- Hi, don't shake my hand. Give me a hug.
- Ten singles took a giant leap of faith to find love.
They married as complete strangers.
[dramatic music]
- I'm married! It feels great!
- Last time, our couples moved into their new homes together.
- Be a little while.
- ♪ this girl is magical ♪
- The marriage has been exactly what I--probably even better...
- Wow. - Than what I wanted it to be.
- Yeah.
- In very recent days,
We have "consummated" the marriage.
[laughs]
- I'm trying to win you back. - My wall went up, you know.
- Yeah, no, we're fine.
- Who's in control of that wall?
- I'm in control of the wall.
- Mya.
His eye, baby. It's bleeding.
Newton's my baby, and I know mya's his baby,
So it's a tough situation.
He never told me that mya had been
In several fights with other dogs.
For me, it's like, truth is everything.
- You don't talk about your mom.
But sometimes I feel like you don't want
To even say that there is pain there.
- I don't have any emotional connection
Towards my biological mom at all.
- I'm frustrated that he's not opening up.
It makes me question
If he knows how to even be vulnerable.
- I don't want to know when you're pulling away from me
'cause then it feels like a punishment.
Like, I need you to, like, keep that to yourself.
- Mm, I don't know if I can do that.
♪ ♪
- And tonight...
- He likes talking to me on the toilet.
He's like, "can I give you a kiss?"
- Uh-uh, not on the toilet.
- Our couples start facing
The reality of domestic life together...
- I was, like, so elated that my wife didn't snore,
And then I get a dog that snores.
- [laughing]
- And will finally get to see their friends and family
For the first time since the wedding.
- Are you gonna just hold this over him till he dies?
- When you hurt me, when you burn me, I'm done.
- She's like, "yeah, like, how about kids within a year?"
Kid is, like, a big variable.
You know, that's a whole lifestyle change.
- 'cause you doing the absolute most.
- Okay, you just want to be heard,
And you don't want to understand what I'm saying.
- You can do whatever you gotta do
'cause I'm not in it.
- Does mitch know about your whole history?
- You can't even extend a hand to help me see
A [bleep] physician,
So how the [bleep]
Do you expect me to take your last name?
♪ ♪
- ♪ it's all or nothing ♪
- This is "married at first sight."
- ♪ there's no other way ♪
♪ it's all or nothing ♪
[upbeat music]
- [vocalizing]
♪ I won't ask what you said ♪
- What? - [laughs]
- Welcome to married life, fellas.
I gotta say, believe the hype.
It is everything you thought it'd be and so much more.
- Our couples have been married for just under two weeks.
- We just finished our first workout in the gym together.
- We got a lot of work to do. We're out of shape.
- Yeah.
- And now, as they settle into daily life
Together as husband and wife,
There's a whole lot of new surprises
And often uncomfortable challenges to face.
- Hubby gave me this
To put trail mix in.
How does he eat out of this?
- Making the transition from single to married life
May be easy for some,
But an uphill battle for others.
- In case there was a question, he wrote "reusable."
- Don't throw it away, man. I just need people to know.
- Y'all, send prayers for me. - Mark your territory.
- Send so many prayers.
- But it requires hard work and dedicated from everyone
Because in just over six weeks, our couples will have to decide
Whether they want to stay married or get a divorce.
- ♪ living in my bubble, I got no job and no trouble ♪
♪ I ain't got no worries ♪
♪ la-la-la-la-la, la-la-la-la-la ♪
- [laughs]
♪ ♪
- It's good to see you. It's been a minute.
- I know. It has been a minute.
- Any crazy surprises or, like,
Things that just jumped out at you,
You're like, "what am I doing here?"
- No, actually. I mean, it's a wild ride.
Sometimes, I'm like, what--is this real life?
Like, what is going on here? So much easier--
- She super into it? - She's super into it.
She's super into me, which is nice.
And I'm super into her. And she's super into us.
- Mm-hmm. - And likewise.
So I think it's--that part
Is the best part of this whole thing.
- That's awesome. - She's a great wife.
Like, being a wife,
Like, right off the bat, I think.
- How's being a husband suit you?
- I think it suits me really well.
Let's ask her 'cause I'd love her opinion.
I have asked her, and she's saying
That I'm doing a great job.
And I--but I kind of knew this about me.
Like, I know how to relationship well.
When my heart's in it, and I'm invested, like,
I know I can be a great, in this case, husband.
And because she is my wife,
There's that security, you know.
Even though something may come across
In a way that bothers me or something,
I don't let it, like, truly bother me or get to me
Because I know that, at the end of the day, she wants this.
She has our best interests at heart.
You'll see, yeah, like, when we start interacting.
- We only got to hang out a little bit at the reception.
Right? - Right.
- So in our group of friends, like, does she--
Is she--you think she's gonna fit in really well?
She's a little bit on the younger side.
- I think so.
I mean, she's--she and I are getting along famously.
I don't know what that says about me.
- Yeah, but you get to make out with her.
None of us are doing that.
- [bleep] damn right.
So--but no, you'll see.
Like, lindy, she definitely has depth and character.
It's not just, like, all shiny, happy, pink.
You know, that's kind of what she exudes--
- Sure. - Which is nice.
But the moment you actually,
Like, kind of take a deep dive
And see who she truly is inside,
You'll immediately sense that depth.
- Did she meet your checklist
Of stuff that you were looking for?
- She did, and then some.
She's the three things that I wanted,
Right--the, like, kind and agreeable.
- Yeah. - You have to be that.
And then she's open-minded.
She's a great conversationalist.
And she's adventurous.
But then she's also cute, right?
And she has beautiful eyes and a beautiful laugh,
And, like, she's fun to be around.
She's funny. She's quirky.
She's attentive. You know, she cleans.
She cooks. Those were my three things.
- That's like eight things, dude.
- I know.
- Are you getting, like,
Actual feelings for her beyond just liking her?
- I think so. I think--yeah.
- You got, like, puppy dog eyes when you talk about her.
- It's hard not to, yeah.
She's--no, she's definitely a--
She's like an oasis in a desert type thing.
Like, life be in the desert,
And then you have people like lindy that are just like, okay.
I can do this.
- Oasis in a desert.
- Watch us get a divorce on decision day, [bleep].
- Don't you put that curse on you.
- "miguel, where's this oasis now?
You thirsty? You thirsty?"
♪ ♪
- ♪ would you light a fire? ♪
♪ would you lose it all? ♪
♪ would you light a fire? ♪
♪ ♪
- Hi! Oh, my god.
- How are you, stranger?
- It's so good to see you! Joan!
- How's my newlywed? - Oh, my god, right?
Isn't that crazy?
Feels like just a couple weeks ago,
Crazy krysten was just...
- Nuts. - Single, out on the town.
- How is it going from living alone,
Selfish life to being thrown into this?
- There are some differences in our domesticity
And how we live.
We have a difference of, like, clutter.
Oh, god, he has this tower.
It's like a water filtration system,
But it sits in the island, and it's tall,
And I can't even see him when he's talking to me
Because the water tower is in between us.
And he's just constantly coming into our apartment with stuff
Because he doesn't want to throw it away.
He brought home, the other day, like, an antique,
Like, bookshelf looked like
It had come out of a sewer from, like, vietnam.
- He's not a hoarder, right?
- I'm thinking maybe.
I was like, "if you bring one more iota into my home,
We are gonna have words."
- Does he leave dirty dishes?
- Oh, you just wait till you see his stovetop in his house.
I nearly had a heart attack. I need a clean living space.
It's not a dealbreaker, but I do not like stuff.
And then we have our housewarming party coming up,
And this might be our only legitimate fight.
Innocent me, I said, let's do a french theme...
- Ooh, I like that. - With wine and cheese...
- Your favorite. - And charcuterie.
He looked at me and said, "let's not do any of that."
And then he rattled off a list of things
I had never heard in my whole life.
Something about, like, a communism regime,
Zombie apocalypse, alien invasion.
Then he said, "let's all dress up
With how we think the world is gonna end."
- Oh, god.
- Finally, we landed on retro-futurism.
We're putting our minds into, like, the '50s, '60s,
As to how you would view the future
In the '50s and '60s.
So he's gonna be, like, a captain from a spaceship.
And then I'm gonna be, like, his, like,
Wife--mistress/wife, like, sexy--
- Attendant? - Yeah.
- Flight attendant? - Yeah, like, sexy attendant.
- Can you imagine when you plan
Your child's, like, second birthday party?
- Oh, my god.
- All right, so question:
Does mitch know about your whole history
And everything with your last engagement and everything?
- Mitch does not know anything about that.
- Oh, sh--
- Nothing. - Why don't you tell him?
- I'll be honest with you, I have told guys in the past.
Every time I have told that story, though,
It has not ended well for me.
No one has been kind on the receiving end.
And they've looked at it like something's wrong with me.
- If he runs from it, let him run.
You did not fail your last relationship.
- Yeah, right. - He did.
But I think you need to be 100% honest
Because this is--you're setting up your foundation
For your marriage and your future.
And I think this is very important.
