa] Adam, he has a lot of strong hobbies.
- I don’t have, like, strong hobbies. - Right.
Like, I want to go to happy hour.
[Adam] I’m very serious about pickleball.
Like, I would absolutely love it
if my wife is actually, like, naturally good.
- Oh! - Shit!
Things are going downhill.
Getting to, like, go to the park,
and just, like, challenge people in pickleball
until we’re literally 90 years old would make me so happy.
One of my girlfriends did have all the same hobbies,
and, like, we started playing sports together.
And after having that, I’m like, I can’t do without that.
[tense music]
♪ You ♪
♪ Decide, decide ♪
I thought we had an amazing day.
You know, like, we met up with our friends here,
you know, played a bunch of pickleball.
Like, I had a blast.
Uh, and then it kinda came up
that Marissa had a really, like, stressful day.
Why do you have to have the same hobbies?
Good question, Cam.
[Adam] One of my last girlfriends that I dated,
we did have all the same hobbies.
We were, like, playing in leagues together,
and it was some of the most fun I’ve ever had
in my life, and after having that, I can’t do without that.
[dramatic drum beats]
Oh, Lord.
[Cameron] How do you feel about that, Marissa?
Do you think you could get to a point
where you’re playing sports, you know, 20 to 25 hours a week?
- And-- What-- What is that? - [Marissa guffaws]
What is that? What’s--
- I’m dead serious. - [Tori] You pose a great question.
[couples laughing and shouting]
I would say no.
Yeah, like, there is probably a level we can compromise on...
- Yeah. - ...but no, I’m gonna say absolutely not.
[couples laughing]
I have heard a lot about, you know, jet skiing, pickleball.
A lot of your things. A lot of your interests.
Are you willing and able to tap into her side,
and get into the things that she wants to do?
[suspenseful music]
More Marissa time.
I need to accept that, like, I’m not gonna have someone
that’s gonna work out with me every day, you know,
and who’s gonna, like, try to play, like,
duos tournaments with me, and pickleball, you know, like,
I feel like she’s the normal one in the situation.
Like, I’m at this crazy level,
just really trying to push myself, and, like,
I’m the one who’s kind of, like, not ordinary here.
For someone who you can argue is not taking this seriously,
- this is Adam taking it seriously. - Yes!
What I want to say to that, though, is,
is there a sense that where he can have what he wants,
and what he likes, and you can have what you want,
and you like, and you guys can both be okay with that?
- That’s what we need to figure out. - [couples] Yeah.
We’re going to couples therapy in the next couple of days,
and we’re going to talk about what we can do, and...
figure out ways to compromise.
Do you want kids?
Hell, yeah. I’m gonna train them to be D1 athletes.
[Cameron] I love that. Same here.
But my point is, you’re not gonna be playing pickleball
for three hours when you have kids. There’s--
Yeah, it’s gonna be six hours.
I’m gonna be training all three of them.
[all laughing]
[Shawn] All right, folks, let’s keep the party going.
- Who’s up? - Felipe and Tori!
- Woo woo! - [all cheering]
All right babe, you first.
Like Felipe said, we-- we haven’t argued.
I kind of hope we would argue.
- Like, it-- - No you don’t. You’re gonna lose.
- [Mecca laughs] - [Felipe] I’m serious.
- Go ahead. But, I think, um...
we kind of wanna see what that would look like,
because we kind of are-- are big debaters,
and we both are pretty stubborn.
So I think that would be interesting.
The issue that we have is-- is just the fact
that, like, you know, like, in less than three weeks,
I’m gonna make the biggest decision of my life.
You know, like, I-- I’ve already thought that I made that decision,
you know, like, which was marrying a stranger.
But I find myself finding reasons
of why I shouldn’t be...
you know, married to you.
[dramatic music]
Subconsciously, I find myself, like, literally, like,
as I’m going grocery shopping or walking downtown,
like, thinking of ways out.
Oh, wow. Oh, my goodness.
[Felipe] I want to be certain on Decision Day.
Especially because my single life was so incredible.
There was literally nothing in my life
that I didn’t have control of.
I made my life as easy, and as carefree as I possibly could.
If you were to ask me, like, "Do you want to get married for the rest of your life today?"
I would say no.
- [Mecca] Ooh! - Oh, shit.
I don’t know if this is the right setting
for him to expose his feelings about his wife.
[Dr. Lisa] He’s afraid to be accountable to somebody.
[Cameron] You’re not gonna do better than Tori.
Let’s be honest, Felipe.
Snap out of it, man. Come on.
Like, seriously. What are we talking here?
You-- You wanna just be single, and hang out with your cat?
Like, I mean, you don’t want that life.
Why do Married at First Sight if you’re so unsure of that?
[Felipe] Because I was sure.
Yeah, my life was awesome. I was happy. Legit.
But I still felt lonely.
And I’m trying to, like, bring myself back to that, right?
Of-- of why I did it in the first place.
But that’s not to say that I wasn’t happy before.
Tori, what are your thoughts on that?
I think that Felipe has work to do, individually, on his own.
- And that’s not my job. - [Dr. Lisa] Oof.
- Oh... - [Dr. Lisa] She’s so not codependent.
Look at how strong that answer is.
I’m securing myself,
and I’m just not gonna carry things that aren’t mine.
What were, like, the amazing parts about your life
that you don’t think Tori could amplify?
If I’m being real with you guys, I like sleeping with a bunch of women.
Oh, shit.
Did I just hear that right?
[tense music]
[Tori] What’s going on here?
Like, what-- what’s happening?
Do you wanna, like, go hoe out?
Is that what this is?
Like, if you want to go be with hoes, be with hoes.
But there’s no other indicators of that,
so it’s super confusing.
I just don’t understand, and honestly,
I’d rather it align, than not align.
Because it would be easier for me to wrap my head around.
Is it the monogamy that scares you?
I don’t know-- I don’t know if I’m scared of it.
