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..90 Day Fiance Happily Ever After?

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As far as this whole second wife
thing, I don't want it to be
in the same city.

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It'd be better if we're separate.

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When you tell me, like, I'm going to
do this and I'm gonna do that, no,
boo, I'm gonna do things my way too.

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I'm sorry that I yelled at you,
but you have to realise

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that I needed you, too,
at the same time.

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Sumit needs to decide between
his parents and our happiness.

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Here's the thing, Shi.

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It was a huge fight and, even though
Shahidah's my ex-wife, we're still
friends.

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You really disappointed me
yesterday.

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This is hard,

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because I don't see myself
as doing anything wrong.

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Michael, he asked me for money right
after Christmas, I told him no.

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He started putting his Instagram up.
And then... Let me show you
what he said.

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(READS) Send me 5K,
I will take it down.

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I just thought Michael was
different.

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The tiger is not gonna change
his stripes just because he comes
to the US.

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The issue is Charlie...
yes, Charlie drinks.

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You guys drink the same amount,
I mean, I've seen it happen.

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Fuck, Charlie, he is not welcome.

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ED: Nice. Beautiful. Nice.

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It's a lot easier when your subject
is beautiful.

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It looks like she has no neck.

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Babe, you're the student,
I'm training you.

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You didn't train me. The whole time,
you were training her.

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I don't feel like Ed is being
a good partner right now.

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You're not listening to how I feel.

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He really pisses me off.

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(SIGHS)

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Huh-huh-huh.

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Ho-o-o-ow.

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How...now...brown...cow.

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Yay!

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Good.

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Do you feel warmed up? Oh, yeah.
OK, good.

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We've a lot going on. In just a few
days, Andrei's dad will be arriving
from Moldova.

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And, today, I'm meeting with
a voice coach,

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Because I realised that I really
wanna sing.

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If I want to start singing
in front of people regularly,

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I need to build up confidence in
myself and my voice.

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And I'm just, I'm excited to see
where it goes from here.

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I feel like the sky's the limit at
this point.

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So tell me a little bit about
your training in singing?

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Um, so...

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my first voice coach
was amazing,

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I started lessons with him
when I was, like, 15.

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Yeah. But, like, I took my money
straight from work

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and gave him my entire paycheck
to just afford lessons.

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And through my life,

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I feel like singing is...

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some sort of therapy for me.

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Yeah, it's definitely therapy.

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But it also scares me, because, like,
it's weird for me, for someone to
just be like,

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"OK, go ahead and sing,
let's hear it."

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We got to get you a little more
confident. It should be fine.

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If you know for sure,
it's gonna sound good.

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In terms of, like, singing,

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no-one else in my family does it.

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So I definitely felt like
the black sheep in the family.

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I don't feel like I was ever really
supported.

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I was more, like, ridiculed than
anything else. It was, like, a joke
to them.

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I think that's another reason
why I didn't fully pursue it,

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because you need
a lot of support in it.

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So, if you could feel more confident
with...um...

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your vocal ability, at this
standpoint,

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what would you wanna do with
that talent?

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Right now, my plan is to...

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um, do, like,

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nursery-rhyme songs,
something like that.

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Make videos and put them on
social media.

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It's so random, but that's, like,
all I can think of.

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I know that my daughter is
interested in it, too.

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Any time I sing, she's just, like,
all about it. Yeah.

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Is that, like, weird?

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Um, I haven't seen anybody
do it in the past.

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Mm-hm. I can't tell you exactly
what it would take to do it.

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Mm-hm.

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Just cos... I see a lot of videos
online, right now.

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I have young kids too. Right?

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And so there's all these videos
online, it's very saturated. Right?

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But if it's something you wanna do,
I'm happy to help you.

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Let's practise a song.

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OK, so I like the idea of
Mary Had A Little Lamb.

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I'm just gonna play and you sing.

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And then... Let me hear what you do.

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OK? OK.

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(STARTS PLAYING)

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Like this.

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# Mary had a little lamb

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# A little lamb

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# A little lamb

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# Mary had a little lamb

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# Her fleece was white as snow #

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Let's do it again. Make sure
you take your breaths.

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And make sure you have this in mind,
OK?

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OK.

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# Mary had a little lamb

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# A little lamb

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# A little lamb

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# Mary had a little lamb

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# It's fleece was white as snow #

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Very good. OK. So...

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We have one note that's going
a little flat, did you hear it?

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Yes, I did.
OK.

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You're gonna lift up your cheeks and
lower your jaw before the note gets
there.

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# Little lamb #

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# Little lamb #

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Beautiful.

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My first impression of Elizabeth's
talent is she might be a little bit
rusty from not singing for a while.

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That definitely is gonna happen when
you don't use muscles for a long
period of time.

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She had a slight problem with pitch,
here and there,

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but I do think she has talent,
I do like the quality of her voice,
it definitely is unique.

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# The itsy-bitsy spider went up
the water spout

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# Down came the rain

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# And washed the spider out

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# Out came the sun
and dried up all the rain

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# And the itsy-bitsy spider
went up the spout again #

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Beautiful.

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I like that one a lot for you.
Yeah, it was cute.

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It felt so amazing to be back in
a voice lesson.

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I am feeling more myself again.

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I just wanted to belt it out.
I know that we have a lot of steps
that we need to take

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to warm my voice up properly
and get it going again,

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but, I mean, I could sing all night
right now, I just feel so great.

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I feel like I'm finding what I always
loved to do and what made me happy.

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Basically, you have a really good
ability to sing and I do think that
you have a talent in that area.

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I wanna be really real with you,
as far as your ability to actually
make it in the industry.

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A lot of people think it's a lot
easier than it is.

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Yeah. And it is a dream for
a lot of people.

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And one of my jobs here is to make
sure that you have the reality of
what it's going to take.

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Yeah.

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So, as far as, like, working with
nursery rhymes, specifically,

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this is, like, a very new venture.

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So you're gonna have to do a lot of
lessons to get ready to practise and
do these songs.

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Yeah. You have to actually record
the music in the studio.

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So then the rest of the work is
making a video and getting people
to know that it exists.

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So it's not like it's a "happens
really fast" type of situation.

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It takes a lot longer than most
people think.

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Yeah. For sure.

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Given all the feedback that I got
tonight from Roxy, I just...

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have a lot of thinking to do.

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This is a big step for me.
Am I ready to take the leap?

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Do I have enough time
to take the leap?

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I just have to make sure that my head
is fully in it, because I don't
half-ass things.

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And so...I have to make sure that
I'm ready and that I'm ready
to fully commit.

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I'm beating you!

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(GIGGLES)

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Put your legs over here and here.

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All right, now, put your foot
on the pedal.

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Y'all wanna be the cheerleaders?
Yeah!

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You can do it! Pedal! You can do it!

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You can do it, London!

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You can do it! London!

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Yay!

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You can do it. How about y'all come
over here and get on it?

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Hm?
No. No.

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Show her y'all got her back. This is
what Papaw Michael does to Meemaw.

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Give me support.

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Uh-oh.

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Move!
Pedal, pedal, pedal!

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'Lately, the grandkids act more
excited for Michael to be here
than me.'

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I holded on.

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(LAUGHS) That was good!
That was good.

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I've been the meemaw and the papaw
and it would be nice
for them

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to have a man-figure...

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that they love and...

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that was supposed to be Michael.

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But, at this point, I have lots of
reasons to be pissed off at Michael,
right now.

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I mean, lots.

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All right, London.

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You're gonna need that one.
That ain't gonna work.

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If he gets here.

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He's trying to aggravate
your meemaw. Oh, no.

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Yeah.
That's not gonna turn out good.

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It sure ain't!

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You see his birthday's today?

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Yep.

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All right. Well, give me a break.
Let me go talk to Papaw Michael.

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OK. Go over here. Y'all play over
here where I can see you.

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Go, go, go, go, go, go, go!
Good job, London!

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Since Michael and I have been
together, I haven't missed a holiday
or a birthday.

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I go through extra effort to make
him feel loved, even though
he's not at the house.

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But, this year, I'm not doing it.

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Because Michael has been...

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shady to me.

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But the fact of the matter is...

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my lawyer said Michael's visa could
be approved at any time now.

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And, once that happens, Michael
could come with or without
my approval.

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So I wanna try to fix things,
because I love him.

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But I can only hope that Michael's
heart is in this relationship

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for the right reasons.

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(DIALS NUMBER)

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Hi, Michael.

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Happy birthday.

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Thank you.

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You didn't go out for your birthday?

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I refused. Why did I refuse?

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Why did I refuse?

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Because you're an idiot!

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You have been blessed
all these four years.

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I've always provided Michael with
enough money to live on.

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So he can make payments on his car,
keep his phone on, have a TV.

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So where's that damn money going,
if he's asking for more?

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And he had the nerve to threaten me.

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He would take down his Instagram.

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Only if I sent him $5,000.

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Now how much shadier can he get?

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Are you not, all of a sudden,
put your Instagram up, Mr Michael?

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You blocked me on your Instagram.

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You're talking to women on your IG.

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I will shout, because this is what
you've done to me!

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All of a sudden, you get married
and you've been acting shabby.

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The bottom line is...
Angela wants to control
everything.

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It's not done that way.

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I want you to take that Instagram
down and keep it down!

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OK.
I'm not taking it down.

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Goodbye! Fuck you and your birthday!

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Who can take that without snapping?

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Since he's put his Instagram up,
he's become a social-media whore.

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His feed and comments are filled
with women and who knows what
in the hell happens in his DM.

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Would you trust your husband,
if he was flirting with other women
on social media?

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No, you wouldn't. If you say yes,
you're telling a damn lie.

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The hardest part of all of this is
I have not only

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put my heart and soul
into this relationship,

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I've gotten my family involved.

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I've got my grandchildren
that love him, like...

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I don't even know...

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(CHOKES BACK TEARS)

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I don't even know if I know Michael,
at this point.

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(PHONE RINGS)

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What?

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You only called me back, because
you wanna know about the visa?

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This is why I'm fucking angry!
You shouldn't be worried about
when you get here.

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I called, because I wanted you
to know we need to work on
our marriage.

235
00:15:27,093 --> 00:15:30,805
You don't do nothing that's gonna
make us stay together!

236
00:15:30,889 --> 00:15:33,183
Why do I want to fucking
bring you here?

237
00:15:37,354 --> 00:15:40,565
You have fucking done nothing
but hurt me!

238
00:15:41,691 --> 00:15:45,028
That's all you have fucking done!
It's funny to you.

239
00:15:45,111 --> 00:15:48,198
I didn't do nothing for you
to treat me this way.

240
00:15:48,281 --> 00:15:50,658
I can't do this conversation.

241
00:15:50,742 --> 00:15:52,577
I am over this call.

242
00:15:52,660 --> 00:15:54,412
(ENDS CALL)
I'm done.

243
00:15:57,874 --> 00:15:59,542
It's all running in my head.

244
00:15:59,626 --> 00:16:03,797
My mind's racing about, trying to
figure out why he's done this,
really.

245
00:16:07,509 --> 00:16:10,762
He might think it's a game
or he might really be through.

246
00:16:10,845 --> 00:16:13,139
It gets me upset.

247
00:16:52,762 --> 00:16:54,264
(GROANS)

248
00:16:54,347 --> 00:16:55,682
Sumit!

249
00:16:55,765 --> 00:16:57,475
It's frustrating.

250
00:16:57,559 --> 00:16:59,644
I can't find anything.

251
00:16:59,728 --> 00:17:01,813
(SIGHS)

252
00:17:09,654 --> 00:17:11,531
I'm so excited.

253
00:17:11,614 --> 00:17:13,491
Honeymoon time!

254
00:17:20,457 --> 00:17:24,252
If you let me go back in that room,
I'm gonna come back with more stuff.

255
00:17:24,336 --> 00:17:28,089
So let's just close the suitcase
before I come back with more stuff!

256
00:17:28,173 --> 00:17:33,553
Today, we are packing up
and getting ready to go for
our honeymoon.

257
00:17:33,636 --> 00:17:35,430
Yay!
I'm so excited.

258
00:17:36,556 --> 00:17:40,477
We are going to Rishikesh,
which is a beautiful town

259
00:17:40,560 --> 00:17:43,229
in the foothills
of the Himalayas,

260
00:17:43,313 --> 00:17:45,607
right next to the River Ganges.

261
00:17:45,690 --> 00:17:50,987
I'm really very much excited to show
Jenny, like, the beauty of India.

262
00:17:51,071 --> 00:17:54,324
Sumit's got everything planned out
for us there.

263
00:17:54,407 --> 00:17:57,660
And I can't wait. After waiting for
so many months,

264
00:17:57,744 --> 00:17:59,621
it's finally honeymoon time.

265
00:17:59,704 --> 00:18:01,581
As Mr and Mrs Sumit.

266
00:18:05,043 --> 00:18:07,337
I can't wait, I'm so excited!

267
00:18:07,420 --> 00:18:11,049
But it's just so frustrating
being back in this house.

268
00:18:11,132 --> 00:18:14,678
I know, baby, but don't forget
the reason why we are here.

269
00:18:14,761 --> 00:18:17,347
Like it or not, we have to live here.

270
00:18:19,724 --> 00:18:23,645
We had to move back to
the old house, because of my visa.

271
00:18:23,728 --> 00:18:27,941
Now, I didn't wanna come back to
this old house, but all the
paperwork

272
00:18:28,024 --> 00:18:32,195
that's been done for my Indian
immigration is done at this address.

273
00:18:32,278 --> 00:18:34,364
OK, let me sit on it.

274
00:18:34,447 --> 00:18:37,450
Now you can roll me out.
Come on, let's go. Let's go!

