[Meisha] Previously on
Before the 90 Days...
[sobs softly]
[sniffling, crying]
[in sign language]
[spelling out]
[giggles]
Because he has never dated a trans person,
like, is he gonna stand by you?
There's a real concern
that Christian isn't gonna be happy
being in a committed relationship with somebody like me.
So, how does that work with, like...
[Christian] Well, I...
You know, sex isn't the end all be all in a relationship,
-at least for me. That's the thing. -[woman] I don't know.
That's a huge part of a relationship.
[Meisha] I am comfortable
being flirty and touchy,
but Nicola
is a 46-year-old virgin.
If he's not an affectionate person,
that's gonna be a problem for me.
He's a producer for the music video.
[speaking]
[Amanda] I made it clear
I am not okay
with him kissing another woman
in his music video.
Do whatever you wanna do.
Your actions will tell me what I need to know.
The producer was telling me they do have a message from her.
What did it say?
[Tyray reading aloud]
Do you still think that she is real?
I... I... I want more answers.
[Lashanti] If he doesn't come to terms with what's happening,
he can get his heart broke even worse.
Finally.
So, what are we doing tomorrow?
What do you mean, if I wanna meet you?
I'm only here for two weeks.
I don't understand how I'm not
a priority for Violet right now.
Really?
[chuckles]
You know, if you truly loved me,
you would listen to my proposal.
-I explained to you-- -[Jasmine] You're a [bleep] idiot.
Well, I took a [bleep] picture of it, anyway.
[Jasmine] You know, talking about a pre-nup,
it's like, he's looking at me like a gold digger.
All my demons come out because of you.
Yell, yell, yell!
I feel more attracted to my ex even than to [bleep] you.
Oh, right.
[Gino] Oh, yeah.
[lively Israeli music playing]
[Nicola] Meisha.
My God, Meisha.
-What you-- -[Meisha] Oh, my gosh, Nico, what?
[Nicola] Wake up. Morning, sweetie pie.
-You sleep so deep. -[yawns]
-[Meisha] I'm so tired. -How did you sleep?
[Meisha] Good, why are you up so early? What time is it?
Uff, it's like 7:45.
Yesterday, I arrived in Israel,
to meet Nicola, the love of my life.
And today is the first full day
that we're gonna be spending together.
I have to find what I'm gonna wear today, so... [grunts] Let me...
Maybe I should do that right now.
[kisses]
No, nothing happened last night
that we couldn't say that God is still proud of us,
but there was definitely some heavy petting going on,
because I did hop over on Nico's bed
to cuddle up a little bit. But, you know,
I think that that's all just normal and cute and fun.
But nothing that God would be mad at, no.
Um, and then I have to
find jewelry, and then--
Kissing and hugging, of course.
Heavy petting?
[chuckling] I don't know.
But I feel love. You know? I feel love
toward Meisha. And it's been, like, 16 years, to be without a girl.
It was, like, so sensational
to kiss Meisha and hug her. And I just love it.
It was awesome.
-So, Nico, you didn't sleep last night? -[Nicola] No.
It's so weird, because...
post conversion, this is the first relationship I've had,
where I've been celibate, and it
just feels weird. Like, I don't...
Like, it feels weird, like, there's like this...
Not a disconnect, but, like, how do you close that gap? You know?
I mean...
[Meisha] Yes, for sure.
Kisses are good and hugs are good.
But, like, I think, just checking in, and making sure that, like,
how can we even be more affectionate, like...
Hot and cute and... You know what I mean?
-Okay. -[Meisha] Like...
-Just-- -Give me time.
-[Meisha] I know. I will. -Give me time.
So, I just keep telling her, "Okay."
[kisses]
-[Meisha] You're a sweetheart. -Yes.
[lively Arab music playing]
[Meisha] What's that? What's a Mary Well?
[Nicola] You know they believe, like tradition, in Nazareth,
Mother Mary used to come here and drink water.
-[Meisha] Oh! -[Nicola] Yes!
[Meisha] Oh, my God.
It's so hard to imagine that thousand of years ago--
-Yeah, 2,000-- -...Mother Mary would come here.
-It's almost like, hard to wrap your mind around-- -[Nicola speaks]
It's insane.
[Nicola] Today is our first day together, me and Meisha.
And now, it's the time for action, to show her
-[Meisha exclaims] -[Nicola] Looks good.
-That's beautiful. -[man speaking]
-I will love it. -[Nicola chuckles]
-Thank you. God bless you. -[man chuckles]
[Nicola] In the beginning of our relationship,
when we start to talk about Jesus,
this is where the connection start between me and her.
So, I hope showing all these holy sites to Meisha,
that's what will make our relationship also stronger.
-[softly] Just be careful. -[exclaims]
Yeah.
-[Meisha] Yeah, no, I-- -And me, of course, of course.
I'm here because of you, first and foremost.
So, meeting your mom and your family is actually
of utmost importance to me.
It's very important, that's why.
[Nicola speaking]
[Meisha] What about your brothers?
Well, I, I...
You... So, you... Wait, hold on.
So, you haven't told them that I'm here?
-Not really, no. -You haven't
-told them that I'm here, in Israel? -No. No.
-Do they know that I exist, even? -Yeah.
[Meisha] Okay, thanks be to God, they know I exist. Okay.
-So, another one does not even know I exist. -No.
[Meisha] Nicola, everybody in my life knows who you are.
How important Nicola is,
the importance he's played, the role he's played in her life.
But yet, in your life, it's like... Meh.
Even though I'm not very happy about it,
I did know that Nicola was waiting to tell his mother about me,
because his mother is a very traditional Arabic woman.
