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{\an1}- There we go.
That's what I'm talking about.
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{\an1}- Seven weeks ago,
ten fearless singles
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{\an1}took a daring leap of faith
in order to find love.
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{\an1}They married
as complete strangers.
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{\an1}[cheering]
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{\an1}And with Decision Day
approaching fast,
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{\an1}our couples are going
to have to decide
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{\an1}whether they want to stay
married or get a divorce.
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{\an1}[dramatic music]
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{\an1}Last time, our four couples
went deeper into the reality
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{\an1}of everyday life in hopes
their choice would become
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{\an1}clearer before Decision Day.
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{\an1}- I'm not 100%.
I'm 90%.
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{\an1}And he's just like,
"I don't know now."
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{\an1}Well, if you're undecided,
then I'm undecided too.
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{\an1}- Isn't 90% good
enough for you?
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{\an1}- 90% ain't good enough.
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{\an1}- If things were to get bad
and, let's say,
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{\an1}we decide to get separated,
we decide to end it,
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{\an1}where do I go?
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{\an1}I'll be homeless.
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{\an1}- I would love it
if you would say something
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{\an1}along the lines of,
"You are an incredible woman.
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{\an1}I can't imagine my life
without you."
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{\an1}- So you want him to say that?
- I do want him to say that.
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{\an1}- What if he don't
mean that [bleep]?
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{\an1}- Then don't say it.
And I'm outie.
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{\an1}♪ ♪
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{\an1}[both screaming]
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{\an1}- And tonight...
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{\an1}- I love this place.
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{\an1}- Our couples will have
the chance to talk
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{\an1}to those closest to them
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{\an1}before making the biggest
decision of their lives.
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{\an1}- When I am with him,
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{\an1}time kind of doesn't exist
in a good way.
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{\an1}He's really great to live with.
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{\an1}- So I just lose him
completely.
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{\an1}And then
there's nothing I can say
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{\an1}or do to bring him back to me.
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{\an1}- I'm just coming
to terms with,
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{\an1}there's a chance
you can say yes,
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{\an1}there's a chance
you can say no.
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{\an1}- I don't want to prove myself.
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{\an1}I don't want to prove--like,
I'm tired of proving myself.
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{\an1}I'm getting to the point where
I just don't care no more.
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{\an1}- Let the cards fall where
they may because at this point,
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{\an1}there's nothing else
that I can do.
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{\an1}- I'm afraid to lose you,
for sure.
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{\an1}And I don't want to lose you.
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{\an1}- I feel like you don't
have the burning desire.
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{\an1}I feel like we're going
through the motions.
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{\an1}- Do you think I'm going
through the motions
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{\an1}when I have a [bleep] tattoo
on my hand?
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{\an1}♪ ♪
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{\an1}I'm done.
I'm done.
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{\an1}I don't want to [bleep] talk
about that [bleep] no more.
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{\an1}♪ ♪
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{\an1}- ♪ It's all or nothing ♪
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{\an1}- This is
"Married at First Sight."
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{\an1}- ♪ There's no other way ♪
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{\an1}♪ It's all or nothing ♪
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{\an1}- ♪ Loving you
like you're mine ♪
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{\an1}♪ Giving you
everything I got ♪
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{\an1}♪ Walking into your life,
walking into your paradise ♪
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{\an1}♪ Yeah, darling,
tell me if you're in or out ♪
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{\an1}- Oh, you know,
this close to Decision Day,
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{\an1}I just need
a little niece time.
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{\an1}Hey, kiddos.
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{\an1}- Hi.
- [laughs]
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{\an1}Do you think I should say yes
or no on Decision Day?
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{\an1}What do you think, Emi?
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{\an1}[laughter]
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{\an1}- Decision Day is less
than a week away.
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{\an1}And it's time for our couples
to really determine
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{\an1}whether they can spend their
lives together with a spouse
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{\an1}they met only seven weeks ago.
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{\an1}[upbeat music]
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{\an1}- [laughing]
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{\an1}Ew, he don't want
to eat your--ew!
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{\an1}He don't want to eat from you.
Are you a bird?
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{\an1}Baby, don't give my dog that.
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{\an1}- I'm just--I don't know.
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{\an1}I just don't know
if I can even have
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{\an1}conversations with my husband
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{\an1}without triggering
his insecurities.
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{\an1}And that's what
I guess my concerns are.
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{\an1}And that's really
what I'm considering
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{\an1}going into Decision Day.
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{\an1}- They are legally bound
in a real marriage.
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{\an1}And the only options are to
stay married or get a divorce.
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{\an1}♪ ♪
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{\an1}- Hey, babe.
- What's up?
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{\an1}- What you doing,
mixing some stuff?
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{\an1}- I'm mixing
a little face mask.
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{\an1}You want some?
It'd be fun.
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{\an1}You'll feel very moisturized.
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{\an1}- Put it on me, girl.
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{\an1}I await your face mask.
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{\an1}- Me and Mitch are
in a really good place.
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{\an1}And we've come a long way.
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{\an1}But Decision Day
is coming up quick.
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{\an1}And I'm confused.
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{\an1}And I don't know.
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{\an1}I don't even know what to do.
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{\an1}All right, first,
we must clean the area.
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{\an1}- Are you gonna
clean my wrinkle?
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{\an1}Is this the same--
- [laughing]
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{\an1}- Is this the same thing you
use to clean the wrinkle?
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{\an1}- Does that kind of feel good?
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{\an1}- Mm-hmm.
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{\an1}- Oh, wait, a little wrinkle,
just like Luna's.
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{\an1}- Clean my wrinkle.
- I got it.
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{\an1}All right, let's get in here.
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{\an1}So we're just going to apply.
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{\an1}Okay, you look so beautiful.
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{\an1}You are just in a rain bath
in the Amazon.
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{\an1}A lot of people just
ignore this area over here.
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{\an1}- No, that's the area
that gets crow's feet.
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{\an1}- What's really nice, I have
a lot of area to play with
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{\an1}up here, which I like.
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{\an1}- The head?
- I love it.
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{\an1}- This is just
way too much fun.
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{\an1}Why don't we
do this all the time?
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{\an1}- Can I open my eyes?
Or do I have keep them closed?
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{\an1}- Yeah, you can open them.
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{\an1}[laughter]
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{\an1}- Maybe close them.
I'm just kidding.
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{\an1}- [laughing]
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{\an1}- Let me just wash
my hands really quick.
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{\an1}- Thanks for my mask.
- ♪ You're welcome ♪
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{\an1}- I'm gonna mask you?
- Yeah.
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{\an1}- Sick.
It's not gonna fall off, right?
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{\an1}- [laughing]
- What?
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{\an1}Is this 'cause I don't
know how masks are?
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{\an1}- It's not gonna fall off.
- I don't know.
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{\an1}You got to lay back, though.
- Okay.
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{\an1}- You need to relax.
You need to learn how to relax.
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{\an1}- [laughing]
You know I can't do that.
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{\an1}All right?
- Perfect.
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{\an1}- This is good?
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{\an1}- I'm gonna put extra
attention to these areas
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{\an1}around your eyes
because I know you want
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{\an1}to keep your eyes
nice and firm.
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{\an1}Your face is so little.
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{\an1}I think we're done.
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{\an1}I think
we're looking pretty good.
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{\an1}- Yeah?
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{\an1}- I mean, we can do just do
a little more just to be--
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{\an1}- [laughing]
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{\an1}- As spouses, we are picking up
each other's habits
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{\an1}and kind of becoming
each other a little bit.
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{\an1}♪ ♪
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{\an1}[laughing] I'd get closer.
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{\an1}But I don't want
to risk staining anything.
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{\an1}And I'm all for it.
I love it.
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{\an1}- It would be weird
if we were--
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{\an1}had, like, sexy time
with this mask on, right?
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{\an1}- Mm.
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{\an1}- Okay, I'm saying
I think it would be weird.
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{\an1}You know what the word
bawdy means with a W?
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{\an1}Bawdy?
- I do not know.
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{\an1}- I didn't either.
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{\an1}I had to look it up.
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{\an1}Bawdy means that you're
humorous about sex.
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{\an1}- And that is
Mitch Silverstein,
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{\an1}ladies and gentlemen.
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{\an1}[laughter]
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{\an1}- I really have a lot
of fondness towards her,
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{\an1}a lot of affection.
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{\an1}I just do have doubt still
whether we
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{\an1}are necessarily the right match
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{\an1}for a lifetime of marriage.
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{\an1}- Get under the covers,
big boy?
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{\an1}[laughing]
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{\an1}- As long as
you keep calling me big boy.
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{\an1}- ♪ Life is a hard ride, yes ♪
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{\an1}♪ But that's okay ♪
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{\an1}♪ I'm living like
there's no tomorrow ♪
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{\an1}- Hey, Mommy.
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{\an1}- Hi.
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{\an1}- With Decision Day looming,
it's time for our couples
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{\an1}to meet with their loved ones.
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{\an1}Talking
with friends and family
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{\an1}who have
their best interests at heart
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{\an1}can help put things
into perspective
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{\an1}before they have to make
the fateful decision
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{\an1}whether they want to stay
married or get a divorce.
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{\an1}♪ ♪
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{\an1}- Hello.
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{\an1}- Hi, babe.
- Hello, hello, hello.
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{\an1}- Can you hear me?
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{\an1}- Yeah, I can hear you.
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{\an1}Hey, the gang is here.
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{\an1}- Hey.
[laughs]
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{\an1}- How's married life?
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{\an1}- Um, it's difficult.
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{\an1}- Like what?
What's been difficult?
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{\an1}- Well, we did have
a disagreement as far as, like,
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{\an1}he's very, like,
scared to live with me
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{\an1}and not have a place to go.
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{\an1}- Right,
because if that doesn't work,
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{\an1}then he's kind of--
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{\an1}- SOL, yeah.
- Mm-hmm.
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{\an1}- But it's like,
why are we thinking about this?
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{\an1}- Yeah.
- Like, it hasn't happened.
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{\an1}- Right.
Boy, it's not gonna happen.
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{\an1}I think he wants...
- And it's not going to happen.
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{\an1}- That reassurance
that it's not going to happen.
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{\an1}- But I tell him
it's not going to happen.
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{\an1}- Yeah.
- He's like, "How do you know?"
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{\an1}- One of the hard things
that I'm kind of going through
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{\an1}right now is, like, moving.
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{\an1}It's kind of messing with me
a little bit because I feel
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{\an1}like I'm losing my identity,
so I feel kind of vulnerable
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{\an1}because, let's say,
knock on wood,
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{\an1}if it doesn't work out,
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{\an1}now I don't even have a place
to stay, you know?
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{\an1}So it's--kind of
makes me a little nervous.
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{\an1}- What do you think?
You think you can work it out?
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{\an1}- I'm asking you.
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{\an1}You're the one
that's been married.
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{\an1}- Okay, I've been married,
but you know...
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{\an1}- [laughs]
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{\an1}- There's always compromises.
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{\an1}And also, there's always
some nervous tension
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{\an1}in the beginning, but...
228
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{\an1}- Yeah.
229
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{\an1}- You got to expect that.
230
00:09:09,708 --> 00:09:12,458
{\an1}Everything is not gonna
go perfectly your way.
231
00:09:12,583 --> 00:09:15,250
{\an1}- Right.
232
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{\an1}- I'm rooting for you.
233
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{\an1}I'm always rooting for you.
You know that.
234
00:09:18,833 --> 00:09:22,042
{\an1}But my rooting stems
from you being happy overall.
235
00:09:22,208 --> 00:09:24,792
{\an1}Do you think that he's,
like, the right man for you?
236
00:09:24,917 --> 00:09:25,917
{\an1}Everybody has great qualities,
237
00:09:26,042 --> 00:09:28,000
{\an1}but is he the right man
for you?
238
00:09:28,167 --> 00:09:30,958
{\an1}- I think, like, he does have
those things that I want.
239
00:09:31,042 --> 00:09:35,042
{\an1}You know, we're very similar
in just our mannerisms,
240
00:09:35,208 --> 00:09:36,667
{\an1}things that we like.
241
00:09:36,833 --> 00:09:39,208
{\an1}So I feel like
I understand him a lot.
242
00:09:39,375 --> 00:09:40,875
{\an1}I do believe that, like, I am
243
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{\an1}in a different place
emotionally.
244
00:09:42,458 --> 00:09:43,458
{\an1}- Mm-hmm.
245
00:09:43,583 --> 00:09:45,583
{\an1}- I think
that he is a little bit--
246
00:09:45,708 --> 00:09:47,417
{\an1}I don't want to say behind me
or anything like that.
247
00:09:47,542 --> 00:09:49,167
{\an1}But I just think
he lacks the experience.
248
00:09:49,333 --> 00:09:50,583
{\an1}- Mm-hmm.
249
00:09:50,708 --> 00:09:52,667
{\an1}- So do you have, like,
250
00:09:52,792 --> 00:09:56,417
{\an1}any cons that you can think of
in the relationship?
251
00:09:56,542 --> 00:10:00,625
{\an1}- So here's the big one.
252
00:10:00,750 --> 00:10:03,875
{\an1}So she's 37.
And she wants kids.
253
00:10:04,000 --> 00:10:06,250
{\an1}You know, that's,
like, very top of mind.
254
00:10:06,375 --> 00:10:09,292
{\an1}And I'm like...
255
00:10:09,417 --> 00:10:11,042
{\an1}- You don't want kids?
256
00:10:11,167 --> 00:10:12,375
{\an1}- No, I do want kids.
257
00:10:12,500 --> 00:10:14,333
{\an1}But like,
I want to be able to provide.
258
00:10:14,500 --> 00:10:15,917
{\an1}I want to make sure
everything's good.
259
00:10:16,042 --> 00:10:17,875
{\an1}And then she's like,
"Well, let's have fun."
260
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{\an1}I'm like, that's not possible
with a two-year-old, you know.
261
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{\an1}But...
262
00:10:21,542 --> 00:10:22,333
{\an1}- It's possible.
263
00:10:22,500 --> 00:10:23,875
{\an1}- Okay.
264
00:10:24,042 --> 00:10:25,917
{\an1}- You know,
as a dedicated father
265
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{\an1}or whatever,
you do what you got to do
266
00:10:28,417 --> 00:10:30,292
{\an1}to take care of kids, so...
267
00:10:30,375 --> 00:10:32,833
{\an1}- Yeah, I appreciate you.
268
00:10:32,958 --> 00:10:34,792
{\an1}You know, it's a scary thing.
269
00:10:34,917 --> 00:10:35,708
{\an1}It's something
that I've never done before.
270
00:10:35,875 --> 00:10:38,000
{\an1}I've never been a father.
271
00:10:38,083 --> 00:10:42,125
{\an1}- I mean, if you guys
are truly in love, it'll work.
272
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{\an1}♪ ♪
273
00:10:45,042 --> 00:10:47,708
{\an1}- He hasn't been in love.
- Mm-hmm.
274
00:10:47,875 --> 00:10:50,125
{\an1}- And those are things
that concern me.
275
00:10:50,250 --> 00:10:52,000
{\an1}- But he was living with
a previous girlfriend, correct?
276
00:10:52,167 --> 00:10:54,625
{\an1}- Mm-hmm.
- And they weren't in love?
277
00:10:54,750 --> 00:10:56,000
{\an1}- I think she was,
but he wasn't.
278
00:10:56,125 --> 00:10:57,583
{\an1}- Hm.
279
00:10:57,708 --> 00:10:58,875
{\an1}- So he was kind of just going
through the motions
280
00:10:59,000 --> 00:11:00,375
{\an1}because he knew,
like, that wasn't
281
00:11:00,500 --> 00:11:02,208
{\an1}the relationship for him.
282
00:11:02,333 --> 00:11:05,333
{\an1}But you know,
it's scary because it's like...
283
00:11:05,458 --> 00:11:07,083
{\an1}- Mm.
284
00:11:07,208 --> 00:11:08,708
{\an1}- Will we be in a relationship
for two years,
285
00:11:08,833 --> 00:11:10,583
{\an1}three years,
and go through the motions,
286
00:11:10,708 --> 00:11:12,250
{\an1}and you not love me too?
287
00:11:12,375 --> 00:11:17,042
{\an1}[tense music]
288
00:11:17,208 --> 00:11:19,458
{\an1}- So what are you gonna say
on Decision Day?
289
00:11:19,583 --> 00:11:21,333
{\an1}- Uh...
290
00:11:21,500 --> 00:11:22,667
{\an1}- You're not
getting any younger.
291
00:11:22,792 --> 00:11:23,958
{\an1}It's time to...
- [chuckles]
292
00:11:24,042 --> 00:11:25,458
{\an1}- Settle down.
- I know.
293
00:11:25,583 --> 00:11:27,292
{\an1}I know, I know.
294
00:11:27,417 --> 00:11:30,583
{\an1}I just don't want to feel
pressured to doing something
295
00:11:30,708 --> 00:11:32,542
{\an1}because, like,
at the end of the day, like,
296
00:11:32,667 --> 00:11:34,417
{\an1}I have to be mentally ready.
297
00:11:34,542 --> 00:11:36,583
{\an1}You know, it's just scary.
298
00:11:36,708 --> 00:11:40,417
{\an1}♪ ♪
299
00:11:40,542 --> 00:11:43,875
{\an1}- ♪ Ooh,
is this the real thing? ♪
300
00:11:44,000 --> 00:11:46,667
{\an1}♪ Baby, you and I ♪
301
00:11:46,792 --> 00:11:51,208
{\an1}♪ Na, na, you and I ♪
302
00:11:51,333 --> 00:11:52,958
{\an1}- Hi, Candice.
303
00:11:53,083 --> 00:11:54,500
{\an1}- Hi.
304
00:11:54,625 --> 00:11:56,750
{\an1}- How are you doing?
305
00:11:56,875 --> 00:11:58,250
{\an1}- Good, you're probably
gonna hear crying
306
00:11:58,375 --> 00:11:59,917
{\an1}in the background because...
307
00:12:00,042 --> 00:12:01,417
{\an1}[chuckles]
308
00:12:01,542 --> 00:12:03,042
{\an1}Both of them are awake,
309
00:12:03,167 --> 00:12:04,917
{\an1}and Michael's gonna have
to handle it on his own, so...
310
00:12:05,042 --> 00:12:07,625
{\an1}- So I'm calling you because
I have a lot to talk about.
311
00:12:07,750 --> 00:12:09,167
{\an1}- Yeah, I want to talk
to you, of course.
312
00:12:09,250 --> 00:12:11,500
{\an1}- Okay, basically,
like, this past, like,
313
00:12:11,583 --> 00:12:14,792
{\an1}week and a half has just been,
like, missed connection
314
00:12:14,917 --> 00:12:16,792
{\an1}over miscommunication, over--
315
00:12:16,875 --> 00:12:18,417
{\an1}just over and over again.
316
00:12:18,542 --> 00:12:21,000
{\an1}So it's been pretty daunting.
317
00:12:21,083 --> 00:12:23,167
{\an1}- I mean, that makes sense.
318
00:12:23,292 --> 00:12:27,792
{\an1}[chuckling]
Um, what are you doing?
319
00:12:27,917 --> 00:12:30,000
{\an1}Sorry, distracted.
320
00:12:30,167 --> 00:12:31,833
{\an1}- Oh, yeah, don't do this
in front of Miguel.
321
00:12:32,000 --> 00:12:33,250
{\an1}No, I'm just kidding.
[chuckling]
322
00:12:33,375 --> 00:12:34,750
{\an1}- What do you mean?
323
00:12:34,875 --> 00:12:36,000
{\an1}- Well,
because he gets mad at me
324
00:12:36,083 --> 00:12:38,167
{\an1}when I get distracted
when we're talking.
325
00:12:38,292 --> 00:12:40,333
{\an1}- Good thing
I was tethered to my chair
326
00:12:40,458 --> 00:12:42,167
{\an1}because that was the moment
I became aware it's better--
327
00:12:42,292 --> 00:12:43,792
{\an1}- Did you see the little bunny?
- Yeah, I did.
328
00:12:43,875 --> 00:12:45,333
{\an1}- It's better what?
- With a beat.
329
00:12:45,500 --> 00:12:47,000
{\an1}- Oh, look at that dog.
330
00:12:47,125 --> 00:12:49,792
{\an1}Oh, those horses are so pretty.
331
00:12:49,917 --> 00:12:52,875
{\an1}- Oh, yeah,
I also understand that one
332
00:12:53,000 --> 00:12:55,375
{\an1}because as a person who has,
like, a brain that's like,
333
00:12:55,500 --> 00:12:56,583
{\an1}what's that over there?
334
00:12:56,708 --> 00:12:58,083
{\an1}- Yeah, we're the same.
335
00:12:58,208 --> 00:13:00,042
{\an1}- What's that person
doing over there?
336
00:13:00,208 --> 00:13:02,667
{\an1}- I know, I'm the same.
That's literally what happened.
337
00:13:02,792 --> 00:13:04,333
{\an1}There was, like,
people taking pictures of us.
338
00:13:04,500 --> 00:13:06,167
{\an1}And I was like, oh, my gosh,
what are they doing?
339
00:13:06,250 --> 00:13:08,500
{\an1}And he was, like, in a serious
conversation with me,
340
00:13:08,625 --> 00:13:10,333
{\an1}and that was,
like, the last straw.
341
00:13:10,458 --> 00:13:11,542
{\an1}- So that was triggered.
342
00:13:11,708 --> 00:13:13,208
{\an1}And then it would cast, like--
343
00:13:13,333 --> 00:13:15,167
{\an1}- Oh, my God, these people
have their iPhones out.
344
00:13:15,292 --> 00:13:18,292
{\an1}[laughing]
I can't.
345
00:13:18,417 --> 00:13:20,375
{\an1}- [sighs]
346
00:13:20,542 --> 00:13:22,625
{\an1}- I guess we were kind of able
to get through that.
347
00:13:22,750 --> 00:13:25,667
{\an1}But the issue now is, like,
348
00:13:25,833 --> 00:13:28,708
{\an1}when I do something wrong
or I, like, offend him,
349
00:13:28,833 --> 00:13:30,333
{\an1}he stonewalls me
and kind of shuts down.
350
00:13:30,458 --> 00:13:32,042
{\an1}- Mm-hmm.
351
00:13:32,208 --> 00:13:34,833
{\an1}- And I don't really know
how to, like, navigate that.
352
00:13:35,000 --> 00:13:38,750
{\an1}- Yeah, is this kind of like
a new behavior from him?
353
00:13:38,875 --> 00:13:40,833
{\an1}- Um, yeah.
354
00:13:41,000 --> 00:13:42,250
{\an1}- It's so hurtful
because you feel like you
355
00:13:42,375 --> 00:13:44,500
{\an1}just being you
is making him react this way.
356
00:13:44,625 --> 00:13:46,083
{\an1}- Yes, exactly.
357
00:13:46,208 --> 00:13:48,792
{\an1}And he kind of has
been, like, tampering
358
00:13:48,875 --> 00:13:50,292
{\an1}that this whole time.
359
00:13:50,375 --> 00:13:51,708
{\an1}- I mean, I don't know.
360
00:13:51,875 --> 00:13:53,083
{\an1}I mean, that just
sounds really hard.
361
00:13:53,208 --> 00:13:55,000
{\an1}I don't have any advice
or anything.
362
00:13:55,125 --> 00:13:56,625
{\an1}It just sounds like
you guys are just
363
00:13:56,750 --> 00:13:58,250
{\an1}figuring out your dynamics.
364
00:13:58,375 --> 00:13:59,833
{\an1}It's finding
that middle ground
365
00:13:59,958 --> 00:14:02,625
{\an1}of not completely withdrawing.
366
00:14:02,750 --> 00:14:04,417
{\an1}- Yeah.
367
00:14:04,542 --> 00:14:06,750
{\an1}- And honestly, I think
it comes down to, like,
368
00:14:06,875 --> 00:14:09,083
{\an1}who needs the most care
at that time?
369
00:14:09,208 --> 00:14:10,167
{\an1}- Yes.
370
00:14:10,333 --> 00:14:12,042
{\an1}- It's making me
a little emotional
371
00:14:12,167 --> 00:14:13,708
{\an1}because, you know, we're
going through a lot over here.
372
00:14:13,833 --> 00:14:17,583
{\an1}And just knowing
when it's time to, like,
373
00:14:17,708 --> 00:14:21,125
{\an1}set aside your stuff fully
to care for that person
374
00:14:21,250 --> 00:14:23,083
{\an1}if they're the ones
that need it, you know?
