1 00:00:01,413 --> 00:00:03,103 [Whitney] Previously on My Big Fat Fabulous Life. 2 00:00:03,103 --> 00:00:05,068 Oh, hell to the no. 3 00:00:05,068 --> 00:00:07,172 She went exorcist with it. 4 00:00:07,172 --> 00:00:09,793 The only thing that scares me about being 40 is not having a partner. 5 00:00:09,793 --> 00:00:11,172 Also knowing like, I'm probably not gonna 6 00:00:11,172 --> 00:00:13,482 have kids because I'm still single. 7 00:00:13,482 --> 00:00:15,068 [Jaime] Do you think 8 00:00:15,068 --> 00:00:17,620 that you are ready to move on? 9 00:00:17,620 --> 00:00:18,689 [Whitney speaking] 10 00:00:18,689 --> 00:00:22,000 I still talk to the Frenchman very regularly. 11 00:00:22,000 --> 00:00:24,172 Am I pathetic? Probably. 12 00:00:24,172 --> 00:00:25,586 It might would be easier to move on 13 00:00:25,586 --> 00:00:27,000 if you didn't talk to him every day. 14 00:00:27,000 --> 00:00:28,965 -Mmm-hmm. -[gasps] 15 00:00:29,689 --> 00:00:31,068 We are middle aged. 16 00:00:31,068 --> 00:00:33,275 I'm having an existential crisis about it. 17 00:00:33,275 --> 00:00:35,931 That's the thing. I've been in existential crisis since I was 18. 18 00:00:35,931 --> 00:00:38,000 On the highway of life, 19 00:00:38,000 --> 00:00:41,000 I truly feel that I am stalled. 20 00:00:41,000 --> 00:00:43,310 So I have got to change my gears 21 00:00:43,310 --> 00:00:45,793 because I would like to get back on the road 22 00:00:45,793 --> 00:00:47,793 and headed in a positive direction. 23 00:00:47,793 --> 00:00:49,931 I think we really do need to go to the psychic. 24 00:00:49,931 --> 00:00:52,000 I need someone to, like, sage. 25 00:00:52,000 --> 00:00:53,896 I'll sage my [bleep] I don't care. 26 00:00:53,896 --> 00:00:56,000 Spirits, the demons. 27 00:00:56,000 --> 00:00:58,620 They're clogging up my passageways. 28 00:00:59,793 --> 00:01:03,137 [upbeat music playing] 29 00:01:05,793 --> 00:01:08,965 [slow music playing] 30 00:01:15,482 --> 00:01:18,310 [upbeat music playing] 31 00:01:26,793 --> 00:01:29,689 Who's up? Goose, uh-uh. 32 00:01:29,689 --> 00:01:31,965 -Ma'am, uh-uh. -[Tal] Is Goosey coming? 33 00:01:32,586 --> 00:01:34,620 -Goosey is not coming. -Oh. 34 00:01:34,620 --> 00:01:37,206 And I have sprained my ankle so bad. 35 00:01:37,206 --> 00:01:38,517 Oh, no. 36 00:01:38,517 --> 00:01:40,103 You want me to drive your car? 37 00:01:40,103 --> 00:01:41,586 If you want to. Yeah. 38 00:01:41,586 --> 00:01:44,172 I don't mind. And certainly if you're unable to, I will. 39 00:01:44,172 --> 00:01:45,344 [groans] 40 00:01:46,068 --> 00:01:48,482 Ooh, it looks like you have 41 00:01:48,482 --> 00:01:51,931 one of the house monitor ankle bracelet. [laughs] 42 00:01:51,931 --> 00:01:53,517 It's a hot and cold gel pack. 43 00:01:53,517 --> 00:01:55,378 -I'm so sorry. -[Whitney] This is 40. 44 00:01:55,378 --> 00:01:57,586 [Tal] Is this psychic gonna help you get it together-- 45 00:01:57,586 --> 00:01:59,827 Give me... Psychic, please give me some good news. 46 00:01:59,827 --> 00:02:02,379 Things are falling apart over here. 47 00:02:02,379 --> 00:02:04,310 One of my New Year's resolutions was to visit 48 00:02:04,310 --> 00:02:07,103 a psychic with Tal because I'm looking 49 00:02:07,103 --> 00:02:09,723 for a way to feel more connected to my mother. 50 00:02:09,723 --> 00:02:12,000 And also, of course, I have lots of questions 51 00:02:12,000 --> 00:02:15,413 about my future, uh, particularly my love life. 52 00:02:15,413 --> 00:02:17,172 Oh, lord [bleep]. Ah! 53 00:02:17,172 --> 00:02:19,379 I've always been interested in psychics 54 00:02:19,379 --> 00:02:20,689 and the paranormal, 55 00:02:20,689 --> 00:02:22,586 but I've also really always been a skeptic. 56 00:02:22,586 --> 00:02:26,103 But I have heard amazing things about Gina. 57 00:02:26,103 --> 00:02:29,206 So if this woman can give me some hope for the future, 58 00:02:29,206 --> 00:02:30,896 it will be more than worth 59 00:02:30,896 --> 00:02:32,793 the 90-minute drive it takes to get there 60 00:02:32,793 --> 00:02:35,103 'cause I have got a whole lot going on 61 00:02:35,103 --> 00:02:36,379 and not a lot of time left 62 00:02:36,379 --> 00:02:38,448 before I turn 40 to figure it out. 63 00:02:39,793 --> 00:02:41,620 Oh, I'm excited. 64 00:02:41,620 --> 00:02:43,103 -I'm really excited. -[Whitney] I am too. 65 00:02:43,103 --> 00:02:44,689 [Tal] I'm truly curious to hear 66 00:02:44,689 --> 00:02:46,000 what the psychic has to say. 67 00:02:46,000 --> 00:02:48,413 If a psychic can look into their crystal ball 68 00:02:48,413 --> 00:02:51,172 and see something exciting on the horizon, 69 00:02:51,172 --> 00:02:53,965 then yes, please, and thank you. 70 00:02:54,517 --> 00:02:56,896 How are your resolutions going? 71 00:02:56,896 --> 00:02:59,896 [Whitney] Well, I haven't been very resolute yet 72 00:02:59,896 --> 00:03:01,482 because I had the bachelorette party 73 00:03:01,482 --> 00:03:03,103 and so I was all consumed. 74 00:03:03,103 --> 00:03:05,586 [Tal] Well, now that the bachelorette weekend is over, 75 00:03:05,586 --> 00:03:09,482 I was thinking about having everyone over to my house 76 00:03:09,482 --> 00:03:11,172 'cause I haven't really gotten to entertain. 77 00:03:11,172 --> 00:03:14,310 And I'm focusing on friendships in the New Year. 78 00:03:14,310 --> 00:03:17,586 So I would love to have all of y'all over this weekend. 79 00:03:17,586 --> 00:03:18,896 [Whitney] Of course. 80 00:03:18,896 --> 00:03:20,413 [Tal] That kind of is one of my resolutions 81 00:03:20,413 --> 00:03:22,931 for the new year. Like, I'm focusing on me 82 00:03:22,931 --> 00:03:24,586 and other kinds of relationships. 83 00:03:24,586 --> 00:03:25,586 [Whitney] You know, me too. 84 00:03:25,586 --> 00:03:28,137 I've had some serious [bleep] 85 00:03:28,724 --> 00:03:30,172 uh, with men. 86 00:03:30,172 --> 00:03:31,724 It just sucks because obviously 87 00:03:31,724 --> 00:03:32,930 it's not a future here 88 00:03:32,930 --> 00:03:34,620 with Frenchman, logistically. 89 00:03:34,620 --> 00:03:37,930 Maybe the psychic will be able to give you some insight 90 00:03:37,930 --> 00:03:42,482 into why it's been such a frustrating road for you. 91 00:03:42,482 --> 00:03:44,655 [Whitney] I certainly hope so. 92 00:03:45,275 --> 00:03:48,724 [upbeat music playing] 93 00:03:55,827 --> 00:03:58,482 Look what's right next to the psychic. 94 00:03:58,482 --> 00:04:01,379 Cat's Coffee & Magic. We're doing the magic part. 95 00:04:01,379 --> 00:04:03,068 Wait, how many stairs is this? 96 00:04:03,068 --> 00:04:04,000 Oh, boy. 97 00:04:04,000 --> 00:04:05,275 I got you. 98 00:04:05,275 --> 00:04:06,827 I can't believe the psychic is right next 99 00:04:06,827 --> 00:04:08,689 to the cat cafe. 100 00:04:08,689 --> 00:04:10,206 -[Whitney] Hi. -[Gina] Hey there. 101 00:04:10,206 --> 00:04:11,482 -How you doing today? -[Whitney] I'm good. 102 00:04:11,482 --> 00:04:13,000 -How are you? -Good. My name is Gina. 103 00:04:13,000 --> 00:04:14,793 Gina, I'm Whitney. Nice to meet you. 104 00:04:14,793 --> 00:04:16,172 -Very nice to meet you. -This is Tal. 105 00:04:16,172 --> 00:04:17,930 -[Gina] Hey Tal, how are you? -Gina, I'm great. 106 00:04:17,930 --> 00:04:19,586 -Nice to meet you. -[Tal] Nice to meet you. We're excited to be here. 107 00:04:19,586 --> 00:04:21,413 -[Whitney] Yeah. -I'm so excited to have you guys here. 108 00:04:21,413 --> 00:04:24,275 Do you wanna look around first or you just wanna get right to it? 109 00:04:24,275 --> 00:04:25,793 -Let's do it. -Yeah, let's do it. 110 00:04:25,793 --> 00:04:28,482 [Gina] All right. You can have a seat right over here. 111 00:04:28,482 --> 00:04:31,379 Tal and I are on opposite ends of the spectrum 112 00:04:31,379 --> 00:04:34,586 when it comes to actually finding people to date. 113 00:04:34,586 --> 00:04:36,310 But at the end of the day, 114 00:04:36,310 --> 00:04:38,379 we're both in the same boat. 115 00:04:38,379 --> 00:04:40,275 Like we're both still single 116 00:04:40,275 --> 00:04:44,103 and wondering what we can do to change it. 117 00:04:45,172 --> 00:04:47,896 So first and foremost, I'm a futurist. 118 00:04:47,896 --> 00:04:49,689 And what that means is I'm gonna tap into the future 119 00:04:49,689 --> 00:04:51,931 that you guys are co-creating with the universe. 120 00:04:51,931 --> 00:04:54,206 So I tell my clients, if you like what you hear, 121 00:04:54,206 --> 00:04:55,620 keep doing what you're doing. 122 00:04:55,620 --> 00:04:57,103 If you don't like what you hear, 123 00:04:57,103 --> 00:04:58,517 change your mind, change your outcome. 124 00:04:58,517 --> 00:05:00,103 If you have a specific question, 125 00:05:00,103 --> 00:05:01,896 -I don't wanna know. -[Whitney] Okay. 126 00:05:01,896 --> 00:05:03,827 You wanna whisper it in each other's ears? 127 00:05:15,586 --> 00:05:18,000 So what you're gonna be able to do is apply the information 128 00:05:18,000 --> 00:05:20,724 that I'm giving you to your question. 129 00:05:25,689 --> 00:05:28,413 All righty. Mmm. Interesting. 130 00:05:28,413 --> 00:05:31,172 So the energy that covers you both, okay? 131 00:05:31,172 --> 00:05:32,827 Is the Two of Wands. And the Two of Wands 132 00:05:32,827 --> 00:05:34,586 is literally a card that talks 133 00:05:34,586 --> 00:05:36,793 about making plans for the future. 134 00:05:36,793 --> 00:05:39,689 When I look at this card, this is a Three of Pentacles. 135 00:05:39,689 --> 00:05:41,482 And it basically talks about the fact 136 00:05:41,482 --> 00:05:44,482 that one of you or both of you don't feel 137 00:05:44,482 --> 00:05:46,620 like you're being admired, appreciated, or respected 138 00:05:46,620 --> 00:05:48,586 for what you bring to the table. 