-[woman] One, two three. -[stomping]
[Whitney] Previously on My Big Fat Fabulous Life...
One, two--
The inspiration, for my 40th birthday trip, is flamenco.
I want to do something crazy, so...
we're all gonna go to Spain.
-[Glenn] Wow! -Okay.
So when is the organizing going to be done?
So I can go back into the house?
There's a lot of work over there, Dad.
[Whitney] As soon as my brother and I learned
that my dad wanted to sell the house,
we immediately tried to scheme ways
to incentivize him, to not do that.
The solution is to reno the downstairs bedroom.
-So he doesn't know? -[Whitney] No, no, no.
-But yeah, Glenn Thore is not allowed in the house. -Okay-
Send me over the best photos
that you've had taken of yourself over the last year.
[Whitney] So I took my friend's advice
and I found a matchmaker.
I don't know if I have a lot of really good ones
that really look like me now,
Book a photo shoot.
I am determined to find my husband
in my 4th decade.
[photographer exclaiming]
Are we considering doing anything maybe fully nude.
-Jessica! -[woman laughing]
All right, get naked.
[Whitney] I just needed like one--
"Yeah, girl, you look great."
And then I'm, like, "Cool. Let's do it."
[woman 1] On, my word.
That's ooh...y'll.
[woman 2] Oh, my God,
[mellow reggae music playing]
[Whitney] Okay, let's go. Oh, you're already going.
Isn't this dancing supposed to be hard like you have to jump?
[Whitney] I have no clue what this is supposed to be.
-I'm just-- -[Todd] Are you warm?
[Whitney] No. And I thought--
[Todd] But you're coming in hot.
One of my New Year's resolutions
was to get out of the house and go dancing with Todd.
So we signed up for flamenco and I loved moving my body.
So I want to now move my body in lots of ways.
-[upbeat conga music playing] -[Whitney speaking]
[Amahkle] Five, six, seven, eight...
Take it up.
I found an African fusion class
at the Cultural Arts Center,
and when I was 15 I took some African classes and I loved them.
I do realize that that's been
25 years now, which is scary.
But um, I'm also the lightest I've been in, like, over a decade.
So I'm gonna give it a shot and see what happens.
[upbeat conga drums playing]
[Amahkle] Five, six, seven, eight and two...
Back, front, back...
Five, six, seven, eight.
Take it up!
Hey, take it up.
Take it up.
Five, six, seven, eight and round.
[upbeat conga drums playing]
Hey! [squeals] Yep! Hey...
We're Whitney and Todd. Thank you for having us.
I'm already out of breath.
[chuckling]
I'm so glad that you are here.
Thank you for coming to class.
La Moose Afro-Blendz Community dance class.
-I teach Afro fusion. -Awesome!
[Amahkle] Just have fun.
Stop me if you need to have a question asked
-and um... -We probably will.
Yeah, so yeah. Ready?
-[Whitney] Yeah. -Awesome.
All right.
Oh, oh. And I forgot. I am sister Amahkle
-Okay. -[Whitney] Nice to meet you.
-[Todd] Nice to meet you. -[Amahkle laughs]
All right. So, the first thing I always say
love what you see in the mirror. Okay?
All right, now, just have fun.
-[upbeat music starts] -[Amahkle] Hey, hey, hey.
Hey, hey.
Here we go.
Five, six, seven, eight.
One, two, three, four,
five, six, seven, eight.
And one, two--
[Whitney] Even though I'm an experienced dancer,
trying a style that's unfamiliar is still intimidating.
And to be honest, I feel like almost everything
is intimidating to me these days,
like I'm really proud of myself
for upholding my New Year's resolution
and getting out of the house and trying new things.
It's something that I think is really important for me
in this new phase of my life,
and I don't want to just like shield myself
from disappointments anymore.
I want to live, you know.
Um, it's a slightly new concept,
but I'm going for it. [chuckles softly]
All right, from the top. And five, six, seven eight.
One, two, three, four, five, six, seven eight.
And one... two... three...
four...and...
♪♪ Pa pa ah dah dah
[Whitney] There's something about doing something that you haven't done
or doing something new and doing something novel
and how it connects with your body and how it makes you feel.
And ultimately it makes me feel good,
young, sexy, vibrant.
I love it all.
[upbeat music continues playing]
[Amahkle whooping]
-[exhales] -[music stops]
Afro fusion.
-Thank you. We enjoyed it. We love it. -[Amahkle] Thank you. Yes.
-Thank you. -[Whitney] I appreciate it.
-All right. Have a good night. You guys. -[Whitney] You all too.
Unlike flamenco, which was slower
and sensuous and a little methodical.
This Afro fusion class was a bit more of a cardio workout,
but I feel good.
I love that.
-And I like, flamenco too. -[Todd chuckles] Okay.
I don't know which one I like better,
but too bad we're going to Spain, not Africa.
[Todd speaking]
But tell me I'm not the only one that's tired.
Wait, is this because we're 40, though?
Or is this because because...
Well, that's what I'm saying.
This isn't, like, all just because we're 40.
[Todd speaking]
[Whitney grunts]
[groaning]
[Whitney] Guy in the strip zone
said that I was above average,
um, flexibility for a 40-year-old.
