- Hi. - Hi, there.
- Ten singles took a monumental leap of faith
In order to find love.
They married as complete strangers.
[cheering]
And in 3 1/2 weeks,
They'll have to decide whether they want
To stay married or get a divorce.
Last time, our couples explored each other's pasts
In hope that their futures would become clearer.
[upbeat music]
- We consummated the marriage, yeah.
- So that should make you feel more married, right?
- Yes.
- Does that make you feel more secure or less?
- More secure.
- You're gonna find a total babe
That you're gonna fall madly in love with.
I love you.
- I love you too. - Aw.
- You're the best. - Thanks.
You're the best too.
- I was harboring some anger to him
About how we started, still.
And I don't feel the anger anymore.
- Well, when I asked for help,
My brother would be like, "figure it out."
That was his go-to, "figure it out."
It trained my mind to get everything right.
- I think that helps me understand why
We don't think the same way and understand why
Some of our perspectives don't match.
- Every time I've opened up,
And every time I've shared something with you,
It's been used against me.
So I just don't feel comfortable giving you
Anything personal or deep anymore.
♪ ♪
- And tonight...
- What would you think if you caught me watching porn?
- Our couples must explore ways to go deeper
In order to form a foundation
Of trust and intimacy in their marriage.
- He needs a diaper. [baby crying]
- Checking the diaper. - Try the rocking next.
I can see that he's, like, natural,
And that he'll be a good baby daddy.
- Open wider. Why are you being scared?
- It's not a bad feeling, not being in control.
- We've kind of put the brakes on sex.
- But with intimacy comes fear.
And with decision day on the horizon,
Our couples will be put to the test
By exposing more vulnerability to their spouses.
- I sometimes question if I know you.
- Well, just sit the [bleep] down and just chill.
- It's gonna make me more frustrated
If you don't trust me.
- I've had to defend myself multiple times
Because of what binh has said.
- You were pretty vindictive, then?
Do you feel you're ready to be married
To justin in particular?
- I don't know. I don't think so.
- Yeah. - There it is.
[dramatic music]
- ♪ it's all or nothing ♪
- This is "married at first sight."
- ♪ there's no other way ♪
♪ it's all or nothing ♪
- ♪ me and my crew, although we made it there ♪
♪ we on top, we keep on pushing ♪
♪ bars are raising, we don't stop ♪
♪ no one can replicate the magic that we unlock ♪
♪ 'cause we on top ♪
- Oh, my gosh, this smells so good.
[gasps]
- I hope it is. - Holy--
- I hope it tastes as good as it smells.
- It has now been over five weeks
Since our couples met and married at first sight.
As they continue to form their new lives together,
It's important to strengthen their connection
By digging deeper into levels of trust and intimacy
In their marriage.
- So I do three sprays.
I do one, two, and then behind my neck.
I don't know why.
- So I've been told not to, like, do this.
- Why?
- I don't know. It does something to the--
- The hormones?
- This is just catching all the stuff that's, like,
Not really even attached to her.
You see that?
- We all must shed our earthly attachments.
- [laughs]
- Giving this accelerated process everything they've got
Can be raw and intense.
But with just under three weeks left
Until decision day,
It can be the difference between staying married
And getting a divorce.
[slow music]
- ♪ tell me, tell me, tell me, tell me ♪
♪ tell me, tell me, tell me, tell me what's different ♪
♪ ♪
- Hello.
- What up, shay?
- Luckily, in life, I do have a really--
Some really great female friends.
Shayna, she's my neighbor.
Over this pandemic, we hung out like every day
Because we were kind of in the same bubble.
She knows all the things about me
That might drive my wife crazy.
So I had a question.
Thought you'd be the one to get advice--
Or to give me good advice because you know what's up,
And you're a woman.
Me and krysten, you know,
We were off to a pretty good start,
Like, in terms of sex and physical intimacy.
And she--I guess I was a little too humorous
Or comedic in the bedroom.
Whatever I said or did, I actually don't even
Really remember because I was just--like,
I was just being me, I guess, you know what I mean?
So I don't actually remember what it was.
And she kind of, like, called me out on it.
And I feel like that actually affected me
More than I thought in that it kind of made me insecure.
And I kind of felt like I was put in a box a little bit,
And that, like, if we're being physically intimate,
I can only be certain ways, you know what I mean?
Like, everything has to be serious, or...
- Yeah, well, okay, I think that's really good advice.
I mean, I just want her to know that,
Like, what she said affected me a little bit
More than I thought.
So maybe we can find that medium ground,
You know what I mean?
Like, I'm sure she likes some playfulness
If it's the right kind of playfulness.
- But she doesn't want me to be, like, you know,
A stand-up comedian necessarily in the bedroom either.
- All right, good stuff.
That's why I wanted to call you.
[upbeat music]
[upbeat rock music]
- ♪ when I'm with you, when I'm with you ♪
♪ ♪
♪ nothing in the world's better ♪
♪ than when I'm with you ♪
♪ ♪
[knocking at door]
- Hello. - Hey.
- Oh, my god! - I love your outfit.
- Thank you. How are you?
- I come bearing gifts. I'm well.
- Oh, wow.
- We're bringing dr. Pia back
To follow up on her last visit
And to help our couples with trust and intimacy
In their marriages.
She has been brought up to speed on everything
That's going on in hopes
Of helping these spouses dive deeper
Into the issues and concerns that have been surfacing
As they navigate these last few weeks
Before decision day.
- Well, I just want to start with,
How have things been since we last met?
- I feel like the last time you saw us,
We were, like, kind of not so good.
But I think it was because, like, we were trying
To get through an obstacle.
- I'm doing things that are actionable steps
To showing my wife, stacia, that I'm trying,
And I'm getting deeper.
It's just like, what more can I prove
To you that, like, I'm all in?
- Do you feel like this is-- that argument was resolved?
- Um...
Kind of, sort of.
Because before you came, we talked about, okay,
What are some questions that we're gonna ask you?
Her number one question was, what are some tips
That you can give her to develop more trust?
- Mm.
- I want you to be able to articulate how you're having
A hard time trusting me.
I don't think you've ever done that before.
And I think the question is so important to you right now
Because the trust has, like, some sort
Of fuel meter, right, where right now,
I feel like I'm at 80%.
And you want to build it up to 100%.
Because I don't think of trust as,
What can I do better?
It's either I trust you or I don't.
You've got to be able to truly define
What your trust issue is in order to kind of come
To some resolve because it's gonna
Make me more frustrated over time
If you don't 100% trust me.
- I feel like there's not a lot of people that I can trust
Or rely on their word unless I can actually,
Like, fact check it.
So you might tell me, oh, the sky is blue.
And I'm like, if I can't fact check it,
If I can't see it myself, I'm not gonna believe it.
- Hmm.
- So it's not that it's him. It's--
- It's not personal to him. - It's me, yeah.
- So how about this,
Stacia, do you connect trust with control at all?
- Do I connect trust with control?
- Mm-hmm.
- Hmm, maybe.
I mean, it's like if I don't see it, then how do I know?
- Mm-hmm.
Part of increasing your trust with nate in particular,
I think, is going to be you allowing yourself
To relinquish some of this control.
- The control, mm-hmm.
- So I want you to come up with some type of activity
Where, stacia, you have to completely rely on nate.
You're not gonna know what's going on.
You're not going to be able to have any input on it.
You just have to go with the flow and trust
That your husband has your best intentions at heart.
All right, and it's gonna be really hard to do, right?
Because this is not who you are, right?
- Yeah, uh-huh.
- And I think, nate, that might kind of show and prove
To you that stacia's in this, and is committed,
And isn't looking at you like, "I don't trust you.
I'm not going to trust you."
And then I want you to have fun with these items
In your basket, all right?
- Yeah.
- Sounds like a good assignment.
- Right? - Yeah, yeah.
- As a single woman, I had to make sure I was
The one that I depended on.
And now, in a marriage, I'm not a single woman anymore.
So I don't always have to depend on myself.
I can depend on my husband.
And I need to be able to relinquish the control,
Give him the opportunity to lead,
And be able to trust him.
So it's gonna be very interesting.
[laughs]
- Well, I'm excited about the whole relinquishing control.
- [sighs]
It's gonna be a hard thing for me to do.
- Really? - But I'm gonna try.
- Trying is lying. You're gonna do it.
- Baby step. - You're gonna do it.
- Baby steps. I'll do it, baby steps.
