1 00:00:01,482 --> 00:00:03,413 Previously on Before the 90 Days... 2 00:00:03,413 --> 00:00:05,275 - Hi. - Hi. 3 00:00:05,275 --> 00:00:07,275 I can't believe you're actually here. 4 00:00:11,896 --> 00:00:15,068 Uh... I just think we're both awkward people. 5 00:00:15,068 --> 00:00:17,896 I've been waiting months to meet Dempsey 6 00:00:17,896 --> 00:00:20,620 And things are gonna go either really right 7 00:00:20,620 --> 00:00:21,689 or really wrong. 8 00:00:22,068 --> 00:00:24,689 Yeah. 9 00:00:34,724 --> 00:00:36,379 But we don't know. 10 00:00:36,379 --> 00:00:39,896 We need to figure that out over the next two weeks. 11 00:00:41,413 --> 00:00:42,586 But I not going to change. 12 00:00:42,586 --> 00:00:44,724 I'm going to be the same person. 13 00:00:44,724 --> 00:00:47,896 If I go home not engaged to you, Nicola, 14 00:00:47,896 --> 00:00:49,965 this will be over. 15 00:01:36,103 --> 00:01:38,586 You think it's okay that you fantasize about having sex-- 16 00:01:39,793 --> 00:01:41,724 Well, if our sexual life were better, 17 00:01:41,724 --> 00:01:44,000 then I would have fantasized about us. 18 00:01:44,000 --> 00:01:45,379 Unbelievable. 19 00:01:45,379 --> 00:01:47,896 Here she is, talkin' to her ex, 20 00:01:47,896 --> 00:01:49,620 fantasizing about him, 21 00:01:49,620 --> 00:01:51,000 physically seeing him, 22 00:01:51,000 --> 00:01:53,103 moved into the same building he's in, 23 00:01:53,103 --> 00:01:55,310 so, yeah, I'm losing my trust. 24 00:01:55,310 --> 00:01:58,275 And how are we supposed to get married without trust? 25 00:02:01,517 --> 00:02:02,965 Hi, Tiffanie. 26 00:02:12,724 --> 00:02:14,379 She's asking you a question. 27 00:02:14,379 --> 00:02:15,517 Why are you lookin' at me? 28 00:02:15,517 --> 00:02:16,965 She wants to hear it from you. 29 00:02:39,896 --> 00:02:42,000 Have I mentioned how beautiful you are? 30 00:02:42,000 --> 00:02:43,172 Aww. 31 00:02:43,172 --> 00:02:44,275 I don't think so. 32 00:02:44,275 --> 00:02:46,310 You can tell me again, you know. 33 00:02:46,310 --> 00:02:51,103 You're beautiful, gorgeous, attractive... et cetera. 34 00:02:54,000 --> 00:02:56,896 After seven months of intense conversation, 35 00:02:56,896 --> 00:03:01,724 I just met my amazing, gorgeous girlfriend, Dempsey, in person. 36 00:03:01,724 --> 00:03:06,896 I'm just like, holy cow, she is better... 37 00:03:06,896 --> 00:03:08,965 better than I could have ever imagined. 38 00:03:10,103 --> 00:03:13,379 We're heading to the hotel where we'll stay the night. 39 00:03:13,379 --> 00:03:16,896 I'm feeling better and all of my anxiety 40 00:03:16,896 --> 00:03:20,137 just melts away. It's just completely gone. 41 00:03:36,620 --> 00:03:38,068 Yeah. I like Manchester. 42 00:03:41,103 --> 00:03:42,344 Mmm. 43 00:03:46,482 --> 00:03:49,241 Sometimes I get quiet and don't know what to talk about. 44 00:03:50,620 --> 00:03:52,586 We are so awkward. 45 00:03:52,586 --> 00:03:54,517 I just, like... 46 00:03:54,517 --> 00:03:57,586 Wow! We're extremely awkward people. 47 00:03:59,103 --> 00:04:04,275 After all this travel that I'd had over the past couple of days, 48 00:04:04,275 --> 00:04:08,275 it feels very surreal that I'm actually... finally I've met Statler, 49 00:04:08,275 --> 00:04:12,379 but it's a bit, um, of a mind really 50 00:04:12,379 --> 00:04:14,379 when you've met someone for seven months, 51 00:04:14,379 --> 00:04:16,620 and it's just, like, an online thing, 52 00:04:16,620 --> 00:04:18,517 and then they're there in person, 53 00:04:18,517 --> 00:04:22,448 and I'm just really nervous, really nervous. 54 00:04:24,482 --> 00:04:26,517 Here we have some stone. 55 00:04:26,517 --> 00:04:28,310 Limestone, I think it is. 56 00:04:28,310 --> 00:04:32,103 - It's so huge. - Sorry for all my stuff. I've kind of unpacked. 57 00:04:32,103 --> 00:04:33,793 It's lovely. 58 00:04:33,793 --> 00:04:35,620 I have a gift for you. 59 00:04:35,620 --> 00:04:38,344 Really? I have gifts for you. 60 00:04:40,000 --> 00:04:44,000 I haven't wrapped mine either 'cause I hadn't had any wrapping paper. 61 00:04:44,000 --> 00:04:47,172 So, this is just like a good gesture. 62 00:04:47,172 --> 00:04:48,689 Okay. Wow. 63 00:04:49,379 --> 00:04:50,793 This smells like an insect. 64 00:04:50,793 --> 00:04:54,000 - I can always smell a dead insect. - That's what the smell is. 65 00:04:54,000 --> 00:04:55,482 You wanna wash your hands after, 66 00:04:55,482 --> 00:04:58,310 but look at it it's actually... 67 00:04:58,310 --> 00:05:00,896 Gorgeous! 68 00:05:00,896 --> 00:05:02,896 Oh, my God! 69 00:05:02,896 --> 00:05:05,517 - These are the insects that camouflage their bodies... - Yeah. 70 00:05:05,517 --> 00:05:06,896 ...to look like leaves. 71 00:05:06,896 --> 00:05:08,517 So, that's a Thailand one. 72 00:05:08,517 --> 00:05:12,379 This is, like, better than Christmas and all of my birthdays combined. 73 00:05:12,379 --> 00:05:14,620 I can't believe you got me dead insects! 74 00:05:14,620 --> 00:05:16,482 And took them all the way from Thailand, 75 00:05:16,482 --> 00:05:18,068 smelling like they do. 76 00:05:18,068 --> 00:05:21,310 It is a very strong, intense scent. 77 00:05:21,310 --> 00:05:23,000 For a second, I thought it was coming from you. 78 00:05:23,000 --> 00:05:26,103 - I thought it was my laundry from Thailand. - But... 79 00:05:26,103 --> 00:05:28,586 I thought so, too, and I was kind of concerned about that. 80 00:05:28,586 --> 00:05:30,724 But an insect lover 81 00:05:30,724 --> 00:05:32,551 recognizes the smell. 82 00:05:33,172 --> 00:05:34,724 This is [bleep]. Look at that. 83 00:05:34,724 --> 00:05:37,310 It's a scorpion with a bunch of different beetles. 84 00:05:37,310 --> 00:05:39,000 They are all from Thailand as well. 85 00:05:39,000 --> 00:05:40,620 - So, these are all Thailand insects? - Yeah. 86 00:05:40,620 --> 00:05:42,034 Stop it! 87 00:05:45,413 --> 00:05:49,862 That's so roma... That's the most romantic thing anyone's ever done! 88 00:05:52,275 --> 00:05:54,000 I'm realizing now 89 00:05:54,000 --> 00:05:56,172 that I gave you something that I would have wanted to receive, 90 00:05:56,172 --> 00:06:00,172 that I'm now realizing you probably don't actually want. 91 00:06:00,172 --> 00:06:04,310 - So, here is the gift that-- - Oh, no. 92 00:06:04,310 --> 00:06:08,000 - I'm kind of embarrassed now. Oh, boy. - Uh... 93 00:06:08,000 --> 00:06:11,586 - It's an insect. - It's an insect. 94 00:06:13,413 --> 00:06:17,068 - That's hilarious. - It's really cute. 95 00:06:17,068 --> 00:06:21,172 - It's cute. - And it... The wings, they move like... 96 00:06:21,172 --> 00:06:24,724 - Yeah. - Okay. 97 00:06:24,724 --> 00:06:26,000 It's a mantis. 98 00:06:26,000 --> 00:06:29,620 It's very... Statler. - Okay. 99 00:06:29,620 --> 00:06:32,482 She'd got me a little metal ant. 100 00:06:32,482 --> 00:06:35,482 for our first gift. 101 00:06:41,172 --> 00:06:44,482 ...do you wanna get ready for bed? 102 00:06:44,482 --> 00:06:45,655 Yeah. I would like to have a shower. 103 00:06:46,310 --> 00:06:47,413 Like, alone or...? 104 00:06:47,413 --> 00:06:49,275 - Yeah, alone. - So, alone. Yeah. 105 00:06:49,275 --> 00:06:50,758 Of course, yeah. 106 00:06:51,482 --> 00:06:53,275 Wow! 107 00:06:53,275 --> 00:06:57,172 That is explosive, but not in a bad way. 108 00:06:57,172 --> 00:06:58,793 - Are you okay? - Yep. I'm great. 109 00:06:58,793 --> 00:07:01,206 - Bye. - Enjoy. 110 00:07:01,206 --> 00:07:04,000 There's been a huge build-up for months and months, 111 00:07:04,000 --> 00:07:05,068 no action. 112 00:07:06,172 --> 00:07:08,000 But it's kind of up to her. 113 00:07:08,000 --> 00:07:10,965 Hopefully, some magic will happen tonight. 114 00:07:13,517 --> 00:07:15,793 - Hi. - Hi. 115 00:07:15,793 --> 00:07:18,482 I'm trying my best to reel it in, 116 00:07:18,482 --> 00:07:20,000 but her butt is literal perfection. 117 00:07:20,000 --> 00:07:25,379 It's shaped like a peach, like a juicy, delicious Georgia peach. 118 00:07:25,379 --> 00:07:28,620 And it's got some, like, huzzah to it. 119 00:07:28,620 --> 00:07:31,620 She's done some work on that thing. 120 00:07:33,413 --> 00:07:35,000 Are you feeling awkward? 121 00:07:35,000 --> 00:07:36,103 - Me? - Yeah. 122 00:07:36,103 --> 00:07:38,793 No, not at all. Are you? - Yeah. 123 00:07:38,793 --> 00:07:41,310 Why is that? Why do you feel awkward? 124 00:07:41,310 --> 00:07:42,517 'Cause we're in bed together? 125 00:07:42,517 --> 00:07:43,862 - Yeah. - Oh. 126 00:07:46,275 --> 00:07:49,000 - If I kissed you, that would be too-- - That'd be too much. 127 00:07:49,000 --> 00:07:50,724 That'd be too much. Okay. 128 00:07:50,724 --> 00:07:53,517 Uh, if you... if you had to put, like, a number 129 00:07:53,517 --> 00:07:57,000 on the chances of happy time... 130 00:07:57,000 --> 00:07:58,620 Statler. 131 00:07:58,620 --> 00:08:01,068 All right. Well, okay. Good to know. 132 00:08:01,068 --> 00:08:04,275 Cool. 133 00:08:04,275 --> 00:08:05,413 I really like Statler. 134 00:08:05,413 --> 00:08:06,724 But, no, that's not happening. 135 00:08:06,724 --> 00:08:09,206 We're not having sex tonight. No way. 136 00:08:09,206 --> 00:08:10,724 We hadn't even kissed by this point 137 00:08:10,724 --> 00:08:13,689 and she's asking me if I wanna have sex. 138 00:08:14,896 --> 00:08:16,413 Okay. Well, I'm knackered. 139 00:08:16,413 --> 00:08:18,275 - Yeah, me too. - And I'm sure so are you. 140 00:08:19,068 --> 00:08:22,275 So... let me figure out these lights. 141 00:08:22,275 --> 00:08:25,000 For me, sex is intimate. 