[narrator] Previously on Before the 90 Days...
[Sheila sobs softly]
[laughs]
Uh, yeah.
[giggles]
I might forget about the prenup.
But this prenup thing isn't the only thing we have to work on.
I love Gino so deeply, but...
before I feel ready moving to the United States.
So does your family know Cleo's trans?
Uh, you know, some were outwardly
antagonistic about the whole situation.
I'd be lying if I said, you know, it didn't get to me a little bit.
[Cleo] I cannot believe he's gonna be here.
My God.
Crazy.
Being transgender, I've had to deal with so much rejection.
There's a part of me that worries
maybe he's not gonna be strong enough
to face his family
and actually stand up for himself.
-Thank you so much. -Of course.
[Christian] If I'm being quite honest,
I'm nervous about how it's gonna go.
I came over 8,000 miles
and I feel like I'm an afterthought. Like,
you didn't-- you didn't really prepare for me being here.
I wanna believe that I'm the only man that's in Violet's life.
But her behavior is making me really question it.
Like, she seemed like she's trying
to push you to the side, like...
[Spanish song playing]
♪ Whee... ♪
♪ Na, na, na, na, na, na, na, na ♪
Coco.
My angel.
I have to do some errands.
I'll be right back, okay?
[Gino] Okay, sure.
I'm gonna miss you.
I'm gonna give you some time to miss me.
[both laugh]
-[Gino] Okay. -Take care of Coco puppy.
Okay.
Gino arrived in Panama a week ago
and we have already had very ugly arguments.
I feel bad about lying to Gino
that I'm gonna go and do some errands
but I just really need some space by my own.
[phone ringing]
[Dane on phone]
Hi, baby.
Uh...
Uh, I wish I could say
like a honeymoon. [laughs]
It...
Mmm, it's...
It's so embarrassing but...
He doesn't wanna have sex with me.
because we live in the same apartment building
and Gino doesn't know that.
He is my ex-boyfriend
No.
Over my dead body.
I'm more trustworthy than he is.
I can separate a romantic relationship from a friendship.
I have enough maturity to do so but Gino doesn't.
He's a very difficult person.
Everything has to be, like, his way.
If not, he gets, like, super frustrated.
And when he arrived to Panama, the next day,
he came up with a stupid prenup contract.
Yes, after I got, like, super mad.
Then... [stutters] He took away the prenup.
He was like, "I'm sorry, I don't wanna lose you."
But I feel betrayed
and like this guy doesn't trust on me anymore.
And... [sighs] This is the thing.
Like, when I love someone, I accept sometimes
treatments and-- and [bleep] that I don't deserve.
He's always like, "You're so pushy, you're so pushy."
[laughs]
[laughing] Why are you laughing?
[laughing] I'm so...
I really needed to hear that
because sometimes I feel like... [sniffles]
Like I don't-- He makes me feel like I'm not good enough
sometimes.
I love him.
I just want to be loved, you know, like... [sniffs]
But in a healthy way.
Hearing Dane telling me the amazing person I am
and all the good things that I deserve
made me feel sad
because it should be Gino comforting me,
not my ex-boyfriend.
Couple therapy, we need intervention, like... [chuckles]
[Jasmine] I know that Dane is right and that I need to try
to fix this before I marry Gino.
Because my biggest fear is moving to the United States
and then being miserable for the rest of my life.
[Dane speaking]
Okay, baby. Hug and kisses.
Bye.
Love you, baby. Bye.
[sighs]
[Riley] So Violet reached out to me this morning
and I'm gonna be meeting Violet's children
in a hammamtonight but she gave us a detour.
I've been in Vietnam for a couple of days now
and I had some doubts about
if Violet is invested in us as much as I am.
But it feels good to know that she's gonna take me to meet her family.
I've spoken to her daughters
and text her daughters
for over the last couple of years
and I build a rapport with them.
And I get to meet 'em finally.
But first, Violet says that she has a surprise for me
and told me to meet her a few blocks from her house.
[chuckles] And I have no idea what to expect.
-How are you? -[Riley] All right, and you?
You look beautiful.
[Violet] Thank you, how are you?
All right, and you? Wow.
[Violet speaking]
-Oh. -[Violet] Yeah.
-We're going in here? -[Violet] Yeah.
-Okay, let's go. -[Violet chuckles]
-Follow me. -[Riley chuckling] You're...
I am your boss.
Uh, yeah, you're my boss.
[speaking other language]
Hello.
It's very nice to meet you.
[speaking English] Yeah.
[speaking other language]
[Riley] So what are they gonna do?
-They're gonna make it... -[speaking English] Yes.
-...brand-new for me here? -Yes.
-Oh. -Let's say, uh...
[Riley] One day?
[speaking other language]
[speaking English]
I look like a king?
-[laughing] Yeah. -You're the king.
-Wow. -Yeah.
I like this.
-Ah, you like it? -I like this.
Oh, okay.
[speaking other language]
[Riley] Okay.
[woman speaking other language]
I feel like I'm a...
I'm exhibit in a museum right now.
-[speaking English] -Okay.
-[speaking other language] -Yeah, just a bunch of women
touching me, I just-- Okay.
-[speaking English] -Okay.
-Yes.
[woman speaking]
120 centimeter, your belly.
Wow, very big.
[Riley snorts] Oh.
[Violet speaking]
-Yeah. -[Violet] Yeah.
