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- Ah, [bleep].
- Seven weeks ago,
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ten fearless singles
took a daring leap of faith
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in order to find love.
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They married
as complete strangers,
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and with Decision Day
approaching fast,
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our couples are going
to have to decide
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whether they want to stay
married or get a divorce.
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[upbeat music]
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Last time, our four couples
examined each other's past
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in hopes that their choice
would become clear
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before Decision Day.
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- There's a lot of happy
moments in his house,
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on this street in general.
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- ♪ Grew up down the street ♪
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♪ We were meant to be ♪
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- The growth from when I first
met you to now
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is just beautiful.
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- We made a lot
of progress together--
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- Yeah.
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- But we still have things
that we need to figure out,
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being so close to Decision Day.
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♪ ♪
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- This is where I live.
Raise kids here.
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- We missed the mark
on a lot of situations,
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but where we align
is so deep and connected.
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- ♪ You know it,
you'll know it ♪
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♪ ♪
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- If you're married
and you're not living together
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all the time,
how do you reassure each other?
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- I'm just not sure
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exactly what
that's gonna look like yet.
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- I mean, we can't really raise
kids when we are across town.
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♪ ♪
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- Can Katina finish
her bachelor's
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and finish her nursing
while being married
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and having a kid?
That is a lot.
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I know Katina cares
about school a lot.
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- Yeah, if you care
for somebody,
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you will always look out
for what's best for them.
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♪ ♪
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- And tonight...
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[laughter]
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- ♪ When do we start
wanna have some fun ♪
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- With only one week left
until that fateful day...
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- I figured we could eat
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and then do
a home fertility test.
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- What does that tell us?
- Your sperm count.
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♪ ♪
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- Our couples will have
the chance
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to talk to those
closest to them
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before they make the biggest
decision of their lives.
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- She's working on
her associate's.
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I mean, that's just how much
she wants to get into nursing.
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So we're looking at
almost three
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to five years still in school.
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♪ ♪
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- I definitely feel
more connected to him,
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but feelings
have still not come.
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- I didn't come to this process
to make a friend.
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- Right.
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- Are you feeling better
about his job plan?
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- You know what
a sales engineer is?
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- No.
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- It took a lot of work
to get there,
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and I did it for four years.
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- I don't know what that means.
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Like, how does that translate
to, like, income?
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♪ ♪
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- ♪ It's all or nothing ♪
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- This is
"Married at First Sight."
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- ♪ There's no other way ♪
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♪ ♪
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♪ It's all or nothing ♪
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- ♪ We try to see
the big picture, time slips ♪
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♪ Right through our fingers ♪
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♪ Takes a lot ♪
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♪ Takes a lot
to become a believer ♪
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- I'm with my bonus babies.
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Hey, Rocky.
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I love you very much.
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Chloe, I, uh,
I like you very much.
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Chloe, "love"
is a very strong word
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that I'm not ready
to use on you.
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- Decision Day is
less than a week away,
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and it's time for our couples
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to reach deep
within themselves.
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- I'm with my husband.
[laughs]
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We're taking a walk
on the beach
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before he heads to work today.
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- And really determine
whether or not they can share
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the rest of their lives
with a spouse
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they met as a stranger
only seven weeks ago.
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- He got me
this really cute gift.
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It says Noi Wifey.
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That says we got married
June 25th, which we did not.
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We didn't even know each other
at this point.
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- They are legally bound
in a real marriage,
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and the only options are to
stay married or get a divorce.
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- I'm--I'm with a friend, then,
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and that's not
what I signed up for.
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That's not what I wanted
and, you know,
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we have a lot of things
to work through.
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The only thing that
I can change on my own
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without her help
is me being my authentic self.
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All the other disconnects
we have,
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we gotta work that out
together.
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And however this marriage goes,
if I'm my 100% authentic self,
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I'll be able to live with it.
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♪ ♪
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- ♪ Everybody wants a lover ♪
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♪ But nobody wants to love ♪
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♪ ♪
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- I figured we could eat
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and then do
a home fertility test.
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- What does that tell us?
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- Your sperm count.
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♪ ♪
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Decision Day is approaching,
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and Mark and I
are doing really well.
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I, uh, believe it's gonna
require some sperm.
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But based on the fact
that Mark and I
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are probably close to the end
of the fertility spectrum
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versus the beginning,
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it seems to me as though
the fertility test
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would be a useful thing for me
to know before Decision Day.
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I'm a planner, so I
like to know things...
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- Yeah.
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- And the way you love and care
for your cats
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tells me that you would really
love and care for your kids.
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- Oh, yeah.
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- I can see you making
your kids a priority,
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and I really like that.
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I might consider
incubating a child for you.
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- Baby sharks are in no rush,
but you know what?
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Maybe I am a little curious
to see if my little guys
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and her little girls can make
something down the road.
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- All right, baby.
You know, you gotta ejaculate.
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- Okay.
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- I might give you
a little help.
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[Mark laughs]
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- ♪ Or maybe
it's all I wanna do ♪
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♪ ♪
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- ♪ It's all I wanna do ♪
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- Mark, I ain't gonna lie, your
sperm don't look healthy, babe.
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You gotta drink some water.
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My man is dehydrated.
[laughs]
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It looks like
he's shooting out Elmer's glue
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that's been uncapped
for a week.
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Sperm cocktail.
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Okay, and this goes in there.
- Mm.
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- If I'm gonna be honest,
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it's really hard to look
at your husband's splooge
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in a plastic cup that serves
ketchup or tartar sauce
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in a fish restaurant.
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Ugh.
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- Five, six--
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- If you see any line at all,
your test is positive,
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no matter how faint or how
one compares to the other.
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- It's looking low.
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- No, I see--I see
a line on both.
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- You do?
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- Yeah, I can see one
right there--it's a shadow.
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Give it seven minutes.
You can't read it before then.
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- While I'm waiting,
I'm, like, kind of get nervous
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because I tried things
that enhance my size
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and muscles in my 20s
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that could impact
the ability to have kids.
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So I'm really hoping
to see the results
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come back in our favor.
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I'm looking safer
by the second.
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Looking like I still got stuff
in the tank.
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♪ ♪
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Still positive.
Don't have to go get a refill.
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- You're gonna be a great dad.
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And you got the
dad jokes lined up.
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- I can still make them.
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My little troopers are still
swimming by the millions.
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There are lots of--
lots of little sharks
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dying to find an egg.
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Good to go.
- Congrats.
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- Ha! Let's see.
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- Those little swimmers.
- All those swimmers.
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♪ ♪
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- ♪ I've been
searching for a new life ♪
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♪ An open door ♪
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- You look so cute.
- Aw, so do you.
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- It's so good
to see--I miss you.
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- I know, I miss you too.
It's so weird.
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I'm, like, so used to
seeing you all the time.
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- I know.
- I'm like,
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"Wait, I have a husband
that I see every day?
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What?"
- That's crazy.
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- So much.
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It's crazy how much can change
in such a short amount of time.
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- Yeah.
- But we had a good start
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and then we kinda had,
like, a rocky integration,
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I guess, like,
after we lived together.
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And then I think now we've
kinda, like, turned a corner,
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but who knows?
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Like, some--some weeks
are great.
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Like, we don't fight
and we're just so happy
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and just having fun, and then
the next week it's like...
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- Yeah, last time
when we were talking,
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we were talking a lot about,
like,
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how you were raised
and how it's different.
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- Yeah.
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- Like, your family
is so communal
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and you just, like,
do things for each other.
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And he made such a point
of being, like,
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you don't do this stuff,
which is weird.
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- I'm over here, you know,
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cooking, cleaning,
getting the house in order.
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And I haven't seen us
splitting tasks.
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Like, part of me is like,
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"Well, maybe we should try
that first
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so that you can really feel
what that's like."
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- 'Cause you're such
a nurturer.
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- Yeah, I was like...
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- I just thought
that was bizarre.
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- "What do you mean
I don't do things?"
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- Like--
- I was really lost.
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- Do you see me?
- I was like,
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"What things I--do I not do?
I don't understand."
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So he probably felt like, "Oh,
she must not be doing anything
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because she's not saying
she did it."
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I still don't really do that,
but I do, like, verbalize,
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like, my appreciation
for him a little bit more.
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- Are you feeling better
about his job plan?
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- A little bit, I've had--
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- I don't know why Steve
won't just get a job.
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- Yeah.
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- He sound--he seems like
such a smart guy.
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Like, I bet he could get
a job easily.
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- He could.
- Yeah.
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- That's the thing, you know,
like, it's like you can.
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- I know.
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- Honestly, I feel like
he's the type of person
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that needs to just focus
on one task at hand.
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He's like, "I'm gonna focus
on my marriage right now."
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And then when he has the time
and energy, then he'll be like,
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"I'm going to focus on figuring
out what I really wanna do
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and how I'm gonna support
this marriage."
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I mean, like, good for you.
Like, that's wonderful.
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- So I think you're, like,
rolling your eyes.
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Can you say that
with more attitude?
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[laughs]
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- I mean, for me, though, like,
I'm a hustler, like,
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I'd be like,
"Oh, I'm gonna do that.
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Oh, I'm gonna cook, clean,
and bust my ass."
252
00:10:38,138 --> 00:10:40,723
- Yeah.
- Why can't you also do that?
253
00:10:40,849 --> 00:10:43,309
- Yeah, it's like the stakes
are so high.
254
00:10:43,393 --> 00:10:44,477
- Mm-hmm.
255
00:10:44,602 --> 00:10:45,562
- Like, to put your faith
in someone
256
00:10:45,687 --> 00:10:46,813
that you've known for...
257
00:10:46,980 --> 00:10:49,941
- Two months?
- Two months.
258
00:10:50,024 --> 00:10:54,362
- Like, how are you processing
such a big decision?
259
00:10:54,487 --> 00:10:57,323
- It's pretty scary.
- Yeah.
260
00:10:57,490 --> 00:11:02,662
- As much as I love Steve,
a part of me just wonders
261
00:11:02,787 --> 00:11:05,498
if we have enough
of a foundation--
262
00:11:05,623 --> 00:11:07,500
if we've built
enough of a foundation
263
00:11:07,584 --> 00:11:10,962
to really make it everlasting.
264
00:11:11,087 --> 00:11:13,506
I really wanna make sure
that the decision I make
265
00:11:13,631 --> 00:11:17,135
is really the best decision
for me ultimately.
266
00:11:17,302 --> 00:11:18,887
I do trust him more now,
267
00:11:19,012 --> 00:11:22,849
but I also need to weigh
the pros and cons
268
00:11:23,016 --> 00:11:28,146
and, you know, like, for me,
it's still kind of scary.
269
00:11:28,271 --> 00:11:34,986
♪ ♪
270
00:11:35,862 --> 00:11:37,739
- Well, you're
getting close, huh?
271
00:11:37,864 --> 00:11:39,407
- Yeah.
[both laugh]
272
00:11:39,532 --> 00:11:41,409
It's up in the air
what's my decision.
273
00:11:41,534 --> 00:11:43,995
So it's important that I meet
with coach Mack today.
274
00:11:44,120 --> 00:11:45,663
He's my mentor.
275
00:11:45,830 --> 00:11:48,583
He plays, like,
a-a father figure in my life.
276
00:11:48,708 --> 00:11:50,793
He'll be honest,
and that's what I need
277
00:11:50,960 --> 00:11:54,047
'cause I wanna make the
best decision truly for myself.
278
00:11:54,172 --> 00:11:55,256
- So what's new?
279
00:11:55,381 --> 00:11:56,841
- Decision Day
is getting close.
280
00:11:57,008 --> 00:11:59,219
Me and Katina,
we're trying to figure out
281
00:11:59,344 --> 00:12:00,929
where we gonna lay down,
282
00:12:01,012 --> 00:12:03,514
and where's--where's
our final decision?
283
00:12:03,681 --> 00:12:06,434
Our chemistry is real,
she's beautiful,
284
00:12:06,517 --> 00:12:09,062
she's mad funny.
She's a business major.
285
00:12:09,187 --> 00:12:10,438
- Yeah.
286
00:12:10,563 --> 00:12:12,023
- She's working on
her associate's.
287
00:12:12,148 --> 00:12:13,316
I mean,
then she's talking about
288
00:12:13,441 --> 00:12:15,401
she wants to switch
into nursing program after.
289
00:12:15,526 --> 00:12:18,196
So we're looking at almost
about three to five years
290
00:12:18,321 --> 00:12:19,489
still of school.
291
00:12:19,656 --> 00:12:20,823
I ignored it at the beginning
292
00:12:20,907 --> 00:12:22,575
because I just wanted
to get to know her,
293
00:12:22,700 --> 00:12:24,661
and when we first talked,
294
00:12:24,827 --> 00:12:27,330
I-I thought
what she was done in May.
295
00:12:27,413 --> 00:12:28,581
And Coach Mack,
I'm ready--I--you know this.
296
00:12:28,706 --> 00:12:29,874
Remember I was telling you
in college
297
00:12:29,999 --> 00:12:31,084
I can't wait for me
to travel the world.
298
00:12:31,209 --> 00:12:32,252
- Right.
299
00:12:32,377 --> 00:12:34,921
- And I don't see how she could
travel the world
300
00:12:35,004 --> 00:12:37,340
while being a wife
and getting her bachelor's
301
00:12:37,507 --> 00:12:39,008
and then going
to nursing school.
302
00:12:39,133 --> 00:12:41,469
I just went through this
with my ex,
303
00:12:41,636 --> 00:12:42,845
and it didn't work.
304
00:12:43,012 --> 00:12:45,265
I'm over school.
I don't--even who I'm with,
305
00:12:45,348 --> 00:12:47,350
I don't wanna hear nothing
about school.
306
00:12:47,517 --> 00:12:49,978
Katina feels like she could
just go in and out of school.
307
00:12:50,061 --> 00:12:52,814
Like, I could travel and
do my--my books and do that.
308
00:12:52,897 --> 00:12:55,275
My ex was like that,
and I struggled with it.
309
00:12:55,400 --> 00:12:57,277
♪ ♪
310
00:12:57,360 --> 00:12:59,320
- Well, the bottom line is,
you know...
311
00:12:59,445 --> 00:13:00,655
- And--and I said that to her.
312
00:13:00,780 --> 00:13:02,031
- It's--it's the rest
of your life, right?
313
00:13:02,198 --> 00:13:03,491
And if you have
a different idea
314
00:13:03,616 --> 00:13:04,867
of what it should be
to be married,
315
00:13:05,034 --> 00:13:06,411
then it's not the right place
for you, right?
316
00:13:06,536 --> 00:13:07,870
- Right.
317
00:13:08,037 --> 00:13:09,956
- You guys aren't on the
same page, and you should be.
318
00:13:10,081 --> 00:13:12,667
- You should be
with your--with your wife.
319
00:13:12,834 --> 00:13:15,295
And look, I mean,
it's a real simple question
320
00:13:15,420 --> 00:13:16,963
and answer to yourself, right?
321
00:13:17,130 --> 00:13:19,257
- Yeah.
- Is she the one?
322
00:13:19,382 --> 00:13:23,469
♪ ♪
323
00:13:28,057 --> 00:13:29,976
- ♪ 'Cause you know
and you know it ♪
324
00:13:30,059 --> 00:13:31,686
♪ And you know and you know
and you'll figure it out ♪
325
00:13:31,853 --> 00:13:34,147
♪ 'Cause you know
and you know it ♪
326
00:13:34,314 --> 00:13:37,483
♪ And you know and you know
and you'll figure it out ♪
327
00:13:37,567 --> 00:13:40,737
- Jas, what's up?
- Hi, Miles.
328
00:13:40,862 --> 00:13:43,656
- ♪ We've gotta figure it out,
we've gotta ♪
329
00:13:43,781 --> 00:13:45,283
♪ ♪
330
00:13:45,366 --> 00:13:48,119
[knock at door]
331
00:13:48,244 --> 00:13:49,996
- [laughs] You knock,
and then you open the door.
332
00:13:50,079 --> 00:13:52,540
- I didn't want to be
super rude, I got some manners.
333
00:13:52,665 --> 00:13:54,083
Look at this.
334
00:13:54,208 --> 00:13:56,336
This is the first time that me
and my sisters
335
00:13:56,502 --> 00:13:57,795
are all getting together
336
00:13:57,920 --> 00:14:01,632
since I let them know
that I was marrying a stranger.
337
00:14:01,716 --> 00:14:04,010
It's actually too late
to pull out
338
00:14:04,135 --> 00:14:06,346
'cause I'm getting married
in two weeks.
339
00:14:06,512 --> 00:14:08,222
[all screaming]
340
00:14:08,348 --> 00:14:11,059
Also, last time I was here,
my sister Tina was pregnant,
341
00:14:11,184 --> 00:14:14,103
and now we have a wonderful
addition to my family
342
00:14:14,187 --> 00:14:15,897
who is hopefully
can give me some advice
343
00:14:16,022 --> 00:14:18,024
on what I'm going to be doing
on Decision Day as well.
344
00:14:18,149 --> 00:14:19,359
Is this just for décor,
or are we eating?
345
00:14:19,484 --> 00:14:22,195
- No, no.
- A'ight.
346
00:14:22,320 --> 00:14:24,280
The last time
I seen you guys all together,
347
00:14:24,405 --> 00:14:27,909
I was two weeks away
from getting married.
348
00:14:28,034 --> 00:14:29,744
Now I'm making a decision.
349
00:14:29,869 --> 00:14:31,037
- Wow.
350
00:14:31,162 --> 00:14:32,997
- Is that what you've been
stressing about?
351
00:14:33,122 --> 00:14:34,165
- Mm.
352
00:14:34,290 --> 00:14:35,875
I feel like I've spoke
to you the most about,
353
00:14:35,958 --> 00:14:37,627
like, what's going on
and where I'm at.
354
00:14:37,752 --> 00:14:41,464
What would you say in terms
of what we need to focus on
355
00:14:41,589 --> 00:14:44,008
in order to, you know,
356
00:14:44,133 --> 00:14:46,761
both of us confidently
say yes on Decision Day?
357
00:14:46,844 --> 00:14:48,179
- You guys want the same thing.
358
00:14:48,304 --> 00:14:50,181
You guys are looking
for the same thing.
359
00:14:50,306 --> 00:14:52,809
For some reason, you guys
aren't giving each other,
360
00:14:52,934 --> 00:14:54,977
and I think that comes
from a lot of over-processing.
361
00:14:55,061 --> 00:14:56,229
Both of you guys
are thinking too much,
362
00:14:56,354 --> 00:14:58,773
so you guys are doing
a lot of foreshadowing.
363
00:14:58,856 --> 00:15:01,317
- So here's the good news.
364
00:15:01,401 --> 00:15:03,361
I feel like we cleared the air
with all of that.
365
00:15:03,486 --> 00:15:04,529
- Oh, nice.
- Good.
366
00:15:04,654 --> 00:15:06,197
- Like, I would say now
we're on the same page
367
00:15:06,364 --> 00:15:08,658
of, like, what needs to change
in our relationship.
368
00:15:08,783 --> 00:15:10,118
- Nice.
369
00:15:10,201 --> 00:15:11,661
♪ ♪
370
00:15:11,744 --> 00:15:15,623
- So tell me, how--how's it--
how's it's been going?
371
00:15:15,706 --> 00:15:16,874
- Things have been going
really well.
372
00:15:16,999 --> 00:15:19,085
- So has it been
more romantic or--
373
00:15:19,168 --> 00:15:23,798
or have you felt
any feelings develop?
374
00:15:23,923 --> 00:15:27,969
- I definitely feel
more connected to him,
375
00:15:28,052 --> 00:15:32,682
but feelings
have still not come.
376
00:15:32,807 --> 00:15:35,017
♪ ♪
377
00:15:35,143 --> 00:15:37,145
Even though Mike and I
are in a good place,
378
00:15:37,270 --> 00:15:40,940
we're not in the space
that I want us to be in for me
379
00:15:41,023 --> 00:15:44,569
to feel 100% confident
going into Decision Day.
