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- Hi.
- Hi, there.
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- Ten singles took
a monumental leap of faith
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In order to find love.
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They married
as complete strangers.
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[cheering]
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And in 3 1/2 weeks,
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They'll have to decide
whether they want
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To stay married
or get a divorce.
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Last time, our couples
explored each other's pasts
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In hope that their futures
would become clearer.
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[upbeat music]
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- We consummated
the marriage, yeah.
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- So that should make you
feel more married, right?
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- Yes.
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- Does that make you
feel more secure or less?
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- More secure.
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- You're gonna find
a total babe
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That you're gonna fall madly
in love with.
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I love you.
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- I love you too.
- Aw.
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- You're the best.
- Thanks.
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You're the best too.
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- I was harboring
some anger to him
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About how we started, still.
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And I don't feel
the anger anymore.
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- Well, when I asked for help,
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My brother would be like,
"figure it out."
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That was his go-to,
"figure it out."
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It trained my mind
to get everything right.
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- I think that helps me
understand why
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We don't think the same way
and understand why
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Some of our perspectives
don't match.
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- Every time I've opened up,
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And every time I've shared
something with you,
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It's been used against me.
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So I just don't feel
comfortable giving you
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Anything personal
or deep anymore.
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♪ ♪
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- And tonight...
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- What would you think
if you caught me watching porn?
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- Our couples
must explore ways to go deeper
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In order to form a foundation
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Of trust and intimacy
in their marriage.
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- He needs a diaper.
[baby crying]
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- Checking the diaper.
- Try the rocking next.
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I can see that he's,
like, natural,
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And that he'll be
a good baby daddy.
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- Open wider.
Why are you being scared?
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- It's not a bad feeling,
not being in control.
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- We've kind of put
the brakes on sex.
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- But with intimacy
comes fear.
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And with decision day
on the horizon,
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Our couples will
be put to the test
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By exposing more vulnerability
to their spouses.
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- I sometimes question
if I know you.
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- Well, just sit the [bleep]
down and just chill.
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- It's gonna make me
more frustrated
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If you don't trust me.
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- I've had to defend
myself multiple times
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Because of what binh has said.
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- You were pretty
vindictive, then?
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Do you feel
you're ready to be married
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To justin in particular?
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- I don't know.
I don't think so.
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- Yeah.
- There it is.
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[dramatic music]
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- ♪ it's all or nothing ♪
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- This is
"married at first sight."
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- ♪ there's no other way ♪
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♪ it's all or nothing ♪
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- ♪ me and my crew,
although we made it there ♪
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♪ we on top,
we keep on pushing ♪
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♪ bars are raising,
we don't stop ♪
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♪ no one can replicate
the magic that we unlock ♪
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♪ 'cause we on top ♪
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- Oh, my gosh,
this smells so good.
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[gasps]
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- I hope it is.
- Holy--
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- I hope it tastes
as good as it smells.
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- It has now been
over five weeks
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Since our couples met
and married at first sight.
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As they continue to form
their new lives together,
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It's important to strengthen
their connection
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By digging deeper into levels
of trust and intimacy
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In their marriage.
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- So I do three sprays.
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I do one, two,
and then behind my neck.
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I don't know why.
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- So I've been told
not to, like, do this.
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- Why?
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- I don't know.
It does something to the--
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- The hormones?
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- This is just catching
all the stuff that's, like,
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Not really even attached
to her.
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You see that?
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- We all must shed
our earthly attachments.
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- [laughs]
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- Giving this accelerated
process everything they've got
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Can be raw and intense.
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But with just
under three weeks left
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Until decision day,
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It can be the difference
between staying married
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And getting a divorce.
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[slow music]
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- ♪ tell me, tell me,
tell me, tell me ♪
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♪ tell me, tell me, tell me,
tell me what's different ♪
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♪ ♪
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- Hello.
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- What up, shay?
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- Luckily, in life,
I do have a really--
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Some really great
female friends.
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Shayna, she's my neighbor.
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Over this pandemic,
we hung out like every day
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Because we were
kind of in the same bubble.
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She knows
all the things about me
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That might drive my wife crazy.
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So I had a question.
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Thought you'd be
the one to get advice--
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Or to give me good advice
because you know what's up,
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And you're a woman.
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Me and krysten, you know,
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We were
off to a pretty good start,
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Like, in terms of sex
and physical intimacy.
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And she--I guess I was
a little too humorous
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Or comedic in the bedroom.
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Whatever I said or did,
I actually don't even
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Really remember
because I was just--like,
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I was just being me, I guess,
you know what I mean?
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So I don't actually
remember what it was.
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And she kind of,
like, called me out on it.
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And I feel like
that actually affected me
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More than I thought in that
it kind of made me insecure.
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And I kind of felt like I was
put in a box a little bit,
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And that, like, if we're
being physically intimate,
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I can only be certain ways,
you know what I mean?
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Like, everything has
to be serious, or...
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- Yeah, well, okay, I think
that's really good advice.
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I mean, I just want
her to know that,
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Like, what she said
affected me a little bit
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More than I thought.
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So maybe we can find
that medium ground,
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You know what I mean?
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Like, I'm sure
she likes some playfulness
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If it's the right kind
of playfulness.
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- But she doesn't want me
to be, like, you know,
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A stand-up comedian necessarily
in the bedroom either.
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- All right, good stuff.
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That's why I wanted
to call you.
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[upbeat music]
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[upbeat rock music]
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- ♪ when I'm with you,
when I'm with you ♪
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♪ ♪
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♪ nothing
in the world's better ♪
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♪ than when I'm with you ♪
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♪ ♪
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[knocking at door]
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- Hello.
- Hey.
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- Oh, my god!
- I love your outfit.
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- Thank you.
How are you?
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- I come bearing gifts.
I'm well.
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- Oh, wow.
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- We're bringing dr. Pia back
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To follow up on her last visit
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And to help our couples
with trust and intimacy
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In their marriages.
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She has been brought up
to speed on everything
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That's going on in hopes
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Of helping these spouses
dive deeper
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Into the issues and concerns
that have been surfacing
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As they navigate
these last few weeks
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Before decision day.
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- Well,
I just want to start with,
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How have things been
since we last met?
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- I feel like the
last time you saw us,
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We were, like,
kind of not so good.
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But I think it was because,
like, we were trying
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To get through an obstacle.
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- I'm doing things
that are actionable steps
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To showing my wife,
stacia, that I'm trying,
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And I'm getting deeper.
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It's just like,
what more can I prove
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To you that, like, I'm all in?
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- Do you feel like this is--
that argument was resolved?
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- Um...
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Kind of, sort of.
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Because before you came,
we talked about, okay,
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What are some questions
that we're gonna ask you?
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Her number one question was,
what are some tips
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That you can give her
to develop more trust?
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- Mm.
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- I want you to be able
to articulate how you're having
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A hard time trusting me.
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I don't think
you've ever done that before.
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And I think the question is
so important to you right now
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Because the trust has,
like, some sort
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Of fuel meter,
right, where right now,
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I feel like I'm at 80%.
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And you want
to build it up to 100%.
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Because I don't think
of trust as,
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What can I do better?
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It's either I trust you
or I don't.
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You've got to be able
to truly define
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What your trust issue
is in order to kind of come
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To some resolve
because it's gonna
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Make me more
frustrated over time
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If you don't 100% trust me.
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- I feel like there's not a lot
of people that I can trust
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Or rely on their word
unless I can actually,
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Like, fact check it.
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So you might tell me,
oh, the sky is blue.
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And I'm like,
if I can't fact check it,
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If I can't see it myself,
I'm not gonna believe it.
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- Hmm.
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- So it's not that it's him.
It's--
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- It's not personal to him.
- It's me, yeah.
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- So how about this,
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Stacia, do you connect trust
with control at all?
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- Do I connect trust
with control?
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- Mm-hmm.
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- Hmm, maybe.
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I mean, it's like if I don't
see it, then how do I know?
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- Mm-hmm.
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Part of increasing your trust
with nate in particular,
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I think, is going
to be you allowing yourself
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To relinquish some
of this control.
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- The control, mm-hmm.
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- So I want you to come up
with some type of activity
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Where, stacia, you have
to completely rely on nate.
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You're not gonna
know what's going on.
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You're not going to be able
to have any input on it.
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You just have to go
with the flow and trust
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That your husband has
your best intentions at heart.
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All right, and it's gonna be
really hard to do, right?
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Because this is not
who you are, right?
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- Yeah, uh-huh.
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- And I think, nate, that
might kind of show and prove
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To you that stacia's in this,
and is committed,
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And isn't looking at you like,
"I don't trust you.
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I'm not going to trust you."
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And then I want you
to have fun with these items
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In your basket, all right?
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- Yeah.
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- Sounds like
a good assignment.
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- Right?
- Yeah, yeah.
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- As a single woman,
I had to make sure I was
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The one that I depended on.
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And now, in a marriage,
I'm not a single woman anymore.
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So I don't always have
to depend on myself.
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I can depend on my husband.
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And I need to be able
to relinquish the control,
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Give him the opportunity
to lead,
252
00:10:34,042 --> 00:10:36,450
And be able to trust him.
253
00:10:36,544 --> 00:10:38,970
So it's gonna be
very interesting.
254
00:10:39,197 --> 00:10:40,546
[laughs]
255
00:10:40,641 --> 00:10:43,308
- Well, I'm excited about the
whole relinquishing control.
256
00:10:43,535 --> 00:10:44,476
- [sighs]
257
00:10:44,703 --> 00:10:47,628
It's gonna be a hard thing
for me to do.
258
00:10:47,722 --> 00:10:51,040
- Really?
- But I'm gonna try.
259
00:10:51,134 --> 00:10:52,375
- Trying is lying.
You're gonna do it.
260
00:10:52,468 --> 00:10:53,467
- Baby step.
- You're gonna do it.
261
00:10:53,561 --> 00:10:55,987
- Baby steps.
I'll do it, baby steps.
262
00:10:56,214 --> 00:10:57,547
- [chuckles]
263
00:10:57,565 --> 00:10:57,989
[upbeat music]
264
00:11:02,053 --> 00:11:04,220
- ♪ how do we stop
the rain from falling? ♪
265
00:11:04,239 --> 00:11:06,239
[upbeat music]
266
00:11:06,333 --> 00:11:10,168
♪ and when do we admit
that we're just pretending? ♪
267
00:11:10,395 --> 00:11:13,062
- We do so much together,
and you can't even let me
268
00:11:13,156 --> 00:11:15,006
Have two hours with my friends
on the weekend?
269
00:11:15,158 --> 00:11:16,582
It's like, baby--
- you're married now.
270
00:11:16,677 --> 00:11:17,992
- So?
271
00:11:18,086 --> 00:11:20,737
- You have to have a balance
in your old single life.
272
00:11:20,755 --> 00:11:21,996
- In your opinion.
- You ain't got that.
273
00:11:22,015 --> 00:11:22,922
- In your opinion.
- I'm not--
274
00:11:23,016 --> 00:11:24,182
- I'm trying
to balance with you,
275
00:11:24,409 --> 00:11:25,408
But I don't feel like
you're appreciating it.
276
00:11:25,501 --> 00:11:26,333
- How are you trying
to balance it?
277
00:11:26,428 --> 00:11:27,835
- Because I come home early.
278
00:11:27,929 --> 00:11:29,336
I don't stay out all night.
279
00:11:29,356 --> 00:11:31,414
- But okay, okay--
280
00:11:31,507 --> 00:11:32,524
- And then I don't
go out two days--
281
00:11:32,751 --> 00:11:34,693
I only go out once.
282
00:11:34,920 --> 00:11:36,769
- You got to go out
every weekend, though.
283
00:11:36,863 --> 00:11:37,862
That's all I'm saying.
284
00:11:38,089 --> 00:11:40,865
Like, it's a thing.
285
00:11:41,017 --> 00:11:42,516
It is a thing.
286
00:11:42,610 --> 00:11:44,518
- Remember in your vows,
you were like,
287
00:11:44,538 --> 00:11:46,204
"I want my wife to be free.
I want her--"
288
00:11:46,431 --> 00:11:47,931
- I want you to be free--
- "to still be herself--"
289
00:11:48,024 --> 00:11:49,690
- But also, like,
every weekend, though?
290
00:11:49,710 --> 00:11:51,100
- And even in the beginning,
you were like,
291
00:11:51,194 --> 00:11:54,195
"that's okay, baby.
That's fine."
292
00:11:54,214 --> 00:11:55,939
No, I'm just challenging
what you're saying.
293
00:11:55,957 --> 00:11:57,123
- There's just got
to be a balance, though.
294
00:11:57,217 --> 00:11:59,533
- I only went out an hour
and a half last weekend.
295
00:11:59,627 --> 00:12:01,202
- But you went out, though.
296
00:12:01,221 --> 00:12:02,278
- You're not finna smother me.
297
00:12:02,371 --> 00:12:04,113
I'll tell you
that much right now.
298
00:12:04,132 --> 00:12:05,873
- I mean,
I'm not trying to smother you.
299
00:12:05,892 --> 00:12:07,225
But I'm just telling you--
- it feels very much like that.
300
00:12:07,452 --> 00:12:08,618
- How am I smother--
301
00:12:08,711 --> 00:12:09,894
- Because you're complaining
about me going out
302
00:12:10,121 --> 00:12:11,545
An hour and a half
last weekend.
303
00:12:11,639 --> 00:12:12,880
- But that's because you go out
every weekend, though, baby.
304
00:12:12,974 --> 00:12:14,399
- All right, honey, maybe
we should talk to dr.--
305
00:12:14,550 --> 00:12:15,641
- It's a partnership.
- Pia about it.
306
00:12:15,736 --> 00:12:17,643
- We can talk to her.
- This is how I feel.
307
00:12:17,796 --> 00:12:18,737
I'll tell you
when she get here.
308
00:12:18,964 --> 00:12:19,979
Never mind.
309
00:12:20,073 --> 00:12:21,981
[knock at door]
310
00:12:22,075 --> 00:12:25,559
[tense music]
311
00:12:25,653 --> 00:12:27,653
- Oh, am I glad to see you.
312
00:12:27,806 --> 00:12:28,988
- Hello.
- How you doing?
313
00:12:29,082 --> 00:12:30,640
- How are you?
- I'm good.
314
00:12:30,658 --> 00:12:31,750
- Hello.
- Hi.
315
00:12:31,977 --> 00:12:33,993
- Hi, how are you?
- I'm so glad to see you.
316
00:12:34,145 --> 00:12:36,479
- Okay, so where--
should we go--
317
00:12:36,572 --> 00:12:37,922
- Let's go on the couch.
- Over here?
318
00:12:38,074 --> 00:12:40,483
- You can have a seat in this--
- all right, thank you.
319
00:12:40,576 --> 00:12:42,151
All right.
320
00:12:42,245 --> 00:12:43,762
- You need any water
or anything?
321
00:12:43,989 --> 00:12:45,096
- I think I'm okay
for right now.
322
00:12:45,323 --> 00:12:46,823
Thank you, though.
- All righty.
323
00:12:46,916 --> 00:12:48,933
- Okay.
- Welcome to our home.
324
00:12:49,085 --> 00:12:50,268
This is the first time
you've been here.
325
00:12:50,419 --> 00:12:51,770
- Yes, it is.
326
00:12:51,997 --> 00:12:53,271
So what is going on?
327
00:12:53,498 --> 00:12:55,164
I heard a lot
of commotion from outside.
328
00:12:55,183 --> 00:12:56,516
- Oh, no, it wasn't too bad.
329
00:12:56,668 --> 00:12:58,259
- It wasn't too hectic,
just me and justin talking.
330
00:12:58,278 --> 00:13:00,670
- I'm country,
and so I have a high pitch.
331
00:13:00,763 --> 00:13:02,614
- It didn't sound
like y'all were good.
332
00:13:02,841 --> 00:13:03,948
- No, I mean, we just--
this is just how we talk.
333
00:13:04,175 --> 00:13:05,116
- Okay.
334
00:13:05,343 --> 00:13:06,785
- It was just
a passionate conversation.
335
00:13:06,936 --> 00:13:09,120
- Okay, anything that you
want to talk about...
336
00:13:09,272 --> 00:13:10,271
- Yes.
- While I'm here?
337
00:13:10,365 --> 00:13:11,272
Okay.
- Yes.
338
00:13:11,291 --> 00:13:12,515
- Go ahead, honey.
339
00:13:12,534 --> 00:13:14,367
Let her know what you
want to talk about.
340
00:13:14,519 --> 00:13:16,019
- Okay, good, great.
341
00:13:16,112 --> 00:13:20,206
So dr. Pia,
I feel like in a marriage,
342
00:13:20,300 --> 00:13:22,449
There's a balance.
343
00:13:22,469 --> 00:13:24,527
What I have an issue with is,
344
00:13:24,620 --> 00:13:25,970
She goes to the club
every weekend.
345
00:13:26,197 --> 00:13:27,639
Now, when she goes out,
she's only going out
346
00:13:27,866 --> 00:13:30,308
With her friends,
but it's every single weekend.
347
00:13:30,535 --> 00:13:32,051
And I said, "hey, babe,
you don't have to stop,
348
00:13:32,203 --> 00:13:33,311
But it can be a balance."
349
00:13:33,462 --> 00:13:35,371
I look at it
as a single lifestyle.
350
00:13:35,464 --> 00:13:36,981
- So can I--can I just--
- yeah, go ahead.
351
00:13:37,208 --> 00:13:38,817
- So that sounds great
from his perspective.
352
00:13:39,044 --> 00:13:42,728
And that sounds like,
wow, he is a profound man.
353
00:13:42,881 --> 00:13:44,656
He knows what he wants
in this relationship.
354
00:13:44,883 --> 00:13:46,549
And I respect that.
355
00:13:46,642 --> 00:13:48,660
However, there's always
two sides to a story.
356
00:13:48,887 --> 00:13:49,735
- Mm-hmm.
357
00:13:49,830 --> 00:13:51,145
- So I always,
first and foremost,
358
00:13:51,164 --> 00:13:52,572
Don't always go
out to the club.
359
00:13:52,666 --> 00:13:53,647
Sometimes it's brunch.
360
00:13:53,741 --> 00:13:54,907
I just like hanging
with my friends.
361
00:13:55,060 --> 00:13:56,334
I have a large group
of friends.
362
00:13:56,485 --> 00:13:58,411
And they're like, "hey,
let's do this, let's do this."
363
00:13:58,505 --> 00:14:01,155
And my compromise has been,
I'll go out with them
364
00:14:01,249 --> 00:14:02,248
One day out of the weekend.
365
00:14:02,342 --> 00:14:03,657
And it's usually for,
like, two hours
366
00:14:03,751 --> 00:14:04,509
Or something, once a week.
367
00:14:04,736 --> 00:14:05,659
- But it's only--
- hey, hey.
368
00:14:05,753 --> 00:14:07,178
You had your chance.
- My bad, my bad.
369
00:14:07,330 --> 00:14:09,238
- So it's just like,
he's never said,
370
00:14:09,332 --> 00:14:10,515
"hey, I want
to do this with you,"
371
00:14:10,742 --> 00:14:12,016
And I'm like, "no,
I'm going out with my friends."
372
00:14:12,168 --> 00:14:13,834
That's never happened.
- And that's true, she's right.
373
00:14:13,854 --> 00:14:15,520
- Why do you think
that you have the desire,
374
00:14:15,671 --> 00:14:17,430
In this very short amount
of time,
375
00:14:17,524 --> 00:14:19,415
To go out with your friends
every weekend,
376
00:14:19,508 --> 00:14:20,917
Even if
it's not every single day?
377
00:14:21,010 --> 00:14:22,752
- Because I spend
so much time with him.
378
00:14:22,845 --> 00:14:25,271
So to go from living alone,
being independent,
379
00:14:25,365 --> 00:14:26,698
Doing everything by yourself,
380
00:14:26,849 --> 00:14:27,866
And doing everything
with your own free will...
381
00:14:28,093 --> 00:14:28,941
- Sure.
382
00:14:29,094 --> 00:14:30,351
- To being
with the same person,
383
00:14:30,370 --> 00:14:32,612
A lot of the times,
there has to be some balance.
384
00:14:32,764 --> 00:14:34,614
That's extreme
to expect somebody
385
00:14:34,766 --> 00:14:36,933
To want to be
with somebody 24/7
386
00:14:37,026 --> 00:14:39,711
Who was a stranger
two months ago.
387
00:14:39,938 --> 00:14:41,270
- So your life is--
388
00:14:41,364 --> 00:14:42,121
Life changes
when you get married.
389
00:14:42,273 --> 00:14:43,715
- I do.
I get that.
390
00:14:43,866 --> 00:14:44,941
- I don't understand,
what was the point of you
391
00:14:45,034 --> 00:14:45,791
Starting this process,
then if--
392
00:14:45,886 --> 00:14:46,718
- So, justin--
393
00:14:46,869 --> 00:14:47,944
- Well, hold on.
Let her fin--
394
00:14:48,037 --> 00:14:49,112
- Everything was
gonna be condensed.
395
00:14:49,205 --> 00:14:50,296
- Hold on, let her
finish her thought.
