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Previously on 90 Day Fiance Happily Ever After...
The engagement party is in how many days?
Five days.
I invited my mom. I invited Tiffany.
I'd be lying if I didn't say
it's a little bit of a relief if they don't come.
I just want to say I'm sorry.
I really want to know what trigger you that way.
You told me the first wife gets all the love.
The second one was a baby-maker. Like, I don't get the whole story.
I don't know why you do that to me.
He just tells me things that I want to hear all the time.
What if we get married and I find out
that things aren't the way he said when he was bullshitting me?
Maybe we will go to see a fertility specialist sometime next week?
Baby, why do you need to go to see a fertility doctor?
When I agreed to the prenup, I added a clause.
If I don't get a baby by 40, he's going to pay.
If we go to Mom's party, are you guys coming?
We have our green card renewal coming up
and we're not gonna jeopardise that for a birthday party.
Good. Hopefully he gets sent back. Do you not wanna see me ever again?
Libby, I kind of feel like it's heading that way anyway.
You really think it's OK for you to leave and go to Prague?
You're not thinking of what's the right time for you to go and do this.
God, I'm so grateful for you, Rene, cos this ain't an easy trip.
I really love him. I don't wanna leave him.
Maybe just your presence might bring him back.
If I found out Michael was scamming me,
I'm coming back and pulling them visas and I'm filing for divorce.
MICHAEL:
MAN:
Good.
Get into the pool, big man.
(LAUGHTER)
All right, put on.
OK. Up front.
(LAUGHTER)
Do a strip dance for your mama.
Oh, there you go!
Problem.
Let me tell you. I don't want y'all round him.
You're a bad influence and that one especially.
And you know what? That's none of your fucking business.
It's so funny ain't it. Is that funny?
Get a job?
Mike. Mike, Mike.
I mean...
The audience already, yeah.
Yeah, I did. Yeah, I did. I saw you doing this.
(DANCE MUSIC)
Please, no.
(GENTLE MUSIC)
Look! Ooh!
Big fishes.
Stingray. That's a stingray.
(CHATTERS)
(POP MUSIC)
(BOTH CONVERSING IN OWN LANGUAGE)
We decided to not go to my mom's birthday party,
because Charlie will be there.
And instead, today we took a little family trip to the manatee centre.
Yes.
Ellie wants to pet you.
And I have no regrets of not going to Pam's birthday party.
There you go, that's a manatee over there.
(SPEAKING ROMANIAN)
Mama, they're moving. Look at them!
We are landlocked in Moldova and we don't have those animals.
Do you have a word for manatee in Romanian?
I don't think so. I'm gonna look it up and see.
SYNTHESISED VOICE: 'Manatee.'
So the answer is no, there is not. No.
Babe, I'm so happy that we're doing this over here.
And not doing whatever the, you know,
like, zoo they have over there at Pam's birthday party.
I mean, I never thought, like, growing up
that I would just like not be at my mom's birthday party,
or like anybody's birthday party, for that matter.
There's people there that I choose to not be around.
I made that decision a while ago and I'm sticking to it.
Obviously, my family has had their issues, for so many years,
but, honestly, it's never gotten to this point, and right now,
it is the worst it's ever been.
Yeah, I agree.
And I don't want that, you know.
We're not the problem, babe. Like, we were always so close-knit
but, like the older I get, the more I realise of all the issues,
and how it really affects me, you know.
When I think of my family, I think of a very loud, crazy concert.
Like you can't hear yourself, you can't hear your inner thoughts,
and so it brought a lot of negativity in my life.
And it does affect people,
like, you can't just patch things up and move on.
Let's-Let's enjoy this. Let's not spoil it.
Hi, Mother. Hi, sweet daughter. Happy birthday, Mom. Oh, thank you.
You know it takes the stress out of it
when you tell everybody no balloons or no presents.
(LAUGHTER)
So, I just wanna thank you guys before everybody else gets here, for coming tonight.
I appreciate you putting aside your differences
for a couple of hours to come and celebrate my birthday.
Who's not coming?
Libby and Andrei are invited as well as Charlie and Megan so...
Still flip a coin on that one. Well, yeah.
Babe, you know in my family, just don't ask questions.
Just go with it, I don't even know.
Expect the worst. Yeah.
When my husband set up this dinner for me for my birthday and invited all my children,
Andrei and I did have a conversation.
he said that he would not be at my birthday dinner, nor would Libby.
I mean, I think that she would want to be there,
but I don't know that she would actually stand up to Andrei at that point to be here.
Do you think that he's literally telling her not to come, Libby?
Yeah, absolutely. What? I just can't believe that she's listening to him.
No, but really, Mom, you weren't there that night.
At the barbecue. It was like... I have PTSD.
So, you know, I get why Libby is so hesitant.
Let me just say, you know, by us being here,
it doesn't mean that it's all gonna be peaches and rainbows -
I understand that. ..from here on out, because we're not there yet.
You know, I'm putting myself in this vulnerable situation.
But you are my mom, and I'm not gonna miss celebrating you on your birthday. Yeah.
I do feel a little nervous, not gonna lie.
I'm not gonna allow anyone's presence
or anything to dictate me going places or being somewhere.
But I haven't actually seen my brother or Megan since the barbecue.
So obviously I think there is a little PTSD
from that that we are experiencing.
So I am feeling a little anxious about this.
Where's Meme?
Hey. Oh, my goodness. Happy birthday.
Look at you guys.
2 00:14:28.360 -- 00:14:30.000 align:middle line:68% position:50% Oh, yeah.
Grandma and Grandpa.
Can you believe we drove 16 hours to be here? I can't either.
So the engagement party is a couple of days away.
My family's driving into town
and we are going to meet up with my grandparents.
We had actually gone back for their 50th wedding anniversary
when Liz and I got back together.
But I'm nervous because I think
they were very sceptical of, you know, our relationship.
My grandparents are the most important people to me.
And they're like, they raised you, right?
They raised me since I was little.
My relationship with my parents isn't as tight as it is
with my grandparents.
My biological father was never in my life.
My mom, I love her, but she really was focused a lot on my brother.
He has a disability,
so my grandmother had me since I was a baby.
I just consider my grandparents my parents.
I've never introduced anyone to them.
They've known Riley's dad and everything like that,
but we were young and high school sweethearts.