380
00:15:44,694 --> 00:15:49,073
I still--I'm trying to get
a deeper connection.
381
00:15:49,198 --> 00:15:51,826
- I didn't come to this process
to make a friend.
382
00:15:51,951 --> 00:15:53,035
- Mm-hmm.
- Right.
383
00:15:53,161 --> 00:15:54,704
- I want my wife
to be my best friend.
384
00:15:54,829 --> 00:15:56,706
- Right.
- But not...
385
00:15:56,831 --> 00:15:58,291
both: Just my friend.
386
00:15:58,374 --> 00:16:01,210
♪ ♪
387
00:16:01,335 --> 00:16:03,754
- Well, at least
what's holding you back
388
00:16:03,838 --> 00:16:06,090
from being intimate?
389
00:16:06,174 --> 00:16:09,886
- We've definitely, you know,
have had moments
390
00:16:10,011 --> 00:16:12,305
where I've felt
our connection get deeper,
391
00:16:12,388 --> 00:16:15,141
but they weren't necessarily
moments where I looked
392
00:16:15,266 --> 00:16:19,145
at him differently,
you know, in that way.
393
00:16:19,228 --> 00:16:23,274
- Has he made any efforts to,
I don't know, make any moves?
394
00:16:23,399 --> 00:16:25,610
- He'll, like,
reach for my hand or, like,
395
00:16:25,693 --> 00:16:28,154
come and sit next to me,
give me kisses on the cheek.
396
00:16:28,237 --> 00:16:30,031
He does, like,
all of that stuff.
397
00:16:30,156 --> 00:16:31,949
- You think that
if he were more outward
398
00:16:32,033 --> 00:16:34,911
about his feelings and,
you know, told you that,
399
00:16:35,036 --> 00:16:36,913
you know,
he wants this to work,
400
00:16:37,038 --> 00:16:40,374
and do you think that
your mindset will change
401
00:16:40,500 --> 00:16:43,419
in a way that will help
the relationship grow?
402
00:16:43,503 --> 00:16:46,339
♪ ♪
403
00:16:46,464 --> 00:16:48,132
- Yeah.
404
00:16:48,257 --> 00:16:51,969
But I also think that he's
probably in his head about it
405
00:16:52,053 --> 00:16:53,638
and purposely
doesn't talk like that
406
00:16:53,763 --> 00:16:57,475
'cause he doesn't wanna
make me uncomfortable.
407
00:16:57,558 --> 00:16:58,601
- Yeah.
408
00:16:58,684 --> 00:17:00,019
♪ ♪
409
00:17:00,144 --> 00:17:02,104
- We have
a short amount of time
410
00:17:02,188 --> 00:17:07,318
until Decision Day,
and I'm like, "What do I do?"
411
00:17:07,443 --> 00:17:10,655
- Do you not feel like
the progress you've made
412
00:17:10,780 --> 00:17:14,325
is enough to trust
to move forward?
413
00:17:14,450 --> 00:17:17,328
- I don't know. I don't know.
414
00:17:17,453 --> 00:17:18,746
- It's just a sticky situation
415
00:17:18,871 --> 00:17:19,956
because you don't
wanna be pushy
416
00:17:20,039 --> 00:17:21,415
so that she can
feel comfortable,
417
00:17:21,541 --> 00:17:25,002
but at the same time,
how long is too long for him
418
00:17:25,127 --> 00:17:27,338
to feel like he's comfortable
as well in his marriage
419
00:17:27,463 --> 00:17:28,714
and getting everything
that he feels
420
00:17:28,839 --> 00:17:30,883
like he deserves
in his marriage?
421
00:17:31,008 --> 00:17:32,260
- I think you might wanna
take this time
422
00:17:32,343 --> 00:17:34,345
and make a decision
to protect Mike.
423
00:17:34,470 --> 00:17:36,347
It might be time to sit
with yourself and decide one,
424
00:17:36,472 --> 00:17:38,391
what you're willing
to compromise,
425
00:17:38,516 --> 00:17:41,936
and two, what you feel like
is worth it, I think.
426
00:17:42,061 --> 00:17:44,438
Like, you know,
is it worth going on hope
427
00:17:44,522 --> 00:17:47,858
and just shrugging and saying,
"Maybe I'll get what I need
428
00:17:47,984 --> 00:17:51,028
to be--to be secure here
eventually"?
429
00:17:51,153 --> 00:17:52,989
You might wanna figure out
how much that part
430
00:17:53,114 --> 00:17:54,323
of your marriage means to you,
431
00:17:54,448 --> 00:17:57,493
and I'd personally think
and just walk and just watching
432
00:17:57,577 --> 00:18:00,329
and how much you analyze it,
it means a lot.
433
00:18:00,413 --> 00:18:03,833
♪ ♪
434
00:18:04,000 --> 00:18:04,792
- That missing link
is really important.
435
00:18:04,875 --> 00:18:06,627
- It's important, yeah.
436
00:18:06,752 --> 00:18:09,297
♪ ♪
437
00:18:09,422 --> 00:18:12,174
- Do you think now it's worth
pointing out
438
00:18:12,300 --> 00:18:15,469
all of the--all the stops
and trying to see
439
00:18:15,595 --> 00:18:17,388
if things can change
if you tell him,
440
00:18:17,513 --> 00:18:19,473
"Hey, you know, if you
open up more emotionally
441
00:18:19,557 --> 00:18:21,726
"and tell me how you feel
about this relationship
442
00:18:21,851 --> 00:18:24,478
"and about me specifically,
443
00:18:24,645 --> 00:18:27,648
then it could certainly
help us grow"?
444
00:18:27,732 --> 00:18:29,900
Have you considered that?
445
00:18:30,026 --> 00:18:31,861
- No, I haven't.
446
00:18:31,986 --> 00:18:34,739
[both laugh]
447
00:18:34,864 --> 00:18:36,073
- I mean, see where it goes.
448
00:18:36,198 --> 00:18:37,742
You should do everything it--
449
00:18:37,867 --> 00:18:41,454
whatever it takes to--
to see if it works.
450
00:18:41,537 --> 00:18:45,833
- Yeah, but if I'm not
feeling anything,
451
00:18:45,958 --> 00:18:47,126
you know, come Decision Day,
452
00:18:47,251 --> 00:18:50,588
it would--it would really be,
like, a no.
453
00:18:50,671 --> 00:18:56,719
♪ ♪
454
00:18:58,387 --> 00:19:01,015
- ♪ I wish I could forget,
whoa, whoa ♪
455
00:19:01,182 --> 00:19:03,476
♪ I wish I could forget,
whoa, whoa ♪
456
00:19:03,559 --> 00:19:06,979
♪ I wish I could forget,
whoa, whoa ♪
457
00:19:07,146 --> 00:19:10,191
♪ Everything you said to me ♪
458
00:19:10,316 --> 00:19:11,776
- Hey, buddy.
- What's up?
459
00:19:11,859 --> 00:19:13,069
- What's going on? How are you?
460
00:19:13,194 --> 00:19:15,488
- Good. How are you?
- Good.
461
00:19:17,198 --> 00:19:18,532
- Oh, yeah.
462
00:19:18,699 --> 00:19:19,492
I love you too.
463
00:19:21,035 --> 00:19:22,953
- Decision Day
is a few days away,
464
00:19:23,037 --> 00:19:24,246
and I'm not 100% yes or no.
465
00:19:24,372 --> 00:19:25,665
So I thought I'd come
and talk to Jon
466
00:19:25,748 --> 00:19:29,627
about how to get to one place
or the other
467
00:19:29,752 --> 00:19:33,756
and any last words of wisdom
and how to navigate this week.
468
00:19:33,839 --> 00:19:35,675
♪ ♪
469
00:19:35,841 --> 00:19:36,926
- How's everything going?
470
00:19:37,009 --> 00:19:38,636
[both laugh]
471
00:19:38,719 --> 00:19:41,055
♪ ♪
472
00:19:41,180 --> 00:19:42,473
- It's going.
473
00:19:42,598 --> 00:19:47,812
I mean, it's--
this week was a lot.
474
00:19:47,895 --> 00:19:51,440
Monday,
Mom went to the hospital.
475
00:19:51,565 --> 00:19:55,319
It's hard because my mom
is at a point
476
00:19:55,486 --> 00:19:57,530
where she's not
taking care of herself
477
00:19:57,655 --> 00:20:00,950
and she gets nervous
getting in out of the bed
478
00:20:01,033 --> 00:20:02,368
because she's heavy.
479
00:20:02,493 --> 00:20:04,995
So a full-time care facility
480
00:20:05,121 --> 00:20:06,497
is probably the best place
for my mom
481
00:20:06,580 --> 00:20:09,041
because she needs
professional help.
482
00:20:09,166 --> 00:20:10,292
- I mean, I just think
483
00:20:10,376 --> 00:20:11,502
you're in a little bit
of a ditch right now.
484
00:20:11,627 --> 00:20:13,796
You need a little help
to get out of it,
485
00:20:13,921 --> 00:20:16,298
but you do have
depression, Rose.
486
00:20:16,424 --> 00:20:19,760
The--the house is coming along.
We got a lot of stuff.
487
00:20:19,844 --> 00:20:22,012
- Dude, I can't believe
how much you cleaned out.
488
00:20:22,138 --> 00:20:25,933
- Wow.
What work my husband has done.
489
00:20:26,016 --> 00:20:28,144
Check this out.
490
00:20:28,269 --> 00:20:29,937
And it's still going.
491
00:20:30,020 --> 00:20:31,897
- She was in, like,
the same apartment
492
00:20:32,022 --> 00:20:33,149
as Anna-Jo, right?
- Yeah.
493
00:20:33,232 --> 00:20:35,484
I emptied out every cabinet.
- Holy crap.
494
00:20:35,609 --> 00:20:38,320
- This house has never seen
the light of this in years,
495
00:20:38,446 --> 00:20:41,574
so we're working hard.
496
00:20:41,699 --> 00:20:43,576
- So it's like,
those are the times
497
00:20:43,701 --> 00:20:47,496
that I'm, like,
really happy she's there.
498
00:20:47,580 --> 00:20:50,374
It's, like, wh--wh--it's, like,
when there's a moment when,
499
00:20:50,499 --> 00:20:53,210
like, I-I could use support,
she's very, very supportive
500
00:20:53,335 --> 00:20:55,337
and I'm like, "I'm really happy
that you are there.
501
00:20:55,463 --> 00:20:57,131
Not just anyone,
but you are there."
502
00:20:57,298 --> 00:21:00,050
And then Thursday, with JC,
she--she--she's there
503
00:21:00,176 --> 00:21:01,719
for me for--for that.
504
00:21:01,844 --> 00:21:06,307
So she shows up
when I need someone to show--
505
00:21:06,432 --> 00:21:07,767
- That matters the most?
- Matters, yeah.
506
00:21:07,850 --> 00:21:09,727
She shows up
when I need someone to show up,
507
00:21:09,852 --> 00:21:11,520
which is--which is huge,
508
00:21:11,645 --> 00:21:13,606
but when we have
these disagreements
509
00:21:13,689 --> 00:21:15,733
to a point of the way
that they happen,
510
00:21:15,858 --> 00:21:18,235
I'm like,
"I'm fine if you're not there."
511
00:21:18,360 --> 00:21:20,362
So it's, like, that's why
I'm so torn sometimes
512
00:21:20,488 --> 00:21:23,824
which to go because
I've seen both every week.
513
00:21:23,949 --> 00:21:25,117
- Mm-hmm.
514
00:21:25,201 --> 00:21:27,077
- And for me,
when you first meet someone,
515
00:21:27,203 --> 00:21:29,371
you don't wanna have
too many downs,
516
00:21:29,497 --> 00:21:30,915
you rather have
more ups than downs.
517
00:21:31,040 --> 00:21:32,583
And we've had an equal amount.
518
00:21:32,708 --> 00:21:35,377
It's just probably why
I'm, like, torn between
519
00:21:35,503 --> 00:21:37,671
which way to go
because of the ups and downs.
520
00:21:37,797 --> 00:21:40,007
- I'm, like, I sit here and I
look at your circumstances
521
00:21:40,132 --> 00:21:42,510
and I look at, like, everything
that's on your plate,
522
00:21:42,635 --> 00:21:44,804
and I feel like once
the responsibilities
523
00:21:44,929 --> 00:21:47,598
die down a little bit and you
get back to your schedule,
524
00:21:47,681 --> 00:21:49,725
then you can start
to make it work.
525
00:21:49,850 --> 00:21:53,479
When you find someone
that you put it together with,
526
00:21:53,604 --> 00:21:56,357
and you have times like you
had this week,
527
00:21:56,482 --> 00:21:58,651
that's when
the nitty-gritty comes,
528
00:21:58,734 --> 00:22:01,278
and that's when it matters
the most if that makes sense.
529
00:22:01,362 --> 00:22:03,239
So I understand that you're
basing things
530
00:22:03,364 --> 00:22:05,407
off of the previous
eight weeks,
531
00:22:05,533 --> 00:22:08,285
but she definitely
showed up this week.
532
00:22:09,912 --> 00:22:13,457
Judge the most recent
because that's the progress.
533
00:22:13,541 --> 00:22:16,794
And this was probably one of
the tougher weeks of your life,
534
00:22:16,919 --> 00:22:19,380
to tell you the truth.
535
00:22:19,505 --> 00:22:22,216
I know Mark very well,
and transitions
536
00:22:22,341 --> 00:22:23,884
have always been tough for him.
537
00:22:24,009 --> 00:22:27,638
This is the first woman that's
challenged Mark in this way,
538
00:22:27,721 --> 00:22:30,558
but all he wanted to do
was have somebody
539
00:22:30,683 --> 00:22:32,309
that he can build a life
together with
540
00:22:32,393 --> 00:22:33,686
and grow together with.
541
00:22:33,811 --> 00:22:37,231
And he's definitely better
with somebody else,
542
00:22:37,356 --> 00:22:39,024
and he starting
to realize that.
543
00:22:39,149 --> 00:22:41,443
- Here I am, like, unsure
of what to do, stay or leave.
544
00:22:41,527 --> 00:22:42,903
I don't know what life
is like without her
545
00:22:43,028 --> 00:22:45,447
because I haven't really
been away from her.
546
00:22:45,531 --> 00:22:46,740
In normal relationships,
547
00:22:46,866 --> 00:22:48,242
you have so much time
away from each other
548
00:22:48,367 --> 00:22:49,994
to really figure out
if you've missed them
549
00:22:50,119 --> 00:22:51,495
or not when you get in a fight.
550
00:22:51,620 --> 00:22:52,496
- Yeah--
- In this situation--
551
00:22:52,621 --> 00:22:53,998
- Exactly--
- I have no clue.
552
00:22:54,123 --> 00:22:55,708
- Exactly. Yeah, that's tough.
553
00:22:55,833 --> 00:22:59,628
- I feel like it's something
that I need to know
554
00:22:59,753 --> 00:23:02,006
what life is like without her.
555
00:23:02,131 --> 00:23:03,966
I wish that through
all these ups and downs,
556
00:23:04,091 --> 00:23:06,886
I had clarity on yes or no.
557
00:23:07,011 --> 00:23:09,305
I wish it wasn't so which way.
558
00:23:09,388 --> 00:23:10,723
- At the end of eight weeks,
559
00:23:10,848 --> 00:23:12,141
you're not doing yourself
any justice
560
00:23:12,266 --> 00:23:13,809
if you're just like,
"Screw it."
561
00:23:13,893 --> 00:23:17,938
- There are so many things
about Lindsey that's so great,
562
00:23:18,022 --> 00:23:20,900
and there are things that just
haven't arrived for me yet,
563
00:23:21,025 --> 00:23:23,235
and that's the difficulty.
564
00:23:23,360 --> 00:23:25,279
Will they arrive? I don't know.
565
00:23:25,362 --> 00:23:27,907
♪ ♪
566
00:23:31,952 --> 00:23:32,870
[upbeat music]
567
00:23:33,037 --> 00:23:34,163
- ♪ Make it personal ♪
568
00:23:34,330 --> 00:23:35,789
♪ Take your time ♪
569
00:23:35,873 --> 00:23:38,667
♪ Would you mind
if I asked you a question? ♪
570
00:23:38,792 --> 00:23:41,253
- Hello.
- Hey, come on in.
571
00:23:41,378 --> 00:23:44,632
- Hi. I brought champs.
- What's going on?
572
00:23:44,757 --> 00:23:47,635
My good friend Paria
is coming over to the apartment
573
00:23:47,801 --> 00:23:51,305
to help me do a little
ring shopping for Noi.
574
00:23:51,472 --> 00:23:54,141
So I've been checking out
this site, jamesallen.com,
575
00:23:54,224 --> 00:23:55,851
which has been awesome.
576
00:23:56,018 --> 00:23:57,269
- Oh, wow.
577
00:23:57,353 --> 00:23:59,271
What's making you
wanna get another ring?
578
00:23:59,396 --> 00:24:01,190
- I mean, after everything
we've been through,
579
00:24:01,357 --> 00:24:02,816
you know, so many good times,
580
00:24:02,983 --> 00:24:05,361
but also, it's been
really challenging at times
581
00:24:05,527 --> 00:24:06,862
and she's put in so much effort
582
00:24:06,987 --> 00:24:08,822
into making things work
for--for both of us.
583
00:24:08,906 --> 00:24:11,116
And, you know,
I think giving her this gift
584
00:24:11,200 --> 00:24:13,160
will just really send her
a message as to how I feel.
585
00:24:13,327 --> 00:24:14,453
- Yeah.
586
00:24:14,578 --> 00:24:16,205
- I feel like Noi
deserves this ring
587
00:24:16,330 --> 00:24:19,166
because she's showed up
since the start,
588
00:24:19,333 --> 00:24:22,461
since she wrote her vows
and--and--and spoke them to me.
589
00:24:22,586 --> 00:24:25,464
And from then on out,
just had so much love to give
590
00:24:25,589 --> 00:24:27,800
and is willing to step
out of her comfort zone
591
00:24:27,967 --> 00:24:29,593
in order to meet me
in the middle
592
00:24:29,677 --> 00:24:30,886
to make this marriage work.
593
00:24:31,011 --> 00:24:34,306
So I wanna give her
something really special.
594
00:24:34,431 --> 00:24:35,808
So the first step
we're gonna do here
595
00:24:35,933 --> 00:24:38,060
is--is, you know,
choosing a setting,
596
00:24:38,185 --> 00:24:40,729
and this flush fit
is--is a pretty,
597
00:24:40,854 --> 00:24:42,690
you know, close match
to what she was describing.
598
00:24:42,856 --> 00:24:45,442
- Oh, that is gorgeous.
That's good. Exactly.
599
00:24:45,567 --> 00:24:46,819
I like how the band--like,
600
00:24:46,986 --> 00:24:48,654
you always want
a really thin band.
601
00:24:48,821 --> 00:24:50,864
- She really loved
the round diamond.
602
00:24:51,031 --> 00:24:51,824
- Yeah, for sure.
603
00:24:51,991 --> 00:24:53,575
- So, like...
- Yeah, you don't want--
604
00:24:53,701 --> 00:24:54,910
- I think that's what
we're gonna go with.
605
00:24:55,035 --> 00:24:58,372
And I wanna pull away
from that fancy yellow--
606
00:24:58,497 --> 00:25:00,416
- Like, you want it to be
like clear and white?
607
00:25:00,541 --> 00:25:03,210
- Yeah, so I think F is
a good choice for that.
608
00:25:03,335 --> 00:25:04,920
- Yeah.
609
00:25:05,045 --> 00:25:06,964
- Let's just--let's just take
a look at this idea, okay?
610
00:25:07,089 --> 00:25:08,382
- It's breathtaking.
611
00:25:08,507 --> 00:25:12,136
I, like--I can't even--
wait, what's that?