375
00:14:23,208 --> 00:14:24,208
{\an1}- Yeah.
376
00:14:24,375 --> 00:14:26,000
{\an1}- So when you're
in a partnership,
377
00:14:26,167 --> 00:14:29,167
{\an1}you have to keep
the ship going, you know?
378
00:14:29,250 --> 00:14:32,042
{\an1}So if you want to keep it
sailing or whatever,
379
00:14:32,208 --> 00:14:35,417
{\an1}to use the metaphor,
you got to keep both people
380
00:14:35,542 --> 00:14:37,250
{\an1}strong on the boat, you know?
381
00:14:37,375 --> 00:14:39,667
{\an1}- Yeah, definitely.
382
00:14:39,792 --> 00:14:41,125
{\an1}- So I don't know.
383
00:14:41,250 --> 00:14:42,125
{\an1}I'm really rooting
for you guys.
384
00:14:42,208 --> 00:14:44,167
{\an1}And it sounds really intense.
385
00:14:44,333 --> 00:14:46,208
{\an1}But you guys are weighing,
like, the benefits
386
00:14:46,375 --> 00:14:47,917
{\an1}and the negatives.
387
00:14:48,042 --> 00:14:49,792
{\an1}And so I mean, you have
a big decision coming.
388
00:14:49,917 --> 00:14:51,250
{\an1}- Yeah.
389
00:14:51,375 --> 00:14:53,000
{\an1}It's just a matter
of fully comprehending,
390
00:14:53,167 --> 00:14:55,292
{\an1}like, what marriage means,
and will this end,
391
00:14:55,417 --> 00:14:57,292
{\an1}or is this just problem
after problem forever?
392
00:14:57,417 --> 00:14:59,167
{\an1}I don't know.
It's overwhelming.
393
00:14:59,292 --> 00:15:06,208
{\an1}- ♪ You're eating me alive ♪
394
00:15:06,333 --> 00:15:10,958
{\an1}[soft music]
395
00:15:11,083 --> 00:15:14,125
{\an1}[upbeat music]
396
00:15:14,208 --> 00:15:15,875
{\an1}♪ ♪
397
00:15:16,000 --> 00:15:19,167
{\an1}- I love this place.
- Me too.
398
00:15:19,292 --> 00:15:22,042
{\an1}So oh, my gosh,
a big week for you coming up.
399
00:15:22,208 --> 00:15:24,667
{\an1}- I'll take a sip first.
- Yeah.
400
00:15:24,792 --> 00:15:26,375
{\an1}How are you feeling?
401
00:15:26,542 --> 00:15:31,833
{\an1}- Actually, I'm feeling
really finally at peace.
402
00:15:31,917 --> 00:15:34,000
{\an1}- Okay.
- I feel calm.
403
00:15:34,083 --> 00:15:37,750
{\an1}I feel like I've gotten
everything off my chest.
404
00:15:37,875 --> 00:15:39,250
{\an1}- Good.
405
00:15:39,375 --> 00:15:40,833
{\an1}- And now
it's just kind of time
406
00:15:40,917 --> 00:15:44,500
{\an1}to decide
if we continue or not.
407
00:15:44,667 --> 00:15:46,125
{\an1}- Yeah, that's a big decision.
408
00:15:46,208 --> 00:15:48,292
{\an1}Where are you in that decision?
409
00:15:48,375 --> 00:15:49,667
{\an1}Have you come
to a decision yet?
410
00:15:49,750 --> 00:15:50,750
{\an1}Like, there's...
- Yeah.
411
00:15:50,875 --> 00:15:52,000
{\an1}- Just so much to unpack.
412
00:15:52,125 --> 00:15:53,667
{\an1}- Yeah, so I think
that's why it's
413
00:15:53,792 --> 00:15:54,750
{\an1}such a hard decision too...
414
00:15:54,875 --> 00:15:56,292
{\an1}- Yeah.
415
00:15:56,417 --> 00:15:58,625
{\an1}- Is because there
is a lot of good there.
416
00:15:58,708 --> 00:16:04,333
{\an1}I guess it's just specifically
Mitch has just had me craving
417
00:16:04,458 --> 00:16:09,542
{\an1}any sort of validation
because he was so open
418
00:16:09,708 --> 00:16:10,750
{\an1}about not being attracted.
419
00:16:10,875 --> 00:16:12,417
{\an1}- Yeah.
420
00:16:12,542 --> 00:16:15,875
{\an1}- And so I want him without me
writing it on a notepad,
421
00:16:16,000 --> 00:16:17,167
{\an1}screaming it from a mountain...
422
00:16:17,250 --> 00:16:21,500
{\an1}- Yeah.
- To ask me to say yes.
423
00:16:21,625 --> 00:16:23,000
{\an1}- Yeah.
424
00:16:23,083 --> 00:16:25,833
{\an1}- That's what I want,
a grand gesture.
425
00:16:25,958 --> 00:16:27,833
{\an1}- Yeah.
426
00:16:27,958 --> 00:16:30,000
{\an1}- I mean, I think it's just
like the grand gesture is just
427
00:16:30,167 --> 00:16:33,250
{\an1}not even this crazy,
romantic night,
428
00:16:33,375 --> 00:16:34,833
{\an1}even though
that would be great.
429
00:16:35,000 --> 00:16:36,708
{\an1}I think it's just
some verbals, like...
430
00:16:36,833 --> 00:16:38,250
{\an1}- Yeah.
431
00:16:38,375 --> 00:16:41,333
{\an1}- Here's all the things
that I love about you.
432
00:16:41,458 --> 00:16:44,417
{\an1}And I really,
really want you to continue
433
00:16:44,542 --> 00:16:46,958
{\an1}with me because I think
that there's something here.
434
00:16:47,083 --> 00:16:48,792
{\an1}- Yeah.
435
00:16:48,875 --> 00:16:54,708
{\an1}- So the marriage has not come
to what I thought it would be.
436
00:16:54,875 --> 00:16:58,250
{\an1}- And do you have the time
437
00:16:58,375 --> 00:17:01,500
{\an1}to give him
the opportunity to change?
438
00:17:01,583 --> 00:17:03,625
{\an1}Because essentially,
that's what you do want.
439
00:17:03,708 --> 00:17:05,166
{\an1}- Yeah.
440
00:17:05,291 --> 00:17:09,583
{\an1}- Because
what if you stay married,
441
00:17:09,708 --> 00:17:11,708
{\an1}and then it doesn't work out?
442
00:17:11,875 --> 00:17:13,791
{\an1}[tense music]
443
00:17:13,875 --> 00:17:16,500
{\an1}- My eggs will just have--
444
00:17:16,666 --> 00:17:18,833
{\an1}what is it, dehydrated,
and just fell out my butt.
445
00:17:18,958 --> 00:17:21,791
{\an1}- Geriatric--that's what--
[laughter]
446
00:17:21,875 --> 00:17:23,958
{\an1}I can't with you.
447
00:17:24,083 --> 00:17:26,083
{\an1}♪ ♪
448
00:17:26,208 --> 00:17:29,625
{\an1}- ♪ Every time we taking it,
taking it slow ♪
449
00:17:29,750 --> 00:17:32,083
{\an1}♪ Like we don't feel
the pressure ♪
450
00:17:32,208 --> 00:17:34,292
{\an1}♪ Take it in to let it go ♪
451
00:17:34,375 --> 00:17:37,083
{\an1}♪ Like we still have forever ♪
452
00:17:37,208 --> 00:17:39,000
{\an1}♪ Taking it, taking it slow ♪
453
00:17:39,125 --> 00:17:42,625
{\an1}- ♪ My, my, my ♪
454
00:17:42,708 --> 00:17:45,083
{\an1}[phone chimes]
455
00:17:45,208 --> 00:17:46,750
{\an1}- Hey, babe.
- Hey, good-looking.
456
00:17:46,875 --> 00:17:48,583
{\an1}How you doing?
- I'm good.
457
00:17:48,708 --> 00:17:50,083
{\an1}How are you?
458
00:17:50,208 --> 00:17:52,333
{\an1}- You know,
I gave Mya up this week.
459
00:17:52,458 --> 00:17:54,417
{\an1}- Yeah, how you
feeling about that?
460
00:17:54,542 --> 00:17:59,000
{\an1}- When I gave my Mya away,
I was under the impression
461
00:17:59,083 --> 00:18:01,500
{\an1}that it was an automatic yes
on her end,
462
00:18:01,583 --> 00:18:03,458
{\an1}and we were gonna just
keep working on our marriage.
463
00:18:03,542 --> 00:18:06,125
{\an1}- You sound like you're
nervous that she's gonna
464
00:18:06,208 --> 00:18:07,500
{\an1}say no on Decision Day.
465
00:18:07,625 --> 00:18:09,583
{\an1}- Yes, I'm nervous she gonna
say no
466
00:18:09,708 --> 00:18:10,875
{\an1}on Decision Day because...
467
00:18:11,042 --> 00:18:12,375
{\an1}- [laughing]
468
00:18:12,542 --> 00:18:15,500
{\an1}- I mean, if you're gonna
say no, just tell me.
469
00:18:15,625 --> 00:18:18,750
{\an1}And that way, I don't make
all these big plans for my dog
470
00:18:18,875 --> 00:18:20,333
{\an1}and this, that, and the other.
471
00:18:20,417 --> 00:18:22,042
{\an1}- You can walk out
in the street
472
00:18:22,167 --> 00:18:23,875
{\an1}and get hit by a car.
473
00:18:24,042 --> 00:18:27,000
{\an1}And you can plan to go across
the street and get a coffee.
474
00:18:27,125 --> 00:18:28,417
{\an1}You can't do that.
475
00:18:28,542 --> 00:18:29,750
{\an1}- I don't know.
476
00:18:29,875 --> 00:18:31,250
{\an1}I just--I always get
in my head.
477
00:18:31,375 --> 00:18:33,000
{\an1}And sometimes,
I can't recognize
478
00:18:33,167 --> 00:18:34,958
{\an1}when I am in my head.
479
00:18:35,042 --> 00:18:37,250
{\an1}[soft music]
480
00:18:37,375 --> 00:18:39,958
{\an1}- Hey, Mommy.
- Hi.
481
00:18:40,042 --> 00:18:43,333
{\an1}- Well, you know,
Decision Day's coming up.
482
00:18:43,417 --> 00:18:45,125
{\an1}- Okay.
483
00:18:45,208 --> 00:18:47,667
{\an1}Are you leaning towards that,
okay, yes,
484
00:18:47,833 --> 00:18:50,125
{\an1}he's gonna be the man
that I'm looking for?
485
00:18:50,250 --> 00:18:52,667
{\an1}Or six months down the lane,
486
00:18:52,750 --> 00:18:55,208
{\an1}he's still not
gonna be the man I want?
487
00:18:55,333 --> 00:18:56,750
{\an1}- He does have
these great qualities.
488
00:18:56,875 --> 00:18:58,792
{\an1}And I'm split, for sure.
489
00:18:58,875 --> 00:19:00,250
{\an1}- Well, I'm sure you are.
490
00:19:00,375 --> 00:19:03,333
{\an1}You know,
because of the time that you
491
00:19:03,458 --> 00:19:06,708
{\an1}have to make this decision,
I would be unsure too.
492
00:19:06,875 --> 00:19:08,000
{\an1}You know what I mean?
493
00:19:08,125 --> 00:19:10,000
{\an1}- He's in his head so much.
494
00:19:10,167 --> 00:19:12,375
{\an1}And he doesn't invite me
into these scenarios,
495
00:19:12,500 --> 00:19:15,750
{\an1}which is my problem
because I can't comfort
496
00:19:15,875 --> 00:19:17,708
{\an1}his overthinking
if I don't know
497
00:19:17,875 --> 00:19:19,458
{\an1}what your thoughts are about.
498
00:19:19,542 --> 00:19:21,625
{\an1}So that's, like, the challenge
that I'm having with Justin.
499
00:19:21,750 --> 00:19:23,958
{\an1}And it's been like that
for some time now.
500
00:19:24,083 --> 00:19:26,167
{\an1}- Do you want to say no?
501
00:19:26,292 --> 00:19:28,375
{\an1}- You know, two days ago,
I was adamant.
502
00:19:28,500 --> 00:19:29,750
{\an1}I was just like, yeah, it's no.
503
00:19:29,875 --> 00:19:33,708
{\an1}But I think what I need is,
I need to feel
504
00:19:33,833 --> 00:19:35,667
{\an1}desired by my woman too.
505
00:19:35,792 --> 00:19:39,167
{\an1}On an intimate level,
it's more about her pleasure.
506
00:19:39,250 --> 00:19:41,917
{\an1}You know,
she only wants to be dominated.
507
00:19:42,042 --> 00:19:45,542
{\an1}But I'm a lot more reserved
than my wife, you know?
508
00:19:45,667 --> 00:19:49,583
{\an1}And so maybe I won't be able
to really please her.
509
00:19:49,708 --> 00:19:53,458
{\an1}- If you care about her
and you want to try,
510
00:19:53,583 --> 00:19:57,167
{\an1}I mean,
511
00:19:57,250 --> 00:20:00,167
{\an1}you got to get freaky.
512
00:20:00,292 --> 00:20:03,292
{\an1}[laughing]
513
00:20:04,417 --> 00:20:08,292
{\an1}- Okay, no, I'm freaky.
514
00:20:08,375 --> 00:20:11,833
{\an1}Um, well, made me lose
my train of thought.
515
00:20:11,917 --> 00:20:13,333
{\an1}- [laughing]
516
00:20:13,458 --> 00:20:17,250
{\an1}- Good Lord, woman.
517
00:20:17,375 --> 00:20:23,500
{\an1}- If she doesn't want
to be with you because of that
518
00:20:23,667 --> 00:20:28,167
{\an1}and other things,
well, hey, maybe she ain't
519
00:20:28,250 --> 00:20:30,375
{\an1}the one for you, you know?
520
00:20:30,500 --> 00:20:32,667
{\an1}- Like, all these things
that we haven't figured out yet
521
00:20:32,750 --> 00:20:35,667
{\an1}will just be more pressures
once we don't have
522
00:20:35,792 --> 00:20:39,292
{\an1}the safety bubble
of the experiment, you know?
523
00:20:39,375 --> 00:20:41,250
{\an1}So for me, it's just like,
we're struggling this much,
524
00:20:41,375 --> 00:20:42,792
{\an1}and we got training wheels.
525
00:20:42,875 --> 00:20:45,792
{\an1}When them training wheels
come off, then what?
526
00:20:45,917 --> 00:20:47,792
{\an1}[tense music]
527
00:20:47,875 --> 00:20:49,458
{\an1}- I don't want you to stay
528
00:20:49,542 --> 00:20:51,500
{\an1}because you know
you're a runner.
529
00:20:51,583 --> 00:20:53,208
{\an1}I want you to know
what you want
530
00:20:53,333 --> 00:20:56,958
{\an1}because marriage is special.
531
00:20:57,042 --> 00:21:01,792
{\an1}You have to look deep
into your heart and see,
532
00:21:01,917 --> 00:21:03,417
{\an1}is he for you?
533
00:21:03,542 --> 00:21:05,250
{\an1}- I have a lot to think about.
534
00:21:05,375 --> 00:21:07,250
{\an1}- Yeah, you do.
535
00:21:07,375 --> 00:21:10,083
{\an1}[dramatic music]
536
00:21:10,208 --> 00:21:17,042
{\an1}♪ ♪
537
00:21:17,208 --> 00:21:19,167
{\an1}- ♪ Say yeah ♪
538
00:21:19,292 --> 00:21:21,333
{\an1}♪ I'm hot, hot,
hot, hot, hot gossip ♪
539
00:21:21,458 --> 00:21:23,833
{\an1}♪ Say yeah ♪
540
00:21:23,958 --> 00:21:26,333
{\an1}♪ I'm hot, hot,
hot, hot, hot gossip ♪
541
00:21:26,500 --> 00:21:28,583
{\an1}- Let's grab a seat, bro.
- All right.
542
00:21:28,708 --> 00:21:30,292
{\an1}- All right, bro,
well, this conversation's
543
00:21:30,375 --> 00:21:31,917
{\an1}gonna be interesting.
544
00:21:32,042 --> 00:21:32,667
{\an1}- Are you
on the fence right now?
545
00:21:32,792 --> 00:21:34,292
{\an1}- Yeah.
546
00:21:34,417 --> 00:21:36,667
{\an1}- I'll give you
a little context.
547
00:21:36,792 --> 00:21:39,958
{\an1}Last weekend, we did a couples
retreat in Fallbrook.
548
00:21:40,042 --> 00:21:42,167
{\an1}And it was really fun.
549
00:21:42,250 --> 00:21:43,833
{\an1}- Yeah.
- Damn, girl.
550
00:21:44,000 --> 00:21:44,958
{\an1}- The queen...
- Queen.
551
00:21:45,083 --> 00:21:46,625
{\an1}- Has arrived.
552
00:21:46,750 --> 00:21:49,417
{\an1}Have you seen me
on the dance floor?
553
00:21:49,542 --> 00:21:53,583
{\an1}- ♪ Oh, you got that look
you're freaking out ♪
554
00:21:53,708 --> 00:21:57,125
{\an1}♪ The world is watching,
son, you got to cool down ♪
555
00:21:57,208 --> 00:22:00,875
{\an1}- You know, they say imitation
is the best form of flattery.
556
00:22:01,000 --> 00:22:02,833
{\an1}- Oh, my God.
557
00:22:03,000 --> 00:22:04,667
{\an1}I can't right now.
558
00:22:04,750 --> 00:22:06,417
{\an1}- That's my girl right there.
559
00:22:06,542 --> 00:22:08,167
{\an1}It seems like she's finally,
560
00:22:08,250 --> 00:22:09,833
{\an1}like, just comfortable
with being herself.
561
00:22:10,000 --> 00:22:11,750
{\an1}- Mm-hmm.
562
00:22:11,875 --> 00:22:13,000
{\an1}- And the real her is, like,
my favorite version of her.
563
00:22:13,167 --> 00:22:14,500
{\an1}- Mm-hmm.
- Like, she's funny.
564
00:22:14,625 --> 00:22:16,333
{\an1}She's goofy.
She's cool.
565
00:22:16,417 --> 00:22:17,625
{\an1}You know what I mean?
- Yeah, yeah.
566
00:22:17,750 --> 00:22:19,167
{\an1}- That all came out
over the weekend, like,
567
00:22:19,292 --> 00:22:20,833
{\an1}really for the first time.
568
00:22:20,917 --> 00:22:23,458
{\an1}And then basically that night,
had to drive
569
00:22:23,542 --> 00:22:25,958
{\an1}up to San Clemente
for my all staff meeting.
570
00:22:26,042 --> 00:22:28,458
{\an1}So I kind of left
on a pretty positive note,
571
00:22:28,542 --> 00:22:30,250
{\an1}like, hey, like,
this is going pretty well.
572
00:22:30,375 --> 00:22:31,708
{\an1}You know what I mean?
- Mm-hmm.
573
00:22:31,833 --> 00:22:33,167
{\an1}- But then I'm away from her,
and it's, like,
574
00:22:33,333 --> 00:22:34,833
{\an1}totally back into my old life.
575
00:22:34,917 --> 00:22:36,375
{\an1}- Okay.
576
00:22:36,500 --> 00:22:37,792
{\an1}- It was just weird for me
because it's like this--
577
00:22:37,875 --> 00:22:39,292
{\an1}like, I have these two
completely separate lives.
578
00:22:39,375 --> 00:22:40,625
{\an1}- Yeah, when you go
back to that life,
579
00:22:40,708 --> 00:22:42,000
{\an1}you just feel like you're
back to being a single,
580
00:22:42,125 --> 00:22:42,958
{\an1}like, your old life.
581
00:22:43,042 --> 00:22:44,292
{\an1}- Yeah.
582
00:22:44,375 --> 00:22:45,833
{\an1}I have a really hard
time understanding
583
00:22:46,000 --> 00:22:47,333
{\an1}what it would be like
to be married to Krysten...
584
00:22:47,458 --> 00:22:48,958
{\an1}- Just in a normal situa--
585
00:22:49,042 --> 00:22:51,583
{\an1}- In my normal day-to-day life.
You know what I mean?
586
00:22:51,708 --> 00:22:53,417
{\an1}Because this is not my normal
day-to day life at all.
587
00:22:53,542 --> 00:22:55,333
{\an1}You know,
this whole eight weeks,
588
00:22:55,417 --> 00:22:57,000
{\an1}I've surfed
probably three or four times.
589
00:22:57,083 --> 00:22:58,667
{\an1}- Yeah.
590
00:22:58,750 --> 00:23:00,292
{\an1}- I've ridden my bike
literally, like, twice.
591
00:23:00,417 --> 00:23:04,708
{\an1}- Yeah, so you might
associate being with Krysten,
592
00:23:04,875 --> 00:23:06,500
{\an1}being married to Krysten
with like, you know,
593
00:23:06,583 --> 00:23:08,000
{\an1}you're less happy, right?
594
00:23:08,125 --> 00:23:09,208
{\an1}Because you don't have
all the things you're used to.
595
00:23:09,333 --> 00:23:10,833
{\an1}- Yeah.
596
00:23:10,958 --> 00:23:12,042
{\an1}- The surfing, like,
helps keep you balanced,
597
00:23:12,167 --> 00:23:13,167
{\an1}keep you sane, right?
598
00:23:13,292 --> 00:23:14,500
{\an1}- Keeps my mind healthy.
599
00:23:14,667 --> 00:23:16,333
{\an1}You know what I mean,
yeah, so I just--
600
00:23:16,417 --> 00:23:17,833
{\an1}I've been taken away
from all these things.
601
00:23:17,958 --> 00:23:21,292
{\an1}But with Decision Day coming,
at least for me,
602
00:23:21,417 --> 00:23:23,500
{\an1}I mean,
I think Krysten and I could
603
00:23:23,625 --> 00:23:25,542
{\an1}make it work and be happy,
604
00:23:25,667 --> 00:23:27,125
{\an1}that I could have
the life I love.
605
00:23:27,250 --> 00:23:28,375
{\an1}She could have
the life she loves.
606
00:23:28,542 --> 00:23:29,667
{\an1}And we could be
a great team together.
607
00:23:29,792 --> 00:23:31,250
{\an1}I think that
potential is there.
608
00:23:31,375 --> 00:23:32,875
{\an1}I do love her.
609
00:23:33,000 --> 00:23:34,167
{\an1}Like, I have a lot
of affection for her.
610
00:23:34,292 --> 00:23:35,458
{\an1}Like, we're a team.
611
00:23:35,583 --> 00:23:36,500
{\an1}We've been together,
like, living
612
00:23:36,667 --> 00:23:38,375
{\an1}together for eight weeks.
613
00:23:38,542 --> 00:23:39,583
{\an1}But I'm not in love with her.
614
00:23:39,708 --> 00:23:41,208
{\an1}You know what I mean?
615
00:23:41,333 --> 00:23:42,750
{\an1}- Can I just ask, like,
616
00:23:42,875 --> 00:23:44,833
{\an1}when you guys are just driving
in the car together,
617
00:23:44,958 --> 00:23:46,333
{\an1}when you guys
are just chilling together,
618
00:23:46,458 --> 00:23:48,250
{\an1}do you enjoy
just being together?
619
00:23:48,375 --> 00:23:50,167
{\an1}Do you enjoy--do you
goof around together?
620
00:23:50,250 --> 00:23:51,500
{\an1}Do you have fun
with each other?
621
00:23:51,625 --> 00:23:53,250
{\an1}- Yeah, you know,
there's a lot of good.
622
00:23:53,375 --> 00:23:55,458
{\an1}There's a lot
of great partnership.
623
00:23:55,542 --> 00:23:57,333
{\an1}- When you say things
like that,
624
00:23:57,500 --> 00:23:58,917
{\an1}it makes me feel like
625
00:23:59,042 --> 00:24:02,833
{\an1}you don't understand how rare
that is to find somebody
626
00:24:02,958 --> 00:24:05,500
{\an1}that you have that feeling
of partnership with
627
00:24:05,667 --> 00:24:09,167
{\an1}because that feeling of trust
and partnership is like--
628
00:24:09,333 --> 00:24:13,375
{\an1}to me,
it's kind of the core thing.