- [chuckles]
[upbeat music]
- ♪ how do we stop the rain from falling? ♪
[upbeat music]
♪ and when do we admit that we're just pretending? ♪
- We do so much together, and you can't even let me
Have two hours with my friends on the weekend?
It's like, baby-- - you're married now.
- So?
- You have to have a balance in your old single life.
- In your opinion. - You ain't got that.
- In your opinion. - I'm not--
- I'm trying to balance with you,
But I don't feel like you're appreciating it.
- How are you trying to balance it?
- Because I come home early.
I don't stay out all night.
- But okay, okay--
- And then I don't go out two days--
I only go out once.
- You got to go out every weekend, though.
That's all I'm saying.
Like, it's a thing.
It is a thing.
- Remember in your vows, you were like,
"I want my wife to be free. I want her--"
- I want you to be free-- - "to still be herself--"
- But also, like, every weekend, though?
- And even in the beginning, you were like,
"that's okay, baby. That's fine."
No, I'm just challenging what you're saying.
- There's just got to be a balance, though.
- I only went out an hour and a half last weekend.
- But you went out, though.
- You're not finna smother me.
I'll tell you that much right now.
- I mean, I'm not trying to smother you.
But I'm just telling you-- - it feels very much like that.
- How am I smother--
- Because you're complaining about me going out
An hour and a half last weekend.
- But that's because you go out every weekend, though, baby.
- All right, honey, maybe we should talk to dr.--
- It's a partnership. - Pia about it.
- We can talk to her. - This is how I feel.
I'll tell you when she get here.
Never mind.
[knock at door]
[tense music]
- Oh, am I glad to see you.
- Hello. - How you doing?
- How are you? - I'm good.
- Hello. - Hi.
- Hi, how are you? - I'm so glad to see you.
- Okay, so where-- should we go--
- Let's go on the couch. - Over here?
- You can have a seat in this-- - all right, thank you.
All right.
- You need any water or anything?
- I think I'm okay for right now.
Thank you, though. - All righty.
- Okay. - Welcome to our home.
This is the first time you've been here.
- Yes, it is.
So what is going on?
I heard a lot of commotion from outside.
- Oh, no, it wasn't too bad.
- It wasn't too hectic, just me and justin talking.
- I'm country, and so I have a high pitch.
- It didn't sound like y'all were good.
- No, I mean, we just-- this is just how we talk.
- Okay.
- It was just a passionate conversation.
- Okay, anything that you want to talk about...
- Yes. - While I'm here?
Okay. - Yes.
- Go ahead, honey.
Let her know what you want to talk about.
- Okay, good, great.
So dr. Pia, I feel like in a marriage,
There's a balance.
What I have an issue with is,
She goes to the club every weekend.
Now, when she goes out, she's only going out
With her friends, but it's every single weekend.
And I said, "hey, babe, you don't have to stop,
But it can be a balance."
I look at it as a single lifestyle.
- So can I--can I just-- - yeah, go ahead.
- So that sounds great from his perspective.
And that sounds like, wow, he is a profound man.
He knows what he wants in this relationship.
And I respect that.
However, there's always two sides to a story.
- Mm-hmm.
- So I always, first and foremost,
Don't always go out to the club.
Sometimes it's brunch.
I just like hanging with my friends.
I have a large group of friends.
And they're like, "hey, let's do this, let's do this."
And my compromise has been, I'll go out with them
One day out of the weekend.
And it's usually for, like, two hours
Or something, once a week.
- But it's only-- - hey, hey.
You had your chance. - My bad, my bad.
- So it's just like, he's never said,
"hey, I want to do this with you,"
And I'm like, "no, I'm going out with my friends."
That's never happened. - And that's true, she's right.
- Why do you think that you have the desire,
In this very short amount of time,
To go out with your friends every weekend,
Even if it's not every single day?
- Because I spend so much time with him.
So to go from living alone, being independent,
Doing everything by yourself,
And doing everything with your own free will...
- Sure.
- To being with the same person,
A lot of the times, there has to be some balance.
That's extreme to expect somebody
To want to be with somebody 24/7
Who was a stranger two months ago.
- So your life is--
Life changes when you get married.
- I do. I get that.
- I don't understand, what was the point of you
Starting this process, then if--
- So, justin--
- Well, hold on. Let her fin--
- Everything was gonna be condensed.
- Hold on, let her finish her thought.
- I understood that I was gonna get married
To a stranger at first sight.
I did understand that.
I didn't think that it was gonna be like a,
It's either my husband's way or the highway.
- Okay.
Why did you get married?
- So I got married because I do want that partnership.
I do want that security. I do want all of those things.
But I remember my husband,
Me being so excited on the altar,
To where he's saying, "I want you to be free
"and do makes you happy and brings you joy,
But still also me be next to you."
And I feel like I'm telling him,
This is what brings me joy--
Spending time with my friends.
So for me to be with someone else for those two hours,
I feel like that's a bit controlling and manipulative.
- Mm-hmm.
- So that is an overwhelming and frustrating situation
Because it's just like, I don't know.
I can't commit to, at this point--
And if this is a deal breaker, I am sorry.
- That's cool.
- I cannot commit to being with somebody 24/7.
I need some of that independence back.
- Might we be hyperbolizing?
Because I don't think he's asking for 24/7.
He's asking for, why is it that every weekend,
You need to go out with your friends?
And I think I'm hearing from you, "listen,
"this is what it's gonna be.
"I'm gonna go out with my friends every weekend
For the rest of our marriage or until I see fit."
Is that kind of your stance?
- No, it's saying if I want to, I would like to do that.
And that's why I ask.
If he said no, I'd be like, okay.
- Why ask if you know that that's not what he wants?
- It's because I didn't know that.
That's what I'm saying. He's always--
- Until just now, you had no idea?
- Until this moment, because-- - so until now--
- Can I talk? - Yeah.
- Because this weekend--
Last weekend, he said, "oh, good.
I wanted some time to myself, anyway," when I went out.
So why would that make me think, oh, he wants time--
- What's the full context of that story?
- What is it? Tell me.
- Did I not mention-- I was like,
"dang, baby, this is the third week you went out."
You was like, "are you counting?"
Did you not say that?
- But the week before that, I went out with you.
And you were like, "I don't like this."
- No, no-- - and you said, baby--
- Baby, we went out the second...
- You said, "baby, I'ma give you that."
- We moved here.
- I want you to go out with your friends.
You told me that. - Okay, flag on the play.
- This is unreal.
- So let's table the idea of, like, 24/7,
Whatever the case may be.
So let me ask you this,
Why do you feel that you're ready to be married,
And that you want to remain married?
- Because it's just like, I wouldn't be trying this hard.
This is not who I am.
Like, I am a committed person.
I'm a loyal person.
But I typically--if it doesn't bring me peace,
And I'm frustrated, and it's just something
That's continual, I'm out.
So for me, that commitment alone,
I feel like that's why I'm ready to be married.
Like, I'm really just like--
- Do you feel you're ready to be married
To justin in particular?
- Ugh, I don't--I don't know.
I don't think so. - There it is.
[dramatic music]
♪ ♪
What was it like just now, justin, for you
To hear your wife say that she does not feel ready
To be married to you?
- I had my mind made up.
I called her and texted.
I was like, "yo, I'm putting you as my beneficiary."
You know what I'm saying? Like, I'm moving.
Like, I want this.
But I'm not trying to be an option.
Because like I told her, I value her, and she's a catch.
But I also make it clear, I'm a catch too,
You know what I'm saying?
And I don't want to be treated as an option.
- I am trying so hard... - And I appreciate--
- I try so hard-- - let me--
- With--no.
- Let me say real quick-- - I try so hard with this man.
Like, everything that I don't typically do,
I've done in this marriage.
My [bleep] dog, newton, that is the best thing
That has ever happened to me in my life.
- And my dog isn't.
- And his dog attacked-- and I still was just like,
I'm gonna stay.
Like, everything that this man is throwing at me,
I have stayed and gave it my all.
- And he gave up--
His dog's not here right now, right?
- Thank you, right? - So you both made sacrifices.
- And I'm not saying he hasn't. - Okay.
- But it's just like, at what point is alexis allowed to be,
Like, I'm exhausted?
At what point?
- I hear you. This sounds exhausting.
I'm exhausted hearing this, so I can only imagine what
This is like for y'all, if this is repetitive,
A pattern, right?
- It is.
- The goal for today is to talk about trust and intimacy.