So you are the very first person, since my split with Riley's dad,
that has ever met them.
Like, introducing you to them means a lot.
You didn't even introduce your last husband to them, yeah? No.
Yeah. So that makes me feel special, you know.
Like, this is very serious for me.
Yeah.
I feel honoured that I get to meet them,
or I got to meet them.
They're pretty quiet. Like, your grandpa told me this.
He said, "Don't try to buy her."
And then your grandma said,
"Treat her right or I'll come after you with a baseball bat."
Was she kidding or no?
I definitely know, at the age that they're at,
I don't want to disappoint them with relationships.
Just because I'm stubborn,
I don't need anyone's permission to be with who I want to be, but -
You put a ring on my finger.
People judge knowing that I've been divorced twice.
And there is more pressure that this could be my third marriage.
It is very important for me to show my grandparents that I am happy,
and I have a good partner, and I need to make sure
they see a huge difference in what they saw before.
Do they know about our breakups?
(CALLING)
Grandma.
Hey, baby girl. Hey.
Hey, how are you doing?
(KISSING)
Hi, Grandpa.
Hey, Grandma, how are you?
How are you, sweetheart? How's it going? Good good.
I like your hair, by the way.
She cut hers, which was up to her waist.
I said, "You cut your hair, I'm making mine long." Oh, nice.
She's short, I'm long. She's short and I'm tall.
My mouth, my eye.
Kind of like you. Tall, short.
(LAUGHTER)
So what - So what have you guys been up to?
I know one thing. What kind of mischief?
We've been making love, I'm just kidding.
Um...
She talks about you guys all the time.
She said that, "You'd better take care of me
or Grandma's gonna come after you with a baseball bat."
I raised her to be a warrior, so be careful.
I'm OK with Ed.
But, oh, boy, they had a rough time from the beginning.
And then I was surprised that she had a ring on her finger.
Yeah.
She just got out of one bad relationship
and I was pushing her and pushing her, that's not good.
I'm all really protective of her, more than anybody.
Just let me ask you one question.
Are you marrying her
because you really, really, really, really love her?
Or is it because she makes you feel young?
I'm marrying her cos I really, really love her.
I can't... I can't live without her.
Are you positive about that?
I am, I am, I'm... I heard that remark once before.
I, um... She's my forever, you know. OK.
And, I mean, she is a pain in the butt, so am I.
But she's who I wanna be with.
She does make me feel young, but that's not why I'm marrying her.
I'm going to love her and take care of her for the rest of her life.
Don't hurt her.
Liz has been through many heartbreaks before me, and with me,
and I'm sure they do not want Liz to get hurt again.
My mom and daughter and I are not talking,
so it's important that her grandparents support us.
So, for me, there's a lot more pressure in not failing.
So, Gramps -
(LAUGHS) You're on your knees already?
Oh, OK, now I see over your head. (LAUGHS) Who's talking?
That is where Liz gets it.
Well, thank you, guys. Honey, here. She's got it both.
My grandma and grandpa want the best for me.
I don't know if they'll fully be on board with it.
But I know that they respect me enough
and they're gonna be there and support me.
Gramps, have you caught anything yet?
Besides a sunburn, no. (LAUGHS)
I just wish that Ed's friends and family could be supportive.
Did you have fun, babe? I did.
BOTH: We didn't catch anything.
I'll get that pelican on you.
He'll think you're bait cos you're so little.
(LAUGHTER) Dang it, no more short jokes.
2 00:21:01.960 -- 00:21:03.960 align:middle line:90% position:50% (BELL DINGS)
I can't believe... It doesn't feel real that we're finally going,
and we might possibly be approved for a green card today right? Yeah.
Crazy.
I'm really excited for this. I hope that...
I don't wanna worry about this any more.
We've been worrying about this for so long now.
Like, oh, my God. When's the interview gonna come?
Is the paperwork correct? Is this right? Is that right?
It's just, like, too much.
Today we are going to Yara's green card interview.
You've been waiting two-and-a-half years for this green card. I know.
Even though our lawyer's gonna be there, he's gonna assist us.
It's scary to think about what will happen if we fail the green card interview.
I'm fricking nervous. So many documents.
I stayed up till three o'clock in the morning last night
trying to get all these documents together.
And I couldn't find our marriage certificate anywhere.
I don't know. It's possible.
I don't know. I have... We have everything else.
We're going in here to prove our marriage and we don't have our marriage certificate.
No idea.
(SIGHS)
But it's all my fault, right? Yes.
You hold no responsibility for anything.
Do you remember this place? Is it that one?
Yep, that's it. Yeah.
Of course, I wanted to go to see my mom.
I was wanna go to Ukraine too and, like, I miss my country.
Once I parked the car, and I realised like we're actually about to walk into the office,
I'm like, "OK, we're actually really here."
Yeah I think with this going on, if we do run into issues, in the green card interview,
by that point there would be refugee status for Ukrainians hopefully.
I'm just gonna try to be optimistic and hope that everything goes good in our interview.
That was a little bit nerve-racking.
How do you guys feel? Good.
We're finally approved, like.
Just I was nervous sitting in there, to be honest.
"Oh, shit, he's gonna ask for the marriage certificate I don't have."
He seemed like once he saw Mylah's birth certificate, changed his mind a little bit.
Like, OK, this is legit.
You feel good?
Yeah, I do. So long.
Finally.
Feels good to finally have a green card, it's just like, I...
This is one less thing for me to worry about right now.
I can't believe it took so long, but I'm just happy we finally, finally made it to the finish line.
Yep. Even though it was delayed, the good part is you get a ten-year card instead of the two-year card.
That's huge. If you get your residency card
within two years of marriage, it's only good for two years
and then you got to come back and do the whole process again.
Because of the delay, in the processing that it took,
they were at two years and two weeks, and so when the officer looked it up,
he said, actually, I'm gonna be granting you a ten-year card.
Soon as you get your green card.
Looking at about a week to two weeks to get it.
So, soon as you get your green card, you're gonna be good.
Can come and go, as long as you don't stay out of the country for more than six months.
So when do you wanna go now?
How soon?
You're really not gonna wait for me to get back from work?
I was really thinking by this time you would change your mind
about going to Prague without me.
I wanna leave to Europe to see my mom
and go to help people over there as soon as possible.
And I'm telling you, you can go to help.
