1 00:00:01,344 --> 00:00:02,482 [Meisha] Previously on 2 00:00:02,517 --> 00:00:03,827 Before the 90 Days... 3 00:00:05,310 --> 00:00:06,655 [sobs softly] 4 00:00:06,689 --> 00:00:08,379 [sniffling, crying] 5 00:00:10,655 --> 00:00:11,482 [in sign language] 6 00:00:15,379 --> 00:00:16,172 [spelling out] 7 00:00:20,689 --> 00:00:21,517 [giggles] 8 00:00:24,689 --> 00:00:27,000 Because he has never dated a trans person, 9 00:00:27,034 --> 00:00:29,000 like, is he gonna stand by you? 10 00:00:29,034 --> 00:00:30,620 There's a real concern 11 00:00:30,655 --> 00:00:33,137 that Christian isn't gonna be happy 12 00:00:33,172 --> 00:00:36,000 being in a committed relationship with somebody like me. 13 00:00:36,034 --> 00:00:38,517 So, how does that work with, like... 14 00:00:38,551 --> 00:00:40,137 [Christian] Well, I... 15 00:00:40,172 --> 00:00:42,551 You know, sex isn't the end all be all in a relationship, 16 00:00:42,586 --> 00:00:43,965 -at least for me. That's the thing. -[woman] I don't know. 17 00:00:44,000 --> 00:00:45,862 That's a huge part of a relationship. 18 00:00:53,068 --> 00:00:54,344 [Meisha] I am comfortable 19 00:00:54,379 --> 00:00:56,896 being flirty and touchy, 20 00:00:57,965 --> 00:00:58,965 but Nicola 21 00:00:59,000 --> 00:01:01,241 is a 46-year-old virgin. 22 00:01:04,310 --> 00:01:06,413 If he's not an affectionate person, 23 00:01:06,448 --> 00:01:07,896 that's gonna be a problem for me. 24 00:01:12,793 --> 00:01:15,344 He's a producer for the music video. 25 00:01:15,379 --> 00:01:16,206 [speaking] 26 00:01:18,896 --> 00:01:19,896 [Amanda] I made it clear 27 00:01:19,931 --> 00:01:21,241 I am not okay 28 00:01:21,275 --> 00:01:22,655 with him kissing another woman 29 00:01:22,689 --> 00:01:23,896 in his music video. 30 00:01:28,724 --> 00:01:30,103 Do whatever you wanna do. 31 00:01:30,137 --> 00:01:32,241 Your actions will tell me what I need to know. 32 00:01:34,378 --> 00:01:37,103 The producer was telling me they do have a message from her. 33 00:01:37,137 --> 00:01:37,965 What did it say? 34 00:01:38,586 --> 00:01:39,413 [Tyray reading aloud] 35 00:01:42,758 --> 00:01:44,620 Do you still think that she is real? 36 00:01:44,655 --> 00:01:47,206 I... I... I want more answers. 37 00:01:47,241 --> 00:01:49,275 [Lashanti] If he doesn't come to terms with what's happening, 38 00:01:49,310 --> 00:01:50,723 he can get his heart broke even worse. 39 00:01:56,241 --> 00:01:57,689 Finally. 40 00:01:57,723 --> 00:01:58,965 So, what are we doing tomorrow? 41 00:02:05,034 --> 00:02:06,655 What do you mean, if I wanna meet you? 42 00:02:07,517 --> 00:02:08,655 I'm only here for two weeks. 43 00:02:08,689 --> 00:02:10,655 I don't understand how I'm not 44 00:02:10,689 --> 00:02:12,103 a priority for Violet right now. 45 00:02:12,862 --> 00:02:14,275 Really? 46 00:02:14,310 --> 00:02:15,103 [chuckles] 47 00:02:16,862 --> 00:02:18,655 You know, if you truly loved me, 48 00:02:18,689 --> 00:02:20,103 you would listen to my proposal. 49 00:02:20,137 --> 00:02:22,517 -I explained to you-- -[Jasmine] You're a [bleep] idiot. 50 00:02:22,551 --> 00:02:24,275 Well, I took a [bleep] picture of it, anyway. 51 00:02:24,310 --> 00:02:26,068 [Jasmine] You know, talking about a pre-nup, 52 00:02:26,103 --> 00:02:29,310 it's like, he's looking at me like a gold digger. 53 00:02:29,344 --> 00:02:31,620 All my demons come out because of you. 54 00:02:31,655 --> 00:02:33,103 Yell, yell, yell! 55 00:02:33,137 --> 00:02:37,137 I feel more attracted to my ex even than to [bleep] you. 56 00:02:37,172 --> 00:02:38,103 Oh, right. 57 00:02:39,827 --> 00:02:40,689 [Gino] Oh, yeah. 58 00:02:47,103 --> 00:02:48,482 [lively Israeli music playing] 59 00:03:05,172 --> 00:03:06,137 [Nicola] Meisha. 60 00:03:07,241 --> 00:03:08,896 My God, Meisha. 61 00:03:08,931 --> 00:03:10,758 -What you-- -[Meisha] Oh, my gosh, Nico, what? 62 00:03:10,793 --> 00:03:12,379 [Nicola] Wake up. Morning, sweetie pie. 63 00:03:14,862 --> 00:03:17,172 -You sleep so deep. -[yawns] 64 00:03:17,206 --> 00:03:19,689 -[Meisha] I'm so tired. -How did you sleep? 65 00:03:21,068 --> 00:03:23,034 [Meisha] Good, why are you up so early? What time is it? 66 00:03:23,068 --> 00:03:26,241 Uff, it's like 7:45. 67 00:03:26,275 --> 00:03:28,551 Yesterday, I arrived in Israel, 68 00:03:28,586 --> 00:03:32,379 to meet Nicola, the love of my life. 69 00:03:32,413 --> 00:03:34,034 And today is the first full day 70 00:03:34,067 --> 00:03:35,689 that we're gonna be spending together. 71 00:03:35,724 --> 00:03:39,586 I have to find what I'm gonna wear today, so... [grunts] Let me... 72 00:03:39,620 --> 00:03:40,896 Maybe I should do that right now. 73 00:03:42,551 --> 00:03:43,379 [kisses] 74 00:03:45,379 --> 00:03:47,206 No, nothing happened last night 75 00:03:47,241 --> 00:03:50,172 that we couldn't say that God is still proud of us, 76 00:03:50,206 --> 00:03:53,517 but there was definitely some heavy petting going on, 77 00:03:53,551 --> 00:03:57,482 because I did hop over on Nico's bed 78 00:03:57,517 --> 00:03:59,896 to cuddle up a little bit. But, you know, 79 00:03:59,930 --> 00:04:03,068 I think that that's all just normal and cute and fun. 80 00:04:03,103 --> 00:04:05,034 But nothing that God would be mad at, no. 81 00:04:07,620 --> 00:04:09,793 Um, and then I have to 82 00:04:09,827 --> 00:04:10,793 find jewelry, and then-- 83 00:04:22,793 --> 00:04:24,206 Kissing and hugging, of course. 84 00:04:31,724 --> 00:04:32,620 Heavy petting? 85 00:04:35,344 --> 00:04:38,206 Heavy petting? [chuckling] I don't know. 86 00:04:41,275 --> 00:04:44,172 But I feel love. You know? I feel love 87 00:04:44,206 --> 00:04:47,758 toward Meisha. And it's been, like, 16 years, to be without a girl. 88 00:04:47,793 --> 00:04:50,206 It was, like, so sensational 89 00:04:50,241 --> 00:04:54,275 to kiss Meisha and hug her. And I just love it. 90 00:04:54,310 --> 00:04:55,310 It was awesome. 91 00:04:57,758 --> 00:05:00,206 -So, Nico, you didn't sleep last night? -[Nicola] No. 92 00:05:02,862 --> 00:05:04,724 It's so weird, because... 93 00:05:06,034 --> 00:05:10,379 post conversion, this is the first relationship I've had, 94 00:05:10,413 --> 00:05:13,034 where I've been celibate, and it 95 00:05:13,068 --> 00:05:15,103 just feels weird. Like, I don't... 96 00:05:15,137 --> 00:05:18,034 Like, it feels weird, like, there's like this... 97 00:05:18,068 --> 00:05:22,103 Not a disconnect, but, like, how do you close that gap? You know? 98 00:05:22,137 --> 00:05:22,965 I mean... 99 00:05:24,827 --> 00:05:25,862 [Meisha] Yes, for sure. 100 00:05:25,896 --> 00:05:27,827 Kisses are good and hugs are good. 101 00:05:27,862 --> 00:05:31,827 But, like, I think, just checking in, and making sure that, like, 102 00:05:31,862 --> 00:05:34,379 how can we even be more affectionate, like... 103 00:05:35,896 --> 00:05:38,758 Hot and cute and... You know what I mean? 104 00:05:38,793 --> 00:05:40,310 -Okay. -[Meisha] Like... 105 00:05:40,344 --> 00:05:41,344 -Just-- -Give me time. 106 00:05:41,379 --> 00:05:42,896 -[Meisha] I know. I will. -Give me time. 107 00:05:52,758 --> 00:05:54,000 So, I just keep telling her, "Okay." 108 00:05:57,689 --> 00:05:58,620 [kisses] 109 00:05:58,655 --> 00:06:00,758 -[Meisha] You're a sweetheart. -Yes. 110 00:06:00,793 --> 00:06:02,793 [lively Arab music playing] 111 00:06:11,206 --> 00:06:12,620 [Meisha] What's that? What's a Mary Well? 112 00:06:12,655 --> 00:06:15,206 [Nicola] You know they believe, like tradition, in Nazareth, 113 00:06:15,241 --> 00:06:17,724 Mother Mary used to come here and drink water. 114 00:06:17,758 --> 00:06:19,000 -[Meisha] Oh! -[Nicola] Yes! 115 00:06:20,068 --> 00:06:21,586 [Meisha] Oh, my God. 116 00:06:21,620 --> 00:06:25,793 It's so hard to imagine that thousand of years ago-- 117 00:06:25,827 --> 00:06:28,586 -Yeah, 2,000-- -...Mother Mary would come here. 118 00:06:28,620 --> 00:06:31,206 -It's almost like, hard to wrap your mind around-- -[Nicola speaks] 119 00:06:31,241 --> 00:06:32,034 It's insane. 120 00:06:33,620 --> 00:06:36,793 [Nicola] Today is our first day together, me and Meisha. 121 00:06:36,827 --> 00:06:38,931 And now, it's the time for action, to show her 122 00:06:42,931 --> 00:06:44,758 -[Meisha exclaims] -[Nicola] Looks good. 123 00:06:44,793 --> 00:06:46,827 -That's beautiful. -[man speaking] 124 00:06:46,862 --> 00:06:48,172 -I will love it. -[Nicola chuckles] 125 00:06:48,206 --> 00:06:50,793 -Thank you. God bless you. -[man chuckles] 126 00:06:50,827 --> 00:06:52,241 [Nicola] In the beginning of our relationship, 127 00:06:52,275 --> 00:06:54,413 when we start to talk about Jesus, 128 00:06:54,448 --> 00:06:58,206 this is where the connection start between me and her. 129 00:06:58,241 --> 00:07:01,827 So, I hope showing all these holy sites to Meisha, 130 00:07:01,862 --> 00:07:04,793 that's what will make our relationship also stronger. 131 00:07:05,862 --> 00:07:07,758 -[softly] Just be careful. -[exclaims] 132 00:07:09,206 --> 00:07:10,000 Yeah. 133 00:07:13,517 --> 00:07:15,862 -[Meisha] Yeah, no, I-- -And me, of course, of course. 134 00:07:15,896 --> 00:07:18,000 I'm here because of you, first and foremost. 135 00:07:18,034 --> 00:07:21,413 So, meeting your mom and your family is actually 136 00:07:21,448 --> 00:07:23,655 of utmost importance to me. 137 00:07:29,379 --> 00:07:31,275 It's very important, that's why. 138 00:07:32,000 --> 00:07:33,344 [Nicola speaking] 139 00:07:34,310 --> 00:07:35,482 [Meisha] What about your brothers? 140 00:07:36,586 --> 00:07:37,655 Well, I, I... 141 00:07:42,137 --> 00:07:43,344 You... So, you... Wait, hold on. 142 00:07:43,379 --> 00:07:45,965 So, you haven't told them that I'm here? 143 00:07:46,000 --> 00:07:46,965 -Not really, no. -You haven't 144 00:07:47,000 --> 00:07:48,862 -told them that I'm here, in Israel? -No. No. 145 00:07:49,862 --> 00:07:52,413 -Do they know that I exist, even? -Yeah. 146 00:07:52,448 --> 00:07:55,517 [Meisha] Okay, thanks be to God, they know I exist. Okay. 147 00:07:55,551 --> 00:07:57,758 -So, another one does not even know I exist. -No. 148 00:07:59,379 --> 00:08:03,000 [Meisha] Nicola, everybody in my life knows who you are. 149 00:08:03,034 --> 00:08:05,068 How important Nicola is, 150 00:08:05,103 --> 00:08:08,344 the importance he's played, the role he's played in her life. 151 00:08:08,379 --> 00:08:10,862 But yet, in your life, it's like... Meh. 152 00:08:13,793 --> 00:08:15,758 Even though I'm not very happy about it, 153 00:08:15,793 --> 00:08:19,379 I did know that Nicola was waiting to tell his mother about me, 154 00:08:19,413 --> 00:08:23,379 because his mother is a very traditional Arabic woman. 155 00:08:23,413 --> 00:08:25,241 And she might not like the fact 156 00:08:25,275 --> 00:08:29,241 that I'm a divorced woman, I've got children, I'm not a virgin. 157 00:08:30,344 --> 00:08:31,862 But I am shocked 158 00:08:31,896 --> 00:08:34,517 to find out that he has kept me, basically, 159 00:08:34,551 --> 00:08:36,586 a secret to everyone in his life. 160 00:08:37,551 --> 00:08:39,344 It just makes me feel like 161 00:08:39,379 --> 00:08:42,241 maybe the reason he's been hiding me is because 162 00:08:42,275 --> 00:08:44,172 he is maybe ashamed of my past. 163 00:08:48,103 --> 00:08:50,241 I definitely have to meet your family, that's part of-- 164 00:08:50,275 --> 00:08:53,241 -Okay. -[Meisha] That's part of the whole discerning process, 165 00:08:53,275 --> 00:08:55,862 Nicola... I have to meet your family, you're gonna meet my... 166 00:08:55,896 --> 00:08:57,137 That's just normal. 