612
00:25:12,302 --> 00:25:13,262
You can do the inscriptions?
613
00:25:13,345 --> 00:25:14,722
- Yeah, you get
a free engraving.
614
00:25:14,847 --> 00:25:18,559
- So sparkly.
She's going to love this.
615
00:25:18,684 --> 00:25:20,394
- Yeah, once you figure out
the band and the diamond,
616
00:25:20,519 --> 00:25:23,397
you just go to this third step
here and, you know,
617
00:25:23,522 --> 00:25:25,691
just kinda make sure
that this is the one.
618
00:25:25,816 --> 00:25:28,152
- I think she's going to
absolutely love this.
619
00:25:28,277 --> 00:25:29,653
♪ ♪
620
00:25:29,778 --> 00:25:32,281
- We have
the perfect ring for her.
621
00:25:32,364 --> 00:25:35,868
- Guys prove their commitment
with where they kind of
622
00:25:35,993 --> 00:25:39,329
invest their money sometimes,
and, like, it does feel nice
623
00:25:39,455 --> 00:25:42,499
to feel like
someone's investing into you.
624
00:25:42,666 --> 00:25:44,626
And it's also nice to, like,
have your,
625
00:25:44,793 --> 00:25:46,962
like, wife kind of, like,
wearing a nice ring.
626
00:25:47,087 --> 00:25:48,630
It kind of gives a message
627
00:25:48,756 --> 00:25:52,009
to all the other men
to back off.
628
00:25:52,176 --> 00:25:54,094
It's like a form of claiming--
629
00:25:54,219 --> 00:25:57,264
- It's my wife.
- Yeah.
630
00:25:57,389 --> 00:26:00,434
- ♪ I am the diamond ♪
631
00:26:00,559 --> 00:26:06,523
♪ ♪
632
00:26:06,648 --> 00:26:07,483
- Have a seat.
633
00:26:07,608 --> 00:26:08,942
- I will, I will.
634
00:26:09,026 --> 00:26:10,194
♪ ♪
635
00:26:10,319 --> 00:26:11,487
- Have a seat.
636
00:26:11,653 --> 00:26:12,696
- Oh, my gosh.
637
00:26:12,863 --> 00:26:14,114
- How's it going
with you and Mark?
638
00:26:14,239 --> 00:26:15,574
Mark the shark.
639
00:26:15,699 --> 00:26:17,451
- Yeah, Mark stepped it up
in the last week or so.
640
00:26:17,534 --> 00:26:19,411
- How's he, um--
happy to see you happy.
641
00:26:19,536 --> 00:26:20,996
- I said very early on,
"I know I'm a lot.
642
00:26:21,121 --> 00:26:23,040
I need somebody to rein me in."
- Me too. Yeah, me too.
643
00:26:23,165 --> 00:26:24,166
We're two full-time jobs.
644
00:26:24,249 --> 00:26:25,667
- It ain't easy being a boss.
645
00:26:25,834 --> 00:26:27,669
- Yeah.
- It is fun, though, ain't it?
646
00:26:27,836 --> 00:26:30,547
- It is fun.
It's a lot of work.
647
00:26:30,672 --> 00:26:33,092
- I know,
somebody's gotta do it.
648
00:26:33,217 --> 00:26:36,470
I love Olajuwon.
It's always so nice to see him.
649
00:26:36,595 --> 00:26:38,097
I feel like we just
are buddies.
650
00:26:38,222 --> 00:26:40,140
Like, he reminds me of somebody
I would have,
651
00:26:40,265 --> 00:26:43,685
like, grown up with and just
kicked it with after school.
652
00:26:43,852 --> 00:26:47,022
And I think Olajuwon
and I are, like,
653
00:26:47,189 --> 00:26:53,487
very similar in our approach
and our directness and, like,
654
00:26:53,612 --> 00:26:56,824
how we like to handle things,
and I-I value his perspective.
655
00:26:56,949 --> 00:26:58,200
♪ ♪
656
00:26:58,367 --> 00:27:01,829
- Would you say there's
more pros than--than cons?
657
00:27:01,995 --> 00:27:03,831
- Yeah, I think
he's a good person.
658
00:27:03,956 --> 00:27:07,793
We connect on faith.
We connect as a team.
659
00:27:07,876 --> 00:27:11,046
I really trust him
when he gives me advice.
660
00:27:11,171 --> 00:27:13,507
When he does sit and take the
effort to talk through things.
661
00:27:13,632 --> 00:27:15,134
- Yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
662
00:27:15,217 --> 00:27:17,803
- What bothers me most is that,
like, when he has problems,
663
00:27:17,928 --> 00:27:19,888
he'll talk to--he can talk
to you about it
664
00:27:20,013 --> 00:27:22,349
or Jas about it,
but he--and he'll talk to Mike
665
00:27:22,516 --> 00:27:23,851
about what he wants
to talk to me about.
666
00:27:24,017 --> 00:27:26,311
He doesn't necessarily tell me,
his wife, first.
667
00:27:26,478 --> 00:27:28,480
And, like,
I've said to him, like,
668
00:27:28,605 --> 00:27:29,898
"You've never come to me
with something
669
00:27:30,023 --> 00:27:31,650
"that I've turned you
down about.
670
00:27:31,775 --> 00:27:33,443
"You've never come to me
with a hard situation
671
00:27:33,527 --> 00:27:34,820
"that I walked away with.
672
00:27:34,945 --> 00:27:38,532
"So trust and choose me first
as your wife to talk to me
673
00:27:38,699 --> 00:27:41,034
and give me the chance
to respond to you."
674
00:27:41,160 --> 00:27:43,871
- Well, I will say this,
I think he does it
675
00:27:43,996 --> 00:27:46,790
because he wants to make sure
he says it the right way,
676
00:27:46,874 --> 00:27:50,002
'cause you are a strong woman
and you're really smart,
677
00:27:50,169 --> 00:27:54,131
so if you say the wrong word
or term it the wrong way,
678
00:27:54,214 --> 00:27:56,800
you will break it down to a way
where it could make him
679
00:27:56,884 --> 00:27:58,343
feel stupid
on what he just said.
680
00:27:58,468 --> 00:27:59,636
- Yeah.
- So I think he tries
681
00:27:59,761 --> 00:28:01,054
to express it
to everybody else--
682
00:28:01,180 --> 00:28:02,723
- That is tough.
- To get the best--
683
00:28:02,848 --> 00:28:03,974
'cause you know Mark, he takes
in what everybody says,
684
00:28:04,057 --> 00:28:05,475
that's--that's--that's
who he is.
685
00:28:05,642 --> 00:28:06,643
He likes--he likes
people's opinions.
686
00:28:06,768 --> 00:28:07,853
- That makes so much sense.
687
00:28:07,978 --> 00:28:08,979
One time he was trying to say
something,
688
00:28:09,104 --> 00:28:10,731
he was saying dismay
and I'm like, "Dismiss."
689
00:28:10,856 --> 00:28:12,065
- Dismi--that's what
I'm saying,
690
00:28:12,191 --> 00:28:13,692
'cause you will--you'll
make--you'll stop him
691
00:28:13,859 --> 00:28:15,527
in what he's saying
and correct the word.
692
00:28:15,694 --> 00:28:17,613
So I think--I do it too.
I talk to Mike,
693
00:28:17,696 --> 00:28:20,616
I talk to Mark and Steve
before bring it to Katina.
694
00:28:20,699 --> 00:28:21,992
- What are the cons
about Katina?
695
00:28:22,075 --> 00:28:24,036
She's in school,
and that might affect
696
00:28:24,203 --> 00:28:26,788
your family planning--
- Just life--life experience.
697
00:28:26,872 --> 00:28:28,498
- Life experience
is huge to me.
698
00:28:28,582 --> 00:28:30,000
Like, if you have kids,
699
00:28:30,167 --> 00:28:31,752
you have to be able to cook
and do these things.
700
00:28:31,835 --> 00:28:33,503
Like, I--those are the things
I just expect.
701
00:28:33,670 --> 00:28:35,255
- She's a cook.
She's always cooking for you.
702
00:28:35,380 --> 00:28:38,508
- No, it's--she's--
she's learning to cook.
703
00:28:38,675 --> 00:28:40,761
It sounds stupid, but it's not.
704
00:28:40,886 --> 00:28:42,679
It's my life, and I choose
705
00:28:42,804 --> 00:28:44,765
that a certain wife
is what I-I expect.
706
00:28:44,890 --> 00:28:46,892
- I have a friend who, like,
he's going through this
707
00:28:47,017 --> 00:28:50,145
in a long-term relationship,
like, his expectation of,
708
00:28:50,229 --> 00:28:51,605
"I wanted somebody
to cook dinner for me
709
00:28:51,688 --> 00:28:52,898
"when I got home
710
00:28:53,023 --> 00:28:54,316
to be a stay-at-home mom,
to live that life."
711
00:28:54,441 --> 00:28:55,817
- Nobody has to stay home.
She could work if she wants.
712
00:28:55,984 --> 00:28:57,110
Like, I want her
to be able to work.
713
00:28:57,236 --> 00:28:58,320
- Oh, you want her to work
and work?
714
00:28:58,403 --> 00:29:00,030
- No, no, no, but she's--
right now is that--
715
00:29:00,155 --> 00:29:03,575
the thing is that
she's just working at home.
716
00:29:03,700 --> 00:29:04,785
Like, you work
on your computer.
717
00:29:04,868 --> 00:29:06,745
- Yo, it's a lot of work.
718
00:29:06,870 --> 00:29:07,871
- No--
- I work at home.
719
00:29:08,038 --> 00:29:08,997
- Not for my wife.
- Okay, well.
720
00:29:09,122 --> 00:29:10,457
- My wife has
a lot of free time.
721
00:29:10,582 --> 00:29:12,542
It's--it's at the point
where you have to ask yourself,
722
00:29:12,668 --> 00:29:14,544
"Is it enough for you?"
723
00:29:14,670 --> 00:29:15,796
That's what it really
just comes down to.
724
00:29:15,963 --> 00:29:17,089
- That's something that
you can learn. though.
725
00:29:17,172 --> 00:29:19,174
You could do, like--
- I'm not getting--I'm--
726
00:29:19,299 --> 00:29:20,717
- You could do a meal delivery
service, make it a date night.
727
00:29:20,842 --> 00:29:22,261
- Right, but I'm not here
to be a teacher.
728
00:29:22,344 --> 00:29:23,679
♪ ♪
729
00:29:23,804 --> 00:29:25,013
- Okay, but you gotta be
730
00:29:25,180 --> 00:29:26,765
a little bit,
that's what a marriage is.
731
00:29:26,890 --> 00:29:28,141
- No, these are things, yeah,
she could learn.
732
00:29:28,225 --> 00:29:29,893
So it's--it's--
now it's up to me to say,
733
00:29:30,018 --> 00:29:33,313
"Am I willing to do this?"
Am I willing to say,
734
00:29:33,438 --> 00:29:35,315
"She can't travel this week
so I can travel?"
735
00:29:35,482 --> 00:29:37,317
You know what I'm saying?
Like, does our timeline meet?
736
00:29:37,442 --> 00:29:39,152
That's real where--
where I'm focused at.
737
00:29:39,319 --> 00:29:41,613
- You gotta ask yourself,
"Is being in a marriage
738
00:29:41,738 --> 00:29:43,323
more important to you
as traveling?"
739
00:29:43,407 --> 00:29:44,825
♪ ♪
740
00:29:44,950 --> 00:29:49,413
I think if you said no
to Katina, you would regret it.
741
00:29:49,538 --> 00:29:52,332
♪ ♪
742
00:29:56,420 --> 00:29:57,671
[upbeat music]
743
00:29:57,796 --> 00:29:59,798
♪ ♪
744
00:29:59,923 --> 00:30:01,633
- You ever danced salsa before?
- Never.
745
00:30:01,717 --> 00:30:03,844
- Bachata, merengue, anything?
746
00:30:06,305 --> 00:30:08,223
- It's okay, I got you.
- All right, are you--
747
00:30:08,348 --> 00:30:10,600
you supposed to open it first,
that's what happens.
748
00:30:10,684 --> 00:30:12,477
♪ ♪
749
00:30:12,602 --> 00:30:14,021
- Hi.
- Hi, how are you?
750
00:30:14,146 --> 00:30:15,731
- Good. How are you?
- Good.
751
00:30:15,856 --> 00:30:17,566
- I set this up
so me and Jasmina
752
00:30:17,691 --> 00:30:20,235
are gonna have some fun,
dance some salsa.
753
00:30:20,360 --> 00:30:22,112
- Mike thinks he's
a better dancer than me.
754
00:30:22,195 --> 00:30:24,364
- It's--it's in my heart.
- Oh, man.
755
00:30:24,489 --> 00:30:25,824
- I mean, I was born a dancer.
756
00:30:25,949 --> 00:30:28,577
I care for her right now
more than I've ever have,
757
00:30:28,702 --> 00:30:33,498
and my hopes for today is me
and Jasmina get to a point
758
00:30:33,582 --> 00:30:37,961
where the romance part of our
relationship grows to a point
759
00:30:38,045 --> 00:30:40,505
where we both feel comfortable
saying yes on Decision Day.
760
00:30:40,630 --> 00:30:42,132
- Okay, we're gonna
come to the side.
761
00:30:42,215 --> 00:30:46,428
We're gonna go side, together,
side, together.
762
00:30:46,511 --> 00:30:48,889
Side, together. Nice, yeah.
763
00:30:49,014 --> 00:30:50,891
Look it, you've got
a little groove, I like it.
764
00:30:51,016 --> 00:30:53,435
Together, side, awesome.
Back the other way.
765
00:30:53,560 --> 00:30:57,814
all: Back, forward, together,
back, forward, together.
766
00:30:57,981 --> 00:31:00,942
- Back, together and...
- Ooh.
767
00:31:01,026 --> 00:31:04,154
- Yes.
Boom. And boom, boom.
768
00:31:04,279 --> 00:31:05,280
Ooh, we got it.
769
00:31:05,364 --> 00:31:07,240
- ♪ Olé, olé ♪
770
00:31:07,366 --> 00:31:09,034
♪ Olé, ola ♪
771
00:31:09,159 --> 00:31:11,578
[energetic salsa music]
772
00:31:11,703 --> 00:31:16,375
- Michael and I are having
so much fun together dancing.
773
00:31:16,500 --> 00:31:18,126
The music is great.
774
00:31:18,210 --> 00:31:19,961
I'm really
picking up on the moves,
775
00:31:20,087 --> 00:31:23,590
and this is the Michael
that I want to see every day,
776
00:31:23,715 --> 00:31:26,385
and this is the Michael
that I want to grow with,
777
00:31:26,510 --> 00:31:27,719
so I'm hoping that him and I
778
00:31:27,844 --> 00:31:30,263
will be more connected
after this.
779
00:31:30,347 --> 00:31:36,895
♪ ♪
780
00:31:37,020 --> 00:31:42,401
Look at me in red, matching.
So pretty.
781
00:31:42,526 --> 00:31:44,277
- I like you in red.
782
00:31:44,361 --> 00:31:45,445
- Thank you.
783
00:31:45,529 --> 00:31:46,863
♪ ♪
784
00:31:46,988 --> 00:31:49,449
- That was fun.
- It was.
785
00:31:49,533 --> 00:31:51,952
♪ ♪
786
00:31:52,077 --> 00:31:55,831
- So I think for us,
this has been a long journey.
787
00:31:55,956 --> 00:31:57,207
- Mm-hmm.
788
00:31:57,332 --> 00:31:58,917
- Going into this marriage,
I had a whole idea
789
00:31:59,000 --> 00:32:01,294
of the type of husband
I was gonna be.
790
00:32:01,378 --> 00:32:03,588
I was like, "This is what
a husband's supposed to do.
791
00:32:03,672 --> 00:32:04,965
Boom, boom, boom."
792
00:32:05,090 --> 00:32:07,843
So reflecting, if I can go back
and do things different,
793
00:32:07,968 --> 00:32:09,636
I think I would listen first
794
00:32:09,761 --> 00:32:12,389
and find out
what your needs are.
795
00:32:12,514 --> 00:32:13,682
I would...
796
00:32:13,807 --> 00:32:15,851
♪ ♪
797
00:32:16,017 --> 00:32:18,520
Communicate with you more
798
00:32:18,687 --> 00:32:24,317
and not create my own ideas
of who I think you are,
799
00:32:24,443 --> 00:32:26,903
or my own idea
of your intentions
800
00:32:27,028 --> 00:32:28,363
without really asking you.
801
00:32:28,488 --> 00:32:31,658
I think I wasted a lot of time
being in my head
802
00:32:31,783 --> 00:32:36,163
and creating narratives,
and I didn't expect to find out
803
00:32:36,288 --> 00:32:37,914
so many things about myself.
804
00:32:38,039 --> 00:32:40,333
I thank you for that.
805
00:32:40,459 --> 00:32:41,668
- You're welcome.
806
00:32:41,793 --> 00:32:44,588
♪ ♪
807
00:32:44,713 --> 00:32:47,132
I appreciate you for...
808
00:32:48,800 --> 00:32:50,802
Saying what you just said,
you know,
809
00:32:50,969 --> 00:32:56,600
and you're not very vocal
on your feelings.
810
00:32:56,683 --> 00:32:58,643
I feel like sometimes
I'm too vocal about my feelings
811
00:32:58,810 --> 00:33:01,980
or, like, too honest and raw.
812
00:33:02,105 --> 00:33:03,815
When that happens,
you just sit there,
813
00:33:03,940 --> 00:33:05,525
and you just listen to it.
814
00:33:05,650 --> 00:33:10,113
So I guess my question is,
how do you feel now?
815
00:33:10,197 --> 00:33:12,491
- I would say I have
romantic feelings.
816
00:33:12,616 --> 00:33:16,369
There's no question why I feel
like we were matched.
817
00:33:16,495 --> 00:33:18,371
Like, none.
818
00:33:20,749 --> 00:33:22,334
Um.
819
00:33:22,417 --> 00:33:28,298
I think maybe because the way
our relationship has been,
820
00:33:28,465 --> 00:33:31,801
there's times where
the feelings aren't as intense
821
00:33:31,927 --> 00:33:33,345
as I would like them to be.
822
00:33:33,470 --> 00:33:36,348
♪ ♪
823
00:33:36,473 --> 00:33:37,807
So how do you feel?
824
00:33:37,891 --> 00:33:43,021
♪ ♪
825
00:33:43,146 --> 00:33:46,149
- I feel like everything
that we've been doing
826
00:33:46,274 --> 00:33:51,154
up until this point, you know,
has been, like,
827
00:33:51,279 --> 00:33:53,657
making us better
and benefiting us.
828
00:33:53,782 --> 00:33:55,283
♪ ♪
829
00:33:55,367 --> 00:33:58,620
As far as romantic feelings,
830
00:33:58,703 --> 00:34:04,292
I honestly don't feel that yet,
831
00:34:04,376 --> 00:34:10,507
and I'm in a place where...
832
00:34:13,176 --> 00:34:16,888
I love how we get along,
I love how goofy we are,
833
00:34:17,013 --> 00:34:18,431
how silly we are,
how we get each other.
834
00:34:18,515 --> 00:34:19,432
- Yeah.
835
00:34:19,558 --> 00:34:22,018
- How we have so much
in common,
836
00:34:22,143 --> 00:34:24,104
but I'm in a place
where I don't know
837
00:34:24,187 --> 00:34:27,691
if I'm looking at it
as if it's a friendship
838
00:34:27,816 --> 00:34:29,859
or if it could be more...
839
00:34:29,985 --> 00:34:31,319
- Yeah.
- Than that.
840
00:34:31,486 --> 00:34:35,615
And that's what I go
back and forth with.
841
00:34:35,740 --> 00:34:36,992
- Yeah.
- You know?