[soft music]
♪ ♪
- ♪ no time to lose, not here to lose ♪
♪ I'm gonna go farther, I'm gonna go through ♪
♪ ♪
- Hey, amber. How's everything going?
How you been? It's been a while.
- Of course, we've had, you know, stranger things
Because it's just like, every once in a while,
I realize, like, "oh wait, I forgot
I don't really-- I'm still getting to know you."
You get what I'm saying?
But you know your nephew got attacked, right?
- What?
- I had turned my head,
And all I hear is newton crying, and I see justin,
Like, literally pulling his dog off of newton.
He knew that his dog was in the wrong,
So he immediately looked into camps
For her to go training,
So he sent her away to this training camp for two weeks.
And we're just--we made
An agreement that we're gonna see.
If she's aggressive still, then we have a plan for her
To go live with his best friend.
But I don't know.
It was a big situation. It really was.
- Hopefully, you know, it's just something new,
And she was overwhelmed and, you know, reacted,
And it won't happen again.
- I know.
- So how was your honeymoon?
- Justin told me he loved me on our honeymoon.
- What? What'd you say?
Nothing, girl, I tried to run. You know me.
I was like, "help!"
But then I told justin I loved him too.
I know, right? Eek.
- In my head, all I'm saying is, like, two weeks?
- I don't know.
He's just so sweet, and he's so lovable.
- Okay, but those are some big words.
Those are some big words.
Unless you open up that--
I feel like it's a pandora box.
Like, once you open it up, it's gonna be hard to close,
And it's gonna be easier to get hurt.
- You ain't wrong.
- Remember to just protect your heart.
- I do have some reservations, so I don't feel
That I'm in love with him just yet.
Like, my biggest reservation is that he thinks being vague
And keeping some parts away from me isn't lying.
Like, he never told me prior to this that mya had been
In several fights with other dogs.
Like, if I would have knew that information on the front end,
It may have changed my actions.
- Ooh, just like, okay,
Now I'm gonna second-guess everything that you say.
And you don't want ever want to be in that predicament
With somebody, especially with somebody you love.
- But I gotta get out of my head 'cause you know me,
I'll talk myself out of a perfect situation a lot.
And I do have that fear of commitment.
So for me, it's just like, I'm battling.
Is this a logical thought to have,
Or is it me being typical lex
And not really ready to commit fully?
So that's why I got the perspective of, like,
I gotta kind of give him a break.
You know, like...
Doesn't mean that he's untruthful.
So I really just need to let that preside in my mind
When I'm having these internal conflicts.
- Both of you have to do your parts.
You have to work on, you know, giving him a break,
But he has to also work on trying to be less vague.
One thing I would say is, continue how you go into it,
Like, openheartedly, you know,
Just giving him the benefit of the doubt.
But also, be smart about it.
Like, you know, keep your eyes open to certain things.
Try to love him unconditionally,
But just, you know, take note of certain things, you know?
'cause you don't want to settle, but, you know,
You also want to make sure this is the right one for you.
- ♪ fell in love with all the lies ♪
♪ painted pictures in my mind ♪
♪ ♪
[upbeat music]
♪ ♪
'cause it's like...
- Yeah, I don't know how you could--
- I don't know how I could hoop with it.
- Yeah, you gonna take it off when you hoop?
- I think so. - [laughs]
- Hi.
- What's up, bro?
- You missed my wedding.
- I did. I'm sorry.
- Carl's like my chosen older brother.
I've known that man for several years,
So it's good to have a male's perspective on the situation.
- So what's the details with your husband?
- It's just--it's been hard.
You know, honeymoon wasn't great.
- How's everything? You getting to know your wife?
- Yeah, she's beautiful. She's a great person.
But I asked her some questions, personal questions,
And I got answers that I did really, like, like,
And I kind of overreacted.
And I told somebody, and long story short,
It felt like--she felt like she got backstabbed.
- All of the red flags that he's had for me--
Financial stuff, family stuff--
It's all very surface-level things.
And, like-- - yeah.
- Yeah, and it's--you know, there's never been a red flag
About my personality, or who I am, or my character.
And, you know, honestly, I don't think he's seeing me
For, like, the person that I am.
- I'm trying to move on, but after she felt backstabbed,
She told me she doesn't trust me.
And then when we talked to pastor cal,
She was telling him that I wasn't touching her enough,
Or I wasn't giving her her pda.
And at that point, I was like, bro, I'm so confused.
Like, you told me one thing one day,
And then the next, you do another.
Like, to me, I'm just trying to make you happy.
Like, what do I do?
- I mean, I am playing a part in this too
Because I've been very closed off,
And I've had my walls up, and I don't trust him.
So I mean, it's hard to really, like,
Open up to him right now
Because I still feel like I don't really trust him.
And it's hard.
- The reality is, you do deserve happiness.
- Yeah.
- Whatever that looks like to you.
- Yeah. - Everybody does.
- And I came into this wanting, like, to be in love
And wanting someone who was gonna actually see me.
And this entire time, binh has only seen me
For just this little sliver that I am.
And let's be honest, I'm not happy right now.
I'm not.
- It sounds like you have way more drama
Than you probably predicted, but it takes time.
I mean, I've had long-term relationships.
You know... - Yeah.
- I think, like, even living
With a girl for over a year or two years,
I think it takes way longer than that even...
- Yeah. - To truly know somebody.
And, you know, know
If, you know, that's your person.
So maybe everything just moved too fast.
It just take more time for you guys...
- Yeah.
- You know, for your chemistry to build.
You know, I don't doubt that you're committed
And you're in it.
- Okay, listen, my thoughts.
- Yes.
- Put your walls down. Talk to him.
Oh yeah. Go ahead, get mad.
- Carl, I--
- Get mad. That's fine.
- I don't know.
- But at the end of it,
That's the best thing you can do...
- Yeah. - Is flat out talk to him.
Regardless of what has happened,
What has transpired--
Do you remember that conversation
We had a while ago about growth?
- Yeah.
- It is growth.
- Yeah.
- And growth is painful, okay?
He did this for a reason too. Definitely open up, though.
I'm not gonna sugarcoat that 'cause I know you,
And I know where you're at right now,
And I know where your head's at.
You're gonna have to let that [bleep] go.
- You tell me like it is, and I need that
Because I want to have that person for the rest of my life.
But it's just--it's been hard.
[soft music]
- ♪ I just want to feel good ♪
♪ is that too much to ask for? ♪
♪ maybe even laugh more ♪
♪ I'm just trying to really feel good ♪
- This looks good.
- I haven't seen you since the wedding.
- Yeah, and even at the wedding,
I didn't get to see you much.
- It was a blast. Did you have a good time?
- It was good, yeah.
I mean, I remember you just being super pumped
When you saw her, like, walk out.
- Yeah, no, I was, like,
Super happy when she was, like, walking down the aisle.
And the more we get to know each other, it's just like,
Damn, like, this is kind of unreal.
You know what I'm saying? There's chemistry.
You know, we're, like, giggly around each other,
And we kiss on each other.
So, it's--like, it's a real relationship.
- And have you been, like,
Opening up to her a little bit more?
'cause I know sometimes you have, like,
A hard shell, where it takes a while.
- I don't think-- - you try to be vulnerable.
- I don't think I have a hard shell, but...
- I mean, you've been open with me,
But this is, like, in a different...
- Right. - Capacity.
- Stacia, she's been going to therapy.
She goes to therapy, so-- - I think that's amazing.
- She's--yeah, she's very comfortable, right?
She knows how to process her feelings.
She knows her insecurities very well.
- Yeah. - Like, her fears, all that.
And so she can just, like, talk about anything, right?
I feel like I'm processing my feelings really well.
Like, I feel like I'm very articulate
At sharing my--you know,
My emotions and being vulnerable,
But she doesn't agree with that.
She was like, "I want you to go deeper."
And I'm like, I'm doing my best.
Like, I've literally shared my whole life story.
Like, slept in my car.
Like, you know, I grew up lower middle class.
And I was like, I don't know how deeper I could get.
Like, I don't know how.
So, I mean, maybe I need to go to therapy.
So I'm actually gonna sign up for therapy.
- What, really? - Yeah.
Like, you know, that's actions speaking, right?
- Yeah.
- It's like, maybe I don't know how to do it now,
But I'm gonna go to therapy, so I can actually learn how...
- You're taking that step and showing her.
- To dig deeper, you know what I'm saying?
- Have you told her that? - I told her that.
And she was very happy about my decision, so...
- So you think that's-- - happy wife, happy life.
- No, no.
That's not--I don't want you to just be, like, a yes...
- No, no, no, no, no, no. - Husband.
- This is a big change in my life,
So maybe I need to, like, discover myself more,
So that way, our relationship can be better.
But one of my fears is, like, I don't want to, like,
Get vulnerable and then, like, after decision day,
It's just like, she switches up.
- Yeah.
- 'cause this is kind of, like, a mind game to me right now.
- But that's the risk.
You might get hurt, or you may be happy forever.
You have to go all-in.
