- Nice to meet you. - You too.
Pleasure. - We shake hands?
- [laughs]
- 10 fearless singles
Took a daring leap of faith
In order to find love.
They married as complete strangers.
[cheers and applause]
And in just over a week, they'll have to decide
Whether they want to stay married
Or get a divorce.
[dramatic music]
- Oh, my gosh!
- Last time, our couples embarked on a retreat
In hopes of strengthening their marriage
Before decision day.
- ♪ flash, flash, polaroid ♪
♪ picking up steam ♪
- Stacia and nate.
[buzzing]
- [breathes deeply]
- You guys have vibrating panties on
Or something? - What? What?
- He's got the little remote control.
- She's suffering right now, but it feels good.
- Oh! He likes to see me suffer.
- It's pretty hot.
- Krysten and mitch.
- This is, like, the most fun I've had
Since we all met each other.
For me, it was just a blast.
And I love spending time with you guys.
And I love spending time with mitch too.
- Thanks, babe. I had a great time too.
- Alexis and justin.
- For me, it's just like, I don't have to
Go through some things to realize, like,
Oh, I see how that may have made me feel.
I'm not that type of learner.
- Remember that--that thing where I told you
I'm worried about you quitting? - Yeah.
- I feel like that's what that's gonna be.
♪ ♪
- Lindy and miguel.
- That [bleep] doesn't fly, ever.
You don't talk to me like that, ever.
A little affirmation to your husband
Ain't gonna kill you. - [sighs] come on.
[crying] everything I do is not right.
He told me--he's like,
"I don't know, I might be done."
♪ ♪
- ♪ too fast, too fly, too... ♪
- And tonight...
- You got it!
- Our couples must face the reality
Of their daily lives together in the present...
- We are lit.
- In order to figure out
If their marriage is right for them
In the future.
- I do love you so much.
And I want to figure out how to make this work.
- Are there any cute girls on this trip?
- There's always cute girls in the beach world.
It's really a lot of girls.
- Is your ring in the car?
- No. It's right here, sorry.
[dramatic music]
- It is one [bleep] week away.
You either know, or you don't.
- If things were to get bad, I'll be homeless.
♪ ♪
I had to make a choice.
And boy, it was hard.
♪ ♪
- He just shuts down and pushes me away
And makes me feel like a [bleep] piece of [bleep]
Over and over and over again.
I'm [bleep] at my breaking point.
♪ ♪
- ♪ it's all or nothing ♪
- This is "married at first sight."
- ♪ there's no other way ♪
♪ ♪
♪ it's all or nothing ♪
[upbeat music]
- ♪ you are killing me slowly ♪
♪ I am still trying to rewind the time ♪
♪ ♪
- Usually, right when things happen,
I have a sense of where to go to find the solution.
But when I hit a wall, it's tough for me.
I look back at how I was this week,
And there were moments where I was just nasty.
- It's no secret miguel and lindy
Have definitely had a different weekend than the rest of us.
You know, they weren't around at dinner last night.
They--I think they got in a little bit of a fight before.
So they weren't in a great headspace coming in.
And also, miguel's just--
I think he's just reaching
His wit's end on some stuff.
- You know, I was just like, "don't touch me.
Like, I don't want to talk right now."
And that's not me. - Yeah.
- I just hit a wall.
- I don't know, it just sounds like
He's got real specific expectations
Of how she needs to be and how his wife needs to be.
And you know, she's not a subservient wife.
Yeah, that's never gonna be good.
- It just has thrown me for such a loop.
Because I thought I knew this person.
And I'm happy that he's letting his guard down
And letting me see real parts of him.
But there's a certain cost.
Like, he still needs to respect me.
And if I feel like I'm just being disrespected
And misunderstood over and over and over again,
Like, that's not conducive.
- Yeah. - And I feel like
If I act out of line, and he does this,
Then it's like--it's, like, training me to just be like...
[rapid breathing] okay, miguel.
Oh... - Yeah.
- Oh, I can't speak.
And I can't feel filtered like that.
So I don't know where the compromise is.
And that's where we're at.
We don't know where the compromise is.
♪ ♪
- Justin has said a lot of these things to me.
- Yeah. - But what worked for us is,
The compromise, we had to figure out
In the moment.
So once we're feeling it happen again,
We'll try something and be like, oh, [bleep],
That didn't work, and then go back to the drawing board.
You know, like, it's not always clear as day
As, this is what we need to do.
- Yeah, we don't have answers.
- So just keep fighting for each other.
And I know you guys can do that.
- At the end of the day, he does have to accept you
For all of you, you know what I mean?
I mean, that's just marriage.
Like, we'll all go through that, of like,
This conflict between, like,
I need to still be myself
And do things that make me happy,
But I also need to be your husband...
- Mm-hmm. - Like, be a great husband.
It's just this constant-- - gotta learn how to balance.
- Constant fight of keeping your identity
And keeping who you were,
But also changing and growing...
- Yeah, being flexible.
- And like, it's so exhausting.
- And what can you compromise, and where can you bend,
But where can you not? And like--
- I truly think it's teamwork. - Yeah.
- I truly think it's partnership, you know?
And, like, you just gotta learn how to cohabitate
And work together.
- Yeah, because at the end of the day, like you said,
He's gotta accept me for who I am.
And I can't be second guessing and questioning
Before I ever open my mouth.
Because that's just-- like, that's control.
- Yeah.
- [crying] and that's another one of my--
I can't be controlled, so--
- Samesies, girl.
Samesies.
- I'm standing up for myself, and I'm not gonna let him
Control my narrative and how I speak
And who I am.
He doesn't have that ability.
He doesn't get that.
He either sees me and accepts me,
Or he doesn't want me.
♪ ♪
[somber music]
♪ ♪
- Do you wanna be alone? Or is it okay if I join you?
♪ ♪
- You were angry at me. I could feel it.
Am I making that up? - No, you're not making it up.
I was annoyed.
- Well, I just sat there for 45 minutes
Crying to our friends. - Mm-hmm.
- Because I--I was like, "I did it again."
I can't even exist without making him mad
Or offending him or disrespecting him.
It was, like, very harsh.
- Right. I'm sorry. - Very harsh.
- Okay. - Like, scary harsh.
Like, I don't even want to get in the car with you
After that encounter.
I'm not bound down to this man.
So we either do this and explode,
Or we do this and this.
And we figure out how we can make it work.
And I don't know right now.
Because at this point, I'm filtering myself so much.
And this is-- this is my trigger.
- Just please know that it wasn't that I was that angry.
- But you were annoyed.
- I was annoyed.
And I was--and I was annoyed.
And I think my heart rate was definitely elevated.
And I was, like, riled up because of the game.
- Thank you. - Yeah.
- Okay. - Yeah.
- That's--that's what I needed to hear.
Because you discounted my reality.
- No, well-- - it made me second-guess
What I was experiencing. - No, no, no, no.
You definitely perceived it.
You perceived it right.
I think it's just that, like, you--
I just want to make sure that you understand
That I was not--
The level that you perceived me, of anger, that was not--
- I understand. - Okay.
Yeah.
- Yes.
Thank you.
[breathes deeply]
♪ ♪
- With the retreat coming to an end,
We hope the couples have taken this time to really think
About what they've learned from their spouses
And the other couples, as well as what it all means
For their individual marriages.
And with the clock ticking towards decision day,
Now is the time to examine the marriage from every angle,
Leaving no stone unturned,
Because in just over a week,
They'll have to make that life-altering decision
To stay married or get a divorce.
- All right.
[quirky music]
I'm ready to get back to civilization.
- How do you feel, overall, this weekend went?
♪ ♪
- It went amazing to me. - Yeah.
- For others, not so amazing. But for us...
- Exactly. - Good.
♪ ♪
- I'm always sad when--
When other couples are going through it,
Like lindy and miguel.
But I have to remember that sometimes, like us,
When you hit a very big wall, and there's a breakthrough,
It's good.
So I have all the faith in the world.
But I was just sad to see them going through it, you know?
But we're all gonna go through it.
♪ ♪
- Nate was talking about how stacia is a freak,
And he's glad.
And I was like, dang,
I wish I could be freaky and stuff.
♪ ♪
- You can be freaky, baby.
- We have, like, you know, like, different issues.
- You mean just that one time? - [laughs]
- That was one time, girl.
- I mean-- - that ain't happening--
That was literally one time. - Okay.
- The only thing-- the only thing I'm gonna--
I'm really gonna work on is my stamina.
I'm gonna take it more serious
With hitting that treadmill.
- They got any machines where it helps the thrust?
♪ ♪
- ♪ can I give it to you ♪
♪ oh, oh ♪
♪ let me give it to you, oh-oh-oh ♪
♪ can I give it to you? ♪
♪ oh, oh, oh ♪
♪ let me give it to you ♪
- Home, sweet home.
[laughs]
- We're back.
