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- Hi, don't shake my hand.
Give me a hug.
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- Ten singles took a giant
leap of faith to find love.
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They married
as complete strangers.
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[dramatic music]
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- I'm married!
It feels great!
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- Last time, our couples moved
into their new homes together.
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- Be a little while.
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- ♪ this girl is magical ♪
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- The marriage has been exactly
what I--probably even better...
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- Wow.
- Than what I wanted it to be.
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- Yeah.
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- In very recent days,
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We have "consummated"
the marriage.
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[laughs]
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- I'm trying to win you back.
- My wall went up, you know.
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- Yeah, no, we're fine.
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- Who's in control
of that wall?
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- I'm in control of the wall.
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- Mya.
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His eye, baby.
It's bleeding.
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Newton's my baby,
and I know mya's his baby,
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So it's a tough situation.
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He never told me
that mya had been
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In several fights
with other dogs.
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For me, it's like,
truth is everything.
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- You don't talk
about your mom.
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But sometimes I feel
like you don't want
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To even say
that there is pain there.
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- I don't have
any emotional connection
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Towards my biological mom
at all.
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- I'm frustrated
that he's not opening up.
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It makes me question
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If he knows how
to even be vulnerable.
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- I don't want to know when
you're pulling away from me
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'cause then it feels
like a punishment.
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Like, I need you to,
like, keep that to yourself.
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- Mm,
I don't know if I can do that.
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♪ ♪
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- And tonight...
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- He likes talking to me
on the toilet.
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He's like,
"can I give you a kiss?"
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- Uh-uh, not on the toilet.
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- Our couples start facing
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The reality
of domestic life together...
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- I was, like, so elated
that my wife didn't snore,
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And then I get
a dog that snores.
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- [laughing]
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- And will finally get to see
their friends and family
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For the first time
since the wedding.
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- Are you gonna just hold this
over him till he dies?
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- When you hurt me,
when you burn me, I'm done.
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- She's like, "yeah, like,
how about kids within a year?"
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Kid is, like, a big variable.
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You know, that's
a whole lifestyle change.
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- 'cause you doing
the absolute most.
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- Okay,
you just want to be heard,
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And you don't want
to understand what I'm saying.
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- You can do
whatever you gotta do
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'cause I'm not in it.
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- Does mitch know
about your whole history?
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- You can't even extend a hand
to help me see
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A [bleep] physician,
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So how the [bleep]
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Do you expect me
to take your last name?
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♪ ♪
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- ♪ it's all or nothing ♪
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- This is
"married at first sight."
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- ♪ there's no other way ♪
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♪ it's all or nothing ♪
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[upbeat music]
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- [vocalizing]
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♪ I won't ask what you said ♪
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- What?
- [laughs]
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- Welcome to married life,
fellas.
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I gotta say, believe the hype.
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It is everything you thought
it'd be and so much more.
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- Our couples have been married
for just under two weeks.
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- We just finished our first
workout in the gym together.
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- We got a lot of work to do.
We're out of shape.
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- Yeah.
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- And now,
as they settle into daily life
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Together as husband and wife,
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There's a whole lot
of new surprises
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And often uncomfortable
challenges to face.
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- Hubby gave me this
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To put trail mix in.
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How does he eat out of this?
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- Making the transition
from single to married life
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May be easy for some,
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But an uphill battle
for others.
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- In case there was a question,
he wrote "reusable."
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- Don't throw it away, man.
I just need people to know.
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- Y'all, send prayers for me.
- Mark your territory.
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- Send so many prayers.
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- But it requires hard work
and dedicated from everyone
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Because in just over six weeks,
our couples will have to decide
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Whether they want to stay
married or get a divorce.
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- ♪ living in my bubble,
I got no job and no trouble ♪
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♪ I ain't got no worries ♪
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♪ la-la-la-la-la,
la-la-la-la-la ♪
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- [laughs]
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♪ ♪
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- It's good to see you.
It's been a minute.
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- I know.
It has been a minute.
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- Any crazy surprises or, like,
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Things that just jumped out
at you,
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You're like,
"what am I doing here?"
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- No, actually.
I mean, it's a wild ride.
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Sometimes, I'm like,
what--is this real life?
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Like, what is going on here?
So much easier--
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- She super into it?
- She's super into it.
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She's super into me,
which is nice.
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And I'm super into her.
And she's super into us.
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- Mm-hmm.
- And likewise.
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So I think it's--that part
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Is the best part
of this whole thing.
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- That's awesome.
- She's a great wife.
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Like, being a wife,
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Like,
right off the bat, I think.
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- How's being a husband
suit you?
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- I think
it suits me really well.
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Let's ask her
'cause I'd love her opinion.
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I have asked her,
and she's saying
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That I'm doing a great job.
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And I--but I kind of knew
this about me.
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Like, I know
how to relationship well.
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When my heart's in it,
and I'm invested, like,
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I know I can be a great,
in this case, husband.
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And because she is my wife,
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There's that security,
you know.
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Even though something
may come across
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In a way that bothers me
or something,
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I don't let it, like,
truly bother me or get to me
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Because I know that, at the end
of the day, she wants this.
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She has our best
interests at heart.
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You'll see, yeah, like,
when we start interacting.
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- We only got to hang out
a little bit at the reception.
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Right?
- Right.
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- So in our group of friends,
like, does she--
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Is she--you think
she's gonna fit in really well?
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She's a little bit
on the younger side.
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- I think so.
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I mean, she's--she and I
are getting along famously.
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I don't know what
that says about me.
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- Yeah, but you get
to make out with her.
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None of us are doing that.
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- [bleep] damn right.
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So--but no, you'll see.
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Like, lindy, she definitely
has depth and character.
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It's not just, like,
all shiny, happy, pink.
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You know, that's
kind of what she exudes--
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- Sure.
- Which is nice.
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But the moment you actually,
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Like, kind of take a deep dive
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And see who she truly
is inside,
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You'll immediately sense
that depth.
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- Did she meet your checklist
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Of stuff
that you were looking for?
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- She did, and then some.
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She's the three things
that I wanted,
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Right--the, like,
kind and agreeable.
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- Yeah.
- You have to be that.
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And then she's open-minded.
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She's a great
conversationalist.
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And she's adventurous.
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But then she's also cute,
right?
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And she has beautiful eyes
and a beautiful laugh,
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And, like,
she's fun to be around.
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She's funny.
She's quirky.
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She's attentive.
You know, she cleans.
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She cooks.
Those were my three things.
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- That's like
eight things, dude.
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- I know.
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- Are you getting, like,
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Actual feelings
for her beyond just liking her?
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- I think so.
I think--yeah.
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- You got, like, puppy dog eyes
when you talk about her.
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- It's hard not to, yeah.
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She's--no,
she's definitely a--
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She's like an oasis
in a desert type thing.
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Like, life be in the desert,
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And then you have people like
lindy that are just like, okay.
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I can do this.
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- Oasis in a desert.
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- Watch us get a divorce
on decision day, [bleep].
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- Don't you put
that curse on you.
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- "miguel,
where's this oasis now?
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You thirsty?
You thirsty?"
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♪ ♪
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- ♪ would you light a fire? ♪
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♪ would you lose it all? ♪
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♪ would you light a fire? ♪
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♪ ♪
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- Hi!
Oh, my god.
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- How are you, stranger?
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- It's so good to see you!
Joan!
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- How's my newlywed?
- Oh, my god, right?
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Isn't that crazy?
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Feels like
just a couple weeks ago,
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Crazy krysten was just...
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- Nuts.
- Single, out on the town.
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- How is it going
from living alone,
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Selfish life
to being thrown into this?
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- There are some differences
in our domesticity
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And how we live.
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We have a difference of,
like, clutter.
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Oh, god, he has this tower.
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It's like
a water filtration system,
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But it sits in the island,
and it's tall,
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And I can't even see him
when he's talking to me
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Because the water tower
is in between us.
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And he's just constantly coming
into our apartment with stuff
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Because he doesn't want
to throw it away.
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He brought home, the other day,
like, an antique,
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Like, bookshelf
looked like
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It had come out
of a sewer from, like, vietnam.
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- He's not a hoarder, right?
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- I'm thinking maybe.
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I was like, "if you bring
one more iota into my home,
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We are gonna have words."
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- Does he leave dirty dishes?
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- Oh, you just wait till you
see his stovetop in his house.
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I nearly had a heart attack.
I need a clean living space.
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It's not a dealbreaker,
but I do not like stuff.
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And then we have our
housewarming party coming up,
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And this might be
our only legitimate fight.
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Innocent me, I said,
let's do a french theme...
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- Ooh, I like that.
- With wine and cheese...
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- Your favorite.
- And charcuterie.
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He looked at me and said,
"let's not do any of that."
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And then he rattled off
a list of things
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I had never heard
in my whole life.
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Something about, like,
a communism regime,
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Zombie apocalypse,
alien invasion.
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Then he said,
"let's all dress up
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With how we think
the world is gonna end."
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- Oh, god.
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- Finally,
we landed on retro-futurism.
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We're putting our minds into,
like, the '50s, '60s,
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As to how
you would view the future
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In the '50s and '60s.
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So he's gonna be, like,
a captain from a spaceship.
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And then I'm gonna be,
like, his, like,
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Wife--mistress/wife,
like, sexy--
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- Attendant?
- Yeah.
246
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- Flight attendant?
- Yeah, like, sexy attendant.
247
00:10:16,024 --> 00:10:17,690
- Can you imagine when you plan
248
00:10:17,784 --> 00:10:20,118
Your child's, like,
second birthday party?
249
00:10:20,269 --> 00:10:22,436
- Oh, my god.
250
00:10:22,530 --> 00:10:23,847
- All right, so question:
251
00:10:23,940 --> 00:10:26,458
Does mitch know
about your whole history
252
00:10:26,609 --> 00:10:29,702
And everything with your
last engagement and everything?
253
00:10:29,796 --> 00:10:31,630
- Mitch does not know
anything about that.
254
00:10:31,781 --> 00:10:33,356
- Oh, sh--
255
00:10:33,449 --> 00:10:34,874
- Nothing.
- Why don't you tell him?
256
00:10:35,026 --> 00:10:37,618
- I'll be honest with you,
I have told guys in the past.
257
00:10:37,638 --> 00:10:41,455
Every time I have told
that story, though,
258
00:10:41,475 --> 00:10:44,625
It has not ended well for me.
259
00:10:44,645 --> 00:10:49,630
No one has been kind
on the receiving end.
260
00:10:49,650 --> 00:10:52,041
And they've looked at it
like something's wrong with me.
261
00:10:52,135 --> 00:10:54,319
- If he runs from it,
let him run.
262
00:10:54,470 --> 00:10:56,303
You did not fail
your last relationship.
263
00:10:56,398 --> 00:10:57,805
- Yeah, right.
- He did.
264
00:10:57,899 --> 00:11:00,141
But I think you need
to be 100% honest
265
00:11:00,160 --> 00:11:03,495
Because this is--you're
setting up your foundation
266
00:11:03,646 --> 00:11:04,996
For your marriage
and your future.
267
00:11:05,223 --> 00:11:06,998
And I think
this is very important.
268
00:11:07,150 --> 00:11:10,001
[soft music]
269
00:11:10,228 --> 00:11:12,337
♪ ♪
270
00:11:12,488 --> 00:11:15,489
- ♪ no time to lose,
not here to lose ♪
271
00:11:15,509 --> 00:11:20,069
♪ I'm gonna go farther,
I'm gonna go through ♪
272
00:11:20,088 --> 00:11:21,754
♪ ♪
273
00:11:21,907 --> 00:11:24,574
- Hey, amber.
How's everything going?
274
00:11:24,592 --> 00:11:26,184
How you been?
It's been a while.
275
00:11:26,411 --> 00:11:30,096
- Of course, we've had,
you know, stranger things
276
00:11:30,190 --> 00:11:33,082
Because it's just like,
every once in a while,
277
00:11:33,176 --> 00:11:34,693
I realize, like,
"oh wait, I forgot
278
00:11:34,844 --> 00:11:36,102
I don't really--
I'm still getting to know you."
279
00:11:36,196 --> 00:11:38,345
You get what I'm saying?
280
00:11:38,365 --> 00:11:42,759
But you know your nephew
got attacked, right?
281
00:11:42,777 --> 00:11:43,943
- What?
282
00:11:44,095 --> 00:11:45,537
- I had turned my head,
283
00:11:45,688 --> 00:11:49,282
And all I hear is newton
crying, and I see justin,
284
00:11:49,376 --> 00:11:54,695
Like, literally pulling
his dog off of newton.
285
00:11:54,789 --> 00:11:57,882
He knew that his dog
was in the wrong,
286
00:11:58,109 --> 00:11:59,776
So he immediately looked
into camps
287
00:11:59,794 --> 00:12:01,461
For her to go training,
288
00:12:01,613 --> 00:12:03,629
So he sent her away to this
training camp for two weeks.
289
00:12:03,782 --> 00:12:05,390
And we're just--we made
290
00:12:05,541 --> 00:12:07,374
An agreement
that we're gonna see.
291
00:12:07,394 --> 00:12:10,119
If she's aggressive still,
then we have a plan for her
292
00:12:10,213 --> 00:12:12,121
To go live
with his best friend.
293
00:12:12,140 --> 00:12:13,898
But I don't know.
294
00:12:14,050 --> 00:12:16,860
It was a big situation.
It really was.
295
00:12:18,964 --> 00:12:20,739
- Hopefully, you know,
it's just something new,
296
00:12:20,890 --> 00:12:22,632
And she was overwhelmed and,
you know, reacted,
297
00:12:22,650 --> 00:12:23,649
And it won't happen again.
298
00:12:23,802 --> 00:12:25,392
- I know.
299
00:12:25,412 --> 00:12:27,078
- So how was your honeymoon?
300
00:12:27,305 --> 00:12:29,989
- Justin told me
he loved me on our honeymoon.
301
00:12:30,141 --> 00:12:33,585
- What?
What'd you say?
302
00:12:33,812 --> 00:12:35,495
Nothing, girl, I tried to run.
You know me.
303
00:12:35,647 --> 00:12:37,146
I was like, "help!"
304
00:12:37,165 --> 00:12:40,550
But then I told justin
I loved him too.
305
00:12:42,262 --> 00:12:45,004
I know, right?
Eek.
306
00:12:45,098 --> 00:12:48,582
- In my head, all I'm saying
is, like, two weeks?
307
00:12:48,676 --> 00:12:50,343
- I don't know.
308
00:12:50,495 --> 00:12:52,996
He's just so sweet,
and he's so lovable.
309
00:12:53,014 --> 00:12:55,498
- Okay,
but those are some big words.
310
00:12:55,517 --> 00:12:57,016
Those are some big words.
311
00:12:57,168 --> 00:12:58,501
Unless you open up that--
312
00:12:58,520 --> 00:13:00,353
I feel like
it's a pandora box.
313
00:13:00,447 --> 00:13:02,280
Like, once you open it up,
it's gonna be hard to close,
314
00:13:02,431 --> 00:13:05,358
And it's gonna be easier
to get hurt.
315
00:13:05,452 --> 00:13:07,010
- You ain't wrong.
316
00:13:07,103 --> 00:13:12,290
- Remember to just
protect your heart.
317
00:13:12,441 --> 00:13:14,626
- I do have some reservations,
so I don't feel
318
00:13:14,853 --> 00:13:18,538
That I'm in love
with him just yet.
319
00:13:18,632 --> 00:13:22,967
Like, my biggest reservation
is that he thinks being vague
320
00:13:23,194 --> 00:13:26,529
And keeping some parts away
from me isn't lying.
321
00:13:26,548 --> 00:13:29,641
Like, he never told me prior
to this that mya had been
322
00:13:29,792 --> 00:13:32,811
In several fights
with other dogs.
323
00:13:32,962 --> 00:13:35,296
Like, if I would have knew that
information on the front end,
324
00:13:35,390 --> 00:13:36,706
It may have changed my actions.
325
00:13:36,724 --> 00:13:39,876
- Ooh, just like, okay,
326
00:13:39,894 --> 00:13:41,727
Now I'm gonna second-guess
everything that you say.
327
00:13:41,822 --> 00:13:43,546
And you don't want ever want
to be in that predicament
328
00:13:43,565 --> 00:13:45,882
With somebody, especially
with somebody you love.
329
00:13:45,900 --> 00:13:47,492
- But I gotta get out
of my head 'cause you know me,
330
00:13:47,643 --> 00:13:51,721
I'll talk myself out
of a perfect situation a lot.
331
00:13:51,814 --> 00:13:53,906
And I do have that fear
of commitment.
332
00:13:54,059 --> 00:13:56,835
So for me, it's just like,
I'm battling.
333
00:13:56,986 --> 00:13:59,245
Is this a logical
thought to have,
334
00:13:59,339 --> 00:14:01,488
Or is it me being typical lex
335
00:14:01,508 --> 00:14:04,843
And not really ready
to commit fully?
336
00:14:05,070 --> 00:14:08,179
So that's why I got
the perspective of, like,
337
00:14:08,406 --> 00:14:09,663
I gotta
kind of give him a break.
338
00:14:09,757 --> 00:14:10,974
You know, like...
339
00:14:12,168 --> 00:14:15,578
Doesn't mean
that he's untruthful.
340
00:14:15,597 --> 00:14:18,505
So I really just need to let
that preside in my mind
341
00:14:18,525 --> 00:14:21,100
When I'm having these
internal conflicts.
342
00:14:21,252 --> 00:14:23,102
- Both of you have
to do your parts.
343
00:14:23,196 --> 00:14:24,770
You have to work on, you know,
giving him a break,
344
00:14:24,865 --> 00:14:27,848
But he has to also work on
trying to be less vague.
345
00:14:27,868 --> 00:14:30,517
One thing I would say is,
continue how you go into it,
346
00:14:30,612 --> 00:14:32,537
Like, openheartedly, you know,
347
00:14:32,764 --> 00:14:34,688
Just giving him
the benefit of the doubt.
348
00:14:34,708 --> 00:14:37,191
But also, be smart about it.
349
00:14:37,285 --> 00:14:40,378
Like, you know, keep your eyes
open to certain things.
350
00:14:40,605 --> 00:14:42,380
Try to love him
unconditionally,
351
00:14:42,531 --> 00:14:47,443
But just, you know, take note
of certain things, you know?
352
00:14:47,462 --> 00:14:49,962
'cause you don't want
to settle, but, you know,
353
00:14:50,115 --> 00:14:52,798
You also want to make sure
this is the right one for you.
354
00:14:52,951 --> 00:14:55,618
- ♪ fell in love
with all the lies ♪
355
00:14:55,711 --> 00:15:00,398
♪ painted pictures
in my mind ♪
356
00:15:02,068 --> 00:15:03,960
♪ ♪
357
00:15:03,978 --> 00:15:06,812
[upbeat music]
358
00:15:06,965 --> 00:15:13,703
♪ ♪
359
00:15:20,828 --> 00:15:22,587
'cause it's like...
360
00:15:22,814 --> 00:15:24,647
- Yeah,
I don't know how you could--
361
00:15:24,666 --> 00:15:26,165
- I don't know how
I could hoop with it.
362
00:15:26,317 --> 00:15:28,834
- Yeah, you gonna take it off
when you hoop?
363
00:15:28,987 --> 00:15:31,745
- I think so.
- [laughs]
364
00:15:31,765 --> 00:15:33,172
- Hi.
365
00:15:33,324 --> 00:15:34,581
- What's up, bro?
366
00:15:34,601 --> 00:15:36,008
- You missed my wedding.
367
00:15:36,161 --> 00:15:37,493
- I did.
I'm sorry.
368
00:15:37,512 --> 00:15:39,586
- Carl's like
my chosen older brother.
369
00:15:39,606 --> 00:15:42,423
I've known that man
for several years,
370
00:15:42,517 --> 00:15:47,520
So it's good to have a male's
perspective on the situation.
371
00:15:47,614 --> 00:15:49,948
- So what's the details
with your husband?
372
00:15:52,026 --> 00:15:53,785
- It's just--it's been hard.
373
00:15:53,936 --> 00:15:56,270
You know,
honeymoon wasn't great.
374
00:15:56,289 --> 00:15:59,031
- How's everything?
You getting to know your wife?
375
00:15:59,125 --> 00:16:01,442
- Yeah, she's beautiful.
She's a great person.
376
00:16:01,461 --> 00:16:04,036
But I asked her some questions,
personal questions,
377
00:16:04,130 --> 00:16:06,947
And I got answers
that I did really, like, like,
378
00:16:07,041 --> 00:16:09,208
And I kind of overreacted.
379
00:16:09,360 --> 00:16:12,211
And I told somebody,
and long story short,
380
00:16:12,305 --> 00:16:16,048
It felt like--she felt
like she got backstabbed.
381
00:16:16,142 --> 00:16:18,868
- All of the red flags
that he's had for me--
382
00:16:18,886 --> 00:16:21,220
Financial stuff, family stuff--
383
00:16:21,372 --> 00:16:24,056
It's all
very surface-level things.
384
00:16:24,209 --> 00:16:25,725
And, like--
- yeah.
385
00:16:25,819 --> 00:16:29,228
- Yeah, and it's--you know,
there's never been a red flag
386
00:16:29,322 --> 00:16:32,991
About my personality,
or who I am, or my character.
387
00:16:33,142 --> 00:16:36,068
And, you know, honestly,
I don't think he's seeing me
388
00:16:36,221 --> 00:16:39,813
For, like,
the person that I am.
389
00:16:39,907 --> 00:16:42,500
- I'm trying to move on,
but after she felt backstabbed,
390
00:16:42,651 --> 00:16:44,818
She told me
she doesn't trust me.
391
00:16:44,838 --> 00:16:46,562
And then when we talked
to pastor cal,
392
00:16:46,581 --> 00:16:49,232
She was telling him that
I wasn't touching her enough,
393
00:16:49,250 --> 00:16:51,083
Or I wasn't giving her her pda.