629
00:24:13,542 --> 00:24:16,500
{\an1}- To me, it's like,
if you're willing to accept me
630
00:24:16,625 --> 00:24:18,625
{\an1}where I'm at,
because I'm not where
631
00:24:18,708 --> 00:24:20,417
{\an1}she would want me to be.
632
00:24:20,542 --> 00:24:23,333
{\an1}If I say yes,
it's not quite the emphatic yes
633
00:24:23,458 --> 00:24:26,167
{\an1}that she might want
or think she deserves.
634
00:24:26,292 --> 00:24:27,583
{\an1}And I can't give her that.
635
00:24:27,708 --> 00:24:29,000
{\an1}And I can't--
I certainly can't fake it.
636
00:24:29,083 --> 00:24:30,625
{\an1}And she knows that.
637
00:24:30,708 --> 00:24:32,500
{\an1}- I guess I'm just scared
that you guys are gonna
638
00:24:32,625 --> 00:24:34,625
{\an1}potentially walk away
from a good thing
639
00:24:34,708 --> 00:24:38,875
{\an1}because you have naive
or high--
640
00:24:39,042 --> 00:24:40,917
{\an1}too high of expectations.
641
00:24:41,042 --> 00:24:47,292
{\an1}You may be able
to convince her to accept
642
00:24:47,375 --> 00:24:51,625
{\an1}a less emphatic yes
on the basis of it's
643
00:24:51,750 --> 00:24:53,167
{\an1}worth continuing to try it.
644
00:24:53,292 --> 00:24:54,833
{\an1}- Yeah.
645
00:24:55,000 --> 00:24:56,250
{\an1}- At least just hearing
that you want to be with her.
646
00:24:56,375 --> 00:24:58,667
{\an1}You may not be able--
ready to say, like, I love you.
647
00:24:58,792 --> 00:25:00,750
{\an1}But if there's a part
of you that wants
648
00:25:00,875 --> 00:25:03,292
{\an1}to spend more time with her,
that's meaningful,
649
00:25:03,417 --> 00:25:04,833
{\an1}you know?
650
00:25:04,958 --> 00:25:07,125
{\an1}That might be enough
to convince her
651
00:25:07,250 --> 00:25:09,333
{\an1}that it's worth continuing.
652
00:25:09,458 --> 00:25:12,375
{\an1}- Yeah, again, like, I--
653
00:25:12,500 --> 00:25:14,000
{\an1}it's confusing for me.
654
00:25:14,125 --> 00:25:17,500
{\an1}And I just don't...
655
00:25:17,583 --> 00:25:20,333
{\an1}I just don't know, man.
656
00:25:20,458 --> 00:25:24,833
{\an1}[tense music]
657
00:25:24,917 --> 00:25:27,667
{\an1}- ♪ Give it up, all you got ♪
658
00:25:27,833 --> 00:25:29,917
{\an1}♪ It's not enough,
I want everything ♪
659
00:25:30,042 --> 00:25:33,208
{\an1}♪ Okay to be cruel,
take it all ♪
660
00:25:33,375 --> 00:25:34,500
{\an1}♪ I want everything ♪
661
00:25:34,625 --> 00:25:36,500
{\an1}- I'm gonna get you guys in 22.
662
00:25:36,625 --> 00:25:38,917
{\an1}And there's a yellow kart.
663
00:25:39,042 --> 00:25:41,042
{\an1}- With Decision Day
around the corner,
664
00:25:41,167 --> 00:25:43,750
{\an1}this will be the final chance
for our couples
665
00:25:43,875 --> 00:25:46,208
{\an1}to spend time together,
compare notes,
666
00:25:46,375 --> 00:25:47,667
{\an1}and share advice.
667
00:25:47,833 --> 00:25:49,875
{\an1}And hopefully,
they'll have some fun too.
668
00:25:50,000 --> 00:25:51,833
{\an1}[laughing]
669
00:25:51,958 --> 00:25:53,292
{\an1}[upbeat music]
670
00:25:53,375 --> 00:25:55,667
{\an1}- Whoo!
671
00:25:55,750 --> 00:25:58,167
{\an1}- [chuckling]
Yeah.
672
00:25:58,292 --> 00:26:00,125
{\an1}[screaming]
673
00:26:00,208 --> 00:26:02,333
{\an1}- [laughing]
674
00:26:02,417 --> 00:26:03,417
{\an1}- I'm ready to rage.
675
00:26:03,542 --> 00:26:06,000
{\an1}- Let's go!
676
00:26:06,083 --> 00:26:07,250
{\an1}[horn beeping]
677
00:26:07,375 --> 00:26:11,125
{\an1}- [screaming]
678
00:26:11,208 --> 00:26:13,042
{\an1}Mitch, look out!
679
00:26:13,167 --> 00:26:14,667
{\an1}- I see a stop sign.
680
00:26:14,792 --> 00:26:16,458
{\an1}This go-kart ain't
got [bleep] on me.
681
00:26:16,583 --> 00:26:18,333
{\an1}♪ ♪
682
00:26:18,458 --> 00:26:22,250
{\an1}- [chuckling]
We out here.
683
00:26:22,375 --> 00:26:24,667
{\an1}- [screaming]
684
00:26:24,792 --> 00:26:27,167
{\an1}- Go-kart's more fun
than I thought it would be.
685
00:26:27,292 --> 00:26:28,708
{\an1}Usually, I don't do
that kind of stuff.
686
00:26:28,875 --> 00:26:30,250
{\an1}But you know,
it is fun to drive around
687
00:26:30,375 --> 00:26:31,833
{\an1}in a little go-kart.
688
00:26:31,958 --> 00:26:33,542
{\an1}Although, I'm very jealous
that Alexis and Justin
689
00:26:33,667 --> 00:26:34,958
{\an1}have the cool electric one.
690
00:26:35,042 --> 00:26:37,458
{\an1}All I can smell
is Nate's exhaust.
691
00:26:37,542 --> 00:26:39,958
{\an1}It's much cleaner,
and it's also faster.
692
00:26:40,042 --> 00:26:43,667
{\an1}- [screaming]
- [screaming]
693
00:26:43,750 --> 00:26:45,417
{\an1}- Oh, [bleep]!
- Oh!
694
00:26:45,542 --> 00:26:48,333
{\an1}- [laughing]
- Holy [bleep].
695
00:26:48,500 --> 00:26:50,375
{\an1}- [laughing]
696
00:26:50,500 --> 00:26:52,500
{\an1}- Alexis just the [bleep] off.
697
00:26:52,583 --> 00:26:53,917
{\an1}- Whoo!
698
00:26:54,042 --> 00:26:55,542
{\an1}Hey!
699
00:26:55,667 --> 00:26:57,667
{\an1}- You guys are trying to die!
700
00:26:57,833 --> 00:26:59,833
{\an1}- They are back there, boy.
701
00:26:59,958 --> 00:27:01,250
{\an1}[laughing]
702
00:27:01,375 --> 00:27:03,333
{\an1}- What the [bleep]?
- Geez.
703
00:27:03,417 --> 00:27:05,000
{\an1}- Oh, my God.
704
00:27:05,083 --> 00:27:07,542
{\an1}- Oh, my God!
705
00:27:07,667 --> 00:27:09,583
{\an1}[bleep] mean streets.
706
00:27:09,708 --> 00:27:11,458
{\an1}[engine revving]
707
00:27:11,542 --> 00:27:12,833
{\an1}[horn beeping]
708
00:27:12,917 --> 00:27:14,292
{\an1}- Whoo!
709
00:27:14,417 --> 00:27:16,000
{\an1}Skrrt!
710
00:27:16,167 --> 00:27:17,625
{\an1}[horn beeping]
711
00:27:17,708 --> 00:27:19,375
{\an1}- Out of the way.
712
00:27:19,542 --> 00:27:21,125
{\an1}- Whoo-hoo!
713
00:27:21,208 --> 00:27:24,083
{\an1}- I do enjoy, like,
meeting up with everybody
714
00:27:24,208 --> 00:27:27,708
{\an1}and seeing how they're doing
because we just have fun.
715
00:27:27,833 --> 00:27:29,250
{\an1}And I think that,
with Decision Day
716
00:27:29,375 --> 00:27:30,917
{\an1}being a few days away,
717
00:27:31,042 --> 00:27:33,667
{\an1}I just feel like that's
something that we all need.
718
00:27:33,750 --> 00:27:35,000
{\an1}- People are like
fishing out here.
719
00:27:35,125 --> 00:27:36,583
{\an1}- Right.
720
00:27:36,708 --> 00:27:38,167
{\an1}There's a lot of emotions
coming up for me.
721
00:27:38,292 --> 00:27:41,167
{\an1}And it's because I have
to literally think
722
00:27:41,292 --> 00:27:44,708
{\an1}about spending the rest
of my life with a partner
723
00:27:44,833 --> 00:27:46,750
{\an1}that I barely even know, right?
724
00:27:46,875 --> 00:27:49,958
{\an1}And once I'm able to actually
725
00:27:50,042 --> 00:27:54,000
{\an1}make a yes or no decision,
I'll feel a lot better.
726
00:27:54,125 --> 00:27:55,708
{\an1}[laughter]
727
00:27:55,833 --> 00:27:56,958
{\an1}- I know you guys
laughed at us.
728
00:27:57,083 --> 00:27:58,125
{\an1}- Just this--
[laughing]
729
00:27:58,250 --> 00:27:59,667
{\an1}- You need a bite?
730
00:27:59,792 --> 00:28:01,458
{\an1}- Nah.
Thank you.
731
00:28:01,542 --> 00:28:03,792
{\an1}- Oh, yeah, you're
having a vegan moment.
732
00:28:03,917 --> 00:28:05,458
{\an1}- I'm just trying
to eat less meat.
733
00:28:05,542 --> 00:28:07,042
{\an1}I had, like,
the meat sweats last night.
734
00:28:07,167 --> 00:28:08,750
{\an1}And I was like,
I'm disgusting, right?
735
00:28:08,875 --> 00:28:10,458
{\an1}- That's a thing?
- The meat--
736
00:28:10,542 --> 00:28:12,792
{\an1}- [laughing]
- The meat sweats.
737
00:28:12,875 --> 00:28:15,000
{\an1}Like, having, you know,
a lot of meat,
738
00:28:15,083 --> 00:28:17,333
{\an1}you just start sweating,
you know?
739
00:28:17,458 --> 00:28:19,167
{\an1}It was just--it was
a moment where I was like,
740
00:28:19,292 --> 00:28:21,083
{\an1}maybe I'll eat
some salads this week.
741
00:28:21,208 --> 00:28:22,333
{\an1}I don't know.
742
00:28:22,500 --> 00:28:25,250
{\an1}[foghorn blares]
743
00:28:28,708 --> 00:28:31,208
{\an1}- So how you guys feeling?
744
00:28:31,333 --> 00:28:32,500
{\an1}- How are you feeling?
- Yeah, how are you--
745
00:28:32,583 --> 00:28:34,000
{\an1}- Yeah, that's true.
746
00:28:34,125 --> 00:28:35,083
{\an1}- Because last time
you guys were, like, on a...
747
00:28:35,208 --> 00:28:36,583
{\an1}- Not gonna lie.
748
00:28:36,708 --> 00:28:38,792
{\an1}Last week was
pretty challenging for us.
749
00:28:38,875 --> 00:28:40,792
{\an1}And you know,
there were moments
750
00:28:40,917 --> 00:28:43,833
{\an1}where I got very frustrated
with the whole situation.
751
00:28:43,958 --> 00:28:46,333
{\an1}I was, like, starting to have,
like, serious doubts.
752
00:28:46,417 --> 00:28:48,000
{\an1}- Yeah.
753
00:28:48,167 --> 00:28:49,583
{\an1}I do know
that Miguel and Lindy had
754
00:28:49,708 --> 00:28:52,167
{\an1}kind of a bad argument when we
went on our couples retreat.
755
00:28:52,292 --> 00:28:55,750
{\an1}But I see no arguments
as a red flag,
756
00:28:55,875 --> 00:28:58,000
{\an1}so I was pleasantly surprised
when they had
757
00:28:58,125 --> 00:29:00,208
{\an1}their kind of first
real conflict.
758
00:29:00,375 --> 00:29:03,125
{\an1}But I think that's a good sign
that they both really care
759
00:29:03,208 --> 00:29:05,667
{\an1}about each other, and that they
care enough to have conflict,
760
00:29:05,792 --> 00:29:08,500
{\an1}and they want
to work through it.
761
00:29:08,625 --> 00:29:11,167
{\an1}- I had a moment
where I was just adamant.
762
00:29:11,333 --> 00:29:12,833
{\an1}Like, I was just like,
I'm saying no.
763
00:29:12,958 --> 00:29:15,250
{\an1}You know what I'm saying?
I'm serious.
764
00:29:15,375 --> 00:29:17,292
{\an1}Like, when I'm in my head,
yo, it is--
765
00:29:17,375 --> 00:29:18,500
{\an1}it's hard to get me out.
766
00:29:18,667 --> 00:29:19,875
{\an1}- Mm-hmm.
767
00:29:20,042 --> 00:29:22,667
{\an1}- Can I ask you
about what specifically?
768
00:29:22,792 --> 00:29:24,667
{\an1}- Over-generalizing.
- Okay.
769
00:29:24,750 --> 00:29:26,167
{\an1}- And I know that.
770
00:29:26,292 --> 00:29:28,083
{\an1}But to hear that from my mom,
you know,
771
00:29:28,208 --> 00:29:30,042
{\an1}who know me really well,
it just kind of hit different.
772
00:29:30,208 --> 00:29:31,750
{\an1}And I was just like,
oh, [bleep].
773
00:29:31,875 --> 00:29:33,833
{\an1}Man, how long have
I been like this?
774
00:29:33,917 --> 00:29:35,625
{\an1}So it's like I'm
discovering all this stuff.
775
00:29:35,708 --> 00:29:37,125
{\an1}- Right.
776
00:29:37,208 --> 00:29:38,333
{\an1}- But I'm just glad
that I'm aware of it.
777
00:29:38,458 --> 00:29:40,000
{\an1}- Yeah, definitely.
778
00:29:40,125 --> 00:29:41,625
{\an1}You can't grow unless you know,
you know, where to go.
779
00:29:41,750 --> 00:29:43,250
{\an1}- Right.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
780
00:29:43,375 --> 00:29:46,250
{\an1}- Right, so yeah.
781
00:29:46,375 --> 00:29:48,500
{\an1}- I'm so cold.
It's uncomfortably cold.
782
00:29:48,667 --> 00:29:49,792
{\an1}- You want these heat warmers?
783
00:29:49,917 --> 00:29:51,333
{\an1}- I have some.
- Oh, okay.
784
00:29:51,458 --> 00:29:52,583
{\an1}- Do you have the vibrator
again to warm you up?
785
00:29:52,708 --> 00:29:54,833
{\an1}Sorry.
- [laughing]
786
00:29:54,958 --> 00:29:56,583
{\an1}- Are you okay?
[buzzing]
787
00:29:56,708 --> 00:29:58,167
{\an1}- I'm getting lit up.
788
00:29:58,292 --> 00:29:59,667
{\an1}Oh, my God.
789
00:29:59,792 --> 00:30:01,167
{\an1}- She's suffering right now.
790
00:30:01,333 --> 00:30:02,417
{\an1}But it feels good.
791
00:30:02,542 --> 00:30:05,292
{\an1}- Oh, he likes
to see me suffer.
792
00:30:05,375 --> 00:30:07,333
{\an1}- It's pretty hot.
793
00:30:07,458 --> 00:30:09,208
{\an1}[buzzing]
794
00:30:09,375 --> 00:30:10,667
{\an1}- Oh, my good Lord.
795
00:30:10,833 --> 00:30:12,208
{\an1}- [laughing]
796
00:30:12,375 --> 00:30:13,792
{\an1}- We had to return
that [bleep].
797
00:30:13,917 --> 00:30:14,750
{\an1}- Whoa.
You can't return that.
798
00:30:14,875 --> 00:30:16,208
{\an1}- It was broke.
- [laughing]
799
00:30:16,375 --> 00:30:17,792
{\an1}- It was broken.
800
00:30:17,917 --> 00:30:18,667
{\an1}Did you guys hear it at 3:00
in the morning going off?
801
00:30:18,750 --> 00:30:20,375
{\an1}- Yes.
802
00:30:20,500 --> 00:30:21,833
{\an1}- Well, that's because you
guys were overusing it, yeah.
803
00:30:22,000 --> 00:30:24,125
{\an1}[laughter]
- It was begging for help.
804
00:30:26,375 --> 00:30:29,292
{\an1}- Well, how are you guys doing?
How are you guys feeling?
805
00:30:29,375 --> 00:30:32,292
{\an1}- Just looking back
the last seven weeks,
806
00:30:32,417 --> 00:30:37,083
{\an1}we definitely need to learn
how to communicate better.
807
00:30:37,208 --> 00:30:41,333
{\an1}- You know, you have--
I don't want to say lack.
808
00:30:41,458 --> 00:30:43,750
{\an1}But you know,
you kind of do have lack
809
00:30:43,875 --> 00:30:46,667
{\an1}of emotional
relationship experience.
810
00:30:46,792 --> 00:30:51,625
{\an1}And I think that sometimes that
811
00:30:51,708 --> 00:30:53,708
{\an1}can irritate me at times
812
00:30:53,833 --> 00:30:58,375
{\an1}because I feel like I'm having
to explain all of these things
813
00:30:58,500 --> 00:30:59,917
{\an1}and the whys behind them.
814
00:31:00,042 --> 00:31:06,042
{\an1}And I feel like maybe you don't
815
00:31:06,167 --> 00:31:09,833
{\an1}want to trust what I say
because, you know,
816
00:31:10,000 --> 00:31:12,500
{\an1}the conversations
about the kids thing,
817
00:31:12,625 --> 00:31:16,250
{\an1}you know, me wanting
to be a fun parent or have fun.
818
00:31:16,375 --> 00:31:19,417
{\an1}And me wanting
to create that for myself,
819
00:31:19,542 --> 00:31:22,042
{\an1}it wasn't something
that you would accept.
820
00:31:22,208 --> 00:31:23,708
{\an1}But when your dad said,
oh, yeah,
821
00:31:23,833 --> 00:31:24,833
{\an1}you can still have fun
with an infant,
822
00:31:24,917 --> 00:31:26,250
{\an1}you're like, oh, okay, great.
823
00:31:26,375 --> 00:31:27,833
{\an1}He has the experience.
824
00:31:27,958 --> 00:31:30,458
{\an1}He's had kids,
so that must be a fact.
825
00:31:30,542 --> 00:31:34,333
{\an1}But not looking at, like,
what your wife is saying,
826
00:31:34,417 --> 00:31:36,500
{\an1}so just things like that.
827
00:31:36,583 --> 00:31:38,333
{\an1}[soft music]
828
00:31:38,500 --> 00:31:43,000
{\an1}- It surprises me to hear
Stacia saying that she wishes
829
00:31:43,125 --> 00:31:45,042
{\an1}Nate had more life experience.
830
00:31:45,208 --> 00:31:46,333
{\an1}I know she is
a few years older.
831
00:31:46,458 --> 00:31:48,958
{\an1}But it's like,
I imagine that she's just
832
00:31:49,083 --> 00:31:52,000
{\an1}trying to pinpoint
what might make her say no
833
00:31:52,125 --> 00:31:54,125
{\an1}if it was a big problem.
834
00:31:54,208 --> 00:31:56,333
{\an1}And I think overall,
they got a lot more positives
835
00:31:56,417 --> 00:31:58,375
{\an1}than negatives
in their marriage.
836
00:31:58,500 --> 00:32:00,333
{\an1}- How are you doing?
837
00:32:00,458 --> 00:32:02,167
{\an1}- Mitchy Mitch?
838
00:32:02,250 --> 00:32:06,542
{\an1}- I don't think
it's 100% clear yet
839
00:32:06,708 --> 00:32:08,542
{\an1}what either
of us are gonna say.
840
00:32:08,708 --> 00:32:13,500
{\an1}But you know, we still got,
you know, some more exploration
841
00:32:13,583 --> 00:32:14,750
{\an1}to do, I would say.
842
00:32:14,875 --> 00:32:16,375
{\an1}- Yeah.
843
00:32:16,500 --> 00:32:18,917
{\an1}- Do you think that there's
enough time ahead of you
844
00:32:19,042 --> 00:32:21,000
{\an1}to kind of, you know,
shift any of either one
845
00:32:21,125 --> 00:32:23,042
{\an1}of your perspectives?
846
00:32:23,167 --> 00:32:26,167
{\an1}- I think if he verbalized
what our life would look
847
00:32:26,292 --> 00:32:30,000
{\an1}like together after this,
if he verbalized
848
00:32:30,125 --> 00:32:32,875
{\an1}that he wants
to be married to me,
849
00:32:33,000 --> 00:32:37,458
{\an1}I think I would say yes, so...
850
00:32:37,583 --> 00:32:41,333
{\an1}♪ ♪
851
00:32:41,458 --> 00:32:44,333
{\an1}- Mitch--it's just,
he's a confused soul.
852
00:32:44,458 --> 00:32:46,458
{\an1}And Krysten deserves
so much better.
853
00:32:46,583 --> 00:32:49,208
{\an1}Krysten straight up knows what
she needs to hear from him.
854
00:32:49,333 --> 00:32:51,833
{\an1}And she's giving him
an outline detail of, like,
855
00:32:51,958 --> 00:32:53,750
{\an1}hey, if you do this, I'm in.
856
00:32:53,875 --> 00:32:56,333
{\an1}And he--I don't even think
he can do it.
857
00:32:56,458 --> 00:33:03,625
{\an1}♪ ♪
858
00:33:03,708 --> 00:33:07,167
{\an1}- ♪ Oh, I'm on fire ♪
859
00:33:07,292 --> 00:33:11,000
{\an1}♪ Oh, yeah, I'm on fire ♪
860
00:33:11,083 --> 00:33:13,292
{\an1}- I booked out
a private room for us.
861
00:33:13,375 --> 00:33:15,750
{\an1}- Beautiful.
862
00:33:15,875 --> 00:33:20,042
{\an1}Aww, it's so pretty.
863
00:33:22,042 --> 00:33:24,833
{\an1}This is gorgeous.
Oh, my God, I love it.
864
00:33:24,958 --> 00:33:26,167
{\an1}- I have a--
865
00:33:26,250 --> 00:33:27,292
{\an1}- I'm so happy
to be here with you.
866
00:33:27,375 --> 00:33:28,667
{\an1}- Me too.
It's really nice.
867
00:33:28,792 --> 00:33:30,083
{\an1}- Thank you.
Hi, how are you?
868
00:33:30,208 --> 00:33:32,000
{\an1}- Good, how are you?
- Good.
869
00:33:32,125 --> 00:33:33,500
{\an1}- Good.
Enjoy the prosecco.
870
00:33:33,625 --> 00:33:36,167
{\an1}- Thank you.
Lover?
871
00:33:36,333 --> 00:33:38,708
{\an1}- Prosec yourself.
- Likely to take a wife.
872
00:33:38,833 --> 00:33:40,250
{\an1}Cheers.
- I did take one.
873
00:33:40,375 --> 00:33:42,125
{\an1}- You have.
874
00:33:42,250 --> 00:33:44,917
{\an1}- This is really our last
chance to feel each other out
875
00:33:45,042 --> 00:33:46,500
{\an1}before Decision Day.
876
00:33:46,625 --> 00:33:48,542
{\an1}And I just want Krysten
to understand me,
877
00:33:48,667 --> 00:33:51,458
{\an1}and so I just need to be
as honest and open as I can.
878
00:33:51,583 --> 00:33:53,083
{\an1}And that's just--
that's all I can do.
879
00:33:53,208 --> 00:33:55,333
{\an1}It's all I've ever
been able to do.
880
00:33:55,458 --> 00:33:57,458
{\an1}- Thank you.
881
00:33:57,542 --> 00:33:59,167
{\an1}[upbeat music]
882
00:33:59,292 --> 00:34:01,375
{\an1}- Thanks a lot.
- Enjoy.
883
00:34:01,500 --> 00:34:05,208
{\an1}- So this has been a wild ride.
884
00:34:05,333 --> 00:34:09,458
{\an1}But I am really grateful
that we were matched.