139 00:05:48,586 --> 00:05:49,827 Okay. 140 00:05:49,827 --> 00:05:51,172 And what I'm seeing here 141 00:05:51,172 --> 00:05:53,689 with this Eight of Cups is that one 142 00:05:53,689 --> 00:05:57,000 or both of you are thinking about going back to something, 143 00:05:57,000 --> 00:05:59,620 someone, or some place that you left. 144 00:05:59,620 --> 00:06:01,517 Does that resonate? 145 00:06:01,517 --> 00:06:03,172 -Mmm-hmm. -Okay. 146 00:06:03,172 --> 00:06:05,931 So Whitney, I'm gonna also tap into your energy body, 147 00:06:05,931 --> 00:06:08,310 your auric field, specifically your chakras. 148 00:06:08,310 --> 00:06:10,275 So when I tap into you energetically definitely 149 00:06:10,275 --> 00:06:13,827 feeling your heart chakra, you got a huge heart chakra. 150 00:06:13,827 --> 00:06:17,586 You are definitely working with your ancestors. 151 00:06:17,586 --> 00:06:20,689 Your maternal lineage is very strong. 152 00:06:20,689 --> 00:06:23,310 And there is someone who passed away that's with you. 153 00:06:23,310 --> 00:06:25,275 A female just popped up. 154 00:06:25,275 --> 00:06:27,068 It's so interesting. Let me see if there's anything 155 00:06:27,068 --> 00:06:29,827 that she wants to pop through. 156 00:06:30,413 --> 00:06:31,793 Mmm. 157 00:06:31,793 --> 00:06:34,379 So this is a card. I want you to look at it. 158 00:06:34,379 --> 00:06:36,413 -[Whitney] Mmm-hmm. -These black birds represent thoughts, 159 00:06:36,413 --> 00:06:38,379 ideas, and beliefs and she's basically urging you 160 00:06:38,379 --> 00:06:40,103 -to let some things go. -Mmm-hmm. 161 00:06:40,103 --> 00:06:42,586 Okay? And actually what I love about this image 162 00:06:42,586 --> 00:06:44,724 -is that you see her back. -[Whitney] Mmm-hmm. 163 00:06:44,724 --> 00:06:46,931 She is letting it go. And this is you. 164 00:06:46,931 --> 00:06:48,482 -Okay. -Mmm-hmm. 165 00:06:48,482 --> 00:06:49,448 Mmm. 166 00:06:50,896 --> 00:06:53,586 For someone who has such an easy time 167 00:06:53,586 --> 00:06:56,827 accessing my emotions, I truly think that 168 00:06:56,827 --> 00:06:59,000 I have a lot of grief about my mom, kind of, 169 00:06:59,000 --> 00:07:02,379 boxed up in a place that I cannot access. 170 00:07:02,379 --> 00:07:06,482 So to hear from Gina that my mom is encouraging me 171 00:07:06,482 --> 00:07:10,827 to let that go is actually very comforting. 172 00:07:11,724 --> 00:07:13,482 [Gina] It's painful. 173 00:07:13,482 --> 00:07:15,793 You will stop mourning. 174 00:07:15,793 --> 00:07:17,965 You will never stop grieving. 175 00:07:19,517 --> 00:07:20,689 So... 176 00:07:20,689 --> 00:07:22,896 did you have another question? 177 00:07:22,896 --> 00:07:25,931 Well, I just wanna know if... 178 00:07:25,931 --> 00:07:29,620 I'm gonna find like romantic love and partnership. 179 00:07:29,620 --> 00:07:31,206 [Gina] Oh. 180 00:07:32,206 --> 00:07:34,724 Okay. Interesting. All right. Let's look at this. 181 00:07:34,724 --> 00:07:36,379 This particular card actually talks about 182 00:07:36,379 --> 00:07:38,586 that you're holding onto grief from something in the past. 183 00:07:38,586 --> 00:07:41,000 -Mmm-hmm. -[Gina] And when you are done 184 00:07:41,000 --> 00:07:44,172 -healing from that experience, right? -Mmm-hmm. 185 00:07:44,172 --> 00:07:46,172 You're gonna create the space 186 00:07:46,172 --> 00:07:48,586 that will allow you to attract what it is that you want. 187 00:07:48,586 --> 00:07:50,793 And let me tell you why this is really important. 188 00:07:50,793 --> 00:07:53,103 If you don't heal 189 00:07:53,103 --> 00:07:56,103 before you attract this new person in your life, 190 00:07:56,103 --> 00:07:59,000 whoever it is, is going to reflect 191 00:07:59,000 --> 00:08:02,000 your worst thoughts, ideas, and beliefs around yourself. 192 00:08:02,000 --> 00:08:04,586 -Okay. Don't want that. -[Gina] No, no, we don't want that. 193 00:08:04,586 --> 00:08:07,000 And so your homework is you have to flip the switch 194 00:08:07,000 --> 00:08:08,586 when you've gotten negative self-talk. 195 00:08:08,586 --> 00:08:09,931 -Yes. -[Gina] Okay? 196 00:08:09,931 --> 00:08:11,275 -Mmm-hmm. -So that you can attract 197 00:08:11,275 --> 00:08:13,517 -what it is that you desire. -Mmm-hmm. 198 00:08:13,517 --> 00:08:16,413 There's some opportunity around worth here, right? 199 00:08:16,413 --> 00:08:19,896 And so just know you can have whatever you want. 200 00:08:19,896 --> 00:08:21,827 You just have to believe you're worth it. 201 00:08:23,379 --> 00:08:25,000 I think Gina just dispensed 202 00:08:25,000 --> 00:08:27,310 some really valuable wisdom here. 203 00:08:27,310 --> 00:08:30,275 I mean, I've been through a lot in my life 204 00:08:30,275 --> 00:08:32,517 and I've been through a lot in relationships 205 00:08:32,517 --> 00:08:36,000 and I do think that I need to really make sure 206 00:08:36,000 --> 00:08:39,586 I've healed from that stuff because I can't think of anything 207 00:08:39,586 --> 00:08:42,000 less desirable than meeting a new partner 208 00:08:42,000 --> 00:08:45,137 and him reflecting my worst qualities back to me. 209 00:08:46,068 --> 00:08:47,931 -Are you ready? -[Tal] I think so. 210 00:08:47,931 --> 00:08:50,000 -Okay. -I had a question about returning 211 00:08:50,000 --> 00:08:52,000 -into something or someone. -[Gina] Mmm-hmm. 212 00:08:52,896 --> 00:08:54,413 [Tal] Concerning a relationship 213 00:08:54,413 --> 00:08:57,068 that I have felt very conflicted about. 214 00:08:57,068 --> 00:08:58,827 I've been in a really tumultuous 215 00:08:58,827 --> 00:09:00,275 on and off relationship 216 00:09:00,275 --> 00:09:02,310 for the last eight or nine months. 217 00:09:02,310 --> 00:09:05,724 And this person and I are not currently together. 218 00:09:06,275 --> 00:09:08,586 Oh, interesting. 219 00:09:08,586 --> 00:09:10,310 This is about planting seeds. 220 00:09:10,310 --> 00:09:12,931 So did you actually reach out to this person last week? 221 00:09:12,931 --> 00:09:15,655 -Yes. -[laughter] 222 00:09:15,896 --> 00:09:17,000 Yeah. 223 00:09:17,000 --> 00:09:18,931 That's here. [laughs] 224 00:09:18,931 --> 00:09:20,379 So this is spooky. 225 00:09:20,379 --> 00:09:22,827 I reached out to him 226 00:09:22,827 --> 00:09:24,379 because I still love him a lot, 227 00:09:24,379 --> 00:09:25,724 but there were indicators 228 00:09:25,724 --> 00:09:28,000 that this relationship is just not viable. 229 00:09:28,000 --> 00:09:29,689 So this temperance card is basically 230 00:09:29,689 --> 00:09:31,172 a card that talks about balance. 231 00:09:31,172 --> 00:09:32,931 So there's an opportunity for you to have balance 232 00:09:32,931 --> 00:09:34,482 between your light and your dark. 233 00:09:34,482 --> 00:09:35,896 You don't always have to be nice. 234 00:09:35,896 --> 00:09:37,379 You don't always have to be kind. 235 00:09:37,379 --> 00:09:38,586 Sometimes you just got to tell somebody, 236 00:09:38,586 --> 00:09:40,103 -"Back up, man." -[Tal] Mmm-hmm. 237 00:09:40,103 --> 00:09:42,172 Back up. And this is The Hierophant. 238 00:09:42,172 --> 00:09:44,000 So this is a card that talks about the way 239 00:09:44,000 --> 00:09:45,379 you've always done things. 240 00:09:45,379 --> 00:09:47,586 This card is reversed and so it's basically 241 00:09:47,586 --> 00:09:49,689 giving you an invitation to change things up. 242 00:09:49,689 --> 00:09:50,586 Yeah. 243 00:09:50,586 --> 00:09:53,103 I do believe a 100% 244 00:09:53,103 --> 00:09:55,482 that she is intuitive and she is sensing things 245 00:09:55,482 --> 00:09:57,172 about me that I have not told her. 246 00:09:57,172 --> 00:09:59,379 I definitely have more homework to do 247 00:09:59,379 --> 00:10:01,689 after this reading because I am fascinated 248 00:10:01,689 --> 00:10:03,275 by everything she's saying. 249 00:10:03,275 --> 00:10:05,482 That was wonderful. Thank you so much. 250 00:10:05,482 --> 00:10:07,275 -Thank you. I appreciate it. -Yeah, it was. Thank you. 251 00:10:07,275 --> 00:10:09,103 I am really grateful for this session. 252 00:10:09,103 --> 00:10:12,241 I think Gina told me a lot of things I needed to hear. 253 00:10:13,000 --> 00:10:15,000 I can't say that I immediately feel 254 00:10:15,000 --> 00:10:16,379 more connected to my mother, 255 00:10:16,379 --> 00:10:18,379 which is something I had hoped for, 256 00:10:18,379 --> 00:10:21,931 but you know, maybe the more work I do on myself, 257 00:10:21,931 --> 00:10:24,103 I will clear space 258 00:10:24,103 --> 00:10:26,310 to, like, be able to feel her. 259 00:10:26,310 --> 00:10:28,310 Um, even though she's not here. 260 00:10:30,103 --> 00:10:31,482 -[woman] Welcome to the Cat Lounge. -[Whitney] Thanks. 261 00:10:31,482 --> 00:10:32,793 Definitely, they're are all rescue cats 262 00:10:32,793 --> 00:10:34,103 and they are all up for adoption. 263 00:10:34,103 --> 00:10:35,586 That's the last thing you needed to tell me. 264 00:10:35,586 --> 00:10:37,310 -[woman laughs] -[Whitney] Oh, boy. 265 00:10:37,310 --> 00:10:38,793 [Tal] This one's cute. 266 00:10:38,793 --> 00:10:41,620 -Sweet. -This makes me want to adopt a cat. 267 00:10:42,793 --> 00:10:45,275 Well, this has just been the best afternoon. 268 00:10:45,275 --> 00:10:47,310 The sweet baby. 269 00:10:47,310 --> 00:10:49,689 -The sweet baby. -[woman] Hey, Tal. 270 00:10:49,689 --> 00:10:51,379 -Hey, Whitney. -Hey. 271 00:10:51,379 --> 00:10:53,586 So I'm Gianna, Gina's daughter, 272 00:10:53,586 --> 00:10:56,000 and I was there throughout the entire reading. 