394
00:16:51,177 --> 00:16:53,845
And at that point, I was like,
bro, I'm so confused.
395
00:16:54,072 --> 00:16:55,513
Like, you told me
one thing one day,
396
00:16:55,664 --> 00:16:57,256
And then the next,
you do another.
397
00:16:57,350 --> 00:16:59,425
Like, to me, I'm just trying
to make you happy.
398
00:16:59,577 --> 00:17:01,686
Like, what do I do?
399
00:17:04,415 --> 00:17:06,858
- I mean,
I am playing a part in this too
400
00:17:07,009 --> 00:17:08,751
Because I've been
very closed off,
401
00:17:08,770 --> 00:17:10,695
And I've had my walls up,
and I don't trust him.
402
00:17:10,922 --> 00:17:13,013
So I mean, it's hard
to really, like,
403
00:17:13,033 --> 00:17:14,774
Open up to him right now
404
00:17:14,926 --> 00:17:17,943
Because I still feel like
I don't really trust him.
405
00:17:18,038 --> 00:17:19,929
And it's hard.
406
00:17:19,947 --> 00:17:20,946
- The reality is,
you do deserve happiness.
407
00:17:21,099 --> 00:17:22,689
- Yeah.
408
00:17:22,709 --> 00:17:23,933
- Whatever that looks
like to you.
409
00:17:23,951 --> 00:17:25,451
- Yeah.
- Everybody does.
410
00:17:25,545 --> 00:17:28,287
- And I came into this wanting,
like, to be in love
411
00:17:28,381 --> 00:17:31,123
And wanting someone
who was gonna actually see me.
412
00:17:31,276 --> 00:17:34,034
And this entire time,
binh has only seen me
413
00:17:34,054 --> 00:17:39,039
For just this little sliver
that I am.
414
00:17:39,059 --> 00:17:41,208
And let's be honest,
I'm not happy right now.
415
00:17:41,227 --> 00:17:43,619
I'm not.
416
00:17:43,638 --> 00:17:45,897
- It sounds like you have way
more drama
417
00:17:46,048 --> 00:17:49,400
Than you probably predicted,
but it takes time.
418
00:17:49,627 --> 00:17:51,051
I mean, I've had
long-term relationships.
419
00:17:51,145 --> 00:17:52,628
You know...
- Yeah.
420
00:17:52,647 --> 00:17:54,388
- I think, like, even living
421
00:17:54,407 --> 00:17:56,816
With a girl for over a year
or two years,
422
00:17:56,968 --> 00:17:59,243
I think it takes way longer
than that even...
423
00:17:59,395 --> 00:18:00,912
- Yeah.
- To truly know somebody.
424
00:18:01,063 --> 00:18:02,563
And, you know, know
425
00:18:02,582 --> 00:18:04,082
If, you know,
that's your person.
426
00:18:04,309 --> 00:18:05,899
So maybe everything
just moved too fast.
427
00:18:05,919 --> 00:18:06,976
It just take more time
for you guys...
428
00:18:06,994 --> 00:18:08,419
- Yeah.
429
00:18:08,646 --> 00:18:09,995
- You know,
for your chemistry to build.
430
00:18:10,090 --> 00:18:11,480
You know, I don't doubt
that you're committed
431
00:18:11,499 --> 00:18:14,092
And you're in it.
432
00:18:15,077 --> 00:18:17,578
- Okay, listen, my thoughts.
433
00:18:17,597 --> 00:18:20,414
- Yes.
434
00:18:20,433 --> 00:18:22,916
- Put your walls down.
Talk to him.
435
00:18:23,010 --> 00:18:24,769
Oh yeah.
Go ahead, get mad.
436
00:18:24,996 --> 00:18:27,330
- Carl, I--
437
00:18:27,423 --> 00:18:28,831
- Get mad.
That's fine.
438
00:18:28,850 --> 00:18:30,257
- I don't know.
439
00:18:30,351 --> 00:18:32,168
- But at the end of it,
440
00:18:32,186 --> 00:18:33,778
That's the best thing
you can do...
441
00:18:34,005 --> 00:18:36,263
- Yeah.
- Is flat out talk to him.
442
00:18:36,282 --> 00:18:37,764
Regardless
of what has happened,
443
00:18:37,859 --> 00:18:39,433
What has transpired--
444
00:18:39,452 --> 00:18:40,952
Do you remember
that conversation
445
00:18:41,179 --> 00:18:42,027
We had a while ago
about growth?
446
00:18:42,122 --> 00:18:43,362
- Yeah.
447
00:18:43,456 --> 00:18:44,864
- It is growth.
448
00:18:45,016 --> 00:18:46,349
- Yeah.
449
00:18:46,367 --> 00:18:49,443
- And growth is painful, okay?
450
00:18:49,537 --> 00:18:53,372
He did this for a reason too.
Definitely open up, though.
451
00:18:53,466 --> 00:18:57,301
I'm not gonna sugarcoat that
'cause I know you,
452
00:18:57,528 --> 00:18:58,952
And I know
where you're at right now,
453
00:18:58,972 --> 00:19:01,046
And I know
where your head's at.
454
00:19:01,141 --> 00:19:04,033
You're gonna have
to let that [bleep] go.
455
00:19:04,051 --> 00:19:06,960
- You tell me like it is,
and I need that
456
00:19:07,054 --> 00:19:09,538
Because I want to have that
person for the rest of my life.
457
00:19:09,632 --> 00:19:12,316
But it's just--it's been hard.
458
00:19:12,468 --> 00:19:15,987
[soft music]
459
00:19:16,138 --> 00:19:18,305
- ♪ I just want to feel good ♪
460
00:19:18,324 --> 00:19:20,549
♪ is that too much
to ask for? ♪
461
00:19:20,643 --> 00:19:23,402
♪ maybe even laugh more ♪
462
00:19:23,554 --> 00:19:25,479
♪ I'm just trying
to really feel good ♪
463
00:19:25,498 --> 00:19:27,981
- This looks good.
464
00:19:28,001 --> 00:19:30,559
- I haven't seen you
since the wedding.
465
00:19:30,653 --> 00:19:31,985
- Yeah,
and even at the wedding,
466
00:19:32,005 --> 00:19:33,412
I didn't get to see you much.
467
00:19:33,564 --> 00:19:34,580
- It was a blast.
Did you have a good time?
468
00:19:34,732 --> 00:19:36,081
- It was good, yeah.
469
00:19:36,176 --> 00:19:37,675
I mean, I remember
you just being super pumped
470
00:19:37,826 --> 00:19:39,159
When you saw her,
like, walk out.
471
00:19:39,179 --> 00:19:41,012
- Yeah, no, I was, like,
472
00:19:41,163 --> 00:19:43,681
Super happy when she was,
like, walking down the aisle.
473
00:19:43,832 --> 00:19:47,167
And the more we get to know
each other, it's just like,
474
00:19:47,187 --> 00:19:49,687
Damn, like,
this is kind of unreal.
475
00:19:49,914 --> 00:19:51,355
You know what I'm saying?
There's chemistry.
476
00:19:51,507 --> 00:19:53,082
You know, we're, like,
giggly around each other,
477
00:19:53,100 --> 00:19:54,767
And we kiss on each other.
478
00:19:54,919 --> 00:19:56,919
So, it's--like,
it's a real relationship.
479
00:19:56,938 --> 00:19:58,529
- And have you been, like,
480
00:19:58,681 --> 00:20:00,198
Opening up
to her a little bit more?
481
00:20:00,425 --> 00:20:01,682
'cause I know sometimes
you have, like,
482
00:20:01,701 --> 00:20:04,327
A hard shell,
where it takes a while.
483
00:20:06,597 --> 00:20:08,113
- I don't think--
- you try to be vulnerable.
484
00:20:08,208 --> 00:20:09,207
- I don't think
I have a hard shell, but...
485
00:20:09,358 --> 00:20:10,875
- I mean,
you've been open with me,
486
00:20:11,102 --> 00:20:12,210
But this is,
like, in a different...
487
00:20:12,361 --> 00:20:13,711
- Right.
- Capacity.
488
00:20:13,938 --> 00:20:16,121
- Stacia,
she's been going to therapy.
489
00:20:16,274 --> 00:20:18,290
She goes to therapy, so--
- I think that's amazing.
490
00:20:18,443 --> 00:20:20,885
- She's--yeah,
she's very comfortable, right?
491
00:20:21,112 --> 00:20:22,720
She knows how
to process her feelings.
492
00:20:22,947 --> 00:20:25,223
She knows her insecurities
very well.
493
00:20:25,450 --> 00:20:27,207
- Yeah.
- Like, her fears, all that.
494
00:20:27,227 --> 00:20:30,286
And so she can just, like,
talk about anything, right?
495
00:20:30,304 --> 00:20:32,730
I feel like I'm processing
my feelings really well.
496
00:20:32,957 --> 00:20:34,306
Like, I feel like
I'm very articulate
497
00:20:34,400 --> 00:20:36,067
At sharing my--you know,
498
00:20:36,218 --> 00:20:38,961
My emotions
and being vulnerable,
499
00:20:39,054 --> 00:20:41,239
But she doesn't agree
with that.
500
00:20:43,484 --> 00:20:45,301
She was like,
"I want you to go deeper."
501
00:20:45,394 --> 00:20:47,636
And I'm like,
I'm doing my best.
502
00:20:47,655 --> 00:20:49,747
Like, I've literally shared
my whole life story.
503
00:20:49,898 --> 00:20:51,490
Like, slept in my car.
504
00:20:51,584 --> 00:20:53,492
Like, you know,
I grew up lower middle class.
505
00:20:53,586 --> 00:20:56,069
And I was like, I don't know
how deeper I could get.
506
00:20:56,163 --> 00:20:57,421
Like, I don't know how.
507
00:20:57,648 --> 00:20:59,740
So, I mean,
maybe I need to go to therapy.
508
00:20:59,759 --> 00:21:02,318
So I'm actually gonna
sign up for therapy.
509
00:21:02,336 --> 00:21:04,837
- What, really?
- Yeah.
510
00:21:04,989 --> 00:21:07,840
Like, you know,
that's actions speaking, right?
511
00:21:07,934 --> 00:21:09,508
- Yeah.
512
00:21:09,660 --> 00:21:11,585
- It's like, maybe I don't know
how to do it now,
513
00:21:11,604 --> 00:21:13,253
But I'm gonna go to therapy,
so I can actually learn how...
514
00:21:13,273 --> 00:21:14,272
- You're taking that step
and showing her.
515
00:21:14,499 --> 00:21:15,589
- To dig deeper,
you know what I'm saying?
516
00:21:15,608 --> 00:21:16,849
- Have you told her that?
- I told her that.
517
00:21:17,001 --> 00:21:20,336
And she was very happy
about my decision, so...
518
00:21:20,354 --> 00:21:22,171
- So you think that's--
- happy wife, happy life.
519
00:21:22,189 --> 00:21:23,948
- No, no.
520
00:21:24,099 --> 00:21:25,616
That's not--I don't want you
to just be, like, a yes...
521
00:21:25,768 --> 00:21:26,951
- No, no, no, no, no, no.
- Husband.
522
00:21:27,178 --> 00:21:28,844
- This is a big change
in my life,
523
00:21:28,863 --> 00:21:32,031
So maybe I need to,
like, discover myself more,
524
00:21:32,125 --> 00:21:34,083
So that way,
our relationship can be better.
525
00:21:36,203 --> 00:21:40,298
But one of my fears is, like,
I don't want to, like,
526
00:21:40,449 --> 00:21:43,859
Get vulnerable and then,
like, after decision day,
527
00:21:43,952 --> 00:21:45,544
It's just like,
she switches up.
528
00:21:45,638 --> 00:21:47,621
- Yeah.
529
00:21:47,715 --> 00:21:48,881
- 'cause this is kind of, like,
a mind game to me right now.
530
00:21:48,975 --> 00:21:50,866
- But that's the risk.
531
00:21:50,885 --> 00:21:52,626
You might get hurt,
or you may be happy forever.
532
00:21:52,645 --> 00:21:54,645
You have to go all-in.
533
00:21:56,965 --> 00:22:00,651
- ♪ close to the edge ♪
534
00:22:00,803 --> 00:22:04,471
♪ I'm hearing your voice
calling out for me ♪
535
00:22:04,490 --> 00:22:06,306
- Can we, like,
do some taste testing
536
00:22:06,400 --> 00:22:08,217
For mimosas for the party?
537
00:22:08,235 --> 00:22:10,811
I want to make them look
as futuristic as possible.
538
00:22:10,830 --> 00:22:12,905
- Yes.
539
00:22:12,999 --> 00:22:19,503
♪ ♪
540
00:22:22,400 --> 00:22:24,416
- Oh, oh!
541
00:22:24,510 --> 00:22:27,570
♪ ♪
542
00:22:27,663 --> 00:22:29,755
- I just want to lick the rim.
543
00:22:29,907 --> 00:22:31,423
- Isn't the rim really good?
544
00:22:31,576 --> 00:22:32,591
- Rim job.
- You gotta trust me on that.
545
00:22:32,743 --> 00:22:34,334
- Tonight is never gonna end.
546
00:22:34,428 --> 00:22:36,261
- If we can shift gears...
547
00:22:36,356 --> 00:22:39,248
- Let's shift--yeah, let's go.
- Pun intended.
548
00:22:39,341 --> 00:22:41,859
- 'cause I like
to ride my bike?
549
00:22:42,086 --> 00:22:46,012
- [mimicking
bicycle gears clicking]
550
00:22:46,032 --> 00:22:50,368
I have a relationship history
551
00:22:50,519 --> 00:22:53,353
That I have not
shared with you.
552
00:22:53,373 --> 00:22:55,706
And in the past,
553
00:22:55,933 --> 00:22:58,283
It has not been
very well received.
554
00:22:58,378 --> 00:23:00,044
[tense music]
555
00:23:00,195 --> 00:23:02,271
So you know how
I mentioned to you
556
00:23:02,289 --> 00:23:03,864
That I have an ex-boyfriend,
557
00:23:03,883 --> 00:23:06,625
And he and I dated
for like six years?
558
00:23:06,719 --> 00:23:09,962
- Yeah.
559
00:23:10,114 --> 00:23:12,798
- He was actually my fiancé.
560
00:23:12,950 --> 00:23:16,376
♪ ♪
561
00:23:16,396 --> 00:23:18,187
- Hmm.
562
00:23:21,792 --> 00:23:24,476
- So anyway, we were engaged
for about a year,
563
00:23:24,629 --> 00:23:29,465
And he started
to act a little differently
564
00:23:29,483 --> 00:23:32,076
About six months
prior to our wedding.
565
00:23:32,303 --> 00:23:34,728
He assured me
he just had cold feet
566
00:23:34,747 --> 00:23:37,397
And that he was just
a little confused,
567
00:23:37,417 --> 00:23:39,250
But he wanted to get married.
568
00:23:39,477 --> 00:23:43,312
About two weeks
before our wedding,
569
00:23:43,405 --> 00:23:46,482
This girl told me
that her and my fiancé
570
00:23:46,500 --> 00:23:48,834
Had been having an affair
for the last six months.
571
00:23:48,928 --> 00:23:51,320
♪ ♪
572
00:23:51,338 --> 00:23:52,596
- Whoa.
573
00:23:56,769 --> 00:23:59,161
- And I went to him,
and I said, you know,
574
00:23:59,254 --> 00:24:00,754
"you and I are
completely over."
575
00:24:00,773 --> 00:24:02,998
- Wow.
576
00:24:03,017 --> 00:24:06,444
- And it was pretty traumatic,
to be honest with you.
577
00:24:06,671 --> 00:24:10,172
I nearly spent
my entire life savings
578
00:24:10,191 --> 00:24:13,509
On this destination wedding.
579
00:24:13,527 --> 00:24:17,196
So the next morning,
me and my mom typed up an email
580
00:24:17,290 --> 00:24:20,124
To all of our wedding guests
and we said, you know,
581
00:24:20,351 --> 00:24:23,127
We would still like
to go to the wedding,
582
00:24:23,354 --> 00:24:26,130
But there would not be
a groom there.
583
00:24:26,281 --> 00:24:28,540
But it would just be--
584
00:24:28,634 --> 00:24:31,043
- Well, that's kind of weird.
- Why is that weird?
585
00:24:31,137 --> 00:24:32,619
- I don't know.
586
00:24:32,638 --> 00:24:34,788
Sorry.
587
00:24:34,807 --> 00:24:36,215
- Yeah, no,
I don't think it's weird.
588
00:24:36,367 --> 00:24:39,292
I think it's great.
589
00:24:39,312 --> 00:24:42,054
Everyone from my rsvp list
still came.
590
00:24:42,206 --> 00:24:46,058
So that's my story.
591
00:24:46,152 --> 00:24:50,654
♪ ♪
592
00:24:50,806 --> 00:24:54,307
- Well, may I respond?
593
00:24:54,327 --> 00:24:56,285
- Please, god.
594
00:24:58,739 --> 00:25:00,498
Are we high fiving?
595
00:25:00,649 --> 00:25:03,167
- No, we're just gonna
hold hands under the table.
596
00:25:03,394 --> 00:25:05,002
So I'm sorry
that happened to you...
597
00:25:05,229 --> 00:25:07,579
- Thank you.
- First and foremost.
598
00:25:07,673 --> 00:25:09,656
That doesn't phase me
599
00:25:09,675 --> 00:25:11,416
Because you didn't do
anything wrong.
600
00:25:11,569 --> 00:25:12,676
- Thank you.
601
00:25:12,828 --> 00:25:14,069
- It doesn't change
anything for me.
602
00:25:14,162 --> 00:25:15,846
It doesn't change how I feel,
603
00:25:15,998 --> 00:25:17,831
Doesn't change
my respect for you.
604
00:25:17,850 --> 00:25:21,334
And I hope that you know
605
00:25:21,354 --> 00:25:24,021
By now about me of how I deal
606
00:25:24,248 --> 00:25:25,856
With when I'm not sure
about something.
607
00:25:26,083 --> 00:25:26,932
It's not like
how he dealt with it.
608
00:25:27,084 --> 00:25:28,767
- Right.
609
00:25:28,861 --> 00:25:30,435
- And I deal with it
by bringing it to the table...
610
00:25:30,588 --> 00:25:32,254
- Yeah.
- As an honest partner...
611
00:25:32,347 --> 00:25:33,605
- Right.
- In this marriage.
612
00:25:33,699 --> 00:25:35,257
- Yeah.
613
00:25:35,276 --> 00:25:37,426
- So I will never do
what he did to you.
614
00:25:37,444 --> 00:25:39,428
- Thank you.
615
00:25:39,446 --> 00:25:43,098
That is my biggest secret,
and I shared it,
616
00:25:43,117 --> 00:25:45,267
And he was just so sweet
and understanding.
617
00:25:45,360 --> 00:25:48,287
And now, after sharing it,
618
00:25:48,381 --> 00:25:51,774
I know that he can kind of
take the worst of it.
619
00:25:51,792 --> 00:25:53,942
I fully, fully trust him.
620
00:25:53,961 --> 00:25:57,446
I'm feeling so good
about my future with mitch.
621
00:25:57,464 --> 00:26:02,184
- ♪ so now I'm looking
for something new ♪
622
00:26:03,954 --> 00:26:05,637
♪
623
00:26:05,731 --> 00:26:09,549
[soft music]
624
00:26:09,569 --> 00:26:11,476
- This morning,
625
00:26:11,629 --> 00:26:13,237
Newton started
to throw up blood.
626
00:26:22,823 --> 00:26:24,206
Why didn't you tell me that,
justin?
627
00:27:34,061 --> 00:27:37,470
I'm struggling right now with
my emotions towards justin,
628
00:27:37,490 --> 00:27:40,549
And he continues to add
to this one side of my head
629
00:27:40,567 --> 00:27:42,159
That keeps saying
"he's hiding stuff.
630
00:27:42,310 --> 00:27:43,810
"he's disingenuous.
631
00:27:43,829 --> 00:27:45,663
"he is manipulative in the way
632
00:27:45,814 --> 00:27:47,480
Of he's telling--
he's being vague."
633
00:27:47,500 --> 00:27:50,817
And that's manipulation to me.
That's manipulation.
634
00:27:50,836 --> 00:27:52,895
- ♪ it's my life,
gonna do what I want to do ♪
635
00:27:52,913 --> 00:27:54,838
♪ what I want to do ♪
636
00:27:54,990 --> 00:27:56,656
- What did you envision us
getting at the party store?
637
00:27:56,676 --> 00:28:00,135
- A giant intergalactic
strobe light.
638
00:28:01,347 --> 00:28:05,757
I want the lighting
to be real futuristic.
639
00:28:05,910 --> 00:28:07,409
And you know, we're not
going to the party store.
640
00:28:07,428 --> 00:28:08,911
- Okay.
641
00:28:08,929 --> 00:28:10,521
- We're going
to raphael's party rental,
642
00:28:10,748 --> 00:28:13,248
Which is different
because the party store,
643
00:28:13,267 --> 00:28:16,418
All you have there is trash,
and junk, and crap.
644
00:28:16,437 --> 00:28:18,845
[light music]
645
00:28:18,864 --> 00:28:21,256
And then at rafael's, you have
cool stuff that you rent,
646
00:28:21,275 --> 00:28:24,109
And you use it,
and then you bring it back.
647
00:28:24,203 --> 00:28:27,612
- I think that our party guests
are gonna know
648
00:28:27,765 --> 00:28:31,024
Where you stand on trash,
649
00:28:31,118 --> 00:28:33,618
And they are gonna know
650
00:28:33,713 --> 00:28:36,104
That everything going
into this party is reusable.
651
00:28:36,123 --> 00:28:38,774
- I hope they stand with us.
