- There we go. That's what I'm talking about.
- Seven weeks ago, ten fearless singles
took a daring leap of faith in order to find love.
They married as complete strangers.
[cheering]
And with Decision Day approaching fast,
our couples are going to have to decide
whether they want to stay married or get a divorce.
[dramatic music]
Last time, our four couples went deeper into the reality
of everyday life in hopes their choice would become
clearer before Decision Day.
- I'm not 100%. I'm 90%.
And he's just like, "I don't know now."
Well, if you're undecided, then I'm undecided too.
- Isn't 90% good enough for you?
- 90% ain't good enough.
- If things were to get bad and, let's say,
we decide to get separated, we decide to end it,
where do I go?
I'll be homeless.
- I would love it if you would say something
along the lines of, "You are an incredible woman.
I can't imagine my life without you."
- So you want him to say that? - I do want him to say that.
- What if he don't mean that [bleep]?
- Then don't say it. And I'm outie.
♪ ♪
[both screaming]
- And tonight...
- I love this place.
- Our couples will have the chance to talk
to those closest to them
before making the biggest decision of their lives.
- When I am with him,
time kind of doesn't exist in a good way.
He's really great to live with.
- So I just lose him completely.
And then there's nothing I can say
or do to bring him back to me.
- I'm just coming to terms with,
there's a chance you can say yes,
there's a chance you can say no.
- I don't want to prove myself.
I don't want to prove--like, I'm tired of proving myself.
I'm getting to the point where I just don't care no more.
- Let the cards fall where they may because at this point,
there's nothing else that I can do.
- I'm afraid to lose you, for sure.
And I don't want to lose you.
- I feel like you don't have the burning desire.
I feel like we're going through the motions.
- Do you think I'm going through the motions
when I have a [bleep] tattoo on my hand?
♪ ♪
I'm done. I'm done.
I don't want to [bleep] talk about that [bleep] no more.
♪ ♪
- ♪ It's all or nothing ♪
- This is "Married at First Sight."
- ♪ There's no other way ♪
♪ It's all or nothing ♪
- ♪ Loving you like you're mine ♪
♪ Giving you everything I got ♪
♪ Walking into your life, walking into your paradise ♪
♪ Yeah, darling, tell me if you're in or out ♪
- Oh, you know, this close to Decision Day,
I just need a little niece time.
Hey, kiddos.
- Hi. - [laughs]
Do you think I should say yes or no on Decision Day?
What do you think, Emi?
[laughter]
- Decision Day is less than a week away.
And it's time for our couples to really determine
whether they can spend their lives together with a spouse
they met only seven weeks ago.
[upbeat music]
- [laughing]
Ew, he don't want to eat your--ew!
He don't want to eat from you. Are you a bird?
Baby, don't give my dog that.
- I'm just--I don't know.
I just don't know if I can even have
conversations with my husband
without triggering his insecurities.
And that's what I guess my concerns are.
And that's really what I'm considering
going into Decision Day.
- They are legally bound in a real marriage.
And the only options are to stay married or get a divorce.
♪ ♪
- Hey, babe. - What's up?
- What you doing, mixing some stuff?
- I'm mixing a little face mask.
You want some? It'd be fun.
You'll feel very moisturized.
- Put it on me, girl.
I await your face mask.
- Me and Mitch are in a really good place.
And we've come a long way.
But Decision Day is coming up quick.
And I'm confused.
And I don't know.
I don't even know what to do.
All right, first, we must clean the area.
- Are you gonna clean my wrinkle?
Is this the same-- - [laughing]
- Is this the same thing you use to clean the wrinkle?
- Does that kind of feel good?
- Mm-hmm.
- Oh, wait, a little wrinkle, just like Luna's.
- Clean my wrinkle. - I got it.
All right, let's get in here.
So we're just going to apply.
Okay, you look so beautiful.
You are just in a rain bath in the Amazon.
A lot of people just ignore this area over here.
- No, that's the area that gets crow's feet.
- What's really nice, I have a lot of area to play with
up here, which I like.
- The head? - I love it.
- This is just way too much fun.
Why don't we do this all the time?
- Can I open my eyes? Or do I have keep them closed?
- Yeah, you can open them.
[laughter]
- Maybe close them. I'm just kidding.
- [laughing]
- Let me just wash my hands really quick.
- Thanks for my mask. - ♪ You're welcome ♪
- I'm gonna mask you? - Yeah.
- Sick. It's not gonna fall off, right?
- [laughing] - What?
Is this 'cause I don't know how masks are?
- It's not gonna fall off. - I don't know.
You got to lay back, though. - Okay.
- You need to relax. You need to learn how to relax.
- [laughing] You know I can't do that.
All right? - Perfect.
- This is good?
- I'm gonna put extra attention to these areas
around your eyes because I know you want
to keep your eyes nice and firm.
Your face is so little.
I think we're done.
I think we're looking pretty good.
- Yeah?
- I mean, we can do just do a little more just to be--
- [laughing]
- As spouses, we are picking up each other's habits
and kind of becoming each other a little bit.
♪ ♪
[laughing] I'd get closer.
But I don't want to risk staining anything.
And I'm all for it. I love it.
- It would be weird if we were--
had, like, sexy time with this mask on, right?
- Mm.
- Okay, I'm saying I think it would be weird.
You know what the word bawdy means with a W?
Bawdy? - I do not know.
- I didn't either.
I had to look it up.
Bawdy means that you're humorous about sex.
- And that is Mitch Silverstein,
ladies and gentlemen.
[laughter]
- I really have a lot of fondness towards her,
a lot of affection.
I just do have doubt still whether we
are necessarily the right match
for a lifetime of marriage.
- Get under the covers, big boy?
[laughing]
- As long as you keep calling me big boy.
- ♪ Life is a hard ride, yes ♪
♪ But that's okay ♪
♪ I'm living like there's no tomorrow ♪
- Hey, Mommy.
- Hi.
- With Decision Day looming, it's time for our couples
to meet with their loved ones.
Talking with friends and family
who have their best interests at heart
can help put things into perspective
before they have to make the fateful decision
whether they want to stay married or get a divorce.
♪ ♪
- Hello.
- Hi, babe. - Hello, hello, hello.
- Can you hear me?
- Yeah, I can hear you.
Hey, the gang is here.
- Hey. [laughs]
- How's married life?
- Um, it's difficult.
- Like what? What's been difficult?
- Well, we did have a disagreement as far as, like,
he's very, like, scared to live with me
and not have a place to go.
- Right, because if that doesn't work,
then he's kind of--
- SOL, yeah. - Mm-hmm.
- But it's like, why are we thinking about this?
- Yeah. - Like, it hasn't happened.
- Right. Boy, it's not gonna happen.
I think he wants... - And it's not going to happen.
- That reassurance that it's not going to happen.
- But I tell him it's not going to happen.
- Yeah. - He's like, "How do you know?"
- One of the hard things that I'm kind of going through
right now is, like, moving.
It's kind of messing with me a little bit because I feel
like I'm losing my identity, so I feel kind of vulnerable
because, let's say, knock on wood,
if it doesn't work out,
now I don't even have a place to stay, you know?
So it's--kind of makes me a little nervous.
- What do you think? You think you can work it out?
- I'm asking you.
You're the one that's been married.
- Okay, I've been married, but you know...
- [laughs]
- There's always compromises.
And also, there's always some nervous tension
in the beginning, but...
- Yeah.
- You got to expect that.
Everything is not gonna go perfectly your way.
- Right.
- I'm rooting for you.
I'm always rooting for you. You know that.
But my rooting stems from you being happy overall.
Do you think that he's, like, the right man for you?
Everybody has great qualities,
but is he the right man for you?
- I think, like, he does have those things that I want.
You know, we're very similar in just our mannerisms,
things that we like.
So I feel like I understand him a lot.
I do believe that, like, I am
in a different place emotionally.
- Mm-hmm.
- I think that he is a little bit--
I don't want to say behind me or anything like that.
But I just think he lacks the experience.
- Mm-hmm.
- So do you have, like,
any cons that you can think of in the relationship?
- So here's the big one.
So she's 37. And she wants kids.
You know, that's, like, very top of mind.
And I'm like...
- You don't want kids?
- No, I do want kids.
But like, I want to be able to provide.
I want to make sure everything's good.
And then she's like, "Well, let's have fun."
I'm like, that's not possible with a two-year-old, you know.
