JOVI: Oh, she's got your smile!
If they're not going to accept me, I'm not going to live here in India.
It's time to go to America, that's what I say.
I've put up with Sumit's parents for years.
Time for Sumit to make a sacrifice for ME, and move to America.
Don't be afraid to leave India and experience my country.
Thinking about Ellie, I want her to grow up here.
We went through our Green Card interview
for the USCIS Office, and they didn't say no
but they didn't give us a yes, at the same time.
I'm an adult, I don't need to be sitting around,
wondering if I have to leave.
Your visa is about here.
If we're having problems now, with you doing this IG,
For Michael to prove that he loves me and he's not a scammer,
he'll take that damn Instagram down.
See you in the morning. If you don't come, I'll let you live your life.
You accused me cos you're insecure. You're always going to be that way.
If I'm with the right woman, I'm not insecure.
You're obviously not the right woman.
I did move too fast. I really think I made a big mistake.
I am not going to be your second wife, I refuse that.
If I leave here single, I leave here single. Fine.
I'll see you later. If that's what you want, fine.
(CRIES)
# Who's Got Flava
Baby? Chai!
Hi. Not "hi", "chai"! (LAUGHS)
Chai. Thank you.
You excited for your big day at work?
Mm.
Yeah, actually, I am.
Yeah, like, a big day, go to work. I want to do what I want to do.
What, you don't like spending time here with me?
Working, making money is also important, baby, isn't it?
Of course, but you said "doing what I like to do", so I'm all offended.
It's very hard to talk with a man.
I want to make more money
so we can live a good life here in India
and forget about going to America.
You're not going to work six days a week, are you?
Well, can you find a different business to get into, then,
besides food business?
Unfortunately, this is what I like to do, and this is what I'm doing.
Today, Sumit is going back to work after two years.
I'm not happy about it, and I told Sumit.
I don't want him to be so bored with me that he wants to leave me now.
But what can I do?
I can't make him stay home all day, even if he wanted to.
What do you expect me to do?
Learn how to cook. No.
Er, we don't have anything.
We went on our honeymoon, and we didn't fill it back up.
You want me to go shopping by myself?
Yeah. OK (!)
Till now, it's always been Sumit and I shopping together.
I never expected to have to go out and start
rubbing around by myself, but if I have to, I guess I have to,
cos Sumit will be working.
If I have no choice, then I have to. What can I do?
I hope I can too!
I think you've learned enough, and you're brave. You can do it.
Oh, well, I hope you're right!
All right, baby. I hope everything...
Oop! (LAUGHS)
Let's try that again.
I love you. Love you too.
Take care, bye. Bye, baby!
Have a good day! Bye, thank you.
(LAUGHS)
Even though I've lived here for almost three years,
it's intimidating for me here in India,
as a white woman, to be out by myself,
trying to go to the market, being stared at a lot.
I hope Sumit doesn't expect me to do this every day,
because I can't do that.
Hello. Hello.
Could I have a basket? Yeah.
Can I put in the same basket?
No, ma'am! No, no, no, no! (LAUGHS) Why not?
How's that, better?
Yeah.
Ma'am, I will not give you the one piece! Take it more.
What if I don't want more?
Oh.
How much is it?
Huh?!
Yeah. Just 1,200 - only 1,200.
I want Indian prices - too high.
No, they're fresh - all things are fresh.
OK, well, I'm not paying 1,000 rupees, so...
Ma'am!
What?! Vegetables don't cost 1,000 rupees.
That's too much.
It's too much.
That's crazy!
When I gave up everything to be with Sumit in India,
I thought he would be by my side.
If this is how Sumit wants our married life to be like,
I'd rather be home in America with friends and family,
where I'm comfortable.
I would definitely feel less helpless.
Hello.
I need tomatoes, onions, potatoes. (LAUGHS)
If we go back to America, I won't feel so all alone.
Maybe it's time for Sumit to make some compromises,
because I'm sick of being the one that does all the compromising.
How much?
I guess, 500 rupees.
Is that good?
OK, thank you.
For Liz and I, the fight after the engagement party was
perhaps our biggest fight ever.
Going to bed that night was like, "OK, I think this is it."
I think we were in a broken relationship.
We've been slowly building frustration on both ends.
The fight was kind of the volcano erupting.
But at the end of the day, through all of this,
we both decided that we wanted to work on our relationship.
We haven't given up.
Ed has insecurities, and he's very jealous.
As angry and emotional as I am, like, "This isn't going to work,"
I know that I don't want to give up on him just yet.
We had a really rough patch,
but the reason why I didn't leave is because I do love Ed.
I'm not always going to say I'm madly in love with him -
man, he drives me fucking crazy -
but I choose to wake up and appreciate our memories
and the love that I have for him.
And I know and truly believe Ed is worthy,
and I am willing to do everything I can
to prove to him that we can make this work.
