Well, because you're out of his league.
MAN: Previously on 90 Day Fiance: Happily Ever After?...
Wow.
I feel if I will have my boobs done,
then me and Jovi can spend more time having sex and less time fighting.
I have seen a change in Charlie,
and I would like for all of my kids to be in the same place.
Drinking is a huge problem for Charlie,
and my mom is in denial.
Just because he's our brother doesn't mean we have to put up with a bunch of BS.
I'm not the type to be dealing with any baby-momma drama.
Today, we're meeting with my ex-wife Shahidah,
and the goal is for them to work out their differences.
So, if things don't go well, that's your problem, not mine.
I'm going back to Nigeria in a few days to meet Usman's family.
So, I'm gonna propose to him on this trip.
Have you guys talked about a second wife? I feel like I'm interrogated.
Well, Kim, are you...? I would never ask you guys this.
Can I walk away for a minute?
What I understood was you weren't gonna stop us if we wanted to marry.
(SPEAKING OWN LANGUAGE)
# BRUCE WAYNNE: Dollaz
Well, well, well. Such a domesticated husband I have.
Here you go. No. Continue, please. Thank you.
It's a really nice sight. It's an extension of your ass.
Yeah. Yay.
Babe, do you want a drink? Mm-hm.
This is a very important day.
Tonight, we're having a house-warming party, and I'm very excited about that.
Have a lot of people coming,
and we're so excited to show off our new house to our friends.
And family.
Yeah. Family.
I told you from the beginning I don't want your family here. I told you it was a bad idea.
Well, they're coming, so it doesn't matter.
I don't want this stuff to be spilling into my people I invited.
They're intelligent people. They don't wanna deal with this crap.
At the party today I'm worried about Elizabeth's family
cos they're always bringing their problems.
I don't wanna be part of that any more.
I'm stress-free right now, concentrating on my work,
and I don't wanna participate in any of that stuff.
Cheers for us. Cheers. Cheers for our house-warming party.
We bought a house. Cheers.
Hello. Hi. Hi.
Hello. Hey, hey.
Well, hello. MARISOL: Hi. Hello. Hello, hello.
Hi, Mimi. Hey. Oh, my gosh. This place is beautiful.
I'm so excited. Thank you.
Cheers. Cheers. Thank you for coming.
Enjoy the party. Enjoy the food. We have a little bit of everything.
There's cheese, meats... And there's my friends over here.
It's important for me to surround myself with successful people
because that's how you build yourself in society. You're not gonna hang out with scumbags.
George is a good friend of Chuck's,
and he works in the mortgage industry with a lot of experience,
so maybe I can have him as investors for the future.
Hello. Hi.
Hey. How's it going?
It's so pretty. Welcome.
I really need to maintain a good relationship with these businesspeople,
so Libby's sisters, they better not mess me up.
CHUCK: Happy. Happy.
Happy's here. Happy's here.
Come show Happy our house.
Hi, Dada. Hey, sweetie. Come here. Come here.
I'm being summoned over here.
What's up, buddy? You good, man? How you been? Here you go.
So, did you guys have a chance to really get to know each other?
How many random people are here?
And how clearly can you see right through the reason why they're here?
I know. These aren't his friends. No.
He wants something from each one of these people. It's obvious. He's an opportunist. Opportunist.
That's exactly what it is.
I have no idea who these people are in this house. No clue.
I feel like Libby and Andrei barely know them, too.
Honestly, if it were me, I would feel awkward
inviting my immigration attorney to my house-warming party.
So, let's go upstairs.
I wanna show you guys Ellie's room. It's so frickin' cute.
Oh, I can't wait. That was the one I was looking forward to seeing. Oh, my gosh.
This is Ellie's room. Oh, my gosh.
And I really wanted... Oh, my gosh. Look at Ellie's room.
I really wanted to do pink and white and gold. I love it.
I love the lamp. Look at the lamp. Isn't this so cute?
It's actually feathers.
Oh, my God. I love it.
Ellie, do you wanna go see what's next door?
Show them next door. Come on.
Wow. There's so much room for activities.
So, what's this room gonna be? Oh, this is a nice room.
This room is going to be a guest/studio.
Wait. I have a question. Piano?
You're gonna do something with music, then? Yes.
I'm thinking about getting more into it,
and I just feel like it would really be, like, a stress reliever.
Well, I don't know if I mentioned this before,
but I used to sing professionally... Yes.
..so why don't you sing something?
I'd love to hear it. I mean, if you're OK with it.
Honestly, like, I'm not warmed up.
What about From This Moment?
That's what you sang at our wedding. It was amazing.
Oh, my gosh. What a great song.
I don't like being put on the spot.
You know what? I understand what you're saying,
but I really wanna hear just a little bit.
If you're a professional, like me,
when somebody asks you to sing, you just turn it on.
You really do.
So I was a little taken aback by that,
but, you know, maybe she's just getting started,
maybe it's just more of a hobby
than something she wants to do as a profession.
You really have to put it out there.
So, what are you thinking of doing with music,
like, what exactly...? Is it pop, or what are you thinking of trying?
I'm actually thinking of doing nursery rhymes.
That's interesting.
Yeah. I've noticed that Ellie actually likes to sing, too,
and so I thought it might be fun to do nursery rhymes with her, and make, like, videos
to just, like, things that we grew up listening to,
and I'm like, "I can sing that to you."
I just feel it will be a great way for us to bond,
and something that I know would make me happier. Hm.
It's a really new idea. Right.
I know that singing nursery rhymes is kind of out there and sounds ridiculous.
People think that I'm crazy, but there's a market for children.
Somebody's got to do it, so if I have the voice for it and I can do it, why not?
(SPEAKING OWN LANGUAGE)
JENNY: I don't understand what Sumit's mom is saying right now,
but it doesn't seem like it's going very well.
But I did understand that she's still denying that she ever said that she loved me.
That's very hurtful.
(JENNY SPEAKS)
(SUMIT SPEAKS)
This is exactly the reason why I didn't want them to come over here and for him to tell them
because I knew that his mom was gonna get hurt, and he was going to go after her.
I'm left sitting by myself not knowing what's happening.