652
00:28:38,792 --> 00:28:40,959
[upbeat music]
653
00:28:41,111 --> 00:28:43,387
- So I want to hang these
from the ceiling,
654
00:28:43,538 --> 00:28:45,038
So when everybody, like,
walks in,
655
00:28:45,057 --> 00:28:46,039
They're gonna be, like,
hanging from--
656
00:28:46,133 --> 00:28:47,282
- Dangling?
- Yeah.
657
00:28:47,301 --> 00:28:48,541
- Okay.
- As decoration.
658
00:28:48,561 --> 00:28:50,302
- I love that.
That's dope.
659
00:28:50,454 --> 00:28:52,563
- Thank you.
- That's groovy.
660
00:28:52,714 --> 00:28:55,474
- We want
to throw a party that's--
661
00:28:55,626 --> 00:28:57,568
- The theme--
- the theme is--
662
00:28:57,795 --> 00:28:59,570
- Contestants on a game show.
- Yes.
663
00:28:59,797 --> 00:29:00,812
- What's up, brother?
How you doing today?
664
00:29:00,965 --> 00:29:02,130
- How you doing?
- Good, man.
665
00:29:02,224 --> 00:29:02,814
I got a tacos
and tequila party.
666
00:29:02,967 --> 00:29:04,483
- Okay.
667
00:29:04,635 --> 00:29:06,651
- I'm looking
for some great value tequila.
668
00:29:06,804 --> 00:29:08,136
- All right, man, I got you.
- Is there anything fruity?
669
00:29:08,230 --> 00:29:09,413
- Fruity?
- For my friends, not for me.
670
00:29:09,564 --> 00:29:11,156
- Okay.
[laughs]
671
00:29:11,250 --> 00:29:15,143
- We don't know what
our friends are dressing up as.
672
00:29:15,162 --> 00:29:16,587
But, miguel,
do you want to do, like--
673
00:29:16,814 --> 00:29:18,255
[laughs]
674
00:29:18,406 --> 00:29:20,482
Do you want to do
like, a theme, or individual,
675
00:29:20,501 --> 00:29:23,652
Or is it just like, we're
gonna see it and we'll know?
676
00:29:23,670 --> 00:29:26,338
- Yeah, I think
if something calls out to you.
677
00:29:26,432 --> 00:29:28,507
'cause I don't know, yeah,
quite--oh, but hold up.
678
00:29:28,601 --> 00:29:30,342
I mean...
679
00:29:30,494 --> 00:29:32,269
- That's pretty cool.
Wait, is that a cane?
680
00:29:32,496 --> 00:29:33,829
- Pimp--it's a pimp cane.
- Pimp cane?
681
00:29:33,847 --> 00:29:35,680
[both laugh]
682
00:29:35,833 --> 00:29:37,349
Okay.
Ooh, look at this leather.
683
00:29:37,501 --> 00:29:39,351
Ooh!
684
00:29:39,445 --> 00:29:41,019
♪ ♪
685
00:29:41,171 --> 00:29:42,838
- Not for the party,
686
00:29:42,856 --> 00:29:43,781
But you could wear
that some other time.
687
00:29:46,527 --> 00:29:49,435
- ♪ I think it's time we both
say what we gotta say ♪
688
00:29:49,530 --> 00:29:52,939
♪ and pray the two of us
will slay on another day ♪
689
00:29:52,958 --> 00:29:56,293
- Hi.
- Hi, welcome to my candy shop.
690
00:29:56,520 --> 00:29:58,186
- We're having
a housewarming today.
691
00:29:58,205 --> 00:29:59,855
'90s theme.
- Oh, okay.
692
00:29:59,873 --> 00:30:01,465
- I signed up
for this process,
693
00:30:01,616 --> 00:30:03,616
And I knew
it wouldn't be easy,
694
00:30:03,636 --> 00:30:06,136
And now that I'm in it,
I'm trying to follow through,
695
00:30:06,288 --> 00:30:09,548
But it's very hard,
so I just gotta do baby steps.
696
00:30:09,642 --> 00:30:12,534
Like, still go and get
the supplies for the party.
697
00:30:12,553 --> 00:30:15,537
Still act like
the party's happening,
698
00:30:15,630 --> 00:30:18,056
Even if I know
it may not happen.
699
00:30:18,208 --> 00:30:21,043
- I have individual stuff,
and I also have stuff in bins.
700
00:30:21,136 --> 00:30:23,970
- If we do,
I am really interested
701
00:30:23,989 --> 00:30:26,472
In seeing, like,
justin's friends,
702
00:30:26,492 --> 00:30:30,068
Maybe have some insight
on where we would go wrong.
703
00:30:30,220 --> 00:30:32,387
How did I go wrong
in addressing justin?
704
00:30:32,406 --> 00:30:33,980
But I'm not gonna be fake.
705
00:30:33,999 --> 00:30:35,240
I'm gonna sit down
and be like,
706
00:30:35,392 --> 00:30:36,892
"look,
we're having this party.
707
00:30:36,910 --> 00:30:37,576
"we're having my--
our friends over,
708
00:30:37,670 --> 00:30:39,244
But we're not good."
709
00:30:39,338 --> 00:30:41,413
Michelle, you said
'90s were ring pop, right?
710
00:30:41,507 --> 00:30:44,900
- Oh yes, ring pops, blow pops,
whistle pops.
711
00:30:44,918 --> 00:30:47,419
- All the pops.
- Uh-huh.
712
00:30:47,513 --> 00:30:49,829
[soft music]
713
00:30:49,849 --> 00:30:51,590
- Couple of these.
714
00:30:51,742 --> 00:30:53,517
I guess--
- let's see.
715
00:30:53,744 --> 00:30:55,410
- Hey.
- Hi, nice of you to join us.
716
00:30:55,429 --> 00:30:57,688
- Thank you, how are you?
- I've been better.
717
00:31:09,093 --> 00:31:13,929
So how you feeling?
718
00:31:13,947 --> 00:31:17,374
- I mean, I'm fine.
I'm not upset at you, you know.
719
00:31:17,525 --> 00:31:19,042
- Since when?
720
00:31:19,194 --> 00:31:21,119
'cause this morning,
you were cursing and yelling.
721
00:31:21,213 --> 00:31:23,772
- Yeah, I mean,
you keep telling me every time
722
00:31:23,865 --> 00:31:25,549
When we bicker
that you're done.
723
00:31:25,776 --> 00:31:27,459
I'm just like,
well, like, I want to fight
724
00:31:27,611 --> 00:31:29,461
For our marriage,
but when you say,
725
00:31:29,613 --> 00:31:31,204
"hey, I'm done,"
I don't know what that means.
726
00:31:31,223 --> 00:31:32,389
- You said that
this morning as well,
727
00:31:32,616 --> 00:31:34,633
And you repeating it now
makes me clear
728
00:31:34,785 --> 00:31:37,043
That you don't listen to me.
729
00:31:37,137 --> 00:31:38,562
I'm done
with this conversation
730
00:31:38,789 --> 00:31:39,712
'cause I feel like
you don't hear me.
731
00:31:39,732 --> 00:31:43,141
That's what "I'm done" means.
732
00:31:43,293 --> 00:31:47,738
My biggest thing was,
hey, you're vague with me.
733
00:31:47,889 --> 00:31:49,722
I want you to overshare.
734
00:31:49,742 --> 00:31:51,057
And you looked me dead
in my eyes and said,
735
00:31:51,076 --> 00:31:52,467
"yeah, I'm gonna tell you
so much, babe,
736
00:31:52,560 --> 00:31:53,744
You're gonna be tired
of hearing me."
737
00:31:53,971 --> 00:31:56,062
You know, like,
we agreed to that.
738
00:31:56,156 --> 00:31:57,730
- And I meant that.
739
00:31:57,824 --> 00:31:59,732
But it's--you gotta also look
at it from perspective,
740
00:31:59,826 --> 00:32:01,084
You know what I'm saying?
741
00:32:01,236 --> 00:32:02,644
Literally,
in my thought process,
742
00:32:02,663 --> 00:32:04,146
I thought
I was helping the situation.
743
00:32:04,239 --> 00:32:05,738
I thought I was being helpful.
744
00:32:05,832 --> 00:32:09,151
- He was vomiting up blood.
He hadn't eaten in two days.
745
00:32:09,244 --> 00:32:10,594
You still didn't
share that to me.
746
00:32:10,745 --> 00:32:11,762
- I thought I knew
what I was doing.
747
00:32:11,989 --> 00:32:13,672
- I get that's what
you're saying,
748
00:32:13,824 --> 00:32:15,490
But why does
you holding back information
749
00:32:15,509 --> 00:32:17,008
Translate to being helpful
750
00:32:17,161 --> 00:32:18,660
When I asked
you not to do that?
751
00:32:18,753 --> 00:32:21,772
- I didn't
withdraw information.
752
00:32:21,999 --> 00:32:23,848
The reason
I didn't overcommunicate,
753
00:32:24,001 --> 00:32:25,258
Because I didn't feel like it
was necessary,
754
00:32:25,352 --> 00:32:26,777
'cause I was handling it.
755
00:32:27,762 --> 00:32:29,595
But also--
756
00:32:29,615 --> 00:32:30,781
- You just said, "the reason
I didn't overcommunicate,"
757
00:32:30,932 --> 00:32:32,282
When I asked you
to overcommunicate.
758
00:32:32,434 --> 00:32:34,526
That's the bottom line
what I'm trying to say.
759
00:32:34,620 --> 00:32:37,437
I asked you to do something,
and you agreed to do it,
760
00:32:37,531 --> 00:32:39,456
And then you didn't.
761
00:32:39,607 --> 00:32:41,866
So for me to be just fed up
over somebody who,
762
00:32:42,019 --> 00:32:44,110
At one point,
it was rainbows and sunshine,
763
00:32:44,129 --> 00:32:46,463
It's draining.
764
00:32:46,614 --> 00:32:48,190
- If that's the case,
765
00:32:48,283 --> 00:32:50,025
Then I just
won't say anything at all.
766
00:32:50,043 --> 00:32:51,784
- That's how marriages work.
767
00:32:51,878 --> 00:32:53,378
We just don't communicate,
and we're just in the house.
768
00:32:53,472 --> 00:32:54,879
- Because you like when
we have moments like this.
769
00:32:55,032 --> 00:32:57,866
- For what?
- I don't know, I don't know.
770
00:32:57,884 --> 00:32:59,217
But you get aroused
out of that [bleep].
771
00:32:59,369 --> 00:33:01,203
And that's cool.
You know, it is what it is.
772
00:33:01,221 --> 00:33:03,129
- All right, 'cause you doing
the absolute most.
773
00:33:03,223 --> 00:33:04,539
- Okay.
- Like--
774
00:33:04,558 --> 00:33:06,374
- You just want to be heard,
775
00:33:06,393 --> 00:33:07,967
And you don't want
to understand what I'm saying.
776
00:33:07,987 --> 00:33:09,728
- Justin, you can do
whatever you gotta go
777
00:33:09,822 --> 00:33:11,546
'cause I'm not in it.
778
00:33:11,565 --> 00:33:12,881
- Ain't no point of us
having this conversation
779
00:33:12,899 --> 00:33:14,049
If you don't want to listen.
780
00:33:14,142 --> 00:33:15,308
You listening to reply.
- Okay.
781
00:33:15,327 --> 00:33:16,326
- You not listening
to understand.
782
00:33:16,553 --> 00:33:19,162
Just like you're doing now.
- Justin.
783
00:33:19,314 --> 00:33:21,999
You're like,
"oh, you like drama."
784
00:33:22,226 --> 00:33:27,896
What?
I'm not a person that argues.
785
00:33:27,914 --> 00:33:30,565
And I feel really disrespected
that you sat there
786
00:33:30,584 --> 00:33:33,493
And said I getting aroused--
I get--I enjoy this.
787
00:33:33,587 --> 00:33:35,012
- It seems like it, babe.
788
00:33:35,163 --> 00:33:37,072
I'm just telling you
how I'm feeling.
789
00:33:37,090 --> 00:33:38,348
- And I'm telling you
that I feel that
790
00:33:38,575 --> 00:33:39,832
That is
very disrespectful thing to say
791
00:33:39,852 --> 00:33:42,761
Based on my character,
so with all respect,
792
00:33:42,913 --> 00:33:44,521
I don't want to seem like
I'm shutting down,
793
00:33:44,748 --> 00:33:46,839
I don't want to seem like
I'm running,
794
00:33:46,933 --> 00:33:48,600
But in this moment,
795
00:33:48,694 --> 00:33:50,769
I cannot communicate
with you with this hostility.
796
00:33:50,921 --> 00:33:52,696
I can't.
797
00:33:52,847 --> 00:33:54,589
I don't know
where to go from here.
798
00:33:54,608 --> 00:33:57,683
I don't know what to do.
I'm not in a good space.
799
00:33:57,778 --> 00:34:00,428
Can you un-mic me?
800
00:34:00,447 --> 00:34:03,431
[dramatic music]
801
00:34:03,450 --> 00:34:13,866
♪ ♪
802
00:34:13,886 --> 00:34:16,720
- ♪ don't forget to love,
yeah ♪
803
00:34:16,871 --> 00:34:19,556
♪ don't forget to love ♪
804
00:34:19,707 --> 00:34:21,374
- Can I get some gems
for my face?
805
00:34:21,468 --> 00:34:23,042
Or no?
It's up to you.
806
00:34:23,062 --> 00:34:25,878
- No, I like...
807
00:34:25,898 --> 00:34:27,455
- Non--
- a manly-looking man.
808
00:34:27,549 --> 00:34:29,140
- Our newlyweds are about
809
00:34:29,234 --> 00:34:31,126
To bring their friends
and family together
810
00:34:31,144 --> 00:34:34,554
And host their very first party
as a married couple.
811
00:34:34,573 --> 00:34:36,073
- We're all ready...
- We're out and about.
812
00:34:36,300 --> 00:34:38,391
- For our '70s party,
and of course,
813
00:34:38,410 --> 00:34:41,078
I forgot to tell husband
to get crackers for the brie,
814
00:34:41,229 --> 00:34:43,822
So we headed
to the grocery store.
815
00:34:43,916 --> 00:34:45,898
- In our afros.
816
00:34:45,992 --> 00:34:50,161
- Merging their two lives
into one is a major first step,
817
00:34:50,314 --> 00:34:52,647
One that can often be hard
to navigate
818
00:34:52,740 --> 00:34:54,999
And is incredibly important
819
00:34:55,094 --> 00:34:57,928
For the success
and longevity of the marriage.
820
00:34:58,079 --> 00:35:00,155
- I don't know why
I feel nervous.
821
00:35:00,173 --> 00:35:03,249
Like, I'm, like, so curious how
our friends are gonna interact.
822
00:35:03,268 --> 00:35:06,085
- Although these parties
are meant to be celebratory,
823
00:35:06,105 --> 00:35:07,846
They're also a test
824
00:35:07,998 --> 00:35:10,107
And a way to get feedback
on their spouse,
825
00:35:10,258 --> 00:35:12,000
So there's a lot at stake.
826
00:35:12,018 --> 00:35:13,501
[knock at door]
827
00:35:13,520 --> 00:35:15,278
- Uh-oh, here comes trouble.
828
00:35:15,430 --> 00:35:17,263
- Who's it gonna be?
829
00:35:17,282 --> 00:35:19,674
Who's it gonna be?
830
00:35:19,767 --> 00:35:21,526
- Hey!
- It's time to get funky.
831
00:35:21,678 --> 00:35:23,769
- Hey!
- [laughs]
832
00:35:23,789 --> 00:35:25,438
- Hello!
- What's up, y'all?
833
00:35:25,532 --> 00:35:27,349
- Hi!
- Look at you!
834
00:35:27,367 --> 00:35:29,200
- You made it!
- Look at you!
835
00:35:29,294 --> 00:35:31,186
[cheering]
836
00:35:31,204 --> 00:35:33,797
- Hey, hey.
837
00:35:33,948 --> 00:35:38,618
- Cheers to new beginnings.
- Yes.
838
00:35:38,712 --> 00:35:40,637
- This is too cute.
839
00:35:40,864 --> 00:35:41,805
- So all of these pictures
were from, like,
840
00:35:41,956 --> 00:35:43,381
The honeymoon and stuff.
841
00:35:43,475 --> 00:35:44,957
- Let me see.
- You got--yeah, take them out.
842
00:35:44,977 --> 00:35:47,385
- Yeah.
- That is so dope.
843
00:35:47,537 --> 00:35:48,887
- These are memories
right here.
844
00:35:49,039 --> 00:35:50,705
- Y'all look good
together, though.
845
00:35:50,798 --> 00:35:52,374
- We looking kind
of groovy, huh?
846
00:35:52,392 --> 00:35:54,800
- Yeah.
- We looking a little funky?
847
00:35:54,820 --> 00:35:56,378
- It's real funky
out here, man.
848
00:35:56,396 --> 00:35:58,155
- You dig?
849
00:35:58,382 --> 00:35:59,489
- Y'all look like
y'all been together
850
00:35:59,641 --> 00:36:01,049
For years in this picture.
851
00:36:01,067 --> 00:36:02,325
- Y'all really do.
- Right?
852
00:36:02,477 --> 00:36:03,309
- That's what I'm saying.
In all the pictures...
853
00:36:03,328 --> 00:36:04,886
- In all of them.
854
00:36:04,905 --> 00:36:06,070
- They just look, like,
real comfortable, like--
855
00:36:06,223 --> 00:36:07,164
- Yeah, like,
how long y'all been married?
856
00:36:07,391 --> 00:36:08,890
- Day one, we were just--
- two weeks.
857
00:36:08,983 --> 00:36:10,167
- It just clicked.
- That's it?
858
00:36:10,394 --> 00:36:11,559
- Two weeks.
- We been married two weeks.
859
00:36:11,578 --> 00:36:13,152
- Wow.
- This was on a boat.
860
00:36:13,172 --> 00:36:16,064
- I look drunk.
861
00:36:16,157 --> 00:36:18,324
- That's your caption,
"I look drunk."
862
00:36:18,343 --> 00:36:20,402
[laughter]
- that was great.
863
00:36:20,420 --> 00:36:23,905
- ♪ yeah, we like it ♪
- ♪ yeah, we like it ♪
864
00:36:23,924 --> 00:36:25,665
- ♪ when we lose ♪
- ♪ when we lose ♪
865
00:36:25,759 --> 00:36:28,018
- ♪ our minds ♪
866
00:36:28,169 --> 00:36:31,913
♪ yeah, our world got
tip-turned upside down ♪
867
00:36:32,006 --> 00:36:36,251
♪ so let's go crazy
every night ♪
868
00:36:36,269 --> 00:36:39,604
♪ just lose our minds ♪
869
00:36:39,698 --> 00:36:41,773
♪ ♪
870
00:36:41,925 --> 00:36:44,092
- How's the married life
with my sister going?
871
00:36:44,110 --> 00:36:46,369
- I mean, it's great, guys.
Like, we get along.
872
00:36:46,521 --> 00:36:48,947
We're giggly.
Like, we're cuddly.
873
00:36:49,041 --> 00:36:51,783
And, like, it's just natural,
you know what I mean?
874
00:36:51,935 --> 00:36:53,210
- Yeah.
- So, like, it's amazing.
875
00:36:53,437 --> 00:36:54,619
- Yeah.
- We have a lot in common.
876
00:36:54,771 --> 00:36:56,938
We do have those hard
conversations, though.
877
00:36:56,957 --> 00:36:59,441
She's like, "yeah, like,
how about kids within a year?
878
00:36:59,459 --> 00:37:01,200
You know, like,
I'm 37, yada yada."
879
00:37:01,294 --> 00:37:04,221
You know where I'm going.
Kid is, like, a big variable.
880
00:37:04,372 --> 00:37:05,964
You know, that's
a whole lifestyle change.
881
00:37:06,058 --> 00:37:07,131
- Yeah.
882
00:37:07,226 --> 00:37:08,708
- My concern is, like,
883
00:37:08,727 --> 00:37:09,968
I've never seen her with kids,
number one.
884
00:37:10,062 --> 00:37:11,895
- Okay.
885
00:37:12,046 --> 00:37:13,805
- And you know, she's also--
she's kind of a workaholic.
886
00:37:13,957 --> 00:37:15,047
- Yeah.
887
00:37:15,067 --> 00:37:16,474
- So, it's just, like,
888
00:37:16,568 --> 00:37:18,384
How do I know
how she's gonna be around kids?
889
00:37:18,478 --> 00:37:19,569
She don't even like dogs.
890
00:37:19,721 --> 00:37:21,721
[laughter]
- no, yeah.
891
00:37:21,740 --> 00:37:23,406
- You know, she don't want
to get her carpets dirty.
892
00:37:23,558 --> 00:37:24,574
- Right.
- I'm like, terrible twos.
893
00:37:24,801 --> 00:37:26,317
- Right.
894
00:37:26,411 --> 00:37:27,577
- They're gonna be [bleep],
spilling stuff,
895
00:37:27,729 --> 00:37:29,061
Writing on the walls.
896
00:37:29,155 --> 00:37:30,822
- Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
897
00:37:30,916 --> 00:37:31,823
- Heard y'all talking
about children already?
898
00:37:31,917 --> 00:37:33,899
What's going on?
899
00:37:33,994 --> 00:37:35,660
- Well, me being 37 years old,
I mean, I can't wait forever.
900
00:37:35,812 --> 00:37:37,236
- Okay.
901
00:37:37,256 --> 00:37:39,163
- So I'm like,
at least in another year,
902
00:37:39,258 --> 00:37:42,484
Can we kind of evaluate
where we are in our marriage
903
00:37:42,577 --> 00:37:44,819
And then have
that conversation?
904
00:37:44,838 --> 00:37:47,264
So he was kind of a little,
"eh..."
905
00:37:47,415 --> 00:37:48,414
- Yeah, it's, like,
a shock-like, a shock to him.
906
00:37:48,508 --> 00:37:49,841
- "that's a little soon."