396
00:14:50,390 --> 00:14:51,797
- I understood
that I was gonna get married
397
00:14:51,892 --> 00:14:52,965
To a stranger at first sight.
398
00:14:53,059 --> 00:14:54,283
I did understand that.
399
00:14:54,377 --> 00:14:57,136
I didn't think that
it was gonna be like a,
400
00:14:57,288 --> 00:15:00,398
It's either my husband's way
or the highway.
401
00:15:00,625 --> 00:15:01,474
- Okay.
402
00:15:01,568 --> 00:15:03,384
Why did you get married?
403
00:15:03,403 --> 00:15:07,647
- So I got married because
I do want that partnership.
404
00:15:07,741 --> 00:15:10,800
I do want that security.
I do want all of those things.
405
00:15:10,893 --> 00:15:12,744
But I remember my husband,
406
00:15:12,895 --> 00:15:14,579
Me being so excited
on the altar,
407
00:15:14,806 --> 00:15:16,915
To where he's saying,
"I want you to be free
408
00:15:17,142 --> 00:15:19,142
"and do makes you happy
and brings you joy,
409
00:15:19,235 --> 00:15:21,811
But still also me
be next to you."
410
00:15:21,904 --> 00:15:23,570
And I feel like
I'm telling him,
411
00:15:23,665 --> 00:15:24,997
This is what brings me joy--
412
00:15:25,091 --> 00:15:26,907
Spending time with my friends.
413
00:15:27,001 --> 00:15:29,910
So for me to be with someone
else for those two hours,
414
00:15:30,004 --> 00:15:32,931
I feel like that's a bit
controlling and manipulative.
415
00:15:33,158 --> 00:15:34,490
- Mm-hmm.
416
00:15:34,509 --> 00:15:38,327
- So that is an overwhelming
and frustrating situation
417
00:15:38,421 --> 00:15:41,272
Because it's just like,
I don't know.
418
00:15:41,424 --> 00:15:43,833
I can't commit to,
at this point--
419
00:15:43,851 --> 00:15:45,276
And if this is a deal breaker,
I am sorry.
420
00:15:45,428 --> 00:15:46,593
- That's cool.
421
00:15:46,613 --> 00:15:49,113
- I cannot commit
to being with somebody 24/7.
422
00:15:49,265 --> 00:15:51,932
I need some
of that independence back.
423
00:15:52,026 --> 00:15:53,117
- Might we be hyperbolizing?
424
00:15:53,344 --> 00:15:55,119
Because I don't think
he's asking for 24/7.
425
00:15:55,346 --> 00:15:57,271
He's asking for,
why is it that every weekend,
426
00:15:57,365 --> 00:15:58,772
You need to go out
with your friends?
427
00:15:58,792 --> 00:15:59,940
And I think I'm hearing
from you, "listen,
428
00:16:00,034 --> 00:16:01,275
"this is what it's gonna be.
429
00:16:01,294 --> 00:16:02,794
"I'm gonna go out
with my friends every weekend
430
00:16:03,021 --> 00:16:04,945
For the rest of our marriage
or until I see fit."
431
00:16:05,039 --> 00:16:06,372
Is that kind of your stance?
432
00:16:06,466 --> 00:16:09,116
- No, it's saying if I want to,
I would like to do that.
433
00:16:09,135 --> 00:16:11,027
And that's why I ask.
434
00:16:11,120 --> 00:16:13,029
If he said no,
I'd be like, okay.
435
00:16:13,047 --> 00:16:15,364
- Why ask if you know
that that's not what he wants?
436
00:16:15,458 --> 00:16:16,457
- It's because
I didn't know that.
437
00:16:16,551 --> 00:16:17,624
That's what I'm saying.
He's always--
438
00:16:17,644 --> 00:16:18,810
- Until just now,
you had no idea?
439
00:16:19,037 --> 00:16:20,369
- Until this moment, because--
- so until now--
440
00:16:20,463 --> 00:16:21,721
- Can I talk?
- Yeah.
441
00:16:21,815 --> 00:16:23,206
- Because this weekend--
442
00:16:23,299 --> 00:16:25,224
Last weekend,
he said, "oh, good.
443
00:16:25,318 --> 00:16:27,652
I wanted some time to myself,
anyway," when I went out.
444
00:16:27,803 --> 00:16:29,988
So why would that make me
think, oh, he wants time--
445
00:16:30,139 --> 00:16:31,564
- What's the full context
of that story?
446
00:16:31,716 --> 00:16:32,639
- What is it?
Tell me.
447
00:16:32,659 --> 00:16:34,050
- Did I not mention--
I was like,
448
00:16:34,068 --> 00:16:35,384
"dang, baby, this is
the third week you went out."
449
00:16:35,478 --> 00:16:36,235
You was like,
"are you counting?"
450
00:16:36,329 --> 00:16:37,570
Did you not say that?
451
00:16:37,664 --> 00:16:38,663
- But the week before that,
I went out with you.
452
00:16:38,890 --> 00:16:39,664
And you were like,
"I don't like this."
453
00:16:39,891 --> 00:16:40,665
- No, no--
- and you said, baby--
454
00:16:40,892 --> 00:16:42,058
- Baby, we went
out the second...
455
00:16:42,076 --> 00:16:43,001
- You said,
"baby, I'ma give you that."
456
00:16:43,152 --> 00:16:44,168
- We moved here.
457
00:16:44,320 --> 00:16:45,336
- I want you to go out
with your friends.
458
00:16:45,488 --> 00:16:46,987
You told me that.
- Okay, flag on the play.
459
00:16:47,081 --> 00:16:48,673
- This is unreal.
460
00:16:48,900 --> 00:16:51,584
- So let's table the idea of,
like, 24/7,
461
00:16:51,736 --> 00:16:53,085
Whatever the case may be.
462
00:16:53,238 --> 00:16:54,846
So let me ask you this,
463
00:16:55,073 --> 00:16:57,073
Why do you feel that
you're ready to be married,
464
00:16:57,166 --> 00:16:59,017
And that you want
to remain married?
465
00:16:59,244 --> 00:17:01,835
- Because it's just like,
I wouldn't be trying this hard.
466
00:17:01,855 --> 00:17:03,504
This is not who I am.
467
00:17:03,523 --> 00:17:06,024
Like, I am a committed person.
468
00:17:06,251 --> 00:17:07,358
I'm a loyal person.
469
00:17:07,510 --> 00:17:09,527
But I typically--if it
doesn't bring me peace,
470
00:17:09,754 --> 00:17:11,195
And I'm frustrated,
and it's just something
471
00:17:11,347 --> 00:17:13,439
That's continual, I'm out.
472
00:17:13,591 --> 00:17:15,867
So for me,
that commitment alone,
473
00:17:16,094 --> 00:17:18,352
I feel like that's why
I'm ready to be married.
474
00:17:18,446 --> 00:17:20,371
Like, I'm really just like--
475
00:17:20,598 --> 00:17:21,614
- Do you feel
you're ready to be married
476
00:17:21,708 --> 00:17:23,115
To justin in particular?
477
00:17:23,209 --> 00:17:25,526
- Ugh, I don't--I don't know.
478
00:17:25,545 --> 00:17:27,953
I don't think so.
- There it is.
479
00:17:28,048 --> 00:17:30,882
[dramatic music]
480
00:17:31,109 --> 00:17:31,799
♪ ♪
481
00:17:35,722 --> 00:17:37,704
What was it like just now,
justin, for you
482
00:17:37,724 --> 00:17:39,557
To hear your wife say
that she does not feel ready
483
00:17:39,708 --> 00:17:40,966
To be married to you?
484
00:17:41,061 --> 00:17:42,226
- I had my mind made up.
485
00:17:42,378 --> 00:17:43,710
I called her and texted.
486
00:17:43,730 --> 00:17:45,396
I was like, "yo, I'm putting
you as my beneficiary."
487
00:17:45,623 --> 00:17:47,214
You know what I'm saying?
Like, I'm moving.
488
00:17:47,308 --> 00:17:48,808
Like, I want this.
489
00:17:48,960 --> 00:17:51,885
But I'm not trying
to be an option.
490
00:17:51,979 --> 00:17:55,131
Because like I told her,
I value her, and she's a catch.
491
00:17:55,224 --> 00:17:57,391
But I also make it clear,
I'm a catch too,
492
00:17:57,485 --> 00:17:58,576
You know what I'm saying?
493
00:17:58,727 --> 00:18:00,486
And I don't want
to be treated as an option.
494
00:18:00,638 --> 00:18:03,489
- I am trying so hard...
- And I appreciate--
495
00:18:03,641 --> 00:18:05,474
- I try so hard--
- let me--
496
00:18:05,493 --> 00:18:06,900
- With--no.
497
00:18:06,994 --> 00:18:08,586
- Let me say real quick--
- I try so hard with this man.
498
00:18:08,813 --> 00:18:10,162
Like, everything
that I don't typically do,
499
00:18:10,315 --> 00:18:11,831
I've done in this marriage.
500
00:18:11,925 --> 00:18:15,576
My [bleep] dog, newton,
that is the best thing
501
00:18:15,595 --> 00:18:17,244
That has ever happened
to me in my life.
502
00:18:17,338 --> 00:18:18,654
- And my dog isn't.
503
00:18:18,673 --> 00:18:20,489
- And his dog attacked--
and I still was just like,
504
00:18:20,508 --> 00:18:21,766
I'm gonna stay.
505
00:18:21,917 --> 00:18:23,768
Like, everything that
this man is throwing at me,
506
00:18:23,995 --> 00:18:25,586
I have stayed
and gave it my all.
507
00:18:25,680 --> 00:18:26,938
- And he gave up--
508
00:18:27,165 --> 00:18:28,272
His dog's not here
right now, right?
509
00:18:28,499 --> 00:18:30,274
- Thank you, right?
- So you both made sacrifices.
510
00:18:30,501 --> 00:18:32,759
- And I'm not saying he hasn't.
- Okay.
511
00:18:32,854 --> 00:18:35,596
- But it's just like, at what
point is alexis allowed to be,
512
00:18:35,690 --> 00:18:37,523
Like, I'm exhausted?
513
00:18:37,617 --> 00:18:38,691
At what point?
514
00:18:38,843 --> 00:18:40,618
- I hear you.
This sounds exhausting.
515
00:18:40,769 --> 00:18:42,695
I'm exhausted hearing this,
so I can only imagine what
516
00:18:42,789 --> 00:18:45,606
This is like for y'all,
if this is repetitive,
517
00:18:45,625 --> 00:18:46,699
A pattern, right?
518
00:18:46,851 --> 00:18:48,200
- It is.
519
00:18:48,353 --> 00:18:50,019
- The goal for today is to talk
about trust and intimacy.
520
00:18:50,112 --> 00:18:51,854
Like, how can we
build intimacy?
521
00:18:51,873 --> 00:18:53,947
How can we establish
or work on trust when, like,
522
00:18:53,967 --> 00:18:56,634
This is sort
of what's happening every day?
523
00:18:56,785 --> 00:18:59,137
And I'm curious,
like, is this part
524
00:18:59,364 --> 00:19:01,455
Of the barrier
to being sexually intimate
525
00:19:01,474 --> 00:19:02,789
With one another?
526
00:19:02,809 --> 00:19:04,533
- Mm.
527
00:19:04,552 --> 00:19:09,372
- Alexis, why do you think that
you guys haven't had sex yet?
528
00:19:09,390 --> 00:19:12,541
- Right now, if I'm being
honest and transparent,
529
00:19:12,635 --> 00:19:16,303
I feel like this conversation
530
00:19:16,397 --> 00:19:19,732
Is very inconducive
531
00:19:19,884 --> 00:19:25,663
To my mental health,
and it's overbearing.
532
00:19:25,814 --> 00:19:27,648
And I'm not a fan
of it right now
533
00:19:27,667 --> 00:19:30,817
Because
of unrealistic expectations
534
00:19:30,912 --> 00:19:32,986
On what it takes to be a wife
to a stranger within a month.
535
00:19:33,080 --> 00:19:34,172
- So wait, let's go back.
536
00:19:34,323 --> 00:19:36,007
Because you said something
pretty important.
537
00:19:36,234 --> 00:19:37,082
You said this conversation
is not conducive
538
00:19:37,177 --> 00:19:38,083
To your mental health.
539
00:19:38,236 --> 00:19:39,418
- No.
540
00:19:39,570 --> 00:19:40,994
- How is your mental
health suffering right now?
541
00:19:41,014 --> 00:19:42,571
This is important.
- I feel isolated.
542
00:19:42,665 --> 00:19:47,243
I feel alone.
I feel unheard.
543
00:19:47,336 --> 00:19:49,578
I feel dismissed
by both of you.
544
00:19:49,597 --> 00:19:51,597
- Mm-hmm.
545
00:19:51,749 --> 00:19:54,007
- The fact that
because I want to hang out
546
00:19:54,027 --> 00:19:58,029
With my friends
for two hours once a week,
547
00:19:58,256 --> 00:20:00,589
I'm all of a sudden
an unfit wife,
548
00:20:00,608 --> 00:20:02,441
Is obscene.
549
00:20:02,535 --> 00:20:04,276
- Where are you hearing that?
- Actually obscene.
550
00:20:04,370 --> 00:20:05,778
- Where did you hear
that you're an unfit wife?
551
00:20:05,930 --> 00:20:09,540
- So for me to not want
to spend time with my husband
552
00:20:09,767 --> 00:20:12,376
All the time,
that's what I'm hearing.
553
00:20:12,603 --> 00:20:14,045
At any point
during this conversation,
554
00:20:14,272 --> 00:20:16,530
There's never been a solution
to, hey,
555
00:20:16,549 --> 00:20:19,383
Maybe twice a month
with your friend--there's never
556
00:20:19,610 --> 00:20:21,961
Been anything other than,
this is why you are not
557
00:20:22,055 --> 00:20:23,279
Correct, alexis.
558
00:20:23,297 --> 00:20:25,281
- So I think that we
didn't get to a part of,
559
00:20:25,374 --> 00:20:26,373
Like, what's the compromise
560
00:20:26,467 --> 00:20:27,633
Because we were trying
to understand--
561
00:20:27,727 --> 00:20:29,209
- And then we switched
to intimacy and trust--
562
00:20:29,303 --> 00:20:30,228
- Why is this an issue?
563
00:20:30,455 --> 00:20:32,063
- And this is not
even a conversation.
564
00:20:32,290 --> 00:20:33,639
So we're gonna go to bed mad
about a conversation
565
00:20:33,733 --> 00:20:34,957
That was never solved.
566
00:20:34,976 --> 00:20:36,717
- That's not why we're
gonna go to bed mad.
567
00:20:36,736 --> 00:20:38,051
You basically
just said you don't want
568
00:20:38,145 --> 00:20:40,571
To be married to me.
569
00:20:40,798 --> 00:20:42,889
You don't think
that [bleep] hurt?
570
00:20:42,984 --> 00:20:44,984
- I'm sorry if I hurt your
feelings, justin, genuinely.
571
00:20:45,078 --> 00:20:46,744
- And I appreciate that,
but you said it already.
572
00:20:46,895 --> 00:20:48,304
- I know.
I know, husband.
573
00:20:48,397 --> 00:20:51,415
I do know I said that.
- Got it.
574
00:20:51,567 --> 00:20:52,917
- Justin,
you took your ring off.
575
00:20:53,144 --> 00:20:55,402
- Mm-hmm.
- Did you see that, alexis?
576
00:20:55,496 --> 00:20:56,812
- I'm not surprised.
577
00:20:56,905 --> 00:20:58,422
- But do you know
why I took the ring off?
578
00:20:58,649 --> 00:20:59,815
- Why did you take
the ring off, justin?
579
00:20:59,834 --> 00:21:01,333
- Because of that comment.
580
00:21:01,427 --> 00:21:03,502
You basically just told me
that you don't think
581
00:21:03,654 --> 00:21:05,429
You're ready
to be married to me.
582
00:21:05,656 --> 00:21:07,006
You're ready to be married.
- I know.
583
00:21:07,158 --> 00:21:08,340
And that's
a negative thing, right?
584
00:21:08,493 --> 00:21:11,844
- And you don't--like,
that affected my emotions.
585
00:21:11,938 --> 00:21:14,179
- I understand that.
And I'm just telling my truth.
586
00:21:14,332 --> 00:21:16,682
That's it.
- So that hurt you...
587
00:21:16,776 --> 00:21:18,183
- Hell yeah, that hurt.
- When she said that?
588
00:21:18,278 --> 00:21:19,852
- Mm-hmm.
589
00:21:20,004 --> 00:21:21,520
- And you knew if you took your
ring off, that would hurt her?
590
00:21:21,614 --> 00:21:24,690
♪ ♪
591
00:21:24,784 --> 00:21:25,616
It's symbolic.
592
00:21:25,843 --> 00:21:28,010
You taking your ring off,
right,
593
00:21:28,029 --> 00:21:30,679
Is an act of,
that's what you felt like you
594
00:21:30,773 --> 00:21:32,581
Needed to do in the moment.
595
00:21:33,960 --> 00:21:36,368
That is something that,
when we're married, right,
596
00:21:36,521 --> 00:21:38,187
We don't get to just decide,
oh, I'm just--
597
00:21:38,205 --> 00:21:39,446
I'm not married right now.
598
00:21:39,465 --> 00:21:41,299
That pissed me off,
so I'm taking my ring off.
599
00:21:41,526 --> 00:21:42,541
Because the ring is a--
- it was--
600
00:21:42,693 --> 00:21:44,209
- Hold on, hold on.
- All right, sorry.
601
00:21:44,304 --> 00:21:46,119
- The ring is a symbol
of your marriage, right?
602
00:21:46,213 --> 00:21:47,379
- Mm-hmm.
- Okay.
603
00:21:47,473 --> 00:21:49,865
And so in that moment,
you took your ring off
604
00:21:49,958 --> 00:21:52,368
To symbolize how
you were feeling.
605
00:21:52,386 --> 00:21:54,312
- I guess.
606
00:21:54,463 --> 00:21:55,796
- Because you felt hurt.
607
00:21:55,815 --> 00:21:58,374
You felt like in that moment,
she told you she's not
608
00:21:58,467 --> 00:21:59,558
Ready to be married to you.
609
00:21:59,710 --> 00:22:00,985
So you--all right,
I'm taking my ring off.
610
00:22:01,212 --> 00:22:02,803
- The way I took it is that,
like,
611
00:22:02,897 --> 00:22:04,971
That was her answer.
612
00:22:04,991 --> 00:22:07,307
- I need you to understand that
just because I said,
613
00:22:07,401 --> 00:22:10,143
I don't know if I'm ready to
be married to you particularly,
614
00:22:10,163 --> 00:22:12,738
That doesn't mean that
I'm not gonna continue to try.
615
00:22:12,890 --> 00:22:15,333
That just means
that I don't know
616
00:22:15,560 --> 00:22:17,668
If I'm ready
to continue in the state
617
00:22:17,895 --> 00:22:20,746
That we are in
for the rest of my life.
618
00:22:20,840 --> 00:22:22,673
[soft music]
619
00:22:22,900 --> 00:22:24,842
- So you're willing to try?
- Yes.
620
00:22:25,069 --> 00:22:26,068
- You're not--
even though you're not yet
621
00:22:26,161 --> 00:22:27,160
Ready to be married to him,
622
00:22:27,180 --> 00:22:28,087
You're willing
to continue trying...
623
00:22:28,239 --> 00:22:29,572
- Yes.
624
00:22:29,665 --> 00:22:30,514
- To make
the relationship work?
625
00:22:30,666 --> 00:22:32,424
- Yes.
- Justin, do you buy that?
626
00:22:32,518 --> 00:22:34,000
♪ ♪
627
00:22:34,020 --> 00:22:35,427
- I mean, actions speak
louder than words.
628
00:22:35,580 --> 00:22:39,431
- So I think that she's hearing
that as, the only action
629
00:22:39,525 --> 00:22:41,525
You have to look at is
that she's gone to the club,
630
00:22:41,752 --> 00:22:42,918
Or she spends time
with her friends.
631
00:22:43,011 --> 00:22:45,196
And that's indicative
to you of her not trying?
632
00:22:45,347 --> 00:22:46,513
- It's not
that I don't want her
633
00:22:46,607 --> 00:22:48,273
To spend time with her friends.
634
00:22:48,426 --> 00:22:50,442
But, like,
I ain't gon' force her
635
00:22:50,536 --> 00:22:53,019
To spend time with me,
you know what I'm saying?
636
00:22:53,114 --> 00:22:54,780
Her friends come first.
637
00:22:54,874 --> 00:22:56,599
She gon' hang out
with her friends regardless.
638
00:22:56,692 --> 00:22:57,691
- Baby,
why are you saying that?
639
00:22:57,785 --> 00:22:58,951
- She's gonna do it.
640
00:22:59,045 --> 00:23:00,211
- How do you say that when I--
you never even--
641
00:23:00,438 --> 00:23:02,454
There's never been
an opportunity for me to say--
642
00:23:02,548 --> 00:23:04,382
Baby, you never said no.
643
00:23:04,609 --> 00:23:06,384
- And if I had said no,
what would you have said?