142 00:08:25,000 --> 00:08:29,068 I just need to get to know Statler a little bit more in person. 143 00:08:29,068 --> 00:08:32,000 So, I'm just gonna take it slow 144 00:08:32,000 --> 00:08:34,275 and see where things go. 145 00:08:34,275 --> 00:08:36,586 All right. Good night. Good night. 146 00:08:36,586 --> 00:08:38,000 - Good day. - Good day. 147 00:08:38,000 --> 00:08:39,379 - We did it. - We did it. 148 00:08:39,379 --> 00:08:42,172 - Yay! Yayie. - Yay! Our first day meeting. Yay! 149 00:08:43,896 --> 00:08:45,103 - Mmm. - Go to sleep. 150 00:08:45,103 --> 00:08:47,448 Stop it. 151 00:08:48,206 --> 00:08:49,689 Mmm. 152 00:09:19,172 --> 00:09:21,620 Gino and I only have one week and a half left together. 153 00:09:21,620 --> 00:09:25,517 These last few days we fought so hard. 154 00:09:25,517 --> 00:09:27,689 And it just feels like 155 00:09:33,275 --> 00:09:35,344 We have to wait a few minutes. 156 00:09:38,103 --> 00:09:42,275 Like, we are not having sex, we are not romantic. 157 00:09:42,275 --> 00:09:44,482 And the worst part now is 158 00:09:44,482 --> 00:09:47,793 that Gino thinks that I betray his trust 159 00:09:47,793 --> 00:09:49,689 because I'm friends with my ex, Dane. 160 00:09:51,103 --> 00:09:52,172 Hi. Welcome. 161 00:09:52,172 --> 00:09:54,172 - Hi. How are you? - Hi. 162 00:09:54,172 --> 00:09:55,724 - Nice to meet you. - Nice to meet you. 163 00:09:55,724 --> 00:09:57,482 - How are you? Please come in here. - Sure. 164 00:09:59,000 --> 00:10:02,620 We have try by our own to fix a lot of our problems, 165 00:10:02,620 --> 00:10:05,068 but we haven't been able to. 166 00:10:05,068 --> 00:10:07,482 It's making me feel... 167 00:10:07,482 --> 00:10:11,241 miserable, desperate, sad, concerned. 168 00:10:12,172 --> 00:10:15,620 So, we need to see a therapist. 169 00:10:15,620 --> 00:10:17,241 We need it. It's a must. 170 00:10:19,275 --> 00:10:21,482 I would just first like to say, 171 00:10:21,482 --> 00:10:26,310 usually, when you come to get a counsel session... 172 00:10:26,310 --> 00:10:28,000 - Mmm-hmm. - ...it takes more than once. 173 00:10:28,000 --> 00:10:30,689 So, it's hard to say that we will accomplish 174 00:10:30,689 --> 00:10:33,482 probably everything that you have in your minds. 175 00:10:33,482 --> 00:10:34,586 Yeah, I can't imagine. 176 00:10:34,586 --> 00:10:38,344 But, um, let's take advantage of our time together. 177 00:10:39,413 --> 00:10:42,482 Since I've been in Panama, things... 178 00:10:42,482 --> 00:10:45,275 I hate to say it, but things have been kind of rough. 179 00:10:45,275 --> 00:10:48,000 I... I thought it'd be... it'd go better 180 00:10:48,000 --> 00:10:52,551 and I think it's a good idea that we speak about what's changed. 181 00:10:55,000 --> 00:10:58,310 So, tell me a little bit about you guys. 182 00:10:58,310 --> 00:11:02,275 Yeah, sure. Um, we've been dating for two years and a half. 183 00:11:02,275 --> 00:11:03,413 - Wow. - We are engaged. 184 00:11:03,413 --> 00:11:08,172 And I'm gonna travel to United States to marry him. 185 00:11:08,172 --> 00:11:12,310 But we've been waiting for the K-1 to be approved, like, for 12 months 186 00:11:12,310 --> 00:11:14,620 It's a process that is putting, like, 187 00:11:14,620 --> 00:11:17,689 a lot of pressure on the relationship. 188 00:11:17,689 --> 00:11:21,000 So, it's... it's very hard to maintain a conversation 189 00:11:21,000 --> 00:11:24,724 without ended up on yelling at each other, 190 00:11:24,724 --> 00:11:27,517 uh, and I think Gino will agree. 191 00:11:27,517 --> 00:11:30,517 Yeah. But one of the things I have to bring up 192 00:11:30,517 --> 00:11:34,896 is that, uh, Jasmine, um, 193 00:11:34,896 --> 00:11:39,103 - she makes bad comments all the time. - Okay. 194 00:11:39,103 --> 00:11:43,103 She'll say very hurtful words to me. 195 00:11:43,103 --> 00:11:46,413 And also, I recently found out 196 00:11:46,413 --> 00:11:49,172 that Jasmine was seeing her ex-boyfriend... 197 00:11:50,379 --> 00:11:54,068 calling him, moved into the same building he's in. 198 00:11:54,068 --> 00:11:56,896 - Which is totally-- - They live in the same building 199 00:11:56,896 --> 00:12:00,896 and they see each other, you know, even recently. 200 00:12:00,896 --> 00:12:02,896 - While she's with-- - To talk about him. To talk about him. 201 00:12:02,896 --> 00:12:08,310 Like, he's... Okay. First of all, we have a friendly meeting. 202 00:12:08,310 --> 00:12:10,586 It's not like, I was like, you know, 203 00:12:10,586 --> 00:12:12,620 he found me in a hotel or something, you know. 204 00:12:12,620 --> 00:12:14,310 And we decided to be friends 205 00:12:14,310 --> 00:12:17,896 because we had actually amazing communication skills. 206 00:12:17,896 --> 00:12:20,620 I don't see him as my ex-boyfriend. 207 00:12:20,620 --> 00:12:22,172 I see him as my friend. 208 00:12:23,482 --> 00:12:30,379 I... I told him part of my frustration is I want more intimacy. 209 00:12:30,379 --> 00:12:34,172 It's not just like I wanna be pleased all the time, 210 00:12:34,172 --> 00:12:35,758 it's just that... 211 00:12:36,586 --> 00:12:41,172 Like, just to give you an example, um, 212 00:12:41,172 --> 00:12:44,965 I'm not satisfied sexually in this relationship. 213 00:12:46,896 --> 00:12:53,724 Every time, most of the time that I try to approach to him physically, 214 00:12:53,724 --> 00:12:57,482 - he pushed me away and he's-- - No. No, that's not true. 215 00:12:57,482 --> 00:13:00,689 And he has even made comments 216 00:13:00,689 --> 00:13:03,793 about my private parts. 217 00:13:07,206 --> 00:13:09,724 A few days ago, I was takin' a shower, 218 00:13:09,724 --> 00:13:12,068 and I wanted to be sexy, 219 00:13:12,068 --> 00:13:14,517 and I was like, showing him my body... 220 00:13:14,517 --> 00:13:17,689 - Mmm-hmm. - ...and he was gagging like [imitates gagging]. 221 00:13:17,689 --> 00:13:20,896 No, I wasn't. You were showing... I was trying to talk to you... 222 00:13:20,896 --> 00:13:23,793 talk to you and you're showing me like, your private parts. 223 00:13:23,793 --> 00:13:25,896 I'm saying, "Jasmine, let me talk to you, I'm trying to talk to you." 224 00:13:25,896 --> 00:13:28,172 - Trust me, I like seeing... - Why do you have to say that? 225 00:13:28,172 --> 00:13:30,103 ...your private parts and stuff. There was... 226 00:13:30,103 --> 00:13:32,793 At that moment in time, I wanted to talk to her at that moment. 227 00:13:34,310 --> 00:13:36,103 No, no, no. So... so I want to understand. 228 00:13:36,103 --> 00:13:40,689 So, physically you felt rejected and you say like, "Uh-huh." 229 00:13:40,689 --> 00:13:43,793 Not wanted, not good enough, ugly. 230 00:13:43,793 --> 00:13:49,068 I have my whole life deal with insecurity issues 231 00:13:49,068 --> 00:13:52,379 because I have, like, abandonment issues 232 00:13:52,379 --> 00:13:56,344 from my dad, which walk away when I was three years old. 233 00:13:57,517 --> 00:14:01,000 - And I don't take rejection, uh... - ...easily. 234 00:14:01,000 --> 00:14:03,689 No, I don't take... I'm sorry, like, 235 00:14:03,689 --> 00:14:06,000 you know, I don't take rejection easily. 236 00:14:06,000 --> 00:14:07,793 And you made me feel rejected 237 00:14:07,793 --> 00:14:09,965 and you made me feel ugly. 238 00:14:12,586 --> 00:14:14,551 And all I want is love. 239 00:14:16,620 --> 00:14:20,896 The first toxic relationship that I had with a man was with my dad. 240 00:14:20,896 --> 00:14:23,103 The worst thing that you can do to me 241 00:14:23,103 --> 00:14:25,206 is showing me that you don't love me. 242 00:14:25,206 --> 00:14:29,586 Like, I have, like, a lot of abandonment issues. 243 00:14:29,586 --> 00:14:32,724 Deep inside, when I love a person, 244 00:14:32,724 --> 00:14:38,275 I feel, like, so scared of losing that person and not having his love 245 00:14:38,275 --> 00:14:42,793 that I will do anything just... just to feel that I'm worthy. 246 00:14:42,793 --> 00:14:47,482 And Gino doesn't understand how much he's hurting me in this moment. 247 00:14:55,103 --> 00:14:57,896 We never have sex. 248 00:14:57,896 --> 00:15:00,275 Like, we've been dating for two years and a half, 249 00:15:00,275 --> 00:15:02,344 and we have only been together... 250 00:15:03,275 --> 00:15:05,344 like, have intercourse seven times. 251 00:15:07,724 --> 00:15:09,172 If you want better intimacy, 252 00:15:09,172 --> 00:15:11,689 we have to stop arguing every day. 253 00:15:11,689 --> 00:15:14,482 you have to start... stop putting me down for the-- 254 00:15:14,482 --> 00:15:16,000 Let me interrupt here, 255 00:15:16,000 --> 00:15:19,965 so that we can, um, go a little deep here. 256 00:15:22,172 --> 00:15:27,517 Gino, so you're giving conditions that I understand that you need, 257 00:15:27,517 --> 00:15:31,275 but you might get her best self 258 00:15:31,275 --> 00:15:36,103 by, you know, bonding with her intimately. 259 00:15:36,103 --> 00:15:37,551 You know what I'm saying? 260 00:15:38,620 --> 00:15:43,793 Right, but she's gonna have to work on those things, okay? 261 00:15:43,793 --> 00:15:46,724 I don't want you to make her think she doesn't have to work on that stuff. 262 00:15:46,724 --> 00:15:48,000 - No. Not at all. - 'Cause she does. 263 00:15:48,000 --> 00:15:50,793 - Very much so. - Oh. Is this coming through that way? 264 00:15:50,793 --> 00:15:51,965 Uh, yeah. 265 00:15:55,620 --> 00:15:57,275 Are you afraid of that? 266 00:15:57,275 --> 00:16:00,482 Yeah. I want to make sure that she doesn't think that she doesn't-- 267 00:16:00,482 --> 00:16:02,896 That's... that's why we have communication problems, because-- 268 00:16:02,896 --> 00:16:06,586 I wanna make sure that she knows she has to work on those things. 