I'm just gonna start, you know,
Just putting stuff in here.
- Yeah.
- It's good to be home.
- Thank you, honey.
- Yes, ma'am.
- ♪ let me give it to you, oh-oh-oh ♪
♪ can I give it to you? ♪
♪ oh-oh-oh-oh, oh ♪
♪ can I give it to you? ♪
- Dirties.
- Oh, thank you.
Yeah, let's just throw--
I'll do a load. - Yeah.
- You just throw in there what you want me to wash.
- Okay.
- Did you have any favorite parts of the weekend?
- Uh...
I feel like you-- you in general
Were my favorite part of the weekend.
- Aw.
- Because you were just in a great mood the whole time,
And having a lot of fun.
And I feel like this weekend gave you a chance
To kind of, like, extinguish a couple flames
That you hadn't put out quite yet from--
From our past.
Also just kind of come out
And be really comfortable and kind of feel
Like you're in your element... - Yeah.
- And kind of get back to your--
You know, like, the place that you want to be.
- Yep.
- And thankfully, on my end, that place that, you know,
Comfortable, fun krysten is a version of you I really like.
- Yay!
- I love that part of you, so I think that's great.
Yeah.
- When are you gonna head off to your conference?
- As late as possible.
I think me going away, I think the timing
Is definitely not ideal. - I know.
- But I think it does give us a chance
To kind of give that litmus test
To how we feel, you know? - Absolutely.
- Like, hopefully, we miss each other.
Hopefully, we're feeling like, oh, where's my wife?
You know what I mean? - Yeah.
- So if that's the way that it feels,
Then that's gonna be a really good sign.
And for me also, you know, even though we're
In this neutral house, it's like--
It's, like, very much not really what our life
Would actually be like.
- Yeah. - And for me,
A lot of this challenge has been not--
You know, having a hard time
Thinking about what my new life with you looks like,
But still having some of those old elements in it.
- Yeah.
- So, like, I think this will be good for me,
Of a way to, like, kind of be married,
But also be old mitch, single mitch.
♪ ♪
- To be honest, um,
I'm a little worried about "single mitch."
I know he has to go, but it doesn't feel like
The best time for him to be leaving.
Me and luna will be here at the apartment...
- Aw. - Awaiting your arrival.
And yeah, I'll try to make sure
You come home to a nice, clean, dog-hairless--
As much as I can--home.
[laughs]
♪ ♪
- Oh, my god, I'm so tired.
♪ ♪
Definitely happy to be home.
- For real.
- Mm-hmm.
- [grunts]
- I'm so happy that retreat is over.
I [bleep] hated every moment of it.
♪ ♪
- It's just terrifying, you know?
'cause, like, we-- well, I'll speak for myself.
Like, I do love you so much.
And I feel, like, so strongly for you.
And then to have these issues kind of terrifies me.
And then I--you know, and I know you're not
Gonna like to hear this, but I do start to question,
Like, well, is this even right?
Does this even work?
I shouldn't be feeling this way.
I shouldn't be making you feel this way.
And it's just such a [bleep] feeling.
Um...
And like I said, I want this to work.
And I want to figure out how to make this work.
But it is scary because I don't know,
Like, a part of me is also thinking at the--
The other side of it, which is,
What if we don't work through it?
[tense music]
♪ ♪
- I think it just goes back to fundamentals
Of marriage and love. - Yeah.
- And to me,
There isn't a question of if we make sense
Or if you're my person. - Mm-hmm.
- Divorce isn't even an option to me.
- Okay. - So again,
Every time you say,
"I don't even know if you're my person,"
And, "I don't know if you make me happy,"
Or whatever the [bleep] you're saying, all I hear is,
"eh, you're not good enough.
"this is not worth the work. I want a divorce."
- No, that's-- - and it's the rejection.
You're already thinking, like, 10 steps ahead
When we're having a tiny little bump.
This isn't even that--
To me, this is like, yes, it's a big deal,
But it's not unsolvable.
It's not that big of a deal.
We just have to work through it.
That's all.
This is what marriage is.
It takes work, over and over again,
Understanding each other. - I know. Yeah.
- We've known each other for a few weeks.
This is a tiny little hiccup,
And you're already just like, not--
I don't know, this is too big. Like--
- Well, I'm glad you're saying this.
This is important for me to hear.
'cause this is, like, reaffirming about,
You know, that--
I'm glad you see it as a tiny hiccup.
To be honest, I--
I don't like feeling the way I did.
♪ ♪
And I don't like making you feel the way you did.
- It's unrealistic to think that we're just
Gonna always get each other and always align
And always know what to say
And always know how to support each other.
How am I supposed to know how to support you
And be your wife and say all the right things
And say what you need to hear and--
I don't expect that of you.
You shouldn't expect that of me.
And that's why I always ask you for grace.
But right now, all I hear from you is the,
"I don't know if you're right for me.
"I don't know if you make me happy.
"I don't know if I can be who you need me to be.
I don't know, I don't know--"
If you love me and you want to be with me,
Then just, like, make that happen.
♪ ♪
- ♪ make up your mind ♪
♪ is it yes or no? ♪
♪ quit wasting time ♪
♪ we can go and let it go ♪
- ♪ it's your moment ♪
♪ go ahead and own it ♪
♪ oh, oh, oh ♪
- Baby doesn't want to get up this morning.
- No. - [laughs]
- After seven weeks of marriage,
These couples have now seen each other
For better and for worse.
[loud thud] - ow!
[both laughing]
That's how she wakes me up.
She just kicks me in my [bleep] balls.
- So they need to consider whether they can effectively
Balance the good and the bad together
And truly believe that this is the person
They can see themselves
Spending the rest of their lives with.
- Cooking breakfast with my husband.
We got bacon, grits, shrimp.
He's getting a full meal.
- Because even though "married at first sight"
Is only an eight-week experience,
Marriage is meant to last for a lifetime.
- Mitch has been gone at his conference.
We have a facetime date scheduled,
So excited for that.
And then he'll be home the next day.
[upbeat music]
♪ ♪
- Pulling up to the new cribbo.
I'm excited.
I'm getting--it's becoming real, you know?
I'm about to see our new home.
And I'm just very grateful that things are working out for us.
What are you thinking?
What's on your mind, stacia?
- I'm just hoping everybody takes their shoes off.
- [laughs]
- You ready, babe? - This is nice.
♪ ♪
- Decision day is a week away, so nate and I
Are finally visiting the new house so I can show him
Exactly where we're gonna be living.
And hopefully he likes it.
- Sheesh!
This is dope.
- I, you know, purchased this house
And started building it before I was married.
And it's exactly how I wanted.
So having my husband move in with me
Is definitely something that makes me anxious.
But I do want him to feel comfortable
In this home with me.
So I know that I am gonna have to compromise
In certain aspects.
But as long as it's something that we can both agree on,
Then I think it's something that we can both be happy with.
- This is nice. Look at this.
This is so clean.
- This is how I like to keep it, okay, babe?
I like to keep it clean.
- This is nice.
- Dirty dishes aren't sitting in the sink.
- What are you trying to say?
You act like I'm, like, hella dirty.
- You be leaving your dishes in the sink.
- I do. You do too.
- Yeah, and I'm trying not to be all crazy, but...
- Okay.
- I'm not gonna leave dirty dishes in the sink.
- Okay, well, we definitely need some blinds
For some privacy.
I'm about to be living here.
- So I want to lay concrete out here.
- Are we allowed to put grass back here?
- No, I don't want to deal with maintenance.
- I mean, but this is, like, a small backyard.
It's not gonna be high maintenance if we get grass.
- Who's putting-- who's gonna do all that?
- I can do that.
[quirky music]
We can talk about it later.
- Yeah, you want to go upstairs now?
- Yeah, yeah, let's do it.
♪ ♪
Very nice.
Carpets are hella white.
- That's why we take our shoes off and wear socks,
So the oils from our feet don't sink in.
- The oils?
- Bathroom down here. - Wow.
Massive.
- So the black tile was, like, the one thing
That I was, like, very adamant about having.
I was like, I have to have
Black hexagon tile in my bathroom.
- This is amazing.
♪ ♪
Oh, yeah!
This is about to be lit.
♪ ♪
This is where I take a [bleep].
Babe!
I need some toilet paper.
You got some? - Hey, listen.
- I'm taking a [bleep].
- Listen, here's a house rule.
How about this?
So once we're down to the last roll,
And you don't see any more toilet paper,
How about we refill it?
That way, we never run out of it.
- I don't do it that much.
But of course. - What?
- That's common sense. Yeah, duh.
- Yeah, okay, so I'm gonna
Hit you with that common sense next time.
And you know what?
I actually got you a gift too.
- What?
- A little sticker for the toilet seat.
- This doesn't sound like a gift.
- So when you leave it up, it's going to, like, say,
"put the [bleep] seat down."
Ahh!
- That's not a gift.
