1 00:00:01,300 --> 00:00:09,300 ("Claire de Lune" acapella-female) 2 00:00:02,000 --> 00:00:07,000 Downloaded from YTS.MX 3 00:00:08,000 --> 00:00:13,000 Official YIFY movies site: YTS.MX 4 00:00:43,925 --> 00:00:50,932 (chimes) 5 00:01:03,987 --> 00:01:11,987 (sexy, bluesy music) 6 00:04:25,397 --> 00:04:26,707 - "Gray Is The New Blonde" 7 00:04:26,773 --> 00:04:29,734 is a documentary whose time has come. 8 00:04:30,860 --> 00:04:35,841 Women all across the world of all ages and ethnicities 9 00:04:35,907 --> 00:04:40,763 are choosing on purpose to ditch the hair dye 10 00:04:40,829 --> 00:04:43,415 and embrace their gorgeous grays. 11 00:04:44,332 --> 00:04:48,687 This is truly a movement. 12 00:04:48,753 --> 00:04:51,357 Never before in history have we seen 13 00:04:51,423 --> 00:04:54,777 so many women choose on purpose 14 00:04:54,843 --> 00:04:56,886 to embrace their gorgeous grays. 15 00:04:58,680 --> 00:05:01,200 I am over the moon with excitement 16 00:05:01,266 --> 00:05:04,495 to bring this film to you, and I hope you enjoy it. 17 00:05:04,561 --> 00:05:07,039 Growing up in the '70s, the only people 18 00:05:07,105 --> 00:05:10,042 that I ever recall seeing with gray hair 19 00:05:10,108 --> 00:05:12,878 were people who were really old. 20 00:05:12,944 --> 00:05:15,214 I'm talking 80s and 90s. 21 00:05:15,280 --> 00:05:19,009 I never, ever saw women in their 30s 22 00:05:19,075 --> 00:05:21,679 or 40s or 50s with gray hair. 23 00:05:21,745 --> 00:05:25,558 And what's interesting is that research shows 24 00:05:25,624 --> 00:05:29,603 that most people start to see a sprinkling of gray 25 00:05:29,669 --> 00:05:33,065 when they're in their late teens to early to mid-20s. 26 00:05:33,131 --> 00:05:36,110 And what you are about to see is that 27 00:05:36,176 --> 00:05:37,861 the majority of women that I interviewed 28 00:05:37,927 --> 00:05:41,991 in fact also saw their first grays very young. 29 00:05:42,057 --> 00:05:43,742 (bubbly music) 30 00:05:43,808 --> 00:05:48,080 - By the time I was maybe, like 16, 31 00:05:48,146 --> 00:05:51,584 I had a whole streak 32 00:05:51,650 --> 00:05:54,003 coming down the side of my hair. 33 00:05:54,069 --> 00:05:56,630 One long streak of gray. 34 00:05:56,696 --> 00:05:58,757 - I actually didn't see my first gray hair. 35 00:05:58,823 --> 00:06:00,593 My girlfriend saw my first gray hair 36 00:06:00,659 --> 00:06:02,595 when we were standing at the bus stop 37 00:06:02,661 --> 00:06:04,013 when I was 15. 38 00:06:04,079 --> 00:06:05,764 We were going downtown to go shopping, 39 00:06:05,830 --> 00:06:07,266 and she reached over and she said, 40 00:06:07,332 --> 00:06:08,851 "Hey, you've got a gray hair." 41 00:06:08,917 --> 00:06:10,877 And then she plucked it from my head. 42 00:06:11,378 --> 00:06:14,231 - I saw it when I was in high school. 43 00:06:14,297 --> 00:06:17,901 I must have been a junior or senior 44 00:06:17,967 --> 00:06:20,804 and I saw one gray hair, it was pretty long. 45 00:06:21,680 --> 00:06:24,867 I plucked it and since then, 46 00:06:24,933 --> 00:06:27,870 I've been on this journey of coloring my hair. 47 00:06:27,936 --> 00:06:32,941 - Well, I had a few rogue gray hairs growing in my 20s. 48 00:06:33,233 --> 00:06:35,711 - We did our research and 18, 19 49 00:06:35,777 --> 00:06:38,464 were the ones that really came up the most 50 00:06:38,530 --> 00:06:41,616 that started to go silver at that younger of an age. 51 00:06:41,991 --> 00:06:44,928 - I started going gray at 17. 52 00:06:44,994 --> 00:06:48,265 My mother will swear that she plucked 53 00:06:48,331 --> 00:06:52,102 the first white hair from my head at age four. 54 00:06:52,168 --> 00:06:54,271 - [Reporter] 35-year-old Andrea Fishkin 55 00:06:54,337 --> 00:06:56,148 started to see silver strands peek through 56 00:06:56,214 --> 00:06:58,567 when she was just 12 years old. 57 00:06:58,633 --> 00:07:00,694 - I felt that maybe there was something wrong with me, 58 00:07:00,760 --> 00:07:03,656 like why am I graying so early in my life? 59 00:07:03,722 --> 00:07:06,116 - [Reporter] Hair goes gray when color producing cells 60 00:07:06,182 --> 00:07:07,743 stop producing pigment. 61 00:07:07,809 --> 00:07:11,288 Scientists don't know exactly why some people go gray early, 62 00:07:11,354 --> 00:07:13,815 but genes play a large role. 63 00:07:14,107 --> 00:07:17,378 - The very first time I knew that I had a gray hair 64 00:07:17,444 --> 00:07:20,631 was when I was 27 years old. 65 00:07:20,697 --> 00:07:22,925 I was standing in the gym, 66 00:07:22,991 --> 00:07:27,996 I guess I was by the front register desk area, 67 00:07:28,455 --> 00:07:31,433 and someone that I knew from the gym, 68 00:07:31,499 --> 00:07:36,504 I knew this person and I seem to recall it was a male, 69 00:07:36,629 --> 00:07:39,799 very casually, not a bestie at all, 70 00:07:40,675 --> 00:07:44,780 walks up to me and says, "Oh, you have a gray hair," 71 00:07:44,846 --> 00:07:48,224 and proceeds to yank it out of my head. 72 00:07:49,350 --> 00:07:52,187 - I was 26 when I saw my first gray hair. 73 00:07:52,437 --> 00:07:55,165 - When I saw my first gray hair, 74 00:07:55,231 --> 00:08:00,236 I believe I was 20 years old, sophomore in college, 75 00:08:00,570 --> 00:08:07,803 and I just thought, "Oh my gosh, I'm getting old." (laughs) 76 00:08:07,869 --> 00:08:08,929 That's basically what I thought. 77 00:08:08,995 --> 00:08:10,222 - This is such a double standard 78 00:08:10,288 --> 00:08:12,349 because I started getting grays when I was 18 79 00:08:12,415 --> 00:08:14,727 and everyone says it looks distinguished, it's great. 80 00:08:14,793 --> 00:08:16,812 I love it, I have no problem with the grays, 81 00:08:16,878 --> 00:08:19,130 but it's obviously such a different experience for women. 82 00:08:19,422 --> 00:08:21,650 - With a man, it can give him a sense of authority. 83 00:08:21,716 --> 00:08:24,611 With a woman, however, it can look like 84 00:08:24,677 --> 00:08:26,012 she doesn't care about herself. 85 00:08:26,262 --> 00:08:27,740 - When Anderson Cooper has gray hair, 86 00:08:27,806 --> 00:08:29,742 they call him the silver fox. 87 00:08:29,808 --> 00:08:31,160 A woman who has gray hair is like, 88 00:08:31,226 --> 00:08:32,786 "Nana, can I help you with your bags?" 89 00:08:32,852 --> 00:08:34,955 (audience laughing) - Yes, exactly. 90 00:08:35,021 --> 00:08:36,439 It's a double standard. 91 00:08:36,648 --> 00:08:38,000 - 'Cause it's such a double standard. 92 00:08:38,066 --> 00:08:40,711 For guys with gray hair they're distinguished, 93 00:08:40,777 --> 00:08:43,213 but women I think feel such pressure 94 00:08:43,279 --> 00:08:44,840 not to allow themselves to have gray hair 95 00:08:44,906 --> 00:08:45,675 and I think it looks great. 96 00:08:45,741 --> 00:08:47,259 - Yeah, well I thank you for pioneering it. 97 00:08:47,325 --> 00:08:50,286 - Well, yes, I, it's right, yeah. 98 00:08:50,620 --> 00:08:52,765 - This double standard has been in existence 99 00:08:52,831 --> 00:08:54,641 for thousands and thousands of years. 100 00:08:54,707 --> 00:08:56,435 It's rooted in the original role 101 00:08:56,501 --> 00:08:57,936 that men and women played in life. 102 00:08:58,002 --> 00:08:59,480 Looks were important. 103 00:08:59,546 --> 00:09:02,191 Women were to attract a mate, they procreate. 104 00:09:02,257 --> 00:09:05,360 And then they died before they even saw gray hair 105 00:09:05,426 --> 00:09:07,237 not that long ago, 100 years ago. 106 00:09:07,303 --> 00:09:10,407 Men on the other hand were about protecting their clan, 107 00:09:10,473 --> 00:09:11,658 being powerful and strong. 108 00:09:11,724 --> 00:09:14,161 Gray hair actually enhanced that role. 109 00:09:14,227 --> 00:09:17,080 They were seen as more senior leaders. 110 00:09:17,146 --> 00:09:20,584 - There's a patriarchal world that we live in 111 00:09:20,650 --> 00:09:22,544 where our value is measured by men 112 00:09:22,610 --> 00:09:26,489 and it has to with procreation, fertility, submission. 113 00:09:27,031 --> 00:09:29,051 - [Karen] All men have gray hair. (laughs) 114 00:09:29,117 --> 00:09:30,093 - [Victoria] Yes. 115 00:09:30,159 --> 00:09:32,262 - So it's just like 116 00:09:32,328 --> 00:09:34,056 why is it okay for them 117 00:09:34,122 --> 00:09:35,390 and not me, so that's kinda 118 00:09:35,456 --> 00:09:37,166 -my attitude, I think, 119 00:09:37,375 --> 00:09:39,228 just projecting that to people. 120 00:09:39,294 --> 00:09:41,063 - But I do think that there's a double standard 121 00:09:41,129 --> 00:09:44,274 when it comes to men, and men are distinguished 122 00:09:44,340 --> 00:09:46,217 and women just are old. 123 00:09:47,218 --> 00:09:49,988 But we're here, of course, to break that stereotype. 124 00:09:50,054 --> 00:09:50,865 (transitional chimes) 125 00:09:50,931 --> 00:09:55,285 - Indeed we are, Sandra, indeed we are. 126 00:09:55,351 --> 00:10:00,732 And the days of this double standard are clearly numbered. 127 00:10:01,065 --> 00:10:05,254 This outdated view that women are no longer attractive 128 00:10:05,320 --> 00:10:11,343 and somehow less desirable has begun to fade, pun intended. 129 00:10:11,409 --> 00:10:16,372 And my thought has been how did we get here as a society? 130 00:10:16,706 --> 00:10:20,978 What has happened in our past to bring us to this point 131 00:10:21,044 --> 00:10:25,524 to where we revere men, they're distinguished, 132 00:10:25,590 --> 00:10:27,359 they're worldly, they're sophisticated, 133 00:10:27,425 --> 00:10:30,404 but for women, oh my goodness, it's quite different. 134 00:10:30,470 --> 00:10:33,323 And how did we as a society get here? 135 00:10:33,389 --> 00:10:36,994 Well, the research is fascinating 136 00:10:37,060 --> 00:10:40,914 and it begins to shed some light on how we did get here. 137 00:10:40,980 --> 00:10:45,294 - [Narrator] In 1891, an ad for Imperial Hair Regenerator 138 00:10:45,360 --> 00:10:49,089 stated, quote, "No lady who thoroughly 139 00:10:49,155 --> 00:10:52,092 "appreciates good appearance would ever dream 140 00:10:52,158 --> 00:10:56,305 "of appearing in society with streaky or gray hair. 141 00:10:56,371 --> 00:10:57,973 "They are both unbecoming 142 00:10:58,039 --> 00:11:01,268 "and when a perfect preparation can be obtained 143 00:11:01,334 --> 00:11:03,520 "for overcoming these difficulties, 144 00:11:03,586 --> 00:11:08,442 "there is no reasonable justification for the continuance." 145 00:11:08,508 --> 00:11:11,111 The message in all such ads was clear: 146 00:11:11,177 --> 00:11:13,280 no woman should have gray hair, 147 00:11:13,346 --> 00:11:16,241 and these products provided a way to stem 148 00:11:16,307 --> 00:11:19,578 that most visible sign of aging. 149 00:11:19,644 --> 00:11:23,665 Nevertheless, even with intensive advertising 150 00:11:23,731 --> 00:11:26,126 only about 7% of American women 151 00:11:26,192 --> 00:11:28,462 dyed their hair by mid-century. 152 00:11:28,528 --> 00:11:30,505 The modern hair coloring revolution 153 00:11:30,571 --> 00:11:34,426 came through clever, image changing advertising. 154 00:11:34,492 --> 00:11:41,833 (inspirational, powerful piano music) 155 00:11:50,967 --> 00:11:53,487 - [Woman] Coloring my hair is such a job. 156 00:11:53,553 --> 00:11:56,490 Sectioning, dipping, repeated color checks. 157 00:11:56,556 --> 00:11:58,700 - [Woman] Dull, streaked with gray. 158 00:11:58,766 --> 00:11:59,993 Even with this perfect makeup, 159 00:12:00,059 --> 00:12:01,370 she looks faded, unattractive. 160 00:12:01,436 --> 00:12:04,957 - [Man] If your hair is dull or faded or streaked with gray, 161 00:12:05,023 --> 00:12:06,959 try Miss Clairol Hair Color. 162 00:12:07,025 --> 00:12:09,753 - With Miss Clairol, the color looks so natural. 163 00:12:09,819 --> 00:12:11,838 Only your hairdresser knows for sure. 164 00:12:11,904 --> 00:12:14,466 - [Man] Easy to do, apply like shampoo. 165 00:12:14,532 --> 00:12:17,160 - [Woman] In minutes, she looks years younger. 166 00:12:17,368 --> 00:12:19,721 - My gray hair makes me feel so old, 167 00:12:19,787 --> 00:12:21,181 you know what I'm gonna do? 168 00:12:21,247 --> 00:12:24,142 ♪ I'm gonna wash that gray right out of my hair ♪ 169 00:12:24,208 --> 00:12:27,229 ♪ I'm gonna wash that gray right out of my hair ♪ 170 00:12:27,295 --> 00:12:29,272 - [Man] Loving Care Color Lotion from Clairol 171 00:12:29,338 --> 00:12:33,068 washes away your gray and washes in your own natural color. 172 00:12:33,134 --> 00:12:35,862 ♪ So I washed that gray right out of my hair ♪ 173 00:12:35,928 --> 00:12:38,824 ♪ Oh yes, I washed that gray right out of my hair ♪ 174 00:12:38,890 --> 00:12:40,575 - [Man] Wash that gray right out of your hair 175 00:12:40,641 --> 00:12:42,101 with Clairol Loving Care. 176 00:12:42,268 --> 00:12:44,287 - So many Americans color their hair. 177 00:12:44,353 --> 00:12:46,498 It's over 75%. 178 00:12:46,564 --> 00:12:49,001 So that now becomes the reality. 179 00:12:49,067 --> 00:12:52,963 And so being natural seems to be the oddity 180 00:12:53,029 --> 00:12:55,799 as opposed to, like, my hair's blonde. 181 00:12:55,865 --> 00:12:58,385 Well, maybe it was but it isn't anymore. 182 00:12:58,451 --> 00:13:00,887 - [Reporter] Debbie Lyman is at the salon every two weeks 183 00:13:00,953 --> 00:13:04,099 covering her gray, unlike her twin Naomi. 184 00:13:04,165 --> 00:13:06,643 - I'm jealous, I admit it. 185 00:13:06,709 --> 00:13:10,731 - I just feel liberated and I get so many compliments 186 00:13:10,797 --> 00:13:12,590 that I feel like it's my best feature. 187 00:13:12,799 --> 00:13:14,151 - There's so many unhappy people out there 188 00:13:14,217 --> 00:13:16,820 dying their hair every three weeks 189 00:13:16,886 --> 00:13:20,556 and they're not even thinking that there's another way. 190 00:13:20,723 --> 00:13:23,160 - What was the turning point that you said 191 00:13:23,226 --> 00:13:24,995 I just am not gonna dye my hair anymore? 192 00:13:25,061 --> 00:13:27,122 I was thinking the turning point 193 00:13:27,188 --> 00:13:32,193 was going to be when you learned about the tumor. 