907
00:37:49,935 --> 00:37:51,493
- It's a shocker, right?
- "it's a little soon."
908
00:37:51,586 --> 00:37:52,660
You know,
I think he was more on,
909
00:37:52,754 --> 00:37:54,271
Like, the three to five-year.
910
00:37:54,498 --> 00:37:55,997
And I'm like,
three to five years for me,
911
00:37:56,016 --> 00:37:59,276
I'm like 40 to 42 years old.
912
00:37:59,427 --> 00:38:01,945
- I don't know, just from
the outside speaking in,
913
00:38:02,096 --> 00:38:05,115
But--because he didn't have a,
you know,
914
00:38:05,266 --> 00:38:07,358
Mother growing up,
in the picture.
915
00:38:07,511 --> 00:38:09,286
So maybe he wants to know,
like,
916
00:38:09,437 --> 00:38:14,124
"I can provide for my family
without your income as well,"
917
00:38:14,351 --> 00:38:15,850
You know what I'm saying?
It's like--
918
00:38:15,869 --> 00:38:18,202
- Mm-hmm, and I agree with him,
919
00:38:18,355 --> 00:38:20,688
And I want him to be
in that place as well,
920
00:38:20,782 --> 00:38:22,874
But, like, I'm really,
really in this.
921
00:38:23,026 --> 00:38:25,209
And I don't want my kids
to struggle either.
922
00:38:25,304 --> 00:38:27,378
I come from that type of,
like, childhood as well.
923
00:38:27,472 --> 00:38:30,865
So I want the very best.
This is a forever thing.
924
00:38:30,884 --> 00:38:33,034
- I think you need
to keep reinforcing that then
925
00:38:33,053 --> 00:38:34,536
Because he obviously
is dealing with
926
00:38:34,554 --> 00:38:36,962
Maybe a little bit of
an abandonment complex, right,
927
00:38:36,982 --> 00:38:38,315
With just not having a female
928
00:38:38,466 --> 00:38:40,150
And just her leaving
at an early age.
929
00:38:40,301 --> 00:38:42,210
So I think
if you can keep reinforcing
930
00:38:42,303 --> 00:38:43,969
That you're not gonna leave and
you're in it for the long haul,
931
00:38:44,064 --> 00:38:46,397
I think you'll start to see him
come around a little bit.
932
00:38:46,550 --> 00:38:48,550
- Yeah.
933
00:38:48,568 --> 00:38:49,400
- She knows how
to articulate her emotions.
934
00:38:49,494 --> 00:38:50,994
- Yeah.
935
00:38:51,145 --> 00:38:52,162
- And, you know,
she goes to therapy.
936
00:38:52,389 --> 00:38:53,555
I ain't never been
to therapy before,
937
00:38:53,573 --> 00:38:56,240
But I'm giving my 100% all.
938
00:38:56,335 --> 00:38:58,651
And she's like,
"I feel like you can do more.
939
00:38:58,670 --> 00:39:00,912
I feel like you can do more."
940
00:39:01,064 --> 00:39:02,397
And so I don't know.
941
00:39:02,415 --> 00:39:04,232
Maybe it's like,
I'm a guy, and, like,
942
00:39:04,250 --> 00:39:05,991
I'm giving my 100%,
but, like, I'm a c+ student.
943
00:39:06,086 --> 00:39:07,585
- Mm-hmm.
- Yeah.
944
00:39:07,737 --> 00:39:08,920
- You know,
and she's, like, an a+ student.
945
00:39:09,014 --> 00:39:10,588
- Yeah.
946
00:39:10,740 --> 00:39:12,423
- She might know something
that I don't know.
947
00:39:12,517 --> 00:39:16,594
- I feel like, as long
as you're expressing yourself,
948
00:39:16,746 --> 00:39:18,930
And if you see her kind of,
like, get taken back, like,
949
00:39:19,082 --> 00:39:20,523
"well, you're not reaching
deep enough,"
950
00:39:20,750 --> 00:39:22,508
Maybe just try
and explain to her.
951
00:39:22,527 --> 00:39:24,936
Like, "listen, the difference
between you and I right now
952
00:39:25,030 --> 00:39:27,364
"is, first, you've been
doing therapy, you know,
953
00:39:27,515 --> 00:39:29,866
"so you know
how to tap into that.
954
00:39:30,093 --> 00:39:32,427
I haven't.
However, I plan on doing so."
955
00:39:32,445 --> 00:39:33,945
See?
- Okay.
956
00:39:34,097 --> 00:39:35,597
- So you're kind of
letting her know, like,
957
00:39:35,615 --> 00:39:36,931
"okay, I want
to get on your level."
958
00:39:36,950 --> 00:39:38,041
- Putting in effort, right.
959
00:39:38,268 --> 00:39:40,101
- I just feel like
there's this wall,
960
00:39:40,120 --> 00:39:42,787
Or just he has no feelings.
961
00:39:42,939 --> 00:39:44,622
And that, I can't comprehend.
962
00:39:44,716 --> 00:39:45,882
When I ask him,
"how do you feel about this,"
963
00:39:46,033 --> 00:39:47,550
He's like,
"I don't feel any way."
964
00:39:47,777 --> 00:39:50,461
And it's like,
I don't understand that.
965
00:39:50,614 --> 00:39:52,447
So I don't really know,
like, what to do.
966
00:39:52,540 --> 00:39:53,631
- You've met his father too.
967
00:39:53,783 --> 00:39:55,633
His father
was raised very military
968
00:39:55,727 --> 00:39:57,301
And very, very guarded,
so he's just used to that.
969
00:39:57,454 --> 00:39:59,378
- Yeah.
970
00:39:59,472 --> 00:40:00,397
- But he may just need, like,
a little bit of help with this.
971
00:40:00,548 --> 00:40:01,881
- He hasn't had a ton
972
00:40:01,900 --> 00:40:03,733
Of long-term relationships
with women,
973
00:40:03,885 --> 00:40:05,960
Especially, like, not having
a mom around as well.
974
00:40:05,979 --> 00:40:10,298
So I think he definitely
does keep things guarded,
975
00:40:10,316 --> 00:40:13,635
But the promising thing about
nate is he's very open-minded.
976
00:40:13,653 --> 00:40:15,486
So, like, when you
approached him about therapy,
977
00:40:15,580 --> 00:40:17,321
I'm sure it was like,
"okay, let's do it," right?
978
00:40:17,416 --> 00:40:18,748
- Yeah.
979
00:40:18,900 --> 00:40:19,974
- It wasn't a lot
of thought behind it.
980
00:40:20,067 --> 00:40:21,251
He's like, "let's try it out."
981
00:40:21,402 --> 00:40:23,494
So I've known him
for half my life,
982
00:40:23,647 --> 00:40:25,329
And it's--you have
to be patient with him,
983
00:40:25,482 --> 00:40:27,072
But I think,
if you wait it out,
984
00:40:27,092 --> 00:40:29,150
You're gonna like the results.
985
00:40:29,169 --> 00:40:34,338
[upbeat music]
986
00:40:35,082 --> 00:40:36,174
- ♪ ain't no shame
in a little romance ♪
987
00:40:36,326 --> 00:40:37,434
♪ ain't no way
I'm ever going back ♪
988
00:40:37,585 --> 00:40:39,084
- ♪ ain't no shame
in a little romance ♪
989
00:40:39,104 --> 00:40:41,253
♪ ain't no way
I'm ever going back ♪
990
00:40:41,347 --> 00:40:42,847
♪ something on the brain,
but I can't say that ♪
991
00:40:42,941 --> 00:40:44,274
♪ ♪
992
00:40:44,425 --> 00:40:45,166
[cheering]
993
00:40:45,185 --> 00:40:47,001
- Pickle! - Party time.
994
00:40:47,094 --> 00:40:49,020
Cucumbers,
everybody's favorite.
995
00:40:49,172 --> 00:40:51,281
- Happy housewarming!
Good luck hugging me.
996
00:40:51,432 --> 00:40:53,783
- I missed you so much!
I love it.
997
00:40:53,935 --> 00:40:56,602
- So good to see you again.
- Good to see you!
998
00:40:56,621 --> 00:41:00,790
Our housewarming party theme
is contestants on a game show.
999
00:41:00,942 --> 00:41:02,533
Should we play some games,
you guys?
1000
00:41:02,627 --> 00:41:03,943
- Yes.
- Bring it.
1001
00:41:04,037 --> 00:41:05,369
- Miguel loves games,
1002
00:41:05,464 --> 00:41:08,798
Lots of dungeons and dragons,
and dressing up,
1003
00:41:08,950 --> 00:41:10,374
And I think
this will be something
1004
00:41:10,527 --> 00:41:11,951
That we both can connect on.
1005
00:41:11,970 --> 00:41:14,286
I'm excited
to share this with him.
1006
00:41:14,380 --> 00:41:17,623
But, like, I just didn't
envision miguel being a pimp.
1007
00:41:17,642 --> 00:41:20,960
I don't know.
I can't explain this man.
1008
00:41:20,979 --> 00:41:23,128
- We're gonna play
the newlyweds game.
1009
00:41:23,148 --> 00:41:27,150
[exciting music]
1010
00:41:27,301 --> 00:41:28,801
- We're gonna guess
for our partner?
1011
00:41:28,820 --> 00:41:30,636
- Yeah, for your partner.
- Okay, I'm ready.
1012
00:41:30,655 --> 00:41:34,139
- First question is,
what is their star sign?
1013
00:41:34,159 --> 00:41:36,326
- I am a gemini.
1014
00:41:36,553 --> 00:41:38,402
- She's a gemini.
- Oh, yeah, he did.
1015
00:41:38,497 --> 00:41:40,888
- Ding ding ding ding ding.
- Do do do do doo!
1016
00:41:40,982 --> 00:41:44,334
What is their weirdest quirk?
1017
00:41:44,561 --> 00:41:46,561
- When steve farts,
it sounds like snapping.
1018
00:41:46,579 --> 00:41:47,837
[laughter]
- oh, my god.
1019
00:41:48,064 --> 00:41:49,564
- And then--
1020
00:41:49,582 --> 00:41:51,232
- Third question:
1021
00:41:51,251 --> 00:41:55,069
What is the thing they're
most likely to go viral for?
1022
00:41:55,088 --> 00:41:58,239
- I think I would go viral for,
like, travel videos.
1023
00:41:58,258 --> 00:42:01,259
- I said a hangry rage.
1024
00:42:01,353 --> 00:42:03,928
- Oh, we talked about that!
- We did talk about it.
1025
00:42:04,080 --> 00:42:05,580
We had a whole conversation
about this.
1026
00:42:05,598 --> 00:42:07,081
We were like, that's what
you would go viral for.
1027
00:42:07,100 --> 00:42:08,841
- [laughs]
1028
00:42:08,935 --> 00:42:11,085
- What is their favorite movie?
1029
00:42:11,104 --> 00:42:14,030
- "the lion king."
- yes.
1030
00:42:14,257 --> 00:42:18,368
- My favorite movie is "big."
- "big."
1031
00:42:18,519 --> 00:42:20,185
- No way!
- What?
1032
00:42:20,205 --> 00:42:22,021
- Bravo.
- Whoo!
1033
00:42:22,040 --> 00:42:23,540
- Good job, you guys.
1034
00:42:23,691 --> 00:42:28,269
[cheering]
1035
00:42:28,288 --> 00:42:31,122
- They actually know each other
pretty well for just two weeks.
1036
00:42:31,216 --> 00:42:33,032
Even me, I was thinking about,
I'm like, oh, my gosh,
1037
00:42:33,051 --> 00:42:34,366
Do I know all the answers
to these questions
1038
00:42:34,460 --> 00:42:35,385
With my own fiancée?
1039
00:42:35,536 --> 00:42:36,886
I don't know.
1040
00:42:37,113 --> 00:42:38,555
- Do you guys need a refill?
Are you good?
1041
00:42:38,782 --> 00:42:41,373
- I will take a refill,
yeah, sure.
1042
00:42:41,467 --> 00:42:42,708
- It is so early.
1043
00:42:42,727 --> 00:42:44,543
I mean, I know
it's only been two weeks.
1044
00:42:44,563 --> 00:42:47,972
So, you know, I hope it
continues on that same path,
1045
00:42:48,066 --> 00:42:50,733
But there always is a concern
that maybe there's something
1046
00:42:50,960 --> 00:42:52,643
That could come up later
in the future
1047
00:42:52,737 --> 00:42:54,237
'cause they've only known
each other two weeks.
1048
00:42:54,388 --> 00:42:57,298
- Yeah.
- How's everything going?
1049
00:42:57,391 --> 00:42:58,408
- Everything is pretty great.
1050
00:42:58,635 --> 00:42:59,892
As you know,
lindy is a sweetheart.
1051
00:42:59,911 --> 00:43:02,303
- Yeah.
- She's, like--I mean, yeah.
1052
00:43:02,396 --> 00:43:03,729
The word that comes to mind
1053
00:43:03,748 --> 00:43:04,806
Immediately on the spot
is marvelous.
1054
00:43:04,899 --> 00:43:05,898
- Aww.
- Like, she's--yeah.
1055
00:43:05,917 --> 00:43:07,325
No, she's amazing.
1056
00:43:07,477 --> 00:43:08,901
- He's so witty,
and he's so funny,
1057
00:43:08,995 --> 00:43:10,587
And he has so much energy.
1058
00:43:10,738 --> 00:43:12,814
And, like,
I'm so drawn to that.
1059
00:43:12,832 --> 00:43:14,165
- I wake up every morning,
1060
00:43:14,259 --> 00:43:15,650
I look at myself in the mirror,
I'm like...
1061
00:43:15,668 --> 00:43:16,909
- "don't screw this one up."
1062
00:43:16,928 --> 00:43:18,577
- "miguel,
you got a good thing going.
1063
00:43:18,671 --> 00:43:21,246
Don't [bleep] this up."
1064
00:43:21,266 --> 00:43:22,432
- Do you really think
he's funny, though?
1065
00:43:22,583 --> 00:43:24,008
I need to know.
- I--
1066
00:43:24,160 --> 00:43:25,768
- 'cause you laugh at him
a lot, and I'm like,
1067
00:43:25,920 --> 00:43:27,586
Whoa,
do you really think he's funny?
1068
00:43:27,606 --> 00:43:29,997
- I think he's so funny.
1069
00:43:30,016 --> 00:43:32,108
- I'm so glad to hear that
because I do not think
1070
00:43:32,335 --> 00:43:34,352
He's as funny as you do,
and, god, thank you.
1071
00:43:34,446 --> 00:43:36,187
- He's so funny.
1072
00:43:36,339 --> 00:43:37,429
- Thank you so much
for sending us someone
1073
00:43:37,449 --> 00:43:39,006
Who thinks he's funny.
1074
00:43:39,025 --> 00:43:40,432
- What are some things
are you worried about?
1075
00:43:40,452 --> 00:43:42,267
Is there anything
1076
00:43:42,287 --> 00:43:43,511
That you haven't even told her
yet that you're like--
1077
00:43:43,529 --> 00:43:45,363
- No, and that's
the conversation we had.
1078
00:43:45,457 --> 00:43:48,349
Like, I told her--I was like,
"on the face of this earth,
1079
00:43:48,368 --> 00:43:50,627
I can count on one hand,
like, the amount of people
1080
00:43:50,854 --> 00:43:53,112
That know me
the same amount that you do.
1081
00:43:53,206 --> 00:43:54,856
Like, you know me."
1082
00:43:54,949 --> 00:43:56,858
We call it the deep darkies.
1083
00:43:56,876 --> 00:43:58,117
- The deep darkies.
- The deep darkies.
1084
00:43:58,211 --> 00:43:59,377
We've shared with each other...
1085
00:43:59,529 --> 00:44:00,695
- Yeah.
- Our deep darkies.
1086
00:44:00,713 --> 00:44:02,121
And I was like, with that,
1087
00:44:02,140 --> 00:44:03,640
You literally know
everything about me.
1088
00:44:03,791 --> 00:44:04,957
There is nothing left.
1089
00:44:05,051 --> 00:44:06,200
- There's nothing.
- Nothing.
1090
00:44:06,293 --> 00:44:08,870
- There's always something.
1091
00:44:08,888 --> 00:44:11,463
- Anything that you guys
argue about yet?
1092
00:44:11,557 --> 00:44:14,633
- Yeah, today, we were talking
about me taking his last name.
1093
00:44:14,653 --> 00:44:17,487
- Oh.
- I was like, I have my degree.
1094
00:44:17,638 --> 00:44:18,988
I have my doctorate.
1095
00:44:19,215 --> 00:44:20,806
Like, I've been an elloway
for 29 years.
1096
00:44:20,825 --> 00:44:22,641
It means a lot to me.
1097
00:44:22,661 --> 00:44:25,161
And he's asking me to,
1098
00:44:25,312 --> 00:44:28,239
As soon as possible,
take his name.
1099
00:44:28,333 --> 00:44:32,168
I want to be santiago.
Like, that is the goal.
1100
00:44:32,395 --> 00:44:34,578
But, like, there's a lot
of checkmarks for me
1101
00:44:34,731 --> 00:44:38,508
Before I'm ready
to take your name.
1102
00:44:38,659 --> 00:44:40,418
And there's,
like, a conversation
1103
00:44:40,570 --> 00:44:44,013
Of healthcare coverage
that's being dangled.
1104
00:44:45,517 --> 00:44:48,351
I don't have healthcare.
1105
00:44:48,578 --> 00:44:52,337
And he does for his spouse.
We're married.
1106
00:44:52,357 --> 00:44:55,599
And I've asked to be
on his healthcare.
1107
00:44:55,694 --> 00:44:57,860
And it was brought up today,
and it was very much so,
1108
00:44:58,087 --> 00:45:00,104
"well,
are you taking my last name?"
1109
00:45:00,198 --> 00:45:02,256
[tense music]
1110
00:45:02,275 --> 00:45:06,351
- Wait,
miguel has come out to say,
1111
00:45:06,371 --> 00:45:08,020
"I'm not gonna put you
1112
00:45:08,039 --> 00:45:11,098
On my healthcare as my spouse
unless you take my name"?
1113
00:45:11,117 --> 00:45:12,950
- That's what was said.
1114
00:45:13,102 --> 00:45:16,212
♪ ♪
1115
00:45:16,363 --> 00:45:17,880
- Can I tell you
what I think it is?
1116
00:45:18,107 --> 00:45:20,699
- Please,
because I don't understand.
1117
00:45:20,793 --> 00:45:24,962
- Getting married to a stranger
is [bleep] crazy, okay?
1118
00:45:25,114 --> 00:45:27,965
I think you are a lovely,
wonderful person.
1119
00:45:28,117 --> 00:45:30,727
I think you guys
are getting along swimmingly.
1120
00:45:30,954 --> 00:45:34,564
However, to say that
you guys went from stranger
1121
00:45:34,715 --> 00:45:39,384
To marriage like that
is banana sandwich, okay?
1122
00:45:39,404 --> 00:45:41,904
Let's just keep it real.
1123
00:45:42,131 --> 00:45:44,966
I do not doubt that he cares
about you immensely.
1124
00:45:44,984 --> 00:45:49,971
I do not doubt that he is
wanting this to succeed.
1125
00:45:49,989 --> 00:45:53,398
I still think he has doubts
about its level
1126
00:45:53,493 --> 00:45:55,901
Of being successful.
1127
00:45:55,920 --> 00:45:57,812
- But we're saying
the same thing then.
1128
00:45:57,830 --> 00:45:59,830
We're literally saying
the uncertainty thing.
1129
00:45:59,924 --> 00:46:02,833
Like, "I'm not--I can't take
your last name until I know,"
1130
00:46:02,927 --> 00:46:04,668
And he's saying, what,
1131
00:46:04,763 --> 00:46:06,912
"you can't be
on my insurance until I know"?
1132
00:46:06,931 --> 00:46:09,156
- Right.
- Fine.
1133
00:46:09,175 --> 00:46:11,325
If you don't want
to protect me, okay.
1134
00:46:11,418 --> 00:46:12,994
Like, that's where we're at.
1135
00:46:13,012 --> 00:46:15,438
But it literally costs him
a phone call.
1136
00:46:15,589 --> 00:46:17,164
That's what I'm asking
from him,
1137
00:46:17,258 --> 00:46:19,517
To care for me as his wife.
1138
00:46:19,669 --> 00:46:22,928
And that is a red--
that is a red flag to me.
1139
00:46:22,947 --> 00:46:24,355
I don't understand
why that's such a big--
1140
00:46:24,449 --> 00:46:26,173
I don't get it.
1141
00:46:26,192 --> 00:46:31,704
♪ ♪
1142
00:46:34,017 --> 00:46:35,199
[upbeat rock music]
1143
00:46:35,293 --> 00:46:38,795
♪ ♪
1144
00:46:39,022 --> 00:46:41,372
- Since you got
the cheap tequila,
1145
00:46:41,524 --> 00:46:43,207
You get to try
the cheap tequila.
1146
00:46:43,359 --> 00:46:45,876
And I will try
the more expensive tequila.
1147
00:46:46,029 --> 00:46:48,212
♪ ♪
1148
00:46:48,364 --> 00:46:50,381
This one smells really good.
1149
00:46:50,533 --> 00:46:53,458
♪ ♪
1150
00:46:53,478 --> 00:46:55,703
- Tastes like college.
1151
00:46:55,796 --> 00:46:57,221
- That's really good tequila.
1152
00:46:57,373 --> 00:46:58,706
- Is it?
- Yes, it's really good.
1153
00:46:58,724 --> 00:46:59,631
- Mine was nasty.
1154
00:46:59,651 --> 00:47:00,966
Hey.
- Hello!
1155
00:47:00,985 --> 00:47:02,652
- How you doing?
- Oh, hello!
1156
00:47:02,879 --> 00:47:06,322
- Hi!
- Welcome, welcome, welcome.
1157
00:47:06,549 --> 00:47:08,140
- Hi, binh.