Like, how can we build intimacy?
How can we establish or work on trust when, like,
This is sort of what's happening every day?
And I'm curious, like, is this part
Of the barrier to being sexually intimate
With one another?
- Mm.
- Alexis, why do you think that you guys haven't had sex yet?
- Right now, if I'm being honest and transparent,
I feel like this conversation
Is very inconducive
To my mental health, and it's overbearing.
And I'm not a fan of it right now
Because of unrealistic expectations
On what it takes to be a wife to a stranger within a month.
- So wait, let's go back.
Because you said something pretty important.
You said this conversation is not conducive
To your mental health.
- No.
- How is your mental health suffering right now?
This is important. - I feel isolated.
I feel alone. I feel unheard.
I feel dismissed by both of you.
- Mm-hmm.
- The fact that because I want to hang out
With my friends for two hours once a week,
I'm all of a sudden an unfit wife,
Is obscene.
- Where are you hearing that? - Actually obscene.
- Where did you hear that you're an unfit wife?
- So for me to not want to spend time with my husband
All the time, that's what I'm hearing.
At any point during this conversation,
There's never been a solution to, hey,
Maybe twice a month with your friend--there's never
Been anything other than, this is why you are not
Correct, alexis.
- So I think that we didn't get to a part of,
Like, what's the compromise
Because we were trying to understand--
- And then we switched to intimacy and trust--
- Why is this an issue?
- And this is not even a conversation.
So we're gonna go to bed mad about a conversation
That was never solved.
- That's not why we're gonna go to bed mad.
You basically just said you don't want
To be married to me.
You don't think that [bleep] hurt?
- I'm sorry if I hurt your feelings, justin, genuinely.
- And I appreciate that, but you said it already.
- I know. I know, husband.
I do know I said that. - Got it.
- Justin, you took your ring off.
- Mm-hmm. - Did you see that, alexis?
- I'm not surprised.
- But do you know why I took the ring off?
- Why did you take the ring off, justin?
- Because of that comment.
You basically just told me that you don't think
You're ready to be married to me.
You're ready to be married. - I know.
And that's a negative thing, right?
- And you don't--like, that affected my emotions.
- I understand that. And I'm just telling my truth.
That's it. - So that hurt you...
- Hell yeah, that hurt. - When she said that?
- Mm-hmm.
- And you knew if you took your ring off, that would hurt her?
♪ ♪
It's symbolic.
You taking your ring off, right,
Is an act of, that's what you felt like you
Needed to do in the moment.
That is something that, when we're married, right,
We don't get to just decide, oh, I'm just--
I'm not married right now.
That pissed me off, so I'm taking my ring off.
Because the ring is a-- - it was--
- Hold on, hold on. - All right, sorry.
- The ring is a symbol of your marriage, right?
- Mm-hmm. - Okay.
And so in that moment, you took your ring off
To symbolize how you were feeling.
- I guess.
- Because you felt hurt.
You felt like in that moment, she told you she's not
Ready to be married to you.
So you--all right, I'm taking my ring off.
- The way I took it is that, like,
That was her answer.
- I need you to understand that just because I said,
I don't know if I'm ready to be married to you particularly,
That doesn't mean that I'm not gonna continue to try.
That just means that I don't know
If I'm ready to continue in the state
That we are in for the rest of my life.
[soft music]
- So you're willing to try? - Yes.
- You're not-- even though you're not yet
Ready to be married to him,
You're willing to continue trying...
- Yes.
- To make the relationship work?
- Yes. - Justin, do you buy that?
♪ ♪
- I mean, actions speak louder than words.
- So I think that she's hearing that as, the only action
You have to look at is that she's gone to the club,
Or she spends time with her friends.
And that's indicative to you of her not trying?
- It's not that I don't want her
To spend time with her friends.
But, like, I ain't gon' force her
To spend time with me, you know what I'm saying?
Her friends come first.
She gon' hang out with her friends regardless.
- Baby, why are you saying that?
- She's gonna do it.
- How do you say that when I-- you never even--
There's never been an opportunity for me to say--
Baby, you never said no.
- And if I had said no, what would you have said?
- I'm staying home.
You haven't even given me that option.
- You mentioned that you feel
Rejected when she does this.
And I'm curious if it's hard for you to be direct with her
Because there's a fear of rejection.
You feel that she's being disrespectful
And not sort of hearing what makes you feel uncomfortable
And changing her behavior--
- Specifically for that, yeah.
- Now you're in a marriage,
Might your behavior need to change--might both
Of your behaviors need to change because you're
No longer single people?
[dramatic music]
♪ ♪
- ♪ today's the day I've been waiting for ♪
♪ ♪
♪ waiting for ♪
- I just feel like there's nothing that,
Like, we can't overcome.
Like, I know it's really cheesy, but--
- No, it's true.
- I mean, it's just gonna be like,
[bleep], throw it at us.
- Lindy and miguel are in such a great spot
With their trust and intimacy.
However, because they haven't dealt with any major problems
Or challenges in their relationship,
They have no idea about how they're going to work together
To handle conflict, which of course arises
In every marriage.
And with decision day on the horizon,
We're hoping to expedite things for them.
So we're sending them an intimacy exercise
And a special delivery.
- Oh, my god, it's a little--
- It's a little brown baby! - A little brown baby.
[both laughing]
- Taking care of this lifelike baby
Will give this couple a glimpse of what their future may hold.
- I like how the baby's just, like, chilling.
- I know.
[upbeat music]
Wow.
That really kind of is what our baby might look like.
Do we have to turn it on or something?
- I don't know. Where are the instructions?
- Dude, it's [bleep] lifelike.
Watch there be another one in here, like, surprise!
You had twins!
- Damn, we're really popping them out.
- [laughs]
Ooh, this is the bottle and a bib.
- Aw, little feet. - Oh, my gosh.
[laughter]
Look at the little, chubby cheeks!
It looks like you.
[laughter]
- Little brown baby.
- Okay, so we're naming him migindy?
- Migindy?
Migindy heather...
- [laughing] - elloway santiago.
- I love it.
- Let's see--that's if it cries, then we do that.
- "touch the key card id to the baby..."
- Right. - "when it cries."
- Right. - So it hasn't cried yet.
- Yeah, it's just chilling. - [gasps]
Did its arm just move, or did you do that?
Oh, my god.
No, that scared me.
- [laughs]
- Don't--dude, you're freaking me out.
- I was actually excited to get migindy.
I know it's a fake baby,
But it's our first kind of experience
Into parenting together.
So just looking forward to it.
I really want to be a good dad.
I hope it happens sooner than later.
♪ ♪
- All right, let's do our intimacy exercises.
We're gonna kind of test the limits
Of our intimacy and kind of challenge each other.
And our baby is also here today.
That's how you get a straight love tower.
Where'd the one that went go?
[snorts] thanks, migindy.
You're so helpful.
♪ ♪
Okay, you go first.
- Actually, let's go...
"what bedroom activity do you want to try with me?"
- [whispers] I cannot.
- [laughs]
- Can you cover migindy's ears?
Yeah, I don't want him to hear.
Why don't we do
Some chocolate-covered strawberries in the bed--
[laughter]
♪ ♪
Yeah, you know, just a little bit of food?
- Yeah, yeah, I'm down. That sounds fun.
- Great, all right, next.
- Your turn. - Okay, me.
- "take a body shot."
- [laughs] what?
I've never done this.
- But yeah, so let's hide migindy.
- Oh, put the margarita mix in there.
I'm not a party girl.
Label me what you want, but I am not a party girl.
I've never done a body shot.
Like, I'm a mother now to this robot baby.
And I have a reputation to uphold.
♪ ♪
- I'm just--I just lay here like this.
- Oh, my gosh.
Okay, wait, so how do I do it?
- You bite the shot glass and then chuck it back.
- Like, without my hands?
- Yeah, without your hands.
Nice.
- I mean, I didn't even know that was something
That needed to be checked off.
But check, body shot, done, done, and done.
- "gaze into each other's eyes for two minutes.
What thoughts come up--"
- One minute.
♪ ♪
No, don't you do it.
Don't you-- [laughs]
♪ ♪
- What thoughts came up?
- Wedding day, for sure.
- Right? Me too.
It kind of reminded me of that.
You did, like, this cute little, like--
Yeah, you were doing that on the wedding day a lot.
It was so cute. I was so nervous.
- What we have is real.
I don't know, it's just-- like, we're both
Very comfortable with each other.