644
00:23:06,535 --> 00:23:07,459
- I'm staying home.
645
00:23:07,553 --> 00:23:08,444
You haven't even
given me that option.
646
00:23:08,537 --> 00:23:10,295
- You mentioned that you feel
647
00:23:10,448 --> 00:23:12,131
Rejected when she does this.
648
00:23:12,225 --> 00:23:15,226
And I'm curious if it's hard
for you to be direct with her
649
00:23:15,453 --> 00:23:16,727
Because there's a fear
of rejection.
650
00:23:16,954 --> 00:23:19,045
You feel that she's
being disrespectful
651
00:23:19,140 --> 00:23:21,123
And not sort of hearing what
makes you feel uncomfortable
652
00:23:21,216 --> 00:23:22,291
And changing her behavior--
653
00:23:22,384 --> 00:23:23,809
- Specifically for that, yeah.
654
00:23:23,961 --> 00:23:25,628
- Now you're in a marriage,
655
00:23:25,646 --> 00:23:28,313
Might your behavior need
to change--might both
656
00:23:28,408 --> 00:23:29,815
Of your behaviors need
to change because you're
657
00:23:29,909 --> 00:23:31,558
No longer single people?
658
00:23:31,577 --> 00:23:34,486
[dramatic music]
659
00:23:34,580 --> 00:23:41,544
♪ ♪
660
00:23:43,756 --> 00:23:49,501
- ♪ today's the day
I've been waiting for ♪
661
00:23:49,595 --> 00:23:50,928
♪ ♪
662
00:23:51,079 --> 00:23:54,765
♪ waiting for ♪
663
00:23:54,992 --> 00:23:56,600
- I just feel like
there's nothing that,
664
00:23:56,752 --> 00:23:59,103
Like, we can't overcome.
665
00:23:59,330 --> 00:24:00,679
Like, I know
it's really cheesy, but--
666
00:24:00,773 --> 00:24:02,164
- No, it's true.
667
00:24:02,257 --> 00:24:03,515
- I mean,
it's just gonna be like,
668
00:24:03,609 --> 00:24:06,852
[bleep], throw it at us.
669
00:24:07,004 --> 00:24:09,838
- Lindy and miguel are
in such a great spot
670
00:24:09,932 --> 00:24:11,449
With their trust and intimacy.
671
00:24:11,600 --> 00:24:14,618
However, because they haven't
dealt with any major problems
672
00:24:14,845 --> 00:24:16,937
Or challenges
in their relationship,
673
00:24:17,031 --> 00:24:19,439
They have no idea about how
they're going to work together
674
00:24:19,459 --> 00:24:21,608
To handle conflict,
which of course arises
675
00:24:21,702 --> 00:24:22,851
In every marriage.
676
00:24:22,870 --> 00:24:26,130
And with decision day
on the horizon,
677
00:24:26,357 --> 00:24:28,540
We're hoping
to expedite things for them.
678
00:24:28,693 --> 00:24:31,117
So we're sending them
an intimacy exercise
679
00:24:31,212 --> 00:24:33,362
And a special delivery.
680
00:24:33,455 --> 00:24:35,380
- Oh, my god,
it's a little--
681
00:24:35,475 --> 00:24:37,366
- It's a little brown baby!
- A little brown baby.
682
00:24:37,384 --> 00:24:38,976
[both laughing]
683
00:24:39,203 --> 00:24:41,537
- Taking care
of this lifelike baby
684
00:24:41,555 --> 00:24:45,390
Will give this couple a glimpse
of what their future may hold.
685
00:24:45,485 --> 00:24:47,392
- I like how the baby's
just, like, chilling.
686
00:24:47,487 --> 00:24:49,135
- I know.
687
00:24:49,155 --> 00:24:51,155
[upbeat music]
688
00:24:51,382 --> 00:24:52,715
Wow.
689
00:24:52,733 --> 00:24:56,977
That really kind of is what
our baby might look like.
690
00:24:56,996 --> 00:24:58,570
Do we have
to turn it on or something?
691
00:24:58,664 --> 00:25:00,389
- I don't know.
Where are the instructions?
692
00:25:00,482 --> 00:25:01,724
- Dude, it's [bleep] lifelike.
693
00:25:01,817 --> 00:25:04,076
Watch there be another one
in here, like, surprise!
694
00:25:04,170 --> 00:25:05,669
You had twins!
695
00:25:05,896 --> 00:25:07,246
- Damn, we're really
popping them out.
696
00:25:07,340 --> 00:25:09,173
- [laughs]
697
00:25:09,400 --> 00:25:12,251
Ooh, this is the bottle
and a bib.
698
00:25:12,403 --> 00:25:15,237
- Aw, little feet.
- Oh, my gosh.
699
00:25:15,256 --> 00:25:17,181
[laughter]
700
00:25:17,408 --> 00:25:19,332
Look at the little,
chubby cheeks!
701
00:25:19,426 --> 00:25:20,425
It looks like you.
702
00:25:20,520 --> 00:25:22,002
[laughter]
703
00:25:22,096 --> 00:25:24,355
- Little brown baby.
704
00:25:24,582 --> 00:25:28,433
- Okay, so we're
naming him migindy?
705
00:25:28,528 --> 00:25:30,176
- Migindy?
706
00:25:30,271 --> 00:25:33,272
Migindy heather...
707
00:25:33,424 --> 00:25:35,533
- [laughing]
- elloway santiago.
708
00:25:35,760 --> 00:25:38,035
- I love it.
709
00:25:38,262 --> 00:25:40,929
- Let's see--that's if
it cries, then we do that.
710
00:25:41,023 --> 00:25:43,766
- "touch the key card id
to the baby..."
711
00:25:43,859 --> 00:25:45,434
- Right.
- "when it cries."
712
00:25:45,527 --> 00:25:47,193
- Right.
- So it hasn't cried yet.
713
00:25:47,213 --> 00:25:48,437
- Yeah, it's just chilling.
- [gasps]
714
00:25:48,455 --> 00:25:49,772
Did its arm just move,
or did you do that?
715
00:25:49,790 --> 00:25:51,364
Oh, my god.
716
00:25:51,458 --> 00:25:53,108
No, that scared me.
717
00:25:53,127 --> 00:25:55,110
- [laughs]
718
00:25:55,203 --> 00:25:58,781
- Don't--dude,
you're freaking me out.
719
00:25:58,874 --> 00:26:01,041
- I was actually excited
to get migindy.
720
00:26:01,135 --> 00:26:02,059
I know it's a fake baby,
721
00:26:02,286 --> 00:26:04,636
But it's our first
kind of experience
722
00:26:04,730 --> 00:26:06,789
Into parenting together.
723
00:26:06,882 --> 00:26:09,066
So just looking forward to it.
724
00:26:09,293 --> 00:26:11,402
I really want
to be a good dad.
725
00:26:11,629 --> 00:26:13,812
I hope it happens
sooner than later.
726
00:26:13,906 --> 00:26:16,632
♪ ♪
727
00:26:16,650 --> 00:26:19,559
- All right, let's do
our intimacy exercises.
728
00:26:19,579 --> 00:26:21,653
We're gonna
kind of test the limits
729
00:26:21,747 --> 00:26:24,582
Of our intimacy and kind
of challenge each other.
730
00:26:24,733 --> 00:26:30,254
And our baby
is also here today.
731
00:26:30,481 --> 00:26:33,832
That's how you get
a straight love tower.
732
00:26:33,984 --> 00:26:36,910
Where'd the one that went go?
733
00:26:37,004 --> 00:26:39,096
[snorts]
thanks, migindy.
734
00:26:39,247 --> 00:26:40,672
You're so helpful.
735
00:26:40,766 --> 00:26:42,433
♪ ♪
736
00:26:42,584 --> 00:26:44,727
Okay, you go first.
737
00:26:46,013 --> 00:26:46,937
- Actually, let's go...
738
00:26:50,610 --> 00:26:53,593
"what bedroom activity
do you want to try with me?"
739
00:26:53,687 --> 00:26:55,354
- [whispers]
I cannot.
740
00:26:55,448 --> 00:26:56,763
- [laughs]
741
00:26:56,857 --> 00:26:59,432
- Can you cover migindy's ears?
742
00:26:59,526 --> 00:27:03,103
Yeah, I don't want him to hear.
743
00:27:03,122 --> 00:27:04,863
Why don't we do
744
00:27:04,957 --> 00:27:07,366
Some chocolate-covered
strawberries in the bed--
745
00:27:07,460 --> 00:27:09,534
[laughter]
746
00:27:09,629 --> 00:27:15,615
♪ ♪
747
00:27:15,635 --> 00:27:18,694
Yeah, you know,
just a little bit of food?
748
00:27:18,787 --> 00:27:20,620
- Yeah, yeah, I'm down.
That sounds fun.
749
00:27:20,714 --> 00:27:22,197
- Great, all right, next.
750
00:27:22,290 --> 00:27:24,642
- Your turn.
- Okay, me.
751
00:27:24,793 --> 00:27:26,292
- "take a body shot."
752
00:27:26,387 --> 00:27:27,978
- [laughs]
what?
753
00:27:28,130 --> 00:27:29,462
I've never done this.
754
00:27:29,482 --> 00:27:31,297
- But yeah,
so let's hide migindy.
755
00:27:31,317 --> 00:27:33,317
- Oh, put
the margarita mix in there.
756
00:27:33,468 --> 00:27:36,302
I'm not a party girl.
757
00:27:36,322 --> 00:27:39,214
Label me what you want,
but I am not a party girl.
758
00:27:39,307 --> 00:27:41,400
I've never done a body shot.
759
00:27:41,552 --> 00:27:45,311
Like, I'm a mother now
to this robot baby.
760
00:27:45,331 --> 00:27:47,406
And I have
a reputation to uphold.
761
00:27:47,500 --> 00:27:49,558
♪ ♪
762
00:27:49,651 --> 00:27:51,243
- I'm just--I just
lay here like this.
763
00:27:51,337 --> 00:27:53,228
- Oh, my gosh.
764
00:27:53,321 --> 00:27:55,339
Okay, wait, so how do I do it?
765
00:27:55,566 --> 00:27:58,992
- You bite the shot glass
and then chuck it back.
766
00:27:59,086 --> 00:28:01,069
- Like, without my hands?
767
00:28:01,163 --> 00:28:03,347
- Yeah, without your hands.
768
00:28:06,577 --> 00:28:08,018
Nice.
769
00:28:09,747 --> 00:28:10,929
- I mean, I didn't even
know that was something
770
00:28:11,081 --> 00:28:12,597
That needed to be checked off.
771
00:28:12,692 --> 00:28:15,984
But check, body shot,
done, done, and done.
772
00:28:18,531 --> 00:28:20,939
- "gaze into each other's
eyes for two minutes.
773
00:28:21,033 --> 00:28:22,274
What thoughts come up--"
774
00:28:22,368 --> 00:28:24,201
- One minute.
775
00:28:24,945 --> 00:28:29,022
♪ ♪
776
00:28:29,116 --> 00:28:30,615
No, don't you do it.
777
00:28:30,710 --> 00:28:32,784
Don't you--
[laughs]
778
00:28:32,878 --> 00:28:39,883
♪ ♪
779
00:28:40,720 --> 00:28:41,885
- What thoughts came up?
780
00:28:42,037 --> 00:28:43,387
- Wedding day, for sure.
781
00:28:43,538 --> 00:28:44,871
- Right?
Me too.
782
00:28:44,965 --> 00:28:46,223
It kind of reminded me of that.
783
00:28:46,450 --> 00:28:48,726
You did, like,
this cute little, like--
784
00:28:48,953 --> 00:28:52,137
Yeah, you were doing that
on the wedding day a lot.
785
00:28:52,289 --> 00:28:54,380
It was so cute.
I was so nervous.
786
00:28:54,475 --> 00:28:55,882
- What we have is real.
787
00:28:55,901 --> 00:28:57,550
I don't know, it's just--
like, we're both
788
00:28:57,644 --> 00:28:58,810
Very comfortable
with each other.
789
00:28:58,904 --> 00:29:01,630
We both are, like--are
putting each other first.
790
00:29:01,648 --> 00:29:05,892
And we feel very safe
and secure with what we have.
791
00:29:05,986 --> 00:29:08,061
- "why marry a stranger?"
792
00:29:08,080 --> 00:29:09,988
- Well,
because the way I looked at it
793
00:29:10,082 --> 00:29:14,734
Is like, if there was
a 1% chance at finding this,
794
00:29:14,754 --> 00:29:16,495
Why not, right?
795
00:29:16,589 --> 00:29:18,589
Like I said, like,
I'm living my best love story.
796
00:29:18,816 --> 00:29:21,817
- Oh, that's beautiful.
That's nice.
797
00:29:21,835 --> 00:29:24,653
So sweet.
798
00:29:24,671 --> 00:29:27,990
[upbeat music]
799
00:29:28,083 --> 00:29:30,416
- I hope you find our chair...
- Comfy?
800
00:29:30,511 --> 00:29:31,660
- Comfortable.
- It is.
801
00:29:31,753 --> 00:29:33,178
- All the experts
seem to love it.
802
00:29:33,272 --> 00:29:34,587
- Good, good.
803
00:29:34,681 --> 00:29:38,333
Well, how have things been
since I last saw you all?
804
00:29:38,426 --> 00:29:39,835
- I think
they've been pretty good.
805
00:29:39,928 --> 00:29:41,686
- Yeah?
- It's all a blur for us.
806
00:29:41,781 --> 00:29:43,429
- Yeah, everything's
on fast forward, right?
807
00:29:43,524 --> 00:29:44,931
- Yeah.
- Okay.
808
00:29:44,950 --> 00:29:47,600
I'm curious, how do you
guys feel that the trust is
809
00:29:47,694 --> 00:29:50,195
In the relationship?
810
00:29:50,347 --> 00:29:52,623
- I feel like
we have really good trust.
811
00:29:52,850 --> 00:29:54,699
- Yeah, I feel like
we trust each other.
812
00:29:54,794 --> 00:29:56,868
[soft music]
813
00:29:56,962 --> 00:30:01,298
I mean, despite any of, like,
the conflicts we've had,
814
00:30:01,525 --> 00:30:03,283
I feel like
from the very beginning,
815
00:30:03,377 --> 00:30:08,030
We kind of made it clear, like,
hey, listen, this is crazy,
816
00:30:08,123 --> 00:30:09,473
And we don't even
know each other,
817
00:30:09,700 --> 00:30:11,457
But we did this,
and we're married now.
818
00:30:11,477 --> 00:30:12,534
- Right.
819
00:30:12,627 --> 00:30:14,294
- Let's just have
each other's back.
820
00:30:14,313 --> 00:30:16,647
Like, I mean, I trust you.
- Yeah.
821
00:30:16,874 --> 00:30:18,965
- I think she's got my back.
- Okay.
822
00:30:18,984 --> 00:30:22,377
So can we explore some
of that a bit today?
823
00:30:22,396 --> 00:30:24,971
Okay, like, you guys have
got a strong foundation,
824
00:30:24,990 --> 00:30:26,490
And you're committed
to this process.
825
00:30:26,717 --> 00:30:29,217
And you're eager to learn and,
like, do the work
826
00:30:29,311 --> 00:30:30,402
To make it work, if you will.
827
00:30:30,496 --> 00:30:31,644
- Mm-hmm.
828
00:30:31,664 --> 00:30:32,663
- So I'm wondering
if we can switch gears
829
00:30:32,890 --> 00:30:34,314
A little bit right now
and give y'all
830
00:30:34,408 --> 00:30:37,501
Some more data for one another
to dig a little bit deeper...
831
00:30:37,728 --> 00:30:39,819
- Sure.
- By playing a little game.
832
00:30:39,913 --> 00:30:42,172
All right, so I've got these
little stack of cards here.
833
00:30:42,324 --> 00:30:44,675
I'm gonna go ahead and set
these in the middle for y'all.
834
00:30:47,404 --> 00:30:51,515
- "who is your childhood
hero or hero-ine?"
835
00:30:51,742 --> 00:30:53,166
Heroine?
836
00:30:53,260 --> 00:30:55,744
Heroine.
- [laughs]
837
00:30:55,762 --> 00:31:00,173
- I mean, I was so
into all those action movies
838
00:31:00,192 --> 00:31:03,101
Where it's just
the buff dude as the hero.
839
00:31:03,195 --> 00:31:04,753
- Okay.
840
00:31:04,846 --> 00:31:06,363
- I just love that, the hero--
841
00:31:06,590 --> 00:31:07,589
You know, the hero
saving the day.
842
00:31:07,608 --> 00:31:10,183
- What's the why?
843
00:31:10,277 --> 00:31:12,703
- [exhales sharply]
844
00:31:12,854 --> 00:31:14,520
Cultural conditioning?
845
00:31:14,540 --> 00:31:18,208
I don't know.
I had an active imagination.
846
00:31:18,435 --> 00:31:21,211
And so I would
watch those movies,
847
00:31:21,438 --> 00:31:24,106
And I used to write stories
that were the same,
848
00:31:24,124 --> 00:31:26,366
But the hero was maybe me.
849
00:31:26,460 --> 00:31:28,293
And I was, like, a knight,
and I had to fight monsters.
850
00:31:28,445 --> 00:31:29,869
- So there's a strong
desire for you to be
851
00:31:29,963 --> 00:31:33,539
A protector and a savior.
852
00:31:33,559 --> 00:31:36,209
- I guess so.
When I was a kid, yeah.
853
00:31:36,228 --> 00:31:38,544
- Fair enough.
What about for you, krysten?
854
00:31:38,639 --> 00:31:41,047
- Oh, mine is easy.
My mom.
855
00:31:41,141 --> 00:31:42,807
My mom is a baddie.
856
00:31:42,902 --> 00:31:47,220
She went through a period
where she was raising me
857
00:31:47,314 --> 00:31:50,465
And my sisters as a single mom.
858
00:31:50,558 --> 00:31:53,226
And she didn't
come from much.
859
00:31:53,320 --> 00:31:55,245
She is a cuban immigrant.
860
00:31:55,472 --> 00:31:58,564
And she came
to this country with nothing,
861
00:31:58,584 --> 00:32:00,659
And just really
worked her way up,
862
00:32:00,753 --> 00:32:04,237
And is now, like,
very high up at her company,
863
00:32:04,256 --> 00:32:07,165
And extremely wealthy
in many, many ways,
864
00:32:07,259 --> 00:32:08,741
Not just financially.
865
00:32:08,761 --> 00:32:11,077
And yeah, she's--
866
00:32:11,171 --> 00:32:13,672
- But she--not to challenge
what she--but did you feel
867
00:32:13,824 --> 00:32:16,158
That way when you were a kid?
868
00:32:16,176 --> 00:32:18,251
Because the question is,
what was your childhood hero?
869
00:32:18,345 --> 00:32:20,920
- Yes, I did.
- Okay, cool.
870
00:32:21,014 --> 00:32:22,272
- What was that, krysten?
871
00:32:22,424 --> 00:32:23,756
What just came up there?
872
00:32:23,776 --> 00:32:26,501
- I just--like, why are
you challenging me on that?
873
00:32:26,594 --> 00:32:28,111
- I just thought
it was a good question.
874
00:32:28,338 --> 00:32:29,595
Because you were talking
about how--
875
00:32:29,690 --> 00:32:30,948
Where your mom is now a little.
876
00:32:31,175 --> 00:32:33,008
Because you added
some present tense
877
00:32:33,101 --> 00:32:35,268
To your mom, so that's why.
878
00:32:35,362 --> 00:32:37,862
- What did you feel?
879
00:32:37,957 --> 00:32:39,623
- I just--when somebody
answers a question,
880
00:32:39,850 --> 00:32:40,849
You don't--
881
00:32:40,942 --> 00:32:42,367
Especially
about their childhood hero,
882
00:32:42,461 --> 00:32:43,443
You don't question it.
883
00:32:43,537 --> 00:32:46,371
I just want you to say,
884
00:32:46,465 --> 00:32:48,966
"that sounds amazing.
885
00:32:49,117 --> 00:32:51,134
What a great story."
886
00:32:51,286 --> 00:32:53,119
But he doesn't say that.
887
00:32:53,213 --> 00:32:55,621
- ♪ lately I been thinking ♪
888
00:32:55,716 --> 00:32:57,975
♪ all these foolish things ♪
889
00:33:03,148 --> 00:33:07,317
He says, "are you answering
the question correctly?"
890
00:33:07,469 --> 00:33:09,227
It was vulnerable
for me to share that.
891
00:33:09,379 --> 00:33:11,471
- Yeah.
892
00:33:11,565 --> 00:33:15,233
- And it was surprising to hear
that that's his response.
893
00:33:15,385 --> 00:33:17,661
♪ ♪
894
00:33:17,812 --> 00:33:20,497
- I can tell your mom
is very special to you.
895
00:33:20,648 --> 00:33:22,407
- It took a lot
for me to share that.
896
00:33:22,559 --> 00:33:23,834
- Mm-hmm.
897
00:33:24,061 --> 00:33:26,003
- [sniffles]
898
00:33:28,007 --> 00:33:31,174
- Sorry, I just didn't pick up
on that at all, I guess.
