[narrator] Previously on Before the 90 Days...
- Hi. - [Dempsey] Hi.
I can't believe you're actually here.
[Statler speaking]
Uh... I just think we're both awkward people.
[Statler] I've been waiting months to meet Dempsey
And things are gonna go either really right
or really wrong.
Yeah.
[chuckles] Yeah.
[Nicola speaking]
[Meisha] But we don't know.
We need to figure that out over the next two weeks.
[Nicola speaking]
But I not going to change.
I'm going to be the same person.
If I go home not engaged to you, Nicola,
this will be over.
[Razvan speaking]
[Sheila speaking]
[Gino] You think it's okay that you fantasize about having sex--
[Jasmine speaking]
Well, if our sexual life were better,
then I would have fantasized about us.
Unbelievable.
[Gino] Here she is, talkin' to her ex,
fantasizing about him,
physically seeing him,
moved into the same building he's in,
so, yeah, I'm losing my trust.
And how are we supposed to get married without trust?
Hi, Tiffanie.
She's asking you a question.
Why are you lookin' at me?
She wants to hear it from you.
[upbeat music playing]
Have I mentioned how beautiful you are?
[Dempsey] Aww.
I don't think so.
[chuckles] You can tell me again, you know.
You're beautiful, gorgeous, attractive... et cetera.
[Dempsey laughs]
[Statler] After seven months of intense conversation,
I just met my amazing, gorgeous girlfriend, Dempsey, in person.
I'm just like, holy cow, she is better...
better than I could have ever imagined.
We're heading to the hotel where we'll stay the night.
I'm feeling better and all of my anxiety
just melts away. It's just completely gone.
[Dempsey laughs]
[Dempsey speaking]
[Statler speaking]
Yeah. I like Manchester.
[Dempsey] Mmm.
Sometimes I get quiet and don't know what to talk about.
[chuckles softly] We are so awkward.
- [Dempsey laughing] - I just, like...
Wow! We're extremely awkward people.
After all this travel that I'd had over the past couple of days,
it feels very surreal that I'm actually... finally I've met Statler,
but it's a bit, um, of a mind[bleep] really [chuckling]
when you've met someone for seven months,
and it's just, like, an online thing,
and then they're there in person,
and I'm just really nervous, really nervous.
- [Dempsey whooping] - [Statler] Here we have some stone.
Limestone, I think it is.
- It's so huge. - Sorry for all my stuff. I've kind of unpacked.
[Dempsey] It's lovely.
[Statler] I have a gift for you.
[Dempsey] Really? I have gifts for you.
I haven't wrapped mine either 'cause I hadn't had any wrapping paper.
So, this is just like a good gesture. [chuckles softly]
Okay. Wow.
This smells like an insect.
- I can always smell a dead insect. - That's what the smell is.
You wanna wash your hands after,
but look at it it's actually... [gasps]
- Gorgeous! - [Dempsey laughs]
Oh, my God!
- These are the insects that camouflage their bodies... - [Dempsey] Yeah.
[Statler] ...to look like leaves.
[Dempsey] So, that's a Thailand one.
This is, like, better than Christmas and all of my birthdays combined.
I can't believe you got me dead insects!
And took them all the way from Thailand,
- smelling like they do. - [laughing]
It is a very strong, intense scent.
For a second, I thought it was coming from you.
- I thought it was my laundry from Thailand. [laughs] - But...
I thought so, too, and I was kind of concerned about that.
But an insect lover
recognizes the smell.
This is [bleep]. Look at that.
It's a scorpion with a bunch of different beetles.
[Dempsey] They are all from Thailand as well.
- [Statler] So, these are all Thailand insects? - [Dempsey] Yeah.
Stop it!
That's so roma... That's the most romantic thing anyone's ever done!
- [Dempsey chuckles softly] - [Statler] I'm realizing now
that I gave you something that I would have wanted to receive,
- that I'm now realizing you probably don't actually want. - [Dempsey chuckling]
- So, here is the gift that-- - [Dempsey] Oh, no. [chuckling]
- I'm kind of embarrassed now. Oh, boy. - [Dempsey] Uh...
- [chuckles] It's an insect. [laughing] - [Statler] It's an insect.
- [Dempsey] That's hilarious. [laughing] - [Statler] It's really cute.
- [Dempsey] It's cute. - And it... The wings, they move like...
- [Dempsey] Yeah. [laughs] - [Statler] Okay.
It's a mantis.
- [Dempsey] It's very... Statler. - Okay.
[Dempsey] She'd got me a little metal ant.
for our first gift.
[laughing]
- [Statler] On that note... - [laughing]
...do you wanna get ready for bed?
Yeah. I would like to have a shower.
Like, alone or...?
- Yeah, alone. - [Statler] So, alone. Yeah.
Of course, yeah.
Wow!
That is explosive, but not in a bad way.
- [Dempsey] Are you okay? - Yep. I'm great.
- Bye. - [Statler] Enjoy.
There's been a huge build-up for months and months,
no action.
[water running in the shower]
[Statler] But it's kind of up to her.
Hopefully, some magic will happen tonight.
- Hi. - [Dempsey] Hi. [chuckles softly]
[Statler] I'm trying my best to reel it in,
but her butt is literal perfection.
It's shaped like a peach, like a juicy, delicious Georgia peach.
And it's got some, like, huzzah to it.
She's done some work on that thing.
[sighs]
Are you feeling awkward?
- [Statler] Me? - Yeah.
- [Statler] No, not at all. Are you? - Yeah.
Why is that? Why do you feel awkward?
'Cause we're in bed together?
- [Dempsey] Yeah. - Oh.
- If I kissed you, that would be too-- - That'd be too much.
That'd be too much. Okay.
Uh, if you... if you had to put, like, a number
on the chances of happy time...
[chuckles softly] Statler.
All right. Well, okay. Good to know.
- [chuckling] - [Statler] Cool.
[Dempsey] I really like Statler.
But, no, that's not happening.