But I was just, I was-- I was-- I was happy fucking around.
[tense music]
I don’t know why you’re married, bro, like...
whoo! [laughs] Yeah.
Let a dog be a dog.
[Belléjolie] You always talk great about Tori.
You talk about how much you like her.
And so I think it is going to be a decision
you have to make for yourself.
And also you’re gonna get old one day,
and women aren’t gonna like you.
You ain’t Peter Pan, man. You’re gonna grow up.
[Devin] Straight up, I feel like you’re copping out.
You’re jeopardizing yourself, and you’re falling
right back into the patterns that you said
that you were gonna try and break through this.
I don’t disagree with Devin.
I think to a large degree, this is self-sabotage.
Last time, during the group dinner,
you talked about being afraid of losing passion.
And so, like, with what you’re describing today,
I’m just wondering whether it’s because you do want
to chase passion.
My worry is that I’m in a race.
And trying to fall in love with Tori before Decision Day,
or else my brain’s gonna fuck it up.
Because I know if I’m in love, I’m, like, good. I’m done.
I’m fine. Like, I’m not worried.
Right? That’s kind of what I meant.
It feels like a race.
Look at how she takes it on the chin.
She is so stoic.
[Paul] I think he’s getting it tonight.
And not in a good way.
A lot of things that you’ve said
are the same things that I’m feeling.
There is that fear of commitment.
Obviously, it’s very scary.
But, um, after that group session
where I said "undecided",
might not be my same answer today.
- Oh! - [couples] What? What?
[all cheering]
[Shawn] What is happening.
And yeah, the more time I spend around this girl,
the more time, like, we get to connect,
and bond, and just...
and talk, and do things together,
I’m just like, why would I not say yes?
Like, I would almost be stupid to say no.
You know what I’m sayin’? Like, dead-ass.
[all laughing]
I did a lot of self-reflection after that group session.
I’m not gonna lie.
I don’t know if any of you guys noticed,
but I walked out of there hurt.
I definitely got grilled.
I got cooked. And I didn’t see that coming.
Let me just clear one thing up right now.
I will say I was not a fan of how we were painted.
Mecca is not performative. He’s exaggerated.
So, in group settings, for example,
he’s gonna be more animated.
That’s who Mecca is.
Everything he has said about me has been genuine.
And he is consistent with what he says with me
behind closed doors, and in front of everybody,
I get the same Mecca.
Mecca, you’re not gonna find better.
She has your back. She loves you.
She’s running to your defense.
Man, I look and I say, we all should be so lucky
to have someone in our corner.
Agreed.
I just want to say I apologize,
because I was one of those people who did think you were being performative.
[Mecca] I appreciate what you’re saying now, Michelle.
Because, Michelle, I see you as a very down-to-earth,
very genuine and real person.
So, that’s what made it hurt even more.
I was like, damn-- I was like, even Michelle?
- [all laughing] - I was like, no way! What?
- I was so hurt. - The drinks were flowing.
[Mecca] So, I-- I appreciate-- I appreciate you saying that.
And you’re talking from the outside, you know?
- You don’t know what’s happening behind closed doors. - [Michelle] Right, exactly.
- [Belléjolie] So, yeah. - You know, you can be skeptical
about things, and they can seem a little too good to be true.
- Like, all right, what’s really going on here? - For sure.
- Right. - Like when Nikki and Shawn
aligned on a 10 out of 10.
- [Mecca] Yeah! Yeah! - [Belléjolie] Yes!
- And we were all like, "Oh my gosh." - [Mecca] Yeah, it was crazy.
- [Belléjolie] And it was real. - [Mecca] That was crazy.
[Nick] I love that energy.
- I feel like you defending Mecca and your relationship, like... - [Nikki] That’s it, yeah.
...shows how much, like, growth and, like, care you all have for each other.
- Like... - Yeah.
But yeah, I think for us, we definitely wanted to work on
getting deeper with each other, and, like,
understanding each other at a more vulnerable,
open-hearted level.
For, like, our intimacy night, we had, like, a list of questions.
They were all, like, deeper, like, get-to-know-you questions.
And I think it went really well for us.
- I thought so. You can give your take. - Yeah. Yeah.
Uh, but I think what I really appreciate about Courteney
is I notice now, when she leaves,
she’ll, like, take the extra time to come over
and, like, give me a hug before she leaves the apartment.
- [all] Aww! - [Nikki] Oh, Courteney!
[Nick] Which I really appreciate.
- I’m affectionate. - [Shawn] Love that!
I like to see him kind of talking kindly about her.
Yeah, it’d be great if she could say the same for him.
[laughs]
You know, we went into our session with Lisa,
and she’s like, you know, we need a reset.
Like, I have to remember that, you know,
there’s two of us in this partnership.
So, I made, like, a really conscious decision
to put in more effort, more physical touch.
Like, in the morning, if I’m up already,
I make an effort to, like, text him, hey, like, hope you slept well, and whatever.
Those are things I would never think of doing,
because that’s not what I need.
But if that’s what someone else needs, it’s like, okay.
If I want my independence, then I need to make sure
that he feels secure in this relationship.
And I think he’s happy.
- Yay! - [all cheering]
- [applause] - [Devin] Wow.
Exactly.
So, like, how-- how has the intimacy been for you?
Does it feel forced for you?
Or are you actually liking it?
[Courteney] I mean, of course I like it.
Kissing or whatever, like, that feels good.
That feels normal.
I don’t think it’s something that, like, I need,
but I’m doing it because I care about him,
and I want to make that effort to make him feel that I,
you know, am all about you, and I want you, and I want you to be happy.
- [Felipe] Hmm. - I mean, I’m hearing you talk,
I’m like, wow, okay, wait, I need to, like, maybe get coffee with you,
and, like, sit, and apply this to us.
- [all laughing] - I can see him over here, like,
nodding, like, yep, yep. She should do that.
I’m like, I’m like, fuck, damn it, Courteney.