Let me say this, even before we get into the engagement party -
I'm sorry.
All that stuff about you wanting to be a lesbian,
that was just my insecurities and my trust issues.
I mean, you're young, you're hot.
I just saw her, and I didn't like it.
It made me mad at her, and I took it out on you, and I'm sorry.
But I don't believe in any way, shape, or form that
you want to be with a woman or whatever,
that was just me acting dumb.
It's not that I have anything against somebody that's gay,
it's the fact that I thought that something was being hid from me,
and I didn't like it.
Where I was wrong is, I always jump to conclusions.
I think I got the jealous gene. I was always teased as a child.
I never really dated through high school.
It's more like, if you have something beautiful,
someone's going to take it away, it's too good to be true.
I think I'm always going to have to work on that.
For me, that didn't have the best last relationship,
and I was accused so much, and it turned out to be him...
I was constantly cheated on.
I think it's a trigger.
When I say no or please believe me...
And I don't trust you...
..it brings that trauma back up.
It makes me feel like you're questioning me
and you're saying, like, "I think it's you."
Let me own that. It's me.
I think there's a lot of internal stuff that you're dealing with
and there's a lot of internal stuff that I'm dealing with.
Unless we can get that out of the way,
we have a better chance of failing. Yeah.
I want to marry you but I don't want to be a divorcee again,
and you don't either. No.
Let's get through this,
then we can talk about if we're ready to get married.
When it feels right, I think we'll know.
Even though our relationship, it seems like it's always,
you know, on edge, we always end up coming back together
because we're crazy, we're weird, we're different.
For me, there's no walking away.
I'm not one to give up, but I do see Ed
as someone easily to give up.
So, I don't even know if he's ever going to be ready to get married.
(BELLS TOLL)
Are those wedding bells? (LAUGHS)
One day.
2 00:14:13.680 -- 00:14:17.240 align:middle line:90% position:50% Yesterday was, like, such a nightmare.
Yeah, it was. I woke up today like,
"Did that really happen?" Yeah, exactly.
Yesterday was a really hard day for us.
My husband and I had our Green Card-renewal interview.
The stakes were really high, there was a lot of tension,
some hurtful words were thrown around.
We've been dealing with a lot of emotions since.
(SNIFFS)
Yeah.
I don't want to yell at you now.
We can't blame each other, that doesn't help. Right.
I think that we just need to keep positive,
but at the same time, we need to plan accordingly.
It would be horrible if Andrei got deported,
it would uproot our lives completely.
We really need to work together right now as a team.
What's the sense in fighting?
That's just going to make the process worse.
We wanted this relationship, so we need to be happy and positive
and not fight.
OK. (LAUGHS)
Let's get some pedicures, dude!
Never had one. Never had a pedicure?
No! Never had a pedicure - never.
I feel very stressed about the Green Card interview yesterday,
and I need to relax,
so I am meeting with Chuck today to do some pedicure.
I am going to tell him about my immigration status
because I just trust him.
We are in business together,
and I also want someone to take care of those nasty nails of his.
They'll be right with you, OK? Dude!
Hi, I'm Tina. Hello. Hey, Tina.
I'll be doing your pedicure today. I feel sorry for you. (LAUGHS)
Here's a warm neck wrap. Ooh!
I have a nice, warm neck wrap for you. Thank you.
Wow, this feels great!
Don't fall asleep now.
(BOTH LAUGH)
This past year, me and Andrei have become close
because we're flipping houses.
When he told me that he wanted to get pedicures, I'm like, "OK (!)"
Never had a pedicure, so I'm a little worried that they're going to, like,
take my toenails off.
We're just going to relax and talk and catch up.
Are you from heaven? I am.
Yes, I believe it. (LAUGHS) I feel like I'm in heaven right now.
Why, what are you doing?
I don't know, I'm just enjoying life. I mean, like... (BOTH LAUGH)
OK, so, another reason why I brought you here,
I wanted to tell you about my interview
at the United States Immigration Services.
How'd it go?
You know, they didn't give me an answer.
They said I'm under review,
they're not sure about what's going to happen to me next.
They said they might need more evidence.
Evidence of what?
You're married to my daughter, and you have a baby.
OK (!)
Second option is, they might say no to my application,
and they give me 30-day notice, get the fuck out from the country.
That can't happen. Listen.
The most fucked-up part is not knowing what's going to happen.
Immigration is not a joke now.
This is serious stuff. I get it!
It... Like, it sucks from every angle - business,
personal, I won't get to see Ellie, you're out of the business.
That's a big, huge life change, dude. Yeah, it is.
When you first got here, the biggest fear that I had -
and I told you at that time -
was you were going to take Libby back to Moldova
and I wouldn't be able to see my daughter.
Are you telling me that's going to happen? It might happen.
If Andrei gets sent back,
there's a lot of repercussions, it affects me in every way -
business, because I'm in business with Andrei,
and it affects me personally because I don't get to see them.