273 00:10:56,000 --> 00:10:59,172 And I just wanted to tell you that when my mom had tapped 274 00:10:59,172 --> 00:11:01,620 into you and was actually tapping into the energies 275 00:11:01,620 --> 00:11:03,931 around you, your mom showed up. 276 00:11:04,689 --> 00:11:07,517 She did say that she's always there. 277 00:11:07,517 --> 00:11:10,000 She's always with you. 278 00:11:10,000 --> 00:11:12,862 And basically all you have to do is turn around. 279 00:11:14,310 --> 00:11:17,517 [dramatic music playing] 280 00:11:18,413 --> 00:11:19,517 -Of course -Thank you. 281 00:11:19,517 --> 00:11:21,034 Of course. Yeah. 282 00:11:22,896 --> 00:11:24,275 [Whitney] It does mean a lot to me 283 00:11:24,275 --> 00:11:27,000 that Gina's daughter told me that. 284 00:11:27,620 --> 00:11:30,689 Because what it reminded me is that... 285 00:11:30,689 --> 00:11:34,482 my mom is still there for me 286 00:11:34,482 --> 00:11:36,275 because before she died, 287 00:11:36,275 --> 00:11:39,241 she told me that she would always try to be with me. 288 00:11:40,793 --> 00:11:44,172 And I can try to connect with her at any time, 289 00:11:44,172 --> 00:11:47,862 even though she's not here in the flesh. 290 00:11:49,724 --> 00:11:52,379 Whitney, if you need a sign that your mom was here, 291 00:11:52,379 --> 00:11:55,137 I think all these cats was enough of one. 292 00:11:55,827 --> 00:11:57,931 Right next to our psychic. 293 00:12:00,517 --> 00:12:02,586 There was a cat cafe right next door. 294 00:12:02,586 --> 00:12:04,896 -They're up for adoption. -I don't wanna hear any more 295 00:12:04,896 --> 00:12:06,034 about adopting a cat. 296 00:12:06,034 --> 00:12:07,689 Well, Dad, if I'm not gonna have kids, then I'm-- 297 00:12:07,689 --> 00:12:09,482 Well, how do you know you're not gonna have kids? 298 00:12:09,482 --> 00:12:11,275 You gotta work at finding a man. 299 00:12:11,275 --> 00:12:12,931 [Whitney] Do you think I wanna be single? 300 00:12:12,931 --> 00:12:15,689 I'm a childless woman in the midst of a midlife crisis. 301 00:12:15,689 --> 00:12:16,896 And I'm only making it a joke 302 00:12:16,896 --> 00:12:18,482 because if I don't laugh, I'll cry. 303 00:12:18,482 --> 00:12:20,034 [clears throat] 304 00:12:26,482 --> 00:12:29,241 [upbeat music playing] 305 00:12:31,000 --> 00:12:32,344 [Whitney] I wish... I wish you'd know 306 00:12:32,344 --> 00:12:33,793 when you came to Greensboro that I couldn't walk 307 00:12:33,793 --> 00:12:35,379 'cause I could have used your scooter. 308 00:12:35,379 --> 00:12:37,689 -[Buddy] Yeah. -Your little ankle scooter. 309 00:12:37,689 --> 00:12:39,241 -[Buddy] You all right? -[Whitney] Oh no, I'm fine. 310 00:12:39,241 --> 00:12:41,620 I just don't wanna walk on it 'cause it hurts. 311 00:12:42,758 --> 00:12:44,379 And I'm nervous that I'm gonna, like, 312 00:12:44,379 --> 00:12:45,586 step wrong and like 313 00:12:45,586 --> 00:12:47,586 -really do it in. -[Buddy] Right. 314 00:12:47,586 --> 00:12:49,068 [Whitney] And I was just walking out of my bathroom 315 00:12:49,068 --> 00:12:50,586 -and I just went... [makes sound] -Yeah. 316 00:12:50,586 --> 00:12:52,379 -For no reason. -Yeah, I walked down a curb. 317 00:12:52,379 --> 00:12:54,000 That's what happened to me, so. 318 00:12:54,000 --> 00:12:55,482 -Is this what happens-- -This is 40, dude. 319 00:12:55,482 --> 00:12:57,068 -[laughs] -This is it. 320 00:12:57,068 --> 00:12:59,172 That's what I'm saying, "Look at me. I'm backing up. 321 00:12:59,172 --> 00:13:00,965 I'm getting ready." I'm like, all right. 322 00:13:00,965 --> 00:13:02,241 You getting ready for the little bump? 323 00:13:02,241 --> 00:13:04,965 Here I go. [laughs] Ugh. 324 00:13:04,965 --> 00:13:06,689 As soon as my brother and I learned 325 00:13:06,689 --> 00:13:08,482 that my dad wanted to sell the house, 326 00:13:08,482 --> 00:13:10,482 we immediately tried to scheme ways 327 00:13:10,482 --> 00:13:13,172 to incentivize him to not do that. 328 00:13:13,172 --> 00:13:15,965 The solution is to reno the downstairs bedroom. 329 00:13:15,965 --> 00:13:17,965 -Are you Mike? -I'm Mike. You must be Whitney. 330 00:13:17,965 --> 00:13:20,275 -I'm Whitney. Nice to meet you. -Nice to meet you as well. 331 00:13:20,275 --> 00:13:22,689 [Whitney] My first step in doing that is to see 332 00:13:22,689 --> 00:13:25,862 some flooring and hopefully we are going to change 333 00:13:25,862 --> 00:13:28,689 this room into something that my dad will love. 334 00:13:28,689 --> 00:13:30,482 -Is he your design consultant? -[Whitney] No. 335 00:13:30,482 --> 00:13:32,275 Although, he's not bad, 336 00:13:32,275 --> 00:13:35,655 especially for a straight male. 337 00:13:35,655 --> 00:13:38,379 -[laughter] -Yeah, I hold it down. 338 00:13:38,379 --> 00:13:39,758 -Yeah, he does. -I hold it down. 339 00:13:39,758 --> 00:13:41,482 [Whitney] We've got a little bit of a remodel... 340 00:13:41,482 --> 00:13:42,551 -Sure. -in the works. 341 00:13:42,551 --> 00:13:45,000 It's for my dad's bedroom 342 00:13:45,000 --> 00:13:46,896 -with an attached bathroom. -Sure. Okay. 343 00:13:46,896 --> 00:13:48,586 Right now it's got some nasty carpet in there 344 00:13:48,586 --> 00:13:51,000 that's been in there for probably 30 years. 345 00:13:51,000 --> 00:13:53,448 -Time to go. -Absolutely. 346 00:13:53,448 --> 00:13:55,448 So I want some LVP. 347 00:13:55,448 --> 00:13:57,586 And can you put that over tile? 348 00:13:57,586 --> 00:14:00,068 We can. So there's some processes we can do to tile 349 00:14:00,068 --> 00:14:02,275 -that way the grout joints don't bleed through. -Right. 350 00:14:02,275 --> 00:14:05,000 So my ultimate fantasy in terms of the flooring 351 00:14:05,000 --> 00:14:07,103 is luxury vinyl plank flooring. 352 00:14:07,103 --> 00:14:08,896 And if that doesn't make me sound old as [bleep] 353 00:14:08,896 --> 00:14:10,241 I don't know what does. 354 00:14:10,241 --> 00:14:13,241 I am heading into my geriatric era 355 00:14:13,241 --> 00:14:15,793 a little faster than I wanted to. 356 00:14:15,793 --> 00:14:17,655 So this is actually a local company I work with. 357 00:14:17,655 --> 00:14:20,275 They have a ton of different options to choose from, 358 00:14:20,275 --> 00:14:21,793 all the way from your rustic 359 00:14:21,793 --> 00:14:23,586 kind of, farmhouse kind of a vibe. 360 00:14:23,586 --> 00:14:25,379 To be honest with you, I don't... I don't like farmhouse. 361 00:14:25,379 --> 00:14:26,793 I don't like rustic. I don't like chickens. 362 00:14:26,793 --> 00:14:29,344 If I go my way, 363 00:14:29,344 --> 00:14:30,655 it's that one right there. 364 00:14:30,655 --> 00:14:32,482 -This one on top? -[Whitney] Yeah. 365 00:14:32,482 --> 00:14:35,068 But if we go dad's way, what could it be? 366 00:14:35,068 --> 00:14:38,448 Ultimately, this is a Glenn Thore renovation, 367 00:14:38,448 --> 00:14:42,793 so I have to kind of keep his tastes in mind 368 00:14:42,793 --> 00:14:44,275 because I know we have different tastes. 369 00:14:44,275 --> 00:14:45,758 But that's why I have Buddy here 370 00:14:45,758 --> 00:14:48,586 because he can give a little insight here or there 371 00:14:48,586 --> 00:14:50,862 onto what a man would like. 372 00:14:50,862 --> 00:14:53,482 And if you want it, 'cause it is gonna be butting up. 373 00:14:53,482 --> 00:14:55,758 -Oh. -Right there at the bathroom. 374 00:14:55,758 --> 00:14:58,068 -Now-- -The black one would work as well. 375 00:14:58,068 --> 00:14:59,482 [Buddy] Yeah, I'll walk all over that. 376 00:14:59,482 --> 00:15:00,655 [Whitney] Okay. Let me see with the black. 377 00:15:00,655 --> 00:15:01,586 [Mike] All right. 378 00:15:03,172 --> 00:15:05,137 Ooh. But I like that too. 379 00:15:05,137 --> 00:15:06,862 Maybe the black is better. 380 00:15:06,862 --> 00:15:08,137 I'd say let's go with black. 381 00:15:08,137 --> 00:15:09,655 -Let's do it. -[Mike] Excellent. 382 00:15:09,655 --> 00:15:11,448 Do you have like a recommendation 383 00:15:11,448 --> 00:15:13,275 for like a painter? 384 00:15:13,275 --> 00:15:14,689 Absolutely. Yeah. I use... 385 00:15:14,689 --> 00:15:16,034 He's the best painter in town right now. 386 00:15:16,034 --> 00:15:18,551 His company's called 50 Shades of Gray. 387 00:15:18,551 --> 00:15:20,448 -Love it. -His name's Gray. 388 00:15:20,448 --> 00:15:22,379 -So he does a phenomenal job, so-- -[Whitney] Oh, perfect. 389 00:15:22,379 --> 00:15:24,482 Okay. We can get the ball rolling. 390 00:15:24,482 --> 00:15:26,000 Do you wanna do next week? 391 00:15:26,000 --> 00:15:28,344 Oh, perfect. Yeah, as soon as possible would be great. 392 00:15:28,344 --> 00:15:30,482 All right. I will see you guys there. 393 00:15:30,482 --> 00:15:31,689 -Perfect. Thank you, Mike. -All right. 394 00:15:31,689 --> 00:15:32,758 It's been a pleasure doing business. 395 00:15:32,758 --> 00:15:34,586 -It's a pleasure. -Yeah. 396 00:15:34,586 --> 00:15:36,965 [sighs] I'm thankful that one thing 397 00:15:36,965 --> 00:15:38,586 for this renovation is done, 398 00:15:38,586 --> 00:15:40,103 but there are a million more things to do 399 00:15:40,103 --> 00:15:42,172 and the more and more I think about it, I'm like, 400 00:15:42,172 --> 00:15:44,896 "How am I going to do this in a timely manner 401 00:15:44,896 --> 00:15:46,448 where my dad doesn't get suspicious?" Like, 402 00:15:46,448 --> 00:15:51,275 I may have bitten off way more than I can chew. 403 00:15:51,275 --> 00:15:53,068 Oh, if you got anybody on the crew, 404 00:15:53,068 --> 00:15:55,172 you know, they're single, whatever? 405 00:15:55,172 --> 00:15:56,655 -Oh. -Attractive? 