1 00:00:01,669 --> 00:00:02,817 - Nice to meet you. - You too. 2 00:00:02,911 --> 00:00:03,669 Pleasure. - We shake hands? 3 00:00:03,820 --> 00:00:04,895 - [laughs] 4 00:00:04,913 --> 00:00:06,563 - 10 fearless singles 5 00:00:06,656 --> 00:00:08,415 Took a daring leap of faith 6 00:00:08,567 --> 00:00:10,009 In order to find love. 7 00:00:10,160 --> 00:00:12,660 They married as complete strangers. 8 00:00:12,680 --> 00:00:14,921 [cheers and applause] 9 00:00:15,074 --> 00:00:17,741 And in just over a week, they'll have to decide 10 00:00:17,760 --> 00:00:19,667 Whether they want to stay married 11 00:00:19,762 --> 00:00:21,411 Or get a divorce. 12 00:00:21,430 --> 00:00:23,838 [dramatic music] 13 00:00:23,858 --> 00:00:25,691 - Oh, my gosh! 14 00:00:25,918 --> 00:00:28,360 - Last time, our couples embarked on a retreat 15 00:00:28,587 --> 00:00:30,270 In hopes of strengthening their marriage 16 00:00:30,364 --> 00:00:31,679 Before decision day. 17 00:00:31,774 --> 00:00:32,773 - ♪ flash, flash, polaroid ♪ 18 00:00:32,925 --> 00:00:34,033 ♪ picking up steam ♪ 19 00:00:34,260 --> 00:00:35,926 - Stacia and nate. 20 00:00:35,944 --> 00:00:36,943 [buzzing] 21 00:00:37,096 --> 00:00:38,686 - [breathes deeply] 22 00:00:38,781 --> 00:00:40,355 - You guys have vibrating panties on 23 00:00:40,449 --> 00:00:42,099 Or something? - What? What? 24 00:00:42,192 --> 00:00:43,375 - He's got the little remote control. 25 00:00:43,527 --> 00:00:45,602 - She's suffering right now, but it feels good. 26 00:00:45,695 --> 00:00:48,455 - Oh! He likes to see me suffer. 27 00:00:48,549 --> 00:00:49,531 - It's pretty hot. 28 00:00:49,550 --> 00:00:51,441 - Krysten and mitch. 29 00:00:51,460 --> 00:00:53,535 - This is, like, the most fun I've had 30 00:00:53,629 --> 00:00:54,869 Since we all met each other. 31 00:00:54,963 --> 00:00:56,780 For me, it was just a blast. 32 00:00:56,799 --> 00:00:58,448 And I love spending time with you guys. 33 00:00:58,542 --> 00:00:59,950 And I love spending time with mitch too. 34 00:00:59,968 --> 00:01:02,636 - Thanks, babe. I had a great time too. 35 00:01:02,730 --> 00:01:04,805 - Alexis and justin. 36 00:01:04,957 --> 00:01:05,956 - For me, it's just like, I don't have to 37 00:01:06,049 --> 00:01:07,641 Go through some things to realize, like, 38 00:01:07,793 --> 00:01:09,884 Oh, I see how that may have made me feel. 39 00:01:09,904 --> 00:01:11,128 I'm not that type of learner. 40 00:01:11,146 --> 00:01:13,297 - Remember that--that thing where I told you 41 00:01:13,315 --> 00:01:15,056 I'm worried about you quitting? - Yeah. 42 00:01:15,076 --> 00:01:16,909 - I feel like that's what that's gonna be. 43 00:01:17,136 --> 00:01:18,819 ♪ ♪ 44 00:01:18,913 --> 00:01:20,637 - Lindy and miguel. 45 00:01:20,730 --> 00:01:22,806 - That [bleep] doesn't fly, ever. 46 00:01:22,899 --> 00:01:25,400 You don't talk to me like that, ever. 47 00:01:25,494 --> 00:01:26,827 A little affirmation to your husband 48 00:01:26,979 --> 00:01:28,812 Ain't gonna kill you. - [sighs] come on. 49 00:01:28,831 --> 00:01:30,831 [crying] everything I do is not right. 50 00:01:30,925 --> 00:01:32,407 He told me--he's like, 51 00:01:32,426 --> 00:01:34,593 "I don't know, I might be done." 52 00:01:34,820 --> 00:01:35,743 ♪ ♪ 53 00:01:35,838 --> 00:01:37,003 - ♪ too fast, too fly, too... ♪ 54 00:01:37,098 --> 00:01:38,246 - And tonight... 55 00:01:38,265 --> 00:01:40,324 - You got it! 56 00:01:40,417 --> 00:01:42,434 - Our couples must face the reality 57 00:01:42,586 --> 00:01:45,104 Of their daily lives together in the present... 58 00:01:45,255 --> 00:01:46,330 - We are lit. 59 00:01:46,348 --> 00:01:47,497 - In order to figure out 60 00:01:47,516 --> 00:01:48,999 If their marriage is right for them 61 00:01:49,017 --> 00:01:50,183 In the future. 62 00:01:50,277 --> 00:01:52,018 - I do love you so much. 63 00:01:52,171 --> 00:01:54,504 And I want to figure out how to make this work. 64 00:01:54,523 --> 00:01:56,615 - Are there any cute girls on this trip? 65 00:01:56,842 --> 00:01:59,267 - There's always cute girls in the beach world. 66 00:01:59,361 --> 00:02:00,619 It's really a lot of girls. 67 00:02:00,770 --> 00:02:02,195 - Is your ring in the car? 68 00:02:02,289 --> 00:02:04,181 - No. It's right here, sorry. 69 00:02:04,199 --> 00:02:05,940 [dramatic music] 70 00:02:05,960 --> 00:02:07,775 - It is one [bleep] week away. 71 00:02:07,795 --> 00:02:09,628 You either know, or you don't. 72 00:02:09,855 --> 00:02:11,797 - If things were to get bad, I'll be homeless. 73 00:02:12,024 --> 00:02:15,208 ♪ ♪ 74 00:02:15,361 --> 00:02:16,376 I had to make a choice. 75 00:02:16,470 --> 00:02:17,803 And boy, it was hard. 76 00:02:18,030 --> 00:02:20,305 ♪ ♪ 77 00:02:20,457 --> 00:02:22,641 - He just shuts down and pushes me away 78 00:02:22,868 --> 00:02:24,885 And makes me feel like a [bleep] piece of [bleep] 79 00:02:24,979 --> 00:02:26,961 Over and over and over again. 80 00:02:26,981 --> 00:02:28,872 I'm [bleep] at my breaking point. 81 00:02:28,891 --> 00:02:33,393 ♪ ♪ 82 00:02:33,487 --> 00:02:35,045 - ♪ it's all or nothing ♪ 83 00:02:35,063 --> 00:02:37,564 - This is "married at first sight." 84 00:02:37,658 --> 00:02:39,883 - ♪ there's no other way ♪ 85 00:02:39,902 --> 00:02:41,385 ♪ ♪ 86 00:02:41,478 --> 00:02:44,054 ♪ it's all or nothing ♪ 87 00:02:44,072 --> 00:02:45,497 [upbeat music] 88 00:02:45,724 --> 00:02:48,909 - ♪ you are killing me slowly ♪ 89 00:02:49,003 --> 00:02:52,171 ♪ I am still trying to rewind the time ♪ 90 00:02:52,398 --> 00:02:54,731 ♪ ♪ 91 00:02:54,824 --> 00:02:56,157 - Usually, right when things happen, 92 00:02:56,177 --> 00:02:59,403 I have a sense of where to go to find the solution. 93 00:02:59,421 --> 00:03:01,254 But when I hit a wall, it's tough for me. 94 00:03:01,407 --> 00:03:03,256 I look back at how I was this week, 95 00:03:03,350 --> 00:03:05,184 And there were moments where I was just nasty. 96 00:03:05,411 --> 00:03:06,834 - It's no secret miguel and lindy 97 00:03:06,929 --> 00:03:09,579 Have definitely had a different weekend than the rest of us. 98 00:03:09,598 --> 00:03:11,765 You know, they weren't around at dinner last night. 99 00:03:11,917 --> 00:03:14,509 They--I think they got in a little bit of a fight before. 100 00:03:14,528 --> 00:03:16,177 So they weren't in a great headspace coming in. 101 00:03:16,271 --> 00:03:17,345 And also, miguel's just-- 102 00:03:17,439 --> 00:03:19,681 I think he's just reaching 103 00:03:19,700 --> 00:03:20,924 His wit's end on some stuff. 104 00:03:20,943 --> 00:03:22,592 - You know, I was just like, "don't touch me. 105 00:03:22,686 --> 00:03:23,610 Like, I don't want to talk right now." 106 00:03:23,704 --> 00:03:25,687 And that's not me. - Yeah. 107 00:03:25,781 --> 00:03:26,780 - I just hit a wall. 108 00:03:26,932 --> 00:03:28,022 - I don't know, it just sounds like 109 00:03:28,042 --> 00:03:30,450 He's got real specific expectations 110 00:03:30,544 --> 00:03:32,878 Of how she needs to be and how his wife needs to be. 111 00:03:33,105 --> 00:03:36,122 And you know, she's not a subservient wife. 112 00:03:36,275 --> 00:03:38,942 Yeah, that's never gonna be good. 113 00:03:39,035 --> 00:03:40,277 - It just has thrown me for such a loop. 114 00:03:40,295 --> 00:03:42,612 Because I thought I knew this person. 115 00:03:42,706 --> 00:03:44,205 And I'm happy that he's letting his guard down 116 00:03:44,299 --> 00:03:46,466 And letting me see real parts of him. 117 00:03:46,618 --> 00:03:48,285 But there's a certain cost. 118 00:03:48,378 --> 00:03:50,395 Like, he still needs to respect me. 119 00:03:50,547 --> 00:03:52,898 And if I feel like I'm just being disrespected 120 00:03:53,125 --> 00:03:55,049 And misunderstood over and over and over again, 121 00:03:55,143 --> 00:03:56,384 Like, that's not conducive. 122 00:03:56,478 --> 00:03:57,736 - Yeah. - And I feel like 123 00:03:57,887 --> 00:04:00,072 If I act out of line, and he does this, 124 00:04:00,299 --> 00:04:02,390 Then it's like--it's, like, training me to just be like... 125 00:04:02,484 --> 00:04:03,483 [rapid breathing] okay, miguel. 126 00:04:03,577 --> 00:04:04,409 Oh... - Yeah. 127 00:04:04,636 --> 00:04:05,969 - Oh, I can't speak. 128 00:04:06,062 --> 00:04:07,746 And I can't feel filtered like that. 129 00:04:07,897 --> 00:04:10,231 So I don't know where the compromise is. 130 00:04:10,325 --> 00:04:11,324 And that's where we're at. 131 00:04:11,477 --> 00:04:13,252 We don't know where the compromise is. 132 00:04:13,479 --> 00:04:15,587 ♪ ♪ 133 00:04:15,814 --> 00:04:17,071 - Justin has said a lot of these things to me. 134 00:04:17,165 --> 00:04:18,164 - Yeah. - But what worked for us is, 135 00:04:18,317 --> 00:04:19,424 The compromise, we had to figure out 136 00:04:19,576 --> 00:04:20,984 In the moment. 137 00:04:21,003 --> 00:04:22,502 So once we're feeling it happen again, 138 00:04:22,654 --> 00:04:24,004 We'll try something and be like, oh, [bleep], 139 00:04:24,156 --> 00:04:25,246 That didn't work, and then go back to the drawing board. 140 00:04:25,340 --> 00:04:27,081 You know, like, it's not always clear as day 141 00:04:27,175 --> 00:04:28,583 As, this is what we need to do. 142 00:04:28,602 --> 00:04:30,160 - Yeah, we don't have answers. 143 00:04:30,178 --> 00:04:31,845 - So just keep fighting for each other. 144 00:04:31,997 --> 00:04:33,105 And I know you guys can do that. 145 00:04:33,332 --> 00:04:35,665 - At the end of the day, he does have to accept you 146 00:04:35,759 --> 00:04:37,334 For all of you, you know what I mean? 147 00:04:37,427 --> 00:04:38,502 I mean, that's just marriage. 148 00:04:38,595 --> 00:04:39,594 Like, we'll all go through that, of like, 149 00:04:39,688 --> 00:04:40,837 This conflict between, like, 150 00:04:40,856 --> 00:04:42,263 I need to still be myself 151 00:04:42,283 --> 00:04:43,673 And do things that make me happy, 152 00:04:43,767 --> 00:04:46,676 But I also need to be your husband... 153 00:04:46,695 --> 00:04:48,028 - Mm-hmm. - Like, be a great husband. 154 00:04:48,122 --> 00:04:49,679 It's just this constant-- - gotta learn how to balance. 155 00:04:49,698 --> 00:04:51,698 - Constant fight of keeping your identity 156 00:04:51,850 --> 00:04:53,625 And keeping who you were, 157 00:04:53,777 --> 00:04:55,035 But also changing and growing... 158 00:04:55,187 --> 00:04:56,369 - Yeah, being flexible. 159 00:04:56,522 --> 00:04:58,371 - And like, it's so exhausting. 160 00:04:58,465 --> 00:05:00,040 - And what can you compromise, and where can you bend, 161 00:05:00,192 --> 00:05:02,025 But where can you not? And like-- 162 00:05:02,118 --> 00:05:03,468 - I truly think it's teamwork. - Yeah. 163 00:05:03,695 --> 00:05:05,637 - I truly think it's partnership, you know? 164 00:05:05,864 --> 00:05:07,806 And, like, you just gotta learn how to cohabitate 165 00:05:07,957 --> 00:05:09,215 And work together. 166 00:05:09,310 --> 00:05:11,034 - Yeah, because at the end of the day, like you said, 167 00:05:11,127 --> 00:05:13,145 He's gotta accept me for who I am. 168 00:05:13,296 --> 00:05:15,630 And I can't be second guessing and questioning 169 00:05:15,724 --> 00:05:17,482 Before I ever open my mouth. 170 00:05:17,709 --> 00:05:18,984 Because that's just-- like, that's control. 171 00:05:19,211 --> 00:05:20,544 - Yeah. 172 00:05:20,637 --> 00:05:22,470 - [crying] and that's another one of my-- 173 00:05:22,564 --> 00:05:24,214 I can't be controlled, so-- 174 00:05:24,232 --> 00:05:25,157 - Samesies, girl. 175 00:05:25,384 --> 00:05:27,233 Samesies. 176 00:05:27,328 --> 00:05:29,644 - I'm standing up for myself, and I'm not gonna let him 177 00:05:29,738 --> 00:05:31,646 Control my narrative and how I speak 178 00:05:31,665 --> 00:05:32,814 And who I am. 179 00:05:32,908 --> 00:05:34,499 He doesn't have that ability. 180 00:05:34,726 --> 00:05:36,393 He doesn't get that. 181 00:05:36,486 --> 00:05:38,244 He either sees me and accepts me, 182 00:05:38,339 --> 00:05:39,504 Or he doesn't want me. 183 00:05:39,731 --> 00:05:41,731 ♪ ♪ 184 00:05:41,750 --> 00:05:44,676 [somber music] 185 00:05:44,903 --> 00:05:48,663 ♪ ♪ 186 00:05:48,682 --> 00:05:51,074 - Do you wanna be alone? Or is it okay if I join you? 187 00:05:51,093 --> 00:05:53,743 ♪ ♪ 188 00:05:53,837 --> 00:05:56,188 - You were angry at me. I could feel it. 189 00:05:56,339 --> 00:05:57,856 Am I making that up? - No, you're not making it up. 190 00:05:58,007 --> 00:06:00,675 I was annoyed. 191 00:06:00,769 --> 00:06:03,195 - Well, I just sat there for 45 minutes 192 00:06:03,346 --> 00:06:05,088 Crying to our friends. - Mm-hmm. 193 00:06:05,181 --> 00:06:07,924 - Because I--I was like, "I did it again." 194 00:06:07,943 --> 00:06:11,519 I can't even exist without making him mad 195 00:06:11,613 --> 00:06:14,122 Or offending him or disrespecting him. 196 00:06:15,434 --> 00:06:19,102 It was, like, very harsh. 197 00:06:19,195 --> 00:06:20,528 - Right. I'm sorry. - Very harsh. 198 00:06:20,622 --> 00:06:23,215 - Okay. - Like, scary harsh. 199 00:06:23,366 --> 00:06:24,866 Like, I don't even want to get in the car with you 200 00:06:24,885 --> 00:06:26,534 After that encounter. 201 00:06:26,628 --> 00:06:28,128 I'm not bound down to this man. 202 00:06:28,280 --> 00:06:31,798 So we either do this and explode, 203 00:06:31,950 --> 00:06:34,284 Or we do this and this. 204 00:06:34,377 --> 00:06:36,377 And we figure out how we can make it work. 205 00:06:36,471 --> 00:06:38,563 And I don't know right now. 206 00:06:38,790 --> 00:06:41,625 Because at this point, I'm filtering myself so much. 207 00:06:41,718 --> 00:06:44,218 And this is-- this is my trigger. 208 00:06:44,312 --> 00:06:47,239 - Just please know that it wasn't that I was that angry. 209 00:06:49,968 --> 00:06:50,892 - But you were annoyed. 210 00:06:50,911 --> 00:06:51,801 - I was annoyed. 211 00:06:51,895 --> 00:06:53,578 And I was--and I was annoyed. 212 00:06:53,730 --> 00:06:55,247 And I think my heart rate was definitely elevated. 213 00:06:55,474 --> 00:06:57,657 And I was, like, riled up because of the game. 214 00:06:57,809 --> 00:06:58,658 - Thank you. - Yeah. 215 00:06:58,810 --> 00:07:00,234 - Okay. - Yeah. 216 00:07:00,328 --> 00:07:02,069 - That's--that's what I needed to hear. 217 00:07:02,089 --> 00:07:04,238 Because you discounted my reality. 218 00:07:04,332 --> 00:07:05,406 - No, well-- - it made me second-guess 219 00:07:05,426 --> 00:07:07,074 What I was experiencing. - No, no, no, no. 220 00:07:07,169 --> 00:07:09,502 You definitely perceived it. 221 00:07:09,655 --> 00:07:11,004 You perceived it right. 222 00:07:11,156 --> 00:07:12,580 I think it's just that, like, you-- 223 00:07:12,599 --> 00:07:14,081 I just want to make sure that you understand 224 00:07:14,101 --> 00:07:15,583 That I was not-- 225 00:07:15,602 --> 00:07:18,511 The level that you perceived me, of anger, that was not-- 226 00:07:18,664 --> 00:07:20,254 - I understand. - Okay. 227 00:07:20,274 --> 00:07:21,255 Yeah. 228 00:07:21,275 --> 00:07:23,183 - Yes. 229 00:07:23,277 --> 00:07:24,668 Thank you. 230 00:07:24,686 --> 00:07:27,779 [breathes deeply] 231 00:07:28,006 --> 00:07:31,174 ♪ ♪ 232 00:07:31,267 --> 00:07:33,343 - With the retreat coming to an end, 233 00:07:33,361 --> 00:07:36,455 We hope the couples have taken this time to really think 234 00:07:36,682 --> 00:07:38,940 About what they've learned from their spouses 235 00:07:38,959 --> 00:07:41,851 And the other couples, as well as what it all means 236 00:07:41,870 --> 00:07:44,020 For their individual marriages. 237 00:07:44,039 --> 00:07:47,281 And with the clock ticking towards decision day, 238 00:07:47,375 --> 00:07:50,802 Now is the time to examine the marriage from every angle, 239 00:07:50,954 --> 00:07:53,863 Leaving no stone unturned, 240 00:07:53,957 --> 00:07:56,032 Because in just over a week, 241 00:07:56,051 --> 00:07:58,551 They'll have to make that life-altering decision 242 00:07:58,704 --> 00:08:01,554 To stay married or get a divorce. 243 00:08:01,707 --> 00:08:02,889 - All right. 244 00:08:02,983 --> 00:08:06,042 [quirky music] 245 00:08:06,061 --> 00:08:09,229 I'm ready to get back to civilization. 246 00:08:09,323 --> 00:08:11,490 - How do you feel, overall, this weekend went? 247 00:08:11,717 --> 00:08:12,974 ♪ ♪ 248 00:08:12,993 --> 00:08:15,218 - It went amazing to me. - Yeah. 249 00:08:15,237 --> 00:08:16,644 - For others, not so amazing. But for us... 250 00:08:16,663 --> 00:08:17,829 - Exactly. - Good. 251 00:08:18,056 --> 00:08:19,389 ♪ ♪ 252 00:08:19,407 --> 00:08:20,890 - I'm always sad when-- 253 00:08:20,909 --> 00:08:23,985 When other couples are going through it, 254 00:08:24,004 --> 00:08:25,170 Like lindy and miguel. 255 00:08:25,321 --> 00:08:28,081 But I have to remember that sometimes, like us, 256 00:08:28,175 --> 00:08:31,584 When you hit a very big wall, and there's a breakthrough, 257 00:08:31,678 --> 00:08:33,236 It's good. 258 00:08:33,329 --> 00:08:34,679 So I have all the faith in the world. 259 00:08:34,831 --> 00:08:38,575 But I was just sad to see them going through it, you know? 260 00:08:38,668 --> 00:08:40,185 But we're all gonna go through it. 261 00:08:40,412 --> 00:08:41,520 ♪ ♪ 262 00:08:41,671 --> 00:08:43,522 - Nate was talking about how stacia is a freak, 263 00:08:43,673 --> 00:08:44,597 And he's glad. 264 00:08:44,691 --> 00:08:45,673 And I was like, dang, 265 00:08:45,692 --> 00:08:47,359 I wish I could be freaky and stuff. 266 00:08:47,586 --> 00:08:49,176 ♪ ♪ 267 00:08:49,271 --> 00:08:50,845 - You can be freaky, baby. 268 00:08:50,864 --> 00:08:54,199 - We have, like, you know, like, different issues. 269 00:08:54,350 --> 00:08:56,034 - You mean just that one time? - [laughs] 270 00:08:56,185 --> 00:08:57,536 - That was one time, girl. 271 00:08:57,763 --> 00:08:59,186 - I mean-- - that ain't happening-- 272 00:08:59,281 --> 00:09:01,540 That was literally one time. - Okay. 273 00:09:01,767 --> 00:09:03,691 - The only thing-- the only thing I'm gonna-- 274 00:09:03,785 --> 00:09:05,285 I'm really gonna work on is my stamina. 275 00:09:05,379 --> 00:09:06,193 I'm gonna take it more serious 276 00:09:06,288 --> 00:09:07,695 With hitting that treadmill. 277 00:09:07,714 --> 00:09:10,048 - They got any machines where it helps the thrust? 278 00:09:10,275 --> 00:09:14,702 ♪ ♪ 279 00:09:14,721 --> 00:09:16,054 - ♪ can I give it to you ♪ 280 00:09:16,205 --> 00:09:17,797 ♪ oh, oh ♪ 281 00:09:17,949 --> 00:09:20,466 ♪ let me give it to you, oh-oh-oh ♪ 282 00:09:20,561 --> 00:09:21,893 ♪ can I give it to you? ♪ 283 00:09:22,045 --> 00:09:23,787 ♪ oh, oh, oh ♪ 284 00:09:23,880 --> 00:09:25,063 ♪ let me give it to you ♪ 285 00:09:25,290 --> 00:09:27,381 - Home, sweet home. 286 00:09:27,401 --> 00:09:29,401 [laughs] 287 00:09:29,552 --> 00:09:31,552 - We're back. 288 00:09:31,646 --> 00:09:33,554 I'm just gonna start, you know, 289 00:09:33,648 --> 00:09:35,148 Just putting stuff in here. 290 00:09:35,300 --> 00:09:36,299 - Yeah. 291 00:09:36,318 --> 00:09:38,985 - It's good to be home. 292 00:09:39,137 --> 00:09:40,061 - Thank you, honey. 