You're petty as [bleep].
[both laughing]
It's just amazing. It's clean.
It smells like a new house.
You know, there's candles.
It's getting hot in here.
I think there's gonna be growing pains.
And realistically, I think it's gonna
Be really hard for her to really
Relinquish that control.
I've just gotta roll with the punches.
You know, I can't control that.
So yeah, we'll see how this goes.
- I am a bit of a, you know, ocd clean freak.
Like, you know, I don't like scuffs on the walls.
Like, I don't like--
- I mean, I don't like that, either.
- Okay, well, I'm just letting you--
I'm trying to give you an idea of how I am.
- So if we do have kids,
I'm really concerned about the safety of this house.
- You're concerned about the safety of the house?
- Yeah, 'cause it's gonna be dirty.
- Yeah, it might get dirty.
- I mean, look at this pillow.
This thing is white as hell.
- Yeah, it might get dirty.
But I think that--
- It's not gonna freak you out?
- Yeah, but I'm gonna teach my kids
To not touch everything.
- [bleep]. Okay.
- Hey, my mom was, like--
- They gonna be touching everything.
They're gonna be spilling stuff.
- My mom--my mom told us, don't go
In that formal living room.
Don't go in that formal dining room.
Don't touch nothing. - You heard of terrible twos,
Right? Terrible twos?
- Don't touch nothing.
- Okay, we'll see about that one.
♪ ♪
What if, like,
Our kids are hard-headed like me?
- Mm-mm.
- And they're gonna be kids, too, you know?
They're gonna be, like, spilling stuff,
Drawing on the walls.
- Drawing on the walls? - You never know.
- I'm gonna be watching them.
- Yeah, but it's gonna be too late.
- No, I'm gonna be watching them.
♪ ♪
[upbeat music]
♪ ♪
- So I am headed to go pick up my dog.
She's been at training.
So this'll be the first time seeing her.
And boy, lord knows I miss that woman.
[dogs barking]
You know, the dog situation, it's unfortunate.
The reason she's not coming home
Is she bit another dog while in training.
So the trainer said she was a liability.
[dog barking, whining]
♪ ♪
Wow, they're so cute. I just--
It's unfortunate, but because
We're gonna be sharing the same household,
It was important for me to make a decision.
So I'm doing what I have to do
As a man, as a husband,
As a leader.
And so I chose marriage.
♪ ♪
Hey, you.
What's up?
I know you miss me.
Oh, girl, I know.
Daddy knows.
I missed you too.
Ooh, I miss you, girl.
What's up?
What is up?
It's been so long.
I'm giving my baby to my best friend, chris.
He's coming down to--
To take ownership of my dog.
You know, she just had a bad moment.
But my dog is a great dog.
- ♪ don't let me go ♪
♪ ♪
♪ don't let me go ♪
- She's protected me several times when, you know,
I didn't recognize I needed to be protected.
It's just a burning--
A burning, hurtful feeling.
'cause that's my baby.
I'll never see her in california again.
Just something I never pictured would happen.
So it was just sad.
♪ ♪
Look at my girl.
That is my girl.
Oh, man.
So we're headed back to the house.
[phone dings]
I'm probably gonna--
I want to keep mya at the house.
I'm gonna keep her in a kennel,
Like, same thing as usual.
Nothing really changed.
But my wife was gonna go
Stay at her place to compromise.
But I really want her to be there, you know?
And we just have to separate the dogs temporarily.
But I want us--
I don't really want us to be separated.
But we can still have our space.
But I'm gonna utilize my time with her
Before she goes on her next adventure.
- ♪ without you with me ♪
- That's kind of where my mind is right now.
But just hoping for the best.
- ♪ I swear I'm gonna be all right ♪
[upbeat music]
- ♪ la, la, la, la, yeah, yeah ♪
♪ I got chills inside my head ♪
♪ won't let me go ♪
- [laughing] look at this dog.
Why is that dog coming... - Looks like a wolf.
- To the door?
Aw. - What's up, buddy?
- She's cute, though.
- Her name's coconut. - Coconut.
- Aw.
- Come on, coconut. Let's go shop.
♪ ♪
- Oh, my god, I'm actually, like, in heaven.
There's so much.
This is, like, getting me excited right now.
- I think doorknobs and handles, this is her world.
- Like, my heart is starting to, like...
- You excited?
- [laughs] beat all fast.
- I think she's willing to be flexible.
But I think inside of her, she's kind of like,
"ah, this is my project!"
Oh, these are cool. I like this one.
- Gross.
- Oh, look at this--
The hippie vibes. - Crystals?
- Oh, that's kind of cute.
- Okay, babe.
So what are the nos for you?
- These are the nos.
These are also nos.
All this shiny stuff? Absolutely not.
These are all nos.
I like these vibes too.
- Yeah, that's different.
- This is stuff that I like.
This looks like one of the toys we got at the sex store.
- Oh, right.
[dog whimpers] I'm a white and black girl.
- Okay.
- And I want to do, like, pops of gold.
What about something like this?
- Yeah, maybe. Yeah, for sure.
But I think less is more for me.
I'm all about the minimalist vibe.
And we can do something like this in the garage
Or something, you know?
- Yeah, I mean, the garage,
You can have full rein.
I do have a idea of what I want it to look like.
- Mm-hmm.
- I feel like I'm, like, being reasonable.
I'm not trying to dominate everything.
I just want it to be what I want--or what we want.
- Right.
[dog whines]
- Let's go down here.
- This just looks like a toilet.
- How do you feel about a bidet?
- [laughs]
I'm like, that's crazy.
♪ ♪
I've never used one before, but--
[laughs]
Address plaques.
This is very exclusive.
It's important for me to have my own personality
In this house, because if I don't,
Then I feel like I'm just gonna be living in her home.
And that's just gonna be a very uncomfortable feeling.
- Design is my thing, babe.
This is, like, my thing.
- Right. So--
- And I had a vision for the house.
And I'm willing to let you have input.
The shell is there. I want to be...
- Kind of important.
- Yeah, I want to be open.
- Well, I'll let you get, like, some input.
I'll give you, like, 50% input, you know?
- You'll give me 50% input?
What do you-- what does that mean?
- Like, I'll let you decide on things
That you need to prioritize on.
- Hmm?
- Like, if you need to prioritize something,
I'll let you prioritize it.
- Can you explain? What do you mean?
- Like, if you want to prioritize the living room,
I'll let you prioritize it.
- Okay.
- Why was that so complicated to hear?
- But I don't understand, like, what you're trying to say.
"prioritize the living room"?
- You said design is really important to you.
- Yeah, it is important to me, like,
'cause I want to be able to do it and design it
The way I like.
- Okay.
[dramatic music]
All right.
I think I'm shopped out.
♪ ♪
- ♪ on the edge of a road, going downhill ♪
♪ I am lost, feeling alone ♪
♪ cannot stand still ♪
♪ we cannot change what has been written in stone ♪
- You want a treat?
Mm-hmm, I got something you want.
Be gentle.
Look at that training, girl.
Mm-hmm.
♪ ♪
Who is that?
Oh, boy.
Look at that tail-- wiggle butt.
Got a wiggle butt.
What up?
- Mya. Hey, girl.
- Look at that butt.
[laughs]
- Good girl.
What you doing?
Yeah.
- Mm-hmm, she hyped.
Uh-oh.
She is hyped now.
Look at her. - [laughs]
- All right, there it go.
What's up, dude? - Sup, bro?
Good to see you, man.
- You too, man. It's good to see you.
- Yeah, for real, man. - Come on in, man.
Chris is literally the only other human
My dog loves more than me.
So I know she's gonna be in a good place.
She was the one putting me at ease, man.
She was just like, justin, we got you.
Mya is gonna be completely fine.
- I know. You know, I was like, man, I don't know.
I don't know if I'm ready for this.
And then she was like, dude, it'll be fine.
You know, it's mya.
She's just like-- we've been, like,
Thinking about getting a dog too.
So it's gonna work out, man. - Yeah.
When I started with this whole process,
I anticipated challenges.
I was just like, I'm marrying a stranger, so...
- Right.
- Of course there's gonna be challenges.
- Mm-hmm.
- But I never anticipated a curveball--
You know? - Like this?
- Yeah, and the curveball was her, you know?
And so, like, I had to make a choice.
And boy, it was hard.
[somber music]
- That's a tough decision, you know?
The dog or the wife.
I get it, man. - Bruh, that was--
- Especially with mya being in your life
For the past seven years-- you guys
Have been through a lot together too.
- We have been through a lot. - Moves, and--
- I used to make comments to myself like,
I'll never give my dog up.
We're gonna have to work this out.
But I also never thought it would
Be something this serious. - Right.
- You know? - It's marriage, man.
- Exactly. - Yeah.
- Exactly, bro.
So now I look at it as it's a new chapter.
So that new chapter just happens to be with you.