I think Courteney, in my mind, is a huge question mark.
There was one point in the night at the first dinner,
where your back was completely towards Nick,
and Nick was just, you know, just chilling.
What’s the point? Like, I don’t-- I don’t see it.
I never saw a connection on your behalf.
[tense music]
[Courteney] Are you freaking kidding me?
I said everything that I’m changing for the better,
in our relationship to make this work.
No one likes to have fingers pointed at them,
and so I’m on the defensive end right now.
I do like Nick, and I genuinely feel
like there is a connection there.
But at the same time, you know, to be honest,
I don’t know if anyone else noticed,
but I’m making a lot of changes to make this work,
and I didn’t hear one thing that Nick said
he was doing to make the changes to make this work.
♪ Everything changes ♪
♪ Ooh ♪
I was gonna let it just sit,
but now I’m gonna stand up for myself.
- I don’t know what you’re doing. - [Mecca] Oh!
Okay.
♪ Everything changes ♪
I’m making a lot of changes to make this work,
and I didn’t hear one thing that Nick said he was doing
to make the changes to make this work.
And I am restructuring my whole independency.
- I don’t know what you’re doing. - [Mecca] Oh!
Okay.
Sorry. That was old me. That wasn’t very nice.
Well, one of the biggest things that you asked for from me
was sharing more of myself on a deeper level.
That is what I’ve been intentionally doing.
If you don’t notice that, I am sorry, but I...
- No! - ...I have been actually making a conscious effort
- to ask you more about your childhood... - Yeah.
[Nick] ...and what makes you tick, and things like that, but.
You were, it-- it just, it goes beyond, like, playing a game, you know?
And it’s just, it-- it was more just like...
- you know what, we can talk about it later. - Yeah, we’ll talk about it.
No, that’s what I’m saying. Like, we’ll talk about it.
I’m excited for it.
If these guys wanna go the distance,
I think that they are going to need to do whatever
is difficult for them, whether that’s being vulnerable,
whether that’s being more communicative.
Yeah, I agree with you.
To, like, keep it a little more light,
you know, things are going great.
It’s crazy.
First week of practice, it’s like, I’m a better coach,
because, like, I’m, like, in a better mood, and, like, I’m, like, more--
- [all] Ooh! - [Cameron] Yeah.
- I like that. - Love that!
I went to her home in West Seattle,
went to her favorite spots.
I’m really starting to not only think about living with her,
but, like, when the season’s over, maybe move here.
My lease is up at my place, and, like, I’m going to go get
a month-to-month spot in Portland,
because, like, I want to be open.
I’ve started integrating him into my world with, like, my friends.
With previous exes, my friends weren’t the biggest fans of them,
but, like, he just blends in so well, and, like,
it’s just showing me that he just fits right into my life.
I mean, even just, like, the fact that he’s driving back and forth between Seattle
and Portland, it just shows, like,
how much work he is putting into what he does,
- and me as well... - Yeah. Yeah.
- ...and it’s just really special. - [Belléjolie] Yes.
So, you’re going to relocate, and not coach or what?
Not saying I would, like, give up on my dream
because I want to be with her, but it’s, like,
maybe it looks a little different.
Maybe there’s more than one part of, like, the dream I have.
You can have all, like, the money or the success,
but, like, I don’t know.
Like, I’m-- I’ve been lonely, you know, straight up.
Like, I came back after winning the championship,
biggest game of my career, and it doesn’t really matter
if I don’t have someone to share it with.
- [Belléjolie] I love that. - So, yeah.
It’s not giving up on the dream.
- It’s just, like, trying to, like, incorporate it. - Exactly. Yes.
I mean, it’s not all about, like, just, like, what I want to do career-wise.
Right.
I think y’all are killing it.
Caitlin and I have been lacking physical connection
or any sort of connection.
I still feel like we’re not at a place
where we’re even really, like, connected or friends.
Sometimes I still question if she likes me.
Whoa.
- [Belléjolie] Yeah. - Oh, shit.
I like hearing this from Devin, right?
He’s speaking his truth.
We’ve been asking him to turn his light on,
and this is him saying, "This is how I feel."
He doesn’t like this marriage as it is.
Who would like it? He feels like she’s not into him.
I wouldn’t like it, either.
Ultimately, my way to adjust was just to pull away,
and to make her come to me.
But in her coming to me, it’s been way slower
than I’m even-- ever been used to.
But-- But, like, don’t discount that it’s happening.
No, it’s definitely happening. That’s what I’m saying.
But it’s slow. I was getting there.
- Give a girl some credit. - I was-- I was getting there.
- [Caitlin] Like, it’s just a shit-on-me session. - You didn’t--
You didn’t let me finish my thought. Okay?
I’m just saying that I feel like this is just a shit-on-Caitlin session right now.
Not at all. It’s not that at all.
Okay, I’m just telling you, that’s is what I feel like, though.
[scoffs] Absolutely blindsided.
I’m not gonna say the entire week was perfect,
but I feel like there were a lot of, like, really good moments.
And yes, there’s, like, a lot of, like, other things that we need to work on.
So, to have it be so negative, and so, like, negatively focused, like...
[takes a deep breath]
Ugh! Like, help me out a little, here.
I see you, and I hear you, and I understand you.
And I’m sorry that you feel that it’s a shit-on-Caitlin session.
I will adjust how we’re talking about this.
Okay?
I’ve been feeling this way for a little while,
and I feel like I just need to talk on it.
She’s making steps, you know, and it’s not at the pace that I-- that I need.
I feel rejected still.
[tense music]
Last night, we went out, and we had a great time playing pool and stuff,
but, like, I was dancing, having a good time, trying to be goofy,
and, like, I didn’t feel like she saw me or looked at me.
- So it’s, like... - Are you dancing and being goofy
because you want me to acknowledge you,
- or are you just having a good time? - No, that’s just who I am.
- But it’s also-- But it’s-- - Yeah, and I like that you’re having a good time.
