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- There we go.
That's what I'm talking about.
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- Hi.
- Hello.
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- Hi there.
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- Hi.
- Oh, my god.
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Give me a hug.
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- Eight weeks ago,
the experts matched
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Five couples in san diego to
be married at first sight.
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♪ ♪
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One couple's marriage
came to a premature end.
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- I do want the divorce.
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♪ ♪
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- Now, the fateful
day has finally come--
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To either choose
a life together or choose
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To part ways in divorce.
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Today's decision
will forever alter
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The course of their lives,
for better or for worse.
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- I'm trying to be
levelheaded and look at
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This logically and rational.
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And I was not hopeful.
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- To bring me through
it is painful.
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I'm constantly asking
myself, am I safe or unsafe?
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♪ ♪
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- I was under the
impression that me
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Making that decision, that it
was a yes for our marriage.
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- I just don't agree with that.
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♪ ♪
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- I wasn't really
sure until maybe
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Last night, to be honest.
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- I don't feel like you
give me enough credit.
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Like I'm a 37-year-old
established woman.
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- In my heart of
hearts, I do love you.
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- It's so painful and
confusing; it scares me.
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♪ ♪
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- The time has come.
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- Do you want to
stay married...
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♪ ♪
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Or do you want
to get a divorce?
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♪ ♪
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- Decision time.
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♪ ♪
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[upbeat music]
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- ♪ it's all or nothing ♪
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- This is "married
at first sight."
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- ♪ there's no other way ♪
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♪ it's all or nothing ♪
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- ♪ this is day one ♪
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♪ turn the music on ♪
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♪ hear the drummers drum ♪
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♪ reach up ♪
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♪ put 'em high,
so alive ♪
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♪ this is day one ♪
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- Eight weeks is up, and
boy, when I tell you,
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It's been an emotional
roller coaster,
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It's been an emotional
roller coaster.
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The feelings are real.
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- Today is decision day.
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- I didn't sleep at all.
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I was tossing
and turning all night.
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This is not how I thought I'd
be feeling on decision day.
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- Hopefully, a night
apart from each other
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Has given our couples
an opportunity
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To reflect on their growth
in the last eight weeks.
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Because today,
they'll have to decide
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If they want to continue
growing together or apart.
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- I'm most nervous for just
like the intensity of today.
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- I don't know what
miguel is thinking.
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To me, this is like, yeah,
you didn't choose me,
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And I didn't choose you,
but from here on out,
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We're choosing each other.
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- I'm not an overthinker.
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I'm not indecisive.
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I typically know my decisions.
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So for me to be back and forth
and just thinking everything,
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It's just new to me.
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- There's a lot of anxiety
and fears that kind of course
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Through my body and my mind.
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- I'm a little
nervous, for sure.
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I hope krysten and I
are on the same page.
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I hope we're on the
same wavelength.
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I think I've thought
about it enough.
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You know, there's a point
when you got to stop thinking
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About stuff, and you just
have to make your decision,
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And know that you
got to live with it.
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- I'm going to follow my gut
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That has kept me
alive for 32 years.
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Wish me luck.
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- Break out
into the spotlight ♪
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♪ one chance to victory ♪
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♪ ♪
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♪ chasing the constellations ♪
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♪ this world
is reaching out for ♪
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♪ ♪
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♪ I'm reaching out ♪
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♪ I'm reaching out for you ♪
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♪ ♪
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[upbeat funky music]
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♪ running out of patience ♪
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♪ tearing up the wait-list ♪
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♪ 'cause we're going to
make it on our own ♪
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- Are you ready?
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- Well, I thought
I was, but we just
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Got this report
that stacia and nate
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Have been having some issues.
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I suppose, to some extent,
I'm taking them for granted
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Because they were so--
- I know, right?
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- It was so easy for so long.
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- My concern is how he's
responding to his stress.
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It's out of character.
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- I mean, nate has always
been a thoughtful guy,
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Open for information.
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But certainly,
all the questions
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We've asked him,
all the pressure of maybe
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Even decision day, it's a lot.
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I'm hoping that they can come
back to who they've been.
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I mean, after all, this is a
couple that had their wedding
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Date tattooed on there hands.
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- I know.
What?
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I know, yeah.
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- That's a great
commitment, and I
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Don't want them to forget
how powerful that is.
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- Yeah.
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- Stacia and nate were
matched because they both have
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Tremendous drive and ambition.
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However, it has been
a steep learning curve
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For them to adjust to
each other's standards
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In their marriage.
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If nate and stacia
can figure out
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How to meet each
other's emotional needs,
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We truly believe they have what
it takes to build the legacy
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And love of their dreams.
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- I hope I never wake
up one morning without you ♪
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♪ in my arms ♪
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- I didn't know
what I was getting
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Myself into on wedding day.
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- She's a freaked
in the sheets.
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That's what they say.
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- But nate and I had immediate
attraction and chemistry.
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- I hope I never wake
up one morning without you ♪
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♪ in my arms ♪
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♪ that would tear me apart ♪
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- I love when nate kisses me,
hugs me, and holds my hand.
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He always makes
me feel desired.
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- I want my best
friend next to me,
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And stacia is definitely
my best friend.
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- I love that nate
appreciates me
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For the woman I am
on the inside
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And not for my looks
or finances.
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I'm out here closing deals.
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But being married to
nate is not always easy.
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- Just going around
in circles now.
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See what I'm saying?
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- Yes and no.
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He lacks maturity
in certain areas.
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- You was an [bleep].
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- Did you just call your
wife an [bleep]?
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- I'm going to continue to
get upset every time you don't
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Recognize me for my efforts.
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I'm not going to
sign up for that.
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- Nate can be judgmental and
hotheaded when he is upset.
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I want to know what
is this love to you?
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- Look, I have to
be honest with you.
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Like, I don't love you
right now, okay?
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I've known you for two months.
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- Being married to nate has
made me practice patience,
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Trust, and forgiveness,
but I don't want
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To be in a loveless marriage.
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- I don't want to be unhappy.
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I choose happiness over
a marriage any day.
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♪ ♪
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When I first saw stacia, I
felt like I knew her already.
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I did this with purpose,
just to find love,
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And I feel like that's you.
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Stacia embodies everything
I've ever wanted in a wife.
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She is nurturing,
she is very feminine,
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And I love how it
feels when people stare
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At us when we're together.
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- You guys have vibrating
panties on or something?
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- What?
What are you talking about?
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- What?
- Stacia is my twin flame.
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- Ok, sir.
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Ok.
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- With stacia as my wife,
we are truly a power couple.
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- We're hustlers.
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- Yep.
I see you.
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Yeah, I see you.
I see you.
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But executive stacia
is never satisfied.
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- I know exactly how you feel.
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I want to know how.
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- Our marriage has
been tested many times.
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You were trying to
get my intentions
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The wrong way, which is
a form of manipulation,
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In my opinion.
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I question whether stacia
would relinquish her control
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And believe that I'm
100% committed to her.
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I told you in our
marriage that one
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Of the most important things
that I needed in my wife
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Was for you to believe in me.
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I'm truly falling
in love with stacia,
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But I don't want to
spend the rest of my life
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Proving myself to her.
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I want you to believe
in me, and believe
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In us with 100% faith.
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I fear that I'll never be
good enough for stacia.
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♪ ♪
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[light funky music]
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♪ ♪
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- Hi, there.
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- I assume those
are not for me.
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- Definitely not for you.
- [laughs]
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Yeah.
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- Hey.
- How are you, man?
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- I'm good.
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- Hi.
- Hi.
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- Nice to see you.
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- Nice to see you as well.
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- All right.
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Well, you're looking sharp.
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- Thank you.
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- Here comes your bride.
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♪ ♪
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- Hi.
- Hi.
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- These are for you.
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- Thank you.
- Freshly picked.
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- Oh, lord.
Can you hold them for me?
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- Yeah, I'll hold them for you.
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- Ok.
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Thank you.
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This is definitely the
biggest decision of my life.
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I still care deeply about
nate, but with everything that
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Has transpired in the
last 24 to 48 hours,
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It's making me
feel very unsure.
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I think that we have
something very special,
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But there are
certain things that I
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Just can't compromise on.
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♪ ♪
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- We have watched your
relationship in the beginning
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And admired and loved
watching you both,
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But we know you've
hit some rocky spots.
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- Yeah.
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- And we've heard
there's been disruption
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In the last little bit of time.
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- I feel like I've
been on the fence,
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Kind of teeter-tottering
between do I stay or do I go?
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♪ ♪
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- What are the things that
you're wrestling with?
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- I have a list.
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- Oh, my gosh.
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- The anger, rejection,
communication
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And comprehension, the
disrespect, mommy issues.
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I do feel like your
childhood trauma,
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As far as your
upbringing with your mom
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Is starting to affect us now.
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And I feel like you're starting
to view me in a similar light.
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I'm going to be
irresponsible, going out,
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Drinking leaving my kid because
that's what happened to you.
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And I don't feel like you
give me enough credit.
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♪ ♪
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I'm a 37-year-old,
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Established woman.
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I'm responsible.
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Why would you ever think
that I would leave my kid?
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- Right.
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♪ ♪
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So I apologize
for lashing out.
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You don't deserve that,
and I'm definitely
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Not proud of myself.
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I'm emotionally overwhelmed.
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I think that's why I'm
defensive and being triggered
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Much more easier now.
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And I think it's
because I don't know
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How to deal with the stress.
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- Do not define your
marriage, which has really
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Been great
in so many ways by what
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This pressure does to people.
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It's just a lot.
- Well, I understand that.
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I know it's a lot, and
I feel like both of us
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Are going through it, but
I'm not reacting like he is.
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I want him to talk
about his emotions.
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I'm going to want him to
talk about his feelings.
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Will he do the same
thing, storming
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Off when we're having dinner?
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Is he going to do that when
we're out in the real world?
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- Um...
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So I apologize if I hurt
your feelings like that.
285
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But I also think
she needs work too.
286
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Sometimes when
she says things,
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I feel like it's not sincere or
condescending or just cold,
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And that's how we start
getting our feelings hurt.
289
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It's work that we
both need to do.
290
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- The stuff that you
guys are dealing with now
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Is not uncommon in a marriage.
292
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We're talking about
how do we communicate,
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How am I saying what
I'm saying to you,
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How am I hearing what
you're saying to me?
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But when you have someone
else in your life,
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You have to consider
all of those things.
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I want to switch
this a little bit,
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And I want to talk about
some of that positivity.
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Nate, what are some of
the reasons you would give
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If you chose to stay married?
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- When I signed up for
"married at first sight,"
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I had to fill out
200 questions.
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And basically,
I wanted a wife that
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Was feminine, nurturing,
ambitious, pretty, and I'm
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Very grateful for you.
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00:12:54,757 --> 00:12:59,018
And sometimes I feel
insecure, but other times,
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I feel like we were
meant to be together.
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You're my wife.
309
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- Wow, that was beautiful.
310
00:13:04,692 --> 00:13:05,950
- Yeah, that was beautiful.
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Thank you.
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I think we have a
lot of good times.
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I think that it's just easy.
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I feel like you're very driven.
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If you set your
mind to something,
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You're going to do it,
and I love that about you.
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I do feel like when
we get into challenges
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And have challenging
conversation,
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It does get very heated and
it's very uncomfortable,
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But I love the
fact that you try
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And come back and reconnect.
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I love that.
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00:13:33,555 --> 00:13:36,722
And I think you
have a great heart,
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And you're a good person.
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- Thank you.
326
00:13:39,969 --> 00:13:41,152
- Well, we loved hearing
all of that, of course.
327
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- I love it.
328
00:13:42,989 --> 00:13:46,049
- But the time has come
for you to make a decision
329
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About whether you
want to stay married
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Or you want to get a divorce.
331
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- Whew.
332
00:13:53,316 --> 00:13:55,391
You know,
the last week and a half
333
00:13:55,410 --> 00:14:00,413
Has basically made
our dynamic real, right?
334
00:14:00,565 --> 00:14:02,231
We are in a dreamlike state.
335
00:14:02,325 --> 00:14:05,084
The first six weeks,
things were great,
336
00:14:05,236 --> 00:14:09,663
And now, it's like, wow, we
have real challenges that we
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00:14:09,757 --> 00:14:15,336
Have to go through, and we both
basically, reached boundaries.
338
00:14:15,430 --> 00:14:18,247
I'm not here to point fingers,
but we both need work,
339
00:14:18,266 --> 00:14:23,510
And making my
decision, I basically
340
00:14:23,530 --> 00:14:27,607
Thought about all the
pros, all the goods
341
00:14:27,759 --> 00:14:29,850
Against the cons
and the negatives.
342
00:14:29,870 --> 00:14:32,537
And...
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00:14:32,764 --> 00:14:35,431
♪ ♪
344
00:14:35,524 --> 00:14:39,544
The pros
far exceed the negatives.
345
00:14:39,695 --> 00:14:43,122
My answer is yes, I want
to stay married to you.
346
00:14:43,274 --> 00:14:45,884
You're everything
that I asked for,
347
00:14:46,111 --> 00:14:48,386
And I still want to
fight for our marriage.
348
00:14:48,613 --> 00:14:53,892
♪ ♪
349
00:14:54,043 --> 00:14:58,304
- So I thought about this
long and hard all night.
350
00:14:58,456 --> 00:15:00,640
I didn't sleep one bit.
- Yeah.
351
00:15:00,734 --> 00:15:06,070
- I was going back and forth
on if I should say yes or no.
352
00:15:06,297 --> 00:15:07,647
♪ ♪
353
00:15:07,799 --> 00:15:09,240
I want to be very
candid with you
354
00:15:09,392 --> 00:15:11,484
And very honest
and transparent,
355
00:15:11,636 --> 00:15:14,245
Trying to be
levelheaded and look
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00:15:14,472 --> 00:15:20,752
At this logically
and rational and really
357
00:15:20,979 --> 00:15:23,737
Look at what challenges
are we going to have
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00:15:23,757 --> 00:15:26,925
And if we can overcome
them, and I was not hopeful.
359
00:15:27,152 --> 00:15:28,259
♪ ♪
360
00:15:28,411 --> 00:15:33,097
So today--
361
00:15:33,324 --> 00:15:37,751
♪ ♪
362
00:15:37,845 --> 00:15:43,399
I am going to--
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00:15:49,449 --> 00:15:53,676
♪ ♪
364
00:15:53,695 --> 00:15:56,345
- Today---
365
00:15:56,364 --> 00:15:57,789
♪ ♪
366
00:15:57,940 --> 00:16:03,610
I am going to
367
00:16:03,630 --> 00:16:05,354
Stay committed to you.
368
00:16:05,373 --> 00:16:08,466
♪ ♪
369
00:16:08,617 --> 00:16:10,451
I'm resilient.
370
00:16:10,470 --> 00:16:12,303
I'm not going to run.
371
00:16:12,455 --> 00:16:14,472
I told you I would stand by
you, so I'm going to say yes.
372
00:16:14,699 --> 00:16:16,215
- Aww.
373
00:16:16,367 --> 00:16:17,700
- ♪ the first time
you touched me, baby ♪
374
00:16:17,719 --> 00:16:22,038
♪ I knew our life
was forever changed ♪
375
00:16:22,056 --> 00:16:25,057
- Appreciate you.
376
00:16:25,210 --> 00:16:26,892
- Whew.
377
00:16:27,045 --> 00:16:28,987
- Girl, that was a long yes,
man.
378
00:16:29,138 --> 00:16:31,881
- Yeah.
- Jeez.
379
00:16:31,899 --> 00:16:33,733
♪ ♪
380
00:16:33,885 --> 00:16:35,159
- I'm so proud of you guys.
381
00:16:35,311 --> 00:16:36,902
- Thank you.
- You've done a great job.
382
00:16:37,055 --> 00:16:37,903
- Thank you.
- Thank you.
383
00:16:37,998 --> 00:16:39,222
- Awesome. Yay.
384
00:16:39,240 --> 00:16:40,906
- So let's pop a
little champagne here.
385
00:16:41,001 --> 00:16:44,151
- Let's do this.
386
00:16:44,170 --> 00:16:45,336
- Oh, my god.
387
00:16:45,488 --> 00:16:46,504
I'm just glad we said yes.
388
00:16:46,655 --> 00:16:48,172
- Definitely.
389
00:16:48,324 --> 00:16:52,084
- Time to continue this
journey of mr. And mrs. Barnes.
390
00:16:52,237 --> 00:16:53,511
- Whew.
391
00:16:53,738 --> 00:16:55,662
- We're ready to get out
into the real world.
392
00:16:55,682 --> 00:16:57,164
Thank you.
- Cheers.
393
00:16:57,183 --> 00:16:58,424
- Thank you so much, guys.
Appreciate you.
394
00:16:58,576 --> 00:17:01,093
- Thank you.
Cheers.
395
00:17:01,246 --> 00:17:04,430
- Definitely, tackling things
together is much better
396
00:17:04,582 --> 00:17:06,265
Than tackling the world alone.
397
00:17:06,417 --> 00:17:08,768
The single guy
nate is a quitter,
398
00:17:08,920 --> 00:17:13,923
And the married nate is not.
399
00:17:13,941 --> 00:17:16,701
- Damn.
400
00:17:16,928 --> 00:17:20,538
Whew.
401
00:17:20,689 --> 00:17:23,190
- Straight up.
- Whew.
402
00:17:23,209 --> 00:17:24,375
That one got me.
403
00:17:24,527 --> 00:17:26,435
- ♪ it's feeling good ♪
404
00:17:26,454 --> 00:17:27,378
- We did it.
405
00:17:27,530 --> 00:17:29,380
- We did.
- Whew.
406
00:17:29,607 --> 00:17:31,549
Oh, man, I've been
waiting for this day.
407
00:17:31,700 --> 00:17:33,943
- [exhales]
man.
408
00:17:33,961 --> 00:17:37,037
- [laughs]
409
00:17:37,057 --> 00:17:39,206
I feel like I've aged.
410
00:17:39,300 --> 00:17:41,284
- ♪ it's feeling good ♪
411
00:17:41,302 --> 00:17:43,561
♪ good ♪
412
00:17:43,712 --> 00:17:46,122
♪ it's feeling good ♪
413
00:17:46,140 --> 00:17:49,125
[upbeat music]
414
00:17:49,143 --> 00:17:56,074
♪ ♪
415
00:17:57,911 --> 00:18:01,228
- Ok, justin and alexis.
416
00:18:01,247 --> 00:18:02,972
- You talk about
roller coaster, wow.
417
00:18:02,990 --> 00:18:03,915
- No kidding, and I just don't
know if we're on
418
00:18:04,066 --> 00:18:05,249
A high or low here.
419
00:18:05,401 --> 00:18:07,234
- It's a day-by-day decision
with them.
420
00:18:07,253 --> 00:18:08,753
- And yet,
they're hanging in there.
421
00:18:08,980 --> 00:18:11,422
- The one thing that
I am concerned about
422
00:18:11,574 --> 00:18:13,983
Is justin being
overly emotional.
423
00:18:14,001 --> 00:18:16,485
I think that she is
looking for him to be more
424
00:18:16,504 --> 00:18:19,597
Of an alpha male, and
I wonder whether or not
425
00:18:19,748 --> 00:18:20,990
She's wearing down.
426
00:18:21,083 --> 00:18:22,675
- I think it's
hard for her to do
427
00:18:22,769 --> 00:18:25,252
The realities of marriage,
of a real human being who
428
00:18:25,271 --> 00:18:26,270
Is not perfect.
429
00:18:26,422 --> 00:18:28,106
You know, I mean, hey.