293 00:09:40,080 --> 00:09:41,746 - Yes, ma'am. 294 00:09:41,973 --> 00:09:44,641 - ♪ let me give it to you, oh-oh-oh ♪ 295 00:09:44,734 --> 00:09:45,975 ♪ can I give it to you? ♪ 296 00:09:45,994 --> 00:09:47,827 ♪ oh-oh-oh-oh, oh ♪ 297 00:09:47,921 --> 00:09:49,754 ♪ can I give it to you? ♪ 298 00:09:51,407 --> 00:09:52,406 - Dirties. 299 00:09:52,426 --> 00:09:53,666 - Oh, thank you. 300 00:09:53,760 --> 00:09:54,742 Yeah, let's just throw-- 301 00:09:54,836 --> 00:09:56,077 I'll do a load. - Yeah. 302 00:09:56,171 --> 00:09:58,154 - You just throw in there what you want me to wash. 303 00:09:58,173 --> 00:10:00,581 - Okay. 304 00:10:00,601 --> 00:10:05,270 - Did you have any favorite parts of the weekend? 305 00:10:05,497 --> 00:10:07,272 - Uh... 306 00:10:07,423 --> 00:10:09,441 I feel like you-- you in general 307 00:10:09,592 --> 00:10:10,758 Were my favorite part of the weekend. 308 00:10:10,777 --> 00:10:12,277 - Aw. 309 00:10:12,428 --> 00:10:14,187 - Because you were just in a great mood the whole time, 310 00:10:14,281 --> 00:10:15,947 And having a lot of fun. 311 00:10:16,174 --> 00:10:18,265 And I feel like this weekend gave you a chance 312 00:10:18,285 --> 00:10:21,453 To kind of, like, extinguish a couple flames 313 00:10:21,604 --> 00:10:24,271 That you hadn't put out quite yet from-- 314 00:10:24,291 --> 00:10:25,624 From our past. 315 00:10:25,775 --> 00:10:27,684 Also just kind of come out 316 00:10:27,777 --> 00:10:29,018 And be really comfortable and kind of feel 317 00:10:29,112 --> 00:10:30,444 Like you're in your element... - Yeah. 318 00:10:30,464 --> 00:10:31,963 - And kind of get back to your-- 319 00:10:32,190 --> 00:10:34,615 You know, like, the place that you want to be. 320 00:10:34,635 --> 00:10:36,542 - Yep. 321 00:10:36,637 --> 00:10:40,380 - And thankfully, on my end, that place that, you know, 322 00:10:40,532 --> 00:10:45,459 Comfortable, fun krysten is a version of you I really like. 323 00:10:45,479 --> 00:10:47,979 - Yay! 324 00:10:48,206 --> 00:10:52,058 - I love that part of you, so I think that's great. 325 00:10:52,152 --> 00:10:53,467 Yeah. 326 00:10:53,561 --> 00:10:55,136 - When are you gonna head off to your conference? 327 00:10:55,155 --> 00:10:58,214 - As late as possible. 328 00:10:58,233 --> 00:10:59,974 I think me going away, I think the timing 329 00:10:59,993 --> 00:11:01,976 Is definitely not ideal. - I know. 330 00:11:02,070 --> 00:11:03,978 - But I think it does give us a chance 331 00:11:03,997 --> 00:11:06,389 To kind of give that litmus test 332 00:11:06,482 --> 00:11:07,832 To how we feel, you know? - Absolutely. 333 00:11:07,984 --> 00:11:09,501 - Like, hopefully, we miss each other. 334 00:11:09,728 --> 00:11:11,670 Hopefully, we're feeling like, oh, where's my wife? 335 00:11:11,821 --> 00:11:12,745 You know what I mean? - Yeah. 336 00:11:12,839 --> 00:11:14,397 - So if that's the way that it feels, 337 00:11:14,490 --> 00:11:16,323 Then that's gonna be a really good sign. 338 00:11:16,343 --> 00:11:18,902 And for me also, you know, even though we're 339 00:11:18,995 --> 00:11:20,345 In this neutral house, it's like-- 340 00:11:20,572 --> 00:11:22,255 It's, like, very much not really what our life 341 00:11:22,407 --> 00:11:23,497 Would actually be like. 342 00:11:23,591 --> 00:11:26,242 - Yeah. - And for me, 343 00:11:26,335 --> 00:11:27,427 A lot of this challenge has been not-- 344 00:11:27,521 --> 00:11:30,246 You know, having a hard time 345 00:11:30,265 --> 00:11:34,192 Thinking about what my new life with you looks like, 346 00:11:34,419 --> 00:11:36,361 But still having some of those old elements in it. 347 00:11:36,588 --> 00:11:37,678 - Yeah. 348 00:11:37,698 --> 00:11:38,922 - So, like, I think this will be good for me, 349 00:11:39,015 --> 00:11:40,699 Of a way to, like, kind of be married, 350 00:11:40,926 --> 00:11:43,868 But also be old mitch, single mitch. 351 00:11:44,095 --> 00:11:45,945 ♪ ♪ 352 00:11:46,039 --> 00:11:48,206 - To be honest, um, 353 00:11:48,357 --> 00:11:50,858 I'm a little worried about "single mitch." 354 00:11:50,877 --> 00:11:55,880 I know he has to go, but it doesn't feel like 355 00:11:56,107 --> 00:11:57,865 The best time for him to be leaving. 356 00:11:57,884 --> 00:12:00,367 Me and luna will be here at the apartment... 357 00:12:00,462 --> 00:12:02,036 - Aw. - Awaiting your arrival. 358 00:12:02,130 --> 00:12:03,947 And yeah, I'll try to make sure 359 00:12:04,040 --> 00:12:07,116 You come home to a nice, clean, dog-hairless-- 360 00:12:07,135 --> 00:12:08,042 As much as I can--home. 361 00:12:08,061 --> 00:12:10,119 [laughs] 362 00:12:10,138 --> 00:12:15,716 ♪ ♪ 363 00:12:15,810 --> 00:12:18,311 - Oh, my god, I'm so tired. 364 00:12:18,463 --> 00:12:21,388 ♪ ♪ 365 00:12:21,483 --> 00:12:23,074 Definitely happy to be home. 366 00:12:23,301 --> 00:12:24,743 - For real. 367 00:12:24,970 --> 00:12:26,803 - Mm-hmm. 368 00:12:26,896 --> 00:12:28,329 - [grunts] 369 00:12:31,993 --> 00:12:33,734 - I'm so happy that retreat is over. 370 00:12:33,828 --> 00:12:35,645 I [bleep] hated every moment of it. 371 00:12:35,663 --> 00:12:36,646 ♪ ♪ 372 00:12:36,664 --> 00:12:37,830 - It's just terrifying, you know? 373 00:12:37,924 --> 00:12:39,832 'cause, like, we-- well, I'll speak for myself. 374 00:12:39,985 --> 00:12:41,909 Like, I do love you so much. 375 00:12:42,003 --> 00:12:45,822 And I feel, like, so strongly for you. 376 00:12:45,840 --> 00:12:49,826 And then to have these issues kind of terrifies me. 377 00:12:49,844 --> 00:12:51,844 And then I--you know, and I know you're not 378 00:12:51,938 --> 00:12:53,754 Gonna like to hear this, but I do start to question, 379 00:12:53,848 --> 00:12:54,922 Like, well, is this even right? 380 00:12:55,016 --> 00:12:56,107 Does this even work? 381 00:12:56,259 --> 00:12:57,258 I shouldn't be feeling this way. 382 00:12:57,352 --> 00:12:59,502 I shouldn't be making you feel this way. 383 00:12:59,595 --> 00:13:01,854 And it's just such a [bleep] feeling. 384 00:13:01,948 --> 00:13:03,506 Um... 385 00:13:03,599 --> 00:13:05,341 And like I said, I want this to work. 386 00:13:05,360 --> 00:13:08,453 And I want to figure out how to make this work. 387 00:13:08,604 --> 00:13:10,121 But it is scary because I don't know, 388 00:13:10,348 --> 00:13:12,606 Like, a part of me is also thinking at the-- 389 00:13:12,700 --> 00:13:13,941 The other side of it, which is, 390 00:13:14,035 --> 00:13:15,852 What if we don't work through it? 391 00:13:15,870 --> 00:13:18,855 [tense music] 392 00:13:18,873 --> 00:13:19,964 ♪ ♪ 393 00:13:20,191 --> 00:13:22,449 - I think it just goes back to fundamentals 394 00:13:22,469 --> 00:13:24,636 Of marriage and love. - Yeah. 395 00:13:24,863 --> 00:13:27,472 - And to me, 396 00:13:27,699 --> 00:13:31,217 There isn't a question of if we make sense 397 00:13:31,369 --> 00:13:33,036 Or if you're my person. - Mm-hmm. 398 00:13:33,129 --> 00:13:35,204 - Divorce isn't even an option to me. 399 00:13:35,223 --> 00:13:37,131 - Okay. - So again, 400 00:13:37,225 --> 00:13:38,299 Every time you say, 401 00:13:38,393 --> 00:13:40,059 "I don't even know if you're my person," 402 00:13:40,211 --> 00:13:42,061 And, "I don't know if you make me happy," 403 00:13:42,155 --> 00:13:44,881 Or whatever the [bleep] you're saying, all I hear is, 404 00:13:44,899 --> 00:13:46,324 "eh, you're not good enough. 405 00:13:46,475 --> 00:13:48,551 "this is not worth the work. I want a divorce." 406 00:13:48,644 --> 00:13:50,887 - No, that's-- - and it's the rejection. 407 00:13:50,905 --> 00:13:53,314 You're already thinking, like, 10 steps ahead 408 00:13:53,408 --> 00:13:54,907 When we're having a tiny little bump. 409 00:13:55,001 --> 00:13:56,483 This isn't even that-- 410 00:13:56,503 --> 00:13:58,077 To me, this is like, yes, it's a big deal, 411 00:13:58,171 --> 00:14:00,413 But it's not unsolvable. 412 00:14:00,565 --> 00:14:02,081 It's not that big of a deal. 413 00:14:02,233 --> 00:14:04,676 We just have to work through it. 414 00:14:04,903 --> 00:14:05,751 That's all. 415 00:14:05,904 --> 00:14:07,236 This is what marriage is. 416 00:14:07,330 --> 00:14:08,921 It takes work, over and over again, 417 00:14:09,074 --> 00:14:10,573 Understanding each other. - I know. Yeah. 418 00:14:10,592 --> 00:14:12,408 - We've known each other for a few weeks. 419 00:14:12,501 --> 00:14:14,018 This is a tiny little hiccup, 420 00:14:14,245 --> 00:14:15,745 And you're already just like, not-- 421 00:14:15,763 --> 00:14:17,580 I don't know, this is too big. Like-- 422 00:14:17,673 --> 00:14:18,764 - Well, I'm glad you're saying this. 423 00:14:18,917 --> 00:14:20,266 This is important for me to hear. 424 00:14:20,418 --> 00:14:21,675 'cause this is, like, reaffirming about, 425 00:14:21,695 --> 00:14:23,086 You know, that-- 426 00:14:23,104 --> 00:14:24,604 I'm glad you see it as a tiny hiccup. 427 00:14:24,698 --> 00:14:27,090 To be honest, I-- 428 00:14:27,183 --> 00:14:30,535 I don't like feeling the way I did. 429 00:14:30,762 --> 00:14:31,944 ♪ ♪ 430 00:14:32,038 --> 00:14:34,873 And I don't like making you feel the way you did. 431 00:14:35,100 --> 00:14:36,857 - It's unrealistic to think that we're just 432 00:14:36,877 --> 00:14:38,859 Gonna always get each other and always align 433 00:14:38,953 --> 00:14:40,103 And always know what to say 434 00:14:40,196 --> 00:14:41,546 And always know how to support each other. 435 00:14:41,773 --> 00:14:43,697 How am I supposed to know how to support you 436 00:14:43,717 --> 00:14:45,775 And be your wife and say all the right things 437 00:14:45,793 --> 00:14:49,278 And say what you need to hear and-- 438 00:14:49,297 --> 00:14:50,537 I don't expect that of you. 439 00:14:50,557 --> 00:14:52,039 You shouldn't expect that of me. 440 00:14:52,058 --> 00:14:55,042 And that's why I always ask you for grace. 441 00:14:55,061 --> 00:14:57,620 But right now, all I hear from you is the, 442 00:14:57,713 --> 00:14:58,804 "I don't know if you're right for me. 443 00:14:58,957 --> 00:15:00,398 "I don't know if you make me happy. 444 00:15:00,549 --> 00:15:02,475 "I don't know if I can be who you need me to be. 445 00:15:02,569 --> 00:15:04,051 I don't know, I don't know--" 446 00:15:04,070 --> 00:15:07,721 If you love me and you want to be with me, 447 00:15:07,741 --> 00:15:09,741 Then just, like, make that happen. 448 00:15:09,968 --> 00:15:11,075 ♪ ♪ 449 00:15:11,227 --> 00:15:12,318 - ♪ make up your mind ♪ 450 00:15:12,470 --> 00:15:13,745 ♪ is it yes or no? ♪ 451 00:15:13,896 --> 00:15:15,396 ♪ quit wasting time ♪ 452 00:15:15,490 --> 00:15:17,582 ♪ we can go and let it go ♪ 453 00:15:21,404 --> 00:15:22,236 - ♪ it's your moment ♪ 454 00:15:22,330 --> 00:15:22,903 ♪ go ahead and own it ♪ 455 00:15:22,923 --> 00:15:24,830 ♪ oh, oh, oh ♪ 456 00:15:24,983 --> 00:15:26,758 - Baby doesn't want to get up this morning. 457 00:15:26,909 --> 00:15:29,576 - No. - [laughs] 458 00:15:29,596 --> 00:15:31,487 - After seven weeks of marriage, 459 00:15:31,506 --> 00:15:33,080 These couples have now seen each other 460 00:15:33,174 --> 00:15:35,266 For better and for worse. 461 00:15:35,418 --> 00:15:36,583 [loud thud] - ow! 462 00:15:36,678 --> 00:15:38,177 [both laughing] 463 00:15:38,329 --> 00:15:39,753 That's how she wakes me up. 464 00:15:39,773 --> 00:15:42,106 She just kicks me in my [bleep] balls. 465 00:15:42,258 --> 00:15:44,758 - So they need to consider whether they can effectively 466 00:15:44,778 --> 00:15:47,503 Balance the good and the bad together 467 00:15:47,522 --> 00:15:50,356 And truly believe that this is the person 468 00:15:50,508 --> 00:15:52,008 They can see themselves 469 00:15:52,026 --> 00:15:54,452 Spending the rest of their lives with. 470 00:15:54,603 --> 00:15:57,196 - Cooking breakfast with my husband. 471 00:15:57,348 --> 00:16:00,516 We got bacon, grits, shrimp. 472 00:16:00,535 --> 00:16:03,186 He's getting a full meal. 473 00:16:03,204 --> 00:16:05,296 - Because even though "married at first sight" 474 00:16:05,523 --> 00:16:08,040 Is only an eight-week experience, 475 00:16:08,193 --> 00:16:11,027 Marriage is meant to last for a lifetime. 476 00:16:11,045 --> 00:16:13,638 - Mitch has been gone at his conference. 477 00:16:13,789 --> 00:16:15,306 We have a facetime date scheduled, 478 00:16:15,533 --> 00:16:17,291 So excited for that. 479 00:16:17,385 --> 00:16:19,793 And then he'll be home the next day. 480 00:16:19,887 --> 00:16:22,872 [upbeat music] 481 00:16:22,890 --> 00:16:27,634 ♪ ♪ 482 00:16:27,729 --> 00:16:30,213 - Pulling up to the new cribbo. 483 00:16:30,231 --> 00:16:31,322 I'm excited. 484 00:16:31,474 --> 00:16:34,641 I'm getting--it's becoming real, you know? 485 00:16:34,661 --> 00:16:37,829 I'm about to see our new home. 486 00:16:37,980 --> 00:16:41,907 And I'm just very grateful that things are working out for us. 487 00:16:42,002 --> 00:16:43,075 What are you thinking? 488 00:16:43,228 --> 00:16:44,985 What's on your mind, stacia? 489 00:16:45,005 --> 00:16:47,005 - I'm just hoping everybody takes their shoes off. 490 00:16:47,156 --> 00:16:48,673 - [laughs] 491 00:16:48,824 --> 00:16:50,583 - You ready, babe? - This is nice. 492 00:16:50,735 --> 00:16:52,902 ♪ ♪ 493 00:16:52,920 --> 00:16:55,404 - Decision day is a week away, so nate and I 494 00:16:55,423 --> 00:16:59,166 Are finally visiting the new house so I can show him 495 00:16:59,185 --> 00:17:00,926 Exactly where we're gonna be living. 496 00:17:01,079 --> 00:17:02,578 And hopefully he likes it. 497 00:17:02,597 --> 00:17:03,670 - Sheesh! 498 00:17:03,690 --> 00:17:05,081 This is dope. 499 00:17:05,174 --> 00:17:06,858 - I, you know, purchased this house 500 00:17:07,085 --> 00:17:09,676 And started building it before I was married. 501 00:17:09,696 --> 00:17:12,088 And it's exactly how I wanted. 502 00:17:12,106 --> 00:17:14,924 So having my husband move in with me 503 00:17:14,942 --> 00:17:16,850 Is definitely something that makes me anxious. 504 00:17:16,944 --> 00:17:19,278 But I do want him to feel comfortable 505 00:17:19,372 --> 00:17:21,614 In this home with me. 506 00:17:21,708 --> 00:17:24,042 So I know that I am gonna have to compromise 507 00:17:24,269 --> 00:17:25,618 In certain aspects. 508 00:17:25,712 --> 00:17:28,954 But as long as it's something that we can both agree on, 509 00:17:29,107 --> 00:17:32,866 Then I think it's something that we can both be happy with. 510 00:17:32,886 --> 00:17:34,201 - This is nice. Look at this. 511 00:17:34,295 --> 00:17:35,461 This is so clean. 512 00:17:35,613 --> 00:17:37,797 - This is how I like to keep it, okay, babe? 513 00:17:37,891 --> 00:17:39,206 I like to keep it clean. 514 00:17:39,300 --> 00:17:40,466 - This is nice. 515 00:17:40,560 --> 00:17:43,969 - Dirty dishes aren't sitting in the sink. 516 00:17:44,064 --> 00:17:45,546 - What are you trying to say? 517 00:17:45,565 --> 00:17:47,306 You act like I'm, like, hella dirty. 518 00:17:47,458 --> 00:17:48,900 - You be leaving your dishes in the sink. 519 00:17:49,127 --> 00:17:50,384 - I do. You do too. 520 00:17:50,403 --> 00:17:52,128 - Yeah, and I'm trying not to be all crazy, but... 521 00:17:52,146 --> 00:17:53,796 - Okay. 522 00:17:53,889 --> 00:17:55,798 - I'm not gonna leave dirty dishes in the sink. 523 00:17:55,817 --> 00:17:57,466 - Okay, well, we definitely need some blinds 524 00:17:57,485 --> 00:17:59,652 For some privacy. 525 00:17:59,804 --> 00:18:01,395 I'm about to be living here. 526 00:18:01,414 --> 00:18:03,989 - So I want to lay concrete out here. 527 00:18:04,142 --> 00:18:06,066 - Are we allowed to put grass back here? 528 00:18:06,086 --> 00:18:08,644 - No, I don't want to deal with maintenance. 529 00:18:08,663 --> 00:18:10,737 - I mean, but this is, like, a small backyard. 530 00:18:10,757 --> 00:18:13,574 It's not gonna be high maintenance if we get grass. 531 00:18:13,593 --> 00:18:15,093 - Who's putting-- who's gonna do all that? 532 00:18:15,244 --> 00:18:16,152 - I can do that. 533 00:18:16,170 --> 00:18:18,654 [quirky music] 534 00:18:18,673 --> 00:18:20,489 We can talk about it later. 535 00:18:20,508 --> 00:18:22,658 - Yeah, you want to go upstairs now? 536 00:18:22,751 --> 00:18:24,176 - Yeah, yeah, let's do it. 537 00:18:24,329 --> 00:18:26,329 ♪ ♪ 538 00:18:26,347 --> 00:18:27,271 Very nice. 539 00:18:27,423 --> 00:18:28,681 Carpets are hella white. 540 00:18:28,833 --> 00:18:31,425 - That's why we take our shoes off and wear socks, 541 00:18:31,444 --> 00:18:33,277 So the oils from our feet don't sink in. 542 00:18:33,504 --> 00:18:35,020 - The oils? 543 00:18:35,173 --> 00:18:36,522 - Bathroom down here. - Wow. 544 00:18:36,674 --> 00:18:37,690 Massive. 545 00:18:37,784 --> 00:18:39,600 - So the black tile was, like, the one thing 546 00:18:39,619 --> 00:18:41,677 That I was, like, very adamant about having. 547 00:18:41,696 --> 00:18:42,954 I was like, I have to have 548 00:18:43,105 --> 00:18:44,938 Black hexagon tile in my bathroom. 549 00:18:44,958 --> 00:18:45,865 - This is amazing. 550 00:18:46,017 --> 00:18:48,684 ♪ ♪ 551 00:18:48,703 --> 00:18:50,536 Oh, yeah! 552 00:18:50,630 --> 00:18:51,687 This is about to be lit. 553 00:18:51,706 --> 00:18:56,450 ♪ ♪ 554 00:18:56,544 --> 00:18:58,970 This is where I take a [bleep]. 555 00:18:59,197 --> 00:19:00,287 Babe! 556 00:19:00,381 --> 00:19:01,547 I need some toilet paper. 557 00:19:01,699 --> 00:19:02,548 You got some? - Hey, listen. 558 00:19:02,700 --> 00:19:03,790 - I'm taking a [bleep]. 559 00:19:03,810 --> 00:19:05,125 - Listen, here's a house rule. 560 00:19:05,145 --> 00:19:06,644 How about this? 561 00:19:06,795 --> 00:19:08,962 So once we're down to the last roll, 562 00:19:08,982 --> 00:19:10,964 And you don't see any more toilet paper, 563 00:19:11,058 --> 00:19:12,650 How about we refill it? 564 00:19:12,877 --> 00:19:14,710 That way, we never run out of it. 565 00:19:14,803 --> 00:19:16,879 - I don't do it that much. 566 00:19:16,972 --> 00:19:18,489 But of course. - What? 567 00:19:18,716 --> 00:19:20,383 - That's common sense. Yeah, duh. 568 00:19:20,401 --> 00:19:21,400 - Yeah, okay, so I'm gonna 569 00:19:21,494 --> 00:19:23,828 Hit you with that common sense next time. 570 00:19:23,979 --> 00:19:24,978 And you know what? 571 00:19:24,998 --> 00:19:26,722 I actually got you a gift too. 572 00:19:26,741 --> 00:19:27,814 - What? 573 00:19:27,834 --> 00:19:30,334 - A little sticker for the toilet seat. 574 00:19:30,561 --> 00:19:31,744 - This doesn't sound like a gift. 575 00:19:31,838 --> 00:19:33,579 - So when you leave it up, it's going to, like, say, 576 00:19:33,731 --> 00:19:35,339 "put the [bleep] seat down." 577 00:19:35,566 --> 00:19:37,416 Ahh! 578 00:19:37,568 --> 00:19:39,251 - That's not a gift. 579 00:19:39,345 --> 00:19:40,661 You're petty as [bleep]. 