But if I’m with my wife, I want my wife to see me, hear me, understand me,
and, like, play into it a little bit.
Like, give me a smile.
Give a little shoulder shimmy back.
Like, like, give me something.
- Do you like Devin? Like, do you-- - Yes.
Honestly, I’m kind of, like, caught off guard,
just because this week has been feeling a lot better,
and I’m feeling like it’s very, like, negative right now,
which is kind of, like, a little jarring for me.
I feel like you guys both have interest in each other,
and that in your head and in your feelings, you-- you are trying.
- Yeah, not-- not everything has been dark. - No.
You know what I mean? Well, I really, really like Cait.
I love her heart. I love how she shows up for people.
I love her love for her family and, like, all this stuff,
you know what I mean? But it’s, like...
I need-- I need to feel that.
I need to feel that I can show up for her as a man,
and be her safe place, but not be fighting for it.
And if this is, like, how it is,
like, I’m-- this is not my ideal marriage.
[somber music]
There’s no fault in accepting
if you either are into someone or not into someone,
and also maybe into someone at your own speed.
Like, that’s not wrong.
- [couples] Mm-hmm. Right. Literally. - There’s no wrong in that.
- There’s no fault in that. - [Michelle] Right. Right.
And no matter, this is a very unorthodox experiment altogether.
Like, don’t make that think that you’re flawed.
- You’re not flawed. - [Belléjolie] Right.
You are human, and you’re allowed to be human.
- [Belléjolie] Literally. - And, Devin,
you’re allowed to be human, and love how you love.
And I think that’s for all of us.
For all of us, literally, for sure.
- [applause] - [Shawn] You said that.
- [Nikki] Let’s end on that. - You said that well, Tori.
Thank you.
All right, Dr. Shawn, toast us!
To just getting 1% better every day
at this crazy thing we’re all deciding to do.
- [Mecca] 1% better! - [Felipe] Yeah. 1% better.
That’s the goal. That’s the goal.
Absolutely.
♪ Too much, big hearts ♪
♪ Break ’em all ♪
Yeesh, babe.
Do you think that dinner was worse than the first one?
Felipe opened up heavily.
For sure.
Said things that... [chuckles]
to be honest, I don’t know if I would say.
I’m like, wait, what?
- Yeah. - "I like sleeping around with women."
I’m like, "Oh, shit."
♪ Come on, make it beat harder ♪
♪ Ooh, ooh ♪
I’m nervous about how you feel.
I want loyalty. I want respect.
I want monogamy.
And if you can’t provide that, then, like,
that doesn’t seem like a marriage that would be fitting.
Do you, I guess, question whether I can be monogamous?
If you’re questioning it day in, day out,
I’m going to worry about that.
You need to have a really open mind to everything,
including of what’s in front of you.
Because, like, it’s not going to be there forever.
I can’t do that work for you.
But, like, figure your shit out a little bit.
Okay.
I don’t think the ship has sunk, by any means,
but also, like, I’m not going to convince someone to be with me.
[Felipe] I really fucking like you, Tori.
I think you’re fucking awesome.
I’m 100% committed to you, and that’s it.
I’m-- I’m hoping I can be that forever.
I just, I just don’t know right now.
♪ When it all fades out ♪
♪ We’ll be standing here ♪
♪ When it all comes down ♪
I do feel like Devin and Nick are in the same kind of boat.
- Very similar boat. - Where they’re, like,
they are, like, wanting to connect with the girls more,
- and the girls have walls up. - [Adam] Yeah.
I feel like Courteney, like, genuinely is trying.
Yeah.
After all the things that she said, and she is frustrated.
She’s putting in more effort than Caitlin, I feel like.
Yes, I-- I would agree with that.
- That’s what it comes down to. - Yeah.
Yeah.
Oh!
♪ This is my siren call ♪
♪ A void inside ♪
I do just want to say that I’m sorry
that that’s the way that that happened,
and that’s the way that that went down.
That was not at all my intention behind that.
I feel like you were... immediately just, like,
presented, like, everything in an extremely negative light.
Like, I don’t know what way you hoped that would end.
I feel, like, so difficult to love right now.
Like, literally, that’s how I’m feeling.
Like, I just feel like it’s so hard.
I mean, it kind of feels that way.
Like, do you ever, like, just sit down in your day
and, like, list out the positive things that happened with us?
Because I feel like any time you get-- you get probed,
you get asked, you’re like, "Yep, this is shitty."
"I wish that this was better."
"I’m still not getting enough from her."
Whereas when I’m probed about you, I’m like,
"He literally does all of this. It’s insane."
Like, I don’t-- like, I’ve never been treated this way.
This is, like, amazing.
But I don’t need to hear it in front of the cameras.
- Fuck these cameras. - It’s-- It’s--
Just take-- you talk about cameras more than anybody I’ve ever met in my life.
It’s because the only time that I feel like we actually get to connect
and, like, have, like, conversation, and time,
and I see your personality is in front of these fucking cameras.
Go revisit.
What was your favorite day that we ever spent together?
Was that at the EDM Fest?
- Yes, it was. - Show me the cameras.
I’m not doing the nitpick again.
And so if you can’t, like, just see and, like,
clock things when they happen versus you, like,
focusing on everything horrible that you think is going on in this relationship,
then there will be zero forward movement.
We will be in a stagnant, stagnant water forever.
There’s a rejection that I feel from you,
and it’s different than anything I’ve ever experienced.
Now I feel like I suck at everything, because I can’t have the--
a couple days to just, like, relax
and be able to, like, lean into you in the way you want.
So I don’t know what else to do.
♪ Didn’t believe in love ♪
[Devin sighs]
♪ Thought it’s something ♪
♪ I’m just not capable of ♪
Today was kind of a kick in the face for me.
Everything is just not enough.
[sobbing]
How do I up the effort...
when now I’m feeling like this?
So...
I’m, like, one second away from dry-heaving,
so I’m just trying to keep it together.