So I'm still at peace with it.
Because I know who she's with.
- You know, mya's comfortable with me.
I've lived with her.
You know, I think it will be a great fit.
- I agree.
I'm excited.
I told my wife, I said, yeah,
I might be going out there once a month.
She's like, I'm sorry, how many times?
- [laughs]
- Oh, look at you.
- Hi.
- You're here.
- I am here. - That was unexpected.
I thought you got off today.
- I didn't.
I had to fight my way through.
- Mm. Aw.
- I didn't want you to go through this by yourself.
- I appreciate that.
Chris-- - hey.
- What's up? - Alexis.
- Hi, chris. - How are you?
- I'm well.
I'm glad you can take our baby.
- Yeah, I'm glad too.
- Let me pack her stuff up.
[somber music]
- ♪ 'cause I'm wondering ♪
- Come here.
- ♪ if I'll see you again ♪
- Come here.
- ♪ if our time is done, going down like the sun ♪
- Might need to put that seat down, I don't know.
- Okay.
- ♪ for all of my days ♪
- Okay.
All right, girl, all right.
She's like, "this is nice." - all right.
- This is nice.
Come here. Give me my final kisses.
♪ ♪
All right.
Love you.
- ♪ for all of my nights ♪
♪ I'll think of our time ♪
♪ ♪
♪ 'cause I'm wondering ♪
♪ if I'll see you again ♪
♪ ♪
[soft music]
- ♪ you couldn't know until it was over ♪
♪ ♪
♪ you couldn't know until it was over ♪
♪ ♪
- What's your--what are your emotions right now?
- Same as they were.
It was just, you know, seeing that--
Seeing her, and just watching her drive off, and you know.
- You said chris is the only person
That mya loves more than you.
- Mm-hmm. - You know,
So you know she's in good hands.
And you know where she's at, you know?
You're gonna go visit her.
And I know it's hard.
I've never been in your shoes, so I can't--
I can only relate to it a certain extent, you know?
- Yeah.
- But I can only imagine how my heart
Would feel in that moment.
And I'm here for any support that you need.
- All right, I appreciate that.
Thank you.
I hope this shows you that--
This is my proof that, like, I'm in this.
I'm in this marriage.
You know, this is my-- my commitment.
You know, this is my ultimate sacrifice,
That I'm willing to let something like her,
Somebody that's close to me, you know, go.
Like, does that mean anything to you?
- It means a lot.
It definitely means a lot.
I also just want it to not mean, like, everything,
You know what I'm saying?
Like, everything come back to, "I gave away my mya for you."
You know, things like that.
'cause you've said that before.
Like, you know, almost like holding it over my head.
I just want you to understand that I do value your decision.
And I really understand that it was
The ultimate decision.
But I'd just appreciate it if you don't
Throw it in my face... - Okay.
- Respectfully, because I do understand that.
- It was important to me that you understood
Why I made the decision I made, that's all.
- Yeah, I understood that since the very first time
You said you were gonna make it.
- This is definitely the ultimate sacrifice.
Because she's my girl. I raised her.
I rescued her off the street, literally.
But it's necessary because I feel like, you know,
What me and alexis have had so far,
It's worth the sacrifice.
I hope she understands how much of a big deal this is to me,
You know, and how much I'm really trying
To accommodate for this, and our marriage to work.
I hope I'm making the right decision.
♪ ♪
I chose the marriage.
You know, I looked at the big picture
Because I feel like our marriage is worth it.
But it's time for a new chapter.
♪ ♪
- ♪ and I always hit the bottle ♪
♪ drown my sorrow when you leave ♪
♪ when you leave ♪
- Excuse me.
Can I sit here?
♪ ♪
I'll call daddy.
I don't have his number memorized just yet.
[line ringing]
Hey.
- Hey, what's up?
- How are you?
It's your girls.
[laughs]
- My girls. My girls.
- Have you gone surfing at all, or just work?
- No, we've been surf--
You see, there's two boards on top.
- Yeah, I see the surfboards, yeah.
- Last night, we went on a little whale watching boat.
- Fun. - Kind of reminiscent--
Kind of reminiscent of our honeymoon.
- Yeah.
- But way more seasick for me, for some reason.
So that was actually-- - [laughs]
- Yeah, but you know, I wouldn't say
I've been working too hard.
But it's just been very social.
I mean, it's, like, more social
Than I've been in years.
Yeah, it's been great.
But I guess as much fun as it's been,
I'm really looking forward to getting back,
To get back home to you and luna.
- Do you miss her snoring?
It's a yes or no question.
[laughter]
- I don't miss the snoring.
- [laughs]
Not a trick question, by the way.
- I do miss you, though.
- Aw, we miss you too. - But not luna's snoring.
But I miss having coffee with you in the morning.
I miss taking luna for her nightly walk
And hanging out with you after work and having dinner.
I miss all the good parts of our life together.
- Well, we are so excited for you to get home.
We're excited for beach day.
- Are you ready to shred?
Because I got the boards on my car already, you know?
- I am ready to shred.
Hopefully, we can stay around the beginner area.
- Yeah.
- Me and mitch are in a really good place
Coming off of the couples retreat.
It does feel a lot lighter
And just a lot more jovial and happier.
- Is luna coming? You might want to bring
Her pfd just in case luna shows an interest in surfing.
- [laughs]
A lot is at stake.
Providing a father figure for luna is important.
- Luna's gonna have to get with the program
Eventually, so... - She knows.
She loves the beach. She's a beach pug.
- Good, good.
- I really want to spend these remaining days
In the best way possible with him.
So I'm looking forward to him coming home,
Seeing how the time felt apart for him,
And talking about how it felt for me.
And I'm excited to try and put luna on a surfboard.
- Really good to see your face.
And looking forward to seeing you again in person
And catching up tomorrow.
- Well, we miss you. Have fun.
Work hard, but not too hard.
- All right. - Have fun,
But not too much fun.
- All right. - Okay.
[laughs] bye, boo.
♪ ♪
- ♪ free with me ♪
- Nice, yeah.
- But this is so heavy.
- You feel--that's good, then.
- If--you want me to look like the hulk?
I personally am not a big fan of working out.
But I know that he enjoys exercising,
So we're gonna try to connect and recharge.
How about when we work out,
I just kind of be your cheerleader?
♪ ♪
Go, miguel!
Go, go, miguel!
Go, baby. Push harder, harder.
Pop that--[laughs]
Nice.
♪ ♪
Looks good, baby.
- Thank you.
Not so good for this.
As you know, it's a good lat exercise as well.
Honeymoon period is a little bit over.
And we're now getting to the nitty gritty of it.
Whew! - [laughs]
- Where's that steak?
- You pumped it up.
- I mean, we're both dedicated and committed to each other.
So now is the point to not coast
On the high of being in love with each other.
Now, it's just, like, you know, really making it work.
I think something finally came in the mail
That you may want to have.
- Oh? - To see a doctor.
- Yes!
Oh, my gosh, my insurance.
♪ ♪
Finally, I can go see a doctor. - I know.
You can get hit by a bus, and it'll be okay.
- I can get hit by a bus, and you'll care this time.
Yay, I'm so excited.
Thank you. I'm excited.
- You're welcome.
- It means a lot, it really does.
Because it kind of goes back...
You know, just, like, feeling cared for.
And... - Gotcha.
- Definitely am feeling way more and more comfortable with
The idea of hyphenating our names,
And just as our lives merge together and everything,
It's just making more sense.
- What more do you need?
Like, what's the ongoing component of it?
- I guess I just want to feel, like, even more secure,
And like, know that we have each other's back
No matter what.
'cause changing my name is a really big deal.
And I don't want to go back on that.
- Mm-hmm.
Along the same vein, it's a question, then,
How into this you are.
You don't want to take my name
In the event that it doesn't work out.
It's just frustrating, a little bit, to me.
- Well, for me, like, my doubt is coming from you, sadly.
That's where it's coming from.
I feel like you're just, like, ready to, like, jump ship,
Or like, just second guess everything
Before we've even tried.
It's just unfair for you to be pointing fingers at me
If it's so important to you.
This is-- I'm doing this for you.
This is so important to you, babe.
I'm happy being elloway forever, but you were--
- Well, we can keep it like that, then.
[dramatic music]
- ♪ no one ever talks about the evil things ♪
♪ that love brings ♪
- ♪ high on your vibes, I get high on your vibes ♪
♪ I get high on your vibes ♪
- It's chilly in here.
- It is.
- 75, baby.
- Ooh! - Yeah.
- [sighs] - good luck.
- [panting]
[grunts]
- I'm gonna stick with my 40s.
[laughs]
- I feel like I'm either gaining or losing weight.
I don't know which one it is.
I feel like I'm gaining.
Isn't that a thing?
You gain weight when you get married.
- Yeah, happy weight.
It could be depression weight,
And you lose, like, 25 pounds.
- Have you gained or lost?