580 00:19:40,755 --> 00:19:42,496 [both laughing] 581 00:19:42,515 --> 00:19:44,073 It's just amazing. It's clean. 582 00:19:44,091 --> 00:19:45,574 It smells like a new house. 583 00:19:45,593 --> 00:19:47,167 You know, there's candles. 584 00:19:47,261 --> 00:19:49,503 It's getting hot in here. 585 00:19:49,597 --> 00:19:51,171 I think there's gonna be growing pains. 586 00:19:51,191 --> 00:19:53,173 And realistically, I think it's gonna 587 00:19:53,267 --> 00:19:55,751 Be really hard for her to really 588 00:19:55,770 --> 00:19:57,511 Relinquish that control. 589 00:19:57,530 --> 00:19:59,012 I've just gotta roll with the punches. 590 00:19:59,032 --> 00:20:00,681 You know, I can't control that. 591 00:20:00,775 --> 00:20:04,276 So yeah, we'll see how this goes. 592 00:20:04,429 --> 00:20:08,706 - I am a bit of a, you know, ocd clean freak. 593 00:20:08,933 --> 00:20:11,876 Like, you know, I don't like scuffs on the walls. 594 00:20:12,027 --> 00:20:13,360 Like, I don't like-- 595 00:20:13,379 --> 00:20:14,861 - I mean, I don't like that, either. 596 00:20:14,881 --> 00:20:16,363 - Okay, well, I'm just letting you-- 597 00:20:16,382 --> 00:20:18,216 I'm trying to give you an idea of how I am. 598 00:20:18,367 --> 00:20:21,702 - So if we do have kids, 599 00:20:21,796 --> 00:20:25,556 I'm really concerned about the safety of this house. 600 00:20:28,636 --> 00:20:30,877 - You're concerned about the safety of the house? 601 00:20:30,897 --> 00:20:32,621 - Yeah, 'cause it's gonna be dirty. 602 00:20:32,640 --> 00:20:33,639 - Yeah, it might get dirty. 603 00:20:33,733 --> 00:20:34,807 - I mean, look at this pillow. 604 00:20:34,959 --> 00:20:35,975 This thing is white as hell. 605 00:20:36,127 --> 00:20:37,551 - Yeah, it might get dirty. 606 00:20:37,570 --> 00:20:38,477 But I think that-- 607 00:20:38,629 --> 00:20:40,220 - It's not gonna freak you out? 608 00:20:40,240 --> 00:20:41,739 - Yeah, but I'm gonna teach my kids 609 00:20:41,890 --> 00:20:45,076 To not touch everything. 610 00:20:45,227 --> 00:20:46,893 - [bleep]. Okay. 611 00:20:46,988 --> 00:20:48,395 - Hey, my mom was, like-- 612 00:20:48,414 --> 00:20:49,580 - They gonna be touching everything. 613 00:20:49,732 --> 00:20:51,082 They're gonna be spilling stuff. 614 00:20:51,233 --> 00:20:52,157 - My mom--my mom told us, don't go 615 00:20:52,310 --> 00:20:53,734 In that formal living room. 616 00:20:53,753 --> 00:20:55,144 Don't go in that formal dining room. 617 00:20:55,162 --> 00:20:56,254 Don't touch nothing. - You heard of terrible twos, 618 00:20:56,405 --> 00:20:57,496 Right? Terrible twos? 619 00:20:57,590 --> 00:20:59,590 - Don't touch nothing. 620 00:20:59,742 --> 00:21:01,166 - Okay, we'll see about that one. 621 00:21:01,319 --> 00:21:02,334 ♪ ♪ 622 00:21:02,428 --> 00:21:03,669 What if, like, 623 00:21:03,821 --> 00:21:05,504 Our kids are hard-headed like me? 624 00:21:05,656 --> 00:21:07,172 - Mm-mm. 625 00:21:07,325 --> 00:21:08,674 - And they're gonna be kids, too, you know? 626 00:21:08,826 --> 00:21:10,175 They're gonna be, like, spilling stuff, 627 00:21:10,328 --> 00:21:11,677 Drawing on the walls. 628 00:21:11,829 --> 00:21:13,420 - Drawing on the walls? - You never know. 629 00:21:13,514 --> 00:21:14,772 - I'm gonna be watching them. 630 00:21:14,999 --> 00:21:16,181 - Yeah, but it's gonna be too late. 631 00:21:16,334 --> 00:21:17,683 - No, I'm gonna be watching them. 632 00:21:17,835 --> 00:21:20,260 ♪ ♪ 633 00:21:20,354 --> 00:21:23,188 [upbeat music] 634 00:21:23,341 --> 00:21:27,601 ♪ ♪ 635 00:21:27,695 --> 00:21:30,937 - So I am headed to go pick up my dog. 636 00:21:31,032 --> 00:21:32,681 She's been at training. 637 00:21:32,700 --> 00:21:34,850 So this'll be the first time seeing her. 638 00:21:34,943 --> 00:21:36,869 And boy, lord knows I miss that woman. 639 00:21:36,963 --> 00:21:40,131 [dogs barking] 640 00:21:40,358 --> 00:21:43,617 You know, the dog situation, it's unfortunate. 641 00:21:43,711 --> 00:21:45,361 The reason she's not coming home 642 00:21:45,379 --> 00:21:48,380 Is she bit another dog while in training. 643 00:21:48,533 --> 00:21:51,884 So the trainer said she was a liability. 644 00:21:51,978 --> 00:21:54,887 [dog barking, whining] 645 00:21:55,039 --> 00:21:57,056 ♪ ♪ 646 00:21:57,208 --> 00:21:59,391 Wow, they're so cute. I just-- 647 00:21:59,544 --> 00:22:01,393 It's unfortunate, but because 648 00:22:01,546 --> 00:22:03,712 We're gonna be sharing the same household, 649 00:22:03,731 --> 00:22:05,564 It was important for me to make a decision. 650 00:22:05,716 --> 00:22:07,974 So I'm doing what I have to do 651 00:22:08,069 --> 00:22:10,310 As a man, as a husband, 652 00:22:10,330 --> 00:22:11,978 As a leader. 653 00:22:12,073 --> 00:22:13,556 And so I chose marriage. 654 00:22:13,574 --> 00:22:17,059 ♪ ♪ 655 00:22:17,078 --> 00:22:18,169 Hey, you. 656 00:22:18,320 --> 00:22:19,244 What's up? 657 00:22:19,397 --> 00:22:20,487 I know you miss me. 658 00:22:20,506 --> 00:22:22,064 Oh, girl, I know. 659 00:22:22,083 --> 00:22:22,989 Daddy knows. 660 00:22:23,084 --> 00:22:24,083 I missed you too. 661 00:22:24,177 --> 00:22:25,401 Ooh, I miss you, girl. 662 00:22:25,419 --> 00:22:26,510 What's up? 663 00:22:26,737 --> 00:22:27,678 What is up? 664 00:22:27,830 --> 00:22:29,013 It's been so long. 665 00:22:29,164 --> 00:22:31,849 I'm giving my baby to my best friend, chris. 666 00:22:32,000 --> 00:22:33,425 He's coming down to-- 667 00:22:33,578 --> 00:22:35,019 To take ownership of my dog. 668 00:22:35,246 --> 00:22:37,413 You know, she just had a bad moment. 669 00:22:37,431 --> 00:22:39,506 But my dog is a great dog. 670 00:22:39,600 --> 00:22:42,251 - ♪ don't let me go ♪ 671 00:22:42,269 --> 00:22:45,846 ♪ ♪ 672 00:22:45,940 --> 00:22:49,367 ♪ don't let me go ♪ 673 00:22:49,518 --> 00:22:52,261 - She's protected me several times when, you know, 674 00:22:52,279 --> 00:22:55,447 I didn't recognize I needed to be protected. 675 00:22:55,541 --> 00:22:57,616 It's just a burning-- 676 00:22:57,768 --> 00:22:59,377 A burning, hurtful feeling. 677 00:22:59,528 --> 00:23:01,453 'cause that's my baby. 678 00:23:01,547 --> 00:23:04,273 I'll never see her in california again. 679 00:23:04,291 --> 00:23:06,884 Just something I never pictured would happen. 680 00:23:07,035 --> 00:23:11,130 So it was just sad. 681 00:23:11,282 --> 00:23:15,134 ♪ ♪ 682 00:23:15,228 --> 00:23:16,894 Look at my girl. 683 00:23:17,045 --> 00:23:20,139 That is my girl. 684 00:23:20,233 --> 00:23:21,565 Oh, man. 685 00:23:21,717 --> 00:23:24,068 So we're headed back to the house. 686 00:23:24,219 --> 00:23:25,569 [phone dings] 687 00:23:25,796 --> 00:23:27,071 I'm probably gonna-- 688 00:23:27,298 --> 00:23:28,555 I want to keep mya at the house. 689 00:23:28,649 --> 00:23:29,632 I'm gonna keep her in a kennel, 690 00:23:29,725 --> 00:23:31,150 Like, same thing as usual. 691 00:23:31,302 --> 00:23:33,911 Nothing really changed. 692 00:23:34,062 --> 00:23:36,414 But my wife was gonna go 693 00:23:36,565 --> 00:23:38,974 Stay at her place to compromise. 694 00:23:38,993 --> 00:23:41,085 But I really want her to be there, you know? 695 00:23:41,236 --> 00:23:43,737 And we just have to separate the dogs temporarily. 696 00:23:43,831 --> 00:23:45,238 But I want us-- 697 00:23:45,258 --> 00:23:46,424 I don't really want us to be separated. 698 00:23:46,651 --> 00:23:48,074 But we can still have our space. 699 00:23:48,094 --> 00:23:50,911 But I'm gonna utilize my time with her 700 00:23:50,930 --> 00:23:52,838 Before she goes on her next adventure. 701 00:23:52,990 --> 00:23:57,009 - ♪ without you with me ♪ 702 00:23:57,161 --> 00:24:02,514 - That's kind of where my mind is right now. 703 00:24:02,667 --> 00:24:04,183 But just hoping for the best. 704 00:24:04,335 --> 00:24:06,902 - ♪ I swear I'm gonna be all right ♪ 705 00:24:10,450 --> 00:24:11,949 [upbeat music] 706 00:24:12,100 --> 00:24:14,176 - ♪ la, la, la, la, yeah, yeah ♪ 707 00:24:14,195 --> 00:24:15,936 ♪ I got chills inside my head ♪ 708 00:24:16,030 --> 00:24:17,437 ♪ won't let me go ♪ 709 00:24:17,457 --> 00:24:19,198 - [laughing] look at this dog. 710 00:24:19,350 --> 00:24:20,866 Why is that dog coming... - Looks like a wolf. 711 00:24:20,960 --> 00:24:22,518 - To the door? 712 00:24:22,536 --> 00:24:23,610 Aw. - What's up, buddy? 713 00:24:23,629 --> 00:24:25,354 - She's cute, though. 714 00:24:25,447 --> 00:24:27,039 - Her name's coconut. - Coconut. 715 00:24:27,191 --> 00:24:28,466 - Coconut. - Aw. 716 00:24:28,617 --> 00:24:30,542 - Come on, coconut. Let's go shop. 717 00:24:30,695 --> 00:24:32,636 ♪ ♪ 718 00:24:32,863 --> 00:24:34,472 - Oh, my god, I'm actually, like, in heaven. 719 00:24:34,623 --> 00:24:36,307 There's so much. 720 00:24:36,534 --> 00:24:38,550 This is, like, getting me excited right now. 721 00:24:38,644 --> 00:24:42,128 - I think doorknobs and handles, this is her world. 722 00:24:42,148 --> 00:24:44,389 - Like, my heart is starting to, like... 723 00:24:44,484 --> 00:24:45,632 - You excited? 724 00:24:45,726 --> 00:24:47,985 - [laughs] beat all fast. 725 00:24:48,212 --> 00:24:49,561 - I think she's willing to be flexible. 726 00:24:49,655 --> 00:24:51,805 But I think inside of her, she's kind of like, 727 00:24:51,899 --> 00:24:54,158 "ah, this is my project!" 728 00:24:54,309 --> 00:24:55,642 Oh, these are cool. I like this one. 729 00:24:55,661 --> 00:24:57,569 - Gross. 730 00:24:57,722 --> 00:24:58,904 - Oh, look at this-- 731 00:24:59,056 --> 00:25:00,981 The hippie vibes. - Crystals? 732 00:25:01,075 --> 00:25:02,241 - Oh, that's kind of cute. 733 00:25:02,335 --> 00:25:03,225 - Okay, babe. 734 00:25:03,244 --> 00:25:05,410 So what are the nos for you? 735 00:25:05,563 --> 00:25:06,504 - These are the nos. 736 00:25:06,655 --> 00:25:07,730 These are also nos. 737 00:25:07,748 --> 00:25:09,823 All this shiny stuff? Absolutely not. 738 00:25:09,842 --> 00:25:11,658 These are all nos. 739 00:25:11,752 --> 00:25:12,993 I like these vibes too. 740 00:25:13,087 --> 00:25:14,903 - Yeah, that's different. 741 00:25:14,922 --> 00:25:17,497 - This is stuff that I like. 742 00:25:17,517 --> 00:25:19,908 This looks like one of the toys we got at the sex store. 743 00:25:19,927 --> 00:25:21,519 - Oh, right. 744 00:25:21,746 --> 00:25:23,095 [dog whimpers] I'm a white and black girl. 745 00:25:23,247 --> 00:25:24,355 - Okay. 746 00:25:24,582 --> 00:25:26,582 - And I want to do, like, pops of gold. 747 00:25:26,600 --> 00:25:28,417 What about something like this? 748 00:25:28,510 --> 00:25:30,252 - Yeah, maybe. Yeah, for sure. 749 00:25:30,345 --> 00:25:32,363 But I think less is more for me. 750 00:25:32,514 --> 00:25:34,273 I'm all about the minimalist vibe. 751 00:25:34,425 --> 00:25:36,016 And we can do something like this in the garage 752 00:25:36,110 --> 00:25:37,259 Or something, you know? 753 00:25:37,278 --> 00:25:38,184 - Yeah, I mean, the garage, 754 00:25:38,279 --> 00:25:39,519 You can have full rein. 755 00:25:39,539 --> 00:25:42,781 I do have a idea of what I want it to look like. 756 00:25:42,933 --> 00:25:44,024 - Mm-hmm. 757 00:25:44,043 --> 00:25:46,210 - I feel like I'm, like, being reasonable. 758 00:25:46,361 --> 00:25:48,620 I'm not trying to dominate everything. 759 00:25:48,714 --> 00:25:51,048 I just want it to be what I want--or what we want. 760 00:25:51,275 --> 00:25:52,274 - Right. 761 00:25:52,293 --> 00:25:53,292 [dog whines] 762 00:25:53,386 --> 00:25:56,278 - Let's go down here. 763 00:25:56,371 --> 00:25:57,613 - This just looks like a toilet. 764 00:25:57,706 --> 00:25:59,390 - How do you feel about a bidet? 765 00:25:59,541 --> 00:26:00,707 - [laughs] 766 00:26:00,801 --> 00:26:02,301 I'm like, that's crazy. 767 00:26:02,395 --> 00:26:04,061 ♪ ♪ 768 00:26:04,212 --> 00:26:05,729 I've never used one before, but-- 769 00:26:05,956 --> 00:26:08,473 [laughs] 770 00:26:08,568 --> 00:26:10,383 Address plaques. 771 00:26:10,477 --> 00:26:13,070 This is very exclusive. 772 00:26:13,297 --> 00:26:15,055 It's important for me to have my own personality 773 00:26:15,074 --> 00:26:17,891 In this house, because if I don't, 774 00:26:17,910 --> 00:26:20,803 Then I feel like I'm just gonna be living in her home. 775 00:26:20,821 --> 00:26:23,806 And that's just gonna be a very uncomfortable feeling. 776 00:26:23,824 --> 00:26:24,990 - Design is my thing, babe. 777 00:26:25,084 --> 00:26:27,159 This is, like, my thing. 778 00:26:27,253 --> 00:26:28,310 - Right. So-- 779 00:26:28,329 --> 00:26:29,920 - And I had a vision for the house. 780 00:26:30,072 --> 00:26:32,405 And I'm willing to let you have input. 781 00:26:32,425 --> 00:26:33,665 The shell is there. I want to be... 782 00:26:33,818 --> 00:26:34,908 - Kind of important. 783 00:26:35,002 --> 00:26:36,093 - Yeah, I want to be open. 784 00:26:36,244 --> 00:26:37,761 - Well, I'll let you get, like, some input. 785 00:26:37,988 --> 00:26:39,504 I'll give you, like, 50% input, you know? 786 00:26:39,657 --> 00:26:41,265 - You'll give me 50% input? 787 00:26:41,416 --> 00:26:42,749 What do you-- what does that mean? 788 00:26:42,768 --> 00:26:44,159 - Like, I'll let you decide on things 789 00:26:44,178 --> 00:26:45,436 That you need to prioritize on. 790 00:26:45,663 --> 00:26:47,438 - Hmm? 791 00:26:47,665 --> 00:26:50,165 - Like, if you need to prioritize something, 792 00:26:50,184 --> 00:26:51,609 I'll let you prioritize it. 793 00:26:53,261 --> 00:26:55,520 - Can you explain? What do you mean? 794 00:26:55,673 --> 00:26:57,673 - Like, if you want to prioritize the living room, 795 00:26:57,691 --> 00:26:58,857 I'll let you prioritize it. 796 00:26:59,009 --> 00:26:59,950 - Okay. 797 00:27:00,102 --> 00:27:01,526 - Why was that so complicated to hear? 798 00:27:01,679 --> 00:27:03,269 - But I don't understand, like, what you're trying to say. 799 00:27:03,289 --> 00:27:05,013 "prioritize the living room"? 800 00:27:05,032 --> 00:27:07,516 - You said design is really important to you. 801 00:27:07,534 --> 00:27:09,184 - Yeah, it is important to me, like, 802 00:27:09,203 --> 00:27:11,536 'cause I want to be able to do it and design it 803 00:27:11,631 --> 00:27:12,537 The way I like. 804 00:27:12,690 --> 00:27:13,613 - Okay. 805 00:27:13,633 --> 00:27:15,540 [dramatic music] 806 00:27:15,635 --> 00:27:16,800 All right. 807 00:27:16,952 --> 00:27:18,360 I think I'm shopped out. 808 00:27:18,379 --> 00:27:21,213 ♪ ♪ 809 00:27:21,365 --> 00:27:27,703 - ♪ on the edge of a road, going downhill ♪ 810 00:27:27,721 --> 00:27:31,464 ♪ I am lost, feeling alone ♪ 811 00:27:31,558 --> 00:27:36,469 ♪ cannot stand still ♪ 812 00:27:36,489 --> 00:27:42,642 ♪ we cannot change what has been written in stone ♪ 813 00:27:42,736 --> 00:27:45,237 - You want a treat? 814 00:27:45,389 --> 00:27:48,999 Mm-hmm, I got something you want. 815 00:27:49,151 --> 00:27:50,559 Be gentle. 816 00:27:50,577 --> 00:27:52,577 Look at that training, girl. 817 00:27:52,730 --> 00:27:53,912 Mm-hmm. 818 00:27:54,064 --> 00:27:56,915 ♪ ♪ 819 00:27:57,067 --> 00:27:58,583 Who is that? 820 00:27:58,736 --> 00:28:00,010 Oh, boy. 821 00:28:00,162 --> 00:28:01,661 Look at that tail-- wiggle butt. 822 00:28:01,755 --> 00:28:03,830 Got a wiggle butt. 823 00:28:03,849 --> 00:28:04,907 What up? 824 00:28:04,925 --> 00:28:05,849 - Mya. Hey, girl. 825 00:28:06,001 --> 00:28:07,017 - Look at that butt. 826 00:28:07,244 --> 00:28:08,260 [laughs] 827 00:28:08,412 --> 00:28:10,095 - Good girl. 828 00:28:10,189 --> 00:28:11,522 What you doing? 829 00:28:11,749 --> 00:28:12,597 Yeah. 830 00:28:12,750 --> 00:28:13,691 - Mm-hmm, she hyped. 831 00:28:13,918 --> 00:28:14,766 Uh-oh. 832 00:28:14,860 --> 00:28:16,026 She is hyped now. 833 00:28:16,178 --> 00:28:17,510 Look at her. - [laughs] 834 00:28:17,604 --> 00:28:18,937 - All right, there it go. 835 00:28:19,089 --> 00:28:20,346 What's up, dude? - Sup, bro? 836 00:28:20,366 --> 00:28:21,440 Good to see you, man. 837 00:28:21,592 --> 00:28:23,926 - You too, man. It's good to see you. 838 00:28:23,944 --> 00:28:25,427 - Yeah, for real, man. - Come on in, man. 839 00:28:25,520 --> 00:28:27,596 Chris is literally the only other human 840 00:28:27,689 --> 00:28:29,022 My dog loves more than me. 841 00:28:29,041 --> 00:28:31,600 So I know she's gonna be in a good place. 842 00:28:31,618 --> 00:28:33,544 She was the one putting me at ease, man. 843 00:28:33,695 --> 00:28:35,695 She was just like, justin, we got you. 844 00:28:35,715 --> 00:28:37,789 Mya is gonna be completely fine. 845 00:28:37,942 --> 00:28:39,866 - I know. You know, I was like, man, I don't know. 846 00:28:39,885 --> 00:28:41,034 I don't know if I'm ready for this. 847 00:28:41,128 --> 00:28:42,127 And then she was like, dude, it'll be fine. 848 00:28:42,279 --> 00:28:43,053 You know, it's mya. 849 00:28:43,280 --> 00:28:44,780 She's just like-- we've been, like, 850 00:28:44,873 --> 00:28:46,056 Thinking about getting a dog too. 851 00:28:46,283 --> 00:28:47,891 So it's gonna work out, man. - Yeah. 852 00:28:48,118 --> 00:28:49,634 When I started with this whole process, 853 00:28:49,787 --> 00:28:51,895 I anticipated challenges. 854 00:28:52,047 --> 00:28:53,379 I was just like, I'm marrying a stranger, so... 855 00:28:53,399 --> 00:28:54,623 - Right. 856 00:28:54,641 --> 00:28:55,807 - Of course there's gonna be challenges. 857 00:28:55,960 --> 00:28:57,383 - Mm-hmm. 858 00:28:57,403 --> 00:28:59,552 - But I never anticipated a curveball-- 859 00:28:59,646 --> 00:29:01,071 You know? - Like this? 860 00:29:01,298 --> 00:29:02,740 - Yeah, and the curveball was her, you know? 861 00:29:02,891 --> 00:29:04,575 And so, like, I had to make a choice. 862 00:29:04,726 --> 00:29:06,301 And boy, it was hard. 863 00:29:06,320 --> 00:29:07,745 [somber music] 864 00:29:07,896 --> 00:29:08,987 - That's a tough decision, you know? 865 00:29:09,139 --> 00:29:09,988 The dog or the wife. 866 00:29:10,140 --> 00:29:11,974 I get it, man. - Bruh, that was-- 867 00:29:11,992 --> 00:29:12,899 - Especially with mya being in your life 868 00:29:12,993 --> 00:29:14,067 For the past seven years-- you guys 869 00:29:14,086 --> 00:29:15,252 Have been through a lot together too. 870 00:29:15,403 --> 00:29:17,312 - We have been through a lot. - Moves, and-- 871 00:29:17,331 --> 00:29:18,922 - I used to make comments to myself like, 872 00:29:19,074 --> 00:29:20,240 I'll never give my dog up. 873 00:29:20,259 --> 00:29:21,149 We're gonna have to work this out. 874 00:29:21,243 --> 00:29:22,317 But I also never thought it would 875 00:29:22,410 --> 00:29:24,094 Be something this serious. - Right. 876 00:29:24,246 --> 00:29:25,262 - You know? - It's marriage, man. 877 00:29:25,413 --> 00:29:26,321 - Exactly. - Yeah. 878 00:29:26,340 --> 00:29:28,248 - Exactly, bro. 879 00:29:28,267 --> 00:29:30,008 So now I look at it as it's a new chapter. 