- ♪ close to the edge ♪
♪ I'm hearing your voice calling out for me ♪
- Can we, like, do some taste testing
For mimosas for the party?
I want to make them look as futuristic as possible.
- Yes.
♪ ♪
- Oh, oh!
♪ ♪
- I just want to lick the rim.
- Isn't the rim really good?
- Rim job. - You gotta trust me on that.
- Tonight is never gonna end.
- If we can shift gears...
- Let's shift--yeah, let's go. - Pun intended.
- 'cause I like to ride my bike?
- [mimicking bicycle gears clicking]
I have a relationship history
That I have not shared with you.
And in the past,
It has not been very well received.
[tense music]
So you know how I mentioned to you
That I have an ex-boyfriend,
And he and I dated for like six years?
- Yeah.
- He was actually my fiancé.
♪ ♪
- Hmm.
- So anyway, we were engaged for about a year,
And he started to act a little differently
About six months prior to our wedding.
He assured me he just had cold feet
And that he was just a little confused,
But he wanted to get married.
About two weeks before our wedding,
This girl told me that her and my fiancé
Had been having an affair for the last six months.
♪ ♪
- Whoa.
- And I went to him, and I said, you know,
"you and I are completely over."
- Wow.
- And it was pretty traumatic, to be honest with you.
I nearly spent my entire life savings
On this destination wedding.
So the next morning, me and my mom typed up an email
To all of our wedding guests and we said, you know,
We would still like to go to the wedding,
But there would not be a groom there.
But it would just be--
- Well, that's kind of weird. - Why is that weird?
- I don't know.
Sorry.
- Yeah, no, I don't think it's weird.
I think it's great.
Everyone from my rsvp list still came.
So that's my story.
♪ ♪
- Well, may I respond?
- Please, god.
Are we high fiving?
- No, we're just gonna hold hands under the table.
So I'm sorry that happened to you...
- Thank you. - First and foremost.
That doesn't phase me
Because you didn't do anything wrong.
- Thank you.
- It doesn't change anything for me.
It doesn't change how I feel,
Doesn't change my respect for you.
And I hope that you know
By now about me of how I deal
With when I'm not sure about something.
It's not like how he dealt with it.
- Right.
- And I deal with it by bringing it to the table...
- Yeah. - As an honest partner...
- Right. - In this marriage.
- Yeah.
- So I will never do what he did to you.
- Thank you.
That is my biggest secret, and I shared it,
And he was just so sweet and understanding.
And now, after sharing it,
I know that he can kind of take the worst of it.
I fully, fully trust him.
I'm feeling so good about my future with mitch.
- ♪ so now I'm looking for something new ♪
♪
[soft music]
- This morning,
Newton started to throw up blood.
Why didn't you tell me that, justin?
I'm struggling right now with my emotions towards justin,
And he continues to add to this one side of my head
That keeps saying "he's hiding stuff.
"he's disingenuous.
"he is manipulative in the way
Of he's telling-- he's being vague."
And that's manipulation to me. That's manipulation.
- ♪ it's my life, gonna do what I want to do ♪
♪ what I want to do ♪
- What did you envision us getting at the party store?
- A giant intergalactic strobe light.
I want the lighting to be real futuristic.
And you know, we're not going to the party store.
- Okay.
- We're going to raphael's party rental,
Which is different because the party store,
All you have there is trash, and junk, and crap.
[light music]
And then at rafael's, you have cool stuff that you rent,
And you use it, and then you bring it back.
- I think that our party guests are gonna know
Where you stand on trash,
And they are gonna know
That everything going into this party is reusable.
- I hope they stand with us.
[upbeat music]
- So I want to hang these from the ceiling,
So when everybody, like, walks in,
They're gonna be, like, hanging from--
- Dangling? - Yeah.
- Okay. - As decoration.
- I love that. That's dope.
- Thank you. - That's groovy.
- We want to throw a party that's--
- The theme-- - the theme is--
- Contestants on a game show. - Yes.
- What's up, brother? How you doing today?
- How you doing? - Good, man.
I got a tacos and tequila party.
- Okay.
- I'm looking for some great value tequila.
- All right, man, I got you. - Is there anything fruity?
- Fruity? - For my friends, not for me.
- Okay. [laughs]
- We don't know what our friends are dressing up as.
But, miguel, do you want to do, like--
[laughs]
Do you want to do like, a theme, or individual,
Or is it just like, we're gonna see it and we'll know?
- Yeah, I think if something calls out to you.
'cause I don't know, yeah, quite--oh, but hold up.
I mean...
- That's pretty cool. Wait, is that a cane?
- Pimp--it's a pimp cane. - Pimp cane?
[both laugh]
Okay. Ooh, look at this leather.
Ooh!
♪ ♪
- Not for the party,
But you could wear that some other time.
- ♪ I think it's time we both say what we gotta say ♪
♪ and pray the two of us will slay on another day ♪
- Hi. - Hi, welcome to my candy shop.
- We're having a housewarming today.
'90s theme. - Oh, okay.
- I signed up for this process,
And I knew it wouldn't be easy,
And now that I'm in it, I'm trying to follow through,
But it's very hard, so I just gotta do baby steps.
Like, still go and get the supplies for the party.
Still act like the party's happening,
Even if I know it may not happen.
- I have individual stuff, and I also have stuff in bins.
- If we do, I am really interested
In seeing, like, justin's friends,
Maybe have some insight on where we would go wrong.
How did I go wrong in addressing justin?
But I'm not gonna be fake.
I'm gonna sit down and be like,
"look, we're having this party.
"we're having my-- our friends over,
But we're not good."
Michelle, you said '90s were ring pop, right?
- Oh yes, ring pops, blow pops, whistle pops.
- All the pops. - Uh-huh.
[soft music]
- Couple of these.
I guess-- - let's see.
- Hey. - Hi, nice of you to join us.
- Thank you, how are you? - I've been better.
So how you feeling?
- I mean, I'm fine. I'm not upset at you, you know.
- Since when?
'cause this morning, you were cursing and yelling.
- Yeah, I mean, you keep telling me every time
When we bicker that you're done.
I'm just like, well, like, I want to fight
For our marriage, but when you say,
"hey, I'm done," I don't know what that means.
- You said that this morning as well,
And you repeating it now makes me clear
That you don't listen to me.
I'm done with this conversation
'cause I feel like you don't hear me.
That's what "I'm done" means.
My biggest thing was, hey, you're vague with me.
I want you to overshare.
And you looked me dead in my eyes and said,
"yeah, I'm gonna tell you so much, babe,
You're gonna be tired of hearing me."
You know, like, we agreed to that.
- And I meant that.
But it's--you gotta also look at it from perspective,
You know what I'm saying?
Literally, in my thought process,
I thought I was helping the situation.
I thought I was being helpful.
- He was vomiting up blood. He hadn't eaten in two days.
You still didn't share that to me.
- I thought I knew what I was doing.
- I get that's what you're saying,
But why does you holding back information
Translate to being helpful
When I asked you not to do that?
- I didn't withdraw information.
The reason I didn't overcommunicate,
Because I didn't feel like it was necessary,
'cause I was handling it.
But also--
- You just said, "the reason I didn't overcommunicate,"
When I asked you to overcommunicate.
That's the bottom line what I'm trying to say.
I asked you to do something, and you agreed to do it,
And then you didn't.
So for me to be just fed up over somebody who,
At one point, it was rainbows and sunshine,
It's draining.
- If that's the case,
Then I just won't say anything at all.
- That's how marriages work.
We just don't communicate, and we're just in the house.
- Because you like when we have moments like this.
- For what? - I don't know, I don't know.
But you get aroused out of that [bleep].
And that's cool. You know, it is what it is.
- All right, 'cause you doing the absolute most.
- Okay. - Like--
- You just want to be heard,
And you don't want to understand what I'm saying.
- Justin, you can do whatever you gotta go
'cause I'm not in it.
- Ain't no point of us having this conversation
If you don't want to listen.
You listening to reply. - Okay.
- You not listening to understand.
Just like you're doing now. - Justin.
You're like, "oh, you like drama."
What? I'm not a person that argues.
And I feel really disrespected that you sat there
And said I getting aroused-- I get--I enjoy this.
- It seems like it, babe.
I'm just telling you how I'm feeling.
- And I'm telling you that I feel that
That is very disrespectful thing to say
Based on my character, so with all respect,
I don't want to seem like I'm shutting down,
I don't want to seem like I'm running,
But in this moment,
I cannot communicate with you with this hostility.
I can't.
I don't know where to go from here.
I don't know what to do. I'm not in a good space.
Can you un-mic me?
[dramatic music]
♪ ♪
- ♪ don't forget to love, yeah ♪
♪ don't forget to love ♪
- Can I get some gems for my face?
Or no? It's up to you.
- No, I like...
- Non-- - a manly-looking man.
- Our newlyweds are about
To bring their friends and family together
And host their very first party as a married couple.
- We're all ready... - We're out and about.
- For our '70s party, and of course,
I forgot to tell husband to get crackers for the brie,
So we headed to the grocery store.
- In our afros.