167 00:09:03,482 --> 00:09:04,896 Nicola. 168 00:09:04,931 --> 00:09:05,931 -[chuckles] -What's careless... 169 00:09:07,310 --> 00:09:08,586 Why are you laughing right now? What's funny? 170 00:09:08,620 --> 00:09:09,448 [Nicola] Laughing because... 171 00:09:12,241 --> 00:09:13,689 -[Meisha] Nicola. -[chuckling] What? 172 00:09:13,724 --> 00:09:15,310 [Meisha] If I say something 173 00:09:15,344 --> 00:09:16,137 that bothers me, 174 00:09:17,517 --> 00:09:19,448 then it has to matter to you. 175 00:09:19,482 --> 00:09:21,931 It's not, like, "Oh, this is so funny, 176 00:09:21,965 --> 00:09:23,620 "and I don't care what you think." 177 00:09:31,482 --> 00:09:32,965 Do you think he might say that, though? 178 00:09:33,000 --> 00:09:35,724 -Maybe. I don't know. -That might give me a little bit of-- 179 00:09:35,758 --> 00:09:37,379 -Maybe. Maybe he will say. -context about what's going on. 180 00:09:37,413 --> 00:09:38,241 Maybe. 181 00:09:40,310 --> 00:09:42,448 Yes, but, if it really, if it really didn't matter, 182 00:09:42,482 --> 00:09:43,896 if you really didn't care what they thought, 183 00:09:43,931 --> 00:09:45,965 then it'd be really easy to share that information with them. 184 00:09:48,965 --> 00:09:49,793 No. 185 00:10:01,103 --> 00:10:03,931 -[chuckles nervously] Yeah. -No, honestly, like, is everything a joke? 186 00:10:03,965 --> 00:10:05,275 -Like, everything that I say? -No. 187 00:10:05,310 --> 00:10:07,758 -No, 'cause it's, it's not... It's not normal. -Okay, okay. 188 00:10:13,965 --> 00:10:16,241 -I don't see any problem with that. -It's way past the time. 189 00:10:16,275 --> 00:10:17,586 -And it's way deeper than that. -[Nicola] No... [indistinct] 190 00:10:40,482 --> 00:10:42,379 -Popcorn. -Popcorn, okay. [chuckles] 191 00:10:43,827 --> 00:10:45,827 -[man speaking] -[Tyray] Good, how are you? 192 00:10:45,862 --> 00:10:47,896 -[man] Good. What can I get for you today? -Hi. 193 00:10:47,931 --> 00:10:50,724 -Um, kettle. -[Tyray] You sell lemonades, too? 194 00:10:50,758 --> 00:10:52,034 -Yes. -[Tyray] Oh, okay. 195 00:10:52,068 --> 00:10:53,310 -I'll take one. -Okay. 196 00:10:55,793 --> 00:10:57,586 [Tyray] My life is crazy, right now. 197 00:10:57,620 --> 00:11:00,793 Two weeks ago, I had plans to book a trip to Barbados, 198 00:11:00,827 --> 00:11:05,068 to finally meet Carmella, the love of my life, in person. 199 00:11:05,103 --> 00:11:07,793 But then producers told me, when they reached out to her, 200 00:11:07,827 --> 00:11:09,793 a man named Christian responded 201 00:11:09,827 --> 00:11:13,965 and told production that they had been catfishing me for four years. 202 00:11:17,758 --> 00:11:19,482 I'm struggling to wrap my head around everything. 203 00:11:19,517 --> 00:11:23,344 But the more I think about it, the more I think it's a misunderstanding, 204 00:11:23,379 --> 00:11:27,206 because I don't know how the last four years could be a lie. 205 00:11:28,413 --> 00:11:30,310 I do appreciate you coming out here with me, though. 206 00:11:30,344 --> 00:11:31,620 [Lashanti] Oh, you're welcome. 207 00:11:31,655 --> 00:11:32,965 [Tyray] I haven't been out 208 00:11:33,000 --> 00:11:35,827 since I found out all that information about Carmella, so... 209 00:11:35,862 --> 00:11:37,724 Like, it's been weird, just kind of, like, 210 00:11:37,758 --> 00:11:40,000 not having her messages, and her talking to me and stuff. 211 00:11:42,517 --> 00:11:45,034 There's a huge void not having 212 00:11:45,068 --> 00:11:47,551 messages from Carmella every morning, 213 00:11:47,586 --> 00:11:49,448 you know, and all throughout the day. 214 00:11:49,482 --> 00:11:53,551 And it's torture, not to look at my phone and check, and check, 215 00:11:53,586 --> 00:11:56,379 and check, and check, and... It's just really hard. 216 00:12:00,310 --> 00:12:02,137 Sometimes, I really won't admit to, 217 00:12:02,172 --> 00:12:07,275 but I, I cry and, you know. just reflecting on everything, it's like, "Wow." 218 00:12:07,310 --> 00:12:09,724 Keeping on thinking about how this person that 219 00:12:09,758 --> 00:12:14,758 I knew so good and so well, has just, it just disappeared. 220 00:12:14,793 --> 00:12:18,103 So, you said she hadn't, um, responded to the Snapchats, right? 221 00:12:18,137 --> 00:12:20,379 Yeah, she hasn't responded at all. She just opened up 222 00:12:20,413 --> 00:12:22,344 the messages, maybe like, two days ago. 223 00:12:23,620 --> 00:12:25,758 Um, she's looking at 'em, 224 00:12:25,793 --> 00:12:28,517 because, you know, that's confirmation that she's seen them. 225 00:12:28,551 --> 00:12:30,379 -And honestly-- -Even though that's not her, though. 226 00:12:30,413 --> 00:12:33,068 Like, you want him to respond? 227 00:12:33,103 --> 00:12:36,275 That's the thing, that I still kind of think that it might be her. 228 00:12:36,310 --> 00:12:37,827 [Lashanti] So, some part of you still believes 229 00:12:37,862 --> 00:12:39,862 that there is some type of hope? 230 00:12:41,586 --> 00:12:44,413 Yeah, I do. I still have that hope in my heart. 231 00:12:44,448 --> 00:12:46,448 But I was also maybe thinking like, what if, 232 00:12:46,482 --> 00:12:49,241 like, Carmella was, like, in prison or something? 233 00:12:50,206 --> 00:12:52,931 [scoffs] Seriously? [chuckles] 234 00:12:54,482 --> 00:12:57,206 -I know, it sounds crazy. -I'm sorry, I don't wanna laugh, but... 235 00:12:58,413 --> 00:12:59,931 Seriously? I really wanna shake you 236 00:12:59,965 --> 00:13:01,896 just to knock some sense into your head. 237 00:13:01,931 --> 00:13:04,551 -[Tyray] But-- -She's not in prison. 238 00:13:04,586 --> 00:13:07,655 No, let me explain though. Because, like, you know how if you were in prison, 239 00:13:07,689 --> 00:13:10,275 and they need somebody, like, to talk to, because they're, like, 240 00:13:10,310 --> 00:13:11,827 locked up? 241 00:13:11,862 --> 00:13:14,758 -Like a pen pal? -[Tyray] Yeah, so, maybe, 242 00:13:14,793 --> 00:13:16,448 this is what happened. She got released, 243 00:13:16,482 --> 00:13:19,827 and then now, she's, like, with her husband, or something. 244 00:13:19,862 --> 00:13:24,137 I'm sorry, but yeah, that is not logical. 245 00:13:24,172 --> 00:13:25,965 That's still, like, a possibility though. 246 00:13:26,000 --> 00:13:27,310 -[Lashanti] At all. -Maybe she got out 247 00:13:27,344 --> 00:13:29,068 and maybe her husband found out or something. 248 00:13:29,827 --> 00:13:31,482 [chuckles] 249 00:13:31,517 --> 00:13:32,931 Yeah, you're delusional. 250 00:13:33,413 --> 00:13:34,448 I'm sorry. 251 00:13:35,379 --> 00:13:36,620 [Lashanti] I am shocked 252 00:13:36,655 --> 00:13:39,000 that Tyray's in such denial right now. 253 00:13:39,034 --> 00:13:41,586 And it's killing me to watch him believe 254 00:13:41,620 --> 00:13:45,620 and hold on to just a little bit of hope that this could be real. 255 00:13:45,655 --> 00:13:49,965 I don't know, I see you trying to make excuses, 256 00:13:50,000 --> 00:13:53,965 try to figure out something to make it make sense, but... [sighs] 257 00:13:54,000 --> 00:13:56,758 -Yeah. -[Lashanti] But there's just some stuff, that I, kind of, 258 00:13:58,517 --> 00:14:01,241 found out, that I wanted to come out and tell you. 259 00:14:03,172 --> 00:14:04,000 All right. 260 00:14:09,793 --> 00:14:14,000 And I found some stuff that he needs to know. 261 00:14:14,034 --> 00:14:17,413 But I'm just worried about telling him, because he's still vulnerable, 262 00:14:17,448 --> 00:14:19,862 and I don't want him to get his heart broke even worse. 263 00:14:23,517 --> 00:14:24,620 So, yeah, I was just... Ooh. 264 00:14:24,655 --> 00:14:26,000 -[thuds] -Oh, [bleep]. 265 00:14:26,034 --> 00:14:27,448 -Argh! -[Tyray] Woops. 266 00:14:27,482 --> 00:14:28,310 [both chuckle] 267 00:14:29,551 --> 00:14:31,379 How did that even happen? 268 00:14:31,413 --> 00:14:34,137 But, um, yeah, I was just doing my own research 269 00:14:34,172 --> 00:14:35,965 of the pictures that you sent me. 270 00:14:36,000 --> 00:14:37,206 And I finally found something. 271 00:14:39,275 --> 00:14:40,068 What'd you find? 272 00:14:40,931 --> 00:14:42,034 I could pull it up. 273 00:14:42,655 --> 00:14:43,689 [Tyray] God. [exhales] 274 00:14:46,379 --> 00:14:48,931 -[Lashanti] This is a escort page. -[gasps] 275 00:14:52,206 --> 00:14:53,379 [Lashanti] This is her, right? 276 00:14:59,034 --> 00:15:01,620 [reading] "I am a 31-year-old horny lady, just want 277 00:15:01,655 --> 00:15:04,827 "a guy or a girl to go down. Satisfaction guaranteed." 278 00:15:08,413 --> 00:15:11,379 It says that she worked in Lancaster, Long Beach, 279 00:15:11,413 --> 00:15:13,241 LA, Oakland, 280 00:15:13,275 --> 00:15:15,965 San Diego, San Jose, and Stockton. 281 00:15:16,000 --> 00:15:18,517 -In Bakersfield? -[Lashanti] Bakersfield, California. 282 00:15:18,551 --> 00:15:19,965 What the [bleep]? 283 00:15:20,000 --> 00:15:21,931 That's really close. 284 00:15:21,965 --> 00:15:25,103 [Tyray] Stockton is, like, not even 30 minutes away. 285 00:15:25,137 --> 00:15:27,034 Bakersfield maybe, like, two, three hours. 286 00:15:31,241 --> 00:15:34,241 She said she was livin' in Barbados. 287 00:15:34,275 --> 00:15:36,448 [Lashanti] There's a phone number. You think we should call it? 288 00:15:40,724 --> 00:15:41,551 Are you okay? 289 00:15:45,896 --> 00:15:47,551 [grunts, mumbles] I'm gonna walk home. 290 00:15:51,827 --> 00:15:53,034 [sighs] 291 00:16:10,896 --> 00:16:13,965 [Sheila grunts] I don't know a lot of sign language. 292 00:16:16,862 --> 00:16:20,827 And I am very nervous that it will be difficult 293 00:16:20,862 --> 00:16:23,344 to communicate while he's here. 294 00:16:32,413 --> 00:16:33,827 [Jasmine speaking Spanish] 295 00:16:38,896 --> 00:16:41,965 -[crying] -[Liz speaking Spanish] 296 00:17:12,034 --> 00:17:14,619 [scooter horn honking loudly] 297 00:17:19,517 --> 00:17:21,931 [muffled audio] 298 00:17:31,586 --> 00:17:33,551 [normal audio resumes] 299 00:17:42,103 --> 00:17:43,379 [speaks Filipino] 300 00:17:43,413 --> 00:17:46,000 [keyboard keys clicking] 301 00:17:48,620 --> 00:17:51,034 [speaking English] 302 00:18:18,827 --> 00:18:19,931 [Sheila laughs] 303 00:18:21,172 --> 00:18:22,931 [slowly] Bad road here. 304 00:18:26,689 --> 00:18:28,517 [David signing] 305 00:18:49,655 --> 00:18:53,275 [Sheila speaking] 306 00:19:08,448 --> 00:19:11,827 I'm excited to have my honey be here, 307 00:19:11,862 --> 00:19:14,827 but I don't know a lot of sign language. 308 00:19:23,793 --> 00:19:27,689 and I am very nervous that it will be difficult 309 00:19:27,724 --> 00:19:30,034 to communicate while he's here. 310 00:19:32,551 --> 00:19:33,724 [grunts] 311 00:19:40,517 --> 00:19:41,896 Beans... 312 00:19:45,931 --> 00:19:47,482 [laughs] 313 00:19:48,862 --> 00:19:49,896 Thank you. 314 00:19:50,931 --> 00:19:52,586 [speaks Filipino] 315 00:20:21,758 --> 00:20:23,724 [keyboard keys clicking] 316 00:20:26,827 --> 00:20:29,206 [in English] 317 00:20:29,241 --> 00:20:31,034 [in Filipino] 318 00:20:36,103 --> 00:20:37,172 [in English] Here. 319 00:20:41,068 --> 00:20:42,344 [indistinct chatter] 320 00:20:46,517 --> 00:20:48,068 [chuckles] 321 00:20:48,103 --> 00:20:49,172 [Sheila speaks indistinctly] 322 00:20:50,103 --> 00:20:52,206 We can find... 323 00:20:59,551 --> 00:21:01,758 [indistinct background chatter] 324 00:21:05,344 --> 00:21:07,241 Okay? [chuckles] 325 00:21:11,724 --> 00:21:13,448 [laughing] 326 00:21:22,551 --> 00:21:24,965 [David signing] 327 00:21:45,620 --> 00:21:46,793 [speaks indistinctly] 328 00:21:52,000 --> 00:21:52,931 Are you mad? 329 00:21:54,758 --> 00:21:56,896 Smash like that. 330 00:22:12,000 --> 00:22:14,827 [Sheila] It is hard enough to communicate with someone 331 00:22:14,862 --> 00:22:17,172 from different culture. 