This is a big deal, and I'm really kind of worried about that right now.
Dude, I will help you in any way that you need help
to get clear with the government to get your Green Card.
Well, I appreciate it, cos you know what?
Somebody's out to get me, because we've been invited into that office
on unusual note - it's unusual to be interviewed.
I really think that there is somebody...
It's Immigration?
What, are you kidding me?
That's why I think I'm in trouble right now.
It might be Pam, it might be Charlie,
it might be the sisters, I don't know.
Turning you in? They might say something,
I don't know what they said.
Me and you are flipping houses, things are going good.
Why would they want to upset the applecart?
Jealousy, revenge. Well, that's bullshit, dude.
I will find out what happened with that, and I will address it.
If Libby and Andrei leave and go back to Moldova,
that's going to hurt me financially, I'll have to reset my business.
If I find out that my kids called Immigration on my daughter's husband,
we're going to have a major problem.
You have to expect there's going to be a lot of challenges and enemies,
but this is stupid. I just want to make it clear,
I literally told you, only to you, right now
cos we're in business together and you're my father-in-law,
so you're the only one knowing about this.
Don't tell about this to anybody cos they're snakes, they're sneaky,
and I think we have somebody next to us that does this whole shit
and we don't even know it.
Everything that we're talking about stays here.
The fact that Chuck said he's going to take measures
if he finds out that
somebody from the family reported me, that feels good,
but I hope Chuck keeps the immigration matter a secret.
I cannot trust anyone from his part of the family.
If they got me in trouble already, who knows what else they can do?
We have some snakes around us, and we have to be careful.
Right. These people, they are not to be trusted now.
2 00:22:47.640 -- 00:22:50.960 align:middle line:90% position:50% Come with me, Mylah. Come on.
(STRAINS, MYLAH WHINGES)
You want to work with me?
No, no, no!
Mylah! Come - come with Mommy.
You want to go with Mama?
(YARA STRAINS, MYLAH WHINGES)
(IMITATES WHINGING)
Today we have our first day in Prague.
What are y'all going to do?
You don't want me to go? I want to spend time with my Mom!
Fine, I'm just asking.
Do you want to walk with us? It's good, I'll work and stuff.
Y'all have fun. OK!
(GASPS)
It feels so much like my home to be in Prague.
Kimberly's texting me.
It seems like she wants to talk to me.
"Come outside."
Hi.
Sit down, let me talk to you for a minute, please.
Would you like?
But I get this for you. I don't want it. Thank you.
We need to talk about what happened.
The thing that bothered me is when you were like,
"I have 100 women." What the fuck is that?
"I'm doing you a favour by being with you," what the fuck is that?
I'm a beautiful woman too, and I'm a very good person.
Do you know how much that hurt,
after everything we've been through? No, no, listen!
That's not what I said. That's what you said!
I certainly didn't mean what I said to Usman as a threat.
I'm trying to make clear my expectations of what I want.
I just don't want to be the second wife, sorry.
But when I establish some boundaries,
Usman gets offended and he gets mad.
I've dealt with this for many years in past relationships,
and I will never, ever in my life, going forward,
let a man manipulate me again.
But I wasn't saying it for any reason to say
I was breaking up with you, I was telling you what my boundary was.
I don't want to be your second wife.
That's what I was saying. I think you took that wrong.
I didn't tell you that I'm going to get married first.
I love you. I'm happy being with you the way you're happy being with me.
I don't ask you to be second wife, you understand that? I understand.
Let's forget that, and focus on what is going to be good for us.
This is my plan. Let's call Mohammed.
Faruq was being too much harsh to you.
Let's exclude him. Let's just have Mohammed, Mom,
So that I can tell them how you are compromising too, you know?
Are you OK with that? That's what I'm here for.
I have to pick my battles, and now, the biggest battle is his family.
I feel like Usman's plan to meet with Mohammed and his mom,
and Faruq out of it for now, it's a good idea.
Yesterday, I didn't really get to show them
the charming, wonderful person that is Kimberly.
I feel like, I hope all of this is worth it at the end.
But if it means I leave...
If it means I leave Nigeria single, that's just what it's going to be.
Let's go.
2 00:33:28.920 -- 00:33:31.280 align:middle line:90% position:50% OK, baby, we're almost there.
Mommy, Daddy, Daddy.
It's been a few weeks since the Immigration meeting.
We were upset and didn't know where to place our anger and frustration.
But shortly after that, we found out some big news,
and that kind of put it on the back burner.
Babe! (LAUGHS) What?
Look at this.
(LAUGHS)
Wow! (LAUGHS)
Is that not two lines?
It IS two lines. Oh, my gosh!
So, it's official. BOTH: We're having another baby!
This might not be the best timing
because we have immigration stuff going on,
but it's going to bring so much joy to our lives.