Let's wait and let's make a plan, and we're gonna go to do it.
I wanna do it with you. I'm not saying let's not do it, I'm saying let's not do it this second.
Not everything is about you. You know I wanna go there.
So, hopefully your family's OK, and stuff like that... Thank you.
Thanks for coming with us today. I appreciate it. Sure. Thank you.
This is my chance to help my people. I need to use that.
I brush my teeth so much that a dentist told me
that I am wearing away my enamel,
so I started to focus on brushing my tongue.
I don't like to see build-up of plaque on your tongue,
it makes me feel like, eurgh, that person has halitosis.
But, according to Bilal I am, you know taking away my taste buds.
I just like to see a clean tongue.
Bilal and I went furniture shopping,
but it took a left turn when I started to look at baby items.
It's very clear that, when it comes to babies,
we are not seeing eye to eye.
I'm getting older and I wanna see a fertility specialist,
but Bilal doesn't understand why.
(VIDEO CALL RINGING)
Hi, Eutris. How are you?
I'm so happy that we getting to catch up.
It's been long overdue, right? I know, right.
Eutris is definitely my best friend.
We met back in Trinidad.
Eutris has seen me been in several relationships that didn't work out.
She wants me to settle down, she wants to see me have a baby.
So she's the perfect person I need to talk to.
When are you coming to America? When are you coming to America?
Erm... April. I hope I can see you. I will be so happy.
It would be so good for us to do something together as well.
Yeah.
What I really call you to talk about is, like,
there's been a couple of hurdles, you know.
Bilal and I, we went furniture shopping,
and the store end up having this baby section next door.
You know, Eutris, I love kids. I love kids.
Mm-hm. Well, Bilal he's not into, like, having children right now.
He's not comfortable with trying, or even looking at baby stuff.
He just blanks out completely.
Oh. Yeah.
He is like, "Oh, we have to wait until happens later," you know.
OK. OK.
Yeah.
So, like, how are you feeling now?
Well, although Bilal and I have in our contract,
our prenuptial agreement contract, that he's going to...
We're gonna postpone having children now and probably when I'm 40 -
Sorry, did you say, when you're 40?
Yes. The next three years? Yeah.
Well, Bilal and I we're not on the same level right now
when it comes to having children, the same page.
He's put in the contract three years' timeframe
before you can have kids.
Now you're feeling kind of broody, like, you know, you wanna have kids.
And he's basically like, being apprehensive, kind of like,
shying away from the topic.
Listen, Eutris, this is a ticklish situation.
I get that Bilal doesn't wanna talk about it.
But I'm getting older and I don't have much time left.
The prenup says that we have to try to have a baby by the time I am 40.
If he violates the contract, I might have to take him to court.
I wanted a traditional marriage.
He decided to get all contractual on me. This is the price of contracts.
You pay.
I'm gonna give him the benefit of the doubt that he wants to have kids.
Don't give me that eyebrow.
Yeah, but he says he wants us to get to know each other.
Like, enjoy life before we have kids.
But, I hope by 39, I can have a baby like in my arms.
It happened to my friend, she had none just like you.
No kids, he had two, like Bilal, and then she keep saying to him,
"I wanna have kids, I wanna have kids."
And he was like not really being serious about it.
And then, one day, he literally ghosted on her.
(GASPS) Oh, my God. Hun!
What if Bilal does that to you?
I've always assumed that Bilal wanted to wait to have children,
but now I'm wondering if he even wants children at all.
I don't want to take a chance on Bilal not wanting kids
and waste the best years of my life.
I need answers now, and going to the doctor is something
that we need to do, to prepare for the future.
Oh, God.
2 00:32:47.720 -- 00:32:49.720 align:middle line:90% position:50% (DANCE MUSIC)
Come on, we got to go. I'm coming out.
Come on. (LAUGHS)
You're so silly.
(INDISTINCT) Yeah, thank you. Thank you.
(R'N'B MUSIC)
Hey. Hey.
How are you? Happy birthday.
Good to see you. How are you?
Hello.
I know everything. That's my best friend right there.
Kim at a party is the life of the party,
but I've only met a couple of Usman's friends once or twice.
And I still have a lot to prove to everyone, so I just know
that I will be on my best behaviour,
because Usman's concerned about taking me to see his family now.
Stop it.
SojaBoy.
Hey, bro, what's up?
KB 2 Effect.
(INDISTINCT CHATTER)
Hi.
Hello.
Last night, I met one of Usman's friends, KB,
and I don't think I left a very good impression on him.
Usman and I got into a huge fight
and then I threw a milkshake at Usman and KB was right there.
That was not my best behaviour and I want to let him know
that I'm really not that kind of girl, unless I'm really upset.
Can I talk to you for a minute?
Let's go over here.
I just wanted to tell you like the other day,
like, I'm really sorry about that.
Yeah, this is not my culture. Yeah. And I'm trying to understand it.
Boundaries are gonna have to be set for myself.
(SPEAKING OWN LANGUAGE)
(LAUGHS) You were scared.
Hello.
Ali, what's up? I'm good. How are you? I'm fine.
Welcome back. What's up?
I'm good. Welcome.
Thank you. Come and sit down.
(CLEARS THROAT)
Usman did not mention to me
he was bringing a female friend to his birthday party.
He's just sitting there and I'm like, "Who's this chick?"
She's really pretty, and I'm really confident in myself,
but she's everything I'm not.
But I've shown him signs before that I'm not a jealous woman.
Maybe jealous of their age, but that's about it.
You're so rude.
Nice to meet you, Kim. Nice to meet you too.
Nice to finally meet you. Nice to meet you too.
So, babe, I'm gonna talk to, I wanna talk to your friend. Who?
Your girlfriend, she's the only girl here with me. My female friend?
Your female friend. Can we switch seats, me and you?
Of course.
So, like, Usman didn't tell me about you.
He doesn't tell me he has female friends.
Well, I guess as someone he's gonna marry like -
Oh, no, no, no, no, no.
That's what was going through my head.
I'm just a cool friend, I'm just a plat, like...
Well like, I am 51 at the end of the day.
And I may be pretty and all that, but my man is 33.
I worry about that.
When I'm not here, I know this is gonna sound totally crazy...
And I want somebody to make sure my baby's OK.
So I want to get your number.