332 00:22:17,206 --> 00:22:19,379 But because he is deaf, 333 00:22:19,413 --> 00:22:22,551 it makes things much harder. 334 00:22:22,586 --> 00:22:24,896 It's very challenging because 335 00:22:24,931 --> 00:22:30,034 I have to think so hard about how to express my thoughts. 336 00:22:30,965 --> 00:22:32,586 Though I text to him, 337 00:22:32,620 --> 00:22:34,448 though I try to sign, 338 00:22:34,482 --> 00:22:39,000 I cannot just say whatever I'm thinking in the moment. 339 00:22:59,551 --> 00:23:01,793 But we love each other, 340 00:23:01,827 --> 00:23:05,758 so I hope that communicating will get easy 341 00:23:05,793 --> 00:23:09,241 and more natural over time. 342 00:23:13,896 --> 00:23:16,344 [upbeat Spanish song playing] 343 00:23:28,724 --> 00:23:30,379 -Hola. -[barmaid in Spanish] 344 00:23:30,413 --> 00:23:32,413 -[Gino] Do you speak English? -[barmaid in English] Yes. 345 00:23:32,448 --> 00:23:34,896 I'm just, like, looking for, like, uh, a light beer. 346 00:23:36,724 --> 00:23:38,586 Okay, I'll try it. 347 00:23:39,517 --> 00:23:40,896 [chuckles] Why not? 348 00:23:44,103 --> 00:23:46,413 I've only been in Panama two days now, 349 00:23:46,448 --> 00:23:49,482 and already Jasmine and I are not getting along. 350 00:23:49,517 --> 00:23:50,689 She kicked me out 351 00:23:50,724 --> 00:23:53,275 just because I proposed a prenup. 352 00:23:53,310 --> 00:23:55,655 Oh, yeah, that's a good color. 353 00:23:55,689 --> 00:23:57,551 -Beautiful. -Okay! 354 00:23:57,586 --> 00:23:59,241 -[Gino] Thank you. -You're welcome. 355 00:24:00,241 --> 00:24:03,137 Jasmine's saying a lot of hurtful things to me, 356 00:24:03,172 --> 00:24:05,068 like, talking about her ex, 357 00:24:05,103 --> 00:24:08,758 and she basically told me our engagement's off. 358 00:24:08,793 --> 00:24:11,241 I'm just frustrated and upset 359 00:24:11,275 --> 00:24:13,896 because I don't know if she means it 360 00:24:13,931 --> 00:24:15,965 or she's just saying this 'cause she's hurt 361 00:24:16,000 --> 00:24:19,275 and she's trying to get revenge on me of some sort. 362 00:24:19,310 --> 00:24:21,310 Um, I really don't know. 363 00:24:25,448 --> 00:24:27,551 [Gino] I have a fiance in Panama. 364 00:24:27,586 --> 00:24:28,896 Okay! 365 00:24:28,931 --> 00:24:30,172 And I came here to see her, 366 00:24:30,206 --> 00:24:34,586 but today we kind of, we got in, into a, an argument. 367 00:24:34,620 --> 00:24:36,793 -Mmm. Oh. -[Gino] So I figure I need one of these. 368 00:24:39,551 --> 00:24:43,931 I was trying to talk to her about, 369 00:24:43,965 --> 00:24:45,793 you know, a prenup agreement. 370 00:24:45,827 --> 00:24:50,655 -Mmm-hmm. -Um, and she got very upset, 371 00:24:50,689 --> 00:24:54,586 and I think that she wants to break up. 372 00:24:54,620 --> 00:24:57,655 -I know it's a lot to take in but... [laughs] -[barmaid] No, no, no, no... 373 00:24:57,689 --> 00:25:00,000 -[hesitates] I-- -Because I just met you but... 374 00:25:00,034 --> 00:25:01,034 No, no, no. 375 00:25:11,586 --> 00:25:13,896 [Gino] Um, that's interesting. 376 00:25:14,413 --> 00:25:16,482 [barmaid speaking] 377 00:25:36,379 --> 00:25:38,206 -It's not about sharing though. -Mmm-hmm. 378 00:25:38,241 --> 00:25:41,068 The problem is I do have to protect my assets 379 00:25:41,103 --> 00:25:44,379 because let's say that we get a divorce, 380 00:25:44,413 --> 00:25:47,758 then, I could lose 50% of the money 381 00:25:47,793 --> 00:25:49,586 that I worked hard for for 30 years. 382 00:26:07,379 --> 00:26:10,896 [Gino] In my mind, prenup does not mean that I don't trust her. 383 00:26:10,931 --> 00:26:13,482 You know, I love her very much and, you know, 384 00:26:13,517 --> 00:26:14,896 I, I wanna be with her. 385 00:26:14,931 --> 00:26:17,931 But the same time, I'm concerned about our future 386 00:26:17,965 --> 00:26:19,793 as far as marriage goes, 387 00:26:19,827 --> 00:26:22,206 'cause of all of our arguing and fighting. 388 00:26:22,241 --> 00:26:24,655 But, right now, I need to give her her space 389 00:26:24,689 --> 00:26:26,551 so she can calm down and then I can 390 00:26:26,586 --> 00:26:29,793 gather my thoughts and-- For more of a clear head. 391 00:26:44,586 --> 00:26:47,103 [both speaking Spanish] 392 00:26:49,034 --> 00:26:52,310 [in English] After the disastrous conversation with Gino, 393 00:26:52,344 --> 00:26:54,310 I am super sad. 394 00:26:54,344 --> 00:26:56,758 I feel confused, I don't know what to do. 395 00:26:57,896 --> 00:27:01,000 [speaking Spanish] 396 00:27:45,241 --> 00:27:47,172 [Jasmine speaking] 397 00:28:01,517 --> 00:28:04,034 [sobbing] 398 00:28:08,241 --> 00:28:09,103 [sniffling] 399 00:28:20,241 --> 00:28:21,034 [Jasmine speaking] 400 00:28:36,827 --> 00:28:40,517 [in English] I have this fear of, of not being loved of-- 401 00:28:40,551 --> 00:28:43,724 [voice breaking] Like, the worst thing you could do to me is rejecting me. 402 00:28:45,793 --> 00:28:49,896 I, I want him to show me that I'm worth fighting for. 403 00:28:50,793 --> 00:28:52,586 Like, I, I really need that. 404 00:28:56,551 --> 00:28:58,206 [speaking Spanish] 405 00:29:03,620 --> 00:29:04,965 [continues crying] 406 00:29:18,517 --> 00:29:20,482 [sobbing] 407 00:29:24,517 --> 00:29:25,448 [sniffles] 408 00:29:30,379 --> 00:29:32,103 So, does your family know Cleo is trans? 409 00:29:32,137 --> 00:29:35,310 Uh, some were outwardly antagonistic 410 00:29:35,344 --> 00:29:37,965 about the whole situation and saying, you know, "What are you doing?" 411 00:29:38,000 --> 00:29:40,586 But, I'm not stuck with these people, 412 00:29:40,620 --> 00:29:42,689 I don't have to even be associated with them. 413 00:29:42,724 --> 00:29:44,724 [Janna] I don't think it's gonna be very easy for Christian 414 00:29:44,758 --> 00:29:46,827 to cut out from his family. 415 00:29:46,862 --> 00:29:49,586 He's just so deeply ingrainded with them. 416 00:29:54,103 --> 00:29:56,310 [upbeat country song playing] 417 00:29:58,413 --> 00:30:00,103 ♪ Won't you come home, baby? ♪ 418 00:30:00,137 --> 00:30:02,000 ♪ Won't you come home with me?♪ 419 00:30:03,517 --> 00:30:04,827 ♪ I've got a million ways to rock it♪ 420 00:30:04,862 --> 00:30:06,137 ♪ And there ain't no one to stop it♪ 421 00:30:09,000 --> 00:30:11,034 ♪ Oh, won't you come home with me?♪ 422 00:30:11,068 --> 00:30:12,620 [song fades out] 423 00:30:12,655 --> 00:30:14,724 -[Christian] Hey, buddy, how's it going? -[Tom] Come on in. 424 00:30:14,758 --> 00:30:15,827 [Christian] Thank you, thank you. 425 00:30:15,862 --> 00:30:17,413 -[Janna] What's going on, my dude? -How's it going? 426 00:30:17,448 --> 00:30:19,275 How's it going? 427 00:30:19,310 --> 00:30:21,620 In a couple of days, I'll be flying to London 428 00:30:21,655 --> 00:30:24,344 to meet my amazing girlfriend, Cleo. 429 00:30:24,379 --> 00:30:27,551 I'm a little nervous about meeting Cleo for the first time. 430 00:30:27,586 --> 00:30:29,965 She's not like anybody I've ever dated in the past. 431 00:30:30,000 --> 00:30:32,793 But, I have really strong feelings for her, 432 00:30:32,827 --> 00:30:35,448 and I think that spending some time with her in person 433 00:30:35,482 --> 00:30:40,931 will really help us gauge whether or not we're compatible. 434 00:30:40,965 --> 00:30:44,034 -[Tom speaking] -Um, I might just take a, take a little bit of whiskey. 435 00:30:44,068 --> 00:30:45,724 [Tom] Just a little whiskey on the rocks? 436 00:30:45,758 --> 00:30:47,310 -Yeah, just a little, a little daba-duya. -[Janna chuckles] 437 00:30:47,344 --> 00:30:48,241 A little hair of the dog. 438 00:30:49,655 --> 00:30:53,103 I've known Tom for almost 10 years now. 439 00:30:53,137 --> 00:30:55,586 We like similar things, we like old music, 440 00:30:55,620 --> 00:30:58,068 we like hot rods, we like leather jackets. 441 00:30:58,103 --> 00:31:01,172 We have also dated the same women, 442 00:31:01,206 --> 00:31:02,344 although not at the same time. 443 00:31:02,379 --> 00:31:04,724 But, you know, Jannna... [stutters] 444 00:31:04,758 --> 00:31:07,241 Her and I have not dated before. 445 00:31:07,275 --> 00:31:10,448 Thanks so much for having me and having a hanging breakfast. 446 00:31:10,482 --> 00:31:11,620 Yeah, buddy. 447 00:31:12,689 --> 00:31:14,551 [Janna] Can't handle our liquor like we used to. 448 00:31:14,586 --> 00:31:17,034 Oh, my God, yeah. If I'm, like, moderate drinking, like, 449 00:31:17,068 --> 00:31:18,551 I wasn't even that drunk last night. 450 00:31:20,206 --> 00:31:21,448 Do we know what moderate drinking... 451 00:31:21,482 --> 00:31:24,689 I think they quantified it as two or three drinks in a, 452 00:31:24,724 --> 00:31:26,965 like, four-hour period, or something like that. 453 00:31:27,000 --> 00:31:29,206 It's, like, smaller than you think it would be. 454 00:31:29,241 --> 00:31:31,620 -Yeah, that's not, that's not what we do. -[chuckles] I mean-- Yeah. 455 00:31:32,482 --> 00:31:33,827 [Janna] Does Cleo drink? 456 00:31:33,862 --> 00:31:35,965 [Christian] Oh, yeah a little bit, um, 457 00:31:36,000 --> 00:31:38,758 probably, probably not as much as me, maybe. 458 00:31:38,793 --> 00:31:39,689 Hmm. 459 00:31:41,827 --> 00:31:43,551 I think we started hearing about Cleo, 460 00:31:43,586 --> 00:31:46,034 maybe, like, two months ago or so. 461 00:31:46,068 --> 00:31:47,827 Like, it's fairly recently. 462 00:31:47,862 --> 00:31:49,793 [Tom] Christian's been with Cleo 463 00:31:49,827 --> 00:31:51,344 longer than most women that he's dated, 464 00:31:51,379 --> 00:31:53,137 -so that's, that's a good sign? -[Janna] Oh, no. 465 00:31:53,172 --> 00:31:56,000 -I got my skeptical spectacles on. -I think-- 466 00:31:56,034 --> 00:31:59,310 We'll see. [laughs] We will see. 467 00:31:59,344 --> 00:32:01,517 I never would have thought that I'd be in this situation 468 00:32:01,551 --> 00:32:03,896 where I was travellin', you know, 469 00:32:03,931 --> 00:32:05,724 halfway across the world in order to meet somebody, 470 00:32:05,758 --> 00:32:11,448 let alone, you know, somebody that is transgender so... 471 00:32:11,482 --> 00:32:12,931 Does your family know Cleo is trans? 472 00:32:12,965 --> 00:32:14,413 [exhales sharply] Uh... 473 00:32:15,482 --> 00:32:17,344 You know, it's been, it's been kind of tough, 474 00:32:17,379 --> 00:32:20,172 um, you know, they... they didn't know and I didn't wanna tell them 475 00:32:20,206 --> 00:32:22,413 that she was trans, because I wanted them to... 476 00:32:23,448 --> 00:32:25,000 give her a chance first. 477 00:32:25,034 --> 00:32:27,344 Uh, but, a couple of days ago, 478 00:32:27,379 --> 00:32:28,758 I told some people in my family 479 00:32:28,793 --> 00:32:30,448 and, you know, family talks 480 00:32:30,482 --> 00:32:32,758 -and, you know-- -[man] There's no secrets. 481 00:32:32,793 --> 00:32:34,241 -Not in family. -[Christian] There's no secrets in family. 482 00:32:35,034 --> 00:32:36,344 So my parents found out 483 00:32:36,379 --> 00:32:38,068 and the... and the cat was out of the bag at that point. 484 00:32:38,103 --> 00:32:40,689 And it kinda... turned into like a... 485 00:32:40,724 --> 00:32:44,034 spectrum of people, like, you know, questioning to... 486 00:32:44,068 --> 00:32:46,103 you know, some were outwardly antagonist, 487 00:32:46,137 --> 00:32:47,206 think about the whole situation 488 00:32:47,241 --> 00:32:48,379 and saying, you know, "What are you doing?" 