But...
- It's possible.
- Okay.
- You know, as a dedicated father
or whatever, you do what you got to do
to take care of kids, so...
- Yeah, I appreciate you.
You know, it's a scary thing.
It's something that I've never done before.
I've never been a father.
- I mean, if you guys are truly in love, it'll work.
♪ ♪
- He hasn't been in love. - Mm-hmm.
- And those are things that concern me.
- But he was living with a previous girlfriend, correct?
- Mm-hmm. - And they weren't in love?
- I think she was, but he wasn't.
- Hm.
- So he was kind of just going through the motions
because he knew, like, that wasn't
the relationship for him.
But you know, it's scary because it's like...
- Mm.
- Will we be in a relationship for two years,
three years, and go through the motions,
and you not love me too?
[tense music]
- So what are you gonna say on Decision Day?
- Uh...
- You're not getting any younger.
It's time to... - [chuckles]
- Settle down. - I know.
I know, I know.
I just don't want to feel pressured to doing something
because, like, at the end of the day, like,
I have to be mentally ready.
You know, it's just scary.
♪ ♪
- ♪ Ooh, is this the real thing? ♪
♪ Baby, you and I ♪
♪ Na, na, you and I ♪
- Hi, Candice.
- Hi.
- How are you doing?
- Good, you're probably gonna hear crying
in the background because...
[chuckles]
Both of them are awake,
and Michael's gonna have to handle it on his own, so...
- So I'm calling you because I have a lot to talk about.
- Yeah, I want to talk to you, of course.
- Okay, basically, like, this past, like,
week and a half has just been, like, missed connection
over miscommunication, over--
just over and over again.
So it's been pretty daunting.
- I mean, that makes sense.
[chuckling] Um, what are you doing?
Sorry, distracted.
- Oh, yeah, don't do this in front of Miguel.
No, I'm just kidding. [chuckling]
- What do you mean?
- Well, because he gets mad at me
when I get distracted when we're talking.
- Good thing I was tethered to my chair
because that was the moment I became aware it's better--
- Did you see the little bunny? - Yeah, I did.
- It's better what? - With a beat.
- Oh, look at that dog.
Oh, those horses are so pretty.
- Oh, yeah, I also understand that one
because as a person who has, like, a brain that's like,
what's that over there?
- Yeah, we're the same.
- What's that person doing over there?
- I know, I'm the same. That's literally what happened.
There was, like, people taking pictures of us.
And I was like, oh, my gosh, what are they doing?
And he was, like, in a serious conversation with me,
and that was, like, the last straw.
- So that was triggered.
And then it would cast, like--
- Oh, my God, these people have their iPhones out.
[laughing] I can't.
- [sighs]
- I guess we were kind of able to get through that.
But the issue now is, like,
when I do something wrong or I, like, offend him,
he stonewalls me and kind of shuts down.
- Mm-hmm.
- And I don't really know how to, like, navigate that.
- Yeah, is this kind of like a new behavior from him?
- Um, yeah.
- It's so hurtful because you feel like you
just being you is making him react this way.
- Yes, exactly.
And he kind of has been, like, tampering
that this whole time.
- I mean, I don't know.
I mean, that just sounds really hard.
I don't have any advice or anything.
It just sounds like you guys are just
figuring out your dynamics.
It's finding that middle ground
of not completely withdrawing.
- Yeah.
- And honestly, I think it comes down to, like,
who needs the most care at that time?
- Yes.
- It's making me a little emotional
because, you know, we're going through a lot over here.
And just knowing when it's time to, like,
set aside your stuff fully to care for that person
if they're the ones that need it, you know?
- Yeah.
- So when you're in a partnership,
you have to keep the ship going, you know?
So if you want to keep it sailing or whatever,
to use the metaphor, you got to keep both people
strong on the boat, you know?
- Yeah, definitely.
- So I don't know.
I'm really rooting for you guys.
And it sounds really intense.
But you guys are weighing, like, the benefits
and the negatives.
And so I mean, you have a big decision coming.
- Yeah.
It's just a matter of fully comprehending,
like, what marriage means, and will this end,
or is this just problem after problem forever?
I don't know. It's overwhelming.
- ♪ You're eating me alive ♪
[soft music]
[upbeat music]
♪ ♪
- I love this place. - Me too.
So oh, my gosh, a big week for you coming up.
- I'll take a sip first. - Yeah.
How are you feeling?
- Actually, I'm feeling really finally at peace.
- Okay. - I feel calm.
I feel like I've gotten everything off my chest.
- Good.
- And now it's just kind of time
to decide if we continue or not.
- Yeah, that's a big decision.
Where are you in that decision?
Have you come to a decision yet?
Like, there's... - Yeah.
- Just so much to unpack.
- Yeah, so I think that's why it's
such a hard decision too...
- Yeah.
- Is because there is a lot of good there.
I guess it's just specifically Mitch has just had me craving
any sort of validation because he was so open
about not being attracted.
- Yeah.
- And so I want him without me writing it on a notepad,
screaming it from a mountain...
- Yeah. - To ask me to say yes.
- Yeah.
- That's what I want, a grand gesture.
- Yeah.
- I mean, I think it's just like the grand gesture is just
not even this crazy, romantic night,
even though that would be great.
I think it's just some verbals, like...
- Yeah.
- Here's all the things that I love about you.
And I really, really want you to continue
with me because I think that there's something here.
- Yeah.
- So the marriage has not come to what I thought it would be.
- And do you have the time
to give him the opportunity to change?
Because essentially, that's what you do want.
- Yeah.
- Because what if you stay married,
and then it doesn't work out?
[tense music]
- My eggs will just have--
what is it, dehydrated, and just fell out my butt.
- Geriatric--that's what-- [laughter]
I can't with you.
♪ ♪
- ♪ Every time we taking it, taking it slow ♪
♪ Like we don't feel the pressure ♪
♪ Take it in to let it go ♪
♪ Like we still have forever ♪
♪ Taking it, taking it slow ♪
- ♪ My, my, my ♪
[phone chimes]
- Hey, babe. - Hey, good-looking.
How you doing? - I'm good.
How are you?
- You know, I gave Mya up this week.
- Yeah, how you feeling about that?
- When I gave my Mya away, I was under the impression
that it was an automatic yes on her end,
and we were gonna just keep working on our marriage.
- You sound like you're nervous that she's gonna
say no on Decision Day.
- Yes, I'm nervous she gonna say no
on Decision Day because...
- [laughing]
- I mean, if you're gonna say no, just tell me.
And that way, I don't make all these big plans for my dog
and this, that, and the other.
- You can walk out in the street
and get hit by a car.
And you can plan to go across the street and get a coffee.
You can't do that.
- I don't know.
I just--I always get in my head.
And sometimes, I can't recognize
when I am in my head.
[soft music]
- Hey, Mommy. - Hi.
- Well, you know, Decision Day's coming up.
- Okay.
Are you leaning towards that, okay, yes,
he's gonna be the man that I'm looking for?
Or six months down the lane,
he's still not gonna be the man I want?
- He does have these great qualities.
And I'm split, for sure.
- Well, I'm sure you are.
You know, because of the time that you
have to make this decision, I would be unsure too.
You know what I mean?
- He's in his head so much.
And he doesn't invite me into these scenarios,
which is my problem because I can't comfort
his overthinking if I don't know
what your thoughts are about.
So that's, like, the challenge that I'm having with Justin.
And it's been like that for some time now.
- Do you want to say no?
- You know, two days ago, I was adamant.
I was just like, yeah, it's no.
But I think what I need is, I need to feel
desired by my woman too.
On an intimate level, it's more about her pleasure.
You know, she only wants to be dominated.
But I'm a lot more reserved than my wife, you know?
And so maybe I won't be able to really please her.
- If you care about her and you want to try,
I mean,
you got to get freaky.
[laughing]
- Okay, no, I'm freaky.
Um, well, made me lose my train of thought.
- [laughing]
- Good Lord, woman.
- If she doesn't want to be with you because of that
and other things, well, hey, maybe she ain't
the one for you, you know?
- Like, all these things that we haven't figured out yet
will just be more pressures once we don't have
the safety bubble of the experiment, you know?
So for me, it's just like, we're struggling this much,
and we got training wheels.
When them training wheels come off, then what?
[tense music]
- I don't want you to stay
because you know you're a runner.
I want you to know what you want
because marriage is special.
