1 00:00:00,333 --> 00:00:02,702 [Phor] Nina and my son are moving to Atlanta 2 00:00:02,702 --> 00:00:04,571 and I've been dreading this day, I ain't gonna lie. 3 00:00:08,575 --> 00:00:11,044 - So what about your pops? Where he at? 4 00:00:11,044 --> 00:00:13,012 - He's in New York. You wanna come 5 00:00:13,012 --> 00:00:15,115 for emotional support? - Hey, look, 6 00:00:15,115 --> 00:00:16,616 more than emotional support. [Draya laughing] 7 00:00:16,616 --> 00:00:18,084 - If he acting bad... - Security. 8 00:00:18,084 --> 00:00:19,586 - ...we might just have to smash him. 9 00:00:19,586 --> 00:00:20,520 - Oh, my God. 10 00:00:20,520 --> 00:00:21,955 - They're not your friends. 11 00:00:21,955 --> 00:00:25,392 They're your employees and you've gotta hold that. 12 00:00:25,392 --> 00:00:27,160 Otherwise they're gonna keep stepping over you. 13 00:00:27,160 --> 00:00:28,461 - So I've gotta be the bad guy. 14 00:00:28,461 --> 00:00:31,264 - So you can spend the time with your kids. 15 00:00:31,264 --> 00:00:32,732 [Ashley] They way you've been making me feel like 16 00:00:32,732 --> 00:00:35,402 what I'm doing is not as important as what you're doing. 17 00:00:35,402 --> 00:00:36,403 - How? What the [bleep] you doing? 18 00:00:36,403 --> 00:00:37,937 - That doesn't matter! 19 00:00:37,937 --> 00:00:40,340 I just wanna know that you believe in me and mean it! 20 00:00:40,340 --> 00:00:42,542 Don, don't make me look like I'm not doing anything! 21 00:00:42,542 --> 00:00:44,177 If you believe me-- - How? 22 00:00:44,177 --> 00:00:46,346 If that's what the [bleep] y'all feel, cool. 23 00:00:49,801 --> 00:00:51,737 - ♪ There's no more ordinary lifestyle ♪ 24 00:00:51,737 --> 00:00:53,805 ♪♪ 25 00:00:53,805 --> 00:00:56,375 ♪ We livin' for the moment talkin' right now ♪ 26 00:00:56,375 --> 00:00:59,478 ♪ Chi-Town, Chi-Town, Chi-Town ♪ 27 00:00:59,478 --> 00:01:02,180 ♪ Chi-Town, Chi-Town, Chi-Town ♪ 28 00:01:02,180 --> 00:01:04,549 ♪ We livin' for the moment talkin' right now ♪♪ 29 00:01:08,687 --> 00:01:10,722 ♪♪ 30 00:01:10,722 --> 00:01:13,625 - ♪ I been, I been king-like since royals had cake ♪ 31 00:01:13,625 --> 00:01:16,294 ♪ Man, I been, I been dope-like blowing smoke out the gate ♪ 32 00:01:16,294 --> 00:01:19,798 ♪ Man I been, I been top shelf since champagne... ♪♪ 33 00:01:19,798 --> 00:01:22,701 - I love New York! What's up, brother? 34 00:01:22,701 --> 00:01:24,536 How's it going, baby? Hey, let me know 35 00:01:24,536 --> 00:01:25,904 where the ladies at, you know what I'm saying? 36 00:01:25,904 --> 00:01:27,472 All right, baby, I love ya. 37 00:01:27,472 --> 00:01:29,775 Hey, I love New York, man. Ain't nobody shot at me yet. 38 00:01:29,775 --> 00:01:31,543 - That's the Empire State Building behind you. 39 00:01:31,543 --> 00:01:33,812 - Where's the Empire State? - Right there, behind us. 40 00:01:33,812 --> 00:01:36,848 - This, like, my third time in New York. 41 00:01:36,848 --> 00:01:39,351 So I'm really trying to soak it up this time. 42 00:01:39,351 --> 00:01:40,886 But I'm really out here to support Draya. 43 00:01:40,886 --> 00:01:42,654 You know, she's going out there to see her family. 44 00:01:42,654 --> 00:01:45,290 Like, I know she need a friend. You know what I'm saying? 45 00:01:45,290 --> 00:01:46,525 I know she would be there for me. 46 00:01:46,525 --> 00:01:48,326 [horn honking] How you feeling? 47 00:01:48,326 --> 00:01:49,895 - I'm happy to be home. - Okay. 48 00:01:49,895 --> 00:01:52,864 - I mean, I haven' been back since before the pandemic, 49 00:01:52,864 --> 00:01:54,533 so it's been awhile. 50 00:01:54,533 --> 00:01:56,735 I am finally home, and I'm a New Yorker 51 00:01:56,735 --> 00:01:59,171 through and through, straight from the Bronx. 52 00:01:59,171 --> 00:02:01,339 This is where I started my tattoo journey, 53 00:02:01,339 --> 00:02:05,177 so it's crazy to think that my extended unknown family 54 00:02:05,177 --> 00:02:07,579 have lived by the entire time. 55 00:02:07,579 --> 00:02:10,682 And I'm just finding out that my father and my siblings, 56 00:02:10,682 --> 00:02:11,850 they were there too. 57 00:02:11,850 --> 00:02:13,952 - Is you still meeting with Anastasia? 58 00:02:13,952 --> 00:02:15,687 - Yes. While we're in New York, 59 00:02:15,687 --> 00:02:17,556 Anastasia put together a dinner for me 60 00:02:17,556 --> 00:02:18,957 to meet my aunt, my cousins, 61 00:02:18,957 --> 00:02:21,793 and a couple of my uncles, and I am nervous. 62 00:02:21,793 --> 00:02:24,796 She also set up for me to meet my dad in a couple of days 63 00:02:24,796 --> 00:02:27,399 for the very first time, because, honestly, 64 00:02:27,399 --> 00:02:29,801 that's a get-together that you have to do one-on-one. 65 00:02:29,801 --> 00:02:31,703 I think we're here, I think we're here. 66 00:02:31,703 --> 00:02:33,538 ♪♪ 67 00:02:33,538 --> 00:02:35,841 - [Prince grunting] - All right, we are here. 68 00:02:35,841 --> 00:02:38,310 - You know what I'm saying? - You're excited. 69 00:02:39,778 --> 00:02:41,746 - ♪ Hey ♪ ♪ Here we go, here we go ♪ 70 00:02:41,746 --> 00:02:44,249 ♪ We don't play, we don't play It's about that time, time ♪ 71 00:02:44,249 --> 00:02:46,351 ♪ Get out of my way, get out of my way ♪♪ 72 00:02:46,351 --> 00:02:48,186 [Don] That was good-ass fun, though. 73 00:02:48,186 --> 00:02:49,721 - Yeah, man. 74 00:02:49,721 --> 00:02:51,923 - Good-ass work. - Always need that. 75 00:02:51,923 --> 00:02:54,226 - This the one place, like, I'm in control. 76 00:02:54,226 --> 00:02:56,127 - Oh, I feel you? - Like, I'm me. 77 00:02:56,127 --> 00:02:57,529 Like, I'm in control of my hard work. 78 00:02:57,529 --> 00:02:59,064 You know what I'm saying? - Yeah, for sure. 79 00:02:59,064 --> 00:03:01,566 - You ever been, like, woke up some days 80 00:03:01,566 --> 00:03:05,337 where you feel like you blessed but kind of like, 81 00:03:05,337 --> 00:03:07,172 "Ugh, man, I'm still just irritated, not happy"? 82 00:03:07,172 --> 00:03:09,608 - Not thankful? - Yeah-- no, I'm thankful, 83 00:03:09,608 --> 00:03:11,510 I'm more than thankful, but... 84 00:03:11,510 --> 00:03:13,345 you could be thankful and not satisfied at the same time. 85 00:03:13,345 --> 00:03:14,746 - Mm-hmm. - I'm still in that place 86 00:03:14,746 --> 00:03:17,315 where I just feel a little worn thin because 87 00:03:17,315 --> 00:03:21,286 I'm trying to find the balance between accomplishing my goals 88 00:03:21,286 --> 00:03:23,455 along with keeping everybody else happy, 89 00:03:23,455 --> 00:03:25,156 satisfied, feeling supported. - Sure. 90 00:03:25,156 --> 00:03:26,358 - I think I was having this conversation 91 00:03:26,358 --> 00:03:28,360 with Ashley the other day. - Mmm. 92 00:03:28,360 --> 00:03:29,828 - I'm fine with sacrifice, I'm fine-- 93 00:03:29,828 --> 00:03:31,496 I'm fine with putting everything on my back 94 00:03:31,496 --> 00:03:32,931 for you to do what you've gotta do. 95 00:03:32,931 --> 00:03:34,599 Hey, chase your dreams. 96 00:03:34,599 --> 00:03:35,934 I'm gonna do what I've gotta do on the side, 97 00:03:35,934 --> 00:03:37,903 but, like, I ain't gonna take away from you 98 00:03:37,903 --> 00:03:40,639 to get my [bleep] done type , [bleep]you get what I'm saying? 99 00:03:40,639 --> 00:03:43,008 It's just that while doing that, I-- 100 00:03:43,008 --> 00:03:45,043 You can't be coming at me about the most minute [bleep], 101 00:03:45,043 --> 00:03:47,779 because it's like, "Are you not seeing the bigger pictures 102 00:03:47,779 --> 00:03:50,549 of the sacrifices while I'm trying to be there for you?" 103 00:03:50,549 --> 00:03:51,616 - They only see what you're not doing. 104 00:03:51,616 --> 00:03:53,652 - Yeah. You've gotta recharge me 105 00:03:53,652 --> 00:03:56,021 so I keep doing what I'm doing and keep us above water. 106 00:03:56,021 --> 00:03:59,925 When I talk about recharging as a man, I'm simply saying, 107 00:03:59,925 --> 00:04:01,760 "Showing more appreciation towards me. 108 00:04:01,760 --> 00:04:03,662 "Taking the time to actually notice 109 00:04:03,662 --> 00:04:06,097 how hard I'm working to make sure that we're good." 110 00:04:06,097 --> 00:04:09,401 And so all I'm asking for her is just to wind down a little bit 111 00:04:09,401 --> 00:04:12,003 on how much pressure she's putting on me daily. 112 00:04:12,003 --> 00:04:14,105 I feel like she constantly makes me feel like 113 00:04:14,105 --> 00:04:15,173 I'm not doing enough. 114 00:04:15,173 --> 00:04:16,741 I'm not in a "[bleep] it" mode, 115 00:04:16,741 --> 00:04:18,777 but I'm more in a place of acceptance. 116 00:04:18,777 --> 00:04:20,545 - I was just gonna say that. - Where I'm kind of like, 117 00:04:20,545 --> 00:04:22,681 "You know what? I've gotta still do what I've gotta do, 118 00:04:22,681 --> 00:04:24,449 "because I've gotta still hit certain points, 119 00:04:24,449 --> 00:04:27,385 "and I'm hoping that you grow along that journey with me 120 00:04:27,385 --> 00:04:29,888 so that we ca-- you can experience it with me." 121 00:04:29,888 --> 00:04:32,524 People grow-- grow with us or they not. 122 00:04:32,524 --> 00:04:34,025 - Yeah-- - That's what I'm learning. 123 00:04:34,025 --> 00:04:35,527 - No, I-- I-- I feel that. 124 00:04:35,527 --> 00:04:37,495 - After our fight last week, I asked Ashley 125 00:04:37,495 --> 00:04:39,197 to join me in one of my therapy sessions. 126 00:04:39,197 --> 00:04:42,000 I needed us to be able to talk in a controlled setting. 