489 00:32:48,413 --> 00:32:49,551 Like, "What... What are you thinking?" 490 00:32:50,793 --> 00:32:51,620 So, yeah. 491 00:32:54,413 --> 00:32:55,896 My family is very close. 492 00:32:55,931 --> 00:32:58,241 I have two sisters and one brother. 493 00:32:58,275 --> 00:32:59,689 I actually live with my brother. 494 00:32:59,724 --> 00:33:01,965 I see my nieces and nephews a lot. 495 00:33:02,793 --> 00:33:04,344 And so, my family knows 496 00:33:04,379 --> 00:33:06,310 that I've been seeing someone for the last few months. 497 00:33:06,344 --> 00:33:08,620 A woman overseas that lives in London. 498 00:33:08,655 --> 00:33:09,931 And they were supportive. 499 00:33:09,965 --> 00:33:11,344 But after my family found out 500 00:33:11,379 --> 00:33:12,758 that Cleo was transgender, 501 00:33:12,793 --> 00:33:14,896 it's caused somewhat of a rift 502 00:33:14,931 --> 00:33:16,275 between me and some of my family members. 503 00:33:17,862 --> 00:33:19,103 They said some things 504 00:33:19,137 --> 00:33:21,344 about Cleo and I's relationship 505 00:33:21,379 --> 00:33:22,517 that are pretty hurtful. 506 00:33:23,896 --> 00:33:27,344 Nasty comments like, "Oh, she's pretending to be a woman." 507 00:33:27,379 --> 00:33:29,275 And things like, 508 00:33:29,310 --> 00:33:31,034 how, like, I would be affected 509 00:33:31,068 --> 00:33:33,620 in, like, public when Cleo and I were, like, out and about. 510 00:33:34,655 --> 00:33:36,000 They're not at the point where 511 00:33:36,034 --> 00:33:38,344 they're ready to accept me dating a trans woman. 512 00:33:38,379 --> 00:33:39,965 And it's been weighing on me. 513 00:33:42,034 --> 00:33:44,620 So are you mad that your family had such a bad reaction? 514 00:33:47,275 --> 00:33:48,620 Honestly, yeah. 515 00:33:48,655 --> 00:33:50,241 I mean, I would have loved 516 00:33:50,275 --> 00:33:51,241 for them to all be, 517 00:33:51,275 --> 00:33:53,068 "Oh, it's not... it's not a big problem. 518 00:33:53,103 --> 00:33:55,172 Like, we'll, you know, we'll like her 519 00:33:55,206 --> 00:33:56,103 as long as you like her." 520 00:33:56,931 --> 00:33:58,517 But, um... 521 00:33:58,551 --> 00:33:59,793 Yeah, I'd be lying if I said, 522 00:33:59,827 --> 00:34:01,482 you know, it didn't get to me a little bit. 523 00:34:02,862 --> 00:34:04,413 I can understand, like, 524 00:34:04,448 --> 00:34:06,241 some of the views that they have 525 00:34:06,275 --> 00:34:07,413 are just pretty... 526 00:34:08,379 --> 00:34:10,379 you know, old school, and whatever? 527 00:34:10,413 --> 00:34:12,413 But, like, you know, [sighs] 528 00:34:12,447 --> 00:34:13,620 some of, like, the vitriol 529 00:34:13,655 --> 00:34:15,724 has been kinda tough to bear. 530 00:34:15,757 --> 00:34:18,655 And it's made me really realize, 531 00:34:18,688 --> 00:34:20,034 like, especially, like, 532 00:34:20,068 --> 00:34:21,516 you two, like, 533 00:34:21,551 --> 00:34:22,827 friends with the family that you choose. 534 00:34:23,516 --> 00:34:24,724 And... 535 00:34:24,757 --> 00:34:26,724 I'm not stuck with these people. 536 00:34:26,757 --> 00:34:28,344 I don't have to rely on them, 537 00:34:28,379 --> 00:34:29,965 you know, forever 538 00:34:30,000 --> 00:34:32,344 or even be associated with them. 539 00:34:32,379 --> 00:34:33,206 -Absolutely. -[Christian] Yeah. 540 00:34:34,793 --> 00:34:36,310 [man] Honestly, I wasn't that surprised 541 00:34:36,344 --> 00:34:37,862 that some of Christian's family 542 00:34:37,896 --> 00:34:39,688 had negative reactions to Cleo being trans. 543 00:34:40,757 --> 00:34:41,757 'Cause they're older 544 00:34:41,793 --> 00:34:43,551 and the older generation of people in the world 545 00:34:43,585 --> 00:34:46,482 don't understand that being transgender 546 00:34:46,516 --> 00:34:47,655 like, isn't a crime, 547 00:34:47,688 --> 00:34:49,379 it's not a bad thing. 548 00:34:49,413 --> 00:34:51,034 Christian's definitely close with his family. 549 00:34:51,068 --> 00:34:53,241 I know that he said he could distance himself from them 550 00:34:53,275 --> 00:34:54,241 if he needed to, 551 00:34:54,275 --> 00:34:56,137 but, it'd be a little harder... 552 00:34:56,172 --> 00:34:58,413 harder to do than the way he's making it out. 553 00:34:59,517 --> 00:35:00,758 I'm just really hoping that 554 00:35:00,793 --> 00:35:02,206 at some point they'll... they'll... 555 00:35:03,137 --> 00:35:04,413 be accepting of... 556 00:35:04,448 --> 00:35:07,448 of, number one, her but also, like, 557 00:35:07,482 --> 00:35:09,620 you know, my love for her as well. 558 00:35:09,655 --> 00:35:11,137 And that's what matters is how you feel. 559 00:35:12,172 --> 00:35:13,000 Everything else doesn't. 560 00:35:14,827 --> 00:35:17,413 I've invested a lot of time into my relationship with Cleo 561 00:35:17,448 --> 00:35:18,724 and I care about her a lot. 562 00:35:18,758 --> 00:35:20,448 And I don't want my family's opinion 563 00:35:20,482 --> 00:35:21,275 really changing that. 564 00:35:22,482 --> 00:35:24,448 As of now, me and my family are very close. 565 00:35:24,482 --> 00:35:26,931 But, I fear that, 566 00:35:26,965 --> 00:35:28,482 there may come a point where I'll have to choose 567 00:35:28,517 --> 00:35:30,551 between Cleo or my family. 568 00:35:30,586 --> 00:35:32,379 And I... I don't think I'd handle that very well. 569 00:35:35,482 --> 00:35:36,724 [Tiffanie] How is Vietnam? 570 00:35:36,758 --> 00:35:39,413 Did you get butterflies when you saw her? 571 00:35:39,448 --> 00:35:41,586 I couldn't believe how beautiful she was. 572 00:35:41,620 --> 00:35:43,862 But, she said that she couldn't see me 573 00:35:43,896 --> 00:35:44,896 until later on tonight. 574 00:35:47,103 --> 00:35:49,413 [Riley] I wanna believe that I'm the only man 575 00:35:49,448 --> 00:35:50,517 that's in Violet's life, 576 00:35:50,551 --> 00:35:52,620 but her behaviour is making me really question it. 577 00:35:56,172 --> 00:35:58,758 When I tell you things, like, you just don't listen. 578 00:36:36,965 --> 00:36:38,344 [Riley] I'm a little upset that... 579 00:36:39,482 --> 00:36:42,241 you know, Violet made plans for today 580 00:36:42,275 --> 00:36:45,137 knowing that I was travelling here to visit her. 581 00:36:45,172 --> 00:36:46,068 It's a little upsetting. 582 00:36:49,000 --> 00:36:50,103 We got a ways to go. 583 00:36:50,137 --> 00:36:52,000 Uh, I still have, like... 584 00:36:53,275 --> 00:36:54,551 some questions and I think... 585 00:36:54,586 --> 00:36:55,586 I feel that, um, 586 00:36:55,620 --> 00:36:57,275 I might be a little more to commit it 587 00:36:57,310 --> 00:36:58,103 to this than her. 588 00:36:59,137 --> 00:37:01,068 Uh, but, I'm hoping for the best. 589 00:37:02,172 --> 00:37:03,000 So, yeah. 590 00:37:22,275 --> 00:37:23,896 -Hey, hey, hey. - Hi. 591 00:37:23,931 --> 00:37:24,758 What's up? 592 00:37:32,275 --> 00:37:33,344 [Riley] Uh... 593 00:37:33,379 --> 00:37:34,862 I'm not gonna lie, 594 00:37:34,896 --> 00:37:36,482 I couldn't believe how beautiful she was. 595 00:37:38,034 --> 00:37:38,862 But, she, uh... 596 00:37:39,448 --> 00:37:41,000 she made a lot of plans, 597 00:37:41,034 --> 00:37:42,620 then said that she couldn't see me 598 00:37:42,655 --> 00:37:43,689 until later on tonight. 599 00:37:44,413 --> 00:37:46,379 So I was a little disappointed 600 00:37:46,413 --> 00:37:49,034 and a little, uh, upset about that. 601 00:37:49,068 --> 00:37:52,068 So, unfortunately, I'm kinda on her time 602 00:37:52,103 --> 00:37:54,551 and I have to wait to have the conversation with her. 603 00:37:54,586 --> 00:37:56,241 -Uh... - You could've, I mean... 604 00:37:56,275 --> 00:37:58,482 So she knew you were traveling all this way? 605 00:37:58,517 --> 00:37:59,344 [Riley] Yeah. 606 00:38:00,172 --> 00:38:01,034 And she got plans? 607 00:38:01,655 --> 00:38:02,482 Yeah. 608 00:38:03,413 --> 00:38:04,310 I don't understand that. 609 00:38:08,655 --> 00:38:09,482 Yeah. 610 00:38:12,275 --> 00:38:13,103 Yeah. 611 00:38:19,620 --> 00:38:20,655 I... I'm... 612 00:38:21,310 --> 00:38:22,586 I'm at her leisure. 613 00:38:22,620 --> 00:38:24,482 I'm hoping to see her... see the family. 614 00:38:27,241 --> 00:38:28,034 I understand that. 615 00:38:29,103 --> 00:38:29,931 Yeah. 616 00:38:31,689 --> 00:38:33,620 -I'm not gonna be a wuss, I promise. -Don't be caught up 617 00:38:33,655 --> 00:38:36,275 in the beauty, or the booty, okay? 618 00:38:36,310 --> 00:38:37,310 [chuckles] I... 619 00:38:37,344 --> 00:38:38,241 -It's a nice booty. -[chuckles] 620 00:38:44,172 --> 00:38:45,379 ...push it to the side. 621 00:38:45,413 --> 00:38:46,896 Like, is there somebody else there? 622 00:38:46,931 --> 00:38:48,103 -[speaking indistinctly] -[Riley] And that's what I... 623 00:38:48,137 --> 00:38:49,344 And I kinda feel that 624 00:38:49,379 --> 00:38:50,379 I just, uh... 625 00:38:50,413 --> 00:38:52,413 Like I said, I still have these apprehensions 626 00:38:52,448 --> 00:38:53,241 and these questions. 627 00:38:55,448 --> 00:38:57,482 I wanna believe that I'm the only man 628 00:38:57,517 --> 00:38:58,793 that's in Violet's life 629 00:38:58,827 --> 00:39:02,137 but her behavior is making me really question it. 630 00:39:02,172 --> 00:39:04,344 Especially when she didn't delete the dating ad 631 00:39:04,379 --> 00:39:05,379 that we met on 632 00:39:05,413 --> 00:39:07,862 after she was so adamant that I delete it. 633 00:39:08,724 --> 00:39:10,000 And now that I'm here 634 00:39:10,034 --> 00:39:11,137 and she's not with me, 635 00:39:11,172 --> 00:39:13,034 it makes me question her truth a little bit more. 636 00:39:14,655 --> 00:39:15,655 It's definitely something 637 00:39:15,689 --> 00:39:18,137 I need to have a conversation with her about. 638 00:39:18,172 --> 00:39:21,482 Like, even when I gave her the pearls last night, 639 00:39:21,517 --> 00:39:23,275 I feel, 640 00:39:23,310 --> 00:39:25,620 I didn't get the energy that I thought I was gonna get. 641 00:39:26,517 --> 00:39:28,172 It felt like it was basic to her. 642 00:39:30,620 --> 00:39:32,206 No, those... [laughs] 643 00:39:32,241 --> 00:39:34,310 -I can't take 'em back. -[chuckles] 644 00:39:34,344 --> 00:39:36,793 Listen, she doesn't know that I brought other gifts. 645 00:39:36,827 --> 00:39:38,275 I mean, I brought this ring. 646 00:39:38,620 --> 00:39:39,448 I came-- 647 00:39:40,137 --> 00:39:40,965 Say again. 648 00:39:41,827 --> 00:39:42,724 Let me see this ring. 649 00:39:43,517 --> 00:39:45,344 Really? You wanna... Okay. 650 00:39:45,379 --> 00:39:46,206 I really do. 651 00:39:49,482 --> 00:39:50,310 -This is it. - Uh-huh. 652 00:39:52,655 --> 00:39:54,517 [Riley] This is not a wedding band. 653 00:39:54,551 --> 00:39:56,931 It is... It is a commitment ring. 654 00:39:56,965 --> 00:39:59,448 But this is not a definite she's getting it. 655 00:39:59,482 --> 00:40:00,655 Just understand that. 656 00:40:00,689 --> 00:40:01,724 She has to earn this. 657 00:40:04,862 --> 00:40:05,758 She gotta show me 658 00:40:05,793 --> 00:40:06,793 that she's just as serious 659 00:40:06,827 --> 00:40:07,793 and committed as I am. 660 00:40:09,551 --> 00:40:11,344 I want you to be... 661 00:40:11,965 --> 00:40:13,034 mindful of your heart. 662 00:40:13,448 --> 00:40:14,931 Yeah. 663 00:40:14,965 --> 00:40:17,103 It's been a long time since you've been 664 00:40:17,137 --> 00:40:19,275 with someone seriously 665 00:40:19,310 --> 00:40:22,482 and you've been putting your eggs in this basket, 666 00:40:22,517 --> 00:40:24,758 -Yeah. - And, you know, my prayer 667 00:40:24,793 --> 00:40:26,344 to you, is that, you know, 668 00:40:26,379 --> 00:40:28,379 you don't have scrambled eggs in your basket. 