What about me? I need to be comforted too.
It does scare me that Sumit is choosing his mom over me again.
(SADHNA SNIFFLES)
2 00:14:15.480 -- 00:14:19.160 align:middle line:90% position:50% ED: This outfit will make or break this wedding.
I think we have found the one.
It looks like it was meant for your wife.
Oh, my God. You're so awesome.
Are you ready? Let's do it.
Ooh. Oh, my God.
I love it. This is the one. You're the one.
Baby, I love the red bowtie... Mm-hm. ..the grey collar, and he can be our ring bearer.
I'm Ed, also known as Big Ed, and I'm a very young 56.
I'm Liz. I'm 29 years old.
I thought you were 49.
You look so cute.
Liz and I have been engaged for four months.
It was on-again, off-again for a year and a half prior to that,
but now we're engaged for real. No more off and on.
Oh, my God. Look, he's checking himself out. This is absolutely perfect.
Leon. He'll be the perfect ring bearer.
I've struggled with love all my life
until I went into a restaurant one day and met the girl of my real dreams,
and of course, she fell in love with me immediately. No. I dodged you for months.
I think you're amazing, and I wanna ask you out on a date.
Um...
When I first met Ed, he came in kind of sad.
The first couple months, he always brought women into the restaurant
as a hangout or date.
Why was that sad? I wasn't sad.
It was never the same girl,
but after Ed let his guard down with me,
I got to know Ed and not Big Ed.
So, how about lunch tomorrow?
Brunch?
Brunch. I love it. Brunch. OK. OK.
There were a lot of things that I was working through
when we were together.
I was insecure, jealous,
and it started to affect our ability
to be in a functional relationship.
So, I actually thought you were on a date, and I'm like,
"Here we go again. I like somebody, and it's gonna fail."
There's nothing between us.
OK. Hold on one second. Then I saw you guys walking to your car one night.
I'm not gonna stop hanging out,
like, having my own life, and being independent.
So, eventually, our fighting became too much,
so I decided to end it once and for all.
I basically broke up with her eight times via text.
Shit, they were always texts. As the texter.
Right.
And then, Teddy passes away, my dog.
He just kept looking at me that night
like he knew he was going somewhere,
and I probably dozed off for, like, maybe 30 minutes,
and I woke up, and he was gone.
So, Liz was one of the very first people to reach out to me.
I just at least needed to show you
that he was loved, and you were loved.
One thing led to another.
Yep. Bow, bang, hello.
Yay.
Sucker's gotta put up with me now.
You look great, baby.
How are you doing? Good. You smell good, too.
We just finished happy hour. You just finished happy hour?
We're about to start second happy hour.
Now that we're engaged, we want to throw an engagement party
to kind of celebrate this moment of us making it this far.
So today, we're going to go out and check out a venue.
I want great food, classy environment and Malbec.
Oh, this is nice. We call this our sunset rooftop deck.
This is beautiful. Sunset's that way.
I think this might be a good space for the size of group you have.
So, you're completely private up here. I love that part.
Why don't I let you be?
And if you have any questions, I'll be around tonight. Very nice.
Nice to meet you all. Thank you so much. You're welcome.
Tawny and J.Lo are two of my best friends.
They are my bridesmaids.
They were with me at my darkest days through my breakup with Ed.
Got some shots all round. These are Reposados. So fancy, Ed.
I understand that everybody in my world
is getting used to the idea that Ed and I are back together, but I do appreciate their support
because I know a lot of people in Ed's world don't approve of the engagement.
Here's to the importance of friendship... And love.
Thank you for being a part of our wonderful day. Thank you so much for having us.
In the beginning, I was sceptical when I got that phone call.
Liz called, she's like, "I have something to tell you,"
and I'm like, "What?"
And then she's like, "We're engaged," and I was shocked.
I had very strong feelings because I saw how hurt she was and what she went through.
I was kind of hoping she'd be like, "I would never go back with him."
I mean, I hope he doesn't break up with her a ninth time.
There was eight breakups. There was eight frickin' breakups. That's a lot.
That's a lot of breakups.
So what's gonna make it different this time?
Good question.
Most of it was my issues,
so I felt I had to grow in order to be with her,
but I realised she was what I wanted,
and I knew I could handle it. I knew I was ready.
And he's the one that I love, and he's the one that I want to be with.
I love Ed because...
Yes, we had a really rough patch for a while,
but Ed has shown me love in ways that I've never had with any previous relationship.
He shows his love for me too with the love that he has for my daughter,
and I think that was the biggest thing that made me fall in love with Ed.
And now we have a party to plan. Who's all coming?
My grandparents are gonna, hopefully, be meeting his family. Wow.
So, on my side,
the announcement of our engagement didn't quite go as expected, like, I really don't know.
My daughter, she was, naturally, shocked and upset.
She called everybody before he... Before I had an opportunity... To call people.
..to tell my brothers, to tell my mom,
and my buddy Rich, my ex-buddy Rich.
They just don't understand that the person sitting next to me is my future.
This is who I want, and that's the conversation I'm getting ready to have with Rich.
I'm like, "I thought you were my friend."
After Liz and I got back together,
a lot of my friends and family didn't understand why.
When we first broke up, Liz said a lot of bad things about me,
and I think they're afraid that she's gonna do that again.
I've tried to reach out to my daughter Tiffany, and she...
at this moment, she's not taking my calls.
And Rich is somebody that I've known for 15 years,
and after we got engaged, he said a lot of bad things,
and I wanna know why he can't accept the fact that I've chosen Liz.
So, I'm gonna say, "Look, Rich. I thought you were my friend.
Quit talking to my mom. Let me have a conversation..."
Wait. Rich is talking to your mom? He talks to her, like, every day. That's bizarre.
How does that make you feel? It's very bizarre. What is going on with your mom and you?
So, she kind of felt like, "Oh, you're picking Liz over me."
I'm like, "I'm picking me over me, and I'm in love with Liz."
To be honest, we're not in a good place.
Unfortunately, for my mom, when she found out we got engaged,
I think her reaction was, "You gotta be kidding me."
We, on both sides, got rid of negative people.
His mom's no longer living at the house. OK.