We're not having sex tonight. No way. [laughs]
We hadn't even kissed by this point
and she's asking me if I wanna have sex.
Okay. Well, I'm knackered.
- [Dempsey] Yeah, me too. - And I'm sure so are you.
So... let me figure out these lights.
[Dempsey] For me, sex is intimate.
I just need to get to know Statler a little bit more in person.
So, I'm just gonna take it slow
and see where things go.
All right. Good night. Good night.
- Good day. - [Statler] Good day.
- We did it. - We did it.
- Yay! Yayie. - Yay! Our first day meeting. Yay!
[Dempsey whooping, chuckles]
- [Statler] Mmm. - [Dempsey] Go to sleep.
- [Statler speaking] - [Dempsey] Stop it.
- [Dempsey sighs] - [Statler] Mmm.
[melodious instrumental music playing]
- [woman speaking Spanish] - [Jasmine speaking Spanish]
Gino and I only have one week and a half left together.
These last few days we fought so hard.
And it just feels like
[Jasmine speaking English]
We have to wait a few minutes.
Like, we are not having sex, we are not romantic.
And the worst part now is
that Gino thinks that I betray his trust
because I'm friends with my ex, Dane.
[Patricia] Hi. Welcome.
- [Gino] Hi. How are you? - [Jasmine] Hi.
- [Patricia] Nice to meet you. - Nice to meet you.
- [Patricia] How are you? Please come in here. - [Gino] Sure.
[Jasmine] We have try by our own to fix a lot of our problems,
but we haven't been able to.
It's making me feel...
miserable, desperate, sad, concerned.
So, we need to see a therapist.
We need it. It's a must.
I would just first like to say,
usually, when you come to get a counsel session...
- [Gino] Mmm-hmm. - ...it takes more than once.
So, it's hard to say that we will accomplish
probably everything that you have in your minds.
Yeah, I can't imagine.
But, um, let's take advantage of our time together.
[Gino] Since I've been in Panama, things...
I hate to say it, but things have been kind of rough.
I... I thought it'd be... it'd go better
and I think it's a good idea that we speak about what's changed.
So, tell me a little bit about you guys.
Yeah, sure. Um, we've been dating for two years and a half.
- [Patricia] Wow. - We are engaged.
And I'm gonna travel to United States to marry him.
But we've been waiting for the K-1 to be approved, like, for 12 months
It's a process that is putting, like,
a lot of pressure on the relationship.
So, it's... it's very hard to maintain a conversation
without ended up on yelling at each other,
uh, and I think Gino will agree.
Yeah. But one of the things I have to bring up
is that, uh, Jasmine, um,
- she makes bad comments all the time. - Okay.
[Gino] She'll say very hurtful words to me.
And also, I recently found out
that Jasmine was seeing her ex-boyfriend...
calling him, moved into the same building he's in.
- Which is totally-- - [Gino] They live in the same building
and they see each other, you know, even recently.
- While she's with-- - To talk about him. To talk about him.
Like, he's... Okay. First of all, we have a friendly meeting.
It's not like, I was like, you know,
he found me in a hotel or something, you know.
And we decided to be friends
because we had actually amazing communication skills.
I don't see him as my ex-boyfriend.
I see him as my friend.
I... I told him part of my frustration is I want more intimacy.
It's not just like I wanna be pleased all the time,
it's just that...
Like, just to give you an example, um,
I'm not satisfied sexually in this relationship.
Every time, most of the time that I try to approach to him physically,
- he pushed me away and he's-- - [Gino] No. No, that's not true.
[Jasmine] And he has even made comments
about my private parts.
A few days ago, I was takin' a shower,
and I wanted to be sexy,
and I was like, showing him my body...
- [Patricia] Mmm-hmm. - ...and he was gagging like [imitates gagging].
No, I wasn't. You were showing... I was trying to talk to you...
talk to you and you're showing me like, your private parts.
I'm saying, "Jasmine, let me talk to you, I'm trying to talk to you."
- Trust me, I like seeing... - [Jasmine] Why do you have to say that?
...your private parts and stuff. There was...
At that moment in time, I wanted to talk to her at that moment.
No, no, no. So... so I want to understand.
So, physically you felt rejected and you say like, "Uh-huh."
Not wanted, not good enough, ugly.
I have my whole life deal with insecurity issues
because I have, like, abandonment issues
from my dad, which walk away when I was three years old.
- And I don't take rejection, uh... - [Patricia] ...easily.
No, I don't take... [voice shaking] I'm sorry, like,
you know, I don't take rejection easily.
[voice trembling] And you made me feel rejected
and you made me feel ugly.
And all I want is love.
[Jasmine] The first toxic relationship that I had with a man was with my dad.
The worst thing that you can do to me
is showing me that you don't love me.
Like, I have, like, a lot of abandonment issues.
Deep inside, when I love a person, [sniffles]
I feel, like, so scared of losing that person and not having his love
that I will do anything just... just to feel that I'm worthy.
And Gino doesn't understand how much he's hurting me in this moment.
[sniffles, sighs]
We never have sex.
Like, we've been dating for two years and a half,
and we have only been together...
like, have intercourse seven times.
If you want better intimacy,
we have to stop arguing every day.
you have to start... stop putting me down for the--
Let me interrupt here,
so that we can, um, go a little deep here.
Gino, so you're giving conditions that I understand that you need,
but you might get her best self
by, you know, bonding with her intimately.
You know what I'm saying?
Right, but she's gonna have to work on those things, okay?
I don't want you to make her think she doesn't have to work on that stuff.
- No. Not at all. - 'Cause she does.
- [Gino] Very much so. - Oh. Is this coming through that way?
Uh, yeah.
[Patricia] Are you afraid of that?
[Gino] Yeah. I want to make sure that she doesn't think that she doesn't--
[Jasmine] That's... that's why we have communication problems, because--
I wanna make sure that she knows she has to work on those things.
And also, our intimacy was better at one time,
but we still had these issues.
So, I don't think that that's gonna work very well.