It's a shine of light
in the dark times, as we call it right now.
We're trying to move forward
and makes things as normal as possible, especially for Ellie.
We just have to stick together and figure out what's next,
and we're really excited about the baby.
Ellie, do you know where we're going today?
Yes! (LAUGHS) A baby in Mama's belly.
We're going for an ultrasound
to make sure everything is fine with the baby.
Come on, baby, let's go! Ooh-hoo!
Ay-ay-ay, ay-ay-ay.
(WHINGES) Yay!
Let's go meet the baby!
That's what's going to happen. Yay!
Hello, how are you? Hi.
How's it going? Elizabeth?
Yes - Elizabeth. All right, Mama, I've got you checked in.
I just need you to fill out a few forms.
Are you guys excited? Oh, we're so much excited.
Daddy!
It's so early, but we would like to have a boy.
Having a little tiny Andrei would be so cute.
He would obviously have a big head like you.
He'd probably be big and tall and hungry all the time.
Hi, Elizabeth. You guys can come on back. Thank you.
Oh, yes!
Maybe I could luck out and he could have a personality like your dad,
like, superchill and not insane and controlling and crazy.
You want something related to me. That would be so cute.
You want a boy to go hunting with, whatever guys do.
I think that would be a cute dynamic.
I'm going to sit because my back is going to hurt, holding you -
you're already 30lbs.
Ay-ay-ay! (GROANS)
I'll be doing your scan today.
If you just scoot a little closer to me.
You can uncover your belly.
I'll fold this over to control the gel, OK?
Ooh-hoo-hoo!
It's just going to be warm, OK? Wow.
Jelly on the belly. Ooh, jelly!
Jelly. Ready?
Are you ready? Yeah!
You're ready. OK.
As soon as we found out, I was like,
"We need to tell Ellie, I cannot keep this from her."
I was like, "Ellie, you're going to have a sibling."
I don't know if she understood, but I kept repeating it,
and she was like, "Baby in Mommy's belly?" and I was like, "Yes!"
Of course she's excited cos she's obsessed with babies.
Let's see what baby's doing today. Look.
Here we go. Wow!
(GASPS)
There you go - straightaway, no problem. Little head there.
There IS a baby in there!
Yes! There's the arm and the hand.
Baby's waving! Say hi!
Look, that's a hand. (LAUGHS) Hi, baby!
They're saying hi to you.
Can you tell how far along I am?
You should be around 12 weeks.
Kicking around. Look.
Aw! See the little button nose, right there. Look.
When do moms usually tell they're pregnant?
Most moms tend to wait till after the first trimester,
maybe toward the end of it, cos
We're going to listen to the heartbeat.
(FOETAL HEARTBEAT)
Wow, that's sweet! That's pretty cool, Mary.
Andrei can be very irrational at times.
He thinks someone might have called in and reported him,
he thinks it might be someone in my family.
The baby's moving a lot now. Ooh!
I don't know if that's possible.
I haven't seen my sisters or my mom
since right before my mom's birthday party.
Honestly, I know my family. They don't get along with Andrei.
I can't diminish my happiness because someone else has a problem.
This baby coming is really exciting for us.
It's a matter of being focused on MY family and that's it.
How is your life now, after marriage? (BOTH LAUGH)
Today is my first day back to work.
We know everything about each other. Rohit invested in this kitchen.
We make all kinds of foods, like pizza, sandwiches.
It's not a dining restaurant, it's just a delivery kitchen.
(BOTH LAUGH)
It's really, really exciting, getting some independence
and back to the normal way of living life
and finally get back to work.
OK, thank you.
Mm! My God.
Yeah,
Er, I'm not sure about that.
Like, I was dying to get back to work,
but maybe five days a week.
From last two, three, four years,
everything is happening, like, what Jenny wants -
Jenny wants to marry you, Jenny wants to come to India,
Jenny don't want to live with your parents,
Jenny don't want me to work.
Everything's happening what Jenny wants.
What Sumit wants, I also want to know.
I know Sumit from last 12, 13 years.
We know all the secrets about each other.
Before he got married, we were meeting every day, every night,
The other night, Jenny bring in the idea, like,
But going to America is big move.
Are you willing to leave your parents and go to America?
Have you ever talked to her, like, whether she wants a kid?
I'm not sure whether Jenny wants to have kids or not,
we didn't have any conversation regarding this ever.
You have to talk this also to Jenny.
After marriage, also - you have to understand each other. Yeah.
You have to talk to her about going to America.
You both have to think about this also.
I don't want to go to America because I know my life is here.
We are living a better life here.
The most important thing, I feel like, if I go to America,
I'm going to lose my family for good.
I'll lose my friends, I'll lose my work,
and I'll lose the life that I wanted.
2 00:45:43.200 -- 00:45:46.880 align:middle line:65% position:50% This has been my most stressful trip to Nigeria.