[Todd speaking]
Don't know if I can say the same for you.
[Todd speaking]
Is my butt getting smaller?
No, like that.
-Or did my back just get smaller? -[Todd] Not like that at all.
Wait. What part of me got smaller?
I don't like that. Where's my butt?
-It's expanded, left to right. -[Whitney] Stop it.
So for Spain, because we're not going to have another episode.
[Todd groans softly]
Of what had happened last year.
-Last year...? -Last year was when you had to leave
because of the tacos.
We had a birthday fiasco last year over the taco meat.
And I really just don't want to repeat
I just want to enjoy our birthday.
Where do you want me to set that?
It's for you.
On my birthday, You're gonna give me a food that I have literally
-never had a single one-- -It's my birthday.
Did you think this was your birthday?
Why would we have just your birthday party
when my birthday is the next day?
-[woman] Are you leaving? -[Todd] Oh, yeah.
-Are you leaving? -[Todd] Yeah.
I mean, this wasn't meant for me anyway, so it doesn't matter.
I have really needed this trip.
After the... [chuckles softly]
I was gonna say the year that I've had.
But it has been like my entire life that I've had, I don't know,
and I think it's just something that we've all really needed
and we're all really looking forward to.
There's some details that we have to figure out,
so I'm willing to call this a joint birthday party...
Oh, you're willing?
If it's on conditions.
If... I mean, the whole trip is like the party,
but I want to have,
like, on the last night,
like kind of a designated party.
I'm thinking like beachfront.
I'm thinking candles.
I'm thinking--
Volleyball net.
Well, why would I really think of that?
I want to actually perform--
-At the party, at our own party. -Yes.
-That's like... -We'll perform.
...having a wedding and singing at your own wedding.
Yeah, that's also fine.
-[chuckles] -So we'll perform, but basically--
So you have to--
I've already found flamenco clubs.
In-- in Malaga.
Hey, everybody, come to our party.
We're gonna dance for you
-to look at us. -[Whitney] Exactly. Exactly.
-And cheer. -[Whitney] Exactly.
It-- I'm not allowing it to be a joint birthday.
If you don't perform.
Are you performing? [groans]
[Todd] Well, yes.
Okay.
Another goal for my birthday this year
is to not have a repeat of last year.
I want everybody to get along.
I want everyone to enjoy the food.
And if Todd agrees to perform...
then I'll agree to not serve tacos.
Wait, can I get closer to this?
That was kind of fun.
If I wasn't a [bleep] walrus.
[grunts] I literally am, Walrusy.
-You're gonna beach up on the pole? -[Whitney cackles]
I'm trying to...
Skid skid skid skid skid skid.
-Put on a squirm. -How do you do it?
Am I close?
Those who can't squirm don't deserve any sperm.
[Whitney] That might be close enough.
Whoa, whoa! Why you take--
Why you keep on--
Increase your squirm.
[Whitney] I cannot get there anymore.
That's all I can do.
Oh! My back is sweating. I'm sliding.
[Todd] All right, well, where's my feet?
-Oh, give me that-- -[shouts]
All right. Well...
Oh my God, I've created a pool.
Yes, I'll tell her. I'll tell her.
They said, you're gonna need to mop that up before you leave.
[grunts]
[indistinct chatter]
[groans]
[mellow music playing]
Pirate that is no cats allowed.
Turn your fat ass around, sir.
Sir.
You know, the cats are walking in the room right now.
-[Whitney] Is the door shut? -[Hunter] No!
Todd! Get them out!
No!
No! Hot dog.
I've been working on remodeling the downstairs bedroom
for a couple of weeks now, and I am exhausted.
It has taken a lot to manage all of the details,
not to mention the energy it requires [chuckles softly]
to keep Glenn Thore, off the premises.
Hunter one of the cat is in here.
So I'm really excited that one way or another it's about to be over.
And one thing about my family is that we have always loved
to play tricks on each other.
And I am dying because we are expecting
my dad to arrive at any minute
to check on the progress that we've done in the garage.
Dad's here. Dad's here.
-Okay. I'm gonna go down there... -I'll just be here.
...when I get down there [whispers] open the doors.
[Hunter] Okay?
-Okay? -[whispers] He's gonna be pissed
when he sees this garage.
I'm really nervous because I have put in
a lot of time and energy and money into this project.
And if my dad does not love it,
then there is no possibility
that he will reconsider selling the house.
Okay. Okay. Okay. Okay. Door, doors, doors, doors
Here Todd, Todd, Todd, Todd.
[chuckles]
[laughing]
[Glenn] Well...
Ta-da!
Do you like what we've done?
Well, you haven't done anything.
[Glenn clears throat]
-[Whitney] Dad-- -I mean, look at all this space right here.
We've done--
Well, that's the car was here. I mean...
How many trash bags you think we hauled out of here?
-Eighteen? -At least 20.
Dad?
Uh... Well, you didn't even sweep the floor.
Whitney has a real knack for cleaning and organizing things.
But [clears throat] something has gone awry here in the garage
because this is not her best work.
I mean, I was really expecting a lot more.
Well, that's because we were splitting our time.
Actually, we had other concurrent projects going on.
We'll be happy to show you the other thing we're working on.
If you would like to see it.
Well, I think anything will be better than what I see here.