[Jasmine] No. It was never good.
- No, earlier-- - No. It was not good.
- Yeah, it was. - I... I like... My worst sex has been with Gino.
This is... These are the kind of comments...
[Jasmine] Because I'm being honest. Like, we need--
...where I really don't have any desire to be with her
- when I hear stuff like that. - Okay.
Period.
I am on my period. [chuckles]
Okay. So?
[Razvan speaking]
[speaking and signing]
[Sheila speaking in English]
She's young.
[speaking and signing]
[sniffles, speaking in English]
[interpreter laughs]
[lively music playing]
[sizzling]
[Amanda] Razvan, can you...
- [Razvan] Yeah? - [Amanda] ...help me make this coffee?
[Amanda speaking]
Uh... I don't think you can use--
[Amanda] This is like...
I know. We need to buy, uh, something else.
- [Amanda] A coffee pot. - A... coffee pot.
So, why did you let me pick out ground coffee?
- [Razvan speaking] - And you have, like, this
European coffee pod.
You know?
I will buy something.
[Razvan continues to speak]
[chuckles softly]
- I just want, like, regular coffee. - [Razvan] Yeah.
[Razvan continues to speak]
- [Amanda] Oh, my gosh. What? - [clicks tongue]
[Razvan speaking]
[Amanda chuckles] Oh, my gosh.
[Razvan speaking]
[Amanda] I am on my period,
so I feel bloated and I--
- Yeah. [chuckling] - [Razvan speaking]
Okay. So?
- [Amanda laughing] Oh, my God. - [Razvan] You know?
[both chuckle]
I think that Razvan is hoping that by us having sex,
it'll help us connect more emotionally.
I get it, but I'm not comfortable
having sex with Razvan yet.
Especially coming from a marriage that
I was in for so long and losing my husband.
[Razvan speaking]
Okay.
[Razvan speaking]
Um, can you bring me the mirror from the bathroom?
[Razvan speaking]
[Amanda] I met Jason when I was 19,
so it's kind of like, I learned things
and, like, went through that experience with him,
so, you know, it's scary for me to take that leap
and to be with someone intimately
who is not Jason.
Thanks.
And also, you wanted to go swimming,
but I do not like that swimsuit that you got for me.
- [Razvan] So, you want to return it? - [Amanda] Yeah.
[Razvan speaking]
Honestly, I don't like that style top.
So, um, we will go, buy another one.
[Amanda] Thanks.
It's very sweet of Razvan to buy me a gift.
However, he is the first man that has gotten me a gift
since I've been with Jason.
And in the back of my mind,
I have that kind of, like, guilt, you know, like,
that comes with being with someone else.
Oh, you look beautiful.
Except those big [indistinct] shoes--
Let's go!
[Amanda laughs]
[mysterious music playing]
This is like, such a cute little area.
[Razvan speaking]
- Here we go. - [Amanda] Is this the shop?
[Razvan] Yes.
[speaking in Romanian]
[Razvan sighs, speaking in Romanian]
[speaking in English]
[Amanda] Okay.
[Razvan] Maybe something black?
[Amanda] There's nothing really black.
[Razvan] No?
[Amanda] I like this one.
- [Razvan speaking] - [Amanda] Yeah.
- Ah, okay. It was between-- - [Razvan speaking]
And she was telling me...
[Amanda] Mmm-hmm.
[Razvan speaking in Romanian]
[Amanda speaking in English] What are you saying?
No, you didn't. I don't believe you.
[speaking in Romanian]
[speaking in English]
- [Razvan speaking in Romanian] - [Amanda chuckles]
[speaking in Romanian]
- [speaking in English] Did she say do I like Romania? - [Razvan] Yeah.
[speaking in Romanian, laughing]
[Razvan speaking in English]
[speaking in Romanian]
[speaking in English]
[Amanda] I wouldn't live here because I have kids
and I don't want them to live in the city.
[speaking in Romanian]
[sales associate speaking]
[Razvan in English] She can't believe that you have two childrens
- because you look very nice. - [sales associate speaking in Romanian]
[Amanda in English] Thank you. [chuckles]
[sales associate in Romanian]
[Razvan speaking]
[in English]
What? [chuckling]
No. None.
[Amanda] None.
[speaking in Romanian]
[sales associate speaking]
[speaking in English] So, you tell her about our relationship
when you bought the bathing suit?
[Razvan speaking]
That's sweet.
I cannot tell if Razvan is being serious
when he tells this shopkeeper that he wants three or four children.
I hope that he's joking.
When Razvan and I were first getting to know one another,
I had asked him if he saw himself
having children in the future
and he told me, "No."
That it didn't matter to him.
So, I hope that is still the case
because at this point in my life,
I don't feel like I wanna have any more children.
[sales associate speaking in Romanian]
[in English] Bye.
- [Razvan in English] Bye. Bye. - [sales associate in Romanian]
[pleasant music playing]
Mmm. [in sign language]
[speaking and signing]
You... you can bring. Yes.
Are you ready to meet my parents later?
[Sheila sighs]
[Sheila speaking]
It's important to me that David connect with my son.
I want them to meet,
but I am worried to bring David at home because
my family is poor and I don't want to scare David away.
[google assistant speaking]
[David in sign language]
[Sheila speaking]
Okay.
[Sheila] Hello.
[Sheila speaking]
[Aimee speaking]
My name is Aimee
Uh, my sign name is this.
And I do interpreting.
It's really easier if she's with us
rather than using our phones.
- [Sheila speaking in other language] - [Aimee speaking]
[Sheila speaking]
[Aimee chuckles softly]
[Sheila speaking in English]
She's young and I feel little jealousy.
I would like to find an interpreter with a man, not a girl. Yeah.
[Aimee speaking English]
[Sheila] Yes.
I hopefully that I can learn...
[speaking in English]
- ASL. - [Aimee] Yeah. [laughs]
[Aimee speaking in English]
[speaking in other language]
[laughs]
[Aimee speaking in other language]
[Sheila speaking in English] When I see them communicate,
and she look with my boyfriend
and David look at her, and me, I was...