Ed, how does your mom feel about your engagement to Liz?
She's not happy because she feels like I'm choosing Liz over her.
I had so many people telling me how I felt about Liz,
and they wanted me to break up with her.
I don't like the fact that I feel like I am being blamed for something,
and I came back into this relationship...
It wasn't fair to Liz... No. Yeah.
..because now she has... she's taking the blame.
Now she's getting put as the villain, and that's not fair.
In the past, when Ed and I would break up,
he would talk about all our problems to everybody,
and I always looked like the bad person,
and they would convince him just to break up with me.
So there is a fear that these people can come back into his life
and convince him not to be with me.
2 00:24:06.920 -- 00:24:09.080 align:middle line:90% position:50% Mylah, you ready to go?
You look like such a cutie in that little dress.
Are you excited to go to this vineyard or what? (YARA SPEAKS)
This will be one of our first dates out we had in a while.
It's nice to get some alone time, right?
I mean, enjoyable time.
It's better than sitting at home all day.
Today, we are going to a winery.
I am ready to drink some wine.
Yara had a night out with her friends,
I've been at home playing dad, so I want a day to have some fun.
Yeah, absolutely.
I don't think anybody will wanna buy my liver.
I guess my mom had this idea in her head
that people from Ukraine just cut people open
and sold their organs. Yeah, that's what I look like.
You told me you would cut my dick off if I cheated on you and sell it.
Yeah, that's different. It's different?
Yeah, so you never can get it back and put it back. Just saying.
It would be cooler if we were going without Mylah.
I guess it is what it is. I know.
We went from having a babysitter to no babysitter. I know.
Mrs Gwen is the only person who I trust with Mylah.
So, we kind of had my mom babysitting every now and then,
but we got into an argument
and since then, we haven't been speaking much.
I know it wasn't your intention to change the relationship with your mom,
but the same time after you fight with her,
we don't have a good relationship.
You know, with this situation with my mom,
I don't agree with everything from either one of y'all. I think...
I'm in an awkward position because I have to take somebody's side.
OK. Well, I did in the end, and you keep telling me so many times. OK.
In my country, when you have kids,
your mother-in-law, your mother, they just come over to your house
and try to help without you asking.
I honestly felt the same way.
Why would I have to ask for a babysitter?
People would just show up at my house to watch Mylah.
That's how I dreamed of it to happen. I'm sure your mumma loves Mylah so much,
but it's just the fact that she knows that I had nobody besides her...
I agree. I understand. I took your side.
I know.
Let's just forget about that. Let's go out today, have fun.
It just hurt my feelings. I know. I hear you getting emotional.
It hurts my feelings because I love her, and I don't wanna fight with her.
I feel like my mom sometimes thought she was around too much.
She drove three hours to come to our house to see us,
and she thought she was doing what we expected her to do,
but I understand where Yara's coming from, especially when I leave for work.
I know she needs support from my family.
She can't do this alone.
This is the first big fight I've ever had with my mom.
I don't feel good about it, and it's very important for me
to really fix this relationship with my mother.
You thinking your mom will be here, all our problems will go away,
and we'll have a babysitter all the time?
Yeah, it will be a pleasure for her to stay with Mylah. We don't need to even ask.
I wanna go too. I think we're past time that she needs to see Mylah...
Yeah.
..but I don't know if the trip going there is the best idea for you without a green card.
(PRAYS IN OTHER LANGUAGE) (REPEATS PRAYER)
# RAPHAEL LAKE & AARON LEVY: This Is A Warning
My name is Usman Umar, AKA Sojaboy.
I am 33 years old, and I am from Nigeria.
My primary job is my music that everybody know me with. Superstar Sojaboy.
(USMAN SINGING)
She was like, "Hey, I like your music. I'm a super fan."
I like you a lot. Ah, I like you too. Thank you.
Huh? Thank you, but I love you. But I'm glad... No.
You know what I'm saying? Yeah.
If I should ask you, do you miss anything about me?
(ZARA SPEAKS) Are you sure about that?
Yeah. I'm positive.
So I actually invited Kimberly to come to Nigeria,
and she come down to Nigeria, and then that is when I know the love is real,
and she's the one for me.
Why do I love this man so much?
What?
What I appreciate about Kimberly
is the love, the loyalty, and the support she have for me.
I'm not going after beauty or after sexy.
And I have never had any connection and strong relationship with anyone like Kimberly.
My family knows about Kimberly, especially my mom...
So, when she comes, I'm bringing her to the family.
And his opinion is very, very important to the whole family.
So I actually went to Mohammed to help me to talk to Mom,
so we can get the blessing, me and Kimberly, to get engaged.
I am trying to bring her here...
..and then we get the blessing to get engaged.
After getting engaged,
there'll be visa given to me, then I'll go to America. We'll get married.
(GASPS)
Somehow. She's 51. 51?
Why?
And you know our mom, she's very eager to see your children. My children.
So, this what I'm thinking about.
Getting married to her doesn't mean that I'm going to be denied for having children,
like, I can easily get another wife when I feel like I'm ready. Huh?
She was married before.
She have a child, and he's grown,
and she cannot deny me for me to have that kind of joy and happiness,
so she can't stop me.
Are you sure? Very sure.
So, I have the plan...
How long do you expect yourself to start having children?
Don't forget you are getting older.
OK. I can make an effort. OK.
I hope taking a second wife
will help my family allow me to marry Kimberly
because I can't get engaged without my family blessing, especially my mom.
That means if they say no, it's no.
# DANIEL FARRANT AND NICK KINGSLEY: Kill Em With Love
What can I get you? I'm gonna get the Thai Silver Tip. Yeah. Absolutely.
All right. We'll call those out for you at the end of the bar. Appreciate it. Thanks a lot.
I'm pretty worried about the meeting with my ex-wife.
Just on the ride here,
Shaeeda had a defensive demeanour about herself,
and it's really important to check those emotions.
If Shaeeda and Shahidah can't put their differences to the side,
I don't know if they'll ever get along,
and I cannot have a toxic environment for my children.
Mmm.
All day? Mm-hm. Mmm.
Is everything OK? Why you keep asking me that?