- Merging their two lives into one is a major first step,
One that can often be hard to navigate
And is incredibly important
For the success and longevity of the marriage.
- I don't know why I feel nervous.
Like, I'm, like, so curious how our friends are gonna interact.
- Although these parties are meant to be celebratory,
They're also a test
And a way to get feedback on their spouse,
So there's a lot at stake.
[knock at door]
- Uh-oh, here comes trouble.
- Who's it gonna be?
Who's it gonna be?
- Hey! - It's time to get funky.
- Hey! - [laughs]
- Hello! - What's up, y'all?
- Hi! - Look at you!
- You made it! - Look at you!
[cheering]
- Hey, hey.
- Cheers to new beginnings. - Yes.
- This is too cute.
- So all of these pictures were from, like,
The honeymoon and stuff.
- Let me see. - You got--yeah, take them out.
- Yeah. - That is so dope.
- These are memories right here.
- Y'all look good together, though.
- We looking kind of groovy, huh?
- Yeah. - We looking a little funky?
- It's real funky out here, man.
- You dig?
- Y'all look like y'all been together
For years in this picture.
- Y'all really do. - Right?
- That's what I'm saying. In all the pictures...
- In all of them.
- They just look, like, real comfortable, like--
- Yeah, like, how long y'all been married?
- Day one, we were just-- - two weeks.
- It just clicked. - That's it?
- Two weeks. - We been married two weeks.
- Wow. - This was on a boat.
- I look drunk.
- That's your caption, "I look drunk."
[laughter] - that was great.
- ♪ yeah, we like it ♪ - ♪ yeah, we like it ♪
- ♪ when we lose ♪ - ♪ when we lose ♪
- ♪ our minds ♪
♪ yeah, our world got tip-turned upside down ♪
♪ so let's go crazy every night ♪
♪ just lose our minds ♪
♪ ♪
- How's the married life with my sister going?
- I mean, it's great, guys. Like, we get along.
We're giggly. Like, we're cuddly.
And, like, it's just natural, you know what I mean?
- Yeah. - So, like, it's amazing.
- Yeah. - We have a lot in common.
We do have those hard conversations, though.
She's like, "yeah, like, how about kids within a year?
You know, like, I'm 37, yada yada."
You know where I'm going. Kid is, like, a big variable.
You know, that's a whole lifestyle change.
- Yeah.
- My concern is, like,
I've never seen her with kids, number one.
- Okay.
- And you know, she's also-- she's kind of a workaholic.
- Yeah.
- So, it's just, like,
How do I know how she's gonna be around kids?
She don't even like dogs.
[laughter] - no, yeah.
- You know, she don't want to get her carpets dirty.
- Right. - I'm like, terrible twos.
- Right.
- They're gonna be [bleep], spilling stuff,
Writing on the walls.
- Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
- Heard y'all talking about children already?
What's going on?
- Well, me being 37 years old, I mean, I can't wait forever.
- Okay.
- So I'm like, at least in another year,
Can we kind of evaluate where we are in our marriage
And then have that conversation?
So he was kind of a little, "eh..."
- Yeah, it's, like, a shock-like, a shock to him.
- "that's a little soon."
- It's a shocker, right? - "it's a little soon."
You know, I think he was more on,
Like, the three to five-year.
And I'm like, three to five years for me,
I'm like 40 to 42 years old.
- I don't know, just from the outside speaking in,
But--because he didn't have a, you know,
Mother growing up, in the picture.
So maybe he wants to know, like,
"I can provide for my family without your income as well,"
You know what I'm saying? It's like--
- Mm-hmm, and I agree with him,
And I want him to be in that place as well,
But, like, I'm really, really in this.
And I don't want my kids to struggle either.
I come from that type of, like, childhood as well.
So I want the very best. This is a forever thing.
- I think you need to keep reinforcing that then
Because he obviously is dealing with
Maybe a little bit of an abandonment complex, right,
With just not having a female
And just her leaving at an early age.
So I think if you can keep reinforcing
That you're not gonna leave and you're in it for the long haul,
I think you'll start to see him come around a little bit.
- Yeah.
- She knows how to articulate her emotions.
- Yeah.
- And, you know, she goes to therapy.
I ain't never been to therapy before,
But I'm giving my 100% all.
And she's like, "I feel like you can do more.
I feel like you can do more."
And so I don't know.
Maybe it's like, I'm a guy, and, like,
I'm giving my 100%, but, like, I'm a c+ student.
- Mm-hmm. - Yeah.
- You know, and she's, like, an a+ student.
- Yeah.
- She might know something that I don't know.
- I feel like, as long as you're expressing yourself,
And if you see her kind of, like, get taken back, like,
"well, you're not reaching deep enough,"
Maybe just try and explain to her.
Like, "listen, the difference between you and I right now
"is, first, you've been doing therapy, you know,
"so you know how to tap into that.
I haven't. However, I plan on doing so."
See? - Okay.
- So you're kind of letting her know, like,
"okay, I want to get on your level."
- Putting in effort, right.
- I just feel like there's this wall,
Or just he has no feelings.
And that, I can't comprehend.
When I ask him, "how do you feel about this,"
He's like, "I don't feel any way."
And it's like, I don't understand that.
So I don't really know, like, what to do.
- You've met his father too.
His father was raised very military
And very, very guarded, so he's just used to that.
- Yeah.
- But he may just need, like, a little bit of help with this.
- He hasn't had a ton
Of long-term relationships with women,
Especially, like, not having a mom around as well.
So I think he definitely does keep things guarded,
But the promising thing about nate is he's very open-minded.
So, like, when you approached him about therapy,
I'm sure it was like, "okay, let's do it," right?
- Yeah.
- It wasn't a lot of thought behind it.
He's like, "let's try it out."
So I've known him for half my life,
And it's--you have to be patient with him,
But I think, if you wait it out,
You're gonna like the results.
[upbeat music]
- ♪ ain't no shame in a little romance ♪
♪ ain't no way I'm ever going back ♪
- ♪ ain't no shame in a little romance ♪
♪ ain't no way I'm ever going back ♪
♪ something on the brain, but I can't say that ♪
♪ ♪
[cheering]
- Pickle! - Party time.
Cucumbers, everybody's favorite.
- Happy housewarming! Good luck hugging me.
- I missed you so much! I love it.
- So good to see you again. - Good to see you!
Our housewarming party theme is contestants on a game show.
Should we play some games, you guys?
- Yes. - Bring it.
- Miguel loves games,
Lots of dungeons and dragons, and dressing up,
And I think this will be something
That we both can connect on.
I'm excited to share this with him.
But, like, I just didn't envision miguel being a pimp.
I don't know. I can't explain this man.
- We're gonna play the newlyweds game.
[exciting music]
- We're gonna guess for our partner?
- Yeah, for your partner. - Okay, I'm ready.
- First question is, what is their star sign?
- I am a gemini.
- She's a gemini. - Oh, yeah, he did.
- Ding ding ding ding ding. - Do do do do doo!
What is their weirdest quirk?
- When steve farts, it sounds like snapping.
[laughter] - oh, my god.
- And then--
- Third question:
What is the thing they're most likely to go viral for?
- I think I would go viral for, like, travel videos.
- I said a hangry rage.
- Oh, we talked about that! - We did talk about it.
We had a whole conversation about this.
We were like, that's what you would go viral for.
- [laughs]
- What is their favorite movie?
- "the lion king." - yes.
- My favorite movie is "big." - "big."
- No way! - What?
- Bravo. - Whoo!
- Good job, you guys.
[cheering]
- They actually know each other pretty well for just two weeks.
Even me, I was thinking about, I'm like, oh, my gosh,
Do I know all the answers to these questions
With my own fiancée?
I don't know.
- Do you guys need a refill? Are you good?
- I will take a refill, yeah, sure.
- It is so early.
I mean, I know it's only been two weeks.
So, you know, I hope it continues on that same path,
But there always is a concern that maybe there's something
That could come up later in the future
'cause they've only known each other two weeks.
- Yeah. - How's everything going?
- Everything is pretty great.
As you know, lindy is a sweetheart.
- Yeah. - She's, like--I mean, yeah.
The word that comes to mind
Immediately on the spot is marvelous.
- Aww. - Like, she's--yeah.
No, she's amazing.
- He's so witty, and he's so funny,
And he has so much energy.
And, like, I'm so drawn to that.
- I wake up every morning,
I look at myself in the mirror, I'm like...
- "don't screw this one up."
- "miguel, you got a good thing going.
Don't [bleep] this up."
- Do you really think he's funny, though?
I need to know. - I--
- 'cause you laugh at him a lot, and I'm like,
Whoa, do you really think he's funny?
- I think he's so funny.
- I'm so glad to hear that because I do not think
He's as funny as you do, and, god, thank you.
- He's so funny.
- Thank you so much for sending us someone
Who thinks he's funny.
- What are some things are you worried about?
Is there anything
That you haven't even told her yet that you're like--
- No, and that's the conversation we had.
Like, I told her--I was like, "on the face of this earth,
I can count on one hand, like, the amount of people
That know me the same amount that you do.