899
00:33:32,569 --> 00:33:35,587
- It sounds like
mitch's question felt like,
900
00:33:35,739 --> 00:33:38,089
To you, a challenge.
901
00:33:38,242 --> 00:33:39,741
- Yeah.
902
00:33:39,834 --> 00:33:41,852
My only sensitive subject
is my family.
903
00:33:42,003 --> 00:33:45,171
And you just--
even if you don't think
904
00:33:45,190 --> 00:33:48,191
It's gonna be a cross,
I'm gonna take it as a cross.
905
00:33:48,343 --> 00:33:49,526
- I think maybe
you thought I was,
906
00:33:49,677 --> 00:33:51,695
Like, questioning your mom,
and I really wasn't.
907
00:33:51,846 --> 00:33:53,697
It had nothing
to do with that at all.
908
00:33:53,848 --> 00:33:56,033
I'm guilty of getting
in my own head.
909
00:33:56,184 --> 00:33:57,683
And I kind of just
didn't realize
910
00:33:57,703 --> 00:33:59,185
How sensitive that was at all.
911
00:33:59,204 --> 00:34:01,763
And I just kind of jumped in
with my [bleep], basically.
912
00:34:01,782 --> 00:34:04,708
And that was not
the best way to do that.
913
00:34:06,603 --> 00:34:07,860
- Well, see?
914
00:34:07,954 --> 00:34:09,713
Y'all just owned your [bleep].
You worked through it.
915
00:34:09,940 --> 00:34:11,715
And let's go ahead
and pick another card.
916
00:34:15,537 --> 00:34:17,554
- "what kind
of person do you think
917
00:34:17,705 --> 00:34:20,965
Our children will become?"
918
00:34:21,118 --> 00:34:25,470
So this is specifically if
I'm thinking of our children?
919
00:34:25,564 --> 00:34:28,306
- What other children
would you be thinking about?
920
00:34:28,400 --> 00:34:30,959
- Yeah, I don't know.
I just wanted to clarify.
921
00:34:30,977 --> 00:34:32,644
Don't bite my head off, please.
922
00:34:32,738 --> 00:34:35,480
- Yes.
- All right.
923
00:34:35,632 --> 00:34:39,892
- I think our children would
be really awesome, actually.
924
00:34:39,912 --> 00:34:41,561
I think they'd have
a really strong sense
925
00:34:41,580 --> 00:34:44,489
Of knowing that they're loved.
926
00:34:44,641 --> 00:34:48,234
But I also think
that we would probably run
927
00:34:48,253 --> 00:34:49,753
Kind of a tight ship.
928
00:34:49,904 --> 00:34:52,738
- They're gonna get both
the rule follower
929
00:34:52,758 --> 00:34:54,925
And the rebel.
930
00:34:56,837 --> 00:34:58,411
- So speaking of kids,
tell me,
931
00:34:58,505 --> 00:35:00,764
How is the sex life going?
932
00:35:02,434 --> 00:35:03,675
- Do you want me to go,
or you want to go?
933
00:35:03,769 --> 00:35:05,102
- You can go.
934
00:35:05,253 --> 00:35:10,607
- So we've
kind of put the brakes
935
00:35:10,758 --> 00:35:15,019
On sex
for a couple weeks, I'd say.
936
00:35:15,114 --> 00:35:17,096
[tense music]
937
00:35:17,190 --> 00:35:19,282
We were getting physical,
938
00:35:19,434 --> 00:35:21,009
And I started
getting too funny.
939
00:35:21,027 --> 00:35:23,120
And she reacted,
and didn't like that,
940
00:35:23,347 --> 00:35:25,029
And kind of, like,
put the kibosh on it.
941
00:35:25,182 --> 00:35:27,031
- Do either of you feel
comfortable sharing
942
00:35:27,126 --> 00:35:28,959
What that was?
943
00:35:29,110 --> 00:35:30,185
- I might.
944
00:35:30,203 --> 00:35:31,870
I don't really remember
what it was.
945
00:35:31,964 --> 00:35:33,371
It was just all--
- do you remember, krysten?
946
00:35:33,465 --> 00:35:34,464
- I remember.
947
00:35:34,616 --> 00:35:37,359
I would like
to respect my husband
948
00:35:37,452 --> 00:35:41,805
And not share it unless he--
949
00:35:41,956 --> 00:35:43,381
- No, no, I think
I'll appreciate that.
950
00:35:43,533 --> 00:35:44,366
- Yeah.
951
00:35:44,384 --> 00:35:45,550
I'm thinking that the jokes
952
00:35:45,702 --> 00:35:47,218
Don't really have anything
to do with me.
953
00:35:47,371 --> 00:35:49,204
He is funny.
954
00:35:49,222 --> 00:35:53,875
But when he gets nervous,
he starts to joke a lot.
955
00:35:53,894 --> 00:35:55,468
And it is
a little much for me.
956
00:35:55,562 --> 00:35:56,987
I do get a little tired.
957
00:35:57,214 --> 00:36:01,716
And I just don't think it's
a time for laughing in any way.
958
00:36:01,735 --> 00:36:03,809
- Is humor something that
you use when you're feeling
959
00:36:03,904 --> 00:36:05,162
Uncomfortable or insecure?
960
00:36:05,389 --> 00:36:06,663
- Yeah, but it's
also something I use
961
00:36:06,890 --> 00:36:09,240
When I feel comfortable
and secure.
962
00:36:09,334 --> 00:36:11,910
A lot of areas where
I find humor in the world
963
00:36:12,004 --> 00:36:14,562
Is something that's really
built up to be something,
964
00:36:14,656 --> 00:36:17,081
But the reality
is that it's not.
965
00:36:17,234 --> 00:36:20,235
So sex is a good example
because it's built up
966
00:36:20,253 --> 00:36:22,570
So much in popular culture.
967
00:36:22,589 --> 00:36:24,739
And in the movies,
it's only perfect.
968
00:36:24,832 --> 00:36:26,241
There's no funniness.
There's nothing--
969
00:36:26,334 --> 00:36:27,425
- I see.
- There's nothing that's--
970
00:36:27,519 --> 00:36:28,852
- Nothing goes wrong.
- Nothing goes wrong.
971
00:36:29,079 --> 00:36:30,412
- And it's not funky.
- Nothing's weird.
972
00:36:30,430 --> 00:36:33,765
And so in my real life,
sex is and has been awkward.
973
00:36:33,859 --> 00:36:35,250
It's been funny.
974
00:36:35,268 --> 00:36:37,085
It's been weird sounds.
975
00:36:37,103 --> 00:36:39,270
It's been human fluids.
976
00:36:39,364 --> 00:36:41,105
It's just--there's so much,
you know what I mean?
977
00:36:41,200 --> 00:36:43,200
Like, it's everything.
978
00:36:44,761 --> 00:36:48,096
- What you said,
maybe it would have been
979
00:36:48,114 --> 00:36:50,949
Well received
from a married couple...
980
00:36:51,101 --> 00:36:52,542
- Ten years later.
- Ten years from now.
981
00:36:52,694 --> 00:36:53,768
- Exactly.
982
00:36:53,787 --> 00:36:55,695
- But this is, like,
a very fragile,
983
00:36:55,789 --> 00:36:58,456
New, stranger marriage.
984
00:36:58,608 --> 00:36:59,774
- Mm.
985
00:36:59,793 --> 00:37:02,444
- And then honestly, last week,
986
00:37:02,462 --> 00:37:05,780
When we were
intimate emotionally was,
987
00:37:05,873 --> 00:37:07,799
In my opinion, our best week.
988
00:37:07,893 --> 00:37:12,211
So I would love
to have the emotional intimacy
989
00:37:12,231 --> 00:37:14,731
And the trust match--
990
00:37:14,882 --> 00:37:16,791
Like, kind of be
on a similar page
991
00:37:16,810 --> 00:37:19,402
As to where sex is as well.
992
00:37:21,222 --> 00:37:23,131
- What do you need
for that to happen?
993
00:37:23,149 --> 00:37:27,469
- If I had the mitch I had last
week for more than one week,
994
00:37:27,487 --> 00:37:29,654
I feel like
I would fully, fully be
995
00:37:29,748 --> 00:37:32,156
Where I need to be to feel
safe and feel comfortable.
996
00:37:32,251 --> 00:37:34,325
- Can you be specific?
Who was mitch last week?
997
00:37:34,419 --> 00:37:39,923
- Mitch last week was
attentive, vulnerable, open.
998
00:37:40,150 --> 00:37:42,908
Anything I did last week,
not one of them
999
00:37:42,928 --> 00:37:47,005
Set him off into a mitch-ism.
1000
00:37:47,157 --> 00:37:48,265
- Hmm.
1001
00:37:48,416 --> 00:37:52,343
- For me, I would want
a little more consistency
1002
00:37:52,437 --> 00:37:57,757
And a few more good weeks
before feeling comfortable
1003
00:37:57,776 --> 00:37:59,350
To be intimate again.
1004
00:37:59,444 --> 00:38:01,686
[soft music]
1005
00:38:01,838 --> 00:38:07,509
- ♪ this time,
we're gonna get it right ♪
1006
00:38:07,527 --> 00:38:10,528
[upbeat music]
1007
00:38:10,622 --> 00:38:17,035
♪ ♪
1008
00:38:17,129 --> 00:38:19,203
- Oh, my gosh.
1009
00:38:19,298 --> 00:38:21,798
♪ ♪
1010
00:38:22,025 --> 00:38:24,926
Wait, where's the baby
gonna sleep?
1011
00:38:27,455 --> 00:38:30,548
Are you gonna
cuddle it all night?
1012
00:38:30,700 --> 00:38:32,867
I'm gonna--
what if I roll over onto it?
1013
00:38:32,960 --> 00:38:35,887
That's dangerous.
- I know.
1014
00:38:35,981 --> 00:38:38,631
- That's so cute.
1015
00:38:38,650 --> 00:38:40,558
Are you gonna cuddle it
more than me?
1016
00:38:40,710 --> 00:38:43,153
- [laughs]
- I'm already jealous.
1017
00:38:43,304 --> 00:38:45,563
Cuddle me.
1018
00:38:45,715 --> 00:38:48,232
♪ ♪
1019
00:38:48,385 --> 00:38:49,642
All right--
1020
00:38:49,661 --> 00:38:51,328
- I'm getting ready
for when it's the real thing.
1021
00:38:51,479 --> 00:38:53,388
- Miguel's a natural
with migindy.
1022
00:38:53,406 --> 00:38:55,498
He's very loving and just--
1023
00:38:55,725 --> 00:38:58,576
I can see
that he'll be good baby daddy.
1024
00:38:58,728 --> 00:39:00,486
It's sweet because he's,
like, letting me know,
1025
00:39:00,505 --> 00:39:02,005
Like, I am excited.
1026
00:39:02,156 --> 00:39:03,748
Like, let's take
this seriously,
1027
00:39:03,842 --> 00:39:05,900
Which is definitely
something I've asked for.
1028
00:39:05,993 --> 00:39:07,660
I want to start a family.
1029
00:39:07,679 --> 00:39:10,071
And I'm so excited to know
that that's something
1030
00:39:10,164 --> 00:39:12,924
That's important
to him as well.
1031
00:39:13,018 --> 00:39:14,017
- Ah.
1032
00:39:14,168 --> 00:39:15,685
- Oh, my god,
you broke his neck.
1033
00:39:15,837 --> 00:39:17,336
[laughter]
1034
00:39:17,356 --> 00:39:19,414
- That's what--ow!
1035
00:39:19,432 --> 00:39:21,340
Oh, he takes after his mom.
1036
00:39:21,360 --> 00:39:23,251
- He's got neck pain already.
1037
00:39:23,269 --> 00:39:26,270
[baby fussing]
1038
00:39:26,365 --> 00:39:28,089
- Where's the thingy?
1039
00:39:28,182 --> 00:39:30,108
[baby crying]
- oh, my god.
1040
00:39:30,202 --> 00:39:33,111
[upbeat music]
1041
00:39:33,263 --> 00:39:34,278
♪ ♪
1042
00:39:34,373 --> 00:39:35,872
- Could be the diaper.
1043
00:39:36,023 --> 00:39:38,116
- Try the rocking next
or burping.
1044
00:39:38,210 --> 00:39:43,195
♪ ♪
1045
00:39:43,215 --> 00:39:45,364
Is that too hard?
1046
00:39:45,458 --> 00:39:47,625
Okay, now try rocking it.
1047
00:39:47,777 --> 00:39:49,293
[beep]
1048
00:39:49,388 --> 00:39:50,536
[baby crying]
1049
00:39:50,630 --> 00:39:53,114
- The [bleep] was that?
1050
00:39:53,133 --> 00:39:54,782
[baby slurping]
1051
00:39:54,801 --> 00:39:57,894
- Oh, there you go, nice.
1052
00:39:58,045 --> 00:40:01,122
- Did I do it?
- Yeah.
1053
00:40:01,215 --> 00:40:02,807
- I think it's just glitching.
1054
00:40:02,959 --> 00:40:05,960
♪ ♪
1055
00:40:05,979 --> 00:40:07,145
Why does it sound so weird?
1056
00:40:07,239 --> 00:40:08,479
- It's drinking.
1057
00:40:08,632 --> 00:40:10,481
- Oh, it's drinking.
1058
00:40:10,634 --> 00:40:12,700
I get it.
1059
00:40:14,154 --> 00:40:16,079
I'll actually be
breastfeeding, though.
1060
00:40:17,157 --> 00:40:18,156
- You want to practice that?
1061
00:40:18,250 --> 00:40:20,583
[laughter]
1062
00:40:24,423 --> 00:40:25,663
- ♪ I'm hoping it's forever ♪
1063
00:40:25,815 --> 00:40:30,075
♪ oh, this feels like, oh ♪
1064
00:40:30,095 --> 00:40:31,761
- How do we play?
We just take turns?
1065
00:40:31,913 --> 00:40:34,264
- I think so, yeah.
1066
00:40:34,415 --> 00:40:37,659
- While most of our couples
have already met with dr. Pia,
1067
00:40:37,677 --> 00:40:41,162
We've also sent along
exercises to help them
1068
00:40:41,181 --> 00:40:43,848
Discuss topics that
most couples tend to avoid.
1069
00:40:44,000 --> 00:40:46,109
- All right, let's get into it.
1070
00:40:46,260 --> 00:40:49,612
- Honest communication
is crucial for building
1071
00:40:49,764 --> 00:40:51,281
Trust and intimacy,
1072
00:40:51,432 --> 00:40:52,932
Which leads
to a healthy marriage.
1073
00:40:52,951 --> 00:40:55,118
Hopefully,
these questions would
1074
00:40:55,269 --> 00:40:58,270
Help them see if there's
any red flags or deal breakers
1075
00:40:58,364 --> 00:40:59,939
In their relationships.
1076
00:40:59,958 --> 00:41:02,366
Because in just
under three weeks,
1077
00:41:02,519 --> 00:41:04,368
They are gonna be
making the biggest decision
1078
00:41:04,463 --> 00:41:06,204
Of their lives.
1079
00:41:06,356 --> 00:41:09,707
- "what would you think if
you caught me watching porn?"
1080
00:41:09,859 --> 00:41:11,634
If I caught you watching porn?
1081
00:41:11,786 --> 00:41:14,637
- I mean, that would be the
more likely scenario, anyways.
1082
00:41:14,789 --> 00:41:17,882
- "what part of your body
do you like touched the most?"
1083
00:41:17,976 --> 00:41:20,218
[upbeat music]
1084
00:41:20,370 --> 00:41:22,537
- That part.
- Oh, [bleep], okay.
1085
00:41:22,555 --> 00:41:23,796
- [laughs]
1086
00:41:23,815 --> 00:41:25,540
- "what is the toughest
experience you've had
1087
00:41:25,558 --> 00:41:26,465
To overcome in your life?
1088
00:41:26,485 --> 00:41:27,709
Why?"
1089
00:41:27,727 --> 00:41:31,896
[baby fussing]
- oh, it's starting again.
1090
00:41:32,048 --> 00:41:34,549
[baby wailing]
- oh, god!
1091
00:41:34,567 --> 00:41:37,051
He hates me!
1092
00:41:37,070 --> 00:41:38,886
Miguel!
1093
00:41:38,905 --> 00:41:40,497
- "do you prefer routine
or spontaneity
1094
00:41:40,648 --> 00:41:41,739
In regards to sex?"
1095
00:41:41,891 --> 00:41:44,501
- I do not like routine sex.
1096
00:41:44,652 --> 00:41:46,169
Yeah, I don't want to be, like,
writing on a calendar,
1097
00:41:46,320 --> 00:41:47,653
Monday, Wednesday...
1098
00:41:47,672 --> 00:41:49,564
- That's boring.
1099
00:41:49,582 --> 00:41:52,233
[baby wailing]
- oh, my god, make it stop.
1100
00:41:52,252 --> 00:41:54,010
♪ ♪
1101
00:41:54,237 --> 00:41:55,570
Jesus.
1102
00:41:55,663 --> 00:41:58,072
"what's the toughest
experience?"
1103
00:41:58,091 --> 00:41:59,924
[bleep] this one.
1104
00:42:00,076 --> 00:42:01,909
♪ ♪
1105
00:42:01,928 --> 00:42:04,187
- "what is the toughest
experience you have had
1106
00:42:04,338 --> 00:42:06,022
To overcome in your life?"
1107
00:42:07,859 --> 00:42:09,100
That's heavy.
1108
00:42:09,252 --> 00:42:11,102
Or not heavy, that's just a--
1109
00:42:11,254 --> 00:42:14,179
You know, lot to think about.
1110
00:42:14,199 --> 00:42:15,773
After my dad died,
1111
00:42:15,925 --> 00:42:17,425
And I decided
to move down here,
1112
00:42:17,443 --> 00:42:22,613
I tried to start a sunscreen
business for surfers
1113
00:42:22,766 --> 00:42:25,041
In a non-plastic packaging.
1114
00:42:25,192 --> 00:42:27,118
And I just put a lot
of work into it,
1115
00:42:27,270 --> 00:42:29,453
And it never came to fruition.
1116
00:42:29,606 --> 00:42:32,106
And when I
finally gave up on it,
1117
00:42:32,125 --> 00:42:35,610
I went through a time of,
like, really low low,
1118
00:42:35,628 --> 00:42:38,963
Like, just very depressed
and feeling like a failure.
1119
00:42:39,115 --> 00:42:42,116
Like, in retrospect,
it all led me to where I am,
1120
00:42:42,135 --> 00:42:45,803
But I didn't know how
to deal with that, so...
1121
00:42:45,955 --> 00:42:48,122
- I'm sorry.
I didn't know that.
1122
00:42:48,141 --> 00:42:49,732
Well, I think
that it's really brave
1123
00:42:49,884 --> 00:42:50,975
Of you to try something,
1124
00:42:51,127 --> 00:42:52,643
And that just because
it didn't work out,
1125
00:42:52,796 --> 00:42:54,237
It doesn't make you a failure.
1126
00:42:54,388 --> 00:42:55,963
- Thanks.
Yeah, I know.
1127
00:42:55,982 --> 00:42:57,073
I mean, that's the thing,
it was like I learned
1128
00:42:57,224 --> 00:42:58,241
So much from that.
1129
00:42:58,468 --> 00:43:00,893
And it's what got me
over the limit to, like,
1130
00:43:00,987 --> 00:43:02,245
Make me start volunteering
1131
00:43:02,396 --> 00:43:03,154
And just doing the stuff
that I do...
1132
00:43:03,248 --> 00:43:04,472
- Yeah, exactly.
1133
00:43:04,490 --> 00:43:05,731
- Doing the stuff
that I get paid to do now.
1134
00:43:05,750 --> 00:43:06,899
- Right.
1135
00:43:06,918 --> 00:43:08,309
- That was where
I started the training.
1136
00:43:08,328 --> 00:43:10,211
- Yeah.
1137
00:43:12,665 --> 00:43:14,315
Okay, we got a fun one.
1138
00:43:14,334 --> 00:43:15,758
"what is your favorite
sexual position and why?"
1139
00:43:15,910 --> 00:43:18,243
- [laughs]
1140
00:43:18,263 --> 00:43:20,822
- I guess I read it,
so I'll go first--doggy style!
1141
00:43:20,840 --> 00:43:22,247
♪ ♪
1142
00:43:22,267 --> 00:43:25,268
Because it's obvious.
It feels good.
1143
00:43:25,419 --> 00:43:29,664
[laughter]
1144
00:43:29,757 --> 00:43:30,998
- I think I like
that position too.
1145
00:43:31,017 --> 00:43:32,016
- Perfect.
1146
00:43:32,168 --> 00:43:33,684
- There's a lot
of reasons, though.
1147
00:43:33,837 --> 00:43:35,169
- Oh?
Please share them with me.
1148
00:43:35,188 --> 00:43:37,447
- Let's just say it's
a good ending position for me.
1149
00:43:39,284 --> 00:43:41,676
- I don't even know
what that means.
1150
00:43:41,694 --> 00:43:43,286
- It means I'll have an orgasm.