-Fine. -[Glenn] All right.
Let's go to the second stage.
Todd, bring him in in uh, 30 sec.
Come on, Goose. Qick, we go show daddy.
Good girl.
[intense music playing]
[Glenn] This is unbelievable.
Okay, so nobody freak out.
-Oh no. Please. -[Whitney chuckles]
Let me. Let me take a sip.
I love the start of this. Yes. Keep going.
I may...
...have met someone.
Really?
[Whitney] Come on, Goose.
We go show daddy.
Wow.
Well, I can see why you didn't do something in the garage
because you spent all your time in here.
This is unbelievable.
Look how wonderful this is.
Unbelievable.
You would not know this room
from where it was a few weeks ago.
Last time I saw, it was a junk room.
[all laughing]
Wow. Mmm.
Well, I should have known
that you were gonna have a surprise like this.
This wall is beautiful.
[Whitney] Now, look at the ceiling.
Do you recognize this pattern?
-This is Mommy's chair's in different color. -[Glenn] Yeah, uh-huh.
Boy, she would have been so thrilled with this.
That's what I thought. I thought Mommy would have liked it.
Well, I mean, you tried to get us to come downstairs forever,
and if it looked like this, we'd come downstairs.
-For sure. -[Hunter] Uh-oh.
[chuckles]
I am stunned at how
wonderful this room looks. All the little things
that Whitney has put on the shelves
that remind us of things in the past.
I mean, those touches that she added to the room
really makes it not only feel like home,
but brings back some wonderful memories.
[Whitney] Now make your way into this beautiful bathroom.
As you'll see, new tile,
new paint, new wallpaper, new mirror, light fixtures.
[Glenn] Well, this is beautiful.
-[Whitney] Okay? -[Glenn clears throat]
-[Whitney] Moving on. -[Glenn] I love-- I love this paint here.
-[Whitney] The wallpaper and the paint? -[Glenn] Yeah.
-[Whitney] Yeah. -[Glenn] Mmm.
[Whitney] Um, the name of this bar is "Mommy's Margaritas."
-[Glenn chuckles] -[Whitney] As you can see, and it is open 24/7/365.
[Glenn] Are you having a margarita with your mom?
[Whitney] That's my 21st birthday.
-When we had a margarita together. -[Glenn] Oh.
[Whitney] If my dad were to sleep in this room
and open his eyes, my goal would be
that in every turn of everything he did,
I just want it to be paved
with beautiful memories that make him feel good.
As much as I was disappointed in the garage,
-this is wonderful. -[Hunter chuckles]
[Glenn] Wow! Wow! Wow! [chuckles]
Well, I was hoping that if you could see the potential
with a little bit of work and a whole lot of money,
the house could could come alive again.
Oh, yeah.
So we're hoping that maybe we don't...
-[Hunter] Have to sell it. -Sell it.
Well, [clears throat]
you know, I've been thinking about that
and sometimes you get in that mindset of
uh,, you know you need to downsize,
and it's just too much to take care of all that kind of stuff.
But something like this brings back
all the memories, the sentimental value.
I mean, I-- In fact, I-- I think we'll just hold on to it
until you guys decide what you want to do with it.
When I'm...
-...gone. -Don't.
-Stop! -[Glenn chuckles]
You're not selling the house?
No. No.
-[Whitney whoops] -[Glenn chuckles]
This home is actually not our childhood home.
We moved into this house when I was 17.
[Whitney squeals]
This was our dream home, and for the past 24 years
we have been making so many memories as a family in this home.
And it feels like my mom.
And you can't recreate that anywhere else.
You bought the animals.
[Glenn] We're gonna turn into a shelter.
We've got cats and turtles and dogs.
Now we have pigs.
Oh!
[Whitney] Oh, my God. He's out, he's out.
He's out.
[Whitney chuckles] Oh, he's startled.
And I truly believe that my mom would want me
to be a steward of this house and to restore it
and make it beautiful and take care of it.
So I am thrilled that my dad is not selling,
because every time I come here, it just...
it feels like home.
And that means a lot to me.
This room is is too wonderful not to use.
So I can move in here tomorrow.
[Whitney] Well, don't you feel good leaving to go on a trip
knowing that this beautiful room
could await you when you return.
Uh, exactly.
Well, I love you. I'm glad you like it.
I love you, too. Thank you so much.
You know all those memories
all the years that we've spent at this house,
this is, you know, really our home,
and I am so excited to move back in.
The only thing that disappoints me
is that Babs is not here to see this.
Wanna go back home?
Do we have to go back through the garage?
-[scoffs] -[all chuckling]
[upbeat music playing]
[Whitney] Did you know this:
Camels actually originated in North America.
-And then they-- -I didn't know that.
They crossed the land bridge something.
And now we think of them as being like,
-you know, Arabian? -Right.
They're actually American.
Why do I learn about animals whenever I'm with you guys?
-Because I know everything about animals. -[chuckles]
-And you got to know this-- -That's crazy.
You know, you got to travel.
You want to know about the local flora and the fauna.
So... This is cute.
Now, I will say it is a little early.
I feel like it's not prime time
-man meeting, but... -[Karen] I know.
[Whitney] Well, I'm still doing my homework. I don't care.