And she might not like the fact
that I'm a divorced woman, I've got children, I'm not a virgin.
But I am shocked
to find out that he has kept me, basically,
a secret to everyone in his life.
It just makes me feel like
maybe the reason he's been hiding me is because
he is maybe ashamed of my past.
I definitely have to meet your family, that's part of--
-Okay. -[Meisha] That's part of the whole discerning process,
Nicola... I have to meet your family, you're gonna meet my...
That's just normal.
Nicola.
-[chuckles] -What's careless...
Why are you laughing right now? What's funny?
[Nicola] Laughing because...
-[Meisha] Nicola. -[chuckling] What?
[Meisha] If I say something
that bothers me,
then it has to matter to you.
It's not, like, "Oh, this is so funny,
"and I don't care what you think."
Do you think he might say that, though?
-Maybe. I don't know. -That might give me a little bit of--
-Maybe. Maybe he will say. -context about what's going on.
Maybe.
Yes, but, if it really, if it really didn't matter,
if you really didn't care what they thought,
then it'd be really easy to share that information with them.
No.
-[chuckles nervously] Yeah. -No, honestly, like, is everything a joke?
-Like, everything that I say? -No.
-No, 'cause it's, it's not... It's not normal. -Okay, okay.
-I don't see any problem with that. -It's way past the time.
-And it's way deeper than that. -[Nicola] No... [indistinct]
-Popcorn. -Popcorn, okay. [chuckles]
-[man speaking] -[Tyray] Good, how are you?
-[man] Good. What can I get for you today? -Hi.
-Um, kettle. -[Tyray] You sell lemonades, too?
-Yes. -[Tyray] Oh, okay.
-I'll take one. -Okay.
[Tyray] My life is crazy, right now.
Two weeks ago, I had plans to book a trip to Barbados,
to finally meet Carmella, the love of my life, in person.
But then producers told me, when they reached out to her,
a man named Christian responded
and told production that they had been catfishing me for four years.
I'm struggling to wrap my head around everything.
But the more I think about it, the more I think it's a misunderstanding,
because I don't know how the last four years could be a lie.
I do appreciate you coming out here with me, though.
[Lashanti] Oh, you're welcome.
[Tyray] I haven't been out
since I found out all that information about Carmella, so...
Like, it's been weird, just kind of, like,
not having her messages, and her talking to me and stuff.
There's a huge void not having
messages from Carmella every morning,
you know, and all throughout the day.
And it's torture, not to look at my phone and check, and check,
and check, and check, and... It's just really hard.
Sometimes, I really won't admit to,
but I, I cry and, you know. just reflecting on everything, it's like, "Wow."
Keeping on thinking about how this person that
I knew so good and so well, has just, it just disappeared.
So, you said she hadn't, um, responded to the Snapchats, right?
Yeah, she hasn't responded at all. She just opened up
the messages, maybe like, two days ago.
Um, she's looking at 'em,
because, you know, that's confirmation that she's seen them.
-And honestly-- -Even though that's not her, though.
Like, you want him to respond?
That's the thing, that I still kind of think that it might be her.
[Lashanti] So, some part of you still believes
that there is some type of hope?
Yeah, I do. I still have that hope in my heart.
But I was also maybe thinking like, what if,
like, Carmella was, like, in prison or something?
[scoffs] Seriously? [chuckles]
-I know, it sounds crazy. -I'm sorry, I don't wanna laugh, but...
Seriously? I really wanna shake you
just to knock some sense into your head.
-[Tyray] But-- -She's not in prison.
No, let me explain though. Because, like, you know how if you were in prison,
and they need somebody, like, to talk to, because they're, like,
locked up?
-Like a pen pal? -[Tyray] Yeah, so, maybe,
this is what happened. She got released,
and then now, she's, like, with her husband, or something.
I'm sorry, but yeah, that is not logical.
That's still, like, a possibility though.
-[Lashanti] At all. -Maybe she got out
and maybe her husband found out or something.
[chuckles]
Yeah, you're delusional.
I'm sorry.
[Lashanti] I am shocked
that Tyray's in such denial right now.
And it's killing me to watch him believe
and hold on to just a little bit of hope that this could be real.
I don't know, I see you trying to make excuses,
try to figure out something to make it make sense, but... [sighs]
-Yeah. -[Lashanti] But there's just some stuff, that I, kind of,
found out, that I wanted to come out and tell you.
All right.
And I found some stuff that he needs to know.
But I'm just worried about telling him, because he's still vulnerable,
and I don't want him to get his heart broke even worse.
So, yeah, I was just... Ooh.
-[thuds] -Oh, [bleep].
-Argh! -[Tyray] Woops.
[both chuckle]
How did that even happen?
But, um, yeah, I was just doing my own research
of the pictures that you sent me.
And I finally found something.
What'd you find?
I could pull it up.
[Tyray] God. [exhales]
-[Lashanti] This is a escort page. -[gasps]
[Lashanti] This is her, right?
[reading] "I am a 31-year-old horny lady, just want
"a guy or a girl to go down. Satisfaction guaranteed."
It says that she worked in Lancaster, Long Beach,
LA, Oakland,
San Diego, San Jose, and Stockton.
-In Bakersfield? -[Lashanti] Bakersfield, California.
What the [bleep]?
That's really close.
[Tyray] Stockton is, like, not even 30 minutes away.
Bakersfield maybe, like, two, three hours.
She said she was livin' in Barbados.
[Lashanti] There's a phone number. You think we should call it?
Are you okay?
[grunts, mumbles] I'm gonna walk home.
[sighs]
[Sheila grunts] I don't know a lot of sign language.