- Hey, how you doing?
1158
00:47:08,234 --> 00:47:09,641
- Hi.
- How you been?
1159
00:47:09,735 --> 00:47:11,494
- Good, how are you?
1160
00:47:11,645 --> 00:47:12,720
- What's up, my guy?
- How you doing?
1161
00:47:12,738 --> 00:47:14,055
- Looking "miami vice" fresh
as usual.
1162
00:47:14,148 --> 00:47:15,573
- Hi.
- Hi, I'm michael.
1163
00:47:15,725 --> 00:47:17,149
- Nice to meet you.
- Hey, how you doing?
1164
00:47:17,168 --> 00:47:18,909
- Hi, nice to see you.
I'll give you a hug.
1165
00:47:19,062 --> 00:47:20,652
- Good to see you again.
Yeah, I appreciate that.
1166
00:47:20,746 --> 00:47:22,396
Y'all look like y'all got a
celebration going on over here.
1167
00:47:22,415 --> 00:47:23,506
- Yeah.
- Smells good.
1168
00:47:23,657 --> 00:47:24,915
- Cheers.
- Cheers to you guys.
1169
00:47:25,009 --> 00:47:26,083
- To the home.
1170
00:47:26,235 --> 00:47:31,088
♪ ♪
1171
00:47:31,182 --> 00:47:33,240
The last time I seen y'all
was at the actual wedding.
1172
00:47:33,334 --> 00:47:34,666
Like, y'all been
on your honeymoon.
1173
00:47:34,686 --> 00:47:36,093
Like, how has everything been?
1174
00:47:36,245 --> 00:47:37,428
Like, for real,
you been mia, like [bleep].
1175
00:47:37,522 --> 00:47:39,413
- Yeah, man.
I mean, I got a whole wife now.
1176
00:47:39,506 --> 00:47:40,764
- Yeah.
- And a whole son.
1177
00:47:40,917 --> 00:47:42,933
- Tell me about it--what?
- I got a whole son.
1178
00:47:43,086 --> 00:47:43,918
- Who?
- The cat.
1179
00:47:43,936 --> 00:47:45,769
- The cat.
1180
00:47:45,864 --> 00:47:47,755
- Oh, I was about to be up
like jerry springer, like, huh?
1181
00:47:47,773 --> 00:47:50,441
- You are not the father.
- You are not the father.
1182
00:47:50,535 --> 00:47:52,443
- Where did you guys go
for your honeymoon?
1183
00:47:52,595 --> 00:47:54,428
- We went to mexico.
- Yeah.
1184
00:47:54,521 --> 00:47:55,520
- We went--yeah.
- Puerto vallarta.
1185
00:47:55,615 --> 00:47:58,616
- How was it?
- Um--
1186
00:47:58,710 --> 00:48:00,359
I mean--
- be honest.
1187
00:48:00,378 --> 00:48:02,027
- Yeah, it was-it was--
- I like how you hesitated.
1188
00:48:02,121 --> 00:48:03,604
- Be honest.
Don't lie.
1189
00:48:03,623 --> 00:48:04,772
- It was--you know--
- just tell them how it is.
1190
00:48:04,790 --> 00:48:05,456
- We were trying
to figure some things out.
1191
00:48:05,608 --> 00:48:06,865
- Yeah.
1192
00:48:06,885 --> 00:48:08,718
- We were trying
to work on some things.
1193
00:48:14,225 --> 00:48:17,542
- What did you think about
when you first met him,
1194
00:48:17,562 --> 00:48:20,563
And then you just go on
a whole, you know, honeymoon?
1195
00:48:20,714 --> 00:48:22,306
- So, like,
when I first met him,
1196
00:48:22,458 --> 00:48:24,216
I was like, he's great,
you know, like, super nice guy,
1197
00:48:24,310 --> 00:48:27,886
Very welcoming, very warm,
so it was good at the wedding.
1198
00:48:27,906 --> 00:48:29,980
And then
the honeymoon happened.
1199
00:48:30,074 --> 00:48:31,982
- What happened?
- Just tell us what happened.
1200
00:48:32,135 --> 00:48:34,243
- Can you just--just
say it in your own words.
1201
00:48:34,395 --> 00:48:36,561
- Long story--yeah,
long story short--
1202
00:48:36,581 --> 00:48:38,397
- No, we want the long story.
1203
00:48:38,416 --> 00:48:39,640
- Yeah, give us the long story.
- I want the long story.
1204
00:48:39,659 --> 00:48:41,158
- I'm just trying to give the--
1205
00:48:41,252 --> 00:48:42,159
- No, we need the long story.
We're here for a long time.
1206
00:48:42,311 --> 00:48:43,661
- Yeah.
1207
00:48:43,813 --> 00:48:45,162
- Just elaborate.
Tell the truth.
1208
00:48:45,314 --> 00:48:47,072
- Just--
1209
00:48:47,166 --> 00:48:48,090
- Wait, why don't you say it?
You keep saying be honest.
1210
00:48:48,242 --> 00:48:49,574
- No, because, like--
1211
00:48:49,594 --> 00:48:50,334
- 'cause he ain't saying it,
obviously.
1212
00:48:50,486 --> 00:48:51,835
You say it.
1213
00:48:51,988 --> 00:48:53,262
- I mean, I'll say it
if you want me to say it
1214
00:48:53,414 --> 00:48:54,430
'cause you're obviously
not comfortable saying it.
1215
00:48:54,581 --> 00:48:56,157
- Binh, let's go
outside and talk.
1216
00:48:56,175 --> 00:48:58,492
- Okay.
1217
00:48:58,585 --> 00:49:00,177
- I think, at this point,
1218
00:49:00,329 --> 00:49:02,513
Judging on how things
have kind of been going,
1219
00:49:02,665 --> 00:49:04,589
I really want to hear
his side of the story
1220
00:49:04,609 --> 00:49:06,091
Because,
two sides of the story,
1221
00:49:06,185 --> 00:49:08,335
There's always, like,
1222
00:49:08,429 --> 00:49:10,354
Kind of a middle story,
you know?
1223
00:49:10,448 --> 00:49:11,855
- I guess the best way
to start--from the beginning?
1224
00:49:12,008 --> 00:49:13,524
- Yeah.
1225
00:49:13,618 --> 00:49:14,692
- We get to the honeymoon,
and he sits me down,
1226
00:49:14,844 --> 00:49:16,510
And he goes,
"I don't like how
1227
00:49:16,529 --> 00:49:17,678
We're starting off
this marriage with a lie."
1228
00:49:17,771 --> 00:49:19,771
And I go, "what?
What lie?"
1229
00:49:19,791 --> 00:49:21,773
Like,
"you lied about being a nurse."
1230
00:49:21,867 --> 00:49:25,035
And I said, "no, I am a nurse."
1231
00:49:25,129 --> 00:49:28,280
So during the same
conversation, he also said,
1232
00:49:28,299 --> 00:49:30,357
"I pinky promise we're not
gonna talk about finances
1233
00:49:30,451 --> 00:49:31,801
"or family on the honeymoon.
1234
00:49:31,952 --> 00:49:32,802
We'll talk about it
when we get back."
1235
00:49:32,953 --> 00:49:34,211
I said, "okay, great."
1236
00:49:34,363 --> 00:49:36,288
So next day,
instantly, he goes,
1237
00:49:36,307 --> 00:49:37,807
"your finances are
a red flag to me."
1238
00:49:38,034 --> 00:49:39,475
And he goes,
"your family is a red flag.
1239
00:49:39,626 --> 00:49:41,385
You're not trying hard enough
to have certain relationships."
1240
00:49:41,537 --> 00:49:45,464
And I go, "what?"
completely thrown off-guard.
1241
00:49:45,558 --> 00:49:47,558
- I don't think he has, like,
any bad intentions to--
1242
00:49:47,710 --> 00:49:49,634
- No, and I keep
saying that too.
1243
00:49:49,654 --> 00:49:51,562
He's not a bad person.
1244
00:49:51,656 --> 00:49:53,547
And he keeps saying that, like,
"oh, my intentions."
1245
00:49:53,640 --> 00:49:55,157
I'm like,
"yeah, but your actions."
1246
00:49:55,384 --> 00:49:56,492
- I was in my own head,
and I overreacted,
1247
00:49:56,643 --> 00:49:58,402
And I was judgmental.
1248
00:49:58,496 --> 00:49:59,903
And I've already apologized
to her on and off camera,
1249
00:49:59,998 --> 00:50:01,330
To everybody,
1250
00:50:01,482 --> 00:50:03,982
All of her friendlies,
everybody.
1251
00:50:04,002 --> 00:50:06,669
Everybody and their baby mama
got an apology from me.
1252
00:50:06,820 --> 00:50:08,820
And I'm trying
to be understanding.
1253
00:50:08,914 --> 00:50:11,156
I'm trying to make amends.
I'm trying to make it work.
1254
00:50:11,250 --> 00:50:13,175
And I'm trying to move on.
I bought her flowers randomly.
1255
00:50:13,402 --> 00:50:14,585
I bought her her favorite
chicken sausage
1256
00:50:14,737 --> 00:50:16,587
From the grocery store
she likes.
1257
00:50:16,739 --> 00:50:18,088
And she doesn't see the effort.
1258
00:50:18,182 --> 00:50:22,243
- With morgan, it takes her
a lot longer to forgive.
1259
00:50:22,336 --> 00:50:24,169
If you're
constantly apologizing to her,
1260
00:50:24,188 --> 00:50:26,022
She's just like,
1261
00:50:26,249 --> 00:50:27,581
"well, oh, he just keeps
apologizing, apologizing."
1262
00:50:27,674 --> 00:50:28,599
And then it starts
losing its meaning.
1263
00:50:28,751 --> 00:50:29,933
- Yeah.
- Like, you know?
1264
00:50:30,086 --> 00:50:31,009
- I feel that, yeah.
- Yeah.
1265
00:50:31,029 --> 00:50:32,436
- For sure, I feel that.
1266
00:50:32,530 --> 00:50:36,198
But I feel like,
whenever something bad happens,
1267
00:50:36,350 --> 00:50:37,775
I'm quick to forgive.
1268
00:50:37,927 --> 00:50:39,702
But morgan holds it.
1269
00:50:39,853 --> 00:50:41,779
Like, in basketball, like,
1270
00:50:41,931 --> 00:50:43,430
If you had a turnover,
if you miss a shot,
1271
00:50:43,449 --> 00:50:45,207
You work on the next play.
1272
00:50:45,434 --> 00:50:46,283
Like, you try to make the--
- you move on.
1273
00:50:46,435 --> 00:50:47,692
- You move on.
- Yeah, yeah.
1274
00:50:47,712 --> 00:50:48,878
- And we're still in the past.
1275
00:50:49,029 --> 00:50:50,046
- Is it--are you
gonna just hold this
1276
00:50:50,197 --> 00:50:51,714
Over him till he dies?
1277
00:50:51,865 --> 00:50:54,050
Like, you gotta understand
1278
00:50:54,201 --> 00:50:56,960
You guys are just learning
each other's moods,
1279
00:50:57,055 --> 00:50:58,888
Everything like that.
1280
00:50:59,039 --> 00:51:01,298
- Yeah, and I said this before
coming into this whole process,
1281
00:51:01,392 --> 00:51:04,952
Like, when you hurt me,
when you burn me, I'm done.
1282
00:51:04,970 --> 00:51:07,379
So this is a whole
new situation for me,
1283
00:51:07,398 --> 00:51:10,066
Where, like,
binh has hurt me very deeply,
1284
00:51:10,293 --> 00:51:11,901
And I'm trying
to work through it,
1285
00:51:12,052 --> 00:51:12,976
But I've never
done this before.
1286
00:51:13,129 --> 00:51:14,570
- Yeah.
1287
00:51:14,721 --> 00:51:15,479
- I've never worked
through a deep hurt before
1288
00:51:15,573 --> 00:51:17,222
With someone.
1289
00:51:17,241 --> 00:51:19,724
- If binh walked
through the door right now,
1290
00:51:19,744 --> 00:51:23,395
And I said,
"bro, is she a nurse or not,"
1291
00:51:23,414 --> 00:51:24,655
Like,
what do you think he would say?
1292
00:51:24,807 --> 00:51:26,231
- He would say yes.
- Okay.
1293
00:51:26,250 --> 00:51:28,567
So, like, you gotta just
forgive and forget.
1294
00:51:28,586 --> 00:51:31,495
[dramatic music]
1295
00:51:31,647 --> 00:51:34,406
♪ ♪
1296
00:51:34,425 --> 00:51:37,318
- ♪ back and forth we go ♪
1297
00:51:37,336 --> 00:51:43,340
♪ up and down we're so
back and forth we go ♪
1298
00:51:43,492 --> 00:51:46,009
♪ up and down,
and when will it stop? ♪
1299
00:51:46,104 --> 00:51:48,753
♪ ♪
1300
00:51:48,773 --> 00:51:50,940
- It's really tense
in the house.
1301
00:51:51,167 --> 00:51:52,516
I know that I'm not one
of those people
1302
00:51:52,668 --> 00:51:54,351
To where it's just, like,
1303
00:51:54,503 --> 00:51:57,688
He can just say sorry,
and we'll be over it.
1304
00:51:57,840 --> 00:51:59,840
Can you actually blow up
the balloons, please?
1305
00:51:59,933 --> 00:52:02,601
When you get a chance.
- Yeah.
1306
00:52:02,695 --> 00:52:06,363
- But I am trying to be better.
I am trying to do better.
1307
00:52:06,457 --> 00:52:08,031
I don't want to do
the same things I would do,
1308
00:52:08,184 --> 00:52:10,292
Which is normally run away.
1309
00:52:12,946 --> 00:52:16,857
- Yo, there she is.
Look at you.
1310
00:52:16,876 --> 00:52:18,876
What's up?
What's up?
1311
00:52:19,028 --> 00:52:21,028
- Attack uncle will.
Attack.
1312
00:52:21,046 --> 00:52:22,638
- Hi.
- I'm alexis.
1313
00:52:22,865 --> 00:52:24,214
- Nice to meet you.
- Hello, hello.
1314
00:52:24,367 --> 00:52:26,475
- I'm sorry,
I have dots on my--
1315
00:52:26,627 --> 00:52:28,310
- Amarii, nice to meet you.
- Nice to meet you, amarii.
1316
00:52:28,462 --> 00:52:29,720
- You look so beautiful.
- Thank you.
1317
00:52:29,872 --> 00:52:32,723
- Can I hug you?
- Yeah, of course.
1318
00:52:32,875 --> 00:52:34,391
Hi, em!
1319
00:52:34,543 --> 00:52:35,634
- Hello!
- You look so pretty!
1320
00:52:35,728 --> 00:52:37,378
- Thanks.
You do too.
1321
00:52:37,471 --> 00:52:38,729
- Thanks.
- Welcome to our home.
1322
00:52:38,881 --> 00:52:41,048
- Yeah.
1323
00:52:41,066 --> 00:52:44,067
- ♪ drinks on the rooftop ♪
1324
00:52:44,220 --> 00:52:46,478
- This is, like,
the nicest housewarming party
1325
00:52:46,572 --> 00:52:48,238
I've ever been to.
1326
00:52:48,391 --> 00:52:50,073
The setup.
I feel special.
1327
00:52:50,226 --> 00:52:51,483
- Yeah.
1328
00:52:51,502 --> 00:52:53,076
- I just wish I had--you know,
1329
00:52:53,171 --> 00:52:54,912
The dress code--I would have
known the dress code.
1330
00:52:55,064 --> 00:52:56,747
- Yes.
1331
00:52:56,899 --> 00:52:58,490
- Didn't know
it was '90s theme.
1332
00:52:58,509 --> 00:52:59,824
- Yeah, that's probably the
whole point of having a theme
1333
00:52:59,844 --> 00:53:01,735
Is actually telling people,
so that's our fault.
1334
00:53:01,754 --> 00:53:04,180
- That is most important.
- Y'all did a good job.
1335
00:53:04,331 --> 00:53:06,089
It's a lot to think about.
1336
00:53:06,184 --> 00:53:07,925
- You know, honestly,
she gets all the credit.
1337
00:53:08,019 --> 00:53:10,244
She came up with the idea.
I just helped out.
1338
00:53:10,262 --> 00:53:11,929
- Justin and I almost didn't--
I didn't think
1339
00:53:12,081 --> 00:53:13,338
We were gonna have this
1340
00:53:13,357 --> 00:53:15,432
'cause justin
and I had quite a fight.
1341
00:53:15,526 --> 00:53:18,343
- That's expected.
- That's expected, william?
1342
00:53:18,362 --> 00:53:19,753
- Yeah, I mean, you're still
learning each other, so...
1343
00:53:19,772 --> 00:53:21,012
- Yeah.
- You know?
1344
00:53:21,106 --> 00:53:22,606
- Are you kidding?
1345
00:53:22,700 --> 00:53:24,258
- You still trying to figure
out the differences and,
1346
00:53:24,276 --> 00:53:25,442
You know, as long as you're
willing to work through them,
1347
00:53:25,594 --> 00:53:26,944
That's all that really matters.
1348
00:53:27,038 --> 00:53:28,612
- As long as y'all communicate
about communicating,
1349
00:53:28,706 --> 00:53:30,522
Then y'all will be fine.
1350
00:53:30,541 --> 00:53:34,877
- But for me
and my husband over there,
1351
00:53:35,028 --> 00:53:37,621
We miscommunicate a lot.
1352
00:53:37,773 --> 00:53:39,790
And justin, I'm sorry,
I usually talk to you
1353
00:53:39,884 --> 00:53:42,443
Before I tell people stuff
outside our relationship.
1354
00:53:42,461 --> 00:53:45,387
But my frustration is,
like, I know I'm not perfect.
1355
00:53:45,614 --> 00:53:47,965
I don't intend to be.
I don't want justin to be.
1356
00:53:48,117 --> 00:53:50,133
But it's like,
sometimes, I get frustrated
1357
00:53:50,228 --> 00:53:54,638
Because it's just,
like, him being vague to me,
1358
00:53:54,790 --> 00:53:57,733
I understand that
to be sometimes manipulative
1359
00:53:57,884 --> 00:54:01,052
Or, like, lying, in my eyes,
but he doesn't see it as that.
1360
00:54:01,072 --> 00:54:04,406
So it's just, like,
very often, to where I'm like,
1361
00:54:04,633 --> 00:54:07,301
Oh, gosh, I don't even know
who I married.
1362
00:54:07,394 --> 00:54:08,744
Like, yeah, no pun intended
1363
00:54:08,971 --> 00:54:10,079
'cause he was a stranger
at some point.
1364
00:54:10,230 --> 00:54:13,398
But genuinely,
I've been concerned.
1365
00:54:13,492 --> 00:54:15,251
And that's where we're at.
1366
00:54:15,402 --> 00:54:18,403
So I didn't want to be fake
and, like, you know, make sure
1367
00:54:18,422 --> 00:54:21,498
Everything is--act like
everything's good and well.
1368
00:54:21,650 --> 00:54:23,926
But we are having a bit
of a tiff right now.
1369
00:54:24,077 --> 00:54:26,003
- I think it's important
to remember
1370
00:54:26,155 --> 00:54:28,097
That you aren't each
other's enemy at any point.
1371
00:54:28,248 --> 00:54:30,157
That's the hard part
1372
00:54:30,175 --> 00:54:31,842
'cause when you get into
different--it's like,
1373
00:54:31,936 --> 00:54:33,494
You feel like you're
on an island by yourself.
1374
00:54:33,512 --> 00:54:35,496
- Mm-hmm.
- I [bleep] up.
1375
00:54:35,514 --> 00:54:37,498
I know that.
You know what I'm saying?
1376
00:54:37,516 --> 00:54:39,349
But, like, I feel like
she drills me with questions.
1377
00:54:39,443 --> 00:54:41,852
And so, like, even when
we come to a conclusion,
1378
00:54:41,946 --> 00:54:44,171
She still drills me,
and so, when she's drilling me,
1379
00:54:44,189 --> 00:54:46,189
I can't--I need time
to process my thoughts.
1380
00:54:46,342 --> 00:54:47,691
Like, when I speak,
1381
00:54:47,843 --> 00:54:49,009
Sometimes I haven't
processed my thoughts,
1382
00:54:49,102 --> 00:54:51,512
It can come out
as contradictory.
1383
00:54:51,530 --> 00:54:54,439
You know, like,
if you're asking me a question,
1384
00:54:54,533 --> 00:54:55,699
You know what I'm saying,
1385
00:54:55,851 --> 00:54:58,460
And then you ask
another question--
1386
00:54:58,612 --> 00:54:59,962
- No, I let you answer
your questions.
1387
00:55:00,189 --> 00:55:01,855
That's not fair.
Don't lie like that.
1388
00:55:01,874 --> 00:55:03,357
- I'm not lying, baby.
I'm just saying, I mean--
1389
00:55:03,375 --> 00:55:04,691
- Baby, when do
I ask you a question
1390
00:55:04,710 --> 00:55:05,542
And immediately
ask you another one?
1391
00:55:05,694 --> 00:55:08,545
- [sighs]
1392
00:55:08,697 --> 00:55:11,214
- All the time.
- Oh, okay, maybe I'm wrong.
1393
00:55:11,309 --> 00:55:13,809
[tense music]
1394
00:55:15,538 --> 00:55:16,478
[tense music]
1395
00:55:16,705 --> 00:55:18,129
- In the beginning,
I was just like,
1396
00:55:18,223 --> 00:55:19,873
I want you around all the time,
and we were just, like,
1397
00:55:19,892 --> 00:55:21,542
"I miss my husband,"
"I miss my wife."
1398
00:55:21,635 --> 00:55:22,967
- Aww.
- And it was just so sweet.
1399
00:55:22,987 --> 00:55:25,212
And then we started
to have our conflicts
1400
00:55:25,305 --> 00:55:26,822
When we got back
from the honeymoon.