269 00:16:06,586 --> 00:16:10,517 And also, our intimacy was better at one time, 270 00:16:10,517 --> 00:16:12,482 but we still had these issues. 271 00:16:12,482 --> 00:16:14,068 So, I don't think that that's gonna work very well. 272 00:16:14,068 --> 00:16:15,172 No. It was never good. 273 00:16:15,172 --> 00:16:16,620 - No, earlier-- - No. It was not good. 274 00:16:16,620 --> 00:16:20,689 - Yeah, it was. - I... I like... My worst sex has been with Gino. 275 00:16:22,000 --> 00:16:23,310 This is... These are the kind of comments... 276 00:16:23,310 --> 00:16:24,620 Because I'm being honest. Like, we need-- 277 00:16:24,620 --> 00:16:27,413 ...where I really don't have any desire to be with her 278 00:16:27,413 --> 00:16:28,862 - when I hear stuff like that. - Okay. 279 00:16:29,172 --> 00:16:30,344 Period. 280 00:16:36,586 --> 00:16:39,344 I am on my period. 281 00:16:43,310 --> 00:16:44,448 Okay. So? 282 00:17:02,620 --> 00:17:03,758 She's young. 283 00:17:30,103 --> 00:17:32,068 Razvan, can you... 284 00:17:32,068 --> 00:17:34,172 - Yeah? - ...help me make this coffee? 285 00:17:38,379 --> 00:17:41,482 Uh... I don't think you can use-- 286 00:17:41,482 --> 00:17:42,758 This is like... 287 00:17:44,379 --> 00:17:48,206 I know. We need to buy, uh, something else. 288 00:17:48,206 --> 00:17:51,896 - A coffee pot. - A... coffee pot. 289 00:17:51,896 --> 00:17:53,965 So, why did you let me pick out ground coffee? 290 00:17:53,965 --> 00:17:56,586 And you have, like, this 291 00:17:56,586 --> 00:17:59,965 European coffee pod. 292 00:18:04,379 --> 00:18:05,655 You know? 293 00:18:06,482 --> 00:18:07,758 I will buy something. 294 00:18:28,310 --> 00:18:31,448 - I just want, like, regular coffee. - Yeah. 295 00:18:57,068 --> 00:18:59,689 Oh, my gosh. 296 00:19:00,793 --> 00:19:02,586 I am on my period, 297 00:19:02,586 --> 00:19:05,241 so I feel bloated and I-- 298 00:19:06,965 --> 00:19:09,551 Yeah. 299 00:19:21,275 --> 00:19:22,862 Okay. So? 300 00:19:26,000 --> 00:19:28,379 Oh, my God. - You know? 301 00:19:36,068 --> 00:19:41,068 I think that Razvan is hoping that by us having sex, 302 00:19:41,068 --> 00:19:43,275 it'll help us connect more emotionally. 303 00:19:44,103 --> 00:19:47,068 I get it, but I'm not comfortable 304 00:19:47,068 --> 00:19:48,965 having sex with Razvan yet. 305 00:19:48,965 --> 00:19:52,206 Especially coming from a marriage that 306 00:19:52,206 --> 00:19:54,965 I was in for so long and losing my husband. 307 00:19:57,068 --> 00:19:58,172 Okay. 308 00:19:59,586 --> 00:20:02,344 Um, can you bring me the mirror from the bathroom? 309 00:20:04,379 --> 00:20:07,379 I met Jason when I was 19, 310 00:20:07,379 --> 00:20:11,413 so it's kind of like, I learned things 311 00:20:11,413 --> 00:20:14,172 and, like, went through that experience with him, 312 00:20:14,172 --> 00:20:18,793 so, you know, it's scary for me to take that leap 313 00:20:18,793 --> 00:20:21,000 and to be with someone intimately 314 00:20:21,000 --> 00:20:23,689 who is not Jason. 315 00:20:23,689 --> 00:20:24,862 Thanks. 316 00:20:25,689 --> 00:20:27,689 And also, you wanted to go swimming, 317 00:20:27,689 --> 00:20:31,172 but I do not like that swimsuit that you got for me. 318 00:20:31,172 --> 00:20:33,758 - So, you want to return it? - Yeah. 319 00:20:46,172 --> 00:20:48,862 Honestly, I don't like that style top. 320 00:20:50,586 --> 00:20:56,068 So, um, we will go, buy another one. 321 00:20:56,068 --> 00:20:57,413 Thanks. 322 00:20:57,413 --> 00:21:01,068 It's very sweet of Razvan to buy me a gift. 323 00:21:01,068 --> 00:21:05,000 However, he is the first man that has gotten me a gift 324 00:21:05,000 --> 00:21:07,275 since I've been with Jason. 325 00:21:07,275 --> 00:21:09,379 And in the back of my mind, 326 00:21:09,379 --> 00:21:13,103 I have that kind of, like, guilt, you know, like, 327 00:21:13,103 --> 00:21:15,655 that comes with being with someone else. 328 00:21:17,103 --> 00:21:18,965 Oh, you look beautiful. 329 00:21:21,000 --> 00:21:23,206 Except those big shoes-- 330 00:21:23,206 --> 00:21:24,793 Let's go! 331 00:21:39,586 --> 00:21:42,000 This is like, such a cute little area. 332 00:21:48,000 --> 00:21:50,103 - Here we go. - Is this the shop? 333 00:21:50,103 --> 00:21:51,241 Yes. 334 00:22:09,206 --> 00:22:10,379 Okay. 335 00:22:17,689 --> 00:22:19,482 Maybe something black? 336 00:22:19,482 --> 00:22:21,655 There's nothing really black. 337 00:22:22,379 --> 00:22:23,758 No? 338 00:22:25,482 --> 00:22:26,896 I like this one. 339 00:22:26,896 --> 00:22:30,172 Yeah. 340 00:22:32,482 --> 00:22:33,931 Ah, okay. It was between-- 341 00:22:35,068 --> 00:22:36,275 And she was telling me... 342 00:22:37,689 --> 00:22:38,862 Mmm-hmm. 343 00:22:44,689 --> 00:22:46,689 What are you saying? 344 00:22:46,689 --> 00:22:49,103 No, you didn't. I don't believe you. 345 00:22:58,586 --> 00:23:00,689 - Did she say do I like Romania? - Yeah. 346 00:23:25,965 --> 00:23:29,000 I wouldn't live here because I have kids 347 00:23:29,000 --> 00:23:32,000 and I don't want them to live in the city. 348 00:23:40,793 --> 00:23:42,379 She can't believe that you have two childrens 349 00:23:42,379 --> 00:23:44,965 because you look very nice. 350 00:23:56,310 --> 00:23:57,689 What? 351 00:23:57,689 --> 00:23:59,000 No. None. 352 00:24:00,689 --> 00:24:01,793 None. 353 00:24:05,172 --> 00:24:08,689 So, you tell her about our relationship 354 00:24:08,689 --> 00:24:10,482 when you bought the bathing suit? 355 00:24:14,896 --> 00:24:16,448 That's sweet. 356 00:24:18,068 --> 00:24:21,689 I cannot tell if Razvan is being serious 357 00:24:21,689 --> 00:24:25,310 when he tells this shopkeeper that he wants three or four children. 358 00:24:25,310 --> 00:24:27,586 I hope that he's joking. 359 00:24:27,586 --> 00:24:31,000 When Razvan and I were first getting to know one another, 360 00:24:31,000 --> 00:24:34,206 I had asked him if he saw himself 361 00:24:34,206 --> 00:24:35,689 having children in the future 362 00:24:35,689 --> 00:24:37,206 and he told me, "No." 363 00:24:37,206 --> 00:24:38,655 That it didn't matter to him. 364 00:24:39,206 --> 00:24:43,206 So, I hope that is still the case 365 00:24:43,206 --> 00:24:45,310 because at this point in my life, 366 00:24:45,310 --> 00:24:48,103 I don't feel like I wanna have any more children. 367 00:24:51,965 --> 00:24:53,275 Bye. 368 00:25:14,379 --> 00:25:15,758 Mmm. 369 00:25:18,482 --> 00:25:25,034 You... you can bring. Yes. 370 00:25:31,275 --> 00:25:34,034 Are you ready to meet my parents later? 371 00:26:28,000 --> 00:26:33,206 It's important to me that David connect with my son. 372 00:26:33,206 --> 00:26:35,586 I want them to meet, 373 00:26:35,586 --> 00:26:41,862 but I am worried to bring David at home because 374 00:26:41,862 --> 00:26:48,068 my family is poor and I don't want to scare David away. 375 00:27:58,413 --> 00:27:59,655 Okay. 376 00:28:00,482 --> 00:28:01,551 Hello. 377 00:28:14,310 --> 00:28:17,068 My name is Aimee 378 00:28:17,068 --> 00:28:19,586 Uh, my sign name is this. 379 00:28:19,586 --> 00:28:22,172 And I do interpreting. 380 00:28:23,482 --> 00:28:26,310 It's really easier if she's with us 381 00:28:26,310 --> 00:28:28,931 rather than using our phones. 382 00:29:00,413 --> 00:29:04,379 She's young and I feel little jealousy. 383 00:29:07,862 --> 00:29:13,758 I would like to find an interpreter with a man, not a girl. Yeah. 384 00:29:18,896 --> 00:29:20,068 Yes. 385 00:29:20,068 --> 00:29:23,068 I hopefully that I can learn... 386 00:29:28,000 --> 00:29:30,172 - ASL. - Yeah. 387 00:30:10,000 --> 00:30:12,689 When I see them communicate, 388 00:30:12,689 --> 00:30:15,482 and she look with my boyfriend 389 00:30:15,482 --> 00:30:19,068 and David look at her, and me, I was... 390 00:30:49,413 --> 00:30:50,551 Let's go. 391 00:31:07,482 --> 00:31:08,655 No, I... 392 00:31:28,103 --> 00:31:30,103 So, you're mad because my family 393 00:31:30,103 --> 00:31:31,689 is asking you questions. 394 00:31:31,689 --> 00:31:33,655 I don't talk with you, okay? 395 00:31:34,103 --> 00:31:35,206 I go back home. 396 00:31:35,206 --> 00:31:36,103 Okay. Beat it. 397 00:31:36,103 --> 00:31:37,172 - Yes. - Beat it. 398 00:31:44,586 --> 00:31:46,172 Waste my time. 399 00:31:46,172 --> 00:31:47,172 Tired of this [bleep]. 400 00:32:06,551 --> 00:32:10,896 She's asking, after you told me to delete the app, 401 00:32:10,896 --> 00:32:13,034 why were you still on the app? 402 00:32:13,034 --> 00:32:15,931 - I talk with you-- - No, no, no. She asked you. 403 00:32:16,586 --> 00:32:18,379 Before I answer her-- 404 00:32:18,379 --> 00:32:20,172 I can't... No! Answer her. 405 00:32:20,172 --> 00:32:21,344 Don't talk to me. 406 00:32:24,482 --> 00:32:25,655 What? 407 00:32:29,103 --> 00:32:32,793 Okay. It has nothing... This has nothing to do with me. 408 00:32:32,793 --> 00:32:33,965 This has to do with you and Tiffanie. 409 00:32:40,862 --> 00:32:43,965 The app. I forgot password. 410 00:32:54,482 --> 00:32:56,965 This is another instance where I just... 411 00:32:56,965 --> 00:32:59,655 I don't believe anything she's saying 412 00:32:59,655 --> 00:33:01,103 and she's just squirmin' around, lookin' nervous. 413 00:33:01,103 --> 00:33:02,689 I don't understand this. 414 00:33:02,689 --> 00:33:04,379 I really want to trust her, 415 00:33:04,379 --> 00:33:07,517 but this is a major red flag for me. 416 00:33:10,482 --> 00:33:12,689 So, you're mad because my family, 417 00:33:12,689 --> 00:33:16,034 someone I consider my family, I consider my sister, 418 00:33:16,034 --> 00:33:18,000 is asking you questions? 