430
00:18:28,257 --> 00:18:30,090
- Look, we put them together
because we thought that they
431
00:18:30,184 --> 00:18:32,610
Could really balance each other
out, and I still believe that.
432
00:18:32,761 --> 00:18:34,353
- Perhaps, so too.
433
00:18:34,447 --> 00:18:36,689
And I'll tell you one thing,
I expect him to say yes.
434
00:18:36,841 --> 00:18:37,690
I don't know about her.
435
00:18:37,784 --> 00:18:38,841
- Yeah, I agree.
436
00:18:38,860 --> 00:18:40,267
- I don't.
437
00:18:40,286 --> 00:18:42,269
But I think he's a
rock for commitment,
438
00:18:42,288 --> 00:18:44,013
And I think we both
thought she needed that.
439
00:18:44,031 --> 00:18:45,456
- She does.
440
00:18:45,683 --> 00:18:46,791
- And I hope that she
can use that to go
441
00:18:46,942 --> 00:18:47,792
Forward in the marriage.
442
00:18:47,943 --> 00:18:49,185
- Yeah.
- I hope.
443
00:18:49,203 --> 00:18:53,297
♪ ♪
444
00:18:53,449 --> 00:18:55,949
♪ I am on a quest now ♪
445
00:18:55,969 --> 00:18:57,860
- Alexis and justin
are a great match
446
00:18:57,879 --> 00:19:00,029
Because they are two
ambitious people who are not
447
00:19:00,047 --> 00:19:03,641
Afraid to put in the work
that it requires to sustain
448
00:19:03,792 --> 00:19:05,201
A successful marriage.
449
00:19:05,219 --> 00:19:08,629
♪ ♪
450
00:19:08,648 --> 00:19:12,725
Justin's sensitivity is a good
balance to alexis' strength,
451
00:19:12,877 --> 00:19:16,045
But their struggle has
been one of consistency.
452
00:19:16,063 --> 00:19:20,232
If justin can learn to
shore up his emotions,
453
00:19:20,385 --> 00:19:23,644
It would let alexis know that
she's married to a man who can
454
00:19:23,663 --> 00:19:26,071
Protect her,
honor her, and cover her
455
00:19:26,224 --> 00:19:29,316
When she needs to be covered.
456
00:19:29,335 --> 00:19:30,484
- As I was walking
down the aisle
457
00:19:30,503 --> 00:19:31,894
And saw justin for
the first time,
458
00:19:31,913 --> 00:19:34,580
My first impression
was, I know this man.
459
00:19:34,732 --> 00:19:36,081
I've seen this man before.
460
00:19:36,234 --> 00:19:38,492
I'm alexis.
- I'm justin.
461
00:19:38,511 --> 00:19:41,070
- ♪ oh, you look so
good when you walk away ♪
462
00:19:41,088 --> 00:19:43,422
- I can't believe the man
I ghosted six months ago
463
00:19:43,574 --> 00:19:44,998
Turned out to be my husband.
464
00:19:45,018 --> 00:19:46,667
- How did you react
when you saw me?
465
00:19:46,761 --> 00:19:48,744
- I was like, oh, crap.
466
00:19:48,763 --> 00:19:50,413
♪ ♪
467
00:19:50,431 --> 00:19:51,747
But then he wrapped
his arms around me,
468
00:19:51,766 --> 00:19:53,674
And the whole
world melted away.
469
00:19:53,693 --> 00:19:55,526
Babe, my neck going to
be stuck like that.
470
00:19:55,753 --> 00:19:57,344
Dang.
471
00:19:57,363 --> 00:19:59,363
- ♪ I've been
losing my mind for you ♪
472
00:19:59,515 --> 00:20:00,364
- He's very sweet.
473
00:20:00,516 --> 00:20:01,424
- These are for you.
474
00:20:01,442 --> 00:20:03,534
- Thank you.
475
00:20:03,686 --> 00:20:07,446
- ♪ I'm losing my mind ♪
476
00:20:07,598 --> 00:20:09,932
- Justin made me feel
comfortable to express myself.
477
00:20:09,951 --> 00:20:11,600
- You're bringing out
the sensitive side of her
478
00:20:11,619 --> 00:20:14,286
That I haven't never
seen, but I love it.
479
00:20:14,439 --> 00:20:16,214
- And I'm appreciative of him.
480
00:20:16,365 --> 00:20:18,774
You're made for me.
481
00:20:18,793 --> 00:20:20,125
I need you.
482
00:20:20,278 --> 00:20:21,961
But sometimes,
justin can be too much.
483
00:20:22,113 --> 00:20:25,448
My husband is sensitive, and
it's genuinely hard for me.
484
00:20:25,466 --> 00:20:26,966
♪ ♪
485
00:20:27,118 --> 00:20:28,784
Justin makes me question
if I want to be with him
486
00:20:28,803 --> 00:20:30,561
Because of his inconsistency.
487
00:20:30,713 --> 00:20:33,138
For me to be just fed up over
somebody who at one point,
488
00:20:33,291 --> 00:20:35,716
It was rainbows and
sunshine, it's draining.
489
00:20:35,735 --> 00:20:37,460
- Because you're just perfect.
490
00:20:37,478 --> 00:20:38,903
- All right.
491
00:20:39,054 --> 00:20:40,796
Because you're doing
the absolute most.
492
00:20:40,815 --> 00:20:42,073
- Ok.
- You're very emotional.
493
00:20:42,224 --> 00:20:44,467
You call it passionate,
but I'm hurt.
494
00:20:44,485 --> 00:20:46,135
It still hurts.
495
00:20:46,153 --> 00:20:48,320
There are some days where
I wonder can I really do
496
00:20:48,473 --> 00:20:50,139
This for the rest of my life.
497
00:20:50,157 --> 00:20:54,919
♪ ♪
498
00:20:55,070 --> 00:20:56,662
I knew on the wedding
day that I was going
499
00:20:56,814 --> 00:20:58,664
To fall in love with alexis.
500
00:20:58,758 --> 00:21:00,424
God did good.
501
00:21:00,576 --> 00:21:02,651
You did good.
502
00:21:02,670 --> 00:21:04,153
[laughter]
503
00:21:04,246 --> 00:21:05,429
- ♪ give it up,
give it up ♪
504
00:21:05,581 --> 00:21:07,490
♪ give it up ♪
505
00:21:07,508 --> 00:21:09,433
- Her looks are a bonus,
and I'm grateful for that,
506
00:21:09,585 --> 00:21:11,585
But her personality
is everything.
507
00:21:11,604 --> 00:21:13,012
Oh, you got 6'8" man.
508
00:21:13,106 --> 00:21:14,087
You got a freak.
509
00:21:14,107 --> 00:21:15,180
- Give me your phone.
510
00:21:15,333 --> 00:21:17,108
- Whoa!
511
00:21:17,335 --> 00:21:20,093
Whoo!
512
00:21:20,113 --> 00:21:21,687
She's bubbly.
513
00:21:21,781 --> 00:21:22,780
She's charming.
514
00:21:22,931 --> 00:21:25,024
- Oh, [bleep].
515
00:21:25,176 --> 00:21:27,285
- She made me feel secure.
516
00:21:27,436 --> 00:21:28,286
- I do love you.
517
00:21:28,437 --> 00:21:29,770
- You love me?
518
00:21:29,789 --> 00:21:31,697
Like damn,
you got my heart, girl.
519
00:21:31,849 --> 00:21:32,773
She even told me she loved me.
520
00:21:32,792 --> 00:21:35,126
- Want to say hell
to miss mya?
521
00:21:35,277 --> 00:21:36,852
- What happened?
522
00:21:36,871 --> 00:21:40,464
- We got off track when
the accident with the dogs
523
00:21:40,691 --> 00:21:44,117
Happened,
and it's been rocky since.
524
00:21:44,137 --> 00:21:45,210
Can you tell me how
much you love me?
525
00:21:45,363 --> 00:21:47,029
- No.
526
00:21:47,048 --> 00:21:48,047
- Nah, man.
527
00:21:48,199 --> 00:21:49,456
I don't think she wants me.
528
00:21:49,475 --> 00:21:51,550
I don't think she's
attracted to me,
529
00:21:51,702 --> 00:21:53,702
And it speaks in the bedroom.
530
00:21:53,721 --> 00:21:56,797
The intimacy, we're
different in that area.
531
00:21:56,816 --> 00:21:59,041
She's used to somebody
being dominant,
532
00:21:59,060 --> 00:22:02,153
And I don't mind being
dominate if I know the energy
533
00:22:02,304 --> 00:22:03,729
Is being reciprocated.
534
00:22:03,881 --> 00:22:04,822
Alexis is not ready to
give up the single life.
535
00:22:12,665 --> 00:22:14,481
- Alexis letting me
give my dog away,
536
00:22:14,500 --> 00:22:18,169
And is still unsure about
me, and that's very selfish.
537
00:22:18,396 --> 00:22:20,412
I still want you to
be true to yourself,
538
00:22:20,565 --> 00:22:21,988
But not necessarily forget me.
539
00:22:22,083 --> 00:22:24,991
- ♪ so I keep fighting ♪
540
00:22:25,011 --> 00:22:27,419
- I didn't think marriage
would be this hard.
541
00:22:27,572 --> 00:22:29,088
- It's like what are we doing?
542
00:22:29,182 --> 00:22:31,590
At some point, it's just
like when is enough enough?
543
00:22:31,684 --> 00:22:34,185
- There's always days when
I question our marriage,
544
00:22:34,336 --> 00:22:36,261
But at the end of the
day, I don't regret
545
00:22:36,414 --> 00:22:38,839
Telling alexis I love her.
546
00:22:38,933 --> 00:22:42,751
- ♪ I can't give up ♪
547
00:22:42,770 --> 00:22:49,700
♪ ♪
548
00:22:53,614 --> 00:22:54,597
- What?
Look at this guy.
549
00:22:54,615 --> 00:22:55,539
- All right.
550
00:22:55,691 --> 00:22:57,099
- Boy, you're sharp.
551
00:22:57,118 --> 00:22:59,043
- I feel optimistic,
but at the same time,
552
00:22:59,194 --> 00:23:00,711
I know that it's still going
to be a challenge because
553
00:23:00,938 --> 00:23:01,937
We're only eight weeks
in this thing,
554
00:23:01,956 --> 00:23:03,606
And we have so much more
to learn.
555
00:23:03,699 --> 00:23:05,107
- I like it.
It really suits you.
556
00:23:05,126 --> 00:23:06,775
- Thank you.
557
00:23:06,794 --> 00:23:09,035
But I've also put 400%
myself into this marriage,
558
00:23:09,055 --> 00:23:10,779
So I would be grateful
if she said yeah.
559
00:23:10,798 --> 00:23:17,786
♪ ♪
560
00:23:17,805 --> 00:23:18,787
- Whoo.
561
00:23:18,806 --> 00:23:21,399
♪ ♪
562
00:23:21,626 --> 00:23:23,142
- Oh, that's my
goddess right there, boy.
563
00:23:23,236 --> 00:23:24,793
Let me tell you.
564
00:23:24,812 --> 00:23:26,478
Look at you.
565
00:23:26,631 --> 00:23:29,055
Hello, my queen.
- [laughs]
566
00:23:29,150 --> 00:23:31,558
This is, for sure, one of the
biggest decisions of my life.
567
00:23:31,652 --> 00:23:32,968
- I got something for you.
568
00:23:32,987 --> 00:23:33,986
- Why, thank you, honey.
- Yes, ma'am.
569
00:23:34,138 --> 00:23:36,155
- That's my favorite colors.
570
00:23:36,307 --> 00:23:39,808
I know what I'm going to say,
and I've decided not to think
571
00:23:39,827 --> 00:23:42,736
About it and just go for it.
572
00:23:42,830 --> 00:23:45,314
- You guys are looking great,
and I'm glad that you're here.
573
00:23:45,332 --> 00:23:46,257
- Thank you.
574
00:23:46,408 --> 00:23:47,483
- Let's talk about this.
575
00:23:47,501 --> 00:23:48,742
How are you guys feeling today?
576
00:23:48,761 --> 00:23:50,261
How are you feeling
about this day?
577
00:23:50,412 --> 00:23:52,078
- I feel good.
578
00:23:52,098 --> 00:23:54,156
The reason I feel good is
because the epiphany that I
579
00:23:54,175 --> 00:23:57,083
Had is I discovered that
I live in my head a lot,
580
00:23:57,103 --> 00:23:59,495
To the point where it can be
really hard to get me out.
581
00:23:59,513 --> 00:24:02,088
And I don't think
without you specifically,
582
00:24:02,108 --> 00:24:03,757
I would have had
that epiphany, and I
583
00:24:03,776 --> 00:24:05,184
Would have been
living life thinking
584
00:24:05,336 --> 00:24:06,852
That everything was ok.
585
00:24:07,004 --> 00:24:08,687
- I really appreciate you
being vulnerable with me.
586
00:24:08,839 --> 00:24:11,431
I appreciate all the
growth that you've had
587
00:24:11,451 --> 00:24:15,694
And really, just loving me,
cherishing me.
588
00:24:15,788 --> 00:24:17,196
I feel cherished.
589
00:24:17,348 --> 00:24:18,622
- I appreciate you
really listening to me
590
00:24:18,774 --> 00:24:20,124
And understanding me.
591
00:24:20,275 --> 00:24:22,275
And I know at times I've
said, you don't get me,
592
00:24:22,295 --> 00:24:23,869
You understand me,
I'm misunderstood,
593
00:24:24,021 --> 00:24:25,521
And then you'll do something.
594
00:24:25,539 --> 00:24:26,705
And I'll be like, baby, you
really do listen to me.
595
00:24:26,857 --> 00:24:28,615
- All the time.
- All the time.
596
00:24:28,634 --> 00:24:30,375
- Unfortunately, yeah.
597
00:24:30,470 --> 00:24:31,635
- I want to talk about
something that's sort of been
598
00:24:31,787 --> 00:24:33,712
A theme through
your relationship,
599
00:24:33,864 --> 00:24:35,864
And that was your intimacy.
600
00:24:35,883 --> 00:24:37,641
- Mm-hmm.
601
00:24:37,793 --> 00:24:40,035
- And I understand that you
did consummate the marriage.
602
00:24:40,054 --> 00:24:40,978
- We did.
603
00:24:41,205 --> 00:24:42,813
- Ok.
604
00:24:42,965 --> 00:24:44,982
I want to know how has that
changed your relationship?
605
00:24:45,133 --> 00:24:47,059
- It's been fun, man.
606
00:24:47,211 --> 00:24:50,470
I ain't on going to sit here
and front; it has been fun.
607
00:24:50,490 --> 00:24:52,898
- I was proud of
him for initiating,
608
00:24:53,050 --> 00:24:54,399
But we got some work to do.
609
00:24:54,552 --> 00:24:55,718
We do.
610
00:24:55,736 --> 00:24:57,052
- Ok, hold up.
Tell me more.
611
00:24:57,071 --> 00:24:58,220
What do you mean?
612
00:24:58,239 --> 00:25:01,999
- [sighs] we got
some work to do.
613
00:25:02,226 --> 00:25:04,560
- Ok.
614
00:25:04,578 --> 00:25:06,562
- Yeah.
615
00:25:06,580 --> 00:25:08,488
♪ ♪
616
00:25:08,508 --> 00:25:10,323
- That's not uncommon.
617
00:25:10,343 --> 00:25:12,158
In fact, probably,
all relationships,
618
00:25:12,178 --> 00:25:13,827
Once they go from
one level to another
619
00:25:13,846 --> 00:25:16,588
Have some adjustment to do.
- Yes.
620
00:25:16,741 --> 00:25:18,240
- What are some of
the tough stuff?
621
00:25:18,259 --> 00:25:21,167
Was mya a turning point
in your relationship
622
00:25:21,187 --> 00:25:22,745
In some ways for you?
623
00:25:22,763 --> 00:25:24,246
- It mattered to me, for
sure, because, you know,
624
00:25:24,265 --> 00:25:26,690
I have newton, so I
can relate in the terms
625
00:25:26,842 --> 00:25:29,251
Of being a fur parent.
626
00:25:29,270 --> 00:25:31,920
However, it was the times
that you threw it in my face
627
00:25:31,939 --> 00:25:35,774
And came from the perspective
that you should stay because I
628
00:25:35,926 --> 00:25:37,109
Gave my dog up for you.
629
00:25:37,261 --> 00:25:38,852
That's when I
wasn't ok with it.
630
00:25:38,871 --> 00:25:40,779
- When I made the
decision, you said
631
00:25:40,931 --> 00:25:43,207
When I was throwing it in your
face-- and that's true, I was.
632
00:25:43,358 --> 00:25:45,692
I was bringing it up because
I was under the impression
633
00:25:45,711 --> 00:25:47,770
That me making that
decision, that it
634
00:25:47,788 --> 00:25:49,121
Was a yes for our marriage.
635
00:25:49,273 --> 00:25:51,290
- I just don't agree with that.
636
00:25:51,442 --> 00:25:52,883
♪ ♪
637
00:25:53,035 --> 00:25:56,779
- Well, the time has come for
you to make that decision,
638
00:25:56,797 --> 00:26:00,632
Whether you want to stay
married or get a divorce.
639
00:26:00,785 --> 00:26:06,622
♪ ♪
640
00:26:06,640 --> 00:26:11,051
- Alexis, I know that it's been
an emotional roller coaster.
641
00:26:11,070 --> 00:26:16,723
I know that I've made you feel
isolated and alone at times.
642
00:26:16,817 --> 00:26:19,985
I know that there's times that
you probably resent me because
643
00:26:20,137 --> 00:26:23,972
Of my actions, but
with that being said,
644
00:26:23,991 --> 00:26:26,232
I feel that you complement
me in a lot of ways,
645
00:26:26,252 --> 00:26:28,994
And I'm going to continue
discovering things
646
00:26:29,146 --> 00:26:32,147
About myself that's going
to benefit me as a whole,
647
00:26:32,166 --> 00:26:35,408
As a person.
648
00:26:35,428 --> 00:26:38,320
So my answer is yes, I do
want to stay married to you.
649
00:26:38,339 --> 00:26:42,674
♪ ♪
650
00:26:42,827 --> 00:26:45,102
Alexis?
651
00:26:51,352 --> 00:26:53,335
- Well, my answer is yes.
652
00:26:53,428 --> 00:26:54,853
I do want to stay
married to you.
653
00:26:54,947 --> 00:26:59,524
♪ ♪
654
00:26:59,619 --> 00:27:01,693
Alexis?
655
00:27:01,787 --> 00:27:05,013
♪ ♪
656
00:27:05,032 --> 00:27:08,274
Oh, [bleep].
657
00:27:08,294 --> 00:27:10,294
- Ok.
658
00:27:10,521 --> 00:27:12,296
At one point,
I felt like I've seen
659
00:27:12,447 --> 00:27:17,784
Enough, enough hurt, enough
isolation, enough chaos.
660
00:27:17,803 --> 00:27:21,530
At times, I struggled
to see the positive.
661
00:27:21,623 --> 00:27:24,032
I sit before you
even now unsure
662
00:27:24,126 --> 00:27:26,810
What the right decision is.
663
00:27:26,962 --> 00:27:28,537
After a lot of
thought and prayer,
664
00:27:28,630 --> 00:27:30,147
I realized the
answer was simple,
665
00:27:30,298 --> 00:27:31,723
Confront my fears head on.
666
00:27:31,817 --> 00:27:35,043
♪ ♪
667
00:27:35,062 --> 00:27:36,561
That's what I intend to do.
668
00:27:36,714 --> 00:27:38,714
♪ ♪
669
00:27:38,807 --> 00:27:41,325
Trust you,
even when I'm afraid to.