And I am very nervous that it will be difficult
to communicate while he's here.
[Jasmine speaking Spanish]
-[crying] -[Liz speaking Spanish]
[scooter horn honking loudly]
[muffled audio]
[normal audio resumes]
[speaks Filipino]
[keyboard keys clicking]
[speaking English]
[Sheila laughs]
[slowly] Bad road here.
[David signing]
[Sheila speaking]
I'm excited to have my honey be here,
but I don't know a lot of sign language.
and I am very nervous that it will be difficult
to communicate while he's here.
[grunts]
Beans...
[laughs]
Thank you.
[speaks Filipino]
[keyboard keys clicking]
[in English]
[in Filipino]
[in English] Here.
[indistinct chatter]
[chuckles]
[Sheila speaks indistinctly]
We can find...
[indistinct background chatter]
Okay? [chuckles]
[laughing]
[David signing]
[speaks indistinctly]
Are you mad?
Smash like that.
[Sheila] It is hard enough to communicate with someone
from different culture.
But because he is deaf,
it makes things much harder.
It's very challenging because
I have to think so hard about how to express my thoughts.
Though I text to him,
though I try to sign,
I cannot just say whatever I'm thinking in the moment.
But we love each other,
so I hope that communicating will get easy
and more natural over time.
[upbeat Spanish song playing]
-Hola. -[barmaid in Spanish]
-[Gino] Do you speak English? -[barmaid in English] Yes.
I'm just, like, looking for, like, uh, a light beer.
Okay, I'll try it.
[chuckles] Why not?
I've only been in Panama two days now,
and already Jasmine and I are not getting along.
She kicked me out
just because I proposed a prenup.
Oh, yeah, that's a good color.
-Beautiful. -Okay!
-[Gino] Thank you. -You're welcome.
Jasmine's saying a lot of hurtful things to me,
like, talking about her ex,
and she basically told me our engagement's off.
I'm just frustrated and upset
because I don't know if she means it
or she's just saying this 'cause she's hurt
and she's trying to get revenge on me of some sort.
Um, I really don't know.
[Gino] I have a fiance in Panama.
Okay!
And I came here to see her,
but today we kind of, we got in, into a, an argument.
-Mmm. Oh. -[Gino] So I figure I need one of these.
I was trying to talk to her about,
you know, a prenup agreement.
-Mmm-hmm. -Um, and she got very upset,
and I think that she wants to break up.
-I know it's a lot to take in but... [laughs] -[barmaid] No, no, no, no...
-[hesitates] I-- -Because I just met you but...
No, no, no.
[Gino] Um, that's interesting.
[barmaid speaking]
-It's not about sharing though. -Mmm-hmm.
The problem is I do have to protect my assets
because let's say that we get a divorce,
then, I could lose 50% of the money
that I worked hard for for 30 years.
[Gino] In my mind, prenup does not mean that I don't trust her.
You know, I love her very much and, you know,
I, I wanna be with her.
But the same time, I'm concerned about our future
as far as marriage goes,
'cause of all of our arguing and fighting.
But, right now, I need to give her her space
so she can calm down and then I can
gather my thoughts and-- For more of a clear head.
[both speaking Spanish]
[in English] After the disastrous conversation with Gino,
I am super sad.
I feel confused, I don't know what to do.
[speaking Spanish]
[Jasmine speaking]
[sobbing]
[sniffling]
[Jasmine speaking]
[in English] I have this fear of, of not being loved of--
[voice breaking] Like, the worst thing you could do to me is rejecting me.
I, I want him to show me that I'm worth fighting for.
Like, I, I really need that.
[speaking Spanish]
[continues crying]
[sobbing]
[sniffles]
So, does your family know Cleo is trans?
Uh, some were outwardly antagonistic
about the whole situation and saying, you know, "What are you doing?"
But, I'm not stuck with these people,
I don't have to even be associated with them.
[Janna] I don't think it's gonna be very easy for Christian
to cut out from his family.
He's just so deeply ingrainded with them.
[upbeat country song playing]
♪ Won't you come home, baby? ♪
♪ Won't you come home with me?♪
♪ I've got a million ways to rock it♪
♪ And there ain't no one to stop it♪
♪ Oh, won't you come home with me?♪
[song fades out]
-[Christian] Hey, buddy, how's it going? -[Tom] Come on in.
[Christian] Thank you, thank you.
-[Janna] What's going on, my dude? -How's it going?
How's it going?
In a couple of days, I'll be flying to London
to meet my amazing girlfriend, Cleo.
I'm a little nervous about meeting Cleo for the first time.
She's not like anybody I've ever dated in the past.
But, I have really strong feelings for her,
and I think that spending some time with her in person
will really help us gauge whether or not we're compatible.
-[Tom speaking] -Um, I might just take a, take a little bit of whiskey.
[Tom] Just a little whiskey on the rocks?
-Yeah, just a little, a little daba-duya. -[Janna chuckles]
A little hair of the dog.
I've known Tom for almost 10 years now.
We like similar things, we like old music,
we like hot rods, we like leather jackets.
We have also dated the same women,
although not at the same time.
But, you know, Jannna... [stutters]
Her and I have not dated before.
Thanks so much for having me and having a hanging breakfast.
Yeah, buddy.
[Janna] Can't handle our liquor like we used to.
Oh, my God, yeah. If I'm, like, moderate drinking, like,
I wasn't even that drunk last night.
Do we know what moderate drinking...
I think they quantified it as two or three drinks in a,
like, four-hour period, or something like that.
It's, like, smaller than you think it would be.
-Yeah, that's not, that's not what we do. -[chuckles] I mean-- Yeah.
[Janna] Does Cleo drink?