194 00:13:32,401 --> 00:13:35,338 So I thought, okay, then that had, but no. 195 00:13:35,404 --> 00:13:36,923 - Yeah, I had not even thought about it 196 00:13:36,989 --> 00:13:39,760 'cause it was such a thing that everybody dyed their hair. 197 00:13:39,826 --> 00:13:41,511 My mom had pretty gray hair young 198 00:13:41,577 --> 00:13:42,804 and she always dyed her hair, 199 00:13:42,870 --> 00:13:45,766 so I didn't even think about don't dye your hair, 200 00:13:45,832 --> 00:13:47,184 it was just like oh, whatever, this is normal. 201 00:13:47,250 --> 00:13:48,477 I'm just gonna keep dying my hair. 202 00:13:48,543 --> 00:13:50,312 - I was just willing to go get it colored 203 00:13:50,378 --> 00:13:51,772 'cause that's all that I knew back then. 204 00:13:51,838 --> 00:13:54,858 - I just feel like these women are stuck doing, 205 00:13:54,924 --> 00:13:57,319 you know, how they have to color their hair 206 00:13:57,385 --> 00:14:02,949 every three weeks, two weeks, one week, it's too much. 207 00:14:03,015 --> 00:14:04,367 - And then it comes back to money. 208 00:14:04,433 --> 00:14:07,079 So you're talking about trying to knock out a system 209 00:14:07,145 --> 00:14:08,413 that's been working really well 210 00:14:08,479 --> 00:14:10,499 for the people that are in power, and that's, 211 00:14:10,565 --> 00:14:12,275 you know, what do you want, a revolution? 212 00:14:12,483 --> 00:14:15,629 - A lot of women feel insecure all the time 213 00:14:15,695 --> 00:14:18,423 because of how the media makes us feel. 214 00:14:18,489 --> 00:14:19,674 - And when we look at the economics, 215 00:14:19,740 --> 00:14:21,968 nobody makes money if they tell us 216 00:14:22,034 --> 00:14:23,637 we look good the way we are. 217 00:14:23,703 --> 00:14:26,264 Money is made by making us feel bad. 218 00:14:26,330 --> 00:14:28,725 - Advertisers will never voluntarily change 219 00:14:28,791 --> 00:14:30,560 because it is profitable for them 220 00:14:30,626 --> 00:14:32,771 when we feel terrible about ourselves. 221 00:14:32,837 --> 00:14:34,022 Basically we're told that women 222 00:14:34,088 --> 00:14:36,817 are acceptable only if we're young, thin, white, 223 00:14:36,883 --> 00:14:38,276 or at least light skinned, 224 00:14:38,342 --> 00:14:41,113 perfectly groomed and polished, plucked and shaved. 225 00:14:41,179 --> 00:14:43,573 And any deviation from this ideal 226 00:14:43,639 --> 00:14:46,576 is met with a lot of contempt and hostility. 227 00:14:46,642 --> 00:14:48,245 Women who are considered ugly 228 00:14:48,311 --> 00:14:50,622 are ridiculed in advertising campaigns. 229 00:14:50,688 --> 00:14:52,541 So these ads are meant to be funny, 230 00:14:52,607 --> 00:14:54,793 but the message to girls and women is clear. 231 00:14:54,859 --> 00:14:56,711 If you're not conventionally beautiful, 232 00:14:56,777 --> 00:14:59,047 you're an object of ridicule and contempt. 233 00:14:59,113 --> 00:15:01,299 Your worth depends on how you look. 234 00:15:01,365 --> 00:15:03,701 You're going to be graded on a curve. 235 00:15:04,702 --> 00:15:06,972 This contempt for women who do not measure up 236 00:15:07,038 --> 00:15:10,600 is waiting for all of us, of course, eventually as we age. 237 00:15:10,666 --> 00:15:12,394 So no wonder there's such terror 238 00:15:12,460 --> 00:15:14,503 of showing any signs of aging. 239 00:15:14,587 --> 00:15:21,469 (somber music) 240 00:15:25,223 --> 00:15:26,783 - I was horrified. 241 00:15:26,849 --> 00:15:29,828 I thought oh, if I grow it out, I'm gonna be so old, 242 00:15:29,894 --> 00:15:32,164 I'm gonna look old, it's gonna be horrible. 243 00:15:32,230 --> 00:15:36,710 - And I tried to dye my hair and keep up with it 244 00:15:36,776 --> 00:15:39,629 to make sure that no one knew I had any gray hair 245 00:15:39,695 --> 00:15:41,214 and how horrible it would be 246 00:15:41,280 --> 00:15:43,925 if anybody found out that I had gray hair. 247 00:15:43,991 --> 00:15:48,680 So I started dyeing it and of course as time went on, 248 00:15:48,746 --> 00:15:52,517 the grayer I got, the more I would need to dye it. 249 00:15:52,583 --> 00:15:55,979 - And I was embarrassed and I was ashamed 250 00:15:56,045 --> 00:16:00,233 that all of the sudden, I had gray hair. 251 00:16:00,299 --> 00:16:02,027 That's when I started dying my hair 252 00:16:02,093 --> 00:16:03,195 because I didn't want my friends 253 00:16:03,261 --> 00:16:07,199 to know about my gray hair and I actually lied. 254 00:16:07,265 --> 00:16:09,534 One of my friends asked me, "Oh my gosh Terry, 255 00:16:09,600 --> 00:16:12,579 "your hair is so nice and black and so shiny. 256 00:16:12,645 --> 00:16:13,580 "Did you dye it?" 257 00:16:13,646 --> 00:16:15,332 And I flat-out told her no, 258 00:16:15,398 --> 00:16:21,171 and I never felt good about not being honest with her, 259 00:16:21,237 --> 00:16:23,965 but I really didn't want her to know 260 00:16:24,031 --> 00:16:28,261 that I was having gray hair at a young age. 261 00:16:28,327 --> 00:16:31,431 - I was about 18 when I started seeing gray hair. 262 00:16:31,497 --> 00:16:33,767 At first I was totally mortified. 263 00:16:33,833 --> 00:16:40,256 - By the time I was 19, I had a white Elvira streak... in my 264 00:16:40,506 --> 00:16:41,858 right out of the top. 265 00:16:41,924 --> 00:16:46,446 My mother and my aunt, they took me to the store 266 00:16:46,512 --> 00:16:51,517 where they used to sell For Brunettes Only hair color 267 00:16:51,892 --> 00:16:54,037 and helped me pick out the proper shade 268 00:16:54,103 --> 00:16:56,355 so that I could color my hair. 269 00:16:56,605 --> 00:16:57,540 - [Reporter] No group in Hollywood 270 00:16:57,606 --> 00:16:59,876 feels the effects of ageism like women, 271 00:16:59,942 --> 00:17:01,782 and many celebrities have been vocal about it. 272 00:17:01,986 --> 00:17:03,630 Helen Mirren has critiqued the industry 273 00:17:03,696 --> 00:17:04,798 for age discrimination, 274 00:17:04,864 --> 00:17:07,199 saying Hollywood is all about youth and beauty. 275 00:17:07,491 --> 00:17:12,138 - There is a lot of ageism and I do, I do feel 276 00:17:12,204 --> 00:17:16,101 that the gray hair has hurt me. 277 00:17:16,167 --> 00:17:20,146 But it has not changed my resolve. 278 00:17:20,212 --> 00:17:24,342 I think that it's important to have somebody 279 00:17:26,177 --> 00:17:31,307 on television, in movies, in commercials, in magazines. 280 00:17:31,891 --> 00:17:35,120 I think it is important that we have 281 00:17:35,186 --> 00:17:37,872 silver-haired and gray-haired women 282 00:17:37,938 --> 00:17:40,691 represented in all of those places. 283 00:17:40,775 --> 00:17:45,422 - Oh yeah, I have a friend who is a hardworking actress. 284 00:17:45,488 --> 00:17:48,341 She's very successful, she's won two Emmys, 285 00:17:48,407 --> 00:17:49,302 and when I told her, I said, 286 00:17:49,368 --> 00:17:51,720 "Next time you see me, you may not recognize me 287 00:17:51,786 --> 00:17:53,596 "because I've started going gray," 288 00:17:53,662 --> 00:17:56,808 and she has said, "I can't do that." 289 00:17:56,874 --> 00:17:58,518 She said, "That would be great, 290 00:17:58,584 --> 00:18:01,253 "but I can't do that because of my job." 291 00:18:01,462 --> 00:18:03,773 - If I had gray hair, I would not have this job. 292 00:18:03,839 --> 00:18:05,358 I'm just saying that right now. 293 00:18:05,424 --> 00:18:06,319 (audience applauding) 294 00:18:06,385 --> 00:18:07,426 - Really? Yep. 295 00:18:07,885 --> 00:18:09,654 - I came to LA three and a half years ago 296 00:18:09,720 --> 00:18:10,989 to get into commercials. 297 00:18:11,055 --> 00:18:14,200 So I'm told, "Well, if you color your hair, 298 00:18:14,266 --> 00:18:16,536 "you might have a better chance." 299 00:18:16,602 --> 00:18:18,204 I won't. 300 00:18:18,270 --> 00:18:21,916 "If you cut your hair, because women your age 301 00:18:21,982 --> 00:18:24,169 "really shouldn't have long hair. 302 00:18:24,235 --> 00:18:25,736 "It doesn't look right." 303 00:18:26,695 --> 00:18:28,673 And I refused to cut my hair. 304 00:18:28,739 --> 00:18:31,200 I've always had long hair and it's gonna stay. 305 00:18:31,367 --> 00:18:36,580 - When I first was talking to Chuck about it, I said, 306 00:18:37,164 --> 00:18:40,143 He said, "Do you have any idea of how you wanna play her?" 307 00:18:40,209 --> 00:18:43,605 And I said, "Well, I think she should be gray." 308 00:18:43,671 --> 00:18:47,233 And he was like, "Really?" 309 00:18:47,299 --> 00:18:48,818 He said, "I kinda thought she should have 310 00:18:48,884 --> 00:18:50,612 "the same color hair that her daughter has." 311 00:18:50,678 --> 00:18:51,447 I said, 312 00:18:51,513 --> 00:18:55,408 "You know, if I'm gonna play an old woman, I really..." 313 00:18:55,474 --> 00:19:00,038 Also, because everybody's having their Me Too plus moment, 314 00:19:00,104 --> 00:19:02,731 I think we all need to kind of 315 00:19:03,524 --> 00:19:06,044 grab ahold of our authenticity. 316 00:19:06,110 --> 00:19:08,963 And it's like, what's wrong with being gray? 317 00:19:09,029 --> 00:19:12,592 Just because most actors, actresses, don't go, 318 00:19:12,658 --> 00:19:15,077 "You know, I can't wait to be gray." 319 00:19:16,871 --> 00:19:20,183 I myself had recently just stopped dying my hair 320 00:19:20,249 --> 00:19:22,685 because it was like who am I kidding? 321 00:19:22,751 --> 00:19:25,730 It's stupid and I was just over it. 322 00:19:25,796 --> 00:19:29,526 So I wanted her to be totally authentic in that way. 323 00:19:29,592 --> 00:19:32,278 - Being that I worked in the makeup industry, 324 00:19:32,344 --> 00:19:37,641 I was very on-cue to have hair that wasn't gray. 325 00:19:37,850 --> 00:19:39,369 - I was a singer for a while, 326 00:19:39,435 --> 00:19:41,871 but then when I went to Nashville the A&R guy says, 327 00:19:41,937 --> 00:19:43,832 "When are you gonna cover up that gray?" 328 00:19:43,898 --> 00:19:46,000 I really didn't like that, I didn't think it was fair. 329 00:19:46,066 --> 00:19:48,027 I thought what does this have to do with singing? 330 00:19:48,194 --> 00:19:50,755 - The whole point I started my blog 331 00:19:50,821 --> 00:19:52,549 was really not about fashion, 332 00:19:52,615 --> 00:19:54,926 it was about shifting the paradigm 333 00:19:54,992 --> 00:19:58,471 of women feeling invisible in our society, 334 00:19:58,537 --> 00:20:00,890 which really does happen. 335 00:20:00,956 --> 00:20:03,935 And I know I went to look for a job when I was 58 336 00:20:04,001 --> 00:20:07,522 and I experienced so much ageism, 337 00:20:07,588 --> 00:20:09,107 and I talk to women all the time 338 00:20:09,173 --> 00:20:11,025 and women say it starts at 40. 339 00:20:11,091 --> 00:20:15,488 Not only is it sad, but it's such a disservice 340 00:20:15,554 --> 00:20:18,575 'cause people now are living to be 90, 96, 341 00:20:18,641 --> 00:20:20,535 and so does that mean when you hit 40 342 00:20:20,601 --> 00:20:24,188 you've got 50 more years where you can't dress nicely 343 00:20:24,438 --> 00:20:28,126 or sexy or whatever your style is? 344 00:20:28,192 --> 00:20:32,464 That's crazy, and so that was why I started my blog. 345 00:20:32,530 --> 00:20:34,007 It was not just about fashion, 346 00:20:34,073 --> 00:20:36,885 it was about women who are experiencing that 347 00:20:36,951 --> 00:20:40,305 in the workplace, just in society in general, 348 00:20:40,371 --> 00:20:43,558 because I think a lot of younger women dread getting older 349 00:20:43,624 --> 00:20:45,977 because they feel they're gonna fall off this cliff 350 00:20:46,043 --> 00:20:48,605 at the age of 50 or whatever 351 00:20:48,671 --> 00:20:50,773 age it is that they're dreading. 352 00:20:50,839 --> 00:20:54,903 And so it's not about dreading your age, 353 00:20:54,969 --> 00:20:58,573 it's about embracing every year that you're alive 354 00:20:58,639 --> 00:21:01,910 because a lot of us don't get to be old. 355 00:21:01,976 --> 00:21:03,119 Transition chimes 356 00:21:03,185 --> 00:21:07,207 - Ageism, it is just another summit for us to climb 357 00:21:07,273 --> 00:21:11,961 as we attempt to live our lives authentically. 358 00:21:12,027 --> 00:21:15,465 More money, more time just to keep up 359 00:21:15,531 --> 00:21:18,635 with what has been deemed by society 360 00:21:18,701 --> 00:21:22,680 as acceptable and appropriate, 361 00:21:22,746 --> 00:21:27,751 and with that how long is too long to dye your hair? 362 00:21:28,377 --> 00:21:33,024 10 years, 20 years, 30 years, how long? 363 00:21:33,090 --> 00:21:35,109 - It was decades, decades of doing it, 364 00:21:35,175 --> 00:21:38,154 and I stopped, I was 56. 365 00:21:38,220 --> 00:21:40,657 I first wanted to do it 2013. 366 00:21:40,723 --> 00:21:46,812 I held off letting it go because my dad had Alzheimer's, 367 00:21:47,354 --> 00:21:52,794 and dementia, and he knew me with my dark hair down, 368 00:21:52,860 --> 00:21:53,920 if I wore my hair down. 369 00:21:53,986 --> 00:21:56,881 And if I wore my hair up, even when it was still dark, 370 00:21:56,947 --> 00:21:58,216 and then I took it down he'd say, 371 00:21:58,282 --> 00:22:00,134 "Hey, when did you get here?" 372 00:22:00,200 --> 00:22:03,304 So I felt like he still knows me, he knows who I am. 373 00:22:03,370 --> 00:22:04,889 Once he didn't know me, 374 00:22:04,955 --> 00:22:07,350 he didn't know I was his daughter anymore, 375 00:22:07,416 --> 00:22:11,646 it's a tough disease, and he didn't recognize me, 376 00:22:11,712 --> 00:22:14,023 and I thought okay, now I can do this. 377 00:22:14,089 --> 00:22:18,945 - I used to color my hair every two weeks to three weeks 378 00:22:19,011 --> 00:22:20,905 for years, I did it for years. 379 00:22:20,971 --> 00:22:23,408 And then it just got worse and then worse, 380 00:22:23,474 --> 00:22:25,493 and then every time I would color my hair, 381 00:22:25,559 --> 00:22:28,079 the next day or two I could see 382 00:22:28,145 --> 00:22:31,916 just a little bit peeking out from my scalp 383 00:22:31,982 --> 00:22:33,876 and it was very frustrating. 