I'm really excited to have met the matchmaker
and done a photo shoot and everything to go on my portfolio.
And somehow I feel like I've already gotten the confidence
to put myself out there a little bit more in life.
So I am meeting Karen and my brother for drinks.
At the Quarter.
It's a new bar that's opened up in downtown Greensboro.
My brother's bartending there and it's really cool.
-What's up? -[Whitney] What's up?
-[Karen] Hi. -What you been doing?
-[Whitney] Uh... -[Karen] Hey ya.
-Hanging out. -[Whitney] Oh, my God!
-Is this a dog place? -It is, yeah.
-[Karen] So cute. -[Whitney] Hey, I'm sorry.
-Can I-- Can I uh... -[Karen] Hi.
You can say hello.
-[Karen chuckles] -[Whitney] Hi!
She's a golden. She needs her emotional support hat.
[Whitney] I understand that.
Show her the hat. There you go.
-[Whitney] Hi, sweetheart. -[Karen] Oh, my goodness.
What's her name?
-Temperance. -Temperance.
How sweet is she?
I'm Whitney, Temperance and Ian.
Ian. Nice to meet you.
Good to meet you.
Hey, pup, I have a poodle.
If I had known, you didn't tell me this was a dog bar,
[Hunter] What? We'd do whatever here.
-Whatever. -[Whitney] Well, you didn't tell me that
I would have brought Goosey.
-You want a drink? -[Hunter] What's up?
Yeah, well, I just, you know me.
I just want a diet soda.
[Hunter chuckles] Just a diet soda.
You know how I do.
What kind of whiskey you want in here?
-[Whitney] No. -[Karen chuckles]
-Where do you want to sit? Right here. -Yeah, that's correct.
All right. It was really nice to meet you Ian.
It's good meeting you.
As a certified elder millennial turned homebody.
I was a bit reluctant to go meet Karen
like in the outside world.
-How did I do? -Great.
-Oh, my God! -Right?
-Yeah, yeah. -Well, it's just for practice.
-Yeah. -I clucked the wedding ring.
-Right away. -Right, right. I saw that later on. That was cool.
-So I just-- -You were great!
-Was I? -Yeah.
-Okay. -You asked good questions.
-Yeah. -You're engaging. Yeah.
Oh, my matchmaker said I'm supposed to talk about,
-you know, easy stuff, like, dogs. -Okay.
I think that, Alessandra the Matchmaker.
She was on to something because it turns out that there are friendly men.
Outside of the house.
[Hunter] Diet coke.
Thank you.
[Hunter] Half whiskey.
-[Karen] Half-- -No it's not.
[Hunter chuckles]
-What's up? Hey. -Hey,
[kissing]
[Hunter] So what's going on?
Okay, so nobody freak out.
Oh, no. Please, let me. Let me take a sip.
I love the start of this. Yes. Keep going.
I may...
...have met someone.
-Really? -[Whitney] Yeah.
-[Hunter] Okay. Well... -[Whitney] Yeah.
Deets. Let's go.
Okay, so it's only been 24 hr. But mark my words.
This could literally be the man I will marry.
-I know I sound insane. -[Hunter] I know.
-But I was on social media... -[Hunter] Yeah.
[Whitney] ...mindlessly scrolling at like 04:00 in the morning.
And I see this account pop up, and I was like, "Who [bleep] is this?"
-Uh-huh. -[Whitney] I watched like two videos.
-Mmm-hmm -And I was like, "Whitney, this is your time."
So I DM'd him.
You slid in.
-[Whitney] I slid... -You slid in the DM.
I greased my body up.
-And I just slid right on in. -[Hunter laughs] Okay.
And I just said,
"Do you need a wife or not?"
[giggling]
I love that.
[Whitney] I was scrolling through social media the other day,
and I happened upon this video of this guy
doing extreme sports all over the Internet.
And I was so impressed,
I asked him if he needed a wife.
Or not. [chuckles softly]
He responded immediately.
So before I knew it,
we were texting all night and I'm insane.
But for the first time since Avi
I had that feeling of like...
am I gonna marry this man?
I know that sounds insane,
but you also know we all do it.
Everyone does it.
We all have that feeling sometimes.
What was his response?
His resp-- I'll let you read it.
I'm-- I'm-- Hold on.
Wait. Karen, you read me?
You read-- You read him.
-We're gonna-- -All right.
-Okay. -We're gonna do a scene.
[Karen] "Do you need a wife or not?"
"I was pretty sure we were already married."
"Who's the actor here?
In your dreams, yes.
But I'm talking about reality."
[Hunter reading]
[Karen reading]
I'm not [bleep] around.
No, you're not.
So then I give him my number.
Wait. Can I see a picture?
[Whitney] Yes.
He is living it.
He is doing it.
So wait-- wait for more.
[snow crunching]
[Hunter] Wow.
-[Whitney] I'll tell you what this is. -[Hunter] Yeah.
[Whitney] This is fat excellence in motion.
It is that 1000%. [chuckles]
This man is living his best life.
Absolutely.
I really have just caught a vibe and, like
I love that he's large and in charge
and just like living his life out loud.
Just being like a general bad ass
like that really is attractive to me.
And I hope that no one else snags him.
Before I get back from Spain.