275
00:18:37,534 --> 00:18:39,160
(LAUGHTER)

276
00:18:39,244 --> 00:18:44,082
They like to make surprise visits.
If they come here to see us
and we're not here,

277
00:18:44,165 --> 00:18:46,459
they're gonna think
something is wrong.

278
00:18:46,543 --> 00:18:49,671
So we have to live here
until that's all sorted out.

279
00:18:50,839 --> 00:18:55,010
Can you tell me a little bit about
Rishikesh? What is it like there?

280
00:19:07,188 --> 00:19:10,108
River rafting?
Which I'm not going to do.

281
00:19:17,824 --> 00:19:19,451
..zip lining,

282
00:19:19,534 --> 00:19:21,619
I wanna go for a hiking.

283
00:19:21,703 --> 00:19:23,413
I wanna go to camping.

284
00:19:23,496 --> 00:19:25,874
Yeah, everything.
Like, whatever I can do.

285
00:19:25,957 --> 00:19:28,043
Uh-oh. I'm in trouble.

286
00:19:29,711 --> 00:19:31,338
(SHRIEKS)

287
00:19:31,421 --> 00:19:33,131
(HORN BLARES)

288
00:19:38,386 --> 00:19:40,263
What do you wanna do?

289
00:19:40,347 --> 00:19:42,432
Uh, lay next to the river.

290
00:19:42,515 --> 00:19:44,184
(LAUGHS) On the beach.

291
00:19:44,267 --> 00:19:45,894
And just relax

292
00:19:45,977 --> 00:19:47,645
and just be together,

293
00:19:47,729 --> 00:19:49,814
as husband and wife.

294
00:19:49,898 --> 00:19:52,400
Basically, it's boring.
You can say that!

295
00:19:55,820 --> 00:19:57,155
Oh!

296
00:19:58,531 --> 00:20:00,408
We need this.

297
00:20:00,492 --> 00:20:03,286
All the stress from your parents,
from your mom.

298
00:20:34,567 --> 00:20:36,653
It just feels so good right now.

299
00:20:36,736 --> 00:20:40,907
We get to go celebrate, you know,
our marriage, our life together.

300
00:20:40,990 --> 00:20:44,536
We finally are, like, free
to do this. Yeah. Before...

301
00:20:44,619 --> 00:20:47,914
too much drama going on with your
family and your mother.

302
00:20:49,165 --> 00:20:52,836
But now we're married, nobody can
stop us now, we're free to go.

303
00:20:54,462 --> 00:20:58,425
To tell you the truth, I'm still
a little worried that it's gonna
take Sumit a while

304
00:20:58,508 --> 00:21:00,802
to free himself from his parents.

305
00:21:00,885 --> 00:21:03,388
But for this honeymoon,

306
00:21:03,471 --> 00:21:05,432
I'm hoping that he can...

307
00:21:05,515 --> 00:21:07,726
let it go and move on from them.

308
00:21:07,809 --> 00:21:11,980
If he doesn't, this will be a dark
shadow over our marriage forever.

309
00:21:13,148 --> 00:21:15,650
Did you book us a nice hotel?
I hope you did.

310
00:21:15,734 --> 00:21:17,068
Yeah.

311
00:21:21,489 --> 00:21:21,750
2
00:20:34.360 -- 00:20:36.440 align:middle line:90% position:50%
ED: That's what I'm talking about.

312
00:21:29,330 --> 00:21:30,999
I really like that.

313
00:21:37,464 --> 00:21:39,049
These are awesome.

314
00:21:39,132 --> 00:21:41,843
You actually know what you're doing!
(LAUGHS)

315
00:21:44,971 --> 00:21:46,639
(SIGHS)

316
00:21:48,308 --> 00:21:51,561
That's exactly how I thought
the shoot was gonna go.

317
00:21:52,729 --> 00:21:55,857
Like, I knew he wasn't gonna try to
actually teach me.

318
00:21:55,940 --> 00:21:59,694
He wasn't even, like, telling me
things, it was just him and Alex.

319
00:21:59,778 --> 00:22:05,200
And... I mean, I thought it was
gonna be easier, because Alex is
my friend, so...

320
00:22:06,534 --> 00:22:08,203
Yeah. Just...

321
00:22:08,286 --> 00:22:11,623
The fact that he doesn't even care
right now to even, like,

322
00:22:11,706 --> 00:22:14,000
hear me out or hear, like, what I...

323
00:22:14,084 --> 00:22:15,960
I don't know, whatever.

324
00:22:18,672 --> 00:22:23,009
Alex, great job. Hey, thanks.
You were supposed to teach Liz, too.
Right?

325
00:22:23,093 --> 00:22:26,930
But when she's like, "Oh, she doesn't
have a neck", I'm like,
"Yes she does."

326
00:22:27,013 --> 00:22:30,016
That was the one. I'm like,
"What are you talking about?"

327
00:22:30,100 --> 00:22:34,104
Well, I get what she's saying.
I'm kind of hunched over. Yeah.

328
00:22:35,438 --> 00:22:37,565
I see what she sees, I see that.
Yeah.

329
00:22:37,649 --> 00:22:44,364
I'm trying to stay out of it, but he
didn't seem to be listening to her
when she was giving her opinion.

330
00:22:44,447 --> 00:22:49,369
I think she's just frustrated and
wants her opinions to be heard
and valued.

331
00:22:49,452 --> 00:22:52,664
But I do know that they do fight
and if you're gonna have

332
00:22:52,747 --> 00:22:58,336
a healthy relationship, you have to
understand your partner's feelings,
no matter what.

333
00:22:58,420 --> 00:23:02,257
I probably took it the wrong way.
I'll probably have to apologise.

334
00:23:02,340 --> 00:23:04,718
You probably always should
apologise.

335
00:23:04,801 --> 00:23:09,305
Yeah. I get, kind of, you know,
self-conscious of my work and...

336
00:23:09,389 --> 00:23:14,602
Well, it's a product of who you are.
It's hard to hear that someone
doesn't think it's right or good.

337
00:23:15,729 --> 00:23:17,814
I think I hurt
Liz's feelings.

338
00:23:17,897 --> 00:23:19,566
I think. You know?

339
00:23:19,649 --> 00:23:23,611
I kind of corrected her
in front of Alex and
she didn't like that.

340
00:23:23,695 --> 00:23:27,741
Great job. I'll see you guys soon.
OK. Definitely. OK. Bye, take care.

341
00:23:29,159 --> 00:23:32,537
She's a Gemini. I'm a Taurus.
We're both very headstrong.

342
00:23:32,620 --> 00:23:34,289
And, sometimes,

343
00:23:34,372 --> 00:23:36,875
in a relationship,
it's not all roses.

344
00:23:38,668 --> 00:23:41,421
I guess I got to pack up this
all by myself.

345
00:23:41,504 --> 00:23:43,173
Oh, well...

346
00:23:54,768 --> 00:23:58,605
I wanna apologise to her, but I also
want her to understand that...

347
00:23:58,688 --> 00:24:00,357
you know...

348
00:24:00,440 --> 00:24:03,985
The point I was trying to make is
that you don't correct...

349
00:24:04,069 --> 00:24:05,737
you know,

350
00:24:05,820 --> 00:24:08,198
a photographer in front of a client.

351
00:24:08,281 --> 00:24:10,992
And that's it. And she took that
the wrong way.

352
00:24:11,076 --> 00:24:12,744
So...

353
00:24:12,827 --> 00:24:14,913
So I was wrong. She was wrong,

354
00:24:14,996 --> 00:24:18,124
I'm sure I'm gonna have to...
clean that up.

355
00:24:26,049 --> 00:24:28,134
There goes my back.

356
00:24:35,100 --> 00:24:37,185
Sorry I snapped at you.

357
00:24:38,561 --> 00:24:40,647
I love you, you're my fiancee.

358
00:24:40,730 --> 00:24:43,566
But you weren't my fiancee
in that photoshoot.

359
00:24:43,650 --> 00:24:45,735
You were somebody that I was...

360
00:24:45,819 --> 00:24:47,696
teaching my technique to.

361
00:24:47,779 --> 00:24:50,281
Baby - I don't feel like
you were a teacher.

362
00:24:50,365 --> 00:24:54,494
You weren't even talking to me. You
were talking to her and showing
off.

363
00:24:54,577 --> 00:24:57,288
Your face, your eyes, everything was
somewhere else.

364
00:24:57,372 --> 00:24:58,998
On my subject!

365
00:24:59,082 --> 00:25:00,750
This wasn't about...

366
00:25:03,128 --> 00:25:04,796
It's not personal.

367
00:25:05,922 --> 00:25:09,884
There are times in our relationship
where she can grow up a little.

368
00:25:09,968 --> 00:25:11,970
The generational thing...

369
00:25:12,053 --> 00:25:14,305
as much as it keeps me young,

370
00:25:14,389 --> 00:25:16,599
it's a challenge, it is.

371
00:25:16,683 --> 00:25:20,562
And when she acts immature,
it gives me pause.

372
00:25:20,645 --> 00:25:22,897
'It pisses me off.'

373
00:25:22,981 --> 00:25:25,150
I still don't feel like you're
hearing me. OK.

374
00:25:25,233 --> 00:25:28,111
I'm not just your assistant.
I don't wanna be your assistant.

375
00:25:28,194 --> 00:25:30,697
I want to learn and, like,
ask questions.

376
00:25:30,780 --> 00:25:33,074
Or feel like you give
an interest on...

377
00:25:33,158 --> 00:25:36,703
I don't... I do all that. No, you
didn't. But you were critiquing me.

378
00:25:36,786 --> 00:25:40,290
I wasn't trying to critique you.
I'm teaching you. I made one
comment.

379
00:25:40,373 --> 00:25:41,916
"She doesn't have a neck."

380
00:25:42,000 --> 00:25:46,129
I could have worded it better, but
then you could have also asked me
my opinion.

381
00:25:46,212 --> 00:25:48,048
Right, so I'm apologising.

382
00:25:48,131 --> 00:25:50,133
I'm sorry, too.
OK, great.

383
00:25:52,469 --> 00:25:57,307
The main reason why Ed and I broke
up in the past was because he was
so controlling.

384
00:25:57,390 --> 00:25:59,476
Ed and I have an age difference.

385
00:25:59,559 --> 00:26:03,313
Sometimes, it sucks, especially in
moments like this.

386
00:26:07,609 --> 00:26:09,903
..which has been problems
in the past.

387
00:26:09,986 --> 00:26:13,656
Nobody wants to screw their dad
at night, so...

388
00:26:13,740 --> 00:26:15,617
I love him,

389
00:26:15,700 --> 00:26:18,119
but I know love is not enough

390
00:26:18,203 --> 00:26:20,372
to make a relationship work.

391
00:26:20,455 --> 00:26:26,127
You're very smart, you're very
bright, but you're also very
stubborn, just like me.

392
00:26:26,211 --> 00:26:27,879
I mean...

393
00:26:29,631 --> 00:26:34,052
I don't know, just... Let's just not
work together, let's just not.

394
00:26:38,932 --> 00:26:41,851
I'm not carrying that to the car.
Be a man for once.

395
00:26:41,935 --> 00:26:45,271
My back is hurting me, I'm serious.
OK, well, I'll be back.

396
00:26:53,238 --> 00:26:54,572
Thank you.

397
00:26:54,656 --> 00:26:56,116
Yep.

398
00:27:03,915 --> 00:27:06,001
Come and sit down here.

399
00:27:16,177 --> 00:27:18,263
Yeah.

400
00:27:19,431 --> 00:27:21,725
It is my first full day in Abuja,

401
00:27:21,808 --> 00:27:25,770
but, already, Usman and I got in
a fight about the second wife.

402
00:27:25,854 --> 00:27:31,776
I am totally fine with Usman taking
a second wife, as long as I don't
have to meet her.

403
00:27:31,860 --> 00:27:36,072
But Usman thinks that I have
to interact with the second wife.

404
00:27:36,156 --> 00:27:37,782
And I'm, like, no.

405
00:27:37,866 --> 00:27:39,951
That's not gonna work.

406
00:27:41,745 --> 00:27:43,663
Babe...

407
00:27:48,501 --> 00:27:50,503
No. Like, are you...
Not at all. No.

408
00:27:50,587 --> 00:27:53,340
Why? Because we still have to talk
about it more.

409
00:27:53,423 --> 00:27:57,218
Anyway, tell me about this guy
we're meeting? Oh, he's my friend.

410
00:28:03,141 --> 00:28:05,101
He has, like, a couple of wives.

411
00:28:05,185 --> 00:28:09,064
Oh! Like, some wives. So that's why
you brought me here? A few wives.

412
00:28:09,147 --> 00:28:12,859
That's why you brought me?
To make me feel better about
your second wife?

413
00:28:12,942 --> 00:28:15,195
Is anything wrong with that?

414
00:28:15,278 --> 00:28:16,821
OK.

415
00:28:34,130 --> 00:28:36,174
SojaBoy!

416
00:28:36,257 --> 00:28:37,926
Kabiru.

417
00:28:41,763 --> 00:28:43,598
Here's my friend.
Hi.

418
00:28:43,682 --> 00:28:45,350
His name is Kabiru.

419
00:28:45,433 --> 00:28:48,812
This is my girlfriend.
Her name is Kimberly.
OK. Nice to meet you.

420
00:28:48,895 --> 00:28:50,814
Nice to meet you, too.

421
00:28:53,566 --> 00:28:55,068
In future, we get married.

422
00:28:58,029 --> 00:29:00,865
And, in Africa, it is so...
it's important.