885
00:34:09,542 --> 00:34:13,792
{\an1}I'm really grateful
to have had this time with you.
886
00:34:13,917 --> 00:34:18,792
{\an1}I do wonder hypothetically,
if we both did say yes,
887
00:34:18,917 --> 00:34:21,708
{\an1}what do you think
our life would look like?
888
00:34:21,875 --> 00:34:23,083
{\an1}What do we do next?
889
00:34:23,208 --> 00:34:25,500
{\an1}- Good question.
890
00:34:25,667 --> 00:34:28,625
{\an1}I think the first thing
we would do is,
891
00:34:28,708 --> 00:34:31,250
{\an1}because everything's been
so intense and so accelerated,
892
00:34:31,375 --> 00:34:35,292
{\an1}we don't need
to move too quick.
893
00:34:35,375 --> 00:34:39,125
{\an1}So I would say at least
like a few days to a week,
894
00:34:39,208 --> 00:34:42,125
{\an1}like, maybe just kind of be,
like, more like two people
895
00:34:42,208 --> 00:34:43,458
{\an1}in a relationship,
you know what I mean?
896
00:34:43,583 --> 00:34:45,667
{\an1}- Mm-hmm.
- But then go from there.
897
00:34:45,833 --> 00:34:49,708
{\an1}- The one thing
that I just want to make clear
898
00:34:49,833 --> 00:34:55,500
{\an1}is that I do not do well
in a confusing environment.
899
00:34:55,667 --> 00:34:57,500
{\an1}I need clear lines.
900
00:34:57,583 --> 00:35:00,083
{\an1}- Yeah, you need to be knowing
that you're in a direction...
901
00:35:00,208 --> 00:35:01,708
{\an1}- Yeah.
- With a goal.
902
00:35:01,833 --> 00:35:03,167
{\an1}- I need to be married.
903
00:35:03,250 --> 00:35:05,667
{\an1}I don't need, like,
an estranged husband
904
00:35:05,792 --> 00:35:07,250
{\an1}where we kind of date.
905
00:35:07,375 --> 00:35:12,500
{\an1}I don't operate well
with blurred lines in the gray.
906
00:35:12,625 --> 00:35:15,000
{\an1}I'm glad you shared how
you really envision it.
907
00:35:15,083 --> 00:35:17,583
{\an1}But it just seems
a little grayer
908
00:35:17,708 --> 00:35:19,958
{\an1}than where I would have
liked it to be.
909
00:35:20,083 --> 00:35:21,333
{\an1}- Yeah, I understand.
I mean...
910
00:35:21,458 --> 00:35:23,875
{\an1}- Yeah.
- I wish I wasn't as gray.
911
00:35:24,000 --> 00:35:25,250
{\an1}- Mm-hmm.
912
00:35:25,375 --> 00:35:27,125
{\an1}- In a perfect world,
I wouldn't be.
913
00:35:27,208 --> 00:35:29,000
{\an1}The reason I'm gray is
because I still don't know
914
00:35:29,083 --> 00:35:30,875
{\an1}what it'll be like with us.
915
00:35:31,042 --> 00:35:32,500
{\an1}You know,
I know that in a perfect world,
916
00:35:32,625 --> 00:35:36,833
{\an1}you'd rather have a stronger
commitment on my end
917
00:35:36,917 --> 00:35:40,083
{\an1}and more
of a declaration of love.
918
00:35:40,208 --> 00:35:42,167
{\an1}I know that.
- Yeah.
919
00:35:42,292 --> 00:35:43,583
{\an1}- And I haven't been able
to provide it.
920
00:35:43,708 --> 00:35:46,708
{\an1}- Yeah.
- And I do feel bad about that.
921
00:35:46,833 --> 00:35:50,167
{\an1}So I guess my question is,
if I just say for Decision Day,
922
00:35:50,333 --> 00:35:52,375
{\an1}I want to keep going,
and it's a yes for me--
923
00:35:52,500 --> 00:35:53,500
{\an1}- Mm-hmm.
924
00:35:53,583 --> 00:35:55,333
{\an1}- But I'm not
declaring my love,
925
00:35:55,500 --> 00:35:57,125
{\an1}or even declaring that I'm
100% sure if we are a great--
926
00:35:57,250 --> 00:35:59,000
{\an1}- Yeah, yeah.
- Match for life.
927
00:35:59,083 --> 00:36:00,625
{\an1}Like, is that good
enough for you?
928
00:36:00,708 --> 00:36:02,500
{\an1}[tense music]
929
00:36:02,625 --> 00:36:04,333
{\an1}- Hm.
930
00:36:07,917 --> 00:36:09,167
{\an1}- Is that all right?
931
00:36:09,292 --> 00:36:11,625
{\an1}- Honestly,
I think it's a start.
932
00:36:11,708 --> 00:36:14,125
{\an1}I take every little bit
I can get with you.
933
00:36:14,208 --> 00:36:18,125
{\an1}Like, anything I can get,
I take with grace.
934
00:36:18,208 --> 00:36:21,667
{\an1}Like, I am happy
to hear that you're thinking
935
00:36:21,750 --> 00:36:23,292
{\an1}about wanting to continue.
936
00:36:23,375 --> 00:36:24,917
{\an1}I will take it.
937
00:36:25,042 --> 00:36:27,250
{\an1}No, it's not what
I want to hear.
938
00:36:27,375 --> 00:36:29,042
{\an1}But I'm grateful for it.
939
00:36:29,167 --> 00:36:30,958
{\an1}And I think
that the next few days
940
00:36:31,042 --> 00:36:34,417
{\an1}as we're talking about it,
it'll put me in a good space
941
00:36:34,542 --> 00:36:37,000
{\an1}to think
about what I want to do.
942
00:36:37,083 --> 00:36:38,500
{\an1}- Yeah.
- You know?
943
00:36:38,625 --> 00:36:40,708
{\an1}- I know that you still
have things to think about.
944
00:36:40,875 --> 00:36:42,875
{\an1}And that's okay.
945
00:36:43,000 --> 00:36:44,167
{\an1}I'm just--you know,
to be honest,
946
00:36:44,292 --> 00:36:45,833
{\an1}I'm very flattered by you.
947
00:36:45,958 --> 00:36:47,917
{\an1}I mean, I feel like the way
I handled it in the beginning,
948
00:36:48,042 --> 00:36:49,625
{\an1}I just--if there was one
regret that I have, I just--
949
00:36:49,750 --> 00:36:51,292
{\an1}- Yeah.
950
00:36:51,375 --> 00:36:52,875
{\an1}- I just wish I could've
played it cooler...
951
00:36:53,000 --> 00:36:54,000
{\an1}- Right.
- On the honeymoon...
952
00:36:54,083 --> 00:36:55,500
{\an1}- Yeah.
953
00:36:55,583 --> 00:36:56,917
{\an1}- And just thought
a little bit more,
954
00:36:57,042 --> 00:36:57,833
{\an1}you know, cup half full.
955
00:36:58,000 --> 00:36:59,500
{\an1}- Yeah.
956
00:36:59,583 --> 00:37:00,667
{\an1}- It was just a really
disservice to our marriage,
957
00:37:00,792 --> 00:37:02,125
{\an1}and I'm just really sorry.
958
00:37:02,208 --> 00:37:03,750
{\an1}- It's okay.
959
00:37:03,875 --> 00:37:09,625
{\an1}I want to give you the space
to forgive yourself.
960
00:37:09,708 --> 00:37:11,167
{\an1}- Yeah.
961
00:37:11,292 --> 00:37:13,500
{\an1}- We can't, like,
beat ourselves up.
962
00:37:13,583 --> 00:37:15,792
{\an1}- I'm never gonna shy away
from the moment, you know?
963
00:37:15,875 --> 00:37:16,917
{\an1}- Yeah.
- And...
964
00:37:17,042 --> 00:37:18,333
{\an1}[clears throat]
965
00:37:18,458 --> 00:37:20,000
{\an1}Because that's something
I've seen in my family,
966
00:37:20,125 --> 00:37:22,542
{\an1}of guys shying away
from the moment
967
00:37:22,667 --> 00:37:24,875
{\an1}because they're not ready
or not comfortable.
968
00:37:25,000 --> 00:37:26,167
{\an1}- Yeah.
969
00:37:26,250 --> 00:37:27,292
{\an1}- And I used
to see it in myself.
970
00:37:27,417 --> 00:37:32,542
{\an1}So that said, I mean,
I know that--
971
00:37:32,667 --> 00:37:34,917
{\an1}I know you did hope for more.
- Yeah.
972
00:37:35,042 --> 00:37:37,500
{\an1}- And, you know,
973
00:37:37,625 --> 00:37:40,208
{\an1}I'm afraid to lose you,
for sure.
974
00:37:40,375 --> 00:37:42,000
{\an1}And I don't want to lose you.
975
00:37:42,083 --> 00:37:44,667
{\an1}♪ ♪
976
00:37:44,750 --> 00:37:46,000
{\an1}- Thank you, honey.
977
00:37:46,083 --> 00:37:48,917
{\an1}♪ ♪
978
00:37:49,042 --> 00:37:53,917
{\an1}- ♪ This love, this love ♪
979
00:37:54,042 --> 00:37:56,292
{\an1}[soft music]
980
00:37:56,375 --> 00:38:02,250
{\an1}♪ All this, this love ♪
981
00:38:02,375 --> 00:38:06,000
{\an1}- Wow, sunflowers.
982
00:38:06,125 --> 00:38:08,667
{\an1}[laughing]
Aww, hi, baby.
983
00:38:08,792 --> 00:38:10,667
{\an1}- What's up?
984
00:38:10,792 --> 00:38:12,167
{\an1}♪ ♪
985
00:38:12,292 --> 00:38:13,667
{\an1}- Gonna give you lipstick.
- Yes.
986
00:38:13,792 --> 00:38:15,542
{\an1}- Thank you.
987
00:38:15,667 --> 00:38:17,917
{\an1}♪ ♪
988
00:38:18,042 --> 00:38:20,250
{\an1}Ah, I love sunflowers.
989
00:38:20,375 --> 00:38:21,875
{\an1}- Here,
I can help you with that.
990
00:38:22,042 --> 00:38:22,875
{\an1}- Yeah, because
I got a lot now.
991
00:38:23,000 --> 00:38:25,375
{\an1}♪ ♪
992
00:38:25,500 --> 00:38:27,333
{\an1}- ♪ This love ♪
993
00:38:27,458 --> 00:38:30,375
{\an1}- This is our last dinner
before Decision Day,
994
00:38:30,500 --> 00:38:32,708
{\an1}so I wanted to make it special.
995
00:38:32,875 --> 00:38:35,458
{\an1}And I chose the sunflowers
because I know
996
00:38:35,583 --> 00:38:36,875
{\an1}it's your favorite flower,
so...
997
00:38:37,042 --> 00:38:38,917
{\an1}- Thank you.
- Yeah.
998
00:38:39,042 --> 00:38:40,708
{\an1}I listen to you.
I do.
999
00:38:40,833 --> 00:38:43,667
{\an1}I know I have my times
where I get in my head.
1000
00:38:43,792 --> 00:38:45,583
{\an1}And, girl, we know what
happens when I get in there.
1001
00:38:45,708 --> 00:38:47,208
{\an1}- You get stuck in there.
- I get stuck in there.
1002
00:38:47,333 --> 00:38:48,625
{\an1}It's like a chair.
1003
00:38:48,750 --> 00:38:50,208
{\an1}And I just get comfortable,
you know?
1004
00:38:50,375 --> 00:38:52,042
{\an1}So I'm slowly trying
to make it right.
1005
00:38:52,167 --> 00:38:54,208
{\an1}- That's a challenge for me.
1006
00:38:54,333 --> 00:38:55,833
{\an1}You get stuck in there.
1007
00:38:55,958 --> 00:38:58,250
{\an1}And no matter what I tell you,
it's not registering.
1008
00:38:58,375 --> 00:39:00,000
{\an1}- I understand what you mean.
1009
00:39:00,125 --> 00:39:02,000
{\an1}You know, I talked to my mom.
1010
00:39:02,083 --> 00:39:04,208
{\an1}And she's like,
baby, you scared.
1011
00:39:04,375 --> 00:39:05,667
{\an1}And she's like,
because I know you.
1012
00:39:05,792 --> 00:39:07,708
{\an1}When you want something,
you get in your head.
1013
00:39:07,875 --> 00:39:11,333
{\an1}And you're the only one in this
world that's thinking this.
1014
00:39:11,458 --> 00:39:13,750
{\an1}So I was like,
yo, that's so true.
1015
00:39:13,875 --> 00:39:15,500
{\an1}That's what be happening,
you know?
1016
00:39:15,625 --> 00:39:17,500
{\an1}She's like, you start
predicting the future.
1017
00:39:17,625 --> 00:39:21,333
{\an1}And I was like damn, I've
been like that all this time?
1018
00:39:21,417 --> 00:39:24,375
{\an1}[soft music]
1019
00:39:24,500 --> 00:39:27,833
{\an1}- The 90% that
wants to say yes is
1020
00:39:27,917 --> 00:39:31,833
{\an1}the hopefulness in me wanting
to believe my husband is
1021
00:39:31,917 --> 00:39:33,500
{\an1}gonna improve.
1022
00:39:33,667 --> 00:39:35,125
{\an1}If he believes
he's this person,
1023
00:39:35,250 --> 00:39:37,042
{\an1}he's came to this conclusion
after weeks,
1024
00:39:37,167 --> 00:39:38,792
{\an1}I'ma let him show proof.
1025
00:39:38,875 --> 00:39:41,667
{\an1}Justin may just be
giving me lip service.
1026
00:39:41,833 --> 00:39:43,417
{\an1}It may just be like,
yeah, babe, I'll fix it.
1027
00:39:43,542 --> 00:39:45,458
{\an1}Yeah, uh-huh, I got it, babe.
Mm-hmm.
1028
00:39:45,542 --> 00:39:47,333
{\an1}And whole time,
he has no intention,
1029
00:39:47,417 --> 00:39:51,333
{\an1}so that's definitely
something to consider.
1030
00:39:51,417 --> 00:39:53,208
{\an1}So now that you've found
this out, because this is--
1031
00:39:53,333 --> 00:39:54,667
{\an1}and Decision Day's coming up--
1032
00:39:54,792 --> 00:39:56,833
{\an1}I did have,
like, a couple of things
1033
00:39:56,958 --> 00:39:58,000
{\an1}that were holding me back.
1034
00:39:58,125 --> 00:39:59,292
{\an1}That's definitely one of them.
1035
00:39:59,417 --> 00:40:00,250
{\an1}You get in your head--
like, off route.
1036
00:40:00,375 --> 00:40:02,000
{\an1}Like, this is--
1037
00:40:02,125 --> 00:40:04,167
{\an1}I don't want to say crazy,
but I actually think
1038
00:40:04,292 --> 00:40:07,750
{\an1}it's perfect timing because
I was worried at one point
1039
00:40:07,875 --> 00:40:08,917
{\an1}that you'd never come to--
like, you know,
1040
00:40:09,042 --> 00:40:11,667
{\an1}like, you'd never come
to that conclusion.
1041
00:40:11,750 --> 00:40:13,708
{\an1}But now that you're coming out
and saying this, like,
1042
00:40:13,875 --> 00:40:15,542
{\an1}I'm not only proud,
but it's making me,
1043
00:40:15,667 --> 00:40:18,250
{\an1}like, decrease that 10%
because that was
1044
00:40:18,375 --> 00:40:19,958
{\an1}a big part of it.
1045
00:40:20,042 --> 00:40:21,750
{\an1}Like, if we're having these
issues now, and I'm not saying
1046
00:40:21,875 --> 00:40:25,250
{\an1}it's all you because I need
to create a safer space.
1047
00:40:25,375 --> 00:40:27,708
{\an1}I need to honor you.
I need to--shoot.
1048
00:40:27,875 --> 00:40:29,292
{\an1}Well, let me stop saying
what I need to do.
1049
00:40:29,375 --> 00:40:30,708
{\an1}What do I need to do?
1050
00:40:30,875 --> 00:40:36,833
{\an1}- For me, I would
say feeling desire.
1051
00:40:36,958 --> 00:40:40,458
{\an1}You know how you wanted me
to be dominant in the bedroom.
1052
00:40:40,583 --> 00:40:42,583
{\an1}Sometimes,
I want the role to switch.
1053
00:40:42,708 --> 00:40:44,208
{\an1}You know what I'm saying?
Not saying you dominate me.
1054
00:40:44,375 --> 00:40:45,708
{\an1}- I can.
1055
00:40:45,875 --> 00:40:47,833
{\an1}- But like, you know,
sometimes, like,
1056
00:40:47,958 --> 00:40:50,500
{\an1}initiate when it
comes to intimacy.
1057
00:40:50,583 --> 00:40:52,958
{\an1}- It's something I can do.
1058
00:40:53,083 --> 00:40:55,542
{\an1}But I just...
1059
00:40:55,667 --> 00:40:57,458
{\an1}- And it's not something
you have to do all the time
1060
00:40:57,583 --> 00:40:59,333
{\an1}because when it comes to that,
1061
00:40:59,458 --> 00:41:02,667
{\an1}then I can step
outside my comfort zone.
1062
00:41:02,792 --> 00:41:05,458
{\an1}You know what I'm saying,
and in my mama's eyes,
1063
00:41:05,542 --> 00:41:07,333
{\an1}be more freaky.
1064
00:41:07,417 --> 00:41:08,625
{\an1}- Oh, that's what mama said?
- Mm-hmm.
1065
00:41:08,750 --> 00:41:09,667
{\an1}She's like,
so you ain't freaky enough.
1066
00:41:09,792 --> 00:41:11,583
{\an1}And I was like, well--
- Oh.
1067
00:41:11,708 --> 00:41:13,833
{\an1}[laughing]
- It ain't that we ain't frea--
1068
00:41:13,917 --> 00:41:15,375
{\an1}- You didn't tell me
about this conversation.
1069
00:41:15,542 --> 00:41:16,875
{\an1}Is that what happened?
1070
00:41:17,042 --> 00:41:18,583
{\an1}Mama wants you
to be more freaky?
1071
00:41:18,708 --> 00:41:19,750
{\an1}- Yeah, you know,
desiring more.
1072
00:41:19,875 --> 00:41:21,000
{\an1}She's like, so you
need her to be more--
1073
00:41:21,083 --> 00:41:22,583
{\an1}you need to be more freaky.
1074
00:41:22,708 --> 00:41:24,667
{\an1}But you ain't comfortable
enough to do that.
1075
00:41:24,792 --> 00:41:29,583
{\an1}And I was like,
well, I mean, yeah.
1076
00:41:29,708 --> 00:41:31,667
{\an1}So that was a mouthful.
Sorry.
1077
00:41:31,792 --> 00:41:34,500
{\an1}- No, you don't
have to apologize.
1078
00:41:34,625 --> 00:41:37,292
{\an1}I'm listening.
I'm internalizing.
1079
00:41:37,417 --> 00:41:41,042
{\an1}I'm taking everything in.
1080
00:41:41,208 --> 00:41:42,167
{\an1}- What you smiling about?
1081
00:41:42,333 --> 00:41:43,833
{\an1}- You know what?
1082
00:41:43,958 --> 00:41:45,458
{\an1}This conversation's important
because it's just like,
1083
00:41:45,542 --> 00:41:49,375
{\an1}now that we're here,
now, you know,
1084
00:41:49,500 --> 00:41:51,542
{\an1}we've had a great day.
1085
00:41:51,667 --> 00:41:52,958
{\an1}And I don't want to ruin it.
1086
00:41:53,083 --> 00:41:57,083
{\an1}But, like,
I still have my doubts.
1087
00:41:57,208 --> 00:41:59,583
{\an1}If we were to stay together,
it would more so focus
1088
00:41:59,708 --> 00:42:04,292
{\an1}on consistency,
stabilization, foundation,
1089
00:42:04,375 --> 00:42:06,500
{\an1}you know,
understanding each other.
1090
00:42:06,625 --> 00:42:09,500
{\an1}But this isn't best friends
at first sight, you know?
1091
00:42:09,625 --> 00:42:12,292
{\an1}This is
"Married at First Sight."
1092
00:42:12,417 --> 00:42:15,625
{\an1}But either way, it's just like,
I think you're a great person.
1093
00:42:15,708 --> 00:42:17,417
{\an1}And maybe we might be
better off as friends.
1094
00:42:17,542 --> 00:42:19,083
{\an1}Who knows?
1095
00:42:19,208 --> 00:42:22,042
{\an1}[dramatic music]
1096
00:42:22,167 --> 00:42:27,333
{\an1}♪ ♪
1097
00:42:27,500 --> 00:42:29,792
{\an1}[soft music]
1098
00:42:29,875 --> 00:42:34,375
{\an1}- ♪ It's been a long journey,
a winding road ♪
1099
00:42:34,500 --> 00:42:35,625
{\an1}♪ Getting lost and learning ♪
1100
00:42:35,750 --> 00:42:38,542
{\an1}- Here we are.
- Cute.
1101
00:42:38,667 --> 00:42:40,333
{\an1}Look at how pretty
the mountains are.
1102
00:42:40,458 --> 00:42:41,833
{\an1}- Mm-hmm.
1103
00:42:41,958 --> 00:42:43,792
{\an1}Can't wait to try this wine.
1104
00:42:43,875 --> 00:42:45,333
{\an1}I heard they make
their own hooch.
1105
00:42:45,458 --> 00:42:47,292
{\an1}- Hooch?
1106
00:42:47,417 --> 00:42:49,000
{\an1}I've been called that before.
1107
00:42:49,125 --> 00:42:50,833
{\an1}- A hoochie mama?
1108
00:42:50,917 --> 00:42:52,500
{\an1}- [laughs]
1109
00:42:52,583 --> 00:42:55,458
{\an1}We have just kind of been
missing each other
1110
00:42:55,583 --> 00:43:00,083
{\an1}repeatedly the past
like week and a half.
1111
00:43:00,208 --> 00:43:02,708
{\an1}And it's taking so much
emotionally and physically.
1112
00:43:02,833 --> 00:43:06,458
{\an1}And I want to make sure that
I feel more secure with him.
1113
00:43:06,542 --> 00:43:08,667
{\an1}So how are you feeling?
1114
00:43:08,750 --> 00:43:10,667
{\an1}- I'm feeling good.
1115
00:43:10,750 --> 00:43:12,667
{\an1}I mean, there's no denying
we've had a tough week.
1116
00:43:12,792 --> 00:43:14,750
{\an1}- A lot has happened
in such a short amount of time.
1117
00:43:14,875 --> 00:43:16,542
{\an1}- Right.
1118
00:43:16,667 --> 00:43:17,833
{\an1}- So this is just nice
to forget about all of that
1119
00:43:17,958 --> 00:43:19,625
{\an1}and just...
1120
00:43:19,750 --> 00:43:21,250
{\an1}- Wine and dine, yeah.
- [chuckling]
1121
00:43:21,375 --> 00:43:22,458
{\an1}- Well, and that
is important too
1122
00:43:22,583 --> 00:43:24,333
{\an1}because I kind of did ruin--
1123
00:43:24,458 --> 00:43:27,458
{\an1}I can't, I mean--
like, I know I--sure.
1124
00:43:27,542 --> 00:43:28,833
{\an1}I'll say it.
1125
00:43:28,958 --> 00:43:31,208
{\an1}I kind of ruined our
last winery visit.
1126
00:43:31,375 --> 00:43:32,500
{\an1}- I'm trying.
- I know you are.
1127
00:43:32,583 --> 00:43:33,958
{\an1}- And it's a lot.
- I know.
1128
00:43:34,042 --> 00:43:36,167
{\an1}I got tired of calling
your attention to it.
1129
00:43:36,292 --> 00:43:39,333
{\an1}I think that's the problem.
1130
00:43:39,458 --> 00:43:42,292
{\an1}- Can I just, like--
1131
00:43:42,375 --> 00:43:45,333
{\an1}[crying]
1132
00:43:45,458 --> 00:43:48,417
{\an1}[dramatic music]
1133
00:43:48,542 --> 00:43:50,667
{\an1}- So it's good to make it up.
1134
00:43:50,833 --> 00:43:52,500
{\an1}And yeah, I just--
1135
00:43:52,667 --> 00:43:54,833
{\an1}I hope to show you
who I truly am.