406 00:15:56,655 --> 00:15:57,896 -I'll send them your way. -[Whitney] Send them my way. 407 00:15:57,896 --> 00:15:59,034 -You got it. -[Whitney] Bye. 408 00:15:59,034 --> 00:16:00,379 Bye. 409 00:16:00,379 --> 00:16:01,896 [grunts] 410 00:16:01,896 --> 00:16:04,896 [upbeat music playing] 411 00:16:10,137 --> 00:16:12,172 [Glenn] Are we gonna do some bike work? 412 00:16:12,172 --> 00:16:13,689 [Whitney] I have not been on one of these 413 00:16:13,689 --> 00:16:15,827 and I couldn't tell you when. 414 00:16:16,896 --> 00:16:20,034 I woke up today with my ankle feeling much better, 415 00:16:20,034 --> 00:16:22,275 which is great news. And I wanted to get in the gym 416 00:16:22,275 --> 00:16:24,172 and do something because I haven't been able 417 00:16:24,172 --> 00:16:26,586 to put much weight on it. So I'm bringing my dad with me 418 00:16:26,586 --> 00:16:30,103 because between my ankle, and his hip, and his knee, 419 00:16:30,103 --> 00:16:33,000 and his everything else, we got some work to do. 420 00:16:33,862 --> 00:16:36,620 Ah, I don't know if this is right. 421 00:16:38,793 --> 00:16:39,793 Let me go back some more. 422 00:16:39,793 --> 00:16:43,000 [whimsical music playing] 423 00:16:47,034 --> 00:16:49,137 Oh no, that's too much. Now I can't reach. 424 00:16:49,758 --> 00:16:51,482 Damn. I've already done 'em. 425 00:17:00,172 --> 00:17:01,517 Huh-huh. 426 00:17:04,103 --> 00:17:06,896 [sighs] They got the air on here? 427 00:17:06,896 --> 00:17:08,964 Tell me about your visit to the psychic. 428 00:17:08,964 --> 00:17:11,378 She was really nice and... 429 00:17:11,378 --> 00:17:15,482 I liked her and she dispensed some wisdom. 430 00:17:15,482 --> 00:17:17,172 One of the upsides of the psychic 431 00:17:17,172 --> 00:17:19,550 was that there was a cat cafe right next door. 432 00:17:19,550 --> 00:17:22,378 -They're up for adoption. -[scoffs] 433 00:17:22,378 --> 00:17:24,172 -What? -[Glenn] You can't have another cat. 434 00:17:24,172 --> 00:17:25,344 Who says? 435 00:17:25,344 --> 00:17:27,310 I don't wanna hear any more about it. 436 00:17:27,862 --> 00:17:28,758 About what? 437 00:17:28,758 --> 00:17:31,241 About adopting a cat. 438 00:17:31,241 --> 00:17:32,689 Well, Dad, if I'm not gonna have kids 439 00:17:32,689 --> 00:17:35,103 then I have all the time 440 00:17:35,103 --> 00:17:38,482 and effort and resources to pour into something else. 441 00:17:38,482 --> 00:17:40,379 Well, how do you know you're not gonna have kids? 442 00:17:40,379 --> 00:17:41,793 Do you know how kids are made? 443 00:17:42,172 --> 00:17:43,965 Usually... 444 00:17:43,965 --> 00:17:45,448 someone's gotta put the pizza in the oven. 445 00:17:45,448 --> 00:17:46,586 You know what I mean? 446 00:17:46,586 --> 00:17:47,862 [clears throat] 447 00:17:47,862 --> 00:17:49,137 I'm a childless woman 448 00:17:49,137 --> 00:17:50,758 in the midst of a midlife crisis. 449 00:17:50,758 --> 00:17:52,000 And I'm only making it a joke 450 00:17:52,000 --> 00:17:53,551 because if I don't laugh, I'll cry. 451 00:17:53,551 --> 00:17:56,137 -[laughs] -Do you think I wanna be single? 452 00:17:56,137 --> 00:17:58,137 -[Glenn] No. -You don't think I would love 453 00:17:58,137 --> 00:18:00,862 to be putting these ovaries to use? 454 00:18:00,862 --> 00:18:02,896 We can cut out the middle part here. 455 00:18:02,896 --> 00:18:04,586 I just want a grandchild. 456 00:18:06,275 --> 00:18:08,517 A human grandchild. 457 00:18:10,068 --> 00:18:12,482 It is unnerving to talk 458 00:18:12,482 --> 00:18:14,344 about a grandchild with my dad. 459 00:18:14,344 --> 00:18:15,551 It's certainly not the first time 460 00:18:15,551 --> 00:18:17,103 that we've had this conversation. 461 00:18:17,103 --> 00:18:20,793 You know, it's like, "Dad, I want this too." 462 00:18:20,793 --> 00:18:23,068 Well, I wanna know this. If you are so concerned, 463 00:18:23,068 --> 00:18:25,689 what is the hard work that you are doing 464 00:18:25,689 --> 00:18:27,000 into finding me a man? 465 00:18:27,000 --> 00:18:29,758 Well, you need to start going out more 466 00:18:29,758 --> 00:18:32,586 and you could go with me to some of the places I go to 467 00:18:32,586 --> 00:18:35,379 because, for instance, 468 00:18:35,379 --> 00:18:37,862 that basketball game I went to the other night, 469 00:18:37,862 --> 00:18:41,689 there was a lot of young men roaming around. 470 00:18:41,689 --> 00:18:43,586 And if you don't get involved like that 471 00:18:43,586 --> 00:18:45,379 then you're not gonna meet any. 472 00:18:45,379 --> 00:18:47,000 Oh, my God. 473 00:18:47,000 --> 00:18:48,655 I don't like basketball, Daddy. 474 00:18:48,655 --> 00:18:50,172 Well... 475 00:18:50,793 --> 00:18:53,137 you gotta work at finding a man. 476 00:18:53,965 --> 00:18:56,379 Well, this is not helping my hip at all. 477 00:18:56,379 --> 00:18:57,896 Here. You know what you should do for your hip? 478 00:18:57,896 --> 00:19:00,103 Do this. Take your one leg, 479 00:19:00,103 --> 00:19:02,586 turn it... And turn your foot out like that, 480 00:19:02,586 --> 00:19:04,862 and you're gonna wanna come forward on it. 481 00:19:04,862 --> 00:19:06,241 And you want that knee to be down. 482 00:19:06,241 --> 00:19:07,793 See how high up your knee is? 483 00:19:07,793 --> 00:19:10,000 That whole... This whole side's bad. 484 00:19:10,000 --> 00:19:12,793 Here. No, you stay straight. Your body stays straight. 485 00:19:15,586 --> 00:19:17,103 Okay. That's... 486 00:19:17,862 --> 00:19:19,275 We didn't do... We didn't go nowhere. 487 00:19:19,275 --> 00:19:21,137 -[laughs] Well. -Okay. 488 00:19:21,137 --> 00:19:23,482 I think you're gonna need a professional, Daddy. 489 00:19:23,482 --> 00:19:25,551 -A professional what? -Stretcher. 490 00:19:25,551 --> 00:19:27,068 Are there professional stretchers? 491 00:19:27,068 --> 00:19:28,586 There are. Yeah. 492 00:19:28,586 --> 00:19:30,482 And I can book us one 'cause you're too young 493 00:19:30,482 --> 00:19:33,137 at heart to be this old in your leg. 494 00:19:34,103 --> 00:19:36,482 As a woman who has been fat for a long time, 495 00:19:36,482 --> 00:19:39,068 I know the benefits of having someone else 496 00:19:39,068 --> 00:19:41,482 stretch you to push you past your limits 497 00:19:41,482 --> 00:19:43,482 and also just to help you where, like, 498 00:19:43,482 --> 00:19:45,172 your body, you know, 499 00:19:45,172 --> 00:19:46,551 puts up a little roadblock. 500 00:19:46,551 --> 00:19:49,000 So I think to get stretched out 501 00:19:49,000 --> 00:19:50,896 by a professional for me and dad 502 00:19:50,896 --> 00:19:53,137 is absolutely necessary. 503 00:19:53,137 --> 00:19:54,344 I didn't know if I was gonna mention it 504 00:19:54,344 --> 00:19:56,275 just 'cause I wasn't sure. 505 00:19:56,275 --> 00:19:57,586 You know, I don't know. 506 00:19:57,586 --> 00:19:59,655 But, you know, Gina didn't really say anything 507 00:19:59,655 --> 00:20:01,344 about mom in my reading, 508 00:20:01,344 --> 00:20:04,137 but there had been another young woman in there 509 00:20:04,137 --> 00:20:06,068 during the reading and I wasn't sure who she was. 510 00:20:06,068 --> 00:20:07,758 She came in and she said, you know, 511 00:20:07,758 --> 00:20:09,344 "I'm Gina's daughter 512 00:20:09,344 --> 00:20:12,275 and she said I'm a medium." 513 00:20:12,275 --> 00:20:15,000 And she said, "I just wanted you to know 514 00:20:15,000 --> 00:20:17,620 that your mom was with you the whole time." 515 00:20:18,000 --> 00:20:19,586 Mmm-hmm. 516 00:20:19,586 --> 00:20:21,655 [Whitney] And she said she's always with you. 517 00:20:21,655 --> 00:20:23,482 You just have to turn around. 518 00:20:23,482 --> 00:20:24,620 [Glenn] Huh? 519 00:20:25,448 --> 00:20:27,896 I went by and saw her last night. 520 00:20:27,896 --> 00:20:29,586 I kind of catch her up on what's going on. 521 00:20:29,586 --> 00:20:31,379 I have a nice conversation. 522 00:20:32,068 --> 00:20:33,931 Do you feel like she... 523 00:20:35,000 --> 00:20:36,103 listens? 524 00:20:36,103 --> 00:20:37,344 Do you feel like she ever says 525 00:20:37,344 --> 00:20:39,172 anything back to you? 526 00:20:39,172 --> 00:20:41,689 Well, I think she listens as much as she ever did. 527 00:20:41,689 --> 00:20:43,862 [laughs] 528 00:20:43,862 --> 00:20:46,827 -True. -[laughs] 529 00:20:49,379 --> 00:20:51,103 You think that was the funniest thing you've ever said? 530 00:20:51,103 --> 00:20:53,275 -Don't you? -[laughter] 531 00:20:59,068 --> 00:21:00,137 [Tal] Welcome. 532 00:21:02,448 --> 00:21:03,689 We've got the sage going? 533 00:21:03,689 --> 00:21:05,793 I have a whole ritual prepared. 534 00:21:05,793 --> 00:21:08,000 We're doing a sexual energy cleanse. 535 00:21:08,862 --> 00:21:11,000 [Whitney] What the [bleep], Tal? 536 00:21:15,000 --> 00:21:17,413 [upbeat music playing] 537 00:21:23,103 --> 00:21:24,241 [Tal] Hey, what are you doing? 538 00:21:24,241 --> 00:21:26,344 [Whitney] I'm just driving out from therapy. 539 00:21:26,344 --> 00:21:27,758 I gotta stop home and let Goosey out 540 00:21:27,758 --> 00:21:29,482 and then I'm gonna head over to your place. 541 00:21:29,482 --> 00:21:32,689 I'm actually already at your house. 542 00:21:32,689 --> 00:21:34,482 Todd, let me in. 543 00:21:34,482 --> 00:21:36,758 Would it be cool if we hung out here tonight instead? 544 00:21:36,758 --> 00:21:38,551 [Whitney] That's fine. 545 00:21:38,551 --> 00:21:40,379 Yeah. I mean I can just send a text, I guess, 546 00:21:40,379 --> 00:21:41,413 and let everybody know. 547 00:21:41,413 --> 00:21:42,793 I actually already let everybody know. 548 00:21:42,793 --> 00:21:43,931 I had a really busy week 549 00:21:43,931 --> 00:21:45,344 and I wasn't able to get my house together in time. 550 00:21:45,344 --> 00:21:46,482 I'm so sorry. 