We both are, like--are putting each other first.
And we feel very safe and secure with what we have.
- "why marry a stranger?"
- Well, because the way I looked at it
Is like, if there was a 1% chance at finding this,
Why not, right?
Like I said, like, I'm living my best love story.
- Oh, that's beautiful. That's nice.
So sweet.
[upbeat music]
- I hope you find our chair... - Comfy?
- Comfortable. - It is.
- All the experts seem to love it.
- Good, good.
Well, how have things been since I last saw you all?
- I think they've been pretty good.
- Yeah? - It's all a blur for us.
- Yeah, everything's on fast forward, right?
- Yeah. - Okay.
I'm curious, how do you guys feel that the trust is
In the relationship?
- I feel like we have really good trust.
- Yeah, I feel like we trust each other.
[soft music]
I mean, despite any of, like, the conflicts we've had,
I feel like from the very beginning,
We kind of made it clear, like, hey, listen, this is crazy,
And we don't even know each other,
But we did this, and we're married now.
- Right.
- Let's just have each other's back.
Like, I mean, I trust you. - Yeah.
- I think she's got my back. - Okay.
So can we explore some of that a bit today?
Okay, like, you guys have got a strong foundation,
And you're committed to this process.
And you're eager to learn and, like, do the work
To make it work, if you will.
- Mm-hmm.
- So I'm wondering if we can switch gears
A little bit right now and give y'all
Some more data for one another to dig a little bit deeper...
- Sure. - By playing a little game.
All right, so I've got these little stack of cards here.
I'm gonna go ahead and set these in the middle for y'all.
- "who is your childhood hero or hero-ine?"
Heroine?
Heroine. - [laughs]
- I mean, I was so into all those action movies
Where it's just the buff dude as the hero.
- Okay.
- I just love that, the hero--
You know, the hero saving the day.
- What's the why?
- [exhales sharply]
Cultural conditioning?
I don't know. I had an active imagination.
And so I would watch those movies,
And I used to write stories that were the same,
But the hero was maybe me.
And I was, like, a knight, and I had to fight monsters.
- So there's a strong desire for you to be
A protector and a savior.
- I guess so. When I was a kid, yeah.
- Fair enough. What about for you, krysten?
- Oh, mine is easy. My mom.
My mom is a baddie.
She went through a period where she was raising me
And my sisters as a single mom.
And she didn't come from much.
She is a cuban immigrant.
And she came to this country with nothing,
And just really worked her way up,
And is now, like, very high up at her company,
And extremely wealthy in many, many ways,
Not just financially.
And yeah, she's--
- But she--not to challenge what she--but did you feel
That way when you were a kid?
Because the question is, what was your childhood hero?
- Yes, I did. - Okay, cool.
- What was that, krysten?
What just came up there?
- I just--like, why are you challenging me on that?
- I just thought it was a good question.
Because you were talking about how--
Where your mom is now a little.
Because you added some present tense
To your mom, so that's why.
- What did you feel?
- I just--when somebody answers a question,
You don't--
Especially about their childhood hero,
You don't question it.
I just want you to say,
"that sounds amazing.
What a great story."
But he doesn't say that.
- ♪ lately I been thinking ♪
♪ all these foolish things ♪
He says, "are you answering the question correctly?"
It was vulnerable for me to share that.
- Yeah.
- And it was surprising to hear that that's his response.
♪ ♪
- I can tell your mom is very special to you.
- It took a lot for me to share that.
- Mm-hmm.
- [sniffles]
- Sorry, I just didn't pick up on that at all, I guess.
- It sounds like mitch's question felt like,
To you, a challenge.
- Yeah.
My only sensitive subject is my family.
And you just-- even if you don't think
It's gonna be a cross, I'm gonna take it as a cross.
- I think maybe you thought I was,
Like, questioning your mom, and I really wasn't.
It had nothing to do with that at all.
I'm guilty of getting in my own head.
And I kind of just didn't realize
How sensitive that was at all.
And I just kind of jumped in with my [bleep], basically.
And that was not the best way to do that.
- Well, see?
Y'all just owned your [bleep]. You worked through it.
And let's go ahead and pick another card.
- "what kind of person do you think
Our children will become?"
So this is specifically if I'm thinking of our children?
- What other children would you be thinking about?
- Yeah, I don't know. I just wanted to clarify.
Don't bite my head off, please.
- Yes. - All right.
- I think our children would be really awesome, actually.
I think they'd have a really strong sense
Of knowing that they're loved.
But I also think that we would probably run
Kind of a tight ship.
- They're gonna get both the rule follower
And the rebel.
- So speaking of kids, tell me,
How is the sex life going?
- Do you want me to go, or you want to go?
- You can go.
- So we've kind of put the brakes
On sex for a couple weeks, I'd say.
[tense music]
We were getting physical,
And I started getting too funny.
And she reacted, and didn't like that,
And kind of, like, put the kibosh on it.
- Do either of you feel comfortable sharing
What that was?
- I might.
I don't really remember what it was.
It was just all-- - do you remember, krysten?
- I remember.
I would like to respect my husband
And not share it unless he--
- No, no, I think I'll appreciate that.
- Yeah.
I'm thinking that the jokes
Don't really have anything to do with me.
He is funny.
But when he gets nervous, he starts to joke a lot.
And it is a little much for me.
I do get a little tired.
And I just don't think it's a time for laughing in any way.
- Is humor something that you use when you're feeling
Uncomfortable or insecure?
- Yeah, but it's also something I use
When I feel comfortable and secure.
A lot of areas where I find humor in the world
Is something that's really built up to be something,
But the reality is that it's not.
So sex is a good example because it's built up
So much in popular culture.
And in the movies, it's only perfect.
There's no funniness. There's nothing--
- I see. - There's nothing that's--
- Nothing goes wrong. - Nothing goes wrong.
- And it's not funky. - Nothing's weird.
And so in my real life, sex is and has been awkward.
It's been funny.
It's been weird sounds.
It's been human fluids.
It's just--there's so much, you know what I mean?
Like, it's everything.
- What you said, maybe it would have been
Well received from a married couple...
- Ten years later. - Ten years from now.
- Exactly.
- But this is, like, a very fragile,
New, stranger marriage.
- Mm.
- And then honestly, last week,
When we were intimate emotionally was,
In my opinion, our best week.
So I would love to have the emotional intimacy
And the trust match--
Like, kind of be on a similar page
As to where sex is as well.
- What do you need for that to happen?
- If I had the mitch I had last week for more than one week,
I feel like I would fully, fully be
Where I need to be to feel safe and feel comfortable.
- Can you be specific? Who was mitch last week?
- Mitch last week was attentive, vulnerable, open.
Anything I did last week, not one of them
Set him off into a mitch-ism.
- Hmm.
- For me, I would want a little more consistency
And a few more good weeks before feeling comfortable
To be intimate again.
[soft music]
- ♪ this time, we're gonna get it right ♪
[upbeat music]
♪ ♪
- Oh, my gosh.
♪ ♪
Wait, where's the baby gonna sleep?
Are you gonna cuddle it all night?
I'm gonna-- what if I roll over onto it?
That's dangerous. - I know.
- That's so cute.
Are you gonna cuddle it more than me?
- [laughs] - I'm already jealous.
Cuddle me.
♪ ♪
All right--
- I'm getting ready for when it's the real thing.
- Miguel's a natural with migindy.
He's very loving and just--
I can see that he'll be good baby daddy.
It's sweet because he's, like, letting me know,
Like, I am excited.
Like, let's take this seriously,
Which is definitely something I've asked for.
I want to start a family.
And I'm so excited to know that that's something
That's important to him as well.
- Ah.
- Oh, my god, you broke his neck.
[laughter]
- That's what--ow!
Oh, he takes after his mom.
- He's got neck pain already.
[baby fussing]
- Where's the thingy?
[baby crying] - oh, my god.
[upbeat music]
♪ ♪
- Could be the diaper.
- Try the rocking next or burping.
♪ ♪
Is that too hard?
Okay, now try rocking it.
[beep]
[baby crying]
- The [bleep] was that?
[baby slurping]
- Oh, there you go, nice.
- Did I do it? - Yeah.
- I think it's just glitching.
♪ ♪
Why does it sound so weird?
- It's drinking.
- Oh, it's drinking.
I get it.
I'll actually be breastfeeding, though.
- You want to practice that?