1151
00:43:46,366 --> 00:43:47,865
It just puts me
in a lot of control.
1152
00:43:48,017 --> 00:43:49,684
And I kind of like, you know--
1153
00:43:49,702 --> 00:43:51,276
- Okay.
1154
00:43:51,296 --> 00:43:52,945
- Like, do exactly
what feels good for me.
1155
00:43:52,964 --> 00:43:54,538
And apparently, it feels
good for you too, hopefully.
1156
00:43:54,691 --> 00:43:57,467
- Do you like to be in control?
1157
00:43:57,618 --> 00:43:58,951
- I like to be in control,
1158
00:43:58,970 --> 00:43:59,877
But I also like
to be out of control.
1159
00:44:00,029 --> 00:44:00,878
I like both.
1160
00:44:00,972 --> 00:44:01,971
I don't think I'm
1161
00:44:02,123 --> 00:44:04,048
A super dominant
sex partner necessarily.
1162
00:44:04,200 --> 00:44:05,624
I like the different roles.
1163
00:44:05,644 --> 00:44:06,717
- Oh?
1164
00:44:06,870 --> 00:44:09,203
- I like it when
you're on top too.
1165
00:44:09,222 --> 00:44:10,538
- Okay.
1166
00:44:10,556 --> 00:44:12,540
- Because it's like,
I don't have to do as much.
1167
00:44:12,558 --> 00:44:14,484
And that's also really great,
to be, like, pampered
1168
00:44:14,635 --> 00:44:15,968
Or whatever, you know?
1169
00:44:15,987 --> 00:44:18,971
So yeah.
1170
00:44:18,990 --> 00:44:22,325
- I'm gonna say
thank you for sharing.
1171
00:44:23,553 --> 00:44:25,553
- "how do you like to be held?
1172
00:44:25,571 --> 00:44:26,904
Show me."
1173
00:44:27,056 --> 00:44:28,647
- All right, let's get into it.
1174
00:44:28,667 --> 00:44:32,985
This is the last question,
so let's just go all out.
1175
00:44:33,079 --> 00:44:35,246
- Talking about sex and talking
about physical intimacy is--
1176
00:44:35,398 --> 00:44:36,564
I think it's good.
1177
00:44:36,582 --> 00:44:38,508
It's kind of building us
back up to that point.
1178
00:44:38,659 --> 00:44:40,067
Am I doing it right?
1179
00:44:40,086 --> 00:44:42,236
[laughter]
1180
00:44:42,255 --> 00:44:44,997
I just think that when we
are back in that situation,
1181
00:44:45,016 --> 00:44:47,909
And we are excited,
all of these conversations
1182
00:44:47,927 --> 00:44:51,354
Will help just make that
much easier and more natural.
1183
00:44:51,505 --> 00:44:53,764
How much is this, like, just
wanting to be a baby again?
1184
00:44:53,917 --> 00:44:57,509
[in baby voice] mama, mama.
1185
00:44:57,529 --> 00:44:58,861
- Just don't start sucking
on my nipple
1186
00:44:59,013 --> 00:45:00,271
Or anything please.
1187
00:45:00,423 --> 00:45:02,365
- ♪ we slowing down,
nothing in our way, yeah ♪
1188
00:45:06,204 --> 00:45:07,704
[upbeat music]
1189
00:45:07,855 --> 00:45:09,947
- ♪ we'll be
spending our cash ♪
1190
00:45:10,041 --> 00:45:12,191
♪ blowing it all on the things
that don't last ♪
1191
00:45:12,285 --> 00:45:15,360
♪ so I can buy
whatever I spy ♪
1192
00:45:15,455 --> 00:45:18,381
♪ I feel a storm
coming tonight ♪
1193
00:45:18,608 --> 00:45:22,126
♪ ♪
1194
00:45:22,220 --> 00:45:23,553
- You ready for this?
1195
00:45:23,780 --> 00:45:25,780
- No.
1196
00:45:25,873 --> 00:45:27,281
- I'm sure there's going
to be a lot of questions.
1197
00:45:27,300 --> 00:45:29,308
- I don't know.
1198
00:45:31,955 --> 00:45:34,622
- It's been a couple of days
since I've seen morgan.
1199
00:45:34,715 --> 00:45:36,548
She's been at home.
I definitely feel bad.
1200
00:45:36,642 --> 00:45:38,142
I definitely did
lie to her face.
1201
00:45:38,294 --> 00:45:39,551
Like, that's the truth.
1202
00:45:39,645 --> 00:45:42,129
She has every right to feel
a type of way about it.
1203
00:45:42,148 --> 00:45:44,056
So I'm looking forward
1204
00:45:44,150 --> 00:45:45,891
To the conversation
with dr. Pia
1205
00:45:45,910 --> 00:45:48,161
And maybe trying
to make amends.
1206
00:45:51,491 --> 00:45:53,416
[knock at door]
1207
00:45:56,904 --> 00:45:58,646
Hey, dr. Pia, how you doing?
- Hello.
1208
00:45:58,664 --> 00:45:59,981
- Hi, how are you?
- Good, how you doing?
1209
00:45:59,999 --> 00:46:01,649
- Good to see you.
- Good to see you too.
1210
00:46:01,742 --> 00:46:03,593
- Hi.
- Hi, nice to see you again.
1211
00:46:03,820 --> 00:46:05,077
- Likewise.
1212
00:46:05,096 --> 00:46:07,246
All right.
Coming from work?
1213
00:46:07,340 --> 00:46:09,098
- Yeah, I just got off of work.
1214
00:46:09,250 --> 00:46:11,175
- Okay, long day.
- Ran over here.
1215
00:46:11,269 --> 00:46:13,102
- All right, well,
1216
00:46:13,329 --> 00:46:16,773
How have things been
since I last saw you all?
1217
00:46:16,924 --> 00:46:18,941
- It's disappointing.
- Yeah.
1218
00:46:19,093 --> 00:46:20,926
- What feels disappointing
about it for you, morgan?
1219
00:46:20,945 --> 00:46:23,595
- Just coming into this,
I was very hopeful.
1220
00:46:23,689 --> 00:46:28,100
And I really did want,
like, a partner.
1221
00:46:28,119 --> 00:46:30,011
I always get emotional
talking about this.
1222
00:46:30,104 --> 00:46:32,079
I hate it.
1223
00:46:35,627 --> 00:46:38,853
I asked for, like, a partner
or, like, a best friend.
1224
00:46:38,946 --> 00:46:44,634
And I've been in defense mode
this entire time.
1225
00:46:44,861 --> 00:46:46,636
- Yeah.
1226
00:46:48,455 --> 00:46:49,880
What do you think
has set you up
1227
00:46:49,974 --> 00:46:52,700
To be as defensive as you are?
1228
00:46:52,793 --> 00:46:55,703
- He's really attacked
my character
1229
00:46:55,721 --> 00:47:00,299
This entire time,
behind my back primarily,
1230
00:47:00,393 --> 00:47:02,226
Which is the frustrating thing.
1231
00:47:02,320 --> 00:47:05,396
Like, I would expect, like,
a partner and a husband
1232
00:47:05,490 --> 00:47:07,214
To have your back.
1233
00:47:07,233 --> 00:47:10,234
And he never has.
1234
00:47:10,328 --> 00:47:12,328
Even if it's, like, his fault,
1235
00:47:12,555 --> 00:47:14,738
He'll say half truths
just to make sure people
1236
00:47:14,833 --> 00:47:16,724
Still accept him and like him.
1237
00:47:16,817 --> 00:47:19,727
And I have to defend myself
because people are
1238
00:47:19,820 --> 00:47:21,395
Only hearing
what binh tells them.
1239
00:47:21,488 --> 00:47:22,654
- She's kind of saying
that, like,
1240
00:47:22,674 --> 00:47:23,914
You were pretty
vindictive then?
1241
00:47:24,008 --> 00:47:26,158
[dramatic music]
1242
00:47:26,252 --> 00:47:28,085
- Could you explain vindictive?
1243
00:47:28,237 --> 00:47:29,420
Because...
- Like, so what I'm...
1244
00:47:29,572 --> 00:47:30,921
- That seems malicious.
1245
00:47:31,015 --> 00:47:32,849
- Hearing from her is--
yeah, that's what I'm hearing,
1246
00:47:33,076 --> 00:47:36,911
That you purposely told
untruths about her.
1247
00:47:37,004 --> 00:47:39,171
How do you expect someone
to react to you?
1248
00:47:39,190 --> 00:47:40,356
- Aggressively, aggressively.
1249
00:47:40,507 --> 00:47:42,024
And calling me
out aggressively.
1250
00:47:42,176 --> 00:47:43,918
- You expected--
1251
00:47:44,011 --> 00:47:45,844
- I expect--
I guess I expect it, yeah.
1252
00:47:45,938 --> 00:47:47,363
- Why not address her directly?
1253
00:47:47,514 --> 00:47:50,608
- I was scared.
- Of?
1254
00:47:50,760 --> 00:47:52,927
- I guess
the uncomfortable conversation.
1255
00:47:53,020 --> 00:47:54,019
- It almost sounds like
you're feeling, like,
1256
00:47:54,113 --> 00:47:55,371
Maybe intimidated by morgan.
1257
00:47:55,522 --> 00:47:56,706
Is that true?
1258
00:47:56,933 --> 00:47:57,932
- I don't--
1259
00:47:57,950 --> 00:47:59,767
I'm honestly--
just this conversation
1260
00:47:59,785 --> 00:48:02,712
With her is scary for me.
1261
00:48:02,939 --> 00:48:04,955
Like, she has the same
temperament as my dad.
1262
00:48:05,108 --> 00:48:06,549
And my dad was
always hard on me.
1263
00:48:06,776 --> 00:48:10,869
So like, it's kind of like,
it triggers me.
1264
00:48:10,963 --> 00:48:13,055
- Is there a way
that morgan could have
1265
00:48:13,207 --> 00:48:14,223
Addressed you differently?
1266
00:48:14,375 --> 00:48:15,540
- Yeah, if somebody
calls me out, like,
1267
00:48:15,560 --> 00:48:17,801
I would like it to be,
like, the same tone
1268
00:48:17,896 --> 00:48:19,954
That we're speaking, I guess,
1269
00:48:19,972 --> 00:48:22,231
In a constructive criticism
type of way.
1270
00:48:22,458 --> 00:48:24,883
- I mean, I do understand that
maybe I could have created,
1271
00:48:24,977 --> 00:48:26,551
Like, a safer space for him.
1272
00:48:26,646 --> 00:48:28,720
Maybe it's the tone that I use.
1273
00:48:28,814 --> 00:48:30,147
Maybe it's the verbiage
that I use.
1274
00:48:30,299 --> 00:48:33,134
Maybe there's something
different I could have said.
1275
00:48:33,152 --> 00:48:36,895
But this has been happening
from essentially day one.
1276
00:48:36,915 --> 00:48:39,582
So I don't know how
differently I could have been
1277
00:48:39,733 --> 00:48:41,642
To make you not lie to me.
1278
00:48:41,661 --> 00:48:43,160
- I should have came
to morgan like, hey,
1279
00:48:43,312 --> 00:48:44,587
I don't like this tone.
1280
00:48:44,814 --> 00:48:47,982
But obviously,
what happened was me hiding
1281
00:48:48,000 --> 00:48:51,243
From my problems,
which I, in retrospect,
1282
00:48:51,262 --> 00:48:53,912
Looking in the mirror,
I've done a lot in my life.
1283
00:48:54,006 --> 00:48:55,580
But basically,
I'm just running away.
1284
00:48:55,600 --> 00:48:57,749
[soft music]
1285
00:48:57,769 --> 00:49:01,345
- So where do you guys feel
like you go from here?
1286
00:49:01,439 --> 00:49:04,607
You said you've run from a lot
of things in your life.
1287
00:49:04,758 --> 00:49:08,169
Why not fight?
1288
00:49:08,262 --> 00:49:10,613
Is there a way to heal
between the two of you?
1289
00:49:10,840 --> 00:49:13,174
♪ ♪
1290
00:49:13,267 --> 00:49:15,009
- I don't know
if it's that he just
1291
00:49:15,102 --> 00:49:16,510
Doesn't understand
the full extent
1292
00:49:16,529 --> 00:49:18,345
Of the hurt and the pain.
1293
00:49:18,439 --> 00:49:20,772
I just--I'm not sure
why I haven't
1294
00:49:20,866 --> 00:49:23,960
Gotten that genuine apology.
1295
00:49:24,187 --> 00:49:26,128
- Binh, do you think that
you're not understanding?
1296
00:49:26,355 --> 00:49:27,705
- Not--I understand.
1297
00:49:27,857 --> 00:49:29,707
I just don't know--
1298
00:49:29,801 --> 00:49:32,951
I guess I don't know how to--
1299
00:49:32,971 --> 00:49:35,529
Besides saying, like, I'm--
so I would say--like,
1300
00:49:35,548 --> 00:49:37,214
I'll apologize for hurting her,
all those emotions,
1301
00:49:37,308 --> 00:49:39,124
The backstabbing.
1302
00:49:39,218 --> 00:49:41,702
Apology besides words,
I'm not--like,
1303
00:49:41,795 --> 00:49:46,207
I feel like it would have
to be more action-based.
1304
00:49:46,300 --> 00:49:48,633
But I don't know
even how to do that.
1305
00:49:48,728 --> 00:49:51,153
- What action are you thinking?
1306
00:49:53,491 --> 00:49:54,882
- Like, a--I don't know.
1307
00:49:54,900 --> 00:49:56,808
A massage, and then,
like, saying sorry.
1308
00:49:56,828 --> 00:49:58,643
- Do you notice
she's shaking her head no?
1309
00:49:58,663 --> 00:50:00,571
- Yeah, so I'm not gonna--
I'm gonna stop.
1310
00:50:00,665 --> 00:50:02,981
- Can you empathize with what
it must feel like to feel
1311
00:50:03,075 --> 00:50:04,575
Hurt, sad, and backstabbed?
1312
00:50:04,727 --> 00:50:08,078
- Yeah, yeah, absolutely.
1313
00:50:08,172 --> 00:50:10,898
- What feeling do you have
in this moment, like, hearing--
1314
00:50:10,991 --> 00:50:12,733
- Guilt, guilt.
- What she feels--guilt.
1315
00:50:12,752 --> 00:50:15,511
Would you be able
to accept a full apology?
1316
00:50:15,738 --> 00:50:16,587
- Mm-hmm.
- Yeah.
1317
00:50:16,739 --> 00:50:18,514
- Yeah, you know, like,
1318
00:50:18,665 --> 00:50:22,685
That's the one real thing
that, like, I do need.
1319
00:50:22,912 --> 00:50:24,762
- Yeah.
1320
00:50:24,856 --> 00:50:27,339
- And that would really show me
that you're starting to,
1321
00:50:27,358 --> 00:50:30,084
Like, really, really
own up to everything,
1322
00:50:30,102 --> 00:50:33,420
That you've really understood
that your actions have
1323
00:50:33,439 --> 00:50:36,699
Caused this and the pain.
1324
00:50:36,926 --> 00:50:40,536
I'm waiting to really feel
those emotions from you.
1325
00:50:40,687 --> 00:50:42,705
Because you're like--
and if I went over the x, y,
1326
00:50:42,932 --> 00:50:45,207
And the z--like, I'm waiting
for you to be like,
1327
00:50:45,359 --> 00:50:49,119
"god, I'm just,
like, so sorry."
1328
00:50:49,213 --> 00:50:50,862
You say you feel guilty,
1329
00:50:50,956 --> 00:50:53,198
But I don't feel
that you feel guilty.
1330
00:50:53,292 --> 00:50:54,792
I don't feel anything from you.
1331
00:50:54,886 --> 00:50:56,886
I feel nothing from you.
1332
00:50:57,113 --> 00:50:59,889
♪ ♪
1333
00:51:00,116 --> 00:51:02,541
- So if I take my time...
- You still don't fully--
1334
00:51:02,560 --> 00:51:05,895
- And apologize,
and be emotional,
1335
00:51:06,122 --> 00:51:08,064
That would be a step
in the right direction?
1336
00:51:08,291 --> 00:51:09,732
- It would.
1337
00:51:09,959 --> 00:51:11,458
- Okay.
1338
00:51:11,552 --> 00:51:13,794
- Well, and I think part
of it is, like,
1339
00:51:13,887 --> 00:51:15,237
Trust isn't gonna
happen overnight, right?
1340
00:51:15,464 --> 00:51:16,888
- Mm-hmm.
1341
00:51:16,908 --> 00:51:18,315
- Even if you do forgive him,
you're not--
1342
00:51:18,409 --> 00:51:20,076
It's gonna take time.
1343
00:51:20,227 --> 00:51:22,136
That's one of the things
about trust, is taking time.
1344
00:51:22,229 --> 00:51:24,138
I think I just saw
something different
1345
00:51:24,156 --> 00:51:25,806
In that you all
were opening up, perhaps,
1346
00:51:25,825 --> 00:51:27,232
A bit more to each other.
1347
00:51:27,326 --> 00:51:29,234
Like, the tone was matched.
1348
00:51:29,328 --> 00:51:30,920
It seemed a little more calmer.
1349
00:51:31,147 --> 00:51:34,148
And if there's room
for continued conversations
1350
00:51:34,166 --> 00:51:38,094
Like that to happen,
to work toward building trust--
1351
00:51:38,321 --> 00:51:41,322
- This is probably at least
a step in the right direction.
1352
00:51:41,415 --> 00:51:42,932
But I know there's a lot
more that I need to do.
1353
00:51:43,159 --> 00:51:45,083
- Yeah.
1354
00:51:45,103 --> 00:51:48,345
- It's tough for me
to articulate my words
1355
00:51:48,497 --> 00:51:49,496
And say the right things.
1356
00:51:49,590 --> 00:51:51,665
I just--like,
I want her to be happy.
1357
00:51:51,758 --> 00:51:55,519
I don't want
to say the wrong things.
1358
00:51:55,613 --> 00:51:59,673
Yeah, I mean--yeah, so--
1359
00:51:59,766 --> 00:52:01,008
I think if we don't
stay together,
1360
00:52:01,026 --> 00:52:02,618
It would be devastating.
1361
00:52:02,845 --> 00:52:05,012
♪ ♪
1362
00:52:05,105 --> 00:52:07,957
I have a lot
of things to work on.
1363
00:52:08,184 --> 00:52:14,130
♪ ♪
1364
00:52:14,357 --> 00:52:18,116
- ♪ maybe, maybe this time,
we gon' get it right ♪
1365
00:52:18,210 --> 00:52:19,301
♪ I'ma get it right ♪
1366
00:52:19,528 --> 00:52:21,378
- The thing I'm working
hardest to change
1367
00:52:21,472 --> 00:52:25,457
Is how I respond to you.
1368
00:52:25,476 --> 00:52:27,718
How about you?
1369
00:52:27,812 --> 00:52:30,204
- How I make you feel.
1370
00:52:30,222 --> 00:52:32,631
It's important
that you feel secure,
1371
00:52:32,725 --> 00:52:35,042
That you feel confident,
not isolated.
1372
00:52:35,060 --> 00:52:36,043
That's big to me.
1373
00:52:36,061 --> 00:52:38,470
- So since
it's been brought up--
1374
00:52:38,489 --> 00:52:39,880
- Oh, [bleep].
1375
00:52:39,973 --> 00:52:41,565
- In your vows,
that was one thing
1376
00:52:41,717 --> 00:52:42,641
That I got
really excited about.
1377
00:52:42,735 --> 00:52:44,218
I don't know if you noticed.
- Mm-hmm.
1378
00:52:44,311 --> 00:52:47,237
- Is when you said, allow you
to be free and be yourself.
1379
00:52:47,331 --> 00:52:49,665
Now that I feel like you're
being challenged in that way,
1380
00:52:49,816 --> 00:52:52,059
You're not putting your money
where your mouth is.
1381
00:52:52,077 --> 00:52:54,895
[tense music]
1382
00:52:54,914 --> 00:52:58,899
- When I say, you know, I want
you to be free, meaning like,
1383
00:52:58,992 --> 00:53:01,084
I still want you
to be true to yourself,
1384
00:53:01,179 --> 00:53:03,070
But not necessarily forget me.
1385
00:53:03,163 --> 00:53:05,163
I still want you to go,
and have fun,
1386
00:53:05,183 --> 00:53:07,408
And do your thing,
but have a balance to it,
1387
00:53:07,501 --> 00:53:09,760
Not forget
that I'm still in the picture.
1388
00:53:09,912 --> 00:53:11,912
I still want you
to live your life,
1389
00:53:12,005 --> 00:53:13,430
But also recognize
that you're married.
1390
00:53:13,582 --> 00:53:16,266
- I've done that
on every occasion.
1391
00:53:16,360 --> 00:53:19,177
I just wanted some clarity
on what free looks like to you
1392
00:53:19,271 --> 00:53:23,257
Because I'm not a homebody.
1393
00:53:23,350 --> 00:53:26,184
- My fun and your fun
is different, you know?
1394
00:53:26,204 --> 00:53:28,095
I think it's okay
to just sometimes just sit
1395
00:53:28,188 --> 00:53:29,930
The [bleep] down
and just chill, watch tv,
1396
00:53:29,949 --> 00:53:31,707
Not go nowhere,
you know what I'm saying?