423
00:29:03,785 --> 00:29:07,831
Kimberly said that she's OK with
that. I mean, I'm OK with that.

424
00:29:07,914 --> 00:29:12,168
But, like, having multiple marriages
is not my culture, that's not
what we do.

425
00:29:14,754 --> 00:29:17,841
I'm terrified. No, no, no.
You don't have to be.

426
00:29:18,883 --> 00:29:20,844
Because I'm, like, the first wife.
Right?

427
00:29:22,554 --> 00:29:24,723
So what are their roles,
are they equal?

428
00:29:27,350 --> 00:29:28,810
Yes.

429
00:29:28,893 --> 00:29:30,228
OK.

430
00:29:40,989 --> 00:29:44,075
He said he has two wives. And, um,

431
00:29:44,159 --> 00:29:48,580
if you love one the most,
you have to hide it and show them
they're all equal.

432
00:29:52,834 --> 00:29:56,004
Not what you told me. You said
the first wife gets all the love.

433
00:29:56,087 --> 00:29:59,841
This is what you've told me. No, no,
no, that is right. The respect.

434
00:29:59,924 --> 00:30:03,762
The respect is the issue,
you get that, I promise you.
I don't care about that.

435
00:30:06,306 --> 00:30:11,811
As Usman has explained this to me
numerous times, the role of
the second wife is, basically,

436
00:30:11,895 --> 00:30:15,940
just to, like, have the children,
that's all he really needs her for.

437
00:30:16,024 --> 00:30:19,569
If Usman would have been, like,
more upfront and said, like,

438
00:30:19,652 --> 00:30:22,906
"I have to love both of them
equally, blah, blah, blah",

439
00:30:22,989 --> 00:30:25,492
I wouldn't have been OK with that,
at all.

440
00:30:25,575 --> 00:30:28,286
I would have never ever
come to Nigeria.

441
00:30:28,370 --> 00:30:30,955
I'd have been, like,
"OK, I'm out, bye!"

442
00:30:32,791 --> 00:30:34,709
How many wives do you have?
Two.

443
00:30:34,793 --> 00:30:37,170
You have two. OK.
Do you have children?

444
00:30:37,253 --> 00:30:38,963
I have nine children.

445
00:30:39,047 --> 00:30:41,466
Nine? (CHUCKLES)
Wow.

446
00:30:41,549 --> 00:30:45,095
Wait, I have the potential to have
nine. I don't want to take long time.

447
00:30:45,178 --> 00:30:47,514
So why not have two more wives?
Plus you. Four.

448
00:30:47,597 --> 00:30:51,267
No. There's no way, no. I can barely
deal with one. You think I'm -

449
00:30:51,351 --> 00:30:54,813
Wait - No, I don't give a damn, no.
I want you to hear that now.

450
00:30:54,896 --> 00:30:56,773
If I have four wives,

451
00:30:56,856 --> 00:30:59,234
plus you, like, I have three more.

452
00:31:02,195 --> 00:31:05,323
Oh, my God. Wait. Wait, wait, wait.
I'm listening.

453
00:31:12,205 --> 00:31:14,207
That is the dumbest thing
I ever heard.

454
00:31:14,290 --> 00:31:19,713
No, look, we said one, I was cool
with one, now you're talking about
three and four. No.

455
00:31:19,796 --> 00:31:23,216
Anyway, so how...
Like, do they live together?

456
00:31:28,430 --> 00:31:31,933
The two of them are living in
the same house. What if, just say,

457
00:31:32,017 --> 00:31:35,687
I don't want to meet the second
wife, I don't want to see the kids?

458
00:31:35,770 --> 00:31:39,983
Cos I don't live here. And I really
don't think it's funny. It's funny.

459
00:31:55,248 --> 00:31:57,125
So this is what he's saying.

460
00:31:57,208 --> 00:31:58,752
He said...

461
00:31:58,835 --> 00:32:02,339
why not, when I get married
to the second wife,

462
00:32:02,422 --> 00:32:05,550
I should take her child
to you in the States.

463
00:32:05,633 --> 00:32:08,011
No, sir! Listen to me,
listen to me.

464
00:32:08,094 --> 00:32:10,513
That would bring you guys
more closer.

465
00:32:10,597 --> 00:32:13,516
No. And you love each other,
like, close friends.

466
00:32:13,600 --> 00:32:15,268
No. Then I would be the elder.

467
00:32:17,270 --> 00:32:19,356
(MOUTHS)

468
00:32:19,439 --> 00:32:21,691
Aah! What did you say to me?

469
00:32:21,775 --> 00:32:24,319
I said, "What the fuck?"
That's what I said.

470
00:32:24,402 --> 00:32:26,071
To me?
I said it to you.

471
00:32:26,154 --> 00:32:27,947
(GASPS)

472
00:32:28,031 --> 00:32:30,867
Are you listening to me?
Stop. Just stop.

473
00:32:43,004 --> 00:32:47,634
I'm starting to doubt if Kimberly's
actually OK with this idea of
a second wife.

474
00:32:47,717 --> 00:32:50,345
Maybe she was just saying that
just to make me happy.

475
00:32:50,428 --> 00:32:53,640
Now she has seen the reality,
she doesn't think she can take it.

476
00:32:53,723 --> 00:32:57,977
Are you really sure that you are
going to allow me to have
that second wife?

477
00:33:00,021 --> 00:33:01,690
Are you OK...

478
00:33:01,773 --> 00:33:04,275
for me to have a young lady
to get married,

479
00:33:04,359 --> 00:33:06,027
because I never had a child?

480
00:33:06,111 --> 00:33:09,989
And I have to have one or two.
Why are you yelling?
I'm not yelling.

481
00:33:10,073 --> 00:33:12,867
I'm making the point for you to get.
I got the point, babe.

482
00:33:12,951 --> 00:33:17,080
So why are you just changing now?
I'm not, I'm asking questions.
You know what...

483
00:33:17,163 --> 00:33:19,249
It was nice to meet you,
but I'm gonna go.

484
00:33:19,332 --> 00:33:21,334
Because your ass is pissing me off!

485
00:33:22,794 --> 00:33:23,962
The fuck out of here.

486
00:33:24,045 --> 00:33:25,422
Wow.

487
00:33:28,258 --> 00:33:28,518
2
00:32:12.640 -- 00:32:14.280 align:middle line:75% position:50%
Say...

488
00:33:38,768 --> 00:33:40,228
Good job!

489
00:33:40,311 --> 00:33:42,439
Say... (GIGGLES)

490
00:33:42,522 --> 00:33:43,857
Say...

491
00:33:46,943 --> 00:33:49,237
Say...

492
00:33:50,822 --> 00:33:52,157
Yeah!

493
00:33:57,454 --> 00:34:00,957
The last time he saw you,
you were a little girl.

494
00:34:01,041 --> 00:34:04,377
He's coming all the way from Moldova
to see you.

495
00:34:06,463 --> 00:34:08,423
Yes.

496
00:34:08,506 --> 00:34:14,179
Andrei's dad is arriving from Moldova
tonight and me and Ellie are really
excited to see him.

497
00:34:14,262 --> 00:34:17,390
He has a much calmer personality
than Andrei.

498
00:34:17,474 --> 00:34:20,810
I wish that his personality will rub
off on Andrei.

499
00:34:20,894 --> 00:34:23,188
Might be wishful thinking, but...

500
00:34:23,271 --> 00:34:26,232
it could really help
when my family is around.

501
00:34:26,316 --> 00:34:29,819
And even though his dad speaks
no English whatsoever.

502
00:34:29,903 --> 00:34:34,240
Ellie and I have really been
practising and working on
our Romanian.

503
00:34:34,324 --> 00:34:37,452
So I'll be able to communicate better
this time with Andrei's dad.

504
00:34:39,162 --> 00:34:41,247
Hello!
Oh, Daddy's here!

505
00:34:41,331 --> 00:34:43,208
Hi, Daddy!

506
00:34:53,968 --> 00:34:58,390
My dad is here to visit us for a few
months. Very excited about this.

507
00:34:58,473 --> 00:35:00,850
He has been here in America before,

508
00:35:00,934 --> 00:35:04,354
but we haven't seen him
from when the pandemic started.

509
00:35:04,437 --> 00:35:06,314
And I miss my dad a lot.

510
00:35:06,398 --> 00:35:08,483
Look what he has for you!

511
00:35:08,566 --> 00:35:11,027
A unicorn!

512
00:35:12,487 --> 00:35:15,949
I wish my mom was here too,
but she was not able to come,

513
00:35:16,032 --> 00:35:20,453
because there is a lot of delays
in processing the visa with COVID.

514
00:35:32,132 --> 00:35:35,468
He says that we can make, like,
three kitchens over here!

515
00:35:35,552 --> 00:35:37,429
In one, yeah.

516
00:35:37,512 --> 00:35:41,391
In Moldova, the homes are much
smaller. I grew up in an apartment.

517
00:35:41,474 --> 00:35:44,811
And this is very typical
for a Moldavian-style of life.

518
00:35:44,894 --> 00:35:46,771
And I'm very excited

519
00:35:46,855 --> 00:35:48,940
to host my dad in my new home

520
00:35:49,024 --> 00:35:51,443
and show him
the American way of living.

521
00:36:40,575 --> 00:36:42,243
Thank you.
(LAUGHS)

522
00:36:46,956 --> 00:36:48,625
Hold on.

523
00:36:48,708 --> 00:36:50,377
Yes.

524
00:36:53,380 --> 00:36:55,465
Did you understand what he said?

525
00:37:07,185 --> 00:37:09,270
Mimi, your ice cream is here.

526
00:37:09,354 --> 00:37:11,439
Ice cream is your favourite thing.

527
00:38:30,268 --> 00:38:32,687
I spoke with her on the phone. And?
And...

528
00:38:33,813 --> 00:38:36,733
I told her that she needs
to get together with you,

529
00:38:36,816 --> 00:38:39,235
because how she spoke with you
was not OK.

530
00:38:39,319 --> 00:38:40,653
Uh-uh.

531
00:38:40,737 --> 00:38:42,822
And very inappropriate at the party.

532
00:38:42,906 --> 00:38:45,241
I agree. I just wanted to set
something up.

533
00:38:46,618 --> 00:38:52,749
It's really frustrating that my mom
was completely defensive of Charlie,
when her and I spoke.

534
00:38:52,832 --> 00:38:55,377
As far as I'm concerned,
this needs to stop.

535
00:38:55,460 --> 00:39:00,215
Everybody needs to work through
their differences. Has Andrei tried
to go to Charlie?

536
00:39:00,298 --> 00:39:03,968
Mom, I'm not gonna take advice from
you on how to handle a situation.

537
00:39:04,052 --> 00:39:07,180
You could have this conversation and
talk to him about it.

538
00:39:07,263 --> 00:39:12,477
It was wrong of you to point fingers
at my husband, saying that he drinks
just as much as Charlie.

539
00:39:12,560 --> 00:39:14,688
Both of them drinking
at the same time.

540
00:39:14,771 --> 00:39:17,816
Mom... Especially when we were in
Moldova. Don't be in denial.

541
00:39:17,899 --> 00:39:23,905
I really think my mom and Andrei
should meet up, because they need
to work through their issues.

542
00:39:23,988 --> 00:39:27,742
I don't wanna break off contact with
another family member.

543
00:39:27,826 --> 00:39:31,955
This is gonna be very interesting.
I'm gonna open up her eyes.

544
00:39:32,038 --> 00:39:34,958
I'm gonna go one-on-one. I'm gonna
tell her what the reality is.

545
00:40:06,531 --> 00:40:10,326
I don't think that Pamela
understands that Charlie has
a drinking problem.

546
00:40:10,410 --> 00:40:14,164
She sticks her head in the sand and
she doesn't want to get to the lie.

547
00:40:14,247 --> 00:40:18,168
She needs to face the truth and,
if nobody will say that, I will.

548
00:40:40,023 --> 00:40:42,901
Note to myself, you want something
that's gonna pop.

549
00:40:52,327 --> 00:40:55,830
When we go into the store,
I just want you to keep in mind,

550
00:40:55,914 --> 00:40:58,375
we really don't need anything.

551
00:40:58,458 --> 00:41:00,835
Like, just be cognisant.

552
00:41:02,045 --> 00:41:05,590
'Bilal and I decided to move forward
with a clean slate.'

553
00:41:05,674 --> 00:41:10,178
After I apologised for my actions at
the coffee shop with his ex-wife.

554
00:41:12,055 --> 00:41:16,393
Today, we are going decor shopping.
because now that we are married,

555
00:41:16,476 --> 00:41:19,229
I want Bilal's home
to also feel like mine.

556
00:41:21,147 --> 00:41:24,776
Hi, there. Hello. Is there anything
I can help you with?

557
00:41:28,947 --> 00:41:30,573
Like, he decorated our home.

558
00:41:30,657 --> 00:41:34,536
He did a good job, but it needs
that kind of woman's touch.

559
00:41:34,619 --> 00:41:37,455
Yeah, I get you.
It looks like a bachelor's home.

560
00:41:37,539 --> 00:41:39,124
It does not look like...

561
00:41:39,207 --> 00:41:42,544
Well, take a look around. Any
questions, let me know. Thank you.

562
00:41:45,922 --> 00:41:48,842
Every time I pick up some colour,
he lets me put it down.

563
00:41:48,925 --> 00:41:51,636
"Oh, it's too bright. It's too this,
it's too that."

564
00:41:51,720 --> 00:41:54,264
She wants everything
to be extra bright.

565
00:41:54,347 --> 00:41:56,641
She wants the comforters to be pink.

566
00:41:56,725 --> 00:41:58,810
She's the one who picked this shirt.