880 00:29:30,160 --> 00:29:33,086 So that new chapter just happens to be with you. 881 00:29:33,105 --> 00:29:35,421 So I'm still at peace with it. 882 00:29:35,441 --> 00:29:37,090 Because I know who she's with. 883 00:29:37,109 --> 00:29:37,941 - You know, mya's comfortable with me. 884 00:29:38,093 --> 00:29:39,109 I've lived with her. 885 00:29:39,261 --> 00:29:41,169 You know, I think it will be a great fit. 886 00:29:41,188 --> 00:29:42,112 - I agree. 887 00:29:42,339 --> 00:29:43,429 I'm excited. 888 00:29:43,449 --> 00:29:44,782 I told my wife, I said, yeah, 889 00:29:45,009 --> 00:29:46,266 I might be going out there once a month. 890 00:29:46,285 --> 00:29:47,692 She's like, I'm sorry, how many times? 891 00:29:47,787 --> 00:29:48,786 - [laughs] 892 00:29:48,937 --> 00:29:50,287 - Oh, look at you. 893 00:29:50,514 --> 00:29:51,363 - Hi. 894 00:29:51,457 --> 00:29:52,790 - You're here. 895 00:29:52,941 --> 00:29:55,033 - I am here. - That was unexpected. 896 00:29:55,185 --> 00:29:56,685 I thought you got off today. 897 00:29:56,703 --> 00:29:57,853 - I didn't. 898 00:29:57,946 --> 00:29:59,704 I had to fight my way through. 899 00:29:59,857 --> 00:30:02,132 - Mm. Aw. 900 00:30:02,359 --> 00:30:04,117 - I didn't want you to go through this by yourself. 901 00:30:04,211 --> 00:30:05,618 - I appreciate that. 902 00:30:05,638 --> 00:30:06,953 Chris-- - hey. 903 00:30:07,047 --> 00:30:08,213 - What's up? - Alexis. 904 00:30:08,365 --> 00:30:09,473 - Hi, chris. - How are you? 905 00:30:09,700 --> 00:30:10,456 - I'm well. 906 00:30:10,551 --> 00:30:13,143 I'm glad you can take our baby. 907 00:30:13,295 --> 00:30:14,036 - Yeah, I'm glad too. 908 00:30:14,129 --> 00:30:16,538 - Let me pack her stuff up. 909 00:30:16,557 --> 00:30:18,965 [somber music] 910 00:30:18,984 --> 00:30:21,393 - ♪ 'cause I'm wondering ♪ 911 00:30:21,545 --> 00:30:23,395 - Come here. 912 00:30:23,547 --> 00:30:26,657 - ♪ if I'll see you again ♪ 913 00:30:26,884 --> 00:30:28,308 - Come here. 914 00:30:28,327 --> 00:30:34,739 - ♪ if our time is done, going down like the sun ♪ 915 00:30:34,892 --> 00:30:36,892 - Might need to put that seat down, I don't know. 916 00:30:36,910 --> 00:30:37,984 - Okay. 917 00:30:38,078 --> 00:30:41,413 - ♪ for all of my days ♪ 918 00:30:41,565 --> 00:30:43,065 - Okay. 919 00:30:43,083 --> 00:30:45,342 All right, girl, all right. 920 00:30:45,569 --> 00:30:47,252 She's like, "this is nice." - all right. 921 00:30:47,346 --> 00:30:48,328 - This is nice. 922 00:30:48,347 --> 00:30:50,238 Come here. Give me my final kisses. 923 00:30:50,257 --> 00:30:51,423 ♪ ♪ 924 00:30:51,517 --> 00:30:52,424 All right. 925 00:30:52,518 --> 00:30:54,092 Love you. 926 00:30:54,244 --> 00:30:59,005 - ♪ for all of my nights ♪ 927 00:30:59,024 --> 00:31:02,267 ♪ I'll think of our time ♪ 928 00:31:02,419 --> 00:31:09,424 ♪ ♪ 929 00:31:09,443 --> 00:31:13,762 ♪ 'cause I'm wondering ♪ 930 00:31:13,855 --> 00:31:17,432 ♪ if I'll see you again ♪ 931 00:31:17,451 --> 00:31:21,044 ♪ ♪ 932 00:31:24,717 --> 00:31:26,108 [soft music] 933 00:31:26,126 --> 00:31:28,944 - ♪ you couldn't know until it was over ♪ 934 00:31:28,962 --> 00:31:31,279 ♪ ♪ 935 00:31:31,298 --> 00:31:35,784 ♪ you couldn't know until it was over ♪ 936 00:31:35,802 --> 00:31:41,289 ♪ ♪ 937 00:31:41,308 --> 00:31:44,902 - What's your--what are your emotions right now? 938 00:31:45,053 --> 00:31:46,386 - Same as they were. 939 00:31:46,405 --> 00:31:49,740 It was just, you know, seeing that-- 940 00:31:49,891 --> 00:31:52,984 Seeing her, and just watching her drive off, and you know. 941 00:31:53,137 --> 00:31:55,487 - You said chris is the only person 942 00:31:55,581 --> 00:31:57,322 That mya loves more than you. 943 00:31:57,474 --> 00:31:58,323 - Mm-hmm. - You know, 944 00:31:58,475 --> 00:31:59,975 So you know she's in good hands. 945 00:31:59,993 --> 00:32:02,252 And you know where she's at, you know? 946 00:32:02,404 --> 00:32:04,254 You're gonna go visit her. 947 00:32:04,406 --> 00:32:05,830 And I know it's hard. 948 00:32:05,983 --> 00:32:07,907 I've never been in your shoes, so I can't-- 949 00:32:07,927 --> 00:32:09,834 I can only relate to it a certain extent, you know? 950 00:32:09,987 --> 00:32:11,244 - Yeah. 951 00:32:11,263 --> 00:32:13,321 - But I can only imagine how my heart 952 00:32:13,340 --> 00:32:15,340 Would feel in that moment. 953 00:32:15,434 --> 00:32:18,343 And I'm here for any support that you need. 954 00:32:18,495 --> 00:32:19,995 - All right, I appreciate that. 955 00:32:20,013 --> 00:32:21,688 Thank you. 956 00:32:23,500 --> 00:32:25,258 I hope this shows you that-- 957 00:32:25,277 --> 00:32:29,521 This is my proof that, like, I'm in this. 958 00:32:29,615 --> 00:32:30,614 I'm in this marriage. 959 00:32:30,765 --> 00:32:33,617 You know, this is my-- my commitment. 960 00:32:33,844 --> 00:32:36,344 You know, this is my ultimate sacrifice, 961 00:32:36,363 --> 00:32:39,364 That I'm willing to let something like her, 962 00:32:39,516 --> 00:32:41,941 Somebody that's close to me, you know, go. 963 00:32:41,961 --> 00:32:45,187 Like, does that mean anything to you? 964 00:32:45,205 --> 00:32:46,797 - It means a lot. 965 00:32:46,948 --> 00:32:49,874 It definitely means a lot. 966 00:32:49,969 --> 00:32:53,119 I also just want it to not mean, like, everything, 967 00:32:53,213 --> 00:32:54,863 You know what I'm saying? 968 00:32:54,881 --> 00:32:59,534 Like, everything come back to, "I gave away my mya for you." 969 00:32:59,553 --> 00:33:00,626 You know, things like that. 970 00:33:00,721 --> 00:33:02,037 'cause you've said that before. 971 00:33:02,130 --> 00:33:04,130 Like, you know, almost like holding it over my head. 972 00:33:04,224 --> 00:33:06,799 I just want you to understand that I do value your decision. 973 00:33:06,819 --> 00:33:08,485 And I really understand that it was 974 00:33:08,636 --> 00:33:10,212 The ultimate decision. 975 00:33:10,305 --> 00:33:11,546 But I'd just appreciate it if you don't 976 00:33:11,639 --> 00:33:13,215 Throw it in my face... - Okay. 977 00:33:13,233 --> 00:33:15,400 - Respectfully, because I do understand that. 978 00:33:15,494 --> 00:33:18,053 - It was important to me that you understood 979 00:33:18,071 --> 00:33:20,664 Why I made the decision I made, that's all. 980 00:33:20,891 --> 00:33:22,499 - Yeah, I understood that since the very first time 981 00:33:22,650 --> 00:33:24,893 You said you were gonna make it. 982 00:33:24,911 --> 00:33:27,838 - This is definitely the ultimate sacrifice. 983 00:33:28,065 --> 00:33:29,581 Because she's my girl. I raised her. 984 00:33:29,675 --> 00:33:31,733 I rescued her off the street, literally. 985 00:33:31,826 --> 00:33:34,177 But it's necessary because I feel like, you know, 986 00:33:34,404 --> 00:33:37,422 What me and alexis have had so far, 987 00:33:37,574 --> 00:33:39,832 It's worth the sacrifice. 988 00:33:39,926 --> 00:33:42,853 I hope she understands how much of a big deal this is to me, 989 00:33:43,080 --> 00:33:45,914 You know, and how much I'm really trying 990 00:33:45,932 --> 00:33:48,674 To accommodate for this, and our marriage to work. 991 00:33:48,769 --> 00:33:51,086 I hope I'm making the right decision. 992 00:33:51,104 --> 00:33:53,530 ♪ ♪ 993 00:33:53,681 --> 00:33:54,680 I chose the marriage. 994 00:33:54,700 --> 00:33:56,591 You know, I looked at the big picture 995 00:33:56,610 --> 00:33:58,035 Because I feel like our marriage is worth it. 996 00:33:58,186 --> 00:34:00,095 But it's time for a new chapter. 997 00:34:00,113 --> 00:34:04,690 ♪ ♪ 998 00:34:04,710 --> 00:34:08,194 - ♪ and I always hit the bottle ♪ 999 00:34:08,213 --> 00:34:12,215 ♪ drown my sorrow when you leave ♪ 1000 00:34:12,367 --> 00:34:15,610 ♪ when you leave ♪ 1001 00:34:15,629 --> 00:34:16,536 - Excuse me. 1002 00:34:16,630 --> 00:34:18,280 Can I sit here? 1003 00:34:18,298 --> 00:34:19,464 ♪ ♪ 1004 00:34:19,558 --> 00:34:21,449 I'll call daddy. 1005 00:34:21,468 --> 00:34:24,394 I don't have his number memorized just yet. 1006 00:34:25,213 --> 00:34:28,065 [line ringing] 1007 00:34:30,627 --> 00:34:32,069 Hey. 1008 00:34:32,220 --> 00:34:33,386 - Hey, what's up? 1009 00:34:33,405 --> 00:34:34,738 - How are you? 1010 00:34:34,889 --> 00:34:35,980 It's your girls. 1011 00:34:36,133 --> 00:34:37,132 [laughs] 1012 00:34:37,150 --> 00:34:39,801 - My girls. My girls. 1013 00:34:39,894 --> 00:34:42,153 - Have you gone surfing at all, or just work? 1014 00:34:42,306 --> 00:34:43,305 - No, we've been surf-- 1015 00:34:43,323 --> 00:34:44,973 You see, there's two boards on top. 1016 00:34:44,991 --> 00:34:46,474 - Yeah, I see the surfboards, yeah. 1017 00:34:46,568 --> 00:34:48,977 - Last night, we went on a little whale watching boat. 1018 00:34:49,070 --> 00:34:50,403 - Fun. - Kind of reminiscent-- 1019 00:34:50,422 --> 00:34:52,147 Kind of reminiscent of our honeymoon. 1020 00:34:52,165 --> 00:34:53,481 - Yeah. 1021 00:34:53,500 --> 00:34:56,075 - But way more seasick for me, for some reason. 1022 00:34:56,095 --> 00:34:58,153 So that was actually-- - [laughs] 1023 00:34:58,171 --> 00:34:59,504 - Yeah, but you know, I wouldn't say 1024 00:34:59,656 --> 00:35:00,580 I've been working too hard. 1025 00:35:00,599 --> 00:35:02,824 But it's just been very social. 1026 00:35:02,843 --> 00:35:03,675 I mean, it's, like, more social 1027 00:35:03,827 --> 00:35:05,084 Than I've been in years. 1028 00:35:05,178 --> 00:35:06,344 Yeah, it's been great. 1029 00:35:06,496 --> 00:35:08,163 But I guess as much fun as it's been, 1030 00:35:08,181 --> 00:35:10,107 I'm really looking forward to getting back, 1031 00:35:10,334 --> 00:35:11,666 To get back home to you and luna. 1032 00:35:11,759 --> 00:35:12,834 - Do you miss her snoring? 1033 00:35:12,927 --> 00:35:14,336 It's a yes or no question. 1034 00:35:14,354 --> 00:35:15,687 [laughter] 1035 00:35:15,781 --> 00:35:17,505 - I don't miss the snoring. 1036 00:35:17,524 --> 00:35:18,506 - [laughs] 1037 00:35:18,600 --> 00:35:19,765 Not a trick question, by the way. 1038 00:35:19,860 --> 00:35:21,176 - I do miss you, though. 1039 00:35:21,269 --> 00:35:23,011 - Aw, we miss you too. - But not luna's snoring. 1040 00:35:23,029 --> 00:35:25,104 But I miss having coffee with you in the morning. 1041 00:35:25,124 --> 00:35:27,124 I miss taking luna for her nightly walk 1042 00:35:27,275 --> 00:35:29,851 And hanging out with you after work and having dinner. 1043 00:35:29,870 --> 00:35:32,871 I miss all the good parts of our life together. 1044 00:35:33,023 --> 00:35:35,373 - Well, we are so excited for you to get home. 1045 00:35:35,525 --> 00:35:37,041 We're excited for beach day. 1046 00:35:37,194 --> 00:35:38,543 - Are you ready to shred? 1047 00:35:38,695 --> 00:35:40,712 Because I got the boards on my car already, you know? 1048 00:35:40,806 --> 00:35:43,031 - I am ready to shred. 1049 00:35:43,049 --> 00:35:46,885 Hopefully, we can stay around the beginner area. 1050 00:35:47,037 --> 00:35:48,203 - Yeah. 1051 00:35:48,221 --> 00:35:50,038 - Me and mitch are in a really good place 1052 00:35:50,056 --> 00:35:51,815 Coming off of the couples retreat. 1053 00:35:51,966 --> 00:35:53,375 It does feel a lot lighter 1054 00:35:53,393 --> 00:35:55,543 And just a lot more jovial and happier. 1055 00:35:55,562 --> 00:35:57,320 - Is luna coming? You might want to bring 1056 00:35:57,472 --> 00:36:00,048 Her pfd just in case luna shows an interest in surfing. 1057 00:36:00,141 --> 00:36:01,158 - [laughs] 1058 00:36:01,309 --> 00:36:03,051 A lot is at stake. 1059 00:36:03,069 --> 00:36:05,553 Providing a father figure for luna is important. 1060 00:36:05,647 --> 00:36:06,830 - Luna's gonna have to get with the program 1061 00:36:07,057 --> 00:36:08,314 Eventually, so... - She knows. 1062 00:36:08,333 --> 00:36:09,649 She loves the beach. She's a beach pug. 1063 00:36:09,743 --> 00:36:10,909 - Good, good. 1064 00:36:11,003 --> 00:36:13,561 - I really want to spend these remaining days 1065 00:36:13,655 --> 00:36:16,414 In the best way possible with him. 1066 00:36:16,566 --> 00:36:18,824 So I'm looking forward to him coming home, 1067 00:36:18,844 --> 00:36:21,494 Seeing how the time felt apart for him, 1068 00:36:21,513 --> 00:36:23,829 And talking about how it felt for me. 1069 00:36:23,849 --> 00:36:26,332 And I'm excited to try and put luna on a surfboard. 1070 00:36:26,426 --> 00:36:27,833 - Really good to see your face. 1071 00:36:27,853 --> 00:36:30,094 And looking forward to seeing you again in person 1072 00:36:30,247 --> 00:36:31,429 And catching up tomorrow. 1073 00:36:31,581 --> 00:36:33,415 - Well, we miss you. Have fun. 1074 00:36:33,433 --> 00:36:34,766 Work hard, but not too hard. 1075 00:36:34,918 --> 00:36:35,692 - All right. - Have fun, 1076 00:36:35,843 --> 00:36:37,085 But not too much fun. 1077 00:36:37,178 --> 00:36:38,028 - All right. - Okay. 1078 00:36:38,179 --> 00:36:39,921 [laughs] bye, boo. 1079 00:36:39,940 --> 00:36:41,031 ♪ ♪ 1080 00:36:41,182 --> 00:36:45,276 - ♪ free with me ♪ 1081 00:36:45,370 --> 00:36:47,019 - Nice, yeah. 1082 00:36:47,113 --> 00:36:49,113 - But this is so heavy. 1083 00:36:49,266 --> 00:36:50,856 - You feel--that's good, then. 1084 00:36:50,876 --> 00:36:53,859 - If--you want me to look like the hulk? 1085 00:36:53,879 --> 00:36:57,029 I personally am not a big fan of working out. 1086 00:36:57,049 --> 00:37:00,124 But I know that he enjoys exercising, 1087 00:37:00,277 --> 00:37:02,627 So we're gonna try to connect and recharge. 1088 00:37:02,779 --> 00:37:03,628 How about when we work out, 1089 00:37:03,722 --> 00:37:05,280 I just kind of be your cheerleader? 1090 00:37:05,298 --> 00:37:07,224 ♪ ♪ 1091 00:37:07,451 --> 00:37:09,300 Go, miguel! 1092 00:37:09,394 --> 00:37:11,043 Go, go, miguel! 1093 00:37:11,063 --> 00:37:13,045 Go, baby. Push harder, harder. 1094 00:37:13,065 --> 00:37:16,733 Pop that--[laughs] 1095 00:37:16,960 --> 00:37:18,460 Nice. 1096 00:37:18,478 --> 00:37:20,553 ♪ ♪ 1097 00:37:20,647 --> 00:37:21,629 Looks good, baby. 1098 00:37:21,648 --> 00:37:22,981 - Thank you. 1099 00:37:23,075 --> 00:37:24,799 Not so good for this. 1100 00:37:24,818 --> 00:37:28,136 As you know, it's a good lat exercise as well. 1101 00:37:28,154 --> 00:37:29,746 Honeymoon period is a little bit over. 1102 00:37:29,897 --> 00:37:32,582 And we're now getting to the nitty gritty of it. 1103 00:37:32,809 --> 00:37:35,159 Whew! - [laughs] 1104 00:37:35,312 --> 00:37:36,160 - Where's that steak? 1105 00:37:36,313 --> 00:37:38,480 - You pumped it up. 1106 00:37:38,573 --> 00:37:40,498 - I mean, we're both dedicated and committed to each other. 1107 00:37:40,650 --> 00:37:43,260 So now is the point to not coast 1108 00:37:43,487 --> 00:37:46,096 On the high of being in love with each other. 1109 00:37:46,247 --> 00:37:48,823 Now, it's just, like, you know, really making it work. 1110 00:37:48,842 --> 00:37:50,433 I think something finally came in the mail 1111 00:37:50,585 --> 00:37:54,012 That you may want to have. 1112 00:37:54,164 --> 00:37:55,847 - Oh? - To see a doctor. 1113 00:37:55,941 --> 00:37:57,499 - Yes! 1114 00:37:57,592 --> 00:37:59,501 Oh, my gosh, my insurance. 1115 00:37:59,519 --> 00:38:01,019 ♪ ♪ 1116 00:38:01,171 --> 00:38:04,430 Finally, I can go see a doctor. - I know. 1117 00:38:04,449 --> 00:38:06,524 You can get hit by a bus, and it'll be okay. 1118 00:38:06,618 --> 00:38:11,288 - I can get hit by a bus, and you'll care this time. 1119 00:38:11,515 --> 00:38:13,606 Yay, I'm so excited. 1120 00:38:13,700 --> 00:38:14,774 Thank you. I'm excited. 1121 00:38:14,793 --> 00:38:15,700 - You're welcome. 1122 00:38:15,794 --> 00:38:17,368 - It means a lot, it really does. 1123 00:38:17,521 --> 00:38:20,797 Because it kind of goes back... 1124 00:38:21,024 --> 00:38:22,465 You know, just, like, feeling cared for. 1125 00:38:22,617 --> 00:38:24,467 And... - Gotcha. 1126 00:38:24,619 --> 00:38:26,952 - Definitely am feeling way more and more comfortable with 1127 00:38:26,972 --> 00:38:30,214 The idea of hyphenating our names, 1128 00:38:30,309 --> 00:38:33,217 And just as our lives merge together and everything, 1129 00:38:33,370 --> 00:38:34,719 It's just making more sense. 1130 00:38:34,813 --> 00:38:35,870 - What more do you need? 1131 00:38:35,963 --> 00:38:38,648 Like, what's the ongoing component of it? 1132 00:38:38,800 --> 00:38:42,210 - I guess I just want to feel, like, even more secure, 1133 00:38:42,228 --> 00:38:44,970 And like, know that we have each other's back 1134 00:38:45,065 --> 00:38:46,230 No matter what. 1135 00:38:46,325 --> 00:38:47,973 'cause changing my name is a really big deal. 1136 00:38:47,993 --> 00:38:50,051 And I don't want to go back on that. 1137 00:38:50,070 --> 00:38:52,904 - Mm-hmm. 1138 00:38:53,056 --> 00:38:54,405 Along the same vein, it's a question, then, 1139 00:38:54,499 --> 00:38:57,241 How into this you are. 1140 00:38:57,336 --> 00:38:58,818 You don't want to take my name 1141 00:38:58,837 --> 00:39:01,245 In the event that it doesn't work out. 1142 00:39:01,340 --> 00:39:03,173 It's just frustrating, a little bit, to me. 1143 00:39:03,324 --> 00:39:08,753 - Well, for me, like, my doubt is coming from you, sadly. 1144 00:39:08,905 --> 00:39:10,238 That's where it's coming from. 1145 00:39:10,331 --> 00:39:14,166 I feel like you're just, like, ready to, like, jump ship, 1146 00:39:14,186 --> 00:39:17,854 Or like, just second guess everything 1147 00:39:18,005 --> 00:39:19,856 Before we've even tried. 1148 00:39:20,007 --> 00:39:22,250 It's just unfair for you to be pointing fingers at me 1149 00:39:22,268 --> 00:39:23,251 If it's so important to you. 1150 00:39:23,269 --> 00:39:25,028 This is-- I'm doing this for you. 1151 00:39:25,179 --> 00:39:27,364 This is so important to you, babe. 1152 00:39:27,515 --> 00:39:30,850 I'm happy being elloway forever, but you were-- 1153 00:39:30,869 --> 00:39:32,017 - Well, we can keep it like that, then. 1154 00:39:32,112 --> 00:39:35,096 [dramatic music] 1155 00:39:35,115 --> 00:39:39,525 - ♪ no one ever talks about the evil things ♪ 1156 00:39:39,619 --> 00:39:41,878 ♪ that love brings ♪ 1157 00:39:46,033 --> 00:39:48,276 - ♪ high on your vibes, I get high on your vibes ♪ 1158 00:39:48,294 --> 00:39:50,053 ♪ I get high on your vibes ♪ 1159 00:39:50,204 --> 00:39:51,129 - It's chilly in here. 1160 00:39:51,281 --> 00:39:52,722 - It is. 1161 00:39:52,949 --> 00:39:54,206 - 75, baby. 1162 00:39:54,300 --> 00:39:55,708 - Ooh! - Yeah. 1163 00:39:55,802 --> 00:39:57,619 - [sighs] - good luck. 1164 00:39:57,637 --> 00:40:00,397 - [panting] 1165 00:40:00,624 --> 00:40:01,806 [grunts] 1166 00:40:01,958 --> 00:40:03,066 - I'm gonna stick with my 40s. 1167 00:40:03,293 --> 00:40:05,960 [laughs] 1168 00:40:05,979 --> 00:40:07,720 - I feel like I'm either gaining or losing weight. 1169 00:40:07,739 --> 00:40:08,905 I don't know which one it is. 1170 00:40:09,056 --> 00:40:11,408 I feel like I'm gaining. 1171 00:40:11,559 --> 00:40:12,634 Isn't that a thing? 1172 00:40:12,652 --> 00:40:14,077 You gain weight when you get married. 1173 00:40:14,228 --> 00:40:15,486 - Yeah, happy weight. 