127 00:04:42,000 --> 00:04:43,969 You know, this actually has to happen 128 00:04:43,969 --> 00:04:45,403 for the health of our family 129 00:04:45,403 --> 00:04:47,906 and because we actually genuinely love each other. 130 00:04:47,906 --> 00:04:49,608 - I'm dealing with that right now with Nina. 131 00:04:49,608 --> 00:04:51,643 - How did the move go? 132 00:04:51,643 --> 00:04:53,878 - Better than I expected. 133 00:04:53,878 --> 00:04:56,848 I know this may have not been ideal, but also... 134 00:04:56,848 --> 00:04:58,583 we were making the best out of it, you know what I mean? 135 00:04:58,583 --> 00:05:00,085 - Right, right, right. - So let's move like parents, 136 00:05:00,085 --> 00:05:01,920 bro, you know what I'm saying? For our son. That's it. 137 00:05:01,920 --> 00:05:04,155 - I mean, that's-- that's common sense. 138 00:05:04,155 --> 00:05:06,591 - It was hard for me to watch my son leave me like that. 139 00:05:06,591 --> 00:05:08,627 I definitely feel like a part of me is missing. 140 00:05:08,627 --> 00:05:10,562 But it does make me feel better about moving to Dallas, 141 00:05:10,562 --> 00:05:12,163 knowing that they'll be safe in ATL. 142 00:05:12,163 --> 00:05:15,133 And it's official now that I'm moving to Dallas full-time. 143 00:05:15,133 --> 00:05:17,736 I'm excited to see where this journey takes me. 144 00:05:17,736 --> 00:05:19,304 I mean, I wanna get along with-- I wanna make this [bleep] 145 00:05:19,304 --> 00:05:20,772 smooth as possible. 146 00:05:20,772 --> 00:05:22,807 As long as she knows that I'm still on her side, 147 00:05:22,807 --> 00:05:24,809 like, I'm still on her team, you know what I mean? 148 00:05:24,809 --> 00:05:27,078 - Yeah, it's so-- but I mean, honestly, bro, it's a-- 149 00:05:27,078 --> 00:05:30,348 [bleep], it's a level of trying to get there, but, uh... 150 00:05:30,348 --> 00:05:31,850 - It's gonna be a process. 151 00:05:31,850 --> 00:05:34,786 - You know, I'm proud of my brother for being able 152 00:05:34,786 --> 00:05:38,056 to recognize, with his maturity, that the hard decision 153 00:05:38,056 --> 00:05:39,658 was the right decision. 154 00:05:39,658 --> 00:05:40,925 Let's go get something to eat, though. 155 00:05:40,925 --> 00:05:42,260 - Hell, yeah. 156 00:05:42,260 --> 00:05:43,762 - Cold. - [bleep]. 157 00:05:43,762 --> 00:05:45,130 - I'll tell you, that Dallas move 158 00:05:45,130 --> 00:05:46,698 don't sound like a bad trip to get into-- 159 00:05:46,698 --> 00:05:49,034 - Come on, man, come on, man. 160 00:05:51,102 --> 00:05:53,471 ♪♪ 161 00:05:56,708 --> 00:05:59,844 - ♪ We've got our whole lives ahead ♪ 162 00:05:59,844 --> 00:06:02,781 ♪ We've got a million things in our head ♪ 163 00:06:02,781 --> 00:06:05,316 ♪ When we are alone we can do wonders ♪ 164 00:06:05,316 --> 00:06:08,453 ♪ But we doing better when we with each other ♪♪ 165 00:06:08,453 --> 00:06:09,654 [Prince] You sure that don't say "marijuana"? 166 00:06:09,654 --> 00:06:11,322 [Draya] - It's a drink. 167 00:06:11,322 --> 00:06:13,391 Mamajuana. - No-- yeah, 168 00:06:13,391 --> 00:06:14,959 draw an "R" on that "M." 169 00:06:14,959 --> 00:06:16,094 [Draya chuckling] 170 00:06:16,094 --> 00:06:17,662 - We have a lot to celebrate, right? 171 00:06:17,662 --> 00:06:19,330 - I'm saying, though, you know what I'm saying? 172 00:06:19,330 --> 00:06:21,066 - You're in New York. - Yeah. 173 00:06:21,066 --> 00:06:22,667 - I'm about to meet the fam-fam. 174 00:06:22,667 --> 00:06:25,937 - I'm saying, though, I'm gonna just sit right here, all right? 175 00:06:25,937 --> 00:06:27,539 - Emotional support. - If I see something, 176 00:06:27,539 --> 00:06:29,174 I'm gonna say something. 177 00:06:29,174 --> 00:06:32,343 I feel like you'll be all right. - Yeah, it should be good. 178 00:06:34,913 --> 00:06:36,614 [Draya] I've only spoke to Anastasia, 179 00:06:36,614 --> 00:06:38,049 so this will be the first time 180 00:06:38,049 --> 00:06:40,218 that I'll actually be speaking to these people. 181 00:06:40,218 --> 00:06:42,721 Getting to know them can mean having a whole new family 182 00:06:42,721 --> 00:06:45,657 that I've never had before. And I'm not gonna lie, 183 00:06:45,657 --> 00:06:47,158 I'm really grateful that Prince is here 184 00:06:47,158 --> 00:06:50,261 because his presence is making this a lot easier on me. 185 00:06:50,261 --> 00:06:52,130 So you've never been to the Statue of Liberty, 186 00:06:52,130 --> 00:06:55,667 Empire State Building? - Like, inside of her? 187 00:06:56,968 --> 00:06:58,770 - Don't say that out loud. [Draya laughing] 188 00:06:58,770 --> 00:07:00,605 - But I'm saying, like-- - Nah, come on. 189 00:07:00,605 --> 00:07:02,707 - Hey! - Hey! 190 00:07:02,707 --> 00:07:04,976 - What's up? - Hi! 191 00:07:04,976 --> 00:07:07,178 - How are you? - I'm good. How are you? 192 00:07:07,178 --> 00:07:08,646 - You remember Prince, right? - I'm good. 193 00:07:08,646 --> 00:07:10,081 - Hi, Prince. How are you doing? 194 00:07:10,081 --> 00:07:11,750 - What's up, girl? I like that shirt and pants. 195 00:07:11,750 --> 00:07:13,151 - Thank you, thank you. 196 00:07:13,151 --> 00:07:15,453 Had to get the streetwear look a little bit. 197 00:07:15,453 --> 00:07:18,623 - I like how, like, we're all matching, though, low-key. 198 00:07:18,623 --> 00:07:20,759 We need a-- we need a picture, we need a picture. 199 00:07:20,759 --> 00:07:23,962 So, only expecting you today? 200 00:07:29,067 --> 00:07:31,069 - I don't wanna lie... 201 00:07:31,069 --> 00:07:33,838 but really it's-- it's-- it's just me. 202 00:07:33,838 --> 00:07:37,609 Me is all I've got for you. I'm sorry. 203 00:07:37,609 --> 00:07:40,011 It's-- - What-- okay. 204 00:07:40,011 --> 00:07:42,313 ♪♪ 205 00:07:42,313 --> 00:07:45,016 Why didn't I-- like, did they give you an explanation? 206 00:07:45,016 --> 00:07:47,652 'Cause last we spoke, everybody-- 207 00:07:47,652 --> 00:07:48,887 - No explanation. 208 00:07:48,887 --> 00:07:51,089 Just flopping, just constant flopping. 209 00:07:52,690 --> 00:07:54,526 - You coming here as a family representative 210 00:07:54,526 --> 00:07:56,661 because I only have a relationship with you. 211 00:07:56,661 --> 00:07:57,996 You know what I'm saying? - It's embarrassing, 212 00:07:57,996 --> 00:07:59,464 though, regardless. Like, you're grown, 213 00:07:59,464 --> 00:08:00,899 and I know that you've got your own, 214 00:08:00,899 --> 00:08:02,767 and I know that, but it is embarrassing to have 215 00:08:02,767 --> 00:08:04,469 no one show up for you. 216 00:08:04,469 --> 00:08:06,504 - I wish I could say I was surprised 217 00:08:06,504 --> 00:08:09,841 but a lifetime of bull[bleep] and excuses 218 00:08:09,841 --> 00:08:12,677 really prepared me for this moment. 219 00:08:12,677 --> 00:08:15,580 - I ain't gonna lie, I feel for Draya, this is cold. 220 00:08:15,580 --> 00:08:17,882 Clearly, her family don't know who she is. 221 00:08:17,882 --> 00:08:20,618 You know, how great of an artist she is 222 00:08:20,618 --> 00:08:22,220 or how great of a person she is. 223 00:08:22,220 --> 00:08:26,758 - I put myself out on the line, been vulnerable enough 224 00:08:26,758 --> 00:08:29,894 to come and meet up with a bunch of strangers 225 00:08:29,894 --> 00:08:31,696 that I don't [bleep] know. - [Anastasia] Exactly. 226 00:08:31,696 --> 00:08:33,331 - But, like, is this the family dynamic? 227 00:08:33,331 --> 00:08:35,033 Is this what the [bleep] this family is about? 228 00:08:35,033 --> 00:08:36,634 Because I'm gonna keep it real with you, 229 00:08:36,634 --> 00:08:39,337 if this is what it is, I don't want no part. 230 00:08:39,337 --> 00:08:41,139 - They all know you're on the show, right? 231 00:08:41,139 --> 00:08:42,974 So everyone's so excite-- it's-- it's [bleep] embarrassing. 232 00:08:42,974 --> 00:08:44,676 - Yeah, but [bleep] the cameras, it's not about-- 233 00:08:44,676 --> 00:08:46,644 - Yes, exactly-- - This is real-life [bleep], 234 00:08:46,644 --> 00:08:48,646 this is my life, like I told you, 235 00:08:48,646 --> 00:08:51,349 I choose to put my life on a TV show 236 00:08:51,349 --> 00:08:53,985 and-- and-- and share my experience with people. 237 00:08:53,985 --> 00:08:56,855 I ain't never told none of y'all that y'all have to do that. 238 00:08:56,855 --> 00:08:58,323 None of y'all. And I told y'all, 239 00:08:58,323 --> 00:09:00,158 if y'all felt uncomfortable with doing this [bleep] 240 00:09:00,158 --> 00:09:02,460 on national television, I would be okay 241 00:09:02,460 --> 00:09:03,928 with coming to meet y'all privately. 242 00:09:03,928 --> 00:09:06,264 But everybody was like, "No, it's okay. 243 00:09:06,264 --> 00:09:07,665 We think this is awesome." 244 00:09:07,665 --> 00:09:09,667 Come on, man, this [bleep] is [bleep] crazy. 245 00:09:09,667 --> 00:09:12,070 Like, I just found my family, my whole other 246 00:09:12,070 --> 00:09:13,838 half of my family. - Exactly. 247 00:09:13,838 --> 00:09:15,340 - A whole part of me that I didn't even know 248 00:09:15,340 --> 00:09:16,774 I would ever find. 249 00:09:16,774 --> 00:09:18,610 - It's like part of me feels like it's my fault 250 00:09:18,610 --> 00:09:20,511 'cause I don't really-- I really don't 251 00:09:20,511 --> 00:09:22,013 bang with some people, you know? 252 00:09:22,013 --> 00:09:24,415 But it's just the people that had my hopes up too. 253 00:09:24,415 --> 00:09:27,452 Like, if y'all was really, like, okay with this, like-- 254 00:09:27,452 --> 00:09:29,387 - All they'd have to do is say, "Look, we-- we good," 255 00:09:29,387 --> 00:09:31,723 or, "We're not gonna be able to make it" from the gate 256 00:09:31,723 --> 00:09:33,224 and don't get my hopes up, and I would've been 257 00:09:33,224 --> 00:09:36,628 all right, I would've been okay. 258 00:09:36,628 --> 00:09:38,062 I'm gonna just-- I'm gonna take a minute, though. 