Because, babe, I feel like every time I bring up the conversation with Shahidah,
you don't wanna hear it.
Um, I think...
..peace is something that's vital for me.
Like, when you got to saying even in the car, like, you know,
to the degree where it only matters if you happy...
It's like, "Well, what about me? Hello? Here. Over here."
At the same time, you kind of get upset how I feel.
Shahidah definitely insinuated that I am here for the wrong reasons,
like I'm here to take what Bilal has,
and she thought it was best that we sign a prenup,
but I'm not gonna take any food away from her kids' mouths.
I have to know that you're not here for just what he has.
I have a life in Trinidad. I'm very known in my community,
so me trying to get what he has has nothing to do with that,
but I understand you have concerns from a mother protecting your children.
You know, the kids have been here, I have been here,
so I'm coming from that point of view where he needs to protect his self,
and for the children's sake.
Her approach was very aggressive, very hostile.
Why try to bully me, you know,
because you have the upper hand as the American woman?
Like, that is not right, and it's not fair,
so I felt like... (SIGHS)
After that day, I said,
"I'm not gonna make anyone bully me or take advantage of me ever again in my life."
(SPEAKS OTHER LANGUAGE)
How are you? I'm good. That's good.
So...?
What's going on? Nothing much.
The last meeting that I had with Bilal,
he told me that I overstepped the friendship bound with Shaeeda.
I was just trying to look out for his wellbeing
and his best interests, as well as the kids'.
Apologising for what? No.
So, how's everything going with y'all?
I'm good. I was just looking forward to meeting you again,
hopefully on pleasant terms.
So, we had an engagement with when you came to my home.
I felt disrespected.
OK. What did I say to make you hurt and upset?
I think it's not what you say but how you said it.
Uh, Shaeeda.. Uh, Shahidah... ...did I yell at you?
I don't know if you don't see yourself when you're angry, but you were not peaceful.
You came with the boxing gloves on.
I'm not about to sit here and stand for that cos that's not what I did.
Shahidah wants to sit here and be a victim.
She wants to get away with her bad behaviour, and I'm not going to put it to rest.
Acknowledge that you hurt my feelings, apologise, and move on.
You're not gonna play me out to be a liar when I'm not lying.
I think, as people, sometimes we may do things, we may say things
that another person may take it another different way.
I mean, it's like you came ranting and raving.
I was just, like, standing in the kitchen like,
"I don't want her coming back."
I was ready to ban you from my home.
I was like, "She can't come back here and behave like that."
Ban me from... My home. ..from your home? Yeah. OK.
That's to tell you how hurt and upset I was.
This conversation is no longer a conversation. It's just an argument.
Honestly, I'm not saying much because I'm trying to stay neutral.
I want to get along with my ex-wife, we have children, and we wanna make sure all that is peaceful,
but also, I wanna support my wife.
It's the person I sleep in a bed with every night.
You guys are grown adults,
and there shouldn't be any bad blood between either one of y'all.
I don't want it to be, like, bad blood between us.
I was looking to get to know you, have a good relationship with you.
I was actually hoping for us to be cordial with each other.
I wanted us to be compatible for the sake of the kids,
but I just want you to acknowledge the fact that when you came inside my home, you came with rage,
you were not cordial, you were not polite.
That's all I want, for you to acknowledge it.
That's not true.
I'm not gonna apologise for something that I didn't do.
Then why did you come here?
I came here to actually clear the air, but I'm not apologising...
I'm done. I'm literally done.
Real quick. Real quick.
Why don't we go get some more Champagne?
That sounds like a great idea.
Overall, our house-warming party has been a success so far,
except the awkward grilling about me wanting to do nursery rhymes,
but it's been a great night.
Good to see you. It was very nice to meet you. Thank you.
GEORGE: Thank you very much for having us.
It was nice to see my sisters and my mom have a good time,
and it was nice to see my husband mingle and network with everybody there,
and I feel like everyone had a good time.
Jenn, are you cleaning? What's happening?
I am cleaning cos I'm trying to get the fuck out of here. What's happening?
That was a great house-warming. I feel very warm towards your home.
And the caterer was impeccable. And there was no drama.
Because you keep your mouth shut. Because I kept my mouth shut?
Everybody kept their mouth shut. There was one person that wasn't here,
so, I'm just saying, it might have something to do with that.
Loud person?
I don't think that that would be an issue. Mom, you're in la-la land.
At a house-warming party? No. Charlie would not be an issue.
I understand it's your son and you have your rose-coloured glasses on,
but you need to be realistic.
It's not even that. Andrei... It is that. ..I think you and Charlie need to bury the hatchet.
Uh, no.
Until the guy gets help for his issues...
That's what it is. ..there's no gonna be hatchets involved.
So, what are the issues? We've told you this. Alcohol issues.
Everybody here tonight was drinking alcohol.
Do we abuse the alcohol?
Charlie drinks every day, and it's just a major problem,
and it's probably gonna end up very bad for him.
And for everybody surrounding him who cares about him,
they get used to living like that,
but it doesn't work out with me.
And meeting with him is a completely bad idea
because we did that before. I'm not doing that again.
Pam is delusional.
Nobody drinks as much as Charlie.
Andrei, I beg to differ.
You and Charlie both drank morning till evening in Moldova. You're literally insulting me.
Don't put my husband in a boat with Charlie. Hold on. They're two different people.
You're insulting me right now.
I'm not drinking every day. But you act differently.
The alcohol affects him differently.
That means he has a problem.
I said he does have an issue,
but he needs to realise that himself.
Mom, but if everyone around him is enabling him and sticking their heads in the sand,
he's never gonna come to that realisation.
I'm actually shocked that, for once, we are agreeing with Andrei.
One thing that we can agree on and come together on...
Yeah. ..is the Charlie issue.
Like, he's not blood related. He can see it for what it is.
It is refreshing to have somebody else... That can see it for what it is.
..see it and help prove to our parents, like, "Hello. Wake up." Exactly.
I don't see how this is accomplishing anything.
The issue is, yes, Charlie drinks...
You guys drink the same amount. I've seen it happen.
No. Charlie does get aggressive...
That's not the point. ..and he needs help with that. OK.