- [laughs] girl, I haven't even stepped on a scale.
I don't even want to add that narrative to my life.
- Oh.
- What's the plan?
Have you guys talked about--because I know
You have a home.
Have you discussed that with nate?
- He talked about once his lease is up,
We're going to move into the--
My house.
♪ ♪
And we went to a hardware store.
And we went in there, and he was, like,
Picking out all these different things.
And I was just like, "ahh! No! No!"
And like-- - what was the compromise?
- Yeah, we haven't gotten there yet.
- Okay, that's fine.
- But he's kind of like, "I know you're gonna,
"like, veto, you know, whatever I say if you don't like it,
'cause it's your house."
I'm trying to say, like, "this is our house.
"I want it to be comfortable for you.
"I want you to feel like this is ours.
"like, I want you to feel comfortable living there.
"I don't want you to be like,
'oh, well, I'm just in your space.'"
♪ ♪
Technically, you are.
But I'm trying--you know?
- Do you think going to the hardware store kind of--
- I think it scared him.
- It scared him?
- Because it made it real.
- Oh. Damn.
- How's the married life?
- It was definitely really good up until this afternoon.
You know, some clarity kind of kicked in.
And I was like, you know what?
I need some affirmation.
And so I texted her.
And I was like, "yo," I said,
"I know this is a stupid question.
You know, and I know we've talked about the future."
We've talked about houses.
We've talked about renting a spot.
- Right.
- And you know, I said--
But I just need to hear it.
And I was just like, "well--"
I said, "well, can you tell me just that--like,
Can you tell me that you're saying yes on decision day?"
- Right. - And she says,
"where is that coming from?"
And I was like, "no, just--I need to hear it.
I need the affirmation."
And so what it boiled down to is,
She was deflecting, you know?
She was just like, "I told you I'm in it.
You know, I told you I'm gonna be patient."
And I said, "but you didn't answer my question."
- Mm-hmm. - When I gave mya away,
I was under the impression that we were on the same page.
- Right. - You know,
And if at any point,
She felt any doubt, whether it was 98%,
99%, she should have been like, "hey, baby, I love you.
I want this..." - right.
- "but I'm still a little on the fence about this."
- Right. Just communicate,
Like, the insecurities about it...
- Exactly. - Or just something, right?
- Exactly.
And for her to be such a direct person
And not communicate that to me, you know,
It's almost like she didn't want to hurt my feelings.
Because, like, if I'm gonna spend my whole life with you,
Like, I need to know that you are sure.
♪ ♪
- Justin came out today, and he was like,
"I just need to hear that you're going to say yes."
And mind you, this is a text message.
So I'm, like, in the middle of work--
- Wait, what? - Yeah.
- In a text message?
- In a text message, girl.
He was saying how he was yes, but now that we're
Having this conversation, he doesn't know
If he's gonna say yes.
And I'm like, so your decision's
Dependent upon mine?
And in so many words, he said yes,
To where I'm just like, we have more to think about.
- You know, I asked her a few days ago,
You know, how she was doing.
And she's like, "I'm actually doing really good."
- Right. - You know, she was like,
"the way our relationship feels now--"
She was like, "you're not as on edge anymore."
- Yeah.
Well, that's good, though.
- That's really good. - Yeah.
- But when I asked for that affirmation,
I was like, "hey, you know, you are saying yes, right?"
And she's still been deflecting.
Still hasn't answered the question.
The way she answered it, she was like,
"you said you wanted me to be patient.
I'm gonna be patient."
That doesn't answer my question, though.
- Right.
I think alexis is immature.
And I think she's just a liar.
Like, I just think, like, she's leading justin on.
She just needs to be straight up with him.
Everything else, she's very direct and up front
And vocal about things, but when it comes
To a yes or no, she can't even answer it?
That's weird.
- You know, I don't think she's willing to do
Those uncomfortable compromises...
- Right.
- You know, and put herself out there,
100% vulnerable.
You know, I don't think she's ready for that.
♪ ♪
- He has made a whirlwind of a change since day one,
For sure.
But sometimes, he still reverts back
To some of those old ways, where I'm like,
"I thought we were past this."
And it kind of scares me because it's just like,
I'm seeing the change, I'm honoring the change.
But when those little glimpses of old justin come out,
I'm just, like, scared.
Him saying outbursts when he's upset--
Like, what if we have kids?
What if we buy a house?
You know, like, it's so much bigger.
I'm thinking, like, generational.
- Yeah.
- So that's when it becomes challenging.
Because it's just like...
♪ ♪
Once I have a kid, it's too late, you know?
And if he hasn't worked on himself,
We haven't worked on each other,
I haven't worked on myself
To come to, like, a common theme,
And I'm pregnant, then what?
A big part of me wants to say yes.
But it's that small, little, like, I don't know, girl.
Can you tolerate this for the rest of your life?
And tolerate is not even a word I should have used.
So that is explanation in and of itself.
So I don't know.
♪ ♪
- If I'm being honest, man, I think--
I think I got my mind made up, you know?
And the reason I got my mind made up
Is because I've recognized
I've taken my feelings out of it.
And now I'm looking at the facts.
It's really easy to get emotional
And make an emotional decision.
And I've been doing that, you know?
You guys already know I'm an emotional person.
- Yeah. - So for me to be like,
You know what? I'm gonna take my emotions
Out of it, and I'm gonna step out,
And I'm gonna view the facts-- - right.
- If I hadn't asked that question today,
I would have went in blindsided,
Thinking like it was all 100% on both ends, you know?
I would have.
Like, I gave up my baby, yo.
And that [bleep] hurt my soul.
And I'm like, you know what? I'm gonna suck it up.
I'm gonna deal with it, because that's marriage--
But not in her eyes.
I'd be lying to myself--
You know, I definitely-- I would be lying to myself
If I said, hey, you know what?
It's definitely a yes. - Right.
- It's probably a 90% no for me.
- Damn. - And...
I just feel like I was played.
♪ ♪
- ♪ we're all waiting for the world to wake up ♪
♪ open their eyes to the sunrise ♪
♪ ♪
- Whew. Feels good out here.
Baby, you want some sunscreen?
- Yes, please. - All right.
- Baby, you got us on, like, a real hike.
- Yeah. - This ain't no trail.
This is, like, a hike-hike?
- I don't think stacia really likes
All the super outdoorsy stuff.
You know, she's definitely a city girl.
But it's something that I really enjoy.
And so I'm excited for us to, you know, do this together,
Because hiking really gets rid of the chatter
Inside the--inside the mind.
And with decision day coming up,
I think that's healthy for both of us.
♪ ♪
All right, let's hike.
- What zone are we gonna get into right now?
- We're gonna get in the alpha zone.
- Alpha zone. - Yeah.
♪ ♪
- This is relaxing.
- Yeah.
- Breathe in, breathe out.
- Oh, there's a snake, for real--
- No, no, no, no.
- No, that's not a snake.
I'm seeing [bleep].
Sorry, my bad. [laughs]
I thought it was.
- [laughing]
♪ ♪
I want to continue to do stuff like this.
Like, I don't want it to just be, like, a sporadic thing.
- Yeah.
- I know we're gonna work a lot at times.
But... - Right.
- I want to be able to still make time for us.
- Yeah, definitely.
But I don't think we're gonna be able
To have a lot of fun when we have a brand-new newborn.
I'm just being realistic.
- I think it's gonna be fun.
- Okay.
Noted.
So I actually have a little surprise for you
At the picnic table.
- Really? - Yeah.
It's like a little creative california activity.
- Okay. - You're gonna learn.
- I'm excited. Oh, I'm gonna learn?
- You gonna learn today.
- Okay. - Yeah.
All right, here you go.
Have a seat.
- What is this?
- We're about to make chips and guac, girl.
- Oh, really?
- From scratch.
♪ ♪
- Okay.
- So what I'll do is I'll cut up the avocados.
You cut up the limes.
- Okay, how do you want the limes cut?
- Cut one in half, so we can squeeze it into the bowl.
- Okay.
- And then cut this one into quarters.
All right, so let's talk about fun and kids.
I don't know how that goes hand in hand.
- I just don't want to be boring parents,
Where all we're doing is...
- I understand that. - Taking care of kids.
Like, I want to be able to, like, have kids
And still have fun
And still do things that we enjoy doing,
Where our life is not revolving around just having a kid,
And that's all we are worried about,
That's all our time goes to.
Like, I don't want that.
♪ ♪
- [laughs]
I think fun and babies--
There's no--there's no, like, fun and babies.
I don't think they go hand in hand.
Traveling, you know, going on vacations
While having a newborn baby,
I don't think it's gonna be fun.
- So then what do you envision?
- I envision going hard and being a full-time dad
At age, like, zero all the way to, like,
Around... I would say at least three.
- And then that means, like, no vacations,
No date nights, no--
- Still go on dates, but like, going on a vacation
For a week--for a whole week?