Last night, I gave Michael an ultimatum - take the Instagram down,
or leave it up, and my ass is going home.
Take it down because you love me
or leave it up because you love yourself.
(MOBILE RINGS)
Hey, what's happening? Sorry I forgot to call you last night.
I was worried about you, cos when you left,
you were in such a frenzy about Michael.
Speaking of Michael...
(LAUGHS)
Hello, Rene. Hi!
Damn, HER voice changed! How are you?
I'm good. How you doing?
Good to see you.
You know, I hate having me and Michael fight,
but I do believe we have the best make-up sex there is.
Michael told me he was going to take his Instagram down today,
which gave me hope that he wasn't frauding me and being an opportunist
and he does love me.
Didn't I? Yeah.
But he followed me to the hotel.
I missed her so much. I'm so happy for you guys.
That's a good start, Michael. Thank you.
Behave. Love you, see you in a little while.
See you soon. Bye.
(LAUGHS)
It was just pretty good?
You did it back-to-back. That's not pretty good, that's, like, amazing!
Seeing the new body, I love it, I mean, it's so sexy.
The last two years on this journey of losing weight,
Michael never gave me encouragement how good I looked,
so I was nervous, him seeing me in my smaller body.
(BOTH LAUGH)
It's pretty, ain't it?
You were upset about the car being ripped off but not me,
flying all the way across to surprise you. Angie,
We're not here to talk about the nice morning, day together,
we're here to talk about
what we didn't finish last night at the table.
We've still got to resolve your social media.
It's pretty. Yeah.
So, Michael, I like this feeling right here
You see, I get sick from being upset. You hear my voice?
Because I told you, the social media,
And I told you, no.
If you're not going to do what you told me, I can't do it.
Well, you need to understand me, you know?
Then I can go right now. You can't tell me no. Calm, calm!
It's not about that.
All the shit we've been through, this was your masterpiece.
You're not that goddamn nice. You're nice when you want to be.
When there's something you want to do, you don't give a fuck.
You'll do it and take the consequences with me later.
Well, I've run out of fucking patience with you.
I'm ready to go home.
No, I'm standing up.
I've always told Michael, actions speak bigger than words.
How can he love me if he just used me for sex?
Take the Instagram down, leave it up, I'm to the point where I don't care.
No, YOU'RE talking.
I have put up with so much in the last four years
that I am tired, emotionally drained.
Don't touch me, Michael. Don't touch me when I'm fired up!
I don't have to take mine down because I didn't betray YOU.
You did all this to me! That's all, honey.
Nah, back up - you get on my goddamn nerves.
Get me a taxi.
No, Michael, go play on your Instagram.
Keep your Instagram, and I'll keep my fucking sanity.
Do you feel hopeful, do you feel better today? Yeah.
I just think that... Right now, I just want to be calm, you know?
I am calm. Are you, you sure?
I am calm! I love you.
I love you too.
So, what's the plan - we're meeting your mom and Mohammed, right?
Yeah. But you're going to talk.
I'm going to talk but I don't want to cry, I'm tired of crying.
Today we are going to meet my mom and brother Mohammed.
Even though my mom has the final say,
Mohammed's opinion is very, very important to the whole family.
Last meeting, my brother Faruq was so hard on Kimberly, that was bad.
So, this has to go smoothly
because this could be the last chance for us to get the blessing.
You didn't do it right.
Where's your mom going to sit, over there? Yeah, sit down.
OK, you've got to put this on me now. Um, OK.
Big and beautiful.
Leave your hair now.
Um, stand up.
Are you sure it's OK? This way.
Why is this OK? It wasn't the other day. I want you to be comfortable.
You can leave your hair, it looks beautiful. And your covered body,
OK. Mom will be, "OK, get the blessing and get out."
"Get out." Is she going to tell us to get out again? No.
Usman's mom walked out on us last time,
so it's making me feel really anxious.
We only have a few days left in Sokoto,
and this is probably the last chance with her.
If she walks out again, Usman and I have no more options left.
I was calm, cool, and collected until I saw Faruq.
Now I feel completely blindsided.
Our whole plan depended on Mohammed being here, not Faruq.
But no matter what, Usman needs to go to battle for me.
Dear God, please let this work today.
If I don't get a blessing, if we don't get a blessing, it's over.
How are you?
I'm surprised to see you here today.
JENNY: Hi, baby! SUMIT: Hi, baby.
How was work? Yeah, work was good, I like it.
Don't like it too much, or you might have to go back again tomorrow.
(LAUGHS) Happy to see you, baby.
Wow, what are you doing? Peeling potatoes.
Only one potato so far? Yeah! (LAUGHS)
I also went to the market and bought all these vegetables,
I bought spices. Wow.
I did the best I could. Broccoli.
What is this?
I thought I would buy them for a treat for you.