419 00:33:18,000 --> 00:33:20,655 And you're mad 'cause you have to answer them. 420 00:33:20,655 --> 00:33:22,896 But when your family asked me hard questions, 421 00:33:22,896 --> 00:33:24,482 and I answered them-- 422 00:33:24,482 --> 00:33:25,793 I don't care. 423 00:33:25,793 --> 00:33:27,586 - This is a two-way street. - Okay. 424 00:33:27,586 --> 00:33:30,172 - It's a two-way street. - Okay. If you don't care, we talk, 425 00:33:30,172 --> 00:33:32,275 we stop talking tonight, okay? 426 00:33:32,275 --> 00:33:36,448 Oh. You know what, Tiff? I'll call you back. I'll call you back. 427 00:33:36,448 --> 00:33:37,862 Yeah. You know what-- 428 00:33:37,862 --> 00:33:40,758 You know what... you know what, you don't wanna-- 429 00:33:40,758 --> 00:33:43,896 Because you did something wrong 430 00:33:43,896 --> 00:33:46,551 - and I went back to see if you were on the app. - Oh! 431 00:33:46,551 --> 00:33:49,034 - Do not talk down to me. - Okay. 432 00:33:49,034 --> 00:33:50,896 I don't talk with you, okay? 433 00:33:50,896 --> 00:33:52,862 We stop now, okay? 434 00:33:53,275 --> 00:33:54,448 I go back home. 435 00:33:54,448 --> 00:33:55,379 Okay. Beat it. 436 00:33:55,379 --> 00:33:57,103 - Yes. - Beat it. 437 00:33:57,103 --> 00:33:58,241 Bye. 438 00:33:59,275 --> 00:34:01,931 Bye! 439 00:34:02,793 --> 00:34:04,379 Waste my time. 440 00:34:04,379 --> 00:34:05,827 Tired of this [bleep]. 441 00:34:29,103 --> 00:34:30,551 Thank you for that, Tiffanie... 442 00:34:33,689 --> 00:34:36,689 Yeah. This right here was too much. 443 00:34:36,689 --> 00:34:39,758 It was... [stutters] it was the last straw for me. 444 00:34:41,586 --> 00:34:42,758 I'm done. 445 00:34:44,034 --> 00:34:47,034 I really came here with the best intentions 446 00:34:47,034 --> 00:34:48,862 in my heart and in my mind. 447 00:34:48,862 --> 00:34:51,275 And I got my ass handed to me. 448 00:34:51,275 --> 00:34:53,172 It's her way or the highway. 449 00:34:53,172 --> 00:34:54,586 And you know what? 450 00:34:54,586 --> 00:34:57,448 I'm not putting up with it. I don't have to. 451 00:34:58,103 --> 00:35:00,172 I love you too. Bye. 452 00:35:35,551 --> 00:35:36,827 Ah. What a night. 453 00:35:43,275 --> 00:35:46,379 But I felt a little bit insecure that 454 00:35:46,379 --> 00:35:50,793 Statler's more, um, experienced in the bedroom than I am. 455 00:35:50,793 --> 00:35:54,172 And I just worried she might not wanna be with me 456 00:35:54,172 --> 00:35:56,448 if her needs are not being met. 457 00:36:35,137 --> 00:36:36,655 Ah. What a night. 458 00:36:38,586 --> 00:36:41,206 Oh. 459 00:36:42,586 --> 00:36:45,000 We have had our first kiss 460 00:36:45,000 --> 00:36:48,034 and it was... not great. 461 00:36:48,034 --> 00:36:51,344 - It was really awkward. - It was so awkward. 462 00:36:51,344 --> 00:36:53,034 Yeah, I think I got teeth mostly... 463 00:36:53,034 --> 00:36:55,758 ...'cause you were smiling and laughing so hard. 464 00:36:56,241 --> 00:36:57,482 We got better at it. 465 00:36:57,482 --> 00:37:02,206 Yeah. And then, once we got good at kissing... 466 00:37:06,793 --> 00:37:08,896 We... we had sex. 467 00:37:08,896 --> 00:37:10,034 Yeah. 468 00:37:12,000 --> 00:37:14,793 That kind of a bout will turn you religious. 469 00:37:14,793 --> 00:37:19,172 Wanna have an altar that I set up and worship it. 470 00:37:19,172 --> 00:37:22,551 Have a photo dedicated to just it. 471 00:37:23,241 --> 00:37:26,379 And your like heaven. 472 00:37:26,379 --> 00:37:28,034 It must be your vegan diet 473 00:37:28,034 --> 00:37:32,793 I've just... I don't think I've ever been with a vegan. 474 00:37:32,793 --> 00:37:35,482 That's the advertisement vegans need. 475 00:37:35,482 --> 00:37:38,586 "Do you want your person to [bleep] 24/7?" 476 00:37:39,689 --> 00:37:43,344 "Boy, do I have a food thing for you to try. 477 00:37:43,344 --> 00:37:44,586 Veganism!" 478 00:37:50,586 --> 00:37:53,586 Normally, I do take things slower. 479 00:37:53,586 --> 00:37:55,034 But we had our first kiss, 480 00:37:55,034 --> 00:37:58,758 and we kissed some more, and then one thing led to another. 481 00:37:58,758 --> 00:38:01,275 I could feel the connection between us. 482 00:38:01,275 --> 00:38:05,000 And we've been on this whole build-up of seven months. 483 00:38:05,000 --> 00:38:08,379 So, I just thought, "Why not?" 484 00:38:08,379 --> 00:38:11,379 So, I've never, like, had a wax done before. 485 00:38:11,379 --> 00:38:14,689 - Did you approve? - Yeah. I thought it was pretty smooth. 486 00:38:14,689 --> 00:38:17,793 Was yours waxed? 'Cause yours was so smooth. 487 00:38:17,793 --> 00:38:21,034 - Can I just feel it again to make sure that-- - No. No! 488 00:38:26,000 --> 00:38:27,551 It's all about the sex, isn't it? 489 00:38:29,689 --> 00:38:31,241 I'm glad that it happened. 490 00:38:31,241 --> 00:38:33,172 I think it brought us closer. 491 00:38:33,172 --> 00:38:35,000 But when we were having sex, 492 00:38:35,000 --> 00:38:38,103 I felt a little bit insecure that 493 00:38:38,103 --> 00:38:42,586 Statler's more, um, experienced in the bedroom than I am. 494 00:38:44,793 --> 00:38:47,896 She's been to, like, sex parties 495 00:38:47,896 --> 00:38:50,758 and she likes the whippin' and the chains 496 00:38:50,758 --> 00:38:53,586 and that's not something I've ever done before. 497 00:38:53,586 --> 00:38:55,000 This is mine. 498 00:38:55,000 --> 00:38:57,896 And I just worried that she might not wanna be with me 499 00:38:57,896 --> 00:39:01,551 if her... her needs are not being met. 500 00:39:02,034 --> 00:39:03,655 Thank you. Oh, yeah. 501 00:39:06,172 --> 00:39:09,862 - Mmm. Oh, my God. This is so good. - Yeah. 502 00:39:11,482 --> 00:39:15,137 So, we're gonna go to the farm where you live. 503 00:39:15,137 --> 00:39:18,689 Am I gonna have, like, any space for like... I brought, like, suitcases. 504 00:39:18,689 --> 00:39:20,344 Yeah, I have a spare room. There's plenty of space. 505 00:39:20,344 --> 00:39:21,551 - Oh, really? - Yeah. 506 00:39:22,344 --> 00:39:24,034 This is gonna be an experience. 507 00:39:26,758 --> 00:39:28,000 Yeah. 508 00:39:28,000 --> 00:39:31,241 But I'm looking forward to it. 509 00:39:31,241 --> 00:39:33,103 Today, we're going back to Darlington, 510 00:39:33,103 --> 00:39:35,482 where I live and work on a farm. 511 00:39:35,482 --> 00:39:40,586 And I'm worried that Statler's not gonna adjust to my way of livin' 512 00:39:40,586 --> 00:39:44,448 because I'm, like, pretty much off-grid living. 513 00:39:46,689 --> 00:39:49,000 Can I come and take a shower with you really quick? 514 00:39:49,000 --> 00:39:50,689 Yeah. 515 00:39:50,689 --> 00:39:52,793 Dempsey lives out in the middle of nowhere. 516 00:39:52,793 --> 00:39:56,172 And I'm anxious to stay at her place, 517 00:39:56,172 --> 00:40:00,862 I'm nervous, I'm feeling... I'm feeling un... unexcited. 518 00:40:02,172 --> 00:40:04,482 I'm not sure the circumstances 519 00:40:04,482 --> 00:40:07,482 that are going to be awaiting me in this caravan. 520 00:40:07,482 --> 00:40:09,137 I'm concerned about space, 521 00:40:09,137 --> 00:40:11,379 I'm concerned about sanitation, 522 00:40:11,379 --> 00:40:13,172 that it's gonna be cold, 523 00:40:13,172 --> 00:40:16,310 and that I'm just not gonna be comfortable there. 524 00:40:17,344 --> 00:40:19,241 I'm a city girl 525 00:40:19,241 --> 00:40:21,172 and I'm not used to any of this stuff. 526 00:40:21,172 --> 00:40:22,862 I just don't wanna offend her 527 00:40:22,862 --> 00:40:24,793 if I get there to the caravan 528 00:40:24,793 --> 00:40:27,034 and then I'm like, "Uh, this isn't gonna work." 529 00:40:27,034 --> 00:40:29,586 Ugh. This is a lot. 530 00:40:29,586 --> 00:40:31,103 Geez. 531 00:40:48,482 --> 00:40:52,793 Nico, why do you have these monkeys 532 00:40:52,793 --> 00:40:54,344 hanging from your-- 533 00:41:05,482 --> 00:41:09,379 Last night, Nicola and I had a pretty good time in downtown Haifa. 534 00:41:09,379 --> 00:41:12,172 Happened to be here, go into a dance club, 535 00:41:12,172 --> 00:41:16,586 and it was really great to see him come out of his shell a little bit. 536 00:41:16,586 --> 00:41:19,379 So, I feel like we're moving out of the desert now, 537 00:41:19,379 --> 00:41:21,931 and starting to get on the right track. 538 00:41:23,896 --> 00:41:27,103 Can you tell me a little bit about this Catholic village? 539 00:41:27,103 --> 00:41:29,862 This village, if we go back to history... 540 00:41:34,586 --> 00:41:36,344 Today, Nicola is taking me 541 00:41:36,344 --> 00:41:38,655 to an area called the Catholic village. 542 00:41:40,379 --> 00:41:42,586 This is an important place for Nicola 543 00:41:42,586 --> 00:41:45,379 because it's where he goes to church. 544 00:41:45,379 --> 00:41:47,896 And it's also where his best friend, Wasim, lives. 545 00:41:47,896 --> 00:41:50,034 And after we do some touring together, 546 00:41:50,034 --> 00:41:53,275 Nicola plans on introducing me to Wasim. 547 00:41:53,275 --> 00:41:56,137 It'll be the first time that I'm meeting someone in Nicola's life 548 00:41:56,137 --> 00:41:58,034 that actually knows about me. 549 00:41:59,000 --> 00:42:01,344 Oh, Nicola, I so wish I had my hair dryer. 550 00:42:01,344 --> 00:42:05,103 - Why? What are you gonna do? - You are so sweaty right now. Like, you're-- 551 00:42:05,103 --> 00:42:06,137 Why are you wincing? 