Like, you know me."
We call it the deep darkies.
- The deep darkies. - The deep darkies.
We've shared with each other...
- Yeah. - Our deep darkies.
And I was like, with that,
You literally know everything about me.
There is nothing left.
- There's nothing. - Nothing.
- There's always something.
- Anything that you guys argue about yet?
- Yeah, today, we were talking about me taking his last name.
- Oh. - I was like, I have my degree.
I have my doctorate.
Like, I've been an elloway for 29 years.
It means a lot to me.
And he's asking me to,
As soon as possible, take his name.
I want to be santiago. Like, that is the goal.
But, like, there's a lot of checkmarks for me
Before I'm ready to take your name.
And there's, like, a conversation
Of healthcare coverage that's being dangled.
I don't have healthcare.
And he does for his spouse. We're married.
And I've asked to be on his healthcare.
And it was brought up today, and it was very much so,
"well, are you taking my last name?"
[tense music]
- Wait, miguel has come out to say,
"I'm not gonna put you
On my healthcare as my spouse unless you take my name"?
- That's what was said.
♪ ♪
- Can I tell you what I think it is?
- Please, because I don't understand.
- Getting married to a stranger is [bleep] crazy, okay?
I think you are a lovely, wonderful person.
I think you guys are getting along swimmingly.
However, to say that you guys went from stranger
To marriage like that is banana sandwich, okay?
Let's just keep it real.
I do not doubt that he cares about you immensely.
I do not doubt that he is wanting this to succeed.
I still think he has doubts about its level
Of being successful.
- But we're saying the same thing then.
We're literally saying the uncertainty thing.
Like, "I'm not--I can't take your last name until I know,"
And he's saying, what,
"you can't be on my insurance until I know"?
- Right. - Fine.
If you don't want to protect me, okay.
Like, that's where we're at.
But it literally costs him a phone call.
That's what I'm asking from him,
To care for me as his wife.
And that is a red-- that is a red flag to me.
I don't understand why that's such a big--
I don't get it.
♪ ♪
[upbeat rock music]
♪ ♪
- Since you got the cheap tequila,
You get to try the cheap tequila.
And I will try the more expensive tequila.
♪ ♪
This one smells really good.
♪ ♪
- Tastes like college.
- That's really good tequila.
- Is it? - Yes, it's really good.
- Mine was nasty.
Hey. - Hello!
- How you doing? - Oh, hello!
- Hi! - Welcome, welcome, welcome.
- Hi, binh. - Hey, how you doing?
- Hi. - How you been?
- Good, how are you?
- What's up, my guy? - How you doing?
- Looking "miami vice" fresh as usual.
- Hi. - Hi, I'm michael.
- Nice to meet you. - Hey, how you doing?
- Hi, nice to see you. I'll give you a hug.
- Good to see you again. Yeah, I appreciate that.
Y'all look like y'all got a celebration going on over here.
- Yeah. - Smells good.
- Cheers. - Cheers to you guys.
- To the home.
♪ ♪
The last time I seen y'all was at the actual wedding.
Like, y'all been on your honeymoon.
Like, how has everything been?
Like, for real, you been mia, like [bleep].
- Yeah, man. I mean, I got a whole wife now.
- Yeah. - And a whole son.
- Tell me about it--what? - I got a whole son.
- Who? - The cat.
- Oh, I was about to be up like jerry springer, like, huh?
- You are not the father. - You are not the father.
- Where did you guys go for your honeymoon?
- We went to mexico. - Yeah.
- We went--yeah. - Puerto vallarta.
- How was it? - Um--
I mean-- - be honest.
- Yeah, it was-it was-- - I like how you hesitated.
- Be honest. Don't lie.
- It was--you know-- - just tell them how it is.
- We were trying to figure some things out.
- Yeah.
- We were trying to work on some things.
- What did you think about when you first met him,
And then you just go on a whole, you know, honeymoon?
- So, like, when I first met him,
I was like, he's great, you know, like, super nice guy,
Very welcoming, very warm, so it was good at the wedding.
And then the honeymoon happened.
- What happened? - Just tell us what happened.
- Can you just--just say it in your own words.
- Long story--yeah, long story short--
- No, we want the long story.
- Yeah, give us the long story. - I want the long story.
- I'm just trying to give the--
- No, we need the long story. We're here for a long time.
- Yeah.
- Just elaborate. Tell the truth.
- Just--
- Wait, why don't you say it? You keep saying be honest.
- No, because, like--
- 'cause he ain't saying it, obviously.
You say it.
- I mean, I'll say it if you want me to say it
'cause you're obviously not comfortable saying it.
- Binh, let's go outside and talk.
- Okay.
- I think, at this point,
Judging on how things have kind of been going,
I really want to hear his side of the story
Because, two sides of the story,
There's always, like,
Kind of a middle story, you know?
- I guess the best way to start--from the beginning?
- Yeah.
- We get to the honeymoon, and he sits me down,
And he goes, "I don't like how
We're starting off this marriage with a lie."
And I go, "what? What lie?"
Like, "you lied about being a nurse."
And I said, "no, I am a nurse."
So during the same conversation, he also said,
"I pinky promise we're not gonna talk about finances
"or family on the honeymoon.
We'll talk about it when we get back."
I said, "okay, great."
So next day, instantly, he goes,
"your finances are a red flag to me."
And he goes, "your family is a red flag.
You're not trying hard enough to have certain relationships."
And I go, "what?" completely thrown off-guard.
- I don't think he has, like, any bad intentions to--
- No, and I keep saying that too.
He's not a bad person.
And he keeps saying that, like, "oh, my intentions."
I'm like, "yeah, but your actions."
- I was in my own head, and I overreacted,
And I was judgmental.
And I've already apologized to her on and off camera,
To everybody,
All of her friendlies, everybody.
Everybody and their baby mama got an apology from me.
And I'm trying to be understanding.
I'm trying to make amends. I'm trying to make it work.
And I'm trying to move on. I bought her flowers randomly.
I bought her her favorite chicken sausage
From the grocery store she likes.
And she doesn't see the effort.
- With morgan, it takes her a lot longer to forgive.
If you're constantly apologizing to her,
She's just like,
"well, oh, he just keeps apologizing, apologizing."
And then it starts losing its meaning.
- Yeah. - Like, you know?
- I feel that, yeah. - Yeah.
- For sure, I feel that.
But I feel like, whenever something bad happens,
I'm quick to forgive.
But morgan holds it.
Like, in basketball, like,
If you had a turnover, if you miss a shot,
You work on the next play.
Like, you try to make the-- - you move on.
- You move on. - Yeah, yeah.
- And we're still in the past.
- Is it--are you gonna just hold this
Over him till he dies?
Like, you gotta understand
You guys are just learning each other's moods,
Everything like that.
- Yeah, and I said this before coming into this whole process,
Like, when you hurt me, when you burn me, I'm done.
So this is a whole new situation for me,
Where, like, binh has hurt me very deeply,
And I'm trying to work through it,
But I've never done this before.
- Yeah.
- I've never worked through a deep hurt before
With someone.
- If binh walked through the door right now,
And I said, "bro, is she a nurse or not,"
Like, what do you think he would say?
- He would say yes. - Okay.
So, like, you gotta just forgive and forget.
[dramatic music]
♪ ♪
- ♪ back and forth we go ♪
♪ up and down we're so back and forth we go ♪
♪ up and down, and when will it stop? ♪
♪ ♪
- It's really tense in the house.
I know that I'm not one of those people
To where it's just, like,
He can just say sorry, and we'll be over it.
Can you actually blow up the balloons, please?
When you get a chance. - Yeah.
- But I am trying to be better. I am trying to do better.
I don't want to do the same things I would do,
Which is normally run away.
- Yo, there she is. Look at you.
What's up? What's up?
- Attack uncle will. Attack.
- Hi. - I'm alexis.
- Nice to meet you. - Hello, hello.
- I'm sorry, I have dots on my--
- Amarii, nice to meet you. - Nice to meet you, amarii.
- You look so beautiful. - Thank you.
- Can I hug you? - Yeah, of course.
Hi, em!
- Hello! - You look so pretty!
- Thanks. You do too.
- Thanks. - Welcome to our home.
- Yeah.
- ♪ drinks on the rooftop ♪
- This is, like, the nicest housewarming party
I've ever been to.
The setup. I feel special.
- Yeah.
- I just wish I had--you know,
The dress code--I would have known the dress code.
- Yes.
- Didn't know it was '90s theme.
- Yeah, that's probably the whole point of having a theme
Is actually telling people, so that's our fault.
- That is most important. - Y'all did a good job.
It's a lot to think about.
- You know, honestly, she gets all the credit.
She came up with the idea. I just helped out.
- Justin and I almost didn't-- I didn't think
We were gonna have this
'cause justin and I had quite a fight.
- That's expected. - That's expected, william?
- Yeah, I mean, you're still learning each other, so...
- Yeah. - You know?
- Are you kidding?
- You still trying to figure out the differences and,
You know, as long as you're willing to work through them,
That's all that really matters.