551 00:21:46,482 --> 00:21:47,379 [Whitney] Well, okay. I'll be there 552 00:21:47,379 --> 00:21:48,586 in like literally two minutes. 553 00:21:48,586 --> 00:21:49,793 Okay. I also have a little surprise. 554 00:21:49,793 --> 00:21:52,103 So come through the front door when you get here, okay? 555 00:21:52,103 --> 00:21:54,344 -[Whitney laughs] Okay. Bye. -All right, bye. 556 00:21:54,344 --> 00:21:58,448 I was super inspired by our experience with Gina 557 00:21:58,448 --> 00:22:01,551 and I thought, why not continue the work 558 00:22:01,551 --> 00:22:05,206 that we started in Charlotte right here in her living room? 559 00:22:06,862 --> 00:22:08,965 We were originally gonna hang out at my house tonight. 560 00:22:08,965 --> 00:22:11,103 And some folks in the friend group 561 00:22:11,103 --> 00:22:12,206 haven't seen my house yet 562 00:22:12,206 --> 00:22:13,896 and they were really excited about coming over. 563 00:22:13,896 --> 00:22:16,034 But this is more important. 564 00:22:16,034 --> 00:22:18,586 Whitney's house is much larger than mine. 565 00:22:18,586 --> 00:22:21,275 She is a gracious, accommodating host, 566 00:22:21,275 --> 00:22:24,034 and once the shock wears off, 567 00:22:24,034 --> 00:22:26,517 she is gonna be so down. 568 00:22:28,482 --> 00:22:29,724 Welcome. 569 00:22:33,068 --> 00:22:34,896 We got the sage going. 570 00:22:34,896 --> 00:22:37,000 I have a whole ritual prepared. 571 00:22:37,000 --> 00:22:39,000 We're doing a sexual energy cleanse. 572 00:22:39,000 --> 00:22:40,482 What the [bleep], Tal? 573 00:22:40,482 --> 00:22:41,379 [Tal] Just wait. 574 00:22:41,379 --> 00:22:43,620 We're doing homework like Gina said. 575 00:22:43,965 --> 00:22:45,379 No, don't look yet. 576 00:22:45,379 --> 00:22:46,896 Oh, I see it. 577 00:22:49,034 --> 00:22:50,793 How did you get that in the house? 578 00:22:50,793 --> 00:22:52,482 I got it in with Todd's help. 579 00:22:52,482 --> 00:22:54,241 -Ah. -Oh, don't worry about it. 580 00:22:54,241 --> 00:22:55,379 Don't worry about it. 581 00:22:55,379 --> 00:22:58,275 Ah, you let him do this without asking me. 582 00:22:58,275 --> 00:23:00,000 You're supposed to be in charge with households. 583 00:23:00,000 --> 00:23:01,586 Just let me show you. 584 00:23:01,586 --> 00:23:04,172 I think I would rather see Tal naked, 585 00:23:04,172 --> 00:23:05,896 which I have many times 586 00:23:05,896 --> 00:23:09,137 than see him wearing this cobalt blue 587 00:23:09,137 --> 00:23:11,000 banana hammock thing. 588 00:23:11,000 --> 00:23:13,896 Like, it's actually worse. 589 00:23:13,896 --> 00:23:15,413 He was just naked. 590 00:23:16,896 --> 00:23:19,379 I will say that the blossoms are beautiful. 591 00:23:19,379 --> 00:23:20,551 [Whitney] The flowers are pretty. 592 00:23:20,551 --> 00:23:22,344 [Todd] I should just sit here and hold the towels. 593 00:23:22,344 --> 00:23:23,896 I knew Tal was really into the psychic. 594 00:23:23,896 --> 00:23:25,379 But this is... 595 00:23:25,379 --> 00:23:28,275 This is a sexual energy cleanse 596 00:23:28,275 --> 00:23:31,275 because you can hold on to toxic sexual energy 597 00:23:31,275 --> 00:23:34,379 for seven to 30 years. 598 00:23:34,379 --> 00:23:37,448 These are rituals that will help us release 599 00:23:37,448 --> 00:23:40,000 what we need to let go of and invite in 600 00:23:40,000 --> 00:23:41,551 what we want to have more of. 601 00:23:41,551 --> 00:23:43,724 I need you to undress to your comfort. 602 00:23:44,862 --> 00:23:47,034 I don't want to attribute any of this to Gina 603 00:23:47,034 --> 00:23:48,655 because this was all my own doing 604 00:23:48,655 --> 00:23:50,689 that was just inspired by Gina. 605 00:23:50,689 --> 00:23:54,000 This is going to be a sexual energetic cleanse 606 00:23:54,000 --> 00:23:56,275 because I read that you can hold on 607 00:23:56,275 --> 00:24:00,379 to toxic sexual energy for seven to 30 years. 608 00:24:00,379 --> 00:24:02,103 And Gina said that Whitney has some things 609 00:24:02,103 --> 00:24:03,551 from the past to let go of. 610 00:24:03,551 --> 00:24:05,586 So I have gathered my ingredients 611 00:24:05,586 --> 00:24:08,586 and they all have their own function 612 00:24:08,586 --> 00:24:10,655 for what they are going to help us out with 613 00:24:10,655 --> 00:24:11,931 in the process. 614 00:24:12,482 --> 00:24:14,137 [gasps] That's freezing. 615 00:24:14,137 --> 00:24:15,793 It's not freezing. It's room temp. 616 00:24:15,793 --> 00:24:17,517 -That's not room temp. -[Tal] It is room temp. 617 00:24:17,862 --> 00:24:19,275 This is freezing. 618 00:24:19,275 --> 00:24:20,689 Why are we doing this? 619 00:24:20,689 --> 00:24:21,896 [Tal] Okay. 620 00:24:21,896 --> 00:24:24,000 So we start with basil. 621 00:24:24,000 --> 00:24:25,344 Do you know what the basil is for? 622 00:24:25,344 --> 00:24:26,586 -No, I do not. -[Todd] Tomato sauce? 623 00:24:26,586 --> 00:24:28,758 -[Tal] Emotional balance. -Okay. 624 00:24:28,758 --> 00:24:30,379 This is freezing. 625 00:24:33,068 --> 00:24:34,689 [Whitney] Gina advised me 626 00:24:34,689 --> 00:24:37,586 to let go of the trauma of my past relationships 627 00:24:37,586 --> 00:24:40,379 and I was hoping to do that via therapy, 628 00:24:40,379 --> 00:24:43,172 maybe positive affirmations, learning some mantras, 629 00:24:43,172 --> 00:24:44,448 some sensible chanting. 630 00:24:44,448 --> 00:24:46,896 But I don't even know what this is. 631 00:24:46,896 --> 00:24:50,000 So at this point, I will probably die 632 00:24:50,000 --> 00:24:52,172 from inhalation of toxic chemicals 633 00:24:52,172 --> 00:24:56,206 or hypothermia before I ever even get back to therapy. 634 00:24:56,689 --> 00:24:58,068 It's gonna make me pee. 635 00:24:58,068 --> 00:24:59,551 I'm not gonna do... 636 00:24:59,551 --> 00:25:01,172 No, no, no. I'm not gonna do it on purpose. 637 00:25:01,172 --> 00:25:03,344 This is about releasing dark energy, 638 00:25:03,344 --> 00:25:04,689 not about releasing urine. 639 00:25:04,689 --> 00:25:06,482 -But when you-- -Please contain yourself. 640 00:25:06,482 --> 00:25:09,000 My body is conditioned even when I hit... 641 00:25:09,000 --> 00:25:10,379 When the shower water hits me. 642 00:25:10,379 --> 00:25:11,758 You know this about me. 643 00:25:11,758 --> 00:25:13,793 And yet I brought this pool into your living room. 644 00:25:13,793 --> 00:25:15,344 -[Whitney] Exactly. -[Tal] Okay. 645 00:25:15,344 --> 00:25:18,655 Rosemary is for releasing dark energy. 646 00:25:18,655 --> 00:25:22,896 So whatever that energy is that's been keeping you stuck, 647 00:25:22,896 --> 00:25:25,000 we are letting that go. 648 00:25:25,000 --> 00:25:27,241 [Whitney] And the salt's just for what? The cleansing? 649 00:25:27,241 --> 00:25:29,068 -[Tal] Just general cleansing. -Sprinkle some salt on me. 650 00:25:29,068 --> 00:25:31,206 [Todd] One thing that you are already, salty enough. 651 00:25:32,000 --> 00:25:35,241 Breathe in the beautiful aromas 652 00:25:35,241 --> 00:25:38,275 of the herbs and the blossoms. 653 00:25:38,275 --> 00:25:42,413 Breathe out toxic dating app. 654 00:25:46,586 --> 00:25:47,896 [Whitney] Of lovers' past. 655 00:25:47,896 --> 00:25:50,551 And ghosts of potential lovers who... 656 00:25:50,551 --> 00:25:52,275 -That never were. -[Todd laughs] 657 00:25:52,275 --> 00:25:54,103 leave you high and dry. 658 00:25:54,103 --> 00:25:55,517 Now you're low and wet. 659 00:25:56,551 --> 00:26:00,068 [Tal] The black walnuts are for cleansing the womb. 660 00:26:00,068 --> 00:26:01,103 -[Todd] Oh. -[Whitney] Put 'em in. 661 00:26:01,103 --> 00:26:02,172 [Todd] So, put them right in the cross hole. 662 00:26:02,172 --> 00:26:03,482 [Whitney laughs] 663 00:26:03,482 --> 00:26:07,689 The final phase of the ritual experience. 664 00:26:08,482 --> 00:26:09,586 Yeah. 665 00:26:09,586 --> 00:26:10,965 I got it out of your bag. 666 00:26:10,965 --> 00:26:12,137 Love oil? 667 00:26:12,137 --> 00:26:14,344 Yeah. To open the heart chakra. 668 00:26:14,344 --> 00:26:15,758 [Whitney] How much are you supposed to use? 669 00:26:15,758 --> 00:26:16,758 [Tal] Just a little bit. 670 00:26:16,758 --> 00:26:18,896 Let's open it wide up. 671 00:26:18,896 --> 00:26:20,000 -[Jessica] Hello? -Who's here? 672 00:26:20,000 --> 00:26:21,586 -Oh, God. -[Whitney] Oh. 673 00:26:23,965 --> 00:26:25,206 What is happening? 674 00:26:26,275 --> 00:26:28,000 -We're doing a ritual. -What? 675 00:26:28,689 --> 00:26:29,655 [laughs] 676 00:26:29,655 --> 00:26:32,241 This doesn't look like anything good. 677 00:26:33,137 --> 00:26:34,482 [Isaiah] Are we at the right spot? 678 00:26:35,241 --> 00:26:37,241 What is that smell? 679 00:26:37,241 --> 00:26:38,551 [Tal speaking] 680 00:26:38,551 --> 00:26:39,793 Okay. Um... 681 00:26:39,793 --> 00:26:40,896 We went to a psychic 682 00:26:40,896 --> 00:26:43,551 and she had given us some instructions. 683 00:26:43,551 --> 00:26:44,620 [Jessica] Okay. 684 00:26:44,620 --> 00:26:46,000 [Tal] So, this is a sexual energy cleansing. 685 00:26:46,000 --> 00:26:47,379 Come put your hand in this water. 686 00:26:47,379 --> 00:26:48,896 -[Isaiah] Oh, walnuts? -Sexual energy cleansing? 687 00:26:48,896 --> 00:26:49,896 [Whitney] Touch how cold this water is. 688 00:26:49,896 --> 00:26:51,172 But why are you in there together? 689 00:26:51,172 --> 00:26:53,586 [laughter] 690 00:26:53,586 --> 00:26:55,379 He had to put walnuts in my womb. 691 00:26:55,379 --> 00:26:57,137 -[laughs] -[Jessica] What? 692 00:26:57,137 --> 00:26:58,241 I'm leaving. 