I feel like Andrei and Charlie are the same person
because they're very alpha male.
I would like to see them work through their issues as adults,
and then my hope really is to have the whole family come together
in helping Charlie deal with whatever he's going through
so that he can put all these things behind him.
Are you willing to work with me to help him?
I am not willing to help him. Fuck Charlie.
I did not ask... Fuck this life.
In my house, in my territory, he is not welcome,
and so are you gonna be not welcome if you're not gonna listen to me.
You're gonna be in denial... What? ..and you're gonna put in the same category as Charlie.
Stop. Stop. Stop. OK. So that's bottom line.
I'm not gonna stop. I'm telling you my truth.
I'm not willing... Stop. Baby, can you take a deep breath?
Can we please just take a deep breath?
Fuck Charlie.
She literally accused me in there of me being a problem.
I want her to realise that if she puts me in a category with her son...
I'm over this, I think everybody's over this,
and we're moving forward.
Good night, girls. Bye, Andrei. Thanks for having us. Thank you.
# ROSE HART: Alone
Almost there.
I don't know how Usman drives in Nigeria.
I almost had a heart attack driving this car down the block.
I am not the best driver in San Diego. Sorry.
I'm picking up Jamal from the airport.
He lives in New York,
and he's coming to see his mom before I go to Nigeria.
My biggest accomplishment in my life is Jamal,
but my relationship with my ex-husband was so toxic,
and I never told Jamal all this until Jamal was older.
Jamal was shocked, and he said,
"How the fuck did you put up with that?"
And the only reason I did is because I wanted Jamal to have that stable family environment.
I wanted the white picket fence. I wanted all of that for Jamal.
Hey.
JAMAL: Hello.
Oh, my God. Oh, my God. It's so nice to give you a hug. It's been so long.
I missed you. I missed you, too.
Aw. Are these for me? Yeah.
Wow.
I'm really excited to see my mom.
It's been too long. It almost feels weird seeing her again.
You're like a stranger now. Am I a stranger?
A little bit. I gave birth to you.
I'm so glad you're home.
Feels good to be back.
# JULIAN EMERY: Gone To Hollywood
Oh, they're beautiful, Jamal. Yeah. Please take care of them.
I do. I do. Not you. Her. No, she doesn't.
I live with my mother. She's 78 years old.
She has some health issues, so I take care of her for the most part,
but we butt heads like this all the time.
So, I kind of need to talk to you two about something. What?
I haven't told my mom or Jamal that I'm planning to propose to Usman,
but I know Jamal hasn't been supportive of my relationship,
so I really don't know what's going to happen.
So, you know I'm going to Nigeria, right?
I'm going to meet Usman's family this time, like, his mom,
but there's a reason I'm going to meet his mom.
I'm going to go over there, I'm going to propose,
and apply for the K-1 visa to bring him here.
What? That's not how it works.
Why can't I do it?
The man is supposed to propose. But a woman does it. I've seen it.
We'll be engaged for a while because it's the paperwork that takes a long time with this K-1,
and then we'll get married here.
You're serious? Yeah.
It's important for me to get Jamal's approval before I go to Nigeria,
but I understand why Jamal has tons of doubts about the relationship after the tell-all.
You didn't know that Usman had called Zara?
I did not.
I find that mad disrespectful to my mom
because she did all this shit for you. Like, what the fuck is that?
Can you hear me?
Why you clapping at her like that?
When I found out about Usman and Zara, I was pissed,
but I think the tell-all actually made us a bit stronger.
Usman apologised to me,
and the only reason I gave him another chance is cos I love him.
It's only your third trip to go see him
and you're talking about marriage.
I feel like after he called Zara when my mom left,
I expected better, but me, to be honest, I never trusted him.
She expects me to feel completely comfortable with it and support her,
but I just don't really see enough reasons for them to get into this engagement now.
It seems like she's already had this planned and I just feel left out about it.
I just want you to be happy.
I know, and I am happy.
If he already makes you happy with how things are, then why do you wanna push it and get married?
The marriage part is because I love him and I want to show him that I love him.
Just like he's shown me, you know?
I just don't want it to be a one-way street.
But it's not a one-way street, Mom, and you see it when I talk to him.
I have to see it when you're together.
I've never seen Kimberly so in love with anybody like she is with Usman,
unless maybe it was back when she was in high school.
I don't wanna see her get hurt
because when she puts her heart into something, she puts it in all the way.
I want your support so bad.
Unfortunately, I can't bring him here so you can see what a wonderful guy he is.
I have to get him here, and in order to do that, we have to be engaged.
So, he needs a visa to get here...
So, I mean, OK. ..and if y'all get married, he'll have one?
It's like a lightbulb just went off.
So you think he's with me for that?
I didn't say that out loud. But you just said a lightbulb went off.
And it's not like he's scamming me to get the K-1.
I'm the one that brought the K-1 up. I brought it up to him.
Do you think I'm dumb?
I just don't think you should rush over there and propose to him.
But I feel, in my heart, this is what I wanna do.
And who knows, maybe he'll propose to me first. I mean, I don't know.
I'm going to meet his mom. I have to get her blessing. That's how it's done in his culture.
It's kind of crazy. What if you don't get her blessing? Then everything's off? I don't know.
I don't know yet. It's ridiculous.
But, you know, he loves me. What does he do to show that?
Because I... Just being with him, like, the way he is with me.
I think one of my biggest concerns is I don't really know Usman.
I've had a few conversations with him.
He is an entertainer, and he knows how to get people on his side,
he knows the right things to say,
and I just hope my mom can figure out what is true and what is not.
I've just seen you get your heart broken way too many times to count.
This kind of relationship, you have to admit, is 100 per cent not normal.
Yeah. It's a big risk,
and it's more risk than reward, I feel like, when you're looking at it from my eyes.
Honestly, like, I'm 51 now.
I wanna live my life the way I think I should live my life
without judgment from other people,
so if I want to go and marry this dude, then that's on me. All right.
Jamal's opinion really does mean a lot to me,
but I'm still gonna do what I wanna do.
The love doesn't stop because we don't get somebody's approval.
Am I supposed to just stop loving him and walk away?