[Riley] Mmm-hmm.
[woman speaking]
[speaking other language]
-What? -[Violet speaking English]
You really said that?
[laughing] Yeah.
All right. I'm gonna just sit over here.
[laughing]
You-- You really said that?
Are we done? Are we done?
We can go.
Yes.
[speaking other language]
[phone chiming]
[Riley speaking]
[Violet speaking English]
[Riley] Who is the guy on...
[Violet speaking]
Wh--What friend? He had no sh--
Excuse me.
I'm over here.
I wanna see who...
It was a guy with his shirt off
and you won't show me who it is, he's just a friend?
-[Violet speaking] -From-- from where?
From where?
-You don't need to tell me? -[Violet speaking]
I never text with a girl,
and have a girl with a shirt off.
You're a liar.
You lie.
So show me.
You don't need to show me?
-Good luck. -[Violet speaking]
[Riley] All right, good luck.
Good luck.
Violet, she's not sharing information with me.
I asked her straight up if she's dealing with someone
and I know what I saw.
It's just another thing that I have questions about.
And to be honest, it's like
what the [bleep] is going on?
Good luck.
[Statler gasps] What is that?
My name is Statler.
I'm 33 years old
and I live in Irving, Texas.
No, that was weird. Sorry, I don't know what I'm doing.
My girlfriend's name is Dempsey.
She's just walked out of a wet dream. [laughs]
So I'm gonna go there
and if all goes well, then I'll just move there.
She's not aware.
[laughs]
[Jasmine] Like this.
Feel now really.
Yeah, baby.
[laughs]
I'm willing to try whatever it takes
for us to be together, to stay together.
Do you have any sexual fantasy?
What would you like to try?
[Statler gasps] What is that?
[grunts and chuckles]
Oh, I found something.
A roly-poly carcass.
My name is Statler. I'm 33 years old
and I live in Irving, Texas.
No, that was weird. Sorry, I don't know what I'm doing.
Okay. [clears throat]
[blows raspberry]
[chuckles]
Um, what were we talking about? I don't remember.
Usually, it would be, like, ants or maybe some spiders.
[gasps] Oh, here's something.
I relate to bugs because nobody notices them.
[chuckles] And they're weird.
And it's unpopular to like them.
It's me in a nutshell.
I got into bugs when I was, like, five or six years old.
They became, like, my little friends.
Growing up, people thought I was different,
that I was weird, that I was strange.
[gasps] Ants.
I have a little somethin', a little neuro-spiciness
called ADHD.
It's basically a neurodevelopmental disorder
that makes me either hyper-focused,
1,000% all in,
or zero focus at all, all over the place.
I think a lot of people
think that they have it.
But I really, really, really, really, really have it.
Better luck tomorrow.
I work in the finance department
of a fruit logistics company.
We used to work in office
but ever since Covid happened,
they made us work from home.
[humming]
I love it but it does make things a little chaotic sometimes.
Fifteen minutes is my maximum amount of time
that I can focus on work.
And then I'm over here doing laundry,
you know, doing dishes, cleaning things up,
getting something to eat.
Going from one thing to the next,
a lot of not focus
instead of, uh, working.
So I get distracted a lot.
Most people have a hard time being patient with me
and accepting of me.
But I think when you've been rejected your whole life,
you kinda get used to it.
I was rejected before I was even born.
I was adopted day one,
picked up by another family.
My parents already had two boys.
They wanted to make sure that they had a girl.
The only way that you can guarantee that you have a girl
is if you adopt one, at least back in those days.
I do believe my parents had the best intentions
but I never felt like I really measured up.
My brothers were like the golden children.
They got perfect grades, they were involved in sports.
There was nothing that they couldn't do.
I had terrible grades, I was constantly failing.
I think I just kind of always feel like
I mean to disappoint my parents.
So coming out and being gay
felt like another disappointment.
But as I got older, I decided
I needed to live life on my terms.
I really wanted to explore my sexuality
and, uh, I got lots of women.
Sometimes, multiple women in a night.
I loved the ladies and they loved me. [laughs]
I usually try to show my creativity
for, like, a first date. So I usually do
a scavenger hunt. Everyone gets a gift.
It's nice to go on a date with me.
I wish, you know, I wish I was taking myself out on dates.
What? The first, the first date, yeah.
I feel like I'm definitely more experienced
than the average, uh, virgin.
I've had sex in a church while church was happening,
I've had sex in an elevator.
A-- A busy elevator with people, you know,
the-- the doors opening, people looking in.
I'm a freak.[laughs]
Having a good sex life is really important
but love is the most important thing, 100%.
It's all I want, it's all I've ever wanted.
I want unconditional love
and I've had many relationships
but I haven't had a single successful one.
So since things weren't working with women here,
seven months ago, I decided to switch
my dating application to England.
For some reason, uh, I'm into girls with an accent.
Specifically, an English accent.
[in a British accent] Because it's so freakin' hot, isn't it? [laughs]
[in normal accent] And that led to me finding
the most amazing woman I've ever met.
Hi, babe. I just wanted to send you a-- a video
because I miss you. [laughs]
My girlfriend's name is Dempsey.
She's 28 years old and she lives in Darlington, England.
I remember looking through her pictures
and I was like, "Dang, this girl is really hot."
She's just walked out of a wet dream. [laughs]
So messaged her and she responds with a voice note.