Make sure he's OK. Like I don't want to cry, but make sure he's OK.
Because I can't be here. I can't get here like that.
You know?
When he told me about you today, like, he's never told me about you.
I was, "OK, who's this chick."
Just girly stuff.
Hey, here comes the champagne.
Who sent that? Happy birthday to me.
ALL: Happy birthday.
Thank you. Kim was really nice and fun.
But SojaBoy's a celebrity,
definitely is going to get any girl he wants to get in Nigeria.
So, if I saw Usman and Kim walking down the streets,
I definitely think something is fishy.
Hey. Woo!
And see, when I, when I say it, it sounds really old,
so we'll just stay off. I love you the way you are.
Cheers.
Cheers!
(INDISTINCT CHATTER AND LAUGHTER)
Nigeria, baby. Nigeria.
I just landed in Nigeria and I am so nervous to see my husband
that I haven't seen in two years.
Look what we're doing. Yup.
Rene's a bad influence.
Cheers. Cheers. Look, let's do this. Cheers.
(LAUGHS) Nigeria, baby.
I've been to Nigeria six times now.
And this trip is different because Michael doesn't know I'm here.
And the reason I haven't told him is because he might be scamming me.
I need to catch him off-guard to uncover the truth
as this visa could come in at any time.
So I need to know, is Michael in this marriage for the right reason?
If not, I don't have no time to play.
I need to pull them visas and I need to pull them as soon as I find this out.
So, these are all ours.
These are all ours. All of them? All of... Yeah. Thank you.
I'm here in Nigeria with Angela
because every time she comes here, she has no support.
She's fighting all these battles by herself. Aw!
Let's go this way. Yeah, let's go this way.
We've been through some stuff
and Rene really has my best interests at heart.
Rene don't sugar-coat shit with me. That's what I love her for.
I need somebody to keep me grounded, keep out of fucking Nigeria jail.
(LAUGHS) We're not going to no jail. No, we're not.
No-one flies across the world if they don't love them.
Exactly. I'm here, that's my part.
Showing you I love you, I'm here.
Now it's his job to show me how much he loves me
and fix what he just destroyed.
If Michael loves me the way I'm praying he loves me,
I am hoping that he's just acting like this
because it has been two years.
Maybe he's just playing immature games
and he's not intentionally doing this because he wants a divorce.
Hopefully, him seeing me,
it will rekindle what we have... or had.
Thank you.
Thank you, sir.
OK.
Ain't it nice?
Well, I'll tell you a story.
Me and Michael were riding.
This is when I first came
and he was showing me the people that sell the stuff.
And he said they're "hookers".
And I said, "They're hookers?" He said hawkers, but he said hookers.
I said "Michael, you don't say hookers.
People will think they're selling their butt." But they're hawkers.
I haven't been back to Nigeria since my wedding two years ago
due to COVID.
I wish I was landing in Nigeria
to have a romantic getaway with my husband, to give him hugs, kisses.
But the reality is, this could be the end of our marriage
if Michael doesn't clean up his act.
This is not how I planned my future with Michael.
Hi. We have reservations.
It was good, thank you. Tired. Tired, though.
OK, I want to confirm that for your room.
Just me and mine. Just you, OK.
Yeah, I'm by myself.
She's with me, but she got her own room.
You might not be by yourself on the end of this trip. I'm glad you're confident.
Because I'm more nervous. We'll see. I don't know.
My plan is to go surprise Michael tomorrow at his house.
Because if he's hiding anything from me,
I don't want him to be able to fix it before I get there.
I'm nervous because I don't know what I'm walking into.
I don't know what he's doing.
All I know is I'm showing up
and he's gonna have the surprise of his life.
He better be legit or hell has no fury.
2 00:44:02.200 -- 00:44:04.000 align:middle line:90% position:50% Where's Meme?
Look at you guys.
Hey, good to see you. Thank you.
Thank you for coming. Yeah, of course. Hey, son.
Hey. Happy birthday. Thank you.
Hi, Becky. How you doing? I love you, buddy.
Charlie. Doing good? You look pretty.
Yeah, thank you. How are you? What's up, Thomas? Hey.
Good seeing you. You too.
Look at you guys.
I decided to come tonight cos it is my mom's 60th.
But it's really not about like a forgiveness thing for me.
It's more just, we just needed to create boundaries.
I think that we are establishing that.
I'm crossing my fingers, praying that everything will be fine.
What did you get? Prosecco? We got prosecco.
Did you guys order appetisers yet?
No.
So, how have you guys been? It's been a while.
Yeah, we're doing good. Is Mads doing good? Yeah, he is.
Yeah, he's growing like a weed. Good.
Looks like your boys have gotten big. Yeah.
How about you guys, you been doing all right?
Yeah, besides all the, you know, family drama, you know.
We have family drama?
You guys cancelled Charlie. Hm.
Our viewpoint on that is a little different.
You know, one of the main things I want to accomplish tonight
is get answers from Jenn and Becky about why haven't they talked to my family.
So, what did I do?
No, it wasn't the most ideal ending, that's for sure.
No, that's not what we said.
We've never said that.
That's what you told me. Yeah, that's what you said.
Oh, really, Mother?
I don't remember saying that.
I mean, we did talk about Charlie.
That is true.
I still feel like there's some things that you have done,
but I think it's alcohol-induced.
Do you ever look back at any of the interaction
between you and Andrei or the family
and think, "Why did I do that?" I mean -
"I was a little too drunk."
In our family isn't alcohol always involved?
Yes. You know what I'm saying? So, you're looking at just those times
when we've had millions of great times together.
That's the point I'm trying to make. It was a little bit more, though.
When you initially came to the barbecue
and you came out and you said, "Call the cops!"
You don't feel that was instigating the situation with Andrei?
How does he feel he has the right to get up at Dad's house and get in my face like that?
Charlie I - How does he feel like he has the right to do that? I don't disagree about that.
I think you guys were both in the wrong. I've said that before.
I think you guys both handled it poorly.
I think in order for Charlie to really improve is to admit, like,
drinking too much or his outlandish behaviour.
So I don't know how it's gonna be going forward.
There might be another crazy night.
I don't wanna sit here talking about the past.
I think it's better just to leave and go spend our day separately.
Nothing's been the same since that day at the barbecue for any of us.
There's one common denominator and it's not me, it's Andrei.