1174 00:40:15,639 --> 00:40:16,395 It could be depression weight, 1175 00:40:16,415 --> 00:40:19,416 And you lose, like, 25 pounds. 1176 00:40:19,567 --> 00:40:20,750 - Have you gained or lost? 1177 00:40:20,902 --> 00:40:23,311 - [laughs] girl, I haven't even stepped on a scale. 1178 00:40:23,329 --> 00:40:26,256 I don't even want to add that narrative to my life. 1179 00:40:26,483 --> 00:40:27,424 - Oh. 1180 00:40:27,575 --> 00:40:28,666 - What's the plan? 1181 00:40:28,818 --> 00:40:30,001 Have you guys talked about--because I know 1182 00:40:30,095 --> 00:40:31,076 You have a home. 1183 00:40:31,171 --> 00:40:32,170 Have you discussed that with nate? 1184 00:40:32,264 --> 00:40:36,157 - He talked about once his lease is up, 1185 00:40:36,250 --> 00:40:38,843 We're going to move into the-- 1186 00:40:38,937 --> 00:40:40,011 My house. 1187 00:40:40,163 --> 00:40:40,937 ♪ ♪ 1188 00:40:41,164 --> 00:40:44,107 And we went to a hardware store. 1189 00:40:44,258 --> 00:40:46,668 And we went in there, and he was, like, 1190 00:40:46,686 --> 00:40:48,093 Picking out all these different things. 1191 00:40:48,113 --> 00:40:51,839 And I was just like, "ahh! No! No!" 1192 00:40:51,858 --> 00:40:53,599 And like-- - what was the compromise? 1193 00:40:53,618 --> 00:40:55,026 - Yeah, we haven't gotten there yet. 1194 00:40:55,178 --> 00:40:56,344 - Okay, that's fine. 1195 00:40:56,362 --> 00:40:58,437 - But he's kind of like, "I know you're gonna, 1196 00:40:58,531 --> 00:41:01,106 "like, veto, you know, whatever I say if you don't like it, 1197 00:41:01,126 --> 00:41:03,460 'cause it's your house." 1198 00:41:03,687 --> 00:41:05,628 I'm trying to say, like, "this is our house. 1199 00:41:05,780 --> 00:41:07,522 "I want it to be comfortable for you. 1200 00:41:07,615 --> 00:41:09,207 "I want you to feel like this is ours. 1201 00:41:09,359 --> 00:41:11,375 "like, I want you to feel comfortable living there. 1202 00:41:11,528 --> 00:41:12,451 "I don't want you to be like, 1203 00:41:12,471 --> 00:41:14,045 'oh, well, I'm just in your space.'" 1204 00:41:14,197 --> 00:41:15,138 ♪ ♪ 1205 00:41:15,289 --> 00:41:16,214 Technically, you are. 1206 00:41:16,366 --> 00:41:18,716 But I'm trying--you know? 1207 00:41:18,810 --> 00:41:20,977 - Do you think going to the hardware store kind of-- 1208 00:41:21,128 --> 00:41:22,053 - I think it scared him. 1209 00:41:22,147 --> 00:41:23,480 - It scared him? 1210 00:41:23,631 --> 00:41:24,722 - Because it made it real. 1211 00:41:24,874 --> 00:41:28,634 - Oh. Damn. 1212 00:41:28,728 --> 00:41:30,636 - How's the married life? 1213 00:41:30,655 --> 00:41:34,048 - It was definitely really good up until this afternoon. 1214 00:41:34,067 --> 00:41:37,552 You know, some clarity kind of kicked in. 1215 00:41:37,645 --> 00:41:38,978 And I was like, you know what? 1216 00:41:38,997 --> 00:41:40,905 I need some affirmation. 1217 00:41:41,057 --> 00:41:41,814 And so I texted her. 1218 00:41:41,833 --> 00:41:43,482 And I was like, "yo," I said, 1219 00:41:43,502 --> 00:41:44,892 "I know this is a stupid question. 1220 00:41:44,911 --> 00:41:46,728 You know, and I know we've talked about the future." 1221 00:41:46,746 --> 00:41:47,670 We've talked about houses. 1222 00:41:47,822 --> 00:41:50,006 We've talked about renting a spot. 1223 00:41:50,233 --> 00:41:51,323 - Right. 1224 00:41:51,343 --> 00:41:53,067 - And you know, I said-- 1225 00:41:53,086 --> 00:41:54,235 But I just need to hear it. 1226 00:41:54,328 --> 00:41:55,845 And I was just like, "well--" 1227 00:41:55,997 --> 00:41:59,849 I said, "well, can you tell me just that--like, 1228 00:42:00,001 --> 00:42:02,352 Can you tell me that you're saying yes on decision day?" 1229 00:42:02,503 --> 00:42:03,335 - Right. - And she says, 1230 00:42:03,355 --> 00:42:04,746 "where is that coming from?" 1231 00:42:04,764 --> 00:42:06,005 And I was like, "no, just--I need to hear it. 1232 00:42:06,024 --> 00:42:07,357 I need the affirmation." 1233 00:42:07,508 --> 00:42:09,250 And so what it boiled down to is, 1234 00:42:09,343 --> 00:42:11,027 She was deflecting, you know? 1235 00:42:11,254 --> 00:42:12,862 She was just like, "I told you I'm in it. 1236 00:42:13,089 --> 00:42:14,364 You know, I told you I'm gonna be patient." 1237 00:42:14,591 --> 00:42:15,923 And I said, "but you didn't answer my question." 1238 00:42:16,017 --> 00:42:17,683 - Mm-hmm. - When I gave mya away, 1239 00:42:17,702 --> 00:42:21,353 I was under the impression that we were on the same page. 1240 00:42:21,373 --> 00:42:22,280 - Right. - You know, 1241 00:42:22,432 --> 00:42:23,447 And if at any point, 1242 00:42:23,600 --> 00:42:26,376 She felt any doubt, whether it was 98%, 1243 00:42:26,527 --> 00:42:30,380 99%, she should have been like, "hey, baby, I love you. 1244 00:42:30,531 --> 00:42:32,123 I want this..." - right. 1245 00:42:32,275 --> 00:42:33,699 - "but I'm still a little on the fence about this." 1246 00:42:33,793 --> 00:42:35,034 - Right. Just communicate, 1247 00:42:35,053 --> 00:42:36,886 Like, the insecurities about it... 1248 00:42:37,038 --> 00:42:37,795 - Exactly. - Or just something, right? 1249 00:42:37,889 --> 00:42:39,222 - Exactly. 1250 00:42:39,449 --> 00:42:41,057 And for her to be such a direct person 1251 00:42:41,284 --> 00:42:43,634 And not communicate that to me, you know, 1252 00:42:43,728 --> 00:42:45,711 It's almost like she didn't want to hurt my feelings. 1253 00:42:45,730 --> 00:42:47,880 Because, like, if I'm gonna spend my whole life with you, 1254 00:42:47,899 --> 00:42:49,624 Like, I need to know that you are sure. 1255 00:42:49,642 --> 00:42:51,459 ♪ ♪ 1256 00:42:51,477 --> 00:42:53,644 - Justin came out today, and he was like, 1257 00:42:53,738 --> 00:42:56,555 "I just need to hear that you're going to say yes." 1258 00:42:56,575 --> 00:42:58,241 And mind you, this is a text message. 1259 00:42:58,392 --> 00:42:59,558 So I'm, like, in the middle of work-- 1260 00:42:59,652 --> 00:43:00,484 - Wait, what? - Yeah. 1261 00:43:00,637 --> 00:43:01,636 - In a text message? 1262 00:43:01,654 --> 00:43:02,970 - In a text message, girl. 1263 00:43:02,989 --> 00:43:06,082 He was saying how he was yes, but now that we're 1264 00:43:06,309 --> 00:43:07,158 Having this conversation, he doesn't know 1265 00:43:07,252 --> 00:43:08,643 If he's gonna say yes. 1266 00:43:08,736 --> 00:43:10,587 And I'm like, so your decision's 1267 00:43:10,738 --> 00:43:12,589 Dependent upon mine? 1268 00:43:12,740 --> 00:43:17,168 And in so many words, he said yes, 1269 00:43:17,262 --> 00:43:20,096 To where I'm just like, we have more to think about. 1270 00:43:20,323 --> 00:43:21,656 - You know, I asked her a few days ago, 1271 00:43:21,674 --> 00:43:22,915 You know, how she was doing. 1272 00:43:23,009 --> 00:43:24,325 And she's like, "I'm actually doing really good." 1273 00:43:24,418 --> 00:43:25,768 - Right. - You know, she was like, 1274 00:43:25,995 --> 00:43:28,346 "the way our relationship feels now--" 1275 00:43:28,498 --> 00:43:29,997 She was like, "you're not as on edge anymore." 1276 00:43:30,016 --> 00:43:30,940 - Yeah. 1277 00:43:31,092 --> 00:43:31,999 Well, that's good, though. 1278 00:43:32,018 --> 00:43:33,109 - That's really good. - Yeah. 1279 00:43:33,336 --> 00:43:36,261 - But when I asked for that affirmation, 1280 00:43:36,356 --> 00:43:38,673 I was like, "hey, you know, you are saying yes, right?" 1281 00:43:38,766 --> 00:43:40,265 And she's still been deflecting. 1282 00:43:40,285 --> 00:43:41,767 Still hasn't answered the question. 1283 00:43:41,786 --> 00:43:43,435 The way she answered it, she was like, 1284 00:43:43,455 --> 00:43:44,954 "you said you wanted me to be patient. 1285 00:43:45,106 --> 00:43:46,456 I'm gonna be patient." 1286 00:43:46,683 --> 00:43:48,273 That doesn't answer my question, though. 1287 00:43:48,293 --> 00:43:49,684 - Right. 1288 00:43:49,777 --> 00:43:51,519 I think alexis is immature. 1289 00:43:51,612 --> 00:43:54,130 And I think she's just a liar. 1290 00:43:54,281 --> 00:43:57,875 Like, I just think, like, she's leading justin on. 1291 00:43:57,969 --> 00:43:59,543 She just needs to be straight up with him. 1292 00:43:59,696 --> 00:44:01,471 Everything else, she's very direct and up front 1293 00:44:01,698 --> 00:44:03,139 And vocal about things, but when it comes 1294 00:44:03,366 --> 00:44:05,642 To a yes or no, she can't even answer it? 1295 00:44:05,793 --> 00:44:06,959 That's weird. 1296 00:44:06,978 --> 00:44:09,312 - You know, I don't think she's willing to do 1297 00:44:09,463 --> 00:44:11,314 Those uncomfortable compromises... 1298 00:44:11,541 --> 00:44:12,482 - Right. 1299 00:44:12,633 --> 00:44:14,225 - You know, and put herself out there, 1300 00:44:14,319 --> 00:44:15,559 100% vulnerable. 1301 00:44:15,712 --> 00:44:17,061 You know, I don't think she's ready for that. 1302 00:44:17,213 --> 00:44:18,729 ♪ ♪ 1303 00:44:18,823 --> 00:44:21,732 - He has made a whirlwind of a change since day one, 1304 00:44:21,885 --> 00:44:23,217 For sure. 1305 00:44:23,236 --> 00:44:25,236 But sometimes, he still reverts back 1306 00:44:25,388 --> 00:44:27,312 To some of those old ways, where I'm like, 1307 00:44:27,332 --> 00:44:28,572 "I thought we were past this." 1308 00:44:28,725 --> 00:44:30,408 And it kind of scares me because it's just like, 1309 00:44:30,560 --> 00:44:32,985 I'm seeing the change, I'm honoring the change. 1310 00:44:33,004 --> 00:44:36,247 But when those little glimpses of old justin come out, 1311 00:44:36,399 --> 00:44:38,824 I'm just, like, scared. 1312 00:44:38,843 --> 00:44:40,902 Him saying outbursts when he's upset-- 1313 00:44:40,920 --> 00:44:41,994 Like, what if we have kids? 1314 00:44:42,088 --> 00:44:43,087 What if we buy a house? 1315 00:44:43,239 --> 00:44:44,681 You know, like, it's so much bigger. 1316 00:44:44,832 --> 00:44:46,424 I'm thinking, like, generational. 1317 00:44:46,576 --> 00:44:47,684 - Yeah. 1318 00:44:47,911 --> 00:44:49,668 - So that's when it becomes challenging. 1319 00:44:49,762 --> 00:44:50,745 Because it's just like... 1320 00:44:50,763 --> 00:44:53,581 ♪ ♪ 1321 00:44:53,599 --> 00:44:55,917 Once I have a kid, it's too late, you know? 1322 00:44:55,935 --> 00:44:57,752 And if he hasn't worked on himself, 1323 00:44:57,845 --> 00:44:58,861 We haven't worked on each other, 1324 00:44:59,013 --> 00:45:00,438 I haven't worked on myself 1325 00:45:00,590 --> 00:45:02,773 To come to, like, a common theme, 1326 00:45:02,926 --> 00:45:06,035 And I'm pregnant, then what? 1327 00:45:06,187 --> 00:45:08,262 A big part of me wants to say yes. 1328 00:45:08,281 --> 00:45:12,709 But it's that small, little, like, I don't know, girl. 1329 00:45:12,936 --> 00:45:16,287 Can you tolerate this for the rest of your life? 1330 00:45:16,439 --> 00:45:18,715 And tolerate is not even a word I should have used. 1331 00:45:18,866 --> 00:45:22,385 So that is explanation in and of itself. 1332 00:45:22,536 --> 00:45:23,961 So I don't know. 1333 00:45:24,113 --> 00:45:25,780 ♪ ♪ 1334 00:45:25,798 --> 00:45:28,783 - If I'm being honest, man, I think-- 1335 00:45:28,801 --> 00:45:31,060 I think I got my mind made up, you know? 1336 00:45:31,287 --> 00:45:33,378 And the reason I got my mind made up 1337 00:45:33,473 --> 00:45:35,122 Is because I've recognized 1338 00:45:35,216 --> 00:45:36,566 I've taken my feelings out of it. 1339 00:45:36,717 --> 00:45:38,717 And now I'm looking at the facts. 1340 00:45:38,811 --> 00:45:40,886 It's really easy to get emotional 1341 00:45:40,980 --> 00:45:41,963 And make an emotional decision. 1342 00:45:42,056 --> 00:45:43,814 And I've been doing that, you know? 1343 00:45:43,967 --> 00:45:45,241 You guys already know I'm an emotional person. 1344 00:45:45,392 --> 00:45:46,409 - Yeah. - So for me to be like, 1345 00:45:46,560 --> 00:45:47,893 You know what? I'm gonna take my emotions 1346 00:45:47,912 --> 00:45:48,986 Out of it, and I'm gonna step out, 1347 00:45:49,138 --> 00:45:51,639 And I'm gonna view the facts-- - right. 1348 00:45:51,657 --> 00:45:52,823 - If I hadn't asked that question today, 1349 00:45:52,976 --> 00:45:54,233 I would have went in blindsided, 1350 00:45:54,252 --> 00:45:59,163 Thinking like it was all 100% on both ends, you know? 1351 00:45:59,257 --> 00:46:00,648 I would have. 1352 00:46:00,666 --> 00:46:04,652 Like, I gave up my baby, yo. 1353 00:46:04,670 --> 00:46:06,078 And that [bleep] hurt my soul. 1354 00:46:06,097 --> 00:46:07,488 And I'm like, you know what? I'm gonna suck it up. 1355 00:46:07,507 --> 00:46:09,673 I'm gonna deal with it, because that's marriage-- 1356 00:46:09,826 --> 00:46:11,583 But not in her eyes. 1357 00:46:11,603 --> 00:46:13,770 I'd be lying to myself-- 1358 00:46:13,997 --> 00:46:16,013 You know, I definitely-- I would be lying to myself 1359 00:46:16,165 --> 00:46:18,257 If I said, hey, you know what? 1360 00:46:18,351 --> 00:46:20,092 It's definitely a yes. - Right. 1361 00:46:20,111 --> 00:46:22,761 - It's probably a 90% no for me. 1362 00:46:22,781 --> 00:46:26,674 - Damn. - And... 1363 00:46:26,767 --> 00:46:28,359 I just feel like I was played. 1364 00:46:28,453 --> 00:46:30,119 ♪ ♪ 1365 00:46:33,958 --> 00:46:36,459 - ♪ we're all waiting for the world to wake up ♪ 1366 00:46:36,610 --> 00:46:40,021 ♪ open their eyes to the sunrise ♪ 1367 00:46:40,039 --> 00:46:43,874 ♪ ♪ 1368 00:46:44,027 --> 00:46:47,361 - Whew. Feels good out here. 1369 00:46:47,454 --> 00:46:48,863 Baby, you want some sunscreen? 1370 00:46:48,956 --> 00:46:50,807 - Yes, please. - All right. 1371 00:46:51,034 --> 00:46:52,867 - Baby, you got us on, like, a real hike. 1372 00:46:52,960 --> 00:46:54,535 - Yeah. - This ain't no trail. 1373 00:46:54,554 --> 00:46:56,203 This is, like, a hike-hike? 1374 00:46:56,222 --> 00:46:57,963 - I don't think stacia really likes 1375 00:46:57,982 --> 00:47:00,224 All the super outdoorsy stuff. 1376 00:47:00,376 --> 00:47:01,725 You know, she's definitely a city girl. 1377 00:47:01,878 --> 00:47:05,154 But it's something that I really enjoy. 1378 00:47:05,306 --> 00:47:08,732 And so I'm excited for us to, you know, do this together, 1379 00:47:08,885 --> 00:47:12,219 Because hiking really gets rid of the chatter 1380 00:47:12,238 --> 00:47:13,996 Inside the--inside the mind. 1381 00:47:14,223 --> 00:47:16,332 And with decision day coming up, 1382 00:47:16,483 --> 00:47:18,409 I think that's healthy for both of us. 1383 00:47:18,561 --> 00:47:20,485 ♪ ♪ 1384 00:47:20,505 --> 00:47:23,172 All right, let's hike. 1385 00:47:23,399 --> 00:47:25,157 - What zone are we gonna get into right now? 1386 00:47:25,176 --> 00:47:26,509 - We're gonna get in the alpha zone. 1387 00:47:26,660 --> 00:47:28,419 - Alpha zone. - Yeah. 1388 00:47:28,571 --> 00:47:32,515 ♪ ♪ 1389 00:47:32,666 --> 00:47:33,757 - This is relaxing. 1390 00:47:33,910 --> 00:47:35,743 - Yeah. 1391 00:47:35,761 --> 00:47:39,096 - Breathe in, breathe out. 1392 00:47:39,248 --> 00:47:40,247 - Oh, there's a snake, for real-- 1393 00:47:40,266 --> 00:47:42,341 - No, no, no, no. 1394 00:47:42,435 --> 00:47:43,526 - No, that's not a snake. 1395 00:47:43,677 --> 00:47:44,843 I'm seeing [bleep]. 1396 00:47:44,937 --> 00:47:46,845 Sorry, my bad. [laughs] 1397 00:47:46,865 --> 00:47:47,697 I thought it was. 1398 00:47:47,924 --> 00:47:50,774 - [laughing] 1399 00:47:50,869 --> 00:47:56,764 ♪ ♪ 1400 00:47:56,782 --> 00:47:58,690 I want to continue to do stuff like this. 1401 00:47:58,710 --> 00:48:00,784 Like, I don't want it to just be, like, a sporadic thing. 1402 00:48:00,937 --> 00:48:02,436 - Yeah. 1403 00:48:02,455 --> 00:48:03,621 - I know we're gonna work a lot at times. 1404 00:48:03,715 --> 00:48:04,955 But... - Right. 1405 00:48:05,108 --> 00:48:07,884 - I want to be able to still make time for us. 1406 00:48:08,035 --> 00:48:09,610 - Yeah, definitely. 1407 00:48:09,629 --> 00:48:11,462 But I don't think we're gonna be able 1408 00:48:11,556 --> 00:48:14,965 To have a lot of fun when we have a brand-new newborn. 1409 00:48:15,118 --> 00:48:17,785 I'm just being realistic. 1410 00:48:17,803 --> 00:48:19,970 - I think it's gonna be fun. 1411 00:48:20,123 --> 00:48:21,397 - Okay. 1412 00:48:21,624 --> 00:48:24,642 Noted. 1413 00:48:24,794 --> 00:48:27,552 So I actually have a little surprise for you 1414 00:48:27,647 --> 00:48:28,905 At the picnic table. 1415 00:48:29,056 --> 00:48:30,239 - Really? - Yeah. 1416 00:48:30,391 --> 00:48:33,634 It's like a little creative california activity. 1417 00:48:33,727 --> 00:48:35,077 - Okay. - You're gonna learn. 1418 00:48:35,229 --> 00:48:36,746 - I'm excited. Oh, I'm gonna learn? 1419 00:48:36,897 --> 00:48:37,729 - You gonna learn today. 1420 00:48:37,823 --> 00:48:39,231 - Okay. - Yeah. 1421 00:48:39,325 --> 00:48:40,416 All right, here you go. 1422 00:48:40,643 --> 00:48:41,642 Have a seat. 1423 00:48:41,661 --> 00:48:43,160 - What is this? 1424 00:48:43,312 --> 00:48:45,329 - We're about to make chips and guac, girl. 1425 00:48:45,423 --> 00:48:46,330 - Oh, really? 1426 00:48:46,424 --> 00:48:47,665 - From scratch. 1427 00:48:47,817 --> 00:48:48,999 ♪ ♪ 1428 00:48:49,152 --> 00:48:50,317 - Okay. 1429 00:48:50,336 --> 00:48:52,911 - So what I'll do is I'll cut up the avocados. 1430 00:48:52,931 --> 00:48:54,263 You cut up the limes. 1431 00:48:54,415 --> 00:48:56,490 - Okay, how do you want the limes cut? 1432 00:48:56,509 --> 00:49:00,010 - Cut one in half, so we can squeeze it into the bowl. 1433 00:49:00,163 --> 00:49:01,437 - Okay. 1434 00:49:01,588 --> 00:49:03,347 - And then cut this one into quarters. 1435 00:49:03,499 --> 00:49:07,109 All right, so let's talk about fun and kids. 1436 00:49:07,336 --> 00:49:09,445 I don't know how that goes hand in hand. 1437 00:49:09,672 --> 00:49:11,839 - I just don't want to be boring parents, 1438 00:49:11,857 --> 00:49:13,524 Where all we're doing is... 1439 00:49:13,676 --> 00:49:15,176 - I understand that. - Taking care of kids. 1440 00:49:15,194 --> 00:49:17,769 Like, I want to be able to, like, have kids 1441 00:49:17,789 --> 00:49:19,121 And still have fun 1442 00:49:19,348 --> 00:49:22,032 And still do things that we enjoy doing, 1443 00:49:22,185 --> 00:49:25,795 Where our life is not revolving around just having a kid, 1444 00:49:25,946 --> 00:49:27,354 And that's all we are worried about, 1445 00:49:27,373 --> 00:49:28,464 That's all our time goes to. 1446 00:49:28,615 --> 00:49:29,690 Like, I don't want that. 1447 00:49:29,709 --> 00:49:31,300 ♪ ♪ 1448 00:49:31,452 --> 00:49:33,377 - [laughs] 1449 00:49:33,471 --> 00:49:35,304 I think fun and babies-- 1450 00:49:35,456 --> 00:49:38,290 There's no--there's no, like, fun and babies. 1451 00:49:38,309 --> 00:49:40,034 I don't think they go hand in hand. 1452 00:49:40,127 --> 00:49:43,554 Traveling, you know, going on vacations 1453 00:49:43,706 --> 00:49:46,373 While having a newborn baby, 1454 00:49:46,467 --> 00:49:48,876 I don't think it's gonna be fun. 1455 00:49:48,894 --> 00:49:51,061 - So then what do you envision? 