259 00:09:38,062 --> 00:09:40,465 I'll be right back. [Draya clearing throat] 260 00:09:40,465 --> 00:09:41,966 - You good? 261 00:09:41,966 --> 00:09:44,502 - Yeah, I'll be right back. - I'll-- I'll be back. 262 00:09:44,502 --> 00:09:46,471 Don't go nowhere. 263 00:09:46,471 --> 00:09:49,007 - I just really can't believe that these people have 264 00:09:49,007 --> 00:09:50,408 known about me my entire life, 265 00:09:50,408 --> 00:09:53,912 and nobody thought to reach out or look me up. 266 00:09:53,912 --> 00:09:57,215 I mean, how cold can you be? 267 00:09:57,215 --> 00:10:02,020 My dad has one chance to get this right. 268 00:10:02,020 --> 00:10:04,956 If my father doesn't show up in a couple of days, 269 00:10:04,956 --> 00:10:07,492 I think I'm not gonna give him another chance 270 00:10:07,492 --> 00:10:09,093 to disappoint me. 271 00:10:09,093 --> 00:10:11,562 - Hey, even though this some real [bleep], though, 272 00:10:11,562 --> 00:10:13,665 ain't nobody's family perfect, though. 273 00:10:13,665 --> 00:10:15,633 You know what I'm saying? - Bro, you ain't 274 00:10:15,633 --> 00:10:16,935 gotta have a perfect family, 275 00:10:16,935 --> 00:10:18,369 but you've gotta at least have a family 276 00:10:18,369 --> 00:10:20,471 that show the [bleep] up. Like, you know when 277 00:10:20,471 --> 00:10:22,440 I first heard about my father was at my mother's funeral. 278 00:10:22,440 --> 00:10:24,609 A man came up to me and was like, "I know your father", 279 00:10:24,609 --> 00:10:26,811 at my mother's funeral, bro. 280 00:10:26,811 --> 00:10:28,413 Why would you wanna put somebody through that? 281 00:10:28,413 --> 00:10:30,882 Just leave me the [bleep] alone? - Here's my thing-- 282 00:10:30,882 --> 00:10:35,153 if you say you're done, right, be done. 283 00:10:35,153 --> 00:10:38,823 Don't be done for no other reason 284 00:10:38,823 --> 00:10:41,592 but for you wanting to be done with the [bleep]. 285 00:10:41,592 --> 00:10:43,361 - Yeah, I don't want that in my life. 286 00:10:43,361 --> 00:10:45,830 I don't. 287 00:10:45,830 --> 00:10:48,666 - Just don't think about it too much. 288 00:10:52,403 --> 00:10:53,604 [all cheering] 289 00:10:53,604 --> 00:10:55,473 [Tatti] Oh, welcome to Black Ink! 290 00:10:55,473 --> 00:10:57,942 - What a surprise! 291 00:10:57,942 --> 00:11:01,112 - Look, booths filled, booths empty. 292 00:11:01,112 --> 00:11:02,981 I've gotta pay for these [bleep] empty booths. 293 00:11:02,981 --> 00:11:07,018 I figured the goal of 9MAG is to be the top tier. 294 00:11:07,018 --> 00:11:08,219 But at the end of the day, 295 00:11:08,219 --> 00:11:09,754 everybody could leave this [bleep] 296 00:11:09,754 --> 00:11:11,389 and I could just make it all about business. 297 00:11:11,389 --> 00:11:15,126 - Relationships tend to fail because of unmet expectations. 298 00:11:15,126 --> 00:11:16,828 - If we don't find that place to meet, 299 00:11:16,828 --> 00:11:18,062 where it's like she's gonna go this way, 300 00:11:18,062 --> 00:11:19,530 I'm gonna just keep going that way. 301 00:11:19,530 --> 00:11:24,535 - Your language is giving me separation options. 302 00:11:24,535 --> 00:11:26,104 - Yeah. 303 00:11:29,201 --> 00:11:30,769 - ♪ Chi-Town, Chi-Town, Chi-Town ♪♪ 304 00:11:30,769 --> 00:11:35,340 ♪♪ 305 00:11:35,340 --> 00:11:36,942 - ♪ I'm gonna stay into the grind ♪ 306 00:11:36,942 --> 00:11:38,643 ♪ But I grind harder ♪ 307 00:11:38,643 --> 00:11:41,313 ♪ Not that you don't shine but I shine harder ♪ 308 00:11:41,313 --> 00:11:44,149 ♪ All with this ambition that we... ♪♪ 309 00:11:44,149 --> 00:11:46,151 - After last night's disaster with my family, 310 00:11:46,151 --> 00:11:48,153 I need something to lift my spirits. 311 00:11:48,153 --> 00:11:51,289 I need something really New York. 312 00:11:51,289 --> 00:11:53,091 [bowl dinging] - [Young Bae] What is this? 313 00:11:53,091 --> 00:11:56,194 - It's a singing bowl, but you're doing it the wrong way. 314 00:11:56,194 --> 00:11:58,330 [Tatti laughing] 315 00:11:58,330 --> 00:12:00,098 - You're gonna do it? I'll go ahead and do it. 316 00:12:00,098 --> 00:12:02,401 Watch, look. Hold on. 317 00:12:02,401 --> 00:12:03,835 [bowl dinging] 318 00:12:03,835 --> 00:12:05,203 Look, look, look... 319 00:12:05,203 --> 00:12:07,606 [all cheering] - Oh, welcome to Black Ink! 320 00:12:07,606 --> 00:12:11,610 [bowl dinging] 321 00:12:11,610 --> 00:12:13,612 What a surprise! 322 00:12:13,612 --> 00:12:16,014 - This is my first time being in one of y'all's shops. 323 00:12:16,014 --> 00:12:18,850 This is nice. - Yes, welcome to Brooklyn. 324 00:12:18,850 --> 00:12:20,252 - What you gonna be doing out here? 325 00:12:20,252 --> 00:12:21,787 Change of scenery for a second? 326 00:12:21,787 --> 00:12:23,422 - Just a little while. - Word. 327 00:12:23,422 --> 00:12:25,290 [bleep] call on the phone, you'll be, "Man, I'm gone." 328 00:12:25,290 --> 00:12:27,058 I let the [bleep] know I'm out of town. 329 00:12:27,058 --> 00:12:29,928 I'm out of town, I'm gone. You know, I-- kind of tense 330 00:12:29,928 --> 00:12:31,263 or whatever the [bleep] you calling me for. 331 00:12:31,263 --> 00:12:33,298 Leave me the [bleep] alone. - What? 332 00:12:33,298 --> 00:12:34,900 - What the [bleep] did you just say? 333 00:12:34,900 --> 00:12:37,002 - You don't listen, [bleep]? 334 00:12:37,002 --> 00:12:40,005 Basically, [bleep]'s calling my phone, right, 335 00:12:40,005 --> 00:12:41,907 and I told him, "I'm OT." 336 00:12:41,907 --> 00:12:43,208 OT, that's "out of town." 337 00:12:43,208 --> 00:12:45,410 New York just don't get me. 338 00:12:45,410 --> 00:12:47,345 Like, I don't understand what the [bleep] I've gotta do. 339 00:12:47,345 --> 00:12:49,314 I've gotta talk like I'm from Brooklyn? 340 00:12:49,314 --> 00:12:52,818 "Hey, I'm walking here! What you wanna do?" 341 00:12:52,818 --> 00:12:54,186 - Who called who? You called who? 342 00:12:54,186 --> 00:12:56,021 - If a [bleep] calls me-- one of the guys. 343 00:12:56,021 --> 00:12:57,923 - Spydey, you know Draya from the Bronx? 344 00:12:57,923 --> 00:12:59,224 - Yeah, fact. - How crazy is it that 345 00:12:59,224 --> 00:13:00,425 we're seeing her in Brooklyn? 346 00:13:00,425 --> 00:13:02,861 - First of all, they came from Chicago, 347 00:13:02,861 --> 00:13:05,163 so that's even crazier-- - She from Iraq. 348 00:13:05,163 --> 00:13:06,731 - I'm not gonna lie, I was totally confused. 349 00:13:06,731 --> 00:13:08,900 The whole time he's like, "So tell me about the city." 350 00:13:08,900 --> 00:13:11,369 I'm like, "Well, you know, we've got Queens, 351 00:13:11,369 --> 00:13:13,805 we've got Jersey, we've got Harlem, but we've got Brooklyn." 352 00:13:13,805 --> 00:13:15,373 Bronx girls don't go to Brooklyn, though. 353 00:13:15,373 --> 00:13:16,975 - Visiting New York and visiting Brooklyn is like visiting 354 00:13:16,975 --> 00:13:18,643 two different states. - Why is it different? 355 00:13:18,643 --> 00:13:20,312 - Why is it different? There's a million things. 356 00:13:20,312 --> 00:13:22,347 - 'Cause they're across the water [bleep] or what? 357 00:13:22,347 --> 00:13:25,350 - First of all, first of all-- no, bull[bleep]. 358 00:13:25,350 --> 00:13:27,018 - Ow! - Ow! 359 00:13:27,018 --> 00:13:28,653 - When I used to be on the committee 360 00:13:28,653 --> 00:13:30,689 for talking [bleep], I used to-- [Young Bae] Oh, my God, shut up! 361 00:13:30,689 --> 00:13:32,390 - A'ight, you don't wanna hear that, all right. 362 00:13:32,390 --> 00:13:35,861 But-- you ain't show him nothing since you get out here? 363 00:13:35,861 --> 00:13:37,696 Show all the new rats and stuff there? 364 00:13:37,696 --> 00:13:40,165 - Not yet. See, I've gotta get a rental first because-- 365 00:13:40,165 --> 00:13:41,466 can I be honest with you? 366 00:13:41,466 --> 00:13:43,034 I never got down on that train [bleep]. 367 00:13:43,034 --> 00:13:45,270 For some reason, I could never read the map 368 00:13:45,270 --> 00:13:46,905 and I [bleep] around and end up in Brooklyn. 369 00:13:46,905 --> 00:13:48,406 - Hold on, you're from New York, 370 00:13:48,406 --> 00:13:49,975 you don't know how to take the train? 371 00:13:49,975 --> 00:13:52,177 - Bro... I mean, you've gotta be ready 372 00:13:52,177 --> 00:13:53,879 for anything if you're gonna ride the New York subway. 373 00:13:53,879 --> 00:13:56,848 I think Spyder might be Prince's best bet 374 00:13:56,848 --> 00:13:58,850 for getting that full New York experience-- 375 00:13:58,850 --> 00:14:01,253 the nitty-gritty, how to get on the train, all the spots-- 376 00:14:01,253 --> 00:14:02,654 'cause I've been gone for a while. 377 00:14:02,654 --> 00:14:04,122 - So were-- were-- all y'all gonna be inking 378 00:14:04,122 --> 00:14:05,757 while y'all out here? - I plan to. 379 00:14:05,757 --> 00:14:07,526 I've got hella clients out here. - [Prince] I brought my [bleep]. 380 00:14:07,526 --> 00:14:09,327 - [Spyder] Oh, word? - I bring my [bleep] everywhere. 381 00:14:09,327 --> 00:14:11,997 - Hell, yeah, that's like a [bleep] American Express. 382 00:14:11,997 --> 00:14:14,065 [Spyder laughing] 383 00:14:14,065 --> 00:14:15,867 Never leave home without it. 384 00:14:15,867 --> 00:14:17,168 [Tatti] Let me show you the shop. 385 00:14:17,168 --> 00:14:18,503 Let me give you a little tour of the shop. 386 00:14:18,503 --> 00:14:20,338 - Yeah, hell, yeah. - So this is the lounge. 