- As long as y'all communicate about communicating,
Then y'all will be fine.
- But for me and my husband over there,
We miscommunicate a lot.
And justin, I'm sorry, I usually talk to you
Before I tell people stuff outside our relationship.
But my frustration is, like, I know I'm not perfect.
I don't intend to be. I don't want justin to be.
But it's like, sometimes, I get frustrated
Because it's just, like, him being vague to me,
I understand that to be sometimes manipulative
Or, like, lying, in my eyes, but he doesn't see it as that.
So it's just, like, very often, to where I'm like,
Oh, gosh, I don't even know who I married.
Like, yeah, no pun intended
'cause he was a stranger at some point.
But genuinely, I've been concerned.
And that's where we're at.
So I didn't want to be fake and, like, you know, make sure
Everything is--act like everything's good and well.
But we are having a bit of a tiff right now.
- I think it's important to remember
That you aren't each other's enemy at any point.
That's the hard part
'cause when you get into different--it's like,
You feel like you're on an island by yourself.
- Mm-hmm. - I [bleep] up.
I know that. You know what I'm saying?
But, like, I feel like she drills me with questions.
And so, like, even when we come to a conclusion,
She still drills me, and so, when she's drilling me,
I can't--I need time to process my thoughts.
Like, when I speak,
Sometimes I haven't processed my thoughts,
It can come out as contradictory.
You know, like, if you're asking me a question,
You know what I'm saying,
And then you ask another question--
- No, I let you answer your questions.
That's not fair. Don't lie like that.
- I'm not lying, baby. I'm just saying, I mean--
- Baby, when do I ask you a question
And immediately ask you another one?
- [sighs]
- All the time. - Oh, okay, maybe I'm wrong.
[tense music]
- In the beginning, I was just like,
I want you around all the time, and we were just, like,
"I miss my husband," "I miss my wife."
- Aww. - And it was just so sweet.
And then we started to have our conflicts
When we got back from the honeymoon.
I mean, I don't know if he told you,
But his dog attacked...
- He told me.
- My dog. - Ooh.
- The biggest part with me was, I know it wasn't his fault.
You can't predict what your dog does.
I get that. - Right.
- My thing was, after mya had attacked newton,
I started to learn more things about mya
That I had no idea about,
That I would have been uncomfortable about
If he would have told me beforehand.
- Beforehand. Both: Mm-hmm.
- That's deceptive, to me.
- Yeah. - You get what I'm saying?
And I see you making faces, so please tell me.
- I feel like--
- 'cause I need a better perspective, I do.
- There are times--and it may just be a guy thing, you know?
- Mm-hmm.
- But it's like, we don't think about saying certain things
Beforehand until we're in the situation.
It's like, "oh yeah, my dog-- yeah, of course."
And it's like, why didn't you say that beforehand?
"I wasn't thinking about it. The situation hadn't occurred."
- So it's just a man thing. - It's just a man thing.
It's like, we--y'all are very great in general
About saying things beforehand
And mentally preparing for something.
We're just in the moment.
- The question that I want to ask is:
How do I need to respond to her when she's upset?
Because her mother and her sisters
Said to give her space.
And I do that,
But it may come off as dismissive.
- Have you had that conversation with her?
Like, you know, if there is a conflict
Or anything like that, say like,
"hey, how do you want me to respond?
Do you need space?"
'cause I think it's okay even to say,
"hey, like, I love you. I want this marriage to work.
This has nothing to do with you,"
Just to, like, give them that peace of mind
And comfort upfront, and just say,
"but I just need five minutes or so to, like, process this."
- I like that.
Nah, that's a good idea. I'm gonna do that.
That way, I can get it from the lion's mouth.
- And there are times where you're gonna have
To have conversations over and over.
Like, initially, it felt like, "bruh, I'm not trying--
"we just got finished talking about this.
I don't feel like talking about this over and over."
But it's like, okay, clearly, we're not finished with this.
- But see, that's what justin calls digging.
You remember in there he was like,
"she's digging, digging"?
- Mm-hmm. - That's my perspective.
- But he doesn't see it as that.
So that's why I get so frustrated,
And that's why I get so mad.
- And that's part of the thing. You might not like him today.
- Or in that moment.
- But it goes past that, you know?
- I mean, yeah, 'cause I was [bleep],
But I was in ross,
And I was like, dang, we need some body wash,
So I had got some body wash for him, you know?
Like, and I'm still, like, caring for him
While, like, mad shopping.
Like, "this dude needs some soap.
You know, let me get him some soap."
And I know this is his favorite soap,
So I still bought him the soap, so you're right.
- Can I ask you a really intense question?
- Yeah, for sure.
- I don't know if I'm-- - no, go ahead.
- Do you love him?
♪ ♪
- I do, I do.
I'm not in love with him just yet.
- Yeah. - But I do love him.
I care for him a lot.
But yeah, there's days to where I'm just, like, reconsidering.
It's just, like, my heart's in it now.
- Yeah.
- So I'm looking at everything you say.
I'm picking up on every single piece.
So when you tell me stuff, I'm hanging on to it
'cause my heart is in this now.
- Every argument we get into,
Every disagreement-- I'm not counting,
But it just makes me more afraid.
And I really want this marriage.
Like, this ain't a eight-week thing for me.
- And, dude, don't beat yourself up about it,
'cause, I mean, y'all are experiencing it so fast,
So it's gonna be a lot of growing pains.
I mean, but at the end of the day,
You gotta remember why you in this.
Like, I mean, I reflect back to the wedding,
And I was worried,
As her best friend, like, okay, what type of guy
Is she getting?
But then, when y'all met there,
And just that first impression, I was like, wow.
Like, she's--like, that's her. That's who she is.
- I want this with her.
And it's definitely a fear of mine,
You know what I'm saying, losing her.
The more [bleep] ups that I do, in my mind,
I'm, like, constantly [bleep] up,
And when it comes to decision day,
I don't want her to say no.
- ♪ this world is reaching out for ♪
♪ I'm reaching out, I'm reaching out for you ♪
♪ ♪
[soft music]
♪ ♪
- That was fun. - Yeah.
I brought up needing and wanting
To be on your insurance,
And how you brought up me wanting to take your last name.
And it just felt like we were saying the same thing,
As far as, like,
Well, we're both being, like, cautious and hesitant.
Me taking your last name is a big deal.
And it's a big deal for you for me to be on your insurance.
- What do you need from me?
Like, what do you need from me to prove to you
That I'm in this enough for you to want to take my last name?
- I mean, right now, it's so, like--it feels like
We're just still testing the waters.
Like, we have separate finances,
As we should.
We've known each other for two weeks.
Like--but I need a joint account.
- You want a joint account. Okay.
- I need, like, a plan of where I'm moving in eight weeks.
I need so much more.
- Okay. - But I need those milestones.
I need that security and those steps.
- Mm-hmm.
- There's certain tangible things that can happen
Before I'm ready to just be--change my identity!
My identity, my name.
The only thing that's been given to me since day one.
- We can talk about the finances.
We can talk about all the things you need
For you to feel safe
And for me to prove to you that I'm about this,
But I feel like I kind of have.
- You're asking so much of me.
I've been an elloway my entire life.
I have my doctorate.
Like, it's a big deal. It is a big deal.
And until I feel secure, I can't give you that.
- Mm-hmm.
- And no, I don't feel secure right now.
♪ ♪
- I want you to understand that, like, you--
What you're asking from me
Is to live like a married couple...
- Yeah.
- But as a married couple-- like, married couples
Don't live as a married couple before taking their last name--
Their husband's last names.
- I feel like that's just, like, a legality.
- Well, it's not.
I mean, I'm telling you it's how
I would envision being married.
And you are married to me.
So my opinion matters in that regard.
- So, but you're like, "I don't want to be around her
Or with her if she doesn't take my name"?
Like, that's where you're at?
- No, but I would like-- the more we talk about it
And the more I express my feelings on the matter,
The more important it becomes to me.
- But you're hearing me and my reasons?
- Oh, I am, I am.
- So it's the same way for me.
Like, the more I explain and tell you how I feel...
- Right.
- The more important it becomes to me.
I need my last name. I need my identity.
I don't need your insurance.
If I get hit by a car, then [bleep].
You don't want to take care of me?
That's painful, and I don't understand that.
But that's your decision.
You can't even extend a hand
To help me see a [bleep] physician.
So if you can't do that, then how the [bleep]
Do you expect me to take your last name, miguel?
How?
- I don't like this version of you.
- I'm being myself.
I'm being authentic. I'm being real.
[dramatic music]
♪ ♪
[upbeat music]
- [laughs] come here.
- The dawn of a new fashion.
♪ ♪
- Feel good? - Feel good.
- Look good, feel good? - You tell me.
- Yes, always a yes from me.
- I'm just trying to be futuristic, girl.
Remember, I don't want anyone touching me
With their nasty germs
Because the future must be sterile, so...
Mmm!
That's it. - Did I do it?
- You nailed it.
- I can't wait for the next party for me to plan it.
Not to say I don't love this.