552 00:42:06,137 --> 00:42:07,620 Don't lift up your arms. 553 00:42:10,586 --> 00:42:13,931 - This is the church I pray every Sunday, Meisha. - Oh, my God. 554 00:42:15,379 --> 00:42:18,000 Oh. 555 00:42:18,000 --> 00:42:19,586 Oh, my gosh. 556 00:42:19,586 --> 00:42:21,000 I think it's so great for Meisha 557 00:42:21,000 --> 00:42:23,103 to see where I pray every week. 558 00:42:24,344 --> 00:42:27,689 Come, see something here. Be careful, Meisha. 559 00:42:27,689 --> 00:42:29,965 Being Catholic is everything for me, 560 00:42:29,965 --> 00:42:32,482 and that's what make me and Meisha 561 00:42:32,482 --> 00:42:34,758 also to have a strong relationship. 562 00:42:44,793 --> 00:42:47,586 - Look at this view, Meisha. - Oh, my... 563 00:42:48,689 --> 00:42:49,689 Yeah. 564 00:42:50,862 --> 00:42:52,034 Oh. 565 00:42:52,689 --> 00:42:53,862 Of course. 566 00:42:57,379 --> 00:42:58,758 Yeah. 567 00:42:58,758 --> 00:43:01,793 I feel like I'm closer to God in my faith. 568 00:43:01,793 --> 00:43:05,344 - And it is so amazing! - I love it. 569 00:43:05,344 --> 00:43:06,793 You want to go down? 570 00:43:06,793 --> 00:43:08,586 - Yeah. - 'Cause the sun is so hot. 571 00:43:08,586 --> 00:43:10,241 - Let's go. Let's go. - Should we go? Okay. Let's go. 572 00:43:10,241 --> 00:43:11,344 No, no, no, no, no. 573 00:43:13,034 --> 00:43:14,137 Oh, okay. 574 00:43:14,137 --> 00:43:17,034 It's very dangerous. One by one, sweetie pie. 575 00:43:17,034 --> 00:43:20,448 It's great to show Meisha all these important sites. 576 00:43:21,689 --> 00:43:23,896 Put your head down. It's become more hard now. 577 00:43:23,896 --> 00:43:25,034 Oh, my gosh. 578 00:43:25,034 --> 00:43:26,862 Imagine if someone was really tall, 579 00:43:26,862 --> 00:43:28,793 - going up and down here. - Yeah. 580 00:43:28,793 --> 00:43:32,034 It's the history of the Catholic people here in the Holy Land. 581 00:43:32,034 --> 00:43:34,896 This is where every Catholic need to see. 582 00:43:34,896 --> 00:43:38,793 Also, in this village, my friend, Wasim, was here. 583 00:43:38,793 --> 00:43:41,034 He and Meisha met in the farm. 584 00:43:41,034 --> 00:43:44,034 But today, they will meet in real life. 585 00:43:44,034 --> 00:43:46,034 So, I think it's a great day today. 586 00:43:59,862 --> 00:44:00,965 Meisha? 587 00:44:01,586 --> 00:44:04,482 Oh! Hi! 588 00:44:05,896 --> 00:44:08,758 - Hello. - It's so good to see you. 589 00:44:08,758 --> 00:44:10,586 Say hi to Biscuit. 590 00:44:12,482 --> 00:44:15,034 - Nice eyes. - It's so nice to meet you. 591 00:44:16,103 --> 00:44:18,103 In the flesh. Good! I mean... 592 00:44:18,103 --> 00:44:21,586 Sorry, I have to like arch my back, so I can hold... 593 00:44:21,586 --> 00:44:24,241 No. 594 00:44:24,241 --> 00:44:25,758 Let's just go, sit down. You wanna go back over here? 595 00:44:27,034 --> 00:44:29,586 - No. Oh, Wasim, be on my side. - Please. 596 00:44:29,586 --> 00:44:32,241 Be on my side on this one. 597 00:44:32,241 --> 00:44:34,827 God, Meisha. I don't know what to do with you. 598 00:44:36,103 --> 00:44:37,586 Oh, my God. 599 00:44:37,586 --> 00:44:39,241 Every cat she see in the street, 600 00:44:39,241 --> 00:44:41,241 she thinks she is the mother of the cat. 601 00:44:41,241 --> 00:44:42,965 And I don't like it. 602 00:44:44,241 --> 00:44:46,241 First time you meet Wasim in person 603 00:44:46,241 --> 00:44:49,000 and you are holding a small cat in your hand 604 00:44:49,000 --> 00:44:52,137 and playing with him instead to talk with a person, you know? 605 00:44:54,172 --> 00:44:56,965 He likes you. 606 00:44:56,965 --> 00:44:58,689 At some point, I would love to meet your wife. 607 00:45:01,482 --> 00:45:02,482 I know. 608 00:45:02,482 --> 00:45:05,586 She's busy. Yeah, I get it. 609 00:45:05,586 --> 00:45:08,137 Tell him where we have been, where I took you. 610 00:45:08,137 --> 00:45:10,482 Or since you came from Israel. 611 00:45:10,482 --> 00:45:15,000 Um, well, Nazareth. 612 00:45:15,000 --> 00:45:16,896 It's a lot of, uh, beautiful places there. 613 00:45:16,896 --> 00:45:20,586 - Yeah, for sure. - Tell him about the view from our hotel. 614 00:45:20,586 --> 00:45:22,034 Oh, it's spectacular. 615 00:45:22,034 --> 00:45:23,862 Is it a nice hotel? 616 00:45:23,862 --> 00:45:27,241 Yeah, but you have to see our room look like the forest. 617 00:45:32,689 --> 00:45:37,793 I never saw a woman brought with her all America 618 00:45:37,793 --> 00:45:41,758 and make a messy place in my room. 619 00:45:41,758 --> 00:45:43,206 I wasn't expect it. 620 00:45:44,172 --> 00:45:46,482 - She'd put her tag-- - Ah, here's my wife. 621 00:45:46,482 --> 00:45:47,586 - It's May! - Hi. 622 00:45:47,586 --> 00:45:49,862 - Hi. - Hi. 623 00:45:49,862 --> 00:45:52,379 - Hi, Meisha. How are you? - It's so nice to meet you. 624 00:45:52,379 --> 00:45:55,241 - Nice to meet you. May. - Pleasure's all mine. 625 00:45:58,586 --> 00:46:01,241 Oh, oh. 626 00:46:04,103 --> 00:46:05,793 I think, you know, for me, 627 00:46:05,793 --> 00:46:11,241 I had no idea coming here how Nicola would be, like, with me, 628 00:46:11,241 --> 00:46:14,758 as a woman by him, and... 629 00:46:14,758 --> 00:46:16,793 But I think, day by day, 630 00:46:16,793 --> 00:46:18,379 we're just trying to, like, work through, 631 00:46:18,379 --> 00:46:21,379 - you know, everything that needs to be worked through. - Yeah. 632 00:46:21,379 --> 00:46:22,655 What about you, Nicola? 633 00:46:30,034 --> 00:46:32,793 So, my whole family knows all about Nicola. 634 00:46:32,793 --> 00:46:34,965 But what I found out when I got to Israel 635 00:46:34,965 --> 00:46:38,551 is that Nicola's older brother did not know anything about... 636 00:46:41,379 --> 00:46:43,379 So, what can you do for Meisha 637 00:46:43,379 --> 00:46:44,896 to make her very happy, 638 00:46:44,896 --> 00:46:46,448 especially with your family? 639 00:46:47,793 --> 00:46:48,896 Leave the family alone. 640 00:46:48,896 --> 00:46:51,000 It's between me and Meisha, not family. 641 00:46:52,896 --> 00:46:57,793 But I loved Wasim's question about, what could you do 642 00:46:57,793 --> 00:47:00,448 to make Meisha happy in regards to that? 643 00:47:00,862 --> 00:47:02,551 Just think about it. 644 00:47:05,241 --> 00:47:08,241 Do you know how much I sacrifice for her in the 48 hours? 645 00:47:08,241 --> 00:47:11,000 And she still... she keep begging me about my mom 646 00:47:11,000 --> 00:47:13,103 and my brother like a crazy Meisha. 647 00:47:16,482 --> 00:47:19,482 It's a little wearing to hear Nicola always 648 00:47:19,482 --> 00:47:21,379 basically insinuate that I'm crazy 649 00:47:21,379 --> 00:47:23,344 because I want to meet his family before 650 00:47:23,344 --> 00:47:25,482 spending my entire life with him. 651 00:47:25,482 --> 00:47:28,482 And... I would have loved for Nicola to take 652 00:47:28,482 --> 00:47:32,275 this opportunity with his best friend to showcase 653 00:47:32,275 --> 00:47:34,793 what we've built over seven years of talking 654 00:47:34,793 --> 00:47:36,655 and be excited about us. 655 00:47:37,896 --> 00:47:40,793 But instead, he's being dismissive 656 00:47:40,793 --> 00:47:43,379 and a little insulting to me. 657 00:47:43,379 --> 00:47:46,482 This is a side that I've never seen of Nicola before, 658 00:47:46,482 --> 00:47:48,103 and it is concerning. 659 00:47:52,586 --> 00:47:54,862 He just old me, he wants to have children. 660 00:47:54,862 --> 00:47:57,862 Sometimes I think you're looking too far into the future. 661 00:48:00,758 --> 00:48:02,965 It is if it's the person that you're supposed to be with. 662 00:48:15,586 --> 00:48:16,551 Wow. 663 00:48:48,172 --> 00:48:50,000 I'm going out for some fresh air. 664 00:48:50,000 --> 00:48:52,241 - I'll be back soon. - All right. 665 00:48:55,172 --> 00:48:58,379 I'm still really taken back by Razvan's comment, 666 00:48:58,379 --> 00:49:01,000 of him wanting to have children of his own. 667 00:49:01,000 --> 00:49:03,620 I understand why he wants that, but... 668 00:49:04,172 --> 00:49:07,482 I'm really surprised because 669 00:49:07,482 --> 00:49:10,275 I absolutely do not want to have any more children, 670 00:49:10,275 --> 00:49:14,413 and I was very direct and clear before I came to Romania. 671 00:49:15,586 --> 00:49:18,379 Honestly, I feel a little bit misled, 672 00:49:18,379 --> 00:49:21,448 and it's making me second guess myself. 673 00:49:25,172 --> 00:49:26,655 Hi. 674 00:49:26,655 --> 00:49:27,758 Hey, what are you doing? 675 00:49:35,551 --> 00:49:37,862 Um, it's going okay. 676 00:49:37,862 --> 00:49:39,689 He's, like, so loving, I feel like. 677 00:49:39,689 --> 00:49:41,931 Like he always wants to hold my hand. 678 00:49:42,758 --> 00:49:45,344 And he's so much cuter in person. 679 00:49:50,275 --> 00:49:52,793 Uh, like a hundred times more. 680 00:50:01,344 --> 00:50:02,931 We have not had sex yet. 681 00:50:09,275 --> 00:50:12,758 Yeah, I mean, when I came here I wasn't sure, like, 682 00:50:12,758 --> 00:50:14,379 if I was gonna feel comfortable, like, 683 00:50:14,379 --> 00:50:17,172 sleeping in the bed, like, the first night, 684 00:50:17,172 --> 00:50:20,482 but I did decide to, like, sleep in the bed with him that night. 