842
00:34:37,075 --> 00:34:39,452
♪ ♪
843
00:34:39,536 --> 00:34:42,497
- This is not where I thought
this romantic dinner
844
00:34:42,622 --> 00:34:43,915
was supposed to go.
845
00:34:44,040 --> 00:34:45,250
It's--it's heartbreaking
to hear
846
00:34:45,375 --> 00:34:47,127
that she doesn't
have feelings for me.
847
00:34:47,252 --> 00:34:49,462
I guess the question we have
to answer for ourselves maybe,
848
00:34:49,588 --> 00:34:51,006
do we feel like...
849
00:34:51,172 --> 00:34:52,132
- It will turn into that?
850
00:34:52,215 --> 00:34:53,174
- One day it will turn
into that?
851
00:34:53,300 --> 00:34:57,012
Or is this just where we're at?
852
00:34:57,178 --> 00:35:01,182
- ♪ Said too much ♪
853
00:35:01,349 --> 00:35:05,353
♪ I might say too much ♪
854
00:35:05,478 --> 00:35:08,231
- ♪ You don't have to worry
about nothing ♪
855
00:35:08,356 --> 00:35:13,236
♪ But me loving you,
loving you ♪
856
00:35:13,361 --> 00:35:16,656
♪ As long as I'm here
on this earth ♪
857
00:35:16,740 --> 00:35:18,366
- It's so pretty.
858
00:35:18,533 --> 00:35:19,326
- You like it?
859
00:35:19,451 --> 00:35:23,955
- Yes, and you got me roses.
860
00:35:24,080 --> 00:35:26,708
- Yes.
- Aw, thank you.
861
00:35:26,833 --> 00:35:27,959
- I think it's important to go
862
00:35:28,084 --> 00:35:30,003
on one more last date
before Decision Day
863
00:35:30,128 --> 00:35:32,130
because as stressful
as Decision Day is,
864
00:35:32,213 --> 00:35:33,923
I also want to take
the pressure off
865
00:35:34,007 --> 00:35:35,175
and enjoy each other.
866
00:35:35,342 --> 00:35:36,676
I just wanna take it in.
867
00:35:36,843 --> 00:35:40,388
I wanna cherish her,
and I wanna hear how she feels.
868
00:35:40,513 --> 00:35:42,807
It's crazy how fast
the process is coming.
869
00:35:42,891 --> 00:35:43,850
- I know.
870
00:35:44,017 --> 00:35:45,101
I'm glad
I got matched with you.
871
00:35:45,226 --> 00:35:47,145
The last couple of weeks
is when
872
00:35:47,270 --> 00:35:49,272
I felt like
it was going by the quickest.
873
00:35:49,356 --> 00:35:50,732
- Yeah, I was getting ready.
874
00:35:50,857 --> 00:35:52,317
- But when we first got married
and the honeymoon,
875
00:35:52,442 --> 00:35:54,986
it felt like time
was just like regular time.
876
00:35:55,111 --> 00:35:56,696
- Yeah.
- And then now it's like--
877
00:35:56,821 --> 00:35:57,864
- Blink of an eye.
878
00:35:57,989 --> 00:35:59,366
You're like,
ain't got any more time.
879
00:35:59,491 --> 00:36:00,617
- Yeah.
880
00:36:00,700 --> 00:36:02,160
- It's definitely been
a great journey, you know,
881
00:36:02,285 --> 00:36:04,829
Puerto Rico, Vermont--
- We traveled a lot.
882
00:36:04,913 --> 00:36:06,456
- And we've done a lot.
- Yeah.
883
00:36:06,539 --> 00:36:10,001
This last dinner
before Decision Day,
884
00:36:10,126 --> 00:36:12,295
it's definitely, like,
a bittersweet moment
885
00:36:12,420 --> 00:36:15,590
because we both don't know
what each other is gonna say.
886
00:36:15,674 --> 00:36:17,884
I feel like we're on
the same page,
887
00:36:18,009 --> 00:36:20,720
but at the same time,
you never know.
888
00:36:20,845 --> 00:36:22,263
When my husband
gets by himself,
889
00:36:22,347 --> 00:36:24,182
me and that mind
be going to work.
890
00:36:24,307 --> 00:36:27,394
- Do you feel like
there's any lingering questions
891
00:36:27,519 --> 00:36:29,104
heading into Decision Day?
892
00:36:31,189 --> 00:36:33,191
- I don't have any
lingering questions with you
893
00:36:33,358 --> 00:36:35,360
'cause I feel like
we talk about everything.
894
00:36:35,485 --> 00:36:39,322
It's just more so what we think
about on our own time
895
00:36:39,447 --> 00:36:40,824
and to consider it future-wise.
896
00:36:40,949 --> 00:36:42,742
And I feel like it's, like,
something we kind of have to,
897
00:36:42,867 --> 00:36:44,035
like, decide on our own.
898
00:36:44,202 --> 00:36:48,081
- Absolutely.
This is our lives.
899
00:36:48,206 --> 00:36:50,166
We got to make
our own decisions based off
900
00:36:50,291 --> 00:36:53,002
what we think is best for us,
901
00:36:53,169 --> 00:36:55,797
together and also
independently.
902
00:36:55,922 --> 00:36:58,091
♪ ♪
903
00:36:58,216 --> 00:36:59,801
- You have any
lingering questions for me?
904
00:36:59,884 --> 00:37:01,261
- No, not really lingering.
905
00:37:01,386 --> 00:37:03,722
I would hope when you start,
you know, going to school
906
00:37:03,847 --> 00:37:06,516
and all that stuff--
907
00:37:06,683 --> 00:37:09,436
I don't know, I hope
you'll be able to balance.
908
00:37:09,561 --> 00:37:10,478
That's a lot.
909
00:37:10,645 --> 00:37:12,272
Do you think
there's gonna be a challenge
910
00:37:12,355 --> 00:37:14,149
to be taking care
of all the things you're doing?
911
00:37:14,274 --> 00:37:17,110
- For me, if I felt like
912
00:37:17,235 --> 00:37:19,154
I wasn't capable of doing
all those things,
913
00:37:19,237 --> 00:37:21,823
I wouldn't ever have signed up
to be your wife.
914
00:37:21,990 --> 00:37:25,535
I know what I'm capable of,
and I know the things
915
00:37:25,660 --> 00:37:28,538
that I want out of life,
so with that being said,
916
00:37:28,705 --> 00:37:33,460
I definitely know
that I can do everything.
917
00:37:33,626 --> 00:37:34,461
Being a wife is important
to me,
918
00:37:34,586 --> 00:37:36,171
like,
it's just something that I--
919
00:37:36,296 --> 00:37:37,839
- Why?
Why is it so important to you?
920
00:37:37,964 --> 00:37:40,592
♪ ♪
921
00:37:40,717 --> 00:37:43,970
- 'Cause I wanna have a family.
I wanna have a partnership.
922
00:37:44,095 --> 00:37:46,598
I wanna experience life
with someone.
923
00:37:46,723 --> 00:37:48,266
- Do you not think you could
have a partnership
924
00:37:48,391 --> 00:37:50,268
and experience life
without being married?
925
00:37:50,393 --> 00:37:51,686
- No, you can, but eventually,
926
00:37:51,811 --> 00:37:53,521
it would have to end
in marriage either way.
927
00:37:53,646 --> 00:37:54,355
- Oh, okay.
928
00:37:54,481 --> 00:37:58,943
- I'm nervous about my future.
929
00:37:59,027 --> 00:38:01,571
This decision that I'm making,
it is life-altering
930
00:38:01,696 --> 00:38:04,908
because I feel like
I entered a new world,
931
00:38:05,033 --> 00:38:08,870
a new life, being somebody's
wife and having a husband.
932
00:38:08,995 --> 00:38:12,290
So if I'm gonna go back
to being single again,
933
00:38:12,415 --> 00:38:15,126
it's like
I'm starting all over.
934
00:38:15,251 --> 00:38:17,670
- And you felt this way
towards the relationship
935
00:38:17,796 --> 00:38:18,797
within the time period--
936
00:38:18,922 --> 00:38:21,716
- The time that we--
no, this is the first time
937
00:38:21,841 --> 00:38:24,844
I've experienced a relationship
dynamic like that.
938
00:38:25,011 --> 00:38:26,179
- Mm-hmm, I would hope so.
939
00:38:26,304 --> 00:38:29,390
- And even the feelings
that I do have for you,
940
00:38:29,516 --> 00:38:30,975
it's a different
type of feeling.
941
00:38:31,100 --> 00:38:32,852
It's, like, a mature--
942
00:38:33,019 --> 00:38:34,521
- Stronger than normal?
943
00:38:34,646 --> 00:38:37,148
- Yeah, I have
strong feelings for you.
944
00:38:37,273 --> 00:38:39,442
- Why so?
- That's easy.
945
00:38:39,526 --> 00:38:41,319
It's, like, our connection
and the way that we vibe.
946
00:38:41,486 --> 00:38:43,571
The way that we naturally,
like, get along,
947
00:38:43,696 --> 00:38:47,033
and then also you give,
like, this tough love.
948
00:38:47,200 --> 00:38:48,868
It's sometimes--it's
like--like,
949
00:38:48,993 --> 00:38:50,328
"Here he go talking again."
950
00:38:50,453 --> 00:38:53,164
But it's like, good.
Like, I like it.
951
00:38:53,289 --> 00:38:55,041
- Hmm.
- [laughs]
952
00:38:55,166 --> 00:38:56,292
- You understand?
- No, I do.
953
00:38:56,417 --> 00:38:57,752
I'm just playing with you.
954
00:38:57,836 --> 00:38:59,629
Sorry I put you on the spot.
Like, go ahead.
955
00:38:59,712 --> 00:39:01,631
- Especially the way
that we laugh together.
956
00:39:01,714 --> 00:39:04,217
Like, I can say that
this is the most, like,
957
00:39:04,342 --> 00:39:06,261
natural I've ever laughed
in a relationship.
958
00:39:06,386 --> 00:39:07,762
That's one of my most,
959
00:39:07,846 --> 00:39:10,557
like, favorite things
about our relationship.
960
00:39:10,682 --> 00:39:13,601
- Me too, that's my favorite.
Dude, we laugh every day.
961
00:39:13,726 --> 00:39:15,186
Every--there's not one day,
962
00:39:15,311 --> 00:39:18,273
even when we argue, fight,
it does not matter.
963
00:39:18,356 --> 00:39:21,651
There's always laughter
when I see my wife.
964
00:39:21,776 --> 00:39:24,279
That's what makes this, like,
so worth it
965
00:39:24,362 --> 00:39:25,363
because I don't think
I've been with a woman
966
00:39:25,488 --> 00:39:28,825
who would make me laugh
so easily in years.
967
00:39:28,950 --> 00:39:32,120
But I feel like there's
another level of yourself
968
00:39:32,245 --> 00:39:34,664
you won't ever reach
until you reached--
969
00:39:34,747 --> 00:39:37,208
unless you're with the woman
you love.
970
00:39:37,333 --> 00:39:40,253
And I learned to smile
and laugh easier
971
00:39:40,378 --> 00:39:45,216
because you are in my life,
so I truly enjoy you.
972
00:39:45,341 --> 00:39:46,718
I don't think anybody
could have made me feel
973
00:39:46,843 --> 00:39:49,345
the way you made me feel
or made me learn about myself.
974
00:39:49,470 --> 00:39:51,514
So I see why
the experts chose you.
975
00:39:51,639 --> 00:39:54,767
- You're gonna make me
shed a tear.
976
00:39:54,893 --> 00:39:55,935
- That's true for real.
977
00:39:56,019 --> 00:39:58,438
Any relationship is about
making each other grow,
978
00:39:58,563 --> 00:40:01,816
and I'm accomplishing that
while enjoying you.
979
00:40:01,941 --> 00:40:03,151
- You're like,
"Hmm, life's not hard enough.
980
00:40:03,276 --> 00:40:04,402
Let's be a husband."
981
00:40:04,527 --> 00:40:07,155
- Yeah, so I'm happy
because I felt like
982
00:40:07,238 --> 00:40:10,533
I went from a boy to a man.
983
00:40:10,658 --> 00:40:12,410
I could not have done that
without you.
984
00:40:12,535 --> 00:40:13,828
So thank you.
985
00:40:13,912 --> 00:40:16,831
♪ ♪
986
00:40:16,998 --> 00:40:18,791
Whatever our decision is,
987
00:40:18,917 --> 00:40:21,085
there's nothing
I regret, Katina.
988
00:40:21,210 --> 00:40:24,339
- ♪ It's to my heart ♪
989
00:40:24,464 --> 00:40:25,590
♪ It's to my ♪
990
00:40:29,302 --> 00:40:32,138
- When I cross my heart ♪
991
00:40:32,221 --> 00:40:35,391
♪ And we said forever after ♪
992
00:40:35,516 --> 00:40:38,978
♪ We're a beautiful disaster ♪
993
00:40:39,103 --> 00:40:40,688
- Oh, my God. Look at this.
994
00:40:40,855 --> 00:40:42,148
- This is where we had
our first lunch.
995
00:40:42,231 --> 00:40:43,316
- Was it?
- Yes.
996
00:40:43,441 --> 00:40:44,567
- I think this is
the first drink I had
997
00:40:44,692 --> 00:40:46,110
that you were like,
"That's disgusting."
998
00:40:46,194 --> 00:40:47,487
- Yeah.
999
00:40:47,612 --> 00:40:49,822
Do you remember
what I told you it tasted like?
1000
00:40:49,948 --> 00:40:51,824
♪ ♪
1001
00:40:51,991 --> 00:40:54,827
- No. Vagina.
1002
00:40:54,953 --> 00:40:58,331
[both laughing]
1003
00:40:58,414 --> 00:41:01,668
- Vegan. Vagina.
1004
00:41:01,793 --> 00:41:04,253
♪ ♪
1005
00:41:04,337 --> 00:41:07,340
- I wouldn't know.
1006
00:41:07,465 --> 00:41:09,008
Cara was my work wife,
and the minute we met,
1007
00:41:09,133 --> 00:41:10,343
we kind of knew each other.
1008
00:41:10,468 --> 00:41:12,387
We are very similar
and very different,
1009
00:41:12,512 --> 00:41:14,347
and I've never questioned
1010
00:41:14,472 --> 00:41:16,140
whether or not she
understands me or my motives,
1011
00:41:16,265 --> 00:41:18,142
so I take her advice to heart.
1012
00:41:18,226 --> 00:41:19,394
- So how's it going?
1013
00:41:21,688 --> 00:41:23,189
Up and down, up and down.
- Mm-hmm.
1014
00:41:23,314 --> 00:41:25,566
Have you ever dated
an only child?
1015
00:41:25,692 --> 00:41:29,237
- No.
- Me neither, but wow.
1016
00:41:29,362 --> 00:41:30,613
- I get what I want.
1017
00:41:30,697 --> 00:41:35,493
- No compromise.
Like, he's super rigid.
1018
00:41:35,576 --> 00:41:37,370
- About what, though?
- Everything.
1019
00:41:37,495 --> 00:41:40,957
He doesn't adapt well
with stress or change.
1020
00:41:41,082 --> 00:41:43,835
I'm somebody who thrives
in the chaos and the change.
1021
00:41:44,002 --> 00:41:45,086
- Yes.
1022
00:41:45,169 --> 00:41:48,381
- And he is like, "I like
to live a nice, safe life."
1023
00:41:48,506 --> 00:41:50,091
I bet you like to take
a shot of adrenaline
1024
00:41:50,174 --> 00:41:51,968
and jump out of a plane like,
"Let's do this."
1025
00:41:52,051 --> 00:41:54,095
And I'm like, "Exactly."
And he's like, "Not me."
1026
00:41:54,178 --> 00:41:55,638
- So you balance.
1027
00:41:55,722 --> 00:41:57,140
You gotta
meet there somewhere, right?
1028
00:41:57,265 --> 00:41:58,599
- Mm-hmm.
1029
00:41:58,683 --> 00:42:00,643
What'd you think of him
at the wedding?
1030
00:42:00,727 --> 00:42:02,270
- He seems fun.
And he smiles a lot.
1031
00:42:02,395 --> 00:42:05,148
He didn't stop smiling
the whole day.
1032
00:42:05,273 --> 00:42:06,566
- He is fun.
1033
00:42:06,691 --> 00:42:09,485
- I thought maybe a smidge
bland, like white bread.
1034
00:42:09,610 --> 00:42:11,029
- Yeah, he's definitely
white bread.
1035
00:42:11,195 --> 00:42:12,447
- But classic.
1036
00:42:12,572 --> 00:42:14,407
- He's, like, one thing away
from a Velcro sneaker.
1037
00:42:14,532 --> 00:42:15,992
[laughs]
1038
00:42:16,117 --> 00:42:18,119
The minute he becomes a father,
he'll be like, "Velcro!"
1039
00:42:18,202 --> 00:42:19,829
- The white socks.
1040
00:42:19,912 --> 00:42:21,205
Gonna get him a
ride-on lawnmower?
1041
00:42:21,372 --> 00:42:22,749
- Oh, my God.
1042
00:42:22,874 --> 00:42:24,292
- Something reliable
about that.
1043
00:42:24,375 --> 00:42:26,502
- Mm-hmm. He's a big softie.
1044
00:42:26,627 --> 00:42:28,463
He's definitely
the sensitive one.
1045
00:42:28,546 --> 00:42:30,339
Somebody's gotta be.
1046
00:42:30,506 --> 00:42:32,091
- You need that.
- Yeah.
1047
00:42:32,175 --> 00:42:35,553
What is endearing about Mark
is his empathetic heart.
1048
00:42:35,678 --> 00:42:37,346
That he can feel.
1049
00:42:37,472 --> 00:42:41,142
That ability
to feel deeply is a gift.
1050
00:42:41,267 --> 00:42:44,270
But I know he doesn't like
to say it or admit it,
1051
00:42:44,353 --> 00:42:46,647
but he is in a time of crisis.
1052
00:42:46,731 --> 00:42:51,819
So I never know what
I'm going to get with Mark.
1053
00:42:51,944 --> 00:42:53,654
There's parts of me
that wonder, like,
1054
00:42:53,780 --> 00:42:54,989
"Is Mark just not adaptable
1055
00:42:55,156 --> 00:42:56,824
or is just Mark
overwhelmed right now?"
1056
00:42:56,991 --> 00:42:58,910
Because so much
is happening to him.
1057
00:42:59,035 --> 00:43:01,621
Like one thing on top
of another on top of another.
1058
00:43:01,746 --> 00:43:03,748
And is he just in that state
of crisis where, like,
1059
00:43:03,873 --> 00:43:05,833
he needs to take something
piece by piece by piece
1060
00:43:05,917 --> 00:43:08,836
because everything is so much?
1061
00:43:08,961 --> 00:43:10,630
And I think that's very much
the case with him.
1062
00:43:10,713 --> 00:43:12,465
But I only get
this pressure cooker moment
1063
00:43:12,590 --> 00:43:14,842
to kinda get to know him
before Decision Day.
1064
00:43:14,967 --> 00:43:17,470
And I, like, love him
and I think he's great,
1065
00:43:17,595 --> 00:43:20,223
but, like, he's not giving me
that, like,
1066
00:43:20,348 --> 00:43:22,642
sparks and butterflies,
you know?
1067
00:43:22,767 --> 00:43:25,019
And I think the way I'm trying
to express how I feel,
1068
00:43:25,144 --> 00:43:27,814
I think he takes it on like
he didn't do something right
1069
00:43:27,980 --> 00:43:29,148
or he's not good enough for--
I mean, no, I'm just trying--
1070
00:43:29,315 --> 00:43:31,192
we're--we're trying
to get to know each other.
1071
00:43:31,317 --> 00:43:33,319
This is how you get to know me.
1072
00:43:33,444 --> 00:43:35,530
I have these moods,
and I'm like,
1073
00:43:35,655 --> 00:43:38,199
"I can't do it. I'm not sure."