[whimpers]
[sobbing]
[sniffling]
[speaking in other language]
[Aimee speaking in English] Let's go.
[Sheila speaking]
[Sheila sniffles]
No, I...
[sighs]
So, you're mad because my family
is asking you questions.
[angrily] I don't talk with you, okay?
I go back home.
Okay. Beat it.
- Yes. - Beat it.
[speaking in Vietnamese]
Waste my time.
Tired of this [bleep].
[dramatic music playing]
She's asking, after you told me to delete the app,
why were you still on the app?
- I talk with you-- - No, no, no. She asked you.
Before I answer her--
I can't... No! Answer her.
Don't talk to me.
[Riley] What?
Okay. It has nothing... This has nothing to do with me.
This has to do with you and Tiffanie.
[Violet speaking]
- [Tiffanie speaking] - The app. I forgot password.
[Tiffanie speaking]
This is another instance where I just...
I don't believe anything she's saying
and she's just squirmin' around, lookin' nervous.
I don't understand this.
I really want to trust her,
but this is a major red flag for me.
So, you're mad because my family,
someone I consider my family, I consider my sister,
is asking you questions?
And you're mad 'cause you have to answer them.
But when your family asked me hard questions,
and I answered them--
I don't care.
- This is a two-way street. - Okay.
- It's a two-way street. - Okay. If you don't care, we talk,
we stop talking tonight, okay?
Oh. You know what, Tiff? I'll call you back. I'll call you back.
- Yeah. You know what-- - [Violet speaking]
[Riley] You know what... you know what, you don't wanna--
Because you did something wrong
- and I went back to see if you were on the app. - [Violet] Oh!
- [Riley] Do not talk down to me. - Okay.
[angrily] I don't talk with you, okay?
We stop now, okay?
I go back home.
Okay. Beat it.
- Yes. - Beat it.
[Violet] Bye.
Bye!
[Riley] Bye!
Waste my time.
Tired of this [bleep].
[Violet speaking in Vietnamese]
Thank you for that, Tiffanie...
Yeah. This right here was too much.
It was... [stutters] it was the last straw for me.
I'm done.
I really came here with the best intentions
in my heart and in my mind.
And I got my ass handed to me.
It's her way or the highway.
And you know what?
I'm not putting up with it. I don't have to.
[Riley] I love you too. Bye.
[Violet speaking in Vietnamese]
[Dempsey chuckling]
Ah. What a night.
[Dempsey speaking]
But I felt a little bit insecure that
Statler's more, um, experienced in the bedroom than I am.
And I just worried she might not wanna be with me
if her needs are not being met.
[upbeat music playing]
[Statler chuckling]
[Dempsey speaking]
- [Statler speaking] - [Dempsey speaking]
[Statler speaking]
[both laughing]
[Statler speaking]
[Dempsey] Mmm. [chuckling]
Ah. What a night.
- [laughing] - [Dempsey] Oh.
We have had our first kiss
and it was... not great.
- [Statler] It was really awkward. - [laughing] It was so awkward.
Yeah, I think I got teeth mostly...
- [laughing] - ...'cause you were smiling and laughing so hard.
We got better at it.
Yeah. And then, once we got good at kissing... [laughing]
We... we had sex.
Yeah.
[Dempsey chuckling]
That kind of a bout will turn you religious.
- Wanna have an altar that I set up and worship it. - [laughing]
Have a photo dedicated to just it.
[sighs] And your [bleep] like heaven.
It must be your vegan diet
I've just... I don't think I've ever been with a vegan.
That's the advertisement vegans need.
"Do you want your person to [bleep] 24/7?"
[Dempsey laughing]
"Boy, do I have a food thing for you to try.
Veganism!"
[both laughing]
[Dempsey speaking]
Normally, I do take things slower.
But we had our first kiss,
and we kissed some more, and then one thing led to another.
I could feel the connection between us.
And we've been on this whole build-up of seven months.
So, I just thought, "Why not?"
So, I've never, like, had a wax done before.
- Did you approve? - Yeah. I thought it was pretty smooth.
Was yours waxed? 'Cause yours was so smooth.
- Can I just feel it again to make sure that-- - No. No!
[Statler laughing]
It's all about the sex, isn't it?
[Dempsey] I'm glad that it happened.
I think it brought us closer.
But when we were having sex,
I felt a little bit insecure that
Statler's more, um, experienced in the bedroom than I am.
[knock on door]
She's been to, like, sex parties
and she likes the whippin' and the chains
and that's not something I've ever done before.
This is mine.
[Dempsey] And I just worried that she might not wanna be with me
if her... her needs are not being met.
Thank you. Oh, yeah.
- Mmm. Oh, my God. This is so good. - [Dempsey] Yeah.
So, we're gonna go to the farm where you live.
Am I gonna have, like, any space for like... I brought, like, suitcases.
[Dempsey] Yeah, I have a spare room. There's plenty of space.
- Oh, really? - [Dempsey] Yeah.
[Statler] This is gonna be an experience.
Yeah.
But I'm looking forward to it.
[Dempsey] Today, we're going back to Darlington,
where I live and work on a farm.
And I'm worried that Statler's not gonna adjust to my way of livin'
because I'm, like, pretty much off-grid living.
Can I come and take a shower with you really quick?
[Dempsey] Yeah.
[Statler] Dempsey lives out in the middle of nowhere.
And I'm anxious to stay at her place,
I'm nervous, I'm feeling... I'm feeling un... [stutters] unexcited.
I'm not sure the circumstances
that are going to be awaiting me in this caravan.
I'm concerned about space,
I'm concerned about sanitation,
that it's gonna be cold,
and that I'm just not gonna be comfortable there.
I'm a city girl
and I'm not used to any of this stuff.
I just don't wanna offend her
if I get there to the caravan
and then I'm like, "Uh, this isn't gonna work."
Ugh. This is a lot.
- [Dempsey laughing] - [Statler] Geez.