567
00:41:58,893 --> 00:42:00,562
I like this shirt.

568
00:42:00,645 --> 00:42:06,276
When she brings crazy things to the
house and say, "I think this will go
good in our bedroom",

569
00:42:06,359 --> 00:42:08,445
I'm like, "No, it's not."

570
00:42:10,530 --> 00:42:12,615
That's teal.
I like this.

571
00:42:16,411 --> 00:42:18,204
249.

572
00:42:18,288 --> 00:42:22,125
I would probably suggest maybe hold
off on that right now.

573
00:42:24,461 --> 00:42:26,963
OK, let me, let me show you
something.

574
00:42:27,047 --> 00:42:30,091
So...this game is...

575
00:42:30,175 --> 00:42:32,260
430 dollars.

576
00:42:32,344 --> 00:42:35,388
Now the zeros here in America...

577
00:42:35,472 --> 00:42:37,557
are real zeros.

578
00:42:37,640 --> 00:42:40,018
So...430...

579
00:42:40,101 --> 00:42:42,062
times...

580
00:42:42,145 --> 00:42:44,856
6.7.
Point seven.

581
00:42:44,939 --> 00:42:48,401
Mm-hm. Because the dollar spells
6.7 in Trinidad.

582
00:42:48,485 --> 00:42:50,153
Oh, wow.

583
00:42:50,236 --> 00:42:52,030
See how much it is?

584
00:42:52,113 --> 00:42:55,033
That's 2,800 dollars
in Trinidad money.

585
00:42:55,116 --> 00:42:56,451
Mm-hm.

586
00:42:59,412 --> 00:43:02,165
I tend to give Shaeeda
whatever she wants.

587
00:43:02,248 --> 00:43:04,834
You know? I may say something here
and there.

588
00:43:04,918 --> 00:43:09,839
The price of this, the price of
that, because I really want her
to value the dollar.

589
00:43:09,923 --> 00:43:12,008
But she doesn't really realise.

590
00:43:13,176 --> 00:43:17,389
America is the home of the free, but
everything is not free. You know?

591
00:43:17,472 --> 00:43:20,600
This is probably what we should get.
What is that?

592
00:43:20,684 --> 00:43:23,687
It's called
Newlyweds Instruction Manual.

593
00:43:23,770 --> 00:43:26,272
Let me see.
"Trouble-shooting tips

594
00:43:26,356 --> 00:43:29,776
and advice for the first year of
marriage"...for Shaeeda!

595
00:43:29,859 --> 00:43:33,905
It literally has your name on it.
It doesn't. It literally says that.

596
00:43:33,988 --> 00:43:38,076
The first page I came to was...
"spender versus saver".

597
00:43:38,159 --> 00:43:40,453
What type do you think you are,
babe?

598
00:43:40,537 --> 00:43:42,706
I think I'm a bit of the both.
(LAUGHS)

599
00:43:48,545 --> 00:43:51,798
I make money to spend money,
because I want to enjoy life.

600
00:43:51,881 --> 00:43:53,550
He makes money to save.

601
00:43:57,846 --> 00:44:01,891
So I think he likes to spend
when it's on him. He spends more.

602
00:44:06,646 --> 00:44:08,732
Oh, wow. Oh, my God!

603
00:44:13,028 --> 00:44:15,113
Oh, my gosh.

604
00:44:16,531 --> 00:44:18,616
No. Come on, this way.

605
00:44:18,700 --> 00:44:20,785
Uh-oh. No. (LAUGHS) How are you?

606
00:44:20,869 --> 00:44:22,746
Hey, I'm doing good.

607
00:44:22,829 --> 00:44:25,498
Good. Hi. She don't need to be
in here right now.

608
00:44:27,292 --> 00:44:30,086
I know. Right?
You see, he has kids already.

609
00:44:30,170 --> 00:44:32,255
Oh, OK.
I don't have any kids.

610
00:44:32,339 --> 00:44:33,882
OK.

611
00:44:36,843 --> 00:44:38,636
Come in this room with me now.

612
00:44:38,720 --> 00:44:43,350
There's no reason, remotely, for us
to even step past this threshold
right here.

613
00:44:43,433 --> 00:44:44,976
Pass this threshold.

614
00:44:46,644 --> 00:44:48,146
No.

615
00:44:50,398 --> 00:44:52,817
When I agreed to the prenup,

616
00:44:52,901 --> 00:44:54,986
I specifically added a clause

617
00:44:55,070 --> 00:44:58,490
that we will try to have a baby
by the time I am 40.

618
00:44:58,573 --> 00:45:01,993
But I'm, like, two and a half years
away from 40.

619
00:45:03,161 --> 00:45:06,039
By that time, I might be too old.

620
00:45:06,122 --> 00:45:09,125
If I don't get a baby by 40,
he's going to pay.

621
00:45:09,209 --> 00:45:12,837
Baby, why do you want to talk about
this stuff right now?

622
00:45:12,921 --> 00:45:14,589
Because I just want a baby.

623
00:45:14,673 --> 00:45:17,592
Sweetheart, you wanted to go
furniture shopping.

624
00:45:17,676 --> 00:45:21,638
I know, but I didn't know that this
was attached to the furniture store.

625
00:45:21,721 --> 00:45:25,433
It's like God is telling us
something. God is telling us
something!

626
00:45:25,517 --> 00:45:28,895
No, I know what you did. You planned
this. No, I didn't plan this.

627
00:45:28,978 --> 00:45:31,773
Cos we're not having a child,
like, this year.

628
00:45:31,856 --> 00:45:34,150
We got to get to know each other.

629
00:45:34,234 --> 00:45:36,528
Got to do some things
that we want to do.

630
00:45:36,611 --> 00:45:38,488
Because...

631
00:45:40,240 --> 00:45:42,659
..when one of these happen...

632
00:45:42,742 --> 00:45:44,828
life as you know it stops.

633
00:45:48,206 --> 00:45:49,874
'She's jumping the gun.

634
00:45:49,958 --> 00:45:53,503
The whole kid thing, I thought
we had this settled.'

635
00:45:53,586 --> 00:45:57,841
Considering that she want to put
this thing in our prenuptial
agreement,

636
00:45:57,924 --> 00:46:00,677
about when we're gonna plan on
having children.

637
00:46:02,804 --> 00:46:04,639
But we're not ready to have a child.

638
00:46:04,723 --> 00:46:07,809
We have to work on
living together first.

639
00:46:12,939 --> 00:46:15,025
Maybe we will...

640
00:46:16,151 --> 00:46:19,779
..go to see a fertility specialist
sometime next week?

641
00:46:19,863 --> 00:46:23,616
Baby, why do you need to go see
a fertility doctor?

642
00:46:24,743 --> 00:46:28,705
If you truly want to do it... Yeah.
..I'll do it, however...

643
00:46:28,788 --> 00:46:31,458
we haven't even tried to have
children.

644
00:46:31,541 --> 00:46:33,960
But it's good to plan ahead.

645
00:46:34,044 --> 00:46:38,882
Listen, I think a doctor will give us
advice when it comes to having
children.

646
00:46:38,965 --> 00:46:42,093
Like, he will let me know how much
more time that I have, that's all.

647
00:46:42,177 --> 00:46:44,554
That's what I want to hear,
that's all.

648
00:46:47,015 --> 00:46:49,100
'Bilal just doesn't get it.'

649
00:46:49,184 --> 00:46:54,439
Seeing a doctor can help us
understand what we need to do to
prepare for the future.

650
00:46:54,522 --> 00:46:57,859
He needs to take my timetable and
health seriously,

651
00:46:57,942 --> 00:47:00,028
because I'm getting older

652
00:47:00,111 --> 00:47:02,364
and this could be my last chance.

653
00:47:02,447 --> 00:47:04,949
And, trust me,
I'm not gonna waste it.

654
00:47:08,870 --> 00:47:09,131
2
00:45:23.600 -- 00:45:25.480 align:middle line:75% position:50%
This is beautiful.

655
00:47:21,966 --> 00:47:23,635
Isn't this amazing?

656
00:47:41,236 --> 00:47:42,737
Yeah, happy honeymoon!

657
00:47:44,406 --> 00:47:46,491
Ooh!

658
00:47:51,621 --> 00:47:56,376
We finally just arrived at
our resort in Rishikesh
and it's so beautiful.

659
00:47:56,459 --> 00:47:59,879
I mean, you can see the mountains
and the Ganges, the river.

660
00:47:59,963 --> 00:48:03,008
It's just like a scene right out of
a Bollywood movie.

661
00:48:03,091 --> 00:48:04,676
Really gorgeous.

662
00:48:18,023 --> 00:48:20,358
Thank you, thank you so much.
Thank you.

663
00:48:23,153 --> 00:48:27,365
When I saw the guests, I was really
shocked and surprised, as well,

664
00:48:27,449 --> 00:48:30,577
because there was a huge difference
in their age.

665
00:48:31,703 --> 00:48:34,289
If I go and marry a lady
so much older,

666
00:48:34,372 --> 00:48:37,584
my family will not accept
this relationship.

667
00:48:38,710 --> 00:48:40,795
Wow.
Oh, my God.

668
00:48:42,756 --> 00:48:45,258
Wow, look at this! Oh, my God.

669
00:48:49,679 --> 00:48:51,765
Oh, my God.

670
00:48:53,058 --> 00:48:55,435
Wow! Look at this room.

671
00:49:01,149 --> 00:49:03,693
Can we check out the whole room?

672
00:49:05,612 --> 00:49:07,781
Oh, look!

673
00:49:07,864 --> 00:49:09,783
Is it warm?

674
00:49:12,494 --> 00:49:15,622
Oh, that's gonna be so nice.

675
00:49:16,831 --> 00:49:19,751
I can't wait to get in there
and get warmed up.

676
00:49:19,834 --> 00:49:23,755
It's gorgeous, way beyond
what I expected.

677
00:49:24,881 --> 00:49:28,843
We're excited to turn up the heat
and get this honeymoon started!

678
00:49:30,095 --> 00:49:32,889
Be romantic, it's honeymoon time.

679
00:49:32,972 --> 00:49:35,767
Yeah, it's honeymoon time.
(LAUGHS) Clonk!

680
00:49:35,850 --> 00:49:39,020
Let's take some pictures of the bed
before we mess it up.

681
00:49:39,104 --> 00:49:40,897
Yeah. (LAUGHS)

682
00:49:40,980 --> 00:49:42,565
This looks good.

683
00:49:42,649 --> 00:49:44,109
(GASPS) Oh, no.

684
00:49:45,860 --> 00:49:47,946
I'll put it in my mouth, like this.

685
00:49:48,029 --> 00:49:49,698
Yeah.

686
00:49:51,991 --> 00:49:54,077
(LAUGHS)

687
00:50:00,083 --> 00:50:01,876
OK, your turn.

688
00:50:04,004 --> 00:50:05,672
Yes.

689
00:50:08,758 --> 00:50:11,386
Just do your little sexy poses
you do at home.

690
00:50:11,469 --> 00:50:13,763
Like what?
You know, how you do at home.

691
00:50:15,098 --> 00:50:16,766
(LAUGHS)

692
00:50:19,936 --> 00:50:21,813
This was exactly

693
00:50:21,896 --> 00:50:25,483
the environment that we needed
to be in, to decompress

694
00:50:25,567 --> 00:50:28,278
and try to figure out
what's next for us.

695
00:51:00,435 --> 00:51:01,978
OK.

696
00:51:03,021 --> 00:51:05,732
What kind of working
are you gonna be doing?

697
00:51:42,852 --> 00:51:45,188
Well, what's your plan, like?

698
00:51:53,113 --> 00:51:57,158
Once in a week? You're gonna work
every day except one day?

699
00:51:57,242 --> 00:51:59,369
Six days a week is too much.

700
00:51:59,452 --> 00:52:01,538
I have money, too, coming in.

701
00:52:01,621 --> 00:52:05,250
Now I get my retirement
and my Social Security and so...

702
00:52:05,333 --> 00:52:07,794
I'm not gonna depend only on you.

703
00:52:10,046 --> 00:52:14,342
You're my husband. We need to be
together more than just one day
a week.

704
00:52:19,305 --> 00:52:21,516
OK, but, I mean,

705
00:52:21,599 --> 00:52:27,313
I didn't come on this honeymoon
for you to tell me how much
you're gonna be away from me.

706
00:52:28,982 --> 00:52:33,403
I've sacrificed a lot to come
and live here with Sumit in India.

707
00:52:33,486 --> 00:52:36,281
And I've worked hard my whole life.

708
00:52:37,407 --> 00:52:39,075
And I wanna relax

709
00:52:39,159 --> 00:52:42,120
and enjoy my life with my husband.

710
00:52:42,203 --> 00:52:45,999
I mean, I didn't fight this hard to
marry Sumit so that he can go off

711
00:52:46,082 --> 00:52:48,877
and work six days a week
and leave me home alone.

712
00:52:48,960 --> 00:52:52,797
I don't know why Sumit wants
to bring this up on our honeymoon.

713
00:52:52,881 --> 00:52:55,592
This isn't a good time
to talk about work.

714
00:52:55,675 --> 00:52:58,595
Kind of takes the romance
out of the honeymoon.

715
00:53:15,779 --> 00:53:18,698
Sorry I'm late, you guys.
Hey, Ed. Hey, what's up, Ed?

716
00:53:26,456 --> 00:53:30,001
We have a tee time. I think we're
past it. 11:30, I think it was.

717
00:53:30,085 --> 00:53:31,670
Great.

718
00:53:31,753 --> 00:53:35,715
So, after the photoshoot, you know
that was somewhat of
a fiasco.