I've sacrificed so much for everybody else
that, like, why can't I just be happy now?
I just want to be happy,
and I don't think there's anything wrong with that.
# MS TRINITI: Bounce Back
JOVI: All right. We made it.
I don't know.
OK.
Where is it?
Hey. Welcome. This is La Serendipity Vineyards.
So glad you're here. All right.
Let's go into the wine-tasting area.
Yeah. Let's get some wine.
It's so beautiful, so peaceful out here.
Welcome. All right. Thank you.
A date back in the day was fun.
We would go to dinner, party all night,
sleep till ten or eleven in the morning.
Now it's like... go to dinner at five,
we have to leave at six, be home by six-thirty
so we can give Mylah a bath, put her to sleep,
and then wake up at six when Mylah wakes up. It's like, "Oh, my God."
Don't lie.
Cheers.
That's very good. This is the kind of wine...
It's good. ..that I like to drink.
It's called the poor man's Champagne. Not too sweet?
I don't like sweet wine.
I think sweet wine is not a wine, it's a dessert.
All right. You guys ready to explore on your own?
Yeah, let's do it. Yay. All right.
This way.
All right. Are we gonna be a bit? Yeah, a little while.
I'm just gonna grab the bottle.
Are you kidding me? What?
It's a tasting place. You shouldn't just grab a bottle for you.
Why not?
I feel like I'm a grandpa now. Just like an old parent. What do you wanna do? Go party with Mylah?
Cry me a river, honey. You stay at home. You're a dad now.
(GRUNTS) How nice is this?
You're not even breastfeeding any more. You can drink wine now. Yeah.
Your boobs? They look horrible. You don't agree?
They don't look the same way they did before you had a baby,
but I think you look great.
Yours look good too. You look good naked.
OK, but I don't like it,
so I think that I need to fix it if I don't like something.
Like sex, you mean? Yes.
But now you understand? What's so hard?
I still like the way you look. But I don't.
That's OK. My opinion's the only one that matters, right?
You're so selfish. I still love to have sex with you.
I feel good about the way your body looks. I don't want to have sex with myself.
You don't think I will be more attractive if I have this bigger boobs?
Yeah, it'll be nice to have boobs like a stripper. No.
I like fake boobs.
Oh, my gosh.
OK.
I mean, it's not perfect.
There's a lot worse out there. I think you look great the way you are.
I feel great about her body. She's dedicated to being in the gym,
but in reality, her boobs don't look great.
They've... Mylah breastfed for so long,
it's inevitable what's going to happen with that.
I can see how there's room for improvement there.
I go out with my friends, they look all nice and pretty, and me...
So you wanna be like your friends, basically? No.
Listen, I think there's a lot we need to plan and discuss.
I don't want you to do it cos you wanna be like your friends.
I don't wanna do it because of my friends.
I'm not a person who will do everything because of friends... I don't know.
You hang out with these girls, and now you wanna get a boob job.
No. I wanna get it done because it's about my feelings.
I don't wanna be like nobody. I wanna be like me. OK. If you say so.
Life for Yara since she's met a few friends has, honestly, gotten better.
She went through a lot of depressing moments,
but I feel like if it wasn't her friends influencing her, she would have brought it up sooner.
Just all of a sudden, she starts hanging out with these girls,
"Oh, yeah. I wanna get my boobs done.
Maybe I'll get Botox," whatever, you know?
She sees it with them, and she wants it too.
You're gonna have to drive.
I'm gonna drink these. As usual.
I'm trying to be understanding, and I hope they don't have a negative influence on Yara.
Real quick. Real quick.
So what? I don't care.
And don't say, "So what?", cos you don't know me.
You're putting something on me that did not happen.
I don't care. (BILAL SPEAKING OTHER LANGUAGE) I'm not trying to be a bully to you,
but you're not gonna back me into a corner.
You're a bully. No, I'm not.
Yes. You are a bully.
OK. I'm done. I'm done.
You are a bully. No, I'm not, but you need to watch who you're talking to, OK?
Be quiet for a second, please. No. Can I say something?
And I'm not gonna do that with her because she don't know me.
You don't know me, either, Shahidah. You better get her... No.
..cos I will reach across that table and wring you out.
Go ahead. That's how you wanna conduct yourself as a Muslim woman?
Yes. What kind of example are you setting for your 16-year-old daughter?
Listen. You don't know who you're talking to.
I can't even put words into my mouth right now.
That's the feeling of how things went.
I have no idea what's gonna happen now, what to do, or anything.
If Shahidah would have come open-minded
with humility to apologise,
I would have said, "You know what? It happens. We could be friends."
I don't feel good right now
cos I know Bilal is, like, super upset,
but I'm proud I stand up for myself, and I was diplomatic in my response.
If the relationship is going to be toxic, I don't need it.
I don't need that in my life.
Wow. The city looks so nice.
I'm, like, so, so angry right now.
Things happen, but to even happen in public makes it more embarrassing.
If I start talking right now, I may say something I may regret.
2 01:05:49.600 -- 01:05:52.840 align:middle line:90% position:50% This is the ring that I'm going to use to propose to Usman.
This determines it all, right here.
You know, it's either a yes or a no.
I'm leaving tomorrow to go to Nigeria
to see my boyfriend Usman, AKA Sojaboy.
And Usman's finally taking me to meet his family, and it's a huge step in our relationship.
Hey.
Nothing. Do you notice anything different?
Do you think you'll kiss me now in public?
Oh, now you will.
When Usman first brought up this whole teeth thing, I was really hurt,
but I didn't realise how bad my teeth were until I got them done,
and I was like, "Damn." I don't know. They looked like butter.
Even though I was really hurt, I do hope on this trip that he's more affectionate with me
about the whole 'kissing in public' thing.
I talked to my mom and Jamal.
Now everybody knows I'm coming to meet your family.
The way they took it was, like, concern,
but, like, I don't need Jamal's support
or my friend's support to marry you, you know what I mean?
Cos I'm gonna do me regardless.
So, does your family know I'm coming at all?
So, do you have any concerns?
Basically, the bottom line is if we don't have your mom's blessing, it's just over?
I am used to family involvement,
but I will be damned if I ask anybody to approve my 51-year-old self for anything.