1397
00:53:31,934 --> 00:53:33,934
Enjoy just being at home
and not doing nothing,
1398
00:53:33,953 --> 00:53:35,102
Letting your body rest.
1399
00:53:35,120 --> 00:53:36,879
- I think you
underestimate the turn up.
1400
00:53:37,106 --> 00:53:38,439
Because I can turn up
Monday through Friday,
1401
00:53:38,532 --> 00:53:39,957
And I choose not to
at this point.
1402
00:53:40,109 --> 00:53:41,442
- Maybe I do, but--
1403
00:53:41,535 --> 00:53:42,867
- I think you're
underestimating it.
1404
00:53:42,962 --> 00:53:45,721
Because if I wanted to go out
Tuesday through Saturday,
1405
00:53:45,948 --> 00:53:48,557
I could, and still wake up
and be on time for work.
1406
00:53:48,784 --> 00:53:49,967
- Okay.
1407
00:53:50,119 --> 00:53:51,894
- You got the last one.
1408
00:53:53,956 --> 00:53:56,214
- "what upsets you most
in a relationship?"
1409
00:53:56,308 --> 00:53:58,692
- Um...
- Everything about me, huh?
1410
00:54:01,797 --> 00:54:03,814
- Not--when you're not honest
or--when you're not yourself.
1411
00:54:03,908 --> 00:54:05,799
Like, you're not transparent.
1412
00:54:05,892 --> 00:54:07,985
I sometimes question
if I know you.
1413
00:54:08,079 --> 00:54:09,486
- Really?
- A lot.
1414
00:54:09,580 --> 00:54:11,154
- The [bleep]?
How?
1415
00:54:11,249 --> 00:54:14,157
- Just because of that--
1416
00:54:14,310 --> 00:54:16,827
I don't have that security that
I know you're gonna back me,
1417
00:54:16,979 --> 00:54:18,479
Like that I did
in the honeymoon.
1418
00:54:18,572 --> 00:54:20,572
I just think the overall
feeling and that support,
1419
00:54:20,666 --> 00:54:23,166
Knowing you got my back,
has dissipated
1420
00:54:23,261 --> 00:54:24,151
Somewhere along the way.
1421
00:54:24,244 --> 00:54:27,245
And I hope that it is regained.
1422
00:54:27,339 --> 00:54:28,913
- I feel like
you don't understand me.
1423
00:54:29,008 --> 00:54:29,990
That [bleep] is frustrating.
1424
00:54:30,009 --> 00:54:31,100
You say you do,
1425
00:54:31,251 --> 00:54:33,251
But I feel like a lot of times,
you don't.
1426
00:54:33,271 --> 00:54:35,604
I feel like you don't get me.
1427
00:54:35,831 --> 00:54:37,856
♪ ♪
1428
00:54:41,687 --> 00:54:42,669
[upbeat music]
1429
00:54:42,688 --> 00:54:45,096
♪ ♪
1430
00:54:45,116 --> 00:54:50,511
- ♪ today, my day,
staying there for hours ♪
1431
00:54:50,529 --> 00:54:52,621
- Luna, we're gonna have
to put you somewhere.
1432
00:54:52,773 --> 00:54:54,531
I don't think
you can participate.
1433
00:54:54,683 --> 00:54:56,274
You're gonna get super jealous
if you're just
1434
00:54:56,294 --> 00:54:58,961
Watching us touch each other.
1435
00:55:04,710 --> 00:55:06,376
Hey, babe, are you ready?
1436
00:55:06,529 --> 00:55:08,620
- Yeah, are you ready for me?
1437
00:55:08,714 --> 00:55:10,121
- Yeah, I'm warming up.
1438
00:55:10,215 --> 00:55:11,532
I'm doing my--
[laughs]
1439
00:55:11,550 --> 00:55:13,050
I'm warming up for you.
1440
00:55:13,202 --> 00:55:14,384
- Oh, my.
1441
00:55:14,537 --> 00:55:16,203
Dr. Pia's given us an exercise,
1442
00:55:16,221 --> 00:55:18,705
And it's about exploring
each other's bodies
1443
00:55:18,724 --> 00:55:20,816
Without words or jokes.
1444
00:55:20,967 --> 00:55:24,878
I think it's really great
to be intimate
1445
00:55:24,897 --> 00:55:29,716
Without being intimate
and seeing what we like
1446
00:55:29,735 --> 00:55:34,312
And what we don't like
with touch, sensation,
1447
00:55:34,332 --> 00:55:36,981
And...
1448
00:55:37,001 --> 00:55:38,316
Touch.
1449
00:55:38,336 --> 00:55:40,169
[laughs]
1450
00:55:41,488 --> 00:55:45,232
[laughter]
1451
00:55:45,250 --> 00:55:49,086
- I'm open to this being
a good thing for us.
1452
00:55:49,238 --> 00:55:52,406
It's kind of like a way
to be intimate and physical,
1453
00:55:52,424 --> 00:55:56,426
But without the pressure
of sex, and performance,
1454
00:55:56,579 --> 00:55:58,595
And whatever that means,
so that's good.
1455
00:55:58,747 --> 00:56:02,841
So I think that's coming
at the right time.
1456
00:56:02,860 --> 00:56:05,027
- I like that.
1457
00:56:05,178 --> 00:56:07,938
- ♪ I know what you came for ♪
1458
00:56:08,090 --> 00:56:09,756
♪ I know what you came for ♪
1459
00:56:09,775 --> 00:56:11,182
- That tickles.
1460
00:56:11,202 --> 00:56:12,776
- ♪ and it's about
to go down ♪
1461
00:56:12,928 --> 00:56:16,020
♪ I want you, one more... ♪
1462
00:56:16,040 --> 00:56:18,448
- I like that.
1463
00:56:18,601 --> 00:56:20,709
This is exactly
what we needed.
1464
00:56:20,861 --> 00:56:23,361
I think that there could be
a balance in the bedroom.
1465
00:56:23,381 --> 00:56:26,531
And I'm feeling like
I am on the verge
1466
00:56:26,550 --> 00:56:29,292
Of being comfortable
to get physical again.
1467
00:56:29,445 --> 00:56:31,278
I think we should do stuff
like this more often.
1468
00:56:31,296 --> 00:56:33,222
- Yeah.
- Maybe dr. Pia has more ideas.
1469
00:56:33,373 --> 00:56:34,781
- I got more ideas.
1470
00:56:34,800 --> 00:56:36,450
- [laughs]
1471
00:56:36,468 --> 00:56:40,396
[upbeat music]
1472
00:56:40,547 --> 00:56:44,791
- ♪ they say I'm dreaming,
but I know this is ♪
1473
00:56:44,810 --> 00:56:48,311
♪ this is for real ♪
1474
00:56:48,406 --> 00:56:51,573
- This is pretty.
1475
00:56:51,725 --> 00:56:55,969
- So much of stacia's life is
about her being in charge.
1476
00:56:55,988 --> 00:56:58,805
But this is creating trust
issues in her marriage.
1477
00:56:58,824 --> 00:57:01,324
With decision day coming up,
we're hoping
1478
00:57:01,419 --> 00:57:04,068
That she'll benefit
from relinquishing control
1479
00:57:04,163 --> 00:57:05,587
So that she can trust nate
1480
00:57:05,739 --> 00:57:07,831
To take the lead
some of the time.
1481
00:57:07,983 --> 00:57:10,333
- Welcome to my sex dungeon.
1482
00:57:10,486 --> 00:57:12,502
- It smells good in here.
- Look at this.
1483
00:57:12,655 --> 00:57:15,672
- For this exercise, we really
need nate to take the lead.
1484
00:57:15,824 --> 00:57:18,082
And hopefully,
they'll have some fun too.
1485
00:57:18,102 --> 00:57:21,103
- There's actually whipped
cream and strawberries.
1486
00:57:21,254 --> 00:57:23,087
Oh, [bleep], what is this?
1487
00:57:23,107 --> 00:57:25,107
Oh, my.
Have you used one of those?
1488
00:57:25,334 --> 00:57:26,833
- Never.
1489
00:57:26,852 --> 00:57:28,927
- [laughs]
1490
00:57:28,946 --> 00:57:29,945
- And then what is this?
1491
00:57:30,172 --> 00:57:32,931
- [bleep] ring.
- [bleep] ring, okay.
1492
00:57:32,950 --> 00:57:34,841
- Want to try and light this?
1493
00:57:34,860 --> 00:57:37,527
I think this is body wax.
1494
00:57:37,621 --> 00:57:41,272
[soft music]
1495
00:57:41,292 --> 00:57:44,126
- I want to see this thing.
- I like this.
1496
00:57:44,277 --> 00:57:46,444
- "the screaming o."
1497
00:57:46,464 --> 00:57:48,021
- You gonna put that
on your tongue?
1498
00:57:48,040 --> 00:57:49,189
- Yeah.
1499
00:57:49,208 --> 00:57:50,799
♪ ♪
1500
00:57:51,026 --> 00:57:52,801
Whoa.
1501
00:57:52,953 --> 00:57:55,362
- That's so crazy.
1502
00:57:55,380 --> 00:57:58,715
♪ ♪
1503
00:57:58,867 --> 00:58:01,368
Wow.
1504
00:58:01,386 --> 00:58:02,869
♪ ♪
1505
00:58:02,888 --> 00:58:04,371
I need you to try
that somewhere else.
1506
00:58:04,389 --> 00:58:06,206
[laughter]
1507
00:58:06,225 --> 00:58:09,392
I do have prior trust issues
coming into the marriage.
1508
00:58:09,545 --> 00:58:10,802
You know, I don't want that
1509
00:58:10,821 --> 00:58:12,804
To basically show up
in the marriage.
1510
00:58:12,898 --> 00:58:14,047
I want to be proactive.
1511
00:58:14,066 --> 00:58:16,550
♪ ♪
1512
00:58:16,568 --> 00:58:17,718
- Perfect.
1513
00:58:17,736 --> 00:58:19,978
♪ ♪
1514
00:58:19,997 --> 00:58:22,331
[laughs]
1515
00:58:24,409 --> 00:58:27,060
Get that up a little bit.
1516
00:58:27,079 --> 00:58:28,745
- It's definitely building
trust because I would
1517
00:58:28,897 --> 00:58:30,989
Not do this with anybody else.
1518
00:58:31,008 --> 00:58:34,009
Oh, my god,
I've never done this.
1519
00:58:36,405 --> 00:58:38,180
- How you feeling over there?
1520
00:58:38,407 --> 00:58:44,094
- I feel like I am
relinquishing my control.
1521
00:58:44,246 --> 00:58:47,005
- I got you.
1522
00:58:47,024 --> 00:58:48,506
Open your mouth.
1523
00:58:48,526 --> 00:58:49,674
- What do you mean,
open my mouth?
1524
00:58:49,768 --> 00:58:51,193
- Open wide.
- Wait.
1525
00:58:51,344 --> 00:58:53,086
- Say, ah.
- Wait.
1526
00:58:53,105 --> 00:58:54,196
- Ah.
- Come on now.
1527
00:58:54,347 --> 00:58:55,589
- Open.
- Come on.
1528
00:58:55,607 --> 00:58:56,681
- Open.
1529
00:58:56,700 --> 00:58:58,275
I'm gonna put
something in your mouth.
1530
00:58:58,427 --> 00:59:01,278
- Put something?
- Yeah, open up.
1531
00:59:01,430 --> 00:59:02,538
Open wider.
1532
00:59:02,689 --> 00:59:04,689
Why you being scared?
1533
00:59:04,708 --> 00:59:08,101
[can spraying]
1534
00:59:08,120 --> 00:59:09,694
Hold on, hold on.
1535
00:59:09,713 --> 00:59:11,547
One more, ah.
1536
00:59:11,698 --> 00:59:13,774
[laughter]
1537
00:59:13,792 --> 00:59:17,444
Bruh, why you spit it out
like a little baby?
1538
00:59:17,462 --> 00:59:19,279
[laughter]
1539
00:59:19,298 --> 00:59:20,781
Eat it.
1540
00:59:20,799 --> 00:59:27,688
♪ ♪
1541
00:59:39,743 --> 00:59:43,320
- What is going on right now?
1542
00:59:43,472 --> 00:59:45,229
Wait, wait, wait.
- Nope.
1543
00:59:45,249 --> 00:59:46,248
- Wait, wait, wait,
wait, wait, wait.
1544
00:59:46,399 --> 00:59:47,641
- No, no, no waiting.
1545
00:59:47,734 --> 00:59:49,309
- Wait, wait, wait, wait,
wait, what are you doing?
1546
00:59:49,328 --> 00:59:50,401
- What?
1547
00:59:50,421 --> 00:59:52,162
You can't go nowhere.
- Oh, my god.
1548
00:59:52,314 --> 00:59:53,814
Oh, my gosh.
Come on now.
1549
00:59:53,832 --> 00:59:58,151
Wait--oh.
Oh, my god.
1550
00:59:58,170 --> 01:00:01,221
[laughs]
wait, hold on.
1551
01:00:03,008 --> 01:00:05,767
- I feel like it's about
to be real freaky in here.
1552
01:00:05,919 --> 01:00:07,752
- Oh, you like this?
1553
01:00:07,771 --> 01:00:09,679
Okay, sir, okay.
1554
01:00:09,832 --> 01:00:13,166
♪ ♪
1555
01:00:13,185 --> 01:00:16,111
- A little swing?
Oh, yeah.
1556
01:00:16,262 --> 01:00:17,854
I need you closer.
1557
01:00:18,006 --> 01:00:21,174
- Like that?
- Yeah, a little bit closer.
1558
01:00:21,193 --> 01:00:22,843
That's perfect.
1559
01:00:22,861 --> 01:00:25,603
[whispering] like that.
1560
01:00:25,623 --> 01:00:27,848
- This just got way
out of control.
1561
01:00:27,866 --> 01:00:28,915
♪ ♪
1562
01:00:32,796 --> 01:00:34,129
- ♪ yeah, spiders,
snakes, airplanes ♪
1563
01:00:34,356 --> 01:00:36,280
♪ lose it all
and watch his circle drain ♪
1564
01:00:36,300 --> 01:00:37,615
♪ seeing someone
that you love in pain ♪
1565
01:00:37,635 --> 01:00:37,966
- Justin?
- Yes?
1566
01:00:40,120 --> 01:00:41,878
- When painful things
are said in a relationship,
1567
01:00:42,030 --> 01:00:44,122
It can be difficult
for a couple to get
1568
01:00:44,141 --> 01:00:46,124
Back to the place of intimacy.
1569
01:00:46,143 --> 01:00:48,477
- Look at this, okay.
1570
01:00:48,628 --> 01:00:51,538
- We believe that alexis wants
to salvage the marriage.
1571
01:00:51,556 --> 01:00:55,041
But taking the first step
isn't always easy.
1572
01:00:55,060 --> 01:00:57,819
So we've assigned them
an exercise that will help her
1573
01:00:57,971 --> 01:01:00,897
To become more vulnerable
in hopes of reigniting
1574
01:01:01,049 --> 01:01:03,233
That spark
we know they still have.
1575
01:01:03,385 --> 01:01:04,901
- Let me taste this drink.
How you doing?
1576
01:01:05,053 --> 01:01:06,161
You look good.
- Thank you.
1577
01:01:06,312 --> 01:01:07,570
- Damn, you look good.
1578
01:01:07,723 --> 01:01:09,164
- Thank you.
1579
01:01:09,315 --> 01:01:14,561
So I don't know if you noticed,
but there's a pole over there.
1580
01:01:14,579 --> 01:01:16,229
[upbeat music]
1581
01:01:16,248 --> 01:01:20,676
I am doing this
because we've struggled with--
1582
01:01:20,827 --> 01:01:22,919
Well, I've struggled
with intimacy.
1583
01:01:23,071 --> 01:01:26,515
And I just kind of want
to break the ice,
1584
01:01:26,742 --> 01:01:29,851
Have, like a good,
romantic, sexy night.
1585
01:01:30,003 --> 01:01:31,761
- Ooh, okay.
- Ooh.
1586
01:01:31,855 --> 01:01:33,596
- All right now.
1587
01:01:33,749 --> 01:01:35,265
Decision day is approaching.
1588
01:01:35,417 --> 01:01:37,584
I mean, my feelings
for alexis--
1589
01:01:37,602 --> 01:01:41,087
I care about her.
I care about how she feels.
1590
01:01:41,106 --> 01:01:42,864
I care about my marriage.
1591
01:01:43,091 --> 01:01:45,183
And she's doing it for me,
so I'm with it.
1592
01:01:45,202 --> 01:01:47,185
If she with it,
then let's get it.
1593
01:01:47,204 --> 01:01:48,762
- All righty, let's see.
1594
01:01:48,780 --> 01:01:51,355
♪ ♪
1595
01:01:51,375 --> 01:01:53,266
- Let's go!
1596
01:01:53,285 --> 01:01:55,268
- ♪ oh, oh, oh-oh,
put your hands up ♪
1597
01:01:55,287 --> 01:01:56,770
♪ put your,
put your hands up ♪
1598
01:01:56,788 --> 01:02:00,215
♪ put your hands up,
put your, put your hands up ♪
1599
01:02:00,366 --> 01:02:01,791
♪ oh, oh, oh-oh ♪
1600
01:02:01,944 --> 01:02:03,218
- Get it.
1601
01:02:03,369 --> 01:02:06,463
- I am trying
to set the tone
1602
01:02:06,615 --> 01:02:09,616
To bond intimately
with my husband.
1603
01:02:09,634 --> 01:02:12,452
And I think that little
sexual tension release
1604
01:02:12,471 --> 01:02:14,637
Is good for both of us.
1605
01:02:14,790 --> 01:02:15,789
Oh, [bleep]!
1606
01:02:15,807 --> 01:02:17,899
[laughter]
1607
01:02:18,051 --> 01:02:19,568
- You did good, girl.
1608
01:02:19,795 --> 01:02:21,570
- I want him to know
that I do want him,
1609
01:02:21,721 --> 01:02:23,480
And I do desire him.
1610
01:02:23,632 --> 01:02:26,967
And I really just want to
show my husband that I care.
1611
01:02:26,985 --> 01:02:28,910
- That was fun.
1612
01:02:30,489 --> 01:02:32,155
All right, wait,
have you ever did that before?
1613
01:02:32,307 --> 01:02:33,898
- Never.
- Very first time?
1614
01:02:33,917 --> 01:02:35,158
- Very first time.
- I appreciate that.
1615
01:02:35,310 --> 01:02:37,401
I appreciate it.
I thought you did pretty good.
1616
01:02:37,421 --> 01:02:38,736
You want to play
the blindfold game?
1617
01:02:38,756 --> 01:02:39,996
- What's that?
1618
01:02:40,090 --> 01:02:42,499
- I put a blindfold on,
and you express how you
1619
01:02:42,651 --> 01:02:45,001
Feel about me, authentically.
1620
01:02:45,153 --> 01:02:46,744
And then I don't interrupt.
1621
01:02:46,764 --> 01:02:48,412
I just listen,
and then vice versa.
1622
01:02:48,432 --> 01:02:49,823
- Let's go.
You want to go first?
1623
01:02:49,841 --> 01:02:51,266
- No, you can go first.
1624
01:02:51,417 --> 01:02:52,934
- I'll put
the blindfold on first.
1625
01:02:54,179 --> 01:02:56,179
I'm ready.
1626
01:02:56,331 --> 01:02:58,665
- Let's start
with the positive.
1627
01:02:58,683 --> 01:03:00,333
I appreciate you.
1628
01:03:00,352 --> 01:03:03,928
I appreciate how happy
you are within your skin,
1629
01:03:03,947 --> 01:03:05,522
Within yourself.
1630
01:03:05,674 --> 01:03:07,783
I appreciate you for trying.
1631
01:03:07,934 --> 01:03:10,601
But I feel like
I'm number two to you
1632
01:03:10,621 --> 01:03:12,012
When it comes to your friends.
1633
01:03:12,105 --> 01:03:13,938
I feel like I'm number two
when it comes to your dog.
1634
01:03:13,957 --> 01:03:16,032
And I don't think
I'll be number one.
1635
01:03:16,184 --> 01:03:20,036
I genuinely feel
like I don't think
1636
01:03:20,188 --> 01:03:22,689
You're ready to be married.
1637
01:03:22,782 --> 01:03:25,525
I'm frustrated
with you that you
1638
01:03:25,618 --> 01:03:27,618
Haven't asked me
how I felt or how
1639
01:03:27,712 --> 01:03:29,379
I'm feeling regarding mya.
1640
01:03:29,531 --> 01:03:33,291
If the tables were turned,
if what happened
1641
01:03:33,310 --> 01:03:35,626
To newton happened to mya,
I don't think--
1642
01:03:35,646 --> 01:03:36,886
I feel that you
wouldn't have made
1643
01:03:37,039 --> 01:03:38,388
The same decision that I made.
1644
01:03:38,540 --> 01:03:42,042
And we want different things.