670
00:27:41,552 --> 00:27:43,994
Confide in you, even
when I'm afraid to.
671
00:27:44,221 --> 00:27:46,830
Choose you, even
when I'm afraid to.
672
00:27:47,057 --> 00:27:48,907
So I can't say yes
to forever, but
673
00:27:49,001 --> 00:27:52,911
Today, I can say yes,
to time; yes, to growth;
674
00:27:53,005 --> 00:27:55,005
And yes, to you.
675
00:27:55,232 --> 00:27:56,915
So I'm saying yes
to staying married.
676
00:27:57,009 --> 00:28:03,405
♪ ♪
677
00:28:03,424 --> 00:28:04,497
- Well, you guys.
678
00:28:04,517 --> 00:28:05,849
- Oh, my god.
679
00:28:06,076 --> 00:28:07,242
- That was beautiful, girl.
- Thank you.
680
00:28:07,261 --> 00:28:08,334
- That was very thought out.
681
00:28:08,429 --> 00:28:10,170
That was beautiful.
682
00:28:10,189 --> 00:28:15,008
- I admire both of you for
your honesty and your hope
683
00:28:15,027 --> 00:28:18,511
And your willingness
to reinvest and to try
684
00:28:18,531 --> 00:28:20,589
And to face the
things that worry you
685
00:28:20,607 --> 00:28:22,682
And to grow with each other.
686
00:28:22,776 --> 00:28:25,703
Marriage is worth that, and
this marriage is worth that.
687
00:28:27,281 --> 00:28:32,376
- You know, I'm so very proud
of who you are right now.
688
00:28:32,603 --> 00:28:34,436
We liked who you
were before, but we
689
00:28:34,529 --> 00:28:36,288
Love who you are right now.
690
00:28:36,382 --> 00:28:39,775
Because you guys have not
only grown individually,
691
00:28:39,793 --> 00:28:41,201
But you've grown as a unit.
692
00:28:41,295 --> 00:28:43,946
The challenges that you
faced, I want you guys to take
693
00:28:43,964 --> 00:28:46,372
Those challenges,
put them away, and look
694
00:28:46,392 --> 00:28:48,784
At today as your day to reset.
- Yeah.
695
00:28:48,802 --> 00:28:51,895
- This day right here is
when your marriage begins.
696
00:28:52,047 --> 00:28:52,955
Cheers to you guys.
- Thank you.
697
00:28:52,973 --> 00:28:54,306
- Thank you.
698
00:28:54,400 --> 00:28:56,124
- So let's have champagne.
- Let's celebrate.
699
00:28:56,143 --> 00:28:57,459
- Yes.
- Yay.
700
00:28:57,478 --> 00:28:58,627
This is our wine.
701
00:28:58,720 --> 00:28:59,903
- Oh, you brought
your own wine.
702
00:29:00,055 --> 00:29:01,797
I think that is so cute.
703
00:29:01,890 --> 00:29:03,723
- It says alexis
and justin's rosé
704
00:29:03,817 --> 00:29:06,301
Because we went to a winery
during the couple's retreat.
705
00:29:06,394 --> 00:29:08,303
- Awesome.
- This is sweet.
706
00:29:08,396 --> 00:29:11,731
I like it.
- This is very good.
707
00:29:11,825 --> 00:29:14,993
This is the beginning, the
beginning of your marriage.
708
00:29:15,145 --> 00:29:16,979
The first time, we chose
you to be together.
709
00:29:16,997 --> 00:29:19,481
Today, you chose each other.
710
00:29:19,574 --> 00:29:23,668
- ♪ you've got my heart ♪
711
00:29:23,821 --> 00:29:28,156
♪ right where it shows me ♪
712
00:29:28,175 --> 00:29:29,508
♪ you've got my heart ♪
713
00:29:29,660 --> 00:29:30,768
- I hope you guys grow in love.
714
00:29:30,919 --> 00:29:32,102
I do.
- Thank you.
715
00:29:32,254 --> 00:29:34,012
Thank you, baby.
- You're welcome.
716
00:29:34,106 --> 00:29:36,756
♪ ♪
717
00:29:36,850 --> 00:29:38,667
We did choose each other.
718
00:29:38,685 --> 00:29:40,260
- We did.
- I like that.
719
00:29:40,354 --> 00:29:42,504
- We did, baby boy.
720
00:29:42,523 --> 00:29:44,264
- We got a long and fun
life ahead of us, girl.
721
00:29:44,358 --> 00:29:49,787
- ♪ you got my heart ♪
722
00:29:49,938 --> 00:29:52,772
- ♪ take me away ♪
723
00:29:52,866 --> 00:29:55,534
♪ don't be afraid ♪
724
00:29:55,628 --> 00:30:00,464
♪ 'cause they always say
let go of your fears ♪
725
00:30:00,615 --> 00:30:03,116
- Oh, my goodness,
lindy and miguel.
726
00:30:03,135 --> 00:30:04,543
- I know.
I know, the lovebirds.
727
00:30:04,637 --> 00:30:06,286
- Yeah.
728
00:30:06,305 --> 00:30:09,956
This is couple that I felt,
right from the get-go
729
00:30:09,975 --> 00:30:12,701
Had lots to offer
each other, because I
730
00:30:12,719 --> 00:30:15,203
Think they really get each
other in so many ways.
731
00:30:15,222 --> 00:30:16,980
- They really do.
732
00:30:17,132 --> 00:30:20,150
- But miguel could show up as
the doting husband, caring,
733
00:30:20,377 --> 00:30:22,135
Let's just work through
all these things,
734
00:30:22,154 --> 00:30:25,213
Or he could show
up as judgmental.
735
00:30:25,232 --> 00:30:27,991
I've got my reservations,
maybe this, maybe that.
736
00:30:28,218 --> 00:30:28,975
I'm wondering who's
going to show up.
737
00:30:28,994 --> 00:30:30,902
- Mm.
738
00:30:30,996 --> 00:30:33,479
♪ ♪
739
00:30:33,574 --> 00:30:37,409
- Lindy and miguel's romance
has evolved into true love,
740
00:30:37,503 --> 00:30:39,336
But the challenges
in their relationship
741
00:30:39,487 --> 00:30:43,915
Have made them question if
love is enough to sustain them.
742
00:30:44,068 --> 00:30:45,658
They both have
emotional intelligence
743
00:30:45,678 --> 00:30:47,344
And the willingness
to communicate,
744
00:30:47,495 --> 00:30:49,346
Which makes them
a great match.
745
00:30:49,573 --> 00:30:51,907
Lindy is exactly
what miguel needs,
746
00:30:51,925 --> 00:30:54,426
And miguel is exactly
what she needs.
747
00:30:54,520 --> 00:30:56,669
We can only hope they'll
see past their challenges
748
00:30:56,689 --> 00:30:58,838
And embrace
the potential they have
749
00:30:58,932 --> 00:31:02,434
To continue evolving
together as lifelong partners
750
00:31:02,528 --> 00:31:05,921
And lovers.
751
00:31:06,014 --> 00:31:08,757
- ♪ when you say you love me ♪
752
00:31:08,775 --> 00:31:12,094
- Miguel makes me feel
warm fuzzy feelings.
753
00:31:12,112 --> 00:31:14,520
I started crushing on
him from the second
754
00:31:14,615 --> 00:31:15,873
I saw him at the altar.
755
00:31:16,024 --> 00:31:19,601
Oh, my god, you guys.
756
00:31:19,620 --> 00:31:21,044
Oh, my god.
757
00:31:21,196 --> 00:31:23,196
Miguel is hilarious.
758
00:31:23,215 --> 00:31:25,273
Are you going to
cuddle it more than me?
759
00:31:25,292 --> 00:31:27,533
Seeing miguel interact
with our robot baby
760
00:31:27,628 --> 00:31:28,627
Really warmed my heart.
761
00:31:28,721 --> 00:31:30,554
♪ ♪
762
00:31:30,781 --> 00:31:31,796
- Hi.
763
00:31:31,949 --> 00:31:33,131
I love miguel's romantic side.
764
00:31:33,225 --> 00:31:34,892
Thank you.
765
00:31:35,043 --> 00:31:35,875
- ♪ I'm so glad you got down
on that knee ♪
766
00:31:35,969 --> 00:31:37,802
- I love this dress.
767
00:31:37,897 --> 00:31:41,047
I continue to be amazed
how kind and caring
768
00:31:41,141 --> 00:31:43,066
And considerate he is.
769
00:31:43,218 --> 00:31:45,627
Thank you, baby.
This is so sweet.
770
00:31:45,646 --> 00:31:47,979
Miguel and I bring out
the best in each other,
771
00:31:48,132 --> 00:31:49,740
But there's a lot
of ups and downs.
772
00:31:49,891 --> 00:31:51,557
He's like, I don't know.
773
00:31:51,652 --> 00:31:52,801
I'm giving you eight weeks,
and that doesn't feel right.
774
00:31:52,894 --> 00:31:54,302
- Oh, not quite.
Not quite.
775
00:31:54,321 --> 00:31:56,396
No, those are not my--
- that feels like [bleep].
776
00:31:56,415 --> 00:31:58,231
Him being skeptical
from the beginning
777
00:31:58,250 --> 00:32:00,584
Made me feel that
I was being tested.
778
00:32:00,735 --> 00:32:02,735
- I don't know if
this is working.
779
00:32:02,755 --> 00:32:04,312
I feel like it's not
working right now.
780
00:32:04,331 --> 00:32:06,148
- I'll be honest, it
sounds like a threat to me.
781
00:32:06,241 --> 00:32:08,166
- But it's the reality of it.
782
00:32:08,260 --> 00:32:11,153
- Sometimes miguel
makes me feel like I'm
783
00:32:11,171 --> 00:32:12,671
Not good enough for him.
784
00:32:12,765 --> 00:32:14,580
I just feel like I'm not
being heard right now.
785
00:32:14,600 --> 00:32:16,266
- You don't talk to me
like that-- ever.
786
00:32:16,493 --> 00:32:19,511
- Our relationship
has been so good,
787
00:32:19,605 --> 00:32:21,939
And there's one thing
that's wrong, and he's like
788
00:32:22,090 --> 00:32:23,515
Ready to [bleep] bounce.
789
00:32:23,609 --> 00:32:25,758
♪ ♪
790
00:32:25,852 --> 00:32:28,520
I'm in love with miguel,
but when is love not enough?
791
00:32:28,614 --> 00:32:32,115
♪ ♪
792
00:32:32,267 --> 00:32:34,100
Ok, I'm lindy.
793
00:32:34,119 --> 00:32:35,343
- I'm miguel.
Nice to meet you.
794
00:32:35,437 --> 00:32:36,936
- Miguel, nice to meet you.
795
00:32:37,030 --> 00:32:38,513
- In the beginning, I was
willing to commit to eight
796
00:32:38,532 --> 00:32:41,183
Weeks, but lindy has shown
me that this love can
797
00:32:41,276 --> 00:32:42,184
Potentially last a lifetime.
798
00:32:42,277 --> 00:32:46,129
- ♪ and only one or two ♪
799
00:32:46,281 --> 00:32:50,358
- You literally, have taken me
from one side to the other,
800
00:32:50,377 --> 00:32:52,636
Like completely won me over.
801
00:32:52,863 --> 00:32:54,805
- ♪ we've got something
so real ♪
802
00:32:54,956 --> 00:32:57,457
- My favorite thing about
lindy is her sense of humor.
803
00:32:57,476 --> 00:32:58,809
- Oh, my god.
804
00:32:58,960 --> 00:33:00,051
Look how awkward
I am with my kid.
805
00:33:00,145 --> 00:33:02,204
[laughter]
806
00:33:02,222 --> 00:33:06,149
- Her personality, and
of course, her sexuality.
807
00:33:06,301 --> 00:33:08,059
Make sure you guys
get the boner.
808
00:33:08,153 --> 00:33:10,045
- [laughs]
809
00:33:10,063 --> 00:33:14,140
Lindy is shiny, happy
pink, sunshine incarnate.
810
00:33:14,159 --> 00:33:15,550
[laughs]
811
00:33:15,569 --> 00:33:16,827
I love you.
812
00:33:16,978 --> 00:33:18,236
- Oh, I love you too.
813
00:33:18,388 --> 00:33:20,889
- ♪ oh, we keep
turning it up ♪
814
00:33:20,907 --> 00:33:22,815
- No one has ever loved
me the way that she does.
815
00:33:22,835 --> 00:33:25,744
- ♪ I can't take my eyes
off you ♪
816
00:33:25,896 --> 00:33:27,395
- Lindy is very passionate.
817
00:33:27,414 --> 00:33:28,897
It's part of her
personality, but I don't like
818
00:33:28,990 --> 00:33:30,841
When lindy has an outburst.
819
00:33:31,068 --> 00:33:31,916
- You don't want
to take care of me?
820
00:33:32,011 --> 00:33:33,493
Then how the [bleep]
do you expect
821
00:33:33,587 --> 00:33:35,828
Me to take your last name?
822
00:33:35,848 --> 00:33:38,240
- It is exhausting
to constantly
823
00:33:38,333 --> 00:33:40,075
Fight against negativity.
824
00:33:40,093 --> 00:33:41,518
- You were mad.
825
00:33:41,745 --> 00:33:42,853
You can't deny that.
- I wasn't mad.
826
00:33:43,080 --> 00:33:45,004
- That's why I said I
can't [bleep] win.
827
00:33:45,024 --> 00:33:46,598
- You know, I start
to wonder like,
828
00:33:46,692 --> 00:33:50,009
Wow, if this is going to
be my life, can I do this,
829
00:33:50,103 --> 00:33:52,270
And I don't know.
830
00:33:52,364 --> 00:34:11,773
♪ ♪
831
00:34:11,866 --> 00:34:14,125
- Hey, guys.
- Oh, there he is.
832
00:34:14,278 --> 00:34:15,552
- We're kind of matching.
- Look at that.
833
00:34:15,779 --> 00:34:16,869
Come on, man.
How you doing, buddy?
834
00:34:16,963 --> 00:34:18,055
- I missed the memo.
835
00:34:18,282 --> 00:34:19,056
- Good to see you, man.
- Good to see you.
836
00:34:19,207 --> 00:34:20,223
- It's so good to
see you, miguel.
837
00:34:20,375 --> 00:34:21,950
- Hi, ma'am.
It's good to see you.
838
00:34:21,968 --> 00:34:23,376
- Yeah.
839
00:34:23,395 --> 00:34:24,969
- How do you feel?
840
00:34:25,122 --> 00:34:26,955
- A little anxious.
I'm not going to lie.
841
00:34:26,973 --> 00:34:33,070
♪ ♪
842
00:34:36,817 --> 00:34:39,984
- My feelings are kind of all
over the place, to be honest.
843
00:34:40,137 --> 00:34:43,305
There's been so much good,
but still, there's been a lot
844
00:34:43,323 --> 00:34:44,730
Of red flags and concerns.
845
00:34:44,750 --> 00:34:46,975
I'm just remembering
the harder times
846
00:34:46,993 --> 00:34:50,236
And questioning, when do
I say enough is enough?
847
00:34:50,330 --> 00:34:51,922
I have a lot of unknowns.
848
00:34:52,073 --> 00:34:53,832
Good to see you again.
849
00:34:53,984 --> 00:34:55,817
- Yeah, we're big
fans of you guys.
850
00:34:55,836 --> 00:34:58,320
Always have been.
851
00:34:58,413 --> 00:35:00,413
- But I do know that
your relationship,
852
00:35:00,432 --> 00:35:03,174
You sort of started out as
the lovebirds in the group.
853
00:35:03,327 --> 00:35:04,676
- Yeah.
854
00:35:04,770 --> 00:35:06,919
- Then you hit some
problems over the retreat.
855
00:35:06,939 --> 00:35:08,997
- Yeah. And I felt like we were
on the right track,
856
00:35:09,090 --> 00:35:10,440
And then we had
one big argument
857
00:35:10,667 --> 00:35:12,442
Again that got me
right back to that,
858
00:35:12,594 --> 00:35:15,019
Why are we fighting again?
859
00:35:15,172 --> 00:35:17,948
- I think the hardest
part is when we were
860
00:35:18,175 --> 00:35:20,117
Having these
miscommunications, miguel
861
00:35:20,268 --> 00:35:21,860
Was questioning the match.
862
00:35:21,954 --> 00:35:24,362
He was questioning if I'm
right for him, questioning
863
00:35:24,514 --> 00:35:25,864
If he's ready to be married.
864
00:35:25,958 --> 00:35:27,182
He's literally like--
865
00:35:27,200 --> 00:35:28,199
- He's saying--
866
00:35:28,352 --> 00:35:30,018
- He's saying these things.
867
00:35:30,036 --> 00:35:33,779
And I early, early on, I've
asked him to not do that,
868
00:35:33,799 --> 00:35:37,208
Because to bring me
through it is painful.
869
00:35:37,302 --> 00:35:41,713
I've felt like he's had
controlling demeanors,
870
00:35:41,865 --> 00:35:45,625
But I don't know if
that's coming from past--
871
00:35:45,719 --> 00:35:46,885
- Express yourself.
872
00:35:46,979 --> 00:35:49,980
- --Demons, so to speak.
873
00:35:50,131 --> 00:35:51,556
- We all have demons.
874
00:35:51,708 --> 00:35:53,633
We all have stuff that
we lock in the basement.
875
00:35:53,652 --> 00:35:55,485
And as you know, I've
opened up to you.
876
00:35:55,637 --> 00:35:59,898
I've done a lot of work trying
to process my past traumas.
877
00:36:00,050 --> 00:36:01,825
It's a never-ending
process, if you will.
878
00:36:01,976 --> 00:36:05,053
And I feel like I definitely
gave everything I could.
879
00:36:05,071 --> 00:36:07,998
- The certain things like
interrupting him or getting
880
00:36:08,225 --> 00:36:10,742
Distracted about how
it does bother him,
881
00:36:10,894 --> 00:36:13,152
Is that a normal give and take?
882
00:36:13,172 --> 00:36:17,490
I'm constantly asking
myself, am I safe or unsafe?
883
00:36:17,584 --> 00:36:19,083
It's just like an innate thing.
884
00:36:19,236 --> 00:36:23,496
- So if we mention
when lindy is
885
00:36:23,590 --> 00:36:28,760
Explosive, how have you both
managed it, talked about it?
886
00:36:28,912 --> 00:36:30,187
Where do you think
you're on it?
887
00:36:30,414 --> 00:36:33,264
- I need to hold
space for you and not
888
00:36:33,358 --> 00:36:35,250
Get defensive or sensitive,
but at the same time,
889
00:36:35,343 --> 00:36:37,101
Understand that I
still haven't figured
890
00:36:37,254 --> 00:36:41,589
Out when you do
get so emotional,
891
00:36:41,608 --> 00:36:43,591
Something happens inside me.
892
00:36:43,685 --> 00:36:45,702
- But that's part
of me existing.
893
00:36:45,853 --> 00:36:47,537
And so it's like, where is
the give and take with that?
894
00:36:47,689 --> 00:36:51,433
Is that changing who I am?
895
00:36:51,526 --> 00:36:53,543
We're both very reactive.
- Yeah.
896
00:36:53,695 --> 00:36:54,878
- I feel your energy.
897
00:36:55,105 --> 00:36:57,772
Believe me, my body
is on fire when
898
00:36:57,865 --> 00:37:00,608
You're putting your hands up.
- Yeah.
899
00:37:00,702 --> 00:37:03,445
- When we went on the
couple's retreat,
900
00:37:03,538 --> 00:37:06,948
I asked you for a
hug, and you said, no.
901
00:37:06,967 --> 00:37:08,616
- Yeah.