1456 00:49:51,214 --> 00:49:54,156 - I envision going hard and being a full-time dad 1457 00:49:54,383 --> 00:49:56,475 At age, like, zero all the way to, like, 1458 00:49:56,494 --> 00:49:59,662 Around... I would say at least three. 1459 00:49:59,889 --> 00:50:02,239 - And then that means, like, no vacations, 1460 00:50:02,391 --> 00:50:03,666 No date nights, no-- 1461 00:50:03,817 --> 00:50:05,817 - Still go on dates, but like, going on a vacation 1462 00:50:05,837 --> 00:50:07,152 For a week--for a whole week? 1463 00:50:07,246 --> 00:50:09,005 That's a lot. - Mm-hmm. 1464 00:50:09,156 --> 00:50:11,656 - It's a whole baby that is completely dependent. 1465 00:50:11,676 --> 00:50:12,733 - I get that. We're gonna be able to-- 1466 00:50:12,752 --> 00:50:14,343 - Because we still have to raise a-- 1467 00:50:14,495 --> 00:50:16,661 Like, literally a newborn, [bleep] everywhere, 1468 00:50:16,756 --> 00:50:17,680 Pissing everywhere. 1469 00:50:17,831 --> 00:50:19,757 We've gotta feed it six times a day, 1470 00:50:19,909 --> 00:50:21,333 Napping everywhere. 1471 00:50:21,427 --> 00:50:23,001 Got to put clothes on it. 1472 00:50:23,021 --> 00:50:24,520 That don't sound like fun to me. 1473 00:50:24,671 --> 00:50:25,929 - It's gonna be tough. - That sounds like a job. 1474 00:50:26,024 --> 00:50:27,523 - It's gonna be tough. Granted, it's gonna be tough. 1475 00:50:27,674 --> 00:50:28,932 But that's your baby. 1476 00:50:29,085 --> 00:50:30,860 ♪ ♪ 1477 00:50:31,011 --> 00:50:32,695 It does seem like he doesn't believe 1478 00:50:32,846 --> 00:50:35,197 That you can still be a fun person 1479 00:50:35,349 --> 00:50:36,699 And then also have kids. 1480 00:50:36,926 --> 00:50:39,518 So I'm not sure if nate's gonna be ready 1481 00:50:39,612 --> 00:50:40,852 To have kids in a year. 1482 00:50:40,872 --> 00:50:42,521 So I'm disappointed. 1483 00:50:42,615 --> 00:50:44,523 But only time can tell. 1484 00:50:44,617 --> 00:50:45,708 Can I ask you a question? 1485 00:50:45,935 --> 00:50:48,693 Are you nervous about all of these transitions 1486 00:50:48,713 --> 00:50:51,939 And changes that would be happening after decision day? 1487 00:50:51,957 --> 00:50:54,625 - A little bit. - Yeah. 1488 00:50:54,719 --> 00:50:57,035 - I think it's natural, though, to be nervous. 1489 00:50:57,055 --> 00:50:59,221 - Yeah. - Am I--am I, like, fearful? 1490 00:50:59,448 --> 00:51:02,058 Like, am I, like, getting cold feet? 1491 00:51:02,209 --> 00:51:03,951 - Mm-hmm. - No. 1492 00:51:04,044 --> 00:51:07,212 But I'm gonna be immersed with somebody. 1493 00:51:07,231 --> 00:51:10,048 Not only moving in with them, 1494 00:51:10,068 --> 00:51:12,401 But we're gonna eventually combine our finances together. 1495 00:51:12,628 --> 00:51:13,811 These are all things that I've never done 1496 00:51:13,963 --> 00:51:15,963 In my entire life before. - Mm-hmm. 1497 00:51:15,981 --> 00:51:18,148 It's gonna be change. It's gonna be different. 1498 00:51:18,301 --> 00:51:19,241 - Mm-hmm. 1499 00:51:19,393 --> 00:51:21,635 - You know, I've been on my own too. 1500 00:51:21,728 --> 00:51:23,304 - Mm-hmm. - Doing my own thing, 1501 00:51:23,397 --> 00:51:25,489 Not having to compromise at all. 1502 00:51:25,583 --> 00:51:27,474 But I'm excited. 1503 00:51:27,493 --> 00:51:30,327 And I'm hopeful and optimistic about the future. 1504 00:51:30,479 --> 00:51:31,587 - Okay. 1505 00:51:31,738 --> 00:51:33,405 Well, what if I start getting on your nerves, 1506 00:51:33,424 --> 00:51:34,331 And I'm all in your-- 1507 00:51:34,425 --> 00:51:35,332 - You already do. 1508 00:51:35,484 --> 00:51:37,151 ♪ ♪ 1509 00:51:37,169 --> 00:51:39,077 - But now I'm in your house, though. 1510 00:51:39,097 --> 00:51:40,429 - We live together right now. 1511 00:51:40,581 --> 00:51:42,156 - Yeah, but it's not a real house. 1512 00:51:42,249 --> 00:51:43,991 - So what would be the difference 1513 00:51:44,084 --> 00:51:47,937 Between us arguing in the apartment 1514 00:51:48,088 --> 00:51:49,346 Versus in the house? 1515 00:51:49,498 --> 00:51:50,664 ♪ ♪ 1516 00:51:50,683 --> 00:51:53,016 - The difference is I'm living in your house. 1517 00:51:53,169 --> 00:51:54,759 And I feel-- 1518 00:51:54,779 --> 00:51:56,928 I feel vulnerable living in your house. 1519 00:51:56,948 --> 00:52:01,450 Even though it's "our house," it's really your house. 1520 00:52:01,602 --> 00:52:03,119 - Okay, is there anything that I can do 1521 00:52:03,346 --> 00:52:06,938 To, like, make you feel more comfortable? 1522 00:52:06,958 --> 00:52:08,273 Granted, yeah, I have a vision 1523 00:52:08,292 --> 00:52:09,533 Of how I want the house to look like 1524 00:52:09,685 --> 00:52:10,609 And the furniture and everything, 1525 00:52:10,628 --> 00:52:15,689 But it's going to be a dual decision. 1526 00:52:15,782 --> 00:52:17,191 - Will it ever get to the point 1527 00:52:17,209 --> 00:52:18,968 Where you would want to kick me out? 1528 00:52:19,195 --> 00:52:20,285 - No. 1529 00:52:20,379 --> 00:52:22,471 I told you that I would never say that to you. 1530 00:52:23,883 --> 00:52:25,366 - Okay. 1531 00:52:25,459 --> 00:52:27,050 I guess my fear is just like, 1532 00:52:27,203 --> 00:52:28,535 If things were to get bad 1533 00:52:28,554 --> 00:52:31,872 And, let's say--knock on wood-- 1534 00:52:31,891 --> 00:52:36,894 We decide to get separated, we decide to end it, 1535 00:52:36,988 --> 00:52:38,303 Where do I go? 1536 00:52:38,322 --> 00:52:39,880 I'll be homeless. 1537 00:52:39,899 --> 00:52:42,883 [dramatic music] 1538 00:52:42,902 --> 00:52:43,617 ♪ ♪ 1539 00:52:47,239 --> 00:52:48,722 [upbeat music] 1540 00:52:48,741 --> 00:52:53,836 ♪ ♪ 1541 00:53:05,257 --> 00:53:06,740 [knock on door] 1542 00:53:06,759 --> 00:53:08,075 - Oh, I think our friends are here. 1543 00:53:08,093 --> 00:53:09,685 [tense music] 1544 00:53:09,836 --> 00:53:11,353 There's still a lot of awkwardness 1545 00:53:11,505 --> 00:53:14,523 And uncomfortableness between lindy and I. 1546 00:53:14,750 --> 00:53:16,508 And we thought it would be a good idea 1547 00:53:16,527 --> 00:53:18,101 To, like, blow off some steam. 1548 00:53:18,254 --> 00:53:19,177 - Oh, my gosh, how cute! 1549 00:53:19,197 --> 00:53:20,437 - I like how you guys coordinated. 1550 00:53:20,531 --> 00:53:22,013 - How are you? - I'm good. 1551 00:53:22,033 --> 00:53:23,774 So tonight, we're having friends over 1552 00:53:23,926 --> 00:53:26,351 To play some dungeons and dragons, baby. 1553 00:53:26,445 --> 00:53:28,871 And I am very much looking forward 1554 00:53:29,022 --> 00:53:31,114 To sharing my passion for dungeons and dragons 1555 00:53:31,267 --> 00:53:32,374 With lindy. 1556 00:53:32,601 --> 00:53:35,211 - We're--we're just gonna start from ground zero. 1557 00:53:35,362 --> 00:53:36,954 And... - Yeah. 1558 00:53:37,106 --> 00:53:38,214 - No judgment here. I know you've never played. 1559 00:53:38,365 --> 00:53:40,107 I know I've never played. We don't know what's up. 1560 00:53:40,125 --> 00:53:41,366 But these two will show us the ropes. 1561 00:53:41,385 --> 00:53:42,626 - It's gonna be very bumpy for us. 1562 00:53:42,720 --> 00:53:44,127 - We got you. We got you. 1563 00:53:44,280 --> 00:53:45,870 Apologies in advance. 1564 00:53:45,965 --> 00:53:48,465 - Yeah, if you guys have any questions... 1565 00:53:48,559 --> 00:53:50,226 - Well, yeah, there'll be lots of questions. 1566 00:53:50,377 --> 00:53:52,953 - Ask away. Ask me, ask frankie. 1567 00:53:53,046 --> 00:53:55,046 So I'll describe the world. 1568 00:53:55,066 --> 00:53:56,974 And then you guys can go around, be creative, 1569 00:53:57,126 --> 00:53:58,475 Use your imagination. 1570 00:53:58,627 --> 00:54:01,795 The answer is almost never a no. 1571 00:54:01,814 --> 00:54:03,964 It's a, "let's try to figure it out." 1572 00:54:03,983 --> 00:54:07,968 So this is basically set in a small rural town 1573 00:54:07,987 --> 00:54:09,394 Called mafstoria. 1574 00:54:09,413 --> 00:54:10,913 [folk music] 1575 00:54:11,064 --> 00:54:14,399 In mafstoria, something is terrorizing these people 1576 00:54:14,493 --> 00:54:15,900 That has wings. 1577 00:54:15,920 --> 00:54:19,255 So let's say you approach the tavern. 1578 00:54:19,482 --> 00:54:21,648 It's called the big swig tavern. 1579 00:54:21,742 --> 00:54:23,667 - Okay. - But there's a-- 1580 00:54:23,819 --> 00:54:26,336 A dwarf that seems to be the owner. 1581 00:54:26,489 --> 00:54:27,988 When he greets you, he's like... 1582 00:54:28,081 --> 00:54:29,673 [with irish accent] oi, lass, name is gristle. 1583 00:54:29,825 --> 00:54:30,657 What can I do for you? 1584 00:54:30,676 --> 00:54:33,827 ♪ ♪ 1585 00:54:33,846 --> 00:54:36,921 - Oh, whoa, we're starting with me? 1586 00:54:37,016 --> 00:54:38,757 - [normal voice] yeah. - Oh, I don't know what to do. 1587 00:54:38,776 --> 00:54:39,850 - Interact with the bartender. 1588 00:54:39,944 --> 00:54:41,018 - Okay, um... 1589 00:54:41,170 --> 00:54:46,115 I'd like whiskey, kind, handsome stranger. 1590 00:54:46,266 --> 00:54:47,616 [laughter] 1591 00:54:47,843 --> 00:54:49,510 - When you say "handsome stranger," 1592 00:54:49,528 --> 00:54:52,270 He kind of, like--he lets out a little bit of a sob. 1593 00:54:52,290 --> 00:54:54,105 He's like... - Oh, my god. 1594 00:54:54,125 --> 00:54:55,866 - I mean, today was supposed to be my wedding day. 1595 00:54:56,018 --> 00:54:58,035 But she decided to... 1596 00:54:58,129 --> 00:54:59,870 To leave me for someone else. 1597 00:55:00,022 --> 00:55:01,446 - [laughing] oh, my god. 1598 00:55:01,540 --> 00:55:03,190 [quirky music] 1599 00:55:03,283 --> 00:55:05,950 I'm so sorry to hear that. 1600 00:55:05,970 --> 00:55:07,194 - We were so very much in love. 1601 00:55:07,212 --> 00:55:12,290 And within just, like, a matter of a week, 1602 00:55:12,310 --> 00:55:14,810 Some pompous fool just comes in 1603 00:55:15,037 --> 00:55:16,386 And kind of, like, sweeps her off her feet. 1604 00:55:16,480 --> 00:55:18,539 I just never thought that would happen to us. 1605 00:55:18,557 --> 00:55:21,375 It just seemed so very, like, out of place for her. 1606 00:55:21,393 --> 00:55:22,801 - Excuse me, sir, do you mind if I ask 1607 00:55:22,820 --> 00:55:24,469 What the pompous fool looked like? 1608 00:55:24,488 --> 00:55:26,322 - Just go to the church. 1609 00:55:26,549 --> 00:55:27,639 Because someone is still getting married, 1610 00:55:27,733 --> 00:55:28,807 It's just not me. 1611 00:55:28,826 --> 00:55:32,402 I'm just not the right person. 1612 00:55:32,496 --> 00:55:34,071 - Oh, my god. 1613 00:55:34,223 --> 00:55:35,055 - Sorry about your wedding. 1614 00:55:35,074 --> 00:55:36,073 I turn and leave. 1615 00:55:36,225 --> 00:55:37,148 You guys want to come? 1616 00:55:37,168 --> 00:55:38,392 - Yes. 1617 00:55:38,410 --> 00:55:40,561 ♪ ♪ 1618 00:55:40,579 --> 00:55:43,172 It is important for me to get excited 1619 00:55:43,323 --> 00:55:46,233 About this passion of his. 1620 00:55:46,251 --> 00:55:49,236 But you know, like, d&d is so confusing. 1621 00:55:49,254 --> 00:55:52,756 I'm like, roll for it, calculating, there's math, 1622 00:55:52,908 --> 00:55:54,666 There's different die--die? 1623 00:55:54,685 --> 00:55:56,259 Dice? I don't even know. 1624 00:55:56,354 --> 00:55:58,336 - Give me, like, a self roll. - What's that? 1625 00:55:58,356 --> 00:55:59,746 - Roll a d20. - Roll a d20. 1626 00:55:59,840 --> 00:56:02,358 - So the biggest die, the one that looks most round. 1627 00:56:02,509 --> 00:56:03,917 Yeah. - Yeah. 1628 00:56:03,936 --> 00:56:05,510 - Definitely complicated. 1629 00:56:05,604 --> 00:56:07,437 - Yeah, so you walk in. 1630 00:56:07,590 --> 00:56:09,940 But you get the impression that, like, something is off. 1631 00:56:10,092 --> 00:56:12,183 Like, she doesn't seem like a happy bride 1632 00:56:12,203 --> 00:56:14,036 About to kiss her groom. 1633 00:56:14,187 --> 00:56:15,929 - Well, I'll tell you why. 1634 00:56:16,022 --> 00:56:17,539 [laughing] I'm sorry. Go on. 1635 00:56:17,691 --> 00:56:20,117 - Um, you see him kind of eager for it, 1636 00:56:20,269 --> 00:56:21,602 And you just kind of see her just going with the motions, 1637 00:56:21,620 --> 00:56:23,453 Kind of like--you know? 1638 00:56:23,606 --> 00:56:24,621 - Yeah. - Yeah. 1639 00:56:24,773 --> 00:56:26,773 What do you guys do? 1640 00:56:26,792 --> 00:56:28,442 - Do we think she's trapped in this marriage? 1641 00:56:28,460 --> 00:56:30,034 ♪ ♪ 1642 00:56:30,054 --> 00:56:31,945 - Maybe she's just, like, captivated by him. 1643 00:56:32,038 --> 00:56:33,371 Maybe she's under a spell. 1644 00:56:33,391 --> 00:56:34,631 - Maybe. 1645 00:56:34,783 --> 00:56:36,392 - Do I have permission to punch him in the face? 1646 00:56:36,543 --> 00:56:37,618 Is that an option? 1647 00:56:37,636 --> 00:56:39,453 - You can absolutely try. - [laughing] 1648 00:56:39,546 --> 00:56:41,212 - And when you hit him, he swaps out. 1649 00:56:41,232 --> 00:56:42,956 And what you now see is this. 1650 00:56:43,049 --> 00:56:45,125 - Oh, he's a [bleep] demon? 1651 00:56:45,144 --> 00:56:46,143 - I don't know. That's what you see. 1652 00:56:46,237 --> 00:56:48,145 - What the [bleep] is that? - [laughs] 1653 00:56:48,297 --> 00:56:51,632 - As miguel is explaining the story line for this game, 1654 00:56:51,725 --> 00:56:55,318 It's almost like he's talking about us and our relationship. 1655 00:56:55,413 --> 00:56:57,562 But...No. 1656 00:56:57,581 --> 00:56:59,322 Yeah, I don't trust this guy. 1657 00:56:59,417 --> 00:57:05,312 ♪ ♪ 1658 00:57:05,330 --> 00:57:08,257 [upbeat music] 1659 00:57:08,484 --> 00:57:12,502 ♪ ♪ 1660 00:57:12,596 --> 00:57:14,655 - It's good to be back. - It's good to have you back. 1661 00:57:14,673 --> 00:57:16,506 - Thanks, babe. 1662 00:57:16,659 --> 00:57:20,752 - We were like, it's a little quiet around here. 1663 00:57:20,771 --> 00:57:22,679 - This is gonna be a nice weekend. 1664 00:57:22,831 --> 00:57:23,830 We'll see what the ocean 1665 00:57:23,924 --> 00:57:25,849 Is offering today. - Yes. 1666 00:57:26,001 --> 00:57:28,518 - I have a feeling it's gonna be big, windy, and sloppy. 1667 00:57:28,612 --> 00:57:29,928 That's... - Oh, god. 1668 00:57:29,947 --> 00:57:32,263 - Not the best case scenario. 1669 00:57:32,357 --> 00:57:35,358 But you know, like, I'm a cup half full kind of guy. 1670 00:57:35,511 --> 00:57:37,769 - Are you? - Am I? 1671 00:57:37,788 --> 00:57:39,621 - [laughs] are you? - Am I? 1672 00:57:39,773 --> 00:57:40,864 - [laughs] 1673 00:57:41,016 --> 00:57:43,775 I am excited to just spend time with you. 1674 00:57:43,869 --> 00:57:47,796 I don't know if I'm in, like, a huge shredding mood. 1675 00:57:48,023 --> 00:57:51,208 - It's more of a hungover, feel like [bleep] day for me, 1676 00:57:51,360 --> 00:57:53,860 If we're being honest. 1677 00:57:53,954 --> 00:57:55,787 - What did you do last night to be so hungover? 1678 00:57:55,806 --> 00:57:57,380 - Well, we had a dinner. 1679 00:57:57,533 --> 00:57:58,807 And then we hit the bar. 1680 00:57:59,034 --> 00:58:02,202 And it just happened to be karaoke night. 1681 00:58:02,221 --> 00:58:04,054 Definitely thought of you. 1682 00:58:04,206 --> 00:58:06,707 You'd be proud, actually, because I started it off. 1683 00:58:06,725 --> 00:58:09,818 I got the party jumping. [laughs] 1684 00:58:09,970 --> 00:58:13,880 - Um, do you--is your-- is your ring in the car? 1685 00:58:13,974 --> 00:58:15,491 Did you lose your ring? - No. 1686 00:58:15,718 --> 00:58:16,883 - Okay. - It's right here, sorry. 1687 00:58:16,902 --> 00:58:17,826 [tense music] 1688 00:58:17,978 --> 00:58:20,645 I'm married again. 1689 00:58:20,739 --> 00:58:21,980 - Were you not married? 1690 00:58:22,074 --> 00:58:24,908 - Uh, I was to all my close friends that I know. 1691 00:58:25,002 --> 00:58:27,244 But I was not ready to be married for the whole-- 1692 00:58:27,396 --> 00:58:28,562 For my whole company. 1693 00:58:28,655 --> 00:58:29,746 It was just too much. - Yeah. 1694 00:58:29,898 --> 00:58:31,840 - I would have been forced to go up and do 1695 00:58:32,067 --> 00:58:33,750 A full presentation with slides. 1696 00:58:33,844 --> 00:58:37,328 ♪ ♪ 1697 00:58:37,348 --> 00:58:41,091 - Um, were there any cute girls on this trip? 1698 00:58:41,243 --> 00:58:43,501 - [laughs] oh, jealous type. 1699 00:58:43,595 --> 00:58:45,245 - Was that a jealous question? - No. 1700 00:58:45,338 --> 00:58:46,429 - Or just a question? - I know. 1701 00:58:46,524 --> 00:58:50,433 Yeah, I mean, there is-- 1702 00:58:50,528 --> 00:58:52,586 You know, what--what--[sighs] 1703 00:58:52,679 --> 00:58:54,679 - [laughs] 1704 00:58:54,773 --> 00:58:56,423 - You know, they're all just dog ugly 1705 00:58:56,441 --> 00:58:57,924 Now that I'm married to you, actually. 1706 00:58:57,943 --> 00:59:01,686 I don't even--it's like I don't even see women anymore. 1707 00:59:01,780 --> 00:59:03,280 You go to any beach town, 1708 00:59:03,374 --> 00:59:05,356 There's always cute girls in the beach world, 1709 00:59:05,376 --> 00:59:07,117 You know what I mean? 1710 00:59:07,269 --> 00:59:11,046 So yeah, there were some cute surf rider girls. 1711 00:59:11,197 --> 00:59:13,031 It's--it's really a lot of girls. 1712 00:59:13,050 --> 00:59:14,457 I'm a dude among ladies there. 1713 00:59:14,552 --> 00:59:16,443 There's, like, few of us guys. 1714 00:59:16,461 --> 00:59:19,462 ♪ ♪ 1715 00:59:19,615 --> 00:59:21,372 - He's just straight up. 1716 00:59:21,466 --> 00:59:22,783 "I didn't wear my ring. 1717 00:59:22,876 --> 00:59:25,118 There were hot beach babes at the conference." 1718 00:59:25,137 --> 00:59:26,395 ♪ ♪ 1719 00:59:26,546 --> 00:59:28,897 - So we raised at the bar. 1720 00:59:29,049 --> 00:59:31,458 You know, after the party, it's the hotel lobby. 1721 00:59:31,476 --> 00:59:33,794 After the lobby, it's the after-party. 1722 00:59:33,812 --> 00:59:35,070 Well, you know, whatever. 1723 00:59:35,221 --> 00:59:36,313 And I was up late, 1724 00:59:36,465 --> 00:59:37,221 And I was hungover this morning, 1725 00:59:37,241 --> 00:59:38,240 So there you go. 1726 00:59:38,391 --> 00:59:41,301 - [laughing] 1727 00:59:41,320 --> 00:59:44,079 ♪ ♪ 1728 00:59:44,230 --> 00:59:47,657 He was just so forthcoming with that information. 1729 00:59:47,810 --> 00:59:49,142 - Saving the world is stressful, 1730 00:59:49,235 --> 00:59:50,477 So you gotta have some fun. 1731 00:59:50,495 --> 00:59:50,711 ♪ ♪ 1732 00:59:54,333 --> 00:59:55,740 [upbeat music] 1733 00:59:55,759 --> 00:59:57,150 - ♪ hot girl and a hot body ♪ 1734 00:59:57,169 --> 00:59:59,986 ♪ get my cutoff jeans, then I ain't got time ♪ 1735 01:00:00,080 --> 01:00:01,822 ♪ many people hustle like me ♪ 1736 01:00:01,840 --> 01:00:03,748 ♪ 'cause doing heavy lifting was life ♪ 1737 01:00:03,842 --> 01:00:08,678 ♪ whoa, whoa, whoa ♪ 1738 01:00:08,831 --> 01:00:11,440 - Me and mitch are trying to enjoy each other's company, 1739 01:00:11,591 --> 01:00:12,757 Have fun. 1740 01:00:12,851 --> 01:00:15,352 I'm just thinking about me and mitch as a whole. 