[Christian] Oh, yeah a little bit, um,
probably, probably not as much as me, maybe.
Hmm.
I think we started hearing about Cleo,
maybe, like, two months ago or so.
Like, it's fairly recently.
[Tom] Christian's been with Cleo
longer than most women that he's dated,
-so that's, that's a good sign? -[Janna] Oh, no.
-I got my skeptical spectacles on. -I think--
We'll see. [laughs] We will see.
I never would have thought that I'd be in this situation
where I was travellin', you know,
halfway across the world in order to meet somebody,
let alone, you know, somebody that is transgender so...
Does your family know Cleo is trans?
[exhales sharply] Uh...
You know, it's been, it's been kind of tough,
um, you know, they... they didn't know and I didn't wanna tell them
that she was trans, because I wanted them to...
give her a chance first.
Uh, but, a couple of days ago,
I told some people in my family
and, you know, family talks
-and, you know-- -[man] There's no secrets.
-Not in family. -[Christian] There's no secrets in family.
So my parents found out
and the... and the cat was out of the bag at that point.
And it kinda... turned into like a...
spectrum of people, like, you know, questioning to...
you know, some were outwardly antagonist,
think about the whole situation
and saying, you know, "What are you doing?"
Like, "What... What are you thinking?"
So, yeah.
My family is very close.
I have two sisters and one brother.
I actually live with my brother.
I see my nieces and nephews a lot.
And so, my family knows
that I've been seeing someone for the last few months.
A woman overseas that lives in London.
And they were supportive.
But after my family found out
that Cleo was transgender,
it's caused somewhat of a rift
between me and some of my family members.
They said some things
about Cleo and I's relationship
that are pretty hurtful.
Nasty comments like, "Oh, she's pretending to be a woman."
And things like,
how, like, I would be affected
in, like, public when Cleo and I were, like, out and about.
They're not at the point where
they're ready to accept me dating a trans woman.
And it's been weighing on me.
So are you mad that your family had such a bad reaction?
Honestly, yeah.
I mean, I would have loved
for them to all be,
"Oh, it's not... it's not a big problem.
Like, we'll, you know, we'll like her
as long as you like her."
But, um...
Yeah, I'd be lying if I said,
you know, it didn't get to me a little bit.
I can understand, like,
some of the views that they have
are just pretty...
you know, old school, and whatever?
But, like, you know, [sighs]
some of, like, the vitriol
has been kinda tough to bear.
And it's made me really realize,
like, especially, like,
you two, like,
friends with the family that you choose.
And...
I'm not stuck with these people.
I don't have to rely on them,
you know, forever
or even be associated with them.
-Absolutely. -[Christian] Yeah.
[man] Honestly, I wasn't that surprised
that some of Christian's family
had negative reactions to Cleo being trans.
'Cause they're older
and the older generation of people in the world
don't understand that being transgender
like, isn't a crime,
it's not a bad thing.
Christian's definitely close with his family.
I know that he said he could distance himself from them
if he needed to,
but, it'd be a little harder...
harder to do than the way he's making it out.
I'm just really hoping that
at some point they'll... they'll...
be accepting of...
of, number one, her but also, like,
you know, my love for her as well.
And that's what matters is how you feel.
Everything else doesn't.
I've invested a lot of time into my relationship with Cleo
and I care about her a lot.
And I don't want my family's opinion
really changing that.
As of now, me and my family are very close.
But, I fear that,
there may come a point where I'll have to choose
between Cleo or my family.
And I... I don't think I'd handle that very well.
[Tiffanie] How is Vietnam?
Did you get butterflies when you saw her?
I couldn't believe how beautiful she was.
But, she said that she couldn't see me
until later on tonight.
[Riley] I wanna believe that I'm the only man
that's in Violet's life,
but her behaviour is making me really question it.
When I tell you things, like, you just don't listen.
[Riley] I'm a little upset that...
you know, Violet made plans for today
knowing that I was travelling here to visit her.
It's a little upsetting.
We got a ways to go.
Uh, I still have, like...
some questions and I think...
I feel that, um,
I might be a little more to commit it
to this than her.
Uh, but, I'm hoping for the best.
So, yeah.
-Hey, hey, hey. - Hi.
What's up?
[Riley] Uh...
I'm not gonna lie,
I couldn't believe how beautiful she was.
But, she, uh...
she made a lot of plans,
then said that she couldn't see me
until later on tonight.
So I was a little disappointed
and a little, uh, upset about that.
So, unfortunately, I'm kinda on her time
and I have to wait to have the conversation with her.
-Uh... - You could've, I mean...
So she knew you were traveling all this way?
[Riley] Yeah.
And she got plans?
Yeah.
I don't understand that.
Yeah.
I... I'm...
I'm at her leisure.
I'm hoping to see her... see the family.
I understand that.
Yeah.
-I'm not gonna be a wuss, I promise. -Don't be caught up
in the beauty, or the booty, okay?
[chuckles] I...
-It's a nice booty. -[chuckles]
...push it to the side.
Like, is there somebody else there?
-[speaking indistinctly] -[Riley] And that's what I...
And I kinda feel that
I just, uh...
Like I said, I still have these apprehensions
and these questions.
I wanna believe that I'm the only man
that's in Violet's life
but her behavior is making me really question it.
Especially when she didn't delete the dating ad
that we met on
after she was so adamant that I delete it.
And now that I'm here
and she's not with me,
it makes me question her truth a little bit more.
It's definitely something
I need to have a conversation with her about.
Like, even when I gave her the pearls last night,
I feel,
I didn't get the energy that I thought I was gonna get.
It felt like it was basic to her.