902
00:37:08,710 --> 00:37:11,286
- I mean, I cried
for an hour straight.
903
00:37:11,304 --> 00:37:13,955
That broke my [bleep] heart.
904
00:37:14,048 --> 00:37:15,473
I learned how to care for you.
905
00:37:15,567 --> 00:37:17,734
You taught me what to
do, and I implemented it,
906
00:37:17,885 --> 00:37:19,461
And it still
wasn't good enough.
907
00:37:19,479 --> 00:37:22,480
♪ ♪
908
00:37:22,632 --> 00:37:25,633
- Well, the time is
here for you to decide.
909
00:37:25,652 --> 00:37:27,652
♪ ♪
910
00:37:27,804 --> 00:37:30,638
Do you want to stay married,
911
00:37:30,732 --> 00:37:32,824
Or do you want to get
a divorce?
912
00:37:32,976 --> 00:37:36,661
♪ ♪
913
00:37:36,813 --> 00:37:40,740
- I have nothing but
respect and love for you.
914
00:37:40,834 --> 00:37:42,408
I'm so proud of you.
915
00:37:42,427 --> 00:37:45,745
The work that you've
done, just the person
916
00:37:45,764 --> 00:37:49,157
You are, I'm just totally
enamored with you.
917
00:37:49,175 --> 00:37:53,995
But when I need you the most
918
00:37:54,014 --> 00:37:58,090
In times of conflict, when you
pull away from me,
919
00:37:58,184 --> 00:38:00,685
And when you kind of shut down,
920
00:38:00,779 --> 00:38:03,338
That, I mean,
921
00:38:03,431 --> 00:38:05,931
It's so painful
and confusing,
922
00:38:05,951 --> 00:38:08,676
It scares me.
923
00:38:08,695 --> 00:38:10,287
♪ ♪
924
00:38:10,514 --> 00:38:13,197
But being able to
see you be depleted
925
00:38:13,292 --> 00:38:17,869
And vulnerable, I just feel
like I love you even more
926
00:38:18,021 --> 00:38:20,371
And I understand you
and know you even more.
927
00:38:20,524 --> 00:38:22,299
And the way we're able
to connect and talk
928
00:38:22,450 --> 00:38:28,212
About past hurts and hopes and
dreams, just the connection
929
00:38:28,365 --> 00:38:32,367
That I've built,
that we've built together,
930
00:38:32,460 --> 00:38:35,145
I'm really grateful for that.
931
00:38:35,372 --> 00:38:38,389
So absolutely, yes,
I love you, and I
932
00:38:38,542 --> 00:38:40,984
Hope that we have a
long-lasting marriage
933
00:38:41,135 --> 00:38:42,560
That lasts a lifetime.
934
00:38:42,712 --> 00:38:44,487
♪ ♪
935
00:38:44,639 --> 00:38:46,472
- Well, respond to that.
936
00:38:46,491 --> 00:38:47,899
- Wow.
937
00:38:48,051 --> 00:38:50,401
So I wrote something.
- Oh.
938
00:38:50,495 --> 00:38:52,311
- So here we go.
939
00:38:52,405 --> 00:38:55,481
So in after just eight weeks,
I feel like I know so much
940
00:38:55,500 --> 00:38:58,651
About you, not just your
favorite color, which I know
941
00:38:58,745 --> 00:39:01,821
Is teal, your favorite food,
which is probably something
942
00:39:01,915 --> 00:39:05,675
Like a sushi burrito, more
than just the frivolous facts,
943
00:39:05,902 --> 00:39:09,087
I've gotten to get
to know the real you.
944
00:39:09,239 --> 00:39:11,422
And the thing is I'm hooked.
945
00:39:11,516 --> 00:39:15,185
I'm inspired by you,
and I'm obsessed with you.
946
00:39:15,412 --> 00:39:18,096
A few pages into our
joint story and I
947
00:39:18,248 --> 00:39:19,839
Don't want to put
this book down.
948
00:39:19,858 --> 00:39:22,433
As you know, going
into this, I didn't
949
00:39:22,527 --> 00:39:25,695
Know if it would be a
catastrophe or a masterpiece,
950
00:39:25,847 --> 00:39:29,257
But you made it easy for me
to be stalwart from the start
951
00:39:29,350 --> 00:39:31,759
Because your love is
palpable, piercing
952
00:39:31,853 --> 00:39:33,703
Me fiercely through the heart.
953
00:39:33,855 --> 00:39:35,855
As puzzle pieces,
we don't just fit,
954
00:39:35,874 --> 00:39:38,933
We click, magnetized
towards each other
955
00:39:39,026 --> 00:39:40,451
From the moment we first met.
956
00:39:40,545 --> 00:39:43,287
- I'm trying.
957
00:39:43,382 --> 00:39:46,774
- I'm eager for us to continue
living our celebration
958
00:39:46,793 --> 00:39:48,626
Of having found each other.
959
00:39:48,778 --> 00:39:50,628
Let's continue to
foster the love
960
00:39:50,780 --> 00:39:54,282
That we've been searching for
and have found in one another.
961
00:39:54,300 --> 00:39:58,803
Because as you know, who
am I, if not the m-a-n
962
00:39:58,897 --> 00:40:00,788
To stand by your side.
963
00:40:00,807 --> 00:40:05,551
I just hope you'll be my
l-I-n-d-y, not just today,
964
00:40:05,645 --> 00:40:07,979
But till the day I die.
965
00:40:08,073 --> 00:40:10,389
Lindy, of course, I want
to stay married to you.
966
00:40:10,483 --> 00:40:11,633
My decision is yes.
967
00:40:11,651 --> 00:40:12,742
I love you.
968
00:40:12,894 --> 00:40:14,059
- I love you.
That was beautiful.
969
00:40:14,079 --> 00:40:14,911
- Oh.
970
00:40:15,138 --> 00:40:16,729
- Thank you.
971
00:40:16,748 --> 00:40:18,731
- Oh, my god.
972
00:40:18,750 --> 00:40:20,308
That was awesome.
973
00:40:20,326 --> 00:40:23,569
- That might be the best
I want to stay married--
974
00:40:23,588 --> 00:40:24,737
Ever.
975
00:40:24,756 --> 00:40:26,164
Ever.
976
00:40:26,316 --> 00:40:27,573
- That was so beautiful.
- That was insane.
977
00:40:27,592 --> 00:40:30,151
- That really was.
They both were beautiful.
978
00:40:30,170 --> 00:40:31,819
You just, when you
talk about one's tank,
979
00:40:31,913 --> 00:40:35,156
Our love tank has
just filled up, right?
980
00:40:35,175 --> 00:40:36,582
Really.
981
00:40:36,601 --> 00:40:38,768
- I think this is
calls for celebration
982
00:40:38,920 --> 00:40:39,844
For the lovely bride.
983
00:40:39,996 --> 00:40:42,346
- Thank you.
I know.
984
00:40:42,499 --> 00:40:43,422
I feel like this is
really our wedding day.
985
00:40:43,516 --> 00:40:44,924
- Yeah, right.
- Whew.
986
00:40:44,943 --> 00:40:46,276
- Yay.
987
00:40:46,427 --> 00:40:48,019
- Yay, it's fantastic.
988
00:40:48,171 --> 00:40:50,447
- And the real life begins.
989
00:40:50,674 --> 00:40:52,356
- Thank you.
990
00:40:52,509 --> 00:40:53,858
♪ ♪
991
00:40:53,952 --> 00:40:58,529
- Here's to you guys, the
beginning of your life
992
00:40:58,682 --> 00:41:01,273
Together, for better,
for worse, for richer,
993
00:41:01,293 --> 00:41:03,685
For poorer, in
sickness and in health,
994
00:41:03,703 --> 00:41:04,777
Till death do you part.
995
00:41:04,871 --> 00:41:05,778
- Cheers.
- Cheers.
996
00:41:05,872 --> 00:41:08,206
- Yay.
- L'chaim.
997
00:41:08,300 --> 00:41:10,616
[laughter]
998
00:41:10,635 --> 00:41:13,544
- I mean, I always knew my
decision since the moment
999
00:41:13,638 --> 00:41:15,972
I met this fool.
1000
00:41:16,123 --> 00:41:17,974
So yeah, I feel great.
1001
00:41:18,201 --> 00:41:20,368
- And what a fool I would
have been if I said no.
1002
00:41:20,386 --> 00:41:22,628
- Oh, yeah.
1003
00:41:22,722 --> 00:41:24,147
- [laughs] oh, yeah.
1004
00:41:24,374 --> 00:41:25,965
No.
1005
00:41:25,984 --> 00:41:27,484
I mean, I'm the happiest
man in the world right now.
1006
00:41:27,711 --> 00:41:29,727
I'm eager to see
where our story goes.
1007
00:41:29,879 --> 00:41:30,987
♪ ♪
1008
00:41:31,214 --> 00:41:33,731
- And you guys now
can go be married.
1009
00:41:33,883 --> 00:41:36,826
- Cheers.
1010
00:41:37,053 --> 00:41:38,569
- All right.
1011
00:41:38,663 --> 00:41:40,330
Off to eternal bliss?
1012
00:41:40,481 --> 00:41:41,739
- Right into the sunset.
1013
00:41:41,891 --> 00:41:43,725
- Rainbows and
butterflies, baby?
1014
00:41:43,743 --> 00:41:46,503
- Rainbows and butterflies.
1015
00:41:51,009 --> 00:41:52,825
- ♪ watch out ♪
1016
00:41:52,844 --> 00:41:54,402
♪ now you better
make it last ♪
1017
00:41:54,420 --> 00:41:56,571
♪ I know I'm going to
make it your last ♪
1018
00:41:56,589 --> 00:41:59,407
- So I have to tell you,
I really have some tension
1019
00:41:59,425 --> 00:42:01,184
And anxiety about this one.
1020
00:42:01,335 --> 00:42:05,596
Krysten and mitch are a great
couple in so many ways,
1021
00:42:05,749 --> 00:42:07,431
But they've had challenges.
1022
00:42:07,526 --> 00:42:09,417
- Husband 101.
1023
00:42:09,435 --> 00:42:14,255
In the class, never say
I'm not attracted to you.
1024
00:42:14,274 --> 00:42:16,181
You don't have to say that.
1025
00:42:16,276 --> 00:42:18,868
- But it's hard for people to
get out of their single selves
1026
00:42:19,095 --> 00:42:20,853
And their sense of
I'm an honest person,
1027
00:42:20,947 --> 00:42:23,689
And I have to say what's on my
mind, and all that, and go to,
1028
00:42:23,783 --> 00:42:25,357
I am a supportive person.
1029
00:42:25,451 --> 00:42:27,043
Here's what my wife needs.
1030
00:42:27,194 --> 00:42:29,954
- Yeah, it's tough because
they have so much potential.
1031
00:42:30,106 --> 00:42:32,456
- What gives me
hope is that they
1032
00:42:32,551 --> 00:42:35,126
Both really take accountability
for their actions.
1033
00:42:35,278 --> 00:42:37,202
- They do.
- They're thoughtful.
1034
00:42:37,222 --> 00:42:39,204
They apologize.
1035
00:42:39,299 --> 00:42:41,540
I think they have a very good
foundation to go forward with.
1036
00:42:41,560 --> 00:42:44,619
- They really admire, and I
think they respect each other.
1037
00:42:44,637 --> 00:42:48,047
I believe that they have
so much going for them.
1038
00:42:48,141 --> 00:42:49,624
- I do too.
- Yeah.
1039
00:42:49,642 --> 00:42:51,642
- But I don't know where
they're going to end up.
1040
00:42:51,736 --> 00:42:54,295
I really don't.
1041
00:42:54,314 --> 00:42:56,480
We matched krysten
and mitch because they
1042
00:42:56,633 --> 00:42:58,816
Are two emotionally
intelligent people,
1043
00:42:58,968 --> 00:43:01,652
Who are secure in
themselves and their lives.
1044
00:43:01,746 --> 00:43:05,230
They both express deep
appreciation for each other,
1045
00:43:05,250 --> 00:43:07,475
And I believe they
have the foundation
1046
00:43:07,493 --> 00:43:08,993
For a strong marriage.
1047
00:43:09,145 --> 00:43:12,088
But unfortunately,
mitch's unwillingness
1048
00:43:12,315 --> 00:43:15,316
To compromise and
krysten compromising
1049
00:43:15,335 --> 00:43:18,836
Too much has made
the marriage unstable.
1050
00:43:18,988 --> 00:43:21,839
♪ ♪
1051
00:43:21,991 --> 00:43:23,248
- Hi.
1052
00:43:23,343 --> 00:43:24,767
- Hello.
- I'm krysten.
1053
00:43:24,919 --> 00:43:26,251
- I'm mitch.
- Nice to meet you.
1054
00:43:26,271 --> 00:43:30,014
- You too. Pleasure.
- Can we shake hands?
1055
00:43:30,166 --> 00:43:33,610
When I first saw mitch, I felt
100% attraction and chemistry
1056
00:43:33,761 --> 00:43:34,836
Right off the bat.
1057
00:43:34,854 --> 00:43:36,595
Are you ok kissing?
- Sure.
1058
00:43:36,615 --> 00:43:39,173
- Ok.
Just a peck.
1059
00:43:39,192 --> 00:43:41,843
There are so many
things I love about mitch.
1060
00:43:41,861 --> 00:43:42,693
Thank you.
1061
00:43:42,787 --> 00:43:44,512
- You look nice.
1062
00:43:44,530 --> 00:43:45,513
I feel like I'm actually
seeing you for the first time.
1063
00:43:45,531 --> 00:43:47,106
- I know.
1064
00:43:47,125 --> 00:43:48,199
- I mean, you looked great
with all the makeup on.
1065
00:43:48,351 --> 00:43:49,775
- This is how I normally look.
1066
00:43:49,794 --> 00:43:52,111
The core of him is
such a good person.
1067
00:43:52,130 --> 00:43:54,464
- This stuff on the beach, and
it's impossible to clean up.
1068
00:43:54,615 --> 00:43:55,523
- It's triggering.
1069
00:43:55,541 --> 00:43:56,782
- Yeah.
1070
00:43:56,801 --> 00:43:59,193
- He cares a lot
about his passions
1071
00:43:59,212 --> 00:44:02,196
With his job, the
environment, his family.
1072
00:44:02,215 --> 00:44:04,031
- I'm feeling more and
more comfortable, and--
1073
00:44:04,050 --> 00:44:05,290
- Good.
1074
00:44:05,310 --> 00:44:06,809
- --It doesn't hurt
that I like you.
1075
00:44:07,036 --> 00:44:08,311
You know what I mean?
That doesn't hurt.
1076
00:44:08,462 --> 00:44:11,222
- Mitch is selfless,
thoughtful, respectful,
1077
00:44:11,374 --> 00:44:14,150
Smart, funny, crazy person.
1078
00:44:14,377 --> 00:44:17,561
Mitch is intense,
to say the least.
1079
00:44:17,714 --> 00:44:20,564
I definitely would be
comfortable advancing
1080
00:44:20,717 --> 00:44:23,976
More in the sexual department.
1081
00:44:23,995 --> 00:44:27,330
- I may not be feeling that
physical attraction with you.
1082
00:44:27,481 --> 00:44:30,149
- I thought we would never
come back from the honeymoon
1083
00:44:30,168 --> 00:44:31,893
Debacle, but we did.
1084
00:44:31,911 --> 00:44:33,152
- Bye, luna.
1085
00:44:33,171 --> 00:44:34,562
Don't miss us.
We'll be a little loud.
1086
00:44:34,580 --> 00:44:35,746
- [laughs]
1087
00:44:35,899 --> 00:44:37,489
And we're a lot
stronger for it.
1088
00:44:37,509 --> 00:44:40,568
We have "consummated"
the marriage.
1089
00:44:40,586 --> 00:44:43,587
I knew that there was going
to be compromise in marriage.
1090
00:44:43,740 --> 00:44:45,423
- There's a point where if
you compromise too much,
1091
00:44:45,575 --> 00:44:47,074
You're not being
true to yourself
1092
00:44:47,093 --> 00:44:48,834
And you're being a
pushover, and that's not me.
1093
00:44:48,853 --> 00:44:51,187
- But at times, I felt
like I was losing myself.
1094
00:44:51,338 --> 00:44:54,081
When does krysten
stop compromising?
1095
00:44:54,100 --> 00:44:58,586
- ♪ to the dark side,
where the wolves hide ♪
1096
00:44:58,604 --> 00:45:01,088
♪ do you believe? ♪
1097
00:45:01,107 --> 00:45:05,851
- I'm still wondering if
we're just two good people
1098
00:45:05,945 --> 00:45:07,186
Who want to be married--
1099
00:45:07,205 --> 00:45:08,871
- I'm afraid to
lose you, for sure.
1100
00:45:09,023 --> 00:45:12,858
- --Or if we're actually a
really well-matched couple.
1101
00:45:12,877 --> 00:45:15,269
- I do love you, and I
just want you to know that.
1102
00:45:15,288 --> 00:45:21,384
♪ ♪
1103
00:45:21,611 --> 00:45:23,294
- Hey.
1104
00:45:23,446 --> 00:45:25,296
- When I first saw krysten, I
didn't think she was my type.
1105
00:45:25,448 --> 00:45:29,559
- Everyone looks
incredible, especially you.
1106
00:45:29,710 --> 00:45:31,635
Building attraction
over time is fine.
1107
00:45:31,788 --> 00:45:34,546
- But now I feel like krysten
is so beautiful inside
1108
00:45:34,640 --> 00:45:38,476
And out, there are so many
things I admire about krysten.
1109
00:45:38,628 --> 00:45:41,720
By being with her, I've
learned so much about myself.
1110
00:45:41,740 --> 00:45:44,982
- You're very strong, but you
can also be very vulnerable
1111
00:45:45,134 --> 00:45:46,725
And in touch with who you are.
1112
00:45:46,745 --> 00:45:49,637
- And I feel like I'm a much
better person than I was.
1113
00:45:49,655 --> 00:45:51,822
I know I've got a lot
of love for krysten.
1114
00:45:51,975 --> 00:45:54,566
I didn't expect to have so
much love for her dog too.
1115
00:45:54,586 --> 00:45:55,993
- It's your girls.
1116
00:45:56,087 --> 00:45:57,569
- My girls.
1117
00:45:57,589 --> 00:45:59,830
Krysten has been
an amazing partner,
1118
00:45:59,924 --> 00:46:02,074
And I think we've
really challenged each other,
1119
00:46:02,168 --> 00:46:03,593
We've grown together,
1120
00:46:03,820 --> 00:46:04,910
And we've had some
really great times.
1121
00:46:04,929 --> 00:46:06,504
[together]
aww.
1122
00:46:06,656 --> 00:46:08,990
- But I come off pretty
unfiltered sometimes.
1123
00:46:09,083 --> 00:46:12,084
- Are you very
attracted to her?
1124
00:46:12,178 --> 00:46:13,585
- I'm attracted to her.
1125
00:46:13,605 --> 00:46:16,105
And my honesty can
get me into trouble.
1126
00:46:16,257 --> 00:46:20,351
- I am not going to accept he
is attracted to me enough.
1127
00:46:20,503 --> 00:46:22,353
- I take some
responsibility, but sometimes
1128
00:46:22,505 --> 00:46:23,762
It feels like she overreacts.
1129
00:46:23,782 --> 00:46:26,007
- I am not going
to accept that he
1130
00:46:26,025 --> 00:46:27,784
Has "come far" in this journey.
1131
00:46:27,935 --> 00:46:30,953
- I want to be in love, put
down roots, and have a family.