384 00:22:33,942 --> 00:22:35,420 - I was once again thinking about 385 00:22:35,486 --> 00:22:37,422 I had dyed my hair on December 24th 386 00:22:37,488 --> 00:22:40,633 and it was like January 7th or something like that, 387 00:22:40,699 --> 00:22:43,827 and I was starting to plan my next hair dye 388 00:22:44,828 --> 00:22:49,100 and I just was like, "God, this is a pain in the ass." 389 00:22:49,166 --> 00:22:51,436 "I've been doing this since I was 28 years old 390 00:22:51,502 --> 00:22:55,481 and I'm 51, and why am I putting myself through this?" 391 00:22:55,547 --> 00:22:59,360 "Maybe now's the time for me to see what's under there." 392 00:22:59,426 --> 00:23:00,737 It just literally was like 393 00:23:00,803 --> 00:23:02,322 a bolt of lightning striking me, 394 00:23:02,388 --> 00:23:06,409 going, "I think I might be done, I think I wanna try this." 395 00:23:06,475 --> 00:23:09,078 - So what was different this time 396 00:23:09,144 --> 00:23:10,830 from the first time you tried it 397 00:23:10,896 --> 00:23:12,915 that you have stayed the path? 398 00:23:12,981 --> 00:23:15,585 That even with the family functions 399 00:23:15,651 --> 00:23:18,463 and the family pressures, 400 00:23:18,529 --> 00:23:22,116 you have said no, I'm gonna stick with this? 401 00:23:23,659 --> 00:23:27,388 - I think I'm just done, I was tired, 402 00:23:27,454 --> 00:23:31,959 I was tried of the almost weekly 403 00:23:33,419 --> 00:23:37,631 hair dye appointment with myself that I had to do, 404 00:23:38,841 --> 00:23:40,735 it was something that I had to plan, 405 00:23:40,801 --> 00:23:44,805 it was an expense, and it was just more of a hassle 406 00:23:45,681 --> 00:23:50,686 than I guess the personal benefit 407 00:23:50,894 --> 00:23:53,831 I felt from getting it done. 408 00:23:53,897 --> 00:23:56,900 It wasn't doing it for me anymore and I just had enough. 409 00:23:57,109 --> 00:23:58,294 - I don't have the patience to sit 410 00:23:58,360 --> 00:24:00,254 at a hairdresser every two weeks. 411 00:24:00,320 --> 00:24:01,131 - Because that's 412 00:24:01,197 --> 00:24:02,882 what's required, yeah. - To get the roots done, yes. 413 00:24:02,948 --> 00:24:06,886 - I dyed it at least 20 years. 414 00:24:06,952 --> 00:24:09,097 It was just that I'm tired. 415 00:24:09,163 --> 00:24:11,874 I'm tired of coloring it, I'm letting it go. 416 00:24:12,040 --> 00:24:14,686 - I really started to have a lot 417 00:24:14,752 --> 00:24:17,355 when I was in my early 40s, 418 00:24:17,421 --> 00:24:20,149 and that's when I started to color it. 419 00:24:20,215 --> 00:24:23,736 - I think that it was in the 40s, in my 40s, 420 00:24:23,802 --> 00:24:25,321 that I started dying my hair too. 421 00:24:25,387 --> 00:24:27,532 I didn't have as much gray hairs, 422 00:24:27,598 --> 00:24:29,367 but I started noticing it 423 00:24:29,433 --> 00:24:32,412 and of course my hairdresser noticed it and said, 424 00:24:32,478 --> 00:24:35,289 "Oh, maybe you should consider starting to dye your hair." 425 00:24:35,355 --> 00:24:38,459 - It got to be where my gray was so white 426 00:24:38,525 --> 00:24:41,963 that I was having to go in every three weeks. 427 00:24:42,029 --> 00:24:44,757 So by this time, I'm letting her color it 428 00:24:44,823 --> 00:24:47,385 and highlight it so it'll look natural 429 00:24:47,451 --> 00:24:49,303 and paying a lot of money. 430 00:24:49,369 --> 00:24:50,763 - I was more of a rebel. 431 00:24:50,829 --> 00:24:54,058 I would hold out until I had two inches outgrowth. 432 00:24:54,124 --> 00:24:57,729 I just didn't like sitting in the chair. 433 00:24:57,795 --> 00:25:01,774 As I continued on, the gray, 434 00:25:01,840 --> 00:25:05,111 I have extremely coarse, curly hair, 435 00:25:05,177 --> 00:25:06,946 the gray just wouldn't pick up the color. 436 00:25:07,012 --> 00:25:09,073 I never blamed my hairdresser for it. 437 00:25:09,139 --> 00:25:10,533 My hair is just hard to color 438 00:25:10,599 --> 00:25:12,160 and I'd come home and I'd still see 439 00:25:12,226 --> 00:25:14,078 a couple of glints in the mirror 440 00:25:14,144 --> 00:25:17,147 and be like, "It's not even dyeing anymore." 441 00:25:17,272 --> 00:25:20,042 - I just didn't like going to salons very often. 442 00:25:20,108 --> 00:25:22,170 Because of that I said, 443 00:25:22,236 --> 00:25:24,464 "This is it, I'm not gonna do this anymore," 444 00:25:24,530 --> 00:25:26,073 so I stopped. 445 00:25:26,240 --> 00:25:27,925 - I'm tired of doing this, it's goopy, 446 00:25:27,991 --> 00:25:29,785 it's nasty, it's messy. (laughs) 447 00:25:30,118 --> 00:25:32,638 - I was just tired of seeing my roots 448 00:25:32,704 --> 00:25:36,184 and seeing at least four different colors, 449 00:25:36,250 --> 00:25:41,255 and I was just tired of getting a massive headache, 450 00:25:41,630 --> 00:25:44,650 being nauseous when I would dye my hair. 451 00:25:44,716 --> 00:25:46,802 And I just said that's it. 452 00:25:47,052 --> 00:25:50,323 - I started to dye it when I was age 40. 453 00:25:50,389 --> 00:25:52,241 Well, at 42 I started coloring it. 454 00:25:52,307 --> 00:25:54,076 I just kept coloring it every eight weeks, 455 00:25:54,142 --> 00:25:56,996 then every six weeks, then it was every four weeks, 456 00:25:57,062 --> 00:26:00,208 and it got to the point when I turned 55, 457 00:26:00,274 --> 00:26:02,835 I said, "You know what, I just can't do this anymore, 458 00:26:02,901 --> 00:26:03,754 "I'm just tired of it." 459 00:26:03,820 --> 00:26:04,879 It's every four weeks. 460 00:26:04,945 --> 00:26:07,548 You live around the bottle or the hair dye. 461 00:26:07,614 --> 00:26:09,592 You can't go to a wedding, you can't go swimming, 462 00:26:09,658 --> 00:26:10,718 you can't do anything. 463 00:26:10,784 --> 00:26:11,552 You can't even go to the gym 464 00:26:11,618 --> 00:26:12,512 because your roots are gonna show. 465 00:26:12,578 --> 00:26:13,430 I'm like who cares? 466 00:26:13,496 --> 00:26:15,080 Hair color shouldn't define a woman. 467 00:26:15,289 --> 00:26:16,099 - [Reporter] Melissa Malbranche 468 00:26:16,165 --> 00:26:17,850 isn't bashful about her hair. 469 00:26:17,916 --> 00:26:19,936 Silver streaks started at 17, 470 00:26:20,002 --> 00:26:24,023 and two years ago at 43, she decided to go au naturale. 471 00:26:24,089 --> 00:26:25,900 - It became more of a chore, 472 00:26:25,966 --> 00:26:28,861 something that I sort of dreading having to do, 473 00:26:28,927 --> 00:26:30,238 and I said enough. 474 00:26:30,304 --> 00:26:31,073 (transition chimes) 475 00:26:31,139 --> 00:26:34,325 - So aside from the time, the money, 476 00:26:34,391 --> 00:26:38,913 the monotony of having to get your roots done 477 00:26:38,979 --> 00:26:41,940 every two to three to four weeks depending, 478 00:26:43,567 --> 00:26:45,986 there is a hidden danger 479 00:26:46,945 --> 00:26:49,715 that some of you are very well aware of 480 00:26:49,781 --> 00:26:54,786 and in fact had to stop dyeing your hair because of this. 481 00:26:55,162 --> 00:26:57,390 - Recently, someone wrote in saying they were concerned 482 00:26:57,456 --> 00:27:00,268 about toxic chemicals in hair dyes and specifically 483 00:27:00,334 --> 00:27:03,855 a chemical called paraphenylenediamine, or PPD. 484 00:27:03,921 --> 00:27:05,648 PPD is used in permanent hair dyes 485 00:27:05,714 --> 00:27:07,316 and other dark colored cosmetics. 486 00:27:07,382 --> 00:27:09,569 It is a colorless chemical that becomes pigmented 487 00:27:09,635 --> 00:27:11,362 when mixed with an oxidizing agent, 488 00:27:11,428 --> 00:27:13,322 usually hydrogen peroxide. 489 00:27:13,388 --> 00:27:14,699 Now the Environmental Working Group 490 00:27:14,765 --> 00:27:17,785 classifies PPD as an above moderate health hazard 491 00:27:17,851 --> 00:27:20,496 mostly for the allergic reactions it can induce. 492 00:27:20,562 --> 00:27:22,248 Occasionally PPD causes hives 493 00:27:22,314 --> 00:27:24,792 and much more rarely serious anaphylaxis. 494 00:27:24,858 --> 00:27:26,586 - [Reporter] Whether you like your hair down 495 00:27:26,652 --> 00:27:27,546 or all done up, 496 00:27:27,612 --> 00:27:28,754 (women laughing) 497 00:27:28,820 --> 00:27:31,465 most of us hope to leave the salon feeling pretty. 498 00:27:31,531 --> 00:27:34,218 - I just wanted a cute little stylish haircut. 499 00:27:34,284 --> 00:27:36,012 - [Reporter] That was the plan for Patrice Washington, 500 00:27:36,078 --> 00:27:38,347 who wanted to look nice for her daughter's birthday. 501 00:27:38,413 --> 00:27:40,308 - I wanted to do the jet black 502 00:27:40,374 --> 00:27:43,394 'cause my hair is naturally kind of a light brown. 503 00:27:43,460 --> 00:27:44,937 So I just wanted to get the same 504 00:27:45,003 --> 00:27:46,647 haircut I've been getting for years. 505 00:27:46,713 --> 00:27:48,774 - [Reporter] On the left, the look she was going for. 506 00:27:48,840 --> 00:27:50,610 On the right, the one she got. 507 00:27:50,676 --> 00:27:52,528 - And I look like a monster, this is... 508 00:27:52,594 --> 00:27:55,323 I can't recognize my face, it just looks... 509 00:27:55,389 --> 00:27:56,908 Kids are looking at me crazy. 510 00:27:56,974 --> 00:27:58,534 I just looked, this is ridiculous, 511 00:27:58,600 --> 00:28:02,788 my face is swollen, my scalp is all blistered, 512 00:28:02,854 --> 00:28:04,373 my hair is falling out. 513 00:28:04,439 --> 00:28:07,335 I just feel like the Elephant Man or something. 514 00:28:07,401 --> 00:28:09,712 - [Reporter] Doctors say she had a severe allergic reaction 515 00:28:09,778 --> 00:28:11,672 to a common chemical found in hair dye. 516 00:28:11,738 --> 00:28:12,507 - PPD. 517 00:28:12,573 --> 00:28:16,802 - Paraphenylenediamine is a coloring agent 518 00:28:16,868 --> 00:28:20,014 that we can trace back to the Industrial Age 519 00:28:20,080 --> 00:28:24,435 when we were using that to color clothing and even furs. 520 00:28:24,501 --> 00:28:25,603 - [Reporter] In the last 15 years, 521 00:28:25,669 --> 00:28:27,396 Dr. Michael Gross says he has seen 522 00:28:27,462 --> 00:28:30,816 between 50 and 60 people with the allergy to PPD. 523 00:28:30,882 --> 00:28:32,276 - I had all kind of chemicals in my hair. 524 00:28:32,342 --> 00:28:35,112 I'm not sure why this dye, this time. 525 00:28:35,178 --> 00:28:37,990 - A person may have had exposure to it once, 526 00:28:38,056 --> 00:28:41,494 had no problem, went back and had it again, 527 00:28:41,560 --> 00:28:43,704 and had a rip-roaring reaction. 528 00:28:43,770 --> 00:28:45,039 - [Reporter] The effects range from an itch 529 00:28:45,105 --> 00:28:47,124 to trouble breathing and possibly death. 530 00:28:47,190 --> 00:28:49,418 Like many of us, Patrice didn't worry about that 531 00:28:49,484 --> 00:28:51,003 when she sat down in the chair, 532 00:28:51,069 --> 00:28:52,672 didn't ask to see the fine print. 533 00:28:52,738 --> 00:28:58,076 - I had two very severe reactions to hair dye, 534 00:28:58,577 --> 00:29:05,292 and it ended up that I ended up in the ER twice. 535 00:29:05,459 --> 00:29:07,603 Some women are sensitive... 536 00:29:07,669 --> 00:29:09,397 - Yeah, a lot of women are. - To hair dye, 537 00:29:09,463 --> 00:29:12,024 but they don't know, so then they all of a sudden 538 00:29:12,090 --> 00:29:13,901 have like an autoimmune disease. 539 00:29:13,967 --> 00:29:14,736 - Yeah. 540 00:29:14,802 --> 00:29:16,904 - Like rheumatoid or lupus 541 00:29:16,970 --> 00:29:20,116 and could it be traced back to the fact that they've been 542 00:29:20,182 --> 00:29:21,951 dying their hair and they're chemical sensitive? 543 00:29:22,017 --> 00:29:23,327 I think it's completely possible 544 00:29:23,393 --> 00:29:25,746 because there's a lot of autoimmune diseases 545 00:29:25,812 --> 00:29:28,249 that have suddenly arrived in the world, 546 00:29:28,315 --> 00:29:30,251 but now all of a sudden they are. 547 00:29:30,317 --> 00:29:32,753 So is it our chemicals, is it chemicals we put on our body, 548 00:29:32,819 --> 00:29:34,922 is it chemicals that we're eating? 549 00:29:34,988 --> 00:29:36,424 As a physician, those are all things 550 00:29:36,490 --> 00:29:37,741 that come to my mind. 551 00:29:37,866 --> 00:29:40,302 - The thought of putting hair dye on my hair 552 00:29:40,368 --> 00:29:42,662 knowing that it would absorb through my scalp, 553 00:29:43,663 --> 00:29:45,266 that was not something I was interested in. 554 00:29:45,332 --> 00:29:49,103 I wanted to stay away from chemicals, basically. 555 00:29:49,169 --> 00:29:50,396 - We were a little concerned 556 00:29:50,462 --> 00:29:52,606 because we both had such dark hair, 557 00:29:52,672 --> 00:29:55,192 and hearing that dark hair colors 558 00:29:55,258 --> 00:29:57,445 were kinda carcinogenic or dangerous for us, 559 00:29:57,511 --> 00:29:59,030 we were kinda worried about them 560 00:29:59,096 --> 00:30:01,407 sitting on our heads for such long periods of time. 561 00:30:01,473 --> 00:30:02,199 - Yeah. 562 00:30:02,265 --> 00:30:03,701 - Someone I know personally actually got 563 00:30:03,767 --> 00:30:06,996 like a cyst in their scalp 564 00:30:07,062 --> 00:30:09,248 from dying their hair all the time. 565 00:30:09,314 --> 00:30:10,958 So it can be very dangerous 566 00:30:11,024 --> 00:30:13,127 because your skull is right there, 567 00:30:13,193 --> 00:30:16,088 so you could get a bone infection, 568 00:30:16,154 --> 00:30:18,382 you could get chronic infections 569 00:30:18,448 --> 00:30:19,741 that make your hair fall out. 570 00:30:19,908 --> 00:30:23,345 - I started having damage to my scalp 571 00:30:23,411 --> 00:30:28,416 and peeling and burning and losing hair in certain areas. 572 00:30:28,667 --> 00:30:32,003 And I decided that I was done with it. 573 00:30:32,212 --> 00:30:35,149 - PPD is one of around 5,000 chemicals 574 00:30:35,215 --> 00:30:36,984 found in hair dye products today, 575 00:30:37,050 --> 00:30:38,194 and some of these chemicals 576 00:30:38,260 --> 00:30:40,446 are reported to be carcinogenic 577 00:30:40,512 --> 00:30:42,656 according to the National Cancer Institute. 578 00:30:42,722 --> 00:30:45,642 So there are definitely other chemicals to watch out for. 579 00:30:46,309 --> 00:30:47,495 - [Reporter] There are a few ways 580 00:30:47,561 --> 00:30:50,873 women can embrace their naturally changing shade. 