♪ Help me ♪
♪ I’ll fall ♪
♪ Don’t let it end ♪
♪ How I feel, How else to fight ♪
♪ From a place Where there they are calling ♪
I’m just, like, frustrated with the whole night, you know?
From tonight, like, me and her should be the ones to break up.
You know what I mean?
I think it’s a fair assessment, just because of
where we’re at, and how the conversation went.
♪ I give my all ♪
♪ It’s in your hands ♪
But, I mean, we were saying the same exact thing
after, you know, the first dinner with Shawn and Nikki,
and now they seem like one of the strongest right now.
So it’s about how we move,
’cause under three weeks, there’s a decision,
and then all of this shit’s gone.
And it’s either, like, we’re together or we’re not.
♪ I will lay my life And all that I am ♪
♪ In your hands ♪
[Caitlin sniffling]
♪ Are you ready for this? ♪
♪ Mm-hmm, are you ♪
- [Shawn] All righty. You ready? - [Nikki] Yes!
[Shawn] Let’s go.
- It’s really two hours. - Mm-hmm.
Take a nap, so you can be awake when you get to my place.
[snoring]
[upbeat music]
[Nikki yawning]
That was a nice little nap.
So what are you most looking forward to showing me today?
It’s a really simple place,
so it still feels kind of like I just moved in.
You’ll notice that
I don’t have a lot of stuff on the walls.
So, hope you like it.
- Welcome to my home. - Awesome.
Where I haven’t done much here in some time.
- [Nikki] Okay. - [Shawn] As you can see,
I’ve got to clean up a little bit, but...
I’m never here, so, that’s that.
Okay.
This is where I don’t have anything to eat.
You literally just have condiments.
- Pretty much, pretty much. - It’s so bachelor-y.
The progress we’re making in our relationship right now,
it feels very real to me.
Really simple.
Welcome to my living room.
We still need to, like, progress things physically,
but Nikki is thinking about the future.
She is being soft.
She is, you know, checking in on me while I’m at work,
sending me text messages,
making sure we have food in the house,
and making plans for dinner. I mean,
she is now starting to show up
as the wife that I’ve been waiting for.
So, this is a gaming chair. Are you a gamer?
Nope. It’s just the most comfortable chair
- for doing work. - Okay.
I like your book collection.
I’m sure you have some of your favorites.
Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah. As you can tell, I like to read.
I’m a little bit of a nerd. You’ll see, also, that I wrote a book,
so, you see my book down there, some copies of that.
- [Nikki] This one? - [Shawn] Mm-hmm.
[Nikki] Very cool. All right. What’s next?
[Shawn] Let’s show you where the magic happens.
All right.
Oh, my gosh. It is, like, so firm.
- Oh, it feels so good. - Like, how do you sleep on this?
I sleep like a baby on this. It’s great!
It feels like I’m on the floor.
I feel like I can just literally go to sleep
literally right now.
I would not live here.
This would not be our home.
I actually expected this place
to be a bit more well-decorated,
a bit cleaner, a bit neater.
He kind of presents like he’s very put together,
and I expected that to be evident in the way he lives.
So, now, we gotta make a move and see your place.
Okay, let’s do that.
Yeah? You ready to make this move?
- See the other side. - [Shawn] All right.
How long have you been in this apartment, or this house?
I bought this house, like, almost two years ago.
Still fairly new.
Yeah, it feels new. I feel like I’m still decorating
and getting the décor set up.
It takes time if you want a more curated look.
[♪]
- It’s a shoeless house. - [Shawn] Shoeless.
But we’re fine to put our shoes
in this little cabinet that I have set up here.
Okay.
- Oh, wow. Beautiful. - Thank you.
You’ve done more than a little bit with this.
Thank you.
- Very nice. Here? - Yeah.
- Okay. Awesome. - Okay.
So, yeah, this is the main living space.
Obviously, this is the kitchen.
- Yes. - I spend a lot of time here.
- I love a good island. - Yes.
This open cabinet situation I really love.
- I love that. - Do you want a fridge tour?
There’s a little, wee bit more than yours.
It’s condiments and beverages.
[both laugh]
- And there is a half-bottle of Veuve. - [Shawn] Cool.
[laughs] Just in case.
Because there’s always a celebration.
- This is gorgeous. - Thank you.
This is actually my favorite piece of furniture
in the entire house.
- Is there an origin with this? Like, is there-- Why? - Uh, India.
- Oh, India? - Yeah.
- Wait, from India? - [Nikki] Yeah, yeah, yeah.
This is amazing.
I mean, I bought it from West Elm.
- Right. Okay. - Right.
- All right. - And then, yeah,
- this is the living room area. - Comfy.
Oh, this rug is also from India.
- [Shawn] Nice. - So I actually went to Bangalore and brought this back.
- [Shawn] Ooh-hoo-hoo! - [Nikki] And it feels so good on the feet.
- [Shawn] It feels great. - [Nikki] Take my socks off,
- and feel it on my feet. - [Shawn] It feels great on the feet.
She’s very bougie. I think she’s probably used to
being the bougiest of her group.
But I come from a very bougie group.
And so Nikki’s house is not, like,
so mind-blowing, in my mind.
But it’s very-- she’s worked very hard.
And it has very nice, beautiful things
that I really respect.
[Nikki] The second floor. This is the guest bathroom.
No Number Twos on the first floor.
On the first floor.
The-- The powder room is only for Number One.
So what about guests who come in on the first floor?
What do you want them to do?
- They would come to here. - Oh, okay. Gotcha.
I don’t like that radiating through the first floor.
- The bedroom is like this. - [Shawn] It’s just a bed.
- It’s super, you know. - I love it.
Oh, this bed is too soft.
Oh, isn’t it? You’re melting.
- Look at you. - Oh, I can’t do it.
- You literally are melting. - It’s-- I’m falling.
So, this is a convertible bed.
Okay. Oh, yeah. See?