1074
00:43:38,366 --> 00:43:39,283
And then I have
a day like today
1075
00:43:39,408 --> 00:43:40,910
where he's really sweet
1076
00:43:41,035 --> 00:43:42,495
and kinda like
a wounded little puppy.
1077
00:43:42,620 --> 00:43:45,623
And I'm like,
"Hmm, let me help you."
1078
00:43:45,748 --> 00:43:49,752
But does the good
outweigh the con?
1079
00:43:49,836 --> 00:43:52,130
And can I be patient
and try to give him a chance
1080
00:43:52,213 --> 00:43:56,884
to see whether or not
he's somebody who gets better
1081
00:43:57,009 --> 00:44:02,265
with adapting and change
as he gets older?
1082
00:44:02,348 --> 00:44:03,641
- Just go with your heart.
1083
00:44:03,766 --> 00:44:05,893
And maybe think
a little, too, about it.
1084
00:44:06,018 --> 00:44:09,230
But not too hard.
'Cause you could do that too.
1085
00:44:09,355 --> 00:44:11,607
- True.
- Make a list.
1086
00:44:11,732 --> 00:44:14,152
- It might not be
in his benefit.
1087
00:44:14,318 --> 00:44:15,361
I'll pray on it.
1088
00:44:15,528 --> 00:44:17,321
- Maybe work on
the intangibles.
1089
00:44:17,405 --> 00:44:19,657
- Yeah.
1090
00:44:19,782 --> 00:44:22,618
He's definitely gonna be
my first husband.
1091
00:44:22,702 --> 00:44:25,496
He might not be my last.
[laughs]
1092
00:44:25,621 --> 00:44:27,165
He might be my only husband.
1093
00:44:27,290 --> 00:44:29,417
♪ ♪
1094
00:44:29,542 --> 00:44:31,127
Time will tell.
1095
00:44:31,210 --> 00:44:34,630
- ♪ Love so dangerous ♪
1096
00:44:34,755 --> 00:44:36,757
- ♪ Well, it's just
the middle of the day ♪
1097
00:44:36,883 --> 00:44:38,384
♪ It's just a new other day ♪
1098
00:44:38,509 --> 00:44:41,804
- ♪ You know what I'm saying ♪
- ♪ Just another day ♪
1099
00:44:41,888 --> 00:44:45,516
- We are about
to play flag football!
1100
00:44:45,641 --> 00:44:47,768
Say hello, all.
Say hello to Tina.
1101
00:44:47,894 --> 00:44:51,063
- Hey, I'm ready
to kick some ass.
1102
00:44:51,189 --> 00:44:53,232
- Some ass.
1103
00:44:53,357 --> 00:44:54,609
- Oh!
1104
00:44:54,692 --> 00:44:56,444
♪ ♪
1105
00:44:56,527 --> 00:44:59,280
- Clap your hands
to the music ♪
1106
00:44:59,363 --> 00:45:00,740
- We are playing flag football
1107
00:45:00,865 --> 00:45:03,701
with the other couples,
and I'm excited to play.
1108
00:45:03,826 --> 00:45:05,286
Whenever we get together
with the other couples,
1109
00:45:05,369 --> 00:45:07,496
we always have a good time
in any sport activity.
1110
00:45:07,622 --> 00:45:09,373
- This is cool.
1111
00:45:09,540 --> 00:45:10,875
Hi.
- Hi.
1112
00:45:11,000 --> 00:45:12,084
- It's nice that we can
catch up with everyone
1113
00:45:12,210 --> 00:45:15,296
and enjoy our last night
together as a group.
1114
00:45:15,379 --> 00:45:16,589
- Tails.
- Oh, heads up.
1115
00:45:16,672 --> 00:45:18,174
- Tails never fail.
Yo, what the--
1116
00:45:18,299 --> 00:45:19,383
- Tails never fails.
1117
00:45:19,508 --> 00:45:21,177
- Choose wisely, Mark.
1118
00:45:21,302 --> 00:45:23,512
♪ ♪
1119
00:45:23,679 --> 00:45:24,805
- You gonna choose your--
1120
00:45:24,931 --> 00:45:27,475
- You better pick your wife.
1121
00:45:27,600 --> 00:45:29,143
- [laughing]
1122
00:45:29,268 --> 00:45:30,478
- You took too long
to answer that.
1123
00:45:30,603 --> 00:45:31,854
- That's right.
1124
00:45:31,979 --> 00:45:33,898
I know you look a little sad
about that, but...
1125
00:45:34,023 --> 00:45:34,982
- This is one
of the things that
1126
00:45:35,107 --> 00:45:36,943
you have to just do
for your marriage.
1127
00:45:37,026 --> 00:45:40,738
When you're in an activity,
you have to pick your partner.
1128
00:45:40,863 --> 00:45:43,866
If you don't, get used
to sleeping on the couch.
1129
00:45:43,991 --> 00:45:45,201
- Sorry, babe.
I'm keeping the honeys.
1130
00:45:45,326 --> 00:45:47,495
Yo, Steve'll make this
the easy one for me today.
1131
00:45:47,620 --> 00:45:50,331
[laughter]
1132
00:45:50,414 --> 00:45:52,166
- Mike, let's go.
1133
00:45:52,250 --> 00:45:54,669
♪ ♪
1134
00:45:54,835 --> 00:45:57,088
- Katina, I gotta get my wife.
1135
00:45:57,213 --> 00:45:58,464
- Jas.
1136
00:45:58,589 --> 00:45:59,882
- Oh, I thought you were
already picked.
1137
00:46:00,007 --> 00:46:02,051
- It's really starting to feel
like elementary school
1138
00:46:02,176 --> 00:46:04,804
all over again,
where I'm getting picked last.
1139
00:46:04,929 --> 00:46:07,640
But Olajuwon didn't even
pick his wife first.
1140
00:46:07,765 --> 00:46:10,601
So at least I feel
a little bit better.
1141
00:46:10,685 --> 00:46:11,811
- ♪ Show 'em what you got ♪
1142
00:46:11,936 --> 00:46:13,646
♪ Show 'em what you got ♪
1143
00:46:13,729 --> 00:46:16,148
♪ Why not
show 'em what you got ♪
1144
00:46:16,274 --> 00:46:18,442
♪ Show it all ♪
1145
00:46:18,526 --> 00:46:24,865
♪ ♪
1146
00:46:25,032 --> 00:46:26,492
- I got my dream team.
1147
00:46:26,617 --> 00:46:30,871
I know that Jas is a fighter
and a talking smack girl.
1148
00:46:31,038 --> 00:46:32,498
And I'm all about that.
1149
00:46:32,623 --> 00:46:33,624
- Break.
- Break.
1150
00:46:33,749 --> 00:46:36,085
- Mike, you know,
he's an athlete.
1151
00:46:36,168 --> 00:46:39,380
He's quick, and I got the tank
to run defense.
1152
00:46:39,505 --> 00:46:43,134
And me, I just think I'm one
of the more athletic girls.
1153
00:46:43,259 --> 00:46:49,682
♪ ♪
1154
00:46:49,849 --> 00:46:51,309
- Go.
1155
00:46:51,434 --> 00:46:53,019
- Go, baby, baby!
1156
00:46:53,185 --> 00:46:56,230
[all shouting]
1157
00:46:56,355 --> 00:46:58,566
- What a run by Mike!
1158
00:46:58,691 --> 00:47:00,568
- ♪ Hotter than
your mama's kitchen ♪
1159
00:47:00,693 --> 00:47:02,903
♪ Sunday dinner,
all the fixin's ♪
1160
00:47:03,029 --> 00:47:05,948
♪ Baby I want it, yeah, yeah ♪
1161
00:47:06,032 --> 00:47:07,950
♪ Hotter than
your mama's kitchen ♪
1162
00:47:08,034 --> 00:47:09,660
♪ Sunday dinner,
all the fixin's ♪
1163
00:47:09,827 --> 00:47:11,829
♪ Baby I want it, yeah, yeah ♪
1164
00:47:11,996 --> 00:47:14,999
♪ Time to remind them
who you are ♪
1165
00:47:15,082 --> 00:47:17,543
- Katrina! Grab the flag!
[laughter]
1166
00:47:17,668 --> 00:47:20,713
- Katrina, you cannot do--
- Yellow flag!
1167
00:47:20,838 --> 00:47:22,131
[whistle trills]
1168
00:47:22,214 --> 00:47:24,050
- It's my first time
doing flag football,
1169
00:47:24,175 --> 00:47:26,635
and I was waiting
for this moment to shine.
1170
00:47:26,761 --> 00:47:28,804
I knew I was gonna do good.
1171
00:47:28,888 --> 00:47:32,224
- Yo, Katina! Ahh!
1172
00:47:32,350 --> 00:47:34,143
- I'm actually impressed
with my wife.
1173
00:47:34,268 --> 00:47:36,062
She started off as somebody
who doesn't like sports,
1174
00:47:36,187 --> 00:47:38,356
and she came out there,
was the MVP.
1175
00:47:38,522 --> 00:47:39,815
She balled out.
1176
00:47:39,899 --> 00:47:41,692
- Watch the buck, sweep.
- Yeah.
1177
00:47:41,817 --> 00:47:44,028
- I told you watch the buck,
sweep.
1178
00:47:44,153 --> 00:47:46,113
- I'm feeling like
I'm gonna catch the ball,
1179
00:47:46,197 --> 00:47:48,908
then all of a sudden,
I'm going down.
1180
00:47:49,033 --> 00:47:51,118
- Oh, shoot.
He pulled something.
1181
00:47:51,202 --> 00:47:52,828
- Are you okay?
- You good?
1182
00:47:52,953 --> 00:47:56,082
- I see him grab his butt.
Then he gives an arch.
1183
00:47:56,207 --> 00:48:00,127
And he just--he's down like
a heavy tree in the woods.
1184
00:48:00,252 --> 00:48:01,921
And I don't think
he's getting back up.
1185
00:48:02,004 --> 00:48:03,255
- What is it, hamstring?
- Lindsey?
1186
00:48:03,339 --> 00:48:05,466
- Can we get the doctor?
- All right, so--
1187
00:48:05,591 --> 00:48:07,885
- We'll just--we'll just--here,
put his toes forward.
1188
00:48:08,010 --> 00:48:10,137
- Ugh, stop, stop, stop, stop.
- Stop, stop, stop.
1189
00:48:10,221 --> 00:48:12,932
♪ ♪
1190
00:48:16,769 --> 00:48:18,771
- Oh, shoot.
He pulled something.
1191
00:48:18,896 --> 00:48:20,815
- What is it?
1192
00:48:20,981 --> 00:48:24,110
- Ugh, stop, stop, stop, stop.
- Stop, stop, stop.
1193
00:48:24,193 --> 00:48:25,903
- Just give him a--
just give him a minute.
1194
00:48:26,028 --> 00:48:28,030
- Where does it hurt?
It's gonna hurt, but it--
1195
00:48:28,155 --> 00:48:30,783
- Yeah, that's right,
but he can't even move.
1196
00:48:30,866 --> 00:48:32,618
- Was it the hamstring?
- Yeah.
1197
00:48:32,743 --> 00:48:34,912
- What are you doing?
- Push his toes a bit forward.
1198
00:48:35,037 --> 00:48:36,914
- Is it locked up, or is it--
- You okay?
1199
00:48:37,039 --> 00:48:38,499
- I'm not gonna force it.
- Ugh.
1200
00:48:38,624 --> 00:48:40,626
Ugh, stop, stop, stop.
- No, no, this thing is tight.
1201
00:48:40,793 --> 00:48:43,379
- Ugh, ugh.
1202
00:48:43,504 --> 00:48:45,131
- Can you bend this?
1203
00:48:45,297 --> 00:48:46,924
♪ ♪
1204
00:48:47,007 --> 00:48:49,635
Oh, it's like
right here, right?
1205
00:48:49,760 --> 00:48:51,387
- He needs water.
- There. Right there.
1206
00:48:51,512 --> 00:48:52,304
- Right here?
- Yeah.
1207
00:48:52,388 --> 00:48:53,973
- He looks like
he pulled a muscle.
1208
00:48:54,098 --> 00:48:55,724
He didn't hear anything pop.
That's promising.
1209
00:48:55,850 --> 00:48:56,976
- Ugh.
1210
00:48:57,059 --> 00:48:59,103
- I think when your cells
are dehydrated,
1211
00:48:59,186 --> 00:49:01,730
it's a huge problem
for any athlete.
1212
00:49:01,856 --> 00:49:04,483
And Mark is very dehydrated,
1213
00:49:04,650 --> 00:49:06,986
which we learned with our
at-home sperm test.
1214
00:49:07,153 --> 00:49:09,113
Here, drink this one.
1215
00:49:09,196 --> 00:49:11,490
- Caught a [bleep]
wicked cramp in my leg.
1216
00:49:11,615 --> 00:49:15,035
[bleep] hear me ripping.
1217
00:49:15,161 --> 00:49:16,704
Can we get the doctor?
1218
00:49:16,871 --> 00:49:18,998
Get some [bleep] meds
and IVs over here.
1219
00:49:19,123 --> 00:49:21,208
Where's Matt Damon
when you need him?
1220
00:49:21,375 --> 00:49:22,710
- I'm glad you're moving
and standing.
1221
00:49:22,835 --> 00:49:23,961
That's a good sign.
1222
00:49:24,044 --> 00:49:25,546
- Yeah, that was--
that was painful.
1223
00:49:25,671 --> 00:49:27,339
I was wide open too.
1224
00:49:27,506 --> 00:49:29,258
- You saw the green light,
like "I'm scoring! Ahh!"
1225
00:49:29,341 --> 00:49:30,968
- I literally was, like,
wide open,
1226
00:49:31,093 --> 00:49:33,137
then I was the run--
run right down.
1227
00:49:33,262 --> 00:49:35,055
- It's a big week, everybody.
1228
00:49:35,181 --> 00:49:37,224
I mean, besides big Mark
the Shark getting injured here.
1229
00:49:37,349 --> 00:49:41,353
I mean, you know, we got some--
some big decisions coming up.
1230
00:49:41,479 --> 00:49:42,646
How's everyone doing?
1231
00:49:42,771 --> 00:49:45,065
- I feel positive.
1232
00:49:45,191 --> 00:49:46,650
- You feel positive? Aww.
1233
00:49:46,817 --> 00:49:49,028
- Yeah, I feel pretty good.
1234
00:49:49,153 --> 00:49:50,070
- I'll let you know.
1235
00:49:50,196 --> 00:49:51,572
- Ah, she'll let me know.
1236
00:49:51,697 --> 00:49:53,157
- I think it would be good
1237
00:49:53,240 --> 00:49:55,451
to know that everything
we've gone through,
1238
00:49:55,576 --> 00:49:58,245
there's some real feelings
there for Lindsey as my wife,
1239
00:49:58,370 --> 00:50:01,081
and it would be sad
if between our Decision Day
1240
00:50:01,207 --> 00:50:03,083
I didn't feel anything.
1241
00:50:03,209 --> 00:50:07,379
So I'm hoping that I do wanna
continue to stay married.
1242
00:50:07,505 --> 00:50:08,756
But I still have
a little bit more time
1243
00:50:08,881 --> 00:50:11,091
left in this
before Decision Day.
1244
00:50:11,175 --> 00:50:15,638
It's just make sure I make
the best, best decision.
1245
00:50:15,763 --> 00:50:17,598
- I feel fine too.
1246
00:50:17,723 --> 00:50:20,142
I told him I was like,
I just wanna enjoy this week.
1247
00:50:20,267 --> 00:50:22,353
You do what you doing.
I'll see what I'll do.
1248
00:50:22,520 --> 00:50:24,480
Then we'll talk, yeah?
1249
00:50:24,563 --> 00:50:25,981
- Even though she's with me
every day, so.
1250
00:50:26,065 --> 00:50:28,150
- That's true.
1251
00:50:28,275 --> 00:50:29,443
- I'm feeling good
about Decision Day.
1252
00:50:29,527 --> 00:50:31,987
I mean, me and Jas
had a conversation.
1253
00:50:32,112 --> 00:50:33,280
It seems like
we're on the same page
1254
00:50:33,364 --> 00:50:35,908
on what we need to focus on
1255
00:50:36,033 --> 00:50:38,327
and think about
going into Decision Day.
1256
00:50:38,452 --> 00:50:41,163
- For us, it's just a matter
of how we're feeling
1257
00:50:41,288 --> 00:50:42,748
and, you know,
where we're at mentally
1258
00:50:42,873 --> 00:50:46,043
and emotionally
on Decision Day.
1259
00:50:46,168 --> 00:50:48,379
I feel like if Michael
and I don't stick true
1260
00:50:48,504 --> 00:50:50,339
to what we said,
we would work on,
1261
00:50:50,464 --> 00:50:54,009
it would result in us
getting a divorce.
1262
00:50:54,134 --> 00:50:57,638
And that does kinda scare me.
1263
00:50:57,721 --> 00:51:01,475
So I don't really feel secure
in my marriage to him.
1264
00:51:01,559 --> 00:51:03,811
I just know we're definitely
in a better place,
1265
00:51:03,894 --> 00:51:06,480
but really anything
could happen.
1266
00:51:06,564 --> 00:51:07,648
What about you two?
1267
00:51:07,731 --> 00:51:09,316
- Oh, it's a big decision,
1268
00:51:09,441 --> 00:51:11,944
but it's still gonna
be a surprise.
1269
00:51:12,027 --> 00:51:13,737
We had one other
unanswered question,
1270
00:51:13,862 --> 00:51:14,947
and I just hadn't seen
1271
00:51:15,072 --> 00:51:16,574
what it was like
on the football field yet,
1272
00:51:16,699 --> 00:51:18,742
and she just showed out there,
so I feel a little...
1273
00:51:18,867 --> 00:51:19,952
- He did pretty great.
1274
00:51:20,077 --> 00:51:21,495
- You're--you're basing
that off of my...
1275
00:51:21,579 --> 00:51:22,329
- Yeah.
1276
00:51:22,496 --> 00:51:24,498
- Football--
flag football skills?
1277
00:51:24,665 --> 00:51:27,293
- I think we've come a long way
as a group.
1278
00:51:27,418 --> 00:51:30,004
- Yeah.
- It's hard work.
1279
00:51:30,129 --> 00:51:31,630
Things don't happen overnight.
1280
00:51:31,755 --> 00:51:33,382
You know, kinda like
what Cal said at the--
1281
00:51:33,507 --> 00:51:37,469
at the volleyball thing
in a way that--commitment.
1282
00:51:37,553 --> 00:51:39,972
You know, thinking about
why you did this
1283
00:51:40,139 --> 00:51:43,350
and really what you wanted
prior to the--the wedding
1284
00:51:43,475 --> 00:51:45,436
and just throughout
the eight weeks.
1285
00:51:45,561 --> 00:51:48,147
Again, what did you really
want in a marriage?
1286
00:51:48,272 --> 00:51:50,983
And did you get what you wanted
in a--in a marriage?
1287
00:51:51,108 --> 00:51:54,987
Regardless of things
that happened?
1288
00:51:55,112 --> 00:51:56,905
- Try not to say let it
stress you out too much.
1289
00:51:57,031 --> 00:51:58,949
What's supposed to be, will be.
1290
00:51:59,033 --> 00:52:01,452
Be grateful that
they even found you someone.
1291
00:52:01,535 --> 00:52:03,621
Think about it,
out of thousands of people.
1292
00:52:03,746 --> 00:52:06,498
We all--they were like,
"You guys aren't too broken."
1293
00:52:06,582 --> 00:52:08,459
[laughter]
1294
00:52:08,584 --> 00:52:11,837
So I would say, you know,
try not to let this week
1295
00:52:11,962 --> 00:52:13,631
stress you out,
still find enjoyment.
1296
00:52:13,756 --> 00:52:16,133
The time that you have left
with your partner.