719
00:53:35,799 --> 00:53:38,551
I took it like my work was being
criticised.

720
00:53:38,635 --> 00:53:41,012
Liz kind of walked out like a child.

721
00:53:41,096 --> 00:53:45,266
And, for me, it was like, OK,
you know, you're throwing a tantrum.

722
00:53:45,350 --> 00:53:49,020
And when a child throws a tantrum,
you don't run after them.

723
00:53:49,104 --> 00:53:51,189
I was pissed.

724
00:53:51,272 --> 00:53:53,358
You have to be this tall to play?

725
00:53:53,441 --> 00:53:56,695
I'm good. You're good.
You just passed! I'm good, OK.

726
00:53:56,778 --> 00:54:00,532
Today, I came out here
with my newest buddy, Edward...

727
00:54:00,615 --> 00:54:04,869
He is the boyfriend of Alex,
who was the model from last night.

728
00:54:04,953 --> 00:54:06,830
..and my old buddy Tony,

729
00:54:06,913 --> 00:54:08,998
to do some Frisbee golf.

730
00:54:12,544 --> 00:54:14,212
Nice.

731
00:54:15,380 --> 00:54:17,173
Wow.

732
00:54:19,509 --> 00:54:21,052
Tony!
Wow.

733
00:54:21,136 --> 00:54:22,804
Frolf is...

734
00:54:22,887 --> 00:54:24,723
Frisbee golf.

735
00:54:24,806 --> 00:54:28,101
It is like playing golf,
but you play with Frisbees.

736
00:54:30,729 --> 00:54:32,188
Oh, shit.

737
00:54:33,314 --> 00:54:35,900
I have been frolfing before.

738
00:54:35,984 --> 00:54:39,237
Um, it's been a while
since I frolfed.

739
00:54:42,449 --> 00:54:44,075
Oh, close!
Wow.

740
00:54:44,159 --> 00:54:46,536
My skills at frolf are pretty poor.

741
00:54:50,165 --> 00:54:52,250
I hit a tree!

742
00:54:52,334 --> 00:54:57,255
I'm a bit out of practice,
so I'm gonna feel it tomorrow,
I know ,for sure.

743
00:54:57,339 --> 00:55:00,175
Hey, so, what did, what did Alex
think of the photoshoot?

744
00:55:00,258 --> 00:55:02,594
She loved it.
Oh, she was...

745
00:55:02,677 --> 00:55:04,971
She said there was some tension.

746
00:55:06,097 --> 00:55:07,974
Liz, she was upset last night.

747
00:55:08,058 --> 00:55:11,061
But I learned my lesson.
Don't piss Liz off.

748
00:55:11,144 --> 00:55:14,856
Because I had to carry
all the equipment back to my car.

749
00:55:14,939 --> 00:55:16,524
Because she was mad?

750
00:55:19,194 --> 00:55:21,279
It was a misunderstanding.

751
00:55:21,363 --> 00:55:25,116
That's the thing, like, you have been
married for how many years?

752
00:55:25,200 --> 00:55:26,743
27 years.

753
00:55:26,826 --> 00:55:29,037
It's not always easy, right?
Yeah.

754
00:55:30,497 --> 00:55:32,874
We have seen Ed and Liz nip at

755
00:55:32,957 --> 00:55:35,251
each other pretty often.

756
00:55:35,335 --> 00:55:38,129
Ed's relationship seems to be
kind of chaotic.

757
00:55:38,213 --> 00:55:42,634
I think it's unfortunate.
It's not fun to see
your friends...

758
00:55:42,717 --> 00:55:45,011
at each other's throats.

759
00:55:45,095 --> 00:55:47,681
One thing that Liz and I are
struggling with,

760
00:55:47,764 --> 00:55:49,849
like, we need to learn how to fight.

761
00:55:49,933 --> 00:55:52,018
Like, how do you learn how to fight?

762
00:55:52,102 --> 00:55:56,022
We're still, we're still learning
that after this many years.

763
00:55:56,106 --> 00:55:59,359
Are you communicating? No.
So that's the thing. Yeah.

764
00:55:59,442 --> 00:56:03,446
Processing the fight. If you can
talk about it when you're calm...

765
00:56:03,530 --> 00:56:07,409
Yeah. Give it time, calm down
a little bit, then you can talk
about it.

766
00:56:07,492 --> 00:56:12,956
When you're talking about it when
you're mad, you're just gonna
escalate it and it will be worse.

767
00:56:13,039 --> 00:56:16,876
You're probably apologising all
the time. Yeah, no, all the time.

768
00:56:20,463 --> 00:56:25,301
We've had so many make-ups
and break-ups and fights
that it's not healthy.

769
00:56:25,385 --> 00:56:27,470
But we can continue...

770
00:56:27,554 --> 00:56:29,431
to work on that.

771
00:56:29,514 --> 00:56:34,269
It's a lot better than, you know, get
out and I hate you and I never want
to talk to you.

772
00:56:34,352 --> 00:56:37,772
Like, no, I don't, I don't ever want
to be that person again.

773
00:56:38,898 --> 00:56:43,695
I always say that when you're
engaged, there's a whole different
feeling and vibe.

774
00:56:43,778 --> 00:56:48,074
When you're married, there's another
one. So enjoy that engagement time.

775
00:56:48,158 --> 00:56:50,452
It's different than dating,
marriage.

776
00:56:50,535 --> 00:56:52,370
We're not in a rush to get married.

777
00:56:52,454 --> 00:56:56,750
We're still getting to know
each other. Yeah. Working stuff out,
you know.

778
00:56:56,833 --> 00:57:02,630
I'm still learning things about her.
You don't have to know everything
about her before it happens.

779
00:57:02,714 --> 00:57:07,135
You learn that in your whole life.
That first night we got back
together,

780
00:57:07,218 --> 00:57:10,055
I woke up in the morning and I said,
"Am I your forever?"

781
00:57:10,138 --> 00:57:13,933
Without hesitation, she's like,
"Yes, you're my forever."

782
00:57:14,017 --> 00:57:16,311
So, at that moment, I knew,

783
00:57:16,394 --> 00:57:18,480
you know, she is what I wanted.

784
00:57:18,563 --> 00:57:22,984
When you're gonna get mad at her and
stuff like that, like, she's your
forever.

785
00:57:23,068 --> 00:57:25,362
Right. You say that to her too.
Right.

786
00:57:25,445 --> 00:57:29,616
So, like, don't give up what you
want for what you want
in the moment.

787
00:57:31,368 --> 00:57:33,453
But -
But love's a commitment too.

788
00:57:33,536 --> 00:57:36,039
Yeah. When you said,
"Are you my forever?"

789
00:57:36,122 --> 00:57:37,999
that's love,

790
00:57:38,083 --> 00:57:41,419
because the feelings of love
will come and go.

791
00:57:41,503 --> 00:57:45,507
But it doesn't mean, OK, now I don't
love her, love's gone. Yeah.

792
00:57:45,590 --> 00:57:48,093
No-one is leaving.
We're here for each other.

793
00:57:48,176 --> 00:57:53,640
It makes it so much better. If
you're always thinking she's gonna
leave or I'm gonna leave her,

794
00:57:53,723 --> 00:57:56,976
that's where you start getting into
big trouble. Right.

795
00:57:57,060 --> 00:58:00,271
She's not the type of person that
would ever cheat on me.

796
00:58:00,355 --> 00:58:02,857
That was a big insecurity that I,
that I had.

797
00:58:02,941 --> 00:58:06,986
Everybody cheats, you know, that was
my story that I made up in my head.

798
00:58:07,070 --> 00:58:08,738
But until you can...

799
00:58:08,822 --> 00:58:11,616
trust somebody,
like really trust them...

800
00:58:11,700 --> 00:58:13,576
Um... If you can't,

801
00:58:13,660 --> 00:58:15,954
you can't be with them.

802
00:58:17,872 --> 00:58:22,877
The only thing we have to go on is
what has happened to us, you know,
in the past.

803
00:58:22,961 --> 00:58:24,629
And I had trust issues

804
00:58:24,713 --> 00:58:26,381
with Rose

805
00:58:26,464 --> 00:58:28,550
and that always carries into

806
00:58:28,633 --> 00:58:31,219
whatever relationship that you're in.

807
00:58:31,302 --> 00:58:33,763
But when you, when you love somebody

808
00:58:33,847 --> 00:58:36,975
and you give them everything,
you know, it's scary.

809
00:58:37,058 --> 00:58:39,352
because it can all be taken away.

810
00:58:48,236 --> 00:58:49,654
Wow.

811
00:58:49,738 --> 00:58:51,156
OK.

812
00:58:59,748 --> 00:59:01,416
I need a minute.

813
00:59:07,505 --> 00:59:09,591
The fuck out of here.

814
00:59:12,177 --> 00:59:16,514
Usman brought me to meet his friend
KB tonight to talk about
his two wives.

815
00:59:16,598 --> 00:59:18,475
It didn't turn out well.

816
00:59:18,558 --> 00:59:22,312
I'm pissed, because I feel like
Usman is not listening to me,

817
00:59:22,395 --> 00:59:25,815
when it comes to my concerns about
him taking a second wife.

818
00:59:25,899 --> 00:59:31,112
And now Usman is telling me that
the second wife is loved completely,
as much as I would be

819
00:59:31,196 --> 00:59:33,698
and this is not
what he told me in the past.

820
00:59:33,782 --> 00:59:37,535
So I was like, fuck him, I'm gonna
disrespect him right back.

821
00:59:37,619 --> 00:59:40,538
So I threw a milkshake at him.

822
00:59:51,883 --> 00:59:53,551
Oh...

823
00:59:56,554 --> 01:00:02,268
He brings me here to do this shit
and when I start asking questions,
he keeps interrupting me still.

824
01:00:02,352 --> 01:00:06,856
I'm trying to get clarity.
Then he gets loud with me,
like, don't do that shit.

825
01:00:06,940 --> 01:00:10,610
I feel the way he was talking to me
was so fucking disrespectful.

826
01:00:10,694 --> 01:00:15,156
I was willing to sit down there and
listen. Do you know how hard
this is for me?

827
01:00:15,240 --> 01:00:18,493
I have every right to ask
any fucking thing I want.

828
01:00:18,576 --> 01:00:21,996
And why can't we mould it,
so it fits my lifestyle, as well?

829
01:00:22,080 --> 01:00:24,582
Why do I have to meet her?
I don't live here.

830
01:00:26,668 --> 01:00:30,547
And he thinks it's funny, talking
about this third and fourth wife.

831
01:00:30,630 --> 01:00:32,549
Uh-uh. Because I'll bail out now.

832
01:00:32,632 --> 01:00:35,760
She did something like this before,
in Zanzibar.

833
01:00:36,886 --> 01:00:38,972
But it was not as bad as this.

834
01:00:39,055 --> 01:00:43,393
I think... I'm getting the sign
right now to do the right thing,

835
01:00:43,476 --> 01:00:45,562
before it is too late.

836
01:00:52,193 --> 01:00:55,447
It is all good, because it's better
for me to know now.

837
01:00:55,530 --> 01:00:59,325
Before it's going to be too late.
Yeah, before it will be late.

838
01:01:01,953 --> 01:01:04,664
I did not expect that behaviour
from Kimberly

839
01:01:04,748 --> 01:01:08,418
and, actually, I don't want that
behaviour from my future wife.

840
01:01:08,501 --> 01:01:10,587
In my culture,

841
01:01:10,670 --> 01:01:14,049
a woman is 100% submissive
to her husband, so, like,

842
01:01:14,132 --> 01:01:16,593
Kimberly needs to start
showing respect

843
01:01:16,885 --> 01:01:18,970
and be loyal to me,

844
01:01:19,054 --> 01:01:21,139
especially with my friends around.

845
01:01:22,265 --> 01:01:24,559
She was OK with everything,

846
01:01:24,642 --> 01:01:27,562
but now, since when she arrives,
yesterday,

847
01:01:27,645 --> 01:01:29,522
everything is just different.

848
01:01:29,606 --> 01:01:32,525
She has been complaining about
the second wife,

849
01:01:32,609 --> 01:01:34,736
but having the second wife is a must.

850
01:01:34,819 --> 01:01:39,157
Anything that's going to stop me from
having kids, I will never touch it.

851
01:01:49,209 --> 01:01:52,671
I can't take a woman that is doing
this shit to me to my family.

852
01:01:52,754 --> 01:01:54,589
You know? Like, no way.

853
01:01:54,673 --> 01:01:56,508
No way, I can't.

854
01:02:08,520 --> 01:02:12,857
I'll just go and see where she is
and I'll take her to the hotel.

855
01:02:18,905 --> 01:02:20,740
I think he owes me an apology.

856
01:02:22,534 --> 01:02:26,705
I mean, I'm not gonna go back in
there, I'm not going back in there.

857
01:02:28,081 --> 01:02:29,749
Oh, shit.

858
01:02:29,833 --> 01:02:31,918
Here he comes.

859
01:02:33,294 --> 01:02:34,963
Kimberly.
What?

860
01:02:35,046 --> 01:02:37,966
Can I talk to you? No. I don't wanna
talk to you right now.

861
01:02:38,049 --> 01:02:41,344
I need to talk to you. That's all you
do is talk. I need to talk to you.

862
01:02:41,428 --> 01:02:47,183
I'm upset with the fact that he's
not being authentic with me about
the things that are going on.

863
01:02:47,267 --> 01:02:52,230
It's not even the same kind of
second-wife situation that we've
talked about.

864
01:02:52,313 --> 01:02:55,817
He brought me in front of his friend
and he belittled me

865
01:02:55,900 --> 01:02:59,738
and he was interrupting me and I'm
supposed to just be OK with that.