387 00:14:20,338 --> 00:14:23,775 Okay, that's the VIP chair you just rose from. 388 00:14:23,775 --> 00:14:25,644 So that's good, okay. 389 00:14:25,644 --> 00:14:27,245 Here we have our-- you know, our merchandise 390 00:14:27,245 --> 00:14:29,180 and our front desk or whatever. 391 00:14:29,180 --> 00:14:30,949 - Let me get a hat. 392 00:14:30,949 --> 00:14:32,183 - Where you wanna set up? 393 00:14:32,183 --> 00:14:33,952 - Yeah, so we've got six stations. 394 00:14:33,952 --> 00:14:36,121 - We get to pick? 395 00:14:36,121 --> 00:14:38,223 - You could pick one of the first two stations. 396 00:14:38,223 --> 00:14:40,492 - I think you should sit right here, you should sit right here. 397 00:14:40,492 --> 00:14:42,327 - Prince and I have been through the wringer 398 00:14:42,327 --> 00:14:43,862 on the Chicago tattoo scene. 399 00:14:43,862 --> 00:14:46,631 First at 2nd City and then onto 9MAG. 400 00:14:46,631 --> 00:14:49,301 And through it all, we've just become so much closer. 401 00:14:49,301 --> 00:14:52,704 So, obviously, I'm gonna enlist Prince to be the yin 402 00:14:52,704 --> 00:14:54,739 to my yang and collaborate with me on this piece. 403 00:14:54,739 --> 00:14:57,642 - ♪ Let's go we ready for anything given whoo ♪ 404 00:14:57,642 --> 00:14:59,311 ♪ I'm talking buried equipment whoo ♪ 405 00:14:59,311 --> 00:15:00,845 ♪ You know it's time to go get it ♪ 406 00:15:00,845 --> 00:15:03,081 ♪ You never did listen we very explicit ♪ 407 00:15:03,081 --> 00:15:05,283 - This is my first tattoo in New York 408 00:15:05,283 --> 00:15:07,953 and I'm doing it with my friend. She from New York. 409 00:15:07,953 --> 00:15:09,521 It's all good. 410 00:15:09,521 --> 00:15:11,289 - ♪ We're ready at all times it's a go ♪ 411 00:15:11,289 --> 00:15:12,757 ♪ That's where my mind is ♪ 412 00:15:12,757 --> 00:15:14,793 ♪ I got my both eyes on the goal ♪ 413 00:15:14,793 --> 00:15:16,127 ♪ That's where you find it ♪ 414 00:15:16,127 --> 00:15:18,330 - I have to say, I love the camaraderie between 415 00:15:18,330 --> 00:15:19,664 the shops and the artists. 416 00:15:19,664 --> 00:15:21,833 The fact that the Brooklyn shop is giving Prince 417 00:15:21,833 --> 00:15:24,502 and I a place to work is pretty cool. 418 00:15:24,502 --> 00:15:26,838 - ♪ We ready at all times its a go ♪ 419 00:15:26,838 --> 00:15:29,074 ♪ It's time that we ride ♪♪ 420 00:15:29,074 --> 00:15:30,241 - You ready to go take a look at it. 421 00:15:30,241 --> 00:15:32,310 All right, let's do it. 422 00:15:33,445 --> 00:15:35,714 - Ooh! 423 00:15:35,714 --> 00:15:38,383 Nah, it's fire! 424 00:15:38,383 --> 00:15:40,485 Okay! [Prince laughing] 425 00:15:40,485 --> 00:15:42,954 - Did we do that, did we do that? 426 00:15:42,954 --> 00:15:45,123 - That [bleep] decent. 427 00:15:45,123 --> 00:15:46,558 That's dope. You're gonna be able 428 00:15:46,558 --> 00:15:48,393 to show that off all the time. - Thank you. 429 00:15:48,393 --> 00:15:50,629 - For sure. Group hug. - You're welcome. 430 00:15:50,629 --> 00:15:52,864 Oh, yeah. 431 00:15:52,864 --> 00:15:55,033 Boom. 432 00:15:55,033 --> 00:15:56,101 ♪♪ 433 00:15:56,101 --> 00:15:59,004 - Oh, see, I would... 434 00:15:59,004 --> 00:16:01,106 [both laughing] - [Draya] We did that. 435 00:16:01,106 --> 00:16:04,042 - ♪ Right here right now ♪ 436 00:16:04,042 --> 00:16:06,811 ♪ So hard you never come down ♪ 437 00:16:06,811 --> 00:16:09,147 ♪ You're never going home ♪ 438 00:16:09,147 --> 00:16:13,184 ♪ You're never going home ♪♪ 439 00:16:13,184 --> 00:16:14,486 [woman] We ready to do this? 440 00:16:14,486 --> 00:16:16,621 - [Ashley] Mm-hmm. - How are you doing? 441 00:16:16,621 --> 00:16:20,325 - Uh, you know, good. - Good. Tired but... 442 00:16:20,325 --> 00:16:23,495 I was fine when Don suggested that we should go to therapy. 443 00:16:23,495 --> 00:16:25,397 I think that there's things that we needed to talk about 444 00:16:25,397 --> 00:16:28,800 and get off our chests, but this is Don's therapist. 445 00:16:28,800 --> 00:16:31,269 So I definitely hope that things are not just one-sided. 446 00:16:31,269 --> 00:16:34,472 - All right, so the first thing that I wanna say is this-- 447 00:16:34,472 --> 00:16:38,443 relationships tend to fail because of unmet expectation. 448 00:16:38,443 --> 00:16:42,113 What are some unmet expectations that still exist 449 00:16:42,113 --> 00:16:44,182 in your relationship right now? 450 00:16:44,182 --> 00:16:45,917 Ashley, we'll start with you. 451 00:16:45,917 --> 00:16:48,920 - Um... communication. 452 00:16:48,920 --> 00:16:52,223 Um, sometimes it kind of make me feel like number two, 453 00:16:52,223 --> 00:16:54,292 and it doesn't make me feel like a priority. 454 00:16:54,292 --> 00:16:57,128 - When you are triggered to feel like number two, 455 00:16:57,128 --> 00:16:58,596 what does that do to you? 456 00:16:58,596 --> 00:17:01,166 - I'm not gonna lie, I-I kinda go off. 457 00:17:01,166 --> 00:17:02,901 - Okay. - Yeah, I kind of go off 458 00:17:02,901 --> 00:17:04,536 and it become a big argument. 459 00:17:04,536 --> 00:17:06,304 I have a way with words sometimes, 460 00:17:06,304 --> 00:17:09,274 so sometimes my tone and my words can get out of hand. 461 00:17:09,274 --> 00:17:11,676 He is the same as well. - All righty. 462 00:17:11,676 --> 00:17:14,946 Don, what about you? What expectations are not being 463 00:17:14,946 --> 00:17:17,816 met in this relationship that you wish were happening? 464 00:17:17,816 --> 00:17:20,552 - I think for me my expectations keep changing. 465 00:17:20,552 --> 00:17:23,021 Not to, like, right now. Like, if we don't really find, 466 00:17:23,021 --> 00:17:26,424 like, a real middle place, it's like whatever changes 467 00:17:26,424 --> 00:17:28,660 or growth is gonna be changes that's apart. 468 00:17:28,660 --> 00:17:30,662 If we don't find that place to meet, 469 00:17:30,662 --> 00:17:32,130 where it's like she's gonna go this way, 470 00:17:32,130 --> 00:17:33,598 I'm gonna just keep going that way. 471 00:17:33,598 --> 00:17:36,568 - I keep hearing in your language that you're using, 472 00:17:36,568 --> 00:17:40,472 it is giving me separation options. 473 00:17:40,472 --> 00:17:42,640 - Yes, that's what it's giving me, and this 474 00:17:42,640 --> 00:17:44,909 is new to me as well, that's why I'm like-- 475 00:17:44,909 --> 00:17:46,745 - You keep saying everything's-- - It is because-- 476 00:17:46,745 --> 00:17:48,179 - Because these are my-- 477 00:17:48,179 --> 00:17:50,381 - No, these are not, no, these are not. 478 00:17:50,381 --> 00:17:51,916 - You get offended every time I say-- 479 00:17:51,916 --> 00:17:54,085 - No, today you're sounding like you're, like, over it. 480 00:17:54,085 --> 00:17:55,553 That's what you're sounding like. 481 00:17:55,553 --> 00:17:58,556 - Well, I sound like I'm over-- - Yes, you are, you are. 482 00:17:58,556 --> 00:18:00,391 - Okay, again... - You're sounding like 483 00:18:00,391 --> 00:18:01,793 you're over it. - This is why I shut down 484 00:18:01,793 --> 00:18:04,329 when we talk. - I don't know what Don thinks 485 00:18:04,329 --> 00:18:06,197 that he has been communicating with me, 486 00:18:06,197 --> 00:18:07,832 but he ain't never said none of this [bleep]. 487 00:18:07,832 --> 00:18:09,968 I mean, I love Don, but I'm not gonna sit here 488 00:18:09,968 --> 00:18:12,303 and let him talk to me like this and expect for me 489 00:18:12,303 --> 00:18:14,239 to still wanna be with him after all of this. 490 00:18:14,239 --> 00:18:16,374 If this is something that he feels, 491 00:18:16,374 --> 00:18:17,876 then we need to definitely talk about it 492 00:18:17,876 --> 00:18:20,378 because it feels as if he don't want this anymore. 493 00:18:20,378 --> 00:18:23,515 He has been becoming more and more distant towards me. 494 00:18:23,515 --> 00:18:25,984 Um, I feel like he pushes me away. 495 00:18:25,984 --> 00:18:29,420 To me, I feel like that's one of our biggest disconnects. 496 00:18:29,420 --> 00:18:32,090 - I do feel like we're emotionally disconnected. 497 00:18:32,090 --> 00:18:34,559 I told her, overall, I don't feel like 498 00:18:34,559 --> 00:18:38,196 anything she does is directly connected to me. 499 00:18:38,196 --> 00:18:40,632 I think she does what she do for the crib, 500 00:18:40,632 --> 00:18:42,167 she does what she do for the boys, 501 00:18:42,167 --> 00:18:44,402 but when it comes to me, I don't feel like 502 00:18:44,402 --> 00:18:46,671 there's any direct effort and to what it needs 503 00:18:46,671 --> 00:18:48,973 to be done for me as a wife to her husband. 504 00:18:48,973 --> 00:18:53,645 - As a wife and his friend and the mother of his kids, 505 00:18:53,645 --> 00:18:56,481 I do make sure that I look after him, 506 00:18:56,481 --> 00:18:58,716 our household and our kids. - I feel like 507 00:18:58,716 --> 00:19:00,351 you look out for the kids. - Okay. 508 00:19:00,351 --> 00:19:01,986 - I feel like you're a great mom. 509 00:19:01,986 --> 00:19:04,656 I keep telling you, you keep putting the criteria together 510 00:19:04,656 --> 00:19:06,157 of your check-- your own checkoff box 511 00:19:06,157 --> 00:19:07,892 of what you feel as a wife, 512 00:19:07,892 --> 00:19:10,061 but I keep telling you that's not meeting my same box. 513 00:19:10,061 --> 00:19:11,296 - Right, 'cause you're solo 514 00:19:11,296 --> 00:19:12,664 and you're not meeting my box as well. 515 00:19:12,664 --> 00:19:14,465 - That's what we come into agreements of. 516 00:19:14,465 --> 00:19:15,934 - Okay. 517 00:19:15,934 --> 00:19:18,736 - What I heard you say is, "You're not a good wife." 518 00:19:18,736 --> 00:19:22,874 That came out of your mouth, Don. 519 00:19:22,874 --> 00:19:23,875 - Yeah. 520 00:19:27,201 --> 00:19:28,836 - ♪ Chi-Town, Chi-Town, Chi-Town ♪♪ 521 00:19:28,836 --> 00:19:30,871 - So you said-- what I heard you say is, 522 00:19:30,871 --> 00:19:32,272 "You're not a good wife." 523 00:19:32,272 --> 00:19:35,776 That came out of your mouth, Don. 524 00:19:35,776 --> 00:19:37,111 - Yeah. 525 00:19:37,111 --> 00:19:39,213 - Okay, I want you to stop and pause on that. 526 00:19:39,213 --> 00:19:41,348 - Whoo-wee! 527 00:19:41,348 --> 00:19:44,351 I think I need to excuse myself. 