685 00:50:20,482 --> 00:50:22,655 I mean, and it was nice, like, we just cuddled, 686 00:50:22,655 --> 00:50:24,931 but, I mean, of course it makes me, like, 687 00:50:25,862 --> 00:50:29,379 bring up those thoughts, like, I'm doing something 688 00:50:29,379 --> 00:50:31,448 I shouldn't be doing, you know. 689 00:50:33,758 --> 00:50:34,862 Yeah. 690 00:50:34,862 --> 00:50:37,896 But I think I'm kind of getting over that guilt, 691 00:50:37,896 --> 00:50:40,724 you know, like, it's okay to be happy, you know. 692 00:50:43,000 --> 00:50:46,172 But there are some communication things, like 693 00:50:46,172 --> 00:50:49,000 I think it was like the second day that I was here, 694 00:50:49,000 --> 00:50:51,827 he told me that he has a visa appointment and... 695 00:50:54,000 --> 00:50:56,862 No, so he made an appointment 696 00:50:56,862 --> 00:50:58,655 and I said, "If you're approved, 697 00:50:58,655 --> 00:51:02,344 when do you plan on wanting to come to the United States?" 698 00:51:02,344 --> 00:51:04,758 He said one week after I leave. 699 00:51:04,758 --> 00:51:07,896 So, I said, "That's way too soon," and... 700 00:51:07,896 --> 00:51:10,482 I don't think he's ready for, like, to be around me, 701 00:51:10,482 --> 00:51:12,482 like, as a mom, you know what I mean? 702 00:51:12,482 --> 00:51:17,137 It's gonna be probably hard for him to see, like, me. 703 00:51:19,344 --> 00:51:20,793 Yeah. 704 00:51:20,793 --> 00:51:24,448 Yeah. And also, he just told me today, 705 00:51:24,448 --> 00:51:28,448 that he wants to have children or a child in the future. 706 00:51:28,448 --> 00:51:31,172 And when we first got together, I asked him, 707 00:51:31,172 --> 00:51:34,000 and he said it didn't matter to him either way. 708 00:51:34,000 --> 00:51:36,586 And I said, "Well, I'm probably not having any more children." 709 00:51:36,586 --> 00:51:38,172 And he was like, "Okay, I'm fine with that." 710 00:51:38,172 --> 00:51:41,482 And today, he was like, "I want to have more kids though." 711 00:51:55,862 --> 00:51:58,344 It is if it's your... like, 712 00:51:58,344 --> 00:52:00,241 your person that you're supposed to be with. 713 00:52:03,965 --> 00:52:06,379 I don't know, that's why I'm here, to see, like, 714 00:52:06,379 --> 00:52:07,931 if it is, in person. 715 00:52:13,000 --> 00:52:15,655 He would not propose to me tonight. 716 00:52:15,655 --> 00:52:19,000 I think, if anything, he would wait to see, like, 717 00:52:19,000 --> 00:52:21,344 how the next weeks go. 718 00:52:24,862 --> 00:52:27,586 Before I arrived, like, I was so sure that 719 00:52:27,586 --> 00:52:30,862 everything was gonna go great and perfect. 720 00:52:30,862 --> 00:52:34,896 And to get here and have so many problems and concerns, 721 00:52:34,896 --> 00:52:36,862 I don't know, it doesn't feel good at all. 722 00:52:44,655 --> 00:52:47,793 Yeah, I'm going to try. 723 00:52:47,793 --> 00:52:52,103 I feel like we don't know each other as well as I thought, 724 00:52:52,103 --> 00:52:55,103 and think with any new relationship, 725 00:52:55,103 --> 00:53:00,068 there are some things that you don't fully let go of 726 00:53:00,068 --> 00:53:03,586 until you know 100% that you can trust them, 727 00:53:03,586 --> 00:53:07,862 and it's still kind of early for me to be 728 00:53:07,862 --> 00:53:11,172 completely vulnerable with Razvan. 729 00:53:11,172 --> 00:53:14,758 I'm working on it, but he has to show me 730 00:53:14,758 --> 00:53:16,448 that I can trust him. 731 00:53:21,068 --> 00:53:23,241 All right. I love you. Have a good day. 732 00:54:53,379 --> 00:54:54,758 I love David. 733 00:54:54,758 --> 00:54:58,172 We are planning to having a family, 734 00:54:58,172 --> 00:55:01,965 so I am not looking for his money. 735 00:55:01,965 --> 00:55:04,862 But I'm worried he will think that 736 00:55:04,862 --> 00:55:07,000 my relationship with him 737 00:55:07,000 --> 00:55:10,655 is because my house is not good. 738 00:55:59,862 --> 00:56:01,068 Welcome to my house. 739 00:56:10,689 --> 00:56:11,827 Ah. 740 00:56:29,482 --> 00:56:30,448 ...here. 741 00:56:42,103 --> 00:56:43,068 Okay. 742 00:57:21,172 --> 00:57:23,000 Mm. 743 00:57:25,586 --> 00:57:26,586 This is my mom. 744 00:57:35,689 --> 00:57:37,551 Um... nice meeting. 745 00:57:39,241 --> 00:57:40,655 Nice meeting you. 746 00:57:42,862 --> 00:57:44,000 Nice meeting you too. 747 00:58:27,862 --> 00:58:28,965 Oops. 748 00:59:02,379 --> 00:59:04,655 This'll be where we'll be staying. 749 00:59:04,655 --> 00:59:06,379 Oh, the bedroom. 750 00:59:06,379 --> 00:59:08,137 Certain rooms are a bit small. 751 00:59:09,275 --> 00:59:11,172 That's just like a toilet room. 752 00:59:11,172 --> 00:59:13,137 Can I use the toilet? This toilet? 753 00:59:18,482 --> 00:59:19,655 I don't think I could live here long-term. 754 00:59:32,448 --> 00:59:34,000 Speak to me, darling. 755 00:59:34,000 --> 00:59:35,862 - Darling. - Darling. 756 00:59:48,344 --> 00:59:51,620 Are you ready to, like, get the wood in the fire? 757 00:59:51,620 --> 00:59:53,517 Ready to get the wood in the fire? 758 00:59:53,517 --> 00:59:55,137 For sure, I'd do that again. 759 00:59:56,000 --> 00:59:58,344 - Are you nervous? - Yeah. 760 00:59:59,172 --> 01:00:02,413 A bit nervous, but, yeah, I'm excited to, 761 01:00:03,137 --> 01:00:05,344 to see it all, see how you live. 762 01:00:07,000 --> 01:00:08,275 I think things are going really well, 763 01:00:08,275 --> 01:00:10,137 between the two of us so far. 764 01:00:10,137 --> 01:00:13,793 And, I'm looking forward to spending quality time, 765 01:00:13,793 --> 01:00:15,034 just me and Statler. 766 01:00:24,172 --> 01:00:27,448 From Manchester, the car ride to the farm is two hours. 767 01:00:27,448 --> 01:00:30,034 It's out of the city, it's quiet. 768 01:00:30,034 --> 01:00:32,344 In the morning, you can hear the birds chirping. 769 01:00:33,793 --> 01:00:36,344 But, because I went to Thailand for five weeks, 770 01:00:36,344 --> 01:00:38,103 my place hasn't been cleaned, 771 01:00:42,896 --> 01:00:45,896 And this is the first time anybody's stayed in my caravan, 772 01:00:45,896 --> 01:00:47,551 so I'm feeling really nervous 773 01:00:47,551 --> 01:00:48,793 for Statler to come back 774 01:00:48,793 --> 01:00:51,896 and not knowing what the vibe is. 775 01:00:51,896 --> 01:00:54,551 You think I'm gonna get to meet your friends? 776 01:00:54,551 --> 01:00:56,344 Yeah, I think so. 777 01:00:56,344 --> 01:00:57,241 Think so? 778 01:00:57,241 --> 01:00:59,896 - Yeah, I think so. - Okay. Nice. Good. 779 01:00:59,896 --> 01:01:01,862 And, uh, what about your dad? 780 01:01:02,896 --> 01:01:04,517 He's your best friend, you know? 781 01:01:04,517 --> 01:01:08,793 You've worked him up to be this great, big person in your life and... 782 01:01:08,793 --> 01:01:11,793 - Um... - Just 'cause 783 01:01:11,793 --> 01:01:14,517 I like you a lot and I'm serious 784 01:01:15,172 --> 01:01:16,586 - about us. - Yeah, I guess. 785 01:01:17,724 --> 01:01:18,896 You guess? 786 01:01:18,896 --> 01:01:21,793 That makes me think you're less serious now. 787 01:01:21,793 --> 01:01:25,862 He knows that we're, like, speaking, but he doesn't know, like... 788 01:01:27,068 --> 01:01:28,344 - It's serious. - ...who you are. 789 01:01:30,344 --> 01:01:33,689 I'm really confused why she hasn't told her dad. 790 01:01:33,689 --> 01:01:35,862 Just because this is her best friend, 791 01:01:36,793 --> 01:01:39,551 and yet, here you spent a lot of time in Thailand 792 01:01:39,551 --> 01:01:42,896 together with just him. Like, I should be a hot topic. 793 01:01:42,896 --> 01:01:45,517 So, it's kind of concerning. It's like, 794 01:01:45,517 --> 01:01:49,551 am I really your biggest priority as you're telling me I am? Or 795 01:01:49,551 --> 01:01:50,965 who am I to you? 796 01:01:53,241 --> 01:01:58,344 Has your dad liked your, like, previous girlfriends? 797 01:01:58,344 --> 01:02:02,034 Um, my first one, no, my second, yes, and then, no. 798 01:02:05,000 --> 01:02:06,310 I didn't tell my dad about 799 01:02:06,310 --> 01:02:08,310 me and Statler being in a relationship, 800 01:02:08,310 --> 01:02:10,034 'cause my dad is superprotective. 801 01:02:11,551 --> 01:02:13,620 My dad has seen me through bad relationships. 802 01:02:13,620 --> 01:02:15,344 He's seen me at my lowest. 803 01:02:15,344 --> 01:02:18,517 I still feel that I need to get to know 804 01:02:18,517 --> 01:02:21,310 Statler a little bit more in person 805 01:02:21,310 --> 01:02:23,965 before I introduce her to my dad. 806 01:02:29,551 --> 01:02:31,000 Finally here. 807 01:02:31,000 --> 01:02:32,310 Oh, my God, 808 01:02:38,793 --> 01:02:40,000 was that? 809 01:02:40,000 --> 01:02:41,448 You have animals out here? 810 01:02:41,448 --> 01:02:42,413 Animals? 811 01:02:42,413 --> 01:02:44,241 Like, coyotes or wolves? 812 01:02:44,620 --> 01:02:46,000 No. 813 01:02:46,000 --> 01:02:49,310 - You don't have any, like, wild animals here? - No. 814 01:02:52,448 --> 01:02:54,137 I need to go back to the gym. 815 01:02:57,620 --> 01:02:58,689 Yes. 816 01:02:59,068 --> 01:03:00,241 Okay, thank you. 817 01:03:03,344 --> 01:03:04,379 Wow. 818 01:03:06,551 --> 01:03:07,862 This is very nice. 819 01:03:09,068 --> 01:03:12,448 I feel like I've entered this cute world. 820 01:03:12,448 --> 01:03:14,275 - You did all this yourself. - Yes. 821 01:03:14,275 --> 01:03:16,551 That's insane. Almost finished. 822 01:03:16,551 --> 01:03:18,103 If you want to come down here... 823 01:03:18,448 --> 01:03:19,413 Yeah. 824 01:03:20,068 --> 01:03:21,620 This is my spare room. 825 01:03:21,620 --> 01:03:23,724 I started to decorate before I went to Thailand, 826 01:03:23,724 --> 01:03:25,172 but I haven't finished it yet. 827 01:03:25,172 --> 01:03:27,517 - It's very nice. It's very nice. - But it's getting there. 828 01:03:28,551 --> 01:03:30,724 This will be... 829 01:03:30,724 --> 01:03:32,275 where we'll be staying. 