[laughter]
- ♪ I'm hoping it's forever ♪
♪ oh, this feels like, oh ♪
- How do we play? We just take turns?
- I think so, yeah.
- While most of our couples have already met with dr. Pia,
We've also sent along exercises to help them
Discuss topics that most couples tend to avoid.
- All right, let's get into it.
- Honest communication is crucial for building
Trust and intimacy,
Which leads to a healthy marriage.
Hopefully, these questions would
Help them see if there's any red flags or deal breakers
In their relationships.
Because in just under three weeks,
They are gonna be making the biggest decision
Of their lives.
- "what would you think if you caught me watching porn?"
If I caught you watching porn?
- I mean, that would be the more likely scenario, anyways.
- "what part of your body do you like touched the most?"
[upbeat music]
- That part. - Oh, [bleep], okay.
- [laughs]
- "what is the toughest experience you've had
To overcome in your life?
Why?"
[baby fussing] - oh, it's starting again.
[baby wailing] - oh, god!
He hates me!
Miguel!
- "do you prefer routine or spontaneity
In regards to sex?"
- I do not like routine sex.
Yeah, I don't want to be, like, writing on a calendar,
Monday, Wednesday...
- That's boring.
[baby wailing] - oh, my god, make it stop.
♪ ♪
Jesus.
"what's the toughest experience?"
[bleep] this one.
♪ ♪
- "what is the toughest experience you have had
To overcome in your life?"
That's heavy.
Or not heavy, that's just a--
You know, lot to think about.
After my dad died,
And I decided to move down here,
I tried to start a sunscreen business for surfers
In a non-plastic packaging.
And I just put a lot of work into it,
And it never came to fruition.
And when I finally gave up on it,
I went through a time of, like, really low low,
Like, just very depressed and feeling like a failure.
Like, in retrospect, it all led me to where I am,
But I didn't know how to deal with that, so...
- I'm sorry. I didn't know that.
Well, I think that it's really brave
Of you to try something,
And that just because it didn't work out,
It doesn't make you a failure.
- Thanks. Yeah, I know.
I mean, that's the thing, it was like I learned
So much from that.
And it's what got me over the limit to, like,
Make me start volunteering
And just doing the stuff that I do...
- Yeah, exactly.
- Doing the stuff that I get paid to do now.
- Right.
- That was where I started the training.
- Yeah.
Okay, we got a fun one.
"what is your favorite sexual position and why?"
- [laughs]
- I guess I read it, so I'll go first--doggy style!
♪ ♪
Because it's obvious. It feels good.
[laughter]
- I think I like that position too.
- Perfect.
- There's a lot of reasons, though.
- Oh? Please share them with me.
- Let's just say it's a good ending position for me.
- I don't even know what that means.
- It means I'll have an orgasm.
It just puts me in a lot of control.
And I kind of like, you know--
- Okay.
- Like, do exactly what feels good for me.
And apparently, it feels good for you too, hopefully.
- Do you like to be in control?
- I like to be in control,
But I also like to be out of control.
I like both.
I don't think I'm
A super dominant sex partner necessarily.
I like the different roles.
- Oh?
- I like it when you're on top too.
- Okay.
- Because it's like, I don't have to do as much.
And that's also really great, to be, like, pampered
Or whatever, you know?
So yeah.
- I'm gonna say thank you for sharing.
- "how do you like to be held?
Show me."
- All right, let's get into it.
This is the last question, so let's just go all out.
- Talking about sex and talking about physical intimacy is--
I think it's good.
It's kind of building us back up to that point.
Am I doing it right?
[laughter]
I just think that when we are back in that situation,
And we are excited, all of these conversations
Will help just make that much easier and more natural.
How much is this, like, just wanting to be a baby again?
[in baby voice] mama, mama.
- Just don't start sucking on my nipple
Or anything please.
- ♪ we slowing down, nothing in our way, yeah ♪
[upbeat music]
- ♪ we'll be spending our cash ♪
♪ blowing it all on the things that don't last ♪
♪ so I can buy whatever I spy ♪
♪ I feel a storm coming tonight ♪
♪ ♪
- You ready for this?
- No.
- I'm sure there's going to be a lot of questions.
- I don't know.
- It's been a couple of days since I've seen morgan.
She's been at home. I definitely feel bad.
I definitely did lie to her face.
Like, that's the truth.
She has every right to feel a type of way about it.
So I'm looking forward
To the conversation with dr. Pia
And maybe trying to make amends.
[knock at door]
Hey, dr. Pia, how you doing? - Hello.
- Hi, how are you? - Good, how you doing?
- Good to see you. - Good to see you too.
- Hi. - Hi, nice to see you again.
- Likewise.
All right. Coming from work?
- Yeah, I just got off of work.
- Okay, long day. - Ran over here.
- All right, well,
How have things been since I last saw you all?
- It's disappointing. - Yeah.
- What feels disappointing about it for you, morgan?
- Just coming into this, I was very hopeful.
And I really did want, like, a partner.
I always get emotional talking about this.
I hate it.
I asked for, like, a partner or, like, a best friend.
And I've been in defense mode this entire time.
- Yeah.
What do you think has set you up
To be as defensive as you are?
- He's really attacked my character
This entire time, behind my back primarily,
Which is the frustrating thing.
Like, I would expect, like, a partner and a husband
To have your back.
And he never has.
Even if it's, like, his fault,
He'll say half truths just to make sure people
Still accept him and like him.
And I have to defend myself because people are
Only hearing what binh tells them.
- She's kind of saying that, like,
You were pretty vindictive then?
[dramatic music]
- Could you explain vindictive?
Because... - Like, so what I'm...
- That seems malicious.
- Hearing from her is-- yeah, that's what I'm hearing,
That you purposely told untruths about her.
How do you expect someone to react to you?
- Aggressively, aggressively.
And calling me out aggressively.
- You expected--
- I expect-- I guess I expect it, yeah.
- Why not address her directly?
- I was scared. - Of?
- I guess the uncomfortable conversation.
- It almost sounds like you're feeling, like,
Maybe intimidated by morgan.
Is that true?
- I don't--
I'm honestly-- just this conversation
With her is scary for me.
Like, she has the same temperament as my dad.
And my dad was always hard on me.
So like, it's kind of like, it triggers me.
- Is there a way that morgan could have
Addressed you differently?
- Yeah, if somebody calls me out, like,
I would like it to be, like, the same tone
That we're speaking, I guess,
In a constructive criticism type of way.
- I mean, I do understand that maybe I could have created,
Like, a safer space for him.
Maybe it's the tone that I use.
Maybe it's the verbiage that I use.
Maybe there's something different I could have said.
But this has been happening from essentially day one.
So I don't know how differently I could have been
To make you not lie to me.
- I should have came to morgan like, hey,
I don't like this tone.
But obviously, what happened was me hiding
From my problems, which I, in retrospect,
Looking in the mirror, I've done a lot in my life.
But basically, I'm just running away.
[soft music]
- So where do you guys feel like you go from here?
You said you've run from a lot of things in your life.
Why not fight?
Is there a way to heal between the two of you?
♪ ♪
- I don't know if it's that he just
Doesn't understand the full extent
Of the hurt and the pain.
I just--I'm not sure why I haven't
Gotten that genuine apology.
- Binh, do you think that you're not understanding?
- Not--I understand.
I just don't know--
I guess I don't know how to--
Besides saying, like, I'm-- so I would say--like,
I'll apologize for hurting her, all those emotions,
The backstabbing.
Apology besides words, I'm not--like,
I feel like it would have to be more action-based.
But I don't know even how to do that.
- What action are you thinking?
- Like, a--I don't know.
A massage, and then, like, saying sorry.
- Do you notice she's shaking her head no?
- Yeah, so I'm not gonna-- I'm gonna stop.
- Can you empathize with what it must feel like to feel
Hurt, sad, and backstabbed?
- Yeah, yeah, absolutely.
- What feeling do you have in this moment, like, hearing--
- Guilt, guilt. - What she feels--guilt.
Would you be able to accept a full apology?
- Mm-hmm. - Yeah.
- Yeah, you know, like,
That's the one real thing that, like, I do need.
- Yeah.
- And that would really show me that you're starting to,
Like, really, really own up to everything,
That you've really understood that your actions have
Caused this and the pain.
I'm waiting to really feel those emotions from you.
Because you're like-- and if I went over the x, y,
And the z--like, I'm waiting for you to be like,
"god, I'm just, like, so sorry."
You say you feel guilty,
But I don't feel that you feel guilty.