528 00:19:44,351 --> 00:19:45,886 Can't believe what I'm hearing. 529 00:19:45,886 --> 00:19:47,521 I can't believe all this that I'm hearing 530 00:19:47,521 --> 00:19:49,423 from Don right now, like... 531 00:19:49,423 --> 00:19:51,158 I know me and him have issues, 532 00:19:51,158 --> 00:19:53,260 but you saying all these things 533 00:19:53,260 --> 00:19:55,929 that you never said to me before? 534 00:19:55,929 --> 00:19:57,531 Oh, this is [bleep] up. 535 00:19:57,531 --> 00:20:00,501 A man that feels like his wife is not a good wife-- 536 00:20:00,501 --> 00:20:02,569 why waste your time? 537 00:20:02,569 --> 00:20:04,405 Why is we even wasting our time? 538 00:20:04,405 --> 00:20:07,107 This is the very, very first time today I heard-- 539 00:20:07,107 --> 00:20:08,142 - On my grandmother... 540 00:20:08,142 --> 00:20:09,777 - Don, you have never told me 541 00:20:09,777 --> 00:20:12,246 that I was not a good wife. I ain't never that damn crazy 542 00:20:12,246 --> 00:20:15,382 to sit here and let anybody tell me "Oh, you're not a good wife." 543 00:20:15,382 --> 00:20:16,717 - Crazy? - And I'm just sitting here... 544 00:20:16,717 --> 00:20:18,519 - That makes you crazy. - I'm just sitting here 545 00:20:18,519 --> 00:20:21,688 prancing around, um, being cool with him, okay, but you're-- 546 00:20:21,688 --> 00:20:23,724 That's the point. Now you're changing it up. 547 00:20:23,724 --> 00:20:25,392 - That's what you do. - So if that's how you feel, 548 00:20:25,392 --> 00:20:26,927 you shoulda told me that [bleep] at home. 549 00:20:26,927 --> 00:20:28,495 - I been told you this before. - You have not told me 550 00:20:28,495 --> 00:20:30,464 that at home, 'cause if you did... 551 00:20:30,464 --> 00:20:32,800 - And this is what you do... - Don, okay. 552 00:20:32,800 --> 00:20:35,068 - How you never wanna hear what I say? 553 00:20:35,068 --> 00:20:38,739 When I say it, you get overly defensive because I'm being 554 00:20:38,739 --> 00:20:41,642 open about it because change needs to happen or we're not 555 00:20:41,642 --> 00:20:43,844 gonna be together, and when-- - Yes, but the biggest thing, 556 00:20:43,844 --> 00:20:45,546 you shoulda told me this. - You acting like... 557 00:20:45,546 --> 00:20:47,815 - I say this all the time! - You do not. 558 00:20:47,815 --> 00:20:49,983 - So let me talk to y'all. Let me talk to y'all. 559 00:20:49,983 --> 00:20:52,453 - Don't pretend like you do. - Don, Don, Don, look at me. 560 00:20:52,453 --> 00:20:55,856 - Every [bleep] time, bro. - Don? Don? 561 00:20:55,856 --> 00:20:57,691 - Acting like I don't talk to you. 562 00:20:57,691 --> 00:20:59,526 - You think I'm gonna sit here and let you tell me I'm not 563 00:20:59,526 --> 00:21:01,161 a good wife, and I'm gon' still be cool with you? 564 00:21:01,161 --> 00:21:02,596 - I did, you won't let me tell you. 565 00:21:02,596 --> 00:21:03,764 - No, you don't... - You don't let me tell you. 566 00:21:03,764 --> 00:21:05,165 - If you woulda told me that, 567 00:21:05,165 --> 00:21:06,567 we wouldn't even be here right now! 568 00:21:06,567 --> 00:21:08,469 - You lying', bro. - Don? I need you 569 00:21:08,469 --> 00:21:10,504 to bring yourself back... - Yo, she lyin', bro. 570 00:21:10,504 --> 00:21:11,839 - Just look at me, look at me. 571 00:21:11,839 --> 00:21:13,474 - 'Cause she know she lyin'. - I'm not lying! 572 00:21:13,474 --> 00:21:15,242 - I need you to regulate. I need you to regulate. 573 00:21:15,242 --> 00:21:17,611 Bring your eyes to me. Look at me. 574 00:21:17,611 --> 00:21:19,413 Bring yourself back. There we go. 575 00:21:19,413 --> 00:21:20,981 ♪♪ 576 00:21:20,981 --> 00:21:23,984 The reason why I let you all even do this, 577 00:21:23,984 --> 00:21:28,889 is because the only time you all began to share 578 00:21:28,889 --> 00:21:32,559 your deepest truth is when you're in a rage. 579 00:21:32,559 --> 00:21:35,496 And when you're sharing your deepest truth, 580 00:21:35,496 --> 00:21:38,465 you can't hear. And if the only way 581 00:21:38,465 --> 00:21:41,068 you can tell your deepest truth to each other 582 00:21:41,068 --> 00:21:45,172 is through that, y'all don't know each other. 583 00:21:45,172 --> 00:21:48,141 [Ashley] Don definitely need to work on certain things. 584 00:21:48,141 --> 00:21:49,776 He doesn't communicate well. 585 00:21:49,776 --> 00:21:53,247 But that does not classify him in my eyes as a bad husband. 586 00:21:53,247 --> 00:21:56,116 After everything, you say that I'm not a good wife? 587 00:21:56,116 --> 00:21:58,485 Well, if I'm not a good wife, why the hell you with me? 588 00:21:58,485 --> 00:22:00,654 And if you woulda told me that in the past, 589 00:22:00,654 --> 00:22:02,489 we wouldn't even made it here to therapy. 590 00:22:02,489 --> 00:22:04,958 - So what is the goal here then? 591 00:22:04,958 --> 00:22:06,994 Just to keep existing? 592 00:22:06,994 --> 00:22:10,464 Why are you here? 593 00:22:10,464 --> 00:22:12,499 Do you want this relationship? 594 00:22:14,701 --> 00:22:16,803 - I don't even feel like he even love me no more, like... 595 00:22:16,803 --> 00:22:18,872 - Do you love him? - Yes, I do. 596 00:22:18,872 --> 00:22:21,141 - Do you want this relationship? 597 00:22:21,141 --> 00:22:24,111 - Yes, I do. 598 00:22:24,111 --> 00:22:27,047 - I do. 599 00:22:27,047 --> 00:22:29,716 - ♪ Get your mind right money that is my type ♪ 600 00:22:29,716 --> 00:22:31,318 ♪ Money y'all don't grind right ♪ 601 00:22:31,318 --> 00:22:33,120 ♪ Hungry for the limelight ♪ 602 00:22:33,120 --> 00:22:36,189 ♪ Get it, unh, get it, unh, get it, unh, get it, unh ♪ 603 00:22:36,189 --> 00:22:38,592 ♪ I had to... Get it, unh, get it, unh ♪ 604 00:22:38,592 --> 00:22:41,929 ♪ Get it, unh, get it, unh get it, unh, get it, unh ♪ 605 00:22:41,929 --> 00:22:43,463 ♪ Get it, unh, get it, unh ♪ - Yeerr! 606 00:22:43,463 --> 00:22:45,399 Yeah! - What the word? 607 00:22:45,399 --> 00:22:46,967 - What's good?! 608 00:22:46,967 --> 00:22:48,802 So today is the day that me and my man Prince is going 609 00:22:48,802 --> 00:22:51,939 on a tour of Brooklyn, you know, the one that the tourist vans 610 00:22:51,939 --> 00:22:53,807 and the trucks don't get to show you. 611 00:22:53,807 --> 00:22:56,076 There's a lot of dope amazing Black-owned businesses 612 00:22:56,076 --> 00:22:58,045 out here, and I'ma show him a few of them. 613 00:22:58,045 --> 00:23:00,681 - [Prince] This a real bar? - So that's the... 614 00:23:00,681 --> 00:23:03,483 - That's the pawn shop, you get a shot with your purchase. 615 00:23:03,483 --> 00:23:04,751 - What?! - ...Bottles up there. 616 00:23:04,751 --> 00:23:07,754 - Ooh! Y'all get down. - [laughing] 617 00:23:07,754 --> 00:23:09,957 Listen, baby, in Brooklyn, you can't spell hospitality 618 00:23:09,957 --> 00:23:11,525 without Hennessy. 619 00:23:11,525 --> 00:23:13,827 It's how we get down in Brooklyn, baby, you heard? 620 00:23:13,827 --> 00:23:16,563 Spread love the Brooklyn way, we were talking about that. 621 00:23:16,563 --> 00:23:19,032 - I thought that was just in a song, y'all for real. 622 00:23:19,032 --> 00:23:21,034 I appreciate him showing me around the city today, 623 00:23:21,034 --> 00:23:23,136 I ain't gonna lie. I was really 624 00:23:23,136 --> 00:23:24,638 out here with Draya, but he was, like, 625 00:23:24,638 --> 00:23:26,607 "Look I'ma show you around Brooklyn." 626 00:23:26,607 --> 00:23:28,976 - More wealth, health and freedom. 627 00:23:28,976 --> 00:23:30,143 - Let's go. 628 00:23:30,143 --> 00:23:31,778 ♪♪ 629 00:23:31,778 --> 00:23:34,147 - Ugh, I feel like I got, ugh, feel the head coming up. 630 00:23:34,147 --> 00:23:36,750 - ♪ Can I kick it, yes, you can ♪ 631 00:23:36,750 --> 00:23:46,927 ♪ Can I kick it, yes, you can ♪ 632 00:23:41,655 --> 00:23:46,927 ♪ Can I kick it, yes, you can ♪ 633 00:23:44,057 --> 00:23:46,927 ♪ Can I kick it, yes, you can ♪ 634 00:23:46,927 --> 00:23:50,197 - We got brown stew oxtail. We got curry oxtail. 635 00:23:50,197 --> 00:23:51,565 [laughing] 636 00:23:51,565 --> 00:23:53,934 We got jerk chicken, black truffle alfredo. 637 00:23:53,934 --> 00:23:55,836 [choir sings] 638 00:23:55,836 --> 00:23:57,738 - I'm not even gonna lie. Once I took a bite 639 00:23:57,738 --> 00:24:01,341 of that pizza, boy, that [bleep] was hitting, boy, goddamn! 640 00:24:01,341 --> 00:24:03,076 - ♪ I'm a studio conveyor ♪ 641 00:24:03,076 --> 00:24:05,112 ♪ Mr. Dinkins, would you please be my mayor? ♪ 642 00:24:05,112 --> 00:24:07,748 ♪ You'll be doing us a really big favor ♪ 643 00:24:07,748 --> 00:24:13,220 ♪ It don't stop, here it come, y'all ♪ 644 00:24:13,220 --> 00:24:14,688 - This my city now, I love it to death. 