1136
00:43:54,917 --> 00:43:57,667
{\an1}That weekend was by no means,
like, who I am
1137
00:43:57,792 --> 00:43:59,583
{\an1}and who I want to be.
1138
00:43:59,708 --> 00:44:00,917
{\an1}Do I wish I reacted
differently?
1139
00:44:01,042 --> 00:44:02,208
{\an1}100%.
1140
00:44:02,333 --> 00:44:03,500
{\an1}You know,
do I wish I was not
1141
00:44:03,625 --> 00:44:04,917
{\an1}sensitive and overreactive?
1142
00:44:05,042 --> 00:44:06,167
{\an1}Yes.
1143
00:44:06,333 --> 00:44:07,500
{\an1}But it happened.
1144
00:44:07,667 --> 00:44:09,500
{\an1}And like I said,
I'm sorry for that.
1145
00:44:09,583 --> 00:44:11,292
{\an1}But I'm trying
to learn from that--
1146
00:44:11,375 --> 00:44:13,167
{\an1}- Mm-hmm.
- And move on.
1147
00:44:13,250 --> 00:44:14,500
{\an1}And I need to get
into a better place
1148
00:44:14,625 --> 00:44:16,458
{\an1}where I don't go 0 to 100--
1149
00:44:16,583 --> 00:44:17,833
{\an1}- Yeah.
1150
00:44:17,917 --> 00:44:19,708
{\an1}- Based on like
one heavy disagreement.
1151
00:44:19,833 --> 00:44:22,250
{\an1}- And I have to reassess,
like, if it's taking
1152
00:44:22,375 --> 00:44:23,875
{\an1}too much from me
to filter myself.
1153
00:44:24,000 --> 00:44:25,833
{\an1}Like, I did boil,
and that's what...
1154
00:44:25,917 --> 00:44:27,292
{\an1}- Right.
1155
00:44:27,375 --> 00:44:29,167
{\an1}- Me talking to Gabi
and just voicing my frustration
1156
00:44:29,292 --> 00:44:32,083
{\an1}without thinking, oh, my God,
if I tell Miguel this,
1157
00:44:32,208 --> 00:44:36,208
{\an1}he's gonna, like,
bounce, you know?
1158
00:44:36,333 --> 00:44:40,792
{\an1}- I acknowledge that I haven't
been like the rock you need.
1159
00:44:40,875 --> 00:44:44,000
{\an1}And I don't know if I can
exhibit that strength to,
1160
00:44:44,167 --> 00:44:46,583
{\an1}like, hold you accountable
like you mentioned to me,
1161
00:44:46,708 --> 00:44:49,708
{\an1}or like, you know,
put you in your place--
1162
00:44:49,875 --> 00:44:52,792
{\an1}you know,
be like that pillar of strength
1163
00:44:52,875 --> 00:44:56,000
{\an1}that you can lean on.
1164
00:44:56,125 --> 00:44:58,917
{\an1}- So that comment is
not supposed to be like,
1165
00:44:59,042 --> 00:45:01,208
{\an1}I need you to be
managing me constantly
1166
00:45:01,375 --> 00:45:02,792
{\an1}or anything like that.
1167
00:45:02,875 --> 00:45:04,792
{\an1}It shouldn't be taking
a lot of energy out of you.
1168
00:45:04,875 --> 00:45:06,667
{\an1}It just means that you need
to step up when I'm low.
1169
00:45:06,833 --> 00:45:08,333
{\an1}- No, I know.
And I guess I get that.
1170
00:45:08,458 --> 00:45:09,958
{\an1}- Mm-hmm.
1171
00:45:10,042 --> 00:45:12,542
{\an1}- But it does scare me
sometimes when you do have
1172
00:45:12,708 --> 00:45:14,208
{\an1}such a strong personality.
1173
00:45:14,333 --> 00:45:17,000
{\an1}And you know, it's like
your strong personality
1174
00:45:17,083 --> 00:45:18,917
{\an1}sometimes does overwhelm me.
1175
00:45:19,042 --> 00:45:21,000
{\an1}- Mm-hmm.
- And it catches me off guard.
1176
00:45:21,125 --> 00:45:22,625
{\an1}I haven't experienced
it before.
1177
00:45:22,750 --> 00:45:24,750
{\an1}I don't know.
It's a lot thrown at me.
1178
00:45:24,875 --> 00:45:26,458
{\an1}And you are theatric.
1179
00:45:26,583 --> 00:45:29,333
{\an1}Like, you're very
expressive and emotive.
1180
00:45:29,458 --> 00:45:31,583
{\an1}So I think when that happens,
1181
00:45:31,708 --> 00:45:34,667
{\an1}I'm just like
really caught off guard.
1182
00:45:34,750 --> 00:45:36,583
{\an1}And it does scare me
because I'm like, wow,
1183
00:45:36,708 --> 00:45:39,417
{\an1}this is taking a lot out of me.
1184
00:45:39,542 --> 00:45:42,375
{\an1}I mean, my main concern
right now is her emotions.
1185
00:45:42,500 --> 00:45:44,667
{\an1}Like, her expressive nature,
1186
00:45:44,792 --> 00:45:46,792
{\an1}sometimes,
it is a lot for me to handle.
1187
00:45:46,875 --> 00:45:48,667
{\an1}I don't know how to phrase it.
1188
00:45:48,792 --> 00:45:50,500
{\an1}But it's like that is
a legitimate fear of mine
1189
00:45:50,583 --> 00:45:53,417
{\an1}if I'm not able to be
the husband that Lindy needs.
1190
00:45:53,542 --> 00:45:54,792
{\an1}[sighs]
1191
00:45:54,917 --> 00:45:56,083
{\an1}I mean, there's no--
that's the thing.
1192
00:45:56,208 --> 00:45:57,542
{\an1}I don't know.
1193
00:45:57,667 --> 00:45:59,167
{\an1}Like, I can't guarantee
that right now.
1194
00:45:59,250 --> 00:46:02,042
{\an1}It's having me
reevaluate everything
1195
00:46:02,167 --> 00:46:05,292
{\an1}I thought I knew
about marriage going into this.
1196
00:46:05,375 --> 00:46:08,167
{\an1}And, uh, I don't know
1197
00:46:08,292 --> 00:46:10,750
{\an1}if I can be this person
day in, day out.
1198
00:46:10,875 --> 00:46:14,667
{\an1}[tense music]
1199
00:46:14,792 --> 00:46:18,458
{\an1}- ♪ Ooh,
is this the real thing? ♪
1200
00:46:18,583 --> 00:46:20,958
{\an1}♪ Baby, you and I ♪
1201
00:46:21,042 --> 00:46:23,833
{\an1}♪ Na, na, you and I ♪
1202
00:46:24,000 --> 00:46:25,583
{\an1}- Look at this view.
1203
00:46:25,708 --> 00:46:27,292
{\an1}- It's beautiful.
Hi.
1204
00:46:27,375 --> 00:46:28,250
{\an1}- Hey, what's up?
- Hi.
1205
00:46:28,375 --> 00:46:29,542
{\an1}- Thank you.
1206
00:46:29,667 --> 00:46:31,000
{\an1}- Thank you.
- Of course.
1207
00:46:31,083 --> 00:46:32,667
{\an1}Enjoy.
both: Thank you.
1208
00:46:32,750 --> 00:46:35,417
{\an1}♪ ♪
1209
00:46:35,542 --> 00:46:37,042
{\an1}How is it, good?
1210
00:46:37,167 --> 00:46:39,333
{\an1}- Uh-huh.
1211
00:46:39,500 --> 00:46:42,458
{\an1}So is there anything
that you want to talk about
1212
00:46:42,542 --> 00:46:45,792
{\an1}before Decision Day, so we
can make better decisions,
1213
00:46:45,917 --> 00:46:47,375
{\an1}so you can have
more information,
1214
00:46:47,542 --> 00:46:51,000
{\an1}you can feel more comfortable
with your decision?
1215
00:46:51,083 --> 00:46:55,500
{\an1}- Basically, I want to know,
1216
00:46:55,583 --> 00:46:57,833
{\an1}you know,
if you're, like, all in.
1217
00:46:57,917 --> 00:47:00,958
{\an1}And I want to know, like,
what are your biggest flaws?
1218
00:47:01,042 --> 00:47:02,917
{\an1}- You want to know my flaws?
1219
00:47:03,042 --> 00:47:04,708
{\an1}- Yeah, what are some flaws
that you have?
1220
00:47:04,833 --> 00:47:07,875
{\an1}♪ ♪
1221
00:47:08,000 --> 00:47:10,333
{\an1}- I think I shared
all my flaws with you.
1222
00:47:10,458 --> 00:47:12,208
{\an1}- Okay.
1223
00:47:12,333 --> 00:47:14,042
{\an1}♪ ♪
1224
00:47:14,208 --> 00:47:15,750
{\an1}- It's kind of a hard question.
1225
00:47:15,875 --> 00:47:19,167
{\an1}- That's fair.
1226
00:47:19,292 --> 00:47:21,667
{\an1}- So how are we feeling
about this love thing?
1227
00:47:21,792 --> 00:47:24,000
{\an1}How are those feelings now,
1228
00:47:24,083 --> 00:47:27,792
{\an1}now that we're
almost two months in?
1229
00:47:27,875 --> 00:47:30,000
{\an1}- It's too early for me.
1230
00:47:30,125 --> 00:47:32,167
{\an1}But, like,
my love for you is growing.
1231
00:47:32,250 --> 00:47:34,500
{\an1}And I can see
myself loving you,
1232
00:47:34,583 --> 00:47:38,208
{\an1}falling in love with you,
and being in love with you.
1233
00:47:38,333 --> 00:47:40,167
{\an1}But I don't want to force it,
you know?
1234
00:47:40,250 --> 00:47:44,625
{\an1}I think that just has
to come with time.
1235
00:47:44,750 --> 00:47:46,292
{\an1}You know,
I want to be able to, like,
1236
00:47:46,375 --> 00:47:48,167
{\an1}walk around naked
around you and all that.
1237
00:47:48,250 --> 00:47:50,333
{\an1}And I'm not even there yet.
You know what I mean?
1238
00:47:50,500 --> 00:47:53,167
{\an1}I'm still kind of, like, shy.
You know what I'm saying?
1239
00:47:53,292 --> 00:47:55,000
{\an1}And you know,
it's not me being insecure.
1240
00:47:55,125 --> 00:47:57,333
{\an1}It's just like,
you're new to me.
1241
00:47:57,458 --> 00:47:59,333
{\an1}And I think
once I get to that level,
1242
00:47:59,417 --> 00:48:01,250
{\an1}I'll be able
to open up all the way
1243
00:48:01,375 --> 00:48:03,625
{\an1}and be able to love you.
1244
00:48:03,708 --> 00:48:05,167
{\an1}[tense music]
1245
00:48:05,333 --> 00:48:07,708
{\an1}And hopefully,
like, you're patient.
1246
00:48:07,833 --> 00:48:12,042
{\an1}- I feel like sometimes you
not ever having that feeling,
1247
00:48:12,208 --> 00:48:14,333
{\an1}I don't know if you'll
ever have that feeling.
1248
00:48:16,458 --> 00:48:17,500
{\an1}- With love?
1249
00:48:17,667 --> 00:48:19,833
{\an1}- Yeah.
1250
00:48:19,958 --> 00:48:21,667
{\an1}- Why?
Why do you think that?
1251
00:48:21,792 --> 00:48:22,667
{\an1}- Because you've
never experienced it.
1252
00:48:22,792 --> 00:48:23,833
{\an1}- Well, I--
1253
00:48:23,917 --> 00:48:25,042
{\an1}- And you've been
in relationships.
1254
00:48:25,167 --> 00:48:26,417
{\an1}- I've had, like,
puppy love, remember?
1255
00:48:26,542 --> 00:48:27,750
{\an1}- Yeah, but that doesn't count.
- It's not the same.
1256
00:48:27,875 --> 00:48:29,167
{\an1}- High school doesn't count.
- Okay.
1257
00:48:29,292 --> 00:48:32,042
{\an1}- I'm saying, like, serious,
adult relationships.
1258
00:48:32,167 --> 00:48:33,958
{\an1}- Does that concern you?
1259
00:48:34,042 --> 00:48:35,542
{\an1}- Yeah,
it's one of my concerns--
1260
00:48:35,708 --> 00:48:37,083
{\an1}- One of them?
1261
00:48:37,208 --> 00:48:38,417
{\an1}- Being in a relationship
for two years
1262
00:48:38,542 --> 00:48:40,500
{\an1}and not loving a person,
living with them,
1263
00:48:40,625 --> 00:48:44,500
{\an1}like, I don't want to be
in a loveless relationship
1264
00:48:44,667 --> 00:48:49,333
{\an1}where we're living together,
we're sharing bank accounts,
1265
00:48:49,417 --> 00:48:52,000
{\an1}we have a kid.
1266
00:48:52,083 --> 00:48:53,917
{\an1}You know, I know, like,
you go through the motions
1267
00:48:54,042 --> 00:48:55,333
{\an1}in the morning.
1268
00:48:55,500 --> 00:48:56,833
{\an1}Like, you, you know,
give me a hug.
1269
00:48:56,917 --> 00:48:58,333
{\an1}And we cuddle
and stuff like that.
1270
00:48:58,458 --> 00:49:01,125
{\an1}But I just kind of feel
like if you were, like,
1271
00:49:01,250 --> 00:49:02,750
{\an1}in love with me,
it would kind of be
1272
00:49:02,875 --> 00:49:05,000
{\an1}just a little bit deeper.
1273
00:49:05,083 --> 00:49:06,542
{\an1}- That kind of hurts
my feelings.
1274
00:49:06,667 --> 00:49:08,542
{\an1}But I do care about you.
1275
00:49:08,708 --> 00:49:09,875
{\an1}- I'm not saying
that you don't.
1276
00:49:10,000 --> 00:49:11,208
{\an1}- Yeah, but you said it like,
1277
00:49:11,333 --> 00:49:13,333
{\an1}you feel like
it could be deeper.
1278
00:49:13,417 --> 00:49:15,083
{\an1}- Yeah, like, I feel--
- That's messed up.
1279
00:49:15,208 --> 00:49:17,083
{\an1}- Why is it messed up?
1280
00:49:17,208 --> 00:49:18,833
{\an1}- Because it's like you're
saying that my affection
1281
00:49:18,917 --> 00:49:20,000
{\an1}is not enough.
1282
00:49:20,083 --> 00:49:21,958
{\an1}- I didn't say that.
1283
00:49:22,083 --> 00:49:23,375
{\an1}- Then what are you
trying to say then?
1284
00:49:23,500 --> 00:49:25,750
{\an1}- I'm just trying
to say I feel like you
1285
00:49:25,875 --> 00:49:27,333
{\an1}don't have the burning desire.
1286
00:49:27,458 --> 00:49:28,958
{\an1}I feel like we're going
through the motions
1287
00:49:29,083 --> 00:49:31,000
{\an1}sometimes in the apartment.
1288
00:49:31,125 --> 00:49:32,833
{\an1}- That is one of my concerns.
1289
00:49:33,000 --> 00:49:34,958
{\an1}I'm gonna be
flat-out honest with you.
1290
00:49:35,042 --> 00:49:37,958
{\an1}I feel like I'm not going
to be able to make you happy
1291
00:49:38,042 --> 00:49:40,083
{\an1}and please you.
1292
00:49:40,208 --> 00:49:43,167
{\an1}And I feel like you're gonna
get bored very easy.
1293
00:49:43,250 --> 00:49:46,750
{\an1}And you're going to feel like
I'm not in love with you.
1294
00:49:46,875 --> 00:49:49,208
{\an1}- But you don't love me.
1295
00:49:49,333 --> 00:49:50,792
{\an1}- [sighs]
1296
00:49:50,875 --> 00:49:53,167
{\an1}- Right?
1297
00:49:53,250 --> 00:49:57,667
{\an1}- If you don't feel
that burning desire right now,
1298
00:49:57,750 --> 00:50:01,792
{\an1}and you feel like we're
going through the motions...
1299
00:50:01,917 --> 00:50:03,917
{\an1}♪ ♪
1300
00:50:04,042 --> 00:50:07,000
{\an1}That's a red flag to me.
1301
00:50:07,125 --> 00:50:08,875
{\an1}- He's not listening to me.
1302
00:50:09,000 --> 00:50:11,167
{\an1}He just listens to a few words.
1303
00:50:11,250 --> 00:50:13,292
{\an1}And he's triggered
by certain words.
1304
00:50:13,375 --> 00:50:16,375
{\an1}And then he just creates
his own understanding,
1305
00:50:16,500 --> 00:50:18,667
{\an1}narrative
of what he thinks I'm saying.
1306
00:50:18,792 --> 00:50:20,292
{\an1}- Here's the deal.
1307
00:50:20,375 --> 00:50:21,875
{\an1}Do you see what's
on my hand right now?
1308
00:50:22,042 --> 00:50:23,708
{\an1}- Yeah.
- Why do you think I did this?
1309
00:50:23,875 --> 00:50:25,333
{\an1}- To show your commitment.
1310
00:50:25,458 --> 00:50:26,833
{\an1}- Do you think I'm going
through the motions
1311
00:50:26,917 --> 00:50:28,833
{\an1}when I have
a [bleep] tattoo on my hand?
1312
00:50:28,917 --> 00:50:31,417
{\an1}♪ ♪
1313
00:50:31,542 --> 00:50:33,500
{\an1}- No, I think you're showing
your level of commitment.
1314
00:50:33,667 --> 00:50:34,875
{\an1}- Okay then.
1315
00:50:35,000 --> 00:50:36,333
{\an1}Two months in,
1316
00:50:36,458 --> 00:50:38,625
{\an1}you're already
questioning my love for you.
1317
00:50:38,750 --> 00:50:42,708
{\an1}Like, that hurts my feelings
when you say that stuff.
1318
00:50:42,875 --> 00:50:44,792
{\an1}I'm putting in a lot of effort.
1319
00:50:44,917 --> 00:50:47,250
{\an1}I'm being very affectionate
around you.
1320
00:50:47,375 --> 00:50:51,333
{\an1}- But I feel like that love,
burning desire feeling,
1321
00:50:51,417 --> 00:50:53,083
{\an1}that's what I want to feel.
1322
00:50:53,208 --> 00:50:55,000
{\an1}- Well, I'm sorry
if you don't feel that.
1323
00:50:55,083 --> 00:50:56,875
{\an1}♪ ♪
1324
00:50:57,042 --> 00:51:00,167
{\an1}I have deep feelings for you.
1325
00:51:00,333 --> 00:51:01,625
{\an1}- And that's what
I want to see.
1326
00:51:01,708 --> 00:51:03,083
{\an1}That's all I'm saying.
1327
00:51:03,208 --> 00:51:06,500
{\an1}- Okay, but I feel like
I do show you attention,
1328
00:51:06,625 --> 00:51:08,000
{\an1}and love, and affection.
1329
00:51:08,125 --> 00:51:09,667
{\an1}- You do, you do.
1330
00:51:09,792 --> 00:51:11,583
{\an1}- So what is missing then?
1331
00:51:11,708 --> 00:51:14,875
{\an1}- The love part.
1332
00:51:15,000 --> 00:51:16,292
{\an1}- That's what I'm looking for.
1333
00:51:16,375 --> 00:51:18,167
{\an1}- Okay, you got it.
We're going in circles.
1334
00:51:18,250 --> 00:51:20,000
{\an1}I'm done with this [bleep].
1335
00:51:20,125 --> 00:51:22,542
{\an1}[dramatic music]
1336
00:51:22,667 --> 00:51:24,333
{\an1}I'm done, I'm done.
1337
00:51:24,458 --> 00:51:26,333
{\an1}I don't want to [bleep] talk
about that [bleep] no more.
1338
00:51:26,500 --> 00:51:31,042
{\an1}- ♪ I see angels
falling down ♪
1339
00:51:33,625 --> 00:51:34,167
{\an1}rove my love,
♪ ♪e more than eh
1340
00:51:35,542 --> 00:51:37,292
{\an1}I've done more than enough
to prove my love,
1341
00:51:37,375 --> 00:51:38,833
{\an1}to prove my feelings,
1342
00:51:38,917 --> 00:51:40,667
{\an1}and to show her
that I'm committed.
1343
00:51:40,833 --> 00:51:41,750
{\an1}And if she's not seeing it,
there's nothing I can do.
1344
00:51:41,875 --> 00:51:44,250
{\an1}Because if I do say,
I love you,
1345
00:51:44,375 --> 00:51:46,750
{\an1}then how is she gonna
believe me then
1346
00:51:46,875 --> 00:51:50,167
{\an1}if I'm going
through the motions
1347
00:51:50,250 --> 00:51:54,208
{\an1}and she's not feeling
the burning desire?
1348
00:51:54,333 --> 00:51:56,833
{\an1}Basically, I feel
like we're in a cycle.
1349
00:51:56,958 --> 00:51:59,708
{\an1}This is
basically the same dialogue
1350
00:51:59,833 --> 00:52:03,958
{\an1}we had where you felt like,
you know, I wasn't genuine.
1351
00:52:04,042 --> 00:52:05,958
{\an1}- I don't agree.
1352
00:52:06,083 --> 00:52:07,583
{\an1}I just think that,
1353
00:52:07,708 --> 00:52:09,792
{\an1}I want to know,
what is this love feeling?
1354
00:52:09,917 --> 00:52:11,500
{\an1}- Look, to be honest with you,
1355
00:52:11,667 --> 00:52:13,917
{\an1}I don't love you right now,
okay?
1356
00:52:14,042 --> 00:52:15,250
{\an1}- Got that.
1357
00:52:15,375 --> 00:52:16,500
{\an1}- I've known you
for two months, okay?
1358
00:52:16,667 --> 00:52:18,125
{\an1}- Granted, yeah.
1359
00:52:18,250 --> 00:52:20,708
{\an1}- And it's gonna take me time
for my feelings
1360
00:52:20,833 --> 00:52:21,917
{\an1}to grow for you.
1361
00:52:22,042 --> 00:52:23,542
{\an1}- I know that.
1362
00:52:23,667 --> 00:52:25,125
{\an1}And I'm not saying
that I need that right now.
1363
00:52:25,208 --> 00:52:26,417
{\an1}- But what I'm saying--
1364
00:52:26,542 --> 00:52:28,000
{\an1}- I'm saying
that we work towards that.
1365
00:52:28,083 --> 00:52:29,333
{\an1}- The reason why I'm hurt
is because you think
1366
00:52:29,458 --> 00:52:30,958
{\an1}I'm going through the motions.
1367
00:52:31,042 --> 00:52:32,708
{\an1}- I just want to know
that we're working
1368
00:52:32,875 --> 00:52:34,625
{\an1}towards the love feeling.
1369
00:52:34,750 --> 00:52:36,208
{\an1}That's it.
1370
00:52:36,375 --> 00:52:38,333
{\an1}- Okay, and why don't
you feel that?
1371
00:52:38,417 --> 00:52:40,167
{\an1}- I feel like you like me.
1372
00:52:40,250 --> 00:52:42,000
{\an1}You like being around me.
1373
00:52:42,125 --> 00:52:43,958
{\an1}- But we're going
through the motions,
1374
00:52:44,042 --> 00:52:46,000
{\an1}so what's gonna happen next,
1375
00:52:46,125 --> 00:52:49,542
{\an1}when you feel
that it's not enough?
1376
00:52:49,708 --> 00:52:52,333
{\an1}What do I do?
Because now I'm stuck with you.
1377
00:52:52,417 --> 00:52:55,125
{\an1}- You're stuck with me?
- I'm stuck with you.
1378
00:52:55,208 --> 00:52:56,833
{\an1}- You're stuck.
- I'm stuck.
1379
00:52:56,958 --> 00:52:59,000
{\an1}- Then don't be stuck.
1380
00:52:59,167 --> 00:53:00,917
{\an1}- Exactly, I don't want
to be stuck with you.
1381
00:53:01,042 --> 00:53:02,208
{\an1}- That's--
1382
00:53:02,375 --> 00:53:03,708
{\an1}- I don't want to
be married to you
1383
00:53:03,833 --> 00:53:05,417
{\an1}because I don't want
to be with someone
1384
00:53:05,542 --> 00:53:07,667
{\an1}who doesn't feel
satisfied enough
1385
00:53:07,833 --> 00:53:09,208
{\an1}because I'm not doing enough.