You have to look deep into your heart and see,
is he for you?
- I have a lot to think about.
- Yeah, you do.
[dramatic music]
♪ ♪
- ♪ Say yeah ♪
♪ I'm hot, hot, hot, hot, hot gossip ♪
♪ Say yeah ♪
♪ I'm hot, hot, hot, hot, hot gossip ♪
- Let's grab a seat, bro. - All right.
- All right, bro, well, this conversation's
gonna be interesting.
- Are you on the fence right now?
- Yeah.
- I'll give you a little context.
Last weekend, we did a couples retreat in Fallbrook.
And it was really fun.
- Yeah. - Damn, girl.
- The queen... - Queen.
- Has arrived.
Have you seen me on the dance floor?
- ♪ Oh, you got that look you're freaking out ♪
♪ The world is watching, son, you got to cool down ♪
- You know, they say imitation is the best form of flattery.
- Oh, my God.
I can't right now.
- That's my girl right there.
It seems like she's finally,
like, just comfortable with being herself.
- Mm-hmm.
- And the real her is, like, my favorite version of her.
- Mm-hmm. - Like, she's funny.
She's goofy. She's cool.
You know what I mean? - Yeah, yeah.
- That all came out over the weekend, like,
really for the first time.
And then basically that night, had to drive
up to San Clemente for my all staff meeting.
So I kind of left on a pretty positive note,
like, hey, like, this is going pretty well.
You know what I mean? - Mm-hmm.
- But then I'm away from her, and it's, like,
totally back into my old life.
- Okay.
- It was just weird for me because it's like this--
like, I have these two completely separate lives.
- Yeah, when you go back to that life,
you just feel like you're back to being a single,
like, your old life.
- Yeah.
I have a really hard time understanding
what it would be like to be married to Krysten...
- Just in a normal situa--
- In my normal day-to-day life. You know what I mean?
Because this is not my normal day-to day life at all.
You know, this whole eight weeks,
I've surfed probably three or four times.
- Yeah.
- I've ridden my bike literally, like, twice.
- Yeah, so you might associate being with Krysten,
being married to Krysten with like, you know,
you're less happy, right?
Because you don't have all the things you're used to.
- Yeah.
- The surfing, like, helps keep you balanced,
keep you sane, right?
- Keeps my mind healthy.
You know what I mean, yeah, so I just--
I've been taken away from all these things.
But with Decision Day coming, at least for me,
I mean, I think Krysten and I could
make it work and be happy,
that I could have the life I love.
She could have the life she loves.
And we could be a great team together.
I think that potential is there.
I do love her.
Like, I have a lot of affection for her.
Like, we're a team.
We've been together, like, living
together for eight weeks.
But I'm not in love with her.
You know what I mean?
- Can I just ask, like,
when you guys are just driving in the car together,
when you guys are just chilling together,
do you enjoy just being together?
Do you enjoy--do you goof around together?
Do you have fun with each other?
- Yeah, you know, there's a lot of good.
There's a lot of great partnership.
- When you say things like that,
it makes me feel like
you don't understand how rare that is to find somebody
that you have that feeling of partnership with
because that feeling of trust and partnership is like--
to me, it's kind of the core thing.
- To me, it's like, if you're willing to accept me
where I'm at, because I'm not where
she would want me to be.
If I say yes, it's not quite the emphatic yes
that she might want or think she deserves.
And I can't give her that.
And I can't-- I certainly can't fake it.
And she knows that.
- I guess I'm just scared that you guys are gonna
potentially walk away from a good thing
because you have naive or high--
too high of expectations.
You may be able to convince her to accept
a less emphatic yes on the basis of it's
worth continuing to try it.
- Yeah.
- At least just hearing that you want to be with her.
You may not be able-- ready to say, like, I love you.
But if there's a part of you that wants
to spend more time with her, that's meaningful,
you know?
That might be enough to convince her
that it's worth continuing.
- Yeah, again, like, I--
it's confusing for me.
And I just don't...
I just don't know, man.
[tense music]
- ♪ Give it up, all you got ♪
♪ It's not enough, I want everything ♪
♪ Okay to be cruel, take it all ♪
♪ I want everything ♪
- I'm gonna get you guys in 22.
And there's a yellow kart.
- With Decision Day around the corner,
this will be the final chance for our couples
to spend time together, compare notes,
and share advice.
And hopefully, they'll have some fun too.
[laughing]
[upbeat music]
- Whoo!
- [chuckling] Yeah.
[screaming]
- [laughing]
- I'm ready to rage.
- Let's go!
[horn beeping]
- [screaming]
Mitch, look out!
- I see a stop sign.
This go-kart ain't got [bleep] on me.
♪ ♪
- [chuckling] We out here.
- [screaming]
- Go-kart's more fun than I thought it would be.
Usually, I don't do that kind of stuff.
But you know, it is fun to drive around
in a little go-kart.
Although, I'm very jealous that Alexis and Justin
have the cool electric one.
All I can smell is Nate's exhaust.
It's much cleaner, and it's also faster.
- [screaming] - [screaming]
- Oh, [bleep]! - Oh!
- [laughing] - Holy [bleep].
- [laughing]
- Alexis just the [bleep] off.
- Whoo!
Hey!
- You guys are trying to die!
- They are back there, boy.
[laughing]
- What the [bleep]? - Geez.
- Oh, my God.
- Oh, my God!
[bleep] mean streets.
[engine revving]
[horn beeping]
- Whoo!
Skrrt!
[horn beeping]
- Out of the way.
- Whoo-hoo!
- I do enjoy, like, meeting up with everybody
and seeing how they're doing because we just have fun.
And I think that, with Decision Day
being a few days away,
I just feel like that's something that we all need.
- People are like fishing out here.
- Right.
There's a lot of emotions coming up for me.
And it's because I have to literally think
about spending the rest of my life with a partner
that I barely even know, right?
And once I'm able to actually
make a yes or no decision, I'll feel a lot better.
[laughter]
- I know you guys laughed at us.
- Just this-- [laughing]
- You need a bite?
- Nah. Thank you.
- Oh, yeah, you're having a vegan moment.
- I'm just trying to eat less meat.
I had, like, the meat sweats last night.
And I was like, I'm disgusting, right?
- That's a thing? - The meat--
- [laughing] - The meat sweats.
Like, having, you know, a lot of meat,
you just start sweating, you know?
It was just--it was a moment where I was like,
maybe I'll eat some salads this week.
I don't know.
[foghorn blares]
- So how you guys feeling?
- How are you feeling? - Yeah, how are you--
- Yeah, that's true.
- Because last time you guys were, like, on a...
- Not gonna lie.
Last week was pretty challenging for us.
And you know, there were moments
where I got very frustrated with the whole situation.
I was, like, starting to have, like, serious doubts.
- Yeah.
I do know that Miguel and Lindy had
kind of a bad argument when we went on our couples retreat.
But I see no arguments as a red flag,
so I was pleasantly surprised when they had
their kind of first real conflict.
But I think that's a good sign that they both really care
about each other, and that they care enough to have conflict,
and they want to work through it.
- I had a moment where I was just adamant.
Like, I was just like, I'm saying no.
You know what I'm saying? I'm serious.
Like, when I'm in my head, yo, it is--
it's hard to get me out.
- Mm-hmm.
- Can I ask you about what specifically?
- Over-generalizing. - Okay.
- And I know that.
But to hear that from my mom, you know,
who know me really well, it just kind of hit different.
And I was just like, oh, [bleep].
Man, how long have I been like this?
So it's like I'm discovering all this stuff.
- Right.
- But I'm just glad that I'm aware of it.
- Yeah, definitely.
You can't grow unless you know, you know, where to go.
- Right. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
- Right, so yeah.
- I'm so cold. It's uncomfortably cold.
- You want these heat warmers?
- I have some. - Oh, okay.
- Do you have the vibrator again to warm you up?
Sorry. - [laughing]
- Are you okay? [buzzing]
- I'm getting lit up.
Oh, my God.
- She's suffering right now.
But it feels good.
- Oh, he likes to see me suffer.
- It's pretty hot.
[buzzing]
- Oh, my good Lord.
- [laughing]
- We had to return that [bleep].
- Whoa. You can't return that.
- It was broke. - [laughing]
- It was broken.
Did you guys hear it at 3:00 in the morning going off?
- Yes.
- Well, that's because you guys were overusing it, yeah.