[upbeat music playing]
[Meisha] Nico, why do you have these monkeys
hanging from your--
[Meisha chuckling softly]
[Nicola clicks tongue]
Last night, Nicola and I had a pretty good time in downtown Haifa.
Happened to be here, go into a dance club,
and it was really great to see him come out of his shell a little bit.
So, I feel like we're moving out of the desert now,
and starting to get on the right track.
Can you tell me a little bit about this Catholic village?
This village, if we go back to history...
Today, Nicola is taking me
to an area called the Catholic village.
This is an important place for Nicola
because it's where he goes to church.
And it's also where his best friend, Wasim, lives.
And after we do some touring together,
Nicola plans on introducing me to Wasim.
It'll be the first time that I'm meeting someone in Nicola's life
that actually knows about me.
Oh, Nicola, I so wish I had my hair dryer.
- Why? What are you gonna do? - You are so sweaty right now. Like, you're--
[Nicola] Why are you wincing?
[Meisha] Don't lift up your arms.
- This is the church I pray every Sunday, Meisha. - [softly] Oh, my God.
[Meisha] Oh.
[Meisha] Oh, my gosh.
[Nicola] I think it's so great for Meisha
to see where I pray every week.
Come, see something here. Be careful, Meisha.
Being Catholic is everything for me,
and that's what make me and Meisha
also to have a strong relationship.
[Meisha gasps] Holy... Oh, my gosh. [gasps]
- [Nicola sighs] Look at this view, Meisha. - [Meisha] Oh, my...
[Nicola speaking]
[Meisha] Yeah.
[Nicola speaking]
[Meisha] Oh.
[Meisha] Of course.
[Meisha] Yeah.
I feel like I'm closer to God in my faith.
- And it is so amazing! - I love it.
You want to go down?
- Yeah. - [Nicola] 'Cause the sun is so hot.
- Let's go. Let's go. - Should we go? Okay. Let's go.
No, no, no, no, no.
[Meisha] Oh, okay.
It's very dangerous. One by one, sweetie pie.
It's great to show Meisha all these important sites.
Put your head down. It's become more hard now.
[Meisha] Oh, my gosh.
Imagine if someone was really tall,
- going up and down here. - [Nicola] Yeah.
It's the history of the Catholic people here in the Holy Land.
This is where every Catholic need to see.
Also, in this village, my friend, Wasim, was here.
He and Meisha met in the farm.
But today, they will meet in real life.
So, I think it's a great day today.
[Wasim speaking in Hebrew]
[Nicola speaking]
[Wasim laughing]
Meisha?
[speaking in English] Oh! Hi!
[Wasim speaking]
- Hello. [chuckling] - It's so good to see you.
Say hi to Biscuit.
- [Wasim] Hello. - [Meisha laughing]
- [Wasim] Nice eyes. - It's so nice to meet you.
[Meisha] In the flesh. Good! I mean...
- Sorry, I have to like arch my back, so I can hold... - [Wasim laughing]
- [Nicola speaking] - No.
Let's just go, sit down. You wanna go back over here?
- [Meisha] No. Oh, Wasim, be on my side. - Please.
[laughing] Be on my side on this one.
God, Meisha. I don't know what to do with you.
Oh, my God.
Every cat she see in the street,
she thinks she is the mother of the cat.
And I don't like it.
First time you meet Wasim in person
and you are holding a small cat in your hand
and playing with him instead to talk with a person, you know?
[clicks tongue]
[Meisha gasps] He likes you.
At some point, I would love to meet your wife.
[Wasim speaking]
[Meisha] I know.
[Meisha] She's busy. Yeah, I get it.
[Nicola] Tell him where we have been, where I took you.
Or since you came from Israel.
[clicks tongue] Um, well, Nazareth.
It's a lot of, uh, beautiful places there.
- Yeah, for sure. - [Nicola] Tell him about the view from our hotel.
Oh, it's spectacular.
Is it a nice hotel?
Yeah, but you have to see our room look like the forest.
[Wasim laughing]
I never saw a woman brought with her all America
and make a messy place in my room.
I wasn't expect it.
- She'd put her tag-- - [Wasim] Ah, here's my wife.
- [Nicola] It's May! - Hi.
- [Meisha] Hi. - Hi.
- Hi, Meisha. How are you? - [Meisha] It's so nice to meet you.
- Nice to meet you. May. - [Meisha] Pleasure's all mine.
- Oh, oh. [laughing] - [Nicola laughs]
[Wasim speaking]
[Meisha] I think, you know, for me,
I had no idea coming here how Nicola would be, like, with me,
as a woman by him, and...
But I think, day by day,
we're just trying to, like, work through,
- you know, everything that needs to be worked through. - [Wasim] Yeah.
What about you, Nicola?
So, my whole family knows all about Nicola.
But what I found out when I got to Israel
is that Nicola's older brother did not know anything about...
So, what can you do for Meisha
to make her very happy,
especially with your family?
Leave the family alone.
It's between me and Meisha, not family.
[all chuckle]
But I loved Wasim's question about, what could you do
to make Meisha happy in regards to that?
Just think about it.
[Nicola] Do you know how much I sacrifice for her in the 48 hours?
And she still... she keep begging me about my mom
and my brother like a crazy Meisha.
It's a little wearing to hear Nicola always
basically insinuate that I'm crazy
because I want to meet his family before
spending my entire life with him.
And... I would have loved for Nicola to take
this opportunity with his best friend to showcase
what we've built over seven years of talking
and be excited about us.
But instead, he's being dismissive
and a little insulting to me.
This is a side that I've never seen of Nicola before,
and it is concerning.
[Amanda] He just old me, he wants to have children.
Sometimes I think you're looking too far into the future.
It is if it's the person that you're supposed to be with.
[speaking in other language]
[Sheila speaking in other language]
[in English] Wow.
[mellow music playing]
[Amanda] I'm going out for some fresh air.
- I'll be back soon. - [Razvan] All right.