This actually turned out really great.
But I just mean next time, it could be fun
Just to kind of, like, just be with each other
Instead of worry about, you know,
Containers for jell-o shots.
Doing some party prep.
I did purchase these little plastic shot glasses
To put the gelatin in.
I thought mitch was going to have a heart attack,
And he respectfully asked me to return the plastic,
Single-use containers and purchase 24 of these guys.
It was about 20 times more expensive,
But I'm sure we'll use them again.
We shall see.
- Hey, hey, hey. - Greetings, earthling.
- Welcome to the future. - Greetings.
I really like your energy.
- This is amazing. - Isn't it great?
- Do you have a gerbil? - [laughs]
- I want to touch that. - Did you breech--yeah.
Oh, do touch. Do kiss your hand and touch.
- Do I make a wish? - This is the dlx-4000.
It's our beacon to the computer god droid in the sky.
Yeah, exactly.
- Oh, cyber-- - hello.
- Thank you for letting me come to the future with you.
- Let me check your eyeballs.
- Oh, my god, krysten.
- Welcome. - This is for you.
- Oh, my god, thank you so much.
- Yeah.
- They didn't get the memo
That plastic is banned in the future.
[laughter]
My brother. From a different time.
- Hello. - You look amazing.
- Thank you. - That's my alien wife.
- How are you doing today? - I'm good, I'm good.
- Can we do a quick jell-o shot?
If you don't want one, don't take one.
- These are a little liquid-y.
- Yeah, they've been sitting out.
- Uh-oh. - Cheers.
- Wait, we gotta cheers.
All: Cheers. - Cheers to the future.
- Party time. - We shall party now.
[electronic music]
- Is that a draining basket? - Yes, colander.
- Oh, my gosh. - Let's [bleep] rage.
- To the future.
♪ ♪
- Would you guys like to go check out the view
On the seventh floor?
- Yeah.
- Pretty fun party.
- Yeah. - Clearly, I'm committed.
- Clearly. - To the cause.
- I-- - you look great.
- Love the costumes by everybody, the decorations.
- I think we did well. - Yeah, everyone did good.
- Good, it was a long road to get here.
- How's it been living with him?
- So I think, like, blanket statement, incredible.
He's actually really easy to live with.
However, comma--
- But... - Got it.
- His extremist of environmentalism
Is a little more than I thought it was gonna be.
- We're kind of radical anti-plastic,
And that's hard to, like, live with.
- Yeah. - How's that been going?
- I mean, I--she's doing--she's trying.
- Yeah.
- And I gotta give her credit for that.
I mean, you know, I just, I can't expect her
To just be like me overnight.
- Yeah. - That's not fair.
Only--and she already has gotten annoyed with me
A couple times because, when it comes to stuff
We're doing together, like planning for this party,
I was much--very, like, "I'm gonna go to matt's house.
"I'm gonna steal all my niece's toys
And make them look futuristic."
Like, my mentality's like...
- Yeah. - I'm not gonna buy anything.
- Yeah.
- And so she kind of got mad at me
'cause she was starting to, you know,
Load up the cart online, and I was--
- And having fun with it
And doing it the way she knew how to do it.
- Yeah. - Yeah.
- And I was just like, "no, like, don't"--you know,
And so--but--
- How'd that resolve?
- You know, the jell-o shots are in reusable ramekins.
- [chuckles]
- It's like, it's me finding the balance of being grateful
And walking around on tiptoes a little bit
To make sure I don't piss him off
With a non-reusable plastic or something
Because I do think that he is right.
Both: Yeah. - He is right about this stuff.
I guess I'm asking for maybe his patience on that.
- Yeah, adjusting.
- But it shouldn't just be you adjusting.
- That's what I was gonna say too.
- Like, I feel like he needs to kind of help out
And play his part too
And adjust to your normal lifestyle and--
- Yeah.
- The only other problem, I'm not sleeping great.
I was, like, so elated that my wife didn't snore,
And then the day we move in, I get a dog that snores.
It's so tiny, but the sound is so big.
Like, obviously, I'm the odd man out of, like,
Not understanding why this dog is so precious
Because to me it's just kind of,
Like, this useless creature that breathes loudly.
- My sweet baby angel, she does snore.
It's so sweet, and brief, and, like, innocent.
But it is, like, the sweetest noise.
And I don't even notice it.
So I woke up this morning, and I was like,
"wow, that was such a nice, sweet sleep."
And he said, "I didn't sleep at all from like 1:00 a.M.
To like 4:00 a.M. Because of your dog snoring."
- Tell him to go sleep on the couch.
No, I'm just kidding.
- She is kind of loud. - You ain't seen nothing yet.
- My only red flag is the fact
He hasn't been in a relationship in eight years.
- Yeah.
- Does he fulfill all the wants you want in a husband?
- That's a good question. - Or are you just...
- That is a good question.
- Feeling in the moment and saying,
"I'm trying to make this work"?
- I think that I have-- to be honest with you,
I haven't really thought about this at all
Until now in terms of box checking.
He has a lot of great qualities,
But now that we're married, I do look at it more
As we need to make this work because we're married.
I definitely do, and, you know,
He does the accents, and there's a lot of play time.
So I just want to make sure he can be serious
When it's time to be serious
And that he is in this for a lifetime.
♪ ♪
- ♪ this is the city that'll never sleep ♪
♪ always been here, and it's always gon' be ♪
- Yo, yo. - Is it about time?
- Right on time. - What's good?
- What's up, playboys? - It's been a minute.
- You like my wings?
- How you doing, man? - Good, man.
- Hello, ladies.
- Hey, girl, hey. - Hi!
- How are you guys? - How are ya?
- Oh, my gosh, long time no see, seriously.
- I know. - Like, I know.
- Like, legitimately.
- All of us having been together since the honeymoon.
- Right? Ooh, this is beautiful.
- I like how you just pulled a wine bottle out of your--
- Hey!
- Thank you for bringing that.
- Okay. - Right?
- So is everybody completely enjoying marriage?
Is everybody having the time of their lives?
- Yeah, but we're going from 0 to 100.
You're spending every single day,
Every single moment with this person, nearly,
Except when, what, we go to the bathroom?
- He likes talking to me on the toilet.
- What? - He does.
He's like, "can I give you a kiss?"
- Uh-uh, not on the toilet.
- I'm like, "babe, I'm doing number two."
- Nope.
- How's it been with everybody living with their new wives?
- We're good, man.
Me and krys, we're kind of, like,
Joking like we've been married
For 40 years already or something
'cause everything just seems, like, a little smoother
Than maybe I thought it would be.
- I can't even believe that I'm even saying this,
But the marriage that I have now is black and white,
180, completely different, incredible, ten out of ten,
Than the marriage I had in mexico.
- Team mitch! - Oh, my god!
- Aww! - Tell us about it!
- I feel like she really likes me,
And it just makes me confident.
You know, I'm kind of a crazy person,
And I'm a little weird, and she seems to like it.
- He wakes up early. He makes me coffee.
- Okay, mitch. - Oh, my god.
- I mean, he's watching reality tv with me.
I mean, not only do I know
We're gonna make it the eight weeks...
- Oh yeah. - Yes, you are.
- I think that this is a lifelong marriage.
- Ooh! - Aww.
- After mexico, I was like, hell no.
Team mitch is no. That's a no for me.
But hearing that they're doing so good,
Man, it's just a breath of fresh air.
- I don't want to say it's perfect--it's not.
- Her dog is a bit of a monkey wrench for me.
Like--it's, like, it snores. Like, I can--
- Like, loud?
- Yeah, like a fat, old guy. Like, so loud.
And she just sleeps like a rock.
- I can relate to you, mitchell,
Because I think I'm allergic to cats.
- Ooh. - Oh.
- Every time I come home, I instantly cough.
- Oh, man. - Instantly cough.
Instantly sneeze. He's mean, bro.
- Yeah? - Max is mean, bro.
Every time he see me, like... [growls]
It's, like, I didn't do anything.
- The cat, yeah. - Just love me, but yeah.
- Yeah, lindy has a cat. It's kind of similar.
Today, actually, I tried to pet her.
- Oh, don't do that.
- And she bit me and hissed at me.
- Yeah, oh, yeah. That hiss is so evil.
The hiss is so evil. - Yeah.
- We also have a dog situation.
- Oh, you got a dog situation too?
- Yes, sir.
- His dog attacked mine. - Oh, no.
- Ooh! - Yeah.
- No!
- And he just didn't disclose
That his dog had had past experiences
Of getting in fights with other dogs.
And I'm learning that there's several examples
To which I'm finding out information after the fact.
And I'm like,
What else aren't you telling me until it becomes relevant.
- Beforehand. - Yeah.
- Before. - Right.
- I feel like I overshare, but, I mean,
There might be information that I didn't say
Because it just wasn't at the top of my memory
Or because I didn't feel like it was relevant.
Like, when nate asks a question, it's like,
I'm answering the question,
But then, like, a week or two later,
There might be additional information
That I didn't think of or didn't think to share.
- Yeah. - Like, how much is enough?