1645
01:03:42,060 --> 01:03:46,321
[dramatic music]
1646
01:03:46,472 --> 01:03:49,883
I will definitely say I've been
questioning our marriage now.
1647
01:03:49,901 --> 01:03:51,493
♪ ♪
1648
01:03:54,832 --> 01:03:56,239
My love still hasn't
changed for you.
1649
01:03:56,391 --> 01:03:58,649
I still love you.
I still care about you.
1650
01:03:58,669 --> 01:04:02,838
I'm just cautious as [bleep],
you know?
1651
01:04:02,989 --> 01:04:04,914
Damn, that felt good.
1652
01:04:05,067 --> 01:04:06,842
♪ ♪
1653
01:04:06,993 --> 01:04:09,586
Yeah, that's where I'm at.
That's what I feel.
1654
01:04:09,738 --> 01:04:12,347
- Take it off now?
- Yes, ma'am.
1655
01:04:12,498 --> 01:04:14,665
You all right?
- Yeah, I'm okay.
1656
01:04:14,685 --> 01:04:16,409
- Cool beans.
1657
01:04:16,428 --> 01:04:18,336
♪ ♪
1658
01:04:18,355 --> 01:04:20,763
- I think you're doing
the best you can.
1659
01:04:20,916 --> 01:04:22,691
I know that I'm a great woman.
1660
01:04:22,918 --> 01:04:26,677
I know that even
if I'm not making you happy,
1661
01:04:26,697 --> 01:04:28,846
I will make somebody
extremely happy.
1662
01:04:28,866 --> 01:04:30,590
I'm thankful for you.
1663
01:04:30,609 --> 01:04:32,516
I'm thankful for all
that you taught me.
1664
01:04:32,536 --> 01:04:34,427
I'm thankful for the time
we spent together.
1665
01:04:34,520 --> 01:04:35,929
I'm thankful
for the good times.
1666
01:04:35,947 --> 01:04:38,331
I'm thankful for the bad times.
I'm thankful for you.
1667
01:04:40,619 --> 01:04:42,711
Your family is wonderful.
1668
01:04:42,862 --> 01:04:44,379
I appreciate them.
1669
01:04:44,530 --> 01:04:46,214
That's really just it.
1670
01:04:46,366 --> 01:04:48,458
That's where I'm at.
1671
01:04:48,610 --> 01:04:49,885
- That's it?
- That's it.
1672
01:04:50,036 --> 01:04:52,220
- Are you sure?
- I'm very sure.
1673
01:04:53,873 --> 01:04:55,798
- You pinkie promise?
1674
01:04:55,951 --> 01:04:57,541
Oh, [bleep],
she pinkie promised.
1675
01:04:57,561 --> 01:04:59,285
That's everything.
She don't never pinkie promise.
1676
01:04:59,304 --> 01:05:00,620
She be like, no, [bleep].
1677
01:05:00,639 --> 01:05:02,546
- No, I do pinkie promise,
only when I'm serious.
1678
01:05:02,566 --> 01:05:04,566
That's all I had to say.
- That's all I had.
1679
01:05:04,717 --> 01:05:07,051
That was a mouthful.
1680
01:05:07,070 --> 01:05:09,387
- It made justin happy
to get all his emotions out.
1681
01:05:09,406 --> 01:05:10,647
I didn't want
to take that from him,
1682
01:05:10,799 --> 01:05:12,315
So I chose not to say more.
1683
01:05:12,467 --> 01:05:13,633
I didn't want to attack him.
1684
01:05:13,652 --> 01:05:15,151
I feel like I've been
transparent and direct
1685
01:05:15,245 --> 01:05:16,411
This entire time.
1686
01:05:16,562 --> 01:05:18,488
So for me to reiterate things
I've been saying
1687
01:05:18,640 --> 01:05:21,141
For over a month
was meaningless.
1688
01:05:21,159 --> 01:05:23,493
So if this man don't think
I'm ready to be married,
1689
01:05:23,587 --> 01:05:25,495
Maybe that's not the man
that I should be married to.
1690
01:05:25,647 --> 01:05:26,646
- How are you
feeling right now?
1691
01:05:26,665 --> 01:05:28,089
- I'm okay.
- Yeah?
1692
01:05:28,241 --> 01:05:30,150
- I'm genuinely good.
1693
01:05:30,168 --> 01:05:32,669
I've said everything
that I have possibly to say.
1694
01:05:32,821 --> 01:05:34,337
Sometimes...
- I can dig it.
1695
01:05:34,489 --> 01:05:36,747
- No response is
a better response.
1696
01:05:36,767 --> 01:05:38,324
So right now,
I'm choosing silence.
1697
01:05:38,343 --> 01:05:41,269
[upbeat music]
1698
01:05:45,016 --> 01:05:46,182
[upbeat music]
1699
01:05:46,334 --> 01:05:50,094
♪ ♪
1700
01:05:50,113 --> 01:05:53,782
- ♪ woke up this morning
feeling kind of down ♪
1701
01:05:53,933 --> 01:05:57,193
- He looks like
he's celebrating.
1702
01:05:57,345 --> 01:05:59,862
Just don't wake him up.
1703
01:06:00,015 --> 01:06:06,703
He cried every two hours
all night.
1704
01:06:06,855 --> 01:06:11,115
And miguel was lovely enough
to take care of him.
1705
01:06:11,134 --> 01:06:14,043
[baby wailing]
1706
01:06:14,196 --> 01:06:19,032
♪ ♪
1707
01:06:19,125 --> 01:06:21,792
- But I'm gonna
step in tonight.
1708
01:06:21,812 --> 01:06:24,554
- [laughs]
- don't wake him up.
1709
01:06:24,706 --> 01:06:27,298
♪ ♪
1710
01:06:27,317 --> 01:06:30,727
- Getting ready to--
nice hair.
1711
01:06:30,879 --> 01:06:35,473
Getting ready to go meet
the girls, the wifeys.
1712
01:06:35,492 --> 01:06:39,810
I'm curious to see if emotions
are hitting the other gals
1713
01:06:39,830 --> 01:06:42,905
As much as they're hitting me.
1714
01:06:43,000 --> 01:06:46,893
I felt way more emotional
in the last couple weeks
1715
01:06:46,986 --> 01:06:51,080
Than I think ever
in my lifetime.
1716
01:06:51,233 --> 01:06:55,251
So curious to see if they
are feeling the same way.
1717
01:06:55,403 --> 01:06:59,330
♪ ♪
1718
01:06:59,349 --> 01:07:01,016
- ♪ get back ♪
1719
01:07:01,167 --> 01:07:03,409
♪ hold on, baby,
it's the mack ♪
1720
01:07:03,428 --> 01:07:05,520
♪ and you got game, impact ♪
1721
01:07:05,671 --> 01:07:06,929
♪ just left the hotel ♪
1722
01:07:07,082 --> 01:07:09,173
♪ but you make me want
to go right back ♪
1723
01:07:09,192 --> 01:07:12,585
♪ so clean, heavyweight
macking, release the steam ♪
1724
01:07:12,604 --> 01:07:15,772
♪ baby got the black and then
I got green, power, dreams ♪
1725
01:07:15,924 --> 01:07:18,682
♪ please go down,
about to pop seams ♪
1726
01:07:18,702 --> 01:07:21,094
♪ yeah, it's all in a daze,
red light nights ♪
1727
01:07:21,112 --> 01:07:23,521
♪ with the girls on waves ♪
1728
01:07:23,540 --> 01:07:25,114
- That's off.
- Oh, yeah.
1729
01:07:25,267 --> 01:07:27,208
Down low, down low!
1730
01:07:27,360 --> 01:07:28,284
- [groans]
1731
01:07:28,436 --> 01:07:29,936
- Miguel!
1732
01:07:29,954 --> 01:07:31,862
- What the hell?
- Miguel's got a baby!
1733
01:07:31,882 --> 01:07:33,715
- Bro, what the hell is that?
1734
01:07:33,866 --> 01:07:35,199
- What is that?
- What is this?
1735
01:07:35,218 --> 01:07:37,277
- My son, migindy.
1736
01:07:37,370 --> 01:07:38,945
- You two needed a challenge?
1737
01:07:38,963 --> 01:07:40,280
- It's nice to meet you, buddy.
1738
01:07:40,373 --> 01:07:42,223
- I know.
He's sleeping right now.
1739
01:07:42,375 --> 01:07:44,208
- Seeing miguel
walk up with a baby
1740
01:07:44,227 --> 01:07:45,802
Definitely threw me for one.
1741
01:07:45,896 --> 01:07:47,120
I was just like--
1742
01:07:47,138 --> 01:07:49,230
I think my first assumption
was like, oh,
1743
01:07:49,382 --> 01:07:51,048
Is that like your niece,
or your nephew, or something
1744
01:07:51,068 --> 01:07:52,458
That you got for the weekend?
1745
01:07:52,477 --> 01:07:55,645
And it turns out that him
and lindy got a fake baby.
1746
01:07:55,797 --> 01:07:56,887
- That's what you get
for trying
1747
01:07:56,907 --> 01:07:57,888
To get it in on the honeymoon.
1748
01:07:57,908 --> 01:07:59,240
- I know, I know.
1749
01:07:59,392 --> 01:08:00,909
- That's what you get
for being papi grande, right?
1750
01:08:01,060 --> 01:08:03,653
- Everything is expedited.
- Action, reaction.
1751
01:08:03,805 --> 01:08:06,897
- I think their marriage
must be really strong
1752
01:08:06,991 --> 01:08:10,310
If the experts decide that they
need an additional challenge
1753
01:08:10,328 --> 01:08:11,477
Of a fake baby.
1754
01:08:11,496 --> 01:08:13,146
I would have just
taken out the batteries
1755
01:08:13,164 --> 01:08:14,405
And tossed it in the closet.
1756
01:08:14,424 --> 01:08:17,258
[laughs]
1757
01:08:17,410 --> 01:08:18,985
- Things with lindy
have been great.
1758
01:08:19,003 --> 01:08:21,170
We have now a little child.
1759
01:08:21,323 --> 01:08:22,597
Yeah.
1760
01:08:22,748 --> 01:08:23,914
- So when did this event--
1761
01:08:24,008 --> 01:08:26,659
- Like, what is the story
behind this child, dude?
1762
01:08:26,678 --> 01:08:27,936
'cause you're the only one.
1763
01:08:28,087 --> 01:08:28,919
[laughter]
1764
01:08:28,939 --> 01:08:30,421
- The ultimate [bleep]-block.
1765
01:08:30,440 --> 01:08:31,831
- Yeah, right.
- I'm dead.
1766
01:08:31,924 --> 01:08:35,610
- Like, the thing that gets
in the way of intimacy.
1767
01:08:35,761 --> 01:08:37,687
No, but all jokes aside,
it's another type
1768
01:08:37,839 --> 01:08:38,613
Of intimacy, right?
1769
01:08:38,840 --> 01:08:42,266
It's like coming together
as a team
1770
01:08:42,285 --> 01:08:45,120
To help raise a third person.
1771
01:08:45,347 --> 01:08:46,955
- So it's like a little
insight of, like,
1772
01:08:47,106 --> 01:08:48,848
How he would be as a parent,
right?
1773
01:08:48,867 --> 01:08:49,866
- Yo, it's a great insight.
1774
01:08:50,018 --> 01:08:51,609
I'm like, why is
this baby turning me on?
1775
01:08:51,628 --> 01:08:52,794
Like--
1776
01:08:52,945 --> 01:08:54,629
[laughter]
1777
01:08:54,856 --> 01:08:57,540
- Maybe that's the point--
make a real one.
1778
01:08:57,692 --> 01:08:59,859
- No, but it's
really cute seeing
1779
01:08:59,878 --> 01:09:02,303
Him interact with the baby.
1780
01:09:02,455 --> 01:09:04,788
- But it's definitely
testing us.
1781
01:09:04,808 --> 01:09:07,533
I got, like, three hours
of sleep last night.
1782
01:09:07,552 --> 01:09:09,702
That baby is on demon mode.
1783
01:09:09,795 --> 01:09:11,479
I don't know what
setting it's on,
1784
01:09:11,631 --> 01:09:14,056
But that thing's crying
every [bleep] two hours.
1785
01:09:14,209 --> 01:09:17,134
Yeah, definitely,
we are using protection,
1786
01:09:17,154 --> 01:09:18,820
That's for damn sure.
1787
01:09:18,971 --> 01:09:21,214
- What's up
with you and morgan?
1788
01:09:21,232 --> 01:09:24,550
- Yeah, so she's saying that
1789
01:09:24,569 --> 01:09:27,720
I owe her an emotional apology.
1790
01:09:27,739 --> 01:09:29,664
- What the hell does that mean?
1791
01:09:29,815 --> 01:09:32,149
- Just say it with emotion,
I guess,
1792
01:09:32,243 --> 01:09:33,559
You know what I'm saying?
1793
01:09:33,578 --> 01:09:35,986
- I think she means, like,
she knows intellectually
1794
01:09:36,006 --> 01:09:37,005
That you're apologetic--
1795
01:09:37,156 --> 01:09:39,232
- For her,
apologize for the actions,
1796
01:09:39,250 --> 01:09:40,658
And not how I made her feel.
1797
01:09:40,677 --> 01:09:42,068
- Right.
- Yeah.
1798
01:09:42,086 --> 01:09:43,511
- And yeah,
and I tried, but I guess,
1799
01:09:43,738 --> 01:09:45,254
Like, I'm not very good,
and so I have to--
1800
01:09:45,407 --> 01:09:46,347
- Yeah.
1801
01:09:46,499 --> 01:09:48,424
- But, bro,
from my understanding,
1802
01:09:48,518 --> 01:09:52,094
It's just like, how will
she emotionally receive that
1803
01:09:52,247 --> 01:09:53,763
If she's defensive?
1804
01:09:53,915 --> 01:09:55,264
- True.
1805
01:09:55,417 --> 01:09:57,099
- She's not gonna believe
anything you say because she's
1806
01:09:57,252 --> 01:09:58,842
Guarded against you,
you know what I'm saying?
1807
01:09:58,862 --> 01:10:00,753
So she's not going to believe
anything that comes out
1808
01:10:00,772 --> 01:10:03,256
Of your mouth, you feel me?
1809
01:10:03,274 --> 01:10:05,441
- I get no emotional
response from binh.
1810
01:10:05,535 --> 01:10:08,036
And dr. Pia's asked me,
like, what I need to heal.
1811
01:10:08,187 --> 01:10:10,780
And I was like, honestly,
an emotional apology.
1812
01:10:10,932 --> 01:10:13,783
- Why do you continue
to expect the same thing
1813
01:10:13,935 --> 01:10:15,435
Even after you've realized
you're not gonna get it?
1814
01:10:15,453 --> 01:10:16,711
- You're probably gonna get it,
1815
01:10:16,862 --> 01:10:18,195
And then you're not gonna
think it's genuine anyway.
1816
01:10:18,215 --> 01:10:19,605
So what's the point?
- Right.
1817
01:10:19,624 --> 01:10:21,382
- I just feel angry for you.
1818
01:10:21,534 --> 01:10:24,627
You're so emotionally
intelligent and mature.
1819
01:10:24,721 --> 01:10:27,388
And I think he's just--
he's trying his best,
1820
01:10:27,540 --> 01:10:28,798
But he's just
really not capable.
1821
01:10:28,950 --> 01:10:29,891
- Yeah.
1822
01:10:30,042 --> 01:10:31,208
- Like, it doesn't
even feel like he's
1823
01:10:31,228 --> 01:10:32,301
On the same wavelength at all.
1824
01:10:32,454 --> 01:10:34,136
- Mm-mm.
- I run away from my problems.
1825
01:10:34,289 --> 01:10:35,455
- Yeah.
1826
01:10:35,548 --> 01:10:36,973
- And with morgan,
she's so strong.
1827
01:10:37,125 --> 01:10:38,975
Physically and mentally,
she's easily the strongest
1828
01:10:39,069 --> 01:10:41,627
Person I've ever been with,
and it's intimidating.
1829
01:10:41,646 --> 01:10:42,962
- I do want to say,
though, like I feel
1830
01:10:42,981 --> 01:10:44,480
Like you are strong, right?
1831
01:10:44,632 --> 01:10:46,983
Because you showed up even in
the face of adversity, right?
1832
01:10:47,135 --> 01:10:47,984
You knew that you had
a hard time with her.
1833
01:10:48,136 --> 01:10:50,561
- I hid from her.
I hid from her.
1834
01:10:50,580 --> 01:10:52,805
- It seemed like binh wants
to internalize everything.
1835
01:10:52,824 --> 01:10:54,898
And I know he did things wrong.
1836
01:10:54,918 --> 01:10:58,068
Like, he kind of didn't hold--
1837
01:10:58,088 --> 01:10:59,570
He broke morgan's trust.
1838
01:10:59,589 --> 01:11:01,089
It's not excusable.
1839
01:11:01,240 --> 01:11:03,499
But at the same time, like,
it seemed like he's blaming
1840
01:11:03,651 --> 01:11:05,075
Himself for everything.
1841
01:11:05,095 --> 01:11:07,336
And I feel like that's unfair
because he's a good guy.
1842
01:11:07,489 --> 01:11:09,338
And like, I mean, I don't want
him to hate morgan, either.
1843
01:11:09,491 --> 01:11:12,267
But I just want him to be
like, "it wasn't all my fault."
1844
01:11:13,937 --> 01:11:15,495
- Now miss krysten.
- Krysten.
1845
01:11:15,513 --> 01:11:16,604
Krysten, come on.
1846
01:11:16,756 --> 01:11:18,606
- I live for the krysten
and mitch show.
1847
01:11:18,758 --> 01:11:19,849
[laughter]
1848
01:11:19,943 --> 01:11:21,684
- We got all the time
you need, baby girl.
1849
01:11:21,836 --> 01:11:23,352
- Yes.
1850
01:11:23,505 --> 01:11:27,264
- Okay,
we--him and I have paused
1851
01:11:27,284 --> 01:11:29,951
On physical intimacy.
1852
01:11:30,102 --> 01:11:31,953
I'm talking--you know
what I'm talking about.
1853
01:11:32,104 --> 01:11:33,103
- Oh, wow, yeah.
- Yeah?
1854
01:11:33,197 --> 01:11:36,182
- Why was that so delayed?
1855
01:11:36,200 --> 01:11:37,625
- She did the hand gesture.
1856
01:11:37,777 --> 01:11:39,352
[laughter]
1857
01:11:39,370 --> 01:11:41,612
- We've paused.
1858
01:11:41,631 --> 01:11:44,966
We've paused because I wanted
to get to know him better
1859
01:11:45,117 --> 01:11:47,860
Emotionally
before we just continued
1860
01:11:47,879 --> 01:11:50,363
On the fast train, sexually.
1861
01:11:50,381 --> 01:11:52,974
- We've kind of taken it
down a notch.
1862
01:11:53,125 --> 01:11:54,050
And we're kind of rebuilding--
- nice.
1863
01:11:54,144 --> 01:11:55,476
- To that level.
1864
01:11:55,628 --> 01:11:58,721
So I think that's cool
and both, like, mature of us.
1865
01:11:58,873 --> 01:12:00,798
- Yeah.
1866
01:12:00,817 --> 01:12:06,154
- But I'm still not sure,
overall, where I'm at, yeah.
1867
01:12:06,305 --> 01:12:08,047
I'm having a hard time
dealing with some
1868
01:12:08,140 --> 01:12:09,382
Of the long-term
planning of, like,
1869
01:12:09,400 --> 01:12:11,384
Imagining myself with her
for the rest of my life.
1870
01:12:11,402 --> 01:12:13,811
But I am, like, cool
with saying like,
1871
01:12:13,830 --> 01:12:16,313
This is going well,
and I'm enjoying myself.
1872
01:12:16,333 --> 01:12:18,558
And we're just--we're vibing.
1873
01:12:18,576 --> 01:12:20,984
I'm happy to say yes
on decision day
1874
01:12:21,079 --> 01:12:22,837
If we both feel that way.
1875
01:12:22,988 --> 01:12:24,339
But she has said
in the past, like,
1876
01:12:24,566 --> 01:12:26,566
If there's no I love you,
and there's like--
1877
01:12:26,584 --> 01:12:28,067
She's very specific
with her demands.
1878
01:12:28,086 --> 01:12:29,326
- She needs that.
- Yeah.
1879
01:12:29,346 --> 01:12:30,903
She's like, if there's not
this, this, and this
1880
01:12:30,922 --> 01:12:33,089
On decision day, it's a no.
1881
01:12:33,241 --> 01:12:36,409
- I do think that I put up
walls to protect myself.
1882
01:12:36,427 --> 01:12:39,854
And I definitely
pushed him away.
1883
01:12:40,081 --> 01:12:44,692
And I think I'm ready
to stop doing that
1884
01:12:44,919 --> 01:12:48,011
Because the good will
very much outweigh
1885
01:12:48,031 --> 01:12:49,697
The bad if this works.
1886
01:12:49,849 --> 01:12:52,182
It's not the marriage
I imagined.
1887
01:12:52,276 --> 01:12:56,779
But he is, to his core, a very,
very good man who means well.
1888
01:12:56,931 --> 01:12:58,948
- Yeah.