[laughter] - It was begging for help.
- Well, how are you guys doing? How are you guys feeling?
- Just looking back the last seven weeks,
we definitely need to learn how to communicate better.
- You know, you have-- I don't want to say lack.
But you know, you kind of do have lack
of emotional relationship experience.
And I think that sometimes that
can irritate me at times
because I feel like I'm having to explain all of these things
and the whys behind them.
And I feel like maybe you don't
want to trust what I say because, you know,
the conversations about the kids thing,
you know, me wanting to be a fun parent or have fun.
And me wanting to create that for myself,
it wasn't something that you would accept.
But when your dad said, oh, yeah,
you can still have fun with an infant,
you're like, oh, okay, great.
He has the experience.
He's had kids, so that must be a fact.
But not looking at, like, what your wife is saying,
so just things like that.
[soft music]
- It surprises me to hear Stacia saying that she wishes
Nate had more life experience.
I know she is a few years older.
But it's like, I imagine that she's just
trying to pinpoint what might make her say no
if it was a big problem.
And I think overall, they got a lot more positives
than negatives in their marriage.
- How are you doing?
- Mitchy Mitch?
- I don't think it's 100% clear yet
what either of us are gonna say.
But you know, we still got, you know, some more exploration
to do, I would say.
- Yeah.
- Do you think that there's enough time ahead of you
to kind of, you know, shift any of either one
of your perspectives?
- I think if he verbalized what our life would look
like together after this, if he verbalized
that he wants to be married to me,
I think I would say yes, so...
♪ ♪
- Mitch--it's just, he's a confused soul.
And Krysten deserves so much better.
Krysten straight up knows what she needs to hear from him.
And she's giving him an outline detail of, like,
hey, if you do this, I'm in.
And he--I don't even think he can do it.
♪ ♪
- ♪ Oh, I'm on fire ♪
♪ Oh, yeah, I'm on fire ♪
- I booked out a private room for us.
- Beautiful.
Aww, it's so pretty.
This is gorgeous. Oh, my God, I love it.
- I have a--
- I'm so happy to be here with you.
- Me too. It's really nice.
- Thank you. Hi, how are you?
- Good, how are you? - Good.
Enjoy the prosecco.
- Thank you. Lover?
- Prosec yourself. - Likely to take a wife.
Cheers. - I did take one.
- You have.
- This is really our last chance to feel each other out
before Decision Day.
And I just want Krysten to understand me,
and so I just need to be as honest and open as I can.
And that's just-- that's all I can do.
It's all I've ever been able to do.
- Thank you.
[upbeat music]
- Thanks a lot. - Enjoy.
- So this has been a wild ride.
But I am really grateful that we were matched.
I'm really grateful to have had this time with you.
I do wonder hypothetically, if we both did say yes,
what do you think our life would look like?
What do we do next?
- Good question.
I think the first thing we would do is,
because everything's been so intense and so accelerated,
we don't need to move too quick.
So I would say at least like a few days to a week,
like, maybe just kind of be, like, more like two people
in a relationship, you know what I mean?
- Mm-hmm. - But then go from there.
- The one thing that I just want to make clear
is that I do not do well in a confusing environment.
I need clear lines.
- Yeah, you need to be knowing that you're in a direction...
- Yeah. - With a goal.
- I need to be married.
I don't need, like, an estranged husband
where we kind of date.
I don't operate well with blurred lines in the gray.
I'm glad you shared how you really envision it.
But it just seems a little grayer
than where I would have liked it to be.
- Yeah, I understand. I mean...
- Yeah. - I wish I wasn't as gray.
- Mm-hmm.
- In a perfect world, I wouldn't be.
The reason I'm gray is because I still don't know
what it'll be like with us.
You know, I know that in a perfect world,
you'd rather have a stronger commitment on my end
and more of a declaration of love.
I know that. - Yeah.
- And I haven't been able to provide it.
- Yeah. - And I do feel bad about that.
So I guess my question is, if I just say for Decision Day,
I want to keep going, and it's a yes for me--
- Mm-hmm.
- But I'm not declaring my love,
or even declaring that I'm 100% sure if we are a great--
- Yeah, yeah. - Match for life.
Like, is that good enough for you?
[tense music]
- Hm.
- Is that all right?
- Honestly, I think it's a start.
I take every little bit I can get with you.
Like, anything I can get, I take with grace.
Like, I am happy to hear that you're thinking
about wanting to continue.
I will take it.
No, it's not what I want to hear.
But I'm grateful for it.
And I think that the next few days
as we're talking about it, it'll put me in a good space
to think about what I want to do.
- Yeah. - You know?
- I know that you still have things to think about.
And that's okay.
I'm just--you know, to be honest,
I'm very flattered by you.
I mean, I feel like the way I handled it in the beginning,
I just--if there was one regret that I have, I just--
- Yeah.
- I just wish I could've played it cooler...
- Right. - On the honeymoon...
- Yeah.
- And just thought a little bit more,
you know, cup half full.
- Yeah.
- It was just a really disservice to our marriage,
and I'm just really sorry.
- It's okay.
I want to give you the space to forgive yourself.
- Yeah.
- We can't, like, beat ourselves up.
- I'm never gonna shy away from the moment, you know?
- Yeah. - And...
[clears throat]
Because that's something I've seen in my family,
of guys shying away from the moment
because they're not ready or not comfortable.
- Yeah.
- And I used to see it in myself.
So that said, I mean, I know that--
I know you did hope for more. - Yeah.
- And, you know,
I'm afraid to lose you, for sure.
And I don't want to lose you.
♪ ♪
- Thank you, honey.
♪ ♪
- ♪ This love, this love ♪
[soft music]
♪ All this, this love ♪
- Wow, sunflowers.
[laughing] Aww, hi, baby.
- What's up?
♪ ♪
- Gonna give you lipstick. - Yes.
- Thank you.
♪ ♪
Ah, I love sunflowers.
- Here, I can help you with that.
- Yeah, because I got a lot now.
♪ ♪
- ♪ This love ♪
- This is our last dinner before Decision Day,
so I wanted to make it special.
And I chose the sunflowers because I know
it's your favorite flower, so...
- Thank you. - Yeah.
I listen to you. I do.
I know I have my times where I get in my head.
And, girl, we know what happens when I get in there.
- You get stuck in there. - I get stuck in there.
It's like a chair.
And I just get comfortable, you know?
So I'm slowly trying to make it right.
- That's a challenge for me.
You get stuck in there.
And no matter what I tell you, it's not registering.
- I understand what you mean.
You know, I talked to my mom.
And she's like, baby, you scared.
And she's like, because I know you.
When you want something, you get in your head.
And you're the only one in this world that's thinking this.
So I was like, yo, that's so true.
That's what be happening, you know?
She's like, you start predicting the future.
And I was like damn, I've been like that all this time?
[soft music]
- The 90% that wants to say yes is
the hopefulness in me wanting to believe my husband is
gonna improve.
If he believes he's this person,
he's came to this conclusion after weeks,
I'ma let him show proof.
Justin may just be giving me lip service.
It may just be like, yeah, babe, I'll fix it.
Yeah, uh-huh, I got it, babe. Mm-hmm.
And whole time, he has no intention,
so that's definitely something to consider.
So now that you've found this out, because this is--
and Decision Day's coming up--
I did have, like, a couple of things
that were holding me back.
That's definitely one of them.
You get in your head-- like, off route.
Like, this is--
I don't want to say crazy, but I actually think
it's perfect timing because I was worried at one point
that you'd never come to-- like, you know,
like, you'd never come to that conclusion.
But now that you're coming out and saying this, like,
I'm not only proud, but it's making me,
like, decrease that 10% because that was
a big part of it.
Like, if we're having these issues now, and I'm not saying
it's all you because I need to create a safer space.
I need to honor you. I need to--shoot.
Well, let me stop saying what I need to do.
What do I need to do?
- For me, I would say feeling desire.
You know how you wanted me to be dominant in the bedroom.
Sometimes, I want the role to switch.
You know what I'm saying? Not saying you dominate me.
- I can.
- But like, you know, sometimes, like,
initiate when it comes to intimacy.
- It's something I can do.
But I just...
- And it's not something you have to do all the time
because when it comes to that,
then I can step outside my comfort zone.
You know what I'm saying, and in my mama's eyes,
be more freaky.
- Oh, that's what mama said? - Mm-hmm.