[Whitney speaking]
Yeah.
Have you told dad that you're taking next steps?
-Next steps? -With Karen.
-Getting married? -Mmm-hmm
We're a long term thing. We have long term goals.
-But we're-- -But do they include marriage?
We both look at each other and...
You know, we love each other,
and we're in this for ever in the long haul.
But, you know, uh-- I mean, like, I get it.
I understand he's excited and whatever.
But you know, I'm driving this bus.
You know what I mean? Like...
Right.
Glenn Thore, he is gonna need to pump the brakes
because I think that Hunter does know better
than to steal my 40th birthday thunder
and turn the Spain trip into an engagement trip.
So everybody just slow down.
I'm trying to get this man so I can help...
-Is this the-- -...shoulder of the burden?
Is this the end of days?
-Yeah. -Is that what's happening?
Is the apocalypse upon us?
Well, if I've done almost found me a man, then probably.
[laughs]
I say, I recently decided
to do something different with counselling.
-Oh! -I decided I'm going to do
an intensive outpatient program.
-Really? -Yeah.
I was starting to have really dark,
hopeless thoughts.
Wow.
I didn't know it was that bad.
-Yeah. -I'm so sorry.
Thank you.
[upbeat music playing]
Oh, my God!
Are you on a skateboard? [chuckles]
[Tal] I'm trying.
Spring has a sprung in Greensboro.
So when Tal asked if I wanted to go to the park,
I was totally down.
[Tal] You want to try next?
No.
I thought we were gonna be like walking,
maybe some vigorous sitting and spilling the tea.
And instead, [chuckles softly] I see Tal on a skateboard.
Look at how you're just doing it, Tal.
This would not qualify as doing it.
[both laugh]
[Whitney] You're doing something and it looks good.
-[Tal sputtering] -[Whitney screams]
[both laughing]
[Tal] I was doing it.
Okay. You wanna know the truth
about the skateboard?
Well, there's been some interference from Glenn Thore
What do you mean?
[Tal] Well, he texted me.
Oh, my God! No, he didn't.
-[Tal] Yes, he did. -Stop.
He said, "Tal, Hunter indicated to me
that Whitney saw a guy online
who she thinks is 'really cool.'"
Oh, my God! [laughs]
[Tal] "I did a little research
and saw that he enjoys extreme sports.
Could you take her to learn how to skateboard?"
[Whitney] You're joking.
Apparently, after I went out with Hunter and Karen
to the quarter, it got back to my dad somehow.
That there's a cute guy online
who does like extreme sports.
So now Tal has to learn how to do an "extreme sport"
to teach me how to do an "extreme sport"
so that I can impress this guy who does "extreme sports."
I hate this. This needs to be tightened, don't it?
[squeals] What are these?
Is this plus size?
I hope so.
It's extremely ridiculous.
Wait. Did this fit?
These are too small.
Like a blood pressure cuff.
[giggles] Oh, no.
There you go.
[Whitney] Oh, no, it doesn't work. [laughing]
No. It's not big enough, is it?
Oh, yeah. It's not going to go all the way.
[Tal chuckles]
This is not even safe for me.
Number one, the knee pads, the wrist pads
and the whatevers won't even fit on my body.
So that should tell you something.
[Tal] Just gonna practice standing on it.
[Whitney] Look, you can't-- Tal...
No, Tal it's not right.
Tal, this is not right.
-[Whitney gasps] -[Tal] It's like, sort of like a balance board.
Ow! Ow! Ow, Ow...
Ow, Ow, Ow, Ow...
-You look like a pro. -Okay, hold on, hold on.
No, see, I don't have the right weight distribution. Look at me.
I'm wrong on here. Hold on.
-I'm wrong on here. -Just hold me until you're--
[gasps] No, no, no, no. No. [laughing]
I just got over my last sprained ankle,
and that just happened from walking over a threshold.
I don't think it's wise.
Uh, for me to be attempting this.
No. [laughs, screams] No.
No! Tal-- Tal don't. Tal, Tal.
-Tal, Tal no! -All right.
Oh, God! Tal.
This is like-- This is like we're dancing.
-Tal, Tal, Tal! -[Tal cackles]
[Whitney screams]
Oh, my God!
No! No, no, no.
No, I'm doing that or you are?
-No, no, no. -[Whitney screams]
I'm-- I'm doing that.
It's too fast.
No! It's too fast. [squealing]
-This is too fast? -No! [laughs]
Ow! Wait!
-[sighs wearily] -We've moved,
-[groans] -You stood up on it and you moved.
[Tal laughing]
-[sighs in relief] -Is that the end of our first lesson?
[Whitney] It's like, no, I already know.
No, we're not breaking ankles today.
I don't care if this man's into extreme sports.
He can take me for who I am or not take me at all.
I appreciate the thought.
Glenn is like, "We have got to get her married."
He's on a mission.
Is that like how his little simple mind works?
Like, if Whitney tells him she went skateboarding?
-[Tal] I think-- -He'll think-- he'll think she's cool.
Who is this man that you were thinking, is "really cool."
Everybody stop. I did say that I might marry him,
but I'm-- I-- I had a-- I had a day to cool down.
The first thing I said to him, though,
was like, "Do you need a wife".
[laughs] Coming in hot!