He fights with you, he fights with you, he fights with me.
He fights with everybody.
I'm not saying that he's innocent at all, he's not.
I'm not going around trying to turn my family against other siblings,
I'm not doing that.
He definitely has a big influence on Libby, we can all agree on that.
He does, but is Andrei a master manipulator? 100%.
Has he smelt blood in the water with dad and picked up on it
and wrapped around his finger, 100%. Thank you, thank you. I know that.
I came here because I wanted to get some more answers like.
Process everything that happened? Are you cool with me again?
Charlie, you're our brother. We love you, period. That's not -
For the last year-and-a-half it didn't seem like that.
We're all from the same two parents. Right.
The issues that we have, they're not unique.
But we have to figure it out because we're a family.
And if we don't figure it out,
Andrei is the kind of guy who will keep Libby from us.
He's already threatening Mom. She's gonna let that happen?
She probably will, Charlie, because she's married to him.
And she doesn't see it. No.
I'm fucking afraid that I'm gonna come a day
where I don't get to talk to my sister.
Well, if it happened to me, it can happen to you.
I think my sisters are starting to realise that, you know, Andrei is the problem.
But I think they're scared to confront him and Libby
because they don't wanna be cancelled.
They don't wanna be the next one.
So, what are we doing right now?
Now? Are you taking me to a clothes place? Yeah.
OK, babe, here we are.
Yay. Yay.
Yay. You like when I do that, huh?
Because I respect.
This way your hand.
Don't be silly.
Because she's not from here, but she's trying to dress like that.
That means she accepts the culture here.
Hello.
Hey, welcome, welcome, welcome, welcome.
Welcome to Alik's Furnitures and Boutique.
Thank you. What do you like?
Um, so, she's my baby, and I'm taking her to my family.
Yes. So something our culture.
So, I'm not from here.
I was just gonna wear like a long like shirt or whatever.
Why? OK, something like this?
Do you like something like this? It's beautiful, like that.
OK. And then like pants under it, or something. No. No?
This is our thing. It's your thing.
This our thing. It's not my thing, it's your thing.
I'm converting you. No. I'm not converting?
Not all the way, no. No, but like, you should wear something like this and you say yes.
Does it have to be these or can I pick one of those?
You can pick from here. I like this green.
OK, fine. OK, you like this green? I love the green.
Let me bring it down. We're getting your mom something.
I'm leaving you guys to do your thing. OK.
Wow. You choose a nice colour. That's beautiful. Yeah, it is.
When I go to Sokoto, I have to be more modest in my dress,
which I already knew, but I still have to be true to Kim.
Like, let me do my thing.
I'll just throw a veil over it so I can be respectful to his mother.
That's beautiful. Yeah.
No.
I'm not wearing a dress.
Let me show you some of our traditional materials. Good, show her. Yeah.
Let me get it for you. Oh, my gosh. Can I see this for a second?
Babe, I'm dying. Are you?
Should I get you one? Yes.
Before I go to Sokoto. Sokoto's hotter than this.
Yes, like ten times.
OK, let me show you how they use to tie this one.
I don't know. Babe - Just take a look. I love you, but...
Take a look. Just you do like this.
No. I would get so lost in that thing.
I would be... That's beautiful, though.
What's that called? (SPEAKING OWN LANGUAGE)
(REPEATS) Yes. (SPEAKING OWN LANGUAGE) Veil.
Babe, you know what? So, I feel like we should get something like this.
Because this is what our women wear. Just try.
OK, let's try. OK.
Any country you go to and you put on their outfit...
So, when you're meeting my family, try to just look like them for once,
so that they can appreciate you for trying to be like one of them.
To show them you respect their outfit.
Why are you sweating? Cos it's hot.
This is not my country. It's hot here.
You're putting more layers on me.
You know what? I'm dying right now.
No. I do it for you. Oh, my. No.
Are you the one? No, stop it.
What? Usman, stop it.
Take a look there. I don't like the colour.
You look like a model. No, I don't.
Mm! You're dumb.
I think Hausa women dress beautifully.
I love all the material and the lace and the glitter.
I just don't want to be hot, uncomfortable.
I'd rather dress in my own clothes and keep my hair covered.
It's just not my thing. Dresses have never been my thing.
Why not? I just don't wear a dress.
So I just have to do things my way but with your culture blended in.
You know what I mean? Mm-hm.
I have an outfit planned.
You know that red thing we got, that you bought me in Zanzibar?
The long one? This would be beautiful over it.
I'd rather do that. I'm more comfortable like that.
Cos I had bought my own head wraps, but I'll wear this for you.
OK. OK? Yeah.
I wanna get your mom something too.
So this one for your mom. So maybe not this today.
But I definitely want these two. OK.
Is that OK? You understand? I'm OK.
I'm not trying to be disrespectful to you. Babe, I'm fine.
I am nervous about Kimberly meeting with my family
because today Kimberly is being so difficult.
But she should be respectful of my family
in order for us to get the blessing to be married.
Thank you. Thank you so much. Thank you so much.
Thank you for coming to Alik's. When next time you come for...
I'll come back. Maybe.
(SPEAKING OWN LANGUAGE) Thank you so much. Thanks. Bye-bye.
Thank you, thank you.
2 00:55:03.560 -- 00:55:07.680 align:middle line:90% position:50% I'm ready for a drink. Are you OK if I come with you guys, right?
It should just be me and you, and you invited your girls
to go do something with them, so what I'm supposed to do?
We left the green card interview, and we got approved for a green card.
So I was really hoping that Yara and I could, you know,
go out, have drinks and celebrate.
But no she wants to hang out with her friends, by herself.
I wanna fucking have fun too, not just you.
You guys, Yara's here.
Hey. Hey, you guys. What's up?
Hey, everybody. Hi, Jovi. Welcome to girls' drinks.
How are y'all? Good to see y'all.
I thought you were gonna stay with Mylah today? No, not today. OK.
We dropped Mylah off to my mom, so, I'm here.
I mean, we're used to you showing up every time, so...
We should name him Jovina.
(LAUGHTER)
Not surprised that he came.
I think he has control issues,
like he just wants to put her in this little box and watch her.
So I guess it does kind of seem accepted that he's just gonna show up, at every occasion.
Cheers, guys. Cheers.