645 00:24:14,688 --> 00:24:17,157 It is what it is. - Thank you, bro. 646 00:24:17,157 --> 00:24:19,059 I don't know, if I was looking hungry or not... 647 00:24:19,059 --> 00:24:20,293 [Spyder laughing] 648 00:24:20,293 --> 00:24:21,895 But that [bleep] was fire. When you decide 649 00:24:21,895 --> 00:24:24,998 to come to the Raq, pay you back. 650 00:24:24,998 --> 00:24:26,600 - One day I could definitely come out there. 651 00:24:26,600 --> 00:24:29,036 Maybe do some work. Get some [bleep] done. 652 00:24:29,036 --> 00:24:32,105 - You need to tat. That [bleep] be going crazy. 653 00:24:32,105 --> 00:24:34,074 - That [bleep] a'ight too. You know what I mean? 654 00:24:34,074 --> 00:24:36,777 - You funny as hell. - You enjoying Brookie? 655 00:24:36,777 --> 00:24:38,845 - Brookie! [laughing] 656 00:24:40,881 --> 00:24:42,349 [chatter] 657 00:24:42,349 --> 00:24:44,685 I stopped by Puma's shop today just to pick his brain 658 00:24:44,685 --> 00:24:46,186 on opening up a shop. 659 00:24:46,186 --> 00:24:48,488 - Well, I mean, you are part of our brand already. 660 00:24:48,488 --> 00:24:51,892 - I don't want Ryan to like, feel like I'm competition. 661 00:24:51,892 --> 00:24:53,794 - You want his support. - Exactly. 662 00:24:56,134 --> 00:24:58,169 - ♪ Chi-Town, Chi-Town, Chi-Town ♪ 663 00:24:58,169 --> 00:25:00,372 ♪♪ 664 00:25:00,372 --> 00:25:05,377 [singing throughout] 665 00:25:05,377 --> 00:25:08,613 ♪♪ 666 00:25:08,613 --> 00:25:10,482 ♪ To the top, to the top... ♪ 667 00:25:10,482 --> 00:25:13,651 [music slows and stops] 668 00:25:18,923 --> 00:25:20,959 [knocking] 669 00:25:20,959 --> 00:25:22,627 - Yo. - What's going on? 670 00:25:22,627 --> 00:25:25,463 - What up, though? - Nothing. 671 00:25:25,463 --> 00:25:27,399 Coming in to check on you. 672 00:25:27,399 --> 00:25:29,801 - It's quiet. - It is quiet. 673 00:25:29,801 --> 00:25:31,669 Ain't nobody here today. 674 00:25:31,669 --> 00:25:33,772 It just-- it's just one of them days, you know? 675 00:25:33,772 --> 00:25:37,509 Right? Gon' be bussin' later. 676 00:25:37,509 --> 00:25:39,411 - It ain't look like that. 677 00:25:39,411 --> 00:25:42,480 - Not right now. - Not today. 678 00:25:42,480 --> 00:25:46,317 Not last week. Not yesterday. 679 00:25:46,317 --> 00:25:48,086 I been peepin' and noticing 680 00:25:48,086 --> 00:25:51,089 a bad trend around the shop, you know, people 681 00:25:51,089 --> 00:25:53,825 either coming in late or not showing up at all. 682 00:25:53,825 --> 00:25:55,493 You know, not keeping schedule. 683 00:25:55,493 --> 00:25:59,297 As a owner and as a leader, this becomes very stressful. 684 00:25:59,297 --> 00:26:01,766 When you have no artists and no tattoos being done, 685 00:26:01,766 --> 00:26:03,368 you got no revenue for the shop. 686 00:26:03,368 --> 00:26:05,537 - It's about to pick up. It's about to be hot outside. 687 00:26:05,537 --> 00:26:06,838 - It can pick up. - Mm-hmm. 688 00:26:06,838 --> 00:26:08,773 - If 20 people come in here right now, 689 00:26:08,773 --> 00:26:10,642 I wouldn't be surprised. - Mm-hmm. 690 00:26:10,642 --> 00:26:14,979 - Do I have 20 artists? - Yeah, that's true. 691 00:26:14,979 --> 00:26:18,249 - Look, booths built. Booths empty. 692 00:26:18,249 --> 00:26:20,852 I'm literally sitting here paying bills. 693 00:26:20,852 --> 00:26:22,787 I gotta pay for these [bleep] empty booths. 694 00:26:22,787 --> 00:26:24,389 So... You know what I mean? 695 00:26:24,389 --> 00:26:28,927 If nobody's here, you know, I'm paying for the [bleep]. 696 00:26:28,927 --> 00:26:30,094 - Right. 697 00:26:30,094 --> 00:26:31,796 - I won't do that [bleep] forever. 698 00:26:31,796 --> 00:26:36,067 Because these bills aren't paid so they're behind. 699 00:26:36,067 --> 00:26:39,571 If nobody does [bleep] in here, who does it fall on? 700 00:26:39,571 --> 00:26:41,139 Exactly. - So you feel like people 701 00:26:41,139 --> 00:26:43,641 are taking advantage of you here. 702 00:26:43,641 --> 00:26:45,310 [Ryan sighs] 703 00:26:45,310 --> 00:26:47,412 - I don't feel like they're taking advantage of me. 704 00:26:47,412 --> 00:26:49,714 I feel like I haven't laid the law down 705 00:26:49,714 --> 00:26:52,484 completely as I thought I should. 706 00:26:52,484 --> 00:26:54,118 - Mmm. Okay. - You know? 707 00:26:54,118 --> 00:26:56,488 Some changes will be made that everybody's not gonna like. 708 00:26:56,488 --> 00:27:01,159 It's not like I, uh, I resent my artists for not showing up. 709 00:27:01,159 --> 00:27:03,294 It's just the fact that I'm disappointed in them. 710 00:27:03,294 --> 00:27:07,131 I figured the goal of 9MAG is to be the top tier. 711 00:27:07,131 --> 00:27:09,434 And at the end of the day, everybody could leave this 712 00:27:09,434 --> 00:27:11,503 [bleep] and I could just make it all about business. 713 00:27:11,503 --> 00:27:14,239 Maybe you have these bills to yourself one day. 714 00:27:14,239 --> 00:27:16,708 - Oh, nice, I'm looking forward to it. 715 00:27:16,708 --> 00:27:18,409 So do you actually have a plan in place 716 00:27:18,409 --> 00:27:20,512 for your artists not showing up? 717 00:27:20,512 --> 00:27:22,180 - I have one in place. - Okay. 718 00:27:22,180 --> 00:27:24,249 - I was just, you know... - When are you gonna enforce it? 719 00:27:24,249 --> 00:27:25,917 - Since they don't expect anything, 720 00:27:25,917 --> 00:27:28,019 I guess it'll be when they least expect it. 721 00:27:28,019 --> 00:27:31,022 - Well, I know who I'm apprenticing under 722 00:27:31,022 --> 00:27:33,157 is in New York right now. 723 00:27:33,157 --> 00:27:35,760 - I haven't been seeing you around a lot without her. 724 00:27:35,760 --> 00:27:37,395 - Draya was in New York. You know that. 725 00:27:37,395 --> 00:27:39,163 - I thought we just had mixed schedules, but... 726 00:27:39,163 --> 00:27:42,667 - Yeah, yeah, yeah, she's never met her father in person. 727 00:27:42,667 --> 00:27:45,203 - Y'all say like, what... What pops? 728 00:27:45,203 --> 00:27:47,906 Is it really her daddy? - I... yeah. 729 00:27:47,906 --> 00:27:50,575 It's really her father. I'm just, like, 730 00:27:50,575 --> 00:27:55,046 where does this leave me? I'm her apprentice. 731 00:27:55,046 --> 00:27:56,614 - You our apprentice now. 732 00:27:56,614 --> 00:27:58,850 - I'm 9MAG's apprentice. 733 00:27:58,850 --> 00:28:00,752 - If she don't come back. 734 00:28:04,522 --> 00:28:06,624 ♪♪ 735 00:28:06,624 --> 00:28:10,628 - ♪ Yes allow it ♪ 736 00:28:10,628 --> 00:28:15,567 ♪ Time to celebrate ♪ 737 00:28:12,997 --> 00:28:15,567 ♪ Time to celebrate ♪ 738 00:28:15,567 --> 00:28:17,268 - What's up, yo? - Ay... 739 00:28:17,268 --> 00:28:19,637 [chatter] 740 00:28:19,637 --> 00:28:22,941 [lively chatter] 741 00:28:22,941 --> 00:28:25,777 - Yeah, man... - This where the magic happens? 742 00:28:25,777 --> 00:28:28,947 - My Chicago cousin, welcome to Art 2 Ink 743 00:28:28,947 --> 00:28:30,715 and all that, you know what I'm saying? 744 00:28:30,715 --> 00:28:32,350 How's your time in New York been, man? 745 00:28:32,350 --> 00:28:34,452 - Ay, I ain't gon' lie. This man, he get down. 746 00:28:34,452 --> 00:28:36,020 He showed me some [bleep]. 747 00:28:36,020 --> 00:28:37,622 - Let me give y'all a tour and [bleep], man. 748 00:28:37,622 --> 00:28:39,123 - This looking a'ight! 749 00:28:39,123 --> 00:28:40,792 - I stopped by Puma's shop today 750 00:28:40,792 --> 00:28:42,093 just to pick his brain 751 00:28:42,093 --> 00:28:43,328 on opening up a shop. 752 00:28:43,328 --> 00:28:45,964 I been tattooing for about seven years. 753 00:28:45,964 --> 00:28:48,933 My little brother, Johnny's been piercing for about five. 754 00:28:48,933 --> 00:28:51,536 - What's up, y'all? - This is Johnny. 755 00:28:51,536 --> 00:28:53,538 - I know you look familiar. 756 00:28:53,538 --> 00:28:56,207 - This is Prince's brother. - I met him last year. 757 00:28:56,207 --> 00:29:00,078 - And it's always been a dream for us to have our own space. 758 00:29:00,078 --> 00:29:01,913 - You know, I've always been into gallant work 759 00:29:01,913 --> 00:29:05,049 and, you know, really displaying the kid's art. 760 00:29:05,049 --> 00:29:06,618 - I never stopped dreaming. 761 00:29:06,618 --> 00:29:08,052 Like, I just been building on it. 762 00:29:08,052 --> 00:29:09,854 You know, just waiting for the right time. 763 00:29:09,854 --> 00:29:11,789 Like, it's always been something 764 00:29:11,789 --> 00:29:13,191 that I knew that I was gonna do. 765 00:29:13,191 --> 00:29:15,026 I been talking to Johnny. 766 00:29:15,026 --> 00:29:17,428 He been asking like, what's next for me and him? 767 00:29:17,428 --> 00:29:19,197 - Yeah. - Been putting his little thing 768 00:29:19,197 --> 00:29:20,898 at that spot that he got. - Mm-hmm. 769 00:29:20,898 --> 00:29:22,467 - In the neighborhood. We probably could 770 00:29:22,467 --> 00:29:25,503 make some business of it. - Well, you gotta have a start. 771 00:29:25,503 --> 00:29:27,305 - You know, Puma's a little different. 772 00:29:27,305 --> 00:29:31,843 He's opened up a shop that's outside of the Black Ink brand. 773 00:29:31,843 --> 00:29:33,945 So it's something that I wanna do. 774 00:29:33,945 --> 00:29:34,946 - Got the [bleep] crown. 775 00:29:34,946 --> 00:29:36,881 - A denim crown? 776 00:29:36,881 --> 00:29:37,949 - My name, my name Prince, brother. 777 00:29:37,949 --> 00:29:39,717 Let me get that. - Go ahead. 778 00:29:39,717 --> 00:29:41,886 - You know what I'm saying? I'm just a regular dude 779 00:29:41,886 --> 00:29:43,187 from the streets. I'm just trying to be 780 00:29:43,187 --> 00:29:45,256 a businessman, so I'ma have to talk 781 00:29:45,256 --> 00:29:47,058 to somebody who know what the hell they doing. 