That's a lot. - Mm-hmm.
- It's a whole baby that is completely dependent.
- I get that. We're gonna be able to--
- Because we still have to raise a--
Like, literally a newborn, [bleep] everywhere,
Pissing everywhere.
We've gotta feed it six times a day,
Napping everywhere.
Got to put clothes on it.
That don't sound like fun to me.
- It's gonna be tough. - That sounds like a job.
- It's gonna be tough. Granted, it's gonna be tough.
But that's your baby.
♪ ♪
It does seem like he doesn't believe
That you can still be a fun person
And then also have kids.
So I'm not sure if nate's gonna be ready
To have kids in a year.
So I'm disappointed.
But only time can tell.
Can I ask you a question?
Are you nervous about all of these transitions
And changes that would be happening after decision day?
- A little bit. - Yeah.
- I think it's natural, though, to be nervous.
- Yeah. - Am I--am I, like, fearful?
Like, am I, like, getting cold feet?
- Mm-hmm. - No.
But I'm gonna be immersed with somebody.
Not only moving in with them,
But we're gonna eventually combine our finances together.
These are all things that I've never done
In my entire life before. - Mm-hmm.
It's gonna be change. It's gonna be different.
- Mm-hmm.
- You know, I've been on my own too.
- Mm-hmm. - Doing my own thing,
Not having to compromise at all.
But I'm excited.
And I'm hopeful and optimistic about the future.
- Okay.
Well, what if I start getting on your nerves,
And I'm all in your--
- You already do.
♪ ♪
- But now I'm in your house, though.
- We live together right now.
- Yeah, but it's not a real house.
- So what would be the difference
Between us arguing in the apartment
Versus in the house?
♪ ♪
- The difference is I'm living in your house.
And I feel--
I feel vulnerable living in your house.
Even though it's "our house," it's really your house.
- Okay, is there anything that I can do
To, like, make you feel more comfortable?
Granted, yeah, I have a vision
Of how I want the house to look like
And the furniture and everything,
But it's going to be a dual decision.
- Will it ever get to the point
Where you would want to kick me out?
- No.
I told you that I would never say that to you.
- Okay.
I guess my fear is just like,
If things were to get bad
And, let's say--knock on wood--
We decide to get separated, we decide to end it,
Where do I go?
I'll be homeless.
[dramatic music]
♪ ♪
[upbeat music]
♪ ♪
[knock on door]
- Oh, I think our friends are here.
[tense music]
There's still a lot of awkwardness
And uncomfortableness between lindy and I.
And we thought it would be a good idea
To, like, blow off some steam.
- Oh, my gosh, how cute!
- I like how you guys coordinated.
- How are you? - I'm good.
So tonight, we're having friends over
To play some dungeons and dragons, baby.
And I am very much looking forward
To sharing my passion for dungeons and dragons
With lindy.
- We're--we're just gonna start from ground zero.
And... - Yeah.
- No judgment here. I know you've never played.
I know I've never played. We don't know what's up.
But these two will show us the ropes.
- It's gonna be very bumpy for us.
- We got you. We got you.
Apologies in advance.
- Yeah, if you guys have any questions...
- Well, yeah, there'll be lots of questions.
- Ask away. Ask me, ask frankie.
So I'll describe the world.
And then you guys can go around, be creative,
Use your imagination.
The answer is almost never a no.
It's a, "let's try to figure it out."
So this is basically set in a small rural town
Called mafstoria.
[folk music]
In mafstoria, something is terrorizing these people
That has wings.
So let's say you approach the tavern.
It's called the big swig tavern.
- Okay. - But there's a--
A dwarf that seems to be the owner.
When he greets you, he's like...
[with irish accent] oi, lass, name is gristle.
What can I do for you?
♪ ♪
- Oh, whoa, we're starting with me?
- [normal voice] yeah. - Oh, I don't know what to do.
- Interact with the bartender.
- Okay, um...
I'd like whiskey, kind, handsome stranger.
[laughter]
- When you say "handsome stranger,"
He kind of, like--he lets out a little bit of a sob.
He's like... - Oh, my god.
- I mean, today was supposed to be my wedding day.
But she decided to...
To leave me for someone else.
- [laughing] oh, my god.
[quirky music]
I'm so sorry to hear that.
- We were so very much in love.
And within just, like, a matter of a week,
Some pompous fool just comes in
And kind of, like, sweeps her off her feet.
I just never thought that would happen to us.
It just seemed so very, like, out of place for her.
- Excuse me, sir, do you mind if I ask
What the pompous fool looked like?
- Just go to the church.
Because someone is still getting married,
It's just not me.
I'm just not the right person.
- Oh, my god.
- Sorry about your wedding.
I turn and leave.
You guys want to come?
- Yes.
♪ ♪
It is important for me to get excited
About this passion of his.
But you know, like, d&d is so confusing.
I'm like, roll for it, calculating, there's math,
There's different die--die?
Dice? I don't even know.
- Give me, like, a self roll. - What's that?
- Roll a d20. - Roll a d20.
- So the biggest die, the one that looks most round.
Yeah. - Yeah.
- Definitely complicated.
- Yeah, so you walk in.
But you get the impression that, like, something is off.
Like, she doesn't seem like a happy bride
About to kiss her groom.
- Well, I'll tell you why.
[laughing] I'm sorry. Go on.
- Um, you see him kind of eager for it,
And you just kind of see her just going with the motions,
Kind of like--you know?
- Yeah. - Yeah.
What do you guys do?
- Do we think she's trapped in this marriage?
♪ ♪
- Maybe she's just, like, captivated by him.
Maybe she's under a spell.
- Maybe.
- Do I have permission to punch him in the face?
Is that an option?
- You can absolutely try. - [laughing]
- And when you hit him, he swaps out.
And what you now see is this.
- Oh, he's a [bleep] demon?
- I don't know. That's what you see.
- What the [bleep] is that? - [laughs]
- As miguel is explaining the story line for this game,
It's almost like he's talking about us and our relationship.
But...No.
Yeah, I don't trust this guy.
♪ ♪
[upbeat music]
♪ ♪
- It's good to be back. - It's good to have you back.
- Thanks, babe.
- We were like, it's a little quiet around here.
- This is gonna be a nice weekend.
We'll see what the ocean
Is offering today. - Yes.
- I have a feeling it's gonna be big, windy, and sloppy.
That's... - Oh, god.
- Not the best case scenario.
But you know, like, I'm a cup half full kind of guy.
- Are you? - Am I?
- [laughs] are you? - Am I?
- [laughs]
I am excited to just spend time with you.
I don't know if I'm in, like, a huge shredding mood.
- It's more of a hungover, feel like [bleep] day for me,
If we're being honest.
- What did you do last night to be so hungover?
- Well, we had a dinner.
And then we hit the bar.
And it just happened to be karaoke night.
Definitely thought of you.
You'd be proud, actually, because I started it off.
I got the party jumping. [laughs]
- Um, do you--is your-- is your ring in the car?
Did you lose your ring? - No.
- Okay. - It's right here, sorry.
[tense music]
I'm married again.
- Were you not married?
- Uh, I was to all my close friends that I know.
But I was not ready to be married for the whole--
For my whole company.
It was just too much. - Yeah.
- I would have been forced to go up and do
A full presentation with slides.
♪ ♪
- Um, were there any cute girls on this trip?
- [laughs] oh, jealous type.
- Was that a jealous question? - No.
- Or just a question? - I know.
Yeah, I mean, there is--
You know, what--what--[sighs]
- [laughs]
- You know, they're all just dog ugly
Now that I'm married to you, actually.
I don't even--it's like I don't even see women anymore.
You go to any beach town,
There's always cute girls in the beach world,
You know what I mean?
So yeah, there were some cute surf rider girls.
It's--it's really a lot of girls.
I'm a dude among ladies there.
There's, like, few of us guys.
♪ ♪
- He's just straight up.
"I didn't wear my ring.
There were hot beach babes at the conference."
♪ ♪
- So we raised at the bar.
You know, after the party, it's the hotel lobby.
After the lobby, it's the after-party.
Well, you know, whatever.
And I was up late,
And I was hungover this morning,
So there you go.
- [laughing]
♪ ♪
He was just so forthcoming with that information.
- Saving the world is stressful,
So you gotta have some fun.
♪ ♪
[upbeat music]
- ♪ hot girl and a hot body ♪
♪ get my cutoff jeans, then I ain't got time ♪
♪ many people hustle like me ♪
♪ 'cause doing heavy lifting was life ♪
♪ whoa, whoa, whoa ♪
- Me and mitch are trying to enjoy each other's company,
Have fun.
I'm just thinking about me and mitch as a whole.
- Everything's clean and very well-prepared, so...
It's been a long week.
- I'm not thrilled that mitch
Didn't wear his ring on his conference
And was living it up with the beach babes.
But I'm gonna try and let it go.