669 00:40:28,724 --> 00:40:30,344 I got ya. 670 00:40:30,379 --> 00:40:33,172 I can definitely see Tiffanie point of view 671 00:40:33,206 --> 00:40:34,689 and I'm really disappointed 672 00:40:34,724 --> 00:40:37,172 that Violet and I are getting off on the wrong foot. 673 00:40:37,206 --> 00:40:38,965 But I came too far 674 00:40:39,000 --> 00:40:40,689 to give up on us that easily 675 00:40:40,724 --> 00:40:42,482 and I wanna see if we can make 676 00:40:42,517 --> 00:40:43,724 a way to be together. 677 00:40:45,965 --> 00:40:48,379 Safe, safe, safe, safe, everything. 678 00:40:48,413 --> 00:40:49,482 All right. Bye. 679 00:40:50,517 --> 00:40:51,344 Bye. 680 00:41:15,482 --> 00:41:17,413 So do you understand, like... 681 00:41:18,689 --> 00:41:20,275 why I'm upset? 682 00:41:31,413 --> 00:41:32,827 My first couple days in Romania, 683 00:41:32,862 --> 00:41:34,241 Razvan has not been 684 00:41:34,275 --> 00:41:35,379 that considerate of me. 685 00:41:36,448 --> 00:41:38,172 It's confusing because over the phone 686 00:41:38,689 --> 00:41:39,896 he was so caring 687 00:41:39,931 --> 00:41:41,758 and listened to what I had to say. 688 00:41:42,827 --> 00:41:45,379 And right now I feel really upset 689 00:41:45,413 --> 00:41:47,517 by Razvan being so dismissive 690 00:41:47,551 --> 00:41:49,758 of my concern about him kissing another woman 691 00:41:49,793 --> 00:41:50,862 in his music video. 692 00:41:52,275 --> 00:41:54,724 I know that he's not trying to hurt me 693 00:41:54,758 --> 00:41:56,448 but I need him to hear me more. 694 00:41:58,379 --> 00:42:01,413 Maybe you shouldn't have... chose to make a business call. 695 00:42:09,827 --> 00:42:10,655 No? 696 00:42:11,965 --> 00:42:13,655 It was in your control to call him. 697 00:42:14,655 --> 00:42:16,241 It was... I know. 698 00:42:16,275 --> 00:42:18,137 But I'm just saying it was in your control to call him. 699 00:42:18,172 --> 00:42:19,689 It was in your control to... 700 00:42:20,724 --> 00:42:22,241 say that you're gonna kiss a girl 701 00:42:22,275 --> 00:42:23,103 in your video. 702 00:42:28,655 --> 00:42:29,655 So it's like a game? 703 00:42:29,689 --> 00:42:30,724 Like, you say things 704 00:42:30,758 --> 00:42:31,965 just to see my reaction? 705 00:43:13,448 --> 00:43:15,241 Why are you so emotional right now? 706 00:44:00,655 --> 00:44:01,862 I love you so much, 707 00:44:01,896 --> 00:44:03,551 but I feel like when I tell you things, 708 00:44:03,586 --> 00:44:05,103 like, you just don't understand 709 00:44:05,137 --> 00:44:06,586 or you don't... 710 00:44:06,620 --> 00:44:08,965 like, listen, to, like, my feelings on it. 711 00:44:58,068 --> 00:45:00,862 I came here to see if Razvan 712 00:45:00,896 --> 00:45:03,862 is potentially the perfect man for me 713 00:45:03,896 --> 00:45:06,172 and a good father figure for my kids. 714 00:45:07,655 --> 00:45:10,241 I'm expecting a lot from this relationship 715 00:45:10,275 --> 00:45:14,379 and maybe that's been causing me to be too hard on Razvan. 716 00:45:14,413 --> 00:45:15,551 And not allowing myself 717 00:45:15,586 --> 00:45:16,965 to open up in this relationship. 718 00:45:47,172 --> 00:45:48,689 Little bit nervous... 719 00:45:49,413 --> 00:45:50,931 because I never been 720 00:45:50,965 --> 00:45:52,517 with a deaf person before. 721 00:45:56,620 --> 00:45:57,655 -I... -Oh. 722 00:46:46,000 --> 00:46:46,931 Reservation, oh. 723 00:46:47,586 --> 00:46:48,413 Reservat... 724 00:47:31,000 --> 00:47:32,724 [door beeping] 725 00:47:41,448 --> 00:47:42,275 [Sheila] Wait. 726 00:47:43,413 --> 00:47:44,241 Yes. 727 00:47:53,241 --> 00:47:54,034 Okay. 728 00:48:08,448 --> 00:48:09,517 [both grunts] 729 00:48:09,551 --> 00:48:11,448 [Sheila laughing] 730 00:48:11,482 --> 00:48:12,310 It's okay. 731 00:49:18,620 --> 00:49:19,448 [chewing] 732 00:49:21,551 --> 00:49:22,758 [Sheila] I noticed that, 733 00:49:22,793 --> 00:49:27,068 David is very loud, uh, eating, 734 00:49:27,103 --> 00:49:29,000 like, um... 735 00:49:29,793 --> 00:49:31,586 [imitates lip smacking] 736 00:49:31,620 --> 00:49:32,517 [chuckles softly] 737 00:49:35,379 --> 00:49:36,448 [Sheila speaking] 738 00:49:36,896 --> 00:49:39,000 [laughs] 739 00:49:40,310 --> 00:49:44,344 Maybe because he cannot hear himself eat. 740 00:49:44,379 --> 00:49:46,344 But, I don't mind it. 741 00:49:48,379 --> 00:49:49,172 [using sign language] 742 00:49:53,724 --> 00:49:54,551 [using sign language] 743 00:49:55,068 --> 00:49:55,896 Yes. 744 00:49:57,206 --> 00:49:58,000 Okay. 745 00:50:05,068 --> 00:50:07,482 [Sheila] David and I have been talking about 746 00:50:07,517 --> 00:50:09,827 sex for a long time. 747 00:50:09,862 --> 00:50:12,103 And now that he is here, I'm... 748 00:50:12,896 --> 00:50:14,931 a little bit nervous. 749 00:50:14,965 --> 00:50:18,586 Because, I've never been with deaf person before. 750 00:50:18,620 --> 00:50:21,103 And I don't know what to expect. [chuckles softly] 751 00:50:23,724 --> 00:50:24,551 Change clothes. 752 00:50:35,275 --> 00:50:37,448 [Sheila speaking] 753 00:51:00,379 --> 00:51:01,241 [using sign language] 754 00:51:20,965 --> 00:51:22,862 [using sign language] 755 00:51:58,931 --> 00:51:59,758 [using sign language] 756 00:52:04,931 --> 00:52:06,413 I think I do want to maybe like reach out. 757 00:52:07,931 --> 00:52:09,000 [ringback tone] 758 00:52:11,172 --> 00:52:12,965 This is crazy. 759 00:52:13,000 --> 00:52:14,965 It's hard to watch him cling to some hope, 760 00:52:15,000 --> 00:52:16,172 for her to be real. 761 00:52:17,620 --> 00:52:18,655 [Tyray] My heart's beating fast. 762 00:52:34,068 --> 00:52:34,896 [bleep] 763 00:52:35,551 --> 00:52:36,517 [Tyray speaking] 764 00:52:39,655 --> 00:52:40,827 Like, I don't want to judge anybody, 765 00:52:40,862 --> 00:52:42,000 but at the same time, it's like 766 00:52:43,413 --> 00:52:45,551 that's something you kinda want to tell your partner 767 00:52:45,586 --> 00:52:46,862 that you're an escort or whatever. 768 00:52:48,310 --> 00:52:49,931 Been living in Bakersfield or Stockton. 769 00:52:49,965 --> 00:52:52,000 Stockton is like, right down the street. 770 00:52:52,034 --> 00:52:55,448 Like, she's like 30 minutes away like, what the[bleep]. 771 00:52:55,482 --> 00:52:58,482 If you really were that close, why haven't we met yet, 772 00:52:58,517 --> 00:53:02,344 after four years of havin' a supposed relationship 773 00:53:02,379 --> 00:53:04,241 and then you're saying you love me and I say I love you? 774 00:53:06,310 --> 00:53:08,275 It is really confusing, honestly. 775 00:53:08,310 --> 00:53:11,103 That's pretty much, the only way I can describe anything. 776 00:53:11,137 --> 00:53:11,965 I'm confused. 777 00:53:21,241 --> 00:53:22,034 Are you okay? 778 00:53:22,689 --> 00:53:23,689 [Tyray] I mean... 779 00:53:25,655 --> 00:53:27,000 It's like a dagger into my heart. 780 00:53:33,310 --> 00:53:35,517 -No, I appreciate you showing me though, like. -Yeah. 781 00:53:35,551 --> 00:53:37,517 And being honest about it with me because, 782 00:53:37,551 --> 00:53:40,241 that's not the kind of girl I wanna be with, like, 783 00:53:40,275 --> 00:53:41,068 at all, like, 784 00:53:43,068 --> 00:53:46,758 I was dating a escort who said she living in Barbados, 785 00:53:46,793 --> 00:53:48,172 who happened to live in Bakersfield. 786 00:53:50,103 --> 00:53:51,379 I know it's a lot to take in. 787 00:53:55,896 --> 00:53:56,931 What about Christian, though? 788 00:53:59,482 --> 00:54:00,758 He pretended to be her. 789 00:54:01,931 --> 00:54:02,931 He could be her pimp. 790 00:54:06,965 --> 00:54:08,758 This is crazy. 791 00:54:08,793 --> 00:54:10,931 It's hard to watch him cling to some hope, 792 00:54:10,965 --> 00:54:12,137 for her to be real. 793 00:54:12,172 --> 00:54:13,793 'Cause all the signs are right there. 794 00:54:13,827 --> 00:54:15,241 that he was catfished, 795 00:54:15,275 --> 00:54:17,862 but, he's too in denial for me. 796 00:54:17,896 --> 00:54:19,896 And I want him to accept it for what it is, 797 00:54:19,931 --> 00:54:22,275 and not try to make some more excuses. 798 00:54:22,310 --> 00:54:24,172 But, I don't know how else to help Tyray. 799 00:54:24,620 --> 00:54:25,448 I really don't. 800 00:54:27,689 --> 00:54:29,241 Right now, I'm just really confused. 801 00:54:31,379 --> 00:54:32,172 And it hurts. 802 00:54:33,206 --> 00:54:34,000 I know. 803 00:54:36,275 --> 00:54:37,827 Just take a minute and get yourself together first, 804 00:54:37,862 --> 00:54:39,655 and then you could, see what you could do. 805 00:54:41,310 --> 00:54:42,965 I think I do wanna maybe like, reach out. 806 00:54:43,827 --> 00:54:45,517 -[Lashanti] Call the number? -Yeah. 807 00:54:46,551 --> 00:54:47,965 Can you, um, send that to me? 808 00:54:56,344 --> 00:54:57,758 I got your message. 809 00:54:57,793 --> 00:55:00,379 [Tyray speaking] 810 00:55:06,241 --> 00:55:07,655 [ringback tone playing] 811 00:55:12,586 --> 00:55:14,034 [ringback tone continues] 812 00:55:23,000 --> 00:55:24,413 [recorded voice] The text mail subscriber 813 00:55:24,448 --> 00:55:26,862 you're trying to reach is not available. 814 00:55:32,586 --> 00:55:35,137 She probably didn't answer 'cause it's blocked, you know. 815 00:55:37,758 --> 00:55:38,724 Maybe you should send a text. 816 00:55:41,413 --> 00:55:42,344 Like what, should I ask like, 817 00:55:42,379 --> 00:55:43,517 are you available or something? 818 00:55:43,551 --> 00:55:45,068 -No. [chuckles] -[chuckles] 819 00:55:52,413 --> 00:55:53,896 [Lashanti] What are you saying? 820 00:55:53,931 --> 00:55:57,551 I just put, "Hey, I seen your ad and you look extremely familiar. 821 00:55:57,586 --> 00:55:59,137 I wanted to know if we could have a chat, 822 00:55:59,172 --> 00:56:00,103 if you are available." 823 00:56:02,655 --> 00:56:03,758 I sent it, so. 824 00:56:09,103 --> 00:56:11,620 I just Googled the number in another escort site. 825 00:56:11,655 --> 00:56:12,586 [Lashanti] It's her too? 826 00:56:12,620 --> 00:56:14,896 This is an escort in Palm Bay. 827 00:56:15,551 --> 00:56:16,896 Oh, my God. 828 00:56:16,931 --> 00:56:18,551 And there's even more photos. 829 00:56:18,586 --> 00:56:19,620 And that's another number. 830 00:56:23,620 --> 00:56:25,379 Wow. 831 00:56:25,413 --> 00:56:27,310 [Lashanti] You're gonna send the text that number? 832 00:56:27,344 --> 00:56:28,551 I mean, there's so many of 'em. 833 00:56:28,586 --> 00:56:29,931 Honestly, I don't even know what to do. 834 00:56:32,931 --> 00:56:35,448 I'm extremely lost, and confused, 835 00:56:35,482 --> 00:56:37,655 because I don't know you know, what to believe. 836 00:56:38,689 --> 00:56:41,206 I wanted to find more information about her, 837 00:56:41,241 --> 00:56:43,034 but obviously, this information, 838 00:56:43,068 --> 00:56:44,965 isn't what I wanted to hear. 839 00:56:45,000 --> 00:56:47,103 I don't know what to do, but I desperately want to 840 00:56:47,137 --> 00:56:48,551 connect with her and get the whole truth. 841 00:56:54,275 --> 00:56:56,206 I came over 8,000 miles 842 00:56:56,241 --> 00:56:57,551 and I feel like, I'm an afterthought. 843 00:56:59,448 --> 00:57:00,689 Can you at least... 