This is a great example of Whitney being strong willed
in a really great way.
You know, I think we're too old
to play games at this point.
So this new, like bold Whitney,
that's just putting it right out there
and seeing if it sticks, I support it.
I'm impressed that you were bold.
-I really did. -You're taking chances.
I really did. I came right at it.
Oh, my God! [laughing]
[Whitney] I am out here doing the work I really am.
I've been shocked at
my ability to I kind of put myself out there
and make some very loose connections.
That, in general, just gives me hope that there is a life
beyond my French man.
What nice flowers.
This sunshine and blue sky
is doing everything for me today.
Oh, this is magical.
Can I share something with you?
What's that?
I recently decided to do something different with counseling,
Switching jobs?
No, not like professionally.
Like from my own counseling.
-Oh. -[Tal] Yeah.
I need to talk to Whitney
about what I have been going through,
because she knows that I have had a hard time
struggling with depression in the past
and It's not really something
that I feel comfortable talking about so often.
I um, have been going to weekly therapy for a long time now.
-Me too. -And I just feel like the last couple of months
it hasn't really been enough, because I have just
been feeling more and more depressed.
Hmm.
[Tal] I like getting up in the morning.
And just the thought of going to work.
Like half the time I'm, like, sobbing
-before 8:00 a.m. -Hmm.
And just feeling like extremely overwhelmed.
So I decided to take some time away from work.
And I'm going to do an intensive outpatient program.
-Really? -Yeah.
Wow!
I didn't know it was that bad.
-Yeah. -I'm so sorry.
[Tal] Thank you.
I've been putting on a pretty brave face around everybody,
but I've really been struggling pretty badly for months now.
I was starting to have really dark, hopeless thoughts.
And I felt so much relief once I decided
to just invest in my own well-being.
My therapist referred me to the place that I'm going.
It's in Greensboro, and I'm starting soon.
Aw...
-I love you. -I love you.
Thank you.
Tal has a lot on his plate and always has
and really helps other people.
With their mental health constantly.
So it's kind of not surprising to me
that that could become a really heavy load at times.
And I love that he has made this decision.
And really put himself first.
I think it's amazing.
Does that mean that you won't be able to come to Spain or?
I'm going to try to work out both
because I feel like that would be taking care of myself,
'cause I really want to be there with you and with everybody.
-I mean, this is your 40th. -Yeah.
I'm so proud of you.
I'll keep you posted.
Maybe you'll be a new ma--
Well, I don't want you to be a new man.
I just want you to be you.
-I want to be new in some ways. -Right.
And still keep the parts of me that are good.
Like, I'm never going to be a skateboarder.
-That's okay. [chuckles] -[laughs]
-I might keep practicing. -[Whitney] You should.
-Yeah. Come on. [chuckles] -[Tal] Try to roll.
Look at you change-- Oh, my God!
-[Tal] I was trying to change direction. -Look at you changing
direction, that's so good.
-[Tal] It's not good. -You gotta work.
I found your mother's engagement ring.
Why do you have this?
[Glenn] Just in case Hunter might ask
her to get engaged.
[Whitney] This is my 40th birthday trip.
I'm already in the midst of a midlife crisis,
and if someone else gets engaged
right in front of me, I will lose it.
Oh!
A new outfit.
What do you think about this thing?
Well, I'm the one who bought it,
-so I believe I like it. -[Glenn] Yeah.
[Whitney] Are you getting a haircut?
Are you going wild, man?
[Glenn] I'm going to go to a haircut tomorrow.
[both laughing]
Jessica told me that you did three pull ups today.
Yeah, and she's excited about Spain.
Oh, well...
I meant to tell you, I don't know if Tal is gonna be able to come
Why?
Because he took FMLA from work
and started an inpatient um...
-like mental health treatment program. -Hmm.
-And he was looking forward to it so much. -[Whitney] I know.
He really was.
But I have sent out everybody's flight information and I will have binders.
[Glenn] Well... [clears throat]
-Have you-- -Do you know--
Do you know our flight number?
No. I mean I--
Do you know what hotel we're staying in.
Well, I mean, since you've taken over the binder,
I don't have to worry about it.
I know.
I've done everything.
I am always a little bit nervous pre trip
because I am the one that, like, books everything
and plans everything and makes the binder.
You know, I inherited that from Glenn Thore
[chuckles] not too long ago.
And the only scheduling snafu
that I can anticipate with the trip is Tal.
If it turns out that he's not able to come
I'm honestly worried about what that could do to his mental health,
and none of us will be there to like, actively support him.
[Glenn] Well, I found out that you were
skateboarding with Tal. How did that go?
I've got my sources.
Do you think I'm stupid?
[laughing]
I know that you're the one that masterminded it.
[chuckles]
But also see Dad, just because I was talking
to some guy on the Internet who does extreme sports
doesn't mean I have to skateboard.
You know what? I have other things
that I can bring to the table.
Yeah, it's probably not a-- not a good idea.
[Whitney] I don't remember ever feeling
this way about someone immediately,
except for how I felt about Avi. [chuckles softly]
Like, literally before I even met Avi,
I called my mom and said, "Mom, I just met the man I'm gonna marry."
And we all know how that one turned out.
He's right there.
He's right there, outside.