1401
00:55:27,049 --> 00:55:28,048
I mean,
I don't know if he told you,
1402
00:55:28,067 --> 00:55:28,899
But his dog attacked...
1403
00:55:28,993 --> 00:55:30,233
- He told me.
1404
00:55:30,328 --> 00:55:32,219
- My dog.
- Ooh.
1405
00:55:32,237 --> 00:55:34,054
- The biggest part with me was,
I know it wasn't his fault.
1406
00:55:34,073 --> 00:55:35,480
You can't predict
what your dog does.
1407
00:55:35,499 --> 00:55:36,999
I get that.
- Right.
1408
00:55:37,150 --> 00:55:40,243
- My thing was,
after mya had attacked newton,
1409
00:55:40,396 --> 00:55:42,563
I started to learn
more things about mya
1410
00:55:42,581 --> 00:55:44,155
That I had no idea about,
1411
00:55:44,175 --> 00:55:46,233
That I would have been
uncomfortable about
1412
00:55:46,326 --> 00:55:47,826
If he would have
told me beforehand.
1413
00:55:47,920 --> 00:55:49,236
- Beforehand.
Both: Mm-hmm.
1414
00:55:49,329 --> 00:55:51,071
- That's deceptive, to me.
1415
00:55:51,164 --> 00:55:52,514
- Yeah.
- You get what I'm saying?
1416
00:55:52,666 --> 00:55:53,832
And I see you making faces,
so please tell me.
1417
00:55:53,926 --> 00:55:55,425
- I feel like--
1418
00:55:55,578 --> 00:55:57,411
- 'cause I need
a better perspective, I do.
1419
00:55:57,429 --> 00:55:59,246
- There are times--and it may
just be a guy thing, you know?
1420
00:55:59,264 --> 00:56:01,264
- Mm-hmm.
1421
00:56:01,417 --> 00:56:02,766
- But it's like, we don't think
about saying certain things
1422
00:56:02,918 --> 00:56:04,751
Beforehand
until we're in the situation.
1423
00:56:04,845 --> 00:56:07,529
It's like, "oh yeah, my dog--
yeah, of course."
1424
00:56:07,681 --> 00:56:09,423
And it's like, why didn't you
say that beforehand?
1425
00:56:09,441 --> 00:56:11,516
"I wasn't thinking about it.
The situation hadn't occurred."
1426
00:56:11,535 --> 00:56:13,202
- So it's just a man thing.
- It's just a man thing.
1427
00:56:13,429 --> 00:56:16,020
It's like, we--y'all are
very great in general
1428
00:56:16,040 --> 00:56:18,022
About saying things beforehand
1429
00:56:18,117 --> 00:56:20,434
And mentally preparing
for something.
1430
00:56:20,452 --> 00:56:23,027
We're just in the moment.
1431
00:56:23,122 --> 00:56:25,272
- The question that I want
to ask is:
1432
00:56:25,290 --> 00:56:27,441
How do I need to respond
to her when she's upset?
1433
00:56:27,534 --> 00:56:29,960
Because her mother
and her sisters
1434
00:56:30,112 --> 00:56:31,387
Said to give her space.
1435
00:56:31,538 --> 00:56:33,055
And I do that,
1436
00:56:33,206 --> 00:56:35,391
But it may come off
as dismissive.
1437
00:56:35,618 --> 00:56:37,559
- Have you had
that conversation with her?
1438
00:56:37,711 --> 00:56:40,062
Like, you know,
if there is a conflict
1439
00:56:40,213 --> 00:56:41,563
Or anything like that,
say like,
1440
00:56:41,715 --> 00:56:43,732
"hey, how do you want me
to respond?
1441
00:56:43,959 --> 00:56:45,216
Do you need space?"
1442
00:56:45,236 --> 00:56:47,886
'cause I think it's okay
even to say,
1443
00:56:47,905 --> 00:56:50,221
"hey, like, I love you.
I want this marriage to work.
1444
00:56:50,315 --> 00:56:51,907
This has nothing
to do with you,"
1445
00:56:52,134 --> 00:56:53,575
Just to, like,
give them that peace of mind
1446
00:56:53,727 --> 00:56:55,727
And comfort upfront,
and just say,
1447
00:56:55,821 --> 00:56:58,822
"but I just need five minutes
or so to, like, process this."
1448
00:56:58,916 --> 00:57:00,490
- I like that.
1449
00:57:00,643 --> 00:57:02,418
Nah, that's a good idea.
I'm gonna do that.
1450
00:57:02,645 --> 00:57:04,645
That way, I can get it
from the lion's mouth.
1451
00:57:04,738 --> 00:57:06,237
- And there are times
where you're gonna have
1452
00:57:06,331 --> 00:57:09,073
To have conversations
over and over.
1453
00:57:09,093 --> 00:57:11,242
Like, initially, it felt like,
"bruh, I'm not trying--
1454
00:57:11,262 --> 00:57:12,594
"we just got finished
talking about this.
1455
00:57:12,746 --> 00:57:14,337
I don't feel like talking
about this over and over."
1456
00:57:14,490 --> 00:57:16,432
But it's like, okay, clearly,
we're not finished with this.
1457
00:57:16,659 --> 00:57:18,492
- But see, that's what
justin calls digging.
1458
00:57:18,585 --> 00:57:19,751
You remember in there
he was like,
1459
00:57:19,845 --> 00:57:21,161
"she's digging, digging"?
1460
00:57:21,254 --> 00:57:22,271
- Mm-hmm.
- That's my perspective.
1461
00:57:22,422 --> 00:57:24,088
- But he doesn't
see it as that.
1462
00:57:24,108 --> 00:57:25,256
So that's why
I get so frustrated,
1463
00:57:25,350 --> 00:57:27,091
And that's why I get so mad.
1464
00:57:27,186 --> 00:57:29,519
- And that's part of the thing.
You might not like him today.
1465
00:57:29,672 --> 00:57:30,929
- Or in that moment.
1466
00:57:30,948 --> 00:57:32,673
- But it goes past that,
you know?
1467
00:57:32,766 --> 00:57:34,858
- I mean, yeah,
'cause I was [bleep],
1468
00:57:34,952 --> 00:57:36,510
But I was in ross,
1469
00:57:36,603 --> 00:57:38,287
And I was like, dang,
we need some body wash,
1470
00:57:38,438 --> 00:57:39,863
So I had got some body wash
for him, you know?
1471
00:57:40,015 --> 00:57:41,848
Like, and I'm still,
like, caring for him
1472
00:57:41,942 --> 00:57:43,608
While, like, mad shopping.
1473
00:57:43,627 --> 00:57:45,185
Like,
"this dude needs some soap.
1474
00:57:45,278 --> 00:57:46,520
You know,
let me get him some soap."
1475
00:57:46,613 --> 00:57:48,188
And I know this
is his favorite soap,
1476
00:57:48,281 --> 00:57:50,207
So I still bought him the soap,
so you're right.
1477
00:57:50,301 --> 00:57:51,358
- Can I ask you
a really intense question?
1478
00:57:51,376 --> 00:57:52,876
- Yeah, for sure.
1479
00:57:53,028 --> 00:57:54,377
- I don't know if I'm--
- no, go ahead.
1480
00:57:54,472 --> 00:57:56,713
- Do you love him?
1481
00:57:56,865 --> 00:57:58,548
♪ ♪
1482
00:57:58,642 --> 00:58:02,869
- I do, I do.
1483
00:58:02,963 --> 00:58:04,128
I'm not in love
with him just yet.
1484
00:58:04,223 --> 00:58:05,722
- Yeah.
- But I do love him.
1485
00:58:05,816 --> 00:58:07,632
I care for him a lot.
1486
00:58:07,726 --> 00:58:10,711
But yeah, there's days to where
I'm just, like, reconsidering.
1487
00:58:10,729 --> 00:58:13,489
It's just, like,
my heart's in it now.
1488
00:58:13,716 --> 00:58:15,139
- Yeah.
1489
00:58:15,234 --> 00:58:16,975
- So I'm looking
at everything you say.
1490
00:58:17,069 --> 00:58:18,994
I'm picking up
on every single piece.
1491
00:58:19,145 --> 00:58:21,221
So when you tell me stuff,
I'm hanging on to it
1492
00:58:21,240 --> 00:58:23,147
'cause my heart is in this now.
1493
00:58:23,167 --> 00:58:24,725
- Every argument we get into,
1494
00:58:24,743 --> 00:58:26,335
Every disagreement--
I'm not counting,
1495
00:58:26,562 --> 00:58:28,395
But it just makes me
more afraid.
1496
00:58:28,488 --> 00:58:29,730
And I really want
this marriage.
1497
00:58:29,748 --> 00:58:31,673
Like, this ain't
a eight-week thing for me.
1498
00:58:31,825 --> 00:58:33,583
- And, dude, don't beat
yourself up about it,
1499
00:58:33,677 --> 00:58:36,178
'cause, I mean, y'all
are experiencing it so fast,
1500
00:58:36,329 --> 00:58:38,238
So it's gonna be
a lot of growing pains.
1501
00:58:38,331 --> 00:58:39,589
I mean,
but at the end of the day,
1502
00:58:39,742 --> 00:58:41,183
You gotta remember
why you in this.
1503
00:58:41,410 --> 00:58:43,426
Like, I mean,
I reflect back to the wedding,
1504
00:58:43,521 --> 00:58:45,095
And I was worried,
1505
00:58:45,247 --> 00:58:46,096
As her best friend,
like, okay, what type of guy
1506
00:58:46,190 --> 00:58:47,338
Is she getting?
1507
00:58:47,432 --> 00:58:48,749
But then, when y'all met there,
1508
00:58:48,842 --> 00:58:51,860
And just that first impression,
I was like, wow.
1509
00:58:52,087 --> 00:58:56,590
Like, she's--like, that's her.
That's who she is.
1510
00:58:56,608 --> 00:58:58,200
- I want this with her.
1511
00:58:58,427 --> 00:59:00,427
And it's definitely
a fear of mine,
1512
00:59:00,445 --> 00:59:01,870
You know what I'm saying,
losing her.
1513
00:59:02,097 --> 00:59:04,114
The more [bleep] ups that I do,
in my mind,
1514
00:59:04,266 --> 00:59:05,932
I'm, like,
constantly [bleep] up,
1515
00:59:06,026 --> 00:59:07,284
And when it comes
to decision day,
1516
00:59:07,436 --> 00:59:09,619
I don't want her to say no.
1517
00:59:09,713 --> 00:59:12,939
- ♪ this world
is reaching out for ♪
1518
00:59:12,958 --> 00:59:18,220
♪ I'm reaching out,
I'm reaching out for you ♪
1519
00:59:18,447 --> 00:59:20,872
♪ ♪
1520
00:59:20,891 --> 00:59:23,725
[soft music]
1521
00:59:23,952 --> 00:59:29,623
♪ ♪
1522
00:59:29,641 --> 00:59:31,792
- That was fun.
- Yeah.
1523
00:59:31,885 --> 00:59:33,310
I brought up needing
and wanting
1524
00:59:33,404 --> 00:59:34,978
To be on your insurance,
1525
00:59:35,130 --> 00:59:38,481
And how you brought up me
wanting to take your last name.
1526
00:59:38,576 --> 00:59:40,409
And it just felt like
we were saying the same thing,
1527
00:59:40,560 --> 00:59:42,302
As far as, like,
1528
00:59:42,321 --> 00:59:43,804
Well, we're both being,
like, cautious and hesitant.
1529
00:59:43,822 --> 00:59:46,640
Me taking your last name
is a big deal.
1530
00:59:46,658 --> 00:59:49,734
And it's a big deal for you
for me to be on your insurance.
1531
00:59:49,828 --> 00:59:51,253
- What do you need from me?
1532
00:59:51,404 --> 00:59:53,922
Like, what do you need
from me to prove to you
1533
00:59:54,074 --> 00:59:58,168
That I'm in this enough for you
to want to take my last name?
1534
00:59:58,262 --> 01:00:01,096
- I mean, right now, it's so,
like--it feels like
1535
01:00:01,247 --> 01:00:02,839
We're just still
testing the waters.
1536
01:00:02,991 --> 01:00:05,008
Like,
we have separate finances,
1537
01:00:05,102 --> 01:00:06,435
As we should.
1538
01:00:06,662 --> 01:00:08,419
We've known each other
for two weeks.
1539
01:00:08,513 --> 01:00:12,332
Like--but I need
a joint account.
1540
01:00:12,425 --> 01:00:14,184
- You want a joint account.
Okay.
1541
01:00:14,278 --> 01:00:16,945
- I need, like, a plan of where
I'm moving in eight weeks.
1542
01:00:17,172 --> 01:00:19,673
I need so much more.
1543
01:00:19,766 --> 01:00:23,285
- Okay.
- But I need those milestones.
1544
01:00:23,436 --> 01:00:25,287
I need that security
and those steps.
1545
01:00:25,514 --> 01:00:27,122
- Mm-hmm.
1546
01:00:27,349 --> 01:00:28,790
- There's certain
tangible things that can happen
1547
01:00:28,942 --> 01:00:32,610
Before I'm ready
to just be--change my identity!
1548
01:00:32,630 --> 01:00:36,189
My identity, my name.
1549
01:00:36,208 --> 01:00:40,193
The only thing that's been
given to me since day one.
1550
01:00:40,286 --> 01:00:41,619
- We can talk
about the finances.
1551
01:00:41,639 --> 01:00:42,879
We can talk
about all the things you need
1552
01:00:43,031 --> 01:00:47,476
For you to feel safe
1553
01:00:47,703 --> 01:00:49,627
And for me to prove
to you that I'm about this,
1554
01:00:49,721 --> 01:00:51,963
But I feel like I kind of have.
1555
01:00:51,982 --> 01:00:54,875
- You're asking so much of me.
1556
01:00:54,893 --> 01:00:56,467
I've been an elloway
my entire life.
1557
01:00:56,561 --> 01:00:58,044
I have my doctorate.
1558
01:00:58,138 --> 01:01:02,549
Like, it's a big deal.
It is a big deal.
1559
01:01:02,567 --> 01:01:05,552
And until I feel secure,
I can't give you that.
1560
01:01:05,570 --> 01:01:06,887
- Mm-hmm.
1561
01:01:06,980 --> 01:01:08,497
- And no, I don't
feel secure right now.
1562
01:01:08,724 --> 01:01:11,315
♪ ♪
1563
01:01:11,335 --> 01:01:13,894
- I want you to understand
that, like, you--
1564
01:01:13,987 --> 01:01:15,578
What you're asking from me
1565
01:01:15,731 --> 01:01:17,673
Is to live
like a married couple...
1566
01:01:17,900 --> 01:01:19,675
- Yeah.
1567
01:01:19,826 --> 01:01:22,569
- But as a married couple--
like, married couples
1568
01:01:22,662 --> 01:01:25,422
Don't live as a married couple
before taking their last name--
1569
01:01:25,574 --> 01:01:27,015
Their husband's last names.
1570
01:01:27,242 --> 01:01:32,503
- I feel like that's just,
like, a legality.
1571
01:01:32,597 --> 01:01:33,671
- Well, it's not.
1572
01:01:33,691 --> 01:01:35,006
I mean,
I'm telling you it's how
1573
01:01:35,100 --> 01:01:36,191
I would envision being married.
1574
01:01:36,342 --> 01:01:38,251
And you are married to me.
1575
01:01:38,344 --> 01:01:40,437
So my opinion matters
in that regard.
1576
01:01:40,531 --> 01:01:42,847
- So, but you're like,
"I don't want to be around her
1577
01:01:42,866 --> 01:01:44,515
Or with her
if she doesn't take my name"?
1578
01:01:44,535 --> 01:01:46,259
Like, that's where you're at?
1579
01:01:46,352 --> 01:01:49,705
- No, but I would like--
the more we talk about it
1580
01:01:49,932 --> 01:01:51,932
And the more I express
my feelings on the matter,
1581
01:01:52,025 --> 01:01:54,117
The more important
it becomes to me.
1582
01:01:54,269 --> 01:01:56,269
- But you're hearing me
and my reasons?
1583
01:01:56,288 --> 01:01:58,288
- Oh, I am, I am.
1584
01:01:58,382 --> 01:02:00,382
- So it's the same way for me.
1585
01:02:00,609 --> 01:02:02,384
Like, the more I explain
and tell you how I feel...
1586
01:02:02,611 --> 01:02:04,035
- Right.
1587
01:02:04,129 --> 01:02:05,462
- The more important
it becomes to me.
1588
01:02:05,614 --> 01:02:08,131
I need my last name.
I need my identity.
1589
01:02:08,283 --> 01:02:10,058
I don't need your insurance.
1590
01:02:10,285 --> 01:02:12,953
If I get hit by a car,
then [bleep].
1591
01:02:13,046 --> 01:02:14,471
You don't want
to take care of me?
1592
01:02:14,623 --> 01:02:17,123
That's painful,
and I don't understand that.
1593
01:02:17,142 --> 01:02:18,475
But that's your decision.
1594
01:02:18,627 --> 01:02:22,053
You can't even extend a hand
1595
01:02:22,072 --> 01:02:24,239
To help me see
a [bleep] physician.
1596
01:02:24,466 --> 01:02:26,967
So if you can't do that,
then how the [bleep]
1597
01:02:27,060 --> 01:02:29,803
Do you expect me
to take your last name, miguel?
1598
01:02:29,821 --> 01:02:31,562
How?
1599
01:02:31,582 --> 01:02:32,822
- I don't like
this version of you.
1600
01:02:32,975 --> 01:02:34,416
- I'm being myself.
1601
01:02:34,643 --> 01:02:35,976
I'm being authentic.
I'm being real.
1602
01:02:35,994 --> 01:02:38,920
[dramatic music]
1603
01:02:39,147 --> 01:02:45,485
♪ ♪
1604
01:02:45,504 --> 01:02:46,911
[upbeat music]
1605
01:02:47,005 --> 01:02:49,839
- [laughs]
come here.
1606
01:02:49,992 --> 01:02:53,510
- The dawn of a new fashion.
1607
01:02:53,604 --> 01:02:55,662
♪ ♪
1608
01:02:55,680 --> 01:02:57,439
- Feel good?
- Feel good.
1609
01:02:57,590 --> 01:03:00,183
- Look good, feel good?
- You tell me.
1610
01:03:00,335 --> 01:03:01,943
- Yes, always a yes from me.
1611
01:03:02,170 --> 01:03:04,780
- I'm just trying
to be futuristic, girl.
1612
01:03:06,842 --> 01:03:08,116
Remember,
I don't want anyone touching me
1613
01:03:08,268 --> 01:03:09,843
With their nasty germs
1614
01:03:09,861 --> 01:03:12,621
Because the future
must be sterile, so...
1615
01:03:12,848 --> 01:03:15,015
Mmm!
1616
01:03:15,033 --> 01:03:16,291
That's it.
- Did I do it?
1617
01:03:16,442 --> 01:03:18,442
- You nailed it.
1618
01:03:18,462 --> 01:03:21,521
- I can't wait for the next
party for me to plan it.
1619
01:03:21,614 --> 01:03:23,523
Not to say I don't love this.
1620
01:03:23,542 --> 01:03:25,634
This actually turned out
really great.
1621
01:03:25,861 --> 01:03:28,711
But I just mean next time,
it could be fun
1622
01:03:28,806 --> 01:03:31,531
Just to kind of, like,
just be with each other
1623
01:03:31,624 --> 01:03:34,701
Instead of worry about,
you know,
1624
01:03:34,719 --> 01:03:37,962
Containers for jell-o shots.
1625
01:03:37,981 --> 01:03:40,816
Doing some party prep.
1626
01:03:41,043 --> 01:03:44,969
I did purchase these little
plastic shot glasses
1627
01:03:44,988 --> 01:03:46,563
To put the gelatin in.
1628
01:03:46,715 --> 01:03:49,065
I thought mitch was going
to have a heart attack,
1629
01:03:49,159 --> 01:03:52,902
And he respectfully asked me
to return the plastic,
1630
01:03:52,996 --> 01:03:58,816
Single-use containers
and purchase 24 of these guys.
1631
01:03:58,836 --> 01:04:01,169
It was about 20 times
more expensive,
1632
01:04:01,321 --> 01:04:04,414
But I'm sure we'll
use them again.
1633
01:04:04,508 --> 01:04:07,233
We shall see.
1634
01:04:07,327 --> 01:04:10,846
- Hey, hey, hey.
- Greetings, earthling.
1635
01:04:10,997 --> 01:04:14,516
- Welcome to the future.
- Greetings.
1636
01:04:14,667 --> 01:04:16,518
I really like your energy.
1637
01:04:16,669 --> 01:04:19,170
- This is amazing.
- Isn't it great?
1638
01:04:19,189 --> 01:04:22,357
- Do you have a gerbil?
- [laughs]
1639
01:04:22,584 --> 01:04:24,342
- I want to touch that.
- Did you breech--yeah.
1640
01:04:24,361 --> 01:04:26,936
Oh, do touch.
Do kiss your hand and touch.
1641
01:04:27,089 --> 01:04:29,272
- Do I make a wish?
- This is the dlx-4000.
1642
01:04:29,366 --> 01:04:32,775
It's our beacon to the
computer god droid in the sky.
1643
01:04:32,870 --> 01:04:36,112
Yeah, exactly.
1644
01:04:36,264 --> 01:04:39,523
- Oh, cyber--
- hello.
1645
01:04:39,543 --> 01:04:41,434
- Thank you for letting me
come to the future with you.
1646
01:04:41,527 --> 01:04:43,361
- Let me check your eyeballs.
1647
01:04:43,380 --> 01:04:46,773
- Oh, my god, krysten.
1648
01:04:46,791 --> 01:04:49,275
- Welcome.
- This is for you.
1649
01:04:49,369 --> 01:04:50,276
- Oh, my god,
thank you so much.
1650
01:04:50,295 --> 01:04:51,386
- Yeah.