She's like, so you ain't freaky enough.
And I was like, well-- - Oh.
[laughing] - It ain't that we ain't frea--
- You didn't tell me about this conversation.
Is that what happened?
Mama wants you to be more freaky?
- Yeah, you know, desiring more.
She's like, so you need her to be more--
you need to be more freaky.
But you ain't comfortable enough to do that.
And I was like, well, I mean, yeah.
So that was a mouthful. Sorry.
- No, you don't have to apologize.
I'm listening. I'm internalizing.
I'm taking everything in.
- What you smiling about?
- You know what?
This conversation's important because it's just like,
now that we're here, now, you know,
we've had a great day.
And I don't want to ruin it.
But, like, I still have my doubts.
If we were to stay together, it would more so focus
on consistency, stabilization, foundation,
you know, understanding each other.
But this isn't best friends at first sight, you know?
This is "Married at First Sight."
But either way, it's just like, I think you're a great person.
And maybe we might be better off as friends.
Who knows?
[dramatic music]
♪ ♪
[soft music]
- ♪ It's been a long journey, a winding road ♪
♪ Getting lost and learning ♪
- Here we are. - Cute.
Look at how pretty the mountains are.
- Mm-hmm.
Can't wait to try this wine.
I heard they make their own hooch.
- Hooch?
I've been called that before.
- A hoochie mama?
- [laughs]
We have just kind of been missing each other
repeatedly the past like week and a half.
And it's taking so much emotionally and physically.
And I want to make sure that I feel more secure with him.
So how are you feeling?
- I'm feeling good.
I mean, there's no denying we've had a tough week.
- A lot has happened in such a short amount of time.
- Right.
- So this is just nice to forget about all of that
and just...
- Wine and dine, yeah. - [chuckling]
- Well, and that is important too
because I kind of did ruin--
I can't, I mean-- like, I know I--sure.
I'll say it.
I kind of ruined our last winery visit.
- I'm trying. - I know you are.
- And it's a lot. - I know.
I got tired of calling your attention to it.
I think that's the problem.
- Can I just, like--
[crying]
[dramatic music]
- So it's good to make it up.
And yeah, I just--
I hope to show you who I truly am.
That weekend was by no means, like, who I am
and who I want to be.
Do I wish I reacted differently?
100%.
You know, do I wish I was not
sensitive and overreactive?
Yes.
But it happened.
And like I said, I'm sorry for that.
But I'm trying to learn from that--
- Mm-hmm. - And move on.
And I need to get into a better place
where I don't go 0 to 100--
- Yeah.
- Based on like one heavy disagreement.
- And I have to reassess, like, if it's taking
too much from me to filter myself.
Like, I did boil, and that's what...
- Right.
- Me talking to Gabi and just voicing my frustration
without thinking, oh, my God, if I tell Miguel this,
he's gonna, like, bounce, you know?
- I acknowledge that I haven't been like the rock you need.
And I don't know if I can exhibit that strength to,
like, hold you accountable like you mentioned to me,
or like, you know, put you in your place--
you know, be like that pillar of strength
that you can lean on.
- So that comment is not supposed to be like,
I need you to be managing me constantly
or anything like that.
It shouldn't be taking a lot of energy out of you.
It just means that you need to step up when I'm low.
- No, I know. And I guess I get that.
- Mm-hmm.
- But it does scare me sometimes when you do have
such a strong personality.
And you know, it's like your strong personality
sometimes does overwhelm me.
- Mm-hmm. - And it catches me off guard.
I haven't experienced it before.
I don't know. It's a lot thrown at me.
And you are theatric.
Like, you're very expressive and emotive.
So I think when that happens,
I'm just like really caught off guard.
And it does scare me because I'm like, wow,
this is taking a lot out of me.
I mean, my main concern right now is her emotions.
Like, her expressive nature,
sometimes, it is a lot for me to handle.
I don't know how to phrase it.
But it's like that is a legitimate fear of mine
if I'm not able to be the husband that Lindy needs.
[sighs]
I mean, there's no-- that's the thing.
I don't know.
Like, I can't guarantee that right now.
It's having me reevaluate everything
I thought I knew about marriage going into this.
And, uh, I don't know
if I can be this person day in, day out.
[tense music]
- ♪ Ooh, is this the real thing? ♪
♪ Baby, you and I ♪
♪ Na, na, you and I ♪
- Look at this view.
- It's beautiful. Hi.
- Hey, what's up? - Hi.
- Thank you.
- Of course.
Enjoy. both: Thank you.
♪ ♪
How is it, good?
- Uh-huh.
So is there anything that you want to talk about
before Decision Day, so we can make better decisions,
so you can have more information,
you can feel more comfortable with your decision?
- Basically, I want to know,
you know, if you're, like, all in.
And I want to know, like, what are your biggest flaws?
- You want to know my flaws?
- Yeah, what are some flaws that you have?
♪ ♪
- I think I shared all my flaws with you.
- Okay.
♪ ♪
- It's kind of a hard question.
- That's fair.
- So how are we feeling about this love thing?
How are those feelings now,
now that we're almost two months in?
- It's too early for me.
But, like, my love for you is growing.
And I can see myself loving you,
falling in love with you, and being in love with you.
But I don't want to force it, you know?
I think that just has to come with time.
You know, I want to be able to, like,
walk around naked around you and all that.
And I'm not even there yet. You know what I mean?
I'm still kind of, like, shy. You know what I'm saying?
And you know, it's not me being insecure.
It's just like, you're new to me.
And I think once I get to that level,
I'll be able to open up all the way
and be able to love you.
[tense music]
And hopefully, like, you're patient.
- I feel like sometimes you not ever having that feeling,
I don't know if you'll ever have that feeling.
- With love?
- Yeah.
- Why? Why do you think that?
- Because you've never experienced it.
- Well, I--
- And you've been in relationships.
- I've had, like, puppy love, remember?
- Yeah, but that doesn't count. - It's not the same.
- High school doesn't count. - Okay.
- I'm saying, like, serious, adult relationships.
- Does that concern you?
- Yeah, it's one of my concerns--
- One of them?
- Being in a relationship for two years
and not loving a person, living with them,
like, I don't want to be in a loveless relationship
where we're living together, we're sharing bank accounts,
we have a kid.
You know, I know, like, you go through the motions
in the morning.
Like, you, you know, give me a hug.
And we cuddle and stuff like that.
But I just kind of feel like if you were, like,
in love with me, it would kind of be
just a little bit deeper.
- That kind of hurts my feelings.
But I do care about you.
- I'm not saying that you don't.
- Yeah, but you said it like,
you feel like it could be deeper.
- Yeah, like, I feel-- - That's messed up.
- Why is it messed up?
- Because it's like you're saying that my affection
is not enough.
- I didn't say that.
- Then what are you trying to say then?
- I'm just trying to say I feel like you
don't have the burning desire.
I feel like we're going through the motions
sometimes in the apartment.
- That is one of my concerns.
I'm gonna be flat-out honest with you.
I feel like I'm not going to be able to make you happy
and please you.
And I feel like you're gonna get bored very easy.
And you're going to feel like I'm not in love with you.
- But you don't love me.
- [sighs]
- Right?
- If you don't feel that burning desire right now,
and you feel like we're going through the motions...
♪ ♪
That's a red flag to me.
- He's not listening to me.
He just listens to a few words.
And he's triggered by certain words.
And then he just creates his own understanding,
narrative of what he thinks I'm saying.
- Here's the deal.
Do you see what's on my hand right now?
- Yeah. - Why do you think I did this?
- To show your commitment.
- Do you think I'm going through the motions
when I have a [bleep] tattoo on my hand?
♪ ♪
- No, I think you're showing your level of commitment.
- Okay then.
Two months in,
you're already questioning my love for you.
Like, that hurts my feelings when you say that stuff.
I'm putting in a lot of effort.
I'm being very affectionate around you.
- But I feel like that love, burning desire feeling,
that's what I want to feel.
- Well, I'm sorry if you don't feel that.
♪ ♪
I have deep feelings for you.
- And that's what I want to see.
That's all I'm saying.
- Okay, but I feel like I do show you attention,
and love, and affection.
- You do, you do.
- So what is missing then?
- The love part.
- That's what I'm looking for.
- Okay, you got it. We're going in circles.
I'm done with this [bleep].
[dramatic music]
I'm done, I'm done.
I don't want to [bleep] talk about that [bleep] no more.