581 00:30:50,939 --> 00:30:54,043 You can quit dying your hair cold turkey, 582 00:30:54,109 --> 00:30:56,128 start adding highlights or lowlights 583 00:30:56,194 --> 00:30:58,672 for a smoother tone transition, 584 00:30:58,738 --> 00:31:02,218 begin growing out your color from underneath. 585 00:31:02,284 --> 00:31:04,261 - If a client comes to me and they're just 586 00:31:04,327 --> 00:31:06,138 starting to think about it, 587 00:31:06,204 --> 00:31:08,349 I'm gonna maybe either start putting 588 00:31:08,415 --> 00:31:10,726 some lowlights or some highlights 589 00:31:10,792 --> 00:31:15,046 to start diffusing the line and start to let the gray grow. 590 00:31:15,964 --> 00:31:19,360 I'll just do that on the outer part of the hair 591 00:31:19,426 --> 00:31:21,737 while I let the inside grow. 592 00:31:21,803 --> 00:31:24,156 So that's one way of doing it. 593 00:31:24,222 --> 00:31:26,742 - So I was actually thinking about 594 00:31:26,808 --> 00:31:28,953 going gray or going natural. 595 00:31:29,019 --> 00:31:31,747 I currently color my hair at home 596 00:31:31,813 --> 00:31:35,876 with a all-natural dye from Whole Foods, 597 00:31:35,942 --> 00:31:37,670 and at this point I'm just not sure 598 00:31:37,736 --> 00:31:39,446 if that's the best look for me. 599 00:31:40,655 --> 00:31:42,925 - Well Philomena, it is time to commit. 600 00:31:42,991 --> 00:31:46,077 Eva Scrivo and her team are working hard to help. 601 00:31:47,662 --> 00:31:49,723 - I now have Philomena in my chair 602 00:31:49,789 --> 00:31:52,977 and she wants to grow out her natural gray hair. 603 00:31:53,043 --> 00:31:55,312 We're going to add some cool-toned highlights 604 00:31:55,378 --> 00:31:56,522 throughout the hair. 605 00:31:56,588 --> 00:31:59,525 Her natural emerging gray, we want to integrate 606 00:31:59,591 --> 00:32:00,985 into the rest of her hair, 607 00:32:01,051 --> 00:32:04,071 and also teach Philomena how to care for her hair. 608 00:32:04,137 --> 00:32:06,740 When the hair starts to lose pigment, 609 00:32:06,806 --> 00:32:08,033 it can be very coarse. 610 00:32:08,099 --> 00:32:10,744 So home care, a beautiful haircut, 611 00:32:10,810 --> 00:32:13,497 and a new makeup palette will really do wonders. 612 00:32:13,563 --> 00:32:14,582 (audience applauding) - We have Philomena. 613 00:32:14,648 --> 00:32:16,750 She was considering embracing her gray 614 00:32:16,816 --> 00:32:19,003 but she's a little bit trepidatious about it. 615 00:32:19,069 --> 00:32:21,088 This is how she looked before. 616 00:32:21,154 --> 00:32:21,923 All right, 617 00:32:21,989 --> 00:32:23,299 well Philomena come on down. - So let's bring her out. 618 00:32:23,365 --> 00:32:25,384 (upbeat music) (audience applauding) 619 00:32:25,450 --> 00:32:26,844 (audience cheering) 620 00:32:26,910 --> 00:32:29,680 - Oh, you look so nice, I love it. 621 00:32:29,746 --> 00:32:32,850 Here, stand there so we can see you before and after. 622 00:32:32,916 --> 00:32:35,853 That looks so, well you're a beautiful woman. 623 00:32:35,919 --> 00:32:36,729 - Oh, thank you. 624 00:32:36,795 --> 00:32:37,564 (Katie laughs) - She is. 625 00:32:37,630 --> 00:32:38,689 - That looks so nice. 626 00:32:38,755 --> 00:32:39,899 - Thank you. - And how do you feel 627 00:32:39,965 --> 00:32:42,443 about this kind of transitional look? 628 00:32:42,509 --> 00:32:43,277 - [Philomena] Liberated. 629 00:32:43,343 --> 00:32:44,112 - You do? 630 00:32:44,178 --> 00:32:45,196 - Yeah, yeah, it feels good. 631 00:32:45,262 --> 00:32:47,364 It feels like I don't have to fuss 632 00:32:47,430 --> 00:32:49,533 or worry about how it looks all the time. 633 00:32:49,599 --> 00:32:52,536 - And so is her natural gray gonna grow in now? 634 00:32:52,602 --> 00:32:53,370 - Yes, and we put 635 00:32:53,436 --> 00:32:54,205 just a few... - So does she have to 636 00:32:54,271 --> 00:32:55,040 do this a lot more? 637 00:32:55,106 --> 00:32:56,582 - No, it's not about doing nothing, 638 00:32:56,648 --> 00:32:58,083 it's about doing something different 639 00:32:58,149 --> 00:32:59,084 when you have gray hair. 640 00:32:59,150 --> 00:33:02,338 So every few months, we'll add a few more gray highlights, 641 00:33:02,404 --> 00:33:04,131 start the integration process 642 00:33:04,197 --> 00:33:06,717 so that she doesn't have to do her roots every four weeks, 643 00:33:06,783 --> 00:33:09,511 we kept her hair long 'cause that's more who she is, 644 00:33:09,577 --> 00:33:11,805 and it has lots of layers and shape. 645 00:33:11,871 --> 00:33:14,516 But I must warn you, if you're going to go gray, 646 00:33:14,582 --> 00:33:16,310 make sure you take really good care of your hair 647 00:33:16,376 --> 00:33:17,770 and you learn how to do a blowout, 648 00:33:17,836 --> 00:33:19,521 because the smoother, the better. 649 00:33:19,587 --> 00:33:20,947 - 'Cause her hair is much coarser. 650 00:33:21,715 --> 00:33:24,610 - So we talked about maybe highlighting it 651 00:33:24,676 --> 00:33:27,988 or trying to grow it out gradually. 652 00:33:28,054 --> 00:33:30,324 She said, "You're just gonna have to cut it off." 653 00:33:30,390 --> 00:33:32,326 And I thought fine, I'll cut it off. 654 00:33:32,392 --> 00:33:34,745 I've never had short hair before. 655 00:33:34,811 --> 00:33:37,248 And it took four months to grow out 656 00:33:37,314 --> 00:33:42,068 and my agent said, "We love your hair, keep it short." 657 00:33:43,111 --> 00:33:46,048 And that's how I arrived at silver hair. 658 00:33:46,114 --> 00:33:47,633 - Listen, I wanted to go cold turkey, 659 00:33:47,699 --> 00:33:50,844 which I did go cold turkey for the first part of the book. 660 00:33:50,910 --> 00:33:53,138 And then halfway through, I wanted to then 661 00:33:53,204 --> 00:33:54,789 understand what it's like to... 662 00:33:56,291 --> 00:33:58,686 The underneath stayed really rusty, 663 00:33:58,752 --> 00:34:00,312 so I decided to bleach that out 664 00:34:00,378 --> 00:34:02,630 and then tone it to match the top. 665 00:34:02,964 --> 00:34:05,734 - I just started getting curious. 666 00:34:05,800 --> 00:34:07,194 I wonder what my hair looks like. 667 00:34:07,260 --> 00:34:10,447 I wonder what my real hair looks like 668 00:34:10,513 --> 00:34:12,992 and what would it be like if I didn't 669 00:34:13,058 --> 00:34:15,035 have to have that anxiety, 670 00:34:15,101 --> 00:34:16,912 oh god, my roots are showing, 671 00:34:16,978 --> 00:34:19,581 or it's orange, I have to dye my hair. 672 00:34:19,647 --> 00:34:23,836 What would it be like if I just let my hair grow? 673 00:34:23,902 --> 00:34:25,587 - I just let the gray come in and then 674 00:34:25,653 --> 00:34:28,823 kept cutting it down 'til the gray took over. 675 00:34:29,366 --> 00:34:30,759 - So I just let it go. 676 00:34:30,825 --> 00:34:35,389 So it grew in and then I had part gray and then part dark, 677 00:34:35,455 --> 00:34:37,391 and then I just cut it really short. 678 00:34:37,457 --> 00:34:38,517 - [Victoria] Oh, you did the pixie. 679 00:34:38,583 --> 00:34:41,478 - I just did the pixie, let it go, cut it short, 680 00:34:41,544 --> 00:34:42,938 and let it grow in a little bit. 681 00:34:43,004 --> 00:34:44,881 And I've never looked back. 682 00:34:45,215 --> 00:34:46,483 - I got tired of fooling with that too, 683 00:34:46,549 --> 00:34:48,360 so I just did a buzz cut and let it grow out. 684 00:34:48,426 --> 00:34:49,237 - [Anderson] (laughs) Did you really? 685 00:34:49,303 --> 00:34:50,988 - Yeah, yeah, I mean I have to 686 00:34:51,054 --> 00:34:52,239 have my hair long for the show, 687 00:34:52,305 --> 00:34:53,157 but I'd like for it to be short. 688 00:34:53,223 --> 00:34:53,908 - [Anderson] You actually did a buzz cut? 689 00:34:53,974 --> 00:34:55,367 - Oh, hell yeah. 690 00:34:55,433 --> 00:34:58,203 - Actually, at that time when I was 691 00:34:58,269 --> 00:34:59,413 letting this stuff come in, 692 00:34:59,479 --> 00:35:02,708 my hair was already a short pixie cut. 693 00:35:02,774 --> 00:35:06,378 It only took me about two months for my transition 694 00:35:06,444 --> 00:35:10,883 because once the short little 1.5 inch hair then grew out 695 00:35:10,949 --> 00:35:14,094 and I had a little bit, we just cut it off. 696 00:35:14,160 --> 00:35:19,165 So I had this very, very tight, short, maybe inch of gray. 697 00:35:19,416 --> 00:35:21,602 - So the grow-out process was awful. 698 00:35:21,668 --> 00:35:23,145 At first I thought it was kind of fun 699 00:35:23,211 --> 00:35:25,189 because I started wearing so many different hats 700 00:35:25,255 --> 00:35:26,982 and so many different styles, 701 00:35:27,048 --> 00:35:30,110 but then the gray started growing longer than the hats, 702 00:35:30,176 --> 00:35:33,155 so I switched to a wig because in my profession, 703 00:35:33,221 --> 00:35:35,074 I just couldn't really have a skunk stripe 704 00:35:35,140 --> 00:35:36,575 going down my head. 705 00:35:36,641 --> 00:35:39,036 So I switched to a wig and I really had fun with that 706 00:35:39,102 --> 00:35:40,954 because I'd never been a redhead, 707 00:35:41,020 --> 00:35:42,039 I'd always been a brunette, 708 00:35:42,105 --> 00:35:45,793 and the wig was sort of reddish and I really liked it. 709 00:35:45,859 --> 00:35:47,378 But then everybody let me know 710 00:35:47,444 --> 00:35:49,213 that it just did not look good, 711 00:35:49,279 --> 00:35:50,756 and so by the end I was really, 712 00:35:50,822 --> 00:35:52,132 'cause it took me two years. 713 00:35:52,198 --> 00:35:54,426 And I'm sick of it, I'm totally done with it. 714 00:35:54,492 --> 00:35:57,096 As of today, I'm not doing that anymore. 715 00:35:57,162 --> 00:36:00,224 (women cheering) (women applauding) 716 00:36:00,290 --> 00:36:02,226 - I'm done with that. - I live! 717 00:36:02,292 --> 00:36:04,353 - Don't be telling me what beauty looks like 718 00:36:04,419 --> 00:36:06,259 and don't be telling me what pretty looks like. 719 00:36:06,379 --> 00:36:08,774 And by the end of it, I was really sick of it 720 00:36:08,840 --> 00:36:11,485 and just happy to whip it off my head and be done. 721 00:36:11,551 --> 00:36:15,364 - Transition was a challenge at times, 722 00:36:15,430 --> 00:36:18,850 'cause initially you feel like people are looking at you, 723 00:36:19,851 --> 00:36:21,203 what is she doing to her hair, 724 00:36:21,269 --> 00:36:24,331 why isn't she coloring her roots, 725 00:36:24,397 --> 00:36:27,584 and it takes a while for it to look purposeful, 726 00:36:27,650 --> 00:36:29,211 and I think that was probably 727 00:36:29,277 --> 00:36:31,154 the biggest challenge for me. 728 00:36:31,696 --> 00:36:34,574 (spirited music) 729 00:36:35,700 --> 00:36:36,677 - I love your hair. 730 00:36:36,743 --> 00:36:37,886 - Thank you, I love it too. - So what happened 731 00:36:37,952 --> 00:36:39,888 that you decided I'm gonna... - I woke up one day, 732 00:36:39,954 --> 00:36:42,391 I turned 75 on April Fool's Day, as you know, 733 00:36:42,457 --> 00:36:46,270 and I suddenly thought enough is enough. 734 00:36:46,336 --> 00:36:48,021 I mean, there's something very funny, 735 00:36:48,087 --> 00:36:49,565 I'm sure there's a million people 736 00:36:49,631 --> 00:36:51,066 out there that think I'm crazy, 737 00:36:51,132 --> 00:36:54,403 I felt some kind of change, I really did. 738 00:36:54,469 --> 00:36:56,738 It was subtle but I think it's all about 739 00:36:56,804 --> 00:36:58,657 building up to who are you. 740 00:36:58,723 --> 00:37:00,659 My god, about time. 741 00:37:00,725 --> 00:37:01,494 And I thought screw it, 742 00:37:01,560 --> 00:37:03,245 I'm just gonna see what it looks like. 743 00:37:03,311 --> 00:37:05,956 And it looked awful for a while, but now I really love it. 744 00:37:06,022 --> 00:37:07,524 (transition cymbals) 745 00:37:08,316 --> 00:37:09,460 transition chimes 746 00:37:09,526 --> 00:37:14,423 - As if the double standard, the ageism, the chemicals 747 00:37:14,489 --> 00:37:19,261 is not enough, a woman has to contend with, 748 00:37:19,327 --> 00:37:24,141 quite surprisingly, the negative feedback 749 00:37:24,207 --> 00:37:26,768 that she gets from society, 750 00:37:26,834 --> 00:37:29,980 and I'm talking about her close friends, 751 00:37:30,046 --> 00:37:35,051 her family members, and worst of all complete strangers. 752 00:37:36,219 --> 00:37:38,513 - I recently got this comment on my blog. 753 00:37:39,597 --> 00:37:42,784 "You look like you are 70 with your gray hairs. 754 00:37:42,850 --> 00:37:45,329 "You really should consider dyeing them for TV 755 00:37:45,395 --> 00:37:49,041 "so you don't look like such an old hag." 756 00:37:49,107 --> 00:37:51,126 "Just a suggestion." 757 00:37:51,192 --> 00:37:53,462 I am 31 years old, and I've got 758 00:37:53,528 --> 00:37:56,131 a fair amount of gray hair as you can see. 759 00:37:56,197 --> 00:37:58,425 Now normally I just share recipes, 760 00:37:58,491 --> 00:38:00,594 but today I wanted to take a minute 761 00:38:00,660 --> 00:38:03,055 to talk about this comment and address it publicly 762 00:38:03,121 --> 00:38:05,682 because this is something I feel strongly about. 763 00:38:05,748 --> 00:38:07,684 My husband actually feels very strongly 764 00:38:07,750 --> 00:38:09,686 that I shouldn't dye my hair, 765 00:38:09,752 --> 00:38:14,066 and his reasoning is that he wants us to grow old together. 766 00:38:14,132 --> 00:38:15,817 How cute is that? 767 00:38:15,883 --> 00:38:17,319 If you read my About Me page, 768 00:38:17,385 --> 00:38:20,405 you'll find that I have a rare autoimmune disease 769 00:38:20,471 --> 00:38:22,407 that means that I will most likely 770 00:38:22,473 --> 00:38:24,934 never live to be 70 years old. 771 00:38:26,311 --> 00:38:28,646 Every sign of aging that I have 772 00:38:29,939 --> 00:38:34,253 is a sign that I'm still alive. 773 00:38:34,319 --> 00:38:36,129 A lot of people don't get the privilege 774 00:38:36,195 --> 00:38:42,076 to ever live to be old, and I probably won't either. 775 00:38:42,994 --> 00:38:44,680 Which means that I don't have time 776 00:38:44,746 --> 00:38:48,183 to waste criticizing myself, 777 00:38:48,249 --> 00:38:52,813 and I don't have time to waste criticizing other people. 