It's great to see you, Yara. It's good to see you too, Jovi.
Yeah you too, Jovi. Thanks.
Wait, so you had an appointment today?
We're approved for a green card now. Awesome.
How do you feel now that you're official?
She wants to go tomorrow. Like, she wants to go while I'm at work.
That's what I'm telling her.
Yeah. No I understand her, think about you -
Think if this was Louisiana and you went to visit her family
and you were trying to get back to your mom.
I understand that perspective. I don't think it's safe for her.
You're not comfortable with Yara going.
No I think both of us going together is better.
So then go with your wife. I have to go to work.
You can't - I'm going to work for three weeks.
Three weeks is way too long. We don't know when her green card's gonna come.
I'm from Ukraine, I understand that her heart is with Ukraine.
She shouldn't leave you, you should go with her.
Yeah.
I honestly feel like I wanna go to the bathroom so bad.
We can talk to Jovi. We'll take care of Jovina.
You need him alive? Yeah. No promises.
So, I wanna ask you guys, she respects all of your opinions.
She hangs out with you all, all of y'all have fake boobs.
All of a sudden, Yara wants fake boobs.
I told her. I told her.
We never told her to get fake breasts.
No? That's not what I heard?
I didn't tell her. I said I'm doing the same thing. She's like, "You know what?"
So it was you. No, well, see? All right.
What I'm really trying to get across to you guys,
if you can help me to support her in waiting a little bit
to go to Europe, I would appreciate it.
She takes your opinion for everything.
And it's a lot better than coming from me.
As a father, as a husband,
I think that I need to be a little bit controlling
and I can't let Yara be a loose cannon.
If she makes an irrational decision that affects my family,
I should have some involvement with that.
No, I mean, maybe, I'm just trying to be protective.
I feel like you're a tad bit controlling.
Listen, this has nothing to do with trying to control her, or whatever.
This is about me making sure that she's safe when she goes there.
There's nothing wrong she can do going back to help her people.
Like, I don't know why you would even bring this up right now.
Well, you're here today and it's all women.
Yeah I'm here today because I have a baby-sitter
I wanted a day with Yara, and she wanted to come with the girls,
I was like OK, I'm gonna tag along.
I wanna understand is he coming from an angle of worry for her,
or is this just another control tactic?
I understand she's probably being a bit impulsive.
So I want her protected and I would love to side with Jovi,
I just don't know if that's his true motive, is to keep her safe.
Barely.
They're worried that I'm being too controlling over you.
Just telling them I'm worried about you when you come to New Orleans
and I'm worried if you go to Prague without me too.
I wanna know where you're at, I wanna know that you're safe,
because, of course, I wanna protect my family.
If you don't appreciate that I'm sorry, but it's just how I feel.
Yeah, no, but I can't trust for you to go to Prague -
We'll go right up here. OK.
I feel like I'm in a high chair.
Well, I am, but... (BOTH LAUGH)
So, what did you send Ed off for?
He's getting stuff done for the party.
After fishing,
I wanna just spend some one-on-one time with my grandparents.
Since Ed and I got back together, we do everything together.
So it would be nice
because I feel like I have some time to talk, I can have a conversation.
Ed kind of likes to take over most conversations.
It will be fun, I've got some surprises for everybody.
We'll see.
No, we're not getting married, that's not one of those surprises.
They're faking us out. (LAUGHS)
Surprise. This is not our engagement party.
Oh, I'll stop it.
I'll stop it, I'll go, "No, they can't get married tonight,
when I'm not ready."
Five years from now, I'm not ready. (LAUGHTER)
I can say that I'm happy.
I've known Ed now for about a year-and-a-half.
The way that I speak about him, you'd never catch me speaking about him this way before.
They need a little more time to get used to each other.
Yeah. Because Ed's been single for...
I don't know how long.
I think it will work out as long as they pay attention to each other.
The world was against us getting married. Yeah.
Just like them. And we made it.
I have another question for you. This is a very important question.
Your age difference.
The age difference got us a little bit.
Him being that much older than you,
are you willing to take care of him
when he's not able to?
Something to think about.
It's already crossed my mind multiple times.
Not so much as like taking care of him,
but so much as like, I'm scared to lose him.
Because he's older.
Yeah, I would take care of him.
OK.
Because people get hurt, they get sick and all that good stuff.
Ed is definitely a kid, younger at heart than me.
But the truth is he is almost 30 years older than me.
And the one thing that scares me the most about my age difference
with Ed is just that he can be taken away from me.
Sometimes I think too much about losing Ed due to age.
It can make me second-guess being in this relationship
but I don't ever wanna go back to how I felt not having him there.
As much as I can think negative about the situation,
I still try to think about the positive.
Ed has a temper and I can have a temper.
There's been arguments where temperaments have not been healthy.
I have to remember that him being single for so long...
He's always... It's always just been about him.
So we break up because it was his way or no way.
And that wasn't gonna work for me after my last marriage.
Yeah, it ain't your way only it's - Yeah.
..compromise. That's something you both got to learn is to compromise.
We've had our ups and downs, just like they're going to.
Every relationship is like that.
But the thing is, think about each other.
Forget the world, just each other.
It still scares me that Ed will one day hurt me again.
Scares me that one day he'll...
..find a way to, like, ruin something good.
But I have to not worry about that,
I have to trust that he's made the changes that he has made.
I know if it does happy again, that's it.
And I don't wanna be a disappointment to Riley.
I'm really nervous about my third marriage ending up in a divorce.
I do worry about the one day after getting married
where we get into an argument,
because of insecurity and Ed will wanna take a break.
But if Ed and I take a break,
I'm never gonna get back together with him again.
Well, I know you've done him a lot of good.
And I know he's done you a lot of good.
That's why I hope you two can make it.
Yep.
It's so hot, I wish I could just take my boobs out
and rest them on your air conditioning.
Excuse me, not in Nigeria. Isn't it like haram?
I'll be like... Mwah-mwah-mwah!
Last night was fun, huh?
Yeah, it was. The party last night went well.
All my friend enjoy it, and Kimberly enjoyed the party too,
which is one of the most important thing.
And then all my friends they have seen the love.
I think it is high time now to take Kimberly to my family tomorrow.
But, before that, I want to have a romantic dinner with Kimberly.
I had a good time.
Too good of a time, that's why I'm hung-over today.