I don't feel anything from you.
I feel nothing from you.
♪ ♪
- So if I take my time... - You still don't fully--
- And apologize, and be emotional,
That would be a step in the right direction?
- It would.
- Okay.
- Well, and I think part of it is, like,
Trust isn't gonna happen overnight, right?
- Mm-hmm.
- Even if you do forgive him, you're not--
It's gonna take time.
That's one of the things about trust, is taking time.
I think I just saw something different
In that you all were opening up, perhaps,
A bit more to each other.
Like, the tone was matched.
It seemed a little more calmer.
And if there's room for continued conversations
Like that to happen, to work toward building trust--
- This is probably at least a step in the right direction.
But I know there's a lot more that I need to do.
- Yeah.
- It's tough for me to articulate my words
And say the right things.
I just--like, I want her to be happy.
I don't want to say the wrong things.
Yeah, I mean--yeah, so--
I think if we don't stay together,
It would be devastating.
♪ ♪
I have a lot of things to work on.
♪ ♪
- ♪ maybe, maybe this time, we gon' get it right ♪
♪ I'ma get it right ♪
- The thing I'm working hardest to change
Is how I respond to you.
How about you?
- How I make you feel.
It's important that you feel secure,
That you feel confident, not isolated.
That's big to me.
- So since it's been brought up--
- Oh, [bleep].
- In your vows, that was one thing
That I got really excited about.
I don't know if you noticed. - Mm-hmm.
- Is when you said, allow you to be free and be yourself.
Now that I feel like you're being challenged in that way,
You're not putting your money where your mouth is.
[tense music]
- When I say, you know, I want you to be free, meaning like,
I still want you to be true to yourself,
But not necessarily forget me.
I still want you to go, and have fun,
And do your thing, but have a balance to it,
Not forget that I'm still in the picture.
I still want you to live your life,
But also recognize that you're married.
- I've done that on every occasion.
I just wanted some clarity on what free looks like to you
Because I'm not a homebody.
- My fun and your fun is different, you know?
I think it's okay to just sometimes just sit
The [bleep] down and just chill, watch tv,
Not go nowhere, you know what I'm saying?
Enjoy just being at home and not doing nothing,
Letting your body rest.
- I think you underestimate the turn up.
Because I can turn up Monday through Friday,
And I choose not to at this point.
- Maybe I do, but--
- I think you're underestimating it.
Because if I wanted to go out Tuesday through Saturday,
I could, and still wake up and be on time for work.
- Okay.
- You got the last one.
- "what upsets you most in a relationship?"
- Um... - Everything about me, huh?
- Not--when you're not honest or--when you're not yourself.
Like, you're not transparent.
I sometimes question if I know you.
- Really? - A lot.
- The [bleep]? How?
- Just because of that--
I don't have that security that I know you're gonna back me,
Like that I did in the honeymoon.
I just think the overall feeling and that support,
Knowing you got my back, has dissipated
Somewhere along the way.
And I hope that it is regained.
- I feel like you don't understand me.
That [bleep] is frustrating.
You say you do,
But I feel like a lot of times, you don't.
I feel like you don't get me.
♪ ♪
[upbeat music]
♪ ♪
- ♪ today, my day, staying there for hours ♪
- Luna, we're gonna have to put you somewhere.
I don't think you can participate.
You're gonna get super jealous if you're just
Watching us touch each other.
Hey, babe, are you ready?
- Yeah, are you ready for me?
- Yeah, I'm warming up.
I'm doing my-- [laughs]
I'm warming up for you.
- Oh, my.
Dr. Pia's given us an exercise,
And it's about exploring each other's bodies
Without words or jokes.
I think it's really great to be intimate
Without being intimate and seeing what we like
And what we don't like with touch, sensation,
And...
Touch.
[laughs]
[laughter]
- I'm open to this being a good thing for us.
It's kind of like a way to be intimate and physical,
But without the pressure of sex, and performance,
And whatever that means, so that's good.
So I think that's coming at the right time.
- I like that.
- ♪ I know what you came for ♪
♪ I know what you came for ♪
- That tickles.
- ♪ and it's about to go down ♪
♪ I want you, one more... ♪
- I like that.
This is exactly what we needed.
I think that there could be a balance in the bedroom.
And I'm feeling like I am on the verge
Of being comfortable to get physical again.
I think we should do stuff like this more often.
- Yeah. - Maybe dr. Pia has more ideas.
- I got more ideas.
- [laughs]
[upbeat music]
- ♪ they say I'm dreaming, but I know this is ♪
♪ this is for real ♪
- This is pretty.
- So much of stacia's life is about her being in charge.
But this is creating trust issues in her marriage.
With decision day coming up, we're hoping
That she'll benefit from relinquishing control
So that she can trust nate
To take the lead some of the time.
- Welcome to my sex dungeon.
- It smells good in here. - Look at this.
- For this exercise, we really need nate to take the lead.
And hopefully, they'll have some fun too.
- There's actually whipped cream and strawberries.
Oh, [bleep], what is this?
Oh, my. Have you used one of those?
- Never.
- [laughs]
- And then what is this?
- [bleep] ring. - [bleep] ring, okay.
- Want to try and light this?
I think this is body wax.
[soft music]
- I want to see this thing. - I like this.
- "the screaming o."
- You gonna put that on your tongue?
- Yeah.
♪ ♪
Whoa.
- That's so crazy.
♪ ♪
Wow.
♪ ♪
I need you to try that somewhere else.
[laughter]
I do have prior trust issues coming into the marriage.
You know, I don't want that
To basically show up in the marriage.
I want to be proactive.
♪ ♪
- Perfect.
♪ ♪
[laughs]
Get that up a little bit.
- It's definitely building trust because I would
Not do this with anybody else.
Oh, my god, I've never done this.
- How you feeling over there?
- I feel like I am relinquishing my control.
- I got you.
Open your mouth.
- What do you mean, open my mouth?
- Open wide. - Wait.
- Say, ah. - Wait.
- Ah. - Come on now.
- Open. - Come on.
- Open.
I'm gonna put something in your mouth.
- Put something? - Yeah, open up.
Open wider.
Why you being scared?
[can spraying]
Hold on, hold on.
One more, ah.
[laughter]
Bruh, why you spit it out like a little baby?
[laughter]
Eat it.
♪ ♪
- What is going on right now?
Wait, wait, wait. - Nope.
- Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait.
- No, no, no waiting.
- Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, what are you doing?
- What?
You can't go nowhere. - Oh, my god.
Oh, my gosh. Come on now.
Wait--oh. Oh, my god.
[laughs] wait, hold on.
- I feel like it's about to be real freaky in here.
- Oh, you like this?
Okay, sir, okay.
♪ ♪
- A little swing? Oh, yeah.
I need you closer.
- Like that? - Yeah, a little bit closer.
That's perfect.
[whispering] like that.
- This just got way out of control.
♪ ♪
- ♪ yeah, spiders, snakes, airplanes ♪
♪ lose it all and watch his circle drain ♪
♪ seeing someone that you love in pain ♪
- Justin? - Yes?
- When painful things are said in a relationship,
It can be difficult for a couple to get
Back to the place of intimacy.
- Look at this, okay.
- We believe that alexis wants to salvage the marriage.
But taking the first step isn't always easy.
So we've assigned them an exercise that will help her
To become more vulnerable in hopes of reigniting
That spark we know they still have.
- Let me taste this drink. How you doing?
You look good. - Thank you.
- Damn, you look good.
- Thank you.
So I don't know if you noticed, but there's a pole over there.
[upbeat music]
I am doing this because we've struggled with--
Well, I've struggled with intimacy.
And I just kind of want to break the ice,
Have, like a good, romantic, sexy night.
- Ooh, okay. - Ooh.
- All right now.
Decision day is approaching.
I mean, my feelings for alexis--
I care about her. I care about how she feels.
I care about my marriage.
And she's doing it for me, so I'm with it.
If she with it, then let's get it.
- All righty, let's see.
♪ ♪
- Let's go!
- ♪ oh, oh, oh-oh, put your hands up ♪
♪ put your, put your hands up ♪
♪ put your hands up, put your, put your hands up ♪
♪ oh, oh, oh-oh ♪
- Get it.
- I am trying to set the tone
To bond intimately with my husband.
And I think that little sexual tension release
Is good for both of us.
Oh, [bleep]!
[laughter]
- You did good, girl.