You know, I kind of identify with justin.
You know, you can't tell your whole story
And everything that's happened in,
You know, just a short period of time.
You know, as far as, like, sharing information,
Give him time, be patient.
And don't expect people to change overnight.
It's gonna be tough, but you just work through it.
[soft music]
- So, lindy, how's it going with you and miguel?
- We did have our first conflict.
I have asked miguel if I could be on his insurance,
And the conversation led to,
"well, are you taking my last name?"
- Ooh, an insurance conversation
To a name conversation.
- Yes, yes, and to me, it's like--
- How did we get here?
Yeah. - This is insurance.
It's like, this is insurance, and this is name.
- I kind of, like, am appreciating miguel for saying,
"if you want the health insurance,
You gotta take santiago."
I'm team miguel. I get it.
I'd say the same thing.
- But I got agitated. I was getting defensive.
- Lindy and I have very different communication styles.
Like, I'll take a moment
To kind of think through my thoughts.
She needs to speak her thoughts.
And she got very negative, and I'm not a fan of that.
- I want to be santiago.
I do. I see it.
Like, but I need the assurance
That this is gonna be a forever thing.
- You know, I love lindy. She's my girl.
And I totally understand
Not wanting to give up her last name.
Lindy needs to be secure in this marriage.
So miguel's gonna have to,
You know, really put in some work.
- You know, I got to look out for me
And my emotional state with all this,
And I want to make sure that, if I do move on--like,
Continue on with lindy,
That she is the right person for me,
And not only that, that I am the right person for her.
We're at the point where we've developed enough feelings
For each other that, if it doesn't work out...
- It's gonna hurt. - It's gonna devastate us.
♪ ♪
[upbeat music]
- ♪ I been on ten, baby, I been on grind mode ♪
♪ yeah, yeah ♪
- I need to know who else has consummated their marriage.
[tense music]
♪ ♪
- I ain't been lucky at all. I'll be honest, I've tried.
You know, it's definitely been--boy,
It has been a challenge, you know.
Because we've had our ups and downs,
She hasn't wanted to have sex, and that has been really hard.
- Poor justin be having wet dreams.
He hopped out of the bed one morning
'cause he had a wet dream.
I'm like, poor baby. [laughter]
- I'm not sure what's happening, you know,
Because in the beginning,
Alexis mentioned to the whole group
That she's typically very proactive
About getting physical,
And then justin, on the other hand,
He's a little bit more conservative.
So, you know, now that justin is comfortable
And he made a move, it didn't happen still?
So I'm just, like, a little thrown off by it.
- It hadn't happened, but when it do...
- It's gonna be a cosmic event, for sure.
- Cosmic! [laughter]
- Hey, I just had a future party, okay?
It's gonna be a supernova.
- It's gonna be two minutes.
- Krysten, did you consummate your marriage?
- Yeah, we've been consummating like bunnies.
- Yeah, you have! Okay!
- Morning, noon, and night.
I can't get this man off me if I tried.
- It's wild. We had such a rocky start.
You know, like-- - yeah, yeah, definitely.
- Like, I kind wasn't really into her in the beginning.
But once I kind of worked through that
And came clean to her, so that we were in it together,
I mean, everything started changing for me
Really that--from that moment.
- Oh, that's beautiful. That's dope.
- We were, like, really, like, rooting for you.
You know, I was like, he looks more comfortable.
He looks more happy. - Yeah.
- And I was like, yo, they're gonna be all right.
- Thanks, man. - How about you, nate?
- So...
We haven't consummated the marriage yet,
But let's just say I had dessert after dinner, you dig?
- What does that mean?
Like, what kind of dessert you had, you know, cherry pie?
Sweet potato pie? Pumpkin pie?
- I'm a giver, so, you know, I had to [bleep] on her.
- Oh. - Oh.
- I see.
- Five minutes later, fireworks.
- So she's still holding out on you, dude?
- I know, right? - Like, after that?
Like, that's even more personal.
- Right? I agree.
- I feel like that's more of an appetizer,
And sex is the main course, so that was interesting.
I mean, it sounds like that's still a struggle there.
[laughs]
- So I'll piggyback.
There has been no intimacy.
You know, it's just, my walls are up since the honeymoon.
And I'm trying to accept that binh made a really big mistake,
And that he is very sorry,
But I have no idea how to bring this wall down.
So I'm just trying to take it day by day, step by step.
- Yep.
- 'cause we do like to hang out
With each other and be around each other.
- Good.
- And we'll go to the gym, and eat food,
And do all the things.
Like, binh's a good guy.
- That is huge! - Mm-hmm.
- You're not sitting here saying, like,
"I can't even be around this person.
"like, he's broken my trust.
"I don't even like being around him.
I can't stand, like, this."
That, I'd be like, oh, my god, like, there--what do we do?
- Yeah.
- But this friendship that you have,
That can be the beginning
And rebuilding of something really beautiful.
- Yeah.
- I just hope that she can give him grace,
And know that he [bleep] up,
And figure out how that they can restart and move forward.
And I think, if they're able to do that,
I think that there's hope there.
I just--who knows?
Nothing's off the table for any of us at this point.
- Like, let's say she didn't have a wall up.
Would you be lovey-dovey?
Like, if you want to be, like,
Affectionate with her, be affectionate with her.
- It's almost like when you're in junior high,
And it's, like, the first girl you date,
And, like, it's just, like,
You're trying to, like, see what you get away with.
- The movie move? - Yeah, you're kissing.
And then your hand starts moving towards the boob,
And she's like, "no," and then you,
A few more minutes later, you start to move.
You gotta kind of test the waters a little bit,
As long as it's in a way that's not threatening,
But showing interest.
- Yeah.
- Why don't you guys try to start clean
And go on a date,
Even if it's a taco from a taco truck?
- We'll never be able to change the past.
We'll never be able to change what's been said.
But this is the hard part of marriage,
Is the distrust and the,
"you said this, and it sit with me this way,"
And figuring out how you can move past it.
So there's a lot of heaviness,
But there's a lot of hope for goodness...
- Yeah. - And fun and lightness.
- Yeah, I just need to, like, take a step back, reset.
That's kind of what I need sometimes,
Is I just need to stop, clean slate for morgan.
We've been put together for a reason.
I need to explore that.
- ♪ give me your attention, oh, baby ♪
♪ focus on me ♪
- ♪ maybe, maybe this time ♪
♪ we gon' get it right, I'ma get it right ♪
♪ maybe, maybe this time ♪
- So how'd it go? - It was really great.
Like, everyone just was so honest
And real about the troubles
They're having within their relationships.
And at the same time, there's so much hope.
- Yeah, so a question for you.
Like, what'd you share with them about us?
- Yeah, I talked about how I feel about santiago.
- Yeah, the other day's conversation
Definitely kind of threw me through a loop
Because you came down on me hard.
- I'm not proud of speaking to you the way I did.
But I wasn't feeling, like, heard or, like--
- Mm-hmm.
- I wasn't feeling secure in what you were telling me.
So then I was defensive.
And you know--I've told you I can get defensive,
And that was it, you saw it.
But I feel like you need to see these sides of me,
And it's gonna suck.
And I need to see the sides of you that suck.
And the more raw, and vulnerable, and honest,
And ourselves we can be,
And the more we can objectively be like,
"yeah, is this the right person for me?
Can I do this forever? Do I want this person forever?"
- Mm-hmm.
- Like, you've seen a part of me.
Like, you've seen that--where I can go
If I don't feel safe and secure.
- Yeah, I don't like that place.
That's the thing, yeah. - I know.
- Yeah. - I don't like it either.
And I am sorry.
I hear you,
And I'll just keep trying my best to prove that to you.
I feel like every conflict we have,
It makes us stronger,
And that's, like, such a green light.
That's more than I could ever ask for.
- We're going to be presented with challenges.
- Yes. - It's how we overcome them.
So if you want to be on my insurance, yeah,
I'll put you on my insurance
Because I do very much like the idea of us being married.
- ♪ can't deny the feelings 'cause they too strong ♪
- That's what I needed to hear.
- ♪ 'cause I don't want to wait ♪
♪ I want you right now, right now ♪
[upbeat music]
- Next time on "married at first sight"...
- ♪ me and pastor cal, yeah, he's my pal ♪
♪ yeah, I got a gal, yeah, she's my wifey ♪
- ♪ I'ma lick, baby, I'ma lick that ♪
♪ yeah, I'm on the rise ♪
♪ but it's really nice to meet ya ♪
- Our couples examine just what
It will take to fall in love.
- Do you got a aquaman fetish? - [laughs]
- Whatever I have to do to make her happy, I'ma do.
- Loving me, where are we on the spectrum?
- Four out of ten. - Four out of ten?
I want to know that you love me before decision day.
- How do you feel about the concept of falling out of love?
- Is she past the point of being,
You know, jekyll and hyde?
- If I was with someone
And I perceive them to be crazy,
Not for me, bye.
- I'm getting to the point where I don't want
To prove myself anymore.
Well, you got emotion now. You happy?
[dramatic music]