[Dempsey on recording]
If you could fall in love with someone's accent
or someone's voice, I fell in love right then.
[exclaims]
And now, after seven months of talking everyday,
I'm flying out to England next week
to meet Dempsey in person.
Home cookin'. [chuckles]
I foresee this relationship changing everything
and I'm gonna get married to this girl.
I really do believe that. I think that
she's gonna be my forever person.
So I'm gonna go there,
stay for a couple of weeks, see how it goes.
And if all goes well,
then I'll just move there.
She's not aware.
[laughs]
I-- I feel like we should meet first,
uh, before, you know,
...asking if I can live with her. [chuckles nervously]
It's insane, 100%. It is crazy.
I'm crazy!
But, uh... I want love so bad,
like, I can't wait that long, you know what I mean?
So, why not, why not go all the way
for a chance at love?
If our connection is even half of what it is over the phone,
I'm ready to pack all of my things up
and move across the pond.
We're gonna be happy in love
and eat fish and chips for the rest of our lives.
...going over there.
Uh...
Feel like I've put all my eggs in one basket here.
I've been waiting my whole life for unconditional love.
It's always been rejections, it's always been let-downs.
So, I don't have a lot of faith in people
but I'm putting everything
that's left of my faith into Dempsey.
She's worth it. She's worth this risk that I'm taking.
And if it doesn't work out,
I could get my heart completely shattered.
I don't know.
[Sheila speaking]
[automated voice reading]
[both chuckle]
[Sheila speaking]
[David signing]
[Sheila speaking]
[automated voice reading]
[Sheila speaking]
[David signing]
[automated voice reading]
[Sheila speaking] Uh...
[David signing]
[Sheila speaking]
[David signing]
[automated voice reading]
[both chuckle]
[Sheila speaking]
Uh...
[Sheila speaking]
[automated voice reading]
[Sheila speaking]
[both laugh]
[David signing]
[Sheila speaking]
[Sheila speaking foreign language]
[automated voice reading]
[Sheila speaking]
[David signing]
[Sheila signing]
[David signing]
Oh! David.
[Sheila speaking]
[Sheila speaking foreign language]
[David signing]
[Sheila speaking]
[David signing]
Are you sure?
[David signing]
Okay.
[David signing]
[David continues signing]
Who is she?
[David signing]
[Sheila speaking]
Why?
In your text?
[Sheila reading]
[David signing]
[Sheila speaking]
[announcer speaking]
[Christian speaking]
[Cleo speaking]
maybe he will see that, you know...
And of course, that makes me quite insecure.
[Christian speaking]
I maybe want another drink but uh...
I asked if they'd cut me off, so that's where we're at,
halfway across the Atlantic.
[Christian speaking]
[announcer speaking]
[Christian speaking]
[Cleo] Oh, Abra, you want some food?
[chuckles]
All right, girls, you now have your treat.
Today, Christian is arriving in London.
I literally cannot believe this.
I have to, you know, check that this is real.
I have to pinch myself.
[Cleo speaking]
Bye, girls. I'll see you soon.
"Serve fish" it just basically means like, you're serving...
[Cleo] Okay, here we go.
Hello. So, we're going to the airport, yeah?
[driver] Okay.
I really cannot believe the fact
that this is actually happening. But...
...because it's normally a horrible place for me.
Very over-stimulating
And I did bring a few things to help me out, just in case.
I've got my noise-cancelling headphones with me.
I have got...
a stim toy just in case I get fidgety.
I'm kinda anxious and I can play around with that.
And I also brought my sunflower lanyard,
which is, in case I have a panic attack, so...
Yeah, these are kinda the things
that I always take with me whenever I travel.
When I meet Christian for the first time,
I'm hoping that Christian will want to kiss
but I'm not going to kiss him first.
[Cleo speaking]
It is a leap of faith.
I'm just here praying for the best.
I do feel scared that maybe once he does see me,
maybe he will see that, you know...
And of course, that makes me quite insecure.
[Christian speaking]
I'm tired, I'm beat.
But I'm just really excited to meet my girlfriend, Cleo.
I'm also really nervous.
What if I see her and there's just like, no chemistry at all?
Cleo is the first transwoman that I've dated.
And it's a lot. And I'm a little overwhelmed.
[Christian speaking]
-All right, thank you so much. -[driver] Good luck!
[Cleo speaking] It really had to rain. I hate this!
I'm just, like...
Hoping I won't disappoint him.
Hoping that he's going to get out the damn Arrival door
because I cannot wait any longer!
-Hi. -[indistinct]
-[Christian] How are you? -I'm good.
-Hey, babe. -Hey.
-How are you? -I'm good.
[Cleo speaking]
-[Christian] Yeah, well... -Are you gonna...
I'm just glad I'm finally seeing you.
Sorry if I'm super tall today.
No, it's fine.
They taller they are, the higher I climb.
[both chuckle]
I'm standing next to Christian,
who's come to see me.
He is so cute like, oh, my God,
he's totally out of my league.
Wow, thank you!
That's really sweet of you to say, babe!
Sorry, I'm just... It's true.
I'm sorry, this is like, just hitting me right now,
like, the fact that like, you're here.
I can touch you.
-[Cleo] I know, I know! -It's kinda surreal!
-It's a little surreal. -Like you're not real. It is.
My first kiss with Cleo in the airport, it felt good.