- ♪ I see angels falling down ♪
rove my love, ♪ ♪e more than eh
I've done more than enough to prove my love,
to prove my feelings,
and to show her that I'm committed.
And if she's not seeing it, there's nothing I can do.
Because if I do say, I love you,
then how is she gonna believe me then
if I'm going through the motions
and she's not feeling the burning desire?
Basically, I feel like we're in a cycle.
This is basically the same dialogue
we had where you felt like, you know, I wasn't genuine.
- I don't agree.
I just think that,
I want to know, what is this love feeling?
- Look, to be honest with you,
I don't love you right now, okay?
- Got that.
- I've known you for two months, okay?
- Granted, yeah.
- And it's gonna take me time for my feelings
to grow for you.
- I know that.
And I'm not saying that I need that right now.
- But what I'm saying--
- I'm saying that we work towards that.
- The reason why I'm hurt is because you think
I'm going through the motions.
- I just want to know that we're working
towards the love feeling.
That's it.
- Okay, and why don't you feel that?
- I feel like you like me.
You like being around me.
- But we're going through the motions,
so what's gonna happen next,
when you feel that it's not enough?
What do I do? Because now I'm stuck with you.
- You're stuck with me? - I'm stuck with you.
- You're stuck. - I'm stuck.
- Then don't be stuck.
- Exactly, I don't want to be stuck with you.
- That's--
- I don't want to be married to you
because I don't want to be with someone
who doesn't feel satisfied enough
because I'm not doing enough.
I don't want to be with someone who thinks,
you know, I wasn't being genuine
when I'm, like, hugging on you in the morning.
- I never said that you weren't being genuine.
I literally said that I enjoyed that.
- Here's the thing.
Like, I just don't want to go in circles anymore.
I don't have time for that.
I don't want to prove myself.
I don't want to prove--like, I'm tired of proving myself.
[dramatic music]
I'm getting to the point where I just don't care no more.
♪ ♪
[upbeat music]
♪ ♪
- So I want to propose something.
- Okay.
[laughing] What'd you have in mind?
- I was thinking, if you would be open to it,
maybe Luna, just for tonight
as our last night before Decision Day...
- In the bed? - Sleeps in the bed with us.
- Yeah. - Yeah?
- Yeah.
- This is the final night that our couples will get
to spend together before Decision Day,
so they must take these last moments to explore
any necessary information to determine
whether their futures include one another.
- Lulu?
- She's probably already in the bed.
- There she is.
Okay, we--no, wait, come here.
Come here.
- Luna, you're gonna get a treat.
- Look, her tail's down.
- Her tail is down.
- Oh, yeah, come here, Lulu!
No, no, no.
She's under the bed.
She's gone.
You get the treats, and I'll get her.
- Okay. Luna, I'm getting some treats.
- God, it takes a village. Luna, come here.
♪ ♪
- Chicken and Brown Rice Recipe Sticks.
- Come here. She's on the other side.
- These ones? - Get her.
- These ones? - Yeah, that's perfect.
- Get her.
Okay, okay, okay, okay.
Come here. Nope, come here.
- You want a treat? - Wait, not yet, not yet--
- I'm sorry.
- Not until the cleaning is complete.
Okay, oh, yeah, there we go.
- Oh, Luna, you know you love it.
Oh, look at that. Oh, my God, it's so gross.
- Not on the bed. Oh, oh, oh.
- At least she went to my side.
- [laughs]
So it's our last night before Decision Day,
and I've just never been more confused.
I really don't know what each of us
are gonna say on Decision Day.
And I'm just really spent, emotionally exhausted.
I'm drained.
And I'm just thinking through if this marriage
as a whole makes sense for me.
This family meeting, I hereby adjourn.
That word can't be right.
- I think adjourn is to end. - Yeah.
What do you think to begin is?
- We hereby commence this family meeting.
- I hereby commence this family meeting,
our last bedtime before Decision Day.
- This is true.
- And a topic for the family meeting
is a reflection of these last eight weeks.
- I mean, I really feel like you've helped me
become a better person.
And just, I've always thought I was maybe
in the grand scheme of things reasonably self-aware.
- Yeah.
- But I still think there were some big gaps.
- Yeah. - So I really appreciate that.
And I just really appreciate that how natural and easy
it has been for us to be a good team.
- Yeah.
- You know, obviously, there's high emotions at stake.
But I think in most of your everyday situations,
and conflicts that come up, and everything else like that,
we've just been a really good team.
And I guess I just want you to know
that I really do appreciate you.
And I really do.
And you know, there were times when
we were just cuddling or sleeping
when I just felt like--
just a lot of love, you know what I mean?
And I know that, you know, maybe--
you know, I've been pretty honest
that I don't necessarily maybe feel like I'm in love.
- Yeah. - You know what I mean?
But I do love you.
And I just want you to know that.
- Thanks, babe.
- And you're a beautiful person.
- Thank you.
- I just need you to know that because...
- Thank you.
- Sometimes, you haven't always felt like that.
- Yeah, no, I haven't.
I mean, I've told you before, like, I definitely--
I have a lot of love for you too.
I'm, like, trying to figure-- navigate that.
And sometimes, it feels like a romantic love.
And then sometimes, it just feels like
I care about you so much.
But it's there for sure too.
Of course it is. And I really want it to work.
I mean, it makes me really, really sad
to think that this would be the last night.
I mean, look.
Look how happy our little girl is.
Oh, God.
Hi, bubba.
- Well, it will definitely be the last night in this bed...
- Yeah. - In this house.
- What do you say we try to cuddle,
even with Luna here, and go to sleep?
- I think that's gonna make me very happy.
- All right. - Good night, babe.
- ♪ When you reach into my heart ♪
♪ And it feels electric ♪
♪ Won't you tell me we can live forever? ♪
- Hello, hello. - Howdy.
- How you feeling? - I'm feeling wonderful.
- It's been a good day.
- It's kind of crazy that we're towards the end--
- Mm-hmm.
- Because it's been a long eight weeks.
It feels like eight months.
- It has been an emotional roller coaster, girl.
- Because usually, I'm not emotional.
And I let you wind me like this every time.
How you feeling about Decision Day?
- I'm happy. I'm cool.
I'm gonna be all right.
I've just come to terms with there's
a chance you can say yes,
there's a chance you can say no.
- I mean, so this is my thing.
I'm honestly nervous because I don't know
what decision to make.
- Mm-hmm.
- This is a lot for me. - Hm.
- It's a lot for me.
And the fact that I don't know is
really, like, dang, does that mean something,
that I don't know?
- Mm-hmm.
- Because I should be going into Decision Day
full throttle, this my man.
- I agree. - And I'm down forever.
I don't know if it's that you had
your realization too late because better late than never.
- Mm-hmm.
- Imagine spending seven weeks getting me
to speak the same language.
And then we finally get it but, like, right before it's time.
- But it ain't all been bad, though.
- I'm not saying it's been bad, baby.
We have some beautiful times. - Like, it ain't--
- We have, but I'm saying, that was my main frustration.
- Mm.
- And for you to finally just have this realization,
I don't want to say a part of me doesn't believe it.
- Mm-hmm, okay.
- I want to. I want this.
I want us to work it out.
I guess I need the affirmation now.
- I can't go back seven weeks because I didn't--
- I know.
I'm just--in this moment,
I think I'm actually considering Decision Day,
like, oh, crap, you know, like, it's a thing that's happening.
And it's a big deal.
Like, at first, I wasn't thinking it was a big deal.
But it's a big deal.
And I'm your number one fan, baby.
You know, I want us to work out.
I want us to do everything
that we initially talked about eight weeks back.
I want that.
- ♪ Don't make make me say goodbye ♪
- ♪ I know we went through hell ♪
♪ With all that happened ♪
♪ We gave it our best, the sky was caving in ♪
- I'm exhausted.
We were supposed to have this romantic dinner.
And he kind of just blew up again.
I feel like, how long are we gonna continue this cycle
of you getting upset, and having your tantrums,
and not using the tools that we've been given.
[sighs]
The conversations now are, you know,
I don't think I'll ever be able
to meet your expectations.
Like, that's not what I want to hear from my husband.
There are gonna be times where I need reassurance.
And he thinks that that's just an ask that's far beyond him.
And I don't think so, and that's really what
what I'm considering, so we'll see how this goes.
[soft music]
So what do you enjoy about being married to me?