You can stick it somewhere. (LAUGHS)
Today, I went to the vegetable market
all by myself for the first time.
It was scary and a little hard for me,
but I did it, and I bought what I needed to buy.
Probably paid a little too much,
but I went home, and was very proud of myself.
So, what were you planning to make for dinner?
I was just going to peel some potatoes and boil some potatoes.
We could just have mashed potatoes or something.
Just boil a potato and have it?
That's why I brought something for you
So, you brought home dinner cos you knew I wouldn't be cooking?
Yeah, I know that.
Like you said, there would be a potato or something. (LAUGHS)
In America, I cooked a lot of meals that were easy to throw together.
You go to the store, you buy it, it comes in a box.
You add meat to it and you stir it up.
I made a lot of hamburgers, pizza, you know, easy stuff.
You heard about my day, how was your day, how was work?
(LAUGHS) Now, THAT'S a funny story.
You told him no, right?
Er, I didn't say no, I said er...
He expects you to be there every single day?
Yeah. What is it you're going to do with your wife?
He said, "Jenny needs to understand that you need to work.
Without money, how are you going to survive?" I also have money too.
Your friend happens to own this business,
so are you really going to be working seven days a week,
or are you going to be hanging out with your friends too? Sometimes.
You know, you know Rohit.
I know him, and you guys will not just be only working.
Sometimes it's OK, with friends.
You come home drunk, and we're going to have a problem.
You need to let Rohit know that - "I'm here to work,
I'm not here to party with your friends and get drunk.
I'm here to make money for me and my new wife, Jenny."
OK.
Since we got married, Sumit is interested in different things -
he wants to go to work, he wants to take sex Kama Sutra classes,
now he wants to hang out with his friends and party. What's next?
It's times like this that I do feel the age difference a little bit.
That means I'm sacrificing my husband
and staying here alone all day, seven days a week,
because you're working.
That's not the reason why you're gone seven days a week.
What should I do, just sit here all day and do nothing?
No, it's a good thing. You went outside by yourself,
get an idea how things work here in India.
Right now, my social life after marriage is kind of very limited.
If I work, then my social life will be better.
And when I'm at work, I think that Jenny will get a lot of time
to work on her basic duties for a housewife,
because I can't do everything.
You're going to have boys' nights out,
you're going to visit your parents.
Where does Jenny come in in all of this?
2 01:01:36.120 -- 01:01:38.600 align:middle line:90% position:50% Last night, Michael and I had sex
because I thought our marriage was going to work out.
He was all for taking his Instagram down. He lied to me.
He told me what I wanted to hear just to get into my pants.
I have put up with a lot from Michael in the last two years,
and this is the lowest blow you could do to me.
This is not the Michael I married, this is not the Michael I love.
I don't know if I can handle it emotionally,
even being the strong woman I am.
I'm telling you, I can't.
I just can't!
I just want to go home.
No, Michael, I'm really exhausted from you.
It's not going to work out, you're going to find something else.
I'm tired. I love you but I'm tired.
I can't understand somebody that betrays their wife. You're a liar.
Keep the fuck back! Quit getting up on me, goddammit!
Quit leaning over me! Back up, you're smothering me!
I'm tired. I can't do it, Michael, you've got to go.
Get out! Uh-uh.
I thought, you making love to me and we had passionate sex,
that you really wanted to take this down.
I felt so loved by you.
"A lie of love" my ass! What kind of word is that?
I'm just leaving my goddamn self.
Phew!
Hey.
What's going on, are you OK?
Uh,
No, no, no, no, no. I'm not against anybody having their own Instagram,
it's what you do on Instagram.
If you're letting women do googly eyes...
(SIGHS)
I truly care about Angela, and I want Michael to be winning,
but I don't think this whole thing is about Instagram.
I see a lot of wrong in him and I see a lot of wrong in her.
There's no communication.
It's always going to be a problem, they need to learn to communicate.
She's controlling to you because she can't just get mad at you
and you guys live in the same house, you're so far away.
She doesn't have control, and it's driving her crazy.
work well. This is a hard one.
Let's go have a drink, let her cool down.
If it doesn't come together, it doesn't, but don't drive home.
You don't live around the corner, you know?
Come on, let's go.
You want water, baby?
You're good?
So, we had an enormous... I call it a breakdown in our relationship
with the fight after the engagement party.
I had therapy that following Friday,
and I just said, "I'm going to therapy, you're welcome to join,"
and she said, "I'd love to go."
Hi, loveys. Hello, how are you?
Good. Got water? Yeah, I'm good.
I'm good. Maybe blankeys?
OK.
At that point, we begun to try to rebuild our friendship
and our relationship all together.
Here's your blankey. Aw, thank you!
All right, sweetnesses. How are we today?
Uh, we're good. Good day.
Good start, yeah.
What do you want to give each other credit for that you did well?
She got up at 5:15 this morning... Wow!