She's got really nice lips.
Any hesitancy or doubt that I had
pretty much just melts away.
She looks beautiful
and I definitely felt, you know, inflamed.
But, I'm pretty overwhelmed.
In person, it kinda amplifies everything that's going on.
Is this feeling of anxiousness
or awkwardness gonna stick around?
Or, is it gonna away really quickly?
You know, I'm hoping for the latter on that one.
God, I really wanna get some rest.
Like, seriously, like, I slept like ten minutes on the plane.
Of course.
-Do you wanna get out of here? -I'd love to.
-Okay. Cool. -Cool.
Cleo's the first person who's transgender and autistic
that I've formed a really close relationship with.
And this is something that's new for me.
I just really hope that things go well
and neither of us end up broken-hearted.
[Violet speaking]
You have so many secrets!
You're telling me what to do. I can't say anything.
I can't ask you questions, I gotta guess.
[Gino] Could you put a little suntan lotion on me?
I'm super happy that you wanna work out with me, baby.
Yeah.
-Yeah, my favorite! -[Jasmine giggles]
[Jasmine] So, where else do you need it?
No, I think I'm good if you got the back of my neck.
[Jasmine speaking]
Just relax. Let me do this, baby.
Just want you to enjoy, you know.
My time with Gino has been
a real roller-coaster of emotions.
[Jasmine] These shorts are very short.
I can see the tip of your [bleep], they're so short.
I love Gino and I don't wanna give up on him.
So, I'm willing to do my best to follow Dane's advice
and do whatever it takes for us to be happy.
Go ahead, my princeso.
Take care of the house, Coco.
I love you. [kisses] We come back soon.
[door closes]
[Gino speaking]
[Jasmine] You got that.
[Jasmine speaking]
Huh?
[Jasmine] Circular movements like that.
Yeah, baby. But do it like this.
With your hip.
-Look up on my leg. -All right, go ahead.
[Gino] I'm happy that Jasmine and I are getting along
because I'm tired of arguing back and forth with Jasmine.
We need to have fun and enjoy each other.
[Jasmine] Like this.
[Gino] All right, I'm already tired.
So, the next workout, you're gonna squat, okay?
-[Gino] Okay. -So we're gonna try to do ten.
-Ready? -Go ahead, please.
Okay, yes, there you go.
There you go.
Excellent.
[Gino] I don't work out very often anymore.
But this feels more like dirty dancing,
the exercising for Jasmine.
-Yes. -[Gino] Good?
I love it.
[Gino] In a way, I like it but in a way,
you know, I'm not one to be doing all this in public
Nine...
Ten.
That is freaking amazing.
That's gonna help you with the body movement...
during intercourse. [giggles]
Because sometimes you're like robotic, like...
No, I'm not! I'm like a wild beast.
Baby, no. Listen...
You be here long enough and we have only have sex once.
Yeah, I understand.
But, if we argue so much, I just lose my desire.
I'm just gonna be honest.
I agree.
However, sometimes, you know, there are occasions in which
we're happy, we haven't argued
and you still don't wanna touch me.
You get mad.
I'm willing to do like, anything. I love you.
Do you have any sexual fantasy?
Like, you tie me up?
What would you like to try?
I told you how we can get there.
We argue on a daily basis, it's gotta stop.
How long do I need not to argue before we have sex?
I don't know, I can't put timing on this.
Just has to feel right, you know?
It's so frustrating that I'm really trying to work on our relationship.
But I don't get anything in return.
I know that I have my issues.
I lose my temper,
I'm a jealous, insecure person.
But I really need to feel like my partner, Gino,
love me even with all my flaws.
And I don't feel like that. And I don't like it.
-I promise, my sweet baby... -[Gino] Mm-hmm.
That I'm gonna stop arguing.
Yes, I like that. That's a good plan.
[Jasmine] But you have to promise
that if I do that, we're gonna have more sex.
Are we done working out?
[Riley speaking]
[Violet] Why you be mad?
Oh, so, you got a "friend"
that just texts you he has a shirt off?
[Violet speaking]
-You don't remember. -Then show me.
I don't show you, okay?
Why, why?
Because it's my life!
[speaking in other language]
-I never lie. -You never lied to me?
-I never lie. -You didn't lie about your husband?
-[speaking other language] -What about what happened last June?
-With the Embassy, you said that they denied you. -Okay.
I was trying to give you the benefit of the doubt.
I was trying to see if we can make it.
But you have so many secrets, you telling me what to do.
I can't say anything, I can't ask you questions, I gotta guess.
Violet, Violet...
Violet...
I came a long way...
to visit you.
To see if we can work past our problems,
and can be together.
You're not helping it...
by being this way.
[Violet speaking]
Okay? Me too.
Okay.
-All right. I respect them. -All right.
[speaking other language]
Okay. Okay, let's go.
The timing for Violet and I to get into this big blowout is pretty bad.
It's hard for me, don't know what to do right now, but...
I came all this way, so I'm willing to put that text situation
to the side right now.
But it's not settled.
We definitely need to revisit this.
[Sy] I'm a little concerned...
-It seems to be. It's almost exactly the same. -Yeah.
This isn't my first time in England.
Are you going to talk to your ex at all, when you're there?
She actually asked if she can meet me at the airport.
Really?
[Sy] What is going on over here?
You're like the typical lesbian farm girl.