1651
01:04:51,537 --> 01:04:52,779
- They didn't get the memo
1652
01:04:52,797 --> 01:04:54,280
That plastic is banned
in the future.
1653
01:04:54,299 --> 01:04:57,225
[laughter]
1654
01:04:57,377 --> 01:05:01,304
My brother.
From a different time.
1655
01:05:01,456 --> 01:05:03,714
- Hello.
- You look amazing.
1656
01:05:03,734 --> 01:05:05,475
- Thank you.
- That's my alien wife.
1657
01:05:05,627 --> 01:05:06,976
- How are you doing today?
- I'm good, I'm good.
1658
01:05:07,129 --> 01:05:08,719
- Can we do
a quick jell-o shot?
1659
01:05:08,739 --> 01:05:10,480
If you don't want one,
don't take one.
1660
01:05:10,632 --> 01:05:11,648
- These are a little liquid-y.
1661
01:05:11,800 --> 01:05:12,890
- Yeah, they've
been sitting out.
1662
01:05:12,984 --> 01:05:13,983
- Uh-oh.
- Cheers.
1663
01:05:14,077 --> 01:05:15,559
- Wait, we gotta cheers.
1664
01:05:15,579 --> 01:05:18,562
All: Cheers.
- Cheers to the future.
1665
01:05:18,582 --> 01:05:21,249
- Party time.
- We shall party now.
1666
01:05:21,401 --> 01:05:24,586
[electronic music]
1667
01:05:24,813 --> 01:05:27,738
- Is that a draining basket?
- Yes, colander.
1668
01:05:27,758 --> 01:05:32,243
- Oh, my gosh.
- Let's [bleep] rage.
1669
01:05:32,262 --> 01:05:33,670
- To the future.
1670
01:05:33,764 --> 01:05:40,602
♪ ♪
1671
01:05:42,497 --> 01:05:43,605
- Would you guys like
to go check out the view
1672
01:05:43,756 --> 01:05:44,514
On the seventh floor?
1673
01:05:44,666 --> 01:05:45,774
- Yeah.
1674
01:05:49,838 --> 01:05:51,854
- Pretty fun party.
1675
01:05:52,007 --> 01:05:54,507
- Yeah.
- Clearly, I'm committed.
1676
01:05:54,600 --> 01:05:55,784
- Clearly.
- To the cause.
1677
01:05:55,935 --> 01:05:57,527
- I--
- you look great.
1678
01:05:57,621 --> 01:05:59,955
- Love the costumes
by everybody, the decorations.
1679
01:06:00,182 --> 01:06:02,182
- I think we did well.
- Yeah, everyone did good.
1680
01:06:02,200 --> 01:06:05,018
- Good, it was
a long road to get here.
1681
01:06:05,111 --> 01:06:06,869
- How's it been living
with him?
1682
01:06:06,964 --> 01:06:11,191
- So I think, like,
blanket statement, incredible.
1683
01:06:11,284 --> 01:06:13,376
He's actually really easy
to live with.
1684
01:06:13,470 --> 01:06:14,952
However, comma--
1685
01:06:15,046 --> 01:06:16,863
- But...
- Got it.
1686
01:06:16,881 --> 01:06:20,216
- His extremist
of environmentalism
1687
01:06:20,310 --> 01:06:24,128
Is a little more
than I thought it was gonna be.
1688
01:06:24,147 --> 01:06:26,815
- We're kind of radical
anti-plastic,
1689
01:06:26,966 --> 01:06:28,966
And that's hard to,
like, live with.
1690
01:06:28,986 --> 01:06:30,710
- Yeah.
- How's that been going?
1691
01:06:30,803 --> 01:06:31,728
- I mean,
I--she's doing--she's trying.
1692
01:06:31,880 --> 01:06:33,304
- Yeah.
1693
01:06:33,323 --> 01:06:34,823
- And I gotta give
her credit for that.
1694
01:06:35,050 --> 01:06:36,382
I mean, you know, I just,
I can't expect her
1695
01:06:36,476 --> 01:06:38,234
To just be like me overnight.
1696
01:06:38,386 --> 01:06:40,053
- Yeah.
- That's not fair.
1697
01:06:40,071 --> 01:06:41,663
Only--and she already
has gotten annoyed with me
1698
01:06:41,814 --> 01:06:43,573
A couple times because,
when it comes to stuff
1699
01:06:43,667 --> 01:06:45,667
We're doing together,
like planning for this party,
1700
01:06:45,818 --> 01:06:47,836
I was much--very, like,
"I'm gonna go to matt's house.
1701
01:06:47,987 --> 01:06:49,729
"I'm gonna steal
all my niece's toys
1702
01:06:49,748 --> 01:06:51,414
And make them look futuristic."
1703
01:06:51,566 --> 01:06:52,841
Like, my mentality's like...
1704
01:06:52,992 --> 01:06:54,067
- Yeah.
- I'm not gonna buy anything.
1705
01:06:54,085 --> 01:06:55,493
- Yeah.
1706
01:06:55,512 --> 01:06:57,070
- And so she
kind of got mad at me
1707
01:06:57,088 --> 01:06:58,513
'cause she was starting to,
you know,
1708
01:06:58,740 --> 01:07:00,164
Load up the cart online,
and I was--
1709
01:07:00,183 --> 01:07:01,832
- And having fun with it
1710
01:07:01,852 --> 01:07:02,833
And doing it the way
she knew how to do it.
1711
01:07:02,927 --> 01:07:04,668
- Yeah.
- Yeah.
1712
01:07:04,688 --> 01:07:05,836
- And I was just like,
"no, like, don't"--you know,
1713
01:07:05,856 --> 01:07:07,022
And so--but--
1714
01:07:07,173 --> 01:07:08,931
- How'd that resolve?
1715
01:07:09,026 --> 01:07:12,027
- You know, the jell-o shots
are in reusable ramekins.
1716
01:07:12,254 --> 01:07:14,195
- [chuckles]
1717
01:07:14,347 --> 01:07:18,182
- It's like, it's me finding
the balance of being grateful
1718
01:07:18,201 --> 01:07:19,776
And walking around
on tiptoes a little bit
1719
01:07:19,928 --> 01:07:22,037
To make sure
I don't piss him off
1720
01:07:22,264 --> 01:07:24,188
With a non-reusable plastic
or something
1721
01:07:24,207 --> 01:07:26,949
Because I do think
that he is right.
1722
01:07:27,044 --> 01:07:29,693
Both: Yeah.
- He is right about this stuff.
1723
01:07:29,713 --> 01:07:32,363
I guess I'm asking
for maybe his patience on that.
1724
01:07:32,457 --> 01:07:34,107
- Yeah, adjusting.
1725
01:07:34,125 --> 01:07:35,366
- But it shouldn't
just be you adjusting.
1726
01:07:35,385 --> 01:07:36,885
- That's what
I was gonna say too.
1727
01:07:37,112 --> 01:07:38,869
- Like, I feel like he needs
to kind of help out
1728
01:07:38,889 --> 01:07:40,221
And play his part too
1729
01:07:40,448 --> 01:07:43,466
And adjust
to your normal lifestyle and--
1730
01:07:43,618 --> 01:07:45,802
- Yeah.
1731
01:07:45,954 --> 01:07:48,955
- The only other problem,
I'm not sleeping great.
1732
01:07:48,973 --> 01:07:51,549
I was, like, so elated
that my wife didn't snore,
1733
01:07:51,568 --> 01:07:55,719
And then the day we move in,
I get a dog that snores.
1734
01:07:55,739 --> 01:07:59,148
It's so tiny,
but the sound is so big.
1735
01:07:59,301 --> 01:08:02,635
Like, obviously,
I'm the odd man out of, like,
1736
01:08:02,654 --> 01:08:05,488
Not understanding
why this dog is so precious
1737
01:08:05,640 --> 01:08:07,231
Because to me
it's just kind of,
1738
01:08:07,250 --> 01:08:10,752
Like, this useless creature
that breathes loudly.
1739
01:08:10,903 --> 01:08:13,162
- My sweet baby angel,
she does snore.
1740
01:08:13,256 --> 01:08:16,925
It's so sweet, and brief,
and, like, innocent.
1741
01:08:17,076 --> 01:08:19,502
But it is, like,
the sweetest noise.
1742
01:08:19,654 --> 01:08:21,245
And I don't even notice it.
1743
01:08:21,264 --> 01:08:22,764
So I woke up this morning,
and I was like,
1744
01:08:22,991 --> 01:08:26,083
"wow, that was such a nice,
sweet sleep."
1745
01:08:26,103 --> 01:08:30,346
And he said, "I didn't sleep
at all from like 1:00 a.M.
1746
01:08:30,440 --> 01:08:33,090
To like 4:00 a.M.
Because of your dog snoring."
1747
01:08:33,110 --> 01:08:34,258
- Tell him to go sleep
on the couch.
1748
01:08:34,277 --> 01:08:35,735
No, I'm just kidding.
1749
01:08:39,449 --> 01:08:45,269
- She is kind of loud.
- You ain't seen nothing yet.
1750
01:08:45,288 --> 01:08:47,196
- My only red flag is the fact
1751
01:08:47,290 --> 01:08:48,865
He hasn't been in
a relationship in eight years.
1752
01:08:49,017 --> 01:08:50,941
- Yeah.
1753
01:08:50,961 --> 01:08:53,019
- Does he fulfill all the wants
you want in a husband?
1754
01:08:53,037 --> 01:08:54,129
- That's a good question.
- Or are you just...
1755
01:08:54,280 --> 01:08:55,613
- That is a good question.
1756
01:08:55,632 --> 01:08:57,281
- Feeling in the moment
and saying,
1757
01:08:57,375 --> 01:08:58,875
"I'm trying to make this work"?
1758
01:08:58,969 --> 01:09:01,785
- I think that I have--
to be honest with you,
1759
01:09:01,805 --> 01:09:03,546
I haven't really thought
about this at all
1760
01:09:03,698 --> 01:09:07,367
Until now
in terms of box checking.
1761
01:09:07,460 --> 01:09:11,220
He has a lot
of great qualities,
1762
01:09:11,373 --> 01:09:13,556
But now that we're married,
I do look at it more
1763
01:09:13,650 --> 01:09:16,542
As we need to make this work
because we're married.
1764
01:09:16,561 --> 01:09:20,062
I definitely do,
and, you know,
1765
01:09:20,157 --> 01:09:24,066
He does the accents,
and there's a lot of play time.
1766
01:09:24,219 --> 01:09:26,719
So I just want to make sure
he can be serious
1767
01:09:26,812 --> 01:09:28,221
When it's time to be serious
1768
01:09:28,314 --> 01:09:32,074
And that he is
in this for a lifetime.
1769
01:09:32,227 --> 01:09:38,898
♪ ♪
1770
01:09:38,917 --> 01:09:40,249
- ♪ this is the city
that'll never sleep ♪
1771
01:09:40,343 --> 01:09:42,585
♪ always been here,
and it's always gon' be ♪
1772
01:09:42,737 --> 01:09:44,420
- Yo, yo.
- Is it about time?
1773
01:09:44,572 --> 01:09:45,922
- Right on time.
- What's good?
1774
01:09:46,016 --> 01:09:47,331
- What's up, playboys?
- It's been a minute.
1775
01:09:47,425 --> 01:09:48,683
- You like my wings?
1776
01:09:48,834 --> 01:09:49,926
- How you doing, man?
- Good, man.
1777
01:09:50,020 --> 01:09:51,186
- Hello, ladies.
1778
01:09:51,337 --> 01:09:52,520
- Hey, girl, hey.
- Hi!
1779
01:09:52,672 --> 01:09:54,338
- How are you guys?
- How are ya?
1780
01:09:54,357 --> 01:09:56,249
- Oh, my gosh,
long time no see, seriously.
1781
01:09:56,267 --> 01:09:57,675
- I know.
- Like, I know.
1782
01:09:57,694 --> 01:09:59,343
- Like, legitimately.
1783
01:09:59,437 --> 01:10:00,586
- All of us having been
together since the honeymoon.
1784
01:10:00,680 --> 01:10:03,514
- Right?
Ooh, this is beautiful.
1785
01:10:03,608 --> 01:10:05,775
- I like how you just pulled
a wine bottle out of your--
1786
01:10:05,927 --> 01:10:07,760
- Hey!
1787
01:10:07,853 --> 01:10:10,187
- Thank you for bringing that.
1788
01:10:10,281 --> 01:10:11,781
- Okay.
- Right?
1789
01:10:11,875 --> 01:10:14,116
- So is everybody
completely enjoying marriage?
1790
01:10:14,211 --> 01:10:16,377
Is everybody having the time
of their lives?
1791
01:10:16,529 --> 01:10:20,623
- Yeah, but we're going
from 0 to 100.
1792
01:10:20,775 --> 01:10:22,458
You're spending
every single day,
1793
01:10:22,610 --> 01:10:24,277
Every single moment
with this person, nearly,
1794
01:10:24,295 --> 01:10:25,720
Except when, what,
we go to the bathroom?
1795
01:10:25,871 --> 01:10:26,888
- He likes talking
to me on the toilet.
1796
01:10:27,039 --> 01:10:28,948
- What?
- He does.
1797
01:10:29,041 --> 01:10:30,633
He's like,
"can I give you a kiss?"
1798
01:10:30,785 --> 01:10:33,043
- Uh-uh, not on the toilet.
1799
01:10:33,063 --> 01:10:35,638
- I'm like,
"babe, I'm doing number two."
1800
01:10:35,790 --> 01:10:38,066
- Nope.
1801
01:10:39,461 --> 01:10:42,553
- How's it been with everybody
living with their new wives?
1802
01:10:42,647 --> 01:10:44,464
- We're good, man.
1803
01:10:44,557 --> 01:10:45,481
Me and krys,
we're kind of, like,
1804
01:10:45,633 --> 01:10:46,816
Joking like we've been married
1805
01:10:46,968 --> 01:10:48,576
For 40 years
already or something
1806
01:10:48,728 --> 01:10:50,820
'cause everything just seems,
like, a little smoother
1807
01:10:50,972 --> 01:10:52,321
Than maybe
I thought it would be.
1808
01:10:52,474 --> 01:10:55,825
- I can't even believe
that I'm even saying this,
1809
01:10:55,919 --> 01:10:59,587
But the marriage that
I have now is black and white,
1810
01:10:59,739 --> 01:11:03,649
180, completely different,
incredible, ten out of ten,
1811
01:11:03,743 --> 01:11:05,001
Than the marriage
I had in mexico.
1812
01:11:05,153 --> 01:11:06,652
- Team mitch!
- Oh, my god!
1813
01:11:06,746 --> 01:11:08,429
- Aww!
- Tell us about it!
1814
01:11:08,581 --> 01:11:10,006
- I feel like
she really likes me,
1815
01:11:10,158 --> 01:11:11,491
And it just makes me confident.
1816
01:11:11,509 --> 01:11:13,826
You know,
I'm kind of a crazy person,
1817
01:11:13,845 --> 01:11:15,661
And I'm a little weird,
and she seems to like it.
1818
01:11:15,680 --> 01:11:17,513
- He wakes up early.
He makes me coffee.
1819
01:11:17,665 --> 01:11:19,181
- Okay, mitch.
- Oh, my god.
1820
01:11:19,334 --> 01:11:22,110
- I mean, he's watching
reality tv with me.
1821
01:11:22,261 --> 01:11:23,611
I mean, not only do I know
1822
01:11:23,763 --> 01:11:25,262
We're gonna
make it the eight weeks...
1823
01:11:25,282 --> 01:11:26,856
- Oh yeah.
- Yes, you are.
1824
01:11:27,008 --> 01:11:28,190
- I think that this
is a lifelong marriage.
1825
01:11:28,285 --> 01:11:30,285
- Ooh!
- Aww.
1826
01:11:30,512 --> 01:11:33,012
- After mexico,
I was like, hell no.
1827
01:11:33,031 --> 01:11:36,124
Team mitch is no.
That's a no for me.
1828
01:11:36,351 --> 01:11:40,295
But hearing
that they're doing so good,
1829
01:11:40,446 --> 01:11:44,373
Man, it's just a breath
of fresh air.
1830
01:11:44,467 --> 01:11:46,542
- I don't want to say
it's perfect--it's not.
1831
01:11:46,694 --> 01:11:49,211
- Her dog is a bit
of a monkey wrench for me.
1832
01:11:49,364 --> 01:11:52,548
Like--it's, like, it snores.
Like, I can--
1833
01:11:52,642 --> 01:11:54,216
- Like, loud?
1834
01:11:54,369 --> 01:11:57,219
- Yeah, like a fat, old guy.
Like, so loud.
1835
01:11:57,372 --> 01:11:59,296
And she just sleeps
like a rock.
1836
01:11:59,316 --> 01:12:00,706
- I can relate to you,
mitchell,
1837
01:12:00,800 --> 01:12:01,874
Because I think
I'm allergic to cats.
1838
01:12:01,893 --> 01:12:03,392
- Ooh.
- Oh.
1839
01:12:03,545 --> 01:12:04,877
- Every time I come home,
I instantly cough.
1840
01:12:04,896 --> 01:12:06,228
- Oh, man.
- Instantly cough.
1841
01:12:06,381 --> 01:12:08,898
Instantly sneeze.
He's mean, bro.
1842
01:12:09,050 --> 01:12:10,550
- Yeah?
- Max is mean, bro.
1843
01:12:10,568 --> 01:12:11,809
Every time he see me, like...
[growls]
1844
01:12:11,828 --> 01:12:12,994
It's, like,
I didn't do anything.
1845
01:12:13,145 --> 01:12:14,737
- The cat, yeah.
- Just love me, but yeah.
1846
01:12:14,889 --> 01:12:16,814
- Yeah, lindy has a cat.
It's kind of similar.
1847
01:12:16,833 --> 01:12:17,981
Today, actually,
I tried to pet her.
1848
01:12:18,076 --> 01:12:19,225
- Oh, don't do that.
1849
01:12:19,318 --> 01:12:20,651
- And she bit me
and hissed at me.
1850
01:12:20,670 --> 01:12:22,728
- Yeah, oh, yeah.
That hiss is so evil.
1851
01:12:22,747 --> 01:12:24,321
The hiss is so evil.
- Yeah.
1852
01:12:24,415 --> 01:12:26,174
- We also have a dog situation.
1853
01:12:26,325 --> 01:12:27,508
- Oh, you got
a dog situation too?
1854
01:12:27,735 --> 01:12:28,843
- Yes, sir.
1855
01:12:28,994 --> 01:12:30,345
- His dog attacked mine.
- Oh, no.
1856
01:12:30,496 --> 01:12:31,512
- Ooh!
- Yeah.
1857
01:12:31,739 --> 01:12:32,905
- No!
1858
01:12:32,998 --> 01:12:34,682
- And he just didn't disclose
1859
01:12:34,834 --> 01:12:37,352
That his dog
had had past experiences
1860
01:12:37,503 --> 01:12:40,246
Of getting in fights
with other dogs.
1861
01:12:40,264 --> 01:12:43,099
And I'm learning
that there's several examples
1862
01:12:43,193 --> 01:12:45,935
To which I'm finding out
information after the fact.
1863
01:12:46,029 --> 01:12:47,845
And I'm like,
1864
01:12:47,864 --> 01:12:49,346
What else aren't you telling
me until it becomes relevant.
1865
01:12:49,440 --> 01:12:50,848
- Beforehand.
- Yeah.
1866
01:12:50,942 --> 01:12:52,200
- Before.
- Right.
1867
01:12:52,351 --> 01:12:54,110
- I feel like I overshare,
but, I mean,
1868
01:12:54,262 --> 01:12:57,205
There might be information
that I didn't say
1869
01:12:57,356 --> 01:12:59,281
Because it just wasn't
at the top of my memory
1870
01:12:59,434 --> 01:13:02,284
Or because I didn't feel
like it was relevant.
1871
01:13:02,437 --> 01:13:04,937
Like, when nate asks
a question, it's like,
1872
01:13:05,030 --> 01:13:06,272
I'm answering the question,
1873
01:13:06,290 --> 01:13:07,715
But then, like,
a week or two later,
1874
01:13:07,942 --> 01:13:09,458
There might be
additional information
1875
01:13:09,552 --> 01:13:12,536
That I didn't think of
or didn't think to share.
1876
01:13:12,555 --> 01:13:14,889
- Yeah.
- Like, how much is enough?
1877
01:13:15,116 --> 01:13:17,558
You know, I kind of identify
with justin.
1878
01:13:17,785 --> 01:13:19,394
You know,
you can't tell your whole story
1879
01:13:19,545 --> 01:13:21,396
And everything
that's happened in,
1880
01:13:21,623 --> 01:13:23,231
You know,
just a short period of time.
1881
01:13:23,382 --> 01:13:25,458
You know, as far as,
like, sharing information,
1882
01:13:25,476 --> 01:13:27,977
Give him time, be patient.
1883
01:13:28,071 --> 01:13:31,054
And don't expect people
to change overnight.
1884
01:13:31,074 --> 01:13:32,982
It's gonna be tough,
but you just work through it.
1885
01:13:33,076 --> 01:13:35,410
[soft music]
1886
01:13:35,637 --> 01:13:39,080
- So, lindy, how's it going
with you and miguel?
1887
01:13:39,231 --> 01:13:41,474
- We did have
our first conflict.
1888
01:13:41,492 --> 01:13:45,811
I have asked miguel
if I could be on his insurance,
1889
01:13:45,905 --> 01:13:48,089
And the conversation led to,
1890
01:13:48,316 --> 01:13:50,073
"well,
are you taking my last name?"
1891
01:13:50,093 --> 01:13:51,575
- Ooh,
an insurance conversation
1892
01:13:51,669 --> 01:13:52,927
To a name conversation.
1893
01:13:53,078 --> 01:13:54,595
- Yes, yes,
and to me, it's like--
1894
01:13:54,747 --> 01:13:55,988
- How did we get here?