830 01:03:32,275 --> 01:03:35,793 - Oh, the bedroom. - Sorry, the bed is not made up. 831 01:03:35,793 --> 01:03:37,620 I'm actually very impressed with the caravan. 832 01:03:37,620 --> 01:03:40,000 It's more modern than I thought it would be. 833 01:03:40,000 --> 01:03:42,172 But certain rooms are a bit small 834 01:03:42,172 --> 01:03:45,172 for two people to kind of navigate. 835 01:03:45,172 --> 01:03:47,000 Dempsey doesn't know that I left America 836 01:03:47,000 --> 01:03:49,896 with the intention that, if things went well between us, 837 01:03:49,896 --> 01:03:51,724 that I would be moving to England, 838 01:03:51,724 --> 01:03:54,448 but I don't think I could live here long-term. 839 01:03:54,448 --> 01:03:56,620 Things are a little, a little tight. 840 01:03:58,068 --> 01:04:00,793 And... that's just like a toilet room. 841 01:04:00,793 --> 01:04:02,241 A toilet room. Okay, cool. - Yeah. 842 01:04:02,241 --> 01:04:03,620 Could I use the toilet? This toilet? 843 01:04:03,620 --> 01:04:07,448 You can, like, go for number one on the toilet, 844 01:04:07,448 --> 01:04:10,172 but, like, just across where I work, 845 01:04:10,172 --> 01:04:11,413 you'll just walk over there. 846 01:04:11,620 --> 01:04:12,689 Okay, so... 847 01:04:17,034 --> 01:04:19,793 I do have irritable bowels. 848 01:04:20,620 --> 01:04:23,724 And knowing that the bathroom is a ways off 849 01:04:23,724 --> 01:04:25,172 kinda freaks me out. 850 01:04:25,172 --> 01:04:27,896 I mean, it's okay for the time being, 851 01:04:27,896 --> 01:04:29,517 but it's definitely not ideal. 852 01:04:30,413 --> 01:04:31,724 You want to sit down? 853 01:04:31,724 --> 01:04:33,344 - Of course, I want to sit down. - This'll be like the first... 854 01:04:33,344 --> 01:04:36,724 - This is like the famous couch you always sat on. - Yeah, it is. 855 01:04:36,724 --> 01:04:39,034 That's cool. It's all very cute. 856 01:04:44,000 --> 01:04:45,241 Oh, nice. 857 01:04:48,620 --> 01:04:51,620 A real country winter. This is like, a movie. 858 01:04:51,896 --> 01:04:53,000 Are you hungry? 859 01:04:53,000 --> 01:04:56,137 - I've got no food in at all. - No food? 860 01:04:56,137 --> 01:04:58,793 Well, I have a banana, I think that I packed. 861 01:04:58,793 --> 01:05:01,620 And we have the chocolate from... that you got me. 862 01:05:01,620 --> 01:05:03,068 Do you wanna eat some? 863 01:05:03,068 --> 01:05:04,586 Let me get the chocolate really quick. 864 01:05:06,172 --> 01:05:08,896 This is definitely gonna take some time to get used to, 865 01:05:08,896 --> 01:05:11,689 and I'm going to be out of my comfort zone, 866 01:05:11,689 --> 01:05:15,000 but even though there's a level of awkwardness, 867 01:05:15,000 --> 01:05:17,000 Dempsey could be the love of my life. 868 01:05:17,000 --> 01:05:18,344 - Oh, wow. - Mmm. 869 01:05:18,344 --> 01:05:19,551 These are actually... 870 01:05:19,551 --> 01:05:21,137 - They're good. - Really good. Yeah. 871 01:05:22,137 --> 01:05:23,448 I know it's really fast, 872 01:05:23,448 --> 01:05:28,068 but being here with Dempsey in person just feels right. 873 01:05:28,068 --> 01:05:30,793 I'm ready to start the rest of my life with Dempsey. 874 01:05:30,793 --> 01:05:34,172 I'm just hoping she's as into me as I am into her. 875 01:05:35,724 --> 01:05:38,482 I am just so turned on, honestly, 876 01:05:39,068 --> 01:05:39,931 by this. 877 01:05:39,931 --> 01:05:41,413 - You're something else. - Just a little. 878 01:05:42,000 --> 01:05:42,965 Mmm. 879 01:07:26,068 --> 01:07:27,103 Oh. 880 01:07:31,517 --> 01:07:33,137 Okay. Ah, okay. 881 01:07:54,206 --> 01:07:55,310 Yeah. 882 01:08:26,793 --> 01:08:28,793 Hello. 883 01:08:34,344 --> 01:08:36,000 Nice to meeting you. 884 01:11:02,068 --> 01:11:03,586 Thank you for coming here. 885 01:12:33,310 --> 01:12:35,379 One thing is to disagree... 886 01:12:37,965 --> 01:12:39,586 We don't know how to argue. 887 01:12:39,586 --> 01:12:42,413 Somebody has to put the fire down. 888 01:12:42,413 --> 01:12:43,965 Well, it's not easy. 889 01:12:44,689 --> 01:12:45,241 Do you want this to work, Gino? 890 01:13:06,068 --> 01:13:07,137 And... 891 01:13:07,137 --> 01:13:09,344 These are the kind of comments... 892 01:13:09,344 --> 01:13:10,965 - Because I'm being honest. - ...where I really don't 893 01:13:10,965 --> 01:13:13,310 have any desire to be with her. 894 01:13:13,310 --> 01:13:14,482 I'm gonna stop you. 895 01:13:15,413 --> 01:13:18,241 I think there are many things 896 01:13:18,241 --> 01:13:20,172 that are going on at the same time. 897 01:13:21,206 --> 01:13:23,413 So, I know it's very hard. 898 01:13:24,000 --> 01:13:25,965 One thing is to disagree. 899 01:13:25,965 --> 01:13:28,517 Another thing is to insult 900 01:13:28,517 --> 01:13:29,620 - and say things that you cannot-- - Yeah. 901 01:13:29,620 --> 01:13:31,586 We don't know how to argue. 902 01:13:31,586 --> 01:13:33,344 So for that, like, Jasmine, 903 01:13:33,344 --> 01:13:35,137 you would probably need to go out, 904 01:13:35,137 --> 01:13:37,724 write it down before you come to Gino, 905 01:13:37,724 --> 01:13:40,793 because it's going to come out the worst it can. 906 01:13:40,793 --> 01:13:44,344 And another thing you need to work on is... 907 01:13:46,344 --> 01:13:49,344 A couple cannot move further 908 01:13:49,344 --> 01:13:51,103 where there's revenge 909 01:13:51,103 --> 01:13:52,965 because that builds 910 01:13:52,965 --> 01:13:54,896 bad feelings, you know. 911 01:13:54,896 --> 01:13:56,000 Mmm-hmm. 912 01:13:56,344 --> 01:13:58,137 Gino, 913 01:13:58,137 --> 01:14:00,344 this is something, like, I always tell couples. 914 01:14:00,344 --> 01:14:02,103 I tell them... 915 01:14:02,103 --> 01:14:06,517 It's easiest to work on what you can do yourself 916 01:14:06,517 --> 01:14:09,000 and not what you want the other person to do. 917 01:14:10,000 --> 01:14:11,620 So you're not the one with the... 918 01:14:11,620 --> 01:14:14,965 - with the, uh, um, anger issues... - Right. 919 01:14:14,965 --> 01:14:16,724 ...she's the one, so, what can you do 920 01:14:16,724 --> 01:14:19,586 so that it doesn't blow out of proportion? 921 01:14:19,586 --> 01:14:21,862 You know what I'm saying? Like, if she starts, 922 01:14:21,862 --> 01:14:24,413 somebody has to put the fire down. 923 01:14:25,620 --> 01:14:27,344 - Can you do that? - Uh, I can 924 01:14:27,344 --> 01:14:29,724 try to be more calm 925 01:14:29,724 --> 01:14:32,793 instead of, you know, putting more fuel in the fire. 926 01:14:32,793 --> 01:14:34,724 - Um, it's... - Do you... do you take-- 927 01:14:34,724 --> 01:14:36,620 - ...not easy. - It isn't. 928 01:14:36,620 --> 01:14:39,137 - But it's something I can try to work on. - Sure. 929 01:14:39,137 --> 01:14:40,724 Let's just reverse this. 930 01:14:40,724 --> 01:14:45,344 Jasmine, sometimes when we want a relationship to work, 931 01:14:45,344 --> 01:14:47,655 there are some sacrifices that we need to do. 932 01:14:49,103 --> 01:14:51,517 This boyfriend from before, 933 01:14:51,517 --> 01:14:54,620 what are you willing to do or compromise 934 01:14:54,620 --> 01:14:57,137 - on your part, now that you know... - Mmm-hmm. 935 01:14:57,137 --> 01:14:59,931 ...that he gets hurt? 936 01:15:02,241 --> 01:15:04,862 If you want me to... 937 01:15:07,517 --> 01:15:10,310 But if you don't want me to ever talk to him again... 938 01:15:10,896 --> 01:15:12,034 Fine. 939 01:15:13,034 --> 01:15:15,068 I would also like to add, 940 01:15:15,068 --> 01:15:17,896 you know, no one matters to me like you do. 941 01:15:17,896 --> 01:15:20,689 Otherwise, I wouldn't be here asking for therapy. 942 01:15:20,689 --> 01:15:23,862 I would just pretend that everything is fine. 943 01:15:23,862 --> 01:15:26,517 The reason why I'm here, because this relationship 944 01:15:26,517 --> 01:15:28,206 that we have is genuine. 945 01:15:29,206 --> 01:15:30,655 I'm here for love. 946 01:15:35,103 --> 01:15:36,862 What you're saying, 947 01:15:36,862 --> 01:15:39,241 can you see how 948 01:15:39,241 --> 01:15:42,896 all of this, that even though you have these issues, 949 01:15:42,896 --> 01:15:44,586 you want this to work. 950 01:15:45,137 --> 01:15:46,793 That's the first step. 951 01:15:47,793 --> 01:15:50,103 Because that's the floor 952 01:15:50,103 --> 01:15:51,965 where you can stand up. 953 01:15:54,482 --> 01:15:57,896 And I wanna leave you with one idea, which is, 954 01:15:57,896 --> 01:16:00,620 don't talk about this all the time. 955 01:16:00,620 --> 01:16:03,206 - Yeah. - Enjoy. You're together. Go out. 956 01:16:03,206 --> 01:16:06,965 Try those romantic walks or romantic getaway. 957 01:16:07,413 --> 01:16:10,103 And build the good memories, 958 01:16:10,103 --> 01:16:13,241 so that when you have the disagreements 959 01:16:13,241 --> 01:16:15,793 you will be able to tolerate them better. 960 01:16:17,793 --> 01:16:19,413 Do you want this to work, Gino? 961 01:16:19,965 --> 01:16:21,862 Yes, and I love 962 01:16:22,310 --> 01:16:23,689 Jasmine very much. 963 01:16:25,000 --> 01:16:27,000 I'm gonna definitely try my hardest 964 01:16:27,000 --> 01:16:28,896 on my side to make it work. 965 01:16:28,896 --> 01:16:31,793 Um, and I'm just hoping Jasmine does the same. 966 01:16:32,482 --> 01:16:34,000 That's a good start. 967 01:16:35,862 --> 01:16:40,103 I do appreciate Jasmine acknowledging her anger problems. 968 01:16:40,103 --> 01:16:44,103 And also being willing to give up her relationship with her ex. 969 01:16:44,103 --> 01:16:48,689 But now, what really matters is what your actions are after this meeting. 