693 00:26:58,241 --> 00:26:58,965 Bye. 694 00:26:58,965 --> 00:27:01,172 -No, no, no! -No, no, no. 695 00:27:01,172 --> 00:27:04,655 [Jessica speaking] 696 00:27:04,655 --> 00:27:07,793 I'm not really sure what the [bleep] we just walked into. 697 00:27:07,793 --> 00:27:09,896 There's like a lot of smells going on. 698 00:27:09,896 --> 00:27:12,482 I've never experienced a sexual ritual, 699 00:27:12,482 --> 00:27:15,137 but watching this now definitely makes me think 700 00:27:15,137 --> 00:27:17,000 that I certainly don't want one. 701 00:27:17,965 --> 00:27:20,758 I don't know what I just saw. 702 00:27:20,758 --> 00:27:22,931 [laughter] 703 00:27:23,689 --> 00:27:24,965 What if this really works? 704 00:27:24,965 --> 00:27:26,275 What did you mean if it really works? 705 00:27:26,275 --> 00:27:28,172 Why did we do it if you did not feel confident? 706 00:27:28,172 --> 00:27:29,172 -Oh, I believe in it. -[Whitney] Okay. 707 00:27:29,172 --> 00:27:30,275 I do. 708 00:27:30,275 --> 00:27:31,448 Oh, my God. 709 00:27:31,448 --> 00:27:35,034 Personally, I'm not sure I feel a whole lot different 710 00:27:35,034 --> 00:27:37,448 than I did when I first stepped into the tub. 711 00:27:37,448 --> 00:27:40,793 However, I don't know, maybe I have not given the oils, 712 00:27:40,793 --> 00:27:42,379 herbs, and walnuts enough time 713 00:27:42,379 --> 00:27:44,551 to deeply penetrate the epidermis. 714 00:27:44,551 --> 00:27:46,896 So I think if I just wait, 715 00:27:46,896 --> 00:27:49,586 I might see what's been marinating. 716 00:27:49,586 --> 00:27:52,103 And hopefully, once it's done, 717 00:27:52,103 --> 00:27:53,379 I will feel better 718 00:27:53,379 --> 00:27:55,068 whether I'm single or whether I'm partnered, 719 00:27:55,068 --> 00:27:57,379 but hopefully, I can clear that space 720 00:27:57,379 --> 00:27:59,793 to invite new energy into my life. 721 00:27:59,793 --> 00:28:01,103 [Tal] That was fun. I love you. 722 00:28:01,103 --> 00:28:03,862 It was very fun. I will meet you back shortly. 723 00:28:03,862 --> 00:28:04,896 All right. 724 00:28:07,379 --> 00:28:10,379 Is there something about me that is so wrong 725 00:28:10,379 --> 00:28:12,379 that people won't even give me a first date? 726 00:28:12,379 --> 00:28:14,137 It's not wrong, but you're intimidating. 727 00:28:14,137 --> 00:28:15,241 Why am I intimidating? 728 00:28:15,241 --> 00:28:16,689 'Cause I'm a fat, 'cause I'm a heavyset lady? 729 00:28:16,689 --> 00:28:18,448 [Lennie] I mean, there's nothing wrong with you. 730 00:28:18,448 --> 00:28:19,793 You're definitely better now 731 00:28:19,793 --> 00:28:21,793 than what you were before, I'm assuming. 732 00:28:21,793 --> 00:28:24,000 You don't have any constructive criticism? 733 00:28:24,000 --> 00:28:27,379 [Lennie] Whitney is expecting some perfect love connection. 734 00:28:27,379 --> 00:28:28,827 She kinda needs to grow up. 735 00:28:36,862 --> 00:28:39,103 [upbeat music playing] 736 00:28:43,000 --> 00:28:46,000 [Jessica] Look at Ollie still hanging out up there. 737 00:28:46,000 --> 00:28:47,275 Do you know why? 'Cause the food is right there. 738 00:28:47,275 --> 00:28:49,000 -The food. -You know what's hilarious? 739 00:28:49,000 --> 00:28:50,310 -Oh, hi, guys. -[Tal] Hi. 740 00:28:50,310 --> 00:28:51,275 [Whitney] Nobody else is here, right? 741 00:28:51,275 --> 00:28:52,724 Okay. I can say this in front of y'all. 742 00:28:52,724 --> 00:28:55,379 So literally we just did the womb cleansing, 743 00:28:55,379 --> 00:28:56,448 guess what just happened to me? 744 00:28:56,448 --> 00:28:57,862 -[Jessica] What? -I just got my period. 745 00:28:57,862 --> 00:28:58,758 -[Jessica] Oh, did you really? -Yeah. 746 00:28:58,758 --> 00:28:59,724 You have to start all over. 747 00:28:59,724 --> 00:29:00,758 [Jessica] Is that supposed to do that? 748 00:29:00,758 --> 00:29:02,689 [laughs] I think it... I think it was... 749 00:29:02,689 --> 00:29:04,137 So you guys are gonna start holding clinics 750 00:29:04,137 --> 00:29:05,206 here in the living room now? 751 00:29:05,206 --> 00:29:07,034 [Tal] I invite all of you to undress 752 00:29:07,034 --> 00:29:08,034 and step into the living room. 753 00:29:08,034 --> 00:29:09,103 I bet you do, Tal. 754 00:29:09,103 --> 00:29:10,000 [laughter] 755 00:29:10,000 --> 00:29:11,482 [Todd] Why does that happen to me? 756 00:29:11,482 --> 00:29:13,000 Every time I go somewhere, that's what people say. 757 00:29:13,000 --> 00:29:14,896 -Hey. -[Jessica] What's up, guys? 758 00:29:14,896 --> 00:29:17,241 -Ah! -Hey. 759 00:29:17,241 --> 00:29:19,827 I just spilled mozzarella water all over my arm. 760 00:29:19,827 --> 00:29:21,206 -Ooh, can I have one? -That is a lot. 761 00:29:21,206 --> 00:29:23,034 -Yes, I love mozzarella water. -Courtney. 762 00:29:23,034 --> 00:29:25,965 I have no idea what is going on tonight. 763 00:29:25,965 --> 00:29:28,103 Obviously, I didn't plan any of these activities. 764 00:29:28,103 --> 00:29:29,827 But I'm really okay, I think, 765 00:29:29,827 --> 00:29:32,103 with seeing where the night takes us. 766 00:29:32,103 --> 00:29:33,482 It's already started off pretty strange. 767 00:29:33,482 --> 00:29:37,379 I just don't wanna get wet anymore. 768 00:29:39,068 --> 00:29:40,827 Thank you for being flexible and coming here 769 00:29:40,827 --> 00:29:42,172 instead of my house 770 00:29:42,172 --> 00:29:44,931 'cause we just did a very important cleansing ritual 771 00:29:44,931 --> 00:29:46,275 in the living room in a kiddie pool. 772 00:29:46,275 --> 00:29:47,586 -Y'all go ahead and-- -So that's why we're here. 773 00:29:47,586 --> 00:29:48,482 Y'all go ahead and... Seriously. 774 00:29:48,482 --> 00:29:49,793 Go ahead and look in the living room 775 00:29:49,793 --> 00:29:50,931 and see what we just did. 776 00:29:50,931 --> 00:29:52,206 [Jessica] You can probably still smell the incense. 777 00:29:52,206 --> 00:29:54,517 This is what I just came home to with Tal in a G-string. 778 00:29:54,517 --> 00:29:56,586 [Tal] I'm gonna show everyone what I've done. 779 00:29:57,517 --> 00:29:58,655 [Buddy] What were you guys doing? 780 00:29:58,655 --> 00:29:59,586 [woman laughs] 781 00:29:59,586 --> 00:30:03,310 A whole sexual energy cleanse. 782 00:30:03,310 --> 00:30:04,482 [Buddy] Go on. 783 00:30:04,482 --> 00:30:07,413 Just, like, letting go of all dark energy. 784 00:30:08,689 --> 00:30:12,275 I've never heard of a sexual energy cleanse 785 00:30:12,275 --> 00:30:14,241 but now that Whitney has one of these in her house, 786 00:30:14,241 --> 00:30:15,517 she should leave it here, 787 00:30:15,517 --> 00:30:17,827 you know, maybe use it once a week or so. 788 00:30:18,103 --> 00:30:19,206 [laughs] 789 00:30:19,827 --> 00:30:21,413 [Whitney] Sweet girl. 790 00:30:21,413 --> 00:30:22,689 I love her. 791 00:30:22,689 --> 00:30:25,034 Watching babies fall asleep is the best. 792 00:30:25,034 --> 00:30:26,724 [Lennie] Yeah, she's a heavy drinker. 793 00:30:26,724 --> 00:30:27,896 [laughs] 794 00:30:27,896 --> 00:30:29,275 Just like her daddy used to be. 795 00:30:29,275 --> 00:30:31,000 [laughter] 796 00:30:31,000 --> 00:30:34,137 I used to be a heavy drinker but not anymore for me either. 797 00:30:34,137 --> 00:30:35,379 Still half-truth. 798 00:30:35,379 --> 00:30:36,689 -No. -[laughs] 799 00:30:36,689 --> 00:30:38,620 -[Todd] Still heavy. -Todd. 800 00:30:38,620 --> 00:30:40,241 You're hot and heavy. 801 00:30:40,241 --> 00:30:42,931 [Whitney] As Todd admonishes me for being heavy 802 00:30:42,931 --> 00:30:44,896 while he hands me food, that's what it is. 803 00:30:44,896 --> 00:30:46,241 I'm using the word heavy in general, 804 00:30:46,241 --> 00:30:49,758 the Southern way to call people big... 805 00:30:49,758 --> 00:30:51,413 -[Whitney] Right. -which is a euphemism. 806 00:30:51,413 --> 00:30:53,206 -When your dad called me. -My dad. 807 00:30:53,206 --> 00:30:55,000 [Whitney] Say what your dad called me that time? 808 00:30:55,000 --> 00:30:57,482 You're a heavyweight friend, was that what it was? 809 00:30:57,482 --> 00:30:59,241 [laughter] 810 00:30:59,241 --> 00:31:00,586 I think my dad was really hoping 811 00:31:00,586 --> 00:31:02,517 we were gonna get married when I moved in here. 812 00:31:02,517 --> 00:31:04,068 He might have hoped that that heavyweight lady 813 00:31:04,068 --> 00:31:05,206 was gonna turn me. 814 00:31:05,206 --> 00:31:06,275 Didn't work. [laughs] 815 00:31:06,275 --> 00:31:08,275 Yeah, here I am, still 40 and just... 816 00:31:08,275 --> 00:31:10,689 You know, still single. 817 00:31:10,689 --> 00:31:12,482 Are you still... You got any of these apps 818 00:31:12,482 --> 00:31:14,034 or anything like that? 819 00:31:14,034 --> 00:31:15,206 Y'all know I've been on the dating apps 820 00:31:15,206 --> 00:31:16,586 for over 10 years. 821 00:31:17,586 --> 00:31:18,931 The most common thing... 822 00:31:18,931 --> 00:31:20,034 [bleep] pic, just [bleep] pic. 823 00:31:20,034 --> 00:31:22,551 -[Tal] They want you to eat. -[Buddy] Squashing. 824 00:31:22,551 --> 00:31:24,413 No. Sit on my face. 825 00:31:24,413 --> 00:31:25,724 Oh, God, yeah. 826 00:31:26,758 --> 00:31:29,827 I don't need an advanced degree in psychology 827 00:31:29,827 --> 00:31:32,896 to understand why a man wants me to sit on his face. 828 00:31:32,896 --> 00:31:35,172 However, I do need a degree to understand 829 00:31:35,172 --> 00:31:38,551 why a man would think that this approach works. 830 00:31:38,551 --> 00:31:41,896 Like, I truly wanna know how many times 831 00:31:41,896 --> 00:31:43,931 have you opened with that line 832 00:31:43,931 --> 00:31:46,965 and you actually got your face sat on. 833 00:31:46,965 --> 00:31:48,689 Like, can somebody let me know 834 00:31:48,689 --> 00:31:52,000 because I cannot understand what men are doing? 835 00:31:52,000 --> 00:31:53,172 See, that's so frustrating. 