..and worked out for an hour and a half while I slept in.
But I did feed the dogs. I want to give Ed credit for the other day.
I can't remember what the topic was, but he kept wanting to push at it,
but I was like, "I need a moment," so then he gave me space.
You're learning to give her space. Yeah.
We're recognising our partner's triggers. Yeah.
Given the relationship that Ed and I are in,
it's very clear that we need professional help,
but I see us actually having hope, moving forward,
and working on our issues.
Today, we're going to talk about security -
what does security represent to her.
Use that topic to talk through these questions. OK.
"In regards to security, what are your core beliefs
that are part of your position?"
Well, it goes back to my last relationship.
One day, we fought, and he got off my phone line,
and I got stuck with a $3,000 payment.
So, for me, I don't ever want to be back in a position where
I'm starting from rock bottom.
What did that require of you, to be able to get yourself back
to a place where you weren't dependent on somebody else?
Um, sending my daughter to live with her dad for a little bit.
Sleeping in my car.
And so, I don't want to go through that again.
So, security, for you, represents...
That I can support myself without anybody else's help.
I had no idea.
The fact that you lived in your car, it just breaks my heart.
That just breaks my heart.
And it's also made her who she is today.
Yeah.
As soon as Ed and I got engaged, I've been working a lot less hours.
I'm the manager at the restaurant
I've been working at for three years.
Before we got back together, I worked six days a week,
10- to 12-hour shifts.
I would love to go back full-time, be independent,
because I'm really realising how much I have changed as a person
to be there for him.
I would like to be going back to work.
Lately, I haven't tried to pick up any shifts
because there's a conflict of kind of making Ed feel secure that
I'm not out late or anything like that, so it's just hard.
But um, so, may I make a request?
That's not what we're doing in this part. Oh, OK.
One of the things that I just heard her say is,
she has to have a sense of purpose outside of this relationship. Yes.
Right? That she has to have something that represents Liz. Yeah.
No, I got it.
What represents security to YOU?
So, for me, um, to feel unconditional love.
Do you think sometimes that
you put pressure on Liz to give you love unconditionally?
At times I think I do.
When she's asking to want to work,
does it feel like a condition of your relationship?
You're right. I'm saying, "If you do that, then you don't love me.
You're choosing time at work over me."
I want Liz to work, I want Liz to have her own life,
and it saddens me that I'm coming off as controlling.
I have to admit, based on the past, that Liz going back to work
does scare me.
There are going to be conditions, we're humans.
OK, so, there are.
They're not our parents, they're not our dogs.
Our partners have conditions
to want to stay in the relationship. Yeah.
My main reservations are
working late shifts, co-workers wanting to go out and party.
It's the environment -
some of the people that were at the engagement party
that started the fight and that don't support us
work in that restaurant.
At this point, we're really in survival mode
from the engagement-party fiasco.
Now, why are we re-inviting outside pressure that will really cause
this relationship not to work?
She needs to have a separate life so that she can love you fully.
2 01:13:39.360 -- 01:13:41.200 align:middle line:90% position:50% Jovi?
Jovi!
Jovi, are you awake? (MUTTERS)
Jovi, look - it's breakfast time.
What's mine?
There's one. What is this?
Eggs, Jovi (!)
Fuck it - I'm drinking some champagne. Champagne?!
Yeah! Jovi, it's, like, morning right now.
Want some? No, I don't want champagne in the morning.
(CORK POPS) Oh, my gosh!
You don't want this, Mylah? What do you want?
Want this? You don't like your food?
(COUGHS) Oops.
Yara, what are you going to do today?
What?
Apartments, for what? Mm-hm.
For buy.
Here?
Mm-hm.
Why would you want an apartment here?
A random place?
Yeah. This is not a random place.
This is a place where my mom lived for so many years.
(SIGHS) If this was your intention, you should have brought it up sooner.
So, your mom is the problem, your mom is the one who wants all this?
I don't know why Yara wants an apartment here in Prague.
It's nothing we've talked about.
We didn't say, "Let's plan this trip to Europe and go apartment hunting!"
This wasn't the plan. I feel like it's her mom, influencing her.
If we came on a trip, Jovi, Yara, and Mylah,
we wouldn't be having this issue right now.
I don't want her mom to be making decisions for her.
My mom told me, "Are you not worried that
Yara's going to want to stay in Europe?" and it's becoming a reality.
I'm not staying in Europe, I just want to check the place, that's it.
Check the place for what, to live here?
Jovi, I would like to be more close to my family.
Everybody's coming here now, and they need my support.
I want you to see your family,
but I don't want your family to influence you to stay.
We have a life in the US.
That's another thing too.
You literally got your Green Card.
You have to stay in the US for 180 days a year,
you can't live in Europe until you have citizenship.
For you to even consider this now is crazy to me.
You agreed to start a new life in the US.
You know I cannot go back to Ukraine.