-[Nada] Really? -[Whitney] Holi... [bleep]
Give me the-- Give me the camera he's right there.
I can see him. [bleep]
[bleeping]
You get off first I'm gonna film you. Get out first.
Go. Go!
Shouldn't you say sorry to me?
[Avi] Okay. This isn't cool. This is ridiculous.
[Whitney] You are what's ridiculous.
So you're-- You're still not going to...
-give any explanation -[Whitney] You don't have anything else to say.
[car lock beeps]
Being humiliated it sucks, doesn't it?
[car starting]
[tires screech]
[engine revs]
[Whitney] So maybe it's not a good omen.
But just talking to men
is still something good ultimately.
And I, for one, I am very proud of myself.
[Glenn] Well, have you thought about anything special
for your 40th birthday?
Well, yes. We're going to have a nice dinner.
A flamenco performance.
Go to the beach.
What do you think Hunter ought to get me?
You know...
It's hard to buy for you
because you've got everything that you want.
Well... [scoffing]
-Not everything. -[Glenn] I mean, material things.
I mean, we can't buy you a guy off the Internet.
Well, I wouldn't pay any--
-any man that would make me pay. I wouldn't want. -[Glenn chuckles]
Well, I am hopeful that you're going to find
somebody that you're, you really like.
For you and Hunter to find you know, your love interest.
And I'd be really happy as you know.
-I know that's all you're living for. -[Glenn chuckles]
Well, I found this.
Your mother's engagement ring.
Dad. This no. Mmm-mmm.
Why do you have this?
[Glenn] Well, just in case Hunter gets to the point,
he might ask her to get married, maybe get engaged.
If he does, then he'll have a ring to give her.
[Whitney] My mother never wore her engagement ring
from my father, actually.
She only wore her wedding bands.
And so, she was always putting this ring aside
for Hunter to give to his future fiancee.
And honestly,
I would totally support Hunter giving it to Karen.
I'm with it.
But not, if that's not what Hunter and Karen want.
Well, you don't think he's gonna
think to take it with him, do you?
[chuckles]
No, and I think that
that's his business
Just being prepared.
[Whitney chuckles]
Karen from the day that we met her at the premiere,
has really fit into our family.
But the most important person in that equation is Hunter,
and it's time to start thinking
about getting engaged, I think
and [chuckles] I don't--
I'm not sure they're on the same timeline that I am.
But-- But I want--
I want them to move on to the next level.
I think you need to put that back where you found it.
But wouldn't it be nice
if he said, I wish I had this ring with me.
-And we'd say-- -Dad, I don't think--
[both chuckle]
-I don't-- -And we'd say, "Well, by the way..."
-We wouldn't say anything. -[Glenn laughing]
We are not part of this.
I'm not part of this.
You're not lumping me in on this.
Let's let's put out the boundaries.
Hunter's allowed to get married,
-but not on my birthday trip. -[Glenn chuckles] Yeah.
Not planning it on this trip.
Dad, you-- You literally are trying to bring an engagement ring.
What do you mean?
You're not planning it on this trip?
Engagement is not getting married.
Can have my 40th birthday,
and Hunter and Karen can get engaged
-at some other juncture of time? -Okay.
[groans]
This is my 40th birthday trip.
I'm already in the midst of a midlife crisis,
and if someone else gets engaged
right in front of me, I will lose it.
Well, I love the clothes.
Where's the ring box?
I got it in my pocket. I'm going. Put it up.
-You want to see my pics? -Yes, we do.
What's on the lens?
[Whitney] My panties.
[both chuckle]
[Whitney] The nudes, Lord [bleep] Help me, Lord,
I don't know where I get the confidence.
-Oh, my God! -[Whitney] Oh, my gosh!
But it ain't right.
[Tal chuckles] God!
[upbeat music playing]
-[Tal] Hello! -[door closes]
Whitney?
-[Whitney] Yeah? -Hi.
[Whitney] Hey, Goose.
Is it uncle Tal?
[Tal] She was coming to me, and then she went away.
[Whitney] Oh, she thinks you're gonna throw a toy.
-[Tal] Oh, I'm so sorry to disappoint you. -[Whitney] Goose-ee!
I've been working so hard
on doing my homework for the matchmaker.
So Tal has come over to help me look through
some of the proofs
that the photographer sent me.
So that I can decide which ones I want her to edit
and then eventually include them in my matchmaking portfolio.
-How are you? -Oh, good.
-How are you? -I'm okay.
-Good. -Yeah.
[Whitney] I'm also very eager to catch up
with Tal to see how he's doing.
and hopefully lift his spirits a bit.
I need to cuddle.
Come here.
Feeling excited for Spain?
[Whitney] Yeah.
I hope I can go to Spain
because I'm not sure I can take a trip
while I'm on leave from work
to do treatment and--
[Whitney] I don't know, but I would be shocked.
if that's going to actually be an issue.
[Tal] Well, you know me, I'm anxious and I'm a rule follower.
-That's true. -But I called HR just to be sure,
-and I'm waiting for them to call me back. -Oh...
So cross all your fingers and toes.
Todd, did you know Tal's in the mental health treatment?
[Todd] Yeah, he's a counselor.
[Whitney] No, he's an outpatient now.