1297
00:52:16,258 --> 00:52:18,636
And if there needs
to be forgiveness at the end,
1298
00:52:18,802 --> 00:52:20,137
go through your emotions,
1299
00:52:20,220 --> 00:52:22,723
but don't become bitter
if anything.
1300
00:52:22,848 --> 00:52:24,141
- Well said.
1301
00:52:24,308 --> 00:52:25,851
- Knowing that
this is the last time
1302
00:52:25,976 --> 00:52:27,811
seeing everyone
before the Decision Day,
1303
00:52:27,936 --> 00:52:31,899
makes me kinda sad because
I want everybody to be happy,
1304
00:52:32,024 --> 00:52:35,194
and I hope that everybody
comes out the way
1305
00:52:35,319 --> 00:52:37,154
that they wanted to.
1306
00:52:37,321 --> 00:52:38,405
- Whatever the decision is,
just respect
1307
00:52:38,530 --> 00:52:40,157
the other person's
decision and,
1308
00:52:40,282 --> 00:52:41,659
you know, hopefully,
we can still be cordial.
1309
00:52:41,784 --> 00:52:46,038
Get together and still,
you know, it doesn't end sour.
1310
00:52:46,163 --> 00:52:48,290
- You never know
the future of it.
1311
00:52:48,374 --> 00:52:50,209
- ♪ You know I still care ♪
1312
00:52:50,334 --> 00:52:52,294
♪ Oh, baby, are you out,
are you out ♪
1313
00:52:52,378 --> 00:52:53,337
♪ Are you out there? ♪
1314
00:52:57,007 --> 00:52:59,635
[upbeat music]
1315
00:52:59,760 --> 00:53:03,263
♪ ♪
1316
00:53:03,347 --> 00:53:05,933
- Entering Medford.
- Don't do it. I'm driving.
1317
00:53:06,058 --> 00:53:07,434
- How many minutes?
- We gonna crash.
1318
00:53:07,559 --> 00:53:08,769
- You're gotta pay attention
to the road.
1319
00:53:08,852 --> 00:53:10,479
- 15. Back off on your seat.
1320
00:53:10,604 --> 00:53:14,775
You're like a little kid
who can't ever have a surprise.
1321
00:53:14,858 --> 00:53:16,276
Sit.
- I hate surprises.
1322
00:53:16,360 --> 00:53:17,486
- Well, you know what?
1323
00:53:17,653 --> 00:53:19,113
- I married a stranger,
and that was so tough.
1324
00:53:19,238 --> 00:53:21,115
- All right, jeez.
- We've been married two months
1325
00:53:21,240 --> 00:53:23,242
and you're not keeping snacks
in your car for me.
1326
00:53:23,367 --> 00:53:24,952
- I'm about to feed you.
1327
00:53:25,077 --> 00:53:26,662
I have to grab
something here real quick.
1328
00:53:26,787 --> 00:53:28,706
So I need to carry this,
so I need you to hold the door.
1329
00:53:28,872 --> 00:53:31,166
So I need you to come with me
real quick, take two seconds.
1330
00:53:31,291 --> 00:53:33,252
- Are we going to your
grandma's house?
1331
00:53:33,377 --> 00:53:36,088
- The best-case scenario,
if I say yes on Decision Day,
1332
00:53:36,213 --> 00:53:40,968
is that I have certainty
that I wanna be with Lindsey
1333
00:53:41,051 --> 00:53:44,179
and we're gonna build a life
in my mom's apartment.
1334
00:53:44,304 --> 00:53:46,515
- This is a trip.
[both laugh]
1335
00:53:46,640 --> 00:53:49,226
- And it's gonna be exactly
what I had hoped for
1336
00:53:49,351 --> 00:53:51,562
going into the marriage
eight weeks ago.
1337
00:53:51,687 --> 00:53:52,896
- This is very nice.
1338
00:53:53,021 --> 00:53:55,149
You did a lot of good work
cleaning it.
1339
00:53:55,232 --> 00:53:56,984
♪ ♪
1340
00:53:57,067 --> 00:53:59,278
Thank you.
1341
00:53:59,361 --> 00:54:04,324
The past eight weeks,
I feel like eight years.
1342
00:54:04,450 --> 00:54:05,492
- This is where
we're having dinner.
1343
00:54:05,576 --> 00:54:06,952
- Okay.
1344
00:54:07,077 --> 00:54:09,621
It just makes my head spin.
1345
00:54:09,747 --> 00:54:10,789
But here we are.
1346
00:54:10,873 --> 00:54:12,207
- Oh.
1347
00:54:12,332 --> 00:54:13,792
- I think the past
eight weeks have been a lot
1348
00:54:13,917 --> 00:54:14,626
of learning and growth
1349
00:54:14,793 --> 00:54:17,921
and kind of putting this
pressure cooker.
1350
00:54:18,005 --> 00:54:19,882
Sometimes when you put food
in a pressure cooker, though,
1351
00:54:20,007 --> 00:54:22,384
it gets real soft and juicy.
1352
00:54:22,509 --> 00:54:24,762
I think we're kinda soft
and juicy right now.
1353
00:54:24,845 --> 00:54:27,723
♪ ♪
1354
00:54:29,433 --> 00:54:33,145
- Can you believe this is what
I'm making for dinner?
1355
00:54:33,228 --> 00:54:35,522
The first time we went out
to sushi
1356
00:54:35,647 --> 00:54:38,817
in that bowl,
that dragon came in.
1357
00:54:38,942 --> 00:54:43,155
- This is the chef's choice.
1358
00:54:43,238 --> 00:54:46,825
Sashimi and nigiri
and a Naruto roll.
1359
00:54:46,909 --> 00:54:49,453
♪ ♪
1360
00:54:49,536 --> 00:54:53,624
- You have pushed me
to new things.
1361
00:54:53,707 --> 00:54:58,670
You have cared for me
under tough conditions
1362
00:54:58,837 --> 00:55:03,801
like my mom and the cats
and the apartment.
1363
00:55:03,926 --> 00:55:06,804
I mean, this place
has never looked like this.
1364
00:55:06,970 --> 00:55:08,680
And it wouldn't have
1365
00:55:08,847 --> 00:55:11,308
if you didn't jump in
and push and help.
1366
00:55:11,433 --> 00:55:15,145
Even if it's old,
it feels a lot more like home
1367
00:55:15,270 --> 00:55:18,190
than it did for many years.
1368
00:55:18,357 --> 00:55:23,904
And I appreciate that.
1369
00:55:24,029 --> 00:55:28,242
- I really get a lot of joy
in building a home.
1370
00:55:28,367 --> 00:55:31,078
And so if we do stay together,
1371
00:55:31,203 --> 00:55:35,290
give me a weekend
and a $500 budget.
1372
00:55:36,875 --> 00:55:37,876
- $500 budget?
1373
00:55:38,001 --> 00:55:39,837
- Yeah.
- For what? For what?
1374
00:55:39,962 --> 00:55:42,047
- Light fixtures, paint,
1375
00:55:42,172 --> 00:55:44,091
for the linoleum,
for the carpet,
1376
00:55:44,216 --> 00:55:46,093
bathroom lights.
1377
00:55:46,218 --> 00:55:50,305
Remove all these
1970s panel curtains.
1378
00:55:50,389 --> 00:55:51,557
They're bitchin'.
1379
00:55:51,682 --> 00:55:54,810
- They're nice.
- Oh, Mark.
1380
00:55:54,935 --> 00:55:57,688
♪ ♪
1381
00:55:57,855 --> 00:56:00,983
Does the idea of, like,
creating a space
1382
00:56:01,066 --> 00:56:04,903
that makes you feel great
and comfortable intrigue you?
1383
00:56:05,028 --> 00:56:07,239
Or is it something that,
1384
00:56:07,364 --> 00:56:10,367
you know,
doesn't bother you either way?
1385
00:56:10,492 --> 00:56:11,952
- Like,
there're just some things,
1386
00:56:12,035 --> 00:56:15,664
I don't know, like,
I'm not ready to throw
1387
00:56:15,747 --> 00:56:20,919
everything out
to make it brand new.
1388
00:56:21,003 --> 00:56:23,130
Painting, sure.
1389
00:56:23,213 --> 00:56:25,257
Like, I wouldn't wanna
move that dresser.
1390
00:56:25,340 --> 00:56:27,968
- I wouldn't wanna live
with that.
1391
00:56:28,093 --> 00:56:29,678
I don't like it.
It's not my style.
1392
00:56:29,803 --> 00:56:32,723
I don't wanna move into
your past amongst your family
1393
00:56:32,848 --> 00:56:35,100
and your mom's things.
1394
00:56:35,183 --> 00:56:37,102
You have--you always say to me,
like,
1395
00:56:37,185 --> 00:56:40,689
I need to live day by day
in the moment.
1396
00:56:40,856 --> 00:56:43,692
Can't think about tomorrow.
I have to live in today.
1397
00:56:43,859 --> 00:56:46,987
But a lot of the times I hear
you talking about yesterday.
1398
00:56:47,070 --> 00:56:51,575
In your home, in your
childhood, in this house.
1399
00:56:51,700 --> 00:56:55,746
Mark is living in the past,
and I need somebody
1400
00:56:55,871 --> 00:57:00,334
who wants to build and live in
the future and present with me.
1401
00:57:00,500 --> 00:57:06,548
- Like, this apartment
and that home in Quincy
1402
00:57:06,673 --> 00:57:10,469
feel so good
just standing on property.
1403
00:57:10,552 --> 00:57:12,971
- Really?
- Mm-hmm.
1404
00:57:13,055 --> 00:57:14,389
- It's beautiful.
1405
00:57:14,514 --> 00:57:16,725
- It feels like
there's lots of love here.
1406
00:57:16,850 --> 00:57:19,728
The way my mind works,
if you were living here,
1407
00:57:19,853 --> 00:57:22,481
I made space for you
in a place that's mine
1408
00:57:22,564 --> 00:57:24,816
and my grandmother's
and my mother's,
1409
00:57:24,983 --> 00:57:26,610
and they're not here,
1410
00:57:26,693 --> 00:57:28,445
but I want it
to still feel like
1411
00:57:28,528 --> 00:57:30,447
there's a part of them here.
1412
00:57:30,530 --> 00:57:31,740
- Yeah, I know,
but you just said, like,
1413
00:57:31,865 --> 00:57:33,659
I want you
to feel like this is my place
1414
00:57:33,742 --> 00:57:35,661
and my grandma's place
and my mom's place.
1415
00:57:35,786 --> 00:57:37,829
- But if--I understand--
- But I want our place.
1416
00:57:37,996 --> 00:57:42,459
♪ ♪
1417
00:57:42,542 --> 00:57:43,585
- We are gonna agree
to disagree
1418
00:57:43,669 --> 00:57:45,671
on just the apartment thing
tonight.
1419
00:57:45,796 --> 00:57:47,673
We live very different lives.
1420
00:57:47,839 --> 00:57:52,511
We have some core values
as people,
1421
00:57:52,636 --> 00:57:54,304
but just our hobbies
1422
00:57:54,429 --> 00:57:56,515
and the way our day-to-days
are so different
1423
00:57:56,682 --> 00:58:01,478
that it's difficult to know
sometimes what to do.
1424
00:58:01,561 --> 00:58:03,897
Why don't we get
some fresh air?
1425
00:58:04,022 --> 00:58:08,318
But I would say as a couple,
no matter what we have
1426
00:58:08,485 --> 00:58:09,861
that can be tough
in our marriage,
1427
00:58:09,987 --> 00:58:12,406
we'll still put it aside
and have fun.
1428
00:58:12,531 --> 00:58:14,241
You can have difficult
conversations,
1429
00:58:14,366 --> 00:58:18,161
you can still enjoy each other
and have a fun moment with it.
1430
00:58:18,245 --> 00:58:20,163
- Do you want to salsa?
- No.
1431
00:58:20,247 --> 00:58:21,957
- No? I'll help you.
1432
00:58:22,040 --> 00:58:24,251
♪ ♪
1433
00:58:24,376 --> 00:58:28,130
[both laughing]
1434
00:58:28,213 --> 00:58:35,095
♪ ♪
1435
00:58:40,976 --> 00:58:43,311
- ♪ I woke up thinking
it was all a dream ♪
1436
00:58:43,395 --> 00:58:45,647
[upbeat music]
1437
00:58:45,772 --> 00:58:50,277
♪ But right now something's
got a hold on me, yeah ♪
1438
00:58:50,360 --> 00:58:52,070
♪ And baby, I can't let go ♪
1439
00:58:52,195 --> 00:58:55,157
- This is great.
1440
00:58:55,282 --> 00:58:57,117
- Yeah, it looks delicious.
1441
00:58:57,200 --> 00:58:59,327
♪ ♪
1442
00:58:59,411 --> 00:59:01,288
So pretty solid
eight weeks, huh?
1443
00:59:01,371 --> 00:59:02,831
♪ ♪
1444
00:59:02,998 --> 00:59:06,501
- It's been quite the ride,
I will say.
1445
00:59:06,626 --> 00:59:09,171
But a year ago, if like,
someone asked you
1446
00:59:09,296 --> 00:59:13,300
if you were ready for marriage,
1447
00:59:13,425 --> 00:59:15,635
a year ago,
would you have said yes?
1448
00:59:15,761 --> 00:59:17,596
- I think I've been ready
for marriage
1449
00:59:17,679 --> 00:59:19,139
for a little while now.
1450
00:59:19,222 --> 00:59:23,477
Maybe around, you know,
two to three years.
1451
00:59:23,602 --> 00:59:24,603
- What was the shift?
1452
00:59:24,686 --> 00:59:25,729
Like, what happened
in your life
1453
00:59:25,854 --> 00:59:28,356
that made you think
that you're ready
1454
00:59:28,482 --> 00:59:30,233
to say goodbye
to your single life?
1455
00:59:30,358 --> 00:59:31,818
- I think it's like, you know,
1456
00:59:31,943 --> 00:59:34,488
spending a lot of time
with my family.
1457
00:59:34,571 --> 00:59:37,365
Just really enjoying
hanging out
1458
00:59:37,491 --> 00:59:39,868
with my nieces and nephews
and the family's
1459
00:59:40,035 --> 00:59:42,162
one of the
biggest driving forces for me.
1460
00:59:42,245 --> 00:59:44,039
♪ ♪
1461
00:59:46,792 --> 00:59:49,711
- How are you feeling, like,
1462
00:59:49,836 --> 00:59:53,298
about us not living together
after Decision Day?
1463
00:59:53,381 --> 00:59:56,134
♪ ♪
1464
00:59:56,218 --> 01:00:02,808
Do you think it'll, like--like,
regress our marriage?
1465
01:00:02,891 --> 01:00:05,811
- What? Living separately?
- Yeah.
1466
01:00:05,894 --> 01:00:07,062
- I don't know.
- Or you don't know.
1467
01:00:07,187 --> 01:00:10,023
- I mean, what do you think
it'll be like?
1468
01:00:10,148 --> 01:00:13,151
♪ ♪
1469
01:00:13,235 --> 01:00:15,362
- I don't think much
will change between us.
1470
01:00:15,487 --> 01:00:17,405
I mean, like, as far as,
like, emotions go
1471
01:00:17,531 --> 01:00:19,116
and, like,
the bond and the love,
1472
01:00:19,199 --> 01:00:22,702
I don't think
that will go anywhere, but--
1473
01:00:22,869 --> 01:00:24,955
- I mean, it could, right?
1474
01:00:25,038 --> 01:00:27,415
It is taking a step back
in a--in a sense.
1475
01:00:27,541 --> 01:00:29,751
We're not constantly together,
1476
01:00:29,876 --> 01:00:32,212
but there could be benefits
to that too.
1477
01:00:32,337 --> 01:00:34,756
We don't know, you know.
- Mm-hmm.
1478
01:00:34,840 --> 01:00:36,466
I think for him, I mean,
1479
01:00:36,550 --> 01:00:39,511
he already feels like
we're living together.
1480
01:00:39,636 --> 01:00:42,639
What would be the big deal
in doing that
1481
01:00:42,722 --> 01:00:48,145
right after making a decision
on Decision Day?
1482
01:00:48,270 --> 01:00:52,315
But, you know, I'm just not
completely comfortable
1483
01:00:52,399 --> 01:00:54,985
doing that yet.
And it's scary.
1484
01:00:55,110 --> 01:00:59,781
You still don't really know
how things are gonna turn out.
1485
01:00:59,865 --> 01:01:02,242
- Yeah, we don't need to have
a perfect marriage
1486
01:01:02,367 --> 01:01:03,660
by Decision Day, right?
1487
01:01:03,785 --> 01:01:06,288
That's not an expectation
that we may ever have.
1488
01:01:06,371 --> 01:01:08,165
Never mind in eight weeks.
1489
01:01:08,290 --> 01:01:09,624
♪ ♪
1490
01:01:09,708 --> 01:01:11,793
So you know,
I think the main point is,
1491
01:01:11,918 --> 01:01:14,963
is there enough to carry on
at this point on?
1492
01:01:15,046 --> 01:01:19,968
♪ ♪
1493
01:01:20,093 --> 01:01:21,428
- I still have some questions
1494
01:01:21,511 --> 01:01:23,805
when it comes
to work and career.
1495
01:01:23,889 --> 01:01:26,349
I mean, I don't really know
the Steve
1496
01:01:26,474 --> 01:01:28,685
that has had a job, you know.
1497
01:01:28,810 --> 01:01:34,357
So it's like, my natural
instinct is to worry.
1498
01:01:34,482 --> 01:01:37,319
- Although I mean, even though
you weren't there for it,
1499
01:01:37,444 --> 01:01:38,778
I mean, we've had conversations
1500
01:01:38,862 --> 01:01:40,822
about family
and different people.
1501
01:01:40,906 --> 01:01:42,824
Don't--do you think
my track record
1502
01:01:42,908 --> 01:01:45,619
at least helps with that
or speaks to a degree of,
1503
01:01:45,702 --> 01:01:49,831
you know, what I have done
and what I'm capable of?
1504
01:01:49,915 --> 01:01:51,541
- Yeah.
- I mean, do you doubt that?
1505
01:01:51,666 --> 01:01:52,667
You know what I mean?
1506
01:01:52,751 --> 01:01:57,589
- I don't doubt it, but, um,
1507
01:01:57,672 --> 01:02:02,135
I also need action to,
you know.
1508
01:02:02,302 --> 01:02:03,887
- That's another thing
I'm having a hard time with.
1509
01:02:04,012 --> 01:02:08,183
You're skeptical to believe
in it for something.
1510
01:02:08,308 --> 01:02:10,352
I mean, do you know
what a sales engineer is?
1511
01:02:10,477 --> 01:02:11,645
- No, see, that's the thing,
1512
01:02:11,770 --> 01:02:12,979
we don't talk about
these things.
1513
01:02:13,063 --> 01:02:14,314
I had no idea what you did
in your last career.
1514
01:02:14,439 --> 01:02:15,440
Like, I don't know.
1515
01:02:15,565 --> 01:02:16,775
- I didn't just apply
for a job,
1516
01:02:16,858 --> 01:02:19,819
you know, down the street
doing whatever.
1517
01:02:19,903 --> 01:02:21,446
It took a lot of work
to get there.
1518
01:02:21,529 --> 01:02:22,989
And I did it for four years.
1519
01:02:23,114 --> 01:02:26,618
Like, I think that shows
capability and dedication
1520
01:02:26,701 --> 01:02:29,496
to a-a-a career
and all of these things.
1521
01:02:29,621 --> 01:02:30,664
But it's hard when, you know,
1522
01:02:30,747 --> 01:02:32,249
when they tell you
these things,
1523
01:02:32,374 --> 01:02:33,708
you don't--you don't take it
as significant
1524
01:02:33,833 --> 01:02:35,418
or you just say like,
1525
01:02:35,502 --> 01:02:37,003
"Oh, okay.
Like, I haven't seen it."
1526
01:02:37,128 --> 01:02:39,172
- But this situation, like,
the stakes are high, like...