No, those... [laughs]
-I can't take 'em back. -[chuckles]
Listen, she doesn't know that I brought other gifts.
I mean, I brought this ring.
I came--
Say again.
Let me see this ring.
Really? You wanna... Okay.
I really do.
-This is it. - Uh-huh.
[Riley] This is not a wedding band.
It is... It is a commitment ring.
But this is not a definite she's getting it.
Just understand that.
She has to earn this.
She gotta show me
that she's just as serious
and committed as I am.
I want you to be...
mindful of your heart.
Yeah.
It's been a long time since you've been
with someone seriously
and you've been putting your eggs in this basket,
-Yeah. - And, you know, my prayer
to you, is that, you know,
you don't have scrambled eggs in your basket.
I got ya.
I can definitely see Tiffanie point of view
and I'm really disappointed
that Violet and I are getting off on the wrong foot.
But I came too far
to give up on us that easily
and I wanna see if we can make
a way to be together.
Safe, safe, safe, safe, everything.
All right. Bye.
Bye.
So do you understand, like...
why I'm upset?
My first couple days in Romania,
Razvan has not been
that considerate of me.
It's confusing because over the phone
he was so caring
and listened to what I had to say.
And right now I feel really upset
by Razvan being so dismissive
of my concern about him kissing another woman
in his music video.
I know that he's not trying to hurt me
but I need him to hear me more.
Maybe you shouldn't have... chose to make a business call.
No?
It was in your control to call him.
It was... I know.
But I'm just saying it was in your control to call him.
It was in your control to...
say that you're gonna kiss a girl
in your video.
So it's like a game?
Like, you say things
just to see my reaction?
Why are you so emotional right now?
I love you so much,
but I feel like when I tell you things,
like, you just don't understand
or you don't...
like, listen, to, like, my feelings on it.
I came here to see if Razvan
is potentially the perfect man for me
and a good father figure for my kids.
I'm expecting a lot from this relationship
and maybe that's been causing me to be too hard on Razvan.
And not allowing myself
to open up in this relationship.
Little bit nervous...
because I never been
with a deaf person before.
-I... -Oh.
Reservation, oh.
Reservat...
[door beeping]
[Sheila] Wait.
Yes.
Okay.
[both grunts]
[Sheila laughing]
It's okay.
[chewing]
[Sheila] I noticed that,
David is very loud, uh, eating,
like, um...
[imitates lip smacking]
[chuckles softly]
[Sheila speaking]
[laughs]
Maybe because he cannot hear himself eat.
But, I don't mind it.
[using sign language]
Yes.
Okay.
[Sheila] David and I have been talking about
sex for a long time.
And now that he is here, I'm...
a little bit nervous.
Because, I've never been with deaf person before.
And I don't know what to expect. [chuckles softly]
Change clothes.
[Sheila speaking]
[using sign language]
I think I do want to maybe like reach out.
[ringback tone]
This is crazy.
It's hard to watch him cling to some hope,
for her to be real.
[Tyray] My heart's beating fast.
[bleep]
[Tyray speaking]
Like, I don't want to judge anybody,
but at the same time, it's like
that's something you kinda want to tell your partner
that you're an escort or whatever.
Been living in Bakersfield or Stockton.
Stockton is like, right down the street.
Like, she's like 30 minutes away like, what the[bleep].
If you really were that close, why haven't we met yet,
after four years of havin' a supposed relationship
and then you're saying you love me and I say I love you?
It is really confusing, honestly.
That's pretty much, the only way I can describe anything.
I'm confused.
Are you okay?
[Tyray] I mean...
It's like a dagger into my heart.
-No, I appreciate you showing me though, like. -Yeah.
And being honest about it with me because,
that's not the kind of girl I wanna be with, like,
at all, like,
I was dating a escort who said she living in Barbados,
who happened to live in Bakersfield.
I know it's a lot to take in.
What about Christian, though?
He pretended to be her.
He could be her pimp.
This is crazy.
It's hard to watch him cling to some hope,
for her to be real.
'Cause all the signs are right there.
that he was catfished,
but, he's too in denial for me.
And I want him to accept it for what it is,
and not try to make some more excuses.
But, I don't know how else to help Tyray.
I really don't.
Right now, I'm just really confused.
And it hurts.
I know.
Just take a minute and get yourself together first,
and then you could, see what you could do.
I think I do wanna maybe like, reach out.
-[Lashanti] Call the number? -Yeah.
Can you, um, send that to me?
I got your message.
[Tyray speaking]
[ringback tone playing]
[ringback tone continues]
[recorded voice] The text mail subscriber
you're trying to reach is not available.
She probably didn't answer 'cause it's blocked, you know.
Maybe you should send a text.
Like what, should I ask like,
are you available or something?
-No. [chuckles] -[chuckles]
[Lashanti] What are you saying?
I just put, "Hey, I seen your ad and you look extremely familiar.
I wanted to know if we could have a chat,
if you are available."
I sent it, so.
I just Googled the number in another escort site.
[Lashanti] It's her too?
This is an escort in Palm Bay.
Oh, my God.
And there's even more photos.
And that's another number.
Wow.
[Lashanti] You're gonna send the text that number?
I mean, there's so many of 'em.
Honestly, I don't even know what to do.
I'm extremely lost, and confused,
because I don't know you know, what to believe.
I wanted to find more information about her,
but obviously, this information,
isn't what I wanted to hear.
I don't know what to do, but I desperately want to
connect with her and get the whole truth.
I came over 8,000 miles
and I feel like, I'm an afterthought.
Can you at least...
I am a little taken back whenever I speak
about something that's of concern to me
she shuts it down
The rest of the time I'm here...
you're gonna make time for me?