[Tal] I don't mean what I do professionally.
[Whitney] He's taking-- He's taking a sabbatical
from work and he's in treatment.
I'm a client.
And you're finally participating in your own recovery.
[Whitney laughs hysterically]
-[Tal chuckles] I'm trying. -It ain't all working.
That sounds like how long this is going to go.
That's rich.
-Okay, well... -[Tal] Wow.
-...let's take a look. -[Todd laughs]
Let's pivot. Y'all want to see my pics?
-[Tal] Yes, we do. -[Whitney] Because Goosey is on her pics.
[Tal] So these are going to be like for a profile.
No, these will be for the portfolio.
I mean, I can use them on my dating profiles.
[Tal] That is amazing.
[Whitney] This photo is like for Goose's dating profile, and I'm the prop.
-You know what I mean? -[Todd] I love
the silver streaks through her ear hair.
-[Whitney] Oh. -[Todd] Your hair isn't that good.
-[Tal] The windblown look... -It is-- It is just enough.
Just-- Just walking. Just to show people I can walk.
[Tal] Ooh!
-I like that one. -Oh, you look just like
you could be in a magazine.
-You like that one? -[Tal] I like this one.
[Todd] That could be in Vogue.
-You should include that one for sure. -Oh. Okay.
[Tal] Whitney looks so beautiful,
and she's like such a good model.
It's like she is being really bold.
She's continuing to put herself out there.
It's just really cool to see and inspiring to me.
I love that.
[Todd] You look so tall. You look 5'13".
[Tal] I think you have a lot to work with.
-[Todd] Okay. -That's gorgeous.
-[Whitney] Thank you. -[Tal] That one might be my favorite overall.
[Todd] You look like high school.
[Tal] Turning 40, but looking like you did in senior year.
[Whitney] Oh, I love this one.
Sensuous as I wanna be.
[Tal] Mmm-hmm. I like that one.
-Gorgeous. -[Whitney] I love that one.
We look at-- So we're looking at
something off in the distance.
It's a little mysterious.
[Tal laughs]
Oh, God.
What's on the lens?
[Whitney] My panties.
Oh! [laughs]
Oh, my God!
-[Whitney] Oh, my gosh! -[Tal] Aww!
[Whitney] The nudes! Lord, help me! Lord, I...
I don't know where I get the confidence.
-[Todd] There's a crevasse. -[Whitney laughs hysterically]
[Todd] There's a crevasse and then a crevice.
[Whitney continues laughs hysterically]
But it ain't right.
[Todd speaking]
[Whitney] I'm already-- I'm already--
Look, look, don't blame me.
I'm already in Spain. Look, let's do it right now.
So I'm in travel mode. Marbella...
[clicks tongue]
[Tal] So you've gotten a lot of matches over there so far?
[Whitney] Oh, yeah.
Between reaching out to men in the real world
and crushing my matchmaking homework
and how good these photos turned out,
the nude ones, especially.
I am really feeling myself,
and I may not be going to Spain for a long time,
but I will be going for a good time.
Um, David
-[Whitney] Oh! -[Todd] Oh, it's a video.
[Whitney] While I'm not on the apps.
Like looking for a new relationship,
I can look for something to spice up my 40th birthday.
I mean, I've been eating American Franks my whole life.
What is wrong with a little Spanish salchichon?
-[phone ringing] -HR is calling me back.
-[Whitney] Oh, it's HR? -Yeah.
Oh, do you need to go slip away?
-Uh... -Well, let's find out.
[Tal] Hello?
[Whitney whispers] Oh, God.
-[door creaks] -[Tal] Hello.
[Whitney speaking]
[Todd] Why has he got-- Why has he gone to talk to them for.
-Is that about Spain. -Yeah
[Tal] This has been uh, a big deal for me
to get to take this time,
so I wanted to make sure everything was on the up and up.
So I really appreciate you checking that out.
I don't want to do anything to compromise my job,
and at the same time
I would be devastated if I didn't get to go.
I mean, this isn't just any trip.
It's Whitney's 40th,
so I'm just hoping and praying.
And crossing everything I've got that this works out.
Well, I'd be worried for his mental health
if we all get to go on a trip and he gets left behind.
I struggle with my mental health,
and I know that traveling, reconnecting,
relaxing, I'm having new and novel experiences.
Like I'm never happier than when I travel.
But I mean, I think it would be good for him.
And he was so excited about it when I told him so.
I-- [sighs] I do hope there's a way
that he can still come on my birthday trip to Spain.
and also I just-- I feel anxious
about being far away from him.
During this time, personally.
[singing in Spanish]
[Whitney] Next time on My Big Fat Fabulous Life...
[whooping]
[all cheering]
Have you been talking to anybody
-on apps-- -[Whitney squeals] I want to message somebody.
-Wait, I liked one. -[overlapping conversation]
-[Jessica] Oh, he looks nice. -[Whitney] I'm going for it.
If I could snag,
like even one date for my birthday trip,
things would be really looking up.
You're just really putting up there.
Well, what else am I supposed to do to reach out?
[man] If we're gonna do a nude beach...
-[screams] -...we're gonna be nude at the beach.
[bleep]
I have no idea what the hell he's doing.
We're on a nude beach.
[man screaming]
[laughing]