782 00:29:47,058 --> 00:29:48,760 - Where Art 2 Ink even came from? 783 00:29:48,760 --> 00:29:50,628 Six/seven years, I didn't even know it was popping that long. 784 00:29:50,628 --> 00:29:53,364 - I mean, well, Art 2 Ink, when me and Ceasar 785 00:29:53,364 --> 00:29:56,501 had our fall-out, at the end of the day, I had to figure out 786 00:29:56,501 --> 00:29:58,670 how to feed my kids, you know what I'm saying, like... 787 00:29:58,670 --> 00:30:00,371 - How did bro feel about it? - Well, he didn't 788 00:30:00,371 --> 00:30:03,841 like it at first, but after we 789 00:30:03,841 --> 00:30:06,010 got clear and got back on the same terms, 790 00:30:06,010 --> 00:30:09,113 he's been here a few times, and he likes this place. 791 00:30:09,113 --> 00:30:11,949 Being a shop owner 792 00:30:11,949 --> 00:30:13,584 is different than being an artist. 793 00:30:13,584 --> 00:30:15,486 - That's what I'm saying. I really don't know how to-- 794 00:30:15,486 --> 00:30:18,256 Like, I'm thinking about opening my own [bleep] with my brother, 795 00:30:18,256 --> 00:30:22,560 like, I just wanna know, like, what I'm getting myself into. 796 00:30:22,560 --> 00:30:26,064 - Well, I mean, you are part of a brand already. 797 00:30:26,064 --> 00:30:29,200 So it's about communicating with the bigger brand 798 00:30:29,200 --> 00:30:31,035 that you're with-- that you're about to make the... 799 00:30:31,035 --> 00:30:32,537 - Never even really even thought about that. 800 00:30:32,537 --> 00:30:34,539 - 'Cause you don't wanna... - Ruffle no feathers. 801 00:30:34,539 --> 00:30:39,444 - You don't wanna just leave out of 9MAG without saying nothing 802 00:30:39,444 --> 00:30:42,980 because then you'll have everybody mad at you and angry. 803 00:30:42,980 --> 00:30:44,782 You want people to be able to be supportive of you. 804 00:30:44,782 --> 00:30:48,386 'Cause the things that you don't know you're gonna need help. 805 00:30:48,386 --> 00:30:51,789 - I don't want Ryan to like, feel like I'm competition. 806 00:30:51,789 --> 00:30:53,725 - You want support. - Exactly. 807 00:30:53,725 --> 00:30:57,562 - I got this like heavy weight on my shoulders about just, 808 00:30:57,562 --> 00:31:01,165 you know, how people would feel about me opening a shop. 809 00:31:01,165 --> 00:31:03,468 Like, Ryan, just working at 9MAG, I'm just 810 00:31:03,468 --> 00:31:06,337 trying to find a way where I can be loyal to 9MAG 811 00:31:06,337 --> 00:31:09,807 and still be loyal to my own, like, dreams. 812 00:31:09,807 --> 00:31:11,409 - What's holding you back the most? 813 00:31:11,409 --> 00:31:15,580 What would you say is like making you a little hesitant? 814 00:31:15,580 --> 00:31:17,682 - I been in a lot of [bleep] up situations. 815 00:31:17,682 --> 00:31:19,617 You know what I'm saying? Like you said. 816 00:31:19,617 --> 00:31:21,252 Like when I thought one thing was gonna happen, 817 00:31:21,252 --> 00:31:22,687 there's some whole other [bleep] happen. 818 00:31:22,687 --> 00:31:23,988 - I been there. - You feel me? 819 00:31:23,988 --> 00:31:25,523 I gotta try to make this [bleep] clap. 820 00:31:25,523 --> 00:31:27,625 I gotta make it work. - I'll tell you this [bleep]. 821 00:31:27,625 --> 00:31:30,995 Don't start setting up the table until the food cooked. 822 00:31:33,164 --> 00:31:34,632 - You get what I'm saying? - You know what they say? 823 00:31:34,632 --> 00:31:36,667 Don't count your eggs before the chickens hatch. 824 00:31:36,667 --> 00:31:38,169 - Right. 825 00:31:38,169 --> 00:31:39,504 - I don't know, that's just some old [bleep] 826 00:31:39,504 --> 00:31:41,672 [bleep] that people say. - It sounds smart. 827 00:31:41,672 --> 00:31:43,541 - Well, okay. - It sounds smart as [bleep]. 828 00:31:43,541 --> 00:31:44,809 You know what I mean? 829 00:31:44,809 --> 00:31:46,511 - You can still be part of the 9MAG family. 830 00:31:46,511 --> 00:31:48,846 Still be there, help out, do what you gotta do. 831 00:31:48,846 --> 00:31:51,082 But you can still create your own. 832 00:31:51,082 --> 00:31:53,751 - 9.5MAG. 833 00:31:53,751 --> 00:31:56,320 [laughing] - 10, 10MAG curve. 834 00:31:56,320 --> 00:31:57,789 - 9MAG curve. - 9MAG... 835 00:31:57,789 --> 00:31:59,891 - 9MAG bumping... - Bumping! 836 00:31:59,891 --> 00:32:01,826 [laughing] 837 00:32:01,826 --> 00:32:03,694 - That is it. - Oh, [bleep]. 838 00:32:03,694 --> 00:32:06,731 - 9MAG bumping. - Buckets. 839 00:32:06,731 --> 00:32:08,266 - There you go. [laughing] 840 00:32:08,266 --> 00:32:10,735 That's the one. - Word up! 841 00:32:10,735 --> 00:32:12,703 Y'all funny as hell, bro. 842 00:32:12,703 --> 00:32:15,206 - Y'all hungry? - Yes, sir. 843 00:32:15,206 --> 00:32:16,574 - There's so many different... 844 00:32:16,574 --> 00:32:18,376 - Get the crown, B. - I don't forget that. 845 00:32:18,376 --> 00:32:20,878 You know what I'm saying? - I hope they take Link card. 846 00:32:20,878 --> 00:32:23,881 ♪♪ 847 00:32:23,881 --> 00:32:25,850 - I talked to 'Stasia and she... - Right. 848 00:32:25,850 --> 00:32:27,518 - She showed me the pictures and... 849 00:32:27,518 --> 00:32:29,353 They were in foster homes and you found them 850 00:32:29,353 --> 00:32:32,890 and you fought for them, and you didn't fight for me. 851 00:32:32,890 --> 00:32:34,759 - I couldn't find you. I swear. 852 00:32:34,759 --> 00:32:36,227 - Did you even look? 853 00:32:36,227 --> 00:32:39,000 - ♪ Chi-Town, Chi-Town, Chi-Town ♪ 854 00:32:40,134 --> 00:32:42,303 - ♪ Chi-Town, Chi-Town, Chi-Town ♪ 855 00:32:42,303 --> 00:32:44,205 - ♪ We going all the way up ♪ 856 00:32:44,205 --> 00:32:49,210 ♪ All the way up, all the way up ♪ 857 00:32:52,446 --> 00:32:55,049 - Right now, I am just having like 858 00:32:55,049 --> 00:32:57,785 a whirlwind of emotions. 859 00:32:57,785 --> 00:33:00,388 I'm really about to meet my father for the first time. 860 00:33:00,388 --> 00:33:04,392 I've played this moment over in my head a thousands times. 861 00:33:04,392 --> 00:33:07,795 And I still have no idea what I'm gonna say to him, 862 00:33:07,795 --> 00:33:10,231 if he even decides to show up. 863 00:33:14,635 --> 00:33:16,804 - Hi, Draya. 864 00:33:16,804 --> 00:33:19,707 This is for you. 865 00:33:19,707 --> 00:33:21,242 [sniffles] 866 00:33:29,550 --> 00:33:31,018 These are for you. 867 00:33:34,789 --> 00:33:36,957 How are you? 868 00:33:36,957 --> 00:33:40,594 Oh, man, I... 869 00:33:40,594 --> 00:33:42,196 You are so beautiful. 870 00:33:48,936 --> 00:33:50,838 Wow. 871 00:33:50,838 --> 00:33:53,207 Um... 872 00:33:53,207 --> 00:33:54,708 I don't-- - I guess like in my head 873 00:33:54,708 --> 00:33:56,076 I just... 874 00:33:56,076 --> 00:33:59,246 I played it over so many times 875 00:33:59,246 --> 00:34:01,282 of like what I would say and... 876 00:34:03,651 --> 00:34:06,754 - I told Anastasia, I don't know if she told you, 877 00:34:06,754 --> 00:34:10,391 but we had a big fight with the family because 878 00:34:10,391 --> 00:34:14,195 I told her that they was not gonna show up. 879 00:34:14,195 --> 00:34:17,431 I know them. I know how they are. 880 00:34:17,431 --> 00:34:19,834 They don't even like me, to tell you the truth. 881 00:34:19,834 --> 00:34:22,002 - I just felt like they really let me down, you know. 882 00:34:22,002 --> 00:34:24,305 - Right. - Like, I'm not asking for much. 883 00:34:24,305 --> 00:34:26,140 Like, I just wanted to connect with them. 884 00:34:26,140 --> 00:34:27,374 - Exactly. 885 00:34:29,477 --> 00:34:31,178 - I don't hate you. - Mm-hmm. 886 00:34:31,178 --> 00:34:32,980 - Like, I don't. I wouldn't be here. 887 00:34:32,980 --> 00:34:34,548 - No, I know that. I know. - You know what I'm saying? 888 00:34:34,548 --> 00:34:38,052 So I have, I have to be grateful on some level 889 00:34:38,052 --> 00:34:40,221 for you giving me life. - Mm-hmm. 890 00:34:40,221 --> 00:34:41,789 - You and my mother giving me life. 891 00:34:41,789 --> 00:34:45,059 Like when you got out of jail, like how did you guys 892 00:34:45,059 --> 00:34:46,760 just completely fall out of touch? 893 00:34:46,760 --> 00:34:48,762 If you guys were planning on getting married... 894 00:34:48,762 --> 00:34:50,798 - We fell out of touch when I got arrested that day. 895 00:34:50,798 --> 00:34:54,235 - So how old was I when you got out of jail? 896 00:34:54,235 --> 00:34:56,270 - You was three years old. 897 00:34:56,270 --> 00:34:58,606 - At no point did you think, like, 898 00:34:58,606 --> 00:35:01,041 let me connect with her in some sort of way? 899 00:35:01,041 --> 00:35:04,879 Let me reach out to her mom. So why weren't you ever there? 900 00:35:04,879 --> 00:35:08,082 - Because there was-- okay. I'm telling you, 901 00:35:08,082 --> 00:35:09,617 I didn't know where you was at, Draya. 902 00:35:09,617 --> 00:35:11,285 - An address. How could you miss it? 903 00:35:11,285 --> 00:35:12,987 Like, I don't think, I don't... 904 00:35:12,987 --> 00:35:14,288 - I'm telling you... - I just... 905 00:35:14,288 --> 00:35:15,823 So you think you tried hard enough? 906 00:35:15,823 --> 00:35:18,058 Do you feel in your heart you tried hard enough? 907 00:35:18,058 --> 00:35:19,760 - Yes, I did, I did, honestly, I did. 908 00:35:19,760 --> 00:35:22,429 I mean, there was no, no Facebook at that time. 909 00:35:22,429 --> 00:35:25,032 No nothing. - Sure there wasn't Facebook. 910 00:35:25,032 --> 00:35:26,600 when I was three years old 911 00:35:26,600 --> 00:35:28,736 But it's been 30 years, and I really feel like 912 00:35:28,736 --> 00:35:31,171 that's just a bull[bleep] ass excuse. 