1895
01:13:56,081 --> 01:13:57,339
Yeah.
- This is insurance.
1896
01:13:57,434 --> 01:14:01,084
It's like, this is insurance,
and this is name.
1897
01:14:01,104 --> 01:14:04,272
- I kind of, like, am
appreciating miguel for saying,
1898
01:14:04,423 --> 01:14:06,590
"if you want
the health insurance,
1899
01:14:06,684 --> 01:14:09,168
You gotta take santiago."
1900
01:14:09,187 --> 01:14:10,853
I'm team miguel.
I get it.
1901
01:14:11,005 --> 01:14:13,856
I'd say the same thing.
1902
01:14:13,950 --> 01:14:16,600
- But I got agitated.
I was getting defensive.
1903
01:14:16,694 --> 01:14:18,453
- Lindy and I have very
different communication styles.
1904
01:14:18,604 --> 01:14:19,937
Like, I'll take a moment
1905
01:14:19,956 --> 01:14:21,456
To kind of think
through my thoughts.
1906
01:14:21,607 --> 01:14:23,440
She needs
to speak her thoughts.
1907
01:14:23,460 --> 01:14:26,944
And she got very negative,
and I'm not a fan of that.
1908
01:14:26,963 --> 01:14:28,278
- I want to be santiago.
1909
01:14:28,372 --> 01:14:29,780
I do.
I see it.
1910
01:14:29,799 --> 01:14:31,857
Like, but I need the assurance
1911
01:14:31,876 --> 01:14:34,635
That this is gonna be
a forever thing.
1912
01:14:34,787 --> 01:14:37,454
- You know, I love lindy.
She's my girl.
1913
01:14:37,548 --> 01:14:40,290
And I totally understand
1914
01:14:40,310 --> 01:14:43,052
Not wanting
to give up her last name.
1915
01:14:43,204 --> 01:14:45,204
Lindy needs to be secure
in this marriage.
1916
01:14:45,297 --> 01:14:46,814
So miguel's gonna have to,
1917
01:14:46,966 --> 01:14:50,151
You know,
really put in some work.
1918
01:14:50,302 --> 01:14:52,211
- You know,
I got to look out for me
1919
01:14:52,230 --> 01:14:54,137
And my emotional state
with all this,
1920
01:14:54,157 --> 01:14:57,307
And I want to make sure that,
if I do move on--like,
1921
01:14:57,401 --> 01:14:58,809
Continue on with lindy,
1922
01:14:58,828 --> 01:15:00,736
That she is
the right person for me,
1923
01:15:00,830 --> 01:15:03,313
And not only that, that I am
the right person for her.
1924
01:15:03,407 --> 01:15:05,241
We're at the point where
we've developed enough feelings
1925
01:15:05,393 --> 01:15:07,243
For each other that,
if it doesn't work out...
1926
01:15:07,395 --> 01:15:08,911
- It's gonna hurt.
- It's gonna devastate us.
1927
01:15:09,063 --> 01:15:13,991
♪ ♪
1928
01:15:14,010 --> 01:15:15,343
[upbeat music]
1929
01:15:15,494 --> 01:15:16,511
- ♪ I been on ten, baby,
I been on grind mode ♪
1930
01:15:16,662 --> 01:15:18,495
♪ yeah, yeah ♪
1931
01:15:18,589 --> 01:15:22,091
- I need to know who else
has consummated their marriage.
1932
01:15:22,185 --> 01:15:25,094
[tense music]
1933
01:15:25,246 --> 01:15:31,692
♪ ♪
1934
01:15:31,844 --> 01:15:36,531
- I ain't been lucky at all.
I'll be honest, I've tried.
1935
01:15:36,682 --> 01:15:38,090
You know,
it's definitely been--boy,
1936
01:15:38,183 --> 01:15:40,701
It has been a challenge,
you know.
1937
01:15:40,853 --> 01:15:42,778
Because we've had our ups
and downs,
1938
01:15:42,930 --> 01:15:47,933
She hasn't wanted to have sex,
and that has been really hard.
1939
01:15:47,952 --> 01:15:49,210
- Poor justin
be having wet dreams.
1940
01:15:49,437 --> 01:15:50,711
He hopped out
of the bed one morning
1941
01:15:50,863 --> 01:15:52,029
'cause he had a wet dream.
1942
01:15:52,048 --> 01:15:54,382
I'm like, poor baby.
[laughter]
1943
01:15:57,202 --> 01:15:58,702
- I'm not sure
what's happening, you know,
1944
01:15:58,796 --> 01:16:00,555
Because in the beginning,
1945
01:16:00,782 --> 01:16:02,056
Alexis mentioned
to the whole group
1946
01:16:02,207 --> 01:16:04,207
That she's typically
very proactive
1947
01:16:04,302 --> 01:16:05,801
About getting physical,
1948
01:16:05,953 --> 01:16:07,228
And then justin,
on the other hand,
1949
01:16:07,379 --> 01:16:08,804
He's a little bit
more conservative.
1950
01:16:08,956 --> 01:16:11,307
So, you know,
now that justin is comfortable
1951
01:16:11,401 --> 01:16:14,126
And he made a move,
it didn't happen still?
1952
01:16:14,145 --> 01:16:16,887
So I'm just, like,
a little thrown off by it.
1953
01:16:16,906 --> 01:16:19,240
- It hadn't happened,
but when it do...
1954
01:16:19,467 --> 01:16:20,724
- It's gonna be a cosmic event,
for sure.
1955
01:16:20,743 --> 01:16:22,968
- Cosmic!
[laughter]
1956
01:16:23,062 --> 01:16:26,080
- Hey, I just had
a future party, okay?
1957
01:16:26,231 --> 01:16:28,140
It's gonna be a supernova.
1958
01:16:28,233 --> 01:16:30,251
- It's gonna be two minutes.
1959
01:16:31,813 --> 01:16:35,164
- Krysten, did you consummate
your marriage?
1960
01:16:35,316 --> 01:16:37,925
- Yeah, we've been
consummating like bunnies.
1961
01:16:38,077 --> 01:16:39,652
- Yeah, you have!
Okay!
1962
01:16:39,745 --> 01:16:42,154
- Morning, noon, and night.
1963
01:16:42,173 --> 01:16:44,265
I can't get this man off me
if I tried.
1964
01:16:44,416 --> 01:16:45,933
- It's wild.
We had such a rocky start.
1965
01:16:46,085 --> 01:16:47,918
You know, like--
- yeah, yeah, definitely.
1966
01:16:47,937 --> 01:16:49,770
- Like, I kind wasn't really
into her in the beginning.
1967
01:16:49,922 --> 01:16:51,421
But once I
kind of worked through that
1968
01:16:51,515 --> 01:16:53,682
And came clean to her,
so that we were in it together,
1969
01:16:53,835 --> 01:16:55,184
I mean, everything
started changing for me
1970
01:16:55,336 --> 01:16:57,094
Really that--from that moment.
1971
01:16:57,113 --> 01:16:59,004
- Oh, that's beautiful.
That's dope.
1972
01:16:59,023 --> 01:17:00,689
- We were, like, really,
like, rooting for you.
1973
01:17:00,842 --> 01:17:02,524
You know, I was like,
he looks more comfortable.
1974
01:17:02,677 --> 01:17:04,026
He looks more happy.
- Yeah.
1975
01:17:04,120 --> 01:17:05,511
- And I was like, yo,
they're gonna be all right.
1976
01:17:05,529 --> 01:17:07,696
- Thanks, man.
- How about you, nate?
1977
01:17:07,849 --> 01:17:11,183
- So...
1978
01:17:11,276 --> 01:17:14,353
We haven't consummated
the marriage yet,
1979
01:17:14,372 --> 01:17:18,615
But let's just say I had
dessert after dinner, you dig?
1980
01:17:18,635 --> 01:17:20,784
- What does that mean?
1981
01:17:20,878 --> 01:17:23,379
Like, what kind of dessert
you had, you know, cherry pie?
1982
01:17:23,531 --> 01:17:26,048
Sweet potato pie?
Pumpkin pie?
1983
01:17:26,142 --> 01:17:28,550
- I'm a giver, so, you know,
I had to [bleep] on her.
1984
01:17:28,645 --> 01:17:29,810
- Oh.
- Oh.
1985
01:17:30,037 --> 01:17:31,370
- I see.
1986
01:17:31,463 --> 01:17:33,055
- Five minutes later,
fireworks.
1987
01:17:33,207 --> 01:17:34,482
- So she's still holding out
on you, dude?
1988
01:17:34,633 --> 01:17:36,225
- I know, right?
- Like, after that?
1989
01:17:36,377 --> 01:17:37,543
Like,
that's even more personal.
1990
01:17:37,561 --> 01:17:40,562
- Right?
I agree.
1991
01:17:40,657 --> 01:17:42,564
- I feel like
that's more of an appetizer,
1992
01:17:42,659 --> 01:17:45,976
And sex is the main course,
so that was interesting.
1993
01:17:46,070 --> 01:17:47,903
I mean, it sounds like
that's still a struggle there.
1994
01:17:48,055 --> 01:17:51,240
[laughs]
1995
01:17:51,392 --> 01:17:54,226
- So I'll piggyback.
1996
01:17:54,319 --> 01:17:57,004
There has been no intimacy.
1997
01:17:57,156 --> 01:18:00,508
You know, it's just, my walls
are up since the honeymoon.
1998
01:18:00,659 --> 01:18:04,236
And I'm trying to accept that
binh made a really big mistake,
1999
01:18:04,255 --> 01:18:06,013
And that he is very sorry,
2000
01:18:06,165 --> 01:18:10,834
But I have no idea
how to bring this wall down.
2001
01:18:10,928 --> 01:18:13,503
So I'm just trying to take it
day by day, step by step.
2002
01:18:13,523 --> 01:18:14,914
- Yep.
2003
01:18:14,932 --> 01:18:16,190
- 'cause we do like to hang out
2004
01:18:16,417 --> 01:18:17,599
With each other
and be around each other.
2005
01:18:17,752 --> 01:18:19,193
- Good.
2006
01:18:19,420 --> 01:18:20,361
- And we'll go to the gym,
and eat food,
2007
01:18:20,512 --> 01:18:21,862
And do all the things.
2008
01:18:22,014 --> 01:18:23,589
Like, binh's a good guy.
2009
01:18:23,682 --> 01:18:26,367
- That is huge!
- Mm-hmm.
2010
01:18:26,518 --> 01:18:27,702
- You're not sitting here
saying, like,
2011
01:18:27,929 --> 01:18:29,445
"I can't even be
around this person.
2012
01:18:29,597 --> 01:18:30,871
"like, he's broken my trust.
2013
01:18:31,023 --> 01:18:32,264
"I don't even like
being around him.
2014
01:18:32,283 --> 01:18:34,024
I can't stand, like, this."
2015
01:18:34,043 --> 01:18:35,451
That, I'd be like, oh, my god,
like, there--what do we do?
2016
01:18:35,603 --> 01:18:36,936
- Yeah.
2017
01:18:36,954 --> 01:18:39,029
- But this friendship
that you have,
2018
01:18:39,123 --> 01:18:41,106
That can be the beginning
2019
01:18:41,125 --> 01:18:43,292
And rebuilding
of something really beautiful.
2020
01:18:43,444 --> 01:18:45,052
- Yeah.
2021
01:18:46,389 --> 01:18:49,281
- I just hope
that she can give him grace,
2022
01:18:49,300 --> 01:18:51,058
And know that he [bleep] up,
2023
01:18:51,210 --> 01:18:54,636
And figure out how that they
can restart and move forward.
2024
01:18:54,789 --> 01:18:56,805
And I think,
if they're able to do that,
2025
01:18:56,958 --> 01:18:58,381
I think
that there's hope there.
2026
01:18:58,401 --> 01:19:00,960
I just--who knows?
2027
01:19:00,978 --> 01:19:03,479
Nothing's off the table
for any of us at this point.
2028
01:19:03,631 --> 01:19:05,388
- Like, let's say
she didn't have a wall up.
2029
01:19:05,483 --> 01:19:08,484
Would you be lovey-dovey?
2030
01:19:08,636 --> 01:19:10,302
Like, if you want to be, like,
2031
01:19:10,321 --> 01:19:12,079
Affectionate with her,
be affectionate with her.
2032
01:19:12,231 --> 01:19:13,748
- It's almost like
when you're in junior high,
2033
01:19:13,899 --> 01:19:15,307
And it's, like,
the first girl you date,
2034
01:19:15,326 --> 01:19:17,142
And, like, it's just, like,
2035
01:19:17,161 --> 01:19:20,087
You're trying to, like,
see what you get away with.
2036
01:19:20,314 --> 01:19:22,239
- The movie move?
- Yeah, you're kissing.
2037
01:19:22,258 --> 01:19:24,425
And then your hand
starts moving towards the boob,
2038
01:19:24,652 --> 01:19:26,502
And she's like, "no,"
and then you,
2039
01:19:26,654 --> 01:19:29,338
A few more minutes later,
you start to move.
2040
01:19:29,490 --> 01:19:31,006
You gotta kind of test
the waters a little bit,
2041
01:19:31,100 --> 01:19:33,509
As long as it's in a way
that's not threatening,
2042
01:19:33,603 --> 01:19:34,994
But showing interest.
2043
01:19:35,012 --> 01:19:36,829
- Yeah.
2044
01:19:36,922 --> 01:19:39,515
- Why don't you guys
try to start clean
2045
01:19:39,609 --> 01:19:40,941
And go on a date,
2046
01:19:41,093 --> 01:19:43,426
Even if it's a taco
from a taco truck?
2047
01:19:43,446 --> 01:19:45,279
- We'll never be able
to change the past.
2048
01:19:45,506 --> 01:19:46,781
We'll never be able
to change what's been said.
2049
01:19:47,008 --> 01:19:49,858
But this is the hard part
of marriage,
2050
01:19:49,952 --> 01:19:51,786
Is the distrust and the,
2051
01:19:51,937 --> 01:19:53,954
"you said this,
and it sit with me this way,"
2052
01:19:54,106 --> 01:19:56,273
And figuring out
how you can move past it.
2053
01:19:56,292 --> 01:19:57,958
So there's a lot of heaviness,
2054
01:19:58,185 --> 01:20:00,944
But there's a lot
of hope for goodness...
2055
01:20:00,963 --> 01:20:02,612
- Yeah.
- And fun and lightness.
2056
01:20:02,632 --> 01:20:06,783
- Yeah, I just need to,
like, take a step back, reset.
2057
01:20:06,803 --> 01:20:08,302
That's kind of
what I need sometimes,
2058
01:20:08,529 --> 01:20:11,697
Is I just need to stop,
clean slate for morgan.
2059
01:20:11,790 --> 01:20:13,866
We've been put together
for a reason.
2060
01:20:13,884 --> 01:20:15,701
I need to explore that.
2061
01:20:15,719 --> 01:20:18,628
- ♪ give me your attention,
oh, baby ♪
2062
01:20:18,722 --> 01:20:23,042
♪ focus on me ♪
2063
01:20:23,060 --> 01:20:26,211
- ♪ maybe, maybe this time ♪
2064
01:20:26,230 --> 01:20:28,380
♪ we gon' get it right,
I'ma get it right ♪
2065
01:20:28,473 --> 01:20:30,307
♪ maybe, maybe this time ♪
2066
01:20:30,326 --> 01:20:33,385
- So how'd it go?
- It was really great.
2067
01:20:33,478 --> 01:20:35,888
Like, everyone
just was so honest
2068
01:20:35,906 --> 01:20:39,500
And real about the troubles
2069
01:20:39,727 --> 01:20:42,411
They're having
within their relationships.
2070
01:20:42,505 --> 01:20:45,488
And at the same time,
there's so much hope.
2071
01:20:45,508 --> 01:20:47,324
- Yeah, so a question for you.
2072
01:20:47,343 --> 01:20:50,344
Like, what'd you share
with them about us?
2073
01:20:50,571 --> 01:20:55,908
- Yeah, I talked about
how I feel about santiago.
2074
01:20:55,926 --> 01:20:57,834
- Yeah,
the other day's conversation
2075
01:20:57,854 --> 01:21:00,187
Definitely kind of threw me
through a loop
2076
01:21:00,339 --> 01:21:04,600
Because you came down
on me hard.
2077
01:21:04,694 --> 01:21:09,771
- I'm not proud of speaking
to you the way I did.
2078
01:21:09,924 --> 01:21:13,275
But I wasn't feeling,
like, heard or, like--
2079
01:21:13,427 --> 01:21:15,352
- Mm-hmm.
2080
01:21:15,371 --> 01:21:17,037
- I wasn't feeling secure
in what you were telling me.
2081
01:21:17,189 --> 01:21:19,206
So then I was defensive.
2082
01:21:19,433 --> 01:21:21,767
And you know--I've told you
I can get defensive,
2083
01:21:21,860 --> 01:21:25,212
And that was it,
you saw it.
2084
01:21:25,364 --> 01:21:28,290
But I feel like you need
to see these sides of me,
2085
01:21:28,442 --> 01:21:29,942
And it's gonna suck.
2086
01:21:29,960 --> 01:21:31,627
And I need to see the sides
of you that suck.
2087
01:21:31,779 --> 01:21:34,871
And the more raw,
and vulnerable, and honest,
2088
01:21:34,891 --> 01:21:36,724
And ourselves we can be,
2089
01:21:36,951 --> 01:21:38,392
And the more we can
objectively be like,
2090
01:21:38,619 --> 01:21:40,210
"yeah, is this
the right person for me?
2091
01:21:40,229 --> 01:21:41,637
Can I do this forever?
Do I want this person forever?"
2092
01:21:41,789 --> 01:21:43,063
- Mm-hmm.
2093
01:21:43,215 --> 01:21:44,790
- Like, you've seen
a part of me.
2094
01:21:44,808 --> 01:21:47,476
Like, you've seen
that--where I can go
2095
01:21:47,628 --> 01:21:50,237
If I don't feel safe
and secure.
2096
01:21:50,389 --> 01:21:51,813
- Yeah, I don't
like that place.
2097
01:21:51,966 --> 01:21:53,315
That's the thing, yeah.
- I know.
2098
01:21:53,467 --> 01:21:55,634
- Yeah.
- I don't like it either.
2099
01:21:55,653 --> 01:21:57,411
And I am sorry.
2100
01:21:57,638 --> 01:21:59,396
I hear you,
2101
01:21:59,490 --> 01:22:02,565
And I'll just keep trying
my best to prove that to you.
2102
01:22:02,585 --> 01:22:05,735
I feel like
every conflict we have,
2103
01:22:05,755 --> 01:22:07,312
It makes us stronger,
2104
01:22:07,331 --> 01:22:09,089
And that's, like,
such a green light.
2105
01:22:09,241 --> 01:22:11,333
That's more
than I could ever ask for.
2106
01:22:11,427 --> 01:22:13,243
- We're going to be presented
with challenges.
2107
01:22:13,262 --> 01:22:15,078
- Yes.
- It's how we overcome them.
2108
01:22:15,097 --> 01:22:18,323
So if you want to be
on my insurance, yeah,
2109
01:22:18,417 --> 01:22:20,083
I'll put you on my insurance
2110
01:22:20,102 --> 01:22:24,754
Because I do very much like
the idea of us being married.
2111
01:22:24,848 --> 01:22:29,668
- ♪ can't deny the feelings
'cause they too strong ♪
2112
01:22:29,687 --> 01:22:31,779
- That's what I needed to hear.
2113
01:22:32,006 --> 01:22:33,930
- ♪ 'cause I don't want
to wait ♪
2114
01:22:33,950 --> 01:22:38,694
♪ I want you right now,
right now ♪
2115
01:22:38,788 --> 01:22:42,030
[upbeat music]
2116
01:22:42,124 --> 01:22:44,032
- Next time on
"married at first sight"...
2117
01:22:44,126 --> 01:22:47,035
- ♪ me and pastor cal,
yeah, he's my pal ♪
2118
01:22:47,129 --> 01:22:50,539
♪ yeah, I got a gal,
yeah, she's my wifey ♪
2119
01:22:50,691 --> 01:22:52,207
- ♪ I'ma lick,
baby, I'ma lick that ♪
2120
01:22:52,359 --> 01:22:53,950
♪ yeah, I'm on the rise ♪
2121
01:22:53,970 --> 01:22:55,302
♪ but it's really nice
to meet ya ♪
2122
01:22:55,529 --> 01:22:56,878
- Our couples
examine just what
2123
01:22:57,031 --> 01:22:58,973
It will take to fall in love.
2124
01:22:59,200 --> 01:23:01,717
- Do you got a aquaman fetish?
- [laughs]
2125
01:23:01,811 --> 01:23:03,978
- Whatever I have to do
to make her happy, I'ma do.
2126
01:23:04,205 --> 01:23:06,371
- Loving me,
where are we on the spectrum?
2127
01:23:06,390 --> 01:23:10,209
- Four out of ten.
- Four out of ten?
2128
01:23:10,227 --> 01:23:11,944
I want to know that you love me
before decision day.
2129
01:23:16,734 --> 01:23:20,068
- How do you feel about the
concept of falling out of love?
2130
01:23:20,221 --> 01:23:22,329
- Is she past the point
of being,
2131
01:23:22,481 --> 01:23:23,572
You know, jekyll and hyde?
2132
01:23:23,724 --> 01:23:24,890
- If I was with someone
2133
01:23:24,983 --> 01:23:27,150
And I perceive them
to be crazy,
2134
01:23:27,169 --> 01:23:29,411
Not for me, bye.
2135
01:23:29,563 --> 01:23:30,820
- I'm getting to the point
where I don't want
2136
01:23:30,840 --> 01:23:32,898
To prove myself anymore.
2137
01:23:32,916 --> 01:23:35,158
Well, you got emotion now.
You happy?
2138
01:23:35,177 --> 01:23:38,971
[dramatic music]