[Cleo speaking]
Some of the negative things that my family has been saying
is starting to get to me.
Thank you so much.
If I'm being 100% honest,
I'm not sure how things are gonna go.
Hello. Good afternoon.
Good afternoon, sir, How may I help you?
Yeah, I need a cab to Independence Palace.
[front desk executive speaking]
[Riley] Okay.
I really thought I was gonna be spending my first
full day in Vietnam alone.
But Violet gave me a call a couple hours ago
and said that she changed her plans
that she had with her school.
[cell phone ringing]
Hello.
Hello, how are you?
I'm doing well, how are you?
Uh, yeah 'cause I'm in your country,
and I have nothing goin' on, without you.
Yes I am free. Why?
I thought I wasn't gonna see you until tonight.
Okay.
Independence Palace.
Hi baby.
[Violet speaking]
[Riley speaking]
[Violet speaking]
[Riley] I'm doing good. Morning was all right.
Come on. Let's go.
[Violet] Let's go.
[Violet speaking]
-[Riley] He hit this gate? -[Violet] Yes.
[Violet speaking]
[Riley] Uh-huh.
-[Riley] Oh. -[Violet] Yeah.
-[Riley] So, that's the tank that came into the gate? -[Violet] Yes.
-Uh, hit the gate. -Oh.
Maybe a little bit older than that.
[both laugh]
[Riley] Oh... okay.
-Let me ask you a question. -Okay.
What changed your mind?
What made you wanna see me earlier,
than later tonight?
[chuckles]
But, do you understand how that made me feel?
It kinda hurt, 'cause
I came over 8,000 miles and then...
Like, I feel like I'm an afterthought.
Um...
[Riley] You know...
Well, I'm asking do you understand,
how I would feel.
I feel like you didn't really prepare for me being here.
That's how it feels.
So, um...
[Riley] Can you at least...
[Riley] But, baby, you changed your mind and you...
[Violet speaking]
Okay.
So, I'm not sure if Violet,
truly understands what I'm saying, but
I am a little taken back
by her lack of emotions. [chuckles]
Uh, whenever I speak,
about something that's of concern for me, she kinda,
shuts it down.
But, then when she speaks about something
that's of concern for her,
I have to listen.
So...
can you at least say that the rest of the time I'm here,
that you will...
you gonna make time for me,
like you're not gonna have a whole bunch of, uh,
you know, things planned.
Oh, I'm glad that you, thought of it.
'Cause I'mma be honest, it made me feel,
like you didn't care.
-No, I care about you. -All right, just...
Why do you keep punching my fat? [chuckles]
[Riley] Cheese.
[Violet speaking]
[Riley] Hold on [indistinct].
I'm sweating. Your country is so humid.
-Why? You need like AC outside. -[Violet laughs]
[Violet speaking]
[Riley] Okay.
Slow down just a little for me,
come on my knee is hurting.
-Your knee? -Yeah.
I have a bad knee, from the military.
[Violet speaking]
I don't need to sit down. I'm good. I can handle it.
I just you know, sometimes it hurts...
[Violet speaking]
I didn't think that,
you would respect me, if you knew,
that, I'm hurt you know.
Because I know you like strong men.
And, um...
I didn't know that, uh,
you know how was gonna react.
[Violet speaking]
We're gonna get that time.
[Violet speaking]
-Skin to skin. Skin to skin. -[laughs]
Yeah.
-Yeah. -Yeah.
I have two weeks here, which is not a lot of time
to find out if this is the woman I want to spend
the rest of my life with.
But, I really believe that we're on the right track.
I just hope, Violet doesn't throw
some kinda curve ball at me. like, she has done before.
And like, derail this whole process.
[Riley] Thank you for bringing me here.
Thank you, Vietnam.
[Violet] You're welcome.
[both laugh]
All right, girls, it's time.
We have arrived.
[meowing]
Christian will be here in London in less than 24 hours.
I feel thrilled, scared, and a complete mix of emotion.
Here we are.
Oh, wow. That's super cute.
I love this.
Christian got us an Airbnb while he was here because
I have a roommate and we wanted to have some privacy.
This way, we can really take our time,
to get to know each other.
Right, here we are.
You can start exploring.
My cats actively reduce my anxiety,
whenever they're around,
It's pretty cozy, isn't it?
Yes, I know you're always thinking of food.
Little chunky, ooh.
-[meows] -Little chunky baby.
My kitties have never been introduced,
to a new daddy.
So, Christian better get along with them.
I know he's not a cat person. I know he's a dog person.
But my cats are the most amazing beings,
in the whole of the universe.
And, he has to see that.
My God.
It's crazy.
I cannot believe he's gonna be here.
I'm a little nervous,
because his family had a bit of a reaction
after finding out that I'm trans.
I feel, super worried about it because,
how am I gonna be able to be part of his family?
Knowing how close Christian is to his family,
I really do worry how that is going to impact
our relationship, if they're never gonna support us.
Initially, one of the first things that Christian said to me is,
that he's really big on holding hands, kissing,
however, suddenly he changed his mind
and that maybe we shouldn't kiss in public or the airport,
And that was a little bit hurtful.
So, maybe we should really wait before kissing in public
and even though that's not exactly what he said,
you know, that was kind of, like, the vibe.
Being transgender, I've had to deal with so much rejection
my entire life.
But, obviously, Christian has never had to deal with rejection
based on who he loves or his gender identity.
I've put a lot of faith in this relationship
and I have very strong feelings for Christian.
But there's a part of me that worries about the fact
that, you know, maybe he's not gonna be strong enough
to face his family and the haters,
and, actually, stand up for himself and us.