-Got it, okay. -[laughs]
-Okay. -Is it okay to urinate in your car?
[laughs] 'Cause I'm about to.
I need diapers or something.
I'm leaving for England in just a few days
to meet my girlfriend Dempsey for the first time.
I'm feeling really excited to meet her.
But I also have severe anxiety and I'm terrified.
I've known Sy for about three years now.
Sy has seen most of my relationships.
I tell her all of the juicy details.
Because she is someone I confide in.
And today, we're gonna try this chocolate sex place that I've been wanting to try.
I've definitely heard of it.
[Statler]
-I don't know if I can actually... -Getting you ready,
for your English girlfriend.
-Plus, we'll practice on the chocolate. -[laughs]
Dempsey and I talk all of the time.
At least, you know, when we're both awake.
But she's been on vacation in Thailand with her dad for the past month.
We went from talking all the time to talking, like, for a couple of minutes...
every couple of days.
It sucks.
But I'm still really excited to finally meet Dempsey in person.
We plan on meeting at the airport because
we're both gonna be arriving in London at the same time.
And I haven't had sex in an airport, so that's kind of enticing.
[laughs]
-[Sy] Wow! -[Statler] Oh, this is so cute.
[waitress] Welcome to "Better Than Sex."
Are we celebrating anything tonight?
-I'm potentially getting laid. -Wow! Okay, all right.
[indistinct] occasion.
[Statler] I feel like desserts and sex totally do go together.
There's a lot of licking involved, a lot of eating involved,
things taste good. [laughs sheepishly]
[waitress] Thought we might give you a love portion 69 here to look at.
This menu is making love to me in a way that I'm okay with.
So much good choices, I'm gonna get the lucky shot.
-'Cause you're feeling lucky? [laughs] -I'm feeling lucky today.
Seeing as you've been talking to Dempsey long distance,
-have you guys been sexting at all? -No.
She's like the opposite of me, you know how I'm like, I'm kinky af.
[both chuckle]
-So, kind of nervous about that. -Mm-hmm.
I am concerned that Dempsey and I won't have great...
physical chemistry.
Dempsey is really shy, I'm definitely more experienced
and more kinky than she is.
So, if she's boring sexually, it's gonna be... tough for me.
All right, I have two shots here.
[exclaiming]
-[Sy] Thank you. -[waitress]
-Ooh. -You're gonna lick just the tip.
And you're gonna penetrate the hole with your tongue,
all the way down to liquid, suck hard and fast.
If you don't, be careful. it'll come all over you.
Knock it back.
-You couldn't wrap your mouth around it? -No.
Cookie-nookie pie.
-[Statler] Yum. -Thank you.
[Sy] What does it say on it?
[Statler] It says, "Getting laid tonight."
-Oh! -This looks so legit.
So, you tend to move very quickly
-with people from day one. -Literally. I know.
Do you think, maybe, taking it a bit slower...
Is...
It's just how do you take it slow with somebody in another country, you know.
Like, if all goes well in England,
I'm gonna, like, come back for two weeks,
like, sell all of my stuff.
and then move back to live with her.
[laughs] I know that it's crazy.
I know it sounds crazy, I know that.
But...
I'm a little concerned, I don't want you to rush into something again.
Yeah.
So, this isn't the first time getting my heart broken in England
I met my ex on a dating app a little over a year ago.
And I had really intense feelings for her pretty quickly.
I was all in, I was ready to move.
In fact, she asked me to move over and live with her.
Went back home, and right then, she was like,
"You know, I think we're moving too quickly.
I'm dumping you."
I cried for, like, a week straight.
We still message once in a blue moon,
just to see how each other are doing.
But, my best friend, the person that I talk to every single day...
gone.
That scares the hell out of me, that it'll happen again.
Are you going to...
talk to your ex at all when you're there.
-I assume the answer is "no," -No, no.
She actually asked if she can meet me at the airport.
And, uh, you know, I considered it.
-Really? -She said, "I made a mistake.
You're the only person I'm ever gonna love."
And I was like, "Okay, then why did you treat me like crap?
Like, why did you reject me when you know rejection is such a big thing for me?"
-Yeah, you spilled your heart out. -Yeah.
And she just ripped it into shreds.
It's kind of a similar pattern, again.
-It's almost exactly the same. -Yeah.
-So, please be careful. -[Statler] Yeah.
Statler just diving into another relationship,
I've seen her get hurt over and over and over again.
If she's learn to slow things down and get to know
the people she's talking to, at the beginning,
maybe she would find some more success.
What happens if... if it falls through?
Like the other times when you've jumped in?
Last year's breakup is one of the toughest
breakups I've ever been through.
I feel like there were a lot of red flags with my ex,
but Dempsey has never made me doubt whether or not
I wanna be with her.
I really think this is gonna be it.
And I don't wanna keep living 5000 miles away from the love of my life.
But if I have a repeat of what happened last year,
I don't know what I'm gonna do.
Yeah, it's scary,
How long was your relationship with your ex?
[automated voice speaking]
I'm gonna just get ready for bed.
-Cool. -All right, cool.
Since Christian and I met, I have noticed some mixed signals.
And of course that makes me more insecure.
I'm going to bed.
[rooster crowing]
[indistinct conversation]
[simulating David's muffled hearing]
[woman]
[Sheila] This is my first full day with David.
I want him to experience and learn about my culture.
And where I am from.
[laughs]
Hard?