836 00:31:53,172 --> 00:31:54,551 It's not that I can't get the second date, 837 00:31:54,551 --> 00:31:56,241 I can't get the first, 838 00:31:56,241 --> 00:31:57,448 you know, so it's like I don't know 839 00:31:57,448 --> 00:31:59,000 what I'm supposed to modify 840 00:31:59,000 --> 00:32:00,344 because it's not like I'm getting there 841 00:32:00,344 --> 00:32:01,448 and then, getting turned down, 842 00:32:01,448 --> 00:32:03,241 like no one's giving me a chance. 843 00:32:03,241 --> 00:32:06,310 Is there something about me that is so wrong 844 00:32:06,310 --> 00:32:08,344 that people won't even give me a first date? 845 00:32:09,310 --> 00:32:11,068 You can tell me. 846 00:32:11,068 --> 00:32:13,620 It's not wrong but you're intimidating. 847 00:32:13,620 --> 00:32:14,655 Why am I intimidating? 848 00:32:14,655 --> 00:32:16,620 'Cause I'm fat, 'cause I'm a heavyset lady? 849 00:32:16,620 --> 00:32:20,448 No, because you are so confident and smart, and... 850 00:32:21,379 --> 00:32:24,068 sexually charged. 851 00:32:24,068 --> 00:32:25,896 [laughter] 852 00:32:25,896 --> 00:32:27,000 There's nothing wrong with you. 853 00:32:27,000 --> 00:32:28,034 [gasps] 854 00:32:28,034 --> 00:32:29,206 [Todd] He said like there's more to come. 855 00:32:29,206 --> 00:32:31,000 There's... I mean, there's nothing wrong with you. 856 00:32:31,000 --> 00:32:32,241 You're definitely better now 857 00:32:32,241 --> 00:32:34,275 than what you were before, I'm assuming. 858 00:32:34,275 --> 00:32:35,827 I'm assuming you've grown as a person-- 859 00:32:35,827 --> 00:32:36,896 [Jessica speaking] 860 00:32:36,896 --> 00:32:39,793 Okay. You don't have any constructive criticism? 861 00:32:41,965 --> 00:32:43,344 [Lennie] Whitney has been a good friend to me 862 00:32:43,344 --> 00:32:46,931 but, like, she kinda needs to grow as a person. 863 00:32:46,931 --> 00:32:49,724 Like, I've changed as a person in 10 years, 864 00:32:49,724 --> 00:32:51,137 like, tremendously. 865 00:32:51,137 --> 00:32:52,827 I've really tried to. 866 00:32:52,827 --> 00:32:54,137 You know, I've gone out of my way. 867 00:32:54,137 --> 00:32:56,931 I've tried to do the hardest things to be a better person. 868 00:32:56,931 --> 00:32:59,724 And she kinda needs to grow up 869 00:32:59,724 --> 00:33:01,793 and realize what her options are. 870 00:33:03,068 --> 00:33:05,965 I think you need to take the pressure off, 871 00:33:05,965 --> 00:33:07,931 be a little less picky, 872 00:33:07,931 --> 00:33:10,275 stop anticipating that you meet your husband 873 00:33:10,275 --> 00:33:11,862 -on the next date you go on... -I don't. 874 00:33:11,862 --> 00:33:14,034 and just go on some fun dates. 875 00:33:14,034 --> 00:33:17,482 Okay. But I don't want to go on dates 876 00:33:17,482 --> 00:33:21,137 with people that I am, like, unattracted to 877 00:33:21,137 --> 00:33:22,103 for whatever reason. 878 00:33:22,103 --> 00:33:23,620 Then I'm settling. 879 00:33:23,620 --> 00:33:25,413 Like, I have to at least, like, find you somewhat-- 880 00:33:25,413 --> 00:33:26,551 But here's the thing, going on a date 881 00:33:26,551 --> 00:33:28,275 with somebody doesn't mean you're gonna marry them, 882 00:33:28,275 --> 00:33:29,758 that doesn't mean you're settling for anything. 883 00:33:29,758 --> 00:33:31,103 You're just going out and having a good time 884 00:33:31,103 --> 00:33:32,965 with somebody of the opposite sex. 885 00:33:32,965 --> 00:33:34,655 I think, it's year 10 of the apps, 886 00:33:34,655 --> 00:33:36,379 it's time to try something different. 887 00:33:36,379 --> 00:33:37,862 Yeah, at least something different. 888 00:33:37,862 --> 00:33:40,172 I agree. I know I can't meet somebody sitting, 889 00:33:40,172 --> 00:33:42,241 you know, on my couch with y'all. 890 00:33:42,241 --> 00:33:44,620 You're gonna do the old-timey... The old-timey way 891 00:33:44,620 --> 00:33:45,965 that parents hooked you up. 892 00:33:45,965 --> 00:33:47,689 Like a matchmaker. 893 00:33:47,689 --> 00:33:49,034 Do they still have those? 894 00:33:49,034 --> 00:33:50,517 [Todd] Yeah, they... But they have, like, professional ones 895 00:33:50,517 --> 00:33:52,103 who, like... It's like the gift. 896 00:33:52,103 --> 00:33:53,172 They have a gift. 897 00:33:53,172 --> 00:33:55,206 [Tal] I just think you need to get out more. 898 00:33:55,206 --> 00:33:56,482 Like you have to leave the house 899 00:33:56,482 --> 00:33:57,758 and get out into the world. 900 00:33:57,758 --> 00:33:59,241 I don't disagree with that. I don't disagree with that. 901 00:33:59,241 --> 00:34:01,448 But I just don't know where to go. 902 00:34:01,448 --> 00:34:03,931 [dramatic music playing] 903 00:34:03,931 --> 00:34:05,965 Nobody's really telling the truth here. 904 00:34:05,965 --> 00:34:10,206 You know, I think, you know, Whitney is picky. 905 00:34:10,206 --> 00:34:12,688 She wants something that's kinda out of reach 906 00:34:12,688 --> 00:34:16,137 and she wants everything to be lined up perfectly. 907 00:34:16,137 --> 00:34:18,172 That's not gonna help her get a man, 908 00:34:18,172 --> 00:34:19,724 you know, that's kinda, I think, a problem 909 00:34:19,724 --> 00:34:22,862 is that she's expecting some perfect, elaborate, 910 00:34:22,862 --> 00:34:24,413 you know, love connection. 911 00:34:24,413 --> 00:34:26,000 And that just doesn't happen. 912 00:34:26,000 --> 00:34:28,896 I mean, if you can't look inwards and see 913 00:34:28,896 --> 00:34:30,482 what's wrong with yourself, 914 00:34:30,482 --> 00:34:31,827 I don't know if anyone's gonna be able 915 00:34:31,827 --> 00:34:34,482 to convince you, you know. 916 00:34:34,482 --> 00:34:36,482 Everybody telling you that you're perfect all the time 917 00:34:36,482 --> 00:34:38,516 isn't gonna make you change. 918 00:34:40,137 --> 00:34:42,620 I'm sad that after all this time, like, I am still single, 919 00:34:42,620 --> 00:34:45,000 but it is wonderful to see y'all so happy 920 00:34:45,000 --> 00:34:47,482 to have Courtney in our lives, have Allison in our lives, 921 00:34:47,482 --> 00:34:50,344 to have this baby, like it is really... 922 00:34:50,344 --> 00:34:52,241 I don't know. It's... It is kinda hard to watch 923 00:34:52,241 --> 00:34:53,620 -everybody, like... -[Jessica] I get it. 924 00:34:53,620 --> 00:34:55,137 move on, you know. 925 00:34:56,000 --> 00:34:57,413 [Tal] Gina said to let go of the past, 926 00:34:57,413 --> 00:34:59,206 so let go of the past and open yourself up 927 00:34:59,206 --> 00:35:01,034 -to trying something you haven't tried before. -Yeah. 928 00:35:03,724 --> 00:35:07,172 The frustrating thing about not getting something concrete 929 00:35:07,172 --> 00:35:09,827 from my friends about what is wrong with me 930 00:35:09,827 --> 00:35:11,689 is that if I don't have something concrete, 931 00:35:11,689 --> 00:35:13,482 that means that I can't fix it, 932 00:35:13,482 --> 00:35:16,172 and that actually makes me feel really disempowered, 933 00:35:16,172 --> 00:35:19,586 like the ball is always in everyone else's court. 934 00:35:19,586 --> 00:35:21,068 Like, I knew that they were gonna say 935 00:35:21,068 --> 00:35:22,586 like, "Oh, my God, you're perfect, 936 00:35:22,586 --> 00:35:24,379 you're just intimidating." 937 00:35:24,379 --> 00:35:26,275 Like, I've heard that a lot in life 938 00:35:26,275 --> 00:35:28,517 and I was hoping to hear something else. 939 00:35:29,931 --> 00:35:33,068 [dramatic music playing] 940 00:35:36,137 --> 00:35:37,551 When I met you, you were thin 941 00:35:37,551 --> 00:35:39,896 and you had no problems attracting men. 942 00:35:39,896 --> 00:35:41,310 The size holds you back. 943 00:35:41,310 --> 00:35:45,000 Would you consider losing weight again? 944 00:35:45,000 --> 00:35:47,724 If there is something about me that I could change 945 00:35:47,724 --> 00:35:49,896 that would help me reach my goals, 946 00:35:49,896 --> 00:35:51,413 I would probably do it. 947 00:35:51,413 --> 00:35:54,000 [dramatic music playing] 948 00:36:00,103 --> 00:36:02,862 [upbeat music playing] 949 00:36:08,241 --> 00:36:10,586 [Whitney] The remnants of the ritual. 950 00:36:10,586 --> 00:36:12,482 Oh, my gosh. 951 00:36:12,482 --> 00:36:14,241 Jessica and Isaiah sure got to see 952 00:36:14,241 --> 00:36:15,517 another side of me tonight. 953 00:36:15,517 --> 00:36:17,482 [laughs] 954 00:36:17,482 --> 00:36:18,896 [Tal sighs] 955 00:36:20,344 --> 00:36:24,137 I have to say, unexpected Friday evening but-- 956 00:36:24,137 --> 00:36:25,758 A lot of surprises. 957 00:36:25,758 --> 00:36:28,172 What did you have to think about what everybody said? 958 00:36:28,172 --> 00:36:29,448 [Whitney] Well, I'm mad. 959 00:36:29,758 --> 00:36:30,965 [Tal] Why? 960 00:36:30,965 --> 00:36:32,827 Because I was hoping somebody was gonna have something 961 00:36:32,827 --> 00:36:34,827 to tell me that I could fix. 962 00:36:34,827 --> 00:36:37,000 And instead, I got just like, "Oh, well, you're too picky," 963 00:36:37,000 --> 00:36:38,103 or, "Oh, you're, like, whatever 964 00:36:38,103 --> 00:36:39,482 but there's nothing wrong with you." 965 00:36:39,482 --> 00:36:41,655 I'm like, "I need there to be something wrong with me 966 00:36:41,655 --> 00:36:42,655 because if there's nothing wrong with me, 967 00:36:42,655 --> 00:36:43,758 then I can't fix it." 968 00:36:45,827 --> 00:36:48,620 It's funny to listen to my friends reassure me 969 00:36:48,620 --> 00:36:49,931 that nothing is wrong with me 970 00:36:49,931 --> 00:36:53,034 because I knew that that's what they would say. 971 00:36:53,034 --> 00:36:55,034 But as for me, 972 00:36:55,034 --> 00:36:57,482 I can only sit alone in my house, 973 00:36:57,482 --> 00:37:00,310 getting no dates for so long 974 00:37:00,310 --> 00:37:04,517 before I have to believe that there is something amiss. 