1132
00:46:31,105 --> 00:46:33,772
- I want all those things,
and I know that we're trying.
1133
00:46:33,792 --> 00:46:35,607
- But as much as
I want those things,
1134
00:46:35,627 --> 00:46:37,034
I need to figure out
if krysten
1135
00:46:37,186 --> 00:46:38,019
Is the right match for me.
1136
00:46:38,037 --> 00:46:44,875
♪ ♪
1137
00:46:45,028 --> 00:46:56,479
♪ ♪
1138
00:46:56,706 --> 00:46:57,796
- Hey.
1139
00:46:57,816 --> 00:46:58,889
- How are you?
1140
00:46:59,042 --> 00:47:01,559
♪ ♪
1141
00:47:01,653 --> 00:47:04,320
This is not an easy
decision to make for me.
1142
00:47:04,471 --> 00:47:07,639
Because I'm not only trying to
consider what's best for me,
1143
00:47:07,733 --> 00:47:10,660
But I'm also trying to consider
what's best for krysten.
1144
00:47:10,887 --> 00:47:12,069
And I know that it's a big
day,
1145
00:47:12,221 --> 00:47:14,055
And it's very consequential.
1146
00:47:14,073 --> 00:47:16,574
So it's going to dictate how
the rest of my life will be,
1147
00:47:16,726 --> 00:47:18,059
And it's a bit nerve-racking.
1148
00:47:18,152 --> 00:47:19,985
There's no playbook for this.
1149
00:47:20,004 --> 00:47:21,653
I don't really know exactly
how it's going to go.
1150
00:47:21,673 --> 00:47:22,580
- There she is.
1151
00:47:22,674 --> 00:47:24,156
- Oh, yes.
1152
00:47:24,175 --> 00:47:25,341
See, she's got that
gorgeous dress on.
1153
00:47:25,492 --> 00:47:26,825
Oh, my goodness.
1154
00:47:26,845 --> 00:47:28,586
- She's probably
wearing a bright dress.
1155
00:47:28,738 --> 00:47:29,512
- Yeah.
1156
00:47:29,663 --> 00:47:30,847
- What color?
1157
00:47:30,998 --> 00:47:31,922
- Red or orange.
1158
00:47:32,075 --> 00:47:34,742
- Ok, he knows his wife.
- Ohh.
1159
00:47:34,760 --> 00:47:37,169
- Hello.
- Hello.
1160
00:47:37,263 --> 00:47:38,354
- You look handsome.
1161
00:47:38,581 --> 00:47:41,173
- You look beautiful.
- Thank you.
1162
00:47:41,192 --> 00:47:43,267
- Hey.
1163
00:47:43,361 --> 00:47:45,753
- Oh, my.
1164
00:47:45,771 --> 00:47:48,865
- So here we are.
1165
00:47:49,016 --> 00:47:49,773
- A bug flew in.
1166
00:47:49,868 --> 00:47:51,200
I'm good.
1167
00:47:51,427 --> 00:47:52,368
A bug flew in my
mouth, but I'm good.
1168
00:47:52,595 --> 00:47:53,761
Here we are.
- Is he still in there?
1169
00:47:53,854 --> 00:47:54,778
- He's in.
He's going down.
1170
00:47:54,873 --> 00:47:56,205
- Oh, no.
1171
00:47:56,357 --> 00:47:57,781
- He's gone.
- Protein.
1172
00:47:57,934 --> 00:47:59,691
Protein of the future.
- Oh.
1173
00:47:59,785 --> 00:48:01,193
- He's digested now.
1174
00:48:01,212 --> 00:48:03,120
- Oh, my god.
1175
00:48:03,214 --> 00:48:05,956
- [laughs]
1176
00:48:06,109 --> 00:48:08,292
- Well, sorry about that, guys.
1177
00:48:08,386 --> 00:48:12,129
So here we are at a
very consequential day.
1178
00:48:12,223 --> 00:48:14,782
This has been a major
life transition for you.
1179
00:48:14,800 --> 00:48:19,378
Talk about the good of it, the
bad of it, and even the ugly.
1180
00:48:19,472 --> 00:48:25,142
- Well, I talked about what
I did during the honeymoon
1181
00:48:25,294 --> 00:48:26,885
Is my biggest regret, for sure.
1182
00:48:26,905 --> 00:48:30,072
So that's definitely
a low point for me
1183
00:48:30,224 --> 00:48:33,968
Because I know it set the tone
and hurt krysten a lot more
1184
00:48:34,061 --> 00:48:35,894
Than I realized at the time.
1185
00:48:35,988 --> 00:48:39,473
But I learned pretty quickly
that I was even more closed
1186
00:48:39,492 --> 00:48:42,567
Off to love than I thought.
1187
00:48:42,662 --> 00:48:48,073
And that fear had been more
responsible for influencing
1188
00:48:48,167 --> 00:48:53,003
My decisions in life than
I'd even really acknowledged.
1189
00:48:53,097 --> 00:48:54,672
♪ ♪
1190
00:48:54,824 --> 00:48:57,433
But I also learned
something really valuable
1191
00:48:57,584 --> 00:49:01,920
That's the opposite of that,
which is that the more I open
1192
00:49:01,940 --> 00:49:03,847
Up and the more I
share and the more I'm
1193
00:49:04,000 --> 00:49:07,926
Vulnerable with my
partner, the better I am.
1194
00:49:07,946 --> 00:49:10,504
And those weaknesses and
vulnerabilities are no longer
1195
00:49:10,597 --> 00:49:12,764
Mine to hide as a weakness.
1196
00:49:12,784 --> 00:49:15,451
They're really, they're out
there, and then I'm free.
1197
00:49:15,602 --> 00:49:16,768
- That's awesome, man.
1198
00:49:16,788 --> 00:49:19,680
- And people also
like me better
1199
00:49:19,699 --> 00:49:20,681
When they know the real me.
1200
00:49:20,700 --> 00:49:22,107
- That's very insightful.
1201
00:49:22,201 --> 00:49:23,684
- Yeah.
- It is.
1202
00:49:23,703 --> 00:49:24,794
I love that.
1203
00:49:24,945 --> 00:49:26,778
That is progress, man.
1204
00:49:26,798 --> 00:49:28,355
- Right.
1205
00:49:28,449 --> 00:49:30,466
- Mitch, I hope you get this.
1206
00:49:30,617 --> 00:49:32,359
That's progress.
1207
00:49:32,378 --> 00:49:34,453
And one thing that we both
appreciate about you guys,
1208
00:49:34,547 --> 00:49:37,122
That you're both mature enough,
you're both smart enough
1209
00:49:37,141 --> 00:49:40,142
To see issues and
then make corrections,
1210
00:49:40,369 --> 00:49:41,719
And I think you
both have done that.
1211
00:49:41,813 --> 00:49:45,873
My desire is that you
guys do just consider
1212
00:49:45,891 --> 00:49:48,150
The value of what you have.
1213
00:49:48,377 --> 00:49:51,879
- There is a ton
that I love about you
1214
00:49:51,897 --> 00:49:53,656
And appreciate about you.
1215
00:49:53,883 --> 00:49:56,325
I love your love
for the environment.
1216
00:49:56,552 --> 00:49:57,827
It comes from a
really good place.
1217
00:49:58,054 --> 00:50:00,070
It comes from,
not a selfish place.
1218
00:50:00,223 --> 00:50:01,980
It comes from a selfless place.
1219
00:50:02,074 --> 00:50:08,245
And I do love your ability
to change and see progress.
1220
00:50:08,397 --> 00:50:10,748
And on one hand, you're
very, very stubborn,
1221
00:50:10,842 --> 00:50:12,733
But on the other hand,
you can take a step back
1222
00:50:12,752 --> 00:50:15,845
And say, ok, I do need to
change this about myself.
1223
00:50:15,996 --> 00:50:17,680
I'm going to work on it.
1224
00:50:17,831 --> 00:50:21,091
And not all of us can say that,
so I think that's incredible.
1225
00:50:21,185 --> 00:50:24,595
♪ ♪
1226
00:50:24,689 --> 00:50:27,931
- I feel like we're like
a lot of the same things
1227
00:50:28,084 --> 00:50:29,750
About each other,
because we have
1228
00:50:29,769 --> 00:50:32,586
A lot of similar qualities.
1229
00:50:32,605 --> 00:50:36,774
I just think you're a very
loyal and honest person.
1230
00:50:36,868 --> 00:50:39,368
There are parts of you that
I didn't see right away,
1231
00:50:39,595 --> 00:50:43,021
But that is partly
my fault as well.
1232
00:50:43,041 --> 00:50:45,190
You've shown,
really a lot of patience.
1233
00:50:45,209 --> 00:50:46,691
Even if you don't
think you're patient,
1234
00:50:46,711 --> 00:50:48,269
I think you've shown
a lot of patience.
1235
00:50:48,287 --> 00:50:50,046
- Thank you.
1236
00:50:50,273 --> 00:50:53,624
- Because I know I'm
not an easy person.
1237
00:50:53,718 --> 00:50:56,777
I know I bring a lot of
extra [bleep] to the table
1238
00:50:56,870 --> 00:50:58,445
That you've got to deal with.
1239
00:50:58,464 --> 00:51:01,799
I know that you're a great
wife and a great person,
1240
00:51:01,951 --> 00:51:03,951
And that you'll be a
great mother as well.
1241
00:51:03,969 --> 00:51:04,968
- Thank you.
1242
00:51:05,121 --> 00:51:05,953
- Yeah.
1243
00:51:05,971 --> 00:51:07,788
You're welcome.
1244
00:51:07,807 --> 00:51:12,217
- We see a lot here, but of
course, this is up to you
1245
00:51:12,311 --> 00:51:15,237
And what you're willing to
work on and what you're not,
1246
00:51:15,464 --> 00:51:17,573
Where you think you
have great promise,
1247
00:51:17,800 --> 00:51:20,301
Or if you have lost
your belief in that.
1248
00:51:20,319 --> 00:51:23,728
So we're going to ask you to
say what your decision is
1249
00:51:23,748 --> 00:51:26,640
And why.
1250
00:51:26,733 --> 00:51:28,158
- All right, decision time.
1251
00:51:28,311 --> 00:51:31,420
♪ ♪
1252
00:51:31,647 --> 00:51:32,496
Um...
1253
00:51:32,590 --> 00:51:34,090
♪ ♪
1254
00:51:42,508 --> 00:51:43,265
- Um...
1255
00:51:43,492 --> 00:51:45,159
♪ ♪
1256
00:51:45,177 --> 00:51:47,436
All right, decision time.
1257
00:51:47,663 --> 00:51:50,606
♪ ♪
1258
00:51:50,757 --> 00:51:55,836
This decision was
not easy for me,
1259
00:51:55,929 --> 00:51:59,097
And I wasn't really
sure until maybe
1260
00:51:59,191 --> 00:52:02,509
Last night, to be honest.
1261
00:52:02,528 --> 00:52:04,528
♪ ♪
1262
00:52:04,622 --> 00:52:07,790
Krysten, this has been an
unforgettable eight weeks,
1263
00:52:08,017 --> 00:52:12,110
And I'm really grateful
and thankful to have
1264
00:52:12,130 --> 00:52:14,355
Been matched with you.
1265
00:52:14,448 --> 00:52:17,466
You've helped me
grow so much and see
1266
00:52:17,693 --> 00:52:20,861
Things about myself that
I didn't recognize before.
1267
00:52:20,954 --> 00:52:24,473
We have a lot of
things going, and I
1268
00:52:24,625 --> 00:52:27,551
Want to do that justice
of seeing what it would be
1269
00:52:27,703 --> 00:52:29,979
Like to be married to you, to
be your husband, for you to be
1270
00:52:30,130 --> 00:52:31,981
My wife in the real world.
1271
00:52:32,208 --> 00:52:33,874
♪ ♪
1272
00:52:33,893 --> 00:52:38,562
But I know that
that is not enough,
1273
00:52:38,656 --> 00:52:41,548
And I know what you want and
what you think you deserve
1274
00:52:41,642 --> 00:52:43,475
And what I think you
deserve and that's
1275
00:52:43,494 --> 00:52:46,811
Someone who is 100% head
over heels in love with you
1276
00:52:46,831 --> 00:52:49,223
And committed to
being your husband.
1277
00:52:49,241 --> 00:52:52,075
People might think that
I'm just closed off to love
1278
00:52:52,170 --> 00:52:55,487
Or that I'm afraid and I'm
just cutting and running,
1279
00:52:55,506 --> 00:52:57,006
And maybe they're right.
1280
00:52:57,233 --> 00:53:00,901
But in my heart of hearts,
after this eight weeks
1281
00:53:00,920 --> 00:53:03,846
With you, even though
a large part of me
1282
00:53:03,997 --> 00:53:06,590
Does want to continue
and see how this pans out
1283
00:53:06,684 --> 00:53:10,168
In the real world, I think
that my level of commitment
1284
00:53:10,188 --> 00:53:12,354
Is less than what you deserve.
1285
00:53:12,581 --> 00:53:16,099
♪ ♪
1286
00:53:16,252 --> 00:53:21,197
So for that reason, my decision
is not to stay married.
1287
00:53:21,424 --> 00:53:24,700
- Thank you.
1288
00:53:24,927 --> 00:53:27,453
- And it's really not
easy for me to say that.
1289
00:53:30,766 --> 00:53:34,618
♪ ♪
1290
00:53:34,770 --> 00:53:38,605
- You just put that
really, really well.
1291
00:53:38,624 --> 00:53:41,458
You said something probably
exactly what I would have
1292
00:53:41,610 --> 00:53:46,947
Said, that I want
to say yes, and I
1293
00:53:46,966 --> 00:53:52,803
Would give anything for
your commitment to be more.
1294
00:53:52,955 --> 00:53:54,955
And you're right,
I do want more.
1295
00:53:54,974 --> 00:53:56,232
I deserve more.
1296
00:53:56,383 --> 00:53:58,216
I want it.
1297
00:53:58,236 --> 00:54:00,794
I am ready for
this, and I don't
1298
00:54:00,813 --> 00:54:03,054
Deserve to be with
someone who's not,
1299
00:54:03,074 --> 00:54:05,816
And I'm choosing myself today.
1300
00:54:05,910 --> 00:54:07,076
I want a divorce.
1301
00:54:07,303 --> 00:54:10,079
♪ ♪
1302
00:54:10,230 --> 00:54:13,064
- Of course, you know
I'm saddened by the news,
1303
00:54:13,084 --> 00:54:16,585
But tell me what's going
on right now with you guys,
1304
00:54:16,737 --> 00:54:18,996
Still grasping
hands so tightly.
1305
00:54:19,148 --> 00:54:20,330
Tell me what's happening.
1306
00:54:20,483 --> 00:54:22,073
- I really, really
care for him,
1307
00:54:22,167 --> 00:54:26,095
And I want to be on good terms.
1308
00:54:26,322 --> 00:54:30,507
I don't want to cut ties
and never speak again.
1309
00:54:30,601 --> 00:54:33,010
I want to comfort him because
this is a hard moment,
1310
00:54:33,162 --> 00:54:36,346
But I don't think that
we're right for each other
1311
00:54:36,499 --> 00:54:37,940
As husband and wife.
1312
00:54:38,091 --> 00:54:39,666
- Do you feel like you're
not right for each other
1313
00:54:39,685 --> 00:54:41,518
As husband and wife or
that you're not right
1314
00:54:41,670 --> 00:54:44,671
For each other right now?
1315
00:54:44,690 --> 00:54:47,524
- There could be
future potential here,
1316
00:54:47,676 --> 00:54:52,362
But I don't think
it's fair to me
1317
00:54:52,456 --> 00:54:55,958
To just kind of wait around
and hope for it to come.
1318
00:54:56,185 --> 00:54:57,626
- Sure.
1319
00:54:57,853 --> 00:55:00,629
- I think the right thing
to do is to divorce,
1320
00:55:00,856 --> 00:55:07,044
And maybe the
door is left open.
1321
00:55:07,196 --> 00:55:09,954
- I mean, I really
love krysten so much,
1322
00:55:10,049 --> 00:55:14,810
And I hope that we can still
be in each other's lives,
1323
00:55:15,037 --> 00:55:16,720
You know?
1324
00:55:16,814 --> 00:55:19,222
I just don't--
1325
00:55:19,375 --> 00:55:25,062
I just don't think the marriage
is in the cards for us.
1326
00:55:25,156 --> 00:55:29,049
I do hope that krysten
occupies a place in my life.
1327
00:55:29,068 --> 00:55:30,492
I hope we can still
be friends.
1328
00:55:30,719 --> 00:55:33,403
I mean, every time I
see a pug at dog beach,
1329
00:55:33,556 --> 00:55:35,222
It's going to make
me think of her.
1330
00:55:35,240 --> 00:55:37,649
Every time she sees a piece
of plastic on the ground,
1331
00:55:37,668 --> 00:55:39,409
She's going to think of me.
1332
00:55:39,562 --> 00:55:40,577
We've had just so many
experiences together,
1333
00:55:40,729 --> 00:55:42,079
And we know each other
so well.
1334
00:55:42,173 --> 00:55:44,064
And we really opened
up to each other,
1335
00:55:44,157 --> 00:55:47,176
So so many things
now remind me of her.
1336
00:55:47,403 --> 00:55:50,237
- I'm very glad you got
married at first sight.
1337
00:55:50,330 --> 00:55:52,906
I hope you will feel
that way about it.
1338
00:55:52,999 --> 00:55:54,499
We really truly wish
you the very best.
1339
00:55:54,518 --> 00:55:56,352
- Absolutely.
1340
00:55:56,579 --> 00:55:57,911
- This could potentially not
be the end
1341
00:55:57,930 --> 00:56:00,263
Of krysten and mitch,
1342
00:56:00,358 --> 00:56:04,693
But it is the end of us being
married at first sight.
1343
00:56:04,920 --> 00:56:10,348
♪ ♪
1344
00:56:10,368 --> 00:56:16,205
- That has to be the
most amiable divorce.
1345
00:56:16,432 --> 00:56:17,948
♪ ♪
1346
00:56:18,042 --> 00:56:20,692
I don't understand it.
1347
00:56:20,786 --> 00:56:21,952
I don't understand, pepper.
1348
00:56:22,046 --> 00:56:22,878
I don't.
1349
00:56:23,105 --> 00:56:30,010
♪ ♪
1350
00:56:33,966 --> 00:56:35,799
- So we did it.
1351
00:56:35,951 --> 00:56:37,393
- We did that [bleep], girl.
1352
00:56:37,620 --> 00:56:38,894
- We did it.
1353
00:56:39,045 --> 00:56:41,138
- How do you feel?
1354
00:56:41,290 --> 00:56:42,289
- Real good.
- Yeah?
1355
00:56:42,307 --> 00:56:43,565
- I'm good.
- Yeah?
1356
00:56:43,792 --> 00:56:44,716
- Mm-hmm.
1357
00:56:44,735 --> 00:56:45,976
- That's good.
1358
00:56:46,070 --> 00:56:48,237
- I'm still like--
1359
00:56:48,388 --> 00:56:51,148
- You chose me.
- -Give me some time-- I did.
1360
00:56:51,242 --> 00:56:52,223
I did.
1361
00:56:52,243 --> 00:56:53,659
That did happen.
1362
00:56:57,898 --> 00:56:59,731
Like, I just, I need time.
1363
00:56:59,750 --> 00:57:01,232
- What does that mean?
1364
00:57:01,252 --> 00:57:06,255
- I said yes, because
I do see the change.
1365
00:57:06,482 --> 00:57:12,335
I do see us and how we
grew, but I do need time
1366
00:57:12,488 --> 00:57:16,080
To process
everything and really
1367
00:57:16,100 --> 00:57:18,175
Come to terms with everything.