Is this one mine?
- That's your suit.
- I wouldn't say we are, like, a picture perfect marriage,
Hand in hand every day.
And I wouldn't say that we're estranged.
I think we're somewhere in the middle.
- ♪ we feelin' all right ♪
♪ we livin' our life ♪
- You got it! [laughs]
Yes! Yes, pup! Yes!
Look at her go!
♪ ♪
She loves it! [luna barks]
- ♪ ain't no stoppin' ♪
[laughs] oh, my god.
- ♪ can't stop us now ♪
♪ ♪
Gosh, mitch and luna are so adorable!
I almost got emotional.
It was just so sweet.
They looked like they were having so much fun together.
The look on her face, I can't tell if she's excited
Or if she's scared.
I'm not sure, but it's super cute.
- Nice job out there.
Luna too. - Yeah.
- Not too shabby for a pug. - That was the highlight,
I think, of my whole week.
And you were so sweet with her.
I will say I felt like the surfing
Was kind of like our marriage.
♪ ♪
- Yeah.
- Wave after wave,
And we kept going over them together.
But then the waves kept coming.
But once--once you get over all the--
You know, getting smacked in the face,
Wave after wave after wave, when you get past the break,
There's, like, a moment of silence.
- Yeah, it's peaceful out there once you're past--
- It's very peaceful.
- Yeah. - Just like our marriage.
♪ ♪
- There's definitely, like, a lot that is going well.
But it's hard, you know?
It's like this week has very much been the old me.
I took the ring off,
And I'm hanging out with all my old friends
And doing stuff that I would do.
And then coming back to krysten,
It feels really good too.
But it just feels like there's this--
This just wide separation between my lives.
And I don't know, maybe that's how marriage is
For a lot of people, but for me,
I feel--that's new.
That's very new for me.
- She is the happiest she has ever been.
You a happy girl?
- You surfed, shredded.
- She didn't surf, she shredded.
- My shreddy wife and my shreddy pug.
- ♪ in the force of life ♪
♪ ♪
[upbeat music]
♪ ♪
- What about that d&d session?
- I know! - [laughs]
- ♪ do you want it? ♪
♪ baby, I got it ♪
- I'm so happy you were, like, down to just play
And be in that world.
That was really fun. - It's so nice,
'cause I haven't seen you in, like, two weeks.
So I wanted to hear what's going on.
- A lot has happened since I've seen you.
Miguel's been so consistent
For the past, what, seven weeks?
Just so consistent.
And this last weekend, it's been [bleep] horrible.
[tense music]
Like, horrible.
- More recently, we've been having, like, these--
These what I would call--
It's funny, because she doesn't consider them
Big miscommunication issues. - Mm-hmm.
- But for me, they have been, like,
Really big miscommunication issues
That do make me a little bit more insecure
Of, like, our future
And whether we're right for each other.
- I don't think he understands, like, a relationship--
Like, the fundamentals of marriage.
I really--I don't.
The criticism and control, like--
- What do you mean the control? Like the name?
- The control.
Like, he wants me to act a certain way
And be a certain way that fits his agenda.
He's, like, offended that I interrupt him.
I am too aggressive.
I'm too--I yell.
I'm too emotional.
Anything that, like, defines me as a human existing--
Like, he's dampening me as a person.
And that's not how this works.
I'm a whole person.
I'm a whole being.
Where's the compromise that makes sense?
And it feels very much like, "you bend to me,
Or I'm [bleep] done."
And he knows how much I [bleep] love him
And would do anything to make this work.
- I feel really bad, because I have hurt her
By, like, voicing my uncertainty and my doubt,
And whether we're right for each other,
And whether, like, this works.
- Mm-hmm. - And she doesn't like it.
She's like, "why are you-- like, one disagreement
Doesn't mean this doesn't work."
She's like, "this doesn't work
When you start to think it doesn't work, you know?"
And when you voice that, it doesn't work.
She's like, "that's when I start to feel
Scary and uncertain."
- I think she just doesn't want you to stop trying.
- Yeah. I still love her.
I still want this to work.
But right now, this is not working for me.
♪ ♪
- I almost feel like I'm losing my fight.
I'm losing my fight with him.
And I just want to be like, "I'm sorry, okay?
"I'm only gonna look at you when you're talking.
"I won't get distracted.
"uh, I'll never interrupt you.
I'll make sure you're done speaking beforehand."
And it feels like that's what he wants,
And that's what he needs, and I'm like, that's not me.
That's not a human.
That's a [bleep] blowup doll.
He's [bleep] just sucking it from my soul right now.
He just shuts down and pushes me away
And makes me feel like a [bleep] piece of [bleep]
Over and over and over again.
I don't know.
I'm like--I'm at my--
I'm [bleep] at my breaking point.
♪ ♪
It's alarming.
I feel afraid to talk to him about some stuff
Because I just feel like he's gonna be like,
"well, I'm done," and leave me.
[somber music]
That's what it feels like.
It's like if I actually tell him what's up,
Like, he can't [bleep] handle the truth.
If he were to hear this right now, he'd be done.
- But then he leaves, and he wasn't your right person.
You have to say what you want to say.
You can't be a mouse and say nothing.
Just be yourself.
And hopefully, like, this is just stress for him.
But you can't be a mouse and not say what you want.
Like, that's even worse to, like,
Stay in it if, like, it's not working.
- [crying] yeah, I don't know.
I'm just...
- ♪ alone in the dark, I can't move ♪
- So confused because I had
This same person for so many weeks,
And then it's just a different person.
So I'm just trying to understand.
- I'm sorry. Come here.
- ♪ I'm searching now for something ♪
♪ finding... ♪
- It's gonna be okay. You have tons of friends.
♪ ♪
- [sobbing]
- ♪ tomorrow's better than today ♪
- It's okay. It's okay.
- ♪ feel it, feel it ♪
- ♪ there's tension in the air tonight ♪
[humming]
♪ replaying moments through my mind ♪
♪ oh, oh ♪
Anybody can do that.
I think, you know, with his mom not being in his life,
That's triggering to him.
You know he's gonna have this ideal
Of how I should be as a wife and as a mother
To his children.
I mean, just the conversation of us being fun parents
On the hike, it was-- he was completely,
Like, shutting me down.
And when I asked him, like, what kind of fun
Did you think I was talking about,
It was, like, irresponsible fun--
Getting drunk and, you know,
Being young and dumb
And abandoning my children or my kid.
Like, I don't even do those things now.
So why would you think I would do those when I have a kid?
But it's not even giving me the credit
Of, like, who I am as a person.
- ♪ we're all in a hunt now ♪
♪ no play in the background, no coming for my crown ♪
♪ I'm here for the win ♪
- Ooh, this is a good lemon.
- When life gives you lemons, make whiskey sours.
Boop. - Let's just go ahead and--
- Hey, friends.
- Hey. - What up? What up? What up?
- How are you? - Hi, honey bee.
- You guys look great. Good to see you.
- How are you? - Happy day--
- Hello, hello.
- Excited you guys are here.
- Hey, bud.
- We--well, I won't speak for you.
I am always so excited to see justin and alexis.
I feel the closest to both of them
Since we started this journey.
And I will take all the time we can get with them.
- Her and alexis talk every day.
They're frickin' bffs. - [laughs]
Have faith in the process.
Trust the process, as pastor cal would say.
- Yes.
- Marriage ain't for punks.
- Mm. - That is fair.
- You want to play ping pong?
[upbeat music]
Okay, are we doing couple versus couple?
- Yeah.
♪ ♪
- All right, that's one.
- ♪ here we go ♪
♪ I want to tell you what I came for ♪
♪ I want to show you what I know you want ♪
- Yours! - Ah!
- Hey! Good round!
- The mvp tonight is definitely justin.
- It's like, he just makes it look
Like he's not even trying.
He just stands there and looks like he's bored.
He doesn't give a [bleep], basically.
Excuse me--my french.
- Good job, friends. - That was good, y'all.
- The shame--I have to live with this shame.
- You do.
- Y'all deserve it. It was great.
- Comeback kids.
- It was neck and neck there. - Ain't it so?
- Congratulations. - Thank you so much.
- You guys won.
Not by a lot, but you did win, so...
- Greatest win in the history of ping pong...
- That was a good game. - If I do say so myself.
- That was a great game. That was fun.
- It felt like, you know, race to decision day.
- [groans]
- You're just in analogy mode.
- You know, leading up to decision day,
I've been making a lot of parallels
To what we've been doing--
Surfing, ping pong.
- Wait, so surfing, what happened?
Tell us.
- Well, I think we have to back all up.
Because when we got back from the couples retreat,
Mitch left that night to go to a conference.
- Mm.
- So he's been gone.
- We've been separated.
- How was that? Did you guys miss each other?
Were there texts? Were there facetimes?
- There were some texts and a facetime.
Krys, you were always on my mind.