778 00:38:52,879 --> 00:38:57,175 I care a lot more about what my life is like right now. 779 00:38:57,425 --> 00:39:04,265 - Was this up-and-coming salon stylist wonder woman 780 00:39:04,474 --> 00:39:08,579 thought it upon herself to come running after me 781 00:39:08,645 --> 00:39:10,872 to tell me that she could salvage me 782 00:39:10,938 --> 00:39:12,899 and save me from myself, 783 00:39:14,317 --> 00:39:16,444 and how she could color my hair 784 00:39:17,737 --> 00:39:23,826 and make me less haggard and less old and less wrinkly, 785 00:39:24,369 --> 00:39:26,287 and I could be beautiful. 786 00:39:28,081 --> 00:39:30,642 Yeah, that's what I thought. 787 00:39:30,708 --> 00:39:32,502 It went over really big. 788 00:39:32,710 --> 00:39:38,049 For me, personally, I feel if I was to dye my hair, 789 00:39:38,591 --> 00:39:43,071 I would have a wrinkly face with dyed hair. 790 00:39:43,137 --> 00:39:45,115 Now how is that gonna make me look younger? 791 00:39:45,181 --> 00:39:47,200 I sat there and thought you know what Audrey, 792 00:39:47,266 --> 00:39:48,994 you're a beautiful person, 793 00:39:49,060 --> 00:39:51,771 and if she'd known all the things that I had survived, 794 00:39:52,980 --> 00:39:55,566 then she wouldn't be so heartless and cruel. 795 00:39:57,110 --> 00:40:00,505 And I said to heck with the little twerp, 796 00:40:00,571 --> 00:40:04,593 but it's sad that in today's society, 797 00:40:04,659 --> 00:40:06,261 we have to be approached 798 00:40:06,327 --> 00:40:09,580 and actually attacked in such a manner. 799 00:40:10,081 --> 00:40:13,060 - I had a 10-year relationship 800 00:40:13,126 --> 00:40:17,064 that was on again and off again and mostly it was off, 801 00:40:17,130 --> 00:40:21,193 but just prior to my going gray, 802 00:40:21,259 --> 00:40:25,447 we had decided to really go for it 803 00:40:25,513 --> 00:40:26,907 and make more of a relationship, 804 00:40:26,973 --> 00:40:31,978 and he told me pretty much every single day 805 00:40:32,270 --> 00:40:35,832 that I needed to dye my hair, every day. 806 00:40:35,898 --> 00:40:43,215 He was very, very negative and cruelly so, I thought, 807 00:40:43,281 --> 00:40:46,885 not kind about it. 808 00:40:46,951 --> 00:40:48,512 I don't think a woman needs to hear 809 00:40:48,578 --> 00:40:51,348 that she needs to change herself every day 810 00:40:51,414 --> 00:40:53,725 in order to be worthy of love. 811 00:40:53,791 --> 00:40:56,144 - I have this friend from college 812 00:40:56,210 --> 00:40:59,439 that I've kept in contact with for years, 813 00:40:59,505 --> 00:41:02,008 and over the years every few times, 814 00:41:03,301 --> 00:41:05,320 "If you dyed your hair, you would look- 815 00:41:05,386 --> 00:41:08,031 exactly the way you looked when you were in college." 816 00:41:08,097 --> 00:41:10,558 One day I told him, I said, 817 00:41:11,434 --> 00:41:16,439 "I am not trying to look like I looked in my college days, 818 00:41:16,981 --> 00:41:19,251 "I'm trying to look great in the age 819 00:41:19,317 --> 00:41:22,379 "and at the years it is at this time." 820 00:41:22,445 --> 00:41:25,048 And I said, "I can't go back, I don't wanna go back, 821 00:41:25,114 --> 00:41:27,592 "and I'm just embracing myself at this time 822 00:41:27,658 --> 00:41:30,679 "with my gray hair, and I love it." 823 00:41:30,745 --> 00:41:33,682 - From a previous coworker, female, my age, 824 00:41:33,748 --> 00:41:36,059 and she made the comment on Facebook, 825 00:41:36,125 --> 00:41:39,312 and she just stated, "I hate that gray hair." 826 00:41:39,378 --> 00:41:41,857 - Yeah, someone I knew not really well 827 00:41:41,923 --> 00:41:43,942 but she just didn't like it at all. 828 00:41:44,008 --> 00:41:50,097 I forget her words but it was something like, "Oh, oh no." 829 00:41:50,306 --> 00:41:52,617 - A few years ago I divorced, 830 00:41:52,683 --> 00:41:57,080 and a couple of years after my divorce I began dating. 831 00:41:57,146 --> 00:42:00,292 And one of the gentlemen that 832 00:42:00,358 --> 00:42:03,128 I had gone out with two or three times, 833 00:42:03,194 --> 00:42:07,782 he says, "Hey, you have a good look about yourself, 834 00:42:09,826 --> 00:42:12,012 "but I think you ought to color your hair. 835 00:42:12,078 --> 00:42:15,122 "It makes you look old the way you wear it, 836 00:42:16,374 --> 00:42:18,835 "the color of it makes you look old." 837 00:42:19,126 --> 00:42:20,395 - You get a lot of flack. 838 00:42:20,461 --> 00:42:22,439 I cannot tell you how many people, 839 00:42:22,505 --> 00:42:25,358 "Lauren, you're so pretty, you look so great, 840 00:42:25,424 --> 00:42:26,693 "you should just cover your gray 841 00:42:26,759 --> 00:42:28,403 "'cause it'll make you look younger. 842 00:42:28,469 --> 00:42:31,364 - I was humiliated at a hair salon. 843 00:42:31,430 --> 00:42:33,909 The hairdresser parted my hair, 844 00:42:33,975 --> 00:42:35,410 and so he called everyone over and said, 845 00:42:35,476 --> 00:42:36,204 "Look at this hair." 846 00:42:36,270 --> 00:42:39,247 He said that he thought it was 50%, 847 00:42:39,313 --> 00:42:40,999 and it might have been gray and white, 848 00:42:41,065 --> 00:42:44,610 he said, "Look at this," and I was 16, I was very... 849 00:42:46,654 --> 00:42:49,591 You wanna not stand out in a negative way, 850 00:42:49,657 --> 00:42:52,135 and at that time I didn't have this understanding 851 00:42:52,201 --> 00:42:54,161 that I do now about this freedom. 852 00:42:54,495 --> 00:42:55,806 - I never dyed my hair. 853 00:42:55,872 --> 00:42:58,934 Every single day I would receive negative comments. 854 00:42:59,000 --> 00:43:00,310 "You would be so much better, 855 00:43:00,376 --> 00:43:02,354 "you'd be so much younger, you'd be so much this," 856 00:43:02,420 --> 00:43:04,773 and I just became so rebellious about it 857 00:43:04,839 --> 00:43:09,444 it was almost just no way, no way would I do it. 858 00:43:09,510 --> 00:43:12,072 - If you see a woman on the street 859 00:43:12,138 --> 00:43:13,698 who is growing her hair out 860 00:43:13,764 --> 00:43:17,953 and she has four inches of gray on the top of her head 861 00:43:18,019 --> 00:43:19,830 and then whatever color down below, 862 00:43:19,896 --> 00:43:21,581 you should know that that woman 863 00:43:21,647 --> 00:43:24,000 is really fucking strong 864 00:43:24,066 --> 00:43:27,420 because it takes a strong woman to do that. 865 00:43:27,486 --> 00:43:30,048 That is a lot of pain. 866 00:43:30,114 --> 00:43:31,842 Every time she looks in the mirror, 867 00:43:31,908 --> 00:43:34,302 she's seeing half of one thing, half of another. 868 00:43:34,368 --> 00:43:35,303 She doesn't really feel like 869 00:43:35,369 --> 00:43:37,138 she's got much of anything going on. 870 00:43:37,204 --> 00:43:41,226 However many inches there are, that's how many months 871 00:43:41,292 --> 00:43:43,103 she's been going through that transition 872 00:43:43,169 --> 00:43:46,631 and having people in her life say negative things to her. 873 00:43:48,257 --> 00:43:49,526 Boy, the grow out is tough 874 00:43:49,592 --> 00:43:52,654 and I understand that a lot of women 875 00:43:52,720 --> 00:43:55,240 cave during the grow out. 876 00:43:55,306 --> 00:43:57,266 - I caved, yes, I caved. 877 00:43:58,392 --> 00:44:00,078 My mother does not like it. 878 00:44:00,144 --> 00:44:02,163 My son does not like it. 879 00:44:02,229 --> 00:44:04,499 My brother does not like it. 880 00:44:04,565 --> 00:44:07,627 So it was a lot of negativity 881 00:44:07,693 --> 00:44:10,922 and just, I caved to pressure. 882 00:44:10,988 --> 00:44:12,257 - I did have one lady in the book 883 00:44:12,323 --> 00:44:14,175 who did go back and that was because 884 00:44:14,241 --> 00:44:17,637 she was shamed by her regular hairdresser, 885 00:44:17,703 --> 00:44:21,182 and he told her that she looked like a battleship gray. 886 00:44:21,248 --> 00:44:23,143 And other than that, she really liked it 887 00:44:23,209 --> 00:44:27,272 but it was the terminology used around the color she had. 888 00:44:27,338 --> 00:44:29,715 And she said she immediately dyed it back. 889 00:44:29,882 --> 00:44:33,445 - Many times, I changed my mind 890 00:44:33,511 --> 00:44:36,156 because of the people that were around me 891 00:44:36,222 --> 00:44:39,284 and were asking me to color my hair 892 00:44:39,350 --> 00:44:43,396 because I look younger and I'll feel better. 893 00:44:43,813 --> 00:44:46,458 - I remember talking to a male friend 894 00:44:46,524 --> 00:44:49,961 and he mentioned that gray hair 895 00:44:50,027 --> 00:44:52,255 would make a person look dirty 896 00:44:52,321 --> 00:44:53,757 I don't want people to think that I'm dirty, 897 00:44:53,823 --> 00:44:56,117 so I guess I'm gonna have to dye my hair again. (laughs) 898 00:44:56,492 --> 00:45:00,138 - I was in an interview for an adjunct professor position. 899 00:45:00,204 --> 00:45:01,514 The man opposite me said, 900 00:45:01,580 --> 00:45:03,558 "Oh, you must be in your mid-30s." 901 00:45:03,624 --> 00:45:05,352 And I said, "No, I'm 26." 902 00:45:05,418 --> 00:45:10,423 And he said, looking sort of horrified, "Oh, you're 26? 903 00:45:10,715 --> 00:45:12,025 "But I can see your roots, 904 00:45:12,091 --> 00:45:14,277 "so I assumed you were in your 30s." 905 00:45:14,343 --> 00:45:16,196 Okay, this did not sit well with me, 906 00:45:16,262 --> 00:45:18,281 so I immediately started dying my hair, 907 00:45:18,347 --> 00:45:21,851 and I'd been dying my hair from 26 to 50. 908 00:45:22,268 --> 00:45:24,913 - I was with my cousin and we were out 909 00:45:24,979 --> 00:45:27,248 and someone asked me was I her mother. 910 00:45:27,314 --> 00:45:29,108 And I caved that day. 911 00:45:29,442 --> 00:45:33,821 - Gray hair in my culture symbolizes old age. 912 00:45:36,866 --> 00:45:38,718 Your youth is gone. 913 00:45:38,784 --> 00:45:40,303 Who's going to marry you? 914 00:45:40,369 --> 00:45:43,014 Especially in my culture, you have to look young, 915 00:45:43,080 --> 00:45:46,810 you have to look beautiful, you have to have jet black hair 916 00:45:46,876 --> 00:45:51,005 for your husband-to-be in the future. 917 00:45:51,297 --> 00:45:52,607 - When I moved into Laguna Beach, 918 00:45:52,673 --> 00:45:57,529 I met a friend and she told me that no one 919 00:45:57,595 --> 00:46:00,865 would really wanna date me if I had silver hair, 920 00:46:00,931 --> 00:46:04,035 unless they were kind of a granola person 921 00:46:04,101 --> 00:46:07,772 and that would be fine if that's what I was okay with. 922 00:46:07,855 --> 00:46:10,000 - It brings me back to my family, 923 00:46:10,066 --> 00:46:12,293 who think I was gonna just look old 924 00:46:12,359 --> 00:46:15,821 and no one was gonna wanna date me because I had gray hair. 925 00:46:17,406 --> 00:46:19,259 And I did worry about that. 926 00:46:19,325 --> 00:46:24,330 I have gotten divorced, not because of the gray, 927 00:46:24,413 --> 00:46:29,227 but when I was with him and prior to stopping the dye, 928 00:46:29,293 --> 00:46:32,647 whenever it would grow in, he would call me stripe 929 00:46:32,713 --> 00:46:34,924 because I would have a stripe of gray. 930 00:46:35,883 --> 00:46:38,177 So that always stuck with me like hmm. 931 00:46:39,720 --> 00:46:42,198 But then becoming single and worrying 932 00:46:42,264 --> 00:46:44,826 what guys were gonna think about the gray hair, 933 00:46:44,892 --> 00:46:46,911 you know you kinda question it, you do gotta wonder, 934 00:46:46,977 --> 00:46:51,124 but then again if someone is not gonna accept me 935 00:46:51,190 --> 00:46:54,002 for who I am and what color my hair is 936 00:46:54,068 --> 00:46:59,073 regardless if it's gray or brown or pink or purple, 937 00:47:01,075 --> 00:47:02,719 then he's probably not the one for me anyway. 938 00:47:02,785 --> 00:47:03,554 (transition chimes) 939 00:47:03,620 --> 00:47:07,724 - So many women think that if they 940 00:47:07,790 --> 00:47:09,184 embrace their gorgeous grays, 941 00:47:09,250 --> 00:47:11,352 if they allow their natural silver, 942 00:47:11,418 --> 00:47:13,271 white, gray hair to come through, 943 00:47:13,337 --> 00:47:17,067 that they are going to have a difficult time dating. 944 00:47:17,133 --> 00:47:21,488 And while that may sound reasonable, 945 00:47:21,554 --> 00:47:26,076 the reality is, and this is based on a comprehensive 946 00:47:26,142 --> 00:47:28,995 social experiment which you're about to see, 947 00:47:29,061 --> 00:47:32,314 the reality is that it is quite the opposite. 948 00:47:33,190 --> 00:47:34,000 (audience clapping) 949 00:47:34,066 --> 00:47:34,877 - Well, if you color your hair, 950 00:47:34,943 --> 00:47:36,294 you know how costly it can be, 951 00:47:36,360 --> 00:47:38,922 especially if you add it up over time. 952 00:47:38,988 --> 00:47:42,509 It's like drinking five cappuccinos a day, really. 953 00:47:42,575 --> 00:47:45,053 Our guest Anne Kreamer did just that, 954 00:47:45,119 --> 00:47:47,722 and can you guess the amount she spent? 955 00:47:47,788 --> 00:47:50,558 A staggering $65,000. 956 00:47:50,624 --> 00:47:53,770 It's enough to make your hair turn gray 957 00:47:53,836 --> 00:47:55,188 even if it isn't gray. 958 00:47:55,254 --> 00:47:56,898 And that's just what she did. 959 00:47:56,964 --> 00:47:59,442 It's all in her new book, "Going Gray." 960 00:47:59,508 --> 00:48:02,195 When you started doing research for the book, 961 00:48:02,261 --> 00:48:05,115 it was really more like a social experiment. 962 00:48:05,181 --> 00:48:07,117 - It was, I mean, I decided I did 963 00:48:07,183 --> 00:48:08,326 a lot of different things. 964 00:48:08,392 --> 00:48:11,287 I did surveys where I sort of polled people nationwide, 965 00:48:11,353 --> 00:48:12,622 I went out and I talked to women 966 00:48:12,688 --> 00:48:14,124 in malls across the country. 967 00:48:14,190 --> 00:48:15,625 And trust me, you can talk to them 968 00:48:15,691 --> 00:48:17,502 about anything in their lives once you say, 969 00:48:17,568 --> 00:48:19,796 "Can we talk about your hair for a few minutes?" 