[funky music playing]
[Christian groans in frustration]
Okay.
Winter coat.
It's gotta get in there somehow.
[doorbell rings]
-[Christian] Hey, buddy. -[Tom] What's up, buddy?
-[muffled speaking] -I'm all right.
I have some mixed emotions about leaving today to go visit Cleo.
On one hand, I'm really excited to meet her for the first time
and on the other hand,
I'm a little disappointed that my family
isn't as supportive as I'd like them to be.
Tom's one of my best guys
and I'm really glad that he's the one
that's bringing me to the airport today.
-Are you excited? -[Christian] Yes.
Yeah, I... It's just the stress, you know, getting ready.
But this just happens to be, like, the first time I'm meeting somebody.
Like, imagine, if you went on a first date,
[indistinct] "Hi, nice to meet you." [kissing]
You know?
-So... -You guys did talk about it?
Yeah, yeah, we did.
Um, I kinda, like, just was, like, you know,
"Would, would it be all right if, like, we just kinda, like, feel everything out,
-you know, in the start?" -Hmm.
She's definitely weirded out, it kinda threw her, threw her for a loop a little bit.
I'm just, kinda, like...
overthinking it, I guess.
Do you think that maybe had, has something to do with
what your family is gonna think?
I mean, absolutely.
It's hard to not be influenced or affected by what your family thinks.
-That makes sense. -Yeah.
Oh, I find Cleo extremely attractive
but some of the negative things that my family has been saying
is starting to get to me.
-[Christian] Got everything I need. -[Tom] Sweet.
Do I kiss her when I first meet her, do I wait?
You know, these feelings that I get from my family,
they're really weighing down my excitement and I don't like that.
-[Tom] Got everything? -[Christian] Yeah, buddy.
And, right now, I'm not entirely sure
what I'm gonna do when I see her for the first time in public.
[Christian] I'm bringing this with me.
-[Tom] Hey, buddy, we're here. -[Christian chuckles]
Okay, hey, thank you so much.
Of course.
-I love you. -[muffled] Love you, brother.
Love you, have fun.
[Tom] I'm a little surprised to hear that he had doubts about kissing right away
just 'cause he is one of those kind of guys
that just usually goes and does stuff, thinks about it later.
But I might feel a little hurt,
uh, if someone said they wouldn't wanna kiss me after coming all this way.
It's my first time traveling abroad.
So, I got that new passport smell.
The number one thing that's most important about meeting Cleo
is seeing if we have chemistry that's not just the conversational.
-[indistinct] -Thank you so much.
But Cleo and I both know that making this work,
it's not gonna be easy.
[Christian] Thank you.
When Cleo asks me
if I'm ready to date someone who's transgender and someone who's autistic,
I tell her, "Yeah, I think I am."
But if I'm being a 100% honest
I'm, [titters] not sure how things are gonna go.
Cleo and I are different on many levels
and a lot of this is new to me.
But I found a connection with Cleo that I haven't found in any woman before.
She's extremely gorgeous, she's very genuine,
and, I think, whatever happens,
I'm, I'm willing to take that risk.
[Gino] I haven't seen Jasmine since our big blow-up.
I'm feeling a little bit nervous.
Oh, hi.
-[Jasmine] Hi. -Oh, wow.
I feel like I'm between a rock and a hard place with this prenup.
But it's important that I stand up for myself more.
So, I put some more thought into it this time.
And?
[Gino] Um...
[new-age music playing]
Just in case. [laughs]
After having drinks with my sister, Liz,
we came back to the apartment
and Gino's still not home.
I'm still angry and hurt but I don't wanna give up on Gino,
so, I texted him.
[in Spanish]
[Jasmine in English] I'm scared that I'm losing him
because I was, like, super offensive
and telling him things that, that really hurt
and I absolutely want Gino back
because I love him and I'm obsessed with him.
[in Spanish]
[Jasmine in English] So, I'm willing to listen to him without...
but I need to feel like the most important person in his life
because he is the most important person in my life, too.
So, I do deserve the same treatment.
[Gino] I haven't seen Jasmine since our big blow-up
but she did text me to go meet up.
But I'm feeling a little bit nervous
because I feel like I'm between a rock and a hard place
with this prenup.
I don't wanna lose her.
My life would be miserable without her,
I would never find someone so unique.
But at the same time, it's important that I stand up for myself more
and, and that includes having difficult conversations
like this with Jasmine.
Oh, hi.
-[Jasmine] Hi. -Oh, wow.
You look nice tonight.
-Um... -You look good, too.
Oh, thanks.
[Jasmine] So...
I wanna start by apologizing
for being so mean to you and saying the things that I said.
That is, like, the worst trait from my personality,
like, when I get really angry, I attack.
I'm sorry, if I hurt you.
Thank you for that.
I love you and I don't wanna lose you because of, of money,
like, money ruins everything.
[Gino] Um, hmm.
So, I put some more thought into it and stuff and...
And?
I'm not gonna attack you, so, stop shaking,
-I promise, I'm... [chuckles] -I'm, I'm, I'm...
-[Jasmine] I'm not gonna attack you. -I'm not shaking.
[Gino] So, I'm thinking
that I might forget about the prenup.
Um...
I don't wanna risk losing you, you know?
[Jasmine] I...
I'm impressed,
like, this is the Gino that I fell in love with.
[Gino] So, I've been thinking a lot since I've spoken to the bartender
and seems like Jasmine and I fight about the prenup,
was very likely due to cultural differences that we have
and I have investments that I've saved and I, I'm happy about that
but I don't believe that I'm gonna regret
the decision of not getting the prenup
if, if, if it means being with the love of my life
and the woman that I truly love...
it's worth it.