[door closes]
I'm still really taken back by Razvan's comment,
of him wanting to have children of his own.
I understand why he wants that, but...
I'm really surprised because
I absolutely do not want to have any more children,
and I was very direct and clear before I came to Romania.
Honestly, I feel a little bit misled,
and it's making me second guess myself.
[cell phone ringing]
[Amber] Hi.
[Amanda] Hey, what are you doing?
Um, it's going okay.
He's, like, so loving, I feel like.
Like he always wants to hold my hand.
And he's so much cuter in person.
[Amanda laughs]
Uh, like a hundred times more.
[both laughing]
[Amber speaking]
We have not had sex yet.
Yeah, I mean, when I came here I wasn't sure, like,
if I was gonna feel comfortable, like,
sleeping in the bed, like, the first night,
but I did decide to, like, sleep in the bed with him that night.
I mean, and it was nice, like, we just cuddled,
but, I mean, of course it makes me, like,
bring up those thoughts, like, I'm doing something
I shouldn't be doing, you know.
Yeah.
But I think I'm kind of getting over that guilt,
you know, like, it's okay to be happy, you know.
[Amanda] But there are some communication things, like
I think it was like the second day that I was here,
he told me that he has a visa appointment and...
No, so he made an appointment
and I said, "If you're approved,
when do you plan on wanting to come to the United States?"
He said one week after I leave.
So, I said, "That's way too soon," and...
I don't think he's ready for, like, to be around me,
like, as a mom, you know what I mean?
It's gonna be probably hard for him to see, like, me.
Yeah.
Yeah. And also, he just told me today,
that he wants to have children or a child in the future.
And when we first got together, I asked him,
and he said it didn't matter to him either way.
And I said, "Well, I'm probably not having any more children."
And he was like, "Okay, I'm fine with that."
And today, he was like, "I want to have more kids though."
[Amber speaking]
[Amber laughs]
It is if it's your... like,
your person that you're supposed to be with.
I don't know, that's why I'm here, to see, like,
if it is, in person.
[Amanda] He would not propose to me tonight.
I think, if anything, he would wait to see, like,
how the next weeks go.
[Amanda] Before I arrived, like, I was so sure that
everything was gonna go great and perfect.
And to get here and have so many problems and concerns,
I don't know, it doesn't feel good at all.
Yeah, I'm going to try.
[Amanda] I feel like we don't know each other as well as I thought,
and think with any new relationship,
there are some things that you don't fully let go of
until you know 100% that you can trust them,
and it's still kind of early for me to be
completely vulnerable with Razvan.
I'm working on it, but he has to show me
that I can trust him.
[Amber speaking]
[Amanda] All right. I love you. Have a good day.
[people shouting]
[speaking and signing]
[speaking in other language]
[David signing]
[speaking in other language]
[Sheila speaking]
[speaking in other language]
[speaking in English]
[Sheila] I love David.
We are planning to having a family,
so I am not looking for his money.
But I'm worried he will think that
my relationship with him
is because my house is not good.
[dogs barking]
[Sheila] Welcome to my house.
[Sheila chuckles]
[speaking in other language]
Ah.
[David signing]
[Sheila in English]
...here.
[David signing]
[Sheila speaking in other language]
[in English]
[Sheila] Okay.
[Sheila speaking in other language]
- [Aimee] Okay. - [Sheila chuckles]
[Sheila speaking in other language]
[Aimee speaking in other language]
[David signing]
[speaking in other language]
[Sheila speaking in other language]
[sighs softly]
[Sheila speaking]
[Sheila chuckles] Mm.
[Sheila in English] This is my mom.
- [David signing] - [speaking in other language]
[in loud voice]
[speaking in other language]
[David signing]
[Aimee] Um... nice meeting.
[speaking in other language]
[Sheila in loud voice in English] Nice meeting you.
[speaking in other language]
[Sheila in English] Nice meeting you too.
[speaking in other language]
[Sheila speaking in other language]
[Aimee speaking in other language]
[speaking in other language]
[Sheila speaking in other language]
Oops. [chuckles]
[laughing]
[Sheila speaks in other language]
[David signing]
This'll be where we'll be staying.
[Statler] Oh, the bedroom.
Certain rooms are a bit small.
[Dempsey] That's just like a toilet room.
Can I use the toilet? This toilet?
I don't think I could live here long-term.
[upbeat music playing]
Speak to me, darling.
- Darling. - Darling.
- Are you ready to, like, get the wood in the fire? - [chuckles]
- Ready to get the wood in the fire? - [chuckles]
For sure, I'd do that again.
- Are you nervous? - Yeah.
A bit nervous, but, yeah, I'm excited to,
to see it all, see how you live.
I think things are going really well,
between the two of us so far.
And, I'm looking forward to spending quality time,
just me and Statler.
[Statler speaking]
From Manchester, the car ride to the farm is two hours.
It's out of the city, it's quiet.
In the morning, you can hear the birds chirping.
But, because I went to Thailand for five weeks,
my place hasn't been cleaned,
And this is the first time anybody's stayed in my caravan,
so I'm feeling really nervous
for Statler to come back
and not knowing what the vibe is.
You think I'm gonna get to meet your friends?
Yeah, I think so.
[Statler] Think so?
- Yeah, I think so. - Okay. Nice. Good.
And, uh, what about your dad?
He's your best friend, you know?
You've worked him up to be this great, big person in your life and...
- Um... - [Statler] Just 'cause
I like you a lot and I'm serious
- about us. - Yeah, I guess.
You guess?
That makes me think you're less serious now.
He knows that we're, like, speaking, but he doesn't know, like...
- It's serious. - [Statler] ...who you are.
[Statler] I'm really confused why she hasn't told her dad.
Just because this is her best friend,
and yet, here you spent a lot of time in Thailand
together with just him. Like, I should be a hot topic.
So, it's kind of concerning. It's like,
am I really your biggest priority as you're telling me I am? Or
who am I to you?
Has your dad liked your, like, previous girlfriends?