970 01:16:48,689 --> 01:16:50,793 Is she really gonna... 971 01:16:50,793 --> 01:16:53,482 fix what she's saying she's gonna fix or work on? 972 01:16:54,137 --> 01:16:57,862 Just take it one thing at a time. 973 01:17:04,000 --> 01:17:06,965 Can you imagine what it would be like to live my whole life 974 01:17:06,965 --> 01:17:10,034 with someone feeling like they don't really care? 975 01:17:15,862 --> 01:17:17,413 Anyone can be my [bleep] tour guide. 976 01:17:43,448 --> 01:17:44,758 Yeah. 977 01:17:44,758 --> 01:17:46,275 I mean-- 978 01:17:48,206 --> 01:17:50,379 Yeah, I am a little bit, I guess. 979 01:17:50,862 --> 01:17:53,379 A little tired. But... 980 01:17:53,379 --> 01:17:55,862 I have to get out of these nasty clothes... 981 01:17:55,862 --> 01:17:58,172 ...and then, are you just gonna... 982 01:17:58,931 --> 01:18:00,862 - chill? - Yeah. 983 01:18:00,862 --> 01:18:02,827 Do you wanna change, stinky? 984 01:18:02,827 --> 01:18:04,379 - Soon. - Okay. 985 01:18:04,379 --> 01:18:06,172 Okay, good. 986 01:18:08,689 --> 01:18:11,827 I was really hoping that, in front of Wasim and Wasim's wife, 987 01:18:11,827 --> 01:18:14,310 that Nicola would be affectionate 988 01:18:14,310 --> 01:18:17,206 and excited about our relationship and, 989 01:18:17,206 --> 01:18:18,827 "Meisha's finally here." 990 01:18:19,586 --> 01:18:23,482 But, instead, I felt embarrassed. 991 01:18:23,482 --> 01:18:25,206 It's not at all what I thought it would be 992 01:18:25,206 --> 01:18:27,655 and it makes me think about our whole relationship. 993 01:18:28,965 --> 01:18:32,655 Meisha, Meisha, Meisha. 994 01:18:33,275 --> 01:18:35,068 So, how was your day today, Meisha? 995 01:18:36,482 --> 01:18:37,965 Um, 996 01:18:37,965 --> 01:18:40,310 like, today, one of the things that 997 01:18:40,310 --> 01:18:42,068 I sometimes notice 998 01:18:42,068 --> 01:18:45,655 and get a little heavyhearted about is that 999 01:18:45,655 --> 01:18:48,068 you just aren't experienced 1000 01:18:48,068 --> 01:18:50,103 with having a woman around you all the time. 1001 01:18:50,103 --> 01:18:52,931 Like, me saying to you a lot like, 1002 01:18:52,931 --> 01:18:54,379 "Are you listening to me, Nicola?" 1003 01:18:54,379 --> 01:18:56,275 Like, "Did you just hear what I said?" 1004 01:18:56,275 --> 01:18:58,862 And often the response to that is, 1005 01:18:58,862 --> 01:19:01,310 "I didn't." 1006 01:19:01,310 --> 01:19:06,000 I want to feel like Nicola is proud... 1007 01:19:08,689 --> 01:19:11,448 happy I'm here and cares 1008 01:19:12,206 --> 01:19:14,000 - that I'm here. - Mmm-hmm. 1009 01:19:14,931 --> 01:19:16,000 I do. 1010 01:19:23,103 --> 01:19:25,586 Because after this long... 1011 01:19:25,586 --> 01:19:28,103 - Oh, my God, Meisha, why're you crying now? - Listen. 1012 01:19:28,103 --> 01:19:30,000 Just let me be me. 1013 01:19:35,482 --> 01:19:37,965 If someone feels bad about something, Nicola, 1014 01:19:37,965 --> 01:19:41,965 is it better that you wrap your arms around that person and... 1015 01:19:41,965 --> 01:19:43,310 No, no, no, no. Don't do... 'cause I... 1016 01:19:43,310 --> 01:19:44,827 - Okay. Okay. - Stop, stop, stop, stop. 1017 01:19:45,068 --> 01:19:47,068 No, don't. 1018 01:19:47,068 --> 01:19:51,068 You, Nicola, have to start acting from your heart. 1019 01:19:51,068 --> 01:19:53,482 Not... I can't mechanically tell you all the time 1020 01:19:53,482 --> 01:19:54,965 how to treat me. 1021 01:19:54,965 --> 01:19:58,034 Because, can you imagine what it would be like for me 1022 01:19:58,034 --> 01:19:59,862 to live my whole life with someone 1023 01:19:59,862 --> 01:20:02,275 feeling like they don't really care? 1024 01:20:05,551 --> 01:20:07,965 - Can you imagine? - But I do care a lot about you, Meisha. 1025 01:20:07,965 --> 01:20:09,206 - But I have to-- - Why you say I don't care? 1026 01:20:09,206 --> 01:20:11,931 - But I have to feel that, Nicola. - What... what... 1027 01:20:20,103 --> 01:20:23,965 Took me? I'm not talking about the places you drive me. 1028 01:20:23,965 --> 01:20:26,103 Anyone can be my [bleep] tour guide. 1029 01:20:33,034 --> 01:20:34,206 Nicola... 1030 01:20:34,206 --> 01:20:36,655 ...did you hear what I just said? 1031 01:20:38,689 --> 01:20:41,862 Meisha thinks she is the victim. 1032 01:20:41,862 --> 01:20:45,379 I don't think she cry for good reason. 1033 01:20:45,379 --> 01:20:47,482 What I done to her that she cry? 1034 01:20:47,482 --> 01:20:50,172 She thinks, "Nicola is always need to change. 1035 01:20:50,172 --> 01:20:52,103 And everything is good with me. 1036 01:20:52,103 --> 01:20:54,689 'Cause I am Meisha, I have experience, 1037 01:20:54,689 --> 01:20:56,137 I know what is good. And, Nicola... 1038 01:21:01,965 --> 01:21:05,103 You think the problem is only from my side. 1039 01:21:05,103 --> 01:21:07,206 But I see also problem from your side. 1040 01:21:07,206 --> 01:21:08,758 But, guess what? 1041 01:21:08,758 --> 01:21:10,689 I become quiet. 1042 01:21:10,689 --> 01:21:12,758 Because I want this relationship to work. 1043 01:21:12,758 --> 01:21:15,965 I'm not like you, always attacking this, this, this, this, this. 1044 01:21:15,965 --> 01:21:18,965 I become humble and absorb. 1045 01:21:18,965 --> 01:21:21,310 Like Jesus Christ on the cross. 1046 01:21:21,310 --> 01:21:24,689 He absorb the persecution, 1047 01:21:24,689 --> 01:21:26,103 the humility. 1048 01:21:26,103 --> 01:21:28,379 You know how many things I can tell you, Meisha, that I don't like? 1049 01:21:41,275 --> 01:21:44,482 I'm telling you how I feel about something. 1050 01:21:44,482 --> 01:21:46,931 Me, too. I told you how I feel about something, too. 1051 01:21:46,931 --> 01:21:48,965 I never said one thing 1052 01:21:48,965 --> 01:21:50,586 to attack your character. Not one. 1053 01:21:50,586 --> 01:21:52,551 Not a single thing. 1054 01:21:52,551 --> 01:21:54,931 If every time I share how my heart feels, 1055 01:21:54,931 --> 01:21:58,379 you go, "Oh, you better not tell me how you feel or you're gonna be selfish, 1056 01:21:58,379 --> 01:22:00,310 and I'm gonna tell you that you're blaming me," 1057 01:22:00,310 --> 01:22:02,758 that means I can never ever 1058 01:22:02,758 --> 01:22:04,689 ever tell you how I feel. 1059 01:22:04,689 --> 01:22:07,482 Do you know that no relationship in the history of ever 1060 01:22:07,482 --> 01:22:10,172 would ever work with people not being able to constantly, 1061 01:22:10,172 --> 01:22:11,724 through life, tell each other how they feel? 1062 01:22:22,931 --> 01:22:24,000 Go. 1063 01:22:31,482 --> 01:22:34,068 It's weird to me that a very simple conversation 1064 01:22:34,068 --> 01:22:37,965 about how someone's feeling could be blown up to, like, 1065 01:22:37,965 --> 01:22:39,689 "You're so emotional, you're so sensitive." 1066 01:22:39,689 --> 01:22:42,103 It's just... It just rattles my brain 1067 01:22:42,103 --> 01:22:43,965 because I can't... 1068 01:22:43,965 --> 01:22:47,000 I cannot, for the life of me, make sense of that. 1069 01:22:59,758 --> 01:23:01,827 I think when you spend 1070 01:23:02,482 --> 01:23:06,655 so many years invested with somebody 1071 01:23:06,655 --> 01:23:08,448 that you love and you care about 1072 01:23:10,000 --> 01:23:12,689 and you really, truly believe 1073 01:23:12,689 --> 01:23:14,758 that it is a certain way. 1074 01:23:16,827 --> 01:23:19,586 And then, all of a sudden you start to go, 1075 01:23:19,586 --> 01:23:23,172 "I don't think this was anything like what I thought it was." 1076 01:23:23,965 --> 01:23:26,310 This is a personality type. 1077 01:23:26,310 --> 01:23:29,448 This is how a brain is hardwired 1078 01:23:30,310 --> 01:23:32,482 and that's tragic to me. 1079 01:23:32,482 --> 01:23:34,103 If this is the way that it goes, 1080 01:23:34,103 --> 01:23:36,482 how could I have been so wrong? 1081 01:23:36,482 --> 01:23:39,172 How could I have been so off-base? 1082 01:23:47,172 --> 01:23:50,172 Next time on Before the 90 Days... 1083 01:23:50,172 --> 01:23:52,206 I mean, this is probably, like, the point in the evening 1084 01:23:52,206 --> 01:23:54,310 - where, you know, you put on the baby making playlist. - Yeah. 1085 01:23:54,310 --> 01:23:56,931 - "Baby making"? - Yeah, you know... 1086 01:23:56,931 --> 01:24:00,172 Not sure that that's gonna work with me. 1087 01:24:00,172 --> 01:24:01,689 There are times where I feel 1088 01:24:01,689 --> 01:24:03,379 like, you know, things are a little bit more awkward 1089 01:24:03,379 --> 01:24:06,000 because I've never been with a trans woman before. 1090 01:24:06,000 --> 01:24:08,758 Are we gonna be compatible intimately? 1091 01:24:08,758 --> 01:24:09,896 I mean, I think... 1092 01:24:15,758 --> 01:24:17,379 Is this fun or what? 1093 01:24:17,379 --> 01:24:19,379 I got you in good hands. 1094 01:24:19,379 --> 01:24:21,172 After the session with our therapist, 1095 01:24:21,172 --> 01:24:23,310 Jasmine and I need to focus on 1096 01:24:23,310 --> 01:24:25,379 creating good memories together 1097 01:24:25,379 --> 01:24:27,586 and improve our relationship overall. 1098 01:24:27,586 --> 01:24:28,758 You never had 1099 01:24:28,758 --> 01:24:30,103 good physical condition 1100 01:24:30,103 --> 01:24:32,827 - for sex. - Yes, I do. And you always orgasm. 1101 01:24:37,103 --> 01:24:40,586 Our communication was not so good in Thailand. 1102 01:24:40,586 --> 01:24:43,758 There is unresolved stuff between us. 1103 01:24:43,758 --> 01:24:47,551 I thought you were meeting other people, cheating. 1104 01:24:50,689 --> 01:24:52,379 I... 1105 01:24:56,827 --> 01:24:58,379 No. I blocked her.