Sorry.
If we don't get Usman's mom's blessing,
it'll end our relationship as boyfriend and girlfriend.
I'm not gonna let that happen without a fight.
I'll text you later. OK. I love you. Bye. All right. I love you. Bye. Bye.
# RAF RILEY & ASHTON CASEY & MARC WILLIAMS: Heart Like Mine
Jamal. Yeah?
Come spend time with your mom before she leaves.
All right. Coming.
Packing for the big trip? I'm packing for the big trip.
Crazy, right? Yeah.
Even though I've really tried to show Jamal what this relationship means to me,
he's refusing to give me any kind of approval,
so this is my last chance to get Jamal's blessing before I leave to go to Nigeria.
Do you wanna wear this?
I would rather burn it. (KIM AND JAMAL LAUGH)
What's this? It's a shirt.
It's cute.
Is this cute? What is that? (GASPS)
You're not taking this. I am taking this. Are you serious?
Are you actually taking this? Yeah. What are you talking about?
Are your eyes burning? No comment.
I wish I did not just see that.
You're disgusting. I'm not disgusting.
You just don't like to think of your mom getting yummy, but it's cool.
I felt like I threw up in my mouth. I did not like the image of that.
I did not like the thought that he may see that on her,
which is why I took it out the suitcase,
and I hope that she did not see that.
Like, aren't you excited to see your mom this happy?
You do seem very happy. I am. I will give you that one.
Honestly, I would like a little bit of positivity. I feel like I've been very positive. Really?
Yeah. For one, I didn't burn the red thing you just showed me,
and it's not like... Get out of my suitcase.
I never said not to go to Nigeria.
I just said maybe don't ask a man that you barely know to get engaged with you.
I love him.
I don't know why that is so hard for people to understand, and he loves me.
We have this connection that you don't know cos you haven't met him in person.
Do you not find it concerning that he was basically in the same situation with his ex
where she was also a white woman, she was older,
and they were planning on applying for visas,
he was gonna get a Green Card, and now...?
He wasn't gonna get a Green Card from her.
It sounds like y'all are in the same situation, except y'all... it hasn't been that long.
Why did he pick you?
Maybe he thought I was pretty? Maybe he thought I was nice?
I'm sure that he had a lot of attention from women.
He didn't have to answer me. He didn't have to respond when I'd text him.
I mean, maybe he just has a type.
Nobody thinks that.
Maybe he likes... He told me...
His friends told me he's always liked older women.
So he's never said what his type is?
He's told me that himself, too, that he's always liked curvy women...
White? ..white women, American women, and he's always liked older women.
I have a type. I date black men. You never dated someone this young. No. Not this young.
He's almost my age.
OK. Do you not think about that?
If they got engaged, Usman would be able to come to the United States,
he would be able to make his brand bigger,
and as far as my mom, I don't feel like too much would change.
I don't feel like the give and take is really even.
Like, I wish he could come here so you could just get to know him.
But he can't unless you marry him.
It sounds to me like you think Usman's just in this for the Green Card.
I didn't say that. But that's what it sounds like.
I love him, and I wanna see him succeed in America.
I think his music is good. I think he's talented enough.
Why not bring it here?
So this marriage is more like... It's everything. ..a business decision.
No, it's not just that, but it would help him.
I love him. He loves me. It's a marriage. It will be a real, real, real marriage.
Usman is with me because he loves me. He's not with me for a K-1 visa.
I 100 per cent believe in Usman's music career,
and bringing him to the States would make his music career just go even higher.
I don't think now I'm going to propose until after I meet his mom.
But y'all really put a lot of thoughts in my head,
so I really need to make sure everything is everything before I do it, and I might not do it,
but I'm prepared.
I really appreciate the honesty and all that,
and I know you'll support me. I'm your mom, and you love me.
I know you won't like it, but I know you'll support me. Support what?
I know you'll support me. You'll always be there for me.
I will support you... I know. ..but I'm not always gonna support your decisions. I know.
I think my mom does feel like she wants to prove everyone wrong
and that it is a good relationship,
so she's probably gonna ignore the red flags and not ask those tough questions.
I don't think she's even asking herself those tough questions.
She just really wants to live in this fantasy world
that everything's gonna be fine, but she's gonna do what she thinks is best for her.
At the end of the day, whatever decision she makes, I'm gonna be there for her
for the better or for the worse.
I'm tired of thinking about it. I wanna be excited about my trip.
Can we be happy that I'm going? I'm really excited to go.
Now, it's time... I'm gonna focus on my trip,
I'm gonna go meet his fam, I'm gonna kill it, and then we'll see what happens after that.
OK.
# SAM CLINES AND JERRY THOMAS: Shake These Voices
I am heading to meet up with Rich.
Your friends, I know, are there to protect you.
I think he somehow feels he's protecting me, but from what?
Most of my friends and my family aren't about Liz and I being together,
and Richard has been my friend for 15 years,
and the minute he found out that Liz and I were back together and engaged,
I mean, he turned his back on me.
There was no warning. We were there supporting you...
Right. ..while you're crying, and the last thing you told me about Liz is,
"I'm good. I'm moving on."
This is the first relationship Ed's had since his divorce, and he's desperate.
They're both insecure, and they're both selfish.
It's been about four months since I've seen Richard.
Rich had such a huge impact on me breaking up with Liz.
Richard, to this day, still does not approve of Liz and I's relationship
cos we did a lot of shitty things to each other,
and he's still stirring up trouble with my family and my friends.
So, I want my relationship with Liz to be successful,
and Richard either needs to get on the train or jump off.
Hey.
What's up?
I asked Richard to meet up with me tonight.
He's having me meet him in this park.
I'm not quite sure why we're meeting here.
It's a dark, creepy park.
It kind of feels like I'm making a drug deal.
How are you? Good.
I think in four months I haven't seen you.
A little surreal seeing Ed in person after four months.
A lot hasn't been said in this time period, and it's overdue.
Liz definitely fears my influence
because I've been there the whole time,
and I'm always gonna tell him the truth.
I think Liz, she's an opportunist,
she's not here for the right reasons,
and that was my initial reaction when I found out that they got engaged.