844 00:57:01,586 --> 00:57:04,103 I am a little taken back whenever I speak 845 00:57:04,137 --> 00:57:06,137 about something that's of concern to me 846 00:57:06,172 --> 00:57:07,620 she shuts it down 847 00:57:07,655 --> 00:57:09,551 The rest of the time I'm here... 848 00:57:09,586 --> 00:57:10,689 you're gonna make time for me? 849 00:57:14,172 --> 00:57:15,000 [Cleo speaking] 850 00:57:21,586 --> 00:57:23,965 Some of the negative things that my family has been saying 851 00:57:24,000 --> 00:57:25,310 is starting to get to me. 852 00:57:26,241 --> 00:57:27,379 Thank you so much. 853 00:57:27,413 --> 00:57:29,172 If I'm being 100% honest, 854 00:57:29,206 --> 00:57:31,275 I'm not sure how things are gonna go. 855 00:57:47,862 --> 00:57:49,517 Hello. Good afternoon. 856 00:57:49,551 --> 00:57:50,931 Good afternoon, sir, How may I help you? 857 00:57:50,965 --> 00:57:53,965 Yeah, I need a cab to Independence Palace. 858 00:57:54,000 --> 00:57:55,310 [front desk executive speaking] 859 00:57:55,344 --> 00:57:56,448 [Riley] Okay. 860 00:57:56,482 --> 00:57:58,379 I really thought I was gonna be spending my first 861 00:57:58,413 --> 00:58:00,275 full day in Vietnam alone. 862 00:58:00,310 --> 00:58:02,724 But Violet gave me a call a couple hours ago 863 00:58:02,758 --> 00:58:04,379 and said that she changed her plans 864 00:58:04,413 --> 00:58:05,689 that she had with her school. 865 00:58:06,931 --> 00:58:08,172 [cell phone ringing] 866 00:58:11,344 --> 00:58:12,241 Hello. 867 00:58:12,862 --> 00:58:14,034 Hello, how are you? 868 00:58:14,068 --> 00:58:15,517 I'm doing well, how are you? 869 00:58:17,965 --> 00:58:20,517 Uh, yeah 'cause I'm in your country, 870 00:58:20,551 --> 00:58:23,206 and I have nothing goin' on, without you. 871 00:58:23,241 --> 00:58:24,517 Yes I am free. Why? 872 00:58:28,965 --> 00:58:31,379 I thought I wasn't gonna see you until tonight. 873 00:58:34,413 --> 00:58:35,517 Okay. 874 00:58:38,034 --> 00:58:39,172 Independence Palace. 875 00:58:54,689 --> 00:58:55,655 Hi baby. 876 00:58:55,689 --> 00:58:56,896 [Violet speaking] 877 00:58:56,931 --> 00:58:57,965 [Riley speaking] 878 00:58:59,413 --> 00:59:01,275 [Violet speaking] 879 00:59:01,310 --> 00:59:03,000 [Riley] I'm doing good. Morning was all right. 880 00:59:04,620 --> 00:59:06,000 Come on. Let's go. 881 00:59:06,034 --> 00:59:06,862 [Violet] Let's go. 882 00:59:08,206 --> 00:59:09,344 [Violet speaking] 883 00:59:35,034 --> 00:59:36,482 -[Riley] He hit this gate? -[Violet] Yes. 884 00:59:36,517 --> 00:59:37,517 [Violet speaking] 885 00:59:38,827 --> 00:59:39,758 [Riley] Uh-huh. 886 00:59:41,655 --> 00:59:43,034 -[Riley] Oh. -[Violet] Yeah. 887 00:59:43,068 --> 00:59:45,241 -[Riley] So, that's the tank that came into the gate? -[Violet] Yes. 888 00:59:45,275 --> 00:59:47,000 -Uh, hit the gate. -Oh. 889 00:59:50,827 --> 00:59:52,172 Maybe a little bit older than that. 890 00:59:53,827 --> 00:59:55,482 [both laugh] 891 00:59:55,517 --> 00:59:58,000 [Riley] Oh... okay. 892 00:59:58,034 --> 00:59:59,931 -Let me ask you a question. -Okay. 893 00:59:59,965 --> 01:00:01,413 What changed your mind? 894 01:00:01,448 --> 01:00:04,000 What made you wanna see me earlier, 895 01:00:04,034 --> 01:00:05,586 than later tonight? 896 01:00:14,206 --> 01:00:15,241 [chuckles] 897 01:00:15,275 --> 01:00:17,586 But, do you understand how that made me feel? 898 01:00:18,310 --> 01:00:19,620 It kinda hurt, 'cause 899 01:00:19,655 --> 01:00:22,137 I came over 8,000 miles and then... 900 01:00:23,172 --> 01:00:25,275 Like, I feel like I'm an afterthought. 901 01:00:26,310 --> 01:00:27,310 Um... 902 01:00:30,275 --> 01:00:32,137 [Riley] You know... 903 01:00:32,172 --> 01:00:34,793 Well, I'm asking do you understand, 904 01:00:34,827 --> 01:00:37,275 how I would feel. 905 01:00:37,310 --> 01:00:41,172 I feel like you didn't really prepare for me being here. 906 01:00:44,482 --> 01:00:45,275 That's how it feels. 907 01:00:46,517 --> 01:00:47,931 So, um... 908 01:00:50,620 --> 01:00:51,758 [Riley] Can you at least... 909 01:00:53,000 --> 01:00:56,344 [Riley] But, baby, you changed your mind and you... 910 01:00:56,379 --> 01:00:57,517 [Violet speaking] 911 01:01:01,689 --> 01:01:02,551 Okay. 912 01:01:04,241 --> 01:01:06,068 So, I'm not sure if Violet, 913 01:01:06,103 --> 01:01:08,827 truly understands what I'm saying, but 914 01:01:08,862 --> 01:01:10,655 I am a little taken back 915 01:01:10,689 --> 01:01:14,172 by her lack of emotions. [chuckles] 916 01:01:14,206 --> 01:01:16,310 Uh, whenever I speak, 917 01:01:16,344 --> 01:01:19,655 about something that's of concern for me, she kinda, 918 01:01:19,689 --> 01:01:21,034 shuts it down. 919 01:01:21,068 --> 01:01:23,379 But, then when she speaks about something 920 01:01:23,413 --> 01:01:24,965 that's of concern for her, 921 01:01:25,000 --> 01:01:25,931 I have to listen. 922 01:01:27,482 --> 01:01:28,758 So... 923 01:01:28,793 --> 01:01:31,724 can you at least say that the rest of the time I'm here, 924 01:01:32,344 --> 01:01:33,724 that you will... 925 01:01:33,758 --> 01:01:34,862 you gonna make time for me, 926 01:01:34,896 --> 01:01:36,689 like you're not gonna have a whole bunch of, uh, 927 01:01:37,586 --> 01:01:39,172 you know, things planned. 928 01:01:50,000 --> 01:01:52,827 Oh, I'm glad that you, thought of it. 929 01:01:52,862 --> 01:01:55,068 'Cause I'mma be honest, it made me feel, 930 01:01:55,862 --> 01:01:58,034 like you didn't care. 931 01:01:58,068 --> 01:02:00,862 -No, I care about you. -All right, just... 932 01:02:00,896 --> 01:02:02,965 Why do you keep punching my fat? [chuckles] 933 01:02:19,793 --> 01:02:20,620 [Riley] Cheese. 934 01:02:21,896 --> 01:02:24,310 [Violet speaking] 935 01:02:32,344 --> 01:02:33,551 [Riley] Hold on [indistinct]. 936 01:02:34,620 --> 01:02:38,275 I'm sweating. Your country is so humid. 937 01:02:38,310 --> 01:02:40,551 -Why? You need like AC outside. -[Violet laughs] 938 01:02:41,310 --> 01:02:42,931 [Violet speaking] 939 01:02:42,965 --> 01:02:43,793 [Riley] Okay. 940 01:02:45,344 --> 01:02:46,793 Slow down just a little for me, 941 01:02:46,827 --> 01:02:48,448 come on my knee is hurting. 942 01:02:48,482 --> 01:02:49,896 -Your knee? -Yeah. 943 01:02:49,931 --> 01:02:52,379 I have a bad knee, from the military. 944 01:02:52,413 --> 01:02:53,482 [Violet speaking] 945 01:02:53,517 --> 01:02:56,034 I don't need to sit down. I'm good. I can handle it. 946 01:02:56,931 --> 01:02:59,103 I just you know, sometimes it hurts... 947 01:02:59,137 --> 01:03:01,448 [Violet speaking] 948 01:03:02,206 --> 01:03:04,379 I didn't think that, 949 01:03:04,413 --> 01:03:06,862 you would respect me, if you knew, 950 01:03:07,689 --> 01:03:09,827 that, I'm hurt you know. 951 01:03:09,862 --> 01:03:11,448 Because I know you like strong men. 952 01:03:12,482 --> 01:03:13,310 And, um... 953 01:03:14,000 --> 01:03:15,172 I didn't know that, uh, 954 01:03:16,551 --> 01:03:18,034 you know how was gonna react. 955 01:03:18,862 --> 01:03:19,827 [Violet speaking] 956 01:03:22,482 --> 01:03:23,517 We're gonna get that time. 957 01:03:23,551 --> 01:03:24,379 [Violet speaking] 958 01:03:28,379 --> 01:03:30,482 -Skin to skin. Skin to skin. -[laughs] 959 01:03:33,000 --> 01:03:33,896 Yeah. 960 01:03:34,413 --> 01:03:35,344 -Yeah. -Yeah. 961 01:03:37,137 --> 01:03:40,034 I have two weeks here, which is not a lot of time 962 01:03:40,068 --> 01:03:41,793 to find out if this is the woman I want to spend 963 01:03:41,827 --> 01:03:43,793 the rest of my life with. 964 01:03:43,827 --> 01:03:46,655 But, I really believe that we're on the right track. 965 01:03:46,689 --> 01:03:48,344 I just hope, Violet doesn't throw 966 01:03:48,379 --> 01:03:52,620 some kinda curve ball at me. like, she has done before. 967 01:03:52,655 --> 01:03:54,551 And like, derail this whole process. 968 01:03:55,689 --> 01:03:57,034 [Riley] Thank you for bringing me here. 969 01:03:57,068 --> 01:03:58,517 Thank you, Vietnam. 970 01:03:59,241 --> 01:04:01,034 Thank you, Vietnam. 971 01:04:01,068 --> 01:04:02,655 [Violet] You're welcome. 972 01:04:02,689 --> 01:04:03,517 [both laugh] 973 01:04:19,586 --> 01:04:21,724 All right, girls, it's time. 974 01:04:21,758 --> 01:04:22,896 We have arrived. 975 01:04:23,724 --> 01:04:24,793 [meowing] 976 01:04:28,000 --> 01:04:32,206 Christian will be here in London in less than 24 hours. 977 01:04:32,241 --> 01:04:36,965 I feel thrilled, scared, and a complete mix of emotion. 978 01:04:38,275 --> 01:04:39,517 Here we are. 979 01:04:40,241 --> 01:04:42,000 Oh, wow. That's super cute. 980 01:04:42,034 --> 01:04:43,896 I love this. 981 01:04:43,931 --> 01:04:46,551 Christian got us an Airbnb while he was here because 982 01:04:46,586 --> 01:04:49,379 I have a roommate and we wanted to have some privacy. 983 01:04:49,413 --> 01:04:51,206 This way, we can really take our time, 984 01:04:51,241 --> 01:04:52,448 to get to know each other. 985 01:04:54,068 --> 01:04:55,241 Right, here we are. 986 01:04:55,275 --> 01:04:56,586 You can start exploring. 987 01:04:57,793 --> 01:05:00,827 My cats actively reduce my anxiety, 988 01:05:00,862 --> 01:05:02,448 whenever they're around, 989 01:05:02,482 --> 01:05:03,827 It's pretty cozy, isn't it? 990 01:05:03,862 --> 01:05:06,448 Yes, I know you're always thinking of food. 991 01:05:06,482 --> 01:05:07,758 Little chunky, ooh. 992 01:05:07,793 --> 01:05:09,000 -[meows] -Little chunky baby. 993 01:05:10,448 --> 01:05:13,172 My kitties have never been introduced, 994 01:05:13,206 --> 01:05:15,103 to a new daddy. 995 01:05:15,137 --> 01:05:16,862 So, Christian better get along with them. 996 01:05:16,896 --> 01:05:19,344 I know he's not a cat person. I know he's a dog person. 997 01:05:19,379 --> 01:05:22,413 But my cats are the most amazing beings, 998 01:05:22,448 --> 01:05:24,172 in the whole of the universe. 999 01:05:24,206 --> 01:05:25,827 And, he has to see that. 1000 01:05:29,103 --> 01:05:30,310 My God. 1001 01:05:30,344 --> 01:05:32,000 It's crazy. 1002 01:05:32,034 --> 01:05:33,758 I cannot believe he's gonna be here. 1003 01:05:33,793 --> 01:05:34,965 I'm a little nervous, 1004 01:05:35,000 --> 01:05:37,517 because his family had a bit of a reaction 1005 01:05:37,551 --> 01:05:39,310 after finding out that I'm trans. 1006 01:05:42,275 --> 01:05:44,344 I feel, super worried about it because, 1007 01:05:44,379 --> 01:05:47,275 how am I gonna be able to be part of his family? 1008 01:05:47,310 --> 01:05:49,827 Knowing how close Christian is to his family, 1009 01:05:49,862 --> 01:05:52,655 I really do worry how that is going to impact 1010 01:05:52,689 --> 01:05:55,275 our relationship, if they're never gonna support us. 1011 01:05:58,724 --> 01:06:02,000 Initially, one of the first things that Christian said to me is, 1012 01:06:02,034 --> 01:06:05,344 that he's really big on holding hands, kissing, 1013 01:06:05,379 --> 01:06:08,413 however, suddenly he changed his mind 1014 01:06:08,448 --> 01:06:12,068 and that maybe we shouldn't kiss in public or the airport, 1015 01:06:12,103 --> 01:06:14,344 And that was a little bit hurtful. 1016 01:06:19,068 --> 01:06:23,862 So, maybe we should really wait before kissing in public 1017 01:06:23,896 --> 01:06:26,344 and even though that's not exactly what he said, 1018 01:06:26,379 --> 01:06:29,310 you know, that was kind of, like, the vibe. 1019 01:06:31,965 --> 01:06:34,551 Being transgender, I've had to deal with so much rejection 1020 01:06:35,034 --> 01:06:36,379 my entire life. 1021 01:06:36,413 --> 01:06:39,758 But, obviously, Christian has never had to deal with rejection 1022 01:06:39,793 --> 01:06:43,827 based on who he loves or his gender identity. 1023 01:06:45,172 --> 01:06:47,517 I've put a lot of faith in this relationship 1024 01:06:47,551 --> 01:06:50,034 and I have very strong feelings for Christian. 