- I want him to know that I do want him,
And I do desire him.
And I really just want to show my husband that I care.
- That was fun.
All right, wait, have you ever did that before?
- Never. - Very first time?
- Very first time. - I appreciate that.
I appreciate it. I thought you did pretty good.
You want to play the blindfold game?
- What's that?
- I put a blindfold on, and you express how you
Feel about me, authentically.
And then I don't interrupt.
I just listen, and then vice versa.
- Let's go. You want to go first?
- No, you can go first.
- I'll put the blindfold on first.
I'm ready.
- Let's start with the positive.
I appreciate you.
I appreciate how happy you are within your skin,
Within yourself.
I appreciate you for trying.
But I feel like I'm number two to you
When it comes to your friends.
I feel like I'm number two when it comes to your dog.
And I don't think I'll be number one.
I genuinely feel like I don't think
You're ready to be married.
I'm frustrated with you that you
Haven't asked me how I felt or how
I'm feeling regarding mya.
If the tables were turned, if what happened
To newton happened to mya, I don't think--
I feel that you wouldn't have made
The same decision that I made.
And we want different things.
[dramatic music]
I will definitely say I've been questioning our marriage now.
♪ ♪
My love still hasn't changed for you.
I still love you. I still care about you.
I'm just cautious as [bleep], you know?
Damn, that felt good.
♪ ♪
Yeah, that's where I'm at. That's what I feel.
- Take it off now? - Yes, ma'am.
You all right? - Yeah, I'm okay.
- Cool beans.
♪ ♪
- I think you're doing the best you can.
I know that I'm a great woman.
I know that even if I'm not making you happy,
I will make somebody extremely happy.
I'm thankful for you.
I'm thankful for all that you taught me.
I'm thankful for the time we spent together.
I'm thankful for the good times.
I'm thankful for the bad times. I'm thankful for you.
Your family is wonderful.
I appreciate them.
That's really just it.
That's where I'm at.
- That's it? - That's it.
- Are you sure? - I'm very sure.
- You pinkie promise?
Oh, [bleep], she pinkie promised.
That's everything. She don't never pinkie promise.
She be like, no, [bleep].
- No, I do pinkie promise, only when I'm serious.
That's all I had to say. - That's all I had.
That was a mouthful.
- It made justin happy to get all his emotions out.
I didn't want to take that from him,
So I chose not to say more.
I didn't want to attack him.
I feel like I've been transparent and direct
This entire time.
So for me to reiterate things I've been saying
For over a month was meaningless.
So if this man don't think I'm ready to be married,
Maybe that's not the man that I should be married to.
- How are you feeling right now?
- I'm okay. - Yeah?
- I'm genuinely good.
I've said everything that I have possibly to say.
Sometimes... - I can dig it.
- No response is a better response.
So right now, I'm choosing silence.
[upbeat music]
♪ ♪
- ♪ woke up this morning feeling kind of down ♪
- He looks like he's celebrating.
Just don't wake him up.
He cried every two hours all night.
And miguel was lovely enough to take care of him.
[baby wailing]
♪ ♪
- But I'm gonna step in tonight.
- [laughs] - don't wake him up.
♪ ♪
- Getting ready to-- nice hair.
Getting ready to go meet the girls, the wifeys.
I'm curious to see if emotions are hitting the other gals
As much as they're hitting me.
I felt way more emotional in the last couple weeks
Than I think ever in my lifetime.
So curious to see if they are feeling the same way.
♪ ♪
- ♪ get back ♪
♪ hold on, baby, it's the mack ♪
♪ and you got game, impact ♪
♪ just left the hotel ♪
♪ but you make me want to go right back ♪
♪ so clean, heavyweight macking, release the steam ♪
♪ baby got the black and then I got green, power, dreams ♪
♪ please go down, about to pop seams ♪
♪ yeah, it's all in a daze, red light nights ♪
♪ with the girls on waves ♪
- That's off. - Oh, yeah.
Down low, down low!
- [groans]
- Miguel!
- What the hell? - Miguel's got a baby!
- Bro, what the hell is that?
- What is that? - What is this?
- My son, migindy.
- You two needed a challenge?
- It's nice to meet you, buddy.
- I know. He's sleeping right now.
- Seeing miguel walk up with a baby
Definitely threw me for one.
I was just like--
I think my first assumption was like, oh,
Is that like your niece, or your nephew, or something
That you got for the weekend?
And it turns out that him and lindy got a fake baby.
- That's what you get for trying
To get it in on the honeymoon.
- I know, I know.
- That's what you get for being papi grande, right?
- Everything is expedited. - Action, reaction.
- I think their marriage must be really strong
If the experts decide that they need an additional challenge
Of a fake baby.
I would have just taken out the batteries
And tossed it in the closet.
[laughs]
- Things with lindy have been great.
We have now a little child.
Yeah.
- So when did this event--
- Like, what is the story behind this child, dude?
'cause you're the only one.
[laughter]
- The ultimate [bleep]-block.
- Yeah, right. - I'm dead.
- Like, the thing that gets in the way of intimacy.
No, but all jokes aside, it's another type
Of intimacy, right?
It's like coming together as a team
To help raise a third person.
- So it's like a little insight of, like,
How he would be as a parent, right?
- Yo, it's a great insight.
I'm like, why is this baby turning me on?
Like--
[laughter]
- Maybe that's the point-- make a real one.
- No, but it's really cute seeing
Him interact with the baby.
- But it's definitely testing us.
I got, like, three hours of sleep last night.
That baby is on demon mode.
I don't know what setting it's on,
But that thing's crying every [bleep] two hours.
Yeah, definitely, we are using protection,
That's for damn sure.
- What's up with you and morgan?
- Yeah, so she's saying that
I owe her an emotional apology.
- What the hell does that mean?
- Just say it with emotion, I guess,
You know what I'm saying?
- I think she means, like, she knows intellectually
That you're apologetic--
- For her, apologize for the actions,
And not how I made her feel.
- Right. - Yeah.
- And yeah, and I tried, but I guess,
Like, I'm not very good, and so I have to--
- Yeah.
- But, bro, from my understanding,
It's just like, how will she emotionally receive that
If she's defensive?
- True.
- She's not gonna believe anything you say because she's
Guarded against you, you know what I'm saying?
So she's not going to believe anything that comes out
Of your mouth, you feel me?
- I get no emotional response from binh.
And dr. Pia's asked me, like, what I need to heal.
And I was like, honestly, an emotional apology.
- Why do you continue to expect the same thing
Even after you've realized you're not gonna get it?
- You're probably gonna get it,
And then you're not gonna think it's genuine anyway.
So what's the point? - Right.
- I just feel angry for you.
You're so emotionally intelligent and mature.
And I think he's just-- he's trying his best,
But he's just really not capable.
- Yeah.
- Like, it doesn't even feel like he's
On the same wavelength at all.
- Mm-mm. - I run away from my problems.
- Yeah.
- And with morgan, she's so strong.
Physically and mentally, she's easily the strongest
Person I've ever been with, and it's intimidating.
- I do want to say, though, like I feel
Like you are strong, right?
Because you showed up even in the face of adversity, right?
You knew that you had a hard time with her.
- I hid from her. I hid from her.
- It seemed like binh wants to internalize everything.
And I know he did things wrong.
Like, he kind of didn't hold--
He broke morgan's trust.
It's not excusable.
But at the same time, like, it seemed like he's blaming
Himself for everything.
And I feel like that's unfair because he's a good guy.
And like, I mean, I don't want him to hate morgan, either.
But I just want him to be like, "it wasn't all my fault."
- Now miss krysten. - Krysten.
Krysten, come on.
- I live for the krysten and mitch show.
[laughter]
- We got all the time you need, baby girl.
- Yes.
- Okay, we--him and I have paused
On physical intimacy.
I'm talking--you know what I'm talking about.
- Oh, wow, yeah. - Yeah?
- Why was that so delayed?
- She did the hand gesture.
[laughter]
- We've paused.
We've paused because I wanted to get to know him better
Emotionally before we just continued
On the fast train, sexually.
- We've kind of taken it down a notch.
And we're kind of rebuilding-- - nice.
- To that level.
So I think that's cool and both, like, mature of us.
- Yeah.
- But I'm still not sure, overall, where I'm at, yeah.
I'm having a hard time dealing with some
Of the long-term planning of, like,
Imagining myself with her for the rest of my life.
But I am, like, cool with saying like,
This is going well, and I'm enjoying myself.