Um, my first one, no, my second, yes, and then, no.
[Dempsey] I didn't tell my dad about
me and Statler being in a relationship,
'cause my dad is superprotective.
My dad has seen me through bad relationships.
He's seen me at my lowest.
I still feel that I need to get to know
Statler a little bit more in person
before I introduce her to my dad.
[Dempsey] Finally here.
[Statler] Oh, my God,
[Statler straining]
[dog barks distantly]
[Statler] [bleep] was that?
You have animals out here?
[Dempsey] Animals?
[Statler] Like, coyotes or wolves?
[Dempsey] No.
- You don't have any, like, wild animals here? - [Dempsey] No.
[straining]
I need to go back to the gym.
[straining]
[exhales] Yes.
Okay, thank you.
Wow.
This is very nice.
I feel like I've entered this cute world.
- [Statler] You did all this yourself. - [Dempsey] Yes.
- [Statler] That's insane. - [Dempsey] Almost finished.
If you want to come down here...
[Statler] Yeah.
This is my spare room.
I started to decorate before I went to Thailand,
but I haven't finished it yet.
- [Statler] It's very nice. It's very nice. - But it's getting there.
This will be...
where we'll be staying. [chuckles]
- [Statler] Oh, the bedroom. - [Dempsey] Sorry, the bed is not made up.
[Statler] I'm actually very impressed with the caravan.
It's more modern than I thought it would be.
But certain rooms are a bit small
for two people to kind of navigate.
Dempsey doesn't know that I left America
with the intention that, if things went well between us,
that I would be moving to England,
but I don't think I could live here long-term.
Things are a little, a little tight.
[Dempsey] And... that's just like a toilet room.
- [Statler] A toilet room. Okay, cool. - [Dempsey] Yeah.
Could I use the toilet? This toilet?
You can, like, go for number one on the toilet,
but, like, just across where I work,
you'll just walk over there.
Okay, so...
I do have irritable bowels. [laughs]
And knowing that the bathroom is a ways off
kinda freaks me out.
I mean, it's okay for the time being,
but it's definitely not ideal.
You want to sit down? [chuckles]
- Of course, I want to sit down. - This'll be like the first...
- This is like the famous couch you always sat on. - Yeah, it is.
[Statler] That's cool. It's all very cute.
[Statler] Oh, nice.
A real country winter. This is like, a movie.
Are you hungry?
- I've got no food in at all. - [Statler] No food?
Well, I have a banana, I think that I packed.
- [chuckles] - And we have the chocolate from... that you got me.
Do you wanna eat some?
Let me get the chocolate really quick.
This is definitely gonna take some time to get used to,
and I'm going to be out of my comfort zone,
but even though there's a level of awkwardness,
Dempsey could be the love of my life.
- Oh, wow. - Mmm.
These are actually...
- They're good. - Really good. Yeah.
[Statler] I know it's really fast,
but being here with Dempsey in person just feels right.
I'm ready to start the rest of my life with Dempsey.
I'm just hoping she's as into me as I am into her.
[sighs]
I am just so turned on, honestly,
by this.
- You're something else. - Just a little.
Mmm.
[Statler moaning]
[Sheila speaking in other language]
[speaking in other language]
[horns honking]
[Sheila speaking in other language]
[Aimee speaking in other language]
[in other language]
[David] Oh.
[father speaking in other language]
[in English] Okay. Ah, okay.
[Sheila speaking in other language]
[in other language]
[in English]
[Sheila] Yeah.
[in other language]
[Simplicio speaking in other language]
[Sheila chuckles]
[in English] Hello.
[in other language]
[in English] Nice to meeting you.
[Sheila speaking in other language]
[Sheila and Jhonreil speaking in other language]
[Aimee and Sheila speaking in other language]
[Sheila speaking in other language]
[in other language]
[Sheila speaking in other language]
[David signing]
[in other language]
[Sheila speaks in other language]
[in other language]
[in English]
[Aimee in English] Thank you for coming here.
[sighs]
[Sheila speaking in English]
[in English]
[Patricia in English] One thing is to disagree...
We don't know how to argue.
Somebody has to put the fire down.
Well, it's not easy.
Do you want this to work, Gino?
[somber music playing]
[Jasmine speaking in English]
And...
[Gino] These are the kind of comments...
- [Jasmine] Because I'm being honest. - ...where I really don't
have any desire to be with her.
[Patricia] I'm gonna stop you.
I think there are many things
that are going on at the same time.
So, I know it's very hard.
One thing is to disagree.
Another thing is to insult
- and say things that you cannot-- - Yeah.
We don't know how to argue.
So for that, like, Jasmine,
you would probably need to go out,
write it down before you come to Gino,
because it's going to come out the worst it can.
And another thing you need to work on is...
[in English]
A couple cannot move further
where there's revenge
because that builds
bad feelings, you know.
[Gino] Mmm-hmm.
[Patricia] Gino,
this is something, like, I always tell couples.
I tell them...
It's easiest to work on what you can do yourself
and not what you want the other person to do.
So you're not the one with the...
- with the, uh, um, anger issues... - [Gino] Right.
...she's the one, so, what can you do
so that it doesn't blow out of proportion?
You know what I'm saying? Like, if she starts,
somebody has to put the fire down.
- Can you do that? - Uh, I can
try to be more calm
instead of, you know, putting more fuel in the fire.
- Um, it's... - [Patricia] Do you... do you take--
- ...not easy. - It isn't.
- But it's something I can try to work on. - [Patricia] Sure.
Let's just reverse this.
Jasmine, sometimes when we want a relationship to work,
there are some sacrifices that we need to do.
This boyfriend from before,
what are you willing to do or compromise
- on your part, now that you know... - [Jasmine] Mmm-hmm.
...that he gets hurt?
[Jasmine] If you want me to...
But if you don't want me to ever talk to him again...
Fine.
I would also like to add,
you know, no one matters to me like you do.
Otherwise, I wouldn't be here asking for therapy.
I would just pretend that everything is fine.