1368
00:57:18,327 --> 00:57:21,586
- So what does this yes mean
to you regarding our future?
1369
00:57:21,605 --> 00:57:24,014
- Yes just means yes to time.
1370
00:57:24,166 --> 00:57:27,091
I didn't want to quit on us
because I did see some good,
1371
00:57:27,186 --> 00:57:31,004
But I also did see some bad.
1372
00:57:31,023 --> 00:57:34,508
I like that we can
restart, but there
1373
00:57:34,601 --> 00:57:37,360
Has to be some aspect of--
1374
00:57:37,513 --> 00:57:39,346
We still remember, you know?
1375
00:57:39,364 --> 00:57:41,515
Because if you
restart and almost act
1376
00:57:41,533 --> 00:57:42,941
Like it never
happened, then you're
1377
00:57:42,960 --> 00:57:44,793
Inviting it into the present.
1378
00:57:45,020 --> 00:57:47,796
So I do want to
acknowledge the bad times,
1379
00:57:48,023 --> 00:57:51,191
But also, I do see enough
in us to keep going.
1380
00:57:51,210 --> 00:57:54,803
- Well, my biggest fear was
you quitting, you know,
1381
00:57:55,030 --> 00:57:56,697
You quitting after
decision day.
1382
00:57:56,715 --> 00:58:01,368
You just stopped trying, and
I say that because I know
1383
00:58:01,386 --> 00:58:03,203
You said that's
what you're used to,
1384
00:58:03,296 --> 00:58:06,206
But also that it might
just be too much.
1385
00:58:06,225 --> 00:58:07,298
It's not for everybody.
1386
00:58:07,318 --> 00:58:09,042
I'm not for everybody.
1387
00:58:09,061 --> 00:58:11,302
And so that was my biggest
fear of you just quitting.
1388
00:58:11,322 --> 00:58:13,471
- Can we change the
terminology, quitting?
1389
00:58:13,491 --> 00:58:15,139
Because at this point,
I've tried and given
1390
00:58:15,234 --> 00:58:16,900
Everything that I have.
1391
00:58:17,052 --> 00:58:18,494
So for me to give everything
I have and it still
1392
00:58:18,645 --> 00:58:21,813
Not equate to a
happy, solid marriage,
1393
00:58:21,832 --> 00:58:23,332
I don't think that's quitting.
1394
00:58:23,559 --> 00:58:25,892
I think that is like you
said, choosing myself
1395
00:58:25,911 --> 00:58:27,561
And my happiness,
that's not quitting.
1396
00:58:27,579 --> 00:58:29,004
- And you can say that
you want something
1397
00:58:29,231 --> 00:58:30,230
And still go back and
do the opposite thing.
1398
00:58:30,249 --> 00:58:31,915
You know what I'm saying?
1399
00:58:32,067 --> 00:58:33,509
You're saying you want to
give our marriage time.
1400
00:58:33,660 --> 00:58:34,735
It might just get too hard
four months after this,
1401
00:58:34,753 --> 00:58:36,178
You know what I'm saying?
1402
00:58:36,329 --> 00:58:37,738
After the experiment,
you might, hey, I'm done.
1403
00:58:37,756 --> 00:58:38,680
- Why is that consider
quitting though?
1404
00:58:38,832 --> 00:58:40,015
- That's just my--
1405
00:58:40,242 --> 00:58:41,908
Just like the word
quitting bothers
1406
00:58:41,927 --> 00:58:44,168
You, that's my definition
of what quitting looks like.
1407
00:58:44,188 --> 00:58:45,929
When I say give it time,
I'm like give our marriage--
1408
00:58:46,081 --> 00:58:47,581
- Have you ever broken
about what anybody before?
1409
00:58:47,599 --> 00:58:49,024
- Yes, I have.
In fact, I have.
1410
00:58:49,175 --> 00:58:50,692
- So what, did you quit
on that relationship?
1411
00:58:50,919 --> 00:58:52,861
- I didn't--
1412
00:58:53,013 --> 00:58:56,014
Eventually, I quit, but
you have enough data,
1413
00:58:56,108 --> 00:58:59,701
So you have enough facts behind
to say I've done x, y, and z.
1414
00:58:59,928 --> 00:59:01,853
If we give our marriage
a full 12 months,
1415
00:59:01,872 --> 00:59:04,873
We can at least say we tried.
1416
00:59:05,100 --> 00:59:06,783
What I was telling you
is my biggest fear,
1417
00:59:06,935 --> 00:59:09,436
My biggest fear
was you quitting.
1418
00:59:09,454 --> 00:59:11,713
♪ ♪
1419
00:59:11,940 --> 00:59:15,292
- I still have doubts
about us just continuing
1420
00:59:15,444 --> 00:59:18,220
Making progress and then going
back, not using the tools
1421
00:59:18,447 --> 00:59:20,204
That the experts gave
us, not respecting
1422
00:59:20,299 --> 00:59:21,615
Each other's boundaries.
1423
00:59:21,708 --> 00:59:23,133
So there's a lot
to think about.
1424
00:59:23,285 --> 00:59:25,118
And I just don't
like that feeling.
1425
00:59:25,137 --> 00:59:27,378
- I just feel like,
like right now,
1426
00:59:27,472 --> 00:59:29,380
You're making it seem like it's
a privilege that you chose me.
1427
00:59:29,400 --> 00:59:31,049
That's what it feels like.
- No, I'd never--
1428
00:59:31,068 --> 00:59:32,401
What?
1429
00:59:32,628 --> 00:59:33,384
- That's just what
it feels like.
1430
00:59:33,404 --> 00:59:35,386
- How?
1431
00:59:35,480 --> 00:59:37,147
- We'll talk about it later.
1432
00:59:37,241 --> 00:59:39,466
- But you didn't bring it up
later, you brought it up now.
1433
00:59:39,559 --> 00:59:40,650
- And we'll talk
about it later.
1434
00:59:40,803 --> 00:59:41,651
- How is that fair?
1435
00:59:41,745 --> 00:59:42,727
- It's not fair.
1436
00:59:42,746 --> 00:59:45,396
- Ok.
1437
00:59:45,416 --> 00:59:46,807
Cool.
1438
00:59:46,900 --> 00:59:48,917
Well, let's go
start our marriage.
1439
00:59:49,144 --> 00:59:51,420
Let's go.
1440
00:59:51,647 --> 00:59:53,255
♪ ♪
1441
00:59:53,482 --> 00:59:56,074
I didn't imagine arguing
immediately after.
1442
00:59:56,093 --> 00:59:57,759
I didn't think my decision day
would go like this.
1443
00:59:57,911 --> 01:00:02,656
I knew I was going to
say, yes, but immediately
1444
01:00:02,749 --> 01:00:05,434
After, that's crazy to me.
1445
01:00:05,585 --> 01:00:07,828
- Are you having
doubts right now?
1446
01:00:07,921 --> 01:00:14,000
I'm just asking,
and it's ok if you are.
1447
01:00:14,019 --> 01:00:16,336
- Justin, I told you
at the table earlier
1448
01:00:16,355 --> 01:00:18,113
That I was having
doubts, in general.
1449
01:00:18,340 --> 01:00:21,508
I told you that when I
read you my statement.
1450
01:00:21,526 --> 01:00:23,343
I said, I don't even know
what the right decision is,
1451
01:00:23,362 --> 01:00:25,269
So I don't understand
this question.
1452
01:00:25,289 --> 01:00:27,347
- Ok.
1453
01:00:27,440 --> 01:00:28,957
I understood the question.
1454
01:00:29,109 --> 01:00:31,184
The question was,
are you having doubts
1455
01:00:31,277 --> 01:00:32,610
In this moment right here?
1456
01:00:32,630 --> 01:00:34,020
You had doubts
then, but are you--
1457
01:00:34,114 --> 01:00:37,707
Ok, let me rephrase
the question.
1458
01:00:37,860 --> 01:00:39,042
Are you ok with saying yes?
1459
01:00:39,194 --> 01:00:40,710
- I already said it.
1460
01:00:40,804 --> 01:00:42,712
So why wouldn't I be ok with
it if I already said it?
1461
01:00:42,806 --> 01:00:45,866
- Because of how you're
feeling right now.
1462
01:00:45,884 --> 01:00:47,550
- I'm a logical person.
1463
01:00:47,645 --> 01:00:50,871
I'm not an emotional person
where I change like the wind.
1464
01:00:50,889 --> 01:00:52,481
I'm a logical person,
and I wouldn't
1465
01:00:52,632 --> 01:00:54,391
Have sat there and thought
it out and wrote out
1466
01:00:54,543 --> 01:00:56,877
And typed out a whole
speech saying yes,
1467
01:00:56,970 --> 01:00:58,153
If I wasn't planning
on saying yes.
1468
01:00:58,380 --> 01:01:00,063
- I understand
that, but you also
1469
01:01:00,215 --> 01:01:01,990
Said that, after saying yes,
you didn't know immediately
1470
01:01:02,142 --> 01:01:03,066
We were going to
have an argument.
1471
01:01:03,218 --> 01:01:04,642
So I'm asking you right--
1472
01:01:04,662 --> 01:01:06,978
- After the argument,
has my yes changed?
1473
01:01:06,997 --> 01:01:08,646
- Yes.
1474
01:01:08,666 --> 01:01:09,572
- No, justin.
1475
01:01:09,667 --> 01:01:11,166
- Ok.
1476
01:01:19,735 --> 01:01:21,826
- How are you feeling
after decision day?
1477
01:01:21,845 --> 01:01:24,571
- Definitely relieved.
What about you?
1478
01:01:24,589 --> 01:01:27,331
- I kind of feel like
we're starting a life now.
1479
01:01:27,426 --> 01:01:29,759
Are you excited to find out
what the other couples did,
1480
01:01:29,853 --> 01:01:30,835
What their decision was?
1481
01:01:30,929 --> 01:01:32,003
- Yeah, definitely.
1482
01:01:32,097 --> 01:01:33,188
- So let's go find out.
1483
01:01:33,339 --> 01:01:34,414
- All right. Let's go.
1484
01:01:34,433 --> 01:01:35,932
- What everybody else said.
1485
01:01:36,026 --> 01:01:37,083
[upbeat music]
1486
01:01:37,102 --> 01:01:38,342
- ♪ come and get it ♪
1487
01:01:38,362 --> 01:01:40,086
♪ ah, yeah ♪
1488
01:01:40,105 --> 01:01:41,512
♪ I know you see me ♪
1489
01:01:41,606 --> 01:01:45,200
♪ come and get it ♪
1490
01:01:45,427 --> 01:01:49,204
- Man, those burgers
are looking good.
1491
01:01:49,355 --> 01:01:50,947
- Hey, there.
- You look so good.
1492
01:01:51,099 --> 01:01:52,374
- What's up, girl?
- Nice to see you, nate.
1493
01:01:52,601 --> 01:01:54,376
- We got some good
stuff over here, miguel?
1494
01:01:54,603 --> 01:01:57,454
- Oh, yeah.
1495
01:01:57,606 --> 01:01:59,715
♪ ♪
1496
01:01:59,866 --> 01:02:00,774
- Hey.
- Hey, how you guys doing?
1497
01:02:00,792 --> 01:02:02,200
- What up, man?
1498
01:02:02,219 --> 01:02:03,626
- Good to see you.
1499
01:02:03,779 --> 01:02:05,053
- What's up, miguel?
I like your shirt, buddy.
1500
01:02:05,205 --> 01:02:06,555
- Oh, thank you.
1501
01:02:06,782 --> 01:02:08,298
- I haven't seen any of
the couples in a while,
1502
01:02:08,392 --> 01:02:11,042
And I can't wait to see
all their happy faces.
1503
01:02:11,061 --> 01:02:13,787
Everybody has their own
journey and has made me better
1504
01:02:13,880 --> 01:02:15,063
In their own separate ways.
1505
01:02:15,290 --> 01:02:16,473
So I'm grateful for
this opportunity,
1506
01:02:16,625 --> 01:02:18,475
And I'm excited
to see everybody.
1507
01:02:18,627 --> 01:02:19,884
- How are you doing?
- Good.
1508
01:02:19,903 --> 01:02:21,644
- You look good.
1509
01:02:21,739 --> 01:02:22,887
You look like you're glowing.
- You look amazing.
1510
01:02:22,981 --> 01:02:24,239
- It's the tan.
I've been--
1511
01:02:24,390 --> 01:02:25,966
- Getting some sunshine.
- Sunshine.
1512
01:02:25,984 --> 01:02:26,908
Hot yoga.
1513
01:02:27,135 --> 01:02:28,468
- Love that.
1514
01:02:28,487 --> 01:02:29,469
That's healing.
- Yeah.
1515
01:02:29,488 --> 01:02:30,895
- Love that.
1516
01:02:30,989 --> 01:02:34,824
- ♪ I got a hottie ♪
1517
01:02:34,977 --> 01:02:36,493
♪ ♪
1518
01:02:36,587 --> 01:02:38,587
- Hey, gorgy.
1519
01:02:38,814 --> 01:02:39,904
- Hi, guys.
1520
01:02:39,923 --> 01:02:41,072
- Ok, sexy mama.
1521
01:02:41,166 --> 01:02:42,165
- Thank you. Thank you.
1522
01:02:42,317 --> 01:02:43,483
- With the bralette showing.
1523
01:02:43,576 --> 01:02:45,335
- Just making sure, you know.
1524
01:02:45,487 --> 01:02:48,338
I'm showing up. It's fine.
- Ok.
1525
01:02:48,432 --> 01:02:50,414
- I haven't really talked
to morgan since the divorce,
1526
01:02:50,509 --> 01:02:54,436
But I saw her at the gym we go
to, and she was doing squats,
1527
01:02:54,587 --> 01:02:55,829
And I was walking by.
1528
01:02:55,922 --> 01:02:57,497
We both had our headphones in.
1529
01:02:57,516 --> 01:02:59,349
We just threw peace signs
up and continued to move.
1530
01:02:59,501 --> 01:03:02,018
No bad blood, just a
peace and what's up?
1531
01:03:02,112 --> 01:03:03,019
And that's it.
1532
01:03:03,113 --> 01:03:04,337
- We missed you.
1533
01:03:04,356 --> 01:03:05,355
- I know.
1534
01:03:05,449 --> 01:03:06,281
- So good to see you.
1535
01:03:06,432 --> 01:03:08,174
- Glad to be back.
1536
01:03:08,193 --> 01:03:09,843
- You look like you went to
hawaii for a week or two.
1537
01:03:09,861 --> 01:03:11,119
- Oh, girl, no.
1538
01:03:11,346 --> 01:03:12,679
I've been at work
for the past month.
1539
01:03:12,697 --> 01:03:13,696
- Bronzed and--
1540
01:03:13,791 --> 01:03:14,697
- Oh, thank you.
1541
01:03:14,850 --> 01:03:16,182
- I know.
1542
01:03:16,276 --> 01:03:17,292
Just like glowing
and beautiful.
1543
01:03:17,519 --> 01:03:18,518
- Thank you.
1544
01:03:18,537 --> 01:03:20,611
- Just sexy.
1545
01:03:20,631 --> 01:03:22,522
Showing skin.
1546
01:03:22,541 --> 01:03:23,873
I mean.
1547
01:03:23,967 --> 01:03:26,468
[laughter]
1548
01:03:26,695 --> 01:03:29,212
Binh and morgan are
doing great right now.
1549
01:03:29,364 --> 01:03:33,533
They seem to be happy,
doing their own thing.
1550
01:03:33,552 --> 01:03:35,702
But I also feel like they
could have worked a little bit
1551
01:03:35,720 --> 01:03:37,461
Harder on their marriage.
1552
01:03:37,481 --> 01:03:38,980
I think they kind of gave
up a little too soon.
1553
01:03:39,207 --> 01:03:42,892
Morgan could have
given him more grace
1554
01:03:43,045 --> 01:03:44,878
And worked through it.
1555
01:03:44,896 --> 01:03:48,064
It could have been something,
you know, worth fighting for.
1556
01:03:48,216 --> 01:03:50,066
- We're on the
edge of our seats.
1557
01:03:50,218 --> 01:03:51,827
- Yes.
- We do want to know--
1558
01:03:51,978 --> 01:03:53,811
- Yeah, everyone's decision.
- Yeah, we're curious.
1559
01:03:53,905 --> 01:03:54,737
- Where is everyone at?
1560
01:03:54,832 --> 01:03:56,814
- Nate and I--
1561
01:03:56,908 --> 01:03:58,667
I actually said no.
1562
01:03:58,818 --> 01:04:00,335
Nate said no as well.
1563
01:04:00,562 --> 01:04:01,394
- You guys.
1564
01:04:01,413 --> 01:04:02,912
Yeah, ok.
1565
01:04:03,065 --> 01:04:04,822
- You guys are way too
lovey-dovey for that.
1566
01:04:04,842 --> 01:04:07,658
Don't [bleep] with me, because
I don't know what-- yeah.
1567
01:04:07,752 --> 01:04:09,752
I'm in a fragile
state right now.
1568
01:04:09,847 --> 01:04:12,422
[laughter]
1569
01:04:12,574 --> 01:04:14,498
- No, we obviously said yes.
1570
01:04:14,593 --> 01:04:15,517
Both of us said yes.
1571
01:04:15,668 --> 01:04:17,260
- Yay.
- We're you guys nervous?
1572
01:04:17,354 --> 01:04:20,430
Was there some insecurity,
or like you knew you knew?
1573
01:04:20,582 --> 01:04:24,918
- No, it was, yeah,
I was nervous, anxious.
1574
01:04:25,011 --> 01:04:29,513
I didn't sleep the
whole night before.
1575
01:04:29,608 --> 01:04:33,702
I was on the fence.
1576
01:04:33,853 --> 01:04:36,096
- What was the
determining factor?
1577
01:04:36,114 --> 01:04:37,038
- Decision, yeah.
1578
01:04:37,190 --> 01:04:38,781
- Yeah, like why--
1579
01:04:38,876 --> 01:04:41,768
- You know, it was really
important for me to stay
1580
01:04:41,861 --> 01:04:43,620
Committed and work through it.
1581
01:04:43,714 --> 01:04:46,106
I felt like the eight
weeks wasn't enough time.
1582
01:04:46,199 --> 01:04:48,866
So I wanted to
give it more time
1583
01:04:48,960 --> 01:04:50,051
And really see it through.
1584
01:04:50,203 --> 01:04:51,887
- See it through, yeah
1585
01:04:52,114 --> 01:04:54,297
- So I wanted to
fight for my marriage.
1586
01:04:54,391 --> 01:04:56,466
- Good. Yeah.
1587
01:04:56,618 --> 01:04:58,284
- Yeah, basically the same.
1588
01:04:58,303 --> 01:04:59,469
It's probably one of the
hardest things I've ever done,
1589
01:04:59,621 --> 01:05:01,062
You know?
1590
01:05:01,289 --> 01:05:04,958
Because typically, if
I'm dating somebody
1591
01:05:04,976 --> 01:05:07,810
And I see one red flag,
I'm like all right, next.
1592
01:05:07,963 --> 01:05:09,963
But I can't do that
because I'm married.
1593
01:05:10,056 --> 01:05:13,466
I promised to be
married to stacia
1594
01:05:13,485 --> 01:05:16,560
Through the thick and thin,
for richer or for poorer.
1595
01:05:16,655 --> 01:05:20,415
And at the end of the day, I
don't want to be a quitter.
1596
01:05:20,642 --> 01:05:22,809
I want to--
1597
01:05:22,827 --> 01:05:23,919
I want us to win.