I want to have something like this.
So, what - do you want to tell me I'm doing something stupid?
You don't think you should talk to me before you're about to leave?
I'm buy from my own money.
Is that something you should be bothered about?
Um, yeah. We're a family.
You need to talk to me before you make some decision like that.
I don't understand you, Jovi.
If I'm not touching your money, why is it a big deal?
It is a big deal, it's my money too.
(LAUGHS) You can work. It's still my money - we're married. No!
I don't know where you're coming up in this fucking fantasy land,
thinking you're going to do things against what I want.
If you're going to go, I'm going to go with you and see this apartment
because I don't want you making this decision alone.
You've been acting impulsively,
you're not thinking right, you're not planning.
If we're going to do this, we're going to do it together.
We have a life in America.
When we decided to get married,
Yara agreed she wanted to live in the States.
If she's looking for apartments, I'm going with her
so I can stop this plan.
Where's our future? America, not Europe.
I'm going to shower.
Take a champagne to shower?
How are you?
I'm surprised to see you here today.
I feel like last time we met did not go well.
It felt like you didn't see me as a person.
I want to make sure that I leave here, and I leave a good impression.
You going to translate that? Um, so...
So, she says that she actually differentiates you from ex.
She's not talking about her at all.
She knows that you are a different person.
I love him, I truly love him.
I got to know who he is as a person
and how giving his heart is, and I'm the same way.
The relationship I have with my family is just as close
as the relationship that you have with your family.
Show them pictures of my family. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Let me show you.
Can you see? That's my baby.
Mom said, "He's like us, he's Black." (LAUGHS) Yeah.
I'm feeling the pressure of this meeting.
I need to impress Usman's mom so I can hopefully get a blessing.
Showing her Jamal's pictures,
I think it made her see me for who I am,
not just some white, American lady stealing their son.
I'm praying that this will help me secure that first-wife status.
Usman and I, we have so much in common. I know it's crazy
because there's an 18-year age difference,
but we have so much in common.
We did the same job in the military. It's crazy!
Nine years, yes, the army.
Nine years. She was in Saudi Arabia.
Yes. Army, army.
She was in airborne.
Oh? Eh?
Mom is surprised!
I think I have to tell you that
We are just trying to protect our own.
About what happened that day, I'm sorry about that.
That army helps, huh?
That makes me very happy.
The first time I met with Kim,
I was seriously trying to defend my brother
so that we can protect him from what happened last time.
because I've seen her like one of us.
Whether serving or retired,
when you see a military man or military woman,
you have that sense of belonging - you guys are one
and you're having some understanding.
She said she don't want to agree to any blessing
without me having a young lady.
She had one of our friends' daughter, actually,
and she wants me to go and see the girl.
I can't. I can't do that, I told you that.
I still want to be your first wife, it's important to me.
That's what she want.
OK, I understand.
Thank you.
Bye, thank you.
I can't believe that I'm hearing that Usman's mom
wants him to meet some chick while I'm here
who is ready to marry Usman.
I'm really upset that Usman is not taking my side.
I think this is all a bunch of bullshit.
I think she's doing it to test me to see if I'll let him go.
I don't want you to go meet this potential wife while I'm here,
I don't think that's right.
Not while I'm here! I don't think that's right.
Meeting her is not marrying her. I may not like her.
Even if I like her, that's not how... Go do what you want.
My mom is asking me to go and see somebody, a woman,
while Kimberly is here.
She's not saying no for me and Kim to be together,
but let me have a young lady that can give me child,
then I can carry on with Kimberly.
We haven't gotten a blessing yet -
why are you going to go meet somebody else right now? No!
Absolutely not.
INSTRUCTOR: 1, 2, 3, 4.
ED: Get the party started!
LIZ: We fight a lot, but the make-up sex is great.
I absolutely adore his whole body, every part of it.
ANDREI: That's beautiful. ELIZABETH: Oh, my gosh.
3, 2, 1. "We are expecting a..." What?!
You've already agreed that we're establishing our home in America.
This is not about Yara wanting an apartment in Prague,
it's about Yara planning a new life that I'm not a part of.
I want to be happy - I've been miserable for two-and-a-half years.
I said, "When will you be ready to have a baby with me?"
and he couldn't give me an answer.
She needs to stand up for herself, he can't be stringing her along.
Hi, Billy!
My husband, Michael.
Yeah.
Today's the day of family therapy.
If Andrei fights him, I will call the cops.
What? Do you have proof of that?
Can you garnish proof of that?
You could be making that up.
This accusation is just another lie from you, bottom line.
I'm so sick of your shit.
Tell me why I'm here. I'm thinking about adopting a baby.
You're on your phone all the time,
you can't hold a conversation with me, we don't have sex.
If you don't understand why you're here,
pack your things and go back to America. Fuck you, Usman. I'm done.
(SOBS)
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