And we're just--we're vibing.
I'm happy to say yes on decision day
If we both feel that way.
But she has said in the past, like,
If there's no I love you, and there's like--
She's very specific with her demands.
- She needs that. - Yeah.
She's like, if there's not this, this, and this
On decision day, it's a no.
- I do think that I put up walls to protect myself.
And I definitely pushed him away.
And I think I'm ready to stop doing that
Because the good will very much outweigh
The bad if this works.
It's not the marriage I imagined.
But he is, to his core, a very, very good man who means well.
- Yeah.
- He just needs a little more guidance than the person
Maybe I thought I'd be married to.
- Yeah, you've got to teach him how to not be a bitch.
- [laughs] I'm trying.
- What? - All right, lindy.
- I get the joke.
- I'm happy she's telling me that they're
In a good spot right now.
But it is hard to go along the roller coaster
With their marriage
Because I just never know what she's gonna tell me.
And honestly, really, nothing shocks me at this point
When it comes to bitch-- I mean, mitch.
- My vision of marriage was us having fun together, you know?
Like, I like to go out with my friends, you know?
Like, a club-- I like doing things
Like that with my friends.
And all I've been doing is--like,
I've been very considerate.
Because I tried to take justin one time.
He's like, "this isn't my scene anymore."
He wants to spend all my free time with me.
Yeah. - Okay.
- And you're not with that? - I mean, I told him.
I was like, I feel like I'm a child on punishment.
I don't want to compare my husband,
But my relationships before, they were super fun.
Like, it was, like, a lot of passion,
A lot of exploration, a lot of spontaneity.
I think justin's my first partner who has been
This defensive and sensitive.
So I think that's where I'm struggling to assimilate
Because it's just like, I really don't understand
How he feels sometimes.
- I just feel like that's single people [bleep].
And she look at it as me trying to smother her.
- Like, contain her. - Yeah, it is.
- I would feel uncomfortable if my wife was going
Out to the club every weekend.
That's weird.
- Yeah, I think my wife would be uncomfortable
If I was doing that too.
I think it goes both ways.
Like, it's not really like a wife or husband thing.
- I mean, I understand maybe like, once in a while
With your girlfriends, but every weekend?
That's-- - yeah, right?
- That's just like, you know, why do you want to be a wife?
Oh, yeah, I want to be a wife because I love going
To the club every weekend.
It just doesn't make any sense. - Exactly.
- Damn, it's almost like
She don't like spending time with me.
And so we're in a battle.
We're still battling with that.
- I'm not gonna lie, my gut's telling me
That alexis, she's not in it.
I don't know her very well,
But I was disappointed in her when morgan and all the girls
Came to my house, and she was the one that was snitching,
And causing rifts in other people's, like, marriages,
You know what I'm saying?
So she's gossiping.
Now she's going to the club every weekend.
Like, what is this? Are you still in college?
Like, you're married. Like, come on, man.
- No, man, I don't think she wants me.
I don't think she's attracted to me.
And it speaks in the bedroom, when--
I've tried having sex with her numerous times, you know?
And so she don't reciprocate the energy.
If I kiss her, she just sit there.
It's hurtful, man,
Because sometimes, I question her intentions, you know?
She told dr. Pia that, "I think I'm ready to be married,
But not to justin."
- Ooh.
[dramatic music]
- She couldn't take it back after that.
And it hit me harder than I thought it would.
- 'cause now, it's like, did you really mean that or not?
- Exactly.
- Hearing about what justin's going through is upsetting.
They started so strong, you know?
I was so sure that they were gonna--if anyone made it,
It'd be justin and alexis.
But it just seems like he's making
Really big sacrifices and compromises,
And taking the marriage really seriously.
And it seems like she's not as into it as he is.
That sucks. It's not fair.
- Do you still want to be married to her?
- I don't know.
- ♪ there's no way we can bring this back ♪
♪ nowhere to run if the walls collapse ♪
[dramatic music]
♪ ♪
[door slams]
♪ ♪
- Yeah, for sure.
- Came home, we just had a conversation, you know?
You know, we started talking about [bleep],
Past [bleep].
She throwing [bleep] in my face, you know?
And I was like, okay.
And then I was like, here we go.
It's the real version coming out.
I said, so you've been wanting to say this [bleep].
Now it's coming out, you know?
And she started going back and forth.
I got loud.
And she was just like, you know,
When I spoke my truth the other night,
When we did the exercise, you know,
She said she was shocked because I had
Never told her any of that.
And I'm just like, you know, I've been honest with you.
You just haven't been comprehending, you know?
That right there felt like it was just too direct.
And I even said it after, I was just like,
I think I was too direct, you know?
And so when I spoke my truth that night, you know,
I wasn't aware that I [bleep] on her.
That wasn't my intention, you know what I'm saying?
I was just being honest 'cause I felt like
That's the only way she did understand.
But then it bites me in the ass
Because you really felt this way.
I had my guys with me.
I mean, I had the meeting with the fellows today.
I made a comment.
I said, I don't think she's ready for marriage.
You know, she interprets that I'm trying to take her away
From her friends when, clearly, I'm just
Like, there's certain [bleep] you shouldn't do
When you're married.
It's as simple as that.
I don't want my wife going to the [bleep] club
Every weekend, whether it's for two hours.
Go [bleep] bowling.
Why that specific scene every [bleep] weekend?
And she was like, maybe we're not compatible.
I'm like, then maybe we just ain't,
You know what I'm saying?
Just be [bleep] honest.
- I did.
♪ ♪
[tense music]
♪ ♪
- I'm not gonna say I don't think
Because I don't want to say what you think.
I feel just like I'm just not wanted.
- What makes you feel that way?
- Anytime I try to have any type of intimacy,
The most passionate we've been was the honeymoon.
I keep going back to that.
Like, what was so [bleep] different
About the honeymoon than now?
We didn't know each other.
- We sit and talk, and tell each other everything.
Is that an emotional intimacy?
- No, it's definitely emotional intimacy.
But sometimes, we have to get past that.
- So because I won't sleep with you,
You don't feel like you're wanted?
- It's not that you won't sleep with me.
It's the fact that we don't exchange the same energy.
I'm attracted to you in many ways.
You know, I just feel like it's not reciprocated.
You know, I have to force you to want
To just not necessarily be around me,
But to just [bleep] want me.
If it's a weekend, you know what I'm saying,
I get parts of you.
I get a few hours.
But sometimes, I want you the whole weekend.
And in your opinion, that's smothering you.
- I have friends.
I would like to hang out with them.
That's it.
- In my vows, I meant that I wanted you to be free,
But I didn't mean free as in living a single life
While you're married.
- I think we just have two different perspectives
Of what is a single lifestyle and what's not.
But for you to label me as somebody who's not ready
To be married, that's your opinion.
I just didn't picture marriage to be like this.
I'm sorry, I didn't.
- What did you picture marriage as?
- I told you, just fun.
Like, us still being able to be ourselves
And do what we typically do, just together, like teammates.
I'm not your opposition, justin.
- It's just, it was just different.
- ♪ I want some fire ♪
- ♪ just to feel ♪
- Look at her go!
- Still to come this season on "married at first sight"...
[upbeat music]
- ♪ I'm gonna savor this ♪
- Aw.
- Thank you.
- You're a beautiful person. I do love you.
And I just want you to know that.
- ♪ goodness gracious ♪
- Oh, my god.
- Nice, damn!
- But you have not cheated? - No, I have.
[music slows]
- I just hope he doesn't resent me.
- [bleep] this. - Yeah.
- [bleep] this marriage.
- My doubt is coming from you, sadly.
- What woman would sit here and say
This is not embarrassing?
This is horrible.
- Do you think I'm going through the motions
When I have a [bleep] tattoo on my hand?
- Do you feel, at this point, that the marriage is over?
- He told me--he's like,
"I don't know. I might be done."
- I just feel like I was played.
- To be honest with you, like, I don't love you.
- This is all so blindsiding to me.
- Oh, my god!
- I'm trying so hard.
[sobbing]
- There's nothing else I can do.
- I know exactly what I'm gonna say.
- The damage is already done.
- I'm afraid to lose you, for sure.
And I don't want to lose you.
- ♪ take me to the fire ♪
♪ burning ♪
- The time has come for you to make a decision.
- ♪ fire ♪
- Do you want to stay married?
- Or get a divorce?
[dramatic music]
♪ ♪
- ♪ oh, fire ♪