866
01:02:59,821 --> 01:03:02,949
Like, everybody has
a breaking point. Grow up.

867
01:03:03,033 --> 01:03:06,870
He never finds fault with his own
actions, everything is my fault.

868
01:03:06,953 --> 01:03:09,539
All the time. You get tired of it
after a while

869
01:03:09,622 --> 01:03:11,416
and you throw stuff.

870
01:03:12,959 --> 01:03:15,045
OK, let's not go crazy.

871
01:03:16,087 --> 01:03:19,299
How many times I interrupt you?
How many times I've been listening?

872
01:03:19,382 --> 01:03:22,093
You did it the whole time.
When? It's a lie!

873
01:03:23,219 --> 01:03:25,472
Talking to me like
I'm some fucking dog!

874
01:03:25,555 --> 01:03:28,308
I'm a grown-ass woman.
Don't talk to me like that.

875
01:03:28,391 --> 01:03:31,144
I'm not a show pony,
I don't just do shit for you.

876
01:03:31,227 --> 01:03:35,565
And the way he's talking was
nothing like the way you said
it was gonna be.

877
01:03:36,983 --> 01:03:42,280
I think everybody's right, I'm
fucking insane. "Oh, I love Usman,
oh, I'll do anything for Usman."

878
01:03:44,157 --> 01:03:46,659
You think I like acting this way?
This isn't me.

879
01:03:46,743 --> 01:03:48,411
This is you.

880
01:03:50,830 --> 01:03:53,583
Oh, whatever.
Like you're so fucking perfect.

881
01:03:53,667 --> 01:03:57,462
I don't wanna be in a relationship
where I'm the bad guy all the time.

882
01:03:57,545 --> 01:04:01,716
'I am really regretting that I even
came here in the first place.'

883
01:04:01,800 --> 01:04:07,430
If you're gonna do this to me now
and be so rude and disrespectful
to me, I'll go home.

884
01:04:07,514 --> 01:04:09,974
I'll leave, I don't need to be here.

885
01:04:12,477 --> 01:04:15,271
You don't have to worry about
talking to me no more.

886
01:04:21,152 --> 01:04:21,413
2
01:02:00.880 -- 01:02:04.600 align:middle line:73% position:50%
I am going to the mosque,
the Al-Inshirah Islamic Center.

887
01:04:43,758 --> 01:04:47,512
And there we have a food pantry
called the Ar-Razaaq Food Pantry.

888
01:04:47,595 --> 01:04:49,556
I'm gonna meet my mother there.

889
01:04:49,639 --> 01:04:52,976
We're going to get us some food
items, that we'll plan on

890
01:04:53,059 --> 01:04:55,770
giving away to those who are
in need.

891
01:04:59,733 --> 01:05:03,903
We were furniture shopping today,
Shaeeda, she's in the baby store,

892
01:05:03,987 --> 01:05:06,072
she wants me to go in,
but I'm not...

893
01:05:06,156 --> 01:05:08,450
I don't know, it's kind of like...

894
01:05:08,533 --> 01:05:10,618
the plague.

895
01:05:10,702 --> 01:05:13,413
Like, why would I wanna run to
the plague?

896
01:05:13,496 --> 01:05:16,708
I'm not saying having a child is
a plague, but we're not...

897
01:05:16,791 --> 01:05:18,877
we're not in that space right now.

898
01:05:18,960 --> 01:05:21,046
We're just not there.

899
01:05:25,508 --> 01:05:27,594
Ohh...

900
01:05:28,720 --> 01:05:31,348
Ooh, it's so cold
out there.

901
01:05:31,431 --> 01:05:33,516
What's going on?

902
01:05:33,600 --> 01:05:35,852
Shi's at the house?

903
01:05:35,935 --> 01:05:37,812
Yeah.

904
01:05:37,896 --> 01:05:40,273
She had a long day shopping.

905
01:05:40,357 --> 01:05:43,109
Shopping? What kind of shopping?

906
01:05:43,193 --> 01:05:47,280
She said, "Furniture", but I think
it's more like..."decor".

907
01:05:49,199 --> 01:05:51,910
I think she, she just wants
to feel like she...

908
01:05:51,993 --> 01:05:53,495
Uh...

909
01:05:53,578 --> 01:05:56,831
Her touch? Just to be a part of
something, have her touch.

910
01:05:56,915 --> 01:05:59,959
Sometimes, she feels like the house
is like a museum.

911
01:06:00,043 --> 01:06:03,088
Everything is so pristine and...
Yeah, sterilised.

912
01:06:03,171 --> 01:06:06,424
She wants colour. Wants some colour?
Which I'm OK with.

913
01:06:06,508 --> 01:06:09,844
But I'm just trying to let her know,
like, you know,

914
01:06:09,928 --> 01:06:13,473
there are certain things that, OK,
we want versus need.

915
01:06:13,556 --> 01:06:16,267
Like, that's not a huge need
right now, but...

916
01:06:17,310 --> 01:06:21,439
Yeah, well... And then... I can
understand her wanting to put her...

917
01:06:21,523 --> 01:06:23,608
her, her spin on things.

918
01:06:23,692 --> 01:06:26,403
Her thumbprint, her footprint
on things,

919
01:06:26,486 --> 01:06:28,863
you know, to make it feel
more like...

920
01:06:30,365 --> 01:06:33,493
..she has some input
in what's going on too, so...

921
01:06:33,576 --> 01:06:35,662
Right, I get that, but...

922
01:06:35,745 --> 01:06:38,665
Then she put the okey-doke on me.

923
01:06:39,040 --> 01:06:42,502
The store is attached to another
store and it's a baby store.

924
01:06:42,585 --> 01:06:44,879
Oh, wow.
Yeah. Oh, wow.

925
01:06:44,963 --> 01:06:48,800
With like little-bitty baby clothes
and just this and that.

926
01:06:48,883 --> 01:06:50,760
And her eyes lit up.

927
01:06:50,844 --> 01:06:54,097
Yeah. I'm like, "You need to come
back over here."

928
01:06:54,180 --> 01:06:56,891
So her clock is ticking loud.

929
01:06:56,975 --> 01:07:01,104
It's almost like she's trying to
dupe me into having a child now.

930
01:07:01,187 --> 01:07:04,733
I think maybe... Part of me feels
like she's just kind of like,

931
01:07:04,816 --> 01:07:06,735
"Hey, I'll change his mind",

932
01:07:06,818 --> 01:07:10,196
and trying to still have it,
like, immediately.

933
01:07:12,240 --> 01:07:14,159
I thought you guys...

934
01:07:14,242 --> 01:07:18,830
had already kind of, like, written
in your contract and in your prenup,

935
01:07:18,913 --> 01:07:22,625
that you guys were gonna wait and
both of you had already agreed.

936
01:07:22,709 --> 01:07:25,337
So this trip shopping today just...

937
01:07:25,420 --> 01:07:27,964
brought all of this forward again?

938
01:07:28,048 --> 01:07:30,133
Yeah.

939
01:07:30,216 --> 01:07:34,929
I want her to clearly understand
that...I think it's best to wait
right now.

940
01:07:37,307 --> 01:07:39,142
In my first marriage,

941
01:07:39,225 --> 01:07:41,519
we had children pretty early.

942
01:07:42,687 --> 01:07:44,773
I wanted to wait for a little bit,

943
01:07:44,856 --> 01:07:46,733
um, however,

944
01:07:46,816 --> 01:07:48,693
that didn't happen.

945
01:07:48,777 --> 01:07:52,364
So, this time, the initial plan was
for Shi and I

946
01:07:52,447 --> 01:07:55,909
to wait a couple of years
before we start having a child.

947
01:07:55,992 --> 01:08:00,497
And then it keeps coming up,
reoccurring, reoccurring,
reoccurring.

948
01:08:00,580 --> 01:08:02,665
But I do not,

949
01:08:02,749 --> 01:08:07,253
absolutely do not want a child
right now.

950
01:08:10,006 --> 01:08:12,592
Are you seeing this...

951
01:08:12,676 --> 01:08:15,387
as a deal-breaker for her?

952
01:08:22,602 --> 01:08:25,397
But that was then and this is...

953
01:08:25,480 --> 01:08:27,023
We just got married!

954
01:08:28,983 --> 01:08:33,488
Like, you and Daddy, you guys got
married, how long did it take for
you to have a child?

955
01:08:33,571 --> 01:08:35,240
A month.

956
01:08:35,323 --> 01:08:37,701
A month?
A month.

957
01:08:37,784 --> 01:08:39,369
A month.

958
01:08:39,452 --> 01:08:41,538
That's pretty, that's pretty fast.

959
01:08:41,621 --> 01:08:44,874
Yeah, we got married in June,
I got pregnant in July.

960
01:08:46,960 --> 01:08:52,966
Are you, more or less, really kind
of coming across to her that you
really do wanna have more children?

961
01:08:53,049 --> 01:08:55,343
Or is she having the feeling that...

962
01:08:55,427 --> 01:08:57,512
you don't want any children

963
01:08:57,595 --> 01:09:02,017
and you're just kind of
stringing her along, saying that
you wanna wait?

964
01:09:02,100 --> 01:09:04,894
I hope she don't think
I'm stringing her along.

965
01:09:04,978 --> 01:09:07,063
I hope she would know that.

966
01:09:07,147 --> 01:09:09,190
You know? But...

967
01:09:12,527 --> 01:09:17,949
The two of them have to actually
listen, so they can fix things
with their situations.

968
01:09:18,033 --> 01:09:21,953
I'm not sure whether they have tried
to get on the same page,

969
01:09:22,037 --> 01:09:24,622
but they are equipped with
the tools.

970
01:09:28,793 --> 01:09:33,131
But it's a little different when
you're doctoring on yourself.

971
01:09:34,799 --> 01:09:38,303
There's definitely
a lot of red flags.

972
01:09:38,386 --> 01:09:40,472
Sometimes, we don't...

973
01:09:40,555 --> 01:09:42,640
take a closer look at that.

974
01:09:42,724 --> 01:09:45,435
So, um, I think the two of you

975
01:09:45,518 --> 01:09:48,855
need to kind of sit down
and get to that point

976
01:09:48,938 --> 01:09:51,024
and address those red flags,

977
01:09:51,107 --> 01:09:55,737
before it becomes a lot bigger
than what you guys can handle.

978
01:09:57,906 --> 01:09:59,991
I love Shi so much,

979
01:10:00,075 --> 01:10:03,578
but I also fear though, that having
a child too early...

980
01:10:03,661 --> 01:10:05,538
could...

981
01:10:05,622 --> 01:10:07,707
could cripple our marriage.

982
01:10:07,791 --> 01:10:12,879
We need to get on the same page,
when it comes to when we're
planning on having children.

983
01:10:12,962 --> 01:10:14,923
But I'm wary that it's...

984
01:10:15,006 --> 01:10:17,300
not gonna be easy, because...

985
01:10:17,384 --> 01:10:19,469
Shaeeda has baby fever

986
01:10:19,552 --> 01:10:21,638
to the tenth power.

987
01:10:23,390 --> 01:10:25,934
Thank you for all your words of
wisdom.

988
01:10:27,185 --> 01:10:28,978
I appreciate it.
Good, good.

989
01:10:36,736 --> 01:10:38,822
Let's go eat some good food.

990
01:10:45,161 --> 01:10:47,831
I'm having a relapse.
Well...

991
01:10:47,914 --> 01:10:51,584
I'm trying to get y'all to eat
healthy and I'm over here
fighting myself.

992
01:10:58,967 --> 01:11:01,052
No sweets right now.

993
01:11:01,136 --> 01:11:03,179
Everybody get something healthy.

994
01:11:04,806 --> 01:11:06,891
That's my thing?
Yeah.

995
01:11:06,975 --> 01:11:09,394
Silly, let's just look. Can we look?

996
01:11:11,438 --> 01:11:14,149
I'm so relieved to have a day out
with my family,

997
01:11:14,232 --> 01:11:17,902
because I've been on an emotional
rollercoaster with Michael.

998
01:11:17,986 --> 01:11:22,157
One minute, I wanna holler and
scream at him and wring
his damn neck.

999
01:11:22,240 --> 01:11:25,326
And then the next minute,
I just wanna be with him.

1000
01:11:25,410 --> 01:11:28,455
I just don't know what to do about
our marriage.

1001
01:11:28,538 --> 01:11:32,000
And I need something to calm
my nerves, especially because

1002
01:11:32,083 --> 01:11:35,211
the phone call me and Michael had
on his birthday the other day

1003
01:11:35,295 --> 01:11:39,466
was one of the most stressful
conversations I've ever had
with him.

1004
01:11:39,549 --> 01:11:43,136
At this point, I don't even know
if Michael loves me

1005
01:11:43,219 --> 01:11:46,348
and it's taking a toll on my body
and my health.

1006
01:11:48,600 --> 01:11:52,645
So, Syd, how much did you like
the cucumber?

1007
01:11:54,147 --> 01:11:55,815
You like it? Really?

1008
01:11:55,899 --> 01:12:00,236
I'll get some cucumbers, instead of
you getting a candy bar or
ice cream!

1009
01:12:00,320 --> 01:12:01,988
What?

1010
01:12:10,997 --> 01:12:13,541
Meemaw eats healthy, I wish she kept
her mouth closed,

1011
01:12:13,667 --> 01:12:15,293
because I don't wanna eat healthy.

1012
01:12:22,926 --> 01:12:26,596
See? I'm learning a lot. Y'all see
how I'm changing my thinking of
eating?

1013
01:12:26,680 --> 01:12:32,185
Mama, why are you so focused on this
health thing? I mean, I know you're
trying to be healthy.