It's just the truth.
But I was just really wrapped up in all the activities.
It's nonstop.
It's presentations all day.
It's lunch, it's dinner, it's going out afterwards.
And I was like, hey, you know, like,
It's kind of lonely up in my hotel room all by myself.
- Was there a jacuzzi there?
- There was.
We had a hot tub committee every night.
- Did you wear your ring the whole time?
- I did not.
[tense music]
- [laughs]
- She likes to put me in the hot seat.
- I'm teasing. No.
I really do trust him.
But it's nice to get a second opinion
And hear what they think, that's all.
- Why?
- Everyone's so interested in the gossip
And what's going on.
So I just--like, I didn't want to, like--
It's, like, stressful for me
To have to bring that into there,
You know what I mean, like, and, like, have my--
You know, the ceo and, like, my boss,
And be like, "hey," you know, like, you know what I mean?
Like, and then have to tell them all this story.
♪ ♪
- But couldn't you just wear it?
Like, it's just a semblance that you're off the market,
You get what I'm saying?
Like, you didn't have to tell the back story.
- Yeah, you're right.
- Did that bother you that he didn't wear his ring,
Or is it just a question?
- I think--it's tough,
Because there was a hot tub, and he did not wear his ring.
- And there was just me
And 100 beautiful ladies, all naked.
I had my ring on, but it was my [bleep] ring.
- Holy [bleep]!
[laughter]
- Nate let me borrow his [bleep] ring.
- Mitch, why are you continuing?
Stop.
- But it was much too big for me. Okay--[laughs]
- [laughs] anyway...
- So I had to smelt it down.
- I can't believe that he would say that, you know?
But I mean, that's mitch.
♪ ♪
- What did you guys do this week?
- Uh, my best friend came down to pick up mya.
- Oh. That did happen. - Ooh.
- Oh. - Yep. The big dog...
- Mm-hmm. - Exchange.
- Yes. He drove back.
It was a 17-hour drive, roughly.
- Damn, that's a lot of hours.
That's a lot of driving for a human and a dog.
- Yeah, that's a good friend right there.
- Yeah. - That's a really good friend.
- So yeah, that happened this week.
Um...
- We were talking about decision day,
And really stickling,
Making sure we're on the same page.
Because I told justin I'm not 100%, I'm 90%.
That 10%--10% speaks to me heavily sometimes.
- Yeah. - And he's just like,
"I don't know now."
♪ ♪
So for me, it's just like,
Is my answer dependent upon your answer?
Like, if I'm fully committed and I'm 100% in
And I know I'm giving my all,
Me saying no or, like,
Even saying, like, I'm undecided in the moment,
Should not mean anything.
He'd be like, "okay, I'm gonna still try and give it my all."
But now that you're kind of like,
"well, if you're undecided, then I'm undecided, too,"
I'm just like, wait, what?
- You know-- - you know--sorry.
- All right, go ahead. - I was gonna ask you
A more specific question.
- Sure. - But I don't have to.
- Okay.
- We love your questions, mitch.
Go ahead.
- Is the 90% good enough for you?
♪ ♪
- 90% ain't good enough for me.
It's not. - Damn.
[dramatic music]
[tense music]
- If she had told me, "hey, justin,
"let's hold off on mya, because I'm not sure
If I'm gonna say yes or no," just to simplify things,
It plays a role in my decision.
Because if you're 90%
And there's a chance you can say no,
Then I just made that decision for no reason.
- But, justin, you want me to be with you
And be 100% 'cause you gave your dog away?
Like, you don't want me to be 100% 'cause I love you,
Because I want to stay, because all these other facts?
You think that should be-- - no, no, of course that.
But what I'm saying is, that was a sacrifice...
- Yeah, I understand that. - You know what I'm saying?
That I made for the marriage. - Mm-hmm.
- And so when I thought about when I ask you,
I just needed that affirmation, you know, yeah,
You'll tell me that, hey--
- And we're looking at apartments, and we're...
- Exactly. - Moving...
- Exactly. - So...
- But I just needed that affirmation,
Just that yes.
And so I thought about what you said at the retreat.
You was like, "sometimes you just need that affirmation."
- Yeah, no, I need it. I need it.
- And I needed that in that moment,
Because I hadn't heard that yes.
And it was everything but that.
- Could I have said yes?
I could have.
But a yes that-- followed by a "but"
Is not really a yes... [laughter]
In my opinion.
So I was just trying to do my due diligence
And cover all stops.
And I apologize. I do.
I really do apologize.
- It is one [bleep] week away.
You either know or you don't.
♪ ♪
- As someone who's not sure herself,
If I was 90,
It would be hard for me to say yes.
- That's all I'm saying.
- Okay. All right.
- You know, like, one way to see it is, like,
90% is, like, pretty good odds.
And, like, no marriage is perfect.
Nobody's perfect. There's always gonna be [bleep]
You don't like about your spouse, like...
And there's always gonna be a part of you that has doubts
And that wants to just cut and run.
Like, that part's gonna exist.
And it's just, like, it's not the worst thing
To just acknowledge that. - Yeah.
- But again, at that moment, it's just probably
Not what you wanted to hear, you know what I mean?
Like, I don't know.
- I mean, I feel for you, justin.
I could not even fathom my dog--
You know, giving my dog away.
But at the same time, we have to base this
Off of our marriage
And about how our marriage makes us feel
And if we are the best version of each other with each other
And wanting to see that continue or not.
- Yeah. I look at it like that, too,
But I've also been so uprooted from my old life.
And it's hard for me.
Like, it's like, I need to go surf.
I need to ride my bike.
Like, I haven't been doing that [bleep].
I think that's an argument for decision day,
Even if we're not necessarily 100% sure
On the life of marriage and the perfect match
And everything like that.
- I'm just gonna say something.
Instead of this, "I would like to see how things could go
With my electric bike in the mix,"
I would love it if you would say
Something along the lines of, "you are an incredible woman.
I can't imagine my life without you now that I've had you."
- You want him to say that?
- I--I do want him to say that.
- What if he don't mean that [bleep]?
- Then don't say it, and I'm outie.
On the electric bike, I'm going,
Bzzz, right down the road.
- But I'm just saying, he could still say it
And not mean it.
Because you're saying-- - mitch isn't a liar.
- Mitch can't say... - He can't lie.
- Something he doesn't mean.
Even if he means it sometimes, it's hard for him to say it.
- She knows her husband.
- He can't say something he doesn't mean.
- I get it. And that's actually
Kind of what you had said, too, earlier, I thought.
It's almost like you want it to be proved to you,
You know what I mean?
Maybe I misunderstood that.
- No, no, no, no, we're all on the same page.
It's like, given the past, if there hadn't been
So much turbulence and uncertainty,
I wouldn't need that.
- Yeah. - I would feel it in here.
But since I don't feel it in here,
I do need a little bit more of a declaration.
And I want you to be the one to say it,
Since I feel like I have declared,
Multiple times in front of multiple people.
But he can't say stuff like that if he doesn't mean it.
♪ ♪
So I'm thinking, is the last eight weeks
Something I want to continue?
And that's how I'm looking at it.
- ♪ appreciated you and me, I love you better than ♪
♪ ♪
- ♪ why don't you light the flame? ♪
♪ fire to guide the way ♪
♪ ooh, take me high, I'm waiting for your love ♪
- I think venting to friends can be healthy and cathartic.
I think one has to be conscious of never being disrespectful.
I would never [bleep]-talk lindy,
Or I would never talk poorly about lindy with my friends.
And I was made a little uncomfortable
Because of how heavy everything seemed.
I'm like, whoa, what went on?
What was said? I wasn't there.
I have no idea.
[sighs]
If she's venting about me, then the best person for her
To do that with should be me, I would think, right?
But if you're gonna go to your friends
And kind of just, like, vent and [bleep]-talk,
What's the purpose of that?
It's almost like, just, like, self-gratifying.
But nothing's gonna change.
[dramatic music]
[sobbing]
- Next time on "married at first sight"...
- Ahh! - Let's go!
- With decision day just a few days away...
- Hi, candace.
- Our couples will have the chance to talk
To their trusted loved ones before making
The biggest decision of their lives.
- This isn't "best friends at first sight," you know?
This is "married at first sight."
- I gave mya away.
I was under the impression
That it was an automatic yes on her end.
- Maybe she ain't the one for you, you know?
- When I am with him,
Time kind of doesn't exist, in a good way.
- I'm afraid to lose you, for sure.
And I don't want to lose you.
- I don't know if I can be this person day in, day out.
- I feel like we're going through the motions.
- Do you think I'm going through the motions
When I have a [bleep] tattoo on my hand?
♪ ♪
I'm done.
I don't want to [bleep] talk
About that [bleep] no more.
- I just don't know
If I can even have conversations with my husband.
- Let the cards fall where they may,
Because at this point, there's nothing else I can do.
♪ ♪