1527
01:02:39,297 --> 01:02:41,466
♪ ♪
1528
01:02:41,549 --> 01:02:43,802
We only can go off
of the information
1529
01:02:43,927 --> 01:02:45,220
that we have and know.
1530
01:02:45,345 --> 01:02:47,764
So I may know
you're working on things,
1531
01:02:47,847 --> 01:02:51,643
but, like, I don't know--
I don't know what that means.
1532
01:02:51,726 --> 01:02:54,479
Like, how does that translate
to, like, income?
1533
01:02:54,562 --> 01:02:55,814
- Yeah--
- You know that.
1534
01:02:55,939 --> 01:02:59,150
- But--but we've talked
about this.
1535
01:02:59,234 --> 01:03:01,069
It's like, that's not
really fair, you know.
1536
01:03:01,194 --> 01:03:03,571
- I have, like,
always worked so hard,
1537
01:03:03,697 --> 01:03:05,031
and I don't make
a ton of money,
1538
01:03:05,156 --> 01:03:07,075
and I know that I want,
you know, three kids,
1539
01:03:07,200 --> 01:03:10,620
and in order to provide
a comfortable lifestyle
1540
01:03:10,704 --> 01:03:12,163
for my family,
1541
01:03:12,247 --> 01:03:15,959
I would need my partner
to contribute in some way.
1542
01:03:16,042 --> 01:03:18,586
So I'm realizing
that I still need to know
1543
01:03:18,670 --> 01:03:21,089
that I have some form
of security,
1544
01:03:21,172 --> 01:03:25,010
you know, savings,
a place to live.
1545
01:03:25,135 --> 01:03:30,807
I don't wanna relinquish that
much control over my security.
1546
01:03:30,932 --> 01:03:33,727
- Then take some faith in me.
1547
01:03:33,852 --> 01:03:35,353
- I can't know
what I don't know.
1548
01:03:35,478 --> 01:03:41,026
♪ ♪
1549
01:03:41,151 --> 01:03:42,485
- I don't know
how I feel about that.
1550
01:03:42,610 --> 01:03:44,946
♪ ♪
1551
01:03:45,030 --> 01:03:49,617
- ♪ Baby, I need
some time alone ♪
1552
01:03:49,743 --> 01:03:52,996
♪ To be by myself ♪
1553
01:03:53,121 --> 01:03:56,875
♪ ♪
1554
01:03:57,000 --> 01:03:59,461
- ♪ Is it good, is it right ♪
1555
01:03:59,586 --> 01:04:02,297
♪ Is it dark, is it light ♪
1556
01:04:02,380 --> 01:04:04,424
♪ Am I low, am I high ♪
1557
01:04:04,507 --> 01:04:07,052
♪ Can you look, can you hide ♪
1558
01:04:07,177 --> 01:04:10,388
- The train's finally
leaving its last station.
1559
01:04:10,513 --> 01:04:12,766
All aboard!
1560
01:04:12,849 --> 01:04:15,560
Coming into the station.
1561
01:04:15,685 --> 01:04:18,313
We hit the bottom.
Bottom right.
1562
01:04:18,438 --> 01:04:20,148
- This is the final night
that our couples
1563
01:04:20,231 --> 01:04:22,859
will get to spend together
before Decision Day.
1564
01:04:23,026 --> 01:04:24,736
So they must take
these last moments
1565
01:04:24,861 --> 01:04:27,113
to explore
any necessary information
1566
01:04:27,197 --> 01:04:31,159
to help determine whether their
futures include one another.
1567
01:04:31,284 --> 01:04:34,829
- ♪ Give fears a beginning ♪
1568
01:04:34,996 --> 01:04:37,791
♪ Then you will have an end ♪
1569
01:04:37,916 --> 01:04:42,629
- This is our last night
in this--in this apartment.
1570
01:04:42,712 --> 01:04:45,215
- How you feel about that?
- Um.
1571
01:04:47,801 --> 01:04:49,302
- I think so.
1572
01:04:49,386 --> 01:04:54,349
- Decision Day is approaching,
and I have mixed feelings.
1573
01:04:54,474 --> 01:05:01,022
I feel anxious,
excited, and nervous.
1574
01:05:01,189 --> 01:05:05,944
- I'm glad that
we're still here.
1575
01:05:06,027 --> 01:05:10,281
And I think the cats help
in a way.
1576
01:05:10,365 --> 01:05:12,992
It's like having,
like, little kids.
1577
01:05:13,118 --> 01:05:16,287
- Oh, so we're staying together
for the cats.
1578
01:05:16,371 --> 01:05:19,833
- I'm just--I just am saying
that I think it's--
1579
01:05:19,958 --> 01:05:21,543
it's a bit--it brings
a different dynamic
1580
01:05:21,668 --> 01:05:24,337
to a relationship or a marriage
1581
01:05:24,462 --> 01:05:27,424
when you have another thing
to care for.
1582
01:05:27,507 --> 01:05:32,971
If you think about it, like,
two strangers, five cats,
1583
01:05:33,096 --> 01:05:35,473
new place for everybody.
1584
01:05:35,557 --> 01:05:37,976
It could have went really bad.
1585
01:05:38,101 --> 01:05:42,605
- This is my favorite.
Rocky, I'll miss you the most.
1586
01:05:42,689 --> 01:05:45,066
- Wow, that was dark.
1587
01:05:45,191 --> 01:05:48,069
- I mean, honestly, yes,
I'll miss Rocky more than you.
1588
01:05:48,194 --> 01:05:51,322
I give Rocky love,
he gives it right back.
1589
01:05:51,448 --> 01:05:56,161
I asked him to come, he comes.
I hug him, he loves it.
1590
01:05:56,244 --> 01:05:58,663
You're like, "Oh, no, stop."
1591
01:05:58,788 --> 01:06:03,376
[laughing]
1592
01:06:03,501 --> 01:06:05,170
Just like that.
1593
01:06:05,295 --> 01:06:06,880
- I don't think just like that.
1594
01:06:07,005 --> 01:06:10,008
- I think the toughest thing
for me to navigate
1595
01:06:10,133 --> 01:06:11,759
throughout this process
has been, like,
1596
01:06:11,843 --> 01:06:13,970
where's Mark at?
1597
01:06:14,095 --> 01:06:16,222
Are you in or are you out?
1598
01:06:16,347 --> 01:06:19,434
'Cause, you are just
as affectionate as me.
1599
01:06:19,517 --> 01:06:23,480
And just as, like,
in the moment as me
1600
01:06:23,563 --> 01:06:25,273
when we first got married.
1601
01:06:25,356 --> 01:06:27,233
And then all of a sudden,
when the tough got going,
1602
01:06:27,358 --> 01:06:31,488
you went, like, you kind of
wanted get going a little bit.
1603
01:06:31,571 --> 01:06:33,490
- I think everything happens
for a reason.
1604
01:06:33,615 --> 01:06:37,494
I think that four weeks
or eight weeks, you know,
1605
01:06:37,619 --> 01:06:39,078
every day is an opportunity
1606
01:06:39,204 --> 01:06:42,499
to learn what you like
and pay attention
1607
01:06:42,582 --> 01:06:46,669
and try not to do anything
that would ever hurt you.
1608
01:06:46,794 --> 01:06:48,463
- You think you got me
figured out now?
1609
01:06:48,546 --> 01:06:51,549
♪ ♪
1610
01:06:51,674 --> 01:06:52,884
- I think
I have you figured out
1611
01:06:53,009 --> 01:06:56,429
more now than I did each week.
1612
01:06:56,513 --> 01:06:57,889
- Hmm.
1613
01:06:58,014 --> 01:06:59,974
- I would say
that I'm a little anxious
1614
01:07:00,058 --> 01:07:03,478
because we haven't had
a real positive week
1615
01:07:03,561 --> 01:07:06,397
in the last eight weeks.
We've had some good moments.
1616
01:07:06,523 --> 01:07:08,983
We also had some
really very tough arguments.
1617
01:07:09,067 --> 01:07:11,528
You know, for me,
I just can't--
1618
01:07:11,653 --> 01:07:12,487
I can't live with someone
1619
01:07:12,612 --> 01:07:15,448
if we're gonna argue
every week.
1620
01:07:15,573 --> 01:07:18,535
So it's very difficult
on how to navigate
1621
01:07:18,660 --> 01:07:20,578
the rest of your life
or the next couple of weeks
1622
01:07:20,703 --> 01:07:21,871
if we stayed together,
1623
01:07:22,038 --> 01:07:23,164
if these things
are gonna change
1624
01:07:23,289 --> 01:07:24,624
or we're gonna be having
these up and down moments
1625
01:07:24,707 --> 01:07:26,251
every single week.
1626
01:07:26,334 --> 01:07:29,671
I hope that I can find
the ability
1627
01:07:29,796 --> 01:07:32,924
to make the best decision I can
1628
01:07:33,007 --> 01:07:36,678
under these type
of circumstances.
1629
01:07:36,803 --> 01:07:39,681
- ♪ In the darkest night ♪
1630
01:07:39,806 --> 01:07:40,515
♪ Our blood is... ♪
1631
01:07:44,477 --> 01:07:48,064
- ♪ I can't seem
to shake those shadows ♪
1632
01:07:48,189 --> 01:07:51,985
♪ Each song is close behind ♪
1633
01:07:52,110 --> 01:07:54,487
[upbeat music]
1634
01:07:54,654 --> 01:07:57,282
- Okay, okay, okay, okay.
1635
01:07:57,407 --> 01:08:01,244
Shake it one, three times
you're playing with it, okay?
1636
01:08:01,369 --> 01:08:02,996
- This is the last time
that we all see each other
1637
01:08:03,121 --> 01:08:05,957
before Decision Day.
1638
01:08:06,040 --> 01:08:07,250
- Yeah, I think it'd be,
you know,
1639
01:08:07,375 --> 01:08:10,003
it'd be good to remember
what we're like
1640
01:08:10,169 --> 01:08:12,964
when we're not with each other
for two months straight.
1641
01:08:13,131 --> 01:08:16,551
- Will you miss me? And Sushi?
1642
01:08:16,676 --> 01:08:20,597
♪ ♪
1643
01:08:20,680 --> 01:08:22,307
- Yeah, definitely Sushi.
1644
01:08:22,473 --> 01:08:26,269
- You'll miss Sushi but not me?
Sushi?
1645
01:08:26,394 --> 01:08:30,982
- Knowing that this could
possibly be our last bedtime,
1646
01:08:31,107 --> 01:08:33,151
it's definitely a lot
to think about.
1647
01:08:33,234 --> 01:08:35,278
- If you say no on
Decision Day,
1648
01:08:35,361 --> 01:08:36,988
you'll also say no to him.
1649
01:08:37,113 --> 01:08:39,616
- Well, I think there's like a
separate Decision Day for that.
1650
01:08:39,699 --> 01:08:41,159
[both laugh]
1651
01:08:41,284 --> 01:08:42,827
I think there is a bit
of mixed feelings
1652
01:08:42,952 --> 01:08:45,580
in terms of
the unresolved issues.
1653
01:08:45,705 --> 01:08:46,664
It's a joke.
1654
01:08:46,789 --> 01:08:48,166
- You're crazy.
1655
01:08:48,333 --> 01:08:50,084
- I'm worried that Noi may
1656
01:08:50,209 --> 01:08:52,879
have held
some of her feelings back.
1657
01:08:53,004 --> 01:08:55,256
She's always had a hard time
expressing them.
1658
01:08:55,381 --> 01:08:58,926
And as time passes,
I always find out more,
1659
01:08:59,052 --> 01:09:00,803
and going into Decision Day,
that's,
1660
01:09:00,928 --> 01:09:02,388
you know, that's a big concern.
1661
01:09:02,513 --> 01:09:06,517
Anyway, what would you
have done differently
1662
01:09:06,643 --> 01:09:09,812
if you could start this
all over again?
1663
01:09:09,937 --> 01:09:11,814
- What would you have changed?
1664
01:09:11,939 --> 01:09:13,775
- Probably would've got a job.
1665
01:09:13,900 --> 01:09:16,778
[both laughing]
1666
01:09:16,903 --> 01:09:20,156
♪ ♪
1667
01:09:20,281 --> 01:09:22,408
But anyways.
- What's your real answer?
1668
01:09:22,533 --> 01:09:24,160
- Um.
1669
01:09:24,285 --> 01:09:26,496
I would have just eaten
the pasta.
1670
01:09:26,663 --> 01:09:28,081
I would have
just not said anything.
1671
01:09:28,206 --> 01:09:29,874
I just eat the pasta.
1672
01:09:30,041 --> 01:09:33,628
[both laughing]
1673
01:09:33,711 --> 01:09:35,421
I don't know what else
I would have changed, okay?
1674
01:09:35,505 --> 01:09:37,924
These are the things
I was thinking of.
1675
01:09:38,049 --> 01:09:40,677
♪ ♪
1676
01:09:40,802 --> 01:09:42,720
- I mean, it's funny now,
1677
01:09:42,845 --> 01:09:44,972
but at the time,
it wasn't funny.
1678
01:09:45,056 --> 01:09:47,350
- No, it wasn't.
1679
01:09:47,517 --> 01:09:49,644
- I mean, I'm glad
I can laugh about it now.
1680
01:09:49,769 --> 01:09:52,021
- Yeah.
1681
01:09:52,188 --> 01:09:54,190
- Would you want me
to do anything differently?
1682
01:09:54,315 --> 01:09:56,859
- I mean, I guess--I guess
it's just understanding
1683
01:09:56,984 --> 01:10:00,363
that we should treat
each other equally, you know.
1684
01:10:00,530 --> 01:10:02,323
If you asked me, oh,
I can ask you anything anytime,
1685
01:10:02,407 --> 01:10:04,367
and just expected
that I should do it.
1686
01:10:04,534 --> 01:10:07,578
But if I asked you, it's like,
you're liable to snap at me.
1687
01:10:07,704 --> 01:10:09,080
♪ ♪
1688
01:10:09,205 --> 01:10:10,915
Do you hate cleaning bathrooms
that much?
1689
01:10:11,040 --> 01:10:12,083
- I hate cleaning bathrooms.
1690
01:10:12,208 --> 01:10:14,669
- Do you hate them so bad
that from here on out,
1691
01:10:14,836 --> 01:10:16,963
you'll take responsibility
of taking Sushi out?
1692
01:10:17,088 --> 01:10:19,006
- I'm busy working.
1693
01:10:19,132 --> 01:10:20,717
- It's like that I-I-I don't,
1694
01:10:20,842 --> 01:10:23,094
you know, that doesn't
make me feel comfortable.
1695
01:10:23,219 --> 01:10:25,012
- Yeah.
1696
01:10:25,138 --> 01:10:26,472
- I should feel as comfortable
1697
01:10:26,597 --> 01:10:30,518
asking you for things
as you do for me.
1698
01:10:30,685 --> 01:10:33,271
- Our final night
before Decision Day,
1699
01:10:33,396 --> 01:10:35,898
and he's still counting things
1700
01:10:36,023 --> 01:10:40,987
and needs to ensure
that the transaction is 50/50.
1701
01:10:41,154 --> 01:10:43,156
I think that's a sign
that he still
1702
01:10:43,281 --> 01:10:46,784
has to develop trust with me.
1703
01:10:46,909 --> 01:10:48,995
I'm not perfect.
- I know.
1704
01:10:49,162 --> 01:10:51,831
- Neither are you.
- I know.
1705
01:10:51,956 --> 01:10:54,292
- I feel like if we choose
to stay together
1706
01:10:54,417 --> 01:10:57,170
and he's still having to work
through these issues,
1707
01:10:57,336 --> 01:10:58,963
I think it's gonna be
really hard for me.
1708
01:10:59,130 --> 01:11:01,841
♪ ♪
1709
01:11:02,008 --> 01:11:03,843
- ♪ I know you're insane ♪
1710
01:11:03,968 --> 01:11:05,553
♪ ♪
1711
01:11:05,678 --> 01:11:07,138
- ♪ It's funny how
these people come around ♪
1712
01:11:07,263 --> 01:11:08,806
♪ It's funny how
these people come around ♪
1713
01:11:08,890 --> 01:11:11,225
♪ As the worst seems to go
round and round ♪
1714
01:11:11,350 --> 01:11:12,977
- Are you sad to leave?
1715
01:11:13,102 --> 01:11:15,021
- Yeah, I am sad to leave.
1716
01:11:15,146 --> 01:11:17,690
- It's the final day
before Decision Day,
1717
01:11:17,815 --> 01:11:20,860
and our couples are feeling
the immense pressure
1718
01:11:20,985 --> 01:11:24,489
of making the biggest decision
of their lives.
1719
01:11:24,572 --> 01:11:28,451
- I'm just feeling, like,
nervous and--and anxious.
1720
01:11:28,576 --> 01:11:31,329
- In order to better evaluate
the last eight weeks
1721
01:11:31,454 --> 01:11:32,830
of their marriage,
1722
01:11:32,955 --> 01:11:36,125
our couples will spend
the last day alone.
1723
01:11:36,292 --> 01:11:43,299
♪ ♪
1724
01:11:43,424 --> 01:11:46,052
- Want me to help you
make your suitcase?
1725
01:11:46,177 --> 01:11:47,470
- Yeah.
1726
01:11:47,595 --> 01:11:50,014
- I know you got stuff all over
the place in this place.
1727
01:11:50,181 --> 01:11:52,475
I think you came
with a whole house loaded.
1728
01:11:52,642 --> 01:11:55,394
- I know it's so much stuff
to bring.
1729
01:11:55,520 --> 01:11:57,522
Before I got married,
1730
01:11:57,688 --> 01:12:01,692
I honestly didn't really think
about the Decision Day aspects.
1731
01:12:01,859 --> 01:12:03,361
I think I was just--
1732
01:12:03,486 --> 01:12:04,946
when I found out
I was getting married,
1733
01:12:05,071 --> 01:12:08,324
I just focused on--so much on
am I gonna like this person?
1734
01:12:08,407 --> 01:12:11,327
And now that this day
has literally snuck up on me,
1735
01:12:11,410 --> 01:12:13,162
I'm--I'm like...
1736
01:12:13,329 --> 01:12:14,539
♪ ♪
1737
01:12:14,664 --> 01:12:18,125
"Oh my God, it's here."
1738
01:12:18,209 --> 01:12:20,378
Are you nervous?
- Am I nervous?
1739
01:12:20,503 --> 01:12:21,379
- Mm-hmm.
- No.
1740
01:12:21,504 --> 01:12:23,297
- To be alone in your thoughts.
1741
01:12:23,422 --> 01:12:25,091
- Ah, nah,
I'm gonna appreciate this.
1742
01:12:25,174 --> 01:12:26,926
- You're gonna appreciate it?
- Yeah, I get to think.
1743
01:12:27,051 --> 01:12:28,261
- Okay.
1744
01:12:28,344 --> 01:12:30,304
- I really get to think
the pros and cons,
1745
01:12:30,429 --> 01:12:32,890
what outweighs what,
how I feel.
1746
01:12:33,015 --> 01:12:34,559
You know what I mean?
1747
01:12:34,684 --> 01:12:35,643
- Yeah.
1748
01:12:35,726 --> 01:12:38,229
- You never know, I might
shed a tear, you know.
1749
01:12:38,354 --> 01:12:40,898
[both laugh]
1750
01:12:41,023 --> 01:12:42,650
This is a life decision.
1751
01:12:42,775 --> 01:12:45,570
This is not something
that you could just
1752
01:12:45,695 --> 01:12:48,489
make a quick answer
even if you was in love.
1753
01:12:48,573 --> 01:12:51,033
I feel like you still should
think about your future
1754
01:12:51,200 --> 01:12:53,244
and think about is this right?
1755
01:12:53,369 --> 01:12:57,665
So I just feel like I need time
to myself to just really think
1756
01:12:57,790 --> 01:13:01,377
and try to really
1757
01:13:01,502 --> 01:13:04,505
take in everything
I've been through with Katina.