- Um, probably...
[clock ticking]
The friendship aspect makes me hopeful.
A lot of the things that we do, it's very effortless.
And I like you for you, you know, your personality.
- Hm.
♪ ♪
I have tried to be as genuine as possible.
I've tried to be as honest,
and I've tried to be transparent.
I don't have no regrets.
- Same. - No regrets--
- No regrets.
- Of, like, spazzing on me or anything,
you wouldn't want to take that back?
- Well, I mean, of course, I don't feel great about that.
♪ ♪
So, like, do I regret it?
I think it's human for people to make mistakes
and get emotional.
So I apologize if I've spazzed out on you.
I am regretful, so I apologize
if that's the answer you're looking for.
- But is it gonna continue to happen?
- No, it's not.
- But we've had a conversation before
about throwing things in your face,
and are you going to use the tools?
When they don't happen, it's like, why?
- I understand.
- The experts gave us these tools to be used
in times when we're upset.
My fear or insecurity is, you know,
being left when things are hard,
or when you're mad, or you're not gonna come back.
- And I think one way to help her with that is to say,
"I'm angry, but I'm not going anywhere."
And I'll give you one other hint that I truly love.
I think if you're gonna have a tough discussion,
hold hands.
- Oh, my God.
My mom told me the same thing.
- Love your mom. [laughs]
It's true.
- And I want to know that Nate is going to use
these tools going forward.
So the tools are to be used when you're in the heat
of the emotion and upset.
- And then I came back an hour later.
And I used the tools, yes or no?
- Yes, you used the tools.
- I did use the tools. - But you--
- That's it.
- You already lashed out, though.
And you already said all this crazy stuff.
- [sighs]
- "I don't want to be stuck with you."
"I'm gonna cut my losses."
Before you get to that point--
- Now you're throwing it in my face again.
- The tools are to be used in the heat of the moment.
- Well, I'm telling you, it's gonna be hard
for me to use tools right there and then
because I'm emotional.
And I'm not gonna be thinking as logical,
so it doesn't make sense for me to use tools
if I'm in a heightened emotion.
- Right, and I think what we have to do
when we're in those heightened emotions
is calm down instead of spewing all these crazy things
that we either don't mean or that are disrespectful
because the damage is already done.
- Okay.
- So all of that stuff had already been said to me.
- I literally came to you an hour later after dinner.
And I held your hands.
I made eye contact with you.
I apologized.
You disregarded that whole thing.
And it took you almost five minutes.
And it was very hard for you to say, yes, Nate,
you used those tools.
I've been telling you that I need words of encouragement.
I need positive reinforcement.
And you're not giving that to me.
I'm gonna continue to get upset every time
you don't recognize me for my efforts.
Not giving me credit ties into me not being
recognized for my commitments.
And that just ties into my insecurity
of not being good enough.
And that's how I get triggered.
I'm not gonna sign up for that.
- You're not gonna sign up for your triggers.
- Not if my partner's not gonna help me out with it.
- I am helping you. - No, you're not.
You're the one that's helping me get triggered.
[tense music]
I can't be married to somebody like that.
- I'm not trying to throw anything in your face.
I want you to, you know, feel good about yourself
and the marriage.
And I think there's a lot of hurt
that we have to get through.
- [sighs]
- And it's not something that we're going to solve in a day.
[soft music]
- I don't want to be unhappy. - Yeah, me too.
- And right now, I choose happiness
over a marriage any day.
- ♪ We were on a crash course ♪
♪ Waiting for the day to come, both of us nervous ♪
♪ ♪
- ♪ I don't know why, why ♪
♪ Why I've been waiting for this ♪
♪ Wasting no time, time ♪
♪ Starting from the bottom ♪
- Are you gonna miss me?
- Of course I'm gonna miss you, girl.
My bed's gonna be empty at my place.
It's going to be cold.
You know, I ain't got nothing to snuggle up to.
[chuckles]
- It's the final day before Decision day.
And our couples are feeling the immense pressure
of making the biggest decision of their lives.
- Feel free to text me when you get there safely.
- I will.
- In order to better evaluate the last eight weeks
of their marriage, our couples will
spend their last day alone.
- Like, you should just come with me, you know?
- That defeats the purpose, honey.
- No, it don't.
We can just walk in there together.
[laughs] You know?
I think that's everything.
- I feel like you would stalk me if I said no.
You'd be outside my window or something.
- Mm-mm. I'm too lazy for that.
- Oh, true. - I'm too goddamn lazy.
- That is also true.
Decision Day is tomorrow.
And I feel overwhelmed
because I don't know if I see this man
as the person I'm gonna be with the rest of my life.
It's just like, if everything was good,
then okay, cool.
But I feel like the great times
that we had together almost makes me
question it more because when we have the bad times,
I'm just like, how do we go from so good
to so bad within the matter of a short period of time?
So I don't know.
Going through these eight weeks,
I needed to be forced to be committed
because I'm not a committed person,
no matter how much I thought I was.
I realized that, like, I have a fear of being all in,
you know, because I'm like, what if this, what if that,
what if this, what if that?
I think it's about being present and grounded
and take all the possibilities out
and focus on where we're at.
- Mm-hmm.
- Don't put the worry before the problem.
I always say that to everybody else.
And I needed to take that advice for myself.
And I acknowledged it, you know?
And I feel like I'm overcoming it.
Yeah. - That's beautiful, girl.
- Yeah.
- I trust myself to make the right decision.
I just--some days, I feel like I want to say no.
Some days, I feel like I want to say yes.
Some days, I am straight on, you know?
It's an emotional roller coaster, you know?
- Let's get this Decision Day over with.
- It's a big day tomorrow.
- What you gon' wear?
- I guess you got to wait and see.
- Okay.
- ♪ Oh, honey, won't you come with me ♪
♪ Come with me, come with me ♪
♪ Oh, honey, won't you come with me, come with me ♪
♪ Come with me ♪
- So I guess-- - You're leaving me?
- I tried to get my [bleep] together.
But I guess you've had enough of my [bleep].
- This is crazy though because this is the first night
we're spending away from each other
since we've known each other.
- I know.
[soft music]
So tomorrow, I guess I'll be seeing you bright and early
on the couch.
- I'm mentally prepared for whatever your decision is.
I really am.
But as much as, you know, I'm like, in this,
I have things that I need to think about.
And I want to make sure that I'm putting myself first.
I had weeks of bliss.
And then I was just kind of--
my world was flipped upside down, you know?
And I'm understanding.
I know that you were exhausted and everything.
You did hit a lot of my past traumas.
- Yeah, but I actually agree with you.
Like, there were moments that I rejected you.
There were moments that I pushed you away,
that I stonewalled you.
- And times where I felt like I was being controlled.
- Yeah, and that's the thing.
We just need to get to a place
where you see it for what it is because I don't
want you to feel controlled.
I don't think I'm controlling you,
like when I just voice my feelings on something.
♪ ♪
At the end of the day, I've never presented you with,
like, an ultimatum of, like, you cannot do this,
don't do this.
- There are different forms of control, though.
It doesn't-- control does not always mean,
don't do this, you can't do this.
- Okay.
- There are, if you act this way,
I don't accept you.
That's a form of control.
- I think that's good for me to know, like,
that you do feel so attacked or you take it very personally
when you do feel any inkling of controlling behavior
coming from me, so I think whenever you
feel that to just voice it.
We'll find the right way to do it because I don't like
to be accused of being controlling
if I honestly--if I'm just, like, communicating to you.
- Yeah, and that's the same thing of,
I don't like feeling like I'm disrespecting you
when I'm just getting distracted and speaking my mind
or I get excited and finish a story
because I don't like to be accused
as being disrespectful when I'm existing.
- Yeah, I don't think-- I mean, I never--
I know it's not always like, stop being so disrespectful.
You're so disrespectful towards me.
Like, I--yeah.
- And at no time I've ever been like, you're controlling me.
- Oh, okay.
- Maybe. [both laugh]
- I've said it to other people.
He's controlling me.
- You said it to me a couple of times too, actually, but--
- Okay, fine. Well, you win.
- It's not about winning, though.
And that's the thing.
I think that's what I'm trying to say.
Like, we just need to align on, like, our dictionaries
with each other.
- Mm, mm-hmm, and I'm proud of myself for what
I've been able to do in our conversations
and how I've been able to just push
down emotions that want to just [bleep] scream and yell.