1741 01:00:15,446 --> 01:00:19,189 - Everything's clean and very well-prepared, so... 1742 01:00:19,341 --> 01:00:21,099 It's been a long week. 1743 01:00:21,118 --> 01:00:22,433 - I'm not thrilled that mitch 1744 01:00:22,453 --> 01:00:24,620 Didn't wear his ring on his conference 1745 01:00:24,771 --> 01:00:26,437 And was living it up with the beach babes. 1746 01:00:26,531 --> 01:00:29,182 But I'm gonna try and let it go. 1747 01:00:29,201 --> 01:00:30,200 Is this one mine? 1748 01:00:30,352 --> 01:00:32,035 - That's your suit. 1749 01:00:32,187 --> 01:00:35,355 - I wouldn't say we are, like, a picture perfect marriage, 1750 01:00:35,374 --> 01:00:36,873 Hand in hand every day. 1751 01:00:36,967 --> 01:00:38,692 And I wouldn't say that we're estranged. 1752 01:00:38,710 --> 01:00:40,710 I think we're somewhere in the middle. 1753 01:00:40,804 --> 01:00:42,471 - ♪ we feelin' all right ♪ 1754 01:00:42,622 --> 01:00:44,455 ♪ we livin' our life ♪ 1755 01:00:44,475 --> 01:00:48,218 - You got it! [laughs] 1756 01:00:48,370 --> 01:00:50,294 Yes! Yes, pup! Yes! 1757 01:00:50,389 --> 01:00:52,038 Look at her go! 1758 01:00:52,057 --> 01:00:53,464 ♪ ♪ 1759 01:00:53,484 --> 01:00:54,650 She loves it! [luna barks] 1760 01:00:54,801 --> 01:00:55,892 - ♪ ain't no stoppin' ♪ 1761 01:00:56,044 --> 01:00:58,211 [laughs] oh, my god. 1762 01:00:58,304 --> 01:01:00,213 - ♪ can't stop us now ♪ 1763 01:01:00,232 --> 01:01:04,142 ♪ ♪ 1764 01:01:04,161 --> 01:01:07,478 Gosh, mitch and luna are so adorable! 1765 01:01:07,572 --> 01:01:09,072 I almost got emotional. 1766 01:01:09,224 --> 01:01:11,241 It was just so sweet. 1767 01:01:11,393 --> 01:01:12,893 They looked like they were having so much fun together. 1768 01:01:12,911 --> 01:01:15,245 The look on her face, I can't tell if she's excited 1769 01:01:15,397 --> 01:01:16,320 Or if she's scared. 1770 01:01:16,340 --> 01:01:18,581 I'm not sure, but it's super cute. 1771 01:01:18,676 --> 01:01:20,083 - Nice job out there. 1772 01:01:20,235 --> 01:01:21,568 Luna too. - Yeah. 1773 01:01:21,586 --> 01:01:23,570 - Not too shabby for a pug. - That was the highlight, 1774 01:01:23,663 --> 01:01:25,071 I think, of my whole week. 1775 01:01:25,090 --> 01:01:26,740 And you were so sweet with her. 1776 01:01:26,833 --> 01:01:29,500 I will say I felt like the surfing 1777 01:01:29,520 --> 01:01:31,578 Was kind of like our marriage. 1778 01:01:31,596 --> 01:01:32,521 ♪ ♪ 1779 01:01:32,748 --> 01:01:33,596 - Yeah. 1780 01:01:33,691 --> 01:01:35,582 - Wave after wave, 1781 01:01:35,600 --> 01:01:37,751 And we kept going over them together. 1782 01:01:37,769 --> 01:01:40,253 But then the waves kept coming. 1783 01:01:40,272 --> 01:01:42,756 But once--once you get over all the-- 1784 01:01:42,774 --> 01:01:44,182 You know, getting smacked in the face, 1785 01:01:44,276 --> 01:01:47,351 Wave after wave after wave, when you get past the break, 1786 01:01:47,371 --> 01:01:48,762 There's, like, a moment of silence. 1787 01:01:48,780 --> 01:01:49,946 - Yeah, it's peaceful out there once you're past-- 1788 01:01:50,098 --> 01:01:50,872 - It's very peaceful. 1789 01:01:51,099 --> 01:01:52,933 - Yeah. - Just like our marriage. 1790 01:01:52,951 --> 01:01:54,451 ♪ ♪ 1791 01:01:54,603 --> 01:01:57,287 - There's definitely, like, a lot that is going well. 1792 01:01:57,439 --> 01:01:58,621 But it's hard, you know? 1793 01:01:58,774 --> 01:02:01,458 It's like this week has very much been the old me. 1794 01:02:01,610 --> 01:02:02,776 I took the ring off, 1795 01:02:02,794 --> 01:02:04,444 And I'm hanging out with all my old friends 1796 01:02:04,537 --> 01:02:06,796 And doing stuff that I would do. 1797 01:02:06,949 --> 01:02:08,372 And then coming back to krysten, 1798 01:02:08,467 --> 01:02:09,466 It feels really good too. 1799 01:02:09,618 --> 01:02:10,967 But it just feels like there's this-- 1800 01:02:11,119 --> 01:02:14,287 This just wide separation between my lives. 1801 01:02:14,306 --> 01:02:17,290 And I don't know, maybe that's how marriage is 1802 01:02:17,309 --> 01:02:18,641 For a lot of people, but for me, 1803 01:02:18,794 --> 01:02:20,051 I feel--that's new. 1804 01:02:20,145 --> 01:02:21,219 That's very new for me. 1805 01:02:21,313 --> 01:02:23,387 - She is the happiest she has ever been. 1806 01:02:23,482 --> 01:02:24,631 You a happy girl? 1807 01:02:24,649 --> 01:02:25,815 - You surfed, shredded. 1808 01:02:25,968 --> 01:02:28,059 - She didn't surf, she shredded. 1809 01:02:28,153 --> 01:02:30,728 - My shreddy wife and my shreddy pug. 1810 01:02:30,748 --> 01:02:34,750 - ♪ in the force of life ♪ 1811 01:02:34,977 --> 01:02:36,643 ♪ ♪ 1812 01:02:36,661 --> 01:02:39,588 [upbeat music] 1813 01:02:39,815 --> 01:02:42,907 ♪ ♪ 1814 01:02:42,926 --> 01:02:44,167 - What about that d&d session? 1815 01:02:44,261 --> 01:02:46,762 - I know! - [laughs] 1816 01:02:46,913 --> 01:02:49,080 - ♪ do you want it? ♪ 1817 01:02:49,099 --> 01:02:50,766 ♪ baby, I got it ♪ 1818 01:02:50,917 --> 01:02:52,842 - I'm so happy you were, like, down to just play 1819 01:02:52,995 --> 01:02:53,918 And be in that world. 1820 01:02:54,012 --> 01:02:55,829 That was really fun. - It's so nice, 1821 01:02:55,847 --> 01:02:57,421 'cause I haven't seen you in, like, two weeks. 1822 01:02:57,441 --> 01:02:59,015 So I wanted to hear what's going on. 1823 01:02:59,167 --> 01:03:02,519 - A lot has happened since I've seen you. 1824 01:03:02,671 --> 01:03:04,279 Miguel's been so consistent 1825 01:03:04,506 --> 01:03:06,189 For the past, what, seven weeks? 1826 01:03:06,341 --> 01:03:08,358 Just so consistent. 1827 01:03:08,452 --> 01:03:12,436 And this last weekend, it's been [bleep] horrible. 1828 01:03:12,456 --> 01:03:14,180 [tense music] 1829 01:03:14,199 --> 01:03:15,457 Like, horrible. 1830 01:03:15,608 --> 01:03:17,608 - More recently, we've been having, like, these-- 1831 01:03:17,702 --> 01:03:19,294 These what I would call-- 1832 01:03:19,521 --> 01:03:20,945 It's funny, because she doesn't consider them 1833 01:03:21,039 --> 01:03:23,023 Big miscommunication issues. - Mm-hmm. 1834 01:03:23,041 --> 01:03:24,782 - But for me, they have been, like, 1835 01:03:24,802 --> 01:03:26,617 Really big miscommunication issues 1836 01:03:26,637 --> 01:03:28,711 That do make me a little bit more insecure 1837 01:03:28,864 --> 01:03:29,805 Of, like, our future 1838 01:03:30,032 --> 01:03:32,641 And whether we're right for each other. 1839 01:03:32,792 --> 01:03:36,478 - I don't think he understands, like, a relationship-- 1840 01:03:36,705 --> 01:03:38,296 Like, the fundamentals of marriage. 1841 01:03:38,390 --> 01:03:40,723 I really--I don't. 1842 01:03:40,876 --> 01:03:43,318 The criticism and control, like-- 1843 01:03:43,469 --> 01:03:45,228 - What do you mean the control? Like the name? 1844 01:03:45,322 --> 01:03:46,637 - The control. 1845 01:03:46,731 --> 01:03:49,140 Like, he wants me to act a certain way 1846 01:03:49,159 --> 01:03:51,976 And be a certain way that fits his agenda. 1847 01:03:51,995 --> 01:03:55,071 He's, like, offended that I interrupt him. 1848 01:03:55,223 --> 01:03:56,981 I am too aggressive. 1849 01:03:57,000 --> 01:03:58,667 I'm too--I yell. 1850 01:03:58,818 --> 01:04:00,226 I'm too emotional. 1851 01:04:00,245 --> 01:04:05,489 Anything that, like, defines me as a human existing-- 1852 01:04:05,584 --> 01:04:08,159 Like, he's dampening me as a person. 1853 01:04:08,178 --> 01:04:09,586 And that's not how this works. 1854 01:04:09,738 --> 01:04:10,846 I'm a whole person. 1855 01:04:10,997 --> 01:04:12,514 I'm a whole being. 1856 01:04:12,665 --> 01:04:14,257 Where's the compromise that makes sense? 1857 01:04:14,409 --> 01:04:15,833 And it feels very much like, "you bend to me, 1858 01:04:15,853 --> 01:04:18,019 Or I'm [bleep] done." 1859 01:04:18,246 --> 01:04:20,096 And he knows how much I [bleep] love him 1860 01:04:20,248 --> 01:04:22,916 And would do anything to make this work. 1861 01:04:22,934 --> 01:04:26,102 - I feel really bad, because I have hurt her 1862 01:04:26,196 --> 01:04:30,273 By, like, voicing my uncertainty and my doubt, 1863 01:04:30,425 --> 01:04:31,849 And whether we're right for each other, 1864 01:04:31,869 --> 01:04:33,535 And whether, like, this works. 1865 01:04:33,762 --> 01:04:35,203 - Mm-hmm. - And she doesn't like it. 1866 01:04:35,430 --> 01:04:37,447 She's like, "why are you-- like, one disagreement 1867 01:04:37,599 --> 01:04:39,523 Doesn't mean this doesn't work." 1868 01:04:39,543 --> 01:04:41,267 She's like, "this doesn't work 1869 01:04:41,286 --> 01:04:43,436 When you start to think it doesn't work, you know?" 1870 01:04:43,455 --> 01:04:45,213 And when you voice that, it doesn't work. 1871 01:04:45,440 --> 01:04:46,364 She's like, "that's when I start to feel 1872 01:04:46,383 --> 01:04:48,124 Scary and uncertain." 1873 01:04:48,276 --> 01:04:50,034 - I think she just doesn't want you to stop trying. 1874 01:04:50,128 --> 01:04:51,720 - Yeah. I still love her. 1875 01:04:51,871 --> 01:04:53,371 I still want this to work. 1876 01:04:53,390 --> 01:04:56,616 But right now, this is not working for me. 1877 01:04:56,635 --> 01:05:00,395 ♪ ♪ 1878 01:05:00,622 --> 01:05:02,972 - I almost feel like I'm losing my fight. 1879 01:05:03,066 --> 01:05:04,290 I'm losing my fight with him. 1880 01:05:04,384 --> 01:05:06,902 And I just want to be like, "I'm sorry, okay? 1881 01:05:07,053 --> 01:05:09,479 "I'm only gonna look at you when you're talking. 1882 01:05:09,631 --> 01:05:11,389 "I won't get distracted. 1883 01:05:11,408 --> 01:05:13,742 "uh, I'll never interrupt you. 1884 01:05:13,893 --> 01:05:16,745 I'll make sure you're done speaking beforehand." 1885 01:05:16,896 --> 01:05:18,229 And it feels like that's what he wants, 1886 01:05:18,248 --> 01:05:21,157 And that's what he needs, and I'm like, that's not me. 1887 01:05:21,309 --> 01:05:22,825 That's not a human. 1888 01:05:22,920 --> 01:05:25,145 That's a [bleep] blowup doll. 1889 01:05:25,163 --> 01:05:29,649 He's [bleep] just sucking it from my soul right now. 1890 01:05:29,668 --> 01:05:31,834 He just shuts down and pushes me away 1891 01:05:31,987 --> 01:05:34,003 And makes me feel like a [bleep] piece of [bleep] 1892 01:05:34,097 --> 01:05:35,672 Over and over and over again. 1893 01:05:35,766 --> 01:05:37,006 I don't know. 1894 01:05:37,159 --> 01:05:38,266 I'm like--I'm at my-- 1895 01:05:38,493 --> 01:05:39,993 I'm [bleep] at my breaking point. 1896 01:05:40,011 --> 01:05:43,254 ♪ ♪ 1897 01:05:43,273 --> 01:05:44,922 It's alarming. 1898 01:05:44,942 --> 01:05:47,425 I feel afraid to talk to him about some stuff 1899 01:05:47,444 --> 01:05:50,003 Because I just feel like he's gonna be like, 1900 01:05:50,021 --> 01:05:54,841 "well, I'm done," and leave me. 1901 01:05:54,859 --> 01:05:57,177 [somber music] 1902 01:05:57,270 --> 01:05:58,436 That's what it feels like. 1903 01:05:58,455 --> 01:06:00,697 It's like if I actually tell him what's up, 1904 01:06:00,849 --> 01:06:02,958 Like, he can't [bleep] handle the truth. 1905 01:06:03,109 --> 01:06:06,019 If he were to hear this right now, he'd be done. 1906 01:06:06,037 --> 01:06:08,630 - But then he leaves, and he wasn't your right person. 1907 01:06:08,781 --> 01:06:10,114 You have to say what you want to say. 1908 01:06:10,133 --> 01:06:12,192 You can't be a mouse and say nothing. 1909 01:06:12,210 --> 01:06:13,876 Just be yourself. 1910 01:06:14,029 --> 01:06:16,972 And hopefully, like, this is just stress for him. 1911 01:06:17,123 --> 01:06:19,641 But you can't be a mouse and not say what you want. 1912 01:06:19,868 --> 01:06:21,701 Like, that's even worse to, like, 1913 01:06:21,720 --> 01:06:24,053 Stay in it if, like, it's not working. 1914 01:06:24,147 --> 01:06:26,147 - [crying] yeah, I don't know. 1915 01:06:26,374 --> 01:06:27,540 I'm just... 1916 01:06:27,559 --> 01:06:32,061 - ♪ alone in the dark, I can't move ♪ 1917 01:06:32,214 --> 01:06:33,321 - So confused because I had 1918 01:06:33,548 --> 01:06:35,381 This same person for so many weeks, 1919 01:06:35,475 --> 01:06:38,234 And then it's just a different person. 1920 01:06:38,386 --> 01:06:41,221 So I'm just trying to understand. 1921 01:06:41,239 --> 01:06:42,405 - I'm sorry. Come here. 1922 01:06:42,557 --> 01:06:43,999 - ♪ I'm searching now for something ♪ 1923 01:06:44,150 --> 01:06:45,316 ♪ finding... ♪ 1924 01:06:45,410 --> 01:06:48,061 - It's gonna be okay. You have tons of friends. 1925 01:06:48,079 --> 01:06:49,671 ♪ ♪ 1926 01:06:49,822 --> 01:06:51,247 - [sobbing] 1927 01:06:51,399 --> 01:06:52,656 - ♪ tomorrow's better than today ♪ 1928 01:06:52,751 --> 01:06:55,927 - It's okay. It's okay. 1929 01:06:57,663 --> 01:07:01,474 - ♪ feel it, feel it ♪ 1930 01:07:05,838 --> 01:07:07,430 - ♪ there's tension in the air tonight ♪ 1931 01:07:07,582 --> 01:07:09,265 [humming] 1932 01:07:09,359 --> 01:07:12,343 ♪ replaying moments through my mind ♪ 1933 01:07:12,362 --> 01:07:13,361 ♪ oh, oh ♪ 1934 01:07:24,099 --> 01:07:25,206 Anybody can do that. 1935 01:08:11,737 --> 01:08:14,238 I think, you know, with his mom not being in his life, 1936 01:08:14,332 --> 01:08:15,815 That's triggering to him. 1937 01:08:15,834 --> 01:08:17,333 You know he's gonna have this ideal 1938 01:08:17,485 --> 01:08:20,578 Of how I should be as a wife and as a mother 1939 01:08:20,672 --> 01:08:22,079 To his children. 1940 01:08:22,099 --> 01:08:25,600 I mean, just the conversation of us being fun parents 1941 01:08:25,827 --> 01:08:28,494 On the hike, it was-- he was completely, 1942 01:08:28,513 --> 01:08:30,271 Like, shutting me down. 1943 01:08:30,423 --> 01:08:32,498 And when I asked him, like, what kind of fun 1944 01:08:32,517 --> 01:08:34,667 Did you think I was talking about, 1945 01:08:34,686 --> 01:08:36,260 It was, like, irresponsible fun-- 1946 01:08:36,279 --> 01:08:38,187 Getting drunk and, you know, 1947 01:08:38,340 --> 01:08:39,839 Being young and dumb 1948 01:08:39,858 --> 01:08:42,675 And abandoning my children or my kid. 1949 01:08:42,694 --> 01:08:46,955 Like, I don't even do those things now. 1950 01:08:47,182 --> 01:08:49,849 So why would you think I would do those when I have a kid? 1951 01:08:49,942 --> 01:08:51,684 But it's not even giving me the credit 1952 01:08:51,703 --> 01:08:54,045 Of, like, who I am as a person. 1953 01:09:12,465 --> 01:09:14,298 - ♪ we're all in a hunt now ♪ 1954 01:09:14,392 --> 01:09:18,153 ♪ no play in the background, no coming for my crown ♪ 1955 01:09:18,304 --> 01:09:19,712 ♪ I'm here for the win ♪ 1956 01:09:19,805 --> 01:09:21,063 - Ooh, this is a good lemon. 1957 01:09:21,216 --> 01:09:24,308 - When life gives you lemons, make whiskey sours. 1958 01:09:24,327 --> 01:09:27,387 Boop. - Let's just go ahead and-- 1959 01:09:27,405 --> 01:09:28,812 - Hey, friends. 1960 01:09:28,832 --> 01:09:30,481 - Hey. - What up? What up? What up? 1961 01:09:30,500 --> 01:09:31,557 - How are you? - Hi, honey bee. 1962 01:09:31,651 --> 01:09:33,651 - You guys look great. Good to see you. 1963 01:09:33,670 --> 01:09:35,228 - How are you? - Happy day-- 1964 01:09:35,246 --> 01:09:36,245 - Hello, hello. 1965 01:09:36,398 --> 01:09:37,172 - Excited you guys are here. 1966 01:09:37,323 --> 01:09:38,656 - Hey, bud. 1967 01:09:38,675 --> 01:09:39,916 - We--well, I won't speak for you. 1968 01:09:40,068 --> 01:09:44,662 I am always so excited to see justin and alexis. 1969 01:09:44,681 --> 01:09:46,830 I feel the closest to both of them 1970 01:09:46,850 --> 01:09:48,241 Since we started this journey. 1971 01:09:48,259 --> 01:09:51,744 And I will take all the time we can get with them. 1972 01:09:51,763 --> 01:09:53,095 - Her and alexis talk every day. 1973 01:09:53,248 --> 01:09:55,690 They're frickin' bffs. - [laughs] 1974 01:09:55,841 --> 01:09:56,933 Have faith in the process. 1975 01:09:57,085 --> 01:09:58,601 Trust the process, as pastor cal would say. 1976 01:09:58,695 --> 01:09:59,769 - Yes. 1977 01:09:59,921 --> 01:10:00,862 - Marriage ain't for punks. 1978 01:10:01,013 --> 01:10:02,513 - Mm. - That is fair. 1979 01:10:02,532 --> 01:10:03,514 - You want to play ping pong? 1980 01:10:03,608 --> 01:10:04,682 [upbeat music] 1981 01:10:04,776 --> 01:10:06,609 Okay, are we doing couple versus couple? 1982 01:10:06,703 --> 01:10:07,760 - Yeah. 1983 01:10:07,779 --> 01:10:10,187 ♪ ♪ 1984 01:10:10,207 --> 01:10:11,372 - All right, that's one. 1985 01:10:11,524 --> 01:10:13,099 - ♪ here we go ♪ 1986 01:10:13,117 --> 01:10:17,119 ♪ I want to tell you what I came for ♪ 1987 01:10:17,214 --> 01:10:20,773 ♪ I want to show you what I know you want ♪ 1988 01:10:20,792 --> 01:10:22,050 - Yours! - Ah! 1989 01:10:22,201 --> 01:10:24,719 - Hey! Good round! 1990 01:10:24,870 --> 01:10:28,114 - The mvp tonight is definitely justin. 1991 01:10:28,132 --> 01:10:29,449 - It's like, he just makes it look 1992 01:10:29,542 --> 01:10:31,375 Like he's not even trying. 1993 01:10:31,394 --> 01:10:34,287 He just stands there and looks like he's bored. 1994 01:10:34,305 --> 01:10:36,138 He doesn't give a [bleep], basically. 1995 01:10:36,291 --> 01:10:38,307 Excuse me--my french. 1996 01:10:38,401 --> 01:10:39,976 - Good job, friends. - That was good, y'all. 1997 01:10:40,070 --> 01:10:41,961 - The shame--I have to live with this shame. 1998 01:10:41,980 --> 01:10:42,904 - You do. 1999 01:10:43,131 --> 01:10:44,388 - Y'all deserve it. It was great. 2000 01:10:44,407 --> 01:10:45,982 - Comeback kids. 2001 01:10:46,076 --> 01:10:47,467 - It was neck and neck there. - Ain't it so? 2002 01:10:47,485 --> 01:10:48,726 - Congratulations. - Thank you so much. 2003 01:10:48,820 --> 01:10:49,744 - You guys won. 2004 01:10:49,971 --> 01:10:51,913 Not by a lot, but you did win, so... 2005 01:10:52,064 --> 01:10:53,581 - Greatest win in the history of ping pong... 2006 01:10:53,733 --> 01:10:55,141 - That was a good game. - If I do say so myself. 2007 01:10:55,159 --> 01:10:56,325 - That was a great game. That was fun. 2008 01:10:56,419 --> 01:10:59,921 - It felt like, you know, race to decision day. 2009 01:11:00,072 --> 01:11:01,330 - [groans] 2010 01:11:01,424 --> 01:11:02,982 - You're just in analogy mode. 2011 01:11:03,001 --> 01:11:04,500 - You know, leading up to decision day, 2012 01:11:04,652 --> 01:11:06,094 I've been making a lot of parallels 2013 01:11:06,245 --> 01:11:08,337 To what we've been doing-- 2014 01:11:08,490 --> 01:11:10,414 Surfing, ping pong. 2015 01:11:10,433 --> 01:11:11,582 - Wait, so surfing, what happened? 2016 01:11:11,601 --> 01:11:12,750 Tell us. 2017 01:11:12,769 --> 01:11:15,161 - Well, I think we have to back all up. 2018 01:11:15,254 --> 01:11:17,939 Because when we got back from the couples retreat, 2019 01:11:18,166 --> 01:11:21,091 Mitch left that night to go to a conference. 2020 01:11:21,111 --> 01:11:22,110 - Mm. 2021 01:11:22,337 --> 01:11:23,594 - So he's been gone. 2022 01:11:23,688 --> 01:11:24,854 - We've been separated. 