1598
01:05:24,146 --> 01:05:26,496
- Beautiful.
1599
01:05:26,648 --> 01:05:28,331
- What was your decision?
1600
01:05:28,425 --> 01:05:30,074
- Yes, what did you guys
decide, with your one fight
1601
01:05:30,093 --> 01:05:31,484
Under your belt?
1602
01:05:31,577 --> 01:05:35,263
- I said yes,
exclamation point.
1603
01:05:35,415 --> 01:05:37,323
- What did miguel say?
1604
01:05:37,342 --> 01:05:39,100
- The suspense.
1605
01:05:39,252 --> 01:05:41,344
- I said yes as well.
1606
01:05:41,438 --> 01:05:42,604
- I wasn't sure.
1607
01:05:42,755 --> 01:05:45,165
I don't know.
- You didn't know?
1608
01:05:45,183 --> 01:05:46,516
- I was under a lot of
stress, like for real.
1609
01:05:46,668 --> 01:05:47,667
- Really?
1610
01:05:47,686 --> 01:05:48,685
- A little bit.
1611
01:05:48,779 --> 01:05:49,852
- Oh, [bleep].
1612
01:05:50,005 --> 01:05:51,112
I should have dragged that out.
1613
01:05:51,264 --> 01:05:52,522
- I definitely
was a little bit.
1614
01:05:52,674 --> 01:05:54,691
But when I was
walking down, like
1615
01:05:54,785 --> 01:05:56,952
He was with dr. Pepper
and cal, and you should
1616
01:05:57,103 --> 01:05:58,361
Have seen this guy's face.
1617
01:05:58,513 --> 01:06:00,622
He was so excited to see me.
1618
01:06:00,773 --> 01:06:03,516
I was like, my heart like was
literally about to explode.
1619
01:06:03,609 --> 01:06:04,442
- She looked like a princess.
1620
01:06:04,461 --> 01:06:06,461
- Oh.
1621
01:06:06,688 --> 01:06:09,706
- So yeah, it was like
our chosen wedding.
1622
01:06:09,858 --> 01:06:11,374
Like we were choosing
each other, you know?
1623
01:06:11,526 --> 01:06:14,118
It did feel, to me, like
a second wedding day.
1624
01:06:14,212 --> 01:06:16,137
It was really cute.
1625
01:06:16,289 --> 01:06:18,214
Yeah, it was really great.
1626
01:06:18,366 --> 01:06:20,291
Ok, next.
1627
01:06:20,310 --> 01:06:24,128
- Sis, I noticed you weren't
wearing your ring anymore.
1628
01:06:24,222 --> 01:06:27,207
- I do have some things to say.
1629
01:06:27,225 --> 01:06:32,395
So leading up to decision day,
there was a part of me
1630
01:06:32,489 --> 01:06:37,975
That wanted to see where this
could go because we do have
1631
01:06:38,069 --> 01:06:43,239
Something here, and it's hot,
it's cold, it's unexplainable,
1632
01:06:43,391 --> 01:06:46,150
But we have something here.
1633
01:06:46,169 --> 01:06:49,229
But at the end of the
day, I thought, did
1634
01:06:49,322 --> 01:06:52,248
I give this everything I have?
1635
01:06:52,342 --> 01:06:55,677
If I haven't, then I
think we need to see more.
1636
01:06:55,828 --> 01:07:00,256
But I felt like I did.
1637
01:07:00,408 --> 01:07:01,407
- Mm-hmm.
1638
01:07:01,426 --> 01:07:04,577
♪ ♪
1639
01:07:04,596 --> 01:07:09,357
- I mean, I think we both
came to the same conclusion
1640
01:07:09,584 --> 01:07:14,937
In our own ways, and it
came down to we just have
1641
01:07:15,032 --> 01:07:17,590
A different idea of how
we want to-- like just
1642
01:07:17,683 --> 01:07:19,868
Slightly different lifestyles.
1643
01:07:20,095 --> 01:07:23,263
It just seemed like
it would be hard.
1644
01:07:23,281 --> 01:07:26,708
- We were just sacrificing
too much of ourselves
1645
01:07:26,859 --> 01:07:28,451
To try and make it
work to the point
1646
01:07:28,545 --> 01:07:31,104
Where it didn't make sense,
and we weren't happy.
1647
01:07:31,197 --> 01:07:32,772
It just didn't
make sense for us.
1648
01:07:32,791 --> 01:07:34,698
- So are y'all still going
to be cool afterwards?
1649
01:07:34,793 --> 01:07:36,867
- Yeah, we want to be friends.
- We're cool. We're cool, yeah.
1650
01:07:36,961 --> 01:07:42,223
- I even told pastor cal that
I would leave my door ajar
1651
01:07:42,450 --> 01:07:47,211
If maybe mitch decided
he was ready to just
1652
01:07:47,305 --> 01:07:52,475
Be a whole-ass husband to me, I
would probably crack the door.
1653
01:07:52,627 --> 01:07:55,070
Yeah, I really would.
- Ohh!
1654
01:07:55,221 --> 01:07:56,963
- But guys, we're not.
1655
01:07:57,056 --> 01:07:58,722
Ok, don't get all-- we're not.
1656
01:07:58,817 --> 01:08:00,224
- She's going to be there.
1657
01:08:00,243 --> 01:08:02,226
- You deserve better
than a door crack.
1658
01:08:02,320 --> 01:08:03,078
- Hold on. I agree.
1659
01:08:03,229 --> 01:08:04,637
And then I even said--
1660
01:08:04,730 --> 01:08:06,155
- You deserve better
than a door crack.
1661
01:08:06,308 --> 01:08:07,807
- I said, mitch, when
you come a-knockin',
1662
01:08:07,826 --> 01:08:09,400
You know I want to be
married and pregnant.
1663
01:08:09,419 --> 01:08:10,827
- There you go.
1664
01:08:10,921 --> 01:08:12,161
- And you better kick
that [bleep] door down.
1665
01:08:12,255 --> 01:08:14,997
[laughter]
1666
01:08:15,092 --> 01:08:17,333
Well, it's already cracked,
so it don't take much.
1667
01:08:17,485 --> 01:08:18,484
- Ajar.
1668
01:08:18,503 --> 01:08:20,320
I would say ajar.
1669
01:08:20,338 --> 01:08:22,764
- Mitch, I have a question.
1670
01:08:22,915 --> 01:08:25,749
If she leaves it
ajar, is it going
1671
01:08:25,769 --> 01:08:27,751
To be like, you know how
some people sit by the phone,
1672
01:08:27,771 --> 01:08:30,346
And it's just like,
the phone never rings?
1673
01:08:30,440 --> 01:08:31,940
Because I've been there
where it's just like, dang,
1674
01:08:32,167 --> 01:08:34,016
You waiting on the other
side, and they never come.
1675
01:08:34,169 --> 01:08:36,836
- Yeah.
1676
01:08:36,855 --> 01:08:38,596
- Um...
1677
01:08:38,690 --> 01:08:41,950
- I know sometimes when you
build a bond with somebody,
1678
01:08:42,177 --> 01:08:43,952
You just want the
hope, you know?
1679
01:08:44,103 --> 01:08:45,436
We want to be wives.
1680
01:08:45,530 --> 01:08:47,347
We want to be happy.
1681
01:08:47,365 --> 01:08:51,626
And I'm a hopeful person,
a hopeless romantic as well.
1682
01:08:51,777 --> 01:08:54,129
But that's why I
wanted to ask mitch.
1683
01:08:54,356 --> 01:08:56,873
- You know, again,
I just don't know.
1684
01:08:57,025 --> 01:08:59,300
I feel like we're just
in the here and now,
1685
01:08:59,452 --> 01:09:01,970
And the decision
that we both made
1686
01:09:02,121 --> 01:09:05,047
Was the right one for now.
1687
01:09:05,200 --> 01:09:08,977
I was resolute in my decision
in that I hope that we can be
1688
01:09:09,128 --> 01:09:12,463
On good terms, and I hope that
we can still know each other
1689
01:09:12,482 --> 01:09:15,224
And be friends and
that it's not--
1690
01:09:15,318 --> 01:09:18,211
So I do want the door
to be open in that way,
1691
01:09:18,304 --> 01:09:19,545
But that's all I can really--
1692
01:09:19,639 --> 01:09:20,713
- So close it in
the marriage way.
1693
01:09:20,732 --> 01:09:22,048
Just close it in that side.
1694
01:09:22,141 --> 01:09:23,566
Open it-- ajar it
for the friends.
1695
01:09:23,660 --> 01:09:25,902
- Dead bolt it.
1696
01:09:26,054 --> 01:09:27,328
- Yeah, I'm just saying
none of that was--
1697
01:09:27,480 --> 01:09:28,738
That was not mine.
1698
01:09:28,832 --> 01:09:31,741
None of that came from
my end is all I'm saying.
1699
01:09:31,835 --> 01:09:33,226
- Wow-ahh.
1700
01:09:33,244 --> 01:09:34,243
- Never mind.
I'm sorry.
1701
01:09:34,396 --> 01:09:35,728
I didn't mean to do that.
1702
01:09:35,821 --> 01:09:36,820
- Yeah, we're done
with that one.
1703
01:09:36,915 --> 01:09:38,155
- I'm so sorry.
- Close it.
1704
01:09:38,249 --> 01:09:39,232
[bleep] slam it.
Dead bolt it.
1705
01:09:39,250 --> 01:09:41,843
Double lock girlfriend.
1706
01:09:50,412 --> 01:09:51,335
- Close it.
1707
01:09:51,354 --> 01:09:52,336
[bleep] slam it.
1708
01:09:52,355 --> 01:09:53,262
Dead bolt it.
1709
01:09:53,356 --> 01:09:54,838
Double lock, girlfriend.
1710
01:09:54,858 --> 01:09:56,691
- Don't be rolling
your eyes, mitch.
1711
01:09:56,842 --> 01:09:57,767
- I'm not rolling my eyes.
1712
01:09:57,861 --> 01:09:58,935
I take accountability.
1713
01:09:59,029 --> 01:10:00,436
I said I'm not all in.
1714
01:10:00,530 --> 01:10:02,255
- Oh, my god. I can't.
1715
01:10:02,273 --> 01:10:05,441
I just-- when mitch
talks, it's just, blah.
1716
01:10:05,535 --> 01:10:06,534
I'm sorry.
1717
01:10:06,686 --> 01:10:08,036
I just can't.
1718
01:10:08,263 --> 01:10:10,780
Mitch is just opening
his mouth just to talk,
1719
01:10:10,874 --> 01:10:12,707
And then he's like, oh, but
maybe I didn't mean that.
1720
01:10:12,858 --> 01:10:16,102
And there's no--
he's just talking
1721
01:10:16,195 --> 01:10:17,545
Just to hear his
own [bleep] voice,
1722
01:10:17,697 --> 01:10:19,214
And that's what I believe.
1723
01:10:19,441 --> 01:10:23,200
- I think that this moment
has provided clarity,
1724
01:10:23,220 --> 01:10:29,557
And I think that the mitch
and krysten show is over.
1725
01:10:29,784 --> 01:10:32,785
This is who I've been
married to for two months.
1726
01:10:32,878 --> 01:10:36,898
You think you're going
forward, you're not.
1727
01:10:37,049 --> 01:10:39,400
Maybe he's saying
things to feel
1728
01:10:39,552 --> 01:10:43,646
Good and get past the moment,
but he doesn't mean them.
1729
01:10:43,798 --> 01:10:46,056
This is not a marriage.
1730
01:10:46,150 --> 01:10:47,984
It's certainly not a marriage
that's going to work,
1731
01:10:48,078 --> 01:10:51,637
And the future does not include
each other, and that's ok.
1732
01:10:51,656 --> 01:10:56,158
♪ ♪
1733
01:10:56,253 --> 01:10:58,920
- Ok, you want to go.
1734
01:10:59,147 --> 01:11:01,314
- Yeah.
1735
01:11:01,407 --> 01:11:04,317
I knew I was going
to say yes, and I
1736
01:11:04,410 --> 01:11:05,668
Wanted to stay true to myself.
1737
01:11:05,762 --> 01:11:07,653
I wasn't sure what her
answer was going to be,
1738
01:11:07,747 --> 01:11:09,171
But whatever her
answer was going to be,
1739
01:11:09,324 --> 01:11:10,581
I was going to be grateful.
1740
01:11:10,600 --> 01:11:14,084
And if she decided,
you know, to say
1741
01:11:14,104 --> 01:11:17,513
No, I would have respected
her for choosing herself.
1742
01:11:17,607 --> 01:11:19,107
But it was a good day.
1743
01:11:19,334 --> 01:11:21,334
She came down the aisle
and looked like a goddess
1744
01:11:21,352 --> 01:11:23,093
Walking down, you know.
1745
01:11:23,187 --> 01:11:28,674
And so my answer was yes,
and you want to tell yours?
1746
01:11:28,693 --> 01:11:31,360
- Um...
1747
01:11:31,454 --> 01:11:35,181
I was literally until like
24 hours prior to decision day,
1748
01:11:35,274 --> 01:11:37,441
I had no idea what
I was going to say.
1749
01:11:37,460 --> 01:11:41,111
I kept going back and
forth, and like stacia said,
1750
01:11:41,131 --> 01:11:42,463
I ended up saying,
I want to fight
1751
01:11:42,615 --> 01:11:44,040
And see what happens next.
1752
01:11:44,134 --> 01:11:46,634
So I said, yes.
1753
01:11:46,786 --> 01:11:49,195
And then 20 minutes later,
we got into a huge argument.
1754
01:11:49,213 --> 01:11:50,805
- Oh, no.
1755
01:11:51,032 --> 01:11:52,289
- Yeah.
1756
01:11:52,309 --> 01:11:54,124
My husband has asked
me several times
1757
01:11:54,144 --> 01:11:57,562
Since then do I regret saying
yes.
1758
01:12:02,210 --> 01:12:03,376
And I'm still processing.
1759
01:12:03,394 --> 01:12:04,635
♪ ♪
1760
01:12:04,729 --> 01:12:05,987
- I'm sorry to hear that.
1761
01:12:06,214 --> 01:12:08,472
- Same.
1762
01:12:08,491 --> 01:12:12,476
I'm just figuring I
said I was sorry, so.
1763
01:12:12,495 --> 01:12:13,886
I don't know.
1764
01:12:13,979 --> 01:12:15,388
I felt like we can
go up from here,
1765
01:12:15,406 --> 01:12:17,481
But it seems like every
argument we get into
1766
01:12:17,575 --> 01:12:22,395
Is the argument of a decade
or you know what I'm saying?
1767
01:12:22,413 --> 01:12:24,230
Or it's catastrophic.
1768
01:12:24,248 --> 01:12:25,489
It's a [bleep] argument.
You know what I'm saying?
1769
01:12:25,508 --> 01:12:27,733
You can't get
discouraged by that [bleep].
1770
01:12:27,827 --> 01:12:29,085
- Was it something
that was recurring,
1771
01:12:29,179 --> 01:12:31,328
Or was it a new issue?
1772
01:12:31,348 --> 01:12:33,589
- It was a recurring issue.
- Ok.
1773
01:12:33,683 --> 01:12:37,259
- I just felt like both of
us went right back to where
1774
01:12:37,412 --> 01:12:39,520
We were five weeks ago.
1775
01:12:39,672 --> 01:12:40,671
Because that was
my biggest thing.
1776
01:12:40,765 --> 01:12:43,191
I didn't want to go back.
1777
01:12:43,418 --> 01:12:45,026
I'm all about moving
forward and growth.
1778
01:12:45,253 --> 01:12:47,028
And just for us to
get into something
1779
01:12:47,255 --> 01:12:49,271
Like not even off
the premises yet,
1780
01:12:49,366 --> 01:12:51,181
It was just a lot because
it's like we're supposed
1781
01:12:51,201 --> 01:12:52,867
To be starting over
and making anew,
1782
01:12:53,094 --> 01:12:55,444
And then it was just
like back to square one.
1783
01:12:55,538 --> 01:12:57,613
So that's why it just
affected me so much.
1784
01:12:57,707 --> 01:13:01,283
- Those reoccurring events
that she-- it's practice.
1785
01:13:01,436 --> 01:13:03,360
It's not going to be
perfect every time.
1786
01:13:03,454 --> 01:13:06,789
- Really, what it takes is
saying like, do you choose me?
1787
01:13:06,941 --> 01:13:09,609
If you do, then cut
the [bleep].
1788
01:13:09,627 --> 01:13:10,793
Stop the whining.
1789
01:13:10,887 --> 01:13:12,795
Stop the accusations.
1790
01:13:12,889 --> 01:13:16,115
How do we get literally from
this point to the happy point?
1791
01:13:16,208 --> 01:13:17,450
Because that's what we want,
right?
1792
01:13:17,543 --> 01:13:18,467
- It's like objective
measures rather
1793
01:13:18,561 --> 01:13:20,620
Than emotional measures.
1794
01:13:20,638 --> 01:13:22,230
- Yeah, I'm very logical, and
I think that's the difference
1795
01:13:22,457 --> 01:13:23,898
Between us.
1796
01:13:24,125 --> 01:13:26,216
- She's a logical person,
you know what I'm saying?
1797
01:13:26,236 --> 01:13:28,051
But it's been eight
weeks and a day.
1798
01:13:28,071 --> 01:13:29,462
It's been eight
weeks and a day,
1799
01:13:29,555 --> 01:13:31,147
And when something
doesn't go well
1800
01:13:31,241 --> 01:13:33,799
Or if her feelings get
hurt in a moment, you know,
1801
01:13:33,818 --> 01:13:34,575
It's the world is ending.
1802
01:13:34,802 --> 01:13:37,412
♪ ♪
1803
01:13:40,566 --> 01:13:42,141
- Hopefully, we figure it out.
1804
01:13:42,234 --> 01:13:43,418
I would much rather
figure it out,
1805
01:13:43,645 --> 01:13:44,827
But I don't know
what's on her agenda,
1806
01:13:44,979 --> 01:13:46,087
So I can't speak for her.
1807
01:13:46,238 --> 01:13:47,088
- I don't want
to figure it out.
1808
01:13:47,239 --> 01:13:48,648
I'm done.
- There's your answer.
1809
01:13:48,666 --> 01:13:51,092
♪ ♪
1810
01:13:51,319 --> 01:13:52,835
She's done.
1811
01:13:52,929 --> 01:13:59,600
- ♪ on the edge of
a road going downhill ♪
1812
01:13:59,752 --> 01:14:01,769
♪ I am lost ♪
1813
01:14:01,996 --> 01:14:05,589
- All I did was love you
to the best of my ability,
1814
01:14:05,608 --> 01:14:07,850
And if that's not
enough, I'm sorry.
1815
01:14:07,944 --> 01:14:09,335
- Ok.
- Genuinely.
1816
01:14:09,428 --> 01:14:10,278
- Ok.
- Are you listening?
1817
01:14:10,429 --> 01:14:13,197
- I'm listening.
1818
01:14:22,033 --> 01:14:24,792
♪ ♪
1819
01:14:25,019 --> 01:14:29,947
- ♪ my heart can't
take any more damage ♪
1820
01:14:30,041 --> 01:14:31,632
♪ any more damage ♪
1821
01:14:43,054 --> 01:14:45,371
♪ don't be afraid ♪
1822
01:14:45,464 --> 01:14:47,890
♪ follow all the things
you love ♪
1823
01:14:47,984 --> 01:14:49,709
- Last day here.
1824
01:14:49,727 --> 01:14:51,227
It's kind of sad.
1825
01:14:51,321 --> 01:14:53,395
We made this place a
legit home in eight weeks.