1014
01:12:32,268 --> 01:12:35,313
It just seems like it's bothering you
to be healthy.

1015
01:12:36,439 --> 01:12:38,400
It's not really bothering me.

1016
01:12:39,526 --> 01:12:42,779
It's like I'm having issues of
feeling like I did all this

1017
01:12:42,862 --> 01:12:44,948
to look sexy and feel sexy.

1018
01:12:46,324 --> 01:12:48,702
Michael don't compliment me.

1019
01:12:48,785 --> 01:12:51,162
He don't ask to see nothing.

1020
01:12:53,623 --> 01:12:57,085
You look good. Everybody's
complimenting you but your man.

1021
01:12:57,168 --> 01:13:01,256
And that's who I need to compliment
me. No, you need to change men!

1022
01:13:01,339 --> 01:13:06,219
When you love somebody, you
compliment them. You're right.
Maybe... You just said it.

1023
01:13:09,973 --> 01:13:13,727
Since my weight-loss surgery,
I've lost over 100lb.

1024
01:13:13,810 --> 01:13:16,187
And I am very proud of myself.

1025
01:13:16,271 --> 01:13:20,275
But it upsets me that Michael hasn't
showed any interest in my new body.

1026
01:13:20,358 --> 01:13:24,404
And it's more upsetting to know
that Michael's got the time

1027
01:13:24,487 --> 01:13:27,323
to give women on social media
attention.

1028
01:13:27,407 --> 01:13:30,452
And all he has done is give me
the cold shoulder.

1029
01:13:30,535 --> 01:13:32,620
Go figure.

1030
01:13:33,955 --> 01:13:36,708
He put his Instagram back up,
without telling me,

1031
01:13:36,791 --> 01:13:39,461
knowing I'm against it,
because of how he acts.

1032
01:13:39,544 --> 01:13:43,048
I asked him to take the Instagram
down. You know what he told me?

1033
01:13:43,131 --> 01:13:47,260
What? Never. "Well, give me $5,000
I'll take it down."

1034
01:13:47,344 --> 01:13:50,013
Oh, no, he didn't.
Yeah, he did.

1035
01:13:50,096 --> 01:13:53,767
He's got me blocked on Instagram.
I haven't did nothing for...

1036
01:13:53,850 --> 01:13:55,935
He got you blocked?
I'm blocked.

1037
01:13:57,395 --> 01:13:59,481
You don't do that to your wife.

1038
01:14:01,483 --> 01:14:06,237
Mama, don't you think he might be
reacting to you doing that, as well?

1039
01:14:06,321 --> 01:14:11,242
Duetting people? Doing what?
Social... Talking to other people
online.

1040
01:14:13,119 --> 01:14:16,539
You're talking about the duets
with Billy? Yes, I am.

1041
01:14:17,999 --> 01:14:19,668
Huh.

1042
01:14:23,922 --> 01:14:27,425
I really care about Billy's health.
Every one of my duets says,

1043
01:14:27,509 --> 01:14:29,052
"hashtag awareness".

1044
01:14:31,012 --> 01:14:35,433
I became close to Billy,
because he has kidney failure.

1045
01:14:35,517 --> 01:14:39,062
And I used to work as a caretaker
for the sick.

1046
01:14:39,145 --> 01:14:43,149
So now that I have a friend that is
showing me support,

1047
01:14:43,233 --> 01:14:45,110
I need...

1048
01:14:45,193 --> 01:14:48,530
to return the favour
and give them support,

1049
01:14:48,613 --> 01:14:50,573
in the best way I know how.

1050
01:14:54,160 --> 01:14:57,580
Maybe I did grow a little,
you know, social-media crush.

1051
01:14:57,664 --> 01:14:59,332
Gosh.

1052
01:15:01,334 --> 01:15:05,005
You're talking about Michael playing
games, that's playing games, too.

1053
01:15:05,088 --> 01:15:09,342
Is Billy good-looking? God damn,
absolutely. It would take a damn
dumbass not to know that.

1054
01:15:10,468 --> 01:15:12,429
But I'm a one-man woman.

1055
01:15:12,512 --> 01:15:14,347
I don't cheat.

1056
01:15:14,431 --> 01:15:18,226
My husband is not complimenting me,
my husband ain't talking to me, my
husband...

1057
01:15:18,309 --> 01:15:22,063
You're looking for the attention that
Michael's not giving you.

1058
01:15:24,274 --> 01:15:28,153
If you got to fight and play games
to get somebody's attention,

1059
01:15:28,236 --> 01:15:30,655
I don't think it's, you know,
worthwhile.

1060
01:15:30,739 --> 01:15:34,617
I really think she should just
end it with him, honestly,

1061
01:15:34,701 --> 01:15:38,872
because I don't think Michael is
playing the games to make her
jealous.

1062
01:15:38,955 --> 01:15:42,917
I really do think that, you know,
he's seen her as an opportunity

1063
01:15:43,001 --> 01:15:45,086
to come over here to America.

1064
01:15:45,170 --> 01:15:48,757
I think that, you know, he gained
that connection with her

1065
01:15:48,840 --> 01:15:51,551
and it's been easy to play her
ever since.

1066
01:15:53,094 --> 01:15:55,972
When are you gonna put an end to it?

1067
01:15:56,056 --> 01:16:00,518
I take them vows seriously.
I don't play with God, when I say
"for better, for worse".

1068
01:16:02,312 --> 01:16:04,856
I need to fly my ass over there,
Skyla.

1069
01:16:05,982 --> 01:16:07,650
And do what, Mama?

1070
01:16:07,734 --> 01:16:11,863
I got to go over there for myself,
to see if it's worth it anymore.

1071
01:16:13,114 --> 01:16:15,700
Right now, I don't feel love
from this man.

1072
01:16:15,784 --> 01:16:19,788
But the bottom line is I married
Michael, because I love him.

1073
01:16:19,871 --> 01:16:24,250
So you're not going over there
to break it off? You're going over
there to try to save it?

1074
01:16:24,334 --> 01:16:27,420
I didn't marry him because I was
just gonna get mad and divorce him.

1075
01:16:27,504 --> 01:16:30,632
It's been two years since
we've seen each other.

1076
01:16:30,715 --> 01:16:33,218
I have to see this man face-to-face.

1077
01:16:33,301 --> 01:16:34,844
OK, Mom.

1078
01:16:34,928 --> 01:16:38,682
Don't roll your eyes, fluttering to
the back of your head. OK, OK, OK.

1079
01:16:41,851 --> 01:16:43,937
Skyla has never liked Michael.

1080
01:16:44,020 --> 01:16:46,815
I know she's just trying
to protect me.

1081
01:16:46,898 --> 01:16:51,069
The timing of this trip to go
to Nigeria right now is crucial,

1082
01:16:51,152 --> 01:16:53,655
because I don't have much time left.

1083
01:16:53,738 --> 01:16:58,493
I need to know if I'm gonna stay
with Michael or divorce him,
because...

1084
01:16:58,576 --> 01:17:01,121
this visa could be approved
at any time.

1085
01:17:01,204 --> 01:17:02,872
And if that's true,

1086
01:17:02,956 --> 01:17:05,333
I have no control of
this relationship,

1087
01:17:05,417 --> 01:17:08,003
if he gets here
and he don't wanna be with me.

1088
01:17:08,086 --> 01:17:10,380
Two things. I'm either gonna
come back single

1089
01:17:10,463 --> 01:17:15,093
or I'm gonna come back feeling
Michael really loves me and
understands what he's done is wrong.

1090
01:17:15,176 --> 01:17:17,429
One of the two and that's it.
That's it.

1091
01:17:18,555 --> 01:17:20,181
We'll see.

1092
01:17:20,265 --> 01:17:22,142
I'll see.

1093
01:17:27,355 --> 01:17:27,616
2
01:14:28.840 -- 01:14:34.400 align:middle line:90% position:50%
# Ah-ah, ah-ah, ah-ah, ah-ah #

1094
01:17:45,582 --> 01:17:46,916
# Ah! #

1095
01:17:47,000 --> 01:17:49,461
# Ee-ee, ee-ee, ee-ee, ee-ee #

1096
01:17:53,590 --> 01:17:55,383
# Ee-ee #

1097
01:17:55,467 --> 01:17:58,136
I don't know, babe,
but you sound nice.

1098
01:17:58,219 --> 01:18:00,305
I feel super rusty.

1099
01:18:00,388 --> 01:18:04,434
Well, watching Libby and
hearing her, I'm very happy.

1100
01:18:04,517 --> 01:18:07,979
I never interrupt her
when she's singing,

1101
01:18:08,063 --> 01:18:10,023
even if I don't like the song.

1102
01:18:11,274 --> 01:18:12,942
It's pretty cool.

1103
01:18:13,026 --> 01:18:15,820
There are songs that I sing
that you don't like?

1104
01:18:15,904 --> 01:18:17,781
Yeah.
Like what?

1105
01:18:17,864 --> 01:18:19,949
Like...Eminem.

1106
01:18:22,118 --> 01:18:25,872
I'm gonna go and talk to
Grandma Pam over there.

1107
01:18:25,955 --> 01:18:27,916
Grandma Pam!

1108
01:18:31,294 --> 01:18:33,922
I asked Andrei to meet with my mom,

1109
01:18:34,005 --> 01:18:36,841
because I don't want there to be any
more bad blood

1110
01:18:36,925 --> 01:18:39,010
and for it to spread from...

1111
01:18:39,094 --> 01:18:41,388
Charlie's relationship to my mom.

1112
01:18:41,471 --> 01:18:45,308
And then... Definitely will. ..it
will just be a circle of issues.

1113
01:18:45,392 --> 01:18:50,897
I don't want that. So they need to
get together and they need to talk
about it.

1114
01:18:50,980 --> 01:18:53,692
The house-warming party,
she comes over here,

1115
01:18:53,775 --> 01:18:56,986
screaming, I don't need that stuff
in my house.

1116
01:18:57,070 --> 01:19:00,198
But you need to like just remember
that it's my mother.

1117
01:19:00,281 --> 01:19:02,117
Just find common ground.

1118
01:19:02,200 --> 01:19:03,785
Please.

1119
01:19:04,911 --> 01:19:06,496
Common ground? Sure.

1120
01:19:07,622 --> 01:19:10,542
I don't think Andrei is going to
change his mind,

1121
01:19:10,625 --> 01:19:13,253
but I'm hoping my mom will listen
to him,

1122
01:19:13,336 --> 01:19:17,507
and understand why we just aren't
ready to hang out with my brother.

1123
01:19:20,802 --> 01:19:25,724
She usually doesn't want to, because
she thinks that she's always right.

1124
01:19:25,807 --> 01:19:28,143
So have fun with that.

1125
01:19:29,352 --> 01:19:32,230
I love you, baby. Keep doing what
you're doing.

1126
01:19:32,313 --> 01:19:34,816
Take it easy. OK? Don't go too hard.

1127
01:19:51,875 --> 01:19:53,960
Hi. Welcome to Raining Berries.

1128
01:19:54,044 --> 01:19:55,920
Hey. Acai berry, please.

1129
01:19:56,004 --> 01:19:58,965
And a coffee, please.
It will be right out. Thank you.

1130
01:20:00,091 --> 01:20:04,304
I agreed to meet with Pam today
out of love for my wife.

1131
01:20:04,387 --> 01:20:09,809
I understand why it is so important
for me to have peace with her mom.

1132
01:20:09,893 --> 01:20:13,396
I want to open her eyes,
but Pam needs to understand

1133
01:20:13,480 --> 01:20:16,733
that I will not change my mind
about Charlie.

1134
01:20:22,530 --> 01:20:24,282
Hi. Hey.

1135
01:20:25,658 --> 01:20:27,744
You having breakfast?

1136
01:20:36,044 --> 01:20:39,798
I'm not really sure how Andrei is
going to come into this meeting.

1137
01:20:39,881 --> 01:20:43,510
Libby asked me to meet with him,
which I'm more than happy to do.

1138
01:20:43,593 --> 01:20:49,307
Hopefully, we can work out what
happened at the house-warming party.

1139
01:20:49,391 --> 01:20:53,061
I'm hoping that we can both realise
what we did.

1140
01:20:53,144 --> 01:20:57,899
I really would like him and
Elizabeth to be at my birthday
party coming up soon.

1141
01:20:57,982 --> 01:20:59,818
So what's going on?

1142
01:21:03,113 --> 01:21:04,572
(LAUGHS)

1143
01:21:06,282 --> 01:21:09,160
Well, that's why we're here
to talk about it.

1144
01:21:09,244 --> 01:21:11,204
Well, I don't like having discord.

1145
01:21:11,287 --> 01:21:15,709
I'm sure you probably don't either.
I felt like you were very
disrespectful to me

1146
01:21:15,792 --> 01:21:17,877
at the house-warming party.

1147
01:21:17,961 --> 01:21:19,713
I will tell you why.

1148
01:21:19,796 --> 01:21:24,092
It was when you accused me, like of
some stuff that is not, it's not
a reality.

1149
01:21:24,175 --> 01:21:25,802
Like, talking about...

1150
01:21:25,885 --> 01:21:28,805
Supposedly, I'm drinking or
something like this?

1151
01:21:28,888 --> 01:21:31,099
You're projecting what Charlie does.

1152
01:21:31,182 --> 01:21:34,811
You're trying to compare me
and it's not even comparable.

1153
01:21:34,894 --> 01:21:37,981
I'm not disagreeing with anything
that you're saying right now.

1154
01:21:38,064 --> 01:21:41,651
Let's figure out how we can come to
an agreement and compromise,

1155
01:21:41,735 --> 01:21:45,488
because I would like to have
everybody at my birthday party.