2023 01:11:24,948 --> 01:11:27,173 - How was that? Did you guys miss each other? 2024 01:11:27,266 --> 01:11:28,616 Were there texts? Were there facetimes? 2025 01:11:28,843 --> 01:11:30,434 - There were some texts and a facetime. 2026 01:11:30,453 --> 01:11:31,861 Krys, you were always on my mind. 2027 01:11:32,013 --> 01:11:34,122 It's just the truth. 2028 01:11:34,273 --> 01:11:36,032 But I was just really wrapped up in all the activities. 2029 01:11:36,126 --> 01:11:37,366 It's nonstop. 2030 01:11:37,519 --> 01:11:38,701 It's presentations all day. 2031 01:11:38,853 --> 01:11:41,354 It's lunch, it's dinner, it's going out afterwards. 2032 01:11:41,372 --> 01:11:43,856 And I was like, hey, you know, like, 2033 01:11:43,875 --> 01:11:47,043 It's kind of lonely up in my hotel room all by myself. 2034 01:11:47,195 --> 01:11:48,303 - Was there a jacuzzi there? 2035 01:11:48,454 --> 01:11:49,529 - There was. 2036 01:11:49,547 --> 01:11:52,365 We had a hot tub committee every night. 2037 01:11:52,383 --> 01:11:54,809 - Did you wear your ring the whole time? 2038 01:11:54,960 --> 01:11:56,035 - I did not. 2039 01:11:56,054 --> 01:11:58,146 [tense music] 2040 01:11:58,297 --> 01:11:59,221 - [laughs] 2041 01:11:59,316 --> 01:12:00,481 - She likes to put me in the hot seat. 2042 01:12:00,633 --> 01:12:02,375 - I'm teasing. No. 2043 01:12:02,393 --> 01:12:03,967 I really do trust him. 2044 01:12:03,987 --> 01:12:06,879 But it's nice to get a second opinion 2045 01:12:06,898 --> 01:12:09,732 And hear what they think, that's all. 2046 01:12:09,826 --> 01:12:11,233 - Why? 2047 01:12:11,386 --> 01:12:12,234 - Everyone's so interested in the gossip 2048 01:12:12,387 --> 01:12:13,328 And what's going on. 2049 01:12:13,479 --> 01:12:15,071 So I just--like, I didn't want to, like-- 2050 01:12:15,223 --> 01:12:16,146 It's, like, stressful for me 2051 01:12:16,166 --> 01:12:17,481 To have to bring that into there, 2052 01:12:17,500 --> 01:12:18,499 You know what I mean, like, and, like, have my-- 2053 01:12:18,651 --> 01:12:20,150 You know, the ceo and, like, my boss, 2054 01:12:20,170 --> 01:12:22,244 And be like, "hey," you know, like, you know what I mean? 2055 01:12:22,397 --> 01:12:23,896 Like, and then have to tell them all this story. 2056 01:12:23,915 --> 01:12:25,414 ♪ ♪ 2057 01:12:25,567 --> 01:12:27,249 - But couldn't you just wear it? 2058 01:12:27,402 --> 01:12:28,584 Like, it's just a semblance that you're off the market, 2059 01:12:28,736 --> 01:12:29,902 You get what I'm saying? 2060 01:12:29,995 --> 01:12:31,420 Like, you didn't have to tell the back story. 2061 01:12:31,514 --> 01:12:32,847 - Yeah, you're right. 2062 01:12:32,998 --> 01:12:34,164 - Did that bother you that he didn't wear his ring, 2063 01:12:34,258 --> 01:12:35,257 Or is it just a question? 2064 01:12:35,410 --> 01:12:37,593 - I think--it's tough, 2065 01:12:37,745 --> 01:12:40,580 Because there was a hot tub, and he did not wear his ring. 2066 01:12:40,598 --> 01:12:41,581 - And there was just me 2067 01:12:41,674 --> 01:12:44,525 And 100 beautiful ladies, all naked. 2068 01:12:44,677 --> 01:12:46,586 I had my ring on, but it was my [bleep] ring. 2069 01:12:46,604 --> 01:12:48,588 - Holy [bleep]! 2070 01:12:48,681 --> 01:12:50,590 [laughter] 2071 01:12:50,608 --> 01:12:52,533 - Nate let me borrow his [bleep] ring. 2072 01:12:52,685 --> 01:12:53,517 - Mitch, why are you continuing? 2073 01:12:53,536 --> 01:12:54,777 Stop. 2074 01:12:54,929 --> 01:12:55,945 - But it was much too big for me. Okay--[laughs] 2075 01:12:56,097 --> 01:12:59,098 - [laughs] anyway... 2076 01:12:59,191 --> 01:13:01,117 - So I had to smelt it down. 2077 01:13:01,269 --> 01:13:03,694 - I can't believe that he would say that, you know? 2078 01:13:03,788 --> 01:13:06,606 But I mean, that's mitch. 2079 01:13:06,624 --> 01:13:08,457 ♪ ♪ 2080 01:13:08,610 --> 01:13:10,718 - What did you guys do this week? 2081 01:13:10,870 --> 01:13:12,778 - Uh, my best friend came down to pick up mya. 2082 01:13:12,797 --> 01:13:14,204 - Oh. That did happen. - Ooh. 2083 01:13:14,298 --> 01:13:15,873 - Oh. - Yep. The big dog... 2084 01:13:15,967 --> 01:13:16,966 - Mm-hmm. - Exchange. 2085 01:13:17,118 --> 01:13:19,227 - Yes. He drove back. 2086 01:13:19,378 --> 01:13:21,211 It was a 17-hour drive, roughly. 2087 01:13:21,231 --> 01:13:22,471 - Damn, that's a lot of hours. 2088 01:13:22,624 --> 01:13:24,473 That's a lot of driving for a human and a dog. 2089 01:13:24,626 --> 01:13:25,625 - Yeah, that's a good friend right there. 2090 01:13:25,718 --> 01:13:27,476 - Yeah. - That's a really good friend. 2091 01:13:27,629 --> 01:13:29,052 - So yeah, that happened this week. 2092 01:13:29,072 --> 01:13:30,296 Um... 2093 01:13:30,314 --> 01:13:31,981 - We were talking about decision day, 2094 01:13:32,075 --> 01:13:33,390 And really stickling, 2095 01:13:33,484 --> 01:13:35,243 Making sure we're on the same page. 2096 01:13:35,470 --> 01:13:39,972 Because I told justin I'm not 100%, I'm 90%. 2097 01:13:39,991 --> 01:13:43,643 That 10%--10% speaks to me heavily sometimes. 2098 01:13:43,736 --> 01:13:45,253 - Yeah. - And he's just like, 2099 01:13:45,480 --> 01:13:46,812 "I don't know now." 2100 01:13:46,831 --> 01:13:48,256 ♪ ♪ 2101 01:13:48,407 --> 01:13:50,425 So for me, it's just like, 2102 01:13:50,576 --> 01:13:53,819 Is my answer dependent upon your answer? 2103 01:13:53,838 --> 01:13:55,579 Like, if I'm fully committed and I'm 100% in 2104 01:13:55,598 --> 01:13:57,173 And I know I'm giving my all, 2105 01:13:57,267 --> 01:13:59,100 Me saying no or, like, 2106 01:13:59,251 --> 01:14:01,160 Even saying, like, I'm undecided in the moment, 2107 01:14:01,179 --> 01:14:03,253 Should not mean anything. 2108 01:14:03,347 --> 01:14:05,181 He'd be like, "okay, I'm gonna still try and give it my all." 2109 01:14:05,333 --> 01:14:07,333 But now that you're kind of like, 2110 01:14:07,351 --> 01:14:09,444 "well, if you're undecided, then I'm undecided, too," 2111 01:14:09,595 --> 01:14:12,113 I'm just like, wait, what? 2112 01:14:12,264 --> 01:14:13,839 - You know-- - you know--sorry. 2113 01:14:13,858 --> 01:14:14,840 - All right, go ahead. - I was gonna ask you 2114 01:14:14,859 --> 01:14:15,950 A more specific question. 2115 01:14:16,101 --> 01:14:17,510 - Sure. - But I don't have to. 2116 01:14:17,528 --> 01:14:18,511 - Okay. 2117 01:14:18,604 --> 01:14:19,845 - We love your questions, mitch. 2118 01:14:19,864 --> 01:14:21,271 Go ahead. 2119 01:14:21,291 --> 01:14:23,349 - Is the 90% good enough for you? 2120 01:14:23,367 --> 01:14:28,187 ♪ ♪ 2121 01:14:28,206 --> 01:14:30,206 - 90% ain't good enough for me. 2122 01:14:30,358 --> 01:14:32,191 It's not. - Damn. 2123 01:14:32,210 --> 01:14:34,260 [dramatic music] 2124 01:14:38,216 --> 01:14:39,048 [tense music] 2125 01:14:39,200 --> 01:14:40,533 - If she had told me, "hey, justin, 2126 01:14:40,551 --> 01:14:43,293 "let's hold off on mya, because I'm not sure 2127 01:14:43,313 --> 01:14:45,629 If I'm gonna say yes or no," just to simplify things, 2128 01:14:45,648 --> 01:14:47,315 It plays a role in my decision. 2129 01:14:47,466 --> 01:14:48,799 Because if you're 90% 2130 01:14:48,818 --> 01:14:51,043 And there's a chance you can say no, 2131 01:14:51,062 --> 01:14:52,820 Then I just made that decision for no reason. 2132 01:14:53,047 --> 01:14:54,989 - But, justin, you want me to be with you 2133 01:14:55,216 --> 01:14:57,492 And be 100% 'cause you gave your dog away? 2134 01:14:57,643 --> 01:14:59,327 Like, you don't want me to be 100% 'cause I love you, 2135 01:14:59,478 --> 01:15:00,828 Because I want to stay, because all these other facts? 2136 01:15:00,980 --> 01:15:02,497 You think that should be-- - no, no, of course that. 2137 01:15:02,648 --> 01:15:06,167 But what I'm saying is, that was a sacrifice... 2138 01:15:06,318 --> 01:15:07,818 - Yeah, I understand that. - You know what I'm saying? 2139 01:15:07,837 --> 01:15:09,729 That I made for the marriage. - Mm-hmm. 2140 01:15:09,747 --> 01:15:11,506 - And so when I thought about when I ask you, 2141 01:15:11,733 --> 01:15:13,899 I just needed that affirmation, you know, yeah, 2142 01:15:13,993 --> 01:15:16,068 You'll tell me that, hey-- 2143 01:15:16,087 --> 01:15:17,236 - And we're looking at apartments, and we're... 2144 01:15:17,255 --> 01:15:18,179 - Exactly. - Moving... 2145 01:15:18,330 --> 01:15:19,329 - Exactly. - So... 2146 01:15:19,349 --> 01:15:20,589 - But I just needed that affirmation, 2147 01:15:20,683 --> 01:15:22,016 Just that yes. 2148 01:15:22,167 --> 01:15:24,760 And so I thought about what you said at the retreat. 2149 01:15:24,912 --> 01:15:27,188 You was like, "sometimes you just need that affirmation." 2150 01:15:27,415 --> 01:15:29,006 - Yeah, no, I need it. I need it. 2151 01:15:29,100 --> 01:15:30,525 - And I needed that in that moment, 2152 01:15:30,676 --> 01:15:33,176 Because I hadn't heard that yes. 2153 01:15:33,271 --> 01:15:35,863 And it was everything but that. 2154 01:15:36,015 --> 01:15:37,773 - Could I have said yes? 2155 01:15:37,867 --> 01:15:38,924 I could have. 2156 01:15:38,943 --> 01:15:42,036 But a yes that-- followed by a "but" 2157 01:15:42,263 --> 01:15:44,038 Is not really a yes... [laughter] 2158 01:15:44,189 --> 01:15:45,206 In my opinion. 2159 01:15:45,357 --> 01:15:47,375 So I was just trying to do my due diligence 2160 01:15:47,602 --> 01:15:48,784 And cover all stops. 2161 01:15:48,936 --> 01:15:50,286 And I apologize. I do. 2162 01:15:50,438 --> 01:15:51,954 I really do apologize. 2163 01:15:52,106 --> 01:15:53,789 - It is one [bleep] week away. 2164 01:15:53,941 --> 01:15:56,125 You either know or you don't. 2165 01:15:56,277 --> 01:15:58,368 ♪ ♪ 2166 01:15:58,388 --> 01:16:01,280 - As someone who's not sure herself, 2167 01:16:01,299 --> 01:16:02,372 If I was 90, 2168 01:16:02,392 --> 01:16:03,724 It would be hard for me to say yes. 2169 01:16:03,876 --> 01:16:05,560 - That's all I'm saying. 2170 01:16:05,711 --> 01:16:08,304 - Okay. All right. 2171 01:16:08,456 --> 01:16:09,546 - You know, like, one way to see it is, like, 2172 01:16:09,640 --> 01:16:11,381 90% is, like, pretty good odds. 2173 01:16:11,401 --> 01:16:12,716 And, like, no marriage is perfect. 2174 01:16:12,735 --> 01:16:13,809 Nobody's perfect. There's always gonna be [bleep] 2175 01:16:13,903 --> 01:16:15,477 You don't like about your spouse, like... 2176 01:16:15,572 --> 01:16:17,888 And there's always gonna be a part of you that has doubts 2177 01:16:17,907 --> 01:16:19,481 And that wants to just cut and run. 2178 01:16:19,634 --> 01:16:20,983 Like, that part's gonna exist. 2179 01:16:21,135 --> 01:16:22,743 And it's just, like, it's not the worst thing 2180 01:16:22,895 --> 01:16:24,470 To just acknowledge that. - Yeah. 2181 01:16:24,488 --> 01:16:26,080 - But again, at that moment, it's just probably 2182 01:16:26,231 --> 01:16:28,416 Not what you wanted to hear, you know what I mean? 2183 01:16:28,567 --> 01:16:29,417 Like, I don't know. 2184 01:16:29,644 --> 01:16:31,902 - I mean, I feel for you, justin. 2185 01:16:31,921 --> 01:16:34,163 I could not even fathom my dog-- 2186 01:16:34,315 --> 01:16:35,906 You know, giving my dog away. 2187 01:16:35,925 --> 01:16:38,926 But at the same time, we have to base this 2188 01:16:39,078 --> 01:16:41,429 Off of our marriage 2189 01:16:41,656 --> 01:16:45,324 And about how our marriage makes us feel 2190 01:16:45,343 --> 01:16:49,252 And if we are the best version of each other with each other 2191 01:16:49,272 --> 01:16:51,922 And wanting to see that continue or not. 2192 01:16:51,941 --> 01:16:53,833 - Yeah. I look at it like that, too, 2193 01:16:53,851 --> 01:16:56,185 But I've also been so uprooted from my old life. 2194 01:16:56,279 --> 01:16:57,612 And it's hard for me. 2195 01:16:57,763 --> 01:16:59,004 Like, it's like, I need to go surf. 2196 01:16:59,023 --> 01:17:00,356 I need to ride my bike. 2197 01:17:00,508 --> 01:17:02,191 Like, I haven't been doing that [bleep]. 2198 01:17:02,343 --> 01:17:04,009 I think that's an argument for decision day, 2199 01:17:04,103 --> 01:17:06,621 Even if we're not necessarily 100% sure 2200 01:17:06,772 --> 01:17:08,438 On the life of marriage and the perfect match 2201 01:17:08,532 --> 01:17:10,440 And everything like that. 2202 01:17:10,534 --> 01:17:11,942 - I'm just gonna say something. 2203 01:17:11,961 --> 01:17:17,114 Instead of this, "I would like to see how things could go 2204 01:17:17,133 --> 01:17:20,025 With my electric bike in the mix," 2205 01:17:20,119 --> 01:17:23,362 I would love it if you would say 2206 01:17:23,381 --> 01:17:28,458 Something along the lines of, "you are an incredible woman. 2207 01:17:28,552 --> 01:17:32,388 I can't imagine my life without you now that I've had you." 2208 01:17:32,540 --> 01:17:33,314 - You want him to say that? 2209 01:17:33,465 --> 01:17:35,207 - I--I do want him to say that. 2210 01:17:35,300 --> 01:17:36,466 - What if he don't mean that [bleep]? 2211 01:17:36,486 --> 01:17:38,319 - Then don't say it, and I'm outie. 2212 01:17:38,470 --> 01:17:40,045 On the electric bike, I'm going, 2213 01:17:40,139 --> 01:17:41,304 Bzzz, right down the road. 2214 01:17:41,324 --> 01:17:42,472 - But I'm just saying, he could still say it 2215 01:17:42,492 --> 01:17:43,732 And not mean it. 2216 01:17:43,885 --> 01:17:45,308 Because you're saying-- - mitch isn't a liar. 2217 01:17:45,328 --> 01:17:46,235 - Mitch can't say... - He can't lie. 2218 01:17:46,387 --> 01:17:47,736 - Something he doesn't mean. 2219 01:17:47,830 --> 01:17:51,165 Even if he means it sometimes, it's hard for him to say it. 2220 01:17:51,316 --> 01:17:52,315 - She knows her husband. 2221 01:17:52,335 --> 01:17:53,668 - He can't say something he doesn't mean. 2222 01:17:53,819 --> 01:17:55,077 - I get it. And that's actually 2223 01:17:55,171 --> 01:17:58,063 Kind of what you had said, too, earlier, I thought. 2224 01:17:58,082 --> 01:17:59,581 It's almost like you want it to be proved to you, 2225 01:17:59,676 --> 01:18:01,250 You know what I mean? 2226 01:18:01,402 --> 01:18:02,568 Maybe I misunderstood that. 2227 01:18:02,586 --> 01:18:04,178 - No, no, no, no, we're all on the same page. 2228 01:18:04,329 --> 01:18:07,089 It's like, given the past, if there hadn't been 2229 01:18:07,241 --> 01:18:10,259 So much turbulence and uncertainty, 2230 01:18:10,411 --> 01:18:11,334 I wouldn't need that. 2231 01:18:11,354 --> 01:18:12,836 - Yeah. - I would feel it in here. 2232 01:18:12,855 --> 01:18:15,097 But since I don't feel it in here, 2233 01:18:15,249 --> 01:18:17,249 I do need a little bit more of a declaration. 2234 01:18:17,268 --> 01:18:19,176 And I want you to be the one to say it, 2235 01:18:19,195 --> 01:18:21,437 Since I feel like I have declared, 2236 01:18:21,531 --> 01:18:24,440 Multiple times in front of multiple people. 2237 01:18:24,592 --> 01:18:26,775 But he can't say stuff like that if he doesn't mean it. 2238 01:18:26,928 --> 01:18:27,927 ♪ ♪ 2239 01:18:28,020 --> 01:18:30,612 So I'm thinking, is the last eight weeks 2240 01:18:30,765 --> 01:18:33,282 Something I want to continue? 2241 01:18:33,434 --> 01:18:34,783 And that's how I'm looking at it. 2242 01:18:34,936 --> 01:18:40,272 - ♪ appreciated you and me, I love you better than ♪ 2243 01:18:40,291 --> 01:18:41,457 ♪ ♪ 2244 01:18:41,551 --> 01:18:43,459 - ♪ why don't you light the flame? ♪ 2245 01:18:43,611 --> 01:18:45,535 ♪ fire to guide the way ♪ 2246 01:18:45,555 --> 01:18:50,850 ♪ ooh, take me high, I'm waiting for your love ♪ 2247 01:19:17,402 --> 01:19:21,146 - I think venting to friends can be healthy and cathartic. 2248 01:19:21,165 --> 01:19:25,317 I think one has to be conscious of never being disrespectful. 2249 01:19:25,336 --> 01:19:27,244 I would never [bleep]-talk lindy, 2250 01:19:27,338 --> 01:19:30,247 Or I would never talk poorly about lindy with my friends. 2251 01:19:30,341 --> 01:19:32,491 And I was made a little uncomfortable 2252 01:19:32,510 --> 01:19:34,084 Because of how heavy everything seemed. 2253 01:19:34,103 --> 01:19:35,511 I'm like, whoa, what went on? 2254 01:19:35,663 --> 01:19:36,920 What was said? I wasn't there. 2255 01:19:37,014 --> 01:19:38,189 I have no idea. 2256 01:20:39,243 --> 01:20:40,668 [sighs] 2257 01:21:18,690 --> 01:21:23,860 If she's venting about me, then the best person for her 2258 01:21:23,954 --> 01:21:26,455 To do that with should be me, I would think, right? 2259 01:21:26,607 --> 01:21:27,715 But if you're gonna go to your friends 2260 01:21:27,942 --> 01:21:30,033 And kind of just, like, vent and [bleep]-talk, 2261 01:21:30,052 --> 01:21:31,218 What's the purpose of that? 2262 01:21:31,370 --> 01:21:33,295 It's almost like, just, like, self-gratifying. 2263 01:21:33,447 --> 01:21:34,555 But nothing's gonna change. 2264 01:22:10,501 --> 01:22:11,817 [dramatic music] 2265 01:22:11,835 --> 01:22:13,761 [sobbing] 2266 01:22:13,912 --> 01:22:15,930 - Next time on "married at first sight"... 2267 01:22:16,081 --> 01:22:17,322 - Ahh! - Let's go! 2268 01:22:17,341 --> 01:22:19,841 - With decision day just a few days away... 2269 01:22:19,936 --> 01:22:21,176 - Hi, candace. 2270 01:22:21,328 --> 01:22:23,162 - Our couples will have the chance to talk 2271 01:22:23,180 --> 01:22:25,755 To their trusted loved ones before making 2272 01:22:25,775 --> 01:22:28,091 The biggest decision of their lives. 2273 01:22:28,185 --> 01:22:31,612 - This isn't "best friends at first sight," you know? 2274 01:22:31,839 --> 01:22:33,096 This is "married at first sight." 2275 01:22:33,115 --> 01:22:34,840 - I gave mya away. 2276 01:22:34,933 --> 01:22:36,842 I was under the impression 2277 01:22:36,860 --> 01:22:39,286 That it was an automatic yes on her end. 2278 01:22:39,513 --> 01:22:42,030 - Maybe she ain't the one for you, you know? 2279 01:22:42,183 --> 01:22:43,606 - When I am with him, 2280 01:22:43,626 --> 01:22:45,292 Time kind of doesn't exist, in a good way. 2281 01:22:45,519 --> 01:22:47,277 - I'm afraid to lose you, for sure. 2282 01:22:47,296 --> 01:22:49,296 And I don't want to lose you. 2283 01:22:49,448 --> 01:22:52,858 - I don't know if I can be this person day in, day out. 2284 01:22:52,876 --> 01:22:54,860 - I feel like we're going through the motions. 2285 01:22:54,878 --> 01:22:55,952 - Do you think I'm going through the motions 2286 01:22:56,046 --> 01:22:58,714 When I have a [bleep] tattoo on my hand? 2287 01:22:58,866 --> 01:23:00,215 ♪ ♪ 2288 01:23:00,367 --> 01:23:01,049 I'm done. 2289 01:23:01,202 --> 01:23:02,050 I don't want to [bleep] talk 2290 01:23:02,203 --> 01:23:03,552 About that [bleep] no more. 2291 01:23:03,704 --> 01:23:05,795 - I just don't know 2292 01:23:05,889 --> 01:23:09,299 If I can even have conversations with my husband. 2293 01:23:09,393 --> 01:23:11,134 - Let the cards fall where they may, 2294 01:23:11,153 --> 01:23:13,712 Because at this point, there's nothing else I can do. 2295 01:23:13,731 --> 01:23:20,244 ♪ ♪