But I feel fine, I felt fine when I woke up this morning.
Yeah. You know? You know why? What?
Cos I almost ended up in somebody else's hotel room last night,
through the headboard. You know what I mean?
Babe.
I wanna talk.
Huh? You wanna talk? Yeah.
OK, you talk babe. I wanna talk about the -
OK. ..second wife thing.
This is you and I though I don't - A wife's a wife.
I don't wanna argument, we don't need to argue, I just wanna talk.
After talking to Usman's friend, KB, it's obvious
I still have a lot of questions and I need to get some answers straight.
But every time I bring the second wife topic up to Usman,
it's like a sore subject.
He like, pushes past it, or he doesn't answer the questions fully.
I want him to hear me this time and not just make a joke out of it.
This... This is amazing.
You like it? Feels so good, yes.
Best water around here, so, you know. I love it.
I wrote down questions so I can have clarity
and I make sure I don't miss anything.
Because this is it before we go to Sokoto.
Babe, this is not good hangover food.
Try it. I'm scared.
Eurgh! I can't...
This is, no I got it.
OK.
Mm. You like it?
Very, very spicy.
Do you wanna finish this, babe?
So... Yeah, ask me a question, babe, I'm ready for that.
There's no point going to meet your mom and talk about her blessing
with an engagement if we can't come to an agreement on this second wife.
You know what I'm saying? Mm-hm.
Who picks her? Like, does your family choose a woman for you?
My family will be in the position to do that.
Maybe. When you have kids, right, like, what is my role?
Would you be upset if I don't want to like have involvement with them?
If you wanna see them, you can see them, if you don't wanna see them,
I don't have to blame you, but I feel like, that is not how...
If I say, "I don't wanna see Jamal," you know, like, "He's not my son,"
would you be happy? No. Good.
I mean, what you said, was a really good point for me,
and it made me see it now, you know what I mean?
I would be upset if you didn't like Jamal or you didn't wanna be around Jamal.
As long as we are going to be husband and wife in future,
She's not gonna be from America. You don't know. I told you that.
I told you that. No, you don't know. That was it. No, you don't know.
If I have an American lady who live in America...
..I don't think I should be deprived from that.
You're not gonna do that.
You have to listen... Oh, my God.
That's a deal breaker for me.
It's like if this, whoever your second wife is from America,
it's not happening. I told you this.
I just feel like if the second wife is from America,
it's like too close to home for me.
There has to be boundaries between me and the second wife.
When he comes to the States, that's my time with him.
I'm not trying to be controlling, but I have a say so in this too.
I came here to have a conversation. I didn't come for fucking yelling.
Then why you doing this? All I said was that on the phone
and on video chats and stuff, you always said that you wouldn't marry anybody from America.
That's what you told me. Then, when I asked you this little question I wrote down,
it's like now that changed.
I'm accepting a lot, and these questions came from the heart.
What the fuck do you mean I'm not accepting a lot? You're not accepting it, no.
What are you doing at 80? I will tell you. Yeah.
You want me to tell you? Yeah. I'm 33 years old.
I'm an artist.
You love me, you're not doing me a fucking favour.
If I love you at your age, and you love me at my age,
do you think you are doing favour for me?
I thought Usman and I have equal love in our relationship.
But Usman acts like he is like the prize to be won.
And he doesn't understand the sacrifices that I've made
in this relationship.
If Usman doesn't understand that,
then I don't think this relationship is gonna work.
I'll marry a second wife because I want to have a child. God help me.
So she can be from America, Jamaica, Europe, Nigeria, Mauritius.
You can't get to half of these places.
So why you can't go and have sex with her to have kids anyway.
All right.
2 01:13:27.280 -- 01:13:30.000 align:middle line:90% position:50% So, this street right here... Yeah.
..it's called State Line. State Line.
So we're right now in Missouri, that block is Kansas.
Are you serious?
Oh, wow.
Thanks for coming with me,
because although we have not been trying to have children,
I'm looking at what is the possibility
or the chances of me falling into, like, high risk pregnancy.
I mean you're already technically in those years of more higher risk,
whether we did it right now or not.
After talking to Eutris,
I'm starting to worry about Bilal's intentions.
Does he really wanna have a baby?
The prenup says I have until 40 to start trying to conceive a child.
But maybe it's too late.
So today we are meeting with a fertility doctor,
and maybe if Bilal listens to what the doctor has to say,
he will take me wanting a child more seriously.
Hi. How are you? Hello. Hi.
I have an appointment with Dr Mirabile. OK.
I'll get you checked in and they'll be up to get you shortly.
OK, thank you. All righty, sounds good. Thank you.
It's 1,000% strange to me that we're at a fertility clinic
and we haven't even started trying to have a child.
Dr Mirabile is ready to see you guys.
Ah, thank you. All right.
Now is about taking the emotions out of it and looking at it hard facts.
Hello. Hi. Hi. How are you?
How you doing, Bilal. Awesome, Doctor.
Jim Mirabile. I'm Shaeeda. Nice to meet you.
So tell me what's going on with you guys?
Well, Bilal and I recently got married. OK.
So, I wanna have children.
Terrific. Yeah. Great.
We-W JUST got married.
About eight weeks ago. Sure, sure.
Would my age affect chances of fertility?
We are no longer spring chickens.
How old are you? I'm 37 years of age.
OK, so here they call that advanced maternal age.
When I see somebody that is 35 or older, you know,
I think let's give them, you know, six months
you have to have a chance of trying first.
So you recommend trying first.
Before doing. Oh, yeah, yeah.
Where are you guys at with trying at this point?
We are zero when it comes to trying.
OK. He doesn't wanna, like, try right now.
There's a lot right now that's happening.
I mean, you just came to a whole new country.
We just got married, there's a lot of firsts, a lot of new stuff,
and a lot of women go through post-partum.
And I don't want you worrying about that right now.
You know it might sound a little juvenile but maybe
you get a piece of paper, put the pros and the cons together.
And make the decision about doing this. Right.
Lots of couples have this conflict.
I've seen couples actually split up.
They both have to be into this to bring another life into this world.
It's got to be right for them.
So any medical problems?
I have no medical problems that I'm aware of.
And we've never been pregnant before? Never been pregnant before.
OK, how are you cycles?
I have a regular monthly cycle, which is good,
like everyone 21 days my period comes on time, as you see.