1826
01:14:53,490 --> 01:14:55,231
I'm kind of sad.
1827
01:14:55,325 --> 01:14:56,215
- I mean, this is the first
place we cooked together.
1828
01:14:56,234 --> 01:14:57,492
- I know.
1829
01:14:57,719 --> 01:14:59,568
- As our couples
are quickly learning,
1830
01:14:59,662 --> 01:15:03,331
The ups and downs of marriage
don't stop at decision day.
1831
01:15:03,558 --> 01:15:04,907
- Are we taking all these too?
- Yes.
1832
01:15:05,001 --> 01:15:06,242
- All right.
- Yes.
1833
01:15:06,394 --> 01:15:07,893
Yes.
1834
01:15:07,912 --> 01:15:10,004
- We've done everything
we can to support
1835
01:15:10,231 --> 01:15:12,081
Them as couples
and individuals
1836
01:15:12,175 --> 01:15:13,674
Throughout this process.
1837
01:15:13,901 --> 01:15:16,736
And now, whether
married, divorced,
1838
01:15:16,754 --> 01:15:19,588
Or something more
complicated, it's up to them
1839
01:15:19,741 --> 01:15:21,407
To shape their futures.
1840
01:15:21,425 --> 01:15:24,018
♪ ♪
1841
01:15:24,169 --> 01:15:25,411
- Luna's beds.
1842
01:15:25,429 --> 01:15:26,687
- I know.
1843
01:15:26,914 --> 01:15:30,099
I'm sad she's not
here, but she's just so
1844
01:15:30,251 --> 01:15:31,934
Stressed out right now.
1845
01:15:32,028 --> 01:15:35,012
- So luna is going to need
some time just like we are.
1846
01:15:35,106 --> 01:15:38,682
- I feel like I was just
being really genuine and nice
1847
01:15:38,701 --> 01:15:42,428
About the whole
door ajar thing,
1848
01:15:42,446 --> 01:15:44,872
And I felt like you caught
me off guard a little bit.
1849
01:15:45,099 --> 01:15:47,190
- I felt like a
little under attack,
1850
01:15:47,285 --> 01:15:48,450
So I just wanted
to make it clear
1851
01:15:48,603 --> 01:15:50,861
That I didn't
show up to say no,
1852
01:15:50,880 --> 01:15:52,713
But I didn't say,
let's keep dating.
1853
01:15:52,940 --> 01:15:54,031
- Yeah.
- You know what I mean?
1854
01:15:54,125 --> 01:15:55,624
No one wants to
string anyone along.
1855
01:15:55,718 --> 01:15:56,625
You know what I mean?
That's the whole point.
1856
01:15:56,719 --> 01:15:58,444
So that's all I meant.
1857
01:15:58,462 --> 01:15:59,295
I don't know if I said
it wrong or whatever,
1858
01:15:59,389 --> 01:16:00,279
But I was just like--
1859
01:16:00,298 --> 01:16:02,723
Girls, chill out.
1860
01:16:02,950 --> 01:16:04,283
That was my fear
that I was being made
1861
01:16:04,376 --> 01:16:07,453
Out to be some half-ass dude.
1862
01:16:07,546 --> 01:16:08,879
And I really did
everything I could
1863
01:16:08,973 --> 01:16:10,398
Not to be a half-assed guy.
1864
01:16:10,625 --> 01:16:12,458
- I don't think
anyone was thinking
1865
01:16:12,551 --> 01:16:15,477
You were half-assing anything.
1866
01:16:15,572 --> 01:16:21,075
Decision day went so well, and
I had very strong, positive
1867
01:16:21,302 --> 01:16:25,321
Feelings for you that it
seemed silly to completely
1868
01:16:25,415 --> 01:16:29,733
Close the door for the future
if our paths crossed again.
1869
01:16:29,752 --> 01:16:32,661
However, I felt
like you were very
1870
01:16:32,755 --> 01:16:35,998
Clear how something like that
would never happen for you.
1871
01:16:36,092 --> 01:16:38,575
- Maybe in a different
situation, it could work,
1872
01:16:38,595 --> 01:16:40,502
And I was totally
receptive to that.
1873
01:16:40,655 --> 01:16:43,155
But then last night,
it was all twisted.
1874
01:16:43,174 --> 01:16:46,508
♪ ♪
1875
01:16:46,661 --> 01:16:48,494
It's just there's only
so much I can take
1876
01:16:48,587 --> 01:16:50,663
From everyone blaming
me for everything
1877
01:16:50,681 --> 01:16:52,832
And making it about me.
1878
01:16:52,850 --> 01:16:54,758
All this conversation
about whether there's
1879
01:16:54,852 --> 01:16:58,187
A door open in the future
is just not important to me
1880
01:16:58,281 --> 01:16:59,780
Right now.
1881
01:17:00,007 --> 01:17:02,116
It's just like leave
me alone, you know?
1882
01:17:02,267 --> 01:17:07,270
- So judging from that, I
feel like it's best if we just
1883
01:17:07,365 --> 01:17:08,848
Completely close the door.
1884
01:17:08,866 --> 01:17:11,183
♪ ♪
1885
01:17:11,276 --> 01:17:13,018
Now, that we are
getting a divorce,
1886
01:17:13,112 --> 01:17:15,037
I'm able to see things
a little clearer.
1887
01:17:15,131 --> 01:17:18,207
- Would you like one of
our mitch and krysten
1888
01:17:18,301 --> 01:17:21,694
First apartment mugs?
1889
01:17:21,712 --> 01:17:23,638
- I really don't.
1890
01:17:23,865 --> 01:17:26,715
I'm just now being
reminded that he
1891
01:17:26,868 --> 01:17:29,718
Was kind of worse to me than
maybe I felt in the moment.
1892
01:17:29,812 --> 01:17:32,888
It's so indicative of
making the right decision.
1893
01:17:32,982 --> 01:17:35,708
He doesn't deserve me, and
I hope he doesn't waste
1894
01:17:35,801 --> 01:17:37,985
Another good woman's time.
1895
01:17:38,137 --> 01:17:39,487
I have no regrets.
1896
01:17:39,714 --> 01:17:42,064
- Neither do I.
I'd love to stay in touch
1897
01:17:42,158 --> 01:17:44,325
And you just check in
on you once in a while.
1898
01:17:44,552 --> 01:17:46,994
- I am going
camping next month,
1899
01:17:47,221 --> 01:17:48,888
So if you could watch
luna, that would be great.
1900
01:17:48,906 --> 01:17:50,647
- Sure.
1901
01:17:50,741 --> 01:17:53,334
- One of the best things I
ever did was marry a stranger,
1902
01:17:53,485 --> 01:17:56,896
And the only thing greater
is divorcing this stranger.
1903
01:17:56,914 --> 01:17:58,155
♪ ♪
1904
01:17:58,174 --> 01:18:02,325
And there's just one
last thing to unpack.
1905
01:18:02,345 --> 01:18:03,569
Oh, god.
1906
01:18:03,662 --> 01:18:05,921
- ♪ everything will be fine ♪
1907
01:18:06,015 --> 01:18:07,907
- Goodbye.
1908
01:18:07,925 --> 01:18:09,408
♪ ♪
1909
01:18:09,501 --> 01:18:13,913
♪ everything
will be all right ♪
1910
01:18:13,931 --> 01:18:18,267
♪ ♪
1911
01:18:18,361 --> 01:18:21,195
[gentle music]
1912
01:18:21,346 --> 01:18:22,363
- ♪ don't cry ♪
1913
01:18:22,514 --> 01:18:26,850
♪ I can talk to you ♪
1914
01:18:26,944 --> 01:18:28,260
- Man, that was a good day.
1915
01:18:28,279 --> 01:18:30,187
♪ ♪
1916
01:18:30,281 --> 01:18:33,190
This is probably
my favorite one.
1917
01:18:33,284 --> 01:18:35,117
That was a good one.
1918
01:18:35,211 --> 01:18:38,270
I was super optimistic, and
literally, 12 hours later,
1919
01:18:38,289 --> 01:18:40,622
She was like she wanted
a divorce, and that
1920
01:18:40,717 --> 01:18:43,217
Threw me a curveball because
I thought she was in it.
1921
01:18:43,368 --> 01:18:44,610
I did not see that coming.
1922
01:18:44,628 --> 01:18:46,779
♪ ♪
1923
01:18:46,872 --> 01:18:48,705
I think I'm gonna pack up
my stuff.
1924
01:18:48,725 --> 01:18:50,115
That right there was
an embarrassment.
1925
01:18:50,209 --> 01:18:51,726
If you felt that,
you should have
1926
01:18:51,953 --> 01:18:54,119
Been fully honest and
transparent with me.
1927
01:18:54,138 --> 01:18:57,790
♪ ♪
1928
01:18:57,808 --> 01:19:02,127
- Me asking for a divorce,
it was just in the moment,
1929
01:19:02,146 --> 01:19:05,314
Unthought out, just like
I can't take any more.
1930
01:19:05,408 --> 01:19:07,816
I was really just frustrated
with the situation,
1931
01:19:07,969 --> 01:19:10,393
Because I just felt
like we're both just
1932
01:19:10,488 --> 01:19:11,637
Going back to square one.
1933
01:19:11,655 --> 01:19:15,750
♪ ♪
1934
01:19:15,977 --> 01:19:17,142
Heading out?
1935
01:19:17,161 --> 01:19:18,735
- Yeah.
1936
01:19:18,829 --> 01:19:21,571
- So I do want to apologize
for last night, justin.
1937
01:19:21,591 --> 01:19:25,259
I'm not proud of how
I hurt you in that way
1938
01:19:25,486 --> 01:19:27,987
And disrespected you in
that tone and everything.
1939
01:19:28,080 --> 01:19:30,672
I shouldn't have
blindsided you like that,
1940
01:19:30,825 --> 01:19:32,266
But I do want you
know I'm sorry.
1941
01:19:32,417 --> 01:19:33,917
- Yeah, I appreciate that.
1942
01:19:33,936 --> 01:19:36,419
- I did come into this
looking for a love.
1943
01:19:36,439 --> 01:19:38,606
I didn't expect
it to be a lesson,
1944
01:19:38,833 --> 01:19:41,442
But I got some work to
do for myself as well.
1945
01:19:41,669 --> 01:19:44,261
- Whew.
1946
01:19:44,280 --> 01:19:47,097
- All I know is that I was
embarrassed this morning.
1947
01:19:47,191 --> 01:19:51,452
I woke up feeling mortified
that I did that to you.
1948
01:19:51,679 --> 01:19:53,788
No one deserves what I
did to you, and I'm sorry.
1949
01:19:54,015 --> 01:19:57,032
- It wasn't that I was
hurt; I was let down,
1950
01:19:57,126 --> 01:20:01,703
Because she did exactly what
I feared, which was quitting.
1951
01:20:01,798 --> 01:20:03,522
I love you though.
1952
01:20:03,541 --> 01:20:05,024
- I love you too.
1953
01:20:05,042 --> 01:20:06,025
- Yeah.
1954
01:20:06,043 --> 01:20:07,526
- I know.
1955
01:20:07,545 --> 01:20:09,194
- Then this is goodbye.
1956
01:20:09,213 --> 01:20:10,879
[somber music]
1957
01:20:10,973 --> 01:20:17,627
- ♪ why do the lonely
people never catch the prey? ♪
1958
01:20:17,721 --> 01:20:18,962
- She's all talk.
1959
01:20:19,056 --> 01:20:20,314
She say she wants
to be married,
1960
01:20:20,541 --> 01:20:22,132
But she doesn't want
to be married to me.
1961
01:20:22,226 --> 01:20:23,208
Be clear about that.
1962
01:20:23,227 --> 01:20:25,135
Be honest with yourself.
1963
01:20:25,229 --> 01:20:26,821
Maybe I'm not taking her
feelings in consideration,
1964
01:20:27,048 --> 01:20:29,657
But I don't think she took
mine into consideration.
1965
01:20:29,808 --> 01:20:33,886
- ♪ because there's
just no place in this world ♪
1966
01:20:33,979 --> 01:20:36,163
♪ for a lovesick fool ♪
1967
01:20:36,390 --> 01:20:38,907
♪ ♪
1968
01:20:39,001 --> 01:20:41,894
[gentle music]
1969
01:20:41,912 --> 01:20:42,986
♪ ♪
1970
01:20:43,080 --> 01:20:45,005
- There's some scratchers here.
1971
01:20:45,232 --> 01:20:48,750
Maybe we'll be lucky
before we leave this place.
1972
01:20:48,845 --> 01:20:51,661
Ok, so this is funny because
I like doing scratchers,
1973
01:20:51,681 --> 01:20:53,255
But I have an
impulse to buy them
1974
01:20:53,407 --> 01:20:55,074
When I'm extremely unhappy.
1975
01:20:55,092 --> 01:20:58,093
So this is ironic
because I'm very happy.
1976
01:20:58,245 --> 01:21:00,170
I would never have
believed anyone,
1977
01:21:00,189 --> 01:21:01,504
If they would have
told me that this
1978
01:21:01,524 --> 01:21:03,599
Would be the result
of signing up
1979
01:21:03,693 --> 01:21:05,526
To be married to a stranger.
1980
01:21:05,753 --> 01:21:07,361
So yeah, I feel great,
and I'm going to get
1981
01:21:07,512 --> 01:21:08,770
To start my life with him.
1982
01:21:08,923 --> 01:21:10,255
Ok.
1983
01:21:10,349 --> 01:21:13,592
Well, we should probably
leave this place.
1984
01:21:13,611 --> 01:21:14,702
- Yeah.
1985
01:21:14,853 --> 01:21:16,445
- It's nice, but
I'm ready to move
1986
01:21:16,597 --> 01:21:18,873
Into a more permanent spot.
1987
01:21:19,100 --> 01:21:20,523
- Same.
1988
01:21:20,618 --> 01:21:21,691
- All right, let's go, babe.
1989
01:21:21,785 --> 01:21:23,452
You've got to give it up.
1990
01:21:23,546 --> 01:21:25,120
There's no places there.
1991
01:21:25,214 --> 01:21:27,289
I'm really excited to
move in with miguel
1992
01:21:27,383 --> 01:21:29,791
In the real sense of it.
1993
01:21:29,886 --> 01:21:33,295
Now, we're choosing this,
and I know that our futures
1994
01:21:33,447 --> 01:21:35,631
Will align so seamlessly.
1995
01:21:35,725 --> 01:21:39,968
Miguel, it's going to be fun
for me to decorate your place.
1996
01:21:40,062 --> 01:21:43,138
- Tonight, I am looking
forward to you putting
1997
01:21:43,290 --> 01:21:46,066
Your touch on our new place.
1998
01:21:49,313 --> 01:21:51,906
- I'm taking away a wife.
1999
01:21:52,133 --> 01:21:53,966
I'm taking away
a happy marriage,
2000
01:21:53,984 --> 01:21:56,969
And I can't wait to just
live our lives day to day,
2001
01:21:56,987 --> 01:21:59,580
Just really grow closer,
grow more in love,
2002
01:21:59,731 --> 01:22:03,083
Grow more connected, and just
live as husband and wife.
2003
01:22:03,310 --> 01:22:06,995
I'm eager to see
where our story goes.
2004
01:22:07,148 --> 01:22:09,498
Oh, god. This is heavy.
2005
01:22:09,592 --> 01:22:10,907
- Is it really?
2006
01:22:10,927 --> 01:22:12,259
- It's really pretty heavy.
- Oh, my gosh.
2007
01:22:12,411 --> 01:22:13,986
- But I got it.
- Ok.
2008
01:22:14,004 --> 01:22:15,487
You look like you're
going to poop your pants.
2009
01:22:15,506 --> 01:22:16,505
- [gasps]
2010
01:22:16,599 --> 01:22:17,839
[gentle music]
2011
01:22:17,992 --> 01:22:20,159
- I never would have
dreamed that I would
2012
01:22:20,252 --> 01:22:22,603
Have such a strong
connection and love
2013
01:22:22,754 --> 01:22:26,014
Someone so intensely in
such a short amount of time.
2014
01:22:26,108 --> 01:22:27,349
- Oh, yes.
2015
01:22:27,443 --> 01:22:28,758
I'll get our keys.
2016
01:22:28,852 --> 01:22:30,427
- It's just best-case scenario.
2017
01:22:30,521 --> 01:22:32,671
It's a fairy tale.
2018
01:22:32,690 --> 01:22:34,006
Bye, apartment.
2019
01:22:34,099 --> 01:22:37,859
- ♪ our time
here has come to an end ♪
2020
01:22:37,954 --> 01:22:39,954
[laughter]
2021
01:22:40,181 --> 01:22:41,863
- Next time on the
"married at first sight"
2022
01:22:41,958 --> 01:22:43,182
San diego reunion...
2023
01:22:43,200 --> 01:22:44,274
- I'm a little nervous.
2024
01:22:44,368 --> 01:22:46,518
- ♪ give us something real ♪
2025
01:22:46,537 --> 01:22:48,520
- The couples from "married
at first sight" are back.
2026
01:22:48,539 --> 01:22:49,946
- Let's get it.
2027
01:22:49,966 --> 01:22:51,356
- And they are
ready to reveal what
2028
01:22:51,450 --> 01:22:52,967
Really went down in san diego.
2029
01:22:53,118 --> 01:22:54,359
- Hold on tight.
2030
01:22:54,378 --> 01:22:55,877
It's a wild ride.
2031
01:22:55,972 --> 01:22:58,639
- You came to my house in
the middle of the night.
2032
01:22:58,866 --> 01:23:01,124
- I was happy that
he wanted to kiss me.
2033
01:23:01,218 --> 01:23:03,552
- I'm attracted to you, and
I do have feelings for you.
2034
01:23:03,646 --> 01:23:05,962
- I reached out to her
like a month after.
2035
01:23:06,056 --> 01:23:07,873
- You guys seemed really happy.
2036
01:23:07,966 --> 01:23:09,057
- He's telling me he loves me.
2037
01:23:09,151 --> 01:23:10,133
[bleep], I don't know.
2038
01:23:10,227 --> 01:23:12,469
- It's a breaking point for me.
2039
01:23:12,488 --> 01:23:14,379
- You came on to me
back at my apartment.
2040
01:23:14,398 --> 01:23:17,658
Like, we orgasmed, or it
sounded like you did.
2041
01:23:17,885 --> 01:23:20,160
- Every time I greeted
him, I called him a bitch.
2042
01:23:20,387 --> 01:23:21,403
- Yikes.
2043
01:23:21,555 --> 01:23:22,496
- Binh, did justin
do you dirty?
2044
01:23:22,723 --> 01:23:24,072
- Yeah.
2045
01:23:24,166 --> 01:23:25,907
- You made a pass at me
twice before the show.
2046
01:23:26,002 --> 01:23:27,909
- What pass?
- You were hitting on me, bro.
2047
01:23:28,004 --> 01:23:29,503
- I don't talk to you.
2048
01:23:29,730 --> 01:23:31,154
- It's an epic
two-part reunion event
2049
01:23:31,248 --> 01:23:32,581
That you do not want to miss.
2050
01:23:32,733 --> 01:23:34,249
- You can't answer
the question.
2051
01:23:34,343 --> 01:23:35,009
- Take some of that bass out
of your mother[bleep]
2052
01:23:35,236 --> 01:23:36,401
Voice, boy.
2053
01:23:36,495 --> 01:23:37,419
- What you going
to do, bruh?
2054
01:23:37,571 --> 01:23:38,495
- Hang up.
- I'm here. I'm here.
2055
01:23:38,589 --> 01:23:39,905
- No, no, no.
- No. No.
2056
01:23:39,923 --> 01:23:42,516
♪ ♪