The reason why I'm here, because this relationship
that we have is genuine.
I'm here for love.
What you're saying,
can you see how
all of this, that even though you have these issues,
you want this to work.
That's the first step.
Because that's the floor
where you can stand up.
And I wanna leave you with one idea, which is,
don't talk about this all the time.
- [Jasmine] Yeah. - Enjoy. You're together. Go out.
Try those romantic walks or romantic getaway.
And build the good memories,
so that when you have the disagreements
you will be able to tolerate them better.
Do you want this to work, Gino?
Yes, and I love
Jasmine very much.
I'm gonna definitely try my hardest
on my side to make it work.
Um, and I'm just hoping Jasmine does the same.
That's a good start.
[Gino] I do appreciate Jasmine acknowledging her anger problems.
And also being willing to give up her relationship with her ex.
But now, what really matters is what your actions are after this meeting.
Is she really gonna...
fix what she's saying she's gonna fix or work on?
Just take it one thing at a time.
Can you imagine what it would be like to live my whole life
with someone feeling like they don't really care?
Anyone can be my [bleep] tour guide.
[upbeat music playing]
[Meisha sighs]
[Nicola speaking]
Yeah.
- I mean-- - [Nicola speaking]
Yeah, I am a little bit, I guess.
A little tired. But...
I have to get out of these nasty clothes...
- [Nicola speaking] - ...and then, are you just gonna...
- chill? - Yeah.
Do you wanna change, stinky?
- [Nicola] Soon. - [Meisha] Okay.
- Okay, good. - [Nicola speaking]
I was really hoping that, in front of Wasim and Wasim's wife,
that Nicola would be affectionate
and excited about our relationship and,
"Meisha's finally here."
But, instead, I felt embarrassed.
It's not at all what I thought it would be
and it makes me think about our whole relationship.
[Nicola] Meisha, Meisha, Meisha.
So, how was your day today, Meisha?
[Meisha] Um,
like, today, one of the things that
I sometimes notice
and get a little heavyhearted about is that
you just aren't experienced
with having a woman around you all the time.
Like, me saying to you a lot like,
"Are you listening to me, Nicola?"
Like, "Did you just hear what I said?"
And often the response to that is,
-"I didn't." - [chuckles]
I want to feel like Nicola is proud...
happy I'm here and cares
- that I'm here. - Mmm-hmm.
I do.
Because after this long...
- Oh, my God, Meisha, why're you crying now? - Listen.
Just let me be me.
[sobbing]
If someone feels bad about something, Nicola,
is it better that you wrap your arms around that person and...
No, no, no, no. Don't do... 'cause I...
- Okay. Okay. - [Meisha] Stop, stop, stop, stop.
No, don't.
You, Nicola, have to start acting from your heart.
Not... I can't mechanically tell you all the time
how to treat me.
Because, can you imagine what it would be like for me
to live my whole life with someone
feeling like they don't really care?
- Can you imagine? - But I do care a lot about you, Meisha.
- But I have to-- - Why you say I don't care?
- But I have to feel that, Nicola. - [Nicola] What... what...
[speaking in English]
Took me? I'm not talking about the places you drive me.
Anyone can be my [bleep] tour guide.
[speaking in English]
Nicola...
- [Nicola speaking] - ...did you hear what I just said?
[Nicola] Meisha thinks she is the victim.
I don't think she cry for good reason.
What I done to her that she cry?
She thinks, "Nicola is always need to change.
And everything is good with me.
'Cause I am Meisha, I have experience,
I know what is good. And, Nicola...
You think the problem is only from my side.
But I see also problem from your side.
But, guess what?
I become quiet.
Because I want this relationship to work.
I'm not like you, always attacking this, this, this, this, this.
I become humble and absorb.
Like Jesus Christ on the cross.
He absorb the persecution,
the humility.
You know how many things I can tell you, Meisha, that I don't like?
I'm telling you how I feel about something.
Me, too. I told you how I feel about something, too.
I never said one thing
to attack your character. Not one.
Not a single thing.
If every time I share how my heart feels,
you go, "Oh, you better not tell me how you feel or you're gonna be selfish,
and I'm gonna tell you that you're blaming me,"
that means I can never ever
ever tell you how I feel.
Do you know that no relationship in the history of ever
would ever work with people not being able to constantly,
through life, tell each other how they feel?
[Nicola sighs]
[Meisha softly] Go.
[Nicola sighs]
[Meisha] It's weird to me that a very simple conversation
about how someone's feeling could be blown up to, like,
"You're so emotional, you're so sensitive."
It's just... It just rattles my brain
because I can't...
I cannot, for the life of me, make sense of that.
[sighs]
[sniffles]
I think when you spend
so many years invested with somebody
that you love and you care about
and you really, truly believe
that it is a certain way.
And then, all of a sudden you start to go,
"I don't think this was anything like what I thought it was."
This is a personality type.
This is how a brain is hardwired
and that's tragic to me.
If this is the way that it goes,
how could I have been so wrong?
How could I have been so off-base?
[sniffles]
[narrator] Next time on Before the 90 Days...
[Christian] I mean, this is probably, like, the point in the evening
- where, you know, you put on the baby making playlist. - [Cleo] Yeah.
- [chuckles] "Baby making"? - Yeah, you know...
Not sure that that's gonna work with me.
[Christian] There are times where I feel
like, you know, things are a little bit more awkward
because I've never been with a trans woman before.
Are we gonna be compatible intimately?
I mean, I think...
Is this fun or what?
I got you in good hands.
After the session with our therapist,
Jasmine and I need to focus on
creating good memories together
and improve our relationship overall.
[Jasmine] You never had
good physical condition
- for sex. - Yes, I do. And you always orgasm.
Our communication was not so good in Thailand.
There is unresolved stuff between us.
I thought you were meeting other people, cheating.
I...
No. I blocked her.
[woman speaking Vietnamese]
[Violet speaking Vietnamese]
[Sheila sobbing]
[David speaking in sign language]
[Sheila crying]