How many, 21 days or 28 days?
21. Yeah. 21, OK.
OK, so a little bit brief with that.
Because a typical cycle is about 26 to 30 days.
Yeah.
So if we're ovulating it's really a short time period.
And we'd probably monitor you
and I'd wanna check some blood work on you too.
Thyroid, a couple of hormone levels, see whether your eggs are healthy
and ready to be impregnated
and see if there's something going on there. OK.
A 21 day cycle doesn't cut it as far as ovulation and getting pregnant.
Day 14 you would ovulate and an egg is available for sperm to fertilise.
If it's not there, we're not gonna get a pregnancy.
It's something going on with her that we need to test further.
I think, you know, emotionally together, you know,
you guys you know make a decision.
Like are we gonna do, you know, the wait the two years
and go through the ups and downs of just getting married and everything?
Or is it something that we need to say, "Hey. You know what?"
Your risks increase as you get older - Yeah.
..for fertility. That's my fear, that the risk increase as I get older.
Right. I definitely wanna get some labs today just to help -
Of course. ..see, you know, what's going on.
OK. Sure, sure.
Any other questions or concerns about that?
It sounds like you're saying it's probably best to wait a couple of years.
If we're not ready, definitely.
You don't wanna bring a baby into the world that you're not ready for.
But, you know, there are risks as a woman gets older,
it's something you really need to sit down and talk about that.
And make that decision.
I'm worried about my menstrual cycle
and the doctor's telling me that there could be a problem
when it comes to having a child.
It's a bit frustrating to know that Bilal keeps wanting
to delay trying for a baby.
Even after what the doctor said.
He did not marry a 22 year old, or a 30 year old,
he married someone who is 37 years old, and really wants a baby.
We have to deal with it, not run from it.
I can't believe this.
I was gonna wait to see Michael tomorrow, surprise him.
I told him to take down his Instagram,
and gave him another chance to do it on his own.
And he responded with laugh emoji saying, "Laugh out loud."
What's so funny about someone's pain?
You know how that makes me feel? That he doesn't care about me.
Like, who does something like this to their wife?
I'll tell you who does, someone that's not in it for love.
A scammer.
(KNOCKING ON DOOR)
You ready? Thank you.
Michael's getting ready to get his ass in some trouble.
Because little does he know I'm right down the fucking road.
What I got to get, Rene?
Cigarettes my purse, let's go. Your ID.
Should I have my marriage certificate too?
You should have your marriage certificate. OK.
Don't get us into Nigerian jail.
I came to Nigeria to find out if Michael loves me,
or is he using me to get to America?
Let's go. You wanna do this, we're gonna do this.
I need answers before his visa application is approved
and I don't have time to waste.
I'm bringing this marriage certificate with me,
which, my understanding lets me, being his wife,
own all his possessions that he own as well.
And if I have to show proof that I am his wife
and I have the right to anything that he owns,
I can do it, legally.
I'm getting nervous.
Can you imagine being humiliated by someone you love
that will throw you to the side for own personal gain?
For likes on a social media app.
You know, making fun of my pain.
I cannot believe this shit this fucker puts me through.
Angela puts out a lot and she expects the same in return.
And when she doesn't get it, it's very disappointing.
At this point, he just makes her so frustrated
that there is no more reeling in.
He text me again.
He did. What did he say?
"Laughing out loud shaking my head again."
(SIGNS) Oh, Lord.
Well, one good thing is we know he's awake.
Right, y'all, hush, hush, hush.
You're not calling him are you? Hush, hush, hush.
Sh!
(Give me a light.)
Are you awake?
Are you awake? Answer yes or no?
Stay awake.
You're ready to get the shock of your fucking life. Stay awake.
I'm gonna show you I ain't playing with you no more.
See, one thing you don't know about me, Michael,
you can't manipulate a woman that's strong and been fucking strong for all of her life.
Bitch.
(HANGS UP)
Angela, you were kind of, you know,
stirring the pot with him a little bit.
I wanna stir it. I'm getting ready to fucking see a man
I ain't seen in two years, and he's talking shit to me.
And I don't take shit from no-one.
I took 30 years to want to remarry because, you know what?
I've been through a lot of heartaches.
And who wants to go through that at 50?
When I met Michael, I truly felt that he was the love of my life.
I never ever imagined that he could hurt me like this.
Oh, fuck, we're getting close, I know this road.
(EXHALES SHARPLY)
He's to the left, right up here. Look.
There's a big thick gate, look, to the left, to the left, babe.
It's really shit, man. Fuck him.
Hello?
That's my car by the way, Rene. Yeah. You see that car?
I'm a Nigerian woman, married, my car.
Michael, come out!
He's scared. Michael, why don't you just come out?
She just wants to talk. Come out.
Are you fucking kidding me?
I love you, but you will not fucking take me for granted.
You don't respect my family, I don't respect nobody.
Michael, answer the fucking door. Rene!
That's all right, we'll just tow the fucking car.
See that car? This is my car.
Come out, she's taking - How about that?
..your car apart.
My car.
Michael. Come on, Michael.
I paid for this car, bitch.
Tell him I'll break the windows next.
You got the wrong motherfucker.
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Yeah. I don't wanna be doing all these different positions in bed.
Don't move. (GIGGLES)
I just wanna make love and go to sleep.
BOTH: Om!
My fear is that time will be passing and there will be no baby.
Now I'm fearful that you're quick to wanna run for the hills.
She threatened to leave and when you start something new
but then the other person talks about, you know, leaving
when you get into an argument, it makes me a little hesitant.
And I'm hesitant.
(SPEAKING OWN LANGUAGE)
What do we do if your mom says no?
We cannot get married if she say no.
95 percent of my cases like yours just get an approval letter
and you get the green card in the mail.
That's why it's very unusual.
Why would they not believe us?
Could someone have complained about you?
Somebody might have reported me to USCIS.
Seriously. Something's being hid from me.
And I wanna get to the bottom of this, like, right away.
Don't tell later. Well, go fuck yourself.
No, no, no. No. Baby. Go have fun if that's what you're gonna think.
Liz, Liz, Liz.
I'm done. Piece of shit.
I trusted you.
Ever since I signed "I do" to this man, everything went downhill.
You will not come on my fucking visa.
I'm the queen.
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