I know you're mad, you know?
I know you want me to be happy for you, like that, but are you sure, Ed?
This is the person you want to be with?
This person that tried to destroy you,
that tried to take you down, you know?
Well, Richard, what about what I did to her?
I mean, I broke up with her eight times via text...
I... ..but in my heart, after six months of therapy,
and six months of total separation, I realised that's who I wanted to be with.
I tell you I'm engaged and it was just hate.
Dude. Yeah, but you just come out of the blue...
It came out of the blue for me too.
Because you're impulsive.
If you walk across the street and you got hit by a car once, wouldn't I say,
"Hey, Ed. Are you sure you wanna cross this fucking street again? You got hit the last time"?
Rich, I choose Liz. That's it, and you can't accept it.
I'm choosing her over everyone. My mom doesn't accept her. My daughter doesn't accept her.
What about your mom right now? Mom's giving me the guilt trip.
I'm like, "Mom. I love you..." Your mom called me yesterday.
She calls and you talk to her every day. Don't you think that's weird?
Well, no. I do. Not as close as we've been as friends and family.
Let my mom adopt you as her son.
She likes you more than I do. I just don't need to see it.
Richard and my mom were sort of close when we were friends,
but now that Liz and I are back together,
he has formed this new level of a relationship with my mom.
Who talks to somebody else's mom on a daily basis?
That's kind of weird.
I love my mom to death, but me being with Liz is not gonna hurt you,
it's not gonna hurt my daughter, it's not gonna hurt my mom.
Well, can you still... Period. Can you still at least help her...?
I've done everything I can.
I don't know about that, dude.
I need Rich to stop putting ideas in my mom's head.
It's impeding our relationship.
I'm very worried that, God forbid, something should happen.
She's 82 years old,
and I wouldn't want her leaving this world being mad at me.
Until you're ready to accept my choice in Liz, I can't be around you.
(SIGHS)
After 15 years of friendship, it's hard to swallow.
I can just look into his eyes and I know I'm not talking to my friend, you know?
There's somebody else that I'm talking to now,
and there's some influence there,
but it's his life. He's gotta figure this out.
I'm choosing to be with Liz, you don't support it, so what do you wanna talk about? That's it.
That's it? I go my way. You go yours.
And that's so OK with you?
It's an ultimatum.
You're saying, "Either you accept my decision of who I'm gonna be with or you're out of my life."
Richard is someone that's been very important to me in my life,
somebody that I trusted more than my own brother,
and it's hard to have to have a conversation with someone
that will most likely end our friendship.
But if I want my relationship with Liz to work,
I don't have a choice.
I'm risking everything.
I have... I literally... And I know it sounds sad.
I literally have no-one. I'm all in.
2 01:21:01.480 -- 01:21:04.920 align:middle line:73% position:50% OK. OK. This is bad, but what the fuck do you wanna do?
Well, good, it's bad. Good.
I said I know you're gonna go with your parents, and I'm gonna be left by myself.
You guys talk Hindi and you don't tell me what's being said.
You think I don't need to be comforted?
You think I'm fine? You think I'm OK?
You think everything is OK with me?
Why does everybody think it's OK for me to sit here and take all this abuse
and not say anything, and I'm not supposed to feel anything,
I'm not supposed to care?
Sumit telling his parents that we got married
turned out exactly as I knew it would - a disaster.
I knew that his parents were gonna react the way they did,
and he was gonna take after them, and I was gonna be sitting here all by myself.
He needs to think about how I'm feeling
because I am his wife now,
and so his loyalty should be with me.
Go away.
Go away. The fuck you gonna do?
Get the fuck away from me.
Get away from me. For ever. For ever.
Understand?
You think I'm not hurting?
Do you think I'm not fucking hurting?
Do you think I'm not hurting?
Do you think none of that hurt me?
Why don't you care about me a little bit too?
How about I'm upset too?
And I did. I sat out there.
So I'm not supposed to have any emotions at all?
Listen. This is the thing, OK?
You're sitting here, and you're talking with your parents,
I can't understand anything that's being said... Can I talk?
So, I'm sitting here, I'm like... All I can do is imagine and think what they're saying.
I have no idea.
But I'm sitting here, like, being quiet.
If I say anything, I'm gonna just make the whole situation worse.
It's hurting me too. This whole thing is hurting me too.
Why do you think it's easy for me to sit here and take all this, watch all of this?
Why do you think it's easy for me?
I came for you.
I know Sumit loves me,
and we've spent our entire relationship
trying to convince his parents to let us be together,
but I thought this was all over with once we finally got married.
I thought that I would be more of a priority to him,
but it seems that I'm not,
and I'm starting to wonder - is that ever gonna change?
You don't know because I'm sitting here quiet.
You don't know how I'm feeling inside.
You know, this is hard on me too.
I'm... Listen.
Your parents just hate me.
I'm upset too. This isn't easy for me, either.
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JOVI: Next time on 90 Day Fiance: Happily Ever After?...
The biggest challenge our marriage is facing is the shady shit Michael's doing.
He might be scamming me,
and I've had to find support in new people.
There's that sexy baby. (MAN SPEAKS)
I gotta work for a month, she's alone, and I want you to understand that she needs your help.
I went to meet with Mrs Gwen today.
I want for that, whenever I got to work,
that Yara has someone that can help her.
I love being a grandma, but I'm nobody's nanny.
As far as this whole second-wife thing,
I don't want to be in the same city.
I think it will be better if we're separate.
Come on, you sharing the same dick.
Like, I already don't want that mental image in my head, and now you say something like that?
I almost threw this whole plate at you just now. Huh?
Here's the thing, Shaeeda - you disappointed me yesterday.
I don't see myself as doing anything wrong.
I just knew that you were gonna go after your parents, and I was gonna be left sitting there by myself.
Sumit needs to decide between his parents and our happiness.
ED: Nice. Beautiful. Nice.
It's a lot easier when your subject's beautiful.
It looks like she has no neck. Babe, you're the student.
I'm training you. You didn't train me.
The whole time you were training her.
I don't feel like Ed's being a good partner right now.
You're not listening to how I feel.
He really pisses me off.