970 00:48:19,862 --> 00:48:22,382 And then I interviewed people across the world. 971 00:48:22,448 --> 00:48:23,217 - [Martha] Hairdressers? 972 00:48:23,283 --> 00:48:24,801 - Hairdressers across the country. 973 00:48:24,867 --> 00:48:26,886 I went on Match.com, 974 00:48:26,952 --> 00:48:29,347 I went in to meet with corporate recruiters, 975 00:48:29,413 --> 00:48:30,182 image consultants... - Did you go 976 00:48:30,248 --> 00:48:32,767 both as dyed hair and as gray hair 977 00:48:32,833 --> 00:48:35,562 on Match so you had some sort of way to see... 978 00:48:35,628 --> 00:48:37,147 - That's exactly what I did. - You did, okay. 979 00:48:37,213 --> 00:48:38,107 - I went on... 980 00:48:38,173 --> 00:48:39,649 - [Martha] And where did you get the most response? 981 00:48:39,715 --> 00:48:40,817 - With my gray hair. 982 00:48:40,883 --> 00:48:41,651 - You did? 983 00:48:41,717 --> 00:48:42,486 - Counterintuitively. 984 00:48:42,552 --> 00:48:44,863 I went on in New York, Chicago, and Los Angeles, 985 00:48:44,929 --> 00:48:46,781 and in each of those markets, 986 00:48:46,847 --> 00:48:49,159 three times as many men were interested 987 00:48:49,225 --> 00:48:50,618 in going out with me with my hair gray 988 00:48:50,684 --> 00:48:51,619 as they were with my hair brown. 989 00:48:51,685 --> 00:48:52,829 - [Martha] Really, three times? 990 00:48:52,895 --> 00:48:55,456 - Yeah, three times, it was fabulous. 991 00:48:55,522 --> 00:48:57,876 - Most men like it. 992 00:48:57,942 --> 00:49:00,879 It shows them that you have a confidence, 993 00:49:00,945 --> 00:49:05,950 that you wanna be who you are. 994 00:49:06,408 --> 00:49:08,720 That's, I think, the message that men pick up. 995 00:49:08,786 --> 00:49:12,473 - Dating or just talking to people in general, 996 00:49:12,539 --> 00:49:13,683 I've just never had any problems. 997 00:49:13,749 --> 00:49:18,712 I think I do better now than I have years ago, 998 00:49:19,129 --> 00:49:20,506 and I think that's a good thing. 999 00:49:21,173 --> 00:49:23,943 - I didn't have any problems dating, 1000 00:49:24,009 --> 00:49:28,472 and I think the reason is because I owned it, 1001 00:49:29,556 --> 00:49:34,537 I wore it proudly, and I was authentic, 1002 00:49:34,603 --> 00:49:38,333 and I never had a problem dating, mm-mm girl, mm-mm. 1003 00:49:38,399 --> 00:49:40,084 Not one bit. (laughs) 1004 00:49:40,150 --> 00:49:41,169 I had plenty of boyfriends. 1005 00:49:41,235 --> 00:49:46,240 - Dated a lot of men and nothing ever came of my hair color. 1006 00:49:46,448 --> 00:49:50,094 I think they liked it, I think they really liked it. 1007 00:49:50,160 --> 00:49:53,139 And then I met my second husband 1008 00:49:53,205 --> 00:49:55,291 and he has a full head of white hair now. 1009 00:49:55,708 --> 00:49:58,937 - Actually, I have a lot of men stop me 1010 00:49:59,003 --> 00:50:01,022 and tell me how great my hair looks 1011 00:50:01,088 --> 00:50:03,775 or how much they like my hair. 1012 00:50:03,841 --> 00:50:04,610 (transition chimes) 1013 00:50:04,676 --> 00:50:07,403 - So many women become very aware 1014 00:50:07,469 --> 00:50:11,491 that once they have silver, gray, or white hair 1015 00:50:11,557 --> 00:50:13,743 that the colors that they used to wear 1016 00:50:13,809 --> 00:50:17,121 on clothing, jewelry, their makeup, 1017 00:50:17,187 --> 00:50:18,706 actually has to change. 1018 00:50:18,772 --> 00:50:21,542 So I had the good fortune of meeting Jill Kirsh. 1019 00:50:21,608 --> 00:50:23,086 She is a color consultant 1020 00:50:23,152 --> 00:50:26,714 and she has been featured everywhere. 1021 00:50:26,780 --> 00:50:30,301 She was named the Best Color Consultant 1022 00:50:30,367 --> 00:50:33,221 by L.A. Magazine's Best of L.A. issue. 1023 00:50:33,287 --> 00:50:36,057 She was featured in In Style Magazine, 1024 00:50:36,123 --> 00:50:41,128 The Los Angeles Times, countless TV programs on NBC, ABC, 1025 00:50:41,628 --> 00:50:45,108 and I am thrilled that she agreed 1026 00:50:45,174 --> 00:50:46,985 to be a part of this documentary 1027 00:50:47,051 --> 00:50:49,404 so that you ladies will know now 1028 00:50:49,470 --> 00:50:51,739 what colors you should be wearing 1029 00:50:51,805 --> 00:50:55,076 with your new silver, gray, white hair. 1030 00:50:55,142 --> 00:50:59,539 - I put together a system for fashion and for beauty 1031 00:50:59,605 --> 00:51:03,484 that's entirely based on someone's present hair color 1032 00:51:03,734 --> 00:51:05,670 because what I've learned over the years 1033 00:51:05,736 --> 00:51:07,839 is that your hair frames your face. 1034 00:51:07,905 --> 00:51:09,966 It frames your eyes and your smile 1035 00:51:10,032 --> 00:51:12,593 and you really need to work it to pull everything together. 1036 00:51:12,659 --> 00:51:14,804 Everyone can wear most every color. 1037 00:51:14,870 --> 00:51:17,598 It just depends on the shade of that color. 1038 00:51:17,664 --> 00:51:20,393 And for the gray, for the salt and pepper, 1039 00:51:20,459 --> 00:51:22,812 for silver, it's very different 1040 00:51:22,878 --> 00:51:25,648 than for basically any other hair color. 1041 00:51:25,714 --> 00:51:26,607 You wanna see all your colors? 1042 00:51:26,673 --> 00:51:27,443 - I would love to see all my colors, yes, yes. 1043 00:51:27,509 --> 00:51:29,110 - Do you wanna see all her colors? 1044 00:51:29,176 --> 00:51:30,153 - Okay. - Let's see it. 1045 00:51:30,219 --> 00:51:31,904 - These are your colors. 1046 00:51:31,970 --> 00:51:34,073 So I'm gonna take you through this. 1047 00:51:34,139 --> 00:51:37,785 Every single shade in here is great 1048 00:51:37,851 --> 00:51:42,707 with salt and pepper hair, silver hair, okay, 1049 00:51:42,773 --> 00:51:44,834 everything in here works really well. 1050 00:51:44,900 --> 00:51:49,756 Grays are fabulous, grays, black totally, 1051 00:51:49,822 --> 00:51:54,093 all of these, yellow, but a really clear, true yellow, 1052 00:51:54,159 --> 00:51:56,929 orange, these are very stark, clear colors. 1053 00:51:56,995 --> 00:51:58,056 The red is a true red, 1054 00:51:58,122 --> 00:52:00,266 it's not too orange-y, it's not too blue. 1055 00:52:00,332 --> 00:52:01,267 And pink... 1056 00:52:01,333 --> 00:52:02,310 - Now how am I gonna remember 1057 00:52:02,376 --> 00:52:04,062 all of these colors that I can wear? 1058 00:52:04,128 --> 00:52:05,438 - Oh, you don't remember, you just remember. 1059 00:52:05,504 --> 00:52:07,148 - (laughs) I don't have a photographic memory. 1060 00:52:07,214 --> 00:52:09,942 - Okay, so this is what I've done to make it so simple. 1061 00:52:10,008 --> 00:52:12,445 I've put together this swatch book. 1062 00:52:12,511 --> 00:52:15,198 This is like the keys to the kingdom, this is everything. 1063 00:52:15,264 --> 00:52:16,282 My clients don't go shopping without this. 1064 00:52:16,348 --> 00:52:17,617 - It's the perfect size. 1065 00:52:17,683 --> 00:52:19,285 - Look at this, it's like a wallet size, 1066 00:52:19,351 --> 00:52:23,456 it takes every single shade of these colors 1067 00:52:23,522 --> 00:52:25,124 and you take it with you to go shopping 1068 00:52:25,190 --> 00:52:27,418 and you go up to the item in the store 1069 00:52:27,484 --> 00:52:29,462 and you go, "Okay, is this this color?" 1070 00:52:29,528 --> 00:52:33,132 See, she would never buy this color every anymore, right? 1071 00:52:33,198 --> 00:52:35,968 'Cause it's not in her swatch book, okay? 1072 00:52:36,034 --> 00:52:38,388 So the other thing that's really cool about the swatch book 1073 00:52:38,454 --> 00:52:41,182 is that not only are all of these your colors, 1074 00:52:41,248 --> 00:52:42,934 but you can mix and match and layer and this 1075 00:52:43,000 --> 00:52:45,728 and it's awesome and it works all the time. 1076 00:52:45,794 --> 00:52:46,729 And this goes from... 1077 00:52:46,795 --> 00:52:48,523 - This is makeup that goes with it as well? 1078 00:52:48,589 --> 00:52:49,649 - [Jill] It is. 1079 00:52:49,715 --> 00:52:50,484 - [Victoria] This is gonna tell me 1080 00:52:50,550 --> 00:52:51,567 what colors I can wear now? 1081 00:52:51,633 --> 00:52:53,403 - Yes, it's gonna give you every shade. 1082 00:52:53,469 --> 00:52:55,613 - I knew they had to be different because, yeah, 1083 00:52:55,679 --> 00:52:57,365 okay, cool, I'm very excited. - Very different, enough said, 1084 00:52:57,431 --> 00:52:59,242 enough said. (laughs) 1085 00:52:59,308 --> 00:53:02,203 Yeah, so here's something I wanna share with everyone. 1086 00:53:02,269 --> 00:53:05,581 Okay, for your base, for your foundation, 1087 00:53:05,647 --> 00:53:06,874 it's all about the skin tone. 1088 00:53:06,940 --> 00:53:08,251 You wanna get something fabulous 1089 00:53:08,317 --> 00:53:09,836 that blends into your jawline, 1090 00:53:09,902 --> 00:53:12,422 your favorite manufacturer, whatever, okay? 1091 00:53:12,488 --> 00:53:14,507 But for the eyes, cheeks, and lips, 1092 00:53:14,573 --> 00:53:16,926 it is all about your hair color. 1093 00:53:16,992 --> 00:53:20,787 And so what I did was I designed these makeup kits 1094 00:53:21,830 --> 00:53:23,683 for the eyes, cheeks, and lips. 1095 00:53:23,749 --> 00:53:27,103 Every shade of every color is gonna work for you. 1096 00:53:27,169 --> 00:53:29,630 Even if I hold it up to your face, it's fabulous. 1097 00:53:30,672 --> 00:53:34,193 And they all blend with each other. 1098 00:53:34,259 --> 00:53:36,571 It's fabulous, it's great, it's really great. 1099 00:53:36,637 --> 00:53:37,905 There's a lip gloss, 1100 00:53:37,971 --> 00:53:39,407 there are three different shades of lipstick 1101 00:53:39,473 --> 00:53:41,534 because it's the same thing with the colors. 1102 00:53:41,600 --> 00:53:44,162 It's not like you get one blue and one green, 1103 00:53:44,228 --> 00:53:45,246 you get a bunch of shades, 1104 00:53:45,312 --> 00:53:48,749 but shades that all complement your hair color, okay? 1105 00:53:48,815 --> 00:53:50,042 - That's beautiful. 1106 00:53:50,108 --> 00:53:54,505 - Well, the makeup kit is all derived from the swatches 1107 00:53:54,571 --> 00:53:57,467 so the seams comes from the swatches, 1108 00:53:57,533 --> 00:54:01,012 to the makeup, to your hair, you see? 1109 00:54:01,078 --> 00:54:02,013 - That's a no-brainer. 1110 00:54:02,079 --> 00:54:03,598 - So everything all works together 1111 00:54:03,664 --> 00:54:08,669 and what you have works so hard to get to with transitioning 1112 00:54:08,835 --> 00:54:11,105 and now you have this fabulous head of hair, 1113 00:54:11,171 --> 00:54:13,441 how do you work it, what do you do 1114 00:54:13,507 --> 00:54:16,944 to make it soar, make it amazing? 1115 00:54:17,010 --> 00:54:19,030 And that's what I've done, that's what I've done. 1116 00:54:19,096 --> 00:54:21,324 - You've saved us so much time and money 1117 00:54:21,390 --> 00:54:24,285 going to the store, trying out different colors, 1118 00:54:24,351 --> 00:54:25,953 seeing if they'll work now. 1119 00:54:26,019 --> 00:54:28,080 This is all in one, it's a godsend, 1120 00:54:28,146 --> 00:54:29,081 it really is. - Yeah, it's great. 1121 00:54:29,147 --> 00:54:30,333 - And I love these lipsticks. 1122 00:54:30,399 --> 00:54:33,252 - It's all mineral-based, parabens-free lipstick. 1123 00:54:33,318 --> 00:54:34,736 It's a really clean product. 1124 00:54:35,153 --> 00:54:36,964 - Well, very few women have the beautiful 1125 00:54:37,030 --> 00:54:38,466 gray hair that you have. 1126 00:54:38,532 --> 00:54:41,552 I mean, my hair isn't naturally this color 1127 00:54:41,618 --> 00:54:43,370 and I choose to dye it. 1128 00:54:43,704 --> 00:54:45,515 - I've had a lot of women say, 1129 00:54:45,581 --> 00:54:47,683 "Oh, well if my hair looked as good as yours 1130 00:54:47,749 --> 00:54:49,352 "then I would do it." 1131 00:54:49,418 --> 00:54:52,421 I said, "But how would you know if you don't grow it out?" 1132 00:54:53,338 --> 00:54:54,690 You're not gonna know. 1133 00:54:54,756 --> 00:54:58,760 And anyway, all different shades of gray, it's beautiful. 1134 00:55:00,178 --> 00:55:02,472 So why not just let it go? 1135 00:55:02,723 --> 00:55:04,700 - It's like, "Oh, I love your silver hair 1136 00:55:04,766 --> 00:55:05,868 "but that's not good for me. 1137 00:55:05,934 --> 00:55:07,245 "Mine would never do that." 1138 00:55:07,311 --> 00:55:08,496 You're only seeing a tiny bit. 1139 00:55:08,562 --> 00:55:10,748 Of course it's not gonna look good. 1140 00:55:10,814 --> 00:55:13,334 You got to give it some time to splay open 1141 00:55:13,400 --> 00:55:15,628 so we can really see it in its entirety. 1142 00:55:15,694 --> 00:55:19,799 - Everybody that now, work or church or something, 1143 00:55:19,865 --> 00:55:22,718 they say to me, "Your hair is beautiful. 1144 00:55:22,784 --> 00:55:24,595 "If I could go that color, I would." 1145 00:55:24,661 --> 00:55:27,306 Like, "Oh my god, it's so great you're doing this, 1146 00:55:27,372 --> 00:55:29,559 "I wish I had the guts to do this." 1147 00:55:29,625 --> 00:55:31,978 If I had a nickel for every time I heard that from somebody. 1148 00:55:32,044 --> 00:55:33,980 - A lot of women still come up to me and they're like, 1149 00:55:34,046 --> 00:55:36,274 "Oh, I love your hair, it's so beautiful, 1150 00:55:36,340 --> 00:55:39,193 "but I can't do that, it won't look as good on me." 1151 00:55:39,259 --> 00:55:41,445 - I would like to see my hair grown, 1152 00:55:41,511 --> 00:55:44,156 and I wanted at first just to see it 1153 00:55:44,222 --> 00:55:46,701 so that I could look at it in front of me. 1154 00:55:46,767 --> 00:55:49,328 And when it got this long, then people said, 1155 00:55:49,394 --> 00:55:50,830 "I think I really like that." 1156 00:55:50,896 --> 00:55:55,334 So I continued to let it grow and I really enjoyed watching 1157 00:55:55,400 --> 00:55:57,295 the multiple colors come through, 1158 00:55:57,361 --> 00:56:00,881 so the race has been how long can I get it? 1159 00:56:00,947 --> 00:56:02,842 And I can tell you that I have not had 1160 00:56:02,908 --> 00:56:05,803 this long hair since 1974. 1161 00:56:05,869 --> 00:56:07,179 - But I think it's also demonstrating 1162 00:56:07,245 --> 00:56:09,557 that gray is actually color in and of itself. 