975 00:37:05,862 --> 00:37:08,862 I really didn't wanna say this in front of everybody else 976 00:37:08,862 --> 00:37:12,103 because I honestly don't know how you'll react. 977 00:37:12,103 --> 00:37:15,206 The one thing that you are always saying 978 00:37:15,206 --> 00:37:18,931 that holds you back romantically is your size. 979 00:37:18,931 --> 00:37:20,172 When I met you, you were thin 980 00:37:20,172 --> 00:37:22,724 -and you had no problems attracting men. -Yeah. 981 00:37:23,068 --> 00:37:24,137 That's true. 982 00:37:25,068 --> 00:37:27,206 If there is something that you could change 983 00:37:27,206 --> 00:37:30,655 about yourself to make things easier for you, 984 00:37:30,655 --> 00:37:34,275 would you consider losing weight again? 985 00:37:34,931 --> 00:37:36,655 You've done it in the past. 986 00:37:36,655 --> 00:37:38,965 You had men falling all over you. 987 00:37:38,965 --> 00:37:40,103 You would light up a room 988 00:37:40,103 --> 00:37:42,517 and everybody was attracted to you, they still are. 989 00:37:42,517 --> 00:37:44,413 But size holds you back. 990 00:37:44,413 --> 00:37:47,655 [dramatic music playing] 991 00:37:47,655 --> 00:37:49,586 Whitney can't get in front of a man 992 00:37:49,586 --> 00:37:51,551 because she's so easily discounted. 993 00:37:51,551 --> 00:37:54,241 I mean, she is just dismissed so quickly. 994 00:37:54,241 --> 00:37:57,000 I have watched it happen over and over again. 995 00:37:57,000 --> 00:37:59,344 If there is something about me that I could change 996 00:37:59,344 --> 00:38:01,655 that would help me reach my goals, 997 00:38:01,655 --> 00:38:03,172 I would probably do it. 998 00:38:04,724 --> 00:38:06,689 And I know you have legitimate challenges, 999 00:38:06,689 --> 00:38:08,137 -which is-- -You sound like my dad. 1000 00:38:08,862 --> 00:38:12,068 He gave me a talk years and years ago. 1001 00:38:15,482 --> 00:38:17,620 He said, 1002 00:38:17,620 --> 00:38:19,000 "Well, you know... 1003 00:38:21,620 --> 00:38:23,413 when I met your mother, 1004 00:38:23,413 --> 00:38:24,931 if she had been your size... 1005 00:38:26,862 --> 00:38:30,000 -Oh. -[Whitney] Yeah. 1006 00:38:30,000 --> 00:38:31,620 And it killed me because I'm like, you know, 1007 00:38:31,620 --> 00:38:33,344 my mother's looks were the last thing 1008 00:38:33,344 --> 00:38:35,482 that my dad valued about my mother, you know, 1009 00:38:35,482 --> 00:38:37,758 and... But he would have never known any of that, 1010 00:38:37,758 --> 00:38:40,000 like if she just weren't thin, like... 1011 00:38:43,448 --> 00:38:44,758 I don't wanna have to feel 1012 00:38:44,758 --> 00:38:47,896 like I've got to prove to my dad 1013 00:38:47,896 --> 00:38:49,896 that a man can want me, 1014 00:38:49,896 --> 00:38:53,068 but I truly don't think that my dad thinks it's possible. 1015 00:38:56,137 --> 00:38:57,517 And that sucks. 1016 00:39:00,068 --> 00:39:03,448 I'm crying because you're right, like it's true. 1017 00:39:03,448 --> 00:39:05,241 -I hate it. -And this feeling like, 1018 00:39:05,241 --> 00:39:07,000 "Well, I could just, like, try harder. 1019 00:39:07,000 --> 00:39:09,137 I could just, like, lose more weight." 1020 00:39:11,000 --> 00:39:12,103 [sighs] 1021 00:39:13,689 --> 00:39:15,275 I'll say this, 1022 00:39:15,275 --> 00:39:17,103 if I just kept losing weight again 1023 00:39:17,103 --> 00:39:19,241 and didn't, like, spiral into an eating disorder 1024 00:39:19,241 --> 00:39:21,448 and all that, would I be sad that I lost weight? 1025 00:39:21,448 --> 00:39:22,689 Absolutely not. 1026 00:39:22,689 --> 00:39:24,896 Do I think it would benefit my life in a lot of ways? 1027 00:39:24,896 --> 00:39:26,000 Yes, it would. 1028 00:39:26,000 --> 00:39:29,275 Unfortunately, I have the "luxury" 1029 00:39:29,275 --> 00:39:31,448 of knowing what life was like 1030 00:39:31,448 --> 00:39:32,448 when I was thin 1031 00:39:32,448 --> 00:39:34,689 and when I was considered to be "pretty", 1032 00:39:34,689 --> 00:39:38,896 and when I had social currency in the form of my appearance. 1033 00:39:38,896 --> 00:39:41,689 I spent my childhood, my teenage years, 1034 00:39:41,689 --> 00:39:43,172 my adolescence, my formative years, 1035 00:39:43,172 --> 00:39:45,965 and my young adulthood being a thin woman. 1036 00:39:45,965 --> 00:39:49,793 I was prom queen, for God's sakes. 1037 00:39:49,793 --> 00:39:53,620 The way that life changed for me when I became fat 1038 00:39:53,620 --> 00:39:55,068 quite literally almost overnight, 1039 00:39:55,068 --> 00:39:56,896 I mean, within a couple months, 1040 00:39:56,896 --> 00:39:59,896 it was like doing a social experiment 1041 00:39:59,896 --> 00:40:02,827 where you put on a fat suit and you go out in public, 1042 00:40:02,827 --> 00:40:05,137 except the fat suit was real 1043 00:40:05,137 --> 00:40:07,000 and I couldn't take it off. 1044 00:40:07,000 --> 00:40:09,551 You know, I look at myself sometimes and I just think, 1045 00:40:09,551 --> 00:40:11,034 "I'm so gross." 1046 00:40:11,034 --> 00:40:12,482 You are not gross. 1047 00:40:12,482 --> 00:40:14,000 But if I... And if I lost weight, 1048 00:40:14,000 --> 00:40:15,551 I would just continue to get grosser, 1049 00:40:15,551 --> 00:40:17,724 like, I mean, what... Where is all this skin gonna go, 1050 00:40:17,724 --> 00:40:18,689 you know what I mean? 1051 00:40:18,689 --> 00:40:20,000 And, like, being this age, 1052 00:40:20,000 --> 00:40:22,241 and then the whole thing just, like, overwhelms me, and... 1053 00:40:22,241 --> 00:40:26,965 I just see you becoming more and more hopeless. 1054 00:40:28,620 --> 00:40:30,000 I know there are things you want 1055 00:40:30,000 --> 00:40:32,827 that you don't have, but please do not give up. 1056 00:40:36,103 --> 00:40:38,103 We're just gonna be later-in-life people. 1057 00:40:38,413 --> 00:40:39,586 [laughs] 1058 00:40:39,586 --> 00:40:42,241 I never... If you would've asked me 1059 00:40:43,724 --> 00:40:45,586 when I was in high school, 1060 00:40:45,586 --> 00:40:48,931 "Can you imagine that you would be 40 and not married?" 1061 00:40:48,931 --> 00:40:50,586 Mine just ended it then, 1062 00:40:50,586 --> 00:40:51,931 so I'm glad no one told me. 1063 00:40:51,931 --> 00:40:54,000 Nobody could've paid me any amount of money 1064 00:40:54,000 --> 00:40:56,517 for me to have foreseen the way that... 1065 00:40:56,517 --> 00:40:57,793 Honestly, in any way, in the good ways 1066 00:40:57,793 --> 00:41:00,068 and the bad ways that my life would have gone this way. 1067 00:41:00,068 --> 00:41:02,448 Look at everything else that's happened, though. 1068 00:41:02,448 --> 00:41:03,862 [Whitney] But it's like, "What do you want the most?" 1069 00:41:03,862 --> 00:41:04,793 You know. 1070 00:41:04,793 --> 00:41:07,586 When I come home, I want one person 1071 00:41:07,586 --> 00:41:10,241 who can love me. I want unconditional love. 1072 00:41:10,241 --> 00:41:13,000 [dramatic music playing] 1073 00:41:13,000 --> 00:41:15,172 [Whitney] It's not only about the men. 1074 00:41:15,172 --> 00:41:19,931 It is the way that you become invisible to the entire world. 1075 00:41:19,931 --> 00:41:23,206 It is the way that everything communicates to you 1076 00:41:23,206 --> 00:41:27,172 that you are worth nothing now because you're fat. 1077 00:41:27,172 --> 00:41:29,482 Have I done myself a disservice 1078 00:41:29,482 --> 00:41:32,344 by doing what I thought was right, 1079 00:41:32,344 --> 00:41:36,000 which was accepting myself and owning my fatness, 1080 00:41:36,000 --> 00:41:39,275 and repositioning it as, you know, 1081 00:41:39,275 --> 00:41:42,310 not this horrible thing, like was all of that wrong? 1082 00:41:43,931 --> 00:41:46,206 [dramatic music playing] 1083 00:41:47,931 --> 00:41:49,862 I'm over it, Tal. I'm just [bleep]. 1084 00:41:49,862 --> 00:41:51,241 I'm so over it. 1085 00:41:51,241 --> 00:41:54,448 [dramatic music playing] 1086 00:41:54,448 --> 00:41:56,034 [exhales] 1087 00:41:58,000 --> 00:41:59,413 Oh, God. I thought that was a person. 1088 00:41:59,413 --> 00:42:00,482 [laughs] 1089 00:42:00,482 --> 00:42:02,379 Next time on My Big Fat Fabulous Life. 1090 00:42:02,379 --> 00:42:03,517 Hi, Whitney. 1091 00:42:03,517 --> 00:42:04,551 Hi, how are you? 1092 00:42:04,551 --> 00:42:08,275 I found a matchmaker because I am determined 1093 00:42:08,275 --> 00:42:11,034 to find my husband in my fourth decade. 1094 00:42:11,034 --> 00:42:12,827 Let me be honest, I don't leave the house. 1095 00:42:12,827 --> 00:42:14,482 -I don't ever leave the house. -Whitney. 1096 00:42:14,482 --> 00:42:17,137 -[Whitney] Yeah, I know. -Listen to yourself. 1097 00:42:17,137 --> 00:42:19,344 The thing is, my dad wants to sell the house. 1098 00:42:19,344 --> 00:42:21,000 -So he doesn't know? -[Whitney] No, no, no. 1099 00:42:21,000 --> 00:42:22,724 But yeah, Glenn Thore is not allowed in the house. 1100 00:42:22,724 --> 00:42:23,896 Okay. 1101 00:42:23,896 --> 00:42:25,206 [Glenn] Are you almost done working on the garage? 1102 00:42:25,206 --> 00:42:26,620 [Whitney] I have things going on 1103 00:42:26,620 --> 00:42:28,000 that you don't need to know about. 1104 00:42:28,000 --> 00:42:30,758 Hopefully, I'll convince my dad not to sell this house. 1105 00:42:31,586 --> 00:42:33,724 So I'm about to turn 40 and I decided 1106 00:42:33,724 --> 00:42:34,724 I wanna do a big trip. 1107 00:42:34,724 --> 00:42:35,655 We're all gonna go to Spain. 1108 00:42:35,655 --> 00:42:36,620 Oh.