913 00:35:31,171 --> 00:35:32,840 The fact that he won't take accountability 914 00:35:32,840 --> 00:35:36,944 shows me how toxic and immature he is. 915 00:35:36,944 --> 00:35:41,048 And that he would rather somehow be a victim in this than 916 00:35:41,048 --> 00:35:43,884 acknowledge the fact that the only victim here was me. 917 00:35:43,884 --> 00:35:45,586 Something like-- Then no, no. 918 00:35:45,586 --> 00:35:48,656 There's too many people that knew about me. 919 00:35:48,656 --> 00:35:51,926 And knew-- everybody knew except for me. 920 00:35:51,926 --> 00:35:54,428 ♪♪ 921 00:35:57,134 --> 00:35:59,069 - ♪ Chi-Town, Chi-Town, Chi-Town ♪ 922 00:35:59,069 --> 00:36:03,474 - There's too many people that knew about me and knew... 923 00:36:03,474 --> 00:36:05,242 Everybody knew except for me. 924 00:36:05,242 --> 00:36:06,744 - And no one told me anything. 925 00:36:06,744 --> 00:36:09,780 I did the little bit of bit that I did. 926 00:36:09,780 --> 00:36:11,582 And I came home, and I'm telling you. 927 00:36:11,582 --> 00:36:15,319 I knew that your grandfather lived behind 928 00:36:15,319 --> 00:36:18,222 Mount St. Michaels, that's a Catholic school. 929 00:36:18,222 --> 00:36:20,157 - It's a huge landmark... I was there 930 00:36:20,157 --> 00:36:22,192 till I was 14 years old. - I never... 931 00:36:22,192 --> 00:36:24,428 I'm, I'm, I'm... 932 00:36:24,428 --> 00:36:25,462 [Draya] I'm not buying it. 933 00:36:25,462 --> 00:36:27,498 I feel like he coulda found me 934 00:36:27,498 --> 00:36:29,433 or he coulda at least tried harder to. 935 00:36:29,433 --> 00:36:32,202 He moved on with his life and started new families. 936 00:36:32,202 --> 00:36:34,605 And honestly, 937 00:36:34,605 --> 00:36:37,708 I can move on but I don't know if I can forgive that. 938 00:36:37,708 --> 00:36:40,711 I just, I... I talked to 'Stasia and... 939 00:36:40,711 --> 00:36:42,279 - Right. - And she's showing me pictures. 940 00:36:42,279 --> 00:36:45,282 And all these family moments that... 941 00:36:45,282 --> 00:36:47,818 Like you fought for them. You, you, you... 942 00:36:47,818 --> 00:36:49,486 They were in foster homes and you found them, 943 00:36:49,486 --> 00:36:52,356 and you fought for them, and you didn't fight for me. 944 00:36:52,356 --> 00:36:54,625 - I did, I couldn't find you. 945 00:36:54,625 --> 00:36:56,827 I swear... - Did you even look? 946 00:36:56,827 --> 00:36:59,496 - I did, I looked, and I looked and I couldn't 947 00:36:59,496 --> 00:37:02,666 remember the house, I tried. 948 00:37:02,666 --> 00:37:05,335 - It's a big white house on the corner. 949 00:37:05,335 --> 00:37:06,703 - Exactly, exactly. - How could you miss it? 950 00:37:06,703 --> 00:37:08,605 Like, I don't think-- I don't... 951 00:37:08,605 --> 00:37:10,040 - I'm telling you, I... - I just, look. 952 00:37:10,040 --> 00:37:11,875 I don't want you to sit here and make excuses. 953 00:37:11,875 --> 00:37:14,077 - No, I'm not making excuses. I tried. 954 00:37:14,077 --> 00:37:18,849 There was no way for me to get in contact with your mother. 955 00:37:18,849 --> 00:37:21,652 My mom and I, we lived in that house 956 00:37:21,652 --> 00:37:24,721 for over 30 years, so... she was there. 957 00:37:24,721 --> 00:37:26,390 [chuckling] She was there. 958 00:37:26,390 --> 00:37:30,127 I think she was a lot easier to find than he was. 959 00:37:30,127 --> 00:37:34,465 Even if she did know, seeing his character and whatnot, 960 00:37:34,465 --> 00:37:36,366 I think she made the best choice. 961 00:37:36,366 --> 00:37:39,770 I would love for us to be able to heal from this 962 00:37:39,770 --> 00:37:42,506 and move forward, but I did not take into accountability 963 00:37:42,506 --> 00:37:44,007 you're giving me excuses, it's this, it's that. 964 00:37:44,007 --> 00:37:46,844 You coulda came looking for me. You coulda found me. 965 00:37:46,844 --> 00:37:48,479 You could have found me. 966 00:37:48,479 --> 00:37:51,014 You could have found me. 967 00:37:51,014 --> 00:37:53,417 But for whatever reason, you didn't, and I'm not even 968 00:37:53,417 --> 00:37:56,086 here to judge you. You [bleep] up. 969 00:37:56,086 --> 00:37:58,455 You know you [bleep] up. 970 00:38:00,624 --> 00:38:02,593 And that's all I want so we can move forward. 971 00:38:02,593 --> 00:38:04,795 But you just giving me excuses and that [bleep] 972 00:38:04,795 --> 00:38:07,631 is really just getting me mad, it's getting me more mad. 973 00:38:07,631 --> 00:38:09,633 It's making me just wanna be like [bleep] it. 974 00:38:11,535 --> 00:38:13,003 You still haven't said sorry. You've given me 975 00:38:13,003 --> 00:38:15,372 every other excuse other than just "I'm sorry." 976 00:38:15,372 --> 00:38:17,641 - Okay, you know what, Andraya, honestly, 977 00:38:17,641 --> 00:38:19,843 from the bottom of my heart, I am truly sorry. 978 00:38:23,447 --> 00:38:25,616 I shoulda grabbed somebody by the hair 979 00:38:25,616 --> 00:38:27,451 and, and, and said listen. - Yeah. 980 00:38:27,451 --> 00:38:29,586 Tell me where she's at. Let's do this. 981 00:38:29,586 --> 00:38:31,388 Tell me right now. I should have done that. 982 00:38:31,388 --> 00:38:34,124 - Yes, yes, like, [bleep], you have two million 983 00:38:34,124 --> 00:38:36,927 of your dollars, fight for me, like it was that. 984 00:38:36,927 --> 00:38:39,863 That's all I wanted, that, that. - Exactly. 985 00:38:39,863 --> 00:38:42,599 Yeah, I know, I know, and I didn't, and I didn't. 986 00:38:42,599 --> 00:38:44,368 - So... - And I deserve everything 987 00:38:44,368 --> 00:38:46,203 you're giving me, and I deserve it. 988 00:38:46,203 --> 00:38:48,372 - I can't promise anything. 989 00:38:48,372 --> 00:38:50,741 - No, that's cool. I can respect that. 990 00:38:50,741 --> 00:38:53,577 - As far as respect goes, as far as 991 00:38:53,577 --> 00:38:59,316 me actually like loving you... 992 00:38:59,316 --> 00:39:02,052 as a father figure, as, as just somebody 993 00:39:02,052 --> 00:39:03,954 in my life at all, it's gonna take work. 994 00:39:03,954 --> 00:39:06,456 - I know. - And I, you know, I don't... 995 00:39:06,456 --> 00:39:08,091 - I'm not asking... - All we can do is see. 996 00:39:08,091 --> 00:39:12,829 - Exactly. But again, just, you know, give me a shot, okay? 997 00:39:14,298 --> 00:39:16,667 Can I get a hug? 998 00:39:16,667 --> 00:39:18,569 All right, kiddo, I love you, kiddo. 999 00:39:18,569 --> 00:39:22,706 I truly do, and again, I'm so, so sorry, okay? 1000 00:39:22,706 --> 00:39:24,708 All right. 1001 00:39:24,708 --> 00:39:28,779 ♪♪ 1002 00:39:28,779 --> 00:39:30,714 - Thank you. - You're welcome. 1003 00:39:30,714 --> 00:39:34,251 - He can apologize, but he still hasn't really 1004 00:39:34,251 --> 00:39:36,853 taken accountability. And even when I asked him 1005 00:39:36,853 --> 00:39:38,722 if he felt like he did everything he could, 1006 00:39:38,722 --> 00:39:40,924 he looked me in my eye and told me "yeah." 1007 00:39:40,924 --> 00:39:45,095 And that alone, was a slap to the face. 1008 00:39:45,095 --> 00:39:46,463 That was a punch to the gut. 1009 00:39:46,463 --> 00:39:51,034 ♪♪ 1010 00:39:51,034 --> 00:39:53,637 - ♪ If it's just for peace of mind ♪ 1011 00:39:53,637 --> 00:39:56,373 ♪ Or it's just to make it right ♪ 1012 00:39:56,373 --> 00:39:58,742 ♪ I just need a minute ♪ 1013 00:39:58,742 --> 00:40:02,346 - I think we can revisit this maybe in a year or two, 1014 00:40:02,346 --> 00:40:05,115 like, try to meet up again. But I just-- I know I can't be 1015 00:40:05,115 --> 00:40:07,985 in the same room with him 'cause it's just gonna make me angry. 1016 00:40:07,985 --> 00:40:11,388 - ♪ It's a game when none of us win ♪ 1017 00:40:11,388 --> 00:40:13,890 ♪ ...seem to make sense ♪ 1018 00:40:13,890 --> 00:40:18,462 ♪ I could find 100 reasons ♪ 1019 00:40:18,462 --> 00:40:20,000 ♪ I just need a minute ♪♪ 1020 00:40:21,601 --> 00:40:23,603 - I don't even know where to go from here. 1021 00:40:23,603 --> 00:40:25,171 This damn near feel like separation. 1022 00:40:25,171 --> 00:40:27,307 - Just make sure before I got out of here, 1023 00:40:27,307 --> 00:40:29,409 we had time to kinda catch up before, you know, 1024 00:40:29,409 --> 00:40:30,977 I went my separate way. 1025 00:40:30,977 --> 00:40:34,147 - This how I was thinking. My spot, and then your spot. 1026 00:40:34,147 --> 00:40:36,182 - There's a lot of work to be done in this [bleep]. 1027 00:40:36,182 --> 00:40:39,619 - Are you seriously considering relocating? 1028 00:40:39,619 --> 00:40:41,020 - I know I gotta make a move. 1029 00:40:41,020 --> 00:40:42,722 ♪♪ 1030 00:40:44,591 --> 00:40:46,893 - [bleep] the show, bro. We don't have to have a show. 1031 00:40:46,893 --> 00:40:48,695 - [bleep] I'm paying out of [bleep] pocket 1032 00:40:48,695 --> 00:40:52,365 because [bleep] is not doing they [bleep] all the way. 1033 00:40:52,365 --> 00:40:55,135 Did we not go around the world and make people know that 9MAG 1034 00:40:55,135 --> 00:40:56,703 was about great art? That's what we are 1035 00:40:56,703 --> 00:40:57,737 and that's what we gon' continue to do 1036 00:40:57,737 --> 00:40:59,372 whether it's with or without TV. 1037 00:40:59,372 --> 00:41:01,608 I might not be able to do this [bleep] no more. 1038 00:41:01,608 --> 00:41:04,911 I gotta take a step back from everything. 1039 00:41:04,911 --> 00:41:07,113 ♪♪ 1040 00:41:08,867 --> 00:41:13,004 ♪♪ 1041 00:41:34,693 --> 00:41:36,895 ♪ MTV ♪♪