1386
00:53:09,375 --> 00:53:11,792
{\an1}I don't want to be
with someone who thinks,
1387
00:53:11,917 --> 00:53:13,167
{\an1}you know,
I wasn't being genuine
1388
00:53:13,333 --> 00:53:14,542
{\an1}when I'm, like,
hugging on you in the morning.
1389
00:53:14,708 --> 00:53:16,875
{\an1}- I never said that you
weren't being genuine.
1390
00:53:17,000 --> 00:53:18,083
{\an1}I literally said
that I enjoyed that.
1391
00:53:18,208 --> 00:53:19,583
{\an1}- Here's the thing.
1392
00:53:19,708 --> 00:53:21,000
{\an1}Like, I just don't want
to go in circles anymore.
1393
00:53:21,083 --> 00:53:23,833
{\an1}I don't have time for that.
1394
00:53:24,000 --> 00:53:25,625
{\an1}I don't want to prove myself.
1395
00:53:25,750 --> 00:53:28,500
{\an1}I don't want to prove--like,
I'm tired of proving myself.
1396
00:53:28,625 --> 00:53:30,333
{\an1}[dramatic music]
1397
00:53:30,500 --> 00:53:33,042
{\an1}I'm getting to the point where
I just don't care no more.
1398
00:53:33,167 --> 00:53:36,500
{\an1}♪ ♪
1399
00:53:37,625 --> 00:53:40,500
{\an1}[upbeat music]
1400
00:53:40,625 --> 00:53:47,458
{\an1}♪ ♪
1401
00:53:49,750 --> 00:53:53,833
{\an1}- So I want
to propose something.
1402
00:53:54,000 --> 00:53:55,292
{\an1}- Okay.
1403
00:53:55,375 --> 00:53:57,292
{\an1}[laughing]
What'd you have in mind?
1404
00:53:59,917 --> 00:54:05,167
{\an1}- I was thinking,
if you would be open to it,
1405
00:54:05,250 --> 00:54:08,250
{\an1}maybe Luna, just for tonight
1406
00:54:08,375 --> 00:54:10,583
{\an1}as our last night
before Decision Day...
1407
00:54:10,708 --> 00:54:12,750
{\an1}- In the bed?
- Sleeps in the bed with us.
1408
00:54:12,875 --> 00:54:14,458
{\an1}- Yeah.
- Yeah?
1409
00:54:14,542 --> 00:54:15,833
{\an1}- Yeah.
1410
00:54:15,958 --> 00:54:18,333
{\an1}- This is the final night
that our couples will get
1411
00:54:18,500 --> 00:54:21,792
{\an1}to spend together
before Decision Day,
1412
00:54:21,917 --> 00:54:25,250
{\an1}so they must take
these last moments to explore
1413
00:54:25,375 --> 00:54:28,333
{\an1}any necessary information
to determine
1414
00:54:28,458 --> 00:54:32,000
{\an1}whether their futures
include one another.
1415
00:54:32,167 --> 00:54:33,417
{\an1}- Lulu?
1416
00:54:33,542 --> 00:54:34,667
{\an1}- She's probably
already in the bed.
1417
00:54:34,792 --> 00:54:36,125
{\an1}- There she is.
1418
00:54:36,208 --> 00:54:37,875
{\an1}Okay, we--no,
wait, come here.
1419
00:54:38,000 --> 00:54:39,583
{\an1}Come here.
1420
00:54:39,708 --> 00:54:42,042
{\an1}- Luna,
you're gonna get a treat.
1421
00:54:42,208 --> 00:54:43,333
{\an1}- Look, her tail's down.
1422
00:54:43,458 --> 00:54:44,833
{\an1}- Her tail is down.
1423
00:54:44,917 --> 00:54:46,292
{\an1}- Oh, yeah, come here, Lulu!
1424
00:54:46,375 --> 00:54:48,875
{\an1}No, no, no.
1425
00:54:49,042 --> 00:54:50,667
{\an1}She's under the bed.
1426
00:54:50,792 --> 00:54:52,000
{\an1}She's gone.
1427
00:54:52,125 --> 00:54:53,542
{\an1}You get the treats,
and I'll get her.
1428
00:54:53,708 --> 00:54:54,708
{\an1}- Okay.
Luna, I'm getting some treats.
1429
00:54:54,875 --> 00:54:57,875
{\an1}- God, it takes a village.
Luna, come here.
1430
00:54:58,000 --> 00:55:00,083
{\an1}♪ ♪
1431
00:55:00,208 --> 00:55:02,375
{\an1}- Chicken and Brown
Rice Recipe Sticks.
1432
00:55:02,500 --> 00:55:04,500
{\an1}- Come here.
She's on the other side.
1433
00:55:04,583 --> 00:55:06,542
{\an1}- These ones?
- Get her.
1434
00:55:06,708 --> 00:55:08,500
{\an1}- These ones?
- Yeah, that's perfect.
1435
00:55:08,625 --> 00:55:10,167
{\an1}- Get her.
1436
00:55:10,250 --> 00:55:14,292
{\an1}Okay, okay, okay, okay.
1437
00:55:14,417 --> 00:55:15,833
{\an1}Come here.
Nope, come here.
1438
00:55:15,958 --> 00:55:17,708
{\an1}- You want a treat?
- Wait, not yet, not yet--
1439
00:55:17,833 --> 00:55:19,000
{\an1}- I'm sorry.
1440
00:55:19,125 --> 00:55:21,000
{\an1}- Not until the cleaning
is complete.
1441
00:55:21,167 --> 00:55:23,333
{\an1}Okay, oh, yeah, there we go.
1442
00:55:23,458 --> 00:55:25,250
{\an1}- Oh, Luna,
you know you love it.
1443
00:55:25,375 --> 00:55:27,875
{\an1}Oh, look at that.
Oh, my God, it's so gross.
1444
00:55:28,042 --> 00:55:31,417
{\an1}- Not on the bed.
Oh, oh, oh.
1445
00:55:31,542 --> 00:55:32,792
{\an1}- At least she went to my side.
1446
00:55:32,917 --> 00:55:35,833
{\an1}- [laughs]
1447
00:55:36,000 --> 00:55:39,375
{\an1}So it's our last night
before Decision Day,
1448
00:55:39,500 --> 00:55:42,000
{\an1}and I've just never
been more confused.
1449
00:55:42,167 --> 00:55:45,042
{\an1}I really don't know
what each of us
1450
00:55:45,167 --> 00:55:47,458
{\an1}are gonna say on Decision Day.
1451
00:55:47,542 --> 00:55:50,000
{\an1}And I'm just really spent,
emotionally exhausted.
1452
00:55:50,167 --> 00:55:51,500
{\an1}I'm drained.
1453
00:55:51,583 --> 00:55:54,167
{\an1}And I'm just thinking
through if this marriage
1454
00:55:54,292 --> 00:55:56,167
{\an1}as a whole makes sense for me.
1455
00:55:56,333 --> 00:55:58,792
{\an1}This family meeting,
I hereby adjourn.
1456
00:55:58,917 --> 00:56:00,083
{\an1}That word can't be right.
1457
00:56:00,208 --> 00:56:02,083
{\an1}- I think adjourn is to end.
- Yeah.
1458
00:56:02,208 --> 00:56:04,125
{\an1}What do you think
to begin is?
1459
00:56:04,250 --> 00:56:05,542
{\an1}- We hereby commence
this family meeting.
1460
00:56:05,667 --> 00:56:07,458
{\an1}- I hereby commence
this family meeting,
1461
00:56:07,542 --> 00:56:10,333
{\an1}our last bedtime
before Decision Day.
1462
00:56:10,417 --> 00:56:12,083
{\an1}- This is true.
1463
00:56:12,208 --> 00:56:15,833
{\an1}- And a topic
for the family meeting
1464
00:56:15,958 --> 00:56:21,833
{\an1}is a reflection
of these last eight weeks.
1465
00:56:21,917 --> 00:56:24,208
{\an1}- I mean, I really feel like
you've helped me
1466
00:56:24,375 --> 00:56:25,792
{\an1}become a better person.
1467
00:56:25,917 --> 00:56:28,458
{\an1}And just,
I've always thought I was maybe
1468
00:56:28,583 --> 00:56:30,833
{\an1}in the grand scheme of things
reasonably self-aware.
1469
00:56:31,000 --> 00:56:32,458
{\an1}- Yeah.
1470
00:56:32,583 --> 00:56:34,083
{\an1}- But I still think
there were some big gaps.
1471
00:56:34,208 --> 00:56:36,500
{\an1}- Yeah.
- So I really appreciate that.
1472
00:56:36,583 --> 00:56:39,500
{\an1}And I just really appreciate
that how natural and easy
1473
00:56:39,625 --> 00:56:41,125
{\an1}it has been for us
to be a good team.
1474
00:56:41,208 --> 00:56:42,833
{\an1}- Yeah.
1475
00:56:42,917 --> 00:56:45,000
{\an1}- You know, obviously,
there's high emotions at stake.
1476
00:56:45,125 --> 00:56:47,708
{\an1}But I think in most
of your everyday situations,
1477
00:56:47,833 --> 00:56:51,083
{\an1}and conflicts that come up,
and everything else like that,
1478
00:56:51,208 --> 00:56:53,250
{\an1}we've just
been a really good team.
1479
00:56:53,375 --> 00:56:54,583
{\an1}And I guess
I just want you to know
1480
00:56:54,708 --> 00:56:58,125
{\an1}that I really do
appreciate you.
1481
00:56:58,208 --> 00:56:59,667
{\an1}And I really do.
1482
00:56:59,792 --> 00:57:01,083
{\an1}And you know,
there were times when
1483
00:57:01,208 --> 00:57:01,958
{\an1}we were just
cuddling or sleeping
1484
00:57:02,083 --> 00:57:03,917
{\an1}when I just felt like--
1485
00:57:04,042 --> 00:57:05,667
{\an1}just a lot of love,
you know what I mean?
1486
00:57:05,833 --> 00:57:07,625
{\an1}And I know that,
you know, maybe--
1487
00:57:07,708 --> 00:57:09,625
{\an1}you know,
I've been pretty honest
1488
00:57:09,750 --> 00:57:11,708
{\an1}that I don't necessarily
maybe feel like I'm in love.
1489
00:57:11,875 --> 00:57:13,333
{\an1}- Yeah.
- You know what I mean?
1490
00:57:13,500 --> 00:57:14,792
{\an1}But I do love you.
1491
00:57:14,875 --> 00:57:17,125
{\an1}And I just want you
to know that.
1492
00:57:17,208 --> 00:57:18,583
{\an1}- Thanks, babe.
1493
00:57:18,708 --> 00:57:19,958
{\an1}- And you're
a beautiful person.
1494
00:57:20,042 --> 00:57:21,500
{\an1}- Thank you.
1495
00:57:21,583 --> 00:57:22,333
{\an1}- I just need you
to know that because...
1496
00:57:22,500 --> 00:57:24,000
{\an1}- Thank you.
1497
00:57:24,125 --> 00:57:26,375
{\an1}- Sometimes, you haven't
always felt like that.
1498
00:57:26,500 --> 00:57:28,375
{\an1}- Yeah, no, I haven't.
1499
00:57:28,542 --> 00:57:30,833
{\an1}I mean, I've told you before,
like, I definitely--
1500
00:57:30,958 --> 00:57:33,833
{\an1}I have a lot
of love for you too.
1501
00:57:34,000 --> 00:57:36,833
{\an1}I'm, like, trying to figure--
navigate that.
1502
00:57:36,958 --> 00:57:40,208
{\an1}And sometimes,
it feels like a romantic love.
1503
00:57:40,333 --> 00:57:41,458
{\an1}And then sometimes,
it just feels like
1504
00:57:41,542 --> 00:57:43,000
{\an1}I care about you so much.
1505
00:57:43,167 --> 00:57:45,333
{\an1}But it's there for sure too.
1506
00:57:45,417 --> 00:57:48,333
{\an1}Of course it is.
And I really want it to work.
1507
00:57:48,458 --> 00:57:52,625
{\an1}I mean, it makes me
really, really sad
1508
00:57:52,708 --> 00:57:54,375
{\an1}to think that this would be
the last night.
1509
00:57:54,542 --> 00:57:55,667
{\an1}I mean, look.
1510
00:57:55,792 --> 00:57:57,000
{\an1}Look how happy
our little girl is.
1511
00:57:57,125 --> 00:57:58,667
{\an1}Oh, God.
1512
00:57:58,792 --> 00:58:01,750
{\an1}Hi, bubba.
1513
00:58:01,875 --> 00:58:04,167
{\an1}- Well, it will definitely be
the last night in this bed...
1514
00:58:04,292 --> 00:58:06,292
{\an1}- Yeah.
- In this house.
1515
00:58:06,375 --> 00:58:10,625
{\an1}- What do you say
we try to cuddle,
1516
00:58:10,750 --> 00:58:13,458
{\an1}even with Luna here,
and go to sleep?
1517
00:58:13,542 --> 00:58:15,333
{\an1}- I think that's gonna
make me very happy.
1518
00:58:15,458 --> 00:58:22,417
{\an1}- All right.
- Good night, babe.
1519
00:58:22,542 --> 00:58:25,708
{\an1}- ♪ When you reach
into my heart ♪
1520
00:58:25,833 --> 00:58:29,042
{\an1}♪ And it feels electric ♪
1521
00:58:29,167 --> 00:58:30,583
{\an1}♪ Won't you tell me
we can live forever? ♪
1522
00:58:30,708 --> 00:58:32,792
{\an1}- Hello, hello.
- Howdy.
1523
00:58:32,917 --> 00:58:35,250
{\an1}- How you feeling?
- I'm feeling wonderful.
1524
00:58:35,375 --> 00:58:36,667
{\an1}- It's been a good day.
1525
00:58:36,833 --> 00:58:38,333
{\an1}- It's kind of crazy
that we're towards the end--
1526
00:58:38,458 --> 00:58:39,833
{\an1}- Mm-hmm.
1527
00:58:39,917 --> 00:58:42,250
{\an1}- Because it's been
a long eight weeks.
1528
00:58:42,375 --> 00:58:44,042
{\an1}It feels like eight months.
1529
00:58:44,167 --> 00:58:47,667
{\an1}- It has been an emotional
roller coaster, girl.
1530
00:58:47,833 --> 00:58:49,125
{\an1}- Because usually,
I'm not emotional.
1531
00:58:49,250 --> 00:58:53,375
{\an1}And I let you wind me
like this every time.
1532
00:58:53,500 --> 00:58:55,375
{\an1}How you feeling
about Decision Day?
1533
00:58:55,500 --> 00:58:56,542
{\an1}- I'm happy.
I'm cool.
1534
00:58:56,667 --> 00:58:57,917
{\an1}I'm gonna be all right.
1535
00:58:58,042 --> 00:58:59,583
{\an1}I've just come
to terms with there's
1536
00:58:59,708 --> 00:59:01,125
{\an1}a chance you can say yes,
1537
00:59:01,250 --> 00:59:02,375
{\an1}there's a chance
you can say no.
1538
00:59:02,542 --> 00:59:04,292
{\an1}- I mean, so this is my thing.
1539
00:59:04,417 --> 00:59:07,167
{\an1}I'm honestly nervous
because I don't know
1540
00:59:07,292 --> 00:59:09,958
{\an1}what decision to make.
1541
00:59:10,042 --> 00:59:11,125
{\an1}- Mm-hmm.
1542
00:59:11,250 --> 00:59:12,500
{\an1}- This is a lot for me.
- Hm.
1543
00:59:12,667 --> 00:59:13,958
{\an1}- It's a lot for me.
1544
00:59:14,083 --> 00:59:15,625
{\an1}And the fact
that I don't know is
1545
00:59:15,750 --> 00:59:17,667
{\an1}really, like, dang,
does that mean something,
1546
00:59:17,750 --> 00:59:19,042
{\an1}that I don't know?
1547
00:59:19,167 --> 00:59:20,625
{\an1}- Mm-hmm.
1548
00:59:20,708 --> 00:59:22,417
{\an1}- Because I should be going
into Decision Day
1549
00:59:22,542 --> 00:59:24,833
{\an1}full throttle, this my man.
1550
00:59:24,958 --> 00:59:27,833
{\an1}- I agree.
- And I'm down forever.
1551
00:59:27,958 --> 00:59:29,333
{\an1}I don't know
if it's that you had
1552
00:59:29,458 --> 00:59:32,125
{\an1}your realization too late
because better late than never.
1553
00:59:32,208 --> 00:59:33,500
{\an1}- Mm-hmm.
1554
00:59:33,583 --> 00:59:36,292
{\an1}- Imagine spending
seven weeks getting me
1555
00:59:36,417 --> 00:59:38,083
{\an1}to speak the same language.
1556
00:59:38,208 --> 00:59:41,333
{\an1}And then we finally get it but,
like, right before it's time.
1557
00:59:41,458 --> 00:59:42,667
{\an1}- But it ain't all
been bad, though.
1558
00:59:42,750 --> 00:59:44,583
{\an1}- I'm not saying
it's been bad, baby.
1559
00:59:44,708 --> 00:59:46,000
{\an1}We have some beautiful times.
- Like, it ain't--
1560
00:59:46,125 --> 00:59:48,292
{\an1}- We have, but I'm saying,
that was my main frustration.
1561
00:59:48,375 --> 00:59:49,875
{\an1}- Mm.
1562
00:59:50,000 --> 00:59:51,625
{\an1}- And for you to finally
just have this realization,
1563
00:59:51,708 --> 00:59:53,583
{\an1}I don't want to say a part
of me doesn't believe it.
1564
00:59:53,708 --> 00:59:55,125
{\an1}- Mm-hmm, okay.
1565
00:59:55,208 --> 00:59:56,417
{\an1}- I want to.
I want this.
1566
00:59:56,542 --> 00:59:58,000
{\an1}I want us to work it out.
1567
00:59:58,125 --> 01:00:00,708
{\an1}I guess I need
the affirmation now.
1568
01:00:00,833 --> 01:00:02,833
{\an1}- I can't go back seven weeks
because I didn't--
1569
01:00:03,000 --> 01:00:04,042
{\an1}- I know.
1570
01:00:04,167 --> 01:00:05,792
{\an1}I'm just--in this moment,
1571
01:00:05,917 --> 01:00:08,292
{\an1}I think I'm actually
considering Decision Day,
1572
01:00:08,375 --> 01:00:11,333
{\an1}like, oh, crap, you know, like,
it's a thing that's happening.
1573
01:00:11,458 --> 01:00:13,292
{\an1}And it's a big deal.
1574
01:00:13,375 --> 01:00:15,458
{\an1}Like, at first, I wasn't
thinking it was a big deal.
1575
01:00:15,583 --> 01:00:16,792
{\an1}But it's a big deal.
1576
01:00:16,917 --> 01:00:18,750
{\an1}And I'm
your number one fan, baby.
1577
01:00:18,875 --> 01:00:20,458
{\an1}You know,
I want us to work out.
1578
01:00:20,583 --> 01:00:22,667
{\an1}I want us to do everything
1579
01:00:22,833 --> 01:00:25,458
{\an1}that we initially talked
about eight weeks back.
1580
01:00:25,542 --> 01:00:27,000
{\an1}I want that.
1581
01:00:27,083 --> 01:00:31,000
{\an1}- ♪ Don't make
make me say goodbye ♪
1582
01:00:31,917 --> 01:00:34,292
{\an1}- ♪ I know
we went through hell ♪
1583
01:00:34,417 --> 01:00:36,375
{\an1}♪ With all that happened ♪
1584
01:00:36,500 --> 01:00:40,500
{\an1}♪ We gave it our best,
the sky was caving in ♪
1585
01:00:40,625 --> 01:00:42,500
{\an1}- I'm exhausted.
1586
01:00:42,625 --> 01:00:44,542
{\an1}We were supposed to have
this romantic dinner.
1587
01:00:44,667 --> 01:00:48,083
{\an1}And he kind of just
blew up again.
1588
01:00:48,208 --> 01:00:50,958
{\an1}I feel like, how long are
we gonna continue this cycle
1589
01:00:51,042 --> 01:00:54,167
{\an1}of you getting upset,
and having your tantrums,
1590
01:00:54,292 --> 01:00:57,625
{\an1}and not using the tools
that we've been given.
1591
01:00:57,708 --> 01:01:00,208
{\an1}[sighs]
1592
01:01:00,333 --> 01:01:02,833
{\an1}The conversations now are,
you know,
1593
01:01:03,000 --> 01:01:04,208
{\an1}I don't think
I'll ever be able
1594
01:01:04,333 --> 01:01:05,792
{\an1}to meet your expectations.
1595
01:01:05,917 --> 01:01:08,167
{\an1}Like, that's not what I want
to hear from my husband.
1596
01:01:08,292 --> 01:01:11,042
{\an1}There are gonna be times
where I need reassurance.
1597
01:01:11,208 --> 01:01:15,708
{\an1}And he thinks that that's just
an ask that's far beyond him.
1598
01:01:15,833 --> 01:01:18,292
{\an1}And I don't think so,
and that's really what
1599
01:01:18,417 --> 01:01:21,375
{\an1}what I'm considering,
so we'll see how this goes.
1600
01:01:21,542 --> 01:01:24,000
{\an1}[soft music]
1601
01:01:24,083 --> 01:01:27,667
{\an1}So what do you enjoy
about being married to me?
1602
01:01:27,792 --> 01:01:33,167
{\an1}- Um, probably...
1603
01:01:40,250 --> 01:01:43,750
{\an1}[clock ticking]
1604
01:01:43,875 --> 01:01:48,500
{\an1}The friendship aspect
makes me hopeful.
1605
01:01:48,583 --> 01:01:52,500
{\an1}A lot of the things that we do,
it's very effortless.
1606
01:01:52,583 --> 01:01:57,292
{\an1}And I like you for you,
you know, your personality.
1607
01:01:57,375 --> 01:01:59,292
{\an1}- Hm.
1608
01:01:59,417 --> 01:02:01,083
{\an1}♪ ♪
1609
01:02:01,208 --> 01:02:04,958
{\an1}I have tried to be
as genuine as possible.
1610
01:02:05,042 --> 01:02:07,500
{\an1}I've tried to be as honest,
1611
01:02:07,625 --> 01:02:10,917
{\an1}and I've tried
to be transparent.
1612
01:02:11,042 --> 01:02:13,250
{\an1}I don't have no regrets.
1613
01:02:13,375 --> 01:02:15,542
{\an1}- Same.
- No regrets--
1614
01:02:15,708 --> 01:02:17,500
{\an1}- No regrets.
1615
01:02:17,667 --> 01:02:20,083
{\an1}- Of, like,
spazzing on me or anything,
1616
01:02:20,208 --> 01:02:22,833
{\an1}you wouldn't want
to take that back?
1617
01:02:22,958 --> 01:02:27,167
{\an1}- Well, I mean, of course,
I don't feel great about that.
1618
01:02:27,250 --> 01:02:28,958
{\an1}♪ ♪
1619
01:02:29,042 --> 01:02:33,208
{\an1}So, like, do I regret it?
1620
01:02:33,375 --> 01:02:37,500
{\an1}I think it's human
for people to make mistakes
1621
01:02:37,625 --> 01:02:41,667
{\an1}and get emotional.
1622
01:02:41,792 --> 01:02:47,167
{\an1}So I apologize
if I've spazzed out on you.
1623
01:02:49,583 --> 01:02:53,542
{\an1}I am regretful, so I apologize
1624
01:02:53,708 --> 01:02:55,667
{\an1}if that's the answer
you're looking for.
1625
01:02:55,833 --> 01:02:59,500
{\an1}- But is it gonna
continue to happen?
1626
01:02:59,625 --> 01:03:01,167
{\an1}- No, it's not.
1627
01:03:01,333 --> 01:03:03,833
{\an1}- But we've had
a conversation before
1628
01:03:04,000 --> 01:03:06,542
{\an1}about throwing things
in your face,
1629
01:03:06,708 --> 01:03:08,625
{\an1}and are you going
to use the tools?
1630
01:03:08,708 --> 01:03:10,500
{\an1}When they don't happen,
it's like, why?
1631
01:03:10,625 --> 01:03:13,000
{\an1}- I understand.
1632
01:03:13,125 --> 01:03:15,458
{\an1}- The experts gave us
these tools to be used
1633
01:03:15,542 --> 01:03:18,167
{\an1}in times when we're upset.