1163 00:56:09,623 --> 00:56:11,267 It's not the absence of anything... 1164 00:56:11,333 --> 00:56:12,310 - It's just a different color. - And I think there's 1165 00:56:12,376 --> 00:56:13,145 a spectrum, it's just a different color. 1166 00:56:13,211 --> 00:56:15,688 - So is there a right way to go gray, then? 1167 00:56:15,754 --> 00:56:18,524 - [Reporter] More and more women are saying goodbye to dye 1168 00:56:18,590 --> 00:56:21,569 and hello to their natural silver hair color. 1169 00:56:21,635 --> 00:56:24,405 Celebrities like Jamie Lee Curtis and Helen Mirren 1170 00:56:24,471 --> 00:56:26,907 were some of the first to go full silver, 1171 00:56:26,973 --> 00:56:30,828 but young girls like Pink and Lady Gaga have followed suit. 1172 00:56:30,894 --> 00:56:32,496 (transition rumbles) 1173 00:56:32,562 --> 00:56:33,914 (chiming music) 1174 00:56:33,980 --> 00:56:36,876 - The trend, I find it fascinating. 1175 00:56:36,942 --> 00:56:41,672 I think the young Osbourne girl 1176 00:56:41,738 --> 00:56:44,592 was one of the ones I remember was wearing it very well. 1177 00:56:44,658 --> 00:56:47,053 She also had in colors of plum 1178 00:56:47,119 --> 00:56:48,387 and the way she designed her hair, 1179 00:56:48,453 --> 00:56:51,098 it was always very attractive. 1180 00:56:51,164 --> 00:56:53,934 Lady Gaga, I think she's done a great way 1181 00:56:54,000 --> 00:56:57,003 of showing and sharing with people how that hair will look 1182 00:56:57,254 --> 00:56:59,065 - I find it quite flattering 1183 00:56:59,131 --> 00:57:00,733 that they want to look like us, 1184 00:57:00,799 --> 00:57:03,110 those of us who are naturally gray. 1185 00:57:03,176 --> 00:57:06,155 But on the other hand, very damaging to their hair 1186 00:57:06,221 --> 00:57:08,324 and it's a lot of upkeep and expense. 1187 00:57:08,390 --> 00:57:10,701 - All right Susie, we're ready for you. 1188 00:57:10,767 --> 00:57:13,287 - [Reporter] Susie Katz can't wait to go gray. 1189 00:57:13,353 --> 00:57:15,331 In fact, she's "dyeing" to. 1190 00:57:15,397 --> 00:57:17,625 - [Marie] Okay here we go, there's no turning back now. 1191 00:57:17,691 --> 00:57:19,001 - [Reporter] The 29-year-old is one of 1192 00:57:19,067 --> 00:57:21,253 a growing number of young women and men 1193 00:57:21,319 --> 00:57:24,048 who are asking professionals like Marie Robinson 1194 00:57:24,114 --> 00:57:27,009 to color their locks various shades of gray. 1195 00:57:27,075 --> 00:57:29,136 - How often are you doing this in your salon? 1196 00:57:29,202 --> 00:57:30,763 - I would say that we're averaging 1197 00:57:30,829 --> 00:57:32,848 probably three to four clients a week, 1198 00:57:32,914 --> 00:57:35,267 which I think is a lot for something 1199 00:57:35,333 --> 00:57:38,062 that's such an unusual and unique look. 1200 00:57:38,128 --> 00:57:39,689 - [Reporter] 24-year-old Jean Salvador 1201 00:57:39,755 --> 00:57:42,024 has been gray for the past four months. 1202 00:57:42,090 --> 00:57:45,236 - I come back to do this about once a month. 1203 00:57:45,302 --> 00:57:46,737 - [Reporter] Colorist Lucille Javier 1204 00:57:46,803 --> 00:57:49,156 must bleach the hair to a pale yellow 1205 00:57:49,222 --> 00:57:50,700 then apply the gray tint. 1206 00:57:50,766 --> 00:57:53,160 - The transformation process is about 1207 00:57:53,226 --> 00:57:55,871 an eight to nine hour job. 1208 00:57:55,937 --> 00:57:58,916 - [Reporter] The average cost is about $700, 1209 00:57:58,982 --> 00:58:01,919 but that can vary depending on your hair and the salon. 1210 00:58:01,985 --> 00:58:04,255 After an entire day in the chair, 1211 00:58:04,321 --> 00:58:05,798 Susie loves her new look. 1212 00:58:05,864 --> 00:58:10,243 - I feel like a super chic older lady. 1213 00:58:10,702 --> 00:58:12,471 - I think what it actually says 1214 00:58:12,537 --> 00:58:16,267 is that they have seen enough of us women 1215 00:58:16,333 --> 00:58:18,769 with natural silver hair that look good 1216 00:58:18,835 --> 00:58:21,355 and healthy and happy and confident 1217 00:58:21,421 --> 00:58:24,108 that they think oh wow, I wanna try that. 1218 00:58:24,174 --> 00:58:27,069 - Some of them look good if they wanna spend the money, 1219 00:58:27,135 --> 00:58:29,721 but I think they should wait 'til they earn it. 1220 00:58:30,263 --> 00:58:32,616 - Well, women and men who are naturally going gray, 1221 00:58:32,682 --> 00:58:34,827 they're embracing it more because of this trend. 1222 00:58:34,893 --> 00:58:37,204 One of the colorists that I spoke to, Marie Robinson, 1223 00:58:37,270 --> 00:58:39,874 she said that older people are noticing 1224 00:58:39,940 --> 00:58:41,917 this trend in younger women and really embracing it 1225 00:58:41,983 --> 00:58:43,377 'cause it can be quite beautiful. 1226 00:58:43,443 --> 00:58:45,045 Because it's a lighter shade, they say 1227 00:58:45,111 --> 00:58:46,589 that gray is the new blonde. 1228 00:58:46,655 --> 00:58:47,965 It sort of has a brightening, 1229 00:58:48,031 --> 00:58:49,783 softening effect on a lot of people. 1230 00:58:49,908 --> 00:58:52,887 - A lot of people think that I am having it done, 1231 00:58:52,953 --> 00:58:55,097 and they are very, very surprised 1232 00:58:55,163 --> 00:58:56,974 when I tell them that it's my hair. 1233 00:58:57,040 --> 00:58:58,976 And they're like "No, it's not." 1234 00:58:59,042 --> 00:59:00,895 Yes, it's my hair. 1235 00:59:00,961 --> 00:59:04,064 And at that point, I think I feel 1236 00:59:04,130 --> 00:59:07,359 a little bit of pride that I can have 1237 00:59:07,425 --> 00:59:10,237 someone think that it's professionally done 1238 00:59:10,303 --> 00:59:11,906 when it's just me. (laughs) 1239 00:59:11,972 --> 00:59:14,658 - She was complimenting me on my hair 1240 00:59:14,724 --> 00:59:15,851 and thought I had it done. 1241 00:59:16,101 --> 00:59:17,953 - I get stopped out on the streets, 1242 00:59:18,019 --> 00:59:21,165 department stores, coffee houses. 1243 00:59:21,231 --> 00:59:22,000 They're always asking me, 1244 00:59:22,066 --> 00:59:25,127 "What color did you put in your hair? 1245 00:59:25,193 --> 00:59:26,420 "Oh, that's such a great cut." 1246 00:59:26,486 --> 00:59:28,964 I'm like, okay, do you really wanna know the truth? 1247 00:59:29,030 --> 00:59:31,133 The truth is there's no color. (laughs) 1248 00:59:31,199 --> 00:59:32,576 It's my natural. 1249 00:59:32,909 --> 00:59:35,930 - My hair was up and just the beginning was white 1250 00:59:35,996 --> 00:59:36,765 and people would ask me, 1251 00:59:36,831 --> 00:59:38,933 "How did you get that, how did you do that? 1252 00:59:38,999 --> 00:59:39,934 "Who's your hairdresser? 1253 00:59:40,000 --> 00:59:40,976 "How do I get that look?" 1254 00:59:41,042 --> 00:59:42,895 And I said, "Well, nature. 1255 00:59:42,961 --> 00:59:43,962 "I just let it grow." 1256 00:59:44,212 --> 00:59:45,856 - I was recently in my cousin's wedding 1257 00:59:45,922 --> 00:59:47,775 and I got this really wild hairstyle 1258 00:59:47,841 --> 00:59:49,443 and I got so many compliments 1259 00:59:49,509 --> 00:59:50,861 'cause they're like, "Is that real? 1260 00:59:50,927 --> 00:59:51,696 (Victoria laughs) 1261 00:59:51,762 --> 00:59:54,198 "Did you do that just for the wedding?" 1262 00:59:54,264 --> 00:59:56,116 'Cause the accents to the dresses were all silver. 1263 00:59:56,182 --> 00:59:59,119 So they were like, "Did you get that done professionally?" 1264 00:59:59,185 --> 01:00:00,371 I'm like, "Well, the hairstyle yes, 1265 01:00:00,437 --> 01:00:02,314 "but the hair is au naturel." 1266 01:00:03,189 --> 01:00:06,276 - I realized this is who I am. 1267 01:00:07,736 --> 01:00:12,741 I wish I had done it back in my 30s 1268 01:00:12,866 --> 01:00:16,178 when I first noticed it, quite honestly. 1269 01:00:16,244 --> 01:00:18,389 - The only regret is I didn't do it sooner. 1270 01:00:18,455 --> 01:00:19,456 I wish that I had. 1271 01:00:19,748 --> 01:00:24,603 - But I feel great now and it's something 1272 01:00:24,669 --> 01:00:27,106 that I wish I had done sooner. 1273 01:00:27,172 --> 01:00:30,442 - I wanna make this for my granddaughters. 1274 01:00:30,508 --> 01:00:33,279 I have a three year old and I have a five year old, 1275 01:00:33,345 --> 01:00:35,739 and also for my grandsons, 1276 01:00:35,805 --> 01:00:39,118 because they're ten and six and I don't want them to think 1277 01:00:39,184 --> 01:00:40,953 a woman is defined by the color of her hair, 1278 01:00:41,019 --> 01:00:41,954 she's not beautiful because 1279 01:00:42,020 --> 01:00:43,455 she's older and she has gray hair. 1280 01:00:43,521 --> 01:00:45,082 I want them to realize women are beautiful 1281 01:00:45,148 --> 01:00:46,625 no matter what age they are, 1282 01:00:46,691 --> 01:00:48,168 and I want my granddaughters to realize 1283 01:00:48,234 --> 01:00:50,588 when they see that first strand of silver hair, 1284 01:00:50,654 --> 01:00:52,256 it's not the end, it's only the beginning 1285 01:00:52,322 --> 01:00:53,841 of such a beautiful journey. 1286 01:00:53,907 --> 01:00:55,384 It's what you make of it and you can't 1287 01:00:55,450 --> 01:00:58,137 let the outside world or society or even Hollywood 1288 01:00:58,203 --> 01:01:00,848 determine whether you're good enough 1289 01:01:00,914 --> 01:01:02,057 because you have gray hair. 1290 01:01:02,123 --> 01:01:05,644 Gray hair is a given and I wear this like a badge of honor. 1291 01:01:05,710 --> 01:01:08,272 I am so blessed to be here and I'm proud 1292 01:01:08,338 --> 01:01:10,357 and I've earned the right to walk around 1293 01:01:10,423 --> 01:01:12,008 and be proud that I have my gray hair. 1294 01:01:12,425 --> 01:01:17,639 - A 12 or 13-year-old girl, she actually came up to me 1295 01:01:17,973 --> 01:01:21,994 and told me that she liked my hair, 1296 01:01:22,060 --> 01:01:26,332 so I was like, "That's really sweet of you." 1297 01:01:26,398 --> 01:01:31,611 So I always appreciate when a young person likes my hair 1298 01:01:31,736 --> 01:01:34,548 because it's always nice. 1299 01:01:34,614 --> 01:01:37,760 - My 13-year-old has gotten her first strand 1300 01:01:37,826 --> 01:01:40,179 and she's very excited about it. 1301 01:01:40,245 --> 01:01:42,706 She's looking forward to it. 1302 01:01:44,040 --> 01:01:46,060 My 16-year-old doesn't have any, 1303 01:01:46,126 --> 01:01:50,356 and my 28-year-old, she is getting hers come in, 1304 01:01:50,422 --> 01:01:52,775 and she calls them her little 1305 01:01:52,841 --> 01:01:55,468 glitter streaks on her hair. (laughs) 1306 01:01:55,885 --> 01:01:59,448 - Now that I have embraced my natural look, 1307 01:01:59,514 --> 01:02:01,533 I would love to be able to be part 1308 01:02:01,599 --> 01:02:03,827 of empowering young women 1309 01:02:03,893 --> 01:02:06,312 to just accept themselves the way they are, 1310 01:02:07,689 --> 01:02:10,876 to kind of resist the culture 1311 01:02:10,942 --> 01:02:13,754 that we must do all these things 1312 01:02:13,820 --> 01:02:19,093 to create kind of a false sense of who we are. 1313 01:02:19,159 --> 01:02:20,260 (transition chimes) 1314 01:02:20,326 --> 01:02:25,182 - Okay my lovelies, now the fun begins. 1315 01:02:25,248 --> 01:02:27,351 You have gone through the transition 1316 01:02:27,417 --> 01:02:32,398 and you have weathered the storms, so to speak, 1317 01:02:32,464 --> 01:02:35,150 and now you are getting more compliments 1318 01:02:35,216 --> 01:02:37,361 than you have ever received 1319 01:02:37,427 --> 01:02:39,405 in your entire life about your hair, 1320 01:02:39,471 --> 01:02:42,741 and it's rather interesting because 1321 01:02:42,807 --> 01:02:45,661 all of the heartache that we went through 1322 01:02:45,727 --> 01:02:48,330 to get to the point of being fully transitioned 1323 01:02:48,396 --> 01:02:51,792 is met with such applause 1324 01:02:51,858 --> 01:02:56,630 and such adulation and admiration, 1325 01:02:56,696 --> 01:02:59,258 it's amazing that anyone would have 1326 01:02:59,324 --> 01:03:01,927 anything negative to say ever about it 1327 01:03:01,993 --> 01:03:05,305 once you are fully transitioned, as you will see. 1328 01:03:05,371 --> 01:03:07,474 - When you do embrace it, 1329 01:03:07,540 --> 01:03:10,936 there's something that feels really good about that. 1330 01:03:11,002 --> 01:03:12,002 You know... 1331 01:03:14,255 --> 01:03:15,441 There's something that just feels good, 1332 01:03:15,507 --> 01:03:17,634 like you're being real, you're being authentic. 1333 01:03:17,967 --> 01:03:19,653 - This has made me feel very powerful 1334 01:03:19,719 --> 01:03:21,280 and I can do anything. 1335 01:03:21,346 --> 01:03:23,490 - I really felt powerful because 1336 01:03:23,556 --> 01:03:26,285 I was making a choice and kind of going against the grain 1337 01:03:26,351 --> 01:03:28,704 because people don't really like you 1338 01:03:28,770 --> 01:03:30,396 to go against the grain, right? 1339 01:03:30,688 --> 01:03:33,983 - My hair says I'm powerful, original, and independent. 1340 01:03:34,526 --> 01:03:36,462 - The next day I went to my hairstylist 1341 01:03:36,528 --> 01:03:39,715 and I told him I want it all chopped off. 1342 01:03:39,781 --> 01:03:43,594 And when I took my first look in the mirror, 1343 01:03:43,660 --> 01:03:48,665 for me, it was one of the most freeing experiences 1344 01:03:49,165 --> 01:03:52,001 to just be me, it was great. 1345 01:03:52,210 --> 01:03:55,672 - For me, cutting my hair short makes me feel free, 1346 01:03:56,798 --> 01:03:59,777 and going gray, especially all of the ones 1347 01:03:59,843 --> 01:04:02,279 we did all day say the keyword is freedom. 1348 01:04:02,345 --> 01:04:03,345 - Freedom. 1349 01:04:04,139 --> 01:04:05,532 They're like, "Freedom!" 1350 01:04:05,598 --> 01:04:07,618 - Don't listen to other people. 1351 01:04:07,684 --> 01:04:10,162 If it's what you want, just do it. 1352 01:04:10,228 --> 01:04:12,122 - I wanna be who I am, I wanna be real, 1353 01:04:12,188 --> 01:04:14,958 I wanna be genuine, I wanna be authentic, 1354 01:04:15,024 --> 01:04:16,442 and I wanna be free! 1355 01:04:16,609 --> 01:04:19,088 - It just makes me feel free and freer 1356 01:04:19,154 --> 01:04:20,339 for something that I don't have to 1357 01:04:20,405 --> 01:04:22,633 deal with every few weeks. 