1758
01:13:04,630 --> 01:13:08,092
How'd you feel if you ended up
single tomorrow?
1759
01:13:08,175 --> 01:13:09,343
- I will be sad.
1760
01:13:09,468 --> 01:13:11,637
I didn't sign up for this
to get a divorce.
1761
01:13:11,804 --> 01:13:16,559
So it will take me time
to process and to get over it.
1762
01:13:16,684 --> 01:13:20,479
But I would definitely,
you know, I would be sad.
1763
01:13:20,605 --> 01:13:22,106
- Yeah.
- I'd be hurting.
1764
01:13:22,231 --> 01:13:25,359
- I hear you.
- How would you feel?
1765
01:13:25,484 --> 01:13:26,944
- I mean, yeah,
you'll be--I'll be sad.
1766
01:13:27,069 --> 01:13:29,405
But you always gotta remember
1767
01:13:29,530 --> 01:13:31,866
that this was part
of the process.
1768
01:13:32,033 --> 01:13:34,368
You knew that this is
the chance that we'd take, so.
1769
01:13:34,493 --> 01:13:35,953
- Of course, but that doesn't
change my feelings--
1770
01:13:36,078 --> 01:13:37,580
- I be bothered that--yeah,
1771
01:13:37,705 --> 01:13:38,956
I'd be bothered that, you know,
if it didn't work,
1772
01:13:39,040 --> 01:13:42,501
but I would overcome it.
1773
01:13:42,668 --> 01:13:45,129
And then, you know,
become okay again.
1774
01:13:45,254 --> 01:13:46,672
- Okay.
1775
01:13:46,839 --> 01:13:49,467
- I feel like 'cause you're
a female, you're more like,
1776
01:13:49,550 --> 01:13:51,802
you know what I'm saying?
- No.
1777
01:13:51,928 --> 01:13:53,471
- I guess you--I really
can't--I mean.
1778
01:13:53,554 --> 01:13:55,264
I know I'll be sad,
1779
01:13:55,389 --> 01:13:57,141
but I don't know the level
of where I would be
1780
01:13:57,308 --> 01:13:59,310
because it still didn't happen
yet, you know what I'm saying?
1781
01:13:59,435 --> 01:14:00,603
- Mm-hmm.
1782
01:14:00,686 --> 01:14:02,271
- So I mean,
I could give you an answer,
1783
01:14:02,396 --> 01:14:05,983
but I don't really know.
I'm not in that position.
1784
01:14:07,902 --> 01:14:10,613
♪ ♪
1785
01:14:14,075 --> 01:14:16,786
♪ ♪
1786
01:14:16,911 --> 01:14:19,497
- It's a scary thing because
you put a lot of effort
1787
01:14:19,622 --> 01:14:23,584
into getting to know someone,
so if it doesn't work out,
1788
01:14:23,668 --> 01:14:28,005
it's kinda like a--like a--
like a draining feeling.
1789
01:14:28,172 --> 01:14:31,300
- No matter what our decision
is tomorrow,
1790
01:14:31,467 --> 01:14:35,972
I want you to know
that I truly care for you,
1791
01:14:36,097 --> 01:14:38,641
I'm happy I met you,
1792
01:14:38,766 --> 01:14:41,394
and I hope you really choose
what's best for you.
1793
01:14:41,519 --> 01:14:43,854
I don't ever want you
to make a decision based off
1794
01:14:43,980 --> 01:14:47,400
because you care
what other people are thinking.
1795
01:14:47,525 --> 01:14:48,776
This decision is deeper
1796
01:14:48,901 --> 01:14:51,487
than just saying
I had a good time with you.
1797
01:14:51,654 --> 01:14:52,863
I hope you really do
what's best for you.
1798
01:14:53,030 --> 01:14:54,657
You deserve
what's best for you.
1799
01:14:54,782 --> 01:14:57,284
Be selfish
then make your decision.
1800
01:14:57,368 --> 01:14:59,870
Be selfish.
1801
01:14:59,996 --> 01:15:03,624
'Cause you have to.
I'ma be selfish.
1802
01:15:03,749 --> 01:15:05,459
I have to make
what's the best decision for me
1803
01:15:05,584 --> 01:15:07,670
not because I care
about anybody else.
1804
01:15:07,837 --> 01:15:10,131
I have to do
what's best for Olajuwon.
1805
01:15:10,214 --> 01:15:12,550
♪ ♪
1806
01:15:16,262 --> 01:15:17,430
[upbeat music]
1807
01:15:17,513 --> 01:15:19,223
♪ ♪
1808
01:15:19,348 --> 01:15:21,976
- How are you feeling?
1809
01:15:22,059 --> 01:15:24,270
- Close to the same.
I feel like Decision Day
1810
01:15:24,353 --> 01:15:26,313
came way quicker
than I anticipated.
1811
01:15:26,397 --> 01:15:28,983
- Yeah.
1812
01:15:29,108 --> 01:15:31,152
- I feel like we got good.
1813
01:15:31,235 --> 01:15:33,446
We got in a good space,
and then before I knew it,
1814
01:15:33,529 --> 01:15:35,322
Decision Day
was here like that.
1815
01:15:35,406 --> 01:15:36,490
- I know.
1816
01:15:36,574 --> 01:15:38,284
Did you leave the fan on
in the bathroom?
1817
01:15:38,367 --> 01:15:41,162
♪ ♪
1818
01:15:41,245 --> 01:15:42,788
- It's not your problem
anymore.
1819
01:15:42,872 --> 01:15:44,623
[both laugh]
1820
01:15:44,707 --> 01:15:45,750
As soon as you leave,
1821
01:15:45,875 --> 01:15:47,668
this house
is gonna be in shambles.
1822
01:15:47,793 --> 01:15:49,128
♪ ♪
1823
01:15:49,211 --> 01:15:54,341
- What are you gonna do
with your time apart from me?
1824
01:15:54,467 --> 01:15:55,926
- Aside from tearing
the apartment up?
1825
01:15:56,010 --> 01:15:58,220
- Yeah.
1826
01:15:58,345 --> 01:16:00,765
- Um, I'ma try
to get some sleep
1827
01:16:00,848 --> 01:16:02,808
'cause I wanna be clear-headed
going into tomorrow.
1828
01:16:02,933 --> 01:16:06,020
But aside from that, probably
just do a lot of reflecting
1829
01:16:06,145 --> 01:16:08,439
just on the journey itself.
1830
01:16:08,522 --> 01:16:10,066
- Yeah.
- Try to take it all in.
1831
01:16:10,191 --> 01:16:11,942
- I'm pretty much gonna do
the same thing.
1832
01:16:12,026 --> 01:16:14,487
You know, feel like tomorrow
is just a big day
1833
01:16:14,612 --> 01:16:17,531
where the both of us, you know,
1834
01:16:17,656 --> 01:16:20,826
like, it just changes
the future, you know?
1835
01:16:20,951 --> 01:16:25,998
So just have to really think
about my decision.
1836
01:16:26,123 --> 01:16:31,337
♪ ♪
1837
01:16:31,462 --> 01:16:33,130
I don't know
if that spark can come.
1838
01:16:33,214 --> 01:16:35,466
Like, we're in a place now
where everything is all good.
1839
01:16:35,591 --> 01:16:36,634
So, like, anything can happen,
1840
01:16:36,759 --> 01:16:39,678
but I just--
I'm just trying to decide
1841
01:16:39,804 --> 01:16:42,848
and think about if it's--
do I just see him as a friend,
1842
01:16:43,015 --> 01:16:45,518
or is there a possibility
that it's more?
1843
01:16:45,684 --> 01:16:46,811
And I don't know.
1844
01:16:46,936 --> 01:16:48,521
I'll have to
really think about it.
1845
01:16:48,646 --> 01:16:52,483
I don't know.
Got some thinking to do.
1846
01:16:52,566 --> 01:16:54,443
♪ ♪
1847
01:16:54,527 --> 01:16:57,404
- You seem very calm
and mellow right now.
1848
01:16:57,530 --> 01:17:00,449
- I'm still nervous
and anxious.
1849
01:17:00,533 --> 01:17:01,951
- You holding it together,
though.
1850
01:17:02,076 --> 01:17:03,828
- It may be a different story
the next time I see you.
1851
01:17:03,953 --> 01:17:06,080
I don't know,
I might just be like,
1852
01:17:06,205 --> 01:17:07,873
let's get this over with, or--
- Damn.
1853
01:17:07,998 --> 01:17:09,458
- I still might be calm.
I don't know.
1854
01:17:09,542 --> 01:17:11,377
- Hmm.
1855
01:17:11,502 --> 01:17:13,671
I'm very nervous
going into Decision Day.
1856
01:17:13,796 --> 01:17:17,383
Very, because this is probably
the biggest decision
1857
01:17:17,508 --> 01:17:18,676
that I ever made in my life.
1858
01:17:18,801 --> 01:17:20,636
This is the day that we knew
would inevitably come.
1859
01:17:20,761 --> 01:17:22,263
It came really, really fast.
1860
01:17:22,346 --> 01:17:26,016
Not knowing how things gonna
unfold is anxiety-inducing.
1861
01:17:26,142 --> 01:17:27,184
What's gonna happen?
1862
01:17:27,351 --> 01:17:29,436
What is Jasmina's answer
gonna be?
1863
01:17:29,520 --> 01:17:30,563
Is it gonna be different
from mine?
1864
01:17:30,688 --> 01:17:31,897
Is gonna be the same?
1865
01:17:32,022 --> 01:17:33,357
There's a lot
of question marks.
1866
01:17:33,482 --> 01:17:36,026
So having this time away,
like, right before, like,
1867
01:17:36,152 --> 01:17:39,655
a really big decision
is really important for us.
1868
01:17:39,738 --> 01:17:42,324
- You know, when we first
got back from the honeymoon,
1869
01:17:42,449 --> 01:17:44,618
and I was going back
to my apartment,
1870
01:17:44,743 --> 01:17:47,121
you couldn't wait
for me to leave.
1871
01:17:47,204 --> 01:17:51,292
Like now you like,
"Jasmina, don't go, stay."
1872
01:17:51,375 --> 01:17:52,835
[both chuckle]
1873
01:17:52,960 --> 01:17:57,464
- It's a little different
because when you were leaving,
1874
01:17:57,590 --> 01:17:59,800
I knew you were coming back.
- Mm-hmm.
1875
01:17:59,925 --> 01:18:01,343
- And we were
gonna start fresh.
1876
01:18:01,468 --> 01:18:02,928
- Yeah.
1877
01:18:03,012 --> 01:18:05,472
- So like, it was kinda like
the beginning of our marriage.
1878
01:18:05,598 --> 01:18:07,933
- Yeah.
- But now,
1879
01:18:08,017 --> 01:18:12,479
going into Decision Day,
it's a lot of question marks.
1880
01:18:12,563 --> 01:18:14,481
So this is a way bigger deal
1881
01:18:14,607 --> 01:18:15,941
than when you left
the first time.
1882
01:18:16,066 --> 01:18:19,195
- ♪ Is this the start
or the end ♪
1883
01:18:19,320 --> 01:18:21,614
- This gonna be a new beginning
or the end.
1884
01:18:21,697 --> 01:18:28,787
♪ ♪
1885
01:18:34,835 --> 01:18:38,214
- I want you to think
but don't overthink.
1886
01:18:38,339 --> 01:18:39,632
- I got ya.
1887
01:18:39,715 --> 01:18:41,342
♪ ♪
1888
01:18:41,467 --> 01:18:46,472
- Oh, my God, oh, my God,
oh, my God, she's leaving me!
1889
01:18:46,555 --> 01:18:50,184
- ♪ Blood is thicker
than water ♪
1890
01:18:50,309 --> 01:18:52,978
- Make the right decision.
- I'ma make the right decision.
1891
01:18:53,062 --> 01:18:55,606
- Think about--think
about our family.
1892
01:18:55,689 --> 01:18:57,274
Think about Feeny.
1893
01:18:57,358 --> 01:18:59,526
- ♪ Just holding on
to what I believe ♪
1894
01:18:59,652 --> 01:19:01,403
- I love you.
1895
01:19:01,528 --> 01:19:03,697
- Mm, me too.
1896
01:19:03,822 --> 01:19:05,824
- ♪ I still see you
in my reflection ♪
1897
01:19:05,950 --> 01:19:06,909
♪ I hope you know
what it means ♪
1898
01:19:07,034 --> 01:19:08,827
- It's been real.
[both laugh]
1899
01:19:08,953 --> 01:19:10,704
- It's been real fun.
1900
01:19:10,829 --> 01:19:13,540
- It's been real something.
1901
01:19:13,707 --> 01:19:15,209
- Get home safe.
1902
01:19:20,089 --> 01:19:26,637
♪ ♪
1903
01:19:26,720 --> 01:19:28,639
- See you.
- Alrighty.
1904
01:19:28,764 --> 01:19:31,600
♪ ♪
1905
01:19:31,684 --> 01:19:33,978
- Bye, apartment.
1906
01:19:34,061 --> 01:19:37,314
Come on, Sushi.
We have to go now.
1907
01:19:37,439 --> 01:19:44,363
♪ ♪
1908
01:19:46,991 --> 01:19:51,620
- Tomorrow is Decision Day,
and Steve and I
1909
01:19:51,704 --> 01:19:55,582
are in separate places.
1910
01:19:55,708 --> 01:19:59,628
We spent so much time together,
so it feels kind of bizarre
1911
01:19:59,753 --> 01:20:03,590
to be here
when he's not around me.
1912
01:20:03,674 --> 01:20:07,970
- The only thing that's come up
recently is that she is unsure
1913
01:20:08,095 --> 01:20:12,266
about moving in together
after Decision Day.
1914
01:20:12,349 --> 01:20:14,810
You know, I don't know if this
is an overall bigger picture
1915
01:20:14,935 --> 01:20:16,812
of concern that she has.
1916
01:20:16,979 --> 01:20:19,690
All I can really do
is ask her directly
1917
01:20:19,815 --> 01:20:21,608
and find out for myself.
1918
01:20:21,692 --> 01:20:22,985
- Kinda feels unreal.
1919
01:20:23,110 --> 01:20:25,988
It's--it's weird
not having Katina beside me.
1920
01:20:26,155 --> 01:20:31,285
- I feel like I started
a new life two months ago,
1921
01:20:31,368 --> 01:20:35,497
and now I have to figure out
what my next chapter
1922
01:20:35,664 --> 01:20:37,750
in my life is gonna be.
1923
01:20:37,875 --> 01:20:39,126
- It's bittersweet, you know.
1924
01:20:39,209 --> 01:20:41,295
This whole process has been...
1925
01:20:41,420 --> 01:20:43,505
♪ ♪
1926
01:20:43,630 --> 01:20:45,174
A whirlwind.
1927
01:20:45,299 --> 01:20:48,594
Seems like we've been married
for eight years,
1928
01:20:48,677 --> 01:20:51,138
but it's just eight weeks.
1929
01:20:51,263 --> 01:20:55,017
- What's going through my head
is the ups, the downs,
1930
01:20:55,184 --> 01:20:58,395
and what's important
and what's what--what matters
1931
01:20:58,520 --> 01:21:03,275
and what are some key things
I-I wanted for in a wife
1932
01:21:03,400 --> 01:21:05,069
and if I got those things
in this marriage.
1933
01:21:05,194 --> 01:21:09,823
- Being single again
is starting all over.
1934
01:21:09,948 --> 01:21:12,993
I mean, I came into
this process very positive,
1935
01:21:13,160 --> 01:21:15,829
assuming that I would find
my life partner.
1936
01:21:15,954 --> 01:21:18,916
So for it to be at the end
1937
01:21:19,041 --> 01:21:21,251
and the possibility
of not getting that,
1938
01:21:21,377 --> 01:21:24,630
God knows how long
until I can meet somebody
1939
01:21:24,713 --> 01:21:26,173
and hopefully find
the person that,
1940
01:21:26,298 --> 01:21:27,841
you know,
I spend the rest of my with.
1941
01:21:27,966 --> 01:21:29,802
- I'm, like, scared.
1942
01:21:29,927 --> 01:21:35,224
I just don't know
how it's gonna go.
1943
01:21:35,349 --> 01:21:38,560
You know, I have an idea of
how I feel like it's gonna go,
1944
01:21:38,685 --> 01:21:40,521
but I feel like,
1945
01:21:40,646 --> 01:21:47,111
whenever that happens, it never
goes as you expected it.
1946
01:21:47,194 --> 01:21:52,658
- ♪ I'll always remember
we stayed up that night ♪
1947
01:21:52,825 --> 01:21:58,789
♪ Gazing the stars
and satellites ♪
1948
01:21:58,914 --> 01:22:01,834
- I-I did the best
I could in this marriage
1949
01:22:01,959 --> 01:22:04,169
with somebody
I met as a stranger.
1950
01:22:04,294 --> 01:22:05,671
♪ ♪
1951
01:22:05,796 --> 01:22:07,464
I gave it my best.
1952
01:22:07,548 --> 01:22:10,426
- You know, I'm gonna do
what my heart tells me.
1953
01:22:10,509 --> 01:22:12,761
For the first time, my heart
and mind are on the same page,
1954
01:22:12,845 --> 01:22:15,472
so that's always good.
1955
01:22:15,556 --> 01:22:16,890
- If it's meant, it'll happen.
1956
01:22:17,015 --> 01:22:20,727
If it's not,
it was a beautiful journey.
1957
01:22:20,853 --> 01:22:25,190
- I'm gonna try to get rest
and try to get
1958
01:22:25,315 --> 01:22:29,319
in a really good headspace
and really think long and hard
1959
01:22:29,403 --> 01:22:32,406
about what's
gonna happen tomorrow.
1960
01:22:32,531 --> 01:22:33,907
- Ma, wish me luck.
1961
01:22:34,032 --> 01:22:37,536
- ♪ Give me one more,
one more, one more day ♪
1962
01:22:37,661 --> 01:22:41,165
♪ One more day ♪
1963
01:22:41,248 --> 01:22:42,374
♪ ♪
1964
01:22:42,499 --> 01:22:45,294
- Next time on
"Married At First Sight"...
1965
01:22:45,377 --> 01:22:48,130
- This is Decision Day Dish
Boston.
1966
01:22:48,255 --> 01:22:49,631
- I think they're both
gonna say yes.
1967
01:22:49,715 --> 01:22:51,091
- The big day is almost here.
1968
01:22:51,175 --> 01:22:52,468
We'll get the inside scoop
1969
01:22:52,551 --> 01:22:54,970
from some "Married
At First Sight" favorites.
1970
01:22:55,095 --> 01:22:56,805
- Give this man a shot
to prove that he can.
1971
01:22:56,889 --> 01:22:58,140
- That's scary.
1972
01:22:58,223 --> 01:22:59,600
- Things started to change.
1973
01:22:59,683 --> 01:23:02,603
- I feel like it's much more
than meets the eye.
1974
01:23:02,686 --> 01:23:06,231
- And in two weeks,
our couples will have to make
1975
01:23:06,356 --> 01:23:09,818
the biggest decision
of their lives.
1976
01:23:09,943 --> 01:23:12,988
To stay married
or get a divorce.
1977
01:23:13,113 --> 01:23:15,991
- If I'm not feeling it,
I'm not feeling it.
1978
01:23:16,074 --> 01:23:18,911
- I asked for a woman
who's more established,
1979
01:23:19,036 --> 01:23:21,413
and those are the reasons
why I would say no today.
1980
01:23:21,538 --> 01:23:23,332
- I'm telling you
how it makes me feel,
1981
01:23:23,457 --> 01:23:26,627
and it's up for you
to determine the next steps.
1982
01:23:26,710 --> 01:23:29,796
- Do you want to stay married
or get a divorce?
1983
01:23:29,922 --> 01:23:37,054
♪ ♪