1889
01:12:59,042 --> 01:13:03,044
- He just needs a little more
guidance than the person
1890
01:13:03,195 --> 01:13:04,604
Maybe I thought
I'd be married to.
1891
01:13:04,622 --> 01:13:07,030
- Yeah, you've got to teach
him how to not be a bitch.
1892
01:13:07,125 --> 01:13:09,108
- [laughs]
I'm trying.
1893
01:13:09,127 --> 01:13:10,534
- What?
- All right, lindy.
1894
01:13:10,553 --> 01:13:12,053
- I get the joke.
1895
01:13:12,280 --> 01:13:13,704
- I'm happy
she's telling me that they're
1896
01:13:13,798 --> 01:13:15,706
In a good spot right now.
1897
01:13:15,725 --> 01:13:16,966
But it is hard to go
along the roller coaster
1898
01:13:17,118 --> 01:13:18,300
With their marriage
1899
01:13:18,453 --> 01:13:21,378
Because I just never know
what she's gonna tell me.
1900
01:13:21,398 --> 01:13:23,289
And honestly, really, nothing
shocks me at this point
1901
01:13:23,307 --> 01:13:26,216
When it comes to bitch--
I mean, mitch.
1902
01:13:26,310 --> 01:13:29,311
- My vision of marriage was us
having fun together, you know?
1903
01:13:29,464 --> 01:13:31,406
Like, I like to go out
with my friends, you know?
1904
01:13:31,557 --> 01:13:33,241
Like, a club--
I like doing things
1905
01:13:33,392 --> 01:13:34,483
Like that with my friends.
1906
01:13:34,636 --> 01:13:35,968
And all I've been
doing is--like,
1907
01:13:35,987 --> 01:13:37,060
I've been very considerate.
1908
01:13:37,080 --> 01:13:38,154
Because I tried
to take justin one time.
1909
01:13:38,306 --> 01:13:39,822
He's like,
"this isn't my scene anymore."
1910
01:13:39,974 --> 01:13:42,733
He wants to spend all
my free time with me.
1911
01:13:42,752 --> 01:13:44,493
Yeah.
- Okay.
1912
01:13:44,587 --> 01:13:46,996
- And you're not with that?
- I mean, I told him.
1913
01:13:47,090 --> 01:13:49,090
I was like, I feel like
I'm a child on punishment.
1914
01:13:49,241 --> 01:13:50,425
I don't want
to compare my husband,
1915
01:13:50,576 --> 01:13:54,820
But my relationships before,
they were super fun.
1916
01:13:54,839 --> 01:13:57,173
Like, it was, like,
a lot of passion,
1917
01:13:57,325 --> 01:14:00,268
A lot of exploration,
a lot of spontaneity.
1918
01:14:00,419 --> 01:14:02,662
I think justin's
my first partner who has been
1919
01:14:02,680 --> 01:14:04,680
This defensive and sensitive.
1920
01:14:04,774 --> 01:14:07,349
So I think that's where
I'm struggling to assimilate
1921
01:14:07,502 --> 01:14:11,094
Because it's just like,
I really don't understand
1922
01:14:11,189 --> 01:14:13,022
How he feels sometimes.
1923
01:14:13,174 --> 01:14:14,857
- I just feel like
that's single people [bleep].
1924
01:14:15,009 --> 01:14:16,784
And she look at it as me
trying to smother her.
1925
01:14:16,936 --> 01:14:18,360
- Like, contain her.
- Yeah, it is.
1926
01:14:18,513 --> 01:14:20,938
- I would feel uncomfortable
if my wife was going
1927
01:14:20,957 --> 01:14:22,364
Out to the club every weekend.
1928
01:14:22,459 --> 01:14:23,699
That's weird.
1929
01:14:23,851 --> 01:14:25,108
- Yeah, I think my wife
would be uncomfortable
1930
01:14:25,128 --> 01:14:26,127
If I was doing that too.
1931
01:14:26,278 --> 01:14:27,462
I think it goes both ways.
1932
01:14:27,613 --> 01:14:29,464
Like, it's not really like
a wife or husband thing.
1933
01:14:29,615 --> 01:14:32,024
- I mean, I understand
maybe like, once in a while
1934
01:14:32,043 --> 01:14:33,784
With your girlfriends,
but every weekend?
1935
01:14:33,878 --> 01:14:35,303
That's--
- yeah, right?
1936
01:14:35,530 --> 01:14:37,138
- That's just like, you know,
why do you want to be a wife?
1937
01:14:37,289 --> 01:14:38,806
Oh, yeah, I want to be a wife
because I love going
1938
01:14:38,958 --> 01:14:39,974
To the club every weekend.
1939
01:14:40,201 --> 01:14:41,291
It just doesn't make any sense.
- Exactly.
1940
01:14:41,311 --> 01:14:42,310
- Damn, it's almost like
1941
01:14:42,461 --> 01:14:44,461
She don't
like spending time with me.
1942
01:14:44,555 --> 01:14:46,706
And so we're in a battle.
1943
01:14:46,724 --> 01:14:48,390
We're still battling with that.
1944
01:14:48,543 --> 01:14:50,710
- I'm not gonna lie,
my gut's telling me
1945
01:14:50,728 --> 01:14:52,211
That alexis, she's not in it.
1946
01:14:52,230 --> 01:14:53,729
I don't know her very well,
1947
01:14:53,881 --> 01:14:59,142
But I was disappointed in her
when morgan and all the girls
1948
01:14:59,162 --> 01:15:02,980
Came to my house, and she was
the one that was snitching,
1949
01:15:02,999 --> 01:15:06,075
And causing rifts in other
people's, like, marriages,
1950
01:15:06,227 --> 01:15:07,243
You know what I'm saying?
1951
01:15:07,395 --> 01:15:09,337
So she's gossiping.
1952
01:15:09,564 --> 01:15:11,580
Now she's going
to the club every weekend.
1953
01:15:11,733 --> 01:15:13,341
Like, what is this?
Are you still in college?
1954
01:15:13,568 --> 01:15:15,343
Like, you're married.
Like, come on, man.
1955
01:15:15,494 --> 01:15:16,736
- No, man,
I don't think she wants me.
1956
01:15:16,754 --> 01:15:19,013
I don't think
she's attracted to me.
1957
01:15:19,240 --> 01:15:21,090
And it speaks
in the bedroom, when--
1958
01:15:21,242 --> 01:15:23,518
I've tried having sex with
her numerous times, you know?
1959
01:15:23,669 --> 01:15:25,353
And so she don't
reciprocate the energy.
1960
01:15:25,504 --> 01:15:27,504
If I kiss her,
she just sit there.
1961
01:15:27,524 --> 01:15:29,506
It's hurtful, man,
1962
01:15:29,526 --> 01:15:35,512
Because sometimes, I question
her intentions, you know?
1963
01:15:35,532 --> 01:15:38,774
She told dr. Pia that, "I think
I'm ready to be married,
1964
01:15:38,926 --> 01:15:39,683
But not to justin."
1965
01:15:39,702 --> 01:15:41,427
- Ooh.
1966
01:15:41,445 --> 01:15:43,596
[dramatic music]
1967
01:15:43,614 --> 01:15:44,947
- She couldn't take
it back after that.
1968
01:15:45,099 --> 01:15:46,949
And it hit me harder
than I thought it would.
1969
01:15:47,101 --> 01:15:48,709
- 'cause now, it's like, did
you really mean that or not?
1970
01:15:48,861 --> 01:15:50,436
- Exactly.
1971
01:15:50,529 --> 01:15:52,288
- Hearing about what justin's
going through is upsetting.
1972
01:15:52,440 --> 01:15:54,623
They started so strong,
you know?
1973
01:15:54,717 --> 01:15:57,034
I was so sure that they were
gonna--if anyone made it,
1974
01:15:57,128 --> 01:15:58,127
It'd be justin and alexis.
1975
01:15:58,279 --> 01:16:00,279
But it just seems
like he's making
1976
01:16:00,298 --> 01:16:04,225
Really big sacrifices
and compromises,
1977
01:16:04,452 --> 01:16:06,561
And taking the marriage
really seriously.
1978
01:16:06,712 --> 01:16:10,456
And it seems like she's
not as into it as he is.
1979
01:16:10,549 --> 01:16:13,142
That sucks.
It's not fair.
1980
01:16:13,294 --> 01:16:15,961
- Do you still want
to be married to her?
1981
01:16:15,980 --> 01:16:17,313
- I don't know.
1982
01:16:17,465 --> 01:16:20,816
- ♪ there's no way
we can bring this back ♪
1983
01:16:20,968 --> 01:16:23,869
♪ nowhere to run
if the walls collapse ♪
1984
01:16:27,658 --> 01:16:28,808
[dramatic music]
1985
01:16:28,826 --> 01:16:32,420
♪ ♪
1986
01:16:55,169 --> 01:16:56,669
[door slams]
1987
01:16:56,687 --> 01:17:02,575
♪ ♪
1988
01:17:19,710 --> 01:17:21,969
- Yeah, for sure.
1989
01:17:32,056 --> 01:17:35,799
- Came home, we just had
a conversation, you know?
1990
01:17:35,818 --> 01:17:40,303
You know, we started talking
about [bleep],
1991
01:17:40,323 --> 01:17:42,472
Past [bleep].
1992
01:17:42,492 --> 01:17:44,975
She throwing [bleep]
in my face, you know?
1993
01:17:44,994 --> 01:17:45,976
And I was like, okay.
1994
01:17:45,995 --> 01:17:47,811
And then I was like,
here we go.
1995
01:17:47,830 --> 01:17:49,221
It's the real version
coming out.
1996
01:17:49,240 --> 01:17:50,647
I said, so you've been
wanting to say this [bleep].
1997
01:17:50,667 --> 01:17:53,150
Now it's coming out, you know?
1998
01:17:53,169 --> 01:17:55,895
And she started
going back and forth.
1999
01:17:55,913 --> 01:17:57,838
I got loud.
2000
01:17:58,991 --> 01:18:02,492
And she was just
like, you know,
2001
01:18:02,512 --> 01:18:04,753
When I spoke my truth
the other night,
2002
01:18:04,906 --> 01:18:07,740
When we did the exercise,
you know,
2003
01:18:07,758 --> 01:18:10,092
She said she was shocked
because I had
2004
01:18:10,244 --> 01:18:11,519
Never told her any of that.
2005
01:18:11,670 --> 01:18:14,246
And I'm just like, you know,
I've been honest with you.
2006
01:18:14,265 --> 01:18:16,840
You just haven't been
comprehending, you know?
2007
01:18:16,859 --> 01:18:20,177
That right there felt like
it was just too direct.
2008
01:18:20,196 --> 01:18:21,603
And I even said it after,
I was just like,
2009
01:18:21,756 --> 01:18:24,106
I think I was too direct,
you know?
2010
01:18:24,200 --> 01:18:26,850
And so when I spoke my truth
that night, you know,
2011
01:18:26,869 --> 01:18:29,261
I wasn't aware
that I [bleep] on her.
2012
01:18:29,280 --> 01:18:31,021
That wasn't my intention,
you know what I'm saying?
2013
01:18:31,040 --> 01:18:32,189
I was just being honest
'cause I felt like
2014
01:18:32,208 --> 01:18:34,283
That's the only way
she did understand.
2015
01:18:34,435 --> 01:18:35,358
But then it bites me in the ass
2016
01:18:35,378 --> 01:18:36,711
Because you
really felt this way.
2017
01:18:36,862 --> 01:18:38,103
I had my guys with me.
2018
01:18:38,197 --> 01:18:41,440
I mean, I had the meeting
with the fellows today.
2019
01:18:41,459 --> 01:18:42,699
I made a comment.
2020
01:18:42,719 --> 01:18:45,219
I said, I don't think
she's ready for marriage.
2021
01:18:45,370 --> 01:18:47,722
You know, she interprets that
I'm trying to take her away
2022
01:18:47,873 --> 01:18:49,039
From her friends when,
clearly, I'm just
2023
01:18:49,058 --> 01:18:50,558
Like, there's certain [bleep]
you shouldn't do
2024
01:18:50,709 --> 01:18:51,617
When you're married.
2025
01:18:51,635 --> 01:18:52,876
It's as simple as that.
2026
01:18:52,895 --> 01:18:55,062
I don't want my wife going
to the [bleep] club
2027
01:18:55,289 --> 01:18:57,064
Every weekend,
whether it's for two hours.
2028
01:18:57,216 --> 01:18:58,457
Go [bleep] bowling.
2029
01:18:58,476 --> 01:19:02,795
Why that specific scene
every [bleep] weekend?
2030
01:19:02,813 --> 01:19:04,313
And she was like,
maybe we're not compatible.
2031
01:19:04,465 --> 01:19:05,965
I'm like,
then maybe we just ain't,
2032
01:19:05,983 --> 01:19:07,557
You know what I'm saying?
2033
01:19:07,651 --> 01:19:09,076
Just be [bleep] honest.
2034
01:19:10,246 --> 01:19:12,079
- I did.
2035
01:19:20,331 --> 01:19:22,882
♪ ♪
2036
01:19:25,762 --> 01:19:28,670
[tense music]
2037
01:19:28,823 --> 01:19:35,603
♪ ♪
2038
01:19:37,273 --> 01:19:38,939
- I'm not gonna say
I don't think
2039
01:19:39,166 --> 01:19:40,423
Because I don't want
to say what you think.
2040
01:19:40,443 --> 01:19:43,502
I feel just like
I'm just not wanted.
2041
01:19:43,521 --> 01:19:46,005
- What makes you feel that way?
2042
01:19:46,023 --> 01:19:48,674
- Anytime I try to have
any type of intimacy,
2043
01:19:48,692 --> 01:19:51,452
The most passionate we've been
was the honeymoon.
2044
01:19:51,603 --> 01:19:53,270
I keep going back to that.
2045
01:19:53,289 --> 01:19:54,696
Like, what was
so [bleep] different
2046
01:19:54,849 --> 01:19:56,123
About the honeymoon than now?
2047
01:19:56,275 --> 01:19:58,867
We didn't know each other.
2048
01:19:58,961 --> 01:20:01,870
- We sit and talk,
and tell each other everything.
2049
01:20:02,023 --> 01:20:03,446
Is that an emotional intimacy?
2050
01:20:03,466 --> 01:20:04,948
- No, it's definitely
emotional intimacy.
2051
01:20:04,967 --> 01:20:06,449
But sometimes,
we have to get past that.
2052
01:20:06,469 --> 01:20:07,951
- So because
I won't sleep with you,
2053
01:20:07,970 --> 01:20:09,637
You don't feel
like you're wanted?
2054
01:20:09,864 --> 01:20:11,864
- It's not
that you won't sleep with me.
2055
01:20:11,882 --> 01:20:14,291
It's the fact that we don't
exchange the same energy.
2056
01:20:14,310 --> 01:20:16,385
I'm attracted
to you in many ways.
2057
01:20:16,537 --> 01:20:20,130
You know, I just feel like
it's not reciprocated.
2058
01:20:20,149 --> 01:20:22,632
You know, I have
to force you to want
2059
01:20:22,652 --> 01:20:26,728
To just not necessarily
be around me,
2060
01:20:26,881 --> 01:20:29,472
But to just [bleep] want me.
2061
01:20:29,492 --> 01:20:31,492
If it's a weekend,
you know what I'm saying,
2062
01:20:31,643 --> 01:20:32,827
I get parts of you.
2063
01:20:32,978 --> 01:20:35,054
I get a few hours.
2064
01:20:35,072 --> 01:20:36,664
But sometimes,
I want you the whole weekend.
2065
01:20:36,891 --> 01:20:38,891
And in your opinion,
that's smothering you.
2066
01:20:38,909 --> 01:20:40,650
- I have friends.
2067
01:20:40,670 --> 01:20:42,061
I would like
to hang out with them.
2068
01:20:42,079 --> 01:20:44,338
That's it.
2069
01:20:46,917 --> 01:20:50,235
- In my vows, I meant
that I wanted you to be free,
2070
01:20:50,254 --> 01:20:53,180
But I didn't mean free
as in living a single life
2071
01:20:53,332 --> 01:20:54,573
While you're married.
2072
01:20:54,666 --> 01:20:56,408
- I think we just have
two different perspectives
2073
01:20:56,427 --> 01:20:59,244
Of what is a single lifestyle
and what's not.
2074
01:20:59,263 --> 01:21:02,672
But for you to label me
as somebody who's not ready
2075
01:21:02,692 --> 01:21:05,526
To be married,
that's your opinion.
2076
01:21:05,677 --> 01:21:07,862
I just didn't picture marriage
to be like this.
2077
01:21:08,013 --> 01:21:10,347
I'm sorry, I didn't.
2078
01:21:10,366 --> 01:21:12,591
- What did you
picture marriage as?
2079
01:21:12,610 --> 01:21:14,276
- I told you, just fun.
2080
01:21:14,428 --> 01:21:17,020
Like, us still being
able to be ourselves
2081
01:21:17,039 --> 01:21:20,708
And do what we typically do,
just together, like teammates.
2082
01:21:20,859 --> 01:21:24,545
I'm not your opposition,
justin.
2083
01:21:24,696 --> 01:21:29,383
- It's just,
it was just different.
2084
01:21:29,534 --> 01:21:33,220
- ♪ I want some fire ♪
2085
01:21:36,541 --> 01:21:39,393
- ♪ just to feel ♪
2086
01:21:41,305 --> 01:21:42,879
- Look at her go!
2087
01:21:42,973 --> 01:21:45,958
- Still to come this season
on "married at first sight"...
2088
01:21:45,976 --> 01:21:47,809
[upbeat music]
2089
01:21:47,962 --> 01:21:50,220
- ♪ I'm gonna savor this ♪
2090
01:21:50,239 --> 01:21:51,463
- Aw.
2091
01:21:51,482 --> 01:21:53,240
- Thank you.
2092
01:21:53,467 --> 01:21:55,392
- You're a beautiful person.
I do love you.
2093
01:21:55,411 --> 01:21:56,744
And I just want you
to know that.
2094
01:21:56,895 --> 01:21:58,895
- ♪ goodness gracious ♪
2095
01:21:58,915 --> 01:22:01,564
- Oh, my god.
2096
01:22:01,584 --> 01:22:04,067
- Nice, damn!
2097
01:22:04,086 --> 01:22:05,978
- But you have not cheated?
- No, I have.
2098
01:22:05,996 --> 01:22:08,071
[music slows]
2099
01:22:08,090 --> 01:22:09,998
- I just hope
he doesn't resent me.
2100
01:22:10,151 --> 01:22:11,091
- [bleep] this.
- Yeah.
2101
01:22:11,243 --> 01:22:12,575
- [bleep] this marriage.
2102
01:22:12,595 --> 01:22:15,912
- My doubt is coming
from you, sadly.
2103
01:22:15,932 --> 01:22:17,322
- What woman
would sit here and say
2104
01:22:17,341 --> 01:22:18,657
This is not embarrassing?
2105
01:22:18,676 --> 01:22:19,767
This is horrible.
2106
01:22:19,994 --> 01:22:21,677
- Do you think I'm going
through the motions
2107
01:22:21,829 --> 01:22:24,012
When I have a [bleep] tattoo
on my hand?
2108
01:22:24,165 --> 01:22:28,258
- Do you feel, at this point,
that the marriage is over?
2109
01:22:28,277 --> 01:22:29,592
- He told me--he's like,
2110
01:22:29,612 --> 01:22:30,836
"I don't know.
I might be done."
2111
01:22:30,929 --> 01:22:32,446
- I just feel
like I was played.
2112
01:22:32,597 --> 01:22:35,432
- To be honest with you,
like, I don't love you.
2113
01:22:35,451 --> 01:22:37,267
- This is all
so blindsiding to me.
2114
01:22:37,286 --> 01:22:38,619
- Oh, my god!
2115
01:22:38,770 --> 01:22:41,013
- I'm trying so hard.
2116
01:22:41,031 --> 01:22:44,792
[sobbing]
2117
01:22:44,943 --> 01:22:47,019
- There's nothing else
I can do.
2118
01:22:47,037 --> 01:22:48,870
- I know exactly what
I'm gonna say.
2119
01:22:49,023 --> 01:22:50,539
- The damage is already done.
2120
01:22:50,691 --> 01:22:52,708
- I'm afraid to lose you,
for sure.
2121
01:22:52,860 --> 01:22:53,875
And I don't want to lose you.
2122
01:22:54,028 --> 01:22:56,195
- ♪ take me to the fire ♪
2123
01:22:56,213 --> 01:22:58,030
♪ burning ♪
2124
01:22:58,048 --> 01:23:00,290
- The time has come
for you to make a decision.
2125
01:23:00,309 --> 01:23:03,719
- ♪ fire ♪
2126
01:23:03,871 --> 01:23:07,648
- Do you want to stay married?
2127
01:23:07,799 --> 01:23:09,208
- Or get a divorce?
2128
01:23:09,226 --> 01:23:12,211
[dramatic music]
2129
01:23:12,229 --> 01:23:13,988
♪ ♪
2130
01:23:14,139 --> 01:23:17,825
- ♪ oh, fire ♪