1025 01:06:50,068 --> 01:06:52,931 But there's a part of me that worries about the fact 1026 01:06:52,965 --> 01:06:56,517 that, you know, maybe he's not gonna be strong enough 1027 01:06:56,551 --> 01:06:58,896 to face his family and the haters, 1028 01:06:58,931 --> 01:07:01,724 and, actually, stand up for himself and us. 1029 01:07:04,103 --> 01:07:05,965 [funky music playing] 1030 01:07:10,517 --> 01:07:11,310 [Christian groans in frustration] 1031 01:07:13,241 --> 01:07:14,034 Okay. 1032 01:07:14,655 --> 01:07:15,482 Okay. 1033 01:07:16,931 --> 01:07:17,827 Winter coat. 1034 01:07:18,655 --> 01:07:20,137 It's gotta get in there somehow. 1035 01:07:20,172 --> 01:07:22,551 [doorbell rings] 1036 01:07:24,965 --> 01:07:26,758 -[Christian] Hey, buddy. -[Tom] What's up, buddy? 1037 01:07:26,793 --> 01:07:27,827 -[muffled speaking] -I'm all right. 1038 01:07:29,965 --> 01:07:33,448 I have some mixed emotions about leaving today to go visit Cleo. 1039 01:07:33,482 --> 01:07:36,068 On one hand, I'm really excited to meet her for the first time 1040 01:07:36,103 --> 01:07:37,137 and on the other hand, 1041 01:07:37,172 --> 01:07:39,310 I'm a little disappointed that my family 1042 01:07:39,344 --> 01:07:41,103 isn't as supportive as I'd like them to be. 1043 01:07:43,241 --> 01:07:44,793 Tom's one of my best guys 1044 01:07:44,827 --> 01:07:45,965 and I'm really glad that he's the one 1045 01:07:46,000 --> 01:07:47,448 that's bringing me to the airport today. 1046 01:07:48,413 --> 01:07:50,206 -Are you excited? -[Christian] Yes. 1047 01:07:50,241 --> 01:07:52,448 Yeah, I... It's just the stress, you know, getting ready. 1048 01:07:58,172 --> 01:08:01,000 But this just happens to be, like, the first time I'm meeting somebody. 1049 01:08:02,689 --> 01:08:04,172 Like, imagine, if you went on a first date, 1050 01:08:04,206 --> 01:08:06,413 [indistinct] "Hi, nice to meet you." [kissing] 1051 01:08:06,448 --> 01:08:07,275 You know? 1052 01:08:08,241 --> 01:08:09,965 -So... -You guys did talk about it? 1053 01:08:10,000 --> 01:08:10,931 Yeah, yeah, we did. 1054 01:08:10,965 --> 01:08:13,965 Um, I kinda, like, just was, like, you know, 1055 01:08:14,000 --> 01:08:16,654 "Would, would it be all right if, like, we just kinda, like, feel everything out, 1056 01:08:16,689 --> 01:08:18,724 -you know, in the start?" -Hmm. 1057 01:08:18,758 --> 01:08:21,517 She's definitely weirded out, it kinda threw her, threw her for a loop a little bit. 1058 01:08:22,551 --> 01:08:23,379 I'm just, kinda, like... 1059 01:08:24,379 --> 01:08:25,310 overthinking it, I guess. 1060 01:08:27,895 --> 01:08:29,654 Do you think that maybe had, has something to do with 1061 01:08:29,689 --> 01:08:30,965 what your family is gonna think? 1062 01:08:33,136 --> 01:08:34,551 I mean, absolutely. 1063 01:08:34,586 --> 01:08:38,033 It's hard to not be influenced or affected by what your family thinks. 1064 01:08:38,965 --> 01:08:40,379 -That makes sense. -Yeah. 1065 01:08:42,310 --> 01:08:44,310 Oh, I find Cleo extremely attractive 1066 01:08:44,344 --> 01:08:46,620 but some of the negative things that my family has been saying 1067 01:08:46,654 --> 01:08:48,862 is starting to get to me. 1068 01:08:48,895 --> 01:08:50,344 -[Christian] Got everything I need. -[Tom] Sweet. 1069 01:08:50,379 --> 01:08:53,965 Do I kiss her when I first meet her, do I wait? 1070 01:08:54,000 --> 01:08:56,171 You know, these feelings that I get from my family, 1071 01:08:56,206 --> 01:08:58,482 they're really weighing down my excitement and I don't like that. 1072 01:09:02,103 --> 01:09:04,103 -[Tom] Got everything? -[Christian] Yeah, buddy. 1073 01:09:04,136 --> 01:09:06,930 And, right now, I'm not entirely sure 1074 01:09:06,965 --> 01:09:09,517 what I'm gonna do when I see her for the first time in public. 1075 01:09:16,482 --> 01:09:18,586 [Christian] I'm bringing this with me. 1076 01:09:18,620 --> 01:09:19,965 -[Tom] Hey, buddy, we're here. -[Christian chuckles] 1077 01:09:21,379 --> 01:09:23,241 Okay, hey, thank you so much. 1078 01:09:23,274 --> 01:09:24,241 Of course. 1079 01:09:24,274 --> 01:09:25,689 -I love you. -[muffled] Love you, brother. 1080 01:09:25,724 --> 01:09:27,517 Love you, have fun. 1081 01:09:29,344 --> 01:09:32,586 [Tom] I'm a little surprised to hear that he had doubts about kissing right away 1082 01:09:32,620 --> 01:09:34,551 just 'cause he is one of those kind of guys 1083 01:09:34,586 --> 01:09:37,792 that just usually goes and does stuff, thinks about it later. 1084 01:09:39,654 --> 01:09:42,103 But I might feel a little hurt, 1085 01:09:42,136 --> 01:09:44,862 uh, if someone said they wouldn't wanna kiss me after coming all this way. 1086 01:09:47,792 --> 01:09:50,000 It's my first time traveling abroad. 1087 01:09:50,033 --> 01:09:51,551 So, I got that new passport smell. 1088 01:09:53,103 --> 01:09:55,896 The number one thing that's most important about meeting Cleo 1089 01:09:55,931 --> 01:10:01,206 is seeing if we have chemistry that's not just the conversational. 1090 01:10:01,241 --> 01:10:02,034 -[indistinct] -Thank you so much. 1091 01:10:04,103 --> 01:10:07,034 But Cleo and I both know that making this work, 1092 01:10:07,068 --> 01:10:08,689 it's not gonna be easy. 1093 01:10:11,103 --> 01:10:11,931 [Christian] Thank you. 1094 01:10:13,241 --> 01:10:14,758 When Cleo asks me 1095 01:10:14,793 --> 01:10:19,206 if I'm ready to date someone who's transgender and someone who's autistic, 1096 01:10:19,241 --> 01:10:20,931 I tell her, "Yeah, I think I am." 1097 01:10:21,620 --> 01:10:24,000 But if I'm being a 100% honest 1098 01:10:24,034 --> 01:10:26,827 I'm, [titters] not sure how things are gonna go. 1099 01:10:26,862 --> 01:10:28,517 Cleo and I are different on many levels 1100 01:10:28,551 --> 01:10:31,344 and a lot of this is new to me. 1101 01:10:33,448 --> 01:10:38,724 But I found a connection with Cleo that I haven't found in any woman before. 1102 01:10:40,034 --> 01:10:44,034 She's extremely gorgeous, she's very genuine, 1103 01:10:44,068 --> 01:10:46,896 and, I think, whatever happens, 1104 01:10:46,931 --> 01:10:48,241 I'm, I'm willing to take that risk. 1105 01:11:02,482 --> 01:11:05,068 [Gino] I haven't seen Jasmine since our big blow-up. 1106 01:11:05,103 --> 01:11:06,344 I'm feeling a little bit nervous. 1107 01:11:09,310 --> 01:11:10,137 Oh, hi. 1108 01:11:10,793 --> 01:11:12,275 -[Jasmine] Hi. -Oh, wow. 1109 01:11:12,310 --> 01:11:15,482 I feel like I'm between a rock and a hard place with this prenup. 1110 01:11:15,517 --> 01:11:19,241 But it's important that I stand up for myself more. 1111 01:11:19,275 --> 01:11:21,000 So, I put some more thought into it this time. 1112 01:11:21,655 --> 01:11:22,482 And? 1113 01:11:23,172 --> 01:11:24,137 [Gino] Um... 1114 01:11:30,241 --> 01:11:31,793 [new-age music playing] 1115 01:11:53,551 --> 01:11:55,103 Just in case. [laughs] 1116 01:11:56,206 --> 01:11:58,206 After having drinks with my sister, Liz, 1117 01:11:58,241 --> 01:12:00,000 we came back to the apartment 1118 01:12:00,034 --> 01:12:02,137 and Gino's still not home. 1119 01:12:02,172 --> 01:12:05,965 I'm still angry and hurt but I don't wanna give up on Gino, 1120 01:12:06,000 --> 01:12:07,137 so, I texted him. 1121 01:12:12,482 --> 01:12:13,482 [in Spanish] 1122 01:12:19,965 --> 01:12:21,896 [Jasmine in English] I'm scared that I'm losing him 1123 01:12:21,931 --> 01:12:24,137 because I was, like, super offensive 1124 01:12:24,172 --> 01:12:26,689 and telling him things that, that really hurt 1125 01:12:26,724 --> 01:12:28,793 and I absolutely want Gino back 1126 01:12:28,827 --> 01:12:31,068 because I love him and I'm obsessed with him. 1127 01:12:31,482 --> 01:12:32,586 [in Spanish] 1128 01:12:34,827 --> 01:12:38,103 [Jasmine in English] So, I'm willing to listen to him without... 1129 01:12:38,137 --> 01:12:43,137 but I need to feel like the most important person in his life 1130 01:12:43,172 --> 01:12:46,793 because he is the most important person in my life, too. 1131 01:12:46,827 --> 01:12:49,000 So, I do deserve the same treatment. 1132 01:13:01,620 --> 01:13:04,344 [Gino] I haven't seen Jasmine since our big blow-up 1133 01:13:04,379 --> 01:13:07,482 but she did text me to go meet up. 1134 01:13:07,517 --> 01:13:09,206 But I'm feeling a little bit nervous 1135 01:13:09,241 --> 01:13:12,551 because I feel like I'm between a rock and a hard place 1136 01:13:12,586 --> 01:13:13,413 with this prenup. 1137 01:13:14,689 --> 01:13:16,517 I don't wanna lose her. 1138 01:13:16,551 --> 01:13:18,482 My life would be miserable without her, 1139 01:13:18,517 --> 01:13:21,172 I would never find someone so unique. 1140 01:13:21,206 --> 01:13:26,068 But at the same time, it's important that I stand up for myself more 1141 01:13:26,103 --> 01:13:29,517 and, and that includes having difficult conversations 1142 01:13:29,551 --> 01:13:30,689 like this with Jasmine. 1143 01:13:38,931 --> 01:13:39,758 Oh, hi. 1144 01:13:40,551 --> 01:13:41,551 -[Jasmine] Hi. -Oh, wow. 1145 01:13:49,103 --> 01:13:50,172 You look nice tonight. 1146 01:13:51,689 --> 01:13:53,689 -Um... -You look good, too. 1147 01:13:54,689 --> 01:13:55,655 Oh, thanks. 1148 01:14:00,000 --> 01:14:00,965 [Jasmine] So... 1149 01:14:02,586 --> 01:14:04,482 I wanna start by apologizing 1150 01:14:04,517 --> 01:14:08,310 for being so mean to you and saying the things that I said. 1151 01:14:09,620 --> 01:14:12,793 That is, like, the worst trait from my personality, 1152 01:14:12,827 --> 01:14:15,586 like, when I get really angry, I attack. 1153 01:14:18,241 --> 01:14:19,793 I'm sorry, if I hurt you. 1154 01:14:23,068 --> 01:14:24,724 Thank you for that. 1155 01:14:24,758 --> 01:14:28,068 I love you and I don't wanna lose you because of, of money, 1156 01:14:28,103 --> 01:14:29,620 like, money ruins everything. 1157 01:14:30,482 --> 01:14:31,724 [Gino] Um, hmm. 1158 01:14:32,931 --> 01:14:35,034 So, I put some more thought into it and stuff and... 1159 01:14:35,551 --> 01:14:36,413 And? 1160 01:14:39,103 --> 01:14:41,448 I'm not gonna attack you, so, stop shaking, 1161 01:14:41,482 --> 01:14:43,551 -I promise, I'm... [chuckles] -I'm, I'm, I'm... 1162 01:14:43,586 --> 01:14:44,931 -[Jasmine] I'm not gonna attack you. -I'm not shaking. 1163 01:14:47,482 --> 01:14:49,482 [Gino] So, I'm thinking 1164 01:14:49,517 --> 01:14:53,034 that I might forget about the prenup. 1165 01:14:55,724 --> 01:14:56,551 Um... 1166 01:14:58,103 --> 01:14:59,965 I don't wanna risk losing you, you know? 1167 01:15:01,034 --> 01:15:01,862 [Jasmine] I... 1168 01:15:02,448 --> 01:15:03,827 I'm impressed, 1169 01:15:03,862 --> 01:15:06,655 like, this is the Gino that I fell in love with. 1170 01:15:09,724 --> 01:15:13,000 [Gino] So, I've been thinking a lot since I've spoken to the bartender 1171 01:15:13,034 --> 01:15:16,241 and seems like Jasmine and I fight about the prenup, 1172 01:15:16,275 --> 01:15:20,068 was very likely due to cultural differences that we have 1173 01:15:20,103 --> 01:15:24,551 and I have investments that I've saved and I, I'm happy about that 1174 01:15:24,586 --> 01:15:27,275 but I don't believe that I'm gonna regret 1175 01:15:27,310 --> 01:15:29,000 the decision of not getting the prenup 1176 01:15:29,034 --> 01:15:31,689 if, if, if it means being with the love of my life 1177 01:15:31,724 --> 01:15:33,137 and the woman that I truly love... 1178 01:15:34,517 --> 01:15:35,448 it's worth it. 1179 01:15:38,310 --> 01:15:41,000 We both love each other very much 1180 01:15:41,034 --> 01:15:44,862 but this prenup thing isn't the only thing we have to work on. 1181 01:15:44,896 --> 01:15:49,172 Maybe you can try not saying such painful things all the time. 1182 01:15:50,551 --> 01:15:52,034 [Jasmine] Yes, but you have to understand... 