What do you think?
[automated voice speaking]
[David in sign language]
[Sheila]
Are you happy that we met?
[automated voice speaking]
How long you was in a relationship with your ex?
-[automated voice speaking] -Ah, she knows how to sign?
[Sheila]
[automated voice speaking]
I'm so glad we declared independence from these people.
My god, I would hate to drive on this side of the road, like,
shifting with the left hand, nope.
I'm in London, I just met my girlfriend Cleo for the first time,
and I'm just full of excitement,
and full of anxiety a little bit as well.
Oh, jeepers, yeah, I'd be able to do a good Minnesota accent.
-It sounds very, like... -Yeah, it does.
We have this amazing connection, but now that we're in person,
things are a little awkward.
I think we just need some time to warm up to each other.
-That was really sweet, what you said about me. -What?
Of course, that was true. You know, like, I don't lie like that.
I know, I know it's genuine, it was very sweet.
-I love your notes. -Thank you.
I'm getting really shy.
I felt the same chemistry with Christian I felt online.
But I feel a lot of pressure because Christian has never dated
a trans woman before.
I do feel that I have to be as womanly as possible,
I have to be a certain standard,
And of course, that makes me feel a little anxious.
[grunts] Oh, god... dammit.
All right.
Ah yes, here we go. Hello, girls!
I brought you your daddy.
[laughs] Are you excited?
Yeah, they look... they look fun
-[Cleo] Do you want to give them some treats? -Oh, that's be a great idea.
Let's see, where are they here?
Hey, hey. hey. you, you, yeah.
-No panel [indistinct] yet. -[Cleo] Psych her.
That's okay, I'm more of a dog person.
You know, I might not be their daddy yet.
-Might take some time. -[Cleo] What would you be in the mean time?
-Call me Uncle Christian. -Uncle Christian, okay. Cool.
That would mean that we are like cousins or something,
-Or brother and sister. -No, I'm just a family friend.
-Okay, but it's still weird. -Like, you know, you're still their daddy.
Not yet, we're not even married yet.
Um, so, I'm really tired, wanna go to bed.
Can you like show me the tour, 'cause this is like the only room I really seen.
Yeah, of course. Let's do it. Oh, cool.
[David] All right, here we go.
[grunting]
Finally [bleep] top of the mountain here.
-Right, so that's the bedroom. -Okay. That's your bed?
Yeah, this seems great, I'm gonna just, I'm gonna get ready for bed.
-Cool. -All right, cool.
[David] I've been in a lot of different dating situations,
from one night stands to marriages.
But I've never been with a trans woman before.
This is new for me.
I need some time to, you know, adjust.
I think that it is also really important to build a foundation of like,
our connection before just diving head first into intimacy.
But I'm worried about disappointing her, I don't necessarily know
what she's expecting.
[sighs wearily]
-[David] -Oh, thank you.
Since Christian and I met, I have noticed some mixed signals.
Christian said that he's totally fine with dating a trans woman,
and I have to believe that because I am hugely invested in this relationship.
But what I worry about, his ability to be affectionate,
and that he might not
find me as attractive as he says.
I do hope I'm just overthinking.
Though it will be worrying if it doesn't change within, you know, a day.
-[Christian] Babe, good night. -[Cleo] All right. Good night.
Okay.
If you guys are couple, you have to believe each other.
[Mother speaking]
[Violet]
-[Riley] Smile and be nice. -Okay.
No matter what's between us, I really care about everybody.
[Violet] I know. Thank you because you care about
-[Violet] my family. -[Riley] Yes, I--
-This-- This is-- -Follow me.
All right, this it?
-[Violet] Mmm-mmm. -Oh, oh.
[Violet speaking]
[Doan] Hi.
[speaking Vietnamese]
[Violet] Close my door.
Oh, close the door. Okay.
[Violet speaking]
It's different. It's very different.
-What did you say? -It's different, yeah.
-[Violet speaking] -Because in America, we have...
You know, it's different.
-Not like this. -[Violet] Uh-huh.
[Violet speaking]
[Bao] Hello.
-Hello. -[Tuyet] Hello.
-[Bao] Oh. -[Riley] Oh, my God, Bao.
-[Tuyet] You're taller than I-- -[Riley] Hello.
Hi, boy.
-[laughs] -You think I'm taller? Hi, boy.
-Oh, my God. -[Tuyet] Oh, my gosh.
[Violet speaking]
Oh, your younger brother?
-Hi, hello. -Hello.
Hello, very nice to meet you.
[Violet speaking]
[Riley] You take him. Hello.
Very nice to meet you. I'll give you a hug.
Hello.
Finally get to meet y'all.
-[Violet speaking] -Oh, okay.
Tuyet, Bao and Violet's mom walk out of the kitchen,
I just feel...
a crazy amount of joy.
It reminds me of why I'm actually here.
So it's pretty-- It's pretty awesome.
Very nice to meet-- So happy.
I'm so happy. I have gifts for y'all.
Tuyet.
-Wow. -[chuckles softly] Yeah.
-[Riley speaking] -Thank you.
My favorite one. [chuckles]
[Riley chuckles]
-Oh, wow. -And Tuyet.
[Tuyet speaking other language]
-[Tuyet speaking other language] -For you.
-Oh, I have two? -[Riley] Look, open.
-[Riley] Yes. Open, open, open. -Oh.