1634
01:03:18,250 --> 01:03:20,833
{\an1}My fear or insecurity is,
you know,
1635
01:03:20,958 --> 01:03:23,333
{\an1}being left
when things are hard,
1636
01:03:23,417 --> 01:03:26,333
{\an1}or when you're mad,
or you're not gonna come back.
1637
01:03:26,458 --> 01:03:30,583
{\an1}- And I think one way to
help her with that is to say,
1638
01:03:30,708 --> 01:03:33,417
{\an1}"I'm angry,
but I'm not going anywhere."
1639
01:03:33,542 --> 01:03:36,167
{\an1}And I'll give you one other
hint that I truly love.
1640
01:03:36,292 --> 01:03:38,833
{\an1}I think if you're gonna
have a tough discussion,
1641
01:03:38,958 --> 01:03:40,208
{\an1}hold hands.
1642
01:03:40,333 --> 01:03:41,917
{\an1}- Oh, my God.
1643
01:03:42,042 --> 01:03:44,292
{\an1}My mom told me the same thing.
1644
01:03:44,375 --> 01:03:45,500
{\an1}- Love your mom.
[laughs]
1645
01:03:45,583 --> 01:03:47,000
{\an1}It's true.
1646
01:03:47,083 --> 01:03:50,333
{\an1}- And I want to know
that Nate is going to use
1647
01:03:50,458 --> 01:03:52,833
{\an1}these tools going forward.
1648
01:03:52,958 --> 01:03:56,375
{\an1}So the tools are to be used
when you're in the heat
1649
01:03:56,500 --> 01:03:57,875
{\an1}of the emotion and upset.
1650
01:03:58,042 --> 01:03:59,167
{\an1}- And then I came
back an hour later.
1651
01:03:59,292 --> 01:04:00,958
{\an1}And I used the tools,
yes or no?
1652
01:04:01,083 --> 01:04:02,625
{\an1}- Yes, you used the tools.
1653
01:04:02,750 --> 01:04:03,875
{\an1}- I did use the tools.
- But you--
1654
01:04:04,000 --> 01:04:05,167
{\an1}- That's it.
1655
01:04:05,292 --> 01:04:06,833
{\an1}- You already lashed out,
though.
1656
01:04:06,917 --> 01:04:07,667
{\an1}And you already said
all this crazy stuff.
1657
01:04:07,750 --> 01:04:09,042
{\an1}- [sighs]
1658
01:04:09,167 --> 01:04:10,000
{\an1}- "I don't want
to be stuck with you."
1659
01:04:10,125 --> 01:04:11,542
{\an1}"I'm gonna cut my losses."
1660
01:04:11,667 --> 01:04:12,917
{\an1}Before you get to that point--
1661
01:04:13,042 --> 01:04:14,292
{\an1}- Now you're throwing
it in my face again.
1662
01:04:14,375 --> 01:04:16,292
{\an1}- The tools are to be used
in the heat of the moment.
1663
01:04:16,417 --> 01:04:18,208
{\an1}- Well, I'm telling you,
it's gonna be hard
1664
01:04:18,333 --> 01:04:19,917
{\an1}for me to use tools
right there and then
1665
01:04:20,042 --> 01:04:21,625
{\an1}because I'm emotional.
1666
01:04:21,750 --> 01:04:24,125
{\an1}And I'm not gonna
be thinking as logical,
1667
01:04:24,208 --> 01:04:26,125
{\an1}so it doesn't make sense
for me to use tools
1668
01:04:26,208 --> 01:04:27,750
{\an1}if I'm in a heightened emotion.
1669
01:04:27,875 --> 01:04:30,042
{\an1}- Right, and I think
what we have to do
1670
01:04:30,167 --> 01:04:32,375
{\an1}when we're
in those heightened emotions
1671
01:04:32,500 --> 01:04:36,542
{\an1}is calm down instead of spewing
all these crazy things
1672
01:04:36,667 --> 01:04:39,583
{\an1}that we either don't mean
or that are disrespectful
1673
01:04:39,708 --> 01:04:41,292
{\an1}because the damage
is already done.
1674
01:04:41,417 --> 01:04:42,833
{\an1}- Okay.
1675
01:04:42,958 --> 01:04:44,500
{\an1}- So all of that stuff had
already been said to me.
1676
01:04:44,625 --> 01:04:47,667
{\an1}- I literally came to you
an hour later after dinner.
1677
01:04:47,792 --> 01:04:49,667
{\an1}And I held your hands.
1678
01:04:49,792 --> 01:04:51,458
{\an1}I made eye contact with you.
1679
01:04:51,542 --> 01:04:52,917
{\an1}I apologized.
1680
01:04:53,042 --> 01:04:54,667
{\an1}You disregarded
that whole thing.
1681
01:04:54,833 --> 01:04:56,583
{\an1}And it took you
almost five minutes.
1682
01:04:56,708 --> 01:04:59,333
{\an1}And it was very hard
for you to say, yes, Nate,
1683
01:04:59,458 --> 01:05:02,000
{\an1}you used those tools.
1684
01:05:02,167 --> 01:05:04,500
{\an1}I've been telling you that
I need words of encouragement.
1685
01:05:04,583 --> 01:05:05,792
{\an1}I need positive reinforcement.
1686
01:05:05,917 --> 01:05:07,833
{\an1}And you're not
giving that to me.
1687
01:05:07,958 --> 01:05:09,958
{\an1}I'm gonna continue
to get upset every time
1688
01:05:10,042 --> 01:05:12,000
{\an1}you don't recognize me
for my efforts.
1689
01:05:12,083 --> 01:05:15,500
{\an1}Not giving me credit ties
into me not being
1690
01:05:15,625 --> 01:05:16,833
{\an1}recognized for my commitments.
1691
01:05:16,958 --> 01:05:18,917
{\an1}And that just ties
into my insecurity
1692
01:05:19,042 --> 01:05:21,125
{\an1}of not being good enough.
1693
01:05:21,208 --> 01:05:24,208
{\an1}And that's how I get triggered.
1694
01:05:24,375 --> 01:05:27,333
{\an1}I'm not gonna
sign up for that.
1695
01:05:27,458 --> 01:05:29,542
{\an1}- You're not gonna sign up
for your triggers.
1696
01:05:29,708 --> 01:05:31,833
{\an1}- Not if my partner's
not gonna help me out with it.
1697
01:05:32,000 --> 01:05:33,875
{\an1}- I am helping you.
- No, you're not.
1698
01:05:34,042 --> 01:05:36,292
{\an1}You're the one that's
helping me get triggered.
1699
01:05:36,375 --> 01:05:38,375
{\an1}[tense music]
1700
01:05:38,542 --> 01:05:42,083
{\an1}I can't be married
to somebody like that.
1701
01:05:42,208 --> 01:05:45,333
{\an1}- I'm not trying to throw
anything in your face.
1702
01:05:45,417 --> 01:05:47,958
{\an1}I want you to, you know,
feel good about yourself
1703
01:05:48,042 --> 01:05:49,833
{\an1}and the marriage.
1704
01:05:49,958 --> 01:05:51,000
{\an1}And I think
there's a lot of hurt
1705
01:05:51,083 --> 01:05:52,333
{\an1}that we have to get through.
1706
01:05:52,458 --> 01:05:54,167
{\an1}- [sighs]
1707
01:05:54,250 --> 01:05:58,292
{\an1}- And it's not something that
we're going to solve in a day.
1708
01:05:58,375 --> 01:06:00,542
{\an1}[soft music]
1709
01:06:00,708 --> 01:06:04,167
{\an1}- I don't want to be unhappy.
- Yeah, me too.
1710
01:06:04,250 --> 01:06:06,125
{\an1}- And right now,
I choose happiness
1711
01:06:06,208 --> 01:06:08,792
{\an1}over a marriage any day.
1712
01:06:08,917 --> 01:06:11,167
{\an1}- ♪ We were
on a crash course ♪
1713
01:06:11,292 --> 01:06:15,500
{\an1}♪ Waiting for the day to come,
both of us nervous ♪
1714
01:06:15,625 --> 01:06:20,917
{\an1}♪ ♪
1715
01:06:21,042 --> 01:06:22,875
{\an1}- ♪ I don't know why, why ♪
1716
01:06:23,000 --> 01:06:24,500
{\an1}♪ Why I've been waiting
for this ♪
1717
01:06:24,667 --> 01:06:27,708
{\an1}♪ Wasting no time, time ♪
1718
01:06:27,875 --> 01:06:29,667
{\an1}♪ Starting from the bottom ♪
1719
01:06:29,833 --> 01:06:31,167
{\an1}- Are you gonna miss me?
1720
01:06:31,292 --> 01:06:33,208
{\an1}- Of course I'm gonna
miss you, girl.
1721
01:06:33,375 --> 01:06:35,125
{\an1}My bed's gonna be empty
at my place.
1722
01:06:35,208 --> 01:06:36,583
{\an1}It's going to be cold.
1723
01:06:36,708 --> 01:06:38,500
{\an1}You know, I ain't got
nothing to snuggle up to.
1724
01:06:38,625 --> 01:06:39,917
{\an1}[chuckles]
1725
01:06:40,042 --> 01:06:43,000
{\an1}- It's the final day
before Decision day.
1726
01:06:43,125 --> 01:06:46,125
{\an1}And our couples are feeling
the immense pressure
1727
01:06:46,250 --> 01:06:50,292
{\an1}of making the biggest decision
of their lives.
1728
01:06:50,375 --> 01:06:54,667
{\an1}- Feel free to text me
when you get there safely.
1729
01:06:54,792 --> 01:06:56,542
{\an1}- I will.
1730
01:06:56,667 --> 01:06:58,458
{\an1}- In order to better evaluate
the last eight weeks
1731
01:06:58,583 --> 01:07:00,792
{\an1}of their marriage,
our couples will
1732
01:07:00,875 --> 01:07:03,625
{\an1}spend their last day alone.
1733
01:07:03,708 --> 01:07:05,917
{\an1}- Like, you should just
come with me, you know?
1734
01:07:06,042 --> 01:07:07,583
{\an1}- That defeats the purpose,
honey.
1735
01:07:07,708 --> 01:07:09,042
{\an1}- No, it don't.
1736
01:07:09,208 --> 01:07:11,958
{\an1}We can just walk
in there together.
1737
01:07:12,042 --> 01:07:13,500
{\an1}[laughs]
You know?
1738
01:07:13,625 --> 01:07:15,083
{\an1}I think that's everything.
1739
01:07:15,208 --> 01:07:16,917
{\an1}- I feel like you would
stalk me if I said no.
1740
01:07:17,042 --> 01:07:18,167
{\an1}You'd be outside
my window or something.
1741
01:07:18,292 --> 01:07:20,167
{\an1}- Mm-mm.
I'm too lazy for that.
1742
01:07:20,292 --> 01:07:21,500
{\an1}- Oh, true.
- I'm too goddamn lazy.
1743
01:07:21,625 --> 01:07:22,958
{\an1}- That is also true.
1744
01:07:23,042 --> 01:07:24,750
{\an1}Decision Day is tomorrow.
1745
01:07:24,875 --> 01:07:27,417
{\an1}And I feel overwhelmed
1746
01:07:27,542 --> 01:07:29,208
{\an1}because I don't know
if I see this man
1747
01:07:29,375 --> 01:07:31,083
{\an1}as the person I'm gonna be
with the rest of my life.
1748
01:07:31,208 --> 01:07:32,917
{\an1}It's just like,
if everything was good,
1749
01:07:33,042 --> 01:07:35,000
{\an1}then okay, cool.
1750
01:07:35,083 --> 01:07:37,042
{\an1}But I feel like
the great times
1751
01:07:37,167 --> 01:07:39,167
{\an1}that we had together
almost makes me
1752
01:07:39,250 --> 01:07:41,208
{\an1}question it more because
when we have the bad times,
1753
01:07:41,375 --> 01:07:43,833
{\an1}I'm just like,
how do we go from so good
1754
01:07:43,958 --> 01:07:47,875
{\an1}to so bad within the matter
of a short period of time?
1755
01:07:48,042 --> 01:07:51,292
{\an1}So I don't know.
1756
01:07:51,375 --> 01:07:53,000
{\an1}Going through
these eight weeks,
1757
01:07:53,125 --> 01:07:55,000
{\an1}I needed to be forced
to be committed
1758
01:07:55,083 --> 01:07:59,167
{\an1}because I'm not
a committed person,
1759
01:07:59,250 --> 01:08:01,250
{\an1}no matter how much
I thought I was.
1760
01:08:01,375 --> 01:08:04,708
{\an1}I realized that, like,
I have a fear of being all in,
1761
01:08:04,875 --> 01:08:07,125
{\an1}you know, because I'm like,
what if this, what if that,
1762
01:08:07,208 --> 01:08:10,417
{\an1}what if this, what if that?
1763
01:08:10,542 --> 01:08:12,417
{\an1}I think it's about being
present and grounded
1764
01:08:12,542 --> 01:08:15,333
{\an1}and take
all the possibilities out
1765
01:08:15,500 --> 01:08:16,875
{\an1}and focus on where we're at.
1766
01:08:17,000 --> 01:08:18,500
{\an1}- Mm-hmm.
1767
01:08:18,583 --> 01:08:20,125
{\an1}- Don't put the worry
before the problem.
1768
01:08:20,250 --> 01:08:21,625
{\an1}I always say that
to everybody else.
1769
01:08:21,708 --> 01:08:23,500
{\an1}And I needed to take
that advice for myself.
1770
01:08:23,583 --> 01:08:26,250
{\an1}And I acknowledged it,
you know?
1771
01:08:26,375 --> 01:08:28,083
{\an1}And I feel like
I'm overcoming it.
1772
01:08:28,208 --> 01:08:30,375
{\an1}Yeah.
- That's beautiful, girl.
1773
01:08:30,500 --> 01:08:32,166
{\an1}- Yeah.
1774
01:08:32,291 --> 01:08:34,333
{\an1}- I trust myself
to make the right decision.
1775
01:08:34,458 --> 01:08:37,166
{\an1}I just--some days,
I feel like I want to say no.
1776
01:08:37,333 --> 01:08:38,916
{\an1}Some days,
I feel like I want to say yes.
1777
01:08:39,041 --> 01:08:42,166
{\an1}Some days,
I am straight on, you know?
1778
01:08:42,333 --> 01:08:44,625
{\an1}It's an emotional
roller coaster, you know?
1779
01:08:44,708 --> 01:08:46,333
{\an1}- Let's get
this Decision Day over with.
1780
01:08:46,416 --> 01:08:48,250
{\an1}- It's a big day tomorrow.
1781
01:08:48,375 --> 01:08:50,333
{\an1}- What you gon' wear?
1782
01:08:50,416 --> 01:08:52,041
{\an1}- I guess you got
to wait and see.
1783
01:08:52,166 --> 01:08:54,250
{\an1}- Okay.
1784
01:08:56,708 --> 01:09:00,166
{\an1}- ♪ Oh, honey,
won't you come with me ♪
1785
01:09:00,333 --> 01:09:04,708
{\an1}♪ Come with me, come with me ♪
1786
01:09:04,833 --> 01:09:09,958
{\an1}♪ Oh, honey, won't you come
with me, come with me ♪
1787
01:09:10,041 --> 01:09:12,500
{\an1}♪ Come with me ♪
1788
01:09:12,625 --> 01:09:16,000
{\an1}- So I guess--
- You're leaving me?
1789
01:09:16,166 --> 01:09:17,666
{\an1}- I tried to get
my [bleep] together.
1790
01:09:17,791 --> 01:09:19,708
{\an1}But I guess you've had
enough of my [bleep].
1791
01:09:19,833 --> 01:09:22,166
{\an1}- This is crazy though
because this is the first night
1792
01:09:22,291 --> 01:09:23,875
{\an1}we're spending away
from each other
1793
01:09:24,000 --> 01:09:25,083
{\an1}since we've known each other.
1794
01:09:25,208 --> 01:09:27,041
{\an1}- I know.
1795
01:09:27,166 --> 01:09:30,833
{\an1}[soft music]
1796
01:09:30,916 --> 01:09:33,625
{\an1}So tomorrow, I guess I'll be
seeing you bright and early
1797
01:09:33,708 --> 01:09:35,500
{\an1}on the couch.
1798
01:09:35,666 --> 01:09:38,666
{\an1}- I'm mentally prepared
for whatever your decision is.
1799
01:09:38,833 --> 01:09:40,250
{\an1}I really am.
1800
01:09:40,375 --> 01:09:43,583
{\an1}But as much as, you know,
I'm like, in this,
1801
01:09:43,708 --> 01:09:46,666
{\an1}I have things
that I need to think about.
1802
01:09:46,750 --> 01:09:50,000
{\an1}And I want to make sure
that I'm putting myself first.
1803
01:09:50,166 --> 01:09:52,041
{\an1}I had weeks of bliss.
1804
01:09:52,166 --> 01:09:53,666
{\an1}And then I was just kind of--
1805
01:09:53,791 --> 01:09:55,250
{\an1}my world was flipped
upside down, you know?
1806
01:09:55,375 --> 01:09:57,125
{\an1}And I'm understanding.
1807
01:09:57,250 --> 01:09:58,583
{\an1}I know that you were
exhausted and everything.
1808
01:09:58,708 --> 01:10:01,000
{\an1}You did hit a lot
of my past traumas.
1809
01:10:01,125 --> 01:10:02,583
{\an1}- Yeah,
but I actually agree with you.
1810
01:10:02,708 --> 01:10:04,250
{\an1}Like, there were moments
that I rejected you.
1811
01:10:04,375 --> 01:10:05,666
{\an1}There were moments
that I pushed you away,
1812
01:10:05,833 --> 01:10:07,166
{\an1}that I stonewalled you.
1813
01:10:07,333 --> 01:10:09,458
{\an1}- And times where I felt
like I was being controlled.
1814
01:10:09,583 --> 01:10:10,916
{\an1}- Yeah, and that's the thing.
1815
01:10:11,041 --> 01:10:12,666
{\an1}We just need
to get to a place
1816
01:10:12,791 --> 01:10:14,333
{\an1}where you see it for what
it is because I don't
1817
01:10:14,416 --> 01:10:17,500
{\an1}want you to feel controlled.
1818
01:10:17,625 --> 01:10:19,833
{\an1}I don't think
I'm controlling you,
1819
01:10:19,916 --> 01:10:22,833
{\an1}like when I just voice
my feelings on something.
1820
01:10:23,000 --> 01:10:24,708
{\an1}♪ ♪
1821
01:10:24,875 --> 01:10:26,708
{\an1}At the end of the day,
I've never presented you with,
1822
01:10:26,833 --> 01:10:29,166
{\an1}like, an ultimatum of, like,
you cannot do this,
1823
01:10:29,333 --> 01:10:30,833
{\an1}don't do this.
1824
01:10:31,000 --> 01:10:32,666
{\an1}- There are different
forms of control, though.
1825
01:10:32,791 --> 01:10:34,416
{\an1}It doesn't-- control does
not always mean,
1826
01:10:34,541 --> 01:10:35,500
{\an1}don't do this,
you can't do this.
1827
01:10:35,625 --> 01:10:36,916
{\an1}- Okay.
1828
01:10:37,041 --> 01:10:38,958
{\an1}- There are,
if you act this way,
1829
01:10:39,083 --> 01:10:40,458
{\an1}I don't accept you.
1830
01:10:40,541 --> 01:10:42,333
{\an1}That's a form of control.
1831
01:10:42,416 --> 01:10:44,333
{\an1}- I think that's good
for me to know, like,
1832
01:10:44,500 --> 01:10:48,375
{\an1}that you do feel so attacked
or you take it very personally
1833
01:10:48,541 --> 01:10:51,416
{\an1}when you do feel any inkling
of controlling behavior
1834
01:10:51,541 --> 01:10:53,833
{\an1}coming from me,
so I think whenever you
1835
01:10:53,916 --> 01:10:55,500
{\an1}feel that to just voice it.
1836
01:10:55,625 --> 01:10:58,416
{\an1}We'll find the right way
to do it because I don't like
1837
01:10:58,541 --> 01:11:00,333
{\an1}to be accused
of being controlling
1838
01:11:00,458 --> 01:11:02,375
{\an1}if I honestly--if I'm just,
like, communicating to you.
1839
01:11:02,541 --> 01:11:04,333
{\an1}- Yeah, and that's
the same thing of,
1840
01:11:04,416 --> 01:11:06,458
{\an1}I don't like feeling like
I'm disrespecting you
1841
01:11:06,541 --> 01:11:08,708
{\an1}when I'm just getting
distracted and speaking my mind
1842
01:11:08,875 --> 01:11:11,583
{\an1}or I get excited
and finish a story
1843
01:11:11,708 --> 01:11:14,083
{\an1}because I don't
like to be accused
1844
01:11:14,208 --> 01:11:15,541
{\an1}as being disrespectful
when I'm existing.
1845
01:11:15,666 --> 01:11:17,875
{\an1}- Yeah, I don't think--
I mean, I never--
1846
01:11:18,000 --> 01:11:20,666
{\an1}I know it's not always like,
stop being so disrespectful.
1847
01:11:20,791 --> 01:11:22,083
{\an1}You're so disrespectful
towards me.
1848
01:11:22,208 --> 01:11:23,916
{\an1}Like, I--yeah.
1849
01:11:24,041 --> 01:11:25,666
{\an1}- And at no time I've ever been
like, you're controlling me.
1850
01:11:25,833 --> 01:11:28,000
{\an1}- Oh, okay.
1851
01:11:28,125 --> 01:11:30,541
{\an1}- Maybe.
[both laugh]
1852
01:11:30,708 --> 01:11:32,250
{\an1}- I've said it
to other people.
1853
01:11:32,375 --> 01:11:34,500
{\an1}He's controlling me.
1854
01:11:34,666 --> 01:11:36,541
{\an1}- You said it to me a couple
of times too, actually, but--
1855
01:11:36,708 --> 01:11:38,500
{\an1}- Okay, fine.
Well, you win.
1856
01:11:38,625 --> 01:11:40,000
{\an1}- It's not about winning,
though.
1857
01:11:40,125 --> 01:11:41,333
{\an1}And that's the thing.
1858
01:11:41,458 --> 01:11:42,791
{\an1}I think that's what
I'm trying to say.
1859
01:11:42,916 --> 01:11:43,958
{\an1}Like, we just need to align on,
like, our dictionaries
1860
01:11:44,041 --> 01:11:45,375
{\an1}with each other.
1861
01:11:45,500 --> 01:11:47,750
{\an1}- Mm, mm-hmm, and I'm
proud of myself for what
1862
01:11:47,875 --> 01:11:50,083
{\an1}I've been able to do
in our conversations
1863
01:11:50,208 --> 01:11:52,125
{\an1}and how I've been
able to just push
1864
01:11:52,208 --> 01:11:56,208
{\an1}down emotions that want to just
[bleep] scream and yell.
1865
01:11:56,333 --> 01:11:58,291
{\an1}The problem is,
where does that venom--
1866
01:11:58,416 --> 01:11:59,666
{\an1}where does it go?
1867
01:11:59,750 --> 01:12:01,666
{\an1}Do I have better
coping mechanisms?
1868
01:12:01,791 --> 01:12:04,333
{\an1}Do I have a counselor that
just hears all this [bleep]?
1869
01:12:04,458 --> 01:12:06,083
{\an1}Do my friends get a little bit?
1870
01:12:06,208 --> 01:12:07,250
{\an1}I don't know, and, like--
- No, I know.
1871
01:12:07,375 --> 01:12:08,875
{\an1}And I agree.
1872
01:12:09,000 --> 01:12:10,500
{\an1}And to be honest,
like, I'm happy to help
1873
01:12:10,625 --> 01:12:12,458
{\an1}in any way I can because--
1874
01:12:12,541 --> 01:12:13,666
{\an1}- But I don't want you
to be my counselor, though.
1875
01:12:13,791 --> 01:12:15,500
{\an1}That's the problem.
- Well, no.
1876
01:12:15,666 --> 01:12:17,000
{\an1}Well, but I'm your husband,
and that's--
1877
01:12:17,125 --> 01:12:18,375
{\an1}I'm not gonna
be your counselor.