1358 01:04:22,699 --> 01:04:24,885 - And I wanted the freedom, and that's what I have now. 1359 01:04:24,951 --> 01:04:29,348 I feel very free to be myself with my hair as-is. 1360 01:04:29,414 --> 01:04:31,225 - I went through my phases of purple hair 1361 01:04:31,291 --> 01:04:34,478 and blonde, brunette, redhead, you name it. 1362 01:04:34,544 --> 01:04:38,899 But honestly, none of them felt like me 1363 01:04:38,965 --> 01:04:40,234 the way that this does. 1364 01:04:40,300 --> 01:04:43,862 - So for me, it's about reinvention, 1365 01:04:43,928 --> 01:04:45,597 it's about authenticity. 1366 01:04:45,847 --> 01:04:48,492 - This is not about them, this is about me 1367 01:04:48,558 --> 01:04:50,393 and I've never been happier. 1368 01:04:51,102 --> 01:04:53,730 - It is an amazing journey in itself, 1369 01:04:55,148 --> 01:04:58,085 and it's liberating, that's my word for that. 1370 01:04:58,151 --> 01:05:01,046 It is so liberating not to have any 1371 01:05:01,112 --> 01:05:03,448 products or chemicals on my head 1372 01:05:04,782 --> 01:05:06,593 and I don't know where else they go. 1373 01:05:06,659 --> 01:05:08,929 - I have loved every minute 1374 01:05:08,995 --> 01:05:11,473 of not dyeing my hair in the past 14 weeks. 1375 01:05:11,539 --> 01:05:17,545 I have felt liberated like I can't even begin to tell you. 1376 01:05:18,087 --> 01:05:20,232 My mind doesn't even think about, 1377 01:05:20,298 --> 01:05:22,317 oh, maybe I need to dye my hair, 1378 01:05:22,383 --> 01:05:24,695 or I'm going to this social occasion, 1379 01:05:24,761 --> 01:05:26,989 how far in will I be in my dye job, 1380 01:05:27,055 --> 01:05:28,073 will my roots be showing? 1381 01:05:28,139 --> 01:05:28,908 I mean all of that is... 1382 01:05:28,974 --> 01:05:30,117 - [Victoria] Which is everything you thought about before. 1383 01:05:30,183 --> 01:05:32,870 - Yeah, totally, and it's poof, gone. 1384 01:05:32,936 --> 01:05:37,941 Not having to give that a thought is fan-fucking-tastic. 1385 01:05:38,149 --> 01:05:39,459 - [Victoria] (laughs) I love it. 1386 01:05:39,525 --> 01:05:43,297 - It is awesome, and I mean that alone 1387 01:05:43,363 --> 01:05:45,883 gives me life that I'm like, I can make it through this. 1388 01:05:45,949 --> 01:05:46,759 - [Victoria] Right. 1389 01:05:46,825 --> 01:05:51,513 - I've always caved in to the general consensus, 1390 01:05:51,579 --> 01:05:53,557 what you should do, what you shouldn't do, 1391 01:05:53,623 --> 01:05:58,211 and I'm feeling a lot freer now. 1392 01:05:58,419 --> 01:06:00,314 - Like today, I'm coming here today 1393 01:06:00,380 --> 01:06:03,525 and I have to tell you, I would've thought about, 1394 01:06:03,591 --> 01:06:04,776 well, when am I gonna color my hair, 1395 01:06:04,842 --> 01:06:07,613 is it gonna last by the time I get here, 1396 01:06:07,679 --> 01:06:08,989 is it gonna peek through? 1397 01:06:09,055 --> 01:06:10,807 Because my hair grows really fast. 1398 01:06:12,267 --> 01:06:14,536 So I would have to think about all of that stress, 1399 01:06:14,602 --> 01:06:16,413 but I didn't have to think about any of that, 1400 01:06:16,479 --> 01:06:18,690 which was awesome and I loved it. 1401 01:06:18,982 --> 01:06:20,751 - [Reporter] 51-year-old Dana Guerrero 1402 01:06:20,817 --> 01:06:22,711 wanted to follow the silver movement 1403 01:06:22,777 --> 01:06:24,588 and came to Massey for help. 1404 01:06:24,654 --> 01:06:25,964 - It'll definitely take a little while 1405 01:06:26,030 --> 01:06:28,658 for me to get used to it, I'm anticipating that 1406 01:06:29,617 --> 01:06:32,512 because I think it'll be a little radical today. 1407 01:06:32,578 --> 01:06:35,891 But I'm open to the experience. 1408 01:06:35,957 --> 01:06:37,517 - [Reporter] After a few hours in the chair, 1409 01:06:37,583 --> 01:06:40,646 Dana is ready to see her transformation. 1410 01:06:40,712 --> 01:06:41,480 - Dana? 1411 01:06:41,546 --> 01:06:42,398 - Yes? - Are you ready? 1412 01:06:42,464 --> 01:06:44,358 - I'm ready. - I'm gonna turn you around. 1413 01:06:44,424 --> 01:06:45,484 - Okay. 1414 01:06:45,550 --> 01:06:46,550 - Okay? 1415 01:06:48,011 --> 01:06:50,030 - Oh holy, oh my gosh. 1416 01:06:50,096 --> 01:06:51,281 - (laughs) No swearing. 1417 01:06:51,347 --> 01:06:53,492 - I know! (laughs) 1418 01:06:53,558 --> 01:06:55,768 Oh my goodness. 1419 01:06:59,355 --> 01:07:00,540 - Honestly. 1420 01:07:00,606 --> 01:07:02,459 - I don't even know who this is. 1421 01:07:02,525 --> 01:07:03,460 I don't know what to think. 1422 01:07:03,526 --> 01:07:05,611 I mean, it's beautiful, I love it. 1423 01:07:06,529 --> 01:07:11,009 It's such a change that I can't speak now. 1424 01:07:11,075 --> 01:07:13,512 I mean, I never am at a loss for words. 1425 01:07:13,578 --> 01:07:15,389 - [Reporter] Would you do it again if you had to? 1426 01:07:15,455 --> 01:07:16,349 - Oh, totally. 1427 01:07:16,415 --> 01:07:19,459 There's something real deep going on here. 1428 01:07:21,919 --> 01:07:22,919 Yeah. 1429 01:07:24,297 --> 01:07:26,466 It's like a, I don't know? 1430 01:07:28,176 --> 01:07:36,176 (empowering music) 1431 01:07:49,572 --> 01:07:54,577 Gray Is The New Blonde means to me joy, 1432 01:07:54,869 --> 01:08:01,751 effervescence, power, life, energy, 1433 01:08:02,168 --> 01:08:08,424 and an upward trajectory 'til we dive off into infinity. 1434 01:08:08,633 --> 01:08:11,028 - I have an inner confidence right now 1435 01:08:11,094 --> 01:08:12,738 and I'm not even fully gray yet. 1436 01:08:12,804 --> 01:08:14,823 I mean, 'cause this takes strength. 1437 01:08:14,889 --> 01:08:17,868 To walk through life like this right now, 1438 01:08:17,934 --> 01:08:21,312 you need to be a badass and that's how I feel. 1439 01:08:21,479 --> 01:08:24,875 - It is a movement, it's a declaration 1440 01:08:24,941 --> 01:08:27,586 of a stage, not an age. 1441 01:08:27,652 --> 01:08:32,049 It moves me to be a part of this beautiful, 1442 01:08:32,115 --> 01:08:34,343 beautiful time of life where women 1443 01:08:34,409 --> 01:08:37,387 are just standing up for who they are, 1444 01:08:37,453 --> 01:08:39,664 and who knew that it would start with our hair? 1445 01:08:39,914 --> 01:08:41,683 - Don't allow anyone to ever make you 1446 01:08:41,749 --> 01:08:43,935 feel terrible about yourself, ever, ever, ever, 1447 01:08:44,001 --> 01:08:46,504 because you are enough, it's true, you are enough. 1448 01:08:46,712 --> 01:08:48,190 - I love the fact that there's 1449 01:08:48,256 --> 01:08:50,859 this stuff growing right out of your head 1450 01:08:50,925 --> 01:08:52,486 that just shouts to the world, 1451 01:08:52,552 --> 01:08:55,322 "I am the only one like this. 1452 01:08:55,388 --> 01:08:58,325 "There is nobody else like me." 1453 01:08:58,391 --> 01:08:59,600 And I think that's wonderful. 1454 01:09:00,017 --> 01:09:02,537 - I remember the first I was 1455 01:09:02,603 --> 01:09:04,998 in Downtown Houston on the steps, 1456 01:09:05,064 --> 01:09:10,069 and this particular guy said, "That's God's glory." 1457 01:09:10,319 --> 01:09:14,091 And I turned around and looked, I said, "Sir, what?" 1458 01:09:14,157 --> 01:09:16,676 And he said, "You ma'am, that beautiful hair of yours, 1459 01:09:16,742 --> 01:09:19,554 "that beautiful gray and silver hair of yours, 1460 01:09:19,620 --> 01:09:22,999 "that's God's glory," and he said, "Just makes you shine." 1461 01:09:23,291 --> 01:09:28,021 - Gray used to represent giving up or aging, 1462 01:09:28,087 --> 01:09:31,108 not being interested in anything current, 1463 01:09:31,174 --> 01:09:34,302 but now it's more of an act of rebellion. 1464 01:09:34,844 --> 01:09:36,196 - What happens to you while 1465 01:09:36,262 --> 01:09:38,347 you're going through your transition 1466 01:09:39,182 --> 01:09:45,605 is you discover really who you are and what you wanna be. 1467 01:09:45,897 --> 01:09:48,875 - I think that it's about owning our inner power 1468 01:09:48,941 --> 01:09:50,794 and not letting other people or media 1469 01:09:50,860 --> 01:09:52,921 tell us who we have to look like 1470 01:09:52,987 --> 01:09:54,256 or what we have to be like. 1471 01:09:54,322 --> 01:09:57,551 - Now is the perfect time to be who you are, 1472 01:09:57,617 --> 01:09:59,886 be gray, just do whatever you wanna do, 1473 01:09:59,952 --> 01:10:01,287 look the way you wanna look. 1474 01:10:01,537 --> 01:10:02,848 - The way things are going now 1475 01:10:02,914 --> 01:10:06,017 where more women are growing their hair out, 1476 01:10:06,083 --> 01:10:08,603 I think that's quite a statement about our times. 1477 01:10:08,669 --> 01:10:10,087 I think it's amazing. 1478 01:10:10,171 --> 01:10:11,982 - I had a young man once tell me 1479 01:10:12,048 --> 01:10:14,926 I looked like a superhero to him because of my hair. 1480 01:10:15,218 --> 01:10:17,887 - Every single silver-haired woman 1481 01:10:18,429 --> 01:10:22,659 is going to have a different color of gray and silver. 1482 01:10:22,725 --> 01:10:24,828 No two will ever be the same. 1483 01:10:24,894 --> 01:10:27,497 It is you, your individual you. 1484 01:10:27,563 --> 01:10:30,000 And the problem with when you color your hair, 1485 01:10:30,066 --> 01:10:32,669 50,000 other people are using that product, 1486 01:10:32,735 --> 01:10:35,338 number 118 or whatever the color you choose, 1487 01:10:35,404 --> 01:10:38,300 and every single one of you have the same hair color. 1488 01:10:38,366 --> 01:10:39,951 There is no individuality there. 1489 01:10:40,034 --> 01:10:42,929 - And I'm happy where I am now, 1490 01:10:42,995 --> 01:10:45,706 and almost wish it was even grayer than it is. 1491 01:10:45,831 --> 01:10:47,934 - Silver gray is beautiful, 1492 01:10:48,000 --> 01:10:52,063 and for all of y'all that are thinking, 1493 01:10:52,129 --> 01:10:54,357 oh, how are people gonna view me, 1494 01:10:54,423 --> 01:10:57,652 what's more important is how do you feel? 1495 01:10:57,718 --> 01:10:59,571 How do you view yourself? 1496 01:10:59,637 --> 01:11:03,783 And just if you feel good, then yeah, 1497 01:11:03,849 --> 01:11:05,785 you're gonna project that 1498 01:11:05,851 --> 01:11:07,871 and that's how everyone is going to see you 1499 01:11:07,937 --> 01:11:09,456 and you're gonna get positive feedback. 1500 01:11:09,522 --> 01:11:13,901 - It's a whole new me with a whole new empowered outlook. 1501 01:11:13,985 --> 01:11:15,253 - Most of the time I would think 1502 01:11:15,319 --> 01:11:18,131 of my grandparents when I saw gray hair, 1503 01:11:18,197 --> 01:11:21,968 but the truth was it was just an ideology 1504 01:11:22,034 --> 01:11:28,249 of most of us thinking only grandparents have gray hair. 1505 01:11:28,416 --> 01:11:30,835 Many, many young people have gray hair. 1506 01:11:30,918 --> 01:11:35,232 - Once I got past I guess the challenging part 1507 01:11:35,298 --> 01:11:38,384 where it was probably halfway grown out, 1508 01:11:39,468 --> 01:11:40,511 I just embraced it 1509 01:11:41,512 --> 01:11:42,697 and that's kinda how I feel about it. 1510 01:11:42,763 --> 01:11:47,768 I was just gonna embrace it and hold my head high. 1511 01:11:48,352 --> 01:11:51,248 - I think it's amazing, I think it's liberating, 1512 01:11:51,314 --> 01:11:53,500 I think it's about time there was a focus 1513 01:11:53,566 --> 01:11:55,252 on the forgotten woman. 1514 01:11:55,318 --> 01:11:56,711 - 'Cause I need to be the real me, 1515 01:11:56,777 --> 01:11:59,172 and so now I feel very settled in it. 1516 01:11:59,238 --> 01:12:03,510 I have been silver for a solid six years now 1517 01:12:03,576 --> 01:12:06,954 and have no plans of even putting a bit of color in it. 1518 01:12:07,496 --> 01:12:10,141 - You can go out in the sunlight with a mirror 1519 01:12:10,207 --> 01:12:13,478 and look at your gray hair, your natural gray hair, 1520 01:12:13,544 --> 01:12:16,064 and see how shiny it is. 1521 01:12:16,130 --> 01:12:17,899 But if it's either dyed or bleached or whatever, 1522 01:12:17,965 --> 01:12:21,260 when you compare that, there's not as much shine. 1523 01:12:21,469 --> 01:12:23,572 - A lot of young people are dyeing their hair 1524 01:12:23,638 --> 01:12:27,742 to be gray or silver or some kind of tone of gray, 1525 01:12:27,808 --> 01:12:29,452 and it's worked out in my benefit 1526 01:12:29,518 --> 01:12:31,454 because people look at me and they think, 1527 01:12:31,520 --> 01:12:32,831 oh, she's on trend, right? 1528 01:12:32,897 --> 01:12:35,000 She's hip, she's fashionable. 1529 01:12:35,066 --> 01:12:38,587 But really I was born this way. (laughs) 1530 01:12:38,653 --> 01:12:40,255 (Victoria laughing) 1531 01:12:40,321 --> 01:12:42,281 I didn't have to pay any extra money for this. 1532 01:12:43,074 --> 01:12:44,801 - And I dedicate this film 1533 01:12:44,867 --> 01:12:47,887 to all my gorgeous gray girlfriends around the world. 1534 01:12:47,953 --> 01:12:49,723 ♪ We're going up straight to the top ♪ 1535 01:12:49,789 --> 01:12:51,850 ♪ We're gonna work it over to the top ♪ 1536 01:12:51,916 --> 01:12:53,810 ♪ We're going up straight to the top ♪ 1537 01:12:53,876 --> 01:12:55,895 ♪ We're going up straight to the top ♪ 1538 01:12:55,961 --> 01:12:58,398 ♪ We're going up straight to the, to the top ♪ 1539 01:12:58,464 --> 01:13:00,191 ♪ Going up straight to the top ♪ 1540 01:13:00,257 --> 01:13:02,152 ♪ We're going up straight to the top ♪ 1541 01:13:02,218 --> 01:13:04,321 ♪ We're going up straight to the top ♪ 1542 01:13:04,387 --> 01:13:06,364 ♪ We're going up straight to the top ♪ 1543 01:13:06,430 --> 01:13:08,575 ♪ We're gonna work our way to the top ♪ 1544 01:13:08,641 --> 01:13:10,660 ♪ We're going up straight to the top ♪ 1545 01:13:10,726 --> 01:13:12,787 ♪ We're going up straight to the top ♪ 1546 01:13:12,853 --> 01:13:14,831 ♪ We're going up straight to the top ♪ 1547 01:13:14,897 --> 01:13:18,126 ♪ We're gonna work our way to the top ♪ 1548 01:13:18,192 --> 01:13:22,255 ♪ We're going up straight to the top ♪ 1549 01:13:22,321 --> 01:13:27,326 ♪ We're going dancing on the top of the world ♪