-Open. [chuckles] -[Bao speaking]
[Bao] Oh.
[Tuyet] Oh, my God.
-[Tuyet speaking] -[Riley laughs]
Bao.
[Bao] Oh, my God. [chuckles]
-Oh, my God. -Your favorite.
[Bao speaking]
[Violet speaking]
[Bao] Thank you.
I'm so-- I'm so happy.
[Violet speaking]
-Yes. -[Violet] Okay.
[speaking Vietnamese]
Oh, look.
Thank you.
So-- What is that?
Pork? That's pork?
-[Violet] Pork. -Okay.
[Doan speaking]
[Riley] Okay.
-Want to eat rice? -Oh, no, I'm okay.
I'm actually a little nervous
-'cause I know I'm gonna get the hard questions soon. -[laughs]
[Tuyet speaking]
[Doan speaking]
[Violet speaking]
Okay, she wants to know of my temper would change.
[Violet] Mmm-hmm.
[Riley] I wanna be good to Violet.
I just don't like being lied to.
I'd like the truth.
[Violet] Today, my friend he talking with me,
and he looked,
So...
Okay.
[Riley] Okay, so...
If you guys are a couple,
you have to believe each other.
I will do my best to believe in her more,
to believe in, maybe, Violet more.
And work on being together.
[Riley] In the past,
I've been hurt.
So I'm already there where I don't necessarily trust
everything I'm told or-- or everything I see.
But my feelings for Violet are real.
It's a connection here,
and I'm here for a reason.
I believe in us,
and we're truckin' along.
We're-- we're trying to make this work.
[exhales sharply]
[Statler groans]
Throw it down.
Okay.
[groans softly] Okay.
Okay.
That's definitely 50 pounds.
Oh, boy. [grunts]
I'm feeling nauseous.
[exhales sharply]
Okay, [bleep].
After seven months of talking,
tomorrow is the day
that I'm finally leaving to England.
to meet my incredibly gorgeous girlfriend,
Dempsey in person.
Ooh! That's a lot.
Will this fit?
Should I roll them?
When I'm packing for a big trip,
I'm pretty overwhelmed.
There's a million different things that I have to do,
that I have to remember.
[bleep] flying. [chuckles]
What else do I need? What else do I need?
Think, think, think, think, think, think.
Socks. Wait.
Let's finish the bathroom.
Okay, bathroom.
It kind of makes my ADHD crazy.
Mmm, some-- Ooh, gift bags.
Okay.
I-- I don't even--
I don't know where to begin, I don't know where to end.
[bleep] is chaos.
[laughs]
[softly] Just gonna put that there.
Okay.
Oh, yeah.
This is just in case...
I throw up. [chuckles]
Today's the big day.
I'm going to meet Dempsey.
This is everything that, you know,
we've been planning for a very long time.
But Dempsey's in Thailand right now with her father.
So we haven't communicated a lot recently,
and it just brings up all of my insecurities.
So are you like, meeting anyone over there, like...
Hot chicks...
-[Dempsey laughs] -[Statler] that are just like,
taking their clothes off
and begging you to do horrible things to them?
[both] No.
It's making me feel...
kind of, just weird.
[softly] Okay.
My brain and my stomach are very much connected.
And so, when I start getting anxious,
it's like, lightning coming out of my--
my butt.
But I'm just trying to focus on the end goal,
which is Dempsey.
Okay.
Oh-- Wow, it just slides right in.
That's what she said. [laughs]
Does it go down? No?
-[lock clicks] -Okay. Okay.
I don't know.
Excitement and nausea and-- everything else. [laughs]
[phone vibrates]
Damn, Dempsey might not make her flight.
She says,
"I'm meant to be flying to London in two hours
but I still haven't left Thailand,
and that's a one hour and 20 minute flight."
Oh, man, that's not good.
Damn.
Getting this text at this moment
while I'm on my way to the airport,
it's not helping my nerves at all.
Ooh. [sighs]
My insecurities are starting to creep back in.
It doesn't feel good, it sucks.
Maybe she's having second thoughts.
But for now, I just have to put all my insecurities aside,
and get there.
I want to give her the benefit of the doubt.
I have to put myself out there,
and hope for the best.
We're here.
My heart just dropped. [chuckles nervously]
I'm putting myself in a very vulnerable situation
to be hurt.
[sighs and chuckles]
♪ Your feelings come and go ♪
♪ But I still love you so ♪
[chuckles]
'Cause it's stupid.
It's stupid to-- to do this again.
Logically.
But I'm trying to lead with my heart.
And so, I'm doing some dumb stuff.
I'm headed to the gates,
Um, first I have to take this, uh, sky train.
I'm terrified of getting hurt.
But you gotta risk it all for the chance at love.
You just have to.
I am a ball of emotions.
But I'm hoping that this is the beginning
of a love story.
It's my turn for a happy ending.
Here we are.
On the plane, finally.
This is it. This is great. I'm very happy.
[music playing]
-[Yira speaking] -[Gino] Cheers.
No, I-- I would never cheat on Jasmine.
And I hope she never cheated on me.
I don't know everything Jasmine's been doing
in the 18 months that we've been apart.
I'm worried she's hiding something.
Do you know anything about Jasmine and Dane?
[Spanish music playing]
[Jasmine] You don't have to be looking at your feet.
So one, two--
[Gino] Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait.
Do-- Do that one two very slow.