1878
01:12:18,500 --> 01:12:20,541
{\an1}I agree with that,
but I am your husband, and--
1879
01:12:20,708 --> 01:12:22,166
{\an1}- But, like,
I'm not doing this, like, me,
1880
01:12:22,333 --> 01:12:23,750
{\an1}I need to work
on me, me, me, me, me.
1881
01:12:23,875 --> 01:12:24,916
{\an1}I need to hear from you too
because there's [bleep]
1882
01:12:25,041 --> 01:12:26,166
{\an1}you got to work on, too.
1883
01:12:26,250 --> 01:12:28,625
{\an1}- Yeah.
1884
01:12:28,708 --> 01:12:33,500
{\an1}Normally, couples have months
and years to figure this out.
1885
01:12:33,583 --> 01:12:36,500
{\an1}With Lindy and I,
we have less than a day
1886
01:12:36,666 --> 01:12:39,041
{\an1}to figure out how
to reinvent ourselves
1887
01:12:39,208 --> 01:12:40,541
{\an1}to become each other's spouse.
1888
01:12:40,708 --> 01:12:43,166
{\an1}And if we don't,
it's not gonna work out.
1889
01:12:43,291 --> 01:12:50,666
{\an1}♪ ♪
1890
01:12:50,833 --> 01:12:53,666
{\an1}[soft music]
1891
01:12:53,750 --> 01:12:55,791
{\an1}- ♪ I always hit the bottle,
drown my sorrow ♪
1892
01:12:55,916 --> 01:13:01,000
{\an1}♪ When you leave me,
when you leave me ♪
1893
01:13:01,166 --> 01:13:03,833
{\an1}- I'm bummed to...
- Thank you.
1894
01:13:03,958 --> 01:13:05,833
{\an1}- Not have you spend the night
with us tonight.
1895
01:13:05,916 --> 01:13:10,958
{\an1}But maybe it makes sense
to do some meditation,
1896
01:13:11,041 --> 01:13:12,791
{\an1}some reflection.
1897
01:13:12,916 --> 01:13:15,541
{\an1}I'm gonna take a bubble bath.
- Some heavy drinking.
1898
01:13:15,666 --> 01:13:17,875
{\an1}- I might have a cocktail.
- [laughs]
1899
01:13:18,000 --> 01:13:20,333
{\an1}- Or two.
1900
01:13:20,500 --> 01:13:23,041
{\an1}♪ ♪
1901
01:13:23,166 --> 01:13:25,000
{\an1}I am very nervous.
1902
01:13:25,125 --> 01:13:27,041
{\an1}I don't know if that shows.
1903
01:13:27,208 --> 01:13:31,500
{\an1}But I am.
I'm nervous for tomorrow.
1904
01:13:31,666 --> 01:13:34,250
{\an1}I really, really
need some alone time,
1905
01:13:34,375 --> 01:13:37,500
{\an1}I guess, to think
about what I'm gonna say.
1906
01:13:37,583 --> 01:13:40,500
{\an1}I'm just--yeah,
I'm just nervous for tomorrow.
1907
01:13:40,625 --> 01:13:45,291
{\an1}It feels almost like
the reverse of wedding day.
1908
01:13:45,375 --> 01:13:47,083
{\an1}But I'm having
those same jitters.
1909
01:13:47,208 --> 01:13:48,750
{\an1}- Yeah.
1910
01:13:48,875 --> 01:13:50,583
{\an1}Yeah, me too.
1911
01:13:50,708 --> 01:13:52,541
{\an1}- And I think
I'm gonna be thinking
1912
01:13:52,708 --> 01:13:55,625
{\an1}about the pros and cons
of the last eight weeks,
1913
01:13:55,708 --> 01:13:58,750
{\an1}and then the pros and cons
of what the future
1914
01:13:58,875 --> 01:14:00,916
{\an1}could look like.
1915
01:14:01,041 --> 01:14:04,791
{\an1}- So what does your future
look like if we both say yes?
1916
01:14:04,875 --> 01:14:07,875
{\an1}- Well, the last conversation
we had about that,
1917
01:14:08,041 --> 01:14:12,666
{\an1}you said you would want
to start with time apart,
1918
01:14:12,791 --> 01:14:14,666
{\an1}so I guess it looks
like time apart.
1919
01:14:14,791 --> 01:14:17,250
{\an1}- I didn't mean,
like, we should stay
1920
01:14:17,375 --> 01:14:19,500
{\an1}married and then separate.
1921
01:14:19,625 --> 01:14:22,166
{\an1}I meant, like, we would
stay married and just,
1922
01:14:22,333 --> 01:14:24,666
{\an1}like, not necessarily rush--
1923
01:14:24,791 --> 01:14:26,041
{\an1}- Mm-hmm.
1924
01:14:26,166 --> 01:14:27,708
{\an1}- Into moving in together
just because it's been
1925
01:14:27,833 --> 01:14:29,500
{\an1}a really intense eight weeks.
1926
01:14:29,666 --> 01:14:31,166
{\an1}And I think
it's healthy just to take--
1927
01:14:31,250 --> 01:14:32,875
{\an1}I mean, not like a--
1928
01:14:33,000 --> 01:14:34,416
{\an1}I don't mean, like, a break,
like, a break, break,
1929
01:14:34,541 --> 01:14:36,958
{\an1}but I meant just
like, I'm exhausted.
1930
01:14:37,041 --> 01:14:38,666
{\an1}That's all I meant.
- Oh, okay.
1931
01:14:38,750 --> 01:14:41,625
{\an1}Well, I'm glad
I brought it up again.
1932
01:14:41,708 --> 01:14:44,666
{\an1}- You know, maybe kind of work
back towards something
1933
01:14:44,833 --> 01:14:47,333
{\an1}like this, like a shared life,
1934
01:14:47,500 --> 01:14:49,791
{\an1}but in a location
and a type of place
1935
01:14:49,875 --> 01:14:52,916
{\an1}that's a little bit
more what we want.
1936
01:14:53,041 --> 01:14:58,291
{\an1}- Mm-hmm, my personal
thought process is not,
1937
01:14:58,375 --> 01:15:01,833
{\an1}well, maybe things
will be much better
1938
01:15:01,916 --> 01:15:04,916
{\an1}or much worse
or much more of anything
1939
01:15:05,041 --> 01:15:06,708
{\an1}in a different location.
1940
01:15:06,833 --> 01:15:09,666
{\an1}I would like to give
that food for thought to you
1941
01:15:09,833 --> 01:15:11,916
{\an1}as well if you want
to accept it,
1942
01:15:12,041 --> 01:15:14,333
{\an1}that I am me.
1943
01:15:14,500 --> 01:15:15,625
{\an1}Luna is Luna.
1944
01:15:15,708 --> 01:15:17,000
{\an1}Mitch is Mitch.
- Yeah.
1945
01:15:17,166 --> 01:15:18,333
{\an1}- And--
1946
01:15:18,500 --> 01:15:19,708
{\an1}- We're the same people
no matter--
1947
01:15:19,875 --> 01:15:21,041
{\an1}- We're the same people
no matter what.
1948
01:15:21,166 --> 01:15:22,250
{\an1}- Yeah,
- Exactly, so--
1949
01:15:22,375 --> 01:15:24,208
{\an1}- Yeah, I think
that's a good point.
1950
01:15:24,375 --> 01:15:26,500
{\an1}- I certainly
don't want to say no.
1951
01:15:26,666 --> 01:15:28,208
{\an1}I certainly want to say yes.
1952
01:15:28,333 --> 01:15:30,208
{\an1}I certainly want a partner.
1953
01:15:30,333 --> 01:15:31,750
{\an1}You've been
a really good partner
1954
01:15:31,875 --> 01:15:34,000
{\an1}in a lot, a lot of ways.
1955
01:15:34,125 --> 01:15:38,166
{\an1}And I'm just more so
thinking about the match
1956
01:15:38,291 --> 01:15:42,666
{\an1}and the chemistry and the line
of what you can live with
1957
01:15:42,791 --> 01:15:44,500
{\an1}and what I can live with
1958
01:15:44,583 --> 01:15:46,625
{\an1}and if we complement
each other the best.
1959
01:15:46,750 --> 01:15:48,000
{\an1}- I think I'll think
about that too tonight.
1960
01:15:48,125 --> 01:15:49,666
{\an1}- Yeah.
1961
01:15:49,750 --> 01:15:51,000
{\an1}- I'll really think about,
you know, maybe I've been
1962
01:15:51,166 --> 01:15:53,708
{\an1}using this, what would it
be like without the situation
1963
01:15:53,833 --> 01:15:54,875
{\an1}as kind of an excuse to--
1964
01:15:55,000 --> 01:15:56,500
{\an1}- Yeah.
1965
01:15:56,625 --> 01:15:57,708
{\an1}- Put off some
of the deeper questions, so...
1966
01:15:57,833 --> 01:16:00,500
{\an1}- Yeah.
- You know.
1967
01:16:00,625 --> 01:16:02,958
{\an1}I'm the same as you.
I really want to say yes.
1968
01:16:03,083 --> 01:16:04,500
{\an1}- Yeah.
1969
01:16:04,583 --> 01:16:05,750
{\an1}- And I--and there's so
much I love about you.
1970
01:16:05,875 --> 01:16:07,791
{\an1}But it's just gonna--yeah,
1971
01:16:07,875 --> 01:16:09,166
{\an1}I'm just going
to think a little bit more
1972
01:16:09,291 --> 01:16:12,166
{\an1}about, really, you know,
1973
01:16:12,250 --> 01:16:14,250
{\an1}how I felt and how you felt--
1974
01:16:14,375 --> 01:16:15,791
{\an1}- Yeah.
1975
01:16:15,916 --> 01:16:17,541
{\an1}- How I think you felt
the last eight weeks
1976
01:16:17,666 --> 01:16:19,500
{\an1}and how that translates
into the future together.
1977
01:16:19,583 --> 01:16:21,000
{\an1}- Yeah.
1978
01:16:21,125 --> 01:16:24,375
{\an1}I don't want to just
have a good life.
1979
01:16:24,500 --> 01:16:29,833
{\an1}I want to have an incredible,
out of this world, romantic,
1980
01:16:29,916 --> 01:16:33,166
{\an1}love, reach for the stars,
over the fence,
1981
01:16:33,250 --> 01:16:34,833
{\an1}World Series kind of stuff.
1982
01:16:34,916 --> 01:16:37,666
{\an1}- So you want Luna's life?
- Yes.
1983
01:16:37,791 --> 01:16:39,666
{\an1}And if we're not there now,
1984
01:16:39,833 --> 01:16:42,166
{\an1}I'm thinking if we can
ever get there, I guess.
1985
01:16:42,250 --> 01:16:43,625
{\an1}That's what I'll be
thinking about tonight.
1986
01:16:43,708 --> 01:16:45,333
{\an1}Are we on track for that?
1987
01:16:45,416 --> 01:16:47,666
{\an1}- That's the question, right?
1988
01:16:47,791 --> 01:16:50,083
{\an1}There's no playbook
for marrying a stranger.
1989
01:16:50,208 --> 01:16:51,833
{\an1}You just do your best.
1990
01:16:51,916 --> 01:16:54,083
{\an1}And there's no way
to not make mistakes.
1991
01:16:54,208 --> 01:16:56,958
{\an1}I mean, even if I married
the love of my life,
1992
01:16:57,083 --> 01:16:59,000
{\an1}I'd probably still
be having a hard time
1993
01:16:59,125 --> 01:17:01,291
{\an1}and whining about how
hard it is to be married.
1994
01:17:01,375 --> 01:17:04,916
{\an1}So you know, just add
the stranger element to it.
1995
01:17:05,041 --> 01:17:08,958
{\an1}And you've got a recipe
for both glory and disaster.
1996
01:17:09,041 --> 01:17:11,458
{\an1}And they're both
happening sometimes
1997
01:17:11,541 --> 01:17:12,500
{\an1}within minutes of each other.
1998
01:17:12,583 --> 01:17:15,375
{\an1}It's been really, really hard.
1999
01:17:15,500 --> 01:17:17,500
{\an1}But it's been
really rewarding too.
2000
01:17:17,625 --> 01:17:19,333
{\an1}♪ ♪
2001
01:17:19,458 --> 01:17:21,375
{\an1}- Bye.
2002
01:17:21,500 --> 01:17:23,500
{\an1}♪ ♪
2003
01:17:23,625 --> 01:17:31,958
{\an1}- ♪ Let time stand still ♪
2004
01:17:32,041 --> 01:17:35,416
{\an1}- ♪ We're loving
on higher ground ♪
2005
01:17:35,541 --> 01:17:37,833
{\an1}♪ We're loving
on higher ground ♪
2006
01:17:37,916 --> 01:17:40,125
{\an1}♪ Never falls apart ♪
2007
01:17:40,250 --> 01:17:44,041
{\an1}♪ Can you turn my heart
away so, baby? ♪
2008
01:17:44,166 --> 01:17:46,958
{\an1}- I wonder if I'll sleep better
or worse without you.
2009
01:17:47,041 --> 01:17:49,416
{\an1}- ♪ We're loving
on higher ground ♪
2010
01:17:49,541 --> 01:17:51,625
{\an1}- I'll see you later, girl.
2011
01:17:51,708 --> 01:17:53,500
{\an1}- Oh, look at you coming in.
2012
01:17:53,625 --> 01:17:55,166
{\an1}You miss me already?
- No.
2013
01:17:55,291 --> 01:17:57,291
{\an1}- See, you got
your pouting face on.
2014
01:17:57,375 --> 01:17:59,833
{\an1}- No, I don't.
This is my adult face, baby.
2015
01:17:59,958 --> 01:18:03,333
{\an1}- Yeah.
I'll see you later.
2016
01:18:03,458 --> 01:18:07,750
{\an1}- I feel hopeful,
yet slightly indecisive still.
2017
01:18:07,875 --> 01:18:09,750
{\an1}You know,
I don't want to hurt myself
2018
01:18:09,875 --> 01:18:11,833
{\an1}by making the wrong decision.
2019
01:18:11,916 --> 01:18:13,875
{\an1}And I don't want to hurt
my husband by making
2020
01:18:14,000 --> 01:18:16,375
{\an1}what could be seen
as the right decision for me
2021
01:18:16,500 --> 01:18:18,666
{\an1}but wrong for our marriage,
so...
2022
01:18:18,791 --> 01:18:20,625
{\an1}[dramatic music]
2023
01:18:20,750 --> 01:18:24,833
{\an1}- ♪ I would never
leave your heart hopeless ♪
2024
01:18:24,958 --> 01:18:28,083
{\an1}♪ I wouldn't do that ♪
2025
01:18:28,208 --> 01:18:31,000
{\an1}[soft music]
2026
01:18:31,125 --> 01:18:37,416
{\an1}♪ ♪
2027
01:18:37,541 --> 01:18:40,041
{\an1}- [chuckles] Bye.
2028
01:18:40,166 --> 01:18:42,500
{\an1}- Say bye!
- See you tomorrow.
2029
01:18:42,625 --> 01:18:45,000
{\an1}- See you tomorrow.
2030
01:18:45,125 --> 01:18:52,000
{\an1}♪ ♪
2031
01:19:04,416 --> 01:19:05,791
{\an1}- Nate is not here.
2032
01:19:05,916 --> 01:19:11,166
{\an1}I have the bed
to myself all alone.
2033
01:19:11,333 --> 01:19:15,833
{\an1}I am feeling confused.
2034
01:19:15,916 --> 01:19:21,166
{\an1}I'm feeling
not as optimistic as I was.
2035
01:19:21,291 --> 01:19:25,375
{\an1}The last week
has been very volatile.
2036
01:19:25,500 --> 01:19:27,666
{\an1}- I think the last week and
a half out of this eight weeks
2037
01:19:27,833 --> 01:19:31,000
{\an1}have been the hardest
for me because I've just
2038
01:19:31,125 --> 01:19:32,833
{\an1}been feeling a lot of anxiety.
2039
01:19:33,000 --> 01:19:34,875
{\an1}It's just been a lot.
2040
01:19:35,000 --> 01:19:36,666
{\an1}I can't control what
she's gonna decide.
2041
01:19:36,833 --> 01:19:38,958
{\an1}You know,
I respect her as a person.
2042
01:19:39,083 --> 01:19:43,583
{\an1}And I just want her
to trust her gut feeling.
2043
01:19:43,708 --> 01:19:45,875
{\an1}- Me and Mitch have talked
about the last eight weeks.
2044
01:19:46,000 --> 01:19:48,375
{\an1}I just think
that he's just so unsure,
2045
01:19:48,541 --> 01:19:51,250
{\an1}so that's why I think
I'm feeling nervous.
2046
01:19:51,375 --> 01:19:55,333
{\an1}- I'm feeling mostly at peace
with my decision
2047
01:19:55,458 --> 01:19:58,916
{\an1}but also anxious.
2048
01:19:59,041 --> 01:20:00,833
{\an1}It's always hard to tell.
2049
01:20:00,916 --> 01:20:02,833
{\an1}You know, is it that
I'm closed off to love?
2050
01:20:03,000 --> 01:20:04,333
{\an1}Is it,
I'm so afraid that I have
2051
01:20:04,458 --> 01:20:07,416
{\an1}so many walls up
that I just can't really see it
2052
01:20:07,541 --> 01:20:08,875
{\an1}with the people I'm with?
2053
01:20:09,041 --> 01:20:12,666
{\an1}I've always struggled
with that, you know,
2054
01:20:12,833 --> 01:20:15,041
{\an1}whether the problem is me
2055
01:20:15,166 --> 01:20:18,166
{\an1}or just hadn't found
the right girl.
2056
01:20:18,333 --> 01:20:22,125
{\an1}- This is one of the biggest
decisions of my life,
2057
01:20:22,208 --> 01:20:24,166
{\an1}to stay married
or to not stay married.
2058
01:20:24,250 --> 01:20:26,416
{\an1}You know, like, that's big.
That's huge.
2059
01:20:26,541 --> 01:20:28,791
{\an1}It's a lot of pressure.
It's a lot of fears.
2060
01:20:28,875 --> 01:20:31,500
{\an1}It's a lot of what ifs.
2061
01:20:31,625 --> 01:20:34,041
{\an1}It's a lot of possibilities
2062
01:20:34,208 --> 01:20:35,750
{\an1}that this may
not work out in the future.
2063
01:20:35,875 --> 01:20:37,916
{\an1}And we'll just both
be wasting more time.
2064
01:20:38,041 --> 01:20:39,458
{\an1}- Overall, my marriage
has been really good.
2065
01:20:39,583 --> 01:20:41,958
{\an1}There's been ups and downs.
It's been challenging.
2066
01:20:42,041 --> 01:20:44,125
{\an1}I'm not exactly where
I want to be in my marriage.
2067
01:20:44,208 --> 01:20:45,625
{\an1}We're still getting
to know each other.
2068
01:20:45,750 --> 01:20:47,083
{\an1}I've only known her
for eight weeks,
2069
01:20:47,208 --> 01:20:49,000
{\an1}so I'm just ready
to get [bleep] over with,
2070
01:20:49,125 --> 01:20:50,458
{\an1}if I'm being honest.
2071
01:20:50,541 --> 01:20:54,000
{\an1}- I feel like Miguel is--
2072
01:20:54,125 --> 01:20:55,875
{\an1}I think he's thinking--like,
2073
01:20:56,041 --> 01:20:57,666
{\an1}I think he's
on the same page as I am.
2074
01:20:57,791 --> 01:20:59,500
{\an1}But it's just so hard to know.
2075
01:20:59,625 --> 01:21:03,083
{\an1}- Despite, like, how great
everything was with Lindy,
2076
01:21:03,208 --> 01:21:06,833
{\an1}I think we still had
some challenging moments.
2077
01:21:06,958 --> 01:21:08,541
{\an1}And it's been tough.
I'm not gonna lie.
2078
01:21:08,708 --> 01:21:11,541
{\an1}It takes, you know, two
to obviously make this work.
2079
01:21:11,666 --> 01:21:13,458
{\an1}And if she feels a certain way,
if she feels like
2080
01:21:13,583 --> 01:21:15,541
{\an1}it's not working for her,
2081
01:21:15,666 --> 01:21:17,666
{\an1}then good for her
for speaking up.
2082
01:21:17,750 --> 01:21:19,666
{\an1}You know,
let the cards fall where
2083
01:21:19,791 --> 01:21:22,833
{\an1}they may because at this point,
there's nothing else I can do.
2084
01:21:22,958 --> 01:21:25,166
{\an1}- ♪ Picking up ♪
2085
01:21:25,250 --> 01:21:29,041
{\an1}♪ The broken pieces ♪
2086
01:21:29,166 --> 01:21:32,083
{\an1}♪ I need something ♪
2087
01:21:32,208 --> 01:21:35,833
{\an1}♪ To believe in ♪
2088
01:21:36,000 --> 01:21:41,458
{\an1}♪ When the feeling starts
to creep in ♪
2089
01:21:41,583 --> 01:21:43,916
{\an1}♪ Picking up ♪
2090
01:21:44,041 --> 01:21:48,041
{\an1}♪ The broken pieces ♪
2091
01:21:48,166 --> 01:21:51,333
{\an1}♪ I need something ♪
2092
01:21:51,500 --> 01:21:54,916
{\an1}♪ To believe in ♪
2093
01:21:57,125 --> 01:21:59,166
{\an1}- Eight weeks is up.
2094
01:21:59,291 --> 01:22:01,666
{\an1}- Next time
on "Married at First Sight,"
2095
01:22:01,750 --> 01:22:05,333
{\an1}our couples will have
to make the biggest decision
2096
01:22:05,458 --> 01:22:07,875
{\an1}of their lives,
to stay married
2097
01:22:08,041 --> 01:22:10,083
{\an1}or get a divorce.
2098
01:22:10,208 --> 01:22:12,791
{\an1}- This is not how I thought
I'd be feeling on Decision Day.
2099
01:22:12,916 --> 01:22:15,083
{\an1}- Wish me luck.
2100
01:22:15,208 --> 01:22:16,916
{\an1}- We have a lot
of things going.
2101
01:22:17,041 --> 01:22:19,625
{\an1}I want to do that justice.
2102
01:22:19,708 --> 01:22:21,791
{\an1}- He's had
controlling demeanors.
2103
01:22:21,916 --> 01:22:22,875
{\an1}- Express yourself.
2104
01:22:23,041 --> 01:22:25,416
{\an1}- Demons, so to speak.
2105
01:22:25,541 --> 01:22:28,250
{\an1}- I feel like
I'm losing myself.
2106
01:22:28,375 --> 01:22:33,500
{\an1}- Anger, rejection,
mommy issues.
2107
01:22:33,666 --> 01:22:35,708
{\an1}- I do love you.
2108
01:22:35,875 --> 01:22:38,416
{\an1}- I'm constantly asking myself,
am I safe or unsafe?
2109
01:22:38,541 --> 01:22:41,166
{\an1}- Like, why are
we fighting again?
2110
01:22:41,250 --> 01:22:43,333
{\an1}- I've seen enough,
2111
01:22:43,458 --> 01:22:47,583
{\an1}enough isolation, enough chaos.
2112
01:22:47,708 --> 01:22:50,833
{\an1}- I feel like we were
meant to be together.
2113
01:22:51,000 --> 01:22:54,166
{\an1}- Like, I feel your energy.
2114
01:22:54,291 --> 01:22:57,166
{\an1}- I feel like I definitely
gave everything I could.
2115
01:22:57,291 --> 01:22:59,833
{\an1}- I don't understand, Pepper.
I don't.
2116
01:22:59,958 --> 01:23:01,583
{\an1}[dramatic music]
2117
01:23:01,708 --> 01:23:04,250
{\an1}- ♪ Kill the lights,
and come inside ♪
2118
01:23:04,375 --> 01:23:07,083
{\an1}♪ Feel the dark
as we come alive ♪
2119
01:23:07,208 --> 01:23:10,041
{\an1}- The time has come.
2120
01:23:10,166 --> 01:23:13,583
{\an1}- Do you want to stay married?
2121
01:23:13,708 --> 01:23:16,875
{\an1}- ♪ We are kings,
and we are queens ♪
2122
01:23:17,041 --> 01:23:19,458
{\an1}- Or do you want
to get a divorce?
2123
01:23:19,541 --> 01:23:22,291
{\an1}- ♪ Ooh ♪
2124
01:23:22,416 --> 01:23:29,250
{\an1}♪ ♪