All right. We’re the same kind of bougie.
- I love that. - Yeah.
[sighing]
- Want to go back downstairs? - Yes. Let’s go. Let’s do it.
All right.
That concludes the official house tour.
[Shawn] Amazing.
[both sighing]
If we were to stay together after Decision Day,
how do you imagine, like, we’d live?
Like, are we in Bremerton? Are we in Columbia?
- Is it Columbia City? - Columbia City.
- Columbia City, like... - Or Central District.
- What’s your feeling? What do you like? - Definitely not Bremerton.
[laughing]
Let’s just put that out there.
Shot down. Okay.
- Bremerton’s great. - It’s not great.
- You don’t have to say that. - Well, no, it’s great.
- I don’t love Bremerton. - I’ll finish the sentence.
- Okay. - It’s great for someone who works in Bremerton.
But no, I would not want to live there.
Okay.
So, I definitely could see us living here.
Mm-hmm. And I can also see myself here, as well.
I was hoping you’d say that.
I’m grateful for this experiment to give me
a chance at, like, a real, lasting love.
I’ve been waiting a very long time to be married.
And we have a lot of things in common.
And we have some differences that I find interesting
that could actually provide, like,
some stimulation for both of us.
I think it’s a matter of whether we can,
in these short couple of weeks together,
feel like we have enough of an emotional connection
to say yes on Decision Day.
- Super proud of you. Like, really great work. - Thank you.
Like, it’s rare to see someone doing as well as you are doing.
- Aw. - And, uh, so, keep it going.
Thank you. I appreciate that.
I love a strong, good, accomplished
- Black woman doing her thing. - [Nikki] Thanks.
- So, high-five. - High-fives.
- Well done. - Appreciate that.
- Appreciate you. Yeah. - [Shawn] Definitely, yeah.
♪ Got butterflies, You’re liable ♪
We’re headed down to Portland so I can finally see Cam’s spot.
This is our first road trip.
It’s amazing that I have an awesome tour guide.
♪ I want you ♪
♪ I want you So bad, bad, bad ♪
Do you think you’ll be able to convince me to move to Portland?
I’m not gonna try to convince you because
it’s not what’s best for us,
but I do want you at least to be like,
okay, this would be a nice place to live if we ended up here.
♪ I can’t stop this feeling ♪
[Cameron] My place!
- All right, you ready? - [Michelle] Yeah.
- [Cameron] Don’t judge. - [Michelle] Okay.
Oh, my gosh.
Look at all the plants.
[Cameron] I’m a fan of foliage.
This one doesn’t look like it’s doing too well.
What are you talking about? Look at that.
There are no leaves.
- It’s okay. - Okay.
- Who painted this? - [Cameron] My mom.
- Really? - [Cameron] Yeah.
- She did a great job. - [Cameron] Don’t you think it looks like her?
Yeah, it looks exactly like Olive.
This is my room. It’s minimalist.
Wow. A king-size bed. This is pretty comfortable.
- I know. - Yeah.
- [Cameron] Watch this. - [Michelle] Okay.
I’ve really been waiting for you to get here
- so we could do this. - [laughs]
Like, look how nice this is.
[laughs] This is, like, what old people do.
I know. Isn’t this nice?
I mean, yeah.
[laughs]
It’s definitely a man cave.
Could have used a few more decorations in there.
He has a lot of plants.
I don’t have a green thumb, but I’ve always loved
the idea of living in a place with lots of greenery.
So, I hope that when we get a place,
he’ll take care of all the plants for us.
- I could get used to this. - I know.
♪ You need some money ♪
- Hello. - [Dr. Lisa] Hi, you guys!
How are you doing? It’s nice to see you.
- I’m so happy to see you both. - Likewise. Likewise.
- Hi! - Good to see you.
Oh, my God.
You guys, I realize I didn’t do either of your reveals.
[Adam and Marissa] I know.
And I haven’t done a session with you yet.
- No. - I know.
How is everything?
We had our, uh, first, like, bad day, and it was his dream day.
- We, like, arrived to the pickleball courts on a jet ski. - Mm-hmm.
And I was, like, having, like, an off day, you could say.
Which is, like, first of a thousand you’ll have in a marriage.
- Right. - [Adam] For sure.
What was the meaning you assigned to it?
Calling the whole thing into question?
Freaking out? Like, what did that look like?
Yeah, it gave me a little bit of, like, worry for the future,
because that’s something
I want to do, like, five days a week in the summer.
You know, like, that’s my ideal day.
So, for you, it called compatibility into question?
A little bit, I guess. Yeah.
And? What does that feel like? Does it freak you out? Does it, like--
Oh, yeah. Definitely, yeah.
I mean, it’s scary for sure, and, like, everything had
just been going so well, so it just
kinda, like, caught me off guard.
I’m interested to learn
why everything gets done at level 10.
Whenever I meet someone who’s all-in on something at 10...
- Yeah. Yeah. - I’m always like, what are you running from?
- What is happening that there’s not a little fluidity? - [Adam] Yeah.
I’ve always been, like, an all-in
or all-out type of person. You know, like,
With everything in my life, I would always just, like, push myself.
And I don’t know, I think it was just
instilled from my dad at, like, a young age to just always
do your best, no matter what.
Your dad is the one that gave you a need for excellence.
I would say so. Like, he-- yeah, has always
really pushed himself in, like, anything he’s done.
He wouldn’t really directly push me, I feel like,
just indirectly, just by leading by example, I guess.
What about sports, instrument, martial arts?
Like, did you have stuff growing up that they were like,
excellence, Adam, pursuit of excellence or no?
There was some stuff, yeah, like, classical piano, I was--
- You played piano? - I did, yeah.
I had to play, like, an hour every day, and I did, like, lessons
for, like, 13, 14 years, I’m sure, like, a very long time. Um...
Joyfully, or because they were like, do it, and?
No, they made me. Yeah, it was a fight.