[Jasmine] More simple, just one and two.
[humming]
[Jasmine chuckles]
What's--
Don't do that.
-F. Flunk. -[Jasmine laughs]
[mimics buzzer]
[Jasmine] I'm taking Gino out tonight
to meet my female friends for the first time
and we are gonna go out for a night of dancing.
[Gino] Your friends are gonna like me?
Now that I'm dressed in my fancy clothes?
My goodness, it took me two years and a half
to make you wear shoes. [laughs]
[Gino laughs]
[all laugh]
Especially after my call with Dane earlier today,
I've realized how important it is
to consider my friends opinions
because lately, I'm having trouble trusting my own judgement
when it comes to my relationship with Gino.
[chuckles] I hear the music.
[Yira speaking]
[Yira and Gino speaking]
-Gino. -Gino, nice to meet you.
[Jasmine speaking]
-[Gino] Yira? -[Jasmine and Yira] Yira.
[Jasmine] She speaks English.
So you're good and safe here.
But this is Juana.
She doesn't speak English.
-So you have to practice your Spanish with her. -Okay. Okay.
[all laughing]
[Jasmine speaking]
Are you ready to show my girls your new dance movement?
Sure.
I'm not the greatest at salsa but I'll have fun with it.
And I want to make a good impression on--
with Jasmine's friends, um, you know,
I want to show her that I'm putting effort
into our relationship.
[Juana speaking]
Especially because things are not perfect between us.
[Jasmine speaking]
[Juana laughs]
[laughs]
-Yeah, let's do it, cheers. -[Yira speaking]
[Gino] Cheers! Great to see you.
[Yira speaking]
The butt plugs?
[Yira] Have you tried out before?
[Jasmine] With another person.
-Have I? -[Jasmine] Yes.
Have you had anal sex with another person?
Look, with me, I know. But with another person.
Uh...
No.
Uh, let's change the subject.
Tell me, how did you meet Jasmine?
So I met her like, nine years ago.
-We have such a lot of things in common. -Yeah.
No, I-- I would never cheat on Jasmine.
Okay.
[Gino] And I hope she never cheated on me.
Because today, she was talking to some guy.
Before we left the apartment,
Jasmine was acting a little strange.
She was giving me short answers,
and seemed to be avoiding me.
I felt something was off, so I confronted her about it.
And she admitted to me earlier today
she was video chatting with a friend, Dane.
I've been trying to let it go for tonight.
But I am--
I don't understand why she was hiding it from me
in the first place.
[Jasmine] He is just a friend.
Juana can tell you.
Up to this point, I've never questioned
Jasmine cheating on me.
But to be honest,
I don't know everything Jasmine's been doing
in the 18 months that we've been apart.
And with all the fighting with us,
and now she's being so sneaky about talking to this guy.
That's very suspicious.
Whoo! [laughs]
-[Yira] Salud. -[Gino] Salud.
[Yira speaking]
-[laughs] -[Gino] You speak good English.
-I can understand. -[Yira] I'm trying.
No problem, yeah.
Your English is good, no worries.
Yeah.
So.
Um...
do you know anything about Jasmine and Dane?
She dated him like, in 2018, 2019,
if I'm not mistaken.
Oh, so right before she met me, kind of.
[Yira] Kind of, yes.
Okay, okay.
Well, at the moment, they're still good friends.
Okay.
Imagine what Jasmine would do if I told her
I was friends with my ex.
She would blow a nut.
So the fact that Jasmine's ex is in her life,
and she's hiding it behind my back,
that's a big red flag to me.
Something's going on here.
[Yira] I feel like you need to not worry
because I know her,
and she would love to marry with you.
[Gino] Yeah.
But I'm worried if she's hiding something.
[narrator] Next time on Before The 90 Days.
[Statler speaking]
I might kiss the ground.
I've been waiting months to meet Dempsey.
And now that the moment's here,
things could go either really right or really wrong.
[groans]
I've been sick basically all night.
Oh, my God.
There's no way I can meet Dempsey like this.
[Nicola] The last 48 hours...
[Meisha] But we don't know that.
We need to figure that out over the next two weeks.
Are we going to the next level?
Or are we not?
[Nicola] It's the first time that...
[Tyray] After seeing Carmella's photos on the escort site
I reached out to a private investigator.
I did reverse this. We got a hit.
[woman speaking]
[investigator] Uh, no.
This is a little raunchier.
-[woman] So... -Oh, my God.
[Gino] To be honest with you,
I've been a little concerned about your ex, Dane.
Can you tell me what's going on?
How often do you guys talk?
[Jasmine] At least once a week.
[Gino] Are you serious?
[Jasmine speaking]
Are you?
[Christian] Hey, excuse me, excuse me.
Are you guys like, celebrating something tonight?
Your birthday?
[Cleo speaking]
It's about making each other feel special.
It's not inviting other people into the conversation.
Okay, I wasn't hitting on 'em. You know what I'm saying?
But like, you did.
No. No, [laughs] I wouldn't.
Absolutely not, no.
Hey, hey, hey.
Hi, Tiffany.
I definitely still have many questions for Violet.
But I'm hoping that Tiffany can get Violet
to open up a little bit more.
[Tiffany] Why were you still on the app
after you were adamant about him
not being on the app?
She's asking you a question.
She wants to hear from you.
Why, why?
[Tiffany speaking]