1183 01:15:56,862 --> 01:15:59,517 Even though, I've been faithful to you, 1184 01:15:59,551 --> 01:16:02,758 I will, I've been so loyal, I love you so much. 1185 01:16:04,379 --> 01:16:05,965 I always loved you. 1186 01:16:06,000 --> 01:16:09,758 Um, prenup or no prenup, that did... That never would change. 1187 01:16:11,137 --> 01:16:12,034 [Jasmine in Spanish] 1188 01:16:19,965 --> 01:16:20,793 [in English] Oh, the food. 1189 01:16:21,413 --> 01:16:22,241 Ay! 1190 01:16:24,034 --> 01:16:25,551 [Gino] Awesome. 1191 01:16:25,586 --> 01:16:28,689 [Jasmine] Actually, if Gino was gonna insist on it, 1192 01:16:28,724 --> 01:16:31,137 I was willing to sign up the prenup 1193 01:16:31,172 --> 01:16:36,344 but I'm so thankful, I shut up my mouth and let him talk first. [laughs] 1194 01:16:38,896 --> 01:16:39,758 Uh... 1195 01:16:39,793 --> 01:16:40,724 Just a little bit. 1196 01:16:42,206 --> 01:16:43,379 Aw! 1197 01:16:44,275 --> 01:16:45,172 That's not bad. 1198 01:16:45,965 --> 01:16:46,793 [Jasmine] So... 1199 01:16:47,862 --> 01:16:49,689 I was thinking, 1200 01:16:49,724 --> 01:16:53,379 the whole freaking day, just thinking and thinking and thinking, like... 1201 01:16:59,620 --> 01:17:00,689 Are you kidding? 1202 01:17:08,206 --> 01:17:09,724 No, I'm not, baby, 1203 01:17:09,758 --> 01:17:12,103 because, let's say that you die, 1204 01:17:12,137 --> 01:17:14,862 I'm gonna be alone in the United States. 1205 01:17:14,896 --> 01:17:17,241 We're, like, a few months away from being married 1206 01:17:18,344 --> 01:17:20,172 and you're worried about me dying? 1207 01:17:20,206 --> 01:17:21,103 -Yes. -Come on. 1208 01:17:21,137 --> 01:17:22,482 Anything can happen. 1209 01:17:24,758 --> 01:17:26,275 [Gino] Where did that come from? 1210 01:17:26,310 --> 01:17:29,448 Like, I thought a prenup was the worst of the worst, 1211 01:17:29,482 --> 01:17:32,172 of financial discussions with her, 1212 01:17:32,206 --> 01:17:34,206 but, it just makes me realize 1213 01:17:34,241 --> 01:17:37,068 we have a lot of other issues that we're gonna have to work out. 1214 01:17:38,620 --> 01:17:41,724 [Jasmine] In my eyes, I wanna feel protected 1215 01:17:41,758 --> 01:17:43,344 and that you will still love me 1216 01:17:44,275 --> 01:17:46,172 and take care of me. 1217 01:17:46,206 --> 01:17:49,275 If something happens to me, you'll be with my family. 1218 01:17:53,551 --> 01:17:55,172 With people that don't even like me. 1219 01:17:57,586 --> 01:17:58,413 Ugh. 1220 01:17:59,862 --> 01:18:01,413 What do you-- What? 1221 01:18:03,862 --> 01:18:05,137 I'm willing to leave my home 1222 01:18:05,862 --> 01:18:06,758 just to be with Gino. 1223 01:18:07,827 --> 01:18:09,206 It scares me a lot 1224 01:18:09,241 --> 01:18:12,551 because Gino's family has never accepted me 1225 01:18:13,379 --> 01:18:15,413 and something is telling me 1226 01:18:15,448 --> 01:18:20,586 that they are gonna trying to be in between my relationship with Gino. 1227 01:18:20,620 --> 01:18:25,344 And what if something happened to Gino before we get married? 1228 01:18:25,379 --> 01:18:29,931 I'm gonna be left alone with no protection, with nothing. 1229 01:18:30,655 --> 01:18:32,172 I want a will 1230 01:18:32,206 --> 01:18:36,551 because I want that feeling that he will always look after me, always. 1231 01:18:51,344 --> 01:18:52,862 [Meisha] If we were to get married, 1232 01:18:52,896 --> 01:18:56,586 and we can't even push through basic conversation, 1233 01:18:56,620 --> 01:18:57,931 how would that marriage work? 1234 01:19:02,965 --> 01:19:04,620 [music playing] 1235 01:19:16,310 --> 01:19:19,689 [sighs wearily] What a day, Meisha, I'm so tired. 1236 01:19:21,448 --> 01:19:24,931 There's so much I loved about today 1237 01:19:24,965 --> 01:19:27,275 but there were some parts of today that I didn't love so much. 1238 01:19:29,137 --> 01:19:31,379 And I know, we're both tired 1239 01:19:31,413 --> 01:19:34,793 and I'm not, like, trying to rehash it again, but... 1240 01:19:34,827 --> 01:19:38,068 [clicks tongue] As much as I want to see Israel, I'm not here to vacation. 1241 01:19:38,103 --> 01:19:40,172 I'm here for one reason, and one reason only, 1242 01:19:40,206 --> 01:19:41,965 to meet you and get answers 1243 01:19:42,000 --> 01:19:46,068 about what we've invested in our lives now, for almost seven years. 1244 01:19:46,103 --> 01:19:49,896 And our issue right now is I'm, I am struggling 1245 01:19:49,931 --> 01:19:54,758 with you not being honest with people in your life about me 1246 01:19:54,793 --> 01:19:56,896 and my, and, and the negative, 1247 01:19:56,931 --> 01:19:59,068 in your mind, the "negative" of my situation, 1248 01:19:59,103 --> 01:20:01,103 me having a past, I'm divorced, whatever. 1249 01:20:03,413 --> 01:20:05,758 Well, that was a big part of our discussion today 1250 01:20:05,793 --> 01:20:10,517 which made, uh, kind of, a part of the day a little awkward, honestly. 1251 01:20:10,551 --> 01:20:16,103 But I definitely need to feel like Nicola is not embarrassed. 1252 01:20:27,310 --> 01:20:30,241 There's something that keeps you from telling certain people 1253 01:20:30,931 --> 01:20:31,793 [Meisha] No... 1254 01:20:44,448 --> 01:20:45,620 I think you should go sleep, Meisha. 1255 01:20:48,551 --> 01:20:51,275 -No, but that's the problem-- -Do you want, do you want me to... 1256 01:20:53,379 --> 01:20:54,586 No, I'm not hungry. 1257 01:21:00,551 --> 01:21:02,344 -Does that mean you're done with this conversation? -Yeah. 1258 01:21:03,448 --> 01:21:04,827 [Meisha] What if I'm not done? 1259 01:21:04,862 --> 01:21:06,586 -[laughing] If you could-- -[Meisha] What if I'm not done with it? 1260 01:21:06,620 --> 01:21:08,241 [laughing] 1261 01:21:08,275 --> 01:21:12,931 The problem with you, Meisha, you never want to be done with any conversation, 1262 01:21:12,965 --> 01:21:15,172 when you start to talk, you never stop. 1263 01:21:21,827 --> 01:21:23,517 So, you know what this is? 1264 01:21:23,551 --> 01:21:24,931 -[Nicola] What? -This is a... 1265 01:21:26,517 --> 01:21:28,689 deflective mechanism. 1266 01:21:28,724 --> 01:21:33,586 When conversations come up and something's uncomfortable, guess, what Nico does? 1267 01:21:33,620 --> 01:21:37,482 He throws, kind of, a off the cuff thing that makes no sense 1268 01:21:37,517 --> 01:21:40,275 and has no part of what we're talking about 1269 01:21:40,310 --> 01:21:43,103 to try to get out of the conversation. 1270 01:21:43,137 --> 01:21:45,655 But I need you to meet me where I am 1271 01:21:45,689 --> 01:21:48,241 and stay there with me until the issue's resolved. 1272 01:21:49,206 --> 01:21:50,620 What I would like to nip in the bud 1273 01:21:50,655 --> 01:21:55,068 is a, is a habitual routine 1274 01:21:55,103 --> 01:21:57,068 of taking something that someone cares about 1275 01:21:57,103 --> 01:21:58,620 and sweeping it under the rug really quick. 1276 01:22:00,310 --> 01:22:03,379 I don't think that I am trying to sweep problem under the rug, 1277 01:22:03,413 --> 01:22:06,965 we aren't talking about it and she just keep mentioning 1278 01:22:07,000 --> 01:22:09,068 and I don't think it's important. 1279 01:22:24,275 --> 01:22:27,724 It's important for me to show to Meisha that I am the man. 1280 01:22:27,758 --> 01:22:29,172 A woman cannot control a man. 1281 01:22:30,586 --> 01:22:31,758 I just want... 1282 01:22:33,620 --> 01:22:35,000 Like, I mean, she stop to bother me. 1283 01:22:37,551 --> 01:22:39,551 If I'm gonna come to any sort of answers 1284 01:22:39,586 --> 01:22:42,827 and if you are gonna come to any sort of answer, 1285 01:22:42,862 --> 01:22:45,000 we actually need to explore all of this stuff. 1286 01:22:46,448 --> 01:22:48,517 And the only way we can do that 1287 01:22:48,551 --> 01:22:51,310 is by having serious conversations about serious issues 1288 01:22:51,344 --> 01:22:53,172 that seriously matter to us. 1289 01:22:54,448 --> 01:22:57,034 Yeah, no problem, Meisha, I will always listen to you. 1290 01:22:57,068 --> 01:22:59,034 I will try always to improve myself. 1291 01:23:00,103 --> 01:23:02,068 [Meisha] If you mean that, that's great. 1292 01:23:02,103 --> 01:23:06,137 But if you're just saying that to, like, get me to shut up and, like, move on, 1293 01:23:06,172 --> 01:23:10,724 just know that this stuff keeps coming up unless it's really rectified. 1294 01:23:13,413 --> 01:23:14,827 [Meisha] I think that 1295 01:23:14,862 --> 01:23:18,827 because Nicola really hasn't had any relationships with women, 1296 01:23:18,862 --> 01:23:22,034 he has trouble listening and working through problems. 1297 01:23:23,620 --> 01:23:25,793 We have to learn how to talk to each other 1298 01:23:25,827 --> 01:23:27,793 because if we were to get married, 1299 01:23:27,827 --> 01:23:31,793 and we can't even push through basic conversations, 1300 01:23:31,827 --> 01:23:34,551 I start to think how would that marriage work? 1301 01:23:36,241 --> 01:23:37,896 I am gonna just let this... 1302 01:23:41,310 --> 01:23:42,241 linger. 1303 01:23:42,275 --> 01:23:44,137 -Okay. -Okay. 1304 01:23:44,172 --> 01:23:47,379 'Cause I'm too tired to go where I need to go right now. 1305 01:23:51,448 --> 01:23:52,482 Okay, Meisha. 1306 01:23:57,413 --> 01:23:59,862 [narrator] Next time onBefore the 90 Days... 1307 01:23:59,896 --> 01:24:01,275 [Statler gasps] What is that? 1308 01:24:01,310 --> 01:24:06,379 My name is Statler, I'm 33-years-old and I live in Irving, Texas. 1309 01:24:06,413 --> 01:24:09,551 No, that was weird, sorry, that... I don't know what I'm doing. 1310 01:24:09,586 --> 01:24:13,000 After I came out, I really wanted to explore my sexuality 1311 01:24:13,034 --> 01:24:15,206 and I got lots of women. 1312 01:24:15,241 --> 01:24:17,862 But, then, I switched my dating app to England 1313 01:24:17,896 --> 01:24:20,517 and that led to the most amazing woman. 1314 01:24:22,000 --> 01:24:24,517 She just walked out of a wet dream. [laughs] 1315 01:24:24,551 --> 01:24:26,379 And, now, I'm flying out to England. 1316 01:24:26,413 --> 01:24:28,551 I mean, if all goes well, I'll just move there. 1317 01:24:29,137 --> 01:24:30,344 [laughs] 1318 01:24:31,172 --> 01:24:32,586 [Sheila speaking] 1319 01:24:32,620 --> 01:24:33,448 [David signing] 1320 01:24:35,137 --> 01:24:36,034 [David signing] 1321 01:24:40,344 --> 01:24:41,310 [Siri speaking in English] 1322 01:24:49,517 --> 01:24:50,344 [Siri speaking] 1323 01:24:51,620 --> 01:24:53,000 [both giggling] 1324 01:24:55,034 --> 01:24:55,862 [Christian speaking] 1325 01:24:59,862 --> 01:25:01,620 [Cleo] Christian is arriving in London. 1326 01:25:11,724 --> 01:25:12,931 Hi, baby. 1327 01:25:12,965 --> 01:25:16,000 Hey, it's good to see you, what's been happening? 1328 01:25:16,034 --> 01:25:17,758 It's so embarrassing, but... 1329 01:25:17,793 --> 01:25:19,068 he doesn't wanna have sex with me. 1330 01:25:19,896 --> 01:25:21,206 [indistinct] 1331 01:25:21,241 --> 01:25:24,000 But I think you deserve someone, like, really incredible. 1332 01:25:27,241 --> 01:25:28,034 [Riley speaking] 1333 01:25:29,379 --> 01:25:31,586 Excuse me, I'm over here. 1334 01:25:31,620 --> 01:25:34,689 She gets a text and it's some dude with his shirt off. 1335 01:25:34,724 --> 01:25:36,655 My friend, only my friend. 1336 01:25:36,689 --> 01:25:38,896 You're a liar, you lie. 1337 01:25:38,931 --> 01:25:40,965 What the [bleep] is going on?