And they also made me do Boy Scouts,
and they made me go all the way up to Eagle Scout.
And I remember I, like, hid both, like, to my grave.
I thought it was, like, super dorky. And I’ll never forget this day,
I was, like, hanging out with, like, a bunch of new friends.
Like, first time I had all my new high school friends over.
And I had to, like, beg my parents, I’m like,
do not bring up piano,
do not bring up Boy Scouts, like, anything else.
And my mom comes in, we’re all just sitting in a circle.
And she’s like, Adam, you have your, like, Boy Scout troop meeting in an hour,
and then you have a piano lesson after.
And I was just like, I’m cooked.
Like, she-- like, it was horrible.
What is it like to have these two major features
of your upbringing and childhood and, like,
devotion of time that you didn’t feel proud of?
I mean, it was kinda tough back then.
I kinda just, like, hid it. But now, like, I don’t care.
Do you think that’s why you live so out loud
in your own right now, right?
- Yeah. - Like, you don’t have a quiet ownership of things.
It’s a very demonstrative ownership.
- For sure. - I wonder if
- it comes from sort of a reaction... - Yeah.
...to having that stuff back when.
Like, I’ve always been so passionate about things.
Like, I can’t really remember when I’ve done
something for, like, an extended period of time
where I didn’t push it to, like, 100 out of 10.
So, I am wondering, like, does your partner need
to rise to that level of intensity?
Yeah, I really want someone who’s, like, active and, like,
into being fit and, like, putting a lot of time into that.
Because that’s just, like, what I’ve gotten
so into the last, like, couple years.
And I see myself, like, skiing aggressively
’til I’m, like, 60, 70, and then still, like,
skiing, like, lightly ’til I’m, like, 90, ideally, right?
And then, like, playing pickleball the next, like, 60 years.
I see my life, like, extremely physical.
I just love it. Like, it just makes me feel alive.
So, it’s tough to ignore it.
What comes up for you when you hear all of that?
[Marissa sighs heavily]
He has had a girlfriend who was able to keep up
with him before, and that’s who I’m being compared to.
It obviously didn’t work out for other reasons,
but that’s always gonna be in the back of his head that,
you know, I’m now the one who can’t keep up.
And then I have someone who’s, like,
yeah, but I’m at this level and you’re at this level.
And so I’m, like, I can’t...
get to the intensity level that he is wanting.
Do you want to be in a situation like that?
I think I become a little stressed, for sure.
[Dr. Lisa] Does it show up as anxiety?
- Does it show-- It does. - Yeah, it’s anxiety.
- [Dr. Lisa] Can you talk me through that? - Yeah.
High-performing people have it. That’s why I asked.
Yeah, no, I think I’ve struggled
with anxiety ever since I was a little kid.
- Oh. - [Marissa] Yeah.
Depression, too? They love each other.
Yeah, super anxious, scared kid,
and then, super depressed teenager.
[soft music]
[Adam] Mm-hmm.
And I’ve done, like, a lot of work to... [sighs] ...fight those things.
But I’m in a really stressful situation now,
with this pressure-cooker of a situation, and...
- This? - Yeah.
And, you know, not being able to do
my routine or the things that I like.
So, I’m having a lot of anxiety...
and, like, trouble communicating
because I’m not putting my best foot forward.
I’m really anxious and...
not so much depressed these days.
Like, that was really, like, my high school self.
But anxiety still lives.
- [Dr. Lisa] Yeah. - Yeah.
Every day I’m so hard on myself.
Because, like, in past relationships,
if I wasn’t, like, perfect,
or, like, I forgot to take the veggies out
or, like, switch the laundry
or, like, the tiniest things, like,
I loaded the dishwasher the wrong way,
like, I would literally be scolded.
Are you nervous that someone as intense as Adam
can actually be a trigger for this anxiety?
- Yeah. - Like, I’m listening to what triggers your anxiety,
and the need to be excellent in your own right,
- and the need to sort of get everything done. - Sure.
- Oh, my God, yeah. - And, like...
- Oh, my God, you’re married to sort of your core trigger. - Like... exactly.
No, it-- that’s such a good point.
Like, I strive to be perfect,
- and that’s obviously not attainable. - [Dr. Lisa] I know.
It’s interesting.
What I really am hearing is ability to be flexible or not,
ability to compromise, fluidity versus rigidity.
I’m wondering what comes up when I frame it that way.
Yeah, I mean, that makes sense, for sure.
Like, we’re obviously gonna have to compromise, you know?
Like, that’s the underlying, I guess,
- kind of solution to this all. - [Dr. Lisa] But, can you?
I don’t know if I’ll be, like, 100% satisfied.
- Right. - Like, I-- we have no idea.
That’s a very honest statement.
You have deferred so far.
My concern is because you probably,
if I’m being predictive,
are gonna be the less fluid one,
are you going to over-defer for peacekeeping purposes,
or for maintaining the stability of the marriage,
- or so he doesn’t leave? - [Marissa] Right.
That’s what I told him, too,
I was like, I’m not going to try to, you know,
maintain this level of intensity,
because I know that’s just not me.
[Adam] It’s definitely a really tough position.
Marissa’s so awesome. Our personalities really mesh.
A lot of our time together, it’s just like,
us laughing and having fun. Like, that’s great.
She’s a 10 out of 10 phenomenal human being.
It’s sad for me that she’s not, like,
super down to, like, work out
or do a bunch of, like, sports and whatnot,
but I’m also not gonna, like,
try and change someone, you know?
Like, you should love someone, like, how they are.
I’m down to see if we can compromise
and both adjust to make that happen together,
just because, you know, like, I want this to be my person.
I appreciate how open you guys came, and how much we hit.
- You can’t lose your voice. - [Adam] For sure.
- I won’t. - [Dr. Lisa] I know.
I won’t let her.
- That. - Sweet.
That is the right answer. That’s the right answer.