We both love each other very much
but this prenup thing isn't the only thing we have to work on.
Maybe you can try not saying such painful things all the time.
[Jasmine] Yes, but you have to understand...
Even though, I've been faithful to you,
I will, I've been so loyal, I love you so much.
I always loved you.
Um, prenup or no prenup, that did... That never would change.
[Jasmine in Spanish]
[in English] Oh, the food.
Ay!
[Gino] Awesome.
[Jasmine] Actually, if Gino was gonna insist on it,
I was willing to sign up the prenup
but I'm so thankful, I shut up my mouth and let him talk first. [laughs]
Uh...
Just a little bit.
Aw!
That's not bad.
[Jasmine] So...
I was thinking,
the whole freaking day, just thinking and thinking and thinking, like...
Are you kidding?
No, I'm not, baby,
because, let's say that you die,
I'm gonna be alone in the United States.
We're, like, a few months away from being married
and you're worried about me dying?
-Yes. -Come on.
Anything can happen.
[Gino] Where did that come from?
Like, I thought a prenup was the worst of the worst,
of financial discussions with her,
but, it just makes me realize
we have a lot of other issues that we're gonna have to work out.
[Jasmine] In my eyes, I wanna feel protected
and that you will still love me
and take care of me.
If something happens to me, you'll be with my family.
With people that don't even like me.
Ugh.
What do you-- What?
I'm willing to leave my home
just to be with Gino.
It scares me a lot
because Gino's family has never accepted me
and something is telling me
that they are gonna trying to be in between my relationship with Gino.
And what if something happened to Gino before we get married?
I'm gonna be left alone with no protection, with nothing.
I want a will
because I want that feeling that he will always look after me, always.
[Meisha] If we were to get married,
and we can't even push through basic conversation,
how would that marriage work?
[music playing]
[sighs wearily] What a day, Meisha, I'm so tired.
There's so much I loved about today
but there were some parts of today that I didn't love so much.
And I know, we're both tired
and I'm not, like, trying to rehash it again, but...
[clicks tongue] As much as I want to see Israel, I'm not here to vacation.
I'm here for one reason, and one reason only,
to meet you and get answers
about what we've invested in our lives now, for almost seven years.
And our issue right now is I'm, I am struggling
with you not being honest with people in your life about me
and my, and, and the negative,
in your mind, the "negative" of my situation,
me having a past, I'm divorced, whatever.
Well, that was a big part of our discussion today
which made, uh, kind of, a part of the day a little awkward, honestly.
But I definitely need to feel like Nicola is not embarrassed.
There's something that keeps you from telling certain people
[Meisha] No...
I think you should go sleep, Meisha.
-No, but that's the problem-- -Do you want, do you want me to...
No, I'm not hungry.
-Does that mean you're done with this conversation? -Yeah.
[Meisha] What if I'm not done?
-[laughing] If you could-- -[Meisha] What if I'm not done with it?
[laughing]
The problem with you, Meisha, you never want to be done with any conversation,
when you start to talk, you never stop.
So, you know what this is?
-[Nicola] What? -This is a...
deflective mechanism.
When conversations come up and something's uncomfortable, guess, what Nico does?
He throws, kind of, a off the cuff thing that makes no sense
and has no part of what we're talking about
to try to get out of the conversation.
But I need you to meet me where I am
and stay there with me until the issue's resolved.
What I would like to nip in the bud
is a, is a habitual routine
of taking something that someone cares about
and sweeping it under the rug really quick.
I don't think that I am trying to sweep problem under the rug,
we aren't talking about it and she just keep mentioning
and I don't think it's important.
It's important for me to show to Meisha that I am the man.
A woman cannot control a man.
I just want...
Like, I mean, she stop to bother me.
If I'm gonna come to any sort of answers
and if you are gonna come to any sort of answer,
we actually need to explore all of this stuff.
And the only way we can do that
is by having serious conversations about serious issues
that seriously matter to us.
Yeah, no problem, Meisha, I will always listen to you.
I will try always to improve myself.
[Meisha] If you mean that, that's great.
But if you're just saying that to, like, get me to shut up and, like, move on,
just know that this stuff keeps coming up unless it's really rectified.
[Meisha] I think that
because Nicola really hasn't had any relationships with women,
he has trouble listening and working through problems.
We have to learn how to talk to each other
because if we were to get married,
and we can't even push through basic conversations,
I start to think how would that marriage work?
I am gonna just let this...
linger.
-Okay. -Okay.
'Cause I'm too tired to go where I need to go right now.
Okay, Meisha.
[narrator] Next time onBefore the 90 Days...
[Statler gasps] What is that?
My name is Statler, I'm 33-years-old and I live in Irving, Texas.
No, that was weird, sorry, that... I don't know what I'm doing.
After I came out, I really wanted to explore my sexuality
and I got lots of women.
But, then, I switched my dating app to England
and that led to the most amazing woman.
She just walked out of a wet dream. [laughs]
And, now, I'm flying out to England.
I mean, if all goes well, I'll just move there.
[laughs]
[Sheila speaking]
[David signing]
[Siri speaking in English]
[Siri speaking]
[both giggling]
[Christian speaking]
[Cleo] Christian is arriving in London.
Hi, baby.
Hey, it's good to see you, what's been happening?
It's so embarrassing, but...
he doesn't wanna have sex with me.
[indistinct]
But I think you deserve someone, like, really incredible.
[Riley speaking]
Excuse me, I'm over here.
She gets a text and it's some dude with his shirt off.
My friend, only my friend.
You're a liar, you lie.
What the [bleep] is going on?