The problem is, where does that venom--
where does it go?
Do I have better coping mechanisms?
Do I have a counselor that just hears all this [bleep]?
Do my friends get a little bit?
I don't know, and, like-- - No, I know.
And I agree.
And to be honest, like, I'm happy to help
in any way I can because--
- But I don't want you to be my counselor, though.
That's the problem. - Well, no.
Well, but I'm your husband, and that's--
I'm not gonna be your counselor.
I agree with that, but I am your husband, and--
- But, like, I'm not doing this, like, me,
I need to work on me, me, me, me, me.
I need to hear from you too because there's [bleep]
you got to work on, too.
- Yeah.
Normally, couples have months and years to figure this out.
With Lindy and I, we have less than a day
to figure out how to reinvent ourselves
to become each other's spouse.
And if we don't, it's not gonna work out.
♪ ♪
[soft music]
- ♪ I always hit the bottle, drown my sorrow ♪
♪ When you leave me, when you leave me ♪
- I'm bummed to... - Thank you.
- Not have you spend the night with us tonight.
But maybe it makes sense to do some meditation,
some reflection.
I'm gonna take a bubble bath. - Some heavy drinking.
- I might have a cocktail. - [laughs]
- Or two.
♪ ♪
I am very nervous.
I don't know if that shows.
But I am. I'm nervous for tomorrow.
I really, really need some alone time,
I guess, to think about what I'm gonna say.
I'm just--yeah, I'm just nervous for tomorrow.
It feels almost like the reverse of wedding day.
But I'm having those same jitters.
- Yeah.
Yeah, me too.
- And I think I'm gonna be thinking
about the pros and cons of the last eight weeks,
and then the pros and cons of what the future
could look like.
- So what does your future look like if we both say yes?
- Well, the last conversation we had about that,
you said you would want to start with time apart,
so I guess it looks like time apart.
- I didn't mean, like, we should stay
married and then separate.
I meant, like, we would stay married and just,
like, not necessarily rush--
- Mm-hmm.
- Into moving in together just because it's been
a really intense eight weeks.
And I think it's healthy just to take--
I mean, not like a--
I don't mean, like, a break, like, a break, break,
but I meant just like, I'm exhausted.
That's all I meant. - Oh, okay.
Well, I'm glad I brought it up again.
- You know, maybe kind of work back towards something
like this, like a shared life,
but in a location and a type of place
that's a little bit more what we want.
- Mm-hmm, my personal thought process is not,
well, maybe things will be much better
or much worse or much more of anything
in a different location.
I would like to give that food for thought to you
as well if you want to accept it,
that I am me.
Luna is Luna.
Mitch is Mitch. - Yeah.
- And--
- We're the same people no matter--
- We're the same people no matter what.
- Yeah, - Exactly, so--
- Yeah, I think that's a good point.
- I certainly don't want to say no.
I certainly want to say yes.
I certainly want a partner.
You've been a really good partner
in a lot, a lot of ways.
And I'm just more so thinking about the match
and the chemistry and the line of what you can live with
and what I can live with
and if we complement each other the best.
- I think I'll think about that too tonight.
- Yeah.
- I'll really think about, you know, maybe I've been
using this, what would it be like without the situation
as kind of an excuse to--
- Yeah.
- Put off some of the deeper questions, so...
- Yeah. - You know.
I'm the same as you. I really want to say yes.
- Yeah.
- And I--and there's so much I love about you.
But it's just gonna--yeah,
I'm just going to think a little bit more
about, really, you know,
how I felt and how you felt--
- Yeah.
- How I think you felt the last eight weeks
and how that translates into the future together.
- Yeah.
I don't want to just have a good life.
I want to have an incredible, out of this world, romantic,
love, reach for the stars, over the fence,
World Series kind of stuff.
- So you want Luna's life? - Yes.
And if we're not there now,
I'm thinking if we can ever get there, I guess.
That's what I'll be thinking about tonight.
Are we on track for that?
- That's the question, right?
There's no playbook for marrying a stranger.
You just do your best.
And there's no way to not make mistakes.
I mean, even if I married the love of my life,
I'd probably still be having a hard time
and whining about how hard it is to be married.
So you know, just add the stranger element to it.
And you've got a recipe for both glory and disaster.
And they're both happening sometimes
within minutes of each other.
It's been really, really hard.
But it's been really rewarding too.
♪ ♪
- Bye.
♪ ♪
- ♪ Let time stand still ♪
- ♪ We're loving on higher ground ♪
♪ We're loving on higher ground ♪
♪ Never falls apart ♪
♪ Can you turn my heart away so, baby? ♪
- I wonder if I'll sleep better or worse without you.
- ♪ We're loving on higher ground ♪
- I'll see you later, girl.
- Oh, look at you coming in.
You miss me already? - No.
- See, you got your pouting face on.
- No, I don't. This is my adult face, baby.
- Yeah. I'll see you later.
- I feel hopeful, yet slightly indecisive still.
You know, I don't want to hurt myself
by making the wrong decision.
And I don't want to hurt my husband by making
what could be seen as the right decision for me
but wrong for our marriage, so...
[dramatic music]
- ♪ I would never leave your heart hopeless ♪
♪ I wouldn't do that ♪
[soft music]
♪ ♪
- [chuckles] Bye.
- Say bye! - See you tomorrow.
♪ ♪
- Nate is not here.
I have the bed to myself all alone.
I am feeling confused.
I'm feeling not as optimistic as I was.
The last week has been very volatile.
- I think the last week and a half out of this eight weeks
have been the hardest for me because I've just
been feeling a lot of anxiety.
It's just been a lot.
I can't control what she's gonna decide.
You know, I respect her as a person.
And I just want her to trust her gut feeling.
- Me and Mitch have talked about the last eight weeks.
I just think that he's just so unsure,
so that's why I think I'm feeling nervous.
- I'm feeling mostly at peace with my decision
but also anxious.
It's always hard to tell.
You know, is it that I'm closed off to love?
Is it, I'm so afraid that I have
so many walls up that I just can't really see it
with the people I'm with?
I've always struggled with that, you know,
whether the problem is me
or just hadn't found the right girl.
- This is one of the biggest decisions of my life,
to stay married or to not stay married.
You know, like, that's big. That's huge.
It's a lot of pressure. It's a lot of fears.
It's a lot of what ifs.
It's a lot of possibilities
that this may not work out in the future.
And we'll just both be wasting more time.
- Overall, my marriage has been really good.
There's been ups and downs. It's been challenging.
I'm not exactly where I want to be in my marriage.
We're still getting to know each other.
I've only known her for eight weeks,
so I'm just ready to get [bleep] over with,
if I'm being honest.
- I feel like Miguel is--
I think he's thinking--like,
I think he's on the same page as I am.
But it's just so hard to know.
- Despite, like, how great everything was with Lindy,
I think we still had some challenging moments.
And it's been tough. I'm not gonna lie.
It takes, you know, two to obviously make this work.
And if she feels a certain way, if she feels like
it's not working for her,
then good for her for speaking up.
You know, let the cards fall where
they may because at this point, there's nothing else I can do.
- ♪ Picking up ♪
♪ The broken pieces ♪
♪ I need something ♪
♪ To believe in ♪
♪ When the feeling starts to creep in ♪
♪ Picking up ♪
♪ The broken pieces ♪
♪ I need something ♪
♪ To believe in ♪
- Eight weeks is up.
- Next time on "Married at First Sight,"
our couples will have to make the biggest decision
of their lives, to stay married
or get a divorce.
- This is not how I thought I'd be feeling on Decision Day.
- Wish me luck.
- We have a lot of things going.
I want to do that justice.
- He's had controlling demeanors.
- Express yourself.
- Demons, so to speak.
- I feel like I'm losing myself.
- Anger, rejection, mommy issues.
- I do love you.
- I'm constantly asking myself, am I safe or unsafe?
- Like, why are we fighting again?
- I've seen enough,
enough isolation, enough chaos.
- I feel like we were meant to be together.
- Like, I feel your energy.
- I feel like I definitely gave everything I could.
- I don't understand, Pepper. I don't.
[dramatic music]
- ♪ Kill the lights, and come inside ♪
♪ Feel the dark as we come alive ♪
- The time has come.
- Do you want to stay married?
- ♪ We are kings, and we are queens ♪
- Or do you want to get a divorce?
- ♪ Ooh ♪
♪ ♪