♪ Can you hold me tonight ♪
♪ Yes, you We’re breaking all the rules ♪
Even though his parents are in Europe right now,
I can’t wait to check out their house.
I hope that we get to see some baby pics of him.
There’s Bella in the back. Olive’s in the crate.
[Cameron] What part of Portland are we in?
[Michelle] We are in the northeast side.
Just say northeast. We don’t say the northeast side.
[Michelle] Oh, okay. We’re-- We’re in the northeast.
No, just we’re in northeast.
- [Michelle] We’re in northeast. - Gosh.
I used to roam this neighborhood with my friends.
We could just kind of walk and meet up
in someone’s house or, like, a park.
I kind of want our kids to be able to do that.
[Michelle] I want that, too.
Wow. Look at that entrance.
[Cameron] Beautiful door, hey?
[Michelle] Oh, Bella’s so excited to check it out.
- You ready to go to my room? - [gasps] Yes.
This is so nice.
[Cameron] These are my trophies. Tennis. First place.
There’s some second-place trophies.
Why did I keep those?
My parents, like, saved everything.
Oh, geez. Cam’s poems!
- [both laughing] - Oh, this is so good. Oh, my God.
"I love to eat.
In the kitchen, all foods taste good when my mouth is itchin’."
[Michelle laughing]
[Cameron] Oh, man.
The first girl I ever kissed, her name was Michelle.
It was right on this-- this-- this very bed.
[Michelle] Oh, no.
We’ve come full circle.
Well, there’d only be one other way to come full circle.
[laughing]
You can be my second Michelle kiss.
But isn’t that sloppy seconds?
I mean, it was 20-- 22 years ago, but...
[laughing]
Okay.
[soft music]
- What? - [laughing] You’re just so silly.
I was 16, was the last time I had a Michelle in my bed.
Now I’m in the bedroom with a wife named Michelle,
and it’s hard to even believe that it’s true.
All right, the basement.
This is where we’d, like, hang out and be away from the parents.
Yeah, I loved being away from the parents.
The best. Take a seat. I got something to show you.
Smells like Home Depot.
[Cameron] I know, it’s nice.
Everything in our marriage has seemed so easy,
and I don’t even get nervous thinking about
her coming to Christmas dinner with my family.
They’ve only met her one time.
That level of connection, that’s not a normal thing.
This is the Cam box.
I’m just showing you my trophies.
I don’t need to show you that I was
the league MVP and rebound leader.
- And you don’t care about that. - [laughing]
[Cameron] I have a basketball card.
[Michelle] Oh, damn.
How much do you think this is worth?
Negative 50 cents.
I like showing stuff like this to someone who’s really special.
[Michelle] I loved coming here.
I could spend more time here, for sure.
I like the food scene. I like the neighborhoods.
Cost of living is way better.
[clicks tongue] It’s not bad.
[Michelle] Moving to Portland might be an option.
I was feeling pretty strongly against it,
but after seeing the home that he grew up in,
it’s so obvious Cam had an amazing life,
and he wants something similar for his children.
I know we still have a couple more weeks until Decision Day,
but, you know, I’m already thinking way past that
and thinking about moving in together, and...
I want our kids to, you know, to have this great kind of childhood
with loving parents who, like, teach them to work hard,
and strict, but not too strict.
- I’ll be the strict one. - [Michelle] Yes.
- You’re the bad cop. - [Cameron] I’m the bad cop, for sure.
- Yeah. - Aw. [laughing]
That means a lot.
♪ Take me over all the lights ♪
♪ And take me to the edge Of time ♪
I can’t believe that we’re here.
♪ Gonna get A little lost with you ♪
I mean what I said, I found my person.
[laughs]
[♪]
I’m just getting to the point where, like,
I’m getting really tired of
Felipe saying, I like you so much, and, like, oh my gosh,
I didn’t expect to see this future and all of these things.
And, like...
like, I think we both really have a lot of chemistry,
and I think we both know that, and have talked about that,
and acknowledged that, but also it’s like,
why go through this process if you’re not sure?
Like, if you-- like, it’s shocking that you like me so much, and--
but you’re, like, worried you’re gonna cheat on me,
then what the-- What are you doing this for?
♪ I don’t know Which way is up ♪
I think he genuinely thinks we’re good right now.
How? Like, what?
I just don’t understand his thought process at all.
Honestly, I just feel like I need space from him a little bit.
♪ When will Enough be enough? ♪
I’m torn between, like, having a conversation
and just, like, not wanting to deal with it right now.
Like, it’s just too much. I’ve got work.
I’ve got my family. I’ve got a lot of shit going on,
and I just don’t have bandwidth to, like, coddle his feelings
about his indecisiveness, about his player ways.
Like, figure it the fuck out.
♪ When will Enough be enough? ♪
How many babies are we going to have?
[smooching noises]
Hey, oh! [laughing]
I don’t need you all over me, like, unless we’re in bed.
[clicks tongue]
[Nikki] I mean, I love how when you cook,
you clean up after yourself. That’s huge.
That alone should be enough for you to say yes.
[Nikki laughs] Right?
The sparks are flying now.
I just still don’t know if I buy it, to be honest.
Tonight’s session is designed to be hard.
[tense music]
- You are, like, married to me. - Yeah.
So, there’s really no reason to not be comfortable.
Today, you have to decide if you are all in or not.
[♪]
I want you.
You say you’re into me, but I don’t feel that,
- like, really, at all. - I just want to fix this.
I am, uh, committed to Tori.
Today.
[♪]
Do you have faith in your marriage?
I just wanted it to work so badly, and I was so hopeful.
[♪]
[Paul] You two have agreed that...
you’d like to end your marriage tonight.
♪ Enemies to lovers ♪
♪ Keep it undercover ♪
♪ Oh, you got a soft side ♪
♪ Imma take a bite ♪
♪ Enemies to lovers ♪
♪ Gonna stay with each other ♪
♪ Bring it to the light side ♪
♪ You can dream it, right? ♪