1156
01:21:45,572 --> 01:21:48,700
And I would like the presence of
your company

1157
01:21:48,783 --> 01:21:50,869
and Elizabeth's and Eleanor.

1158
01:21:54,330 --> 01:21:56,416
It's not gonna happen.

1159
01:21:56,499 --> 01:21:59,836
Why would you not come to
my birthday party?

1160
01:21:59,919 --> 01:22:04,090
I'm not gonna come, to be around,
because I know you're gonna bring
Charlie.

1161
01:22:04,174 --> 01:22:07,802
Charlie will be there, Megan will be
there, the kids will be there.

1162
01:22:07,886 --> 01:22:09,679
I'm out. That's it.

1163
01:22:09,763 --> 01:22:12,474
Have you ever heard of a ceasefire?
There's no ceasefire.

1164
01:22:12,557 --> 01:22:16,353
Why can't you agree to stop being
at odds with him for two hours?

1165
01:22:16,436 --> 01:22:19,856
I will not do that.
And honour me, Libby's mom.

1166
01:22:19,939 --> 01:22:23,151
After what happened
at the barbecue, last year,

1167
01:22:23,234 --> 01:22:29,324
it's a very bad idea to get me
in the same room with Charlie.

1168
01:22:29,407 --> 01:22:33,620
I cannot risk this happening again,
especially if Ellie was there.

1169
01:22:33,703 --> 01:22:39,959
Charlie has proven that he cannot
act and have a civil conversation
while he's drunk.

1170
01:22:40,043 --> 01:22:43,755
And I cannot expose my family to
that kind of problem.

1171
01:22:43,838 --> 01:22:49,594
You want everybody together and
to kiss and make up and that's not,
that's not the solution.

1172
01:22:49,678 --> 01:22:54,265
I want the same thing of the girls
that I ask of you. Why would I care?
I don't care.

1173
01:22:57,560 --> 01:23:00,897
So you just, you sound like you're
being very judgmental.

1174
01:23:00,980 --> 01:23:04,067
I am being very judgmental.
I'm just telling the reality.

1175
01:23:04,150 --> 01:23:05,735
You're taking the coward way out.

1176
01:23:07,946 --> 01:23:11,991
If you have an issue with somebody,
you go directly to them, like I'm
doing with you.

1177
01:23:12,075 --> 01:23:15,078
I already took it to him.
You're not gonna call me a coward.

1178
01:23:15,161 --> 01:23:16,955
I told you what is gonna happen.

1179
01:23:17,038 --> 01:23:21,751
I'm not gonna go anywhere
in the proximity of this guy
until I see action.

1180
01:23:21,835 --> 01:23:23,712
I don't care about words.

1181
01:23:23,795 --> 01:23:28,925
I'm gonna keep my daughter and
my wife isolated until there is
professional help.

1182
01:23:29,009 --> 01:23:32,470
Why would you isolate them from her
mom? I don't want negative energy.

1183
01:23:32,554 --> 01:23:35,974
I am concerned that he's cutting
Libby off from the family.

1184
01:23:36,057 --> 01:23:40,854
You know, as long as we live,
people are gonna step on our toes,
especially family.

1185
01:23:40,937 --> 01:23:44,566
Just because we're around them
a lot, so you have to be able to,

1186
01:23:44,649 --> 01:23:48,319
to talk to them, talk through things
and be mature, be an adult.

1187
01:23:48,403 --> 01:23:50,947
That's why I told him
he was being a coward.

1188
01:23:52,782 --> 01:23:57,579
You can't just isolate people that
piss you off. OK? You piss me off,
I'm done with you. I can.

1189
01:23:57,662 --> 01:23:59,372
1,000% I can.

1190
01:23:59,456 --> 01:24:03,710
You're gonna end up a very lonely
person. What are you gonna do
with that?

1191
01:24:03,793 --> 01:24:05,879
I'm going to do very simple...

1192
01:24:05,962 --> 01:24:09,299
I'm gonna be very simple with the
people that I want to be around.

1193
01:24:09,382 --> 01:24:12,344
When you build walls to keep people
out, you keep yourself in.

1194
01:24:13,762 --> 01:24:17,182
'Pam doesn't respect me
or my boundaries.'

1195
01:24:17,265 --> 01:24:20,310
Pam doesn't understand
where I'm coming from.

1196
01:24:20,393 --> 01:24:23,813
She just only thinks for herself
and for her image,

1197
01:24:23,897 --> 01:24:27,525
to show everybody that she has
a whole, happy family.

1198
01:24:27,609 --> 01:24:32,572
But my interest in this whole idea
is to protect my wife and my child.

1199
01:24:32,655 --> 01:24:36,451
If Pam doesn't understand that,
she's gonna get the same treatment.

1200
01:24:47,629 --> 01:24:50,423
You don't have to worry about
talking to me no more.

1201
01:25:00,016 --> 01:25:03,603
OK, I brought the guy there
to ask you a question, yes.

1202
01:25:03,687 --> 01:25:06,481
I need a drink.
Why do you always... Wait.

1203
01:25:11,027 --> 01:25:13,446
You don't think you did
anything wrong?

1204
01:25:14,572 --> 01:25:17,701
Tonight, after talking to
Usman's friend KB,

1205
01:25:17,784 --> 01:25:21,705
this whole second-wife thing is,
like, blowing up in my head now.

1206
01:25:21,788 --> 01:25:25,542
It's not exactly how Usman
portrayed it. Once again.

1207
01:25:25,625 --> 01:25:30,130
I didn't know that the first wife
and the second wife share
equal love.

1208
01:25:30,213 --> 01:25:32,090
So it's bullshit to me.

1209
01:25:32,173 --> 01:25:36,261
Usman isn't always completely honest
with me about things,

1210
01:25:36,344 --> 01:25:39,472
but he'll turn it around to make it
like I'm the crazy one.

1211
01:25:40,890 --> 01:25:45,603
You expect me to just say, "OK",
let you marry somebody and not ask
any questions.

1212
01:25:45,687 --> 01:25:49,274
That's why you brought the guy there
was for me to ask questions.

1213
01:25:49,357 --> 01:25:54,946
But when he was answering or when
I was talking to him, you kept
interrupting. So what's the point?

1214
01:25:57,782 --> 01:26:02,620
I agreed to let Usman have a second
wife, cos I realise how important
it is for him to have children.

1215
01:26:02,704 --> 01:26:08,585
I wanna make sure that it's going to
happen on my terms, as well, because
it's gonna affect my life, too.

1216
01:26:09,711 --> 01:26:12,005
This is a huge, huge, huge thing,

1217
01:26:12,088 --> 01:26:15,091
for me to just be like, "Oh, OK,
yeah, go have a wife."

1218
01:26:15,175 --> 01:26:18,303
And Usman doesn't seem to care about
my opinion at all.

1219
01:26:25,810 --> 01:26:27,896
I wish I never would have came here.

1220
01:26:29,064 --> 01:26:31,316
I will go back.
Don't worry about that.

1221
01:26:31,399 --> 01:26:33,902
You think that
you're innocent in all this?

1222
01:26:33,985 --> 01:26:36,321
I had no cause to get upset?
That's how you think?

1223
01:26:40,575 --> 01:26:42,535
But it is the reason, Usman.

1224
01:26:51,252 --> 01:26:52,587
What? The whole topic?

1225
01:26:54,589 --> 01:26:59,886
It is so obvious that Kimberley is
jealous because of the second wife.

1226
01:26:59,969 --> 01:27:03,682
When Kimberly visited me, the first
trip, in Nigeria,

1227
01:27:03,765 --> 01:27:07,686
Kimberly told me that she's OK with
having the second wife.

1228
01:27:12,440 --> 01:27:15,860
But now, I think she's facing
the reality

1229
01:27:15,944 --> 01:27:20,365
of having the second wife now and
that's why she's not OK with that.

1230
01:27:20,448 --> 01:27:22,534
So I don't know.

1231
01:27:22,617 --> 01:27:25,412
That is frustrating.

1232
01:27:25,495 --> 01:27:28,248
All I was trying to do was talk to
your friend.

1233
01:27:28,331 --> 01:27:30,208
That's all I was trying to do.

1234
01:27:41,261 --> 01:27:42,595
That's not the problem.

1235
01:27:44,431 --> 01:27:48,184
I don't need to see her, I don't
live here. I don't need to see her.

1236
01:27:48,268 --> 01:27:49,936
Why do I need to see her?

1237
01:27:50,020 --> 01:27:54,607
This is not my culture. I've said
that time and time again. How many
times have I said that?

1238
01:28:01,364 --> 01:28:05,744
I feel like I'm doing everything
I can to adapt to your culture,
everything.

1239
01:28:17,964 --> 01:28:19,424
You think so?

1240
01:28:21,217 --> 01:28:25,096
I'm in a fucking country by myself,
with somebody who supposedly
loves me,

1241
01:28:25,180 --> 01:28:28,933
that I'm willing to go meet his
family, let him take a second wife.

1242
01:28:29,017 --> 01:28:32,103
You don't think this is a lot?
You don't think it's a lot for me?

1243
01:28:36,566 --> 01:28:38,568
Is that what you want?

1244
01:28:44,032 --> 01:28:45,784
I think I'm just gonna
try to go home.

1245
01:28:48,161 --> 01:28:50,872
This is a whole different thing
in my life.

1246
01:28:50,955 --> 01:28:54,709
I respect it, his culture and
his religion or whatever it is,

1247
01:28:54,793 --> 01:28:57,170
but, like, I don't get
that respect back.

1248
01:28:57,253 --> 01:29:01,383
Like, you just put me in this
situation and I'm supposed to be
OK with it?

1249
01:29:01,466 --> 01:29:04,594
'It's not OK. That's not OK to me.'

1250
01:29:06,680 --> 01:29:08,348
Sorry.

1251
01:29:10,141 --> 01:29:14,229
I'm going to look for a plane
ticket. I'll borrow the money
from somebody.

1252
01:29:14,312 --> 01:29:16,606
You go marry 5,000 wives,
if you want.

1253
01:29:20,110 --> 01:29:22,237
Get the fuck out of this country.

1254
01:29:41,631 --> 01:29:43,508
Listen...
Don't touch me.

1255
01:29:43,591 --> 01:29:45,468
I'm telling you, don't touch me.

1256
01:29:45,552 --> 01:29:47,429
Usman, I'm not playing. Stop!

1257
01:29:47,512 --> 01:29:51,808
Leave me the fuck alone.
Don't go out. I'll do whatever
the fuck I want.

1258
01:29:53,059 --> 01:29:54,936
Go!

1259
01:29:55,020 --> 01:29:57,105
Whoa!

1260
01:29:57,188 --> 01:30:00,608
Next time on...90 Day Fiance
Happily Ever After?

1261
01:30:00,692 --> 01:30:04,029
Did he make it?
Awesome!

1262
01:30:04,112 --> 01:30:08,116
Now that we're married, I can apply
for a spousal visa for you

1263
01:30:08,199 --> 01:30:10,952
and we could even go to America
together.

1264
01:30:18,168 --> 01:30:21,338
Your first priority will always be
your parents. It will never be me.

1265
01:30:23,590 --> 01:30:27,302
Does Ed let you have, like,
alone time, like, you time?

1266
01:30:27,385 --> 01:30:30,555
He lets me have me time
when I'm going to work out.

1267
01:30:30,638 --> 01:30:33,433
Does he want you to lose weight?
Does he say that?

1268
01:30:34,559 --> 01:30:39,898
He will look through photos and be
like, "Oh, do you ever think about
being back to that size?"

1269
01:30:39,981 --> 01:30:41,608
And it's kind of insulting.

1270
01:30:43,401 --> 01:30:45,528
We are in the same situation as you,

1271
01:30:45,612 --> 01:30:47,947
with Charlie and creating
boundaries.

1272
01:30:48,031 --> 01:30:50,950
But if we go to mom's party,
are you guys coming?

1273
01:30:51,034 --> 01:30:54,079
So, like, all of your words
went to shit.

1274
01:30:54,162 --> 01:30:56,915
No way would I subject myself
to that. That's foolish.

1275
01:30:56,998 --> 01:30:59,250
You and Andrei are slowly, like,

1276
01:30:59,334 --> 01:31:03,254
distancing yourselves from everybody
in the family. Building an island.

1277
01:31:04,381 --> 01:31:05,882
How are you feeling?

1278
01:31:25,360 --> 01:31:29,322
So when we get there and you see
Michael, you've got to have a plan.

1279
01:31:29,406 --> 01:31:31,282
He doesn't know I'm coming.

1280
01:31:31,366 --> 01:31:32,617
Just gonna surprise him?

1281
01:31:32,701 --> 01:31:33,868
Hello!

1282
01:31:33,952 --> 01:31:36,746
If I find out Michael
was scamming me,

1283
01:31:36,830 --> 01:31:38,081
I'm pulling them visas and

1284
01:31:38,164 --> 01:31:39,499
filing for
a divorce.

1285
01:31:40,709 --> 01:31:43,503
Let me walk. Just let me walk.
Listen...

1286
01:31:43,586 --> 01:31:45,046
Just leave me alone.

1287
01:31:47,340 --> 01:31:50,135
I don't need to go to the room.
I'm grown. I can walk on my own.

1288
01:31:50,218 --> 01:31:52,846
Fuck! Leave me the fuck alone.

1289
01:31:52,929 --> 01:31:56,057
I can't go on with that.
Everything is on the line.

1290
01:31:56,141 --> 01:31:58,560
I feel like it's all
on the line now.

1291
01:31:58,643 --> 01:32:00,311
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